FiveMinuteThoughts: Recent Episodes
Jess
The purpose of this podcast is to provide five minutes per episode of positive and enlightening thoughts.
There are many different routes to take when it comes to generating multiple streams of income, and making passive income. Something I have realized is that in order to make more money, working harder isn’t necessarily the answer. Working smarter, is.
How do you create something no one can take from you? Going to the gym consistently taught me about building a routine, commitment, dedication and discipline. Everything I learned in the gym, I can use in other areas of my life. It has helped me build confidence, respect myself, love myself and know that I can do anything I put my mind to.
It’s about being able to grow your mind just as much as your body. Mental toughness is something no one can take from you.
It might seem easy to simply do as everyone else does. Give in to the instant dopamine hits, the instant gratification and pleasures of life. But these things rarely have space in your life if you are trying to achieve big goals. Instant gratification doesn’t grow you, delayed gratification does.What would your life look like if you stopped avoiding doing what you knew you needed to do?
A big part of becoming successful is having a plan when it feels like everything is turned against you. What version of you will you choose to be? When the moments of struggle come, what will your plan be? Will you listen to people who want to talk negativity over your life? Will you let your inner doubts and insecurities take over? Are you going to give up early on your goals? Decide what your plan will be.
Self-fulfilling prophecy, also known as interpersonal expectancy effect, refers to the phenomenon whereby a person’s or a group’s expectation for the behavior of another person or group serves actually to bring about the prophesied or expected behavior.
Becoming more aware of what things are deterring us from our destiny and which things will propel us towards our destiny can only aid in us becoming more directed, less distracted and ultimately more successful at achieving our goals.
You will only go as far as your mind allows.
Why not believe for the best outcome? Why not carry around a belief that it can be done?
We live in a world that seems to glorify victim mentality. It’s become accepted to think that we are simply a victim of our upbringing, our skin color, our gender or whatever else we may choose to decide makes us at a disadvantage.
In some cases, we are even rewarded for being socially disadvantaged.
And it feels good at first. It feels good to throw yourself a pity party and make excuses for why you are the way you are and why you aren’t as successful as you could have been.
When studied, researches found 3 traits that appear to stand out when determining who will be successful and who won’t. If you have these 3 common traits, you are very likely to become successful.
I think we are all hypocrites to a certain extent. We all say we care about one thing, yet do another. We all say we believe in certain things and then do things that totally negate those beliefs.
How can we truly discover someone’s values? Can we simply trust that they value what they say they value? Or do we need to watch their actions?
The best way to determine what someone values is to watch what they spend their time, money and energy on.
The statement “that’s it” when it comes to our problems could help maintain our composure in the heat of the moment when things are not going our way. It sees the problem, it acknowledges the problem, and it says okay. It is what it is. Let’s keep going. Don’t let this problem become more than it is. Don’t let it get the best of you.
We decide to work towards one of our goals, we decide we want to accomplish something, we decide to get in shape or eat right or invest into a new hobby or save money, etc.
And then we don’t honor those commitments
The dictionary definition of Intention is: a thing intended; an aim or plan.
Are we making decisions with an eventual goal, aim or plan in place?
As I have talked about before, our dream life, income, partner, etc. will not just fall into our lives one day. These are things we have to work towards and for. These are things we have to invest in, learn about, grow in and have a plan of action as to how we will achieve them.
Putting the power back into our own hands and realizing that we are in control of our lives allows us to take responsibility of where we are at and what decisions we have made that led us here.
We need to start viewing our life as being changeable, malleable and most importantly, worthy of a good storyline. We really are the ones creating our stories as we go along. Why not make something good?
For anyone who has big goals and wants to accomplish them, accepting the inevitability of failure is a must. We need to get over this mental hurdle that failure is somehow a bad thing. Once we accept that we will fail and we will fail often, we will welcome failures as what they actually are. A learning experience.
My experiences with alcohol and the recent realization I've had with why I have always struggled with the concept of alcohol.
When we live our lives unintentionally, we are directionless. If we want more out of life, (a healthy relationship, a better job, a higher income, a successful business, a better body, better health, learning a new hobby, etc.). we must live intentionally.
My experience reading The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. Grappling with the ideas of mindfulness and enjoying present pleasures against my more natural inclination to live a life that is geared around delayed gratification, discipline and future goals.
What does it mean to have a high-achieving mindset? Personally, I think it sucks, although I'm sure there are some pros.
Sometimes the difference between being called Crazy and being called a Genius is simply the passing of time.
Are there innate benefits of having wildly delusional thought patterns? I walk around and I believe that I can do anything I want to do. No one is smarter than anyone else. The things that I want, I can achieve. While this is a delusional way of thinking, it has also produced many benefits in my life, including giving myself a fighting chance when it comes to trying things I want to try.
We do a lot for our physical appearance. We work out, buy gym memberships, wear certain clothes and put on make-up. What are we doing to grow our soul appearance? What are we doing to grow our character?
Our Money Story is created through the experiences we had with money growing up. We might cling to a scarcity mindset or think money is hard to make or wealth is only accessible for people who were born into it. Let's challenge ourselves to dig deep on why we have the beliefs that we do around money and change that to be centered around abundance.
Impostor syndrome, also known as impostor phenomenon or impostorism, is a psychological occurrence in which people doubt their skills, talents, or accomplishments and have a persistent internalized fear of being exposed as frauds. In what areas of our lives are we shying away from sharing our experiences and skills with others for fear that we don't know it all and are not experts.
Focusing on all the things that are going wrong will only lead to us finding more things to complain about. Choosing to see the positive in any situation and choosing to focus on things that are going well in life will lead to a life full of blessings. Remember, a bad day does not equal a bad life.
What does Newton's first law of inertia have to do with our every day lives? How can we use the concept of momentum to create the life that we want?
"Show me your friends and I'll show you your future." Why do we hang out with the people we do? What effect do our five closest friends have on us? Why should we be intentional about the people we hang out with and the people we let into our lives?
What is the Spotlight Effect and is there hope in believing that nobody actually cares about us, nor are they spending their time thinking about us?
How much are we experiencing that is outside of our bubble? Is this bubble we live in intentional or unintentional? Is what we experience, see, view and consume a conscious creation? Or are we living in an unconsciously created environment?
Excerpt from When the Past is Present and how to see others' actions as they are, without unnecessarily personalizing those actions as more than they were intended. How have our emotional wounds from our past impacted the relationships we have in our adult life?
One day you will wake up and realize that all the things you shared with someone are long gone and all the things that used to remind you of them simply don't anymore. You will realize they no longer have a hold on you and you will feel truly free.
As someone who has struggled with processing my experiences and being able to articulate my feelings in person, keeping a journal has played a key role in helping me organize my thoughts and feelings. Whether you're on your healing journey or struggling to deal with a particular trauma in life, writing down what you are going through can help you process those experiences.
What is something you have always wanted to do that you keep putting off? "Perfect timing" doesn't exist. If you wait for the perfect time, you'll never do what it is that you want to do. Stop thinking and just do it. Nike.
Why is making your first dollar online more important than making your first million online?
The boundaries that you have, whether you realize you have them or not, are there for a reason. Someone choosing to ignore your boundaries should affect you and it's okay to get upset over it.
What are your actions like when it's just not your day? What do you do on the days that you are tired, sick or un-inspired? What do you do on challenging days?
What is an uncomfortable decision that you know would positively impact your life in the long run? Therapy? Working on your relationship? Forgiving someone? Connecting with your kids? Starting that business? Picking up that hobby? Is the harder decision to do that thing, or is it getting to the end of your life and realizing that you never reached your full potential and experienced all that life had in store for you because you wanted to remain comfortable?
When we are lonely or desperate for love, we grab at things that are not made for us. Personally, I agree. I think about how I used to treat my dating life and the relationships I jumped into and the situationships I entertained, all because I wanted love and I wanted someone to love. So I tolerated being treated in ways I didn't deserve and I entertained people who hadn't lived up to my standards.
A few years ago I read the book "Atomic Habits" by James Clear. While this book was great at helping me identify what positive and negative habits I had in my life, it wasn't until recently that I discovered what a "Keystone Habit" was. Unlike your usual daily habits, a keystone habit is a habit that carries more weight. It has a the ability to create an avalanche of related habits, which can change your entire life over time.
It's common for people to overlook the work, the dedication and the daily "boring" decisions that building something of value takes. No body wants to be disciplined, but everyone wants the results that that discipline produces. Plenty of people will say that they wish they had accomplished what you have, without seeing the years of struggle and pain it took for you to get there. People see the big things and they conveniently miss the small things. When it's actually all the small things that paved the way for the big things. You cannot be impressed by someone's accomplishments while simultaneously ignoring the process it took to get there.
The mission of the Living Unsubscribed Podcast is to have conversations and spark ideas around the subject of personal growth, entrepreneurship and how to create a more fulfilling life. I’m far from an expert in life but I do want to share my journey into personal growth, as well as start a community of like-minded people. You can tune in weekly to the Living Unsubscribed podcast for fresh new episodes, posted every Sunday. I hope these episodes are able to inspire you to live a life that is fulfilling and full of abundance. If you find this podcast or one of the episodes of value, I ask that you share it with someone you know so that we can continue the conversation and reach as many people as possible. My name is Jess and I am excited for this new journey we get to take together.
Jessica Walters and Katie Jo Perkins dive into Katie's blog "In Other Words" where she discusses and ranks the novels she has read and shares her insight on what makes it a good read.
Making friends as an adult is hard. In this episode, I drop some helpful tips on how to verify if a friend has a sense of humor or not.
Jessica Walters and Katie Jo Perkins share their stories of doing drugs for the first time.
Jessica Walters and Amber White discuss their different views on being friends with straight people vs being friends with gay people.
Jessica Walters and Katie Jo Perkins deep dive into an unbridled tirade regarding the recent divorce of what's his name "Tom Brady" and his stunningly gorgeous supermodel wife, Gisele.
For as long as I have known, I have struggled with being able to relax. My therapist and I have been working on solutions where I can feel like I am accomplishing my tasks, while still prioritizing items that allow me to decompress, unwind and relax. Scheduling blocks in my calendar for "relaxation time" can help me take the time I need, guilt-free.
Cafe Convos: a cohosted episode between Molly Erwin and Jessica Walters where they debate what qualifies as a red flag in someone's dating app profile.
Cafe Convos: a cohosted episode with Molly Erwin and Jessica Walters as they discuss the modern disaster of Online Dating in 2022.
While I’m learning how to stop playing small in my life, I’m also committing to creating what I want to create, no matter how big or small, how poorly written or recorded. I’m committed to creating, regardless of what others have to say about it. Because sometimes it’s okay to suck at it and do it anyway.
Cafe Convos: First co-hosted podcast episode between Molly Erwin and Jessica Walters. They offer their take on a Queer Speed Dating event in Kansas City.