Selfie: Recent Episodes
Kristen Howerton
Let’s talk self-care and mental health. Kristen Howerton, writer and psychotherapist, is joined by her longtime pal Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, side-eye aficionado, and dog dad, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Can self-care be for everyone? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s in this face mask? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Matthias are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should. Like that 6pm deadline butting up against 6:30pm soccer practice.
Kristen and Christine put on their therapist hats to talk about introversion and self-care. Christine Koh is a former music and brain neuroscientist turned author and blogger. She co-hosts the Edit Your Life Podcast and co-wrote the book Minimalist Parenting.
Casey Brown shares vulnerably about the realities of self-care as a trans person, from being misgendered to the struggle of public bathrooms, as well as some of the unique learnings about skincare, shaving, and more as they began hormone therapy last year. We learned a lot from Casey and hope you will give a listen to understand more about the realities of trans people and how to be an ally. In this episode we talked about:
Birch Box for Men
Sprezza Box
MeUndies
Self-harm rates among trans people
George
Red: A Crayon Story
We are chatting with Latasha Morrison, author of Be the Bridge, about racial justice, and specifically about Ahmaud Arbery and how we can take our outrage and push towards action.
I’m talking with fellow therapist Lisa Damour about raising preteens and teens, how to promote empathy and self-esteem while also promoting resilience, and what the pandemic is doing to an already stressed-out generation. Lisa is the author of the books Under Pressure and Untangled.
We’re talking about drinking and when to know when it’s a problem with Kerry Cohen, author of Lush: A Memoir. Many of us like a glass of wine or two to wind down at the end of the day, and there is a preponderance of cultural references to women and drinking as a kind of social contract. Kerry helps us unpack that messy middle between healthy drinking and full-blown addiction.
In this episode we talked about:
Lush: A Memoir
Moderation Management
Smart Recovery
Refuge Recovery
Alcoholics Anonymous
We are talking with author Melanie Shankle on raising teenagers, finding our own sense of self as a mom, and being in the weird middle place of life. Melanie is the co-host of the Big Boo Podcast and author of On the Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love, and Being True to Yourself as well as Nobody's Cuter Than You: A Memoir About the Beauty of Friendship.
Today I am talking with Tiffany Reese, the podcaster behind Something Was Wrong and author of Strong Women Rising. Tiffany and I talk about the ongoing journey of letting go of the need for validation from others, how we’ve worked to let go of perfectionism, and how we are trying to teach these concepts to our kids. Our sponsor Tanasi’s CBD+CBDa formula is 2X more effective than CBD alone and research indicates it's more effective than over-the-counter ibuprofen, acetaminophen and aspirin. Their formula can help ease your anxiety, soothe and relieve aches & pains, and improve sleep. Go to TANASI.com and use code selfie to get 50% off at checkout. We love Ritual vitamins, but did you know they have a new probiotic product? Ritual’s Synbiotic+ is science-backed and research-stacked. Their delayed-release capsule is designed to help reach the colon (not the stomach), an ideal place for probiotics to survive and grow. Ritual is offering our listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/SELFIE to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. MDbio is a plant-based medicine company with natural products that address sleep, anxiety, pain, and immunity. Get your FREE 10-count sample pack by going to mdbiowellness.com and entering the promo code SELFIE at checkout! Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com.
We are revisiting a conversation with author and speaker Glennon Doyle about letting go of expectations and redefining “perfect”, and her new book Untamed. We love Ritual vitamins, but did you know they have a new probiotic product? Ritual’s Synbiotic+ is science-backed and research-stacked. Their delayed-release capsule is designed to help reach the colon (not the stomach), an ideal place for probiotics to survive and grow. Ritual is offering our listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. Visit ritual.com/SELFIE to start Ritual or add Synbiotic+ to your subscription today. MDbio is a plant-based medicine company with natural products that address sleep, anxiety, pain, and immunity. Get your FREE 10-count sample pack by going to mdbiowellness.com and entering the promo code SELFIE at checkout! Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 9, and we revisit a conversation with Sarah Bessey, author of Jesus Feminist and A Rhythm of Prayer.
More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 8, and we revisit a conversation with an interview with blogger (and mom of 9) Heidi Weimer. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in the facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 7, and we revisit a conversation withWe also chat with Ryan Walton, writer at coach with DaringtoDad.com, about being an enneagram type 7. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 6, and we revisit a conversation with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
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This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 5, and we revisit a conversation with Kelley Nikondeha , author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World, about some of the unique strengths and challenges of being an enneagram 5. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 4, and we revisit a conversation with Holly Rankin Zaher about being an Enneagram Type 4. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 3, and we revisit a conversation between Kristen and Sarah James about the experience of being type 3’s. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching.
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 2, and we revisit a conversation with Meagen Francis of The Mom Hour who shares her personal experience as a type 2. More enneagram resources:
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
Check out Micky Scottbey Jones’s resources and coaching. More about Micky: Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: electric_lady_msj.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In this episode we are talking about enneagram type 1, followed by a previously recorded interview with Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius about her experience as a type 1.
The Enneagram Institute - RHETI
Micky ScottBey Jones
The Lazy Genius podcast
The Lazy Genius book
Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer woman with an international and intersectional understanding of social change and fierce dedication to cultivating personal transformation and resilience in leaders. Her work is grounded in facilitation of healing and transformation through practical spirituality, resource and resilience skill development and intercultural dialogue. Micky is a certified Enneagram coach & teacher, contemplative, resilience cultivator and writer that addresses spirituality, healing, burnout, collective care, transformative accountability, belonging and self-discovery. You can find Micky on the web at mickyscottbeyjones.com and her most active social media IG: @electric_lady_msj. Why deal with razor burn and wasteful disposable razors when you could be getting the best shave of your life with the Athena Club Razor Kit? Athena Club razor blades are surrounded by a water-activated serum with shea butter and hyaluronic acid, so you get a silky smooth shave that actually leaves skin soft and hydrated, not stripped dry. The Razor Kit is only $9 (with free shipping!) and comes with two blade cartridges, a magnetic hook for shower storage, and your choice of handle color. Get 20% off your first order at AthenaClub.com with promo code selfie. Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women.Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com. It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep.. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals. EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision. EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.79 by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie179. Dear Brightly is on a mission to close the gap between dermatologists and everyday people. The first step in their journey was making prescription-grade retinoids more accessible via a doc consult online. Tretinoin, the active ingredient in their active ingredient in Night Shift product, is a retinoid, which is a vitamin A derivative used to improve the texture, tone, and appearance of the skin. Tretinoin is the only FDA-approved retinoid to treat photoaging. Head to DearBrightly.com and enter promo selfie to get 15% off your first order.
This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky Scottbey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In the following nine episodes we will be doing a deep dive into each type!
In this episode we also talk about:
The Enneagram Institute - RHETI
Micky Scottbey Jones
What is Enneagram for the People?
A listener asks how to help their queer kids as they continue to hear about sweeping anti-LGBTQ+ legislation. Plus, Matthias and Kristen talk about the commercialization of Pride and other celebrations. Kristen also shares an update from her ketamine therapy. Links + Resources:
Bars Over Bottles Solid Intense Conditioner
Ethique Eco-Friendly Face Cleansing Bar for Oily to Normal Skin
How do you support a spouse with depression? And why are there so many TV shows about people with personality disorders right now? Plus, Matthias shares his favorite resources for relationship anxiety and Kristen shares some show recommendations! Links + Resources
Attachment Style Quiz
Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum
Thais Gibson's YouTube Channel
Heidi Priebe's YouTube Channel
Under the Banner of Heaven
Love on the Spectrum
We are discussing the tragedy in Uvalde, and how to process the feelings of helplessness and despair around gun violence, paired with the shocking discoveries around law enforcement's failures that day. We follow up on our convo from last week around feelings and butterflies, and what to do when you received messages that feelings can't be trusted. In this episode we also talked about:
This Cute Amazon Caftan
Shower Brush Back Scrubber Body Exfoliator
Why deal with razor burn and wasteful disposable razors when you could be getting the best shave of your life with the Athena Club Razor Kit? Athena Club razor blades are surrounded by a water-activated serum with shea butter and hyaluronic acid, so you get a silky smooth shave that actually leaves skin soft and hydrated, not stripped dry. And the blades are spaced out to let hair and shave cream pass through easily, so you don’t have to take a ton of passes over your skin to remove hair. Fewer passes means less irritation to your skin, cutting down on razor burn and ingrown hairs. The Razor Kit is only $9 (with free shipping!) and comes with two blade cartridges, a magnetic hook for shower storage, and your choice of handle color. Get 20% off your first order at AthenaClub.com with promo code selfie. Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com. It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep. ach Factor meal arrives pre-prepared and ready to eat in two minutes. Their registered dietitians and expert chefs work hand-in-hand to create meals with nutritious ingredients. And with more than 27 meal options each week, you won’t get bored. They offer Vegan + Veggie meals, cold-pressed juices, smoothies, energy bites, plant-based bars, extra protein, veggie sides, and more to keep you fueled and focused all day long. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals. Getting beautiful salon-perfect nails at home is now a dream come true – with Olive & June! Their Mani System lets you treat yourself to beautiful nails on your time for about $2 a manicure. Olive & June nail polishes last 7+ days and do not chip! Olive & June offers press-ons too! A salon look in minutes that’s better than gel, they last 10+ days and come with the most sizes ever so you can find your best fit – no one will know they’re fake Visit OliveandJune.com/SELFIE for 20% off your first Mani System! Somavedic is a device combining Eastern approach to health & wellness with modern-day technology. If you’re concerned with the unwanted influences of electromagnetic radiation and geopathogenic zones, you’ll appreciate Somavedic. Somavedic devices rely on frequency therapies and the healing powers of precious and semi=precious stones and metals to create a natural energy field to harmonize your home. If you’d like to experience
A listener wonders, "what do I do if I feel like my husband isn’t helping equally?" Plus, Matthias and Kristen chat through why butterflies aren't always the most reliable indicator of true love. Links + Resources:
Ninja Foodi Pressure Cooker + Air Fryer
Sent Away Podcast
Fair Play Cards
Beyond Shame Book
Kristen and Matthias answer a listener who wonders if it's healthy to make friends with people you're attracted to while in a partnership. Then, they chat about anxiety around national events like the possible repeal of Roe v. Wade. Plus, Kristen shares what happened when she got in a fight with a megachurch pastor. Links + Resources:
Philips Norelco OneBlade
Life of Beth
Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com. It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep. ach Factor meal arrives pre-prepared and ready to eat in two minutes. Their registered dietitians and expert chefs work hand-in-hand to create meals with nutritious ingredients. And with more than 27 meal options each week, you won’t get bored. They offer Vegan + Veggie meals, cold-pressed juices, smoothies, energy bites, plant-based bars, extra protein, veggie sides, and more to keep you fueled and focused all day long. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals. Getting beautiful salon-perfect nails at home is now a dream come true – with Olive & June! Their Mani System lets you treat yourself to beautiful nails on your time for about $2 a manicure. Olive & June nail polishes last 7+ days and do not chip! Olive & June offers press-ons too! A salon look in minutes that’s better than gel, they last 10+ days and come with the most sizes ever so you can find your best fit - no one will know they’re fake Visit OliveandJune.com/SELFIE for 20% off your first Mani System! Native is doing their part to help our earth with their new one-hundred percent plastic-free and recyclable packaging! Just like all of Native’s other deodorants, their plastic-free deodorant is aluminum and paraben-free, kills odor-causing bacteria, and has twenty-four-hour odor protection to keep you feeling and smelling fresh. With Native choose from ten scents - including their classic Coconut and Vanilla, Sensitive formulas that are formulated without baking soda, and even Unscented! Go to NativeDeo.com/selfie, or use promo code selfie at checkout, and get 20% off your first order. Backblaze makes backing up and accessing your data astonishingly easy. They offer unlimited computer backup for Macs and PCs at just $7/month. You can back up docs, music, photos, videos, drawings, projects – all of your data, and access your backed up data from anywhere in the world using their web app. Get a free fully-featured no credit card required trial at: Backblaze.com/selfie.
A listener asks about quick centering practices to help in her busy and high anxiety life. Kristen and Matthias chat through a couple personality disorders that have been in the news a lot recently. Plus, Kristen explains the newest skincare treatment she's tried: sebaceous hyperplasia burning. Links + Resources
1Password App
Kitsch Self-Draining Shower Caddy
Drunk Elephant Face Bar
EFT Tapping
Stop Walking on Eggshells Book
A listener asks about their college age kid rooming together with someone of a different gender, Matthias and Kristen discuss this alongside the complexity of teen sleepovers with different genders and sexual orientations. Plus, the Amber Heard/Johnny Depp trial and the reality that domestic violence doesn't just affect women. Links + Resources
Heartstopper on Netflix
Rothaniel on HBO Max
National Domestic Violence Hotline Website
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Psychedelics are at the cutting edge of mental-health research right now. Kristen talks about how she's about to try ketamine therapy for her depression and chats with Matthias about his experience in psychedelic-assisted therapy. Then, a listener asks about trying meds for her depression or continuing to try healthy habits. Plus, how is Pixar using psychology in their movies? Links + Resources:
How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan
Ancient Minerals Magnesium Oil Spray Bottle
The Dream Podcast
How Pixar Movies Use Psychology
Many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep. ach Factor meal arrives pre-prepared and ready to eat in two minutes. Their registered dietitians and expert chefs work hand-in-hand to create meals with nutritious ingredients. And with more than 27 meal options each week, you won’t get bored. They offer Vegan + Veggie meals, cold-pressed juices, smoothies, energy bites, plant-based bars, extra protein, veggie sides, and more to keep you fueled and focused all day long. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals.
This week, Kristen and Matthias are talking about all things ADHD and kids. A listener wonders, how do you know when to seek an ADHD diagnosis for young school age kids? Then, they discuss the ways TikTok is enabling predatory ADHD advertisers to target young users. Plus, a mental health check in and Two Thumbs Up! Links + Resources:
Kyte Car Rental
Reusable Clear Boba Straws
TikTok is enabling predatory ADHD advertisers to target young users
Adult ADHD Self Report Example
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This week, a listener asks what to do when their teenager's friends are negatively affecting their mental health. Kristen and Matthias discuss birthdays as adults and a new kind of face mask Kristen is using. Plus, former TikTok content moderators filed a lawsuit over ‘psychological trauma’ -- what's going on there? Links + Resources:
Huberman Lab Podcast
Fluff & Tuff Dog Toys
Dermabeam Pro Light Therapy Mask
Former TikTok content moderators file lawsuit over ‘psychological trauma’
Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com. It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep. ach Factor meal arrives pre-prepared and ready to eat in two minutes. Their registered dietitians and expert chefs work hand-in-hand to create meals with nutritious ingredients. And with more than 27 meal options each week, you won’t get bored. They offer Vegan + Veggie meals, cold-pressed juices, smoothies, energy bites, plant-based bars, extra protein, veggie sides, and more to keep you fueled and focused all day long. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals.
This week, Kristen and Matthias chat about how difficult it is to find a therapist who takes insurance. Why is that? Kristen also shares about a new type of therapy for chronic pain she's having success with. Plus, with the recent news of more suicides at Stanford, Matthias and Kristen talk about high-pressure environments and the toll they take on mental health. This episode does contain frank discussion about suicide. Links + Resources:
Pain Reprocessing Therapy
The Way Out: A Revolutionary, Scientifically Proven Approach to Healing Chronic Pain
Tell Me About Your Pain Podcast
Queerology Podcast
Graydon Skincare Putty Super Smoothing Face Cream
Vivosun Plant Grow Bags
After Star Soccer Player’s Suicide, Stanford Acknowledges It Has a Suicide Problem
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Kristen chats with author Andre Henry about his new book All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep: Hope-and Hard Pills to Swallow-About Fighting for Black Lives. But first, Matthias and Kristen check in on how their weeks are going and share their new favorite kitchen gadgets...plus an easy dinner recipe Matthias keeps returning to again and again. Links + Resources:
Andre Henry's Website
All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep (book)
Ninja Foodi 11-in-1 Pressure Cooker + Air Fryer
30-Minute Pressure Cooker Butter Chicken
Frizzlife Reverse Osmosis Water Filtration System
A listener wonders: "How can I help my teen when they're having a panic attack?" Kristen and Matthias share tips that will help during any panic attack. Plus, with so many new TV shows dramatizing high-profile fraud schemes (Inventing Anna, The Tinder Swindler, The Drop Out) Matthias and Kristen discuss theories on how people get away with it for so long. Links + Resources
Hiya App
Amber Glass Jars
Jar Labels on Etsy
Elizabeth Holmes, Billy Mcfarland, & Anna Delvey: How Scammers Keep Scammin'
Home Exchange
Stop a Panic Attack in its Tracks with EFT Tapping
This week, Kristen chats with Karen Walrond about her new book The Lightmaker's Manifesto: How to Work for Change Without Losing Your Joy. But first, Matthias and Kristen check in on the week and share some thumbs up on books and tv shows....and some thumbs down. Links + Resources
Karen Walrond's Website
The Lightmaker's Manifesto
The House in the Cerulean Sea
Somebody Somewhere on HBO
The Gilded Age on HBO
Listener note: this episode gets a bit explicit. Kristen and Matthias discuss feeling guilty for being okay while people are suffering. Then, they answer a listener question about whether parents should let their teens watch Euphoria. Plus, a new study suggests that men are viewed as being more entitled to orgasms than women...what does that mean for women in the bedroom? Links + Resources
To Anyone Feeling Guilty For Carrying On With Your Life Right Now
Bottoms Up Balm
Bottoms Up Supplement
Hanging Toiletry Bag for Women
Common Sense Media - Euphoria
Men are viewed as being more entitled to an orgasm than women, according to new psychology research
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This week, a listener asks "how do I make decisions when I constantly don't have any sense of direction?" Plus, a new study suggests that people who worship celebrities might be less intelligent? Kristen and Matthias discuss. Links + Resources:
Home Run Inn Frozen Pizza
Remrise Sleep Powder
(Study) Celebrity Worship and Cognitive Skills Revisited
People Are Sounding Off on Study that Says Those Who Worship Celebrities May Be Less Intelligent
Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+, including a lack of vitamin D. It is formulated with nutrients to help support brain health, bone health, blood health, and provide antioxidant support. But Ritual didn’t stop there. They invested in a gold-standard university-led clinical trial to prove the impact of Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin. The results? Essential for Women 18+ was shown to increase Vitamin D levels by 43% and Omega-3 DHA levels by 41% in 12 weeks. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off your first three months. Visit ritual.com/SELFIE and turn healthy habits into a Ritual. Fabulous is the habit changing app that gives you the tools and skills you need to feel healthier, more productive, and fulfilled. Fabulous helps you break free of negative habits, while helping you build new healthy ones that stick! Fabulous does this by using a holistic approach along with behavioral science. Unlike other health apps, Fabulous focuses on self-improvement, mental and physical health, mindfulness, and productivity to build a daily routine that works for you. By using behavioral science, Fabulous breaks down scientifically proven healthy habits into a daily routine of very small tasks that you can easily achieve every single day. Becoming a Fabulous Premium member gives you access to daily coaching content sessions, unlocks all guided behavior change programs and lets you add as many habits as you’d like in your routines. Get 25% off Fabulous Premium at thefab.co/selfie. CircleDNA Premium is the world’s most comprehensive DNA test - over 500 reports across 20 categories such as diet, nutrition, fitness, stress and sleep, cancer and disease risks, common health risks, family planning, drug response, ancestry, personality traits, and so much more! What’s more, with CircleDNA Premium, you get 2 complementary (FREE) 1-on-1 consultations with a genetic counselor and a genetics-trained health professional to help you interpret your results and proactively improve your lifestyle!Go to CircleDNA.com and use our coupon code SELFIE today to get 33% OFF any CircleDNA kit. This code is valid only on the first 33 kits sold, so make sure you act fast and don’t miss out.
Today, Kristen is chatting with Dr. Nancy Dome about her new book Let's Talk About Race (And Other Hard Things): A Framework for Having Conversations That Build Bridges, Strengthen Relationships, and Set Clear Boundaries. Plus, Matthias and Kristen check in on their mental health and Two Thumbs Up for the week. Links + Resources
Let's Talk About Race (And Other Hard Things) by Nancy Dome
Dr. Nancy Dome's Website
Tornado Pen by Retro 51
Rechargeable Lighter
Kristen and Matthias discuss the trend of parents hosting parties for teens with alcohol. Should your teen be allowed to go? Plus, they discuss new research that seems to answer the decades old question: is parenting toddlers or teens harder? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Jessica about Prader-Willi syndrome, a genetic disorder that causes constant hunger. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources:
Floyd Sofa
Comfort Works Sofa Covers
Barefoot Dreams Robe
Harbour Outdoor Furnture
Salt + Pepper Dishes on Etsy
A listener wonders about letting their teenager have Snapchat. Plus, Matthias and Kristen talk about new research that helps explain our scrolling addictions and their favorite non-alcoholic drink options! Links + Resources:
Athletic Brewing Company Non-Alcoholic Beer
Seedlip Non-Alcoholic Spirits
The Psychology of Your Scrolling Addiction
It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep. ach Factor meal arrives pre-prepared and ready to eat in two minutes. Their registered dietitians and expert chefs work hand-in-hand to create meals with nutritious ingredients. And with more than 27 meal options each week, you won't get bored. They offer Vegan + Veggie meals, cold-pressed juices, smoothies, energy bites, plant-based bars, extra protein, veggie sides, and more to keep you fueled and focused all day long. Head to GO.FACTOR75.com/selfie120 and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals. Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+, including a lack of vitamin D. It is formulated with nutrients to help support brain health, bone health, blood health, and provide antioxidant support. But Ritual didn’t stop there. They invested in a gold-standard university-led clinical trial to prove the impact of Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin. The results? Essential for Women 18+ was shown to increase Vitamin D levels by 43% and Omega-3 DHA levels by 41% in 12 weeks. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off your first three months. Visit ritual.com/SELFIE and turn healthy habits into a Ritual. Fabulous is the habit changing app that gives you the tools and skills you need to feel healthier, more productive, and fulfilled. Fabulous helps you break free of negative habits, while helping you build new healthy ones that stick! Fabulous does this by using a holistic approach along with behavioral science. Unlike other health apps, Fabulous focuses on self-improvement, mental and physical health, mindfulness, and productivity to build a daily routine that works for you. By using behavioral science, Fabulous breaks down scientifically proven healthy habits into a daily routine of very small tasks that you can easily achieve every single day. Becoming a Fabulous Premium member gives you access to daily coaching content sessions, unlocks all guided behavior change programs and lets you add as many habits as you'd like in your routines. Get 25% off Fabulous Premium at thefab.co/selfie.
Today, a listener asks about coparenting with a parent who wants to be a friend instead of a parent. Kristen and Matthias chat about why they think Joe Rogan and other men like him are so popular. And...composting! Today's What I Want You To Know is from Jennifer about not regretting her abortion. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources:
Compostable Sponges
Ultra-Fine Microfiber Hair Towel Wrap
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Wordle has swept the internet! Matthias and Kristen discuss the reason the game is so popular. Plus, a listener wonders about dating during the pandemic, and Kristen shares her new self-care tool she doesn't want to leave lying around the house. Today's What I Want You To Know is from Kari about parenting a child with schizophrenia. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources:
Gideon Neck and Shoulder Therapeutic Self-Massage Tool
How to Cook Perfect Brown Rice
Wordle
What do we do when we've already failed our New Year's resolutions? Plus, with the new season of Dexter + the onslaught of true crime documentaries, what's up with the fascination with serial killers? And...are low-rise jeans making a comeback? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Angela Clavijo about being a social worker. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources
Untitled Goose Game
Women's Mid-Rise Skinny Jeans
The Spooky, Loosely Regulated World of Online Therapy
At Talkspace, Start-Up Culture Collides with Mental Health Concerns
Kristen and Matthias talk about the strangeness and difficulty of grieving celebrity deaths. Plus, a listener asks: "my kids are staying up until 11ish and I can’t relax until they’re asleep, how do I get alone time?" Links + Resources
Travel Purse
Philo TV
Nutrafol has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com.
It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never frozen—prepared meals that are so delicious, you wouldn’t believe they’re actually good for you. Factor saves time by delivering chef-crafted meals to your doorstep, eliminating the hassle of grocery shopping and meal prep. ach Factor meal arrives pre-prepared and ready to eat in two minutes. Their registered dietitians and expert chefs work hand-in-hand to create meals with nutritious ingredients. And with more than 27 meal options each week, you won't get bored. They offer Vegan + Veggie meals, cold-pressed juices, smoothies, energy bites, plant-based bars, extra protein, veggie sides, and more to keep you fueled and focused all day long. Head to GO.FACTOR 75.com/PLANS and use code selfie120 to get $120 off over your first 5 weeks of meals.
Ritual’s Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin was formulated by exhaustive research to help fill nutrient gaps in the diets of women ages 18+, including a lack of vitamin D. It is formulated with nutrients to help support brain health, bone health, blood health, and provide antioxidant support. But Ritual didn’t stop there. They invested in a gold-standard university-led clinical trial to prove the impact of Essential for Women 18+ Multivitamin. The results? Essential for Women 18+ was shown to increase Vitamin D levels by 43% and Omega-3 DHA levels by 41% in 12 weeks. Right now Ritual is offering my listeners 10% off your first three months. Visit ritual.com/SELFIE and turn healthy habits into a Ritual.
Happy New Year! This week Kristen and Matthias are discussing the particular kind of guilt people are feeling when they get COVID after months and years of trying to be as safe as possible. Plus, a listener question about talking to kids about parental estrangement. Links + Resources
Boox Tablet
Scribd
Huheta KN95 masks
The Daily - Why Omicron is Counterintuitive
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Today, a listener asks "how do I find time for myself between homeschooling young kids and my husband working a lot." Plus, Kristen and Matthias discuss the rise of "therapy speak" in regular conversations...and Matthias shares his favorite pretzel recipe! Today's What I Want You To Know is from Caroline Garnet McGraw about how childhood rejection affects you going forward. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources:
Easy pretzel bites
Empty Magnetic Eyeshadow Palette with Mirror
MAC eye shadow singles $8
The New Yorker: The Rise of Therapy Speak
We're all feeling a bit more pandemic stress in the midst of the holidays + the new omicron variant. Kristen and Matthias discuss research that shows memes might be there to help? Plus, what does it look like to set boundaries with kind/loving parents and non-toxic people? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Lauri Walker about late-term pregnancy loss. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources:
Ethique Pinkalicious Shampoo Bar for Normal Hair with Grapefruit & Vanilla
4 Pack Small Travel Soap Dish
TruSkin Vitamin C Serum for Face
It seems so many people are becoming coaches or coaches to coaches, Kristen and Matthias discuss the trend. Plus, a listener's husband is getting on her nerves because of his "concerns" about getting a vasectomy, what should she do? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Christine Sicinski about adopting from the foster-care system. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources:
Pork Chomps Dog Treats
Sorel Women's Joan of Arctic Wedge II Zip Waterproof Boot
This week, Kristen and Matthias chat through how much is appropriate to share with teens about our own teenage years. Plus, are active shooter drills in schools helpful or harmful? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Beth McCormack about delivering a child with a congenital heart defect and overcoming infant medical trauma. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources:
Open Story luggage at Target
Mrs. Stewart's Liquid Bluing
This week, Kristen and Matthias introduce a new series called “What I Want You to Know” featuring stories from Selfie listeners. Plus, revenge procrastination: what is it and how do we stop staying up so late? And, Britney Spears is finally free! What is a conservatorship and what does her new freedom mean for her? To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources:
Truekind Seamless Stretch Mid-Waist Short
11/22/63 by Stephen King
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” solution when it comes to haircare. Prose makes custom haircare that’s effective because it’s personal. Using natural ingredients with proven results, Prose customizes every product in your routine from your shampoo to supplements. First, Prose starts by asking about you as a person with their in-depth consultation and creates products specific to your hair type. As a carbon-neutral certified B-Corp, Prose is an industry leader in clean and responsible beauty. All their ingredients are sustainably-sourced, ethically gathered, and cruelty-free. They’re also the first custom beauty brand to go carbon-neutral. If you’re not 100% positive Prose is the best hair care you’ve had, they will take the products back no questions asked.Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/selfie. We’ve talked quite a lot in our community group about the unexpected and frustrating symptoms of perimenopause, menopause. Bonafide is a company dedicated to providing natural solutions for women. Their supplements are created to effectively relieve the symptoms that accompany hormonal fluctuations within our bodies. Bonafide believes every women deserves relief without compromise – from PMS to menopause and everything else along the way. Their Relizen® supplement provides powerful, hormone-free relief to women experiencing menopausal hot flashes and night sweats, so they can stay cool and dry all day and night. Tthe ingredients in every Bonafide product are the result of thorough research, development, & clinical trials resulting in every product being scientifically validated, All products are made with safe yet powerful ingredients, completely free from hormones, & without alarming side effects. Give Bonafide a try today for REAL relief, without compromise, and without a prescription needed. To get 20% off your first purchase when you subscribe to any product, go to HelloBonafide.com and use promo code SELFIE. Sundance Now is an ad-free streaming service, created by AMC Networks, for people who appreciate riveting story-telling and fresh perspectives. If meaningful shows are your escape, then Sundance Now is definitely for you. Sundance Now offers the best of true crime series, dramas, and thrillers from all over the world. Their original series Dead Places, One Lane Bridge, and The Trail in the Outback: The Lindy Chamberlin Story are sure to excite and entertain! You can stream Sundance Now on all your favorite devices for as low as $4.99 a month! Just download the app or watch online and discover exclusive shows from around the world instantly. Start streaming your next obsession. Try Sundance Now free for 30 days by going to SundanceNow.com and use promo code SELFIE
How do you set family boundaries during the holidays without causing a scene? Plus, Matthias shares his theory on uncomfortable throw pillows. And, Kristen + Matthias discuss the American Psychological Association's recent apology for perpetuating systemic racism -- what does racism look like in psychology? Links + Resources:
FACTORFIVE Regenerative Serum
Hempillow on Etsy
Decolonizing Therapy on Instagram
Gabes Torres on Instagram
Two thumbs up is back! Matthias and Kristen discuss a question from a listener wondering if narcissists can spot narcissism in other people? Plus, how can things go so wrong in crowds like what happened recently at Astroworld. And…why is Pete Davidson so hot? Links + Resources
Land’s End Packable Down Coats
CGK Unlimited Sheets
Death at Astroworld: 5 Ways Crowds Can Quickly Go Bad
EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision. EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.79 by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie179.
Chagaccino is your coffee’s new friend with benefits! Just add one packet of the Chagaccino mix into your regular coffee or latte and transform it into an adaptogenic, superfood, mushroom-based mocha! It is delish AF, vegan, keto and has no sugar or calories.It;s made of 100% wild foraged chaga, raw cacao, Ceylon cinnamon, and sweetened with monk fruit. They recommend it with two shots of espresso, one packet of the Chagaccino mix, and plant-based milk over ice (just like a latte). Each Chagaccino packet has the antioxidant equivalent of 3 lb's of blueberries so it's amazing for immune support! Researchers have found that medicinal mushrooms have demonstrated both antiviral and anti-inflammatory activity. Visit drinkrenude.com (that's nude like naked), and use the promo code SELFIE at checkout to get 15% off Chagaccino orders! That’s drinkrenude.com with promo code SELFIE at checkout for 15% off your Chagaccino order.
Today Matthias and Kristen talk about sexual and gender identity development in teens. How do we leave room for growth without locking kids into an identity? And, why is Tik Tok so addicting? Links + Resources
Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT)
The Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv
The Brain's Way of Healing by Norman Doidge
The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Shameless Parenting by Tina Schermer Sellers
George by Alex Gino
Raising Them by Kyl Myers
Red: A Crayon's Story by Michael Hall
There’s no “one-size-fits-all” solution when it comes to haircare. Prose makes custom haircare that’s effective because it’s personal. Using natural ingredients with proven results, Prose customizes every product in your routine from your shampoo to supplements. First, Prose starts by asking about you as a person with their in-depth consultation and creates products specific to your hair type. As a carbon-neutral certified B-Corp, Prose is an industry leader in clean and responsible beauty. All their ingredients are sustainably-sourced, ethically gathered, and cruelty-free. They’re also the first custom beauty brand to go carbon-neutral. If you’re not 100% positive Prose is the best hair care you’ve had, they will take the products back no questions asked.Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/selfie.
We’ve talked quite a lot in our community group about the unexpected and frustrating symptoms of perimenopause, menopause. Bonafide is a company dedicated to providing natural solutions for women. Their supplements are created to effectively relieve the symptoms that accompany hormonal fluctuations within our bodies.Bonafide believes every women deserves relief without compromise – from PMS to menopause and everything else along the way. Their Relizen® supplement provides powerful, hormone-free relief to women experiencing menopausal hot flashes and night sweats, so they can stay cool and dry all day and night. Tthe ingredients in every Bonafide product are the result of thorough research, development, & clinical trials resulting in every product being scientifically validated, All products are made with safe yet powerful ingredients, completely free from hormones, & without alarming side effects. Give Bonafide a try today for REAL relief, without compromise, and without a prescription needed. To get 20% off your first purchase when you subscribe to any product, go to HelloBonafide.com and use promo code SELFIE.
Sundance Now is an ad-free streaming service, created by AMC Networks, for people who appreciate riveting story-telling and fresh perspectives. If meaningful shows are your escape, then Sundance Now is definitely for you. Sundance Now offers the best of true crime series, dramas, and thrillers from all over the world. Their original series Dead Places, One Lane Bridge, and The Trail in the Outback: The Lindy Chamberlin Story are sure to excite and entertain! You can stream Sundance Now on all your favorite devices for as low as $4.99 a month! Just download the app or watch online and discover exclusive shows from around the world instantly. Start streaming your next obsession. Try Sundance Now free for 30 days by going to SundanceNow.com and use promo code SELFIE.
It seems like every week a new video comes out about someone losing their cool on airplanes, this week Kristen and Matthias dive into what might be going on. Plus, is high functioning anxiety a real thing? Links + Resources
Onsite Workshops
The Anxiety and Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution
EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision. EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199. Fazl is a company that works in collaboration with artisans in India to make gorgeous wool goods while providing fair wages for the women who make their products.The women Fazl employs create cozy handmade items such as warm socks, hats, and mittens in really beautiful traditional patterns. They have a passion for both caring for orphans and preventing children from being orphaned in the first place. They donate a significant portion of profits to children’s homes, and provide sustainable jobs for hundreds of Indian women in need. Fazl believes every person has the right to dignified work and ethical wages, and as such they are certified with the Fair Trade Federation for accountability. Their vegan blend of acrylic and nylon means the warmth of wool without the itch, and long-lasting durability and wamrth. And guys - they are cute. If you are looking for some great winterwear, or some gifts that give back as the holiday season approaches, keep Fazl in mind. You can check out their products at shopFazl.com. There’s no “one-size-fits-all” solution when it comes to haircare. Prose makes custom haircare that’s effective because it’s personal. Using natural ingredients with proven results, Prose customizes every product in your routine from your shampoo to supplements. First, Prose starts by asking about you as a person with their in-depth consultation and creates products specific to your hair type. As a carbon-neutral certified B-Corp, Prose is an industry leader in clean and responsible beauty. All their ingredients are sustainably-sourced, ethically gathered, and cruelty-free. They’re also the first custom beauty brand to go carbon-neutral. If you’re not 100% positive Prose is the best hair care you’ve had, they will take the products back no questions asked.Prose is the healthy hair regimen with your name all over it. Take your FREE in-depth hair consultation and get 15% off your first order today! Go to Prose.com/selfie. We’ve talked quite a lot in our community group about the unexpected and frustrating symptoms of perimenopause, menopause. Bonafide is a company dedicated to providing natural solutions for women. Their supplements are created to effectively relieve the symptoms that accompany hormonal fluctuations within our bodies.Bonafide believes every women deserves relief without compromise – from PMS to menopause and everything else along the way. Their Relizen® supplement provides powerful, hormone-free relief to women experiencing menopausal hot flashes and night sweats, so they can stay cool and dry all day and night. Tthe ingredients in every Bonafide product are the result of thorough research, development, & clinical trials resulting in every product being scientifically validated, All products are made with safe yet powerful ingredients, completely free from hormones, & without alarming side effects. Give Bonafide a try today for REAL relief, without compromise, and without a prescription needed. To get 20% off your first purchase when you subscribe to any product, go to HelloBonafide.com and use promo code SELFIE.
Today Kristen and Matthias answer a listener question about how to help a spouse dealing with mental health issues but won't seek treatment. Plus, everyone's favorite topic: anxiety! Is Generalized Anxiety Disorder a chronic, life-long condition? And...why is Squid Game so popular? Links + Resources
Health at Every Size (HAES)
The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor
Squid Game on Netflix
Subscribe via Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | Google | IHeartRadio Fazl is a company that works in collaboration with artisans in India to make gorgeous wool goods while providing fair wages for the women who make their products.The women Fazl employs create cozy handmade items such as warm socks, hats, and mittens in really beautiful traditional patterns. They have a passion for both caring for orphans and preventing children from being orphaned in the first place. They donate a significant portion of profits to children’s homes, and provide sustainable jobs for hundreds of Indian women in need. Fazl believes every person has the right to dignified work and ethical wages, and as such they are certified with the Fair Trade Federation for accountability. Their vegan blend of acrylic and nylon means the warmth of wool without the itch, and long-lasting durability and wamrth. And guys - they are cute. If you are looking for some great winterwear, or some gifts that give back as the holiday season approaches, keep Fazl in mind. You can check out their products at shopFazl.com and use the promo code SELFIE15 for 15% off.
Kristen introduces Selfie's new co-host, Matthias Roberts. After playing 10-questions, Matthias and Kristen discuss resources for parents wanting to raise kids in a sex-positive environment. They end with a conversation about the new Netflix show Maid and the issues of emotional domestic abuse it addresses. Links + Resources:
Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers
It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends
It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sperm, Birth, Babies, and Families
It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex, Gender, and Sexual Health
Maid on Netflix
Subscribe via Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | Google | IHeartRadio Fazl is a company that works in collaboration with artisans in India to make gorgeous wool goods while providing fair wages for the women who make their products.The women Fazl employs create cozy handmade items such as warm socks, hats, and mittens in really beautiful traditional patterns. They have a passion for both caring for orphans and preventing children from being orphaned in the first place. They donate a significant portion of profits to children’s homes, and provide sustainable jobs for hundreds of Indian women in need. Fazl believes every person has the right to dignified work and ethical wages, and as such they are certified with the Fair Trade Federation for accountability. Their vegan blend of acrylic and nylon means the warmth of wool without the itch, and long-lasting durability and warmth. And guys - they are cute. If you are looking for some great winterwear, or some gifts that give back as the holiday season approaches, keep Fazl in mind. You can check out their products at shopFazl.com and use the promo code SELFIE15 for 15% off. .
Roo shares about her new tv show, Undercover Underage, premiering on Discovery+ on November 6th. We talk about her next steps and some exciting changes coming up for Selfie! In this episode we also talk about:
SOSA
Matthias Roberts
Maid on Netflix
Anastasia Beverly Hills - Lip Gloss
BrwnGrlz jewelry
Better Than Before
Kristen ponders women’s collective anger about strategized incompetence in our partners, Roo talks her new grounding practice, and we chat with Rafia Zakaria about her new book Against White Feminism.about what white women must do to make the feminist movement in America truly intersectional. She has some amazing insights on how white privilege has infiltrated the feminist movement and shares her experiences as an immigrant woman of color and how the feminist movement alienated her. You can find her book here. In this episode we also talk about:
STORi Audrey Stackable Cosmetic Organizer Drawers
The Largest Laundry Detergent Sheets
Port and Polish Modern Pill Box
Roo’s Record Player
Chagaccino is your coffee’s new friend with benefits! Just add one packet of the Chagaccino mix into your regular coffee or latte and transform it into an adaptogenic, superfood, mushroom-based mocha! It is delish AF, vegan, keto and has no sugar or calories.It;s mad e of 100% wild foraged chaga, raw cacao, Ceylon cinnamon, and sweetened with monk fruit. It tastes like mocha ice cream and cinnamon toast crunch had a baby. Chaga is crazy high in antioxidants Each Chagaccino packet has the antioxidant equivalent of 3 lb's of blueberries so it's amazing for immune support! Chaga is the most alkaline food on the planet due to its vast mineral content. Chagaccino Chaga has more Potassium than bananas, more Germanium than Turmeric and more Rubidium than Green Tea. Visit drinkrenude.com and use the promo code SELFIE at checkout to get 15% off Chagaccino orders!
Kristen shares her smoothie-prep hack, Roo is back in the gym, and BJ answers our questions about what to do when your own parenting disagrees with how you parent. In this episode we also talk about:
The Chair on Netflix
Sugarfina Advent Calendar
Tea Advent Calendar
CUUP Bras
Bimble CBD Beverages
MyFitnessPal is more than just counting calories. MyFitnessPal helps you gradually learn from personalized data what works for you and YOUR goals. “App Customization” lets you choose the right settings to help you meet your individual goals—so if you’re into macro tracking, low-carb, heart health, etc., you can stick to it more easily. And with MyFitnessPal you’re not going it alone. You have access to guided daily workout and meal plans written by dietitians and exercise scientists. Plus, support from other members with shared goals and experiences. Unlock all the amazing things MyFitnessPal can do. Start your premium membership today. Go to selfie.MYFITNESSPAL.com and use code selfie to get a one-month premium membership for free!
Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com.
We are talking with Jenny Lawson (The Bloggess) about her book Broken (In the Best Possible Way) about mental health, using humor to cope, our brains lying to us, and our shared introversion mishaps. Jenny’s memoir is simultaneously hilarious and thought-provoking, and you can find it here.
Give InKind is a platform specifically created for offering care. It is highly customizable and offers a number of ways for family, friends, and even strangers to help out. It offers a variety of ways to crowdfund, as well as the ability to set up care like meals and housekeeping. It allows people to sign up to bring a homemade meal, or to choose an option to send a meal through GrubHub, or simply a gift card to any number of meal delivery services. They also offer the ability to send a number of gifts that are appropriate for times of crisis and loss. Whether you are having a baby, preparing for surgery or a hospital stay, battling cancer, or simply want to support your friends as they go through a challenging time – Give InKind is a great place to coordinate any and all of life’s disruptions (the good and bad) and get people the support they need. You can check them out at GiveInKind.com. ReadySlim’s Snoozzzy Night Detox Tea is full of soothing, caffeine-free ingredients designed to destress and calm your mind, like lavender, chamomile and valerian root to promote better sleep, as well as peppermint, Lemon Verbena and nettle leaf to aid with digestion and help reduce bloating. Their morning tea, called Wakey Wakey, is a detox blend to help to remove toxin buildup and reduce inflammation. Green rooibos, ginger, lemon verbena, and nettle leaf all work to reduce bloating and help with digestion, while Organic Yerba mate gives a natural energy boost. ReadySlim’s detox teas are made with high-quality, 100% organic herbs. ReadySlim’s detox teas are NOT a laxative tea. They are made with no fillers, no additives, and no laxatives – so they’re safe to drink every day. Their ReadySlim’s 28 Day Detox Tea Kit has both the morning and evening tea. And right now, for a limited time you can save 25% on your first order of ReadySlim’s 28 Day Detox Tea Kit plus get a FREE collapsible water bottle! Go to ReadySlim.com/SELFIE and use code SELFIE.
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From Tiktok to Youtube, more and more people are talking about their ADD or neurodivergence, and the result is that many of us are wondering . . . is this me? BJ talks about what to do if you suspect it could be true. Kristen talks about shifting away from blogging as a profession, and Roo gives us her outsourcing laundry hack. In this episode we talked about:
Target Composition Journals
Overnight Oats
Tea Organizer
Laundry Service
Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving ingredients that not only highlight your best features – they actually improve your skin over time! Their clinically-proven formulas are made without parabens, sulfates, and phthalates and never tested on animals. We love everything about Thrive Causemetics, from the quality of their makeup to the clean formulations to their Bigger Than Beauty mission to help others! We think you will love them too. Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/selfie for 15% off your first order!
Give InKind is a platform specifically created for offering care. It is highly customizable and offers a number of ways for family, friends, and even strangers to help out. It offers a variety of ways to crowdfund, as well as the ability to set up care like meals and housekeeping. It allows people to sign up to bring a homemade meal, or to choose an option to send a meal through GrubHub, or simply a gift card to any number of meal delivery services. They also offer the ability to send a number of gifts that are appropriate for times of crisis and loss. Whether you are having a baby, preparing for surgery or a hospital stay, battling cancer, or simply want to support your friends as they go through a challenging time - Give InKind is a great place to coordinate any and all of life's disruptions (the good and bad) and get people the support they need. You can check them out at GiveInKind.com.
Kristen talks about taking sedatives for her insomnia and realizing her body was dependent on them, and Roo goes analog. BJ helps us navigate parenting kids who are adults but still living at home.
In this episode we also talk about:
Manta Sleep Mask
Pray Away on Netflix
Teen Trailblazers: 30 Fearless Girls Who Changed the World Before They Turned 20
Linen Blend Wide Leg Drawstring Pants
Kristen shares about one of her kids testing positive, Roo shares her own family scare, and BJ talks about how to help our kids who are having anxiety about being back at school. In this episode we also talk about:
Home COVID-19 Rapid Self Test
Kinderlyte Hydration Packs
Nuvana Shield Immunity Defense
Megafood D3 Gummies
Gold Bond Age Defense SPF
Super Long Cable Charger
Photo by Roger Bradshaw on Unsplash
Today we are musing about when to back off and when to push when our kids are struggling, and BJ answers a question about what to do when longstanding mental health issues aren’t improving despite our best efforts. In this episode we also talk about:
In this episode we also talked about:
Your Super Moon Balance Mix Superfood Powder
Wild Organic Original Sunburn Soap
ThredUp
Supergoop Everyday Lotion SPF 50 (in the big pump)
Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re experiencing thinning hair caused by stress, dieting, overstyling, and environmental toxins, while Women’s Balance is formulated with additional hormone support for those with thinning hair through menopause. No matter your stage in life, Nutrafol has a solution. Visit NUTRAFOL dot com and take their Hair Wellness Quiz for personalized product recommendations, and use the promo code SELFIE to save $15 off your first month’s subscription at Nutrafol.com.
ReadySlim’s Snoozzzy Night Detox Tea is full of soothing, caffeine-free ingredients designed to destress and calm your mind, like lavender, chamomile and valerian root to promote better sleep, as well as peppermint, Lemon Verbena and nettle leaf to aid with digestion and help reduce bloating. Their morning tea, called Wakey Wakey, is a detox blend to help to remove toxin buildup and reduce inflammation. Green rooibos, ginger, lemon verbena, and nettle leaf all work to reduce bloating and help with digestion, while Organic Yerba mate gives a natural energy boost. ReadySlim’s detox teas are made with high-quality, 100% organic herbs. ReadySlim’s detox teas are NOT a laxative tea. They are made with no fillers, no additives, and no laxatives – so they’re safe to drink every day. Their ReadySlim’s 28 Day Detox Tea Kit has both the morning and evening tea. And right now, for a limited time you can save 25% on your first order of ReadySlim’s 28 Day Detox Tea Kit plus get a FREE collapsible water bottle! Go to ReadySlim.com/SELFIE and use code SELFIE.
These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.
Kristen shares about her troubling colonoscopy news, Roo talks about her new non-profit SOSA that is fighting online child sex abuse, and BJ answers a reader question about how to avoid burnout in jobs that are inherently stressful. In this episode we also talk about:
Jungalow at Target
Allay Lamp
Neutrogena Invisible Face Serum, SPF 60
SOSA
Organifi creates delicious superfood blends that address chronic stress and a lack of nutrition. They use adaptogenic herbs to help balance cortisol levels. You may have heard this word adaptogens and might be wondering what that means. . . these are herbs and mushrooms that literally help you adapt to the stress in your life. They balance hormones, promote a state of calmness, and help get you back to baseline faster than usual. If you’re looking for an easy way to support your amazing body, we highly recommend trying Organifi. Check out the products in the Organifi shop at Organifi.com and use code selfie for 15% off any item in the store. Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving ingredients that not only highlight your best features – they actually improve your skin over time! Their clinically-proven formulas are made without parabens, sulfates, and phthalates and never tested on animals. We love everything about Thrive Causemetics, from the quality of their makeup to the clean formulations to their Bigger Than Beauty mission to help others! We think you will love them too. Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/selfie for 15% off your first order!
Photo by Connor Pope on Unsplash
BJ answers a listener question: How much does a parent's mental health issues contribute to their child’s? Kristen talks about her fun but exhausting nomadic summer and Roo shares about her disappointing LASIK journey. In this episode we also talk about:
Cocobaba Coconut Body Oil
MELIXIR Vegan Lip Butter in Nude Cracker
Cordless Jump Rope
Glossier Ultralip
Melonsun Deep Tissue Massage Tool Thumb Saver
Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving ingredients that not only highlight your best features – they actually improve your skin over time! Their clinically-proven formulas are made without parabens, sulfates, and phthalates and never tested on animals. We love everything about Thrive Causemetics, from the quality of their makeup to the clean formulations to their Bigger Than Beauty mission to help others! We think you will love them too. Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/selfie for 15% off your first order!
Roo shares how she is tracking her time to give her brain breaks throughout the day. Kristen and Roo answer a listener question about how to help kids who do not understand cause and effect with internet safety. “It’s like they need their own 24 hour tech support,” this mom said. Ugh. We agree.
In this episode we also talk about:
TimerCaps
mDesign Home Storage Bins
Office Storage Organizer Bin
Mrs Smith Spy School for Girls.
Chanel mirror
Organifi creates delicious superfood blends that address chronic stress and a lack of nutrition. They use adaptogenic herbs to help balance cortisol levels. You may have heard this word adaptogens and might be wondering what that means. . . these are herbs and mushrooms that literally help you adapt to the stress in your life. They balance hormones, promote a state of calmness, and help get you back to baseline faster than usual. If you’re looking for an easy way to support your amazing body, we highly recommend trying Organifi. Check out the products in the Organifi shop at Organifi.com and use code selfie for 15% off any item in the store.
EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision. EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199. Photo by NeONBRAND on Unsplash
We are talking about the pandemic mental health crisis with Dr. Sarb Johal, an expert in emergency management and disaster psychology and author of Steady: A Guide to Better Mental Health Through and Beyond the Coronavirus Pandemic. We also discuss our favorite clothing brands and Kristen’s Everlywell food allergy test results, and BJ talks about how to teach self-compassion to our kids.
In this episode we also talked about:
Grove Collective at Target Dashing Diva Nail Gels Coola Setting Spray Julep Eyeshadow 101 Everlywell Banana Republic https://bit.ly/3yhjEfG Madewell https://bit.ly/3BDJvRl Target https://bit.ly/3y6vPMn Levis https://bit.ly/3xZJKUx Everlane https://bit.ly/2TzEbgx Urban Outfitters https://bit.ly/3rA8alh Able https://bit.ly/36X7hcQ Anthroplogie https://bit.ly/3zvAtUD Vince https://bit.ly/3BOxEjB
Organifi creates delicious superfood blends that address chronic stress and a lack of nutrition. They use adaptogenic herbs to help balance cortisol levels. You may have heard this word adaptogens and might be wondering what that means. . . these are herbs and mushrooms that literally help you adapt to the stress in your life. They balance hormones, promote a state of calmness, and help get you back to baseline faster than usual. If you’re looking for an easy way to support your amazing body, we highly recommend trying Organifi. Check out the products in the Organifi shop at Organifi.com and use code selfie for 15% off any item in the store.
Photo by Eye for Ebony on Unsplash
Today we are talking with Janice Litvin, author of the new book the Banish Burnout Toolkit, about understanding our stress response patterns, and BJ is answering a listener question about couples who don't sleep in the same bed.
In this episode we also talked about:
Mare of Eastown LONDONTOWN Illuminating Nail Concealer WaterMinder on the App Store Sock Drawer Organizer
Thrive Causemetics is a clean beauty brand with skin-loving ingredients that not only highlight your best features – they actually improve your skin over time! Their clinically-proven formulas are made without parabens, sulfates, and phthalates and never tested on animals. We love everything about Thrive Causemetics, from the quality of their makeup to the clean formulations to their Bigger Than Beauty mission to help others! We think you will love them too. Visit ThriveCausemetics.com/selfie for 15% off your first order!
Organifi creates delicious superfood blends that address chronic stress and a lack of nutrition. They use adaptogenic herbs to help balance cortisol levels. You may have heard this word adaptogens and might be wondering what that means. . . these are herbs and mushrooms that literally help you adapt to the stress in your life. They balance hormones, promote a state of calmness, and help get you back to baseline faster than usual. If you’re looking for an easy way to support your amazing body, we highly recommend trying Organifi. Check out the products in the Organifi shop at Organifi.com and use code selfie for 15% off any item in the store
What is the impact of burnout on teachers, and how can it trickle down to students and our communities? We are talking with Stanford professor Greg Hammer about post-pandemic burnout and how to center ourselves. BJ answers a community question about needing psychotropic medications to function, and how to get out of guilt about a brain that needs meds.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Gain without Pain: The Happiness Handbook for Health Care Professionals
- Enjoy Life Thai Chili Lime Lentil Chips
- AG Hair Curl Re:coil Curl Activator
- Cottage Core Print Kit
- Stilts
- Bigger Stilts
Usual Wines are wines for the modern drinker. They make single-serving wines in adorable glass bottles. They are great for travel, great for girl’s nights or date nights when people want their own type of wine, and perfect for gifts. Usual Wines has several varieties: a red blend, a rosé, and a sparkling white wine. All of their wines are low carb with 0 grams of sugar. Go check out their website at usualwines.com and use our discount code “SELFIE” for $8 off your first order and your first glass on us!
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Matthew Paul Turner joins us to talk about the new book he completed with our late friend Rachel Held Evans, and we chat about our memories of her. BJ gives advice on finding a good therapist for kids.
In this episode we also talk about:
- What Is God Like? by Rachel Held Evans and Matthew Paul Turner
- Jordans Skinny Syrups Sugar Free Blueberry Lavender
- Sencha Green Tea Powder Decaf 30 Single Serving Packets
- Anastasia Brow Freeze
- Amazon Essentials Tech Tee 2-Pack
Lacey Dunn, author of The Women's Guide to Hormonal Harmony, helps us understand how to make sense of declines in metabolism. BJ gives advice on how to talk to kids about sex.
In this episode we also talked about:
Bee's Knees Lavendar + Honeysuckle Cocktail Kit African Dream Foods Safari Smoke Seasoning and Brai BBQ Theanine for sleep Ouai Hair Oil
It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.
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Nicole Lynn Lewis, author of the new memoir Pregnant Girl, talks to us about community care for teen moms and young families. Roo and Kristen discuss their kids getting the vaccines and BJ talks on the gender gap and why women tend to carry a greater emotional load.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Generation Hope
- Pregnant Girl: A Story of Teen Motherhood, College, and Creating a Better Future for Young Families
- Exa High Fidelity Foundation
- Nutracollegen Immune Maximizer+
- Burke Williams Spa
- Amazon Basics Round Foam Roller
- Sun Bum Tinted Lip Balm
Usual Wines are wines for the modern drinker. They make single-serving wines in adorable glass bottles. They are great for travel, great for girl’s nights or date nights when people want their own type of wine, and perfect for gifts. Usual Wines has several varieties: a red blend, a rosé, and a sparkling white wine. All of their wines are low carb with 0 grams of sugar. Go check out their website at usualwines.com and use our discount code “SELFIE” for $8 off your first order and your first glass on us!
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Jessica Bacal, author of the new book The Rejection That Changed My Life, helps us normalize rejection, and shares what she learned interviewing powerful women about their own rejections. BJ talks about the difference between victimhood and victimization.
In this episode we talk about:
Waxelene Mychelle Ultra Hyaluronic Hydrating Cream - Hyaluronic Acid, Plant Stem Cells, Blue Lotus, Rose Petals, and Freshwater Algae. The Rejection That Changed My Life: 25+ Powerful Women on Being Let Down, Turning It Around, and Burning It Up at Work Daily Rituals: Women at Work 143 artists on how they paint, write, perform, direct, choreograph, design, sculpt, compose, dance, etc. Cocokind Oil-to-Milk Cleanser
It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.
Usual Wines are wines for the modern drinker. They make single-serving wines in adorable glass bottles. They are great for travel, great for girl’s nights or date nights when people want their own type of wine, and perfect for gifts. Usual Wines has several varieties: a red blend, a rosé, and a sparkling white wine. All of their wines are low carb with 0 grams of sugar. Go check out their website at usualwines.com and use our discount code “SELFIE” for $8 off your first order and your first glass on us!
Nupeutics Health’s Bernadette Judge helps us understand adrenal fatigue and how to treat it.,Roo talks about sucking at transitions, Kristen talks about the relief of having kids back in school, and BJ helps us figure out how to build back our post-pandemic friendship muscles and dormant social skills.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Washable Reusable Mask Carrying Cases
- Watermelon CBD Gummies
- We Toast CBD Cigarettes
- Ice Face Roller
- imissmycafe.net
- Nupeutics Stress Master Supplements
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and school supervision. EveryPlate does the meal planning, shopping, and prepping for you, taking the time-consuming guesswork out of cooking. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199.
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We are talking about how we are navigating the pace of life picking up as COVID restrictions ease, and how to know the right time to leave a marriage.
In this episode we also talk about:
Ergonomic Mouse Ethique Dandruff Shampoo Bar Sweet + Sassy Shampoo Bar Preemptive Love Candle Breakout Box
Photo by Katja Ritvanen on Unsplash
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.
We interview Daisy Dowling, author of the book Workparent, about what the pandemic revealed about working moms, and how to work towards that elusive balance as we move forward.
In this episode we also talk about:
- Jenny Lawson’s new book, Broken in the Best Possible Way
- Sweetology Cake-Decorating Kits * Neutrogena Ultra Sheer Face Stick
- ”I’m Vaccinated” Buttons
- Peter Thomas Roth Instant Mineral Broad Spectrum SPF 45 Workparent: The Complete Guide to Succeeding on the Job, Staying True to Yourself, and Raising Happy Kids
Photo by Sai De Silva on Unsplash
We’re chatting with Brooke Baldwin, journalist and television host who had been at CNN from 2008 until she announced her departure from the network last month. Her new book Huddle: How Women Unlock Their Collective Power is all about how women can lift each other up.
In this episode we also talked about
The Libby App for audiobooks from your local library Very Gay Paint (@verygaypaint) on TikTok Ursa Major Fortifying Face Balm Paula’s Choice 2% Liquid Exfoliant
Kristen and Roo talk about indecision spirals, Ingrid Harm-Ernandes helps us understand pelvic floor health, and BJ gives advice for finding a good therapy. In this episode we also talk about:
- Utopia Kitchen Flour Sack Dish Towels
- Parchment Paper Sheets 16x24 Inches,
- Worry Stones * Standing Punching Bag
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
Photo by Kyle Glenn on Unsplash
Roo and Kristen discuss forgetting how to socialize in the pandemic, BJ talks about the pandemic void only girlfriends can fill, and author Kathy Khang helps us make sense of racism against the Asian American community, and how to be an ally/co-conspirator.
In this episode we talked about:
- Kathy Khang on instagram
- Kathy Khang on twitter Stop AAPI Hate
- APIA Vote
- Asian American Day of Action
- Bianca Mabute-Louie on Instagram
- Angry Asian Man
- A Call for Solidarity from AAPI Faith Leaders on Youtube
- Multipurpose Immersion Hand Blender
- Derry Girls on Netflix
- Baked by Melissa
- Encyclopedia of New York
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
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Meagan Francis: writer and author, podcaster at The Mom Hour, and mother of reinvention.is chatting with us about divorce and coparenting in the time of COVID. BJ is helping clarify the difference between a boundary vs. an ultimatum when dealing with difficult people.
In this episode we also talked about:
The Happiest Mom: 10 Secrets To Enjoying Motherhood, Target Hair Clip OLOVES Natural Whole Pitted Olives Dr Dennis Gross Alpha Beta Peel Matrix Green Shampoo
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
Photo by Jackson Simmer on Unsplash
Lauren Ellman, author of BRB: A Memoir About Coming of Age In the Digital Age, is talking with us about the intersection of social media and anxiety, and how she learned that connection was causing distress. Kristen shares about getting the vaccine, she and Roo remember the FlyLady cleaning craze, and BJ helps us determine the difference between adult ADHD and pandemic brain fog.
In this episode we also talked about:
Jordan’s Skinny Classic Coffee Syrup Trio Flour & Branch Cookies Eekontos Ceramics Mask Case
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
Photo by Jakub Kriz on Unsplash
We are talking with Dr. Cynthia Hayes about toxic positivity and how to avoid projecting it onto our friends with serious illness.
In this episode we also talk about:
- The Big Ordeal: Understanding and Managing the Psychological Turmoil of Cancer
- Sourse Chocolate Supplement Bites
- The Durrells in Corfu on MASTERPIECE on PBS * Baron Fig Journals (Use Roo’s link for $10 off!)
- Paddywax Candles
The Total Eye Lift from Clarins is a plant-based formula is fueled by ingredients of 94% natural origin. A combo of Organic Harungana extract and Cassie Flower wax give a visible lifting and wrinkle-smoothing effect. It works on crow’s feet, dark circles, and puffiness, and it’s also an anti-aging cream. 80% of women who tried it reported a visible eye lift in :60 seconds flat* 86% noticed a visible difference in 4 weeks and visibly firmer skin. Discover more about Clarins products at clarinsusa.com, and get 10% off your purchase of Total Eye Lift with the code SELFIE10.
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash
We are talking with Emily Paulson, co-founder of the Sober Mom Squad, about drinking in mom culture, and how the pandemic has affected drinking habits. BJ talks about the loss of her aunt to COVID, and how the pandemic compounds the grief of losing a loved one.
In this episode we also talked about:
Bowls of Plenty: Recipes for Healthy and Delicious Whole-Grain Meals 3,001 This or That Questions Women Who Dared: 52 Stories of Fearless Daredevils, Adventurers, and Rebels Pacifica Stress Rehab & Caffeine Facial Mask Why Sobriety is a superpower for women | Emily Paulson | TEDxBeaconStreet
Ana Luisa is jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 10% off all products with the code SELFIE at analuisa.com.
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Stephanie Estima, author of The Betty Body and a clinician in functional neurology, is sharing how more orgasms can actually improve our health on a number of levels. We also talk about hitting that pandemic wall and what we are doing about it, and how much privacy vs. supervision we should be allowing our kids on their phones.
In this episode we also talked about
- Johnny Was Face Masks
- VOVO STYLEMENT VB-3000SE Electronic Bidet Seat,
- SKIMS bralettes and underwear
- TruSkin Vitamin C Serum
EveryPlate is up to 58% cheaper than other major meal kits on the market, and an inexpensive alternative to takeout or delivery. Recipes come together in about 30 minutes and EveryPlate offers contactless delivery to your doorstep for easy home cooking on a budget. EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Try EveryPlate for just $1.99 per meal plus an additional 20% off your next 2 boxes by going to EveryPlate.com and entering code selfie199.
Photo by Johnathan Kaufman on Unsplash
Kristen is chatting with Candace Burch about the results of a recent hormone test, her results (which were problematic but also common) and what she can do to do get things back on track. BJ helps us with breaking free of the cellphone pull.
In this episode we also talked about:
Old Survivor episodes on Prime Cards Against Humanity: Family Edition Imagine Out Loud Weighted Bar Your Hormone Balance
Ana Luisa is a jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 10% off all products with the code SELFIE! Check out analuisa.com/SELFIE. Last day to guarantee US standard shipping before V-Day is FEBRUARY 10.
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We’re talking mom-shame, life on the internet, writing, and more with our friend Laura Tremaine, author of the new book Share Your Stuff: I’ll Go First. Kristen and BJ also chat about what a deeper shift in soul-care looks like (hint: it’s not bath bombs.)
In this episode we also talk about:
Imperfect Foods Produce Delivery Thistle Meal Delivery Amazon Subscribe + Save Pantry Goods Charitea Berry Fields Forever Yoassi 2 Pack 18/8 Stainless Steel Tea Infuser Mesh Strainer SYLVECO Body Care for Sensitive Skin OUAI hair oil Etsy chore cards
Ana Luisa is a jewelry company with amazing design, as well as a sustainable mission. In addition to making beautiful earrings, necklaces and bracelets, their company offsets 100% of their carbon emissions, starting with the sourcing of their raw materials. They are also committed to quality, with long-pasting pieces created from high-quality metals, and a 365-day warranty to back it up, with fair prices starting at $39. These pieces are a fantastic gift for yourself and the ones you love. Ana Luisa is offering 15% off all products leading up to Valentine’s Day! Check out analuisa.com. Last day to guarantee US standard shipping before V-Day is FEBRUARY 10.
BJ’s GROUNDING EXERCISE
It's preferable to do this with bare feet in grass or dirt, but not necessary. If possible, take off your shoes, even if it's inside.
- Stand with feet shoulder width apart, arms relaxed at your sides.
- Be sure feet are comfortably positioned on the ground.
- Posture should be aligned but relaxed.
- Shake out your arms and roll your head slowly for a few moments to feel your body relax and release any excess energy.
- Begin to "roll" your feet on the ground until every part of the surface of your feet has touched the ground, including the arch and the base of your toes (spreading the toes and pressing them down helps with this).
- Once you've completed that, find the most comfortable position on the ground for your feet.
- Begin to sway side to side then front to back slowly for about 30-60 seconds, or as long as you'd like.
- Raise your arms up over your head, inhaling as you go and stretching your body to its fullest length.
- As you exhale, lower your arms out to the side then continue down, bending to touch your toes.
- Repeat this motion as many times as you'd like until the body feels fully relaxed.
- Now extending the forearms from your sides forward, elbows snug but relaxed against your sides, with palms turned upward, relax into your feet.
- You may stand still or sway side to side, whatever feels most comfortable to you.
- At this point, your body should begin to feel heavy, and you should feel a sensation of being "pulled" through your feet into the earth.
- Stay in this position for as long as you like.
EXPRESSIVE WRITING PROTOCOL
To start, in a few words, write down what you are feeling.
- Then with a scale of 1-10, rate how positive you feel with 1 being not at all positive and 10 very positive.
- Now do the same with any negativity you feel. 1 is not negative at all, 10 is very negative.
- Then rate how meaningful life feels to you right now with 1 being not at all meaningful and 10 very meaningful.
- Now write for 10 minutes about anything that is bothering you.
We are talking decision fatigue . . . that paralysis and exhaustion that happens when we have too much to decide. We talk about how we’ve been trying to simplify and automate to avoid decision fatigue where we can.
In this episode we also talk about:
Everlane cashmere scrunchie Zen Heel Socks The Lazy Genius Bite Toothpaste Bits NanoBio Protect Nasal Antiseptic
Today’s episode of Selfie is sponsored by shapeandfoster.com. Shape & Foster is a lifestyle development app that provides monthly actionable insight from six experts in mental health, financial planning, nutrition, fitness, yoga, and a life coach. It is a one stop shop for self-improvement. The app provides a proactive and informed approach to improving your mental well-being, by enabling practices and habits to be built. Visit www.shapeandfoster.com for your free 14-day trial.
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Between the pandemic and political strife, the world feels upside-down right now. We are talking through how to process the political upheaval we are collectively experiencing, and how to balance self-care with staying aware of what’s going on in the world.
In this episode we talk about:
- Thistle
- Perfect Image Glycolic 30% Gel Peel
- Cell Phone Sanitizer
- Pill Box
Today’s episode of Selfie is sponsored by shapeandfoster.com. Shape & Foster is a lifestyle development app that provides monthly actionable insight from six experts in mental health, financial planning, nutrition, fitness, yoga, and a life coach. It is a one stop shop for self-improvement. The app provides a proactive and informed approach to improving your mental well-being, by enabling practices and habits to be built. Visit www.shapeandfoster.com for your free 14-day trial.
BJ and Kristen have a discussion about what to do when you aren't comfortable getting together with family due to the pandemic and it's causing hurt. We also speak to those feelings of disappointment when others pull out of longstanding traditions.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Minted Pre-Addressed Holiday Cards
- Shortcake Customized Photo Albums
- Matthew Paul Turner's All the Colors of Christmas
- The Best Self Journal
- Mike’s Hot Honey
- Kristen's Target Dress Uniform
More than 160 million projected voters cast their ballot this year -- shattering records. We want to know what motivated you to participate in an election that will help us deliver a democracy where we all can thrive. We've heard from first-time voters, those who stood in line for hours, and those who were moved to tears knowing how important their vote was. If you, or someone you know, had trouble voting, or if there's any other experience you'd like to share... Let your story be heard now. Visit https://andstillivote.org/your-story-matters to join the fight for voting rights today. Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund.
We are giving our best recommendations for self-care gifts, for you or those you love!
For Skincare-Loving People With Decision Fatigue
Perfect Image 30% Glycolic Peel
Suki Skincare Transformative Purifying Masque
Graydon Face Food Mineral Mist (silver, magnesium, copper, zinc)
Bouillon Glow Serum
Sunday Riley Power Couple — Good Genes and Luna Sleeping Night Oil ($28) (acid and retinol)
Work-From-Home Care
CalmOptics Blue Light Blocking Glasses
On Air / Recording / On the Phone signs
Leah Belt Bag by Italic
Scented Goodness
Vitality Extracts Sweet Dreams Essential Oil Roller Ball
Vedic Botanicals Meditative Bliss Roller Ball
The Spa Girl Life Cosmic Karma Candle (mint and eucalyptus)
For Folks Who Need To Unwind
Sherpa Fleece Weighted Blanket ($50)
Patchology Eye Masks ($15)
Kannaco Guava Strawberry CBD Oil
Foodie Goodness
Wine Truffle Box Assortment
Fab Slabs Antibacterial Cutting Boards made of sustainable Camphor Laurel trees in Australia
Your Friend Who Wanted a Peloton but Didn’t Want to Spend $2000
Bala Bangles
Cast-Iron Kettlebell
For Your Politics-Loving Pal
Stila All-Day Lipstick in Beso
Kamala, Michelle, Elizabeth, & Ruth tee
A Promised Land by Barack Obama
Tea-Totallers The Sounds Free Energy Tea ($38)
Stump Teapot ($40)
Tea Forte Loose Leaf Sampler ($17)
More than 160 million projected voters cast their ballot this year -- shattering records. We want to know what motivated you to participate in an election that will help us deliver a democracy where we all can thrive. We've heard from first-time voters, those who stood in line for hours, and those who were moved to tears knowing how important their vote was. If you, or someone you know, had trouble voting, or if there's any other experience you'd like to share... Let your story be heard now. Visit https://andstillivote.org/your-story-matters to join the fight for voting rights today.
I'm talking adoption with my fellow adoptive mom (and adoptee herself) Jillian Lauren. We've been friends for a long time and both adopted internationally and also from foster care. We get a little misty reading parts of our memoirs about bringing our boys home, and talk through what we've learned about love (and about ourselves) from the experience.
In this episode we talked about:
Everything You Ever Wanted: A Memoir Keto-BEAM for Keto Electrolytes Hydralyte All-Natural Electrolyte Hydration Powder Sticks Viteyes Blue Light Defender Gummies Necessaire in Sandalwood Molton Brown London in Orange and Bergamot Malin & Goetz in Cannabis
Thanks to Himalaya Botanique for sponsoring this episode of the Selfie podcast. Himalaya Botanique— the toothpaste that’s free from fluoride, SLS, and artificial colors and flavors, but bursting with foam and flavor! Enjoy 20% off your purchase of Himalaya toothpaste, using discount code 20SELCARE on Amazon. To learn more about Himalaya Botanique and Ayurvedic wellness visit Himalayausa.com
More than 160 million projected voters cast their ballot this year -- shattering records. We want to know what motivated you to participate in an election that will help us deliver a democracy where we all can thrive. We've heard from first-time voters, those who stood in line for hours, and those who were moved to tears knowing how important their vote was. If you, or someone you know, had trouble voting, or if there's any other experience you'd like to share... Let your story be heard now. Visit https://andstillivote.org/your-story-matters to join the fight for voting rights today. Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund.
We talk about some of the ways we still get tripped-up by people-pleasing, and BJ gives us a meditation and some wisdom on how to deal with the collective trauma of this pandemic and election cycle.
In this episode we talked about:
- The Cusp At-Home Hormone Test
- Boost Oxygen
- ColorCoral
- Stila All Day Liquid Lipstick (Alexandra Ocasio-Cortez wears it in Beso)
Orgain has all kinds of organic products to fit your active lifestyle –nutrition shakes, protein powders, meal powders, bars, and even almond milk. Orgain products are food-based and full of organic vitamins and minerals that taste delicious and provide maximum nutrition. And Orgain promises to never use unnecessary fillers like artificial ingredients, preservatives, or GMOs. They’re all about good, clean nutrition.Plus, Orgain ships right to your door! You can also set up recurring deliveries to get your favorite products delivered for free. Right now, you can save 20% off your first order at the link Orgain.com/SELFIE.
We’ve talked a lot on our podcast about the importance of voting, and we are huge advocates of voting as a means to use your voice and effect change. In response to the coronavirus pandemic, more voters used absentee ballots than in past elections. Most voters expect to have an officially certified winner of the presidential election within three days of the election. A longer-than-expected wait for results can breed distrust in the election. But it’s important to note that it takes election officials longer to verify and count absentee ballots than votes cast by electronic voting machines because they need extra time to double check that those ballots have been verified and counted before announcing a result. Every eligible voter should have their voice heard and their vote counted. It has taken longer to count the votes and verify a winner in this year’s election — and that’s okay. Visit AndStillIVote.org to join the fight for voting rights today. Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund.
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The whole nation is living in a limbo of uncertainty right now about a close election with very high stakes. We are talking about how we are coping with the ambiguity, and strategies for “waiting well.” BJ gives us some wisdom on the importance of spirituality, and how to cultivate and create space for your spirituality.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Flying Embers Watermelon Chili Hard Seltzer (sweet and heat collection)
- The Queen's Gambit on Netflix * Your Hormone Balance
- Fluffy-Ass Weighted Blanket
- Your Post-Election Care Strategy by Alicia T. Crosby and AnaYelsi Velasco-Sanchez
Thanks to Himalaya for sponsoring this episode of the Selfie podcast. Himalaya Ashwagandha designed to help your body better adapt to stress. Enjoy 20% off your first purchase of Himalaya Ashwagandha, use discount code SELFCARE4U when you checkout on Amazon. To learn more about Himalaya Ashwagandha and Ayurvedic Wellness visit Himalayausa.com
Photo by Emily Morter on Unsplash
Grace Sandra talks about her journey as a biracial woman growing up with a white mom and siblings, the importance of all-black spaces, and the impact of intergeneration trauma on the black community. You can find Grace's book Grace, Actually: Faith, Love, Loss & Black Womanhood here.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Well Told Home Town Maps Insulated Hydration Bottle
- 23 Vitals Immune Support
- SureSwatch Temporary Paint Swatches
- Garment Rack
- Roo's Favorite Comforter
Having your voice counted in this year’s election is more important than ever. You don’t have to wait until November 3rd to cast your ballot. Be an October Voter! In most states, you can vote early in October. Request your mail ballot; return your completed ballot in the mail or in-person; or vote early at an early voting location. Visit AndStillIVote.org to join the fight for voting rights today. Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund.
WYLD Gallery is an art gallery in Austin Texas featuring Native American Art. The art is bright/bold pop art style, many with a little historical tension thrown in. Several of the artists have work in the permanent collections of museums, including the Smithsonian National Museum of the American Indian in DC and NYC. WYLD Gallery art would make a great statement piece for your home, or a unique Christmas gift for loved ones.
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Eugene Cho is talking about how to have a civil dialogue about politics, the polarization of political parties, and the problem with Christians aligning with a party over their moral convictions.
Thou Shalt Not Be a Jerk: A Christian's Guide to Engaging Politics, Kristen and Eugene’s trip to Iraq and Lebanon Air Queen N95 Substantial Equivalent Masks The Happy Labs Chill Pills TheBalm Stainiac Ninja Coffee Maker
Today’s show is brought to you by EBY, a seamless underwear membership.Eby’s are seamless and smooth, with the perfect amount of softness and stretch . . . your new super power to fight VPLs, slipping, or riding up. A no-slip grip keeps everything in place, with a cotton lining to keep your lady parts healthy. They have fits and styles in sizes XS-4X to fit every woman. Joining EBY gives you access to exclusive, members-only offers, free shipping, limited edition prints, and weekly power tips on confidence and productivity. A membership keeps your underwear drawer fresh AND helps fund cyclical microfinance loans for women around the world. 10% of every EBY purchase funds business loans for women around the world. Get 20% your first order at joineby.com with code SELFIE20.
We are talking with University of San Diego Journalism professor David Dozier about how to avoid falling for fake news, and what to do when people you love do. David Dozier holds a doctorate in communication research from Stanford University and is an internationally recognized expert and speaker on mass communications. BJ also gives us advice on finding mindful practices in the mundane.
In this episode we also talked about:
- The California Killing Field
- Skin MD Natural Face & Body Cream with SPF 15
- Grip Guard Touch Protector
- Beakey Sponges
- Everything You Need to Ace Science in One Big Fat Notebook (Middle School Study Guide)
Having your voice counted in this year’s election is more important than ever. You don’t have to wait until November 3rd to cast your ballot. Be an October Voter! In most states, you can vote early in October. Request your mail ballot; return your completed ballot in the mail or in-person; or vote early at an early voting location. Visit AndStillIVote.org to join the fight for voting rights today. Paid for by The Leadership Conference Education Fund.
Eby’s undies are seamless and smooth, with the perfect amount of softness and stretch. No panty lines… ever. A no-slip grip keeps everything in place and their cotton lining to keep your lady parts healthy. Joining Eby's subscription gives you access to exclusive, members-only offers. Free shipping, limited edition prints, and weekly power tips on confidence and productivity. A membership keeps your underwear drawer fresh AND helps fund cyclical microfinance loans for women around the world. 10% of every EBY purchase funds business loans for women around the world. empower women out of poverty and into business. Get 20% your first order at joineby.com with code SELFIE20.
Anyone else finding the current news cycle to be frustrating and fatiguing? Kristen and Roo are taking the week off from guests to talk/vent about the current political climate and the President's response to his Covid infection.
In this episode we also talk about:
- made by Fressko Tea Infusion Glass
- TheraBox Self-Care Subscription Box
- elf Hydrating Concealer
- A Whole New World, a Twisted Tale
Drew Hart, author and anti-racism leader is helping us understand how to engage further in anti-racism. BJ is helping us figure out how to navigate election season with family and friends whose view differ. Kristen shares her emotions around making hard school decisions for her kids and Roo shares about her upcoming eye surgery.
You can find Drew's book Trouble I've Seen: Changing the Way the Church Views Racism here and you can find his book Who Will Be a Witness: Igniting Activism for God's Justice, Love, and Deliverance here.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Hudson and James Collagen
- Mighty Lil’ Lentils
- Self-inking Date Stamp
- The Most Likely Way You’ll Get Infected with COVID-19
- Air Purifier Options (air purifier 2) ( air purifier 3)
Nurture Life is a meal delivery service just for kids. Nurture Life makes kes delicious meals kids love with the right nutrients and portion sizes for every age group. with an extensive range of meals including Finger Foods for babies to Toddler and Kid meals, and even Teen & Adult Meals and shareable Family Meals. Every Toddler, Kid and Teen & Adult meal includes a FULL serving of vegetables while focusing on organic produce, antibiotic-free proteins, and whole grains. You can subscribe & save to receive weekly meals & discounts. The subscription is incredibly flexible—you can skip weeks, pause or cancel whenever you need. Nurture Life is offering a limited time incredible discount! Go to Nurture.Life/SELFIE and use promo code SELFIE to get 30% off your first two orders.
We’re talking politics . . . specifically HOW to talk poltiics with people you disagree with. Our guest is Sarah Stewart Holland, cohost of the Pantsuit Politics podcast and author of I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversations. BJ Hickman talks about what it menas to abandon yourself, and how to nurture and protect the inner child with specific attention to our listeners in the LGBTQ+ community.
In this episode we talked about:
Humblemaker's Vitamin-Infused Cold Brew Shots CBD Living Sparkling Water Strawberry Lavender Women in Art by Rachel Ignotofsky 50 Fearless Creatives who inspired the world Women in Science Women in Sports The Time Timer
Nurture Life is a meal delivery service just for kids. Nurture Life makes kes delicious meals kids love with the right nutrients and portion sizes for every age group. with an extensive range of meals including Finger Foods for babies to Toddler and Kid meals, and even Teen & Adult Meals and shareable Family Meals. Every Toddler, Kid and Teen & Adult meal includes a FULL serving of vegetables while focusing on organic produce, antibiotic-free proteins, and whole grains. You can subscribe & save to receive weekly meals & discounts. The subscription is incredibly flexible—you can skip weeks, pause or cancel whenever you need. Nurture Life is offering a limited time incredible discount! Go to Nurture.Life/SELFIE and use promo code SELFIE to get 30% off your first two orders.
I’ve been getting Decocrated boxes for over a year now. If you aren’t familiar, Decocrated is a subscription box company that sends seasonal decor to your home. It’s so ideal for someone like myself who wants to decorate for the seasons but gets overwhelmed with where to start. Prior to subscribing, I felt like I could only manage Christmas. But Decocrated has upped my game, and I just got the fall box and set things out, along with some of my own pieces as well as pieces I got from last year’s fall box. Each box comes with 6-8 pieces, and they are shipped four times a year. You can subscribe annually, or just get an individual seasonal box. Subscribing also gives you access to their member’s only shop, a curated collection to complement Decocrated décor. You can subscribe to Decocrated here, and use the code RATM10 for 10% off:
Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius Collective is helping us learn to opt out of things that drain our energy, figure out how to work smarter not harder, and find the decisions we can make today to make life easier tomorrow. BJ is talking about why self-care can make us feel guilty, and sharing strategies for essential workers.
In this episode we also talked about:
The Lazy Genius Way: Embrace What Matters, Ditch What Doesn't, and Get Stuff Done Rollbahn Notebook Butter London Little Londoner eyeshadow quad Nature's Way, Alive! Women's Gummy Vitamins Joyspring Sleep Berry Melatonin Gummies BeLive Apple Cider Vinegar Gummies * Decorated Seasonal Subscription Box *
You guys know we love meal kits. EveryPlate has
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Aurate is fine jewelry made in New York City, founded by women for women. Aurate was founded on the desire to shake up the jewelry market by offering modern women beautiful designs, amazing quality at affordable prices, and ethically sourced pieces that they can wear every day. Pieces range from classic and dainty styles, to moden statement pieces. What we really love: Aurate is ethically made in New York City, and for every piece sold, a child in need receives a book to further their education. For 15% off your first Aurate purchase, go to AurateNewYork.com/selfie and use promo code SELFIE for 15% off your first Aurate purchase.
I’ve been getting Decocrated boxes for over a year now. If you aren’t familiar, Decocrated is a subscription box company that sends seasonal decor to your home. It’s so ideal for someone like myself who wants to decorate for the seasons but gets overwhelmed with where to start. Prior to subscribing, I felt like I could only manage Christmas. But Decocrated has upped my game, and I just got the fall box and set things out, along with some of my own pieces as well as pieces I got from last year’s fall box. Each box comes with 6-8 pieces, and they are shipped four times a year. You can subscribe annually, or just get an individual seasonal box. Subscribing also gives you access to their member’s only shop, a curated collection to complement Decocrated décor. You can subscribe to Decocrated here, and use the code RATM10 for 10% off:
Author Tiffany Reese and I talk about the ongoing journey of letting go of the need for validation from others, how we've worked to let go of perfectionism, and how we are trying to teach these concepts to our kids. Bj Hickman is talking about how to create sustainable relationships where everyone gets their needs met, and whether or not the idea of “Love Languages” is a good framework for that.
In this episode we also talked about:
Strong Women Rising: How to Step into Your Power, Boost Your Confidence, and Improve Your Life Something Was Wrong: A podcast about the discovery, trauma, and recovery from emotionally (and otherwise) abusive relationships Remi Custom Night Guard (Use the code KRISTENH20 for 20% off) Cymbiotika Rumi Herbal Sleep Tonic with Ashwaghanda Extract, Chamomile, and Magnesium Kin Euphorics Dream Light Nightcap with Reishi, B6 and Melatonin Pure Inventions Tranquility Vanilla Water Infusion Drops Patchology Moodpatch Sleep Essential Oil * Decorated Seasonal Subscription Box
Aurate is fine jewelry made in New York City, founded by women for women. Aurate was founded on the desire to shake up the jewelry market by offering modern women beautiful designs, amazing quality at affordable prices, and ethically sourced pieces that they can wear every day. Pieces range from classic and dainty styles, to moden statement pieces. What we really love: Aurate is ethically made in New York City, and for every piece sold, a child in need receives a book to further their education. For 15% off your first Aurate purchase, go to AurateNewYork.com/selfie and use promo code SELFIE for 15% off your first Aurate purchase.
Arielle Lorre from The Blonde Files is sharing her journey from addiction to wellness. BJ Hickman talks about why we resort to numbing our pain, and how to stop it.
In this episode we also talked about:
Mad Ritual CBD Relief Balms Relief Balm: Eucalyptus + Peppermint TP Kits The Blonde Files The Blonde Files Podcast Enola Holmes books by Nancy Springer Educated by Tara Westover CocoLove Cookies
I'm talking with fellow therapist Lisa Damour about raising preteens and teens, how to promote empathy and self-esteem while also promoting resilience, and what the pandemic is doing to an already stressed-out generation. Lisa is the author of the books Under Pressure and Untangled. BJ is talking on self-love and is having us ask ourselves: What is the story I’ve brought into adulthood about my worthiness, and where did it come from?”
In this episode we also talk about:
Hyland's Young Adult Serene Homoepathic Blend Flo Period Tracker on the App Store Formula 10.0.6 One Deep Attraction Detoxifying Face Wash Charcoal + Willow Bark Bamboo Bookstand That’s It Fruit Bars
Today we are talking about all things sex with Dr. Emily Jamea of Revive Therapy, an LMFT with a PhD in sexology We will be touching on libido, what to do when partners have different sexual appetites, the brain/sex connection, and more. BJ is going to be answering listener questions about narcissists and emotionally manipulative people.
In this episode we also talked about:
Soon Skincare Strawberry Lip Masks With Collagen Love and Fit Activewear Stand-Up Kitchen Clipboard Mindfulness Cards: Simple Practices for Everyday Life Be Mindful Card Deck for Teens) Spa Headband Spiritual AF Cards
This episode is brought to you by LetsGetChecked.com the leading provider of at-home health tests. If you want answers about your hormone levels, or other health issues, it's a great option. Tests come straight to your door and you self-collect your blood sample from the tip of your finger. This week, LetsGetChecked wants to invite you to join their community with the 30% discount code: SELFIE30 .
This episode is sponsored by Swanson Health, a source for quality vitamins and supplements, and eco-friendly home products and beauty items. Swanson Health carries over 20,000 wellness products at a great value— so you can pick up all of your favorite health products, plus discover new ones. If you want to try any of Swanson Health’s great products for yourself, use code SELFIE20 for 20% off at swanson.com.
8/13/2020
We are talking with Kate Bowler, author of Everything Happens for a Reason: And Other Lies I've Loved, about the human impulse to put a bow on suffering, and how it can be harmful to try to make meaning of loss as a way to circumvent grief. BJ is talking about how to help kids thrive in the midst of so much uncertainty. We also talk about unfriend and unfollowing as self-care
In this episode, we also talk about:
- RED Low-Calorie Chocolate
- PeachSkin Microfiber Bed Sheets
- Dry-erase Pocket Sleeves
- Snap Kitchen Health Meals
This episode is brought to you by LetsGetChecked.com the leading provider of at-home health tests. If you want answers about your hormone levels, or other health issues, it's a great option. Tests come straight to your door and you self-collect your blood sample from the tip of your finger. This week, LetsGetChecked wants to invite you to join their community with the 30% discount code: SELFIE30 .
This episode is sponsored by Swanson Health, a source for quality vitamins and supplements, and eco-friendly home products and beauty items. Swanson Health carries over 20,000 wellness products at a great value— so you can pick up all of your favorite health products, plus discover new ones. If you want to try any of Swanson Health’s great products for yourself, use code SELFIE20 for 20% off at swanson.com.
We are talking with Jenny Ingram about parenting teens how to launch our kids into the world. BJ is going to be giving us advice on what to do when all of the anger in the world right now is making us angry. We also talk about introverting and the need for dithering/puttering, and how that’s a challenge in the middle of a pandemic.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Adulting for Christians
- Vital You CBD Bath Bombs
- Graydon Skincare Fullmoon Serum
- The New Corner Office: How the Most Successful People Work From Home by Laura Vanderkam
- Outschool
This episode is brought to you by LetsGetChecked.com the leading provider of at-home health tests. If you want answers about your hormone levels, or other health issues, it's a great option. Tests come straight to your door and you self-collect your blood sample from the tip of your finger. This week, LetsGetChecked wants to invite you to join their community with the 30% discount code: SELFIE30 .
This episode is sponsored by Swanson Health, a source for quality vitamins and supplements, and eco-friendly home products and beauty items. Swanson Health carries over 20,000 wellness products at a great value— so you can pick up all of your favorite health products, plus discover new ones. If you want to try any of Swanson Health’s great products for yourself, use code SELFIE20 for 20% off at swanson.com.
Issa Mas is helping us unpack homeschooling and the different ways of doing it, for anyone making difficult decisions about school in the fall. BJ talks about why uncertainty is so difficult to deal with, and how to stay sane in the midst of ambiguity.
In this episode we also talked about:
Aui Naturals SkincareOn The Go Brush On Foundation With Sunscreen VOLO Hero Quick Dry Towel Summer Brain Quest Bioderma Shower Oil Gua Sha
This episode is brought to you by LetsGetChecked.com the leading provider of at-home health tests. If you want answers about your hormone levels, or other health issues, it's a great option. Tests come straight to your door and you self-collect your blood sample from the tip of your finger. This week, LetsGetChecked wants to invite you to join their community with the 30% discount code: SELFIE30 .
This episode is sponsored by Swanson Health, a source for quality vitamins and supplements, and eco-friendly home products and beauty items. Swanson Health carries over 20,000 wellness products at a great value— so you can pick up all of your favorite health products, plus discover new ones.
If you want to try any of Swanson Health’s great products for yourself, use code SELFIE20 for 20% off at swanson.com.
Christine Koh is giving us advice on how to parent smarter, not harder. Parenting is often easier when we simplify, and that there are benefits to our kids when we let ourselves off the hook, too. Christine is the co-author of the book Minimalist Parenting and co-host of the podcast Edit Your Life. In this episode we also talk about:
* Ecoslay Orange Marmalade Flaxseed and Aloe Curl Definer * Pure Synergy Super B Complex Supplements * Julep Multistick * Supergoop Defense Refresh
Chronic stress impacts our immune system, energy levels, and mood, and has lasting effects on your overall health. Apollo is a new wearable that improves your body’s resilience to stress, so you can stay healthy and productive. Apollo engages with your sense of touch, training your nervous system to bounce back more quickly from stress, going from “fight or flight” to “rest and digest” so you can stay calm, focus, relax, sleep, and stay healthier. Apollo actually trains your nervous system over time, so the more you wear it, the less you’ll need it to bounce back from stress. Try Apollo today and get 15% off your purchase at http://apolloneuro.com/SELFIE.
We are talking with author Melanie Shankle on raising teenagers, finding our own sense of self as a mom, and being in the weird middle place of life. BJ is talking about how to manage people in our lives who have done things that are really hurtful, and Claire is giving advice on how and when to use that hydrating mist. In this episode we also talked about:
- On the Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love, and Being True to Yourself
- Rage Against the Minivan
- Love Beauty And Planet Shampoo Bar for Color Treated Hair The Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens: Help for Unprepared, Late, and Scattered Teens
- Baron Fig
- Steven Smith Tea
Chronic stress impacts our immune system, energy levels, and mood, and has lasting effects on your overall health. Apollo is a new wearable that improves your body’s resilience to stress, so you can stay healthy and productive. Apollo engages with your sense of touch, training your nervous system to bounce back more quickly from stress, going from “fight or flight” to “rest and digest” so you can stay calm, focus, relax, sleep, and stay healthier. Apollo actually trains your nervous system over time, so the more you wear it, the less you’ll need it to bounce back from stress. Try Apollo today and get 15% off your purchase at http://apolloneuro.com/SELFIE.
We are chatting with Elyse Snipes, licensed therapist, founder of Radical Wellness Collaborative, and co-host of Trailercast, a podcast about mental health. BJ talks to us about how we can improve our self-esteem and Claire talks about how to deal with hyperpigmentation and acne scarring. In this episode we also talk about:
Evidence Skincare (ESK) Ben Platt Live from Radio City Music Hall | Netflix Elyse Snipes Collective NYX Jumbo Eyeliner Pencil Yoga ball
Today’s episode is also sponsored by Hero Cosmetics. They have an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities so well that you can see the impurities in the patch after removal. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it’s a great solution. If you want to try the Mighty Patch for yourself use code SELFIE15 for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.
Personal (R)evolution is a 3-month podcast course that will help you create a clear vision for what you want out of life. Hosted by best-selling author and life coach Allison Task, Personal (R)evolution helps you take control of your life with inspiration and humor, so that you move from where you are now to where you want to be (and have fun doing it). It's available wherever you listen to podcasts or you can find all episodes of the show at https://www.himalaya.com/revolution1.
If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle. A Payoff Loan is a personal loan, backed by member-centric credit unions, designed to help you pay off your credit cards. With rates as low as 5.99% APR, and loan amounts up to $35,000. There are no hidden fees and Payoff.com offers customer service support to help you reach your financial goals. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more.
Chronic stress impacts our immune system, energy levels, and mood, and has lasting effects on your overall health. Apollo is a new wearable that improves your body’s resilience to stress, so you can stay healthy and productive. Apollo engages with your sense of touch, training your nervous system to bounce back more quickly from stress, going from “fight or flight” to “rest and digest” so you can stay calm, focus, relax, sleep, and stay healthier. Apollo actually trains your nervous system over time, so the more you wear it, the less you’ll need it to bounce back from stress. Try Apollo today and get 15% off your purchase at http://apolloneuro.com/SELFIE.
Kristen talks about staying nice in the midst of a book launch. We chat with R. Eric Thomas about the weird world of writing on the internet, and finding the balance between writing about humor and pop culture and also writing about social justice issues. This episode was recorded a few weeks ago, and as we discussed how we've tried to engage people on issues of racial justice, little did we know it would soon be a national conversation. BJ gives us advice on living in authenticity, and Claire talks about what to do if your cloth face covering is making you break out. In this episode we talk about:
- Here For It: How to Save Your Soul in America,
- Rage Against the Minivan
- Fitbit Flex 2
- Minted Art at Target
- Katie Craig
- Milk Makeup Kush Lip Balm Green Dragon
- Mudhouse Sabbath by Lauren Winner
Hero Cosmetics has an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it’s a great solution. Use code SELFIE15 for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.
It can be really hard to know what vitamins or supplements you should be taking, but Care/of makes it easy with an online quiz that let’s you know exactly what you need for daily vitamins. Care/of delivers daily vitamin and supplement s customized to your recommendations, sent right to your door every month. For 50% off your first Care/of order, go to TakeCareOf.com and enter code selfie50.
Shopping and meal-planning has been made even more challenging. HelloFresh cuts out stressful meal planning and grocery store trips, so you can enjoy cooking and get dinner on the table in just about 30 minutes. Easily change your delivery days or food preferences, and skip a week whenever you need. There’s something for everyone, including low-calorie, vegetarian, and family-friendly recipes every week. Go to HelloFresh.com/60selfie and use code 60selfie to get $60 off your first three weeks, including free shipping on your first box. Additional restrictions apply, please visit HelloFresh.com for more details.
If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more.
Today’s charity focus is SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way. Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support SaveTheChildren.Org can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.
Kristen talks about launching her book, Roo braves the public wearing of her sports bra, Claire answers if the Clarisonic lives up to the hype, and BJ discusses attachment styles. We also chat with Jonathan Merritt about learning to overcome the drive to please and perform.
In this episode we also talked about:
Rage Against the Minivan Learning to Speak God from Scratch Cooks Innovations Non-Stick Oven Liner Cook Once, Eat All Week: 26 Weeks of Gluten-Free, Affordable Meal Prep Acupressure Therapy Balls Acorns Investing app
This episode is sponsored by SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way. Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support Save the CHildren can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.
Today’s episode is also sponsored by Hero Cosmetics. They have an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities so well that you can see the impurities in the patch after removal. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it’s a great solution. If you want to try the Mighty Patch for yourself use code SELFIE15 for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.
If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle. A Payoff Loan is a personal loan, backed by member-centric credit unions, designed to help you pay off your credit cards. With rates as low as 5.99% APR, and loan amounts up to $35,000. There are no hidden fees and Payoff.com offers customer service support to help you reach your financial goals. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more. NMLS ID# 1396805. Not all applicants may qualify. Loans only available within the United States. Loan is not available in all states. Payoff works with lending partners who originate the loans. Additional terms, conditions,
Kristen and Roo are talking about the murder of George Floyd and learning to be better allies, and are sharing some of the black voices that have helped shape their views. We are also talking with Glennon Doyle about letting go of expectations and redefining "perfect", and her new book Untamed.
In this episode we talk about:
- The Condemnation of Blackness: Race, Crime, and the Making of Modern Urban America, With a New Prefaceby Khalil Gibran Muhammad
- How to Be an Antiracistby Ibram X. Kendi
- I’m Still Here: Black Dignity in a World Made for Whiteness by Austin Channing Brown
- The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas
- Reddit: Black People Twitter
- IjeomaOluo
- Luvvie Ajayi
- Rachel Cargle
- Latasha Morrison
- Baratunde Thurston
- Jamil Smith
- Gene Demby
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This episode is sponsored by SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way. Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support Save the CHildren can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.
Today's episode is also sponsored by Hero Cosmetics. They have an incredible product called the Mighty Patch, a hydrocolloid patch that extracts impurities so well that you can see the impurities in the patch after removal. If you struggle with acne popping up at the worst time, it's a great solution. If you want to try the Mighty Patch for yourself use code SELFIE15 for 15% off at herocosmetics.com.
If you are struggling with debt right now, and high interests rates are making it hard for you to get our of the credit card debt on your own, sponsor Payoff.com may be an option to get out of the debt cycle. A Payoff Loan is a personal loan, backed by member-centric credit unions, designed to help you pay off your credit cards. With rates as low as 5.99% APR, and loan amounts up to $35,000. There are no hidden fees and Payoff.com offers customer service support to help you reach your financial goals. Go to Payoff.com/Selfie to learn more. NMLS ID# 1396805. Not all applicants may qualify. Loans only available within the United States. Loan is not available in all states. Payoff works with lending partners who originate the loans. Additional terms, conditions, and eligibility requirements may apply. More information is available at payoff.com/Selfie.
We talk with Brit Barron about learning to live with fear and uncertainty, and letting go of the need to control outcomes. Kristen and Roo discuss the things they’ve let go of during quarantine, and how priorities have shifted. In this episode we also talk about:
Worth It: Overcome Your Fears and Embrace the Life You Were Made For Swaddle Designs Face Masks (kid sizes and designs) Dead to Me Lauren Ostrowski Fenton’s It’s OK Meditation Beeswax candles (on Etsy) Beeswax candles (on Amazon)
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This episode is also sponsored by SaveTheChildren.Org. Right now, the coronavirus is the biggest global health crisis of our lifetime-threatens children in every way. Covid-19 has already left many children without caregivers, out of school and exposed to violence and exploitation. With your support Save the CHildren can help kids in unsafe households and help support distance learning in the face of school closures.
We are discussing strategies for keeping the house clean, if that's important to you, including how to get kids to help. We talk with Jamie Wright about divorce after a long marriage. And BJ shares help for ongoing anxiety in the midst of a pandemic.
In this episode we also talk about:
- The Circle Home Internet Monitor
- The Half of It on Netflix
- Buy Nothing Group
- R+Co Badlands Dry Shampoo Paste
We are chatting with Latasha Morrison, author of Be the Bridge, about racial justice, and specifically about Ahmaud Arbery and how we can take our outrage and push towards action. BJ gives us advice for that Mother's Day hangover, Roo shares a new meditation habit, and Kristen discloses some of the new difficulties of coparenting in a pandemic.
In this episode we also talk about:
Drunk Elephant D Bronzi Anti Pollution Sunshine Drops Healist CBD Calm Chews Smash Live Hamilton coming to Disney+ Sustain Lip Balm
We are chatting with Michelle Keinan, wellness coach and co-founder of City Wellness Collective, about how to deal with our own stress and trauma so we aren’t taking it out on others. BJ talks about how to make meaning of this season, and Claire gives advice on dealing with razor bumps.
In this episode we also talk about:
- Mrs. America
- Heathmade Sandalwood and Vanilla Lotion Bar
- Joggers
- Towel wrap
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We’re chatting with Jen Hatmaker about how women can break free of perfectionism and people-pleasing, and BJ reads a meditation over us, while Claire answers a listener question about crow’s feet.
We also talked about:
- Fierce, Free and Full of Fire by Jen Hatmaker
- Life Elements CBD Topical Cream
- ChocZero's Dark Chocolate Almonds with Sea Salt Keto Bark
- Costa Farms Clean Air House Plants
- Ellia Wind Down Essential Oil
- Honest Company Retinol
- Satin Pillow Cases
We are all struggling with how to feed a family in quarantine. It’s so much meal prep, and groceries can be inconsistent. Stacie Billis, of the Didn't I Just Feed You?! podcast,, is here to offer advice. BJ talks about the importance of self-care, and Claire answers a reader question about what to do with wiry facial hair.
In this episode we also talk about:
Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner: 50 Winning Ways to Cook It Up! by Stacie Billis Make It Easy: 120 Mix-and-Match Recipes to Cook from Scratch by Stacie Billis Turmeric Supplements for inflammation by Pure Synergy Organic VItamin C® Capsule New York Times Monday Puzzles Amazon Echo Kristen’s Hair-Removing Coil Tea Tree Oil
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The pandemic is affecting everyone, but what about dual-household families? And what do you do when each parent has a different outlook on CDC recommendations? In this episode, we interview Erin Levine from Hello Divorce to discuss how shelter-in-place orders are affecting everyone with custody schedules. Claire talks about how to deal with dry hands when we’re all washing our hands obsessively, and BJ gives us advice on how unresolved grief and trauma can effect our current collective grief and trauma states.
In this episode we talked about:
Cheeky Custom Night Guards Cocooil Ocean Leave-In Spray Compression Socks Fanny Pack Trader Joe’s Supreme Hydrating Eye Cream (only $5.99!) Dr. Bronners Balm Honest Beauty All Over Balm
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The global pandemic requires that we stay home and pause from all the usuals — and the isolation is affecting even the most introverted of us (Kristen!). But social distancing is really about physical distancing, and we're all finding ways to remain social. In this episode, Kristen and Roo discuss staying connected and whether or not six-feet-apart-driveway-hangouts are ok (they both say no — you'll hear why). BJ answers a listener question about living in a marriage when the sex life has died.
In this episode we also talked about:
Pressure Point Ball Shiner Photo: Custom Photo Prints on Wood The Good Stuff Botanicals Organic Skin Care * 24-Pack Cleaning Towels * Tea Towels * Austin Channing Tatum's A Conversation With My Jaw
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The stress of the current pandemic has affected sleep for many of us. We are talking about strategies and routines for making sure we are sleeping well. BJ talks about how to avoid living in a state of anticipated grief, and ow to get out of the cycle of trying to control things we can't. And we give a check-in on our quarantine self-care efforts, including Roo's still-missing COVID-19 test results.
In this episode we also talked about:
$130 Chromebook Paww SilkSound Wireless Headphones Clip-On Ring Light with Phone Mount HD Clip-On Web Camera TimeCube Guts by Raina Telgemeier SimpleHabit (now free!)
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In this episode, we can’t not discuss COVID-19. We chat about our current struggles — guidelines for COVID and asthma being contradictory and how that affects Kristen; Roo still waiting for her COVID results — as well as laughing so we don’t cry. (For example, Kristen attempts explaining reality TV show plotlines to an incredulous Roo.)
BJ also responds to the anxiety many of us have been having around COVID and leads us through a soothing meditation. Our Selfie Podcast Community on Facebook has been a great place for support and talking through ideas in the midst of all of this. If you’re looking for a place to vent or connect, please join us there!
Last week, we also did our first “Social Distancing Social Hour” via Zoom, and we had a great time. Look for an upcoming “Selfie Happy Hour”!
In this episode we also talked about:
TABLETOPICS Family TableTopics Teen TABLETOPICS Family Gathering The Spatty Galison Puzzles (Frank Lloyd Wright) Galison Puzzles (Book Club) Fingertip Pulse Oximeter Dr. Jart Ceramidin Cream Kim's Convenience | Netflix Schitt's Creek | Netflix Brooklyn Nine-Nine | NBC Ramy | Hulu 60 Days In | A&E Previse Hydromilk Pressed Serum Bella Terra BB Cream, Tinted Moisturizer ACURE Seriously Soothing Cloud Cream Honest Beauty Deep Hydration Face Cream with Baobab Seed Oil & Shea Butter Keys KPRO 1-Step All Natural Tinted Moisturizer Lotion Foundation Vapour Organic Beauty Atmosphere Soft Focus Foundation
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In this episode, we move from our usual format to take a deeper dive into what’s happening with COVID-19 and how it’s affecting every aspect of our lives. If you’re worried, well, you’re not alone. We have an open and honest conversation about our fears of the future, one of us getting tested for COVID, and — for the sake of a moment of levity — apocalyptic grooming and the things that are keeping us sane.
Some stuff we currently can’t live without:
Suddenly Homeschooling?:
- Masterclass (my kids are loving this, it’s $15 for the whole family — KH)
Khan Academy (math and grammar and it’s free — KH & RP) Dominoes (not for the traditional game; let them spend hours making domino runs; plenty of math, creativity, and physics involved! — RP) Clipboards (print out some worksheets and a writing prompt, stick it individual clipboards, and let them work through those at the kitchen table — RP)
Apocalyptic Self-care
Cuticle butter (removed my gel nail polish myself, DIY nail care here on out — RP) Emery boards Weleda Skin Food (with all of us washing our hands extra extra, it keeps my hands from feeling like sandpaper — RP) At-home hair dye (COVID won’t catch me with roots — KH) You are the Beloved by Henri Nouwen (a balm to my soul in these trying times — RP)
CBD has many benefits, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US. Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.
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We are talking about the growing fears around the COVID-19 virus and how we are finding the balance between being prepared and not panicking. BJ talks about social anxiety vs. introversion and Claire discusses the temptation to tan before a vacation.
In this episode we talked about:
Trophy Skin RejuvadermMD at Home Handheld Microdermabrasion Machine SNOOZ White Noise Machine Glossier Boy Brow Glossier Lipstick Glossier Super Bounce Glossier FutureDew Dr. Bronner’s hand spray KeepCup Coronavirus Stats
CBD has many benefits, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US. Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.
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Roo and Kristen are both dealing with PTSD and talk about how it has affected their lives. BJ addresses the number one mental health topic in our community: anxiety. And Claire offers her best recommendations for moisturizing body oil.
In this episode we also talked about:
Fab Slabs Anti Bacterial Cutting Boards CLEARstem VITAMINscrub Daily Exfoliation TikTok App Better Than Before by Gretchen Rubin Honest Company Body Oil All Good Organic Coconut Oil Skin Food w/Lavender Essential Oil Earth Love Glowing Places Body Oil SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Bath, Body & Massage Oil
CBD has many benefit, and we are big proponents. But not all CBD is created equal. Unlike other CBD brands, who offer just CBD, Hempfusion is CBD plus omegas plus terpenes plus other natural ingredients to help you feel 100%. HempFusion’s specific blend of natural ingredients help with stress, sleep, and energy, and it can be shipped anywhere in the US. Use the promo code SELFIE for 20% off of your first order and free shipping at hempfusion.com.
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Roo is sharing the secret project she's been working on for several months, that has blown the lid off of internet safety issues for young teens, and how it has affected her own life. Claire gives advice on who to seek help from for skincare issues, and BJ helps us make sense of our morose teenager's behavior.
In this episode we also discussed:
- Bark Safety Monitoring for Kids I’m a 37-Year-Old Mom & I Spent Seven Days Online as an 11-Year-Old Girl. Here’s What I Learned.
- Sloane Ryan Unmasked
- Ramy on Hulu
- Fable Soap Company
- Spoolies
- Light Blocking Glasses
We are talking about community care as an aspect of self-care, and how to create community when you don’t have it. We also talk about hangover cures, sweatpants, and stomach ailments. Claire gives advice on peeling nails and BJ answers a listener question about women as family breadwinners. We also talked about:
- Tummy Drops
- Territory Foods (use this link for $50 off across your first two orders)
- Amazon Sweatpants Cheers Restore
- GinGins
- Community care vs. self-care
Shouting "self-care" at people who actually need "community care" is how we fail people. - Nakita Valerio
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We’re talking emergency self-care and coping skills for those moments when you are so overwhelmed that your brain is misfiring. BJ answers a listener question about how to help a partner who is struggling with addiction, and Claire gives us her best advice on dipping our toes into the world of retinol.
In this episode we also talked about:
Nuuly Clothing Rental from Anthropologie Graydon “The Putty” Plant-Based Moisturizer Ellia Pay Attention Essential Oil Blend Weighted Hula Hoop You Feel Like S#@!, A n Interactive Self-Care Guide
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We are talking about differentiation with Kathleen Smith, author of Everything Isn't Terrible: Conquer Your Insecurities, Interrupt Your Anxiety, and Finally Calm Down. Claire answers your botox questions, and BJ offers support to a listener struggling with trauma after a sexual assault (a trigger warning is given before this segment.)
We also talked about:
- Migrastil Essential Oil Aromatherapy Roll=On Migraine Stick
- Veestro Plant-Based Meal Delivery Service
- Pilot G2s
- Bare Republic Sunscreen Stick
- Steinbeck Pencils
- LePen
Why are women so tired? How can we make modern marriage work? Roo and Kristen discuss the mental load that tends to fall on women, and how to push back on the societal norms that tell us that, despite our efforts at equality, women are still in charge of more domestic and familial tasks. We also chat with Jennifer Petriglieri, the author of Couples That Work: How Dual-Career Couples Can Thrive in Love and Work, and our resident therapist BJ shares some advice for readers struggling to know when to end a marriage.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Green Tea Detox Matcha Mud Mask
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed by Lori Gottlieb
- Fleabag
- Schitt’s Creek
- Runner’s Mace
- The New York Times Crossword
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Kristen is chatting with our new cohost Roo Powell about the difficulty of being present, and interviews Philip Shephard about the concept of embodiment and radical wholeness. We also introduce BJ Hickman, our new resident therapist who will be taking your questions (ask them here!)
In this episode we talked about:
- Radical Wholeness: The Embodied Present and the Ordinary Grace of Being
- New Self, New World: Recovering Our Senses in the Twenty-First Century
- TEPP
- The Strava App
- GoFiltr Alkaline Water
- Scrumptious Wicks
- The Davinci Wedge
- Klova Patches
Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash
Sarah explains her decision to step back as host, and Kristen introduces the new show format and a new co-host. We chat with Sherianna Boyle about the importance of creating space to feel our feelings.
In this episode we talked about:
- Emotional Detox: 7 Steps to Release Toxicity and Energize Joy
- Emotional Detox for Anxiety: 7 Steps to Release Anxiety and Energize Joy
- The Chalet Wrap from Mer-Sea
- Mantra Mask Hemp CBD Coconut Eye Gels
- Sarah’s Top Clean Beauty Picks of 2019
- Aleavia Body Cleanse
Photo by Cristian Newman on Unsplash
We’re talking about how shame affects our sex lives with Matthis Roberts, author of the new book Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms..
In this episode we also talked about:
- Nalgene Water Bottles
- Kristen’s Giant Water Jug
- The Berkey Water Filter
- Skylar Clean Perfume
- 365 Makeup Remover
- Drunk Elephant Cleansing Bar
- Adoratherapy Mood Boost
- MyChelle Refining Sugar Cleanser The Ordinary Vitamin C Serum
- Lavender Epsom Salts
Photo by Gaelle Marcel on Unsplash
It’s our annual holiday gift guide! We’ve got all kinds of self-care gift ideas for the people you love. In this episode we talked about:
- Everlane Cashmere Crewneck Sweater
- Herbivore Botanicals Self Love Kit
- I Want To Sleep Well Gift Set
- Corala Premium Weighted Blanket Set
- Extract Labs Extra Strength Raspberry CBD Tincture
- Library Fragrance Discovery Set
- Beautycounter Hand Cream Trio
- Botanical Republic Double Cleansing Kit
- Birch Light Moisturizer
- orangeheat Kids Apparel
- Decocrated Curated Home Decor Subscription
- One Dish - Four Seasons: Food, Wine, and Sound - All Year Round cookbook
- VIVA ALEXANDER Tea Set
- Away Everywhere Bag
- Evolvh Healthy Hair Trio
- How Not To Always Be Working: A Toolkit for Creativity and Radical Self-Care
- Q&A a Day for Kids: A Three-Year Journal
- Dinner: Changing The Game
- Nespresso by De'Longhi VertuoPlus Deluxe Coffee and Espresso Machine
- Cuyana Leather Travel Case Set
- Lo & Sons Catalina Deluxe Tote
- Everlane Renew Transit Weekender Bag
This week’s episode of Selfie is brought to you by Canvas People. Canvas People is your one stop shop for personalized gifts. They take your favorite photo memories and prints them onto canvases, mugs, throw pillows, even ornaments. Now, as a special, very limited holiday offer, CanvasPeople.com is offering their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free. These normally sell for $69.99, but you’ll pay nothing – just cover shipping and handling! To get your FREE canvas text SELFIE to 64-000.
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It’s YOUR thumbs up! We are sharing some of our listener’s best recommendations for products, books, movies, and practices that are life-giving right now.
In this episode we (you) talked about:
- Ole Henrikson Truth Serum
- Elf Eyebrow Pencil
- Christmas tree lights
- The Highwomen
- The Creaky Floors Christmas album (Kristen’s band!)
- Smitten Kitchen Pancakes
- Maybe You Should Talk to Someone
- Educated by Tara Westover
- DIM Supplement 200mg - DIM Diindolylmethane Plus BioPerine Schitts Creek The Outlander Series
- Bai Narino Peach Super Tea
- Virgil's Zero Sugar Cola
- Happy Light
- True Lemon, Lime, Orange & Grapefruit 32ct Boxes Sampler Pack
- Learning about the enneagram!
- Drunk Elephants Vitamin C Serum
- Coredy Robot Vacuum Cleaner
- Aquafix — Chemist Confessions
- Bee House Iced Tea and Coffee
- The British show “Outnumbered” on Hulu
- Making time for theater and comedy shows or concerts with friends and family
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What’s the difference between annoying friends and family, and people who are toxic? And how can we be around them over the holidays and maintain boundaries? We chat with author James Sweigert about detaching with love.
In this episode we talked about:
- If You Say So: My Story and How I Changed It To Save My Life
- The Gratitude Jar
- Dogwood Botanicals Calendula Rose Face and Body Cream
- Obvi Cereal-Flavored Collagen
Kristen interviews her daughter about their family gratitude practices, Sarah commiserates about how she can’t remember anything, and both share some big feelings about aging skin. Also, find out how India really feels about Claire (spoiler alert . . . there are tears.)
In this episode we talked about:
- Beautycounter Hand Cream Trio
- Big Berkey Water Filter Bundle
- NALA Personalized Deodorants
- MY ALCHEMY Rose Hydrosol Toner
- I Will Always Write Back
- Teami Green Tea Mud Mask
Canvas People is your one stop shop for personalized gifts. They take your favorite photo memories and prints them onto canvases, mugs, throw pillows, even ornaments. Canvases come ready to hang, are built to last and sourced from renewable forests. Now, as a special, very limited holiday offer, CanvasPeople.com is offering their popular 11 by 14 photo canvases for free. These normally sell for $69.99, but you’ll pay nothing – just cover shipping and handling! To get your FREE canvas text SELFIE to 64-000.
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Self-care can be a challenge for busy women, and Adita Lang literally wrote the book on it. We chat with her about:
How women can prioritize their own needs Why cleaning out your pantry is a great way to start for any new season Why you should add coconut oil to your coffee Ways sugar can place your immune system on snooze Why salt isn't a terrible thing The plethora of benefits from making tea time a daily priority What you need to know about the four pillars of health: nutrition, exercise, sleep and happiness
In this episode we also talked about:
Gardners Garden Natural Sleep Mist Dioxyme Brain Nootropics Huggie Hoops Gold Earrings Katherine Ryan: Glitter Room Netflix Comedy Special
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Kristen and Sarah talk Halloween prep, blenders, and finding your glasses, and we interview Dr. Cynthia Li, a doctor who found an unexpected path after an autoimmune condition began consuming her body. Her book Brave New Medicine details the physical and existential crisis that forced her to question her own medical training.
In this episode we also talked about:
- NutriBullet Blender
- Evolvh SmartStart Leave-In Conditioner * Eversmile Aligner Foam Cleaner and Whitener
- Olive and M Face Oil
- The Institute of Functional Medicine
Rebekah Lyons joins us to talk about finding rhythms of self-care, and overcoming the exhaustion of meeting the expectations of others. Kristen talks about her new question: WILL THIS BRING ME STRESS? And Claire gives an update on her new boundaries with a difficult family member.
In this episode we talk about:
- Rhythms of Renewal: Trading Stress and Anxiety for a Life of Peace and Purpose
- RAEN Norie Glasses in Honey
- Dr. Bronner's Bar Soap Peppermint
- Dr. Bronner’s Castille Soap Eucalyptus
- The Skin Saint Detox Mask
- Sleepenvie Matress
Deni Carise, Clinical Psychologist, is helping us make sense of the opioid crisis, and why so many adults are finding themselves addicted to prescription painkillers.
Dr. Carise is the Chief Scientific Officer of Recovery Centers of America (RCA). RCA is dedicated to creating neighborhood-based treatment and recovery campuses that include detoxification, residential and outpatient services. Dr Carise is currently an Adjunct Assistant Professor at the University of Pennsylvania, Perelman School of Medicine. She is also a contributor at The Huffington Post.
In this episode we also discuss:
- Ultima Electolyte Powder
- Abronda Leather Sleeve for Laptop
- Head Leveler Pillow
- Archer Roose’s Wine Spritzers
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It’s our 100th episode!! We are looking back at some of our favorite moments from the show.
In this episode we talk about:
- Charmking Compression Socks
- Heating Pad for Neck and Shoulders
- Family Gratitude Journal
- TrophySkin JeNU Ultrasonic Infuser:
- Laughter yoga in Episode 76 (see the photos here.)
- The pubic hair convo in Episode 6
- Embarrassing hot doctor stories in Episode 30
- Vagifacials with Claire in Episode 23
Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories and clothing that is affordable and sustainable: Shop beautiful, unbranded luxury goods from the same manufacturers as Gucci, Chanel, and Cartier, but without the markup costs of branding. Their in-house design team travels the world sourcing the best manufacturers to create their own originally design products. Italic's supply chain prevents excess inventory so you can feel good and promote sustainability without paying a premium or compromising on quality. Use the code SELFIE for a $15 credit on your first purchase at Italic.com.
Today’s episode is sponsored by LOLA; a female-founded company that offers 100% organic pads, liners, and tamons. Each month, you can customize exactly what you need for your own feminine care. In addition to tampons and liners, Sex by LOLA is a line of gynecologist approved sexual health & wellness products that includes lubricated condoms, personal lubricant and these awesome individually packaged cleansing wipes that you can use anywhere. We have a special offer for you guys - for 30% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter the promo code SELFIE when you subscribe!
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Christine Koh joins us today to talk about how our health insurance, or lack thereof, can thwart our best efforts at self-care, and Kristen gives an update on her recent deviated septum repair and turbinate reduction with Cosmeticare in Newport Beach.
In this episode we talked about:
- Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family Life More by Doing Less
- Edit Your Life
- Josh Rosebrook Serum Spray
- Boxwalla’s October Box with African Botanics Le Masque Hydralift
- BalanceMD Comprehensive Fungal and Yeast Support
- Dr. Hana’s Nasopure The “Nicer Neti Pot”
- Wedge Pillow
Today’s episode is sponsored by LOLA; a female-founded company that offers 100% organic pads, liners, and tamons. Each month, you can customize exactly what you need for your own feminine care. In addition to tampons and liners, Sex by LOLA is a line of gynecologist approved sexual health & wellness products that includes lubricated condoms, personal lubricant and these awesome individually packaged cleansing wipes that you can use anywhere. We have a special offer for you guys - for 30% off all subscriptions, visit mylola.com and enter the promo code SELFIE when you subscribe!
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Dr. Chad Larson, Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine, talks to us about leaky gut, the hidden symptoms of food sensitivities (like skin issues, brain fog, and anxiety) and how to determine if you have sensitivities to certain foods. Dr. Larson has a degree from Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine and a Doctor of Chiropractic degree from Southern California University of Health Sciences, and is on the clinical consulting team for Cyrex Laboratories.
In this episode we talked about:
Cyrex Allergy Testing Boundaries by Cloud and Townsend High on Love Sensual Bath Oil Body Glide Anti-Chafe Anti-Blister Balm MyChelle Sun Sheild Liquid SPF 50 face
Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories and clothing that is affordable and sustainable: Shop beautiful, unbranded luxury goods from the same manufacturers as Gucci, Chanel, and Cartier, but without the markup costs of branding. Their in-house design team travels the world sourcing the best manufacturers to create their own originally design products. Italic’s supply chain prevents excess inventory so you can feel good and promote sustainability without paying a premium or compromising on quality. Use the code SELFIE for a $15 credit on your first purchase at Italic.com.
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Kristen talks with author Heather Hansen about how she learned to stand up and advocate for herself. Heather is an advocacy consultant, author of The Elegant Warrior: How to Win Life's Trials Without Losing Yourself. She’s communicated her way to success as a lawyer, an advocate, and a mediator. Heather draws upon her personal experiences in the courtroom and in life, as well as her psychology degree, to help others learn to advocate for themselves.
In this episode we talked about:
Nespresso VertuoPlus The Elegant Warrior Podcast Amuliss Face Massager and Roller True Foods Cookbook Tranquility Temperature Balancing Weighted Blanket w/ Washable Cover Plant Juice Oils Doze Off Sleep Blend with 50mg CBD Plant Juice Oils Get a Grip Stress Blend with 50mg CBD
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Author Amy Orr shares her experience and research on thriving the midst of chronic pain, and Kristen and Claire talk about the tricky task of differentiating from our teenagers and their emotions.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Taming Chronic Pain: A Management Guide for a More Enjoyable Life
- Untangled
- Beauty Blender
- Naked Foundation
- Beautiac Makeup Brush Refill Subscription
- TerraCycle’s Zero Waste Box Program
- Wink Brow Perfecting Quad
- Flash Eye Lift Serum
Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories and clothing that is affordable and sustainable: Shop beautiful, unbranded luxury goods from the same manufacturers as Gucci, Chanel, and Cartier, but without the markup costs of branding. Their in-house design team travels the world sourcing the best manufacturers to create their own originally design products. Italic’s supply chain prevents excess inventory so you can feel good and promote sustainability without paying a premium or compromising on quality. Use the code SELFIE for a $15 credit on your first purchase at Italic.com.
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Kristen and Christine put on their therapist hats to talk about introversion and self-care. Christine Koh is a former music and brain neuroscientist turned author and blogger. She co-hosts the Edit Your Life Podcast and co-wrote the book Minimalist Parenting.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Humans Exhaust Me t-shirt T25 with Shaun T Plum Beauty Oil * Remake Jean Jacket from REMU apparel * CBD Essence Hemp Oil Capsules
Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories and clothing that is affordable and sustainable: Shop beautiful, unbranded luxury goods from the same manufacturers as Gucci, Chanel, and Cartier, but without the markup costs of branding. Their in-house design team travels the world sourcing the best manufacturers to create their own originally design products. Italic’s supply chain prevents excess inventory so you can feel good and promote sustainability without paying a premium or compromising on quality. Use the code SELFIE for a $15 credit on your first purchase at Italic.com.
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In this episode we talked about:
- Coconu Organic Personal Lubricant – Oil-based Coconu Organic Personal Lubricant – Water-based ColorScience Brush-on Sunscreen It’s Always Sunny Pixel Blue Light Filtering Reader + Px Glasses * TrueDark Twilight Sleep-Hacking Glasses* Affirmators Affirmation Cards Deck
Do you care about what goes in your body? If you do, then it’s time for an organic personal lubricant. Healthy and highly effective, Coconu is the natural way to elevate your lovemaking. And did you know that pure coconut oil and water contain natural anti-bacterial healing properties, so you’re using a natural vaginal moisturizer, which reduces dryness while increasing wetness? In fact, Coconu’s oil-based formula is the only USDA Certified Organic lubricant on the market. Coconu’s products are made with organic coconut oil, organic coconut water, and other natural ingredients including organic beeswax, organic cocoa butter, organic sunflower oil, and organic shea butter. Because when it comes to intimacy, details matter. Learn more at Coconu.com
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Dr. Chad Larson, Doctor of Naturopathic Medicine, talks to us about leaky gut, the hidden symptoms of food sensitivities (like skin issues, brain fog, and anxiety) and how to determine if you have sensitivities to certain foods. Dr. Larson has a degree from Southwest College of Naturopathic Medicine and a Doctor of Chiropractic degree from Southern California University of Health Sciences, and is on the clinical consulting team for Cyrex Laboratories.
In this episode we talked about:
- Cyrex Allergy Testing Continuous Partial Attention * HSI Professional Glider Flat Iron Men’s Fun Dress Socks Conair Flat Iron CLEARstem Non-toxic Acne Treatment* The Feminine Revolution
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling. BetterHelp connects people seeking therapy with professional therapists by video, phone, chat, or even text message sessions. BetterHelp is offering Selfie listeners 10% off their first month with the discount code SELFIE. Go to BetterHelp.com/SELFIE, fill out the questionnaire, and get matched with a professional therapist in as little as a day. That’s BetterHelp dot com slash selfie for 10% off your first month of secure, convenient, professional, and affordable therapy.
Italic is a great way to buy unbranded, high-end purses, accessories and clothing that is affordable and sustainable: Shop beautiful, unbranded luxury goods from the same manufacturers as Gucci, Chanel, and Cartier, but without the markup costs of branding. Their in-house design team travels the world sourcing the best manufacturers to create their own originally design products. Italic’s supply chain prevents excess inventory so you can feel good and promote sustainability without paying a premium or compromising on quality. Use the code SELFIE for a $15 credit on your first purchase at Italic.com.
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Kristen is upping her smoothie game, Claire has some recommendations for better sleep, and we chat with Jennifer Marcenelle, Board-Certified Holistic Nurse and certified Gemstone and Diamond Therapy Practitioner, about the crystals craze, the fascinating science behind gemstone therapy, and how they can help with both physical and mental health.
In this episode we discussed:
- Collagen for Her BetterBody Foods Organic Antioxidant Fruit and Fiber Superfood Blend * BodyBio Balance Oil NodPod Weighted Sleep Mask* Satin Pillowcase by Madison & White * CELLrenew by CLEARstem * Dream It Sleep Spray * Flying Embers | Organic Hard Kombucha
This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp online counseling. BetterHelp connects people seeking therapy with professional therapists by video, phone, chat, or even text message sessions. BetterHelp is offering Selfie listeners 10% off their first month with the discount code SELFIE. Go to BetterHelp.com/SELFIE, fill out the questionnaire, and get matched with a professional therapist in as little as a day.
Birchbox’s revolutionary subscription box makes it easy to discover products you might have never tried before, and if you love them, guess what? Birchbox has an online shop where you can buy the full size of the exact product you just tried. Every month, you’ll receive customized samples to try, or you can opt to have BirchBox pick the product for you. You’ll fill out a quick and easy beauty and grooming profile, answering questions about your skin and hair type, preferences and lifestyle. Birchbox will take your profile into account when curating your box every month-so you know the products are chosen especially for you. With products like MAC, Benefit, Tarte, Kiehl’s, and Harry’s, you are sure to find some of your new favorite products to add to your beauty routine. Go to Birchbox.com/SELFIE and use promo code SELFIE to get $5 off your first Birchbox.
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Stress can wreak havoc on every aspect of our health. We talk with Dr. Nisha Jackson about burnout, what it can do to our body, and how to avoid it.
In this episode we also talked about:
Brilliant Burnout
Black Mesh Packing Cubes
Atomic Habits
The Away Everything Bag
The Gifted School
Rockport Women’s Briah Gladiator Wedge Sandal
Myro is a new natural deodorant made with essential oils that release over time. It’s made to work, and it’s long-lasting, but with no toxic anything. 0% aluminum. 0% parabens. Their ingredients are clinically tested for safety and efficacy. And did we mention it’s a subscription?? Get a refresh every 3 months, delivered straight to your door, conveniently timed for when most people run out. Switch scents, press pause or stop literally anytime you want. It’s refillable cases are good for you and the planet we live on. Because the case is refillable, Myro refills reduce plastic waste by approximately 50% versus typical drugstore deodorants. Myro has a great deal for our listeners today. Get 50% off your first order and get started today for just $5!! Visit mymyro.com/selfie and use promo code SELFIE.
Podcast (selfie): Play in new window | Download Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify From personality to philosophy to affordability, Kristen talks about how to find the right therapist to match your personal needs.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Magnetic makeup palette and Mac singles
- Sun Kissed Shampoo and Conditioner Bars
- Moon Valley Organics, Lotion Bar
- Drunk Elephant Baby Juju + Baby Pekee Bar Soap
- Silicone Travel Bottles
- Blue Shampoo from Matrix
- L’Oreal Serie 10-1 Perfecting Leave In Spray
- Good Dee’s Low-Sugar, Gluten Free desserts
- TechDen Screentime Manager + Device Storage
- Foria 450mg Broad-Spectrum CBD Pen
Sarah and Kristen chat about the new perm trend, and we talk with author Heather Avis about being an ally, encouraging inclusivity, and her new book Scoot Over and Make Some Room: Creating a Space Where Everyone Belongs.
In this episode we also talked about:
GimMe Organic Seaweed Snacks
LivFit Superfoods Antioxidant Fruit and Fiber Blend
Beautycounter Eye Shadow Palette in Romantic
Reversible Faux Leather Tote
Vitamix
Ninja Blender
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CBD is the new activated charcoal. There are tons of promises from lowered anxiety to less inflammation. We dive into the CBD trend, looking at products on the market and talking with a trusted distributor: King Harvest Medical Cannabis Care and Wellness.
In this episode we talked about:
- Swell Skin One and Done Moisturizer
- Honest Company Retinol
- Island’s Premium CBD Pre-Rolls
- Cannovia 1000mg THC-FREE Peppermint Oil Drops
- CBD Essentials Lip Balm
- Elevate CBD Mints
- Elevate CBD Soft Gelcaps
- Elevate CBD Oral Spray:
- CBDistillery CBDol Topical CBD Salve
- Cannovia 500mg Therapeutic Muscle Gel
- Life Elements CD and Honey Rosemary Mint Sugar Scrub
- Life Elements CBD Infused Bath Bombs
- Foria CBD-only Suppository for Pelvic Pain
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Kristen takes listener questions on recovering from affairs, dealing with social anxiety, and knowing when to seperate when living with an addict.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Ere Perez Pressed Translucent Powder
- MudBuster Paw Cleaner
- Modest Mylk
- Conscious Coconut Dry Brush
What Fresh Hell: Laughing in the Face of Motherhood is a podcast hosted by Amy Wilson and Margaret Ables. They are both comedians and moms of three, but that’s where their similarities end. Margaret is laid-back to the max; Amy loves lists, research, and planning ahead. In each episode of “What Fresh Hell” they discuss a parenting issue from their usually-opposite perspectives, plus the accompanying expert advice that may or may not back them up.
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Farting. Queefing. Burping. What is up with the weird noises our body makes, and what can we do about it? We asked you for questions and hit up Dr. Niket Sonpal with all the embarrassing questions we’re not asking our own doctors. In this episode we also talked about:
- Pep Talk Postcard Packet by Emily McDowell & Friends
- Dead to Me on Netflix
- Red and White Polka Dot Dress
- Bamboo Hamper
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Online companies are making birth control more accessible for women. We talk with Alpha Medical’s founder and CEO Gloria Lau and Chief Medical Director Mary Jacobson, MD about telemedicine for common women’s issues. Sarah gives an update on her laser hair removal, Kristen cracks the code on coloring her hair at home, and we discuss the best green shampoos.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Redken Shades EQ Color Gloss Women’s Hair Color, 06t Iron
- Professional Jewelry Cleaner
- The Big Berkey Water Filter (Sarah talks about it here and here.)
- Women’s Short Sleeve Casual Loose Pockets Tie-Belt Dress
- ACURE Simply Smoothing Shampoo, Coconut
- Andalou Sunflower and Citrus Shampoo and Conditioner – Sarah’s very fave!
- True Botanicals Shampoo
- BeautyCounter Volume and Shape Shampoo and Conditioner
Didn’t I Just Feed You?! is a weekly podcast about feeding our families — even for parents who hate to cook. Every week, professional cooks Stacie Billis & Meghan Splawn get real about feeding kids, tweens, and teens. From How to Turn Nachos Into a Family Dinner to The Magic of Meatballs, Solving the After School Snack Problem to Reducing Kitchen Waste and Debt At Once, they chat with guests from Food Network stars Aarti Sequeira and Melissa D’arabian to everyday moms, the real experts, on a mission to make cooking easier, more delicious, and maybe even fun.
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We are all trying to eat better, but doing that with kids can be a challenge. We are chatting with Dr. Julia Nordgren,author of The New Family Table, about how to feed our kids well, and with Stephen Bean, director of Camp New Heights, about how to keep our kids healthy and active.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Keds
- Off Shoulder One Piece Ruffles Bathing Suit
- The New Family Table: Cooking More, Eating Together, and Staying (Relatively) Sane
- Camp New Heights in Santa Barbara, California
- Dermatologist’s Choice Deep Cleansing Facial Mask
- Clayer Green Clay Active Face & Body Mask
- Freegirl Ambitious AHA Gel Mask
- REN Evercalm Ultra Comforting Rescue Mask
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How do we deal with our addiction to screens? Author Brian Solis offer insight into how digital distractions can affect our mental health, and what to do about it. Kristen talks about her latest breast ultrasound, and Sarah espouses the benefits of a girl’s weekend for the soul.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Kimberly Sayer Ultra Light Facial Moisturizer SPF 30
- Lily Lolo Bronzer in Honolulu
- CleverMade SnapBasket Laundry Caddy Pop-Up Hamper
- Brené Brown: The Call to Courage on Netflix
- Lifescale: How to Live a More Creative, Productive, and Happy Life
- The Lifescaling Movement
- Center for Humane Technology
- Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World
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Can parents really be “in the moment”? We’re asking, and also talking with photographer Jeremy Cowart about The Purpose Hotel, the Help-Portrait Movement, and how he stays grounded as a busy professional, philanthropist, and dad of four.
In this episode we talked about:
- I’m Possible: Jumping into Fear and Discovering a Life of Purpose
- Jeremy’s viral video I’m Possible
- The War of Art
- What your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew by Dr. Sharon Saline
- Eco Tan Winter Skin
- Honest Mascara
- Murder Mountain on Netflix
- Shannon Cowart and Nashville On The Move
Myro is a new natural deodorant made with essential oils that release over time. It’s made to work, and it’s long-lasting, but with no toxic anything. 0% aluminum. 0% parabens. Their ingredients are clinically tested for safety and efficacy. And did we mention it’s a subscription?? Get a refresh every 3 months, delivered straight to your door, conveniently timed for when most people run out. Switch scents, press pause or stop literally anytime you want. It’s refillable cases are good for you and the planet we live on. Because the case is refillable, Myro refills reduce plastic waste by approximately 50% versus typical drugstore deodorants. Myro has a great deal for our listeners today. Get 50% off your first order and get started today for just $5! Visit mymyro.com/selfie and use promo code SELFIE.
The star of Netlfix’s series The Kindness Diaries chats with us about what he learned from relying on the kindness of strangers, as well as self-care habits during life on the road. Kristen laments her increasing ovulation pain, and Sarah talked about spring madness and the dash to enroll kids in summer camp.
In this episode we also talked about:
- The Kindness Diaries on Netflix
- Go Be Kind: 28 1/2 Adventures Guaranteed to Make You Happier
- Petit Vour Beauty Box (25% off first box with code WHOORL25)
- Hynt SPF 25 Sun Prep Primer
- Kosmatology Lotion Bars
- Buddha Board Watercolor Art Board
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Claire tries lip filler, Kristen can’t figure out how to travel without stress, and we chat with author David Essel about how only focusing on the positive things in life can actually lead to negative things, and how leaning into our struggles can be a path to healing.
In this epsiode we also talked about:
- The skincare fridge
- Primally Pure Non-Toxic Skin Care Products (use the promo code selfieclaire for a discount!)
- Island Citrus Artisan Soap from SoapCreek
- I.C.O.N. India Hair Oil
- Positive Thinking Will Never Change Your Life But This Book Will
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Aileen wrote a viral post about the surprises your body has in store in your 40’s, and we are talking about it. We also discuss Kristen’s insomnia, Sarah’s live music bender, and the best essential oil sprays for a better mood.
In this episode we talked about:
This Is What No One Tells Women About What Happens To Your Body In Your 40s
Spray the Bitch Away Spray
Tired Old Ass Energizing Spray
Electric Milk Frother and Warmer
Amazon Essentials Cotton Bikini Panty
FOND Bone Broth Tonics
Aileen Weintraub
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It’s Claire’s first week as co-host! We are talking body image in our 40’s. Kristen chats with author Richard Watts about the tricky task of letting our kids fail, and we sing the praises of the air fryer.
In this episode we talked about:
Entitlemania: How Not to Spoil Your Kids, and What to Do If You Have
Mario Badescu Rose Spray
Fiddle Leaf Tree
Air Fryer
Richard Watts
Fables of Fortune: What Rich People Have That You Don’t Want
Art of Sport Deodorant
Buffy makes comforters that are better for you and the earth, using skin-friendly eucalyptus fabric and fluffy fill made from 100% recycled water bottles. Buffy’s hypoallergenic materials shut out dust, mold and mites – preventing nighttime breathing of harmful allergens. The inside fill of each comforter is made from 100% recycled, bpa-free water bottles that are transformed and given a second life as a soft, fluffy fiber. Buffy believes bedding is personal, so they offer a complimentary trial. Try a comforter in your own home for 30-days. If you don’t love it, return it free! For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter the promo code SELFIE.
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We are taking reader questions and Sarah has an announcement! We’re talking haircuts: how to find the right stylist and how to ask for the right haircut for your face shape. We are also divulging our experiences with CBD products and even medical cannabis to address anxiety. Kristen chats a bit about self-care and dating for single moms, and we talk silicone pads for wrinkle reduction.
In this episode we also talked about:
Eucalypso organic eucalyptus pillowcases for better skin
Edge Sugar-Free Dark Chocolate sweetened with stevia and 35 calories per bar
CBDistillery CBD topical patches
Wrinkles Schminkles silicone smoothing chest pad
Meli’s Monster Cookies – the best gluten-free cookies ever
Puppies for Dummies
Cow Ears (gross)
Bull Sticks (even more gross)
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Sarah is back to report on laughing yoga, Kristen is in a prison of book deadlines, and we both detail our favorite Trader Joe’s foods. Judge if you want but we consider Trader Joe’s one of our top self-care destinations, because they make eating healthy so easy. This is not an ad . . . we are just really excited about TJ’s, and today we are sharing our favorite products that help us feed ourselves well.
In this episode we mentioned:
Laughing Yoga
Slain in the Spirit laughter
Revlon One-Step Hair Dryer and Volumizer
Go Macro Vegan Protein Bars
The True Cost
Everlane
Krochet Kids
Clear Cosmetics Organizer
Magnesium Gummies
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We’re talking anxiety, and how to deal with it, with our friend and comic Amy Estes. In this episode, we talked about:
Amy Estes Comedy
Amy’s Newsletter
Revlon Blow Dry Brush
Kindle Paperwhite
A Discovery Witches Trilogy
NY Times article on teens
Over My Dead Body
The Rain of Self-Compassion Meditation
Bed Head Curlipops Curling Wand
Forget “Having It All”: How America Messed Up Motherhood–and How to Fix It
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Kristen took the Genesight test to help her chose the right anxiety med, and we chat about this test and what other things it can test for. We also talk about our favorite do-from-home workout routines. In this episode we mentioned:
- Genesight
- PEN15
- A Discovery of Witches:
- SweetLeaf WaterDrops, Peach Mango
- Dell UltraSharp 24-inch Widescreen Monitor
- Reform and Run at Beyond Studios OKC
- Yoga with Adriene
- Tone it Up App
- Jillian Micheals 30 Day Shred
- Just Dance
- African Dance Workout with Debra Bono
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We are answering listener questions this week on everything from divorced mom overwhelm to green beauty retinols.
In this episode we also talked about:
Sarah’s Favorite Green Beauty Retinols
Handheld Milk Frother
Babyganics Flushable Baby Wipes Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert
Philips Viva Collection Soup Maker
Buffy makes comforters that are better for you and the earth, using skin-friendly eucalyptus fabric and fluffy fill made from 100% recycled water bottles. Buffy’s hypoallergenic materials shut out dust, mold and mites – preventing nighttime breathing of harmful allergens. The inside fill of each comforter is made from 100% recycled, bpa-free water bottles that are transformed and given a second life as a soft, fluffy fiber. Buffy believes bedding is personal, so they offer a complimentary trial. Try a comforter in your own home for 30-days. If you don’t love it, return it free! For $20 off your Buffy comforter, visit Buffy.co and enter the promo code SELFIE.
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As a mom, learning to delegate can be an important aspect of self-care. There are a number of reasons moms can feel overwhelemd and yet at the same time, struggle to hand over household tasks to the kids. We are talking about our best strategies to help involve kids in the care and keeping of the home they live in. Sarah also gives an update on her aura photography, and Kristen talks about her ongoing insomnia issues.
In this episode we also talked about:
- Honest Beauty Makeup
- Little Girls Seamless Socks
- Amazon Essentials Women’s Cotton Stretch Hi-Cut Brief Panty
- Dax Shepard’s Armchair Expert
In this episode, we are talking about all of favorite body products . . . from body washes to bath salts, from legs to lady bits.
In this episode we discussed:
Body Moisturizers:
- Acure Everyday Eczema Lotion
- Beautycounter Countermatch Adaptive Moisture Lotion
- Osmia Sandalwood Mousse
- HEMPZ Pure Herbal Extract Original Body Moisturizer
- Love Beauty and Planet Coconut Water & Mimosa Flower Body Lotion
- Acure Captivating Coconut Light Body Oil
Body Washing/shaving armpits:
- SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Face & Body Bar
- Antifungal Tea Tree Oil Body Wash
- Osmia Soap in Oh So, Coffee Mint
- Beautycounter Citrus Mimosa Body Wash
- Beautycounter Citrus Mimosa Body Bar
- Trader Joe’s Oatmeal Body Bar
- Kaia Naturals Deodorant Booster Bar
Shaving legs:
- EO Essentials All Natural Shower Gel, Mint and Citrus
- Dr. Bronner’s Pure Castile Soap
- SheaMoisture Coconut & Hibiscus Body Wash
- Kiss My Face Moisture Shave
Washing your lady bits:
- Rael Natural Feminine Cleansing Wash – For Sensitive Skin
Chest:
- Sio pads
Deodorant:
- Vapour AER Deodorant in Ginger Grapefruit
- Schmidt’s Deodorant Stick in Lily of the Valley or Charcoal Magnesium
Bath:
- Dead Sea Mineral Salt Bath in Lavendar and Eucalytus
- Colloidal Oatmeal
- Osmia Recovery Salt Bath
Super Dry Skin:
- Weleda Skin Food
For problem patches:
- Tea Tree Oil
- Hemp Seed Oil
- Odacite Serum Concentrate for Pimples
- Odacite Serum Concentrate for Clogged Pores
Hand soap:
- Mrs. Meyer’s Liquid Hand Soap
- Method Free and Clear Hand Soap
For dry hands:
- Burt’s Bees Almond & Milk Hand Cream
- Weleda Skin Food
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Low sex drive . . . it seems to be a thing that affects many women from time to time. But how do you know when it’s really a problem? We are talking about Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder, the medical condition that many women (and even doctors) are not familiar with, and why the Right to Desire Campaign wants to get the word out. We also talk about what couples can do when their appetites for sex don’t match up, and how women who want to boost their sex drive can seek help.
In this episode we mention:
- Jus by Julie (use that link for 40% off your first order)
- Maya Chia Supercritical Chia Oil
- The “Vampire Facial” (microneedling with PRP) at Cosmeticare
- Suki Exfoliate Cleanser
- Cupping for low back pain
- Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder
- Homecoming on Amazon
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Three books from past guests:
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Brave Love: Making Space for You to be You by Lisa Leonard
- Buy the Change You Want to See: Use Your Purchasing Power to Make the World a Better Place by Jane Mosbacher Morris and Wendy Paris
- Stretched Too Thin: How Working Moms Can Lose the Guilt, Work Smarter, and Thrive by Jessica Turner is $1.99 on Kindle
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From her bestselling book to the new Netflix show, Marie Kondō’s methods for decluttering have swept the nation . . . but they’ve also received some criticism. We are talking about the pros and cons of the KonMari Method, what we’ve tried and what has challenged us, and why we think you should read the book anyway. Kristen also talks about getting the “vampire facial” (microneedling with PRP) at Cosmeticare and Sarah ponders eyelid surgery as her lids are starting to affect her vision.
In this episode, we talked about: The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing Microneedling
Revlon Hair Dryer Brush Combo
Summer’s Eve Cleansing Cloths
Kindle Paperwhite
Rahua Amazon Oil
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Kristen chats with her friends Sarah Bessey, Jen Hatmaker,Tara Livesay, Jamie Wright, and Sarah Goodfellow about how to go deeper in friendships. This tribe of friends gathers every year for an annual “cheerleading and ass-kicking” retreat. They talked about their friendship origin story at their gathering last year (check out The Friendship Episode: Selfie, Episode 21) and it was one of our most popular episodes. They are talking this year about how to strengthen vulnerability and intimacy in friendships.
If you enjoyed this conversation you might appreciate the books written by these ladies:
- For the Love by Jen Hatmaker
- Out of Sorts by Sarah Bessey
- The Very Worst Missionary by Jamie Wright
- Of Mess and Moxie by Jen Hatmaker
- Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey
In this episode we also talked about:
- Sarah got a dog.
- Kristen does not understand coat racks.
- Revlon Hair Dryer Brush Combo
- Summer’s Eve Cleansing Cloths
- Kindle Paperwhite
- Rahua Amazon Oil
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Hangxiety: it’s a thing. We’re talking about the science behind the drinking/anxiety connection. Sarah talks about her resolution success and almost ruining Santa, and Kristen gives an update on going to Tokyo with four kids.
Wanna ask a question “on the air”? Leave us a message, question, or advice query and we will feature it on the show. Go to our Speakpipe page and talk to us!
In this episode we mentioned:
- Amazon’s archive feature
- Circe (a novel based on greek mythology)
- The Gleener Ultimate Fuzz Remover
- AOS Natural Deodorant for Men (made with matcha, also great body wash and soap)
- Instacart Grocery Delivery (use that link for $10 off)
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Articles on hangxiety:
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Who is Most Likely to Experience ‘Hangxiety?’
- Hangover Anxiety: Why You Get ‘Hangxiety’ After a Night of Drinking
- Alcohol & Panic Attacks – How Alcohol Abuse Can Worsen Anxiety
- Drinking to Calm Your Nerves Might Just Make Your Anxiety Worse
Want more resources for moderating your drinking? Check out our full episode on this topic.
Make sure to join our facebook community! It’s a supportive and active group that is always diviing into something interesting. This week we talked about bras for teens, dealing with a passive aggressive mother-in-law, product management apps, estranged family relationships, creative ideas for ladies night in, online mental health, and CBD oil for anxiety.
Outdoor Voices designs gear for Doing Things, being active and having fun. Whether you’re hoping to add versatile pieces to your wardrobe or looking for an activity- specific collection like running shorts, Outdoor Voices has gear for everything. We have a great deal for you – For 20% off your first order of $100 or more, visit OutdoorVoices.com/outdoorselfie and enter the promo code OUTDOORSELFIE.
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We are chatting with Kevin Garcia about self-care, crystals, emotional attunement, tarot cards, spirituality, serums, and makeup. Kevin is a speaker, creative, musician, and host of the podcast, A Tiny Revolution. He is also a fierce advocate of LGBT rights and while he’s got a woo-woo side (he’s a fan of tarot cards and crystals) he is also pursuing a Masters of Divinity from Columbia Theological Seminary. He’s smart, interesting, and thoughtful, and he can also rock a red lip better than we can. We loved chatting with him about all aspects of self-care.
In this episode we talked about:
- The Wild Unknown Tarot Deck and Guidebook
- Inner Goddess Cards
- Rumi Oracle Cards
- Crystal Box for Relaxation, Stress Relief, Anxiety, and Sleep
- Cosmeticare Botox Injections
- Beautycounter eyebrow pencils
- Beautycounter eyeshadow palettes
- Cerave Face Wash
- Beautycounter No. 1 Oil
- Beautycounter Countermatch Adaptive Moisture Lotion
- Manny Mua makeup tutorials
- Kameron Michaels makeup tutorials
- NYX Slip Tease Full Color Lip Stain
- NYX Matte Lipstick
- Overtone Pigmented Conditioner
- Ryan Beatty music
- Queerly Beloved T-Shirt Shop
Gixo is on a mission to make great, live workouts accessible to everyone so that we all live longer, healthier lives. They have live and on-demand workouts that you can access on your phone 24/7. It’s designed for busy schedules with 15, 25 or 40-minute workout classes, and they’ve got everything from walking, strength training, yoga and pilates. They want fitness to be accessible, so memberships start at $14.99/mo (billed at $179.99/year) or $19.99/mo. You can download the app and create an account to start a 7-day free trial, and use code SELFIE to save 20% off either an annual or month-to-month membership.
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New Year’s Resolutions? Word for the year? Setting intentions? Or just skipping it? Sarah and Kristen chat about how they are approaching the new year and what (if any) resolutions they have for themselves.
In this episode we talked about:
Barefoot Dreams Robe
Tarte Shape Tape Concealer
Shortcake Albums
American Biotech Silver Gel
Gixo is on a mission to make great, live workouts accessible to everyone so that we all live longer, healthier lives. They have live and on-demand workouts that you can access on your phone 24/7. It’s designed for busy schedules with 15, 25 or 40-minute workout classes, and they’ve got everything from walking, strength training, yoga and pilates. They want fitness to be accessible, so memberships start at $14.99/mo (billed at $179.99/year) or $19.99/mo. You can download the app and create an account to start a 7-day free trial, and use code SELFIE to save 20% off either an annual or month-to-month membership.
Care/Of is a monthly subscription vitamin service made from effective, quality ingredients personally tailored to your exact needs. For 25% off your first month of personalized care/of vitamins, visit takecareof.com and enter the promo code SELFIE.
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While holiday stress may be peak #firstworldproblems, it’s also a very real phenomenon for many of us. Between school commitments, trying to be extra at buying the most meaningful gifts, maintaining boundaries with difficult relatives and overscheduling woes, Kristen and Sarah are sharing how they are keeping themselves sane this season.
In this episode we talked about:
- Lisa Eldridge makeup videos
- Sarah’s Happy Holidays playlist on Spotify
- Travel Cable Organizer
- DevaCurl Wavemaker Texture Whip
- If it makes you yell, it’s a no.
Sarah’s holiday stress meditations:
This holiday season may I see the joys in front of me, big or small
May I have the strength to rest when I need rest
May I be kind to myself and others if things are not perfect
May I offer myself love and care
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We are sharing our favorite subscription boxes, from beauty products to clothing to meal kits. Kristen shares an update on minisculpting her chin with Cosmeticare and Sarah laments her shaving woes and the cold weather that is thwarting her walking routine.
In this episode we talked about:
- David’s Tea Advent Calendar
- Youth Baseball Cotton Ball Caps
- Osmia Sandalwood Mousse
Here are some of our favorite subscription boxes:
Beauty Products:
- Beauty Heroes
- Petit Vour
- Boxwalla
Cleaning Products:
- Mighty Fix
Monthly instagram printed photobooks
- Chatbooks
Razors:
- Angel Shave Club
Food:
- HelloFresh
- Sunbasket
- Daily Harvest
Clothing:
- Stitchfix
- Trunk Club
- Amazon Subscribe and Save
Global goods and gifts that give back:
- CauseBox
- GlobeIn
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We’re talking about great gifts for husbands, boyfriends, dads, grandparents, coaches and kids . . . as well as some items you might want to put on your own wishlist. We’ve got recommendations on travel, books, candles, and skincare stuff, as an assortment of unique gifts for the younger set.
FOR MEN
Travel
The ABLE Alem leather passport holder is a great gift for anyone who travels a lot, and it’s made by artisans in Ethiopia who are earning a fair wage.
Pinch Provisions Travel Set has everything you could need in a tiny little bag. It’s great for emergencies or to have on hand in case your luggage was lost.
The Herschel Backpack is a classic. It’s canvas with leather straps and a simple, masculine vibe.
Away has the perfect gift for everyone on your list because they make suitcases for the way we all actually travel, with features like an ejectable TSA-approved battery or a built-in front pocket, and they come in a range of colors and materials to suit your travel style. Also, every suitcase comes with a 100-day trial that gives you plenty of time to decide on the perfect size and color—which also means you can gift with confidence. For $20 off a suitcase, visit awaytravel.com/selfie and use promo code SELFIE during checkout.
Tech
Who doesn’t love a Roku stick? It can turn any tv into a smart tv, and gives access to Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Prime, and more. It’s a great option for cutting cable, and a perfect gift for young adults.
A Home Movie Projector is a fun gift to turn your living room into a big-screen movie room, and for only $62 it’s a lot of wow factor for not a lot of money.
For anyone who has multiple tech devices this Eco Bamboo Charging Station is a great way to charge multiple devices at once without cords getting tangled, and the bamboo gives it a softer look so your charging station isn’t an eyesore.
The Amazon Echo is a great gift for anyone. It can play your morning news, operate your Sonos speakers, keep your shopping list up to date – both of us have these in every room.
For the person who is constantly losing their keys . . . the Tile Mate Key Finder is a practical and thoughtful gift, especially for dads.
Clothing
Patagonia has great jackets and puffers and we love their environmental impact: with the 10 million tax credit it received from the Trump administration, they donated all of it to non-profit environmental groups!
Krochet Kids is one of our favorite companies because their sewing program empowers at-risk women in Uganda and Peru. They have a great collection of cozy beanies and super-soft t-shirts for men.
Home/Games
This Cork Desktop Globe allows you to put pins into the cork to mark places you’ve been or bucket-list destinations.
This Hookey Ringtoss Game is a great alternative to a dart set.
Designed to look like a Marshall guitar amp, the Marshall Kilburn Bluetooth Speaker i...
We’re talking about great gifts for friends, for your sisters and moms, and for teachers . . . as well as some items you might want to put on your own wishlist. We’ve got recommendations on self-care gifts, cookbooks, candles, and skincare stuff, as well as gifts that give back.
Beauty/Self-Care
Kosas is one of Sarah’s favorite green beauty brands and their Weightless Lip Color Trio is made from moisturizing ingredients like mango seed butter and jojoba oil. This set of three neutral everyday colors is $58. You can see all of the Kosas lip colors on Sarah here.
AHAVA’s Purifying Mud Mask is made of real mud from the Dead Sea, the most mineral-rich mud on earth. It detoxifies but also makes skin softer, and it’s great for all skin types. It’s also free from parabens, petroleum, animal-sourced ingredients, mineral oil, SLS/SLES, and phlathates.
Osmia makes incredible handmade soaps and their Simple Gift set for just $28 includes their best-selling Lip Doctor, your choice of one of their handcrafted soaps in fun scents like Lavender Pine or Citrus Pearl, and a soap saver to keep your soap from getting gummy. It’s. a great “gateway” gift for someone who’s trying to use fewer chemicals.
SheaMoisture’s Coconut & Hibiscus Hand/Body Scrub smells like a dream, makes your skin super soft, and is made of all-natural ingredients.
At only $9 a jar, it’s a great teacher gift or stocking stuffer.
MUN’s Travel Set is a great way to try the full line of this organic, 100% natural beauty line for $75. If you are wanting to change up your skincare to something clean and luxurious this is a perfect introduction. It comes with a cleanser, toner, moisturizer, body serum, and argan oil.
A jade roller is a great item for encouraging the relaxing self-care routine of facial rolling. It feels luxurious but Amazon’s $16 real jade version, which includes a gua sha scraping tool, doesn’t break the bank.
Personalized
A Personalized Address Stamp is a great, practical gift for just about anyone. Amazon has cute fonts and designs for around $30.
Make someone a surprise photo book by downloading their facebook or instagram photos and creating a book for them on Shutterfly (photobooks are currently 50% off.) You can use a chrome extension like DownAlbum to stealthily grab photos from the social accounts of loved ones to make sure it’s a surprise.
Home
Capri Blue candles in Volcano scent poured into Mercury glass $19-40
Bisby Holiday Candles are hand-poured in Oklahoma with natural soy wax, chemical-free fragrance oil, and recyclable packaging. The new holiday line is only $12 per candle.
Cookbooks
Danielle Walker’s Eat What You Love: : Everyday Comfort Food You Crave; Gluten-Free,
Kristen discusses going off Cymbalta, Sarah shares about posting about herself in a bra, and we discuss our rules around what we post (and won’t post) on social media.
This week we talked about:
- Athleta Primaloft Tights
- Nude Slim Fit Layering Tees
- Schitt’s Creek
- Capri Blue Alpine Juniper Candle
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We are talking favorite organizational tips, from keeping our calendars in order to remembering what we need to buy.
In this episode we talk about:
- The Saalt Menstrual Cup
- Brooklinen Sheets and Duvet Covers
- Aila Nail Polishes
- Minted Holiday Card Address Printing
- Eighth Grade
- Amazon Subscribe and Save
- Google Calendar
- Google Keep
- Voxer
- TripIt
- Amazon Alexa’s Shopping List
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Kristen gets her hair done and ponders why she struggles with upkeep, Sarah tries a facial toning deice, and we talk daily rituals – the things we do (or try to do) to start our day well, and the processes that help us unwind.
In this episode we talked about:
- NuFace facial toning device
- Rika Ultrasonic Pore Cleanser
- Lisa Eldridge
- B Unique Purple Shampoo
- Salt Fat Acid Heat – samin nosrat
- The Man in The High Castle – dystopian drama
- Three Identical Strangers
- The Simple Habit app
- The Alexa Dot morning brief
- Sugar Cookie Sleigh Ride tea
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Lisa Leonard talks with us about how she tries to make space every day to listen to her own thoughts, the psychological pull of “scrolling” and how she sets intentions around it, and how she is learning to identify her own needs and speak them out loud. Lisa has done some deep work into her own emotional triggers and shares that as well. We learned a lot from her!
In this episode we also talked about:
- Brave Love: Making Space for You to Be You
- Lisa Leonard Designs
- Breathwork
- Petit Vour Clean Beauty Sample Subscription
- Vintage PJ set from J Crew
- Nom Nom Box snacks from around the world on Amazon
- Worldwide Treats
- 60 Days In
- Survivors Workshop at The Meadows
- Martha Stewart’s instagram food photos
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Casey Brown shares vulnerably about the realities of self-care as a trans person, from being misgendered to the struggle of public bathrooms, as well as some of the unique learnings about skincare, shaving, and more as they began hormone therapy last year. We learned a lot from Casey and hope you will give a listen to understand more about the realities of trans people and how to be an ally.
In this episode we talked about:
- Birch Box for Men
- Sprezza Box
- MeUndies
- Self-harm rates among trans people
- George
- Red: A Crayon Story
- Judith Blackstone
- Lypo-Spheric Vitamin C
- LL Bean House Slippers
- Zincuta Skin Ointment
- Ginger Rescue – Chewable Ginger Tablets
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\ In this episode we are talking about our very favorite cleaning products for our homes, with an emphasis on non-toxic products, products that are easy for adults AND kids to use, and products that reduce waste.
Kitchen:
- Mrs. Meyers All-Purpose Cleaner (now in concentrate), basil, orange clove, pine, radish
- Method Dish Soap – Free and Clear
- Mrs. Meyers Dish Soap
- Seventh Generation Lemon Dishwasher Liquid
- Seventh Generation Dishwasher Detergent Packs
- Mrs. Meyers Hand Soap (subscribe and save 3 for under $8)
- Method Hand Wash – Free and Clear
Laundry:
- Method Concentrated Laundry Pump
- Method Free & Clear Laundry packs
- Seventh Generation Ultra Power Plus Detergent Packs – Citrus scent
- The Laundress Detergent for linens, scented with essential oils
- Wool Dryer Balls
Flooring:
- Aunt Fanny’s Vinegar Floor Wash
- Old School Squeeze Mop
- Dyson Cordless Stick Vacuum
- Folex Rug Cleaner
Special Jobs:
- Magic Eraser
- Goo Gone
TWO THUMBS UP
- Amazon Prime Wardrobe
- Floss Sticks
- Prologue at Target
- Aquis Hair Turban
- Down Alternative Pillows
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In this episode, we talked about:
Amazon Wardrobe
Educated (Large Print Edition)
Jedidiah’s instagram series about diversity
21 Lessons for the 21st Century
Meditation with the Simple Habit app
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Sarah visited a psychic medium and got some surprising results. Kristen has the sinking feeling she might have an adult-onset caffeine allergy. And the girls talk with Lisa Gungor about her new book The Most Beautiful Thing I’ve Seen.
In this episode we talked about:
The Worry Trick: How Your Brain Tricks You into Expecting the Worst and What You Can Do About It
Daily Harvest – get three free cups with this link!
Purely Northwest Antifungal Tea Tree Oil Body Wash
Digestive Enzymes
Rumi Oracle Cards
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Sarah has her aura read, and the girls have a chat with Barret Ward, founder of FashionABLE, about their radical new reporting system – AccountABLE. Fashion has a dirty secret: the products we enjoy are most often made by women who can’t meet their basic needs. Barrett is trying to change that by publishing the wages of everyone in the chain of making a product, and encouraging other companies to do the same.
Barrett is offering 20% off your first ABLE purchase with the code SELFIE at livefashionable.com. How cool is that?! The code is valid for a one-time use per customer through December 26, 2018.
In this episode we talked about:
True Cost on Netflix
Enlightened Sea Salt Roasted Fava Beans
Chenille Sitting Ball Chair
The Female Brain
MUN Aman Moisturizer (get 15% off with code WHOORL)
Female Brain Gone Insane: An Emergency Guide For Women Who Feel Like They Are Falling Apart
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Is Botox safe to use? Does dairy truly cause acne and do you really need to wash your face every day? These questions plus a great discussion on embracing aging with Dr. Sarah Villafranco, a former ER doc turned artisan soap maker. (The most gorgeous soaps you’ve ever seen, by the way.) Also, Kristen ponders trying fillers for her furrowed brow, and Sarah discusses her new at-home laser tool.
In this episode we talked about: Osmia Organics
SmoothSkin Gold IPL Permanent Hair Reduction Laser
Cosmeticare
Silicone Wine Glasses
Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist
Suki Skincare Line
Essentialism by Greg McKeown
Beauty Heroes
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Kristen and Sarah talk about their shared sensitivity to bad lighting, their indigestion woes, and their hot take on the proliferation of g-strings at the beach this summer. They also interview Jessica Turner, author of the new book Stretched Too Thin, on self-care for working moms and how to kick the mom guilt.
In this episode we talk about:
The Highly Sensitive Person
Tara Whitney Photography
FODMAP’s
Thrive Market (get $25 off your first order through this link)
Gin Gin Ginger candies
Tessemae’s Salad Dressing (Organic Zesty Ranch)
Sleeping at Last Podcast enneagram series
An American Marriage
The Heart’s Invisible Furies: A Novel
North of Normal
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We are answering questions from listeners today on everything from how we met, what our dream enneagram number would be, and how we handle the balance of private/public life.
This week we talked about:
Little Feminist Puzzle
BeatsX Wireless In-Ear Headphones
Native’s Activated Charcoal Deodorant
Bodum Iced Coffee Maker
Our old series Mama Said on Babble
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Claire Boyce, Kristen’s neighbor and our resident oversharing aesthetician, is here to tell us about the wacky world of yoni eggs, and the difference between microplaning and dermarolling. (Hint: one involves a super-sharp razor and the other, a million tiny needles on your face.) Who’s excited?
In this episode we talk about:
Derma Roller Cosmetic Needling Instrument For Face .25mm
Jade Yoni Eggs
Exfoliating Dermaplaning Tool
Jade Face Roller
Gua Sha Face Scraper
Cooling Ice Facial Roller
The Marco Polo app
Bite Beauty Agave Lip Mask
Hanging Toiletry Bag
CHI Magnified Volume Finishing Spray
Throat Coat Tea by Traditional Medicinals
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Both Kristen and Sarah have been frank about their struggles with anxiety, and they are chatting with author Amanda Stern, who wrote a memoir about her own struggles.
In this episode we talked about: Little Panic: Dispatches from an Anxious Life by Amanda Stern PROBIOGEN Stress & Mood Balance Probiotic Farmhouse Fresh Face Masks
Dinner: Changing the Game Cookbook by Melissa Clark
Madewell Whisper Crewneck Muscle Tank
The Worry Cure
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Sarah saw a hypnotherapist. Kristen went to a faith healer. One of us has had her colon roto-routed. We are talking about the most wacky and woo-woo things we’ve done in the pursuit of better health. In this episode we talked about:
- EMDR
- Coffee Enemas
- Love Real Food Cookbook
- Alexa Fire Stick
- IV Therapy
- Aunt Fannies Vinegar Wash Floor Cleaner Mint
- Old-School Mops
- Dreampad Bluetooth Speaker Pillow
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We’re talking about drinking and when to know when it’s a problem with Kerry Cohen, author of Lush: A Memoir. Many of us like a glass of wine or two to wind down at the end of the day, and there is a preponderance of cultural references to women and drinking as a kind of social contract. Kerry helps us unpack that messy middle between healthy drinking and full-blown addiction.
In this episode we talked about:
Lush: A Memoir Facial Ice Roller Shiatsu Pillow Massager Wireless Bluetooth Karaoke Microphone Sharpie Ultra Fine Point Retractable Permanent Markers Wild Goose Festival Garbage Oprah
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We are talking favorite bras – from everyday t-shirt bras to strapless to sexy bralettes. Here are some of our faves:
Everyday Bras
Natori Women’s Hidden Glamour Full-Fit Contour Underwire Bra (best brand for small ribcage)
Natori Women’s Pure Luxe Custom-Coverage Contour Bra
Warner’s No Side Effects
Maidenform Women’s Pure Genius Racerback Bra
Chantelle Le Marais Lace Demi Bra
Wireless/ Bralettes:
Lively Bralettes – use code LIVELYREP_SARAH for $10 off your order
Lively The All-Day No-Wire Push-Up
Yianna Deep V Lace Bralette
Strapless Bras:
Lilyette by Bali Women’s Tailored Minimizer Bra
Simlu Women’s Stretch Layer Seamless Strapless Bandeau Top Tube Bra
B.tempt’d by Wacoal Strapless Bra
Tween/First Bras:
ToBeInStyle Girl’s Pack of 6 Seamless Solid Print
We also discussed:
Gillerman Organics Tension Remedy
Madewell Straw Hat
Birkenstock Women’s Gizeh Metallic Copper EVA Sandals
Made Good Granola Minis
Young Woodworkers kits make it easy for kids aged 7-12 to become makers and builders with their woodworking subscription kits. We’ve partnered with Young Woodworkers to offer big savings on your first shipment. You’ll pay only $9.99 plus postage and processing for the first kit — a 50% discount! Head to youngwoodworkers.com/selfie to subscribe and get our special deal.
Intelliwhite is a smart whitening system that can lighten your teeth by 6 shades via a gel and blue light combo, creating a chemical reaction called “photocatalytic conversion.” If you want to whiten your teeth dramatically it’s a great company to try, because they have a 30 day 100% money back guarantee. Check out Intelliwhite’s Cool Blue Whitening Kit at shopintelliwhite.com and use the code selfie for 10% off!
From visible panty lines to the joy and pain of g-strings, we are talking all things underwear, including our favorite everyday panties and what we wear under yoga pants and skirts.
In this episode we discussed:
Hesta Women’s Organic Cotton Bikini Panties Underwear
Hanky Panky Low-Rise Thongs
Vanity Fair String Bikini Panties
Barelythere Women’s Microfiber Full Brief Panty
Stitchfix for Kids
Guize Face Contour/Highlighter
Prana Shala Pant
Short Sleeve Organic PJ Set for Girls
Maya Chia Highlight of the Day in Afternoon Delight
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The quest to be tan can be a problematic one, and yet many Caucasian folks can feel the pressure as summer approaches. We explore both the dangers and benefits of “getting some sun” as well as our own ambivalence, and we also share some of our favorite less toxic sunscreens and sunless tanning products.
In this episode we talked about:
Amazon Strapless Bandeau Bra 4 Pack Dyson V6 Origin Cordless Stick Vacuum, White MUJI makeup organizers Gua Sha Tool Coola Unscented Matte Tint SPF 30, Hynt Sun Prep 25 Beautycounter CounterSun Spray and Lotion Alba Botanica Sun Spray Kids Spf 40 Sun Bum Clear Zinc Oxide Sunscreen Lotion SPF 50 1 oz. Jar Sun Bum Original Moisturizing Sunscreen Spray
How do you help a friend struggling with suicide? What are the warning signs? And how do you get help if you are feeling thoughts of your own? We talk with trauma-informed life coach BJ Hickman about the myths, the causes, and the warning signs, and how to increase empathy and understanding around suicide.
In this episode we discussed:
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 Yuzu Soaps Lavender/Orange Bath Fizz Set Cest Moi Clean Makeup for Teens Evening Primrose Oil Aroma Rice Cooker with Stainless Steel Insert
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We’ve got an entire episode dedicated to talking about books! From self-help to escape reads, we share our favorites. Kristen also shares about her Moment app moment of truth, and Sarah shares about her foray into allergy testing and dealing with migraines.
In this episode we talk about:
Organic Cotton Adjustable Spa Towel Oona PMS Tablets Sipp Organic Sparkling Soda Shea Moisture Organic Coconut & Hibiscus Soap
And now on to the books we recommend!
The Untethered Soul
The Complete Enneagram
No More Dirty Looks
So Sad Today
The War of Art
The Language of Letting Go
We are chatting with Jamie Wright, author of the new book The Very Worst Missionary, about her experience uprooting her family to Costa Rica, the trials of finding healthcare when you don’t speak the language, an unfortunate incident of sitting in monkey pee, and what Jamie learned about how (and how not) to help others.
Sarah also discusses smudging her new house with sage, and Kristen reveals concerns around her recent mammogram results.
In this episode we also talk about:
Calm Magnesium Gummies Wool Dryer Balls Suki Exfoliate Foaming Cleanser Suki Care Active Daily Regimen Mini Kit Big Heart Tea Co. Yllo Mask with Tumeric Coastal.com $35 Glasses Sarah’s updated skincare post
We’re chatting with Jenny McQuaile, Director/Producer of the documentary Straight/Curve which takes aim at the lack of body diversity in the fashion industry. We’re also lamenting the madness of the last few weeks of our kids in school, and Sarah bids farewell to her beloved rice cooker.
In this episode we talk about:
Sarah’s recent reading of Daily Rituals: How Artists Work Honest Beauty Truly Lush Mascara The Arlo Security System that Kristen installed in her house The beauty of a Keyless Coded Deadbolt
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We’re talking home design with Gabrielle Blair, the force behind Design Mom, and how design can be a form of self-care, with a few tips for creating a zen space that makes you feel good. Kristen shares about her new weighted blanket obsession and Sarah recounts an embarrassing encounter with a few of our listeners!
In this episode we talked about:
- Design Mom’s book
- Altitude Summit
- Patti and Ricky weighted blankets
- Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng
- Suki Exfoliate Cleanser
- Digestive Advantage Probiotic Gummies Plus Fiber
Also, don’t forget to join us on our facebook community page where we are having all kinds of discussions, from night sweats to kids and screentime to dealing with imposter syndrome.
We chat with Karen Walrond on how to cultivate healthy friendships, Kristen divulges her goal to stop multitasking, and Sarah shares about her new meditation journey.
Check out Karen Walrond’s podcast Make Light on our own Life, Listened network!
Prep Dish is a healthy subscription-based meal planning service that sends you an email every week with a grocery list and instructions for prepping your meals ahead of time. The meals are delicious and give you the choice of gluten-free, dairy-free and paleo meals that are whole-food based. Prep Dish is offering our listeners a free 2-week trial to try it out. Check out PrepDish.com/SELFIE for this amazing deal!
In this episode we talked about:
The Moment app The Simple Habit app Trader Joe’s Seedy Almond Topper Z Palette for Makeup
We explore the weird side of yoga, re-entry after a vacation, Sarah’s bigger boob mystery and Kristen’s quest to do all of the doctor things.
In this episode we talk about:
Mammograms Uterine Ablation Trunk Club CleverMade Reusable Collapsible Grocery Bags Made Good Granola Bar Variety Pack Travel Garment Steamer
Summer is upon us and if you are in the market for some new summer dresses, jeans or even swimsuits, Modcloth is a great destination for clothing. They have a ton of vintage-inspired clothes with really fun prints for summer, designed by women for women in a full-size range, from XXS to 4X. To get 15% off your purchase of $100 or more, go to modcloth.com and enter code SELFIE at checkout.
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We chat with Jess Weiner, a cultural changemaker who was responsible for changing Barbie’s body and shifting to include more body diversity in the campaigns of many huge brands, including Dove and Disney Princesses. Jess is an acclaimed author of two bestselling books and host of the “Talk to Jess” podcast.
In this episode we also talk about:
- Spike seasoning
- Thrive Market (use that link to get $25 off your first order)
- Our lovely and supportive facebook community group – join us!
- Acure clarifying shampoo
- You can watch Jess’s TedX talk on the confidence myth here.
Epic! is a great online reading app for kids who are home during the summer…it’s screen-time that doesn’t count as screen-time because it’s ebooks, audiobooks, read-to-me books, and fun articles and quizzes. It is normally $7.99/month (a great deal), but we have partnered with them to get our listeners TWO MONTHS FREE. Just use promo code SELFIE when you sign up for an Epic! !subscription at getepic.com.
We have a heated debate about washcloths, Kristen tries to convert the world to shower wands, and Sarah shares about how she’s trying to break up with her phone. Be sure to join us over at our facebook page where this, and many other conversations, are inspired.
In this episode:
The How to Break Up With Your Phone book An easy replaceable rainfall shower head WITH A DETACHABLE WAND Moment App Instacart (a grocery delivery service that allows you to shop whole recipes from PrepDish) The Wet Brush Covergirl Eyebrow Powder Wand Kate Somerville ExfoliKate Intensive Exfoliating Treatment – Salicylic Acid Scrub Plume Nourish & Define Smudge-Proof Brow Pomade Bisby Candles Tr...
Is racial bias a real thing? We talk about the recent episode where two black men are arrested at Starbucks for waiting to buy their drinks until a friend showed up. We also interview Leroy Barber, a racial justice activist and author, about how we can respond to racial bias.
In this episode:
Cover Your Gray spray Sseko caftans Ohm’s Fit and Fierce over 40 yoga program Plackers Orthopick Flosser for braces The New Jim Crow by Michelle Alexander The Warmth of Other Suns: The Epic Story of America’s Great Migration by Isabel Wilkerson My First White Friend by Patricia Rabon Joining an affinity group to talk about racism Be the Bridge to Racial Unity facebook group
We also talk about LOLA, a female-founded company offering a line of organic cotton tampons, pads, and liners. They have a monthly subscription which is fully customizable – you can choose your mix of products,
We’re sharing mortifying stories of embarrassing ourselves at doctor visits, involving a mistaken hug, a conversation leading to a bladder sling, and other traumatic tales. Also, Kristen tries Livia for her cramps and is here to report on it. Spoiler alert: it works!
In this episode we talk about:
Our new facebook community to discuss all things selfcare. Come join us! The transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation device Livia which is a game-changer for period cramps The Gratitude Jar as a great family exercise for thankfulness Sarah’s obsession with One Love Vitamin C Body Polish which smells like a tropical vacation The magic of Osmia soap Votiva – the one hour magical vagina treatment for tightening and urinary incontinence
Photo via @doctor.mike on instagram
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In addition to wanting to convert the world to the pleasures of the caftan (which we fully support), Liz Bohannon of Sseko Designs is an entrepreneur of an ethical fashion brand that’s creating jobs in vulnerable countries. We chat with her about mom guilt, house dresses, how she was inspired to start a business that empowers at-risk women, and the question of work-life balance that’s never asked of men.
In this episode we talked about:
- Sarah’s designer husband Dustin Dorr (check out his instagram and this feature of their home in Domino magazine.)
- Caftans
- Kristen’s beloved amazon dress
- Dad Privilege – it’s a thing
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We are sharing our favorite lazy meals – those go-to recipes when you’ve failed to plan or are short on time. We also talk with Isabel Kallman and Jeanine Harvey of Feed Our Democracy about how everyone can engage politically in issues that matter to them.
In this episode we talk about:
Rice cookers Trader Joe’s turkey meatballs Applegate gluten-free chicken nuggets The One Campaign AlphaMom Feed Our Democracy
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Laura Mayes, founder of Mom 2.0 Summit, chats with us about how some devastating life experiences pushed her to better self-care and being more present. We also talk about some of our favorite crappy snacks for those moments when eating your feelings is all you can do.
In this episode we talk about:
ALT Summit The Keto Diet Kettle Salt & Pepper Chips Alter Eco Salted Caramel Trader Joe’s Dark Chocolate Peanut Butter Cups 16 oz Newman’s Own Peanut Butter Cups Justin’s Peanut Butter Cups Lundberg Family Farms Rice Chips in Fiesta Lime Simply Cheetos Puffs Siete Grain-Free Tortilla Chips with Lime
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Our best travel tips! Travel can spark some serious anxiety but here are some hacks to stay sane. We also chat with Samantha Broxton (@sisterlocked), founder of Sister Locked and Raising Self, on FOMO (fear of missing out) and how it can rob us of our zen.
In this episode we talked about:
Buying one of everything, using refillable containers, labeling everything with alabel maker, and investing in a hanging toiletries bag. Kristen swears by the American Express Platinum card for it’s awesome travel perks including lounge access (free food!) at most airports, rental car upgrades, travel help, insurance, and monthly uber credits. Try Global Entry with PreCheck to make the wait in both TSA and customs lines much shorter.
Social media can make it feel like we are comparing our real life to everyone else’s highlight reel. We talk about how to protect yourself and how self-care can also include boundaries and saying no. We interview Kelly Beall, founder of the popular lifestyle blog Design Crush, on how she found a simple ritual of self-care that helped center her each day. Listen here: Play in new window | Download
In this episode we talk about:
Cetaphil cleanser and Cetaphil face lotion with SPF Alba Botanicals astringent Vitamin C serum Vitamin C powder
It’s possible this episode was recorded WHILE HUNGOVER in Palm Springs. We chat how to avoid hangovers, and also have an interview with Jane Mosbacher Morris of To The Market, who saw a need for empowering global women and came up with a practical solution through ethically-made goods. Jane had a pretty intense experience with burnout and shares her story with us.
In this episode, we talk about:
Nux Vomica
Just the Wine
Alka Seltzer
We were a little buzzed during this Facebook Live we made.
Also, check out the cute goods at To The Market, which are made by global artisans who are paid a fair trade. We are partial to the WOVEN TRAY IN BLACK AND WHITE, the MELI NAPKINS, the ARTISAN KANTHA ENVELOPE CLUTCH an...
Mink Mingle
Alright, let’s finally talk ACTUAL SELFIES and how to do them well. What’s the best angle? How do you nail the lighting? And to filter or not to filter? We are also going to talk vagifacials, the new trend of pampering the skin down there to keep your vagina looking young. (We are rolling our eyes at the need for younger vaginas, too.)
Things we talked about in this episode:
We think everyone should own a cheap tripod, and these ring lights for your phone are an inexpensive way to get a good glow in your selfies.
Wanna try a DIY vagifacial to pamper yourself at home?
A natural soap like Aloe Vera & Calendula Organic Soap can help cleanse and prime the stubborn hairs down there before the facial. Or you can try Lubrigyn Cleansing Lotionwhich is made specifically for this area.
Follow up your cleanser with Premium Grade Vitamin E Oil, which calms down irritation and hydrates the skin.
Next, exfoliate with a natural sugar scrub like The Soap Exchange Sugar Body Scrub – Unscented.
And finally, top it off with a moisturized like
Andy Omvik
Can you be addicted to habits or behaviors? We discuss process addictions, and how we can become hooked to certain experiences, from the internet to shopping to flirting. We talk about how to know when a process addiction has gone too far, and what to do about it.
Some great books on process addictions:
How to Break Up with Your Phone: The 30-Day Plan to Take Back Your Life
To Buy or Not to Buy: Why We Overshop and How to Stop
Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction
Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way You Love
We also talk about pets as self-care and chat about our own personal experiences and ambivalent around our furry friends. Looking for a new pet? We recommend pet adoption. Check out this site to find adoptable pets in your area.
In this episode we also talk about our experience with HelloFresh, a meal subscription services that delivers recipes along with all the ingredients you need in pre-measured, labeled meal kits. They’ve got gourmet meals but also many one-pot recipes for seriously speedy cooking and minimal cleanup....
Kristen chats with friends Sarah Bessey, Jen Hatmaker,Tara Livesay, Jamie Wright, and Sarah Goodfellow about how they created friendships in their 30’s and 40’s, and built a tribe of ride-or-die friends in a unique way.
If you enjoyed this conversation you might appreciate the books written by these ladies:
For the Love by Jen Hatmaker
Out of Sorts by Sarah Bessey
The Very Worst Missionary by Jamie Wright
Of Mess and Moxie by Jen Hatmaker
Jesus Feminist by Sarah Bessey
We’ve got a great deal for you: Grove Collaborative, our favorite online destination for clean and green beauty products, now has Mrs. Meyers’ body line. Use
We ponder the merits of the instant pot and share some favorite recipes, as well as our other must-have kitchen gadgets. We also conclude our enneagram series by talking about type nine, along with interviews with author Sarah Bessey and psychotherapist Baron Harley.
In this episode, we talk about:
The infamous Instant Pot Sarah’s favorite rice cooker Kristen’s rice cooker for supersized families The George Foreman grill Kristen’s favorite slow cooker Nom Nom Paleo’s instant-pot-rich new cookbook
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Aging skin – it’s inevitable. But we’re talking about the practices and products that can help. We also chat about the confrontational charm of the enneagram type 8, including an interview with blogger (and mom of 9) Heidi Weimer.
In this episode, we talk about:
- Kristen brought Sarah over to the robe dark side. Kristen loves Barefoot Dreams but Sarah says the Parachute Robe is superior.
- Facial Massage increases circulation in the skin, drains lymph nodes, boosts collagen, relieves tension, and allows face products to absorb. Here’s a great video on it. And this Jade roller for the face is effective too.
- Wanna try a cleansing oil? We recommend Health Priority Vitamin E Oil or DHC Deep Cleansing Oil.
- Sunscreen – we know we should! Two good, natural sunscreens for daily use are Drunk Elephant and Suntegrity.
- Sarah’s favorite natural retinol product is Pai Rosehip BioRegenerate Fruit & Seed Oil Blend
- For exfoliation, try Acure Brilliantly Brightening Facial Scrub (budget) or Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser (spendy)
- Dry brushing is a great way to exfoliate and increase circulation.
- Our favorite serums are Drunk Elephant Night Serum (spendy) and Super 6 Serum (budget).
- Last time we talked about face shaving to reduce wrinkles, we sold a whole lot of tinkle razors
- Pro-tip: when you apply your eye cream, dab some around your lips. We like Tata Harper Boosted Contouring Eye Mask (spendy) or Acure Eye Cream (budget).
We are sharing the apps that help us function, sleep, maintain relationships, and edit photos. We also chat with Ryan Walton, blogger at DaringtoDad.com, about being an enneagram type 7.
On this episode we mentioned the following apps that can be found in the iphone app store:
We both credit Voxer for keeping many of our friendships alive, and count it as the app we use the most on any given day. Sarah is a fan for Group Me to stay in touch with special-interest kid’s activities like sports teams or dance groups. Kristen loves Google Keep as a way to keep her to-do list and notes updated between her phoner and computer, and uses it as the page her web browser opens to. Sarah loves VSCO for editing photos, and the Amazon Alexa App for keeping her shopping lists up-to-date. We love the Podcast App! Find us on there and subscribe! We both love Spotify for all things music, and have our kids on a Spotify family account. Sarah uses Think Dirty to determine the toxicity of beauty products she’s looking at. We both use apps for white noise at night. Sarah is a fan of Sleepy Fan while Kristen uses RelaxMelodies. Kristen uses Flo to keep track of her periods and TripIt to keep track of travel reservations.
We are loving The Road Back to You by Ian Cron to learn more about our enneagram types.
If you are like us and planning has always been a struggle. HelloFresh is the answer. It’s a subscription meal service that makes it so easy to cook delicious, balanced dinners for less than $10 a meal. No more searching recipes, making ingredient lists, and running to the store. All the ingredients come pre-measured in handy, labeled meal kits, so you know which ingredients go with which recipe, and they have a variety of recipes from the simple to the fancy. For $30 off your first week of HelloFresh, visit hellofresh.com and enter the promo code SELFIE30.
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We’re talking favorite snacks, both salty and sweet, healthy and splurge-worthy. We also talk with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6. In this episode we mention the following snacks:
Trader Joe’s Omega Trek Mix La Croix Grapefruit or Cherry Lime flavor Whole Foods hot salsa with Garden of Eatin’ Sesame Blues Sugar snap peas or edamame with Maldon Sea Salt Fair-trade chocolate chips Trader Joe’s Everything Blend Spike Seasoning Apples and brie or apples and Justin’s maple almond butter Plain yogurt with stevia and berries and a little granola
What supplements should you be taking? We chat about our daily regimen, and continue our conversation about the enneagram, taking a deeper dive into type 5. We chat with Kelley Nikondeha, author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World, about some of the unique strengths and challenges of being an enneagram 5, as well as with Seth Haines, author of Coming Clean, about some of the internal fears and motivations unique to type 5’s.
We also share a great offer from Grove Collaborative, our favorite destination for clean and nontoxic beauty and cleaning products. They are offering new customers the following as a gift with purchase this week only;
- Mrs. Meyer’s hand soap
- Mrs. Meyer’s dish soap
- Mrs. Meyer’s hand lotion
- Grove Collaborative cleaning caddy
- Grove Collaborative walnut scrubber sponges
Use this link to cash in on this offer!
Here are some of the supplements we talk about in this episode:
SmartyPants chewable gummies ($14 for a month supply on Amazon(
Vitamin D
Alpha Lipoeic Acid
Methylated Folate (a form of folic acid that is safe for everyone)
Probiotics
Omega 3 Fish Oil (burpless!) or DHA Omega 3 gummies
Natural Calm Magnesium
Riboflavin (B2)
From teas to hand creams to cozy blankets, we are talking all of our favorite winter products. Plus, an interview with Holly Rankin Zaher about being an Enneagram Type 4. New to the enneagram? Check out The Road Back to You by Ian Cron.
Kristen’s favorites:
Shaggy blanket
Hempz herbal body lotion
Ahava hand cream
Marula oil : Acure is a great bargain option and on sale for $8.99 right now. If you want to go luxury try Drunk Elephant for $72
Thymes – Frasier Fir Pine Needle Green Glass Jar
Barefoot Dreams CozyChic Adult Robe
Sugar Cookie Sleigh Ride tea
Fuzzy socks
Chi Silk Infusion for dry hair
Palo santo
Sarah’s favorites:
Balms – Waxelene , Leahlani Bless Balm, Maya Chia Waterless Wonder Balm
LL Bean Women’s wicked good slippers
Madewell Rollneck sweater, Cocoon Cardigan
Kari Gran lip whips and lip buff duo
Bite Beauty Agave Lip Mask
W3LL PEOPLE Nudist Lip Balm
Yeti insulated stainless steel bottle
Vitruvi diffuser
What are Kristen and Sarah’s goals for the New Year – and are resolutions really such a good idea? We’ll be taking a break next week to celebrate Christmas, but see you back here in 2018!
Our old posts about New Year’s Resolutions:
Kristen’s year of ENOUGH
Kristen’s failed resolutions from 2011
Sarah’s 2012 resolutions
Sarah’s 2017 resolutions (still trying to embrace her natural waves #BIGFATFAIL)
Here is a great read for our fellow Enneagram 3s.
Ambition Addiction
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It’s super easy to use for couples and their guests, and is top-rated app for iPhone, iPad and Apple Watch, so couples can manage their registries on-the-go.
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How do we stay sane over the holidays? We share our tips, and have a conversation with Meagan Francis of The Mom Hour about being a type 2 on the Enneagram.
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
Here are some Enneagram books we recommend:
The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth by Christopher L. Heuertz
In our last episode of Selfie, Sarah and I shared a ton of unique gift ideas for the women, men and kids in your life. Here are some of our favorites: For Women: If you love the smell of walking into an Anthropologie, you need Capri Blue candles. It smells like a tropical vacation. Kristen is partial to the mercury glass collection because of the glow the glass gives off. She’s also a fan of Jonathan Adler’s red currant candle.
Wanna gift a cookbook? We recommend How To Cook Anything by Mark Bittman and the True Foods cookbook. Can a vacuum really change your life? And make your kids more willing to clean? Kristen contends that the Dyson cordless vacuum can. Sarah uses this Vitruvi Essential Oil Diffuser which, in addition to making her home smell amazing, looks like a modern vase.
Sarah is obsessed with the MUN essentials skincare set, a luxury splurge for a woman you like a lot. (Use the code WHOORL for 15% off your purchase!) Reusable shopping bags are always a useful gift and Baggu’s are adorable and in a variety of fun modern prints and colors. We’ve long loved 31 Bits jewelry but their new home collection is TO DIE FOR and all purchases benefit women in Uganda and Bali.
We are talking about type 1’s (the Reformers) in our ongoing Enneagram series. And botox – should you do it? We have a fascinating interview with Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius Podcast, who is an Enneagram 1, as well as Jenny Potter, a creative producer at Willowcreek. Also, Kristen admits to her cognitive dissonance around her own botox use.
Here are some books we talked about in this episode: The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut The Road Back to You by Ian Morgan Cron Subscribe to the Enneathought of the Day here.
What can you learn about your internal motivations and drives from the Enneagram? We’re kicking off a series on this fascinating personality theory. In this introductory episode we will explain what it is, and then talk through each type with writer and enneagram enthusiast Leigh Kramer. We’re also joined by Christopher Heuertz, author of The Sacred Enneagram, who shares some of the history of the enneagram, it’s spiritual origins and modern psychological iterations, and how our childhood fears and wounds shape our personality. It’s a fascinating episode that we hope will inspire you to join us on this journey of exploration.
To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springing for the paid test.)
Here are some books we talked about in this episode: The Wisdom of the Enneagram: The Complete Guide to Psychological and Spiritual Growth for the Nine Personality Types by Riso and Hudson
The Complete Enneagram: 27 Paths to Greater Self-Knowledge by Beatrice Chestnut
The Sacred Enneagram: Finding Your Unique Path to Spiritual Growth by Christopher L. Heuertz
Can embracing our mortality help us living more fully? Caleb Wilde, author of Confessions of a Funeral Director, shares with us some of his insights about facing death and what we can learn from loss. We also continue the skincare conversation, talking about our evening routines for a clean and healthy face.
Facial massage is a thing. Sarah’s favorite tutorial is here.
Wanna go green with your evening face routine? We recommend:
For luxe:
Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser – use code whoorl10 for 10% off
One Love Organics Cleanser
MUN Anarose Toner – use code WHOORL for 15% off
Drunk Elephant Night Serum
Maya Chia Supercritical Pure Chia Face Oil
Josh Rosebrook Day Cream SPF 30
Maya Chia Eye Achiever Roller
Sarah uses facial masks at least 3-4 times a week. Some of Sarah’s favorite masks are here.
For budget:
Drunk Elephant Juju Bar
Thayers Toner
Acure Organics Marula Oil
Super 6 Serum
Hemp Seed Oil
(And Kristen still swears by Pond’s Cold Cream which Sarah believes is made of cancer and toddlers’ tears.)
Two great resources for going green are the EWG’s Skin Deep website and the Think Dirty App.
Also, Sarah wrote about some of her favorite masks here. A less expensive line that is fantastic is Plant Apothecary.
We talk our morning skincare rituals, and interview Obama’s former social media manager about keep the peace when our politics collide. Caleb Gardner of the digital innovation firm 18 Coffees gives us some insight for staying sane in the midst of our current climate. Plus, to tattoo or not to tattoo? Kristen regrets not having any, and Sarah regrets the ones she has.
In this episode, we mentioned:
The new Nom Nom Paleo book
Wanna go green with your face routine? We recommend:
For luxe:
Tata Harper Regenerating Cleanser – use code whoorl10 for 10% off
One Love Organics Cleanser
MUN Anarose Toner – use code WHOORL for 15% off
Drunk Elephant Night Serum
Maya Chia Supercritical Pure Chia Face Oil
Josh Rosebrook Day Cream SPF 30
Maya Chia Eye Achiever Roller
Sarah uses facial masks at least 3-4 times a week. Some of Sarah’s favorite masks are here.
For budget:
Drunk Elephant Juju Bar
Thayers Toner
Acure Organics Marula Oil
Super 6 Serum
Hemp Seed Oil
(And Kristen still swears by Pond’s Cold Cream which Sarah believes is made of cancer and toddlers’ tears.)
Is the internet making us dumber? More dumb? How can detachment help us avoid self-hate? And can watching TV be a form of self-care? In this episode, we chat about our collective addiction to scrolling the internet, and the negative effects of screentime (and how to get control.) We also chat with Cheri Huber, author of There Is Nothing Wrong with You: Going Beyond Self-Hate and founder of the Zen Monastery Peace Center , about the process of letting go of our negative personal narratives. And we chat about television as an escape, and some of our current guilty pleasures on TV.
In this episode, we talked about:
- The StayFocusd chrome extension can kill facebook and twitter after a certain amount of time each day.
- Rescuetime is the app that can email you a measure of your productivity each week. Have it auto-email to a friend for some real-talk accountability.
- The moment app can tell you how many times you’ve checked your phone in a day.
- In addition to being a must-have internet filter to keep kids off inappropriate sites, the Circle by Disney device can give you a daily overview of how you are spending your time online.
- Wanna take the challenge to get your phone out of your room? As it turns out, there are alarm clocks! And sound machines!
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The book Facehooked: How Facebook Affects Our Emotions, Relationships, and Lives is a fascinating look at our collective facebook addiction. Some other good books on this topic:
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Irresistible: The Rise of Addictive Technology and the Business of Keeping Us Hooked
- The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains
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The Glass Cage: How Our Computers Are Changing Us
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Cheri Huber dropped some knowledge. If you want to explore more, here are some of her books:
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The Fear Book: Facing Fear Once and for All
- Transform Your Life: A Year of Awareness Practice
- Be the Person You Want to Find: Relationship and Self-Discovery
This is my favorite episode of Selfie so far because 1) our conversation about pubic hair was so cringey and hilarious that my cheeks hurt from laughing, and 2) our conversation about detachment with Bj Hickman was full of life-giving lightbulb moments about relationships and detaching from people pleasing.
In this episode we take a deep dive (ooph) into pubic hair and some of the challenges of hair removal in this delicate area, sharing our own experiences with lasers, waxing, shaving, trimming, and even Nair. We also chat with therapist B.J. Hickman about the psychological concept of detachment, and how we can care for others without losing ourselves.
In this episode, we talked about:
- Kristen swears by this bikini trimmer gadget for bikini hair removal without the unsightly bumps of shaving.
- Brave enough to try waxing at home? This kit from Amazon has good reviews.
- Are you a good candidate for laser hair removal?
- Melody Beattie wrote the quintessential book on detachment called The Language of Letting Go.
- Brene Brown’s book I Thought It Was Just Me is also an excellent guide to self-acceptance.
- Take a look at the history of hair removal.
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Most of us know how to eat well . . . so why don’t we? We discuss the barriers to a healthy diet, the last factor of Myers Briggs (Judging vs. Perceiving) and how it affects self-care, and we each dish on our current favorite fashion trend. Spoiler alert: we have a strong disagreement on high-waisted pants. Our latest episode is here: In this episode, we talked about:
Have you tried Whole 30? Kristen found it to be a game-changer in terms of learning to meal plan. We are both fans of Trader Joe’s Cruciferous Crunch Mix. Kristen is a tea fanatic and she loves Yogi Honey Lavender Stress Relief Tea, Tazo Zen Green Tea, Egyptian Licorice Tea, and Traditional Medicinal’s Throat Coat. We’ve been talking about the Myers-Briggs personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Myers-Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. If you want to try another personality measure, check out the Enneagram Test. Sarah is a fan of
This is our hair episode. We talk all things follicular, from going gray to the best flat iron to whether or not those hair pills really work. Plus, body positivity – we’re positively conflicted about it. We love the movement and yet . . . we have concerns and feelings and confusion. You'll just have to listen: And Thinking vs. Feeling: what the third Myers Briggs quadrant means for your personality and your own self-care habits.
In this episode, we talked about: Lisa from This Organic Girl is growing out her gray and we are here for it. Hairprint is a great nontoxic hair dye. If you are looking for a good biotin supplement, Natrol has great ratings on Amazon. Sarah has rounded up all of her favorite organic haircare products on her blog. We are both fans of Acure Organics Shampoo and Conditioner. So affordable! Kristen loves Grove Collaborative for clean beauty products. Pharmaca always has great deals on natural and organic haircare and makeup. If you are looking for higher-end natural haircare, Sarah loves Rahua and True Botanicals.
How do you stay sane when the world seems broken? We talk with grief therapist Claire Bidwell-Smith about collective trauma after national tragedies, and with activist Micky Jones about the intersection of activism and self-care. Special thanks to Claire Bidwell-Smith, author of The Rules of Inheritance and After This, and Micky Jones, social justice doula. You can check out her blog and upcoming speaking engagements here. If you feel so led, we recommend the following ways to take action: Donate blood Donate to Puerto Rico: the Hispanic Federation is designating 100 percent of its Hurricane Relief Fund to recovery efforts in Puerto Rico. Join Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America Text “Resist” to 50409 to contact your senators on issues important to you.
We’re talking periods and the unwelcome symptoms that go along with them, as well as N vs. S on the Myers-Briggs and secrets to shaping your brows well. We get real about the frustrating aspects of periods, from clots to cramps, from bleed-outs to perimenopause and that tricky moment you realize that your white hot rage about your husband not emptying the dishwasher might actually be fueled by PMS. Oops.
Links We Mentioned in Episode 2
Kristen has had good success with methylated folate supplements to regulate hormones. Sarah is a fan of magnesium supplements to mitigate PMS symptoms. We recommend the book Female Brain Gone Insane for anyone in that tricky late 30’s – 40’s phase of perimenopause. * The Flo app is perfect for tracking your cycle and everything that goes along with it. We discussed period panties and the diva cup. In our next few episodes, we are talking about the Meyer’s Brigg’s personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Meyer’s Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. We stand witness that Wonderbrow is worth the hype. For fabulous brows Kristen loves the Anastasia line, MAC Brun Shadow, and a good angled brow brush. Kristen also swears by this cheapie brow powder from Cover Girl. Looking for a well-performing non-toxic product? Sarah loves Long Last Brow by 100% Pure.
Sleep: why is it so hard for us to achieve this basic human need? An intro to the Myers-Briggs personality types and self-care for introverts vs. extroverts. And face-shaving for women . . . it’s a thing. In today’s episode, we do a deep dive into sleep, talking through the negative effects of not getting enough, how to deal with insomnia, and how to create a sleep-friendly environment.
Links We Mentioned in Episode 1
We talked about the brilliant Arriana Huffington Sleep Book, which has all kinds of information about the importance of sleep and how to get more of it. Both Sarah and I are huge fans of this particular sound machine. It’s low-tech but creates a perfect wind noise. If you are looking for apps to calm you down or help you sleep, we love the calm app. And when we are away from our beloved sound machines, this app is great for hotel room white noise. In our next few episodes, we are talking about the Meyer’s Brigg’s personality types. If you’ve never figured out your type, check out this Meyer’s Briggs online test for free. It’s fascinating and informative. Thinking of dipping your toes in the brave new world of female face-shaving? Thinking of dipping your toes in the brave new world of female face-shaving? The Tinkle razors are your best bet.
