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Becoming a teenager means that there are a lot of changes your child will experience. First, school will become increasingly difficult, which can cause more stress and anxiety than before. Second, your teen will have to learn how to forge friendships and relationships with his or her peers. As kids, it was a lot easier ...
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When most people think about addicts and recovery, they imagine coming back from things like hard drugs or alcohol. However, any activity can become an addiction if it adversely affects your life, and porn can be just as damaging as any drug. However, porn addiction doesn’t have to be your downfall. No matter what kind ...
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Is pornography starting to take over your life? Do you find yourself hiding your habits from your spouse for fear of her finding out? If so, then you are probably suffering from pornography addiction. Unfortunately, these days porn is not as stigmatized as it used to be. Many people are now under the impression that ...
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In today’s modern society, pornography is not something that many people would find offensive. Unfortunately, that means that watching porn has become much more mainstream, which can be detrimental for a variety of reasons. Today we want to discuss how pornography affects the brain – specifically, how it can create addictive behaviors in people who ...
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Parenting can be a struggle sometimes, but it can feel extra challenging when you have a teenager. Because they are discovering their identities and becoming more independent, they don’t come to you for advice or talk to you as often as they did when they were younger. These years are some of the most formative ...
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For some people, keeping the faith is a long and difficult journey. When you are tempted at every turn, it can seem like an insurmountable challenge to maintain your spiritual self at all times. One modern temptation that can have the most impact on your faith can be pornography. Its abundance and accessibility have created ...
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In the modern world, pornography is everywhere. As technology brings us closer together, it’s never been easier to access explicit images, whether it’s on the computer or your smartphone. Because of this abundance of material, it can sometimes feel overwhelming if you’re trying to avoid it. What’s making matters worse is the fact that society ...
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One of the most difficult things to experience as a person is realizing that you are engaging in addictive behaviors. Usually, we can deny the fact that we’re addicted by pretending that we can stop whenever we like. However, over time, it becomes more and more apparent that we’re powerless over our addiction. Porn addiction ...
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These days, many people watch explicit adult content. Due to the proliferation of this kind of material, it’s far too easy to experience it on a regular basis. Unfortunately, it’s so tempting that it can easily become addictive. The rush you feel from watching porn can be akin to getting high, which can create a ...
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Unfortunately, these days watching pornography is becoming more and more common. There is a lot less stigma around the act of viewing explicit material, and many people believe that doing so is “harmless.” However, as with any activity, there is more to it than meets the eye. Porn can lead to addiction, which can have ...
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For most college students, their time on campus is ripe for experimentation and self-discovery. Since it’s the first time that they’re living on their own without parental oversight, it can lead to some risky behaviors, such as drinking, drug use, and sexual relations. While these behaviors can adversely impact students of all denominations, Muslim students ...
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If you’re getting ready to marry the girl of your dreams, a lot of things come with the territory. Before you say “I do,” it’s imperative that you open up and share everything you can about yourself. If you are asking her to commit to you fully, then you can’t be hiding any secrets. For ...
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Becoming a teenager means that there are a lot of changes your child will experience. First, school will become increasingly difficult, which can cause more stress and anxiety than before. Second, your teen will have to learn how to forge friendships and relationships with his or her peers. As kids, it was a lot easier ...
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It seems like every teen today has a cell phone. Parents love them for their ease in keeping up with their busy kids, and teens love them for all the social media apps. There’s a big cause for concern, however: teen sexting is on the rise. To many teens who have grown up on the ...
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When most people think about porn-watching habits, they mostly assume that it’s adults watching explicit content. However, because the internet is readily accessible across a vast variety of devices, children and teenagers can also be exposed. Porn viewing habits among minors is a massive problem that most people don’t realize exists. Even worse, they may ...
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Many people think of porn as a harmless thing. It’s available online and in magazines, movies, and videos. While it may be distasteful or discouraged by some, it’s accepted as a part of our lives. The truth is that porn and the sex trafficking industry have deep ties to one another. If you support or ...
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More and more these days, porn addiction is becoming a serious issue for couples everywhere. The abundance and accessibility to explicit material is a significant factor in this, but the other problem is that most addicts don’t seek the help that they need. If your spouse is suffering from porn addiction, you may be worried ...
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In today’s connected society, porn is everywhere. Unfortunately, this abundant access to such explicit material means that porn addiction is rapidly becoming a serious issue for individuals and couples alike. While watching porn may not seem as troublesome as infidelity, it can achieve the same result. Even though your spouse is not manifesting their sexual ...
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The term ‘Porn Addiction’ is often misunderstood by many people. It conjures imagery of someone who never leaves the home, is not in a meaningful relationship, and who lives on the outskirts of society. The truth is, with the easy access to pornography via the internet, anyone can develop and suffer from an addiction to ...
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Technology has come a long way from many parent’s childhoods. While we may remember when our household purchased their first computer, our children have been surrounded by the internet since their births. While the information is invaluable, it also carries a lot of risks for the youngest and most impressionable minds. Learning how to protect ...
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These days, it’s never been easier to spend more and more of your time online. The internet can be a powerful tool, but it can also be a powerful temptation, especially when it comes to pornography. While there are many different effects of porn on the brain, one element that most people don’t realize is ...
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While pornography wasn’t the reason that the internet was invented, it has certainly had the effect of increasing both the ease in which it is accessed and the amount of pornography available to the general public. People have turned to the internet to access varied sources of pornography that were not available in the past. ...
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If you find yourself struggling with an addiction, it may be time to consider whether or not you may be attempting to self-treat underlying depression. While you may think it would be obvious if you were suffering from depression, it’s often hard to recognize and treat. WebMD lists the top signs of depression as: Difficulty ...
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Relapse from recovery is often a devastating occurrence for both the individual seeking help with their addiction and the family members who have been affected by a loved one’s addiction. It’s important to note that just as addiction is a process, so is recovery. If you have experienced a relapse, there are some steps you ...
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When you are counseling couples that are struggling with the impact of sex addiction and the harmful effects that it has had on their relationship, it’s common to come across feelings of inadequacy, shame, guilt, anger and embarrassment. These feelings can make counseling a difficult process for any couple, but if the couple is Muslim, ...
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With the prevalence of porn overtaking our lives, it’s only natural that some people will fall victim to its addictive nature. However, porn addiction can have many adverse side effects, the impact of which is still being understood. Today we want to share a positive side of this struggle – the fact that you can ...
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For most couples, infidelity is something that can derail the relationship. The betrayal created by such an act can destroy the foundation of trust between you, creating a rift that can sometimes be impossible to mend. However, while infidelity is usually seen as a physical act between a spouse and someone else, what about when ...
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Watch this video for a short reminder on why it’s important as we practice self distancing to slow the spread of COVID-19 we also distance ourselves from dangerous habits that can compromise our psycho emotional well being during these challenging times.
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These days, couples can face a multitude of challenges. These can range from the standard stress of a relationship to things that are much more severe, such as sexual deviancy. While you may want to trust your spouse to stay faithful to you, there may some warning signs that things are amiss. One element that ...
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Now that pornography has become mainstream and widely accepted, it’s never been harder to avoid it in our lives. Unfortunately, the act of viewing porn can be such a tempting behavior that it’s extremely easy to become dependent on it. Just because something is popular doesn’t mean that it’s right, and porn has a nasty ...
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When you’re in a relationship, it’s crucial that you and your partner have each other’s interests in mind. It takes a lot of trust and loyalty to make it work, which is why it can be so devastating when you experience betrayal. When this betrayal manifests itself sexually, whether it’s cheating or watching pornography, it ...
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If you’ve struggled with Pornography addiction, you know the damaging effects it can have on your mental health. While technology increased the occurrence of pornography addiction through the accessibility of the internet, there are advances being made in technology that make this access easier and pose a greater threat to mental health. Today we’re going ...
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One of the most devastating things that can happen in a relationship is sexual betrayal. Whether it’s infidelity through cheating or something else like porn addiction, the impacts of these actions can have a profound and long-lasting effect on both of you. Today we wanted to take a moment to understand how sexual betrayal can ...
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Brs. Javed, David and Brighstars members of the Purify Your Gaze community share with us a compiliation of their best tips to stay sober in the month of Ramadan A warm Ramadan Mubarak to all of our readers. May Allah (SWT) accept each of our deeds and grant us forgiveness during this holy month. Ramadan ...
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The “dry drunk” syndrome, discovered in Alcoholics Anonymous, applies to other addictions, including pornography and sex addiction. At the “dry drunk” level, all you are focused on is abstinence and changing the outside without giving consideration what is on the inside that needs to change. Real recovery work begins when you begin to investigate the ...
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Being single in today’s day and age where love is always in the air, and sexual promiscuity is spreading around it is even more challenging to protect one’s sense of modesty and to be mindful of Allah SWT. A lot of single Muslims have the perception and rationale that watching pornography or engaging in cybersex ...
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After a long hiatus from recovery, Malik (name changed for privacy) a Purify Your Gaze member, shares his breakthrough in the area of having a healthy relationship with one’s emotions on his first Sobriety Mastermind meeting he attended. Here are his realizations: “I just got off my first Sobriety Mastermind call. I am so grateful ...
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It’s great that we are finally seeing efforts to raise awareness about the dangers of pornography and the vulnerability it poses especially to our youth. The truth is exposure alone doesn’t lead to someone developing an addiction. That’s half of the equation. The other part of the equation is an individual who is not well ...
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Once upon a time society accepted advertisements like the one below that portrayed smoking cigarettes as a healthy and necessary pastime. It took decades for people to accept the research that demonstrated without a shadow of the doubt that smoking harms your health and well being. We are finally starting to see the same happen ...
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Many married men at the Purify Your Gaze program have proactively dealt with guarding their gaze. But to accomplish that, they needed a strong reason why they were committed, that will help surpass them in those moments of weakness. And the principal way you will guard your gaze is by spending some time on a ...
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Purify Your Gaze and the Institute of Knowledge are pleased to announced that they have joined hands to provide unprecedented access to comprehensive recovery support for Muslim students struggling with sexual addiction. Purify Your Gaze’s online and anonymous recovery platform has been the safe place for Muslims healing from unwanted sexual behaviors since 2009. The ...
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Let’s face it – most guys watch porn. It’s really common for gals too. If you care about stats: 65% of young men and 18% of young women seek out this forbidden internet fruit at least once a week.[1] Yes, Muslims struggle with porn use too. Some of us may like to think otherwise, but ...
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If you find yourself still struggling with an unwanted habit such as turning to pornography, deep down do you wonder how this will impact your ability to get married? Perhaps you’re afraid that you might hurt your future spouse because of this struggle. Or maybe there’s fear that special person might not accept or love ...
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Let’s start by asking why do many of us find it so difficult to reach out for support, especially in those times when we’re struggling? Some common reasons are: It’s uncertain, we’re not sure if we’ll be loved and accepted We also don’t want to rely on or need other people… we feel like we’re ...
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How do you respond when you experience an overwhelming urge? You’ve had this experience before, no? Although you made a commitment to stay clean, you find this hunger within to turn back to your old habits. Your mind may start producing images of things you’ve seen in the past. Thoughts start racing through your mind ...
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It’s that time of year when many of us take an honest assessment of our lives – the good, the bad and the ugly – with the intention of becoming a better and happier version of ourselves. In this post, I’m going to break down 5 keys you need to overcome pornography addiction and make this the year you break free and keep that freedom long term!
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The #1 reason people stay stuck When it comes to trying to break free from those old lustful habits, it’s very common for people to wonder “am I really making any progress?” Especially when that dreadful event happens that they relapse to their old behaviors after abstaining for some period of time and it seemed ...
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Muslims struggling with sexual and pornography addictions often delay seeking outside intervention or professional help in fear of violating the Islamic injunction of concealing one’s sins. Is this a black and white issue? What if concealing one’s sins leads to even greater sins committed? Watch this video to be introduced to a framework for understanding ...
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Let Allah Help You – How to overcome the 7 obstacles to whole-hearted surrender to Allah and open the door to greater growth and deeper healing. Ibrahim’s Legacy of Surrender AsSalamu Alaikum and a very warm welcome to episode number 7 of Kickstart Your Recovery! I’m really happy to be able to spend about 40 minutes with ...
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Embrace Honest Accountability – Abdallah’s journey from a life of dreams broken by addiction to the freedom created by his newfound commitment to accountability and honesty. Today we’re talking about honest accountability – here’s the reason we need to talk about this: many people who are struggling assume that it’s better that my embarrassing and humiliating ...
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Take Care of Your Self – How self-care is one of the most empowering ways to uplift yourself from indulgence and craft a life that’s good for you and good for others. To start us off, I’d like to share with you a recent experience I had while attending a group call with several members ...
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Did you know that 1 in 20 people are struggling with a growing but highly misunderstood and taboo condition? What is this condition? Sexual addiction. Many people confuse the signs of sexual addictions with a high drive for sex. Many people did not even know that sex can become an addiction that is just as ...
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Give Up Giving Up – How making healing your #1 priority every single day can make all the difference between achieving your dreams and never moving forward (and why recovery is the coolest thing you could do with your life). In episode #1 we talked all about how recovery is a journey. Many people want ...
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If you’ve been watching our Facebook page, you probably noticed that alhamdulAllah I’ve shared the first few episodes of our new show “Kickstart Your Recovery”. So, why did I launch this show after all? Actually, about 6 weeks and 3 episodes in, I asked that very question. Putting together our most foundational tips on ...
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You guessed it – 2 new Recovery Coaches are joining the Purify Your Gaze team! Why is that a big deal for Purify Your Gaze, and more importantly what does that mean for you? For more than six years this has been a foundational cornerstone to the Purify Your Gaze experience and I was the ...
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Shed Light on Your Dark Secret – How you can accelerate your healing by removing your mask and practicing authenticity. Today we’re going to talk about Shedding Light on your Dark Secret. I’m grateful to have the opportunity to talk about this today, because this is all about going from a place of duplicity, where ...
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Always Start with Love – How being harsh with yourself when you make mistakes can actually make matters worse, and how being kind and gentle with yourself is the strongest foundation for lasting change. Today we’re going to talk about how it’s important for someone looking to heal and establish a life of greater purity ...
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Embark on the Journey of Recovery – How to adopt the right mindset that will produce the best decisions which will lead to lasting change, insha Allah. A Purify Your Gaze member who joined several years ago completed the 5 week training course expecting that by the end of the 5 weeks his problem would ...
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Do you ever find yourself feeling frustrated that you can’t seem to make the progress you want? Would you like to hear some of the most important tips and advice about how you can start to make progress right away?
If so, then our brand new live show, Kickstart Your Recovery, is just for you. Bara Aldasouqi, Enrollment Adviser for Purify Your Gaze, will be compiling the very best tips and advice we have at Purify Your Gaze so that you can make leaps toward breaking free, insha Allah.
Check out this video to hear more about the show and what we’ll talk about in our very first episode titled “Embarking on the Journey of Recovery - how to adopt the right mindset that will produce the best decisions which will lead to lasting change”.
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Today is an exciting day for me and the entire Purify Your Gaze team. I have a big announcement to make, and I’m excited that you’re a part of it. So without further ado, here it goes… Effective this month, Purify Your Gaze will no longer be selling our flagship “Purify Your Gaze Program” self-study ...
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Brother Saleh had been successfully abstinent from watching pornography for two weeks straight. Saleh said, “I’ve been able to go to sleep early, at the same time as my wife 50% of the time these past two weeks. I feel more refreshed, I’m able to work out more, I recently started training with a personal ...
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I have loved art for as long as I can remember. Growing up, I preferred solitary activities like reading, playing with Lego and art. Art though, unlike my other pastimes, was something that could be shared with others. My work was appreciated by my peers, even those who otherwise taunted or ignored me. My family ...
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A few months ago, our Purify Your Gaze community was blessed to have Dr. Hakim Archuletta speak to us about trauma and how to overcome it. Dr. Hakim is a convert to Islam from the 70s and specializes in the traditional sciences of Homeopathy or becoming a Hakim and in trauma therapy. He has over ...
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Here are a collection of inspirational and thought-provoking quotes from various Muslim speakers related to the topic of preparing for marriage, from their social media networks as well as from lectures they have given. The quotes come in different flavors, from the internal to the external elements that are necessary to consider when one ...
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Hamza moves into the new phase of his life as a man, and we explored some of the focal points in his recovery as he worked with Zeyad Ramadan through coaching. The original interview was posted on the Fourth Edition of the Inside The Recovery Community Newsletter. 1. Life throws us some challenges to rise ...
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I had managed to stop watching pornography for a long time, and then, I stumbled. I tried everything that had seemed to work before, but during those turbulent six weeks, I struggled to regain my footing. I reassessed my commitment to change. I asked, yet again, “Why is the change I seek so necessary and ...
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Br. Mostafa caught his teenage sons accessing pornography on more than one occasion. In a desperate attempt to seek advice and help for his sons, Br. Mostafa reached out to me at a strategy session at Purify Your Gaze. Br. Mostafa shared a bit about the family dynamics and the stress around finances and re-establishing ...
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It was 12:04 AM on December 11th, 2010. I was wide awake and could not sleep. Minutes before, I just had closed the registration to the first public online recovery program offered by Purify Your Gaze. Alhamdulilah 174 men and women from across the globe had completed their enrollment and put their faith in me ...
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As he stared down at the page, his mind wandered to the conversation he had had with his wife earlier that morning. No matter how hard he tried to refocus on the page, he could not stop replaying what she had said to him. He couldn’t understand why he wasn’t able to focus since reading ...
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I never owned a laptop before, but I decided it was about time to get one. In a way I never expected, I became consumed by an urge to set up my new device with all kinds of apps and software. Day after day, I found hours slipping through my fingers as I sat in ...
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The road to recovery is full of thorns. The journey is filled with hardships and difficulties, which require patience, perseverance and a very strong commitment to overcome. Speaking from my own experience, often times I feel like recovery work is overwhelming and draining, so much so that sometimes I feel very exhausted and feel like ...
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A couple of months had passed by since the end of Ramadan, and the Thursday class the Shaykh used to facilitate was finally starting back up again. It’s a class focusing on spirituality and activism geared towards young professionals. However, this time around, the shaykh was requesting one young professional to present each week on ...
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The Qurʾan documents the story of a young boy who was abandoned by his older siblings. The very people who were meant to protect him turned against him. He went through the traumatic experience of being kidnapped by his brothers, physically assaulted, having his shirt ripped off, and then being thrown to the bottom of ...
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Are you having trouble lowering your gaze at work? You are certainly not alone. Brother Hasan*, one of my coaching clients, had recently been having a strong need for validation from the opposite sex, and he often found his gaze wandering at his workplace and online. He shares how it had been impacting him: Br. ...
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February 2nd, 2017 “This is the fourth time this month. A well-meaning brother asks me if I’m looking to get married. Obviously, I would love to. But I haven’t gone more than two months without acting out. More than five years ago I started my recovery. Who would have thought I’d still be right here. ...
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(Summary of Audio Training) The Day Of Ashura is a special day for Muslims where we are encouraged to fast the 9th and 10th day of Muharram as a commemoration of the saving of the Prophet Musa (may God’s peace and blessings be upon him) and the Children of Israel from the oppression and harm of ...
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Part 1 | Part 2 For those of us trying to break the habit of pornography usage, isolation is something we are well acquainted with. In part 1 of this article, we saw that the reason we isolate ourselves from others is founded in the fear of those around us finding out about our habits. ...
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Part 1 | Part 2 Last night I turned back to my unwanted sexual behaviors – again. As bad as it sounds, my routine afterwards had become almost automatic. Immediately after, I’d clear my history and delete any traces of content I had watched, take a shower, and then stand in prayer. The anguish would ...
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I was fed up of living a double life. I didn’t want to be a hypocrite. I wanted to be able to stand in prayer and live my life with true happiness that comes from the heart. These thoughts pushed me to raise my standards – I knew higher standards would be essential in my ...
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A devastating discovery Everything had come crashing down on her. What she knew to be a perfect life – a great husband, three children, and a nice home – became memories of a distant past in an instant. She had been searching for dresses to buy online and had come across a website that had ...
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Purify Your Gaze Team: Assalamu ‘alaikum, this is Maria Khan, the Content Manager at Purify Your Gaze. Joining us today is Zeyad Ramadan, who is the Founder of Purify Your Gaze and a Strategic Interventionist coach. Insha Allah, we will first introduce what Purify Your Gaze is and then move on to the discussion of ...
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Myth 1 | Myth 2 | Myth 3 Myth: Those Who Continuously Relapse Have No Chance Of Recovery Now let’s cover the reality on this common perception! I got a burst of inspiration and I decided to shoot a mini-series for you tackling some of the common myths and fears around the topic of relapse. ...
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Myth 1 | Myth 2 | Myth 3 MYTH: The Only Way To Stop Relapses Is To Hit A Rock Bottom Let’s tackle the reality on this topic! I got a burst of inspiration and I decided to shoot a mini-series for you tackling some of the common myths and fears around the topic of ...
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Myth 1 | Myth 2 | Myth 3 I got a burst of inspiration and I decided to shoot a mini-series for you tackling some of the common myths and fears around the topic of relapse. For seekers of recovery, the dreaded “R” word is avoided like the plague and it is mightily feared. Here’s ...
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When I first learned of Purify Your Gaze, I thought I knew what would happen next: I’ll join this 5 week training program, I’ll take really good notes, and soon enough, I’ll be saying goodbye to my addiction. Addiction, to me, was a curse, I had no doubt about it, and all I needed was ...
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Many of us who are struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors are well acquainted with shame. Looking back on our journeys through life, prior to and following the realization that our habits were out of control, we have a tremendous amount to be thankful for. However, we still struggle with those memories that make us cringe. ...
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“He who falls in love with himself will have no rivals,” said Benjamin Franklin. This is a witty reminder to all that loving oneself is an unattractive and repulsive inclination. Ben Franklin was referring to the arrogance and self-righteousness that plague many souls. But in a very different context, self-love is one of the most ...
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My boss had invited me to a farewell lunch for a colleague who had been promoted and would be leaving for better prospects. While we waited for our food, my colleagues started sharing the stories of their youth, when “they did not know any better” and their generation was “bad”. Then one of my colleagues ...
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In the name of Allah. We praise Him and send salutations on his noble Prophet Muhammad. Boundaries are opportunities. They don’t limit, they liberate. This gem was shared at a Purify Your Gaze live call. I quite needed to hear it. Moving from dysfunctional, to functional, to purposeful living is a struggle. It can only ...
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Part I | Part II In Part 1, Br. AliDentity broke down some misconceptions we often have about our ideal future spouse and showed us some key ingredients that will lead to successful marriages. These included having pure intentions in the process of marriage, staying connected to our purpose and developing self-love, which will allow ...
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Part I | Part II “Brothers, you’re just not going to find a supermodel hafidha of the Qur’an,” said an Islamic studies instructor. This was a digression during a fiqh course entirely unrelated to marriage. In a different setting, another instructor commented on the kind of woman young brothers are generally looking to marry, “That’s ...
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A Trying Tale She stares out of the window, gazing at the trees that stand at a distance, an activity that occupies most of her day. It is a pastime that allows her to clear her mind completely and not remember the darkness that is her life. Since she is not fortunate enough to have ...
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I was about to start my usual drive back from school. I stopped short of opening the car door and looked up at the afternoon sky. Rather than responding with awe and admiration at Allah’s creation, my heart responded with skepticism and dismissal. What is going on? At that moment, I knew that something internal ...
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After a long week, the weekend is finally here, but for the Islamic activist, that doesn’t mean a couple of days of rest and relaxation. Their weekend routine starts early on Saturday morning with a volunteer effort downtown involving the homeless, followed by a working lunch with the organizing board to assess and plan events ...
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The concept of surrender is one of the most profound lessons that I have gained from theBreaking Free Trainings. The very action of surrendering was what brought me to Purify Your Gaze by the will of Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta’ala (SWT). While attending university, I went through the worst of my addiction. I was consistently ...
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Life’s daily grind wears us all down over time, and in recovery it’s tough to keep an eye on sobriety when there’s so much going on. I’ve been working on my sobriety for a few years now and have had phases where I could abstain from unwanted sexual behaviors for long periods of time, just ...
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In 2013, I made the unforgettable journey to the blessed lands of Makkah and Madinah. I had spent most of the year at university feeling isolated and alone, so this trip felt like the light at the end of the tunnel. Needless to say, Madinah left a huge impact on my heart and my life, ...
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Br. Mubeen had 9 months of sobriety and he was really struggling at his work. The company he was working for was performing a review of all of the different employees, and when it was his time to get reviewed by his manager, he started to panic in a way that was irrational, and he ...
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Amir was living a dream life. A proud father of four children, he recently celebrated his 10-year wedding anniversary. Professionally, he graduated with a Master’s degree with a 4.0 GPA through which he landed a great career. He also plays an active role in his Muslim community and has pious company he spends time with. ...
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The Purify Your Gaze Community is a very unique community bringing together Muslims from over 66 different countries across the globe who share a common mission: the commitment to reclaiming wellness and health in their lives as recovering sex addicts. The Community is active each month with lively forum discussions, weekly peer-led phone support meetings, ...
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If you are struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors or addictions, rest-assured that you can change! Join Zeyad Ramadan, Founder of Purify Your Gaze, and inspired viewers from 66 countries around the world as we explore the tools, and strategies that will help you lead a life free from unwanted sexual behaviors. From what is entailed ...
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The very first time I saw pornography was when I was 12 years old. I was very disgusted and the debilitating fear of doing something wrong overtook me, but for some reason I found myself searching for pornography again and again, in secret for the next 14 years of my life. The ecstasy that I ...
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I sat down in my room after watching pornography and I started crying. I felt spiritually sick as I didn’t feel like waking up for fajr. I was a sinner and I wondered how I could be forgiven. But I just couldn’t stop this dirty habit! “What was wrong with me?” I thought to myself, ...
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Let me paint a picture for you. I’m in my 20s, I’m an active member of my Muslim community through a variety of organizations and I’m well-liked by my peers. Uncles and aunties rely on me as a speaker in the community and expect for me to be an inspiration to their children. My peers ...
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While you may think that tawbah wipes away the sin of watching pornography, the imprints that pornography leaves on your mind have not been wiped away. In fact, these pornographic imprints will shape and distort your perceptions about marriage and intimacy. Take Brother Mahmood who joined the Purify Your Gaze online program (now known as ...
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I wake up early in the morning, and I get ready to go off to Fajr prayer, because going to Fajr is important to me. Although, I don’t share it with anyone, I’m furious. As I drive to meet my Lord, I give the empty passenger chair a backhanded blow with my right arm. My ...
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The Purify Your Gaze Community is a very unique community bringing together Muslims from over 35 different countries across the globe who share a common mission: the commitment to reclaiming wellness and health in their lives as recovering sex addicts. The Community is active each month with lively forum discussions, weekly peer-led phone support meetings, ...
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‘Why bother with all of this?” Br. Haseeb, a coaching client of mine was frustrated. It felt like the more committed he was in trying to make the lifestyle changes that would support his recovery, like getting to sleep earlier, the more annoying challenges would rise up in his path. It was ...
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Sulaiman marked one year at Purify Your Gaze with happy tears. Zeyad Ramadan noticed the hope and optimism in his voice. We catch up with him here. 1. What is your favourite quote in recovery? Progress = Happiness by Tony Robbins. 2. What book most impacted your recovery journey and why? The book which has ...
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When individuals first enter the Purify Your Gaze program, the last thing they expect to find is real meaning behind their sex addiction, which on the apparent is filled with layers and layers of darkness. They may look at their journey of recovering from their unwanted sexual behaviors with drudgery, as something shameful they are ...
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In the name of Allah [SWT], the Most Beneficent, the Merciful. By the grace and ability of Allah SWT, I was Alhumdulillah recently able to celebrate six months of sobriety, and I have been asked to share my reflections on this milestone. I admit, I have some reservations about writing this. Why me? Some of ...
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Brother Omar, one of my coaching clients was known as what we call, a high achieving child. Growing up, he excelled in multiple areas academically, and is on his way of becoming a doctor. Ma sha Allah. Even though he has done well in this sphere of his life, brother Omar still struggles with a ...
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Brother Walid was frustrated that he had been in recovery for a number of years now, and with every progress he made, he still fell back into his unwanted sexual behaviors. In a recent coaching call together, it finally hit him what had been missing in his recovery all along: “I was frustrated because I ...
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There comes a point in your life where you realize that you need help and you can’t stop your unwanted sexual behaviors alone. This usually involves you coming out of your comfort zone, whether that be by joining one of our programs, or speaking to a coach or counselor, or going to a support group ...
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When I was a young and impressionable engineering student, I came across a motivational article that said “Engineers get it right the first time.” I really took that phrase to heart, initially from pride in my newly chosen profession, but later as a self-imposed expectation. I did not know at the time that such expectation ...
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Brother Nasir was a PhD Graduate. In one our coaching calls together, he was worrying and fretting because he was not employed in his field of study even though he was secure for at least two more years with his current job, and it met his family’s most basic needs. But now despite having a ...
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Highlights: 8 Months of Sobriety Is Easy: Carlos marks his 8 month sobriety milestone in recovering from unwanted sexual behaviors. He chronicles his recovery journey over the years. Interview with Hamza: Hamza moves into the new phase of his life as a man, and we explored some of the focal points in his recovery as ...
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About this article: Br. Saleem, a member of Purify Your Gaze, writes about a huge and enlightening realization that came through his coaching calls with Zeyad Ramadan where he redefined what success meant for him. I’ve been dissatisfied with my job for a long time. I feel under-appreciated and overworked but I stick with it ...
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One of the points of frustration for many people struggling with their unwanted sexual behaviors is their relationship with Allah SWT. However, since starting their personal recoveries at Purify Your Gaze, many members were able to make great breakthroughs in this area of their life, ma sha Allah. As Allah SWT says in Hadith Qudsi: ...
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A lot of people are stuck in shame, despair and disgust over their sexual sins that they have been engaging in for years. They also feel unworthy in the sight of Allah and feel hung up on the ayahs that speak about purity, such as “Impure women are for impure men, and impure men are ...
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Br. Nabeel sought out help from the Purify Your Gaze program for his unwanted sexual behaviors. Having been engaged in watching pornography for a number of years, he hit a new low by visiting massage parlors. I asked brother Nabeel what he thought caused him to hit to a new low. “The reason why I ...
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Brother Tariq consistently found himself breaking rules in recovery. For many months in our work together in coaching calls, we would set up filters and boundaries to stop him from engaging in his unwanted sexual behaviors, but he was obsessed in finding loopholes and finding ways to transgress them. “I have a software that shuts ...
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Have you ever felt that the only time you feel close and sincere to Allah is after you relapse back to your unwanted sexual behaviors? Brother Ismail would often try to make himself feel bad about relapsing, as a way of drawing near to Allah. “Sometimes I feel that I’m the closest to Allah right ...
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One common mistake that those struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors make is hiding their behaviors from everyone, hoping that these behaviors will go away on their own with time. The reason why this is a mistake is because even though after a relapse, or acting out to your unwanted sexual behaviors, you swear to yourself ...
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While the concept of self-care seems self-explanatory, the absence of it is the single, most predictable and measurable cause for a relapse, or acting out on your unwanted sexual behaviors. Phrases such as “take care of yourself” do not get translated into action in today’s success and achievement oriented society, where the objective is to ...
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Amina has been having a very hard time trying to get married. She sees her friends getting married all around her, and the despair of not finding the right spouse is getting exacerbated as she looks through their wedding photos on Facebook. She begins to doubt herself and feels utter frustration with the process. Many ...
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Ever get hit by an urge to sexually act out and you don’t know what to do about it besides engage in your unwanted sexual behaviors or white knuckle your way through and hold it together? Sure, you may have avoided a close one but how enjoyable is this process and how long will you ...
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When you think of the word “recovery” what comes to mind? I know from the members at Purify Your Gaze, this word initially brought about feelings of resistance, fear, and loss of hope. But it did not stay that way. I am eager to share with you some of their comments, as they describe in ...
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On the outside, everything was going well for Brother Hafeez in his recovery. He was abstaining from his unwanted behaviors, he was taking care of himself, and he had structure to his day with preplanned activities that were meant to bring nurture to him. This was all until a trial exposed and mirrored back his ...
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A lot of men get into marriage with the mindset of hiding their unwanted sexual behaviors from their wives. They have the following thoughts to justify their decision of not disclosing: “I am going to hide this [my unwanted sexual behaviors] from my wife, because it would devastate her.” “This is my problem. There is ...
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“Zeyad Ramadan help me…. I am sick of this I don’t know what to do. I’m disgusted with myself. I have lost hope with myself. I hate myself. I wish suicide wasn’t haram in Islam. I just dont want to exist anymore. If I die right now I know I’ll go to hell. I’ve my ...
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Do you find yourself watching a particular theme of pornography or acting out to certain fetishes, and at the same time you’re not sure why you are so enamored by them? I’m going to explain why your tendency towards a particular theme or sexual fetish could be a sign of unresolved trauma. Brother Dawud is ...
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Brother Abdullah was doing all the “right things” in his recovery. He was taking care of himself by having long stretches of time where his unwanted sexual behaviors were absent and his daily self-care rituals were complete. However, after what seemed to be a few successful weeks of recovery, what followed were a series of ...
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Highlights: Sunset, Sea and Turtles: Musa’s Great Run Interview with Hani – Discussing The Coaching Experience In Their Own Words: C-Seven – Connecting through tears and laughter, our C-Seven brothers found each other in their darkest moments. Highlights of Events In The Purify Your Gaze Community
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Are you afraid of being alone? Do you do everything in your power to avoid being by yourself because you know that would lead you to act out to your unwanted sexual behaviors? Brother Hasan had a debilitating fear of being alone. He wanted his wife’s company all the time, because he knew that once ...
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One of the underlying issues that often drive addictions are relationship wounds. These wounds are formed earlier on in a person’s life and are carried on well into adult life, where the person is not able to relate and connect with others around them, and where they often keep everyone at an arm’s length. These ...
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A lot of people come to the conclusion that “me being a bad Muslim is when I indulge in my addiction, and me being a good muslim is when I pray on time, do my obligations, lower my gaze, and don’t look at things that I’m not supposed to look at it …” But that ...
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The mistake that most women make when dealing with consistent feelings of worthlessness, unhappiness and burnout, is that they try to catch a break through the wrong outlets. One of the ways that may lead you to burnout is when you show a lot of concern and care for people around you such as your ...
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The following example of brother Salim shows just how pointing fingers as a way to justify your behaviors can actually create bigger problems in the future from quitting. Brother Salim’s wife reached out to me when she was days away from her delivery, about her husband, who, a doctor by profession, had been cheating on ...
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Abu Sa’id Al-Khudri (may Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet of Allah (peace be upon him) said: “There was a man from among a nation before you who killed ninety-nine people and then made an inquiry about the most learned person on the earth. He was directed to a monk. He came to ...
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Brother Saad continuously found his mind swaying back and forth with pornographic images. He would often find himself sexualizing almost anyone and anything. This had happened even in the holiest of holy places: “While we performed ‘Umrah, we were in a place where sexuality was non existent in public. The absence of those triggers may ...
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We all experience burnout and become overextended at times, and in those moments, the most important thing we want is to have a break. By engaging in their unwanted sexual behaviors as a way of relief, those struggling find themselves feeling even more depleted, more guilty, and more tired instead of feeling recharged. The reason ...
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Are you a sister struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors? Perhaps the question on your mind is, isn’t this a “guy’s problem”? When I first started the Purify Your Gaze program back in 2010, I have to admit that my marketing and content was geared a 100% to the male audience. As I looked through our ...
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Do you consider yourself “damaged goods” because you have been acting out on your unwanted sexual behaviors for so long? The phrase, “damaged goods,” is powerful in of itself, because it holds so much weight on you that it may actually be hindering you from healing from your unwanted behaviors. It may be keeping you ...
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One of the areas that many individuals are hit hard by their addictions is their performance at work or school. This is due to the unmanageability of their life caused by these unwanted behaviors, that prevent them from performing well or up to their potential. Here’s the story of one brother and how one of ...
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Brother Jameel is in his late 20s. He is the hafidh of the Qur’an, and is currently living in one of the Gulf countries, having moved there from Pakistan to teach Qur’an full time. He also recently got engaged. Brother Jameel is a sex addict and he reached out to me at Purify Your Gaze ...
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A lot of people want to have an enjoyable sex life at the time of marriage, but they are missing a way to prepare and get trained before marriage. What if I were to tell you that there is a way you can prepare before marriage, without turning to pornography for “education?” Yes, you heard ...
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No matter how far you’ve gone the wrong way, you can always turn around and come back. But Sameer didn’t know how to turn back. Sameer broke down crying as we sat down to speak. After he had found some composure I asked him to relay to me what had happened that motivated him to ...
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I was interviewed on One Legacy Radio’s Family Connection show by two marriage therapists on the effect of pornography addiction on Muslim families, and I’d like to share the recording with you! Here are some of the points discussed in our discussion: Defining exactly what is at the root of pornography addiction and why it’s ...
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Highlights: The Road To Honesty In Marriage: Brother Hussain Opens Up To His Spouse Redefining The Definition Of Success In Recovery Highlights of Events In The Purify Your Gaze Community For The Past Month Member Poems Enjoy!
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The Purify Your Gaze Community is a very unique community bringing together Muslims from over 35 different countries across the globe who share a common mission: the commitment to reclaiming wellness and health in their lives as recovering sex addicts. The Community is active each month with lively forum discussions, weekly peer-led phone support meetings, ...
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I was at a Starbucks doing some work and a man probably in his late 50s there saw me so focused and typing away so he started a friendly conversation with me asking me what I was working on. Intent on getting back to work I told him that I work with sex addicts thinking ...
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By no means is this list exhaustive, but here are five ways in which your sex addiction is violating the sanctity of your marriage right now: 1. It gets in the way of you being able to experience soulful sexuality with your wife. The compulsive energy behind a sex addiction turns sex into something primal ...
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A lot of people spend time looking for major signs that suggest that they are addicted, such as the frequency of engaging in their unwanted sexual behaviors in a week or in a month, or how compulsively they are accessing pornography. If these signs are not there, they discard themselves from suffering from unwanted sexual ...
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One of the thoughts that may be sabotaging your efforts to recover from your unwanted sexual behaviors is the belief that marriage will solve these behaviors. You may feel that your unwanted sexual behaviors aren’t really the problem and it’s just a way for you to cope with the loneliness you feel because you cannot ...
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A lot of people spend time and energy wondering if they are really addicted or not, and being hopeful that the answer they find is that they are really not that bad. Instead of spending time working on their unwanted sexual behaviors, or their addiction and getting what they want out of life, they spend ...
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This may sound a little bit crazy, but hear me out here for a minute… Some people will register and pay for a program at Purify Your Gaze because they so badly want to get rid of this unwanted behavior in their life but then after that step, do nothing! When the rubber meets the ...
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I am very excited to share a milestone of a client of mine with you that I think you will benefit from. These are important moments to pause and reflect over, especially if you have recently engaged in your unwanted sexual behaviors, and felt the loss of control and despair over your behaviors, that seem ...
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With your imagination try to picture what a “sex addict” looks like, close your eyes even if you have to… So, what did you see? Many when thinking of the “sex addict” will think of the stereotypical image of a creepy man wearing a trench coat who hangs out around parks. Or of a “pornography ...
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Have you ever felt that because you’ve been struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors for so long, you are doomed forever and you cannot begin to think of living a life without these behaviors? You may have thoughts like: “Since I’ve been addicted for so long, I’ve got no hope, no chance in my life. So ...
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You may believe that success is only about counting the number of days that you are abstinent from your unwanted sexual behaviors. While that is a measure of success, it is not the greatest fruit of recovery. Men and women who have sought some sort of help for their unwanted sexual behaviors in our programs, ...
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Many Muslims, both male and female, single AND married are struggling with pornography addiction. While caught up in this vicious cycle, they are often sincerely looking for help on none other than Islamic fatwa websites. Unfortunately, fatwa websites aren’t equipped to help individuals with addictions, something more is needed… Listen to this valuable discussion between ...
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We’ve all heard at Purify Your Gaze the personal tragedies that addictions bring. We are all familiar with the common ones, resulting in loss of relationships like marriage, people losing their jobs, or their faith. There’s a real cost and price that individuals have to pay because of their addictions but I think why it’s ...
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The following video refers to a story of a young man, who signed up for a 5 years membership to a pornographic website, which delivered explicit content not only to his inbox every week, but he auto-forwarded those very emails to his friends. Six months later however, the brother passed away in an accident, and ...
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A while back I held a conference call with some of our Breaking Free members and asked them, “Think of yourself the moments where you were afraid, doubtful, worried and anxious before you began your healing and recovery, what did you wish someone could tell you?” What each member shared really was beautiful and came ...
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Ever volunteered in a weekend Islamic seminar, only to find yourself accessing pornography later that night? During one of our coaching calls, br. Abdullah uncovered the main reason why he kept himself busy all the time. He feared to be alone by himself because he was afraid he would sexually act out if he had ...
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Asalam Alaikum and welcome to my first post on the Purify Your Gaze blog! People often ask me, “don’t you ever find yourself feeling drained doing the work that you do?” And I emphatically answer, NO! Alhamdulilah I love the work that I do with Purify Your Gaze and the individuals who I’ve been blessed ...
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