Medicine, Marriage & Money with Dr. Kate Mangona: Recent Episodes
Kate Mangona, MD
We will focus on creating marital interdependence and financial independence. In this space, we will examine what makes a strong relationship and what it takes to become financially independent with your spouse. What small tweaks can you make today that will create a huge and lasting impact in your relationship with your spouse and your bank account? There is enough joy, love and wealth in this world for everyone. It just takes determination, desire and an open mind and heart to find it and take it.
In this heartfelt and enlightening episode of Love Lab MD, Dr. Kate welcomes back Dr. Marissa Caudill, aka The Parent Doctor. Dr. Marissa Caudill, a child psychiatrist and parenting coach, reflects on her journey in personal and relational growth, her transformative experiences, and her time at the Honeymoon 2.0 retreat with her husband of 14 years. Together, they delve into key lessons about love, self-discovery, and prioritizing marriage amid the chaos of life.
Key Highlights: 1. The Power of Saying Yes to Growth:
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- Dr. Marissa Caudill shared how she and her husband, both psychiatrists, decided to attend Honeymoon 2.0. Although it felt indulgent at first, the decision to prioritize their relationship proved invaluable. She noted that her husband’s unwavering support in saying “yes” to things that are important to her has been a cornerstone of their partnership.
- She reflected on their shared experiences at personal growth events, such as Tony Robbins’ Date with Destiny, which laid the groundwork for a deeper connection and prepared them for the transformative work at Honeymoon 2.0.
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Key Takeaways from Honeymoon 2.0:
- Love Languages Revisited: Dr. Marissa Caudill discovered that both she and her husband express love through acts of service but prefer to receive love through words of affirmation. This revelation helped them shift their interactions and become more intentional in meeting each other’s emotional needs.
- Improved Communication: Practicing tools from the retreat allowed the couple to better navigate conflicts and understand when to vent versus problem-solve. Dr. Marissa Caudill shared how this new awareness prevented misunderstandings and strengthened their connection.
- Erotic Love Languages: Learning about sensual and sexual energies deepened their understanding of intimacy, adding a playful and exploratory element to their relationship.
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The Role of Pausing for Self-Reflection:
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Dr. Marissa Caudill reflected on a pivotal moment during the pandemic when she realized that her happiness was her own responsibility. This shift in mindset, spurred by the Dickens Process at a Tony Robbins event, transformed her perspective on her marriage and life. She realized the importance of clearly communicating her needs and letting go of anger and resentment.
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Balancing Parenthood and Marriage:
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As a devoted mother, Dr. Marissa Caudill shared how she prepares her children for time apart when she and her husband attend retreats or trips. From scavenger hunts to hidden notes, she keeps their emotional connection strong, ensuring the kids understand the importance of nurturing a strong marital bond.
- She emphasized that children benefit from seeing their parents invest in their relationship, creating a stable and loving environment.
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Investing in Marriage:
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Dr. Marissa Caudill called Honeymoon 2.0 the “best investment” they’ve ever made in their marriage. Beyond the immediate benefits, the retreat gave them tools and insights that continue to enrich their daily lives, enhancing their connection, family dynamics, and even professional pursuits.
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The Ripple Effect of a Strong Marriage:
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A secure and joyful relationship positively impacts all areas of life. Dr. Marissa Caudill shared how her renewed sense of marital harmony has allowed her to show up more fully in her role as a parent, coach, and entrepreneur, creating a foundation of support and love that extends to her entire family.
Dr. Marissa Caudill's Wisdom: * "I am responsible for my own happiness." Recognizing this truth helped her shift from blame to action, taking ownership of her emotional well-being and marital satisfaction. * Take time to pause. Whether through a retreat, a date night, or moments of quiet reflection, intentional time away from daily stressors fosters growth and clarity. * Keep growing. Even as experts in the field of psychiatry, Dr. Marissa Caudill and her husband continuously seek opportunities to deepen their relationship, proving that growth is a lifelong journey.
You can find Dr. Marissa Caudill here: Www.theparentdoctor.com
In this episode of Love Lab MD, Dr. Kate interviews Dr. Lara Hochman, a family medicine physician and founder of Happy Day Health, a boutique physician matchmaking agency. Known as the "Medical Matchmaker," Dr. Lara Hochman is passionate about physician well-being and matching doctors with private practices that allow them to avoid burnout and rediscover joy in medicine.
Key Highlights: 1. Dr. Lara Hochman Love Story:
* Lara shared her serendipitous and adorable love story with her husband, a psychiatrist, whom she met in college. Despite being shy at the time, she approached him after a series of coincidental encounters. Their connection grew from organic chemistry homework sessions into a 21-year partnership, including 16 years of marriage, two daughters, and a bustling household filled with pets.
* She reflected on how their relationship continues to evolve, with moments of "butterflies" still sparking after all these years, despite the ups and downs of life.
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Relationship Dynamics:
- The couple practices intentional communication and prioritizes spending quality time together, including weekly date nights, which they view as essential for maintaining their connection.
- Dr. Lara Hochman emphasized the importance of listening, validating each other's feelings, and focusing on the positives in a partner. While arguments happen, they aim to resolve them in ways that strengthen rather than weaken their bond.
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Managing Chaos and Stress:
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As a dual-physician household with active children and a growing number of pets, Dr. Lara Hochman admitted that chaos can sometimes strain their relationship. However, staying on the same page, involving their kids in family management, and openly communicating have been key to navigating life’s challenges.
- She also spoke about adjusting expectations and accepting that things won’t always stay the same as they evolve over time.
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The Creation of Happy Day Health:
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Burned out by the lack of autonomy in traditional medicine, Dr. Lara Hochman left her practice in 2017. After taking time to recharge and explore new paths, she discovered a passion for helping physicians find better job opportunities that align with their values.
- With encouragement from her husband, she turned her organic matchmaking efforts into a business, Happy Day Health, which helps physicians and private practices connect. She now advises doctors on finding fulfilling roles and works with practices to find the right candidates.
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The Power of Taking a Pause:
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During her career transition, Dr. Lara Hochman dedicated one day a week to herself, trying new activities and reflecting on her priorities. She emphasized the importance of creating pauses in life—even for just five minutes a day—to break the cycle of busyness and reconnect with yourself.
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Wisdom for Listeners:
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Dr. Lara Hochman encouraged listeners to practice flexibility, communicate openly, and take intentional time for self-care. Small changes, like a few minutes of quiet reflection or a focus on positive interactions, can lead to transformative growth in both personal and professional life.
Where to Find Dr. Lara Hochman: Website: www.happydayhealth.co (not .com)
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/larahochman/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@medicalmatchmaker
TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@happydaymd
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/happydaymd/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/HappyDayMD1
EEC: https://medicalmatchmaker.carrd.co/
Dr. Lara Hochman's journey is an inspiring reminder to prioritize love, wellness, and self-discovery while navigating the complexities of work and family life. This episode radiates encouragement for anyone looking to thrive in both their relationships and careers.
Doctor Love Story Confessions: My Secret to Thriving through Tough Conversations in Love: Vent with intention.
When you’re caught in the tension of a disagreement with your partner—whether it’s over a $50,000 purchase or a weekend trip with friends—it’s easy to feel stuck between “do it anyway” or “compromise and feel resentful.” But there’s a third way! Healthy venting is your superpower. Talk to a trusted, neutral confidant—not someone who’ll stir the pot, but someone who’ll help you honor your heart and your relationship. This isn’t about winning or losing—it’s about building love and alignment together.
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Dr. Dianah T. Lake, MD (also known as Dr. Di) is an emergency medicine physician, best-selling author, speaker, fitness & weight loss coach, menopause wellness expert, autism parent advocate and founder of Dr. Di Fitness.
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Dr. Brittne Halford MD, MPH is an Internal Medicine Physician. Originally from Flint, Michigan, she attended the University of Michigan (Go Blue!) for college. She completed medical school at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, where she also completed a master’s degree in Public Health.
Now located in Boston, and works as an Academic Hospitalist
In addition to medicine, Dr. Halford is an entrepreneur and co-founder of Bramilyn and Rose (@bramilynandrose), a satin-lined hair accessories brand for women and children. She also shares her passion for personal finance and building generational wealth with others through her YOUTUBE channel and financial coaching business More JOY More Wealth. Dr. Halford shares her experience with paying off $138,000 of student loans in 3 years and helps women obtain more JOY in their lives through tailored money management strategies. She is a wife and mother to her children Brooke and KJ.
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Dr. Chrissy Guidry, after 4 years of medical school, completed 8 years of residency and fellowship training to become a Trauma Surgeon. She achieved double board certification in General Surgery and Critical Care Surgery. During her training, she often thought, "Once I get a job as a real doctor, I will be successful and then be happy." She believed that everything would be more fulfilling once she completed her training. However, a few years after finishing her training, she realized there was still something missing. She discovered that achieving happiness was a prerequisite for a successful career.
Dr. Guidry learned that pursuing happiness is an intentional practice. Through studying and making active changes to her daily habits, she now experiences a life of abundant happiness, which she views as the true success in life. She now teaches this philosophy to her colleagues, believing that tapping into the best version of themselves enhances their ability to "docere" (from the Latin word meaning "to teach" and the root of the word "doctor") in their medical practice. Register to Honeymoon 2.0 Here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/honeymoon
Meet Dr. Seema Desai, a former dentist turned success coach, residing in Austin, Texas, where she balances her roles as a wife and mother alongside her professional pursuits. Driven by a passion to empower outwardly successful leaders to find fulfillment from within, Seema's journey is rooted in breaking free from traditional definitions of success instilled by her hard-working Indian immigrant parents.
Raised to equate success with achieving societal benchmarks—becoming a doctor, earning well, and starting a family—Seema initially fulfilled these expectations, yet internally felt unfulfilled and stagnant. Despite her life appearing picture-perfect on social media, she sensed a profound misalignment with her true desires.
Recognizing this disparity propelled Seema towards a transformative shift. By delving into the core of her discontent, she began to cultivate a profound sense of inner peace. This newfound clarity not only enhanced her roles as a mother, wife, and professional but also opened doors to unprecedented opportunities that her previous mindset would have deemed impossible.
Her journey began with a fundamental shift in perspective, illuminating how her preconceived notions limited her capacity for genuine happiness and personal growth. Through this introspective process, Seema discovered a path to limitless and authentic happiness uniquely her own. Website: https://drseemadesai.com/
In this episode, Dr. Manish, shares the story of his relationship with his wife, Seema and how they have intentionally designed a relationship where they each have more than enough “free time”. From their first encounter, where Manish impulsively embraced Seema despite having never met her before, Manish knew she was special.
Dr. Desai reflects on the initial attraction, drawn by the alignment of their backgrounds and values. Although their chemistry was real, Manish admits that the early years of their marriage were marked by disagreements rooted in their differing family dynamics—Seema's reserved upbringing contrasted with Manish's more vocal background.
Trough introspection and mutual growth, they have navigated challenges such as Seema's post-partum depression and the pressures of their demanding schedules.
Together, they discovered the importance of prioritizing wellness and lifestyle over financial gain, finding joy in shared activities like workouts and walks. Ultimately, their story illustrates the power of love, authenticity, and the journey of self-discovery within a marriage, culminating in a symbolic helicopter ride representing their united journey through life's highs and lows.
Visit her YouTube Channel: www.youtube.com/@drannetruong In this episode, Dr. Truong, a specialist in pain management, sports medicine, and sexual health shares valuable insights into the transformative power of intimacy on health and happiness. Advocating for proactive approaches to sexual health, Dr. Truong highlights the numerous benefits of making love on the regular, including improved cardiac health, longevity, and reduced risk of depression.
Married for 31 years to a corporate executive/engineer, she emphasizes the importance of family and recounts the challenges faced in the early years of marriage, including demanding work schedules and moments of doubt…like the time her husband called her in the ICU asking for a divorce. Despite these hurdles, Dr. Truong and her husband prioritize communication and quality time, recognizing that marriage is a journey of growth and understanding.
She encourages listeners to prioritize their sexual health, emphasizing the importance of routine blood work which is typically covered by insurance. Delving into her expertise in men's sexual health, Dr. Truong discusses innovative approaches such as stem cell therapy and hormone treatments, highlighting the holistic nature of sexual wellness and its impact on relationships.
Dispelling misconceptions about pharmaceutical aids, Dr. Truong suggests that consistent physical activity, such as daily walking, can offer natural alternatives to enhance performance in the bedroom. With a focus on holistic well-being, she underscores the significance of maintaining intimate relationships and seeking professional guidance for any sexual health concerns.
Dr. Truong advocates for open dialogue and proactive care in maintaining sexual health, emphasizing the importance of addressing physical, emotional, and psychological factors. She shares her own regimen and encourages listeners to prioritize self-care, stressing the importance of regular physical activity and creating spaces for candid conversations about sexuality.
Join us for this enlightening conversation on the connection between love, longevity, and overall happiness.
There are two kinds of wives. Those who think their hubby can do no wrong.
And those who think their hubby can do no right.
Which one are you?
Let’s be honest.
This awareness is KEY to a magical marriage. And no that Sh*# is not made up. Or is it?
Faryal’s WISDOM:
Do you have a husband who always puts themselves first? Do you consider this a blessing or a curse?
How to go from BITTER to AT EASE.
Do you have a husband who cares less about other people’s opinoins?
Again-a blessing or a curse?
Would you rather have a husband who can do no wrong or do no right?
Listen for more about why Faryal left and returned to clinical medicine and how these transitions affected her marriage.
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Ann Tsung, MD, MPH is an emergency medicine, critical care, and aerospace-trained physician. She works full-time as a flight surgeon at NASA and works part-time in the ICU and the ER. She is also a real estate investor and podcast show host of Productivity MD, formerly known as It's Not Rocket Science Show. As a Productivity Doctor, she helps people free up 10 hours a week or more in 1 hour so they can be in their zone of genius.
She met all societal definitions of success and yet was not as happy as she should be. She then embarked on a learning and self-discovery journey around the world with her fiance. She spent thousands and countless hours on self-work over the span of multiple years which included brain training, leadership, peak performance, emotional intelligence, and coaching.
All these self-work and learnings allowed her to:
- Trek Everest Base Camp and Three Passes by age 25
- Pick up CrossFit and Olympic weight lifting age 27 and work out 3x week consistently
- Travel to all 7 wonders of the world by age 27
- Summit Kilimanjaro age 28
- Launch an Amazon product age 30 during her critical care fellowship
- Take her first mini-retirement by traveling the world for 8 months at age 31
- Travel to all 7 continents by age 33 and step on the South Pole
- Create a podcast age 34
- Go from 0 knowledge in real estate to investing in a 4-unit apartment within 1 year at age 34
- Assess two commercial properties under contract and buy a primary residence within 6 months postpartum of her first baby
- Launch Productivity Coaching, YouTube channel, and social media presence/brand within a few months
Her productivity philosophy is about using human optimization, mind-body connection, learning proper skills, habits, and tools that empower people to take control of their professional and personal lives.
She always maintains that anyone can achieve success and fulfillment in life with the right tools and knowledge as long as they are willing to take uncomfortable action.
Her goal is to provide tips, mindset change techniques and tools about productivity, and goal-setting to help people get more done with minimal effort so they can create more time to do the things that they really love and to spend it with the people that really matter to them. Links: 1. Website: https://www.productivitymd.com/ 2. Book Your 30-Minute Productivity and Peak Performance Coaching Discovery Call and get 10 hours a week back in 1 hour https://calendly.com/tsungannmd/30-minutecoaching 3. Peak Performance and Productivity Resources: https://form.jotform.com/233045660320041
Are you exhausted?
Can you no longer find joy in your life or relationships?
It’s time for a change or maybe a transition.
Listen to how Dr. Radhika Sharma Curtis, and her hubby, both OB/GYNs, decided to take control of their lives and recreate the joy they craved and how you can too.
And if you are looking to spice up your love life, come on Honeymoon 2.0 with your hunny. Save the date now!
October 7-11, 2024 at the Four Seasons in Maui. An unforgettable couples retreat where desires will be fulfilled. Haleakala magical mountain bike ride through a cloud, surfing, hula dancing, couples coaching, intimacy challenges and more!
Kate's shares two stories, one about a woman who doesn't think her father loves her anymore another about the time she got frustrated, angry and her hubby instead of reacting to her frustration and anger he became compassionate and loving instead. Learn how you can use these 8 steps to create more love, compassion and playfulness in your relationship. When times get tough, when you think they dont love you anymore, or when they are just angry or frustrated listen on for more tips for a successful loving, and passionate marraige. We are excited to announce now in 2024 marriage intimacy retreat on october 7th -11th save the date. More details to come!!!
Do y’all have a spouse who isn’t always easy to be around? And what about yourself? Are you always easy to be around? Would you invite yourself to cuddle in bed knowing what energy you are exuding today?
Do y’all have a spouse with a “quick tongue” or do you have the quick tongue, and also know a warm heart is always hiding under those harsh words which are merely only a disguise? A call for help, representative of the unmet needs on the inside?
Listen to Jimmy Turner, MD, host and founder of Money Meets Medicine, certified life coach, anesthesiologist, hubby, father, venture capitalist, and all around outstanding guy as we discuss the ins and outs of real life and what it took to carry him through a very dark place in his life.
Dr Borger is a Mom of 3, wife, board-certified physician, and successful business owner of both The Aesthetic Doctor and Concierge Medical Arts.
Concierge Medical Arts is a Concierge Medical Aesthetics practice located in Fayetteville, NC offering full-spectrum non-surgical medical aesthetics centered on the individual patient and their experience and goals.
The Aesthetic Doctor encompasses the Podcast “The Aesthetic Doctor” as well as Courses, Life and Business Coaching.
Why you need to Surround yourself with humans who:
- Push you
- Empower you
- Love you
Be the friend who:
- Pushes
- Empowers
- Loves
Give yourself permission to fall down and then get back up. Allow yourself distance from those who drain, nag, and keep you down.
We all criticize and blame our spouse at various points in our relationship. Why? Our ego? Does it ever feel good to be blamed and criticized for an honest mistake or for being human? Or for just being ourselves? Listen to his episode to hear how to stop this vicious cycle and a simple technique to try out today. Sign up for a consult call today: https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call Enter Kate Louise Sign up for a consult cal today: insert My Calendly link
This technique can get you unstuck.
Have you ever seen those older couples in action?…you know…the ones who have been married for 20 or 30 years. They are so in sync. They are in tune. They walk to the same cadence and communicate with the same lingo. This is not a coincidence. This is neuroplasticity at its finest. Through struggles and joys, these couples are in tune with each other’s needs and wants and do not even realize how much mirroring is actually taking place in their relationship because it becomes their way of living and loving.
Mirroring is a concept in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) that involves subtly matching the behavior, body language, and communication style of another person. When used effectively, mirroring can enhance your relationship with your spouse by fostering rapport, building trust, and creating a deeper sense of connection. Here's how mirroring can be beneficial and some tips to avoid potential pitfalls:
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Rapport building: Mirroring helps create a sense of familiarity and similarity between partners. By mirroring your spouse's nonverbal cues, such as posture, gestures, or facial expressions, you can establish a subconscious connection that promotes understanding and empathy.
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Communication enhancement: Mirroring also extends to verbal communication. By matching your spouse's language patterns, tone of voice, and even the speed of speech, you can enhance communication by establishing a more harmonious and comfortable conversation flow.
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Building trust: Mirroring can help build trust and a sense of validation. When you mirror your spouse, it shows that you are actively listening, understanding, and accepting their perspective. This can create an environment where both partners feel safe to express themselves openly and honestly.
It's important to distinguish mirroring from mimicking. While mirroring is about subtly aligning with your spouse's behavior and communication style, mimicking involves imitating them in a way that may seem insincere or mocking. Mimicking can be detrimental to a relationship, as it may lead to resentment or a lack of authenticity.
To avoid mirroring narcissism, where one partner excessively mirrors the other without maintaining their own identity, consider the following:
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Maintain individuality: Remember to maintain your own unique personality, opinions, and interests. Healthy mirroring should not entail losing yourself or compromising your values.
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Balance reciprocity: Mirroring should be a two-way street. Both partners should engage in mirroring behaviors, ensuring a balanced and equal exchange of understanding and connection.
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Adapt to change: As individuals grow and change over time, it's essential to adapt your mirroring techniques accordingly. Be open to new experiences, perspectives, and communication styles to keep the relationship dynamic and thriving.
Here are a few relationship hacks for building deeper connections and understanding beyond mirroring:
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Active listening: Practice active listening by giving your spouse your full attention, maintaining eye contact, and responding empathetically. This helps create an atmosphere of trust and understanding.
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Emotional intelligence: Develop emotional intelligence by being aware of your own emotions and understanding those of your spouse. This allows you to respond appropriately and empathetically to their needs.
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Quality time: Dedicate quality time to connect and engage in activities that both partners enjoy. This strengthens the bond and creates shared experiences.
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Express appreciation: Regularly express gratitude and appreciation for your spouse's efforts, qualities, and achievements. This fosters a positive and supportive environment.
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Foster open communication: Encourage open and honest communication by creating a safe space for your spouse to express their thoughts, concerns, and desires without judgment or criticism.
Remember, building a deeper connection and understanding in a relationship requires consistent effort, patience, and a willingness to grow together.
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So apparently I make it look easy.
I have been asked by several mothers, physicians, and friends how I do it. Do what??? Make mothering and doctoring look easy? Here's the answer. The SECRET divulged. 🤪💕🤪💞 It's not easy, I never pretend it is, and I keep going. I mess up A LOT. And then I keep going. That's it. Period. I mess up a hella lot. For instance, take today for example. It’s my half admin day, so I take the kids to school, attend the parents club gathering, and jet off to an in person meeting where I left one of the necessary documents at home in another bag. I keep going. Next I pick two kids up from half day school, and jet back home to meet our nanny, so she can relieve me for a work teams meeting and coaching zoom call only to realize the teams work meeting had been scheduled an hour earlier than I thought. I keep going. I then finish up loose ends on some work projects before running out the door again to make a work out class only to get a text from my nanny that she can’t find the minivan keys. I keep going. I then cancel my work out class as I'm driving away ($15 penalty but who’s counting…it’s more about my missed glutes and thighs session and 40 minutes of back and forth traffic) as I speed (not really) back home to deliver the keys to our nanny so she can take my two youngest to swim lessons an hour late. The entire universe feels a bit thrown off. I keep going. Here I sit back in my office finding my focus again. One more zoom collaboration session. One more work teams meeting. One more work social outing. Total FOMO wathcing coach friends on social arrive in Dallas from all over the world for a coaching event I cannot attend. One more client to coach at 9pm. And then off to bed. I just keep going. Giving myself grace. Reminding myself to give everyone else grace. How do you make it look easy? I assure you, from the outside, you make it look easy too. I would genuinely love to know.
Dr. Kara J. Wada is an allergist-immunologist in Columbus, Ohio and is affiliated with multiple hospitals in the area, including Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center and James Cancer Hospital and Solove Research Institute. She received her medical degree from University of Illinois College of Medicine at Chicago and has been in practice between 11-20 years.
We know that modern life drives modern diseases. Allergies. Asthma. Autoimmunity. Cancer. Diabetes. Obesity. Heart Disease.
What do these modern diseases have in common? They are all driven by TMI - Too Much Inflammation.
Wouldn’t it be AMAZING if you could better understand WHAT is going on with your immune system & HOW to start taking steps to improve your (and your family’s) health, that’s doable with your go-go-go schedule, and actually works!
That’s why I’m so excited to share something that will help moms and families like you feel Clear & Confident knowing you are doing the BEST for your health and the health of your family: The DeMystifying Inflammation Summit 2023 is a free 3-day event that will help you finally understand what’s causing your inflammation and what you can do about it–whether you have a diagnosis or not!
For 3 days, September 18 - September 20, 2023, Dr. Kara Wada of the Crunchy Allergist is bringing you presentations from 25+ industry experts who have found ways to Finally understand what’s causing your inflammation and what you can do about it – whether you have a diagnosis or not!
You’ll hear about everything from the Role of Integrative Approaches in Inflammation, Environmental Exposures, Inflammation, and Immune Disruption, Oral Inflammation and Its Effects on the Whole Body's System, and more.
It's not too late to register to enhance your relationship together our relationship experts. Join our summit now!
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Dr. Laura Fortner is a Board Certified OBGYN , Speaker, Author, and CEO of the Med Mal Coach. She’s been with her farmer husband for 36 years and married for 27 years. She has 4 children. Two boys (ages 23, 21) and two girls (ages 19, 13), three Goldendoodles, and lots of animals that live on their farm. They also grow chickens for chic fil a and have grass-fed jersey dairy cows. What you will learn: How they first met How to navigate medical malpractice litigation How to fall back in love again.
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 15-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you how to be less annoyed at your partner, feel more connected, and embrace more of your femininity.
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
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Are you in a high value relationship?
Are you a high value spouse?
High value has nothing to do with your net worth, your professional status, or even how many friends you have. High value is knowing how much you have to offer the world, your family, and yourself, and showing up that way everywhere you go. High value couples know their worth and their strengths together, and are highly successful at life because of their relationships and communication skills.
Listen for the 6 things high value couples do NOT do and start making small tweaks in your life to rise to the top (or stay at the top) in your high value marriage/relationship!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 15-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you how to be less annoyed at your partner, feel more connected, and embrace more of your femininity.
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
YOU WILL LEARN:
- Why choosing your partner over yourself serves you
- How to save taxes and build wealth for your children
- How to close the income gap for women in medicine
- When Financial Differentiation in Marriage creates Financial peace
- How Brittne went from poverty to wealthy through personal fulfillment, integrity, and determination
I had the pleasure of meeting Brittne at The White Coat Investor Conference in 2023 and immediately knew she was an incredible human.
Dr. Brittne Halford MD, MPH is an Internal Medicine Physician. Originally from Flint, Michigan, she attended the University of Michigan (Go Blue!) for college. She completed medical school at Northwestern University’s Feinberg School of Medicine, where she also completed a master’s degree in Public Health.
Now located in Boston, and works as an Academic Hospitalist.
In addition to medicine, Dr. Halford is an entrepreneur and co-founder of Bramilyn and Rose (@bramilynandrose), a satin-lined hair accessories brand for women and children. She also shares her passion for personal finance and building generational wealth with others through her YOUTUBE channel and financial coaching business More JOY More Wealth. Dr. Halford shares her experience with paying off $138,000 of student loans in 3 years and helps women obtain more JOY in their lives through tailored money management strategies. She is a wife and mother to her children Brooke and KJ.
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 15-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you how to be less annoyed at your partner, feel more connected, and embrace more of your femininity.
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Have you ever wondered what a coach can do for you? Especially in your relationship and goals-setting. Listen to this episode to find out. How you can you utilize coaching to do the thing you’ve been putting off or to be the person you want to be in your relationship. Sometimes that starts about the relationship with yourself. Listen with us and take your life to the next level! Find more joy, more love, and more purpose.
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 15-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you how to be less annoyed at your partner, feel more connected, and embrace more of your femininity.
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Want to make up with your spouse after a fight but don’t know how?
Here are 8 things to do after every argument that really work.
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 15-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you how to be less annoyed at your partner, feel more connected, and embrace more of your femininity.
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Dr. Anna Larson is a queer parent, family medicine physician, advocate, and entrepreneur. Henri Larson is a fabulous Baba, physical therapist, and woodworker/renovator extraordinaire. They have been married for 5 wonderful years and have an incredible 2 year old who is the light of their life. I personally bonded with Anna in January on a physician retreat and have since had the pleasure to serve as Anna & Henris’ relationship coach.
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 15-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you how to be less annoyed at your partner, feel more connected, and embrace more of your femininity.
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
My top 10 Traveling With Children Tips when you are traveling as a solo adult which provides its own challenges than when traveling with your spouse as discussed in last week's episode.
You can also read here the full article of my Authority Magazine interview:
Falling In Love Again With Your Spouse: Dr. Kate Mangona On 5 Things You Need To Rekindle Love In A Marriage That Has Gone Cold.
2023 UPDATED TRAVEL TIPS
Don’t let photos fool you. Traveling with any amount of littles is stressful which is why I updated my Traveling with Littles Tips. Don’t even mention that Cata did not even have a ticket 24 hours before the flight and executive decisions had to be made. TRAVELING WITH LITTLE TIPS 1. It is never about the destination. Always about the journey. I’ve found this to be deeply true. If we can enjoy the journey, the destination becomes wherever we are at all times. The destination never lasts forever, yet the journey is infinitely present. If we can imagine this, we can create it. 2. In the blink of an eye, emotions will fly. Notice how the face of the tiniest changes drastically from photo one to photo two. If we can accept this, chaos feels so much lighter. This is normal and expected. This is normal and expected. Repeat after me next time your toddler flings themselves on the ground, the other passenger gives you a look, or your preteen rolls their eyes. “This is normal and expected.” 3. Forgiveness & self-compassion are key. We may do things or say things we are not proud of while our littles are jumping out of their seats, touching the airport bathroom floors, and creating waterfalls of French fries and applesauce. The same goes for our spouse. As parents, we sometimes forget we are on the same team and experience fits of emotions while exchanging uncalculated words. This is normal. Accept it. Give yourself what you need in the moment. Forgive everyone. Move forward. 4. GIVE EVERYONE THE BENEFIT OF THE DOUBT! We never know what may have happened to them earlier that day or week. We do not know the hardships they carry nor the emotions they feel. If you can’t do this, come talk to me. 5. Carry bags of skittles to hand out to all who help you along the way. The airline staff will love you. Friendships will be made.
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When Love Languages Are Different and what to do about it
5 steps to take today to increase the love in your relationship
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Awareness of their “giving” love language
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Awareness of your “receiving” love language
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How to accommodate #2. (i.e. love yourself first)
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Building the emotional bank account from #1 (collecting the evidence)
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Loving in return
BOOM
LOVE EXPLOSION
Listen and take action to conquer all 5 steps! plus my review of the recently published Forbes Article written by Amy Shoenthal.
“Three Experts On How To Set Boundaries That Actually Work”
How to Manage Emotional Flooding in your Marriage
In 3 simple steps (or 5 if you count the 1.5 and 2.5 separately)
- Be aware that you indeed are experiencing emotional flooding. What is emotional flooding? It’s when your amygdala hijacks your frontal lobes and you cannot think clearly. If you react during this 20-minute period of flooding, you will likely say, or do something you regret. Awareness is KEY.
1.5 Label your emotions. This is sometimes enough to take the edge off your big emotions which may be erupting and wanting to be heard and seen!
- Allow the emotion. So much more to be said here.
2.5 Shift the focus. For at LEAST 20 minutes, get your mind off the conversation that led to the flooding. For 20 minutes, no ruminating allowed. Listen to the full episode for some examples.
- Come back to the conversation only when ready. Once you find your calm or your center. Once you can be curious or loving. If you can’t get here, stay on steps 1, 1.5, 2, and 2.5. This is super duper important. Maybe you don’t even need to go back to the conversation. This is up to you. Listen to episode 113 for more depth on these tips!
Did you have a Happy Mother’s Day!?
If you did, fabulous! If not, it is not too late. Consider everyday Mother’s day to yourself.
Join me for 5 ways to achieve greater connection with your spouse as well as tips to do Mother’s Day again and again and again.
As mothers we often feel guilty or selfish when we do things or want things that inconvenience others.
Why? Delete those unhelpful narratives.
If Mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy. It’s true.
The whole family is miserable when you are miserable.
Your children feel it and eventually model it.
Listen for you. Listen for your children. Listen for your spouse too!
Happy Mother’s Day Mamá!
Ever thought about taking a year long sabbatical?
Listen as my dear friend Latifat discusses how and why she made the decision to step away from her GI practice and travel the world with her family.
Dr. Latifat Akintade is a gastroenterologist and the founder of MoneyFitMD School, a program she developed to help women physicians control their finances and create wealth without working extra shifts or sacrificing wellbeing.
She is the mother of three strong little girls and the loving wife of 11 years.
After this inspirational interview with Dr. Latifat, we will find ourselves closer to financiaAngel May Montecalvol freedom, practicing medicine from love instead of obligation, and traveling the world with our families.
Also, make sure to check out her new book:
Done with Broke: The Woman Physician’s Guide to More Money and Less Hustle
Ever thought about taking a year long sabbatical?
Listen as my dear friend Latifat discusses how and why she made the decision to step away from her GI practice and travel the world with her family.
Dr. Latifat Akintade is a gastroenterologist and the founder of MoneyFitMD School, a program she developed to help women physicians control their finances and create wealth without working extra shifts or sacrificing wellbeing.
She is the mother of three strong little girls and the loving wife of 11 years.
After this inspirational interview with Dr. Latifat, we will find ourselves closer to financial freedom, practicing medicine from love instead of obligation, and traveling the world with our families.
Also, make sure to check out her new book:
Done with Broke: The Woman Physician’s Guide to More Money and Less Hustle
Ready for your next level marriage?
Swim with Sharks and take your relationship to the next level!
Listen to episode 110 for 3 tips you can try today.
Ever feel like your spouse doesn't prioritize your needs?
Are you prioritizing your needs? Both breed disappointment.
The energy that disappointment brings into a relationship can be devastating and heartbreaking.
In this episode I give you three things to try to become more aligned with your spouse and love even deeper.
Swimming with sharks may or may not be one of them...Figuratively and literally.
But seriously. You don’t actually have to swim with sharks. You get to pick
Have you ever felt embarrassed about being single or scared to start dating again? Do you have any close friends who really want a life partner, but have not yet found the right person?
White Coat Romance might be the answer.
Chrystene Nguyen, MD, a Family and Lifestyle Medicine physician in Southern California. She is Founder of the White Coat Romance Dating App for healthcare professionals and students in the USA and Canada.
Listen as we discuss why the most important relationship you have in your life is the relationship with yourself and the keys to any successful relationship.
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Dr. Archana Shrestha is an emergency physician, certified life coach, bestselling author, speaker and entrepreneur. She is the founder and chief wellness officer at Mighty Mom MD and the co-founder of Women in White Coats. Archana’s mission and purpose is to uplift and empower working moms, in particular women doctors.
Drawing from her own experience of transformation from being a burnout physician to regaining, designing, and retaining control of her physician life, Dr. Myrdalis Diaz-Ramirez created the maxAllure Mastermind. It is now her passion to help physicians who feel overwhelmed and lost in medicine to find a new path and control their lives through entrepreneurship. She is a self-made entrepreneur with experience in owning different clinics which she successfully sold in the past. Most recently, she has partnered with a group of female physicians to create the SahaVida Institute, a wellness center in Sarasota, FL, where she treats her patients. She has found in Functional Medicine the bridge between conventional and alternative medicine. Besides having owned other businesses, Dr. Myrdalis Díaz-Ramírez is a dual Board-Certified Anesthesiologist and Interventional Pain Management Physician. She is also a Medical Expert, Professor, Author, Speaker, Podcaster, and Mastermind Facilitator. Through her Mastermind, physicians can transform their personal and professional lives. These physicians have found a new path and they now live the new vision for their lives and businesses that was once only a dream!
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Dr. John Jurica is a board-certified family physician who began doing nonclinical side jobs early in
his career. He and Dr. Tom Davis run NewScript, an online community of healthcare professionals, career transition mentors, and wellness specialists.
John has been married for 22.5 years and has a blended family including 4 daughters and 1 son, ages 30-36.
- Why he is thankful his first applications to medical school were rejected
- How Being open to accepting invitations has enriched his life
- Being the eldest of 10 children
- What he’s learned about the 5 love languages
- Why starting over (after divorce) wasn’t easy
- Why preparing for parents' deaths is essential
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Weili Gray, MD is a supportive friend whom I met through an on-line physician entrepreneur community 3 years ago, and she allowed me to coach her while I was becoming a certified life coach. After I introduced her to the world of coaching, her life has never been the same! Listen to find out why and how!
Dr. Weili Gray is a board-certified sleep, integrative, and lifestyle medicine physician who practices in Vermont. She is a Registered Life Planner and the founder of Dare to Dream Physician where she offers life planning and hosts a weekly podcast.
Her mission is to help physicians who feel overwhelmed and unfulfilled Dare to Dream and create their most abundant lives so they can live each day with intention and passion.
#marriageadvice #lifeplanning #relationshipadvice #marriagegoals #freedomofchoice
Carolyn Moyers, DO, FACOG, is a board-certified OB/GYN serving patients at Sky Women's Health in Fort Worth, Texas. Dr. Moyers has over a decade of medical experience and a passion for providing women with the best care available. She opened Sky Women's Health to give women direct access to their providers in a calming and unhurried environment. Dr. Moyers received her medical degree from the University of North Texas Health Science Center-Texas College of Osteopathic Medicine in Fort Worth, Texas. She completed her residency in obstetrics and gynecology at Texas Tech University Health Sciences Center. #valueyouspouse #realtionshipgoals #marriagegoals #marriageadvice
Dr. Jennie Eckstrom is a private practice family physician of 16 years. She has been happily married for 22 years, together for 25 and is the mother of 2 teens, 14 yo and 16 yo. Listen to find out how Amazing Grace and other choices you make can save your marriage! I am so lucky to have met Jennie in real life on a recent physician retreat in Bora Bora. Invest in yourself!
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Dr. Stephanie Byerly is an academic anesthesiologist, Certified Life Coach, and published author. And she helps women physicians take back control of their lives. I invited Dr. Byerly to be a guest today because she has experienced many challenges in her own life including childhood trauma, divorce, becoming a single parent, dealing with the addiction of a loved one, and physician burnout, and has an incredibly powerful outlook on life I wanted her to share with us today. Dr. Stephanie is the loving mother of two daughters ages 25 and 26. Our paths have crossed multiple times as we work for the same university hospital and were trained at the same life coach school as well are both active in an online group of physician entrepreneurs called Leverage and Growth Accelerator.
#TraumaAdvice #howtodealwithtrauma #controlyourself #singleparent #howtoovercometrauma #whattraumadoestoyou?
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They have been madly in love for 26 years and married for almost 24 years. They have four children ages 7-18 and love traveling and outdoor family adventures. Listen to find out:
- Who is the better pickleball player
- Who drives in the relationship (and who is the worse driver)
- What it feels like to be the leader of The White Coat Investor
- What the best financial decisions they have each made in their life
- What advice they would give to their 20 year old selves if they would travel back in time.
FUN FACT: I first met Jim in 2013 when I invited him to come speak at the Michigan Radiological Society for Residents and have seen him at every WCICON since then except the very first one since it sold out before I could purchase a ticket.
Jim & Katie are the owners of The White Coat Investor, helping to teach financial literacy to doctors and other high income professionals. Jim is a board certified Emergency Medicine physician working shifts in the ER in between serving as the CEO. Katie is an athletic trainer and teacher by training, she currently is the Chief Product Officer for WCI.
#powercouple #couplegoals #financialindependence #marraigeadvice #financialfreedom #marraigecoach #makingmarriagework #whitecoatinvestor #thewhitecoatinvestor #wcicon
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SHOWNOTES: Dr. Liz Treynor is a pathologist by day and mental health warrior by night— or really just a human at all times, trying to normalize discussions about mental health among women physicians. Meeting her in Tahiti and chatting it up in the airport on our way to Bora Bora as part of the Empowering Women Physicians Coaching program (which ALL physicians need to experience) solidified my love for this magnificent ball of energy! Liz’s passionate soul is infectious. I feel like she could be the next President of the USA although during our interview, her hubby Dr. Chako said they would try to divulge just enough information to disqualify them from the race!!!! LOL These two are a HOOT!!! They talk about their ex’s in a very honest, affectionate, and functional way. This is better than the last stand-up comedy show I saw by Adam Sandler! I am not kidding!!! Dr. Treynor gives us her best sex tips and especially as it relates to mental health; however, the emotional depth this couple takes us to in under one hour is mind blowing. This is a MUST LISTEN!!!!! I KNEW it needed to be episode 100!!!! This is definitely a celebration of love, life, and life-long learning. I cannot thank Dr. Liz and Dr. Chako enough for the vulnerability and love they poured forth. If you are here for a laugh, phenomenal on-line dating love story, or sex-tips, you have come to the right show. #marriageadvice #physiciancouple #marraigecoach #physicianmom #physiciandad #coupelsgoals #podcaster #sextips #mentalhealth #prozac FEATURED ON THIS SHOW: Www.Mindsurfermd.com
Dr. Liz Treynor is a pathologist by day and mental health warrior by night— or really just a human at all times, trying to normalize discussions about mental health among women physicians.
Meeting her in Tahiti and chatting it up in the airport on our way to Bora Bora as part of the Empowering Women Physicians Coaching program (which ALL physicians need to experience) solidified my love for this magnificent ball of energy!
Liz’s passionate soul is infectious. I feel like she could be the next President of the USA although during our interview, her hubby Dr. Chako said they would try to divulge just enough information to disqualify them from the race!!!! LOL
These two are a HOOT!!! They talk about their ex’s in a very honest, affectionate, and functional way. This is better than the last stand-up comedy show I saw by Adam Sandler! I am not kidding!!! Dr. Treynor gives us her best sex tips and especially as it relates to mental health; however, the emotional depth this couple takes us to in under one hour is mind blowing.
This is a MUST LISTEN!!!!! I KNEW it needed to be episode 100!!!!
This is definitely a celebration of love, life, and life-long learning.
I cannot thank Dr. Liz and Dr. Chako enough for the vulnerability and love they poured forth.
If you are here for a laugh, phenomenal on-line dating love story, or sex-tips, you have come to the right show.
#marriageadvice #physiciancouple #marraigecoach #physicianmom #physiciandad #coupelsgoals #podcaster #sextips #mentalhealth #prozac
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Making Marriage Work for Couples
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I share a relatable soty as posted in a facebook group. Turn a vent session into growth session!
Listen to find out EXACLTY what your Spouse needs for Valentine's Day.
Valuble insights from Day one in Bora Bora Empowering Women Physicians Coaching Retreat also inluced!
Take the free 6 Day Marriage Challenge Now just in time for February 14!
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THIS EPISODE
Dr. Vertrees realized that medical school and residency helped her become a great technical surgeon, but she soon realized that there were several career aspects that residency did not cover. She trained in the military, and once her commitment was up she realized she had no idea how to find a job, negotiate her contract, or code notes and cases. She created the BOSS Business of Surgery Series as a way to address those topics, because if she needed to know it, others probably needed to as well.
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THIS EPISODE (a bit delayed on its release)
Matt Wolf is a hilarous Father, musician, bagel-shop owner, certified coach, and fiance to my amazing Dermatology and money coach bestie Dr. Bonnie Koo. I love how he finds humor in practically everything he does and can make anyone laugh in under 10 seconds. Matt shares how the pandemic actually happened for him and strengthened his relationship with Bonnie. We recorded this episode nearly a year ago, and am super excited to finally share it with you!
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THIS EPISODE:
Dr. Sharon Mclaughlin is board certified plastic surgeon. She is a cancer survivor, has an autoimmune disease and advocates for both emotional and physical health. Dr McLaughlin is the founder of Mind Lull, which offers tools and journals to help focus and find fulfillment.
Sharon is the wife of 21 years to a CRNA and the mother for an 18 year old daughter, dog and 2 rabbits.
She also runs the wildly successful facebook group Female Physician Entrepreneurs!!!!
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Facebook Female Physician Entrepreneurs Group
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Listen to how my family of 6 slid into 2023 and what it means about our marriage!
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Sign up for Making Marriage Work Program today for a happier 2023.
What are your power words for 2023?
Meet Dr. George Naum and his wife, Vanessa. They have been coaching married couples for over 25 years. In 2018 the began specializing in physician marriage coaching. Dr. George is a graduate of the West Virginia School of Osteopathic Medicine, where he earned my Doctorate of Osteopathic Medicine. He has been a trained family physician for over 25 years. Vanessa is a Relationship and Intimacy Coach trained in the Somatica Method from the Somatica Institute, San Francisco, CA and she provides an insight not often seen in marriage coaching. You can find their website at http://www.BestFriendsAgain.com
The founder of Physician Moms Group (PMG) shares some empowering relationship insights as the feminist leader of over 130 thousand physicians!
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Check out her website to get a FREE 14 page PDF workbook that guides you to create a lasting legacy and find out how to work with her.
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Learn about the 6 predictors of divorce to create awareness in your marriage. What we don't know, we can't correct. Being self-aware is the greatest gift you can give to your relationship this Holiday season. From awareness fosters growth! As a Gottman Leader, I can tell you will be much happier in your relationship after learning about the 6 predictors of divorce and how to remedy them. Sign up for a Happier Marriage Here
If you are feeling anxious, angry, irritated, sad, or lonely today...this is for YOU!
Listen to learn these quick usefull tips to making your Thanksgiving more enjoyable, relaxing, and loving:)
Why your belief that marriage should be 50/50 may be holding you back form deeper connection. How to stop feeling so dissconnected.
Are you waiting for someone to apologize to you?
Is your relationship on the rocks?
Do you think your relationship depends on their actions or words or responses to you?
Think again as I share words of wisdom from Brene Brown as I saw her LIVE on stage in Austin just a few days ago.
DARE TO LEAD in your relationship.
Choose Love.
Choose Joy.
Choose Forgiveness.
Choose Courage.
Choose Healing.
Choose You.
Let's go!
Take a step back...would you want to be married to yourself?
Why or why not?
Let's dive into a few tips on how you can find more joy, fun, and romance in your relationship.
For more, go to www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com right now and download my 18 page Medical Marriage survival guide and workbook at no cost to you! It has been known to decrease fighting, rumination and grudges between your loved ones.
If you want to take it a step further…really enhance the joy and connection in all of your relationships including those most intimate and dear to you, sign up for a discovery call by clicking “CONTACT US” and “Book a FREE CONSULTATION”.
Jumpstart your Holiday Season with three helpful productivity tips for full time Physician Mamas.
p.s. All Mamas are full time!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 45-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
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TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Dawn Baker 1. Take different turns. It’s all a journey
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Take your own health seriously. Schedule time for YOU.
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What other people see doesn’t matter.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Am I up to date on all my preventative health care?
- Are there any symptoms I have been ignoring?
- When is the last time I saw the dentist?
- Am I due for a mammogram or colonoscopy?
- How can I do one thing for myself today?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Website: www.practicebalance.com
Have you ever considered starting your own business?
Would you love for your brand to be a household name?
Dr. Nneka Unachukwu (aka Dr. Una) will show you how!
“All business skills are learnable”
Listen in as she describes how she became a 7-figure entrepreneur while prioritizing her family first!
Maybe you want to follow suit?
Dr Una is a pediatrician and serial entrepreneur. She is the founder of EntreMD, a company designed to help doctors build profitable businesses so they can live life and practice medicine on their terms. Nneka is the loving wife to a pastor and the strong mother of 4 children.
Featured on this Episode: https://entremd.com/
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 45-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
David Draghinas MD is a husband, father, physician, investor, and Short Term Rental specialist. Always passionate about real estate, David was seeking an asset class that would provide “high monthly cash flows” that would quickly propel him towards financial independence. He found such a wealth vehicle with short term rentals.
After cracking the code on short term rentals, he sought out a small group of physician investors to teach them his methods of investing. The refined teachings from this group have become David’s flagship course: Short Term Rentals to Financial Independence for Busy Professionals.
David continues to learn and grow, always wanting to be on the cutting edge of the short term rental industry. Currently, he is very excited about several niches within the industry, including unique properties, glamping, and properties that deliver “one of a kind” experiences. He believes investors that build a portfolio of short term rentals will be well positioned for the future.
When not nerding out on STR’s, David can be found podcasting at Doctors Unbound and amplifying physician voices through his podcast.
David is the loving husband to his wife, Diana, who runs their STRs and has been married for 14 years!!!! David is the proud Dad of Kate 8, Matt 6, Theo 5, and Ezra 2.
Dr. Erika is a board certified family medicine physician with a focus on women’s health. She serves as adjunct professor at Idaho COM, teaching women’s health and clinical skills groups. She is an active physician consultant for television, news & social media.
Dr. Aragona is the loving mother of 2 kids age 3 and 6, one 10 month old French bulldog and the supportive spouse to a the VP of real estate development company
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I make medicine enjoyable
- Do I make fear-based decisions in life? Like not getting on social media...why? How does this help?
- How do I amplify the strengths of my spouse and how do I compliment their weaknesses?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- dr-erika.com
- TikTok @Dr_Erika_
- IG @doctor_erika_
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself. Let me coach you and show you what is possible. Sign up here!
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Dr. Ronnie Shalev is a former ER doctor who helps frustrated physicians reclaim their free time by earning passive income through real estate investing.
Mr. Ben Winski is an entrepreneur & invester.
This beautiful pair have been married for 11 years and have two human children, 1 French bulldog (Rocky), 1 chameleon (Ranglo LT) and 100s of crickets!!!
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
You can sign up for her FREE webinar on her website or contact her via email.
Invest.ShalwinProperties.com
IG @shalwinproperties
FB @shalwinproperties
Do daunting tasks seem less like work when you do them with your loved one???
Have you ever considered your spouse to be a MUSE?
Join us as Dr. Block shares the above principals as well as how he employed the scientific method while dating. Bradley has super valuable insights on dating and marriage including why it is important to STOP keeping score.
Dr. Block is an otolaryngologist whom I met through the Doctor Podcast Network where he hosts The Physician’s Guide to Doctoring...a podcast where every episode he answers the burning question of what you should have learned while you were memorizing the kreb cycle! He has been married for 6 years to his lovely wife and has three kids under 5!!!!
I absolutely adore his thoughts on marriage and I think you will too!
Where to find Dr. Bradley Block Insta: @physiciansguide Facebook: @physiciansguidetodoctoring Linkedin: Dr. Bradley Block And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
And 39.6 community
Andrew Wilner, MD, FACP, FAAN double board certified in internal medicine and neurology, health journalist, and an avid SCUBA diver. His latest book is The Locum Life: A Physician's Guide to Locum Tenens and he hosts the biweekly podcast “The Art of Medicine with Dr. Andrew Wilner”. Dr Wilner is the loving husband of 6 years to Irene from Philippines and the father to a 3 year old little boy!
www.andrewwilner.com
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up here https://calendly.com/katemangona/dicovery-call for a free 45-minute discovery call! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
Dr. Mahesh Raja is a Family Physician, creative being, writer, lover of stories, & empath. She has been in an arranged marriage for 21 years to a supportive software engineer and is the loving mother to two children including a 20 year-old son and 12 year-old daughter.
Her passion is empowering women, especially immigrant women and she has some very powerful messages including how a marriage can work without a foundation of love.
Have you ever considered going on a vacation just you and your spouse. Have you ever left the kids at home with the grandparents, nanny, babysitters, or a combination thereof!? Now is the time! Listen for tips to get started planning your next couple-only adventure!
Invest in your marriage!
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KRISTIN YATES
- Self-doubt: we all have this part of our brain...notice it. Don’t listen to it. Words matter. “You are not bad”
- To serve more fully...you must care for yourself first.
- Look at myself through the eyes of my children (dance party...lie with me...just for 3 minutes)
- Recognize when you are irritable or angry or frustrated
- Awareness….
- Am I living my perfect life? How can I tweak one small thing to
- If a tweak feels uncomfortable...stay there...watch for the
- If you have a desire to grow...stuck...uneasy…..discomfort can be familiar.
- Mom-Guilt: Is this your driving force? What are the results I am getting from Mom-guilt
- Love your story!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I put myself first? Above my children and spouse?
- Do I model generosity and love?
- Do I try to make things fun?
- Do I let mom-guilt (or dad-guilt) control my life?
- Do I let any of my choices create resentment
- Do I love my story?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Kristin Yates DO on all platforms.
- Website www.kristinyatesdo.com
What you will learn:
- Marriage gratitude exercise
- How to avoid shameful New Year's resolutions
- Examples of shameless 2022 goals
- How to pick 2022 power word
Join the host Dr. Andrew Tisser, from Talk 2 Me Doc podcast with his guest Dr. Kate Mangona, as they discuss the typical factors and issues that can sour relationships between couples in residency. As a board-certified pediatric radiologist and life coach, Dr. Kate shares to us the stories of how physician couples struggle with LDR, emotional baggage from work, how communication isn’t always everything, and more. For Dr. Kate, if anything, the best time to work on your relationship is when it is okay.
In this episode you will learn:
· What is the most common problem among resident couples?
· How can a couples’ relationship survive during training?
· If you can’t feel fulfilled on your own, there’s no way you’ll be fulfilled in a relationship.
· Here’s why you should be intentional with your calendar!
· Where do marital conflicts usually come from for physicians?
Connect with Talk2Medoc on:
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Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewtisserdo/
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Getting medicated through medical school
- Why she had 100-200 notes open
- Why she talked to her patients for hours
- Loving the patients but hating the charting
Marriage:
- Taking deep breaths
- Dating for 6 years...and telling him 2 years in.
- What is Emotional dysregulation
ADHD
- Why her hubby is her ADHD medicine
- Diagnosed in first semester in medical school
- Could not concentrate long enough to finish the tests
- Whole family, is loud, high energy, impulsive,
- I am the oldest daughter and should be the example...smart & perfect
- When her identity crisis began
- Why she went 8 years without medication as an attending
- How diet and exercise can help ADHD
- Underestimating the time it takes me to get things done
- Labile with your emotions (making the connections between your emotions and the actions)
- Living from a place of reactivity
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Diana Mercado-Marmarosh
- Going through an identity crisis...if you think you may need therapy...counseling...therapy or even medication...what are you making that mean? Does that mean you are not smart or perfect?? Newsflash! There is NO perfect. We all need to mind check-ups...mental health is just as important as your body health.
- Not taking care of your thoughts causes resentment….feelings of the second shift when you come home. Getting upset when your spouse is sleeping and you are not!!! When you are breast feeding and cleaning the kitchen and organizing the toys and you feel like you are the only one doing it. Life coaching has helped her with perspective
- Emotional Dysregulation….cannot regulate the amygdala when you are so spent….When you take something small and think it’s the END OF THE WORLD!!!!
- Don’t feed the seagulls
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Am I living from a place of reactivity?
- Do I accept myself the way I am?
- Do I have awareness of time as it passes?
- Do I decide how long I want to spend on a certain task and stick to it?
- Do I get behind at work regularly?
- When I cannot make a decision, do I jump into anger or irritation?
I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!
RSVP NOW!
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
And 39.6 community
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- Website: www.adhd-lifecoach.com
- facebook and instagram: dianamercado331
- tik toc : @doctor_adhd_coach
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Laura Hall is board certified in Obstetrics and Gynecology, Fetal Echocardiograms, Abdomen and Vascular ultrasound.
For the past 6 years, she has worked in high risk perinatal sonography.
Laura is the loving wife of a software engineer and supportive mother of two young children, a four year old boy and almost 1-year-old girl with SCID (severe combined immune deficiency.
Receiving news that her daughter would spend many months of her first year of life in the hospital, strengthened her empathy for patients learning of abnormalities on their routine ultrasounds.
Laura has found her experience with her daughter to further her passion in the field of sonography with a goal of giving the highest of care to each patient and their growing families.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- How she found out her daughter had no immune system
- Emmy’s first year with severe combined immunodeficiency
- Why she could not breast feed her baby
- Why the treatment for SCID was not straightforward
- Why they decided not to wait for a thymus
Marriage:
- How Baby’s illness affected her marriage
- Deciding early on she did not want a divorce
- How her marriage was put on hold
- How they recovered quickly, despite the arguments
- Why her hubby said, “It’s okay...I am just going to turn you in for a younger, hotter model”
Motherhood:
- Why she decided to take a leave from fetal sonography
- Why abnormal results may not mean the worst thing
- A Mother’s job is to worry
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM LAURA HALL
- Before telling bad news to your patient, imagine having no idea what half the words out of your own mouth mean...and getting slapped in the face with FEAR. How you think a patient should handle this? Sometimes as physicians we get so used to telling our patients about some new disease, we forget their life is flashing before their eyes. They don’t know what we know. They are scared. They want all the answers. Instead of becoming annoyed that they don’t understand, they won’t accept a diagnosis, or they won’t do what we recommend, try turning toward self-compassion.
- There is a lot of "We don’t know in medicine." Medicine is not just a science. It is also an art. We must remember that patients are not aware of how much we actually do not know and how much time a diagnosis can actually take to make. Understanding that our patients may be sad, angry, or upset is key. Their feelings are not an attack on who we are or our profession. Just accepting this may is the first step. Allow your patients to be angry, irritated, sad and even confused. This is all normal.
- Drop the ego.
- Apologize.
- Make up!
- Love unconditionally.
- We may get into arguments and say choice words to our hunny. Can we recover quickly?
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I want all the control of things I have no control over?
- Do I allow my patients to have all the feelings?
- Am I good at letting go of my ego?
- How do I recover after an argument with my spouse?
I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!
RSVP NOW!
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
And 39.6 community
I am so GRATEFUL y'all are still listening!!!! After releasing 61 episodes, I have decided to reshare why I started this podcast in the first place!
What makes a Successful Marriage...and answers from over 10 of my initial guests on this show! If you think you have a good answer too, please post in my fb group or dm me!
For those of you listening for the FIRST time, welcome! You are in for a treat:) This inaugural episode is TIMELESS.
Plus, I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!
RSVP NOW!
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
And 39.6 community
I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!
RSVP NOW!
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
And 39.6 community
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- How she feels about the Romance of Medicine
- Why not getting her dream job was a blessing
- Why her hubby changed from surgery to pathology back to surgery
Marriage:
- How their marriage survived despite no communication during his surgery internship
- What a “bid for connection” means and how this helps your marriage
Money:
- Why money does not correlate to happiness
- What money challenges they faced during residency
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Lara McElderry
- Sometimes you just have to go through it. Not every day is happy. There is misery. There is tragedy.
- This is exactly who I am supposed to be and exactly who I am supposed to serve. Same with my spouse….
- Look for “bids for connection”. If you are not looking for it, you will not find it. Without noticing this...you are not connecting to the level you can!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What would happen if I stopped?
- How often do I wonder “what if”
- Do I share my spouse’s goals?
- How long can I go without spending money?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.marriedtodoctors.com
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: Locumstory
I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of angry, upset or annoyed!
RSVP NOW!
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Elena Shea
- Focus on you. Put yourself first...emotionally and physically. Especially for new Moms. Rest when your babies are resting. It’s not just a cliche.
- If you can’t breast feed, it is okay. You are not a bad mom. Don’t accept other people’s guilt.
- Don’t rush to have children
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Am I resting when my children or spouse are resting?
- What is my mental health in balance or do I need to get checked out?
- Am I prioritizing myself and my relationship? What does that look like?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- IG and FB at @pedsmomlife
- website/blog: www.pedsmomlife.com
- Breastfeeding Virtual Course:
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: CompHealth
Medicine, Marriage, and Money Group Coaching is now closed for enrollment!
If you want to join the party next time, get on my guest list here!
Until then, I still have a few 1:1 coaching spots open for you! If you hate getting into fights with your spouse, this is your invitation to spend more of your precious moments at home IN LOVE instead of being angry, upset, or annoyed!
RSVP NOW!
Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
And don’t forget to join the party on FB! Medicine, Marriage & Money
And 39.6 community
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Her father and grandfather were both ophthalmologists
- Working private practice Pedi, 4 days a week is the new normal
- Her worst week of training ever, emotionally draining, overly criticized
Marriage:
- How she met her future hubby post-call at a bar
- What she thought when he showed her pictures of his son
- What “unlike anyone I had ever met before” means
- Looked at the world through a different lens
- How they remain, individuals, while growing closer together
- Why she is strict with bedtime
- Why she thought they were going to have to go to the hospital during the Proposal
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Elena Shea
- Make the Time….strict with bedtime or getting up time...But CREATE the time for yourself and for you and your spouse to just sit and BE.
- Look through the lens you never knew existed! Adapt the lens of your spouse...ESPECIALLY in arguments.
- Full time can be 4 days a week! So if you aren’t already doing that, figure out a way you can!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How do I remain an individual while striving to become one with my spouse?
- How do I use my days off to the maximum?
- What lens can I try on today?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- IG and FB at @pedsmomlife
- website/blog: www.pedsmomlife.com
- Breastfeeding Virtual Course:
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: CompHealth
Medicine, Marriage, and Money Group Coaching for women physicians who want to learn how to fight LESS, love MORE, and invest SMARTER is now closed for enrollment!
If you want to join us next time, get on my waitlist here!
Until then, I am still offering a few 1:1 coaching spots for those who are seriously interested in stopping all marital arguments in 5 minutes or less.
If you are ready to take your relationship to the next level, sign up here! Who would you be if you felt less misunderstood by your spouse and more appreciated in your marriage? No time is better than now and no investment is as valuable as this investment in yourself.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Working in an underserved community in Houston
- Working alongside her sister, a 9 month age difference!
- Transferring from Texas Tech to Baylor in Houston
- Married the first semester in medical school
- What it was like to do a residency with her sister
Marriage:
- Why she married her complete opposite
- How they met
- How he asked permission to date her (respectful to Iranian culture)
- Why she fell in love with his calm & mature presence
- Having independent space and coming together with things they have in common
- How do you want to feel and who do you want to be
Children
- Why she starting fighting with her child from 2 weeks old for 10 years
- When she took out her white flag and started working on herself
- How she stopped taking her actions to heart
- Why she started to name her child’s superpowers
- How she consciously parents
- The awakened family
Money:
- When she thought money is evil and having money is greedy
- Shifting from money brings problems to...
- Money brings you the freedom of time
- When and why hire a housekeeper & meal service
Extra:
- What was Post-call fatigue for 4 years
- How she felt completely disconnected from her head and body
- Why living in anger, frustrations and irritability is a thing of the past
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. SOGOL PAHLAVAN
- For 7 years, they each had their own goals and were supportive of each other.
- Everything was going great until the children! Creating a business, husband’s stuff, lost all-time for self.
- Write down all the qualities you want to change: controlling, angry, judged, irritable, angry, frustrated, not a listener (Her husband knew all these things for 20 years…) and figure out how you will change them!
- 99% of our suffering is caused by...
- The second half of our lives: not a rinse and repeat of the first half. It will not be hustle or grit for bigger homes and cars...we are not chasing
- Children are our biggest teachers. Don't ever break your child’s spirit.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I allow myself to feel my feelings.
- How do you want to feel?
- How do you want to be?
- Does being controlling get me what I want?
- What can I delegate more of?
- What within me triggered me?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pahlavansogolmd
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsogol_mindfulliving/
- Email: pahlavansogol@gmail.com
- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mindfulness-coaching-for-female-minority-physicians
Sign up for my complimentary How to Have Stress-Free Childcare For Busy Physician Moms today!
https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/childcare-webinar
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- MD & PhD felt structured
- How her COVID affected her career
- Her health advice as a dermatopathologist
Marriage:
- Why SLEEP is the foundation of everything.
- Why asking “What is our routine?” is important
- How do they need to act for you to feel a certain way?
- Who we can control
- The reasons they fell in love
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- Her as a mother
- On the dance floor
- How do you discuss having a blended family with young children
Money:
- What she learned about money from her Immigrant parents
- How her finances differed from 1st to forever marriage
- How she took ownership of the marital finances
Confidence/Culture/Parenting/Investing/Extra:
- How and Why Coaching in secret!!!
- Racial & Social Injustice
- Dropping the perfectionism
- Family comes FIRST
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. URSULA LANG
- SLEEP is the foundation of EVERYTHING!
- Check our expectations. How do they need to act for you to feel GOOD?
- Find the FUN if life!
- If we are suffering, we are just adding to the world’s suffering. So in order to make change in the world, we must first look within ourselves.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What comes first in my life?
- What is the perfect amount of time to spend with my family?
- AM I CAREER DRIVEN? If so, can family still come first?
- Am I taking care of myself?
- Am I searching for the RIGHT way????
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- How often do I reach outside myself for the right answer?
- What is my true NORTH?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- https://www.latinadocs.com
- https://stemmdoctors.mykajabi.com
- https://www.mudphudmindproject.com
- https://www.instagram.com/drurslang/
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Armenia for medical school in Russian
- How her Father was a visionary
- The Reliance on technology
- Volume in India and Armenia was 60-65 pateints versus the USA
- Seen as a Demi-God in India
- Where there was better Bedside clinical medicine with good relationship with patients
Marriage:
- Big 450 ppl wedding in Delhi
- Divinely designed relationship loving trust and respect, high accountability where partners play to each other's strength
- Why Namita’s tailor asked her if she was marrying the right man.
- The matrimonial section newspaper Advertisement!!!
- Malin calls her and they have a 45 minute phone call “Love at first sound”
- Planning the wedding after THREE conversations
Money:
- Dining out versus Home experience
- Kids get to be messy and loud
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Where children get to be their own selves
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How closely she watches her food budget
- Her Multiple guilty pleasures,
- The Finer things in life
- How she prefers to spend money
- Safety and cleanliness
FOOD:
- Where her love of food comes from
- Expression of love and togetherness
- When she only knew how to make tea and boil eggs and make toast
- Her baggage!!!! (food, medicine, music, spirituality)
- When her own inner cook blossomed
- When she realized life was not to be taken for granted
- Relationship with food and nurturing the people we love
- How perfection can limit your cooking style
- Who drives her to creative Insanity
- How to create a story or experience for children during meal time
- Get them to touch and smell (show them food documentaries, show them bright, colorful pictures) Food network, PBS
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- Fresh cucumbers, fresh mozzarella, healthier breads
- Create a pantry
- Kid safe madelin
- Squeezing limes and lemon
- Food ricer
- Food shows
Confidence/Culture/Parenting/Investing/Extra:
- Her biggest strength
- The hardships she endured as a young woman in medical school
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR NAMITA KANSAL
- Let’s not depersonalize and deprioritize something as essential as food. It can be a relaxing place. It could bring more normalcy and connectedness to your family.
- Food has the power to bring communities together. Share freely. Food is an essential part of life. It needs time and attention. Put it on the agenda. We cannot buy back our health and our relationship, so work on it now!
- Get your picky eaters more involved in food!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- If I died tomorrow, would I be happy leaving the world as I am right now?
- Do I make time to savour, share and truly enjoy my food?
- How can I make meal time more enjoyable and healthy?
- How can I share more love through
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- First-generation Filipina physician
- Her parents were married 38 years before he died 5 years ago from gastric cancer
- Imposter syndrome and perfectionism
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- Service and helping others, perception of being inferior
- Didn’t think I could be a doctor
- Crying, away from home, close friends helped, afraid to ask for help
- The more people you surround yourself with, the easier the burden becomes
- Fireball in year 2 of residency when she found her voice
Marriage:
- Told she could not have a boyfriend in grade school….until 18 while her brother...
- The threshold for travel was very different
- Short Filipina girl surrounded by people who did not look similar
- How his parents were more lenient
- Seek a partner who has gifts that you seek to improve in your own
- Structured vs. laid-back ----parenting
- Choosing the person who has the gifts that you lack
- Friends at first sight!!!!!
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- Jumped into a marriage
- Catholic retreat vs. the 4-hour workshop
- When her ex asked, “who do you think is in charge of the finances?”
- Getting an annulment through the Catholic church
- Why going to therapy, is like going to the gym
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- Instead of sweat, there are tears
- Who said “At least he doesn’t hit you!” and why
Money:
- Separate accounts, separate properties
- His, hers, and ours
Food:
- Intermittent fasting for 7 years
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- 8-10 hour eating window
- Didn’t have to think as much about what she ate, but when
- Abs come and go based on what you eat, how visible they are
- How she packs her exercise equipment when they travel
- Allen Satter’s roles of
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- Parents roles: what and when
- Children decide if and how much
- If you never put a vegetable on their plate...
- He is a creature of habit. I like variety
- Fav stores: Costco, Bristol Farms, Ralphs, Instacart
TAKE-HOME POINTS
- Next time you get upset or frustrated with your spouse for not doing something the way YOU would have done it, remember, You did NOT marry YOU! You married them.
- Health is the greatest wealth and time is the greatest gift.
- If you want to improve your diet and nutrition in general….Pick one thing at a time….give it some time to really make it a lifestyle change instead of a chore or diet you will not want to continue…..start eating more plants….start with one or two more veggie servings a day….Fast for an hour...if this is your thing...not everything will be your thing, but nutrition is not a sacrifice….it is a privilege if you allow it to slowly come into your life.
- Marriage is not 50/50. Divorce IS!
- Parents' roles are what and when and Children decide if and how much.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What are the top 3 reasons I married my Hunny?
- Do I want them to be just like me?
- How can we be healthier as a family?
- Do I allow my children to decide if and how much?
- Is it possible to eat more plants or serve more plants to my family?
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Medicine in East Africa, nonprofit, global emergency care
- How she worked herself out of a job
- What is Wholist
Marriage:
- Ski bum in college met hubby through moonshine
- The quote she will never forget
- The best decision her hubby ever made
- Why it took 9 months of spreadsheeting to purchase a sprinter van
Health Coach:
- Healing with whole foods
- Why she traveled from Philly to NY to get a healthy coach certificate
- What is Lifestyle medicine (sleep, nutrition, and exercise)
- 15 minutes podcast for her clients,
- How her hubby lost 35 pounds
- Less processed food
- Local farms
- Plant-based
- 2-3 animal meals throughout the week
- Your children will eat and they will eat what you give them
- What you do not have in the house, is just as important as what you have in the house
Healthy Foods for Picky Eaters:
- Tofu sticks with cheese
- Veggie smoothies
- Egg cakes with veggies
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Heather Hammerstedt
- Know your spouse so well, there there is no need to fight or get into arguments. This means you are always staying curious and trying to see things through their perspective or you have just accepted them for how they are...no need to change your spouse in order to make you feel better. Would you like them to change you just so they feel better...even if you do not want or agree for the need to change?
- What you do not have in the house, is just as important as what you have in the house.
- Your children will eat and they will eat what you give them
- The goal is to work yourself out of a job
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I Step back and be mindful?
- How can I delay quick action until I understand what is happening?
- Do we always eat chips while we eat football?
- Am I actually hungry or am eating because it is lunchtime?
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- Facebook: Curate Your Health
- Podcast: Curate Your Health
- Instagram: @wholisthealth
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN EPISODE 52
- What we look for in an offering
- Why do the people you invest with matter
- What does it mean to have aligned goals as an investor
- Why location matters
- Why the structure matters (preferred rate of return, PRR)
- What is PRR and why is this good for passive investors
- How a K1 is helpful
- When Financial Advisors are helpful
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM The Mangonas
- The people you invest with matter!
- No one will care about your money more than you!
- There is always more to learn when it comes to your finances. This is the main reason Victor continues to teach in his 39.6 community!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What are your motivations?
- Do I qualify for REPS? If I want to, how can I?
- Do I want to actively or passively invest or both?
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- Learn The framework of a real estate syndication
- Become an expert in the terminology involved in real estate syndications
- Our instructors have over $500,000,000 in multifamily assets under management
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- Online sessions with our instructors
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Real Estate:
- Process of obtaining a Mortgage (and mortgage rates) back in the day (the early 2000s)
- Why it was smarter to own than to rent
- Was buying his first real estate property scary????
- Why his investment went from $60K to $13K in less than a year
- Why I (his wife) rented instead of owned during our 5-year residency
- How much money Victor spent updating his Condo
- What he did with the condo once graduating residency
- How much he cash flowed
- Why and how Victor sold his first rental property
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Victor Mangona
- What seems impossible to one person, is more than possible to another person. What is your impossible goal? Say it out loud! Find someone else who does what you want to do and model after them! Figure out how others reach this said “impossible goal” and borrow their habits and thoughts to reach the goal.
- Limiting belief: I need a lot of money to invest in real estate. Money is NOT the limiting factor. So what is??? YOUR MIND!
- Why money is NOT the limit factor: Time, resources, sweat equity, & networking are all variables that count.
- There are a lot more financial possibilities than we give ourselves credit for.
- If you have 1, 5, or 10-year goals, it is okay for them to change and evolve as life continues and as you learn and grow!
- Flexibility and an open mind are key to being successful.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Is real estate scary or confusing? Why or why not?
- How could I comfortably house hack?
- How am I protecting my downside?
- What is stopping me from investing in my real estate investment?
- What type of real estate investment is most intriguing to me?
- How can I invest in myself?
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Why he did a 3-year residency after dental school
- Why Joel wanted additional streams of income even though his hospital job creates joy and fulfillment in his life
- Why Winnie left banking to become an ICU nurse
Marriage:
- Meeting at an Asian Jam
- Falling in love during their deep dating conversations
- Why they did 3 years of international long distance
- Why they had 3 marriage ceremonies
Money:
- Growing up in a family without financial literacy
- How being a teller and working in the bank changed her views on money
- The financial lessons Winnie learned from her immigrant parents
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM WINNIE AND JOEL NAPENAS
- When you think something is impossible (like planning a wedding in ONE week), just VISUALIZE IT!!!! Same thing with investing in real estate!!!
- There is not just one path to accomplish your dreams. You can have multiple passions and multiple things in your life which bring you fulfillment.
- It is okay to take a step back and breathe while your spouse handles something.
- Believe in your spouse more than they believe in themselves. If you do this, the rewards will be endless. If you can’t do this, ask yourself why? Having a supportive spouse is one of the main things all of us ever want. To have support...be loved...be accepted by the most important person in our lives….It is MUCH easier to reciprocate this after one of you begins it, so it might as well be you... today!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I start visualizing my impossible goals in my life on a daily basis?
- How can I encourage my spouse to do what makes them most happy?
- What is my money mindset?
- What is my investment mindset?
- Do I work hard for my money or do I allow my money to work hard for me?
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For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Meeting the first week of TY year at orientation
- Splitting the difference 85 miles apart
Marriage:
- The proposal in Venice with an upgrade to the Royal Suite
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- Put the biggest ring he could afford on a CC
- Sutured it into the money belt
- “If you want to leave me, you can”
- This is not the man you married. You have a free pass to leave
- How trauma made them stronger
- Where do you want to see yourself in 3 or 5 years
Money:
- How they switched roles financially, (Scrooge)
- How shattering his acetabulum changed his life
- 14 days in inpt rehab
- What he visualized during rehab
- Both nurses named Angels
- Epiphanny during snowboarding to get disability insurance
- Why to buy a home based off one physician's income
- Why he regrets selling a property
- How they Changed their investment strategy
- Why they invested in a pool and backyard
- Why they borrowed money from backyard fund to invest in a short term rental property
- How Bakersfield property was a learning experience (super bad)
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DRS. IAN COOK & LAUREN IHDE
- Visualize your success. Not just the success of today or next month….but your success 3 years from now!
- WE don’t buy insurance because we know or want bad things to happen. You get insurance for when the unexpected happens! You get insurance so your family does not have to suffer by a split second decision you could make at any time.
- Get good insurance!
- Turn bad experiences into learning opportunities.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I spend a little bit more time on my marriage this week?
- When can I take my next weekend getaway?
- What is my investment strategy and does it align with my life goals?
- How can I turn my financial failures into learning experiences?
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- Twitter: @thecarpediemmd
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I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/the-medical-marriage and I will send it to you!
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- The inappropriate conversation and Falling in love with her hairdresser
- Why she calls her hubby her human Xanax
Marriage:
- The firecracker and the volcano (fizzles out and destruction)
- Learning to take ownership over my experiences instead of controlling his
Money:
- Why asking for money is not greedy
- How feeling undervalued affects how we practice medicine
Negotiation:
- What is conversational intelligence
- What is negotiation
- How to create positive reactions with words
- How to create a higher trust, co-creative placed
- The addiction of being right
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Linda Street
- Negotiation does not have a winner and a loser, especially in marriage. This is a discussion where we WANT to agree. Why would we want our spouses to feel they could not trust us or not share their ideas?
- Language selection is SO IMPORTANT in our conversations- appreciative over judgemental. I really want to understand...how can we parent in a way that we are both happy with instead of “Why did you…..” judgey to defensive mode, We both want to parent our children so they don’t end up in prison. Culturally we have been conditioned to be right...an addiction to be right!
- Negotiating with our patients...What are their concerns? Why won’t they take the medication or follow our advice??? We have the same goals right? HEALTH!!! Stay curious!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Who is my human Xanax?
- Am I addicted to being right?
- How can I approach my next conversation with language that creates a higher trust?
- How can I foster conversational intelligence amongst my children, spouse, and co-workers?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
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- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/simply-worth-it-physician-negotiations/id1548597809
- Facebook: Www.facebook.com/groups/negotiather
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Welcome to the First Medicine, Marriage, and Money Summer Showcase where we are spotlighting the other amazing doctor podcasts that are out there. This episode is from the Doctor Me First podcast with Dr. Errin Weisman.
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It’s time! We’ve finally gotten to sit back down and have an Alpha Female discussion. Spring is in the air and with it will come extremely LONG days for Craig so we knew we had to get it in. Listen as he shares what’s going on down on the farm and we chat about our family updates.
Corn is up in prices and we’ve been preparing the fields and the equipment to get the highest yield. Craig shares what that looks like as we try to record in a house full of needy kids!
He’s also taken up day trading and watching a ton of financial shows. His interest has been piqued and he’s been reading and learning and watching which is why he hasn’t actually done much investing yet. But it’s fun to hear him talk about it.
The first thing Craig doesn’t know… I want to get rid of these kittens. There’s definitely more but after my Grandma passed away we split up her cats and the older cats are just so much more manageable. Also, I’m getting my ears pierced again!
Craig and I have so much fun doing these episodes and giving you a peek into our lives and our family. We hope you enjoy it today!
“When you are married to an alpha female, remember the mantra, it’s no big deal.” Errin and Craig Weisman
In this episode:
[04:19] Let's start by listening to what's happening down on the farm with Craig.
[07:00] Craig shares his interest in day trading.
[09:33] Let’s talk about things Craig doesn’t know.
[13:02] Craig’s thoughts on all the things he doesn’t know.
[14:33] Are you ready for our family update?
[18:41] His thoughts on the “married to an alpha female” segment.
[20:50] “It’s no big deal.”
[23:59] Thank you for listening!
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Why he stepped down from private practice
- Whether or not he suggested his son goes to medical school
Marriage:
- The path of Dependence to Independence to Interdependence
- Why his first marriage didn’t work
- Why Equal doesn’t mean the SAME
- 2014 Date with Destiny and Relationship today
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- The difference between masculinity and femininity
- More comfortable being the protector and provider
- “Shall we Dance” -Japanese version (job of the man is to lead, to showcase, and provide a safe space so she can shine)
- Bring back the polarity
- Dance of Life
- How he rebuilt his empire after divorce,
Money:
- What is a fiduciary
- His definition of wealth
- Whoever has a higher standard owns it.
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- Cooking (her), laundry (him), finances (him), less nagging
- Compartmentalize, safety, dream, risk bucket
- Why checking accounts tend to be spent even if one does not intend to spend it
- How to pay YOURSELF first
- How he dug his own hole
- The worst thing that can happen as an investor
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- Learned to make systems so emotions would not sabotage
- What rounding on your stocks systems means
- Jumping at the latest information...trigger visceral emotions
- How he empowers!
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. DAVID YEH
- The definition of wealth can be simple. I can mean the amount of money you need to live on for the rest of your life. It doesn’t need to mean something completely out of reach….unattainable, multiple luxurious vacations a year, or a closet full of exquisite bags….it just needs to be enough for you to live. So take that for what it’s worth and start building your wealth
- The worst thing that can happen as an investor is to make a lot of money quickly which leads to arrogance and overconfidence. Learn to make systems so emotions will not sabotage!
- Being equal in your marriage DOES NOT MEAN being the SAME. There is just no such thing, so we might as well stop comparing ourselves to our spouses or anyone else.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What is my definition of wealth?
- In the dance of life that is my marriage...do I lead or do I shine?
- Is my financial advisor a fiduciary?
- How can I be more open-minded in my marriage?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: http://wealthydoctorinstitute.com
- Scheduling LInk: http://calldavidyeh.com
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I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
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If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Taking a year off to do Health Care advocacy in DC
- Physician Leadership, Resilience, Compassion Fatigue, and Stress Management
- Why trading time for money felt easy as a physician although she never felt she had enough
Marriage:
- Why she planned to never get married
- The pivotal moment when her hubby decided to pursue her
- How things shifted when she decided to put marriage on her vision board instead of just her career
Money:
- How she and her hubby decided to start investing in their marriage
- Old mindset: Not making money = conflict + divorce
- Why she never felt like she had enough money
Confidence/Parenting:
- Raise your hand!
- How to talk about abundance with your children
- Explaining why until things click
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. VANESSA CALDERON
- Whatever you decide is going to happen will happen. If you decide all marriages will end in conflict and divorce, plan for a divorce. If you decide when conflict arises, you will work through it, you will work through it.
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- Do it for the right reasons. Not for someone to complete you, to feel loved, for status or money.
- Look at the bigger picture during conflicts. Remember you are not the only one suffering.
- Being a compassionate leader
- Calling people out with compassion. Have the courage to have difficult conversations but come from a place of love
- Trust and transparency: Any questions and topic is allowed
- How to teach resilience:
- How you do one thing, is how you do everything.
- Wanting to be loved is different than needing to be loved.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I lead with more self-compassion
- How do I feel about conflict in my relationship?
- Can I tell the difference between anger and sadness when I am in an argument? If so, how?
- How can I prevent physician burnout...both for myself and for those around me?
- Do I trade my time for money?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://www.vanessacalderonmd.com/
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
Sponsor: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Meeting his future wife with two black eyes in anatomy lab
- Why he burnt out in residency
- When he commuted 4 hours a day
Marriage:
- How is future wife reacted to his initial courting attempts
- When and how he began implementing boundaries between work and family life
- How they emotionally prepared for the new baby
Money:
- How he feels about his 1 million dollar combined student loan debt
- Why he does not subscribe to the “live like a resident” mindset
Early Career Strategy:
- The Why, How, and What of career strategy
- The importance of defining the who before medical school or residency
- Renegotiating your contract vs leaving clinical medicine
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Andrew Tisser
- Design your career strategy. Set short and long term goals. Why, What, & then How
- Pay for time
- Climb out of the scarcity mindset.
- Live in abundance
- To live like a resident or not.
- Student Loans are just a tax
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What are my short term goals in medicine?
- What are my long term goals in medicine?
- Am I connected to my Why?
- Why do I have anxiety about student loan debt?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://andrewtisserdo.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=16506816
- Instagram: @talk2medoc_llc
- Twitter: @talk2medoc
- TikTok: @talk2medoc
- YoutTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0O_Sf3aYLavYaJ_hg7bM8g
- LI: https://www.linkedin.com/in/andrewtisserdo/
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: Doctor Me First (Dr. Errin Weisman)
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
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Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- How he is able to produce content and work on courses/videos in between seeing his pediatric patients
- Why he implemented templates and hired a scribe when the practice he joined had never had one before
Marriage:
- Why he fell in Love during Summer Camp
- How he teaches his children the importance of couple time
- How he and his wife make time for each other with 5 (now 6) children
Money:
- How focusing on values decreases financial disagreements
- Why he has Sunday night meetings with his wife
Time Management:
- How his morning routine helps his wife and children begin their day
- The importance of finding help to repurpose content
- How 2.5 minutes of shopping online saves him 2.5 hours in the actual store
- How he does bedtime with 5 (now 6) children
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR PHIL BOUCHER
- Know when to place the needs of your spouse or children above your own and when to prioritize your own self care. This is an important distinction that often does not come naturally. We learn as we go. How do I want to make my families’ life better in this situation? Another good question to ask yourself at the moment I will borrow from my dear friends Dr. Alexandra Stockwell who recently came to speak with my Women Physicians coaching group. She offers to ask ourselves, what does everyone in this family need right now, including me?
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- Example: Dinner, TV, bedtime, alone time, reconnection time
- When I am overwhelmed, angry, and victimize myself, I have learned that all I need is often 10-15 minutes to reset...take a shower, think about why I am really feeling the way I feel and a moment to take ownership for my feelings instead of blaming them on someone else.
- Do not wait for someone else to make your life more efficient. If you crave efficiency and you notice wasted time at work, suggest a solution. Remember not to focus on the problem as in any negotiation. Present two best options to your group. If neither option is adopted, create one for yourself. Templates...a scribe, get creative, find alternative methods. This won’t happen overnight.
- Make a list of your shared values
- Family Time
- Home
- Experiences
- Material Items
- Charity
- Notice if your shared values support increased spending habits...if so figure out how to increase your salary.
- Evaluate what your variables can be shifted in your home to help align
- What variables can I shift to support my spending habits?
- Create shared values with your spouse.
- A Dream Home
- The Headboard
- The Luxury Car
- Examples: Time with family on weekends, annual couple only vacations, Grandparents
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I have a good balance between self care and self sacrifice?
- What can I delegate in my life?
- How can my spouse and I create more shared visions?
- Do my values support my spending habits?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Podcast: Raising Good Parents and High Yield Physicians
- Facebook: Phil Boucher
- Instagram: @raisinggoodparents
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SPONSOR: locumstory.com OR doctorpodcastnetwork.com/locumstory
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
WHAT YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE
- How Pediatric Radiation Oncology has shaped his view as a Father and how he parents
- How Fatherhood enhances life and fosters growth
- Financial Tips for expecting, new, or current Fathers
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- How he paid off his medical school loan debt
- Why his GI practice struggled to make any money during the pandemic
- How they planned a wedding during medical school
Marriage:
- Proposing to his medical school sweetheart 5 months after they met
- Infatuation at first sight
- Bonding over sonic drive-in dates
Money:
- What designating a household CFO means
- Why having equal say in the budget is necessary
- Teaching children about money through commission opportunities
Coaching:
- How to become more loving
- Normalizing shame and hopelessness when it comes to finances
- How to practice good medicine in private practice
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM BRENT LACEY
- Most conflicts arise from unrealistic or unknown expectations.
- Figure out your business, family, and life values before a crisis. Don't wait for a crisis to figure out what is most important in life to you!
- Caring more about your spouse's goals than your own fosters selflessness and relational unity.
- We run an exceptional business so that we can practice good medicine.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Why do I feel shame or hopelessness when it comes to my finances?
- What unrealistic or unrealized expectations do I have for my spouse?
- How do I show selflessness towards my spouse?
- How can I commit to loving my spouse despite the struggles which may and do arise?
- Am I choosing to love my spouse on a daily basis?
- How do I show love?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.thescopeofpractice.com
- Facebook: www.thescopeofpractice.com/facebookpage
- $99 “Residency Proof Your Marriage Course: https://the-scope-of-practice-academy.teachable.com/courses/residency-proof-your-marriage?affcode=996806_mhqjyf01
- Instagram: @TheScopeOfPractice
- Twitter: @BusinessCoachMD
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/brent-lacey/
- Podcast: www.thescopeofpractice.com/podcast
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- 8 years out of residency work on Omaha Nebraska as a board-certified pediatrician
- First son 3rd year of residency
- How being a Dad helps him as pediatrician: the texts books say to doit one way and the real life is another
Marriage:
- Why marriage is a Team sport where thrive off each others strengths and weaknesses
- How they were zip-tied together at a marriage/divorce party in college
- When she first began calling him the “guy of my dreams”
- Raised as a free-range child in West Virginia and how this was different from the way his wife was raised
- How to parent together when you have differences in opinions
Money:
- How they gain time by having one spouse stay at home
- Why his money mindset is “in-progress”
- The difference between taking ownership and blaming oneself
COVID:
- How rates of depression, anxiety, and obesity have changed during “at home learning”
- How to decide if kids should wear masks
- Why being the example and exemplifying positivity is important
- How to stop the spread of COVID misinformation
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Jeremy Toffle
- It is not about the actual problem or issue you are discussing….it is about HOW you discuss the topic. Approach conversations with an open mind and without blame. Come from a place knowing that we are all imperfect humans
- Misinformation about COVID is everywhere! It is our duty as physicians to either stay updated with the latest information OR have resources readily available for our patients, family, and friends who come to us with questions.
- Create or emphasize a bedtime routine or habit which fosters love and compassion amongst you and your spouse: “Good night, sleep well, sweet dreams, I love you.”
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Did I marry the “guy/gal” of my dreams
- What am I teaching my children? How can I lead by example?
- How am I staying updated with the latest COVID misinformation?
- How can I avoid propagating misinformation?
- How can I support myself, my spouse, and kids so they are more likely to go to bed happy?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.imperfectdadmd.com
- Podcast: Https://Imperfectdadmdpodcast.buzzsprout.com
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/advicemedia
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
If you would like a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you would like to get on the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Waitlist, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist now!
If you would like to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level, sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consultation! I will do the rest!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Why she transitioned from New York City to a rural medicine physician life in Hawaii
Marriage:
- Her surprise when he proposed and eloped in one trip!
- Her beliefs on how love and sex versus partnership and negotiating will hold a relationship together
- How she creates a safe family bubble
- How “spring cleaning” and sharing fears and desires weekly helps their relationship
- What a “toilet flush” means in conversations
Money:
- Why Dr. Lisa likes to feel like she has no money (WHAT!?!?)
- How her hubby and her manage money completely differently
- How scarcity is motivating for Dr. Tharler
Embodiment:
- Learning how leaning in and affirmations did not work for her
- What embodiment coaching looks like
- The goals of embodiment coaching
- Her husband's doubts and fears when she started getting involved in embodiment
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR LISA THARLER
- Put you and your relationship first.
- Learn your triggers to move through conflict faster.
- Stack positive experiences.
- Be vulnerable with your desires and fears to foster deep sharing. (Use “I” statements. Own what you want. Do not focus on what your partner is doing wrong.)
- Put boundaries around work, hours, and energy. During this time… Recognizing when you are empty and can give no more. Be honest with yourself when you are exhausted.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Why am I not behind?
- How am I vulnerable with my spouse?
- How do I create safety in our relationship?
- What do my body language and tone affect my relationships?
- How can I set up boundaries around my hours and energy and respect them?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Facebook Group: Under The White Coat
- Facebook Group: According to Dr. Lisa
- Instagram: @accordingtodrlisa
- Instagram: @underthewhitecoatmd
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: panaceafinancial.com
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook, visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Travel:
- How she uses travel hacks to travel affordably
- Hopper, Google ITA, Rewards programs, Chase Rewards without building a balance, NextVacay,
Marriage:
- Meeting her future hubby when she was not ready!
- How they play as a “Good guy/Bad Guy” team in real estate
- How they invest in their marriage
- Once a month budget dates with Josh
Money:
- The drastic change from wealthy with servants to having nothing and helping pay the bills at age 14
- From growing up with servants and attending a private school to section eight housing and free school lunches
- How “Tiger Mom” teaches her children the value of money
Culture:
- How her childhood in India differed from her childhood in the States
- Why Disha and her mother left India after her father died
- Why Disha transformed her traditional Indian money mindset during her second maternity leave
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR DISHA SPATH
- If you are in consumer debt, use the debt snowball principle to climb out of debt and learn how to manage money without being too overwhelmed. Paying off the smallest bill can provide motivation and build up momentum to keep going.
- Cut down the fixed costs (phone plans-switching carriers, cancel unused subscriptions, change grocery stores-from Expensive to Aldi & Walmart, downsize from a big house to renting a smaller place, moving closer to grandparents to help with childcare costs.
- Raise your children without a silver spoon to teach them to know the importance of money and better equip them to be independent later in life.
- Paying off student loans may or may not be your best financial decision. Although this was the right decision for her, she emphasizes that this is not a one size fits all answer. You have to look at your unique circumstances. Do you work for a public or private institution? What is your debt to income ratio? How do you feel about debt? Is it causing you anxiety or fear?
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I find the balance between being frugal and indulging in the good things
- Do I ever find myself stuck in a scarcity mindset?
- How can I travel in style on a budget?
- Do I expect my spouse to take care of all the financials because of a cultural upbringing? If so, how is this serving me?
- When I want to save money, how can I focus on fixed costs?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: thefrugalphysician.com
- Facebook: The Frugal Physician
- Instagram: @thefrugalphysician
- Twitter: @thefrugalphysician
- Pinterest: @thefrugalphysician
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: Physician Financial Services at doctorpodcastnetwork.com/larrykeller
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 45-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Meeting in Newfoundland during medical school after dating “another guy” most of medical school
- What Karolyn told her classmate after their magical kiss in 4th year of med school
Marriage:
- The Proposal that did NOT happen at DisneyWorld
- Why a Las Vegas elopement and a Big Catholic Wedding can both be good ideas
Money:
- How they got into real estate and “unleashed the beast”
- How “The Wealthy Barber” helped Karolyn get into a solid money mindset in residency
Culture:
- How chicken feet and shark fin soup won the approval of her hubby’s grandmother
- How food can win the heart of others when you do not speak the same language
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KAROLYN LEE
- If you go to Disney with your fiance and expect to get engaged, you may not enjoy the day as much especially if you are going to be expecting a ring at every corner.
- Sometimes you need to hear advice from the right people before you take action.
- Finding a money mentor could change the trajectory of your financial future.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Would I eat chicken feet for love?
- How can I intentionally greet my spouse when they come home?
- How can I unleash my beast?
- Do I believe I am worthy?
- How can I believe in myself and tell myself I am worthy every day?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://physicianthoughtwork.com
- Facebook: @physicianthoughtwork
- Instagram: karolynleemd
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: panaceafinancial.com
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Why Tim wanted to practice rural medicine
- What stalking a medical school classmate looks like
- Leaving love notes during medical school
- How having good mentors can make a huge difference
- Where you grow is not in the roses
Marriage:
- How a marriage can feel bigger than the individual
- Living in a trailer like vagabonds after the birth of their second child?
- How they worked through the “I don’t love you anymore”
- How Tim was her Knight in Shining Armour
- Friendship was the foundation of her marriage
Love Languages:
- Why knowing your needs is KEY
- Why you need to learn to love yourself before loving your spouse
- Why knowing your spouses needs is important
- Whether marriages based on love or trust
- How letting each other to do things separately builds trust
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. May & Tim Hindmarsh
- In a successful marriage, the relationship is often bigger than either person.
- “God tells us to love our enemies, but I am not going to marry them.” Although love is elevating, marriage is not ONLY based on love.
- The gravity with which a relationship orbits is trust. Although I do not always agree with my spouse, do I trust them 100%.
- It is getting through the hardships that make or break a relationship. The easy stuff...the fun stuff...the honeymoon stuff does not matter. We are ALL good at supporting our spouse through good times. It becomes more difficult to be supportive when the bad times roll in.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Was I born at an early age??? (just kidding)
- How do I model constructive conflict?
- Where am I looking for happiness?
- Could it be more freeing to stop looking for happiness and be okay with not being happy all the time?
- Is happiness always my goal? If so, why?
- Do I give myself permission to be unhappy?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: bsfreemd.com
- Facebook: BS Free MD
- Instagram: @bsfreemd and @thedoctornextdoor
- Podcast: BS Free MD
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
If you spent less time arguing with your spouse, what would your life look like? → sign up to find out at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me coach you! I can show you what is possible
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- How you get into medical school with community college credits
- How Carrie as a free-spirit found her place as a physician
Marriage:
- Meeting her future hubby at age 18 in college
- Why Carrie thought her future hubby “ghosted her”
- The benefits of being married to a medical spouse
Money/Real Estate:
- Why buying a home is not just about how much you offer.
- How to become a real estate agent
- How she makes time to be a real estate agent and physician
- Why the real estate market is so crazy right now in 2021
- Why having a good team is
- What do the sellers need?
- What is a trade-up?
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Carrie Reynolds
- When you think someone has “ghosted” you, think again.
- Anyone can become a real estate agent. It’s what you do with the knowledge and how you work with a team that will make the difference. Same thing in marriage or in your job.
- How the “never stop learning” mentality has helped her
- Why is making an offer not just about the numbers? Or the price... It’s about asking the seller What do they need??? Negotiating...is not about what you want….it is about what you can give...what you can bring to the table.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I want to get into real estate? If so, do I want to become a relator and pursue a more active role or invest in passive real estate like many busy physicians do
- Do I focus on the negatives or positives when it comes to being married to either a medical or non-medical spouse?
- How can I create a lifestyle that meets my needs?
- How can I best show up in my marriage so that it feels easy?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- www.hippocratichustle.com
- www.hippocraticholiday.com
- www.hippocratichomes.com
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: Doctor Me First (Dr. Errin Weisman D.O.)
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
For a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook?→ Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
Stop arguing with your spouse and spend more of your energy creating fireworks in your marriage → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute coaching consult! Let me show you what is possible!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- A pediatrician promoting physician wellness for 20 years at a large HMO
Marriage:
- Going on her first date with her future hubby at age 15!!!! (future hubby was 14!!!)
- How being long distance was good for their relationship
- How she decided that her hubby was her person
- When she accepted her hubby’s passive, introverted nature
Money:
- How growing up in a scarcity financial mentality and her hubby growing up in an abundance financial mentality has affected how they handle money together
- Why money is not a good measure of love
- The absence of financial discussions in her marriage and how and why this works
- Why financial freedom is not the answer for her household
Mindfulness & Yoga:
- How she brings mindfulness to coaching
- Why yoga does not mean standing on her head
- How accepting “what is” has enhanced her life
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Jessie Mahoney
- When feeling stuck, Jessie loves to ask herself two questions:
- What would love do?
- What would compassion do? Love would let people show up exactly as they are. Sometimes we cannot fix things. Most of the time the other person needs to do the fixing and we can just love and have compassion. Having more compassion for herself would also allow her to grow from any situation in life regardless if other people would see it as a failure or argument or strain….
- The grass is greener where you water it!!!!! It is not necessarily better somewhere else.
- Boundaries come from love.
- We spend a year planning our wedding and no time planning our marriage.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What would love do?
- What would compassion for me do?
- What would compassion for my spouse do?
- How can I be thoughtful about my money?
- What message would I like to imprint upon this world?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.jessiemahoneymd.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jessie.mahoney.56
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jessiemahoneymd/
- Podcast: themindfulhealerspodcast.com
- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7LfxLU3jmBdiScY-_24OBg
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
A Second Marriage Fairy Tale with Dr. Milene Argo
I encourage you to reach out to me at katemangona@medicinemarriageandmoney.com with any questions, concerns, or suggestions!
Want a free copy of The Medical Marriage Survival Guide: An Instruction Manual For Physicians in Love E-book/Workbook? → Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/waitlist and I will send it to you!
Want to work with me 1:1 to take your relationship to the next level? → sign up at https://www.medicinemarriageandmoney.com and click “I AM READY” for a free 60-minute introductory coaching consult! I will do the rest!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- When a spouse thinks “being on-call” is something we do for ourselves
- Going through divorce her last year of residency
- Her Mother’s anti-western-medicine beliefs and how this has affected their relationship
- Why she now “skips into work” to see her patients
Marriage:
- Redefining “her type” and her definition of husband potential
- Falling in love with her personal trainer
- Knowing when to leave and when to stay
Money:
- Her new 2021 goal is to tackle personal finance!
Renewal:
- How her personal trainer Eric rescued her, his persistence, and their magical kiss
- Growing through the differences she had with her mother
- Choosing growth discomfort over stuck discomfort
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Milene Argo
- Sometimes we fall in love with someone we would never expect. If we are constantly looking for a certain type of person, we may miss the love of our life directly in front of our eyes AND maybe they are ALREADY married to us!
- Asking ourselves, “Why would she/he say this to me?” Is NOT a helpful question. Instead, next time our spouse, mother-in-law, or friend says words to us, let’s ask ourselves instead, “What do I want to make that mean?”
- Making assumptions about what people are thinking is dangerous. AND then making assumptions about how other people are feeling is also dangerous! AND THEN making assumptions that other people's thoughts and feelings mean something about us is the MOST dangerous of all!!!! So next time we catch ourselves in this funny mind drama, let’s ask what we would rather spend our time and energy focusing on….someone else’s thoughts and feelings over which we have no control, or our own?
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How do I tell my love story? Is it a fairy tale or a horror story?
- Do I allow myself to love me every day?
- Do I give myself credit for how far I’ve come?
- What are my main sources of motivation?
- Am I choosing the discomfort of growth or the discomfort of being stuck?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://thedoctor-coach.com/
- Facebook: Milene Juliao Argo
- Instagram: @thedoctor_coach
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
SPONSOR: doctorpodcastnetwork.com/doc2doc
Today is the official first day of the Women Physicians Medicine, Marriage, & Money Group Coaching Program → Our welcome call is tonight! If you are reading this and are wishing you would have signed up, please reach out to me now!
Visit https://library.medicinemarriageandmoney.com/group-coaching to sign up! Start arguing with your spouse less and spending more of your time planning vacations and investing in real estate with your love!
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- “The talk” Senior Resident Dr. Rupa gave her future hubby during his first week as an ophthalmology resident and why he was scared of her!
- How the business consultant they hired to assess the ophthalmology practice influenced their family plan
- How owning and operating a private practice together every day works for them
Marriage:
- Their first kiss out of nowhere on New Year’s Eve
- How they blended of 3 different cultures on their wedding day at a Hawaiian destination wedding
- How she invests in her marriage
Money:
- Why sitting down to do a 10-year plan helps a couple evaluate what is most important
- Why she bought her first Chanel purse at age 40
- Placing her value on her time
Social Media
- How and why she got started on Instagram
- Why the people you surround yourself will help you rise to the occasion
- What gave her the motivation and encouragement to create the virtual community she envisioned
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM RUPA
- Being a business owner could be the best financial opportunity for you and your family. Not only does this impact your finances if you set up a smart financial plan, but this also allows you to have a more flexible family life. Keep in mind, these opportunities do not arise at the most comfortable times.
- Surround yourself with people who lift you up. Instead of telling yourself, I can’t do this, you will start saying “Why can’t I do this?”
- You will find where you fit. “Never underestimate the power of a community of women who collaborate instead of competing.” The motto of her attending lounge. How this inspires Rupa on a daily basis.
- Hiring a cook and housekeeper is cheaper than a divorce attorney
- Do not let fear deter you from what you can truly achieve
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How honest am I about what I want?
- Where do I go for inspiration on a daily basis?
- What are some more systems I can put into place in my household to avoid contention with my spouse?
- Am I open to uncomfortable opportunities?
- Do I have faith in myself?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://drrupawong.com/
- Facebook: @drrupawong
- Instagram: @drrupawong
- TikTok:@drrupawong
- Membership Site: https://www.attendinglounge.com/
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- When she knew she wanted to be a physician
- How her time in the spent hospital during residency affected her first marriage
- Having a spouse who understands being “on-call”
Marriage:
- Meeting on Match.com and a first date at Starbucks
- Falling in love with a generous heart
- Her thoughts when the marriage counselor told her SHE had things to work on
Money:
- How her spouse and her views on money are drastically different
- The ultimatum she gave her fiance regarding her financial goals
Divorce:
- Why the SAME premarital counseling questions she never completed during her first marriage, she did on her second marriage
- Getting married in 20s after medical school because “this is what you do”
- The biggest challenge in her first marriage
- The difference between focusing on oneself versus the ex during divorce
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM TRINA
- When we think we are going to marriage counseling for our spouse (and not ourselves), things will NOT get better. We all have things to work on, so let us focus only on working on what we can control….OURSELVES. What to find happiness, love, and appreciation in your marriage, find it on your own first.
- Trina tells us NOT to ever feel stuck in a terrible relationship. If you can find joy and happiness on your own and feel constantly stuck in a horrible situation, reevaluate your reasons for staying. If the two of you have truly grown apart or were never right for each other in the first place, why stay in an unhealthy environment? Remaining in a terrible relationship (after working on oneself) is not more comfortable than leaving which may seem very uncomfortable. Which hurts more? Which has the potential to add more discomfort….staying in silence, resentment, or venturing out alone into the unknown….into a new world of possibilities. This being said, don’t leave in order to find happiness. Find happiness in yourself first...once you have found that, if the relationship in itself is lacking, give yourself permission to start from scratch
- Although divorce is NEVER fun, there is life after divorce! Going through a divorce is like going through a period grief. It is a loss even if YOU are the one who chose to leave, but it can still be so much better on the other end after you allow yourself to heal. Shifting the focus onto healing yourself and away from making ex feel bad or regret their actions or inactions will cause the pain to subside at a more manageable level. Focus on healing.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I have self-confidence? Do I look to my partner for confidence?
- What is the difference between self-confidence and confidence?
- Where do I go to find happiness? Inside myself or in my relationships?
- Is it better for me to stay or to go?
- Do I understand the money mindset of my spouse? If our views on money differ, how can I better understand their story?
- If and when I ever say goodbye to someone I have been in a relationship with, where is my focus on me or on them? On healing myself or on hurting them?
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Meeting for the first time in anatomy lab
- What it was like searching for a job in the same field
- Why Sanjay says “It really does get better” for the trainees
Marriage:
- How to maintain open lines of communication while keeping judgment out of it
- Why learning how to fight with each other is key
- How Sanjay unknowingly spread the bread crumbs for Matt before the proposal
Money:
- How they maximized their travel dollars as residents
- How they handled the transition of income from residency to attending
- The differences between how they grew up and how they viewed their increase in salary
Surrogacy:
- The “hurry up and wait” process
- What the interview process for surrogacy looks like
- Keeping in contact with the surrogate
- The mental energy involved in planning to have a surrogate
- What the relationship with their surrogate might look like after the birth
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM MATT AND SANJAY
- We can always improve how we fight with our spouse. What we say and what our spouse hears may be significantly different. So let us slow down the argument. Figure out what our partner is hearing rather than continuing to push our side of the argument. Sanjay also says to Keep judgment to ourselves and listen to what our partner is hearing. Keep an open mind and approach it from how can I show up as the best version of myself in this situation.
- If you are a trainee listening know that “It really does get better.” All those feelings of inadequacy and questions like “do I belong?” , “why am I doing this?”, and “is this really what I want to do for the rest of my life?” are NORMAL!!!!! A lot of trainees think these thoughts yet may not be expressing them out loud. I would like to add if you feel this way now, reach out to someone you can confide in. A mentor or close friend. We are not alone, my friends.
- Sanjay gave us a beautiful example of how we can all learn to be more responsible with money. Observe. Learn from those around you. He watched a close family member make more money than he could ever imagine and then lose it. Sanjay walks away from this with foresight and the determination to start planning for his retirement immediately after training if not during it. He could have chosen to perpetuate this cycle...done what those before him did….but he has decided to take control of his finances and prepare his family What can you learn from those around you?
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How have I grown with my partner over the years?
- How has my love for my partner evolved over time?
- How has being with my partner during the pandemic been better than if I were to have been alone?
- Am I spending my income on things that bring me joy?
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Eric’s plan to get noticed by Marcy at the bookstore and sharing a microscope
- How Eric broke his arm during medical school
- Why returning to medicine after the loss of Andy looked different for each of them
Marriage:
- What Andy ate before marriage and why they likely got married so quickly
- How they supported each other through the grieving
- Supporting each others’ podcasts
Money:
- Why we need to “Thank God for the accountant” and how this helped on Eric’s journey of healing
- Why we need to all have an emergency fund
Grief:
- Why accept the feelings during grieving
- How anger and guilt can become poisons
- Why forgiveness matters and how forgiving is so powerful
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE LARSONS
- Loss and grief are universal. We all experience some sort of loss and grief at some point in our lives. Whether we are going through the loss of a young child, an older child, a parent, or a spouse, it hurts. It is absolutely painful. It just feels wrong. There is no sense in comparing which experience or which loss is worse. We are all on our own journey and that is okay. We can still go through our own journey alongside the support and companionship of others. No need to compare. Just accept that it is hard. Be aware that this is normal.
- If we cannot forgive others, we have often not forgiven ourselves.
- Sometimes what is right for us is not right for our spouse. Our answers do not have to be everyone’s answers. This is normal. Once you accept this and learn to just be present and supportive in whatever way is needed, the pain may worsen.
- Telling our children they are enough.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I sincerely ask for forgiveness when it truly matters?
- How can I forgive myself when I need compassion and grace?
- How do I process grief?
- What does my emergency fund look like?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Eric’s Website: www.theparadocs.com
- Marcy’s Website: www.andysmom.com
- Eric’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/TheParadocsShow
- Marcy’s Facebook: www.facebook.com/alwaysandysmom
- Instagram: @alwaysandysmom @theparadocsshow
- Twitter: @theparadocsshow @alwaysandysmom
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- How she fell forward from her first attending job into something powerful
- Why she decided to work for Doctors without Borders in Cambodia, Uganda & Kenya
Marriage:
- How she stays curious in her marriage
- Bonding over the shoe size, toastmasters, humanitarian, and a shared burger on the first date
- On which day of dating he said, “I love you”
Money:
- Fertility costs and how you never know how many years you will need to plan into the fertility journey
- Why she cares about learning the finances although her hubby does most of the spreadsheets
- How her real estate interests have evolved
Fertility:
- Their brief separation because of different child/baby wants
- Her journey through multiple miscarriages, IUI, IVF,
- What it means to “have my own back” during her fertility journey
- Discovering physician empowerment
- What moving through pain looks like to Maneesha
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR MANEESHA AHLUWALIA
- Being excited about pregnancy does not make the pain any worse during a miscarriage. It is still painful. It was always going to be as painful. Allowing the emotion of excitement during the initial phases of the pregnancy journey does make it MORE painful than it would have otherwise been without the excitement. Avoiding the pain forever is impossible. Feeling the pain and moving through the pain is the goal.
- We are not victims of what happens in life. Every decision, every path, every emotion we experience is a choice. Doctors may say funny things. Friends may say odd things. Nurses, family, and coworkers may say strange things. They often just want to say something, but do not know what to say? Why? Because everyone needs to hear different things. So, it does not matter what people say. Do not be a victim of the words or actions of others. We can choose how we interpret the words of others. We have the power to choose what to hear.
- When someone in our life may be experiencing miscarriage, fertility issues, or child loss, these are things we can say: I am here for you. I am listening to you. You get to think what you are thinking. You get to feel what you are feeling. We can talk about it or we do not need talk about it.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How do I stay curious in my marriage or relationship?
- How can I stop being a victim of other people’s words?
- Am I telling myself that I am doing enough today?
- How can I be more comfortable in my own skin today?
- Do I fear getting too excited in my journey because I fear disappointment and failure?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Working three jobs before medical school
- Her love-hate relationship with medicine
- Avoiding asking questions about maternity leave on the job trail.
Marriage:
- How she and Dan continued to choose each other over and over again
- How we can create change for the better in medicine
- Accepting their differences
Money:
- Sharing money since they were children
- What they consider a shared money mentality
- Treating money as a tool
- Being in sync on what is financially responsible and having open communication
- How she felt about spending money on IVF, which never comes with guaranteed results.
Fertility:
- Forgiving medicine and her career path during fertility challenges
- When these conversations do not happen during medical education
- Kate’s initial confusion when Dan’s thoughts were different from hers during her roller coaster of emotions
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. KATE HAPPOCK
- How to create change in medicine. Especially when it comes to maternity leave, breastfeeding, parental obligations, work-life integration…. Starts with small conversations and supporting our colleagues. Let us be the cheerleader for our fellow physicians. Let us build each other up. Let us check on each other. Let us NOT engage in conversations that focus on degrading each other as those rarely build anything construction and definitely do not help our patients or health care in general If it is the change we want, regardless if it is for our patients, for our staff, or for our fellow physician colleagues, we can start by focusing on all the small things we can do each day. Daily conversations, compassion, and support.
- Our worth as physicians is not tied to how many hours we work each day or how many days a week we spend in the hospital or in the clinic. We are ALL high achievers, so stop judging, stop shaming, and start valuing each minute, each moment we care for patients, for ourselves, our for our families.
- When our spouse has different feelings from us about any life circumstance, this does NOT minimize ours and vice versa. We are each allowed to have our own thoughts about everything. We are each on our own journey. I distinctly remember the first year Victor and I were trying to get pregnant and each time I got my period I would cry and he would not and I honestly did NOT understand how he was not in pain and sadness like I was. I did not understand then what now. I truly appreciate Dr. Hoppock’s wisdom when it comes to allowing these differences in emotions that will inevitably arrive along the journey of life.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Am I choosing love every day?
- How do I value my worth as a physician?
- How can I accept the differences between my experience and my spouse’s experiences during the same journey?
- How do I define the story of my life?
- How can I have more self-compassion for myself?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://www.fertilityfound.com/
- Facebook: @FertilityFound
- Instagram: @fertilityfound
- Email: kate@fertilityfound.com
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER IN THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- The first time teachers did not seem to care about the students learning
- Why the Dean of her Medical school supported her pregnancy and child leave during medical school
- Meeting her future spouse in medical school as she turned pages for a concert pianist
- Her surprise when she was not as satisfied in her physician career as she had expected
- Why she and her hubby each took a year off from medical school
Marriage:
- Why the foundation of their relationship is devotion to personal growth
- How sharing your truth changes your marriage
- How falling in love can look different
- How having divorced parents initially influenced how she thought about the trajectory of her marriage
Money:
- Moving to rural Kansas for two years to get ahead financially
Intimacy:
- Why it is important to remember what drew you to your spouse
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. ALEXANDRA STOCKWELL
- Every interaction or non-interaction between our spouse and us is either moving us towards connection or driving us away from connection. Enhance every moment in order to foster more love and this will result in a more intimate relationship.
- Be authentic. Hiding or walking on eggshells does not lead to connection. Figure out a way to regain friendship and love and if WE cannot do this on our own, maybe it is time to consider seeking help.
- Discovering what the foundation of our relationship with our spouse is may draw us closer to them and foster more connection. What is it? For Dr. Stockwell, she took us on her journey of their devotion to each other’s personal growth. Imagine how our relationship could enter the next level if we invited this concept into our lives and relationships.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What drew me to my spouse or my partner?
- What bothers me about my spouse and how can I transform my bother to something more helpful for our relationship?
- How can I bring up difficult conversations in a non-threatening way?
- How can I create more emotional intimacy in my relationship?
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Her transition from OB/GYN residency to Internal Medicine residency
- Her unicorn career seeing 28 patients a day for 5 years for only gynecologic concerns
- Common issues MeLanie saw as an internist specializing in pelvic pain
Marriage:
- Why the words “Eugene” and “rocket scientist” sparked her interest while on-line dating
- The devotion MeLanie’s future husband showered upon her only a month after meeting
- Why she knew he was the one after 3 months and wanted him to propose after 6 months of dating
Money:
- The financial discussion between her and her hubby when she transitioned from Internal Medicine Physician to Sex Counselor
Sex:
- How the mind-body connection affects sex
- How to communicate in bed
- Why acknowledging a partner's emotions are key
- Why assuming a spouse has the best intentions works
- What natural avoidance is
- Why pelvic pain may cause guilt, shame, & confusion
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. MELANIE MODJOROS
- Take responsibility for every emotion regarding love and intimacy. We have the power to make things better or worse. If we feel stuck and are not actively working towards making things, better, chances are they may be getting worse. Let us not be afraid to talk openly about our feelings with our partner using I statements while fully clothed. This may be hard and uncomfortable and that is okay. If unsure where to start, seek help from a professional.
- The biggest determining factor for wanting to have sex again is the feelings we have at the end of the last sexual encounter.
- People always say, “Sex was so easy when we were young and it was never scheduled.”, the truth is, it usually WAS scheduled, we just didn’t think of it that way because the words “SEX DATE” were not on our google calendar. We usually just got dolled up or manned up, shaved our legs or face, and went out on a Friday night or Saturday night date! It is OKAY to schedule sex….call it anything….cocktail night, cuddle night, snuggle puppy party time as one of my dear friends calls it.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I take responsibility for my feelings?
- Do I communicate what I want in bed and why?
- Do I assume my partner has the best intentions at heart?
- Do I believe in any sex myths such as “Men always want sex” or “A man’s erection equals his attraction to me?” If so, why?
- Would scheduling sex be helpful for my marriage?
- Do I enjoy sex?
- Does my spouse enjoy sex?
- How can we enhance our sex life?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Website: https://www.sexualhealthconsultants.com/
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- Why she did not want to marry a surgeon
- Being told in urology residency “Women are complicated”
- Why she prefers the pelvis over the neck
Marriage:
- Meeting while he was in Armenia and she was in Uganda
- He is her rock and her calm
- How love languages can help any relationship
Money:
- Having quarterly meetings about finance
- Her scarcity mindset and his abundance mindset
- What her financial splurge are
Sex Myths:
- T or F: Most of sex-education is fear-based
- T or F: Sex is supposed to be easy.
- T or F: Why spontaneous desire does not just happen
- T or F: There is normal sexual desire.
- T or F: The answer to good sex life is a good glass of wine
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM KELLY
- No one can give you more sexual desire. This comes from within. Discovering your limiting beliefs.
- Don’t treat your spouse like you treat your employees (if you are a surgeon or demanding of your employees)
- Don’t try to change your spouse. The love that can be created from loving them exactly the way they are is infinite.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Is sex easy for us?
- Am I having bad sex?
- Do I enjoy sex?
- Do I try to change my spouse?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Instagram: www.instagram.com/kellycaspersonmd
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/youarentbroken
- Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-not-broken/id1495710329
- Website: www.kellycaspersonmd.com
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Going back to work as a pediatric emergency physician after Asher’s death
- What made RoseAnn a more empathetic physician
- Realizing the Post-traumatic stress at work
Marriage:
- Not dependent or independent. Children of God. When 2 become one flesh.
- Meeting in a dingy night club
- Why RoseAnn tried to cancel their first date
- RoseAnn’s qualifications before John could propose
- How RoseAnn almost “destroyed” her own proposal
- How bedrest was romantic
- Faith as the cornerstone of marriage
Asher:
- How having children makes you realize you are no longer in control
- Being in complete shock after the findings of Asher’s 20-week ultrasound
- How Asher deepened their faith and strengthened their relationship
- The overwhelming sense of peace in the Scheller house
- How silence can be hurtful
Grieving:
- Never stop praying
- Feeling defeated and abandoned, yet knowing, “All I know is you exist”
- Realizing that feeling debilitated for days is okay
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE SCHELLERS
- If you have faith, there will be no suffering without purpose.
- Worry only takes away from the minutes you have in the present time. When we spend our time worrying or anxious over whatever small or huge thing we are going through in life, it is important to remember, we are choosing worry over any other emotion which could be available to us in that moment.
- Be good to yourself. Be good to the people around you. It’s Grace during times of suffering and difficulty that is so important. It’s a season. It will not last forever.
- Plan for the worst and hope for the best. Said like a TURE Pediatric Emergency Physician. If you plan for the worst, you can handle ANYTHING. Yet if you hope for the BEST, you always maintain the ability to keep your mind somewhere peaceful.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- When it comes to raising or caring for my children, how control am I?
- What could I be choosing to do with my mental space, instead of worrying?
- Do I ask for space when I need it? How can I do this more often?
- What helps me get through difficult times? Is it faith, love, my spouse, a schedule?
- When I am in uncomfortable situations, particularly one of suffering or pain for someone else, how can I start the dialogue?
- Can I see the joy through my suffering?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Facebook: RoseAnn John Scheller
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER ON THIS EPISODE
Medicine:
- From Pediatric Radiologist to Sex Coach and Sexual Counselor
- The importance of providing medical students and residents with the skill-set to prevent burnout as you are recruiting them into medicine
- How she grew into the doctor she wanted to become during residency instead of just pushing through it
Relationship:
- Taking 100% responsibility for your sex life. When you don’t do this, you will just take your old and current problems to your next relationship.
- Keys to co-parenting outside of an intimate relationship
- Why using more “I” statements instead of accusatory statements
Sex:
- Whose responsibility is it anyway
- What does it really mean to take 100% responsibility
- What is to-do list sex
- The cost of not addressing your sexual fears
- How a feeling is the worst thing that can happen
- What is choreplay
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Sonia Wright
- Sexual intimacy is your responsibility. Not your partner’s responsibility.
- Get clear on what is important to you and your partner. You don’t have to suffer in silence. If you are, ask yourself what that is costing you.
- Sex is supposed to be fun! You get to define sexual intimacy the way you want it in your life!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Am I suffering in silence? What is this costing me right now?
- Do I have to-do list sex or for-me sex?
- Am I comfortable having uncomfortable conversations with my partner?
- What do I want the sexual energy in my relationship to look like?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.soniawrightmd.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/midlifesexcoach
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drsoniawright/
- New group sales page: https://sonia-wright-md.mykajabi.com/joinoysn
- The class starts 2/10/21
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Her premed prerequisites and change in plans after advice from her physician hubby
- Her thoughts about dating a medical student, resident, and attending
- Her journey as a parent of a 10 week-old baby diagnosed with a hepatic tumor
Marriage:
- How she met her anesthesiologist hubby
- Their belief in each other and unwavering support
- Why working through disagreements may be the most beneficial choice
Money:
- How they decide how much to donate to which charities
- The smartest financial (and non-financial) decision she had ever made
- How the “soft space” allows her to take big risks for big rewards
Real Estate:
- How the pandemic has affected her decisions as a multifamily investor
- Pricing changes in real estate during the pandemic
- Why relationships are key in the success of a real estate investor
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM VEENA
- Believing and supporting your spouse allows them to believe even more in themselves and this is what we want. We want to watch our spouse to be successful in whatever that means to them.
- Find a partner that is good at something you are not good at so that you can collaborate and grow.
- Her businesses are successful because she focuses on the relationship side of her business more than anything else. She doesn’t mind giving up a little bit today to be successful in the future. We can all win as a team.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Is my spouse my best friend?
- Do we have or need a check in amount for spending on frivolous things?
- Do I have donation rituals?
- Why do I choose to be married to my spouse everyday?
- Am I a soft space for my partner to land?
- Do I collaborate or compete?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.vivefunds.com
- Facebook: Veena Jetti
- Instagram: @veenajetti
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- How we met at orientation, during the first day of internship
- What a Radiation Oncologist does
- The difference between protons and X-rays
- Kate’s strict rules for Victor during her 3-month radiology board preparation
Marriage:
- Falling in love at first sight and then again 4 years later
- Our proposal story at Disney
- How we dealt with losing an au pair and finding the perfect nanny during the pandemic
Money:
- How we won one year of free frozen yogurt
- Why Victor became interested in learning about finances
Extra:
- How coaching changed Victor’s life
- Why defining marriage, career and financial goals are so important
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- YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/39point6\
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WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Her Psychiatrist perspective on life coaches Tony Robbins and Brooke Castillo
Marriage:
- Meeting and bonding over their three German Shepherds
- How to take a relationship to the next level
- Why her hubby’s needs are her needs
- The importance of knowing that relationships will ebb and flow
Money:
- How she became financially free before the end of residency
- How they purchased her engagement ring without debt
- Why Elaine became her hubby’s first investor
- How they teach their children to value family and money
Extra:
- How they became accidental landlords
- How fear and excitement can feel similar in your body.
- How they tackle their big goals together
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Dr. Stageberg
- Make your spouse’s needs your needs. If this happens both ways, you can take your relationship to the next level.
- Growing your entrepreneurial side is usually not comfortable the first or second time you do it. If you are thinking about becoming a landlord or investing in something you have never invested in before, know that it is NORMAL to NOT be comfortable.
- Even if there is suffering and even when there is hurt, commit to do it together.
- Outsourcing is so important! Anything that is not each other, their children, medicine, or their business, they outsource.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Are my partner’s needs my needs?
- How much of my life could change or could have changed in one second? And how much gratitude do I have for what I have right now?
- Do I value security or freedom more? Does my spouse value security or freedom more? If this is different for us, how can we allow these to compliment each other?
- Do I believe that having a nanny means someone else is raising my children?
- Do I believe having help at home makes one snooty?
- How can I create the home environment I want?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/singlefamilyatscale
https://www.facebook.com/groups/realestateinvestorphysicians
- Website: www.singlefamilyatscale.com
- Newsletter/free video series: www.blackswan.realestate/signup
- Email: elaine@blackswanteam.com
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Finding love at the hospital
Marriage:
- Knowing who the most important person in your life is
- What made Leti different from every other girl
- “Stacking” and how criticism can destroy a relationship
- What people tend to overvalue and undervalue in a relationship
- How what you say in your head affects your relationship
- The three “C”s and three “U”s
- How expectations can get you into trouble
- The 90 Days of Serving without any expectations belief
- How to treat your marriage like a thriving business
Money:
- Why divorce was her smartest financial decision
- How starting with the outcome in mind makes every decision easy
- How having a business mission statement makes money
- The importance of having mutual money goals
Confidence/Extra:
- Why confidence attracted them to each other
- What being in a beautiful state means
- Why bing creative and caring is so important
- What priming is
- Constantly moving forward even when feeling terrified
- Self-confidence comes from doing hard things
- Turning “I Can’t” to “How can I?”
- The meaning you give everything that happens in your life
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Drs. Leti & Kenji
- Become aware of the manual you have for our spouse.
- Marriage can be easy, yet you can always strive to get better.
- Find 3 days a year you can spend with only your spouse to work only on the marriage. Figure out where you want the relationship to go and what you want to work on.
- Be aware of the three “C”s of masculine energy: Control, Criticism, Closed. And the three “U”s of feminine energy: Unseen, Unsafe, and "Ununderstood".
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I respect my spouse’s individuality?
- Am I aware of the manual I have for my spouse?
- Who do I make a priority in my life?
- Do I enjoy telling the story of how I met my spouse?
- Do I assume my spouse will always be there? Do I take them for granted? If so, how is this affecting our relationship?
- Where do I want my relationship to go in 2021?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://semiretiredmd.com/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/semiretiredphysicians
- Instagram: @semiretiredmd
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- How do decrease burnout in medicine
Marriage:
- Bonding over the loss of family members and friends
- How he spoke about other women and what that meant to Latifat
- The perfect proposal before her graduation from medical school
- Their long distance relationship
Money:
- Why a live-in Granny Nanny is worth every penny
- The guidelines of the post bedtime money dates
- The most expensive thing to them
Parenting:
- Whoever wakes up first, gets in trouble.
- “Mommy teaches people how to use money for good.”
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM THE AKINTADES
- Keep things simple. Schedule a regular time and place to meet for a weekly date so that you don’t have to think about anything else except being with your hunny.
- Go on money dates with guidelines, curiosity and no judgement.
- Money has no emotions. Money only has the emotions you give it.
- Relationships...are NOT something that happen, they are something that is CREATED.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Am I emotional about money?
- Do I think of purchases or debt as good or bad or as increasing or decreasing my net worth and how does this subtle change affect my mindset?
- Do I approach my student loans from a place of gratitude or a place of fear? Do I demonize my medical school loans?
- Do I pay my debt down from a place of scarcity or a place of abundance? How would this make a difference?
- Do I take calculated risks?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: www.moneyfitmd.com
- Facebook: www.Facebook.com/moneyfitmd
- Instagram: @MoneyfitMD
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
Medicine:
- The downsides and upsides of not being in a Dermatology practice
- Thinking about the experience from the patient perspective
- Changing her thought from “I cannot find a job because of this pandemic” to “How can I still make money although I cannot get a job as a Dermatologist during the pandemic”
Marriage:
- Your partner is not responsible for your happiness
- After graduating residency, she had dates lined up before she even moved to New York
- Her “speed dating” journey
- The magic lightning bolt
- What is the rush to know the answer?
Money:
- Why being engaged for several years has been a financial decision
- How she feels about being the breadwiner
- How her thoughts about what income her spouse should make have evolved
- Why utilizing the money you make as physician is your superpower
Extra:
- Allowing yourself to be a beginner
- Living your dream
- Using your superpower
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DR. BONNIE KOO
- Always pay yourself first!!!!
- As a physician entrepreneur (or not), KNOW, you don’t have to figure it all out yourself. Your superpower is the ability to hire help!
- Feeling anxious about money has NOTHING to do with how much money you have in your bank account or investment account.
- The key to happiness is knowing you will ALWAYS BE OKAY because YOU will ALWAYS have your back!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I believe I can just figure it all out myself?
- Am I in a rush to find out answers in my life? Why?
- Do I feel anxious or stressed about money? If so, when will this change?
- How can I make more money or make my money work for me?
- Do I allow myself to be a beginner when trying new things or adventures?
- Am I meant for something more?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: wealthymommd.com
- Facebook: WealthyMomMD
- Instagram: @wealthyMomMD
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Falling in love the first few months of medical school
- How the shift from medical school to education Masters and PhD helped them grow together
- Remembering why he went into medicine and plastic surgery
Marriage:
- Meeting someone who pushes and challenges the other person
- When he took an interest in what she loved
- How they act as each other accountability partners
Money:
- The evolution away from a fearful relationship with finances
- The realization they were spending their paychecks each month
- Selenid’s original thoughts about real estate investing
- The smartest financial decision they ever made
Mindset:
- Why are you telling yourself that story?
- The TWO steps of any big adventure
- Embracing your fears
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM JORDAN AND SELENID
- So when it comes to you and your spouse, do not hesitate to prioritize each other’s goals and passions! It will only strengthen your marriage.
- When your spouse comes to you with what you think is a crazy idea (i.e. investing in RE or running an Airbnb in your own home), do you say “Are you crazy” or do you say “Tell me more”. Jordan and Selenid suggest trying out the latter for loving reasons:) Try it out, friends. Get curious. Unless you are wanting severe consequences, go ahead and get curious before crushing dreams and killing the sparks.
- Having 1, 5, and 10-year goals helps your marriage and your mindset. MINDSET is SO IMPORTANT. Why are you telling yourself that story?? Remember, this is not a natural question for most of us...so please please work on asking yourself this question daily...about all your thoughts!!! I promise. This will be a game-changer.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What type of relationship do I have with my paycheck?
- Do I prioritize my spouse’s interests and passions as much as my own or more?
- Do I believe having or wanting money makes me selfish?
- Am I doing things I think I cannot do??? If not, when can I start?
- What is the smartest financial decision I plan to make this year?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Jordan:
- Course: https://the-prudent-plastic-surgeon.mykajabi.com/a/40404/zQyRiviT
- IG: @jordanfreymd
- Twitter: @JordanFreyMD
- Facebook: Jordan Frey
- Blog: www.prudentplasticsurgeon.com
Selenid:
- IG: @selenidfrey
- Twitter: @SelenidFrey
- Facebook: Selenid Gonzalez-Frey
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
Course Link: https://the-prudent-plastic-surgeon.mykajabi.com/a/40404/zQyRiviT
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- The shock, sadness, and action created after a visit to her OB/GYN at the age of 35
Marriage:
- How to allow your spouse to grow into the best version of themselves
- Why unconditional love is NOT a condition
- How her traumatic bicycle accident affected her marriage
- Why it only takes ONE person to make your relationship better
Money:
- Why they aggressively paid down their debt and borrowed all the baby things
- What dipping her toes into real estate looks like
- Her hubby’s thoughts of the $297 boxes she received in the mail
Mantra:
“There will be no bad days.”
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM SUNNY
- Recognize what you can control and recognize what you cannot control. Chances are if you are suffering in your relationship, so is your partner...so the question becomes...how do you decrease your own suffering?
- Am I arguing with reality….Am I agonizing....ruminating or regretting a part of my past or present instead of being grateful for your present What do I already have that I take for granted?
- How am I trying to change my spouse? Maybe nothing major...but something small. And in doing so...am I stealing my spouse’s joy?
- It only takes one person to make the relationship better.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- If my spouse was not here at this moment, how would I find a way?
- When it gets ugly...when the times get tough….because it will, how will I be here for my spouse, for me, and for us?
- What if today was the last day I had on earth? How would I spend it? What would I say or do with my spouse? What would I be grateful for?
- What am I bringing to my marriage?
- Is my happiness dependent on my spouse filling my cup?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: Empoweringwomenphysicians.com
- Podcast: Empowering Women Physicians
- Facebook: Empowering Women Physicians
- Instagram: @EmpoweringWomenPhysicians
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- How Ni-Cheng’s cancer diagnosis during fellowship affected her relationship with medicine
- How taking a year off medicine helped her heal internally and externally
- How to thrive in medicine
- How she returned to medicine after changing her relationship with herself
Marriage
- Meeting her hubby in 8th grade at the East Asian Volleyball circuit
- Her first impression of her hubby and his Red Honda Del Sol
- When her hubby knew Ni-Cheng was the one
- How her hubby expressed his love to her through “car talk”
- The devotion he showed while driving her to and from every single chemo appointment
Money:
- The balance of buying nice things and delayed gratification
- Taking deep breaths before making a purchase
- Need is a subjective word
Mindfulness:
- Embody what you teach
- Reframing difficult experiences as opportunities for learning
- Paying attention on purpose to the present moment at anytime or anywhere
- Breath, Attend, and Transition to more skillful action
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ni-Cheng Liang
- Provide unconditional support for your spouse's hobbies and interests regardless of how random they are. Investing in each other in a way that provides space and unconditional love will pay off in the end.
- You owe it to yourself and to your spouse to prioritize taking care of yourself so that you can show up authentically and be fully present for your loved ones and patients.
- Mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment at any time or anywhere. You can even do it now! Notice your breath, name what you are feeling, notice your thoughts and transition to greater skillful action as opposed to reaction.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I work on my relationship with myself so that I can thrive in medicine?
- How is uncertainty, fear, and anxiety affecting the care of my patients?
- Can I make my profession of love a game?
- How do I show myself compassion?
- How can I reframe my thoughts so that difficult experiences become learning opportunities?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://www.ncliangmd.com/
- Facebook: Ni-Cheng Liang
- Instagram: @ncliangmd
- Twitter: drnichengliang
- YoutTube: Awaken Breath
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Her resistance to dating the chief radiology resident
- Her thoughts on the quantity over quality shift at her practice
- When her arms became numb during breast biopsies
Marriage:
- Friendship as the cornerstone of a marriage
- Understanding how someone needs to be loved
- Supporting your partner as they grow although you may not be growing in the same way
- How her husband supports her yoga journey without actually doing yoga with her
Money:
- Why being a saver and investor in residency helped her make the decision to leave medicine
- Their two accounts; the investment account and the fun account
- The desire to never spend more than they had
- The Karma check she received the day after signing up for yoga therapy school
Yoga Therapy:
- Her initial thoughts about how weird yogis were
- How her interest in yoga therapy began
- How neurophysiology can be controlled by evidence-based yoga practices
- How to find peace in chaos
- Why she does not associate yoga with fitness
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM ROBYN
- Find gratitude before you even get out of bed.
- BREATHE….there is a reason why people tell us to breathe when we are stressed out. Breaths can elevate your mood, calm you down, Warm you, and cool you
- We invest and save because our DREAM job NOW….may NOT be our DREAM job in 15 years.
- It is not having what you want, it is wanting what you have.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Is stress causing my physical ailments? If so, how can I learn how to respond instead of reacting to my stress?
- How can I find gratitude before I even get out of bed in the morning?
- Do I have what I want or want what I have?
- Do I feel stuck in my job? If so, why am I choosing to feel this way?
- How can I approach my day in a more calm way although everything around me maybe chaos?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: https://www.stressfreemd.net
- Free Physicians' 30 Minute Self-Care Webinar: https://joinnow.live/s/jbg7SA
- Rx Inner Peace: A Physician's Guide for Self-Care
- Online course: https://www.stressfreemd.net/inner-peace
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/stressfreemd/
- Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thephysiciansselfcarecommunity
- Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/robyntigermd
- Instagram: @stressfreemd
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Ali & Mark’s conversation on the first day of medical school
- Assumptions people make when you are married to a psychiatrist
Marriage:
- Mark’s answer to Ali’s screening question “What sport did I play in high school?”
- How independent spousal goals coexist inside the big common marriage goal
- Why awareness is key when the relationship is not being prioritized
Money:
- How coming from similar giving families contributes to their shared money mindset
- Why the joint Novitsky bank account made sense before marriage
- What Ali hopes to achieve by investing in a business coach
Physician Entrepreneur:
- How Mark’s encouragement creates a greater sense of Ali’s belief in herself
- The flexibility of having one’s own business
- The “coach high” every time a client has a breakthrough
- Why her youngest child thinks Ali is a YouTube star
- How actions HUGELY influence our children...we are their HEROES...they see us and want to do what we do!!!
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM Ali & MARK
- Create a space that lends to couple engagement.
- Train your children to respect Parent time!
- Budget for Extras.
- The moment you commit to your own health, your confidence will soar.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Why are our common goals? And what are your independent goals inside our bigger common goal?
- Have I trained my children to be respectful of my “me time”?
- How is my life serving as an example for my children or nieces or nephews?
- How am I creating an exciting and trusting environment for our relationship?
- How am I taking care of my body?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Mark's website: www.novitskymd.com
- Ali’s website: www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com
- Instagram: alinovitskymd
- Facebook: Ali Novitsky MD
*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Her rules on dating a medical school classmate and why this changed
- Expectations women physicians place on themselves
Marriage:
- The emotional vending machine
- How to find time for your spouse during training
- The transition to parenthood and recruiting help
Money:
- How a toilet cleaning wand brought awareness of her money scarcity
- Why money means freedom
- How you can afford anything, but not everything
Extra:
- How to differentiate what is happening from what we think is happening
- Why she rarely if ever struggles with Mom guilt
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM DEVON
- Your spouse is NOT an Emotional Vending Machine.
- When you have money, you have freedom.
- Next time you think “I just want to live life on your own terms”, recognize that you already are! Own it!
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- Do I place expectations upon myself because I think others are expecting things of me?
- Do I treat my spouse like an emotional vending machine?
- What are things I spend money on that truly bring me joy?
- What do I need for myself to be the best and most loving spouse and mother?
- How am I Iiving life on my own terms?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Website: physicianlifecoaching.com
- Email: devon@physicianlifecoaching.com
*This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Her views on being part-time in medicine
- Why a pause is needed for health care professionals
- How “Physicians Living Intentionally” reenergizes
Marriage:
- How they first met and then when they reconnected 9 years later
- Why timing is everything
- Infatuation and what she saw flash through her head during a car accident
Money:
- How she takes charge of the finances
- What percentages of their income they save and spend
- The smartest financial decision she has ever made in her life
The Permission:
- How to define the gap in a relationship
- How to know when to leave a nontoxic relationship
- When she asked herself “Is this my happily ever after?”
- Why she gave herself permission
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM FARYAL
- Why the smartest decision you may ever make in your life could potentially be marrying your spouse. And not for superficial reasons like income...
- Sometimes we may find our “prince charming’ but may not be in the right emotional state to be with them at that time. Some things….perhaps even the BEST things take time.
- Being intentional about spending quality time with your spouse, does not mean you have to like or do the same things together all the time.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How can I intentionally incorporate time with my spouse into my daily schedule?
- Am I giving myself permission to be happy?
- Am I giving myself permission to recharge?
- How can I 100% support my spouse in their interests although they may not be the same as mine?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Website: https://writeyourlastchapter.com/
Facebook: Physicians Living Intentionally
Instagram: @writeyourlastchapter
*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
- Why a California girl would move to India for medical school after high school
- Why a very successful pediatrician took a 3.5-year maternity leave
- How Integrative medicine and mindfulness can better serve our patients
Marriage:
- How coaching can be life-saving
- The two most common reasons couples argue
- When she realized she could not change him and, instead, changed herself...and then he noticed
Money:
- Her method for demonstrating the concepts of saving, spending, and donating to young children
- How she teaches her 2nd grader to diversify while investing
Parenting:
- The false perception that a Nanny can raise your kids
- Learning to value herself after years of motherhood and exhaustion
- How she mindfully parents through the pandemic
- Why her children are no longer the center of her household
- When she no longer strives to be the “Perfect Parent”
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PAYAL
- People who are happy with their work do it better!
- Set boundaries for yourself because you cannot care for your children if you are running on empty. When you are not in a good mindset they will notice!
- Although you may disagree with your spouse at the moment it is important to show respect, especially if in front of children.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How do I value myself as a person apart from my role as a parent or spouse?
- How can I integrate mindfulness into my parenting or doctoring? How can I focus on the moment without worrying about the past or the future?
- What boundary or goal can I set today that will help me prioritize myself and, in turn, my spouse and family?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Website: mdthemindfuldoctor.com
Facebook: @MDTheMindfulDoctor
Instagram: mdthemindfuldoctor
*This podcast is part of the Doctor Podcast Network
Medicine:
- How she fell in love with her hubby over cadavers in the anatomy lab
- Her struggle with inadequacy for the FIRST time
- Why medical school sets the stage for intimacy and life-long friendships
Marriage:
- Why every couple needs to discuss priorities before marriage
- How to survive hurricanes, pandemics, and all hard situations
- The importance of engaging children in conversations about work, finances, and the world
Money:
- How they navigate never being on the same financial page
- Why all women need an individual spending account
- How to prepare for financial collapse
Culture:
- The extra involved in being a woman of color
- Being labeled “the smart little black girl”
- The unique burden and privilege of being a person of color
- How to change the world
- The importance of staying human and encouraging humanity in others
TAKE HOME POINTS
- When the going gets tough, it may be easier to walk away, so revisiting the shared values and discussing how priorities align can be grounding, humbling, and a way to continue loving.
- We may never truly be on the same page with our spouse. Although we have similar goals, we have to constantly refocus, and redefine our needs and desires.
- Welcome the positive energy and love in your life and shut out the toxicity.
- Use the unique privileges you were given. Stand up for your friends, colleagues, and trainees of COLOR. Go out of your way to engage in discussions that include and do not divide.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- What do I want to be when I grow up?
- If something happened to my spouse, would I know how to access our financial accounts and pay our bills?
- How can I encourage wellness amongst my peers and myself?
- How can I change the world today as the powerful human being that I am?
This podcast is a member of the Doctor Podcast Network
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
Medicine:
When Peter realized he was playing the “victim of all the stuff” as a physician
How he decided he was going to take his life back and continue to practice medicine on his terms
Marriage:
His version of how he met and fell in love with his wife, Vicki Chan Kim (listen to episode #2 for her version)
The proposal story (all the pressure!!!!)
When he schedules couple time with Vicki
Why your problems are NOT unique
How he navigated their parents’ disapproval of his relationship with Vicki
Money:
His credit card debt history and why he USED to call himself the “King of late fees”
How Vicki was one of Peter’s first financial coaches and the “foreign concepts” she taught him
Why they designated “no guilt” spending accounts
What his marriage is worth
Confidence:
The importance of a coach
His miracle morning
TAKE HOME POINTS FROM PETER
- Be with someone who can handle the REAL YOU and in return accept your spouse for the REAL THEM. We are all trying to do the best we can with what we have. Be understanding.
- Your problems are not that unique.
- Build up habits and rituals for a successful marriage the same way you would build up habits and rituals for a healthy you.
- Spend time daily in gratitude
- Immersion is KEY. Your life, goals, and marriage are a work in progress.
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
What type of marriage do I want?
What habits can I form to strengthen my marriage skills?
Which hours of which days each week can I dedicate to spending with my spouse and only my spouse?
How will I practice accepting and loving my spouse exactly as they are?
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Website: passiveincomemd.com
Facebook: Peter Kim (Passive Income MD)
Instagram: passiveincomemd
Twitter: passiveincomemd
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:
Relationship:
- Why opposites attract (I know, so cliche)
- How she met her musician hubby
- The proposal story
- How they deal with their income disparity
Money:
- How her and her hubby’s spending style is part of their mission
- Why she became interested in personal finance
- Why she hides her money (check out her blog called “Five ways to reverse your budget”)
- Importance of diversification
- The worst way to tell your spouse how much money you dropped on _____.
Confidence:
- Imposter Syndrome is normal as confidence grows
- Learning as a lifelong process
- Do hard things because life is supposed hard
- Surround yourself with inspirational people
THEN SHE FLIPS THE INTERVIEW ON ME!!!!!
I briefly talk on:
- My childhood money jars
- Tax codes as they change based on who is in office (GO VOTE!!!!)
- Victor’s work schedule
Dr. Hamilton’s NEW Book: “Save Lives, Enjoy Your Own: Finding Your Place in Medicine”
- Student or trainee, you will get a free sponsored copy at TiredSuerhero.com/join-the-launch
- If you are anyone else, go to her blog, https://tiredsuperheroine.com/ to purchase an autographed copy
- Or order on amazon for fastest delivery (if you don’t care about having the signed edition)
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Dr. Barbara Hamilton
Website: https://tiredsuperheroine.com/
Facebook Group: Tired Superheroines (for women in male dominated fields)
Instagram: @tiredsuperheroine
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
- How is my spending style part of my mission?
- How can I set up systems to hide my money so that I do not spend it all?
- Have I ever experienced imposter syndrome, and do I blame myself for it or do I accept it as normal?
- How can I surround myself with more inspirational people in order to grow everyday?
As a public figure and influencer, people often ask Dr. Tiffany Moon, how she does it all, and how she looks so good doing it. So what are her secrets?
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER:
Children, Career & Home:
Division of labor in her home in regards to childcare and household duties.
Importance of the once a week “not so sexy” couple meeting.
Importance of being on the same “career page” as a couple.
Relationship:
How Tiffany met her hubby, Daniel Moon.
The proposal story.
Why she fell in love and why she is still in love.
Money:
How spending is discussed by her and her hubby.
The investing competition between her and Daniel.
Confidence:
Comparing and shaming on social media.
Why we need to give each other grace and love.
Seeing for the best in everyone.
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
Website: https://www.tiffanymoonmd.com/
Facebook: Tiffany Moon, MD
Instagram: @tiffanymoonmd
Tiktok: @tiffanymoonmd
WALK AWAY ASKING YOURSELF
How can I make saving and investing a friendly competition with myself or with my spouse?
How can comparing myself to others I see on social media empower me instead of get me down?
How can I give more grace and love to those inside and outside of my home.
How We Designed Our Life as a Physician Couple:
Children:
How her children made her rethink her career and life
How she and her husband designed systems at home for a successful family life
Benefits of a live-in Nanny
Relationship:
How Vicki met her hubby, Peter Kim
Her first impression of Peter and their first date
Why she fell in love and why she is still in love
Navigating their relationship as a dual physician couple
How she invests in her marriage
Money:
The smartest financial decision she ever made
How they make financial decisions together
Confidence:
How she has so much confidence
How she does it all
Her thoughts on social media
Website: https://www.vickichanmd.com/
Facebook: Vicki Chan Kim
Instagram: @vickichanmd
Tiktok: @vickichanmd
Questions for you:
What type of life do you want?
What investments are you making in your marriage?
How can you design your life to promote more successful relationships with your children and your spouse?
What does marital interdependence mean to you and what does it take to achieve it and maintain it? In other words, what makes a successful marriage and how does it last?
First let’s talk about what does not make a successful marriage.
Blame
Shame
Dependency
Relationships are not an emotional vending machine. We cannot pick and choose what we want our partner to feed us and how this will make us feel. If we want to be happy, we must first CHOOSE to be happy.
If we aim to mold or change our partner, we set ourselves up for relationship havoc.
So what makes a successful marriage?
A relationship requires trust, individual happiness and shared goals.
Your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you. Drop the expectations. Throw away the manual and exist from a place of love and support.
Love is not a fairytale or the perfect instagram photo. Love is failing and failing again and continuing to communicate, listen and hold space. Love is real life. Love has ups and downs and is rarely if ever 50/50.
Relationships take time, attention and patience. Not everyday or every moment will be magical, but everyday does have the potential to provide growth and bonding as long as you vow to unconditionally love.
WHAT YOU WILL DISCOVER
- What makes a successful marriage
- How highly successful couples make their relationship work
- Why feeling like a failure is normal and part of the journey
- Why dropping expectations could save your marriage
- What “your spouse’s only job is to be loved by you” means
- How to exist as a more supportive and loving partner in your relationship
FEATURED ON THIS SHOW
- Drs. Letizia Alto & Kenji Asakura
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- Semi-Retired MD, https://semiretiredmd.com
- Dr. Faryal Michaud
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- Write Your Last Chapter, http://writeyourlastchapter.com
- Dr. Bonnie Koo
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- Wealthy Mom MD, https://wealthymommd.com
- Dr. Barbara Hamilton
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- Tired Superheroine, https://tiredsuperheroine.com
- Drs. Ali & Mark Novitsky
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- Life Coaching for Women Physicians, https://www.lifecoachingforwomenphysicians.com
- Dr. Devon Gimbel
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- Physician Life Coaching, https://physicianlifecoaching.com
- Dr. Katrina Samuels Hughes
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- Off the grid
- Dr. Robyn Frankel Tiger
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- The Physicians' Self-Care Community, https://www.stressfreemd.net/
- Dr. Sunny Smith
Empowering Women Physicians, https://empoweringwomenphysicians.com
Hi, friends! I'm Kate. With millions of podcasts on the air, you chose to stop by here. For that, I am grateful. I'd be even more appreciative if you subscribed to the show so you can hear more of it, but first, let me mention a bit about what you'll hear here.
In this podcast, we will focus on creating marital interdependence and financial independence. In this space, we will examine what makes a strong relationship and what it takes to become financially independent with your spouse.
After each episode, I will invite you to ask yourself, “what small tweaks can I make today that will create a huge and lasting impact in my relationship with my spouse and my bank account?’’
We believe there is enough joy, love, and wealth in this world for everyone. It just takes determination, desire, and an open mind and heart to find it and take it.