Self Coaching for Success: Recent Episodes
Melissa Etzler
Self Coaching for Success podcast shares short and impactful business mindset tips that will help you transform your business from overwhelm to passion and your self-doubt to self-confidence.
In this episode, we dive into the importance of adaptability in the modern workplace. We discuss how the ever-changing business landscape requires professionals to be flexible, resilient, and open to new challenges. We explore the benefits of adaptability, such as increased job security and career advancement. Additionally, we provide practical tips and strategies for developing adaptability, including embracing change, continuous learning, and stepping outside of your comfort zone. Through real-world examples and expert insights, we highlight the power of adaptability in driving success in today's dynamic professional environment.
There are millions of strategies. How do you know which one will work for you? This week we talk about how you can choose the best strategy for yourself when working towards a goal. It's about experimenting, listening to your body, and knowing when to go all in. Choosing through love will always steer you in the right direction!
In this episode, we explore the science of stress and its detrimental effects on the workplace. We delve into the powerful technique of EFT tapping, a simple yet effective tool for stress reduction. Learn how to incorporate EFT tapping into your daily routine to manage stress, improve productivity, and achieve greater workplace success.
In this episode, we delve deep into the nature of stress with Kimo Kepano, a light seer. Kimo offers a unique perspective on stress, explaining how it manifests both internally and externally. He challenges conventional wisdom about stress, revealing how it's often misdiagnosed and mistreated.
Listeners will gain valuable insights into:
- The difference between introspection and introspection
- The role of emotions in physical health
- The importance of intuitive listening
- Practical steps to overcome stress and unlock their full potential
Join us for a transformative conversation that will change the way you perceive stress and empower you to take control of your well-being.
This episode features a captivating conversation with Kimo Kepano, a Hawaiian high seer, who shares his unique perspective on the world through the lens of energy and frequency. Kimo discusses how he utilizes his ability to see energy patterns to understand individuals, their challenges, and potential pathways to success.
You will gain insights into:
- The concept of energy frequencies and how they relate to human behavior
- The impact of emotional burnout and how to overcome it
- Practical applications of energy-based understanding in various life areas
- Kimo's personal journey and his approach to helping others
Join us as we explore the fascinating world of energy healing and discover how these ancient wisdoms can be applied to modern life.
Instead of striving for a perfect balance, we explore how to create a life where work and personal fulfillment intertwine. We dive into the importance of self-awareness and the power of intentional choices. Discover practical strategies to reclaim your time, set boundaries, and cultivate a fulfilling life both inside and outside of the office.
Key Points:
- The blurred lines between work and personal life
- The importance of self-awareness and understanding personal values
- Practical tips for setting boundaries and prioritizing well-being
- The role of intentionality in creating a fulfilling life
At the end of the episode enjoy a tapping meditation! Please use responsibly and not while driving.
Exploring trauma complexities, differentiate "big T" and "little t" trauma, focus on individual responses, recognize behavioral thresholds, and understand trauma's impact on well-being. Practical tips for working with clients with trauma histories include prevention and gentle care.
Key Points:
- Defining Trauma: Explore various perspectives on trauma, including psychological, emotional, and physical manifestations.
- Big T vs. Little t Trauma: Differentiate between severe and less severe traumatic experiences, challenging the black-and-white categorization.
- The Importance of Individual Response: Emphasize that how a person responds to an event is crucial in determining the impact of trauma.
- Practical Tips for Practitioners: Provide guidance on if a client is appropriate to work with regarding their trauma and your experience with trauma training.
By the end of this episode, you will have a deeper understanding of trauma and its complexities, enabling you to approach the topic with greater empathy and sensitivity.
Feeling stuck in a one-size-fits-all coaching approach? This episode equips you with powerful strategies to coach to each client's strengths, fostering their own unique path to success.
Key Takeaways:
- Meet clients where they are: Create a safe space, embrace flexibility, and adapt to their needs.
- Unleash their inner power: Discover how NLP helps you tailor communication and empower clients with choice.
- Build a client-centric strategy: Explore the "and" approach, fostering creative solutions and self-reliance.
- Make EFT tapping accessible: Learn strategies to encourage daily tapping that your client creates, even with limited time.
- Create a heart-centered practice: Build trust with unconditional respect (by meeting them where they are and not trying to change their story) is key!
Ready to ditch the basic coaching and help your clients get real results? Tune in and learn how to unlock their potential!
Are you tired of positive affirmations that just don't seem to stick? Struggling to overcome that nagging fear or limiting belief holding you back? In this episode, we address the idea that acknowledging the negative is the key to change. We'll explore the surprising power of EFT tapping, a technique that uses gentle tapping on specific points while focusing on your negative emotions.
Learn why addressing the "bad stuff" is actually crucial for lasting transformation. We'll delve into EFT tapping and how it can help you:
- Process and release negative emotions
- Break free from limiting beliefs and unlock your full potential
We'll also address common concerns and show you how this simple technique can become your secret weapon for creating positive change in your life. So, leave the forced positivity and get ready to tap into a new level of emotional well-being and transformation!
This episode tackles the essential but sometimes tricky topic of boundaries for coaches. We explore how establishing clear boundaries protects your time, energy, and well-being, ultimately leading to better service for your clients.
The podcast dives into common boundary challenges coaches face, from client expectations around communication to session creep. We then offer practical tips for setting healthy boundaries, including clear communication in coaching agreements and respecting your scheduled time.
The episode emphasizes that boundaries aren't selfish - they're crucial for preventing coach burnout and fostering a more effective coaching relationship. It highlights the importance of offering alternative resources to support clients outside of sessions.
We wrap up by discussing the benefits of clear boundaries for both coaches and clients, including improved client outcomes and a more sustainable coaching practice.
This episode tackled the ever-present challenge of dealing with difficult clients in a coaching practice. The importance of self-coaching was highlighted as a way to manage one's own emotions and approach clients with composure. Mindfulness practices were suggested as tools for self-awareness.
The episode then emphasized the importance of setting boundaries, particularly around time management and scope of practice. Knowing when to refer clients outside your area of expertise was also discussed.
Letting go of challenging clients was presented as a viable option when the relationship isn't working for either party. Signs to watch for include disrespect, personality clashes, or resistance to change.
Additional tips included active listening, focusing on solutions, maintaining clear communication, and keeping detailed notes.
By incorporating these tools and strategies, coaches can navigate difficult client interactions with more confidence and maintain a healthy coaching practice.
In this episode we delve into the importance of self-coaching for coaches themselves. While coaches spend a lot of time guiding others, self-coaching equips them with the tools to navigate the emotional demands of the profession and become even more effective.
The episode explores how self-coaching helps coaches:
- Manage their emotions: Techniques like EFT/Tapping allow coaches to stay calm and present even when clients bring up challenging topics.
- Deepen their understanding of coaching tools: By using the tools themselves, coaches gain a deeper understanding of their benefits and potential roadblocks, leading to clearer communication with clients.
- Work through problems faster: Self-coaching allows coaches to analyze their own challenges and identify limiting beliefs, leading to quicker solutions and improved coaching practices.
The episode also offers practical tips for getting started with self-coaching, including scheduling dedicated reflection time, journaling, and practicing mindfulness. Overall, self-coaching is presented as an investment in a coach's well-being and a key to becoming a more effective coach for their clients.
Are You Really Listening to Your Clients? Master Active Listening & Elevate Your Coaching! Feeling like your coaching conversations are missing something? The secret weapon might be active listening!
Today we explore:
- Why active listening is the often-overlooked superpower for coaches.
- How truly hearing your clients unlocks deeper connections and breakthroughs. (and how jumping to solutions can hurt your relationship)
- Powerful techniques to become a master of active listening in your coaching sessions. (Like reading their body language!)
Take your coaching to the next level! Listen now to get tips on how to start mastering the skill of active listening!
Feeling Stuck? Unlock Your Potential with Powerful Coaching Questions! Having trouble getting your cliens the results they're looking for? Join us on the latest episode of the Self Coaching for Success podcast where we explain the benefits of powerful coaching questions and how they can unlock a world of wonder and curiousity for yourself and your clients.
In this episode, you'll learn:
- Why the right questions are the key to self-discovery and growth.
- How to use powerful questions to challenge limiting beliefs and spark new ideas.
- Practical examples of powerful questions you can start using today!
Perfect for new coaches and experienced coaches.
If you're not asking how, you're not taking the shortcut. Listen in to find out why!
Do Coaches Need Coaches? Explore Integrity, Transformation & Finding the Right Fit This episode tackles the question: should coaches have coaches? Melissa moves beyond the yes-or-no answer and explore the concept of a coach's integrity – honesty and transparency being key to building trust with clients.
The focus then shifts to achieving transformation for clients, rather than a coach needing to perfectly embody what they teach. Melissa uses a humorous dog trainer analogy to illustrate this point.
But wait, there's more! The episode also dives into:
- Ethics in Coaching: Melissa discusses the importance of finding a good fit with a coach and avoiding those who pressure clients or lack proper training (like trauma-informed coaching).
- Benefits of Coaching for Coaches: Learn how a coach can help you with growth mindset, accountability, and overcoming blind spots.
- Finding the Perfect Coach: Melissa provides tips on researching potential coaches and scheduling consultations for a good fit.
Remember: The decision to have a coach is personal. Focus on finding someone with integrity who can deliver the results you seek.
This episode focuses on helping coaches guide their clients through plateaus. Host Melissa Etzler offers various strategies and emphasizes the importance of tailoring the approach to the individual client.
Key Points:
- Identify the Goal: A clear destination is crucial. Use a metaphor (e.g., GPS) to illustrate how a defined goal helps navigate the coaching journey.
- Embrace the Subconscious: Hypnosis can be a tool to access the subconscious and envision future success.
- Uncover Limiting Beliefs: Identify the fears or doubts holding the client back. This may involve asking clarifying questions and listening intently.
- Evaluation: Encourage clients to reflect on progress using a three-step approach: what went well, what went wrong, and what will they do differently next time?
- Tapping Exercise: A short tapping routine is included to address feelings of being stuck.
This episode dives into the importance of emotional intelligence (EQ) for coaches. Host Melissa Etzler explains why EQ is a crucial skill to develop and offers practical tips on how to build it.
Key Points:
- EQ is essential for creating a safe space for clients and guiding them effectively.
- Emotions are what drive us. By understanding emotions (both yours and your clients'), you can better connect and support them.
- Building EQ involves acknowledging and feeling your emotions, not just thinking about them.
- The episode offers a Tapping exercise to help process emotions.
This episode explores why positive affirmations alone might not be enough to change your beliefs. Melissa discusses memory reconsolidation, a neurological process that allows you to update old memories and their emotional impact.
As a coach yourself, it's important to understand the underlying process that is innate to everyone's brain when change takes place. This way you can effectively work with your clients ensuring you're making progress towards their results.
Here's what you'll learn:
- Why positive affirmations can struggle to compete with established negative beliefs.
- What memory reconsolidation is and how it can help you change your emotional response to past experiences.
- How techniques like EFT tapping can be used to facilitate memory reconsolidation.
- Tips for overcoming doubt and effectively using EFT tapping.
Bonus: Melissa also shares a free tapping script to help you address doubt about tapping's effectiveness.
This episode explores the importance of setting boundaries and saying no, even when it feels uncomfortable.
Why Saying No Matters:
- Saying no to things that don't align with you allows you to say yes to yourself and your priorities.
- It reduces stress and prevents burnout.
- It empowers you to make decisions based on your intuition and values.
Overcoming Fear and Guilt of Saying No:
- Melissa shares a personal story about learning to say no to requests.
- Fear of rejection and upsetting others are common reasons people hesitate to say no.
- The episode acknowledges the initial discomfort of saying no, but assures listeners it can get easier with practice.
How Tapping Can Help:
- EFT tapping is introduced as a tool to release guilt and fear associated with saying no.
- Melissa provides two tapping scripts:
- One to address the fear of saying no.
- Another to address the guilt that might arise after saying no.
Grab your free Stress Management Guide for High Achieving Entrepreneurs here!
This episode of the podcast dives into the importance of staying grounded, especially for coaches, therapists, and other service providers who work closely with client energy.
Why Grounding Matters:
- You constantly interact with other people's energy, which can be draining.
- Working with personal development involves emotional intensity and requires you to be present for your clients.
Tips for Staying Grounded:
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Schedule Management:
- Space out client sessions to avoid feeling rushed or overwhelmed.
- Consider your personal capacity for client intensity and adjust your schedule accordingly.
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Self-Care Practices:
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Take short breaks between sessions for hydration, snacks, and mental decompression.
- Utilize grounding techniques like deep breathing, meditation, or EFT tapping.
- Move your body! Physical activity helps clear energetic buildup.
Additional Insights:
- Staying grounded allows you to be more present and effective with your clients.
- It prevents burnout and helps you maintain a healthy work-life balance.
Bonus: EFT Tapping Script for Grounding
The episode ends with a tapping script specifically designed to help you feel grounded and present.
Grab your Stress Management Guide for High Achieving Entrepreneurs here!
Feeling overwhelmed by endless business decisions? This episode equips you with powerful tools to combat decision fatigue and make choices faster and with more confidence.
Here's what you'll learn:
- The Impact of Decision Fatigue: Explore how the constant stream of business decisions can drain your mental energy and hinder your productivity.
- 3 Techniques to Overcome Decision Fatigue:
- NLP Visualization: Learn a Neuro-Linguistic Programming technique to stop overthinking and grab the first decision that pops up.
- "Stop the List" Strategy: Break free from overwhelming to-do lists by simply choosing the first task that comes to mind.
- Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Tapping: Try my tapping script to address the emotional roadblocks that prevent you from making clear decisions.
Bonus Tip: Learn a simple "Yes/No" decision-making framework to quickly choose whether or not to accept business opportunities.
- Free Stress Management Guide: Grab Melissa's free guide to learn the basics of EFT tapping and gain valuable tools for managing stress as a high-achieving entrepreneur.
- GRAB IT HERE
Overall, this episode empowers you to overcome decision fatigue, make choices that align with your goals, and take action to move your business forward.
Having more than an amazing strategy is so important especially when obstacles come up or just life in general.
Being able to keep moving forward towards the results you want no matter what life throws at you, gives you a much better chance at achieving that result.
Some strategies that work well for others may not work for you. And that's okay. What you need to do is find a strategy that you love and makes sense for your results and your business.
Being convicted in your business result will help any strategy work wonders!
Building relationships can help you grow your business. Referrals are a powerful tool you can use! The best way is to build relationships that last.
In this episode, you'll learn why it's important to build relationships and how.
Being authentic, showing up, and just being yourself is the best way to create amazing relationships that will have clients coming back and referring you to their friends and family like crazy!
Having these three beliefs will guarantee you'll be showing up like the business owner you've always wanted to be.
Nobody will be able to keep you down, motivation will always be there, you'll be able to keep your focus and stay consistent.
These three beliefs can carry you throughout your business. So keep work on these as the foundation of your business so your business works for you, not the other way around.
You can't change what you don't know is wrong. With self awareness you can become aware of what your true limiting beliefs are, the thing that is standing in your way of showing up as the business owner you want to be.
You'll learn the best method for becoming aware of your thoughts and using it in the moment the choose how you want to react to the situation you're facing.
With self awareness you'll be able to tackle your problems with dignity and grace.
Having your own back will change your entire life. The way you speak to yourself, the way you speak to others, the way you show up in your business.
It will create confidence for you knowing you always have your own back, no matter what.
When you learn to love yourself and commit to who you are at your core, you'll love the life you build for yourself and your business too.
Failure doesn't have to be a bad word.
Making mistakes doesn't have to be bad.
Making mistakes and "failing" can look like stepping stones to the very thing you're after.
The more you fail, the more you'll learn, and the more experience you'll have to express to others.
You're capable of so much!
Staying motivated doesn't have to be hard.
Finding that reason that keeps you heading straight to your goal will help you stay on track even when you don't feel like it.
This episode will enlighten you on what you can choose to focus on to keep up your motivation.
As humans we're all driven by our emotions, to seek pleasure and avoid pain. So, which one are you drive by? Love or fear?
It's time to align with your favorite client!
The client you LOVE to work with. Focusing on them will attract more of them to you.
Remember, not everyone is for everyone. So focusing on the people who WANT what you have to offer is the BEST way to grow your business and attract more clients.
Aligning yourself with your goal doesn't have to be hard.
I know that so many people see what they want but aren't sure how to get there.
This podcast helps enlighten you on how you can align yourself with your goal.
This podcast helps you figure this out for yourself so you never have to worry about HOW to align with your goal again.
The best way to grow your business is to grow your business for you.
Making hard decisions, showing up even when you're scared or don't want to, focusing on actions that will take you further (not make you more frustrated).
That is the best way to grow your business. And you'll love every minute of it. (Okay maybe not EVERY minute but you will LOVE it more than where you are now, I can promise you that).
If you have a goal for your business, your business needs a reboot.
You need to be a different level CEO when you hire employees rather than a solopreneur.
You'll learn about your fears and how to overcome them so nothing will come in the way of your business goal.
Are you ready? Sign up here
How do you want to show up in business?
This episode will help you get clear about who you want to be when you show up.
When you feel more comfortable, you feel more confident. Be curious about how you can take the next step today to show up as the person you want to be!
Are you dreaming big? Truly dreaming big?
It's time to start discovering what your dreams of contributing to the world are take action from that place. Live in the feeling of possibility that it is going to happen and you'll take action every day to support your dreams.
You can live in that feeling of having that million dollar business right now, that feeling will fuel you to make decisions and take actions as if you are the million dollar CEO.
Habits are what you make them, good or bad. So when we decide we have bad habits, we may want to change them into something that serves our life and purpose better.
In this episode you'll learn how to stop your bad habits for good.
Apply this process for the next month and see what happens in your life and business.
Positive Affirmations can and do work you just have to know the right way to use them!
No more forgetting to practice or not seeing any real results.
You'll learn 3 tips that will ensure success when wanting to believe any positive affirmation.
You can have the life you want, and this is how you can do it.
Do you struggle with money beliefs? What if you didn't even know you did?
This episode will shed some light on some areas of your money mindset you may not have thought of so you can create the business of your dreams, with the bank account to match.
It's time to take control of your money and that begins with you after listening to this podcast.
Inside this episode is the best way to learn how to focus so you can create more time for yourself.
I know how hard it is to focus to only find myself distracted and wasting a lot of my time not being productive.
It doesn't have to be that way and this podcast shares with you how.
You'll be able to get more done, spend quality time with your family and enjoy the process along the way.
Self Coaching is what is going to take your life to the next level.
With self coaching you'll be able to prepare for everything, even the unplanned.
Start discovering who you are and why self coaching is the thing that's going to take your life to the next level.
You take massive action is when you love your reason why and believe in your heart this is what is meant for you.
1-5 years is nothing compared to the rest of your life. It's time to start living your life every day for you. Taking massive action for something you love is fulfilling and fun! Life is what you make it.
Follow the 4 step wrap up to start taking massive action to reach your desired goals.
What is work life balance?
Dream big and allow yourself to look past limiting beliefs so you can have the life of your dreams.
You're worthy of knowing how to change your life and create something you love because it is possible and it is possible for you.
This episode is for YOU!
Setting professional boundaries is so important. It's important for your lively-hood and also important for your clients to understand what to expect.
You can also use boundaries with your employees for what's appropriate for your business.
You'll learn a great way to create, enforce, and stick to your professional boundaries.
If you're having trouble STAYING organized, this is for you. You'll finally know how you can get organized and stay organized.
Because when you're organized with your home, you can be organized with your mind.
That means more time doing what you love and less time worrying about a messy desk or receipts every where.
Following through can be hard. There's always something better we could be doing, isn't there?
This week I share with you ways you can follow through with yourself and become accountable to yourself, no buddy or the like!
By learning how to be self-accountable you can take your life and business to a whole new level!
Learn the easiest way to manage your time so you get more done and have more free time,
It's possible when you have self-accountability and are willing to stick to your schedule.
Get the courage to show up every day as the person you want to be, the person that is committed to their business.
You won't want to miss ALL the questions I give you in this episode, answer them all and you will literally blow your own mind!
When we're stuck in a state of overthinking, we're spending all our time, overthinking.
By interrupting your overthinking and asking yourself if those thoughts are serving you, you can say goodbye to overthinking.
No more sitting in hours of what if's or but's.
Make powerful decisions and keep moving towards you goals.
Believing in yourself makes all the difference. Are you thinking like the CEO you want to be?
It's time to start loving yourself so much you believe you can take on your impossible dreams.
It's possible for you to have the business you want. It's possible for you to have the life you want.
Setting goals is so much fun. But what happens when we need to get to work to achieve them?
It's one thing to set goals but it's another to achieve them. When you set goals that are meant for YOU, nothing will stop you from achieving them.
Stop getting caught up in details that don't matter right now and stay flexible. Take action towards what's going to get you further to your true goal.
Your mindset is your most important asset. To your life, to your business, to your success.
I know you're asking "Why is it so important and HOW can I start using it to my benefit?"
In this episode, I give you questions you can ask yourself everyday to improve your mindset.
Stop letting negative thoughts rule your life and take control of your best asset: YOU.
We make hundreds of decisions every single day whether we're aware of it or not.
This episode will give you insight into how you can harness the power of decision making.
You'll be able to use this for your life and business because how we do one thing, is how we do everything!
As humans, our brains love to answer questions. It's what moves us forward as a species.
But there's a phrase we use that can hold us back from even trying something new.
This episode will help you see how this phrase can keep you stuck in the same spot you desperately want to get out of.
Imposter syndrome can suck but it's just a label we give ourselves when we feel inadequate.
In this episode, I share a little bit about how our brains work (because knowing this helps us make sense of why we think the way we do, therefore being able to change it).
You'll get great insight from someone who felt like an imposter most of her life (me!).
I'm giving you a story that will explain how the primitive/reptilian brain works that control your stress response.
This ALL connects to your business because let's face it, running a business can be stressful!
But that's just life. When we realize it, we can control it and give the response that serves our lives better.
We can view our situations how we want.
I share with you great tips in this episode on how you can manage your stress.
If you're having trouble finding a solid coaching system that works efficiently AND effectively then I have the thing for you.
Our Life Coach Tool Kit is essential for all coaches that want to focus on serving their clients, not trying to figure out what actually works!
Take the guess work out of sessions and feel confident knowing you know how to make change happen.
Being happy is something I think we all want. To feel good. Content and safe.
But how can we get there? I mean, truly? What is happiness and how can we achieve it?
This episode will shed some light on how to feel better on a day to day basis.
You'll be able to apply this to your business immediately!
Loving your work is so important to its success.
When you compare your results with how you're running your business, ask yourself if they align.
Can you achieve those results in business?
We all want to get results and running a business requires work.
So it's important you choose what you like and understand you can change what you don't.
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