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Sharon Pope

As a Relationship Expert & Certified Master Life Coach, Sharon Pope has helped thousands of women gain the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their struggling marriages or move forward without regret.

On The Loving Truth Podcast, she shares advice on how to navigate deep marriage hardships, challenging common beliefs about what love and relationships “should be” and providing realistic steps towards peace and happiness.

If you can’t decide whether to stay or go in your marriage… you’re facing infidelity… you’re terrified of hurting your kids… you can’t bring yourself to leave your marriage, even though you want to… or you’re wondering whether it’s possible to respark the desire between you… tune in to the weekly episodes.

The world feels uncertain right now.

And when the world feels uncertain, we tend to hold tighter to what feels familiar.

Even when what’s familiar doesn’t feel particularly good.

Sharon is seeing more women choosing to stay in unhappy, disconnected marriages right now. Not because their marriages have gotten better, but because everything outside the marriage feels less certain.

The marriage you were once seriously considering leaving can suddenly feel safer than the unknown of divorce.

That doesn’t necessarily mean you’ve changed your mind about the marriage.

It means something else may matter more right now.

In this episode, Sharon explores what happens when the question, “Should I stay or go?” gets quieter and you find yourself choosing to stay in a marriage you’re not sure you would choose under different circumstances.

Through the story of Evelyn, who is married to a man who can feel like two entirely different people depending on whether he’s sober or high, we’ll look at what it means to make peace with a marriage that isn’t what you want it to be.

Because acceptance isn’t helplessness.

Acceptance is getting honest about what is true, what you can control, and what you’re choosing from here.

We’ll also talk about something that has to be part of any honest conversation about divorce in midlife: money.

Not to scare you into staying.

But to help you make a decision with your eyes wide open.

In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why uncertainty can make an unhappy marriage feel safer than divorce. * How our need for safety can take priority over connection and intimacy. * The difference between feeling stuck and consciously choosing to stay. * What acceptance looks like when your marriage isn’t what you want it to be. * Why the financial realities of divorce in midlife deserve a seat at the table. * How to create more peace with the choice you’re making right now.

You may not love every choice available to you.

But there is a big difference between “I have no choice” and “This is the choice I’m making right now.”

Reflection QuestionWhat would need to shift within me for me to genuinely feel at peace with the life and marriage I’m choosing?

You've been trying to get him to see it.

To hear you.
To understand you.
To finally change.

You've explained it.
You've cried.
You've been patient.
You've gotten angry.

And yet...here you are.

Still waiting.

Because somewhere inside, you're holding onto the belief that if you could just say it the right way, something would finally click.

But what if he already understands?

What if he's simply making a different choice?

In this episode, Sharon explores one of the hardest truths about struggling marriages:

Your partner has been making choices all along.

Every day.
Every conversation.
Every opportunity to show up differently.

And those choices tell you far more than the promises ever will.

Because every adult gets to choose.

They get to choose how they show up.
They get to choose what kind of partner they want to be.

And they also get to live with the outcome of those choices.

So do you.

The question isn't whether your partner could change.

The question is whether they're choosing to.

In this episode, you'll learn:* Why trying to change your partner keeps you stuck. * Why patterns matter more than promises. * How to tell the difference between someone's potential and their reality. * Why acceptance creates clarity, even when it's painful. * How to stop abandoning yourself while waiting for someone else to choose differently.

Reflection Question:

What truths about your relationship have you been resisting because accepting them would require you to make difficult choices?

You’re exhausted.

You carry the mental load.
You solve the problems.
You keep everything moving.

And you're wondering why your partner doesn't seem to step up.

But what if, without realizing it, you've helped create that dynamic?

In this episode, Sharon explores one of the most common patterns she sees in struggling marriages: overfunctioning. It's the habit of doing too much, taking on too much, and believing it's simply what a good partner does.

Until one day, you're overwhelmed, resentful...and wondering why you're carrying the relationship alone.

You'll discover why overfunctioning isn't really about being helpful. It's often driven by anxiety, control, or the belief that your worth comes from what you do for everyone else. And while those intentions may come from a good place, they often produce the exact opposite result.

Because every time you rush in to fix, rescue, or take over, you leave no room for your partner to show up.

Just because you can do everything doesn't mean you should.

If you're tired of carrying the weight of your marriage, this episode will challenge you to stop creating the very dynamic you resent and start making space for something different.

In this episode, you'll learn:* What overfunctioning really is, and why it leads to exhaustion and resentment. * Why so many women tie their value to being needed, helpful, or productive. * How rescuing and fixing can unintentionally teach your partner to do less. * Why overfunctioners and underfunctioners are attracted to each other, and why that dynamic eventually breaks down. * The surprising connection between overfunctioning and masculine energy. * How to step back without abandoning your marriage or creating more resentment. * What it takes to build a relationship where two adults share the emotional weight.

Reflection Question:

Where in your relationship are you over-functioning… and then quietly resenting your partner for allowing you to?

Menopause isn't ruining your marriage.

It's revealing what stopped working a long time ago.

If you've been blaming your hormones for the distance in your relationship, or your husband has been blaming your hormones for why things feel different, this episode will challenge that story.

Because menopause didn't create the cracks.

It simply made them impossible to ignore.

For years, life was full. Kids. Careers. Responsibilities. There wasn't much room to stop and ask whether your marriage was actually working.

Then midlife changed the pace.

The kids became more independent. Life got quieter. And suddenly you were left with the truth of your relationship.

Not because menopause changed your marriage.

Because it changed what you're willing to tolerate.

In this episode, Sharon explores why menopause isn't the problem. The unresolved patterns in your marriage are. The conversations that never went anywhere. The resentment that never got repaired. The loneliness that slowly became normal.

Because every healthy marriage has to evolve.

In this episode, you'll learn:* Why menopause doesn't create marriage problems. It exposes them. * Why women in midlife stop tolerating what they've tolerated for years. * How to renegotiate your marriage instead of living by old rules. * How desire changes during midlife and what that means for your relationship. * Why gray divorce is increasing and what's driving it. * The difference between choosing your marriage and simply settling for it.

Reflection Question:

Has your marriage actually stopped working… or have you simply stopped tolerating what never truly worked for you?

The most dangerous place in a struggling marriage isn't constant conflict.

It's the place where nothing changes.

You stop arguing because you've stopped expecting anything different. You go through the motions. You raise the kids. You pay the bills. From the outside, everything looks fine.

But inside, you keep asking yourself:

Is this all there is?

In this episode, Sharon explores what she calls the In-Between. That place where you're no longer fulfilled in your marriage, but you're not ready to leave either.

It's where many women spend years. Sometimes decades.

Not repairing the marriage.
Not ending it.
Just waiting... hoping clarity will somehow arrive on its own.

Through the story of Julie, a woman who spent nearly ten years questioning her marriage, Sharon unpacks why we stay stuck, why "comfortable discomfort" can quietly steal years of our lives, and why the clarity you're searching for isn't found by thinking harder.

It's found by having the conversations you've been avoiding.

Because courage doesn't come after confidence.

It comes before it.

If you've been asking yourself whether to stay or go, this episode will challenge you to stop waiting for certainty and start taking the small, courageous steps that lead to the truth.

In this episode, you'll learn:* Why the most dangerous marriages aren't always the ones filled with conflict. * What "the In-Between" is and why so many women get stuck there. * Why waiting for clarity often keeps you from ever finding it. * How fear disguises itself as confusion. * Why courage always comes before confidence. * The conversations that create clarity, whether your marriage ultimately survives or not.

Reflection Question:

What courageous conversation or action have you been avoiding that might finally give you the clarity you say you want?

Every time you try to have an honest conversation about your marriage, something happens.

He gets defensive.
He changes the subject.
He tells you you're overreacting.
He starts arguing about something else.
Or he shuts down altogether.

After a while, you stop bringing things up because it feels easier than hitting the same brick wall over and over again.

But here's the problem.

What goes unspoken doesn't disappear. It simply grows into distance.

In this episode, Sharon explores why so many people avoid difficult conversations, what's really happening underneath defensiveness and shutdown, and why avoidance slowly erodes even the strongest relationships.

Because avoidance isn't usually about not caring.

It's about not knowing how to stay present when something feels painful, threatening, or like failure.

You'll learn why defensiveness, blame, angry outbursts, and stonewalling are all different ways we protect ourselves from discomfort, and why those protective strategies come at such a high cost to our marriages.

Sharon also shares practical ways to change the conversation, including how to talk about how you communicate, the language that invites greater engagement, and how to stop chasing someone who isn't willing to meet you halfway.

If you've spent years wondering how to get your partner to open up, this conversation will help you understand what's happening beneath the surface while also helping you decide what healthy participation in a marriage really looks like.

Because intimacy doesn't require perfection.

It requires two people who are willing to stay in the conversation.

In this episode, you'll learn:• Why avoidance is often more damaging than conflict in a marriage
• What's really happening when your partner gets defensive, shuts down, or walks away
• Why many men experience feedback as failure and how that shapes difficult conversations
• The fear underneath avoidance and how past experiences influence our reactions today
• How to have a conversation about how the two of you communicate
• Why pursuing a withdrawing partner often creates even more distance
• What to say when your spouse refuses to engage or continually avoids difficult conversations
• How to balance compassion with accountability without abandoning yourself
• The conversation every couple needs before deciding whether it's time to stay or go

Reflective QuestionWhat conversations have been avoided in your marriage for so long that the silence itself is now damaging the relationship?

Audrey was married for 23 years.

For most of those years, there was always another woman.

Sometimes it was someone from high school. Sometimes it was a coworker. Sometimes it was inappropriate messages, emotional affairs, or naked photos exchanged online. Every time Audrey discovered something, the same cycle played out. She confronted him. He apologized. She hoped. And then it happened again.

She stayed because she loved him.

She stayed because they had four children together.

She stayed because she believed this time would be different.

Until one day, she realized it wouldn't.

In this episode, Sharon explores the moment Audrey finally stopped asking whether her husband would change and started asking herself a different question:

At what point does staying become self-abandonment?

Together, you'll unpack why so many of us stay loyal to relationships that have stopped being loyal to us, why hope can quietly become the thing that keeps us stuck, and why patterns don't end simply because we recognize them. They end when we stop participating in them.

If you've ever found yourself waiting for someone to become the person you know they're capable of being... if you've left before only to come back... if you've wondered whether you're staying because of love or because of fear... this conversation is for you.

Because there comes a moment when the question isn't whether they'll change.

It's whether you're finally ready to.

In this episode, you'll learn:• Why repeated betrayal slowly becomes self-abandonment.
• The difference between hope and denial, and why confusing the two keeps you stuck.
• Why leaving isn't usually one decision, but hundreds of small ones that lead to one final moment.
• How waiting for someone else to change keeps you from changing your own life.
• Why breaking a pattern requires more than awareness. It requires different choices.

Reflective Question:

Are you staying out of love… or out of fear of what happens if you leave?

Most people believe desire is something you either have or you don't.

You meet the right person and it's there. Or life gets busy, years pass, and it fades away.

But what if that's not true?

In this episode, Sharon covers one of the biggest myths about long-term relationships: desire doesn't disappear on its own. It dies from neglect.

And if you're not paying attention to it, it may be the very thing that's quietly eroding your marriage.

This isn't an episode about getting back to how things used to be. You can't go backward. You're not the same person you were before kids, careers, responsibilities, and life happened. And, trying to recreate the past isn't the answer anyway.

The question is: How do you create desire from where you are right now?

Whether desire has faded over time, feels completely absent, or was never really there to begin with, Sharon shares what it actually takes to cultivate it. You'll learn why desire is something we build, not something we find, and why the emotional environment you create every day matters more than you think.

From appreciation and kindness to communication, trust, novelty, and touch, Sharon breaks down the foundational ingredients that allow desire to grow. She also explores why predictability can quietly drain the life from a relationship, why spontaneity often requires intention, and why non-sexual touch may be one of the most overlooked tools for rebuilding connection.

If you've been waiting to feel desire again before taking action, this episode offers a different path:

Stop waiting. Start building.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why desire rarely disappears overnight and what slowly causes it to fade
• The difference between reigniting desire and cultivating it for the first time
• How predictability creates safety but can diminish aliveness
• How to create the conditions where desire can grow again

Reflective Question:

What kind of emotional environment are you creating in your marriage, one where desire can thrive, or one where it slowly disappears?

In this episode, Sharon explores one of the most misunderstood aspects of a long-term relationship: desire.

Most of us were never taught how desire actually works. We weren't taught where it comes from, what impacts it, or how to nurture it over the years. So when desire fades, we often assume something is wrong with us, our partner, or the relationship itself.

But desire isn't something you fix.

It's something you understand.

In this episode, Sharon shares a different way of looking at desire and intimacy in marriage. She unpacks why so many couples feel disconnected, why desire often feels impossible to get back once it's gone, and why understanding what's really happening beneath the surface is the first step toward creating the connection you're longing for.

If you've found yourself wondering, "Is this just what happens after being together for so many years?" this conversation is for you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why desire naturally changes in long-term relationships
• How we've been taught to misunderstand desire
• Why blaming yourself or your partner only creates more distance
• The difference between trying to fix desire and learning to understand it
• Why understanding desire is the foundation for creating deeper intimacy and connection

In today's episode, we're talking about something that doesn't get nearly enough attention: the growing number of men who feel blindsided when their marriages end.

At a recent mastermind event, I heard story after story from successful husbands and fathers whose wives decided to leave, often after years of silently struggling. It sparked a deeper conversation about what's really happening in modern marriages and why so many couples find themselves disconnected, resentful, and confused about how they got there.

This isn't about taking sides. It's not about blaming men or women.

It's about understanding how dramatically marriage has changed in just one generation, while most of us are still operating with outdated expectations and very little education about what it actually takes to build a healthy, lasting partnership.

We explore why women initiate the majority of divorces, why men are often shocked when their wives are ready to walk away, and how the expectations we place on marriage today may be setting many couples up for disappointment.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why women initiate nearly two-thirds of divorces and what's driving that trend

• Why so many men feel blindsided when their marriages end

• How the expectations of marriage have expanded dramatically over the last several decades

• The mistake both men and women make when they approach love as a transaction

• What modern relationships require that previous generations never had to learn

• Why lasting love is less about finding the right partner and more about learning how to show up differently

The truth is, most people were never taught how to create a thriving relationship. We learned how to fall in love. We didn't learn how to sustain it.

Whether you're struggling in your marriage, questioning your future, or simply trying to make sense of why so many relationships are falling apart, this conversation offers a thoughtful and honest look at what's happening beneath the surface.

Reflective Question:

Are you showing up in your relationship focused on what you can get, or on what you can give?

Is AI helping your marriage or making your conflicts worse? In this episode, we unpack the growing trend of using ChatGPT and AI tools for relationship advice and the hidden dangers that come with it.

From emotional validation loops to confirmation bias and overanalyzing your partner, we explore how AI can intensify marriage problems, increase resentment, and create even more disconnection between couples.

You’ll learn:

How AI can unintentionally reinforce resentment and emotional reactivity
Why confirmation bias can make marriage problems feel worse
The difference between healthy support and emotional dependency on AI
The importance of direct communication, boundaries, and emotional maturity
How to use AI as a tool without letting it shape your reality or decisions

Whether you’re curious about AI relationship advice, struggling with ongoing conflict, or simply trying to protect the health of your marriage in a digital world, this conversation will challenge you to think differently about where you seek clarity, comfort, and connection.

In this episode, we explore this question: Why do so many people stay stuck in relationships that are clearly hurting them? In this deeply honest and emotionally charged episode, we unpack one of the most painful dynamics in marriage: the exhausting cycle of trying to change a partner who has no intention of changing.

Using the powerful story of “Annie,” we explore how addiction in marriage doesn’t only show up through alcohol, gambling, or pornography—but also through the desperate hope that love, patience, reasoning, or sacrifice will eventually make someone become the partner we need them to be. This episode dives into the emotional toll of living in chronic disappointment, the hidden cost of abandoning yourself to keep a relationship intact, and the uncomfortable truth many people already know deep down: sometimes the suffering continues because we refuse to accept reality.

We also discuss the concept of “relational addictions,” including the addiction to fixing, managing, rescuing, and emotionally controlling a spouse in order to preserve peace or avoid loss. Drawing from Byron Katie’s framework of “My Business, Your Business, and God’s Business,” this conversation offers listeners a transformative lens for understanding boundaries, emotional responsibility, self-abandonment, and personal power.

If you’ve ever found yourself pleading with a partner to stop drinking, stop lying, stop watching porn, stop gambling, stop shutting down emotionally—or simply become the version of themselves you know they could be—this episode will hit hard. But more importantly, it may help you finally shift the focus away from controlling them and back toward reclaiming yourself.

This episode is for anyone navigating marriage problems, emotional exhaustion, codependency, toxic relationship cycles, addiction recovery dynamics, or the painful realization that love alone cannot force transformation. Expect honest insights, hard truths, compassionate perspective, and practical reflection questions that challenge you to examine what you’re tolerating, why you’re tolerating it, and what it’s costing you.

Whether you’re struggling in your marriage, questioning your relationship, or trying to understand why you keep holding on despite the pain, this conversation will help you get clearer on what’s actually happening—and what healing might truly require.

Key Takeaways* Why trying to change your spouse often keeps you trapped in suffering * The hidden “relational addictions” many people develop in unhealthy marriages * Why high-achieving, driven people often stay stuck in toxic relationship dynamics * How self-abandonment slowly becomes normalized in long-term relationships * Why clarity is often more powerful than hope * How to stop managing your partner’s emotions and start reconnecting with yourself

In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable truth about why women have affairs — and why the answer is far more complicated than most people want to admit. Rather than reducing infidelity to selfishness or immorality, this conversation looks at the emotional disconnection, longing, desire, and internal conflict that often exist underneath it.

We discuss how modern relationships have changed, why emotional affairs can slowly become physical ones, and the two primary reasons people cheat: to escape a struggling marriage or to endure one. We also unpack why affairs can feel so addictive — offering both emotional validation and an escape from pain at the same time.

This episode also dives into the deeper emotional consequences of divided intimacy: why it becomes nearly impossible to rebuild desire in a marriage while investing emotionally somewhere else, and how many people become stuck in confusion rather than making an honest decision about what they truly want.

Finally, we break down the three real paths forward when someone is involved in an affair — rebuilding the marriage, ending it, or remaining trapped in the in-between — and why this conversation is ultimately not just about relationships, but about integrity, self-trust, and the kind of person we want to be.

Do your thoughts really create your reality? Or is that idea oversimplified and sometimes even harmful?

In this episode, we unpack one of the most debated teachings in the personal growth world: the idea that our thoughts shape the results we experience in life. From Tony Robbins to Dr. Joe Dispenza, countless mindset teachers have taught versions of this principle. But what happens when life brings deep loss, trauma, heartbreak, or circumstances we would never choose?

This conversation explores the nuance most people miss.

You’ll learn the powerful distinction between circumstances and thoughts through Brooke Castillo’s “The Model,” and why understanding that difference can completely change the way you experience your marriage, relationships, emotions, and everyday life.

We also dive into:

Why two people can experience the same event completely differently
How thoughts create emotions — and emotions drive actions
Why blaming yourself or others keeps you stuck
The difference between managing your own mind vs. trying to control someone else’s
Why healing doesn’t mean feeling good all the time
How perspective impacts conflict, marriage, grief, rejection, and personal growth

This episode is not about toxic positivity or pretending painful things don’t hurt. It’s about learning how to navigate life with greater awareness, emotional responsibility, and peace.

If you’ve ever struggled with loss, relationship conflict, emotional overwhelm, or feeling stuck in repetitive thought patterns, this episode will challenge the way you think in the best possible way.

If you’ve ever found yourself lying awake at 2 a.m. wondering, “Should I stay or should I go?”—this episode is for you.

In today’s conversation, we unpack the quiet crisis happening in modern marriages, especially for women in midlife who feel stuck between staying and leaving. Despite endless relationship advice, books, and podcasts, many are still feeling disconnected, overwhelmed, and unsure of what to do next.

This episode challenges the idea that more information is the answer—and reveals why the real struggle isn’t knowing what to do, but actually doing it in the moments that feel the hardest.

We explore three powerful shifts reshaping the relationship space:

Why consuming more advice is keeping you stuck—and what actually creates change
The truth about “stay or go” decisions—and why the goal isn’t saving your marriage, but avoiding lifelong regret
Why keeping divorce on the table might be the very thing that helps you show up more honestly and powerfully in your relationship

You’ll also hear a fresh perspective on coaching—one that moves beyond giving advice and instead helps you build the courage, clarity, and self-trust needed to make the most important decision of your life.

Because at the end of the day, this isn’t about choosing the “right” path. It’s about choosing a path you can live with—without regret.

Reflective question:Do you really need more advice… or do you need support to act on what you already know?

What happens when your life choices make other people uncomfortable?

In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore the emotional weight of judgment, especially in the context of divorce and choosing a path that others don’t understand.

When you step outside expectations, people often rush to assign roles, form opinions, and decide who’s right and wrong.

But the real cost of judgment goes far deeper than hurt feelings.

It can fracture families, reshape relationships, and leave you questioning your own truth.

This episode unpacks why judgment happens, how it impacts your relationships, and what it really means to choose yourself, even when it comes at a cost.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, criticized, or torn between your truth and others’ expectations, this conversation will help you navigate that tension with clarity and self-trust.

Key Takeaways:
[00:00:18] — Why judgment after divorce is inevitable — and the personal story behind Sharon's own experience with it
[00:06:02] — The five core reasons people judge others for divorcing (and what's really driving it)
[00:09:00] — The pressure to choose sides — and the rare group of friends who didn't
[00:10:26] — How divorce quietly reshapes relationships beyond the marriage itself (siblings, parents, nieces/nephews)
[00:19:07] — Martha Beck's concept of "loving without caring" and why healthy detachment is actually an act of love
[00:22:49] — You will survive the judgment — and what becomes possible when you stop shrinking your life to avoid it

What happens when you and your partner are in business together and your relationship starts to break down?

For founder couples, the stakes are far greater than most people realize. It’s not just about saving a marriage. It’s about protecting a business, a livelihood, a team, and the life you’ve built together.

In this week’s episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we unpack the hidden dynamics that cause tension between couples who run businesses together and why most traditional advice falls short.

Through a powerful real-world story and practical insights, you’ll discover why relationship struggles and business challenges are more connected than you think.

We introduce the concept of the “Three Systems Problem” and explain how these systems either reinforce each other or slowly tear everything apart.

If you’ve ever felt stuck between your relationship and your business, this episode will give you clarity, direction, and hope for a better path forward.

Listen to learn:

Why founder couples aren’t managing one relationship but three interconnected systems
The real issue — it isn’t always the business
How avoidance creates long-term damage
What skills you need to address all three systems

There is a path forward, but it starts with clarity. If you’re in a marriage partnership and a business partnership, you can’t afford to miss this episode.

Key Takeaways:

[00:01:05] — Why the Stakes Are Exponentially Higher for founder couples
[00:02:18] — Introducing the Three Systems Problem
[00:04:42] — The Trapped Dynamic
[00:07:53] — The Real Problem Most Founder Couples Miss
[00:08:15] — Breaking Down the Three Systems
[00:09:44] — The Bad News: Tension Spreads Across All Three
[00:10:38] — The Good News: Skills Spread Too
[00:13:14] — Warning Signs to Watch For
[00:14:16] — Deteriorate or Transform

Modern marriage isn’t just struggling—it’s being reshaped in real time.

In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we unpack the “perfect storm” of three powerful cultural forces that are quietly redefining our most intimate relationships:

The erosion of attention
The rise of artificial intimacy through AI
Rapidly changing expectations within marriage

The truth is, many couples aren’t necessarily experiencing more conflict. They’re simply less connected.

In a world filled with constant digital distraction, our ability to be present, to truly listen, and to engage meaningfully with our partners is fading. And without attention, connection begins to fade.

Key Takeaways:

[00:00:18] — Why three cultural forces are converging right now to threaten modern marriage
[00:02:04] — What disconnection actually looks like in a marriage (and why it's the #1 killer of relationships)
[00:03:34] — Force #1: The destruction of our attention and what short-form content is doing to our brains
[00:11:38] — Force #2: AI and artificial intimacy — and why it may be even more disruptive than social media
[00:18:00] — Force #3: Changing expectations of marriage — and why women are driving the shift
[00:29:39] — The two questions that will matter most at the end of our lives

This episode is both a wake-up call and an invitation to become more intentional about how we show up in our relationships.

Because in a world where attention is fragmented, technology is reshaping attachment, and expectations are higher than ever, strong relationships won’t happen by accident.

They will require awareness, effort, and a willingness to grow together.

Are you doing all the right things in your relationship — but still nothing changes?

In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we explore two often-overlooked forces that determine whether a relationship grows or quietly falls apart: endurance and self-honesty.

Building on the foundational idea that strong relationships require emotional, relational, and growth capacity, we dive deeper into what sustains change over time.

Because having the right tools alone isn’t enough. What matters is your ability to stay in the work long enough for those tools to create real transformation.

We unpack endurance capacity as the emotional stamina required to sit in discomfort, engage in hard conversations, and resist the urge to give up when progress feels slow. Many couples don’t fail because they lack love or skill. They fail because they expect change to happen too quickly and abandon the process prematurely.

From there, we examine the deeper, more personal layer: self-honesty capacity. This is the ability to see yourself, your partner, and your relationship clearly, without distortion, blame, or avoidance. Without self-honesty, growth is nearly impossible. With it, everything changes.

Key Takeaways:

Why most couples give up too soon (and how to stop)
What endurance really looks like in everyday relationship moments
The hidden ways we avoid the truth and how it impacts our relationship
How self-honesty creates clarity, growth, and emotional maturity
The full “Marriage Capacity Framework” and how to apply it to your relationship

If you’ve ever wondered whether to stay or go, this episode will help you see your relationship with greater clarity and intention.

Most couples blame relationship struggles on communication issues. But what if that’s not the real problem?

In this episode of The Loving Truth Podcast with Sharon Pope, we’re unpacking a powerful (and often overlooked) truth:

It’s not just about how you communicate. It’s about your capacity to stay open, connected, and willing to grow.

Because here’s the reality: You can love someone deeply, and still feel disconnected, unheard, and stuck in the same patterns.

Not because the love isn’t there. But because one (or both) of you may be hitting the limits of your capacity.

We’ll break down the first three pillars of what I call the Marriage Capacity Framework:

✔ Emotional Capacity: Staying open when things get difficult
✔ Relational Capacity: Expressing love in ways your partner can receive
✔ Growth Capacity: The willingness to evolve over time

If you’ve ever wondered: “Why do we keep having the same disagreements?…this episode will give you a completely new lens and a starting point for real change.

Listen to the full episode and ask yourself: “Which capacity might be limiting my relationship right now?”
[00:00:18] — Why Sharon is changing her approach
[00:02:00] — Introducing the Marriage Capacity Framework
[00:06:00] — The 3 types of capacity every marriage needs
[00:07:10] — Capacity #1: Emotional Capacity
[00:13:29] — Sharon's personal story: high emotional capacity in action
[00:18:00] — Capacity #2: Relational Capacity
[00:20:13] — The slow drift: how couples stop meeting each other's needs
[00:26:00] — Capacity #3: Growth Capacity
[00:32:14] — Why capacity is the real reason marriages struggle

When your relationship feels hard, staying grounded matters more than ever.

We’re not entitled to a good relationship. If it’s good, it’s because we created it.

In this episode, I share two simple habits that change how you show up.

First: protect the first hour of your day. Start with yourself, not your phone, email, or the news.

Build calm reserves through something that grounds you, like meditation, prayer, journaling, gratitude, breath work, and moving your body.

Second: end your day on purpose with a wind down routine so you sleep better and stop running on fumes.

When these routines become non negotiable, you build self respect and show up more intentionally in your marriage, even during the hard moments.

Navigating menopause and midlife changes and your marriage feels more tense, distant, or disconnected?

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Wonder what really destroys marriages? It isn’t an affair or money… it’s disconnection.

It builds slowly through a million little hurts, like laying bricks until there’s a wall we can’t see over.

When things are good, you notice the rumble strip and course-correct with time together, honest talk, and touch.

If you missed the rumble strip and you’re in the ditch, expect it to take patience and more than one date night.

Don’t throw the problem at your partner; say what you want instead of what’s missing.

“I miss us. I want to feel closer to you. Can we make time in the next couple weeks?”

This episode shows you how to reconnect with vulnerability and accountability, one small step at a time.

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Stress doesn’t stay at work. It follows you home and seeps into your marriage.

In this episode, I share a real example of a couple whose stressful roles were quietly creating impatience and distance between them.

We explore a powerful exercise: identify the three things you truly need to feel fulfilled — no more than three — and protect what makes you come alive.

When you recognize that you’re making a choice to stay in a stressful role, you move from resentment to empowered action.

Sometimes you can’t change the circumstance, but you can change how you think about it and how you show up.

And when you do, your life, and your relationship,begins to feel different.

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"Our triggers are our responsibility." Sharon Pope

In this episode, I talk about that feeling of taking two steps forward and one step back in your relationship.

I explain why triggers are personal, often rooted in childhood, and why we have to own them.

We can't control everyone around us, but we can change the meaning we give to their behavior.

Real listening and presence are rare right now. We can all build that muscle.

Healing happens when what used to trigger you no longer does, not when someone finally obeys.

Progress isn’t linear; this is life school, so be gentle with yourself and use setbacks as information.

When you heal a trigger, you don’t just step forward; you take a quantum leap.

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Change is something we all resist.

It's uncomfortable, unknown, and goes against our basic human nature.

In this episode, I explore why we tend to wait until our relationships are in total crisis before we’re willing to do the hard work of being vulnerable.

Drawing on back-of-the-mind wisdom from Esther Perel, I explain why we have less incentive to change when things are good, but far less creativity to change when things are bad.

This "aspirin vs. vitamin" approach to marriage keeps us reactive instead of proactive.

To truly shift your relationship, you have to start with yourself and find a reason big enough to get you off the couch.

It’s about being intentional with connection and choosing to be loving rather than just waiting to feel loved.

As I often say, "If you want something different, you have to do something different."

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I’m sharing the two best, and least used, relationship tools I know.

We didn’t get a class on this, so most of us are winging it. And no, I’m not teaching voodoo Jedi mind tricks to change your partner.

This is about making it easier to be in relationship with you.

The first tool is validating your partner’s experience, even when it’s different from yours. That builds trust and safety. Validation is not agreement. It’s simply, “I can see how you’d see it that way.”

The second tool is taking 100% accountability for your thoughts, feelings, and actions. That’s where your power lives. As I say in the episode, “I almost got a tattoo that said, ‘It’s all me.’”

Use these two tools and you’ll feel the shift, starting with you.

I’m talking about when relationships end, not just marriages, but family ties and friendships.

More people are going no contact as we learn what’s healthy and set boundaries, but I remind you that “health resides in the middle.”

Sometimes we need distance. Sometimes our seasons of life just don’t match.

I share the three core skills that keep long-term relationships alive and how communication ties it all together.

As we get better at these, we may outgrow some relationships, and that’s a hard truth.

I also share how I set boundaries and why fewer, tighter relationships can be healthier and more sustainable.

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In this episode, I get honest about knowing divorce would be hard and then discovering what’s actually hard once you’re in it.

I talk about co‑parenting as the biggest pain point. Why you can’t control an ex but you can influence, and how two different parenting styles can actually help your kids.

I share a simple mindset shift and a practical fix for communication: add structure, like a monthly coffee to review the kids, what’s working, and what’s not.

We also name what you don’t see coming: new partners showing up fast, moving homes, friends and family choosing sides, and the grief and loneliness that can wash over you.

Be gentle with yourself, because you’re in a real transformation.

I give you journaling prompts to create closure, gratitude, and intention for how you want to carry yourself.

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A morning meditation with Wayne Dyer stopped me in my tracks: "...Freedom does not come from avoiding the pain. It comes from walking through it with your heart wide open."

In this episode, I share a simple three-part path for moving through marriage challenges with courage.

First, I separate facts from my thoughts and choose the story that serves me.

Then I ask better, braver questions that reveal the truths I’ve been avoiding.

Finally, I use those answers and my tools to turn pain into growth, with practice and accountability.

I talk about stepping out of victim mode, keeping my heart open, and loving you enough to tell you the truth, so you can become the woman you know you are and create a healthy, connected relationship.

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In this episode, I unpack “monkey barring,” which is reaching for the next relationship before you’ve let go of the last.

It often looks like cheating, but it’s really about fear, codependency, and avoiding hard conversations.

We use an affair like an emotional safety net because being alone feels scary.

I name how affairs distract us from the real problems at home and how easy it is to get hooked on external validation.

I also show you what it can sound like to tell your partner you felt a tinge of attraction and use that as a doorway back to each other.

A lot of us were never taught how to do this.

But these skills are learnable. And you’re capable of them.

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I’m breaking down how to know when your marriage is in real trouble, using a TV moment that felt all too real: a late‑night “We need to talk,” an “I’m not happy,” and a packed bag by the door.

By the time someone says I’m not happy, things are already serious. That phrase is vague, blaming, and usually too late.

Many partners brush it off, not because they don’t care, but because they don’t know what to do.

Then years pass, nothing changes, and we hear, “You should have said it louder.”

I walk through the subtle red flags most people ignore at first. The small shifts in connection, the growing irritations, the distance that sneaks up on you. If part of you knows something is off but you’ve been afraid to name it, this conversation will speak to you.

If any of this sounds familiar, roll up your sleeves and address it now.

It won’t fix itself, and waiting only makes the next conversation harder.

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I’m unpacking emotional adulthood through a client’s story.

I challenge the idea of “make it work.” We can aim higher than a marriage that doesn’t suck.

I walk you through naming your unspoken rules, keeping only the few that matter, and actually saying them out loud.

Your thoughts create your feelings, not your partner.

The thing that once made you laugh only became annoying when your thought about it changed.

We all slip into blame because change is hard. But long-term love asks more of us.

“Much like bread needs yeast, relationships need emotional adulthood.” - Sharon Pope

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Your coach isn’t your bestie. And that’s a good thing.

When you admit your marriage is in trouble, you need love that sees your blind spots, challenges your excuses, and won’t let you settle.

I share a Q&A moment where a woman wanted a pep talk about reconciling while still in an affair.

I paused and chose the truth: “I could make you feel better, but I kind of don’t want to.”

I called her higher, named the avoidance, and laid out her real choices:

end the affair and give the marriage your all
release the marriage and see where the affair goes
keep lying until it blows up

That’s the love I offer as a coach: I hold up the mirror and walk beside you while you do the hard, honest work.

Because “when someone pushes you to be better, it’s not criticism. It’s an act of love.”

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In this episode, I share a client story where her husband secretly put a tracker on her car, and how tempting it was to tell him off or file a restraining order.

We walked through what those reactions would actually accomplish. Not much.

They don’t change the past and they can harm co-parenting and her peace.

She chose a different path. She chose to protect her peace and stay steady toward a peaceful divorce.

“If telling someone off worked, I’d tell you to do it.” It doesn’t.

So I give you three steps that do work: get clear on your goal, decide how you want to feel, and choose the strategy that gets you there.

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In this final episode of the Us Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Lifeseries, I explore what “having it all” really means — and why a beautiful life on the outside can still feel empty when your marriage isn’t getting the care it deserves.

We talk about the difference between success, happiness, and true fulfillment, and how easy it is to give our best to work and our kids while offering only crumbs to our relationship.

I share why emotional connection is real wealth, why numbing keeps us stuck, and why we need to stop saying “I’m unhappy” without offering a path forward.

We’re whole humans. What happens at home affects everything else.

I walk you through how to evolve your marriage as life changes, and two questions every couple should ask to create a next chapter that feels as good as it looks.

The life you’ve built is beautiful. Now it’s time to make it feel beautiful.

If you’re serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward.

Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We’ll talk about what’s happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.

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In this episode, I talk about why desire fades — and why it’s not gone, just buried.

Buried under busyness, emotional distance, resentment, and the weight of responsibilities. A lack of sex isn’t the problem; it’s the symptom.

I break down what desire really needs (safety and aliveness), how routine and predictability smother intimacy, and why familiarity dampens passion over time.

You’ll learn the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire, why emotional closeness has to come first, and how sex becomes a standoff when no one wants to go first.

I offer simple ways to reconnect: eye contact, non-sexual touch, curiosity, small moments of presence, and adding bits of novelty back into your lives.

Desire doesn’t magically return — it grows again through connection.

In the next episode, we’ll wrap the series with what “having it all” actually means when it comes to love, success, and fulfillment.

Rebuild desire and closeness in a real way: join us for theCouples Weekend.

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In part three of Us Unfiltered, I explore how power dynamics quietly shape a marriage: who leads, who decides, who sets the tone.

These patterns usually come from what we saw growing up, and without realizing it, they create a one-up/one-down dynamic that erodes trust and connection.

Too much independence can turn partners into high-functioning roommates instead of a true team.

I talk about why every contribution counts, why control blocks intimacy, and how “keeping the boardroom out of the bedroom” matters more than most couples realize.

I share a moment in my own marriage where choosing presence over defensiveness shifted everything.

You’ll learn simple ways to restore balance: notice without blame, make space for your partner to lead, value emotional work, step out of the one-up stance, and reconnect around a shared vision.

If you’re serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward.

Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We’ll talk about what’s happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.

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In part two of Us, Unfiltered, I talk about what silence really costs inside a marriage.

Avoiding hard conversations feels easier in the moment, but over time it erodes your voice, your connection, and the safety between you.

The space between you fills with assumptions, resentments, and quiet loneliness.

Avoidance hides in busyness, sarcasm, over-functioning, or shutting down—and underneath all of it is fear. Fear of conflict, fear of being misunderstood, fear of what honesty might change.

I walk you through simple, doable ways to re-engage: choose calmer moments, speak from your own experience, lead with empathy, take one issue at a time.

I share scripts like “I miss us” and “Are you open to talking about this?” so you know exactly how to begin.

Because you can’t heal what you won’t face.

Reflection: What’s one truth you’ve been avoiding—and what might open up if you spoke it?

If you’re serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward.

Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We’ll talk about what’s happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.

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In this first episode of Us, Unfiltered: Behind the Beautiful Life, I speak to high-achieving couples who appear successful on the outside yet feel disconnected at home.

Life is full, you’re doing everything “right,” but the closeness you want has faded behind the busyness.

Achievement builds strong skills, but connection requires different ones. And the habits that help you excel — control, efficiency, staying in motion — can quietly block intimacy.

I name the early warning signs: staying late at work to avoid the tension, talking only about schedules, and avoiding conversations about how you really feel.

Nothing is wrong with you. You simply haven’t learned the skills that create true closeness.

It doesn’t take hours. It takes intention. Ten to twenty minutes of real presence can shift everything.

My invitation: put distractions aside, sit together, and ask, “How’s your heart?” or “How are you really doing?” Then listen.

In the next episode, we’ll look at how avoidance creates distance and how silence slowly replaces intimacy.

If you’re serious about healing the disconnect in your marriage, there is a path forward.

Apply for a Private Couples Weekend. We’ll talk about what’s happening between you, what you want to rebuild, and whether this private, two-day experience is the right container to help you create lasting change—together.

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I’m challenging the question, Am I a terrible person?

I explain why that question keeps you stuck in shame and judgment.

I offer better questions: How is this serving me, and how is it not?

I walk through real examples, like not wanting to stop an affair and withholding love from a good man.

We look at the short-term hits and the real costs, including risk, stress, kids, family, and how avoiding vulnerability blocks connection.

I’m not here to judge. I’m here to help you make conscious choices that align with who you want to be.

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I share the story of a woman who followed my work for 10 years before she reached out, hoping the next blog or podcast might fix her 20-year marriage.

Once we finally worked together, she and her husband became more connected than ever.

I talk about why we wait: saying it out loud makes it real.

The unknown feels scary. We hope things change on their own. We want a guarantee. We worry. We don’t know what we want. We don’t want to do the work, and doing nothing feels easier.

But that wait creates distance and piles on resentment, and our behavior gets worse.

Our problems don’t age well.

If you’re stuck, you don’t need a decade. Sometimes you have to leap before you can see the ground.

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I’m breaking down what no-fault divorce is, why it’s more recent than most people realize, and why it isn’t the villain.

Laws don’t destroy marriages. People do.

What really ends marriages:

Neglect
Shutting down
Avoiding hard conversations
Blaming instead of owning our part
Getting defensive
Invalidating each other
Turning love into a transaction
Not listening
And finally, indifference.

A no-fault divorce gives you the freedom to choose your reasons, and the only person who has to make peace with those reasons is you.

If you’re even thinking about ending your marriage, set a Google alert for “no fault divorce” plus your state so you know if that freedom is at risk where you live.

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In this episode, I break down the difference between therapy and coaching without making one better than the other.

Therapy helps you understand how you got here.

Coaching helps you decide where you want to go and how to get there.

We talk about timing, momentum, and why most couples wait too long to ask for help.

I share when to choose individual or couples work, and why one person showing up differently can still spark change.

We also look at quick fixes that don’t heal deeper issues and the importance of addressing what’s really driving the disconnection.

Sometimes the best path is both therapy and coaching—the key is choosing what fits your goals, your timeline, and your readiness for change.

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I know it’s easy to get caught up in life and forget to prioritize your marriage.

But the truth is, nothing thrives when you turn your back on it.

We’ll invest in Botox, hair appointments, and our businesses—but expect our marriages to somehow take care of themselves.

A healthy, connected relationship takes time, attention, and consistent effort.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about showing up and learning the skills that help you grow together.

If you want your marriage to feel good again, it has to make the list of what truly matters.

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Sometimes you have to be the one to step forward in your marriage—even if it doesn’t feel fair.

Many women ask, “Why should I be the one to do the work when he’s the one with the problem?”

But someone has to nudge the relationship into motion.

If you’re the one uncomfortable or ready for change, it may have to be you.

I also talk about the role of the victim and how staying passive keeps you stuck.

Using real stories, including an example from Simon Sinek about creating understanding where it seems impossible, I show why initiating change—even alone—can create fertile ground for real growth in your marriage.

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This week, I want to share an experience from a couples’ weekend immersion I led.

Watching a marriage transform over just a few days reminded me why I do this work.

One person can absolutely create change in a relationship.

When you show up differently, your partner responds differently, and a new dynamic emerges.

This couple came in scared, angry, and on the brink of divorce.

By the end of day one, they began seeing each other’s differences as strengths.

By day three, they had a connected, loving marriage and a plan to maintain it.

It’s amazing what happens when both people commit, use the tools consistently, and make an intentional investment in their relationship.

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All progress begins from telling yourself the truth.

It’s easy to fall into confusion when faced with tough decisions, especially in relationships.

But sometimes, the confusion we feel isn’t real.

We pretend not to know the answers because we fear the work it will take to face them.

It’s much easier to stay in the comfortable discomfort of not knowing, even when deep down, we do.

The truth is, our brains don’t like uncertainty, and they’ll try to keep us stuck in fear.

However, when you’re willing to face the truth about what you’re avoiding, you can begin creating real change

It starts with being honest with yourself, so you can move forward with clarity and confidence.

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I was recently a guest on Suzi Dafnis’ HerBusiness podcast, and we had an amazing conversation about the challenges women entrepreneurs face.

I share why it’s so important to prioritize yourself.

As business owners, we’re often pouring from an empty cup.

The solution? Start with a daily practice that tells yourself, “Me first, then everyone else.”

I explain how doing so not only boosts your well-being but also improves what you give to your business and relationships.

We also talk about the challenges when one partner grows in business and the other doesn’t.

It’s important to communicate and support each other through it.

Relationships need growth, and so do businesses.

They’re both powerful teachers in our lives, but we have to do the work to keep both thriving.

Learn more about Suzi and the HerBusiness Network by following https://www.instagram.com/herbusiness/

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Divorce isn’t just the end of a marriage, it’s the loss of a dream, a role, and often a piece of who we thought we were.

Healing means allowing yourself to grieve fully without rushing, then noticing when grief has shifted from fuel to a crutch.

It’s about asking yourself honest questions, moving your body, and resisting the urge to fill loneliness with another relationship too soon.

Getting your soul back is really about rediscovering who you are now, trying new things, saying yes more often, nurturing your relationship with yourself, and allowing a fresh start to unfold.

Your relationship with yourself is the most important one you’ll ever have, because it impacts every other relationship in your life.

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Guilt is something so many of us wrestle with, especially in our relationships.

For a long time, I thought guilt was useless because it’s tied to the past.

But now I see it differently.

There’s healthy guilt—the kind that nudges us to make amends, apologize, or do better next time—and that can help us grow.

Then there’s unhealthy guilt, the kind that has us taking responsibility for things we can’t control, beating ourselves up, or carrying shame for decades.

Healthy guilt reminds us our moral compass still works.

Unhealthy guilt keeps us stuck and robs us of peace.

The real work is learning the difference, setting boundaries, and remembering that we’re human—always learning, always doing the best we can.

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Whatever you're looking for, you're going to find. So the real question is: what are you choosing to look for?

So many of the women I work with can rattle off what’s not working in their marriage.

But when I ask what is working, they have to pause. Not because there’s nothing good, but because they haven’t been focused on it.

In this episode, I explore the quiet but powerful truth that whatever you’re looking for, you will find. And whatever you focus on becomes bigger in your experience.

If you keep searching for what’s wrong, your brain will gladly serve that up on repeat.

But if you can hold space for both what’s painful and what’s beautiful, and choose to focus - just for today - on something you genuinely value in your partner, your entire experience can begin to shift.

It’s not about ignoring the hard stuff. It’s about giving the good stuff a chance to grow.

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I’ve had so many women come to me feeling powerless in their lives, like everything is happening to them, and they’re stuck just reacting.

But what if there’s another way to see it? In this episode, I unpack what it really means to believe that life is happening through you, not to you.

We’ll explore the difference between victim mindset and empowered thinking, how your perspective shapes your experience, and why reclaiming your role in how life unfolds is the key to freedom.

This isn’t about blame - it’s about recognizing your agency, your power, and your ability to create the life and relationships you truly want.

"What you think, you become. What you feel, you attract. What you imagine, you create."

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When you discover that your partner has had an affair, it’s common to be overwhelmed by a rush of emotions… fear, anger, confusion, and shame.

The questions you ask in the heat of the moment, like "Did you love her?" or "Did you have sex with him?" reflect deep pain, but some questions can only make things worse by creating images that are impossible to unsee.

Healing after an affair requires more than just support from friends and family. You need a structured approach with someone who can help you process the pain and guide you through the difficult steps ahead.

The journey to healing is complex. The key is to find a safe space to process the pain, whether it’s with a coach, therapist, or support group.

Don’t carry this burden alone.

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Many of us wrestle with that uneasy feeling in a “good enough” marriage, stable and secure but missing real connection and wonder if the problem lies within ourselves or the relationship.

The truth is, it takes two people growing and learning together to make love work, and often we simply haven’t been equipped with the right tools.

At the same time, it’s common to struggle with people-pleasing and chronic worry that drain our energy and joy.

Healing means recognizing these patterns, setting healthy boundaries without guilt, and learning to ride the waves of uncertainty with courage.

“Worrying is like praying for what you don’t want. When you focus on what could go wrong, you make it bigger—and rob yourself of the joy right in front of you.”

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If you’ve lost the energy and enthusiasm to keep investing in your marriage, I want you to know you’re not alone… and there’s nothing wrong with you.

We all start relationships with a full tank, but when things get hard (and they do), that tank can run dry.

In this episode, I’m sharing how the “hard” in marriage is often misunderstood, why the fantasy of ease with someone new won’t save you, and how to create a spark again! Not by forcing something fake, but by reconnecting to your own growth, intention, and choice.

The truth is, it’s not about finding the perfect person. It’s about how you choose to show up when things get hard… because that’s when transformation happens.

“No one has ever beat themselves up for trying. But sometimes we regret when we haven’t given it our best.”

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When trust breaks down in a relationship - whether through gaslighting or financial secrecy - it leaves us feeling unsteady, unheard, and stuck.

I’m coaching through two painful but common dynamics: what to do when your partner denies your reality, and how to move forward when you're being kept in the dark about finances that impact you both.

I walk through what it looks like to reclaim your power: setting real boundaries, challenging the belief that we have to suffer to justify leaving, and choosing love or clarity, not because someone finally changes, but because you do.

You’re not powerless and you deserve more than suffering in silence.

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If you’ve been feeling disconnected from your partner, you’re not alone—and it didn’t happen overnight.

In this episode, I’m walking you through the subtle ways closeness fades over time and how to get it back.

I’m sharing 15 specific, actionable ideas that will help you and your partner feel more emotionally connected again.

Whether you pick one or try several, this is about creating moments of real intimacy, not just physical proximity. You don’t have to overhaul everything, just begin. Because when you shift how you show up, everything can change.

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Does it feel like you’re doing it all - managing the home, the kids, the emotional labor - and your partner is just along for the ride?

I'm sharing real coaching from inside my membership where one woman asks whether she can ever regain respect for her husband after years of doing everything herself.

We talk about what happens when we over-function in our marriages, how that invites our partners to under-function, and why judging them never gets us the connection we truly want.

You can’t judge someone and love them at the same time—and there’s no path to a happy marriage from that place.

I’ll walk you through the mindset shifts that can change the dynamic entirely, starting with getting back into your business.

“He gets to choose what kind of man, husband, and father he wants to be—and I’m going to stop trying to control that.”

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One of the most common frustrations I hear from women: “Why do I have to lead this?”

If your marriage is struggling and you’re the one noticing the disconnect, it can feel unfair to also be the one doing the emotional heavy lifting.

But someone has to take the lead—and that someone might need to be you.

"If you're not part of the solution, you're part of the problem."

I’m sharing five clear reasons why leadership in your relationship is an act of self-respect, not self-sacrifice.

Whether your partner is unaware, in denial, or just ill-equipped to lead, this episode is a powerful call to step into your agency, not just for your marriage - but for your own peace of mind.

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Have you ever wondered why the spark seems to fade over time?

Desire doesn’t disappear because something’s wrong. It fades because everything is the same.

I explain the science behind why familiarity suppresses desire and how we mistakenly attribute pleasure to the person (like a number three) rather than the physiological reaction in our own body.

I also share what we can do to bring desire back in a long-term relationship… without waiting on our partner to figure it out.

Desire isn’t magic. But with a little effort and intention, it can be reawakened.

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“It’s not always about what’s missing in the marriage—it’s sometimes about what’s missing in the person.”

In this deeply insightful episode of The Loving Truth, a listener asks why her husband betrayed her despite what seemed like a happy marriage.

I explore why infidelity happens even in relationships that appear strong on the outside, uncover the emotional complexities, subconscious fears, and unspoken desires that often go unnoticed.

I’ll help you begin to understand what happened—and more importantly, ask yourself what healing could look like from here.

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In this episode of Ask Sharon, I’m sharing real questions from women inside my membershipprogram and the unfiltered coaching that followed.

We talk candidly about the overuse of labels like "narcissist," what it's really like to be married to someone on the spectrum, and how to communicate with partners who default to defensiveness.

Whether you're feeling stuck in diagnosis-mode, trying to be understood, or wrestling with someone who simply refuses to change, this conversation is about breaking the cycle, reclaiming your voice, and realizing—you already know more than you think.

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What does it mean to ‘quietly quit’ your marriage? What are the implications of grieving a relationship without having the hard conversation(s) first? And why do we do it?

In this episode, I’ll explain ‘The Quiet Quit’ as it pertains to long-term relationships.

I’ll define the hard conversation(s) necessary for a marriage on the rocks—and the reasons we avoid them
I’ll explain ‘The Quiet Quit’ and why we do it
I’ll detail the reasons we need to address this problem a.s.a.p. (before it gets harder to solve)

‘The Quiet Quit’ is the precursor to the end of a marriage: This is often what happens 1-2 years before a typical divorce.

So pay attention to this episode! It’s an important one.

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Real questions, real coaching, and real breakthroughs.

In this episode of Ask Sharon, I invite you inside my membership program for a deep-dive into transformational relationship coaching that happened on a previously recorded live coaching call.

In this episode, one of my members details all the fear that’s coming up as she prepares to tell her husband that she’s ready for divorce. I walk her through her next move one step at a time, and we begin to list some positive intentions for the outcome of this hard conversation… and beyond.

*Audio shared with permission.

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“My spouse is not going to allow for a peaceful divorce—no matter how much I want that.”

Karen McMahon joins me for this special episode of the podcast to answer an important question: “How do I navigate divorce with a high-conflict partner?”

Karen is the Founder of Journey Beyond Divorce and the Host of The Journey Beyond Divorce Podcast. She has 14+ years of coaching experience guiding 650+ clients through the legal and emotional battles of high-conflict divorce.

In this episode, Karen shares her personal story of high-conflict marriage, divorce, and co-parenting through it all to help you navigate your own struggle.

Listen in to our conversation about how to prepare for an UNpeaceful divorce (even if you’re trying for peace). We also talk about how even one peaceful person can break generational dysfunction and the oft-overlooked impact of divorce on our adult children (and our relationships with them).a

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“How do I know if I’m staying for the wrong reasons?”

This episode gives you an exclusive peek inside my membership program and a real-life coaching session with a client who says, “I love him, and we’re incredible roomates… but how can we possibly reconnect with all this resentment between us? How do I know if I’m staying for the wrong reasons?”

The thing about resentments is: We carry them with us (whether we decide to stay or leave).

So we’ll start by dissecting the very significant resentments this client shares, and then we’ll move into questioning whether her marriage is ‘worth’ fighting for… or not.

I’ll also explain -

How to reconnect as partners (not parents)
How to ensure one or both of you tends to the marriage regularly
How to move past resentment… whether it’s for the ‘wrong’ reasons or not

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When it’s time to have a difficult conversation with your partner (or frankly, with anyone you love) you can’t just ‘wing’ it. There must be conscious intentionality behind your words and your actions.

In this episode, I’ll give you 4 important reasons why you might need to have a difficult conversation, plus the most common reasons these conversations fail and what’s required for them to succeed.

I’ll also share an example of a difficult conversation I had with my family—because it’s simpler than you might think.

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“I don’t want to let go of something that’s so important to me. But it’s not working anymore.”

This is an emotional episode (because this is an emotional topic). Welcome to a recorded coaching session with one of the members inside The Decision*.

This client has been married to her partner for more than a decade. They have two children together. Right now, they’re struggling with a circular argument that envelops deep criticism and hurt feelings.

In this coaching session, we explore some very important questions as she grapples with her decision to stay or leave:

What if we’re too different? How to work with your partner who has a completely different perspective from you
Have we tried enough? How to create a practice to identify your intuition and inner wisdom
Have you shown him your fear? How to soften into vulnerability when you’re hurting

Listen in for an emotional conversation with a client who’s ready to make a change.

*Shared with permission.

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“I thought if I could just fix myself… my marriage problems would resolve.”
–Rachel Hollis

On the podcast this week, we have a very special guest… Welcome RACHEL HOLLIS to The Loving Truth podcast!

Rachel is a two-time #1 New York Times bestselling author whose work has impacted millions of people worldwide. You probably know her from her wildly popular books: Girl, Wash Your Face and Girl, Stop Apologizing.

In this episode of the podcast, Rachel and I have a conversation about intuition, fear, marriage, and divorce.

Rachel explains how she’s slowly learned to listen to her gut instincts and how she digests her biggest fears through writing. She also tells the relatable story of her first panic attack and how she’s re-learning to communicate with her now-husband.

It wouldn’t be a conversation with Rachel Hollis if she didn’t also drop some wisdom, so you’ll hear her advice on -

How to ask better questions to reconnect with your intuition
The difference between what we ‘need’ and what we ‘want’
And the powerful mindset shift to identify your real v. perceived fear

Rachel’s new book What If YOU Are The Answer? is filled with insightful questions to ask as you learn to trust yourself again… and she shares a few of those right here on The Loving Truth!

“[My divorce] was so much worse than I could have imagined… and I would do it again.”
–Rachel Holis

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“Everything in life changes. Sometimes you grow together. Sometimes you grow apart. This is the nature of life.” – Sharon Pope on The Loving Truth podcast

Take a sneak peek into what happens inside my membership program in this special episode of The Loving Truth podcast.

You’ll hear a real-life coaching session with one of my clients who asks -

Will my kids think I’ve tried hard enough to save my marriage?
How long do I have to try before I can move on?
What happens if he makes the changes… and I still don’t want to stay?

Together we walk through some key answers to these questions (and more!) as she considers her decision to stay and fix her marriage… or leave without regret.

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Soooo many women ask me this question: Can I really be married… and free?

By now you know what I think about this: Freedom is a requirement for a happy, healthy, loving marriage! But I know it’s not so simple when you feel trapped by your relationship and imprisoned by your commitment to another person.

In this episode, I want to challenge what you believe about relationships—and the ways you develop trust, deepen love, and (re)commit to each other.

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They were living like roommates. Then she had an affair. Is this marriage salvageable? (Does she want it to be?)

In this episode of Ask Sharon, I’m taking you inside my membership program with a real-live conversation with my client, Elsa*.

We talk about -

How to ask the ‘right’ questions to make better decisions
The difference between money problems… and drama
What to do if you’re financially dependent on your marriage

You’ll also hear an embarrassing secret from me and the first lesson I learned from Martha Beck.

If you feel stuck trying to make the ‘impossible’ decision to leave your marriage or stay… this episode might illuminate the problem.

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This falls into the category of “Things I Wish Someone Had Told Me” (before I got married!) If you’ve reached midlife and you’re married or divorced: You probably didn’t think about any of this either.

It’s easy to ‘lose’ yourself within your relationship—especially if you’re a woman. But it doesn’t have to be like this! (In fact, it shouldn’t be like this.)

In this episode, I’ll give you the remedy to (re)balance ‘you time’ within your marriage—even if you have a busy family life. I’ll take-on some well-worn marriage advice I disagree with and explain how women (even mothers!) can prioritize themselves and their desires… for the health of the marriage and the family.

“De-prioritizing yourself does not serve your relationship—or the people you’re trying to prioritize.”

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Too many women find themselves overfunctioning in relationships—particularly in midlife.

You’re doing the heavy lifting of the emotional and mental load for your entire household: The logistics of family activities, the caretaking for your kids and spouse… all of it.

But while you’re busy meeting everyone else’s needs, you’re also abandoning your own.

In today’s episode, I’ll share 3 powerful coaching insights to help you:

Understand how overfunctioning creates imbalance in your relationship
Recognize the emotional cost of putting yourself last
Rebuild self-trust by honoring your commitments to you

This episode combines real coaching clips from past episodes—plus conversations from within my membership program—to show you what it looks like to stop quitting on yourself and start showing up differently.

If you’ve ever said, “I’m just so tired of doing it all!” this episode is for you.

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There’s one key similarity with all the couples I see in unhappy marriages…

In this episode, I’ll share the #1 reason people remain dissatisfied and stuck in these relationships, plus the real price you have to pay to build a healthy marriage.

“Temporary discomfort is the price of freedom.” - Dr. Joe Dispenza

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Building a healthy marriage is not rocket science… so why don’t we do it better?

Today’s episode is dedicated to the men in our lives: These are the ingredients for a good, healthy marriage!

I’ll talk about what it means to pay attention to your partner, how to avoid driving your marriage into a ditch, and how to course-correct when things aren’t working well in your relationship.

Listen in for a light-hearted deep dive into what makes a relationship last.

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What will make your marriage feel ‘good’ again… beyond comfortable companionship?

Women are often MORE unhappy in marriage than men. In this episode, I’ll give you 3 reasons why. I’ll talk about the different expectations we have, how men and women define ‘success’ in life, and why marriage has always been a better deal for men than women.

This episode is especially for you if your marriage is ‘good enough’ but you want more!

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You know the ‘right’ thing to do. You know the ‘logical’ decision. So why is it so hard to end your affair relationship?

In this episode, I’ll give you 5 reasons why you’re struggling to end an affair—and I’ll start with a hint… you’re not making this decision with logic! That’s not how you started the affair, and it’s not how you’re trying to end it.

Listen in for another “loving truth” about this deeply profound and important moment in any relationship that’s experienced an affair (on either side).

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If “decision paralysis” has stalled your next steps forward, this episode is for YOU!

I’ll explain why an endless loop of “possibilities” keeps you in limbo and how to narrow your pool of options to finally make decisions with a little more ease.I’ll introduce you to my client Faith* who feels lost in a cycle of “Should I Stay Or Go?” and give you the only real question you need to ask yourself.

Listen in for a healthy dose of clarity—particularly if you feel overwhelmed by making a decision about your marriage.

*Confidentiality Notice: This name has been changed to protect my client’s privacy.

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In my experience working with women in unhappy marriages, the topic of their partner’s addiction has become increasingly common.

In this episode, I tell the story of my client Shelley whose partner struggles with an addiction to alcohol—but in fact, that’s not the whole story. There’s something else going on.*

You’ll hear the possible wounds beneath addictive behavior and how we might take action inside a marriage plagued by addiction—with both kindness and compassion, for ourselves and our partners.

*Confidentiality Notice: This name has been changed to protect my client’s privacy.

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One of the top fears of women considering divorce is: What if I’m alone forever?

In this episode, I’ll share the story of one of my clients stuck in limbo because of her fear of being alone. I’ll explain why you can’t solve this problem logically and offer five benefits of being alone that you probably haven’t considered before.

(Listen in for my personal experience with the fear of loneliness, too.)

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“Anger gives us courage… but courage is not the same thing as clarity.” – Sharon Pope

The renowned sociologist and life coach Martha Beck taught me to ask a very important question when I’m feeling unclear about my next steps.

In this episode, I’ll share the question, the brain science, and the first step to take if you feel unclear about a decision in your relationship. I’ll also talk about the difference between courage and clarity and explain why the story of my first marriage has nothing to do with your own…

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You’ve just told your partner how you’re feeling disconnected and unhappy… and they respond, “Oh, we’re just fine!” Why do we invalidate our partner’s feelings like this? (Why do we accept invalidation as enough?)

In this episode, I’ll explain how to face this communication challenge head-on.

“When one of us isn’t fine, we’re not fine as a couple.” – Sharon Pope

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How can two opposing viewpoints both remain “true”?

We often think in binaries: “Everything is all good or all bad. I’m right, so you’re wrong.” But this isn’t reality: Human relationships are complex. So how can we allow for the nuance of holding two truths at the same time?

In this episode, I use my difficult relationship with my dad as an example for how we might expand our thinking to envelop non-binary perspectives of truth. I’ll even give you 10+ examples of “opposing” truths to consider.

As ever, it’s a deep look into the human psyche and behavior… simplified and put to practice.

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Are the men in your life a “life-long project?”

In this episode, I’m talking about why it seems your husband is a “man-child” and what you can do to change this. I’ll dig into topics of co-dependency, the different expectations we have for men and women, and how this impacts our sons and daughters, too.

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Too many women never leave their partners solely because they’re afraid of being alone later in life.

In this episode, I’ve invited fellow Relationship Coach and the Chief Love Officer of Last First Date, Sandy Weiner, to break down the myth that “late love” is anything less than True Love. Sandy details both the challenges and opportunities of finding love later in life (or post-divorce) from lived experience and through the stories of her real-life clients.

(Maybe you’re married and you just want to find love in your current relationship… this episode will speak to you, too!)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

“You can always find your way back to each other… should you both want that.” - Sharon Pope

Your marriage will evolve through several important stages of relationship, and this episode we examine each one.

You’ll learn why you can’t think straight before you get married (and why you find your partner annoying soon after), the major neurological change that happens to women who have kids, and which stage people most commonly struggle with affairs.

I’ll also explain the “ideal” time in your relationship to create structure around building connection and desire with your partner.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

If you have any kind of relationship at all, you and your partner will surely argue… but will you repair your relationship afterwards?

In this episode, I’m explaining why it’s important to repair the connection with your partner after you’ve had an argument or disagreement, plus 6 ways to get started (even if your partner doesn’t have any “relationship tools”).

You’ll also hear me explain the 70/30 Rule for relationships (backed by neuroscience!)

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

We look for safety and security at the beginning of our relationships… so why do we end up resenting these same things in our marriages? Let’s get curious about this 180° turnaround with a real-life example from one of my clients.

Vicki built her life around feeling secure, but then she started to feel restless and even oppressed by the predictability of her marriage. She started wondering -

“Who’s to blame when we get what we want… but we’re unhappy? What happens when we feel buried by the stability of the lives we’ve created? What if we feel utterly lost after the kids leave home… and we’re not sure where to put our energy and focus?”

In this episode, I answer these questions with an explanation of The Relationship Pyramid. Tune in for a deep dive into the purpose of safety, security, and predictability in our most intimate relationships.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Jennifer discovered that her husband has been cheating for two years - and bringing his affair partner to their home. She’s struggling to reconnect (with herself and her husband) when she knows that his betrayal happened in the space they share.

In this episode, I offer some advice to help Jennifer prioritize her own healing and avoid the re-traumatization of her husband’s affair.

To anyone who’s ever been cheated on, I want you to know: You’re not alone. You’re not the first person to walk this path. And while healing this deep and painful wound is a long, hard journey, it’s possible - if you start right here.MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

How do you know if you’re in a “semi-happy” marriage? What’s the solution to a marriage that’s just “fine”? In this episode, I explain what you need to know about “low conflict, low passion” relationships, how to escape “the comfort zone” of a semi-happy marriage, and why you can’t wait for your partner to ignite your passion.

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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

Sometimes it’s the simplest advice that makes the biggest difference in our lives. In this episode, I’m sharing the advice that’s made the biggest difference for me (much of which came from unlikely sources - people I didn’t know or even like!) You’ll hear some advice that’s taken me years to unpack, a powerful moment with my inner-self during my separation and divorce - plus the hard part about “simple” advice.
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Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode of The Loving Truth, I dive deep into the dynamics of blame in relationships. I pose the question: why do we so readily reach for blame, and how does it impact our marriages? I explore the emotional drivers behind blame, the consequences of outsourcing our lives to others, and how to take back our power by taking responsibility for our own choices. If you’ve ever felt stuck in the blame game—whether it’s blaming your partner or being blamed—this episode offers insightful guidance to break free and create healthier dynamics.

Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer?

Book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

In this episode, I explore the powerful and often misunderstood role of guilt in relationships, especially when considering a major decision like ending a marriage. I discuss how guilt, while sometimes a healthy indicator of empathy and self-awareness, can cross into codependency. I explain how taking responsibility for others' emotions often leads to self-abandonment and living a life that’s not truly authentic. I share insights to help listeners find balance between empathy and self-respect, even when facing tough choices.

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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In this milestone 100th episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I reflect on my journey in podcasting and deliver a powerful, practical guide to saving marriages. I dive into the top ten habits that silently destroy relationships, providing insights into how we unknowingly harm our marriages through technology, complaints, and passive behavior. I challenge listeners to consider their role in building a healthy, connected relationship and share actionable strategies for fostering intimacy and trust.

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In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I address the deeply painful issue of serial cheating. Inspired by a listener's story of repeated betrayal in her marriage, I delve into why some people may repeatedly break trust. I explain how inner conflicts, addiction to novelty, and a lack of self-awareness can lead to ongoing infidelity. Finally, I offer compassionate advice on how listeners can find clarity, peace, and direction after discovering serial cheating in their own relationships. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

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In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I dive into the complexities of love and safety in relationships. I discuss how, despite our desire for security, love inherently involves risk. I share personal insights about how seeking "safe" partners can sometimes lead to boredom in long-term relationships and I explore why people choose predictable love for comfort, yet crave excitement and change later on. I encourage listeners to embrace the uncertainties of love, reflecting on how love, though never truly safe, is ultimately worth the risk for the deeper human experience it offers.

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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In this episode of The Loving Truth, I tackle a topic I never expected to cover: navigating political differences within a marriage. I explore how political disagreements can add strain to an already complex relationship and share practical tools to maintain respect and connection, even when you and your partner don’t see eye to eye on politics. I emphasize the importance of curiosity, critical thinking, and respectful communication, offering advice on how to stay grounded and avoid conflict during emotionally charged discussions. I also discuss the significance of free will and encourage listeners to take charge of their own emotions rather than expecting their partner to change.

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In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I talk about the impact of technology on relationships, particularly in long-term committed marriages. While technology provides us with more ways to connect and access information than ever before, it has also introduced challenges that can make it harder to nurture close, intimate relationships.

I explore both the positives and negatives of technology’s role in relationships and offer actionable steps for ensuring that technology isn’t creating additional barriers in your marriage.

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I discuss the unique challenges and opportunities of going through a 'gray divorce'—divorce after the age of 50. Divorce is never easy, but divorcing later in life comes with its own set of complexities, from financial considerations to emotional shifts. I share valuable insights, statistics, and advice for those navigating this stage of life and relationship changes

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In today’s episode of The Loving Truth, I address the complex and often painful decision of leaving a good man. Many women find themselves in a situation where they are married to someone who is genuinely kind, caring, and stable—yet they feel unfulfilled or disconnected. I share my personal experience and explore the challenges of holding two truths at once: loving and caring for a good person while also recognizing they may not be the right partner for your most intimate relationship.

In this episode, I encourage listeners to explore whether a "good man" is the right partner for them and empower them to make decisions that honor their needs, while still maintaining respect and care for their partner.

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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“Will my partner ever change? Because I really want him to.” What a great question - and it’s one I hear all the time.

Let me start with this: Yes, people can change. And I can say this with deep humility… the person I was in my first marriage is NOT the person I am now.

In this episode, I talk about the ways I’ve changed in my own relationships (and the reasons why), plus

what we really have control over (and what we don’t)
what is actually our personal responsibility (and what belongs to our partners)
and the greatest teacher of my life (and probably yours!)

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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Do you want your marriage… or do you just WANT to want it? This is an important distinction (and something I teach inside my membership program: The Decision).

In this episode of the podcast, I share the story of Sue: She’s got the “perfect” marriage… but she’s unhappy with it. I talk about why this might be, plus how she can take steps to fix the problem.

Whether or not you relate to Sue’s problem of the “perfect” marriage, I think you’ll find these clarifying questions VITAL to your own relationship dilemma… listen in to find out! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE

If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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Most people in the world will never have the marriage they want… but what about you?

If you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of time, you know a fair number of things you can do differently. But listening to new information is only part of the equation.

What’s your next step?

In this episode, I’ll explain why it might be time to embody the tools you’re learning (plus, how to get started!)

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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Just one generation ago (and even for many of us now), SEX was considered a taboo topic of conversation… even though we’ve all been told to expect less sex the longer we’re married.

So… what exactly happens to intimacy the longer we stay in committed partnerships? In this episode, I’ll explain why desire wanes the longer we’re married and what to do to prioritize YOUR pleasure.

Because the problem of a sexless marriage does not resolve on its own, and the solution requires effort (from both parties).
You'll Learn:

0:30 - What happens to your sex life the longer you’re married
6:25 - When having sex feels like betraying YOURSELF
10:22 - Women & sexual pleasure within marriage
17:46 - If you want to enjoy sex, you have to enjoy yourself
20:20 - But there’s no magic equation…

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether you’re prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to have PRODUCTIVE conversations about difficult topics.

You’ll also learn why we avoid conflict in the first place, how to stop pretending things are “fine,” and the three parts to communication you need to know.

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1:26 - How we avoid conflict (and why it doesn’t work)
4:27 - What works for women… but not for men
9:09 - What might happen if you tell your partner THIS?
14:29 - This will change your experience of difficult conversations

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair?

Whatever happens after your affair relationship, I want you to be prepared - whether you stay with your affair partner or not.

It starts with recognizing these 4 Red Flags you might be missing in your affair partner.

What You'll Learn

0:28 - Why we overlook bad behavior from our affair partner
4:50 - Red Flag - Does he feel entitled to you?
7:57 - Red Flag - Is his control & manipulation just hidden?
10:13 - Here’s the reality (for YOU and your affair partner)

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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“I had one foot out the door… but pretending otherwise only led to greater disconnection and resentment.” - Sharon Pope

This is a soulful revelation for anyone who’s given up on the evolution of their marriage. I stopped trying when things got hard in my first marriage - and there’s just ONE thing I’d do differently.

In this episode, you’ll hear me talk about the main reasons women stop trying, what to do if you feel like giving up (OR if you’ve already given up) - plus the root cause of resentment in relationships.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

4:27 - After 10 years, I just gave up trying
5:01 - Here’s my ONE regret
7:10 - If YOU feel like you’d rather give up than try again…
12:06 - Here’s what I want you to think about

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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“How do I compromise with a partner who I no longer respect? How can I increase my respect for him… without lowering my standards?”

In this episode, I’m answering a question from one of our podcast listeners about what she can do differently or better to build back trust with her partner - after it’s been lost.

You’ll learn 4 practical steps you can take, including whether and how to compromise, plus where to put your focus as you move forward.

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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If it’s the fear of what might happen on the OTHER side of divorce that’s keeping you stuck, this episode is for you! I’m joined by leading Family Law Attorney & Mediation expert, Susan Guthrie, to discuss exactly what to consider when you’re stuck in the decision to “stay or go.”

And I have to tell you: Susan shared advice that I wasn’t expecting!

You'll Learn:
5:29 - People are often better off in their “beyond”
12:35 - Divorce will be one of the most stressful events in your life, BUT…
16:30 - How to avoid regret on the other side
19:32 - High emotions don’t make the best cocktail for rational thinking
26:20 - The best $$ you’ll ever spend during your divorce
30:21 - You don’t have to villainize your ex-partner - in fact, you shouldn’t
37:03 - Life after divorce is not actually the big black hole of a future you imagine
41:33 - You will become a different person as you heal
50:38 - What will really matter a few years from now…

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage (and your life) would be better if you JUST had the “right” partner… this episode is for you.

This romantic idea that the “right” person is always easy to love is what’s ruining our ability to thrive within marriage! And I want to talk about it.

In this episode, I’ll explain the problem with our unrealistic expectations, the reason your partner might not be “easy” to love, and why we get stuck in “the honeymoon phase.”

“Compatibility is an achievement of love; it shouldn’t be its pre-condition.” - Alain de Button

What You'll Learn in This Episode

3:06 - Is your relationship transactional OR growth-oriented?
5:54 - THIS is the person best-suited to you…
8:35 - If your marriage feels doomed, consider your expectations
10:01 - No one is easy to love… even you

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How do you navigate divorce when you have a strong faith (and a strong desire for the “traditional” family)? What happens when you divorce “the nice guy” and become the villain?

Today on the podcast, I’m speaking with special guests Noam Raucher & Leeron Tal, co-hosts of The Jewish Divorce Podcast, about their personal journeys through divorce, plus the different ways men & women interpret confrontation and “fighting,” why we so often feel unprepared for the reality of marriage, and the additional pressures of marriage (and divorce) when you have a strong faith.

You’ll also hear us talk about what makes a marriage “successful” (besides longevity) and what Noam and Leeron wish they’d known before going through divorce…

“As a Rabbi, I have to remind myself and the people I serve: Our ‘mistakes’ make us more human.” - Noam Raucher

You'll Learn:2:44 - “Everything in my life was great… except my marriage.”
6:45 - Her a-ha moment happened when she realized: Her kids were scared
11:31 - Marriage felt like his next “right” step
15:01 - He was surprised when his ex asked for a divorce
17:02 - Men & women perceive confrontation (and fighting) differently
21:02 - What it feels like to “wobble” in your decision
26:16 - The pressure of marriage & divorce when you have a strong faith
30:55 - When you’re going through divorce & it feels too hard to talk with other couples
34:10 - We need a new ‘success’ marker than longevity…
37:01 - What do Noam & Leeron wish they’d known before divorce
39:54 - More information about The Jewish Divorce Project podcast (& more!)

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How can he have an affair if he truly loves me? Should I tell my best friend about his betrayal? Why do men cheat (and what defines cheating)?

In this episode, I’m answering these questions (and more) from real listeners who’ve recently discovered their partner’s betrayal.

I cover everything from how both partners can get support to what’s required if you choose to stay together - plus the reason I think every married couple should have a conversation about betrayal (even if there hasn’t been one yet).

NEED ANSWERS ABOUT YOUR STRUGGLING MARRIAGE?
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Get instant access at https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/training.

If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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Every woman I know has felt some level of shame for showing emotion… and on every end of the spectrum. Deep grief, anger, even pure joy.

In this episode, I’m talking about the importance of understanding your emotions for a healthy, intimate relationship.

You’ll learn about the wide range of emotions we have access to (but why we’re only familiar with a handful), how your avoidance of emotion is keeping you stuck in indecision about your marriage, plus the two options you have when it comes to uncomfortable emotions - including heartbreak.

What You'll Learn:1:10 - From positive to negative emotions… where’s your “home base” emotion?
5:01 - Why we avoid emotions & shame people who show them
7:06 - Your emotions offer important guidance about what’s for you… and not for you
10:00 - What this means for your most intimate relationship
13:24 - Are you trying to avoid heartbreak? (Is that possible?)
15:03 - You have two options
17:09 - THIS is the price of a life well-loved

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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“My kids are so lucky [that I] have Sharon [...] I would never have done this [so peacefully] without her.” - Tania

I have something extra special to share with you this week… Three of my long-time members from inside The Decision are sharing their real-life stories from the other side of divorce.

Charles, Rachel, and Tania have been part of my membership program for more than three years, and together we have an important conversation about the opportunity for personal growth after an affair, what it’s like to “nest” with your ex-partner, and how to care for & develop yourself through the process of divorce - and after!

This is a beautiful conversation (originally ONLY offered as a bonus call with other members inside the program!) But I invite you to listen to this candid back-and-forth to hear what it might be like from the other side of what you’re considering right now…

Please Note: This episode was originally recorded as a bonus call inside The Decision. Charles, Rachel, and Tania agreed to share their stories publicly on the podcast. Enjoy!Mentioned In This EpisodeThe Decision Membership program :: https://thedecisionmembership.com/

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Love is pain… and if you don’t want to feel pain, you should just give up on love, right?

In this episode, I’ll explain where this line of thinking comes from and what happens when our expectations of love and marriage don’t match the reality.

I’ll walk you through the ways that I’ve learned to think about love and marriage relationships, answer the question, “Does the ‘perfect’ soulmate partner exist?” and tell you what to give up on - instead of love.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:0:55 - I’m never going to tell you to give up on love, BUT…
3:33 - Does the “perfect” partner exist?
5:10 - I think about love & marriage like this
7:39 - Instead of giving up on love, give up on this…
9:22 - The reality of loving someone well

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I get it: You don’t want to regret the choice you make (and you don’t want to make your life worse).

But what happens when we dig into what’s really behind your fear of making a “wrong” decision about your marriage? What happens when you challenge the general opinion that there is a right and wrong step forward - toward deepening your marriage or ending in divorce?

In this episode, we’ll find out! I’m talking about the safety net of indecision, regrets and “what if” thinking, plus the uncomfortable back-tracking that sometimes happens, even after you decide.

What You'll Learn In This Episode:
1:32 - Indecision might be less scary, BUT…
5:49 - What’s “right” and “wrong” for YOU?
7:35 - “WHAT IF… I have regrets later, and I can’t go back?”
9:07 - The most important thing about making a decision…
12:59 - You don’t know what will happen… until you decide

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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The current legal process for divorce is complicated - not to mention expensive. That’s why I invited Erin Levine, Founder of Hello Divorce, to join me today on the podcast.

She’s here to demystify the legal details of separation and explain her 3-step alternative for a simpler, kinder, and less stressful divorce.

We talk about the problems with bringing your divorce to court, how to navigate divorce when you don’t trust your ex, and the “divorce math” you should consider (i.e. it’s not just financially draining). Erin also explains why she’s determined to NEVER again litigate a divorce, plus the most-used service within Hello Divorce - and how it can save you money (and tears!)
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:2:09 - Top 3 problems Erin witnessed within the divorce courts… and what led her to create another option
7:47 - “Conscious Uncoupling” isn’t just hype from Gwenyth Paltrow
12:31 - Remember: the system is set up for lawyers… it’s not designed to support families
20:04 - When the spirit of “making things peaceful” mixes with DISTRUST
23:12 - Hello Divorce breaks down the divorce process into 3 parts
32:51 - Divorce Math: Consider the emotional toll this process takes
37:47 - Your lawyer is not your life coach… but you need additional support!
45:02 - Erin’s advice for keeping the divorce peaceful (even when your spouse isn’t focused on that)

About The Guest:

Erin Levine has more than a decade of experience litigating complex family matters in court, but when she saw the need for a kinder, easier, and more affordable pathway through divorce, she set out to revolutionize the broken divorce legal system and founded Hello Divorce: a venture capital-backed and tech-enabled platform that helps separating spouses reorganize their lives and finances with less stress and mess.

Erin is on a mission to help everyone design a better life after divorce. She’s already helped thousands of Americans reorganize their lives and families through the Hello Divorce framework that levels the playing field between spouses, so they can sort things out fairly, avoid missteps, and reimagine their next and best chapter.

Learn more about Erin Levine and Hello Divorce at hellodivorce.com (and on Instagram @hellodivorce).

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If you've been stuck and struggling in your marriage for years or even decades, and you're serious about finding the confidence, clarity, and peace you desire, it's time to book a truth and clarity session.

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If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for you…

Often we say that we want to be treated like a queen… but when it doesn’t happen, we get angry and place blame (or give up the dream).

In this episode, I’ll give you 3 important things to consider if you desire Queendom within your marriage - because it’s possible with a few vital adjustments! I’ll share the first question you need to ask yourself, how you can keep your expectations high (no, really!) - PLUS the 1 thing you need to stop doing to your husband.

Tune in for a quick, deep dive episode for the Queens among us!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:1:47 - People will meet you at your level of expectation, BUT…
4:49 - If you want to be treated like a Queen, consider starting here
7:42 - Because THIS is the real problem… and a solution!

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“What is not Love is always Fear.” -from A Course In Miracles, scribed by Helen Schucman

In other words, the opposite of love is not hate… it’s fear. And we unconsciously live within fear-based decisions when we misunderstand our options!

We have only two: LOVE or FEAR.

So how do we know if we’re making choices based in fear… or with love?

This choice shows up most prominently in our marriage relationships, and in this episode I’ll explain why - plus the question to ask if you’re unsure where your own decisions stem from (and how to do things differently).

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:1:09 - Fear is sneaky, because it’s often unconscious
3:16 - Here’s why it shows up most obviously in our marriages
4:20 - You think it’s love… but is it based in fear?
5:34 - This is everyone’s deepest fear…
6:06 - Why the motivation behind your action is important
7:57 - Here’s what I ask myself when I’m unsure about a decision

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Many of my clients come to me saying, “I no longer feel desire for my partner… even though I want to! Intimacy used to feel so different. What’s wrong?”

And well, it’s probably not what you think.

In this episode, I invite you to discover how the thrill of novelty and the excitement of the unknown are essential to your long-term marriage, plus how you can realistically bring these elements back to life, starting today.

Because maybe it’s less about what’s “wrong” with your relationship… and more about what you can do differently.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:0:59 - You might think THIS is the problem (it’s not!)
2:49 - Here’s the real problem - and it happens to all of us
6:01 - Imagine what it looks like to re-incorporate spontaneity into your marriage
9:25 - But here’s the worst time of day to begin…
11:16 - Here’s what I do to keep desire alive with my husband
12:29 - Why non-sexual touch is vital to revamping desire

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How do we move forward together after the discovery of an affair? How do I know he won’t cheat again? What if there’s more sexual indiscretion I just don’t know about (yet)?

In this episode, I’ll share a story from one of my clients: She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s long-term sexual indiscretion. Now she’s trying to understand what went wrong and how to move forward.

I’ll talk about how we can get introspective (without taking responsibility for something that’s NOT our fault), the importance of being “chosen” by our partners (not merely tied together by convenience or fear), plus the Loving Truth about what’s possible on the other side.

Please note: This is a tender, sensitive topic for those of us who’ve experienced sexual indiscretion within an intimate relationship. When deciding whether to listen to this episode (or select another), I encourage you to keep this in mind and take good care of yourself.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:1:16 - She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s sexual indiscretion
4:22 - When you’ve been cheated on, you need these 2 important things
6:39 - Here’s where he needs to start
13:07 - What does it mean to get “introspective”?
16:18 - Are you brave enough to consider this, too?
20:18 - This is what can happen on the other side!
23:17 - And here’s the loving truth…

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Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

If you understand this, your marriage will automatically become so much easier…

The differences between males and females in relationship starts with the brain - and it starts before we’re even born.

In this episode, we’re digging into the science behind our natural differences, plus how our different brain development impacts our male/female relationships as adults - based on Dr. Louann Brizendine’s research, laid out in her book: The Female Brain.

You’ll discover the neurological reasons behind our distinct ways of communication and emotional processing, plus how this shapes our marriage relationships and male/female interactions.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:3:37 - Our differences begin before we’re even born
7:58 - Baby girls are born knowing how to “read the room”
10:55 - The physiological differences in male/female communication
13:23 - Why women are the 1st to notice disharmony in relationships
18:40 - Why your marriage feels different to you… than to your husband Mentioned In This Episode

Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon
The Female Brain by Dr. Louann Brizendine

The Female Brain

How do we get more comfortable talking about sex? Is it “okay” to add sex to our schedules… or should it only be spontaneous? What if one of us is never in the mood?

In this episode, I’m detailing FIVE things that passionate couples do differently - taken from the teachings of Esther Perel. I’ll explain the concept of “responsive desire” (and how to be intimate when you’re not in the mood), what to do if it feels like your partner is only ever “taking” from you, and the importance of consistency with physical intimacy - for both partners!

Listen in if you’re ready and wanting to ignite deeper passion inside your most intimate relationship.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:2:36 - I rarely want to work out… but I never regret it
5:50 - When it feels like all he wants to do is take from you
9:07 - You cannot punish your partner for this!
10:41 - Your relationship needs physical intimacy (consistently)
13:40 - Maintenance sex v. Spontaneous sex

Mentioned In This Episode:Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Could your marriage be the cornerstone to success in every other part of your life? In this episode, I invite you to consider the potentially transformative concept of placing your relationship above even your children and career…

I explain why many of us naturally prioritize other aspects of life (kids, work, etc.) and the subtle-yet-profound impact this could be having in our marriages. This is a divisive topic, so I invite you to tune in and consider what this means for you!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:2:49 - Can your marriage be the foundation… for everything else in your life?
4:18 - Most of us love our kids unconditionally. What about our life partners?
6:22 - What else can thrive… when your marriage thrives?
8:04 - But prioritizing your marriage shouldn’t feel like a chore
11:20 - What’s ONE thing you can do to prioritize your marriage?

Mentioned In This Episode:Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

If you feel stuck in indecision about whether you should stay in your relationship or leave it… you likely don’t have enough information to make your decision (yet).

That’s the problem my client was facing: Her marriage had been struggling for years, and now she found herself deep inside an affair - no longer in love with her husband but undecided about what to do next.

In this episode, I walk you through the 90-day strategy we used to help her come to clarity, plus the difference between thoughtful decision-making and “convenient” decisions. If you feel stuck in indecision about your marriage, this episode is for you!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:2:09 - What do you want? (What don’t you want?)
5:18 - What are your reasons WHY?
7:21 - The 90-day ground rules for success
9:20 - But the goal is NOT “wedded bliss in 90 days!”
12:23 - Ask this question if you’re feeling stuck

Mentioned In This Episode:Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

Who am I, and why should you listen to me?

The work of relationship coaching is personal, and today I want to share more about who I am, personally and professionally - so you can see behind-the-scenes of my life and work.

In this episode, I share my personal story of a first marriage that ended in divorce, how I’ve been on all sides of affairs, and why my second marriage is thriving. You’ll also hear about what led me to relationship coaching, the work I did previously, and how I finally discovered peace and happiness - using my own life coaching tools!

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:1:58 - The simple reason I married my first husband
6:51 - I thought the answer was to find the right person…
8:20 - Why my second marriage is thriving 10 years later!
11:46 - This is what I did for work, prior to relationship coaching
16:09 - The first time I felt my heart leap out of my chest
21:08 - Who are my people? What matters to me? Where am I from? What do I believe in?
29:27 - How I finally discovered peace

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Oh, the age-old dilemma in nearly every marriage… One partner needs emotional connection before physical intimacy; the other requires sex to feel connected.

Both partners require both types of connection. But which comes first?

In this episode, I take a stand on which type of connection must come first, plus why we need different things to feel connected, what to do if you feel like your partner is only ever ‘taking’ from you, and how you might be exacerbating the disconnection in your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:1:07 - We need BOTH emotional & physical connection… which comes first?
4:05 - The dilemma: I’m not meeting your needs, because you’re not meeting mine
5:47 - But this is what HAS to come first - no matter what
8:00 - Your partner is not trying to take something from you…

Mentioned In This Episode:Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon
Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life by Vanessa & Xander Marin

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When one of my clients discovered her husband’s betrayal, she consciously chose to stay in the marriage… but she also struggled to know how to move forward from there.

Would his past behavior determine their success or failure? Could new patterns of behavior “save” their marriage?In this episode, I’m talking about the problems with ONLY looking to the past for predictions of the future, plus how we can start trusting ourselves and move forward after a marriage upset.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:2:10 - The best predictor of the future is the past, unless…
7:05 - How new patterns of behavior change your relationship
10:07 - You can’t have one foot in the past & one foot in the future…
13:08 - Here’s how you can start trusting YOURSELF

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If you can get better at this one thing… every single relationship in your life will get better!

Most relationship issues can be traced back to problems with communication, right? There might be a lack of communication, a handful of miscommunications, a lack of understanding… the list goes on.

But here’s what I want you and your partner BOTH to consider: Are you as interested in what your partner has to say… as you are in being seen & heard?

In this episode, we’ll dig into this question, and I’ll share 5 practical tools to help you get better at both listening and being heard.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:01:10 - You know what it’s like to feel unseen & unheard (so does your partner…)
04:53 - It gets harder when your identity is wrapped up in the conversation
07:35 - When it’s time to “close your mouth & open your ears”
08:31 - Most people do not have practice being fully present…
13:15 - Are you listening to him, too?

Mentioned In This Episode:Truth & Clarity Session with Sharon

How can I fix our marriage if he doesn’t think anything is wrong? What can I do if my needs aren’t being met by my partner? What information should I share with my kids about our divorce?In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who are stuck at an impasse and struggling to move forward. Together we’ll get clear about what’s necessary to make a change and how to take the first step.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:00:55 - She wants to work on the marriage, but he says it’s “fine”
04:46 - Your husband is NOT a jerk…
07:55 - He wants physical connection, but she needs emotional connection first
11:20 - Who should make the first move?
16:52 - They’re getting divorced: What information should they share with their kids?
20:36 - What your children feel TODAY is not how they’ll feel FOREVER
26:16 - The better you do this one thing, the smoother your relationships will be

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When one or both partners in a marriage is neurodivergent, you face quite unique challenges… In this episode, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham to explore neurodivergent marriage and more!

Now, you don’t need a diagnosis of ADHD, OCD, autism, etc. to enjoy this episode… rather, Dayna explains how learning to communicate better with your partner is actually about understanding them (and yourself!) better - neurodivergent or otherwise.

You’ll also learn about neurodivergent labels & diagnoses, the wide variety of neurodivergent experience, how neurodivergence can impact marital intimacy & affection, and how you might build better systems & processes within a neurodivergent marriage. Plus, Dayna shares her own framework for thriving inside a marriage with one or both neurodivergent partners. (This framework applies to parenting, business, and more!)

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:01:40 - The difference between a label & a diagnosis
06:59 - Neurodivergent people receive 10X more negative feedback…
11:45 - The female experience of being neurodivergent
15:28 - What to do if you think your partner is neurodivergent
23:20 - How to NOT take your partner’s neurodivergence personally
27:54 - Neurodivergence, intimacy & affection
31:08 - How to build systems & processes in a neurodivergent marriage
40:40 - Dayna’s frameworks for neurodivergent parenting, marriage & more
48:38 - Okay, radical acceptance… but what about unacceptable behavior?
57:44 - The most beautiful part of Dayna’s neurodivergent marriage

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Feeling a loss of attraction and desire for your partner is very common… even when you’re recovering your marriage to a healthy place.

Many of us think that a “spicy” marriage (or an intimate connection) is what’s lost to our youthful naivety or the “magic” of something new. But it’s actually about biology.

In this episode, I’m going to get a little nerdy and talk about healthy hormones, PLUS 4 practical ways you can invite desire into your marriage and your life.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:4:53 - We can’t talk about desire without talking about your hormones
8:16 - Your body needs these 3 things to feel desire
12:36 - Does your relationship still feel… fun?
15:57 - The fastest way to connect with your partner
18:31 - Desire isn’t something you “make” happen
21:15 - Rekindling desire is about action & effort

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When’s the last time you felt truly heard by your partner? When’s the last time you enjoyed a serious conversation together… or agreed on a solution after an argument?

Errors in communication are the most common problem I see with unhappy couples - because men and women communicate differently! And we often communicate for very different reasons.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll explore the art of communicating within a heterosexual partnership, and I’ll provide 4 tips for more effective communication between men and women.
What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

0:54 - Women communicate to build connection (men do not)
4:49 - Men & women solve problems in different ways
6:22 - It’s not about who does it “right” & who does it “wrong”
10:28 - Can you be braver (and bolder) with your communication boundaries?
14:10 - Listen better by asking THIS question
16:05 - The #1 reason happy couples are actually happy

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How do I know if my spouse is genuinely changing or not? Can I trust his new good behavior will last? What can we do if my husband wants to open our marriage and I’m not sure? How do I move forward after my husband’s emotional affair with a coworker?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who want to understand how to encourage positive changes to make a marriage last, what to do when a partner comes out as bisexual, and how to move forward after an emotional affair.

3:13 - How to appreciate the good things he does to encourage lasting change8:24 - Her husband wants to open their marriage - does she?
10:03 - When you both want to feel seen and accepted (but neither of you does)
14:04 - The reality of emotional affairs (i.e. The Danger Zone)
18:13 - It’s not about the other woman
20:51 - What’s really going on when things go “bad”

Mentioned In Q&A: New "Good" Behavior, Emotional Affairs and an Open MarriageStruggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session.

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Men and women communicate very differently and for very different reasons. And if you don’t understand how and why, it’ll cause problems that strain your relationship. So what do you need to know and do differently to communicate better in your marriage

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about why men and women communicate differently, why it can cause issues, and the brain chemistry involved. I’ll also teach you four things you can do to improve the communication between you and your partner.

00:54 - Ways in which men and women communicate differently and the reasons behind it

7:15 - How to be more direct in your communication with your husband (without coming across like a bitch)

10:20 - Two ways to be braver in your marriage and how they help your partner show up better inside the relationship

12:33 - An example of how understanding one another makes communication easier in marriage

14:10 - How to listen better when your partner is ready to share something with you

Mentioned In Four Ways to Improve Communication Between You and Your Spouse

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You know how each person can see something different when looking at the same piece of art? Perspective is the same way.

Your perspective is uniquely yours, and it’s built through belief which is shaped in the first few years of your life by multiple things like your environment and the people in it. In that way, your beliefs are also like art, bringing together multiple elements to create the big picture that is you. But, if you’re not careful, some beliefs you hold can play a part in destroying any relationship you have.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about the one belief you might have that can ruin almost any relationship. You’ll learn a simple thing you can do to become a little more conscious in all of your relationships and discover how this subtle shift can improve your marriage

00:25 - The lost art that’s affecting your relationships

2:49 - A couple of reasons why you argue with others over perspective

4:30 - The problem with the concept of right versus wrong

6:37 - The benefits of looking at things in your relationships through the lens of perspective

8:57 - What happens when you’re simply curious about your partner’s perspective

Mentioned In The One Belief That Will Ruin Any Relationship

Stay or Go? By Sharon Pope

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Feeling frustrated by the same interactions and experiences with your partner? Perhaps you and your spouse are having the same arguments over and over again, or you’re still not affectionate with each other.

How will your life look and feel a year from now, though, if you do nothing different? You might think you know the answer, but you’ll only be partly right.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about two reasons why your life won’t be the same next year if you don’t do things differently. I’ll also give you suggestions on how to change your approach to the problems in your marriage so that it has a chance to evolve into something better.

1:10 - The first (and most important) reason why your life a year from now won’t still be the same by doing nothing different

3:49 - The one inevitability that means things won’t be different for you next year

5:22 - A suggestion for doing something different that puts you in the fast lane to change

6:53 - The assumption you need to drop to get things moving in a different direction

8:03 - One of the more powerful things you can do that most people resist (at least at first)

10:01 - How to get out of the inertia and implement the suggestion of your choice

11:45 - The result if you remain passive and ignore the rumble strip in your marriage

Mentioned In What Will Life Be Like One Year From Now (If You Do Nothing Different)?

Stay or Go? By Sharon Pope

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If you need to end a relationship, you want to try to do it in the most loving and peaceful way possible. This is something I say often, but there’s one problem with it: not everyone wants to be loving and peaceful about separating.

One of my clients, parent coach Julie Zivah, finds herself in a highly contentious divorce with her husband of 22 years. Yet she has found a way to keep her peace while still going through the process. And she wanted to be on the podcast to take us through her journey as someone in a high-conflict divorce.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about how Julie’s divorce has gone thus far and how she’s learned to stay calm and zen. You’ll learn about the hard realizations she’s had about her relationship with her husband and kids, the tools she’s used to help navigate her situation mentally and emotionally, and her supportive mindset and approach as her family’s dynamic continues to be in transition.

2:20 - Julie describes where she was mentally and emotionally in her marriage when we started working together

5:40 - How Julie got to the decision to end her relationship with her husband

8:35 - Does Julie ever get cold feet and feel tempted to change her mind?

11:21 - The moment Julie knew her divorce wasn’t going to be loving and peaceful (and an important side note about her approach to this conversation)

14:15 - Julie shares one of the hardest realizations in this process and how her relationship with her kids has changed

21:57 - The importance of a dependable adult for kids and teaching your kids how to manage difficult people

24:05 - How Julie’s experience has changed her parent coaching practice

26:03 - Collaborative divorce proceedings with a high-conflict personality and what happened when Julie switched to a non-collaborative process

31:09 - The tool that helps Julie do things with love and kindness while going through a difficult divorce

34:40 - How Julie kept her peace when things got really tough and she had moments of doubt

38:47 - The importance of using helpful tools when you’re not in crisis

40:14 - Julie’s advice if you suspect a high-conflict separation on the horizon

46:01 - Where Julie’s relationships with her partner and kids stand today

Mentioned In How to Keep Your Peace Through a High-Conflict Divorce

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Are you avoiding spending time alone with your partner? Do you feel like you’ve lost momentum on going forward with your divorce decision after talking about it with your spouse? I answered a couple of questions from Tiffany and another caller who found themselves in these situations.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear about how you get to a place of disconnection in your marriage and how the way you approach the divorce conversation with your partner can cause you to waver on your decision. I’ll also teach you how to build your muscle of discomfort to help you stop avoiding your husband and how you can move the separation process along as smoothly as possible.

0:40 - A choice between befriending a little discomfort or a lifetime of avoiding your husband

4:08 - Why sometimes you avoid being alone with your partner

5:35 - How to start breaking down the buffers you’ve become used to in your relationship

9:48 - A common thing that happens in marriages with kids

12:45 - Why the conversation to end your marriage is just the first of many

16:56 - The importance of how you enter a conversation with your partner about separation

18:49 - How to move the separation and divorce process along as peacefully and loving as possible

Mentioned In Avoiding Time Alone and a Divorce Discussion Gone Wrong

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So you’ve decided to end your relationship in divorce. What’s the first thing you should do next? The answer might surprise you.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about a much more productive first step you can take instead of the one that most likely immediately comes to mind. I’ll also teach you why it helps you commit to your decision to end your marriage.

1:19 - Your first instinct after you realize divorce is the answer

2:08 - What a wobble list is, and the point of making one

4:18 - The process of creating your wobble list (with examples)

7:00 - Why you will second-guess your commitment to divorce at some point

7:55 - Scenarios that can cause you to second-guess yourself most often

Mentioned In The First Thing You Should Do When You Decide to Get a Divorce

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You feel like you’re at the end of your rope when it comes to your marriage. Divorce looks like the inevitable next step...but is it?

What if there was another way? What if there was the possibility of still saving your relationship by evolving it into a newer, better version?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about the divorce alternative that many of my clients have used. I’ll teach you the similarity between relationships and technology and reveal how one client has started evolving her marriage.

1:03 - How “Julie’s” and “Chris’” relationship dynamic changed in 23 years

3:05 - How you need to think of marriage evolution

6:09 - How we get to the point of being stuck in the same miserable cycle in our relationship

9:03 - What the process of evolving your marriage depends on

10:36 - What marriage is and the change in “Julie’s” marriage with “Chris” as it began to evolve

13:11 - What if your marriage can’t evolve beyond where it is right now?

Mentioned In Instead of Divorce, Can You Save Your Marriage By Evolving It?

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“What other people think of you doesn’t matter.”

You can hear that a thousand times. You can even tell it to yourself over and over until you’re blue in the face. And while a select few may not be rattled by it, most of us feel the effects of someone else’s judgment.

But you can bounce back instead of letting it affect you for weeks, months, or a lifetime. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn three ways of thinking about this that’ll help soften and shorten the blow to just a few days (or even hours) of hurt feelings. I’ll even share with you how I’ve learned to deal with judgment from family members about what I do in my business.

3:24 - Why the way someone feels about you has nothing to do with you

5:50 - What you can’t control (even if you think you can) and why

8:29 - The only opinion that ultimately matters (and a scenario that highlights why)

10:37 - The choices we all face when someone judges us

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Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regretby Sharon Pope

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Want to move forward with decisions in your life and marriage? That’s what my monthly Q&As are designed to help you do! And today, it’s time to answer questions from three more listeners for November.

Sherry is on the verge of going to a divorce lawyer and is afraid. Amanda has a stressful situation that has caused her husband to separate from her and use her as an emotional punching bag. And Tamara has a husband seeking affirmation that she feels she can’t give him.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how to handle any fear you have about divorcing, separation-causing situations that have you feeling stuck between a rock and a hard place, and unrealized fears from a previous relationship that can give you a sense of deja vu. I’ll also reveal why being asked to do what doesn’t come naturally to you doesn’t have to derail your relationship.

1:01 - Why you should see multiple attorneys if you’re moving toward divorce

6:13 - Helping Sherry navigate through her fear (and how I did it after the breakup of my first marriage)

12:21 - Why Amanda’s husband decided to separate from her

16:30 - Should Amanda completely close the book on her relationship?

18:51 - How Tamara’s unhealed wound from her first marriage is affecting her current relationship

22:30 - How I got through a similar situation and the opportunity Tamara has in front of her right now

26:21 - What’s really behind Tamara’s reluctance to speak her husband’s love language and how she can resolve it

Mentioned In Fearing Divorce, Stressful Separation Point, and Love Language Trepidation

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Do you trust your partner? Even when we say no, we often don’t consider exactly what it is we don’t trust about them.

This goes beyond cheating, by the way, which is what most people automatically think of when it comes to trust in a marriage. Having a lack of trust anywhere in a relationship creates disappointment, disconnection, and a lack of intimacy with your spouse.

What areas of your marriage do you need to reconsider when it comes to trust? And how do you resolve it when you find that there’s mistrust?

In this episode of The Loving Truth, you’ll learn about the different types of trust to consider inside your relationship. I’ll give you examples of how these mistrustful issues can affect your marriage and teach you what you can do about it.

00:46 - Why trust is important inside of relationships

4:53 - The biggest type of trust issue I see in my community

7:16 - How lack of physical trust doesn’t always show up as physical abuse

9:03 - The third type of trust that can erode your relationship

10:21 - An area of trust to keep an eye on even if you’re in the process of divorcing

12:43 - Other areas to look at and uncover any trust issues

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You’d think if our society failed at something 40-50% of the time, we’d probably be doing everything we could to solve the problem...

Yet, we don’t do that with the institution of marriage, which sees that rate of divorce among first-timers (it’s even worse for second and third marriages). Instead, we assume our partner is the problem; therefore, the solution is just getting out of the relationship.

But we still take ourselves with us to the next relationship. What we really need to do is change the ways we approach marriage itself.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn five ways to upgrade your marriage. I’ll also teach you three big reasons why people as a society tend to give up on their relationships and contribute to this thrashing of the institution.

1:56 - Three significant ingredients that can cause people to give up on their marriages

6:39 - The first perspective to help you be more conscious and much happier inside your relationships

11:41 - Expecting and embracing lots of changes in your marriage

13:42 - Why it takes a village to exist in relationships with people

17:00 - Why owning your shit is essential for a healthy relationship

18:28 - The last upgrade that leads to more ease and connection in your marriage

23:18 - How you can start implementing these upgrades

Mentioned In Five Ways to Upgrade Your Marriage for More Relationship Success

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regretby Sharon Pope

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You’ll find stuff that scares the crap out of you as a parent, if you search Google on the impact of divorce on kids. And while it’s not wrong, it’s not the full story either.

There’s something missing from statistics that show the effects of parents divorcing on their children. How you and your husband go through the process is really what’s critical to their emotional well-being.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how the way you go through the divorce process can affect your kids and their relationship with you and your soon-to-be ex. I’ll also reveal some tools that provide better options to help them understand and accept what’s happening.

3:05 - Examples of the downstream impact of how you divorce

10:32 - The destructive impact of sharing intimate details of your marriage with your children (even if they’re adults now)

12:46 - Examples of better ways to handle divorcing so that it doesn’t cause your kids to suffer

15:39 - How to talk (and listen) to your kids when going through a divorce

20:12 - Why it’s okay for your children to see you struggle (and where it gets unhealthy)

21:09 - One last practical thing to help your kids get through their parent’s divorce

Mentioned In The Missing Piece to the Research on the Impact of Divorce on Your Kids

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Do you cringe at the thought of sex with your husband? Do you even recoil from his intimate touch?

After helping sooo many women in my work, I can count on one hand the number of women contemplating divorce who still enjoy sex with their spouse. But how do we get from “til death do us part” and the honeymoon night to moving away when he reaches for you for some intimacy?

While there are several reasons why you might be avoiding sex with your partner, in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll focus on one specific reason. You’ll also learn how to stop getting in your own way and take things into your own hands (so to speak) regarding sex.

1:28 - Some things that can lead to not wanting sex with your husband

2:53 - The myth about men and sex and what’s necessary for women to be into sex

4:44 - What you can’t be doing when you’re trying to orgasm

6:10 - Why you shouldn’t leave him in charge of sex all the time

8:33 - Advocacy for yourself and what you shouldn’t make a lack of craving sex say about you

Mentioned In Why You REALLY Don’t Want to Have Sex With Your Husband (& How to Fix It)

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Infidelity involving a husband and his wife’s sisters, a hesitation to leave Mr. (Fake) Nice Guy behind, and a curious question about vibrators, oh my! These are the circumstances involved in the relationship questions I answer on today’s show.

You’ll hear from Sylvia, Sarah, and Kim in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast. You’ll learn about moving forward after a triple betrayal involving siblings, the fear behind the hesitation to leave even after things seem to have changed for the better, and the need to listen to your inner voice over others when making decisions about your marriage. In the process, I’ll also teach you what forgiving others is really all about.

0:55 - How to end trauma when your sisters had an affair with your husband

7:37 - Rebuilding trust and friendship after a triple betrayal: is it possible for Sylvia?

13:34 - What’s really causing Sarah to question whether or not she should leave her husband

18:55 - An opportunity to teach your kids even deeper lessons

25:03 - My hunch about the real reason why Kim chose to ask a relationship expert about vibrators

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Mentioned In The Real Point of Forgiveness, Honoring Yourself, and Other Questions Answered

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Are you trying to remain in your relationship after an affair but fear that it’s going to happen again?

Whether it was you who cheated on your partner or vice versa, you need to understand the reasons behind it. Otherwise, the relationship will never heal, the trust will remain eroded, and you might just find yourself back in the same situation.

So in this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about the possible motivating factors behind infidelity. I’ll also reveal how you can best prevent it from happening again.

2:30 - Three general reasons why people cheat on their partner

6:56 - Two other reasons why people in a bad marriage may have an affair

9:30 - Why you need to get introspective about your cheating and write it down

11:18 - Three journaling prompts to help you understand what’s going on inside of you

15:23 - An example showing why getting to the bottom of the cheating is important for you and your spouse

Mentioned In Understanding the Reasons Why You Cheated (or Got Cheated On)

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Things were different then.

When you first met your spouse, you were looking for a certain something. Now that you’re years (perhaps even decades) into your marriage, that search has evolved into something else.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn about how what you’ve sought from your relationship has changed since its beginning. I’ll also teach you why this unfolding process can sometimes lead to looking for something outside of your relationship (in the form of an affair).

0:27 - What you’re really looking for at the beginning of a relationship

1:52 - How your relationships resemble Maslow’s hierarchy of needs

5:47 - What we reach for next in a relationship once we have what we want (and why it isn’t wrong)

9:28 - Can your relationship evolve into this?

Mentioned In What You Wanted Since the Beginning of Your Marriage Has Changed

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In the coaching world, some ideas can seem a little out there. For example, the idea of creating a conscious relationship may feel a little airy fairy to you.

I mean, it sounds like a good idea. But what exactly does it mean? What does a more conscious relationship look like, and how do you create one?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn what it takes to create a more conscious relationship. I’ll show you what it looks like to be a more conscious partner with examples of how it benefits your marriage.

1:04 - Defining the word conscious and what it means as far as your relationship

2:49 - How to become a conscious watcher of your relationship

5:49 - The piece that makes you easier to be in a relationship with

9:40 - The unpleasant (on the surface) piece that offers you an opportunity

12:19 - Ways in which growth can appear in a conscious relationship (and a quick recap of the three pieces)

Mentioned In Three Pieces You Need to Create a More Conscious Relationship

Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regretby Sharon Pope

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It’s that time again! In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, I’m doing another Q&A about your greatest relationship challenges. And today, you’ll hear my answers to the following voicemail questions from an anonymous caller and Jennifer:

Is it normal to want to know all the details of my husband’s affair in order to process and get over it? Am I wrong to want to leave my husband of 23 years (who I’m still with out of guilt) so I can find love and be happy again someday?

In the process, you’ll learn what you’re actually looking for when you want to know all the details about an affair (and why you should be careful what you ask for), the line you don’t want to cross to remain in a relationship, and why asking if you’re right or wrong to end your marriage doesn’t have a wrong answer.

I’ll also reveal the danger of over-functioning for other people in your life and why you shouldn’t concern yourself with what others think about the ending of your relationship.

1:00 - Why wanting to know all the details about an affair is a form of self-abuse

5:43 - Why it can be difficult to get past the details once you know them

9:53 - The choice between placing your focus on feeling good or heaping on more trauma

14:16 - Unpacking several things in Jennifer’s multifaceted question

22:02 - How Jennifer can ease the guilt she feels about ending her marriage and what she can expect going forward with a divorce

26:13 - The best and healthiest thing Jennifer can do for her and her husband’s 21-year-old child

Mentioned In The Dangers of Over Functioning & More of Your Relationship Questions

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Are your conversations with your husband stale, awkward, or practically non-existent these days? Maybe you talk about the same things over and over because it’s “safe,” or you’ve just gotten stuck in a routine.

Regardless, you no longer feel as close to him as you used to. So, how do you get back to having normal, interesting discussions after work, on the couch, around the dinner table...or on a date?

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn why the interest has fizzled out when you try to talk to your spouse, why you need to show interest in each other’s interests, and how to put some pizzazz back in your conversations. I’ll also share a few questions you can use as starters to help re-spark curiosity in each other and your marriage.

1:02 - Two reasons why you might struggle to feel close when speaking with your spouse

3:33 - The perspective that keeps curiosity intact in a long-term relationship

5:36 - Why you shy away from talking about the bad stuff (and why you shouldn’t)

7:58 - Two reasons why you’ll want to show interest in what your partner is interested in, even if you don’t share it

12:49 - Questions to help normalize conversation between you and your spouse when it starts to wane

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“We need to talk.” Do those four dreaded words sound familiar? They usually lead to defensive feelings and another argument with your spouse.

But you two have been stuck in limbo for a while now. You really need to sit down and have that difficult conversation you may have been putting off about moving forward (or not) in your marriage.

So, how do you approach this much-needed conversation without it turning into the same old argument? The key is asking the right questions--for yourself and your partner.

In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn how to generate information beyond just the surface level of your relationship when you need to talk, whether you decide to stay together or call it quits. I’ll give you questions to ask yourself and your partner so you can get better-quality answers that’ll actually help you make better decisions about your marriage.

3:14 - Why you need to be aware of the quality of the questions you ask your spouse

9:17 - How to change the way you show up in a difficult conversation with your partner

13:08 - Questions to ask yourself (before the conversation) and your spouse (during the conversation)

16:16 - Asking more generative questions to move the process forward (whether you stay or go)

20:38 - Better questions to ask if you’re trying to make your marriage work but aren’t optimistic about your chances

26:07 - Better questions to ask if you’ve decided to end your marriage

29:51 - The difference between investigative versus detective questions

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If you’ve been with someone for a while, you have certain ways you typically engage with one another. While some of these patterns of engagement are helpful and work for you, others can be destructive.

Having the same destructive patterns re-occur creates greater disconnection and dysfunction in your relationship. Once you are aware of them, though, you can change them.

But how do you become aware of and change a destructive pattern in your marriage? There’s one I see all the time, and it’s triggered by what I call “the four dreaded words.”
In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll find out the words and the pattern, why it happens, and how you can disrupt it and create a new, healthier pattern between you and your partner.

1:45 - The destructive pattern I see every day triggered by these four words
4:42 - What you need to do to break this pattern and receive what you want
7:46 - How you can disrupt this destructive pattern and create a better one
9:40 - Why it isn’t necessary for both of you to be working together to change the pattern
11:52 - An alternative if it feels too scary to do this with your partner right now

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You’ve seen those TV or radio shows with experts taking calls, right? They answer questions from people about their financial issues, parenting problems, and other topics.

Today, for the first time, I’m doing my own version of that and taking calls to answer your questions about your greatest relationship challenges. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn the answers to the following questions from Betsy, Karen, and Julie:

After a betrayal, when can you feel like you’ve asked enough questions of him and feel well enough to move forward?

Why can you have a hard time accepting your husband’s love (after unfaithfulness on your part), and how can you fix the situation?

How do you get past the guilt of moving on from a relationship (even if it was a toxic, abusive one)?

1:57 - The difference between helpful and unhelpful questions to ask after infidelity

3:56 - Why the “why” question is so important for you to understand

7:59 - Why moving on from an affair takes longer than you think

11:13 - Why an affair is like a drug

14:45 - How do your thoughts create your feelings about your marriage

19:29 - Why you might find it difficult to move past the guilt of leaving a long-term relationship

Mentioned In Q&A: Answering Some of Your Greatest Relationship Challenges

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Stay or Go? How to Find Confidence and Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, or Move Forward Without Regretby Sharon Pope

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Marriage is forever...or so you’ve been taught.

You can change (or end) other things like jobs and even other relationships, but marriage is “sacred.” And because you’ve been indoctrinated with this, the notion of ending your marriage can carry all kinds of bad feelings--sadness, guilt, feelings of failure, and so on.

But what if you accepted the idea that relationships are meant to be impermanent? In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, we’ll dive a little deeper into this indoctrination (specifically regarding your decision to stay or leave) and why there might be an impermanence to your decision to stay.

1:40 - Why this one person hasn’t made a decision about her marriage yet

4:20 - The impermanence of making the decision to stay married

6:06 - The nature of relationships

8:09 - Owning the choice you make

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You’ve made the decision to divorce your spouse. Perhaps you’ve already had the first difficult conversation about it.

But then...you get stuck. You stall and don’t file the papers. This can last for weeks, months, or even years!

People tend to think getting a divorce is a straight-lined process. And when they discover it isn’t and go into stall mode, they can beat themselves up over it.

It’s not uncommon to get stuck in the divorce process, though, and there are a couple of places that make it easy to do so. In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll learn where you might stall, why you might not be moving on with the divorce you say you want, and how to get yourself unstuck to proceed forward.

1:21 - Places where the divorcing process can break down

6:15 - The tricky in-between period of life called separation and what to do about it

11:24 - My theory for the biggest reason why we get stuck (and how to get unstuck)

15:25 - The question to ask yourself if you’re not taking the next step toward the divorce you want

18:04 - The Rings of Fire and Peace and two things to help you move through the divorce process

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“Why isn’t my husband invested in making our marriage feel good? Why is it always on me?”

This is something I hear from women all the time! It’s something I’ve asked myself.

In this episode, I’ll decipher this very real phenomenon and explore ways you can work to change this dynamic in your own marriage.

Be prepared to dive deep… We’re going to consider the very real foundations of society’s unequal expectations for men and women (and what we’re willing to do about it!)

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

2 reasons women are more invested in relationships than men
Why you cannot avoid this conversation around expectations
Why your man SHOULD change… (and why you should, too)

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From the outside, Mary had the perfect life: She was a successful mother, wife, and college professor. But from the inside, Mary felt lonely and disconnected in her marriage.

When her affair started, Mary thought, “This is it! This is the answer. I have to leave my husband for this man… because this is what makes me feel alive!”

But I say, “Not so fast!” It’s not so simple. (It’s not that easy.)

In this episode, we’ll discover the real reason an affair can make you feel alive, why it might not be the “simple” solution you imagine, and what to consider instead.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

How to develop your “essential self” (before it’s too late)
How to get out of the realm of “duty” and into the realm of “desire”
Why your affair isn’t the ANSWER (but how it can lead to your next step)

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I regularly share Cold Hard Truths with my clients (and on this podcast!) But in this episode, I’m sharing one of THE most important ones you need to know.

Even if it’s not something you WANT to know… Even if it’s not something you’ll WELCOME with open arms…

Listen in to learn the Cold Hard Truth that’s vital to understand for couples and people in long-term relationships.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode:

The most important Cold Hard Truth that can (and will) alter your relationship
4 ways this Truth plays out, particularly for couples
How this Truth can open the way for peace & joy

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Arguments between partners are completely normal, even necessary within intimate relationships. If you’re not arguing (at least occasionally!) you’re not talking about the important stuff.

The problem is NOT that we argue with our partners... the problem is that we never learned how to argue.

If you’re in a committed relationship, you’re going to experience disagreements and arguments. This episode will teach you how to have them.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * 5 strategies to help you “fight fair” * How to get your partner’s attention (without yelling) * How to remain on the same team… even when you’re arguing

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Relationships are a core priority (particularly for women), which is why disconnection from our most intimate partner leads to so many problems.

Disconnection leads to resentment leads to blame and opposition.

How can you rebuild the connection… when you’ve got one foot out the door?

In this episode, I’ll explain what it takes. You’ll walk away knowing the 5 most common things that only make things worse… plus a handful of tools that can open the door to reconnecting with your partner.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why you need to STOP waiting for your partner to solve the problem * What to do before disconnection becomes resentment * How to take the lead and reconnect with your partner

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Making the choice to leave your marriage takes a very long time. You try and try again.

When one person finally makes the decision to leave and the other person claims to have been “blindsided”… can that really be true?

In this episode I’ll answer the question, “Were you blindsided… or were you just blind?” (Thank you to Kelsea Ballerini’s Blindsided lyrics for this episode’s title inspiration!)

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * The difference between being “blindsided” and being in denial * Why “confusion” is actually just an indulgence you can’t afford * Why claiming to be blindsided only makes things harder (for both of you)

Mentioned On The Show: Blindsided by Kelsea Ballerini

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This episode is especially for those of you who have already made the decision to leave your marriage or relationship… but feel wobbly in the execution.

This is important: Your partner doesn’t have to understand or agree with your reasons for leaving.

Yes, the emotional unwinding of your relationship will be difficult, but that’s not a “good enough” reason to invalidate your own pain… to remain compassionate to his.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through the reasons why literally NO ONE needs to understand or agree with your decision to leave.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why “falling in love” makes you ditch critical thinking completely * Why you overlook the “red flags” with your affair partner * What your affair relationship can teach you about what you really need

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What happens to your brain when you’re falling in love (and into an affair relationship) is the same thing that happens to your brain on drugs.

The good news is: You’re NOT addicted to your affair partner. You’re addicted to the feeling of falling in love.

In this episode, I’ll explain why that matters and what to do about it!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why “falling in love” makes you ditch critical thinking completely * Why you overlook the “red flags” with your affair partner * What your affair relationship can teach you about what you really need

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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Understanding the opposite sex can be difficult, but ONLY because we don’t know the science behind our natural (and vital!) differences.

Yes, men and women are scientifically different. Like it or not: That’s the reality.

We can keep pushing against this (and fighting miscommunication with endless conflict…) OR, we can accept and appreciate it. In this episode, I’ll explain how!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * 5 ways men & women are scientifically different * Why women have a higher negative reaction to conflict * How men don’t really connect through verbal communication

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Married men are being called to “awaken” inside relationships in a way that hasn’t happened before. That’s a very good thing!

And yet, rates of divorce (and the number of affairs) remain as high as ever.

In this episode, I’ll explain why I think this is happening, PLUS what we can do about it.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why men are being called to AWAKEN inside marriage relationships * How your over-functioning is making things worse (and how to STOP!) * The idea that completely changed the way I relate to my husband

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Are today’s women satisfied with cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the kids in exchange for protection and provision? The answer is no. It is clear that in today’s times, women can take care of themselves, and simply being the provider of the family is not enough to sustain a good marriage as a man.

In this episode, we will explore the question: what do women really want in a relationship? Now, ⅔ of divorces are initiated by the woman. They want a partner, not a provider. But the issue remains - men and women are different. How do we cultivate strong marriages? The answer is simple: learn to understand one another better!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * How marriage roles used to be * How marriage expectations have changed * Where we learn relationship roles from * What priority should look like in marriage * What women want now * How we can fulfill marriage expectations

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Have you had an affair and wondered if you could have a fresh start with your affair partner? Maybe you’ve seen the statistics - which aren’t helping your optimism. What does it take to make that affair relationship last? And will it be worth it in the long run?

In this episode, we will explore why people get into affairs in the first place, and what you are really looking for. The truth is, when one or both of the affair partners become 100% available, the dynamic is going to change. The question is - will it be what you’re looking for?

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why people begin affairs * What happens to the affair after the marriage ends * Who you are attracted to in an affair partner * What you need for the relationship to thrive

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Do you ever feel disconnected in your relationship, like there’s a gap between you and your spouse? Are you stuck repeating boring conversations about work, the kids, and the weather without any real connection? If so, you’re not alone - and the solution may be the opposite of what you think.

Here’s the key: complaining does not work on men. Women understand that language, but most of the time, men struggle with knowing what to do with that information. Instead, the gap that you’re feeling is the love that you’re not giving. What do I mean by that? Find out in today’s episode!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What is the gap? * Why doesn’t complaining work? * How to identify the love you’re not giving * How to bridge the gap * How to communicate about connection * How to foster continued connection

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Have you heard that date night solves everything, nothing should feel awkward after you’re married, or you should never argue with your spouse? If you have, you’re not alone! Despite being well-meaning, people often perpetuate 7 relationship myths that aren’t true for some - if not most - relationships. But the question remains - what does work when you’ve hit a rough patch?

The truth is, most solutions are not one-size-fits-all. In fact, in this episode, we will explore some of the unlikely truths of relationships, including the deeper meaning of date night, the awkwardness of long relationships, and the benefits of “arguing” with your spouse. Let’s dive in!

If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost for your spouse, and you’re serious about putting an end to feeling stuck, lost, and alone… I’ve written a book just for you. It’s called Stay Or Go: How To Find Confidence And Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, Or Move Forward Without Regret. The approach I share in this bestselling book has already worked for thousands of women struggling in lonely, disconnected marriages, and I’m confident that it will work for you, too. If you don’t want to spend another day stuck in indecision, get your copy of Stay Or Go now.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Date night doesn’t fix everything * How to go deeper * Awkwardness lasts after marriage * How to claim the awkward * Never arguing is unhealthy * How to talk about what really matters

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Does your partner ever say, “my love for you will never change”? Doesn’t that feel terribly romantic? However, unfortunately, this phrase, along with a few others, can be a sign of unhealth in your marriage, pointing to bigger problems around priorities and how you consider your spouse.

In this episode, I explore three phrases that can be signs of marriage unhealth and explain why they unnecessarily place your spouse as the linchpin that holds your life together. Our spouses are of course incredibly important and should be priorities in our lives, but to not expect them and other aspects of our lives to change is setting us up for failure. Learn how to avoid these three pitfalls with me!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why ‘my love for you will never change’ is unhealthy * How people change in relationships * Why ‘I should always be your greatest priority’ is unhealthy * What priority should look like in marriage * Why ‘I can’t live without you’ is unhealthy * How to practice emotional regulation in love

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Are you a driven, type-A, get-things-done kind of woman? So am I, and I have found that, although these masculine qualities serve me well in my career and other areas of my life, I often find it hard to tap into my essential feminine side in my relationship. Whether you are the alpha or beta partner in your marriage, you have to learn to turn your masculine-feminine dials for optimum pleasure and success in your relationship.

In this episode, I will talk about the struggles of being all alpha in our relationships and what we are often missing out on. Every person is both masculine and feminine, and you are in control of those levels. There is no right or wrong way to be, but in this episode, we will explore what could bring our relationship the most life!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * If you are the alpha or beta partner * How you are in charge of your masculinity/femininity * Which partners people tend to choose * How to optimize pleasure and personality * What tips to try to lean into your feminine side

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Do you feel as if the spark has gone out in your marriage? Do you wonder where that magical attraction you initially felt disappeared to? Well, here’s the secret - there was never any “magic” outside your control. You can bring that spark back to your marriage today.

In this episode, I explore what makes a relationship feel “magical” and how you can keep that dopamine and excitement flowing in your marriage. We will talk about focusing your attention on your spouse and how familiarity suppresses desire. The solution is simpler than you may think.

Want more help rekindling the “spark” in your marriage - or determining whether it’s possible at all? Click here to sign up for my free on-demand training, Living Like Roommates, where we’ll dive deep into what’s caused the distance in your relationship so you can understand how to move forward in a new direction.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What the “magic” truly is * Why you are in control of the “magic” * How familiarity suppresses desire * How to cultivate dopamine in your marriage * How to “mix it up” and spark interest * How to fill our own tanks

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Even in faithful relationships, we still betray each other day in and out, even if we don’t call it a betrayal. How is that so? Well, betrayal can come in a variety of different forms, including any breach of trust. So how do you rebuild that trust?

In this episode, I will explain how we betray one another in our most intimate relationships and what contributes to continued breaches of trust. We will talk about how forgiveness is not enough for healing betrayal and learn how to unwind that hurt into a safe, healthy relationship once again.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Kinds of betrayals * How hurt can layer * Forgiveness versus healing * How to unwind pain * How to rebuild trust * The timeline for healing

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So your partner had an affair. What do you do now? Whether an emotional or physical betrayal, any loss of trust is a big deal, and many partners find themselves desperately monitoring their spouse’s every move and venting to their friends and family. But the question remains - if you want to make the marriage work, how are you going to rebuild that trust?

In this episode, I will explain how micromanaging your partner after they have cheated may make you feel safer but absolutely does not fix the damage done to your relationship in the long run. Even if your partner is apologizing beautifully and doing all the right things, it is hard to feel safe again after you’ve been betrayed, and you’ll have to learn how to take your power back in order to get there.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why you micromanage after a loss of trust * How to discover what you really want * What not to do after discovering your partner cheated * How to understand your spouse’s autonomy * How to take your power back in the relationship

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In any controlling relationship, there are two contributors, whether you realize it or not - the controller and the receiver. Most of us wouldn’t admit to being controlling, but almost everyone has controlling tendencies. Think about it - we all want to feel safe. And in order to diminish our fear, we often resort to controlling our partner. But do you truly want to control your spouse, or would you rather be involved in an equal partnership?

In this episode, I will dive into why we end up being controlling in our marriages, exploring both sides of the control experience. Understanding the emotions motivating your control or your inability to speak up will revolutionize your understanding of your relationship. I will explain how you can begin to foster trust and partnership with your spouse instead of leaning on control’s crutch.

If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost for your spouse, and you’re serious about putting an end to feeling stuck, lost, and alone… I’ve written a book just for you. It’s called Stay Or Go: How To Find Confidence And Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, Or Move Forward Without Regret. The approach I share in this bestselling book has already worked for thousands of women struggling in lonely, disconnected marriages, and I’m confident that it will work for you, too. If you don’t want to spend another day stuck in indecision, get your copy of Stay Or Go now.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why people are controlling in marriages * How fear motivates control and the receiving of control * Why control is not only a male issue * How control can show up in a marriage * Why you don’t truly want control in your relationship * How to start building true trust with your partner

Featured On The Show: * Can’t decide how to move forward in your marriage? Grab a copy of my bestselling book, Stay Or Go. * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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If your marriage has become disconnected and lonely, you may yearn for “a return to fine,” even knowing, deep down, that isn’t enough. Even when pain is pushing you toward a place of transformation in your relationship, it may feel easier to simply let it all go, releasing that tension. But is that truly what you want?

In this episode, I will share with you how fear factors into our relationship hesitation and how to combat it with purposeful, actionable steps to start steering toward a life you want to live, whether that’s in your marriage or out of it. You will discover how to do the hard things and stop denying the desires of your heart.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Avoiding “a return to fine.” * Recognizing when you’re playing it safe * Utilizing the catalyst for relationship growth * Finding your reason to stay * Setting honest and determined intentions * Leaning into life-changing discomfort

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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When you’re trying to decide whether to stay or go in a loveless marriage, fear can be paralyzing - fear that you’ll hurt your husband, fear that you’ll end up in an even more painful situation, fear that you’ll make the wrong decision and regret it.

In this episode, I teach you how to get the missing information you need to make the right decision about your marriage - one you’re completely confident you won’t regret. You’ll learn how to overcome your fears so you can break free from this place of confusion and heartbreak and finally take real steps toward happiness.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What paralyzes us from deciding whether to stay or go in a loveless marriage * If you’re stuck in indecision, it’s probably because you’re missing this one thing… here’s how to get it * The truth about the fear you’re facing (and how to take action despite it, even if you can’t get rid of it) * What being “ready” to make a decision about your marriage actually feels like * Just how many people struggle with indecision (including real numbers from my clientele) (trust me… you’re NOT alone!)

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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In many cases, it’s not until the husband is faced with divorce that he’ll begin making the changes his wife has requested for years. But as the wife, how can you tell whether these changes are genuine? Is it safe to assume this is your “new normal,” or will he revert back to his old ways as soon as you take divorce off the table?

In this episode, I explain why this phenomenon is so common in marriages and what to do when you’re faced with it. You’ll learn how to tell whether the changes your husband is making are permanent so you can confidently make your final decision of whether to stay or go.

If you’ve lost hope in your marriage and know that it’s time to leave, but you feel too scared, lost, or overwhelmed to take action… sign up for my free on-demand training, Undoing I Do. In this 60-minute class, I’ll give practical advice on how to process the emotions holding you back so you can confidently take steps toward your new happiness.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What most men do after their spouse asks for a divorce (even if they’ve been “checked out” for years) * How to tell if the changes your spouse is making will last * What emotions might arise after you tell your spouse it’s over (and how to stay true to your wants and needs)

Featured On The Show: * Know that it’s time to leave but not sure how? Sign up for my free on-demand training, Undoing I Do. * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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Making the decision to end your marriage is a journey of its own… but breaching the subject to your spouse is a whole different story. How do you tell your husband - someone you likely still care deeply for, the father of your children, whose life has been intertwined with yours for years or decades - that it’s over?

In this episode, I’ll guide you through how to have this difficult conversation with your spouse so you can finally start moving forward towards happiness. You’ll learn how to meet your husband where he’s at so he can come to understand and accept your decision, even if divorce was the last thing on his mind. You’ll also learn how to map out exactly what to say ahead of time so you can set the stage for a peaceful separation.

If you’ve lost hope in your marriage and know that it’s time to leave, but you feel too scared, lost, or overwhelmed to take action… sign up for my free on-demand training, Undoing I Do. In this 60-minute class, I’ll give practical advice on how to process the emotions holding you back so you can confidently take steps toward your new happiness.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why waiting for a big argument isn’t a good solution to end the marriage (even if it seems like an easier path) * The key to peacefully ending a marriage without hurting your kids (no matter what age they are) * What’s likely to happen a few days after you ask for a divorce (and how to navigate it) * How to honor your husband’s feelings and come to a resolution everyone can make peace with (even if your announcement is a total shock to him) * How to tell your spouse it’s over in just 3-5 sentences

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When women reach out to me about their affair, they’re often experiencing a whirlwind of emotions: adoration for their new partner, guilt over their spouse’s feelings, and, above all else, utter confusion about how to move forward. For reasons unbeknownst to them, they can’t bring themselves to let go of their marriage, yet ending the affair feels impossible - and maybe they’ve even tried and failed several times before.

“Where do I go from here?” they ask me. “Will I be stuck in this spot forever?”

In this judgment-free episode, I explain what causes decision paralysis in relationships and why more and more modern women are seeking affair partners. Then, I’ll walk you through a 3-step process to decide exactly what you want, whether or not it’s possible to achieve it, and how you can start moving forward toward happiness.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What I say to women who are having an affair and don’t know how to stop (hint: it’s not judgment, and it’s not “just end it already!”) * The real reasons it feels impossible to leave your marriage, even when you’re having an affair * Why things can never go back to “the way they were” pre-affair (and why that’s okay) * How to stop giving your power away (and create a healthy future for yourself, with or without your husband or affair partner) * 3 steps to get 100% clear on what you want (and create a realistic path to long-term happiness)

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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Until the 1970s, women couldn’t file for divorce without hard evidence of abuse or infidelity. Today, divorce rates are skyrocketing - and it’s the women who are leaving in droves.

In this episode, I explain what’s caused this massive shift in modern relationship dynamics. I also explore the biological differences between men and women and what causes imbalanced marriage satisfaction over the years.

If you’ve ever wondered how your husband seems “fine” while you’re falling apart... don’t miss this special episode of The Loving Truth podcast.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * The massive shifts that are affecting today’s relationships (and causing most marriages to be ended by the woman) * The differences in how men and women find life satisfaction (and how this impacts relationship dynamics) * Why relationship coaches (including myself) primarily speak to women, not men * How today’s relationships differ from those of even one generation ago (and the resulting resentments we need to watch out for) * Why women struggle to get the connection they want in marriage (even if their husbands genuinely want to appease them)

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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You might’ve thought that 20 years into your marriage, you’d have it all figured out… but that’s rarely the case. In fact, the divorce rate for couples aged 50+ is skyrocketing, and it’s the women who are serving the papers.

In this episode, I explore why that is and what makes relationships falter after decades spent together. You’ll learn about new challenges to anticipate in a mature marriage and how to navigate conflicting desires and goals with your partner. I’ll also share 5 warning signs that your marriage is in trouble so you can get out ahead of snowballing issues and give your relationship the best shot possible.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why two-thirds of divorces between couples aged 50+ are instigated by the woman * The unique struggles we face in mature marriages (even if the early days went well) * 5 warning signs that your marriage is in trouble (and what to do about it) * Why many men and women are misaligned in their goals & energy levels after the kids move out * How to renegotiate what the second half of your marriage looks like

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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Most couples acknowledge the concept of “emotional infidelity,” but what does it actually mean? Flirting? Exchanging provocative photos? Sharing intimate life details that create deeper feelings?

In this episode, I’ll show you two ways to define emotional infidelity so you and your partner are both crystal clear on expectations. I also explore why emotional affairs happen (even to people who never expected themselves to cheat) and how you can avoid infidelity, either by yourself or your spouse, in the future.

Want more help rekindling the “spark” in your marriage - or determining whether it’s possible at all? Click here to sign up for my free on-demand training, Living Like Roommates, where we’ll dive deep into what’s caused the distance in your relationship so you can understand how to move forward in a new direction.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What constitutes an emotional affair * How unsuspecting women become involved in affairs (even when they used to judge others for it) * Why affair partners are typically the opposite of your current partner * 2 ways to reduce the likelihood of emotional infidelity in your marriage * How to create your own definition of infidelity with your partner

Featured On The Show: * Sign up for my free Living Like Roommates training * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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It’s well known that first marriages end at a rate of 40-50%. But why do second marriages end at a rate of 67% and third marriages at 73% - despite the extra relationship experience accumulated?

In this episode, I explore what we take with us from relationship to relationship and how responsibility is shared in divorce. I also share ways to heal yourself and shift your “background music behaviors” so you can find success in future relationships, whether you stay where you are or seek happiness elsewhere.

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * Why the divorce rate rises with second, third, and fourth marriages * 3 common concerns of women facing their second divorce * How to determine who’s really responsible for a marriage ending * Why trying to find someone who “makes you feel the way you want to feel” is an unproductive goal (and what to do instead) * How to heal yourself (regardless of whether you stay in or leave your marriage)

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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In times of desperation, it’s something we ask everyone around us - friends, family, even the internet… “Is my marriage over?”

Unfortunately, as you may have found, getting outside opinions on your marriage will never lead to your own answer. In this episode, I’ll share the one path that will consistently bring you to a place of clarity so you can determine whether it’s time to reinvest in your marriage or lovingly leave it.

If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost for your spouse, and you’re serious about putting an end to feeling stuck, lost, and alone… I’ve written a book just for you. It’s called Stay Or Go: How To Find Confidence And Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, Or Move Forward Without Regret. The approach I share in this bestselling book has already worked for thousands of women struggling in lonely, disconnected marriages, and I’m confident that it will work for you, too. If you don’t want to spend another day stuck in indecision, get your copy of Stay Or Go now.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * The one path that will consistently help you find clarity about your marriage * Why asking friends, family, and the internet won’t lead you to your answer * What to do if your spouse wants to give up on the marriage, but you don’t

Featured On The Show: * Can’t decide how to move forward in your marriage? Grab a copy of my bestselling book, Stay Or Go. * Want even more tools to improve communication in your marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube

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Are you and your partner living like roommates? Do you have love for your spouse, but you’re not IN love with him? Do all of your interactions revolve around logistics - kids, running a household, work, etc.?

Like anything worth having, marriages will suffer from disrepair over time if we neglect them. And if we don’t make quick moves to change things, we could lose our chance to restore the connection we once had.

In this episode, I explore what a disconnected marriage is, how we get there, and whether or not change is possible. Best of all, you’ll get a special tool you use right away to start alleviating resentment and closing the gap between you and your partner.

Want more help rekindling the “spark” in your marriage - or determining whether it’s possible at all? Click here to sign up for my free on-demand training, Living Like Roommates, where we’ll dive deep into what’s caused the distance in your relationship so you can understand how to move forward in a new direction.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What constitutes a “disconnected marriage” * A common warning sign that you’re growing apart from your spouse * How & why we become disconnected over the years * How to determine whether change is possible for your marriage * The very first thing you should do if you want to reconnect with your spouse (no, it’s not gazing into his eyes for 20 seconds every day… in fact, it doesn’t require his involvement at all!)

Featured On The Show: * Sign up for my free Living Like Roommates training * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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When their concerns are brushed off, women often give up trying to fix the marriage, leaving them dissatisfied for years on end… and leaving men completely blindsided when faced with divorce papers.

The truth is, in most relationships, both parties could be doing more to give the marriage a fair shot. And if we don’t make critical changes sooner rather than later, the decision of whether to stay or go could be made for us.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to improve communication on both sides and use honest, open dialogue to get everyone’s needs met - before the marriage is past saving.

If you’re questioning whether you can recover the feelings you’ve lost for your spouse, and you’re serious about putting an end to feeling stuck, lost, and alone… I’ve written a book just for you. It’s called Stay Or Go: How To Find Confidence And Clarity So You Can Fix Your Marriage, Or Move Forward Without Regret. The approach I share in this bestselling book has already worked for thousands of women struggling in lonely, disconnected marriages, and I’m confident that it will work for you, too. If you don’t want to spend another day stuck in indecision, get your copy of Stay Or Go now.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * My biggest regret about how my first marriage ended (and how you can avoid this for yourself) * What happens when the small “give-ups” in a marriage pile up * Why I discourage women from working with me in secret * How you might accidentally be putting your spouse at a huge disadvantage (and not giving your marriage a full shot) * Why men suddenly want to change when divorce papers are served (and how to open up this potential before the marriage is over)

Featured On The Show: * Can’t decide how to move forward in your marriage? Grab a copy of my bestselling book, Stay Or Go. * Want even more tools to improve communication in your marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube

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Society will tell you that marriage is the finish line… but in reality, it’s just the beginning. Too many of today’s marriages suffer from neglect (and, in turn, disconnection) because we place our marriages on a shelf, expecting them to last through the ages without proper attention and care.

In this episode, I share some of my best practices for regular relationship “upkeep” to repair and maintain your bond across the decades. You might be amazed at your relationship’s potential once it’s being regularly prioritized and nurtured!

If you’re struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and you’re serious about finding that answer, book a Truth & Clarity Session with a member of my team. We’ll discuss where you are in your marriage and explore if there’s a fit for you and I to work together so you can make - and execute - the RIGHT decision for YOU and your marriage.

What You’ll Learn In This Episode: * What happens to your marriage the moment you “put it on a shelf” * How to add structure & process to your marriage (this may not sound romantic, but it could change everything for your bond) * How to rebuild intimate connection between you and your spouse (in just 5-10 minutes a day)

Featured On The Show: * Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session * Want even more tools to navigate a disconnected marriage? Join me on social media: Facebook | Instagram | LinkedIn | YouTube * If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us.

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