Having Tough Conversations Podcast: Recent Episodes
Caroline Bjorkquist
Our world has never been more divided. Do you find yourself hiding who you are? Do you let people say things around you that upset you for fear of retaliation? Are you afraid the if people knew what you really thought that you'd be judged? Criticized? Even fired?
These are tough conversations to have with others but tough conversations to have with yourself. Why do you feel triggered? How do you navigate the pain?
Join me as we talk through these tough conversations and look at tools and ways to work through them and get past them.
Marriage, Money, Relationships, Politics, Religion and so much more...
Short episode summary
In part two of our discussion on overcomplicating things, we dive a little deeper into the subject. Now that we’re examining our thoughts, can we create our results? Tune in and find out!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] We’re continuing our discussion of overcomplicating things from last week, and today’s episode came out on 11/11
[00:40] Last week we talked about how your thoughts create your results, and I reflect on that and how you may have felt since my challenge to consider your thoughts
[01:30] As you start considering your thoughts, you can truly start changing your outcome
[02:10] If your thoughts can influence your results, can you do it for everything?
[03:11] When you look at life from an optimistic approach, you get more positive results
[03:51] Open up your mind to a problem, and it will give you the solution
[04:40] I recommend a book by Dr. Wayne Dyer - “The Power of Intention”
[05:00] I share an example of never getting sick because I don’t get sick
[06:29] You gotta keep your thoughts in that positive realm
[06:55] My challenge to you this week is to think about what you really want
[07:23] I’d love to hear from you if things start popping up for you
[07:51] Email me if the things you want come into your life. Tell me about it!
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Ep 33 Overcomplicating Part 1 https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-33-overcomplicating-part-1
“The Power of Intention” by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B000SEIJ6A/
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Short episode summary
Thoughts become results. Can it really be this simple? Find out in this week’s episode!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today, I’m talking about making things overly complicated
[00:45] It comes up so often when I’m coaching people about their thoughts
[01:13] I share a couple of examples of simple training that people make complicated
[02:16] What if “doing” something isn’t what counts? What if it’s really about your thoughts?
[02:50] I use an example of approaching a neighbor, and how my thoughts about the interaction can sway the outcome
[03:53] The same thing can happen with posting on social media. How we think and feel about what we’re posting, can also directly affect the outcome.
[04:34] Feelings don’t happen until thought generate them - and I drive this point home with an unexpected example
[05:57] I share another example of a windfall and subsequently getting it taken away
[06:48] When you think things, you feel things, and then you do something as a result
[07:15] My challenge is to simplify things this week and realize it all starts with your thoughts
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Short episode summary
If the news has you triggered and afraid of feast, famine, and civil war, you’re not alone. In this episode, I share why, now more than ever, it’s critical you work on your own self-worth, and get your mindset right.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] We’re going to talk about alleged discord in our country and globally right now
[00:50] Looking back, I can see where things happened in the past, and I was blissfully unaware
[01:16] A lot of the news is fear-mongering and clickbait - anger fuels clicks and media sales
[01:50] I’m becoming acutely aware of how marketing affects us - but we can choose to feel and think differently than the media and our surroundings are pushing us to feel and think
[02:09] How we look at our life, and how we perceive our world, can come back to something as simple as our own self worth
[02:25] What’s going on can impact your work and home life - if you let it
[03:01] Often how we perceive the news is a direct result of things happening in our own lives
[04:10] Lately, I’ve been asking myself “what if” questions about the news to see how it makes me feel - to get to the root of my own outlook and beliefs
[05:09] Take pause and really consider some what-ifs, and see what comes up for you
[06:08] Doing this exercise lets you take back some control rather than allowing yourself to be overrun and triggered by clickbait - you can decide where you stand regardless
[06:39] I share a news thing with Ben and Jerry and what happened on television regarding international politics
[07:58] I challenge you to get out of your circle of friends and family, and sit with your own thoughts, and figure out how you think and feel. And, consider why.
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Short episode summary
We’ve all done it. We say, “I should have done this,” or “ I should have done that.” But really, we’re shoulding all over ourselves. Tune in now, to learn what this means and how it can hurt your mindset.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I want to share something I’ve been coaching running clients on
[0027] I coach runners on mindset with my running coach partner Valerie Hunt
[00:48] Interestingly enough, mindset has a lot to do with many aspects of life, and it’s part of why I became a life coach
[01:30] A topic we discussed recently with our running clients is the idea of “shoulding on yourself” - and it carries into more than just running - “I should have done this or that…”
[02:24] What you do isn’t what we’re talking about - it’s about how you feel about what you do
[02:55] Don’t “should” on yourself or on your friends because it doesn’t feel good
[03:20] I share an example of a friend shoulding on another friend
[04:12] Someone shoulding on you, can be triggering
[05:10] What do you do when someone makes you feel triggered by shoulding on you?
[06:00] I challenge you to look at how you speak to yourself or others
[06:29] At the same time, you can choose to take someone’s words as encouraging too
[07:19] Really look at the words you're using this week, and just see what comes out of it.
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RunRX on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/runrx/
https://www.runrx.fit/
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
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Short episode summary
Sometimes what makes us mad about other people is a direct reflection of the things we can’t stand about ourselves. Let’s dive into what you can do about it!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] This week I want to talk about my recent interview with Melissa Duran
[00:40] Harsh truth alert - sometimes what you don’t like in others is a reflection of what you don’t like in yourself
[01:10] The things you like about others are also a reflection of you
[02:10] Your thoughts create your results - so what you think about in yourself, you bring about in terms of who you interact with
[02:40]Become aware of who you are, and your characteristics with a simple exercise I share
[03:27] If you doubt this exercise will work, I challenge you to get on a discovery call with me
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Ep 28 - 5 Tips to Help You Not Lose Your Sh_t with Melissa Duran https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/5-tips-to-help-you-not-lose-your-sh_t-with-melissa-duran
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Short episode summary
You are enough. You are enough. Do you believe me? If not, you need this episode right away! Tune in now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I open the show reflecting on the amazing conversation I had in the last episode with Melissa Duran
[00:50] For as different as Melissa and I are, I love that we could connect on something we were both feeling - If you missed the episode, be sure to grab the link below!
[01:28] Everything I’m coaching my clients on all comes down to one big elephant in the room - you thinking you’re not good enough!
[02:48] Another common thread I’m seeing across all of my coaching clients is thinking they don’t have enough time - but it’s actually related to feelings of not being good enough
[03:55] A third commonality is the feeling of not knowing how to do something or make a change - and you guessed it! This also goes back to feelings of unworthiness
[04:23] I want to challenge you to consider whether or not feeling like you’re not good enough is true or just a false story you tell yourself
[04:30] Even I have had feelings of being unworthy, and I share about some times I felt this way
[05:50] I share a moment in my life where it became clear to me that I am enough, and so is every person on this planet
[07:00] I challenge you to consider how amazing it is that you are here right now, and if you don’t feel like you are enough, I’d love to hop on a discovery call with you
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Ep 28 - 5 Tips to Help You Not Lose Your Sh_t with Melissa Duran https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/5-tips-to-help-you-not-lose-your-sh_t-with-melissa-duran
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Short episode summary
Buckle up friends because this is a longer episode than usual, but it’s for a very good reason. I’m chatting with my dear friend Melissa Duran. If you’ve ever lost your cool with someone you need to hear the amazing coping mechanisms we share. Tune in now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I’ve got a special treat today! I’m chatting with my dear friend Melissa Duran
[00:36] Melissa introduces herself and shares what she does
[01:19] I share how Melissa and I met
[02:16] Melissa and I hopped on a call and coached each other through how we’re going to handle the holidays and visiting family members that have opposing views
[03:04] Melissa is doing a series on how not to lose your sh*t when talking to people that can trigger you
[04:26] Married to a conservative, Melissa is liberal, and she talks about the dynamics
[05:46] Seeing someone else’s point of view is sometimes the first step in getting along despite your differences
[07:18] Here Melissa shares her tips for the shy woman who needs her voice to be heard, and shares how differently boys and girls are spoken to
[09:06] Who Melissa is now is different from who she was growing up because she was afraid to use her voice to avoid stirring the pot - She used to very much be a people pleaser
[09:44] The 5 tips are so important, especially for women because we are all different, but we all deserve to have a voice
[11:20] We can have different beliefs. That is okay, and we can learn from each other
[12:27] Because she cares about her marriage and loves her husband, Melissa admits that she’s done the most work with her husband on letting him have his own opinions without allowing him to trigger her. And that’s the first of the 5 things - Everyone is allowed to have their own opinion
[13:24] Melissa and I can watch the same program and take two completely different things from it because of our beliefs and backgrounds
[14:18] Sometimes the key to keeping the peace is just to accept that unless everyone agrees on something we have to understand that it’s an opinion - not facts
[15:09] It’s not always easy to avoid losing your cool when you have differing opinions
[15:34] We create our own little bubbles, but we have to step outside of our comfort zones to really get to know people and grow as humans
[16:42] The second of the five things is to hold space for that opinion - this means allowing the person who has a differing opinion to state it out loud without judgment or emotion - and this can be hard!
[18:00] I explain how when it comes to hot button topics, I try to neutralize them as much as possible to avoid being triggered
[20:11] I share a coping mechanism I learned from Peter Bogosian to stop the conversation and ask the other person if they can even see a different perspective for a moment. If not, you can agree to not discuss it further. Period.
[22:33] I discuss my running business and that my partner and I disagree politically
[24:21] The third thing is to realize that a person’s political beliefs are just a small part of who they are. Think of it like a pie - you can have 8 slices and 1 you don’t like. But it’s just a piece
[26:09] I bring up my mantra of not spending unnecessary time with people I don’t like
[28:21] You don’t have to do things you don’t want to do
[29:58] The fourth thing is to put things in perspective and ask yourself, “How much is this really affecting me right now?” Is it really bugging you enough at this moment to have a conflict?
[31:25] Sometimes we use conflict as a scapegoat to avoid talking about the things that are really bugging us. For example, fighting about politics to bypass a hard conversation about overeating or not working out
[33:48] What makes us upset is often what we make it mean rather than what is actually said
[36:21] The last of the five things is to have compassion, but unfortunately anger is easier to market than getting along with one another
[37:56] Having compassion is often the hardest thing to do when you’re triggered and emotional. But we have to step back and have compassion to mitigate conflict
[40:50] I talk about Adam Grant’s book “Think Again” and a fight between the Wright Brothers
[42:54] You can not agree but live in peace
[45:03] Melissa can be found mostly on Instagram at @UnleashHerVoice. The link is below
[45:27] I’m on Instagram too, and my link is also below
[46:26] We wrap up the episode
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Melissa’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unleashhervoice/
Ep 27 Daily Mantras https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/daily-mantras
"Think Again” by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
Ep 015 Think Again - Part 1 https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-15-think-again-part-1
Ep 016 Think Again - Part 2 https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-16-think-again-part-2
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Short episode summary
This short episode packs a punch and may uncover some truths about you that you don’t yet realize. Tune in now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today, I’m sharing a mantra I’ve used for about three decades
[01:28] To me, the passage by Nathaniel Branden is so powerful that I memorized it
[01:54] Are you pretending in your daily life?
[02:30] Have you ever heard the phrase “Clutching my pearls?”
[02:50] You’re allowed to let your immediate surroundings make you happy
[03:49] Are you keeping silent when you don’t agree with others?
[04:22] Sometimes we need to listen to the opposite side of an argument to really be confident in our opinions
[04:40] Want a recording of the passage in this episode? Email me for a copy, and we’ll chat next week!
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http://www.nathanielbranden.com/
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Short episode summary
You can set a boundary that prevents fighting and conflicts in your life. Bold statement isn’t it? Tune in now to find out what I mean!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Let’s talk about rules and boundaries. I kick things off with an example of my fence being the boundary telling you not to enter my space without permission or my dogs could bite you
[01:25] What about something that doesn’t have a clear boundary like a fence? I share what that might look like
[02:21] The problem is many of us are scared to set boundaries
[02:53] Let’s look at the fear of boundaries from a different perspective
[03:43] Believe it or not, we’re all narcissistic and selfish to a degree
[04:15] Sometimes a feeling of hurt or disrespect has nothing to do with you
[05:08] You have to set a boundary and have a conversation to prevent issues in the future
[05:28] Making assumptions can cause massive conflict
[06:09] I admit though, some people are just not nice, and I challenge you to set boundaries with them anyway to control your own story and protect your own feelings
[06:58] If someone is not going to respect your boundaries, you have the power to make a change to only interact with people who will respect them
[08:01] At the same time, you can’t expect people to know your boundaries without telling them
[08:35] I talk about my years of experience and how I’ve dealt with caring about what people think
[10:04] The key takeaway I want you to have from this episode is that you can choose how you live your life
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Ep 24 Manuals for Others and Yourself https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-24-manuals-for-others-and-yourself
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Short episode summary
If the news has you infuriated lately, you need this episode now more than ever. Listen now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I open by discussing a podcast I was listening to about a World War 2 veteran who found a correlation between PTSD and childhood trauma
[01:20] This got me thinking about the United States exit from Afghanistan and the fallout from it
[02:14] In listening to the PTSD episode and the correlation to childhood trauma, it got me thinking about how I would coach someone through feelings of hopelessness or anger
[03:32] Do you feel frustrated about what is happening around you? Perhaps you need healing from past issues to look at the present objectively.
[04:26] I share about how I’m speaking to my younger self to heal past trauma and better equip myself to handle what is going on today in my world around me
[07:26] What past traumas do you need to heal to feel more secure in your own thoughts and feelings? What do you need to say to yourself?
[08:16] You can’t control what is happening around you, but you can control how you react to it, and it may need to start with healing yourself first
[08:53] I give you permission to get off social media and turn off the news. Do something else!
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Short episode summary
Didn’t you get your copy of the script? Tune in now to find out why this question is so important, and how the rules we live by might need to be rewritten.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today I’m talking about manuals. But, what are manuals? Find out here
[01:15] People often confuse manuals with boundaries
[01:38] Sometimes we want people to have the script in hand we’ve written for them
[02:36] Manuals are your set of rules for how others should act
[02:55] Interestingly enough, we have manuals for ourselves too
[04:03] Are the rules we are holding ourselves to our own?
[05:05] Perhaps the rules we live by were instilled in us, but they weren’t created by us
[05:58] How do we stop the rules we live by and create new rules for ourselves?
[06:30] There’s a freebie on the Having Tough Conversations website that can help. Click “Get Started” on the homepage
[06:59] What happens if you find out you’re living by someone else’s manual?
[08:04] There’s a chance that what is causing conflict in your relationships and in your life has to do with the manuals you are living by
[09:19] I challenge you to look at your life right now and consider the manuals in it
[10:28] I share an example of manuals as it pertains to my birthday and my marriage
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Short episode summary
What happens when you keep filling up a bottle? It will overflow. Find out what this has to do with you in today’s episode.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today I’m talking about anxiety, and I share some of what’s been making me anxious right now
[01:15] Here’s the thing guys, a lot of what happens is beyond our control
[01:58] At this moment, I can’t affect changes on a lot of things, regardless of my opinion. Can you relate?
[02:23] We as humans have a tendency to let the things making us anxious disrupt our lives
[03:42] Now you might be thinking - I can change my thoughts, but what if something else happens and ruins your “zen?”
[04:29] In moments of high anxiety, we can blow our responses out of proportion
[06:48] Your body often knows something’s wrong even if you’re trying to remain calm
[07:22] I want you to look at your current situation and assess what could really be going on
[08:09] I challenge you to look at what you’re facing right now
[09:13] Sometimes crying can be cathartic and letting your body feel something can help you work through it. Ignoring it can actually make things worse.
[09:46] This week, I challenge you to take time to feel and work through things
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Short episode summary
Hearing “you are not alone” may feel like empty words, but they’re not. Tune in now if you’ve ever said, “no one understands what I’m going through.”
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] This week we’re continuing the conversation on fear
[00:30] I share a story about a client who can’t get the Covid vaccine and the fears it’s causing
[02:34] Was her coworker being mean? Is this a hostile work environment?
[03:15] I reveal how I coached my client through her discomfort
[04:23] What would you do when you feel completely alone?
[05:36] Sometimes we have to consider the source who said something that causes discomfort
[06:12] Here I share the outcome of the situation my client experienced with coaching
[06:52] I pose a question to you to help get you thinking about your own life, and how I can help
[07:20] I would love to help you if you are interested in a free discovery call
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https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
Have questions? Email me at questions@havingtoughconversations.com
Short episode summary
Your dream life is on the other side of fear. Tune in now to learn more!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I recap episode 21
[01:05] Looking at both possibilities - getting the job or not - brought up fear
[02:08] I talk about Will Smith’s YouTube video about skydiving
[03:57] Like Will Smith explained, we can ruin a day with fear
[04:52] We think if something is too fearful, we shouldn’t do it
[05:53] I issue a challenge to you about big fear
[07:05] The thing you fear most might actually be something you should do
[08:04] You need a space where the things that matter to you are being discussed
[08:22] We have to take care of ourselves first before we can help others
[08:42] I invite you to join me on locals and tell you about what I’ll share there
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Episode 20 https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-20-why-either-or-not-and
“Will Smith on Skydiving” https://youtu.be/gG-F_rRVdLc
https://havingtoughconversations.locals.com
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Short episode summary
You can have it all. That’s the message you need to hear, so tune in right now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I open with an announcement of when new episodes will drop
[01:13] I want to talk about something a little bit more personal today, and I explain why I feel so compelled to do this podcast and share my message
[02:20] I’m not here to help you become an activist, but I am here for this…
[03:20] Like most business owners, I often question what to post online
[03:57] While coaching, I’m super confident. But when it’s done, I question myself
[04:27] How do I borrow the confidence I’ve had for years, and use it to help myself through what I’m going through now? Can you relate?
[04:58] I heard a podcast, and they were talking about why we have to be either/or, and not and…
[06:28] Yes, there are some scenarios where you have to choose this or that, but when you can have both, you should!
[07:45] Sometimes a simple thought we have can cause a fear spiral that is unfounded
[08:47] It’s far too easy to have a negative mindset about things
[09:22] I share what we do in life coaching to turn a negative thought into a positive outcome
[10:45] When do you know you’re supposed to do x, y, or z?
[11:59] Looking at my own fear, I was faced with this question of what I really want to create
[12:53] I’m creating a group on locals.com, and what will go on in it - details coming soon
[13:58] Here are a few things we can’t control, and one thing we can
[15:10] I want my locals.com group to be a safe space to have tough conversations
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https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
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Short episode summary
Learn about how hiding from the real issues can be what’s leaving you frustrated and holding you back from living your best life. Tune in now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today I’m sharing about a call I had with a client related to wearing masks at work
[03:35] Sometimes just talking through a problem can help you feel better about it
[04:27] You have a choice to be frustrated or do what is best for yourself
[05:27] At the end of the call we came to this mind-blowing conclusion
[06:25] Are you spending too much time worrying about things you can’t change to avoid working on the things you can change?
[07:30] I challenge you to consider what you’re avoiding in your own life by spending time on the things you have no control over
[08:33] We look elsewhere because we don’t want to feel the feelings of things close to home
[08:42] I share a personal example of how this is manifesting in my own life
[09:44] Here I share what I did to deal with hiding from things I need to handle
[10:30] I can help people feel the feelings and make different choices to enhance your life
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Even the word trigger can be triggering. I’ve got 3 methods that can help you work through triggers. Tune in now to find out what they are.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today we’re exploring how you are handling all the tough conversations in your life
[00:38] I share Stacy Boehman’s take on politics, and how it relates to what I want to do with this podcast
[02:01] How do you listen to the other side of an argument? Here I share what I do
[03:27] What situations will my method work for? I share the answer and a real life example
[05:52] If swapping the topic for something benign doesn’t work, try this...
[07:56] When we are confident in ourselves, comments are less likely to bother you
[08:11] Here is what you should do when you’re triggered anyway and nothing is helping
[09:23] Sometimes your beliefs can be what causes you to be triggered
[10:30] I want to give you the ability to step away from what is happening so you can handle it better
[11:36] Let’s do a quick recap of how to handle triggering moments
[11:59] If you think a coach would help you with triggers, feel free to reach out to me
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Stacey Boehman’s podcast: https://staceyboehman.com/podcast/
“Think Again” by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
My recap episodes of Think Again: Part 1 https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-15-think-again-part-1; Part 2 https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-16-think-again-part-2
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
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Trigger warning! In this raw and real episode, I’m talking about depression, medication, therapy, and suicidal ideation. If you or anyone you know needs to talk to someone, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I open this episode with reading a page from one of my 21 year old journals
[01:30] I share the context of the journal reading
[02:40] At the time I wrote this journal entry, I wasn’t on antidepressants
[03:37] Why am I sharing this with you? Find out here
[04:37] I found my journal around the time it was announced that Britney Spears wanted to be released from her conservatorship
[05:34] I wanted to discuss the effect of talk therapy and some medications can have on a person
[06:01] I talk about a podcast episode I heard from Stacey Boehman about extreme emotions
[07:10] I realized I don’t really have extreme reactions, but I do have highs and lows
[07:24] After the death of my mother, I started going into a dark, deep, depression
[08:30] I worked with my therapist for two or three years exploring options and treatments
[09:10] We thought bipolar disorder was possible because of my high highs, and the low lows
[10:26] My therapist and I tried different medications to treat my mental health
[11:58] I share some of my low lows, and my side effects of some of my medications
[13:19] I talk about my experience with Lithium, and how I feel about Britney Spears’ being on it
[14:56] I was medically preventing extreme swings of emotions, but was really numbing myself
[15:52] My husband and I moved to Phoenix, to be closer to family and make a change
[16:56] I continued working with my therapist throughout the move
[17:40] Less than a year after the move, I was weaning off of my medications
[18:06] I explain why I’m sharing my background with therapy and medication
[19:26] A lot of us are afraid of feeling super soulful stuff
[20:01] I share where I’m at today with my mental health
[21:14] I believe in talk therapy, life coaching, and having a safe space with no judgment
[22:04] I share about coaching runners through fear
[22:44] A life coach is not a therapist, and if you need help with your mental health, you should seek a mental health professional
[23:31] I’m here for the people who know they’re meant for more and want help working through your goals and dreams
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Stacey Boehman’s podcast episode about extreme emotions: https://staceyboehman.com/extreme-emotions-wedding/
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
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I’m right! You’re wrong! Wait - think again! In this continuation episode from last week, we’re covering part two of the book “Think Again” by Adam Grant.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Have you ever noticed that when you decide to buy a car, you see it everywhere?
[01:08] “Think Again” by Adam Grant has three parts, but today we’re focusing on part two
[01:57] When we’re presented with an idea, our gut reaction is to object
[02:50] Find out what the “no-syndrome” is here
[03:55] I share my cure to the “no-syndrome”
[04:30] There are key elements to debating any topic - the first being to find common ground
[06:00] Second, stick with one or two simple and clear points in your arguments
[06:55] It might not be worth discussing if the opponent is not open to new ideas
[08:09] You must be free from emotion to have a productive conversation
[08:55] The third key element for debating a topic is that the person most likely to change their mind should be you
[09:39] The arguments we come up against can be seen as war
[10:26] Remaining calm in debate is one of the toughest skills to master
[11:00] Let’s recap the 3 key elements to debating
[11:54] Ask yourself this important question when debating
[12:44] Stay tuned for future episodes as I share more ideas for re-thinking
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Did you miss part 1? Listen to that episode here: https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-15-think-again-part-1
“Think Again” by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
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Short episode summary
Today, we’re talking about one of my favorite books - “Think Again” by Adam Grant. The idea is we can coexist even with differing opinions. Tune in now to learn more!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today, we’re talking about one of my favorite books - “Think Again” by Adam Grant
[01:13] When we disagree, we fall into three modes and I cover those here
[01:55] The preacher belief doesn’t have to be political or religious
[03:18] The prosecutor sees the flaws in your opponent’s argument
[04:35] The politician believes whoever makes the best argument at the time
[05:09] We don’t stay in just one mode - it depends on the disagreement
[06:06] I share a quote from the book that drives home the author’s entire premise for the book
[07:28] How do we get out of these modes? Find out here
[07:45] What is the Dunning–Kruger Effect? I explain it here
[08:13] I share when we’re most and least willing to listen to other arguments
[08:58] Our beliefs and our past selves are not detached from our identity
[09:25] I share the reason that this book means so much to me for my coaching practice
[10:03] I explain my job as a coach here
[10:15] As you begin to open your mind, you should consider two things about any given topic
[12:32] I want to challenge you that as you examine your beliefs, you may need to detach your identity from the arguments in front of you.
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“Think Again” by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.havingtoughconversations.com/
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You’re not going to want to miss this one because in it I share with you a powerful exercise I used to manifest my own success. You can do this too!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] We were going to discuss “Think Again,” but I’m not quite ready to dive into that
[00:35] So, instead we’re going to talk about commitment
[02:07] I also want to discuss the idea of success
[02:55] What does success look like for me? I share my thoughts here
[03:56] By my internal definition of success, I’m already successful
[04:28] Here I share that I realized something was holding me back
[05:36] If fear was preventing me from action, I needed to look at this
[06:42] After determining I was too passionate to fail, I journaled about preventing failure
[07:00] I share the ironic epiphany that I had from self-coaching myself about success
[07:40] Here’s an exercise you can do to help yourself feel better about yourself
[08:25] I share an excerpt of what I wrote in my journal
[09:28] I share my intentions for LinkedIn and invite you to follow me there
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“Think Again” by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
https://www.linkedin.com/company/coach-caroline/
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
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In this episode, we talk about a recent scandal that spiraled into a podcaster unleashing her fears and triggering her own audience - including me. You’re not going to want to miss this one!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today I want to talk about a conversation I recently had on Instagram related to a podcast and a scandal with Rachel Hollis
[01:21] There was a deep dive intended to open minds and inform people about manipulative coaches
[02:03] As I listened to this podcast I felt a cognitive dissonance
[02:29] This podcast was vilifying Rachel Hollis and by association Tony Robbins and their followers
[03:19] People say things that are offensive, and then do this...
[03:52] Her back and forth with insults and apologies were triggering me
[04:27] My primitive brain heard everything and reacted
[04:49] There’s the primitive brain, the evolved brain, and then another part
[05:42] I talk about my time selling in MLMs
[06:49] Isn’t it funny how our beliefs get formed?
[07:21] I have evidence that MLMs aren’t all fake, but this podcaster still triggered me
[07:40] This podcaster was also criticizing life coaches
[08:56] Life coaches are not here to correct trauma
[09:43] I realized in listening to someone say something triggering in a podcast, I needed to use it as a self coachable moment
[10:07] Being challenged isn’t bad
[11:08] So I coached myself through my triggers by telling myself these things
[11:48] About 45 minutes into the podcast, the show host said something that made the walls come down
[12:36] The reality was the host was afraid of becoming like Rachel Hollis
[13:55] By fearing she would be like someone, she acted like them
[14:40] Had she been my coaching client, what I’m sharing with you is what I would have worked through with this podcast host
[15:07] I talk about coaching myself through discomfort
[16:18] I’m going to ask you to do something to help yourself right now
[17:34] I hope I succeeded with my mission of this episode today
[18:23] I share what we’ll be talking about next week
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I shared that next week we’ll be discussing the book “Think Again” by Adam Grant - Grab a copy here: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B087ZC68VN/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
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Ever feel slighted at work, or like life is working against you, not for you? Then you need this episode! Tune in now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Today we’re discussing the phrase “self-fulfilling prophecies”
[01:13] I share an example of how a self-fulfilling prophecy can play out
[03:12] What were the thoughts that came up when you found out your work bestie is making more money than you?
[04:24] I talk about the thoughts that transpired and the activities that followed for my friend
[05:50] Here you will learn the truth about what really caused all the heartache
[06:04] What if when something frustrating happens you turn the thought around?
[07:15] When we look at things from a different headspace, it changes everything
[07:53] Here you will learn what I do when coaching someone
[08:22] My coaching client and I took on a different thought and this is what happened
[10:05] Coaching helps you do this…
[10:45] If you are interested in coaching, you will want to listen to this
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Would you believe that your internal story can have a direct impact on how you feel about things that come up in your life? You’re not going to want to miss a minute of this episode!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:18] I share my number one tool for dealing with “stressful” situations
[02:32] Here you will learn another tool I use for stressful moments
[02:49] Two things can happen with the question, “Why do you ask?”
[03:34] I break down one of the two scenarios that could happen here
[04:12] This is where I share the other scenario that might play out
[04:41] I recap my two tools for diffusing, if not preventing, stress
[05:01] People often don’t realize how the words they are saying will be taken, and I share an example
[07:00] I repeat the two important questions you should use in stressful moments
[07:20] I invite you to join me for the next episode and share what’s coming next
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Have you ever asked yourself, “What is a life coach?” If so, this episode is for you!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:19] How the Four Agreements helped me get started in coaching
[00:42] What life coaching is not
[01:39] I explain what life coaching is
[01:54] This is how I want my life coaching practice to work
[02:33] Here I share my job as the coach
[02:56] How my job is like a therapist
[03:38] The point of having a life coach is explained here
[04:09] I share an example of thoughts becoming things
[06:10] How did I manifest my dream house, and how can life coaching help you manifest your dreams?
[06:39] I invite you to learn more and give you a free offer
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Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview
Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word
Ep 007 The Four Agreements - Doing Your Best https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-07-the-four-agreements-doing-your-best
Ep 008 The Four Agreements - Don't Take Anything Personally https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-08-the-four-agreements-dont-take-anything-personally
Ep 009 The Four Agreements - Don't Make Assumptions https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-09-the-four-agreements-dont-make-assumptions
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https://www.facebook.com/coachcaroline
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
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Short episode summary
You know what they say about making assumptions, right? It makes an ass out of you and me. This is a juicy one, so tune in right now!
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:20] The last agreement is not making assumptions
[00:56] As humans, it’s normal to make assumptions, and they are often not based in fact
[02:07] I tie this agreement back into my experience of not getting closure after getting let go from a recent day job
[02:51] My methodology I coach from is based in Brooke Castillo’s Life Coach School
[03:45] Assumptions are thoughts, not facts, and can lead to unwarranted feelings
[05:30] Change your thought, and you can feel better about your circumstances
[06:40] I challenge you to follow the four agreements we’ve discussed
[07:02] If you have questions or suggestions, please let me know
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Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
Episode 004 “Not Getting Closure” - https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-04-not-getting-closure
Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview
Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word
Ep 007 The Four Agreements - Doing Your Best https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-07-the-four-agreements-doing-your-best
Ep 008 The Four Agreements - Don't Take Anything Personally https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-08-the-four-agreements-dont-take-anything-personally
Brooke Castillo’s Life Coach School Podcast https://thelifecoachschool.com/podcast/
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
https://www.facebook.com/coachcaroline
Brooke Castillo https://thelifecoachschool.com/
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We need this episode in our society perhaps more than ever. So many people take everything being said around them personally, and this can have a damaging impact on our mental health. Join me now for some quick advice on letting things roll right off your back.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:30] What is the third agreement? It’s to not take anything personally
[01:01] I correlate this third agreement to making a movie
[01:54] What happens when conflicting movie scripts play out? Find out here
[02:53] You don’t have to change your perspective, but…you do need to do this
[04:24] If you’re not taking negative things personally, what about positive things?
[05:02] Here I share how you should think about positive and negative criticism
[06:08] I challenge you to do this throughout the next week
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Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview
Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word
Ep 007 The Four Agreements - Doing Your Best https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-07-the-four-agreements-doing-your-best
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Does “do your best” mean you have to be perfect? Heck no! But, it’s also not a free pass to make excuses for not achieving your goals. Join me for a quick exploration of what doing your best really looks like.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:26] The second agreement isn’t as important as the first one to me, but it is important nonetheless
[00:38] What does “do your best” mean?
[00:55] I use my podcasting journey to reiterate what doing your best means
[03:05] I challenge you to look at things you’re not giving your full effort to and make a change
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Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview
Ep 006 The Four Agreements - Being Impeccable to Your Word https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-06-the-four-agreements-being-impeccable-to-your-word
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Short episode summary
In this week’s episode, I’m talking about the first agreement of “The Four Agreements.” Be sure to listen to episode 5 before you listen to this one.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:16] Welcome to week 1 of 4 in this series about “The Four Agreements”
[00:41] The first agreement is “Be Impeccable to Your Word”
[01:39] If you say you’re going to do something or act a certain way, you should do it
[02:30] I share an example of what happens when you don’t keep your word to yourself
[03:24] Not having self-integrity invites people to treat you badly
[04:43] Pick your words wisely, and focus on your own agreements with yourself
[05:29] Parents tend to do more for their children than they do for themselves
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Book: The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Don Miguel Ruiz
Ep 005 The Four Agreements - Overview https://havingtoughconversations.libsyn.com/ep-05-the-four-agreements-overview
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Short episode summary
In this introduction to the series on the book “The Four Agreements,” I share what the agreements are, and why the book means so much to me. I invite you to get the book and follow along with me for the next four weeks as I break down each agreement.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:21] I introduce the book “The Four Agreements”
[02:14] What is the opposite of paranoia? Find out here
[03:00] I was surprised that this book was so spiritual
[03:45] Here I explain the premise of “The Four Agreements”
[05:04] Can you change your programming? I address this here
[06:35] The problem with limiting beliefs is they can hold you back
[07:33] If you start living your life by “The Four Agreements,” your life will change completely
[08:12] I invite you to get a copy of the book to follow along with this series
[09:00] These are “The Four Agreements”
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What is the best way to get closure and take your power back when someone chooses to end the conversation with you? Whether it’s divorce, losing a job, or ending a friendship, we can move on. In this episode, I share how I did it, and you can too.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:21] I’m sorry I’ve been MIA. Here, I explain why
[02:15] Being let go, or breaking up with someone will sometimes cause this
[03:14] I walk you through how I coached myself through getting let go without closure
[04:51] Sometimes it’s not getting let go, sometimes it’s losing a friendship. Here I share my advice for dealing with the fallout
[06:41] It’s important to have the dialogue with yourself at least, and then let it go
[08:02] I talk about what my hiatus taught me, and what’s coming next for this podcast
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In life, we all have been raised to see the world a certain way. But, what happens when two people who care about each other don’t see the world that same way? In this episode, I share some examples of how to handle triggering issues and keep the peace.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] I explain triggers in the context of this podcast
[00:44] I share a little about my backstory and my views
[01:25] Unfriending vs unfollowing and why I choose the distinction
[02:12] I give a suggestion for how to handle people who don’t agree with your views
[04:00] I talk about trigger points that could occur in group texts with family
[05:50] What do you do if an issue is not happening via text or social media? I share an example of an in-person trigger
[06:42] This is what people really want when they are telling you their view on something
[07:32] I share what the next few episodes will be centered on
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Life is a series of intentions, that are actually out-tentions. Are you coming at life from an intention of love or fear? How you think about things can have a profound impact on your feelings and your life.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:20] I want to talk about Gary Zukav’s book “The Mind of the Soul”
[01:20] I share my belief about how thoughts impact our lives
[01:30] What is an intention? Find out here
[01:51] I explain intention vs out-tention with an example
[02:19] Are intentions good or bad? Here I explain the heart of the matter in answering that question
[03:06] Let’s take intentions a step deeper, and the importance of coming at things from a place of love, not fear
[04:10] I drive this concept of choosing love over fear home with another example
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Links mentioned in the episode
Books mentioned in this episode:
The Seat of the Soul
The Mind of the Soul
Gary Zukav: https://seatofthesoul.com/
https://carolinebjorkquist.com/
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Short episode summary
Whether you are saying “I am a mom,” “I am conservative,” or even “I am gay/straight/bisexual” - you are more than just that single statement. In this short episode, I invite you to explore who you are.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:14] Welcome to the first episode! I open the show with an interesting tidbit and bust the stereotype about what it means to be (gasp!) a conservative
[01:09] I present a challenge to the thoughts about the word conservative
[01:31] Let’s explore the statement, “I am…”
[02:05] Who are you? How do you address the “I am” statement?
[02:55] There is more to any person than a single “I am”
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Dave Rubin: https://daverubin.com/
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Short episode summary
What is this podcast about? Hi! I’m Coach Caroline, and I’d like to invite you to listen in as I explore the tough conversations that need to be had. Every episode will explore a different topic that deserves to be addressed, even if we’re too scared to talk about it.
Timestamps of big takeaways
[00:17] Hi! I’m Coach Caroline
[00:36] I quit watching the news and here’s why
[01:26] The pandemic of 2020 awakened a desire for knowledge
[01:54] Can social media impact a job search? I explore this here
[02:24] I felt isolated and paralyzed by fear through most of 2020
[03:17] I realized it’s time for some tough conversations
[03:37] What can you expect from this podcast? I explain it here
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Links mentioned in the episode
Have questions? Email me at questions@havingtoughconversations.com