Hope for Spouses: Recent Episodes
Kim Pullen
If you are suffering in the wake of your spouse's adultery or sexual addiction, you will find a supportive community here.
Hope for Spouses is a ministry focused on nurturing and growing in intimacy with God and a safe circle of others. As the betrayed, we chose not to be victims but to own our healing, recovery, and ability to thrive regardless of our spouse's choices.
Kim Pullen is the host of Hope for Spouses. Thriving in a 30-year marriage traumatized by adultery and a four-year separation, Kim shares hope and healing with spouses who feel isolated due to sexual sin in their relationship, but don't know how or where to begin their journey.
Why do some betrayed spouse’s make deliberate choices to set boundaries in their broken marriage and move toward healing while others live in a prolonged state of dysfunction, desperately trying to fix their spouse and/or their marriage?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how hitting our “pain threshold” makes all the difference in recovery. Kim will define what a pain threshold is, factors that affect it, why we change or resist, and who we can make choices to bring about peace and active healing regardless of the choices our unfaithful spouse makes.
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Join the Hope for Spouse’s Network at https://hopeforspouses.network
Schedule your call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Learn more about Hope for Spouses, our recovery programs, and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
- Hebrews 2:10, 18
- Hebrews 12:7-11
- Romans 5:3-4
- James 5:16
- Matthew 23:27-28
- Hebrews 11:6
- Psalm 1:1-2
Being alone on a deserted Pacific island with your spouse may have once been a fantasy vacation, but in the wake of betrayal, has your isolation become a living nightmare?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen answers the questions of why we isolate and explore the dangers of isolation. She also discusses why we need others in the recovery process, and how we can identity safe people to whom we can be open and vulnerable.
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Join the Hope for Spouse’s Network at https://hopeforspouses.network
Schedule your call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Learn more about Hope for Spouses, our recovery programs, and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
1 Peter 5:8
Proverbs 14:12
1 Corinthians 12:21-26
Genesis 1:26
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
In the wake of your spouse’s betrayal and disclosure, are you forging toward a healthy future, or are you desperate to preserve a phantom past?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what it looks like to live on the defensive in your marriage, why we do it, and how we can recognize if we are clinging to an illusion.
She also shares how we can get on a healthy offensive by building an intimate relationship with God, getting out of isolation and into a safe community, and how we need a strategy for healing instead of randomly trying a variety of tools or stumbling around in the dark.
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Join the Hope for Spouse’s Network at https://hopeforspouses.network
Schedule your call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Learn more about Hope for Spouses, our recovery programs, and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
- 2 Corinthians 7:10-11
- Ephesians 5:25-30
- Proverbs 31:11, 28-29
- Acts 18:24-26
- Song of Songs
- Ephesians 5:22-30
- John 12:24
- Isaiah 43:18-19
- Luke 15
- 2 Kings 17, 24-25
- Matthew 13:44
- Genesis 1:26
- 1 Corinthians 12:21-26
Article: “39 Shocking Sexual Addiction Recovery Statistics” from Health Research Funding
What do you do when you find out your spouse is consistently watching porn and minimizes it when you ask them about it? It’s not uncommon to hear, “All guys watch porn. It’s normal. You’re just a prude. You’re just trying to control me.”
In this episode the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the myth of the “little problem” that many spouses have with porn and the devastation it’s reaping in marriages today. She’ll talk about the impact of our spouse’s porn use on our children, how God feels about sexual impurity, and what the Bible says we can do to address the sin. Finally, Kim will share what you can do to find your own healing regardless of your spouse’s choice to repent or change.
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Join the Hope for Spouse’s Network at https://hopeforspouses.network
Schedule your call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Learn more about Hope for Spouses, our recovery programs, and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
- Isaiah 5:20
- Psalm 101:3
- 1 Corinthians 5:9-13
- Galatians 6:1
- Ephesians 5:11
- Ezekiel 3:18
- Matthew 18:15-17
- Matthew 5:29-30
- Hebrews 13:4
- Luke 4:18
- Acts 26:20
- 1 John 3:18
- 2 Corinthians 7:10-11
Article:
Watching pornography rewires the brain to a more juvenile state
Learn more about the devastation of pornography on relationships at https://fightthenewdrug.org/get-the-facts/
If you know or you’ve suspected your spouse has been unfaithful or is a sexual addict and you haven’t acted on that knowledge or suspicion, did you know your inaction may be costing you more than you realize?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how destructive paralysis can be in the wake of our spouse’s betrayal, and what our past, present, and future costs are for not taking action. She’ll also talk about the different between futile action and faithful, fruitful action.
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Schedule your call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Join our safe online community at https://hopeforspouses.network
Learn more about Hope for Spouses, our recovery programs, and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
- 2 Corinthians 7:10-11
- James 2:17, 4:17
- Genesis 2:16-17
- Deuteronomy 30:15-20
- Romans 12:2
- 2 Samuel 12:13
- Matthew 7:3-5
- 2 Peter 1:3-4
BOOK RECOMMENDATION:
The Body Keeps the Score by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk (https://amzn.to/38HrMi6)
In the wake of a spouse’s betrayal, many partners feel stuck, incapable of moving forward or backward in their life. Their trauma and the resultant shock, pain, and confusion leave them paralyzed.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about why we the betrayed can become emotionally and/or spiritually crippled, feeling like healing is out of reach or unavailable to us. She’ll also discuss how we can cease looking at books, counseling, and programs as saviors or magic bullets and instead learn how to utilize them as tools in a biblically based strategy or plan of action for recovery.
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Schedule your call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Join the Hope for Spouses safe online community at https://hopeforspouses.network
Learn more about Hope for Spouses and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
- John 5:1-9
- Proverbs 3:5-6
- James 2:20, 22
An addicted or unfaithful spouse isn’t the only person in our lives who may not be safe for us when we are trying to recovery from betrayal trauma. Often, family members, friends, and co-workers who have the best of intentions may unwittingly re-traumatize us with their noble but naïve hearts and advice.
So how do we recognize the difference between safe and unsafe people?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares a simple assessment strategy to easily identify “helpful” individuals who are unsafe to include in our intimate circle of advisers. She’ll also share how we can respond kindly and respectfully to unsafe friends and family as well as how to resist overwhelming safe individuals with our pain.
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Learn more about Hope for Spouses and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
Schedule a free breakthrough call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
Matthew 7:6-7
Matthew 10:11-13, 16
1 Samuel 16:7
James 1:19
Isaiah 42:3
1 Corinthians 12:22-26
Luke 16:10-12
Proverbs 22:3, 27:12
Ecclesiastes 4:9-10
Philippians 2:3
VIDEOS (three options):
How to Support Someone Who's Been Betrayed by their Spouse (https://youtu.be/hUWBejYezMI), 27 minutes
The Real Reason Betrayed Wives Come Across Like Raging Lunatics...And How to Respond, 42 minutes(https://youtu.be/SnsOZEDMcl4)
Betrayal & Grace: How Leaders & Laymen Can Support the Victims of Sexual Sin, 100 minutes(https://vimeo.com/480590408/1b664d8807)
RECOMMENDED BOOKS:
Leslie Vernick’s “The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” (https://amzn.to/34kvpZq)
Cloud & Townsend’s “Boundaries in Marriage" (https://amzn.to/3B76og0)
Stephen Arterburn’s “Worthy of Her Trust” (https://amzn.to/3rzRDza)
Are you tempted to rage at your unfaithful partner because of the injustice you feel at being betrayed or do you swing to the other extreme and feel compelled to turn a blind eye to their betrayal no matter how much it hurts you or damages your marriage?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the challenges of balancing justice and mercy after a marriage has been shattered by infidelity or sexual addiction. She examines how Jesus perfectly represented God’s character when confronting both a repentant and unrepentant sinner, and she shows how we can do the same with our spouse. Kim also addresses how the biblical ordering of our relationship with God and our spouse directly impacts the balance of justice and mercy in our marriage.
Scriptures References:
John 8:1-11
Leviticus 20:10-12
Hebrews 1:1-2
Colossians 2:9
Mark 10:17-22
2 Corinthians 7:10-11
Acts 26:20
1 John 3:18
Ephesians 5:11
Acts 3:19
Romans 12:10
Colossians 3:16
Ephesians 4:32
1 Thessalonians 5:11
James 5:16
Colossians 3:9
Matthew 22:30
Galatians 3:26-28
Ephesians 2:19-20
Mark 3:31-35
Ephesians 5:25
1 Corinthians 12:12-24
Luke 14:25-33
Deuteronomy 30:19-20
7 Ways to Know If Your Sexually Addicted Spouse is Really Changed - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oY9ziTHN4fo&t=256s
How to Know When an Addict or Adulterer is Telling the Truth
https://youtu.be/o-B7pHzz0KE
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Learn more about Hope for Spouses and all our available resources at https://hopeforspouses.com
Schedule a free breakthrough call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
What is the difference between being comforted in the wake of our spouse’s sexual betrayal and pursuing comfort in our recovery?
It doesn’t seem fair that we as Christian spouses have to bear the pain and humiliation of our spouse’s sexual betrayal! We’ve been wounded and everything in us seeks to be comforted in our pain. And God does comfort us. The danger comes when we forget that when we chose to follow Jesus we gave up living for the comforts of this world.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the difference between being comforted and being comfortable. She also challenges followers of Jesus to remember the call of discipleship to deny ourselves and embrace the challenges of living in a sinful world. Finally, Kim shares practical examples of just what areas in our recovery we need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.
Scripture References:
1 Timothy 6:17
1 John 2:15
2 Corinthians 1:3-5
Isaiah 32:9-13
Luke 9:23-25
Luke 9:57-58
John 6:38
Acts 1-8
Matthew 28:20
Romans 12:2
1 Peter 2:11
John 17:14-16
John 12:24-26
Romans 12:1
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Schedule a free breakthrough call at https://hopeforspouses.com/call
In the devastating wake of our spouse’s sexual betrayal and emotional abuse or manipulation, our desperate longing for what could be in the future or what was good in the past can blind us to the reality of where our marriage is in the present.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouse’s Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses sentimentality, the wrecking ball of betrayal healing. Kim will define sentimentality, where it comes from, why we are so tempted to marinate in it, and how it blinds us to truth. She’ll also share how we can use God’s word and other sources to stay in truth so we can continue moving forward in our healing regardless of the choices our spouse makes.
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To learn more about how you can find hope in the healing in the wake of your spouse's sexual betrayal, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
How much time have you spent trying to figure out what your unfaithful or addicted spouse is thinking? Maybe you haven’t gotten to point where you realize not just it’s futility, but the hindrance it is to your own healing.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses three reasons a betrayed partner needs to stay in their own head instead of trying to get in their spouse’s. She talks about the physiological reasons but more importantly, she talks about the spiritual reasons why we need to stop obsessing over what our partner is thinking and focus on what God thinks and says, and on our own healing.
Scriptures References:
1 Corinthians 2:11
Psalm 139:1-4
Galatians 5:16
Philippians 2:4
Ephesians 4:17-24
John 21:22
Luke 13:1-5
Galatians 6:2-5
Romans 12:2
Colossians 3:9-10
1 Corinthians 2:6-16
Romans 8:6
John 12:49, 14:10, 17:8
1 Corinthians 3:1-3
Articles:
Two minds: The cognitive differences between men and women
https://stanmed.stanford.edu/2017spring/how-mens-and-womens-brains-are-different.html
Watching porn rewires the brain to a more juvenile state
https://theconversation.com/watching-pornography-rewires-the-brain-to-a-more-juvenile-state-127306
Image of the Three Brains:
https://hope4spouses.s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/brain+images+on+porn.jpg
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In the same way 9/11 rocked the US and changed things around the world, our life is similarly devastated when we realize the person we thought we could trust more than anyone else in the world has a secret life masturbating to porn and/or is having sex with others outside our marriage. It makes us doubt our own reality and question our value and identity.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares practical, biblical ways you can know if an unfaithful spouse is being truthful. She also shares the importance of facing our own truths as we move toward healing.
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If you’ve reached your pain threshold in the wake of your spouse’s betrayal, if you’re ready to get out of the insanity loop of doing the same thing over and over expecting different results, and if you’re ready to fully engage and invest in your healing with a biblical strategy, an experienced guide, and a community of safe others who “get it,” schedule a free breakthrough call: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
There are few things that can leave a betrayed spouse feeling as confused and foolish as missing an unrepentant sexually addicted or adulterous partner. Why O why then do we “miss” them when all they did was hurt us?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen gets to the root of what we think we miss about our spouse, what we really miss, and how we can get our need for emotionally and spiritually intimacy met through God and safe others in our lives.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
If you want to dive right into healing or a call with a stranger is too daunting, check out our iSeeU kickstart group coaching recovery program at https://iseeutoo.com
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time Wednesdays on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
You are obsessed with knowing everything about your unfaithful spouse’s infidelity or sexual addiction. But how much is really healthy and beneficial for you or for your marriage?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the debate over just how much “truth” we really need to know regarding our spouse’s sexual betrayal. She’ll share the biblical definition of “truth”, how that definition fits into the context of a betrayed marriage, and offer biblical guidance on how a broken and betrayed partner can make spiritually wise and emotionally healthy choices about exactly what would help her move toward healing.
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In the Old Testament (Hebrew):
- The word for truth is émeth and it is synonymous with faithfulness and reliability, sureness, in the right way (Gen 24:28).
- In the Psalms, it is repeatedly translated as “Your truth” or “His Truth” – referring to God’s ownership of it (Psalm 115:1, 108:4, 91:4, 86:11, 71:22, 138:2)
- ·And in Proverbs like 8:7, truth is connected with the personification of called “Wisdom”.
In the New Testament (Greek) “the” truth takes on an identity of its own that is synonymous with Jesus, the gospel, and holiness:
- NOUN - alḗtheia – properly, truth (true to fact), reality. (John 8:32)
- NOUN - epignósis – precise, correct, and “true” knowledge; the knowledge of things ethical and divine, especially the knowledge of God’s holy will and of the blessings which he has bestowed and constantly bestows on men through Christ. (Romans 1:28, Ephesians 4:13, Colossians 3:10, 1 Tim 2:4, 25, 3:7, Titus 1:1, Heb 10:26, 2 Peter 2:20)
- VERB - hagiázō - "to make holy, consecrate, sanctify; to dedicate, separate from things profane"; to consecrate. (Hebrews 10:2:11, 10:29)
- ADJECTIVE - alēthḗs ("what can't be hidden") stresses undeniable reality when something is fully tested, i.e. it will ultimately be shown to be fact (authentic). (John 6:55, Philippians 4:8)
- VERB - alētheúō (literally, "to truth") includes Spirit-led confrontation where it is vital to tell the truth so others can live in God's reality rather than personal illusion. (Gal 4:16, Eph 4:15)
- ADVERB - alēthṓs – truly; in accord with fact, i.e. demonstrably valid and therefore genuine (reflecting true reality). (Matthew 27:54, Luke 12:44)
Additional Scriptures shared in the lesson:
- John 8:31-32
- John 14:8
- John 18:37-38
- 1 Cor 12:23-24
- 1 Cor 6:12
- Ecclesiastes 7:16-18
- Matthew 10:16
- Jeremiah 16:17
- Philippians 1:9-11, 4:8
Three questions:
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Do I want to know so I can feel in control? (Romans 8:5-8)
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Will this knowledge move me toward healing and eventual reconciliation or toward more trauma and dysfunction? (Is it best? Phil 1:9-11)
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Will it help me to become more like Jesus in righteousness and holiness? (2 Cor 3:18)
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Have you set up “boundaries” in your broken marriage only to have your unfaithful or sexually addicted spouse buck you at every turn?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen tackles the challenges of setting and maintaining boundaries with a resistant spouse and addresses the vital foundation for healthy boundaries, their purpose, and who we should and shouldn’t talk to about them. She also offers some practical tips on setting boundaries as well as revealing the biblical anchor we need to withstand the storm of our spouse’s resistance to change.
[Please note that any direction given here is for a broken marriage; not a dangerous one. If you are in danger, please call 911 or contact the National Domestic Abuse Hotline (thehotline.org) immediately.]
Scriptures used in this episode:
Matthew 11:28-29
1 Peter 3:7
John 3:19-21
James 4:17
Ephesians 5:3-5
1 Corinthians 6:18-20
1 Corinthians 2:14
Matthew 7:6
James 3:17
Jeremiah 17:9
Ephesians 6:10-13
2 Corinthians 5:16
Colossians 3:1-2
2 Corinthians 10:3-5
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
How can we apply God’s call “be still” in Psalm 46:10 when our sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse refuses to change and refuses to give us the space to heal?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the often-misunderstood topic of waiting on God. Sharing from her own life, Kim will discuss what “be still” means in the context of Scripture, what it doesn’t mean, and practical ways we can apply it in our broken marriage.
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Scriptures used in this episode [Please review and meditate on to build your own convictions]:
Psalm 46:10
Matthew 25:26
James 4:17
Exodus 14:13
2 Kings 6:15-18
Joshua 5:16-6:20
Ephesians 6:13-18
2 Chronicles 20
Psalm 46-48
Isaiah 55:8-9
2 Corinthians 12:7
Galatians 5:2-5
Ephesians 5:3-7
2 Timothy 3:1-7
1 Peter 3:1-2
Luke 24:11-12
Ephesians 5:25-28
1 Peter 3:7
Hebrews 13:4
Ephesians 5:3-7
Galatians 5:19-21
2 Timothy 3:1-7
Revelations 21:8
Psalm 47:7
Psalm 100:3
Isaiah 54:5
Matthew 22:30
John 12:48
2 Corinthians 5:10
Matthew 4:14-16
Matthew 23
John 6:31-47
Matthew 7:6
Matthew 10:14-16
2 Corinthians 2:14
Luke 15:11-24
Romans 1:24-28
1 Corinthians 5:5
Romans 12:2
1 Peter 5:6-10
Jeremiah 17:9
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
You’ve been separated either by your choice or your spouse’s choice due to their unrepentant infidelity or addiction to pornography. You’ve endured emotional abuse in the form of manipulation, gaslighting, passive-aggressiveness, fits of rage, defensiveness, or flagrant deceit.
So why in the world would you be tempted to invite your spouse back into your life and your home. Is there such a thing as premature reconciliation?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim shares about her own struggles with letting her unrepentant husband back into her life way too soon. She talks honestly what separation looks like, WHY it’s so tempting to give in, and the truth about what happens when we lower our boundaries (and God’s standard) prematurely. And she’ll share the truth about time, suffering, patience, and waiting on God.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
You’ve been recently separated from your sexually addicted spouse because of their unrepentance or your need for space to heal. But now what?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses, Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the mental, emotional and physical steps we need to take to heal in the wake of separation from a sexual addicted partner. Using experience from her own four-year separation and the scriptures, Kim shares how to recognize and accept your current emotional health, the healthiest people to surround yourself with, and how to set preliminary boundaries. She’ll also share the primary areas in your life to focus on as you begin to navigate your healing journey.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
I thought separation was the beginning of the end of my marriage. I couldn’t have been more wrong.
In this special episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim intimately shares her painful healing journey through four years of separation due to her husband’s adultery. By example and through scripture, she also shows how only when a man or woman are complete in God independently can they complement each other the way God intended and build a healthy, intimate marriage that weathers the inevitable storms of life.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
Need a community of like-minded friends on their own journey of healing? Join our private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hopeforspouses/
For more information, go to https://hopeforspouses.com
Since you discovered your spouse’s sexual betrayal, have you been made to feel like you’re worthless? Has your spouse laid the blame for their unfaithful choices at your feet? Are you confused and frustrated because you’ve done all you knew to do and it’s still not “good enough?”
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how and where the world—and even sometimes the church—tells us to get our value, how that message impacts a marriage broken by sexual sin and how it specifically impacts the betrayed partner.
Kim will also discuss how we can change the unbiblical messages we have been listening to and how we can look to God to reclaim the value and worth we have always had.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Who or what are you living for—your spouse, your marriage, your God, or yourself? Did you know your relationship with an unfaithful spouse can reveal some ulterior motives in your relationship with God?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares the four postures of a relationship with God from Sky Jethani’s book, “With”—Life FROM God, Life OVER God, Live FOR God and Live UNDER God—with our relationship with a sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse.
Using the scriptures, she’ll also examine how secret motives can derail the best of intentions, questions we can ask to determine our posture, and why living intimately WITH God and a righteous and repentant spouse is the only life worth living.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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How long have you been waiting for your unfaithful or sexual addicted spouse to change? Does it feel like you constantly get your hopes up only to have them dashed? Are you repeated asking yourself (and God), “Why is this taking so long?”
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses why recovery of our unfaithful spouse (and ourselves) takes so much longer than we want it to, the factors that impact recovery time, and how a betrayed spouse can develop reasonable and healthy expectations to either patiently wait for the long haul or make the choice to separate or divorce.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
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BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS:
"Don't Call It Love" by Dr. Patrick Carnes
https://amzn.to/31BT2as
"How People Grow" by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend
https://amzn.to/3aeFrtm
"7 Desires" by Mark Laaser
https://amzn.to/2FcBjid
"The Body Keeps the Score" by Bessel van der Kolk
https://amzn.to/2PGaaGl
Untangling Addiction" by Dr. Marco Decarvalho
https://renew.org/ebook/untangling-addiction/
SCRIPTURE REFERENCES:
2 Cor 6:14-16
John 1:1
Malachi 3:6
Proverbs 14:15
James 4:6
1 Peter 5:6
2 Cor 7:10-11
John 3:19-21
Ephesians 4:22-24
2 Samuel 12
Jeremiah 23:1
1 Cor 6:15
Prov 6:25-28
1 Timothy 4:7
1 John 1:6-7
James 3:2
Romans 5:5-8
Matthew 5:23-24
Romans 12:2
John 21:21-22
Luke 13:1-5
James 1:22-25
John 2:23-24
Proverbs 4:23
1 Cor 12:21-26
2 Peter 1:5-8
A vast number of today’s Christian wives have bought into a foundational biblical fallacy—they are the secret keepers of their spouse’s sexual sin, no matter how much damage it does to their family and the church. It’s time to look at the scriptures contextually and bring this ancient misunderstanding into the light.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will define biblical disclosure, the real reasons most wives are reluctant to bring their husband’s sins into the light, and what that says about God’s place in our lives.
She’ll also talk about why standing in the light—and calling our spouse into it as well—is the most loving thing we can do for ourselves, our children, and an unrepentant partner.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
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I encourage all viewers and listeners to please review each of today’s SCRIPTURE REFERENCES on your own so you can take action based on your OWN convictions:
Proverbs 31:12
Matthew 18:15-17
2 Corinthians 7:10-11
Acts 26:20
1 John 3:18
Psalm 101:3
Matthew 5:28
Ephesians 5:3
Genesis 2:18
Ezekiel 18:20
1 Corinthians 5:5-7
1 Corinthians 12:26
1 Corinthians 6:15
Joshua 7
Ephesians 5:7
1 Timothy 3:5
1 Corinthians 5:11
Ephesians 4:17-25
Psalm 90:8
Hebrews 4:13
1 Timothy 5:24
Proverbs 12:22
1 John 1:5-7
James 4:17
Matthew 10:28
Mark 12:30-31
Matthew 10:37-39
Luke 14:25-26
Deuteronomy 5:7
Matthew 7:12
Revelation 21:8
2 Samuel 12:13
Matthew 1:18-21
Acts 5:1-10
Galatians 2:11-16
1 Corinthians 5:1-11
Matthew 16:22-23
John 13:26-30
2 Corinthians 5:16
Philippians 1:9-10
Do the expectations of being a Christian wife to a sexual addict or an adulterer feel impossible to live up to? Maybe it’s because you have inadvertently taken your definition of a godly wife from the wrong source.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will expose the fantasy wife and how even the church has been complicit in creating this unattainable role. She’ll also talk about what a faithful wife is biblically, and how you can personally use the scriptures to redefine your role in a marriage broken by sexual sin.
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Article: Why Did God Allow Polygamy in the Bible - https://www.gotquestions.org/polygamy.html
Jesus’ relationship with women:
Mary, his mother - John 2, 19:25-27 – first to know of the Messiah’s coming
Peter’s Mother-in-Law – Matt 5:35-43
Widow of Nain – Luke 7:11-17
The Crippled Woman – Luke 13:10-17
Martha sister of Lazarus – John 11
Mary, sister of Lazarus, who anointed him - John 12:1-8
Salome, Susanna and James’ Mother - Mark 15:40-41, Luke 8:2-3 - Women who supported Jesus in his ministry
Samaritan Woman at the well - John 4:1-26,39-42 – first person to whom he revealed himself to be the Messiah
Bleeding Woman - Mark 5:25-34
Joanna, Mary the wife of Cleopas and others – Luke 24:1-10 - Women at the cross/tomb
Sinful Woman - Luke 7:36-50
Woman Caught in Adultery - John 8:1-11
Women on Golgotha road - Lk 23:28
Widow Giving Her Offering – Mark 12:41-44
Syrophoencian Woman – Matthew 15:21-28
Mary Magdalen risen - Mk 16:9 - first person to see him
Link to Dove Commercial (“No wonder our perception of beauty is distorted”) - https://youtu.be/wpM499XhMJQ
Book Recommendation: “Misreading Scripture with Western Eyes” by E. Randolph Richards and Brandon J. O’Brien- https://amzn.to/2EvnACP
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Is your unfaithful or sexually addicted spouse defensive, manipulative, or argumentative? Do they deflect and make YOU the primary problem in the marriage instead of owning their sexual sin? Does it feel like you can’t find a “handhold” in a single conversation because they constantly turn the tables on you?
Maybe it’s time to set some healthy COMMUNICATION boundaries.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the purpose and motives for setting boundaries, why safety is the key component to establishing emotional boundaries, and the difference between physical boundaries and communication boundaries.
She’ll also talk about how you can avoid crazy-making conversations by practically applying communication boundaries with your partner, and how you can create a trigger-free, trauma-free space to transform unhealthy habits into godly ones.
Book recommendations:
“When to Walk Away” by Gary Thomas
“The Emotionally Destructive Marriage” by Leslie Vernick
“The Body Keeps the Score” by Bessel Van der Kolk
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
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We pray for God to change our unfaithful, unrepentant spouse and then wonder why it doesn’t happen. Is God there? Does he care? Doesn’t he promise he will give us anything we ask for in prayer?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about our incorrect assumptions about prayer, the truth about God’s eternal character, and how we can have accurate and biblical expectations in our broken marriage. She’ll also address how we can align our will, purpose, goal, and mission to match God’s even in a marriage broken by sexual sin.
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Matthew 18:19, 21:22
Mark 11:24
John 14:13, 15:7, 15:16, 16:23–24
James 1:5–6, 17
1 John 3:22, 5:14–15
Ezekiel 36:26-27
Deuteronomy 30:15-20
Luke 9:58-62
John 6:60, 66
Mark 10:17-22
Romans 1:18-33
Exodus 9:12
Romans 9:18
Galatians 6:7-8
1 Peter 3:12
Psalm 56:8
Hebrews 12:4-11
Isaiah 55:8-9
Romans 8:28
1 Timothy 2:4
Matthew 26:39
Luke 15:11-24
Isaiah 55:2
1 Samuel 25
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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When a marriage shattered by adultery or sexual addiction, too often the wife retreats into one of three roles: the sleuth, the paralytic, or the captive. The sleuth is obsessed with keeping track of her unfaithful partner’s every move. The paralytic is paralyzed by the fear of rejection, abandonment, and/or financial uncertainty. The captive is stuck in separation limbo with a faith that waxes and wanes like the tide.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses these three roles and the fourth role we must choose, that of Faithful Warrior. Kim will look at ten famous women warriors both outside and inside the Bible and offer four keys to being a righteous and courageous heroine in the most important story of all—God’s story.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Your unfaithful, unrepentant spouse doesn’t understand the concept of “boundaries” and consistently attempts to control, isolate, or manipulate you so you don’t know where you end and they begin. But in a desperate attempt to “save” a marriage, can a betrayed spouse violate their unfaithful partner’s boundaries as well? And if so, is it justified?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the necessity of boundaries in response to sexual betrayal, what those boundaries look like from a biblical perspective, and how to not let fear lead you into sin.
She’ll also talk about what violating other’s boundaries looks like, and how to invite healthy people into your “personal space” so you can start healing from marital betrayal and fulfill God’s ultimate purpose for your life.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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There’s an unspoken belief in the West about brokenness. Our culture preaches if we’re “broken,” we have no value or worth. Because we’re terrified of such a stigma, we tend to live in denial and say things like, “I’m not broken; I’m growing.”
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime live, Kim Pullen explores the scriptures to see how counter-cultural God is in this area of brokenness. We’ll see how can view ourselves as God does as well as revealing the blessings that come from admitting our brokenness and the beauty that follows in us in the wake of God’s favor.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Have you become so obsessed about catching your spouse in a lie or a sin that your health, concentration, family relationships, and productivity are suffering?
Have you become so distracted with your spouse that you are neglecting your own healing?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim shares 25 biblical reasons why the betrayed spouse of an unrepentant sexual addict or serial adulterer can leave her husband and her marriage in God’s hands and move on toward healing herself from the trauma associated with sexual sin.
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25 Biblical Reasons – Scripture References
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Jeremiah 23:23-24
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Job 34:21-22
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Luke 8:17
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Psalm 90:8
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Hebrews 4:13
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Luke 12:3
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Isaiah 59:2
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Psalm 66:18
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Galatians 6:7-8
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Proverbs 19:5
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Hebrews 13:4
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Proverbs 14:12
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Romans 2:13, 16
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Proverbs 28:13
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Matthew 12:36
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Jeremiah 17:10
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Matthew 7:6
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Romans 1:18
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Psalm 2:1, 4-5
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Romans 8:5-8
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1 Corinthians 4:5
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1 Timothy 5:24
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Revelations 3:19
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1 Timothy 2:3-4
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Luke 13:1-5
Additional Scriptures:
Mark 12:30-31
Matthew 7:21-23
James 1:19
Psalm 46:10
Romans 3:23
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Did you know the sins of your unfaithful spouse were also sins of many biblical characters?
Some critics discredit Scripture by claiming it as a work of men conspiring (over 1500 years) to promote the worship of a historical figure, namely Jesus. But the very fact the Bible so flagrantly exposes the shameful underbelly of the vast majority of its most beloved heroes proves the contrary.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen examines leaders like King Saul, Sampson, and Judas, and King David, Peter, and Paul, their sinful choices, and the consequences of those choices. From these examples, we can learn how to distinguish truth from lies and recognize repentance in our sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse so we can make informed, reasoned decisions about our staying, leaving, healing, and recovery in the wake of sexual betrayal.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Are you frustrated and confused because you were sure God told you to stay with your unfaithful and unrepentant spouse, but it’s been months or years and there’s still no change? Are you a believer having a hard time discerning the different “voices” in your head or “signs” in your life about what to do in your broken marriage?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen tackles the tough topic of how a betrayed spouse can discern, filter, and follow or discard the ambiguous thoughts, feelings, or coincidental circumstances we find ourselves in. She will also present three questions we can use to “test the spirits” to determine whether we are being compelled by our feelings or by our Father.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
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Are you frustrated because nothing you say gets through to your sexually addicted spouse? Are you heartsick with disappointment because they seem incapable of compassion or emotional support? Are you growing bitter over their inability to just tell you the truth?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about what is probably going on inside the heart and mind of your unrepentant spouse and what you can realistically expect and not expect from them. Kim will also talk about the glory and power of personal, biblical brokenness and why it’s the key to real healing, transformation, and lasting peace.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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There is a myth perpetuated by our western culture that we can find a quick and simple solution to everything, even the ridiculously difficult challenge of recovering from our spouse’s sexual betrayal.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen dispels the mythical magic bullet and shares the realities a betrayed spouse has to face, how we can change our thinking, and the two things we absolutely need to start down the road to real healing and transformation.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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“Sometimes I feel like a fool.” If that thought has ever passed through your mind in the wake of our spouse’s sexual betrayal, you’re not alone. Jesus challenged his followers to be as “shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.” How do we find that balance in a marriage broken by sexual sin?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares five signs of naivete and why being naïve with a sex addict or adulterer can be so dangerous.
She also shares how we can use God’s word to learn how to be wise so we can maintain our innocence in an evil world without compromising God’s standard for righteousness.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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You’ve felt it—that overwhelming compulsion to call, text, or track your spouse’s device to see where they are, where they’ve been, or who they’ve been talking to. The urge to police our unrepentant sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse can become so obsessive, our own mental, emotional and physical health can be put in jeopardy.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the motivations behind “keeping tabs” on our betraying partner, the subsequent triggers we unwittingly invite into our already traumatized lives, and how our obsessiveness can actual cripple our personal recovery efforts.
Kim will also talk about the reasons we often get swept up into unhealthy patterns in our dysfunctional marriage and how to practically turn it around by choosing to view our lives through the eyes of Scripture.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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As if our spouse’s betrayal were not enough, now we have to suffer along with the world through social isolation, fear, and the possible death of loved ones. It can make a person start doubting God or asking the question: How good can God be when I—and so many other people—are in so much pain?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim shares her own story of how she wrestled with God’s goodness through several of life’s tragedies and disappointments. She’ll also discuss how we can stop viewing our life through the lens of the world and use the scriptures to view it like God, and how we can use our present sufferings as a means to transform our character and find the peace that only God can give.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
You can also watch future Lunchtime Lives in real time every Wednesday on our public Facebook Page at https://facebook.com/hopeforspouses/
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73: Transforming Isolation to Intimacy with God and Safe Others
The current state of our world in the wake of Covid-19 is simply a physical manifestation of what most of us live in everyday—emotional isolation. But that was never God’s plan for us. He designed us to live in a constant state of emotional and spiritual intimacy with Him and a circle of safe others.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares how we can move from isolation into intimacy whether we are in a global state of emergency or in a local state of normalcy. Using the scriptures, Kim will discuss the three ways we can be deliberate and purposeful in transforming our relationships with God, safe others, and even ourselves into an intimacy that transcends any and all circumstances. ____________________
YouVersion App https://www.youversion.com/the-bible-app/
Beginning Yoga Class #1 https://youtu.be/i6eKyjA8ER4
Beginning Yoga Class #2 https://youtu.be/IMMVvYP2_6k
Beginning Yoga Class #3 https://youtu.be/8Z7Y5HanMC8
Pilates Mat with Russ and Kim Pullen Session #1 (20 minutes) https://vimeo.com/398123661
Session #2 (20 minutes) https://vimeo.com/398149907 ____________________
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It’s hard enough when you—a mature adult—have to deal with the trauma associated with your spouse’s sexual betrayal. But how does a broken wife help her children navigate their own recovery journey?
In this special episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim welcomes Natalie Ludewig, a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist who also is also on her own recovery journey from sexual betrayal.
Natalie and Kim discuss the challenges and complications of personal healing while helping your children work through the conflict and/or separation of their parents. They’ll also discuss the professional and practical strategies you can use to help your kids start to heal from their own trauma, and Natalie will answer some specific questions posed by Hope for Spouses viewers.
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The Proverbs 31 woman is heralded in Christianity as the epitome of womanhood. But how in the world do we live up to such a standard especially when we’re living with an unfaithful or sexually addicted spouse?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim addresses some of the inaccuracies about our understanding of the Proverbs 31 woman and how to read this conclusion to the book of Proverbs in its context.
Kim also addresses the key to unlocking the power behind this inspiring passage and how a betrayed wife dealing with trauma, anger, shame, and frustration can choose to walk in strength and dignity regardless of her spouse’s choice to change.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
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Your “gut” tells you that everything you’ve done up to this point in your recovery from your spouse’s sexual betrayal is helpful, but you’re missing…something. That something is an intimacy with God you can’t even imagine.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about how intimacy with God—the key to healing, peace, and security—is well within our reach if we know how and where to look.
Kim will define biblical intimacy with God, and she’ll share why it’s imperative for healing. She’ll also discuss the obstacles that keep us from intimacy and practical principles we can apply today to start a lifelong journey with the most faithful and devoted of all “husbands”—God himself.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Book Recommendations: 7 Desires: Looking Past What Separates Us to Learn What Connects Us by Mark Laaser https://amzn.to/2TTYvWj
When God is Silent: The Problem of Human Suffering by Douglas Jacoby https://amzn.to/2Q2NHnA
Misreading Scripture Through Western Eyes https://amzn.to/2xqfVSB
A Quick Overview of the Bible by Douglas Jacoby https://amzn.to/2vHi8IW
Be Still, My Soul: A Practical Guide to a Deeper Relationship with God by Sam Laing https://ipibooks.ecwid.com/Be-Still-My-Soul-p64183154
Getting the Most from the Bible: A Guide to In-Depth Study by G. Steve Kinnard https://ipibooks.ecwid.com/Getting-the-Most-From-the-Bible-2nd-Ed-p64183266
**Scriptures Cited Romans 3:23 Ps 40:4, 146:3 Luke 13:10-16 Mark 10:14-16 Matthew 5:37 Revelations 3:15-16 1 Corinthians 11:1 Acts 2-7 Galatians 6:9 2 Peter 3:9 John 14:26 2 Corinthians 1:21-22 Ephesians 1:14 Hebrews 4:12-13 2 Timothy 3:16-17 Jeremiah 29:11 – Read the whole chapter in context Acts 17:11-12 – Bereans John 12:48 Philippians 2:5-11 Colossians 3:1-2 John 10:3-5 Mark 10:42-45 James 5:16 Galatians 6:6
Have you ever sat across from a couple with a wife raving like a lunatic, accusing her spouse of adultery or porn addiction, while her husband appears the epitome of cool, steely composure?
For every accusation of hers, he has the perfect, logical comeback. She seems like she’s the one in sin (fits of rage, anyone?), but something nags at your belly and you just can’t seem to put your finger on the root of the problem?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’, Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what’s really going on under the surface of this dysfunctional relationship and the real reason why many betrayed spouses—especially wives—come across like emotional basket cases while their unfaithful and unrepentant partner appears the victim of a deranged, delusional wife.
Kim will also talk about how to biblically discern truth from lies, when to speak, what to speak, and when to be silent, and the best way you can help your friends, family members, or congregants in the midst of the devastation of sexual sin and betrayal.
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Just starting your healing journey and need courage and insight? Watch the Hope for Spouses Fierce Masterclass: https://hopeforspouses.com/masterclass
To get clarity on where your marriage is, where you want it to be, and what's blocking you from getting there, schedule a free breakthrough call with me to see if we can help you live a victorious life regardless of our spouse’s choices: https://hopeforspouses.com/call
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Cited Scripture 1 Kings 3:16-28 1 Samuel 16:7 Romans 3:23 Deuteronomy 5:9 Romans 1:25 John 3:19-20 Matthew 5:27-28 Romans 12:2 2 Cor 6:16-17:1 Ephesians 5:5 Galatians 5:19-21 Ephesians 5:25-27 1 John 3:18 John 3:21 Proverbs 28:26, 24:6 Acts 26:20 2 Cor 7:10-11 Isaiah 42:3 1 Samuel 16:7 John 5:1-15, 8:1-11, 9:1-39
Please don't use: 1 Cor 7:1-5 Ephesians 5:22-24 1 Peter 3:1-6 Luke 9:23 Hebrews 13:4
Worthy of Her Trust by Steven Arterburn https://amzn.to/2Ij4qOY
The Emotionally Destructive Marriage by Leslie Vernick https://amzn.to/2Tku10n
Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Dr. Mark Laaser http://amzn.to/2mZEYGl
Untangling Addiction by Dr. Marcus DeCarvalho https://discipleship.org/download-untangling-addiction/
So your spouse has been unfaithful either through adultery or porn, and you just can’t seem to heal with them in the home. But you’re a Christian and everybody tells you that God hates separation.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim plunges deep into the Scriptures and address exactly how God feels about a betrayal separation. But because our culture (the West) is so different from the culture of the Bible (the East), we need to find our answers through an extensive, contextual study of the Bible.
To do that, Kim will talk about God’s view of women and marriage, how Jesus treated women, and what the New Testament says about marriage which is just one of our many one-another relationships. We’ll also talk about how to take a contextual view of the scriptures where we’ll learn how to be “silent” (and obedient) where the Bible speaks, and understand the freedom God gives us to speak (and take biblical action) where the Bible is silent.
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Scripture References and Links
• Misreading the Bible through Western Eyes: https://amzn.to/38HqmPj • BEMA podcast – BEMAdiscipleship.com
CONTEXTUAL VIEW - what God infers, HIS purpose and intention for marriage Ephesians 5 Hebrews 13:4 Gen 2-3 Song of Solomon (Songs) 1 Corinthians 7
- ONE ANOTHER RELATIONSHIPS - God’s Standard for ALL our relationships in the Body (including marriage) John 13:34-35 - They will know you are my disciples by how you love one another Rom 12:10 - Be devoted to one another, honor one another above yourselves. 1 Corinthians 1:10 - Be perfectly united in mind and thought. Galatians 5:13 - Serve one another in love 1 Thessalonians 5:11 – Encourage one another, build one another up Hebrews 10:24 – Spur each other to love and good deeds 1 John 1:7 – Have fellowship as we walk in the light 1 John 4:11 – Have AGAPE love for one another James 5:16 – Confess your sins to each other 1 Thessalonians 5:13 – Love at peace with each other Colossians 3:9 – Do not lie to each other (Prov 12:22 - Lying lips are an abomination to the Lord) Ephesians 5:21 – Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. [Ephesians 5:22 – Submitting to husband as to the Lord, contextually, God doesn’t condone pornography or adultery – Matthew 5:27-28] Colossians 3:12-13 – Bear with one another Matthew 6:14-15 - Forgive one another 1 Peter 4:8 – Love (agape) each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins
Complete List of One Another scriptures https://www.truthaccordingtoscripture.com/documents/bible-study/all-the-one-anothers.php#.Xk1s-U9KhR0
Mt 5:37, 2 Timothy 2:2 - Commanded to be trustworthy/keep our word/promises
Never commanded to trust in people. Psalm 41:9 - David warned be careful who we trust. John 2:24 - Jesus limited who he entrusted himself to Mt 7:6 - told us to be careful to whom we entrust what is valuable to us.
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JESUS’ RELATIONSHIPS WITH WOMEN Mary, his mother - John 2, 19:25-27 Peter’s Mother-in-Law – Matt 5:35-43 Widow of Nain – Luke 7:11-17 The Crippled Woman – Luke 13:10-17 Martha sister of Lazarus – John 11 Mary, sister of Lazarus, who anointed him - John 12:1-8 Women who supported him including Salome, Susanna and James’ Mother - Mark 15:40-41, Luke 8:2-3 Samaritan Woman - John 4:1-26,39-42 Bleeding Woman - Mark 5:25-34 Women at the cross/tomb - Joanna, Mary the wife of Cleopas and others – Luke 24:1-10 Sinful Woman - Luke 7:36-50 Woman Caught in Adultery - John 8:1-11 Women on Golgotha road - Lk 23:28 Widow Giving Her Offering – Mark 12:41-44 Syrophoencian Woman – Matthew 15:21-28 Mary Magdalen first person to see him risen - Mk 16:9
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GOD’S ROLE AS A PROTECTOR AND DEFENDER God defends the weak and fatherless (Ps 82:3) The Lord will protect the needy them from those who malign them (Psalm 12:5) Rescues and delivers the weak and the needy from the wicked (Psalm 82:3-4). We take refuge in the shadow of God’s “wings” until the disaster passes (Psalm 57:1) God protects us from the violent, who scheme against us (Psalm 140:4) God has a shelter/fortress/refuge where we are safe and can rest (Psalm 90:1-4).
1 Cor 6:12-13, 10:23 – everything is permissible, but not everything is beneficial or constructive. Philippians 1:9-10 – discern what is best
2 Peter 1:3 – the Scriptures give us everything we need for life and godliness.
Take a contextual View of Sexual Purity in Marriage Eph 5:3-7 2 Tim 3:1-11 1 Peter 3:1-6 1 Cor 7:1-5
2 Peter 3:8 - God’s timetable Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 - there is a time for everything
Luke 11:24-26 – Fill the vacuum of your mind and life with God’s Word or the world will fill it.
Romans 12:2 - Transforming our mind takes deliberate action
It’s so easy to get sucked into an argument with your addicted or unfaithful spouse about what each of US wants. The problem is we don't regularly consider what God wants and expects from us when our marriage is broken.
We may turn to books, articles, devotionals, websites, pastors, or teachers, and neglect the primary source for our lives—the Bible.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses a topic that doesn’t get talked about enough—how to recognize when we are unconsciously pushing our own agenda in a broken marriage, changing how we read the scriptures, how to submit to God first so we can see our spouse, ourselves, and our marriage through His eyes, and how to practically maintain that standard even when our unrepentant partner refuses to change.
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When you have a spouse who has been unfaithful or is addicted to porn, Valentine’s Day is one of the most challenging holidays to navigate. Our marriage is not what we envisioned it would be! We wanted a knight; we got neglect. We wanted a hero; we got emotional hell.
But Biblical love has nothing to do with roses, red hearts, and chocolates.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about how we can prepare ourselves to face down the marketing onslaught that red February brings, learn the biblical definition of love in its four forms—agape, phileo, storge, and eros—and choose how to express that love even to an unrepentant spouse.
Kim will also offer practical strategies to those who are married, separated, or divorced so you don’t have to avoid every mall or department store for the next month, but instead, turn February into a month to give and receive love the best way of all—God’s way.
Agape Verses - https://bible.knowing-jesus.com/topics/Agape-Love
Phileo Study - https://www.preceptaustin.org/love-phileo
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Classic carnival rides have a few things in common with a marriage broken by sexual sin—they often leave us staggering, scared, or sick to our stomach. One other thing they have in common is we can simply refuse to ride.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares some classic carnival rides we may have experienced as children to the adult trauma spouses of sexual addicts and adulterers experience every day.
She’ll also discuss the misuse and abuse of Ephesians 5, God’s perfect design for the partnership of marriage, and how betrayed partners can choose to finally get healthy.
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Are you exasperated with your addicted or adulterous spouse because they constantly turn the tables on you? Do you always feel like you are playing a cat and mouse game with them? Are you frustrated because you can’t seem to stop yourself from falling into the same verbal traps?
This is called the Insanity Loop, and it’s where a betrayed spouse finds themselves stuck in repetitive patterns with a sexual addict. It’s kinda like being on a hamster wheel or in a plane in a perpetual holding pattern.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the insanity loop, the three things that keep us trapped in its vacuum-like cycle, and how you can empower yourself to finally get off and stay off.
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Relationships are build on trust. Trust is built when there is honesty, integrity, and truth between two people. Without truth, a relationship disintegrates.
This is exactly why truth in all our relationships is imperative.
If you are in a marriage shattered by sexual betrayal, you know exactly what I’m talking about. Any betrayed spouse in their right mind would rather know the truth about their spouse’s sexual sin than continue to be lied to for months or years. Yes, truth hurts, but it is a requirement for marriage as God intended.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen uses the scriptures to define truth in relationships, share five reasons why truth is ALWAYS the right choice, and explains HOW we tell the truth is equally important as speaking it. Kim will also share some practical tips how we can respond to other people telling us the truth even when it hurts.
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We may be able to see how isolation fed or feeds our spouse’s addiction to porn or adultery and ultimately devastated our marriage, but did you know that isolation can be just as a seductive and destructive to YOUR healing?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about why isolation is both irresistible and lethal when trying to recover from a spouse’s sexual betrayal. Kim also talks about why it’s so hard to escape isolation and the vital recovery tool God provides that is absolutely necessary for getting healthy and living a life with peace and joy.
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In the wake of our spouse’s sexual betrayal, we can believe the Bible has answers but have no idea where to start or how to apply what we’re reading. We can go to church but still feel lost, isolated, and alone. We can also feel like we’re at the end of our rope, a ship adrift, unmoored and untethered to anything that feels safe.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about the first three steps we have to take in order to not just start the recovery process, but actually move forward into genuine healing from the inside out. We’ll talk about owning our lostness, (really) turning to God, and what it means to change how we think.
If you are just beginning your journey or you feel stuck, tune in.
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Have you been in and out of churches your whole life but are too embarrassed to admit you have no clue how to use the Scriptures to heal from sexual betrayal?
Or maybe you are just starting your healing journey and your spiritual journey at the same time and you don’t have a clue where to start.
Either way, join Kim Pullen for this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live as she discusses the deeper reasons why we don’t turn to the Scriptures for guidance as we try to heal, why we should, and exactly how we can get started. Kim will also give you some practical steps you can take to start applying the Bible to your life to find peace on the inside even when your external life feels like a raging storm
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Have you ever felt enslaved to thoughts of past trauma that keep you stuck and resistant to healing?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouse's Lunchtime Live, Cresenda Jones joins Kim Pullen and discusses how we can apply Neural Linguistic Programing (NLP) and Time Line Therapy to betrayal trauma recovery. Cresenda is a Master NLP Coach and author of "Spiritual Maturity: God's Will for Emotional Health and Healing."
Learn the benefits of this very powerful tool and how you can add it to your recovery toolbox!
Contact Cresenda at 267.261.5487 for a free consultation.
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In your recovery, when you find yourself dropping your boundaries prematurely, reacting in anger, or getting caught back up in “the dance” with your unrepentant, sexually addicted spouse, the shame can be overwhelming. “Why did I blow it again? What’s wrong with me? Why can’t I just do this right?”
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will talk about how making mistakes in the betrayal recovery process—“three steps forward, two steps back”—is actually good for us.
Kim will discuss how stumbling through the healing journey exposes our hidden motives, forces us to stop trying to prove our worth to others, teaches us to rely on God and not ourselves, and helps us to wisely and biblically extend grace to ourselves and to others.
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Have you been praying for your unrepentant sexually addicted spouse for months or years and instead of changing, they’re more selfish, abusive, and uncaring of how much they’re hurting you? If so, you may be asking yourself, “Why isn’t God changing my spouse? Doesn’t see what I’m going through? Can’t he hear me crying out? Does he even care?”
Have you considered you might be asking the wrong questions?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about why the question (“Why isn’t God changing my spouse?”) has left you paralyzed, confused, and doubting God’s love. She’ll also share the “better” and the “best” questions you should be asking yourself to see real transformation in your life…and possibly in your marriage.
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What are your motives for staying in a marriage marred by sexual betrayal? Is it to safe your marriage, to keep your family together, or to protect your family’s reputation?
If you’re separated, what are your motives for setting boundaries, saying “no” to an unrepentant, sexually addicted spouse, or seeking your own recovery?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses why some motives that can feel right in the moment can actually lead us down a road with more hardship and pain. Kim will also discuss the only motive for those recovering from either betrayal or addiction that ultimately benefits everyone because of its eternal consequences.
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When you find out about your spouse’s sexual betrayal, the war inside your home and inside yourself never seems to end. Sure, there may be momentary truces where life almost feels normal. Then, it happens again. And again--the triggers, the chaos, and the trauma. You’re fighting a battle, but it feels like you’re losing ground every day.
Did you ever think you might be fighting the wrong battle or the wrong enemy?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the only battles we can ever win following sexual betrayal—the battle in our head and the battle in our heart. Kim shares from her own recovery and from the scriptures how betrayed spouses can master their thoughts and tame their emotions to win the only battle that matters, and ultimately change the outcome of their life.
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Adultery, addiction, mental health, illness, abuse, lack of spirituality are just a few reasons there may be pain and struggle in our marriage. How we choose to look at our pain—particularly emotional pain—our purpose, and this elusive thing called “peace” makes all the difference in the world.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen compares God’s view and the world’s view of these three areas. Using scripture, she reveals God’s plan for the pain in our lives, how our purpose is directly linked to our identity, and why peace eludes us when we run after it.
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You and your spouse have been separated for months or even years. They’re still heavily involved in sexual sin with no end in sight, yet they also shows no signs of wanting to divorce?
This leaves you lost in limbo: Should I divorce them even though I know how much God hates divorce or should I wait? You may have family ranting, “What are you waiting for? Divorce the #*@%!” while church leaders are telling you divorce is a sin.
What do you do when you don’t even know what you want except to stop hurting?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen addresses the quandary betrayed, separated spouses feel when their partner is still actively and flagrantly engaged in sexual sin but making no effort to pursue a divorce. Kim will offer some possible reasons why an unfaithful spouse doesn’t want to end their marriage, and she’ll present practical options available to betrayed partners.
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What are core wounds? Do I have them? Where do they come from? How do they impact my relationships with my spouse, my kids, my friends, and my relationship with God?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about “core wounds” and how they impact every single human being on the planet.
She’ll also discuss where these wounds come from, how we got them, the huge role they play in all our relationships, and how we can break the trans-generational chains of sin in our family’s life so our children and our children’s children have a chance to be free. ________________
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Has the shame over your spouse’s sexual sin isolated you from friends and family? Or have you chosen to isolate because you shared your pain with someone you thought was trustworthy only to be treated like a project they needed to fix or further shamed because of your choices?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how we were created for intimacy, how we can identify safe others into which to trust our deepest secrets and shame, and exactly why intimate relationships with safe others are absolutely imperative for our successful recovery from our spouse’s sexual betrayal.
Kim will also share about the intimate relationships she built with a circle of safe others and a special resource you can use to create your own personal support system.
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It’s like the world implodes around you.
Some are mild, keeping us in a low state of anxiety. Others are sudden and paralyzing. The world calls them panic or anxiety attacks. In the realm of sexual betrayal trauma, we call them emotional triggers, and they can threaten to overwhelm us with fear and the dreaded feeling of no control of our immediate circumstances.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about what emotional triggers are and where they come from. She also talks about how triggers are a normal part of the recovery process, how we can manage them, and—when we’re ready—how we can embrace them as teachers for our own growth and to promote healing in others.
Link to seated breathing exercise: https://vimeo.com/244280100
Link to an explanation of EMDR: https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/
Link to an explanations of Neural Linguistic Programming and Time Line Therapy: http://www.cresendajones.com/ ________________
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In this Special Edition of the Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen, founder of the Hope for Spouse’s ministry talks directly to friends and family members of betrayed spouses who are looking for ways to help their loved ones navigate one of the most difficult journeys of their life.
Whether you’re a parent, sibling, child, brother or sister in Christ, pastor, co-worker, neighbor, or friend of a betrayed spouse, there are practical things you can do to support your loved one even if you’ve never experienced sexual betrayal yourself.
In this episode you’ll learn what your betrayed friend is experiencing and feeling in the wake of the disclosure, exactly what they need to do to start and successfully complete their recovery process, and what they need—and don’t need—from you. Kim will also leave you with some resources you can use to get yourself educated on the betrayal recovery process.
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48: How to Embrace the Pain of Sexual Betrayal to Find Healing
The majority of Western media and our modern culture teach that pain is to be avoided at all costs. Take a pill, binge on entertainment, or work-work-work. Anything to avoid pain or thinking about pain.
As betrayed spouses, we can also get caught up in the mindset that the pain of our spouse’s adultery or addiction is something we must either avoid or control. Like the men and women of the scriptures, many of today’s churches erroneously assert that blessings or lack thereof are inextricably linked to God’s approval or disapproval of our lives.
But what if that’s not how God views pain at all? What if we have it all wrong?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouse’s Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how spouses who have chosen to follow Jesus must change how they view the pain of their partner’s sexual betrayal and why the world thinks that’s crazy. She’ll also discuss the three biblical “mindshifts” we need in order to heal and to understand pain’s purposeful place in our lives.
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Are your thoughts out of control since you found out about your spouse’s infidelity or sexual addiction? Do you feel like you are slowly losing your mind? Do you have a hard time controlling your thoughts about where your spouse is, who they’re with, or what they’re doing?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares about her own journey to take captive her thoughts in the wake of her separation from a sexually addicted spouse. Kim will also discuss the root of out-of-control thinking, how you can demolish mental strongholds with deliberate thinking patterns, and how you can fill your mind with the right thoughts from God’s Word to give you the peace that passes understanding regardless of the choices your spouse makes.
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Have you been waiting weeks, months, or years for something in your broken marriage to change?
Have you cried out to God only to feel like your prayers are stopping at the ceiling?
Are you losing faith, getting sicker in heart, sicker physically, depressed or embittered waiting for God to show up in your addicted or adulterous spouse’s life?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will share about how change works, why we have to look to God and ourselves for real change in our marriage, and how we can draw a line in the sand in order to experience personal victory regardless of the choices our spouse makes.
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Has your spouse rejected you for another? Do they turn to porn instead of seeking intimacy with you? Have they abandoned you emotionally or left your marriage all together?
Feelings of rejection and abandonment can paralyze us or make us so desperate to hold onto our spouse that we compromise our convictions or values to preserve our marriage. After a time, we don’t recognize ourselves anymore.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses, Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses the truth behind both our spouses’ accusations that we aren’t good enough, our feelings of inadequacy, our terror of abandonment, and how we can turn to God to comfort us and complete us in ways our spouse was never equipped to.
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Do you ever find yourself incessantly wondering, “Why did my spouse betray me?” or “Why can’t they stop watching porn?”
Sometimes the thoughts drive us into an obsession, make us doubt our own worth, or cause us to question if God really cares or even exists.
In this episode of the Lunchtime Live, Hope for Spouses creator Kim Pullen discusses what we CAN and what we CAN’T understand when it comes to our spouse’s addiction, our own recovery, and our what God is doing in both.
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It starts with just a thought, a whisper in our mind, “What if my spouse is…? Maybe if I…” And then we’re off to the races, tracking our spouse’s every call, text, or private message and even stalking them via their phone’s GPS.
The crazy thing is, even after we find the “evidence”, it’ll never be enough. Too often our sinful nature fuels a self-destructive compulsion to discover things or see things that will only hurt us more, things we can never forget.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will talk about why we probably already have all the “evidence” we need of our spouse’s infidelity or addiction, why we may not have recognized it as evidence before, and what our biblical response should be now that you have “proof” of their unfaithfulness.
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If you’ve spent the last six weeks, six months or six years letting your feelings guide your recovery and you’re wondering why things aren’t getting any better, maybe your guide is off.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim will discuss how our emotions can be an ally or an enemy in our pursuit of healing from our spouse’s sexual betrayal. She’ll also talk about our culture’s dangerous worship of emotions, God’s purpose for emotions, and how we can use the Scriptures to guide us through the thorny path of our feelings and move us toward hope and healing.
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"Why can’t my spouse just stop watching porn, stop looking at women, or stop meeting or being with their affair partner?"
"Is the trauma my spouse's experienced from childhood just an excuse for them to keep sinning?"
"How important is it to my husband's recovery for me to work on my own healing?"
Join us for this special episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live when host Kim Pullen will be joined by Dr. Marcus De Carvalho, a specialist in addiction medicine and psychiatry and author of "Untangling Addiction: A Guide to Recovery Through Jesus-Style Discipleship." Dr. De Carvalho approaches addiction by addressing the biological, social, psychological, and spiritual needs of each of his patients and prescribes deep, vulnerable, spiritually-based relationships as a necessity for recovery.
Kim and Dr. De Carvalho will discuss the wise role a godly wife can take in her husband's recovery from sexual addiction.
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Why do sexual addicts emotionally abuse their betrayed spouse?
Gaslighting, passive-aggressive tactics, intimidation, raging, manipulation, lying, and deflection.
All of these are strategies a sexual addict can use to abuse his spouse even if they are in active recovery.
What makes this type of abuse so destructive and dangerous is that unlike physical abuse, it doesn’t leave bruises. It doesn’t get a 911 call and a police visit, or send a spouse or child to the ER. In most states, mandatory reporting laws require health care providers to report domestic violence or they can be charged with a misdemeanor. Not so with emotional abuse.
The scars of emotional abuse on its victims are depression, isolationism, self-doubt, codependency, low self-esteem, and an inaccurate view of their self-worth.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how sexual addicts use emotional abuse on their spouse, why they use it, and what options a betrayed spouse has to protect themselves from its continuing devastation.
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When is it Okay to Refuse Sex with a Sexually Addicted Spouse?
Are you having sex with your unrepentant sexually addicted spouse in the hope it will keep them from watching porn or pursuing an affair partner?
Does your sexual relationship with your spouse feel impersonal and obligatory, like you’re doing it because a godly wife is “supposed” to?
Does your spouse blame your lack of desire for sex for why they act out?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about God’s design for sex, how addiction warps God’s plan, the misuse of 1 Corinthians 7:1-5 (“not depriving each other”), and how to create healthy boundaries to promote safety and healing in your recovery process.
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When is it safe to let a sexually addicted spouse back into your life?
You’ve been separated from your spouse for weeks, months, or maybe a year, and suddenly he declares he’s changed and wants to come home.
Saying life has been hard since he left is an understatement: The kids keep asking for him, the finances are a nightmare, being a single parent is exhausting, and let’s be honest: You’re just plain lonely. You desperately WANT him back, but when is it safe to let an addicted spouse back into your life?
• Not when they SAY they’ve changed • Not when they’re nicer to you for a week or a month • Not when they START counseling or attending a support group • Not when they said they were “saved” or “found Jesus” • Not even when they START reading the Bible, praying, or attending church
Join Kim Pullen for this week’s Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live where she’ll share from her own life how she knew it was time to end her four-year separation. She’ll also share the signs you can look for to know exactly when your spouse has repented and what YOU can do NOW to be prepare for a successful reconciliation.
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If you’ve been married and living with an unrepentant sexual addict or adulterer and nothing is changing or things seem to be getting worse, separation might be your next and best option for healing and recovery.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about conditions in a marriage where separation might be the healthiest alternative, the types of separation especially where finances are a major concern, and the most common reason most spouses feel paralyzed and fearful about such a radical life choice.
Kim will also discuss the pros and cons of separation so you can make a reasoned, informed, and spiritually wise decision for what is best for you, your marriage, and your family.
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A Hope for Spouse’s viewer recently messaged us:
“You talk about speaking the truth with love, and I’m really struggling with that. Every time I speak with my husband, which isn’t that often, all I want to do is scream at him and be mean because I’m so hurt over everything he’s doing.”
The Apostle Paul could relate when he said: “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do” (Romans 7:15).
If you feel ashamed because you can’t seem to control your emotions or your tongue in the presence of your addicted or unfaithful spouse, join us for this episode of the Hope for Spouse’s Lunchtime Live. Kim Pullen will talk about how she imperfectly got past feelings of hurt and betrayal so she could lovingly and respectfully talk to your unrepentant and unfaithful husband, an act that ultimately contributed to his repentance and their reconciliation and what the scriptures say about all of it.
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I was separated from my unfaithful husband for four lonely and painful years until he radically changed. God himself waited hundreds of years for his “bride” to repent of her unfaithfulness to Him.
How long should you wait for your sexually addicted spouse to repent?
In this episode of Lunchtime Live, Hope for Spouses’ founder Kim Pullen, shares why our addicted or unfaithful spouse has such a hard time changing, what healthy and unhealthy waiting looks like, factors you can evaluate in your own marriage to determine how long, if at all, you should wait, and what the scriptures say about all of it.
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Since the discovery of your spouse’s sexual betrayal, do you feel like—despite what the Bible says—your mind and your life have become a raging storm, and peace feels as elusive as water in your hand?
Maybe you feel blown and tossed by every wind of teaching about betrayal and addiction—books, counselors, support groups—with no rudder to steer you in a biblical direction.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will share how you can take those every-present companions of confusion, anger, fear, or bitterness, use Scripture to banish them, and find biblical solutions to capture and retain the “peace that passes understanding” (Philippians 4:7) regardless of the choices your spouse makes.
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If you’ve read the Bible much, you’ve probably heard of the Martha vs. Mary confrontation in Luke 10. Martha chose fear, chaos, and control. Mary chose love, peace, and surrender.
Following a spouse’s sexual betrayal, it is so easy to slip into a Martha mindset where fear reigns, and where we push, push, PUSH our spouse to get his act together. Sucked into the vortex of their sin and blinded by the chaos, we don’t see another way. But there is!
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about learning how we can choose biblical love, and how we can surrender to God’s plan for a marriage designed to glorify Him with security and a peace that passes understanding.
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Did you know Newton’s Laws apply to our recovering from our spouse's sexual betrayal?
Say what? How in the world do the foundational laws of physical mechanics (yes, the ones you learned in middle school) have anything do with recovering from a spouse’s infidelity or sexual addiction?
You’d be amazed! That’s because these laws weren’t created by men, they were established by God and therefore, they transcend the physical.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen uses laymen’s terms—and the scriptures—to discuss how Newton’s Laws—
1- An object in motion stays in motion
2 - An object changes direction based on the mass and force applied to it
3 - For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction
—actually apply to understanding addiction and codependency recovery.
Make sure you tune in for this unusual but visually-dramatic representation. You’ll never look at yourself or your spouse the same again!
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In the wake of sexual betrayal, many spouses become enmeshed, tying their recovery to their unfaithful or addicted spouse’s recovery and locking themselves firmly in an insanity loop where they do the same thing over and over again wondering why things only get worse.
They read tons of recovery books, try marriage counseling with a therapist or pastor, and attend support groups, workshops, or intensives, but their spouse doesn’t really change and they still feel trapped in a nightmare from which they can’t escape.
If real healing feels elusive and just out of reach, it’s because you’re looking in the wrong place. Join Kim Pullen for this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live as she uses biblical resources to address the big question: Do you have what it takes to recover from sexual betrayal?
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You’ve tried dozens of ways to get your spouse to see the light and turn away from their porn addiction or adulterous relationships. You’ve even used scripture to prove to yourself, your spouse, and others why you should be their number one helper in their recovery. (Genesis 2:20 anyone?)
But nothing you do works. In fact, things only seem to get worse—your spouse is angrier, more defensive, and seems further away than ever.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shows you how you can you help your unfaithful or sexually-addicted spouse repent of their sin and successfully navigate the long road of recovery, even if you’re separated.
The answers may surprise you.
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When we rage, manipulate, obsess, lie, slander, or malign our spouse in the wake of their sexual betrayal, our tendency is to excuse our sin and turn the focus off ourselves and say, “What about them?!”
Peter did it with Jesus in John 21. Adam did it when God asked him why he’d eaten the apple. Eve blamed the serpent. It’s so much easier to blame our spouse or try to fix them than it is to be honest about our own disobedience to God.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about how she turned the mirror of the scriptures on herself during her four-year separation and stumbled her way toward transformation. She also talks about how we can use betrayal as a catalyst for developing a dynamic, ever-growing intimacy with God.
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Why did your spouse commit adultery or get addicted to porn?
If they admit it, they may blame you saying: “You’re not ______ enough (sexy, adventurous, thin, encouraging, nice, supportive, etc)!” In other words, THEIR sin is YOUR fault.
They may say that they’ve fallen out of love with you, that they are just relieving themselves of stress, that all men cheat, or that one man can’t possibly be satisfied with one woman for his entire life.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen unmasks these excuses (and more) and reveals the simple, singular reason spouses cheat on their partners. Kim will also explore what you as a Christian spouse can do to empower yourself to move from confusion, isolation, and bitterness to clarity, intimacy, and peace.
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Do you feel incapable of drawing a line in the sand?
Are you afraid of the kickback from setting or maintaining boundaries?
Do you feel powerless to create expectations of faithfulness and honesty and back them up with action?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses’ Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the “insanity loop”, the relentless dance we just can’t seem to stop participating in with our unrepentant, addicted spouse.
Kim will address the solution—viewing ourselves through the lens of the cross—so we can “step off the dance floor,” navigate our way through the jungle that is recovery, and find peace and security regardless of the choices our spouse makes.
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Think your spouse is the only one lying to you about his infidelity or addiction to porn? Guess again. Truth is you’ve probably bought into a least three lies:
Lie #1: Your unfaithful spouse is the villain of your story. Lie #2: The disclosure of your spouse’s sin is bad news. Lie #3: Your silence in the midst of your spouse’s betrayal is protecting your family.
If you’ve believed any of these lies, you are probably running ‘round and ‘round on what I call “the insanity loop”, doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results. Tired yet?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen will talk about the three lies of infidelity and the one person who is snowing you even more than your spouse. Kim will also use the scriptures to turn these lies inside out so you can be free to heal and start the long road of recovery.
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You and your unfaithful spouse have four children: a 3-year-old, a 9-year-old, a 15-year-old, and a 22-year-old. Do you tell the kids what your spouse has done, or do you shield your children from the pain of their father’s betrayal?
Many factors play into our decision including the status of our spouse’s repentance and/or recovery, the age and maturity of our kids, whether our spouse is still living in the home, and even our own personal reasons for wanting or not wanting to tell our children.
The most important factors we often fail to consider in making this decision is what are the long-term ramifications of our silence or our speaking up, and what does the Bible say about it.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the biblical and practical reasons for why we should consider sharing with our kids the poor choices their father has made, the conditions for telling them about their father's betrayal, just how much we should tell them, and when we should refrain from divulging the truth.
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Is your pastor, counselor, family and/or friends expecting you to forgive your unfaithful or addicted spouse and start trusting them just because they apologized?
Do you feel torn because biblically you know you should forgive them, but something inside of you rebels at the thought?
Are you confused, frustrated or terrified because you know you're supposed to trust them, but you just don't?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen busts the myth of trust equaling forgiveness in the wake of sexual betrayal and helps you span the chasm between these two necessary elements of a healthy marriage even—and especially—in a marriage broken by sexual sin.
Join Kim as she defines forgiveness and trust, shares the real reason we need to forgive, and discusses the biblical conditions of trust in any relationship.
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We're addicted. We run after the newest theories, books, or explanations for why our spouse treats us like their sexual sin is our fault, why they can't stop masturbating to porn, or why they think having sex with others outside our marriage is no big deal.
Narcissism, antisocial personality disorder, and codependency. These are complicated terms created by people attempting to understand and explain a very simple concept--sin. But these human or secular terms often rob of us the power to repent and change or to have faith in others' opportunity to change.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen discusses how our fractured lives can be transformed when we change how we view ourselves, our addicted spouse, and our broken marriage by looking at sexual sin through the lens of the scriptures.
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Yeah, you read that right. The best thing that could ever have happened to you is that your spouse's sexual sin would come out. Am I crazy? Nope, it's the truth. And I'll prove it.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares from her own life and talks about six reasons why the most devastating moment of our adult lives is a doorway to spiritual awakening, freedom, and a peace beyond description.
If you want to transform how you view the marital nightmare you are currently living in and see it with new eyes, view it now.
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In 1992, Henry Cloud & John Townsend exploded into the publishing industry with their Boundaries books. In the last 25 years, the term “boundaries” has become a meme, a metaphor, and cliché.
But the word has real power in the lives of betrayed spouses when it is used as a vehicle for emotional and spiritual healing.
In this episdoe of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the good, the bad, and the ugly about boundaries including their biblical relevance, what you can expect when you use them, and who they are really for (they're not for your addicted or unfaithful spouse).
[View the notes and scriptures for this episode below.]
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If your marriage feels awkward, forced, frustrating, or broken due to sexual issues… If your spouse is unrepentant about viewing pornography… Or if your spouse has stepped outside of your marriage to have sex with other women…
In this episode of our special Lunchtime Live Christian Marriage and Sex Therapist, Dr. Jessica McCleese and Hope for Spouses founder Kim Pullen discuss exactly what a healthy and an unhealthy sexual relationship looks like in marriage. They'll give you some clear markers or signs for you to examine your own marital relationship based on God's word. Whether your spouse is resistant to change or is ready to partner with you for real transformation, we'll share a little about what you can do if you recognize those unhealthy markers in your marriage.
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5-Question Quiz
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Do you avoid sexual intimacy with your spouse, but you actually want this to change?
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Do you wish that your spouse understood why sex is causing you emotional pain?
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Do you wish that your spouse was more receptive to your sexual advances?
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If you your spouse has been unfaithful and he or she isn’t making every effort to be transparent and rebuild trust, are you having sex with them just to keep them from leaving you?
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Do you have sex with your spouse to keep them from viewing or masturbating to pornography?
1 Cor. 7:4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body, but yields it to his wife.
Galatians 5:13 For you, brothers, were called to freedom; but do not use your freedom as an opportunity for the flesh. Rather, serve one another in love.
Song of Songs 1:4 We rejoice and delight in you; we will praise your love more than wine.
Romans 8:31 What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
Philippians 4:19 And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus.
Colossians 2:10 And you have been made complete in Christ, who is the head over every ruler and authority.
Matthew 6:31-33 Therefore do not be anxious, saying, "What shall we eat?" or "What shall we drink?" or "What shall we wear?" For the Gentiles seek after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them all. But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.
Mark 12:30 "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength."
2 Corinthians 7:11 See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.
If you and your spouse have isolated yourselves due to your partner's sexual sin, you may be tempted to be your spouse's accountability partner. That means YOU get a text when he looks at something inappropriate on his cellphone, YOU ask him about his purity, and YOU make sure he's going to his recovery group. If so, you're probably wondering why this is only causing MORE strife in your relationship and creating MORE distrust and distance.
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim discusses the unhealthy dynamic created by you leading a role in your spouse's life you were never meant to fulfill, that of accountability partner. She'll also reveal the hidden motives behind a betrayed wife's need to know about her husband's internal life, and God's perfect design for accountability.
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John 3:19-21 This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. Everyone who does evil hates the light, and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.
Isaiah 54:8-9 "For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways," declares the Lord. "As the heavens are higher than the earth, so are my ways higher than your ways and my thoughts than your thoughts."
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean NOT on your OWN understanding; in all your ways acknowledge HIM, and HE will make your paths straight. Psalm 90:8 "You have set our iniquities before you, our secret sins in the light of your presence."
As humans, we can endure physical, emotional, or mental pain for extended periods of time. But there's a moment, a trigger, a threshold we reach when the pain of remaining where we are exceeds our fear of moving into the unfamiliar. In the wake of your spouse's sexual betrayal, where are you in your pain funnel? What will it take for you to say, "Enough" and move toward healing?
In this episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim discusses the power of pain as a precursor of birth, rebirth, death, and resurrection, and how God designed pain as a catalyst for transformation.
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Definition of Threshold - Threshold: The magnitude or intensity that must be exceeded for a specific reaction or effect to occur. On one side of a limen (or threshold) a stimulus is perceivable, on the other side it is not.
Hebrews 2:10, 18 In bringing many sons and daughters to glory, it was fitting that God, for whom and through whom everything exists, should make the pioneer of their salvation perfect through suffering...Because he himself was tested by what he suffered, he is able to help those who are being tested.
Hebrews 12:7-11 Endure hardship as discipline; God is treating you as his children… we have all had human fathers who disciplined us and we respected them for it. How much more should we submit to the Father of spirits and live! They disciplined us for a little while as they thought best; but God disciplines us for our good, in order that we may share in his holiness. No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
Romans 5:3-4 We also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.
1 Corinthians 14:33 For God is not a God of confusion but of peace.
Deuteronomy 30:15-20 See, I set before you today life and prosperity, death and destruction. For I command you today to love the LORD your God, to walk in obedience to him, and to keep his commands, decrees and laws; then you will live and increase, and the LORD your God will bless you in the land you are entering to possess. But if your heart turns away and you are not obedient, and if you are drawn away to bow down to other gods and worship them [like your fear or need to control], I declare to you this day that you will certainly be destroyed. You will not live long in the land you are crossing the Jordan to enter and possess. This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now CHOOSE LIFE, so that you and your children may live and that you may love the LORD your God, listen to his voice, and hold fast to him.
According to a Nielsen rating, only 64% of New Year's resolutions last longer than a month. Most people want to lose weight or save more money. But if you have a spouse that has sexually betrayed you, the most important resolution you can make this year, this month, or this week is to let go of trying to control your spouse's recovery and deliberately focus on your own healing from their sexual betrayal.
In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about the key to successfully achieving your resolution—your mindset—and how it can launch you out the insanity loop you've been riding with your sexually addicted or unfaithful spouse and start your journey toward intimacy with God and a circle of safe others.
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1 Corinthians 11:1 – Follow my example as I follow the example of Christ.
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Galatians 5:22 - debauchery, idolatry, hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions, and envy. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Colossians 3:1-2 - Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.
John 3:20-21 - Everyone who does evil hates the light and will not come into the light for fear that their deeds will be exposed. But whoever lives by the truth comes into the light, so that it may be seen plainly that what they have done has been done in the sight of God.
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You thought getting with your pastor or a marriage counseling was your magic bullet—this was the thing that was going to knock sense into your unfaithful spouse, wake them up to the stupor of their sexual addiction, and make them look longingly into your eyes begging for forgiveness. But it didn't turn out that way, did it? That's because for most couples with a sexually-addicted spouse, marriage counseling is a waste of both time and money.
In this episode of Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about the challenges and the fallacies behind conventional marriage counseling with a sexually-addicted spouse and the real solution to taking back your sanity, peace, and security regardless of the choices your spouse makes.
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Romans 1:25 - For the foolishness of God is wiser than human wisdom, and the weakness of God is stronger than human strength.
1 Corinthians 2:12-13 - What we have received is not the spirit of the world, but the Spirit who is from God, so that we may understand what God has freely given us. This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words.
2 Corinthians 7:10-11 - Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.
When our spouse commits adultery or is addicted to porn, it's a betrayal of a sacred trust and it puts us in an incredibly vulnerable position as we attempt to navigate the long and winding road of recovery. Everyone wants to offer us advice, especially those who have never scaled this mountain themselves. The problem is we become so desperate for answers, hope, and healing, we start believing and banking on myths, lies, or humanistic reasoning that lead us everywhere but toward healing. Myths like: • Their sin is your fault and you can fix them • There is a magic bullet to repairing your marriage • God expects you to live with an unrepentant sexually-addicted spouse • You can't tell anyone about what's going on in your marriage • And the average pastor is equipped to help you.
In this episode of Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen smashes these myth or lies with Biblical truths. She'll also share how you can embrace these sometimes-painful truths to find intimacy with God and a safe circle of others and how you can navigate your way toward peace, security, and confidence regardless of your spouse's choices to change.
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The Eight Lies Sexually Betrayed Wives Believe:
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Their husband's sin is their fault
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They can fix their spouse
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There is a magic bullet to fixing their marriage
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They don't have anything to work on themselves
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That God expects them to live/stay with an unrepentant, sexually-addicted spouse
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They can't tell anyone about what's going on in their marriage
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Their pastor can help them.
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Their spouse's sin is not having long term damage on their children.
James 1:14-15 - Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.
Isaiah 55:2 - Why spend money on what is not bread and your labor on what does not satisfy?
Matthew 7:4 - How can you say to your brother, "Let me take the speck out of your eye," when all the time there is a plank in your own eye?
1 Peter 5:8 – Satan like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. We can't heal in isolation.
Deuteronomy 5:8 – sins will be visited upon the 3rd and 4th generation.
An opportunity to give back and help those who don't have a resource like Hope for Spouses. Holidays like Thanksgiving, Christmas, Valentine's Day, birthdays, and vacation times are meant to be times for family. It's when and where we create lasting memories. But when you're sexually betrayed spouse is still unrepentant and treats you like you are the reason they were unfaithful or why they continue to masturbate to porn, the joy from the holiday fizzles out faster than last year's Christmas lights. Just walking into Walmart or the mall decked up with Christmas décor can trigger a panic attack or overwhelming feelings of sadness. How do you handle these moments when they come (and they will)? How are you going to get through the next 3-4 weeks without hiding away in your closet? How are you going to make the holidays a memorable time for yourself and your kids in spite of separation and/or dysfunction in your family? In this week's Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about how you can wisely prepare for the inevitable triggers the holidays bring and create new memories with your kids that you all can treasure for a lifetime.
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2 Corinthians 7:10-11 - Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.
Romans 7:15-19 I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do…I have the desire to do what is good, but I cannot carry it out. For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing.
2 Corinthians 10:5 We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
Philippians 4:8 Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.
Create new memories with kids shortlist:
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Make a birthday cake for Jesus.
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Create a 12 days of Christmas gratitude list.
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Go caroling.
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Hand make Christmas cards for your neighbors and friends. Include some homemade cookies.
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Do a December bucket list and everybody gets to pick one thing to do before the end of the year.
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Family slumber party in the living room with sheets draped across the furniture. Read Christmas stories and drink hot cocoa, write in a Christmas journal you will keep with your Christmas decor and bring out each year.
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Christmas movie night.
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Game night in Christmas garb hats (pick up at dollar store)
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Garage sale gift exchange
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Make tree ornaments (again, Dollar store or Michael's craft shop for inexpensive), have kids sign and date ornaments.
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Get everyone in pajamas and drive around looking at Xmas lights.
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Advent Calendar of envelopes with Scripture and chocolate coins (one for each child)
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Sleep together under the Christmas tree. Google creating Christmas memories to find dozens of others.
After the disclosure of my spouse's sexual betrayal, fear became my constant companion. It drove my every thought and action. It paralyzed me like a deer caught in perpetual headlights. Whether you live with an unrepentant sexually-addicted spouse or your spouse has come clean about adultery and is making strides to change, fear can easily be your master. Fear of: • abandonment • rejection • being alone • being inadequate, defective • the unknown • making the wrong choice • pain • damage to your kids • being homeless • being duped again How do you get passed these fears? How do you find your way around an obstacle that seems to shadow your every move?
In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen shares the truth about fear and how you can turn it to your advantage to find hope and healing regardless of your spouse's choices to change.
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Deuteronomy 31:6 - "Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you."
Isaiah 40:11 – "He tends his flock like a shepherd. He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart; he gently leads those that have young."
Luke 13:1-5 – Jesus answered, "Do you think that these Galileans were worse sinners than all the other Galileans because they suffered this way? I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish. Or those eighteen who died when the tower in Siloam fell on them—do you think they were more guilty than all the others living in Jerusalem? I tell you, no! But unless you repent, you too will all perish."
Isaiah 43:18-19 – "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland."
Ephesians 1:29-20 – "I also pray that you will understand the incredible greatness of God's power for us who believe him. This is the same mighty power that raised Christ from the dead and seated him in the place of honor at God's right hand in the heavenly realms."
Quote: Fear and love are the inseparable elements of a relationship with God. Fear preserves love from degenerating into presumptuous familiarity: love prevents fear from becoming a servile and cringing dread.
Being alone on a deserted Pacific island with your spouse may once have been a fantasy vacation, but the reality is far from pleasant or healthy. Most wives in the wake of their partner's sexual betrayal suffer in isolation. This may be because you made your husband your world, that world crumbled, and now you don't know how to escape the isolation. Part of it may be deliberate on your spouse's part to keep their sin from getting out to friends and family. But a huge part of it is shame—feeling like YOU are responsible, you should have known, or you should be able to fix it.
In this episode of Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about why isolation hinders you from healing and what you can do to move away from your personal exile and toward a safe circle of supportive truth seekers.
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You feel the devastating impact of your spouse's sexual betrayal in your marriage and your life. But what about the impact in the lives of your children? It doesn't matter whether your kids are 2 or 22, there are long term implications in all of their current and future relationships following their dad's sexual betrayal. That's because it isn't just a betrayal to you, it's a betrayal to your whole family, your friends, your church, and your community.
In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim shares how a husband and father's sexual addiction and adultery impacts their children, how you as a wife and mother can minimize that impact, and what you can do to break the generational sin.
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Deuteronomy 5:8-10 - You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below. You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.
1 Timothy 5:24 - The sins of some are obvious, reaching the place of judgment ahead of them; the sins of others trail behind them.
If your marriage is broken by your spouse's sexual sin, more than likely you've been trying to wrestle your life back under some semblance of control. In all likelihood, you're trying to "white knuckle it", holding on for dear life. You think "If I let go of the wheel, we're going to crash." You are terrified of more betrayal, more lies, more pain, and feeling like more of a fool than you already do. In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim talks about this illusive thing called "control", what is at the heart of it, how God feels about it, and what you can to escape its bondage and move toward freedom and peace.
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If you've been living with an unrepentant adulterer or with a spouse who refuses to give up porn... If you've stayed in an emotionally destructive marriage for months or years desperately clinging to hope your spouse will change... If you've left (or made him leave) and prematurely reunited only to find yourself falling into the safe old patterns... ...this is for you. It's time to stop clinging to the past and move toward a healthy future. But how exactly do you do that?
In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen of Hope for Spouses shares how you can get off the defensive in your broken marriage, change your tactics, and get on the offensive to save yourself, your sanity, and your faith.
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If your spouse confesses his infidelity or "slips" into pornography and expects you to be grateful he's "being open"... If your spouse manipulates you into feeling guilty because you can't get over their sin... If both you and your spouse know they are still in contact with their affair partner, but they refuse to admit it... This is Facebook Live is for you. In this episode of our weekly Lunchtime Live, we'll talk about the real reasons behind their manipulation and EXACTLY what you can do to free yourself from the never-ending insanity loop you find yourself trapped in. [View notes or scriptures from this episode below.]
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2 Corinthians 7:10-11 – Godly sorrow brings repentance that leads to salvation and leaves no regret, but worldly sorrow brings death. See what this godly sorrow has produced in you: what earnestness, what eagerness to clear yourselves, what indignation, what alarm, what longing, what concern, what readiness to see justice done. At every point you have proved yourselves to be innocent in this matter.
Luke 18:8 – "When the Son of Man comes, will he find faith on the earth?"
There is a cost to your spouse's sexual betrayal especially if they are unrepentant. If you are choosing to do nothing is response to it, it is costing you a fortune. Literally. But not just in $$, it is also costing you in your health and ultimately in the emotionally and physical well-being of your children.
In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, Kim Pullen talks about these costs, the places we turn for help, and what we really need to save ourselves from ruin.
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If your spouse is addicted to porn and you feel marooned in a fog of crippling indecision because you know you should do SOMETHING but have no idea WHAT, this is for you. If your unfaithful spouse refuses to give up his infidelity and you're scouring the internet for answers desperate for relief from the anxiety that plagues your every waking thought, this is for you. If your spouse seems genuinely broken over the pain his infidelity has caused you, and you now feel like YOU are the one who is standing in the way of your marriage healing, this is for you.
In this episode the Hope for Spouses Lunchtime Live, we take an honest look at what it takes to "get well" following sexual betrayal, and we get real about the pros and cons of counseling, spouse support groups, and other resources women just like you are trying to find hope and answers. [View notes or scriptures from this episode below.]
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John 5:1-9 vs 3 Here a great number of disabled people used to lie—the blind, the lame, the paralyzed. One who was there had been an invalid for thirty-eight years. When Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, “Do you want to get well?” “Sir,” the invalid replied, “I have no one to help me into the pool when the water is stirred. While I am trying to get in, someone else goes down ahead of me.” Then Jesus said to him, “Get up! Pick up your mat and walk.” At once the man was cured; he picked up his mat and walked.
1 Cor 2:13-14 This is what we speak, not in words taught us by human wisdom but in words taught by the Spirit, explaining spiritual realities with Spirit-taught words. The person without the Spirit does not accept the things that come from the Spirit of God but considers them foolishness,and cannot understand them because they are discerned only through the Spirit.
How long have you known about your spouse's infidelity or addiction to pornography? How many arguments have you had about it? Is he he still blaming you, gaslighting you, or telling you it's no big deal? Are you letting him stay in the home out of fear or because spiritual leaders in your life are telling you, “God doesn't like divorce!” Do you feel like you are losing your mind, your soul, or both?
If this is you, join us for this episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live. In it, Kim talks about the challenges of continuing to live with a spouse who refuses to admit their adultery or sexual addiction is wrong or simply refuses to change. She'll also talk about why it may be healthier for BOTH of you to separate for a time.
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How can we REALLY know if our spouse is repentant or if he's just continuing to lie to us? If your spouse has a history of adulterous relationships or watching porn,... If your spouse says he's not contacting other women but there are repeated instances where he has to explain a suspicious situation to you,... If you're sick and tired of playing a cat and mouse game with your husband trying to catch him in a lie,... ...this is for you.
In this episode of Lunchtime Live, Kim discusses seven ways you can know if your spouse is really changing or if he's stuck in his pattern of addiction.
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In this episode of Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, we talk about 3 signs of being enmeshed in a broken marriage. If you aren't happy unless your spouse is happy... If you think it's up to you to fix your marriage... If you feel like if you'd been a better wife, your husband wouldn't have sinned... this is for you.
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Our spouse has sexually betrayed us, and our marriage is more of a nightmare than a dream. We read our Bible, pray, and go to church but instead of getting better, things seem to get worse.
Historically, when God’s people suffered at the hands of others, He was often trying to draw their attention to the idolatry in their lives.
In the episode of the Hope for Spouses' Lunchtime Live, we take a brief self-evaluation to check and see if God is sitting firmly on the throne of our lives or if we’ve unwittingly replaced him with something or someone else.
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