Surviving the crazy: Recent Episodes
Julia
We are all shaped by our experiences. These are mine. After more than a decade with an alcoholic, narcissist, pathological liar, and possibly a psychopath, I am ready to talk. The escapades we went through can seem unimaginable to me today. Some are funny, some are infuriating, while others still leave me utterly baffled. Either way, do I have some stories for you!
In this episode, Todd whisks Julia off to a Luxurious and adventure filled vacation in Tokyo! How is one to resist such a lifestyle!!?!
In this story, Julia's ego can't shake the cold shoulder Todd is giving her after their recent Vegas fling. How she deals with it and the unexpected way she moves out of the 'friend zone' and back into the center of Todd's attention.
What happens in Vegas stays in Vegas??? This episode gets steamy! Todd takes Julia on a whirlwind get-a-way weekend to Las Vegas where things get a little crazy between the two.
If you thought Julia has already missed some red flags, wait until you hear about these ones. In this episode Julia identifies some pretty big signs of behavioral and substance abuse problems. She talks about them in both perspectives: how the seemed at the time and how they were in the reality of future. Just like all alcoholics, they have an excuse for everything and an army of people ready to believe it.
Julia and Todd end up at the luxurious Resort Spa where Todd pulls another unexpected sexual (or not?) shenanigan. What is Julia to make of this and how is their trip to Napa going to end? Tune in to find out.
In this episode Todd gives Julia a taste of luxury and adventure that only Todd could produce. Todd takes Julia on a first class trip to the Napa Valley where one can only imagine he is hoping for romance. Julia not being entirely naive to Todds motives is still a taken back by his strategy.
How did I fall for a narcissistic abuser? A very slow slippery slope of love bombing, attention, and affection. Listen to this episode to hear when the tables of friendship to love began to turn.
Nobody wants to be in an abusive relationship. Yet, how do so many people land in one. For me, the main ingredients were politeness and inexperience. Both were exploited by Todd. Today I speak openly to my young daughters about how people should treat you. What are boundaries? And what do you do when someone crosses them? This dialogue with my daughters will hopefully stop the cycle.
How do narcissists gain control over you? For me, serious groundwork was laid over the course of 'One Night in Hollywood'. Like most narcissists, at first Todd made me feel wonderful, great, and beautiful. Then came the gaslighting remarks. The words and thoughts he put into head. Was he just saying what I already thought, or ??? So confusing.
Have you ever wondered how people fall in love with abusive controlling partners? I have thought a lot about the experience that I had, and how easily he had me hooked on him. This episode is the beginning of a pivotal evening that would set the stage for me to become hooked on my abusive narcissistic partner. I determined falling in love with a man like this was similar to a frog being slowly cooked to death in a slow simmering pot of water. When does the hot tub turn deadly for the frog?
We are all shaped by our experiences. These are mine. After more than a decade with an alcoholic, narcissist, pathological liar, and possibly a psychopath, I am ready to talk. The escapades we went through can seem unimaginable to me today. Some are funny, some are infuriating, while others still leave me utterly baffled. Either way, do I have some stories for you! Lets start with what kind of friend Todd was.
This is my first episode, describing the escapades of my life, fulled by a husband with alcoholism. This podcast sets the tone for the next to come. One thing I know for sure. Is that no matter what experiences you have had, you can change your perception of them. If these experiences are holding you back in life, holding you back in happiness... then change your perception of them. I will show you how.