Growth and Goals Podcast: Recent Episodes
Ashleigh Nicolle
Welcome to the Growth and Goals podcast where we discuss all things goal setting, habits, mindset, productivity and so much more. I'm your host Ashleigh Nicolle and I'll be sharing all of my best tips, tricks, advice and encouragement for self love, self care and self improvement.
Today is my 28th birthday! There have been so many times in my early/mid twenties where I have struggled with feeling like I am behind in life, that I should have things figured out, I missed my chance to do something, or that it's too late for me to pivot. But the older I get the more I realize that there is no age restriction on starting a new chapter.
If you also find yourself feeling like you're behind, you missed your chance, or it's too late that feeling is an indication that there is something that you are wanting to do or a change you feel you need to make. Maybe it's quitting your job, falling in love, starting over in a new place, launching a business; whatever it is you feel you've missed the boat on, the time is now.
It's important to realize that you can begin whenever you want, but the key is to begin. Don't take the notion that you can start whenever you want as an excuse to kick the can down the road or procrastinate on life. Instead know that it's the permission you need to start today, the reassurance that if you fail you can always try again, and the wonder that keeps you young because you never stop growing, changing, and evolving.
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For a lot of us our insecurities, self-limiting beliefs, or personal criticisims are the inspiration for the goals we set. While I think it's great that have the ability to see something about ourselves we wish was different and change it to become an even better version of us, the intention behind the change is so much more important that you think.
I am a firm believer that if you cannot hate yourself into becoming your best self. If you bully yourself into changing and punish yourself constantly you will end up burnt out and so beat down that you will actually regress to unhealthy coping mechanisms, toxic habits, and self deprocating behaviors.
However, if you can learn to change your intentions behind your goals, cultivate a growth mindset, and focus on positive reinforcement you will not only nurture youself into being the absolute best verion of you but you will have created a new lifestyle rather than just temporary change.
In today's episode I walk you through the mindset shifts you need to make in order to self goals from a place of self-compassion so that you can create sustainable habits, foster self-confidence, improve your relationship with yourself, and design a lifestyle of self-love.
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We're officially half way through 2025, this year has gone by fast and if you find you're not where you though you would be, I've got good news for you, there's still six months left to achieve everything you wanted to this year.
In today's episode I walk you through my process of doing a mid year checkin by giving you 10 questions to ask yourself to assess your progress, realign, and move forward. Grab a pen and paper for this one and let's dive in!
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It's HOT GIRL SUMMER!! If you want to have a hot girl summer, then this episode is for you! Now, if you're thinking you can't have a hot girl summer becaus you don't look like the girls on instagram, then today's episode is especially for you! Hot girl summer isn't about an internet trend, having a certain type of body, or looking a particular way. How girl summer is about empowerment, self-care, feeling confident, and most importantly having FUN!
In today's episode I discuss the 5 pillars of having a hot girl summer:
- Confident energy- there is nothing more attractive than confidence and it exudes from the inside out. Work on your mindset with positive self talk like affirmations, practice letting go of comparison and envy, and put effort into yourself for yourself.
- Glow from the inside out- take care of yourself so you feel good. Make sure you're staying hydrated, eating enough, getting plenty of sleep, taking care of your skin, etc.
- Have fun without guilt- look at your calendar and plan at minimum one play day a month and then brainstorm a list of fun activities you can do this summer so you always have something to look forward to and then enjoy it all unapologetically
- Surround yourself with hot girls- set boundaries with people that are mean girls, toxic, or draining and curate a circle of hype women that uplift you and make you want to be the best version of you
- Goal setting, softly- summer doesn't mean no goals but it's a great time to pursue goals without pressure. Find some soft goals you can work on like a new hobby, passion project, creative pursuit, or anything that lights you up and is fun for you
Also, I want to encourage you to make a list of your hot girl summer essentials. For me that is a killer playlist I can scream sing in the car with all the windows down, a beachy romance book, and refreshing recipes like a fat sandwich or pasta salad. Happy hot girl summer!
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I am very much a Type B person, but sometimes I find myself wishing I was more Type A and desire more, structure, determination and organization. While Type B people have their own strengths they can also struggle with things like time management, goal setting, and prioritization. In today's episode I share small shift you can make if you're a type B person that want's to adopt some Type A tendencies.
It can often feel like being Type A is glorified but I want to make sure my fellow Type B people know that one type isn't better than the other; they're just different. I find it helpful to tap into that Type A energy when I need to and be Type B when it helps. Personal growth isn't about changing who you are it's about evolving into the best version of you.
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I don't know aboout you but when life is good, I'm feeling happy, and not stressed it's easy for me to stick to the goals and habits I set out to achieve. But it's like as soon as life throws me a curve ball, I become anxious, or overwhelmed I immediately fall back into old habits of not doing anything; eventhough I know those habits and routines make me feel my best.
If that sounds like you, then today's episode is for you. I walk you through how to come up with a game plan that's aligned with your goals, determine if your emotions are a sign to rest or redirect, or if they're an excuse.
It's important to not let temporary emtions make decision that could effect your long term goals. By sticking to a plan rather than letting emotions drive you, you'll begin to build determination, momentum, and self-confidence because you teach yourself that you can trust that when you say you're going to do something, you do it.
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There's a tik tok trend going around where people are asking for unhinged tips for various things and I saw one about money saving tips and there were a lot of great suggestions in the comments. In today's episode I wanted to share the best ones that I have started implementing in my own life.
The original video is from Allison Talk Money on Tik Tok, i highly recommend scrolling through the comment section if you have a chance. In today's day and age I know a lot of people are doing what they can to save money, it is my hope that today's tips help you do just that.
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Have you been feeling depleted, disconnected, like you're opperating on autopilot? Then you may be pouring from an empty cup. Today I am going to walk you through how to conduct a self-love audit to help you get clear on why you may be feeling that way and give you actionable ways you can improve your relationship with yourself.
In today's episode I 6 different areas of your self-love life and ask you to score them on a scale from 1-10 and give you small steps you can take to improve scores in your lowest areas. Now I want to make sure that you approach this from a place of grace and understanding.
It is important that even if you "fail" the self-love audit it's not because you're not doing enough and I never want you to feel guilty about it but rather approach it as an exercise in grace and compassion for yourself. Remember, self love is not a luxury, it's a necessity.
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Do you ever find yourself frozen, too overwhelmed to start on your to-do list, but have a sense of shame for not doing enough? It's a vicious cycle the paralysis, the productivity pressure, the guilt, and it can be a difficult thing to break out of. In today's episode I share some mindset shifts, practical tips, and a little understanding to help you through it.
I find it frustrating that the guitl for not doing enough is the very thing that prevents me from doing anything at all. Howver, if you can reprogram your brain to seperate your self-worth from your productivity and implement simple steps that help you to build momentum and operate from a well rested state, you will find you'll actually be more productive.
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Making friends as an adult can be difficult, awkward and uncomfortable. But having good friends enriches our lives and as social beings our relationships are very important. In today's episode I am sharing my simple three step process to creating meaningful friendships as an adult.
- Put yourself out there- I highly recommend joining an interest group; for example, book club, bible study, pottery class, rec sports league
- Initiate- don't be afraid to be the one to reach out to others and initate a hang out
- Go deep- get to know people, ask them about themselves, remember those things, follow up. To have good friends it's important to be a good friend
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In today's episode I am sharing my exact quarterly reset routine. I walk you through actionable steps you can take over the last week of quarter one to prepare for the next 90-days.
Step 1: Reflect on quarter one, ask yourself 'what's working for me? what isn't working?'
Step 2: Declutter your physical, mental and digital space
Step 3: Choose 3-5 things to focus on for quarter two
Step 4: Adjust your routines, habits, and systems to help you reach your goals
Step 5: Plan for fun and balance
Step 6: Write out your plan, put things on your calendar, make a vision board, etc.
Step 7: Take action!
Get a pen and paper because you're going to want to take some notes for this one! Let's hit the ground running next week for quarter two!
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I don't know about you but it is finally warming up here in Charleston and I just come alive when it is sunny and 75 degrees. It has been a long cold winter and I as emerge from my hybernation I just don't feel like my most beautiful self. So in todays episode I am sharing the things I like to do to shake off those winter uglies and emerge like a beautiful spring flower.
Here is to feeling fresh and beautiful this spring because you deserve to!
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There are so many different motivation styles and each of us is different. So, in today's episode, I am going over eight different motivation styles in order to help you identify yours and things you can implement into your life to help spur that motivation.
Once you know what your motivation style, or styles, is you can hack them in order to create your own motivation and encourage yourself to achieve your goals. Personally, I most often fall into the novelty category, I cannot wait for you to find out yours!
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We all know motivation is fleeting, but that doesn't mean you can't get it back when you need it. I love the quote by Zig Zigler: "People like to say that motivation doesn't last. Well neither does bathing, that's why we recommend it daily." It is so true!
In today's episode I am sharing with you some tips on how you can renew your motivation to go after your goals and encourage you that it is normal to feel unmotivated sometimes but these tips can help you renew that feeling and get after it!
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Honestly, when it comes to doing things that scare you the only actionable advise I can give is to just do it. Take that running leap of faith, go all in on yourself, trust that it will all be okay, and JUST DO IT! But since I know how terrifying that is I wanted to share with you some things to consider, questions to ask yourself, and mindset shift that might help you take that chance.
Whether you're wanting to make that move to a new city, quit your job, start a business, take that solo trip, tell them how you feel, whatever it is; I hope this episode helps you do it. You are so much braver than you give yourself credit for, you got this!
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A catalyst is something that suddenly causes a change or an event, it is your turning point, that ah-ha moment where you decide to make the change. And the great thing about it is you can choose a catalyst for yourself. You get to decide what your turning point is, it could be right now, this episode could be that catalyst.
In today's episode I am going to share with you some tips and mindset shifts you can make to help you choose your catalyst and decide to make the change that you are wanting to see in yourself. Sometimes it's a big moment that changes us, sometimes it's hitting rock bottom and realizing there's nowhere to go but up, sometimes it's a random Tuesday afternoon and we just decide we've had enough.
The beautiful thing about life is it takes one decision to completely change your trajectory. At any point you can decide to go a different direction, you need only make up your mind.
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I aspire to be a girl that people look at and think she's got her stuff together, she's an it girl, she's so CHIC! So, I thought I would share with you 10 things that I think are incredibly chic. These characteristics or objects aren't even necessarily things that I pocess but aspire to and when I see them I think that woman in sucessful, incredibly cool and very chic.
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Lately I've been talking a lot about not spending, cutting back, doing a low-buy; however, we have to spend money to live. So, with that being said, I wanted to share with you some tips on how you can be a more conscious consumer and make sure your spending is aligned with you.
We vote with our dollar so in today's episode I am sharing 5 ways you can vote with your dollar for businesses and companies that align with your values, beliefs, and causes you care about. I realize not everyone has the privelage to do this, but if you have the means I want to encourage you to care about what your spending is saying.
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Almost everyone is focusing on their financial goals in 2025. Whenter it's paying down debt or beefing up your savings we're all trying to be more concious consumers. With that being said shopping is a hobby for many people and for some it's more of an addiction. We live in a capitalistic and consumerist world and you quite literally have to rewire your brain to break that buying habit.
So, in today's episode, I am sharing with you 10 tips to help you transition from overconsumption to underconsumption. It can be extremely difficult especially when we're constantly bombarded with ads, comparing ourselves to others online, or relying on shopping for our daily dopamine hit. These 10 tips will help you curb those shopping cravings and kick that buying habit.
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The number one resolution amongst Americans for 2025 is to save money. Everyone is trying cut back on expenses, save money, and pay off debt. So in today's episode I am sharing 25 things I am not buying in 2025 in order to reach my financial goals.
In doing so I am trying to be a more concious consumer, stop shopping as a hobby, and have more money to put towards things I truley value like once in a lifetime experiences. Here's to becoming financially free in 2025!
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It's the first Monday of 2025 so I wanted to share with you the things I am going to be prioritizing this year and the things that I am going to be more concious of. So, without further adue, this is my list of in's and out's for this year.
I want to encourage you, as you think about what habits, routines, goals or items are 'in' for you this year to also make a list of outs and be more concious of the things you want to see less of in your life.
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Happy New Year! This last year was a bit of a whirlwind for me. I suffered the loss of my beloved dog, got a promotion, and moved to my dream city. After all the highs and lows 2024 brought I am definetely glad to have a fresh start and I am really feeling like 2025 is my year!
In today's episode I am sharing 25 things I want to do in 2025 and I can't wait to see what all of you accomplish this year as well. Cheers!
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Lately my Saturday's have consisted of packing up my house in preperation for my big move to Charleston; however, because my weekends have been so busy with boxing up my entire life it has me day dreaming about my first free Saturday.
So in today's episode I wanted to share with you my perfect Saturday itenerary, please try this out and I will live vicariously through you when I am not living out of a suticase!
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I saw a statistice that said we actually only wear about 10% of our wardrobes, at first when I heard this I thought there's no way that's true, but ask yourself how many times have you stood in your closet full of clothes and thought "I have nothing to wear".
So, if you're ready to clean out your closet, then this episode is for you! In today's episode I go over 4 methods you can use to pair down your wardrobe:
- Backwards Hangers- if you're short on time and energy this method is for you, on January 1 turn all your hangers backwards. Then throughout the year as you wear things hang them back up normally, at the end of the year all the backwards hangers have to go
- Bye Bye Bin- Keep a box or bin in your closet and every time you wear something that is uncomfortable in anyway throw it in the box. At the end of the year wash everything in the box and take it to a donation bin
- Big Purge- Try on absolutely everything in your closet to make sure it fits and even go a step further with it and figure out how you're going to style it, create an outfit and make sure that it matches the aesthetic you're going for. Also make it fun with music
- Let Go of Placeholders- Stop buying different versions of the same thing that just aren't quite right and hold out for that holy grail item. Once you find it go crazy and buy it in every color but until then don't waste money on things you won't wear
- One In One Out- This isn't a closet clean out method so much as a closet maintenence method, but it is a good rule to implement once you've done your initial declutter
Every single item in your closet should fit the body you have now, be comfortable, and suit your style. Can you say that about your closet? If not, it's time to declutter until everything in your closet is an option. No more saying, I have nothing to wear.
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I have spent the entire weeking packing up my house, getting ready to move halfway across the country. However, I am going to be downsizing a lot with thise move so I am having to do a huge purge of all of my stuff and if I'm being honest it feels SO GOOD!
While it can be difficult to let go of some things and make decisions to get rid of our possessions it is incredibly freeing to not have to manage so many things. Our homes should be where we go to feel safe, comfortable and at peace. However, I think so often our homes actually cause us anxiety because we're constantly battling with having to keep up with clutter or even avoiding areas of our home we find overwhelming.
It's time we start choosing peace over possessions, so if you're ready to declutter your home but need some help on getting started, then this episode is for you!
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It's the first Monday of quarter four and we've got just under 90 days to finsih the year strong! This is honestly the time of year when I am feeling the most motivated to wrap up the year in a nice little bow and knock out all the things I've been dragging my feet on all year.
Today's Tips:
- Do a year end review- check out last weeks episode for a deep dive on exactly how I conduct an end of year review for myself
- Purge- get to inbox zero, clean out your closet, declutter your home, start the new year with a clean slate and say goodbye to the mess and the stress
- Tie up loose ends- finish any projects you've started or knock those things off your to do list you've been procrastinating on
- Finish one more big project- this is going to boost your confidence in yourself and help motivate you for the new year
- Save some extra money- start using up your back stock and try shelf cooking, or instead of buying things for yourself start adding them to your holiday wishlist
- Start practicing your new years resolutions now- any new habits or routines you've been wanting to implement start doing now, who says you have to wait til January
I hope today's tips help you to make the most of what's left of the year, you've still got plenty of time to make progress towards your goals!
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In today's episode I am walking you through exactly how I conduct my year end review. Now I know what you're thinking, "but Ashleigh there's still 3 months left in the year" I know but I love to do my end of year review now while I am still motivated.
The end of the year can be such a hectic time with the holiday's and New Years, and I often like to spend that time enjoying family or relaxing rather than setting goals. So I highly recommend that you get your goal setting done now, that way you can go ahead and finish the year strong by starting to work towards them early and enjoy the end of year festivities.
Today, I go through 4 steps for a successful end of year review that will help you to reflect, reassess and revamp your goal, priorities, and routines. If you're ready to get back on track, make some progress towards your goals in quarter four, and be ready to hit the ground running come 2025, this episode is for you!
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Today we're talking about stress relief. Stress is a perfectly normal emotion, but chronic stress can lead to a whole host of health problems and poor mental health. If you've been struggling with stress and are looking for some relief, then this episode is for you!
In today's episode I discuss actionable steps you can take to relieve stress, decrease cortisol, lower heart rate, decrease blood pressure and improve your overall health and well being. Today's tips are divided into three categories: things you can implement instantly when you're at your breaking point to feel better in minutes, steps that you can begin to implement in a short time frame to alleviate stress symptoms, and long term lifestyle changes that will allow you to live a slower, less stressful life.
Don't forget to go back and listen to last weeks episode for even more tips on how to manage stress!
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Stress is horrible for your health. It leads to increase risked of diabetes, irritable bowl syndrome, heart disease, anxiety and depression. With that being said it is critical to manage stress in order to avoid adverse effects. In this episode I discuss 5 steps on how you can better manage your stress:
- Identify your stressors- becoming aware of your triggers will allow you to develop strategies to deal with them
- Control what you can- we only have control over so much so do what you can and let go of the rest
- Talk about it- when something is out of your control talking about it may not solve the problem but it can help you feel better about it
- Take care of yourself- we often neglect ourselves when we get stressed, it's important to be self aware of your negative tendencies and practice self-care to combat it
- Reframe your mindset- sometimes stress can be a good motivator, also it's important to maintain perspective and not let little things spiral into big things
Make sure to come back next week for an episode full of ideas on how you can begin to aleviate your stress immediately and for the long term.
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Your intuition is that still small voice in the back of your head guiding you through life. It's that visceral gut feeling that tells you to either take the leap or get out of dodge. It's not something you can explain, it's not logical or rational always but it's there. It's that feeling of just knowing even though you can't explain why.
If you've been wanting to get more in tune with your intuition, lean to hear that still small voice, get in touch with that gut feeling, and learn to trust yourself then this episode is for you!
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It's officially fall! At least in my book it is. This is my last fall season living in my hometown surrounded by my friends and family before I move halfway across the country and begin a new chapter of my life so I wanted to go big this year.
In today's episode, I am sharing my fall bucket list to give you some inspiration for some festive, fun, fall activites you and your friends can do this season!
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I'M MOVING!!! I cannot believe this is happening, but after years I have finally manifested my dream destination and am moving to Charleston, South Carolina! In today's episode I am sharing my best manifestation tips, so if you've been wanting to manifest your dream destination, partner, job, etc. then this one is for you!
In today's episode I discuss:
- Take action- manifestation isn't sitting back, wishing, waiting for something to happen, and just hoping it falls into your lap. You've got to give the opportunity you want an opportunity to present itself to you
- Get crystal clear- know exactly what it is you want and then visualize it. Make a vision board, scrpit it, act as if, plan it out and get a clear vision in your mind
- Speak on it- don't be afraid to share your hopes, dreams and goals with the people you love, you won't jinks something by sharing it. It's okay to speak on things, but remember your words have meaning so be positive and optimistic.
- Don't cling to it- don't clench onto something, you recieve with an open hand. Sometimes the answer isn't necessarily no, it's just not yet so be patient and when it is meant for you it will happen.
I am so excited to share this journey with you guys and I hope that these tips help you manifest your dream destination.
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I'm going ghost mode! I have decided that I want to disappear for a while so that I can focus on my goals, work on establish habits that benefit my well-being, uplevel my life, and come out the other side a better version of myself. If you're wanting to go ghost mode to focus on yourself too, then this episode is for you!
If you're not familiar with the term, ghost mode, it is essentially having a set period of time that you are going to set things aside that don't currently ressonate with your goals, eliminate distractions and get laser focused on your goals, and take breaks from commitments or relationships so that you can put all your time, energy and effort into yourself.
It's a great way to work on your discipline, make larger strides to your goal, get realigned with your priorities and practice mindfulness and self care. I hope you will join me on this journey!
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In today's society we are constantly bombarded with ads telling us to buy the new latest and greatest things and I'd be lying if I said I haven't fallen into the overconsumption trap. But in today's economy I am working on being smart with my money and also not wasting money on unecessary purchases and instead working towards my financial goals.
If you're wanting to start being a more concious consumer than this episode is for you. In today's episode I'm not sharing a list of things I don't think you should buy anymore because I think underconsumption will look different for everyone. instead I am sharing tips on how to get to the root of your consumer habits, shift your mindset and in turn change the way you buy.
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Meal prepping get's this stigma that it has to be chick, broccoli and rice every single day and I am here to tell you that meal prepping is whatever you make it! In today's episode I am breaking down my exact meal prep routine!
I've talked a lot about meal prepping on this podcast because it is one of my favorite routines I have implemented into my life. It saves me so much time because I am not spending an hour every night cooking, instead I spend 2-3 hours on Sunday preparing for the entire week. It has also saved me so much money because I plan my meals ahead, reduce my food waste, shop sales and eat out less. Lastly it has made making healthier food choices even easier and more convenient than going through a drive thru.
If you have been wanting to start meal prepping then this episode is for you!
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Did you know that you can hack your brain to release happiness hormones and give you that feel good feeling whenever you want? In today's episode I am going over the four happiness hormones and things that you can do to trigger your brain to release them and feel happier.
The Happiness Hormones:
- Dopamine: the pathway to pleasure, most notably involved in helping you feel a sense of accomplishment as a part of the brains rewards system
- Serotonin: the natural mood booster, serotonin affects a variety of functions and behaviors but is often linked to your gut, appetitie and digestion
- Endorphines: the brains natural pain reliever, triggered in times of stress and discomfort
- Oxytocin: the love hormone, has a positive impact on social behaviors and allows you to relax, trust and connect
The tips in today's episode are super easy ways you can trigger happiness hormones. These science backed tasks that realease the happiness hormones are easy to incorporate into your day to day life and are guaranteed to make you feel good.
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Every year on my birthday I start a new note in my phone and throughout the year I write down advice or encouragment that ressonates with me or life lessons I have learned and each year I share all of them with you. It is my hope that maybe some of my hard earned wisdom will help you navigate whatever year of your life you're in or at the very least let you know you're not alone in this aging thing.
Make sure you go back and listen to last weeks episode for part one of this little mini series because 27 things is a lot to go through, and thanks so much for being here to celebrate my birthday with me!
Here's to another year of growth, becoming, and constantly learning!
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Every year on my birthday I start a new note in my phone and throughout the year I write down advice or encouragment that ressonates with me or life lessons I have learned and each year I share all of them with you. It is my hope that maybe some of my hard earned wisdom will help you navigate whatever year of your life you're in or at the very least let you know you're not alone in this aging thing.
Here's to another year of growth, becoming, and constantly learning!
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You may have noticed I have taken a few weeks off, I have been grieving the loss of my dog Wrigley. I initially wanted to take time off until I felt like I could come back and be my usual self, but that felt really inauthentic. This podcast has always been about me sharing with you my journey, process and experiences and I don't want to pretend that this time of grief isn't happening because it's a part of my story.
If you also find yourself grieving; whether it's the loss of a pet, a loved one, a relationship, a friendship, a job or anything else, then I hope this episode brings you some comfort. Unfortunately, no one in this life escapes grief, I just hope that I can make you feel less alone.
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The Four Tendencies by Gretchen Ruben has been so insigtful in helping me identify my motivation style and come up with ways to motivate and helo myself accountable that work for my specific personality type. If you haven't already head over to www.gretchenruben.com to take her quiz and figure out what your tendency is.
Once you know which of the four tendencies you fall into, come back and listen to this episode where I discuss all the strategies from her book, for every tendency, that can help you find the right strategy to help you implement habits and routines into your life.
It's so refreshing to know that we're all different, but there are individualized statagies for each and every one of us that can help us get motivated, hold ourselves accountable, set goals and expectations and actually implement the habits and routines we want to have in our lives.
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If you struggle with guilt for being "lazy", beat yourself up for not getting enough done, or have a tendency to tie your worth to the amount of things you check off your to-do list, then this episode is for you. Unfortunately we live in a society that glorifies grinding yourself into the ground and views things like much needed rest and relaxation as laziness.
In today's episode I want to share with you the three tenents of the "laziness lie", a phrase coined by Dr. Devon Price in his book Laziness Does Not Exist, and how you can overcome the lie that you are lazy.
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The weather here is heating up and it inspired me to share some of my hot takes. Feel free to agree or disagree and make sure to head over to my socials to let me know what you think.
In today's episode I discuss:
- We need to celebrate people for more than finding love and having babies, if you want to be celebrated for a life event don't be afraid to celebrate yourself the way you wish others did
- You don't have to be a morning person, waking up at the crack of dawn is overrated
- Everyone can benefit from therapy
- Being 'chugy' or 'cring' isn't a bad thing
- Social media has made people boring, scrolling isn't a hobby
- Dating apps have ruined dating but it is almost impossible to meet someone out in the real world
- Self-harm jokes are not funny, it's not dark humor- it's concerning
In this episode I discuss these and more, not necessarily to justify my thoughts or convince you one way or another just wanted to air some grievences.
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Do you ever have that feeling where every day feels like groundhog day, you get caught up in the manaughtney of life and you just want to feel alive? No, just me lol. I think sometimes I get so caught up in getting my to do list done, sticking to my routine, being productive, going to work, coming home, just all the life things until I feel like I just have to run away from it all in order to feel something.
If that sounds like you then this episode is for you. I am sharing little things in my life that I have found make me feel something. Things that give me a zest for life again, remind me that life is good, and that the world is my oyster. If you're craving that feeling then I highly recommend trying these out!
Because guys... WE'RE ALIVE!! How crazy is that! And we can do anything we want with this life and I think that is truly beautiful.
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First and foremost, all bodies are summer bodies and you should not care what other people think. It is my hope that you feel good in the skin you're in and feel beautiful no matter what. However, with that being said I struggle with confidence in my body, especially in the summer. I am working on being kinder to myself and feeling more confident in my body, but it's not a quick process and so I wanted to share with you some tips that have helped me to feel good, beautiful and confident in the warmer months.
Again, it is so important to do the internal work of being kind to yourself, rejecting beauty standards, building your self confidence, and letting go of other people's opinions. But, if you're like me and you still sometimes struggle with feeling positive about your body then this episode is for you.
We all deserve to have a hot girl summer and I hope these tips help you do just that!
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Do you have a hard time sticking to a routine? Or getting back into the swing of your routine after life throws you a curve ball? Same, but I have found some strategies that have really helped me to make sure my routines can rides lifes waves rather than being completely derailed by an minor inconvenience.
Whether it's a morning routine, bedtime routine, or workout routine the tips in today's episodes are going to help you plan for chaos, find what motivates you to stay on track, and learning to build in transition time a buffers so you're not constantly in a state of being behind.
You all know the saying failing to plan is planning to fail, but what if we did plan to fail? We won't always be perfect with our routines, we will fail sometimes. But if you can get back on track quickly and keep the habit you will still cultivate the lifestyle you want to live.
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I know we've all gotten that sinking feeling on a Sunday afternoon as we realize the weekend has come to an end and we've got to go back to work tomorrow. I know Monday's can be daunting but I hateded that I found myself spending one of the two day a week I have to myself feeling anxious and dreading the start of a new week.
If you deal with the Sunday scaries every week, then this episode is for you. I am sharing my 5 tips on how I was able to skip the Sunday scaries, enjoy every second of my weekend and actually start looking forward to the start of a new week!
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This one is for my workin girls! I know it can be hard to come home from work and not just want to collapse on the couch and binge watch something or doom scrool on your phone, believe me I have been there. There's nothing wrong with doing that every once in a while but your 5-9 accounts for 1/3 of your day, 1/3 of your life, so let's make the most of it.
I was getting my schedule together for the spring/summer and I am so booked and busy I only have 3 free weekends over the next 4 months, this used to fill me with dread that I wouldn't have time to do things for me, but then a realized I have so much time every day to devote to myself. It was then I realized I was living for the weekend rather than making the most of my weekdays.
So if you're ready to stop living for the weekend and start loving everyday, this episode is for you!
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Self-concept is the idea of the self constructed from ones own beliefs, essentially it is the Law of Assumtion which is a theory that whatever you believe to be true will become your reality. So if you want to become delulu, overcome your limiting beliefs and show up as your highest self, you have to mast your self concept.
Self-concept will allow you to start manifesting from the inside out. Essentially, once you become the version of you that truly believes everything you want is already yours and is on it's way to you, then and only then, will that belief reflect itself in your 3D reality.
In today's episode I teach you how to identify the limiting beliefs that are holding you back and give you actionable steps you can take to start to reframe your mind and create your self-concept.
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I see a ton of "life upgrades" videos and posts on my fyp but all of them seem to be selling some ridiculously expensive miracle product that isn't actually going to change your life. So I wanted to share with you 5 ways I have upleveled my life that completely free for you to implement so you can upgrade your life today!
In today's episode I discuss:
- Buying less stuff and more experiences, the memories will last a lot longer than that brief dopamine hit you get from buying more clutter at Target
- Taking your time, rushing isn't cute, learn to slow down, smell the roses and actually enjoy your life
- Putting in effort, when you look good you feel good, so put some effort in for no one other than you, because you carry yourself differently when you feel confident
- Don't be lame, I cannot stress how important it is to have hobbies, interests, passions and goals in life
- Get organized, make your space somewhere where you feel relaxed, not stressed about mess by decluttering and organizing
Let's upgrade our life this year so we can show up as the best versions of ourselves, for ourselves!
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Tommorrow is the first thing of spring, meaning it's time to do your spring cleaning. Now I know that's proabably the last thing you want to think about, but there is just nothing like the feeling of having a clean home. I HATE cleaning, if I had known how much of my adult life would be spent cleaning my house I would've never grown up.
However, I have developed some tricks that help me get motivated to get cleaning. Having a messy home makes me feel overstimmulated and anxious, which can lead to me feeling overwhelmed by the task, which in turn leads to paralysis. It's a vicious cycle, these tips will help you get started and hopefully find the momentum to keep going.
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I don't know about you but social media has become a bit of an addiction for me lately. Every single day I go to work, come home, sit on my couch and doom scroll. Social media is designed to be addictive so if you've fallen pray to it don't worry, you're not the only one.
In today's episode I am going over some signs that you may need to get unplugged and tips on how you can start to limit your own screen time. If you're not ready to cut back but you want a more positive experience in your feed check out episode 95!
It's time we stop watching other people on social media live their lives and get unplugged so we can be present in our own!
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I have been in a funk recently. Every once in a while I get in these ruts where I don't feel like doing anything and I am so tired of my life feeling like groundhogs day just going to work, coming home, doom scrolling until way to late, going to sleep, and then waking up to do it all again the next day.
I am sick of living for the weekend and just waiting for life to happen. I can just hear my 80 year old self screaming at me to get off the couch and go live life. If you have been in a rut lately, this episode is for you.
I'm sharing my tips on how I have been pulling myself out of this funk and getting back on track. It's perfectly normal to feel down every now and again but you don't have to stay there.
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Lately I have been operating out of my masculie energy and I am starting to feel stressed, tense, overwhelmed and burntout. The tips I am sharing in today's episode have helped me move out of my masculine and into the devine feminine.
Disclaimer, masculine and feminine energies have absolutely nothing to do with gender, every single person uses both. They're like yin and yang and there are seasons in everyone's life where one is needed more than the other.
The masculine energy isn't bad, it's what drives us forward, gives us the courage to take risks and drives us to achieve goals; however, getting stuck in your masculine energy can lead to anxiety because you try to control everything, cause stress because you're in fight or flight mode all the time, and lead to burnout due to constantly striving.
If that sounds like you and you're wanting to move into the intuitive, creative, peaceful, and recieving energy of the divine feminine then this episode is for you!
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Lately I have been doing several sober stints and honestly I have loved it. I did the 75 soft, dry January and now I've given up alcohol for lent and in doing these periods of being sober I have decided that drinking really isn't for me. It is something that has never really served me and I also think a lot of it has just come with age so I just wanted to share my thoughts with y'all.
This episode is in no way intended to tell you what to do with your life, you do what works best for you, but I personally have really started to look at the role alcohol played in my life and reevaluated whether or not I want to continue doing it.
I am so done with hangxiety, harming my health or spending tons of money on bar tabs. I have no intention of being sober forever but I do want to really take step back and start to change my habits around alcohol consumption.
If you are someone who struggles with alcohol please reach out and get help because addiction is a disease, you can reach out to the American Addiction Center at 855-504-6815
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This Valentine's Day my goal is to convince you to take yourself on a date, you don't have to go out on the actual day cause I know it's busy, but I hope this episode convinces you sometime this week to have a date with yourself.
Since I have started dating myself I have noticed so many improvements in my life, I know the idea of going out on your own can be intimidating and scary but growth happens when we get out of our comfort zone.
If this episode fired you up to go on a solo date but your unsure of where to start go back and listen to last weeks episode for solo date ideas and check out Episode 110: Date yourself instead for tips on how to overcome that intial uncomfortable feeling.
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It's February, which for many is a month of love, but as a single al that can be kind of hard. Whether you're happy being single or feeling a bit lonely I want to encourage you to intentionally date yourself this month and be your own Valentine.
I've seen a lot of solo date date ideas going around on TikTok lately and a lot of them have just been grabbing a coffee and going to Target, and don't get me wrong that sounds like a fun day, but there is a difference between romanticizing something like errands and intentionally dating yourself for the purpose of getting to know yourself better.
So I want to challenge you to be incredibly intentional with your solo dates. If you're just getting started with solo dates and you're feeling awkward and uncomfortable with the idea, go check out Episode 110: Date Yourself Instead for tips on how to get cofortable being out on your own.
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It's 2024! We're kicking off this year with a 5 week series where each episode will be a deep dive on one of the Growth Goals. Growth Goals are the 5 things you should do every single day to show up as the best version of you and achieve your goals, for more info on them check out episode 25. But today's episode we're dicussing the Growth Goal, one thing that brings you joy!
This Growth Goal is so important to me because I feel like our own joy is often something that gets put on the back burner, but we deserve to live happy lives so I want to challenge you to create small moments of joy for yourself every single day. We are responsible for our own happiness so it is up to you to create daily joy for yourself.
Now obviously I can't tell you exactly what to do to be happy, so this episode is full of tips and exercises you can do to try and figure out what you can do to create joy; as well as, some research backed, science backed things that have been proven to increase happiness, but joy looks different for everybody, do what works for you.
I am so sad to see this series ending because I have loved it, I hope you have too. If you haven't already make sure and check out all the episodes from this month!
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It's 2024! We're kicking off this year with a 5 week series where each episode will be a deep dive on one of the Growth Goals. Growth Goals are the 5 things you should do every single day to show up as the best version of you and achieve your goals, for more info on them check out episode 25. But today's episode we're discussing the Growth Goal: One Thing For Your Spirit.
I see lists all the time on the internet like '7 Daily Habits to Lose Weight' or '5 Things You Can Do Daily to Be Healthy' etc., but I felt like so many of those lists failed to help you grow in every area of your life, and honestly I think our spirit is so often negelcted.
So in today's episode I wanted to share with you ways that you can grow in your spirit that have been scientifically proven to not only improve your spiritual health but your mental health, physical health and overall well-being. I hope that regardless of your faith or where you're at in your spiritual journey you take some time today to do one small thing for your spirit.
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It's 2024! We're kicking off this year with a 5-week series where each episode will be a deep dive on one of the Growth Goals. Growth Goals are the 5 things you should do every single day to show up as the best version of you and achieve your goals, for more info on Growth Goals check out episode 25. But today's episode we're discussing the Growth Goal, one thing for your mental health.
I have been on a journey for YEARS, but for the longest time I didn't incorporate mental health practices into my daily life. I have been in therapy for years and my therapist would give me habits, coping mechanisms, or tips that I just wouldn't do and then wondered why I wasn't getting better. It wasn't until I started making taking care of my mental health a part of my every day life that I really started to see changes and feel so much better.
In today's episode I share small things that you can do every day to improve your mental health. These are things that have helped me immensely to completely change the way I think, pull myself out of dark places and grow so much as a person. With that being said, I am not a mental health professional, and if you are really struggling with your mental health I want to encourage you to reach out to a professional and get the help you need.
If you haven't already make sure and go back and listen to the previous episodes in this Growth Goals series and make sure to come back for the rest of the month for a deep dive on the rest of the Growth Goals!
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It's 2024! We're kicking off this year with a 5 week series where each episode will be a deep dive on one of the Growth Goals. Growth Goals are the 5 things you should do every single day to show up as the best version of you and achieve your goals, for more info on them check out episode 25. But today's episode we're dicussing the Growth Goal, one thing for your physical health.
We all know there are so many benefits to taking care of our physical health. And this episode isn't to say you need to be a size two or be able to run a marathon, Lord knows I don't fall into either of those categories. It's about taking care of our bodies so that we can in turn show up for ourselves and others.
In today's episode I break down how you can take small, incremental steps each day to start improving your health and actually change your lifestyle by developing healthier habits.
Make sure to come back every Monday this month for a deep dive on a new Growth Goal and I hope you all had a great first day of 2024, this is going to be our year!
It's 2024! We're kicking off this year with a 5 week series where each episode will be a deep dive on one of the Growth Goals. Growth Goals are the 5 things you should do every single day to show up as the best version of you and achieve your goals, for more info on them check out episode 25. But today's episode we're dicussing the Growth Goal, taking one small step towards your goal.
I'm sure we all started off this year with a big goal in mind so today I am teaching you how to break that big goal down into tiny, easily attainable steps that you can take every single day. By doing this you will avoid burnout, make daily progress and slowly but surely chip away at achieving that goal, because Rome wasn't built in a day.
Make sure to come back every Monday this month for a deep dive on a new Growth Goal and I hope you all had a great first day of 2024, this is going to be our year!
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This year is QUICKLY coming to a close, and I know the week between Christmas and New Years can feel a bit like limbo but it is the perfect time to sit down and write out your goals for the upcoming year. If you're curious to know what mine are, or maybe you need some inspiration for yours, this episode is for you!
My Goals:
- Stay consisten with exercise and strive for working out 2-4 days a week
- Be more consistent with my morning and evening routines
- Pinterest>Tik Tok and being more mindful about my amount of screen time
- Posting on Tik Tok more regularly, go follow me @ashleigh.nicolle
- Making time for hobbies on weekends by doing my chores on weekday evenings
- Low buy year, check out episode 148 for a deep dive on that
- Eat more whole foods, trying to buy foods with fewer ingredients and cooking from scratch more
- Read 10 books
- Declutter one area of my house every long weekend
As you sit down to write out your goals for the new year I also want to encourage you to look back on 2023 and celebrate every single win you had this year. Even if it was all you could do to just get through the year, here you are! You made it and that deserves to be celebrated. 2024 has the potential to be what you make it and is a chance to start over, let's make this year the best one yet!
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So if you didn't know back in October I decided to start the 75 Soft Challenge, and after 58 days I have thrown in the towel. I seriously debated sharing this because I am a little disappointed, feeling guilty and frankly embarassed I came so far and didn't finish. However, I never want y'all to be under the impression that achieve every single goal I set out to achieve. I know this podcast is all about achieving your goals but I still fail sometimes and I want to normalize that.
I learned so much from this challenge but there were definetly some cons as well and I have learned that this is just not something that is sustainable for me. I am so proud of myself for having stuck with it for 58 days and I did see results and develop habits I will be carrying with me into the new year, so eventhough I didn't complete it I got something out of it.
Failure is a part of life but as long as we learn and grow from our failures we never truly fail.
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I don't know if you've seen the Tik Tok trend of everyone posting lists of things that have made their life better, but I am obsessed with it. So this is my list of 10 things that have made my life so much better. By implementing the things on this list it has heloed me to romanticize my life, stay organized, live an easier life and uplevel in so many ways.
In this episode I discuss:
- Investing in nice jewelry
- Luxurious matching pajama sets
- Creating a skin care routine
- Eating brekfast
- Cleaning a little every single day
- Making my bed
- Unseen aesthetic things
- Not saving things for special occasions
- Not delaying gratification
- Pre-deciding
I hope these 10 things inspire you to uplevel your life, I cannot recommend them enough because my life is so much better since implementing them.
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I don't know about you, but for me, money has been tight lately. On top of that, between Black Friday and Cyber Monday sales your girl was influenced and made some impulse purchases. Wanting to improve my spending habits it something I have been working on for a while but after this last month of excessive spending I decided enough was enough and I am going to do a low buy year for 2024. So if yyou are wanting to do a low buy period of time or if you're just curious how I will be implementing it, this episode is for you.
I wanted to make sure I went into this challenge with a good minset because even though I over spent and impulse shopped this is not me punushing myself for bad financial decisions, this is simply learning to be more appreciative for the things I do have and actually using them.
Also it is important to me that this is a lifestyle change so I wanted to make it sustainable which is why I made room for exceptions because I believe if things truly bring you joy they are worth the money. All that to say, if you are planning to do this challenge with me I want to encourage you to be realistice and kind to yourself while doing so.
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There's 34 days left in 2023 and now is the perfect time to start preparing for your glow up you're going to have in 2024, so if you're ready to make 2024 the best year yet, this episode is for you!
In this episode I discuss:
- Outline the best version of you- either create an avatar that represents the best version of you or write a letter to yourself from future you and outline all the habits, routines, schedule, and characteristics you want to have
- Create a vision board- there's a lot to be said for having a visual reminder of the life you want, it will keep you motivated and when you finally get to that picture perfect moment you'll know you've arrived
- Cut out everything that isn't in alignment- now that you have your outline and vision for yourself do a life edit and eliminate everything that doesn't align with the life you want to create for yourself
- Set boundaries- figure out your non-negotables required for yur dream life and set boundaries around the time, energy and money needed to reach those goals
- Start practicing now- you've got 34 days to start implementing the lifestyle you want to live, start today and build that momentum so you can go into the New Year with some progres under your belt
I am so looking forward to this new year I have been implementing new habits, making plans, setting goals and gearing up for my glow up. Y'all keep an eye out for a new and improved me this next year! Can't wait to see y'all glow up with me!
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We've all heard of hot girl summer, but lets carry that same energy into every season! I don't know about you but winter is my least favorite time of year. With the days being so short, everything being so dead and dreary outside and it being bitterly cold, it can be easy to slip into a state of hybernation or worse seasonal depression. So I wanted to share with you my tips on how we can romanticize this season and go from cold, crying girl winter to HOT girl winter.
In today's epiosde I discuss:
- Using the winter to focus on yourself- start outlining your goals for the new year, get clear on your intentions and even start practicing implementing your new years resolutions now so you're ready to hit the ground running come January 1
- Prioritize socializing- while winter is a great time to focus on you it can be easy to slip into an isolated, depressive state so make sure that you're still making time to get together with the people that love you
- Moisturize- winter is tough on your skin so make sure that you always have lip balm and hand cream ready to go and you're moisturizing your whole body every day cause no one wants to be crusty and chapped this winter
- Hair mask and face mask weekly- make it a priority to have a Sunday self-care spa night and carve out some time to take care of your hair and pretty face this winter
- Gua Sha- in the winter everyone gets a little sniffly and congested, but implementing gua sha into your self-care routine is a great way to make sure your lymphatic system is draining all that winter crud
- Hot girl walks- I know it's cold outside but bundle up and get to steppin, or if you'd rather do some cozy cardio around your house but getting those steps in will do wonders for fighting of seasonal depression
- Get cozy- bust out your favorite sweater, treat yourself to a new blanket or candle or pick up a cozy hobby and let's romanticize our lives this winter season
I can't wait to have the best winter yet and come this spring I will be a better version of me bacuse I used this time wisely! Stay warm out there y'all!
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We all struggle with our mental health from time to time so I wanted to share with you some therapy dupes that can help you reduce anxiety and stress, alleviate depression, and increace happiness and overall well-being. So whether you have been down in the dumps lately or you're just wanting to stay on top of your mental well-being this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Cleaning and organizing your space- your physical space is a physical manifestation of your mental state. If you've been feeling overwhelmed and stressed cleaning your space is a great way to gain a sense of control, it has a calming effect and gives you a sense of accomplishment and purpose
- Getting outside- a study in the UK found that getting outdoors for as little as two hours a week can have amazing benefits for your well-being. So start gardening, play fetch with your dog, go for a walk or just sit outside. Whatever you do getting some sun in everyday will be so beneficial for your mental health
- Exercise- we all no exercise is great for our physical health but it has so many mental health benefits too. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression or ADHD exercise can help alleviate the symptoms of so many mental health struggles
- Self-care- it's so much more than just the latest tik tok tred, self-care is a commitment to yourself to start meeting your own need, so take time each day to check in with yourself and do something for you
While these tips are great for improving your mental health I want to remind you that there is absolutely no shame in needing help, needing medication, or struggling with your mental health. I have been in therapy for years and think everyone can benefit from it so if you need extra help I want to encourage you to seek it. We all struggle sometimes, it's okay and you're not alone.
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Dating in your late 20's is ROUGH! But I put together a list of advise that will hopefully help you navigate dating and find the person for you. So, if you're a girl with all the apps, feeling like you're endlessly swiping, looking for love then this episode is for you!
In this episode I discuss:
- Know what you want, become what you want, attract what you want. It's MANifistation 101
- Set expectations early on because the second you lower the bar or let something slide you have set a precedence
- Dating is a numbers game, just remember that every bad date, person that ghosts you, missed connection, etc. is getting you one step closer to finding someone
- If I feel the need to go through someone's phone then I don't need to be in that relationship. You deserve someone who makes you feel safe and secure not anxious
- I'm pro ghost. If we have been on less than 3 dates I don't owe you an explanation and quite frankly I don't want a paragraph of why you don't like me when you barely even know me. The silence is the response.
- If you don't know where you stand, go stand somewhere else. I don't know about you but I am not looking to be in a situationship, either you want to be with me or you don't. Make me question that and you'll find yourself asking where I went.
- Lastly, there is no timeline, who you choose as your life partner is arguably the most important decision you will make so take your time and choose wisely
I am by no means a relationship expert, clearly because I am out here in the streets haha, but as someone who is also in the trenches I wanted to share with you what I have learned so far. Dating can be hard just remind yourself that you are worthy of someone amazing, they are out there waiting and praying for you, don't loose hope and never settle, ladies.
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What is imposter syndrome? Imposter syndrome is when your compitence is greater than your confidence and it's actually a lot more common than you might think. Even incredibly accomplished people like Maya Angelou and Albert Enstein struggled with it, so if you experience imposter syndrome you're in good company.
In today's episode I discuss:
- 4 signs that you might be struggling with imposter syndrome and how it can show up at work, home, school, and even in relationships
- Seperating feeling from fact- when it comes to imposter syndrome feelings of inadequecy are often a figment of our own minds. Take notes of your accomplishments, when you struggle with those feelings it can be nice to have a tangle reminder that you are capable
- Have alearning mindset- rather than going into something with the mindset of 'I am going to fail' shift to 'even if I don't succeed I will learn something'
- Avoid comparison- instead of looking at everyone else's success as highlighting your flaws, instead work towards collaboration and learn from others
If you weren't ready for more, the opportunity wouldn't present itself. If a door opens for you, trust that it is meant for you because you are ready, it wouldn't be there if you weren't. You are so capable, talented and have something unique to offer the world. Seize that opportunity, you are worthy and deserving of it!
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Lately I have wanted to live a softer life, especially as we move into fall and winter, I am looking to slow down, reduce stress and focus on prioritizing my peace, comfort, mindfulness and well-being. If that sounds like the kind of life you want to live then today's episode is for you!
So, what is a "soft-life"? Well it's the exact opposite of a hard life, it's a philosophy that rebells against girl boss culture, the constant hustle and grind culture and the mentality that your worth is directly correlated to your productivity.
Now that's not to say that people living a soft-life are lazy, unproductive and don't have goals. Itt is simple an apprach to life that allows you to pursue goals and be productive while giving yourself grace, prioritizing peace and nurturing yourself along the way.
A soft life will look different for everybody but if you're wanting to move into a soft season it is important to get your mindset right first by learning to reject the struggle, release the guilt around putting yourself first and redefining success to align with what's right for you.
It is my hope that these tips help you to live a more balanced life with comfort, joy and calmness. I think we should all try to embrace self care, meaningful work and connections and delight in all life has to offer.
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I am in my late twenties so I am at a point in my life where my friends are starting to get married and have kids, meanwhile I am happily a single mom to my two dogs. For the first time I am having to navigate being the only single person in my friend group and it can be har sometimes. So in today's episode I am sharing with you how I have learned to navigate this new dynamic in my friend groups. Single ladies, this one is for you!
Today I discuss:
- Making new friends- this in no way means you shouldn't stay friend with people once they move into a new phase of life but it is also nice to have freinds that you can relate to
- Recognize that friendships evolve- your friends life now includes another person so learn to adapt and be okay with being the third-wheel sometimes
- Set boundaries- communicate your needs to your friends and let them know when you just need girl time and in turn be respectful of their boundaries and understand sometimes they're going to do strictly couple things
- Reach out- it doesn't matter who texts first as long as the feeling is reciprocated. Couples get connection at home meanwhile single people have to seek it out so if you need interaction, just reach out
- Be mindful of their situation- don't ask your friends with kids out on a school night or ask your married friend out to do something you know their partner wouldn't be okay with
- Be willing to compromise- you as a single person have a lot more free time than people with obligations to other so be willing to work around them and compromise when you can
I know it can often feel like you're being left behind when your friends start to reach all of these huge milestones in their lives and you might find yourself comparing your life to theirs, just remember we are all on our own path and their is no timeline. Your life doesn't start when you get married or have a kid so enjoy this season your in, your time will come.
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When we think of self-care I think most of our minds immediately go to bubble baths and face masks, which don't get me wrong is a great form of self-care, but it's so much more than that. While self-care can be luxurious and relaxing sometimes it's hard work that in the end is going to improve our overall well-being. So if you're ready to practice self-care in every aspect of your life this episode is for you!
In today's episode I discuss:
- Physical self care- activites that care for your physical body; such as: skin care, exercise, getting enough sleep, making a dentist appointment, hydrating
- Emotional self care- addressing past trauma, learning how to manage your anxiety and stress, recognizing your emotions and feeling your feelings
- Mental self care- cultivating a positive mindset, develop mental toughness and help you grow as a person; i.e. daily affirmations, goal setting, self-help podcasts etc.
- Practical self care- activities that prevent future stressful situations; for example, cleaning your house or creating a budget
- Social self care- activities that nurture the important relationships that you have in your life like having a girls night or calling your mom
- Spiritual self care: practices that remind you that you are a part of something bigger than yourself
If you practice at least one form of self-care a day, bonus points if you hit more than one category, it will help you become a better verion of yourself every day.
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Do you ever do something only to later find yourself replaying it in your head wishing you had made a better decision. Whether it's as simple as deciding to hit snooze or where to invest your money our decisions can have lasting impacts on our life, even the seemingly inconsequential ones, because they form our habits. So if you want to start making bettter decisions this episode is for you!
Today's tips:
- Take your time- it's okay to sleep on a decision, even small ones. I force myself to wait 24-48 hours before buying something to help me break the habit of impulse buying
- Weigh the opportunity cost- the opportunity cost of your decision is the loss of other alternatives when one is chosen. For example what else could you spend $100 on or do with an hour of your time?
- Look at it from different perspectives- imagine how each of your options will make you feel in the future, what the potential consequenses might be, etc.
- Regulate your emotions- so many of our decisions, especially the decisions we tend to regret later, are made from a very emotional state so learning to regulate your emotions can help you get back to logic and make better choises
- Make sure decisions align with your goals, intentions, values and priorities- whatever they might be, make sure that your decisions align with what you want for yourself and your life
- Trust your gut- our gut is usually right but a lot of time we start overthinking, or getting emotional and we override that gut instinct, these tips are designed to help you get back to that internal compass
There are many decisions in my life I look back and cringe at. So much money wasted on impulse buys I didn't need, so many nights of good sleep and productive days given up because I had fomo or felt peer pressured, so much time wasted not making progress becuase I decided to procrastinate. However, instead of dwelling on all of the decisions I should have made differently I wanted to take that experience and today's tips to make better decisions every day.
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Your sleep is crucial for your mental and physical health. Research has shown that chronic misalignment in your circadian rhythem can lead to metabolic diseases and mental health disorders; such as depression. Repeated poor sleep hygiene can also lead to insomnia and consistent lack of sleep puts you at higher risk for things like heart disease and stroke. Needless to say a good nights sleep is vital to your overall health and well-being.
Of course getting a good nights sleep isn't always easy; stress from work, family/household reponsibilities or anxiety can make sleep illusive. However, you can adopt habits that encourage better sleep. These habits are often refered to as sleep hygiene.
In this episode I discuss everything from bad habits that inhibit sleep, good habits that will promote better sleep, the ideal sleeping environment and even things you can do througout your entire day that will align your circadian rhythem. If you follow these science backed habits I promise you will have better sleep!
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Do you ever have those days, or maybe even weeks, where you just can't seem to get it going. Like you just don't have the energy to do not only do the things you need to do, but even the things you want to do because you're too tired. Believe me I have been there, stuck in a funk where all I want to do is lay in bed. In today's episode I am sharing my tips on how I get my energy back.
In today's episode I discuss:
- Never skip breakfast, skipping breakfast messes with your blood sugar and can lead to insulin resistence so fuel your body with carbohydrates for long lasting energy and protein to keep you full
- Eat smaller meals, we all know that feeling where you eat too much and feel like you're going to slip into a food coma. Instead eat smaller meals and then if you are still hungry it's okay to grab a snack
- Get your vitamin levels tested, anemia, magnesium defecency, low vitamin D all can cause fatigue so if you've been cronically tired there may be an underlying cause so check with your doctor
- Exercise, I know it's a lame answer but it's SO TRUE. It doesn't matter what kind of exercise but i promise you will feel more energized after a quick walk or a good sweat sesh
- Get plenty of sleep, obviously. You need 7-9 hours of sleep a night so give yourself a bedtime and prioritize your sleep, you will thank yourself
- Work on mindfulness, do you ever have those days where you physically didn't do anything but because you were stressed, anxious or depressed you still feel drained and tired? Work on mindfulness and your mental health so you can focus your energy on achieving your goals
Our energy is a precious commodity, I miss the days when I felt like I had so much of it but by implementing these habits I am so much more productive, fun and energetic.
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Sustainability and living a more non-toxic lifestyle is something I am exteremly passionate about. Not only is sustainability a great way to help the planted but also your own health. So many of the products we use are carsonogenic and toxic to our health, so if you want to help save the plant while improving your health, this episode is for you.
In today's episode I am going to be discussing three areas of your home/routine that create a lot of waste and contain harsh chamicals, the kitchen, cleaning supplies and hygene products, are the best places to start when trying to be more concious about what you consume.
Also, I mention two companies throughout this episode that have been my go to's for sustainable products. I have been using Grove Co. and Who Gives A Crap for years and I love and trust their products. If you'd like to get started on your sustainable journey check out the links down below for a discount on your first order.
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Lately I have been really into the clean girl aesthetic. It is so simple but looks so put together, it's literally the definition of high maintenence to be low maintenence and, to me, it's giving model-off-duty vibes. So I have been working to create a clean girl routine and can I just say I am loving it! If you have wanted to achieve the clean girl aesthetic, then this episode is for you!
Your clean girl routine can be as simple or as complicated as you want to make it, I personally keep it pretty simple, but you do you boo. This routine is by no means the only way to achieve the clean girl look, it's a blueprint so feel free to mix it up or elaborate on it.
Also, I want to note that you do not have to have perfectly flawless skin to achieve this look. I know this trend can make you feel like you have to have a flawless face to be able to do it but I have blemishes and pores and hyperpigmentation and that's okay. Anyone and everyone can be a "clean girl" so give it a try!
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Do you find yourself sabotaging your own progress or relationships in your life? Or perhaps maybe you don't even realize you're the one holding yourself back but nothing seems to work out for you? If so, this episode is for you. We often self-sabotage to keep ourselfves in our comfort zone, even if our comfort zone isn't exactly comfortable, it may be chaos. This is because what is 'known' is percieved by our brains to be safer than change; however, if we want to learn, grow and evolve as people, improve our situation, or achieve goals, we must learn to get out of our comfort zone.
In this episode I discuss:
- Examine the root cause- self-sabotaging tendencies are often a result of past trauma. This could be childhood trauma, being in a toxic relationship or cognative dissonance
- Stop procrastinating- procrastination is a common symptom of self-sabotage. When something brings up your unaddressed fears triggers your fight, flight or FREEZE response. It's important to remind yourself you're safe as you work towards goals to prevent your subconcious brain from thwarting your efforts
- Let go of perfectionism- people that self-sabotage often obsess about the minutae and have an all-or-nothing mentality. Learn to implement change slowly and be realistic about how much change you can handle at a given time
- Work on your mindset- become self aware of your self-sabotaging triggers, tendencies, root cause and subconcious beliefs so that you can begin to break the pattern
We are often our own worst bully, but if you can become your own best friend and biggest cheer leader it will allow you to feel safe in your own mind, body and abilities; which will in turn allow you to pursue your goals and dreams and stop sabotaging your own progress and growth.
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It's back to school season! I miss college so much, not the school work but just how fun it was, college was some of the best years of my life! So in honor of being out of college for 5 years now I wanted to look back and share the best advise for any college students beginning this amazing chapter of their life.
In this episode I discuss;
- Getting organized- find a planner or scheduling app you'll actually use and set reminders to help you stay on top of your school work
- Get involved- I met some of my best friends in college so find a way you can plug into your collegiate community
- Make your schedule work for you- the beauty of college is you get to set your schedule so create one that is condusive for you
- Never pay full price for text books- 'nuff said
- Look into your professors- check out RateMyProfessor.com
- Stay on top of your finances- everyone is broke in college but don't dig that hole any deeper. Apply for scholarships throughout your college career, learn to cook for yourself instead of eating out and take cash when you go out so you can stick to your budget
- When to splurge- I highly recommend splurging on bedding and electronics. You will spend a lot of time in your bed sleeping and studying so make sure it's comfy. Also, having a good laptop and nice headphones will definetely be a purchase you get your money's worth for
- Pack light- you can always switch out your clothes on break when you go back home; additionally, keep in mind you're not going to want to bring anything that can't be washed easily.
- Be proactive- take responsibility for your own education and devote time every day to study or review material, you will thank yourself some finals week
Your time in college are such formative years, I know it can be overwhelming being on your own for the first time in a new place while trying to figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life. Just know that it's okay to not know what you're doing, the truth is no one does. Try to enjoy this time in your life, pursue your interests, learn so much, meet amazing people and HAVE FUN!
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Lately I have fallen into a bit of a depressive mood. It happens from time to time when I am under a lot of stress. Between having a hectic couple weeks at work, having a diabetic dog, juggling an insane social calendar and just trying to keep up with laundry the stress has been getting to me.
I have been struggling with lack of focus, low energy, not sleeping well, over eating and so I wanted to share with you how I plan to pull myself out of this depressive episode. Stress Response Syndrome or Adjustment Disorder, also known as situational depression, is something I have struggled with for a while.
My therapist has given me excellent tips that have helped me to recognize when I have fallen into one of my depressive moods and more importantly things I can do to help pull myself out of these funks, so I wanted to share those tips with you.
Depression can be hard to talk about and I never want to give the impression that it's something I don't still struggle with, mental health is a lifelong journey. I do hope that these tips help you to start feeling better, but if you need help please call the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, their number is 988 and they offer 24/7 support. You can get through this!
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Do you ever feel overwhelmed by work? Or like all you have is work and no life? If so this episode is for you. Society can make it seem like you have to be the first one in the office and the last one out in order to succeed, but maintaining a work-life balance is vital for your mental and physical health.
In this episode I discuss:
- Why having a work life balance is important and the risk factors of being under constant stress
- 3 signs that you are in need of a better work life balance
- 5 tips on how you can work towards creating work life balance
Life is too short to be all work and no play. You deserve to have a life, you should work so that you can live the life you work rather than live to only work. I have been there, work can be stressful, which is what makes having balance so important.
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Do you ever find yourself laying in bed, completely overwhelmed by the amount of things you need to do, then become paralyzed, unable to do even the simpliest of tasks? If so you may struggle with executive disfunction. Executive disfunction is not laziness, it's when you WANT to do the things, whether it's chores, errands or even a hobby, but you simply can't. If that sounds like you, you're going to want to tune in.
In this episode I discuss:
- Just stand up- I know it sounds simple but it's effective. Instead of thinking about all the things you need to do once you stand up simply focus on one goal, standing up
- Body doubling- simply having someone sit with you or calling someone while you complete tasks can give you just enough motivation to stay engaged and focused
- Surf the wave- allow yourself to have a hit of dopamine before starting on your to-do list and then ride that happy wave (i.e. get Starbucks BEFORE errands)
- Take breaks or change tasks as you need to- who cares if you take longer to get things done because you don't do it in the most effecient way possible. So what it takes you longer, if that's the only way you can get it done then it's worth it
- Save the worst for last- If you try to start with the most daunting thing you may never get out of the paralysis stage, instead start with something easy. This can help you build momentum to tackle that big task or waste case scenario, if you still don't get to that big task at least you can feel good that everything else on the list is done
Executive disfunction often comes with feeling guilty or lazy. i want you to know you're not alone in this and you can overcome it. But most importantly, I want you to know that struggling with executive disfuntion does not make you lazy!
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You may have heard the term "rizz" recently, it's what all the kids are saying now days, and it's actually short for charisma. Charisma, or having "rizz", is when you are considered charming, likeable, attractive, alluring, and have a special magnetic appeal. So if you want to know how you can have more "rizz" this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
Confidence- confidence is the most beautiful thing you can pocess, it's what gives you the courage to be authentic and will allow you to attract the right people
Happy- if your mind is at peace you are happy and happy people attract good things
Aware- learn to read a room and other people's nonverbal communication
Respectful- being a kind, respectful human being will get you so much further in life than bullying and shoving
Inspiring- being inspiring is all about leading from the front and living by example, being inspired is about having a why that is bigger than yourself
Subtle- the most charismatic person in the room is rarely the loudest
Motivating- being motivating is about leading from behind, cheering others on, being motivated is about learning to be your own biggest cheerleader
Attitude- we cannot change the inevitable, the only thing we can do is play the one string we have and that is our attitude
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Do you find yourself thinking of what you want to say before the person you're having a conversation with even finishes their thought? Same, lately I have been working on being a more active and empathetic listening so I wanted to share with you some tips on how you can be a better listener to deepen connections and strengthen relationships.
In this episode I discuss:
- Changing your mindset- instead of listening to respond seek first to understand and then to be understood
- Eye contact and facial expressions- maintain eye contact 70-80% of the time, any more than that and it's creepy, any less and they will feel as though you're not listening. Be aware of your facial expressions and make sure they're appropriate
- Signal you're listening- nod your head, throw out a mhmm or yeah every now and then so the person you're talking to knows you're engaged. Be aware of your body language so you don't seem closed off
- Ask clarifying questions- as who, what, when, where, why and how questions; for example, "who is 'they'?" or "when was this?" or "what did you say next?"
- Paraphrase for understanding- when they finish talking paraphrase what they said back to them to make sure you're crystal clear on what they said and how they meant it
The most important part of being a good listener is the follow up. It means so much to people when you're not only engaged in a conversation but remembering the details and following up with them later shows that you truly cared about what they had to say. Take notes if you have to, I promise it will mean the world to someone if you follow up with them.
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Do you feel like you have to be a chemist in order to create a skin care routine or feel overwhelmed by all the products to choose from? If so this episode is for you! Keep in mind I am not a dermatologist or estatician so if you are struggling with your skin consult a professional on what they recommend for you.
8 Step skin care routine:
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Cleanser:
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The purpose of this is is to remove dirt and make up from your face. It is important to get a gentle cleanser, I used to think if it's burning it's working but that isn't true. If it's burning it's irritating your skin so find one that feels good for you.
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Toner (optional)
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While toners do remove excess dirt that was missed during the cleansing process there are two types of toner, hydrating and exfoliating, so make sure to check the active ingedients to see what type of toner it is.
- Hydrating toners can be used daily and contain verious active ingredients such as vitamin C or hyaluronic acid and can be used daily as an additional cleanse
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Exfoliating toners should not be used more than twice a week and they contain AHA or BHA. AHA (glycolic and lactic acid) can be used on most skin types, while BHA (salicin) is better for oily skin as it penetrates deeper, see dermcollective.com for more info
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Serum
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Serums are used to treat specific skin conditions, if you don't currently have any issues with your skin you can use a generic serum with active ingeriendts such as vitamin C, there are different active ingredients that treat different things, but avoid trying to treat more than one thing at a time
- If you have acne scaring vitamin E serum can help minimize the appearance of scars
- Hyaluronic acid is a good serum to use for dry skin
- Retinol is an active ingredient that can help reduce or prevent the signs of aging
- Salicylic acid is an active ingredient to look for if you have acne prone skin
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Azelaic acid and hydroquinone reduce the appearance of hyperpigmintation
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Eye cream
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I used to think eye cream in unnessecary because I could just use a moisturizer, but many moisturizers contain fragrance, alcohol and parabens that can damage the delicate skin around the eyes
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Additionally, eye serums contain specific active ingredients that reduce dark circles and puffiness.
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Spot treatment (optional)
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I personally use benzoyl peroxide to treat breakouts, if you struggle with severe acne consult a doctor about the best course of treatment
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Moisturizer
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You can use any moisturizer that works best for you, however you want to make sure it contains ceramides that will help restore your skins natural barrier, this will lock in moisture and create a barrier to keep impurities out
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Oils (optional)
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While serums treat skin conditions and moisturizers moisturize, oils are designed to nourish the skin. They each contain various fatty acids, vitamins and antioxidants that can help improve the appearance of your skin.
- Marula and Coconut oils are good for dry skin, Argon oil is good for elasticity and dark spots, Rosehip oil is good for anti-aging
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Many moisturizers may also contain these oils so this step isn't necessary, personally I only include this step in my evening skin care routine
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SPF (AM only)
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Make sure you are putting on a minimum of SPF 30 every single morning. This will not only protect your skin from getting damaged by UV rays it will also prevent signs of aging
- Don't forget to put it on your neck as well
Having a skin care routine is a great way to incorporate self care into your daily routine and take care of your beautiful face. I hope thise helps make it a little easier on you, but of course find what works best for you.
Do you every struggle with feeling lost, unfulfilled or just unsure of yourself? If so this episode is for you. Self discovery is a lifelong journey as we are ever changing and growing as we move through life, but whatever season you find yourself in these steps are sure to help you to not only get to know yourself but discover new ways you can continue to grow and evolve.
Summer is flying by! In today's episode I wanted to share my bucket list on how I plan to make the most of the rest of summer 2023, it is my hope that you take this list and elaborate on it and run with it to make your own bucket list of everything you want to do. I know it's hot out there, but pretty soon summer will be gone, so go make some memories that you can take with you! I know it's hot out there so stay safe and most importantly, HAVE FUN!
I am officially in my late 20s and it is terrifying and thrilling all at the same time. I feel simultaniously like a little kid and an adult, what a time to be alive. As I reflect on my last 26 years of life I wanted to share with you some of the best advise I have recieved and some hard won pearls of wisdom. Here's to being another year older!
Well I will be another year older next week and every year I love to look back and reflect on how far I have come and everything I have learned in all my years of life. Now that I am officially in my late 20's I am feeling a little older and wiser so I wanted to share with you my best life advise I have learned so far. A lot of these lessons were hard learned so I hope they help you on your journey.
Do you ever get home from a trip and feel like you need a vacation from your vacation? If so, this episode is for you. I love traveling but it's hard to come back to the real world afterwards. In today's episode I am sharing my tips on how I make the trasition back into regualr life as simple as possible so I can jump back into my routines without missing a beat.
In today's episode I discuss:
- Cleaning your entire house, sure some dust or dog hair might accumulate while you're gone but there's nothing like coming home to no dishes or clutter and a bed with clean sheets
- Doing all of your laundry, you're going to have a bit of laundry to do when you come back, don't add to your stress by leaving dirty clothes in your hamper before you leave
- Pay any bills that will be due while you're gone, coming home to late fees wouldn't be a pleasant surprise.
- Clean out your refrigerater and take out the trash, no one wants to be welcomed home by funky odors
- Mow your grass and water your plants to avoid returning to a forest in your yard or a plant graveyard in your home
Hope these tips make your transition back home a little easier after your next trip!
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Being high maintenance to be low mainenance is all about simplifying your life. It's about investing a little more time, effort and money up front to streamline your routines by doing things once a week or monthly instead of daily. If you want to wake up feeling beautiful and being able to just walk out the door looking put together then this episode is for you.
- Eyelash lift and tint so you wake up with gorgeous lashes, no mascara required
- Getting facials or having a good skin care routine, as someone who doesn't like to wear make up having clear skin makes me feel my best
- Spray tanning or using self tanner so you feel more confident in your skin and have the appearance of wearing foundation
- Styling your hair the night before and sleeping in a protective hairstyle or heatless curls
- Laser hair removal, because shaving for the rest of your life is overrated
- Honorable mention: botox and having a curated wardrobe of high quality, stylish yet timeless pieces.
If there's anything I can do to simplify my morning routine I am in. I love my high maintenance to be low maintenance routine and I look forward to adding more high maintenance habits to my life that make my day-to-day life that much easier.
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This month marks 5 years since I graduated from college and I have been reflecting on my 5 years as a grown up and wanted to share with you some skills I have learned that have come in handy. Adulting is hard, but developing these skills will make it a little easier.
In this episode I discuss:
- Basic home maintenance and improvement- I am not saying you need to be able to do a whole bathroom reno but you should learn the basics like plunging a toilet or being able to hang a picture straight.
- Cleaning- You can ruin so many things not knowing how to clean properly, so familiarize yourself with what cleaners are safe for what surfaces or how to get stains out of laundry or what dishes are dishwasher safe.
- Organization and time management- This is huge for adults. Get a planner to keep up with things, find a system that works for organizing your home and stay on top of stuff.
- Communication and critical thinking skills- Learn how to form your own opinions, find reliable sources of information and be able to communicate effectively both verbally and written.
- Problem solving skills- A lot of adulting is just putting out little fires. Being able to read street signs if your lost, coming up with creative ways to keep your kids entertained, getting scrappy with money or being able to create meal out of seemingly nothing.
If you enjoyed this episode make sure to go back and listen to last weeks episode for part 1 of this mini-series. Good luck to all the new adults out there or the adults just struggling to figure it out, I hope this was helpful.
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Did you know most scientists believe that the brain doesn't fully develop until the age of 25? Well as an almost 26 year old I thought I would give you some advise on being an adult. I have learned a lot in my 5 years of adulting so I wanted to share with you some skills that have become invaluable so you can start developing them.
In today's episode I discuss:
- Being able to create a budget and stick to it. if you need help figuring out how to create a budget check out Episode 43 to hear my exact strategy for how I budget my money.
- Knowing how to use a credit card, there are so many rewards credit cards out there to choose from. You're spending the money anyway, might as well get cash back or travel points for it.
- Have 8-10 meals that you know how to make without having to look at a recipe. As an adult you need to be able to feed yourself something more than ramen so having basic cooking skills is crucial.
- Know how to grocery shop efficiently. Learn what your staple items are and start creating a back stock when things are on sale. Compare prices, plan around sales and stock up when you can.
- Know how to store food properly. if you struggle with using fresh produce up before it goes bad learn what veggies you can freeze or buy canned. Know what meals you can make and throw in the freezer for when you don't feel like cooking.
If you haven't already make sure you go back and listen to last weeks episode all about the things I wish someone had told me about adulting before I entered the real world. And don't forget to tune in next week for part 2 of this mini-series!
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5 years ago this month I graduated from college and entered the real world. And according to scientists my brain is now fully developed so I feel like that qualifies me to give you some tips on how to be a successful adult. These life lessons were hard won so don't feel bad if you're still figuring out this whole adulting thing because I am too. I by no means have it all figured out, but I hope this episode helps you avoid some of the mistakes I made.
Also congratulations to anyone that might be preparing to graduate and enter the real world this month, it can be hard at times but it's such a beautiful chapter of your life so most importantly I hope you enjoy this terrifyingly wonderful time.
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I am sure you've all seen the "That Girl" trend on social media, it's been going around for a while and I am here for it! That Girl isn't one girl, you are already That Girl, it's simply about cultivating a lifestyle that allows you to show up as the best version of you! However, if you're anything like me you've probably drawn a lot of inspiration from the social media trend so I wanted to break down the habits of "That Girl" so that you can meet yourself where you're at and start cultivating a healthy lifestyle TODAY!
In this episode I discuss:
- Journaling- My therapist is the one who first recommended i start journaling and it has changed my life. There are so many mental health benefits that come with a daily journal practice but start today by simply writing down one thing you're grateful for.
- Keeping a tidy space- Your home should be a place that makes you feel safe, comfortable and relaxed not a place that contributes to your overwhelm, spend 15 minutes this evening tiding up a problem area.
- Goal setting- "That Girl" doesn't wait for her dreams to come true, she goes out and makes them her reality. If you don't already have a goal in mind start today by setting one. Then create a habit of devoting a few minutes a day to moving the needle towards that goal.
I did an episode almost a year ago on how to become "That Girl" you can listen to that here. I also want to encourage you to listen to last week's episode for part one of this mini-series all about "That Girl" habits.
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I am sure you've all seen the "That Girl" trend on social media, it's been going around for a while and I am here for it! That Girl isn't one girl, you are already That Girl, it's simply about cultivating a lifestyle that allows you to show up as the best version of you! However, if you're anything like me you've probably drawn a lot of inspiration from the social media trend so I wanted to break down the habits of "That Girl" so that you can meet yourself where you're at and start cultivating a healthy lifestyle TODAY!
In this episode I discuss:
- Eating healthy- if you're not already drinking the daily recommended amount of water don't worry about adding greens powders or supplements, start small.
- Exercise- "That Girl" is often portrayed as a fitness influencer on social media, but if you're not already working out simply start with walking and just focus on building the habit of moving daily.
- Morning/Evening routine- scrolling through TikTok makes it seem like every "That Girl" routine consists of a 57 step skin care routine, an hour of meditation or some other elaborate self-care practice. Don't complicate it, but carve out at least 5 minutes for you as a part of your morning or evening routine.
I did an episode almost a year ago on how to become "That Girl" you can listen to it here. I also want to encourage you to listen to last week's episode all about why your healthy habits are not sticking, if you need some help in implementing these habits. Make sure to come back next week for part two!
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I'm sure most of us have a list of healthy or productive habits that we intend to implement into our lives, or maybe you've tried to implement them to no avail. If so, this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Focusing on the routine instead of the result. Once you create habits and allow you to live the lifestyle of someone that has the thing you want, the results will come naturally.
- Letting go of the all or nothing mentality, changing your habits is hard so missing a day here and there is normal, give yourself some grace and don't be afraid to try again.
- Don't try and do too much too fast. Rather than trying to change your entire lifestyle overnight focus on cultivating one habit at a time.
- One sure fire way to burnout and give up is to push yourself too hard too fast. Meet yourself where you're at, you can always increase the intensity of your habits once they actually are habits.
- We will always pick the most convenient, easiest choice, it's just human nature, so remove any obstacles that might be making it hard to stick to your habits.
If you want to change your life it starts by changing your lifestyle and your habits are the foundation of your lifestyle. Major changes are made one small step at a time. You got this babe!
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Do you find it hard to get adequate rest? Maybe it's because you "don't have time" or perhaps you try to rest and end up feeling guilty the whole time. If that sounds like you and you're ready to actually feel rejuvenated, then this episode is for you.
In today's episode I discuss:
- Being intentional with your rest time, a great way to get into the relaxation zone is to create a ritual that gets you in the mood.
- Put down your phone, social media or tv can be a great distraction but it's important to give your brain a break too.
- Get in touch with your senses so you're present in the moment.
- Clear your head before you rest. Write down your to do list, schedule out your week, write down what's stressing you and then forget about it knowing that it'll all be there ready to go when you're ready to jump back into life.
- Change your mindset about rest, it doesn't have to look a certain way, do whatever works for you and most importantly remember to do it often because you don't have to earn it.
I hope today's tips help you to feel rested, relaxed, rejuvenated and ready to take on anything. Rest is self-care, it's productive and it's vital to allow you to show up as the best version of you.
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We all need to let off a little steam every now and then by airing our grievances and it's totally okay to complain every once in a while, and vet about your problems. However, constantly complaining can lead you down a path of negative thinking, increased irritability and outbursts of anger and is bad for not only your mental but physical health. So if you want to complain less and cultivate a more positive mindset, this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Some of the positive benefits of a little complaining every now and then, because let's be honest never complaining again is impossible so I wanna give you permission to complain every now and then, it's okay.
- Identifying the type of complaining you're prone too, check in with yourself throughout the day and see which type of complaining you lean towards.
- The signs that your complaining may be getting a little out of control and you need to start dialing it back a bit.
- Tips on how you can start complaining a little less and enjoying life a little more.
There is scientific evidence for days about the benefits of a positive mindset and one of the best ways to change your way of thinking is combating complaining and focusing on solutions.
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Lately I have been in a stressful season lately and I have been looking for ways to better manage my stress levels. Stress is a normal part of life and sometimes there are things out of our control that cause a lot of stress in our lives, but we can either spiral out of control or face it head on. Today, I wanted to share some tips on how you can get through whatever stressful situation you might find yourself in.
In this episode I discuss:
- Awareness: Identify the sources of your stress so that you can pinpoint exactly what areas you need to focus on
- Avoid: While avoiding stress that needs to be dealt with isn't healthy there are likely things you can take off your plate that are causing undo stress
- Alter: If you can't avoid a situation alter how you look at it or behave under stress
- Adapt: If there's nothing you can do to change the situation change your attitude
- Accept: Some stress is unavoidable; acceptance can be difficult but it easier than beating yourself up for something out of your control
If you too find yourself in a stressful situation I hope you found these tips helpful.
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February is the month of love but I wanted to take this month to focus on one of the most important relationships in our lives, if not the most important, and that is the relationship with ourselves. Dating yourself is all about getting to know YOU. It's about learning to meet your own needs and desires and prioritizing yourself and your wellbeing.
In this episode I discuss:
- Choosing a familiar place when you first start dating yourself to provide yourself with some comfort and safety as you go out by yourself for the first time
- Going somewhere or doing an activity that doesn't require interaction, like seeing a movie, that way you don't feel awkward about not having anyone to talk to
- Finding a place other people often go to alone, like a coffee shop. This will make you feel less alone
- If you're nervous to go somewhere but you still really want to try it, go on the slowest night so you don't have to worry about being alone in a crowd
- Try not to distract yourself by looking at your screen the whole time and focus on being present
- Be consistent with, take yourself on a date at least once a month if you want it to have a profound impact on your life
- Choose dates that interest and excite you, get dressed up for yourself and most importantly RELAX
Dating yourself is an act of self-love and self-care. It's an amazing way to get to know yourself and increase your confidence. You totally don't have to be single to date yourself, regardless of your relationship status, carving out time for yourself is beneficially. I hope you treat yourself to a nice date this week!
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There is a difference between loneliness and solitude, you don't have to even be alone to feel lonely. Some of the times I have felt the loneliest in my life is when I have been surrounded by people but they either weren't the right people for me, or I wasn't comfortable with myself. Solitude on the other hand, is the choice to be alone and to use that alone time to reflect or simply enjoy your own company. It is about enjoying being with oneself rather than wishing to be with someone else.
In this episode I discuss:
The 4 common reasons why you might be feeling lonely and 5 tips to help you combat loneliness.
Have you been feeling overwhelmed, stressed, anxious, or maybe even a little depressed lately? Me too, girl. I don't know about you but when life gets hectic the first thing I let slip are the things I have control of like working out, cleaning, self-care, etc. even though those are the things that make me feel my best. Makes no sense. But today I am sharing my reset day routine that I use whenever I need to pull myself out of a funk and get my ish together again.
In this episode I discuss:
- Organizing your mind, do a brain dump, journal, plan out your week so you have a plan on how you're going to get back on track and even budget
- Organize your environment. When my home is a mess it makes me even more anxious so clean up your space and complete those tedious tasks that have been looming over you
- Practicing self-care is crucial to having a successful reset routine. It can be absolutely anything as long as it makes you feel good and relaxed
I get it, life gets hard sometimes and there will be things we can't control. I have been spiraling a bit lately with everything going on in my personal life but I have used this routine to help me get back on track and get through this difficult season.
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Do you find your mind dwelling on the past or worrying about the future instead of focusing on the present moment? If so, this episode is for you! Being present is how we experience life, appreciate it and make meaningful connections.
In this episode I discuss:
- What not being present looks like i.e. lack of focus, loss of memory, making errors, poor listening skills, racing thoughts and never being satisfied.
- Making peace with the past, reflecting on how you grew from it and finding something you can be grateful for in your past experiences so you can move on.
- Not getting tunnel vision on your future, staying open minded, available for opportunities, not tying your worth to your achievements and celebrating every win no matter how small
- Anything is a mindfulness practice if you do it mindfully, find ways to make daily, seemingly mundane tasks like eating or cooking, mindful
- Romanticizing your life by falling in love with your work, routines and habits so you can learn to appreciate the small moments in life and the process of creating a better life
- Unplugging and taking breaks to focus on yourself and enjoy your life exactly as it is
Being present requires practice and mental toughness but I think you'll find so much meaning in life when you learn to be present.
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I think everyone is struggling a little financially right now due to the state of the world and I am by no means immune. So in today's episode I am sharing what I will be implementing this year to help me get back on track financially cause your girl has fallen on some hard times. So from one broke girl to another, let's make a commitment to be really intentional with our money and only invest it in things that bring us joy, align with our vision and get us closer to our financial goals!
In this episode I discuss:
- Being self-aware about exactly where your money is going, you might be surprised so start tracking it, because you can't break bad habits you don't even know you have.
- Get clear on what your intentions and financial goals are so you can ensure everything you buy aligns with your values and priorities.
- Wait before you by, most of our bad money decisions are made on split-second impulse buys so take some time to think before purchasing.
- It is okay if it takes some time for you to curate your home or wardrobe, stop buying cheap crap in the meantime just to have something and save up for the item you really want.
- Invest in quality over quantity, it will save you money in the long run!
- Don't get caught in the trap of buying stuff you don't need or even like just because it's trendy instead discover your own style and invest in things YOU love.
I hope you found these tips helpful! Make sure to download Monefy to help you start tracking your expenses, I use the free version and it's great! Here's to being more mindful of our money in 2023!
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Do you have big goals but no energy to invest in achieving them. If so, this episode is for you. Our energy is a precious resource so it's important that we protect our energy and ensure that we invest it in things that move us forward, bring us joy and align with our values and vision. In this episode, I am sharing my 6 tips to help you be more intentional with your energy.
In this episode I discuss:
- Energy map your day to figure out when you have the most energy and prioritize high-energy tasks when you feel your best
- Be mindful of how the people in your life or what you consume impacts your energy levels
- Prioritize your health, rest and self-care to replenish your energy because you cannot pour from an empty cup
- Don't push yourself too hard, too fast. Focus on 1-3 habits or goals at a time and be okay with growing slow so you can actually sustain your growth
- Get into a flow or create a ritual for yourself before working on tasks that help you focus that energy
- Do things that bring you joy
This is part two in a three-part series so make sure you listen to last week's episode all about being more intentional with your time and be sure to come back next week where I'll be discussing how to be intentional with your money.
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One of my words for 2023 is intention. I want to be really intentional with what i invest my time, energy and money into because I've got big goals and a vision for what I want my life to look like and I am not here for anything that doesn't fit that vision. In the first episode of this intentionality mini-series, I am talking about how to be more intentional with your time.
In this episode I discuss:
- Asking yourself what you REALLY want to be devoting your time to. If you had unlimited time, what would you being doing?
- The quickest way to free up time is to eliminate tasks so ask yourself what you can say no to, let go of or set boundaries around
- Plan, prepare and get organized by creating systems, structures and routines
- Making the most of those small pockets of time and following the 10/30 rule
- Setting intentions before you invest time into something to remind yourself why it's important to you and worthy of your time
Not having enough time is the number one reason I hear people say they 'can't' achieve their goals. I hope these tips help you to better utilize your time so that you can devote it to creating the life you love.
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I don't know about you, but 2022 was a rough year for me. between breaking my hand and having to have surgery, to getting two tickets and my car battery dying, to going through a breakup and my friend moving away, only to have that all topped off with my dog being hospitalized and diagnosed with diabetes. I feel like I have not been able to catch a break lately, but it's a new year, a fresh start and a time to let go of the past and look towards the future.
In this episode I discuss all the 2022 goals I did NOT achieve, and it's a lot. I wanted to share this because it is totally okay if you didn't accomplish everything you wanted to this past year. It is perfectly okay if you only made a little progress or weren't perfectly consistent. It is also okay if as you reflect on the goals you didn't achieve to pivot or let go of goals entirely. I have so much hope for 2023 and I have a feeling that this is going to be a great year.
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I don't know about you, but I am so tired of diets telling me I have to cut out my favorite foods, making me feel bad for what or how much I eat and restricting myself to the point that I have so much stress and anxiety around food. If you are ready to reject diet culture and negative feelings surrounding food, this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- What intuitive eating is and the physical and, most importantly, the psychological benefits of adopting this philosophy
- Reframing your mindset around food to stop looking at it as 'good' or 'bad' or calculating calories in your head.
- Notice how foods make you feel and eating what makes you feel your best rather than how it might make you look
- Honoring your hunger and respecting your fullness. It really is as simple as that, being self-aware and in tune with your bodies cues is what intuitive eating is all about
- Taking the emotion out of eating, learning to let yourself feel your emotions rather than coping with food and rejecting the guilt and shame around your food choices
Intuitive eating isn't eating whatever you want whenever you want. It's eating what you know is going to make you feel good when you're hungry and stopping when you're full. Sounds simple, because it is but the key is your mindset and making peace with food. Intuitive eating is an act of self-love and self-care, it is not a diet. Infact, it's the opposite of a diet.
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I talk a lot about moving your body and fueling your body well as a form of self-care, but I know that diet and exercise can be touchy subjects. As a size 16 woman I have had my own struggles with embarking on a health journey, which is why I wanted to do this two-part series all about joyful movement and intuitive eating. If you struggle with viewing exercise as a punishment or you're trapped in the mindset of working out to improve how you look versus how you feel, then this episode is for you.
In today's episode I discuss:
- The positive impact regular physical activity can have on your mental health, energy levels, sleep and long-term physical health
- Letting go of the self-hatred and shame and shifting your mindset to see exercise as a form of self-care so you can show up as the best version of you
- Tracking non-scale victories and shifting your goals of working out away from a certain number on the scale or on the tag of your jeans
- Finding an exercise that you actually enjoy. There is no one right way to workout, find one that you genuinely enjoy doing
- Listening to your body and taking rest days when you need them.
I hope this episode helped you to reframe the way you view movement, and you can start to find joy in it. I have noticed a huge difference in how I feel when I move my body regularly because it is self-care and has so many benefits for your mental and physical health.
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Do you ever get into a routine where you're meeting all of your need, pursuing all of your passions and just feeling great energetically, physically and mentally only to fall off the wagon and find yourself stuck in a rut? If so, this episode is for you. I definitely struggled with consistency this year and I realized it was because I was sacrificing my wants and needs, for things I felt like I "should" be doing.
In this episode I discuss:
- The four areas of your life: Have To's, things you absolutely must do like go to work. Needs, the things you need in order to feel your best. Shoulds, things you feel pressured to do. Wants, your hobbies, passions, desires, interests and things that bring you joy.
- Identifying what things fall into each area of your life and then choosing to put your needs and wants first, set, boundaries, protect your energy and let go of the idea of what you "should" do
I hope this episode helps you become more aware of what you feel like you're supposed to do and allows you to let go of the expectations of others and focus on meeting your own needs and creating your own joy.
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The holiday season is coming up and for a lot of us it can be a really stressful time. Between trying to decorate, cook for tons of people, buy the best gift for everyone or just the general hustle and bustle of the holiday season, it can be overwhelming. Which is why decluttering can be so life changing.
If you can create a low stress, low maintenance, decluttered home it will feel like an oasis in times of stress. So, if you're looking to clear out your home before the holiday season; whether it's to help you maintain a cleaner home, have less to manage and reduce your stress, or to make room for new items you got at the latest Black Friday Sale, this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Decluttering your digital space, this often goes overlooked but make sure to clear out your inbox, unsubscribe from unnecessary email lists, delete old photos and unused apps.
- I try to live by the 'one in one out' rule but often times when we get something new, we have a tendency to still hang onto the old
- Letting go of items that no longer bring you joy, clear out that space so that when you do find something you absolutely love you have room for it
- Learning to let go of sentimental items or gifts can be hard but remember holding onto something out of guilt just causes stress, it's okay to let it go, it is not a reflection of your relationship with someone to get rid of things you don't need
- Clear out old consumables. I didn't think of consumables as clutter because the idea is to use them up, but if you're not actually using them or they've expired they're just clutter and need to go
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I'm not going to sugar coat it, embarking on a personal growth journey isn't easy, but I promise you it's worth it. I think sometimes we get this idea in our head that personal growth is going to be magical and we're going to instantly feel better, or our life will instantaneously be better. I wanted to share with you some harsh truths about personal growth you might not be aware, not to scare you off but to prepare you, encourage you and let you know that it does get easier, and it is absolutely worth it.
In this episode I discuss:
- Personal growth is uncomfortable because no one ever grew in the confines of their comfort zone
- It is scary, most people are afraid of the fear of failure or what people will think, but the only real failure in life is giving up and I promise people are more worried about themselves than you, so just go for it
- You will not always feel motivated, find ways to keep yourself disciplined until these healthier habits become your new normal
- It will take longer than you think but it is okay to grow slow
- You will have to invest time and energy into your personal growth journey, make sure you're prepared to prioritize yourself
- You will outgrow people and when you do it's okay to let them go
- No one is coming to save you, personal growth is something you have to do by yourself, for yourself but find support along the way
If you're setting out on a personal growth journey, I hope this episode helps you know you're not alone, encourages you to keep going and makes you feel a little more prepared so you can overcome these obstacles.
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I'm sure many of you have seen the Tik Tok trend going around about entering your 'soft girl' era, but how do you do that? If you've been wanting to step into your feminine energy, and become a classy, soft, generous, confident, kind-hearted person that spreads love to others than this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Summary of exactly who a 'soft girl' is and the energy she exudes
- Cultivating a safe environment that validates your emotions, uplifts and nurtures you, and allows you to be vulnerable
- Finding what brings you peace and joy in your life and sharing it with others so that you can be a light in their life
- Learning to pour into yourself and being able to accept the love you deserve from others
- What the 'soft girl' era is not and addressing common misconceptions
I don't know about you, but I was in survival mode for a long time. I was ready to let go of struggling, hyper independence, being avoidant, being avoidant and emotionally unavailable, the fear of being vulnerable and the masculine energy I was trauma bonded to. I hope this episode helps get you started into the beautiful 'soft girl' flower I know you can be.
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I'm sure many of you have seen the Tik Tok trend going around about entering your 'soft girl' era, but how do you do that? If you've been wanting to step into your feminine energy, and become a classy, soft, generous, confident, kind-hearted person that spreads love to others than this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Summary of exactly who a 'soft girl' is and the energy she exudes
- Cultivating a safe environment that validates your emotions, uplifts and nurtures you, and allows you to be vulnerable
- Finding what brings you peace and joy in your life and sharing it with others so that you can be a light in their life
- Learning to pour into yourself and being able to accept the love you deserve from others
- What the 'soft girl' era is not and addressing common misconceptions
I don't know about you, but I was in survival mode for a long time. I was ready to let go of struggling, hyper independence, being avoidant, being avoidant and emotionally unavailable, the fear of being vulnerable and the masculine energy I was trauma bonded to. I hope this episode helps get you started into the beautiful 'soft girl' flower I know you can be.
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The name 'villain era' can sound like it has a negative connotation but just like villains in movies are often understood so is the villain era. If you are ready to start putting yourself first, prioritizing your energy and mindset, ruthlessly edit your life and embrace your power, then this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Setting boundaries to protect your energy, your mental health and your heart and being intentional about who and what you allow into your life
- Practicing self-care that embodies the energy you want into your life; makes you feel good about yourself and allows you to show up as the best version of you
- Shifting your mindset from worrying about if people like you and asking yourself if you like them, letting go of everything holding you back and learning to do things scared
Stepping into your villain era isn't about becoming a villain it's about becoming your own hero. I love the quote "I think for a lot of us chronic people pleasers our villain era is just us asserting our boundaries, expressing and clearly communicating our needs and prioritizing ourselves." and that's exactly what it is. It's about knowing what you want, ruthlessly editing anything that doesn't align with that and stepping into your power so you can show up authentically as the best version of you.
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Social media is a regular part of everyone's life and it can be a great tool to stay in touch with friends and family, support causes you care about, learn new information and stay up to date, find a community and can be a great creative outlet. However, excessive use of social media can have a lot of negative effects on mental health, so today I'm sharing how you can create a healthier relationship with social media and in turn improve your mental health.
In this episode I discuss:
- Curating a positive feed by unfollowing and blocking negative people or people you simply find yourself comparing yourself to and following people that make you feel good
- Setting boundaries around your social media usage i.e. not checking your phone an hour before bed, at mealtimes or first thing in the morning
- Setting an intention when checking social media so you are more aware of why exactly you are logging on and you consume more consciously
- Taking a break from social media when you need it or deleting it completely if you feel it's negatively impacting you
You may be thinking 'I don't use social media that much' but I want to challenge you to check your screen time on your phone, after I checked mine, I realized I used it a lot more than I thought. I hope this episode helps you consume and share more consciously and encourages you to put your mental health first.
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My early twenties were a rough time in my life, now that I am 25 and have grown so much, I wanted to share with you some advice that I wish someone would have shared with me in my early twenties (not that I would have listened at that age lol) but I hope it helps you!
In this episode I discuss:
- Feeling lonely in your early twenties because you're not sure what to do with your free time now that you're moving away from friends and family, not involved in extracurriculars or spending so much time studying or doing homework anymore
- Being worried about the fact that you don't have it all figured out, you don't know who you are or who you want to become or maybe you're just feeling lost. I've got a secret, none of us have it all figured out
- Feeling like you're behind or that your life isn't on the "right" timeline. You are not behind, go at your own pace, there's no 'correct' timeline. It will be your turn someday so stop comparing your life to everyone else's.
If you're in your early twenties, or really any season of life, I hope you try all kinds of new things, I hope you learn to pick yourself back up when you fall, but most of all I hope that you enjoy whatever season you're in because it won't come around again so the least you can do is enjoy the ride.
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I'm sure you're familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman's 5 love languages, he is a marriage counselor so he applied the 5 love languages to how we give and receive love in our romantic relationships and while his principles obviously apply to our relationships, they can also be applied to the relationship we have with ourselves.
In this episode I discuss:
- Exactly what the five love languages are, you can take the quiz here to figure out yours
- How we have a tendency to sabotage ourselves by doing the opposite of our love language, which is why we're often our own worst enemy, because we know our vulnerabilities
- How you can start loving yourself in alignment with your own love language and begin meeting your own needs
We all love to feel loved, and it is amazing when people in your life make you feel loved but make sure to show yourself some love too.
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Do you find yourself feeling unhappy with your life or maybe just waiting for your life to start or even that nothing is going according to plan? If so, this episode is for you. Believe me I have been there, I have been in the grips of addiction, depression and anxiety. I have been in toxic work environments and relationships and hated where I was in life, even though on paper I had everything I wanted. If you find yourself wanting more out of life, trying to figure out who you are and what you want, or just feeling alone I hope this episode helps. I'm here to tell you that it gets better, you are resilient, and someday you will look back on all the hard things and be so grateful for the person they shaped you into.
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Do you find yourself under chronic stress, feeling extremely exhausted and struggling mentally physically and emotionally. If so, you may be suffering from burnout. Burnout is a form of suffering and I'm here to tell you that you don't have to suffer anymore.
In this episode I discuss:
- Stress vs. burnout; stress is a normal part of life but it's important to manage your stress levels to avoid burnout
- The physical, mental and emotional symptoms of burnout, make sure to check in with yourself to see if you experience any of them
- The 3 most common causes of burnout
- Tips to avoid and overcome burnout
"Sometimes life will kick you around, but sooner or later, you realize you're not just a fighter, you're a warrior, and you're stronger than anything life throws your way." - Brooke Davis
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Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed and exhausted trying to do it all? If so, this episode is for you. Most people struggle with balance because they haven't decided what is really important to them. Balance isn't about doing it all it's about deciiding to focus on what you value most and letting go of the things you don't.
In this episode I discuss:
- Taking care of yourself and pouring into your own cup first because balance is a mindset and a state of being
- Getting clear on your priorities and and setting boundaries to protect your time and energy so that you can devote it to the things that matter most to you
- Setting boundaries within your priorities because even if something is a priority for you it shouldn't be so all consuming that you feel overwhelmed and exhausted
- Setting goals, creating a plan and getting organized so that you can implement a lifestyle that works best for you and makes you feel balanced
I know it can be hard to find balance in life especially when we live in a culture that is go, go, go all the time and promotes a hustle mentality. However, the quality of your life is about finding balance. I hope this episode encourages you to stop hurrying through your life like absolutely everything is urgent and start focusing on what is actually important.
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Have you ever been asked what you're passionate about, what you want out of life or where you see yourself in 5, 10 or 20 years and found your mind completely blank? If you're lacking direction in your life, unsure of what you want or still trying to get clear on your dreams then this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Discovering who you are, who you want to be and tuning into your intuition as an internal compass to give you some direction for your life
- Finding your passion whether it becomes your career, a hobby, a cause you care about or your whole lifestyle
- Asking yourself what your values are, what you want your legacy to be and what's most important to you in life.
Everyone's version of a dream life is different, it is my intention with this episode to help you get clear on what YOUR version is.
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In part two of this two-part mini-series we're talking about the most important relationship in your life and that is the relationship you have with yourself. Lucille Ball once said, "love yourself first, and everything else falls in line." and it's true that life gets a lot better when you stop being your own worst enemy and learn to love, accept and support yourself.
In this episode I discuss:
- Accepting yourself exactly as you are even when you're working to change yourself and accepting that you're not going to be everyone's cup of tea
- Advocating for yourself, communicating your needs and setting boundaries
- Celebrating yourself and learning how to be comfortable in your own company
- Taking care of yourself and never apologizing for who you are
At the end of the day the relationship you have with yourself effects every aspect of your life and if you want to live your best life it starts with you. Don't forget to go back and listen to last week's episode, here, if you missed it!
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Give yourself the love you deserve. I know it can be hard to love yourself, I struggled with self-love for years but I'm finally in a place where I have a healthy relationship with myself. It's a marathon and there's always work to be done but in part one of this series I'm sharing 8 things you can do to start falling in love with yourself again.
In this episode I discuss:
- Surrounding yourself with positive people and being a positive person in others' lives
- Keeping promises to yourself to increase your confidence and pouring into yourself by doing what you love
- Learning to forgive yourself and letting go of comparison
Self-love is a mindset and while these tips are things you can implement into your life today and have helped me immensely on my self-love journey, it's ultimately up to you. You have to decide you're worthy, you're valuable, you are enough exactly as you are.
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Consistency is key to achieving your goals. There will be days you feel unmotivated or uninspired, it's the people who can stay consistent on those days they don't feel like it that will succeed. In today's episode I'm sharing my tips on how you can stay more consistent in working towards your goals.
In this episode:
- Making your goal a priority and saying no to things that don't align with what you're working towards
- Scheduling time in your day to work towards your goal and setting boundaries around that time to protect it
- Doing something every day that will move you towards your goal to build up that consistency muscle, even if you only have 5 minutes
- Focusing on one habit at a time so you don't get overwhelmed and create a lifestyle that reflects your dream life
- Letting go of the all or nothing mentality and being consistent in trying over and over again
It can be hard to be patient and persistent in pursuing your goals, but if you can stay consistent you will achieve your goals and create your dream life.
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"Trauma creates change you didn't choose. Healing is about creating change you do choose." If you've experience trauma, it can be easy to feel like the damage is permanent, and while it can shape who you become, you can choose to grow from it or let it destroy you.
In today's episode I discuss:
- The 4 different kinds of trauma, causes and symptoms
- Deciding that you're ready to heal and taking responsibility and initiative for your healing
- Feeling your feelings and knowing whatever you feel is valid, then moving past those negative feelings
- Practicing self-love and self-care along your healing journey because it will be difficult
- Finding a support system and community you can lean on during your healing journey
Healing is not linear, and it doesn't happen overnight. It can take years to heal, I've been in therapy for 3 years and I still have hard days, but that's okay. I want to encourage you to begin your healing journey because you are worthy of love, and you deserve to be happy. It will be okay.
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Do you find yourself struggling to focus or stay concentrated on tasks? I definitely struggle with shiny object syndrome and have a tendency to bounce from task to task. After implementing these strategies, I find it so much easier to concentrate and have increased my productivity.
In this episode I discuss:
- What causes us to lose focus; such as: distractions, lack of energy, multi-tasking, etc.
- Simple strategies to improve your focus that are backed by science
There are many reasons people may struggle with focus, but it's something you can easily improve with small habits and lifestyle changes.
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Some of us love our alone time, we need it in order to function, others hate the idea of being alone with their thoughts. Whichever side of the fence you fall on I think you can get something out of this episode. Learning to be content on your own and finding enjoyment in solitude is important.
In this episode I discuss:
- The many benefits of taking some time to be alone every now and then
- Signs that you might be in need of some time to yourself
- Communicating boundaries effectively to protect your alone time
- Ideas on what you can do during your alone time to get the most out of it
I am finally at a point in my life where I can create my own happiness on my own, I enjoy my own company and I am not afraid to be alone with my thoughts because I am nice to myself. It's my hope that this episode can help you start to get there too.
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If you need help getting and staying organized, then this episode is for you. in today's episode I'm sharing 5 tips to help you organize not only your home but your life. I don't know about you but if my space is a cluttered mess, so is my mind. The more organized I am the less stressed and overwhelmed I become.
In this episode:
- Finding your organization style at https://clutterbug.me/ because everyone organizes differently
- Decluttering because the less inventory you have to manage the easier it is to keep it organized
- Creating systems around your already formed habits instead of trying to change your habits around systems that don't work for you
- Organizing your time by implementing some sort of scheduling system and physically writing things down for better retention
- Creating an organizing system you enjoy and find aesthetic so you're more motivated to maintain it
I hope you've found these tips helpful and are ready to start creating a beautifully organized space that brings you joy, peace and most of all functionality.
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Simplifying your life will help you overcome overwhelm, stress and frustration. So many of us are frazzled just dealing with the ins and outs of life like maintaining a home while working full time, paying bills and juggling our calendars, while still trying to work towards goals or maintain a semblance of a social life. It can be a lot, so in this episode I'm sharing my tips on how you can simplify your life and have the time and energy to enjoy it again.
In this episode I discuss:
- Decluttering your home so you're not overwhelmed with clutter, limiting options to avoid decision fatigue and staying organized
- Having a sole goal that you're prioritizing while still creating habits that allow you to make progress towards other goals on autopilot
- Living within your means to avoid financial stress, being intentional about what comes into your home and investing in yourself over retail therapy
- Establishing routines or themed days to avoid tasks piling up and getting your weekends back
I have loved every second of living a simpler life. Things like getting dressed in the morning or maintaining my home have become simple and easy and now I how so much more time and energy to have fun, try new hobbies, relax and actually enjoy life.
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Having a why behind your goals and your dreams is so important. Your why is essentially the reason your passionate about achieving a certain goal. It's the thing that's going to keep you motivated and inspired on those hard days and the thing that makes achieving those goals so fulfilling.
In this episode I discuss:
- Discovering your specific why behind your goals, identifying your priorities and finding a reason bigger than yourself to keep going
- Keeping your why in mind while pursuing your goals to help you avoid falling into the trap of comparison
- Having a big why and a selfish why because it's okay to want things for the sole reason of it would make you happy
Every single one of my goals has a why behind it that aligns with my priorities and inspires me to never give up on my dreams. So ask yourself, what's your why?
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Journal practices have been scientifically proven to have both mental and physical health benefits. Implementing just one of these journal practices can change your life, they've definitely changed mine. My therapist got me into journaling years ago when I started seeing her and it has helped my mental health so much.
In this episode I discuss:
- Starting with a guided journal if you're not sure what to write about or need help figuring out which journal practice is right for you
- Using journaling for your mental health by having a brain dump journal you can process your thoughts in or use to vent or a gratitude journal to counteract stress
- Utilizing a goals journal to help you stay focused and inspired to pursue creating your dream life
- Writing down your prayers in a journal to help you grow in your faith and have a record of answered prayers and blessings
Find the journal practice that works for you. You don't have to write pages on pages if that's not write for you, it could take as little as 5 minutes a day to change your mindset and change your life.
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Everyone wants to live their dream life, but how do you get there? Well in this episode I'm going to share exactly how I was able to create a life I love! Now this was not a quick, easy or painless process but I'm here to tell you it was so worth it, and it is possible. I have been to rock bottom and felt like there was no way out, that I was just going to be miserable forever, but I was able to pick myself up, dust myself off and fall in love with my life again and here's how you can too.
In this episode I discuss:
- Getting clear on your goals and creating a plan to achieve them while also staying open to new opportunities
- Being messy and complicated and showing up anyway as the best version of yourself
- Cultivating a growth mindset and getting out of your own way
I am so grateful I get to wake up everyday to a life I genuinely love. That's not to say there aren't hard moments or challenges and I am by no means stopping here but I am so in love with this journey I am on.
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This year I turned 25 and as I reflect back on my life, I am so proud of how far I've come. From struggling with depression, anxiety, addiction, being in a toxic relationship and workplace to landing my dream job, starting a business, and taking charge of my mental health and creating my dream life. In today's episode I'm sharing some life lessons I've learned along the way. I hope this advice helps you along your personal development journey. This is part two of a two-part mini-series so make sure to check out last week's episode too.
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I've made it another lap around the sun. It's been a wild amazing ride and I've learned and grown a lot. In today's episode I'm sharing some life lessons I've learned along the way in hopes it will help or inspire you along your journey.
This is part one in a two-episode mini-series so make sure to tune in next week for even more!
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I know with inflation rates being at a 40-year high everyone is feeling the effects. That's why I wanted to share some financial tips with you to help you navigate the rising costs of, well, everything. Disclaimer: I am not an accountant or financial advisor these are tips that have been given to me and that I have implemented in my own life to save money.
In this episode I discuss:
- Utilizing rewards programs to get the most bang for your buck and reap benefits on money you're already spending
- Cutting back where you can on spending so you can continue to pay yourself first, create an emergency fund and ultimately reach your long-term financial goals
- Getting scrappy and creating additional income for yourself in any way you can.
I know how stressful finances can be, believe me I've been there. I hope you find these tips helpful in navigating this financial crisis we're in right now. Check out the resources below for more.
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Boundaries are important to have in place to protect your time and energy. We all have a tendency to try and be everything to everyone or push ourselves to the point of overwhelm, which is exactly where boundaries come into play.
In this episode I discuss:
- The key to having healthy boundaries is an open and honest line of communication and mutual respect
- The three types of boundaries: no boundaries, rigid boundaries and clear boundaries
- Enforcing your own boundaries without being selfish and respecting other people's boundaries
You have got to take responsibility for meeting your own needs and taking care of yourself. Boundaries are a tool to help you do that and, in this episode, I share exactly how you can do that in a healthy way.
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Grit is an individual's perseverance of effort combined with the passion for a particular long-term goal or end state. Grace is the free and unmerited favor of God. So how can we navigate life with determination and still lean on our faith.
In this episode I discuss:
- Giving yourself the same grace God shows us when grit isn't enough. Let go of the all or nothing mindset and give yourself same grace when you stumble.
- Having grit in your pursuit of spiritual growth. If you want to deepen your faith it will take grit. Whether that's having the determination to turn off the tv and read your Bible or wake up in time for church.
- When you have no grit left to give there is grace. In those really hard seasons of life whether you're dealing with depression, loss, addiction, etc. when you have nothing left to give know there is God's grace to get you through.
Having grit is an important characteristic because it can get you far, but it is my hope that you never lose sight of your faith and remember where your blessings come from. You cannot grit your way to grace. You don't have to earn it and you can never lose it and that is what makes it so amazing.
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We all wish we had more hours in the day to get more done, but we can make the most of the time we do have by using it wisely. In today's episode I am sharing 6 habits of productive people so you can stop spending your weekends playing catch up and be more productive, so you have time to actually enjoy your life.
In this episode I discuss:
- Creating schedules and routines and prioritizing tasks so you can focus 80% of your energy on the 20% of tasks that get you 80% of the results you want
- Practicing the 10/30 rule, not procrastinating and inventorying your time to eliminate wasted time
- Setting boundaries and saying no to things you don't have the time or energy for or are not a priority for you
If you need help staying on top of day-to-day tasks implementing these habits will boost your productivity, keeps tasks from piling up and give you more time to do the things you actually enjoy.
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I firmly believe that everyone, absolutely everyone, can benefit from therapy. It has completely turned my mental and emotional health around. It has helped me navigate my parents divorce, a toxic relationship, addiction, anxiety, depression, loss and so much more.
Therapy has truly saved my life. I want to encourage you to look into seeing a mental health professional whether that's a family councilor, therapist or psychiatrist find a mental health professional that works for you.
I know it can be scary getting help, I had a lot of preconceived notions going into it too but I promise you will never regret investing in your mental health. There are tons of online resources if there aren't providers in your area and many insurances cover mental health care so make sure and talk to your health care provider about your options.
I cannot recommend therapy enough, I hope my story inspires you to take care of your mental health, you deserve it.
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Do you feel like there's just not enough hours in the day to get everything done? If so, it may be because you're not managing your time wisely, this episode is full of tips to help you honor your energy, prioritize tasks and eliminate procrastination so you can manage your time better and have productive days.
In this episode I discuss:
- Utilizing a block schedule to help you group high energy tasks and plan them during the time of day you have the most energy as well as setting boundaries around your time
- Using the Eisenhower matrix to prioritize tasks so that you can actually see the needle moving towards your goals and waste less time on the things that don't really matter
- Implementing a rewards system and eliminating multi-tasking to help you stay focused and stop procrastinating
If you're ready to start seeing real progress towards your goals and be more productive it is so important to manage your time wisely. I hope you find the 7 tips in this episode helpful! You can shop my Daily Planning Notepad I mention in this episode here!
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If you're on Tik Tok I'm sure you've seen the trend going around bout becoming "that girl". You know, the girl with the perfect glowing skincare routine, that wakes up at 5 am to go on hot girl walks, reads personal development books, and eats smoothie bowls and avocado toast. She leads a lifestyle that embodies self-love, self-care and self-improvement.
In this episode I discuss:
- Developing routines and habits to help you up-level your life and show up as the best version of yourself
- Norishing your body not as part of a diet but as a lifestyle of wanting to care for your body because you love yourself and want what's best for you
- Incorporating intuitive movement into your life for both mental and physical health benefits
Becoming "that girl" is all about showing up as the best version of yourself so you can create a life you love. It's about striving to become 1% better every day and living a life full of self-love, self-care and self-improvement. It looks different for everyone so find what works for you and start living your best life.
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Do you struggle with guilt? I don't know about you but I struggle with feeling guilty for several things like saying no, taking a break, being 'too emotional' etc. if you can relate to that then this episode is for you. In today's episode I talk about the 7 things you should never ever feel guilty for.
In this episode I discuss:
- Learning to set boundaries to protect your time and energy and say no
- Not feeling guilty for asking for help or for you needs to be met
- Not apologizing or feeling guilty for feeling your feelings and so much more
You don't have to feel guilty for saying no, communicating your needs, taking a mental health day, eating whatever the heck you want, feeling your feelings, the trajectory of your life, or being a work in progress. You're doing great, so let go of the guilt and live your life!
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Everyone's faith journey looks different, and it is a very personal relationship, but I wanted to share with you my faith journey and some of the lessons I have learned along the way in hopes that these can help you along your own faith journey.
In this episode I discuss:
- My turning point in my faith journey and the moment that solidified my faith
- Surrounding yourself with a Christian community and getting involved in your church home
- Discovering how you connect with God and learning how to use your spiritual gift to advance the Kingdom of God
Wherever you're at in your faith journey I think you'll get something out of this episode. Let me know if you enjoyed this episode and want to hear more personal stories by leaving a review or messaging me on Instagram.
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Balance isn't this magical destination you just arrive at, it's something you can create in your life. Balance is a mindset. If you've been feeling overwhelmed or like you're constantly hustling and in need of creating balance in your life then this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Defining what enough looks like for you and overcoming comparison
- Setting boundaries to protect your time and energy
- Implementing self love, self care and self improvement into your everyday life
If you're ready to start achieving goals without sacrificing your health and happiness, you're in the right place. I highly recommend checking out my episode on Growth Goals: the 5 Things You Should Do Daily, which you can listen to here.
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Do you have big goals but absolutely no clue how you're going to get there? If so, this episode is for you. Today I'm discussing how to get started on achieving your biggest goals when you have no clue what you're doing.
In this episode I discuss:
- Getting scrappy and trusting that if you take the leap the net will appear
- Giving yourself grace when you're new at something and embracing the suck when you're a beginner
- Investing in your goals by hiring help or outsourcing
Remember, you don't have to have it all figured out you just have to take the next right step. Stop waiting to go after your goals when you have it all figured out, be brave and bold, get scrappy, ask for help and start today!
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Meditation has so many benefits. It is an excellent tool to deal with stress and anxiety, meditation is something I've been practicing more and more lately and have seen such a positive result in my mental health. If it's something you've been considering trying then this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- All the benefits or meditation like, increased focus, reducing blood pressure, and regulating emotions
- How meditation has improved my faith by using meditation to listen to God and make prayer a two-way conversation
- 10 minute guided meditation
Getting into meditation can be difficult because intrusive thoughts may pop up. I highly recommend getting a journal and writing down anything that comes up for you. Keep practicing it gets easier, it's a mental toughness practice so just keep at it. Namaste friends.
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Have you been in a funk lately? Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut or maybe you've just fallen off your routine lately? Or perhaps you're just looking for a fresh start and need to get remotivated or inspired? If so, this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- Decluttering and tidying your space because when your space is cluttered your mind is cluttered
- Moving your body, because movement equals momentum and fueling your body well so you can feel your best and show up as your best self
- Getting realigned with your vision for your life and how to get reinspired and excited about life again
If you always do the same things then you will always get the same results, identify what isn't working for you and create habits and routines that feel good for you and help you get the results you're looking for.
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Start romanticizing your life! Enjoy those small moments, make your routines feel special, do things that make you feel good. Start showing up as the main character in your own life.
In this episode I discuss:
- Embracing your creativity and curiosity
- Finding your aesthetic and creating good vibes in your day to day life
- Getting organized and minimizing stress
You deserve to have a beautiful life and while those bog moments are great when they happen, learn to find joy and beauty in the small moments too and start living a life you love.
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I have been on a journey to be more intentional and mindful about the items I bring into my home. I want to make sure that everything I own I either truly love or it serves a purpose because clutter causes me so much stress and anxiety. I have noticed a huge change in my mental health simply by decluttering my space. If you constantly find yourself overwhelmed by you home being a mess and cluttered then this episode is for you.
In this episode I am sharing:
- The 5 categories of items to evaluate when you're decluttering
- The benefits decluttering can have on making your home cleaner and less stressful
- The mental health benefits that come with decluttering
I used to be that girl that held onto everything 'just in case' or for 'someday' and I come from a long line of people who did the same thing. But I have learned that when my space is cluttered my mind is cluttered. Give yourself permission to let go.
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Your relationship with yourself is one of the most important, if not the most important relationship, in your life; but unfortunately, the relationship we have with ourselves is a toxic one. If you struggle with self-doubt, lack of confidence, negative self-talk, find yourself in a toxic job or relationship or have toxic habits, then this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- How learning to love myself forced me to raise my standards and leave behind toxic relationship, situations and habits
- The empathy I gained for others struggling with their self-love while also enforcing boundaries and refusing to accept less than I deserve
- Actionable steps you can take to start improving your self-love
If you take away anything from this episode I hope it's that you are capable, valuable, accepted, understood, worthy, heard, seen and loved. I hope you find this helpful along your self-love journey because you deserve to be happy.
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I'm sure we've all been there whether it's going through a breakup with your boyfriend/girlfriend or a friendship break up it can be heartbreaking. If you're going through a heartbreak, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my 5 tips to help you heal from a heartbreak. I even used these 5 tips to help me heal from my parents break up when they were going through a divorce.
In this episode I discuss:
- How taking ownership of your role in the relationship can help you heal
- Giving yourself time and space to feel your feelings and mourn the loss of the relationship
- Coping mechanism to help you get through those dark times
If you've ever been heartbroken, you're not alone, believe me, I've been there. I hope you find these tips helpful, and I hope you know that it does get better. Hang in there, keep your head up and know you're not alone.
One year ago, I walked away from an extremely toxic, four-year-long relationship and it was one of the hardest and best decisions I have ever made. While walking away from a long-term relationship that I had poured so much time and energy into was difficult the second it was over I felt so free, like this weight had been lifted off of me and my anxiety just vanished.
In this episode I discuss:
- Learning to love myself and realizing that I deserved more
- My self-improvement and self-love journey over the last year and becoming more independent
- Raising my standards and knowing what I want in life
I have grown so much over the last year and as I look back on my relationship, I wonder how I could have ever put up with such awful treatment, but we accept the love we think we deserve. I hope you know that you deserve to feel loved, respected and safe in your relationships and there is someone out there for you that will trat you right.
If you find yourself in an abusive relationship and are in need of assistance, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233
In 2018 I hit rock bottom. I was stuck in a job I hated, living in a house and town that didn't feel like home, far away from any friends an family. involved in a toxic relationship, dealing with anxiety and depression, smoked a pack a day and felt alone and miserable. So if you have found that you've hit rock bottom, believe me girl, I've been there.
In this episode I discuss the 3 steps to start pulling yourself out of that dark place:
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Evaluate: Ask yourself "How did I get here?" "What went wrong?" What role did I play in getting myself here?" "What am I willing to do to change my circumstances?"
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Assess: Figure out what you want your life to look like, set some goals and then figure out what steps you can take today, what you can start implementing right now, to show up as your best self and start changing your life. Get crystal clear on what you want and who you want to be.
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Take Action: Now that you know what you want start cutting away everything in your life that doesn't align with your vision because that is the stuff that's weighing you down and keeping you stuck where you're at. Once you drop that your growth will skyrocket.
Wherever you are in life these steps can help you get to where you want to go, but it won't be easy, in fact it'll be really hard, just know you're not alone and everything you want is possible. You already have the power to achieve your goals, now go get them.
So many people have recommended reading Atomic Habits by James Clear and after reading it I understand why everyone from fitness influencers, minimalist youtubers and self-help podcasters have raved about this book. I got so many golden nuggets and great take aways from this book and in this episode I'm sharing 10, which only scratches the surface of what this book has to offer so I highly recommend reading it for yourself.
I'm not exaggerating when I say that this book is life changing. It is chocked full of actionable steps, mindset shifts and excellent analogies that I have found super helpful in learning and implementing the methods discussed in this book. Many things talked about in this book are tactics I used to quit smoking and implement healthy habits into my life but James Clear does a beautiful job or wording and explaining these tactics in simple actionable, attainable and easy to implement steps.
You can purchase Atomic Habits online or at your local book retailer or listen to the audio book, you won't regret it!
If you haven't already go listen to last weeks episode 5 Steps To Plan A Productive Day, one of the steps was choosing your top 3 tasks and in today's episode I dive a bit deeper into exactly how to choose the right tasks for you. I know only doing 3 tasks a day may not seem like a productive day, but I assure you if you choose the right 3 tasks you'll be amazed at the leaps and bounds you can make towards your goals by just doing 3 things a day.
In this episode I discuss:
- Questions to ask yourself when choosing your top 3 tasks
- Aligning your tasks with your biggest goals
- Honoring your energy while pursuing your dreams
I have found that when you choose the right 3 tasks to do each day, taking those 3 baby steps towards your goal every single day will get you there much faster than trying to do it overnight and burning yourself out. It is my hope that you honor your energy, take aligned action and boldly pursue your biggest dreams without sacrificing your health and happiness.
Do you find yourself super busy all day long only at the end of the day to feel like you didn't actually make any progress towards your goals? It's time to stop spinning your wheels and just surviving when you could be thriving! In today's episode I am going to walk you through the exact system I use every single day so you can start making progress towards your goals.
In this episode I discuss:
- Aligning your daily tasks with your biggest goals so you move the needle towards actually achieving it every single day
- Incorporating self-love, self-care, and self-improvement into each day so you can show up as your best self
- The two ways you can utilize the block scheduling system to utilize your time wisely
I specifically designed my daily planning notepad with all of these steps built into it to make it super easy for you to plan productive days. You can shop my notepad at www.ashleighnicolle.com/shop
I also highly recommend checking out the Start Today journal it's a great resource, you can get that here, or at your local Target.
In today's episode I'm sharing the exact framework I walk through every Saturday to plan for a productive week. If you find yourself overwhelmed every week because you don't have a plan and you're just trying to figure it out as you go, or you feel as though you're spinning your wheels being busy all the time but never actually making progress towards your goals or making time for the things that matter most to you, then this episode is for you.
In this episode I discuss:
- organizing, prioritizing and scheduling your tasks each week
- identifying common disruptions and creating systems to minimize distractions
- becoming self-aware of how you procrastinate and eliminating temptation
Let's start the second week of 2022 off right, with a plan to make real progress towards our goals, make time for the things that are most important to us, use our time wisely and show up as the best version of ourselves.
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It's the first week of 2022 so it's the perfect time to hit the ground running on your 2022 goals. I know New Year's resolutions can be intimidating because most people don't stick with them, but in this episode I'm going to teach you how you can turn your resolutions into a lifestyle and start living your dream life.
In this episode I discuss:
- The two reasons most people don't stick with their resolutions and how to overcome that
- The exact steps to help you implement and actually achieve the goals you set out to meet
- Bonus: I'm sharing my intentions for 2022
If you're ready to make 2022 your best year yet, get crystal clear on your goals, develop a plan to achieve them, set yourself up for success and create the habits and routines to propel you forward on autopilot, then this episode is for you. Because you deserve to live a life you love without sacrificing your health and happiness. Let's show up as the best version of ourselves and start making our dreams happen.
It's the first week of 2022 so it's the perfect time to hit the ground running on your 2022 goals. I know New Year's resolutions can be intimidating because most people don't stick with them, but in this episode I'm going to teach you how you can turn your resolutions into a lifestyle and start living your dream life.
In this episode I discuss:
- The two reasons most people don't stick with their resolutions and how to overcome that
- The exact steps to help you implement and actually achieve the goals you set out to meet
- Bonus: I'm sharing my intentions for 2022
If you're ready to make 2022 your best year yet, get crystal clear on your goals, develop a plan to achieve them, set yourself up for success and create the habits and routines to propel you forward on autopilot, then this episode is for you. Because you deserve to live a life you love without sacrificing your health and happiness. Let's show up as the best version of ourselves and start making our dreams happen.
Now that the holiday season is over we heading full steam ahead into the new year. I don't know about you but I always love hearing what other people's goals are so I figured I would share mine with you.
In this episode I'm recapping some goals I was able to accomplish in 2021 and my 22 goals for 2022. I set goals for everything from business goals, personal goals, financial goals, home renovation goals and just some fun goals that I'm excited to pursue in the upcoming year.
I want to challenge you to come up with 22 things to achieve in 2022, they can be big or small goals, it can be a new habit you want to create or just a one time thing you want to try. Whatever your goals, share them in a post on Instagram and don't forget to tag me, @ashleighnicolle_ so I can cheer you on!
I love creating a vision board every year. There's something about being able to see the life of your dreams in pictures that makes it feel so real. I love looking at my vision board whenever I need motivation, inspiration or just a reminder as what I'm working towards. In today's episode I'm going to be sharing my process for how I create an inspiring vision board, so we can start off 2022 right.
In this episode I discuss:
- How to prepare for the process of creating a vision board
- Questions to ask yourself when making a vision board
- Ideas for what to include or leave off of your board
If you create a vision board using this method make sure and share a picture of it on Instagram and don't forget to tag me @ashleighnicolle_ I would love to see what your vision for 2022 is.
It's so easy to look around at what everyone else is doing and feel like you're behind or you should be doing more. But is that really what you want? It's so important to make sure your goals align with your personal values and priorities, in this episode I'm going to teach you exactly how to do that.
In today's episode I discuss:
- Identifying the areas of your life you want to focus on
- Figuring out your why
- Heart-centered vs. ego-centered goals
In 2022, my goal is to help you set the right goals for you! If you want to be in alignment, make time for the things that matter to you and pour into your highest priorities then this episode is for you!
Planning your entire year in advance can sound daunting, but I love doing this because it allows me to make sure I schedule time for the things that are important to me, hit the milestones that will push me towards my goals, and design my best year ever!
In this episode I discuss:
- Mapping out yearly, quarterly, monthly and weekly tasks an entire year in advance
- How you can plan for things without knowing exactly what this year holds
- Protecting your time, setting boundaries and keeping promises you've made to yourself
If you haven't already make sure you go listen to last weeks episode, The 5 Types of Goals, to help you identify your priorities if you're unsure, set goals and create milestones you can include in your calendar, and develop a plan to keep you on track all year long. Remember, our schedule is a tool, not a hard and fast rule. Life will thro you curve balls and it's okay if you have to move things around but planning your year in advance is a great way to manifest your dream year, stick to you goal-getting plan, and make time for the things that matter most to you.
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There are only 32 days left in 2021, are you ready to take on 2022 and make this the best year yet? Start setting your goals for the New Year now, so you can hit the ground running come January 1 and achieve your biggest goals.
In this episode I discuss:
- The 5 types of goals and how to set them
- Finding your why behind your goals
- Developing a plan to actually achieve your goals
If you haven't already go download my completely FREE Goal Setting Guide, it walks you through the 5 types of goals and includes exercises for each type to help you set these goals and develop a plan to achieve them. If you're ready to go after your biggest goals, develop a growth mindset and create the habits that will propel you towards your goals on autopilot, you need this guide.
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Thanksgiving is this week and I am so excited. I love Thanksgiving because it's a whole holiday dedicated to being thankful for what we have and just spending time with the people we love. I think Thanksgiving is vastly underrated. So many of us, yes even me, want to skip straight to Christmas. However, Christmas has become a holiday about consumerism and getting and I think Thanksgiving is a wonderful time to adjust you heart posture and go into the Christmas season with an attitude of gratitude and make this holiday a true season of giving rather than receiving.
In this episode:
- Scientifically proven benefits of a gratitude practice
- The three types of gratitude
- Finding something to be grateful for in the hard times
I truly believe practicing gratitude every single day can completely change your mindset and if you change your mindset you can change your life.
The holidays are the season of giving, yet so often we get caught up in the consumerism and capitalism that surrounds the holiday season. This year I want to encourage you to remember the true reason for the season and give to those who are in need. It feels even better to give than it does to receive so while you're out doing your holiday shopping maybe pick something up for someone in need.
In this episode we discuss:
- Where you can donate various things
- Ideas on what you can donate you may not have thought of
- Having a heart for giving in the midst of the holiday stress
I hope this episode inspires you to clean out your house and donate things that you're not even using anymore that can be life changing to someone in need or maybe pick up some extra cans of food while you're at the grocery store preparing for Thanksgiving dinner. Whatever your financial situation I promise you have something to give that will mean so much to someone. So get out there and make this season actually about giving.
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I never want to give you the impression that I have it all figured out or I no longer struggle or make mistakes. I slip up, I make mistakes, I do things that don't align with what I want and take two steps back on my personal development journey. I want to share this with you because I want you to know that I see you, I've been there and it is okay.
In this episode I discuss:
- Mistakes I've made recently
- Giving yourself grace and letting go of guilt
- How to move forward
I am choosing to let go of my mistakes. To learn from them and move on. You can choose to either give up because you messed up or you can give yourself grace, learn from your mistakes and create a plan to do better in the future. Believe me I have wanted to throw in the towel multiple times because I screwed up so what's the point of trying again? I wanted to share this episode with you because I want you to know you're not alone and we can still choose to change our life, even though we've made mistakes.
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Everyone needs a budget, if for no other reason than to make sure your spending is in alignment with your priorities. Show me where your money is going and I can show you what's your values are. If you're looking to save more, get out of debt or just wonder where the heck all your money has gone then this episode is for you.
In this episode:
- Tracking your spending
- Living within your means
- Spending in alignment
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Are you showing up as the best version of yourself for your life? If not, maybe you've been feeling like you're ready to turn your life around and reinvent yourself. In 2018 I hit rock bottom and I decided I deserved better and it was up to me to have higher standards for myself and start showing up as the person I want to be.
In this episode I discuss:
- Creating goals that align with your vision
- Changing your mindset so you can change your life
- Showing up as the best version of you every day
I used to be depressed, addicted to cigarettes, full of anger and resentment, financially irresponsible, someone that gave up on my goals and quite honestly just a mess. I am not that person anymore, I have reinvented myself and while it was a long process I am proud of the person I am today and the person I am still becoming. I have turned my life around and you can too.
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Have you ever had a G.Y.S.T. day? This is essentially a day that you set aside to tackle a lot of tasks. I like to use a G.Y.S.T day to prepare for things like vacation or moving or even if I'm just in a funk and I need a bit of a resent.
In this episode I discuss:
- how to plan an effective G.Y.S.T. day
- simplifying your schedule for maximum productivity
- habits and routines that will help you G.Y.S.T.
I normally don't encourage trying to tackle a massive to-do list in a day, I typically preach picking 3 important tasks and that's it, but every once in a while you just need a day to tackle everything that's been piling up, this episode is going to teach you how to do that in the best way possible.
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Do we need to have goals? What if we just coasted through life? If you don't have goals I want you to look at yourself and your life right now. Would you be happy if in 5 years you were the exact same person you are right now, you lived in the same house, were at the same job, made the same amount of money, had the same relationships, etc.?
I don't know about you, but I still have work to do. I am constantly working to become a little bit better version of myself so that I can lead a life where I make an impact and leave a legacy.
In this episode I discuss
- the importance of personal development
- creating your standard of living
- goals everyone should have
In a world that tells us to hustle and get as much done as possible in a day and be constantly productive it can be hard to take the time to slow down, be present in the moment and live intentionally. In this episode, I share 5 tips on how you can practice the art of slow living while still making progress towards your goals.
In this episode I discuss:
- multi-tasking
- taking time to stop and smell the roses
- having an intentional to-do list
I talk a lot about productivity and achieving big goals but if we're in such a rush we don't take the time to enjoy the journey or the little things in life that make it all worth living.
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We are heading into the final quarter of 2021, if you aren't quite where you thought you'd be right now or maybe you're just looking to finish out this year strong, this episode is for you. In today's episode I walk you through exactly how I plan for a new quarter so that you can make the most of these next 90 days.
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It's that time of the year where things are going around. Whether it's seasonal allergies, sinus infections, the flu or the common cold these tips will help you while you heal. Now these are not new habits for me, these are simply my every day habits that I have found benefit my health when I'm healthy or healing. If you're looking to implement daily habits that will benefit your health then this episode is for you!
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Start living in alignment with the vision you have for yourself. I get it, it's hard to not give into peer pressure, or not want to keep up with the Jones' or to give up what you want now for what you want later. No one said personal development was always easy, it requires discipline. But I promise you'll find happiness, peace and fulfillment when you only say yes to things that align with how you want to feel, what you want to do and who you want to show up as.
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For the entire month of August I didn't go to the grocery store AT ALL! I was able to save $300 simply by shopping the food I already had in my pantry, fridge and freezer. I was amazed at the delicious meals I was able to create using only things I already had. I am someone who likes to build up a bit of back stock because if 2020 has taught us anything it's that the world in unpredictable. If you want to start stocking up, save money on groceries and try shelf cooking yourself, this episode is for you.
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Personal development is a journey. It's making mistakes and learning from them. I have definitely made mistakes along my personal growth journey and I wanted to share with you what I've learned from them and help you avoid making the same ones. Personal development isn't a straight line, life throws curves but it is my hope that these tips make the journey to becoming your best self and leading your dream life a little smoother.
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We've all been there, staring at a mile long to do list unsure of where to start so we just don't. We procrastinate and put things off until they pile up and create so much stress and overwhelm in our lives. In today's episode I'm going to be sharing 6 actionable tips you can implement today to help you stop procrastinating and get to work on the tasks that actually matter so you can start making progress towards your biggest goals.
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Lately I've been talking a lot about the importance of resting, but at what point does "resting" turn into procrastinating. In today's episode we discuss the line between relaxing and avoiding. I don't think we procrastinate on our goals because we're lazy I think it's because we're avoiding a particular feeling; whether it's: fear of failure, fear or rejection, perfectionism, etc. Getting to the root of why you don't want to do something can help you identify whether you're actually procrastinating or genuinely tired and in need of rest.
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Lately I have been feeling incredibly overwhelmed and exhausted but I still put all this pressure on myself to stay productive. While I love sharing productivity tips I also know how important it is to prioritize rest, something I haven't been doing lately and my body finally forced me to slow down. If you're in a place where you feel like you've just been going, going, going, this episode is for you. I'm sharing my tips on how I'm slowing down and resting so I can protect my energy and take care of myself.
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This year is flying by! Are you looking to take advantage of this new month to realign with your vision and develop a plan to implement intentional habits and routines? If so this episode is for you. In today's episode I share my three step process on how to start this month off on the right foot.
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In today's episode we're talking about the five foundational things you need to live a happy life! We are all in charge of our own happiness and can create it for ourselves. By pouring into these five areas of your life you will find fulfillment, purpose, peace and, of course, happiness.
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Manifestation has been becoming increasingly popular lately, but there are a lot of misconceptions about it out there, especially by the Christian community. In this episode I talk about some of the common misconceptions Christians tend to have about manifestation and how to practice manifestation in conjunction with your faith.
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Do you find yourself feeling anxious about the future? Are you worried that you'll make a mistake and find yourself hitting rock bottom so you play it safe and never go after those big goals you constantly daydream about? Or do you find yourself lying awake at night replaying your worst moments over and over again reliving that scenario where you were hurt or embarrassed or uncomfortable? If anxiety and negative thoughts haunt you then this episode is for you!
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2021 is already halfway over, as you look back on the last 6 months reflect on your goals, the progress you've made and what you've been prioritizing. If you haven't made as much progress towards your goals as you would have liked in the first half of this year I've got good news; there's still 6 months left of 2021 to make some major progress towards those goals you want to achieve. Don't give up! In today's episode I'm sharing my 5 tips to help you get motivated, and stay motivated, so that you can make this next half of the year the best yet and start achieving everything you've dreamed of.
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Do these 5 things every single day to show up as the best version of yourself, feel great, achieve your goals, and build the life you've always dreamed of. If you start doing these 5 things every single day you will radically change your life. I have used these 5 daily habits to quit an addiction, improve my physical health, start a business, and overcome anxiety. If you're ready to change your life, implement these today.
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This week I turned 24 years old and as I reflect on my life I am so proud of how far I've come. I overcame an addiction, battled anxiety and depression, left a toxic workplace and relationship, improved my relationships and started a business. I still have so much growing to do but I wanted to share with you some of the valuable lessons I learned that have gotten me this far.
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This week I turn 24 and as I reflect on my life I wanted to share with you some valuable lessons I have learned that have truly changed my life. I can't believe just a few short years ago I struggled with addiction, anxiety and depression. I held onto anger and resentment, I was in a toxic relationship and an even more toxic work environment. Personal growth is a marathon and I know there's always work to be done but I hope that I can share some insight, advice and encouragement from my past experiences in order to help you on your journey.
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This is for all my multi-passionate people out there. The ones who have so many things they want to accomplished that they feel overwhelmed and have no clue where to start. If that sounds like you then you're going to want to tune into this episode. Today we're discussing the three schools of thought when it comes to deciding which of your goals to pursue first.
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Wanna set yourself up for success this week? Then do these 5 things this weekend to prepare yourself to have the best, most productive week ever. Implementing habits and routines is hard, especially on a Monday, so why not take this weekend to set yourself up for success to start this week off right.
In this episode I discuss
- making healthy choices easy
- aligning your weekly plan with your priorities
- developing a game plan to be productive
Everyone loves the weekend, but what if you could look forward to every day of the week. By implementing these habits on the weekend you can set yourself up for success every day of the week, be productive, make progress towards your goals and feel good that your plan aligns with the vision you have for your life.
If you want to change your life it starts with changing your mindset. By changing your mindset you allow yourself to see things through a completely new perspective, completely change your belief system, and combat negative thoughts and change your self talk. This will allow you to show up as the best version of yourself for yourself and achieve your biggest goals. It all starts with mindset
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Do you often find yourself caring so much about the opinions of others that you sacrifice your own wants and needs just so they'll approve? If you've ever struggled with comparison, self doubt or need of approval then this episode is for you. I hope you find these five tips helpful so you can let go of the weight of others opinions and give yourself permission to live the life you've always wanted; regardless of what anyone else thinks.
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Success begins from within. It starts in your own mind, by changing the way you think you can completely change your life. If you want to be successful in whatever goal you're pursing your mindset is so important. Whether you want to go to school, apply for a new career, start a business, move to a new place; whatever your goal, working on your mindset is a great way to set yourself up for success.
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Do you have a big audacious dream but feel like your friends and family just don't get it? Are people constantly telling you how difficult it will be or how few people make it? If so this episode is for you. I am sharing my tips for how to boldly pursue your dreams no matter what others may think or say.
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Everyone has a difficult person in their life whether it's a family member, co-worker, or even friend we all find some people just hard to be around sometimes. In this episode I share my 5 tips on how you can handle the difficult people in your life so that you can maintain your own personal peace and sanity while on your personal growth journey.
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Did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed? Is everyone getting on your nerves or are you just feeling frustrated with everything? Are you feeling like you're in a funk or moody lately? These tips are for you! Doing just ones of these 5 things can make you feel instantly better, I try to do at least one of these things every single day because we deserve to feel happy and uplifted and it's up to you to incorporate things you enjoy into your day! Try these out and I promise you'll immediately feel so much better.
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Self care is super important but it's so much more than face masks and bubble baths. There are 4 different types of self care: physical, mental, spiritual and emotional. In order to truly take care of yourself it's important to get to the root of what you really need in each of these areas. Caring for yourself isn't always easy it requires being honest with yourself, doing the work and showing up as the best version of yourself for yourself.
Is it possible to both love yourself and want to change? In this episode I tell you how you can improve yourself from a place of love and even use self improvement to help you love yourself more. It is my hope that you love yourself exactly as you are but you pursue self improvement for the purpose of being able to build the life of your dreams because you are so capable of achieving anything you want and you deserve a life you absolutely love.
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If you are tired of wishing your life looked different then this episode is for you, it's time to take responsibility and take action in order to create a life that you love. Only you have the power to change your life and these 6 simple tips will help you to start creating the life you've dreamed of today.
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Do you struggle with confidence? If so, then this episode is for you. Self confidence isn't something that's easy to come by in a world that constantly tells you to be thinner, taller, smarter, faster and richer. Believe me, I know what it's like to fell like you're not enough but belief in yourself comes from within. In this episode I share my 5 best tips to help you become your own biggest cheer leader and build up your confidence in yourself so that you can stop hiding or playing small and boldly go after those big goals.
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Do you struggle with always giving into your temptation or cravings? Are you working towards a big goal but have no motivation to actually make progress? If yes, then this episode is for you.
Motivation is fleeting, but self discipline is what will keep you on track to achieving your goals. Becoming more self disciplined is something that takes practice but once you can discipline yourself enough to move the needle towards your goals no matter how much motivation you have you will make leaps and bounds towards achieving everything you've ever wanted.
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Do you feel overwhelmed by your mile long to do list? Do you feel like you're super busy but never actually make any progress towards your goals? Then this episode is for you, if you haven't already go listen to last weeks episodes for part on of this two part series. In this episode I'm sharing four tips to help you ditch overwhelm and feel more accomplished by getting clear on your tasks, staying focused and using your time wisely. For my FREE Goal Setting Guide head to ashleighnicolle.com/goalsettingguide
Do you feel like you're running around all day but never actually making any progress towards our goals? Are you overwhelmed with you mile long to do list? Then this episode is for you, in part one of this two part mini series I share four of my tips to help you get organized, manage your time wisely and stay focused so that you can get more done and start making strides towards achieving your biggest goals.
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Do you constantly feel exhausted, burnt out and unmotivated? If so, this episode is for you. I'm discussing 9 things that can be draining your energy without you even realizing it. Once you stop doing these things you'll be amazed at how much better you feel and what all you can accomplish.
In this episode I discuss setting boundaries to protect your energy, prioritizing tasks, implementing better habits and routines
Our energy is one of the most valuable resources we have and yet people wear being tired like a badge of honor, but it doesn't have to be this way.
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I was a smoker for 7 years! I finally decided that it was time I quit December of 2020 and I haven't looked back sense. This was not an easy process. I always told myself that I could quit whenever I wanted but that was a lie, I had an addiction. If you struggle with an addiction or even just a bad habit you can't seem to break then this episode is for you.
In this episode I talk about
- finding your why
- curbing cravings
- finding healthier habits
If you or someone you love struggles with serious addiction I urge you to get help. Addiction is not easy to overcome and if you feel you cannot do it on your own please seek help.
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Do you feel like you've been in a rut lately? Are you longing for some change in your life or just to get out of a funk? We all find ourselves being bored with the mundane or longing for more out of life sometimes, but how? Listen in to find out.
In this episode I discuss how to implement some change, start feeling refreshed, getting re-inspired and more motivated
Life is what you make it. Create your own joy and excitement, stay curious, start exploring, never stop learning and do what fulfills you.
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In the final episode of this mini series, where I am busting the most common myths we tell ourselves as to why we can't achieve our goals, I'm discussing the myth "I don't have the ability to achieve my goal". This boils down to imposter syndrome. It's something everyone struggles with, it's hard not to feel imposter syndrome when you can scroll through Instagram and see everyone's highlight reel.
There are people in the world with less talent, skill and passion than you doing what you want to do simply because they refused to quit. The world needs your unique talent and gifts and by not going after your dreams you're depriving everyone else. Stop comparing your beginning to everyone else's middle, focus on you and just take it one step at a time. God wouldn't put a calling on your heart if you weren't equipped to do it.
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In the second episode of this mini series, where I'm busting the most common myths we tell ourselves as to why we can't achieve our goals, we're discussing the myth "I don't have enough money to pursue my goals". I know some dreams require an investment whether that's spending thousands on having a custom website built for your business or hiring a personal trainer or buying an online course to learn a new skill.
Investing in yourself and your dreams can be scary. What if it doesn't work out? But I'm hear to tell you that an investment in yourself will always come back to you. Your dreams are worth investing in. I'm not saying you should go into debt but get creative. Create new income streams, cut costs where you can, learn what you can for free. Don't let money be what holds you back.
In this episode we also discuss:
- Ideas for creating additional income
- Free resources you can look into
- Ways you can start saving money
- Mindset around money
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In this mini series I'm discussing the three most common myths or excuses I hear people tell themselves as to why they can't achieve their goals. This episode busts the myth that you don't have time to pursue your goals. I get it we're all busy and we all only have 24 hours in a day. In this episode we discuss how to prioritize your time, set boundaries with your time and use that time wisely.
If you inventory your time, cut out distractions, say no to things that don't align with your goals and priorities and utilize pockets of time throughout your day you'll be amazed at just how much progress you can make towards your goal. It may not seem like you have time but even just working towards it 10 minutes a day can add up fast. The time is going to pass anyway so start today!
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Do you find yourself wondering what your purpose in life is? Or maybe which of your passions to pursue first? Today's episode is going to provide you with clarity on what your purpose is and give you ideas as to how you can pursue your passions so that you can life a happy, fulfilling, purpose-driven life.
In the wake of a global pandemic, the battle for equality and a polarizing election it's easy to understand that so many people are lost and looking for meaning or simply wanting to feel joy amongst these trying times. This episode will walk you through how to live in alignment with your purpose and give you encouragement for how to live a life you're excited about.
I discuss all things:
- Feeling fulfilled with your life
- Where your purpose comes from
- How to live in alignment with your purpose
- Ways you can pursue multiple passions
- Advise for finding the right path for you
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