Help? with Ashley Jaggi: Recent Episodes
Ashley Jaggi
Fast track tools for optimal mental health, meaningful relationships, and living the life God is calling you to for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints with Ashley Jaggi, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Life Coach.
Tips to Boss Your Brain, learn the Psychology of Happiness, Increase Emotional Intelligence, Update Brain Programming and Act in Agency.
The advice offered is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information. It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care. Although Ashley Jaggi is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist by providing this content. Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment. The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever. The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease. The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.
Join Ashley in this episode where she talks about strategies to see, feel, and do things that will bring body acceptance into your life!
When you see your body, what thoughts do you have? What words do you put on to add meaning? What do you feel toward your body? Does it feel like an enemy or an ally? How in tune with your body are you? Do you take cues from it? Have you gotten good at ignoring it? Tune in as Ashley discusses the need for body neutrality and an idea for achieving it.
Apostle M. Russell Ballard said at a campus wide BYU devotional in 2017, “We need to listen to and understand what our LGBT brothers and sisters are feeling and experiencing. Certainly, we must do better than we have done in the past so that all members feel they have a spiritual home where their brothers and sisters love them and where they have a place to worship and serve the Lord." Listen in to explore this topic with Ashley.
Resources:
https://gather-conference.com/https://www.listenlearnandlove.org/support-groupshttps://www.listenlearnandlove.org/presentations
Works Cited:
http://benschilaty.blogspot.com/2023/https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-truth-about-exercise-addiction/201710/why-are-suicide-rates-higher-among-lgbtq-youthhttps://www.dropbox.com/s/qb7c2os3yi4sbdv/Rexburg%204.30.2022.pdf?dl=0https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2023/04/47nelson?lang=eng
Our Father and His son, Jesus Christ, greatly desire to bless us. They can and they do! Doctrine and Covenants 41:1 says, “Hearken and hear, O ye my people, saith the Lord and your God, ye whom I delight to bless with the greatest of all blessings” Listen in to hear how the Lord blesses us through the matchless gift of his grace!
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2005/04/the-tender-mercies-of-the-lord?lang=enghttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/gs/bless-blessed-blessing?lang=enghttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/inspiration/the-lord-is-delighted-to-bless-us?lang=eng
God has so much to give us and He is always blessing us. When we receive these blessings from Him, we can enter in to the cycle of abundance and give thanks to Him for those things OR we can take credit for those blessings and take the Lord out ushering in the Pride Cycle. The Abundance Cycle, as identified by Brooke Snow, shows us how to receive these blessings and live in abundance. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1989/04/beware-of-pride?lang=enghttps://faithlightstheway.blogspot.com/2022/05/http://brookesnow.comhttps://sarahgracelive.com/
We all have things from our past that we regret or that continue to haunt us. We need to clear out the clutter! We need to face it, share it, and resolve it. This month's resource helps us do just that! Listen in and make peace with the past to move forward uninhibited toward a bright future! Show Notes:https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/addiction-recovery-program-a-guide-to-addiction-recovery-and-healing/step-4-truth?lang=enghttps://alcoholicsanonymous.com/aa-12-step-program-alcoholics-anonymous/https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2002/04/the-other-prodigal?lang=enghttps://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/04/47nelson?lang=eng
If you often get defensive in your interactions with others or have noticed a fear of people seeing who you really are or worry that if people saw the real you they’d reject you, you may be inviting contention into your relationships! What are your underlying worries or fears in the relationship? If we are able to check those out with the people we’re close to and be authentically ourselves, our relationships have a much better chance of being deep and sustaining.Jacobsen: https://www.marriage.com/advice/mental-health/ways-to-overcome-relationship-imposter-syndrome/#:~:text=more%20satisfying%20relationship.-,What%20is%20imposter%20syndrome%3F,they%20are%20not%20that%20greatNelson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2023/04/47nelson?lang=eng
The truth is, we all come with needs and we will either seek to meet them in healthy ways, or ignore our needs or seek to meet them in unhealthy ways. Ignoring these needs or meeting them in unhealthy ways often leads to resentment, disconnection and contention. Listen in to learn more!
Disagreements are a healthy part of any relationship. Contention, however, is destructive. President Nelson taught us the key to eliminating contention- it’s charity. The love of God. Being Christlike. That is the goal. But so often, pride gets in the way! Listen for some tips to eliminate pride and preserve relationship!Show Notes:Eubanks: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2008/01/putting-my-marriage-before-my-pride?lang=engNelson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2023/04/47nelson?lang=engMonson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2007/07/the-peril-of-hidden-wedges?lang=eng
Should is a shame-based statement that often creates stress and anxiety in your body and mind.Try replacing with “could” or “will” or a wish statement. Such as: I could make that phone call. I will take care of that right now. And, It would be nice if I always felt up to doing my work. Or, I wish that they wouldn’t do that.”Links:https://drsoph.com/blog/2018/8/27/should-the-one-word-you-need-to-stop-sayingnowhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-path-passionate-happiness/202205/why-no-good-comes-the-word-should
Words can hold a lot of power! Tune in to find out just how much and what to do with that power! Episode 3:https://rss.com/podcasts/ashleyjaggi/523443/Object Lesson:https://sunshynegray.com/the-power-of-our-words/Stevenson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/04/15stevenson?lang=engBook of Mormon:https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bofm?lang=engEddy:https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/10/54eddy?lang=engBrooke Snow:https://brookesnow.com/free-courses/Jenny Phillips:https://hislightmusic.com/Jenny Phillips:https://hislightmusic.com/
Viewing our thoughts as information rather than facts can make a world of difference! We can create space between our thoughts and our beliefs. Listen in as I share 5 analogies for helping us get unstuck from our thoughts using the acronymn CCOST.
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We are going to continually find ourselves stepping off the path of discipleship in our journey back to the Father. We can picture it like being stopped on the side of the road. Progress halted. In those moments we have to decide if we will turn back to God or continue to turn to sin or weakness. Progress is less frequent stops. Progress is being more quick to turn back to the path of discipleship through the Atonement of Jesus Christ!
Show Notes
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/10/35wilcox?lang=eng
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/new-era/2012/08/how-do-i-know-when-i-am-forgiven?lang=eng
https://www.ldsliving.com/why-god-is-willing-to-forgive-you-faster-than-you-think/s/89849
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/forgiveness?lang=eng
It is proven in research again and again that gratitude reprograms our brains to be happier. We also become more resilient- better able to handle stress. So if you want to increase your happiness and joy, listen in as I share insights into incorporating a routine practice of gratitude into your life!
Elder Uchdorf: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2014/04/grateful-in-any-circumstances?lang=eng
President Nelson: https://newsroom.churchofjesuschrist.org/article/president-nelson-gratitude-message
Emotions are the result of the input our brain is receiving in a given moment and are chemicals released by our brain to move us.
In my work, I teach you to be agents who act using our agency rather than just being at the mercy of default brain programming, old habits, or circumstances. I want YOU to have a say about what emotions are running the show in your life!
Listen in as I teach you two ways to determine what emotions you are experiencing!
Show Notes:
Jody Moore Episode: https://jodymoore.com/37-thoughts-you-can-try-on/
There is great freedom in forgiveness. It frees us to start fresh. It frees us to feel the Spirit. It allows joy and peace to be restored.
It does not excuse past behavior or say what happened was alright. It does not mean staying in a position to continue to be harmed. It does not equate to forgetting. Listen in as I share some thoughts and insights about forgiving others as well as ourselves.
Show notes:
Josephine Ferraro, LCSW: https://psychotherapist-nyc.blogspot.com/2013/06/holding-onto-anger-is-like-drinking.html#:~:text=There%20is%20much%20wisdom%20in,as%20current%20and%20future%20relationships.&text=Letting%20go%20of%20anger%20is%20a%20process.
Elder Busche: https://kevinhinckley.com/userfiles/files/busche_fenzio_1996_05.pdf
Christ with woman caught committing adultery: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/nt/john/8?lang=eng
Happiness is not the absence of hardship. It is not the fleeting hits of dopamine from eating chocolate and ice cream. And it is not found in worldy pursuits.
Happiness is a feeling you can have based on the thoughts you are thinking or the sum of the life you are living. Happiness, or joy, is a feeling you can receive from Heavenly Father who promises us eternal joy.
Joy and Spiritual Survival: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2016/10/joy-and-spiritual-survival?lang=eng
Listen in as I share the powerful doctrine and truth of ministering angels! Angels administer to men according to their faith. Our covenants made at baptism grant us constant access to ministering angels and we can literally ask for their help!
Links:
Uchtdorf: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/10/41uchtdorf?lang=eng
Holland: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2008/10/the-ministry-of-angels?lang=eng
Nelson: https://www.ldsliving.com/sister-nelson-how-angels-can-help-us-more-in-our-lives/s/87981
Gardner: https://www.ldsliving.com/do-you-really-know-what-priesthood-keys-are-heres-a-helpful-breakdown/s/11091
Dahl: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/1988/03/i-have-a-question/is-there-any-truth-to-the-idea-that-we-have-guardian-angels-who-watch-over-and-protect-us?lang=eng
Covenant Keepers: https://deseretbook.com/p/covenant-keepers-unlocking-the-miracles-god-wants-for-you?variant_id=127900-hardcover&s_cid=bl180313&utm_source=ldsliving&utm_medium=blog&utm_content=bl180313-87981
Priesthood Power of Women: https://deseretbook.com/p/priesthood-power-of-women?variant_id=170500-hardcover&s_cid=bl221027&utm_source=ldsliving&utm_medium=blog&utm_content=bl221027-11091
To create space for joy, for new habits, or for growth, we need to declutter and pull out the weeds that are meant to go. We need to allow space for the new to enter in.
Links:
Elder Robbins: https://gentlyhewstone.files.wordpress.com/2015/11/simplicity-final.pdf
CES Devotional: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/broadcasts/worldwide-devotional-for-young-adults/2023/01/14holland?lang=eng
Hymn: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/hymns/ring-out-wild-bells?lang=eng
Budge and Rumi: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2019/10/27budge?lang=eng
Tina Peterson and Catherine Arveseth: https://segullah.org/daily-special/the-battle-in-our-brains/
Our brains shy away from change because it is unfamiliar. But you may find it isn’t so hard after all with strategy and science on your side! Listen as I share 3 easy to implement tips for success!
Small and simple acts and choices can make a huge difference in our lives. They can bring about great changes in our happiness and health, our relationships, our temporal preparedness, and in our spirituality. As we embark on a new year, take notice of the small and simple practices in your life and see if there's a few changes you want to make to be in a different place a year from now.
References:
Alma 37: 6-7
Hinckley: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1984/04/small-acts-lead-to-great-consequences?lang=eng
The Happiness Project: https://parentotheca.com/2022/05/13/the-happiness-project-gretchen-rubin-book-summary/
Dunn: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/10/54dunn?lang=eng
Uchdorf: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2016/04/in-praise-of-those-who-save?lang=eng
Waddell: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2020/10/25waddell?lang=eng
Wheelright: https://speeches.byuh.edu/devotionals/the-power-of-small-and-simple-things
Oaks: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04/small-and-simple-things?lang=eng
Listen in as I share some useful and enlightening names of Christ and how you can bring them into your life as well as a short introduction to the 4 authors of the gospels in the New Testament.
Sources:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Four_Gospels
https://www.catholic.com/qa/please-explain-the-difference-between-the-sadducees-and-the-pharisees-in-the-gospels
https://www.lds.org/new-era/2007/01/who-are-matthew-mark-luke-and-john?lang=eng
https://www.quora.com/Christianity-Why-is-John%E2%80%99s-gospel-so-different-from-the-other-three
https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/religion/story/john.html
Listen as I share 3 of my very favorite Christmas stories to warm your heart and home and check out christmasstories.org for other great stories!
Also, check out these other great resources:
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/media/collection/light-of-men-podcast?lang=eng&track=/media/audio/the-light-of-men-the-life-and-ministry-of-jesus-christ-good-tidings-of-great-joy-f623023?lang=eng
http://myalnwick.co.uk/Christmas/?fbclid=IwAR2HSL1doeUJCti_Qic7rNtb_8tuYw7ibCEug-q28z6c9Cvjs_32xVn5QmE
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/children/resources/topics/christmas?lang=eng
Listen in as I share the three things our brain likes to tell us and how to counter these things using our thoughts, talking back to our brain, and using the tool, "the truth is."
We do not have to let our brains run on outdated brain programming. We can talk back to them and override them and reprogram them for our benefit!
Prior episode on "the truth is" as mentioned in this episode: https://rss.com/podcasts/ashleyjaggi/629292/
When something comes up that is out of our control, focusing on it will destroy our peace of mind, take away our power, and ruin our health and our relationships. In contrast, when we focus on the things we CAN control, we’ll feel peace and progress in our lives. The only thing we really have control over is ourself. We can work to bring our focus here moment by moment and feel so much more in control and so much more peace of mind! Listen as I share how to use the circle of control!
Listen in as I share my 6 top tips for watching a love one leave your shared faith.
Resources:
https://kambam.blogspot.com/2017/04/3-things-id-like-to-tell-people-whose.html?fbclid=IwAR18CZM8XKuCVzCHvqcwwxEW0T7iBwx8cHjzTUAuA1NC1ywWKICrR1WmGZ8
https://www.tonyoverbay.com/ep125-navigating-a-faith-journey-crisis-fowlers-stages-of-faith-truth-beauty-and-goodness/
https://mormonwoman.org/2012/10/15/ask-a-mormon-woman-my-spouse-has-chosen-to-leave-the-church-now-what/
https://www.mormonfaithcrisis.com/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/2227903863922046/
https://www.facebook.com/groups/148132815874583/
https://jasonsvoyage.com/2019/12/04/top-10-lds-faith-transition-resources/
The temple is our greatest resource here on Earth. It is where the great plan of our God is unfolded before us once again and we learn who we are and what we can become. We partake of a special spirit that can reside there because of what is not found in holy temples. It is a place set apart in the world where the Savior can enter in. The Lord is bringing temples to his people so we can partake of the blessings and power that come from attending there. Our prophet has emphasized how MUCH we will need this power in the days ahead. Our access to temples is rapidly increasing with 100 temples announced in just the last 5 years! It is worth great sacrifices on our part to be there as frequently as our circumstances will allow.
Nelson: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/10/47nelson?lang=eng
Sweat: https://universe.byu.edu/2016/08/15/anthony-sweat-the-doctrine-and-covenants-on-being-endowed-with-power/
Dear Jeff: Candid Advice from an Older Brother on Preparing to Enter the Temple: Washburn, J: 9781940216010: Amazon.com: Books
Prayer works. It works for me and I know it can work for you too! Listen in as I share some tips for making prayer beautiful, natural, instinctive, and full of power!
References:
https://www.compellingtruth.org/does-God-care.html
https://rsc.byu.edu/book-mormon-3-nephi-9-30-my-gospel/pray-always-learning-pray-jesus-prayed
https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/joseph-b-wirthlin/improving-prayers/
Brooke Snow on prayer journaling: https://brookesnow.com/ep-102-conversing-with-the-lord-through-prayer-journaling/
God's plan for us is Jesus. It is the Atonement of Jesus Christ. This gift is available to all, it is for our use both when acting as the sinner and when acting as the saint. It can fill all the spaces that we need. It allows us to overcome and to become. It allows us to return to the presence of the Father. It allows us to give others a free pass and helps us to forgive and to heal. Christ has experienced all we will experience and knows exactly how to help and aid us. We are never excluded from the glorious blessings inherent in the Atonement of Jesus Christ but we DO have to invite that help into our lives. Listen in as Ashley shares her insights along with insights and teachings from modern day servants of the Lord.
Show notes:
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2014/04/bear-up-their-burdens-with-ease?lang=eng
https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/brad-wilcox/his-grace-is-sufficient/
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2016/04/tomorrow-the-lord-will-do-wonders-among-you?lang=eng
In the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we believe that God is our loving Father in Heaven- the literal Father of our Spirit and that we are truly precious to Him–each of us is a beloved Spirit Son or Daughter of God. He is an all powerful and all knowing God who loves us beyond comprehension. We are precious to Him. His love is extended to us all the day long and through the night. It is constant! We can come to see and feel of that love by looking at the dealings of the Savior, through ancient and modern scripture, through our personal dealings with Him and watching for His loving hand in our lives and through looking at the world around us.
Show Notes:
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world?lang=eng
https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/ezra-taft-benson/jesus-christ-gifts-expectations
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/bd/faith?lang=eng
https://scholarsarchive.byu.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1169&context=dlls
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/10/12uchtdorf?lang=eng
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2005/04/the-tender-mercies-of-the-lord?lang=eng
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/for-the-strength-of-youth/04-neighbor?lang=eng
Listen in as Ashley shares top tips for interacting with youth from Barbara Barrington Jones and Brad Wilcox in the book, Straight Talk for Parents: What Teenagers Wish They Could Tell You. They use the acronym PARENTS: Praise, Accept, Respect, Encourage, Notice, Time and Say. The book includes tips straight from teens in a survey they conducted of over 1000 youth.
Listen in as I talk about creating a family culture with intention!
We are all developing a family culture, and with intention, we can make it something rich and long-lasting, passing on traditions that strengthen and bless each member of the family as they are involved and proud to be a part of something special. We can include elements of symbols, doctrine, and traditions.
Each member of the family needs to feel meaningful connection, like they count and like they contribute and as those things are present, they can then have courage to be imperfect and go out in the world, trying new things and expanding their lives.
Show Notes:
https://www.jeannebirdsall.com/penderwicks-series
http://ashleyjaggi.com/blog
https://www.facebook.com/download/1050567379177304/Pioneer%20Hill%20Ward%20Technology%20Word%20of%20Wisdom.pdf?av=696925142&eav=AfaaovuFoNXPbd7xZGlMF8zTsv7uoJvTtwp4ewDJp_ZG1sRqg5HkVtOOXpRsPiLD0iI&paipv=0&hash=AcpqrJtLUuEha5kDAus&__cft__[0]=AZUtyWbo-kcs6yP5s9_Ku0xCblukfNqDFL6km0Ze85KNLtBT0Ys7AyiTOD6661pKiaZWE-xpDWvdWnVMKWYWRKxocBAvmxlw13L1IXgwUmCslcswEPGssqA2UtMzhw7e4Y_jM-ophUGniMlxTqlC-I6NbK3FWZBvSgFqy_UcIJPtlA&__tn__=H-R
Family Gospel living- an inside view into my home and the “holy habits and righteous routines” that provide healing, strength, protection and joy to us on a daily, weekly, and yearly basis!
Russell M. Nelson, Becoming Exemplary Latter-day Saints, 2018: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/10/becoming-exemplary-latter-day-saints?lang=eng
October, 2022 General Conference Addresses: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/10?lang=eng
Emily Belle Freeman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kbjs5CDhabk
Linda Reeves, Protection From Pornography- A Christ-Centered Home, 2014: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2014/04/protection-from-pornography-a-christ-focused-home?lang=eng
M. Russell Ballard, Family Councils, 2016: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2016/04/family-councils?lang=eng
Joy D. Jones, Essential Conversations, 2021: “As they act it out and then talk it out, rather than being caught unprepared in a hostile peer group setting, children can be armed with “the shield of faith wherewith [they] shall be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked.”14” Joy D. Jones, Essential Conversations 2021https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2021/04/13jones?lang=eng
https://worksheetplace.com/.../Character-Role-Play...
Act it out, talk it out.pdf
A strong marriage built on the foundation of the gospel is a sure foundation for a family to build on. A marriage relationship comes before our relationships with kids or with outside pursuits. We can strengthen a marriage by utilizing the 3 things that can build a strong culture- We have symbols of our union, we have doctrine which can be any history, stories, rules, commitments, etc. And we have our rituals- the things that renew our relationship on a daily, weekly, monthly or yearly basis. We take time to connect in meaningful ways. The way we part and reunite can be significant moments that stick with us, so we want to make those moments count.
Barlow, Rock Solid Marriage Foundation: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2003/06/a-rock-solid-foundation-for-marriage?lang=eng
Soares, In Partnership With God
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2022/10/25soares?lang=eng
Don't Miss This: https://dontmissthisstudy.com/exodus-18-20-come-follow-me-lesson/
Greetings and Goodbyes: https://lisamerlobooth.com/the-power-of-the-2-gs-in-relationships-greetings-and-goodbyes/#:~:text=so%20are%20they%20in%20terms,in%20our%20memories%20the%20longest.
Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/blog/6-hours-a-week-to-a-better-relationship/
Photo Credit- Bruno Delfino
Listen in as I share two favorite concepts from Jody Moore that can aid us in using self-compassion! One shows that our worth is constant and unchangeable, the other shows that life has a balance and our expectation that things will go well most of the time leaves us frustrated and disappointed.
Check out Jody Moore at jodymoore.com or find her podcast, Better Than Happy.
Our thinking determines the energy that is driving us. Thoughts can be the source of so much discord in our lives! Join me as we take an honest, searching look at them to see if we’re in thinking errors or in truth.
We can also add the word AND to hold space for multiple truths at the same time. These truths may seem contradictory AND they can both be true at the same time!
Show Notes:
Brooke Snow podcast episode: https://brookesnow.com/ep-107-tiny-tip-say-and/
Thinking errors article: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201501/10-thinking-errors-will-crush-your-mental-strength
Woebot app: https://woebothealth.com/try-woebot/\
Listen in as I model the 4 Steps of Self-Compassion as presented in the book, Self Compassion by Kristin Neff: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10127008-self-compassion. I model how to use the steps and what the opposite looks like as well. I also define self-care as not about running from the moment or the emotion but taking an action toward resolution or just being kind to ourselves like we’d want a friend to do for themselves.
Four Steps:
1- recognize/acknowledge/accept
2- you remind yourself you’re not alone in this
3- show yourself compassion
4- be kind to yourself by taking some small action
Tune in this week as I discuss 3 life-changing strategies for boosting your confidence including looking to God, substituting your self-talk with that of your biggest cheerleader, and positive affirmations!
Show notes:
Which Way Do You Face by Lynn G. Robbins:
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2014/10/which-way-do-you-face?lang=eng
You Are Special by Max Lucado:
https://maxlucado.com/products/you-are-special-a-story-for-everyone/
Brooke Snow- Law of Creation: https://brooke231f28.clickfunnels.com/optin36601086
Listen in this week as I introduce the topic of self-compassion with Kristin Neff's formula, pain x resistance = suffering. I also explain that understanding the dealings of our God can help us to stay out of suffering and experience all adversity with HIS strength, comfort and peace the whole way through!
Article: https://iblp.org/questions/what-are-gods-purposes-allowing-adversity-my-life
Self Compassion by Kristin Neff: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/10127008-self-compassion
Listen as I share my favorite parts from Lynn G. Robbin's notable BYU address entitled Taking 100 Percent Responsibility and see if it can strengthen your resolve to take action in YOUR life because YOU are a mighty force for good in your own life and in the lives of those around you!
Show Notes:
- Christofferson, T. D. (2021, March 15). Moral Agency - D. Todd Christofferson. BYU Speeches. Retrieved August 25, 2022, from https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/d-todd-christofferson/moral-agency/
- Renlund, D. G. (2022, August 3). Trust God and Let Him Prevail. Churchofjesuschrist.Org. Retrieved August 23, 2022, from https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/liahona/2022/08/03_trust-god-and-let-him-prevail?lang=eng
- Robbins, L. G. (2021, November 1). Be 100 Percent Responsible | Lynn G. Robbins. BYU Speeches. Retrieved August 23, 2022, from https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/lynn-g-robbins/be-100-percent-responsible/
- Mind Tools. (2022, August 15). Locus of Control - Career Development from MindTools.com. Retrieved August 25, 2022, from https://www.mindtools.com/pages/article/newCDV_90.htm
Episode 4 of Help? With Ashley Jaggi: https://rss.com/podcasts/ashleyjaggi/530569/
Today I am sharing an exercise you can do that can help you do a bit of an inventory of your life and how to make sure the things you are doing are in line with your values and are things you actually WANT to be doing since the theme of this month is taking responsibility! Listen in as I share a tool from Marshall Rosenburg that brings clarity to our decisions and helps us find more joy in everything we choose to do with our time!
Show Notes:
D&C 58:26–29 https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/dc-testament/dc/58.26-29?lang=eng#p26
Benson, E. T. (n.d.). Chapter 3: Freedom of Choice, an Eternal Principle. Www.Churchofjesuschrist.Org. Retrieved August 16, 2022, from https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/teachings-of-presidents-of-the-church-ezra-taft-benson/chapter-3-freedom-of-choice-an-eternal-principle?lang=eng
Rosenberg, M. B. Don’t Do Anything That Isn’t Play! PuddleDancer Press, www.Nonviolentcommunication.Com. Retrieved August 16, 2022, from https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/resources/articles-about-nvc/dont-do-anything-that-isnt-play/
Family Proclamation https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/scriptures/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world?lang=eng
Listen today as I share tips for the harder days including a strategy for how to WANT to choose to do the things we know we ought to be doing like eating healthy, going to bed, getting our exercise in, etc. We can take responsibility even on the hard days, even if it looks a little different.
About Matthew Kelly: https://www.matthewkelly.com/about
Essentialism by Greg McKeown: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18077875-essentialism
Brooke Snow Podcast: https://share.transistor.fm/s/9175204b
Ashley Jaggi Mini Courses: ashleyjaggi.com
Personal Bill of Rights: ashleyjaggi.com/rights
Listen today as I remind us that WE are in charge of our lives! We have the powerful gift of agency! Today I share the Personal Bill of Rights- 30 POWERFUL statements to help you take charge of a life you love!
For your own copy of the Personal Bill of Rights, go to ashleyjaggi.com/rights.
Sites Referenced:
https://www.thebalancecareers.com/how-to-take-responsibility-for-your-life-1919214#:~:text=People%20who%20take%20complete%20responsibility,are%20responsible%20for%20their%20choices
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/agency-and-accountability?lang=eng
Show photo credit with thanks: Stacey Lowe Photography
Today I share a favorite story, the Tragedy at RAYAD, by Ardeth G. Kapp, former president of the General Young Women’s Organization, to illustrate the way Satan works at deceiving and weakening us. What are your takeaways?
This fictional story can be found in the book I Walk By Faith by Ardeth G. Kapp: https://www.goodreads.com/en/book/show/1831775.Walk
Listen in as I share my experiences with promptings from the Spirit and gain insight into how to recognize into the spiritual nudges you are receiving!
Nelson, R., 2000. Identity, Priority, and Blessings. [online] BYU Speeches. Available at: https://speeches.byu.edu/talks/russell-m-nelson/identity-priority-blessings/ [Accessed 18 May 2022].
What moments refresh your soul and help you to connect to heaven? Where can you find peace in stillness? Listen as I share about a recent time I was able to do this and share my tips for you to do the same.
Ever have those times when you just can't shut off your mind? Ever wonder how you bring your brain to that quiet place where sleep can come? Listen for 3 tips for jumping off the thought train.
Anxiety is on the rise. Our brains are misconstruing everyday minor stressors as major emergencies, triggering fight, flight or freeze mode to kick in. But our breathing can function as an on-off switch for anxiety or fight, flight or freeze. Simply by changing the way we breathe, we can change the hormones coursing through our body and change the way we are feeling. Listen in to learn two ways to use our breath to switch to calm.
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201905/longer-exhalations-are-easy-way-hack-your-vagus-nerve
- https://www.healthline.com/health/diaphragmatic-breathing#benefits
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/201905/longer-exhalations-are-easy-way-hack-your-vagus-nerve
To see people as people, we act on our innate sense of what’s right. Ignoring that sense traps us in a spiral of self-justification and shifts our entire view of ourselves, our virtues, our hardships and of those we interact with. Listen in to find out how to immediately shift out of that spiral and have peace amidst conflict. An interview with J Washburn discussing the books by the Arbinger Institute, with a focus on The Anatomy of Peace and Leadership and Self-Deception.
Books by the Arbinger Institute:
https://arbinger.com/Landing/books.html
Find J Washburn:
https://www.jwashburn.com/
J Washburn's Starchild Trilogy:
http://starchild.jwashburn.com/
Follow Ashley on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/ashley_jaggi/
Are you taking the time to SEE and RECOGNIZE the people around you? Do you give the gift of withholding judgment? Do you share the burdens you see just a little?
I invite you to make this a practice. Try to SEE someone today. Let them know you see them by a compassionate smile, a word of encouragement or praise, or a kind gesture.
Show notes:
The sister-in-law quoted is Amberlee Holland.
https://justhomemaking.com/tired-mom/)
https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2016/10/i-will-bring-the-light-of-the-gospel-into-my-home?lang=eng
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/emotional-support#takeaway
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cbk980jV7Ao
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4UZ_lWr028o
When my own kids were struggling with their mental health, I felt like I should know what to do, how to help them, or who to turn to, but I didn't!! I felt like as their mom I should have all the answers- at least as a mom with a background in mental health!
It wasn't until I started talking about what was going on with the right people that I finally found some answers.
Oh how we need each other!
As we share our current and past struggles, we can find and share the resources that will help precipitate breakthroughs!
The long waitlists and a pull from God got me back into the workforce after being home several years with kids. I wanted to help! But it's not enough!!
It's going to take effort from us all!
Listen in for 3 quick and effective things YOU can do without any formal training and start implementing them now.
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