Sholom Bayis and important life topics: Recent Episodes
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Sholom Bayis and important life topics: The Shiurim are given by a maggid shiur experienced in this field. The shiurim are for everyone: men, women, married, unmarried, as they cover many life topics with an emphasis on personal growth
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- dealing with shyness in social relationships;
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- if there is no discipline, there is no love;
- this healthy discipline is CRUCIAL to enjoy life, even physical pleasure, to the fullest;
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- the self righteous sickness;
- the disease of winning approval by conforming;
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Power of words series #40.
* inefficiency of others;
* insecurity that leads to toughness;
* insinuations;
* insulting someone who has emotional pain;
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- Re'eh (רְאֵה);
- we are children of Hashem;
- tzedakah;
- healthy hishtadlus while relying on Hashem;
- rejoice on Yom Tov;
- each Yom Tov is a personal Yom Tov to you;
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Constructive conversation. Part #2.
* category 3 - making requests;
* category 4 - taking action to extricate yourself from a negative situation;
* review;
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- Re'eh (רְאֵה);
- serving Hashem every day;
- elevating sparks;
- compassion on the poor;
- doing your mission, your own avodah;
- time is precious;
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Constructive conversation. Part #1.
* constructive conversation is helped by validation and introductory meta-statement;
* category 1 - expressing facts;
* category 2 - expressing feelings and opinions;
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- addition to HSP #14;
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- re-framing childhood and adolescence as an HSP;
- explaining why these formative years can be very painful and confusing for HSP's, and how to heal from it;
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- Eikev (עֵקֶב);
- living with Hashem each day;
- accessing our strength;
- moshe's mesiras nefesh in breaking the luchos;
- going in the ways of Hashem;
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- joy is the fruit of appreciation;
- respect builds trust;
- learn to know people, their souls, their Tzelem Elokim, especially the soul of one's spouse;
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- some typical unhealthy "should" behaviors;
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Power of words series #39.
* dangers of ideas of idealism;
* ignoring insults;
* indecisive people;
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- Eikev (עֵקֶב);
- awareness of Hashem eliminates worry;
- eating for Hashem;
- benefits of healthy stubbornness (keshei oref);
- chinuch by influence;
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- 5 levels of responding to difference;
- VERY IMPORTANT KEY SHIUR IN REGARDS TO HEALTHY COMMUNICATION;
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- differences in beliefs, in desires or preferences;
- tension caused by small wants accumulating;
- not always the vatranus (giving in) is the healthy approach;
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- addition to HSP #13;
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- Va'etchanan (וָאֶתְחַנַּן);
- living with Hashem every day in every situation;
- escaping into the safehaven of Torah;
- voice of Hashem always with us;
- thinking of Hashem's greatness will bring feelings of love;
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- Va'etchanan (וָאֶתְחַנַּן);
- guarding your health is a mitzvah;
- emunah;
- Hashgacha Perotis;
- tests are for our benefit;
- 'on' our hearts;
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- avoiding being "too much in", "too much out" in the world;
- healthy balance;
- containers and boundaries;
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- developing strong roots in your marriage;
- hakoras haTov exercises that transform your marriage;
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- Devarim (דְּבָרִים);
- giving reproof only after a loving benefit is shown;
- Hashem gives everyone the means to fulfill our purpose in life;
- Hashem loves us and He wants us to ask for His help;
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- the folly of shoulds, musts and oughts;
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Power of words series #38.
* I hope that this doesn't offend you, but....
* using "I" not "you";
* I see you are nervous;
* ice breakers;
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- Devarim (דְּבָרִים);
- the chessed of listening;
- reproof accentuating virtues;
- work very hard to give the benefit of the doubt;
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- 6 realities that will keep you in a healthy space in your marriage;
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- stating respectfully and openly to each other about their different views brings a couple closer to each other;
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- Matot-Masei (מַּטּוֹת-מַסְעֵי);
- Rav Moshe on not despairing from doing teshuva;
- power of your words;
- every individual's 42 journeys in life;
- choosing the path of Torah not suffering;
- creating a safehaven for yourself and others;
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- addition to HSP #12;
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- digging deeper into the early childhood of HSPs;
- importance of parents picking up on this trait in their child to help them thrive;
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- Matot-Masei (מַּטּוֹת-מַסְעֵי);
- Moshe's self sacrifice;
- the idol of Pi-Hachiros that exists today;
- following Aharon's ways;
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- to value our true selves above pleasure, money, status;
- every interaction gives us opportunity to access our best selves and bring out the best in those we interact with;
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- blaming and hero worship are ends of the same externally directed behavior;
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- blaming and hero worship are ends of the same externally directed behavior;
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Power of words series #37.
* high pressure tactics;
* honor seeking;
* I have nothing to lose;
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- avoiding enmeshment;
- learning to thrive in marriage even in a state of disagreement or conflict;
- you do not to be in sync with your spouse all the time or even alot of the time;
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- Pinchas (פִּינְחָס);
- healthy zealousness;
- Beautiful Kedushas Levi Regarding Moshe's Plea to Hashem to Give Us Healthy Leaders Through the Generations;
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- true vatranus (giving in) that builds marriages only works if absolute NOTHING - is expected in return (not even a smile or thank you);
- explaining the signs that your using unhealthy vatranus;
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- additional notes on HSP 11;
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- reasons why most people have difficulty handling highly sensitive people and empaths;
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- common interest is not enough to create a long lasting relationship in marriage, rather it's to help each other become the best version of ourselves;
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- Balak (בָּלָק);
- always seeing the zechus in klall Yisroel;
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- Balak (בָּלָק);
- always seeing the zechus in klall Yisroel;
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- using the internal focus of control, not the external focus;
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Power of words series #36.
* don't assume he or she won't mind hearing insults;
* heckling;
* making fun of height;
* helpful sounding insults;
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You + Me = We
* What is wrong with giving in?
+ Often giving in can cause serious damage in marriage;
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- Chukat-Balak (חֻקַּת-בָּלָק);
- keeping Torah as a "chok" to do the will of Hashem;
- seeing the good, not the negative;
- Hashem sees our inner potential;
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Marriage Restoration #9. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 5: "Acknowledge the Other". Part #3.
+ "Love Infusion" - appreciation and date nights;
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- comment on HSP 10;
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- tendency for HSPs to feel flawed, even as children;
- how they are very special but deeply misunderstood;
- feeling best when not too high and not too low;
- the shutdown mode as a defense mechanism;
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- Chukat (חֻקַּת);
- seeing the inner essence of a person not the externals;
- your mouth is a holy vessel that needs protection;
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- true intimacy starts with getting comfortable with ourselves;
- to become the best version of ourselves, which will give us the ability to see the best in our spouse;
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- Korach (קֹרַח);
- Rav Moishe ZT"L on true mesorah;
- lesson of nasseh v'nishma;
- keeping within the confines of what the Torah allows us to do;
- removing confusion from our hearts by following the Torah;
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- the danger of unhealthy "shoulds";
- destructive stringencies creating severe damage of self esteem and create OCD tendencies;
- using an unhealthy "should" to control and manipulate people;
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Power of words series #35.
* gratitude for hearing ways to improve;
* avoid guilt-inducing tactics;
* be sensitive to other people;
* removing hatred from your heart;
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Marriage Restoration #8. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 4: "Acknowledge the Other". Part #3.
+ the life changing skill of mirroring;
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- Korach (קֹרַח);
- avoiding the devastating effects of machlokes;
- wisdom of On's wife saving him;
- Korach needed to appreciate him being a Levi;
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Marriage Restoration #7. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 4: "Acknowledge the Other". Part #2.
+ taking your listening to the next level;
+ it's a marriage-saving skill that every husband or wife can develop;
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- Shlach (שְׁלַח-לְך);
- meraglim wanted an exclusive spiritual life which was not what Hashem wanted;
- to strengthen emunah;
- staying away from lashon horah;
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- ten reminders for sensitive people who feel judged;
- protect yourself from unhealthy assessments of other people;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/hsp-30_ideas_advice.pdf
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- physical, emotional, intellectual and spiritual intimacy;
- Spiritual intimacy and good middos (character traits) are the keys that bring blessings to the other three forms of intimacy;
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- acceptance prayer;
- beginner's mind;
- be authentic not perfect;
- re-framing old messages into new empowering ones;
- focus on the roses, not the thorns;
- success of other people does not diminish your worth;
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- Shlach (שְׁלַח-לְך);
- the Chofetz Chaim's insight into the meraglim;
- avoiding the feeling of worthlessness after a sin;
- recognizing our inherent great value;
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Power of words series #34.
* be aware of healthy goals when you speak to another person;
* Insulting others is creating a spiritual Churban to the one who insults;
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- Behaalotecha (בְּהַעֲלֹתְךָ);
- appreciate what you have even when we have challenges;
- humility is recognizing your gifts are from Hashem;
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Marriage Restoration #6. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 4: "Acknowledge the Other". Part #1.
+ to learn to speak and listen with the goal of connecting;
+ entering the world of your spouse;
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Marriage Restoration #5. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 3: "Detox your marriage";
+ stop the verbal abuse;
+ create a safe and nurturing environment;
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- ten reminders for sensitive people who feel judged;
- protect yourself from unhealthy assessments of other people;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/hsp-30_ideas_advice.pdf
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- Behaalotecha (בְּהַעֲלֹתְךָ);
- working towards not complaining;
- appreciating the ayin tovah of Moshe Rabbeinu;
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Sex is not intimacy. Part #2.
* the courage to reveal your authentic self to your spouse will bring you both to a healing joyful intimacy;
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- Naso (נָשֹׂא);
- keeping to your mission in life;
- beracha of shemira that the goodness you receive should not spoil you;
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- your focus becomes your reality;
- don't pay attention when someone "important" doesn't believe in you;
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- Naso (נָשֹׂא);
- connecting gifts of Cohen to parsha of Sotah;
- nazir;
- sholom;
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Power of words series #33.
* this is Emphasizing points from last shiur on "be future oriented" and constructive, never say "get lost" - to bring it down in a very important fundamental way;
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- Bamidbar (בְּמִדְבַּר);
- miskal hachassidus - the right balance of frumkeit;
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Power of words series #33.
* be future oriented and constructive;
* never say "get lost" or lash out a "global attack" on a person;
* Kavod Habrios starts in the mind and heart;
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Marriage Restoration #4. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 2: "Seal Your Exits". Part #2.
+ seal exits;
+ not turning away from one's spouse by connecting to family, friends, even individual therapist in unhealthy ways;
+ instead to turn towards each other;
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Marriage Restoration #3. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 2: "Seal Your Exits". Part #1.
+ protect your marriage from unhealthy escapes that drain you in the marriage;
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- Bamidbar (בְּמִדְבַּר);
- the gift of the degalim, each with their own path all leading to Hashem;
- Hashem wants you where you are;
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- ten reminders for sensitive people who feel ashamed;
- sensitivity is not a weakness;
- you have no need to "fix" your emotional intensity, just to channel it;
- crying is not shameful;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/hsp-30_ideas_advice.pdf
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Sex is not intimacy. Part #1.
* how we yearn for real intimacy, but we run away from it;
* to have the courage to be truly intimate with ones spouse;
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- regret of past only at specific times, the rest of the time to serve Hashem with joy!!, not burdened by any guilt or depression. (OHR HACHAYIM, IMREI NOAM);
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Power of words series #32.
* fining yourself;
* finger and hand motions;
* focus on improving others not putting them down;
* don't follow negative examples;
* be careful when interacting with close friends and relatives;
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- the healthy aspects of sexuality in a frum bas Yisroel;
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- Bechukotai (בְּחֻקֹּתַי);
- toil in Torah;
- being happy with your lot;
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Marriage Restoration #2. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 1: "Commit";
+ with commitment, most divorces can be avoided and the marriage can thrive;
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- Behar (בְּהַר);
- modest but with healthy pride;
- Shemittah lesson;
- parnassah and emunah;
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- ten reminders for sensitive people who feel drained;
- boundaries;
- self-care;
- gift of listening but in a channeled way;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/hsp-30_ideas_advice.pdf
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- love and money;
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- Behar-Bechukotai (בְּהַר-בְּחֻקֹּתַי);
- not to cause pain to others;
- importance of preparing contracts, avoiding ribbis before transactions take place;
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- not allowing your prior sins or current shortcomings hold you back from your self-confidence to talking to Hashem and accomplishing wonderful things (ZERA KODESH, TORAS AVOS);
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/zera kodesh-toras avos-or hachaim-imrei noam.pdf
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Power of words series #31.
* fear of Hashem;
* responsible feedback;
* seeing the good in people;
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Marriage Restoration #1. Five step plan to healthy and happy marriage (even if it's very strained currently).
* Action Step 1: "Commit";
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- Emor (אֱמֹר);
- unique differences and similarity between Shabbos and Yom Tovphysical possessions connected to the soul;
- specialness of the Sefirah days;
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- making an effort to calmly and respectfully end an argument, even if you didn't start the argument;
- REVIEW OF TECHNIQUES TO ENHANCE and IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE;
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- highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weakling or damaged goods;
- to feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is a trademark of the truly alive and compassionate;
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- Emor (אֱמֹר);
- practical universal lessons on the 4 minim on Succos;
- achdus, when all parts of Klal Yisroel unite;
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- navigating the delicate balance of "leaving" and "honoring" parents (and in-laws);
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- Kedoshim (קְדֹשִׁים);
- Hashem dwells with us even when we feel low or impure;
- elevating even the mundane;
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- working through the fear of the unknown and facing new experiences with confidence and joy;
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Power of words series #30.
* facial expressions;
* not telling people they are failures;
* be sensitive regarding family background;
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- Acharei Mot/Kedoshim (אַחֲרֵי מוֹת/קְדֹשִׁים);
- Ramban's concept of naval bershus hatorah, to be applied in regards to all of Torah including interpersonal relationships;
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- diffusing arguments and mending fences;
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- it's not what you say but how you say it;
- sandwiching your request or constructive criticism between two compliments;
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- "the world breaks everyone and afterward many are stronger at the broken places";
- how this powerful quote applies to both Teshuva and highly sensitive people;
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- Acharei Mot (אַחֲרֵי מוֹת);
- Hashem dwells with us even when we feel low or impure;
- elevating even the mundane;
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- Shvii Shel Pesach (שביעי של פסח);
- trusting Hashem;
- special emunah of our ancestors given over to us;
- relying completely on Hashem for parnassah, for shidduchim, for everything;
- belief in Hashgacha Pratis;
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- Shvii Shel Pesach (שביעי של פסח);
- bring the light of Pesach to the whole year;
- internal "sefirah" work day by day;
- every day has value;
- loving and honoring every Jew;
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- suggestions husband and wives tell each other (or should) to make the sexual relations more meaningful;
- (use the content of this shiur responsibly);
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- Passover (חַג הַפֶּסַח);
- Hashem's chessed sometimes hidden, we ask it to be revealed;
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- eliminating worry;
- understanding the unhealthy payoffs of worry;
- strategies to combat worry;
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Power of words series #29.
* not to influence other to insult;
* avoid hurting people out of envy;
* the terrible words "every one knows" followed by a negative attack;
* don't exaggerate your sensitivity to manipulate others;
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- your soul mate is your helpmate;
- winning an argument is losing;
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- how anger and criticism can destroy marriages;
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- DOES;
- depth of perception;
- over-stimulation;
- emotional reactivity and empathy;
- sensing the subtle;
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- purpose of sexuality in marriage;
- how husband's and wife's needs differ;
- Hashem's Design to give this gift to every married couple;
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- Metzora (מְּצֹרָע);
- gift of Tzoraas;
- seeing the good even in difficult situations;
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- payoffs for choosing guilt;
- strategies to eliminating unhealthy guilt;
- not manipulating others by throwing excess guilt on them;
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Power of words series #28.
* employer's responsibility in regards to words and behavior towards their employees;
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- Tazria (תַזְרִיעַ);
- even physical acts have a deep connection to the neshama;
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- (BPJ # 66);
- understanding dynamics of physical desire for a couples can heal their marriages in this area of their lives;
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- Tazria-Metzora (תַזְרִיעַ-מְּצֹרָע);
- power of positive speech;
- think before speaking;
- looking at your own lowliness will prevent you from speaking lashon horah;
- not judging towards people people who seem "lower" than you;
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- bridging the differences between husband and wife in culture, family;
- healthy distance needed in relation to in-laws;
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- unique challenges of an HSP (highly sensitive people);
- being critical of themselves and others;
- moodiness;
- emotional sponges;
- easily overwhelmed;
- difficulty with boundaries;
- feeling insecure about their sensitivity;
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- Shemini (שְּׁמִינִי);
- healthy aspect of shame;
- renewal lesson of Pesach Sheni;
- silence of Aharon;
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- the effort required to attain sexual oneness in marriage;
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- removing unhealthy guilt or worry;
- how to channel these emotions in a very positive direction;
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- Shemini (שְּׁמִינִי);
- Moshe's "anger" was filled with love;
- a person has 2 signs of kashrus (relationship with Hashem, relationship with your fellow man);
- humility of a true leader who is also fully aware of God's gifts to them;
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Power of words series #27.
* speaking to drivers with sensitivity;
* not to cause embarrassment;
* the gift of empathy;
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- healthy behaviors before, after and during intimacy;
- discussing frequency;
- female masturbation;
- lubricants and healthy respect;
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- Tzav (צַו);
- Hakoras Hatov;
- renewal every day in serving Hashem;
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- Tzav (צַו);
- it is precious to serve Hashem in every situation and every level, not to get discouraged when your matzav limits you;
- consider every effort as special in serving Hashem;
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- to avoid the epidemic in marriages of simply co-existing;
- to decide to make working on your marriage a priority;
- praying for each other and with each other;
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- how learning this topic (highly sensitive people) can help everyone in their interpersonal relationships and marriages;
- to be a healthy human being;
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- making healthy decisions as a team;
- agreeing on their respective role in decision making in their married life;
- respecting each others input and listening;
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Power of words series #26.
* don't get discouraged as you grow;
* don't repeat insults to others;
* avoid double messages;
* being kind and then hostile towards someone;
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- breaking free from the past. Part 2.
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- Vayikra (וַיִּקְרָא);
- all our journeys in life are directly guided by Hashem;
- true holiness is to elevate physicality;
- gift of pure vision;
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- Vayikra (וַיִּקְרָא);
- korbon needs to be internal;
- bringing out inner potential;
- to choose to ask Hashem to desire good things and remove the desire for bad things;
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- navigating through the various phases (seasons, tekufos) of sexual intimacy in marriage;
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Why the negative self concept?
* negative feelings about oneself is the Yetzer Hora's efforts to disable you (lessons from an "out-of-town" rabbi and Rabbi Dr. Abraham J. Twerski ZT”L);
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- learning to wisely discuss important topics with each other in marriage, including finances;
- being supportive of one another;
- how respect and kindness make it pleasant in the home even when having challenges;
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- Pekudei (פְקוּדֵי);
- gift of action and "following through";
- act immediately as soon as the inspiration comes to you;
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- Pekudei (פְקוּדֵי);
- A tremendous yesod to hold on to in life from Rashi in Parshas Pikudei,for every person in life.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Rashi Parshas Pikudei.pdf
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Chayei Olam - Conclusion.
* summary of the rest of the sefer and a torah from the sefer Birchas Peretz;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam Ch 17-24.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam 25-31.pdf
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- not to have unrealistic expectations of your spouse based on your parent's way of doing things;
- don't make assumptions;
- healthy discussion about specifics of responsibilities and overall conduct;
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Power of words series #25.
* don't needlessly insult someone you are having a financial dispute with;
* saying an untruth for shalom;
* face recognition;
* not to insult others in order to dominate them;
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- breaking free from the past. Part 1.
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 9.
* avoiding hurtful words (especially "divorce") and if already a habit, committing to stop and replace them with healing words that build;
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- Vayakhel (וַיַּקְהֵל);
- Hashem's desire for you to use your talents for Him;
- to teach and inspire others with what you know;
- being happy with what you have;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 8.
* don't try to change your spouse - honor your differences and allow them to shine by providing what they need;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 19-21.
* Hashem wants us to serve Him within nature;
* preciousness of serving Hashem during times of Hester Panim;
* reward and punishment;
* Hashem having us thrive even in Galus;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam Ch 17-24.pdf
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- meaningful communication;
- listening, sharing thoughts and feeling creates a bond of closeness and deep friendship;
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Power of words series #24.
* avoid discouraging words;
* detect within yourself disguised hostility and work through it;
* not to take out your displaced anger on your spouse, children, ect.
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- practice of mindfulness to distance yourself from negative thoughts;
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- Ki Tisa (כִּי תִשָּׂא);
- flaw of stubbornness, but also the positive aspects of it;
- humbleness;
- healthy desire to accomplish;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 7.
* consulting your spouse about decisions, especially big and risky ones, but even routine decisions; this creates a close relationship and strengthens the bond in marriage;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 6.
* beware of feelings;
* trust your commitment and true values more than your feelings;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 15-18.
* Yetzias Mitzrayim;
* Matan Torah;
* Nissim in the Midbar;
* Manna;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam ch 7-16.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam Ch 17-24.pdf
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 9-14.
* inner soul joy of doing mitzvos;
* strengthening our belief in that our soul is eternal;
* miracles increase our emunah;
* the miraculous kindness of Hashem transforming 70 souls into a great nation;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam ch 7-16.pdf
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- summary of the five love languages;
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- Tetzaveh (תְּצַוֶּה);
- Aharon's gift of Torah, Chessed, Happy Heart;
- essence of oil separate from the other nations;
- toil in Torah and success is assured;
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Power of words series #23.
* not to insult others even when agitated;
* speak diplomatically;
* disagreeing with respect and clarity;
* respecting ALL leaders of Klall Yisroel;
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- using friend, mentor, rebbi, and, of course, Hashem himself to give you encouragement and empowerment;
- how to replace insecure thoughts with healthy self confident thoughts;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 5.
* avoid negative score-keeping;
* to be grateful and focus on the positive;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 4.
* making sure you give your spouse your best, not just your leftover energy;
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- what love means;
- not to overemphasize feelings and emotions, rather to commit to healthy words and actions;
- patience;
- kind words;
- making requests,not demands;
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- Terumah (תְּרוּמָה);
- being authentic and real;
- purity of the soul within;
- Betzalel physically built the Aron as Klall Yisroel built the Aron, Menorah, ect. within their hearts;
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Power of words series #22.
* parting ways without insulting;
* describe specific behavior when correcting others;
* build confidence in others;
* respect people who are different from you;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 3.
* to not allow your children to hurt your marriage;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 2.
* the "his" & "hers" mentality;
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Power of words series #21.
* coping with defensiveness and not fight back;
* don't deflate another person's excitement;
* weight the ramification of your words;
* delivering painful messages with sensitivity;
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- lack of self confidence is an opportunity to grow confidence;
- empowered memories;
- CLIMBING YOUR EMOTIONAL-SPIRITUAL LADDER;
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- Mishpatim (מִּשְׁפָּטִים);
- avoiding the bias of bribery;
- returning a lost object, a lost soul even 100 times;
- feeling and experience the suffering of others;
- having pleasure bringing joy to other people;
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- blaming other people prevents self-confidence;
- to learn to accept and appreciate honest feedback even when negative;
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- Channeling our animalistic nature;
- make it work;
- make the effort;
- husband truly gives, wife will give back hundredfold;
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Avoid pitfalls in marriage. Part 1.
* online behavior;
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Power of words series #20.
* don't criticize what can't be changed;
* intentionally causing pain with words is cruelty;
* be sensitive to people who cry;
* not to curse someone or wish them harm;
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- self confident breathing;
- commitment and determination;
- using humor to develop self-confidence;
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- Yitro (יִתְרוֹ);
- Ahavas Yisroel is the prerequisite for Kabbolas Hatorah;
- true humility brings Ahavah;
- thought and sensitivity when giving advice;
- watching health us keeping the Torah;
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- love need to be nurtured;
- being flexible;
- expressing calmly ones needs;
- recognizing that Hashem desires your marriage to thrive;
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Power of words series #19.
* insulting can destroy the positive creativity within a person;
* constructive criticism needs to be out of love,not frustration;
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- "Chidushai Harim and Avodas Yisroel" on not obsessing on the bad that was done even when doing Teshuva;
- focusing primarily on the positive;
- never think Hashem will reject your Tefillos;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chidushai Harim & Avodas Yisroel.pdf
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- a new fresh mindset on your marriage;
- not just to "survive" but to "thrive";
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- love and commitment doesn't mean to have the unrealistic expectation of feeling this 24/7;
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- Beshalach (בְּשַׁלַּח);
- lessons of the Mann;
- Parnasah;
- Emunah in Hashem;
- in a sense we are receiving Mann today;
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Power of words series #18.
* skill to correct others out of love and respect;
* recognizing the Tzelem Elokim within every person will help you speak to others with great sensitivity;
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- TANYA and TZAVOAS RIVASH on protecting yourself from unhealthy shame, guilt that can spiral you downwardsto pick yourself up with joy and self confidence;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/TANYA & TZAVAOS RIVOSH.pdf
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- why do I love you?
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- beware of emotional affairs, especially during trigger times;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 7 and 8.
* belief in Olam Habah;
* how that emunah creates inner peace and joy, comforts us over loss, fills us with love and a sense of security;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam ch 7-16.pdf
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- Bo (בֹּא);
- everything is a miracle from Hashem (Ramban);
- even nature is a miracle;
- your outer behavior effects your inner life in a major way;
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- asking Hashem forgiveness for mistreating your spouse before asking them forgiveness);
- tear down walls that separate you and your spouse;
- beware of emotional affairs;
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Power of words series #17.
* coping with insults;
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- strategies for eliminating approval-seeking as need;
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- important words men and women understand differently;
- women need verbal affirmation more then men, but men need to hear that they are respected;
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- to love your wife by showering on her time and affection;
- to emotionally bond;
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- Va'eira (וָאֵרָא);
- suffering to teach;
- not to destroy;
- Rav Pam ZT"L on Mishkal Chasidus.
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- Rav Cahan's insight on shiur "Chayei Olam - Chapter 5 and 6";
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 5 and 6.
* soul desire for spirituality;
* why man's life in this world has a lot of pain (and how my focusing on the true meaning of it will give a person inner peace and joy);
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei olam Ch 3-6.pdf
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- to achieve a happy marriage is to work on our attitude and behavior. The key to improvement lies with you!!
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Power of words series #16.
* complaints and compliments - using them both to build, not to break;
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- typical approval-seeking behaviors;
- the "payoffs" of approval-seeking behaviors and working past it;
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- Shemot (שְׁמוֹת);
- Aharon was crying for Moshe;
- greatness of Basya;
- when no one is acting, we are called by Hashem to take action;
- uniqueness of starts;
- we can serve Hashem wherever we are;
- Kedushas haBris;
- Moshe feeling the pain of Klall Yisrael;
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- empathy;
- feeling for your spouse and fulfilling their needs;
- providing for one's wife emotional closeness;
- time and attention;
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- the desire for "affection" (manifested more in women);
- how sholom bayis is enhanced when each spouse understands the needs of the other and tries to fulfill them;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 3 and 4.
* why we are given the gift of free will;
* why we by nature are not happy with what we have and always want more;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei olam Ch 3-6.pdf
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Sexual intimacy. Part 2. and summary of importance of working on all types of intimacy.
* in the niddah period, to strongly utilize the 4 intimacies that CAN be practiced (emotional, spiritual, financial, recreational);
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- self confidence brings out one's potential;
- you dont need approval of others;
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- Vayechi (וַיְחִי);
- even what Yaakov gave to Reuvein, Shimon and Levi were great blessings;
- creating a calmness from anger and a calmness (opposite of unhealthy impulsiveness);
- using anger in the right measure;
- learning Torah in all situations in life;
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Power of words series #15.
* children's words to parents;
* onoas devorim causes chillul Hashem;
* avoiding comparisons;
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- the desire for "achievement" and "looking good", "appearance" (manifested more in women), and how to channel it in healthy ways;
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- the role of "power" and "pleasure" (manifested more in men), and how to channel it in healthy way;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 1. Part 3. and Chapter 2.
* this beautiful world Hashem gives to us as a Gift;
* Hashem giving us a mind and intelligence;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam Chapter 1-2.pdf
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Sexual intimacy. Part 1.
* enhances all other forms of intimacy;
* how sexual intimacy is a great gift from Hashem to be cherish and channeled;
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- Vayigash (וַיִּגַּשׁ);
- feeling the pain of others;
- empathetic listening;
- a healthy broken heart ultimately brings positive actions and joy;
- don't get agitated in your path in life;
- accept others that have a different way of serving Hashem;
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Power of words series #14.
* children need to be taught: IT'S OFTEN A PIKUACH NEFESH ISSUE WHEN YOU SPEAK TO OTHERS IN HARMFUL WAYS';
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- feeling comfortable when meeting new people;
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- the role of "prestige" and the need to succeed in self-esteem (manifested more in men);
- how to utilize this in healthy ways, and not in self destructive ways;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 1. Part 2.
* the infinite kindness and wisdom of Hashem in creating man;
* heart, lungs, circulatory, and digestive, and reproductive systems;
* nursing, raising children;
* memory, forgetfulness, sleep;
* human face;
* ability to form healthy habits;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam Chapter 1-2.pdf
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Recreation intimacy.
* having fun together;
* sharing enjoyable experiences together;
* trying things that your spouse likes;
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- Miketz (מִקֵּץ);
- Yosef's secret kindness to Shimon;
- recognizing everything is from Hashem;
- the miracle of oil burning!!
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Power of words series #13.
* praising the bought items of others;
* not insulting people, even ones own children for breaking or spilling things;
* catch people doing things right;
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- marriages can be healed by bringing Hashem in the picture;
- developing skills, and fighting against our own self centeredness;
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- being properly prepared helps your self-confidence;
- recognizing your own value and worth at all times;
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- Developing self-esteem heals and transforms marriages;
- self-esteem and happiness are interdependent;
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Chayei Olam - Chapter 1. Part 1.
* the infinite kindness and wisdom of Hashem in creation;
* sight, hearing, taste, smell, speech, music, asher yotzar, walking, everything created has a profound purpose;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei Olam Chapter 1-2.pdf
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- Vayeshev (וַיֵּשֶׁב)
- not to embarrass anyone
- Yaakov's image saving Yosef
- to connect with our Avos
- humble beginnings
- avoiding the poison of Sinas Chinam
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- spiritual intimacy - a very powerful deep bond;
- by praying, learning, listening to mutually enjoyable shiurim, sharing Torah thoughts, all create the most deepest spiritual bond;
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Power of words series #12.
* avoiding the unhealthy habit of blaming others;
* being careful not to boast;
* not to cause distress by being insensitive to others;
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- PRI TZADDIK, CHOFETZ CHAIM, (and more) on recognizing your good deeds have GREAT effect;
- your prayers have GREAT power;
- to refuse to listen to the yetzer hora who tells you that your good deeds are worthless;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/PRI TZADDIK CHOFETZ CHAIM & MORE.pdf
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- happy marriage helps not just yourselves, but is helping klall Yisroel;
- avoiding divorce;
- importance of training and developing skills to enhance and SAVE marriages;
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- using money to draw you closer instead of pulling you apart;
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- Vayishlach (וַיִּשְׁלַח)
- Yaakov and Esav, their different worldviews
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Chayei Olam - Introduction.
* emunah;
* overcoming the tests of our generation;
* emunas chachomim;
* recognizing hasgacha pratis;
* learning Torah;
* tefillah;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Chayei olam -Hakdama.pdf
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- financial intimacy - using money and communication about it to draw you closer instead of pulling you apart;
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Power of words series #11.
* awareness of the consequences of your words;
* sensitivity to Baal' Teshuva;
* watching words even for selfish reasons;
* accept a 'thank you' gracefully;
* giving benefit of the doubt;
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- some easy skills to master healthy self-love exercises;
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- understanding spontaneous sexual drive vs. reactive drive, and how a couple in a loving way address their differences in libido, creating true harmony in the bedroom;
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- Vayetze (וַיֵּצֵא)
- Yaakov asking to be happy with the basics
- power of Modeh Ani
- gratefulness every day
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Maamar Mordechai 74. Part #2. (R. Mordechai Schwab ZT"L).
* looking at the good in every one (seeing the "good" in Yerusholayim) is causing Hashem to only look at the good within us;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Maamer Mordechai 74.pdf
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Maamar Mordechai 74. Part #1. (R. Mordechai Schwab ZT"L).
* giving the benefit of the doubt;
* correcting sinas chinam;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Maamer Mordechai 74.pdf
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- physical intimacy (not sex). Part 2.
- creates a sense of security, belonging, and a sense of peace
- to chose to be physically affectionate even if it doesnt come naturally to you
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Power of words series #10.
* avoid associations that are painful for a person;
* attack the problem, not the person;
* avoid needless conflicts;
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- to attain healthy self love;
- avoiding complaining, self-pity and scapegoating;
- avoid being enticed by the "rewards" of not loving yourself;
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- Toldos (תּוֹלְדֹת)
- miseras nefesh for Bris Milah
- the danger of Eisav showing the outward kosher sign to the world
- Yitzchok wanted children specifically from Rivka
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- connecting to Hashem heals marriage;
- more on combating business;
- making sex a blessing instead of a burden;
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- fighting the danger in marriage of being too busy to connect and care;
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Marriage Letter #9.
* healthy initiation from the wife towards her husband;
* recognizing not just beauty of the physical body but also the holiness of the physical body;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/מכתב הדרכה המיוחס - דפוס חדש.pdf
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- physical intimacy (not sex). Part 1.
- the great importance and healing aspects of hugging, kissing, cuddling
- increasing exponentially their emotional and spiritual bond
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Power of words series #9.
* asking forgiveness;
* not asking a store keeper prices needlessly;
* healthy assertiveness;
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- Chayei Sarah (חַיֵּי שָׂרָה)
- the healthy emotional approach towards life and death
- feeling clean every single day
- developed spiritual sensitivity
- not to be discouraged by struggles in understanding
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- common mistakes about self-confidence;
- allowing yourself to be vulnerable;
- cultivating healthy loving self-kindness;
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- safeguards against emotional affairs;
- bring Hashem in your married life;
- small steps of emotional connectivity is crucial;
- "great" sex doesn't always mean a great marriage;
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- emotional connection;
- coping with long distance marriage;
- emotional availability;
- sensitive responsiveness and trust;
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Marriage Letter #8.
* to fulfill the mitzva of onah;
* a husband should not hyperfocus on the sexual alone, but focus on emotional caring and love, but he cannot under focus on the sexual either;
* he needs to arouse his sexual desire for her so she feels wanted;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/מכתב הדרכה המיוחס - דפוס חדש.pdf
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- emotional intimacy. Part 2.
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- Vayeira (וַיֵּרָא)
- importance of Simcha
- the Simcha, why the righteous are compared to a tree
- pillar of Chesed
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Power of words series #8.
* not to arouse fears in other people;
* avoid arrogance which triggers serious onoas devorim;
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- healing aspects of walking;
- if you knew you couldn't fail, what goals and dreams would you strive for;
- developing the skill of persistence;
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- to withdraw from withdrawal;
- setting boundaries even with your own children;
- to intentionally be emotionally connected;
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From suicidal to hopeful, how I learnt to fightJazz Thornton | TEDxAuckland • October 2018
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Why Life MattersRabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center
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Why Do You Matter?Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center
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- Lech-Lecha (לֶךְ-לְךָ)
- Hashgacha Peratis in every journey
- Hashem in nature
- Avraham's faith in Hashem in every situation
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- not to be shaken by challenges in marriage, such as illness, job loss, even birth of children;
- being intentional to stay physically and emotionally connected;
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Marriage Letter #7.
* onah is a mitzvah, no less than any other mitzvah like tefillin, matza, ect. that bring kedusha on a person;
* this mitzvah clearly shows that Hashem wants every Jewish wife to experience sexual and emotional pleasure from her husband, and He requires the husband to do this for her;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/מכתב הדרכה המיוחס - דפוס חדש.pdf
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- emotional intimacy. Part 1.
- a skill that can be learned by all
- power of words, and how you are empowered to use it wisely to build emotional intimacy with your spouse
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Messages on parshas Bereshit (בְּרֵאשִׁית)
- Rav Cahan:
-
story relating to Harav A.L Steinman ZT"L on his powerful ability to always look at the positive and to bring out the best in people
-
Rav Cahan:
- profound thought on how to cope with with mistakes
- not to give up, but go to "plan B"
-
(a while ago I had a shiur about how plan B was really the true plan B all along....)
-
a powerful practical insight to help people get past even hugh mistakes and built upon it, to heal and thrive going forward
- Rav Cahan:
- Insight
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Power of words series #7.
* expressing appreciation and helping people who are prone to seek approval from others;
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- Noach (נֹחַ)
- lessons of chessed from the Teivah
- putting light in the words of Tefillah (Teivah)
- elevation of wine and physical pleasures
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- choosing how you feel;
- learning not to be unhappy, not to immobilize yourself;
- living in the present moment;
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- mindfulness in sexual intimacy;
- decision making;
- workplace, parenting, eating and overall Sholom Bayis;
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- inner Simchas Hachayim enhancing sholom bayis;
- smiling, gratitude, generosity, seeing the good in others, empathetic joy;
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Marriage Letter #6.
* siyum of 1st letter and start of 2nd letter to married men (here too feedback is appreciated on whether or how beneficial such a letter is (or isn't) for both married men and women to know);
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/מכתב הדרכה המיוחס - דפוס חדש.pdf
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- the pitfall of blame and ultimatums;
- introduction of the 6 foundations of intimacy;
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- Bereshit (בְּרֵאשִׁית)
- power of Emes
- marriage
- balance
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Power of words series #6.
* acceptance of people, coping with anger;
* chesed of answering other people's questions;
* self-awareness on your tendency to hurt people with words;
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- choices after a rough childhood or past trauma;
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- the importance of self-compassion in life and in Sholom Bayis;
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- the miracle of neuroplasticity and using it to enhance life and Sholom Bayis;
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- Hoshana Rabbah (הוֹשַׁעְנָא רַבָּא) 5784
- taking the special gift of these 3 remaining days of Yom Tov into the rest of the year to infuse it with emunah, bitachon, simcha
- to feel that Hashem is with you and that He is lifting you up
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- V'Zot HaBerachah (וְזֹאת הַבְּרָכָה)
- gift of broken Luchos in our lives
- simcha is Zevulun in serving Hashem
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- Succos- Teshuva. (סוכות)
- creating the vessels to accept the Torah properly
- greatness of:
- Hoshana Rabbah (הוֹשַׁעְנָא רַבָּא)
- Shmini Atzeres (שְׁמִינִי עֲצֶֽרֶת)
- Simchas Torah (שִׂמְחַת תּוֹרָה)
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Marriage Letter #5.
* explaining the second side that one SHOULD discuss these matters (but explicit material removed) with 14/15 boys to give them chizzuk and encouragement with their struggles and confusion;
* feedback is encouraged based on your experience "what I wished (or didn't wish) to be told about these matters when I was 14/15";
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/מכתב הדרכה המיוחס - דפוס חדש.pdf
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- intentional action;
- change starts with you;
- the pitfall of unvoiced expectation;
- expressing yourself clearly allows your spouse to be able to action and meet your needs;
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- highlight self confidence;
- accessing the self confident part of you;
- comforting yourself;
- don't rush things;
- avoid "if only...";
- count flowers, not weeds;
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- Being happy with your lot. (סוכות)
- widening your mind
- being whole and at peace with yourself, with Hashem and yourself that draws down great blessing (connecting to Succos, marriage)
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/prayer.jpg
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Mayim Rabim.pdf
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Power of words series #5.
* influence people with positive words;
* never label yourself or others with the word "always", this is a harmful label;
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Part #19. (Final Summary.) Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'.
* Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'.
Part 19. Final Summary.
+ pillars of marriage
+ tools that bond
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Part #18. (Summary #1) Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'.
* Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'.
Part 18. Summary #1.
+ R. Akiva Eiger's letter
+ foundational points
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- Erev Yom Kippur, 5784 (ערב יוֹם כִּפּוּר)
- mending our old and torn garments as best as we can
- not to ruin the new garments that have been entrusted to us to make in the future
- we are all called to be "tailors" to prepare our special garments to that Hashem's flow of blessings comes to us through them
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- Shir Hayichud of Yom Kippur (שיר היחוד של יוֹם כִּפּוּר)
- using this special Shirah to connect with Hashem deeply and personally, with Hakoras haTov and Simcha
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- Haazinu (הַאֲזִינוּ)
- every Jew is eternally connected to Hashem
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Marriage Letter #4.
* using sexual gift for the honor of Hashem;
* explaining side # 1 of NOT discussing these matters with 14/15 year old boys;
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- Aseres Yimai Teshuva (עֲשֶׂרֶת יְמֵי תְּשׁוּבָה)
- Reb Moshe
- influencing others like rain and dew
- Ahavas Yisroel as a mitzvah and as a feeling of love ...
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- being INTENTIONAL about your marriage;
- intimacy is more than sex;
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Power of words series #4.
* acceptance of other people;
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- Erev Rosh Hashana (ערב ראש השנה)
- fulfilling one's potential with calmness, confidence and joy
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- wake up to your inner greatness;
- start day with positive intention;
- learn from failures;
- it is never too late;
- avoid unhealthy shame;
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Part #17. Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'.
- Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier, 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'.
Part 17. - 9th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage:
- criticizing your spouse
- learning healing effective communication skills
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- the Art of Accepting the Apology, healthy guidelines to use when there is a disagreement;
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- Chofetz Chaim - Yartzeit, 24 Elul. Lessons for us...
- his illness that prevented him from learning, davening when he was young
- balances life
- talking to Hashem privately
- teaching Torah to the simple hard working poor people
- his teachings of halacha and speech
- chessed
- Shabbos and his kuntres Chomas Hadas
- loving Hashem by bringing feelings of Love of Him to others by teaching and by Chessed
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Marriage Letter #3.
* sexual organs and function, and the desire to physically connect with one's wife;
* are all Hashem's Work, inherently good and holy;
* when misused it becomes destructive;
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- Vayelech (וַיֵּלֶךְ)
- continue to grow and improve
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- Nitzavim (נִצָּבִים)
- staying strong and keeping small baby step commitment
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- various forms of intimacy in marriage;
- to be aware of these 5 challenges listed and how to overcome them;
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Power of words series #3.
* not use humor to hurt people;
* speaking in a soft, sensitive way;
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- finding self confident role models;
- it's more lack of practice that holds you back from fulfilling your potential;
- self-compassion;
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- The Art of Apology;
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- healing skills in handling fights;
- how to de-escalate them;
- to in a mature way transform the initial fight into a deep bonding experience;
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Marriage Letter #2.
* how the sudden transition of avoiding sexuality while single, and then engaging in sexuality in marriage creates confusion that can result in two opposite negative effects;
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- the healing power of marriage;
- Hashem is weaving the marriage, binding the souls of husband and wife together;
- overview of the inner marriage concepts;
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- friends being tolerant and forgiving;
- review of the 4 aspects of deep marriage friendship;
- understand dynamics of fights - not to be derailed by them, but to transform them into great healing and closeness;
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Ki Tavo (כִּי-תָבוֹא):
- lessons in bikurim;
- cultivating gratefulness;
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- marriage is a deep friendship;
- having fun together;
- being fully loyal and supportive of one another;
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- very fundamental letter (even for women) to know regarding marriage and intimacy;
- and A REQUEST FOR FEEDBACK (FROM BOTH MEN & WOMEN) from the audience for the purpose helping the Klall;
מכתב הדרכה המיוחס - דפוס חדש.pdf
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Ki Teitzei (כִּי-תֵצֵא):
- the chesed within the law of ben sorrer umoreh';
- within the law of not working an ox and donkey together;
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- using humor in good ways;
- giving each other a clean slate;
- not to omit the importance of the physical union;
- your aura;
- self work even if nothing is changing;
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- not to hurt children with words;
- its permitted to defend yourself at the moment you are being verbally attacked, and in the face of real verbal abuse;
- one needs to protect himself/herself from that abuse;
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- About the "power of words series"
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- recognizing the greatness Hashem put in you;
- YOSHER DIVREI EMES - PRI TZADDIK - OHEV YISROEL,TORAS AVOS; (http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/YDEmes-PriTzadik-OhevYisroel.pdf)
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- Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage'
Part 16.
- 9th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage:
- forgetting that you are best friends;
- neither of you are a boss;
- you are not your spouses's teacher;Amazon - https://www.amazon.com/Really-Dumb-Mistakes-Smart-Couples/dp/1680251767
- 9th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage:
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Shoftim (שֹׁפְטִים):
- lessons on the possuk that a person is compared to a tree;
- inner work;
- the guards watching the "gates" in our bodies;
- trust Hashem;
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- appreciation between husband and wife is a great gift and life lesson for your children;
- behaving as friends;
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- grounding in truth;
- two-way street;
- marriage is on the job training;
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About Kibud Av V’Eim… (Rav Cahan)
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- increasing self-confidence by embracing post traumatic growth;
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- appreciation is the key to a beautiful marriage, and a way to heal, restore marriages in the most powerful way;
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Re'eh (רְאֵה):
- negative aspects of the chazer having 1 tahor siman of taharah;
- divine "cruelty" bring forth true compassion and mercy;
- choosing "clean pipes";
- being a vessel to receive Hashem's Goodness;
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- a person can shape their desires in a healthy way;
- importance to look attractive;
- perspectives on physical beauty;
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Eikev:
- Hashem gives you the strength, the advice, the thoughts, the skills that give you your wealth and success.
- Avoid arrogance.
- Arizal on Rav Akiva.
- How private Mezuzos on each individual home effect the klall to be aware of Hashem.
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Veschanan:
- every one of the 515 tefillos Moshe prayed were answered;
- nothing was in vain;
- keeping the mitzvah as instructed;
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- taking a step back and looking at the bigger picture;
- being kind and loving even when feeling distance;
- the incredible power of acceptance;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- maintaining self-confidence when challenged by pessimists;
- go beyond your past with acceptance;
- physical self care will help your overall self-esteem;
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- how physical intimacy creates healing;
- importance of physical touch, hugging, kissing in marriage, and importance of healthy desire to look physically attractive;
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- physical intimacy and the inherent difference between husbands and wives in this regard;
- how each one takes those courageous first steps towards each others inherent desires and needs;
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- embracing the change of marriage and its great potential;
- emunah that it's the best decision;
- acknowledge being overwhelmed and working through it;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- developing a positive mind will help your self-confidence;
- move from "why" to "what's next";
- growing from your regrets;
- taking baby steps in practical action and growth;
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- physical intimacy and the Niddah period;
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- the opposite natures of husband and wife creates a profound oneness;
- understanding dynamic between body and soul;
- to create a unity with the soul in the drivers seat, but not neglecting bodily needs;
- elevation of physical intimacy and its enjoyment;
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- it's ok to ask and express to spouse to fulfill your needs, and to respond in healthy ways when the answer is "no";
- knowing how to receive a need;
- marriage is a constant flow of giving and receiving;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- the power of "just for today, just for now";
- transforming unproductive regrets into productive regrets;
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- acknowledging that 'I am a difficult person to live with';
- truly accepting your spouse internally in your mind and heart;
- accepting that Hashem knows what He is doing when He put you together;
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- key points on your children;
- what damages your marriage damages your children;
- flaw of being an expert at what your spouse does wrong instead of looking at yourself in the mirror for self correction;
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- intensity vs. intimacy;
- caring vs. taking care of;
- balancing your needs and the needs of your marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- powerful tool of looking through the lens of self confidence;
- using power of changing lenses in all areas of life;
- using "stop signs" on negative thoughts;
- the healing power of forgiveness;
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- marriage is the true key in learning to accept differences and to live together, and is the true test to your character and to who you really are;
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- slowing down to listen;
- giving benefit of the doubt;
- mutual awareness;
- we all have the ability to develop the skills to become better husbands and wives;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 15. * 8th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + judging your spouse based on your experience; + learning to live together;
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- the Power of Speech and Silence;
- Real Listening;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- practice visualizing seeing yourself accomplishing great things;
- TOLDOS YAAKOV YITZCHOK and KEDUSHAS LEVI on avoiding misplaced humility, and that YOUR good deeds are PRECIOUS in the eyes of Hashem;
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- The Gift and Skill of Validation
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 14. * 7th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + forgetting that talk means something different to women;
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- creating a safe space to communicate;
- davening and working on the right timing for everything;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- reaching your potential;
- eliminating automatic negative thoughts;
- replacing criticism with encouragement;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 13. * women are more sensitive + treating her with respect; + avoid arguing; + to avoid mindreading: "if he really cared about me, he would know whats bothering me", but rather it needs to be expressed;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 12. * 6th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + trying to change your spouse: Part #2. - the one way you CAN change your spouse, (and a great parable to explain this);
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- separating understanding from solving;
- empathy;
- allowing your spouse to go first in speaking;
- the teamwork of brainstorming together;
- when discussing problems promote an even deeper love and joy
- eparating understanding from solving;
- empathy;
- allowing your;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- you don't need to feel self-confident to speak and act self-confidently;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BEER_MAYIM_CHAYIM.pdf
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 11. * 6th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + trying to change your spouse: Part #1.
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 10. * 5th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + forgetting that a woman needs to be cherished: Part #2 - a wise man persues his wife; - letting her know again and again that he cherishes her;
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- our difference is our greatest gift in marriage;
- accessing the deep hidden treasures in your spouse;
- naming challenges, accepting them;
- feeling Hashem is holding your hand;
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People don't want to talk about this, but they REALLY should (URGENT) Rabbi Manis Friedman
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- don't let more knowledgeable, skillful, or successful people lower your self confidence;
- reframing cognitive distortions;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 9. * 5th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + forgetting that a woman needs to be cherished: Part #1 - Happy Wife - Happy Life; - "opposite" also means facing each other; - undertanding deep difference between men and women helps marriages; - if a wife is cherished ,the marriage will succeed and she will love him back;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 8. * 4th Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + forgetting that respect comes first;
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My Father’s Best Marriage Advice & the Power of Purim AishJewish
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 7. * 3rd Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + forgetting that love is the glue of marriage (Part #2) - rescuing your marriage from your children; - greatest gift to your children is allowing your marriage to thrive; - date nights; - vacation just the 2 of you; - scheduling intimate nights together;
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- watch for your disowned parts of yourself (that your spouse points out to you!!);
- acknowledging this diffuses tensions and promotes real love and acceptance between husband and wife;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- self confidence to as questions;
- taking control of your thoughts;
- choosing self compassion;
- BEER MAYIM CHAIM: Hashem gave YOU the Torah, He treasures you specifically;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 6. * 3rd Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage: + forgetting that love is the glue of marriage (Part #1) - taking responsibility and not blaming Hashem for your "lousy" marriage; - date nights to connect;
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- activating your Adult self;
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- check your mode - Adult or Child, this is a CRUCIAL key to develop a healthy beautiful marriage;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 5. * 3 Pillars to successful marriage: 1. committment; 2. love, which is the glue of marriage; 3. doing everything you can to foster that love;
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- skill of stretching yourself to hold multiple truths;
- incorporating your spouse's world into your own;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- develop your personal story about your self confidence;
- differentiating Thoughts from Feelings;
- using healthy coping statements;
- plant seeds of kindness wherever you go;
- TZAV VZIRUZ;
- on how focusing on your inherently pure soul prevents you from hurting yourself spiritually;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/TZAV_VZIRUZ.pdf
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 4. * 2nd Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage - Thinking I could have done better;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 3. * 1st Real Dumb Mistake in Marriage - Mistaking Infatuation for Love;
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Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage' Part 2. * 3 Pillars to successful marriage; * Hashem wants and gives Koach for marriages go work despite the vast differences between men and women;
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- introducing Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier's great book 'The 10 Really Dumb Mistakes that Very Smart Couples Make: A Torah-Based Guide to a Successful Marriage';
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- be yourself and embrace differences;
- having patience;
- honoring your journey together;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- making the self confident decision;
- breaking the unhealthy "should" distortion;
- learning and growing from setbacks;
- believe in yourself;
- the SHEM MISHMUEL on developing "courage" and daven to Hashem for it;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/SHEM_MISHMUEL_(1).pdf
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- without blame or shame;
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- pooling your gifts together;
- Hashem gave each of you unique strengths and talents to contribute to your marriage;
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- your spouse is a peer, not your parent or child;
- to strive in marriage to have a healthy and mature "adult" relationship with each other;
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- your spouse is not a puzzle piece in your world;
- appreciating your spouse as a unique special individual person that is NOT you, paradoxically creates the strongest Sholom Bayis;
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- no comparison - how Kinah can kill marriage and doing the opposite can heal and transform your marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- healthy versus unhealthy hesitation;
- recognizing and challenging negative cognitive distortions;
- letting go of grudges;
- self care;
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- surrendering the "l" to the "we", by bringing Hashem in your lives;
- how respecting and loving your spouse's different nature creates the greatest "Oneness";
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- coping with "aloneness" in marriage;
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- coping with insecurity;
- how working on insecurity can heal and enhance the husband/wife relationship;
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- marriage cannot survive on "chemistry" alone;
- not to be fearful of "bumps" in marriage;
- prayer and self work transforms a marriage into a beautiful and strong one;
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- using the concept of Pas Besalo in a healthy way;
- using sex for ONLY physical release is destructive, but is a perfectly valid healthy need when it's not the Tachlis;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- self confidence by learning what you need to know;
- give yourself permission to fail;
- relabel your thoughts;
- you a gatekeeper of your own thoughts and feelings;
- PRI TZADDIK on knowing you have unique qualities that only you could contribute to the world;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/GRA_and_PRI_TZADDIK.pdf
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- thinking clearly in the face of anger, nagging and negativity, or religious differences;
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- thinking clearly in the face of criticism;
- staying mentally and emotionally centered;
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- working hard on your life and marriage is healthy and rewarding;
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Part #2.
- importance of renewal (hischadshus) in marriage every single day;
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- ways to enhance and enjoy the sexual connection between husband and wife;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- how to deal with a person who in anger attacks you;
- calm down your "inner critic";
- avoid perfectionism;
- growth mindset;
- the GRA ztl on rejoicing in your lot EVEN in spiritual matters;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/GRA_and_PRI_TZADDIK.pdf
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Part #1.
- importance of renewal (hischadshus) in marriage every single day;
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- power of your words;
- how to talk to your spouse;
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- secrets you should not keep from your spouse;
- not to "parent" your spouse;
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- enhancing healthy outside bedroom aspects will help enhance sexual intimacy;
- emotional generosity and many other aspects;
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- falling back in love with your spouse;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- your mind impacts every experience;
- overcoming perfectionism;
- seeking approval from yourself, not others;
- writing down thoughts of self esteem;
- Letter of the Pri Haaretz;
- rejoicing in YOUR level of spirituality;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/PriHaaretz-TiferesShlomo.pdf
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- middos - building yourself as you build your marriage (Part #6)
- humility;
- Trust in Hahem;
- Zerizus;
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- middos - building yourself as you build your marriage (Part #5)
- self mastery;
- forgiving;
- admitting the truth saying 'I was wrong';
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- middos - building yourself as you build your marriage (Part #4)
- gratitude;
- seeing the good and focusing on it;
- ayin tovah;
- happy for others;
- judging favorably;
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- middos - building yourself as you build your marriage (Part #3)
- compassion;
- open letter to fathers of new babies regarding PPD;
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- know your blind spots, both your flaws and your good points;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- positive affirmations;
- challenge your negative thought and write it down;
- journaling with positivity;
- know your value;
- Rabbeinu Yonah Sharai Avodah;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/ShareiAvodaRabbeinuYonah.pdf
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- middos - building yourself as you build your marriage (Part #2)
- patience, kindness and caring;
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- middos - building yourself as you build your marriage; (Part #1)
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- positive anchors;
- transform frustration into enjoyment;
- mentally prepare yourself not to get caught off balance;
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- choosing positive states of mind in life and in marriage;
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- signs that a couple requires therapy;
- the life saving need of teaching healthy communication skills;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- healthy self-talk;
- building your self image;
- setting goals;
- repeating good behavoirs;
- challenging negative thoughts;
- bite size resolutions;
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- avoiding 'micro cheating' that eats away your marriage, and promoting 'micro building' to enhance your marriage;
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- Healthy ways to fight and disagree fairly that create afterwards an evermore deeper bond;
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- Avoiding Burnout in Bedroom and in your personal married life;
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- Marriage - Journey into self awareness;
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- don't get stuck in the comparison trap and loving yourself for real;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- change your focus to the positive;
- dont base your self esteem by comparing yourself to others;
- ACT visualizations;
- ignoring critical thoughts;
- VALUES IN FRONT, painful emotions in back;
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- how to set or reset your marriage for success;
- differences between love and lust;
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- tips for busy couples to avoid drifting apart;
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- signs of codependency;
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- how to support a spouse in addiction recovery;
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- combating perfectionism;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- earlier thoughts are just history;
- its how you think now that makes a difference;
- no one can make you feel inferior without your consent;
- saying to yourself and writing down daily affirmation;
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- things to consider before contemplating divorce;
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- combating emotional abuse (and avoid even the subtle harmful behaviors within us so that it doesn't lead to emotional);
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- letting go of anger;
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- Healing Work Addiction;
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- Avoiding the Comparison Game in Life and in Marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- self confidence is in your mind;
- embrace healthy changes;
- learn from setbacks;
- gratitude enhances self esteem;
- take REAL baby steps;
- give yourself a fresh start;
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- Beware of Emotional Affairs;
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The Skill of Reframing. Part #5.
- focus on how you benefit from your marriage, rather than whats wrong;
- and AT THE SAME TIME work on improvements and solutions;
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The Skill of Reframing. Part #4.
- internalizing Torah reframes;
- gratefulness in aiding reframing;
- shifting perspective transforms a burden into an opportunity;
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The Skill of Reframing. Part #3.
- putting things into perspective creates or eliminates problems, intensifies or diminishes them;
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- how learning to live in the present can heal and enhance marriages;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
First introductory shiur on Rav Zelig Pliskin's book called "Self confidence"
- how to put an end to self critical beliefs;
- how healthy self esteem can save marriages;
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The Skill of Reframing. Part #2.
- specific reframing examples;
- expressing empathy before discussing reframing;
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The Skill of Reframing. Part #1.
- positive reframing can enhance ones marriage and life greatly;
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- how your marriage can thrive after children get married and leave the house;
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- many ways to show appreciation to your spouse and strengthen your marriage;
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- many short effective tips to improve your marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
SIYUM on sefer on serenity:
- if not now when;
- practice prayer on serenity before sleep, and in Shemona Esrei when asking for Daas;
- final important points;
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- difficult times are natural and normal in healthy marriages, and ways to deal with it;
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- showing empathy to heal and enhance your marriage;
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- many ways to uncomplicate your relationship with your spouse and allow it to thrive;
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- building a healthy family structure. Part 2.
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- the importance of physical intimacy in a marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- every detail exact;
- infuriating comments;
- the art of viewing objectively;
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- building a healthy family structure. Part 1.
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- 9 old - fashioned relationship habits we should bring back;
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- how inner self-work and self-worth can enhance Sholom Bayis greatly;
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- healthy conflict resolutions;
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Part #2.
- planting seeds of friendship is marriage awakens the fiery love;
- commiting to work on friendship is the key to enhance all areas of marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- to maintain serenity when you feel different from others or when experiencing financial loss;
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- avoiding junk-food relationships;
- avoiding fantasy;
- shifting perspective on sex in marriage;
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- true lasting emotional connection takes effort;
- emotional bids;
- affectionate gestures;
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- personality; mental, emotional, spiritual attraction, and healthy give and take;
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- personal attractive by understanding personality types;
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Part #2.
- increasing self esteem for a healthier marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- anxiety and panic attached;
- stress breeds mistakes;
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- having a healthy balanced perspective on physical attraction;
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- signs of drifting in marriage and to commit together to fight against it;
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- become a "safe" person for you spouse;
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- healthy ways to cope with loneliness and the skill of coregulation;
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Part #1.
- increasing self esteem for a healthier marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- being at ease in every situation;
- learning new skills;
- serenity at work;
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- 6 Types of intimacy;
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- importance of developing trust in marriage;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #8. (SIYUM)
- trusting in Hashem like a nursing child;
- bitachon saves a person from sinful flattery and destructive envy;
- allowing a person to be joyful, calm and free of worry;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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- how building our inner confidence can truly heal our lives and marriages;
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Power of prayer in your life and marriage. Part #2.
This shiur and SB #278 are extremely important and life changing
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Part #3.
- summarizing the main nekudah of this feedback;
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Part #2.
- improving sexual intimacy by gentle, affectionate approach versus a "high" stimulation focus;
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Part #1.
- improving sexual intimacy by gentle, affectionate approach versus a "high" stimulation focus;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #7
- counterproductive hishtadlus;
- 6 profound pieces of advice when one is in financial or other stresses;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- not to agonize over "if I would have known...";
- serenity on what you can't control;
- feeling the pain of others, but with menuchas hanefesh;
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Power of prayer in your life and marriage. Part #1.
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- you can say and do things to increase your spouse's self esteem, improve and heal your marriage in a very profound way;
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- investing precious quality time with your spouse;
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- protecting your marriage with healthy boundries;
- trust gets stronger when you are transparent and vulnerable towards each other;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #6
- lesson from Yosef, Sarah that Hashem is running everyting;
- the more bitachon, the less hishtadlus is required;
- miracles are hidden these days to allow free will;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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- "obligation" sex versus "gifted" sex;
- to mutually work together to enjoy and enhance this aspect of marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- serenity by facing reality and acknowledging life challenges;
- not to say I will "always" be calm;
- setting realistic doable goals;
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- protecting your marriage by sharing thoughts, feelings, emotions with one another;
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- healthy "no" protecting your marriage and life;
- being guarded but not too guarded;
- allowing spouse to open their self protecting walls in safe ways;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- wait until you are serene;
- don't say "its not my nature to be calm";
- don't say "if only my life would be different, I would be calmer";
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- important point in regards to these shiurim on Bitachon;
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- important point in regards to these shiurim on Bitachon;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #5
- when you are exempt from the mitzvah of hishtadlus;
- trust in Hashem even when its not "logical";
- Hashem put into your mind the ideas that give you parnasah;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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- what to do when a marriage is healthy but the husband is never in the mood for physical intimacy;
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- what to do when a marriage is healthy but the wife is never in the mood for physical intimacy;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- saying the right things to calm a person;
- help others help you;
- don't allow hurtful words said to you to affect you;
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- preventing "drifting apart" in marriage;
- if it already happened, to find each other again;
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- disagreeing without quarrelling will transform a rough marriage into a spiritual, emotional beautiful marriage;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #4
- hitshdalus is an obligation in proper measure, but not to place trust in it;
- how work saves a person from sin, but not to overdo it and to trust Hashem;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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Part #2.
- secrets of healthy communication;
- avoiding the Walls that prevent healthy communication;
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Part #1.
- secrets of healthy communication;
- avoiding the Walls that prevent healthy communication;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- not to be overconcerned with disapproval;
- balanced approach to acknowledge when your anxious;
- the kindness of increasing serenity;
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Part #3.
- coping with the sex drive while single and married;
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Part #2.
- coping with the sex drive while single and married;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #3
- not to rely on one's own efforts in parnasa and refuah, but to rely on Hashem;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- overcoming the challenge of change and conquering envy are ways to achieve peace of mind;
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Part #1.
- coping with the sex drive while single and married;
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Part #2.
- concept of physical attraction and practical advise for both singles and married couples;
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Part #1.
- concept of physical attraction and practical advise for both singles and married couples;
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Part #2.
- advice & chizzuk for people in difficult situations, and adjusting to new situations (remarriage after death of the 1st spouse as well as other matzavim);
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Asarah BeTeves
Yartzeit of Rav Noson Tz”l
Likutei Tefillos #1.
- asking for wisdom, peace of mind, clarity, grace from Hashem to accept our prayers;
- lifting the honor of Am Yisroel;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/LikuteiTefillos1.pdf
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #2
- everything comes from Hashem;
- not to be afraid of people;
- to always turn to the Source which is Hashem;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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- different types of teenage sexual education (in modern orthodox circles where there is more mingling & in more orthodox circles where there is inherent separation);
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- blaming is an enemy of serenity;
- avoiding unneeded hassles;
- overcoming shyness enhances menuchas hanefesh;
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Part #1.
- advice & chizzuk for people in difficult situations, and adjusting to new situations (remarriage after death of the 1st spouse as well as other matzavim);
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- how to prevent past trust issues from negatively affecting your relationship with your trustworthy spouse;
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Making marriage work. Principle #7
- create shared meaning;
Final thoughts on the 7 principles;
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Beis Halevi Mitzvas Bitachon
Part #1
- trust in Hashem & removal of worries brings great blessings in a persons life;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/BeisHaleviHEBREW-EXPANDED-with-additions.pdf
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Making marriage work. Principle #6
- overcoming gridlock. Part 2:
- flexibility, gratefulness, and emunah can help overcome gridlock;
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- Relationships between men & women. Part #2.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- something might go wrong;
- balancing compassion & serenity;
- avoiding perfectionism;
- say yes to planning, no to worry;
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Making marriage work. Principle #6
- overcoming gridlock. Part 1:
- respect each others dreams & aspirations even if they are not yours;
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Coping with typical solvable problems. Part #3.
- sex
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Likutai Halachos of R Noson (Tefillin 5)
- renewing yourself every day & every moment;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/LikuteiHalachosTefillin5.pdf
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Coping with typical solvable problems. Part #2.
- becoming parents & physical intimacy
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Coping with typical solvable problems. Part #1.
- work stress;
- in-laws;
- finances;
- housework;
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- Relationships between men & women. Part #1.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- write it down;
- facing challenges serenely;
- calmy acknowledging mistakes;
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Making marriage work. Principle #5
- solve your solvable problems part 3:
- calming yourself;
- compromise;
- unplugging from distractions;
- avoiding the destruction of porn;
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Likutai Halachos of R Noson (Tzitzis 5)
- not to rebuke yourself too harshly, but overall to encourage yourself to pick yourself up
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Making marriage work. Principle #5
- solve your solvable problems
- part 2: learning to make and receive repair attempts
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Making marriage work. Principle #5
- solve your solvable problems
- part 1: soft startups
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Part #2
- 2 types of marital conflicts;
- perpetual & solvable problems
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- Tznius. Part #2.
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- Tznius. Part #1.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 25.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- 10 Suggestions & advice from R Shach zt''l for men to guide them into a more loving relationship with their wives
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahSiyumAndAdviceFromRSchach.pdf
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- frustration can lead to serenity;
- physical factors;
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Part #1
- 2 types of marital conflicts;
- perpetual & solvable problems
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- make it easier for your spouse to understand you;
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Making marriage work. Principle #4
- let your spouse influence you
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Importance of couples overcoming misconceptions about sex. (Part 2)
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 24.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Siyum Part #2-3.
- a pleasant atmosphere in the home defuses problems;
- doing chessed with ones body;
- hugging & kissing ones wife with the right healty intentions increases yiras shomayim
- Siyum Part #2-3.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahSiyumAndAdviceFromRSchach.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatah_Siyum_Advice_from_R_Schach.pdf
- Healthy body image can heal a lot of emotional pain
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- serenity is contagious;
- being near calm people;
- highly sensitive people;
- communicate with serenity, especially with your own spouse;
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Importance of couples overcoming misconceptions about sex. (Part 1)
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Making marriage work. Principle # 3
- turning towards each other instead of away (Part 2)
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Making marriage work. Principle # 3
- turning towards each other instead of away (Part 1)
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 23.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 5 lesson 5-7, siyum.
- sensitive to wife's pain;
- husband leadership role comes with responsibility;
- asking shaalos;
- home of chessed;
- priority of kindness towards your wife over others;
- Chapter 5 lesson 5-7, siyum.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh5.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatah_Siyum_Advice_from_R_Schach.pdf
Making marriage work. Principle #2
- nurture your fondness and admiration (Part 3)
- a 7 week exercise course to promote fondness & admiration
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Principle_2NurtureYourFondness&Admiration.pdf
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Part 3.
- Addressing teenage boys about puberty & sexuality
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Part 2.
- Addressing teenage girls about puberty & sexuality
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Part 1.
- Addressing parents regarding talking to their children about thier sexual development
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- creating a mental shield;
- techniques;
- music;
- dealing with bothersome thoughts;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 21.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 5 lesson 3-4.
- healthy balance of husband's authority;
- influencing your wife spiritually;
- learning together;
- being very sensitive to his wife's inner thoughts & feelings;
- healthy balance of husband's authority;
- Chapter 5 lesson 3-4.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh5.pdf
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Making marriage work. Principle #2
- nurture your fondness and admiration (Part 2)
- practical excercises
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Making marriage work. Principle #2
- nurture your fondness and admiration (Part 1)
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Principle_2NurtureYourFondness&Admiration.pdf
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Making marriage work. Principle #1
- enhancing your love maps (Part 2)
- excercises which develops your emotional intelligence;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Principle_1EnhanceYourLoveMaps.pdf
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Making marriage work. Principle #1
- enhancing your love maps (Part 1)
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Principle_1EnhanceYourLoveMaps.pdf
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- you are a soul;
- let there be light;
- it's a tikkun;
- guarding your health with serenity;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 21.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 5 lesson 1-2.
- healthy balance of husband's authority;
- not to be machmir on your wife because of your lack of knowledge in halacha;
- be generous with your wife financially;
- healthy balance of husband's authority;
- Chapter 5 lesson 1-2.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh5.pdf
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- listen to understand;
- respect personality differences;
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- skill of repair attempts;
- reframing bad past memories;
- far more marriages can be saved when the correct skills are learned.
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- avoiding contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, and the painful defense mechanism of "flooding";
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- learning to "complain" constructively as oppose to harsh criticism;
- learning this skill can save & enhance marriages;
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- the need to communicate with our children about sexuality;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- prayer - daily exercise in serenity;
- Shabbos - the day of serenity;
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- skill of repair attempt;
- honoring & respecting one another even during an argument;
- avoiding "harsh startups";
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- happy marriage is based on deep friendship which is a goal that can be reached;
- trust, attunement & empathy;
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- inviting Hashem into your marriage including physical intimacy;
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- 4 lies about intimacy & how to overcome it to enhance your marriage;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 198.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 4 lesson 4-5.
- Lessons from Rambam:
- greeting everyone, especially your wife with a kind pleasant disposition;
- sharing in your wife's burdens;
- encouraging & helping her in every way possible;
- Lessons from Rambam:
- Chapter 4 lesson 4-5.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh4.pdf
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- a jewish perspective on sexuality:
- its purposes;
- vehicle for emotional intimacy;
- dangers on unhealthy exposure to porn, ect.;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- creating a mental haven;
- emunah, bitachon are the foundation of serenity;
- connecting with Hashem;
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- 7 steps to heal & enhance your marriage;
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- filling each other's needs;
- bringing out each others potential;
- praying for one another;
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- value based marriage;
- not listening to your own unhealthy emotions;
- teshuva in marriage;
- being attractive to one another;
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- your marriage is not a mistake; with tefilah and hard work it can heal and thrive & become the greatest gift.
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- A jewish perspective on sexuality.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- don't try to hard;
- using the power of autosuggestions;
- a powerful extraordinary tool to obtain menuchas hanefesh & all good character traits;
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- empathy, caring, and making your spouse feel special;
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- prioritizing each others needs in marriage;
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- prioritizing our marriage over technology, friends, parents, and even children.
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- being honest with one another;
- respecting each others different needs and to try to meet them;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 18.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 4 lesson 3-4.
- Lessons from Rambam:
- avoiding onoas devorim;
- greeting everyone, especially your wife, with a kind pleasant disposition;
- Lessons from Rambam:
- Chapter 4 lesson 3-4.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh4.pdf
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- why talk to our children about sexuality? (Part #2.)
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- interviewing calm people;
- mentally prepare for challenges;
- being real & working through your feelings;
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- some important point from R. Reuven Feinstein on marriage
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- using your tone of voice, your time to create a deep trust and love between husband & wife
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- Marriage can become more beautiful and stronger over time when you both decide to invest love, time and energy to one another.
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- your spouse is priority #1;
- being loyal and attentive to one another.
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- why talk to our children about sexuality? (Part #1.)
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- Serene zerizus & calm time management.
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See things from your spouses' point of view
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 17.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 4 lesson 1-2.
- Lessons from Rambam:
- no excessive fear in home;
- speaking softly;
- no unhealthy comparing to others;
- don't give rebuke in tense times or in front of others;
- Lessons from Rambam:
- Chapter 4 lesson 1-2.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh4.pdf
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Learn to understand your spouse's unique reactions and feelings.
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Quick summary on rest of book "Talk to me like someone you really love", and recommendation of english sefer "Divrei Sholom" by Rav Reuven Feinstein.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 45-63:
- I don't feel heard;
- you didn't do anything wrong;
- it's my issue;
- your behavior embarasses, threatens me;
- I want to be close to you
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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- Praying together and for each other, and healthy emotional preparations for better sexual intimacy.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- Serenity by having meaningful goal and to develop the skill of "serene".
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 16.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 3 lesson 3-4.
- how expressing gratitude is the primary middah both in marriage & in the service of Hashem;
- working toward loving & appreciating your wife IS a crucial middah tovah to incorporate within yourself
- Chapter 3 lesson 3-4.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh3.pdf
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 31-44:
- I can see that i missed the point;
- please give me another chance;
- I know I haven't made it safe for you;
- please don't give up on me
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 22-30:
- I'm afraid to be real with, when you won't communication with me, I feel like I'm nothing to you;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 14-21:
- Right now I don't need a lecture, I need your love;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 8-13:
- I didn't see how much sense you are really making;
- I was overreacting;
- I want to let it go;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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- To encourage, motivate, and sacrifice for one another.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 15.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 3 lesson 2.
- Steipler's letter ztl:
- how expressing gratitude creates more love & benefits towards you;
- using shelo lishmah concept in healty ways (including within marital intimacy);
- Steipler's letter ztl:
- Chapter 3 lesson 2.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh3.pdf
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- awareness that "you are valuable" and "gratitude" are ingredients for serenity, calmness, and peace of mind
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 4-7:
- all I want is for you to listen to me;
- l love you but I need my own space now, please dont take it personally;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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- never using sex as a system of reward and punishment
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Talk to me like someone you love.
- 1-3:
- starting over;
- acknowleding defensiveness;
- I'm not rejecting you by saying no;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RelationshipRepairVerbalTools.pdf
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- how often to be physically intimate?
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 13.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 3 lesson 1 & part of 2.
- Steipler's letter ztl:
- foundations of love;
- gratitude;
- Steipler's letter ztl:
- Chapter 3 lesson 1 & part of 2.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh3.pdf
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- being forgiving & responsible in marriage; healthy responsibility bring freedom & joy.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- 15 seconds ago is ancient history, I have so much to do!!
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- learn to become wiser from each experience in life and in marriage.
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Motivate & influence wisely #2.
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Motivate & influence wisely #1.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- say to yourself and write the words "be totally in the present with a calm attitude"
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Your own changes are likely to elicit changes in your spouse.
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My goal is to have a better marriage. How do i speak to my spouse in order to reach this goal?
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Developing the skill of "outcome thinking".
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Look for positive things you can do together.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 12.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 2. Lesson 4-5.
- Chazon Ish letter:
- 1st year & creating a "first year" even after being married many years;
- working to bond;
- an atmosphere of goodness & pleasantness;
- Chazon Ish letter:
- Chapter 2. Lesson 4-5.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh2Lesson3-4.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh2Lesson5-7.pdf
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- protecting your marriage from its enemies within & outside, including lust.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- talk to yourself serenely;
- visualize yourself being serene;
- on being "serenely unserene";
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The courage to consider remarriage after a very painful divorce.
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- expressing your appreciation and gratitude;
- empathetic listening;
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- express how important your spouse is to you;
- smile;
- endless opportunities to do chessed in marriage;
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- emotional intelligence in marriage;
- to consider remarriage after a difficult divorce;
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- love by understanding;
- pray to Hashem, He can and does create healing and love in your marriage;
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- creating positive reactions;
- avoid negative energy;
- focusing on serenity;
- every moment of serenity adds up;
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Shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
- crying - the healthy reaction to loss;
- how to show empathy, feeling with the pain of people you don't know;
- how to see the good in others;
- giving the benefit of doubt;
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ridvas-Teshuva.pdf
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Shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
- Lessons to take from this day to heal & grow;
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Shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
- Aish Kodesh & diaries of the Holocaust;
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Shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
- Eternal Torah from the Kovno Ghetto;
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Shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
- The specialness of the day
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Shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
- Introduction to Tisha Baav;
- regarding marital intimacy on Friday Night Tisha Baav;
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4 warning signs in a marriage
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Chizzuk for couple who made mistakes in their past intimate life; NOTHING stands in the way of teshuvah.
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Wisdom of Koheles in regards to marriage.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 11.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 2. Lesson 3.
- Chazon Ish letter:
- how to make your wife happy;
- & bonding to her by engaging her in conversation;
- Chazon Ish letter:
- Chapter 2. Lesson 3.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh2Lesson3.pdf
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Getting even lowers you,taking the high road elevates you.
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True love promotes healing intimacy.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- this moment is the only moment;
- your thoughts have the power to fight distressful emotions;
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Healthy firmness born out of love and respect.
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- importance of healthy facial expressions;
- being considerate;
- working on eliminating negative habits;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 10.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 2. Lesson 2.
- Chazon Ish letter:
- depth of meaning of making your wife happy;
- & the good minhag to practice shana rishona behavoirs for a year even years later; now is the time!
- Chazon Ish letter:
- Chapter 2. Lesson 2.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh2Lesson1-2.pdf
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Pursuer & distancer meeting midway to enhance their sexual intimate life.
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The trust & courage to be open and vulnerable to each other in regards to sex.
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Honoring your spouse & praying to Hashem for them.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- Make the commitment to being a more serene calm person.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 9.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 2. Lesson 1.
- Chazon Ish letter:
- depth of meaning of making your wife happy;
- & the good minhag to practice shana rishona behavoirs for a year even years later; now is the time!
- Chazon Ish letter:
- Chapter 2. Lesson 1.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh2Lesson1-2.pdf
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More advice relating conflicts; avoid these 4 major aspects that can lead to divorce.
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Accept the olive branch; giving space; honoring vulnerability and sincerely apologize.
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Advice for distancers; a couples inherent ability to de-escalate a fight.
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Disagree with dignity & finding delight in one another.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
First introductory shiur on Zelig Pliskin's book called "Serenity":
- Menuchas hanefesh is a skill that can be learned.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 8.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 1. Lesson 6-7.
- validating your wife's emotional response;
- she was given more insight than her husband;
- Chapter 1. Lesson 6-7.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh1Lesson4-7.pdf
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- giving the "distancer" space
- importance of shutting down tecnology in marriage
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- tone of voice;
- when to speak now and when to wait;
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The ability to choose your words wisely
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- telling your spouse of your need to be listened to;
- balance between pursuer and distancer;
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- unconditional love;
- cherishing your spouse;
- allowing yourself to lose an argument;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 7.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 1. Lesson 4-5.
- Understand role of women's emotion;
- Honoring your wife more than yourself;
- Chapter 1. Lesson 4-5.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh1Lesson4-7.pdf
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SIYUM on the seder on kindness by R Zelig Pliskin, final important points.
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Onoas devorim, insults & put-downs.
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How to request of your spouse in healthy positive ways.
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Define differences, help your spouse to help you to listen.
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(Zelig Pliskin)
- guarding yourself from being taken advantage of;
- don't blame people for not following your suggestions;
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 6.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 1. Lesson 3. Part 2 - being attuned and sensitive to the emotional world of his wife.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh1Lesson1-3.pdf
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- Lower your defensiveness - practical suggestions.
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- invite conversations you dread;
- sometimes delay a discussion until the mood gets better;
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The goal of giving pleasure and avoiding causing pain to your spouse.
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- Your spouse is Hashem's choice for you;
- as a treasure to be revealed;
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Love is not jealous, and to greet each other with love.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 5.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- Chapter 1. Lesson 3. Part 1 - my wife is my home
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh1Lesson1-3.pdf
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Don't let mistakes, complaints, or needed boundaries hold you back from doing kindness. (Zelig Pliskin)
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- common goals;
- partner in fulfilling your mission in life;
Stay curious & open; forget about being right.
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Stay curious & open; forget about being right.
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- avoid mixed messages;
- the gift of listening;
- sometimes "don't just do something, stand there!"
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Surprise him/her with praise; once a day only to constructively criticize; cut back on advice.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 4.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- fulfilling emotional needs
- knowing your wife so as to be kind to her by fulfilling her needs
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh1Lesson1-3.pdf
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Healing your marriage, healing yourself:
- living in the "appreciation" room in your heart
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Recording says 42 but its 43.
Happiness producing questions & the chessed of teaching someone to say "no" (Zelig Pliskin).
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Talk less; strike when the iron is cold; stay focused; be solution-oriented
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Be the one to change first; healthy vs. unhealthy criticism.
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Remember the sandbox; fake it (its real!!) for 10 days; comply nicely to even trivial requests.
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 3.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- practical & deep purpose of ezer kenegdo
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/KuntresVayadatahCh1Lesson1-3.pdf
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 2.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
- character development, joy, striving to give each other pleasure
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Kuntres-Vayadata-Intro.pdf
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Kuntres Ki Shalom. Part 1.
- Guidance for chassanim AND all married men
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Kuntres-Vayadata-Intro.pdf
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Kedushas Yisroel of R Sher ztl. Part 4.
- Rav Chisda's advice to his daughters regarding intimacy
- summary
- how healthy intimacy can be healing and flow outward to help heal all aspects of marriage
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/kedushasIsroel.pdf
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Kedushas Yisroel of R Sher ztl. Part 3.
- strong physical desire during intimacy IS kedushah, similiar to the fire on the mizbaich; the uniting of souls through kissing
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/kedushasIsroel.pdf
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
- Part 3. - Ep. 286 - (SB # 144)
- Part 4. - Ep. 287 - (SB # 145)
- Part 5. - Ep. 288 - (SB # 146)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
- Part 3. - Ep. 285 - (SB # 144)
- Part 4. - Ep. 286 - (SB # 145)
- Part 5. - Ep. 287 - (SB # 146)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
- Part 3. - Ep. 285 - (SB # 144)
- Part 4. - Ep. 286 - (SB # 145)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
- Part 3. - Ep. 286 - (SB # 144)
- Part 4. - Ep. 287 - (SB # 145)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
- Part 3. - Ep. 285 - (SB # 144)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
- Part 3. - Ep. 286 - (SB # 144)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
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- Part 1. - Ep. 127 - (SB # 60)
- Part 2. - Ep. 128 - (SB # 61)
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Kedushas Yisroel of R Sher ztl. Part 2.
- onah includes many aspects other than sexual intercourse; healthy aspects of pleasure elevate a person
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/kedushasIsroel.pdf
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Kedushas Yisroel of R Sher ztl. Part 1.
- sexual union and desire is inherently holy (unless it is misused)
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/kedushasIsroel.pdf
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 9 - family commitment
- 10 - admiration
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Letters of Steipler ztl on sholom bayis and marital intimacy
- not being overly machmir & healing aspect of marital sexual intimacy
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/ChazonIsh.pdf
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 7 - financial support
- 8 - domestic help
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 6 - physical attractiveness
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 4 - recreational companionship
- 5 - trust/honesty
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 3 - conversational companionship
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Letters of Steipler ztl on sholom bayis and marital intimacy
- sensitivity of fulfilling sexual aspect of marriage applies to both husband & wife
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/ChazonIsh.pdf
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 4 - sexual
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Importance of fulfilling each other's needs:
- 1 - affection
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Letters of Steipler ztl on sholom bayis and marital intimacy
- dangers of misdirected perishus
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/ChazonIsh.pdf
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Letters of Chazon Ish/Steipler ztl on sholom bayis and marital intimacy.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/ChazonIsh.pdf
Part 1.
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Pikudei
A tremendous yesod to hold on to in life from Rashi in Parshas Pikudei, for every person in every life situation.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/RashiParshasPikudei.pdf
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Pikudei
Lekutei Halochos;
- finding the good points within yourself to build yourself & others
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/PikudeiLitukeiHalachos.pdf
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Vayakheil
Bal Shem Tov part 3;
- words of prayer
- rectifying holy sparks
- every interaction is meaningfull
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vayakheil-TzavaosRivash3.pdf
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Using all the gifts received from Hashem to appreciate Him & channel it to serve Hashem.
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Ki Tisa
Bal Shem Tov's fundamental teachings part 2;
- contemplation against arrogance
- excessive stringencies
- serving Hashem with joy
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Tissa-TzavaosRivash-2.pdf
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Tetzaveh
Bal Shem Tov's fundamental teachings part 1;
- temimus
- shivisi
- serving Hashem in all diverse situations
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Tzavah-TzavoosRivash-1.pdf
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Terumah
Succos Dovid;
- Inner dimension as well as practical lesson from the requirement of "mikshah" of the menorah
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Terumah-SuccosDovid.pdf
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Mishpatim.
Divrei Yisroel;
Succas Dovid;
- Beautiful insights on zivvug (and for married couples) and how to overcome forbidden desires (lo Tachmod)
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/MishpatimDivreiYisroel.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/MishpatimSuccasDovid.pdf
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Important note to the Ep. 207a - (FI # 40a) Note to the episode "Working on anger in marriage." (Feedback & Insights)
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Yisro.
Likutei Maharan;
- preciousness of personal prayer
- using simcha not to give up
- seeing good points in yourself as a source of encouragement
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Yisro-LikuteiMaharan2(25,48).pdf
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Beshalach.
Igeres Hatiyul Part #1;
Wonderous insights from R.Chaim the brother of the Maharal
preventing "legal wife swapping";
how torah/marriage never gets stale;
some mitzvos only you can do;
shabbos is like your kallah;
love of our avos/imahos;
traits of a jew;
beauty of a wife has meaning and is a gift only if she keeps her 3 special mitzvos
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/IgeresTiyul_2.pdf
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Bo.
Igeres Hatiyul Part #1;
Wonderous insights from R.Chaim the brother of the Maharal
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/IgeresTiyul_2.pdf
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Vaera.
Addition point from R Moshe zt"l;
Why according to Rabeinu Tam a woman can make berachos on mitzvos she is technically exempt from.
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Vaera.
Teshuvas HaRashba;
Why chazal were did not institute making berachos on certain mitzvos.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vaerah-TeshuvasRashba.pdf
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Shemos.
Succas Dovid;
The preciousness of the righteous women of the generation of mitzrayim and in our generation.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Shemos-SuccasDovid.pdf
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Asarah BeTeves.
Yartzeit of R Noson Breslov ztl - some profound and practical concepts.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/AsarahBeteves-RNossonZtl.pdf
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Vayechi.
Divrei Yisroel;
Everything is for our ultimate good, not pushing things, bouncing back, and staying away from machlokos.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vaychie-DivreiYisroel.pdf
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Vayigash.
Succas Dovid;
Divrei Yisroel;
Ahavas chinam, respecting each others derech, learning from one another
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vayigash-SukkasDovid.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vayigash-divreiYisroel.pdf
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Mikeitz.
Likutei Halachos;
believing in yourself in your power of prayer
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Mikeitz-LikuteiHalachos-Tefillah.pdf
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Vayeishev.
Bas Ayin;
Succos Dovid;
beautiful defense of klall yisroel, and to realize that what you see is not what actually is.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vayeishev-BasAyin.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Vayieshev-SuccasDovid.pdf
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Vayishlach.
Drash Moshe;
appreciating Hashem and seeing His Hand within nature, and a chanuka & erev shabbos lesson
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Drash Moshe- Vayishlach.pdf
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Vatetzei.
Ksav Sofer and Succas Dovid;
thanking Hashem for His kindness to us within nature of daily life,
a woman's physical beauty is praiseworthy when yiras shomayim is primary
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ksav Sofer -Vayeitzei.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Succas Dovid -Vayeitzei.pdf
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Avoid unrealistic expectations and other important concepts. R Zelig Pliskin
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Toldos.
Divrei Yisroel & Lekutei Mararan;
the love and devotion Yitzchok & Rivka had towards one another,
and the special quality of Avraham Avinu
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Toldos -Lekutei Maharan-Avraham.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Toldos Divrei Yisroel.pdf
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Chaya Sarah.
2 beautiful lessons from the Alter of Kelm and the Ben Ish Chai.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Kelm-Chaya Sara.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ben Yehoda-Sholom & Emes.pdf
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Veyara
Atarah lamelech.
kindness of avraham, kindness in action, words, listening, advice, pleasant smile.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Atarah Lamelech-Vayeirah.pdf
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Lech Lecha
Divrei yisroel, derash moshe, 5 explanations on ending with "mogen avraham", practical applications
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Divrei Yisroel -Lech Lecha.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Derash Moshe-Lech Lecha.pdf
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Noach
Divrei Yisroel, escaping into the Teivah of Torah & Tefillah to protect you from the "mabul" of the financial and other stresses in life.
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Divrei Yisroel Noach.pdf
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Bereishis.
"Keeping the Torah, not adding or subtracting, the greatest kindnesses are actualized by healthy gevurah"
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Litukei Levi Yizchok -breaishis.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Rav Tzadok-Bereishis.pdf
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Succos Special.
"Taking the gifts of Yom Tov for the whole year, menuchas hanefesh, serving Hashem in every life situation, connecting your personal portion in Torah"
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Emunas Yisroel-Succos.pdf
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Beis Aharon-Intro & bereishis.pdf
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The dangers of excessive vatronus (excessive concessions).
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Vort from The Steipler zt"l, and importance of open communication & assertiveness.
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Heteirim to indulge sexually with husband/wife can enhance marriage greatly but require caution.
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Tzidkas Hatzaddik-3.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Tzidkas Hatzaddik-2.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Tzidkas Hatzaddik-1.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/yesod vshoresh hovodah-thanking Hashem on every detail.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/yesod vshoresh hovodah-thanking Hashem on every detail.pdf
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This discussion is a very valuable one in regards to what healthy sexuality and intimacy is, and how correct education (for adults, children, parents) in this regard is crucial.
Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Educating Ourselves and Our Children about Healthy Sexuality and Intimacy (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MtrWpnSk7Dg)
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Sefer Ahavas Sholom-Shabbos & Someach Bechelko.pdf
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http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Sefer Ahavas Sholom-Shabbos & Someach Bechelko.pdf
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BRING YOUR MARRIAGE BACK FROM THE BRINK - https://youtu.be/CdQYP05NQ-g
Feedbacks 17 through 20, (as well as upcoming 21-22 are adressing both husband and wife together) discuss very important concepts such as healthy communication in regards to intimacy as well as the healthy approach to sexuality.
It is very crucial to listen to these shiurim and send it along to others who can benefit, especially those that teach engaged boys and girls, and those who advise married couples
Many marriage problems and even divorces could be avoided by learning to communicate with each other in regards to intimacy and working with each other to experience a pleasurable and joyous intimate experience. When that takes place then the other issues in the marriage become alot more managable and are easier to resolve.
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Feedbacks 17 through 20, (as well as upcoming 21-22 are adressing both husband and wife together) discuss very important concepts such as healthy communication in regards to intimacy as well as the healthy approach to sexuality.
It is very crucial to listen to these shiurim and send it along to others who can benefit, especially those that teach engaged boys and girls, and those who advise married couples
Many marriage problems and even divorces could be avoided by learning to communicate with each other in regards to intimacy and working with each other to experience a pleasurable and joyous intimate experience. When that takes place then the other issues in the marriage become alot more managable and are easier to resolve.
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Feedbacks 17 through 20, (as well as upcoming 21-22 are adressing both husband and wife together) discuss very important concepts such as healthy communication in regards to intimacy as well as the healthy approach to sexuality.
It is very crucial to listen to these shiurim and send it along to others who can benefit, especially those that teach engaged boys and girls, and those who advise married couples
Many marriage problems and even divorces could be avoided by learning to communicate with each other in regards to intimacy and working with each other to experience a pleasurable and joyous intimate experience. When that takes place then the other issues in the marriage become alot more managable and are easier to resolve.
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- Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Why Do You Matter?
- Jazz Thornton * TEDxAuckland - From suicidal to hopeful, how I learnt to fight
- Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Why Life Matters
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- Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Why Do You Matter?
- Jazz Thornton * TEDxAuckland - From suicidal to hopeful, how I learnt to fight
- Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Why Life Matters
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On suicide
- you are not alone
- you are indispensable
- please reach out for help
- Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Why Do You Matter?
- Jazz Thornton * TEDxAuckland - From suicidal to hopeful, how I learnt to fight
- Rabbi Simon Jacobson at Meaningful Life Center - Why Life Matters
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Very important & practically helpful concepts discussed which I felt was very important to share.
Rabbi Simon Jacobson in Conversation with TikTok Exec, Michal Oshman: Bridging Faith and Modernity - https://youtu.be/S8_rtXGgrwI
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
4 shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
4 shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
4 shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
4 shiurim regarding Tisha Baav.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Shiurim SB #20 - #26, while informative for everyone, will primarily focus on the sexual and emotional struggles of teenage boys from after Bar Mitzvah into their 20's.
Beneficial for parents, mechanchim and anyone who loves and cares for these boys.
Copy of the Alei Shur letter these shiurim is based on - http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Ali_Shur-Exhibit_1.pdf.
After these shiurim, we will revert back to directly adressing sholom bayis issues. Other related important topics will be adressed as well, but usually not with many consecutive shiurim as here.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Rav Hutner's letter which is discussed in Feedback & Insights # 4 -
http://streamdigitalvideo.com/pd_sb/Rav_Hutners_Letter.pdf
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com Halachot Shabbat podcast - https://halachot-shabbat.castos.com/
A quick message in regards to these classes.
Email address for feedback, questions, and insights is sholombayis777@gmail.com