Master Your Relationship Mind Drama: Recent Episodes
Rebecca Ore
Feeling anxious and insecure in your relationships? Showing up in ways you don't love and struggling to manage your mind and emotions? Relationship coach, Rebecca Ore is here to help.
Do you ask your partner for reassurance multiple times a week?
Or find yourself asking for reassurance on the same topic over and over and the anxiety still popping back up, despite what they say?
Has your partner said they’re tired of reassuring you, and do you wonder how much reassurance is okay to ask for?
If so, this episode is for you! I’m to talk about reassurance seeking, what it looks like in a healthy relationship, and most importantly - how to start reassuring yourself.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Your Self Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection (FREE masterclass series)
- Get coached by Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Does the thought of your partner around other attractive women (or men) make you panic?
Do you feel jealous when they talk about their co-workers, worried that they find them hot?
Or do you feel on edge when they’re out in bars, afraid they’ll find other people attractive?
If so - this episode is for YOU. I’m talking about why your brain likely sees attractive people as threats, and more importantly - how to train it not to.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Book a Relationship Anxiety Breakthrough Call with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Ever wonder: Why am I the way that I am?
Why does an unanswered text ruin my day?
Why does criticism seem so big and scary?
Why can’t I ever stop worrying about what might go wrong?
Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about some of the most common beliefs we learn in childhood that could be at the root of your relationship anxiety.
Ready? LISTEN NOW!
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection - FREE masterclass - SIGN UP NOW
- They’re distracted on their phone - so you go in a mood and make a passive aggressive comment.
- They didn’t ask about an important meeting you had - so you assume they don’t care and don’t bring it up.
- You haven’t heard from a friend for a while - so you imagine she’s having fun with people she likes more - and don’t bother reaching out to see when she’s next free.
What do all of these examples have in common?
You're being sabotaged by your unmanaged mind.
Let’s talk about it.
Mentioned in the episode:
- FREE MASTERCLASS SERIES - Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection
- 1:1 coaching - Book a free 45 minute Relationship Anxiety Breakthrough Call - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
I’m sharing something vulnerable in today’s episode.
My wife recently told me she didn’t want children - when we’d always agreed and said that we would.
This has of course thrown a huge spanner in the works of our relationship and our marriage - and it’s bringing up a lot of uncertainty.
And so I wanted to talk you through how I’m handling that uncertainty - in the hopes that whatever uncertainty you’re facing right now - you can perhaps use a similar approach and help create a feeling of peace, calmness and self-trust.
Note: This episode was inspired in part by the How to Be a Better Human podcast episode featuring Simone Stolzoff discussing uncertainty. Some of the ideas explored in this episode prompted me to reflect on my own experience, and this episode shares my personal perspective and how I apply those ideas in my own life and coaching practice.
FREE RESOURCE
- Your Self-Trust Bubble: How to stop spiralling in the face of rejection
Work with Rebecca:
- Contact Rebecca about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
When someone is upset with you or you suspect they might be annoyed about something you’ve done - do you instantly feel guilty?
When you see someone experiencing negative emotion - do you feel like it’s your job to try and fix it? And feel super uncomfortable until you know they’re okay again?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
I’m talking all about the difference between empathy and taking responsibility for other people’s emotions.
And how to let go of responsibility, while still being a compassionate friend, partner, or family member.
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - Use code 'SUN' to get 30% off
When I was at my most anxious in my relationships - I realised I had been depending on things outside of me being a certain way for me to feel safe, secure or calm.
Can you relate?
If so - I’m going to be talking today about the difference between internal and external safety.
And I’m going to offer you concrete exercises to do to start building your internal safety muscle.
So you can feel emotionally safe and secure - regardless of what’s going on outside of you.
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Are you facing rejection?
A setback at work?
A difficult friendship dynamic?
An uncertain outcome?
Someone who keeps crossing your boundaries?
Whatever feels tough right now - I want to offer you a question that is going to transform the way you approach it.
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
This week, I’m answering two questions from listeners.
The first is all about taking back a cheating, avoidant partner.
The second is dealing with a jealous partner who has very different thoughts around a friendship with an ex.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Join my email list
- Work with me 1:1 - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
People that work with me learn to STOP using the phrase ‘They made me feel…’
Because they’re finally able to take back responsibility for how they feel and respond to any situation in their life…
And I call this taking radical responsibility for your own feelings.
It’s something I did years ago - and it changed my life and relationships forever.
And in today’s episode I’m going to help you understand what it really means to take radical responsibility AND how to start doing it today!
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca
Are you struggling with resentment in your relationships right now?
- Maybe it’s a friend that’s always late.
- A partner that doesn’t pull their weight around the house.
- A mother in law that keeps asking for too much of your partner’s time.
Whatever it is - this episode is going to help you step out of resentment, and back into self-responsibility and self-empowerment.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £99
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Today I’m answering real life questions from listeners covering two topics.
- 1) How do I know the difference between a real red flag vs my anxious attachment?
- 2) How do I navigate jealousy in a friendship trio?
Ready? Let’s dive in!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Get 10% off 1:1 coaching in May- email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
The fear of settling, of choosing wrong, or of missing out on a ‘better’ partner is one that plagues so many anxious brains in relationships.
So I’m spending today’s episode talking about it.
I’m going to help you define settling vs embracing an imperfect partner...
AND help you call out your anxious brain’s perhaps unhelpful expectations when it comes to romantic relationships - so you can make a decision from an aligned, grounded place.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Enquire about 1:1 coaching opportunities - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - Digital course
Have you ever wanted to build your self-esteem and think more positively about yourself, but then a little voice in your head says…
But what if I become delusional?
What if I start believing I’m attractive, when the truth is I’m not?
What if I start believing I’m good enough - and it turns out not to be true?
If so, this episode is for you!
I'm going to teach you:
- Why you're already delusional ;)
- How your current beliefs are creating your identity
- And how to actually change your beliefs so you can become the person you want to be
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching - email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp
I have struggled with anxiety for over a decade - since I was a teenager.
And finding ways of understanding & managing my own fearful brain, and the fearful minds of my clients, continues to be a fascination of mine.
So in today’s episode - I’m sharing 7 of the biggest lessons I’ve learned about anxiety over the last few years.
And offering you some perspective shifts to help you change the way you think about your anxiety - and approach in times of uncertainty.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - discount code [BOOTCAMP]
- 1:1 coaching
How often have you found yourself thinking: Maybe if I feel this anxious, I’m with the wrong person?
If I was with right person, I wouldn’t get triggered… right?
Well in today’s episode - I’m talking about how that isn’t always the case.
And helping you to reframe this thought into something a little more empowering and productive.
Mentioned in the episode:
- The Relationship Mind Drama Bootcamp - £99 (use discount code 'BOOTCAMP' for 20% off)
- Information about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
In today's episode, I'm answering real-life questions from listeners and coaching them on their mind-drama from afar!
We cover topics including:
- Navigating old friendships when your interests have changed
- When the person you're dating won't say 'I love you'
- How to handle insecurity around a drop in sweet text messages
- And feeling unsettled when someone is emotionally distant
Even if you're not in one of these exact situations - the way I coach around them is bound to offer you something to take away for your own brain and unique relationship struggles.
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How often have you asked yourself: Am I too much?
Is texting twice too much? Is initiating seeing them again too much?
Do you often worry that being open and honest about your feelings means you’re ‘too much’?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Find out about coaching with Rebecca - email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Download the your free Self Esteem Building Kit - HERE
We’ve all been told a thousand times that our thoughts create our realities...
But when life feels hard, our partners seem uncaring, or the world feels like a hopeless place… it can be an easy thing to forget.
So in today’s episode - I want to help you understand exactly how your brain shapes and distorts your experience of reality...
So that you can start to notice the impact of it in your own life, and start calling bullsh*t on the narratives that are keeping you stuck.
Ready? Let’s dive in!
Mentioned in the episode:
- 1:1 coaching with Rebecca - get the details
Maybe it’s a friend you've known for years - and you feel like you’re the one always reaching out to check in or arrange plans.
Or maybe it’s someone you’ve been on a few dates with and you feel like it’s always you confirming the next date night.
Or perhaps it’s a family member who always calls you to vent about their problems, but the minute you need support and want to talk - they’re suddenly unavailable.
Whatever the relationship - we have ALL experienced some form of one-sided relationship.
So in today’s episode, I’m going to be outlining 5 uncomfortable truths about one-sided relationships that no one will be straight with you about...
AND I’m going to help you manage your mind in whatever situation you’re facing, so you can approach the relationship as your most secure self.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Secure Reframes Guide - FREE
- Enquire about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
If you’ve ever experienced betrayal in a relationship - you’ll know first hand how painful it can be.
And I’m dedicating today’s episode to talk about it. Covering things like:
- Handling the shock of betrayal
- Why the brain obsesses over needing to know every detail
- The meaning we make about ourselves and the future
- Should you stay or leave?
- How trust is rebuilt (and why self-trust matters most)
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Enquire about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Think more positively.
Your thoughts create your reality.
Just don’t sweat the small stuff.
All great advice - but hard to implement when you’re in the habit of feeling like a victim to your brain and the stories it tells you.
So in today’s episode I’m going to help you shift from being in the passenger seat, to being back in the driver’s seat of your brain...
So that you can create the kind of experience of your relationship and life that you truly want to have.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Download my Secure Reframes Guide HERE
- Enquire about 1:1 coaching spots for March
Do you ever wonder if you and the person you’re dating are actually just incompatible?
Maybe you know you have some mind drama and insecurities to clear up - but also question if… maybe I’m just with the wrong person?
If so - this episode is for you!
March 1:1 coaching spots
Email me directly at rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com to get all the details and book a free 30 min consult!
Are you terrified of being cheated on? If so - today’s episode is for you.
I’m talking all about the deeper beliefs fuelling the fear of being cheated on.
Some will resonate with you, others won’t.
But if the fear of being cheated on is something that keeps you up at night - this episode is going to help you truly understand why that is.
And what needs to change to overcome it.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Get in touch about 1:1 coaching opportunities - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Most of us are familiar with what it’s like to feel insecure.
And you may find yourself wishing or saying out loud that you want to work on feeling more secure.
Most of us go about creating feelings of security all wrong - which is why it doesn't work.
So in today's episode I'm talking about:
- Where people go wrong when they try to feel more secure
- What being more secure actually means
- And the one thing to work on to build genuine feelings of security
Mentioned in the episode:
- Secure Connections 101 - 12 week group coaching programme details
- Sign up for Secure Connections 101 NOW
- Email directly to ask questions or enquire about 1:1 coaching
I want to give you a little insight as to what coaching can look like for real life people - with real life relationship struggles.
And so I’m using the example of a past client of mine who felt triggered when she found out her partner watches porn.
Even if you can’t relate to that specific anxiety - I encourage you to listen anyway...
Because you're going to learn how to:
- Separate facts from stories
- Clean up your own fears and insecurities
- And show up to relationship triggers as your most secure, intentional self
Mentioned in the episode:
- Sign up to my 12 week group coaching programme / Get more details
Use discount code 'SC10' for 10% off before midnight GMT on Friday 23rd!
- Find out more about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you find yourself becoming obsessed with people that are hot and cold towards you - while ignoring the people that are consistently available and there for you?
Do you feel like your romantic relationship or even friendships are the focus of your entire world - and if there could be a problem in one of them - it’s like your entire world is crumbling and you can’t focus on anything else?
Do you often feel jealous and on edge in relationships? Like your brain is just scanning for signs that you’re about to be rejected?
If so - you’re likely stuck in the validation cycle - and I’m going to talk about why it’s happening and how to finally create a different experience of relationships.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Overcome Your Fear of Rejection - Free masterclass
- 12 week group coaching programme - DETAILS
- Contact me directly about 1:1 coaching opportunities
When you feel anxious or insecure, do you jump straight to action?
Perhaps re-reading your messages? Checking when they were last online? Or messaging your group chat?
Do you keep repeating the same anxious patterns over and over - and do you keep vowing to yourself you’re going to stop but - never the less, the patterns keep repeating?
If so - you’re likely missing a vital skill. I’m going to teach you all about it in this episode.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Enquire about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
- Sign up for my Overcome Your Fear of Rejection masterclass
Do other people’s happiness tend to get put before your own?
Does the thought of being alone terrify you? And do you feel like you cling to relationships with others in an attempt to feel safe?
If so - you might be stuck in the habit of self abandonment.
Let’s talk about it!
Email directly about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Have you set some goals or resolutions for 2026? And are you filled with hope for the year ahead?
Or do you kind of think resolutions are pointless.. Because you never succeed at them anyway?
Whichever camp you land in - in this episode I’m talking all about why you don’t need a new YOU in 2026...
And why what you actually need is a new relationship with the you you already have.
I’m talking all about:
- Why change often doesn’t happen
- The perfectionist fantasy trap
- And the real resolutions we should all be committing to in the new year
Mentioned in the episode:
- Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com - enquire about 1:1 coaching in 2026!
Are you constantly worrying about what other people think?
- Are they mad at you?
- Do they like you?
- Did they think what you said at dinner was stupid? Or insensitive?
In today’s episode - I’m talking about the simple, yet powerful skill we need to master to FINALLY stop worrying so much about what other people think.
Download my 'Self Esteem Building Kit'.
Email about 1:1 coaching in January 2026.
Does the idea that your relationship could one day end send you into a spiral of anxiety?
Do you tend to ruminate over worst case scenarios - panicking, then feeling momentary relief, only to find a new thing to worry about a few days later?
Do you fear being left or cheated on, and can’t stop that fear from getting in the way of the happy relationship you could be experiencing right now?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
I’m talking all about embracing uncertainty and offering practical tips for stopping rumination and gently opening up to the unknown.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Dealing with uncertainty / Handling 'What if...' thoughts resource
- Email me about 1:1 coaching in the New Year - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
‘Why can’t they be more sensitive?!’
‘Why can’t they be more affectionate’
‘Why can’t they just do what they said they’d do!’
‘They shouldn’t be so opinionated’
Ever find yourself ruminating about how all the other people in your life should change their behaviours to make your life easier? If so - this episode is for YOU.
I’m going to help you understand why your brain does this, why it isn’t useful and how to bring yourself back to what you CAN control.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Ready to make 2026 you finally master your relationship mind drama? Email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Download my free mind management roadmap to learn how to start taking back control of your anxious mind - HERE.
How often have you heard the phrase ‘If they wanted to they would’?
Well in today’s episode, I’m talking about that well used advice and how it isn’t always useful.
AND offering you a new perspective to try on in its place.
AND I’m also going to be talking about why we OBSESS over certain people or situations - and what to do when you notice your brain is in fixation mode.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Request details of 1:1 coaching: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!
We're going to cover:
- Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with us
- Compromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will look
- Managing your anxious brain and processing your emotions
- The fears that often come up in long distance relationships
- Feeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfect
- AND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they’re not around or in contact
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?
Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?
And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?
In today's episode, I'm talking about:
- Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)
- Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughts
- And the two key components to creating unshakable confidence
Mentioned in this episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
In today’s episode I’m answering questions from listeners on their real life relationship struggles.
Covering topics including:
- What to do when your husband has female friends you’re uncomfortable with
- Fear of being rejected because of what you post online
- Dealing with potential rejection after asking for more commitment
- AND dealing with a mother-in-law that does not respect your boundaries.
Ready? Let’s dive in!
You’re all listening to this podcast because you’re perhaps aware your anxious mind is causing a lot, or some, problems and you want to take back control of your side of the equation.
But what happens if you’re doing all of that work - and your partner is continuously responding in ways that seem unsupportive, unkind, or pretty mean?
Maybe being dismissive of your feelings, getting defensive - even after you’ve worked really hard to approach them calmly, or perhaps even being quite harsh or unkind about what you’re struggling with.
In this episode I’m talking about:
- Dealing with dismissive and emotionally immature partners
- Setting boundaries
- Validating yourself when they won’t
- And deciding if they’re the best partner for you
Mentioned in the episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- Email me about 1:1 coaching: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Email me with a question for next week's episode: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you ‘get’ this work - but still find yourself reacting badly when you’re triggered
Do you know your thoughts aren’t likely true, but can’t help but panic and react when they appear?
If so - you’re likely missing a key piece of the puzzle, which is self-regulation. And in this episode, I’m going to give you concrete tools and techniques for regulating in the moment of a trigger.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Get in touch about my December 1:1 coaching package
- Join my email list
Do you ever get anxious about how often you and your partner are having sex?
Do you question whether you’re having ‘enough’ sex?
Keeping score of who initiates the most?
Or focusing on their experience of sex, rather than your own?
Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary disconnection and resentment around sex - so that’s what we’re talking about in today’s episode.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Find out about 1:1 coaching - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Join my email list
Ever worry that if you start to do this work to clean up your own thinking you might end up accidentally gaslighting yourself or becoming okay with everything - even bad behaviour?
If so - you’re not alone in that fear.
In today’s episode I’m talking about:
- Why questioning our thoughts isn’t the same as gaslighting ourselves
- AND how to tell when you WOULD be using this work against yourself
Mentioned in the episode:
- Own Your Side - my 8 week group coaching programme
- Email me - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Is this a want or a need?
- Why does my partner get so defensive when I tell them what I need in the relationship?
- And is this relationship just not right for me?
In today’s episode - I’m talking all about wants, needs, and how taking responsibility for your emotions first can make communicating your preferences 10x more likely to end in connection.
I’m also going to be talking about my brand new group coaching programme - Own Your Side ...
Which is going to help you to drop the drama in your relationship and get clear, calm, and confident in just 8 weeks!
Ready? Let’s dive in!
Own Your Side - 8 week group coaching programme
Email me directly: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Today, I’m sharing a blast from the past in the form of a previous episode I released in 2024 - offering you 5 questions to ask yourself when you feel rejected.
If you’ve already heard this one - the recap will be just what you need.
And if not, you’re going to learn 5 questions to help you meet your mind with compassion and curiosity when you feel rejected, AND challenge some of the unhelpful assumptions your brain is offering you.
Psst... Have you signed up for my FREE masterclass?
- Stop Projecting, Start Connecting - 1st October
- New 8 week group coaching programme - Own Your Side
Are you blaming your partner, friends or family members for how you feel?
Saying they ‘make’ you feel bad, insecure, anxious or rejected?
'Shoulding' them - believing they should behave differently. And tending to assume the worst?
If so - it sounds like you need to start cleaning up your own side of the relationship equation and getting more intentional about how you choose to to think, feel and respond to the situations in your relationships.
And I’m going to teach you how!
Mentioned in the episode:
- FREE Stop Projecting, Start Connecting masterclass
- Own Your Side - 8 week group coaching programme (launches 1st Oct)
Are you dating but finding the experience pretty miserable?
Are you constantly afraid of rejection and does the idea of getting ghosted again make you want to delete all the apps and stop bothering altogether?
If so - this episode is for you!
I’m talking all about dating, rejection, and how to build rejection resilience...
So that you can keep moving forward and create the kind of relationships you truly want.
Mentioned in the episode:
Processing emotions meditation
Contact Rebecca about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you ever find yourself wondering: is this just my anxiety or is this actually a real issue in my relationship?
In today’s episode - I’m talking about why that might be the wrong question to ask AND how to start managing your own mind better so you can intentionally decide how you want to think, feel and show up to any situation you’re facing.
Ready? Let’s dive in!
You might be spending a lot of time wondering if you can trust your partner, the person your dating, your co-workers, or any other human in your life.
But how much do you actually trust yourself?
In today’s episode, I’m talking all about:
- What self trust IS and what self trust ISN’T
- Ways to start building a relationship with yourself rooted in self-trust & self-acceptance
- And how to believe that you can handle whatever life throws at you
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Enquire about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
In today's episode, I chat with the amazing Jewel Hohman - expert in all things friendship, connection and social anxiety - to talk about what it really takes to create meaningful friendships.
AND what often gets in the way of them.
This episode is for you if...
- You ever feel anxiety about your friendships
- Your friendships have changed and don't feel as fulfilling
- You want more friends but don't know how to make them
- You have 'enough' friends but want to feel more connected to them
Check out Jewel Hohman:
Do you often search for dating tips - wanting to find the right way to text, show up on dates, the right amount of time to wait before having sex with them - all to try and ensure a certain outcome?
If someone isn’t texting as much as you’d like - do you decide to pull back and be aloof? Maybe not initiate plans until they’ve initiated some first?
Today we’re talking all about:
- Playing games vs genuine authenticity
- Common dating advice like stepping into your black cat energy
- Why you should stop playing games in your relationships
- AND what to do if you feel like someone is playing games with you
Mentioned in the episode:
- Find out all about 1:1 coaching & book a free 30 minute consult - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
How much information should you expect your partner to be sharing with you?
Should you know each others phone passwords? Have your locations on?
What if they don’t tell you about bumping into an ex? Or they delete some messages?
In today’s episode - I’m talking all about transparency vs privacy - and how to manage your mind in different situations where you and your partner may not think the same about how much to share.
Mentioned in the episode:
The MYRMD Society
Processing Emotions Meditation
Do you have a friend that everyone just seems to LOVE - and so you end up feeling a little overshadowed?
Do you have parents that are overly critical and not so great at showing you unconditional love - and so you often feel like you’re disappointing them and fighting for their approval?
If so - you likely heavily relate to the character of Blair Waldorf from Gossip Girl.
And in today’s episode - I’m talking about the insecurities and challenges Blair faces, and how we would work on them in a coaching setting.
And if you relate to her character in any small way - I’m going to be offering you ways to overcome your own insecurities - and get out of the shadows of the people around you.
Mentioned in the episode:
The MYRMD Society - Sign up
Today - I'm resharing one of my older, popular episodes - all about radical self acceptance.
Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?
Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong?
And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short?
In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including:
- What self-acceptance really is
- Why we struggle to love and accept ourselves
- The excuses we make to not accept ourselves
- How to make shifts towards unconditional self-acceptance
Mentioned in this episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- The MYRMD Society
Do you often obsess over your romantic relationship? OR are you currently single and find yourself obsessing over when you’re next going to BE in a romantic relationship?
What if I told you this was no accident.
And that you may have been brainwashed into fetishizing romantic love?
In today’s episode, I’m talking all about the history of romantic relationships, the way society has shaped the way we think about the importance of them...
And I’m sharing key signs that you may be putting the idea of romantic relationships on a pedestal in an unhealthy way… and what you can do about that.
Ready? Let’s dive in!
Mentioned in the episode:
- The MYRMD Society - all the details & link to join
- The Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
Do you and your partner or the person you’re dating have different ways of showing love and care?
And is it something that can cause a problem in your relationship?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
I’m talking all about:
- What love languages are
- Why we all differ
- How to manage our minds around those differences
- How to communicate more effectively what we’d like from our partners
- AND how to decide if someone just isn’t right for you
Mentioned in the episode:
- The MYRMD Society - £99 a month!
In today’s episode - I’m sharing a magic sentence that has helped me shift out of anxious spirals on so many occasions, and has been a huge help to many of my clients too.
When we’re feeling anxious, we’re afraid of a certain outcome - we’re internally resisting it happening, we don’t believe we could handle it.
But by using the sentence I’m going to share with you in this episode - I’m going to show you how to drop that resistance and embrace whatever the future holds.
Ready? Let’s go!
Mentioned in the episode:
- The MYRMD Society - my membership programme for anyone wanting to overcome insecurity and anxiety and finally feel confident and secure in their relationships
Do you instantly feel anxious and on edge when your partner or friend is in a bad mood?
Do you find yourself feeling so uncomfortable that you just want to fix it?
And get them to cheer up or snap out of it, so that you can feel better?
Do you sometimes feel frustrated by your partner’s bad moods - and blame them for ruining your experience because they can’t just be more cheerful or positive?
If so - this episode is for you!
I’m going to talk you through 5 key mindset shifts that need to happen to stop you feeling like a victim to other people's emotions.
Mentioned in the episode:
- The MYRMD Society - FIND OUT MORE
- Use the discount code: 'Secure'
How do you perceive your value as a partner? Or a friend? Or perhaps a member of your family?
Do you often doubt your value? Or does your self worth tend to go up and down based on how other people are responding to you?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
I’m going to help you to reflect on how you’re currently thinking about your worth and value AND offer you concrete, cognitive steps for building your sense of self - regardless of what’s going on outside of you.
Ready? Let’s dive in!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Your Secure Self: Creating emotional safety in the face of uncertainty - FREE masterclass
- The MYRMD Society
What does it take to feel emotionally safe in a relationship?
Emotional safety is a word that is being used quite a lot these days...
So in today’s episode, I’m breaking down:
- What emotional safety really is
- How we experience it
- How other people impact us feeling it
- And 4 reasons why you might be struggling to feel emotionally safe - even in the most loving relationships
Mentioned in the episode:
- Sign up to my FREE masterclass - 'Your Secure Self: Creating emotional safety in the face of uncertainty'
- Join my coaching membership - The MYRMD Society
I just don’t want to get hurt - have you ever said that before?
It’s something I’ve heard a lot in client sessions - and it makes total sense.
But how might your unwillingness to get hurt actually be holding you back in your relationships and creating more suffering than it’s preventing?
Listen to find out:
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Why we’re afraid of getting hurt
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What we’re really afraid of
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And to steal my willingness script to coach your brain from anxiety to courage in any situation.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- The MYRMD Society - JOIN US
Do you often find yourself feeling disconnected in your relationships - having unnecessary arguments that seem repetitive?
Or do you feel like you’re on a rollercoaster - feeling great one minute and anxious the next - like your brain is just always on the look out for what’s ‘wrong’?
If so - you’re likely stuck in one of the two cycles I’m discussing today:
The rejection cycle and the reassurance cycle.
Listen to find out the common signs, why our brain’s get stuck here, and how to break the pattern.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- Join The MYRMD Society
Today The Master Your Relationship Mind Drama Society is officially OPEN!
For just £99 a month - you can get weekly live coaching, monthly masterclasses, access to my digital course content, AND a community hub to get written support and cheer on other society members.
And in today's episode, I'm chatting with two members of my previous rounds of group coaching.
Listen to hear about their personal struggles and experiences - and to learn how these tools & concepts have transformed their relationships.
SIGN UP TO THE MYRMD SOCIETY
Find out more details (& read FAQs)
Email me with a question - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you ever wonder what the difference is between a healthy boundary and a control attempt coming from a place of insecurity?
If so - this episode is for you.
We're going to cover:
- The difference between a healthy boundary and a power struggle
- The key ingredients that go into setting a healthy boundary
- Some examples of real life situations showing the difference between a healthy boundary & a control attempt (situations you will likely relate to)
- How to manage your own mind first so you know you’re approaching the boundary as your most secure self
- How to communicate a boundary in a way that creates opportunities for connection
- And the fear of rejection that we can often feel when we want to express a boundary - and how to overcome it.
Ready? Let’s dive in!
Mentioned in the episode:
- SIGN UP TO MY FREE 5 DAY CHALLENGE
- Find out about my new membership - The MYRMD Society
Do you have a partner or friend that exhibits some of the signs of an avoidant attachment style?
And do you find your own anxiety being triggered by their behaviour - resulting in a push-pull cycle - where both people feel frustrated and disconnected?
You're certainly not alone with this.
And in today's episode, I'm teaching you how to manage your OWN mind and create a secure response to avoidant behaviour.
So that you can feel calm and grounded, regardless of what's going on for them - and actually create more connection.
Mentioned in this episode:
- SIGN UP TO THE 5 DAY CHALLENGE
- Processing emotions meditation
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- Email me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
We all talk a lot about self-love and being compassionate to ourselves.
But what does that actually mean or look like?
In hundreds of coaching sessions - I've seen the many ways we can reject and disconnect from ourselves. And the impact that has on our lives & relationships.
And in today's episode, I'm going to share some questions to help you do an audit of your own relationship with YOU.
AND I'm going to offer you 3 exercises to help you improve it.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Contact me about 1:1 coaching - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Self Esteem Building Kit
So many of us spend our lives trying to avoid being triggered.
We blame other people for triggering us.
We try and convince people to change their behaviour so we can be less triggered.
But what if instead you could change the way you respond to your triggers...
And turn them into opportunities to understand your thought patterns on a deeper level.
In today's episode - I'm going to teach you steps to turn any trigger into an opportunity for growth.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- Email me: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
This week, I'm continuing on from last week's episode on the most common limiting beliefs I see coming up in my client sessions!
I'll be discussing the following thought patterns, how they impact our relationships, and how to challenge them!
Including:
- Believing your worth is dependent on the way you look
- Gauging how much someone cares about you by how they follow your manual
- Needing to be perfect to be lovable
- Doing something bad = Being bad
- AND MORE!
In today's episode, I'm discussing some of the most common beliefs I see coming up time and time again for my clients.
And the impact they have on our relationships.
Including:
- Believing you cause other people's emotions
- Making rejection mean something about YOU
- Believing you have to be a certain way / have a certain quality to be lovable
- AND MORE!
PS. There were be a part 2 next week! <3
Mentioned in the episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- Join my email list
- Email me - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Does your brain have a very all-or-nothing way of looking at yourself and your relationships?
You either did it perfectly or you're terrible.
You're a good friend or a bad friend.
Your partner either says the exact right thing or they must not care about you at all.
If so - you're not alone!
Our brains are actually predisposed to be very black & white in the way they think - preferring things to fit neatly into set categories - leaving very little room for nuance or shades of grey.
In today's episode I'm covering:
- A recent example of my own perfectionist brain
- How black & white thinking impacts our relationship with ourselves
- How it impacts our relationships with others
- How it can mess with our expectations and overall enjoyment of a relationship
- And some easy thought work hacks to take your brain to a more nuanced place!
Mentioned in the episode
- Email me about coaching opportunities: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
In today's episode, I'm talking about relationships doubts and anxiety - something which is often referred to as ROCD (Relationship OCD).
For many of my clients, they're in relationships with loving partners & they don't want to break up with them - BUT their brains will not let them relax.
They find themselves constantly questioning 'Am I in the right relationship?' and overthinking and nit-picking everything their partner says and does.
If you can relate, here's what I'm covering today:
- Why asking 'Am I in the 'right' relationship'? is the wrong question
- The myth of 'The One'
- The unreasonable relationship expectations that may be f*cking with you
- How to discover what your brain is trying to keep you safe from
- A process to guide yourself through a moment of doubt
- AND how to change the way you think about your partner's flaws
Mentioned in the episode:
- Contact Rebecca about coaching: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- Join my email list
When we're not honest with the people in our lives - we can create so much harm and disconnection.
And yet... sometimes humans lie!
In today's episode, I'm discussing:
- Why humans lie
- The act of self-preservation
- Bringing curiosity to situations - instead of black & white thinking
- How to handle conversations around lying
- And the fear of being lied to
Ready?
Mentioned in the episode:
- Spring 5 week 1:1 coaching package - email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you often find yourself thinking:
'Why am I still thinking this?!'
'What's wrong with me!'
'I shouldn't STILL feel this way...'
Maybe you've done the work of challenging your unhelpful thoughts, but find them still popping up and ruining your day?
If you're feeling disheartened and frustrated with your brain right now - this episode is for YOU.
I'm going to be covering:
- Why changing the way you think isn't quick and easy
- The unfair expectations we have of ourselves and our brains
- The montage fallacy - and how it messes with our ideas of growth and personal development
- What the reality of changing your brain actually looks like
- My own journey with changing the way my brain thinks
- AND why changing your relationship to your brain is THE most important thing you can do
Mentioned in the episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Get on my email list
In today's episode - I'm answering questions written in by some of you lovely listeners.
We're going to cover a wide range of topics, including:
- Feeling guilt for things like finding other people attractive
- Should I tell my partner about the work I'm doing on myself?
- The fear of missing a sign that you're being cheated on
- Feeling like you attract busy partners - and how to get your needs met
- How to catch yourself before you project your insecurities
- Dealing with a partner with female friends
NOTE - Just because these things may not directly describe what you're struggling with, that doesn't mean the coaching won't still apply to YOUR brain.
No one is going to be in your exact situation - but the fears, thought errors, and behavioural patterns will be surprisingly similar!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Join my email list!
Do you often feel jealous in your relationships?
Maybe your partner mentions a new co-worker, or a friend you're a little insecure about, or maybe you get that pit in your stomach when your best friend mentions one of their other friends...
Jealousy is a normal human emotion.
But it can cause so much havoc when left unchecked.
In this episode we're talking about:
- What jealousy is
- Having compassion for our jealous brains
- Types of jealousy
- The biggest lies jealousy tells us
- How to coach your brain out of moments of jealousy
- AND how to deal with situations where a boundary might be being violated by your partner
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Join my email list
This episode is for anyone that's tired of feeling like a slave to their anxious brain.
One of the biggest shifts for me was changing my relationship to my anxious thoughts.
Most of us take our thoughts verrrrry seriously. We think the fact our brain is saying something to us MUST mean it's true.
We place a lot of importance on the thoughts in our brain - and then end up ruminating, spiralling, and acting in ways we really don't love.
In today's episode, I'm talking about:
- Why we have such unhelpful thoughts
- Why understanding the purpose of these thoughts is powerful
- And I'm sharing practical tools for shifting into the observer of the thoughts - instead of feeling at the mercy of them
Mentioned in the episode:
- How to handle 'What if...' thoughts
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
I HAVE 1:1 COACHING SPOTS AVAILABLE. Email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
In today's episode, I'm talking about how knowing our core values can help guide us in and out of our relationships.
We'll be covering:
- What values are
- How yours and your partner's values may differ
- Whether that's a problem
- And how to let your values guide you when making decisions
Mentioned in the episode:
- James Clear's list of values
- Sign up to my email list
- Contact me: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
In today's episode, I'm interviewing one of my past clients and amazing friends - Mariah Kay.
Mariah speaks openly about her journey navigating her husband's alcohol addiction and talks about how you can help your partner in their recovery.
Mariah now coaches women facing the same struggles.
- Find her at @myhusbandsaddiction
- Check out her website: https://www.mariahkaycoaching.com/
As promised - in today's episode I'm answering 6 questions from listeners on a variety of topics.
Including:
- The fear of falling out of love with your partner
- When to end a relationship / when to try again
- Comparing yourself (and your life) to others
- Jealousy over your partner's success
- What to do when you're triggered
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
Do you feel terrified about what your partner may or may not be doing online...
Here's a snippet from a question I received from a listener:
"My question is about trusting someone in the digital age. It feels like more and more our devices are built for hiding things. Every social media app now seems to have a vanishing mode for deleting conversations, and every new version of an operating system offers additional “privacy” features. For someone working hard to heal their anxious attachment tendencies—including hyper vigilance—it feels exhausting! Like trouble could be lurking in every (digital) corner."
Can you relate?
In today's episode, I'm talking all about trust in the digital age. And covering:
- Is it easier to lie and hide things nowadays?
- What we're actually afraid of
- The beliefs that often fuel our fears
- Should you be checking their phone?
- AND setting boundaries around online behaviour
Anyone who has ever felt anxiety in their relationships will know what it's like to feel constantly afraid.
To fear what other people might be thinking of us...
To fear what our partners or friends might do...
To fear having to start again...
To fear being alone...
But I believe the antidote to fear is courage.
And so in today's episode, I'm talking about:
- What courage is
- What loving without fear can create
- What loving courageously looks like
- And how to cultivate more courage in your relationships
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- MYRMD - 12 week group coaching programme
- Email me: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Ever make requests of your partner (or friend / family member) and maybe they agree to do it... but they don't really do it the way you hoped?
Maybe you ask them to plan more romantic date nights - and they do for a week or so - but then they go back to their old pattern of behaviour?
Or perhaps you're struggling with knowing when to compromise in your relationship - wondering if you and your partner are just too different?
In today's episode I'm exploring:
- How there are really only 4 responses we can get to any request we make
- How to spot which response you're getting
- How to navigate each one and determine what's a dealbreaker
Mentioned in the episode:
SIGN UP TO MASTER YOUR RELATIONSHIP MIND DRAMA
Email me - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Our brains are always constructing a narrative.
We make meanings out of the things that have happened in our pasts, and then these stories shape and distort the way we think about situations in our present and what we create for our futures.
But did you know that you could rewrite your entire past, simply by changing the way you think about it?
Have you been cheated on...
Broken up with...
Made a big mistake...
Struggled in dating...
These events could be long gone but the story you tell yourself about them could be shaping your reality today.
Tune in to learn why rewriting the story you tell about the past is important and how to get started today!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Sign up for the Breaking Free of Codependent Thinking masterclass
- Find out more about my 12-week group coaching programme
- Win a £100 Amazon voucher & provide some feedback!
Do you feel a little frustrated, disappointed or let down by some of the people in your life right now?
Maybe you had expectations of how certain relatives or loved ones would behave over Christmas, and they didn't quite hit the mark...
It's easy for us to slip into victim mode in these moments, and mentally give all power over our emotions to the imperfect humans in our lives.
But in this episode - I'm going to teach you how to take back control, think intentionally, and handle unmet expectations.
Ready?
Mentioned in this episode:
- 12 week group coaching programme details and waitlist
- Email Rebecca - rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Feeling dread as Christmas approaches? Worrying about spending time with family members and feeling triggered?
Have you done a lot of work on yourself this year, and fear that it may all fly out the window as soon as you're around your parents, neighbours, or distant relatives?
If so... I've got you!
This is the reminder we ALL need this time of year.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Group coaching details
This week, I'm resharing one of my older episodes which answers a really common question I get when I teach people that their partners don't create their feelings.
People ask me: 'But if my partner isn't creating my emotions for me, and their job isn't to 'make me feel good' - then what's the point of relationships?!'
If your brain has offered a similar question...
This episode is for YOU!
Do you see posts on Instagram about red flags and instantly feel the pit of anxiety in your stomach?
Are you often worried about missing the signs that your partner isn't trustworthy?
And have you beaten yourself up in the past for 'not seeing it coming' and felt embarrassed, stupid, and naïve?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
I'm offering an opposing opinion on red flags and talking about why our obsession with them isn't actually helpful.
Listen to find out:
- Why the idea of red flags fuels anxiety
- What we're really most afraid of
- How self-certainty can be created, even in the uncertainty of relationships
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- Group coaching programme
Do you and your partner often have the same fight over and over?
Or is there an issue you have with a friend that has been happening for a while now - and you just can't seem to break the cycle?
Do you find yourself having the same reaction - and then them having their usual reaction...
And then suddenly you're in the same fight you've had many times before?
If so - it's time to break the cycle.
And this episode will help you do just that!
Mentioned in the episode:
Info on 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Link to group coaching info - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama
We can all be a little codependent sometimes. We're all humans with human brains after all!
But sometimes codependent ways of thinking can take on a life of their own - and create a lot of anxiety, fear, and resentment in relationships.
- Do you feel like your mood can be ruined by the mood of the people around you?
- Do you instantly feel anxious if you think someone is mad at you?
- Do you often blame other people for how you're feeling or for the choices you're making?
If so, this episode is for YOU!
In today's episode - I'm sharing some examples of codependent thinking and revealing the thought errors driving them.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Find out more about 1:1 coaching by emailing rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
When we're feeling anxious, there are certain things that are going to help us...
And certain things that aren't...
In today's episode, I'm talking about the things that DO NOT help you when you're feeling anxious and what to do instead.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Next round of my group coaching programme - DETAILS
Does your brain just LOVE to worry? So much so you're pretty sure you could win an Olympic medal if worrying was a category?
In today's episode, I'm talking to Emilie Leyes - expert in brain training and hypnosis - and founder of the Doddle hypnosis app.
We're covering topics like:
- Why our brains worry
- Whether worry is ever productive
- Some of Emilie's favourite techniques for overcoming worry and anxiety
- And how to face any worrying situation with confidence and self-certainty
Find out more about Emilie:
- Website
How much time do you spend focusing on how other people should change or behave differently?
If it's quite a lot... you're not alone!
Our brains love to focus on how other people aren't doing it 'right' and how if they'd just change, life could be so much easier.
But in today's episode, I'm going to be talking about turning that focus inward.
And focusing on who YOU want to be in your relationships, regardless of what the other humans are doing.
I'm covering:
- Why we often struggle to show up as the partners / friends we really want to be
- Why owning our own behaviours is important (rather than justifying them with the actions of others)
- And how to step into that future version of YOU
Mentioned in this episode:
- Information on my next round of group coaching and waitlist
Do you feel a looming pressure to 'get your shit together' by a certain age?
- Maybe it's a pressure to find a romantic partner...
- Buy a house...
- Get married...
- Have a child...
Do you often compare yourself to other people? Like your brain is cataloguing all their milestones, just to tell you how far behind you are?
In today's episode - I have a conversation with the amazing Kate Berski - author of 30 Phobia.
And we'll be digging into:
- Her experience with fear and dread about turning 30
- Milestone myths - and the biggies we get caught up in
- Societal pressures and how to handle them
- The expectation gap - and how to close it
- AND her 4 step approach for overcoming milestone anxiety
How to find Kate:
- Tik-Tok
- Her website
Do you find yourself feeling anxious when your partner isn't responding to you?
Or does your partner like to take some space after an argument - and when they do, you feel panicky and unable to calm down until they've returned?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
I'm covering:
- Why we struggle to feel safe when our partners are distant or taking space
- How to regulate your nervous system and create inner safety
- How to challenge the beliefs and thoughts creating your fear
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
Do you ever fear that challenging your thoughts about other people's behaviour means you're gaslighting yourself?
Do you want to make sure you're using these tools in a way that empowers you and doesn't keep you stuck in relationships that aren't truly what you want?
Then this episode is for YOU!
I'm discussing:
- The reason why we challenge our thinking
- When fear of leaving a relationship gets in the way of making a conscious decision
- How the first thought your brain offers you isn't the ultimate 'true' thought
Interested in 1:1 coaching?Email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you often find yourself feeling responsible for the way other people feel?
Feeling guilty if they're mad at you? Or changing your behaviour to try and manage other people's emotions?
Do you hear me say that other people don't create our feelings... but find that hard to grasp when it comes to your actions influencing other people's emotions?
If so - this episode is for YOU!
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Today I’m sharing a blast from the past - in the form of one of the first podcast episodes I ever recorded.Do you struggle with trusting your partner?
Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!
Then this episode is for you.
We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF.
Our unmanaged minds can create so much unnecessary pain and drama in our relationships.
If you often feel rejected and hurt in your relationships - then this episode is for YOU.
I'm offering you 5 questions to help you take back control of your fearful brain and feel empowered - regardless of what the other person is doing.
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in this episode:
- MYFR - 8 week coaching programme - INFO
- MYFR - SIGN UP NOW
When we're constantly spiralling in 'What if...' thoughts...
- What if they break up with me?
- What if they're mad at me?
- What if they're lying to me?
- What if they leave me?
... it's because of how we're subconsciously answering those questions.
In today's episode, I'm talking about:
- Why rejection seems so terrifying
- What we're actually afraid of
- How dirty pain is the cause of a lot of our suffering
- AND how to overcome your fears and feel confident and secure
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in the episode:
Sign up to the FREE master class: How to become rejection proof
Information on the 8-week group coaching programme: Master Your Fear of Rejection
Do you tend to take things personally?
Always interpreting things your partner or friends do as a rejection and then feeling miserable?
Do you anxiously worry about the future of your relationships? Spiraling in scary 'What if...' thoughts?
Do you avoid conflict? So afraid of losing people from your life for good?
If so - you likely have a fear of rejection.
And in today's episode, I'm sharing 7 symptoms of fear of rejection and how each of them f*cks with our relationships.
Mentioned in the episode:
- How to become rejection proof - FREE master class
- Master Your Fear of Rejection - 8 week group coaching programme
Do you struggle feeling confident? And often find yourself feeling anxious, insecure, and filled with self-doubt?
Did you know that, despite what a lot of us think, confidence isn't actually something you're just born with?
And that you can actually create MORE confidence by managing the way you think?
In today's episode, I'm talking about:
- Where confidence comes from (and where it doesn't come from)
- Confidence-eroding thoughts vs confidence-producing thoughts
- And the two key components to creating unshakable confidence
Mentioned in this episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
When you look in the mirror, are you quick to berate yourself with criticism?
Mentally noting all the ways you need to change or 'fix' something about how you look in order to be 'good enough'?
When you look at pictures of yourself - do you instantly hone in on what's 'wrong' and beat yourself up?
With my wedding coming up, I have had a similar experience of noticing increasing pressure from my brain to look and be 'good enough'.
And in today's episode, I share 4 steps for overcoming these thought patterns and getting out of the 'good enough' trap.
Mentioned in this episode:
- The Self Esteem Building Kit
There's a lot of talk in the online space about needs and the importance of finding partners that meet our needs.
But how do we actually go about asking for what we want?
In this episode, I'm discussing:
- What do we really mean by 'need'?
- Why we often don't just ask for what we want
- Why need entitlement causes issues in relationships
- How to see needs as a collaboration
- How to meet your own needs when your partner can't
Ready?
Mentioned in this episode:
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
Do you often avoid having the harder conversations with loved ones?
Not really being truly honest about how you feel and sweeping things under the rug to avoid conflict?
Or maybe you do bring up issues, but you do it in a way that doesn't tend to result in connection...
Then this episode is for YOU!
I'm going to talk you through some key steps for cleaning up your own mind before difficult conversations and some practical tips for showing up as your best self.
AND how to make the conversation a SUCCESS - regardless of their response.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
Do you ever find yourself obsessing over and trying to decipher how much someone else likes you?
Whether your partner loves you as much as you love them...
Or whether your friends feel as close to you as you do to them...
If so - this episode is for YOU!
We're going to talk about:
- Why answering the question isn't cut and dry
- Why we're so obsessed with it in the first place
- A better question to focus on in your relationships instead
Mentioned in the episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
Do you find yourself being pretty critical of the people in your life?
Your partner, your friends, your family members...
Feeling frustrated and negative about the ways they show up or the things they do / don't do?
Our brains' habit of criticizing can cause so much unnecessary disconnection in our relationships.
Tune into this episode to find out WHY we're doing it and useful tips for how to stop.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
In this episode, I chat with the lovely Sarah Siegert - Expat Friendship Coach, on all things FRIENDSHIP.
We talk about:
- The manuals and expectations we have of our friends
- Friendship breakups
- When friendships change due to life circumstances
- Making new friends as an adult
- Why it's really all about our thoughts about ourselves
Mentioned in this episode:
1:1 coaching - Email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Whether you're in a long distance relationship or not - there will be something in this episode for you!
We're going to cover:
- Emotional permanence, and how some of us struggle to believe our partners still care about us when they’re not physically with us
- Compromise and deciding how a long distance relationship will look
- Managing your anxious brain and processing your emotions
- The fears that often come up in long distance relationships
- Feeling pressure for the time you spend together to be perfect
- AND how you can feel connected to your partner, even when they’re not around or in contact
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing emotions meditation
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
In this week's episode, I'm talking about how our upbringing, society, and external influencers can shape and determine the way we think about ourselves, love, and relationships.
- Do you automatically think being single in your 30s is a bad thing?
- Do you feel a bit shocked when you hear someone doesn't want kids?
- Do you find yourself behaving in ways that don't really serve you, but you're not sure why?
- Are you super hard on yourself? And feel like you're never meeting the standard you (or others) have set for you?
If any of these things relate, this episode is for you.
I will also be sharing 6 common beliefs I see screwing with my clients' brains and offering ways to challenge them.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
- 1:1 coaching - email rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you try to use the tools and concepts I teach to manage your mind - but sometimes struggle to actually feel better?
Do you struggle to understand why something is bothering you and feel like you're skirting around the root of the issue?
Or often just have NO idea what you're thinking and where to even begin with thought work?
**Thought work is the practice of working with our thoughts to change our emotional experiences.
As you may have heard before - our thoughts create our reality!**
But often we can be so unaware of the thoughts creating our pain that we prevent ourselves from being able to address the real issue.
This episode is going to talk about moving past your surface-level thoughts to find the thoughts really creating your suffering.
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
- Email about 1:1 coaching - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Are you often feeling disappointed, hurt, and rejected in your relationships?
And like the people in your life just don't make you feel loved and important?
You may be falling victim to the 'They don't care' trap...
Which is a pattern I see a lot of clients getting stuck in.
In this episode, find out:
- What the 'They don't care' trap is
- Why we end up there
- The problems it creates in our relationships
- And most importantly... how to get out of it!
Mentioned in this episode:
Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
Do you find yourself often doing what others want you to do, without giving much thought to your own preferences and desires?
Do you tend to make decisions on what's more likely to be approved of, consciously or subconsciously trying to avoid the risk of people being mad at you?
If so - you're probably already familiar with the term 'People pleaser'.
And in today's episode, I'm talking about the different types of people pleasing, why we do it, AND why being willing to risk rejection will change your relationships for the better.
Ready? LISTEN NOW.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
Do you have some issues in your relationship where household chores are concerned?
*Do you just WISH you could get them to do their washing up faster...
Put a load of laundry on sooner...
Throw round a duster for once in their life?!*
Living with another human being with a totally different brain than you is no joke.
But in this episode, we're going to:
- Uncover how socialization plays a huge part in the way each of us approaches responsibilities
- Clean up your thoughts about what their habits mean about you and your relationship
- Talk about how you can be direct and confident in asking for what you want
- And how you can step out of frustration and resentment, and create the peace of mind you truly desire
Mentioned in the episode:
- Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
Do you find yourself being pretty hard on you?
Do you have a negative voice in your head, that's constantly ready to criticize you and tell you you're doing it wrong?
And that compares you to other people? Telling you you're always falling short?
In today's episode, I'm talking about how self-acceptance will change your life - including:
- What self-acceptance really is
- Why we struggle to love and accept ourselves
- The excuses we make to not accept ourselves
- How to make shifts towards unconditional self-acceptance
Mentioned in this episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- Questioning your thoughts cheat sheet
Do you want to open up to your partner about what you're going through but don't really know how?
Whenever you discuss your anxiety, does it tend to end in a huge argument?
Then this episode is for YOU.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
Do you feel overly impacted by other people's bad moods?
Like if your partner is grumpy after work - YOU automatically feel annoyed or irritated?
Or if your friend is being a little short with you - YOU automatically feel anxious?
If so - this episode is for you!
I'm going to teach you why other people's moods are never what's actually determining the way you feel, what actually is, AND how to take back control over your own emotional experience.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Questioning Your Thoughts Cheat Sheet
Do you find yourself feel resentful in your relationships?
Feeling like you need other people to change so that YOU can feel better?
If so - you need to listen to this episode!
Mentioned in the episode:
- MYRMD - Group coaching details
- MYRMD - SIGN UP NOW
- Email - Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you find yourself worrying about what your partner might do on a night out?
Or getting paranoid and anxious about their new co-worker?
Or ruminating about what if they cheat with that old family friend of theirs?
Constantly being triggered and worrying about situations that could lead to them cheating on you or leaving you?
In today's episode - find out WHY are brains are doing this and how you can finally stop making it YOUR job to stop them cheating on you.
Mentioned in this episode:
- MYRMD - 12 week coaching programme - Information
- MYRMD - SIGN UP NOW
In today's episode - listen to me chat with dating expert, Talia Koren - host of the Dating Intentionally podcast, about all things dating & mind drama!
We cover a range of juicy topics, including:
- How to enjoy dating
- Being in a rush to meet someone
- Rejection
- Apps vs meeting people in real life
- Outdated dating rules
And so much more!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Sign up for the FREE Facing Your Fear of Rejection master class
- Information on the group coaching programme
Meet Talia Koren:
- Dating Intentionally podcast
Are you terrified of your partner cheating on you or leaving you... because you're convinced you could NEVER be happy with someone else?
Does your brain tell you the dating pool is too small? Or you'd be too old to find someone else?
Or that no one would EVER be as good as your partner?
These scarcity beliefs fuel so much anxiety in our relationships.
And in this episode I'm going to discuss them in detail AND offer you 3 new beliefs that will help you break out of scarcity thinking.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - group coaching programme
- My email address: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
We're often told we need to validate ourselves - and not rely on our partners or friends to validate us.
But.... how do we actually do that?
In this episode I'm talking your through 4 simple steps for validating yourself in any situation - so that you can stop relying on other people to say the right things in order for you to feel good.
Ready?
Mentioned in this episode:
- My email address: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- MYRMD - 12 week group coaching programme - Info and waitlist
Ever find yourself wondering if what you're asking of your partner is 'reasonable' or 'unreasonable'?
And asking 10 friends their opinion about who's right and who's wrong in an argument you're having?
Do you and your partner have different opinions about a certain situation and you're stuck debating which one of you is in the right? Or who's to blame?
Then this episode is for YOU!
I'm going to teach you something that changes the way you think about 'reasonable' vs 'unreasonable' and help you decide on purpose how you want to think and feel about any situation in your relationship.
Mentioned in the episode:
- My email: Rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- MYRMD - group programme - Waitlist and info
Are you continuously feeling pretty terrible in your relationships, knowing you need to change the way you think, but have no idea where to start?
Are you showing up in ways you don't like and want to get address the root cause?
Or have you been following this podcast for a while and feel like you need a little more help on actually changing the thoughts creating your pain?
Then this episode is for you!
Mentioned in the episode:
- Drop me an email: rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com
- MYRMD - 12 week group coaching programme - Info and waitlist
Are you going through a breakup right now?
In this episode, I chat with amazing break-up coach, Lucy Price, on all things HEARTBREAK.
We talk about:
- The common thought errors that come up during breakups
- Calling out your brain's painful stories
- Getting closure
- Processing and allowing your pain
- Supporting yourself (even when your circle of friends aren't being supportive)
- And how to take back control and write the next chapter of your story
Find out more about Lucy:
- Website: www.shiftyourstory.net
- IG: https://www.instagram.com/lucy.m.price/
- TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@lucy.m.price
- Podcast: Shift Your Story
Do you find yourself getting anxious about...
- Who your partner follows on social media?
- How often they like your pictures?
- Whether they like certain other people's pictures?
- How often they post about you to their social channels?
- Or some other kind of variation...
If so - this episode is for YOU!
I'm calling out one of the main thinking errors that creates this kind of anxiety and teaching you how to coach your brain around it.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- MYRMD - Group coaching waitlist
Ever feel like everything is going fine - then something happens and suddenly it's like a mist has fallen over you?
You feel overwhelmed with negative emotion - maybe anxiety, or frustration - and then you start acting in ways you don't particularly like? Creating unnecessary drama and arguments in your relationships?
We've all been there!
In this episode I'm talking you through 5 steps of what to do the next time you feel triggered.
Mentioned in the episode:
- MYRMD - Group coaching waitlist & info
Do you ever feel powerless and resentful in your relationships?
Believing you have to feel miserable and frustrated until they change?
Or do you have arguments that seem to go on forever, spiralling out of control, and creating more and more disconnection?
Learning that the way we feel and show up in our relationships is ALWAYS a choice - is one of the most empowering things we can do.
And in this episode, I discuss 8 key choices we make regularly in our relationships - and which ones will serve you, and which won't.
Mentioned in this episode:
- MYRMD waitlist
Do you often find yourself spiraling in fearful thoughts about whether your partner is... THE ONE?!
Do you question whether they're the 'right' person for you?
And find yourself nit-picking and finding fault in every moment that you're together, from a place of anxiety and fear?
If so - this episode is for you!
Tune in to listen to me and the wonderful relationship anxiety coach & host of the You Love and You Learn podcast - Sarah Yudkin - talk all things THE ONE.
Find out more about Sarah:
- You Love and You Learn podcast
- Find her on Instagram
In this episode - I'm talking about some of the most common mind dramas that come up around Valentine's Day...
And 7 key truths about love that will transform the way you feel in your relationships.
Whether you're single or in a relationship - this episode has something for YOU.
Mentioned in the episode:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- MYRMD - May waitlist
In this episode - I'm answering 5 questions written in by listeners!
Topics include:
- Dealing with a partner's flirty personality
- Anxiety about someone you're not officially dating
- Catastrophising about a child's behaviour
- Enjoying a relationship for what it is vs settling for less
- And investigating red flags
Mentioned in the episode:
- MYRMD waitlist - May 2024
In this episode I'm talking about the dramatic stories and thoughts our brains love to tell us - and why believing them isn't always useful...
AND I'm offering you a simple technique to snap your brain out of any intense, scary, or painful story - so that you can start to see things through a more helpful lens.
Ready?
Mentioned in the episode:
- MYRMD - Group coaching - Waitlist
In today's episode, I chat with sex & intimacy coach - Morgane Horn.
We're going to cover things like:
- Navigating differences in sex drives
- What is the 'right' amount to be having sex?
- Does it matter who initiates?
- How to keep your sex life alive in long-term relationships
- And how to feel sexy and desirable, regardless of what your partner is doing (or not doing)
If you're having mind drama in (or out) of the bedroom - this episode is for you!
Find out more about Morgane:
- Beyond Great Sex podcast: https://podcast.ausha.co/beyondgreatsex
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/morganehorn_/
- Website: https://www.morganehorn.com/
Do you find yourself thinking over and over the same thing - and struggling to get a handle on your thoughts?
Does it almost feel compulsive? And like a cycle you can't break?
Then this episode is for YOU.
I'm going to be introducing you to the concept of thought defusion and some techniques from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy - that will help you separate yourself from your brain and defuse the power of your thoughts.
Mentioned in the book: Russ Harris - 'The Happiness Trap'
Links:
MYRMD - Group coaching info
Ever find yourself wondering what is just an anxious story in your head and what is your intuition at play?
Does debating this back and forth make you feel even more anxious and out of control? And less able to show up to the situation in front of you?
If you answered YES - this episode is for you.
Tune in to learn: What is intuition? What is anxiety? And how to navigate our brains around both.
Mentioned in the episode
- Sign up to MYRMD
- Find out more info on MYRMD
In today's episode, I talk about one of my all-time favourite books - 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' by Susan Jeffers - and some of the amazing concepts she teaches, which blew my mind!
If you feel a sense of anxiety and fear following you around in your relationships...
Constantly worrying about the worst-case scenario and feeling on edge...
This podcast is for you!
Mentioned in the episode:
Sign up to my email list
MYRMD - Group coaching info
In this episode - I'm outlining the 6 key shifts in thinking we have to make in order to create lasting security and confidence in our relationships.
Struggling with feeling insecure in your relationships?
This episode is for YOU!
Mentioned in this episode:
- MYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist
If your partner has cheated or behaved in a way that goes against your expectations of them in your relationship - it is bound to be extremely painful.
And we can often feel unsure about what to do next...
Whether we want to stay and give them another chance or choose to leave.
In this episode, I'm going to help you make sense of your mind and emotions and come to a decision that feels right for YOU.
Mentioned in this episode:
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- MYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist
Feeling a sense of dread about the Christmas season as we enter December?
And a looming feeling of pressure about the expectations of your loved ones?
Or do you find the behaviour of some relatives pretty tough to deal with?
Then this podcast is for YOU.
I'm talking about people pleasing, why saying no is so hard for us, AND how to set boundaries in a way that never fails.
Mentioned in this episode
- MYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist
Do you ever find yourself in decision paralysis? Unsure what the 'right' thing to do is?
And wishing you could just know for sure everything would be okay, before making that next move?
Whether it be choosing to stay or leave a relationship, taking the next step with your partner, or something totally different - this episode is going to help you make decisions confidently - knowing you have no idea how they will pan out.
Mentioned in this episode
- MYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist
Ever find yourself saying, 'If they really loved me then they'd.... [insert thing]'
Maybe it's - they'd take out the recycling when I asked.
Or maybe it's - they'd tell me they loved me every morning when we woke up.
Whatever it is, your brain likely has a manual for how the people in your life should show they love and care about you.
And when you don't notice this, you might be creating a lot of unnecessary disconnection.
Mentioned in this episode
- MYRMD group coaching programme - info and waitlist
Are you having a lot of anxiety or frustration about your partner's ex?
Whether they're in the picture in some way, or you're just obsessively stalking and comparing yourself to them... this episode is for YOU.
It's going to cover:
- Where our insecurity comes from
- How to handle it
- And where boundaries come into play
Mentioned in this episode:
MYRMD group programme info and waitlist.
Self Esteem Building Kit.
In today's episode - I talk about some of the most important aspects of thought work and the biggest errors I see my clients making when learning to manage their minds.
Listen to find out the key DO's and DON'Ts - and how to take your self-coaching to the next level.
Mentioned in this episode:
MYRMD group programme info and waitlist.
Processing emotions meditation.
Are you guilty of acting out and rejecting other people when you feel hurt and rejected yourself?
Do you often feel like simple misunderstandings or disagreements can escalate into full-blown arguments - where both people are just continuously rejecting the other?
I came up with the term 'Knee-jerk rejecting' to describe what I see so many of my clients doing in their relationships.
And it creates so much unnecessary disconnection.
Tune in to find out what knee-jerk rejecting is and the stop, watch, and question technique to help you put an end to it!
Mentioned in the episode: MYRMD group coaching waitlist.
Ever feel like it doesn't matter how much 'love' you receive from others, you just can't help but feel unworthy and unloveable?
Like no amount of reassurance, affection, or acts of kindness would convince your brain you are in fact cared about by your friends, family, or romantic partner?
If so - this episode is for YOU.
In this episode, I'm going to share an idea called 'Love intolerance' and talk about how your subconscious mind may be acting against you within your relationships.
Mentioned in the episode: MYRMD group coaching waitlist.
Going through a breakup? Or have you struggled a lot with them in the past?
This episode is for YOU!
We're going to discuss:
- The one thing that makes breakups so much worse
- Clean vs dirty pain - and how to clean up your own thinking around your breakup
- Stepping into your future self
- And why you don't need closure
Mentioned in the episode:
Processing Emotions Meditation.
MYRMD group coaching waitlist.
Currently dating and getting fed up? This episode is for YOU!
We will be looking at why managing our thoughts around dating is so important, and the shifts we need to make to create the results we want.
And whether you're currently single and dating, single and not dating, or in a committed relationship - this podcast is going to be useful for you!
Because you can apply these teachings to any goal you're struggling to achieve and any situation in your life that currently fills you with dread.
Included in the episode:
Loveability podcast episode.
MYRMD info & waitlist.
Struggling in one of your relationships right now?
I can guarantee, whoever the person is, your brain likely has a story about them. A narrative about them, the situation, the past - that's impacting the way you think, feel and respond to them in the present.
Tune into this episode to find out:
- Why our brains create stories about other people
- The impact these stories may be having in your relationships
- How to challenge and change them to help YOU create the experience you want
As mentioned in the episode:
- FREE processing emotions meditation
- Sign up to the MYRMD waitlist
Do you want to show up as a trusting, present partner - but feel this urgent need to check your partner's phone?
Or maybe it's in their Instagram followers list... or the likes they're getting on their pictures...
Whatever it is - there is a reason your brain is doing this, and there is a way to handle it that allows YOU to be back in control.
Listen to find out:
- Why we get the urge to check
- What we're really trying to escape
- How to overcome the urge
- AND how to face and tackle the cause
Click here to join my email list for weekly mind management and relationship anxiety support!
So in this week's episode - I have asked people on my email list to send in questions and relationship problems for me to answer and coach on.
If you're not on my email list - WHAT ARE YOU WAITING FOR.
Click here to subscribe.
Topics include:
- Whether we can 'make' someone feel insecure
- Thinking about your ex
- Dealing with your partner's ex fiancé and co-parenting
- Anger at partner over splitting parental roles
- Staying married for the sake of a child
- How long thought work takes to 'work'
- AND what to do when someone dislikes you
Ever get called needy?
I used to as well! And the truth was... I was needy.
I needed other people's attention, approval, and affection so badly - that I felt I couldn't feel secure and okay without it.
So in this episode, I'm going to talk about what's really happening in our brains when we feel NEEDY and how to coach our minds out of that place of lack - and to a place of confidence and security.
UPDATE ON GROUP PROGRAMME:
The are no longer any spaces left in Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - my 12 week group coaching programme.
Click here to get on the waitlist for January's round.
How we show up in our relationships is pretty damn important.
And yet, when we're operating from an unmanaged mind - we end up acting in ways we don't like very much, and in ways that often create so much unnecessary disconnection.
Tune into this episode to find out:
- How to take responsibility for your actions
- Questions to ask yourself before you take an action
- How to stop reacting to emotions that tend to get you in trouble
Mentioned in the episode:
- SIGN UP to MYRMD (group coaching programme)
- Find out more about MYRMD
- Processing emotions meditation
Do you spend a lot of your time worrying about other people's thoughts about you?
What if they're mad at me?!
What will they think of me?!
What are they going to say about me if I don't [XYZ]
As humans, we're wired to worry about what other people think about us.
And in this episode, we're going to talk about why that is and how to finally shift your brain's focus to what you CAN control. Which is always your thoughts about YOURSELF.
Mentioned in the episode:
- FREE taster session - Facing your fear of rejection - SIGN UP.
Ever feel like you and your partner just see things differently? And can't seem to get on the same page?
Ever find yourself feeling hurt, offended or rejected because your loved ones didn't something in the way YOU predicted they would or the way YOU would have done it?
We each have a unique brain with it's own beliefs, assumptions and default thought patterns. And we can often create so much unnecessary pain and suffering from what we make other people's ways of operating mean.
Mentioned in the episode:
Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.
Information about the programme - click here.
Feeling like you just WISH your partner or friends or family members would behave differently?
Do you wish they'd give you more affection, or text you more, or show more support, or be more open about their feelings?
Or maybe you wish they'd be more committed or do the things you'd enjoy doing?
Whatever it is - this episode is for YOU!
Mentioned in the episode:
Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.
Information about the programme - click here.
Are you going through a tough time right now? And feeling like you're struggling to deal with all the negative emotion you're experiencing?
Maybe it's a break-up, some bad news, or or a situation coming up you just never wanted to have to deal with...
Whatever it is, in this episode I'm talking about how we can handle these challenging periods - making space for the negative AND challenging some of the unhelpful thoughts that may be making things 10x worse.
Mentioned in the episode:
FREE processing emotions meditation - click here.
Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.
Information about the programme - click here.
Ever feel really justified in feeling angry or hurt by something someone has said or done?
Sometimes we can feel justified in thinking about things in a way that creates so much pain and suffering.
So in this podcast episode, I'm going to talk about the quesiton 'Am I justified in feeling this way?' AND suggest a better question for you to ask yourself instead.
Mentioned in the episode:
FREE processing emotions meditation - click here.
Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.
Information about the programme - click here.
In today's episode, I'm talking about my journey being alcohol-free for 3 years and the lessons I've learnt while giving up alcohol.
If you have no interest in giving up alcohol - DON'T SKIP THIS EPISODE. The lessons are still valuable and important for everyone, and really tie into my journey with this work and the tools and concepts I teach you.
Mentioned in the episode:
Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.
Information about the programme - click here.
Feel like you can feel totally calm and secure when around certain people - but then that one slightly more avoidant partner or friend sends your anxiety into overdrive?
You are not alone.
In this episode, we're going to look at the real reason why that is and talk about how to overcome it so that you can create calmness and security, regardless of what other people are doing.
Mentioned in the episode:
FREE processing emotions meditation - click here.
FREE Self Esteem Building Kit - click here.
Link to join the MYRMD group coaching waitlist - HERE.
Information about the programme - click here.
We are often told that compromising is important in any healthy relationship.
But what does that really mean?
Is it always true?
When is it okay to not compromise and how do we make that decision?
In this episode we're going to be talking about the reasons we choose to compromise and what we make it mean when other people won't compromise for us.
As discussed in the episode, here's the link to sign up to my group coaching programme, Master Your Relationship Mind Drama, waitlist.
And here's a link to all the details about the programme!
Come find me on Instagram at rebeccaorecoaching.
Do you find yourself thinking about things in the past and feeling a lot of regret?
Or do you find yourself trying to make a decision and feeling paralysed with fear about making the 'wrong' one and regretting it?
Then this episode is for you!
And as mentioned in the episode, here is the link to sign up to the MYRMD group coaching programme waitlist.
And here's a link to all the programme details.
What is your relationship like with yourself?
Do you find yourself loveable? Likeable? Do you not like yourself very much?
In this episode - I'm going to teach you a concept taught to me by one of my all time favourite teachers which is going to change the way you think about your loveability.
AND I'm going to tell you how you can create more love for yourself and those around you.
Here's the freebies mentioned in the episode:
5 steps for when you're spiralling master class - CLICK HERE.
Self Esteem Building Kit - CLICK HERE.
When two people want the same things in a relationship - that's a want match.
But often in our relationships we build so much resentment and frustration when the people in our lives don't appear to want the same things as us.
In this episode we dive into this concept and talk about :
- How to get clear about the wants you have in your relationships
- Making sure you love your reasons for wanting those things
- Communicating those wants with the people in your life
- And accepting and moving forward when you realise you and the person have different wants
To download my free '5 steps for when you're spiralling' master class, click here.
Having some friendship drama?
Is one of your friends not behaving in ways you like? Or do you find yourself feel anxious and insecure within your friendships?
Then this episode is for YOU!
We're going to talk about the point of friendship, and how you can begin to love and accept your friends, and creating amazing relationships - without needing them to change a think.
For the '5 steps for when you're spiralling' master class: CLICK HERE
Are you currently blaming somebody else or a situation in your life for the way you feel?
There's nothing more disempowering than believing we aren't the ones controlling our emotional experience. And nobody ever teaches us that we are!
In this episode, we're going to look at 3 common examples of victim mindsets and how they may be impacting your relationships.
And then you're going to learn how to challenge them and step into a position of POWER.
Do you have a very fearful, anxious voice in your brain? One that's constantly looking out for danger on the horizon and ways everything could go wrong?
This voice is a pro at freaking out. And the worst thing you can do is FREAK OUT with it.
So in this episode, we look at how you can become the calm, compassionate parent of that voice. And guide and support it during it's times of panic.
Click here to join my email list.
We think all our thoughts are just accurate interpretations of the world around us.
- A healthy relationship looks like [this]
- If they like me they'd do [this]
- A good friend will always [insert thing]
We mistake our brain's optional opinions for facts - in ways that can sometimes be so harmful to our relationships and general experience of our realities.
This is why questioning everything you think you KNOW is one of the most important skills for anyone learning to manage their mind and live a more intentional life.
This is NOT about gaslighting yourself.It's about observing your brain and it's assumptions with an open mind and curiosity.
And it WILL change your life.
Want to join my email list so you don't miss out on more freebies and opportunities to work with me? CLICK HERE.
In this episode I talk about the 7 lessons I had to learn to overcome my relationship anxiety and I share some personal stories from my own experience.
PLUS find out more about my 12 week group coaching programme.
Click here for more details on the programme.
Here to grab your spot.
And drop me an email at rebecca@rebeccaorecoaching.com with any questions!
Click here for the processing emotions freebie.
Wondering if you should end a relationship in your life?
The truth is... I don't have the answer. But this episode will help you work through your own thinking so that YOU can best make that decision for yourself.
Master Your Relationship Mind Drama, 12 week group coaching programme - SIGN UP NOW!
Processing emotions meditation - Download here
In this episode, I answer 6 questions from listeners on a range of juicy thought work topics.
- Connecting with a partner with a different cultural background
- Taking responsibility for other people's feelings (about our actions)
- Self love after a break up
- How long it takes to believe a new thought
- Resisting and reacting to negative emotion
- And feeling needy when you don't get a text back
Here's the bits I mentioned in the podcast:
- Self Esteem Building Kit
- Processing Emotions Meditation
- Information about my group coaching programme
- Sign up for the free taster session
Do you often label the people in your life as 'good' or 'bad'?
Do you feel like your either feeling madly happy with somebody or incredibly unhappy and resentful?
Our black and white brains love to be dramatic - but this episode will help you notice where you're doing this and challenge it.
To join my email list: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/subscribetoemaillist
Do you feel like the behaviour of the people in your life has the power to make you feel TERRIBLE about yourself or AMAZING?
Do you find yourself feeling very insecure in your relationships and wishing people would change so you could feel better?
When we base our self worth on the way others think, feel and act towards us - we naturally end up using them as validation vending machines... wanting them to spit out validation and make us feel 'good enough' whenever we want them to.
Listen to this episode for how to overcome this.
And here's the 'Self Esteem Building Kit' freebie mentioned in the episode: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit
Do you ever reflect on the past things you've done and said and feel immense shame?
Do you feel scared of making decisions because of how mean you're going to be to yourself if you make the 'wrong' one?
Improving your relationship with your past self is a great way to create a more loving and compassionate relationship with your present and future self.
Do you constantly feel on red alert for signs something might go wrong in your relationship?
Do you tell yourself its important you spot all the red flags and look out for signs your partner might be 'bad' so that you can protect yourself from future pain?
Then this podcast is for you.
Get my free 25 minute training on '5 steps for when you're spiralling' here.
And to sign up to my email list, click here.
Do you find yourself often feeling jealous in your relationships? And does it result in you showing up in ways you don't like?
This episode is going to look at what jealousy is, the 3 thought errors that create it, and how to deal with it.
Don't forget to sign up to my email list for more support <3 You can do this via the link below:
www.rebeccaorecoaching.com
Do you feel a little resistant to the idea of taking responsibility for your own emotions? As if that means letting the people in your life 'off the hook'?
Do you feel a little resentful that YOU'RE doing this work on your own brain, and they're not changing anything at all?
Then this episode is for YOU.
Model example [as mentioned in episode] C: Partner says 'I will be late home'
T: They don't care about spending time with me
F: Upset
A: Withdraw, don't ask them how their day was when they get home, make passive aggressive comments, don't be curious or loving towards them
R: I don't act like I care about them
Do you tend to assume the worst of other people? And maybe expect them to behave in ways you aren't always perfect at doing yourself?
Do you ever get called out on your double standards?
Then this podcast is for you!
This two part episode looks into the expectations we have of our partners and how to manage our minds around them.
AND how to manage our minds if we're single and having A LOT of thoughts about that as the 14th approaches.
Whichever camp you're in... you're going to learn:
- The real source of your negative emotion
- How to take back responsibility
- How to feel the way you want to feel NO MATTER WHAT
Looking to increase the number of friendships or relationships in your life? But feel like the mean voice in your head always stands in your way?
This episode is for you.
I'm going to share 7 tips for how to approach creating your dream connections.
As mentioned in the episode, here is the link to my Self Esteem Building Kit freebie: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit
Do you find yourself feeling anxious when you want to do something you know someone else won't be happy about?
Do you feel like you're constantly trying to 'keep everyone happy' at the expense of what you really want?
Then this episode is for YOU!
Click here to join my email list: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/subscribetoemaillist
Are you constantly finding yourself debating whether your partner or friends care ENOUGH.
If so, tune into this episode!
We'll be discussing the anxiety behind this question and more empowering questions we can ask instead.
Do you often hear people say 'Don't take it personally'... but struggle to take it anything BUT personally?
Do you find yourself feeling insecure about a lot of things - things people say, do, and perhaps the things they don't say or do?
This podcast episode is for YOU.
Mentioned in the episode:
1) Self Esteem Building Kit: https://mailchi.mp/c5511307aef4/selfesteembuildingkit
2) Thoughts to practise about this teaching:
- Other people’s behaviour is a reflection of their own inner worlds
- I am a neutral circumstance in other people’s models
- A hundred people would have a hundred different responses to me
- I actually have no idea what’s going on in their brain
- What might be going on for them that my brain’s not considering?
- How is this nothing to do with me?
3) Master Your Relationship Mind Drama - Group coaching programme: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/groupcoaching
Does your brain often offer you terrifying WHAT IF thoughts that leave you spiralling for hours?
And does trying to convince yourself that thing won't happen never really work?
If so - this episode is for you!
Did you know that voice in your head is actually not YOU?
And did you know that a lot of the time it's actually full of sh*t?
In this episode, we talk about the nature of our minds and how being aware of the unreliableness of your brain's constant chattering could help create a different experience of your relationships.
At the end of the episode, I talk about my group coaching programme - Master Your Relationship Mind Drama. Here's the links to find out more about the programme, and to sign up to the FREE taster session on January 5th.
Course info: https://www.rebeccaorecoaching.com/groupcoaching
Free taster session sign up page: https://mailchi.mp/rebeccaorecoaching.com/zvrdry60ey
Arguments in relationships happen. But often our primitive brains can create SO much unnecessary drama and disconnection - preventing us from reconnecting and moving forward after a disagreement.
In this episode, we'll talk about how our ego and desire to be 'right' can prevent recovering after arguments and how we can begin to argue and mend after arguments in a more productive way.
Do you find yourself getting stuck in a cycle of comparing yourself to others?
Are they prettier? Richer? Funnier?
Is there relationship 'better'? Is there partner more romantic?
Whatever it is - this episode will help you understand WHY we feel the need to compare and how we can break out of the habit.
To join my email list for even more relationship tips and support, visit: www.rebeccaorecoaching.com
Once we learn that other people don't exist to 'make' us feel good and validate us, some clients tend to ask... 'so if my partner isn't supposed to make me feel secure and validate me, what's the point of relationships?'
If you wonder this yourself, you're in luck!
This episode talks about the way we're socialised to think about relationships, validation, and the reasons you may or may not choose to be in a romantic relationship.
In this episode - I look at some of the common errors we make when trying to set boundaries, what a boundary actually is, and why it doesn't require anything from anybody else for it to be a huge success.
Struggled upholding boundaries in the past? This episode is YOU!
Do you often find yourself feeling anxious if you sense a change in mood in your partner, friends, co-workers, or family members?
This was probably one of my biggest struggles that I’ve really worked on during my own coaching journey.
I would feel like in my relationships I was just constantly on red alert, monitoring if other people were ‘okay’ with me so that I could feel safe and secure.
Listen to this episode to find out how you can start overcoming this today!
Do the things that happen in your life just constantly throw you and leave you feeling like an emotional boomerang?
Feeling like you need things to change...
- Your partner to change
- Your job to change
- Your weight to change
- The world to change!!
.... so that you can start feeling BETTER.
Then this podcast is for you.
Find yourself feeling angry about the way other people act? Or maybe you feel rejected, hurt or disconnected when people don't behave in the ways you thought they would.
Our brains naturally make assumptions about what other people's behaviour means - snap judgements that we rarely pause to question, and that cause so much havoc and disconnection in our relationships.
In this episode - we're going to talk about how curiosity is the secret weapon that will help you create more connection in your relationships.
If you're trying to improve your relationships in any way - DO NOT SKIP THIS EPISODE.
Your thoughts are what create the way you feel, which drive the way you act - which means they're verrrrrry important.
And improving your relationship to your thoughts is something that will massively help you manage your mind, emotions and create relationships you love.
Do you find yourself wishing you could just get your partner or friends or family members to just STOP doing that thing, or START doing something else?
Do you wish you could just write them a guide for how they SHOULD act?
Wouldn't it make life so much easier?!
In this episode, you're going to learn all about the concept of MANUALS. And why learning to let go of your manuals for others is the key to creating the most amazing relationships.
In today's episode, I answer six questions written in by people on my email list. If you're not on my email list already - head to www.rebeccaorecoaching.com and get on it!
Topics in this episode include:
- Getting over an abrupt breakup
- Dealing with cheating paranoia
- How to manage a spiralling mind
- Is he a narcissist or just an a$$ hole
- And more!
Do you HATE feeling anxious? Do you often react to your emotions in ways that create more drama in your relationships? Do you feel like your brain and emotions are the boss of you, and wish that you could be the boss of them?
Then this podcast is for you.
I'm going to teach you how to stop reacting to, avoiding, and resisting negative emotion so that they no longer have to ruin your life.
Does somebody not liking you fill you with fear?
Does the idea that they might be mad at you make you extremely anxious?
Do you try and people please everybody so that EVERYONE will be 'okay' with you?
Then this episode is for you!
Here is a link to the Self Esteem Building Kit mentioned in the episode: https://mailchi.mp/rebeccaorecoaching.com/selfesteembuildingkit
Do you struggle with trusting your partner? Are you constantly questioning... but WHAT IF they are going to cheat or leave me one day? How can I trust them!!
Then this episode is for you.
We're going to uncover what trust actually is and why you don't need to focus so much on trusting THEM when you can trust YOURSELF.
I believed for most of my 20's that other people were the source of my negative emotion.
Thank god I was wrong!
Listen to this episode to find out:
- The real source of your anxiety
- Why trying to control them won't help
- How to take responsibility and create changes
My very first podcast episode is here! This is a quick introduction to me, what I do, and how this podcast is going to help you finally master your relationship mind-drama.