Rekindling Relationships: Recent Episodes
Bec and Vern
Welcome to the Rekindling Relationships podcast, designed to help you strengthen and bring more fun into your partnership as well as create a more loving, healthy and strong connection.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. In this episode, the final one of the series, we discuss how to create more Passion in our relationships. As well as bringing more affection into our daily lives together, we examine the value of communication and asking questions of your partner as well as carving out time together.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. We discuss how to use vulnerability, roleplay, making noises and talking dirty to bring more pleasure into our intimate space.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. Our 5th episode in this series is on Presence and we discuss how we can use our senses, breath and techniques such as edging to be bring more awareness in our intimate space.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. In this episode Intimacy 104 – Patience, we delve into how slowing things down and taking more time with our partner can improve intimacy in life and in the bedroom.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. In our third part of this series, we discuss the importance of Process and how when we deal with our emotions and heal past experiences and trauma, we are better able to be more intimate with our partner.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. In Intimacy 102, we discuss Pornography and how it can damage our intimate connection, distract us from properly relating and desensitize us from our physical bodies.
Intimacy is an important part of being in a relationship and the lack of it can create many issues for couples. In this series, Bec and Vern explore 7 aspects of Intimacy they feel is essential for those wanting to create a deeper connection. The first in this series regards Pressure and how we must prioritize the relationship despite the pressures of life. By focusing on our partner and our connection we can find support to deal with the daily pressures.
Bec and Vern discuss more Tricky Questions from social media including; what to do if your partner doesn’t want to go deeper in the relationship, what to say if they still have pictures of the ex on their phone, and how do you broach the subject of a marijuana habit. We also explore why your partner contacts their ex when they have been drinking and why husbands might not be as worried as you want them to be.
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In this episode of Tricky Questions, Bec and Vern discuss how to convince your partner to be more kinky, middle aged virgins who live with their parents, being an independent adult, Snowflake Mountain and what do you do if your new partner doesn't like your kids.
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In our continuing exploration of books related to Intimacy, Bec and Vern interview Thomas Jordan Ph.D., a New York City psychologist/psychoanalyst, who has been studying and treating unhealthy love lives for more than 30 years. He also founded the Love Life Learning Centre website to better support couples.
Through studying the psychological ability to form and sustain healthy love relationships as well as treating the ways people unwittingly repeat the love life disappointments they have learned from their past unhealthy relationship experiences, he has written a fascinating book - 'Learn to Love’. In this book he explains what we learn about love relationships, how they interfere with our current lives and describes his formula of stopping the cycle of repeating unhealthy experiences.
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life https://lovelifelearningcenter.com/ Check out our other episodes and please message us any questions or comments to https://www.facebook.com/becandvern
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In this episode, Bec and Vern interview Laura Doyle about the 6 Intimacy Skills that she outlines in her book, ’The Empowered Wife’. We have a fun and lively chat about the importance of Self-care, Respect, Relinquishing control, being able to Receive, as well as Gratitude and Vulnerability. Laura is the founder of the international relationship coach training school Laura Doyle Connect, the Creator of The Ridiculously Happy Wife program, host of The Empowered Wife Podcast and a New York Times Best Selling author. You can find out more about her work here- https://lauradoyle.org/
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Bec and Vern discuss tricky social media questions about fears and fetishes, introverts and intimacy. They explore how to ask for what you want and the importance of not taking our partners, friends and family for granted. We also find out why Bec does not liked to be tickled.
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Bec and Vern discuss and answer a diverse range of tricky social media questions. This includes; do age differences matter, why should you schedule date nights, attachment theory and sabotaging relationships, if once a cheater is always a cheater, and how to respond when your partner says your friend is more beautiful than you.
Hope you are enjoying our new format for 2022. Check out our other episodes and please message us any questions or comments to https://www.facebook.com/becandvern
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Bec and Vern continue to answer those tricky social media questions about faking orgasms, hangry dates, sexual meals and how old is too old to date.
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This episode was recorded live at a Rekindling Relationships Podcast in a Park event in Bendigo. Bec and Vern are joined by local sexologist Linda Kirkman and a live audience for a fun evening of random questions, useful information and strange prizes. Listen to find out how to get over an ex, why kissing is good for you, how many different types of orgasms there are, and why does Linda have a bag of 3D printed clitorises?
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Bec and Vern answer those tricky social media questions about racist mothers, low sex drives and selfies.
Hi everyone, we are starting 2022 with a new format. We really hope you like it. Please let us know what you think and message us any questions or comments to https://www.facebook.com/becandvern
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Bec and Vern look to social media to find some interesting relationship questions to answer in our new format for 2022. We hope you enjoy this season and please send any questions or comments to https://www.facebook.com/becandvern .
Is it time to say goodbye? Are you at a crossroads? Are you avoiding talking about it? Bec and Vern discuss how to have this very hard conversation about parting ways and why doing it can make you both happier.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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Trauma affects many of us. In our past and also in our present. Identifying how it is impacting your life and communicating this with your partner can helps us process this pain and build a more loving relationship as we heal together. In this episode, Bec and Vern discuss how to be supportive of someone dealing with past trauma, whether it’s your partner or yourself.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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Disagreements are common and normal in a relationship. However, after dealing with conflict we need to take the time to come together to repair upsets and hurts. Bec and Vern talk about how important this is for your relationship and why it's worth learning how to do it better.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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Are you sick of arguing about the same thing with your partner over and over again? Has stonewalling, avoidance or yelling become the norm in your relationship? Conflict is a normal in a relationship but there are better ways to do it. Bec and Vern discuss ways to manage these battles with more respect, openness and patience, so that they actually strengthen our relationships.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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Would you like your intimate space to be more deeply connected and way more fun? Would you like to speak more openly about sex with your partner? Would you like to have more sex? It’s all about using your mouth and having better conversations. Bec and Vern chat about how we can shake our awkwardness, be more vulnerable, and ask for what we want in our intimate lives so that we can have joyful and connected intimate spaces.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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Something has happened. It has affected you and your relationship. Trust has been broken. What now? Bec and Vern discuss how to use communication, honesty and patience to rebuild trust so that you can feel safe again.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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Have you disconnected from your partner? Have work or kids taken priority over your relationship? Maybe a decline in mental or physical health has created withdrawal or distance?
In this first episode- Using Communication to Reconnect, Bec and Vern discuss reasons why couples disconnect and how we can better communicate to reconnect with each other. We talk about using these important conversations to bring us closer.
We believe that good healthy communication is the key to a great relationship and that with practice and patience everyone can be better at it.
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In the final episode in this series, Bec and Vern chat about the solid foundation that can exist when the other phases have been moved through well. In this phase, new norms are now second nature and we have a shared history. How do we get to this stage of resolution where we all feel deeply connected and supported?
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By Phase 6, we are learning to accept our new blended family and our place in it. Bec and Vern discuss how we can support each other and our children to more fully embrace this new way of life. How do deal with the apprehension that can exist in separated families? How do we move forward together with love?
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Bec and Vern talk about this middle Phase, one of action where we are moving forward as a family unit. How do we form new routines and set new boundaries in this space? How do we celebrate together? How do we work together so that everyone has a role to play in the family?
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In Phase 4, conflict naturally rears its head and Bec and Vern chat about how we can deal with it appropriately and effectively. Parents may wonder if they can make this new family arrangement work. As we openly air our differences, how do we stay connected so that the whole family can move forward? How do we use conflict to grow the family?
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In this phase there is a recognition of painful family dynamics and the tension that is created by this. Bec and Vern discuss how normal this is for blended families. How do we deal with sibling rivalries? How do we ensure that everyone in the house feels included and involved?
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In episode 2, Bec and Vern explore what happens when reality hits and emotions in the household can run high. How do we navigate this phase of deeper immersion into our blended family?
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In this first episode of this series - 7 Phases of Blended/Step families, Bec and Vern discuss the fantasy phase where everything is new and exciting and nothing can possibly go wrong. How do we recognize this phase as well as realise that it is a dream? How do we prepare for the reality?
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Have you ever been to Couples Counselling or therapy? Do you feel it helped you in your relationship? Would you like to find a fun and different way to connect with your partner? In this Podcast, Bec and Vern have a chat with a couple from Bendigo who participated in one of their creative workshops. After exposing their fears to each other by writing them on a wall, we supported Ayrlea and Kayla to create a mural over these fears to demonstrate their new understanding of each other.
Also check out the YouTube video of this workshop - https://youtu.be/2vfZPoKfqO0
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The final episode in our series about issues with intimacy focusses more on the medical problems that can occur in relationships. Bec and Vern discuss how couples can deal with the psychological and physical impacts relating to sexual dysfunction that can interfere with our connection. What are the problems that can occur and how do we support each other to stay close and deal with these issues? How can we be intimate without being intimate?
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Bec and Vern consider what causes another issue with intimacy, sexual disagreement. In this episode, we explore what these disagreements are and how they can begin. How do these disputes affect our relationships and how do we deal with them? How can we move past the conflict that inevitably occurs in partnership with another? Check out our website or socials to find out more:https://rekindlingrelationships.com/https://www.facebook.com/becandvern
Another issue with intimacy is sexual disinterest and in this episode Bec and Vern talk about how this can impact our relationships. How does parenting, work and busy lifestyles influence our sexual desires and what can we do about it? How do we deal with the pressures in our lives to reconnect with each other? How do we prioritise our relationship so that we can enjoy sex more?
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Bec and Vern discuss issues of intimacy around sexual disappointment. This can look like routine or one sided sex or even disconnected sex. How do couples deal with a mismatch in their sexual drives? How do we deal with issues around performance? We discuss how drugs, alcohol and stress can affect our libidos and what sort of conversations we need to have to move forward together.
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In the 3rd of our episodes relating to issues of intimacy, Bec and Vern explore sexual disapproval. This disapproval can come from dissatisfaction and disconnection, which can then lead to distrust and shame. How common is it and what can we do about it in our relationships? How does the feeling of expectation attached to sex create issues around this? Why do we need to communicate more about where we are at to counter this?
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Continuing on with 7 issues of Intimacy, Bec and Vern discuss Sexual Disconnection and how this impacts our relationships. Withdrawing, lack of sex and romance, avoidance and rejection are all issues to do with disconnection. What creates this disconnection and how can we take responsibility to fix this and grow our relationship?
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In this series based on 7 Issues of Intimacy, Bec and Vern begin by exploring Sexual Dissatisfaction. We talk about what it is and how we can deal with it. Do you feel like there is something missing or doesn’t feel right in your relationship? Do you feel like you are not getting your needs met? How can we feel more sexually satisfied with our partner and in our relationship?
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Bec and Vern complete the 7 stages of a Relationship with the final one Stage 7, Completion. This is the stage of mature intimacy and deep connection for couples who have successfully navigated the last 6 stages. This is when we have plenty of time for each other and know each other well. How do we set ourselves up for enjoying our golden age together in the future? How do we make love last?
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Bec and Vern explore Stage 6 in the 7 stages of a Relationship, Crisis. This can be a mid-life crisis where we feel unfulfilled or bored, nostalgic or even impulsive. Crisis could also relate to a major health problem, loss of family or career, financial issues or other major life-shaking event. If we have navigated the other Stages of a relationship well, then we will have better support at this stage to manage these issues. How do we ensure that we properly sustain our relationship to manage crisis?
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In Stage 5 of the 7 stages of a Relationship, Bec and Vern chat about Cooperation. Couples begin to work together building a life, establishing a family, creating projects and future plans. In this stage, couples can begin take each other for granted and feel disconnected. How do we ensure that we prioritise our relationship so that we don’t lose sight of why we got together in the first place.
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Bec and Vern discuss Stage 4, Commitment, in the 7 stages of a Relationship. This stage is where we have a new understanding of our partner. Trust is built and both partners create a solid and safe foundation together. How do we create this deeper commitment with each other?
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In Stage 3, Bec and Vern explore Conflict, one of the trickiest of the 7 stages of a Relationship. Power struggles, differences of opinion, self interest and frustration can sabotage a relationship. How do we effectively navigate disagreements? How is dealing with conflict one of the most important skills that we can learn in our relationship? Check out our website or socials to find out more:
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Bec and Vern discuss Stage 2 of the 7 stages of a Relationship, Discovery. In this stage we might realise that our partner is fallible and not as perfect as we once thought. To move through this stage we must learn to accept our partner as they are. How do we navigate understanding each other’s needs and how to meet them?
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Bec and Vern explore the 7 stages of a Relationship, starting with Stage 1, Passion. This stage is the honeymoon stage of a relationship where romance and intense attraction connects a couple. Why is this stage so addictive? How do we look beyond the rose coloured glasses of this stage to see whether we are really suited together?
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What do you do when your sex drives don't match up? How do you find a balance so that everyone's intimate needs are met? How embarrassed will Bec get speaking about this topic?
Bec and Vern discuss how to manage when you and your partner have different sex drives.
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Everyone brings their own values into a relationship. How do we navigate being together when we don't share each others? What's a Make or Break? What happens when we compromise our values to be with another person?
Bec and Vern have a chat about how different values can impact our relationships.
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Some great resources on making relationships work for you to check out-
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work.
By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
How do we understand and accept each others unique differences? Different schedules, love languages, personality types, humour, communication styles. How do we embrace each other's differences and make them work?
Bec and Vern discuss how we deal with the conflict that comes from difference.
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Some great resources on making relationships work for you to check out-
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
What does it mean to have differences in emotionality? What happens when we have different ways of expressing emotion and dealing with it? How do we deal with anger?
Bec and Vern talk about how to hold space for our partner's emotions.
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What are the different types of parenting styles and how do they impact our relationships? How do stop ourselves from reacting in the same way that our own parents did? How do we negotiate and navigate our own parenting style with our partners?
Bec and Vern discuss their own parenting styles and how they have dealt with it in their blended family.
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How do couples negotiate having different priorities about chores, work, leisure, children, family etc. How can these differences lead to disagreements and conflict? Why does Vern think that he does all the chores?
Bec and Vern discuss ways to manage our differences through having better conversations.
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How do we navigate our own experiences of family and life as a child, with a partner from differing circumstances? How do we understand each other's experiences and not let them get in the way of being in relationship together?
Bec and Vern discuss the way our different upbringings can impact on our relationships and how we can better manage it.
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Bec and Vern discuss their latest podcast season - 'Alphabet Soup for Couples'. They discuss why they decided to do an A-Z of relating and why they think these topics are important for relationships.
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Zero Sum Game means for you to win, someone has to lose. How is this dynamic affecting your relationship? What can we do to improve the way we communicate with our partner and find a win-win scenario?
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Some great resources on making relationships work for you to check out-
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
What do we mean by Yuk and Yum? How does knowing our partner's yuks and yums bring us closer together and create more excitement in our relationships? Bec and Vern have an amusing chat about ways to find out your partners likes and dislikes.
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Talking about Exes can be tricky. Bec and Vern talk about how Exes can impact our relationships and what we can do to deal with them.
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Why do people withdraw when they are in a relationship? Bec and Vern chat about what withdrawal looks like and how we can deal with it together so that it doesn't damage your relationship.
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Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
Why should we show more vulnerability in our relationships and how can we actually do it? Bec and Vern discuss how difficult it can be to be vulnerable with your partner and how it can bring you closer together. We believe there is great strength in vulnerability.
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We all probably know what being unfaithful means. Bec and Vern speak about how this has impacted their own lives and discuss ways that we can be more honest and authentic in our relationships.
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What do we mean by triggers? How do they affect our relationships? Why does Bec love this topic? Bec and Vern explore the topic of triggers and how they have impacted our relationship. We also discuss ways that we can deal with them effectively together.
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What is security and why is it important in a relationship? How do we feel more secure in relationships? Bec and Vern discuss ways to build more security as a couple through having open and loving conversations.
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What is a ritual? How do we create our own rituals and use them in our relationships to build connection? Bec and Vern chat about how they have used rituals in their partnership and why they think that other couples should try them too.
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Who? Why? What? How? When? Questions can connect us on a deeper level. Bec and Vern discuss ways that couples can deepen their relationships through asking better questions.
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How can porn can affect relationships and intimacy? Bec and Vern explore the ways that porn impacts our partnerships and how we might be better off without it.
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Let's talk about Orgasms. What can a good orgasm do for your relationship? How do we connect on a deeper level so that we can have more of them? How can we use orgasms for healing? Bec overcomes a prudish upbringing to have a fun chat with Vern about sexual intimacy and orgasms.
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What is emotional neglect, where might it come from and why does it hurt relationships? Bec and Vern explore these questions and discuss ways for couples to become more emotionally connected.
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Money, Money, Money. One of the biggest stressors on relationships. Bec and Vern talk about where our beliefs on finances come from and how to work through money issues together as a couple.
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What are Love Languages? How can knowing them help you to better understand your partner? Bec and Vern discuss why they think they are important and how they use Love Languages in their own relationship.
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Some great resources on Love Languages for you to check out-
Take the quiz here- https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/
The Five Love Languages. The secret to love that lasts. By Gary Chapman
https://amzn.to/3jVrR2U
The Five Love Languages. How to express heartfelt commitment to your mate. By Gary Chapman
https://amzn.to/3qtR9rl
How do kids impact our relationships and what we can do about it? Bec and Vern chat about the demands of time and energy of raising children. We also discuss blended families and strategies to help parents cope with kids.
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What is jealousy and how does it come up in relationships? Bec and Vern ponder whether jealousy is actually a negative emotion and what we can do about it.
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How do we bring more intimacy into our relationship? Bec and Vern discuss what intimacy means, some of the issues that can hinder intimacy between couples, as well as talking through their own fears around intimacy.
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What does it mean to Hold Space and why is it important in a healthy relationship? Bec and Vern discuss these questions and explain how we can do this with our partner.
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Why are relationship goals important to our growth as couples and how can we set these goals together? Bec and Vern give goal setting a go and discuss what they found out in the process.
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Some great resources on couples goal setting for you to check out-
Goal Setting Worksheet for Couples
https://ofthehearth.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/AnnualGoalSettingWorksheetforCouples.pdf
https://www.gottman.com/blog/6-hours-a-week-to-a-better-relationship/
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
What can be the biggest fears in a relationship? Where do they come from and how can we overcome them? We all have fears and stepping into intimate relationships can trigger them within us. Bec and Vern discuss their own fears and how they have worked to conquer them and move forward together.
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What is Emotionally Focused Therapy? Why is it seen as one of the most effective treatments for supporting couples to reconnect and shift old patterns of relating? Bec and Vern talk about why they see EFT as a valuable tool for growth and how they use it with couples.
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Some great resources on EFT and attachment theory for you to check out-
Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. By Sue Johnson
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
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Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love. By Levine and Heller
https://amzn.to/3jM1XyD
What sort of distractions erode our relationships? Why is being distracted dangerous to our relationships? How do we stop being distracted and be more present and connected? Bec and Vern discuss these questions to support couples to build more trust and connection with each other.
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It’s more rewarding to resolve a conflict than dissolve a relationship.
Why does conflict happen in relationships? What makes conflict worse and how do we resolve it? Bec and Vern discuss how to deal with conflict in a healthy and constructive way, so that we can deal with life's stressors and support relationship growth.
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Some great resources on relationships and dealing with conflict for you to check out-
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
The Relationship Cure. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/2OCvakd
What are the emotional blocks that can get in the way of our relationships? How do we address them so that they don’t hinder us from connecting on a deeper level? We discuss where these blocks come from and how we can work together to remove them.
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https://rekindlingrelationships.com/
https://www.facebook.com/becandvern
Why is understanding attachment theory helpful to creating a better relationship? We share our thoughts on the 4 different styles of attachment and how they impact relating and communication between couples. We explore how attachment styles show up in our lives and the ways we can feel more secure in our relationships.
Check out our website or socials to find out more: https://rekindlingrelationships.com/
https://www.facebook.com/becandvern
Some great resources on attachment theory and relationships for you to check out-
Hold Me Tight: Your Guide to the Most Successful Approach to Building Loving Relationships. By Sue Johnson
https://amzn.to/3b59eFG
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3rTckDJ
Eight Dates: To keep your relationship happy, thriving and lasting. By John Gottman
https://amzn.to/3jRTBFO
Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep-- Love. By Levine and Heller
https://amzn.to/3jM1XyD