BYOB: Bring Your Own Baggage: Recent Episodes
Justine Lee
Join me, Justine, to talk about mental health and body image issues on college campuses from the perspective of a college student. These issues are much more prevalent than you'd expect, so I'm here to show you that you are not alone in your struggles and give some advice based on my experiences. Let's get talking about emotions! Instagram: @bringyourownbaggage
hi duffels!! I'm back with another episode, and today we are talking about failure. Join me as I discuss where I've been the last few months and how I'm re-defining "failure," and also share some stories about times people have "failed"... enjoy!
hi duffels and welcome back! Today I am joined by three Clinical Psychology PhD students in Harvard's BEST (Biopsychosocial Effects of Stigma)Lab. We discuss how they became interested in researching the effects of stigma on mental health, the work that the BEST Lab is doing, how structural stigma contributes to health inequities, and more... enjoy!
hello duffels!! We're back for one last episode of 2023!! Today, I am joined by Kristine Lee and Anamika Dutta to answer all of the questions you submitted for therapists. We discuss favorite coping skills, whether therapists have therapists, what happens if they don't mesh well with a client, and more... enjoy!!
happy Friday duffels! In this episode I talk all things friendship breakups - from my personal experience , to what I've learned, to talking about boundaries with friends - this episode has it all. Enjoy!
heyyy duffels! honestly the title says it all... in this (very unplanned and unscripted) episode I give a life update, talk about loneliness, and answer some self-reflection questions! I laugh, I cry, I have an existential crisis - this episode has it all...enjoy!!
happy pride duffels!!! Today I am joined by Taylor Holton to discuss bisexuality. We talk about our coming out stories, how we knew we were bisexual, feeling valid in our sexual identity, and more...enjoy!!
heyyy duffels we're back with another episode!! Today I'm joined by a fellow UVA -> Boston transplant, Naeha Ganesan, to talk about long distance relationships. In this episode we discuss pros/cons of LDRs, communication in LDRs, how to have quality time when apart, and more... enjoy!!
hello duffels! Today I am joined by Kara Johansen to talk about confidence. We discuss her journey with self-confidence, what confidence looks like in post-grad life, tips for creating confidence, and more...enjoy!
hi again, duffels! It's been a while, but I'm back! In this episode, I discuss where I'm at in my life right now (spoiler alert: I'm feeling stuck) and give an update about making friends in a new city/dealing with body image issues. I also go through some tips for getting out of a slump if you're also feeling stuck at the point of life you're in... enjoy!
hello duffels! Today I am joined by Alyssa Harper to discuss mental health as an influencer. We discuss comparison among creators online, gaining the confidence to be your most authentic self, finding purpose through your career, dealing with hate, and more... enjoy!
Listen to Alyssa's podcast, "She Said What?", on all streaming platforms, and find her on Tik Tok @alyssataylorharper
Hi duffels! Welcome back to another episode! Today I’m joined by Marley Freygang to discuss perfectionism. We discuss the pressure to be perfect, how comparison manifests in post grad life, motivating yourself vs. burning out, and more… enjoy!
welcome back and Happy New Year, duffels! Today I am joined by Ariana Rivens to discuss everything you need to know about starting therapy (AKA therapy 101!). We talk about what qualities to look for in a therapist, overcoming the "awkwardness" of the first session, how to advocate for yourself in therapy, and more... enjoy!
Note: BYOB will now be released on Wednesdays:)
hello duffels! Today I am joined by Hope Murney to discuss self-objectification. We discuss what self-objectification is, body image, how it connects to social attraction/popularity, and whether or not popularity exists in post-grad environments. If you (like me) have been struggling with insecurity around being "cool"/accepted, this is the episode for you... enjoy!
GoFundMe for Lavel Davis Jr. : https://www.gofundme.com/f/lavel-tyler-davis
GoFundMe for D'Sean Perry: https://www.gofundme.com/f/paying-tribute-to-dsean
GoFundMe for Devin Chandler: https://www.gofundme.com/f/g3hfhj-devin-chandler
Mental health resources for UVA students:
- https://www.studenthealth.virginia.edu/CAPS
- https://www.uvastudco.com/mental-health-resources
- https://www.studenthealth.virginia.edu/timelycare
hello duffels! Today I am joined by Taylor Hawthorne to talk about all things related to burnout. We discuss hustle culture, academic validation, tips for managing burnout, and more... enjoy!
Check out Taylor's mental health blog here: https://thornesandroses.org/blog and find it on Instagram @thornessandroses
hello duffels! If you are in need of a confidence boost, this is the episode for you. Today I am joined by Sadie Sutton, host of the "She Persisted" podcast to discuss dealing with comparison and building confidence. Sadie and I discuss how we've dealt with comparison, how comparison affects personal relationships and confidence, tips for building confidence, and more!
If you're a fan of the podcast, please subscribe, give it a 5 star rating wherever you listen to your podcasts, and share it with a friend... Enjoy!
Are you interested in coming on the podcast? Send an email to bringyourownbaggagepodcast@gmail.com or DM @bringyourownbaggage on Instagram.
Happy Monday duffels! Today I am joined by Kristine Lee to discuss figuring out the next step in your career path. We talk about feelings of confusion/stress/dread when thinking about the future, the pressure to quickly figure out "what's next??", her experience applying to PhD programs and how she bounced back after being rejected from all of the programs she applied to, and more! Stay tuned until the end of the episode to get some grad school application tips if you are thinking of pursing a PhD in clinical psych:) enjoy!
hey duffels! Today I am joined by Britta Egeland to give some tips for how to make friends. We talk about: the importance of friendship, how we became friends through Instagram, Bumble BFF, and more! Stay tuned until the end of the episode for a solo conversation about loneliness (and how I've been struggling with it recently). Enjoy!
Are you interested in coming on the podcast? Send an email to bringyourownbaggagepodcast@gmail.com!
heyyy duffels! Today I have a solo pod for you where I talk about my struggles with body image. I discuss my honest thoughts about Orangetheory, my journey with disordered eating, the skills I've picked up to create a more positive relationships with exercise/eating, and more. If you're a fan of the podcast, please subscribe, give it a 5 star rating on Spotify/Apple Podcasts, and share it with a friend... enjoy!!
happy Monday, duffels! Today I am joined by Emily Carchia to discuss tips for maintaining long distance friendships. We discuss: ideas for FT dates, scheduling time to talk vs. spontaneous calls, conflict in friendships, and more! We also have quite a long intro where we discuss not being able to watch Disney channel, friend groups (yay no nay?), my crazy taxi story, and American Girl Dolls... enjoy!!
To skip right to our tips for making long distance friendships work go to 37:49
we're back, duffels!!! I am SO excited to be recording again, and I can't wait for you all to join me as I navigate post-grad life. In this episode, I talk about adjusting to change, loneliness, comparison, what I've learned about this stage of my life (so far), and more! New episodes every Monday!!
Thank you guys for listening<3
Order of guests (timestamps marked in chapter info):- Claire Hutcheson
- Bri Johnston
- Ned Flanagan
- Rachel Greif
- Natalie Abbey
- Kyra Lee
- Jess Pentel
- Alice Opiyo
- Jada Smith
- Ana Tsiskarishvili
- Kristen Reid
- Paul Andrews
- Mary Isaac Cargill
- Daniel Shapiro
- Deric Childress Jr.
- Ben Goodson
- Eddie Opoku
- Olivia Hazelwood
- Ella Tomko
- Caroline Biondo & Tory Key
hi duffels! this episode is a little late due to the fact that I graduated on Saturday, but better late than never right?? If you also graduated recently, congrats (!!) and this is the episode for you because I am joined by Dr. Alison Nagel to discuss how to make friends post-college. We discuss tips for creating deeper friendships with new people, how to make friends outside of work, how to make the transition out of college easier, and more... enjoy!
duffels!! Today I am joined with one of my favorite professors ever, Dr. Jessica Stern, to discuss attachment and relationships. We cover what attachment is and why it matters, the styles of attachment, how to change your attachment style, conflict and communication differences, and sooo much more... enjoy!
duffels, this is the ultimate girl talk episode (so if you're related to me pls don't listen<3) !!! Today I am joined with Charlie Phillips to spill the tea on everything related to breakups. We talk about coping with a breakup, situationships, hook-up culture, messy breakup texts and more... enjoy!!
duffels, if you've been struggling with self-esteem and confidence lately (me), then this is the episode for you! I am joined by Katie Yared to discuss her journey in creating confidence, how coming to college affected her view of herself, internal validation vs. external validation, and more... enjoy!!
TW: suicide
duffels, today I am joined by Jess Pentel for one of my favorite episodes to date! We discuss survivor's guilt, healing from grief, her role as the IYRT photographer, mental health in Greek life, and more... enjoy!
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 800-273-8255
happy Tuesday, duffels! Today I am joined by Marina Albuquerque to discuss the effects of social media on mental health. We cover how social media affects body image, social comparison on Instagram, how to create a healthier relationship with social media, and more... enjoy!
hi duffels, this is a topic that I hold very close to my heart, so buckle up! Today I am joined by Paul Andrews to talk about his carry-on story of coming out to his religious parents. We discuss religion and sexuality, our experiences coming out to our parents, finding support after coming out, and more... enjoy!
Resources:
The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help/#sm.000014nmnpimqxfrowdtyark7qajf
Trans Lifeline: https://translifeline.org/
Queer Grace (an online encyclopedia for LGBTQ+ individuals and Christian life): http://queergrace.com/
happy Monday, duffels!! If you have been looking for a sign to start your fitness journey, consider this it. Today I am joined by Anna Michaud to talk about her careers in the fitness industry as a SPENGA instructor and Athletic Training Student, how she creates boundaries between fitness for work vs. enjoyment, finding motivation to teach on hard days, and more... enjoy!
duffels, this is one of my favorite episodes to date because I am joined by my absolute role model, Meghan Costello. We discuss how taking a semester off in undergrad changed the course of her career (she's almost done getting her PhD in clinical psych now!!), her research regarding emotional support, how to be a better friend and more... enjoy!
I've got another 2 for 1 episode for you today, duffels! In this episode, I am joined by Lucy Coulson & Logan Jones-Wilkins to discuss how they've carried on as friends after dating for ~3 years. We discuss how they developed a healthy friendship post-breakup, jealousy, boundaries in their friendship, and more... enjoy!
PS: do you guys think honey or maple syrup is better??? Serious debate
hi duffels! Today I am joined by the one and only Deric Childress Jr. to discuss a time where he's carried on. We discuss how he navigated being a first gen student at UVA, his experience as a Black man at a PWI, the mental health struggles he's faced associated with feeling misunderstood and being hesitant to open up, and plug UVA TimelyCare... enjoy!
PS: who else thinks Deric needs to start recording ASMR videos I mean talk about a soothing voice
happy Monday, duffels!! Today I am joined by Julia Paraiso (someone I've had a friend crush on since literally first year so past Justine would be proud) to discuss her work with UVA Body Positive. We talk about the mission of UVA Body Positive, the importance of having an org dedicated to educating students on developing healthy body image, Julia's journey with body image, body positivity vs. body neutrality, and more... enjoy!
Follow UVA Body Positive on Instagram @uvabodypositive
happy Valentine's Day, duffels! today I'm coming at you with a solo and chaotic episode on how to be happy with being single. this ep is largely unedited so apologies in advance, and there will be an actual episode with a guest (thank god) coming out later this week<3
happy monday, duffels! Today I am joined by the Green Bandana Project @ UVA (GBP) President, Tyler Kimble, to discuss how GBP has helped him carry on! We talk about GBP's mission, destigmatizing mental illness at UVA, how students can facilitate healthy dialogue surrounding mental health on college campuses, and more.. enjoy!
hi duffels! Today I am joined by the very lovely May Gong to discuss how she's carried on as an international student! We cover what it was like adjusting to life in the US, finding her identity, friendship advice, and more... enjoy!
Link to May's podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/6YdctmMDJEj1lhkeoqLnm8?si=AVGuDMnjSt6JPBdTn1wuUg
TW: eating disorder
Happy New Year, duffels! We are back and better than ever today with an episode featuring "If You're Reading This" (IYRT) president, Betsy Macdonnell. We discuss IYRT's mission, Betsy's journey with an eating disorder, how hard it is to be a 4th-year (spoiler: very), not belonging at UVA, and so much more... enjoy!
IYRT website: http://www.ifyourereadingthis.org/uva
IYRT Instagram: @ifyourereadingthisorg
duffels! This is an episode that has been in the works for quite some time, and I am so excited to share it with you all. Today I am joined by professional athlete/philanthropist/just a role model in general, Eddie Opoku, to discuss how he's carried on. We talk about his journey to the US from Ghana to play soccer, the downsides of being a public figure/how social media is fake, finding family in your community, resiliency through hardship, and much more... enjoy!
Link to Eddie's speech at the Nike HQ: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wZ5lBMR7ig
BeHappy website: https://behappyorders1.wixsite.com/behappy
long time no see, duffels!! Today I am back and better than ever with everyone's fitspiration, Georgia Daniels. Over the past year and a half, Georgia has amassed over 30k followers on Instagram and over 90k on Tik Tok posting pictures and videos of her fitness journey as a bikini competitor. We talk about how she got into bikini competitions, what it's like being a social media influencer AND college student, how she maintains a healthy relationship with eating and exercising, crazy gym stories and more... enjoy!
duffels, I have been WAITING for this one!!! Today I am joined by ACC Offensive Player of the Year (and general soccer superstar), Diana Ordoñez, to discuss how she's carried on as a student athlete. We cover sneakers, the pressure of being in the spotlight, burnout, her favorite memory with her team and much more... enjoy!
ESPN article mentioned: https://www.espn.com/college-sports/story/_/id/27752586/freshman-diana-ordonez-finds-comfort-back-net-virginia-soccer
TW: sexual and domestic violence
hello duffels!! Today I am joined by a true ray of sunshine... the one and only... Natalie Abbey, to discuss how she's carried on. We recap her 22nd birthday party, talk about building confidence, explore how to empower survivors of sexual and domestic violence, highlight the importance of being trauma-informed and more... enjoy!
National Sexual Assault hotline: 1-800-656-4673
National Domestic Violence hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE
reporting live from the UVA Board of Visitors office, this episode is a trip!! Today I am joined by the hilarious (and insanely accomplished) Sarita Mehta to discuss how she's carried on. We talk about her role as the student member of the BOV, how she's dealt with navigating identity in Greek life, building confidence, and more... enjoy!
Welcome back, duffels! I have formally ditched the previous "carry-on" style of episode and we are now winging it. Hence this episode being much longer than 30 min. And chaotic. Life's all about being flexible, right?? Anyways, today I am joined by the man, the myth, the absolute legend, Malcolm Stewart to discuss how he carried on during his time at UVA. We cover a lot in this episode, from his experience as class president and SR of the Lawn on August 11th and 12th to what the SABLE society is and does to dog ASMR (and a special caller...), this episode has it all! Enjoy!
it's Tuesday, I know, I'm sorry! I promise today's episode is worth the wait though! Today I am joined by the wonderful Ned Flanagan to learn about how he's carried on as a gap year student and the leader of a million UVA orgs. We discuss the work he did with the Kino Border Initiative (ex: preventing PTSD in migrant populations, building trust with vulnerable groups, the toll this work had on his mental health, etc.), time management, which member of the Harry Potter cast he's related to, and more... enjoy!
Check out KBI here: https://www.kinoborderinitiative.org/
PS: happy 10th "carry-on" episode:)
hello duffels!! Today I am joined by soccer superstar, Cabrel Happi, to discuss how he's carried on as a student athlete at UVA. We discuss comparison among teammates, the student athlete image, how he performs under pressure and more... enjoy!
PS: everyone wish Cabrel happy birthday on Wednesday
PPS: Kenton, if you're seeing this please bake Cabrel a special dessert for his birthday
ummm happy ~Tuesday~ duffels! I will be blaming the delay in this episode on the fact that Instagram was down yesterday... no further questions please. Anyways, today I am joined by the insanely talented, Elie Bashkow, to talk about the effect that music has on his life. We discuss his performance mindset, how to avoid comparison in the music industry, the next greatest mashup of all time, tips and tricks for killing cockroaches and more... enjoy!
HELLO DUFFELS! BIG DAY TODAY! It is BYOB's first birthday, and I wanted to thank all of you for your support over this past year. I am so grateful for the love that BYOB has received and that my little passion project has turned into a legit podcast (???). Special shoutout to all of the guests who have come on BYOB - I literally wouldn't be here without you<3 In today's episode we get a little nostalgic, and I reflect on this past year. I discuss what's changed about the podcast, what I've learned, and what I hope for BYOB's future... enjoy!
PS: stay tuned for the rest of the "Carry-On" series + "UVA Forced Connections" (AKA the blind dating show...)
hey duffels! Today I am joined by a psych ICON, Jake Greenberg, to discuss a time where they have carried on. We cover a lot of things in this episode - from PsyD 101 (why Jake chose psych, what their crazy busy day to day looks like, managing burnout, etc.) to their journey with gender and sexual identity (how they identify, negative responses to them coming out, what being queer means to them, etc.), this episode has it all... enjoy!
PS: stay tuned for a special bonus episode coming out tomorrow:)
hellooooo duffels! Today I am joined with one of the sweetest humans alive, Emma Keller, to hear her carry-on story. We talk about an article she wrote on emotionally adjusting to living on the Lawn and the importance of physical spaces, what it's like to live in the most visible place on Grounds, the deal with the bathrooms (highly requested), and LOTS more... enjoy!
TW: anorexia
happy Monday, duffels! Today I am joined with the wonderful, Carter Leach, to hear about a time where he has carried on. Carter discusses his struggle with anorexia, and we talk about setting healthy fitness goals, how he's developing a healthy relationship with eating, how the lack of acknowledgement in the media that men struggle with eating disorders too affected him, and more... enjoy!
duffels, you guys won't believe this one. Today I am joined by a true power couple, Caroline Biondo and Tory Key (just embracing my role as a third wheel). Caroline and Tory discuss what it's like to be in an interracial relationship, in particular, conversations about race between them, judgment regarding their relationship, what they've learned from each other, and more! This episode was so fun to record, so if you and your partner want to come on for a joint BYOB episode just let me know... enjoy!!
Jubilee video mentioned: https://youtu.be/f0PE0WyTjC8
Tory's IMDb: https://m.imdb.com/name/nm11103253/
TW: suicide
welcome back, duffels! Today we are carrying on with one of my favorite people in the entire world, Mary Isaac Cargill. Mary Isaac discusses her journey with grief after losing a loved one to suicide. We discuss what it's like to grieve, resilience, and the lessons this loved one taught her... enjoy the wisdom Mary Isaac (our soon to be therapist) has to offer:)
Duffels!! Welcome back! Today we are carrying on with the insanely talented, Ella Bllue Tomko. Ella discusses her journey navigating meds, numbness related to antidepressants, side effects of different meds, what happens when you quit cold turkey (spoiler: DON’T), and more... enjoy!
DISCLAIMER: all opinions about meds are our own, we are obviously not medical professionals and everyone is different so please don’t be scared of taking any of the meds mentioned from our individual experiences.
duffels! Welcome to the "Carry-On" series! These are 30 min episodes where each guest shares a story from their mental health journey; these are unstructured interviews (basically just a conversation), and the emphasis is on storytelling. These stories can be as serious or lighthearted as you want them to be - the main goal is to share a story of how you've carried on in life since someone listening will definitely be able to learn from or relate to your story. In this week's episode, I am joined by the lovely, Bri Johnston. We discuss panic attacks, pressures related to school, meds + therapy, redefining success, and so much more... Enjoy!
to all my single duffels out there, this one's for you! This episode was so fun to record, and this topic has been on my mind for a hot second now. This episode also has absolutely no structure to it, and is basically just a convo between me and one of my best friends, Farrah, about dating apps. Join us to hear about why we think dating apps are toxic, ghosting, arranged marriages (how did we get here), "virtual cat-calling," and DATING APP HORROR STORIES!! This will be the last episode before the start of the "Carry-On" series, so I hope you all enjoy!
hello my dear duffels. We're back! Today I am joined by a friend from HS, Enrique Unruh, to talk about toxic masculinity. We discuss how toxic masculinity has impacted his mental health, how he's seen toxic masculinity play out in his life, how he was able to create an identity amidst dealing with toxic masculinity, and more! Join us to also get advice on how to reduce the impact of toxic masculinity in your life, how to fight against toxic masculinity, and how we can create a new "definition" of what it means to be male... enjoy!
Happy Pride Month, duffels!! After an accidental hiatus, I am back with possibly one of the funniest people I've ever met, Ames Gersten. We discuss all things sexuality, and Ames tells us about their journey to discovering their sexuality and gender identity. In addition, they discuss the importance of pronouns, stereotypes associated with their sexuality, family/friend reactions to them coming out, and more! Tune in to get advice for coming out, supporting a friend who is figuring out their sexuality, and tips for figuring out your own sexuality... enjoy!
LGBT National Hotline: (888) 843-4564
LGBT National Senior Helpline: (888) 234-7243
Trevor Project: (866) 488-7386
Trans Lifeline: (877) 565-8860
Welcome back, duffels! It is my 21st birthday and there is no one else that I'd rather celebrate with than with you all! Today, I am joined by a guest who has a voice that rivals Mariah Carey (especially when she's singing delusionally at 11:30pm), my roommate, Jada Wright!!! We discuss her experience dealing with mental health as a Christian, the stigma against mental health in religious communities, how faith has helped her mental health, and more! Tune in to also get advice for how you can help educate your faith community on mental illness, examples of common conversations in Christian communities regarding mental health, a heated debate about Chris Evans vs. Asa Butterfield, and the story of how Jada could've been on A.N.T. Farm... enjoy!
P.S: I apologize for the audio at the end! It's episode 28, but I'm still having technical difficulties. Sigh.
heyyy duffels! Today I am joined by an incredibly resilient guest (who wishes to remain anonymous) to talk about bipolar disorder. We talk about what this guest went through before being diagnosed with bipolar I disorder and how this manifests in her life, how bipolar disorder affects her relationships, misconceptions about bipolar disorder, and more. Join us to get advice for those struggling with bipolar disorder and also how to help a loved one with bipolar disorder.
happy Monday, duffels! Today I am joined by the wonderful, Justin Laiti, to talk about stress and burnout. We talk about how stress impacts our lives in college, how to manage stress in college, our experiences with burnout, and more! Join us to learn about how we met (thanks Mr. Evans), some long and short term strategies for stress management and burnout, what the "Feedback Loop from Hell" is, and how squishmallows cure stress?! Enjoy!
hello duffels! Today I am joined by Hoos Connected ICON, Olivia Hazelwood, to talk about introversion. We talk about the struggles of being introverts in discussion based classes, how being an introvert affects our social life, Hoos Connected, and more! Join us to also get some tips for communication and success if you're an introvert, but also how to help introverts if you are an extrovert... enjoy!
hiya, duffels! Today I am joined by a true dancing queen, Megan Lee, to talk about social anxiety. Since Megan is not formally diagnosed with social anxiety, this is more of a conversation between the two of us about social anxiety and my experiences with it. We cover how social anxiety impacts my life, external validation and social anxiety, how college impacts social anxiety, and more! Tune in to also get advice for managing social anxiety and how to help a loved one with social anxiety... enjoy!
welcome back, duffels! Today I am joined by the insanely smart, Daniel Shapiro, to talk about crisis hotlines (in particular, Madison House's HELP Line). Daniel discusses why he decided to join HELP Line (HL), the most challenging part of being a crisis line call operator, what he wishes people knew about HL, and more! Tune in to also get some advice on how to call crisis hotlines and self-care tips for crisis hotline call operators... enjoy!
Hotlines:
- Madison House HELP Line: (434) 924-TALK
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
- Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration's National Helpline: 1-800-662-HELP (4357)
- For those who prefer texting, you can text TALK to the Crisis Text Line 24/7 at 741-741 for confidential support via text message.
- If your crisis is specifically related to sexual assault, you can contact the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
PART 2!!! In this episode I am joined by Faria Rehman, Kristen Shin, and Megan Lee to discuss how the model minority myth impacted our mental health, how eurocentric standards of beauty affected our self-image and esteem, how non-AAPI individuals can support their AAPI friends without placing an emotional burden on them, and again, lots more. Again, check out @bringyourownbaggage on Instagram for the advice portion of the podcast... enjoy:)
Timestamps:
Faria Rehman: 00:20-18:05
Kristen Shin: 18:05-33:35
Megan Lee: 33:35-44:45
hey Duffels! Today's episode is a special one. I am joined by Cindy Li, Mavis Manaloto, Grace Kim, and Jamie Kang to discuss mental health in the AAPI community. We discuss how our families viewed mental health, unique struggles Asian American women face, common microaggressions we encounter and how this affects our mental health, and LOTS more. The advice portion of this podcast will be posted at @bringyourownbaggage on Instagram, and PART TWO of this podcast where I am joined by 3 more wonderful AAPI ladies will be dropping on 3/31! Enjoy!
Timstamps:
Cindy Li: 0:00:55-8:55
Grace Kim: 0:08:55-20:55
Mavis Manaloto: 0:20:55-48:15
Jamie Kang: 0:48:15-1:00:45
Article Mavis mentioned: https://www.newyorker.com/news/daily-comment/the-atlanta-shooting-and-the-dehumanizing-of-asian-women?utm_source=onsite-share&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=onsite-share&utm_brand=the-new-yorker
what's good, duffels? Did you guys like that pun? Get it? Does anyone even read these? Anyways, today I am joined by outdoor/fishtank/cat/NOT TIK TOK enthusiast, Ben Goodson, to talk about the pressure to find your identity in college. We discuss why college students feel this pressure, how Ben is overcoming that, what aspects of his identity he's struggled with, how social media plays a role in this, and more! Tune in to find out the story behind how Ben and I met, how his family might be on a game show, and get some good advice about how to build a strong sense of self... enjoy!
ps: happy 20th episode! love you guys<3
heyyyy duffels! Today I am joined by the wonderful, Stephanie Rasinski, to talk about how to support a loved one with mental illness. Stephanie discusses what her friends and family did to support her after she was diagnosed with OCD, and we go into some actions that people can take to support an individual struggling with mental health, how to deal with negative reactions while talking to a loved one about mental illness, how college students can help their friends struggling with mental illness, and more! Tune in to find out why Stephanie has never tried ketchup or mustard before, a rant about stupid things people have said to us in the context of mental health, and why I sound like I have never spoken to another human being before in this episode... enjoy!!
hello, duffels! Today I am joined with field hockey star and Morgan's Message ambassador, Greer Gill, to talk about mental health as a student athlete. We talk about unique mental health struggles student athletes face, the stigma around mental health in the student athlete community, the impact COVID had on Greer's mental health/body image, and more! If you are an athlete struggling with mental health, know that you are not alone and this is not a weakness. In addition to the advice portion of the episode, I have linked a few resources for student athletes below. Enjoy!
Resources:
- https://www.ncaa.org/sport-science-institute/mental-health-educational-resources
- https://www.onlinemswprograms.com/resources/mental-health-resources-for-athletes/
duffels! hey! Today I am joined with Comm QUEEN, Alice Opiyo, to talk about mental health in the BIPOC community. We cover what it's like going to a predominately White university, unique challenges Alice has faced as a Black woman and how this impacted her mental health, the stigma against mental illness in the BIPOC community and more. Tune in to also learn about what it's like to have a therapist as a mom, what Comm actually is, and anti-affirmations?? Enjoy!
Resources:
- https://www.naminh.org/resources-2/bipoc/
- https://www.self.com/story/bipoc-mental-health-coronavirus
- https://www.onlinemswprograms.com/resources/social-issues/mental-health-resources-racial-ethnic-groups/
hiya duffels! Today I am joined with my role model since 12th grade, Claire Hutcheson. If you can't tell by how LONG this episode is, Claire and I talk about a lot. We cover body neutrality, intuitive eating, body image in college, the longest advice portion ever, and more! Tune in to also hear about how Claire met Cory Booker, the role of 8D music in our friendship, and streaking the Lawn??? Enjoy!
PS: I will probably be doing a separate episode on orthorexia later because that is something that I've really been struggling with... stay tuned.
ok, someone suggested that I shorten the BYOB listeners name from "duffel bags" to "duffels" which is so cute so we're sticking with that. ANYWAYS, hello everyone! Today I am joined with the vlog queen herself, Temi Akinola, to talk about discussing mental health with POC/immigrant parents. Temi talks to us about her experience in talking about mental health with her parents and we go into some advice for talking about mental health with your parents + understanding their reactions (whether these be positive or negative). Tune in to also learn about "winding down with Temi," exciting news from me, and more! Enjoy, duffels!
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https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-the-cause-against-antiasian-violence
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hi duffel bags! I kind of like that, and I don't think anyone reads these descriptions so for the time being I think the name is going to stick. Today I am joined by the amazing, Jada Smith, to talk about grief. Jada shares her experience with grief and we also go into some advice for those grieving the loss of a loved one + how to help a friend/family member that is grieving. Due to the pandemic, grief unfortunately is all around us so I hope this episode is helpful. Tune in to also hear a rambly life update from me about why I needed to take a week off, weird dreams I've been having, and re-starting on happy pills. Enjoy!
TW: sexual assault
hello duffel bags! I've decided that the BYOB group will be called duffel bags, so I hope you guys are ok with that name. JK. Anyways, today I am joined with the incredibly inspiring, Faria Rehman, to talk about PTSD and trauma. Faria talks to us about her experience with PTSD and we discuss coping skills for trauma survivors and advice for helping a loved one who struggles with PTSD. We also discuss Faria's Instagram account (@webelievethem) dedicated towards giving trauma survivors a space for healing and all the weird DMs/haters she's gotten from that account... enjoy!
hello everyone! Today I am joined by a true ray of sunshine, Aayushma Bastola, to talk about loneliness. We talk about loneliness as it relates to college, but also how the pandemic has affected our feelings of loneliness. Join us to also talk about pod politics, the toll COVID has taken on our relationships, and can Tik Tokkers please stay home??? Anyways... enjoy!
TW: self-harm, suicidal thoughts, sex
hello friends! Today I am joined by the very artistic, Maya Kim, to talk about OCD. Maya talks to us about her own experience with OCD including the challenges she faces and common misconceptions people have about OCD. As always, we also give advice for people who have loved ones that struggle with OCD; even though we may not be directly impacted by a certain mental disorder, it's still important to educate ourselves on what it entails and the common symptoms of it. Enjoy!
10 episodes of BYOB! For this special occasion I am joined by my sister, Kyra, to talk about imposter syndrome. Kyra vetoed my "Among Us" pun, but just know that I had one...I'm hip, ok!! Join us to talk about what imposter syndrome is and how to battle these (very untrue) beliefs. We also talk about why Kyra is BYOB's second celebrity guest, NASA (take a shot every time we say "NASA" or "STEM"), and our rejection resumes... enjoy!
HEADPHONE USERS: Warning, 15:25 gets a little loud. Beware for your ears' sake:)
long time no see!!! after a short break, BYOB is BACK, baby!! Today I am joined by the hilarious, Thomas Hamilton, to talk about mental health from a male perspective. Everyone struggles with mental health (no matter what gender), and we're here to start a conversation about destroying stigmas that hold people back from sharing about their mental health struggles. Join us to talk about why men may be scared to talk abut mental illness and how to create an environment that allows boys and men to engage in open conversations about their mental health. Tune in to also hear about my tattoo story, Harry Styles, and how the BYOB listeners can singlehandedly take down toxic masculinity... enjoy!
helloooo and welcome back to BYOB!! Today I am joined by future nurse, Raniyah Majied, to talk about comparison and jealousy in friendships. Join us to talk about the effects of constant comparison on one's mental health, how jealousy affects friendships, and advice on how to avoid comparison in your relationships. Tune in to see how Tik Tok dancing and Eurocentric standards of beauty tie into this... enjoy!
hey guys! Today I conduct the giggliest interview of all time (sorry not sorry) with my dear friend, Kristen Richbourg. We talk about the importance of sleep hygiene and how to practice good sleep hygiene techniques, and Kristen shares her experience with said techniques. Join us to talk about how Kristen and I met, why Kristen's family calls her "ol' red eye," and listen to some quality DIY white noise (by yours truly). Enjoy!!
if you are listening to this on 11/2 or 11/3, GO VOTE!!!
omg hello and welcome back! Today I'm joined by the incredible, Ana Tsiskarishvili (who I have been following on Instagram for 3 years now!!), to talk about anorexia. Ana goes through her journey with anorexia and explains how it's connected to her OCD. We also talk about how to help someone struggling with an eating disorder and what potential triggers for them may be. Join us to talk about anorexia, Ana's made up middle name, Blogilates, and more!
oh hey there! Today I'm joined by the lovely, Rachel Greif, to talk about therapy 101 and starting meds. Rachel shares her experience with therapy and getting on meds, and we answer some questions from Instagram about therapy (plug, follow @bringyourownbaggage). Join us to talk about tips for starting therapy and also nightmares, Russian nesting dolls (and finding the "mega" therapist), and more. Enjoy!!
welcome back!! Today I have on the wonderful, Danny Niemann, to talk about mental health in the LGBTQA+ community. Danny shares his coming out story in addition to many nuggets of wisdom that honestly left me questioning my entire perspective of life. Like. Wow. Join us to talk about mental health struggles specific to members of the LGBTQA+ community and learn some tips about how to deal with these issues. But, wait! We also talk about how to best support a family member/friend who comes out and what allies can do to create a safer environment for the LGBTQA+ community. Tune in to hear about all of this + how Danny went viral on Twitter, pole dancing, and more:) enjoy!
hello!! Today I conduct my first virtual interview with the very talented, very knowledgeable, Emma Hitchcock (AKA my first-year roommate!!). Join us to talk about Emma's experience with anxiety and depression and learn some tips about how to manage that as a college student. We also talk about why you should slide into the DMs, disguising therapy as doctors appointments, and again, why you should follow the BYOB Instagram (anyone noticing a theme here?? ok, but this time a cute dog may or may not be involved...). Enjoy!
I apologize if the audio in this episode sounds a little wonky because we were wearing masks!!
Drumroll please... today I have my first BYOB guest, the AMAZING Sydney Cherry, on to talk about self-love. Specifically, the importance of self-love, how we practice self-love, and how you can practice self-love!! (how many times can I say self-love in one sentence). We also talk about the Justine and Sydney origin story, life changing decisions made in a Krispy Kreme parking lot, and why you need to follow the BYOB Instagram account. Enjoy!!!
HELLO everyone and welcome to BYOB! In this episode I set the world record for most times a person says "you know" and "um" in 20 minutes. I also talk about my vision for this podcast and give a quick overview of my experience with mental health and the toll that going to college took on that. Stay tuned to the end of the episode to get some advice about how to begin your journey towards improved mental health from someone who is not a professional, but is depressed. Anyways. Love you guys. Hope you enjoy.