Too Busy!: Recent Episodes
Raffinée Wilson
Raffinée Wilson is a speaker, therapist, and foodie that replies "Too Busy!" to things she no longer has time or energy for. Listen along as she highlights various topics including life, relationships, mental health, and much more. Just because Raffinée is "Too Busy!" doesn't mean you have to be as well...you get to decide.
I no longer have the energy or time for having no boundaries...especially during the holidays. Too Busy!
I hear people talk about the struggle of setting boundaries during the holiday with their physical space, time, and material possessions. I say often, "Establishing and maintaining personal boundaries is an expression of self-love.”
Consider asking yourself, "What are the limits with my: physical space, time, and materials?" as you head into the holidays. Be kind to yourself as you identify the things you are or are not okay with.
I would love to hear from you. What kind of boundary would be helpful to establish in the coming weeks related to either your physical space, time, or materials?
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Danielle Anderson. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for not being connected to her body. Too Busy!
Danielle Anderson is a speaker, wellness advocate, and doula. She is passionate about helping others pursue whole health - spiritual, mental, emotional and physical. Her heart is to share practical wellness encouragements so that her audience may experience more freedom and become agents of healing in their circles of influence. She and her husband, Tedashii, have been married 15 years and live in Atlanta, GA with three energetic sons.
Listen as Danielle shares the how society and culture has impacted our connection with our bodies and practical ways to be intentional with understanding what is happening within the body. Be sure to listen through the end as Danielle walks us through a body practice engaging your 5 senses and a mental massage.
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Freda. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for unhelpful comments related to grief. Too Busy!
Freda Thomas is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker-Supervisor who specializes as a Grief Recovery Specialist. Freda has been pushed out of her comfort zone of treating hundreds of clients over the past 18 years to bringing her voice to the forefront as a public speaker. After losing her father to cancer and suicide: she has a new found passion for helping black men who experience emotional pain and suicide loss survivors.
Listen as Freda shares the definition of grief, the different types of grief we experience, and ways to support those grieving through more helpful responses.
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Jenna. She's discussing how she no longer has time or energy for not maximizing her full leadership potential. Too Busy!
Jenna is a LPC (TX), Sex Therapist and Educator, EMDR therapist, and PhD Candidate, completing her research exploring the relationship between trauma, sexual dysfunction, and pelvic floor dysfunction. She is a relationship-informed trauma expert and a trauma-informed relationship and sex expert. Jenna co-owns Aspen Haus Associates and specializes in leadership and relationship coaching, sexual dysfunction, sexual pain/penetration, affairs, trauma and abuse, and more in her cross-discipline practice as coach and clinician.
Listen as Jenna shares her beliefs that everyone is a leader, the importance of investing in yourself, and an encouragement for those struggling to maximize their leadership potential.
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Erika Brown. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or to not help herself. Too Busy!
Erika Melissa Brown was born and raised in New Orleans, Louisiana, and is a proud Saints fan (WHO DAT)! She is passionate about motivating and helping others build confidence and persevere while pivoting through life's challenges. Erika understands that rejection does not mean failure and sometimes your darkness is development. She loves art, sneakers, comedy, music, writing and traveling.
Listen as Erika shares the importance of helping herself, the negative impacts of going too much, and how we can be distracted from things that are "contaminating" our care for self.
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Tiffany Kindred. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for grind culture. Too Busy!
Tiffany Kindred is a nonprofit communications strategist with over ten years of experience. Originally from San Antonio, Texas, she has called Atlanta her home since 2011. Tiffany is a working mom, a small business owner, and a (soon-to-be-done) graduate student. She is seriously passionate about maintaining a work-life balance and practicing self-care and encourages others to do the same.
Listen as Tiffany shares how she used to lean into grind culture and the life-changing experience that encouraged her to begin leaning into rest and self-care.
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I no longer have time or energy for inflexibility. Too Busy!
In the past, I thought inflexibility was creating organization and structure for my life. What I learned over time is that it was creating more barriers to the freedom I desired.
I want to hear from you. Have you struggled with inflexibility? If not, what has helped you? If so, what small commitment can you make to yourself?
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I no longer have the energy or time for giving up on things that I've tried and not trying again. Too Busy!
Too often I have found myself working toward a goal and when things don't go the way I planned, I give up. Not only have a given up, I have sometimes not even tried again. The discouragement from things not going according to the plans can be crippling and lead to inaction.
I can begin using things not working out as information and dats to help me the next go round. I can try again!
I want to hear from you. Can you use things from the past to help you in trying again?
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Nia Ross. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for people pleasing. Too Busy!
Nia is a Licensed Master Social Worker (LMSW) from New Orleans, LA. She believes that therapy is more than just talking about the problem. It’s an opportunity to learn and gain the skills needed to cope with your thoughts and feelings. Her overall goal is to guide individuals on their journey towards healing.
Listen as Nia shares how people pleasing impacted her life, the importance of taking breaks, and how she's seen those in her life respond to her establishing boundaries.
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It's been a year of Too Busy! Tuesday. I am so excited and taking a minute to reflect on the past year of this journey.
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Kristen "KB" Newton. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for overgeneralizing in relationships. Too Busy!
With more and more adults struggling to build deep, meaningful connection, Kristen "KB" Newton has created a practical framework in HEART Convos to help navigate our adult relationships. KB looks forward to having the conversations that matter with you; as she has with many others who have taken her challenge, learned the framework and are thriving in connection with others.
Listen as KB shares the importance of not overgeneralizing in relationships. She describes issues with cancel culture, the importance of HEART Convos, and encouragement for making connections.
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I find myself asking the question lately of "What do I need?" because previously I have been Too Busy!
I find it helpful to be intentional to identify my needs, without feeling the pressure to have all the answers for why I feel a certain way or what caused a certain emotion. I'm choosing to take some time to focus on how I can meet those needs day to day, and moment to moment.
I'd love to hear from you. What is a need you may have right now and how can you get it met? It may be relational, emotional, financial, related to work, or something else.
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I no longer have the energy or time for being crippled by fear. Too Busy!
Too often I have found myself not doing something or not having a conversation because of fear. A friend told me years ago, "If fear is the primary reason you're not doing it, you should reconsider." This is still a work in progress for me, yet I'm learning how to redistribute that fear into fuel.
I want to hear from you. How have you been impacted by fear?
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Kiva Harper. Kiva shares how she no longer has time or energy for burnout. Too Busy!
Kiva is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) specializing in trauma-focused psychotherapy for more than two decades. She has emerged as one of the nation's foremost thought leaders in trauma treatment. Harper now speaks and consults extensively, is a frequent mental health correspondent for network TV & radio, a contributing writer to industry trades and a social media influencer.
Listen as Kiva shares her personal experience with burnout, including her warning signs and definition of self-care. She highlights the importance of caring well for the whole self and not only parts of self.
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I no longer have the energy or time for being judgmental or dismissing of my emotions. Too Busy!
Too often I have found myself thinking I “should” feel something different than what I feel. I have also blown off my feelings and minimized them as if they were not true or accurate.
I now choose to draw the information and data my emotions may be trying to give me. Then I can decide what to do with that information.
Ask yourself these questions the next time you feel tempted to judge or dismiss your emotions:
- What brought on this emotion (if you know)?
- What information is it trying to give me?
- What do I want to do with that information?
I want to hear from you. Have you been dismissive or judgmental of your emotional experience?
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I no longer have the energy or time for not intentionally feeling and leaning into happiness. Too Busy!
My world was changed when my therapist asked me, "Raffinée, are you happy?" Listen as I share some things I previously thought equaled happiness and ways I now lean into being intentionally happy daily.
I want to hear from you. What can you do to intentionally lean into happiness each day?
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I no longer have the energy or time for being judgmental or dismissing of my emotions. Too Busy!
Too often I have found myself thinking I “should” feel something different than what I feel. I have also blown off my feelings and minimized them as if they were not true or accurate.
I now choose to draw the information and data my emotions may be trying to give me. Then I can decide what to do with that information.
Ask yourself these questions the next time you feel tempted to judge or dismiss your emotions:
- What brought on this emotion (if you know)?
- What information is it trying to give me?
- What do I want to do with that information?
I want to hear from you. Have you been dismissive or judgmental of your emotional experience?
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I no longer have the energy or time for making assumptions. Too Busy!
I have been guilty of making assumptions, and asking and answering questions in my own head. Y'all that has caused a lot of issues over the years. I've found such value in challenging my own assumptions, and sometimes looping others into the discussion I'm having in my head.
I want to hear from you. How can you be intentional to minimize assumptions and challenge them when they arise.
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I no longer have the energy or time for ingratitude. Too Busy!
I have found such rich benefits to practicing gratitude through things like journaling and reflecting on that journaling. Research shows that the practice of gratitude is associated with greater happiness.
I want to hear from you. Share in the comments at least one thing you are grateful for and why. If you've been keeping a gratitude log, what do you notice is a common theme or takeaway from reviewing previous entries?
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Summer is here. I no longer have the energy or time for things that are not fueling me. Too Busy!
I'm sharing some things I've learned during my time away from social media. I'll also share some tips for connecting with the young people in your life this summer. PLUS...hear my special announcement! I am so excited to share what's coming up this fall.
I’d love to hear from you. Share these 2 things with me HERE:
- What are you going to do to be intentional with your social media engagement?
- How will you engaged with your young people this summer?
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I no longer have time or energy for missing out on moments. Too Busy!
Over the past week and weekend I have been intentional to be present and aware of what's going on before me. It's been helpful in centering me the past few days. I've spent so much time not fully present in some moments and some of the moments I will never have the opportunity to get back.
How can you be fully present and not miss out on any moments this week or even just tomorrow? I'd love to hear from you in the comments.
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WARNING: Topics discussed in this episode are sensitive and may be triggering.
In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Kiva Harper. We are holding space for the recent tragedy in Uvalde, TX at an elementary school.
Kiva is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) specializing in trauma-focused psychotherapy for more than two decades. She has emerged as one of the nation's foremost thought leaders in trauma treatment. Harper now speaks and consults extensively, is a frequent mental health correspondent for network TV & radio, a contributing writer to industry trades and a social media influencer.
Listen as Kiva and I share candidly about our feelings, the fact that it's okay to not be okay, and practical things we will do to care well for ourselves. Our encouragement is for you to be kind and gentle with yourself as you process, hold space, and feel whatever may arise.
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I no longer have the energy or time for old school phrases like, "Back in my day." Too Busy!
I shared during a recent seminar the importance of dropping these old school sayings in order to increase understanding for our teens experiences.
What are some of the phrases you heard growing up? How can you actively work to not perpetuate these sayings just because?
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Dr. Christi Culpepper-Walker. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for not being herself. Too Busy!
Dr. Christi Culpepper-Walker, affectionally known as Dr. CC by her patients, is a licensed clinical psychologist currently providing therapeutic services to children, adolescents, and their families in an outpatient mental health clinic in Baltimore, Maryland.
Listen as Dr. CC shares the importance of having community that encourages and celebrates you, of living each day on purpose, and of accessing your magic. She also highlights the cost of not being herself and small ways she began being authentically herself in the workplace.
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I no longer have the energy or time to focus on things that aren't on my remote. Too Busy!
Often times, we can find ourselves giving attention to things that are outside of our own control instead of the things that are within our control.
Take a moment to pause and identify things that are on your remote control...the things that are within your control. I'd love to hear from you. What's not on your remote that you'd like to remind yourself is outside of your control?
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Jeri-Ashley. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for mom guilt. Too Busy!
Jeri-Ashley is a mama to multiples (baby, toddler, pre-teen, oh my!), parent coach, small business owner, full-time educator, and community advocate. She has worked with school-aged children, parents, and educators for over 10 years, focusing on providing each with the tools to be more mindful in creating strong, healthy relationships, while also maximizing each individual's strengths.
Listen as Jeri-Ashley shares the impact of mom guilt, the importance of identifying family values, and a practical activity to highlight what has been done instead of focusing on the “should” statements.
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I no longer have the energy or time for no days off. Too Busy!
How often have we found ourselves working with no days off? It has sometimes been celebrated or underhandedly encouraged to work without time off. Well...no more for me!
I have found the value and importance of taking time off, even if in the middle of the week just because.
I’d like to hear from you. How have you handled this concept of having "no days off" and how have you seen it impacts you?
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Marchelle Sterling. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for not believing in herself. Too Busy!
Marchelle Sterling is an education administrator with over 9 years of leadership experience as a Team Leader, Assistant Principal and currently Principal of a top ranked elementary school in Grand Prairie Independent School District. Each of Marchelle's experiences have qualified her to uniquely lead and motivate others to realize their potential and achieve greatness.
Listen as Marchelle shares the impact of not believing in herself, the importance of affirming that you are good enough, and how to redirect tendency to compare self to others. She is dropping all kinds of nuggets and words of encouragement if you find yourself not believing in you.
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In this episode, I'm talking with my special guest, Dr. Kristen Guillory. She's discussing how she no longer has energy or time for normalizing difficulty. Too Busy!
Dr. Guillory has broken many barriers and touched lives throughout her impressive career as an international public speaker, speaker coach, professor, author, business coach, and mental health professional.
Listen as she shares how normalizing difficulty and hard impacted her in the past. She has instead chosen to lean into ease each day while not consistently looking for or anticipating things to be hard.
Dr. Guillory shares practical tips to lean into ease and encourages those that may be struggling with normalizing difficulty or waiting for "the other shoe to drop."
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I no longer have the energy or time for ingratitude. Too Busy!
Research shows that the practice of gratitude is associated with greater happiness. Consider the use of gratitude logging/journaling in your daily life and notice the impact.
Let's give it a go. Write down at least 3 things you are grateful for and why. Commit to regularly writing your gratitude down and reviewing every few months.
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I no longer have the energy or time to compete with others. Too Busy!
Today is International Women’s Day and I’m celebrating the gifts, talents, personalities, skills, and so much more of my sisters! I’m grateful to know that there’s room for all of us. We can celebrate, support, and show love for one another and all we contribute without competing.
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I no longer have time or energy for rejecting compliments of others. Too Busy!
I've heard throughout my life that people don't have to be kind. I'm learning how to accept others' kind words and express my appreciation for their words.
I want to hear from you. Are you like me and struggle with accepting a compliment or do you graciously accept?
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