The HealthyADHD Podcast: Recent Episodes
Liz
The HealthyADHD Podcast is an offshoot of the popular website HealthyADHD.com. Through a mix of science, expert interviews, and personal insight, Liz Lewis bridges the gap between experts in the field of ADHD, and the adults living with the condition. It does not suck.
I've been saying for months that I'd write down my experience. But I kept waiting and googling and hoping some other ADHD creator would do it for me.
Since it didn't happen I finally recorded everything I could remember about that period of time in March of this year.
For now this will be the last episode of the HealthyADHD Podcast.
There's so much noise right now in this space, and I don't want to add to it. But I'm keeping the door open for later. I still love having conversations so I won't rule it out.
You can work with me 1:1 by going HERE.
The Enclave is going strong! We have tons of great conversations planned for fall.
And as always, my inbox is open at liz@healthyadhd.com
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Listen in as Kate explains how she uses EFT, or "tapping," to help ADHD women deal with anxiety, overwhelm, and life with ADHD.
You'll hear:
- Kate's ADHD story
- The benefits of combining Eastern and Western philosophies of treatment
- How EFT works, with examples
- What makes tapping so accessible and effective for ADHD
Coaching by Kate
The Ambitious Mum Podcast
Kate on Instagram
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My good friend Jaclyn Paul, from The ADHD Homestead is back!
I recently wrote a rant email about why it sucks that women*** bear the burden of the holiday season. In fact, we do all the invisible work of life, so kin-keeping shouldn't be a surprise.
Because her timing is always perfect, Jaclyn contacted me last week and we engaged in a series of voice messages about the concept of kin-keeping, and the added mental/emotional burdens of 2020.
Jaclyn recorded our conversation, as well as an audio version of her original article on kin-keeping.
As always, we both put a lot out into the world, and we appreciate your support.
Thanks for listening.
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Another drive by podcast, this time from the parking lot of my son's orthodontist.
Motivation is fleeting - so I'm betting on commitment. Here are my thoughts.
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A drive by podcast recorded on the floor of my office.
Why I'm so proud of the Social Membership in the ADHD Enclave.
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I asked my sweet (and super fun) friend Linda Roggli to tell me everything she knows about hormones. So she did, and it was great.
We talk:
- Types of estrogen
- Why estrogen is so important for mood and dopamine
- Hormones over the lifespan for ADHD women
- Why so many of us are diagnosed with depression, first
- The role of progesterone
- The disconnect between gynecologists and psychiatrists
- Finding supportive relationships + people who "get it"
- Being more gentle with yourself
"Our brains create our lives." - Linda
ADDiva.net
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Becca King is a registered dietician specializing in intuitive eating. Since I liked her content so much I asked her to chat with me about some of the issues surrounding diet and ADHD women.
- The connection between ADHD and binge eating
- ADHD medications
- Dopamine seeking is a THING
- Diet culture and women
- The intermittent fasting trend
- Intuitive eating defined
- Healing our relationship with food ~ learning to pause
- How to eat more intuitively (even NOW in a pandemic)
- Is sugar really the enemy?
- Make a "project" out of dieting, overthinking
- Becca's program details
ADHD Nutritionist on Instagram
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ADHD conference 2020
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For all the parents muddling through online education, this one is for you!
I've asked my son a few times if he would talk about his, "special brain" on the podcast.
Over the weekend we decided to go ahead and talk a little about being raised by a mom who also has a special brain, and how he feels about school right now.
In short - he's not as miserable as I thought. And he is actually learning.
Next time he's going to tell stories about having an ADHD mom.
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My dear friend Rene', of Black Girl Lost Keys, lives less than an hour away from me.
Whenever we get together we talk for hours. Since our conversations are so rich and cover so much ground we decided to record one.
Unfortunately we had some serious echo, we'll do better next time.
In this episode we cover:
- Cooking catastrophe's and why ADHD adults need to keep meal planning simple
- ADHD women in relationships
- Why we shouldn't treat neurotypicals as the enemy, OR compare ourselves to them
- Time management in our working lives
- Ableism - what it is, and what it isn't
- Self-improvement is NOT ableist
- Why change is so hard, and why some of us fight against it
- Rene' shares her personal experience with depression
And we only drop 2-3 swears the whole episode!
Rene's Home Base - Black Girl Lost Keys
Rene' on Twitter
Rene' on Patreon
My Meal Planning Ebook
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This is a one-off episode about how I was diagnosed, and how my awareness and attitude about ADHD has changed over time.
I also throw in a little commentary on what I wish I knew about ADHD in my younger years.
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Every time you say, "yes" to something you are saying, "no" to other things.
I'm not sure who first wrote this, but it's entirely true.
There is certainly an art to saying NO. But there is some room to say YES in our lives.
Here's a list of things I'm saying YES to, as well as a few things I'm saying NO to.
I hope it helps you to evaluate the YES's and NO's in your own life.
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Today I bring you an inspiring interview with my new friend, Ian Walker.
Like many of us Ian grew up in a time when the ADHD diagnosis wasn't as common. He experienced the bullying, academic struggles, and low self-confidence that so many of us do. But Ian developed his own, "medicine" for ADHD that he now shares with the world.
Listen in as we discuss:
- The role of faith in treating his ADHD
- You can't screw up when it comes to worship
- Developing an inner sense of security through music
- How music became the best medicine for ADHD and managing emotions
- the divine inspiration for writing his book, and the writing process
Ian has big plans to carry his message of Music Therapy for ADHD to everyone.
His podcast The Arts Report will be available soon!
Music for the ADHD Brain on Facebook
Stirring My Soul to Sing on Amazon
Ian on Twitter
Ian on Instagram
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I don't cook. I don't get any satisfaction out of prepping ingredients and making meals.
But** I do meal plan. I feed my family every week, even when I don't want to. And I was asked to speak on the topic again at this year's International Conference on ADHD.
With that in mind I made this updated episode. You will hear me discuss:
- why I don't believe in shopping every day
- how to stock your family staples
- planning dinners first
- limiting options for breakfast/lunches/snacks
- setting boundaries with your family around meal planning
Also, this year's ADHD conference is all online. Online = less expensive. You should go!
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So this is really a rant about my experience so far with hybrid education.
As a former teacher I don't blame the teachers at all.
But as an ADHD mom trying to run a business and manage my life day-to-day, I'm really struggling. I had a schedule in place to keep me productive, and now that schedule has been blown up.
It feels impossible to schedule podcast guests and write articles after 6 hours of fighting and crying our way through school work. We get it done, but it's not pretty.
If you are a parent who is also struggling through this new era of education, I stand with you.
Send me your homeschool rant at healthyadhd@gmail.com
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As much as I love talking to doctors and researchers, I've never looked at ADHD from a purely clinical perspective. I've always looked at ADHD as a lifestyle factor. One small piece of a much larger puzzle.
Health isn't just about looking a certain way, and it isn't just about the absence of disease.
Health is about taking care of your body, taking care of your mind, and forming meaningful relationships.
Humans are infinitely complex. I like to think about ADHD from a WHOLE person perspective. It allows us to see past the symptoms and the labels and move away from the, "fix it" mentality.
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*REPOST***
Allison Arkfeld, MA AMFT, is a Somatic Psychotherapist working out of Long Beach, CA.
There is growing evidence that a multi-modal approach to treating ADHD that includes body work, meditation, medications, traditional therapy, and coaching – holds great benefit.
In this thought-provoking episode you will learn about:
- Empowerment within the body
- Using body sensations to self-regulate
- Multi-modal support for ADHD
- Real-life applications for polyvagal theory
- The difficulty in treating PTSD with an ADHD mind
- The healing power of human connection
- Defining trauma (it’s not what you think!)
- Corrective experiences that heal
- How ADHD and PTSD affect social interactions/interpersonal relationships
This is episode will open yours eyes to the connection between your ADHD mind and your body.
Find Allison on Instagram
Link to ptsd-adhd
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Dr. Ramsay continues to drop unbelievably relevant information in this second episode.
This time we discuss in much more specific terms:
- The role of Automatic Negative Thoughts in Procrastination
- Ways to question your negative thoughts
- Managing discomfort as the main emotional task in ADHD
- How perfectionism shows up in ADHD
- Anxiety as a short-acting stimulant
- Defining Procrastivity and why we do it
- Task initiation, techniques for getting started
- Moving through discomfort so you can get things done
Dr. Russell Ramsay
cbt4adhd - blog
Finding Coping Strategies That Work For You - Psychology today
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I finally did it!
I worked up my nerve and asked Dr. Russell Ramsay to talk to me about his new book, Rethinking Adult ADHD - Helping Clients Turn Intentions Into Action.
What started out as a conversation about task initiation and getting things done - turned into soooo much more.
In part one, you will hear us discuss:
- What makes ADHD a little different from other mental health diagnoses
- The truth about, "working twice as hard for half as much"
- How and why self-distrust and self-mistrust develop
- Dr. Ramsay's thoughts on why anxiety is so prevalent with ADHD
- The role of self-regulatory efficacy in our ability to work toward goals
- The main cognitive themes of ADHD + why he wrote the book
- Automatic thoughts, positive/negative distorted thoughts leading to avoidance
- Can you choose your thoughts?
- The "ugh" of getting started
- Externalizing motivation
Find Dr. Ramsay HERE
Link to buy his book
Link to join my list so you can get emails about ADHD that don't suck.
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I am beyond sick of trying to be a good girl.
I'm also pretty sick of women with ADHD thinking they are less-than.
Maybe you aren’t like other women, but you are not less-than. You are not BAD.
You can acknowledge your strengths and your struggles at the same time.
You and I are changing the narrative of our lives.
- Setting our own expectations
- Saying what we think
- Asking for what we want
- Managing emotions
- Applying our own rules
- Forming our own beliefs
- Telling our stories
It costs nothing to be REAL.
All it takes is a willingness to stop trying so hard to be GOOD.
Link to Untamed by Glennon Doyle
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Today Rick Webster returns with a topic that I had NEVER thought to talk about before.
Some of the more maladaptive coping skills that we with ADHD might adopt in an attempt to move through the world.
On the surface many of these things seem to work. But long-term, most of the strategies aren't very good for us.
Some*** day there will be a full length article on this. I swear.
Listen as we talk about:
- Oppositional behavior (temper tantrums aren't cute anymore)
- Black/white thinking
- Planned procrastination to force performance
- Perfectionism
- Negative types of self-soothing
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We all know social skills are important. I mean...lets be honest, even many ADHD adults struggle to navigate the social world. So I invited Caroline Maguire to talk with me about coaching neurodivergent children on social skills.
We drop a lot of great examples in this episode, as well as some very useful techniques for coaching your own child.
I cannot overstate how impactful Caroline's work has been for my son and I. And how wonderful she is to talk to.
You will hear us discuss:
- Everyone focuses on academics, when they should be focused on social skills
- A simple definition of executive function
- Metacognition explained
- What it means to be mentally flexible
- How to take a, "coach approach" to talking to your kids
- Why low self-awareness is a problem for children and adults
- Teaching children to recognize reactive behavior and anger in themselves
- Showing our children that friendships are active
Link to Caroline's Website
Amazon link to Why Will No One Play With Me?
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I'm sooo excited to bring this episode to you featuring Rick Webster of Rena-Fi.
Instead of typing a 1500 work post in here, I'll just put the bullet points:
- Aim for financial stability, before wealth
- Income isn't the problem, it's how you manage what you have
- Emotional dysregulation ---> panic, reactive thinking
- A budget is just the surface, you have to go deeper to figure out what's going on
- Why auto payments are your friend
- Getting real with yourself + embracing personal responsibility = feeling more in control of your money
- There is no linear or one-size-fits-all solution
- Behavioral change takes time to learn, so does financial literacy
- Creating mindfulness around your spending
- Rick's thoughts on ADHDers using cash
- The need for ADHD brains to feel rewarded
- Considering your future-self when making decisions
- The missing self-trust that all ADHDers seem to struggle with
- Scarcity mindset, feeling stuck, and dwelling on past mistakes
Rick's overarching message is that money problems cannot be solved by creating a new budget or making more money.
You have to get to the emotional root of the problem to create more financial security for yourself. And Rena-fi provides accessible, affordable options to do that.
Find Rick Webster @ https://rena-fi.com
Full written post can be found here.
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I've met a ton of really cool people while working in and around the ADHD community and it's leaders. But there are very few people whom I can talk to for hours. (4 hours!)
Dominic Velando is an artist and a creative thinker.
Much like myself, he doesn't just think about managing symptoms all day.
One of my goals with this podcast is to talk to the most** interesting people. Dominic is definitely one of those people.
Listen as we talk:
- Growing up with your dad as a special ed teacher
- Being an outsider in a small town Iowa high school
- A new way of looking at creativity
- The unique ADHD ability to connect the dots
- Success and failure in college
- Finding a, "flow state"
- Getting comfortable with metaphysics and woo woo
- Following your intuition
- The ADHD impact on relationships and career
- Releasing control and getting comfortable with uncertainty
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In this episode you will hear:
- Anna's personal history with ADHD
- How ADHD shows up in her life
- What led her to become a holistic health coach
- The underrated, but VERY important, impact of diet on your functioning with or without ADHD
- Why we need to lose the guilt about pleasing everyone in our house
- Keeping it simple when meal planning for both you and your family
https://intunewithannak.com
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They say that ignorance is bliss. And sometimes, “knowing” you have ADHD doesn’t make things easier, it makes things more complicated.
Listen in as Rick Green and I discuss the emotional landscape of life after the adhd diagnosis.
In this episode you will hear:
- After you’ve struggled for so long, the profound to realization that you are NOT alone
- The “death” of the old you, or who you were before the diagnosis
- Challenges and barriers to diagnosis
- The Evolution of Totally ADD
- The big issue of how ADHD shows up in your life, and your sense of self
- The stages of dealing with the diagnosis
- Anger, depression, and feeling things sooooo deeply
- Staying open to therapy and other support, even when you want to resist
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy – that you can apply yourself!
- Living the ~~ADHD~~ reactive life – and learning the power of the PAUSE
- Learning to externalize and manage self-talk
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ADHD Women and Self-Compassion do not just go together.
At least not in a conversation.
You know what I mean. ADHD women don't talk about self-compassion the same way we talk about our struggles.
But I'd argue this is a conversation we should be having.
The Negative Thought Vortex of ADHD, combined with the Executive Function difficulties inherent to the condition, make it difficult to manage emotions, plan ahead, and maintain meaningful relationships.
You will certainly have days that feel like a struggle. You will always have to manage your self-talk.
But you will also have progress. And days where you feel like anything is possible.
What I love about the practice of self-compassion is that you can do it on your own at any time. It’s another tool in your ADHD toolbox.
Listen to my thoughts on ADHD Women and Self-Compassion below.
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This is the audio version of the posts on my website.
Tech issues aside, you will notice that I'm experimenting a bit with the format.
The Radical Guide for ADHD women, written by Sari Solden and Dr. Michelle Frank, is the single biggest influence in how I run my peer coaching and support group. The principles and exercises shared in the book are perspective changing for women with ADHD.
You'll hear me discuss:
- ADHD as an identity issue
- Zooming out to get some perspective
- Diagnosis and treatment
- The humanistic, whole person view of ADHD
- Hiding in your life v being SEEN
- Limiting beliefs
- How we address these topics in The Enclave
Link to A Radical Guide for ADHD Women
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Repost of my conversation with Dr. Michelle Frank *
In this thoughtful conversation about life for ADHD women you will hear:
- Dr. Frank’s feelings about ADHD as a gift or a curse
- The importance of acknowledging ADHD and other invisible conditions
- The concept of realistic hope
- The belief that we are not enough, or we are too much
- My meltdown after giving birth
- The role of gender in our expectations for ourselves
- Realizing you are not a burden, and it’s ok to take up space in the world
- Misunderstandings about therapy and other support
- Common relationship issues in, “mixed” couples
Link to original written post
Link to Dr. Frank - private practice
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This is the audio version of the Instagram Live I did earlier in the week.
And...the article I updated from three years ago.
We are in the middle of a pandemic and we're pretty much forced to multitask in order to survive.
I have to parent, teach, make a home, make a living etc. And I have to do all of these things every single day.
You too?
ADHD people are at a breaking point. Many of us hit a wall last week.
Some of us have given up and just started numbing out on Netflix and food. We are in no position to work on our personal growth right now. And that’s totally ok.
Whether you have ADHD or not, multitasking does not work. The research is solid on this.
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I first met Samantha on Instagram, and I immediately liked her quiet but informed vibe. In social media land often the loudest mouth wins. So I was really excited when I noticed she would be presenting at the 2019 Annual ADHD Conference in Philadelphia.
While coaching clients Samantha utilizes her ADDCA coach training, positive psychology, and her background in public health and epidemiology. And yes, Samantha also has ADHD.
She calls her business Unconventional Minds Coaching – because everything about her background and her style is unconventional. In the best possible way!
Samantha is the only coach I’ve met who takes an interest in social justice and improving wellness inequities. She is open to, and has worked with clients who have (or have had) unconventional, non-normative, and/or marginalized experiences and identities, including:
- blended families (e.g. divorce, separation, adoption, multiple co-parents, chosen family, etc)
- family estrangement
- transgender, non-binary, and gender non-conforming
- LGBT, LGBTQIA — lesbian, gay bisexual, queer, asexual, pansexual, intersex
- polyamorous, polyamory, open relationships
- BDSM / kink
- unconventional occupations (e.g. activists, artists, performers, sex educators, sexuality coaches/surrogates)
During this conversation I got soooo much education and it got me thinking that insectionality needs to be discussed much more in the coaching and ADHD community.
Listen in as we discuss:
- Samantha’s ADHD story
- The difference between therapy and coaching, and the road to becoming a coach
- The definition of Intersectionality
- The connection between the LGBTQ+ community and neurodiversity
- The emotional process of developing and implementing boundaries
- How your identity changes when you stop being a people pleaser
- How we are both verbal processors, and how it can get us in trouble
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Jaclyn Paul returns to discuss relationship skills in the time of Coronavirus.
We had initially talked about this as an episode called, "How not to kill your family during the pandemic." But we decided that Corona news had reached a saturation point, and we wanted to explore the topic of relationship and parenting skills on a broader scale.
In this episode Jaclyn and I tell some intimate stories - some from the past and some from the present, about our spouses and our children.
It's a long one, but we verbal processors make some really good points.
You will hear:
- How info and advice can quickly become overwhelming for the ADHD brain, leading to irritability and overwhelm
- The story of the sewer pipes in my yard bursting, and Jaclyn's husband playing an April fools prank
- The realization that everyone is a little bit more prickly right now
- Our mutual confusion and appreciation for our husbands' ability to transition into this new normal and maintain emotional equilibrium
- Applying Brene' Brown's 50/50 idea to our marriages - https://brenebrown.com/unlockingus/
- Negotiating parenting and household labor during this new, "normal"
- No school, lessons, outside activities = parents adjacent to their children and trying to fill all the roles (parent, teacher, coach, buddy) without any breaks
- Screen time confessions for us and our children
- Sheltering in place means all feedback and arguments are higher stakes
- Esther Perel's idea that the current situation is accelerating the pace of relationships
- Choosing your battles, AND your own behavior
- Modeling self-awareness and apologies
The ADHD Homestead
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We are currently in our third week of parenting, home schooling, working from home, and trying not to have a breakdown. So I thought I'd continue my theme this week of parenting.
Erin and I recorded this over a month ago, but it's just as relevant now as it was then.
Listen in as we discuss:
- Educating parents that are new to the whole, "ADHD thing"
- Strategies for neurotypical families will not usually work for our families
- The importance of parent coaching and how it impacts our children's symptoms
- Parental reactions often exacerbate ADHD struggles for kids
- The parenting mindset you need to feel more empowered
- Power struggles + assuming positive intent
- Modeling how to apologize and reconnect after a conflict
- Managing your own ADHD so you can model the behavior you want to see
- Fear of judgment and social media pressures
- Fun, cheap, but frequent*** rewards
- Erin's message for parents just learning about ADHD with their kids
Honestly ADHD
Erin on Facebook
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****This podcast is reposted from October, 2019
I thought we could use a change from the Corona Virus news to something relevant and important during all times.
I've written about it. ADDitude Magazine has had some coverage of it. But there is not a lot of research available about how having ADHD as an adult impacts our ability to parent.
When we have kids our own issues become amplified.
Parents with ADHD need help with three main areas life management, emotional management, and self-care. Listen in as we discuss all three.
Find Dr. Caldwell:
Dr. Marcy Caldwell
Rittenhouse Psychological Assessments
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Another random episode.
We've all had another week of social distancing, and some of us are actually being told not to leave our homes.
I'm not a therapist, and I'm not funny like Whitney Cummings. But one thing about me is I've developed a skill for consistency. So that's what I'm offering the world.
This week I discuss:
- my hesitation about posting an article about, "positive life changes"
- people wasting mental/emotional energy worrying about dumb things
- why thinking about trivial things can actually be a coping mechanism
- things you DO NOT need to worry about
- creating calm when you brain is not calm- how predictability can help us feel more safe
- social support during this crazy time
- we need to stop comparing our suffering with others. Everyone's emotions are valid.
- ****A look into my own anxiety about the future of my family
- creating a plan for worst case scenarios so you don't have to think later
- the importance of observing and understanding your own thinking (yes, again!)
In case you were wondering, I do believe we can make positive changes in our lives. Corona virus or not.
As always, we are stronger together.
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***Warning this one is pretty much unedited. I say ummmm, and so a lot.
I've been looking for ways to give people a soft place to land during all of this craziness.
I'm posting daily touch points on Facebook and Instagram.
I recorded this episode to tell you what is working for my family now, and how I am choosing to manage my mind around all of this.
You'll hear my thoughts on:
- Hyperfocusing on news about corona
- Managing our minds during a crisis (this will need to be continued)
- Creating a flexible structure
- Working at home with kids
- Taking care of yourself
- How I'm planning to offer support
As I state in this podcast, I want to find ways to be of service to my community without taking advantage of anyone. Email me if you want to hop on to a group call. Spots will be limited for privacy reasons.
Here is a link to my post on Beating the Negative Thought Vortex
Email me at healthadhd@gmail.com
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This is a podcast/post I've had brewing for a while in my brain.
I've seen some huge shifts in where people get their ADHD info over the last few years. Some of it is really good.
Things like podcasts have made high quality information more accessible to everyone.
But social media has actually made it more difficult for people to get good information. There is so much noise, so much misinformation, it's become overwhelming.
The average person cannot tell the difference between a well-intentioned content creator, and a person who really just wants to make some quick cash without knowing much about ADHD at all.
We've lost sight of what real community looks like. We think we have to put up with what's out there. Or shell out a bunch of money to get help.
I believe we can do better.
Get a list of experts who actually know about ADHD. (Top of the page in orange)
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Margaux Joffe, the creator of Kaleidoscope Society, sits down with me to discuss her own ADHD diagnosis, and how we can open up the conversation about neurodiversity in the workplace.
Listen in as we discuss:
- Margaux's diagnosis
- Her career trajectory and how she started the first Neurodiversity ERG at Verizon
- Understanding your rights under the ADA
- Ideas for disclosing your diagnosis, and advocating for yourself
- Knowing your strengths
- Common accommodations that actually help
- BS office politics
- Finding meaningful work and knowing its ok to change your mind
Links to websites mentioned in this episode
Job Accommodation Network
Americans with Disabilities Act
Kaleidoscope Society
Margaux Joffe
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Parenting for college and career success requires us to lead our children to the intersection of interests, education and work. (Without imposing our own expectations.)
Listen to Lynn Miner-Rosen and I discuss college and career success.
In this podcast you will hear:
- What is a gap year?
- How parents can avoid negative messaging
- Why college is NOT for everyone
- Managing parental expectations
- Common challenges in college
- Choosing and changing majors
- The importance of doing research
- Utilizing on-compus resources
- Anxiety as an underlying factor for the success of our kids
Don't forget to pick up Lynn's free download just for See in ADHD Listeners!
Link to Lynn's Website and coaching services
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Laurie Dupar has answers!
At least once per week I get an email or a post in my membership about medications. Often the questions are posted because ADHD adults are simply not able to get the information they need for themselves and their families.
Confusion abounds and people turn to unreliable sources of information - like Facebook groups and other social media.
So I asked Laurie, an ADHD coach, and experienced psychiatric nurse practitioner, to sit down with me and discuss some of the questions I hear most frequently. I will produce a written post about this in the future.
This is a loooong one. But well worth the listen!
We discussed:
- The lack of ADHD information available to prescribers during their training
- Common misunderstandings about ADHD in both physicians and pharmacists
- The lack of communication between prescribers and patients
- The real deal on long-term effects, normal side effects, and imagined side effects
- Stimulants v. non-stimulants, and the development of medications
- How stimulants work, and how non-stimulants work
- The difference between prescription medications and street drugs
- Why medications need to be changed/adjusted on an ongoing basis throughout the lifespan
- Pregnancy, breast feeding, menopause and the role of estrogen in ADHD
Laurie's iACT center training program
Laurie's 5-week Medication Course
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I'll be writing a more detailed post about ADHD relationships, sex, and Dr. Tuckman's book in the future.
For now, enjoy this funny but also VERY informative conversation.
In this episode, you will hear:
- The origins, and results of Dr. Tuckman's sex survey
- The ADHD effect on relationships and sexual satisfaction
- Gender differences in, "mixed" ADHD couples
- The sexual eagerness cluster in men & women
- The importance of managing ADHD
- All the ways ADHD squeezes out time for sex
- The parent-child dynamic
- My sex life (if you are curious)
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So many people have asked me about the Hubs and how we keep our relationship strong. He has been featured on my Instagram profile, and I’ve written a couple articles about my thinking around relationships and making a marriage work.
The truth is much simpler (read: not easier) than you might think.
So I gathered questions from some of my community members, and some followers on social media. Then the Hubs sat down with me in my uber professional recording booth in the spare bedroom and answered them.
Some of his answers surprised even me. And he has offered to come back again as needed to discuss “mixed” relationships in the future.
In this episode you will hear:
- How we met
- The most annoying parts of living with me
- His thoughts on gender roles in modern marriage/relationships
- Why seeking mental health treatment should not be shameful
- Our collective feelings about couples counseling
- Things he likes best about me
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In this short episode I tell the story of my recent trip to Puerto Rico.
In short, I was cut off from my normal buffering activities. At first, I was totally annoyed because I didn't know how to, "relax" without something to take me out of my own thoughts.
Then I discovered that in order to really calm my nervous system, and turn down the volume on my racing thoughts...I had to cut myself off. And I did. And it was magical.
This episode is the result of a conversation that we had in the ADHD Enclave about the distinction between numbing out and relaxing.
Numbing out = intentionally avoiding FEELING things, or thinking about things, or taking some action. Numbing out almost always involves some temporary pleasurable activity like social media, or bingeing on Netflix.
Relaxing = intentionally engaging with your own thoughts. Allowing yourself to breathe, think, and even
This episode is not prescriptive, I really just want people to think.
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Episode pre-recorded
Make no mistake being a stay-at-home-mom or homemaker is work. I daresay the expectations are higher for women on the homefront than anywhere else.
And don’t even get me started on multi-tasking. It just doesn’t work.
No wonder so many of us suffer with productivity shame.
I brought this conversation about ADHD women and productivity shame into my private Enclave group.
The podcast I recorded was a direct result of those conversations.
In this episode you will hear:
- Productivity Shame
- False productivity and business
- The difference between speed and efficiency
- Multitasking does NOT work
- Less doing. More Being.
- Energy management leads to productivity
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I asked coach Jennie Friedman to come on so we could talk podcasting and her coaching practice, and we ended up discussing my trip to Puerto Rico with my husband.
In the end we produced a VERY informative episode, including:
- packing for a vacation
- getting to the airport on time
- navigating airport security
- remembering EVERYTHING you need
- managing stress prior to travel
- thinking ahead without having a meltdown
- learning to relax and rest your brain
Reach Further Coaching
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Marc Almodovar believes in telling his own story, and empowering other men to share theirs, too.
ADHD, Adult ADHD, ADHD women, ADHD moms, ADHD parenting, ADHD medication, ADHD and marijuana
The ADHD Homestead is one of my go-to resources for information and perspective on being a woman living with ADHD. Jaclyn is one of my favorites you guys!
In this recording made in March 2019, we discuss all things Life Skills with ADHD:
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BS'ing our way through the educational system
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The ADHD affect on marriage
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Becoming a writer, author
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Finding your, "Why"
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Real-life organizing for ADHD
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The power of the pause with ADHD
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The idea that Failure is not a permanent state
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Jaclyn's upcoming project management app
SHOW NOTES:
adhdhomestead.net
Do The Thing App - mailchi.mp/dothething.app/mailinglist
Getting Things Done - amzn.to/2uoCGl2
Is It You, Me, or Adult ADD? - amzn.to/2ul3bIl
Order from Chaos - amzn.to/2U6SkQD
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Everything you need to know about getting the support and accommodations you need in college.
Facebook was designed to bring people together.
Unfortunately, it has evolved into a massive, overstimulating vortex that does the opposite of it’s original intent.
And it’s become a nightmare for anyone with self-regulation issues.
Yes, we need information about ADHD.
And Yes, we need social support.
But you can get better information and support OFF of the 'Book.
*This episode was previously recorded in Feb. 2019*
Articles Cited:
time.com/5505441/mark-zuckerberg-mentor-facebook-downfall/
asam.org/resources/definition-of-addiction
additudemag.com/facebook-addiction-and-adhd-how-to-break-the-habit/
ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6025609/
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