bestofourselves podcast: Recent Episodes
Marcia Hyatt
Marcia Hyatt is a leadership and life coach who provides a weekly feature on WTIP's North Shore Weekend titled "The Best of Ourselves," which explores how we can be resilient and creative in these turbulent times. Each week, the feature explores what we can do to be intentional, creative and joyful in our lives.
It's a subtle form of the inner critic, so subtle, you might miss it. Comparison to others does not support you become your own, unique best self. Being inspired is great, thinking you don't measure up, not so much.
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Disengaging the Inner Critic
Identifying the Inner Critic
Sometimes, our certainty can cloud our perception of reality, making it difficult to see things as they truly are. When we're convinced that something is a certain way, we often overlook or dismiss evidence that contradicts our beliefs. This show explores the fascinating ways in which our minds can deceive us.
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The Divided Brain
Living in Uncertainty Podcast
When we know someone's story, it is hard to make them an "other". We can get past the labels and see the humanity in those who have different life experiences.
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Friends with Those People
A variety of podcasts on community
We all have an limiting identity, the story of who we think we have to be. We usually do not see our own choices unless we have the courage to reflect. Harriet's Load is a story I wrote years ago that was showing me I had choices I just couldn't see (yet).
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You can order copies of What Have I Mythed? from Drury Lane Books
Other Recorded Myths:
- Connected or Separate (NOT PUBLISHED)
- Looking Where You Want to Go (in What Have I Mythed?)
- Fear Gets a Hug (in What Have I Mythed?)
We have lots of potential that we do not allow ourselves to access. It's courageous work to reflect on our limited sense of identity and to open up to what else is possible. And we each have the capacity and resources to do it, given patience, curiosity and lots of compassion.
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The Mindtrap of Ego
Acceptances as a Step Towards Growth
Change One Step at a Time
When we contemplate significant changes in our lives, our flight, fight, or freeze response may kick in. We tend to prioritize safety, and our autonomic nervous system can pose a significant barrier to transformation. Learning to move forward without waging an internal war is crucial.
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Acceptance as a Step Towards Growth
Curiosity as a Growth Tool
Intentions: Allies for Growth
This is what is here now. An emotion, an irritating person or a disturbing situation. Learning to accept what is present and respond from a deeper place leads to a powerful shift.
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Acceptance Podcast
Learning to Accept What Is Podcast
Tuning In V Changing the Channel Podcast
Learning how to change our relationship with the inner critic can greatly increase the quality of our days. But not all inner critic episodes are the same. Some times the inner critic is a light breeze, something, when noticed that can be worked through easily. Other times, the inner critic is a level 5 hurricane and it's hard to navigate.
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What is the Inner Critic?
Identifying the Inner Critic
Disengaging the Inner Critic
You are not your personality. When you learn that and learn how to access a deeper capacity, you show up differently. This is 4th in the series created from an interview with Roxanne Howe-Murphy talking about her new book, Underneath the Personality.
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- You Are Not Your Personality
- Underneath Your Personality
- Developing a Healthy Relationship to Ourselves
To show up as the best, we need to develop a healthy relationship to ourselves. Roxanne Howe-Murphy, author of the new book, Underneath Your Personality, explains what is a healthy relationship and how to start.
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You Are Not Your Personality
Underneath Your Personality
Deep Living Interview
Deep Living Lab
Enneagram
If we pay attention, we will notice there are patterns in our behavior. It is easier to notice these patterns in others. And we if learn how to pause a bit, we will see we have many more choices than we knew. In this interview, Roxanne Howe-Murphy shares how to tell if you are operating from your repeating patterns and how to access a deeper wisdom.
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You Are Not Your Personality
Deep Living Interview
Deep Living Lab
Enneagram
We have so much more capacity than we know. One key is to understand we are not our personality. In this episode, Roxanne Howe-Murphy talks about what is our personality.
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Underneath Your Personality (NEW)
Exploring a Transformative Lens
Living Deeply with Roxanne Howe-Murphy
They were our neighbors. They helped us. We helped them. We shared meals. And we were opposite sides of the political divide. How do we learn to respect the humanity of those who see the world differently than we do?
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Encounter with Others
One Small Step
Loving Our Community
If we commit to listening, everything changes; our relationships deepen and our options open. It is very hard to listen, especially if it is not something we want to hear. It requires a commitment and practice.
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Listening Between the Words
Who Do You Listen To?
Conversations That Build Relationship
Relationship Killers
What do you pay attention to? Where we focus makes a big difference in what we create in our days. This myth, orginally published in What Have I Mythed? reminds us to focus on the light.
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Mything- How to order the book and listen to other myths
Intentionality podcast
Becoming What We Might Have Been
Thanks to Kathy Magnuson for sharing her Awe Journal practice and it's impact on her life.
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Finding Awe
Awe: The new Science of Everyday Wonder and How It Can Transform Your Life
Thanks to Michele Simon for sharing her reflections on her gratitude practice and on how awe is different.
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Remembering Gratitude
Gratitude is a Choice
Finding Awe
Although well-intentioned, and possibly even helpful, giving advice is more about us than the recipient.
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Parker Palmer on Advice
Advice on Advice
Humble Inquiry by Edgar Schein
After going through many personality instruments, I did not think the enneagram would offer me anything new. I was wrong. Using this ancient and powerful lens began the process of freeing me from previously unseen patterns.
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Upcoming Enneagram Offerings
Roxanne Howe Murphy Interview
Roxanne Howe Murphy website
You may think you are doing well by repressing unwanted feelings. And you might, for a while. Eventually, what is repressed will find a way to express itself. This episode features the myth, The Lake of the Uncried Tears.
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What Are You Hiding?
Freeing Ourselves from Our Stories
Working With Our Own Compost
Discovering the ability to perceive and embrace every aspect of ourselves is remarkably liberating. Are there certain facets of your being that you keep hidden from both yourself and others?
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Grounded Presence
What Is OK to Be?
Awareness Changes Your Life
Worrying can fill up a day. It has it's uses but mostly it keeps us from enjoying life. Here are a few tips for freeing ourselves from our worrying mind.
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Stop Imagining the Worst blog
Reducing Worry Blog
It was a retreat I will never forget. It was a precious time of connection and growth. It reminded me of a core truth, we are all "Walking around shining like the sun."
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Grounded Presence
Healing the Inner Divide
It's human to want to be in control, seek approval or try to look good. We can get beyond these ego needs access a more grounded presence. From this place we are more able to discern right action.
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What Is OK To Be Podcast
Finding Awe
Working With Our Own Compost
Awe is an emotion we feel when we encounter something big, a mystery that we don’t understand and evokes wonder. Experiencing just 2 minutes a day has amazing health and collective benefits. Finding awe is not hard, we just have to pay attention.
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Overview of Awe
The New Science of Awe interview
Awe Walks
Taking time for a solo retreat is precious. It is a time to reflect more deeply. This time my challenge was to have a "should-free" retreat. My inner critic didn't agree.
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What is the Inner Critic
Identifying the Inner Critic
Working with the Inner Critic
Listening to the Inner Voice
It is so easy to live our life habitually. Guided by the stories we tell ourselves, we do not always see our choices. Here a few tips to helps up open up to more choices.
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Moving From Complaints to Choice
What Do You Really Want?
Intentionality
We become the stories we tell ourselves. Becoming clear on what your story has been is an essential part of freeing ourselves. Using creative forms of reflection we see our story more clearly.
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Mything
Awareness Changes Your Life
We value rational thinking. Logic. Focus. We tend to undervalue embodied wisdom, intuition, and interconnection. McGilchrist connects this to losing contact with our right hemisphere. The part of our brain that is wired for comprehension.
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Podcast - The Mindtrap of Rightness
Iain McGilchrist TED talk
The Divided Brain
At the Gottman Institute, they can observe couples for 15 minutes and 90% of the time predict whether the relationship will last. Here are a few of their lessons.
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Four Horseman - Gottman Institute
Turning Towards - Gottman Institute
Building our capacity to observe ourselves, builds our capacity to grow and change. It can be uncomfortable to wake up to our the ways we limit ourselves. And if you do, the quality of your life changes.
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Freeing Ourselves From Our Stories Podcast
Tuning In Vs Changing the Channel Podcast
Anthony DeMello
Wendy Palmer passed away on December 2, 2022. There are many of us around the world whose lives were changed by her teachings. In this episode, some of her lessons and how they have helped in day-to-day life are shared as a huge thank you to Wendy.
Other Episodes Summarizing Lessons from Wendy
- Breathe
- Centering versus Reacting
- Creating Inclusive Energy with Wendy Palmer
- Exploring Forgiveness with Wendy Palmer
- Working With Our Own Compost
- What Energy Are You Bringing Into the Room?
Resilience is a key to success, especially in times of change. Reviewing the literature, Diane Coutu summarizes the themes in her Harvard Business Review article – How Resilience Works?
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Acceptance Podcast
Simple Habits for Complex Times
Jennifer Garvey Berger’s applying Simple Habits for Complex Times
When we are committed to "it shouldn't be this way", we are stuck. Learning to accept what shows up is not passive. It is starting with a solid foundation.
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Acceptance Podcast
Acceptance as a Path for Growth Podcast
Play the Ball Where the Monkey Drops It
Irma Velasquez memoir, Fish Dreams, chronicles her journey of shifting from trying to cure her son's autism to loving him as he is. She learned simple practices that changed everything for her. Thanks to Irma and the Deep Living Lab for allowing me to share a portion of our interview.
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Listen to the full interview with Irma Velasquez
Once we have a story about what is going on, we are not very opening to other ways of thinking. It's human to make up stories. It is human to avoid the discomfort of disconfirming data. And it greatly limits our ability to grow and change.
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It's Not Personal Podcast
Avoidance Podcast
Have you ever walked into a room and felt the tension? Have you ever walked into a home and felt welcoming energy? In a 2014 interview with author and aikdo master Wendy Palmer, we explored how we can be responsible for the energy we carry into the room.
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Full interview with Wendy Palmer in 2014
What does it take to forgive? And what is the gift we give ourselves when we do. A conversation with Wendy Palmer, author of Leadership Embodiment.
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Full interview with Wendy Palmer in 2014
Wendy Palmer is the founder of Leadership Embodiment, a process that uses principles from the non-violent Japanese martial art of Aikido and mindfulness to offer simple tools and practices to increase leadership capacity and respond to stress and pressure with greater confidence and integrity. Excerpts and lessons from an interview with Wendy in 2014.
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Full 2014 Interview
More on Wendy Palmer's work
Some lessons I need to learn over and over again. One persistent struggle is learning to listen to my intuition. Most of the time the consequences of ignoring are small, sometimes they are not.
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Old Patterns
Identifying the Inner Critic
Imagine your mother telling you, at an early age, you are not a label, you are being. My One Small Step conversation partner agreed to share the lesson he learned from his mother.
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Reflection on the One Small Step Conversation
Story Corps One Small Step Program
Who was MOST influential in your life? It was a hard question. After considering many lessons from my parents, family, friends and teachers, I choose Uncle Bob. Reflecting on why, was a valuable exercise.
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Uncle Bob’s Obituary
One Small Step – the conversation that inspired this reflection
One Small Step is a iniative by StoryCorps. The intention of this program is to strengthen communities, one conversation at a time. In this episode, Marcia shares reflection on her time with another community member with different political leanings.
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One Small Step at WTIP
One Small Step Initiative
Turning Off Our Alarm Systems Podcast
Encounter with Others Podcast
It is one thing to learn that outside judgment cannot touch you unless you already carry that judgment on the inside. That awareness is great but learning to release the inner judgment requires us to be brave enough to feel it and release it.
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What is OK to Be?
What is the Inner Critic?
Identifying the Inner Critic
Working with the Inner Critic
When I am defensive, my whole body is on alert? How do I increase my ability to hear feedback or different opinions with openness and curiosity.
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Building Capacity for Uncomfortable Conversations Podcast
Harriet Lerner Interview with Brene Brown Part 1
Harriet Lerner Interview with Brene Brown Part 2
Conversations about race and other uncomfortable subjects require us to do our own work, to build capacity in ourselves to listen to learn. Resources
The Mindtrap of Rightness Podcast
Resmaa Menakem Interview
We learn early in life what is OK to be and what is not Ok to be. It frames our choices and limits us from accepting the whole of ourselves.
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Old Patterns Podcast
Cleaning Out Our Thinking
Stumped by the question, "What do you really, really, really want? No really!" Resources
Myth - Monkey Movement
Becoming What We Might Have Been Podcast
What Are You For? Podcast
It is so easy to take other's reaction to us as being a reflection of us. In reality, it is more a reflection of them. Learning to not take things personally is quite freeing!
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The Mindtrap of Simple Stories
Lessons in Projection
It's inspiring to witness small groups of people using their energy to make a positive difference in the world.
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Changing the World Three Feet at a Time
Loving Our Community
Finding Community
I am working on my intention to "trust the unfolding". It was amusing to find a myth I had written years ago, reflecting the same question. Resources
- Between Trust and Effort Podcast
- Imprisoned by Our Story Podcast
Too often, we push to make things happen. Sometimes, it will serve us to watch what is unfolding. The wisdom is in diserning what is called for.
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Compose with the Unfolding Podcast
Intentionality Podcast
Identifying the inner critic is present helps. Learning how to change our relationship with it, is critical for our growth and well-being. Thanks to Roxanne Howe Murphy for allowing me to replay portions of our 2017 interview.
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Roxanne Howe Murphy and Deep Living Lab
What is the Inner Critic? Podcast
Identifying the Inner Critic Podcast
How do I know it's the inner critic and not my conscience? In this episode, Roxanne Howe Murphy, talks about how to identify when the inner critic is present.
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Roxanne Howe Murphy
Enoughness Podcast
One thing we can do to improve the quality of our lives is to change our relationship with the inner critic. In this episode, with the help of Roxanne Howe Murphy, we explore what is the inner critic?
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Roxanne Howe Murphy
Enoughness Podcast
How do we flatten the curve of hate (paraphrasing Rev. Rosemary Klass). A foundational study of boys in the 1050s provides some ideas of how we can find our way back together.
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Study of 11 year old boys in the 1950s
Arlie Hochschild's study of the divide
Adam Kahane's work on Power and Love
Shifting her focus from fighting hate to focus on leading a movement called Revolutionary Love, Valarie Kaur is an inspiration.
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Valarie Kaur's movement
Interview with Kaur on The Good Life Project
I was wrong, I didn't know any better. My coaching on how to change the channel on our feelings was wrong.
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Centering v Reacting
Acceptance
Dr Susan David TED Talk
"What I think you should do is..." These words are often intended to be helpful but may miss the mark.
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Moving from Judging to Encouraging
Listening Between the Words
It is hard to stay open and curious when someone give us feedback. Especially when the feedback doesn't match our self-image. It is an important skill to receive and learn from feedback.
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Listening Between Words
What Are You Referring To?
Working with the intention, compose with the unfolding, has supported me in being more present with what is emerging (even the not so fun stuff).
Getting Perspective
Acceptance
Deep Living Lab (my "Hell yes" endeavor)
Self compassion is a powerful form of self-care. It enhances our ability to be resilient and learn. Kristin Neff has expanded the definition of self compassion to include both nurturing and fierce self compassion.
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Kristin Neff's website with resources and information
It has been a tough time. We have been dealing with illness, death and uncertainty. With all of the heartache, there have been some valuable lessons.
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Laughter Podcast
Acceptance Podcast
It is so easy to spend time judging ourselves or others. Often it is a waste of energy. How do we convert our tendency to judge to create a tendency to encourage?
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Listening Between the Words
Acceptance
We are not truly free when we are trapped by hatred and prejudice. What supports us being more free of reactions, blaming and instead choose our responses.
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Dr Edith Eger Interview with Brene Brown
Be Impeccable With Your Words
How do we focus our attention to positively impact the three feet around us?
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Loving Our Community
Change is Always Possible
Choosing our response versus reacting. What practices invite you to be fully present and grounded?
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Wendy Palmer, Leadership Embodiment
How do we strengthened our ability to love our neighbors? A few inspiring stories and lesson.
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Fearless Dialogues, Dr Ellis
Antoinette Tuff
Conversations about politics, race, the environment or other heated topics are hard to have. How do we create an agreement that allows us to fumble with our words and stay engaged? In this episode, we look at Donna Mejia's framework called Fumble Forward (Mejia is pronounced Meh-hEE-yah, my apologies that I mispronounced her name through this episode).
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Donna Mejia's Website
Watch for Mejia's essay in the forthcoming book, Picture a Professor to be published by West Virginia University Press late summer 2021
To become fully free, we need to learn how to own the whole of our story with compassion. We need to integrate all of our experience, even the cringe-worthy stuff.
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Acceptance Podcast
Imprisoned by Our Story Podcast
Change is Always Possible
We need to heal to create joy in our lives. We need to heal to make social justice possible. But first, we need to stop hiding...
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Change is Always Possible Podcast
Sounds True Interview with Rachel Ricketts
Turning Off Our Alarm Systems Podcast
Anne Swallow Gillis is a recently retired Protestant Pastor, aspiring writer and jigsaw puzzle fan. In this edition of Best of Ourselves, she shares her reflections on these puzzling times.
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Easy Questions for Complex Times Podcast
Getting Perspective Podcast
Acceptance Podcast
Is there still an issue with women's voices? Sure. But the trick is to notice when it's happening.
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Whe We Aren't Making More Progress Towards Gender Equity
We Won't Reach Gender Equity Until the 22nd Century
We can support our thriving by avoiding negativity and managing our energy. We all need a bit more TLC right now.
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How to Thrive When Everything Feels Terrible
It is radical to imagine we don't have to fix, acquire or change ourselves to access what Sonya Renee Taylor calls our innate enoughness.
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Brene Brown Interview with Sonya Renee Taylor
Sonya Renee Taylor
Instead of the intense reflection on changing, I told a few funny stories. Laughter helps us navigate challening times.
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Stress Relief From Laughter: No Joke, Mayo Clinic
We breath in a worldview from our culture and families. But, unless examined, it is just the way things are.
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Brené Brown with Sonya Renee Taylor on "The Body is Not an Apology"
Exploring Race
Suffocating
“You must never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end
—which you can never afford to lose —with the discipline
to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality,
whatever they might be.”Admiral James Stockdale
In this episode we explore what it means to hold both a clear-eyed view of what is happening and faith that some form of what you are committed to will prevail.
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The Stockdale Paradox described by Jim Collins
Conversation with researchers and authors Jim Collins and Brenè Brown
Rituals provide comfort, especially in stressful times. The pandemic is providing us with an opportunity to think through what is a "should do" and what rituals have meaning.
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Why Rituals Work
You can teach an old dog new tricks. Our brains are malleable and change with every interaction. Yes, we are wired to operate from habit but we can cultivate change.
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Interview with Dr David Eagleman
When I catch myself complaining, I know I am not operating from my best self. It's time to slow down and explore my choices because living as a victim is depressing.
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Intentionality
Getting Perspective
We have a lot more choice than we remember. It is so easy to spend the day being reactive. And if we pause, and reflect on what we would like to create, we can focus our energy on what matters most.
This show explores a few tips for living more intentionally.
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Lessons from John Lewis
Seeing our Choices
Dr Arlie Hochschild traveled from Berkley to Louisiana to understand our political divide. Her clear purpose supported her in turning off her alarm system and to listen to those who think very differently.
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Strangers in Their Own Land
Review of Strangers in Their Own Land
One key to a construction conversation, is to be genuinely curious about the other person's experience. Otherwise, we are just debating conclusions and never learning how we came to such different conclusions.
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Institute of Cultural Affairs Focused Conversation Method
The Art of Focused Conversations Book
When a friend was lamenting that she couldn't imagine listening to people who had different political beliefs, I was dismayed. It's been done before, many times. I turned to the wisdom of John Lewis, interviewed in 2013 by Krista Tippet for the show On Being.
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On Being - John Lewis Interview
Power and Love - Bringing Out the Best of Ourselves Episode
We need to conscious about what we pay attention to. If we only focus on what is wrong, we lose perspective.
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Brene Brown "Ask Me Anything" Part 1
Remembering Gratitude
If we are kind and well intentioned people, how could we be racist? Isn't that the label for hateful and cruel people? In this episode, exploring how we are complicit in a racist culture with racists systems.
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White Fragility by Robin DiAngelo
Robin DiAngelo Videos
So You Want to Talk About Race
Privilege Systems by Peggy McIntosh video
Seeing White - Scene on Radio
The paradox of sustainable change is learning to truly accept the parts of ourselves we want to "fix".
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Reacting Podcast
Christopher Germer
It is hard to believe what we do can make a difference. It is easy to look that other way or give up hope facing such big problems. This episode explores how small actions can make a big difference.
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5 Ways Giving is Good for You
Meng Natural Preserve
Rev. Dr Greg Ellison
If we are going to have productive conversations and build community, we need to grow our capacity to listen. And we need to reduce our capacity to get defensive or need to be right.
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Lerner Intervew on Unlocking Us with Brene Brown
Encountering Others Podcast
Encounters With the Other, by Barry Oshry
If we want to create a more beautiful world, we need to start with what is present. The brutal murder of George Floyd has become a breaking point for many. And it is a symbol of what needs to change - our worldview of dominance.
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Summary of Active Hope
The More Beautiful World Our Hearts Know is Possible
White Fragility and Anti Racist author interviews
We become the stories we tell ourselves. Celebrating kindness to create a community of care.
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Kindness as a Strategy
Taking a Stand for Kindness
During the pandemic, many of us are cleaning out closets. It is also a good time to clean out old stories that limit us.
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The Mindtrap of Ego Podcast
Intentional Change Podcast
Interview with Doug Silsbee
Listen to the myth, Fear Gets a Hug and explore your own relationship with fear through reflection questions at the end.
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We have to stretch our capacity to thrive in complex times. Dr. Jennifer Garvey Berger offers 3 simple questions to help us open up to new possibilities.
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Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps - Interview with Dr. Berger
Change is Possible - Podcast
Challenging times invite us to grow and change. But what actually supports us changing and responding intentionally?
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Change is Possible Podcast
Feeling Into Change Podcast
When times are stressful, emotions run high. In this episode, hear an inspiring example of using kindness and love to counter agression.
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Terry Dobson Aikdo Story
Taking a Stand for Kindness - Podcast
This 2017 episode of Bringing Out the Best of Ourselves features a conversation with Dr. Jennifer Garvey Berger, co-author of "Simple Habits for Complex Times." She shares simple, fun and rewarding things we can do to be innovative and nimble in times of rapid change. Her practical tips not only provide immediate results, they are contagious!
We can learn practices that increase our resilience in times of increasing white water levels of change. A few things you can do each day to support your resilience.
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The Mindtrap of Simple Stories
Gratitude
These are traumatic times, we need to be patient with ourselves to navigate it as our best selves.
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Iain McGilchrist
Dr. Dan Siegel COAL
Dan Siegel on Mindfulness
In challenging times, it is hard staying resilient. What have we learned about what supports us staying nimble in uncertain and complex times?
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How Resilience Works, HBR, Coutou
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps: An Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger
How do we navigate these uncertain times with grace? A reflection on moving beyond my reactive self and finding away to access my best self.
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Reacting Podcast
Intentions - Allies for Growth
Breathe
It is proven to slow the aging process. That is the amazing conclusion of Nobel Laureate Dr Elizabeth Blackburn. What would it take to bring a bit more mindful awareness into our lives.
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Kind Intention Mindfulness Practices
More on Dr Dan Siegel
Siegel's Integrative Mindfulness Practice
Creating a Meditation Practice Podcast
Over the past 20 years, we have had a handy excuse for being reactive - my amygdala was hijacked. Turns out that isn't the case, our higher order thinking brain is still available to us....
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Your Body Is Your Brain, Amanda Blake
Breathe Podcast
Focusing our attention is what creates new neural pathways - it basically sculpts our brains. Having clear intentions helps us focus on dreams, purpose, qualities... What is your intention?
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Change Is Possible
We sculpt our brain by what we pay attention to - therefore to be more intentional, we need to be aware of what we focus on. Moment by moment, we can create new neural pathways, meaning we can change!
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https://www.drdansiegel.com/
Learning how to get grounded helps us access more of our intelligence; we are not our brightest selves when we are reactive.
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An Interview with Wendy Palmer
Mindtraps Podcast
How do you ask a fish to see water? How do you ask yourself (and others) to see their worldview? It frames everything we see and do and mostly, we don't notice.
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Active Hope
Reinventing Organizations
Richard Tarnas - Lunar Mentality
Why is it so hard to do the things you know are good for you? Some of the latest thinking about what supports change.
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Brain science and change - video of Dr Boyatis
Helping People Change
A gratitude practice has proven results, so why don't I (we) do it more regularly?
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The Benefits of Gratitude - Dr Robert Emmons
Gratitude is a Choice Podcast
Is it really worth taking 10 minutes a day to sit and focus our attention? Yes is the short answer. How to make the commitment is the tougher question.
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Summary of research in Altered Traits
Best Mediation Apps
It is getting harder to have political conversations with people who see things differently. How do we move from being triggered to being curious?
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The Mindtrap of Rightness podcast
The Mindtrap of Agreement podcast
Encounters with Others podcast
5 Habits of The Heart - Interview with Parker Palmer
Dreaming sounds impractical. It is however a way to nudge ourselves into what else is possible.
Here is the quote I didn't have time to insert into my 5 minute show:
Eleanor Roosevelt said, "The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams."
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Possibilities Podcast
Freeing Ourselves from Limiting Stories Podcast
I notice how I stay comfortable and how that can keep me stuck. In this case, I noticed how I wouldn't speak up, especially if I faced disagreement. Where was my voice?
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Showing Up Podcast
Keeping Yourself Small Podcast
Old patterns are quite persistent. Even if we can see our behavior is no longer working for us, it is hard to change. Noticing is an important first step.
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Feeling into Change Podcast
Awareness Matters Podcast
There are times when you need to step away from a situation to see it more clearly. Retreats have been an important part of the process of seeing with new eyes.
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Gifts from the Sea by Anne Morrow Lindbergh
Mindtraps Podcast
Seeing Ourselves Podcast
Awareness Matters Podcast
In what ways do we keep ourselves small, quiet, or in denial? Choosing comfort is understandable AND it can keep us from seeing what is really going on and allow ourselves to be changed.
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How to stop avoiding what scares you...
Taking a Stand for Kindness Podcast
Mindtrap of Ego Podcast
What are the implications of business as usual? A personal exploration of Joanna Macy's work, The Work That Reconnects.
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Active Hope
The Work That Reconnects
Video on THE GREAT TURNING up to min 2:52
Video on the importance of honoring PAIN
Personal Guidelines
What do you wish your younger self knew? Here is a partial list of things I would tell myself (if I would listen).
Science is learning our brain is in our whole body not just our head. It is important to learn how to tune in for deep, meaningful change.
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Coaches Rising - the source of the panel conversation summarized
Amanda Blake - her site has several free tools and guides
Alan Fogel
Primal Leadership by Daniel Goleman and Richard Boyatzis
Does meditation really make a difference? A brief exploration of meditation's impact.
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Altered Traits Summary by Greater Good
Altered Traits Summary by the Authors
Loving Kindness meditations
Headspace- one of many easy meditation aps for your phone
Are you hopeful? How do we re-frame hope to support us using our energy towards what matters most.
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Active Hope
Video on THE GREAT TURNING
Video on the importance of honoring PAIN
The Work That Reconnects Personal Guidelines
In Barry Oshry's latest book, Encounters with the "Others", he succinctly shows how we get into trouble and can do great harm. Seeing patterns helps us see our choices. Then the challenge is learning how to navigate the tensions.
Resources
Encounter with the "Others"
Barry Oshry's Blog
Interview with Barry Oshry on Systems Thinking
Interview with Adam Kahane about Power and Love
We think we experience "reality". However, what we perceive is greatly filtered. One filter, that is helpful to understand, is how our mood impacts our perception.
Resources
Dr. Lisa Feldman Barrett TEDx talk
Emotions Drive Decisions - Psychology Today
An Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Mindtraps
Interviewing Dr Jennifer Garvey Berger on her latest book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps. A short, practical book about how to survive if not thrive in complexity.
Anthony DeMello, a Jesuit Priest from India, said the ingredient for a well-lived life is awareness. We will be exploring why cultivating awareness is a freeing endeavor.
Resources
Strangers to Ourselves by Timothy Wilson
Wake Up To Life by Anthony DeMello
Freeing Ourselves from Limiting Stories - podcast
Knowing our purpose makes us less vulnerable to reactivity and it has amazing health benefits. Taking the time to figure out your "why" is well worth the time.
Resources
The Ladder Out of Mindtraps - Podcast
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Power of Purpose - TEDx talk by Richard Leider
We underestimate the power of self compassion in enhancing our well-being, health and relationships. A quick reminder of a few steps we can take to be kinder to ourselves.
Resources
Kristin Neff's Website is full of resources
Self Compassion Workbook by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer
As author and educator Parker J. Palmer approaches his 80th birthday, he has numerous reflections on how to show up for our lives…how to navigate the political divide…what our democracy needs from us to move through these difficult times.
In this WTIP featured production, Host Marcia Hyatt explores these subjects and more with Palmer, talking about his new book, “On the Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity, and Getting Old.”
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap - control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Living Authentically an Interview With Roxanne Howe Murphy
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap - control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Living Authentically an Interview With Roxanne Howe Murphy
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the forth mindtrap - control
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the third mindtrap - agreements
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Social: Why Our Brains Are Wired to Connect
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the second mindtrap - rightness.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we explore how to get out of the first mindtrap - creating simple stories.
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
Our hard wiring response to change is exactly the wrong thing we need to thrive in turbulence, uncertainty and complexity. In Jennifer Garvey Berger's practical new book, Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps, she boils down the problem and ways to free ourselves. In this podcast, we cover the overview of the book to be released in April 2019
Resources
Unlocking Leadership Mindtraps
Interview with Jennifer Garvey Berger on Simple Habits for Complex Times
What seeds are we planting with our words and actions? We are creating our future with every step we take. Do I take steps in service to love and kindness?
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The movie Mindwalk
Quantum mechanics introduction
What is quantum mechanics?
Having a reflective practice is not the same as becoming more self aware. How do we increase our ability to observe ourselves.
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Showing Up
Freeing Ourselves from Limiting Stories
Gratitude is a choice despite what is happening around us. It is correlated with resilience, happiness and health. Gratitude is always an option.
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More about the Haudenosaunee
Research on Gratitude
Art is healing. Looking back at years of writing, my changes showed. I used to diminish them as my little stories, now I know they are an important ally in my journey.
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Art and Healing Radio Show
What Have I Mythed?
The Woman Who Holds Up the World - the first myth
We often have an image of how things SHOULD go. But what if that isn't what shows up? How do we move beyond the shoulds?
Resources
Play the Ball Where the Monkey Drops It
Being Right Podcast
Curiosity as a Growth Tool Podcast
We learn to see life a certain way; it serves us when we are learning how to cope in the world. But as we mature, these stories keep us small. How do we free ourselves?
Resources
Living Deeply - Interview with Roxanne Howe Murphy
Story Editing Podcast
Noticing Podcast
Many think that leadership is the charismatic one; the one who has the answers. The irony is the hero leaders are not the ones who get great results.
Resources
Level 5 Leadership by Jim Collins
Leading From Within by Parker Palmer
Paradox of the Learning Organization
Learning to intentionally focus our attention can change our brain structure according to Dr. Dan Siegel. This episode explores the power of his Wheel of Awareness meditation practice
Resources
Wheel of Awareness
Mindfulness Changes Us - Podcast
Dr Dan Siegel's Book - Aware
Noticing - Podcast
Taking the time to find meaning in our lives enhances our sense of well-being and supports our on focusing our energy on what matters most.
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The Map of Meaning Description
What are the weeds in my life - podcast
Living on Purpose - podcast
We need to play hard in order to work hard. The quality of our restoration makes a huge difference in our productivity and health.
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Resilience is About How You Recharge, Harvard Business Review
Laughter is the Best Medicine
The Importance of Play for Adults
Finding Happiness