Raising Inner Warriors: Recent Episodes

Anne Barnes

The podcast for Moms about how to best support your kids aged 5 to 11 who struggle with anxiety hosted by Anne Barnes, coach for Moms and clinical social worker. I started this podcast because I personally witnessed countless breakthroughs while teaching kids how to manage their anxious thoughts and harness their active imagination. I like to call that CONNECTING to their INNER WARRIOR rather than their inner worrier. I’ll be interviewing various guests including Moms who’ve learned to stop reassuring and accommodating their kids’ anxiety.

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Today we' re going to talk about  SLEEP....

I stopped counting the number of Moms who have told me over the years how important it is that their kids learn to  fall asleep,  stay asleep and do all this in their own bed...

I remember telling the father of my kids when they were preschool age that what I needed probably was a vitamin  to my diet so I wouldn't yawn so much throughout my workdays.. and he responded "No, what you really need is vitamin sleep"

I'm sure you can relate..

Let's tune in.. 

If you're a Mom feeling frustrated  and maybe resigned about things ever improving with your anxious kid,  know that sometimes talking to family or close friends about your concerns or  about your kids isn’t enough because what you really want is to get neutral support without judgement, shame nor blame.   I'm the coach who can help you with that. 

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Not all kids flourish in a traditional classroom setting. Especially those who struggle with anxiety, worry and overwhelm. 

Each child's learning journey can be fostered by encouraging what lights them up, their natural curiosity to explore and discover.

To lead the way, I'll be speaking with Terri DelSignore, a Mom of three kids from Ontario, Canada. 

Let's tune in!

If you're a Mom feeling frustrated  and maybe resigned about things ever improving with your anxious kid,  know that sometimes talking to family or close friends about your concerns or  about your kids isn’t enough because what you really want is to get neutral support without judgement, shame nor blame.   

I'm the coach who can help you with that. 

Book a free consult: https://calendly.com/raisinginnerwarriors/appointmentlink

Share this podcast here: https://raisinginnerwarriors.buzzsprout.comFollow me on FaceBook & Instagram & LinkedIn @annegeraldinebarnes

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In this first episode, we're going to look at some ways you can effectively support your anxious aged 5 to 11 who struggles with anxiety by using both cognitive behavioural therapy tools as well as mind-body tools to harness your kid’s active imagination while you embrace your “inner scientist”

  • Healthy anxiety vs unhealthy anxiety  4:38
  • What parents can do to help kids problem solve and access their active imagination: 10.00
  • Embracing your inner scientist: 12:29
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This short episode (6 min) was actually a FaceBook live that I did in the height of the pandemic where I shared some of the regular feedback I would get as a social worker working in mental health from many teens and their wishes about how they wished things had been different when they were younger in elementary school related to among other things over-scheduling.   

I shared these thoughts asking the viewers back in 2020 during the pandemic to use "this unprecedented time in history as an opportunity to connect and attune to your kids, to their real needs, their authentic self." 

Let's tune in.. 

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We usually equate gifted kids as something to admire and praise and yet like all things, there is a downside..

In this short episode, I introduce the concept of the growth mindset vs the fixed mindset. 

Tune in to find out more..

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Tune in and discover the benefits of Bach Flowers to help  reduce anxiety and  stress for you and your child.  To lead the way, I'm speaking with Beth Terrence, holistic practitioner and shaman with over 25 years experience. 

Beth's website:  https://bethterrence.com

Follow Beth on Twitter @BethTerrence & Instagram @beth.shekinah

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How can Moms learn to best support their kids without overprotecting them?

Listen in to find out how..

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"My son is a perfectionist. If he can't achieve something perfectly, he gets super upset and it turns into a meltdown."

Listen in to this 10 minute episode where I talk about the things parents do and that I certainly when dealing with meltdowns related to perfectionism and feelings of not good enough.. 

What's not working and what parents can do differently ... 

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What  are the key differences between a vulnerable kid vs a capable kid?

Think about a situation in the past two weeks where your kid felt stressed out. 
How did they react?

Shutting down and refusing to talk for hours ?
Lashing out at siblings and/or you?
Seeking negative attention?

What's the difference between being disappointed vs being upset?

Listen in (just under 9 min) to find out more..

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"What's the best approach to manage my son's video game/entertainment time? He's glued to the screen for hours on end.  He throws a fit if this is taken away & is always asking: "Just five more minutes Mom... please, please, please...."
What do you think? What are your obstacles? What are the downsides?
Here's some: 
1) lack of creativity
2) little or no  physical activity
3) household chores can often be neglected

How can we encourage flexibility and adaptability in kids, which is part of the definition of resiliency?
What about the idea of screen time being at treat AFTER the household chores are done?
What about letting go and allowing kids to actually do household chores and contribute as a first priority?

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Listening to understand and be understood…. To lead the way, I’ll be speaking with Amy Bose, a Mom living in Scotland who has been participating in Listening Partnerships for the past few years and who will share first hand her experience.

  • 2:32  Why a Listening Partnership & How It Works
  • 6:37  What is Helpful in a Listening Partnership
  • 16:34: Confidentiality
  • 19:02: How to Get Started in a Listening Partnership
  • 22:03: The Unexpected Benefits of a Listening Partnership
  • 23:53: Who is NOT a good fit for a LISTENING PARTNERSHIP ?

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  • 01:47 : What is body confidence?
  • 04:38:  The signs of low body confidence and negative body image
  • 08:00:  Body Confidence and boys
  • 10:32:  How body is talked about in the home and the impact and influence on kids
  • 11:45:  Age when body dissatisfaction can easily begin to appear
  • 13:02: How  Moms  can help their kids improve their body confidence

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Here are SEVEN key habits to nurture your kids’ emotional well being and positively impact their attitudes and behaviours…  that can last a lifetime.. things that I often shared with families over the years as a registered social worker..

2:46 Why making HUGGING your kids a habit is so beneficial to both your kids and yourself. 4:57: How to support your kid who CRAVES certainty and predictability
9:18:  Reducing BICKERING between siblings with this habit
13:27: The power of ONE THREE LETTER WORD that makes all the difference
14:30: The BEST MEDECINE  of all for your kids' MOOD
16:57: Impacting and influencing
18:58: Fostering creativity

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Does this sound like you?

Your kid has difficulty sleeping in their own bed.. and prefers to sleep with you..  in the parents bed..  avoiding doing scary things like learning to swim..

You’re  working really hard to find a solution.

You can’t think of what else to say to  your kid..

and nothing seems to help..

And you are at the end of your rope... frustrated after attempting to many different things without much success..  

 And then, unexpectedly,  things begin to finally shift.. several  years later ..

To share her story, I’ll be speaking with Alison Riley Rodden, Mom to one boy.
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In this episode I'll talk about the unconscious programming that happens to all humans from birth until age seven and how we mirrored and matched our parents/caregivers: Monkey see, monkey do. I discuss why such information is vital to understand when raising Inner Warriors including how limiting beliefs are created at a very young age with **approximately 10, 000 hours of messages of who they are and what they're capable of. And, of course, this programming is reinforced beyond the age of seven, right up through the teens, getting reinforced with stories of how things look and feel.

More importantly, I discuss how the protocol SleepTalk is highly beneficial to as a highly effective method of communicating with your kid’s subconscious mind for two minutes nightly while they sleep … I know because I’ve helped hundreds of families with this approach as a mental health practitioner and as parent coach.. since 2014 when I became certified in SleepTalk.

1:30 : let's talk about the most powerful part of the human mind
5:45: Three things that all humans are naturally wired to get from our parents/caregivers
14:44: Why kids don't always share what's on their mind with their parents
25:44: Anchoring in new beliefs**

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Do you recall getting called up to the blackboard to answer a math question in front of the class.. I certainly do.. and it was my biggest fear.. My mind would go blank.. and my face would go red.. And so, not surprising, Math for me became a four letter word by high school.

And yet.. all these years later.. the stereotypes of girls and math persist such as the myth that men are better at math and science while women are better at nurturing careers.

To lead the way, I’ll be speaking to Elaine Griggs an American national award winning math and Computer Science teacher, who was a working mathematician before teaching. Elaine has also worked at the policy level in Computer Science with other educators in Washington DC presenting to congress the importance of computer science and CS education for ALL.

Founder of the k12stemclub.com, Elaine states clearly her mission: increasing availability of quality instruction to ALL students with a Focus on Access to under-represented students. “My goal for your child is to use their imagination and creativity to develop their own ideas, inventions and become life-long CONFIDENT learners.”

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In this episode, I’ll be speaking with Carina McEvoy a psychotherapist, paediatric hypnotherapist, author of two books on child anxiety, former secondary school teacher, wife and mother from Wexford, Ireland.

Carina is passionate about speaking out about her childhood experiences related to anxiety with the fervent belief that the more we hear, the more we talk and the more we talk, the less , of a stigma mental health will be.

  • What raising inner warriors means to Carina: 2:33
  • Parenting as an anxious parent: 5:43
  • Fears parents have related to their kid's anxiety: 9:22

  • Carina's books on anxiety: one for parents and one for kids: 28:33

  • **https://carinamcevoy.com/books

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In this episode, we're going to talk about kids who aren’t motivated to get any kind of help for their anxiety and tend to unnecessarily struggle. Many parents seem to believe that if they explain and reassure their kids enough times, their kids will finally understand & stop feeling anxious. And what usually happens is just the opposite: the worry just continues.. and even flourishes because parents end up accommodating more and more their anxious kid .

However, there is hope! If you want to see meaningful change in your kids who struggle with anxiety, I highly recommend a scientifically proven treatment program, a parent-based approach only called SPACE - Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions, developed by Eli Lebowitz Director of the program for anxiety disorders at the Yale School of Medicine Child Study Center.

  • Unmotivated Anxious kids & Mom's shame and guilt: 1.19
  • Accommodating Anxious kids: 2:53
  • Introducing SPACE - Supportive Parenting for Anxious Childhood Emotions: 9:50

If you're a mother and feel frustrated and hopeless about things ever improving with your anxious kid, know that sometimes talking to family or close friends about your concerns or about your kids isn’t enough because what you really want is to get neutral support without judgement, shame nor blame. I'm the coach that can help you with that. Book a free consult call today: https://calendly.com/raisinginnerwarriors/appointmentlink

  1. Free mp3 self hypnosis download for Moms: https://bit.ly/freeGUIDEDAUDIOFORMOMS

  2. Share this podcast here: https://raisinginnerwarriors.buzzsprout.com

  3. please join the private facebook group for Moms: https://bit.ly/raisinginnerwarriors

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Today's episode is an invitation to try new things without putting pressure on yourself nor on your kid.  The focus here is an invitation for your kid to gradually learn how to cope more independently regardless of whether you, their parent,  is  present or  absent, remembering that this is a PROCESS rather than an event.  

  • Why Mental Rehearsal is beneficial for kids who struggle with anxiety : 2:24
  • Why many anxious kids like Mental Rehearsal: 4:47
  • Impacting and influencing your kid with a  playful lighthearted approach : 5:43
  • Planting seeds of possibilities: A practical exercise : Part one :How Mental Rehearsal can work with your kid.  8:49

  • Part two of Mental Rehearsal by Anchoring in success:11:00

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In this first episode, we're going to look at some ways you can effectively support your anxious aged 5 to 11 who struggles with anxiety by using both cognitive behavioural therapy tools as well as mind-body tools to harness your kid’s active imagination while you embrace your “inner scientist”

  • Healthy anxiety vs unhealthy anxiety 4:38
  • What parents can do to help kids problem solve and access their active imagination: 10.00
  • Embracing your inner scientist: 12:29
  • Free self-hypnosis mp3  to restore and renew yourself: https://bit.ly/freeGUIDEDAUDIOFORMOMS
  • please join the private facebook group for Moms:  https://bit.ly/raisinginnerwarriors

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Hi ! Welcome to Raising inner Warriors, the podcast for Moms about how to best support your kids aged 5 to 11  who struggle with anxiety. I’m your host Anne Barnes, coach  for  Moms  and  clinical social worker.    I  started this podcast because  I personally witnessed countless  breakthroughs while teaching kids  how to manage their anxious thoughts  and harness their active imagination.   I like to call that connecting to their inner warrior rather than  their inner worrier!  I’ll  be interviewing various guests including  Moms who’ve learned to stop reassuring and accommodating their kids’ anxiety. In the meantime,  please join the private facebook group for Moms https://bit.ly/raisinginnerwarriors