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Do you have ideas and thoughts that you'd like to share with your children or grandchildren? Have you learned some life lessons that might help others? If you answered yes to either of these questions, you need to get it down on paper! We call this Legacy work. The Sidetracked Sisters have been getting together to write for years. Now we want to extend the invitation for others to join us. So, grab a notebook, journal, or laptop and listen in while the Sidetracked Sisters share thoughts and tips on how to uncover, communicate, and preserve stories, values, and wisdom.
In today’s conversation, Judy and I dive into the fashion fads that shaped us and how we view fashion today. From bellbottom jeans and go-go boots to conservative wear and big hair, our stories capture the essence of our past. But here's the kicker: writing these stories isn't just about preserving the past; it's about exploring what these memories reveal about us and how they shape our present lives. With curiosity and reflection, we uncover real gems about ourselves. And let me tell you, we're all in for this introspective journey!
This summer, the Sidetracked Sisters will be blogging and talking about topics that resonate deeply with us. We hope they resonate with you too! We'll explore health and wellness, personal development, family, relationships, retirement, hobbies, leisure, and more. Come September, we'll narrow things down based on your feedback.
So, tune in for some juicy writing and fascinating conversations. Let's make the next chapter of our lives the best one yet! Now, here we go…
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In today’s conversation, Judy and I discuss the writings the Sidetracked Sisters did this week about "A Funny Memory of Childhood," and let me tell you, the stories were golden! Three of them were about our kids or grandkids, and only one was a personal trip down memory lane. We laughed a lot, reminiscing about these priceless moments. They were fantastic to capture on paper, but here's the kicker: writing these stories isn't just about preserving the past. It's also about digging deep to see what these memories reveal about us and how they still shape our lives today. With a bit of curiosity and reflection, we can uncover some real gems about ourselves. And let me tell you, we're all in for this introspective journey!
During the summer weeks, the Sidetracked Sisters will be blogging and talking about topics that really resonate. We hope they resonate with you too! We'll dive into health and wellness, personal development, family, relationships, retirement, hobbies, leisure, and more. Then, come September, we'll narrow things down based on your feedback.
So, tune in for some juicy writing and interesting conversations. Let's make the next chapter of our lives the best one yet!
Now, here we go…
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In today’s conversation, Judy and I discuss “Giving Yourself Permission”. I read somewhere that answering machines ask you two questions: 'Who are you and what do you want?' Most people live their lives without answering either. So, we have a challenge for you today... Give yourself permission to decide and create your answers!
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Someone once said, "Life is like underwear, change is good." Welcome to episode 175 of the Sidetracked Stories podcast! Today we're inviting you, our wonderful listeners, to help us change things up.We've made changes in the past, and we're always moving forward to keep things fresh, entertaining, and informative. In today's episode, "Where Shall We Go From Here?", we'll dive into the history of our podcast, discuss where we are now, and ask for your input to help shape our future.Over the next 12 weeks, we'll cover various topics, and we want to hear from you – what resonates and what doesn't. Your feedback is crucial as we strive to make the next chapter of Sidetracked Stories compelling and engaging.So grab a cup of tea (or something a wee bit stronger--if you wish), get comfortable, and join us as we embark on this exciting journey together. We're looking forward to creating something amazing with your help. Let's get started!Watch our conversation at https://youtu.be/l-bio3IYo20Get free monthly writing prompts and more information about our Sidetracked Legacies membership at https://sidetrackedsisters.com/Follow LisaHoffmanCoaching at https://www.instagram.com/lisahoffmncoaching/#SidetrackedSisters #SidetrackedLisa #SidetrackedJudy #LisaHoffmanCoaching #SidetrackedStories #WomenOver60 #PodcastCommunity #EmbraceChange #AgingGracefully #GoldenYears #SeniorWisdom #LifelongLearning #ActiveAging #LifeAfter60 #EmpoweredWomen #SecondAct #OlderAndWiser #PodcastJourney #CommunityInput #NewChapters #ListenersVoice #CompellingContent #EngageAndInspire #ExcitingChanges
“If you’re alive, you’re a creative person.”― Elizabeth Gilbert, Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond FearToday, Judy and I are thrilled to revisit another favorite inspirational book--Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear by Elizabeth Gilbert. If you're ready to ignite your creativity and live a more vibrant life, you're in for a treat.In this episode, Judy and I embrace our curiosity and let go of needless suffering. We dig deeper into some of Gilbert's thoughts on how to live our most creative lives. We'll share personal insights, practical tips, and some of our favorite passages from the book.We'll also discuss how Elizabeth Gilbert knew from a young age that she wanted to be a writer, focusing with unwavering dedication on that goal. Unlike her, Judy and I are generalists, flitting from one interest to another. We'll explore how this approach has its own unique strengths and challenges, and I'll offer a valuable exercise to help you tap into the power of possibility and commit to what’s possible for you.So get ready to be inspired, get curious, and embrace the magic of creativity with us!#SidetrackedSisters #SidetrackedStories #SidetrackedLisa #SidetrackedJudy #LisaHoffmanCoaching #CreativeLiving #BigMagic #ElizabethGilbert #Inspiration #CreativityUnleashed #PodcastEpisode #SidetrackedStories #LiveYourBestLife #BookRecommendations #UnlockYourPotential
The purpose of life is to live it, to taste experience to the utmost, to reach, out eagerly and without fear for newer and richer experiences.” –Elenor RooseveltWelcome to episode #173 of the Sidetracked Stories podcast!
Today, Judy and I are diving into a topic that can transform your life and the way you see the world: "Cultivating Curiosity."
We'll explore how embracing curiosity can banish boredom and make you more engaging and dynamic. In our chat, we'll share three powerful ways to spark and nurture your own curiosity. So, get ready to ignite your sense of wonder and discover how curiosity can lead to a more vibrant, interesting life!
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Today we dig into the joys of nurturing our mental health through the magic of gardening. From reminiscing about past gardens to sharing our favorite planting tips, this episode will surely cultivate some inspiration for your green space.We'll discuss everything from our gardening inspirations to dealing with pesky invaders (watch out for those Burning Nettles!). And fear not, we've got solutions for those overambitious plants like the Gooseneck Loosestrife!But what we are really getting into is a strategy to find ourselves amidst the chaos. We are exploring passions, and planting seeds of possibility in our ever-evolving garden of life! We encourage YOU to tend to your mental wellness by playing in the dirt.So grab your trowel and get ready to sow the seeds of mental wellness with us on Sidetracked Stories! 🌱 #SidetrackedSisters #SidetrackedStories #SidetrackedLisa #SidetrackedSandy #LisaHoffmanCoaching #GreenTherapy #GardenJoy #MidlifeMentalHealth #DiggingIn #PlantingPositivity #AliceSebold
Some days you eat salad and go to the gym, some days you eat cupcakes and refuse to put on pants. It's called BALANCE.Throughout the episode, we candidly discuss the moments when joy seems elusive, from the everyday doldrums to the pursuit of genuine fun. While I find joy in the simple pleasures of life, like the companionship of my furry friends during morning walks and the artistry of calligraphy, Michelle explores the complexities of joy and its elusive nature in her own life.We share intimate anecdotes and reflections, inviting you into our journey of self-discovery and exploration of what truly brings us joy. One thing we can all agree on is our skepticism towards the pursuit of 'balance' as a source of joy—it simply doesn't resonate with our lived experiences.So, grab your favorite beverage, cozy up, and join us as we embark on a heartfelt conversation about JOY. I promise it'll be a ride filled with laughter, introspection, and maybe even a few surprises along the way.Get free monthly writing prompts and more information about our Sidetracked Legacies membership at https://sidetrackedsisters.com/Follow LisaHoffmanCoaching at https://www.instagram.com/lisahoffmancoaching/
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Buffering masquerades as a friend, yet it's truly the enemy of progress. It's the subtle skill of evading the present, only to face regrets tomorrow.Today Judy and I are taking a closer look at buffering – you know, those little detours we take when the going gets tough.Imagine this: you're charging ahead toward your goals, full steam ahead. But then, out of the blue, you find yourself sidetracked by activities that offer nothing but temporary relief. People use a variety of "buffers" to soothe: food, alcohol, Netflix. Often it takes the shape of overeating, overdrinking, Netflix binging... sound familiar?Well, fear not, because, on today's episode, we're diving deep into the world of buffering. We'll uncover the sneaky ways it creeps into our lives, and more importantly, how to kick it to the curb.So, grab your favorite drink, get comfy, and let's navigate these distractions together. Welcome to Sidetracked Stories – where every twist leads to a new revelation!
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Remember the days when making friends felt as easy as sharing crayons in kindergarten? Life was simpler, schedules more predictable, and friendships seemed to blossom effortlessly. But then adulthood came knocking, and suddenly, the playground of life became a maze of responsibilities and routines.
Join us as we dive into the perplexing world of adult friendship. From the carefree days of schoolyard camaraderie to the complexities of middle age, we'll explore why making friends as an adult feels like navigating uncharted territory.
In today's episode, Judy and I peel back the layers of this phenomenon. We'll reminisce about the days of dorm life, coffee breaks, and playdates, and ponder why, as the years go by, friendships seem to slip through our fingers like grains of sand. But fear not! We're not here to dwell on the problem; we're here to find solutions.
So grab your favorite beverage, settle in, and let's embark on a journey to rediscover the art of making friends in the grown-ass world. Because in a world where connection is everything, we refuse to let middle age put a damper on our social lives.
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Welcome to episode 168 of the Sidetracked Stories podcast, where we dive into the wisdom of Mark Twain's timeless advice: "If it's your job to eat a frog, it's best to do it first thing in the morning. And if your job is to eat two frogs, eat the biggest one first."Today, Michelle and I embark on a journey inspired by this quote as we explore the insights from Brian Tracy's book, 'Eat That Frog.' Join us as we dissect the notion of tackling those 'ugly frogs' and devouring even the most daunting challenges head-on. We delve into the concept of having a 'frog-eating partner' and how it can elevate our pursuit of goals. Tune in as we share personal anecdotes and discuss how these principles resonate in our lives, propelling us towards our aspirations and keeping us steadfast on our journey."
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Today Judy and I are excited to delve into the wisdom found within the pages of "The 12 Week Year" by Brian Moran and Michael Lennington.As we embark on this literary adventure, we'll briefly overview the book and share why it resonated deeply. But that's just the beginning.Thinking back to our previous discussion on the emotional triad, we'll explore how "The 12 Week Year" concepts intersect with our innate desires for pleasure, avoidance of pain, and efficiency.Then, within our reflections, we'll confront a common hurdle: the allure of comfort. We'll discuss how stepping out of our comfort zones is often necessary to achieve our goals and dreams. It's a fascinating exploration of human psychology and productivity.Moving forward, we'll focus on the importance of intentionality in our actions. Living with purpose and direction is key to making meaningful progress.And finally, we'll emphasize the value of consistent daily action. It's not just about setting goals; it's about actively working toward them every. single. day.
Today Judy Goodson and I are discussing a key to personal growth and self-discovery–understanding the emotional triad. Today's episode is a game-changer. So get ready to embark on a journey through the fascinating world of emotions as we dive deep into the foundational workings of our brain—avoiding pain, seeking pleasure, and being efficient.
Have you ever wondered how understanding core emotional drivers could transform your life? Well, wonder no more! In this episode, we'll show you how to harness the magic of the emotional triad to break bad habits, achieve your goals, and unleash your full potential.
From kicking procrastination to the curb to mastering new skills, we'll explore practical strategies to turn your dreams into reality. So grab your favorite beverage, cozy up, and get ready to be inspired.
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Today, we're getting into the realm of slumber and exploring "The Superpower of Sleep" – or lack thereof in our case!
Ever find yourself counting sheep like it's your part-time job? Well, you're not alone. We're sharing our nocturnal adventures and unraveling why sleep seems to evade us like a game of cosmic hide-and-seek.
But fear not, we're not just here to commiserate. Oh no, we've got the keys to the kingdom of Zzz's, and we're ready to share our battle-tested strategies for conquering the elusive beast known as insomnia. From pillow forts to lavender-scented dream mists, we've tried it all, and are here to spill the beans on what actually works.
So grab your favorite blanket, cozy up, and let’s drift off into dreamland together. Because as we all know, a well-rested mind is a supercharged mind. Let's get snoozin'!
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Buckle up as Judy and I dive into the world of habits, inspired by none other than James Clear's groundbreaking book, "Atomic Habits."
I don't know about you, but when I cracked open this book, it felt like fireworks of revelation were going off in my brain! Each page seemed to hold another "aha moment" just waiting to be discovered.
To prep for today's episode, I went down the rabbit hole of Clear's wisdom. I listened to interviews, read articles, and guess what? It's like peeling an onion—every layer reveals something more profound!
But here's where things get juicy. When Clear was asked about the one thing he wished he emphasized more in his book and what extra chapter he'd add, our curiosity was piqued. And guess what? We're sharing those insights with you today!
So, if you're ready to turbocharge your habits, and your life, join us as we unpack these gems with enthusiasm, laughter, and maybe even a dash of wild inspiration!
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Join Judy and me as we unravel the secrets behind harnessing the power of anticipation. Discover how anticipation serves as our fuel, propelling us forward when faced with obstacles on the journey toward our dreams.
But that's not all! We'll also delve into the art of training our minds to envision and believe in the best possible outcomes, igniting a cascade of positive possibilities.
Stay tuned as we explore the often-overlooked mental health benefits of anticipation, and uncover the keys to cultivating a mindset that finds joy in grand events and the little moments of everyday magic. So, buckle up and prepare to embark on a journey of anticipation with us. By embracing this daily practice, we're not just living – we're thriving, finding joy in every twist and turn that life throws our way.
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Get ready to Dive deep into personal transformation with Judy and me.
Ever wondered why so many of us wait for a wake-up call from life before we start making changes? 🤔 Instead of idly waiting for the universe to shake things up, let's take the reins and make conscious decisions to shape our destinies.
Join us as we explore the powerful concept of creating yourself instead of just finding yourself. 🌱 From making decisions to committing wholeheartedly and taking actionable steps towards change, we're here to inspire and motivate you to embrace life's journey with courage and intention.
Take advantage of this empowering conversation! Tune in now and embark on your own path to personal growth and transformation. 🚀
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Check out episode #161 of the Sidetracked Stories podcast, where we're diving into the world of interior design with Lisa and Sandy!
Get ready to spruce up your space as we chat about making "House Beautiful"! 🏡💫Sandy's got a knack for turning any room into a masterpiece. With her love for collecting, color, and design, she's the ultimate home decor guru! But fear not, fellow listeners, if you're not naturally gifted in the art of interior design—we've got you covered!
Join us as we unpack three game-changing tips to transform your living space into a place you adore coming home to. Get your notepads ready, because you won't want to miss out on these gems! Let's make your house as fabulous as Sandy's! 💖✨Watch our conversation at https://youtu.be/-NSbIz76Bu0
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Join us for a lively discussion titled "Do You Fly?" as my awesome Sidetracked Sister, Michelle, and I unravel the secrets of organization and cleaning strategies from www.FlyLady.net.
Discover how decluttering our homes isn't just about tidiness—it's the key to unlocking success in every corner of our lives! Tune in as we share personal insights on how conquering chaos in one area fuels our drive to soar high in others. Don't miss out on this exhilarating episode—it's time to spread your wings and fly with us!
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Dive into the latest installment of the Sidetracked Stories podcast, where in this week's episode, "Are You Blue?", Judy and I explore the transformative impact of Dan Buettner's Blue Zones books on our lives. Join us as we delve into the profound concepts of movement, outlook, eating, and connection, drawing inspiration from Buettner's insights for a more fulfilling life. Discover my ongoing journey through his book, "The Blue Zones Challenge: A 4-Week Plan for a Longer, Better Life". Tune in for a captivating conversation that inspires you and prepares you to embark on your own path to well-being!
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"I am trying to do better than good enough." -Drake
Ever find yourself stuck in the "meh" of life? Everything seems okay—relationships, career, and all that jazz. It's good, but is it great?
Are you ready to break free from the monotony of "good enough"?
Join Judy and me today as we dive into the realm of untapped potential. We're talking about those first exhilarating steps to escape the rut, where "good enough" is no longer the status quo. Let's inject some zest into your existence with goals, adventures, and challenges that'll make life downright captivating. Don't settle for the worn-out path; let's explore thoughts and strategies to propel ourselves out of apathy and dullness, steering towards a life brimming with fulfillment and purpose.
Buckle up, because the journey to a more vibrant life begins right here, right now!
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Do you ever feel “meh” about your purpose, relationships, career…life? According to Wikipedia, meh (/mɛ/) is a colloquial interjection used as an expression of indifference or boredom. It is often regarded as a verbal equivalent of a shrug of the shoulders. The term "meh" shows that the speaker is apathetic, uninterested, or indifferent to the question or subject at hand. Today Judy and I begin an exploration of apathy. I’ve talked with so many women who have gone through the motions of life for so long that they don’t even know where to begin when it comes to living a full, vibrant, and exciting life. We discuss how apathy develops and the first step in moving out of and through feelings of “meh”. Get free monthly writing prompts and more information about our Sidetracked Legacies membership at https://sidetrackedsisters.com/Follow LisaHoffmanCoaching at https://www.instagram.com/lisahoffmancoaching/#sidetrackedsisters #sidetrackedstories #sidetrackedlegacies #sidetrackedlisa #sidetrackedjudy #midlifestories #midlife #midlifejourney #midlifeblogger #midlifeinfluencers #apathy #apathetic #meh
Are you a reader or want to be a reader? Well, both Judy and I love a good book! Over the years I have read or listened to the audio version of countless stories. But lately (since retired from teaching) my reading habit has fallen off. This year, I've decided to refresh this practice. My reasons go beyond the educational focus of upgrading my mind and opening up other worlds. Instead, I look forward to becoming more interesting, improving my memory, and reducing stress.With that said, please put book recommendations (fiction or nonfiction) in the comments. Or, if you want a personal reply, please drop a message to Judy, me, or any of the Sidetracked Sisters! Get free monthly writing prompts and more information about our Sidetracked Legacies membership at https://sidetrackedsisters.com/Follow LisaHoffmanCoaching at https://www.instagram.com/lisahoffmancoaching/#sidetrackedsisters #sidetrackedstories #sidetrackedlegacies #sidetrackedlisa #sidetrackedjudy #midlifestories #midlife #midlifejourney #midlifeblogger #midlifeinfluencers #jimrohn #jimrohnquotes #jimrohnwisdom #readingchallenge #readingchallenge2024 #readingcommunity #readmorebooks
"Acceptance means no complaining, and happiness means no complaining about the things over which you can do nothing." --Dr. Wayne Dyer (Your Erroneous Zones)
Today Judy and I dig into the vintage self-help book "Your Erroneous Zones". This was Dr. Wayne Dyer's first book, published almost a half-century ago. It offers practical advice on how to break free from destructive thought patterns and overcome negative emotions. It was the first book of its kind that Judy had ever read...and it blew her mind back in 1977.
Then we discuss how its concepts are still relevant. We specifically look at two sections: The first is about the useless emotions of guilt and worry and the second is about breaking free from the past and not getting sucked into negative thought loops.
"The only thing that keeps you young is constantly doing things you don't know how to do." -unknown
Today Lisa and Judy begin by telling a bit of the history of the podcast. Then they quickly move into the plan for this to be a place that inspires, entertains, and assists others.
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"I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives. Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change." --Jim Rohn
If you've followed the Sidetracked Sisters for a while or listened to some previous episodes of this podcast, you will know that we are all familiar with change. Although it may not be easy, it is something we can fight a losing battle with, or embrace and grow.
That is what we are doing with this podcast. You see, we've decided that this is the LAST episode of the Overcoming Writer's Block podcast. Beginning in 2024, the Sidetracked Sisters and I will be broadening the scope of our conversations to include a wide variety of entertaining, informative, and inspiring conversations and interviews. This will all take place here on the NEW Sidetracked Stories podcast.
So listen in to hear our thoughts about the upcoming third season--which begins next week!
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"We cannot become what we want by remaining what we are." --Max DepreeToday Judy and I are open with our audience about some changes we are considering for the new year. We love talking about life "blockages" and talking with others who have overcome writer's block specifically. We love writing and think everyone should be journaling or writing some regular "morning pages". But..in the next podcast season, we want to branch out. We will continue to write, AND we want to explore other options for self-development and growth for those of us who aren't exactly spring chickens any longer.
In this episode and the next, we invite you to help us make the 2024 season even more interesting, relevant, and motivating. Please comment with suggestions, or you can message us with your thoughts!
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Today all four of the Sidetracked Sisters are here on the Overcoming Writer's Block podcast! We share with you what our writer's group does, how we began getting together, and how we organize our Thursday night "meetings".
Later, we get into how this gathering strengthens our relationships and helps us keep writer's block at bay...
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"Your story matters. More importantly, you matter." -anonymous
Today's episode goes out to everyone who considers themselves a lifelong writer...those who haven't written since a high school English class, and everyone in between. It's for those with complicated life experiences...those who have lived calm, secure, healthy "boring" lives--and everyone in between. Maybe you've traveled to all 7 continents and been married to five different people. Or, perhaps you live in the same town where you were born and raised and have been happily single...forever.
It's time to get your story down on paper.
And we have exciting news!
Not only do we want you to get your life stories down on paper, but we've got some new ideas to help you get it done!
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Are you more of a thankful person or one who is grateful?
Today Judy and I explore the twin concepts of thankfulness and gratitude. We work through their differences and talk about how they influence our writing. Then we discuss how we can change our perspective on writing and our role as a "writer" when we embody thankfulness and gratitude.Watch our conversation at https://youtu.be/Y-HMA5-0rKM
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"Life happens FOR us.
You can't get it wrong...you just can't.
It's gonna be fine." -Gaye Kick
Today Gaye and I sat down to discuss her fascinating experience and beautifully written memoir. Her book details her search for freedom and identity. She uses engaging narratives and funny self-reflection to inspire us to join in on her journey to "break free".
During our conversation, she shared insights into her story, writing process, and publishing method. You are going to love her honesty and heartfelt story--as well as her words of encouragement--especially if you too desire to unleash your inner power and become the person you were truly destined to be.
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Check all things Gaye Kick at https://gayellenkick.com/2023/08/30/releasing-religion-a-ministers-wife-goes-rogue/
and find her book at https://www.amazon.com/Releasing-Religion-Ministers-Wife-Rogue/dp/B0CJ457718
and https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/book/1144215459?ean=9798988424413
You can also find Gaye on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/gaye.kick
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Today Judy and I encourage people who want to be more creative to not just work and "veg", but to PLAY.
Play...specifically having a weekly "Artist's Date" is a foundation stone of Julia Cameron's The Artist's Way.
In the same way, you can't pour water from an empty cup, you must fill yourself up to write or create. In our conversation, we share activities that fill up our creative cups and inspire us.
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Every day of our lives, we are on the verge of making those slight changes that would make all the difference – Mignon McLaughlin
Judy and I talk about "changing it up". Whether you are a writer or looking to be more creative, it's time to flip your schedule, experiment with food, and get out of the house! I believe that we are all happiest when we are creating. Let's get out of that rut and use some of today’s suggestions to adjust our perspective. Lawyers, teachers, computer gurus, sales associates, corporate managers, and industrial engineers all benefit from getting unblocked. Creativity is something that makes us just. feel. good. We should all want to inject creativity into our lives and our work.
In other words, this episode, this podcast is for you...whoever you are...whatever you make.
Steal Like an Artist by Austin Kleon at https://austinkleon.com/steal/
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"Tell the negative committee that meets inside your head to sit down and shut up." --Ann B. Davis
Today Judy and I encourage you to clean out the negative self-talk dust out of your life. We get into how it shows up in our thoughts. We also discuss how writing helps us become conscious of our thoughts so we can actively make decisions about how to change them.
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Your task is not to seek for love but merely to find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it. -Rumi
Today Judy and I got into how hard writing is when you are feeling down, sad, depressed, anxious, or dark. I usually write easily when life is going smoothly. But it's really deep and precious self-love when you write in the darkness.
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All the work you’ve done up until now has been to lead you to this precise moment, to face precisely what you’re facing.
-Baron Baptiste (master yoga instructor)
Welcome to episode #143 of the Overcoming Writer's Block podcast. Today Judy and I explore three powerful transition words that can help you move from where you are, where you've been, and where you want to be...Listen to the podcast at https://open.spotify.com/show/4rt8U6XSTbiVdNzAv9xzxcWatch our conversation at Get free monthly writing prompts and more information about our Sidetracked Legacies membership at https://sidetrackedsisters.com/Follow LisaHoffmanCoaching at https://www.instagram.com/lisahoffmancoaching/#overcomingwritersblock #writersblock #blankpage #SidetrackedSisters #SidetrackedLegacies #legacybuilding #LisaHoffmanCoaching #sidetrackedlisa #sidetrackedjudy #baronbaptiste
Today Judy and I dig into the connection between writing and the divine. We both agree that it is definitely a spiritual practice--whether or not that is the intention. In our discussion, we highlight 3 main benefits of looking at our writing as prayer: 1) improved concentration, 2) develop connection, and 3) document your spiritual journey.
And here is one more quote that informed our conversation today…“Writing is one of the most ancient forms of prayer. To write is to believe communication is possible, that other people are good, that you can awaken their generosity, and their desire to do better.” -Fatema Mernissi (Moroccan feminist writer and sociologist)
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In the course of this conversation, we talk about the following resources:
The Firestarter Sessions and The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte
The Success Principles (book and workbook) by Jack Canfield
Life’s Companion: Journal Writing as a Spiritual Quest by Christa Balwin
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"Breaking down dreams into attainable goals has been the best thing that I could have done for myself." --Amy Freidl
Amy is the author of the debut story in the new "Strong Girls Travel" series. The book features AJ, an adventurous girl who explores National Parks throughout the U.S. We talk about Amy's writing life and her experiences working on her character, finding help editing and illustrating her story, and the work she is currently engaged in as she prepares to launch this book.
We also talk about the memoir/self-help journal that she published previously. It chronicles her personal and mental journey that she hopes could help others struggling to define a new version of themselves.
You are going to love Amy's authenticity and excitement as she shares her journey and wisdom. She eloquently encourages us to pursue our writing, life, and adventure goals.You can find Amy and "Strong Girls Travel" in a few places:
https://www.facebook.com/amy.friedl
https://www.facebook.com/stronggirlstravel
https://www.instagram.com/stronggirlstravel/
https://www.tiktok.com/search?q=stronggirlstravel&t=1696299655224
During the episode, she also mentioned these resources that you might find useful:
https://self-publishingschool.com/
https://commit30.com/
"Good thinkers always prime the pump of ideas. They always look for things to get the thinking process started, because what you put in always impacts what comes out." --John C. Maxwell (American author, coach, and speaker)And, what does it mean, exactly to "prime the pump"? According to Google, this phrase means "to encourage the growth or action of something. In the late 1800s, this expression was originally used for pouring liquid into a pump to get rid of the air and make it work. Then, in the 1930s it was applied to government efforts to stimulate the economy."
Well, today Judy and I help you prime the pump of your writing. We want to get our words out and down on paper. We want to get our ideas out into the world. But to do this most efficiently, sometimes we have to kind of trick our brains into writing. We want to get that creative water of our thoughts flowing...and that's what we'll get into today...
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Today Judy and I get into the all the feels! We dig into WHY we both love to write...and we get deep. We discuss why we write for ourselves and for our loved ones. We recognize that there is a different "why" for us puting writing out for a wider audience--the world really--to read and consume.
You see, we believe that we, all of us as humans, have a deep desire to see and be seen, to hear and be heard, to know and be known. We also want to know that by connecting with others , we can, in some small way, makie this world a little bit better.
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Thoughts are the cause of all emotions in our lives. Whatever we decide to believe and think will determine how we feel. -Brooke Castillo (The Life Coach School)
Today Judy and I get into our heads and talk about our thoughts. As a life coach, I talk with my clients about how a circumstance can trigger thoughts, these thoughts cause feelings, our feelings drive actions, and actions create results.
So...we get into 4 questions that will help you shed some light on your thoughts. These questions will help you look at your thoughts about writing and about you as a writer. It is a good starting point to examine some foundational beliefs that could either set you up to be a prolific, motivated, and successful writer...or...not.
Questions:
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What do you think about writing?
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What do you think about yourself as a writer?
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What have your people (family/teachers) taught you about your writing?
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What do you WANT to believe about writing and yourself as a writer?
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"Writing is like pizza. Cold pizza, good pizza, bad pizza...it's better than no pizza. So remember: bad writing is better than no writing." --Lauren Oliver author of Vanishing Girls
Welcome to the Overcoming Writer's Block podcast episode #137.
Today Judy and I had some fun with pizza. A couple of hours before we talked, I was on a walk with my dogs and listening to a podcast. The speaker was explaining that when they were writing, they often really struggled with the worry, the fear really, of what other people--family mostly--would think of the story. This was a major block to their ability to get their words down on paper.
And, well, my brain went to pizza. (Not sure why...) It started to use pizza as a metaphor to illustrate why other people's opinions should have no bearing on your writing.
In my conversation with Judy, we talked for a while before I hit record. I didn't know if this was too much of a stretch. But we decided to go with the idea and just have fun with it.
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"I tend to deal with writer's block by thinking, 'What can I simplify in my life?' Because that will get me more in tune with my intuition and the writing will come." -Dana Laquidara (speaker and author)
Today I talk with Dana Laquidara. She is a speaker and writer who recently had her second book published. Her first book explored the connection between creativity, simplifying, and healing in the book The Uncluttered Mother: Free Up Your Space, Mind, and Heart.
Today, we dig into her second book, YOU-KNOW-WHO An Alienated Daughter's Memoir. We get into her thoughts about the healing that occurs while writing and how she has navigated the process of writing about trauma that affects not only an individual but a family.
You can find her book here and here and on her website here.
She mentioned a few books that she found inspiring. They were...
The Book Bible: How to Sell Your Manuscript―No Matter What Genre―Without Going Broke or Insane by Susan Shapiro The Business of Being a Writer by Jane Friedman
Be the Gateway: A Practical Guide to Sharing Your Creative Work and Engaging an Audience by Dan Blank Anything by Julia Cameron!
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"Sometimes people ask me if I regret 'wasting' those decades before I learned to believe in my writing and take it seriously. No, I tell them. I was gestating, amassing experience and material I tap into when I write my poems today." --Rebecca Faust (poet)
As a woman with many diverse experiences behind me, I recognize that life is always changing. We are always learning... something. In each stage of life, it often feels like that is the way it will always be. But, that isn't the case. In writing, sometimes I feel tornado-ish (writing comes fast and easy). At other times, I'm in a more potato-ish place (boring and bland). If life has its ups and downs, peaks and troughs, doesn't it make sense that our experience with writing will also?
Today, Judy and I talk about writing when we feel like it, and when we don't. Because...that's just the way it works.
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"I'm the other kind of writer. I don't write every day. I don't have set hours that I write (and I know I should). But I get there eventually...I want it to be an enjoyable process." --Heidi Eliason
Have you ever felt suffocated by your routine and responsibilities, or just longed for some adventure? Heidi Eliason did, so at the age of 45 she quit her job, sold her house, bought a motorhome, and embarked on a five-year road trip with her dog, Rylie. It was a journey that transformed her life.
Through memoir, she recounts the challenges of managing the Green Monster--her motorhome--traveling in Mexico, and getting derailed by Mr. Wrong. She learned--sometimes the hard way--that chasing the corporate ladder and storybook romance was not always a sure route to happiness. She struggled with insecurities, faced her fears, and dug her way out of depression.
Today I talk with Heidi about her process to write the story of this journey.
She hopes that her book, Confessions of a Middle-Aged Runaway, may help others to find the courage to jump off the hamster wheel of the conventional Dream and make a transformative journey of their own. And perhaps you will be inspired, by our conversation today, to write about YOUR journey!
Here are a couple of resources she mentioned in today's interview:
Reedsy.com
Ebooklaunch.com
IngramSpark.com
Draft2Digital.com
You can find her book here and here and on her website here.
You can check out Heidi's writing editing services here.
She belongs to The California Writer's Club and the Nonfiction Authors Association.
She mentioned several books that she found inspiring. They were...
On Writing by Stephen King
The Art of Memoir by Mary Karr
Big Magic by Melissa Gilbert
Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
Writing Down the Bones by Natalie Goldberg, and
The Nonfiction Book Publishing Plan: The Professional Guide to Profitable Self-Publishing by Stephanie Chandler
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"If you have an idea, you should run with it. That idea was given to you for a reason, and you...YOU are the person who is supposed to take that idea and make something out of it." -- Melanie Gareau
Today I talk with Melanie Gareau. She is a parent, educator, and author who lost a student to suicide and the experience shattered her heart. As a form of self-therapy, she turned to writing. This writing in turn developed into a resource for teenagers and young adults--WHY ME? What now?
Melanie knew that kids don't want or need to be told what to do or what to think. There are enough people trying to do that already. Instead, she wants to empower teens to talk, ask for help, find support, and do what feels right for them. Her book is a resource with stories and practical advice to empower readers. The struggle is real, but it is possible to meet life's challenges and come out the other side stronger and more resilient.
Here are a couple of resources she mentioned in today's interview:
Reedsy.com
Bigmoosepublishing.com
You can find her book here and here and on her website here.
She is also on social media on Facebook and Instagram.
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Author Lois Lowry was asked about her writing process and how she got over writer's block (here). She answered, "I write on a computer and I have never suffered from writer's block. In fact, I don't believe in it. It's a made-up term that has taken on some kind of silly importance. Writing is a job. Some days you don't feel like doing your job. But there is no 'teacher's block' or 'dentist's block.' I can't figure out why we have created this mysterious phrase .. only for writers .. which only means 'I don't feel like doing this right now'."
Today, Judy and I talk about the possibility that writer's block doesn't. even. exist. We get into three strategies that you've definitely heard of before that you are probably already doing. And like many well-known, successful techniques, it's sometimes nice to know that you're on the right track. These practices are like a vaccine that protects you from getting all blocked up. So sit back and enjoy a conversation that is sure to inspire you.
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Today I interview the author of "Untethered", Deborah Staunton. In her book, Deb tells the story of growing up with a mentally ill, alcoholic father and the experience of raising a mentally ill daughter. It follows Deb's journey through multiple miscarriages and the "untethering" of minds, relationships, and pregnancies.
At one point in our interview, Deb says, "I just have to get 200 rejections and I'm on my way." This statement beautifully illustrates Deb's tenacity when faced with challenges.
In this episode, we talk about Deb's writing process and the resources she has accessed during the process of writing, editing, and publishing her book.
She talks candidly and with encouragement to others who have a story to tell. Her book is a testimony to the resilience of the human spirit and Deb inspires other writers to keep moving forward in the process of writing and getting their work out into the world.
Deborah's book Untethered can be found everywhere you buy books including Walmart, Amazon, and Barnes&Noble
You can find Deb on Facebook here and she recommends that you check out the International Women's Writers Guild for support in your writing journey.
"You can always edit a bad page. You can't edit a blank page." --Jodi Picoult
Today Judy and I talk about "Blank Page Syndrome". We get into three strategies to help when the writer is ready, the materials are waiting, but no words are flowing...
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"Writer's block is real. It happens. Some days you sit down at the old typewriter put your fingers on the keys, and nothing pops into your head.
Blanko. Nada. El nothingissimo.
What you do when this happens is what separates you from the one-of-these-days-I'm-gonna-write-a-book crowd."
--James N. Frey
Today Judy and I talk about writer's block--what it is and what it looks like. We get into how self-criticism is at the heart, but the brain drama of writer's block shows up in unique and identifiable ways. Stress. Vague thoughts. Fear. Lack of motivation.
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"Are you truly committed to what you want or are you just enjoying that it is a possibility?" --Brooke Castillo (The Life Coach School)
Judy and I talk about Life Coaching. We get into what a life coach does and why you may want one...whether you're a writer or not.
Now some people may be confused about the difference between a life coach and a therapist--we get into that too.
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"Our dilemma is that we hate change and love it at the same time; what we really want is for things to remain the same but get better." -Sydney J. Harris
Judy and I are so excited for today's episode. We have a BIG announcement...you see, the Sidetracked Sisters are very familiar with change. I think it comes with the territory of being "sidetracked". That said, today we want to share with our listeners some changes we are embarking on. We are ready to get into our thoughts about where the Sidetracked Sisters have been, where we are currently, and where we are going. We want our writing and our podcast to get better. We want to touch and encourage more people. And...we know we can't reach these two goals without making some changes.
Oh, and I can't forget to mention (in the midst of this chaos) that we get into some thoughts about overcoming writer's block.
Change is on the horizon. And guess what? We want YOU to come along for the ride.
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"An unexamined life isn't worth living." -Socrates
"An examined life is no picnic." -Robert Fulghum
Judy and I love to write! We write by ourselves and with our Sidetracked Sisters. We like to do legacy writing and come up with blog posts. We also do a lot of journal writing.
In our conversation, we discuss a variety of reasons why journal writing is so valuable. But perhaps the most important reason is that we write to process current problems and old traumas so that we see the lessons life offers.
We do this processing by following a "Think, Feel, Do" framework. We begin by freely describing a problem or circumstance and then getting into the surrounding thoughts and feelings. Then we follow this up with a listing of our actions...how we responded, or how we wish we had reacted. It's a valuable strategy to process and consider how you want to move forward.
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"Clean and nourish your brain wisely every day. It can easily become a garbage bin." --Philip Arnold
Today, Judy and I talk about why we like to write first thing in the morning. We get into the fact that I am a "morning person" and she is definitely NOT. This doesn't change the fact that morning writing is so important.
It doesn't matter what you call your morning writing. It is sometimes called "morning pages" or "thought downloads"--but whatever you call your journaling time, it is like clearing out the junk, getting the garage cleared out...just really dealing with the gunk that would otherwise muck up our brains!
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“Why doesn’t constant trampling defeat the dandelion? The key to its strength is its long and sturdy root, which extends deep into the earth. The same principle applies to people. The true victors in life are those who, enduring repeated challenges and setbacks, have sent the roots of their being to such a depth that nothing can shake them.” ― Daisaku Ikeda
Welcome to the "Sidetracked Legacies" podcast #124.
In today's episode, Judy and I riff on dandelions! We talk about what happens when you stop and smell the dandelions. It opens up questions, thoughts, ideas, and memories for us. We can use this experience as a tool to get deeper into our writing practice...deeper into ourselves. The practice helps to grow our roots.
We also explore how learning and writing are best explored with a playful attitude.
What we really want for ourselves and our audience is to use tools (like dandelions) to live more in the moment, live our best life, and help us appreciate beauty--wherever it may be found.
"Writing helps open you up. It is peeling the onion. We always get deeply into other layers as we pull the one from the outside off. We even get tears sometimes when we do that." --Judy Goodson
I thought Judy was speaking such words of wisdom when she said that. Later, I found out that others agreed with her comparison...Pulitzer Prize-winning poet, Carl Sandberg is quoted saying, "Life is like an onion. You peel it off one layer at a time, and sometimes you weep." Wow. Judy and Carl Sandberg...who'd have known?!?
Today Judy and I got together and discussed how writing is a practice. Thinking about the similarities between writing, life, and onions, we recognize how all three have layers and bring out emotion.
We talk about how we aren't going for perfection in our writing. We use it as a practice. The writing gets us into a writer's awareness of the world and our experiences in it.
Next, we get into what we do when we feel resistance to writing and how common that resistance is when it's time to write. We actually have begun to expect resistance and just...do it anyway!
We give ourselves permission to write whatever comes. It's even ok to let the worst junk come through our pens and sit on the page.
Later we move into Judy's process to write poetry.
Wrapping up this session, Judy and I talk about how writing fits within the concept of the "blue zones". It helps us in a meditative kind of way. It helps us downshift and become more aware of our own minds. It also connects us with our right tribe--people who are interesting to us and interested in us. Writing helps us bond with others who are like-minded.
"Whether you're keeping a journal or writing a meditation, it's the same thing. What's important is that you're having a relationship with your mind." --Natalie Goldberg
Today Judy and I got together and discussed making time to write. Thinking about the quote by Natalie Goldberg, I can't help but recognize the importance of TIME when you are building a relationship. You can't have a deep, solid, intimate relationship with anyone (even your own mind) if you don't devote time to the process.
In this episode, we talk about making time for writing. It's not something that you FIND time to do, you MAKE the commitment to the time.
Some of our favorite people talk about the importance of committing time to write: Hal Erod talks about "scribing" in The Miracle Morning, Julia Cameron talks about "morning pages" in The Artist's Way, and Mathew Dicks in his books Someday is Today and Storyworthy gets into the concept of "homework for life". Each of these people encourages us to make time daily to record our thoughts, experiences, and random brain droppings.
Judy and I talk about what this looks like for us. We get into how writing works for non-writers too. It is for anyone who is trying to do anything creative. Whether you are a teacher, a dancer, a lawyer, a stay-at-home mom, or a retired real estate agent...journal writing, daily scribing, is for those of us who want to nurture our own life experience and connect to an inner power source.
“I must write it all out, at any cost. Writing is thinking. It is more than living, for it is being conscious of living.” -Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Today Judy and I talked about how writers use writing to become more thoughtful and aware of life. Judy uses the analogy of living life as a swimmer diving under the surface to explore the depths when we write about our lives.
We also briefly talk about using small notebooks to record lists, inspirational quotes, and observations that feel important at the moment.
Near the end, we get into the idea that we don't always write to impart knowledge...but to inform ourselves, remind ourselves, teach ourselves, and maybe even use writing to keep ourselves accountable to what is important to us.
Finally, we offer a challenge quick daily writing challenge.
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"It's a human need to be told stories. The more we're governed by idiots and have no control over our destinies, the more we need to tell stories to each other about who we are, why we are here, where we come from, and what might be possible." -Alan Rickman
This quote seemingly came out of nowhere when I surfed on social media the other day. When it did, I was speechless and knew I had the seed for something exciting for Judy and me to talk about. So, in this episode, we get into the value of digging up our past and sharing it with others. We discuss the significance of honoring the who and the why of our present, the where of our past, and the what of the future we might create.
"Memory takes a lot of poetic license. It omits some details; others are exaggerated, according to the emotional value of the articles it touches, for memory is seated predominantly in the heart." --Tennessee Williams
Today Judy and I talk about sharing our legacy writing by telling our stories. We use poetic license to share in a way that feels true and elevates a story in a way that makes it interesting to tell and causes our readers to want to learn more. Not that our storytelling is in any way artificial or false, but we want to write in a way that helps us reflect on the experience and draws our readers in.
We also get into how our writing has a connection with meditation. We are able to get into a deeper place and quiet our monkey mind when we put our pen to the paper and remember...
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“When you write your truth, it is a love offering to the world because it helps us feel braver and less alone.” -Glennon Doyle
Today Judy and I talked about the need to be truthful in our writing. We want others to recognize that any piece of writing is really a snapshot in time. We talk about how every family has their sh*t and this event, situation, or story just happens to be ours. We also briefly understand that truth-sharing makes our writing relatable and gives it depth. Lessons are made of "real" experiences.
Near the end, we get into the role of "poetic license" in writing and the place of self-analysis in storytelling. Or, to quote Judy, "You can get more attention from your reader and you can make your point more clearly by sharing an experience than by having them suffer through explanation!"
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“To be truly seen and heard, to be truly known, is a deep human need. Our hunger for it is so omnipresent, so much a part of our experience of life, that we no more know what it is we are missing than a fish knows it is wet.” -Charles Einstein (American author and podcaster)
Today Judy and I talk about the desire we have to be seen and heard, and known through our writing We give our thoughts and opinions on a variety of kinds of ways to do this. We talk about the pros and cons of morning pages, daily logs, and artistic "junk" journals. We also briefly get into specific journals for dreams, food, books, travel, gratitude, and goals.
Near the end, we share some motivating thoughts on the benefits of legacy writing and ponder the value of really putting ourselves "out there" to be seen by others in an intensely profound way.
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"Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on." --Louis L'Mour
In this episode, Judy and I discuss the exciting task of beginning writing or starting a new journal. We both, however, have a collection of journals and notebooks that we've used to keep our thoughts or record progress toward a goal. Some of them are finished and have no blank pages left. Others will never ever be complete.
We talk about what to do when you start a new journal and we get into the problem of unfinished notebooks and the decision to let blank pages stay blank.
Then we wrap up our discussion with a brainstorming session on "touchstones" that we plan to use when beginning a new journal.
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"Man has two great gifts: 'words' to give sound to thoughts, and 'writing' to give thoughts meaning forever."
-Gianfranco Iovino (Italian writer/author)
Today Judy and I talk about what we use to collect our writing and the writing of others that we've saved over the years.
Then we share some of the writing we've actually collected over the years and we get into what we like to use as we journal.
We also get into the possibility that our writing isn't only for others to someday read in the distant future, but maybe, it's also for you--to honor where you've been, what you've done, and what you've learned.
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Today Judy and I get into the final C of our "5 Cs of Legacy Writing" series--CRAFT.
In our conversation, we talk about finding and telling interesting stories and whether or not you should worry about using "proper English" when you record your thoughts and ideas. So many people have hangups about grammar, spelling, and punctuation. But we want to encourage you not to let these details silence your voice.
Then, later in the discussion about craft, we get into "voice" specifically. We want to use "voice" in our legacy writing. The way our personality comes through on the page is especially important since you are telling a true story. It is your unique point of view that needs to shine through.
Today Judy and I get into the 4th C in our "5 Cs of Legacy Writing" series--COMMUNICATION.
In this episode, we begin to understand the power that serendipity has in our writing. (That is when you accidentally stumble upon something truly wonderful, especially while looking for something entirely unrelated.)
Sometimes we come totally prepared for a writing time together, sometimes not so much, and occasionally, we are not prepared. at. all. But it really doesn't seem to matter. What comes out onto the page is often surprising. But we feel that it was totally meant to be.
As the conversation develops, we realize that it doesn't matter if you are old or young, male or female, an extrovert or an introvert...we are recording pieces of our lives to communicate and powerfully connect with others.
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Today Judy Goodson and I discuss the 3rd C in our 5 Cs of Legacy Writing series--COURAGE!
In L. Frank Baum's famous story, The Wonderful Wizard of Oz, the wizard encourages the cowardly lion with a potion and says, "You have plenty of courage, I am sure. All you need is confidence in yourself. There is no living thing that is not afraid when it faces danger. The true courage is in facing danger when you are afraid, and that kind of courage you have in plenty."
Well, we may not be facing DANGER when faced with a pen and a journal but many of us lack the self-confidence to write and want to protect ourselves from the cutting danger of criticism.
In this episode, Judy and lisa discuss courage and the questions so many of us have about getting our thoughts down. Then we get into the questions "Who are you writing for?" and "What have you got to lose?"
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We continue our 5 Cs of Legacy Writing Series with C #2--CONFIDENCE.
Statesman and financier Bernard Boruch once wisely advised, "Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind." Isn't that the truth?!? With this in mind, Judy and Lisa dig into the how-tos of having confidence while writing. We talk about being comfortable in your own skin, and in your own experiences. Then we tackle how to dispel self-doubt. Lastly, we get into celebrating individuality.
You know American actress Meryl Streep, well, she is quoted as saying, "What makes you different or weird, that's your strength." We couldn't agree more!
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Welcome to SEASON 2 of the podcast! We are starting things out with several episodes of Lisa and Judy sharing thoughts and insights on legacy-making and writing. Last season, so many people enjoyed our discussion about "The 5 Cs of Legacy Writing". So...we figured that we would begin there. We have so much more to share!!! Today we begin with COMMITMENT.
Spiritual Coach and Consultant Arioa Moonstone wisely said, "Don't let your fear of what could happen...make nothing happen."
Listen as we get into the roadblocks to sharing your legacy and encouragement to commit to the process.
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"Carve your name on hearts, not tombstones. A legacy is etched into the minds of others and the stories they share about you."
--Shannon Adler (inspirational author and therapist)
My husband's Grandpa Matt Hoffman passed away peacefully earlier this week. I had just recently really gotten to know him. Since the middle of July, I had visited him about once a week. Now sometimes I wasn't available. Sometimes he wasn't feeling well. But we got together and talked about his family, his memories, his thoughts...his life.
I just brought my phone along and set it on the linoleum table between us. I'd bring up a subject and he'd talk. When he glossed over something, I'd try to get more details. Sometimes I'd repeat names to make sure I understood who he was talking about. (He often would refer to people, long gone, like they were people everyone knew.)
From my first interview on July 12th, through my last interview on November 8th, I have a little over 12 hours of memories, thoughts, ramblings, laughter, and LEGACY.
Now, these conversations are not a memoir. There is no storyline, no character development, he didn't speak with the goal to capture your imagination and draw you into his life.
No.
He was just sharing.
We had conversations where I was interested in the life he lived.
What did he want me and others to know...to remember?
In today's episode, I'm sharing with you the beginning of our very first talk. I begin our conversation with, "The goal of this is...we just want to sit down and talk about you and your stories...what you remember from your childhood...and all the things."
In the next weeks, I will transcribe his memories and put these together with pictures that I took during my visits, scanned into the computer, and then returned on my next visit.
We will put this all together through Sidetracked Legacies and publish it into a beautiful hardcover book for family and close friends. This will be an invaluable keepsake for those who knew him and loved him. It will be a treasured resource to share with the children of his children's children...and their children!
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Leslie Ferguson started writing poetry in college to deal with troubling emotions and traumatic memories from her childhood. In graduate school, she was more courageous, and wrote scenes from memory, trying to recapture the mood of much of her life with a mentally ill parent. During the day, she taught high schoolers about literature; in the evening, she studied and wrote, eventually amassing more than 200,000 words about her journey from homelessness and foster care to safety and love. Those words, critiqued, edited, and rewritten countless times, have come to shape the memoir she is proud to share with the world.
Leslie writes about love, loss, and the consequences of trauma, emphasizing healing and hope. Currently, she work in the publishing industry, helping others achieve their dreams of putting amazing stories into readers’ hands.
You can find Leslie here on her author website and here on Facebook.
I'll bet you can relate to this post that my guest shared this week
My name is Jelaine Lombardi and I am a writer. There, I said it.
For years I have kept these words silent, as I feverishly wrote on. I minimized the importance of my story. I could not even speak of my book without embarrassment clinging to my words.
Imposter syndrome.
Who am I to think I can write?
But I did it. I completed my memoir. 117,000 words of it!
I am not saying that I am a great writer. I may not have proper command of grammar or the lovely twist of a metaphor.
I am just saying this. I am a writer!
This week I interviewed Jelaine Lombardi. She is self-publishing a memoir entitled "Running Around Naked". During our time together, we get into ALL. THE. THINGS! We talk about the process of completing a memoir, self-publishing, writers supporting other writers, and about life growing up in a nudist park! I can't wait to share this episode with you so we can all give Jelaine some love and support when her book drops (she'll keep us updated).
Jelaine's favorite places to hang out and connect are the following Facebook groups: Aspiring Memoir Writers, Memoir Mentors, Memoir Writers, and Happy Writers (which is not necessarily memoir but has been great for resources).
Maya Angelou once said, "The idea is to write it so that people hear it and it slides through the brain and goes straight to the heart."
Well, I don't think that any of our attempts at writing a poem are going to pierce anyone's heart, but it was interesting, challenging, and dare I say it...FUN!?!
Judy is the poet among us Sidetracked Sisters and she can come up with a thought in verse as easy as pie. Michelle has written a few poems in the past. Me, I taught a poetry writing unit to First Graders for years that focused on looking carefully at something and making connections with your senses through free verse (not rhyming). Sandy, doesn't even read poetry. But she is always game for something new...
So we sat down at the restaurant and just began (there may have been Margaritas involved). Now, we did have a week to think about our topic... For me, my hubby and I had just had a conversation with our oldest son, who at the age of 18 is going to make us grandparents. During our conversation, he excitedly, announced that he planned on being a "fun dad". He said this in a way that indicated a significant expectation and daydreaming hopefulness about the upcoming experience--no irony at all!
The phrase continued to ring in my ears through the following week. On my walks with the dogs, brushing my teeth, driving to pick up my daughter...I compared his dreamy words with the reality of parenting him for the past 7 years. But how do you brew one off-hand comment with the angst of a middle schooler and the rebellion of a high school child? How do you shine a light into hope while keeping your feet on the solid ground of reality?
My poem, "Fun Dad" is an amateur's attempt at letting the words of my heart bleed onto the paper. Not a lot of blood...just a little. And I'm the only one who went into the writing this week with a knife. Everyone else took a much more lighthearted approach to the topic. And, what's most important--we spent a lovely time with one another, talking, eating, laughing, and doing our legacy writing...
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Okay, everyone, it's catch-up week. With the launch of our Sidetracked Legacies Membership, I've gotten a bit behind in publishing some of the podcasts that we've recorded. So we're going to give you a burst of sidetracked opinions, thoughts, laughter, and snarkiness/ (BTW, if you don't know what I'm talking about when I say "membership", you've got to check out our website to see how YOU can get the support and encouragement you need to get down your own legacy stories and have them published in a beautiful book for your family and loved ones.)
Back to the podcast...today we are discussing "The Best Part of Growing Up".
ee cummings is quoted saying, "It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are."
I think all four of the Sidetracked Sisters would concur...just take a listen!
We are so excited to announce the opening of the Sidetracked Legacies Membership!!! As a kickoff, we put together 2 Facebook Lives and a Zoom broadcast to share with our people.
In the first Facebook Live, Lisa gave some history behind the Sidetracked Sisters and laid out the importance of creating a legacy for your family, loved ones, and community. In the second FB Live, all the Sidetracked Sisters got to put in their ten cents worth of opinion about writing and recording your thoughts, opinions, and life lessons.
Unfortunately, it appears that these are now only available on our Facebook site.
On the third day of our kickoff, Lisa and Judy tried a Zoom meeting instead. We use Zoom all. the. time. and found it to be a lot easier to navigate. Soooooo, now we have the recording from that third installment of our Sidetracked Legacies Membership Kickoff/Workshop/Hoopla.
Legacy Writing is for everyone! We want you to know that YOU have valuable, precious, and powerful thoughts that need to be shared and preserved. In this conversation, we lay out the 5 Cs of Legacy Writing: Committment, Confidence, Courage, Communication, and Craft.
Here is a favorite poem about the importance of raising children with an eye toward preparing them to leave. It is by Kahlil Gibran and I included it at the end of our portfolio to show birth mothers when we adopted our daughter Aubrey. It goes like this:
*Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.*
*You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer’s hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He loves also the bow that is stable.*
This poem so beautifully honors a child's "growing up" and not only the parent's role to "raise up" a child but the ultimate importance of letting go. We really do want to train our children in such a way so that they don't need us...but maybe they still want us?!?
In this week's writing, Sandy, Judy, 'Chelle, and I talk about leaving home. It colors who we are as adults and gives us perspective on how we raise/raised our own children. We reminisce about lessons, fun times, and how we made parenting challenging (at times) for our own parents.
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This week the Sidetracked Sisters got together and wrote about the topic of our 3rd decade of life. I don't remember why this random topic sounded so interesting a few weeks ago that we all wanted to write about it. Because...when we actually sat down to get our thoughts down, it was like, "arghhhh, what am I going to write about?!?"
It's crazy how often this happens to us. We get together to write and then, just a few moments or minutes before we begin, it's like there is a group panic attack that tries to shut down the process.
But fortunately, the four of us are committed to this legacy writing adventure, and not writing isn't really an option. That is the power of writing with others in a community.
Speaking of community, this is also a plug for our "Sidetracked Legacies Membership" that just opened!!! You can learn more about the membership by going to our site sidetrackedsisters.com and tuning in to our Facebook page for (3) 20-30 minute LIVE events this week. Lisa and the other Sidetracked Sisters will be showing up at 7 pm Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday this week (September 14, 15, and 16) at 7 pm CST to share more details about the membership, talk about some bonuses that are available to our founding members, and talk more about how LEGACY writing is different than other forms of writing that you may be familiar with--and why YOU should WANT to do your own legacy writing!
"Your voice is my favorite sound. You're like my favorite song on the radio. I could listen to you all day." -anonymous
Ahh, love...the sweet phrases that touch our hearts. We may not feel those intense romantic feelings right now in life, but there are sounds that move us, touch us, and make us remember.
I know, this topic isn't for the faint of heart. It isn't as concrete and specific as some others we've chosen. but this was a fun challenge and brought up a wide variety of stories and memories.
At the beginning of the episode, Lisa mentioned that the Sidetracked Legacies Membership will soon be launching! Members who want to tackle this experience will have the opportunity to participate in an exclusive Sidetracked Legacies Facebook group where you can ask questions and connect with others on this legacy journey. As a part of the FB group, members will receive monthly workshops to help them write their life moments, memories, and stories. We are also offering for the first 5 people who join, the opportunity to receive 10 free 30-minute 1-on-1 coaching calls to help you with your writing!
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Welcome to Episode 100!!! I am your host, Lisa Hoffman and I am so excited today! The Sidetracked Sisters began this podcast back in January and we have had so much fun talking about legacy writing, sharing with you, and demonstrating how people can come to a topic from a variety of perspectives. I have LOVED interviewing other creative people--writers, visual artists, entrepreneurs, and memoirists. The goal is to inspire YOU to create a lasting legacy with your life for your family, friends, loved ones, and community.
Today's topic, "Lessons From Grandma" is really where so many of our legacy stories begin...and end. In my life, I didn't realize how much my grandmas were living examples for me of deep life lessons. When my Grandma Is was alive, I neglected to get down her recipe for her special creamed chicken. When my grandma Doris was alive, she asked me about myself and my life, but I never reciprocated or showed an interest in her life, her experiences as a young woman or her stories from early in her marriage with little kids. Now my opportunity is past.
With Sidetracked Legacies, we don't want YOU to miss the opportunity to pass on YOUR wisdom! We are happy to announce today that we will be opening our membership in mid-September. This membership will provide the support and guidance for you to work on your own legacy project and publish it. The membership will consist of weekly writing prompts, an exclusive Facebook membership site, a monthly group writing workshop, and a published book at the end of 52 weeks!
Here is the link for our waiting list https://sidetrackedsisters.ck.page/waitlist
You are going to LOVE the Sidetracked Legacies podcast interview today. I am Lisa Hoffman and in this episode, I talk with Linda Strader. Originally from Syracuse, New York, Linda moved to Prescott, Arizona with her family in 1972. In 1976, she became one of the first women hired on a U.S. Forest Service fire crew.
Summers of Fire: A Memoir of Adventure, Love and Courage, was released in 2018 by Bedazzled Ink Publishing. Her publishing history includes many web articles about writing memoir, her publishing and marketing experiences, and wildland firefighting. She has given talks on these topics to many clubs, including the American Association of University Women. Parade Magazine published an excerpt in 2018, and the PBS show Arizona Illustrated featured her segment “Wildland Firefighter,” in the fall of 2019.
The prequel to Summers of Fire, Uprooted: A New Life In The Arizona Sun, was released in 2021.
Linda holds two degrees: a Bachelor of Landscape Architecture, and a Master’s in Planning from the University of Arizona. In addition to writing, she is a landscape architect, certified arborist, and watercolor artist. She currently lives in the same area where her Forest Service career began.
Here are the places where you can contact Linda and get her wonderful books:
Email: Lstrader2008@aol.com
Twitter: @desertplantlove
Blog address: https://summersoffirebook.blogspot.com/
Facebook author page: https://www.facebook.com/LindaStraderauthor
Watercolor page: https://lindaswatercolorsofthewest.blogspot.com/
Amazon US: Summers of Fire: A Memoir of Adventure, Love, and Courage
Uprooted: A New Life in the Arizona Sun
Amazon UK: Summers of Fire: A Memoir of Adventure, Love, and Courage
Uprooted: A New Life in the Arizona Sun
Barnes and Noble: Summers of Fire: A Memoir of Adventure, Love, and Courage
Uprooted: A New Life in the Arizona Sun
"Cooking is like love. It should be entered into with abandon or not at all." --Harriet VanHorne (American newspaper columnist and ratio/t.v. critic)
As I'm writing this introduction, the smell of something baking, cooking, or slightly burning is reaching me in my office. I'm sure that my daughter Aubrey is experimenting in the kitchen and making a mess--if nothing else!
The Sidetracked Sisters got together this week and wrote down a favorite family recipe and a memory to go along with it. I got down grandma Is' Rhubarb Custard Pie and the accompanying schnibble "cookies". Sandy tries to recreate her mother's Creamed Chicken. Judy goes back to her young adulthood for an experimental Chile Relleno Casserole and Michelle shares the Cajun Cheese Soup that EVERYONE in our family loves. loves. loves.
Oh, by the way, it is my 13-year-old daughter who is making deep-fried Oreos. We went to the county fair this past weekend and she was inspired. When I asked her where she got the recipe, she said, "I didn't."
"What do you mean?" I asked.
"I didn't have a recipe," she replied.
"How did you make the coating?"
"Pancake batter."
Huh. Who needs heirloom recipes when you can confidently create your own delicacies from scratch? She definitely enters into her cooking with abandon! I think I have a chef in the making...
"It's in hearing the same stories over and over again that helps build bonds, not just in families, but in groups of friends. It's in whatever community you have that those legacies exist." --Laura Packer (storyteller, coach, real-time dreamer)
Laura is preaching to the choir!!! This is exactly what the Sidetracked Sisters have been working on and talking about for years.
In our interview, Laura and I talk about how it is the everyday stuff that is so important to capture when talking with loved ones and recording stories. We so often think about the big things in life, weddings, births, and jobs as important. Or we look to historical events as the big stories to record. But it's really the little things, the private and intimate happenings that bring that connection with others.
We talk about some of our own stories and the people who inspire us. Laura shares suggestions for telling and recording a good story. She gets into how you can find your voice and deepen your creativity.
Laura is in all the places on the web!
Get Laura's book at https://www.amazon.com/Laura-Packer/e/B07MJCQ4JM%3Fref=dbs_a_mng_rwt_scns_share
You can find her on her website, facebook, and here and here on Instagram.
Laura is also available on Patreon, where you can support, and get additional goodies from her!
"Cannibals say we taste like pork, and bacon is my spirit animal, so we are probably delicious." --Jenny Lawson (blogger and memoirist)
As you can see by the title of this episode and the quote I chose to start with...this episode is a bit off the beaten path.
"Our writing doesn't always have to be productive...or a part of something else. It is important for writers to have that freedom, that exercise of writing." --Annie Toro Lopez Boy, do I understand what she is talking about! Sometimes it feels so good to write with no expectations or goals! When I was a kid, I loved the idea of writing in a diary. As I got older, it became a journal. But that feeling of just writing for me, to get my thoughts down for its own sake has always felt powerful. Annie was older than the average when she graduated from college and became a middle school Literacy and History teacher. But then, a near-death experience caused her to re-evaluate her life and move in new directions. Now, Annie is more interested in exploring and sharing her artistic loves. We talk about her photography and writing. She is the author of The Writer's Handbook: An Indespensibnle Grammar and Style Guide. She is also the owner of Seeds to Savor Farm where she is passionate about the legacy work of seed preservation. In this interview, we get into her thoughts about writing your legacy from the perspective of a freelance teacher, writer, and proofreader. She has a beautiful story and a love for others who are interested in preserving legacies of all kinds. Annie recommends this handbook for writers. She also loves Mary Karr's book. You can find Annie Toro Lopez on FaceBook and at HighPrairiePress.org. Her book can be found here.
"If a magic genie grants you three wishes, but he won't let you wish for more wishes...wish for more genies." (shutupimtalking.com)
When the four Sidetracked Sisters got together to write, our topic was "Three Wishes". It sounds so simple. But only two of us followed the directions and came up with three.
Today we are talking about making wishes. Health, wealth, happiness, and success are at the top of most lists of this kind. But Judy goes rogue and talks about winning the lottery. Lisa is a holdout against wishing, on principle.
We get into what we'd do with money, travel, and happiness, well...that was tricky. Then we are all over the place when it comes to success.
But the way, what is the difference between a wish, a dream, and a prayer? I don't think we ever agreed on the definitions and distinctions. Maybe you have some words of wisdom that you'd like to add to the conversation. Come on over to our Facebook page for Sidetracked Sisters. Like and follow us. We'd love to here what YOU think!
"If you decide that you want to do something, find a way. Share on social. PRACTICE! You might not be an award winner or get a grammy, not a NY Times bestseller or get a Nobel prize..but you are doing. the. thing!" --Lesley McShane
I was once told something very similar. It doesn't matter how fast you run, if you get out there and move on your two feet a little faster than a walk...you are a runner. A runner is someone who runs. Nothing more, nothing less.
Today I am talking with Lesley McShane. She is a blogger, podcaster, and entrepreneur. She shares her journey with us today as she moves from film director to freelance writer to entrepreneur and the many steps in between.
Lesley and I talk about how she started blogging and the challenges writers face when putting ideas out into the world. Then we discuss podcasting. We get into how she started "The New Old You", what she's drawn to, and the fun she is having.
During this interview, we dive deep into building new habits in midlife that are invaluable for helping us create the lives we've always dreamed of. Lesley gives us her insights into meditation, mantra, gratitude, goal setting, building intention, and journaling.
My conversation with Lesley is fun and inspiring. Check her out in all the places:
Lesley McShane can be found at her website Facebook Instagram
"Stay fit and live long and prosper, but write your own obituary now, while you can, just in case." -Jill Conner Browne (Novelist and head Sweet Potato Queen)
Yeah. The Sidetracked Sisters aren't planning on going anywhere soon, but the topic that we agreed to write about this week was our OBITUARY! It wasn't all that easy, to be honest with you!
Today we get into all the things. Sandy, Judy, Michelle, and I talk about funeral music and Judy's burial fears. We debate having a funeral versus a "celebration of life" (or a celebration of death as Sandy thinks of it). We also discuss our ideas about burial versus cremation...and what to do with your relative's ashes after cremation.
This is perhaps not the most respectful episode. But we have fun and invite you along for the ride...
"Start writing, no matter what. The water does not flow until the faucet is turned on." --Louis L'Amour (American novelist) So many people like the idea of writing, but neglect to plant their body in a chair and get their pen moving on the page. This is NOT a problem for my guest today!
Welcome to Sidetracked Legacies episode #91.
Today I am interviewing Karla Jensen who has been writing professionally for over three decades. She has enjoyed working in radio, television, and magazine publishing. She founded and led several writers' groups. Karla was a well-known columnist for LocaLeben Magazine (a southeastern Wisconsin arts and culture publication). She has published two nonfiction books, dozens of plays as a playwright, and multiple manuscripts for rising authors.
During our time, we get into her experiences writing memoirs and how to write another's legacy story.
We talk about the value of writer's groups and she gives some tips on organizing a group.
Karla gets into some nitty-gritty details for aspiring legacy writers! She suggests and describes how to use timelines, memory maps, and the "notecard method" --for writing the barebones outline for a full-length feature film!
Inspirational resources she recommends include: On Writing by Stephen King, Writing Life Stories: How to Make Memories by Bill Roorbauch, and Julia Cameron's book The Right to Write.
Karla can be found on Facebook, Instagram, and at https://www.writersespresso.com/
American actress Lauren Bacall is quoted, "Childhood anxieties, childhood fears, never disappear completely. They fade, but not away."
Today the Sidetracked Sisters discuss memories of childhood fears. We get into the fear of the dark and clowns, creepy clowns. We go deep into Judy's fear of abandonment and how scary movies have a part to play in all of our fear stories. But...not to worry. We also get into a couple of tested and proven strategies to protect against bad dreams and goolies grabbing you while in bed at night!
During our interview, Laura quotes Hal Elrod from his book The Miricle Morning, "Remember this truth: Now matters more than any other time in your life, because its what you are doing today that is determining who you're becoming, and who you're becoming will always determine the quality and direction of your life."
Today I am talking with Laura Leigh. She is the founder of the podcast "Joyfully Raising Grands" and the "Grand Family Nation Membership". Through all of these avenues, Laura is committed to helping others who are looking for community, resources, and support in the journey of raising a grandchild.
She also has the "Joy-filled Subscription Box" for busy women who know the importance of self-care. Each box focuses on making you feel special and helping you find joy.
In our conversation, we hear about her journey to being a GRAND parent and the challenges, beauty, and blessings that that experience holds. We get into the importance of gratitude in life and while raising children. She also shares how, in serving others, we experience the most joy. She is creating a legacy of spreading and living a "joy-filled life".
You can find Laura and more information about her podcast, membership, store, and subscription box at https://lauraleighllc.com/
I think all four Sidetracked Sisters would agree with writer Stephen King when he says, "Books and movies are like apples and oranges. They both are fruit, but completely different."
Today Judy, Sandy, Michelle, and Lisa talk about the unforgettable books and movies that have made an impression on our souls. We remember favorite childhood books, movies that made us cry, books that were read to us, and movies that still give us the heeby-jeebies (thank you Stephen King).
Not only do some of us prefer books over movies or movies over books, but we also get into which genres are our favorites. Maybe you will connect with a long-forgotten Nancy Drew mystery that you haven't thought about in forever. Or perhaps our discussion will bring up some thoughts about an old horror movie that you wish you COULD stop thinking about!
Well, we did it! The Sidetracked Sisters have a book! We got together. We wrote words on paper. We drank margaritas. We laughed and argued. We wrote more words and sorted through lots and lots of old pictures. Then Michelle did her computer magic and now we have a book of thoughts and memories to share with our loved ones.
English writer Neil Gaimon was once asked how to write a book. His response was "This is how you do it; you sit down at the keyboard and you put one word down after another until it is done. It's that easy, and that hard."
Michelle, Sandy, Judy, and I talk about our book in this episode. Then we get into our plans for the not-too-distant future. Buckle up friends, we want to take YOU along on this legacy train. We want to make it easy for you to get your own legacy project going.
Another British writer, journalist Sheeren El Feki said, "If you really want to know yourself, start by writing a book". So perhaps there is an even deeper goal to our writing. We want to share our legacy with our communities, friends, and families. We want to be seen and heard and know that our voice matters. And, we want to know ourselves...
"Don't ever feel bad for making a decision about your own life that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You're responsible for your own happiness." The Mind's Journal
I look at this quote and think these words SOUND so good. But I don't know that I could ever really believe them. My life feels so connected to my friends and family. I want us ALL to be happy.
Today the Sidetracked Sisters are talking about decisions that they wish had been made differently.
Only Sandy had no regrets and had a hard time coming up with alternative choices
Judy wonders what her life would have been like if she would have gone to college instead of getting married right after high school.
Lisa is the only one who writes about indecision and how giving your power to another can have significant consequences.
"My life is made up of words layered upon words." --Connie Kinsey
I've always loved writing. Not the kind of writing that is assigned, not the kind that is graded. When I'm in a writing habit, I like how I watch my life for nuggets of inspiration. When I'm regularly writing, I look at my surroundings and listen to people in a more interesting way.
Today I am talking with memoirist Connie Kinsey. She is a writer who writes in a variety of ways and places. Connie is a former military brat who has put down deep roots in a converted barn on a dirt road at the top of a hill in West Virginia. For the past 18 months, she's been one of two Writers-in-Residence for the Museum of the American Military Family. With other folks, they crafted a book that looks at gender, religion, race, identity, culture, and ethnicity in military environments. She has also had writing published online in longridgereview.com hippocampusmagazine.com, westvirginiaville.com, and medium.com
You can also check out a digital essay produced for the GRAICE Project of the Museum of the American Military Family here.
In our interview, we talk about the value of reading your writing out loud to yourself, the value of writer's groups, and the obligation we have to support and encourage others who write or do art and who are sharing themselves with the world.
You can find Connie on her website- https://wvfurandroot.com/
Facebook- https://www.facebook.com/trconnie and https://www.facebook.com/ConnieKinseyWriter
Instagram- https://www.instagram.com/hillbillydiva/
Twitter- @TRconnie
According to my Google search, we shouldn't call it an "accident" when a car collides with another car. Government officials and safety advocates want us to use the phrase, "car crash" because they believe that the "accident" trivializes the fact that m;ost are caused by human error or negligence and are preventable.
In our discussion today, we get into our memorable crashes. Three of us were in cars where someone fell asleep, and I was an inattentive driver. Fortunately, non of our stories involve any human casualties...only some crunched-up cars and one destroyed deer crossing sign.
"Life is not lost by dying; life is lost minute by minute, day by dragging day, in all the thousand, small, uncaring ways." --Stephen Vincent Benet
I've always been the kind of person who wants to limit mindless, activities that keep me as a consumer, on the sidelines, a watcher. I prefer to live a more active and creative life. I feel good about the day when I've contributed to the world--whether by weeding my garden, walking the dos, writing a blog entry, or coaching a client.
Today I'm talking with Matthew Dicks. Matt is a bestselling novelist, nationally recognized storyteller, playwright, communications consultant, award-winning elementary schoolteacher, humor and advice columnist, minister, wedding DJ, and professional public speaker. He has won bucket-loads of Moth GrandSLAM story competitions and, together with his wife, Elysha Dicks, created the organization Speak Up to help others share their stories.
Earlier this month, his latest book, the inspirational and practical "Someday is TODAY was published!
In this interview, we talk about the book and the concepts he lays out to help us move forward in our creative lives. A few of the concepts we cover are..."Homework for Life", "Your 100-year-old Self", and getting better by making terrible things.
When asked about his legacy, Matt believes that "Hardwork will overcome talent every time."
You can get more Matthew Dicks, his storytelling, and his inspiration...
Website: https://matthewdicks.com/
Blog: https://matthewdicks.com/blog/
Check out his video about "Someday is TODAY" here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jmXt7ap5RKo
Google Matthew Dicks on Youtube to hear some of his stories, and see him on the TED and "The Moth" stages! For example here are two to get you started: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x7p329Z8MD0 and https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N3J4Q5c1C1w
Books: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/2854932.Matthew_Dicks
You can buy his books in ALL the places...
"Everyone can rock a bikini, swimsuit, unicorn onesie...whatever floats your boat. If you wear it with confidence, you will look hot." --Iskra Lawrence
Now I would love to believe this "plus-size" fitness model! Ms. Lawrence is gorgeous at 5'9" and 194 pounds!!! But...(sigh)
The Sidetracked Sisters got together this week to write and talk about swimsuits and body image. It was interesting how we seem to not really like our bodies--lower weight NOR higher weight. Judy was the only one who has ever been comfortable in a swimsuit.
We also got into the lessons we learned, early in life, about beauty in general.
So, you do know what it takes to have a "beach body" right???
- You have a body. 2. You go to the beach.
I believe this, but I would like bring the focus to the second part of Iskra's quote. Confidence. Aubrey Hepburn also commented on this little caveat when she said, "The most attractive accessory a girl can have is confidence."
"You can always tell who the strong women are...they are the ones you see building one another up, instead of tearing each other down."
Today my guest is Sherri Schultz. She is not only my neighbor and a dear friend but also a nurse and an entrepreneur. Her Facebook group is called Tranquil Waters Krystals.
In this episode, we talk about what drew her to rocks and crystals. Then we get into how she began her crystal business and her thoughts, plans, hopes, and fears as she thinks about the future. We get into the balance between a stable job and a passion that brings in a surprising amount of money. She shares about the first time she ever did a Facebook Live, how her Facebook live views have grown, and about the marathon sessions she sometimes gets into.
Sherri is building a legacy for herself of financial stability,
a legacy for her children of entrepreneurship, and
a legacy for other business owners of fun, responsibility,
and the value of fierce support and encouragement.
You can find Sherri on Facebook at Tranquil Waters Krystals
I love this quote by Samuel Johnson, "The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good."
It makes me think about the beautiful people in my life and those who have come and gone...for a variety of reasons. But those who have a lasting and deep positive impression have treated me in a way that made me feel unique and seen
Today we are talking about a memorable man in our lives. Three of the Sidetracked Sisters talk about their dads and one talks about a boyfriend from high school.
We talk about HOW these men made us feel special, and how they impressed or surprised us. Sometimes we recognized traits that we found appealing in our boyfriends ar the same qualities in our father. We then wrap things up by discussing how these men showed affection and made us feel...taken care of.
"Every single challenge we have in life, big or small, can teach us patience, courage, and grace. If you can remember that, you can always find peace in your situation." --Mindy Henderson (motivational speaker, author, and coach) Welcome to Sidetracked Legacies episode #79. Today I'm talking with Mindy Henderson about ALL THE THINGS! Her book, "The Truth About Things That Suck and How to Make Them Suck Less" was just published last week! So today, we get into her background, about her life in IT, and how she made the pivot to move toward her deeper purpose. In her book, she talks about how the experiences of disability, illness rejection, loneliness, shame, and job loss (17 sucky experiences in all) can each BE USED as a new lens to look at life, stress, and its challenges. Then...we can create a new mindset about the hard things we go through in life. You can find out all about Mindy and her book "The Truth About Things That Suck and How to Make Them Suck Less" here: Her website: https://mindyhendersonco.com/ Articles she's written for Austin Woman: https://atxwoman.com/tag/the-truth-about-things-that-suck/ Blog posts: https://mindyhendersonco.com/blogs/blog HER BOOK: https://www.woodhallpress.com/truth Mindy is a regular contributor on CBS Austin's "We Are Austin" Lifestyle show: https://mindyhendersonco.com/blogs/in-the-media/press Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/mindy.henderson.96 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mindyhendersonspeaks/
"I vow to stand by your side when the zombie apocalypse comes and should you be turned into one, I promise to let you bite me, so I can too be one and, therefore, stay by your side forever." --Tamara Sanon (contributor at YourTango.com) In today's episode, the Sidetracked Sisters pay homage to a popular wedding month (June) by reminiscing about wedding days. It's a topic that has never before come up in any of our writings. At first, we thought it would be difficult to write about wedding days in an interesting way...But when we put pens to paper and fingers to keyboards, we found fun memories in abundance. So, listen in as we talk about dresses, pictures, music, and cakes. We get into the fun little details that make the day memorable (with or without zombies).
"Sometimes," my mother went on, "I think of white dresses as a way of starting over. They're sort of a way of wiping the whole slate clean. Just like what happens in the wintertime when the snow comes. It wipes away everything in preparation for a new year, a new spring." --Mary Pflum Peterson (author of White Dresses: A Memoir of Love and Secrets, Mothers and Daughters)
Today I'm talking with Beaver Dam, WI native Mary Pflum!
Mary began her journalism career in New York at CNN where she had the opportunity to report from Istanbul, Berlin, and Atlanta. She was the CNN Bureau Chief in Turkey, and then she moved on to ABC News/Good Morning America.
She is currently a reporter and producer for NBC News.
During her carried and exciting career, she's won 5 Emmies, 2 Edward R Murrows, a Peabody, a DuPont, and a WGA Award.
She's covered presidential elections, the Oscars, Hurricane Katrina, the London bombings, royal weddings, the death of Pople John Paul II, and the political rise of Barak Obama.
Today, we talk about her amazing book White Dresses: A Memoir of Love and Secrets, Mothers and Daughters. It looks into Mary's complicated--and loving--family through the lens of the white dresses that the women in her family have worn on special occasions.
You can find her and see what she's up to at http://www.marypflumpeterson.com/
and on Facebook at https://www.facebook.com/mary.pflum
"Yes, sitting in your car alone in your pajamas, chowing down on your favorite fast food and super-sized soda while rapping along to songs about drugs and money is a completely valid and oftentimes necessary form of self-care." --@Marrage and Martinis
NEVER have I done any of these things, but I think the visual is hysterical!
This week, the Sidetracked Sisters got together to write about Self-Care.
In our discussion, we get into Judy's luxurious foot rubs, Sandy's sanity-filled gardening and reading, Michelle's napping and treating herself to Life Coaching, and my ability to "stop and smell the roses" (or dandelions) while on long walks. We also get into kicking up our feet at the cottage and enjoying something called a "sound bath".
But the real question we grapple with is "Does Netflix binging...count. as. self-care?"
"If you're going to live, leave a legacy. Make a mark on the world that can't be erased." --Maya Angelou
Legacy writing is a creative process that we HOPE our kids and grandkids will appreciate someday down the road! Today's guest, my cousin, Marcia Hero, isn't recording her life using only a pen and paper or a laptop. Instead, she is a visual artist who uses a variety of mediums to do this.
Artists, writers, journalers, and storytellers, are each making a legacy in their own way. What stories do we have to tell? What lessons are we feeling the need to share? How do we want to be remembered?
In today's episode, Marcia talks about her creative journey. We get into the importance and value she places on the small community she has with 3 other artists who together call themselves "The Martini Girls". She talks about art journaling as a way to play, to express yourself, and as a chronicle of your life.
There are so many similarities between legacy writing and expressing yourself through artistic endeavors...
Here are links to the groups and sites that Marcia referenced during our interview:
Wisconsin Visual Artists The oldest continuous art group in Wisconsin, formerly named Wisconsin Painters and Sculptors This group accepts beginners through professionals, in just about any fine art medium, including photography and book arts. https://www.wisconsinvisualartists.org
League of Milwaukee Artists 2nd oldest group in Wisconsin. Acceptance into the group is by application and jury of artwork. https://www.milwaukeeartists.org/
Wisconsin Pastel Artists This group's members work only in chalk pastel. Accepts beginners through professionals.https://www.wisconsinpastelartists.com
On-line courses:
https://jeanneoliver.com/course-home/
https://www.fredbellpaintings.com/book-online
https://www.artsybohemian.com/
The Martini Girls Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/95932916063
My Facebook fine art page: https://www.facebook.com/mherosart
My personal FB page: https://www.facebook.com/marcia.hero
Would you describe yourself as a quantrelle? Are you a bold woman who loves deeply, someone who lets go of pressure and false identity to follow your heart?
Or, maybe you are a novaturient kind of person who desires or seeks effective change in your life, behavior, or situation.
Perhaps you would describe yourself simply as a philocalist--a lover of beauty...one who finds and appreciates beauty in all things.
Today the Sidetracked Sisters talk about our Legacy Writing topic "3 Words to Describe Yourself". No one used any fancy words to describe themselves. But the words we did use felt real and meaningful.
In this discussion, we explore Michelle's qualities of organized and jokester, Judy's qualities of integrity and sensitivity, Sandy's snarkiness and persistence, and my desire to be adventurous.
"You already know the story that you should be telling that will break the chains of your past and bring healing to your present. This healing creates a ripple effect out towards your future, as well as to those around you." --Codi Chen
Today I am interviewing Codi Chen! She is the co-owner, with her wife, Renee, of HeartWorks Writing. She loves traveling, coaching writers, editing, and all things writing.
I'm talking with her about her interesting writing journey. We get into her suggestions for writers who have challenging stories to tell and what to do if others have different memories of a story event.
She also gives some tips to solve writer's block, what to look for when you want to find a sacred group or writing community, and how to set yourself up to give and receive feedback effectively.
Codi can be found...
at her website- www.HeartWorksW.com
on Instagram- @codielizabeth
and Facebook- facebook.com/codi.thompson
"You'll never be bored when you try something new. There's really no limit to what you can do." --Dr. Seuss
I have to admit that writing about the topic, "My Greatest Fear" is NOT for the faint of heart!
Besides writing, and sharing about a challenging topic, this new format of the four of us all on one Zoom call is taking some getting used to. Thank you for joining us for what is, at times, a HOT MESS!
Today the Sidetracked Sisters are talking about storms, car crashes, loss, shame, and aging. (Sounds like a real party--right?)
Welcome to our world as we share, laugh, and cry (but mostly laugh) about the stuff that keeps us up at night...
"Everyone has a writer living in their soul." --Maria Secoy (teacher/mentor/writer) Maria Secoy believes that your voice is the best one to tell your story. She has worked for more than 15 years with writers of all ages and levels of experience. She's on a mission to help women use the communication skills they already have to tell their stories. Today we get together and talk about writing and getting our stories down. We get into the advice she gives to women who haven't written much--or at all--since high school. We talk about inspiration and the brass tacks of making writing a manageable process to record our memories. Maria is a warm, encouraging, talented writer, mentor, and teacher. She agrees with the Sidetracked Sisters that we need to record our thoughts, stories and experiences. I'm so excited to share our conversation with you!
Her new book is Alongside Lucy. You can also get a signed copy here!
Here is Maria's contact information:
Website -- https://allwritewell.com
Facebook -- MariaSecoy-writer
Instagram -- @AllWriteWell
Twitter -- @TeachingSecoy
"Too many people spend money they earned, to buy things they don't want, to impress people they don't like." --Willl Rogers (American actor)
I think we all know people like this and probably have succumbed to the temptation once or twice ourselves.
This week, the Sidetracked Sisters got together to talk about money. We all had different perspectives and stories on wealth, money, and abundance. We talk about making money, having it, saving it and spending it.
I'm not sure that we discovered or uncovered any great truthes, but we sure did have fun!
"Stay committed to your decisions but, stay flexible in your approach." --Tom Robbins (American novelist)
The Sidetracked Sisters definitely believe in the philosophy of flexibility. My sister, aunt, mom and I have been writing together for many years. Then, just 4 months ago, we decided to start this podcast to let more people know about "Legacy Writing". To do this, we would write together, and then everyone would have an interview about that week's writing.
But, it didn't turn out as juicy as we had hoped. The camaraderie, the snarkiness, and the disagreements were missing!!! Mom would regularly be wanting to rebut and Judy would want to clarify an idea. However, none of that was shared with you!
So...we are changing things up. We are going to be moving to 2 podcasts a week. One will be the four Sidetracked Sisters getting together as a group to share, talk, laugh, question, disagree and just explore ideas together. The other will be where we talk to friends and experts about journaling, memoir writing, and storytelling to help us share our stuff in a more interesting and engaging way.
Here is our first four-person discussion about this change...
"The best bucket lists are simple and profound. Actually, I believe that the best things in life are both of those things, too." --Julie Schooler (author of Bucket List Blueprint )
I think Julie and Judy must be soulmates from another life or time. This quote really speaks to Judy's mix of uncomplicated and serious items. She has both kinds on her checked items bucket list and on her current, in-progress list. Judy has always (and continues) valued variety...from travel to learning and daily habits to relationships.
"The way to get started is to quit talking and begin doing." -Walt Disney
I can feel Sandy agreeing with this sentiment. She gets so frustrated listening to big talkers!!!
This week we are writing and talking about "bucket lists". We discuss Sandy's cottage dream and her desire to travel. Sandy also confesses a desire to go zip lining and go tubing...Who knew?
"I had a lot of insecure moments in high school, it wasn't all peachy keen. But I don't necessarily think that I hate high school and wanted to crawl into a hole either." --Kirsten Bell
Michelle uses the phrase "peachy keen", made popular by Rizzo in the movie "Grease". It embodies that perfect blend of sarcasm and ambiguity that is so perfectly her!
Today we are talking about "Bucket Lists". Michelle already has a couple of items crossed off her current list (which is unsurprising). We explore the details of the remaining 9 bucket list items and discuss our next dream board making time--no sarcasm or ambiguity at all!!!
"The moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. Whatever you think you can do, or believe you can do, begin it. Action has magic, power, and grace." --Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
This quote has several variations, but they all have the same command "BEGIN IT".
In this episode, Michelle and I talk about goals, bucket lists, and dream boards. We get into the fact that sometimes we don't know the how, why, or when of a dream--but it is there. Our mom, Sandy, is an excellent example of someone with a short and simple bucket list with one major item...a cottage on Lake Michigan.
I don't think a bucket list needs to be long, but really, the fewer items there are, the more important each is.
"Stop setting yourself on fire to keep someone else warm." --unknown
We figured out that my mom and Sara were friends for about 6 years. There were days, weeks, months, that turned into years where mom was trying to help her friend. Then one day, she had enough. Living through, and ultimately ending, that relationship was. very. difficult.
This week the Sidetracked Sisters are writing about our "Greatest Challenge".
In this episode, Sandy and I talk about a toxic friendship that colored our lives many years ago. We reminisce about specific events and talk about how the relationship ended (and the relief we all felt when it was over). Sandy had very few resources when she was struggling through these events. Today, a quick google search can bring up dozens of articles, quizzes, therapists, and coaches. If you find yourself in a relationship where you are struggling to back out safely, here are a couple of places to begin educating yourself:
https://www.choosingtherapy.com/toxic-friends/
https://www.healthline.com/health/toxic-friendships
"You're always one choice away from changing your life." --Marcy Blochowiak (author)
But no one ever said that making that choice would be easy.
And no one said that changing your life wouldn't be scary!
This week, the Sidetracked Sisters are writing and talking about our "Greatest Challenge".
Throughout my life, I have always questioned, "What am I going to be when I grow up?" Although I've pivoted a couple of times in my career life, teaching was pretty stable for me. Right now, however, I'm comparing my life to skydiving. I've left the ground behind and made the jump.
Exciting? Yes.
Scary? Hell YESSS!!!
"Freeing yourself was one thing. Claiming ownership of that freed self is another." --Toni Morrison
Michelle began her self-discovery story last week when she talked about being a chameleon throughout her life. This week, we talk and write about "Our Greatest Challenge". We get into her separation and divorce story. The book "The 5 Love Languages" is a real eye-opener for her. Then, we begin working on her self-identity and what she wants out of life. This sets us up for next week's writing and interviews about our bucket lists...
"Let go of the illusion that it could have been any different."
I don't know what wise soul uttered those profound words--but this is the beginning, middle, and end of healing.
Today Judy and I talk about our "Greatest Challenge". We discuss her sister Kathy's illness and how it affected her development. We get into resilience, flexibility, and Judy's search for self. Then, at the end of our interview, I have Judy retell a story about her sister that has always freaked me about a bit!
"Be yourself, everyone else is already taken." --Gilbert Perreira
Throughout her life, Michelle has struggled with being a chameleon. She's tried to be what she though others wanted her to be or who she felt others NEEDED her to be. Over the years of this, it got to be that nothing felt...real. Music, food, activities. Others had favorites and opinions, not Michelle. She was willing to go along for whatever ride you were on.
In this episode, we discuss how Michelle developed a chameleon personality and how she is NOW learning to be her true self.
Check out this writing from last year. Its crazy how this is obviously an important theme for her!!!
"Every time we start thinking we are the center of the universe, the universe turns around and says with a slightly distracted air, 'I'm sorry, what'd you say your name was again?'" --Margaret Maron (Amerian mystery writer)
Learning that she WASN'T the center of the universe was a lesson that Judy learned from a therapist when she was in her twenties. It's not an easy lesson to learn and it takes many of us time and practice to fully understand the concept. But, according to this article in Inc., studies show that when you get this, you're more likely to face your fear, speak out, and stand up for your opinions!
Knowing that you. are. NOT the center of the universe leads to independence and the release of people-pleasing.
In this episode, Judy and I talk about therapy, aging, life after retirement, and how much fun we are having--and therapeutic it is--doing Legacy Writing together.
"For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." --Matthew 6:21
"Show me where you spend your time, money, and energy and I'll tell you what you worship..." --John Quimby (pastor and author)
"Tell me how you spend your time, I'll tell you what you value most." --Melody Wilding (performance coach and professor)
Personally... screen time (whether on the tv, computer, or phone) is NOT where I want to spend my life. I don't place a high value on it...what about you?!?
Today Judy and I talk about how screen time eats away at our lives. We discuss how tv watching Netflix binging, and Facebook scrolling can be buffering activities. Then we get into something called habit stacking to take back control over our time and move toward what we really value.
Here is Shel Silverstein's poem "Jimmy Jet and His TV Set" that was an inspiration, back in the day, for "TV Turn-Off".
"Parents can only give good advice or put children on the right path, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands." --Anne Frank
Sandy received some wisdom jewels from her parents that have served her well and that she hopes her kids and grandkids will take to heart also.
This week, we are talking about Memorable Advice. Sandy received (at least) four profound pieces of advice that have served her well"
1-Never beg
- Budget
3-Pay your charges at the end of every month.
4- Don't do anything you don't want your parents or family to know about
If you have definite opinions about the presence of Hawaiin rolls and plain jello at Easter dinner or,
if your dog somehow channels your personality or,
if you've ever considered that the item you're about to receive for Christmas is a three-foot dildo...
then this is the episode for you!
Michelle and I talk about how her kids each follow in her genetic footsteps when it comes to aversion to change, reactions, and the way they deal with psychological challenges.
We laugh about how you can tell just how much your children look like you by using Snapchat filters. We also get into how she can manipulate , motivate, or encourage one of her kids to do what she wants because of the power of having the same "love language".
"Hope has two beautiful daughters; their names are Anger and Courage. Anger at the way things are, and Courage to see that they do not remain as they are." --St Augustine
Although Sandy always thought that the perfect number of children in a family was three...she has nonetheless hit the jackpot with the two daughters she has!!!
Today we talk about ALL the things! We discuss the fact that both Michelle and I moved back to our hometown when we wanted to start our families. We get into her relationships with her six grandchildren and some of the difficulties she's had over the years when taking care of them. then we get into sleepovers and her thoughts on the "nature versus nurture" debate.
"I think the biggest problem working with me would be that I'm an only child, and so I have an internal dialogue that goes on that I just assume you can hear."
--Maynard Keenan (musician)
I know Judy loved having an only child in our interview. But I didn't actually ask her if she had wanted more kids. Being a step-mom and becoming Matthew's mom at 40 was pretty exciting!
Today we discuss teasing and the way babies look. Then we talk about how close Judy feels to Michelle and me. It's like she was a mom to us for so much of our childhoods! We've always had a real value on relationships in our family and we continue to work to keep growing in this area.
"I am not a product of my circumstances, I am the product of my decisions." --Stephen Covey (author of The "7 Habits of Highly Effective People")
Wow...just. wow.
In today's episode, Judy and I are talking about "Kids--Same or Different". In my Legacy Writing, I quote a poem that I love by Kahlil Gibran that you can read here. We get into thoughts on the debate between "nature versus nurture" and take a special look at this topic from an adoptive parent's perspective. Then we roll into the question of "What do I want to be when I grow up???" and the anxiety it caused me over the years--until now when I've come to appreciate the journey and the next. right. thing.
"Good idea: Finding Easter eggs on Easter.
Bad idea: Finding Easter eggs on Christmas." --Jack Handey (American comedian)
At my house, we hide plastic Easter eggs outside. Unfortunately, those eggs may be found months, if not years later. Sometimes this results in... deteriorated contents (to say the least).
In this episode, Judy and I talk about some disgusting forms that money can take, the perils of seasonal gifts for a spring holiday in Wisconsin, and the changes I've experienced in egg decorating and Easter candy/gifts.
In the end, we get into a couple of recipes--one for Gin slush that sounds A-MAZ-ING! "Sidetracked Slush" anyone?
We also plan a fun marshmallow bunny-making activity that you might want to try with your family.
Here is our "Sidetracked Slush" recipe:
- 8 cups of water divided
- 5 black tea bags or green tea bags
- 2 cups granulated sugar
- 2 (12 ounces) containers of frozen lemonade concentrate thawed
- 2-4 cups of gin
- lemon-lime soda or tonic water, for serving
- lime wedges, for garnish
Bring 3 cups of water to boil. Add tea bags and steep for 3 to 5 minutes. Discard bags and stir in sugar until dissolved.
In a 1-gallon plastic ice cream pail, combine the remaining 5 cups of water, sweetened tea, frozen juice concentrates, and gin. Freeze at least 8 hours or overnight. The more gin you use, the longer the slush takes to freeze.
To serve, fill a glass ½ full. Top with lemon-lime soda or tonic water. Garnish with lime wedges.
There is nothing wrong with talking to your toys. It's wrong when they start answering you. --Anonymous
Well, when I googled a picture of a Zippy doll from today's interview--I thought, "NO WAY would kids go for this doll these days!"
Today we talk about Judy's family traditions of hiding eggs, making bunny cakes, and going to church. She also talks about this little doll that she wanted so much---it was called a Zippy doll. Ho boy, my daughter Aubrey has only one word for it...CREEPY. It reminds me of that monkey from "Toy Story 3" that watches the security cameras and bangs his cymbals....
Some people have Easter memories of sacred events, some love the tradition of coloring eggs or sharing a meal with family. One of Sandy's favorite Easter stories is highlighted by dodging flying cow poop...
What can I say?
In this episode, we discuss wearing hats and Easter fashion, hiking the hills of Black Earth instead of sitting around watching t.v., and then we get into makeup tips from a 12-year-old.
Check out "Faith" for more of Sandy's thoughts on Easter memories.
Easter is approaching and, in our family, the matriarchs annually pick up traditional candies for Easter treats: jellybeans, malted eggs, chocolate bunnies, and various pastel-wrapped candies. And Michelle needs a single package of Peeps--not Peeps Chocolate Pudding or Peeps Rice Krispie treats, not warm Peeps s'mores or Peeps flavored milk. No. She likes her Peeps plain. and. STALE--the marshmallow crunchy, the sugar coating crystalized.
I. can't. even.
In today's episode, we talk about good and bad candy (we have our definite opinions). We reminisce about childhood Easter memories and then get solidly into the art of hiding Easter baskets, eggs, and treats.
Here is Michelle's Classic Wisconsin Brandy Slush Recipe:
- 8 cups of water divided
- 5 black tea bags or green tea bags
- 2 cups granulated sugar
- 1 (12 ounces) container of frozen lemonade concentrate thawed
- 1 (12 ounces) container of frozen orange juice concentrate thawed
- 2-4 cups of brandy
- lemon-lime soda or sparkling water, for serving
- lemon and orange wedges, for garnish
Bring 3 cups of water to boil. Add tea bags and steep for 3 to 5 minutes. Discard bags and stir in sugar until dissolved.
In a 1-gallon plastic ice cream pail, combine the remaining 5 cups of water, sweetened tea, both frozen juice concentrates, and brandy. Freeze at least 8 hours or overnight. The more Brandy you use, the longer the slush takes to freeze.
To serve, fill a glass ½ full. Top with lemon-lime soda or sparkling water. Garnish with orange and lemon wedges.
“Reptiles and amphibians are sometimes thought of as primitive, dull and dimwitted. In fact, of course, they can be lethally fast, spectacularly beautiful, surprisingly affectionate and very sophisticated.”
--Sir David Attenborough (English broadcaster, biologist, natural historian, and author)
I don't think the reptiles in my life have ever been, or ever will be, "lethally fast", but I definitely do see beauty in them.
In this episode, Judy and I are talking about "Pet Memories". We discuss my short-lived pet snake experience and our current family member--a bearded dragon named Rosemeyer.
We also get into the "fun" we have when writing about an experience, and our sister remembers the same event VERY differently.
Enjoy the little things in life for someday you will realize they were the BIG things.
When I was a kid, I dreamed of one day having a little hobby farm where I could have kids, dogs, cats, and critters of all kinds. But breeding was never in my vision of the future...unlike my Aunt Judy and her desire for a PAIR of hamsters.
In this episode, we discuss the adventures she had as a child when her Uncle Lloyd gave her a male and a female hamster for Christmas. This resulted in an educational experience in animal husbandry, biological reproduction, and microeconomics.
I run and I run and I run and I get out and I've gone nowhere. NOWHERE! --Hamster in "The Secret Life of Pets 2"
Oh...the futility of being busy all the time but never achieving anything important or reaching your goal. Who'd have thought that hamsters are so wise?
In this episode, Michelle and I are talking about "Pet Memories".
We discuss our childhood Saturday morning pet cage cleaning responsibilities and something called a "habitrail" cage. She had an interesting variety of critters as a child--including the unfortunate "exploding hamster" and parakeets that NEVER learned to talk.
I really think that if you ever have a lull in a conversation with someone, ask them about their pets. The unpredictable nature of our interactions with animals makes for interesting stories and insightful information about people.
In this episode, Sandy and I are talking about "Pet Memories".
We get into teaching birds to talk and disagree about how well I carried out my responsibilities to keeping my pets clean when I was a child. We reminisce about traveling with pets and finish u today with a story of chameleon TRAUMA!
"Little sisters can be a pain, but the big sister heroine worship can't be beat." --Allison M. Lee
When my little sister Michelle was born, I was 5 1/2 years old and my mom told me how important I would be in her life. As the big sister, I was to teach her and guide her--like a second mom.
Well, somewhere along the next few years, I heard that a child's personality was formed and solidified by their 5th birthday.
As she reached that milestone, I remember feeling sad and guilty that I had really screwed up this poor kid!!!
Now looking at our lives together, it doesn't seem like I messed up as bad as I feared. She not only considered me a great big sister, I recognize that she is pretty awesome too!
"I smile because you're my sister, I laugh because there is nothing you can do about it."
This quote beautifully captures my mom's multi-dimensional relationship with her sister Judy. She loves her to death and gets absolute glee from seeing her...react!
In this episode, we discuss how Sandy's older sister Kathy was the queen, her younger sister Judy was the princess. That left her cast as the frog. We also discuss possible inaccuracies or exaggerations in Juday's writing interview from episode #42.
What is the definition of a "big sister"?
The only person in the world who will pick on you for her own entertainment, and murder anyone else who tries.
For Judy, this saying captures her relationship with her big sister, Sandy. It is as true today as it was 60 years ago.
In today's episode, our topic is "Sibling Memories". Judy and I discuss childhood bedrooms and the joys that come along with sharing that room with your sister. I question her about letting her sister cut her hair! Sisterly jealousy, humor, and love are DEEP issues today!
"Having a sister is like having a best friend you can't get rid of. You know whatever you do, they'll still be there." --Amy Li
In this episode, Michelle and I talk about the SIGNIFICANT influence I had on her growing up.
We reminisce about events from early childhood through grade school, high school, college...up to now. I was definitely a trailblazer and she was a willing disciple. Having children was about the only life experience that she embarked on without me taking the plunge first.
"Just as there is no warning for childbirth, there is no preparation for the sight of a first child. There should be a song for women to sing at this moment or a prayer to recite. But perhaps there is none because there are no words strong enough to name that moment." --Anita Diamont
My sister Michelle is a birth rock star--she has such short, vivid birth experiences!
This episode is about a Birth/Adoption story. We talk about that crazy time when labor begins--only, it can be hard to realize what is actually happening. then we get into Michelles's inability to adequately prepare for the arrival of ANY of her three children! At the end, we reminisce about a few of the memorable details of each of her three birthing experiences.
"Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen." --Ralph Waldo Emerson
I can honestly say that I believe this with my whole heart!!!
In today's episode, Judy interviews me about a Birth/Adoption story. We talk about making decisions in life--you know there are no guarantees, but it is vital to keep moving toward your dream. We also discuss having short-term sacrifices as you move toward a long-term goal. Lastly, we get into the rollercoaster of emotions that I experienced during the 14-year span of time that I did infertility work and moved through the process of adoption.
"Wisdom oft comes from the mouth of babes." --George R.R. Martin (American novelist paraphrasing Psalms 8:2)
This quote definitely applies to Judy's step-daughter, Kiley. She acted the prophet when out of the blue, she told Judy that she should have a baby of her own!
In today's episode, Judy and I talk about Birth/Adoption stories. We discuss ideas on how to educate a young child about conception--you know babies aren't grown in the garden under cabbage leaves or brought, fully formed, by a stork to maternity rooms!
We go over the idea of being "cheated" if you, as a mom, don't have a NATURAL birth experience. We also get into the extraordinary experiences Judy had with both doctors who attended the delivery of her son.
However much we know about birth in general, we know nothing about a particular birth. We must let it unfold in its own uniqueness. -Elizabeth Noble
In today's episode, #37, I am interviewing my mom, Sandy about Birth/Adoption stories.
We talk about my birth and how she blames me for making her life crazy. I dispute this idea and contend that she has NEVER been one to extensively plan or execute an agenda in a preemptive manner! It's interesting how the first person she calls when beginning labor is--her mom. Then, the question comes up, "Is it possible to love a second child as much as the first?" We also discuss how her plans to quit working and become a full-time mom never happened.
Were you ever made to stay at the dinner table until you had finished your food--or some portion of your meal--as a child? Well my sister was born a picky eater and lived to tell the tale!
In today's episode, Michelle and I talk about "Favorite Food". We discuss the details of being a picky eater, and birthday cake successes and failures. Then we get into school lunches and something called "Good Casserole".
What is happiness? Judy definitely believes that it can be found watching the man in your life cook for you. I would add...that a man who cooks for you is good, and a man who does the dishes is AMAZING!
Today I interview Judy about "Food Memories". We get into sweet 16 traditions and her favorite foods from childhood. We discuss the whole plan/shop/cook/clean progression. Then we wrap things up with our thoughts on if the cook actually should clean, or if that job should be shared.
What is the most INTERESTING thing you have ever eaten--on purpose!?! We aren't talking about the last time you ate a butg while talking and riding a bike. How about tongue, liver and onions, or...squirrel?
In today's episode, Sandy and I talk about "Food Memories". she reminisces about growing up with a father who was a meat salesman. We talk about how much TIME it takes to shop/put groceries away/cook/eat/clean up. Wouldn't it just be easier to take a pill to meet our nutrition needs? Then we end up talking a bit about the possibility of just eating at restaurants all. the. time.
There is no place like home--except Grandma's house. -Anonymous
I spent a lot of time at my grandparent's house growing up. I would walk there after school and spend the whole day in the summer when my parents worked. Talking about my favorite lunch takes me right back in time.
In this episode, Judy and I talk about grandma's cooking and about watermelon parties. We get into things like jello add-ins and burned bacon. It's a peek at my personal culinary history.
Here is the recipe for mom's Holiday Veggie Jell-O Salad:
- 1 pkg (6 ounces) lime Jell-O
- 2 c boiling water
- 1 1/2 c cold water
- 2 c finely shredded cabbage
- 1 c finely shredded carrot
- 1 c crushed pineapple, well-drained
- 1 c mayonnaise
Combine the lime Jell-O with hot water in a large bowl, stirring until dissolved.
Stir in cold water.
Immediately add vegetables and pineapple. Pour mixture into a wreath-shaped mold. Refrigerate until mixture has set (about 2 or 3 hours).
Refrigerate the salad for several hours more or overnight. Unmold by dipping into hot water for 10 seconds.
Serve with a "sauce" of 1 cup mayonnaise placed in a small bowl in the center of the wreath-shaped Jell-O. Spoon onto salad as it is served.
"If I could give my daughter 3 things, it would be the confidence to always know her self-worth, the strength to chase her dreams, and the ability to know how truly, deeply loved she is." -Anonymous
I think the three additional life necessities my mom would want to give me are colorful sweaters, chic pants, and stylish shoes!
Today Sandy and I talk about ALL of her closets and how she has managed to purge and prune her clothes recently. We reminisce about the days when she shared her clothes with teenage daughters. Then, we wrap up by discussing the pros ad cons of NOT trying on apparel before buying.
Fashion you can buy, but style you possess. The key to style is learning who you are, which takes years. There's no road map to style. Its about self-expression and, above all, attitude." -Iris Apfel (American businesswoman, interior designer, and fashion icon)
Today, Juday and I get into "Clothes and Shoes". We talk about finding super comfy boots and about that elusive concept--STYLE! I share a clothing lesson I learned when visiting Norway. At the end, we discuss the idea of keeping and wearing grubbies and why you shouldn't save your good clothes "for special".
My sister Michelle has a comfortable, casual, classy style. She has always been comfortable in her own skin and possessed a confident fashion sense.
In today's episode, we talk about her past love of wearing matchy-matchy outfits. Back in the 80s and 90s, she loved wearing bold and fun mixable/matchable items that NOT everyone thought attractive. This somehow led us to her OCD tendencies when it comes to toys. Then, we finish up with fond memories of "grandma shoes".
You've heard that "diamonds are a girl's best friend"? Well, Judy may argue with me, but she OBVIOUSLY believes that SHOES are a girl's best friend! The proof is in the math and there is no arguing with these cold hard numbers.
In today's episode, I talk with Judy about clothes and shoes. We get into the stages she's gone through in life which is exemplified by the kinds of shoes she wore. Then, we discuss how hard it is for her to get rid of shoes that carry good memories.
Is Judy a shoe hoarder? You'll have to make up your own mind after you hear our discussion--and her EXCUSES!!!
Stress. It can really shut me down. Over the years, I've discovered that the best strategy to conquer this feeling is to talk. That, together with the thought of "What's the worst that can happen?" has helped me get perspective on many overwhelming situations--one being when I went to take the road test for my driver's license.
In this episode, Judy and I discuss "Learning to Drive". We talk about responsibly using the family car after getting your driver's license and memories of finally getting to drive my FIRST car. We get into strategies we've tried to get out of a ticket--both successful and unsuccessful. Finally, we share a couple of extra stories about car problems that we had in our younger days.
Have you ever noticed that anyone driving slower than you is an idiot, and anyone driving faster than you is a maniac? --George Carlin
I think the only time we are accurately SELF-conscious when we are driving...is when we are just learning!
In today's episode, I talk with Sandy about "Learning to Drive". She tells me about how glass packs were used to make a car sound "cool". She remembers the trouble she got into the first (and last) time she was allowed to use the family car. We also talk about how her boyfriend--future husband--foolishly introduced her to the skill of driving.
Did you pass your driving test on the first try? According to the Division of Vehicle Safety Administration in 2018/2019, there is only a 45.8% pass rate for those taking the test the first time.
The two most common reasons for failure are cutting the corner when making a right-hand turn and "failure to control the vehicle"--whatever that means?!
Today, I talk with Michelle about "Learning to Drive". She recounts her parents' response to her first accident and we talk about you her dad was (and continues to be) confused when she cries. But we really get into our opinions on the unique opportunity for the development of appreciation when your first car is a "beater".
According to Google, a 2020 study found that most people learn to drive when they are 17 or 18--it's really an important step in "growing up". However, 18% of people wait until later in life (in their 30s and 40s) to learn to drive.
This week, the Sidetracked Sisters are exploring "Learning to Drive". Judy and I talk about how driver's education has changed over the years and about how our view of independence has also changed as the number of cars that a family owns has increased. Then we look back at our experiences with driving cars with a manual transmission.
"We dream of having a clean house, but who dreams of actually doing the cleaning? --Marcus Buckingham
Well, I think my mom, Sandy, may actually dream of cleaning!!! All is well with the world if her house is picked up and CLEAN...and her "bookwork" is done! (But the whole bookworm thing is another story.)
We are talking about "Cleaning Mishaps". In today's episode, Sandy and I talk about her obsession with finding--and collecting--the best cleaning products and tools. We also reminisce about her strategy to get her children to get weekly housekeeping responsibilities accomplished.
One of the cleaning products she LOVES is called Protec.
Her favorite vacuum cleaner is a Shark.
"Housework can't kill you, but why take the chance?" -Phyllis Diller (comedian)
I think Judy would totally agree! she picks up, organizes, and straightens things, but cleaning, well...
In today's episode, we are talking about cleaning Mishaps. Judy recalls how her sister was a good cleaner who didn't want or need Judy's help. We discuss having help cleaning our houses and our need for a cleaning coach perhaps--is that even a thing?!?
Near the end, Judy says that the BEST window cleaner is made following this recipe:
1/2 bucket of warm water
1 1/2 cups ammonia
1 splash of rubbing alcohol
1 drop of blue Dawn dishwashing liquid (added last)
Use with a nylon scrubby.
I love consistency! Although I can be spontaneous, I prefer to live with predictable procedures, patterns, and expectations. As you will see today, when I fall short in one of my routines, I almost experienced a catastrophic consequence.
In this episode, Judy and I talk about the events of the early morning when I left the kitchen without taking care of the dinner mess and went to bed instead--thinking that I would take care of it in the morning. We remember Percy, the cat who is the antagonist in my story. Then we wrap up with some thoughts about when you might want to add a conversation (dialog) to your legacy writing.
"It is amazing how quickly kids learn to drive a car yet are unable to understand the lawnmower, snow blower or vacuum cleaner. -Ben Bergor
In this episode, Michelle and I talk about "Cleaning Mishaps". We reminisce about our childhood cleaning responsibilities and how we have tried as adults to stay on top of housekeeping obligations using the "Fly Lady" system. Unfortunately, whether or not this program is successful is up for debate. then, on what seems like a random not, but is not, we relate a perennial problem that she suffers from that involves her Christmas tree.
Did you know that the average American moves 11 times in a lifetime?
Mom is NEVER going to EVER get close to this number.
My mom, at the age of 77, has only lived in 4 places and she feels a deep connection to each and every place.
Today, Sandy and I are talking about "Places I've Lived". We discuss the new house she and dad moved into when I was just a baby and the move to where she lives now. We chat about changes she's made to the home--including the AMAZING attic playroom she created for her grandkids!
I always knew that when I started having kids I would want to be close to family. We began looking at houses in my hometown while we were actively doing infertility work. The search quickly led us to our dream house--unfortunately, it wasn't ain a dream location. But the house..was wonderful!
In this episode, we are talking about "Places I've Lived".
We discuss memories about a majestic downtown home, aspects of the house that I loved, and the PERFECT advice Judy gave me about relationships.
Judy is like a moving expert. She has lived in 17 different places throughout her life. I don't know about you, but that seems like a LOT to me!
Today we are reading and talking about "Places I've Lived".
We talk about how each place she's lived is defined by the memories that were made there. In California, it was making a home with her husband and baby. Then when she moved back to Wisconsin, the home was one of a childhood friend. Now, she lives in a home that is perfect for her current lifestyle.
Have you heard of the tiny house movement? Well, if you haven't it is people who live in a home that is less than 400 square feet and try to simplify their lives by living with less.
My sister Michelle was at the forefront of this idea--or maybe on the opposite side???--while in college in the late 80s. She and her roommate tried to see just how much comfort and hominess they could pack into a standard 180 square foot dorm room!
In this episode, we are writing and talking about "Places I've Lived". Michelle's legacy writing is called "Dorm Sweet Dorm". We talk about her living arrangements over the years and the family members that were always ready with a paintbrush!
My Grandma Doris was recovering in a nursing home for a few weeks after falling in her yard and breaking her hip. We were planning a pizza party on Friday when she was going to be moving into my house for the summer. I got the call on Tuesday morning that she had passed.
In this episode, Judy and I talk about "A Most Interesting Person" and I read my legacy writing titled "My Feisty Grandma".
I had really looked forward to Grandma moving in. My boys were small and I anticipated that she would bring stores, laughter, and moral support to our house. Now that she's gone, I realize just how little I knew her and her personal stories.
"A girl's father is the first man in her life and probably the most influential." --David Jerimiah
I don't know that Judy would say MOST influential, but VERY influential...yes!
In today's episode, Judy and I talk about a "Most Interesting Person". She reads her legacy writing about her father and we talk about the last time he visited when she lived in Waterloo Iowa and the good memories they made together. We touch on her dad's political views and his very patriarchal approach to his wife and daughter taking care of him. Then we wrap up and laugh about the gory details of rubbing his feet and how he considered boxer shorts, a t-shirt, and hat appropriate outerwear on the weekends.
Do you have any family members that you remember with awe? Do you have a relative who lived life to the fullest? In this episode, Sandy talks about a "Most Interesting Family Member"...her Aunt Joan. This lady was striking, sophisticated, and fun. Sandy talks about how her aunt taught her about collecting butterflies and about perennial gardening. We also discuss the summer adventures that she had as a child visiting with her Aunt Joan in Madison.
Do you have a relative that everyone hates to love? Well, in Michelle's family it was Uncle Lloyd. He was an eccentric, grumpy, old, fart of a man. In today's episode, Michelle and I talk about a "Most Interesting Family Member". We reminisce about summer memories she made when visiting him during several childhood summers. Michelle lets us in on how she used Uncle Lloyd's passion for clowning to traumatize her family. Then, we touch on Lloyd's love of living in the buff!
You've heard of tall, dark, and handsome, well, my first REAL kiss was with someone tall, blond, and skinny--but I was looking so forward to that first smooch!!! (We were just kids.) In today's episode, Judy and I talk about kissing. I share my legacy writing and we discuss what happens when the wrong boy catches me in "Boys Chase Girls". I recount the details of my first REAL kiss and how we found it interesting that some of us Sidetracked Sisters were more boy-crazy while others were more shy or uninterested. Then we briefly touch on the sweet kisses of our children.
Lots of us have memories of playing chase games between the boys and girls during recess in Elementary school. In Michelle's memory, it was a sweet memory due to a slow running boy! Today, I talk with my sister about kissing. She shares her legacy writing, and we reminisce about recess. She also shares a memory of how a first kiss can affect your mood...maybe even your personality. Finally, we discuss the classic move where a boy does the big arm stretch before casually putting his arm over your shoulders for the first time.
As a kid, I knew of the game called "Spin the Bottle" but never played it myself. My mom, however, played and was BUSTED playing an even more intense childhood kissing game. In this episode, I talk with my mom about girl parties! (It gets interesting when boys are invited in through a basement window.) Somehow, we transition into the controversy of dating someone from a different Christian denomination and then move into memories from catechism class.
Have you ever heard someone relate the story of a perfect first kiss? Or, have you perhaps experienced the perfect first kiss yourself? In this episode, Judy and Lisa talk about kissing. She shares her legacy writing and tells about (arguably) the most movie-worthy first kiss I have ever heard. She also shares a disgusting story about chewing gum and about how her mom and dad were so sweetly romantic--on a daily basis--with one another.
Have you heard the phrase, "If your dog is fat, YOU aren't getting enough exercise"? Well, in this episode, Sandy and I talk about how her dog motivates her to exercise. We learn why Sandy hates to make resolutions and then we discuss a bit of the history behind the "Sidetracked" part of our name.
In this conversation between Lisa and Judy, we talk about committing to going back to work after 2 years of retirement, how resolutions sometimes seem to backfire, and the idea of using the New Year to celebrate the previous year's successes. Judy references two books, The Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren and The Fred Factor by Mark Sandborn , that have shaped her thinking about resolutions.
Judy and Lisa talk about New Year's Resolutions. We discuss what it takes to commit to a course of action and then follow through...step by step...even when that process feels like a herd of turtles stampeding through peanut butter. I share my word for 2022 based on some of the work I did after reading Danielle LaPorte's book The Desire Map. Then, at the end, I give a sneak peek into a few projects that I've just begun.
Every week the Sidetracked Sisters get together to write. We are always amazed at how different our opinions are on any given topic. And our opinions about "New Year's Resolutions" are certainly diverse! In this episode, Michelle reads her writing and then we talk about her annual resolution to get healthy, drink more water, and lose weight.
This is the fourth and final installment in our writings on the topic "Who am I?" Each of the Sidetracked Sisters has taken a different spin on the theme and hope we've inspired you to get going on your own Legacy writing journey. In this episode, we talk about the impact that a short cartoon video called "Inside the Killer Whale Matriarchy" had on our sense of purpose. We discuss how a matriarch--the female head of a family--can, and SHOULD, have a dynamic impact in her family and with those she loves.
The first writing topic for the Sidetracked Sisters was "Who Am I?" In today's interview with my mom, she reads her Legacy writing and then we go more into depth about her early childhood. "Legacy" work is so fun to do with relatives. This episode proves how rich and rewarding writing and sharing is between a mother and her daughter.
My sister Michelle and I have very different writing styles. She is analytical and writes her one and only draft using her computer. I like to use colorful pens in a journal and tend to write much more flowery. One thing you will notice as you listen to this episode is that our voices are VERY similar! I love writing and talking with her and excited for you to listen in as we have our first conversation about her writing this week.
Every week the Sidetracked Sisters get together to write. With the start of this podcast, we are inviting you on this journey of writing about what you know best--your life! In this episode, Judy reads her writing, and then we spend some fun time talking about it together. Our goal is to inspire you to set pen to paper or fingers to keypad to get your stories down as a legacy for your loved ones. This is the first of 4 episodes where we all write on the same topic..but very differently!
The Sidetracked Sisters have been getting together to write and drink margaritas for several years. We publish our writings on our blog called--"Sidetracked Sisters"! Now, we are inviting others to participate in the journey of writing about life. This is called "Legacy Writing". We know that as midlife women, we have thoughts, opinions, and stories that we need to share. We want to leave the lessons that we've learned as a legacy to our children and grandchildren. The Sidetracked Sisters believe that women have a deep need to belong, to be known, to be remembered, and to make a difference. In this trailer, Lisa introduces the podcast. Each week, we will introduce a new topic, write and share our ideas, and invite others to put their thoughts down on paper. So, come on...grab a notebook, journal, or laptop and join us as we write down the stories of our lives.