Catholic Life Coach For Men: Recent Episodes
Michael Jaquith
As a modern Catholic guy, it's hard to find the balance. We know that God should come first, but what does that really mean? We know we're supposed to love our wife, but how do I do that when I'm overwhelmed by work and kids? This podcast is dedicated to those guys who really want to grow and become the man God created them to be. You'll find both practical strategies for managing life and better ways to view and engage the world. Join Life Coach Michael Jaquith and take one step closer to standing tall in the sight of the Father.
There's a lot of theories about what food is healthy to eat right now. What's even worse, it seems very likely that it may legitimately be very different for different people. How are we supposed to navigate this mess and be healthy? Join me in the next episode of Catholic Life Coach For Men as my guest Andy Felton explains his theological approach to food and diet. He creates an argument for food from a Biblical perspective. While the Biblical teachings about food and diet are nowhere near as clear as other moral areas, what is present is powerful. You can find Andy's book Nourished By Design on Amazon. Also, I'm announcing my course on Anger. It's a collection of powerful ideas and exercises that will help you regain control of your temper - and protect those you love! You can find it here: St Joseph's Way
While there's always been a wide diversity of ideas, our culture today seems particularly emotionally divided. It's hard to have a calm and constructive conversation with someone who thinks differently than you. What if these differences of though, perspective, and value were actually meant to help bring us together as people. What if they were an essential part of God's plan to find balance in a sinful world? Join me in the next episode of Catholic Life Coach For Men as I explain how political divide, at its core, is present in the Bible. It's a key part of God's salvation plan for mankind. We need to understand what's underneath these differences - and how to value them - to really connect with others who think differently. If we're willing to put in that extra work of curiosity, we can reach people's hearts. Also, I'm announcing my course on Anger. It's a collection of powerful ideas and exercises that will help you regain control of your temper - and protect those you love! You can find it here: St Joseph's Way
Have you ever noticed that women seem to be more eager to talk than men? Indeed, modern science suggests women on average use at least twice as many words in a day as men. It's one thing to know that - but as a husband, what do I do about it?
Join me in this episode as I present a simple and fun concept about how marriage communication works: the Meadow Report. If you lean into and embrace giving your wife what she needs to feel loved and supported, she's way more likely to support you as well. Furthermore, it's what Christ calls us husband to do.
Parenting is hard. It's exhausting. Though people say the years go by quickly, the days can seem to last forever... Worse yet, we know that we have a heavy responsibility to get it right! And if that wasn't enough, the entire mainstream culture seems to be opposing us as well. Join me in the next episode of Catholic Life Coach For Men as Josh Poteet and I talk about how to be a Christian father and husband. We talk about leadership, service, and humility. We talk about the amazing responsibility that God has given us as fathers, and about how to trust in Him to get the job done. You can find Josh's book and learn more about his ministry at https://parentingagainstthecurrent.com/
No matter what our origin, we all struggle to follow the will of God. Our pride gets in the way, blocking our ability to both hear and follow His plan.
The little things we do set the stage for our success in every aspect of life. The little habits and routines we do are essential.
Join me in this episode for a great discussion with my guest Jack Landry about what we need to do as Christian men to continually surrender to God. We discuss the various natural tensions that men must lean into in order to thrive. We talk about how we surrender the outcome, repeatedly.
You can learn more about Jack and go through his Morning Momentum Blueprint for free by reaching out to him on Instagram at jack.p.landry
Have you ever noticed that sometimes what your wife says she wants isn't what she actually wants? While this is true for everyone, modern women are in a particular pinch about expressing what they want from a man.
The truth is they simultaneously want a deep and powerful masculine presence from their man but are also scared of that masculinity. This can be a very confusing message to men - especially men who are not confident in their own masculinity.
The solution is for you, the man, to both lean into authentic masculinity, but to do it in a way that remains true to you, and thus "safe." This is hard, and even scary, for us men to do!
Join me in this episode as Joshn Tomeoni and I walk through this idea of authentic masculinity; how do we men find it and live it in a way that serves the women around us the best? Perhaps the most important word is "authentic" - it has to be really you. Nothing fake can endure long term.
You can read more about Josh and his work with The Derelict podcast at https://www.instagram.com/joshthederelict/
I just want what I want when I want it!
Perhaps you've thought or felt that before? I certainly have. It's actually hard work to discern how to balance when I need to care for myself and when I need to tend to the needs of others. There is no one right answer, and it's easy to fall into vice in either direction.
As we go through life, the right balance changes. We have to adapt as our lives change (perhaps another child is born) and as those around us change (perhaps our wife is sick.) How do we balance this?
Join me in this episode as I cover some basics in this balance. I talk about marriage, children, and work. I invite you to be prayerfully attentive to really understand if a passtime is restorative to you or not.
What if you have more control to improve your marriage than you currently think? What if there were real and practical steps you could do that would improve your relationship with your wife in substantially more positive ways.
While marriage is indeed hard, we are not helpless.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Matt Kutz and I break open some practical ways to connect better with your wife and improve how you communicate with her. When men lean into vulnerability, they become more strong, not less. When we lean into our masculinity, we become more attractive.
You can find out more about Dr. Matt Kutz and find his book at https://drmattkutz.com/
Lent this year has been quite a bit rougher than what I had planned on. Sometimes, living in the painful valley can be well...painful. The valleys we choose are bad enough. When we get an even tougher valley, it can be downright discouraging.
Ever wonder why Jesus retains the visible wounds after His resurrection? Yes, to a certain extent, they help prove that he was actually crucified (and not some identical twin or something.) His wounds, however, a powerful tool that He uses to build the faith of His followers then, and now.
Join me in this episode as I explore the idea that God can use wounds in a way that might look like incomplete healing, but instead to bring about something way way better than we ever thought was possible. I'll also tell you a bit about two adults and six kids who have a nasty strep infection.
We all bring a sorted and often traumatic past into our marriages. When our various backstories collide, we experience pain.
For those who are not married yet, you have the amazing opportunity to begin healing these wounds before you hurt your spouse. For those who are already married, it's even more urgent to start this work!
Join me in this episode as Dr. Dean Sunseri shares some practical advice and actions to take to begin healing yourself in whatever vocation you find yourself. He shares his story about how God brought healing into his life. Dean works with people to help find the same healing.
You cand find out more about Dean, his wife HollyKem, and their work at their website: https://www.ihaveavoice.com/
This Lent I challenge you to step up and into a mode of real sacrifice. Likely you (and most men) have something you know you really need to give up but are to scared. I invite you to make this Lent something different.
Don't just give up chocolate. Change your life, forever.
Join me in this episode as I discuss what I'm doing for Lent, and I challenge you to do the same!
God is always pursuing us. Sometimes, however, it takes a pretty strong thump to get our attention.
What's interesting is what else changes after God finally reaches us. The world may look like a totally different place.
Join me in this episode as Sig Muller describes his (medical) death and recovery. His perspective on life and the faith is forever changed because of those events. He rediscovered his Catholic faith in a new and powerful way.
You can read more about Sig on his website: https://www.betheworldsbest.com/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
The instruction to forgive is a fundamental Christian idea. It's present even in the Our Father prayer. We're told that if we do not forgive, we shall not be forgiven.
But what about if the person who has hurt us the most is...ourself?
Odds are this is probably the case for most people (though some may try to transfer the debt to others.)
Join me in this episode as I discuss how to forgive yourself. This is a critical skill in order to extend forgiveness and charity to others, even those you love the most. You cannot give what you do not have. It's not easy though; as a general rule, the more I have been hurt, the harder it is for me to forgive.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Confession scares a lot of people - and not only Catholics. While we all know it is a Sacrament, too many of us tend to avoid it more than we should. Sometimes, it can feel humiliating.
What if we viewed Confession with as much excitement as the other Sacraments?
Join me in this episode as I explore the Sacrament of Confession. Not only do I cover a lot of basics about what Confession is (and isn't) but I also explore the psychological benefits of Confession. Not only does Confession convey real Grace, it will transform your life and help to unlock the areas you are stuck.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Sometimes, when we're really good at something, we let it become who we are. The problem is that it's not true. We are so much more. If you cannot see yourself, how can anyone else? It's one of the lonliest places to be. Join me in this episode as Benjamin Nevares shares his journey. Although he was raised in the Catholic Church, he fell away as he found worldly success. After falling into addiction and depression, he came back to the Church and rediscovered who he was. This story is an invitation to all of us to better see ourselves as Christ sees us. Click here to listen to Ben's podcast. You can read about his upcoming new fitness products at: https://iehealth.co/ I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
We all struggle with unhealthy attachments to something. For many men, it's alcohol, sex, or pornography. For some it might be gambling, sports, or the appearance of power.
No matter what your struggle is, odds are good it's really only a symptom of some deeper problem that God wants to bring healing to. If you don't fix a broken foundation of a house first, nothing else will really work.
Join me in this episode as Mr. John Bacon shares his story of chasing the "goods" of the world. He found his way into many addictions and was saved by finding the Lord. He has since spent decades working in addiction recovery centers, helping many others to escape.
If you cannot love yourself, you cannot be free.
Find more about John's work on his website:
https://kingdomservants1st.com/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Marriage helps us get to heaven. For most of us, that means it highlights some painful parts of ourselves. Worse, we seem to get stuck in the same painful patterns over and over.
We often are left wondering; how can these painful moments actually help us get to heaven?
Join me in this episode as Dr. Gary Lawrence shares some of his wisdom from over thirty years of helping Christian married couples. He talks about some basic patterns that occur in marriage that blind us to what is really going on. Most of all, he will give you hope that with help, you can make real and lasting change!
Find out more about Gary's work on his website: https://rejectionjunkies.com/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
From the beginning, Catholic history has been filled with saints who fervently practiced meditation. This is a powerful form of a prayer that can make a huge impact on how you see and interact with the world. Sadly, most of us have lost touch.
We're just too busy. We've crammed our lives with too much activity. Even our prayers, holy and awesome as they are, are often crammed in and said with haste to "just get it done." It's OK, I find myself living that way too often also.
Join me in this episode as I explore a different type of prayer. Meditation is a prayer that focuses on doing less, or rather doing nothing of my own agenda. I empty myself and invite the Lord in. It's a prayer of surrender - of myself, my agenda, and my need to get so much done!
Especially if you struggle with anger, I suggest you explore Catholic meditation.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
It's hard to be a Catholic parent in today's world of woke-inspired movies and entertainment. Worse, much of the Catholic created media is well...boring.
Recently, however, there's some new options coming. One free Catholic program reached the #1 downloaded podcast spot this Advent. Best part, it's totally free!
Join me in this episode as Peter Atkinson describes the amazing media that his Catholic company The Merry Beggars is putting out for free. We talk about his journey and how God called him to this work. We discuss what it takes to be a successful Catholic creator in this world.
You can find many amazing free resources that are grounded in the Faith on the Merry Beggars website:
https://www.themerrybeggars.com/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
You are going to die.
Well, one day. Lord willing, not particularly soon. We do not know when, but it is a certainty that we will!
My question is, are you ready?
Join me in this episode as Preston Allex explains how his totally free Catholic company Catholic Legacy helps Catholics across the United States with free wills and estate planning. We walk through why this is important, and how you can take advantage of this resource.
Every husband and father should at least make sure he has a will. It's a necessary gift to your family.
You can find out more about Catholic Legacy on their webpage at: https://catholiclegacy.com/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
We all have moments we do things that seem disproportionate or a bit off. We have reactions that just don't seem to match up to other people. These can often be frustrating and destructive.
Some of what we "remember" we hold subconsciously; it can affect us without us realizing why
Join me in this episode as discuss what "implicit memory" is and how it affects you. I talk about how to find those memories and what to do about them. Ultimately everything comes back to surrender to the Lord - but we only have a chance to do that when we identify what specifically to surrender.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Do your feelings control you? Perhaps when you're upset, hurting, or desperate you find yourself doing things you later regret?
Has your solution to this problem been to simply shove the feelings down and bury them? If so, how is that working...
Join me in this episode as I talk about a different way of dealing with feelings. When we deal with our feelings well, we gain the power to affect both our lives and those we love. When we don't, chaos and destruction often follow.
One of the greatest gifts you can give to your children is to role model self mastery.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
If you are married, you've likely had fights that went poorly. You've probably also had issues that should have been brought up but have been hidden.
It often seems like biology itself is against us when we disagree with our spouse. If we are not careful, it certainly can.
Join me in this episode as I discuss how to fight with your spouse in a way that pulls you both towards sainthood rather than injury. I'll cover several specific tactics as well as some perspectives to hold onto. Furthermore, I'll talk about the goal of fighting, and what to fight for.
I really recommend this episode to all married men.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
It's very painful for husbands when our wives unleash verbal attacks on us. Yet, we rarely know how to express why this is true even to ourselves. We certainly don't know what to say to our wives - and often get in trouble for trying.
Join me in this episode as I compare male to male interactions with the underlying threat of physical violence and female to female interactions with the underlying threat of character attack. The parallels are powerful and will help you understand why her words are so scary and painful. It will also give you a foundation of how to talk to her about it.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Odds are good that the person that has caused the most pain and suffering in your life is...you!
If you're at all like me, you know that you can be lazy, mean, and sometimes even vicious if you do not keep a check on your natural weaknesses. So that's what we do!
Sometimes we even come to dislike ourselves and treat ourselves in a way we would never let someone treat our children.
Join me in this episode as I explore this issue that occurs in so many men, and how to respond to it in a Christ-like way. You are called to Love Your Neighbor As Yourself. We need to understand the second part of the sentence in order to fulfill the commandment.
Love will the good - the real, deep, long-term good of the other!
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
The most common instruction in the Bible is "do not be afraid," yet we humans are frequently fearful and worrisome. What's worse is that often we don't even recognize the deeper fears. These are the fears that cause us to pull back from God.
Most men suffer from one of the following three fears:
- God has some limit.
- I'm too bad or broken for God to love
- My choices are too terrible for God to love
Intellectually we may deny it - intellectually we know those aren't true. But deep down that fear can drive us to live our lives in a way that keeps us away from the Lord.
Join me in this episode as I explore these fears and how to confront them. In order to trust the Lord and say "yes" to His will, we need a deeper humility and willingness to surrender. All God requires of us is to align our will to His. Do not worry about the rest.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
We all intellectually know we are supposed to surrender everything to God. We can generally handle the first several requests God makes. But then, it starts to get more difficult.
What do you do when God asks you to surrender what looks like the safety of your family?
Join me in this episode as Deacon Charlie Echeverry shares his story of surrendering everything to God. Through many difficult moments, God took care of him and his family. God is calling us all in a similar way. How will you respond?
You can read more about Deacon Charlie's work at his website:
https://www.deaconcharlie.com/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Pride has always been the worst of the capital sins. I believe that it is the chief sin of our age. After going through the entire Litany of Humility, I felt there was a bit more to be said.
This entire episode is simply my additions to the Litany of Humility. You may find some similarity to these. If so, I invite you to join me on my journey.
Join me in this episode for the 21st century engineer/life coach additions to the Litany of Humility. These are ways that my pride has caused me pain in my life. I try to offer the humble perspective to each one.
This is without a doubt the most painful and embarrassing episode I have ever recorded.
I strongly encourage listening to the previous episodes before this one! I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
We all know humility is important, but it isn't easy! Particularly in an age where comparisons are forced down our throat by every app and social media source. How are we to respond?
In this episode I continue the discussion about humility by exploring the last section of the Litany of Humility. In episode six I talked about the dangers of comparisons; in this episode I go into the specific lines.
I strongly encourage listening to the previous episodes before this one!
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Our children are growing up in an environment unlike any previous generations. Technology and cultural expectations have taken away their childhood and forced them to mature faster than ever. This is having some difficult effects.
Join me in this episode as I'm joined by a much younger guest who goes by Mr. Whisky. We talk about his work supporting the mental health of our younger generation. We cover practical perspectives and things to think about as a parent of this generation.
You can read more about Mr. Whiskey and find his podcast at: https://couple-o-nukes-website.webnode.page/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Comparison is the thief of joy.
Even if we men don't speak our comparisons out loud very often, they still destroy our joy and happiness in life. They take a gift of God that is so good, and make us so terribly unhappy about it.
Join me in this episode as I walk through the danger of comparisons and how to steal your joy back. Imagine a kid with a scoop of icecream who just watched another child walk by with three scoops. It takes a lot of work to not lose that joy. But, by the grace of God, you can beat comparisons.
Oh, and comparisons are actually a sneaky form of pride. As if pride wasn't already sneaky enough.
If you have not listened to Part 1 (at least) first, please start there. I'm building on a discussion that has already started. I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
The Litany of Humility is one of the hardest prayers to pray and actually mean. Everyone groans when they first read it. This is a series designed to help us men through this litany and help us find humility.
Join me in this episode as I continue to work through the various parts of the Litany of Humility. In this episode, I break apart the indirect (or invisible) fears we all have. I talk about how important it is to accept that others will hurt us and not to take offense.
Instead, we must remember that Vengeance is for the Lord. We are simply to accept, forgive, and keep loving. This is humility. It's not about us.
If you have not listened to Part 1 (at least) first, please start there. I'm building on a discussion that has already started.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
A man who enters the world will encounter problems. This is unavoidable. As soon as one is solved, another rises up. Over time this can be extremely frustrating. It's tempting to just start blaming - other people, events, and even God.
When a man turns to blame and plays a victim, his life only gets worse. If he continues, he ends up with a life not worth living.
Don't believe the lies of the world.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Mark Teague and I dive into a discussion of how to respond to life's problems. Do you accept that there are problems and you need to work to solve them, or do you hide? How do you balance responsibility with humility as a Christian? This episode is an invitation to get working and take responsibility!
You can find Mark's book at his website or anywhere books are sold! http://www.aworkingmansguide.com
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Emotional attacks hurt. They cause wounds that can fester for decades if left alone. Worse, we men are particularly bad at dealing with emotional pain.
It's not a surprise that we do not like the Litany of Humility. It's painful to even think about! Deep down, however, we need it.
Rather than hiding, drinking, or turning to some pleasure, the Christian journey is to endure and accept suffering of all types - even emotional. But how do we do it?
Join me in this episode as I explore the next part of the litany of humility - the invitation to not be afraid of emotionally painful treatment. I walk through why we must be brave enough to endure this pain - and what it costs us if we don't. Even thought it's not easy to see, the Christian call always works out better than the lies of the world.
This is the fourth episode of a series, I strongly recommend not listening to them out of order. I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
The most dangerous part of Pride is how often it hides itself behind seemingly well intentioned lies. Being consulted is a good thing. Being preferred because you've worked hard is also a good thing. The desire of these, however, is not.
This does not make sense right away. It's not obvious why this should be so.
Join me in this episode as I discuss the danger of the desires to be consulted and preferred. These do not sound like bad things - and in fact are not. The danger is in the desire, but it's subtle. We intellectually know that the church's teachings are true, but they can be hard to understand!
This is the third episode of a series, I strongly recommend not listening to them out of order.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
This episode continues the Humility series where I am exploring the Litany of Humility. This is one of the most painful prayers to pray, and therefore probably pretty important.
Pride is one of the greatest sins of our time - and perhaps always has been. As Christians, we are called to combat the pride in our own hearts in a powerful and unique way.
Join me in this episode as I walk through what I call the "direct goods" that the litany asks Jesus to deliver us from. Why would this be good? What does this even mean? Why would I want to pray this? Join me in this episode to find out.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
This episode is part 2 of a discussion with Ed Jozsa. In part one (episode 211) he discussed his amazing story of a series of miracles that took place after he went through a horrific accident. If you have not yet listened to that episode, I strongly suggest listening to that first!
In this episode he and I take the discussion in a totally different direction. I explore the impact that this story has had on his relationships, starting with his marriage, then moving into how it has affected his children and extended relationships.
Join me in this episode as Ed and I discuss how you do not need to go through a miracle to experience the voice of God and respond to his promptings. God has a plan that needs your cooperation. You are called to act powerfully in the lives of everyone around you. Take action, today!
You can read more about Ed on his website: https://presenceofgodencounters.com/
You can find his two books:
The Mystic Next Door and Triumph of the Cross
So many men feel overwhelmed. We allow the distractions and tasks of the day to be more important than our loved ones. Worse, we often fail to take care of ourselves properly!
Join me in this episode as productivity expert Mark Struczewski and I talk about how to change your life, forever. Productivity is not some magic pill or meditation technique, but a return to the simple basics that always work. We cover distractions, overwhelm, procrastination, and the self-care necessary to be the best for our loved ones!
You can find out more about Mark on his website: https://misterproductivity.com/
Humility is one of the hardest and most essential of virtues to grow in. It's painful, embarrassing, and well...humiliating!
The hard part is most people don't even really understand what humility is.
Join me in this episode as I start a new series on humility. The goal of this episode is just to explore what humility is, how to find our pride, and some basics of what to do. In subsequent episodes, I'll walk through each line of the litany of humility. First, however, we need some basics.
This episode is not going to be fun, comfortable, or easy to listen to. It may, however, be the most important podcast episode you listen to!
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Sometimes the day that everything goes horribly, even tragically wrong, can be the best thing ever to happen to us.
We almost never see it that way at the time, but we worship a God of impossibilities. A God that does things that seem utterly impossible.
Join me in this episode as Ed Jozsa shares his miraculous, unbelievable story. After an accident that the doctors all agreed he should never have survived, Ed was given a series of truly mystical visions. They were a wake-up call to a man who was sleeping through his life. They can be a wake-up call to us as well.
If you want to watch and read more about Ed's miraculous story, you can find it at his website: https://www.presenceofgodencounters.com/
Whether you are a father, grandfather, or thinking you might become a father one day, odds are that you aren't giving enough gravity to what that role really means.
A father is often even more critical in an older child's life than his mother - and research supports this scary (and politically incorrect) conclusion!
Join me in this episode as I explore the data about why fatherhood is so critical, ways that we can imitate our Heavenly Father, and practical tips to being a better father right now. Wherever you are in your journey as a father, something in this episode will challenge and inspire you to up your game.
Your children are counting on you!
I invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
While Eve was speaking to the serpent, Adam...stood by idle. He did not act.
How often do we also fail to act - either entirely or slowly?
Join me in this episode as I explore why it is so important to make today "Day One" or obedience to God's will, rather than waiting to obey "One Day" in the future when it's more convenient. God invites us to obedience.
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
If you have children that are currently being educated, you need to know about the attacks coming under the label of "Critical Race Theory."
CRT is devastating to children - it causes confusion, guilt, blame, and a lifetime of misunderstanding.
It's also demonic in origin.
Join me in this episode as CRT opposition expert Dr George Maurer walks through what is happening in schools and even home-schooling curriculum across the country in regards to CRT. He explains why it is so bad, and what you need to do as a parent to protect your children.
You can follow him on Facebook or checkout his book!
We worship a God of miracles. Sometimes they're subtle or slight - but sometimes they're not!
Sometimes the miracles are so big and powerful we're left to wonder how we ever doubted.
Join me in this episode as Joshua Marcengill shares his story about God's powerful and miraculous intervention in his life. Multiple times in his story, God brings a powerful healing. Now he has the opportunity to share his encounter with God with others.
You can read more about Abundant Encounters at https://www.abundantencounters.com/
Many today want to deny the existence or importance of the spiritual realm. It's scary, confusing, and often overwhelming.
Yet, we would be foolish to not take it seriously. We know that it's real and has real power in our lives.
Join me in this episode as I give some high level guidelines for some things you need to be aware of as a Catholic about the demonic world. This episode is only an introduction that will inspire you to dig deeper with the actual authorities. This should help you know when you need to do more.
You can find my free online manly strength assessment at: https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
A lot of us take great confidence in our technical skills. We may be the very best at our jobs of all the competition, but if we cannot connect on a personal level then we are going to struggle.
Join me in this episode as Lance Cayko walks through his journey of learning to connect with others, and eventually with God. So often we run from God - or at least from what we think God represents. Yet, God patiently draws us back to Himself. The truth always points to Him.
You can find Lance's podcast at https://www.insidethefirmpodcast.com/
You can follow his fishing adventures at Fishing With Lance.
This is a tough time to be in a corporate environment and be a Catholic.
There's a tremendous number of powerful assaults on the truth and teachings of goodness going on everywhere. Many men are intimidated and unsure how to balance what seems like an impossible mix: providing for their family while also speaking the truth.
Join me in this episode as I tackle this difficult question. What are the principles and practical ways we as Catholic men can navigate these treacherous waters? We must hold to truth. We must hold to charity. We cannot compromise on virtue. We must be men of prayer, discernment, and action.
If you haven't yet, go check out my free online Manly Strength Assessment. It will help you quickly determine where you need to work on yourself. https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Virtually everyone has heard of the Ten Commandments. Yet, surprisingly, most of us can't actually name all ten.
If we can't even name them - do you really think we're actually keeping them?
Some people might even wonder if they're still relevant in our lives today.
Join me in this episode as Ed Van Buskirk and I talk about the value and necessity of the Ten Commandments in our lives, even today. We discuss why they are a critical part of our struggle towards holiness. God has given us a great gift in the commandments, and we ignore them to our own suffering.
You can read more about the amazing work that Ed has done and all he offers at his website: https://ifuloveme.org/
I also invite you to check out my free Manly Strengths Assessment at https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
We hear all the time that we need to surrender something to the Lord. Sure, it sounds good, and is probably a good thing to do - but how do we actually do it?
Sometimes surrendering that particular thing kind of feels almost like a little bit of death!
Sometimes it actually is. But we still have to do it anyways.
Join me in this episode as I walk through How to finally Surrender something to the Lord. It's super simple, but also super hard. To help make the point, I also tell 3 stories in my life of where I've had to surrender something, and the pain and agony I've gone through to do it.
You can find my new free Manly Strengths Assessment here:
https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/manly-strengths-assessment-signup/
Sometimes God asks us for little things. A little adjustment here or there.
Sometimes He asks us to do things that scare the...poop out of us.
How we respond to His call tells us a lot about ourselves. All too often we crumble and falter. But we don't have to!
Join me in this episode as Kevin Phillip shares his story of God's call to ministry through his life. Sometimes it was easy, and sometimes it was very hard. God often calls us into the place we least want to go - the place we are most afraid of. How we respond to that call sets the course of our lives!
You can read more about Kevin's ministry and what he offers at: https://boatsonfire.net/
Every human has a great number of pieces, parts, and facets to themself. Finding balance is often difficult - commonly one piece (perhaps a lustful piece) takes over control and we seem "surprised" with where we end up.
Things get really bad when we confuse a "piece" of ourself for the actual "self."
Who is the real "I" that lives beneath all our desires, whims, and needs?
Join me in this episode as I start with Exodus chapter 32 (the original "Pride Parade") and explore what commonly happens whenever we confuse a piece of ourselves with the actual self. The response is for the Levites to draw swords and kill - and that is often the response we need also towards those lustful, gluttonous and sinful parts.
Mild action doesn't cut it. We need to be radical.
So often in our lives, God is moving pieces that we don't see, or at least understand. We commonly are so focused on the moment we fail to see the bigger picture.
Commonly we fear that things are so bad there is no way even God could bring good out.
But there are also those blessed moments where God lets us really see back in time - see the beauty of His design, the power of His creativity. In those moments we are offered a renewed hope.
Join me in this episode as Scott Maderer shares his story. It is a powerful story of a patient God who lets Scott try it his own way. When that fails, God gently, patiently, and inexorably leads Scott back to the faith.
You can read more about Scott's business Inspired Leadership at: https://inspiredstewardship.com/catholicmen/
The Pro-Life cause is near and dear to many Catholics' hearts. Yet, a lot of us, with good intention, write a check, pray, and hope that's enough.
Here's a great story about a group of Deacons who set out to do more.
Join me in this episode as Deacon Dr. Kevin Cummings shares the story of Deacons of Hope. While based in Kansas, they are looking to expand. They created an amazing way to help women who were considering abortion; they support, treat, and train these women for success in life.
Deacon Kevin also shares some great life advice for those of us who aren't in that "second career" phase yet.
You can read more about the Deacons of Hope at their website: https://www.deaconsofhope.org/
Most of us believe that God has a plan for us. Probably even a purpose...but do we know what it is?
Have you done the work to really connect deeply with God's plan for you?
If so, have you gone even further and aligned your time, your calendar, and your life with that purpose?
Join me in this episode as David Buck shares both his story and his wisdom about this topic. Like many of us, God has regularly given David a radical turn in the "plan" of his life. As David learned to navigate these changes, he was better able to connect with his purpose and align his time to that purpose.
I invite you to listen to this episode and do likewise. It will change your life.
You can read more about David and his company (as well as take a free Time Management Analysis) at his website: https://infinitylifestyledesign.com/tma/
We all get triggered. Some of us, frequently. When we get triggered, we love to point the finger at the other person, at the situation, even at God.
But what if the right person to point the finger at is ourselves?
My claim to you is that you have the power to solve your own triggers, to create your own responses that you choose. You can do it by finally getting to the bottom of what in your life controls you.
Join me in this episode as I walk through a process to help sort out and confront many common root causes that cause us as men to become triggered. You can do a lot of this work by yourself, but will definitely benefit from wise and trustworthy men in your life. For certain, you will need to include the Lord.
There are some addictions and traps that God lets us get out of pretty easy, but there are some that are really tough.
Often we persuade ourselves that we can do it, or that it'll be enough to just get mostly clean - but we're wrong.
We delay the healing through self deception.
Join me in this episode as Logan Hufford shares his story of a severe sexual addiction and the years he spent struggling for freedom. So often he deceived even himself about what was going on. Even in his darkest moments, God had a plan. The struggle to fully accept God's love is hard for all of us, but certainly for those struggling with an addiction.
You can find a link to the specific program Logan was part of here: https://www.prodigalsofalaska.com/
If you have questions about the groups Logan talked about, or the tools available on the Prodigals of Alaska website, please feel free to reach out to Logan at prodigalsinfo@creeksideak.com
Most of us have been blessed repeatedly in life by another person offering wisdom and perspective. Sometimes it was a formal mentorship, sometimes simply a random passing.
There's something fundamental to the human experience to learn from and be in community with other humans.
Our modern world is quietly suffering in extreme isolation. We've never been so lonely. But we don't have to stay alone!
Join me in this episode as Terry Allen describes a new program he is launching to provide mentors to people of all ages. This program is totally free, and has the potential to forever change your life!
You can read about this amazing program and sign up to be either a mentor or mentee at his website: https://amentor4me.me/mentors-bio/
Addiction can leave one feeling utterly trapped, helpless, and powerless. It's so hard to escape, and even harder yet to hold onto hope.
Yet we are never too far gone for God's mercy.
Join me in this episode as Nico Morales shares his amazing story of addiction, escape, falling again, and escape again. God's love and grace are what save us all, but not everyone's story shows that love and grace quite so powerfully!
You can read more about Nico at his website: https://nohalonm.com/
"Marriage is the primordial sacrament" - a comment understood by almost none of us.
We know that marriage matters, intellectually at least.
But how do we actually live out our marriage? How do we capture that sacramental grace in a practical way?
Join me in this episode as Catholic author Steve Thomas and I walk through what it means to be a man who is committed to living his marital sacrament in the modern day. It is not an easy, or painless, path. It's a cross, in the most painful of senses.
But it is also the most important thing we men who are called to marry can do with our lives!
You can find Steve's book at his website: https://catholicjoesuperhero.com/
The early church (and much of the modern Eastern church) had this strong Contemplative component that provided a powerful basis for Christians. This component is, sadly, mostly missing from our modern western Latin Rite Catholicism.
But what if what we lost is actually really important?
What if we need both contemplative time and community life at times?
Join me in this episode as Catholic music composer and community founder John Michael Talbot talks about his life with me. He not only shares a powerful story, he talks about how God was active in his life to bring him to a deeper and more powerful connection.
Music was a major part of his story and life. You can read about his music at https://johnmichaeltalbot.com/
You can read about his community at https://www.littleportion.org/
You can read about his bakery at https://littleportionbakery.org/
One of the most common questions I get is what are the actual differences between Coaching and Therapy. While there are some common challenges between them, there are also some significant differences.
Coaching, much like in a gym, is much more of a push to do your best. Therapy, at it's finest, is a gentle nurturing restoration of traumatic damage. There's a time and a place for each, but there's definitely a modern trend to turn to therapy too quickly for too many things.
Join me in this episode as I explore some of the major differences between therapy and coaching, both in people who work in each field and how the fields work. I'll also give you some practical ways to help decide where you should go to get the help you need!
We all get into a low slump at times in our lives. Some of those times are lower than others.
Most men, when we get into a sticky and dark situation, really struggle to accept help. It seems like simply too much.
Join me in this episode as Ryan Penley shares his story of addiction, and how one man's tenderness and gentleness finally cut through his defensive shell and inspired him to get help. Wherever you are in your struggles, or if you know someone else who is struggling, kindness, tenderness, and compassion are a secret weapon for finding help.
You can read more about Ryan and his story at https://www.myrockbottomrecovery.com/
You can order his book at https://www.ryanpenley.org/
So often, when God tells us His plan, we resist. We fight it, we avoid it, we might even ignore it. But the Hound of Heaven is not so easily avoided.
Sometimes it might take more than 40 years, but He comes for us relentlessly.
Join me in this episode as Bill Yoh shares his life and conversion story. We talk through some of his difficult moments and what they mean for us men now.
You can find out more about Bill and his book at his website: https://unvarnishedfaith.com/
We all know we're supposed to forgive. It should be simple, it should be straightforward. But the truth is it's not only complicated, but extremely difficult.
Often we don't even realize when we're failing to forgive.
Historians often say that those who do not study the past are doomed to repeat it. I would add that those who do not forgive past hurts are doomed to repeat them.
Join me in this episode as I walk through both the metaphysics of forgiveness and some practical ways to really strive towards a deeper forgiveness of others. If we do not forgive, we hurt ourselves - badly. Our Lord's words could not be more clear on this.
It is one of the most powerful things you can do to transform your future - for you, your family, and your community.
Most of us already feel overwhelmed, like we cannot get everything done we need to. The thought of slowing down to do something else feels impossible. When God suggests a path that isn't already on our list - it's hard.
Yet often, when we surrender the first fruits of our time to God, He gives us far more in return.
Join me in this episode as Brandon Davis shares how God transformed his life. At the age of 18, Brandon put everything on hold to go into mission for 2 years. Although many things went wrong, more things went very right. God has blessed his life greatly though this obedience.
You can find out more about Brandon from his podcast Get Over Yourself.
You can also find out more about his AI receptionist business at https://www.inter-val.ai/
Whether you're married or not, it's a safe assumption to say you've been confused by how women think. All men are, at least sometimes. But what if there were at least some guidelines to help you better understand her?
Join me in this episode as I offer you 10 different perspectives on specific ways that women think differently from men. I also offer you some specific tips and tricks to help you better understand and connect with a woman.
Both men and women are created in the image of God, with equal dignity. Sometimes, though, a better perspective offers better understanding of this truth.
We love the stories of the heroes, the underdogs, and the winners. We revel in the touchdown throw that wins the superbowl. We sometimes even cry as the hero in the movie sacrifices everything.
Yet we so often fail to live our potential in our own lives.
What if "taking radical responsibility," "extreme ownership," and "radical accountability" are actually very Catholic ideas, consistent with the teachings of the church?
Join me in this episode as I explore the idea that not only is taking responsibility (when done properly) a source of humility, it is even the source of our greatest fulfillment as men. God gave us talents that all too often we allow to stay buried. He's going to demand an accounting of them all one day! Taking responsibility is a powerful step to answering God's call.
It's always been hard to be a parent of a large family. It's even harder these days.
The entire culture often seems aligned against us. Even our own church members often seem upset with large families during mass. It's often lonely, isolating, and so frustrating.
But you're not alone.
Join me in this episode as Nancy Bandzuch talks about the new show put out by the Augustine Institute called "The Catholic Parent." It will help you feel like you're not alone and also help you to be a better parent at the same time.
You can find this series on Formed. Most likely, your parish has already purchased access for you. If not, you can get a free trial at this link:
Surrender is a funny concept.
Sometimes we need to fight for what's right.
Sometimes we just need to surrender and accept what is.
Always, we are in a struggle to balance the two.
Join me in this episode as Daryl Dittmer and I discuss how to build a life that is fulfilling and purposeful. We all come from broken beginnings - some more broken than others. What we do what that makes the difference for where our lives go. When we surrender, stop fighting, and accept what actually works, our lives can get much better.
You can read more about Daryl on his website:
https://www.daryldittmer.com/
You can find his book here:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CJWW8LDP
Are frustrated and unsure about how to really reach your teenage (or even 20's) son?
Have you tried a lot, but they just don't seem interested?
Maybe your son isn't yet a teenager, but you're worried because other dads you know have shared some unsettling stories?
Join me in this episode as Ahmard Vital shares both his story, as well as practical lessons from his work with young men. It's hard to be a male of any age in our world right now, but particularly hard on the youth. Our only hope - at any age - is a strong connection with the Lord. But how do we fathers encourage our sons in this direction? Listen to find out more!
You can find out more about Ahmard on his website:
https://ahmardvital.com/
So many men are slowly dying inside as they choose comfort or convenience over the greater calling that God has placed within their lives.
Mostly because that battle is scary! It will cost you greatly.
The cost to inaction, however, is actually greater.
Join me in this episode as I talk about how it takes a balance of both humility and magnanimity to counter pride. It takes a willingness to embrace discomfort as part of the pursuit of adventure that God has planned for your life.
You were made for greatness. You were made for battle. You were not made to simply exist.
Choose life!
There's a number of times in life we come to a potential crossroads in our life. We can either stumble along on our own, or we can bring God into the process.
One of those works a whole lot better than others
Join me in this episode as I discuss how you can include God in your discernment process and make a decision that you will respect. To stand strong as a man and lead your marriage and family, you must be able to make a strong decision, aligned with God's will, and stand in confidence of that.
I'll help you do that.
It's not common for an event to take over your life. In that list is frozen main water supply during winter. That's the story that starts this podcast episode.
It's funny how God takes away anything we choose over Him. While often extremely painful, it is effective at pointing out our entitlements.
Join me in this episode as I share how a really horrible week allowed me to improve my gratitude and humility. God's plans are sometimes painful, but to trust in Him is always the invitation.
Plus this is a pretty funny story.
Deep inside every man is a boy desiring to become a hero. So often this boy gets stomped, beaten down, and stuffed into the corner of the needs of the world.
Yet he's still there, in each of us men - longing for greatness. Longing to finally find and slay the dragon.
Longing to be accepted and welcomed by the Father.
Join me in this episode as David Ask and I have an amazing conversation about the inner call and journey of manhood. Where are we going, what's important, and how do we be true to ourselves on the journey.
David shares powerful parts of his own story that will help guide as all.
You can read more about David at www.davidask.com or find out more about his company at www.statguardplus.com
Most men would acknowledge they should keep their word - but so many of us really don't make it a priority. If our wife gets upset, or if the kids are worked up, or maybe even if I just don't feel great; I'm all too ready to bail on a commitment.
What if our failure to honor our word is actually a far bigger deal than we want to admit?
Join me in this episode as I discuss why your word is so critical to your identity and strength as a man. I also discuss some practical ways to improve your strength in this critical characteristic!
To say that we don't really see a lot of great masculine examples is an understatement. Even the idea of a "Strong man" sounds scary to a lot of people.
But what if men are supposed to be strong? Competent? Dangerous, even?
Join me in this episode as former Navy Seal and police officer Jason Perry shares his journey into the faith and authentic masculinity. Men are supposed to be powerful and dangerous. Yet so few of us live into that potential.
You can read more about Jason on his website:
https://christianwarriormission.org/
I have a confession to make. Don't tell - at least not too many.
Most of us Catholics aren't very good at praying for (and expecting!) really big miracles. We tend to get lost in repetitive prayer (which is good) and forget that Christ gave the power for miracles to us too - not just to Protestants.
Join me in this podcast as Dr. David Chotka shares some powerful stories - both about prayer and mentorship in his life and healing prayer in general. He has powerful stories about the miraculous way God can act in anyone's life.
Now get busy praying!
You can find more about David and his book at his website: https://www.spiritequip.com/
I bet you're a pretty good dad, right? You provide and shelter. You do your best to engage. You try to keep them safe.
But what if there's a lurking problem that you aren't addressing?
What if the problem is inside of you?
Join me in this episode as I explore how critically important it is for us men to engage in self work. The problems in ourselves that we allow to remain will be transmitted on to our children and even our grandchildren.
The devil is motivated to keep you complacent. You were not born for this - you were born to slay a dragon.
And you need good Christian men to help you do it.
There's a lot of self-help advice out there today. A lot of quick fixes and cures that will solve any problem!
Yet all the ones that actually work come down to the same basic premise: Are you willing to actually look inside at the parts of yourself that are less flattering, accept they are there, and work on them?
Join me in this episode as fellow Executive and Life Coach Eric Sardina shares his story and his perspective on what's going on with men right now. We talk about some real practical ways to embrace discomfort and really grow. We also talk about how to know if you need a coach in your life.
You can find out more about Eric at his website: https://www.ericsardina.com/
Society's plan for men doesn't work. This should not be a surprise to any of us.
But what do we do about it?
How are Christian men supposed to lead in our current world?
Join me in this episode as Nico Lagan and I open up what it means to be a man of radical responsibility, purpose, and fulfillment. He shares his story of how he found Christ, and what effect that has had on his life.
We men need to lean into our strengths and take responsibility. The only thing worse is to not do it.
You can read more about Nico on his website: https://nicolagan.com/
Families are suffering - this is not a novel claim, but one we aren't discussing much.
We are more isolated than ever. Lonely, overwhelmed, and stressed out; parents of young families are suffering.
But what do we do?
Join me in this episode as I explore this issue. It is a nearly universal problem in our ultra-mobile world. How do we help our family to thrive despite such a hostile environment?
It's up to us husbands to lead. We have to step up our game. Now, more than ever.
Ever notice how great men and women can say more with their presence that some can with many words?
While we all know that actions speak louder than words, what happens when our actions and words speak the same?
Join me in this episode as I explore the idea of Authenticity. What does it mean to be authentic, and why is it important? How do we remain authentic knowing that we also sin? What do we do when we do fail?
These are hard questions that must be worked through with faith and humility.
This is almost a two-part episode. There are two great conversations here - don't miss it.
Why would anyone be Catholic after the revelation of the terrible scandals?
How do parents deal with special needs children?
Join me in this episode as Rob Ralston and I explore these two issues. They are not simple or safe, but they are important.
You can find out more about Rob Ralston at: https://www.icf-coaching.org/lifecoachingforspecialneedsfamilies-com/profile/
I've spoken before about the story of where and how I grew up. I've mentioned parts of how I found the faith.
But how did I find the Catholic church amidst all that hurt?
Join me in this episode as I tell the story of my journey to the faith. It's a bit dark at moments, and definitely far from perfect, but I think it's a powerful story.
So many of us have the idea that we're on the Godly path, but are afraid to surrender that last little bit.
We give almost everything, and can sometimes fail to notice that there's something left to give.
Yet God will often bring us a juncture in life where we are directly confronted to our need to surrender even that last bit.
Join me in this episode as Aaron Guyett shares his story about how he was a great warrior and had everything but God, but really had nothing at all. He shares his story and journey from an identity based on the world, to one based on God.
You can find out more about Aaron at his website:
https://leadersofleaders.org/services/
There is no doubt that sexuality is a very hot and politically charged topic right now - both in the church and the culture in general. I have no doubt that some who listen to this episode will find something (or perhaps many things) I say offensive.
Nevertheless I have worked with too many Catholics who are struggling with SSA and too many Catholics who are not, but are unsure what to think or say about this issue.
Join me in this episode for a direct, open, and honest discussion about sexuality, sin, and the Catholic church. I approach this issue with charity for individuals - all individuals. While the teachings of the church are true and do not change, that does not justify the attack of character and judgement of personhood that we see rampant today. Christ treated all who earnestly sought holiness with tenderness and mercy - especially when they failed. We are called to no less.
I really would invite feedback from this episode. I suspect it will be a sensitive and emotional subject. We all need to take action to ensure both the preservation of truth along side the protection of individual dignity and personhood.
Most of us are pretty negative in our own heads. We tend not to speak kindly to ourselves. At first glance, that might not seem that important, right?
What if I claim to you that how you speak to yourself is actually critically important to the success and peace of your family?
Join me in this episode as I discuss the responsibility and power we husbands and fathers have to create and point towards the good via our words. You are made in the image and likeness of God. Your words, spoken and unspoken, are creative! What sort of future are you creating?
This inner voice can be either demonic or angelic. One leads to darkness, destruction, and grinding of teeth. The other leads your family closer towards heaven.
Which will you choose?
Marriage is hard.
I sometimes wonder if I should dedicate an entire series to "How To Improve Your Marriage." It is in many ways a lynchpin to your entire success and happiness.
The second most important part of your life is your marriage. As a husband, you have a duty to your wife and family that is higher than that to anyone other than God. Do not accept mediocrity!
Join me in this episode as Christian Marriage Coach Kelly Dupee and I discuss our coaching work with Christian marriages. He provides some practical advice for real ways you can step up your game as a husband and better love your wife. This is critical work for all of us husbands, we all need to do better!
This is likely the first of several conversations! You can find out more about Kelly Dupee and get a reduced price on his book at his website: https://turnitup.coach/
Let's be honest. Most of us men are not leading our wives well. Most of us struggle to lead our children to the dinner table, let alone manage the complicated balance of large family leadership!
What if I gave you a secret to one aspect of leadership that could help you improve in other areas as well?
One of the least understood leadership directions I find in the men I work with is the leadership into fun.
Join me in this episode as I explore what it means to lead our wives and family into fun and novelty. I'll discuss some practical tips to get started no matter where you are in the journey currently. Trust me, it really can be fun!
If you cannot lead your family into fun, where else do you think will be able to manage leading them?
We live in a rough time. Despite all the knowledge, grace, and blessings that come from being a Christian, many of us regularly fall radically short of the mark. We miss opportunities to really show a deep and powerful love to our spouses, our children, and our communities.
We're so focused on the hyper rational that we've lost site that God's love isn't rational. And ours isn't supposed to be either.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Bill Senyard returns to the show. We have a fantastic discussion that drifts across topics of parenting, surrender, and how to counter the effects of the modern culture. At the core of our discussion is God's crazy, irrational love for us, and how we can in turn share that love with others.
If we are not filled with God's love, we cannot truly share love with others.
You can read more about Bill at his websites:
https://gospel-app.com/
https://gospel-app.com/paths/good-enough-parent/
So many people think "weight loss" is just about a diet.
We also think that being "overweight" is just a problem for another day.
But what if underneath our wide-spread problem with weight is a series of crippling fears, doubts, and stories that are dragging down many parts of our lives, not merely our trousers.
Weight loss isn't about looking good. It's about living a life of freedom, free to pursue what God made you for!
Join me in this episode as my guest Alan Thomas explores his own story with weight loss, and outlines how he helps Christian men everywhere finally break free from the chains of being overweight or even obese. He doesn't tell anyone what to eat or what exercise to do. He simply confronts the stories we tell ourselves that are keeping us from living as free as God intends.
You can find out more about Alan's work and get a totally free first training at: https://transformmyfuture.com/mj
Our Lord explicitly commands us to "forgive," but it's stinkin' hard! We know we should do it, but we often don't know how - not even how to start.
Yet what if this seemingly impossible task is actually the key to unlocking our greatest desires and needs in relationships?
Forgiveness can heal marriages, restore friendships, connect with lost loved ones, and open the channels to God's grace to flow into every part of our lives.
Yet we fight it so hard!
Join me in this episode as I explore this God-given superpower we all have. I discuss what is it, what it means, and how we can use it. Forgiveness is a critical part of our Christian life that we neglect at our peril!
So many of us are hurting badly right now. This decade may well be remembered as the decade when emotional wounds and pain reached an all time high. All too often, we struggle ever more to fill that painful gap with anything at all that we hope will make us feel better.
Money. Alcohol. Success. Sex. Porn. Gambling. Whatever it is.
It doesn't work. It just slowly bleeds us dry until we come up against the inevitable wall of our own inadequacy.
Join me in this episode as Massimo Rigotti shares his amazing story of success, addiction, fall, and miraculous recovery. His story is powerful and compelling, I encourage you to really listen. He shares how God reached down into his broken life to give him another chance. He also offers these tools to you.
You can read more about Massimo's story and work at: https://www.massimorigotti.com/
Christ commissioned his disciples to spread the Good News to everyone throughout the world. While this has always been challenging, it is even harder in our "post-Christian" world.
It's very clear that arguments are rarely effective.
Join me in this episode as Fred Vilbig shares his story and how he shares his faith with everyone - including his fallen-away children. This is a challenge that many Catholic parents are struggling with, uncertain how to reach them.
As a father of 11 children, several of which have fallen away from the faith, he has ample practice. He shares his wisdom about how gentle questions and open engagement can reach the heart far better.
Fred has written a book specifically about his experience reaching these souls. You can get a copy of the book and learn more about Fred at his website https://catholicgathering.com/
Deep down, we all (even non-Christians) know that there has to be some part of us beyond our brains and bodies. Those deepest parts have yearnings that call us to search for something that is not material.
Those yearnings call us to search for God. Though, we do get confused sometimes.
Join me in this episode as Cory Rosenke shares how his yearnings (and and irrepressible urge to ask "Why?") lead him to his faith and to God. We talk about how the deepest issues of identity, purpose, mission, and meaning lead us to God in a powerful way. Without their proper alignment, we are easily lost.
You can find out more about Cory at his website: https://coryrosenke.com/ or at his following social media connections:
https://twitter.com/CRosenke
https://www.facebook.com/coryrosenkeministries
We live in an age that emphasizes systems, order, processes, logic, and efficiency as a primary purpose of our work. In many ways, these indeed have brought tremendous comfort, safety, and convenience to our lives.
But what if we've lost something also? What if this overemphasis on systems has cost us the meaning, purpose, and connection that makes human life ultimately worth living?
Join me in this episode as I'm joined by a rather unusual guest. Many of you know that I'm an engineering type of mindset - Mr. Michaell Magrutsche is on almost the opposite end of the temperament. He shares his story about how his inability to complete basic elementary school lead to his artistic success.
Michaell also shares his discoveries about connection, and how choosing people, beauty, and a curious perspective can bring fulfillment and meaning.
You can read more about Michaell's work at his website: https://michaellm.com/self-aware-art-education or follow him at https://anchor.fm/michaellart
Michaell is not Catholic, and we discuss the importance of beauty, and how his work compares with the teachings of the Catholic faith.
The Second Greatest Commandment is to "Love Your Neighbor As Yourself." Sounds simple enough, right?
Maybe not.
First, what does it mean to love "yourself?" Most of us, if we spoke the truth, actually think very poorly of ourselves. We treat ourselves horribly, stealing from our own futures. We are unkind and speak to ourselves with anger.
Then we proceed to "love" our neighbor in the same way.
Join me in this episode as I talk about what we can do to better understand how to live this commandment out. It is not easy. Love is not some fairy-tale concept, but a series of actions, choices, and even a worldview that we go through.
You are called to love many neighbors. Start by learning how to love yourself.
There's a lot of reasons when It is sometimes off the table. But almost all of them make it harder to be a good husband.
What's worse, for a couple practicing NFP in order to avoid conception, the time when It is off the table is also the time when both parties want It the most!
This is not easy.
Join me in this episode as I talk about some practical ways to look at Phase 2 of NFP, as well as some rules for how to navigate Phase 2. This is not a universally agreed upon topic, and I attempt to treat this with gentleness and respect. This is certainly not something that anyone ever figures out completely.
Please be advised that this topic does discuss human sexuality, and while in a respectful and medical tone, it would be worth considering what audiences should listen to this. Please protect your children! I have marked the content as "explicit" not because there is any swearing, but to make sure it does not accidentally bypass any filter settings.
Perhaps you've heard about Gary Chapman's idea that we communicate love as a particular "language." Perhaps you've even done a little bit of work and learned you and your wife's Love Language.
But how do you really use the love languages to help your wife feel loved?
Join me in this episode as I bring in a Love Language expert (not to be confused with the Love Experts from the Frozen movie series.) Mr Paul Zolman shares his practical ways to really lean into the love language concept - both to become better at using them yourself, as well as to really help your significant others out.
You can read more about Paul at his website https://www.roleoflove.com/
When God kicked Adam out of the garden, He assigned Adam to work. This work wasn't meant to be merely a "punishment" but rather a path to redemption. Work is a chance for a man to strive, grow, and become the deeper man that God intended him to be!
So many of us look at our jobs as simply a way to pay the bills. We tend to either rush to get the bare minimum done or instead become obsessed with work to the detriment of our families.
This was never God's plan.
You have an opportunity to join a free conference to learn what to do instead!
Join me in this episode as my returning guest Dan Donaldson discusses the next free conference hosted by Catholic Men’s Leadership Alliance (CMLA). This conference is called the "Gospel of Work" and focuses on how we as Catholic men need to show up and lead at work.
Did I mention Matthew Kelly (one of my personal favorites!) will be speaking???
You can find out more at https://heroicmen.com/
You can reach Dan directly at info@catholicmenleaders.org
It's hard to stay in shape. This is obviously true because we all see the statistics of how out of shape our country is. I know that I struggle to limit how much I eat - God is just so good and has provided so much wonderful food!
But what if it was easier to get and stay in shape?
Join me in this episode as my guest Roman Fischer explains how he got strong and fit, as well as how he helps his guest. As with so much else, the first step is always in our mind. Our thoughts and mindset are critical; nothing works without them!
You can find out more about Roman at https://romanfischerofficial.com/
There's a tension between gender differences when it comes to the workplace. It's impossible to successfully deny that the differences are real (though many do try), but we're supposed to act is if everyone is the same.
How do we do that?
Join me in this episode as I explore this issue (translation: ramble and postulate.) This is not an easy issue, but may not be as difficult as some think. We are all different in many many ways. The difference of gender, while profound and significant, is only but one of many ways. The Christian calling is to honor and respect others, even (perhaps especially) those who are different.
Be authentic. Be genuine. Be bold and powerful.
Be a real Christian man - in every setting
Although we regularly listen to the Bible verses calling men to leadership, most of us men don't really know what that means. Furthermore, our culture is shoving the idea of "toxic masculinity" down our throat every chance it gets.
Maybe the society (and the ruler behind it) is right to be afraid of masculine leadership.
Maybe, when God gave men the job of leading, He also equipped us differently from women?
Join me in this episode as I explore not only why "toxic masculinity" is so powerfully pushed, but also what men are called to do in response. The truth is that God did specifically challenge men to lead, and to lead in a powerful way. How we respond to this challenge is definitely one topic that we'll have to answer to Jesus directly on the day of our judgement.
If you found this episode helpful, please share this podcast with another man. We have to team up or the world will tear us apart.
If you're at all like me, it's easy to get mad when your wife accuses you (unjustly!) of something. It's easy to quickly see why it isn't true, fair, or even appropriate for her to have said that horrible thing! It's even easier to respond by pointing out just how horrible of a thing it was to say!
But this isn't the Christian way.
Husbands, you are called to love your wives. unconditionally. This means you have to love her even when she is being unfair or unjust. (Hint: you are also commonly unfair and unjust!)
But how do we do that?
Join me in this episode as I talk about one major way to love your wife - love her through her accusations. This is hard. This is also essential. Putting those two together means you might need some help. I offer you two particular tools in this episode that will transform your marriage conversations if used properly.
Your wife needs your unconditional love, not your corrections.
It's hot! (At least in the northern hemisphere.)
If you're at all like me, it's harder to stay calm when my face feels like it's melting off. Everything the wife or kids say or do seems to cut more sharply.
If you still blame your family for when you get overheated on the inside, it might be time to take a closer look in there. Our emotions are ultimately coming from our choices. We can choose how we frame everything that others say and do.
Join me in this episode as I open up some of the main ways we men lose our cool with our wives, and what to do instead. Additionally, I cover a bit of how to stay cool with the kids too. Turns out they are both related and need similar skills!
Men need men. Our wives are not men. We need more than our wives.
Sounds obvious, right?
Yet so many men do not make the time to form deep friendships with a group of faithful men committed to improving themselves. We find ourselves "busy" and prioritize everything else - to our (and our family's!) loss.
Join me in this episode as I explore not only why having a group of men that you can really count on is so critical, but I share some practical advice for how to do it. I'm not claiming it's easy, but I am claiming that it is essential!
At least, if you want to show up and really take care of your wife and family in the way that they need!
This episode is Part 2 of episode 143. I strongly recommend you listen to that episode first!
There are many in our society who desperately want us all to believe that gender is merely an adjustable value. Even within the Catholic church, there are many who fail to embrace just how stunningly different men are from women.
Women are different from men! And not merely in plumbing, but in deep and powerful ways. In various ways from how we use words, evaluate actions, and look at the world.
When we try to evaluate our wives using the lens of a man or when we try to evaluate a husband using the lens of a woman things get ugly. Yet we do it all the time!
Join me in the this episode as I continue explaining some really critical differences between the genders and how they relate to our God-given duties in marriage. I'm going to be direct and blunt. I'm going to speak using language intended for a man to understand. This means, ladies, you may not understand what I mean correctly. :)
This episode continues the wisdom that I wish I would have had available in my marriage many years ago.
There are many in our society who desperately want us all to believe that gender is merely an adjustable value. Even within the Catholic church, there are many who fail to embrace just how stunningly different men are from women.
Women are different from men! And not merely in plumbing, but in deep and powerful ways. In various ways from how we use words, evaluate actions, and look at the world.
When we try to evaluate our wives using the lens of a man or when we try to evaluate a husband using the lens of a woman things get ugly. Yet we do it all the time!
Join me in this episode as I start to break open some really critical differences between the genders and how they relate to our God-given duties in marriage. I'm going to be direct and blunt. I'm going to speak using language intended for a man to understand. This means, ladies, you may not understand what I mean correctly. :)
This episode contains wisdom that I wish I would have had available in my marriage many years ago.
Some of us come from really abusive and dark families. We grow up with a lot of wounds, anger, and resentment. Without realizing it, we can often replay our own childhood in our own families, to our horror!
But God has a plan for everyone. You have your own baggage. You have your wounds and your history.
God's grace is bigger.
Join me in this episode as Guy Morris shares his amazing and heartbreaking story of how obedience to God lead him from an abusive childhood where he ran away to the streets to an amazing set of accomplishments. Even when it all seemed hopeless, God not only had a plan but accomplished more than Guy could have dreamed.
This story will touch your heart.
You can find out more about Guy and his books on his website: https://www.guymorrisbooks.com/
"If you are able to be humiliated, then you are not humble."
It's really hard to live the way that Christ lived. We all are sinners and consistently fall short.
But we still are called to keep trying, struggling, and fighting!
Join me in this episode as speaker Justin Fatica shares not only his wisdom but also some powerful stories from his life. He challenges all of us men to step into a powerful love that doesn't give in to hurt or attack, but responds with radical love.
Justin is one of three awesome speakers at the upcoming Heroic Men Summit. You can signup for free at https://heroicmen.com/go/ Signup today, and invite your friends!
You can read more about Justin at https://www.amazingnation.org/
Are you one of the countless Catholic men who doesn't feel comfortable being a "leader" for your family and community?
Are you tired of trying to figure out the really hard decisions alone and by yourself?
Maybe you just don't know how to find help and connect with other guys in a meaningful way.
If these apply, please join me in this episode with Dan Donaldson as we discuss the Catholic Men's Leadership Alliance organization, the upcoming Summit, and Dan's role and story. This is a powerful episode that will call you to take action right now to improve your leadership.
If you are listening to this episode at a later date, please still head to the Alliance and sign up for a future Summit. It's free!
You can sign up at https://heroicmen.com/go/
You can find out more about the organization at: https://www.catholicmenleaders.org/ or https://heroicmen.com/
There's a lot of guys who are happy to go camping with their kids - and a lot who are not. Whether you are a veteran or complete novice at camping, I want to invite you to listen to this episode.
Camping is a powerful way to help your children grow, mature, and develop into kinder, smarter, and more loving people. It can be very affordable and a lot fun.
And for some people, super intimidating. But it doesn't have to be!
Join me in this episode as I discuss Why camping is so important, and lay out some practical advice to make a really simple but successful camping trip. Don't make this complicated!
God has a plan for every single one of us - but we often don't do a great job discerning it. It can often take struggle, effort, and even failure to find that path.
Yet God did not leave us unaided. Built into your being is a unique blend of passion and drive that, when harnessed, will propel you forward. This is true whatever your personality or strengths.
Join me in this episode as Mr Jeremy Ryan Slate and I explore his passion and journey through life. While keeping it light (and even a bit silly) we touch on some really powerful choices and moments we all come to: how to stay connected with your wife through difficult times, how to pick the pieces back up after a failure, and how to work on improving myself to get the needed perspective. There are a lot of really practical pieces of advice he offers all of us.
You can find out more about Jeremy's company Command Your Brand at the website https://commandyourbrand.com/. You can find out more about him directly at https://www.jeremyryanslate.com/.
While it's not universal, it is very common for a husband to want to have physical connection to his wife - and a strong one. But a lot of us go through periods where that connection is less strong. Often we just "soldier on" and hope it gets better.
Often times, we try to ask our wife what she wants to feel better connected - only to become discouraged when what she suggested doesn't actually work.
Sometimes a guy will just accept that this is his "cross" to carry and (grudgingly) "accept" it.
After all, isn't abstinence kind of like fasting? That's good, right?
Join me in this episode as I break open why it's so important for husbands to be constantly engaged in improving themselves for the sake of their marriage. Physical intimacy can often be an indicator of where the husband has stopped working on himself. While there are genuine times we are called by the Lord to periods of abstinence, that's no reason to accept it when it's not necessary and give up.
We must always be working on ourselves, to become our best version. Connection - all connection - matters in marriage.
One of the most common desires of married men is for more physical intimacy with their wives. There are countless "solutions" offered, often by the wives themselves, that don't really seem to deliver.
It's easy for a husband to find this frustrating, maybe even infuriating; why can't we just solve this and both be happy?
What if female attraction actually does exist, but doesn't work at all like male attraction?
Join me in this episode as I discuss the nature of female sexual attraction from a scientific perspective. What will actually activate our wives' attraction? My claim is even if they don't know, we can put a few pieces together.
I walk through the biology of what females are biologically programmed to look for, compared to what men are programmed to look for.
This episode is likely the first of several exploring the question of how men can improve themselves in order to improve their physical connection with their wives.
God has a unique plan for every person - but so often we get in the way.
Everyone has stories we tell ourselves that get in the way of God's plan, but men tend to bury our stories more deeply and are less likely to share them than our feminine counterparts.
If we don't, however, we get stuck in anxiety. Trapped in our fears and lack of trust.
Join me in this episode as Justin Janowski shares the story of his journey and how God lead him from the deep wilderness of Alaska into sales and entrepreneurship. Along the way Justin had to challenge his own bad stories and learn to trust. Justin gives us some practical advice to use in our own struggle for truth and trust.
You can learn more about Justin Janowski and download his pdf at his website http://www.goodsalespdf.com/ or email him at justin@faith2influence.com.
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 01:35 - Alaskan wilderness start
- 06:30 - Selling Cutco knives = independence
- 08:50 - Stopped going to church at 18
- 12:10 - God was present always
- 15:00 - Growth is uncomfortable.
- 18:00 - The power of a unified group of men
- 22:00 - "Spiritual but not Christian" isn't enough
- 25:00 - How God is present in the middle of challenges
- 29:20 - The cycle of Anxiety <-> Trust in God
- 32:50 - The power our old stories have over us.
- 35:10 - How to shift those stories
- 37:10 - How to help get in touch with our stories as men
- 41:10 - How to find help
- 44:00 - Contact Justin
When we're trying to succeed at work, we read books, we find great resources, and constantly struggle to find success. Yet, when it comes to our families, too many guys just accept "good enough."
What if we approached leading our family with the same strategies and mindsets as we run our businesses?
Can you imagine how much better things might turn out if we were willing to take the risk?
Join me in this episode as Aaron Shelley shares his experience and wisdom about how to run a family using business principles. He gives a ton of practical advice and easy to understand principles to improve your family's operation!
You can find out more about Aaron on his website: https://thefamilyflywheel.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 03:20 - What is happening with a new baby?
- 06:00 - Families are the pillars of our society
- 10:00 - Experiments in every aspect of life
- 14:00 - Dad is critically important!
- 19:00 - Dads push their kids towards growth
- 23:30 - What is your family culture, beliefs, and values?
- 29:30 - How to get your kids to serve other people
- 33:00 - Share what you love and find meaning in with your kids
- 36:00 - Advice for daughters going dating
- 39:00 - When your kids don't want you involved
- 43:30 - Is it easier with each child?
- 46:00 - Combine activities for compound winning
- 47:00 - Teaching the faith by living it
- 50:00 - How to Contact Aaron
There's a lot of guys being crushed by addictions right now. Statistically, if you're not one of them, you know at least one. The kingdom of God is under assault like never before.
Although an addiction can feel absolutely overwhelming, there is hope. You can find help, freedom, and finally a sense of peace. I encourage you to be decisive - act today, either for yourself or for a friend you know is struggling!
Join me in this episode as Doug Sweeney shares his amazing story of how a poor father lead Doug into years of addiction. Things kept getting worse until Doug ended up in jail. There he encountered the Lord and got help. If you are on Doug's path, I encourage you to look for help before you end up where he did!
Doug bravely shares his story and how he helps men to break free from the bondage of addiction. You can read more about Doug and contact him on his webpage: https://www.breakingbondagefromaddiction.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Opening and Prayer
- 03:45 - Alcohol as a response to abuse
- 06:30 - Stomach pumped at age 15
- 10:00 - More drugs; Sadness and Hopelessness
- 11:00 - Death of a passenger
- 13:40 - God is a law-slammer
- 16:30 - Slow suicide attempt
- 20:55 - How can I be forgiveable?
- 24:45 - Need to forgive others, especially dad
- 30:00 - Forgiveness is not about the other
- 33:30 - The power of God's healing
- 36:00 - Halfway house in Salvation Army
- 40:00 - Doug's focus on helping men with addiction
- 42:30 - Identity and Addiction
- 46:30 - How to find Doug and his approach
You know how sometimes God just lines things up in a way you don't expect? That's sort of how this episode came to be.
Dr. Mike Frazier specializes in helping successful Christian men find more intimacy in their marriage. He and I were connected and decided to have a conversation. We hit the record button, and magic happened.
Join me in this episode as we talk about everything we're learning in coaching as well as some common trends we're seeing in Christian men - and especially marriage - right now.
You can find out more about Dr. Mike Frazier's work at his website: https://mikefraziermd.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro
- 02:30 - Identity and how we sabotage ourselves
- 03:45 - Turning out wives into God
- 07:30 - Becoming honest with God
- 13:20 - Parenting and Family
- 17:15 - How to be strong as a man
- 23:40 - Am I doing what is right and best?
- 26:50 - Make a decision!
- 35:00 - Coaching Specialities
A lot of guys struggle to believe that they can actually hear God's will for their lives. It's easy to lose heart and drift when we lose this connection.
But what if it was easier to connect with God than we've been lead to believe?
What if there was a guided process that would help you better align your life with God's plan? What if it was easy and simple?
Join me in this episode as Daniel Krynzel outlines his Walking With God process. He tells his story of how even though he had everything money could buy, he had a huge hole in his heart. This was only filled when he learned how to listen to God and put His plan into practice - even when it was unexpected!
Daniel is offering his app totally for free, I really recommend you check this out! You can find it at https://thegodwalkapp.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 04:10 - How to lead
- 09:20 - Starting a deeper connection to God
- 15:00 - Whose voice is it?
- 21:20 - The start is often fear-based and what to do?
- 24:30 - God unwinds Daniel's business
- 30:05 - Why am I making all this money and feel like crap?
- 32:30 - Tell God where I am; speak the truth
- 37:30 - If I just knew what to do...
- 42:45 - How to use the app
- 43:55 - How to get the app for free
- 45:30 - A Bold Challenge
Fatherhood can sometimes feel very heavy - you are literally trusted with the future care of these little souls God sends to you.
Our society does not do a great job recognizing the role of "dad," nor does it reward those dads who do a great job. Fatherhood is largely a silent job - but that doesn't mean it's not important.
All of us need help do be the best dad we can possibly be - which is what our children need!
Join me in this episode as RJ Campbell and Dustin Hoog describe their project Balanced Business Dad, and what they do to help dads everywhere "Dad up!" It's a challenge all of us need
You can read more about RJ and Dustin's business The Balanced Business Dad at their website https://www.thebalancedbusinessdad.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 03:20 - Start of Balanced Business Dad
- 06:25 - Starting struggles of Dustin and RJ
- 16:10 - Early goals of Balanced Business Dad
- 18:45 - DADUP framework
- 24:15 - Corporate to Entrepreneurial transition
- 27:54 - Utilizing the Brotherhood
- 31:10 - Sideline Friends vs Refrigerator Friends
- 34:10 - Embrace the Challenge, Perform like your life depends on it!
- 37:45 - How is life different now?
- 42:30 - Everyone has the same challenges
- 43:47 - Find out more and connect!
There's many types of health, and it's often very difficult to know how to actually be healthy.
It's easy to get overwhelmed by all the different opinions - especially when they keep changing!
But that's not an excuse to just give up. Our bodies are a temple of the Lord, and we are required to honor Him by caring for that temple.
Join me in this episode as Julian Hayes II talks about how he coaches men to take control of their health and find a plan that works uniquely for them. We talk about a lot of practical steps that any man can implement to become more healthy - to become a better version of himself.
You can find more about Julian's work on his website: https://www.executivehealth.io/report
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 04:00 - Questions to consider
- 06:50 - Curiosity
- 11:35 - What is Executive Health
- 15:40 - Mental and Spiritual gym
- 21:00 - Ignore your current reality
- 26:10 - Feeling Inadequate
- 31:30 - Do it even if you don't feel it
- 35:00 - Feeling In Control
- 38:30 - Everything new comes with Uncertainty
- 42:00 - How to work with Julian
So many of us had bad experiences with Christians (or at least know of people who did.) These can really make a major negative impact in our journey towards Christ.
By contrast, we often can be strongly influenced for the good by even the littlest acts of service. One act of kindness can forever change the path of our life.
Join me in this episode as Matt Shoup shares how he found Jesus while in handcuffs in the back of a police car. Although he is now a renowned business expert, Matt shares his journey of faith and how God slowly reached Matt's heart through repeated small acts of kindness. Matt shares practical ways to serve others to both improve your business and spread the Gospel.
You can find out more about Matt at his website https://www.mattshoup.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Prayer and Intro
- 02:45 - A Rough Beginning
- 04:50 - Need for Certainty
- 06:45 - Betrayal by Friend Group
- 10:50 - Lack of Male Role Model
- 13:20 - Into the Police Car
- 18:00 - Kindness during Powerlessness
- 21:35 - Power of Small Acts of Kindness
- 24:20 - Service is Key
- 27:02 - Be True to Yourself
- 30:55 - Value of Being Called Out
- 34:00 - Receiving Hard Feedback
- 38:10 - One Practical Thing to Do Today
- 42:45 - Learn More About Matt
Marriage, that blessed union, the dream...within a dream!
While these words may cause many of you to smile, we all know that marriage can be very challenging.
Many of us husbands really struggle with how to be the husband our wives deserve.
If you are married and want to be better, I invite you to listen to this episode. Jerry and I discuss how we coach men to do and become better. You can do so also!
You can learn more about Jerry at his website: https://www.savemycatholicmarriage.com/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 04:10 - Fix yourself first, Move towards God
- 08:50 - Cursillo to encounter God
- 14:40 - You cannot depend on feelings to get you through life
- 20:50 - Meditation
- 26:30 - It takes time
- 31:10 - Your wife has mysteries
- 36:10 - Doing the "stuff" isn't enough
- 41:00 - More than Best Friends
- 45:05 - What you need to learn
- 51:40 - Get things right before they go wrong!
- 55:20 - Your wife's job is to guide you
- 60:00 - Another woman is NOT the solution
- 61:20 - Take action today!
Weight loss isn't usually as hot a topic for guys as it is for girls. We tend not to be as worried about our physical appearance, and we all too often focus on other deliverables in our life.
But what if there's more to health and fitness than the number that comes from the bathroom scale?
Join me in this episode as Brady Ross walks me through his weight loss story and what role weight played in his life. He talks about some practical ways that he lost weight and he helps other men lose weight. The most important part is your mindset, and Brady gives us some awesome perspective!
You can find out more about Brady at his website https://bradyross.com/
Timestamps
- 00:00 Intro and Prayer
- 02:30 3 Outdoor Grills
- 05:50 The Start of Brady's Weight Loss Journey
- 09:25 Eating and Diet
- 12:30 Support Groups and Individuals
- 18:20 Condemnation vs Conviction
- 21:20 Weight Gain then Weight Loss Round 2
- 26:00 Logging Calories
- 30:15 Focus on One Day At a Time
- 34:10 Real Friends and Accountability
- 39:00 Weight Loss with Little Children
- 45:00 Motivation
- 47:30 Learn More about Brady
So, Covid happened, and we're all still recovering. Most of us are desperately trying to recover by attending every event we can to "make up" for what we lost.
What if that's not the best path though? What if we're swinging from one mistake to another? If you think this might be you, consider coaching!
Join me in this episode as Cory Carlson helps explain how he coaches executives and what he's seen. He walks through really practical ways to make big changes in your life, today. We all need more of this!
You can find out more about Cory, his books, and his podcast on his webpage https://www.corymcarlson.com/
Timestamps
- 00:00 Opening and Prayer
- 03:00 Leaving corporate world after 20 years
- 06:45 Train your team to replace you
- 10:45 Starting a new company in Q1 2020
- 15:40 Faith as a Foundation
- 19:45 Leadership is Lonely at the Top
- 22:53 Executive Coaching Trends in Early Covid
- 25:58 A Leader's Job is to Decide What To Let Fail
- 31:40 Holding Faith After Covid
- 36:00 Date Your Wife!
- 40:00 Say No to More Things!
- 44:50 One Small Step For Today!
- 47:00 How to get More Cory
I really enjoyed my previous conversation with Alex and decided to invite him back. We decided to do something different for this episode.
Rather than an organized and official topic, we just wanted to share what we're both working on in our own lives for this season of Lent. This episode is entirely 100% unplanned, unscripted, and raw. I think you'll enjoy it.
My hope is that you'll go out and have a similar conversation with your friends - share what matters to you!
Read more about Alex on his website: https://kpdesign.ca/
Timestamps:
- 00:00 - Intro and Prayer
- 03:10 - Gratitude
- 05:40 - The power of the spoken word
- 09:30 - Speak directly to God
- 10:20 - Dealing with Children Overload
- 15:07 - Maybe how God looks at us?
- 19:40 - Does God ever give you more than you can handle?
- 23:00 - The joy of dogs
- 26:30 - The Christian Life and Fear
- 30:00 - The Death of God -> Death of Science
- 33:30 - The Nature of Evil
- 37:30 - Apologize to our Children for Healing
- 40:20 - Roles and Character
- 42:30 - A Challenge to Fathers
- 44:00 - Fatherly Pride (the good kind!)
- 46:30 - Contact Alex and Wrap-up
Jonah was swallowed by a whale when he went astray of God's plan but that isn't the only option. Many people today get stuck in something that feels very comfortable while avoiding God.
Often following God's call requires giving up something that seems good and comfortable, but God only asks us to go forward to find something better yet!
In this episode, I'm joined by Alex Pauls who shares his story of how God has guided his life. God's plan for Alex challenged his limiting beliefs and false identity statements. Although it was difficult, looking backwards so often shows us how God's plan was exactly what we needed!
Read more about Alex on his website: https://kpdesign.ca/
Timestamps
- 00:00 Intro and Prayer
- 03:30 Cereal with Milk on the Inside
- 06:00 Origins in Communist Russia
- 11:30 University Life and Faith
- 16:00 A different path
- 21:00 Dream job in northern Canada
- 25:30 A Limit on God's Goodness
- 28:00 Building Self Worth
- 33:30 Trapped in Dream Life
- 38:00 Totally New Plan
- 43:00 The Power of Choosing the Godly Path
- 47:00 Deeper Worth
- 53:00 A Different Type of Leader
- 55:50 Connect with Alex
I've always been jealous (in a good way!) of the passion and authentic joy the people seem to commonly have in Africa.
They move about with a purpose to their lives and a deep smile on their face. When I look in the mirror, I don't always see such a compelling smile on my own face.
Join me in this episode as my Nigerian guest Tobi shares his story. You will love how his passion and joy for life (and self improvement) spread into every part of his life. There's a lot of practical ways you also can find more passion and enthusiasm for your life!
You can find out more about Tobi on his website https://mirrortalkpodcast.com/
This episode is special. We live in some crazy times right now where it's often hard to see God's goodness. A lot of people are struggling with doubt, pessimism, and discouragement.
My client Anthony bravely volunteered to share a piece of an actual coaching session that we just finished where he was dealing with this same type of issue.
I want to encourage you to listen in, I think the conversation was very powerful and applicable to us all!
Maybe you are a Jiujitsu master - or maybe not. Either way, there are some really powerful lessons about how to find meaning and purpose that can be found from martial arts training.
Anything that comes too easily is usually not satisfying. Yet we are afraid of hard work! So how do these get balanced?
Join me in this episode as Lawrence Dunning and I talk about how to find that meaningful, purposeful part of life that makes life worth living. We explore how what he learned through Jiujitsu has been applied to the rest of his life. These mental perspectives can help anyone to find the same!
You can learn more about Lawrence Dunning on his podcast Enter The Lionhart or by searching for him on Instagram or Linked In.
We live in an age that does not make it easy to be Christian. (Not a really surprising observation, eh?)
Yet the message of God is still applicable. How do we live it out?
Join me in this episode as Mr. Johnathan Drayton walks through his experience coming fully into the faith and how we can all live out the gospel message. We get into a little bit of philosophy and quote a bit of scripture, but tie it up in a way that's pretty practical.
You can contact him at speeded83@gmail.com or check out his podcast at https://www.buzzsprout.com/1793963
I'm breaking the usual flow of podcast episodes because I think this one really needs to get out quickly! I encourage you to listen to this before Lent if possible - but the ideas are timeless.
Join me in this episode as Joe Rockey shares some really powerful ways to improve your relationships. We talk about humility, courage, and ways that we all are avoiding what we know we need to be doing. Relationships are literally what we are made for!
You can read more about Joe at https://elitebusinessconversations.com/ or catch his podcast Father and Joe.
Timestamps
- 00:00 Opening and prayer
- 03:10 We're all more alike than different
- 06:00 Catholic Church is a unifier
- 08:50 Relationship with self
- 18:30 Legitimate needs
- 20:00 Lenten Sacrifice Suggestion
- 26:10 Relationship with others
- 33:00 Powerful Humility and Marriage
- 37:40 Honesty and Courage
- 47:00 Cardinal Virtues are Profitable
- 49:00 How To Contact Joseph
In the "woke" environment, it's hard to lead as a guy. All around us there are forces trying to beat down strong male leadership under the guise of "safety."
But the Bible tells us that it's men's job to lead, right? How do we do it?
Join me in this episode as I bring on a leadership expert and coach Kevin Kepple to help walk through what we as men can do to really improve our leadership. He offers practical advice and creates a powerful vision for why it matters!
You can find out more about Kevin at https://kevinkepple.us/ or look for his facebook group "Art of Unstuck."
Knowledge of the death of a loved one is really hard. We often don't give ourselves the needed space to process those emotions.
In this mini episode I talk about a quote from St. Alphonsus Liguori, talking about how ignorance of the future is a great blessing that God gives us. I also talk about how to mourn an upcoming loss even before it has come.
If you are struggling with death or upcoming death in the family, I strongly encourage this episode!
This episode continues the discussion from Part 1 - make sure you've listened to that first!
If you believe you have a bad identity belief (and we all do!) then the natural question is, "how do I change it?" That's the question I'm going to tackle in this episode.
There are several steps to changing what we believe we are. While we can start by ourselves, ultimately we always want to bring God into that process.
Join me in this episode as I give several concrete steps to change your beliefs about who, what, and whose you are. This is an incredibly powerful tool that will help you conquer whatever actions in your life you don't like.
One of the most common problems I find in my coaching clients that is hiding underneath troubling behaviors is a bad "identity" statement.
Most of us confuse previous actions with who we are - our identity. This is toxic.
When a man believes that he is "broken," "not enough," or "bad" his ability to behave well is severely limited.
Join me in this episode as I break down why our identity is so critical to our lives and our ability to make progress. This is the most common issue I find with guys who are unable to give up some problematic behavior. If you seem to be unable to change something, there very well may be a bad identity statement at the core.
If you're like most men, God's plan for "your" money may not be something you want to think about.
It often feels like money is tight; we don't have enough to give away to everyone who claims they need it!
Yeah, the Old Testament says to tithe ten percent...but who really does that anyways?
Join me in this episode as James Pollard and I really open up a Biblical view on money. We talk about various ways that God intends for money to be used, and how important it is to discern your particular calling. Most of all, we talk about how to surrender control to God.
You can learn more about James at his website: https://www.theadvisorcoach.com/
Walking the Christian faith is hard for anyone these days and all too often we're alone.
We weren't meant to be alone, we're meant to have brothers (and sisters!) beside us, cheering us on towards the finish line. The world and the devil are out to destroy us - and distraction is enough!
Join me in this episode as Mr. Allen Paul and I compare our journeys of Faith with significantly different temperaments. The conversation is real, vulnerable, and sometimes gut-wrenching.
We talk about how important it is to find harmony in our lives and our relationships.
You can find more about Allen at his website https://godandgigs.com/ or check out his membership group at https://god-and-gigs-360.mn.co/
Let's face it. The two things that tend to cause the most amount of tension and high emotions in our lives? Sex, and Money.
As Christians, aren't we supposed to dislike money?
Isn't the love of money the root of all evil?
How DO we as Christians use money in the right way?
In this episode I am joined by Mr. Brandon Neely, and we explore not only his amazing story with money, but how he advises Christians to build wealth for the glory of God.
You can find out more about Brandon on his website: https://www.wealthwisdomfp.com/ and his podcast Wealth Wisdom Financial
It's hard to love your spouse. If you're married - you know this already. There comes a point in every marriage where love ceases to be a feeling, and must become a choice.
This episode is a little bit different. I'm joined by Kathleen Donnelly Israel, and our conversation moves from her lessons in marriage, to caring for her medically challenged husband, to her experience on the Camino de Santiago.
She shares wisdom and perspective from each phase of life. For husbands who want to better understand their wives, I recommend listening!
You can find Kathleen's book on Amazon at
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B09CR9MGD3
It's surprisingly easy to define ourselves by what we do. Most of us do! Not only is this not healthy, it sets us up for some major confusion when our job changes.
This may at first seem trivial, but I've worked with many clients who have what is called an "identity wound." Common ones include "I'm broken," "I'm not enough," and "I'm not really a man."
Often, we cling to our job as a replacement for this deeper identity problem. This doesn't work.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Keagen Hadley explores his own broken identity. It doesn't seem like a torn ACL would be an event needing psychological intervention, but when it destroyed his ability to be who he thought he was, things became dark. Using a new type of ACT therapy, he fought back and earned his freedom.
You can read more about Keagen at his website:
https://keagenhadley.com/
Holidays are rough. The statistics are clear, most people have the most negative emotions during the holidays.
Ironic, eh? The devil does a good job ruining our "holy-days."
But what if it didn't have to be that way?
Do you want to have a "peaceful" holiday?
If so, I encourage you to listen to this episode as I offer six practical ways to transform your holiday experience. I'm not promising they'll be easy - or even comfortable! Instead though, they bring you closer to God and thus closer to peace.
I wish you the best holiday season; celebrate the birth of our Lord and the celebration of Our Lady with joy and peace!
Are you blaming someone or something else for that problem in your life?
Most of us humans do a horrible job of really taking responsibility for the fact that God gave us the power to create our own futures.
Most of us spend a lot of time being angry over something that deep down we really can fix.
I want to invite you to stop being one of those people. Life really is that much better once you stop playing a victim - and you have that power in your mind right now.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Vic Manzo and I discuss how powerful your mindset is. From the quantum level up to the macro level, your mind determines everything. He gives some practical advice and encouragement to make big changes, right now!
You can read more about Dr. Vic at his website https://www.empoweryourreality.com/links
You've probably heard the parable of the talents many times. We know that we're supposed to invest our talents wisely...but what does that mean?
So many Catholics are afraid of wealth and success. What if the opportunities of the world distract us from God's call?
But I think there is a deeper question that should be plaguing us - what if ignoring the opportunities God has given us actually isthe distraction from God's call?
Join me in this episode as Jonathon R Rivera and I discuss his journey from failure to success, and what he learned along the way. Most of all, we focus on how God's calling to him to be generous has led to his mission and fulfillment.
He also shares how he has learned to lead in his marriage and family while pursuing God's particular call.
You can read about The Podcast Factory and all that Jonathon offers at https://thepodcastfactory.com/more/
Even though men might not be as good at care-giving as women, we are definitely called to it! Yet many of us aren't quite sure how to do it.
Some of us hesitate to help out, worrying that we might not get it right.
Others help out so much they neglect to care for themselves, and reach burnout.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Edward Smink helps us sort out care-giving from all the angles. As a coach for care-givers and a care-giver himself, he has a lot of practical advice for us husbands and fathers. He'll challenge us to up our game and really care for those God has entrusted to us.
You can find out more about Dr. Edward Smink at his website https://soulofcaregiving.com/why
Jesus gave the apostles the Great Commission - and in (a slightly different way) gave it to us as well.
The Christian calling is to become an Intentional Disciple - to all vocations.
Yet, how well are we living that calling?
A new study put out by Desales Media and Vinea Research helps to answer this question, and the answer is sobering!
Join me in this episode as Dave Plisky from Desales helps walk me through the results of this new study. He discusses how active and engaged the Catholic community is - even after filtering down to those who are in deep relationship with Our Lord and the Church. We also discuss what you can do to increase your engagement.
You can read the survey results yourself at https://desalesmedia.org/discipleship/
As you read it, ask yourself where you fit in - and what would it take for you to find that next level of help. If you don't know, reach out and contact me - we'll talk!
In the last episode, you heard Bob talk about how Pure Desire helped him break free from pornography. In this episode, we go to the source; Nick describes his work at Pure Desire.
Like so many other guys out there (including me!), he was exposed to pornography at a young age, and became hopelessly addicted...
...but didn't want to see it that way.
It was just a problem that came up in some "new" way every so often, that he was for sure going to beat, that never really went away.
Even when a perfect opportunity was handed to him to try something new, he knew that it would be a great opportunity for those other guys who were actually addicted!
Thankfully his wife nudged his ribs and persuaded him to do it. His life was transformed forever. Yours can be too!
Join me in this episode as Nick and I discuss his story, and how Pure Desire finally cracked open his addiction enough to allow the healing love of Jesus to restore him. He shares his struggles starting from childhood and into marriage; escape seemed impossible! Yet, with a new and deeper approach, he found his freedom.
You can find out more about the Pure Desire program at https://puredesire.org/
You can also find Nick's books on Amazon at:
Setting Us Free
SAFE: Creating a Culture of Grace in a Climate of Shame
For over 50 years Bob was hopelessly addicted to pornography. Although he consistently tried to hide it, he was eventually caught at work and lost his job. His wife left him for 9 months when he continued to fall again and again.
Bob eventually lost hope that there was anything he could ever do to escape from this addiction. He even believed that God Himself couldn't set him free.
Until the day he finally decided to step out of the "boat" of his self reliance, and finally surrender to God.
I invite you to join Bob and I in this episode as Bob shares his incredible story of how God stepped into his hopeless addiction to pornography, and finally set him free forever. This is an incredibly emotional journey through hopelessness and pain.
You can find out more about the Pure Desire program at https://puredesire.org/
Ever notice how every guy is super eager to talk about what he does for work - but not to go that one step deeper and share how his virtues bring success in that job?
The irony is that it's actually way more helpful (and important) to share why we are successful with our brothers than what it is we're good at.
Underneath that success there are always virtues. Many businessmen think of virtues like perseverance, diligence, attentiveness, or energy. My claim though is that actually those aren't the real ones.
Join me in this episode as I discuss how the "eulogy" virtues of humility, loyalty joy, and integrity are actually the important virtues for your business success right now!
Life is complex. We hear a lot of messages that we don't really know how to interpret. So much gets tangled up in our minds - how does it all fit together?
What if life could be simpler?
What if love could be looked at, rather than a sweet and light feeling, but instead as a choice. Specifically, a choice that helps us grow, mature, and become a more Godly person?
Join me in this episode as Barry Nicolaou shares his life story of this exact type of growth. We have some bad thoughts (sometimes through our ego), but they don't serve us. Being open to God, open to love, open to connection is the only way to really find meaning and purpose.
Find out more about Barry at his website (including how to pre-order his new book, "Move the Mountain"): https://barrynicolaou.com/
Episode 100, yay!
It's been almost 2 years since I started this podcast, and it's been quite the adventure. At the same time, I've been helping countless men to forever change their lives for the better.
What's surprising is how many failings in common we all have.
We all fall to the same sins. We tend to then lose sight of ourselves in the process and drown in shame.
But there is hope!
In this episode I explore the six most common problems I've encountered in my time coaching, and what to do about them. It's extremely likely at least one of these will affect you.
Let me know what you think, I'm always looking for more feedback
My wife recently announced that she was diagnosed with adult ADHD. Maybe you don't know much about that - I sure didn't before this adventure started.
I'm sad to say I didn't handle it well at first.
Sometimes I still don't!
Join me in this episode as I talk about the 4 stages I went through in dealing with my wife's behavior and our marriage in light of her diagnosis. I didn't start out great, but what I learned applies to every time we don't like something about our spouse.
This episode is raw, and a little bit embarrassing. Let me know what you think!
Covid brought up a lot of problems - but many of those we discovered had nothing to do with the virus.
For those of us who have worked in the corporate environment, it's very clear that we have problems with how we interact - Office Space anyone?
Yet, there is one group of people who don't have time for endless staff meetings, committee discussions, and meetings-about-meetings. When you fly a fighter jet, the decision has to be made right now.
Join me in this episode and learn more about what Dom "Slice" Teich is doing - and how the wisdom of fighter pilots can help change your life too. He's worked with pilots, athletes, business owners, corporate executives, and even students. It is possible to be highly results-driven while still firmly planted in the Faith.
Find out more about Dom's "Single Seat Mindset" program at his website: https://www.singleseatmindset.com/
Healing, growth, and wholeness are never accomplished without God - but we don't always pause to notice Him.
The best coaching and development must include the faith; it's a core part of who and what we are.
But Catholics aren't the only ones with a relationship with God!
Join me in this episode as Mr. David Green shares his story and perspective on coaching and development from within the Jewish faith. Not only does he have a great story, he shares his perspective on what is a human soul, and how do we as humans use this knowledge to both grow closer to God and live more holy lives.
You can find out more about David at his website: https://www.realyouproject.com/
You can find his book Pictures of a Soul on Amazon
You can find his book A Book About You on Amazon
Masculinity is under attack right now. We rarely even use that word without the word "toxic." Our boys are left struggling trying to decide what it means to be a man, and if they qualify.
Rarely do our young men make good choices when struggling to understand what it means to be man. Instead of virtue, they pursue women, risk, or pleasure.
But what if you, as the father, can do something about that?
Join me in this episode to discover how society solved this problem in the past. Steven Arms is the author of the book Milestone to Manhood. He describes the idea of a Rite of Passage - a way to help our boys transition into becoming men. We owe it to our children to help them through what might be the most difficult transition of their lives.
You can find the book Milestone to Manhood on Amazon
You can read about Steven Arms and the Rite of Passage, as well as find tons of helpful resources at https://www.milestonetomanhood.com/
Addictions are hard to beat - trust me, I know! Yet, so often, the advice we get is to just "try harder."
Doesn't work.
So how about something different? How about something that shifts your brain chemistry directly?
Join me in this episode as I'm joined by psychiatric nurse Isaiah Cruz and we discuss medications available to help break addiction. This is a powerful new field of research that is having some stunning impacts.
Now, a lot of folks resist medications in general - especially those prescribed for the brain. And, in fairness, there are some good reasons to. But hear us out - if you're fighting for the holiness and purity needed to preserve your marriage and family, you need to think outside the box.
You can read more and discover if medication may be able to help you at https://www.no-x.net/
Isaiah and his partner have made it easy and safe to find a medication to help break your addiction - for good!
This was a difficult episode to record. Like many people's, my story has some really dark parts that I've suffered a lot of shame about. It's not easy to share.
Exploring our stories from the past is an incredibly powerful way to find healing, yet a lot of us are discouraged and don't believe healing is really possible. For those, hearing how someone else made it out can give hope.
My desire is for you to find hope from my story. If you, or someone you know, feels trapped and ashamed in addiction, get the help you need to find freedom!
If this episode connects with you, I strongly encourage you to schedule a free call, today. There is hope. You can finally find peace, without shame.
Wealth and money are emotionally loaded topics everywhere - but especially within the Christian community. Is it bad to be rich? How easily does that camel pass through the eye of a needle?
Yet perhaps it is wrong to squander the talents God has given, not fully applying them to build His kingdom.
How do we even figure it out?
Join me today as Mr. Bob Lotich shares his story with money. He gives a ton of practical advice about how to think about money, and how to change the financial situation of your family. He's helped tons of couples transform their financial woes into rich blessings.
You can get Bob's amazing book Simple Money, Rich Life from Amazon, or wherever you buy books
You can find his free Cashflow Spending Guide on his website.
You can also check out his courses!
Your brain physically changes when you hold onto an offense or wound.
Forgiveness isn't just about your spiritual health, it directly and significantly impacts your physical health as well! People are often afflicted with serious conditions simply because they refuse to forgive.
Yet, it can often be difficult (or even impossible) to forgive - what do we do?
Join me in this episode as I'm joined by Bill Senyard. We discuss the spiritual and physical consequences of forgiveness. Bill also shares several tools that he has (with his team) developed to help people (via God's grace!) to forgive those who have hurt them.
God wants more for us than to be a sacrificial robot. He created us to enter into the ultimate relationship, starting here on earth!
You can find more about Bill and his programs below:
Gospel App
The Forgiving Path
The Dance
Make sure to use coupon code "catholiclife" (without the quotes of course)
It's always been hard to be a parent. It's even harder to be a parent of teenagers!
Teens are stuck between the desire to be close and the desire to have independence - and it can come out in a funny way!
But what if there is a way to support them through this transition?
Join me in this episode as Jim White relays his wisdom and experience coaching countless parents through the hurdles of raising teenagers. He gives practical advice and clear steps to improve your relationship with your teen and increase your influence.
We want all of our children to become saints - teens need us the most. We just need to know how to show up!
You can find Jim's programs and read more about him at:
https://www.familyenrichmentacademy.com/opt-in-10-questions-rev-1
What if I told you that you could bring home an extra $50k next year?
What if you have the potential already - but aren't using it?
Many people seem to think that making money is "hard" or needs "luck" - but not my guest this week.
Join me in this episode as Nicky Billou explains how he helps entrepreneurs make more money than they dreamed of. His proven plan works - and the same ideas will help you make more money in whatever job you're in!
Be intentional with your life - you only get one. Now go out and get what you're worth!
You can sign up for a free call with Nicky at https://www.ecircleacademy.com/appointment
As a man, you've got a lot of responsibility on your plate. If you're married and have kids, you have even more! One day you will be called to be accountable!
A lot of guys don't think of themselves as "leaders" - but if you have anyone in your life you influence, you are one!
God's going to ask you what you did with this leadership.
How are you going to answer?
Join me in this episode as I have leadership expert William Attaway help explain why men must be leaders, and how to do it! We also cover practical tips to engage in your own growth, and where to get help!
You can find more about William Attaway and his book at https://www.catalyticleadershipbook.com/
Christ came to earth with a very clear mission, and a very powerful plan. Though he was (and is!) the King of Kings, he became a servant to all.
We all have things we want to accomplish, but all too often we get focused on serving ourselves and chasing our own desires. Ironically, this is less likely for us to get what we really want.
Join me in this episode as Ben Albert and I discuss the power of selfless giving - just serving others for the sake of serving others. It can transform your life, both in business and at home!
You can read more about Ben Albert and the marketing work he does at: https://balbertmarketing.com/
We all have things we do that we wish we didn't. Things we're ashamed of. Things we don't want anyone to know about.
We're desperate to change, but no matter how hard we try we simply cannot escape!
This is where coaching is so different!
- Different from therapy, just "dealing" with the effects!
- Different from self-help books, you need a guide!
- Different from going alone, your coach has your back!
Join me in this episode as Joseph Warren, another well established coach, talks about how he works.
We start with a discussion about anger, and how men can deal with anger. We quickly move on to the nature of how coaching works, and why it is just so different!
Joseph describes the problems in our heads as "rocks." He invites us all to get a coach and blow up these rocks that are not only keeping us from our dreams, but even threatening what we hold dear.
You can read more about Joseph at his website: https://www.josephwarren.net/
You can find his podcast at https://www.josephwarren.net/brokencatholic
You can get his book for free at https://freepurposebook.com/
Husbands and Fathers know we need to provide food on the table and roof on the head. Sadly, we also tend to think we don't get to choose a job we love.
But what if we didn't have to?
What if it is possible to pursue impact and meaning, as well as getting enough money to provide?
Join me in this episode as Gregory Offner describes how we can pursue meaning and impact. He offers some powerful tools to figure out what we really want, and pursue those deepest goals. He offers us 7 keys to finding this success.
And he's got a great story. Listen in to find out!
You can find more about Greg at his website http://www.gregoryoffner.com/ or text "keys" (no quotes) to number 33777.
Parenting is hard. Parenting teenagers can be really hard.
It's like suddenly all the rules of parenting change with little to no warning. We know we need to change as well - but how?
In this episode I'm joined by Jonathan Harris, the creator of the Parent Their Passion program. This program is designed to help you leverage your teen's passions and excitement to grow their talents into marketable skills.
His program has helped countless teens find a way to convert their passionate interests into an income.
You can read more about Jonathon on his webpage, https://parenttheirpassion.com/
Scandal is applied to the Catholic Church all too often. Those of us faithful in the pews can easily become discouraged and lose hope in the quality of our leadership.
And worse, even the bishops and priests who are striving for holiness are often too scared to speak up.
As a result, we faithful laity often feel powerless. But what if that's not true?
Join me in this episode as I talk to "Joe Sixpack" (not his real name of course), a man who knows a lot of our church leadership directly. We talk not only about the state of the Church, but more importantly about what we can do to help!
As with all episodes, there's a ton of practical advice. First, you can sign up for Joe's free classes here: https://joesixpackanswers.com/
You can find out more about the Cantankerous Catholic podcast in your favorite player, or check out the webpage here: https://cantankerouscatholic.com/
We all know that communication is hard for us guys. I think a lot of us aim low because it feels impossible to succeed!
But think, what could you do if you were a master at communication?
In this episode I'm joined by Brenden Kumarasamy, a communication expert. The conversation quickly gets real as we dive into not only communication at work, but at home too. This is a skill that everyone needs to master!
Filled with lots of practical tips and advice, you don't want to miss this one!
You can read more about Brenden at his website https://www.rockstarcommunicator.com/ or his Youtube channel.
Guys, we all know we do it - or rather, we don't do it.
We don't read the Bible as we should.
We know that it's the living word of God, but it seems like there isn't enough time. And maybe, if we're honest, it seems overwhelming.
The Bible has the power to utterly transform our lives - and it's time that we use it!
Join me in this episode as Chad Mansbridge describes his technique to reading the Bible. He has 3 steps that he describes in his new book "You Can Handle the Truth: Making Sense of the Bible in 3 Simple Steps" for how we can not only read it, but bring that benefit into our lives.
I want to challenge all of you men to take the Bible seriously - and READ it! Don't wait until it's too late.
You can find out more about Chad at his website https://www.chadmansbridge.com/ or follow him on social media at @Chad.M.Mansbridge.
Dobbs vs Jackson is staged to overturn Roe vs Wade. For those of us who are solidly pro-life, this is an awesome development! As cool as it sounds, however, many of us don't know what to actually do now?
What part of your life will change if Roe vs Wade is overturned?
How can you balance your pro-life belief with your need to work at your job?
Join me in this episode as I'm joined by Camille Pauley, an expert speaker in the pro-life movement. She has tons of practical advice for us "average guys" who are trying to figure out our next steps.
You can read more about Camille Pauley and the Healing The Culture organization at her website: https://www.healingtheculture.com/
There's no denying its harder to stand for Christ now than it was a hundred years ago.
The secularization of our country is rapid, but that's not a reason to give up.
Join me in this episode as I talk with a Catholic Financial Planner who is unabashedly Catholic and offers some great services. We talk about why its important to choose a Catholic business - especially as the big firms become more political.
You can find out more about Tyler at:
https://drexeldayfinancial.com/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/tylerhackenberg/
Catholic Financial Planners Network
It's hard to make a good decision.
You've got to get good information, wise advice, and spend some time thinking.
But if you're still stuck - it might be FOMO. What are you giving up when you decide?
Join me in this episode as I explore what "decide" means - starting with the word itself and how that matters. Don't be paralyzed by fear! Make the decision today.
Bringing our faith into our workplace is scary.
We all know how much "those people" are ignored and overlooked for future promotion.
But didn't Christ say to spread the gospel everywhere?
Join me in this episode as I am joined by Mr. Steven Harris to explore many different facets of how our faith can connect to our businesses. Steven is an entrepreneur at heart who loves the Lord. This episode is also a great demonstration of how a Catholic and a Protestant can find common ground!
Steven has started the Kingdom of God Entrepreneur program. You can check out his podcast and what he offers at his website!
http://www.kogentrepreneur.com/
We're all busy. Most of us feel overwhelmed...a lot!
Trying to balance everything that needs to get done for the job, family, wife, etc. often feels impossible.
So what do we do?
Join me in this episode as I meet Blaine Oelkers, the expert on getting results. He gives us tons of practical advice about how to get more done and have a way more positive experience going through it.
Grab a pen and paper, because the ideas, tips, and tricks come fast in this episode!
If you want to read more about Blaine, you can find him at https://blainetedx.com/
We all know the joke - Protestants know the Bible better than Catholics. Sadly, to some extent, it's true.
Reading the Bible is actually pretty hard; especially if you start from page 1 and try to go straight through.
But it doesn't have to be. What if that isn't the best way?
I am joined in this episode by Mr. Michael Ward, a protestant who has put together a different way to read the Bible. He challenges us to get to know the scripture better - and through it, to get to know Our Lord and the Spirit better too!
You can find out more about Michael Ward at his website:
http://6thsola.com/
Note: As a Catholic, of course I do not agree with Martin Luther's "Sola's" but I love how Michael Ward approaches reading the Bible!
We all know the story - the good thief and the bad thief. One goes to heaven that day. The good thief sounds pretty cool, right?
Think again.
I suggest to you that this was a pretty terrible dude - the sort you would never even want to go to a bar with because he might kill you!
Furthermore, you're a lot more like him than you might want to admit!
Join me in this episode as I discuss what it means to be like the good thief on the cross, what that means, and how to take that in as we get ready to go into the Triduum.
The great mass spanning Holy Thursday to Easter Vigil is a unique opportunity not only to renew our faith, but to deepen our understanding of what God has done in our lives. Don't waste it!
The topic of Diversity, Equity, and Inclusivity is a pretty divisive one right now.
Abstractly, we all know that a diverse set of perspectives is helpful, but we also each have horror stories of how policies in the DIE name have been rammed down corporate throats causing destruction.
How can we, both as Christians and as open-minded men, maximize the good while avoiding the sludge of politics?
Join me in this episode for something a little bit different. I've invited a DEI leader on for an honest, direct, but respectful conversation. There's a little bit of tension, but we find some common ground that I hope will be pretty persuasive.
Dr. Ray Arata is a leading DEI expert and a he's a man committed to the second greatest commandment. How do these mix? Join me to find out.
You can find more about his work below:
His new book is Showing Up: How Men Can Become Effective Allies in the Workplace. if you buy it directly from his website there's a bonus!.
Learn more at rayarata.com and bettermanconference.com
Failure is painful!
Feelings of rejection and inadequacy are rarely counted as our favorite moments.
But what if they are actually essential?
Join me in this episode as Dr. Eli Joseph and I discuss how failure and rejection actually form the basis of your future success. Even though they are painful, they can provide you the secrets to achieving what you really want.
We discuss how building a "resume" of all your failures and rejections can also highlight what skills and strengths you have gained. Every negative moment can be rephrased as a positive - and the goodness that was brought into your life can be found.
Eli has an infectious enthusiasm and you will leave this episode feeling better about your life - no matter how you have failed or fallen!
You can find out more about him at:
His new book; The Perfect Rejection Resume: A Reader’s Guide to Building a Career Through Failure
His website: https://www.drelijoseph.com/
You can listen to his TED Talk
It's hard to really live as a Catholic in our harsh secular world. Real displays of authentic Christian ardor are often punished - both at work and in social settings.
So how do we love God with all our heart, mind, soul, and might while living in this world?
Join me in this episode as I bring in George Manassa, host of the Catholic Toolbox, as an expert to help answer exactly that question. Speaking to us from the future (in Australia it's a day ahead!), he tells us about his resources to help live an authentic Catholic life in todays' crazy world.
You can find out more about him at:
https://thecatholictoolbox.podbean.com/
Movies are powerful. They can connect to the deepest part of our emotional and spiritual selves. When movies sneak in "progressive" agendas, however, it's easy to question if there is any good at all.
But are all movies bad?
What would Jesus want to watch with you?
Join me in this episode as Phil and I go over how movies can be an opportunity to draw closer to Jesus, rather than further. The fundamental elements of story so often point directly to the Gospel, if you know how to look at them.
You can find more about Phil at
https://www.jesuslovesmovies.com/shop.html
Lent has just started, and most of us are already struggling with whatever we gave up.
Worse, I'm grumpier to my wife and kids!
Why is it so hard to just do something different for 40 days? Why do we struggle and spend so much effort to do just one little thing?
If you want to make a real change, you need to do a lot more than just "try harder" - you need to think better. You need to explore your deepest and core beliefs. They shape who you become.
Join me in this episode as I discuss how to really make this a powerful Lent - how to really make real and lasting change that you can be proud of. It's worth it!
"What do you do with something that is broken?" If you are like most first-world people, the answer is simple. "Throw it away..."
What does that mean if I am broken? Does God then throw me away? Or is there something better that He has planned?
Join me in this episode as I interview John Jarman and hear his amazing story of how God transformed his brokenness. No matter how terrible your past, God still has a plan for you.
John has written an upcoming book about his story that should be an amazing tool for all of us who doubt in God's redemptive power for our own life. You can read about it on his website:
www.brokenandredeemed.com
The book is also coming to online book sellers, available later this year.
The human brain is way more powerful than most of us realize. It can perform calculations faster than any supercomputer in the world, and it has a direct line connection to the Almighty Himself.
How we use our brains, our minds, and our hearts is essential to our ability to find success and meaning in our lives. It's not easy! We are surrounded by lies and limitations that we don't need to buy into.
Join me in this episode as I introduce Liam Naden, a coach, writer, and teacher who specializes in how using your brain differently can bring the success you are looking for. We have an awesome conversation about how fear and our beliefs can get in our way.
If you want to have the marriage, family, job, or life-in-general that you want, you need to surrender control of it to God. Listen in to get some advice on how to do that.
Sports has a powerful impact on our society - especially for guys. With a few media exceptions, we generally consider sports to be completely separate from religion. But does it have to be?
Join me in this episode as I bring on the sports wizard Bruce Wawrzyniak. He's travelled the world with sports teams, and he's Catholic. How do they go together? Listen in to find out.
You can find more about Bruce at his website:
https://catholicsportsradio.net/
You can find his podcast Catholic Sports Radio on most podcast sources. Go check it out.
Sexual addiction is one of the biggest problems for men. Porn addiction - and worse - is almost universal. Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a therapist with years of experience working with men and their wives. He joins this episode to share his wisdom.
In this episode, Eddie and I dive into many facets of sexual addiction - how it starts from childhood, how the shame is crippling, and how to make changes by growing up emotionally. While many people adopt a posture of condemnation, in this episode we focus on healing and tenderness.
If you are struggling with any part of your sexuality, this episode is a must-listen!
You can find Eddie's book Why Men Struggle To Love on amazon.
Check out his two websites:
https://www.strugglingmen.org/
https://innerchild-sexaddiction.com/
Beauty is a topic that most men don't spend a lot of time thinking about, and yet it's always been one of the most effective and powerful aspects of connection, communication, meaning, and purpose. The modern world often scorns beauty, but we dismiss it to our own peril.
In this episode, John Lee and I have a great discussion about how beauty plays a role in family life, marriage, and even in the workplace. Beauty is slowly being recognized as a powerful way to spread your message to the world - people cannot ignore beauty.
When we explore the beauty that God has created around us, we discover a deeper meaning and purpose. I invite you to slow down and admire just a little bit of the beauty around you every day.
You can find out more about what John does at https://custommobile.app/.
Dr. Danny Brassell is a world-famous speaker, trainer, and coach who helps children learn to love reading - and helps their parents too! He has a nearly endless supply of captivating stories and an infectious enthusiasm.
Join me in this episode as Dr. Brassell and I talk about what role reading has played in our lives, how we help people to read more and provide tips for helping our children to learn to love reading.
We share a lot of great stories, containing both moments both serious and funny. I invite you to listen in and to check out his resources below!
You can get a free e-copy of his book "Read, Lead, and Succeed" by going to https://freereadingtraining.com/frt
You can also find out more about Dr. Brassell at https://www.lazyreaders.com/, or check out his latest book Leadership Begins with Motivation.
We reference two other books during the podcast:
The Killer Angels
The Dot and the Line
Paul Granger is a man with an amazing story, a story of faith through difficulties that would scare the pants off of most men. Yet, despite his challenges, he has a joy, peace, and love of Our Lord that most of us would be envious of.
Join me in this episode as Paul and I discuss how he managed to discern God's will through his struggles and challenges. Furthermore, we talk about how he found peace in himself and with his wife.
If nothing else, take the one tiny step forward in the direction God wants - leave the rest to Him. After you do one tiny step, maybe you can do one more tiny step.
You find more about Paul at his website https://www.wheredidyouseegod.com/ or his podcast https://www.wheredidyouseegod.com/podcast
Starting with very little in a poor African country, Babs Faseesin determined to change his life by changing his mind. Now he helps other people do the same to find their own purpose and meaning in their lives.
Babs hosted his first conference at age 17, working to build up community and support entrepreneurs. He is the author of the book Cracking the Life Code.
Join us in this episode as we discuss how you can find meaning and fulfillment in your life. No matter your situation, there are always ways to improve it and become better. Purpose is about satisfaction, not external acclaim. This is an awesome conversation, well worth your time!
You can find more about Babs at: https://www.crackingthelifecode.com/
You can reach babs at: help@crackingthelifecode.com
Business is hard - but so are relationships. Your success at business will be very similar to your success in relationships because the same skills are involved.
The challenge is to understand the other person - on a deep level.
Join me in this episode as I break open different layers of "who" you are - your temperament, your connotative, and your strengths. How do these play together in business? How can these help you better understand the other person and better connect?
Understanding these layers of yourself and others will transform what you think about them and how you interact. They could be the key to unlocking your next step!
Big 5 Personality Test by Jordan Peterson: https://www.understandmyself.com/
Kolbe A Index: https://secure.kolbe.com/k2/show_takeIndex/indexType_A
Gallups Strengths Finder: https://www.gallup.com/cliftonstrengths/en/252137/home.aspx
This is just a short bonus episode inspired by a book I was reading called Gates of Fire. You can find it on amazon here, or if you want to support the little guy, find it somewhere smaller. :)
I discuss two excerpts from the book. The first discusses what it means to be a "hero" and the second discusses how we as men balance our two callings - both to be in the world, and in the house.
This is one of my favorite books. I strongly encourage you to read it, I'm sure you'll find value also.
"Marriage is two selfish people living together" - Fr John Riccardo
All of us who are married live in the tension between what 'I want,' what 'she wants,' and what 'God wants.' It's rarely easy.
In this episode I get to introduce you to my wife and fellow life coach, Sterling Jaquith! We talk openly about our marriage and our life, some highs, some lows, and how coaching has played a role.
This may be may favorite episode, because it has my favorite person!
We all know we should move and use our bodies more, right?
But who has time for that?
What if you don't have the time to NOT get active?
Join me in this episode as I discuss how physical activity (it doesn't have to be crossfit!) is critical for our health - and not only physical.
Physical activity radically changes how you feel (emotional), how you think (psychological), and even your connection to God! This will change your life.
"Most people lead lives of quiet desperation" - henry David Thoreau
Are you one of them?
Most of us are, at least at some moments.
But you don't have to be!
If you want to radically change how you treat your wife, your children, your coworkers and friends (and maybe even yourself), you should come check this out. I call it the Masters program.
https://catholiclifecoachformen.com/masters/
I can promise you it will change your life - if you are willing to do the hard work. But you don't have to take my word for it.
Join me in this episode and discover if you have similar struggles to the men I've helped before. Desperation is not the goal that God made you for.
You know the scene. The husband and wife are having a difference of opinion. Both of them know full well there is a quiet disagreement happening right now. After a dark look, she responds with "we're fine, you get going!"
But what do those words really mean?
If you are like most husbands, those words seem to echo far deeper into our identities - am I a bad husband? Are we just going to keep fighting later? I guess there's no chance of meeting in the bedroom later.
We can be crushed - not by what was said, but instead by a meaning that doesn't come from the actual words, but from our thoughts.
Join me in this episode as I discuss how our thoughts regularly create deeper, scarier, and often unintended meanings from other peoples words. We all do it - and well suffer when we do.
You are always free to choose how you show up. This is real responsibility.
Do you feel stalled in your job?
Do you keep hitting your head against the wall?
Maybe it's time to try something different.
Whether you work for a large corporation or own your own business, the secret to your success is not something you can buy. You already have it.
The secret to your success is your mind - but you have to use it well!
Join me in this episode to learn some practical advice for how to think differently in order to be more productive and impactful in whatever job you have.
Every guy dreams of slaying the dragon.
Or maybe just winning "Dad of the year" award.
But that's never the first step.
The first step in any great accomplishment, achievement, or life improvement is tiny. So is the next step. And the one after that.
We have to learn to celebrate all these little victories, or we'll never reach the big ones.
Join me in this episode as I break open the idea of focusing on the littlest battles as the primary way to make real changes in our lives. If you want to win at life, listen in.
Lust is rampant. Pornography addictions likely affect somewhere between 1/3 and 1/2 of all Americans. We're all suffering from the damage done by this problem.
But there is an even deeper problem with the sins of Lust - We Christians shame the sinners in a way that is not Godly.
Join me in this episode as I explore a proper way to look at one's struggle with lust - whether pornography or otherwise. While never approving the sin, we all need to find a way to love and care for the sinner. Judgement, condemnation, and labelling only make the problem worse, and cause even more hurt.
If you struggle with lust, or know someone who does, this is a powerful message that has changed the lives of many men.
Mental illness is a real problem that affects a significant number of people.
But we don't even want to think about it, let alone deal with it!
Worse, it's one of the only illnesses that we "define" a person by. We never say "He's a broken arm" or "He's a heart-attack" but we do say "He's bipolar."
What does this do to our Christian brothers and sisters who are so reduced?
In this episode I am joined by Deacon Ed Shoener. We discuss the problem of mental illness, what we can do as Christians, and some of the details of the institute that deacon helped build. This is life changing information!
You can find Deacon Ed's ministry online at: https://www.catholicmhm.org/index
You can find his books online:
Responding to Suicide: A Pastoral Handbook for Catholic Leaders
When a Loved One Dies by Suicide
We would all love a manual for our wife. Wouldn't it be great if they could just operate the way that works for us?
Does anyone actually think that would work? Or would a guy just be sleeping on the couch?
The funny thing is we do have manuals. We just don't share them.
And no...they aren't helpful.
Join me in this episode as I go over how to be free from placing expectations on your spouse. Free to love, free to serve, free to be an awesome husband.
Every husband needs this.
Father Michael Zimmerman is the assistant Vocation Director for the Archdiocese of Boston, and the creator of the new Scivias film series. His goal is to help every Catholic do a better job of discerning the will of God - whether to a particular vocation of the priesthood, or in general in life.
In this episode, we discuss what we can do as practicing Catholics to really get back into touch with God's will. Whether you're a young man trying to discern a vocation, a married man trying to raise children, or an older gentleman trying to figure out what is next, Father Michael has advice for you!
You can check out Father Michael at the Vocations Boston facebook page here: https://www.facebook.com/VocationsBoston/
You can watch the Scivias video series at: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGjC2Of_y01dtHvkEYnd6zQ
We don't talk about despair much...even though we all have plenty of reason to fall into it.
Perhaps you've tried for years (or decades) to break free of some vice or shortcoming that has plagued you since childhood.
Perhaps despite intensive (herculean) efforts, you cannot seem to do what you think God wants you to...like really loving and serving your wife.
Join me in this episode as I dive into the topic of despair. What is it, and more importantly...what do we do about it?
You are not alone.
What do you call a trip that doesn't accomplish any of the formal objectives, and ends in everyone getting COVID?
Most people wouldn't think so.
But what if we measure the success or failure using different metrics? What if we look at relationships built or friendships forged?
Join me in this episode as I share some stories and lessons from my elk trip. You don't need to be an elk hunter to appreciate them!
Addiction is rampant in our society, but we rarely want to get help.
Why is that?
First, it requires admitting that we have a problem - ouch!
Second, we're not sure that anyone can really help anyways!
Let me tell you about something new:
Catholic In Recovery is not only a winner of the OSV Entrepreneurial award, but has an awesome purpose. Combining the time-tested power of 12-step programs ability to conquer addictions with the teachings of the Catholic Faith, this company is really cool.
Join me in this episode as I discuss what Catholic In Recovery can offer with it's founder Scott Weeman. Whether you have an addiction you'd love to overcome or know someone who does, this episode is powerful!
Guys, this is really important. We all beat ourselves up way too hard and fail to notice just how much good we have done.
This is toxic.
We are Catholic. We can have Both-And. We can both see our shortcomings, and recognize we have made great progress.
Join me in this episode to discuss how the powerful tool of Gap and Gain can make big changes in your mindset in almost any area of your life.
It's gonna be worth it!
Does it sometimes seem like you can never do enough to be "good enough" or "lovable?"
Do your slowly building pile of failures mean that you are actually a failure?
Are you actually a "bad guy" who has managed to fool everyone else, and you're scared they might realize it?
Join me in this episode as I discuss 4 of the most common male identity wounds. These are wounds so deeply baked into our sense of self that they become part of who we are.
While healing these is not (usually) simple or easy, there are ways to start.
Most Catholic guys know about Exodus 90. A lot of us have done it, and even more are a bit intimidated by it. And...let's be honest...there's a good reason to be intimidated. It's hard!
But so is everything else worth doing, ever.
So is your journey to sainthood.
If you want to finally find the freedom from your addictions and consuming worldly pastimes, you need to listen.
In this episode I'm joined by the Director of Content for the Exodus 90 program, Mr. Nathaniel Binversie. He shares not only some awesome Exodus 90 stories, but also gives us a sneak peak on some new stuff coming up! (And no, it's not even MORE suffering)
Some guys blow the top explosively
Some guys simmer quietly and hold resentment and bitterness.
Whatever your flavor, most of us guys struggle with anger. We know that we should be less angry, but it seems like life just overwhelms that desire. How do we actually make real progress?
Join me in this episode as I give several practical tips to make some real headway on anger.
Maybe you don't need to work on your self discipline.
Maybe you've got everything worked out and like what you show up with.
Or maybe not...
If you're like most of us guys, there are probably some areas to keep working on.
Join me in this episode to continue the discussion from Episode 7 about Self Discipline, and how to gain the freedom to be the guy you want to be!
School, Fall, Yay! Right?
Well, but there is that COVID thing still...
And marriages are really struggling. Like...for a lot of us!
This episode is a bit more timely. I've put together some of the common issues that seem to be affecting a lot of guys right now. Join me and see if you're struggling with something similar!
Jason Shanks is the president of the Our Sunday Visitor institute and an awesome guy.
In this episode he shares with us his story of perseverance. He contracted COVID-19 and had terrible complications to the point the doctors thought he was going to die, leaving his wife and 5 young children.
Despite overwhelming odds, this is the story of how his fight, working together with God's grace through the prayers of untold hundreds, created a miracle recovery.
Also, he shares some of the awesome plans for OSV, and where he plans to take this amazing Catholic institution following this experience!
Even before the lockdowns began, finding the right job was tough. So many of us spend away our years working in an environment that didn't bring out our best.
Now, as the lockdowns are ending, more employees than ever are looking for something new. We've all gotten a taste of something different, and it's changed what we're looking for.
But what should a guy look for?
How do you know if this job is a "good fit?" - and what does that even mean??
Join me in this episode as I explore a lot of modern tools that can help you understand what type of job and role you'll find that fulfillment that we all desperately need.
Even if you're not looking to change, it's helpful to learn more about who you are!
Let's face it. Most guys...just aren't great at talking.
We'd rather gesture and grunt.
I definitely prefer "the look"
Yet, despite all our mastery of these essential skills, they don't seem to satisfy our wives and family.
Join me in this episode to continue the discussion from last week about how to talk in way that brings us closer to the person we're trying to connect with, rather than further away.
It's worth it. Your family, Your friends, and even Your Lord want to have real communication!
"Sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me..."
Fewer ideas could be more incorrect - or more dangerous!
Join me in this episode to dive into the topic of how to communicate. This is extremely powerful stuff - especially for your marriage, but also for your other close relationships.
The words that come out of your mouth, and the way you let words into your ears, can be one of the most important skills you can develop for a happy life.
We all have a history. We all have stories.
These stories often define how we act and what we do - even if when we don't want them to.
For most of us, we have pieces of our past that still cause strong emotions. Those emotions are there for a reason! There is work to be done here.
In this episode, I discuss the power of exploring our Past. Story Work is difficult, but essential if we really want to grow in holiness and virtue.
The past isn't dead...in fact it isn't even really the past!
Some of us grew up camping - and some did not. Especially if you have younger children, it can seem more than a bit daunting to venture out into bug-infested wastelands that can both freeze and burn you on the same day!
This episode is something new. Steve Vando joins me and we flip the tables! He interviews me about my experience taking kids camping (along with all the guest-heckling that a host is supposed to do.)
We discuss a lot of practical tips as well as share some good stories.
If you have thought that maybe you should try the outdoors with children, then this episode is a Must-Listen!
In the beginning, The Father spoke the Word to create the world. Adam then Named all the animals.
Ever wonder why the secular studies show that it's up to Dad to make sure the kids stay in the faith?
There is something profound about how men can Name, and it means something?
In this episode we explore this God-given gift to men, within the headship of the marriage - and what responsibility that creates for each man.
We live in a crazy world right now where there's a lot of darkness. Between pandemic, election drama, riots, etc. there's good reason to be skeptical and negative.
But it doesn't help you to be so!
Join me in this episode to discuss how embracing a spirit of gratitude can transform your life even in the most difficult of moments. It can give meaning and lead to courage and love.
The alternative is to simply agree with the devil, that everything is bad. Who wants to be on his team though?
Sometimes we are blessed with an awesome boss...And sometimes we are not.
So what do you do when you have a Bad Boss? It's time to make a plan, and get busy doing it.
Join me in this episode to discuss practical ways to find improvement if you have a Bad Boss.
Adam, dude....
Ever since the apple fell, guys have been workin' hard. But what does it mean to work? Why is it important, and how do we find the job that is right for us?
In this episode I offer some philosophical and some practical advice for how to determine the right job for you; a job that offers both money and meaning.
"What's your story?"
It's undeniable - we live in a scientific mindset world. And it works...right? Well, for some things yes. If you need to get a rocket to the moon, absolutely. If you need to understand why love is fickle and sometimes hurts...not so much.
In this episode we explore the other half of reality, that of the story, or the narrative events. It's not about measurements in feet, pounds, or degrees, but is instead about what has real meaning in our lives.
Join me to find out more.
I just got back from one of my favorite camping trips of the year.
11 dads.
Almost 40 kids.
Hot sun. Cold nights. Mosquitos. Lakes. Shooting. Eating. Drinking.
But, in case you missed out, I've distilled 5 powerful lessons I learned from this trip. Can't wait to share.
We all have a viewpoint of the world that is different from each other, but there are patterns. Some people look at the world with the belief that there is so much more goodness out there to be discovered, while some people worry that there simply isn't enough. The former is an attitude of Abundance, while the latter is an attitude of Scarcity.
In this episode I open up this subject from a Biblical view. Consistently in the Bible, God invites us to believe in His goodness, and the superabundance of His goodness. But how do we actually do this?
The first step to solving any problem is to be aware of the problem. Or, said differently, one cannot confess a sin without knowing that one has sinned. Awareness is a critical part of any growth process.
Awareness isn't simple, however. There are many different ways to be aware - and specifically, different steps in the mental process for awareness to act. As we become aware earlier in the process, we slowly get closer to sainthood. In this episode, I invite you to become more aware of how aware you are.
Control.
Self-reliance. (Ungodly, of course)
We all want to control. We all like to trick ourselves into thinking that we actually DO have control.
In this episode I really explore what it means to have control, why we want it, and how we use control to further our own perceived need to be self reliant. If you really want to live the life you TRULY want, then instead of gripping more tightly, the only solution is to surrender our will to God. In surrender lies true freedom.
Probably the most consistent question I get asked in a phone call is "How is Life Coaching different from Therapy?" It may seem like they are similar - but actually have some pretty significant differences in approach. It all has to do with Trauma.
In this episode I discuss what trauma is and how it works. The bigger question most people want to ask - what can you do about it?? We all have trauma (at least all of us whose parents were human.) The extent of the trauma determines what we do next.
Very few guys I've met like to talk about their feelings. So much so that a common joke about what guys least want to do is "sit and talk about our feelings." Yet, we do need to talk about them. Furthermore, we need to dig deeper to really find them - then take the even bigger risk and share them with those whom we love.
In this episode I really go deeper on the idea of how feelings play a role in our lives. This is often one of the biggest resistance points I have with new clients who really really want to claim they do not have feelings. In this episode, you'll learn not only why it's helpful to dig and share your feelings, but how to do it too!
This was a tough topic for me. When I first learned about my own disordered love style I was really resistant to what I was reading. I didn't see - for quite some time - that what I was doing was wrong. I certainly didn't see how it was hurtful to my wife.
We all fail at the commandment to love. God created us from love, and for love. Yet, instead of living out a true covenant-style love of complete and total mutual gift of selves, we close the doors to one piece or another. This created pain in our relationships - especially in our marriages.
I really invite you to come along with me on this episode.
Show notes:
Milan and Kay Website for How We Love:
Amazon link to their book
My coaching page if you want to go deeper.
Relationships are hard - especially as guys. It often seems that women have a bit of an advantage at understanding, empathizing, and ultimately connecting with others. Yet, despite our frequent claims otherwise, relationships are just as important to guys.
This episode focuses on how to live the Lord's second greatest commandment. Love thy neighbor as thyself. If you pause and think, it almost sounds impossible. How can I love someone who has done terrible terrible things? We'll get to that.
Also, in this episode, I introduce a lot of concepts and terms that will change how you think about your relationships, and change how you show up for others.
This episode is a tough one to hear. We all have limitations - things we want to be a certain way, but they are not. Many of these limitations cause us real problems and real pain. Rarely do we fully understand why God has allowed them to be.
Yet, in these limitations, we often find our deepest meaning and purpose. We find the little things that change our lives and help us to become better and more virtuous Christians. We find that God actually does know what He's doing!
Books often start with a prologue - but if you're at all like me, you don't always read them. Yet, they have the power to set the stage for the rest of the story. Similarly in life: rarely do we fully understand how important our thoughts are to what happens in our lives. The Bible does though! Not only does it understand how important the prologue is, it even gives us some really good ones to use.
In this episode we explore examples of how a prologue can radically change your understanding of a story. We connect that to our own thought processes, and how we can change what a story means and how we respond simply by changing what we think about it. We also discuss the devil's goal to tell his own prologue, and how to overcome that effort.
Lent is nearly over, and we're just starting Holy Week (at the time of recording at least.) In so many ways God asks us to stay with Him, and stay faithful to Him, and most of all to repent and return to Him every time we stumble.
In this episode we explore how we can be the hero, we can receive God's blessing, only when we are faithful and obedient. But, how do we actually do that? In the crazy world we live in, it's so easy to be consumed by the world. Let's turn back to God.
In this episode we continue looking at how God's plan for us humans actually does NOT include our right to righteous anger - or any anger at all for that matter! Sound crazy? So did Jesus!
Living a life free from anger feels about as impossible as living a life free from lust. Yet, not only does God invite us to this holiness, He has given us the power, through His grace, to be able to do exactly that.
I encourage you to listen to this episode. If you, like me, suffer from anger, perhaps it's time to start to change!
I didn't think I was an angry guy when growing up. Then I got married and had kids, and started to discover just how much I really do struggle with anger. Though I made some good progress in dealing with it, I always thought if anger as somehow a "sometimes OK" kind of thing.
The book Unoffendable, written by Brant Hansen, has deeply challenged this view.
What if indulging in Anger, like Lust (e.g. Pornography), isn't the sort of thing that is "sometimes OK?" What if, instead, Christ calls us to live a life based on radical forgiveness, the forgiveness that can only come through His grace? If you want to live a better life, free from anger, this book can help.
In this first episode of several, I start to explore Brant's view anger.
In this episode I am joined by Mr. Gus Romero, a business coach who started by working with college students. He shares with us some of the basic steps he takes these kids through to transform their lives. He also shares with us stories of radical transformation!
If you want to change your life, your marriage, your career, or improve your faith, this episode will give you some practical advice on how to really dive in and do it! God created us for greatness.
You can find Gus at https://thinkintosuccessacademy.com/
You can also reach him at 239-580-7288
This is a must-listen to episode if you have teenagers at home. I'm joined today by Mr. Micah Spader, a missionary with Vagabond Missions. Vagabond works in inner city neighborhoods trying to reach teens who may never even have heard of the gospel.
Micah also shares some of his own story with us, and it's a powerful testimony! Not only did he have his own challenges growing up, but he can share the perspective of the teens he works with as well. I'm excited for you to learn more about this amazing missionary!
You can read more about (or donate to!) Vagabond Missions at:
https://www.vagabondmissions.com/
Nobody likes fasting, yet our Lord specifically instructs us to fast. He even promises power, the power to drive out some demons that prayer alone isn't enough for. I bet most of us have some of those demons in our lives.
In this episode, in preparation for Lent, I open up the old idea of Fasting. Why? How? Actually...still stuck on "Why??" Fasting means eating less food, feeling hungry, and creates a space for the Holy Spirit to move in our lives. I encourage you all to fast this Lent.
Coaching is a new phenomenon in Christendom, but it is spreading rapidly. More and more people are finding the power of a coach to make that difficult change they've always wanted to! It's never easy - and generally involves a fair bit of painful self introspection, but it really can work!
In this episode, I am joined by Mr. Rick Erisman, a Life Coach who has a diverse experience in helping people through challenges - especially for families and the youth. We have a great discussion about what Coaching is, what it can do, and how it is evolving. Most importantly, we talk about how it fits into our Catholic faith.
Cursillo starts with a 3 day retreat weekend full of both Theological Content and Contemplative Encounter. Many men and women have gone through this program to find their faith deepened and relationship with Christ transformed. The best part (in my humble opinion) is the group support and connection that Cursillo participants have the opportunity to join.
In this episode we are joined by Mr. Bill Santo. He's has participated in and helped to run dozens of Cursillo retreats, contributing at every level. He helps us to understand what effect Cursillo has had in his life, and countless men and women who have gone through the program. I encourage you to listen to this episode, and schedule your own Cursillo retreat, as available in your area!
Before I converted, I really had a negative view of the phrase "Catholic Guilt." It seemed like something people accused Catholics of having to do weird, irrational actions. It wasn't until long after I converted that I understood the proper role of Guilt in my faith.
We are in a battle. The forces of darkness have a wide array of weapons they are eager to use against us. Today we open up one of those weapons, Shame, and give really practical tips on how to identify it, as well as to diffuse it's power.
"Busy" has become almost a safe-word now for a lot of us. When asked "How have you been?" most people now answer with "Busy!!" Yet, what does BUSY really mean? Is it helping us become better men? Is it helping us grow in holiness?
In this episode, we explore the concept of Busyness. We tie in the Pareto Principle, as well as Price's Law, to demonstrated how most of the things we are "busy" with actually aren't helping us. Like Martha complaining to Jesus about Mary, we have got to see the bigger picture. If we don't, we're in danger of making our checklist more important than our most important relationships!
Science is cool. Confusing sometimes - maybe even overwhelming at moments, but definitely cool. As we continue to further our understanding of the human mind, we find deeper truths about just how wonderfully God has created us.
In this episode we're going a bit deeper. Take a good breath, because not only are we discussing the way our brains process information, we're going to be trying to extract meaning from that information. Finally, and most importantly, we're going to learn how to control that meaning to positively affect what matters most in life!
Nobody likes to think that they have caused their own problems - but for most of them, we have! We all need to get better "bouncers" to guard the doors into our mind. Get those destructive thoughts out!
In this episode I am joined by Mr. Matt Ingold from Metanoia Catholic, an organization combining the best of secular thought work and coaching with the time tested truths of our Catholic Faith. He tells us about the work going on there, and especially the journal they have created. It's a tool that will transform your life!
You can check out the journal below, including a free downloadable mini-version that will also include access to a 7 video course to help you use it!
https://metanoiacatholic.com/get-started/ click on "Try Our Journal for Free"
To order the full journal, go here: https://shop.metanoiacatholic.com/
Lastly, you can sign up for their training webinar here, in anticipation of the full Academy coming later this spring!
Most Catholic guys have at least heard of Exodus 90, and usually let out a really deep sigh at even the thought of the program. And let's be honest - it's not easy! Sometimes though, the things that are most important take the most effort.
Exodus 90 is not about suffering. It's about freedom. It's about fraternity. It's about using the support of your Christian brothers to open up your life for God's grace to work in! It's tough work!
In this episode I bring in a very special guest, Mr. Bob Hover. Bob will share his story and his adventure going through Exodus 90, as well as other powerful fraternal experiences. Bob, like many of us, has had his challenges; he shares with us how it all changed.
If you have ever considered that God might be calling you to shed some of your earthly attachments (and who hasn't??) then this episode is for you!
Resources mentioned in this show:
Exodus 90 webpage: https://exodus90.com/
Consecration to St. Joseph: https://www.amazon.com/Consecration-St-Joseph-Wonders-Spiritual/dp/1596144319/
City of the Lord, a charismatic Catholic Community: https://www.cityofthelord.org/
Thank you for listening!
I remember when I first encountered the concept of a Quiet TimeOut instruction from Dr. Ray Guarendi. I thought it was crazy. I thought it would never work with my kids. I was worried it would look like weakness. I was so wrong.
How we control ourselves when interacting with our children is critical not only to their development, but to ours as well. Parenting is HARD, but that's not an excuse for us to just toss in the towel. Our job is to get these kids to Heaven, nothing less!
In this episode I introduce a really neat tool that revolutionized how I discipline myself. It will teach you more about yourself than the kids, and you will be more confident and capable if you can master it. The concept goes so far beyond a TimeOut!
Ugh, Self-Discipline isn't a fun topic! Nevertheless, it's so critical to our primary mission: Be A Saint!! If we cannot discipline ourselves, we cannot do what Our Lord asks of us. Even if we know it's important, however, it can easily seem overwhelming.
In this episode I lay out a model for how to improve our self-discipline in small and steady steps, with multiple types of accountability. This work is not going to be fun, but it will transform your life!
Simply put, pornography may be one of the single biggest crisis our culture is facing. It is destroying our marriages, families, self-identity, and even our own brain chemistry. Statistically, almost all men have struggled or still do struggle with the compulsion for pornography.
In this episode, I invite a special guest Steven Pokorny from the Freedom Coaching School to join us. He brings to the table not only some stunning (and terrifying) statistics and biochemical learnings, but also his experience from the front-line fighting against this evil.
If you are a guy (or know a guy) who is struggling with pornography, this episode is a must-listen!
You can read about Steve's coaching business at: https://freedom-coaching.net/
You can find his book "Redeemed Vision: Setting the Blind Free from the Pornified Culture,” Available on Amazon: https://goo.gl/K8NeJr
You want to become better. You want to become a saint! One of the biggest barriers in your way is...You! Getting control of your thoughts is essential to improving anything in your life that you want to be better.
In this episode I continue the theme of mindset work and really encourage guys to get serious about what's going on in our heads. This stuff matters!
Ever since I watched Nelson hit Bart with his own hand, I knew I was doing something like that myself. It wasn't until I discovered the power of our own thoughts that I came to realize how.
The ancients tell us that our thoughts determine our reality - but what does this mean? In a scientific age, what can this mean? Well, surprisingly, it may be more close to true than we might like.
In this episode I start the exploration of how our thoughts affect every aspect of our understanding. They literally create our results. If you want to stop punching yourself, gain control of your thoughts!
In this episode I dive into what men should expect to feel, and why we feel them. These are both super important, because we have some really bad ideas about both.
Men should want to feel feelings in the same way that Jesus did. He not only feels them all, but he intentionally makes space for them.
It gets even more interesting when we explore why we get them. While there are several types and moments of feelings that are inspired by external events, most of our feelings are heavily dependent on how and what we think.
We all know that a coach is what separates a professional sports player from a casual one. Yet, when we contemplate what sort of life we want to live (and be remembered by), we all too often don't aim high enough. We are called to sainthood!
In this episode we explore what a Life Coach is all about, and why you need someone to help you take your game to the next level.
We all want to be Men of God, yet it's so hard to know what that even looks like sometimes. I know that I screw up a lot and tend to hide behind worldly comforts. What would it even mean to stand tall before God?
In this episode, we go back to the scriptural beginnings of the first time that a man hid himself, and what that means for us men today. All men are challenged to find a new vision for their life, ever striving towards the goal of sainthood.