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You are not at the mercy of life.
You don't have to sit down and HOPE that you will get married.
You don't have to feel helpless as time passes by.
There is something you can do!
You can and MUST pray.
But there is prayer that is emotional "God, when?'
And there is prayer that actually gets results. The prayers is this episode are the kind that actually get results.
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Be careful that you don't let your "spec" (your type) cause you to miss out on someone spectacular.
Most single women are tuned into only one type of man- the type they want to marry.
Sure, they will be friends with other men or associate with them but do what those men think really matter?
Most times, it doesn't. Find out why that's a problem in today's episode.
Before you throw in the towel, listen to this episode and see if you are doing all the things to move you closer to your dream.
No one has a right to mistreat you.
You are made in the image of Almighty God and deserve to be treated with dignity and respect.
It is never your fault if someone treats you less than what you are worth
However, tolerating or staying with someone that doesn't value you is YOUR choice.
Move on... fast.
African Proverb:
1st fool is not a fool
But 2nd fool is a fool
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There comes a time in every woman's life where she has to tell herself the truth.
There are certain issues that need addressing before you can effectively get to know someone and let them in your life.
Do yourself a favor and "sit your butt down" during such times.
Said with love.
As promised, here is part 2 of "Stop looking for your type".
In this episode I'm a lot nicer and tell you what you SHOULD do instead.
It's going to be amazing.
God only wants the best for you.
Well.....it's a New Year
And not only are you interested in you, you have your sights on a new boo.
At least you hope to meet one.
After all, this is THE year you get married.
You are serious this time.
Before you start accepting applications from all the men beating down your door, listen to this episode and find out why you should NOT be looking for your type.
Sorry in advance. 😏
Respect is earned not given right?
When you get married, your husband should act in a way deserving of respect before you shower him with it right?
Well let's see.....
Tall, dark and handsome with chiseled abs and take-me-away biceps loses it's appeal after some time.
So does his money, power or prestige.
At the end of the day, you want a happy home.
You want peace, joy, laughter, care and lots of love.
You want a safe and healthy environment for your children to grow up in.
You want a man that loves you like Christ loves the church.
Sound too good to be true?
It's not if you marry a man that has the "one thing" in this episode
When you get married you will find that you don't really know your spouse the way you thought you did.
You will also find that you and him are very different in your approach to life, how you handle money and how you communicate.
Another thing that you are certain to come across is his ego.
Ego isn't bad.
It's God-given.
But there's a way to navigate a man's ego to have him singing your praises and showering you with love.
I give you three ways in this episode
Talk is cheap.
Many of us believe that God CAN give us a good husband but our behavior shows that we really don't believe that He will do it for us.
If that's you, don't worry. In this episode, I show you how to increase that belief and make yourself a target for Mr. Right.
Are you a romantic?
Do you see the good in everyone and find yourself drawn to helping them?
Do you have a track record of getting emotionally entangled in 0.2 seconds?
This episode is the cure.
Before the crazy comes on, and you start doodling his name and your name together- listen and learn from these tips.
Make no mistake about it, God is against adultery.
Don't fall into the trap of dating a married man.
Most people that find themselves in such situations never set out to be and never dreamed it could happen to them.
Here's how to protect yourself.
Arguments about money are the 2nd highest causes for divorce.
What do you need to discuss with your fiancee now to make sure you start off on a good foundation?
What is a success clock and what is a relationship clock?
Are there things you need to know as a single woman to optimize both?
How can I be so sure?
Because God's word says it.
Isaiah 34:16 Search and read the scroll of the LORD: Not one of these will go missing, not one will lack her mate, because He has ordered it by His mouth, and He will gather them by His Spirit
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD.” – Proverbs 18:22
“Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours.” – Mark 11:24
“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” – Psalm 37:4
The LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” – Genesis 2:18
“A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” – Proverbs 12:4
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Unless he has a crazy, undeniable conversion like Saul to Paul then don't take him back.
He's your ex for a reason.
Remember that reason and stick to your guns.
You don't have months or even years to waste with Mr. Wrong.
You also don't have time to "try and see what happens" with a random guy.
Time is life.
Your life and time are very precious. This episode shows you three ways to guard them both.
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In life, there are certain things that can cost us to lose precious time.
There are others that can cause us to lose things that matter more than time.
You can't afford to experience either.
To avoid this level of pain and disappointment, you need to know
What is God saying?
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So you met someone and things seem to be getting serious.
He's talking exclusivity.
You're spending more time with him and talking to him an awful lot.
You know that you've heard me say on this podcast that "until you have a ring and a date keep your options open" but you are wondering.....
Are there any clues that he could be someone I can marry?
How can I know if it's ok for this to go further....?
This episode will give you some hints about what to look out for.
You are ready to settle down.
You have so much love to give and just want someone that will treat you as good as you treat them.
But somehow, it seems like your kindness is mistaken for weakness and your good intentions are not appreciated at all.
Listen to this episode to avoid costly mistakes single women make that give them the opposite results than what they were looking for.
Praying for a husband? CHECK
Going out to meet new people? CHECK
Stopped letting loser guys take up space in your life? CHECK
So what's next?
What do you do while waiting for God to you know.... fulfill His promise and give you the man of your dreams and a million dollars?
Half-kidding about the million. But there ARE things you can do while you wait for the man of your dreams,
I break them down in this episode.
Waiting to meet THAT person is one of the hardest parts of being single.
Here's some encouragement and practical tips on the best way to maximize that time.
Let me know if it helps you!
I get asked these questions a LOT.
"How do I meet Christian guys?"
"How do I get them to notice me?"
I give some tips to try in this episode.
You don't have to cross your fingers and hope for the best when it comes to choosing a life partner.
There are some definite qualities to look for in a man that if found give you the potential to experience heaven on Earth in your marriage.
There are also some other signs that if you see could mean disaster and more time on your knees than necessary.
This episode details some of those negative signs.
Chooser beware.
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Don't feel obligated to continue talking to any man that you sense may not be right for you.
Cut to the chase and disappear.
I show you how in this episode.
Men don't talk.
Well, sure they will talk about sports and hobbies and work....
But what about their dreams, things they dislike, or what their thinking.
When you get married, it can seem like they talk less and less as time goes on.
The interesting thing is that nothing is wrong most times.
What can you do then to make him talk to you more and open up about the things that may be on his heart?
I give you the secret in this episode.
Check out other "The First Years" episodes
November 10, 2021
April 14, 2021
Really. How are you?
mentally
emotionally
spiritually
financially
physically
socially
Rate yourself honestly and get to work.
Nobody has the time to spend their married life praying for their husband to make some drastic changes.
Talk to some married women. You can't change a man.
When choosing the right guy make sure your eyes are wide open and your footing is sure.
You can't avoid a broken heart.
It comes with the territory right?
Once you put yourself out there, it's just a matter of time.
Someone will crush your heart and hurt you so bad that it will completely immobilize you.
This is not exactly true......
There is one thing in particular, that if you do it, will help you bounce back from a broken heart 1,000 times faster or avoid it completely.
I tell you the secret in this episode.
Sure, you want to get married but are you available?
I mean, really and truly available.
Before God can bring one of His good men into your life, you have to be available.
Check out this episode to see what I mean.
A man can support you.
He can help you, guide you and love you.
A man can even inspire you,
build you up and encourage you to be the best version of yourself.
However, there are 3 things he cannot do for you.
Listen to this episode to avoid having the wrong expectations.
Have you ever wondered if a guy really cares about you?
How can you tell if he really loves you?
If this episode I give you two simple ways to put him to the test
Yes Girl.
There are men that want to do dating and marriage God's way.
There are men that are preparing to be a husband just like you are preparing to be a wife.
It's refreshing!
He's not the only one so don't settle!
No one is worth you compromising your integrity or the things God has for you.
No matter what, stay true to who you are & to Gods word.
Speaking of not compromising, don’t ever compromise the quality of man that you believe God for.
I have a conference coming up on 2/3/22 that will show you how to meet a good man & set yourself up for lasting love.
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What is your temperament?
Can you live with someone very different from you?
These are very important questions for you to know the answer to before getting married.
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You're not the same person you were ten years ago.
There's a very big chance that you won't be the same person you are now, ten years from now.
How do you make sure that you choose someone that fits your future?
I give you 3 very important steps in this episode.
When setting goals, set at least 1 in each of the categories below. To be truly happy, your life needs balance. If you focus only on success and neglect fun it will affect you .
Nine core Areas of life:
- Spiritual
- Family
- Ministry
- Health
- Career/Business
- Finances
- Intellectual development
- Social (Network)
- Fun
Also make sure that you don’t do the 3 things in this episode.
Tall
Confident
Sophisticated
Very Handsome
Tatooed
Bearded
Muscular
Cocky
Wealthy
Is there a "type" of guy that always seems to get your attention?
Is that "type" of guy a weakness for you?
Meaning that you ignore their bad behavior or lower your standards to remain with them.
No man is worth you changing your value system or settling for being treated less than you deserve.
If you notice a pattern of falling for the wrong type of guy, I teach you what to do in this episode.
You really have what it takes to have an amazing year .
Buuuuuuuuuuuutttt
You have to be intentional. One of the ways, is to forget about certain things.
I'll start you off with three.
When you get married how do you want the atmosphere of your house to be?
- Tense
- Joyful
- Peaceful
- Spiteful
Believe it or not, you will be the thermostat in the home. The woman has the power to control the atmosphere with her words, her influence & her respect.
Proverbs 14:1 New International Version
The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.
Create your own heaven on Earth in your marriage. It starts with a decision.
The first decision is that you will have a peaceful, love-filled home. The second decision is that you will marry a man that you respect,
I tell you why in this episode.
The other day I heard a story of a man that strung a woman along for 10 years.
He kept promising they would get married & that things would change but it never happened.
Finally, out of frustration she left him.
Good for her.......but she had given 10 years to an unhappy relationship.
Most times, women stay in such situations because they feel they've already invested so much time into the relationship.
It's hard to let go of something familiar even if its hurting you.
We tell ourselves:
What if I don't meet anyone else?
What if he changes for the better & I gave up too soon?
It's too late now, let's just see what happens.
However, as a woman you have to take your life into your own hands and make it what you want.
You don't have the power to change anyone.
If you meet a man that acts in a way you don't like, RUN.
RUN before you fall in love.
RUN before you get pregnant & bring innocent children into the relationship.
RUN before you lose your self-worth.
Don't make excuses.
Don't try to help him.
Visualize yourself in a committed happy marriage with someone that adores you and thinks you're worth it.
This episode tells you 3 things you should never let a man do & helps you to recognize warning signs.
Darling,
You need to keep a running reject list going.
There are men that you don't have to entertain or give a second chance to.
There are things that they do that should land them in "dating jail" and on your reject list.
When you meet one of them:
- Do not stop for gas
- Do not stop for ice-cream
- Do not stop to explain
Put them on the reject list and keep moving.
Life is short. You don't have even a second to waste with the wrong man.
Love you!
Marriage is fun, exciting and really enjoyable.
But the first few years of marriage can be challenging for many people.
It takes skill, maturity and a whole lot of JESUS.
The better prepared you are, the better chance you have of experiencing Heaven on Earth in my marriage.
Kettelye shares the secrets that helped her own marriage thrive in it's first year and beyond.
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The God of the universe is a BIG God, that does BIG things and loves you in a BIG way.
Never doubt that.
But when you think about the utterly powerful things that He does, like creating galaxies, there may be a part of you that is stumped as to why you aren’t married yet.
There is not a one -size-fits-all answer to this question but I give you 3 things to think about in this episode .
One other factor that should be mentioned is: stop wasting time with men that aren’t ready for marriage.
You can’t change a man’s mind that’s decided he isn’t ready.
Quietly put him on the reject list & keep dating other people.
Scripture References:
Isaiah 34:16- NIV
Look in the scroll of the LORD and read: None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate. For it is his mouth that has given the order, and his Spirit will gather them together.
Song of Solomon 4:1 NIV
Awake, north wind, and come, south wind! Blow on my garden, that its fragrance may spread everywhere. Let my beloved come into his garden and taste its choice fruits.
There's nothing like a man that loves Jesus.
They just love different.
Maybe because they've been touched by the author of love Himself.
The genuine care, the respect, the way they push you towards your goals .............
If you meet a man that is crazy about Jesus, you have hit the jackpot ,my dear.
Even if they don't know the right thing to do, because they are connected to God, the source of wisdom they will learn.
Cameron is a kind, genuine, fun-loving man that serves God with reckless abandon.
I got him on the show to show you what's possible.
I want you to be aware that there are really good men out there so there's no need to ever compromise your standards.
Let’s normalize leaving the thugs alone and giving the nice guys a chance.
Let’s normalize being attracted to a men with Christian values & not men with a lot of swag & very little spirituality.
Amen?
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I wanted to interview a newly married man today like I said in my last episode but we couldn't get our schedules synched. Hope to interview him soon.
If you've ever asked yourself why men do some of the confusing things they do then you are going to love this episode.
I hope it helps you decipher some of the things they do and more importantly helps you to make decisions in your own favor.
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The decisions you've made in relationships so far is what has gotten you where you currently are in your relationships today.
Purity has to be intentional.
This episode will show you one decision I made to change my relationships that led me to my dream guy.
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When you sleep with a man you aren't married to, your anointing leaks out.
That glory of God that is resting on your life to take you to unspeakable heights
slowly begins to waste away.
You lose your virtue.
You lose your confidence and inner dignity.
You lose clarity and vision.
You stop dreaming impossible dreams.
You are a queen that should be occupying your throne
not a slave girl whose life is controlled by others.
No one should be convinced of your value more than you.
It's an honor for anyone to be in your presence.
You carry God & you are His best work.
Jesus paid the highest price for you- His blood.
His plans are greater than any plans you could ever make for yourself.
Don't let a man cause you to throw it all away for temporary pleasure.
Don't give your power away.
Don't sell out for sex.
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Scripture references:
1 Corinthians 6:18 NLT
Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.
The story of Jacob and Esau
Genesis 25:19-34
1 Corinthians 14:10 KJV
There are, it may be, so many kinds of voices in the world, and none of them is without signification.
Don't let anyone lie to you,
All sex outside of marriage is bad.
A man the commits fornication with you is an adulterer in training.
Harsh words?
Well, think about it.
If he can't control himself while he's single, will he "magically" learn to control himself when he gets married?
God's rules and boundaries are for your protection. Every time.
You deserve more so wait for better.
There is a godly man out there that would never ask you to compromise your standards or God's laws.
Make room for him.
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Scripture reference :
Galatians 5:19 NKJV
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: [a]adultery, [b]fornication, uncleanness, lewdness,
How Soul Ties are Formed
1. By spending a lot of time with someone
2. By making vows, commitments & promises
3. By sexual intercourse
(the first 2 explain how it’s possible to have a godly soul tie with a friend for e.g. David & Jonathan in the Bible )
And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul. - 1 Samuel 18:1
Prayer of Salvation:
The first step to getting free is making Jesus your Lord. If you do not know Jesus as your Savior and Lord, simply pray the following prayer in faith, and Jesus will be your Lord!
Heavenly Father, I come to You in the Name of Jesus. Your Word says,
"Whosoever shall call on the name of the Lord shall be saved" (Acts 2:21).
I am calling on You. I pray and ask Jesus to come into my heart and be Lord over my life according toRomans 10:9-10: "If you will confess with your mouth the Lord Jesus, and will believe in your heart that God has raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart man believes unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation."
I do that now. I confess that Jesus is Lord, and I believe in my heart that God raised Him from the dead. Thank you Father for the new life I have in you in Jesus name Amen.
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(Listen to this episode but I put the steps below in the form of an acronym to make it easy for you to remember later). CRUSH the power of sin out of your life pretty lady!
C-Confess
R- Renounce
U-Untangle
S-Surrender to God
H-Habits (form new godly habits)
Then be persistent. The price of freedom is vigilance.
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Prayer to Renounce an Ungodly Soul Tie
Pray the prayer below after throwing away any and every gift and thing that reminds you of them and destroying every connection between you & them -blocking their number & social media, moving out, ending the relationship, etc. {please note: if you know you are not able to resist the person & cannot effectively end the relationship just disappear they will get the message. Closure is not necessary. It’s more important now for you to run 🏃♀️ for your life this is NOT the time to be Mrs. Manners} Ookaaaay!
(Pray this with authority)
Father, I confess that I have sinned by ————— with ——————-. I have walked with them and followed their advice. Lord, I’m sorry. Forgive me for straying from the path that you have set for me. Remove any person in my life that is causing me to focus on them instead of you. I renounce every idol in my life.
Purify me with your blood and break off these wrong relationships. I declare that whatever agreements I have with—————- are null and void, in the name of Jesus Christ. Any soul ties formed between us are cut off by the blood of Jesus.
I cancel and renounce every covenant, agreement, promises, or pacts I may have entered into with them, with anyone else from my past or with Satan - knowingly and unknowingly. I bring distance between myself & the kingdom of darkness now in Jesus' name!
Satan I cancel any plan you have for my life & I command you to loose your hold over me now in Jesus' name!! My body belongs to Jesus, my spirit belongs to Jesus & my soul belongs to Jesus. I choose from today forward to cling to Jesus alone and refuse to go back to these relationships. In Jesus’ name, I believe and receive, Amen.
Habits
Be consistent in prayer, studying God's word & going to church ( online or in-person).
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There are women who have had sex for the first time & ended up with HIV.
There are women who casually slept with a man only to notice later that they started having uncontrollable lust & other attitudes & feelings they never had before.
There are women who have been intimate with a man that was obviously just using them but they can’t seem to get over him.
Sex is not JUST sex. There’s so much more to it than that.
This episode will show you just how powerful it really is & what you need to do to protect yourself & your future marriage.
Scripture references:
1 Corinthians 6:16New International Version16 Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.”
1 Corinthians 6:16-20The Message16-20 There’s more to sex than mere skin on skin. Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, “The two become one.”
Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never “become one.”
There is a sense in which sexual sins are different from all others. In sexual sin we violate the sacredness of our own bodies, these bodies that were made for God-given and God-modeled love, for “becoming one” with another.
Or didn’t you realize that your body is a sacred place, the place of the Holy Spirit? Don’t you see that you can’t live however you please, squandering what God paid such a high price for?
The physical part of you is not some piece of property belonging to the spiritual part of you. God owns the whole works. So let people see God in and through your body.
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Ciara is a rare gem.
She is hard working, caring, loyal, and always striving for more.
She’s one of those people that if she’s in your corner- you’re blessed.
She is constantly sharing the Husband Factory podcast on her page & telling me how much she loves it that I had to have her on.
She lives in Atlanta where most single women are having an awful experience. Ciara, on the other hand, is meeting great guys & having the time of her life.
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She needed some advice about her relationship. There’s so much all of us can learn from her story. Listen in.
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To be more exact: open your heart to these five TYPE of men.
I started this podcast because I made A LOT of mistakes as a single woman.
One of them was that I thought I had time. I let men waste my time & I wasted my own time because I still felt & looked youngish. ( the picture on my podcast cover art was taken when I was 40)
As a result, I didn’t get married until I was 35. My husband is amazing 🤩 but getting married later has its challenges especially when it comes to fertility.
God loves you & is for you but we have to use common sense. Why have unnecessary prayer points!
This episode will show you the type of men you should give a chance to in order to increase your chances of getting married sooner & happier.
Disclaimer- Please understand I’m not saying lower your standards. You should still expect the 5 types of men listed to be men of good character that are committed Christians. All I’m saying is don’t dismiss a genuinely nice man for something petty like you don’t like his sweater 🤦🏽♀️.
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Tyler Perry produced a movie called “Why did I get married?” In it, several couples face difficulties in their marriages that force them to come to terms with the real foundations their marriages were buit on.
In this episode, I tell you about Debra a young woman who got married for the wrong reason & ended up with someone that nearly killed her.
Why do you want to get married?
Some women get married because
- Their biological clock has gone from ticking & is about to explode
- Their friends are doing it
- They want to feel significant-(they think: if someone asks me to marry them, then other people will know that I’m worthy)
- A man has “invested” in them & they feel obligated
It’s important to know your motive for getting married so that if your motive is wrong you can correct it before it’s too late.
Getting into anything with the wrong motive will ALWAYS lead to disappointment & disaster.
It’s also important for you to be aware of men that will knowingly marry you with the wrong motive & take you down a slippery slope of pain.
Chooser beware!
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The "M" word is not Methuselah 😂😂
There's a word you never, ever want to mention to a man when you are single.
It can prove to be detrimental, to say the least, and can definitely affect your chances of getting that big ring sooner than later.
Have no fear, Aunty Makeda is here to help you know how to work it.
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So, we know the relationship you have with Jesus is the most important relationship you will ever have....
So what's the second most important one?
Hint:
This relationship will determine your level of happiness, your quality of life, and how successful your marriage is.
Think you know? Listen to the episode to find out
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Imagine having a relationship that brings out the best in you.
That adds value to your life without any negative emotions.
Most times those kind of relationships only happen when we are prepared for them.
In this episode I talk about a sign that you might not be ready for one.
If you’re not, it’s ok. It’s better to take the time to be ready than to enter into something that you might regret for years to come.
Check out my 10 affirmations for single women here:
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Books that helped me :
Changes that heal by Dr. Henry Cloud
https://www.drcloud.com/books/changes-that-heal
Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud
https://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Control-Walker-Large-Print/dp/1594150079
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If you’ve never been married, by the time you hit 30 you start asking yourself & God some questions.
You become more aware of your body changing , your responsibilities increasing & your future calling.
It’s an amazing time & it should be enjoyed to the the fullest!
Don’t worry about getting ‘too old’ for Mr. Right. Kourtney tells you how to make the best of this time & how she got a man that exceeded her expectations.
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Many women are afraid of getting married. It’s easy to see why:
- In the US more people get divorced than stay married.
- The media paints a picture that marriage is a casual thing that is easy to go in and out of & that divorce has no painful consequences
- Many people don’t have role models of happy, thriving marriages.
You don’t have to be afraid to get married. You don’t have to wonder if your marriage will turn out good. This episode tells you why.
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Does God choose your husband for you?
Do you have a soul mate?
One perfect person out there that’s the ying to your yang....
That’s the coffee to your tea...
That is the only person you should or can marry...??
The answer might surprise you !
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Men love independent women.
They respect women that take care of themselves & their lives.
Don’t ever put yourself in a position where a man feels like you’re indebted to him. It will backfire.
After you are married, you can let him take care of you but not before!
Find out why in today’s episode.
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If someone wants to leave you, the best thing you can do is help them to leave even faster.
I give you 3 reasons in today’s episode
Email me at thehusbandfactory@gmail.com
I’d love to hear from you!
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Branding can have serious consequences on your ability to meet the right person.
Find out what it is & how to avoid it in this episode
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How do you feel about your future?
Are you optimistic?
What about your past?
Do you feel like it hinders you in any way or do you know that you have unlimited potential?
Regardless of what your life has looked like or looks like now- you can absolutely have everything you want.
This episode gives an introduction in the ‘how’.
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Scripture reference :
Romans 8:32 NLT
Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else?
Every girl needs a bestie that’s a guy.
I’m talking about Jesus.
As a single woman, you cannot afford to navigate relationships without a close friendship with Jesus Christ.
Think about it.
- He alone knows your future.
- He knows the ins and outs about the guy you are interested in.
- He knows what’s best for you
- He loves you more than anyone else ever will. So much so that He died for you to spend eternity with Him.
So, don’t lock Him out of your relationships. Seek Him first before you start dating anyone. Spend time learning how to hear His voice & He will guide you.
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Set yourself up to enjoy a peaceful marriage that brings out the very best in you.
I tell you a few things to do in this episode to make sure that happens.
P. S. ( I forgot to put this in) :
I mention in this episode that if you sleep with a man before marriage you lose some of your ‘power’ because you are no longer a mystery to him. For most women the only way they get this back is to withhold sex. I want to make sure you understand that I am in no way condoning pre-marital sex or suggesting you withhold sex from a guy you’ve been sleeping with. That is a can of worms you don’t want to open. You don’t want to start a cycle of sin. Stay AWAY from pre-marital sex. In fact, the bible says to RUN away from it. I only mention it to show how powerful it is to be celibate.
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So you met a man.
He likes you and you think you might like him.
But you’ve been down this road before.
There are some men you’ve liked in the past that turned out to be total nightmares.
How do you protect yourself from that trauma again?
1- Until he gives you a ring and you have a wedding date-keep dating other people!
This protects you from getting attached & potentially wasting months or years with Mr. Wrong. This also allows you to think clearly without your mind being in a ‘love fog’ because your attention is divided among several men.
If a man wants to be with you exclusively he should propose. Period.
2- Ask yourself these 10 questions.
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Respect is earned.
Every day we send subtle messages and clues to others that show them how to treat us.
Could you be sending messages to men that you never intended to?
Find out in today’s episode.
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Men don’t talk.
You will find that having a ‘deep’ conversation with a man about his emotions or something he holds sacred is rare.
Even after marriage.
But there is a way to get a man to open up.
There are things you can do to train your tongue so that your future husband feels ‘safe’ to express himself emotionally to you.
Effective communication is a skill that will give you HUGE rewards if you master it before you say ‘I do’.
New Living Translation
Her husband can trust her, and she will greatly enrich his life. Proverbs 31:11. NLT
It’s true that there are exceptions to every rule.
Unfortunately, too many times as women we believe that our case will be the exception.
There are many cases of women being used & mistreated through international online dating.
- some were swindled out of thousands of dollars or more by men claiming to love them
- some were used as a cover up of a crime they knew nothing about & ended up serving time in jail
- some married men that claimed to love them but only wanted to live legally in their country & in some cases we’re dumped once the man gained the desired immigration status he was after
Be careful. Guard your heart.
Get the advice of and be accountable to a mature person that loves you.
Here are just a few of such stories found on YouTube.:
https://youtu.be/dZ197o52Fus
https://youtu.be/Du8mnTGaLWI
https://youtu.be/jhcpv9W79gs
https://youtu.be/Ud8vm01nzMw
https://youtu.be/oo1BsrgBu9g
The First Years is a series that gets you ready to thrive in your marriage.
There’s no greater thing you can do for your future marriage than by being knowledgeable and prepared.
The first 3-4 years of marriage are a challenge for most couples, yours doesn’t have to be.
Learn all you need to know now to have a blissful home.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to marry a successful man especially if you are older & have achieved some things in life.
However, be careful about making it the most important thing on the list. His devotion to God should be foremost.
There are some miserable rich man’s wives out there. There are also some wealthy men that treat their wives like an acquisition. Like property. Something they acquired because of their wealth. When a man sees you like that, you can easily be replaced.
You can have a man that is both successful and Godly but he may be in seed form when you meet him. What should you look for then?
Find out on this episode.
There are great Christian men out there.
I do the ‘Interview with a bachelor’ series to encourage single women to not settle.
There are no perfect men.
But there are men that share your values, and will do their best to respect you and love you like Jesus.
Jeremiah is one of such men.
In this episode he gives some candid advice for single women on how to attract a good man.
Side note: OMG I can’t stand my laugh 🤦🏽♀️. Please, is there a laugh school I can attend?
God never intended for you to go from relationship to relationship until you find the right one.
He never intended for you to suffer a series of broken hearts 💔 until one great guy comes to sweep you off your feet.
Do you know the Bible never mentions dating? It talks about courtship. Two people intending to get married.
Which is why I teach to have multiple male friends at the same time until one stands out as ‘the one.’
Imagine if, in your last relationship that didn’t work out, you had remained only friends? Walking away would not have been nearly as painful.
The problem with pain is that it doesn’t go away on its own or with time.
Buried emotions don’t go away. They just come out at the wrong time.
So what do you do with a broken heart?
Find out in this episode.
I live in the Atlanta area. There are a lot more single women than single men!
If you live in an area like that, realize that it isn’t something that should concern you the least bit.
First of all, think about it.
Which do you think 🤔 is harder for God?
1. Giving you his only son Jesus to die a brutal death on the cross for your sins & give you eternal life.
2. Giving you a husband.
Uhhhh 🙄 giving you a husband is not a hard thing for God. At all.
It doesn’t take God anything to relocate your dream man from another city, state or country.
It doesn’t take God anything to connect you with someone wonderful right where you are that is everything you hoped for.
For the 3 reasons why you are actually at an advantage when you live in such a place ...listen to the episode.
Scripture reference :
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In that day so few men will be left that seven women will fight for each man, saying, “Let us all marry you! We will provide our own food and clothing. Only let us take your name so we won’t be mocked as old maids.” - Isaiah 4:1 NLT
[side chicks 🐥]
What does
- How often you talk to a guy
- How long you talk to him
- If you give him your number or take his
have to do with getting engaged?
There are subtle things that women can do to keep a man interested longer and with more intensity, thus ultimately leading to engagement.
Phone etiquette is one of them.
This episode is not based on theory.
Myself & countless women I know have tried what I teach in it and have the results ( and rings! ) to prove it.
Try it for yourself.
Relationships can be confusing.
Even more confusing is when you aren’t sure if you’re even in a relationship.
Do they like you? Sometimes it seems like they do & sometimes it doesn’t.
Are you making it all up in your head that there’s something there when he hasn’t actually said that there is?
This episode will help you navigate those questions and determine if it’s time to move on.
Any man that is ‘not that into you’ doesn’t deserve your precious time or attention. ❤️
In today's episode I give candid advice to a beautiful, intelligent, single woman that is having problems meeting men.
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Yes, I said it.
Yes, it's true.
This year, resolve to not be moved by what you see or feel.
Not everything (or every one) is as it seems and not every emotion is to your benefit.
You owe it to yourself to gaurd your heart to avoid future unnecessary pain.
Love you!
Pretend today is December 31st, 2021 & it was your best year ever!
What specific things would have to happen in the following areas of your life for you to say that?
- Spiritual
- Social
- Career
- Money
- Fun -Don’t skip this one. It matters
- Intellectual
- Family
- Legacy- ( your purpose, ministry, burden or assignment that is bigger than you. What do you want to be remembered for when you die)
- Health
Once you’ve written what your ideal year looks like in each category. Come up with a SMART goal that represents what you want to see.
For example if for health you said : “I want to lose weight”
You would change it to a statement that is
Specific
Measurable
Achievable
Realistic
Time-bound
Using the above criteria the new statement could be : I want to lose 20 lbs by the end of March 2021
Try it. Cut out magazine photos and make a vision board of the things you are hoping for too. It is so powerful!
Happy planning ❤️
P.S. Click HERE for a goals worksheet
How do you tell well-meaning family members to stop asking you about your love life?
With a lot of respect and finesse!
P.S. Except your mom. Your love life will always be her business. 🤷🏽♀️
P.P.S.If you love listening to this podcast please write a review. By doing that, you help the podcast become more visible to other women. Thank you!
I had just celebrated my wedding anniversary at the time of this recording .
It’s been an amazing 😍 6 years!
God has been good to us and we are so grateful for His leading.
Did you know that the Holy Spirit will talk to you about your spouse,? He will hep you understand them and will show you how to love and respect them.
Simply amazing.
But you have a part to play too. You have to educate yourself on
- What it means to be a good wife
- What God is going to be grading you on as a wife
- How to protect your home from satanic attack
- How to respect your husband
- How to effectively communicate with each other
- How to fight fair
- How to pray for your husband and your marriage
- How to stand in faith together
- Money in marriage- avoiding conflicts
etc.... the better prepared you are BEFORE marriage the better the chance that your marriage will be heaven on Earth.
I will do podcast episodes eventually on the list above to help you out . ❤️
Don’t ignore warning signs ⚠️ ⛔️ !
Don’t rush into marriage only to rush back out!
The goal is not to be married. The goal is to be HAPPILY married.
Listen to Felicia’s true story and see how to avoid the mistakes she made.
“The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.”
WRONG
At least, not the kind of man you want to build a beautiful marriage and legacy with.
The day you start cooking for a man is the day you start losing him.
Find out why in this episode.
There are women who, if you asked them on a Saturday night , couldn’t tell you where their husbands are.
There are women that periodically get calls from the county jail that they have picked up their husband.
There are women that hoped everything that their family and friends warned them about would not happen only to discover that they were right all along about him .
There are women whose husbands provide financially but are shut off emotionally. They live elaborate but lonely lives.
My dear, stay away from bad boys.
Bad boys belong on your prayer list not across the table from you.
If you aren’t convinced that it’s not your calling to reform the ones you meet... may this episode help you.
Say ‘Amen’!
Scripture References:
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.” 1 Corinthians 15:33
Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? - 2 Corinthians 6:14
Can two walk together, except they be agreed. -Amos 3:3
Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. -Romans 12:2
You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods.- Deuteronomy 7:2-3
Listen to this episode to find out why you should NOT be “waiting on God” for a husband.
Scripture References
He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the Lord.- Proverbs 18:23
He who did not spare his own Son, but gave him up for us all--how will he not also, along with him, graciously give us all things- Romans 8:32
But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. - Isaiah 53:5
Now do as I tell you—take a bath and put on perfume and dress in your nicest clothes. Then go to the threshing floor, but don’t let Boaz see you until he has finished eating and drinking.- Ruth 3:3
Look in the scroll of the LORD and read: None of these will be missing, not one will lack her mate. For it is his mouth that has given the order, and his Spirit will gather them together-Isaiah 34:16
P.S. Use the promises in God’s word about marriage to build your faith about getting married and also to speak 🗣 over your life what you want to see.
There is something that many of us don’t consider when it comes to choosing who to marry.
- This thing will make or break your marriage.
- It is more important than love.
- It will determine how happy you and your husband will be.
- It will also determine how much love he shows to you.
- God will be checking to see if you have it.
Listen to this episode to discover what “It” is and make sure you have it for the man you like before getting married. Please...
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A man that makes jokes a lot and likes to make people laugh can be seen as
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Unserious and annoying- someone who doesn’t take life seriously OR
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Someone who enjoys life and is fun to be around because they have a positive take on everything
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A man that is an intellectual and spends considerable amounts of their time seeking for more knowledge can be seen as
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Boring and stuffy OR
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Admirable and exciting because you can always learn something new from them
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A man that speaks and acts slowly can be seen as
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Unintelligent and lazy. OR
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Careful and methodical
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A man that sacrifices all his time, money and energy to serve God can be seen as
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Someone who must not have anything to offer in the marketplace or anywhere else. OR
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Someone that is wise and understands that when we die only the things we did for Christ will last.
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A man that makes decisions quickly, gives instructions boldly and works aggressively to achieve goals can be seen as
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Mean and obsessed with success OR
- A leader with a bright future
The difference in all these is your own personal perspective . What is it?
Scripture References in the episode :
Story- 2 Samuel 6:16-23
Ephesians 5:28 and 33
28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
33......each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Most of us have toxic traits that cause us to keep repeating the same unwanted patterns in our lives.
Those traits can sometimes also cause us to keep attracting the wrong type of men.
But there’s hope.
Anything that can be learned can also be unlearned.
In this episode , I talk about the toxic trait I term “Dottie Doormat”.
Forgive me if I’m a little harsh in this episode I just want anyone that is allowing a man to mistreat them to get the message that they deserve more.
I was once a “Dottie Doormat” and I wish someone had been harder on me about walking away.
I was crazy about someone that didn’t want me -“let’s just be friends”- but also didn’t want anyone else to have me.
In such cases, we can never blame the men. They only do what we allow.
Thank God, I finally figured out that I deserved better.
I hope you find this helpful If you are in such a situation or know someone that is.
Please email your comments to thehusbandfactory@gmail.com
What is your relationship with your pastors like?
How important is it for you to have an open, accountable relationship with them? Very.
In this episode I tell you about a young woman that ignored counsel from her pastor’s wife and the detrimental effect it had on her life.
Scripture References:
Obey your spiritual leaders, and do what they say. Their work is to watch over your souls, and they are accountable to God. Give them reason to do this with joy and not with sorrow. That would certainly not be for your benefit. -Hebrews 13:17 NLT
Where no advice is, the people fall; but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety. -Proverbs 11:14
Have you ever had an important decision to make and wanted so desperately to hear from God?
Knowing if someone is right for you is one of such decisions.
The trick is to cultivate the ability to hear from God BEFORE time.
God loves you very much and wants you to know His will for your life. He wants you to avoid danger and He wants to show you all the good plans He has for you!
Because He’s such a loving father, He has given us ways to know His will.
Please don’t ask for a sign and don’t be deceived by dreams and supernatural occurrences.
In this episode I tell you my own experiences with dreams and deceptions. For example, for years I dreamed and heard a voice that a former boyfriend was going to be my husband. I had a track record of my dreams coming to pass, so I didn’t bother to date any one else. We lived in different states and had lost all communication (no Facebook either) so we didn’t know what was happening in each other’s lives. I later found out that while I was dreaming & hearing this man was going to be my husband that he was actually already married with 3 small children 😱. Meanwhile, I had wasted years being deceived and not dating.
The primary way God speaks to us is not through an audible voice or through dreams it is through His word. “How You Can Be Led By The Spirit of God” by Kenneth E. Hagin is an excellent resource to help.
P.S. Please email me at thehusbandfactory@gmail.com if you have any questions or comments. I’d love to hear from you!
If you want help with your morning devotion please talk to your pastor. If you are not connected to a church you can try a group I’m involved in every morning at 6 AM EST at www.dcgeorgia.org/prayer
Scripture References1 Corinthians 14:10 KJV: There are, it may be, so many kinds of voices in the world, and none of them is without signification.
Matthew 16:5 NLT: Only an evil, adulterous generation would demand a miraculous sign,
Ecclesiastes 5:3 (NKJV) For a dream comes through much activity
Ecclesiastes 5:3 (NIV) A dream comes when there are many cares,
Proverbs 11:14 KJV: Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellers there is safety.
DISCLOSURES
1.If you have a dream or supernatural occurrence that really troubles you please speak to a pastor or spiritual mentor about it.
- If you have dreams about snakes or other sea creatures or dreams of you and someone else cutting your palms and mingling your blood or you dream yourself having sex when you aren’t sexually active in real life please speak to your pastor about it. Such dreams shouldn’t be ignored but you also don’t have to put up with them or any negative effects they may pose.
Jesus died for you to be free!
That is Satan taking advantage of your ignorance. The following books will help you know your rights as a child of God:
The Triumphant Church by Kenneth E. Hagin and The Believer’s Authority by Kennth E. Hagin
Never smother a man with love.
Instead, leave him wanting more of you.
Men initially will pursue you with hot fire 🔥 but they also lose interest quickly. The key is not to give him too much of your time and attention. Give him a little at a time.
Remember, men are hunters. There’s nothing more satisfying than chasing and finally getting what they want.
Don’t be roadkill - already dead, available meat they don’t have to work for. Show him your value by making him pursue you. Be a challenge.
That challenge you present will cause you not only to get a proposal, but he will continue to respect you once you are married.
Find out how in this episode.
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Allison was tired of waiting to be married.
Have you been there? Friends, family, and co-workers getting married 👰🏽 while you watch on the sidelines (or from the bridal train).
I have never been the jealous or desperate type. I remember in my 20s always being genuinely happy for anyone that was getting married and being excited for my own turn.
Even at 30, I was still hopeful. I looked younger than my age and was in great shape so no big deal.
At 31, I started asking questions. Mostly of God. I also started dating men I probably wouldn’t have looked at before as a Christian woman.
Allison made such a mistake. She was tired of waiting & married someone after knowing him only a few months. She could not have imagined the horrors that awaited her. Only a few months into the marriage she discovered what a grave mistake marrying out of desperation is.
Please don’t rush and please take the time to study any man that comes into your life.
Please also be brave enough to walk away from anyone that is toxic. Time won’t change them and you CAN’T change them. A broken relationship is better than a broken marriage.
Good things are worth waiting for. Things and people of value are not common. You don’t find rubies in the gutter.
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KayCee has acted in Nollywood and Hollywood movies, traveled to exotic places and experienced career success yet he doesn’t think he’s too big to serve in church. BOOM!💥
He is sometimes the worship leader, sometimes the media help and "all-the-time" happy to serve in any capacity.
Take note: there are Christian men with swag.
I got the opportunity to interview him one Sunday afternoon and he shed some serious wisdom on dating and relationships. You will be blown away!
His social media handles:
IG: @kayceeudeh
A few of his movie clips:
https://vimeo.com/460769994
https://vimeo.com/460817629
https://vimeo.com/460815579
https://vimeo.com/460816198
A few of his video journalism channel clips:
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sJwbtdJ0b5w
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7z8qt3zUz4&t=5s
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lIqiMrxRzu8
Disclosure: When listening to the recording of this episode my laugh was getting on my OWN nerves so please bear with me 🤦🏽♀️.
I had a lot of fun with this interview for several reasons:
- KayCee is a great guy with an infectious personality. There are people you meet that just being around them makes you smile or laugh. I think it’s their love for life, their openness and comfort with themselves that in turn makes you feel so comfortable, he’s that type.
- It was my first video interview!!! Yay!! So I was super excited because the video version of this interview will be uploaded to the new YouTube channel I’m starting by the end of September 2020. Stay tuned for details.
- Only 30 min before this interview I had several logistical and technical issues spring up that almost made me cancel. But I pushed through with my low-tech self and it turned out great!
Thank you for listening.
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Hi pretty lady, please place your order...
Go ahead and make a list. What’s your type?
Tall, dark and handsome?
A charismatic and smooth leader?
A gentle, peaceful man that loves children?
A mover, shaker and world changer?
A world traveler that dresses nice and smells even better?
A funny, easy-going man?
A talented artist?
An intellectual?
A European? Brazilian? Spanish? African? Caribbean? Indian? American? Asian?
Whatever type of man appeals to you, there are two things that are certain:
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Your list does not intimidate God. He wants you to be with someone that makes you happy and that you are compatible with. Your list matters to Him. If you trust God with this aspect of your life, your husband will prove to be even better than anything you wrote down. You be will just thrilled!
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Of everything you put on your list from personality to body type to credit score, make sure the 4 things in this episode are on there as well.
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Besides working on yourself, your 2nd most important job as a single woman is to protect yourself.
There are a lot of good men out there.
There are also bad ones.
The trick is to try to weed out the bad ones in the beginning.
Most women, when they meet a man, do so with an open heart and want to give full disclosure. They think “I’m going to tell him everything because I’d want the same respect in return. ”
The truth is your power as a woman lies in you being mysterious. The longer a man is fascinated by you, the longer he will stay interested. And eventually, want to marry you.
In this episode, I show you the behaviors we take for granted that can actually hurt us.
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This episode is not quite what you may think.
It has very little to do with cooking and a lot to do with being ready.
You will enjoy your life more and have time for the things that are important to you if you learn to build systems. The earlier you learn them the better. They :
Save
You
Stress
Time
Energy &
Money
See how I started learning about system building and active preparation as a single woman in this episode.
Scripture References :
Titus 2:4-5 KJV
4 That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,
5 To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.
Proverbs 31:15
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
Proverbs 31:21
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
Proverbs 31:27
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
My “please don’t come for me” disclosures 😂
1. I mention that I bought a house to “bring something to the table when I got married” this is just a personal desire that I had. This is not gospel or necessary. I’ve always wanted to marry someone that I could build wealth with so I was preparing for that by buying real estate. You are the prize. Any man you marry should come with as much or MORE ‘buy-in’ as you do for your future together. Especially since he will be the head of the home. That’s the type of man I got.
- I mention asking my husband about “why men cheat on seemingly perfect women”. I also mention that he said that women underestimate the power of catering to their man- treating him with honor & respect (whatever that means to that specific man), doing things for him, the home and children, supporting his dreams etc.
Please know that this does not in any way excuse anyone that cheats. It is never the other spouse’s fault when someone cheats. Some men cheat simply because they are insecure, prideful, selfish or morally weak.
I mention what I mentioned only to give you examples of how you can attempt to “affair-proof” your marriage by building it on a foundation of God’s word.
God’s word tells the wife to respect her husband. Why? Because it’s important to men. God’s word tells women to be keepers of the home -directly or in-directly. Why? Because it’s important to men. God gave us a blueprint for harmony.
There are homes where the husband cooks & does things in the home and that’s wonderful. The important thing is that the couple be completely transparent with one another about their wishes and expectations & AGREE on what works in their home.
At the end of the day, build your home on God’s word. With it as your foundation, you can’t go wrong. Oh, and marry someone that COMMITS to doing everything by the book- the word of God.
That’s all. Love you !
Eyram is a rare find. He’s the type of guy that will help you with a smile even if it takes him out of his way. He will pick up other people’s slack without complaining and serves God with everything he has. He’s ambitious but doesn’t take himself too seriously and is kind and respectful to everyone regardless of their socio-economic status. He’s got characther overload.
I caught up with him 2 days before he got married and he spilled the tea on what made him propose and why he chose Kandace, his bride-to-be.
In this episode, he sheds some much-needed light on what goes on in the male mind when it comes to engagement and what you can do to snag a great guy like him.
There’s a great man out there for you. It’s not a ratio thing and you won’t have to compromise your standards either. You are precious to God.
Your dreams matter to Him, your hopes matter and so do your disappointments.
Never believe that good men are scarce, if you do you will settle for a man that will break your heart & crash your destiny.
The God that did something as complex as creating the entire universe can figure out how to connect you with the right person.
In this episode, I tell you about a proposal I turned down from a man I liked because it went against my values. Tune in to find out what happened after that & how you can be brave enough to stand your ground.
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“There aren’t any good men out there”
- says the average single woman
“WRONG!”
- says the Husband Factory
There are plenty of good men out there and every few weeks I endeavor to interview one for your listening pleasure. 😂
(side note: if you know a good man that should be on the podcast email us at thehusbandfactory@gmail.com)
Believe it or not, no matter where you live, good men are around you.
By good, I’m not talking about compatibility and personality- that is based on individual preference.
A good man is a man with good intentions that has developed good character and has a track record for honoring women.
Sometimes, the problem is we are looking in the wrong place, sometimes the problem is that we put too much emphasis on chemistry, and sometimes the problem is that our lack of self-esteem keeps attracting the wrong type.
At other times we have been so hurt that we expect to be disappointed. And that’s exactly what happens.
At the end of the day, men treat us how we allow them.
Gus is an intelligent, hard-working guy with a big heart. He is very busy in his church and is actively preparing himself to be a good husband. On top of all that, he’s handsome and works out several times a week.
Hmmm mmm.
Ladies take heed, DO NOT SETTLE!
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Ok God, so when?
You've prayed about it. Cried about it. Fantasized about it. Gotten mad and said forget about it and then wished for it again.
But marriage still doesn't seem to be coming! So what is really the problem here?
Everyone's situation is different and there are many possible reasons. Here are three to consider:
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You are not visible- you don't go anywhere or do anything. You love being at home and don't purposely try to go where men are. Sorry Hun, God will not send your husband into your living room.
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You are too predictable- each week you have the same routine where you go to the same gym, the same grocery store, go to work the same way, etc. The only way to expand your network is to meet new people. The only way to meet new people is to create opportunities for it. On purpose.
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You are too gullible- Why didn't you run when he whipped out his player card? Or liar card or cheater card? Oftentimes we have a feeling that a man is no good for us from the very beginning but because he's good-looking or "our type" we choose to ignore it and dive in hoping that he would be different. Unfortunately, some women get "stuck" with men like this for far too long. They are afraid of breaking it off because of the level of personal and emotional investment they have already made. God cannot bring a new good man into your life while you are still the girlfriend of a bad one. Create space.
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That won't happen to me:
Most women subconsciously think that the horrible relationship mistakes they hear about will never happen to them. However, the question is why not? What are you doing to make sure that it doesn't?
In this true story, adapted from the book :"How to choose a life partner" by Bimbo Odukoya; Tiffany thought she had met the man of her dreams when they locked eyes at a traffic light only for her to see him again a few minutes later at the church service she was headed to!
Little did she know that her life would change drastically over the next few months, and not for the better.....
What can we learn from Tiffany's story?:
1. Do not enter into marriage without finding out relevant information about the man.
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Do not marry a man that you have not prayed about. This should happen BEFORE you fall in love.
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Do not marry a man that you haven't sought counsel about from people you respect. They are not in love with him so they see him with neutral eyes.
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Be careful with long-distance relationships. Try to live in the same city with the person for a period of time before marriage.
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Date multiple men at the same time. This does not mean kissing or sleeping with them. It means you may go for coffee with one and dinner with another. Just going out on dates with male friends. Getting to know different people without exclusivity to one. Being exclusive to a man that has not proposed makes you vulnerable to many things. One of them is falling in love with someone too quickly without actually getting to know them. Having multiple male friends helps you to remain balanced and to protect your heart while you are getting to know them.
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This is the right podcast for you if you:
- Are a single woman and want to get married.
- Are tired of the games and want to meet men who are serious about their future and serious about you.
- Are ready to try a different approach that actually works.
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