Art of Spousing: Recent Episodes
James and Lisa Duvall
Art of Spousing is for marriages that what to move from being mundane to becoming masterpiece relationships. Hosts James and Lisa Duvall share truths and lessons learned from their 29 years of marriage and over a decade of teaching, coaching and speaking on marriage.
In this episode of the Art of Spousing Podcast, hosts James and Lisa dive into the topic of misunderstandings in marriage and provide practical tips to strengthen communication and prevent tensions. They highlight that misunderstandings are normal and even healthy in a relationship, and emphasize the importance of addressing and discussing them. The hosts explore different types of misunderstandings, such as when the speaker is not aware or the listener does not understand. They discuss the responsibility of both spouses as speakers and listeners, and provide ten ways to avoid misunderstandings, including listening to understand, using I statements, speaking calmly and clearly, and avoiding blame, complain, or defend. They also touch on the significance of body language, shared calendars, and practicing patience. The episode concludes with the powerful advice of praying together to maintain unity. Don't miss the next episode featuring Travis and Adele Graham, who will share their story about overcoming infidelity and the impact of pornography in a marriage.
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Cues: Master the Secret Language of Charismatic Communication
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Practising the Art of Spousing
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Join us as we explore the intricacies of marriage, the ups and downs, the joy and challenges, and the sheer art of spousing. Remember, it's not just about being married; it's about mastering the art of doing it right.
Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms. Happy spousing!
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In this episode of the podcast, James and Lisa talk with guests, Greg and Julie Gorman, founders of Married for a Purpose. The Gormans share their recent trip to Africa and the impact they had on couples there. They discuss the challenges and benefits of working together as a couple and the importance of setting boundaries. They also provide recommendations and advice on navigating tough decisions as a couple. The conversation highlights the need for unity, good communication, and finding common ground. They mention resources such as the Marriage Reboot, the Couplepreneur video curriculum, and the Peacemaker tool. The episode concludes with a reminder to prioritize one's marriage and seek growth together. Listeners are encouraged to check out the Gormans' resources and share the episode with others. In the next episode, James and Lisa will discuss communication and how to avoid misunderstandings in relationships.
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Other episodes you'll enjoy:
The Marriage Reboot: Reset, Rebuild & Find Common Ground With Greg and Julie Gorman
Greg and Julie Gorman
Married For a Purpose Resources:Website: marriedforapurpose.com
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Books:What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Marriage: Unlocking 10 Secrets to a Thriving Marriage
Married for a Purpose: New Habits of Thinking for a Higher Way of Living: 52 Weekly Devotions for Couples
Two Are Better Than One: God Has a Purpose for Your Marriage
What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Men
Gentle Whispers: Experience God's Promises In Life's Storms
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Welcome to the preview episode of Season 4 of the "Art of Spousing" podcast. In this 19-minute teaser, your hosts James and Lisa give you a sneak peek into the season ahead.
James and Lisa highlight the various topics that will be covered and guests who will appear throughout Season 4, giving listeners a taste of what's to come. This season promises a range of perspectives and fresh insights on marriage, relationships, and the art of successful spousing.
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Practising the Art of Spousing
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Join us as we explore the intricacies of marriage, the ups and downs, the joy and challenges, and the sheer art of spousing. Remember, it's not just about being married; it's about mastering the art of doing it right.
Stay tuned for the upcoming episodes and make sure to join the conversation on our social media platforms. Happy spousing!
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"The best instructions come from the creator of a product."
We've been married for 30 years, and one of the things that has helped us stay strong is that we've been intentional about our intimacy. We've always put God first in our marriage, and we've been intentional about growing in our spiritual, emotional, and sexual intimacy. We wish we would have had more adventure in our first five years of marriage, and we wish we would have been more intentional about creating healthy habits.
In this episode you will learn:
- The most important factors for us maintaining a strong, healthy marriage?
- What we would do differently if you could go back and do our first five years of marriage over again?
- Two general themes that, if addressed, would make the biggest difference in most marriages?
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Practising the Art of Spousing
Intentional Intimacy
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This is Christopher and Jasmine Catoe's story...
I'm a worship leader at Christ Fellowship Church and my wife, Jasmine, is a content producer. We met in middle school and have been married for almost three years. Recently, we took an enneagram test and discovered that I am actually a five, not a one like we thought. This was a bit of a shock to me, but it made sense when I thought about my perfectionism and my love for data and planning. As a five, I tend to hoard information and resources, which can make collaboration difficult. However, I am working on delegating and trusting others with my ideas in order to build up the community around me.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
- How the Catoe family views and uses the Enneagram
- The difference between a one and a five on the Enneagram
- The importance of collaboration in the creative process
- How core motivations affect our actions
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AMPLIFY YOUR MARRIAGE - Discovery Call
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
With Brandon and Michelle Catoe
Conversations About Marriage and The Enneagram
Practising The Art of Spousing
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Christopher IG: @ccatoex
Jasmine IG: @jasminecatoe
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In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. The Support Challenge Matrix: a tool for empowering relationships
2. The four quadrants of the Support Challenge Matrix: Protector, Dominator, Abdicator, Liberator
3. The consequences of living in each quadrant of the Support Challenge Matrix
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Support Challenge Matrix and Circles of Influence
Discussion Questions:
- How do you experience me in our relationship? (Protector or Dominator)
- What does challenging me look like for you to feel empowered?
- What does support from me look like for you to feel empowered?
If you are a protector you can ask…Have there been ways that I have created mistrust because of my lack or misuse of challenge?
If you are a challenger you could ask…Have there been ways that I have made you feel fearful or manipulated because of my lack of or misuse of support?
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Practising the Art of Spousing
Me Awareness We Awareness
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Gabe and Casey Mahia are a young couple who have only been married for two years, but they have already learned a lot about themselves and each other. One of the things that Gabe has learned about Casey is that she is a self-proclaimed enneagram six. For those of you who are not familiar with the enneagram, it is a tool of empathy that reveals core motivations. Gabe is a video producer and he manages a team of content creators at Christ Fellowship Church. Casey is a social media content creator and she manages all the social media for Christ Fellowship Church.
"I think that just helped put some language around things that I had been feeling. And I was like, that really does sound like me."
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How Gabe and Casey met
2. What it was like for them to get married during the Covid pandemic
3. The dynamics of Gabe's enneagram type 4 and Kasey's enneagram type 6 in their marriage.
4. The challenge and power of giving and receiving feedback
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AMPLIFY YOUR MARRIAGE - Discovery Call
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Conversations about Marriage and the Enneagram
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Gaber IG: @_gabemejia
Kasey IG: @kaseymejia_
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For a marriage to be secure and strong, you need to build a pro marriage collective, a community with like minded, growth minded couples.
"The people you spend the most time with will change you in ways you cannot anticipate or ever fully understand."
Over the last 30 years, we have surrounded ourselves with couples who are pro-marriage. They are always championing us and our relationship and they model the behavior we want to emulate in our own marriage. We've learned so much from them and our marriage is stronger because of it.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. The importance of having a strong marriage collective to help push you forward in your marriage
2. The benefits of being part of a marriage collective, including accountability, encouragement, and wise counsel
3. The dangers of isolating yourself from others when you're struggling in your marriage
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Married for a Purpose Membership
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Practising the Art of Spousing
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Brandon and Michelle Catoe are long-time friends of the hosts of the Art of Spousing podcast. They have been married for almost 27 years and have two adult children. Brandon is a three on the enneagram and Michelle is a six. They have both been involved in ministry for many years and currently serve on the senior leadership team at their church.
This is Brandon and Michelle Catoe's story...
Brandon and Michelle Catoe have been married for 27 years and have two kids. They met in kindergarten and started dating in high school. Brandon is a three on the enneagram and Michelle is a six. They have found that their different enneagram types have played out in their marriage in various ways, including how they communicate and handle conflict. Brandon and Michelle have also found that their enneagram types have affected their parenting style and how they relate to their kids.
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AMPLIFY YOUR MARRIAGE - Discovery Call
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Conversations about Marriage and the Enneagram
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Brandon IG: @branfdoncatoe
Michelle IG: @catoemichelle
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The Art of Spousing Podcast tackles the reasons for money causing tension in marriage and provides tools to combat the stressors.
"An ounce of disciplines weighs far less than a ton of regret" - Jim Rohn
Lisa and I have different money styles. I tend to be a saver, while she is more of a spender. This can cause tension in our relationship, especially when it comes to budgeting and making financial decisions. However, we've learned to work together and compromise on spending in order to avoid arguments and keep our finances in order. We also have a plan for paying off any debt we may have, which has helped us stay on track and avoid accumulating more debt.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How money styles can impact a marriage
2. The emotional and psychological implications of financial strain
3. How to overcome excessive debt
4. The one game changer for all your financial tensions
Resources:
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CURATE Date Night Event - October 14th, 2022 | Southwest Church, Indian Wells, CA
Debt Snowball Calculator
You Need a Budget
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Conflict: The Opportunity for Unity
Practising the Art of Spousing
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Grant and Stephanie Gardner are high school sweethearts who have been married for 38 years. They are the founders of Forever with Purpose, a ministry that empowers marriages to maximize their vision and purpose. They are also the hosts of the Pillow Talk with Grant and Stephanie podcast.
"I always say that, we were knocked up, but not out. we got our cart before the horse and got married at a very, very early age; 17 going into our senior year."
In this episode, you will learn:
1. The enneagram as a tool for empathy and self-awareness in marriage
2. How the Gardners' different personality types affect the way they process change in their relationship
3. How to know yourself to lead yourself
Resources:
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Schedule a Discovery Call about Marriage Reboot
CURATE Date Night Event - October 14th, 2022 | Southwest Church, Indian Wells, CA
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Conversations about Marriage and the Enneagram
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Forever With Purpose IG: grant_steph_foreverwithpurpose
Forever With Purpose FB: Married With Purpose
Podcast: Pillow Talk with Grant and Stephanie
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By building on common ground, you can strengthen your marriage.
"Couples who know how to play and have fun together develop a bonding that can carry them through the most difficult times."
Lisa and I were talk about strengthening our marriage by building on common ground. We discussed how marriages built on common ground have the ability to stand up against challenges that happen in life.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. Why does your marriage exist?
2. What is your shared vision for your marriage?
3. How to set priorities and boundaries to guard your purpose and vision.
Resources:
IGNITE One Day Marriage Enrichment Event
Marriage Reboot Discovery Call
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Intentional Intimacy
Practising the Art of Spousing
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In this episode, James and Lisa talk with Dave and Bethany Kush, who share their lifelong journey of learning and growth as a couple, in light of the Enneagram.
"Oh, my gosh, now everybody knows. They see me with all my flaws. I felt like I'm standing in front of a crowd wearing just my underpants."
Dave and Bethany Kush are a couple who have been married for 33 years. They have known each other since college and have been friends for a long time. Dave has worked in the corporate world for 15 years, and Bethany has been a stay-at-home mom for most of their marriage. They have both been involved in ministry for the past 15 years.
In this episode we cover:
1. How the enneagram can help you understand yourself and your spouse better
2. How the enneagram can help you navigate conflict in a healthy way
3. How the enneagram can help you understand your motivations and fears
Resources:
IGNITE One Day Marriage Enrichment Event
Dave IG: @davekush
Bethany IG: @bethkush
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Conversations about Marriage and the Enneagram
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When committed love, emotional intimacy, and passion collide, the result is a work of art called marriage.
"Love is more than a feeling and deeper than a crafty slogan or a line of a song."
Today we're talking about love. The word love is described in so many different ways. Some make sense. Some are just silly. Some talk about love. Some try to define love. Some of these you may have heard of well, and other others may be new to you. Love is blind. Love is in the air. All you need is love. Love is like war. Easy to begin and hard to end. Not sure about that one. Love means differences can be worked out. Love is reaching your dreams together. Our love is like dividing by zero. It can't be defined. That kind of feels more like a bad pickup line. Yeah, it does. While some of those could be true, it's really difficult to define love. What makes up love?
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How can love be defined? 2. What are the components of love? 3. What does love look like in a healthy marriage?
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Intentional Intimacy
Practising the Art of Spousing
Connect with us:Marriage Reboot Discovery CallSend Questions and Comments to: hello@artofspousing.com
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"The Enneagram's effect on marriage." is not about: 1. The Enneagram is a perfect tool for predicting compatibility in marriage. 2. The Enneagram can help identify and correct relationship problems. 3. The Enneagram can help couples resolve conflicts and improve communication. Do you know your Enneagram type? It just might be the key to a happy marriage.
"I felt understood for the first time and found out that castling is okay because it's how I restore and how I even when we first got married, I had to look at her and say, I need you to hear that I love you dearly, but I need to be away
Ben and Elisa Haake are a married couple who have been together for 12 years. They have two children and live in Florida. Ben is a worship pastor at Christ Fellowship Church and Elisa is a vocal coach and worship leader. They are both super hosts with Airbnb.
This is Ben and Elisa Haake's story...
Ben and Elisa Haake have been married for twelve years and have two kids. They met when Ben asked Elisa out on a double date. Eight years into their marriage, they realized that they never fought. After taking the enneagram test, they learned the reason why. The enneagram has given them language to understand their marriage dynamic and has helped them to grow in self-awareness, spouse awareness, and couple awareness.
In this episode, you will learn the following:
1. How the enneagram can help you understand your relationship dynamic 2. How to use the enneagram to grow in self-awareness, spouse-awareness, and couple-awareness 3. How the enneagram can help you understand your shadow side.
Resources:
Justin IG: @benhaake
Andrea IG: @elisahaake
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Conversations about Marriage and the Enneagram
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Are you dealing with any of this?
1. You may feel like your partner isn't listening to you or understanding your feelings.
2. You may feel like you're always the one giving and never receiving.
3. Your partner may not be meeting your needs emotionally or physically.
"So one of my favorite leadership teachers, Jim Rohn, taught small errors in judgment over a period of time will result in accumulated disaster."
I used to love running. I would go out every day and explore new routes. But after a while, I started to notice some pain in my right hip. I thought it was just muscle soreness at first, but it didn't go away. I saw a general practice doctor and they said everything was fine, but after a few weeks I knew something was really wrong. I ended up going to an orthopedic specialist and they told me I had a serious fracture in my hip. I had to have surgery and it was a really long recovery process. I think this is a really good illustration of what can happen in a marriage relationship. Small fractures can grow and cause real damage if they're not addressed.
In this episode you will learn: 1. How small errors in judgment can accumulate into disaster in a marriage relationship? 2. How ignoring ongoing pain in a marriage relationship can lead to larger problems? 3. What are some signs that there may be a stress fracture in a marriage relationship?
Resources:
Marriage Reboot Discovery Call
For Discussion:
1. Is there something right now in your marriage that has the potential to create disconnection or a break in your relationship?
2. What action can each of you do to address the concern?
3. Is there an opportunity for you to invite help into the situation, and if so who would that be?
Other episodes you'll enjoy:
Episode 6: The Gap Between the Event and the Response
Episode 2: Shifting Gears for Communication
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In this episode we talk with our good friends Justin (#enneagram9) and Andrea (#enneagram3) Lathrop and discuss things they have learned during their 22 years of marriage.
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Justin IG: @justinlathrop
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Lisa and James share insights around the five types of intimacy, and how a husband and wife can practice the art of intentional intimacy in spousing. Topics include; relational intimacy, spiritual intimacy, physical intimacy, emotional intimacy, and sexual intimacy.
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Lisa and James sit down with good friends Greg and Julie Gorman, the founders of Married for a Purpose, to talk about their 23 year marriage dynamic of an ennea 7 and ennea 2.
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Married For a Purpose Resources:Website: marriedforapurpose.com
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FB: marriedforapurpose
Books:What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Marriage: Unlocking 10 Secrets to a Thriving Marriage
Married for a Purpose: New Habits of Thinking for a Higher Way of Living: 52 Weekly Devotions for Couples
Two Are Better Than One: God Has a Purpose for Your Marriage
What I Wish My Mother Had Told Me About Men
Gentle Whispers: Experience God's Promises In Life's Storms
James and Lisa teach on the importance of growing in self-awareness (ME) and awareness of each other (WE). Topics discussed include; the difference between nature and nurture, Personality types, birth order, core motivations, love languages, and family of origin.
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Mentioned Resources:The Intimate Connection: Secrets to a Lifelong Romance
The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth
Family of Origin Discussion Questions
James and Lisa share learnings around the power of The Enneagram, as a tool for building connection in a marriage relationship. They unveil their personal Enneagram types and the dynamics of how their two types compliment and at times cause conflict in their relationship.
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Mentioned Resources:
The Road Back to You: An Enneagram Journey to Self-Discovery
The Path Between Us: An Enneagram Journey to Healthy Relationships
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual
Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage
James and Lisa unpack the Gap and the Gain made famous by Dan Sullivan. How you measure progress in your marriage relationship will determine the potential for happiness and contentment in you relationship.
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Mentioned Resources:
The Gap and The Gain: The High Achievers' Guide to Happiness, Confidence, and Success
Snowball Debt Reduction Spreadsheet
In this episode, James and Lisa unpack a simple concept that has the potential to shape the outcomes of situations where one or both spouses are triggered.
Inspired by a quote attributed to psychologist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl... “Between the stimulus (event) and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” ... you will learn three things that you can fill the space with, in order to find growth and freedom in your art of spousing.
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People FALL IN LOVE every day. The problem is too many people FALL OUT OF LOVE too easily. Having a lasting, healthy marriage requires a different mindset. It requires a commitment to love even in seasons when it is difficult.
In this episode we unpack the principle of sowing and reaping and 3 truths that will help you and your spouse GROW IN LOVE for the rest of your lives together.
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Marriage Book Suggestions
Every marriage will face crisis and challenging times. Having guiding principles in place before these times hit is important to be able to navigate through to the other side. James and Lisa share three principles that will help married couples navigate crisis and challenge in their relationship. Some of the things you will hear include:
- Recap of the Big Three C's
- The difference between Crisis and Challenge
- How good things and positive events can cause challenge in a marriage
- The three principles of Productive Communication, Positive Community and Proactive Connectedness.
- and more!
You will also hear about a new coaching opportunity through Art of Spousing.
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Feeling Wheel
James and Lisa share tools that will help married couples navigate conflict in their relationship Some of the things you will hear include:
- The night that James and Lisa were test subjects for an important research study
- Explanation of the "Know Yourself, Lead Yourself" tool
- How to give an apology
- How the words Impact and Intent can defuse conflict.
- How Snickers Bars are more than just a tasty candy bar.
You will also hear about a new coaching opportunity through Art of Spousing.
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BOOK: The Peacemaker
BOOK: From This Day Forward: Five Commitments to Fail-Proof Your Marriage
BOOK: Marriage: 6 Gospel Commitments Every Couple Needs to Make
In this bonus episode, James and Lisa share a clip of a podcast they recorded remotely from Cancun, Mexico. They unpack how they have prioritized their relationship by doing "Just the 2 of Us Trips" on an annual basis. Some of the things you will hear in this episode include:
- How getting away with your spouse is like "fasting"
- The benefits that James and Lisa find from doing just the 2 of us trips
- Lisa's vacation exercise plan
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Sample Doc of Agenda for Kids
Sample Medical Release
LISA'S FAVORITE RESORT: ATELIER Playa Mujeres
Lisa and James introduce the Five Gears Tool that can help couples in their daily communication. Understanding what gear each spouse is in will help person shift up or down for better connection.
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WEBSITE: Married For A Purpose PODCAST: Unrelenting Pursuit PODCAST: Expedition Marriage BOOK: Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage
BOOK: 5 Gears: How to Be Present and Productive When There Is Never Enough Time
Lisa and James Duvall introduce the origin of Art of Spousing. They share the difference between having a marriage practice and practising the skills that will build a strong and healthy marriage. This episode unpacks three practises that are vital for any marriage to be healthy and strong.
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Photographers:
Alexx Duvall
Stephanie Tarno
Books:
Fun Loving You: Enjoying Your Marriage in the Midst of the Grind - Ted Cunningham
Hosts James and Lisa Duvall introduce their brand new podcast and invite listener to join them on the first and third Mondays of every month stating April 2022.