Triggered and True : Recent Episodes
Laura Duncan and Brian Freise
Triggered and True is a Compassion Method™️ podcast with Laura Duncan. The Compassion Method™️ is a proven process that teaches you how to comfort emotional pain and to discover your “true” self. This process can be best explained using three words: Awareness. Comfort. Discovery. Feel your pain. Get Comfort. Go play. Join the conversation here: https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask
What if the reason prayer feels so difficult has less to do with your faith—and more to do with the wounds you've carried since childhood?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese continue their series on how the Compassion Method brings biblical truths to life by exploring prayer, forgiveness, loving your enemies, and other commands that often feel impossible to live out.
Brian vulnerably shares a childhood memory that helped him understand why prayer had always felt like talking into the void. Although he believed God loved him, he struggled to believe God truly cared to hear him.
Laura helps trace that struggle back to a past experience of not feeling heard, revealing how our relationships with earthly caregivers often shape the way we experience our relationship with God.
Together, they unpack a freeing truth: many of the hardest commands in Scripture become natural—not through trying harder—but through healing the places in our hearts that keep us from experiencing God's love.
When our wounds receive compassion, obedience becomes the fruit of relationship instead of the burden of performance.
In this episode:
🔹 Brian's personal story of why prayer felt so difficult—and the childhood wound that helped explain it
🔹 How early experiences with parents and caregivers can shape the way we relate to God
🔹 Why biblical commands like prayer, forgiveness, and loving your enemies become possible through healing rather than willpower
🔹 The difference between behavior management and allowing God to transform your heart from the inside out
🔹 How the Compassion Method helps remove the barriers that keep you from experiencing a deeper relationship with God and others
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What if the Christian life was never meant to be about trying harder, but about healing deeply enough that love becomes natural?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese continue their conversation about faith and emotional healing by exploring one of the biggest misunderstandings in the Christian life: the difference between producing the fruit of the Spirit and trying to manufacture it through willpower.
Using Galatians 5 as the foundation, Laura explains why Scripture calls love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and self-control fruit—not accomplishments.
Fruit isn't something we force; it's the natural result of a healthy root. In the same way, emotional healing and a deep relationship with God create the conditions where Christlike character grows from the inside out.
Rather than leaving listeners with another list of spiritual behaviors to achieve, this episode offers a freeing invitation: stop striving to look like Jesus, and begin allowing Him to heal the places that keep His life from flowing naturally through you.
In this episode:
🔹 Why the fruit of the Spirit is something God grows in us—not something we produce through willpower
🔹 How emotional healing removes the wounded patterns that keep Christlike character from flowing naturally
🔹 The connection between the Compassion Method, inner healing, and spiritual transformation
🔹 Why trying harder often leads to frustration—and why a relationship with God leads to lasting change
🔹 How healing your heart allows love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, and self-control to become the natural overflow of your life
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What if the healing that's transforming your heart is more biblical than you've been led to believe?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese continue their conversation about common objections to the Compassion Method by addressing one of the biggest questions they hear from Christians: Is this process actually biblical?
Laura shares her own faith journey and explains how her relationship with God shaped the development of the Compassion Method from the very beginning.
Together, she and Brian explore why emotional healing and Christian faith never compete with one another—they have always been connected.
Looking at Scripture through the lens of relationship rather than performance, they unpack how compassion, emotional awareness, and healing have been woven into God's heart all along.
Rather than asking listeners to take their word for it, Laura points back to the life of Jesus, the Garden of Eden, and the consistent biblical pattern of God moving toward people in their pain before inviting them into transformation.
It's a conversation for anyone who's wondered whether emotional healing can truly deepen—not diminish—their walk with God.
In this episode:
🔹 Laura shares how her own relationship with God led to the development of the Compassion Method
🔹 Why the Compassion Method is rooted in biblical principles of relationship, compassion, and restoration rather than self-improvement
🔹 What Scripture reveals about God's response to shame, pain, and emotional brokenness—from the Garden of Eden to the life of Jesus
🔹 The difference between healing through relationships and striving through performance or religious obligation
🔹 How emotional awareness and self-compassion can strengthen your Christian faith by helping you experience God's love more personally
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What if the emotions you've spent your whole life trying to avoid are actually trying to help you heal?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese tackle one of the most common objections to the Compassion Method: "Shouldn't I ignore my feelings instead of paying attention to them?"
Together, they unpack why so many of us fear our emotions, where that fear comes from, and why learning to feel your pain is essential to emotional healing—not a threat to it.
Laura explains that most of us didn't learn to distrust our emotions as adults—we learned it as children. When our feelings were ignored, shamed, or met with disconnection, we naturally came to believe that emotions were dangerous.
But emotions themselves aren't the problem. They're faithful messengers, revealing what's happening in our hearts and pointing us toward the places that still need compassion and comfort.
Rather than letting emotions "drive the car," Laura offers a healthier picture: your true self stays in the driver's seat while your emotions are finally welcomed into the conversation.
Healing begins when we stop fighting what we feel and start understanding why we feel it.
In this episode:
🔹 Why so many people believe feeling their emotions is dangerous—and where that belief usually begins
🔹 The difference between letting emotions guide your decisions and allowing them to reveal what your heart needs
🔹 How childhood experiences of shame and disconnection teach us to suppress our feelings instead of processing them
🔹 Why emotions are reliable indicators of what's happening inside you—even when they aren't telling you what to do
🔹 How the Compassion Method helps you feel your pain, receive comfort, and respond from your true self instead of your triggered self
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What if the questions you keep asking are actually pointing you toward the healing you've been looking for?
In this special Q&A episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese answer listener questions about emotional healing, the Compassion Method, trauma, learning, and what it really looks like to grow when life feels overwhelming.
From navigating new challenges and emotional triggers to understanding how the brain learns, Laura offers practical, compassionate guidance for questions many listeners wrestle with every day.
Along the way, the conversation reminds us that healing isn't about getting everything right the first time—it's about becoming curious, staying present with yourself, and allowing each challenge to become an opportunity for growth.
Whether you're wondering why certain situations keep triggering you, how to apply the Compassion Method in real life, or simply need encouragement to keep going, this episode offers honest answers and hope-filled perspectives rooted in both neuroscience and compassion.
In this episode:
🔹 Why learning something new often feels emotionally triggering—and what your brain is doing in those moments
🔹 Listener questions about trauma, emotional healing, and applying the Compassion Method in everyday life
🔹 The difference between reacting from old survival patterns and responding from your true self
🔹 Why curiosity and self-compassion create lasting growth far better than self-criticism or perfectionism
🔹 Practical encouragement for anyone who feels stuck, discouraged, or unsure whether healing is really happening
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What if the freedom you're searching for isn't found by doing more, but by learning how to be still?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese explore what they call a roadmap to true freedom, weaving together neuroscience, emotional healing, the Compassion Method, and faith to show why lasting transformation begins with slowing down instead of striving harder.
Laura explains that our brains are wired to stay busy, solve problems, and react automatically, making stillness feel uncomfortable, even threatening.
But it's in those quiet moments that we notice what's actually happening inside us. Rather than rushing to fix our emotions, we can learn to observe them with compassion, reconnect with our true self, and discover the freedom that has been there all along.
The conversation offers both the science behind why stillness changes the brain and practical ways to incorporate it into everyday life.
Whether you're constantly busy, struggling with emotional triggers, or longing to hear God's voice more clearly, this episode offers a simple but powerful invitation: stop striving, become present, and let healing unfold.
In this episode:
🔹 Why the brain naturally resists stillness—and how that keeps us trapped in old emotional patterns
🔹 The connection between neuroscience, emotional healing, and the Compassion Method
🔹 Why awareness begins with slowing down instead of trying to fix yourself
🔹 How stillness creates space to hear your emotions, reconnect with your true self, and experience God's presence more deeply
🔹 A practical daily exercise to help you become more aware of your body, your emotions, and the identity that's underneath them all
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What if the emotional trigger you're trying to avoid is actually the doorway to your healing?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese challenge one of the biggest misconceptions about emotional triggers: that they're something to fear or eliminate.
Instead, they explain why triggers can become one of the greatest gifts in your emotional healing journey when you learn how to work with them instead of against them.
Using the powerful picture of riding a wave rather than being crushed by it, Laura shows how emotional triggers stop feeling like they're happening to you when you approach them with curiosity and compassion.
What once felt overwhelming becomes an opportunity to uncover the pain beneath the reaction, comfort the part of you that's hurting, and discover the true self that has been there all along.
If you've ever wished your triggers would simply disappear, this conversation offers a hopeful reframe: healing isn't about avoiding the waves—it's about learning how to ride them.
In this episode:
🔹 Why emotional triggers are opportunities for healing rather than obstacles to overcome
🔹 The "wave" analogy that changes how you experience overwhelming emotions and emotional reactions
🔹 How the Compassion Method transforms triggers from something happening to you into something you can work with
🔹 Why curiosity and self-compassion create lasting emotional healing where self-protection and avoidance cannot
🔹 How every trigger holds an invitation to feel your pain, receive comfort, and reconnect with your true self
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What if the holidays don't have to be something you survive—but something you actually experience?
In this special holiday episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese explore why Christmas and family gatherings can stir up so many emotional triggers—and how you can approach them with greater peace, awareness, and self-compassion.
Rather than offering another list of holiday coping strategies, Laura explains how the Compassion Method helps you prepare from the inside out.
Whether your triggers come from difficult family members, unmet expectations, loneliness, grief, finances, or childhood memories, the goal isn't simply to manage your reactions—it's to understand the wounds underneath them so your true self can remain present.
The conversation is filled with practical ways to prepare before the holidays begin, from revisiting childhood Christmas memories to using the Remote Control Exercise and practicing brief moments of attunement throughout the day.
The result isn't a "perfect" holiday—it's becoming more connected to yourself so you can be more genuinely connected to the people around you.
In this episode:
🔹 Why holiday stress is usually about much more than the holidays themselves—and what your emotional triggers are really pointing toward
🔹 How childhood Christmas experiences continue to shape your expectations, reactions, and relationships as an adult
🔹 Practical ways to prepare emotionally before family gatherings using the Compassion Method and the Remote Control Exercise
🔹 Why trying to avoid difficult people rarely brings lasting peace—and how caring for your own heart changes the experience instead
🔹 How to move through Christmas with greater presence, self-compassion, and connection so you're not just getting through the holidays, but actually living them
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What if the person you trust the least... is yourself?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese unpack one of the deepest roots beneath anxiety, relationship struggles, and emotional triggers: self-trust.
They explore why betrayal by others often awakens something much older—and why healing begins by restoring trust in yourself before trying to rebuild trust with anyone else.
Laura explains that many of us learned early in life not to trust our own hearts. Whether we grew up without supportive caregivers, or we were forced to mature too quickly, or painful experiences taught us to doubt ourselves, those early wounds shape how we experience broken trust today.
The conversation offers a powerful reframe: the goal isn't to pretend betrayal doesn't hurt. It's to comfort the places within you that were wounded so you can respond from your true self instead of your triggered self. From that place, wisdom, healthy boundaries, and genuine trust become possible again.
In this episode:
🔹 Why broken trust with others often reveals a much deeper lack of trust in yourself
🔹 How childhood experiences and early caregivers shape your ability to decide with confidence
🔹 The difference between "capital T" Trust—the deep need to feel safe—and the everyday trust required in healthy relationships
🔹 Why healing doesn't mean ignoring betrayal, but comforting the wounds it awakens so you can respond from your true self
🔹 How restoring self-trust frees you to set healthy boundaries, navigate relationships with wisdom, and be okay regardless of another person's choices
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What if the healing you've been looking for doesn't start with fixing yourself—but with finally understanding yourself?
If you're new to Triggered & True, this is the perfect place to begin. In this special introduction episode, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Friese share what the podcast is all about, why emotional healing matters, and how the Compassion Method helps people move through emotional triggers, shame, anxiety, and pain without becoming trapped by them.
Laura and Brian introduce the heart behind the show: healing isn't about becoming someone new—it's about returning to the true self you've always been.
They explain why emotions aren't problems to solve but invitations to discover what's happening beneath the surface, and how compassion creates lasting transformation where self-improvement alone cannot.
They also walk you through where to start in the podcast, highlight a few foundational episodes, and introduce practical resources designed to help you apply what you learn right away.
In this episode:
🔹 What "Triggered & True" means—and why emotional triggers can become invitations to healing rather than something to fear
🔹 The heart of the Compassion Method and how self-compassion helps uncover your true self instead of simply managing symptoms
🔹 Why emotional healing isn't about fixing yourself, but learning to understand and comfort the parts of you carrying pain
🔹 The best episodes for new listeners and how to begin your own healing journey through the podcast
🔹 Two practical exercises that help you move from simply learning about healing to actually experiencing it in everyday life
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What if the shame you've spent your whole life outrunning traces back to something as simple as being a sensitive kid who felt too small?
In this episode of Triggered & True, Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise follow up on their last conversation ("Uncovering Shame, Reclaiming Your True Self") by getting deeply personal — Brian opens up the actual roots of his own shame, and lets it be walked through in real time.
It's a vulnerable, illustrative companion to the previous episode's teaching, showing what tracing shame back to early childhood actually looks like.
Brian shares that the thing that eventually "blew up" in his life traced back to something surprisingly simple: two childhood sources of shame, both tied to not feeling like "a man."
He was a sensitive boy who felt deeply and cried easily in a stoic family that didn't have a grid for it — so he came to believe he was a "crybaby" — and he was very small (4'10" and about 90 pounds as a high school freshman), which the world constantly pointed out.
Laura connects it back to the Garden: just as Adam and Eve covered themselves, Brian spent years covering the "crater" of not feeling enough with protectors — the need to be cool, relentless work, performance, and eventually even his Christian faith turned into a work to cover himself.
The hope is in the tracing: naming where shame comes from, and comforting that child rather than compensating for him, is where the healing finally begins.
In this episode:
🔹 Brian's authentic story: two childhood roots of shame, both tied to not feeling like "a man"
🔹 The sensitive boy in a stoic family — how "crybaby" became a shame identity
🔹 Being small in a world that wouldn't stop pointing it out — shame over something you can't change
🔹 The Garden connection: how protectors (coolness, work, performance) become the "leaves" we cover ourselves with
🔹 When even faith becomes a "work" to cover shame — and where real healing starts instead
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Laura Duncan and Brian Freise explore shame, a universal barrier to emotional and spiritual health. Using Genesis 3, they trace shame’s origins to Adam and Eve’s knowledge of good and evil, which led to hiding from God and self. Shame, a "virus" in our operating system, fuels anxiety, depression, and identity confusion by tying what we do to who we are. Laura explains why "doing better" feeds shame and offers compassion as the antidote. Learn to identify shame through triggers like "I should," blame, or feeling inadequate. Reflect on your own triggers as we prepare for part two, where Brian shares his journey healing shame with the Compassion Method. Visit compassionmethod.net (use code podcast50 for $50 off the Compassion Method Master Course).
In Episode 62 of Triggered and True, hosts Laura and Brian explore how self-judgment is the hidden root of judging others, drawing from Matthew 7:1-2. They distinguish between everyday discernment and condemning judgment tied to shame, triggers, and identity, explaining how inner pain is displaced onto others, like through soapboxes or money critiques. Through biblical insights (e.g., Solomon's wisdom, kindness leading to repentance), they advocate healing self-judgment to enable loving, righteous responses. Listeners get homework: Reflect on harsh judgments and self-talk to uncover triggers. Dive deeper with the Compassion Method at compassionmethod.net—use code PODCAST50 for $50 off the master course.
In this inspiring episode of Triggered and True, we sit down with two individuals and two couples who have transformed their lives through The Compassion Method (TCM). Our guests candidly share their personal journeys, highlighting the highs, lows, and life-changing impact of applying TCM. They reflect on where they are today, the challenges they still face, and the hope TCM has ignited for their futures. Now trained as TCM consultants, these individuals are helping others one-on-one, guiding them toward healing and growth.
Meet Our Guests and Connect with Them:
Libby Mathews: www.JoywithLibby.com
Kristy Allen: www.dramaworkswellness.com
Jeff and Marissa Prentice: www.prenticeconsulting.co
Kristie Van Kley: vkhamfamily@gmail.com
Gary Van Kley: apaulebilly@gmail.com
Tune in to hear their powerful stories and learn how The Compassion Method is fostering hope, healing, and transformation!
In this heartfelt episode of Triggered and True, hosts Laura and Brian dive into the profound link between physical and emotional health, sharing personal stories from their recent first-time surgeries. They explore how physical pain can trigger emotional responses and with raw honesty, they discuss the challenges of asking for help, the freedom found in letting go of constant "doing," and the power of pre-processing emotions to transform daunting experiences—like hospital visits—into moments of joy and connection. Packed with insights on self-compassion, embracing vulnerability, and finding hope amid pain, this episode offers practical wisdom for navigating life’s inevitable challenges.
Deepen your journey with the Compassion Method at compassionmethod.net—use code PODCAST50 for $50 off Laura’s master course!
This episode is a captivating continuation of our live Remote Control Exercise walkthroughs, featuring Laura's one-on-one sessions with two of our amazing podcast listeners, Myles and Lorilyn. Join us as Laura delivers a master class on the transformative power of The Compassion Method in action.
This episode is an exciting continuation of our previous one, where Laura and Brian introduced The Remote-Control Exercise. In this installment, two courageous podcast listeners have volunteered for a live demonstration. Tune in as Mel and Brien reveal their triggers and let Laura guide them through The Remote-Control Process.
In this episode, Brian and Laura delve into The Remote Control Exercise, exploring how it can be used to effectively apply the principles of The Compassion Method. This powerful tool will enhance your understanding of how to maximize the benefits of The Compassion Method and help you connect with your True Self. Additionally, they are looking for a volunteer to participate in this exercise on an upcoming podcast episode!
Whether you are new to The Compassion Method (TCM) or have been implementing the process for a long time, there will be moments when you feel like you are an epic failure. These are often associated with big, triggered reactions that you are not proud of. These big reactions might make you feel like the TCM process is not working or that you are doing something wrong. In this episode, Brian discusses a big “failure” that he had recently. Listen in as Laura guides him through it and helps him discover beauty in his perceived failure.
In this thought-provoking episode of The Triggered and True Podcast, we delve into the profound story and significance of the two trees in the Garden of Eden. While Christian faith is not a requirement to understand these concepts, Christianity has undeniably shaped the perspectives shared in this episode.
We explore the human tendency to label things as good or bad and question whether we are truly capable of making such judgments.
The episode examines why the knowledge of good and evil is considered the root of all emotional pain. We discuss how this knowledge robs us of rest by keeping us in a constant state of processing and judgment. We also address the paradox that the knowledge of good can be just as detrimental as the knowledge of evil.
Listeners will hear about the concept that one cannot "eat from both trees" and how the knowledge of good and evil can act as a safety mechanism. Through personal anecdotes and theological insights, we explore how recognizing and relinquishing our need to judge can set us free from shame and anxiety.
Join us as we uncover how to live truly free by embracing compassion and love, and recognizing our inherent value beyond our actions. This episode is a journey towards understanding and liberation from the draining cycle of judgment.
Many of us know the Golden Rule: treat others as you would like to be treated. In this episode, we explore this concept from a fresh angle. The reality is, under pressure, you will treat others as you treat yourself. If you aren't kind to yourself, extending kindness to others becomes exhausting. Our treatment of others reflects the state of our inner world. Join us as we dive deeper and share insights that could transform your life.
Join us for a compelling discussion on healing the parent/child relationship. We'll explore where to start and why this journey can be so challenging. This episode is impactful for everyone, whether your parent is no longer with you or you're currently estranged. The parents/child relationship forms the bedrock of our lives, and its significance cannot be overstated.
In this episode we will expand your concept of “medication” and the importance of feeling our pain in the healing process. At the end we give a powerful example of how sexual addiction is a form of medication for the absence of one of the 10 Gifts. This episode truly has something for everyone.
In this episode we address some common misconceptions: What am I a doormat? Doesn't what they did matter? I am not triggered i'm just passionate! All of this focus on me seems selfish and more....
In this episode we discuss the "keys" to living your life to its fullest. Life is a precious gift and who you are is the extraordinary. These "keys" can help you be the person you were created to be and enjoy your life for the precious gift that it is!
Understanding and acknowledging our emotions is a fundamental aspect of personal growth and well-being. In this video, we dive into the crucial skill of learning to feel and understand our emotions. By tuning into our feelings, we gain insight into our inner world and cultivate greater emotional intelligence. This journey enables us to navigate life's challenges more effectively, allowing us to have healthier relationships and a deeper connection with ourselves.
Have you ever felt misunderstood? How about disrespected? Please join us as Laura connects these common human feelings to shame and blame and highlights a pathway to empowerment and healing.
This is the third installment of Laura and Brian continuing the discussion of how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free.
In this episode, Laura and Brian continue the discussion of how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free.
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss how the Compassion Method™ can help you live your faith more authentically and shame-free. They also discuss the strong impact Laura’s personal faith had on the development of The Compassion Method™ process.
In this special episode, Laura and Brian talk about the resources Laura has created for you to go deeper with the Compassion Method™ beyond the podcast!
In today’s episode, Laura and Brian discuss how the principles of The Compassion Method impact relationships with the people that are closest to you in your life. Also, they will share a different perspective on “toxic” relationships.
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss what a parent's role is in their adult child's life and how the Compassion Method is a key part of the process.
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss discovering your TRUE SELF. Your True Self is who you were created to be. It is and has always been with you…..it has simply been covered up by pain and unmet need. In this episode, we discuss practical ways to discover who you are and how to live from this place of authenticity. You are an amazing gift to the world…..it’s time to discover just how amazing!
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Join us in this episode as Laura and Brian share stories and truths about how the things you’ve done are not you’re identity; they are not who you ARE.
In this episode, Laura and Brian discuss a topic that is often difficult to confront - the relationship between joy and pain. It's easy to assume that we can only experience happiness if we avoid pain at all costs, but the opposite is true. We can only experience true and lasting joy if we confront and learn to comfort our pain. Join us as we share an empowering perspective on the relationship between pain and joy!
"In this episode, Laura and Brian explore the idea that there are no victims or villains in our lives. This may sound harsh and even hard to believe at first, but this truth has the power to set you free and to heal. By examining our pain through the Compassion Method and understanding the pain of others, we can begin to see ourselves and the people around us in a new light.
Laura’s teaching on the four ways we love ourselves is groundbreaking. As she examines each one, you will learn how to be a caretaker of your soul, and you will also see where you have hidden pockets of pain that are blocking you from loving who you are. You will find this episode to be very revealing and an essential component of your personal Compassion Method journey.
A listener asks a question about how to engage her triggered child using the TCM approach. As usual, Laura’s response challenges us to think unconventionally and even go against what is our natural inclination. As a parent, or really anyone who is in a position of authority over others, it is easy to focus on the child’s behavior and ignore what is going on inside of ourselves.
Laura discusses how the most important thing we can do for our children is to learn how to be OK (clear minded, tender hearted, and at peace) even when our children are not. A wonderful byproduct of having this ability is that we will be able to stay connected to who our children are and not to their behavior. From this place of connection we can give our children the thing they need the most……for us to simply be with them. In this episode we will also discuss where are parenting styles originate from and what those styles tell us about what is going on in our “inner world”.
Have you ever attempted The Compassion Method Process and felt “stuck” because your pain is just so overwhelming that you can’t move forward? Have you ever experienced emotional pain so intense that you felt like you were drowning? Is there a pain source from your past that you simply cannot return to in an effort to bring comfort? In this episode, we address these situations and how to utilize The Compassion Method process to meet your heart where it is at.
When grief is not properly comforted, it can rob us of life. When properly comforted we can experience hope, peace, and joy.
In this episode, Laura and Brian walk through navigating grief, identifying its hidden forms, and learning how to bring comfort to our hearts.
Join us for episode 34 of Triggered and True!
Many people believe and have been taught that feeling their emotions is wrong… That doing so can be harmful or is a sign of weakness. That they can’t be trusted and should simply be avoided and suppressed.
In this episode, Brian and Laura tackle this lie head-on and talk through the power of feeling emotions, and letting them guide you to where you are hurting, knowing that there is always hope……always!
You’ll want to listen through to the end as Brian shares a personal experience proving why emotions should not be suppressed but rather embraced as the powerful guide that they are.
It has been quite a bit since Brian and Laura answered our listeners questions on the show! This episode is all about you and your questions, throughout the episode we answer Laura's most frequently asked questions starting with, "How do I apply the Compassion Method when people are shaming me?"
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You can submit a question for a future podcast episode at https://www.triggeredandtrue.com/ask.
Brian is a huge fan of the bestselling book by Morgan Housel, The Psychology of Money. However, he feels that chapter 3 of the book needs an addendum that discusses the connection between money and emotional health. In this episode, Brian & Laura create that addendum and you will not want to miss it!
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“Your true self is a powerful force. Your true self can accomplish more in a minute than your triggered self can in a lifetime, but that is not the real reason to connect with your true self. The real reason is that you’re worth it.” - Brian Freise
Whether you connect with Brian or Laura's business journeys, which reveal their challenges, protectors, and triggers, you'll find confidence in your own journey through this episode. You'll soon discover that your true self isn't just for you, but for the world around you.
FREE RESOURCE INCLUDED: "How Am I Seen?”
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Help, I’m being manipulated! During this episode, Brian and Laura discuss manipulation and our tendency to manipulate others, often subconsciously. Throughout this episode, we will learn how to use The Compassion Method as an offensive weapon against manipulation, narcissism, and gaslighting.
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Listen in to Laura and Brian's insightful discussion about compassion and divorce. They explore how compassion serves to hold back divorce's rising tide of regret and shame, allowing us to truly grieve and find life-long healing.
Despite our pain, there is a glimmer of hope. This hope for comfort can be discovered by connecting with your child self, free from agendas. Based on a listener question, Brian & Laura explore our child self and how it compares with our true self. Also discussed are the challenges we may face connecting with our child self during certain seasons of life due to pain or trauma. As Brian and Laura guide you through this process, brain science points us in the right direction. Take the first step on your journey.
During this interview-style episode, Anthony Bulau shares his experience with The Compassion Method as well as interviews Laura and Brian about a variety of topics, including:
-How can you use The Compassion Method principles to handle frustration with your children?
-A guide for men examining their emotions and digging into the Compassion Method
-Why is it that the people we love the most trigger us the "best?"
-Plus more!
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We all have needs that need to be met in our lives. In this episode Brian shares, “The solution is not to fix, but to fill. Be filled with the gifts and the pain is comforted and eliminated.” These needs correlate to The 10 Gifts that Laura communicates as a foundational aspect of The Compassion Method. This episode will develop a greater understanding of The 10 Gifts and demonstrate practical applications that help redesign the potential end of your story despite your current circumstance or childhood upbringing.
Today's episode is framed, in part, by a listener's question regarding codependency. As a result of this discussion, you will gain a true understanding of codependency. Laura discusses the freedom she has found from codependency as well as a single question you can ask yourself to assess the impact of codependency on your current relationships.
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura explore how The Compassion Method helps us navigate the wilderness of forgiveness. A litmus test is discussed to identify our present phase of forgiveness. Laura and Brian also guide us through the process of feeling our pain, overcoming shame, and forgiving ourselves and others. You'll likely learn that this process of forgiveness is healthier and more effective than you’re used to.
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- An answer to listeners asking, “How does The Compassion Method connect to my faith?”
- What does Laura mean when she says, “The Compassion Method does not require an adherence to any particular faith.”
- How do we keep the core of our identity from getting wrapped up in an expression of our identity, i.e., mother, father, son, daughter, etc.?
- Brian and Laura answer an enormous question, “Who is our true self, and what is our true identity?”
- When we find ourselves lost and not knowing who we are, what’s the roadmap to our true selves?
Religion is a major trigger for A LOT of people. It is a trigger in ways that you also might not expect. In this episode, we will discuss the triggering impact that religion has on both the religious and the non-religious. We will also review what a trigger is and how triggers can be a blessing in disguise.
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- A listener-question on the gift of enough and the role of protection in one’s journey
- In the face of the “results matter” mindset in the workplace, how do we live Laura’s truth that “What you do matters, who you are matters more?" How do we navigate this as an employer?
- Common triggers that come up in the workplace and how to identify them
- How do we find health amid the lack of protection and security on our career journey?
- The psychology of customer service and its tendency to fawn
- Especially in the food service industry, how do we recognize the opportunity to bring comfort to ourselves in a moment of challenge, fear, or frustration?
- The context of a “shame-high” especially in the marketplace
- How do we navigate the pain and triggers of others while helping them to make a decision? What’s the impact of pain and fear in the sales process?
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- Laura’s approach to working with couples and how it differs from traditional marriage counseling.
- Guidance for couples to see the heart or root issues.
- Why do activities that encourage or sometimes force couples to connect sometimes miss the mark?
- Laura breaks down her quote: “You can be the best person at learning how to communicate, but if you don’t know what to communicate, you will get nowhere.”
- What roles do shame and blame have in our intimate relationships?
- How do we recognize codependency and how is it affecting us?
- A fresh perspective and encouragement for those who are single.
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- How Brian ended up in Laura’s office for the first time and how he found himself on the path towards his great awakening.
- Why do the words awareness, comfort, & discovery not only describe The Compassion Method but also how these words were brought to life for Brian during this process.
- Brian shares four main protectors that he came face to face with, in his journey through The Compassion Method.
- What steps can we take to discover the wound behind the pain and engage our adult brain providing us a new perspective?
- Brian & Laura discuss The 10 Gifts, a core part of The Compassion Method, and how these have impacted Brian during the healing process.
- How does The Compassion Method increase our capacity for love?
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- The state of artificial intelligence as it affects our emotional health.
- The documentary The Social Dilemma and the unintended consequences that have come with the rise of social media.
- How the algorithms of today’s A.I. exploit our pain and unmet need, as well as the opportunity it presents to us.
- The way that social media is a megaphone for the knowledge of good and evil.
- How can social media become a medication for our emotional well-being?
- Laura guides Brian through The Remote Control Exercise
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura answer questions submitted by our listeners. Tune in to hear the discussion!
Questions include:
- How does The Compassion Method work itself out in the context of my faith?
- How do I journey through The Compassion Method in the context of marriage? How do I focus on myself, but also journey together as a couple?
- If you and your spouse have two different attachment styles, what does reconciling look like?
- How do I continue to live and thrive in community with others while growing in my emotional health?
- How can Laura help when I feel disconnected from feeling or knowing myself as a child?
- Is The Compassion Method a tool I can use for mental illness?
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura take a deep dive into the following quotes from Laura:
- “Your adult self is like a website, and your child self is your coding: change your coding and you change the website.”
- “The bigger the trigger, the younger you are.”
- “Every capital letter emotion is a child emotion.”
- “The connection to who we are versus what we do heals shame.”
- “You can’t hurt people or help people.”
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura take a deep dive into the following quotes from Laura:
"What you do matters, but you matter more."
“Self-compassion starts with you, but ends in a party.”
"Feel your pain, get comfort, go play."
"In early childhood development, we need connection like we need food and water."
In this special episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura interview a group of students that have journeyed through The Compassion Method™. The interview spotlights the power of The Compassion Method™ when the process is learned at a young age.
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- The definition and examples of protectors
- Why doesn’t Laura encourage people to get rid of their protectors immediately?
- How do we discover our true protectors?
- Identifying our protectors: their connection with our triggered responses of flight, fight, freeze, & fawn
- Engaging empathy with this newfound tool
- What’s our goal in navigating our protectors?
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- If not to heal our pain, then what’s the goal of The Compassion Method™?
- The link between true repentance and our true self
- How Brian and Laura respond to triggers today, a before and after of implementing The Compassion Method™ Principles
- Discovering pain as a privilege on the journey to our true self
In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
-Practical ways to connect to our true self, which allows us to experience both: the fullness of joy and the healing of pain
-Brian and Laura share a preview of The Compassion Method™: Master Course currently available for pre-sale at compassionmethod.net
-What is the connection between living from our true self and connecting with others in an authentic way?
-An in-depth look at the childhood picture exercise provided for free at compassionmethod.net
-How do we journey back to our true selves in moments or seasons of hopelessness?
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
-Which is more detrimental: the knowledge of good or the knowledge of evil?
-A real-life example of shame intervening in childhood development
-Warning signs that shame is becoming who we are, not just something we’ve done
-Don’t ask for forgiveness…first. Why?
-The addiction cycle of shame, and how do we get out of it?
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura are joined by Courtney Lancaster (Life Coach, Redding, California) and Krystal Freise (Yoga Teacher, Dixon, Illinois) as they discuss:
-An overview of trauma-sensitive yoga, and how Krystal uses it to bring mindfulness and awareness to her clients
-Courtney shares how nervous system regulation can repair and bring peace to a chronically self-protected state
-How does the Compassion Method navigate us towards physical peace?
-Do we have to relive our trauma to find healing? What other options do we have?
-What’s the difference between becoming our pain and being with our pain?
-How have The Compassion Method’s principles been applied in both a consulting/coaching practice as well as a professional yoga practice?
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- Key takeaways from Laura’s journey navigating the loss of her husband
- How do you know when you’re ready to share your grief experience to encourage others?
- Can thankfulness be a form of medicating during loss?
- Understanding how compounded grief affects your grieving process
- How do you process other people’s attempts at helping your grief process?
- Finding beauty in the middle of grief
- Disarming blame and activating a positive response to loss
- What do you do when today’s grief awakens childhood trauma?
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Brian and Laura discuss:
-The Remote Control Exercise, a step by step process for bringing healing and comfort
-How do we experience the compassion method, versus simply using it as a process to complete?
-Why does blame feel so good, yet sabotages the healing process?
-How do we address bigger reaction emotions consisting of fight, flight, or freeze?
-Recognizing what I really need in the moment
-How to administer self-compassion, when for most it feels like a foreign language?
-Why does co-dependency with our spouse or a loved one block true intimacy?
-Brian shares a real-life example of the Remote Control Exercise
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In this episode of Triggered and True Laura and Brian discuss:
- The difference between actually getting your needs met VS. just making your pain “go away.”
- The “10 gifts” -the tangible way of meeting unmet needs.
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In this episode of Triggered And True, Brian and Laura define what a "trigger" is, why we have triggers, and why triggers can actually be good as they are a spotlight on our pain, and show us where we need help.
Learn how compassion can help you heal from your pain, and how to be compassionate to yourself and others.
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In this episode of Triggered And True, Brian and Laura discuss:
- Shame
- Where shame originated
- Shame Vs. identity
- Why "getting better" should not be the goal, and can actually keep you stuck living in shame...
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In this episode of Triggered and True, Laura and Brian discuss:
- What compassion is
- Common misconceptions about compassion
- How to access compassion for yourself
- What blocks our ability to have self compassion
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This podcast is designed to help you discover your true self and bring healing to your inner world.
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