MatchNet Podcast: Recent Episodes
Blessing & Family Ministry
The MatchNet Podcast is a podcast just for singles who want to prepare well for marriage, who want to focus on being the right person, and then finding the right person. It’s also for people who have no idea where to start in the Matching Process or what the Blessing is all about.
Benjy elaborates on the previous episode, CIG is Now, by encouraging us to embody the belief that we are living with God in the present, instead of waiting for the future.
Benjy challenges us to let go of the concept that we will be happy or we will create CIG someday in the future. He shares with us words from our True Mother to encourage us to believe that we are building CIG right NOW.
Join Benjy on his drive home as he explores the topic of ego and how it affects our daily lives as well as our journey toward the Blessing.
Carina and her dad dive into her own matching story as well as share advice for how parents/ advisors/ community members an help young singles.
Benjy shares two helpful perspectives before discussing the Matching & Blessing with adult children.
Benjy shares two pieces of advice when dealing with a porn habit before getting matched & Blessed.
Yoshie & Benjy discuss common mistakes to avoid in a matching process when preparing for the Blessing.
Benjy sits down with Andi and Jonasz to share personal experiences and insights into how to know you've found the one to receive the Blessing with.
Benjy discusses why we don’t feel God’s love sometimes and what we can do about it.
True Mother's Words: https://www.tparents.org/Moon-Talks/HakJaHanMoon-15/HakJaHan-1214-150315.pdf
This this week's episode is Part 2 on the importance of knowing your priorities. Benjy talks about a recent trip he took with his son, Kojin, and how it was an opportunity to be in alignment with his own priorities.
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube If you’re feeling stressed or overwhelmed, especially when it comes to the matching and Blessing, then this episode is for you! Benjy dives into how your priorities being out of alignment can impact your stress.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy talks about the battles we fight every day that keep us stuck in habits and behaviors that we don’t want and shares two things you can do right away to tackle those bad habits.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Carina and Robert discuss their own experiences getting Blessed, how age impacts our perception of ourselves, and the difference between feeling ready and getting ready for the Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy and Cathy are back with another thought provoking episode covering topics from the true meaning of sacrifice to the major challenges that may cause people to lose faith in the Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Carina and Yun-A discuss the idea of personal spiritual authority, having a spiritual bank account, and how to find peace in your journey to the Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy dives into what to do when faced with consistent indecision and how to deal with the discomfort of uncertainty by finding clarity.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Robert and Carina talk about their experiences building their family both as a couple and as new parents, and how your identity shifts with each new phase of life.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy and Samara talk about common challenges in finding a match, shifting your expectations, and the importance of recognizing personal growth.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Kwasi and Adelina Boakye talk about delayed gratification and trusting God’s timing in the matching process and their journeys to the Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy and Cathy are back with another discussion on true masculinity and femininity, how to actually revive it, and how our relationships with our parents often influence our own perceptions of masculinity and femininity.
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We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Carina talks with Theresia Kittle on her experience facilitating wife support groups and implementing six intimacy skills that have improved her and many other women’s marriages from the book The Empowered Wife by Laura Doyle.
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We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy addresses this common question and discusses the importance of seeing people from God's point of view.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Carina and Robert discuss important conversations they had before the Blessing and in the early days of being a Blessed couple that helped them create a strong foundation for their relationship.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy and Cathy share qualities they love about their spouses and how true masculinity and femininity bring out the best in each other.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Hebangja and Grace Kisile share how they each changed before their matching process and how letting go of concepts allowed God to work in their lives.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy sits down with Shizuka Pehling to discuss why people don't always prioritize the matching and her experiences helping people find a match through boldness and vulnerability.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Conflicts in a matching process can be key moments of growth and understanding. In this episode, David and Araceli share the difficulties that came up throughout their process and how they worked through them to commit to each other.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Inspired by recent conversations with singles looking for a match, Cathy and Benjy discuss what it looks like to embody true masculinity and true femininity.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Carina talks with Andrea about Blessing dissolution and some preventative steps couples and singles can take when facing difficulty in the Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy goes through a brief mental exercise in this episode to help you better understand your obstacles to getting matched and how to move forward courageously.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Carina and Robert discuss the importance of timing in regards to the matching and how timing works differently for everyone.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Kris and Sungmi Holdhus share some of the major challenges and lessons they've learned in their Blessing journeys, including letting go of concepts, choosing to move forward, and believing in the power of the Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Carina sits down with Norikuni and Samara to discuss the leaps of faith they took on their journeys to find and get matched to each other.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy shares some personal reflections and realizations from seeing True Mother at the Resurgence experience in Las Vegas. Hopefully these realizations can be helpful for you in your journey to be an incredible spouse and parent in the future.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Introducing the new BFM Director, Carina Méndez! In this episode, Carina shares why she decided to take on her new role and her vision for the BFM moving forward.
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We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube What lens are you using when searching for a potential match—an internal or external lens? In this episode, Benjy reflects on getting Blessed at 18 and prioritizing internal growth before external achievements.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
In this episode, Benjy sits down with Cathy to talk about her preparation for the matching, how to deal with feeling unworthy, and the value of working on your internal character.
In this episode, Benjy sits down with Andi and Karen to talk about their journey finding each other and the obstacles they overcame to be ready to receive the Blessing.
Benjy discusses the importance of staying curious and choosing to see life from a broader, spiritual perspective.
In this episode, Cathy and Benjy discuss the underlying question of how to invite God into the matching and Blessing process and making God's involvement in your life real and concrete.
This special episode includes a Q&A Benjy led at a recent young adult workshop in New York. In the Q&A session, Benjy covers a wide variety of topics such as sexual integrity, crushes, the matching, and more.
If you're dealing with anxiety and fear of the future, this episode is for you. Benjy shares from personal experience how to deal with analysis paralysis and moving beyond fear.
In this episode, Benjy shares his insights on how to feel God's love and grace when you're feeling unloved, alone, and stuck.
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy, Yun-A, and Andrea share their personal highlights from the recent Blessings held in South Korea and Las Vegas, NV.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube If you are trying to figure out your purpose in life, this episode is for you. Benjy discusses how to find purpose and how having a clear mission in life will help you feel happier and eliminate unwanted behaviors.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy answers frequently asked questions surrounding the matching and the matching process.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
- Matching Discussion Questions
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Thinking about raising kids can bring up anxiety and uncertainty when preparing for the Blessing. Benjy and Yun-A talk about some perspectives and lessons that have helped them grow as parents.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
- Parents Are Best Friends And Best Teachers by Rev. Sun Myung Moon
- As a Peace-Loving Global Citizen by Rev. Sun Myung Moon
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy shares about the beauty of living a simple life and the power of trusting God, yourself, and the path you're on.
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We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube All the way from the Amalfi Coast, Benjy shares some recent reflections he's gained during his solo travels.
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We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube In this episode, Benjy dispels financial limiting beliefs surrounding the Matching and Blessing. Hopefully these mental frameworks can give you peace of mind moving forward.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube If you're feeling stuck in life, then this episode is for you. Benjy & Christian share helpful frameworks to get unstuck in life, especially if you're preparing for Matching & Blessing!
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube If you're facing a hard decision, this episode is for you. Yun-A & Benjy share practical steps you can take to make difficult decisions in your matching process and in life.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube If you're struggling with what to do with feelings of attraction and infatuation, then this episode is for you! Cathy, Kozan, and Benjy share best practices for dealing with crushes in a productive way.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Yun-A is moving on to bigger things! In this episode, she shares why and the biggest lessons learned as the BFM Director.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
We recommend listening on your favorite Podcast Player! Search for “MatchNet” on:Spotify | Apple | Google | Stitcher ▶ Subscribe on YouTube Benjy shares hard-won lessons from getting Blessed at 18 years old. Hopefully these lessons are helpful to singles that want to create an incredible Blessing.
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- 7 Steps to a Successful Matching & Blessing (video)
If you’re in a Matching Process or preparing to be, this episode is for you! Yun-A & Benjy share the Four C’s to create a healthy brother-sister relationship.
Benjy has the privilege of talking daily with people that are addicted to porn. This presentation is about the harms of porn and how to quit. Enjoy!
These two couples share their experience preparing for marriage through the Matching Process and how their Blessed marriage has unfolded.
Yun-A, Christian, Andrea, and Benjy share practical methods and best practices for finding potential Matching partners.
Yun-A, Christian, and Benjy give perspective on the right time to get Matched & Blessed.
Joe & Benjy share a conversation on why some men tend to run from commitments of matching, marriage, and family.
These two couples share their experience preparing for marriage through the Matching Process and how their Blessed marriage has unfolded.
These two couples share their experience preparing for marriage through the Matching Process and how their Blessed marriage has unfolded.
These two couples share their experience preparing for marriage through the Matching Process and how their Blessed marriage has unfolded.
These two couples share their experience preparing for marriage through the Matching Process and how their Blessed marriage has unfolded.
This presentation was from a leadership training program called Accelerate. Learn more about Accelerate at: https://www.accelerateministry.com/
Yun-A, Tomomi, and Benjy share unique perspectives on how to manage disagreements within the family in the Matching Process.
Benjy shares a unique approach to stress management that has helped him drastically reduce stress.
Yun-A, Tomomi, and Benjy discuss best practices for having difficult and uncomfortable conversations during the Matching Process.
Robert & Tomomi go deep into how they discovered their faith in God & the Blessing after years of searching, and how they ended up finding each other!
Benjy shares a wild story about how God worked in his Matching Process, and three ways YOU can bring God into your process. The third tip is not so obvious, but ESSENTIAL!
Marjorie Buessing interviews Tasnah & Lukas about how they talked with their parents about the Matching Process.
Yun-A interviews Yoshie Manaka about what she learned after searching for a Matching partner for over 10 years. Enjoy!
Diane & Ilya share a moving story of how being open-minded allowed God to work in their Matching Process & Blessing.
Yun-A, Christian, and Benjy share their favorite words and books from True Parents about the Matching & Blessing. Including their favorite movies and shows!
Benjy gives a short exercise to figure out the qualities that really matter when looking for a potential Matching partner.
Josh & Rika share their story about how they overcame difficulties to find each other and receive the Blessing in 2022.
There’s a way to go through the Matching Process without it being difficult or stressful. In fact, it can be ENJOYABLE! Yun-A & Benjy dive deep into how to have an enjoyable Matching Process & Blessing.
This Matching story with Natascha & Don will be especially encouraging if you are in the 24+ age range and have been making efforts to find the one for some time or have been through a Matching Process before.
Is finding a potential Matching partner simpler than we think? Yun-A and Benjy share about the most important qualities to look for in a spouse (and in yourself!).
Anything worthwhile in life comes with a little bit of uncertainty and risk. The Matching & Blessing is no different.
Benjy shares some insightful advice to anyone that feels uncertain or paralyzed in the Matching Process.
Andrea, Christian, and Benjy discuss how to utilize current resources to effectively find a Matching partner.
Andrea, Christian, and Benjy get personal with some of their own limiting beliefs, and how singles can overcome unhealthy beliefs about themselves in order to find a Matching partner and create a successful Blessing.
Benjy shares about one of the most important foundations for a successful Matching Process & Blessing.
Benjy shares a step-by-step approach to understanding the Blessing in a way that will inspire you!
Benjy introduces the Blessing Domino Effect, a 7-stage process to a successful Matching Proces & Blessing.
There's one simple key to keeping your momentum going and eventually creating a radiant Blessing in the future.
"What's the right balance of taking ownership and bringing in help from others?" This is a question most have.
Christian & Benjy are here to give an experiential and practical perspective on how to take a healthy amount of ownership in your Matching Process.
“The Blessing is God’s greatest gift to humanity”, as True Father puts it. But what does that mean in a day-to-day sense? Benjy shares an experiential and personal perspective on the difference between traditional marriage and the Blessing.
The trillion-dollar question, “How do you know if you’ve found the One?” Does the “One” even exist?
Benjy, Christian, and Tomomi share some practical and spiritual things to consider when making THE big decision.
Does being a good person actually help you find a good match? Benjy shares some practical and spiritual insights about how to BE and FINE the right person. Easier said than done, but it's simpler than you'd think!
One of the most common questions people ask when they go through the Matching Process, “Should I have preferences, and is it okay?”
Tomomi is in the hot seat as a single woman currently preparing for Matching & Blessing, as Yun-A and Benjy share some insights and experiences.
The Matching Process is a family-driven engagement process that was developed over the last 20 years to help people find a partner and receive the Blessing in a healthy and systematic way.
The Matching Proces is a family-driven engagement process that was developed over the last 20 years to help people find a partner and receive the Blessing in a healthy and systematic way. Benjy explains the Matching Process in detail from his own experience of helping hundreds of couples to receive the Blessing.
Benjy, Yun-A, and Tomomi have all chosen to marry internationally. In this episode, they discuss the WHY and HOW behind international Matching & Blessing. True Father states that international marriage is the fastest way to world peace. But how does that work in practice? And most importantly, what do you think about an international Matching & Blessing?
Yun-A & Benjy kick off the MatchNet Podcast with the importance of spirituality when preparing for the Blessing. Benjy shares about a profound spiritual experience he recently had and Yun-A gives practical tips on how to make daily spiritual practices.