Go Deep with Melissa D. is a podcast brought to you by Melissa Davison, Somatic Sex Educator & Provocateur of Body Joy Intimacy School (Austin, TX & Northern CA) as she gives sex tips and advice on intimacy and connection. Intimacy Coach & Somatic Sex Educator Melissa Davison; the new provocateur of BodyJoy; empowers students to talk, touch and play with others in satisfying, safe and sensual ways. BodyJoy has offered 100s of workshops around the world, helped thousands of students take back their authentic sexuality, and feel more at ease in their bodies. Contact Melissa for virtual coaching, private in-person sessions and info on booking a luxurious stay-cation to give your relationship a boost.www.bodyjoy.org
Sessions is a special edition of BodyJoy: After Office Hours where Melissa works with real clients in real time. Names have been changed to protect privacy.
In this candid conversation, Melissa sits down with Austin to talk about something many men experience but rarely discuss: erectile dysfunction that isn't rooted in physical health. Austin shares his four-year journey navigating ED after divorce (from clean bloodwork and TRT to injectable medications and finally, therapy) before realizing the issue was emotional, not physiological.
They explore what it means to be a man who needs genuine connection before arousal comes online, how performance pressure creates a self-reinforcing loop, and why having honest conversations with partners early can change everything. Austin also opens up about the comments that stuck in his nervous system, the difference between being one foot vs. two feet in a relationship, and what it felt like to finally feel lovable again.
Melissa closes with a practical invitation: a mindful self-pleasure practice designed to help Austin, and any listener, actually learn their own body before bringing that knowledge into connection with a partner.
Are you resonating with Austin's story? Book a 30-minute laser conversation session at bodyjoy.org and use code SESSIONS10 for 10% off.
Topics covered: psychogenic ED, emotional intimacy, demisexuality, nervous system patterns, performance anxiety, self-pleasure, vulnerability in relationships
Melissa sits down with Mos Jef, a master level Shadow EFT practitioner and founder of Sanctum Institute of Life Harmonization, for a raw, real conversation about the parts of ourselves we push away and what happens when we finally let them be seen.
Jeff shares how he developed his own methodology after years of exploration (and a dark night of the soul that started at Burning Man), why 95% of our problems come down to feelings we don't want to feel, and how shadow work transforms not just our inner world but our relationships and sexuality too.
In This Episode
About the Guest
Mos Jef is a master level Shadow EFT practitioner and the founder of Sanctum Institute of Life Harmonization. He developed his own methodology blending EFT, shadow integration, and depth psychology after years of personal healing and professional practice. He trains practitioners and leads retreats and workshops focused on deep somatic integration and self-directed healing.
Connect
Mos Jef
Melissa D. / BodyJoy
If this episode hit home, share it with someone who needs to hear it. And if you're ready to go deeper, check out Jeff's upcoming self-integration workshop.
After 35 years in the sexuality field, sex educator and coach Charlie Glickman joins Melissa D for an honest, shame-free conversation about prostate pleasure, body safety, and why most people are asking the wrong questions about sex.
What we get into: Prostate pleasure 101 · navigating fear around anal play · why safety is the foundation of all pleasure · the nervous system nobody's talking about · vibrators & desensitization · treating sex like a science experiment · the PT appointment that changed everything · and the carabiner hack you didn't know you needed.
Find Charlie: makesexeasy.com
Find Melissa: www.bodyjoy.org / @bodyjoyintimacyschool
After Office Hours is for adults exploring intimacy, embodiment, and erotic growth — honestly and without shame.
What happens when sexual healing moves beyond the mind and into the tissues of the body?
In this episode of BodyJoy After Hours, Melissa sits down with somatic sexologist and pelvic floor specialist Makia Mullin to explore the powerful intersection of nervous system regulation, sexual health, and embodied pleasure.
Drawing on two decades of experience in pelvic care and somatic sexuality, Makia shares how emotional states, trauma, shame, and cultural conditioning can live directly in our tissues, shaping sensation, arousal, and our relationship to pleasure.
Together they dive into topics that are rarely discussed openly, including foreskin restoration, circumcision scarring, Peyronie’s disease, pelvic trauma, and the role of scar tissue in sexual dysfunction.
The conversation also explores how healing often begins not with intense erotic practices, but with something much simpler: learning to listen to the body’s language of sensation and bringing small moments of pleasure back into everyday life.
Melissa and Makia a also discuss:
This episode is a thoughtful, nuanced look at how sexual health, nervous system regulation, and embodied awareness are deeply intertwined.
If you’ve ever felt disconnected from your body, your pleasure, or your erotic aliveness, this conversation offers a compassionate place to begin.
Chapters
00:00 Introduction to Makaya Mullin
02:00 Household “pervertibles” and playful erotic exploration
04:20 Why the body is the doorway to sexual healing
06:30 Limits of talk therapy for sexual dysfunction
08:30 Shame, nervous system states, and pelvic tension
10:50 Peyronie’s disease explained
13:30 Scar tissue, inflammation, and erectile tissue health
14:20 Phimosis and foreskin-related conditions
16:30 Emotional patterns behind genital conditions
17:00 Circumcision scarring and pelvic work
19:00 Teaching clients to work with their own tissues
21:30 Foreskin restoration practices
23:00 Prostate surgery, erections, and adapting to change
25:00 Learning the language of the body
26:30 Micro-doses of pleasure in daily life
28:00 Discovering sexological bodywork and Joseph Kramer
31:00 From polyamory to monogamy: Makia’s personal journey
31:40 Group pleasure practices and erotic community spaces
35:30 The healing power of witnessing bodies without sexualization
36:00 Self-pleasure retreat in Spain
Connect with Makia
@eroticabotanica
https://www.makiamullen.com
somatic sexology pelvic floor healing sexual healing sexological bodywork foreskin restoration circumcision scar tissue peyronie’s disease phimosis nervous system regulation embodied sexuality shame prostate surgery pleasure practices erotic embodiment sexual wellness podcast intimacy and nervous system
What happens when intimacy slows down enough for the body to truly land?
In this rich and intimate conversation, Melissa sits down with Uma James to explore the transformative power of slowness, sacred erotic work, and building a sustainable, integrity-based business in the world of sensual and somatic practice.
Uma shares her journey from holistic sex education and fertility awareness into hands-on somatic intimacy work, revealing how witnessing sexual pain and disconnection led her toward deeper body-based healing modalities. Through extensive training, mentorship, and entrepreneurial instinct, she crafted a practice rooted in presence, permission, and pace.
Together, we explore:
Uma speaks candidly about maintaining practitioner integrity, honoring authentic yeses, and referring clients when desires move outside her mastery. She also introduces her upcoming Priestess Business Model Project, designed to mentor women in building thriving, sustainable intimacy-based practices.
This episode is a deep dive into what becomes possible when eroticism meets devotion, when business meets sacred structure, and when intimacy becomes a journey rather than a peak experience.
If you’ve ever wondered:
This conversation will open doors.
Connect with Uma James
In this engaging conversation, Melissa D and Stephanie Ganowski explore the intricacies of men's sexual health and relationships. Stephanie shares her journey from a challenging relationship to becoming a coach for men, emphasizing the importance of understanding and communication. They discuss common issues men face, the role of vulnerability, and the impact of pornography. The conversation also touches on the benefits of masturbation, the dynamics of open relationships, and practical advice for men seeking to improve their sexual experiences.
Takeaways
Chapters
Keywords
sexual health, men's coaching, relationships, communication, vulnerability, masturbation, pornography, open relationships, sexual psychology, coaching men
Where to find Stephanie Ganowski:
Website
YouTube
Podcast — What I Love About Sex
App — Ronan (Sex Meditations for Men)
Summary
In this conversation, Philippe Lewis shares insights on the evolution of play events, the importance of creating safe spaces for exploration, and the role of attunement in relationships. He discusses the significance of emotional intelligence and attachment theory in navigating modern relationships, emphasizing the journey to secure attachment and the concept of considerate non-monogamy. Philippe also highlights his upcoming events and retreats that focus on fostering community and connection.
Takeaways
Chapters
Keywords
Philippe Lewis, Club Exotica, play events, safe spaces, attunement, emotional intelligence, attachment theory, non-monogamy, community, relationships
Find Philippe + Upcoming Events
Upcoming Events & Retreats
Club Exotica
Immersive, curated play parties rooted in safety, attunement, and connection
🌐 https://clubexoticapresents.com
📅 Midsummer Event: August 1
Coming Home to Love (Attachment Repair Retreat)
A deeply regulating retreat focused on safety, grounding, and secure attachment
📍 Hawaii
📅 April
🌐 https://cominghometo.love
Firelight (Micro Festival)
An intimate, play-possible gathering with music, movement, and connection
📍 Near Yosemite, California
📅 Late May
🌐 https://firelight.love
What if “safe and social” isn’t the highest expression of nervous system regulation?
In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa D. sits down with entrepreneur, somatic pleasure artist, and product designer Josh Eros Ocean Rosenfield for a rich, embodied conversation about sacred touch, sensation play, pleasure without performance, and what it truly means to feel held, nourished, and safe in the body.
Broadcasting from his eco-village home in the Costa Rican jungle, Eros shares his personal journey into somatic work, the origins of sacred (non-sexual) touch, and how intentional sensation, tools, and affirmations can radically rewire the nervous system. Together, Melissa and Eros explore vagal nerve theory, islands of pleasure, boundary literacy, couples work, and why the body—not the intellect—is often the missing link in healing and intimacy.
This episode is a deep dive into pleasure as regulation, touch as language, and intimacy as a skill that can be practiced, learned, and embodied.
Whether you’re a practitioner, a curious human, or someone longing for more connection in your body or relationships—this conversation opens new worlds of possibility.
Topics We Explore
Links & Resources
In this episode of BodyJoy After Office Hours, Melissa sits down with Tigress Lily, certified Erotic Blueprints coach and somatic practitioner, for a wide-ranging conversation on kink, power dynamics, and presence as tools for healing and connection.
Tigress shares her unconventional path from the corporate world into erotic leadership, including how intensive therapy, somatic work, and BDSM helped her work through control, grief, and trauma. Together, they explore how kink can function as nervous-system regulation, why presence—not pain or performance—is often the real medicine, and how Erotic Blueprints can radically transform intimacy inside and outside the bedroom.
The conversation also dives into:
This episode offers a trauma-informed, deeply human look at eroticism that goes far beyond stereotypes—centering consent, attunement, and care.
Guest Links
Tigress Lily’s Website: https://awakeneddomme.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/tigress_lily
In this intimate, laughter-filled, deeply honest episode, Melissa “Mango” from BodyJoy sits down with erotic educator, practitioner, and long-time collaborator Casia Sobolewski for a conversation that travels through motherhood, boundaries, non-monogamy, erotic integrity, and the sacred art of pleasure.
Together, they unpack how years of exploration, sex-positive community, and somatic practice have shaped Casia’s work with individuals and couples. They explore the evolution from youthful erotic curiosity to raising a family within an open, devotional partnership, and how that lived experience informs the immersive work she and her husband Cosmo offer today.
This episode touches everything from:
• staying connected to desire through major life transitions
• open relating while parenting and building a sacred partnership
• the nuances of “taking” and “being taken” in heterosexual dynamics
• why many women need tension, not collapse, for erotic polarity
• somatic cues, boundaries, and the physiology of “floppiness”
• men’s fear of doing it wrong — and how that affects intimacy
• porn literacy and re-sensitizing the body to real-time pleasure
• desire, fantasy, the Anatomy of Desire model, and honest reflection
• pleasure as a spiritual doorway and the portal-like power of erotic connection
• havening, presence, and the small sensory practices that open the body
• the axial age, the erotic mother, and why women’s boundaries are holy
Casia also shares a behind-the-scenes look at her and Cosmo’s upcoming offering, “The Art of Touching Women: How Men Touch & Why It Matters,” plus stories from years of leading immersive erotic retreats with Melissa—where deep nervous system repair, erotic awakening, and life-changing relational shifts take place.
This is a rich, layered, beautifully human conversation about embodiment, consent, relational devotion, erotic intelligence, and the sacredness of tending to your own pleasure.
FIND CASIA
Website: honeyandwater.ca
Instagram: @casiasobolewski
Himeros Project: himerosproject.com
The Art of Touching Women Course: April 29 - July 1, 2026
WORK WITH MELISSA / BODYJOY
bodyjoy.org
In this episode, Melissa has the absolute privilege and honor of speaking with Rahi Chun, a somatic sex educator, sexological body worker, and genital de-armoring specialist.
Rahi and Melissa dive deep into the research and common experience of women who feel numb, disconnected, or lack desire internally. They discuss how somatic sex education and de-armoring work to restore more pleasure, sensation, and orgasm.
In this powerful conversation, you will explore:
Tune in for a fascinating and vital conversation on restoring connection, sensation, and pleasure in your body.
About the Guest:
Rahi Chun is a somatic sex educator and genital de-armoring specialist dedicated to helping people reclaim and expand pleasure. Learn more about his signature course, The Three Keys to Genital Dearmoring for Reclaiming and Expanding Pleasure, at RahiChun.com.
Links & Resources:
Rahi Chun's Course: Three Keys to Genital Dearmoring
In this powerful conversation, Melissa and Cosmo dive deep into the unexpected but natural transition from the world of being a chef to becoming a leading pleasure and intimacy guide. Cosmo explains that the crossover makes perfect sense: both roles involve curating people's desire and finding unobstructed paths to feeling nourished.
Cosmo shares his own personal journey, including the profound "Aha moment" at an intimacy training where the simple question, "How would you like to be touched today?" fundamentally shifted his life and led him to realize he was meant to do this work.
Key Topics Discussed:
Find all of Cosmo's work and upcoming events here:
Join Melissa of Body Joy After Office Hours as she sits down with JD, a lifestyle Dom, Daddy, and one half of the internationally acclaimed rope bondage duo Two Knotty Boys. A teacher of interactive rope bondage and restraint for over two decades, JD co-authored the bestselling books Two Knotty Boys Showing the Ropes and Two Knotty Boys Back on the Ropes.
In this deep-dive conversation, JD redefines the "daddy-dom, baby-girl dynamic" as a structured, honorific sub-type of BDSM focused on mentorship, direction, and a hot, fantastic exchange—not age play.
He shares candid insights on:
Listen in to learn how to build deep trust, communicate clearly, and find the joy and safety within BDSM play.
Connect with JD
Welcome to the season premier of Season 2 of After Office Hours with me, Melissa D!Tonight is extra special as we have the incredible Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates joining us! With 13 years as a relationship coach, they've uncovered a game-changing insight – unresolved emotional hurts often stand as a barrier to the intimacy couples desire. Dr. Hazel-Grace's approach is nothing short of innovative, fun, and educational, transforming communication and enhancing intimacy both in and out of the bedroom. Bringing a unique blend of professional expertise, an extensive background, and playful curiosity to their practice.Stay tuned as we embark on their journey, share some laughs, and discover why the transformative power of their 6-step process, 'The Repair Process,' is not just vital but downright badass. Ready to dive in?Visit Drhazelgrace.com for more info about their work Visit Bodyjoyintimacyschool.org for more about Melissa’s projectsPodcast edited by Ferocecity.com
KINKtober After Office Hours with Special Guest Sex Posi ShebaSpecial Guest
Sex Posi Sheba
About:
Sheba is a Sex & Intimacy Coach and Erotic Artist located in St. Petersburg, FL. She works with clients virtually and in person for one-on-one coaching sessions around relationships, sexuality, exploration, and body positivity. She leads kink-friendly/queer-friendly workshops encouraging intimacy building and creating a playful, explorative, exciting dynamic in your sex life. Follow her social accounts to learn more.
ShebaQueenoftheNight.com
KINKtober After Office Hours with the Knotty Boys
After Office Hours with Melissa D., Provocateur of Body Joy Intimacy School. This month we are doing a special dedication to all things kinky for KINKtober!
Special Guests:
J D & DAN, aka the Two Knotty Boys began teaching their world-famous rope bondage classes in 1999. Having published two how-to bondage books ("Two Knotty Boys: Showing You the Ropes" and "Two Knotty Boys: Back on the Ropes"), as well as more than 100 free video tutorials, they've taught literally millions of people how to orchestrate and enjoy a wide variety of rope bondage techniques.
After Office Hours - KINKtober with Special Guest Irina Nyx
After Office Hours with Melissa D., Provocateur of Body Joy Intimacy School. This month we are doing a special dedication to all things kinky for KINKtober!
Special Guest: Irina Nyx is an Erotic Artist, a Friendly Sadist, and a Dominant Liberatrix. Her work as a professional dominatrix is augmented by her background in various somatic healing modalities, nature-based soul development, and working in the realm of the unconscious/shadow work. Primary values central in her approach to conscious kink are beauty, play, presence, consent, radical acceptance, and right relationship to power. Her website is Www.Irinanyx.com
KINKtober After Office Hours with Special Guest Johnny VajraAfter Office Hours with Melissa D., Provocateur of Body Joy Intimacy School. This month we are doing a special dedication to all things kinky for KINKtober!
Special Guest:
Johnny Vajra is a Spiritual Alchemist, Intimacy Guide, and Pleasure Educator based in St. Petersburg, FL. He is the co-founder of the St. Pete Retreat, a center for healing and exploration.
He is also the founder of Metagene Health, a facilitator of Tantra/Kink workshops, and co-facilitator of The Sex & Happiness Journey 3.
Johnny incorporates elements of Sacred Sexuality, BDSM/Kink, and mindful meditation to promote conscious community.
His desire and intention is to connect people with their 4-Body system (Mental/Physical/Emotional/Spiritual) through sacred sexuality, conscious kink, community outreach, and mindful meditation.
www.johnnyvajra.com
Join Melissa Davison, Somatic Sex Educator & Provocateur of Body Joy Intimacy School (Austin, TX & Northern CA) talk sex with Special Guest Betty Martin as we discuss "Consent and Crossing Boundaries".About: Dr. Betty Martin, a Chiropractor, a Body Electric School trained Sacred Intimate, Certified Sexological Bodyworker, Foundations of Facilitation trainer, and a self-propelled erotic adventurer and intimacy coach.Every one of these and more has contributed to my understanding of the nature of touch.I’m one of those lucky people who grew up in the touch-y feel-y hippie years. Then I got serious and went to Chiropractic school and learned to touch with some clear intent.That makes about 30 years as a hands-on professional, first in therapeutics – Chiropractic, Somato-Respiratory Integration, Educational Kinesiology, Reiki, Neuro-Emotional Integration – and later in body-based erotic education, including sensual massage, Taoist Erotic Massage, Kashmiri tantric massage and Sexological Bodywork.I’ve taught peer counseling, gender liberation, embodiment and empowerment, fantasy play, goddess awakening and erotic massage. I’ve played with contact improv dance, Authentic Movement, Non-Violent Communication and Shaivic tantra. I am a student of The Work of Byron Katie. I am a Board member and train and certify new facilitators for a touch and communication workshop called Cuddle Party. https://bettymartin.org/https://schoo... You can subscribe to Body Joy Intimacy School on YouTube and see this video and more at www.youtube.com/BodyJoyTV and follow us on our social https://linktr.ee/bodyjoytv! #bodyjoy #bodyjoyintimacyschool #bodyjoytv #godeepmelissad
Tune in & listen to our fun banter, ask questions, comment along, get some great advice and insight from 2 rebel women... Melissa D. & Dr. Hazel Grace.
Dr. Hazel-Grace Yates is radical permissionist and pleasure warrior here to help eradicate global toxic sexual shame. Through her compassion, playful, and dynamic facilitation, she is endlessly passionate about humans celebrating their bodies, soul and sex.
Her innovative, fun, and educational style of sex and intimacy coaching is born out of her deep commitment to creating a more compassionate, loving, and safe world. The 4 corners-stones of her work are 1. Trauma-Informed Practices, 2. Authentic Relating Skills, 3. Somatic Sex Education and 4. Activism and Inclusivity.
With more than 12 years of experience as a pioneering educator, she brings a unique blend of professional know-how, playful curiosity, authentic communication, and personal vulnerability to her practice.
Dr. Hazel-Grace is a self-proclaimed “pleasure activist in the making” and has spent the past two years deepening her understanding of social equity work. She is committed to doing her deep inner work and facing her own privilege so that she can create a safer space for ALL; BIPOC, gender diverse folxs, people with disabilities, or otherwise marginalized. She is a trauma-informed somatic sex educator, sexological bodywork practitioner, and founder of Sex Catalyst Academy - training world-class sex-positive facilitator and leaders.
https://www.drhazelgrace.com
{After} Office Hours with Melissa D. & Special Guest
Dr. Charla Hathaway talking about Risk, Lust & Healing in the oldest profession.