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This is a short episode just to give you a life update. I haven't published any new episodes lately because I recently got engaged, and I am currently planning a wedding and preparing to move out of state after I get married. I will be taking a hiatus from the podcast indefinitely. When I do come back, the show will be bigger and better.

Feel free to go back and listen to any of the 40 episodes I have published to date. I have episodes about relationships, finances, mental health, physical health, and various other topics. Also, please continue to share this podcast with anyone you think would like to listen. Until next time take care!

Wedding website: Tyler & Rue Wedding

Here are all the books I have recommended in every episode to date: The Waiting Ruem | Books

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Welcome to the fortieth episode of The Waiting Ruem podcast. What a milestone! Thank you all for your support, feedback, questions, and involvement. Join me as I talk to a guest, April Shields, about learning to trust God in those unplanned seasons of life. Sometimes when life is changing, you do not know where things are going - you are just a passenger along for the ride.
Learning to trust God is easier said than done, but it is possible. Remember that you are not in control and never were. God is writing your story, do not take the pen from Him – let Him finish what He started.

Here are all the books I have recommended in every episode to date: The Waiting Ruem | Books

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Jeremiah 29:11-13 - For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call on me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.

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What are you going to do differently this year than you've done in years past? Oftentimes, we have an area or two in our lives that we know we need to change, but we never follow through. Let this year be different. Don't do the same thing you have always done and expect a different result.

Areas you can grow/change this year:

Relationally – Are there any relationships your need to work on? Do you need to work on establishing boundaries? Do you need to improve your communication with those around you? Or maybe become a better listener?
Emotionally – Are there any emotions you need to get rid of? Anger, Fear, Anxiety/worry. Are there emotions you need to embrace? Patience, love, kindness, forgiveness.
Financially – How is your financial health? Does it need to improve? Do you have a written plan?
Physically – Do you need to take better care of your body this year?
Spiritually – how can you grow spiritually this year? Ho about reading your bible? Do you need to memorize scripture? How is your prayer life?

Tips to help you accomplish your goals:

Write down your goals – when you write down your goals, it gives you clarity and direction and makes the task more attainable.
Set realistic goals – start small
Remove obstacles and excuses.

Recommended book: Creatures of Habit: Breaking the Habits Holding You Back from God's Best by Steve Poe

Habakkuk 2:2-3: And the Lord answered me: “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end—it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.

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What is generosity? It is showing a readiness to give more of something, as money or time, than is strictly necessary or expected. Generosity is a topic that many people don't talk about, even though it plays a significant part in our lives. Numerous articles talk about how to make money, how to earn more, how to increase wealth, and how to become rich. However, it's also important to understand that giving some of that away - sharing some of that, will help us emotionally, mentally, socially, and financially.

Benefits of generosity:

Generosity makes us healthy
Generosity makes us happy
Generosity lowers stress
Generosity improves our relationships
Generosity makes us healthy

How to be more generous:

Start small
Pay for someone coffee or meal
Donate to a charity
Buy someone in need some groceries
Pay your tithe and give offerings to your local church

Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche

Read more about lifestyle creep here:

6 Telltale Signs of “Lifestyle Creep”

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Budgeting tells your money where to go instead of wondering where it went. It ensures you always have enough money for the things you need. Budgeting also improves your financial health, which can, directly and indirectly, improve your mental, spiritual, and physical health as well.

How do you create a budget?

Use a spreadsheet, ledger, or notebook
Write down all your sources of income
Write all your expenses (house, car, debt, groceries, gas, etc.)
Subtract your expenses from your income
- If you're in the negative, that means you're living above your means
- If you have money left over, you're living within your means
You can adjust your lifestyle to increase that margin
- Cancel unnecessary subscriptions – you don't need all those streaming services
- Eat out less – you've already bought your groceries, cook at home

Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche

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How we spend our money is significantly influenced by our personalities. There are five major financial types: Big Spenders, Savers, Shoppers, Debtors, and Investors. It's possible to change your money personality, but it's going to require time and effort.

Ways to improve your money personality:

Commit to financial stability
Educate yourself - read personal finance books
Stop trying to keep up with the Joneses - stop focusing on what others have
Make goals – write them down
Be grateful for what you do have!

Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche

Money personality quizzes:

Learn About Your Money Personality | Empower
Money Personality Type Quiz: Which One Are You? (buzzfeed.com)
Discover Your Financial Personality | Marcus by Goldman Sachs®

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Money is not the solution to every problem. And that there are some things you can't buy with money – happiness, love, time, purpose, health, true friendship, confidence, trust, respect, etc. However, how much or how little money we have does affect our overall well-being, emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually.

Ways can you improve your financial health:

Budget
Spend less than you earn
Pay bills, debts on time
Start saving
Giving/donations

Recommended book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche

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At this point, you've made past the intentional friendship (noted those red, yellow, and green flags) - you've had a successful intentional dating phase now you're ready to seal the deal.

How do you know you are ready for engagement? Well, you've both dated for a while. You both have sought advice from wise counsel. You have discussed the future. You have both chosen to discuss and resolve challenging issues. You have prayed and come to a place of peace. You have chosen to grow personally and together towards your commitment and maturity in Christ. In this episode, I talk about the engagement stage in a relationship.

What engagement is not:

It's not marriage – save things joining bank accounts and sex for after you're married.
It's not an irreversible decision.
It's not a time to avoid hard questions or conversations - if you can't talk about the little thing, you'll have a hard time talking about the big things.
It's not a time to isolate friends.
It's not guaranteed to be smooth.

Scripture: He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147: 3)

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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How do you know if you're ready for intentional dating? Well, have you prayed? Do you have an accountability partner? How is your physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual financial health? Have you healed from past relationships? Have you considered your children (if applicable)? In this episode, I talk about what intentional dating looks like.

Intentionally dating causes you to grow in intimacy in all areas:

Spiritually - you are equally yoked, believing God has brought you together
Emotionally - you share your deepest, vulnerable feelings and hopes with each other only
Socially – you prioritize planning individual activities alone
Intellectually - you understand and accept each other's thoughts and values and support them
Commitment - you have an exclusive commitment by intentionally dating
Physically - you show affection in non-sexual ways while maintaining physical boundaries

Scripture: But seek first his Kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6:33)

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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Loneliness is something we all deal with in different seasons of life. Whether or not you are in a relationship, you will battle loneliness at some point in your life. To overcome loneliness, you need to take your eyes off yourself and look at the big picture. When you are so consumed by loneliness, that can result in self-pity, entitlement, then sin. The only person who can cure loneliness is our Creator. If you try to fill the void with anything else, you'll come up short.

What you can do when you find yourself feeling lonely:

Pray, read your bible – spend uninterrupted time with God
Reach out to (a lonely) friend – call, text, hang out – be a friend!
Workout – run, go to the gym
Read a book –learn something new
Travel – day trip, weekend trip, etc.
Volunteer
Try something new – write a song or poem, learn an instrument

Scriptures to help you when you're feeling lonely:

Deuteronomy 31: 6
Psalm 68: 5-6
1 Peter 5: 7
Psalm 147: 3
Hebrews 4: 15-16

Recommended Book: Priceless: She's Worth Fighting For by Luke Smallbone and Joel Smallbone

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Suppose you made it through the intentional friendship stage. You have mostly green flags, very few yellow flags, and no red flags, and now you are ready to move on to the next stage: intentional dating. In this episode, I’ll be talking about what dating is because we live in a culture that seems to be confused regarding dating because of the false impression propagated by Hollywood and popular culture.

Dating IS:

Allowing you to learn more about each other at a deeper level
Building commitment
Learning how to take care of another person's needs
Building trust
Practicing forgiveness
Developing boundaries
Helping you discover how well you relate together as a couple
An opportunity to meet family members
Moving toward a vision of your future, possibly marriage and family
A time when you determine if it's going toward marriage
Learning about yourself so you can get healthier and make necessary personal changes
Maintaining exclusivity and loyalty with the person you are dating

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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Suppose you made it through the intentional friendship stage. You have mostly green flags, very few yellow flags, and no red flags, and now you are ready to move on to the next stage: intentional dating. In this episode, I’ll be talking about what dating is not because we live in a culture that seems to be confused regarding dating because of the false impression propagated by Hollywood and popular culture.

Dating IS NOT:

A time to start a dating relationship hoping you become friends
About having someone in your life because you don't want to be alone
Blind trust
Building physical intimacy prematurely
Having poor boundaries
Ignoring red flags
Expecting perfection
Living in the moment - no foresight
The time to keep secrets
Avoiding conflict for the sake of keeping the peace
Isolating yourself with somebody at the expense of other relationships
A placeholder to spend your time with until someone better comes along

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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Green flags are what we want to find as we get to know someone. If you are in an intentional friendship that has mostly green flags, hardly any yellow flags, and no red flags, then you might be ready to move to the next stage - intentional dating.

Here's what green flags look like:

Their relationship with God comes first, and it is the guiding force of every area in their life
Respects your boundaries
Courteous and kind, even to the server
Asks questions to clarify your intent rather than assuming
Show interest in your wellbeing
Seeks to resolve conflict and forgiving
Dependable
Communication is not one-sided – they remember what you have said
Humility - they admit when they are wrong - they can laugh at themselves
Passionate about their interests, life, and their loved ones
Take of themselves mind, body, and spirit
They don't embarrass or belittle you

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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Yellow flags are not necessarily deal-breakers, meaning you don't need to stop your intentional friendship. However, they are cautionary and should be prayed through and considered. Ask for more information when clarity is needed. It is important to discuss yellow flags during the intentional friendship phase; before you commit to a more serious relationship. Under the right circumstances, yellow flags can be turned green.

Yellow flags to look for in a relationship:

Political differences
Inconsistent stories
Lack of spiritual growth based on the number of years they have been a Christian
Different denomination or doctrinal beliefs
Workaholic unbalanced work-life
Bad manners or hygiene
Cuts themselves down or cut other people down
No respect for your privacy
Obsession with sports, video games, or hobbies which interferes with daily living
Been married once or more before - with or without grounds for divorce

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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Would you recognize a relationship red flag if it smacked you in the face? Red flags are the character issues or behaviors that are incompatible with who you are - these are dealbreakers that you learn about someone, which reveal that you would not be able to have a healthy relationship with them. It is important to discuss red flags during the intentional friendship phase; before you commit to a more serious relationship. Under the right circumstances, red flags can be turned green.

Red flags to look for in a relationship:

Compulsive lying
Major debt due to poor spending and saving habits
Neediness, codependent issues, insecurities
Can't keep a job
Living with parents due to poor finances
Anger issues or violent temper
Addiction of any kind
Not respecting boundaries

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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What is an intentional friendship? It is the time between a simple friendship and a dating relationship with someone you think might be 'the one.' It is also a place where you agree to get to know each other better, where you spend consistent time together regularly so you can ask deeper and detailed questions that go beyond general friendship. Then at some point in time, you can decide to intentionally date or to remain just friends.

Benefits of an intentional friendship:

There is a lower risk of a broken heart.
There's a lower risk of rejection and the pain that comes along with it.
You grow personally and make adjustments and changes.
You have more time to get to know someone without the pressure of dating.
You are more in control of how much time to talk and spend together because expectations are lower.
You learn about their boundaries and their respect for your own
You can be yourself dash most of the time when people are dating they put up a good front to impress the other person, but in an intentional friendship, you can just be real.

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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In this episode, I'll be addressing the age-old question, Can men and women be just friends? Yes! Healthy male and female relationships can thrive without romantic pretense. Healthy communication and boundaries are crucial for this type of relationship to thrive. Jesus showed us with his life that it is possible to be just friends with the opposite sex.

Here are some reasons why we need opposite-sex friendships:

You learn about the other gender – how will communicate with your future spouse if you can't communicate with your brother or sister in Christ.
To grow personally – you'll learn what you need to change in your life.
It's not all about romance – learn how to care about people without the romantic pretense – love them as Christ loves them.
To learn how to set and practice boundaries.
Sets the foundation of a dating relationship

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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God wrote the rules of science, so wouldn't it make sense to read His Word in order to get the answers we need? Religion and science are not at odds, as many claim - in fact, true science is rooted in the truths of the word of God. There is no other book in any of the world's religions that contains scientific truth like the Bible.

Here are 6 scientific facts found in the Bible:

The earth is round
The water cycle
Life in the blood
Hygiene
Quarantining the sick
Oceanography

Recommended Book: Undeniable Evidence: Ten of the Top Scientific Facts in the Bible by Ray Comfort

Want to learn more? Check out:

Scientific Facts in the Bible | Living Waters
Video: Ten of the Top Scientific Facts in the Bible

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There are so many places to go, things to do, and people to meet. Yet we keep doing the same thing day in and day out, year in and year out. Traveling challenges us to step out of our comfort zones. You'll learn a lot about yourself and other people when you go places you typically wouldn't visit.

Here are some travel tips:

Use common sense and street smarts
Learn common phrases in that language
Use a local guide
Stop comparing
Have an open mind

Recommended Book: Around the World in 80 Days by Jules Verne

Want to read more about other countries? Check out The Fact File.

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Episode 20 marks a huge milestone for me. If you had ever told me that I would ever have a podcast, I would have laughed and laughed some more, yet here I am twenty episodes deep. Thank you, listeners, for all your love and support! I'm sure I'm not the only one who has a dream they've been sitting on instead of going out there. This is also my first guest episode. Join the conversation as I talk to my best friend, April Shields, a professional photographer, about stepping in faith and dreaming big.

Recommended Book: The Chronicles of Narnia by C. S. Lewis

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What is it about changing habits that we find so difficult? As powerful as the human brain is, it is also quite lazy. It will take the path of least resistance when given the opportunity. That is why we get stuck in habits and routines because that's less work for the brain.

Our habits are controlled by what is called The Habit Loop: Cue/Reminder – Routine – Reward. To change your habit, you will need to change the routine and trigger a different reward.

Ten ways to break a habit:

Identify your triggers
Practice mindfulness
Replace the bad habit
Start small
Focus on your WHY
Prepare for slip-ups
Change your environment
Visualize your habit-free self
Reward yourself
Give it time

Recommended Book: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

Extra reading:

Sick of your bad habits? Here's how to break them (msn.com)
How to Break a Habit (and Make It Stick)

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Emotional intelligence (EQ) is significant because it helps you relate to people. It is the ability to understand, use, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to relieve stress, communicate effectively, empathize with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. EQ is more important than IQ because we interact with people more on a social level than intellectual.

Here are five ways to improve your EQ:

Responding instead of reacting to conflict
Empathize with others
Utilize active listening skills
Practice self-awareness
Be motivated!

Recommended Book: Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman

Extra reading:

10 Ways to Increase Your Emotional Intelligence
Emotional Intelligence - Developing Strong "People Skills"

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Why do we find it so difficult to express ourselves? I've heard it said that we have two ears and one mouth; we need to listen twice as much as we speak – if only we would put that into practice more. All of our relationships would benefit if we deliberately put more effort into becoming better communicators, whether it's verbal, non-verbal, written, or active listening.

Here are 10 Ways to become a better communicator:

Listen more, speak less
Read body language
Be in the moment
Ask questions
Listen to understand, not to respond
Don't interrupt
Embrace the silence
Don't be that story topper
Find common ground, even if you disagree
Be transparent without oversharing

Recommended Book: 4 Essential Keys to Effective Communication in Love, Life, Work--Anywhere! by Bento C. Leal III

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Sometimes the most well-meaning people say things to ingles that seem nice on the surface but end being more hurtful than helpful. These words repeated time after time become so ingrained that it's easy to start believing them.

Here are some com common myths about singleness

God will bring you a spouse when you are ready
Getting married will fix your dysfunctional relationship
Your soul-mate is out there - you need to find them
Your biological clock is ticking
You'll start to enjoy life or only be happy after you get married

To successfully combat these myths, you have to know what the truth says. Knowing what od says and thinks about your life will give you the confidence to not be fazed by society's rules and standards.

Recommended Read: Blink of an Eye by Ted Dekker and Sacred Search by Gary Thomas

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Sometimes it is tempting to compromise and settle for what seems to be the next available option, especially when you've been single for a long time. However, this compromise never turns out to be what you expected. Being unequally yoked in a relationship has more consequences than what meets the eye.
This compromise can affect your relationship with God, personal growth, future, and destiny.

Read: Sacred Search by Gary Thomas

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Nobody likes waiting, especially if you're waiting for something you really want, like a significant other. Sometimes the best we can do is focus on what we do have (that is, time, money, friends, independence, etc.) instead of what we don't have (that is, a relationship). Listen as I talk about how you can grow spiritually, emotionally, financially, and physically during the season of waiting. Because waiting well is what matters.

Recommended Book: Intentional Relationships for Singles by Dan Houk & Kris Swiatocho

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Mind your manners! Where has common courtesy and decency gone? We need to treat others as we would like to be treated. Listen to 20 things you need to know to be a decent human being; because who wants to put people off with bad manners?

Recommended Book: Etiquette book by Emily Post

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Freedom is never free. It costs time, money, and lives. As America celebrates its 245th independence day, you could also celebrate your freedom from sin. Jesus paid the ultimate price for your freedom! You don't have to be a slave to sin, bondage, depression, anger, fear, insecurities, and many other things.

Recommended Book: The Hiding Place book by Corrie ten Boom

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Our bodies were created for movement. There are ramifications of having a sedentary life, some that could cost you your life. Physical activity helps control weight, boost energy, improve memory, reduce the risk of several diseases and reduce stress, depression & anxiety.

Here are some ways you could improve your physical health:

Burn more calories than you consume
Go for a walk
Workout with weights
Reduce fast food intake
Improve your sleep hygiene
Cook your own food

Recommended Book: The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg

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If 2020 taught us anything it's that change is inevitable. How we adapt to the change will either make us or break us. We need to let go of the notion that we have control of every aspect of our lives because we don't. Here are some ways we can cope with change:

Stop and breathe
Observe and absorb the situation
Adjust your expectations
Don't stress about what's out of your control
Find the humor in every circumstance
Pray

Recommended Book: Who Moved My Cheese? By Spenser Johnson

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The average American spends over 11 hours per day listening to, watching, reading, or generally interacting with media. Do we really need that much exposure to media? The eyes and ears are windows to the soul, so we become what we are exposed to.

Here are some things media shouldn't do:

Control your time
Affect your mood
Be a source of temptation
Be a source of validation
Get in the way of you building real-life relationships with people

Recommended Books: Lies Men Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free by Robert Wulgemuth and Lies Women Believe: And the Truth That Sets Them Free by Nacy DeMoss Wulgemuth

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Are you, like many others, having an identity crisis? Your worth doesn't come from popular culture, your clothes, job, car, house, relationship status, education, beauty, size, gender, or race. You will end up trying to be someone you're not when you don't know whose you are. You were uniquely made to be you.

Recommended Book: Mark of a Man and Let Me Be a Woman both by Elisabeth Elliot

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Our financial health significantly affects our overall well-being. We need good money habits and bad money habits can be broken to thrive in our finances.

Honor God with your money – be a good steward
Live below your means
Pay off debt on time
Don't waste money on non-essentials
Save, save, save – be prepared for the unexpected
Educated yourself on personal finances

Recommended Book: Get Good with Money by Tiffany Aliche

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We live in a fallen world and there are unhealthy relationships everywhere. Listen to this episode to find out the characteristics of toxic relationships and what you can do to get out.

Verbal abuse
Physical abuse
Emotional/mental abuse
Sexual abuse
Manipulation
Gas-lighting

There is hope and healing that can always be found through Jesus.

If you live in the US and need help getting out of an abusive situation, check out these resources: www.211.org and www.findhelp.org

Recommended Book: When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom from Toxic People by Gary Thomas

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What makes a relationship healthy, you ask?

Communication
Empathy & compassion
Mutual respect
Vulnerabilty & trsut
Honesty
Forginess
Encouragement and
Gratitude

These are just some qualities to look for in a healthy relationship. Are you lacking in any of these areas?

Recommended Book: Winning the War in Your Mind: Change Your Thinking, Change Your Life by Craig Groeschel

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You are the only person you will ever live with in your entire life. Having a healthy mind, body, and spirit is crucial for a well-balanced life. It's all connected – one area affects the other two. Lastly, Piercing the Darkness by Frank E. Peretti is the recommended read for this episode. Be sure to read it after reading This Present Darkness!

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Recommended Book: Piercing the Darkness by Frank Peretti

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Life wouldn't be the same without the people around us. Our family, friends, professional, and peripheral relationships play an important role in the making of who we are. Plus, it is not the quantity, but the quality of the relationship that matters when it comes to connecting with people. Lastly, This Present Darkness by Frank E. Peretti is the recommended read for this episode.

Recommended Book: This Present Darkness by Frank Peretti

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God created us to have a relationship with him. The presence or absence of God in our lives is going to significantly affect every other area of our existence, including other Relationships. Listen to my testimony of how I developed a relationship with God. You too can come to know Him.

Recommended Book: 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman

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We need people because... Listen for ten reasons why we need relationships – healthy ones that is. There are three main types of relationships- with God, with people, and with yourself and quality is better than quantity. Lastly, Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a great book to read if you want to strengthen your relationships.

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Welcome to The Waiting Ruem! This show is for everyone and anyone who wants to thrive in their season of waiting. Remember, it's not how long you wait, but how well you wait. We will be discussing relationships, personal growth, money, health & fitness, travel, and everything else in between. So, pull up a seat and let's talk!

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