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STEPHEN BEER
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Charley started performing at the age of three and trained at the prestigious ‘Northern Ballet School’ in Manchester where she completed a three year course in Dance, Singing and Acting. During her time studying Charley was also selected to create some works for young aspiring performers, combining music and movement at ‘Bridgewater Hall’ in collaboration with ‘The Halle Orchestra’.
Since graduation Charley has appeared in many productions throughout Europe including ‘Jack and the beanstalk’, ‘Oliver’, ‘The Nutcracker’, and ‘Aida’ and has also appeared in various advertising campaigns. Recognised as one of the leading Marilyn Monroe lookalike and soundalike’s in the U.K, Charley has performed as Marilyn at major events for corporate clients around the world.
She has also worked alongside many celebrities and was even asked to appear at an event for the then British Prime Minister David Cameron. She can currently be seen in the award winning national tour ‘The Rat Pack Is Back’ singing Marilyn Monroe’s biggest hits including ‘Diamonds Are A Girls Best Friend’ and ‘I Wanna Be Loved By You’.
In her own show, Charley is honoured to include a brand new arrangement of “My Heart Belongs To Daddy” arranged for her by the Legendary Las Vegas star Buddy Greco.
Buddy who shared a friendship with Marilyn for many years wrote what was sadly his final orchestration, as a salute to his dear friend saying at the time that Charley “has the innocent beauty that I looked at when I was with Marilyn all those years ago and trust me that’s hard to find” A big compliment indeed from someone who knew the iconic Miss Monroe so well!
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One of our more enduring social fallacies is the idea that what others think of us actually matters. While this notion clearly has primal evolutionary roots, its shift from survival instinct to social imperative has become one of our greatest obstacles to self-acceptance.
At a time when our ancestors shared the planet with woolly mammoths and saber-toothed tigers, no one wanted to get left behind. Group inclusion was necessary for survival.
Today, our greatest predatory threat is our own species, both physically and socially. Regardless of this threat shift, the need for acceptance—and the fear that we won't be accepted—remain powerful influences on our thoughts and feelings. In fact, this in large measure fuels the existential anxiety that has become the hallmark of a generation, driving everything from people-pleasing to codependence to over-sharing on social media.
We have an inside and an outside—an interior landscape and an exterior landscape. Our interior landscape is our subjective experience of our authentic self, while our exterior landscape is a product of our worldview. The two together create a psychosocial dynamic, but that dynamic has only one reference point, leaving us balancing self- and other-perception.
When this delicate balance shifts because we begin seeking approval or attempting to control outcomes, we become externally focused and can literally lose sight of our essential nature. That essential nature is different from the ego-self—the self-image fed and influenced by what is outside of us.
In looking out, rather than within, our sense-of-self and sense-of-place become clouded. The more we attempt to establish these sensibilities through external means, the more clouded our vision becomes and the further we get from our authentic self. Instead of being fully present in our social interactions, our thoughts and behavior become means for eliciting a response, rather than an expression of self-value.
The ego-self is a false self, a façade scripted by the demands of our context as we perceive them. It is our self-image, our social mask, the role we are playing—and it thrives on approval. That need for approval is driven by self-criticism and negative self-talk, which are fear-based. That fear derives from any number of sources, from our original premise concerning fear of rejection to a "less-than" mentality, all of which begs the question:
We’ve been disapproving of ourselves our entire lives without much success. Why not start approving of ourselves and see how that works out?
Self-approval comes out of self-acceptance, which rises out of the recognition that we are, in fact, enough, just as we are. With that recognition, we can free ourselves from fear; we no longer need to look outside for a validation that, on the inside is self-evident. We come into our power, our full humanity, in the recognition that our essential nature is all we need to be fully us.
Their daily routine included a dizzying array of activities and responsibilities that kept them constantly stressed. Getting their kids out the door to school was an ordeal, involving much haranguing and eating on the run. After working long hours, they arrived home to a laundry list of other duties. Constant interruptions from electronic devices made them feel on call to their workplaces and disengaged from each other. Though unhappy, they didn’t know what to do or how to make a change.
As an experienced child and family psychologist (Anthony) and a management psychologist who works with business leaders (Paul), we were struck by how common these concerns are. We hear the same thing over and over from the people who come to see us:
They feel overwhelmed by life.
They struggle to make choices and decisions.
They often feel stuck, adrift, or thwarted.
For many of us, the pace of life has accelerated to a level where we can’t fully adapt. We exist in a buzz of worry that we’re not doing what we’re meant to do, and the anxiety we feel, in turn, makes it difficult to get things done, creating a spiral of inaction. What we need is more agency: the ability to cut through all of what pulls at us, find emotional and physical balance, think more clearly, and advocate for ourselves so we can take a course of action that makes sense. With agency, we can feel more in command of our lives.