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Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between—a podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and award-winning author Dr. Alexandra Solomon, featuring conversations with notable guests from the worlds of therapy, academia, and pop-culture.
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Dr. Ish Major joins Reimagining Love for a frank and honest conversation about modern masculinity and the communication gap across genders. Together, they discuss what is often missing from communication in relationships, what masculinity means in our modern era, and how truth is the antidote to toxic masculinity.
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Watch Counsel Culture with Nick Cannon
Reimagining Love Episode: “Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Emily Nagoski”
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Dr. Frank Anderson is a world-renowned trauma expert and author who has dedicated his career to teaching therapists how to help patients work through trauma. Now, in his immensely personal memoir, To Be Loved, Dr. Frank shares his own story of overcoming trauma. In this conversation, Dr. Frank weaves his clinical knowledge with personal experiences to shine a light on how when we unburden ourselves from the past, we can stop replicating old stories and access our truest selves.
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To Be Loved: A Story of Truth, Trauma, and Transformation by Dr. Frank Anderson
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Learn more about the Trauma Institute and Trauma-Informed Media.
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk
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Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.
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Access the Long-Distance Relationships worksheet here
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What happens in a marriage when one partner likes to save money and one likes to spend it? According to Dr. Scott Rick’s research, when it comes to money, opposites do attract. Dr. Rick joins Dr. Alexandra to explain how our psychology shapes how we handle money and how the choices we make around money impact our relationships.
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Tightwads and Spendthrifts: Navigating the Money Minefield in Real Relationships by Dr. Scott Rick
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Celebrity dating coach Damona Hoffman stops by Reimagining Love to deliver sage and practical advice for daters. With decades of experience in online dating, Damona gives Dr. Alexandra an update on the current state of the apps and explains why so many daters are feeling burnt out. Instead of looking for red flags and buying into tired dating myths, Damona believes the key is getting specific about what we want and who we are, so that we can use the apps as a tool instead of a toy.
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F the Fairy Tale: Rewrite the Dating Myths and Live Your Own Love Story by Damona Hoffman
Listen to Dates & Mates with Damona Hoffman
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[Content warning: this episode contains a brief mention of suicide. If you prefer to not listen to this moment, please skip this week's listener question segment at the end of the episode]
Nedra Tawwab returns to Reimagining Love to discuss what can be our most challenging and vulnerable relationships: difficult relationships with our Families of Origin. Nedra offers empowering tools and relational strategies to help us adapt and redefine these relationships; tools to help us acknowledge when our family members have changed and accept when they cannot. Together, Nedra and Dr. Alexandra explore how this theme connects with a wide variety of topics: the tricky dynamics of in-laws, differing perspectives around the past, and how to navigate painful decisions around estrangement.
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Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab
The Drama Free Workbook: Practical Exercises for Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships by Nedra Glover Tawwab
Listen to Nedra's podcast, You Need to Hear This
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In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra examines a central tension in all relationships: the need for space versus togetherness. If you often find yourself wanting more connection, are you needy? If you typically need more space, are you avoidant? Here, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to ditch the labels and pathology, and instead acknowledge that both space and connection are fundamental needs in an intimate relationship. To help you navigate this, Dr. Alexandra shines a light on the meaning we assign to our orientations around space and shares strategies to help you and your partner create agreements that maximize connection and minimize resentment.
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Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Esther Perel
Reimagining Love Episode: "Let's Talk About 'Sleep Divorces'"
Hermeneutic Labor: The Gendered Burden of Interpretation in Intimate Relationships between Women and Men by Ellie Anderson
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Author Molly Roden Winter joins Reimagining Love to share her story of opening up her marriage as a happily married mother and the hard-earned and profound truths she learned along the way. For Molly, her journey of non-monogamy opened her up to more: more choice and self-discovery, and feelingmore than her roles as a mother and wife.
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More: A Memoir of Open Marriage by Molly Roden Winter
New York Magazine's "A Practical Guide to Modern Polyamory"
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What would change if, instead of prioritizing romantic relationships, we made friendships the center of our lives? NPR's Rhaina Cohen joins Reimagining Love to explore the possibilities embedded within that question. In her new book, Rhaina invites us into the worlds of people who've organized their lives around deep friendship and, in doing so, challenge our ideas and assumptions about which relationships should be at the heart of a fulfilling life.
Relevant links:
The Other Significant Others: Reimagining Life with Friendship at the Center by Rhaina Cohen
Listen to "Dear Friend," the song inspired by Rhaina's book
Connect with Rhaina online
"Parent–adult child estrangement in the United States by gender, race/ethnicity, and sexuality" from the Journal of Marriage and Family
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Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath join Reimagining Love to share the story of their relationship—the story that inspired their new book, Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desire. In this conversation, they get vulnerable about how they moved from breaking up to fostering breakthroughs; a journey they nurtured through what they call 'a sacred pause.' In the sacred pause, they identified the patterns that blocked their ability to find authentic love so that they could build a new relationship rooted in safety and interdependence.
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Liberated Love: Release Codependent Patterns and Create the Love You Desireby Mark Groves and Kylie McBeath
After purchasing Liberated Love, access the PDF Workbook and free Meditation
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Throughout her decades as a therapist, Dr. Alexandra has helped many people navigate being "the affair partner." Participating in infidelity creates an intoxicating yet profoundly confusing blend of emotions and experiences. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra examines the psychology of this role and offers a compassionate look into the surrounding context: the thrills, secret benefits, sources of shame, and potential origin stories embedded within this controversial role.
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"A Great Wagon" by Rumi
Journal of Sex & Martial Therapy: "Object of Desire Self-Consciousness Theory" by Anthony F. Bogaert and Lori A. Brotto
"Taking Sexy Back" by Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Facebook Group: Esther Perel Discussion Group
Reimagining Love episode: "Guidance for the Newly Single"
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In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra confronts a common roadblock to repair: shame. Often, in the wake of relational harm, feelings of shame secretly run the show, causing you to get combative and defensive or freeze, flee, or fawn in essential moments. Dr. Alexandra provides strategies for moving from shame into action—so that you can make yourself available for repair—and gives tangible tips for how to make a heartfelt and effective apology.
Relevant links:
Access this episode's companion worksheet here
Reimagining Love episode: "Why Can't I Get Over It?"
Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit
Brené Brown's TED Talk: Listening to Shame
Building Self-Esteem: How Learning from Shame Helps Us to Grow by Joseph Burgo
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Ten years after "conscious uncoupling" first entered the public lexicon, Katherine Woodward Thomas joins Reimagining Love to discuss her powerful rebrand of what's possible after a breakup or divorce. Through sharing her story and dissecting the cultural myths that cause us to view divorce as a failure, Katherine encourages us to bring a sense of generosity and intentionality to the process so that we can transform our relationships with our former partner, ourselves, and our futures.
Relevant links:
Conscious Uncoupling: 5 Steps to Living Happily Even After by Katherine Woodward Thomas
Calling in the One: 7 Weeks to Attract the Love of Your Life (Revised) by Katherine Woodward Thomas
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Marriage, a History: How Love Conquered Marriage by Stephanie Coontz
The Good Divorce by Constance Ahrons
Uncoupling: Turning Points in Intimate Relationships by Diane Vaughan
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Esther Boykin joins Dr. Alexandra for an expansive conversation around the intersection of mental health and our careers. Esther highlights the difference between self-care and self-compassion, and points us towards using self-compassion as an essential tool for improving both our personal and work lives. When we bring self-compassion to our careers, we prevent burnout by opening up a deeper connection to our common humanity. Together, Esther and Dr. Alexandra then respond to a listener who thinks her relationship is being held back by her partner's ambition.
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Learn more about Therapy Is Not A Dirty Word and the Compassion Collective
Who Not How: The Formula to Achieve Bigger Goals Through Accelerating Teamworkby Dan Sullivan
Reimagining Love episode: "Talking about the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy"
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What does it feel like to be in a securely attached relationship? Renowned relationship expert and therapist Julie Menanno joins Reimagining Love to illuminate what we can learn from examining secure attachments. Together with Dr. Alexandra, Julie help anxious and avoidant partners understand each other by guiding us through how different attachment styles show up in tender moments. Ultimately, Julie reminds us that the purpose of attachment work is to help us heal from our past unmet needs so that we can form secure attachments today.
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Secure Love: Create a Relationship That Lasts a Lifetime by Julie Menanno
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Deceit, infidelity, and betrayal profoundly shake our inner worlds. If you're struggling to heal from relational harm, you may be endlessly ruminating on the past and wondering why you can't just let it go. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra breaks down the process of forgiveness and provides seven reasons why you can’t get over it.
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Access this episode's companion worksheet here
Dr. Alexandra's e-course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding after Betrayal or Deceit
Reimagining Love episode: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"
Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon
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What are trauma bonds and how can we heal from them? Dr. Laura Copley joins the podcast to dive into the sticky dynamics of unhealthy, trauma-bonded relationships. Drawing from personal experiences and her work as a relationship trauma expert, Dr. Laura gives us insight into what she calls "the hero's journey" — a transformative path towards recognizing our origin stories, attachment wounds, and current relationship dynamics so that we can transcend our trauma and form authentic connections.
Relevant links:
Loving You Is Hurting Me: A New Approach to Healing Trauma Bonds and Creating Authentic Connectionby Dr. Laura Copley
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Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh returns to Reimagining Love to share her research on the six ingredients that help love bloom into a thriving relationship. In this conversation, Dr. Sara encourages us to move beyond our culture's myth of finding a perfect mate and instead, focus on creating something special together.
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Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love by Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh
Use code "Reimagine" for 10% off Dr. Sara's Relationship Panoramic Inventory (Valid until 2/29/24)
Learn more about Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh
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Thinking about re-entering the dating scene after a breakup or loss? How can you tell if you're truly ready to get back out there? In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra provides five Relational Self-Awareness-informed indicators that you can use to help you discern whether you’re ready to date again.
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In this in-depth solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we played in our original family systems. Way before we ever were involved in a romantic relationship, we were part of a family system, and that system, for better or for worse, shaped our ideas about who we can and cannot be. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool.
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Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz
Reimagining Love: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"
Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker Article
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Emily Nagoski joins Reimagining Love for a vulnerable and expansive conversation about nurturing lasting sexual connections in long-term partnerships. As an award-winning sex educator and author, Emily combines groundbreaking research, sex education, and stress education to expand our ideas about women's sexuality. In her new book, Come Together, Emily explores how long-term couples maintain sexual connection over time. Together, Emily and Dr. Alexandra uncover the importance of moving away from the "shoulds" in our sex lives and towards discovering more confidence and joy withour partners.
Relevant links:
Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski
Dates for Emily's upcoming book tour
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Renowned divorce coach Kate Anthony sits down with Dr. Alexandra to offer us an empowering approach to divorce that centers accountability and integrity. Sharing wisdom from her own divorce, Kate guides Dr. Alexandra through the experience, from exploring what is embedded within the question ‘should I stay or should I go?’ to all the tricky things that emerge in the aftermath of a separation: parenting decisions, the gender dynamics of divorce, and the heaps of unsolicited advice that’s coming your way.
Relevant links:
The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage by Kate Anthony
Listen to The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Explore Kate's program Should I Stay or Should I Go?
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Therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger joins Reimagining Love for an expansive conversation about all things sexuality. Nicoletta's approach shows the power of sex-positivity — encouraging curiosity about how everyone can learn to have better sex and, in doing so, build deeper connections to our senses, our relationships, and ourselves.
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Learn more about Nicoletta's work
Nicoletta's Sex and Scholars Podcast
Tickets for Afternoon Delight: A Live Podcast Experience on Feb. 10th, 2024
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Dr. Mariel Buqué joins Reimagining Love to discuss her debut book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma. As an expert in intergenerational trauma,Dr. Buqué offers wisdom on what gets passed down within families: not only inheritances of pain and trauma but also precious stories and gifts. Dr. Buqué shares her journey of infusing traditional clinical frameworks with holistic healing practices, paving a path through intergenerational wounds and toward emotional liberation.
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Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma by Dr. Mariel Buqué
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In this special mini-solo episode, Dr. Alexandra invites you to join her as she reflects on 2023 and moves into the new year with intentionality. Sharing her perspective on resolutions, Dr. Alexandra encourages listeners to navigate this time with self-compassion and gentleness. Then, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through two exercises designed to reflect on the lessons and challenges of the past year and find optimism for this upcoming year.
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Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals or not hitting the gym as often as we desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habit personally. If you're struggling to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the second episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra introduces the idea of a 'Health Habit Discrepancy' and encourages you to get curious about why you and your partner might think differently about health habits. Then, Dr. Alexandra speaks to both partners, providing guidance on how to navigate this conversation with sensitivity and understanding.
Listen to Part One of this series.
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Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals or not hitting the gym as often as we desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habits personally. If you're struggling to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the first episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra examines what might be lying beneath your concerns and offers strategies for you to explore.
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Today’s solo episode is geared towards the “newly single,” whether you just got out of a brief situationship or a long-term, serious partnership. Dr. Alexandra breaks down what research tells us about why breakups are so challenging, and then delivers five practical strategies to help you feel more like you in this new era.
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Minaa B. joins Dr. Alexandra to discuss healing from trauma and the power of connecting self-care to community care. As a licensed social worker and mental health educator, Minaa's work explores the intersection of mental health and social justice, and uses this understanding to give context to our personal struggles, from our childhoods to the systems of oppression that deeply impact our communities.
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Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World by Minaa B.
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Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the popular podcast Dateable, join Dr. Alexandra for a fun, yet insightful, conversation about all things dating. Together, they explore our rapidly changing dating culture and tackle three sticky relationship situations.
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Listen to the episode of Dateable where Dr. Alexandra joined Julie and Yue to discuss pace discrepancies
Listen to the Dateable podcast
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Today's show is the 100th episode of Reimagining Love! Dr. Alexandra celebrates this milestone by answering several great listener questions: one from a woman in her 20s who is grappling with stability vs adventure in her love life; one about ambition differences between two partners; and one from a man desiring more affection from his partner. Take a listen to hear from Dr. Alexandra on all of these great questions!
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Dr. Alexandra is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money.
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Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia Samuel:
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Dr. Devorah Heitner, an author and digital wellness expert, joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about parenting, technology, and the internet. As our world become more and more complex for kids of all ages, Dr. Heitner empowers parents to have conversations with their kids at all ages and stages, model healthy tech usage, and more.
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Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD:
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If you and your partner have a desire difference between you, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by guests Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill for an honest and compassionate conversation about mismatched libidos and how partners can navigate this challenge as a team.
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Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencill
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Dr. Alexandra is joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for a rich discussion about both of their new books, as well as the growth potential for couples when they engage in therapy and Relational Self-awareness.
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Dr. Tracy's podcast, I'm Not Your Shrink:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/love-acceptance-and-therapy-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1452433255?i=1000631102057
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Resentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love.
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Episode #24 of Reimagining Love, 10 Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict:
Part 1:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444
Part 2:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000556284436
Episode #33 of Reimagining Love, Disrupting the Overfunctioning/Underfunctioning Dynamic:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000565488608
Episode #50 of Reimagining Love, Tending to Little You and Exploring Your Family of Origin:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000584624154
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[CW: this episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation.] Intentional boundaries and thoughtful agreements help us ensure that our intimate partnerships are vehicles for growth, mutual support, and healing, especially for individuals and couples who are looking to create relationship agreements beyond monogamy to deepen their understanding of relationship dynamics. Today Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley. They are life partners, coparents, and coauthors of the new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this rich and challenging episode, you will learn about loving with greater care and awareness, whether you are someone who practices monogamy or ethical nonmonogamy.
Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/polywise-a-deeper-dive-into-navigating-open-relationships-david-cooley/18957274?ean=9781990869143
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Blending families is messy. There are no hard and fast rules. Today's solo episode is devoted to one listener's question about dating and motherhood. The question's theme of intentionality, about modeling relationships with the kids and her healing journey is far from an isolated experience. There will be nuggets in this episode to savor and work with for separate conversations between the ex, the boyfriend, and the kids.
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Listen to Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
A phrase we've been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today's episode, Dr Solomon will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You'll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk away.
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We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night's rest. "Sleep divorces" are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Solomon shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner.
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The Extraordinary Importance of Sleep (P&T, December 2018) Susan Worley
Marital quality and the marital bed: Examining the covariation between relationship quality and sleep (NIH)
Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Buysse
The Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia Durrani
Is sleeping in separate beds bad for your relationship? A sleep scientist answers (TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series)
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Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio platform Dipsea, joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about sexuality, imagination, and empowerment. They discuss how audio erotica can help people— particularly women—reconnect with their pleasure and create a safe space for exploration with storytelling.
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https://www.dipseastories.com/LOVEPOD
Watch Gina's TED talk:
https://www.ted.com/talks/gina_gutierrez_the_relationship_between_sex_and_imagination?language=en
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Life transitions are inevitable. For couples and families, these chapters offer unique challenges and opportunities. This fall, Dr. Solomon and her husband, Todd, are experiencing a major change of their own, as they launch their youngest off to college and become "empty-nesters." They sat down together in the studio for a candid conversation about what this time is bringing up for them and how they plan to process and celebrate the beginning of this new chapter together.
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Has someone every said this phrase to you? Have you ever said it to someone else? In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Solomon explores why the statement "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" is so complicated and what might actually be lying beneath these words in the context of an intimate relationship.
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Working to improve your relationship is hard enough, and when your partner is resistant to the idea of reflecting together, it can feel like you're doomed. In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Solomon explores this common conundrum and shares reminders for the enthusiastic partner who is ready to dive into Relational Self-Awareness work, as well as for the partner who may be feeling more reluctant for a number of reasons.
A note: The podcast will be taking a break for the next two weeks and will return on August 22nd with another re-release episode!
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Lane Moore, the Author of "You Will Find Your People," joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion about the joys and heartbreaks of friendship. Lane shares her impetus to write this thoughtful book, and the two discuss why some people might struggle more with friendship due to their upbringing or past experiences, and how they can create a community of people they love as adults.
You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships As an Adult by Lane Moore:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/you-will-find-your-people-how-to-make-meaningful-friendships-as-an-adult-lane-moore/18699308?ean=9781419762567
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When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Solomon explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter.
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Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Solomon tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.
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Dr. Solomon sits down with Audrey Grunst, a therapist and crisis response expert, to honor the memory of the victims and survivors of the Highland Park Shooting, and to paint a picture of the circles of impact that devastating tragedies such as this one have on communities. Content warning: this episode contains discussions about gun violence, mass shootings, trauma, and recovery. If you're looking for ways to take action, please refer to the resources below as places to start:
Moms Demand Action:
https://momsdemandaction.org/act/
Brady: United Against Gun Violence:
https://www.bradyunited.org/take-action
Everytown:
https://www.everytown.org/
Learn more about Psychological First Aid:
https://learn.nctsn.org/course/index.php?categoryid=11
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Susan Cain, author of the world-renowned bestsellers "Bittersweet" and "Quiet," joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about how to honor the poignancy found in the transitional periods of our lives, whether we're launching our kids off into the world, grieving the end of a relationship, or growing old. They also discuss the ways in which the bittersweet impacts and enhances our intimate relationships.
Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan Cain:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/bittersweet-how-sorrow-and-longing-make-us-whole-susan-cain/17375002?ean=9780451499783
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susancain.net/newsletter
"On Children" by Kahlil Gibran (poem)
https://poets.org/poem/children-1
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Britt Frank joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about "stuckness" in all its forms. We're all familiar with this feeling in some way or another, and in this episode, Britt offers listeners tools and takeaways to confront stuckness head on, so that we can face ourselves with honesty and learn the skills to carve healthier paths for ourselves in the future.
The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-science-of-stuck-breaking-through-inertia-to-find-your-path-forward-britt-frank/17210414?ean=9780593419441
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Cycles of rumination and overthinking can be hard to break free from, and they can negatively impact us and our relationships. In this episode, therapist Alicia Muñoz joins Dr. Solomon to address this common thought pattern and shares tools for how to slow down and release ourselves from this headspace.
Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner by Alicia Muñoz:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/stop-overthinking-your-relationship-break-the-cycle-of-anxious-rumination-to-nurture-love-trust-and-connection-with-your-partner-alicia-munoz/18078243?ean=9781648480034
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https://aliciamunoz.com/
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Dr. Solomon is joined by the visionary writer and poet Cole Arthur Riley on this episode. They discuss Cole's book, "This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us," and explore topics of wonder, contemplation, disability, childhood, and much more.
This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us by Cole Arthur Riley:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/this-here-flesh-spirituality-liberation-and-the-stories-that-make-us-cole-arthur-riley/17122524?ean=9780593239797
Black Liturgies, a project that integrates spiritual practice with Black emotion, Black literature, and the Black body:
https://www.instagram.com/blackliturgies/
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Dr. Solomon is joined by psychologist and author Dr. Yael Schonbrun for a hopeful and inspiring conversation about working parenthood. They discuss the challenges of balancing family and work life as well as strategies to help busy parents structure their lives in a way that works for their family and aligns with their values.
Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection by Dr. Yael Schonbrun:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/work-parent-thrive-12-science-backed-strategies-to-ditch-guilt-manage-overwhelm-and-grow-connecti-on-when-everything-feels-like-too-mu-yael-schonbrun/18162992
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Dr. Laurie Mintz joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about all things pleasure, from the orgasm gap to sexual myths to vibrators, offering inspiration and encouragement to both individuals and couples as they seek to reignite and reconnect with their desire and sexual identity.
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Dr. Laurie Mintz:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/becoming-cliterate-why-orgasm-equality-matters-and-how-to-get-it-laurie-mintz/6438079?ean=9780062664556
A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Dr. Laurie Mintz:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-tired-woman-s-guide-to-passionate-sex-reclaim-your-desire-and-reignite-your-relationship-laurie-b-mintz/19853981?ean=9781605501079
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Dr. Ian Kerner:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/she-comes-first-the-thinking-man-s-guide-to-pleasuring-a-woman-ian-kerner/7910727?ean=9780060538262
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Whether you've been on dozens of first dates or are brand new to the experience, this episode will provide tools and tips to help you approach the daunting and exciting task of meeting someone new with Relational Self-Awareness. You can find the First Date Data worksheet in your inbox today if you're a newsletter subscriber. If you're not, click the link below to be added to the mailing list, and you'll receive the worksheet next week.
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In this episode, Dr. Solomon offers 12 practical strategies for navigating dating apps with self-compassion and success. These strategies will help you tune into the emotions that are coming up inside you as you swipe so you can bring more Relational Self-Awareness to your dating journey.
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Feeling burnt out and frustrated with dating apps? You're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Solomon unpacks why so many people feel this way, offering explanation and validation for daters who are feeling stuck and disillusioned. Tune in next week to hear Dr. Solomon's 12 Relational Self-Awareness strategies for using dating apps.
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Dr. Solomon is joined by Melody Beattie, a legendary self-help author. A revised edition of Melody's 1986 book "Codependent No More" was recently published, and she and Dr. Solomon discuss the topics it delves into and answer a listener question about losing oneself in relationships.
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Dr. Solomon is joined by sisters and co-hosts of the "Oversharing" podcast, Jordana Abraham and Dr. Naomi Bernstein. They have a candid conversation about modern dating, gender scripts, and practical tools for how to stay centered and present on a date.
Oversharing Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/oversharing/id1620971837
U up? Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/u-up/id1313996383
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If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Solomon guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. Find the link below to listen to Part I of this series if you missed it.
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Part I of this series (previous week's episode):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000607309489
Episode 67: Dealing with Breakup Regret:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000604088930
Episode 66: How to Get Closure After a Breakup:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000603123829
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If you are thinking about getting back together with an ex, there's a lot to consider. In this two-part series, Dr. Solomon guides listeners through 12 Relational Self-Awareness questions that will help them gain clarity about their situation and create version 2.0 of their relationship with confidence, if they make the choice to reconcile with their former partner. In next week's episode, Dr. Solomon will share an accompanying worksheet for this series.
Episode 67: Dealing with Breakup Regret:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000604088930
Episode 66: How to Get Closure After a Breakup:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000603123829
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Guest Eve Rodsky is the author of the bestselling book "Fair Play," a gamified life-management system that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload and reimagine their relationship. In this episode, Dr. Solomon and Eve discuss the problem of invisible domestic labor, especially for women and mothers, and explore how we can reimagine family life to create a more equitable and healthy future for all.
Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live-eve-rodsky/12084091?ean=9780525541943
Fair Play Card Deck:
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Fair Play Documentary:
https://www.fairplaylife.com/documentary
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Dr. Nan Wise, a neuroscientist researcher and certified sex therapist, joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion about the importance of prioritizing healthy pleasure. Dr. Nan shares some of the most fascinating findings from her team's research, especially pertaining to female pleasure.
Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier, and More Purpose-Filled Life by Dr. Nan Wise:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/why-good-sex-matters-understanding-the-neuroscience-of-pleasure-for-a-smarter-happier-and-more-purpose-filled-life-nan-wise/6960664?ean=9781328451309
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In this episode, Dr. Solomon explores common feelings that can follow a breakup, including regret, grief, and loneliness, even for the partner who initiated the breakup. She explains where these emotions come from and what they can signal to us about our healing journey ahead.
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The end of a relationship can feel disorienting and earth-shattering, so it's only natural for us to yearn for the ever-elusive feeling of "closure." In this episode, Dr. Solomon posits that we often look for closure in the wrong places after a breakup, and she offers an empowering reframe for anyone who's grieving the end of a partnership.
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Dr. Solomon's guest on this episode is Tara Schuster, an accomplished entertainment executive turned mental health advocate and best-selling author. In this touching conversation, Tara shares her inspiration for her new book, Glow in the F*cking Dark, and how she has lived the mission of building a nurturing home within herself, even when life presents challenges.
Glow in the F*cking Dark: Simple Practices to Heal Your Soul, from Someone Who Learned the Hard Way by Tara Schuster:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/glow-in-the-f-cking-dark-simple-practices-to-heal-your-soul-from-someone-who-learned-the-hard-way-tara-schuster/18679351?ean=9780593243091
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Vienna Pharaon returns to Reimagining Love for a profound conversation about her new book, which focuses on the impacts of our family of origin and how we can understand our past to improve our relationships in the present.
The Origins of You: How Breaking Family Patterns Can Liberate the Way We Live and Love by Vienna Pharaon:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-origins-of-you-how-breaking-family-patterns-can-liberate-the-way-we-live-and-love-vienna-pharaon/18612766?ean=9780593539910
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The timing of how things play out in our lives is often out of our control. How do we decide whether to pursue a budding relationship, even when "the time isn't right," or whether to accept circumstances and let things go? Dr. Solomon discusses all of this in more in this episode.
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Casual and/or circumstantial relationships can be fun, but they also pose unique challenges and often bring up complex emotions. In this episode, Dr. Solomon shares her thoughts on "situationships" and provides prompts and questions to assess whether your particular relationship is continuing to be enriching, respectful, and clear for both partners—or whether it may be time to move on.
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Dr. Marc Schulz, co-author of the book "The Good Life: Lessons from the World's Longest Scientific Study of Happiness" joins Dr. Solomon for a fascinating overview of the longitudinal research that he and his colleague Dr. Robert Waldinger synthesized in their new book. Dr. Schulz discusses some of the biggest takeaways from this study with Dr. Solomon, including hopeful and exciting insights about the connection between thriving relationships and a fulfilling life.
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Dr. Solomon's guest on this episode is Connor Beaton, a coach, speaker, and author of the new book "Men's Work." Their conversation focuses on men’s work and healing and touches on universally relevant topics including breaking free from shame and self-isolation, owning our emotions, and connecting with a kind of inner-strength that comes from courage and humility, rather than domination.
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Men's Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom by Connor Beaton:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/men-s-work-a-practical-guide-to-face-your-darkness-end-self-sabotage-and-find-freedom-connor-beaton/18423283?ean=9781683649908
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Daniel Maté joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion centering on parent-child relationships, with a focus on how to cultivate and update this relationship once both parties are adults. They discuss the "Hello Again" workshops that Daniel and his father, Gabor Maté, facilitate for people to work on this specific relationship, and explore the challenges and possibilities of the parent-child bond.
Hello Again: A Fresh Start For Parents And Their Adult Children:
https://www.helloagainproject.com/
Daniel's website:
https://www.danielmate.com/
The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture by Gabor Maté with Daniel Maté
https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-myth-of-normal-trauma-illness-and-healing-in-a-toxic-culture-gabor-mate/17446136?ean=9780593083888
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Open communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Solomon teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.
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Open communication is a key component of a healthy intimate partnership. But discerning what to share with our partner, as well as when and how to share it, is a common challenge. In this episode, Dr. Solomon teases out this issue, offering ideas for how we can be both candid AND compassionate towards those we love.
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Dance movement therapist Erica Hornthal joins Dr. Solomon for an enriching conversation about how movement and dance can have a transformative positive impact on our mental health. They also answer a listener question about regulating one's emotions during difficult conversations with a partner.
Body Aware: Rediscover Your Mind-Body Connection, Stop Feeling Stuck, and Improve Your Mental Health with Simple Movement Practice by Erica Hornthal:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/body-aware-rediscover-your-mind-body-connection-stop-feeling-stuck-and-improve-your-mental-health-with-simple-movement-practice-erica-hornthal/17771314?ean=9781623176891
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Stressing about our jobs is inevitable, and it can take a real toll on our intimate partnerships. In this episode, Dr. Solomon explores what happens when we take work home with us, and how it may create challenging dynamics with those we love. She provides tools and strategies to manage work stress in healthier ways, have empathetic conversations with our partners, and foster compassion for ourselves.
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Dr. Solomon sits down with her lifelong best friend, Ali, for a heartfelt conversation about their four decades of friendship and everything they've learned about each other and themselves along the way.
Ali's book, "The Heirloom"
https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-heirloom-alexandra-folz/11612835?ean=9780998276908
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Dr. Joy Harden Bradford, founder & CEO of Therapy for Black Girls, joins Dr. Solomon to discuss her mission to make mental health topics more relevant and accessible for Black women. They also discuss what to look for in a new therapist, the personal growth that comes from breakups and new beginnings, and a listener question from a single mom who's struggling with FOMO.
Therapy for Black Girls (including the online therapist directory):
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https://hellodrjoy.com/
Therapy for Black Girls Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/therapy-for-black-girls/id1223803641
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Becca Rea-Tucker is a cookbook author and Instagram sensation who bakes with a purpose, and she joins Dr. Solomon for a sweet discussion about her new cookbook, Baking by Feel, and her cakes with feminist messages that inspire people to use their voice.
Baking by Feel: Recipes to Sort Out Your Emotions (Whatever They Are Today!) by Becca Rea-Tucker
https://bookshop.org/p/books/baking-by-feel-recipes-to-sort-out-your-emotions-whatever-they-are-today-becca-rea-tucker/18321498?ean=9780063160040
Becca's Instagram (@thesweetfeminist)
https://www.instagram.com/thesweetfeminist/
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Dr. Solomon is joined by Alex Elle, author of the new book "How We Heal." They discuss healing through personal writing, how we can re-parent ourselves, and how we can build a life full of individual and relational growth amidst challenges and change.
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How We Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free by Alexandra Elle
https://bookshop.org/p/books/how-we-heal-uncover-your-power-and-set-yourself-free-alexandra-elle/18265479?ean=9781797216263
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Dr. Solomon guides listeners through an exploration of their "Original Love Classroom"—the family system they grew up in—and explains why the roles we were cast in as children impact the way we relate to those we love in the present.
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In this Love Stories episode, Dr. Solomon sits down with Elise & Suz, a young and recently married couple, for a thoughtful conversation about queerness, modern marriage, and building a life together. Elise & Suz share the story of how they met, their relationships with their own queerness and identity, and how they reimagined traditions for their wedding. They also reflect on some of the challenges, and the joys, of the post-marriage chapter.
Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):
estherperel.com/alexandra
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Dr. Hillary McBride joins Dr. Solomon to discuss her work on embodiment and presence. They talk about why and how to listen to what your body is telling you, and Dr. Hillary guides listeners through a body meditation that can help you come back to the present moment and feel more at ease.
Sessions Live Conference with Esther Perel (use code "ALEXANDRA" at checkout for 10% off):
estherperel.com/alexandra
The Wisdom of Your Body: Finding Healing, Wholeness, and Connection Through Embodied Living by Dr. Hillary McBride:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/the-wisdom-of-your-body-finding-healing-wholeness-and-connection-through-embodied-living-hillary-l-mcbride/16458447?ean=9781587435522
Mothers, Daughters, and Body Image: Learning to Love Ourselves as We Are by Dr. Hillary McBride:
https://bookshop.org/p/books/mothers-daughters-and-body-image-learning-to-love-ourselves-as-we-are-hillary-l-mcbride/12670127?ean=9781682613542
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In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Solomon addresses all of this and more in today's episode.
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In-law dynamics are complicated. What do you do when your partner's family is particularly challenging, or you're the one in the relationship with the family drama? Dr. Solomon addresses all of this and more in today's episode.
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Julie Lythcott-Haims, bestselling author of the books "How to Raise an Adult," "Real American," and "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult," joins Dr. Solomon on the show to discuss her career, groundbreaking writing, and the challenges she's decided to take on along the way. Listen to feel inspired by Julie and her mission to bring attention to the issues that matter most.
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims:
https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-raise-an-adult-break-free-of-the-overparenting-trap-and-prepare-your-kid-for-success/9781250093639
How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims:
https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult-9781250838414/9781250137777
Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims:
https://bookshop.org/books/real-american-a-memoir/9781250296733
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Today's episode features two legends from the fields of couples therapy and relationship science: Dr John Gottman, and Dr. Julie Gottman. They sit down with Dr. Solomon for a conversation about their groundbreaking research and careers, as well as their own relationship with one another, and share simple and actionable steps you can use today to deepen connection in your long-term partnership.
The Gottman Institute website:
https://www.gottman.com/
The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by Drs. John & Julie Gottman
https://bookshop.org/books/the-love-prescription-seven-days-to-more-intimacy-connection-and-joy/9780143136637
Small Things Often (The Gottman Institute podcast):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/small-things-often/id1498172564
Dr. Thema Bryant, president-elect of the American Psychological Association, joins Dr. Solomon for a rich conversation about how we can heal, grow, and thrive, both on the individual and community level. They also answer a listener question about how and when to speak up in difficult family arguments about religious beliefs.
Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:
https://bookshop.org/books/homecoming-overcome-fear-and-trauma-to-reclaim-your-whole-authentic-self/9780593418314
The Antiracism Handbook by Dr. Thema Bryant and Dr. Edith G Arrington:
https://bookshop.org/books/the-antiracism-handbook-practical-tools-to-shift-your-mindset-and-uproot-racism-in-your-life-and-community/9781684039104
The Homecoming Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689
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https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/
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On this solo episode, Dr. Solomon dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.
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On this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Solomon is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.
Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World by Cathy Cassani Adams
https://bookshop.org/books/zen-parenting-caring-for-ourselves-and-our-children-in-an-unpredictable-world/9780306925207?gclid=CjwKCAjwx7GYBhB7EiwA0d8oe0Uh6rkzzhTRl6xTwMGtdHg26Uyp3BGgOsQW9awnt6nNZ8D8rXC5HhoCqvUQAvD_BwE
Zen Parenting Radio:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318
Zen Parenting Website:
https://zenparentingradio.com/
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Mark Groves joins Dr. Solomon to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.
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The Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Solomon for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.
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In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Solomon continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.
Listen to Part 1 of this series:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271
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"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Solomon:
https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/
E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”:
https://catalog.psychotherapynetworker.org/sales/pn_c_afc001347_15_lovingbravely_email-105645
Mark Groves Ted Talk:
https://www.ted.com/talks/mark_groves_you_were_born_to_love_you_evolved_to_fit_in?language=en
Book: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman:
https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Practice-Emotion-Focused-Therapy-Essentials/dp/1433832852/ref=sr_1_1?crid=L7QAJ78C3X9T&keywords=rhonda+goldman&qid=1659051680&sprefix=rhonda+goldman%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1
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Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Solomon explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.
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Dr. Solomon's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.
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Dr. Solomon is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Solomon answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis:
https://bookshop.org/books/getting-to-zero-how-to-work-through-conflict-in-your-high-stakes-relationships/9780306924811
The Relationship School:
https://relationshipschool.com/
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World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:
https://bookshop.org/books/us-getting-past-you-and-me-to-build-a-more-loving-relationship/9780593233672
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Dr. Solomon explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, including cultural messaging and family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
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“Overfunctioning and Underfunctioning” by Dr. Will Meek:
https://willmeekphd.com/overfunctioning-underfunctioning/
“Women Aren't Nags—We're Just Fed” Up by Gemma Hartley (Harper’s Bazaar, September 2017):
https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12063822/emotional-labor-gender-equality/
“I Live With a Woman—We're Not Immune to Emotional Labor:
How LGBTQ couples navigate gender roles at home” by Trish Bendix (Harper’s Bazaar, October 2017):
https://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a12779502/emotional-labor-lgbtq-relationships/
Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live) by Eve Rodsky:
https://bookshop.org/books/fair-play-a-game-changing-solution-for-when-you-have-too-much-to-do-and-more-life-to-live/9780525541943?gclid=CjwKCAjwyryUBhBSEiwAGN5OCMpPV9pDU8oYDF4N2gccTwdOWo4hb8gHLsp3DfY1sTLi7IrxdD83YxoCGiQQAvD_BwE
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On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Solomon is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition.
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https://www.dameproducts.com/
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Lori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together.
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Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb:
https://bookshop.org/books/maybe-you-should-talk-to-someone-a-therapist-her-therapist-and-our-lives-revealed/9781328662057
"Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic:
https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/
Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb & Guy Winch (podcast):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696
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Dr. Solomon is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship.
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Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab:
https://bookshop.org/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself/9780593192092
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Dr. Eli Finkel, a social psychology professor at Northwestern University, joins Dr. Solomon for an in-depth discussion about the state of marriage and long-term partnership today, in an ever-changing and ever-complicated world. They also discuss Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage, and answer a listener question together about a new relationship.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
The All-Or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel:
https://bookshop.org/books/the-all-or-nothing-marriage-how-the-best-marriages-work/9781101984345
Dr. Eli Finkel's Website:
https://elifinkel.com/
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Have you ever been ghosted? Dr. Solomon dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Solomon encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.
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Dr. Solomon’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
We Need to Talk About Ghosting - Worksheet:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AdPotRUt94nPJ5i8-mDavCuzsmwecgRPrg4rqnjWmFg/edit?pli=1
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In celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Solomon for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below).
Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali:
https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475
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Dr. Solomon is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing.
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The Quaking of America: An Embodied Guide to Navigating Our Nation's Upheaval and Racial Reckoning by Resmaa Menakem
https://bookshop.org/books/the-quaking-of-america-an-embodied-guide-to-navigating-our-nation-s-upheaval-and-racial-reckoning/9781949481747
My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem
https://bookshop.org/books/my-grandmother-s-hands-racialized-trauma-and-the-pathway-to-mending-our-hearts-and-bodies-9781942094470/9781942094470
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Boundaries are front and center in this episode with guest expert Terri Cole, author of the book “Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free.” Alexandra and Terri talk about how the skill of setting boundaries is essential in relationships, and they answer two listener questions together that relate to this issue.
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Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free by Terri Cole:
https://bookshop.org/books/boundary-boss-the-essential-guide-to-talk-true-be-seen-and-finally-live-free/9781683647683
Terri’s Boundary Quiz:
https://boundaryquiz.com/
Terri’s website:
https://www.terricole.com/
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In this two part series, Dr. Solomon shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Solomon provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.
Listen to Part I of the Conflict series:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444
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Couples therapy directories:
https://gottmanreferralnetwork.com/
http://www.iceft.com/
http://therapist.com
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
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In this two part series, Dr. Solomon shares ten essential skills for couples struggling with routine conflict in their relationship. Offering strategies from her couples therapy practice, Dr. Solomon provides new language and ways of thinking about arguments that promote empathy and care, shifting couples into a "we" perspective so that they can move through hard times as a team.
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists
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Dr. Solomon is joined by renowned guest Dr. Mona Fishbane for a deep-dive into healthy relational habits, conflict resolution, and aging alongside one's partner.
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Loving with the Brain in Mind: Neurobiology and Couple Therapy by Mona Fishbane, Ph.D.
https://bookshop.org/books/loving-with-the-brain-in-mind-neurobiology-and-couple-therapy/9780393706536
Keep Sharp: Build a Better Brain At Any Age by Sanjay Gupta, MD
https://bookshop.org/books/keep-sharp-build-a-better-brain-at-any-age/9781501166730
The Vulnerability Cycle (Dr. Mona Fishbane's article with Michele Scheinkman, CSW):
https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2004.00023.x
Dr. Fishbane's website:
Monafishbane.com
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Today's episode is all about grief, featuring guest expert Megan Devine. Megan is a grief advocate, dedicated to helping us live through the things we never thought we’d face. Dr. Solomon and Megan discuss what we all get wrong about grief, and they address a question from a well-meaning listener who wants to learn how to better support a friend who has suffered a painful loss.
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It's Ok That You're Not Ok: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn't Understand by Megan Devine:
https://bookshop.org/books/it-s-ok-that-you-re-not-ok-meeting-grief-and-loss-in-a-culture-that-doesn-t-understand-9781622039074/9781622039074
How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal For Grief by Megan Devine:
https://bookshop.org/books/how-to-carry-what-can-t-be-fixed-a-journal-for-grief/9781683643708
Refuge in Grief: Megan's Online Community:
https://refugeingrief.com/
Connect with Megan:
megandevine.co
Here After, Megan's Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/here-after-with-megan-devine/id1595914505
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Dr. Shefali Tsabary, New York Times bestselling author and parenting expert, joins Dr. Solomon for a rich discussion about her new book, A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free, which explores the ways in which our patriarchal culture traps women into cycles and arrangements that keep them from living their fullest lives.
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A Radical Awakening: Turn Pain into Power, Embrace Your Truth, Live Free by Dr. Shefali Tsabary
https://bookshop.org/books/a-radical-awakening-turn-pain-into-power-embrace-your-truth-live-free/9780062985897
This solo episode focuses on the phrase “I love them, but I’m not in love with them.” Have you heard it in your own life? Dr. Solomon unpacks what can lie beneath the surface of this phrase and explores the feelings, ideas, and commitments that the world “love” captures for different people.
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The Brain in Love (Helen Fisher, TED):
https://www.ted.com/talks/helen_fisher_the_brain_in_love?language=en
Taking Sexy Back: How to Own Your Sexuality and Create the Relationships You Want by Dr. Alexandra Solomon:
https://bookshop.org/books/taking-sexy-back-how-to-own-your-sexuality-and-create-the-relationships-you-want/9781684033461
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Dr. Emily Nagoski comes on the show to talk all things sexuality and pleasure with Dr. Solomon. They answer two listener questions together and discuss Dr. Emily's work and research around female pleasure as well as burnout and the stress cycle.
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Come as You Are: Revised and Updated: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.
https://bookshop.org/books/come-as-you-are-revised-and-updated-the-surprising-new-science-that-will-transform-your-sex-life-9781982165314/9781982165314
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. & Amelia Nagoski, DMA
https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324
Dr. Emily Nagoski's Worksheets:
Sexual Temperament Questionnaire
Sexual Cues Assessment Worksheet
Turning Off the Offs Worksheet
Sexy Contexts Worksheet
Stress Worksheet
The Nap Ministry @thenapministry
https://www.instagram.com/thenapministry/?hl=en
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Dr. Dan Siegel joins Dr. Solomon to talk about attachment theory, parenting, and healing intergenerational trauma. Dr. Siegel's work looms large in the worlds of psychology, psychotherapy, and interpersonal neurobiology, and he has published many bestselling books, linked below.
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Links to a selection of Dr. Dan Siegel's books:
The Whole-Brain Child
The Mindful Therapist
Aware
Mentioned in this episode:
Caste by Isabel Wilkerson
How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi
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Dr. Solomon is joined by tech entrepreneur Cindy Gallop, who has made waves in the business world. She's the founder of Make Love Not Porn, the world’s first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, socializing and normalizing sex in order to make it easier to talk about sex, and to promote consent, communication, good sexual values and good sexual behavior. Cindy tells the story of MLNP and discusses a listener question with Dr. Solomon.
Dr. Solomon’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
MakeLoveNotPorn:
https://makelovenotporn.tv/
Deciding whether to stay or leave a relationship in the aftermath of infidelity is not easy, and in this episode, Dr. Solomon walks through the factors to consider when reeling from this crisis. She poses reflection questions for both partners and situates the crisis of infidelity in research and our cultural context. Dr. Solomon also announces the launch of her new e-course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit, which can be found below.
Dr. Solomon’s E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
CU Boulder Infidelity Study
https://www.colorado.edu/asmagazine/2018/04/04/extramarital-sex-partners-likely-be-close-friends-and-men-are-more-apt-cheat
Infidelity Around the World (The Economist)
https://www.economist.com/1843/2018/01/16/infidelity-around-the-world
Extramarital Affairs (Pew Research Center)
https://www.pewresearch.org/global/2014/01/14/extramarital-affairs-topline/
Post-Traumatic Stress & Infidelity Study (Stress & Health)
https://www.researchgate.net/publication/333787481_Posttraumatic_stress_and_psychological_health_following_infidelity_in_unmarried_young_adults
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On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Solomon welcomes on a couple with a stunning story of rebuilding their marriage in the aftermath of infidelity: Kristi Born & Rainier Wylde. Together, they explore the story of their relationship, starting from the day they first met, to the early years of their marriage, to the moment of rupture, and the incredible journey of repair that they continue today. Their story gives us the opportunity to empathize with the pain of infidelity, as well as providing insights about what rebuilding trust can look when both partners are committed to walking forward together.
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Books on infidelity and related topics:
What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal (John Gottman)
New Monogamy: Redefining Your Relationship After Infidelity (Tammy Nelson)
The State of Affairs (Esther Perel)
The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World (Desmond Tutu & Mpho Tutu)
The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma (Bessel Van Der Kolk)
Kristi's website:
https://www.kristiborn.com/
Rainier's website:
https://www.rainierwylde.com/
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Dating is hard enough, and with so many voices offering advice, opinions, and hot takes, it can be challenging to tune in with yourself and how you really feel about a new prospect. Dr. Solomon invites Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh on the show to answer a question from a listener who is having this exact challenge, and they discuss ways to regulate the nervous system and tune in with the body before, during, and after a date.
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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk:
https://bookshop.org/books/the-body-keeps-the-score-brain-mind-and-body-in-the-healing-of-trauma/9780143127741
Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski:
https://bookshop.org/books/burnout-the-secret-to-unlocking-the-stress-cycle/9781984818324
Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s website:
https://www.sara-nasserzadeh.com/
Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh’s Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dr.saranasserzadeh/
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Dr. Holly Richmond joins Dr. Solomon for a rich discussion about her book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life. They also answer a listener question about communicating sexual boundaries in dating situations. (CW: sexual trauma)
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Dr. Holly Richmond’s book, Reclaiming Pleasure: A Sex-Positive Guide for Moving Past Sexual Trauma and Living a Passionate Life:
https://bookshop.org/books/reclaiming-pleasure-a-sex-positive-guide-for-moving-past-sexual-trauma-and-living-a-passionate-life/9781684038428
Dr. Holly Richmond’s free mini-course, “Grounding Exercises for Survivors Reclaiming Pleasure after Sexual Trauma”
https://www.reclaimingyourpleasure.com/freeminicourse
Dr. Holly Richmond’s Instagram, @drhollyrichmond
https://www.instagram.com/drhollyrichmond/
National Sexual Assault Hotline (RAINN)
www.rainn.org
Additional resources and help lines:
https://ncadv.org/resources
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In this solo episode, Dr. Solomon gets into the nitty gritty of a common relational challenge: jealousy. Addressing both the jealous individual and their partner, Dr. Solomon illustrates how jealousy can manifest, what it says about a relationship and how couples can move through the emotion as a team.
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Resources and help lines for relationship abuse and domestic abuse:
https://ncadv.org/resources
The Widespread Suspicion of Opposite-Sex Friendships (The Atlantic)
https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/08/mistrust-opposite-sex-friendships/596437/
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Romantic Jealousy (Psychology Today)
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-files/201909/cognitive-behavioral-therapy-romantic-jealousy
Study: The Price of Distrust: Trust, Anxious Attachment, Jealousy, and Partner Abuse
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5380380/
Study: Romantic Attachment and Subtypes/Dimensions of Jealousy
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2936010/
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For this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Solomon welcomes identical twins Dr. Lindsay Kite and Dr. Lexie Kite to Reimagining Love. Lindsay and Lexie received PhDs in the study of women’s body image and have become leading experts in body image resilience and media literacy. Dr. Solomon dives deep with the Kites to hear about their childhood growing up as identical twins, tracing how the challenges and joys of their sisterhood lead them to the important work they do today and how their relationship has evolved through every stage of life.
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More Than a Body: Your Body is an Instrument, Not an Ornament by Drs. Lindsay and Lexie Kite
https://bookshop.org/books/more-than-a-body-your-body-is-an-instrument-not-an-ornament-9780358645573/9780358229247
The Kites’ website:
https://www.morethanabody.org/about-us/
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How do we know when we are too accommodating in relationships, or not accommodating enough? Dr. Solomon invites therapist and friend Vienna Pharaon on the show to talk about major life transitions and how they can impact our intimate partnerships. Together, they answer a question from a listener who is struggling to adjust to a new city and lifestyle, after having moved where her partner is doing his med school residency.
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Vienna Pharaon’s e-course, “The Origins of You”:
http://www.newyorkcouplescounseling.com/
Vienna Pharaon’s Instagram, @mindfulmft
https://www.instagram.com/mindfulmft/
A listener question about dating after divorce spurs a fascinating discussion between Dr. Solomon and guest expert Liz Earnshaw, a marriage and family therapist and author of the new book I Want This To Work. Liz and Dr. Solomon offer encouragement and possibilities to this listener as he considers looking for love in this new chapter.
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Referenced in this episode:
Liz Earnshaw's book: I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating the Most Difficult Relationship Issues We Face in the Modern Age
https://bookshop.org/books/i-want-this-to-work-an-inclusive-guide-to-navigating-the-most-difficult-relationship-issues-we-face-in-the-modern-age/9781683647959
Gottman’s “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse”
https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/
The holidays are upon us. How do we want to do things differently this year? Dr. Solomon discusses how to make the most of gatherings with loved ones, from having compassionate conversations, to taking breaks, to connecting over shared memories.
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Games to spark connection and conversation:
Table Topics:
https://www.tabletopics.com/
Heads Up:
https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.wb.headsup&hl=en_US≷=US
Where Should We Begin? A Game of Stories (Esther Perel)
https://www.estherperel.com/where-should-we-begin-the-game
Catch Phrase:
https://www.target.com/p/ultimate-catch-phrase-game/-/A-79749959
Love Lingual:
https://www.amazon.com/Love-Language-Conversation-Icebreakers-Relationship/dp/B0857JK41W/ref=sr_1_54?keywords=conversation+games&qid=1637347490&sr=8-54
Referenced in this episode:
Priya Parker in conversation with Krista Tippett:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/priya-parker-remaking-gathering-entering-the-mess/id150892556?i=1000537146183
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In this first “Love Stories” episode, Dr. Solomon sits down in the studio with Moe Ari and his mother, Sandra Brown. Originally assigned female at birth, Moe has used his own gender transition story to help many others discover their authentic voice and navigate the difficult journey of alignment, as a therapist and mindset coach. Moe and Sandra discuss their respective experiences of Moe’s transition, sharing the moments of realization, layers of grief, and unconditional love that allowed them to deepen their relationship through this major transformation.
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Moe’s website:
https://theemoeari.com/moeari
Moe’s Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/loveoutproud/?hl=en
Additional resources:
Moe Ari on the Mark Groves Podcast
The Gift of Gender Authenticity | Jean Malpas TEDx Talk
Ackerman Institute's Gender & Family Project
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Therapist Shadeen Francis joins Dr. Solomon to respond to a listener who is interested in opening up her marriage, but is facing resistance from her partner. They use this question as a springboard to explore the topic of disclosed non-monogamy, unmet needs, mental health and communication in a long-term partnership.
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Shadeen’s Website:
https://shadeenfrancis.com/
Shadeen’s Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/shadeenfrancis/
Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It":
https://terryreal.com/product/i-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/
Learn more about the topics covered in this episode:
The Flexibility of Female Sexuality with Wednesday Martin (The Psychology Podcast)
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Jessica Fern)
Relationship Bill of Rights (Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux)
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Nick Viall starred on the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor and hosts the popular podcast The Viall Files, where he discusses all things Bachelor Nation. On this episode, Dr. Solomon chats with Nick about the national conversations that The Bachelor franchise spurs about relationships, gender, and dating, and how these conversations can be both productive and divisive. Nick shares experiences and tools from his own relationship and helps Dr. Solomon answer a listener question about defensiveness. (CW: brief mention of sexual harassment & abuse)
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Dr. Alexandra Solomon: A Clinical Look at the Break-Up of Katie & Greg (The Viall Files):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-alexandra-solomon-a-clinical-look-at-the-break/id1448210981?i=1000531152178
Breaking Down Marriage 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (The Viall Files):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-down-marriage-101-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1448210981?i=1000505891430
Nick's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/
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Dr. Solomon is joined by guest expert Dr. Adia Gooden for an in-depth discussion about loving across a cultural difference. Together they answer a listener question and then broaden out to discuss racial, ethnic, religious, and political differences in intimate partnerships. Dr. Solomon and Dr. Gooden validate the challenges these couples will likely face while also highlighting the beautiful possibilities for growth, richness, and respect between two individuals with different origin stories. This episode also explores the ways that cross-cultural relationships have the potential to send positive reverberations through families, communities, and beyond.
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Dr. Adia Gooden’s website:
https://dradiagooden.com/
Pew: Intermarriage in the U.S. 50 Years After Loving v. Virginia:
https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/intermarriage-in-the-u-s-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/
Pew: Interfaith marriage is common in U.S., particularly among the recently wed:
https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/06/02/interfaith-marriage/
Pew: Shared religious beliefs in marriage important to some, but not all, married Americans:
https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2016/10/27/shared-religious-beliefs-in-marriage-important-to-some-but-not-all-married-americans/
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When one partner is ready and committed to doing the deep emotional work of improving a relationship, and the other partner is not quite there yet, it can feel like a difference that is impossible to bridge. In this solo episode, Dr. Solomon explores “Relational Self-Awareness Discrepancies,” sharing tools and ideas that couples can use to generate empathy and move to a place of understanding and growth when faced with this common issue.
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Mentioned in this episode:
Dr. Gabor Mate: https://drgabormate.com/
Dr. Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/
How do we reconnect with our loved ones, and ourselves, during times of global crisis? On this episode, Dr. Solomon is joined by renowned psychotherapist and author Esther Perel to puzzle through this pressing question. You may recognize Esther’s voice from her celebrated TED talks, which have garnered more than 30 million views. Her bestselling booksdelve into topics of desire, infidelity, and sustaining mystery and excitement in long-term relationships. Together, Esther and Alexandra address a nuanced listener question about whether to move forward with a relationship that has fallen flat during the COVID-19 lockdown. They also share information about Esther’s upcoming conference, Sessions Live, which is dedicated to therapists, coaches, and other professionals who help people navigate the complexities of modern relationships. Reimagining Love listeners can get a discount on their Sessions Live ticket by using the code “reimagininglove” at checkout: https://sessions.estherperel.com/sessions-live-2021
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Mentioned in this episode:
Terry Real:
https://terryreal.com/
UCSF burnout study:
https://www.ucsf.edu/news/2021/04/420231/frontline-health-workers-across-us-faced-unique-stressors-during-covid-19
The Wild Edge of Sorrow by Francis Weller:
https://bookshop.org/books/the-wild-edge-of-sorrow-rituals-of-renewal-and-the-sacred-work-of-grief/9781583949764
Adam Grant on Languishing
https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_grant_how_to_stop_languishing_and_start_finding_flow
Lisa Fortuna:
https://www.bumc.bu.edu/busm/profile/lisa-fortuna/
Rachel Botsman:
https://rachelbotsman.com/
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