Stacy & Stacy: Recent Episodes
Stacy Trasancos and Stacy Farquharson
It’s time to dig deep with Stacy and Stacy. This is a podcast for anyone hungry for God and willing to tackle today’s relevant issues with authentic conversations inspired by Holy Scripture, prayer, and devotion to the sacraments. Stacy and Stacy is hosted by two gals who went to the same country Baptist church as little girls, had crazy lives, and found each other decades later as Catholic convert wives and mothers. Get ready, y'all, they're fixin' to get real! See more at StacyandStacy.site.
Stacy & Stacy wrap up Season 3 with Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's timely advice they discovered in her book Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode, they discuss the power of prayer, testimonies and faith.
Stacy & Stacy discuss Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's advice in her book Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode, they reflect on how to 'live your love', give grace and love like the dickens.
Stacy & Stacy discuss Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's advice in her book Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode, they reflect on the importance of humility, eggshells and forgiveness.
Stacy & Stacy continue their discussion of Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's book Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode they talk about "Lily's" advice not to "teach" your spouse things, how to avoid power struggles, and how to check yourself before you wreck yourself! Join us.
Stacy and Stacy continue discussing Alice von Hildebrand's book By Love Refined: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode they discuss the importance of saying, "I love you." They give tips on keeping love alive and creating a symphony of love.
Stacy & Stacy continue the discussion of Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's book, Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode they tackle that familiar old insecurity -- when other people seem perfect, and you don't. What's at the root of this feeling and how do we deal with it in our marriages?
Stacy & Stacy continue the discussion of Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's book Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride in which "Lily" gives Julie advice. In this episode, they talk about that dangerous little word "always" (and its sister "never") and how overgeneralizations and accusations shut down communication. If your spouse says things like, "You always leave the dishes on the counter..." (etcetera), they have advice of their own about how to ask your spouse not to communicate that way for the sake of a good relationship.
Stacy & Stacy discuss Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's advice in her book Refined by Love: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode, they consider "Lily's" comments about fighting in marriage, how to avoid it and how to do it well.
Stacy and Stacy continue to discuss Dr. Alice Von Hildebrand's book By Love Refined: Letters to a Young Bride. Join them as they discuss dignity, honor, lounge wear and manners.
Stacy & Stacy discuss Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's book By Love Refined: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode, they talk about her advice when your spouse says hurtful things or uses corrosive humor. How do you deal with it? What do you do? She has great advice for putting up shields instead of walls. (And they discuss actual abuse at the end.)
Stacy & Stacy discuss Dr. Alice von Hildebrand's book By Love Refined: Letters to a Young Bride. In this episode they talk about the importance and difficulty of setting up a home both spouses feel at home in. And they talk about how to talk about the little stuff (THAT BECOMES BIG STUFF).
Stacy & Stacy begin Lent with Alice von Hildebrand in Season 3. They read the letter, "Love is a Great Thing," and talk about courage, freedom, and risk in marriage. This is not just for married couples. Dr. von Hildebrand has relationship advice for everyone.
Stacy & Stacy end Season 2 with a Scripture reflection on David acting insane and then praising the Lord (it's the responsorial Psalm today). And they talk about St. Lucy and her eyeballs. Quite a story there! Finally, they wrap up with some thoughts over the podcast journey so far and where they are going in 2023. Watch for us on Facebook and Instagram.
Links from This Episode
- 1 Samuel 21
- Saint Lucy - Wikipedia
- Memorial of Saint Lucy, Virgin and Martyr | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy celebrate the beautiful Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe! Thank you, Mother Mary! We discuss the Catechism (163-165) on how FAITH is the beginning of eternal life, that through all the suffering, pain, and darkness, we can look to the cloud of witnesses in the Bible and among the saints to persevere in the race that is set before us.
After tomorrow, Stacy & Stacy are taking a break for the rest of 2022! They have large families and lots going on, plus they have some pretty extensive planning for 2023, including some writing assignments. Have a beautiful Advent, Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year!
Links from This Episode
- Lumen gentium - 58. In the public life of Jesus, Mary makes significant appearances. This is so even at the very beginning, when at the marriage feast of Cana, moved with pity, she brought about by her intercession the beginning of miracles of Jesus the Messiah.(291) In the course of her Son's preaching she received the words whereby in extolling a kingdom beyond the calculations and bonds of flesh and blood, He declared blessed those who heard and kept the word of God, as she was faithfully doing. After this manner the Blessed Virgin advanced in her pilgrimage of faith, and faithfully persevered in her union with her Son unto the cross, where she stood, in keeping with the divine plan, grieving exceedingly with her only begotten Son, uniting herself with a maternal heart with His sacrifice, and lovingly consenting to the immolation of this Victim which she herself had brought forth. Finally, she was given by the same Christ Jesus dying on the cross as a mother to His disciple with these words: "Woman, behold thy son".
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 163-165
- Feast of Our Lady of Guadalupe | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Memorial of Saint Juan Diego and the Psalm reading for today about our choices in life towards happiness. (This is the very first Psalm!) We get to make our choices, but we don't always get to pick our consequences. In the Catechism, we read about the freedom, the necessity, and the perseverance of Faith. How does it all fit together? Listen in.
Links from This Episode
- Ecclesiam Suam (August 6, 1964) | Paul VI - The concentric circles are described in section 97-113.
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 160-162
- St. Juan Diego - Saints & Angels - Catholic Online
- Friday of the Second Week of Advent | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Genesis Scripture reading for today, the Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception, especially the verse, "Who told you that you were naked?" Do you hear those lies from Satan too? And today in our journey through the Catechism, we read paragraph 159 on faith and science. It's a fun day! And they are so happy to be back together.
Links from This Episode
- Gaudium et spes, 36 (Stacy T forgot the name!) - "Therefore if methodical investigation within every branch of learning is carried out in a genuinely scientific manner and in accord with moral norms, it never truly conflicts with faith, for earthly matters and the concerns of faith derive from the same God."But, this actually came from Vatican I, see reference 6 in GS: First Vatican Council, Dogmatic Constitution on the Catholic Faith, Chapter III: Denz. 1785-1186 (3004-3005).
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 159
- Solemnity of the Immaculate Conception of the Blessed Virgin Mary
Stacy & Stacy are in different states today! They had to get creative for uniting their conversation. From Texas, Stacy F reflects on St. Ambrose and the Gospel reading about BURDENS! She has a neat breathing exercise. Breathe in peace. Blow out burdens. Try it! Stacy T is visiting her son in Seattle and is broadcasting from there. She talks about "faith seeking understanding" in the Catechism. What does that have to do with burdens? Listen!
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 158
- St. Ambrose - Saints & Angels - Catholic Online
- Memorial of Saint Ambrose, Bishop and Doctor of the Church | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Psalm for the Memorial of St. Nicholas, especially where it says that God "stooped toward me and heard my cry, and he put a new song into my mouth." They review the Catechism on the certainty of faith and how faith seeks understanding.
Links from This Episode
- Optional Memorial of Saint Nicholas, bishop
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 156-157
- Tuesday of the Second Week of Advent | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy start out the Second Week of Advent with the Scripture on the paralytic who was lowered to Jesus for healing and the Catechism on the gift of faith. Do you have friends with such faith to care for you when you need it? Do you hear God telling you to pray for your friends? Do you have friends you would trust to lower you on a stretcher down to Jesus for healing? "Believing is an act of the intellect, assenting to divine truth by command of the will." God gives us the grace to believe.
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 153-155
- Monday of the Second Week of Advent
Stacy & Stacy turn to the Responsorial Psalm (27) today. "I believe that I shall see the bounty of the LORD in the land of the living. Wait for the LORD with courage; be stouthearted, and wait for the LORD." From the Catechism, they talk about what it means to have faith in the One God, the Holy Trinity, Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. As always, they reinforce the importance of Scripture study, theology, philosophy, and even science to NOT be just an academic exercise but for the truths we learn from the Church to lead us to love God.
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 150-152
- Friday of the First Week of Advent | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy take a long look at the Sermon on the Mount in light of today's Gospel reading in Matthew 7. Having lived through severe abuse herself, Stacy F. reminds us not to judge people by their worst moments, because we do not know all that they are enduring. She reviews the other lessons from Christ in Scripture, and then they discuss Mary's perfect embodiment of faith and why the Church honors her as the purest realization of faith.
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 148-149
- What's the difference between a "Catholic Bible" and a "Protestant Bible"?
- Thursday of the First Week of Advent | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy discuss FAITH today! First, they reflect on the life of St. Andrew on his Feast Day. Stacy F. shares some new (to us) big Catholic words: saltire, crux decussata, nunc dimittis. Then they talk about the faith of Abraham in the Old Testament and in the Eulogy of Faith in Hebrews 11, from the Catechism lesson for today. All of it brings us back to the question: Will we walk by faith today?
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 145-147
- Saltire - Wikipedia
- Nunc dimittis - Wikipedia
- Questions about the Lectionary
- Feast of Saint Andrew, Apostle
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Gospel reading in Luke where Jesus talked to his disciples about how to spread the Good News and say "yes" to God. Then they begin Chapter 3 of Part I, Section 1 in the Catechism on the meaning of "belief" and specifically Mary's "blind obedience," the Blessed Virgin as the "most perfect embodiment" of faith. What a beautiful way to enter Advent!
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 142-144
- Mary and the Virtue of Blind Obedience
- Questions about the Bible
- Tuesday of the First Week of Advent
Stacy & Stacy are back after a week off to celebrate Thanksgiving with their families. Busy time! Happy Advent. They pick back up on today's Responsorial Psalm and the last of the Chapter on Sacred Scripture in the Catechism of the Catholic Church. Join them for Scripture and Tradition all during Advent 2022!
Links from This Episode
- Dei verbum
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 131-141
- Monday of the First Week of Advent | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Gospel reading from the optional Memorial of Dedication of the Basilicas of Saints Peter and Paul when Jesus said, "Take courage, it is I; do not be afraid." Then they answer a question about what a Catechism is and how the current one fits into history. Speaking of fitting in, they also discuss the meaning of "typology" when reading the Bible as a whole with Christ as its center.
Links from This Episode
- FAQ about the Catechism | USCCB
- Optional Memorial of Dedication of the Basilicas of Saints Peter and Paul, Apostles | USCCB
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 128-130
NOTE: Stacy & Stacy will be off next week to spend time with their families for Thanksgiving break! They'll be back on Monday, November 28! Stacy tuned.
Stacy & Stacy are back! They missed two days due to travel. Today's Scripture for the Memorial of St. Elizabeth of Hungary deals with forgiveness. How do we forgive and still protect ourselves from those who hurt us? They also pick back up in the Catechism on the section about the Gospels, in the words of St. Thérèse of Lisieux, "always finding fresh lights there, hidden and enthralling meanings."
Stacy & Stacy discuss the responsorial Psalm 119 today, "Blessed are they who follow the law of the Lord." Do the do! In real life, this means looking honestly in the mirror and not forgetting to take a look. Then they discuss how to read the Bible like a Catholic. Airing from Bangor, Maine today!
Still traveling, Stacy & Stacy play another episode from Season 1 today about how the Church can better minister to pregnant teenagers. They both have loved their daughters through these difficult times and hope the view through their eyes helps others understanding what is in the heart and mind of these young mothers. They'll be back tomorrow live from Bangor, Maine.
Stacy & Stacy are traveling for the next two days to Bangor, Maine to speak at a women's Advent by Candlelight event. Today's episode is from Season 1, where they talk about how hard it is to live with free will in your children, especially when they are older and making decisions that turn away from the family and from God. We ask the question all parents are afraid to confront: How can we be happy in Heaven if our kids are suffering for all eternity in Hell? How is that even possible?
Stacy & Stacy read St. Paul's pastoral letter to Titus in Crete: "...older men should be temperate, dignified, self-controlled, sound in faith, love, and endurance. Similarly, older women should be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers, not addicted to drink..." They reflect on what that means for us today. Then they read the Catechism on the interpretation of Scripture with the Holy Spirit. Scripture is a unified whole, living, centered on Christ, and God speaking to us. It's exciting!
Read along with them:
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 109-114
- Tuesday of the Thirty-second Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy talk about the Scripture in Philippians 2 (Alleluia for the day) that says to "shine like lights". The context says to stop murmuring. That is such a simple truth, but, oh man, is it hard to remember. They also read the Catechism on the truth of Sacred Scripture. How do we know the Scriptures are true and alive? Because Christ, the eternal Word of the living God, through the Holy Spirit opens our minds to understand.
Read along with us:
Links from This Episode
- Catechism of the Catholic Church, 105-108
- Monday of the Thirty-second Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB
Stacy & Stacy discuss how David refuses the King's offer of armor when he goes to battle against the giant Goliath. He knew that he knew God would provide what he needed. They also talk about how God provides us affirmations, reminders, and all the grace of Christ we need through Scripture and little miracles every day. The Bible is the Word, ever present, always providing. Read along with us: Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/32/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 101-104) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/110422.cfm (Memorial of Saint Charles Borromeo, Bishop | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss "the Church of Nice" and what people might mean by that confusing phrase. "Don't be the Church of Nice?" That doesn't mean be the Church of the Ugly. From today's Scripture, they talk about trusting God in daily life and not going down negative trails. "Our kindness should be known to all." Create ripples of goodness. We should not lead people to sin by scandal, but neither should we cause discord. Open these links and read along with us. Links from This Episode https://aquinas.cc/la/en/~ST.II-II.Q43.A1.SC (St. Thomas Aquinas on Scandal) https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/30/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 91-95) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/110322.cfm (Thursday of the Thirty-first Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Scripture in the Alleluia today from Matthew: "Come, you who are blessed by my Father; inherit the Kingdom prepared for you from the foundation of the world." They talk about Corporal Works of Mercy. For the Catechism lesson, they discuss what it means to be obedient to the Magisterium, how Catholics can disagree but must do so in communion, reverence, and docility. Don't divide the body! Sorry, this one got a bit long! They got excited talking about the Magisterium. You can read along using these links: Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/29/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 84-90) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/110222.cfm (The Commemoration of All the Faithful Departed (All Souls) | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss one of Pope St. John Paul II's beautiful homilies on the Beatitudes and talk about a road trip on All Saints Day to fulfill the Holy Day of Obligation. Links from This Episode https://www.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/homilies/2000/documents/hf_jp-ii_hom_20000324_korazim-israel.html (Jubilee Pilgrimage to the Holy Land: Mass for Youth at the Mount of Beatitudes (March 24, 2000) | John Paul II) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/110122.cfm (Solemnity of All Saints | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss St. Paul and Timothy's words to the Philippians to be "united in heart, thinking on thing" in the context of our daily lives now. The Catechism lesson for today is on the unity of Scripture and Tradition as well. They consider how we live these unities out in our busy lives. Don't be a doormat or a bulldozer. Be a column that speaks the truth in love. Links from This Episode https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40242278-under-pressure (Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls by Lisa Damour) https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/29/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 81-83) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/103122.cfm (Monday of the Thirty-first Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy offer some tips for maintaining a life of constant prayer, as the Scripture says today about Jesus praying all night on the mountain. Then they talk about apostolic succession in the Church, how our bishops today form an unbroken line from the Apostles and deserve our obedience and honor. Even if they give in to corruption, we should pray for them. When we pray, we plug in to the whole communion of the Church now and forever. The Holy Spirit will never leave the Church. Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/26/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 74-79) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102822.cfm (Feast of Saints Simon and Jude, Apostles | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy are not freaking out about Mariana Mazzucato because we are confident in the Holy Spirit at work in the Church. As it says in Scripture today, we can put on the Armor of God. Pray the prayer with them! Get dressed! In the Catechism we also read about Christ Jesus "Mediator and Fullness of All Revelation." The Church has always listened to non-Catholics and gleaned what truth can be found from the philosophers of ancient Greece to medieval times to now. Links from This Episode https://www.ncregister.com/blog/pal-appoints-mariana-mazzucato (Pontifical Academy for Life Appoints Pro-Abortion Atheist Member| National Catholic Register) https://cruxnow.com/vatican/2022/10/vaticans-academy-for-life-stirs-fresh-controversy-with-new-member (Vatican’s academy for life stirs fresh controversy with new member | Crux) https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/24/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 65-67) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102722.cfm (Thursday of the Thirtieth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy urge Catholic influencers and writers to honor the hierarchy instead of so much gossip and backbiting. In their view as converts, they find it confusing and damaging to the Church. Scripture says to honor those in authority, and likewise it says that those in authority should not be "bullies." There are ways to more effectively work to build the Church. Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/22/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 54-64) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102622.cfm (Wednesday of the Thirtieth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy talk about that good old mustard seed! Whatever seeds God has placed in your life, water them with faith. You will have faith in abundance if you call on Jesus Christ, even one little prayer. As mothers, Stacy & Stacy both know how happy we are when our kids turn toward our love, even a small bit, and we imagine God is like that too -- so happy when we see what He has revealed to us and say we are willing to conform our will to His. It is ALL a plan of loving goodness. Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/21/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 50-53) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102522.cfm (Tuesday of the Thirtieth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy talk about the woman in Luke's Gospel was bent over for eighteen years, crippled by a spirit. How often we are that bent over woman, physically and emotionally! And how hard it is during those long, hard trials to remember that God exists and loves us. Jesus spoke to this bent over woman and dignified her by calling her daughter of Abraham. He challenged the leaders of the synagogue to go beyond their laws to love and mercy. This story is so relevant for us today. Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/19/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102422.cfm (Monday of the Thirtieth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss what it means to live in a manner worthy of the call you have received, how to be humble, gentle, and patient, how to bear one another, and preserve the unity of peace (Ephesians 4:1-6). Then they talk about how the Church says we can know God exists and know what God asks of us, self-surrender and (big Catholic word) abnegation. Basic stuff for walking through a life of faith! Links from This Episode https://www.vatican.va/content/pius-xii/en/encyclicals/documents/hf_p-xii_enc_12081950_humani-generis.html (Humani Generis (August 12, 1950) | PIUS XII) https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/18/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102122.cfm (Friday of the Twenty-ninth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss the optional Gospel reading for the Memorial of St. Paul of the Cross found in Matthew 16, "Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross, and follow me." What does that mean? How do we know God is with us when we suffer and take up our crosses? They turn then to the beginning of the Catechism of the Catholic Church and read the two ways to know God, through nature and through our humanity. These fundamental teachings are the foundation of a life of faith. Links from This Episode https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/16/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/102022.cfm (Thursday of the Twenty-ninth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss the master of the house being prepared for the thief in the night. Whether it is the end of the world or the end of our own lives, the Scripture for today reminds us to always be ready to meet God. They also reflect on a fundamental teaching of the Catholic Church: everyone, even the atheist, desires to know and love God. It is written in the human heart. Human dignity rests on the fact that we are all being called to communion with God. That is a radical concept to remember when we encounter people in our daily lives. If they are not seeking God, it's like they are trying to live without air. Saint quote: "Let nothing disturb you, let nothing frighten you. Though all things pass, God does not change. Patience wins all things. But he lacks nothing who possesses God, for God alone suffices." —St. Teresa of Ávila, Doctor of the Church Links from This Episode https://www.vatican.va/archive/hist_councils/ii_vatican_council/documents/vat-ii_const_19651207_gaudium-et-spes_en.html (Gaudium et spes) https://www.usccb.org/sites/default/files/flipbooks/catechism/14/ (Catechism of the Catholic Church) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/101922.cfm (Memorial of Saints John de Brébeuf and Isaac Jogues, Priests, and Companions, Martyrs | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss Dei verbum and today's responsorial Psalm and talk about how hard it is to give thanks to God in all things. They also talk about a quote from St. Faustina to "hide in the Heart of Jesus" and let Him do all things to work intervene in our lives. What does this mean anyway? Links from This Episode https://www.facebook.com/marybeth.beacom/posts/pfbid0Xe6o47KE5nWVu7sLpjTJNxkK2ZsgAZrDrPRm5mnUmf7aCC85dx1fSDodjZ9TfJBgl (St. Faustina Quote) https://www.vatican.va/archive/hist_councils/ii_vatican_council/documents/vat-ii_const_19651118_dei-verbum_en.html (Dei verbum) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/101822.cfm (Feast of Saint Luke, evangelist | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy are excited about the retreat they held last weekend, and they discuss little St. Amias who passed away in his mother's arms yesterday and went to Heaven. As women, they reflect on women's role in building the Church and our families, how we are all women at the well, encountering Christ in our daily lives, giving Him our doubts and fears, and drinking His living water. Links from This Episode https://stacyandstacy.site/well (Women at the Well - Stacy and Stacy) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/101722.cfm (Memorial of Saint Ignatius of Antioch, Bishop and Martyr | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy welcome author, Roxane Beauclair Salonen to talk about her book with Patti Maguire Armstrong, "What Would Monica Do?" The ladies are all Catholic mothers with big families navigating modern culture. They discuss fears about talking to grandparents when kids have difficulty. Do they want to know? Do they suffer more? Links from This Episode https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/1014-memorial-callistus-i.cfm (Optional Memorial of Saint Callistus I, pope and martyr) https://ascensionpress.com/products/what-would-monica-do (What Would Monica Do? by Patti Maguire Armstrong and Roxane Beauclair Salonen)
Stacy & Stacy welcome author, Roxane Beauclair Salonen to talk about her book with Patti Maguire Armstrong, "What Would Monica Do?" The ladies are all Catholic mothers with big families navigating modern culture. They discuss the power of telling our stories and supporting each other. Links from This Episode https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/101322.cfm (Thursday of the Twenty-eighth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB) https://ascensionpress.com/products/what-would-monica-do (What Would Monica Do? by Patti Maguire Armstrong and Roxane Beauclair Salonen)
Stacy & Stacy welcome author, Roxane Beauclair Salonen to talk about her book with Patti Maguire Armstrong, "What Would Monica Do?" The ladies are all Catholic mothers with big families navigating modern culture. They discuss the grief that comes when a child turns away from God and how to cope with the feelings of failure. Links from This Episode https://ascensionpress.com/products/what-would-monica-do (What Would Monica Do? by Patti Maguire Armstrong and Roxane Beauclair Salonen) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/101222.cfm (Wednesday of the Twenty-eighth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy reflect on the meaning of Psalm 23 and the peace of Christ. The Psalm is a progression to the Sacraments of Initiation. In the second part of this episode, they discuss the Instruction on the Role of the Theologian and how that applies even to laity. If we have disagreement, we also have a responsibility not to sow discord in the "unity of truth" and "unity of charity (love)". Links from This Episode https://www.ncregister.com/blog/how-psalm-23-prefigures-the-sacraments-of-initiation (How Psalm 23 Prefigures the Sacraments of Initiation| National Catholic Register) https://www.vatican.va/roman_curia/congregations/cfaith/documents/rc_con_cfaith_doc_19900524_theologian-vocation_en.html (Instruction on the ecclesial vocation of theologian) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/1011-memorial-john-xxiii.cfm (Optional Memorial of Saint John XXIII, pope | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss the story of Sarah and Hagar and apply it to the problem of perfectionism. Don't produce the Ishmael; wait for the Isaac! They talk about what perfectionism is and why we might fall slave to it. And they talk about how to overcome perfectionism by understanding the roots of it. We are meant to be the freeborn woman, not submitting to the yolk of slavery.
Stacy & Stacy discuss the power of the Rosary and how each of them were first introduced as converts to this repetitious prayer that walks us through the life of Christ through Mary's eyes. Today is the Memorial of Our Lady of the Rosary. Join them for a reflection on Scripture and stories about real life.
Stacy & Stacy discuss despair and fear of praying well. Do you know in your mind that you should pray but find sometimes that you cannot because you are embarrassed, overwhelmed, afraid? They once again turn to Scripture and Tradition to talk about what it means to pray and why we do it - and why even the smallest act of faith will bring great rewards of faith to our souls. Links from This Episode https://aquinas.cc/la/en/~ST.II-II.Q83 (Aquinas on Prayer) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/100622.cfm (Thursday of the Twenty-seventh Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy Trasancos and Stacy Farquharson. Stacy & Stacy discuss how Christ taught us to pray. They consider what St. Aquinas had to say on vocal prayer and give practical tips on praying vocally with your family. Do you ever worry about the words that will come out of your mouth if you vocally pray for someone? Does your mind shut down and the words not flow? We have a way to quiet our minds and fill our vocabulary with holy words. Links from This Episode https://integratedcatholiclife.org/2015/01/trasancos-should-we-pray-out-loud/ (Should We Pray Out Loud? — Integrated Catholic Life™) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/100522.cfm (Wednesday of the Twenty-seventh Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy Trasancos and Stacy Farquharson. Stacy & Stacy talk about the women's retreat they led last weekend in Crockett, TX on "Lessons from Martha and Mary". Why was Martha so anxious and worried? Did she need to let go of her burdens? Go in a new direction? Rest with Christ? Or was she trying to do all of that and wishing she could get all the work done? The ladies discuss the meaning of anxiety and the feeling of abandonment. They also share some practical tips (from Pat!) for letting go of the fru-fru. Links from This Episode https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/100522.cfm (Wednesday of the Twenty-seventh Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy reflect on Christ's command to love your neighbor as yourself and talk about gluttony. Oh! It's a hard topic to face, but it seems that Catholics do not talk about this very much, even as they talk a LOT about sexual sin, which is also a vice of intemperance (lack of self control). An 'inordinate' desire for food can even be a mortal sin. They talk about their own struggles with chocolate and Cheetos, but realize that we lose some legitimacy if we cannot control what we eat and at the same time speak the truth to others about sexual impurity. Links from This Episode https://www.pas.va/en/events/2019/food_waste/final_statement.html (Final Statement on Food Loss and Waste Reduction) https://www.newadvent.org/summa/3148.htm (SUMMA THEOLOGIAE: Gluttony (Secunda Secundae Partis, Q. 148)) https://tandirection.com/pursuit-of-perfection/remedies-against-gluttony/ (Remedies Against Gluttony - TAN Direction - Catholic Spiritual Direction From the Saints and Faithful Modern Authors) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/100322.cfm (Monday of the Twenty-seventh Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy honor St. Jerome on his Feast Day in the Catholic Church and talk about Scripture, how it is alive and is God speaking to us. Need a Scripture Hug? Then they review the "hierarchy of truths" and how we can figure out what the Church teaches. Links from This Episode https://www.catholic.org/saints/saint.php?saint_id=10 (St. Jerome - Saints & Angels - Catholic Online) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/093022.cfm (Memorial of Saint Jerome, Priest and Doctor of the Church | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy discuss the angels in the Scripture reading today and dig deeper into the hierarchy of angels and the meaning of archangels. Who are these creatures that are with us and how do they help us to know God? They continue this fascinating discussion and are reminded from the reading that God provides us all the help we need. Links from This Episode https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/092922.cfm (Feast of Saints Michael, Gabriel, and Raphael, archangels | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy read today's Scripture on Job and talk about how he had no idea what was going on! He was obedient and faithful, unaware that Satan was testing him to prove a point and that God already KNEW his heart. Job had everything he needed to endure, and he didn't even realize how much he would provide a faithful testimony to us in 2022. We unpack what it means TO BELIEVE. If we are going to pray the Creed and mean it, then we need to know what we are professing. Links from This Episode https://www.npr.org/2009/03/25/102322618/pet-parrot-helps-save-choking-toddler (Pet Parrot Helps Save Choking Toddler : NPR) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/092822.cfm (Wednesday of the Twenty-sixth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Don't miss this one! Stacy & Stacy share with you the beautiful and powerful prayer called the Breastplate of St. Patrick. You can literally put on this armor to protect your loved ones from spiritual attack. If you have kids, pray this prayer for them. You can pray for anyone. Join us and learn more.
Stacy & Stacy talk about angels and demons and go through a little lesson on what St. Thomas, the Catechism, and the Bible say about these bodiless spirits. They are with you right now, all around. Prayer shields you from the demons, and that's one reason you need to pray without ceasing. Links from This Episode https://www.catholic.com/magazine/online-edition/the-science-of-angels (The Science of Angels | Catholic Answers) https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/092622.cfm (Monday of the Twenty-sixth Week in Ordinary Time | USCCB)
Stacy & Stacy talk about the Scripture for today when Christ asks, "Who do you say that I am?" Then they talk about time, from the perspective of the Cs-133 atom and how our moments are so fleeting. It's a chemistry lesson, but one that will remind that the Creator of the Universe, Our Lord, is FAITHFUL.
Stacy & Stacy discuss today's Scripture on vanity, what it means and how it relates to issues we deal with in our time. Then they talk about transgenderism, something that affects many families including one of theirs. What is this strange new language of sex, gender, gender identity, gender expression, gender fluidity? How do we love those who are part of this LGBT issue and also teach the truth about salvation? This is a hard but necessary episode.
Stacy & Stacy discuss todays reading for the Feast of St. Matthew. Then they discuss the recent Pew Research Poll on the U.S. religious landscape. Young adults are "switching out" of religion, and if this continues at the rate it is happening now, by 2070 Christians will be in the minority in our country. Stacy & Stacy bring the reading on mercy into how we evangelize to the next generation.
Stacy & Stacy discuss the Korean martyrs whom we remember today and the Scriptures on victory. Then they consider vocation in the second half of life when the kids are grown, based on an article at First Things.
Stacy & Stacy discuss Scripture for today and evolution. The discussion about Young Earth Creationism is back, and it seems that it is a function of the mistrust in science from the COVID-19 pandemic. What do Christians make of evolution? Listen in for a reflection on today's Scripture and the science and theology of evolution.
Stacy & Stacy talk about a New York Times article that asks if we'd go back to our childhood home. Everyone has some pain in childhood to face. In thinking about what kind of older people we want to be, it's good to find the courage to face what hurt you and heal the wounds so they don't become scars and callouses in old age. Sometimes all it takes is a friend! NOTE: We apologize for the audio issues in today's podcast. We are working hard to produce these ourselves and learn all we need to know to make it high quality. Today, Stacy T's Yeti Blue microphone has worn out after four years. She purchased a new one! Also, her granddaughter Evelyn paid a visit during this episode. Keeping it real!
Stacy & Stacy discuss the benefits of going back to school as adults to study Scripture and Philosophy. Would you do it?
Stacy & Stacy talk about the controversy among Catholics over attending invalid non-Catholic weddings. Whew! We never knew this was such an issue, and we wonder why this is. Then we tell you what we think and what we know. Do not forget the works of the Lord!
In this episode, Stacy & Stacy discuss the Scripture in 1 Corinthians 12, "As a body is one though it has many parts, and all the parts of the body, though many, are one body, so also Christ." They talk about how we are all called to a purpose, and then they talk about a New York Times article on fetal personhood. It's about time! What do we do next?
In this first episode of Season 2, Stacy & Stacy discuss the Scripture, "Lord, do not trouble yourself, for I am not worthy to have you enter under my roof" and how the drive to use more contraception after the overturning of Roe vs. Wade is because women do not know how loved they already are.
In the last episode of Season 1, Stacy & Stacy reiterate those one-liners and tie it all together with a new one. Withdrawals without deposits drain relationships. They talk about their favorite episode moments — the annulment "men in white robes" discussion, the pregnant teenager discussion, the Protestant roots, the "sandwich generation" — and realize it is all about love, all about investing in relationships. Season 2 will be back soon with more episodes about living the Catholic faith as (Texas) Catholic convert, wives, and moms.
In this episode, Stacy & Stacy discuss the "way of life" and "the way of death" in the context of living out married life. Stacy F. compares her story of the time her mom rescued her from terrible abuse to the way a mom recently interviewed by the New York Times took her daughter for an abortion. No one but God knows what is going to happen in the lives of our children, but we remain moms for life, whatever that brings, grandchildren, trials, heartache, joys, lessons learned, and lessons taught. Also, shout out to Theodore Seeber on Facebook for an excellent quote! Here's the NYT video: https://www.nytimes.com/video/us/100000008381584/abortion-clinic-kansas.html?action=click>ype=vhs&version=vhs-heading&module=vhs®ion=title-area&cview=true&t=5 (48 Hours in A Kansas Abortion Clinic: Longer Wait Times, Growing Fears - The New York Times (nytimes.com))
In this episode, Stacy Farquharson shares some of her conversion story, how she was in "limbo" unable to go back to Protestantism and unwilling, yet, to become Catholic. She talks about Mary, the Rosary, ministry, and being faithful to Christ before she was obedient to the Church. It is a process, a journey. To be better evangelists, it helps to see the Church from the outside in. For a Protestant, it can be confusing.
Stacy & Stacy remember the great things about being Baptist as little girls and discuss ways those Baptist roots could be useful in the Catholic Church to build relationship and community. You know what they say! Rules without relationship leads to rebellion. Discipline without relationship leads to rejection. Building the Church right now? It starts with us laity. Be Church!
Don't think! What is the one thing you say to a teenager who tells you she's pregnant? Stacy & Stacy both said the same thing, "I love you unconditionally." In this episode, they talk about facing unplanned teenage pregnancies, how parents can navigate imperfect families (hint: they are all imperfect), and more so, how parents can be prepared for a teenage pregnancy (or a million other things) when life brings unexpected difficulty and suffering. Stacy Farquharson's daughter, Lindsay, joins the show to tell what it's like to be that pregnant young woman. She was so close to abortion, and she knew she just needed to talk to her mom.
Stacy & Stacy are both moms of pregnant teenagers. In this episode, they talk about ways parishioners can help simply by celebrating the baby and welcoming the girl. This isn't a critic piece but an invitation to think more deeply about EMPATHY, about seeing the world through the eyes of pregnant teens and their families so we, as the Body of Christ, can show them love. This is the beginning of more such episodes. Lots to unpack and get real about.
Newborns don't come with user manuals and neither do teens and adult kids. Stacy & Stacy talk about letting kids go while holding them close in your heart. The key is to let them know you are always there...just not as close by as you were when they were little. https://youtu.be/geAq5j4QkI8 (Here's the interview) with Dr. Jeff Thompson.
In this episode, you really get to know Stacy Farquharson and her heart for the elderly. This is a life-changing talk! Hardly anyone talks about it, but being open to life changes as our parents get older and we find ourselves sandwiched between caring for our kiddos and the elderly. Stacy Farquharson has years of experience in communities and nursing homes (yes, nursing homes, not what they used to be). She was as a director and caretaker and has some practical and beautiful insights for ensuring that the family continues to care for the family -- throughout life. There is much to think about here. How will we care for our loved ones? What will we be like when we are old? Here's the Facebook post we talk about at the beginning. https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=1070193280200910&id=377700549450190 (Letter from Grandma Maria)
Tool #1 - Boundaries! Stacy & Stacy discuss the confidence of sacramental marriage and how that helped them understand how to set healthy boundaries. Here is the one main tool that helped them understand the grace of Christ in marriage as Catholic wives. Boundaries! They recommend the book by Henry Cloud and John Townsend. And they bring that idea into the Sacrament of Matrimony.
Stacy & Stacy walk you through how to confront your Good, Bad, and Ugly using Clint Eastwood's spaghetti Western, Pope Benedict XVI's Spe Salvi, and St. Augustine's Confessions. (Clint's in good company!) This exercise is about digging deep in yourself, through grace, to give all of yourself to Christ so you can then love all of the people in your life. It's about healing all the discord, and it works! Let's get real and kick some devil booty. Scriptures Quoted: "Or do you hold his priceless kindness, forbearance, and patience in low esteem, unaware that the kindness of God would lead you to repentance?" Romans 2:4 "For I know well the plans I have in mind for you—oracle of the LORD—plans for your welfare and not for woe, so as to give you a future of hope." Jeremiah 29:11 "...all our just deeds are like polluted rags..." Isaiah 64:5 (NKJV says "...all our righteousnesses are like filthy rags.")
Stacy & Stacy talk about 1) how scary it was while priests in a Tribunal sat around a table in a poorly lit room deciding the fate of their futures, 2) how foreign the word "annulment" is to non-Catholics, 3) learning to trust God in the process, to trust God in His Church, 4) the ongoing helplessness as people in ministry can seem unwilling to empathize, and 5) how God has His ways of reminding us that He's with us all along. (Oh, and there were thunderstorms rumbling in the background!)
Stacy & Stacy get real about the paralyzing fear of watching our kids exercise free will, especially when it involves mortal sin. They dig deep to talk about how to confront the helpless feeling with hope instead of "wallering" in despair.