We're all screwed up (and that's OK): Recent Episodes
Dawn Walton
It is said in the UK that 1 in 4 people has a mental health problem. This means 3 in 4 don't. This is simply not true. In my experience as a therapist, and a person, everybody has their screw ups. So maybe, what we should say is "This is my screw up and it is / isn't getting in the way of my life right now"
My name is Dawn Walton and I'm a therapist and author. In this podcast we will talk all things related to the way your head works. We'll take any idea, explore the science behind why it is that way, and look at practical tools and tips for helping you be the person you want to be.
Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist, sit in Jess's house and continue the discussion started in the previous episode around identity vs behaviour.
What is the difference between who we are and how we behave? Is it different for dogs and people?
Jess and Dawn discuss their unique relationship and skills, and how lucky they are to have crossed paths with each other.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist, sit in Jess's house catching up on stuff that's happened in the weeks since their last podcast.
The only background noise is from the feisty Bean the black and tan Dachshund who doesn't settle for the whole hour of the podcast, while Jess's other dogs snooze happily.
They begin to explore the concepts of identity vs behaviour (continued in the next episode)
They talk about retreats and residentials, and the difference between trainers looking for 'what' behaviour is, and not necessarily looking at 'why' the behaviour happens. The 'what' is an important first step, but the 'why' must come after to create lasting change.
Once behaviour in a dog has been observed, we need to do a pattern interrupt, to change the state and see what's behind it. After the pattern interrupt, we then need to positively reinforce the new behaviour we want. Dawn also does the pattern interrupt with her clients, getting underneath the behaviour to find where it comes from, and then changing the programming of the brain so that new patterns can form.
Dawn introduces the concept of resting bch brain. It's like a resting bch face but for the brain!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist, sit in Dawn's car and discuss the latest social media trend where you have to decided if you'd rather be alone in a forest with a bear, or a man.
Dawn was surprised when most people choose bear. What would you choose?
Dawn talks about the theme that clients have where their expectations stop them actually seeing progress - expectation is the killer of progress. And they go on to discuss how this also affects dog owners and the trainers that work with them.
This is also the episode where they talk about their exciting new mentorship programme for dog trainers that will be running in 6 month blocks.
This episode is recorded in Dawn's car so will include the random noises you'd expect of a public setting!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are taking a trip to Costco and decide to do a podcast to record their conversation as they drive (Dawn is driving while Jess holds the microphone. All safe!)
Along with the normal meandering conversation, this episode includes a discussion of the difference between Tonic Immobility (as experienced by sharks and chickens when they are upside down, possums and fainting goats, among others) and the Shutdown state. As with everything, the conversation involves exploring how this applies to dogs, and how we can see this in autistic humans. They discuss what we can actually do to help a dog or person in a shutdown state, particularly by activating the parasympathetic nervous system.
They also discuss the favourite topic of labels. Particularly how important it is to treat every individual (dog or human!) based on what you see in front of you. Decision trees can be used to ask the right questions and eliminate things that aren't relevant. So instead of A =B you can instead ask a series of yes or no questions to narrow things down. This can avoid falling into the trap of making assumptions, and of thinking that what you are doing is automatically right just because that is what you were taught.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist sit in Dawn's car and discuss Jess’s current existential crisis.
Jess discusses the different ways we can see our dogs and how some things are really obvious to her, but tricky to help others see. They explore ideas around how we can see ourselves and our dogs, and the ethical conundrum of doing something short term, that may be unpalatable, but creates permanent and profound change in the dogs - leading to much happier dogs, and humans!
Dawn explains the 3 A’s that she asks her clients to practice:
Awareness (I am in this different state)
Acceptance (of course I’m in this state because…)
Action (what am I actually going to do next)
This allows you to throw away the spiky stick and focus on what’s important. Resilience is not about the absence of a reaction - it’s about speed of recovery.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist sit in Dawn's car and discuss how different industries all have different 'camps' where each group believes they are doing things the only way that is right.
There is a residential for dog owners happening and there is a videographer attending to put together a documentary about what happens during the week. Jess was surprised to learn that, just like with dog training, there are different camps with different ways of doing things. Each one is critical of the other's approach.
How about we just be curious instead? Open your mind and explore different possibilities. Remember, as Dr. Seuss said " Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You"
They also discuss how a dog peeing everywhere is their equivalent of a Social Media post!
And of course they meander through the normal range of random topics during the hour.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist sit in Tim Hortons and discuss Narcissism and Circles! (The usual random subjects!)
Jess uses 3 circles to describe different states of the dog, and explains how she uses the 3 circles to decide the best course of action. The first is Introspective where the body language is shrinking and closed down. The last is Expansive where it's about exuberant energy. And the middle circle is Grounded
Dawn discusses her version of Steven Covey's circle of influence, where the first level is the Microscope level which you can focus on and directly influence. The next circle out is the Balloon level which you influence but only when you are focussing on it, like blowing up a balloon. And the outer circle is the River level where all you can do is flow with what is happening.
They also discuss how to spot a Narcissist and what that has to do with Social Media - particularly the trolls!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist sit in Tim Hortons and discuss Dawn's recently delivered workshop, which trains up others to do what she does - particularly the Rapid Trauma Reset.
They discuss their unique, and yet remarkably similar approaches, to work with humans and dogs. It's not about judgement. It's not about the story. It's about seeing what is in front of them and helping in the most effective way possible for all concerned.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist sit in Dawn's therapy room and discuss imposter syndrome.
As usual, they don't just take the 'official definition' but look at what it actually means in practice.
More people have imposter syndrome than you might realise.
And of course, it includes the "So What?" - looking at what steps you might try taking to overcome imposter syndrome.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist sit in Starbucks and discuss emotional anchors. What are they and how can they be used? Dawn helps you build your own anchor
They also discuss what it means when we say your dog is a working breed - revisiting the concept of fixed actions and how we can use them to reduce a dog's stress levels.
And of course, as usual, there is the usual meandering through random subjects, including discussing the development of the reactive dog residentials (6 now done)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discuss the dissociated state in humans. What causes it? How does it impact on their dog, and, more importantly, how do we recognise and work with that state?They discuss Dawn's approach to therapy and how it is different to regular therapy, and the 2024 plans to teach more people to do what she does. This episode is recorded in the new residential farmhouse and so the only background noise is that of gently snoring Dachshunds!--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/wereallscrewedup/message
Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by trainers Jess Williams (Stormzy) and Kym Cleary.
They begin by discussing an event that happened on a recent walk where Stormzy was told to do something with her dog, Storm, by Jess and asked why, because it felt like a step back.
They discuss why people can't see aggressive behaviour signals in their dogs and return to a favourite subject - how do you we know who we are?
And of course there is the normal meandering through different topics including how to get people who bring their reactive dogs along, to not get defensive and actually see the dog in front of them !
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by Author, Speaker and Kindness Scientist David Hamilton Phd.
As David is a scientist they get into the physiology and genetics of kindness. David has his own dog, a Bichon Frisé called Daisy, and for the first time joined Jess and Dawn in comparing what kindness looks like to a human and a dog.
They talk about communication and the five love languages for humans, and the new love languages that Jess and Dawn have formulated for dogs and their owners.
The dog Love Languages are : Food, Play, Meeting other dogs, breed specific games, Exercise and Physical touch.
This is podcast explores the science and meaning in practical terms of kindness, connection and communication.
Follow David on Instagram / Facebook under @davidrhamiltonphd
More about David:
After completing his PhD in organic chemistry, he worked in R&D in the pharmaceutical industry, developing drugs for cardiovascular disease and cancer. Inspired by the placebo effect, and how some people's conditions would improve because they believed a placebo was a real drug, he left the industry to write books and educate people in how they can harness their mind and emotions to improve their mental and physical health.He's the author of 11 books, including the Amazon bestseller, 'The Five Side Effects of Kindness'. He has been a featured guest on Channel 4's, 'Sunday Brunch Live' in the UK and CBS Sunday Morning in the USA, as well as on numerous BBC radio shows.He's also the honorary scientific advisor for the charity, 52 Lives, which helps people in need through acts of kindness.(please note this episode is recorded in Tim Hortons so may have more background noise than a usual podcast)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about emotional hijacking and the different levels, from fight, flight, freeze to the top level - which is switched off and not connected.
They discuss behaviour and where it comes from, leading to a conversation about parts. Enjoy listening as Jess (yes Jess, not Dawn) describes parts. They reference IFS (Internal Family Systems) which is parts work
And of course there is the normal meandering through different topics including dog personality traits and compulsive behaviour!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist compare their definitions of what mental health issues actually means, after Jess asked Dawn if she has any mental health issues and Dawn said yes!
The talk about the term "to provoke" and how there is an underlying level of stress and then situational / provoked stress on top of that (Is the cup full of water or the bucket half full of blood - you decide!)
And of course there is the normal meandering through different topics!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk how we all believe we can time travel and how we end up regretting stuff because of that.
They talk about strategies that you can use to compensate for this emotional hijacking.
And of course there is the normal meandering through different topics!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about snow globes and spiders in the context of phobias, anxiety and fear.
This episode is about who you are versus what your environment is versus how you are behaviour, and explores the nature of humans by looking at gangsters as per Get Gotti on Netflix.
They talk about the mind body connection and how powerful mindset it. Please note this involves a conversation about illness such as cancer so please avoid if you are in a sensitive place on this topic. As ever, discussions happen with openness and curiosity(please note these episodes are recorded chats in Tim Hortons so may have more background noise than a usual podcast)
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Please note there is a bit more noise than usual on the first part of this podcast - sorry! Plus a dog went mental with the barking in the middle so we had to stop and start it again 5 minutes later.
Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about banning the couch. Statistics show that a large proportion of dog bites happen on the couch. So maybe we should just ban the couch!What do to when your dog growls at you when on the couch. Punish? Avoid? Something else(please note these episodes are recorded chats in Starbucks so may have more background noise than a usual podcast)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about Percival the Mali pup as he chills out in Starbucks. Dawn hasn't seen Percival for at least 6 weeks, when he was first picked up. The change in him is remarkable. He lay down in Starbucks with very relaxed body language. He was alert and curious but not anxious, despite being next to a table with two noisy kids. At no point did he have to be given instructions on what to do. His lead was loose.
And this led Jess and Dawn to talking about how much we have a need to control everything, even in a positive way. We teach puppies obedience and then control their every move. We do the same with kids - trying to control what they do so they don't get in trouble. When owners come to Jess for help they want to understand what to do, when first they need to understand why they should do it.
Understanding why allows you to adapt. Dawn taught their child how to make decisions - e.g. how to interpret social media posts - so that they could make the right choices.
The need for control often comes from our own anxieties and issues. Accept that it is a normal human reaction, but then ask "What next?" rather than trying to control everything that happens.
Percival hit 12 weeks and started doing some innate behaviours - he started barking at people. This was not something that he could carry on doing, but also something that he shouldn't be told off for because we could end up with a very anxious dog. Teaching him that it's not ok (with a pattern interrupt) and getting him to do an alternate behaviour has led to a dog that can relax as he knows what's expected of him.
Jess talks about the word "Matriarchy" and how that can inform the leadership we use to guide our dogs, rather than nag them
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist continue the discussion on XL Bully's and what is going on just now.
They discuss more about pathways using a story of an apple to explain how easy it is to negatively reinforce a memory / emotion.
They discuss breed genetics and the influence they have on dogs - and as always, discussing "So what?" relating it to how we correct children.
What is the difference between training and control?
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about pathways and behaviour.
They explore the meaning behind saying a dog (or a person) is reactive.
Jess talks a bit about why she has taken up a new thing to learn - thermal imaging! And this leads Dawn and Jess into discussing energy in people and auras!
All of this links into realising that neither dogs nor humans are going to be robots - nor should they be. True resilience is not about the lack of reaction, its about you quickly you recover.
They also start talking about the XL Bully's that are in the press in the UK and the discussion on banning the breed. But get sidetracked! So listen to the rest of the discussion in episode 75(please note these episodes are recorded chats in Starbucks so may have more background noise than a usual podcast)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about addiction and what it really means. It can be used in a positive way in dog training. (please note these episodes are recorded chats in Starbucks so may have more background noise than a usual podcast)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about the new Mali puppy that Jess has called Percival, and how he is already demonstrating behaviours that could lead to large problems once he's older, if you didn't have a knowledgeable owner. He's quite difference to the golden retriever puppies.
We talk about the looking at the behaviour rather than using labels to set expectations, and providing alternative behaviour choices rather than just trying to control the dog. What is the intent behind the behaviour?
We talk about the transformation in the owners who were on the most recent residential and how they were able to apply what they learnt to new owners with over-reactive dogs.
We refer to "The Decisive Moment" by Jonah Lehrer and the Growth Mindset by Carol Dweck and how hard it is to get humans to recognise change. We need to redefine failure and focus more on the process and the progress.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about animal welfare and how we seem to have lost the idea that our dogs have their own needs. Jess talks about the idea of needing something more than food and shelter to meet these needs and gives us two scenarios to consider with two different islands.
On that note - do you remember the Timotei advert? Willow doesn't but then she's only 15!
This is recorded on a snazzy new microphone in Tim Hortons. Does it work for you?
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about empathy and what it really means. Of course we then discuss how that applies to dogs! There was an altercation in Starbucks the other day and we discuss the different ways we both interpreted the event.
Jess talks about John Calhoun's NIMH experiment where rats where given free and easy access to all necessary resources to study the impact on longevity. You can watch a video about it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7CXj0AGuh4c
Finally we look at the difference between working on symptoms (the branches of a tree) and root cause (the roots of the tree)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about the residentials they are doing for owners of reactive dogs, and the disparity between having a predator living in our house, and the cute puppy that we often see them as.
We talk about the fight, flight and freeze response - and the similarities between dogs and humans.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by Jessie Montague (story_of_Atlas on instagram) to discuss the current process where owners are attending a 6 day residential with their reactive dog. What is so different about Jess's approach (hint: it's not just how well she understands dogs - it's a team effort)
2 months down the line, Jessie is able to share some of the things she has learned from the journey. It is quite the journey for a dog and the human!
We talk about the social contract with our pet dogs, and what happens when they break it.
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In this episode Dawn Walton, a human behaviourist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist decide to refer to themselves as Dr. Dawn and Dr. Jess.
Why? Because we talk about the problems with taking a solely academic approach and end up talking about physics. What is it that makes us think that a dog or a person has bad energy? How do we convert energy that appears chaotic into something useful?
Maybe the problem with energy is not so much the nature of energy itself, but when it's blocked.
This episode is taken from a zoom call so not so much background noise - yay!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discuss the reason we get a dog, and why owners struggle so much when their dog develops behaviour problems. Hint: It's nothing to do with the dog! What is critical for survival in each species? In a herd animal like a horse it's being able to stand up and run asap. In a predator like a dog it's not attacking when they are not big enough so a puppy will keep close to its mother. A human baby can't even sit up for 8 months! So in humans the bond with your mother is critical for survival. This means we are programmed to make sure we are loved. This can cause huge issues if you get a dog for unconditional love and then it stops listening to you - or worse, bites you!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by a 16 year old called Gracie who has been on work experience with Jess all week. This included a trip to a University, a prison and various walks and classes. It's interesting to hear her take on dogs and owners.
Jess and Dawn discuss the difference between telling and showing when training dogs. This leads in to a discussion on how you should be a good manager for your dog - which is a theme that has been coming out of our walks for the past few weeks.
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Jess, a dog behaviourist, and Dawn, a human therapist, were up in Cullen to do workshops. It was a beautiful cottage down by the sea, so this episode is recorded in front of a roaring fire in a cottage in Cullen, instead of the hubbub of Starbucks. In this episode they talk more about how therapy works, and some of the hurdles that make it hard to spot change. What they do is only a very small part of the process.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist take a deeper look at therapy with Dawn. Exactly how does brain reprogramming work? Dawn gives some personal examples to explain it all.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about the remarkable change in Jessie after her therapy, showing us how important it is to work on the owner just as much as the dog. We kind of knew that already but this really showed how powerful our partnership is.
Jess has new therapy puppies in training - this time they are golden retrievers - and they are visiting lots of places, including our local women's prison. Remarkable things happen when puppies are in the mix!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk with Jessie Montague, the owner of Atlas the Vizla (story_of_atlas on Instagram)
She has been on quite the journey over the last 3 weeks to get Atlas to the point where they can take him home again and enjoy their pet dog - rather than be scared of him.
This journey has required that Jessie and her husband both work with Dawn on their personal anxieties, whilst at the same time Jess and Jessie have worked on helping Atlas make better choices (almost like we linked up with our last podcast). The change in Jessie and Atlas is remarkable, and it really shows the power of a combined approach. Human owners helped by Dawn, and dogs helped by Jess. It's a unique approach and never has it been better demonstrated to be effective than with Atlas. He's a lucky dog!
Atlas is a 'famous' dog on Instagram with thousands of followers. This means that Jessie has a constant daily barrage of trolls that think they know best and can offer their opinion as fact. The worst of these are the dog trainers (aggressive dogs, or aggressive trainers??) who not only offer their opinion, but criticise those doing their best to work on the team, ignoring the clear evidence showing improvement. Some of these people even go on to report Jessie and Jess to the police for animal abuse. It takes a thick skin to live your life so publicly, and when you have unresolved issues with your mental health it is almost impossible. This is another area where the work that Jessie has done with Dawn has helped. It hasn't made her bulletproof - nothing would. But it does make it easier to see that it's not about her.
Atlas's journey has helped many other owners, and will continue to do so. This podcast does a deep dive into some of the steps that have been taken, and why Jess took them.
There is a webinar referenced for Tuesday. This webinar is on dog aggression and although it will be completed at the time of this podcast, there will be others. Please sign up to Jess's Patreon at https://patreon.com/DundeeDogTraining to be kept informed about all events*
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist continue to talk about choices from the last episode of the podcast.
They discuss the difference in addressing an issue with a child that hits and bites, and a dog that does the same! They deep dive into just how Dawn approaches finding out what is causing someone an issue and once more get quite up close and personal with something that caused Jess a problem in the past.
The case study of Atlas and his owners - Jessie and Sean - also features a lot in this episode
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist do a download after running the first workshop to level up dog trainers over the weekend.
There is lots of conversation about the challenges of working with rehab dogs - how it's about so much more than the dog. As ever we discuss the psychology of humans, and in this episode we are looking at the difference between male and female dog owners, and the scale of impact that people can expect after therapy sessions with Dawn.
The case study of Atlas and his owners - Jessie and Sean - also features a lot in this episode
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about differences in opinion with training approaches and therapy approaches, and how everyone believes that theirs is the right one! Jess and Dawn compare similarities in how they are often both the last choice, after people have tried many other things first. This can lead to a lot of pressure and expectations on them to do something noone else has done...and for it to work!
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This podcast is designed to be listened to live when you are feeling anxious.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk all things dog and human. Jess has been talking to lots of Vizla owners since Atlas came for his residential. We talk about reprogramming people and dogs.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist delve into the human emotion behind our dogs: the Disney version which leads us into background information on the high profile case of Atlas (@Story_of_Atlas on Instagram) and the detective work and skills around bringing him into feeling safe in my environment and keeping this up when he goes home. We also mention hormones affecting behaviour and Romanian street dogs including the famous Sophie who is, 6 months on, still nervous about strangers (how we wish we could help!)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about Dawn's approach to measuring how full-filled we are in life using a sort of emotional meter system. She represents this in coloured liquids in test tubes in a test tube rack. The idea is that we may struggle to feel fulfilled or even happy in life if one or more of the meters is too low. Dawn defines these meters as:
- Be Loved / feel loveable
- Feel secure / stable
- Have fun in your life
- Feel connected
- Feel attractive
- Be able to connect with like minded people who are on the same level as you
We need to be aware that:
a. We have a meter that is not full enough
b. We can find a way of filling it
c. It is not realistic to expect one person e.g. a partner, to fill all our meters. We are responsible for spotting that they are low
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about Dawn's unique approach to therapy, including how the sessions actually work and how a client can measure success and progress.
We also begin to talk abut addictions, OCD, and patterns and habits. This is continued in our next podcast episode.
And of course, it wouldn't be complete without meandering into other subjects - in this case A.I. (Artificial Intelligence) and Chat GPT (Jess's new best friend)
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist talk about spoon theory. What is it and does it apply to dogs?
What does being anxious really mean? Maybe we should talk about "not feeling safe" rather than feeling anxious.
As usual, we meander through a whole bunch of topics which means I can't remember what we talked about!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist celebrate a year of doing podcasts by talking about a whole heap of random stuff (dog and human stuff obviously!)
This episode includes:
- A discussion about writing and how to be a good writer
- How we should refer to it as "not feeling safe" rather than labelling a dog (or a human) as anxious
- Scalable Comparative Experiences
- Adopting a more positive outlook
Lots more discussion on Fixed Actions including
- All behaviour serves a purpose
- Dopamine
- Car Chasing
- Bond with owners
We also talk about some of the new and shiny things we have upcoming...
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by Angela Jeen who is a practitioner of zoopharmacognosy - the science of animal self-medication derived from the roots zoo (“animal”), pharma (“drug”), and gnosy (“knowing”).
We explore how animals seem to know what nutrients they need, and how we need to give them choices rather than choose for them. We also talk about how humans don't seem to know what nutrients they need (unless they are pregnant!). Lots of chat around horses and dogs, and a little bit around humans.
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🎉 With this episode we celebrate 1 year since our first Therapy Tails podcast Episode 🎉
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist reminisce about a year of working together and the achievement of completing nearly 1 podcast a week! Woop Woop!
We go on to discuss our current topic of interest - Instinctive (Fixed Action patterns) versus learned behaviour and how that actually works in the brain. Dawn has been listening to Robert Sapolsky, author of Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers, as he delivers lectures to Stanford University students so we have lots of new ideas to discuss.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discuss the difference between changing behaviour in a dog (constant repetition of the more desirable behaviour) and changing behaviour in a person (rewiring the brain through conversation). I think we answer the cliffhanger from the last podcast where we talk about the concept of changing behaviour with no backsies!
We talk about feeling hopeless when you want to help everyone, and how to outwit your circumstances so that you can deal with feeling overwhelmed more effectively
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discuss pathways and brain rewiring again - it's a favourite subject of ours. We talk about the different approaches to dog trainining - positive only, force free, balanced, and if one size can fit all.
We talk about pattern interrupts and how the same process works in dogs and humans. First interrupt the pathway (existing behaviour) and then create a different pathway (new behaviour). We can use tapping for this in humans and Dawn explains how. We can use haptics like and ecollar to do this with dogs.
This leads to the inevitable conversation about punishment vs praise.
Finally we talk about "one session" interventions for dogs and humans. Can they really work?
Warning - we leave you with a cliffhanger at the end and you'll have to listn to the next episode to learn more.
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discus lots of dog stuff. In fact if you don't have a dog and are not interested in dogs, you may want to skip this one!
Jess has a good old whinge about German Shepherds
We discuss Dawn's theory on why you need to be a shiny thing, and how to go about it
Why can it be a problem for dogs to be on lead, when they are fine off it?
And finally... How to choose a trainer ( also applies to therapist!!
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discuss empathy and language. This is really good one for anyone who has to communicate with another human (who doesn't?)!
We talk about the power of language and and how it can be used for good (to help people change) or badly (manipulation)
What is empathy? Where does it come from and what is its purpose? Do dogs have empathy? Should they?
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(please note these episodes are recorded chats in Starbucks so may have more background noise than a usual podcast)Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist discuss relationships. We talk about online dating again but this time we ask what it takes to find someone attractive. We discuss love and what makes a relationship work and share tips for going on a first date.At the end Jess shares a mind blowing realisation she has had and we end it there before she disappears down a rabbit hole!--- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/wereallscrewedup/message
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Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by returning guest Professor Trevor Harley (and his dog Beau).
We start off talking about what makes use human and Trevor shares his theory that our brains are just perception machines. From there we explore the brain works, often comparing to dog brains (as is usual!)
We end up talking about meta-awareness.
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In this episode Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by Derek Mawhinney, who works in property development. But he's not with us to talk about property! We talk about the mind, spirituality, overcoming your past trauma and the use of psychedelics to reach higher consciousness.
We love a good conversation about consciousness and purpose and Derek brings a new way of looking at things to our discussion.
Not that I think you would listen to these podcasts with kids, but if you do, please be aware that this podcast contains swearing.
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In this episode, Dawn Walton, a human therapist, and Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist are joined by Michelle Getty, a dog trainer.
We talk about the discussions that happen around ecollars (contact collars) and the different ways people react. Jess gets herself thrown out of an ecollar group - and explains why. We talk about kids versus dogs and how praise works way better than fear, but this time in the context of what we viable options we have instead.
Jess is very tired, and Jess and Michelle have both been bitten by dogs this week so apologies if it's a little more fluffy and random than your usual podcasts!
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In this episode Dawn Walton, a human therapist, Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist, and Gemma Kirk, who is used to working with young people in care, talk about hypervigilance in dogs and humans. We discuss the difference between hypervigilance and other states such as anxiety and anger. As we talk we end up comparing care homes and young offender institutes to kennels - there are disturbing similarites!
We discuss the physiology of stress.
And we talk about what resilience really is - it might not be what you think.
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The internet has made information so readily available that few people look beyond the information presented. They think more about the What and less about the Why.
So you could look up how to lead train your dog and find a bunch of steps to follow. All good if it works. But if it doesn't, you need to look at WHY you took those steps so you can adapt. You need to understand about motivating your dog to look at you and follow your instructions; how to use treats and praise to encourage behaviour. The What tells you what to do with the lead and how to respond when your dog pulls. The Why tells you that you first need motivation for your dog to listen to you.
Did you realise that a growl, unchecked, may often lead to a bite? We discuss why, particularly focussing on Christmas - a tricky time of year for dog trainers as dog bites increase significantly
This leads on to a bigger problem. Do we know how to discuss and debate information any more? Can we question and be curious? Are we all looking for a quick fix / magic wand?
Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist, and Dawn Walton, a human therapist, also talk about the difference between academic knowledge vs online qualifications vs practical experience and look into the sinister side of shiny marketing.
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Do dogs have situations where they have a choice? Should they?
In this conversation between Dawn Walton (human therapist) and Jess Probst (Dog behaviourist) we once more find ourselves comparing dogs to young children, particularly when it comes to choices and the consequences of having no choice. We talk about how risky Christmas can be to dogs and what you can do to mitigate the risks.
We also have a foray into the world of willpower and Dawn explains how willpower works in your brain.
Oh and Jess has a new toy - an Apple watch - and she keeps on getting distracted by it!
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It's the environment, stupid!
In this episode we talk about sense of self and how much that is formed by our environment and the people in our lives, especially as we grow up. If we aren't our thoughts, our behaviours, or our appearance, then how do we know who we are? This is the link to the Dove Sketch artist experiment that Jess mentioned
Check out the poll if you are listening on spotify, to tell us if you are happy with yourself.
Also, as this a conversation between a human therapist (Dawn Walton) and a dog behaviourist (Jess Probst), we talk about dog behaviours and how many people are just deciding to give up on their dog and talking about putting them down. We talk about teenagers who slam their doors in frutstation, and ask what a teenage dog is expected to do when they have the same frustration. Jess realises that dogs are NPCs (non player characters) who are those characters in games that only have one dimension and one function. They are characters that we can't control or change.
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Jess Probst, a dog behaviourist, and Dawn Walton, a human therapist, discuss the use of ecollars in training dogs. We explain how praise is more effective than punishment in dogs and children, and how to use an ecollar as a postive reinforcement. We also discuss the difference they can make to lives of people with deaf dogs, disabled people who can't hold a lead, and people with anxiety who can't walk their dog in public for fear of its behaviour. How do we use them as a tool to improve the welfare of the dog and the mental state of the human owner.
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In this episode Jess a dog behaviourist and human therapist in training, and Dawn a human therapist and dog trainer in training, meander through a range of topics in Starbucks. We start off with schema therapy and talk about how hard it is for people to remember where they started - with dogs or themselves! We talk about tripwires / measures of success and discuss how much our past really should inform what is going on in the present.
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In this episode Dawn and Jess explore the subconscious, the cognitive conscious brain, and the possibility of something in between the two - the autopilot brain. Dawn delves into fears and where they come from, and how the brain can be reprogrammed to free us up. We also discuss the idea of an ever observant part of the brain that Dawn calls the Observer or Narrator. Lots of therapy stuff and a little bit of dog stuff!
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Is it possible to talk about Serial Killers and dating in a podcast and find common ground? Listen and you will find out! Who has more emotional detachment - Dawn or Jess?
Jess Probst and Dawn Walton still comparing dog and human psychology.
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What makes a good escape room experience
Best ways to organise early dates
Imposter syndrome Is dog ownership a skill
Thinkfulness - a tools for not believing your inner voice
Are our dogs a projection of us?
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Expectation v reality
Do we think all our dogs are Hollywood dogs?
Importance of sleep for dogs and humans
We can’t see change
Is being part of a pack more important than being top of the pack?
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Fear Respect Anxiety Consequences Describing a therapy session with Dawn
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Punishment
Predicting the future
Experience based learning
Memory reference
Caveman survival
Innate learning
Function for survival
Pyjama day
Aversives interactions
consistency in training
Addiction,
Ocd behaviour,
boredom v purpose
Loneliness
Communication needs, creating rapport Interview skills
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We're in a new venue!
Owners and dogs
Instant gratification (present)
Bowling pin analogy
Prison regime
Warning lights
“It’s good enough”
Residential training and environmental factors
Respect for human
Dog choice
Ecollar explained by Dawn
Command and control /pet dog
The psychology of Dogs and muzzles
Refused vet visits
Ideas for new owners - how to crate
Dogs v cats and zombies
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In this episode Dawn Walton and Jess Probst are out to lunch, so not in the usual Starbucks! A fire alarm goes off in the middle of the podcast and disrupts it, and Jess thinks that I need the microphone closer so now I'm too loud!
Anyway we talk about the challenges of being self employed, being in a caring profession and the emotional toll it takes.
We discuss the psychology of people around their dogs and explore strategies for how we can be better at helping
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As well as labelling a dogs aggressive behaviour as being pain driven, people are now even calling their dogs Autistic. Jess and I discuss why we need to find a reason for behaviour rather than just taking ownership of the role we play. Why can't someone see their dog as an animal until it does something very primitive like biting or chasing and lunging?
We also discuss the role of genetics in aggression after Jess ended up with two dogs who did the same extreme aggressive behaviour, only to later discover they had the same father.
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Jess has a theory that trust is an important factor in our relationship with our dogs. So in this episode we explore what trust really means to both humans and dogs.
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Jess the Impaler If you have a dog you may want to rethink listening to this we delve into the military SuperDog Biosensor program and learn about how to create resilience and longevity and of course compare dogs to humans and some other stuff including a Romanian curse that turned out to be passed down in the blood (or did it?)
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In this episode Jess and Dawn talk about trauma in dogs and humans after Jess has been somewhat challenged by an online course on dogs in trauma (read that as it's being doing her head in!)
We talked about humans projecting their emotions onto dogs and question whether it is possible for people like you and I (but not Jess) to see dogs as animals rather than little people.
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In this episode we have a very special guest speaker - Michael Shikashio. Michael Shikashio, CDBC, is the founder of AggressiveDog.com and focuses on teaching other professionals from around the world on how to successfully work aggression cases. He is a five-term president of the International Association of Animal Behavior Consultants (IAABC) and is a full member of the Association of Professional Dog Trainers (APDT). He also hosts the popular podcast show “The Bitey End of the Dog” where he chats with the foremost experts on dog aggression. Dawn tries to let Jess and Michael do most of the talking as this episode is very much for dog owners and those interested in dogs.
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What is behind the mask we wear? Who are we really/sense of self Therapist needs therapy (Jess said this) Lobsters and how it is making Jess and Dawn question the link between serotonin (happy drugs) and aggression. Is there more to serotonin than we thought? How does pain affect the way a dog behaves And just for a bit of annoyance at the end, Jess gives some sample questions from a questionnaire to find out if your dog is reslient
Here is the link to the lobster serotonin study
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Socialising what does it really mean and how should you do it effectively (obviously this bit is about dogs)
We discuss what people get from having a dog and how the need for connection can be the very thing that can lead to serious behaviour issues in dogs.
We talk about communication and how Jess can deal with something being so obvious to her, but not to the dog guardians and how she can counter her need to be brutally blunt!
There is a general discussion about memory and how it works
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Random interesting chat:
Narcissism Yum Yums Stockholm syndrome Cultural differences Women being weaker Heriarchy v equality Quantum Entanglement What is love ?
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After another attack this week by an XL Bully, Jess and Dawn discuss dog breeds and what can be done about more and more people being killed and savaged by ‘family pets’
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Podcast 18
This one is for the parents of young teenage (humans!) who may be wanting to gender re-assign. Dawn gives her thoughts on why it’s happening and parenting tips. I talk about the common three parenting methods and pros and cons of each
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Do we learn when we are stressed?
All about learning through failing, emotional states, society masks, how our physiological state affects our dog The one to listen to if you are thinking about joining our walks but aren’t sure how your dog will be or if you are experiencing anxiety about doing a new thing
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In this episode Dawn Walton (Human Therapist) and Jess Probst (Dog behaviourist) are joined by special guest Gemma Kirk who is a support worker who works with kids in the care system.
In this podcast we have a discussion about taking in rescues - similarities between foster dogs and foster children and modern ideas for parenting v old ideas of punishment
Mixed signals and understanding a different perspective. All parents of humans and dogs have an opportunity to learn this new information and we will have an in person talk coming soon! 🧠🤓
Grab a coffee, settle down, and listen while they chat in Starbucks.
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Jess was triggered so Dawn had to do a Rapid therapy session Some details of Dawns therapy journey
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With guest star Professor Trevor Harley, emeritus professor of psychology at Dundee uni and his dog; Beau discuss emotions, behaviour, anthropology and intelligence
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Long one! Social media comments.
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Dog Givens to go with Episode 8 on Human Givens!
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Anxiety in people and dogs Genetic predisposition Teaching children - Punishment Types of aggression People questioning fear v aggression
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst dog behaviourist have chats in Starbucks about human vs dog psychology.
If you won £100 million on the lottery, what would you do?
This episode is about Human Givens and our need for purpose. You can find the 'happy triggers' quick by searching for VIA Signature strengths
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst dog behaviourist have chats in Starbucks about human vs dog psychology.
This episode is about Altruism vs kindness in humans and dogs. Core attributes versus behaviour and how that relates to genetics.And Ginger ninjas!
Find Jess at @dundeedogtraining on Instagram and find Dawn at @dawn_thinkitchangeit
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst dog behaviourist have chats in Starbucks about human vs dog psychology.
This episode is about breeds and the need to fit in for humans, vs the weakest in the pack for dogs.
Find Jess at @dundeedogtraining on Instagram and find Dawn at @dawn_thinkitchangeit
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst dog behaviourist have chats in Starbucks about human vs dog psychology.
This episode is a bit different as it's a mini-therapy session for Jess as she was struggling with something. In the process of working through her stuff we cover failure and stress thresholds.
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst dog behaviourist have chats in Starbucks about human vs dog psychology. In this episode they discuss what a therapy dog is vs having a pet to help with mental health, and what the difference is between training and coaching Find Jess at @dundeedogtrainer on Instagram and find Dawn at @dawn_thinkitchangeit
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst dog behaviourist have chats in Starbucks about human vs dog psychology.
In this episode they discuss punishment versus correction for dogs and children, and why people are resitant to getting help from a therapist or dog trainer.
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Dawn Walton a human therapist and Jess Probst a dog behaviourist discuss how humans and dogs learn, and why we worry what people think. These are conversations recorded between Jess and Dawn in Starbucks so excuse the noise quality. Grab a coffee and sit and listen in while we chat
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Excuse the husky voice, I have a cold! Dawn a human therapist and Jess a dog behaviourist discuss nature versus nurture, depression and Will Smith in the Oscar’s!
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Coffee shop conversations between Jess Probst an animal behaviourist, and Dawn Walton a human therapist. Find Jess at @dundeedogtrainer on Instagram and find Dawn at @dawn_thinkitchangeit
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Why does a rubbish childhood leave you with a lifetime of struggling with weight
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Apologies for the delay in getting this episode out. Also apologies because this is a bit of a ranty post because I’ve had a couple of knockbacks and disappointments lately and I’m finding it very frustrating
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Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me. What a load of twoddle. Of course words hurt. And they have a far longer impact than a broken bone.
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In this episode I talk you through the steps you need to take to boost your motivation and willpower. Go to products.thinkitchangeit.com to do the full challenge
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In this episode I discuss how the brain stores memories and how you can change them. There are some practical things to try if your memories are causing you a problem
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I am a trauma informed practitioner. In this episode I talk about what that really means and in what ways trauma can affect your work with other therapists
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In this episode I talk about identity. There are 3 levels. There is the core you, with the personal traits you are born with. There is the clay you, moulded by the adults and people that cared for you, and there is the fake you, which is actually the real you.
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In this episode I talk about brain programming and the condition response effect. I will teach you how to combine two techniques - tapping and dropthrough - with a childlike approach of asking why about everything, to deal with emotional hijacking. This approach can make permanent changes.
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In this episode I talk about how trauma affects your ability to do mindfulness practices and provide some practical alternatives for you to try
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How does trauma in your past affect your New Year thoughts? More than you might expect
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This is my own unique version of the night before Christmas poem. Originally written for the Quest Cognitive Hypnotherapy magazine and now adapted for this podcast
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In this, my first video podcast, I talk about the effect of childhood trauma on the immune response
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In this episode I talk through some personal stuff. This may be a bit triggering for you so if you’re not in a good enough place, maybe skip this episode. I mainly talk about how to choose a therapist
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In this episode talk about the reason behind the flight, fight, freeze response. I also talk about inverse anxiety and what that is
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In this episode I explore language, including how we talk to our kids, how to tell if someone is lying, and making promises
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In this episode I talk about the different parts that run your life. All behaviour serves a purpose and all behaviour has a positive intent. Which part keeps getting in your way? At the end of the episode is an exercise to help you change your parts. **please don’t do the exercise for anything big and if you need help, email dawn@thinkitchangeit.com
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In this episode I'm reading the intro to my book "We're all screwed (and that's OK)"
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Do you know your kids snapchat / instagram / tik tok username? 1 in 10 kids under 10 have accessed porn. They probably seeing way more than you realise. So what can you do?
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In this episode I talk about the different sorts of friendships and how to maintain and establish healthy boundaries in relationships
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Have you ever thought about your purpose? How would you feel if your job was written on your gravestone?
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In this episode I talk about the need for connection as one of the key human needs once the needs for food, shelter and safety have been met. And I reflect on why the 18 months of lockdown have made this so tricky
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In this episode I talk about triggers being like wearing a virtual reality helmet, and how learning you can take it off is one of the key ways of dealing with them
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I'm pondering change right now. But also thinking about how to help you when you get triggered.
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This episode is probably only relevant if you are looking after kids. We look at the neuroscience behind child brain development and how that can lead to problems.
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There are a finite number of emotions we experience, and yet there are an infinite number of ways that lead us to them. In this episode I include a great technique for dealing with anxiety
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In this episode I talk about how to really listen and how to meet people where they are at.
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In this episode I talk about how we all have our own narrative and what it means to forgive someone. There is a brief mention of abuse so be cautious if you might be triggered
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In this episode I talk about what it's like to go through massive change and how you should consider therapists and your own process
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In today's episode we dig into the word should and look at expectations vs reality and how they cause problems
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In this episode I talk about limiting beliefs, my big limiting belief, and how you can work out what yours are
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In this episode I talk about how you know something is wrong, and what steps you take to overcome those problems.
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My mother died a week ago. In this episode I talk about how that's affecting me right now and where I expect to end up
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Lots of people are struggling right now with all the lockdown and changes in life. In this episode I talk about strategies that might help you cope
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This one is a bit different. In this episode I tell you all about me; my training and my childhood. This is my 'why I do what I do' episode
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If you are on a journey of self-help many things have probably changed about you and how you respond to different situations. This can be scary. Not knowing who you are and how you will react can make you feel vulnerable. The questionnaire I mentioned is called "VIA signature strengths"
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In this episode I talk again about how your brain is wired and, more importantly, how you can hack your brain to get dopamine for the things you choose
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Our brains work on primitive programming. Diets are tapping into that in all the wrong ways. Listen to this episode to learn why diets don't work and what you can do about it. Go to products.thinkitchangeit.com and click on the announcement bar to get access to the free task
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It's my job to help others. But many of us finding ourselves on a position where we are the one person people talk to when they are struggling. This can lead to all sorts of challenges for you. In this episode I give some guidance on how to help others when it's not your job
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In this episode I explain the default way the brain is designed to work around sleep, how this can be disrupted and give you some tools to help with your sleep cycle
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In this episode I describe my approach to self care. You might be surprised to hear that it has nothing to do with having a candle lit bath or relaxing. And I cover some strategies you can use to give yourself energy
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In this episode I talk about the neuroscience around addictive behaviour and share a few ideas on steps you can take to overcome your own addictive behaviour
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In this episode I discuss the difference between traumatic memories and horrible memories. I explain. The neuroscience behind trauma, and some of the ways it can affect your day to day life. And I share how everything can be changed.
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In this podcast I talk about the challenges of dealing with children aged 8 to 16 and cover some of the science behind why it can be so challenging, and give you some tools and strategies for approaching it
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In this episode I talk about why some people find emotions difficult, why we develop coping strategies, and I will teach you a couple of simple techniques to allow you to safely manage emotions
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In this episode I talk about the different types of grief : losing someone through death, the end of a relationship, the loss of the person you once were. At the end I share a simple technique to help you process your grief
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In this episode I talk about weight and metabolism, about healing injuries and general mind body connection stuff. Books I suggested : The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton, How your mind can heal your body by David Hamilton, Love, Medicine and Miracles by Bernie Siegel, The molecules of emotion by Candace Pert.
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Imposter syndrome is one of the most common fears experienced across the globe, often factoring in the top 5 phobias in a country. It is the fear of being found out, of not being good enough. In this episode I'll explain where it comes from and give you 4 tips for overcoming it
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If you think of the fight or flight response, it's a primitive response to allow us to survive an encounter with a sabre toothed tiger. And yet, there are no tigers or predators around these days. In this episode I explain how your brain is still operating on the caveman rules of how to survive.
Read my book "The Caveman Rules of Survival" to learn more
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In this episode I cover neuroplasticity, how the brain learns, and how you can manipulate your brain to reward you for those things you choose.
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In this episode I introduce myself and talk about how present problems are caused by past experiences. Learn about how we learn, and how the brain works off very primitive caveman rules for survival.
Read my book "We're all screwed up (and that's ok)" to learn more
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