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Md. Ansar Ali

This podcast is dedicated to teaching self-awareness and confidence building in areas of love, relationships, health, inner peace, jobs and careers. Each episode is an expansion of my daily Instagram posts.

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This will be the final episode of this podcast to finish off six seasons. Thank you to everyone that has been listening in and will be in the future. A special thanks to everyone that subscribed and listened to every episode. I hope the content has benefited you in your health, mindset and direction in life. The above link is to my NEW PODCAST which will be a conversational dialogue format covering more exciting topics in life problems with solutions, prevention methods and awesome mindset shifting knowledge.

We may not be responsible for what influences us when we are children. Our circumstances, social background, upbringing, financial or educational means may be inferior to others or can be superior but it doesn't always mean a person that starts ahead in life gets ahead and vice versa. There are many people born into wealth and end up being poor and have huge life problems that develop whilst others start off poor and in weak positions but rise above many. As an adult you are 100% responsible for fixing these influences, amending false ideas and beliefs and reprogramming these to empower your life.

It is your choice and it is within your awareness to do so. Either you are lazy or you're afraid. Whatever the reason, it is not an excuse to allow you to continue as you will, so do something as nobody else will do it for you.

People struggle to get to know each other on first dates. They don’t know what to talk about because they don’t know what they are looking for in their life partner. They don’t know what is important for them and what it is they want to find in their partner. If you know the type of life you want, the goals you have and what kind of person you want to share those with, you will have no problem in bringing up questions related to such important questions.

If you learn and develop yourself, you’ll find many things to talk about from your own experiences and knowledge. At the least become a good listener as most people enjoy talking about themselves so just by listening your able to learn a lot about someone and which route to take with your questioning.

Why silence is golden. It takes self-control, it takes emotional intelligence and it takes inner strength. There is a reason we have two eyes, two ears and one mouth, we should look and listen more than speak. Being silent keeps you out of blame, allows you to think about what you say. More often than not, prevents regret.

It is wisdom and patience leading to better decisions, better articulation of yourself and gives you complete control of how you behave without having the need to be compelled to answer, argue and fight back unnecessarily wasting your intelligence and energy. Learn to observe and you’ll absorb more.

It never ceases to amaze me the laziness of people. People always in the depths of their hearts seek to gain something from doing nothing. I have come across people of faith who want their problems to be fixed with an instant prayer without tracking back the years of incorrect actions. I have found people want to find their life partner and do nothing to find them but hope they will miraculously fall into their laps because they are waiting for destiny or an arranged marriage by parents. I have come across people who say they want to be happy but do nothing to make that their priority and I have come across people who punish themselves with eating poorly all their life and look for a magic pill or quick medical procedure to get away with doing nothing to change their health.

I don't feel sorry for these people because they choose not to take responsibility, they choose not to understand that if this was the way of the world, we would never learn anything about consequences. Stop being lazy, stop wishful thinking and go do something that deserves an answered prayer, deserves destiny finding you the perfect partner or the miracle of health.

Being in a relationship with someone should be effortless. Even if there are little disagreements, you should not feel guilt, tense and uncomfortable to talk about your beliefs, goals and desires out of fears of scaring your other half. If this is the case, and you're embarrassed or afraid to be yourself around the person you’re with then it is a sure sign of it not going to work long-term.

You should be looking forward to being with person each day and miss them when you don’t see each other for a few days. If you’re arguing more than conversing, if you’re unhappy more than happy then sooner or later it’s going to end, as such a relationship is not sustainable.

Many of us keep looking to stay relevant, trending and up to date in our appearance, subjects we talk about and the social media content we try to put out. Fearing the chance of being forgotten and becoming a story of yesterday. We start go out of our way in trying to learn about subjects we don’t like, understand or enjoy just to stay relevant within social circles and the way the world sees us.

But, how relevant are you staying about the information of your own life? Your health, your happiness? Your friendships, networks and relationships? How often do you check up on your own life and where it’s going? We are so busy staying relevant to outside topics that our own lives become irrelevant and ignored.

Don’t put a limit on your abilities by saying ‘I can’t’ when what you really mean is 'I won’t' or 'I shouldn’t'. Unlock your mind’s limit by changing the way you look at a problem by instead saying ‘How can I’. It allows your brain to go to work to make the solution possible. When you make defeatist affirmations to yourself, you stop your progress and give up. When you ask questions, all possibilities open up.

People have become addicted to uppers and downers in the form of medication, caffeine, sugars, energy drinks for the start of the day and glass of wine, watching movies and other distractions to make themselves fall asleep at the end of the day.

Why not seek natural uppers and downers in healthy, natural whole foods that give you the energy and the relaxation you need without the consequences of poor health later on in life and the addictive nature of the poor foods that you take in? Isn’t it far better to be able to enjoy the food you eat but also gain long-term benefits at the same time? All it requires is a willingness to want to live better for longer than to suffer longer for short-term pleasure.

Having less friends and people to hang with doesn’t mean you’re boring or unsocial. Intelligent people become more selective of the people they spend their time with than average people. That’s because they understand the importance of time and influences on themselves. They understand the importance of keeping the company of a few high value friends that understand them, their goals and needs than having many which only act as distraction and gaining no benefit.

Currently I do not have much time to spend with the many friends like I used to when I was younger, firstly because I get more done when I'm not wasting my time socialising for the sake of socialising and second, because I have become someone with a different mindset than I had many years ago before I started my journey of finding happiness.

Success requires not quitting. Its not about not making mistakes or failing many times over but not quitting, staying down. You can quit at any time so why don’t you quit after you’ve accomplished what you set out to do? If you quit now, you'll just go back to the beginning. If you’ve watched the Rocky Balboa series you’ll learn the power of being an underdog, not staying down and reaching your dream. Sylvester Stallone says ‘It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!”

Develop your children through giving them understanding & freedom to choose by teaching them wisdom, empowerment and the benefits of making mistakes, failures. Give them the tools, skills and mindset you wish you had from a young age. Let them know its okay to make mistakes as long as they learn from them fast. Be someone they can trust and feel comfortable enough to talk to about anything so they don’t need to hide things that would be problematic later.

Don’t let their fears and shame to talk to you lead them to strangers that give them bad advice. Take responsibility for your children, don’t leave the teachers, imams, priests and rabbis to teach them life skills. Their job is to teach specific subjects, not the person they should become and the potential they have in them.

Always look for value in everything you learn, buy and gain in life. In your development and the people, you keep the company of. So many of us are ignorant of real value in knowledge, companionship and experiences. When we are given the option of free information or cheap information and expensive information, we assume the expensive one is more valuable because of its price. We are too lazy to check all the options and in doing so we become ignorant of seeking and being able to recognise real value for ourselves. Many people would not take something free because they think it must be worthless if someone is giving it away for free. However, with this mindset and belief you leave yourself open to be ripped off, taken advantage of by being sold overpriced items that give no real value.

People talk about day traders, stock brokers and shareholders in investments. Why don’t you trade in giving each other value? Hold shares in doing acts of kindness and goodness that will one day be given back in return when you need it. Be a day trader in benefiting others every day and you’ll be surprised what the universe will bring back to you. Help people with advice, sharing of knowledge, towards their goals and donate the things you don’t use to benefit others, it’s the best type of investments that comes back in the form of better health, better connections with people and a meaningful life.

Overthinking leads to procrastination. It allows doubts, assumptions and fears to enter into your mind. This then leads to freezing up and inaction or at least delayed action, which misses opportunities when at their peak. Learn accurate knowledge, gain certainty and confidence in what you want to know, teach and have success in, that way even if emotional anxiety starts to occur your certainty of knowledge will push you to acting and overcoming emotional freeze ups. This will avoid many awkward interactions in dating, give you the best of opportunities when they arise and create success in what you aim at.

The desire to change becomes real when you begin to visualise the life you could have once you’ve reached the end of your starting action. We get excited about holidays and get in a great mood before holidays, before having sex, or looking forward to a great meal or treat. We are able to change our mood and excitement just by focusing on the possibilities of what it would be like, our fantasies are enough to change our energy levels and happiness. In the same way you can learn to stimulate your energy by looking at the end of results of goals in an empowering manner. It will give you motivation and drive. Learn the steps I take regularly to achieve mini goals and long-term goals.

If you’re someone who is very picky or has high expectations of someone else. You refuse to date someone or even talk to someone unless they meet your physical idea of requirements, your financial idea of income with authority and fame, then you better hope not to be offended when they tell you their requirements and you don’t meet them. Our specific requirements of what others should have, needs to match up to the same being offered in return, otherwise you’ll be surely disappointed and offended.

Find out in this episode what it takes to attract a high value life partner.

The soul is eternal and unlimited as it comes from the source of the Creator. We are limited by our beliefs and physical body. We are spiritual beings having human experiences. Because of this spirit we are connected to unlimited source of energy and potential and it is important for people to realise this. If you don’t know the story of The famous sage and lover of the Divine, Rumi. He whirled and whirled to the point the gravity of this world could not hold him. The swirling dervishes that follow his teachings try to recreate this state for themselves. There are some Tibetan monks who are able to raise and lower their body temperature at will and dry out completely wet towels covering their bodies. There are endless stories and extraordinary stories of people doing amazing things but the world wants to continuously tell us we are nothing special and that we are incapable. Find out what you need to do to access such inner power in this episode.

For couples who are sexually active, you’ll understand this. How is it that you’re able to go to bed feeling exhausted and not in the mood to do anything for the night but then you can become sexually aroused by cuddling, caressing etc in bed, which leads to huge levels of energy that allows you to end up having sex? Where does this energy come from? How did you manage to suddenly switch your energy levels at the click of a switch? Is it not possible to do this for other areas in your life and happiness? I believe so and I have done just that continuously, when I fall ill, or something upsetting and demotivating happens. Find out how on this episode.

True knowledge by nature has the highest value in it's intrinsic form. Knowledge of truth is the most empowering of beliefs. Beneficial knowledge can take a poor person of low social status to a high status of a leader and influencer but can bring down the highest of positions those who are ignorant of it. Knowledge opens doors to the creative nature of humans. It is not something that can be taken from someone by force. It is embedded in the mind where it forms ideas and beliefs of hope and certainty or despair and uncertainty.

Without knowledge we would be no better than animals in nature and it would mean no discovery of anything that has been known up until this present moment. So, seek beneficial knowledge to lift yourself higher than what you thought possible. Find out what is beneficial knowledge and what is detrimental knowledge in this episode.

Humans are predisposed to being good and honest. If you don’t believe me, what happens when we lie, keep secrets, do something bad or against our morals and ethics? Our body gives off symptoms of unease, worries, concerns that others will find out the lies. We feel awful and restless at causing others pain and suffering.

Now, what happens when we tell truth and be honest and good? Our body feels content, happy at not having to deceive, hide things and having to cover lies with more lies. Follow the nature we were born for and you’ll find yourself much happier. Be good, be honest and be helpful.

Finding someone for intimacy straight after a breakup is bad for your health and the new partner. It is also a recipe for disaster as it’s just a mechanism to fill the void that is suddenly missing. You are not ready to move to a new relationship until you have learned to accept the last one is over, whatever circumstance it ended in.

As long as there is emotional attachment left that you carry over it will move into your new relationship that will prevent your new intimacy being formed. Many times, people end up going back to the old flame behind the backs of the new one, leading to infidelity. In this episode I provide the 4 stages you need to go through to get over and move on to new happy fulfilling relationships.

Religious fasting is not only a time to just fast externally. It is a time for internal fasting of the ego, mind, spirit and the heart. It requires you giving up internal thoughts and desires that feed the ego in all it’s negative forms and fasting from the love of worldly things. It is to disassociate with the need for worldly things and connect your heart to the source of love. Many people fasting go through most of the day fasting from food and water but all they achieve is hunger and no internal blessings. No growth in self-control, no growth in finding inner peace through disconnecting with worldly needs and no better off spiritually. If you’re not fasting internally as much as externally, it is a hollow fast.

Find out how fasting is directly linked to removing the veils of your inner self, your inner child to becoming your genuine self.

Too much details in thinking prevents enjoying the moment, creating the memory and being in the present of what is happening. It also deters overcoming problems and encourages procrastinating. Keep it simple by moving past the nitty gritty details that will not benefit you in enjoying what you’re doing. Stop beating around the bush and admire the bush in all its beauty.

Stop arguing with your spouse when you can be better loving them and creating new memories. Let the scientists and the professors waste time on the details. If we became obsessed with how a car works and focused on that, we wouldn’t be able to enjoy the ride and the simplicity of just driving.

We’ve got everything wrong way around when it comes to food and character. The standard in society and teaching should be to say ‘it doesn’t taste bad for unhealthy’ food or 'its not good to be bad'. The thinking has become altered so people perceive bad as good, are rewarded by the bending of rules and laws.

We should be making eating healthy the norm and instead of calling eating bad food ‘a treat’ we should label it ‘a punishment’. You don’t need to change the world to think like this, but you can start by changing your perception and your children to live a healthier, happier life. Find out how to break false paradigms of beliefs as I did in this episode.

Wisdom and wanting to look and sound smart are two different things. A wise person is full of experiences, good and bad that has taught them how to avoid the bad situations in the future. They essentially learn preventative measures to reduce the chances of problems and mistakes. Master chess players become masters after memorising move combinations and learning to think many steps ahead because they are already aware of the patterns and move combinations, which allows them to make quicker but wise moves. A person trying to sound and look smart by producing quick witty remarks often than not makes mistakes which needs to be covered by excuses and false information or interpretation to hide the aspect they may be wrong. Take time to understand before speaking so that you learn wisdom.

Find out why wisdom is the essential knowledge for this world on this episode!

We all have that friend in the group who is a joker but at the same time we have one that likes to play jokes on you and say embarrassing things or do embarrassing things to you that make you look bad. Its best to let them know you don’t want them to do that, whether they do it consciously or not they are pulling down your value and trying to increase theirs. You cannot increase your own value by putting down the friends you hang with as it just shows you think far less of them and yet hang with them. It affects attraction and reduces your chances of attracting the person you are interested in for your love life. Find out what needs to be done to break the sabotaging from such types of friends to speed up networking.

People seem to always build themselves up for such high maintenance and needs which they can never truly maintain financially or socially. They never take the action to secure their finances or social statuses, never take action to create for themselves a lifestyle that can support such high maintenance and yet are willing to go through the pain and suffering that comes afterwards. Then when they can’t have it they go into debt, get angry and upset, break rules and do things which gets them into more problems to try and maintain. Either put in the work to support your high maintenance or reduce your lifestyle down to meet your earning and capacity.

Find out how you should live with others in your community and neighbourhood so that you are not influenced to create an unhappy lifestyle out of fears, cultural narratives and want of status.

People say don’t worry about what others think of you but what you think of yourself. That is true, you shouldn’t worry about it, BUT you should carefully consider how you come across to others and how you show your personal brand to others. If you decided to live your life in a cave in a mountain then that would be fine, if you didn’t care. However, if you intend to network, to build relationships and interact with people then your value is worth as much as how you are perceived. Therefore, you can choose to be an ass, not care and expect people to accept you as someone who is rude, obnoxious or unattractive but don’t be surprised if your love life and relationships don’t last very long.

Find out what it takes to calibrate yourself well with others to build great relationships and an approachable personality in this episode.

Stop wasting time trying to be the 2nd class version of someone else. You cannot be someone else no matter how much you try, that spot has already been taken. Instead focus on being the best version of yourself. You are unique in everything even though your makeup is the same as everyone else. Our mind, heart and spirit are uniquely different, these are the elements that make me, me and you, you.

Yes, we should learn and be inspired by others but we don’t need to replicate them, we take the best of each person we are inspired by and create ourselves into something great with out elements. Once you discover what makes you yourself, you’ll never want to be a copy of someone else. You’ll become a leader.

Contentment and gratefulness are foundations of happiness. People look everywhere and at what everyone has except what they already have. Its not until life hits them hard and they realise what they had before an accident, before they lost a loved one and before they became ill was far better than they thought. Gratefulness lets you appreciate what you have, no matter how little. Greed on the other hand stops you from appreciating everything that you have no matter how much. Learn to reduce your lifestyle down to your needs rather than what you desire and you’ll be happier. Stop the things that influence you and create desire in you to want more, TV advertising and social media marketing techniques. I stopped watching TV in 2003 but before that I started to mute adverts, my phone I have now is a cheap ZTE blade that does all the functions I need, it cost me £75. Learn the 3 secrets I used to become grateful and content with my life and myself in this episode.

Set yourself deadlines at work and in your personal life and you will see immense growth in your abilities and time management. It will push you to get better and force you to grow. It will also teach you about your limitations and increase your potential. We grow only when we are challenged. Create challenges for your life before life creates challenges for you when you’re not ready. When you create a time pressure you move with haste and urgency rather than slack and dragging on achievements. I used to work very close that I always thought I could sleep longer and get there quickly enough but somehow, I always ended up getting there late. Once I decided I needed to set off earlier, that pattern broke. Listen to this episode to find out the importance of adding time pressure on your personal life to help improve it faster than you imagined.

The heart is also known as the heart brain. It is such a piece of flesh that if it is good then the rest of you is good and if it is bad then the rest of you is corrupt. It adapts by absorbing the emotional states of its surroundings. Your emotions, character and personality are linked to your heart. So, in order to perfect your character, you must focus on removing the negative emotions being created in your heart.

In this episode I explain what is needed to help purify the internal heart and the actions that needed to be taken as taught by my spiritual master and many of those that came before him.

Choosing the people you keep company with, is all about how your time is valued. Do they value your time as much as you value theirs? You time is your hourglass of life and the time that you spend on someone is the same as giving away your life to them. If they cannot make the time for you, then is it worth you wasting your life for them, only to be waiting for nothing? Choose carefully who you give your life to as time is the most expensive commodity in the world. If you had 1 week to live, who you would spend your time with and what would you be doing with it? Check out this episode to learn the most important questions you should be asking yourself to get discover who you should be giving your life balance to.

If you’re struggling to save money, its probably because you have nothing to save for. You have no purpose or clear goal in mind to invest your savings into. Look at the people who have a plan to buy a house or prepare for a new born, how it becomes easy for them to focus on saving and always remembering to put some money away towards that savings. Find a reason to save or create one so that it encourages saving. When you have money saved, it gives you the comfort to enjoy and pursue other areas of your life by removing the financial burdens and costs of your daily needs.

If you're looking to be in a relationship it provides the confidence to be financially strong knowing you can look after yourself and entertain your potential partner without having to rely on them to pay for you. It gives you freedom having money saved away so that you are not restricted by financial limitations. Find out the secret to gaining the discipline to save money.

The key to achieving any difficult goal is to internalise it first. You must ask yourself within, if you can handle the journey. If you are ready to give consistent time and effort, overcome the difficulties you will surely face, if you are ready to commit to seeing it through to the end. If you can accept the responsibility of the task lying in front. Internalise your goal and all that you will face and remove the fears that prevent you from taking action towards it.

Find out in this episode the internalising process I have taken to get my artwork published in successful magazines and books before starting this 10 years goal to help prevent life problems through self awareness and confidence building.

In this episode I give you tips on making money from free items online or cheap items at garage sales or discount stores. For all those young adults who have nothing but time and no personal responsibilities of rent, clothes and food. Learn to make money early on and become independent by flipping items. This is your time to make money when you have all the time to do so. Once you get tied down by jobs, family and daily expenses it will be difficult to do. Go to the many sites that offer free items, such as Gumtree in UK and Craigslist in USA. Get hold of items that are given away free that you know you can sell on ebay or amazon and make money. Listen to the episode to get my super tip on boosting the value of the free item to sell for higher profits.

Everyone wants a good partner, an ideal spouse. If you want a good partner, then you must learn to be a good partner so you recognise the qualities of one. Relationships are built on being able to support each other to grow. When you become someone that you would look for it is easier to find the good ones amongst others. Just like a job interview, if they fail to meet your requirements and can’t put their words to their actions, let them go. Learn to know your responsibility, purpose and what is required from you to have a lasting relationship and you’ll have the checklist for a happy one to keep track of.

How often do you completely relax? If you’re listening to this episode, relax your shoulders, drop your body weight, become aware of your breathing and relax it and finally relax your face and focus. You should be able to feel a completely different feeling than when you first focused on the episode. Learn to focus on yourself more often, at times of sitting, eating, being with your partner and even lying in bed for sleeping.

So many people can’t relax in bed and wonder why they have such bad sleep, they cannot clear their minds and their heavy hearts. That leads to heaviness of the body and tension everywhere. Imagine having to hold a dumbbell on with both hands throughout your day and then have a weight on your chest when you’re trying to sleep. It surely cannot be comfortable.

Not being able to leave the house without makeup has really significant effects on women’s power and their confidence. The effects of continued fantasy ideas of perfect glowing skin and expectations from others has trained many women to feel insecure about their own skin. Learn to gain confidence by first removing false influences of Photoshop magazine images, airbrushed video frames and movies that glamorize the idea of having to wear it. If you enjoy the process then start by becoming confident without it, show up at work regularly without makeup if you are not trying to please others. Why should you put so much effort to please others when that same effort should be for you? If your health is causing poor skin conditions caused by stress, hormones or bad diet then work on that first to improve. Once you gain you confidence and lose the fear, feel free to make up for your pleasure of the process of beautifying yourself.

The words we use to describe our events, situations and problems have significant impact on the size of the problem and issue we make out. A scratch can become a huge exaggeration for someone who thinks they’ll bleed out. A person seeing blood and feeling faint and nauseous has linked it to mean something very bad and disgusting and so they focus on what it could mean. Using terms like ‘cheater’ coward and weak in wrong context can have huge impact on starting off with a blame mindset rather than a solution mindset with accountability. Learn why it's so important for your relationship with yourself and others to create correct meaning and language.

How can you expect to make money if you fear money, learning about making it, investing it and multiplying it? Financial intelligence, managing your expenses, incomes and outgoings are key. Understanding about debt control and knowing the differences between good and bad debts are tools for the businessman/woman. If you find it too difficult to become familiar with how to create money then you’re pursuing of money will reduce you down to begging for it instead of the money finding you.

Whether you're studying full time or not. If you're basic needs of shelter, food and clothing is being provided by your parents or carer without any money being asked. You need to practice gratitude. You are not owed anything in life for free. Therefore what you get for free should always come from a grateful attitude. If not, only misery and pain will overtake. Find out why it's so important to practice gratitude in this episode.

Why do people fall out of love? What changes in the relationship since the beginning that the needs are no longer met? These are fundamental questions people are asking to understand why relationships are breaking apart. Solutions are rarely about the blame game. It's more about understanding and communicating. What I have discovered are two key reasons why people fall out of love and both are related to growth. In this episode I discuss both of the reasons in detail and why it occurs to help you prevent it happening in your relationships. Don't miss out!

Criticism is loved by those that want to improve. If you are not ready to take criticism you are not ready to learn. Nobody created anything perfect the first time, it was through self-criticism and of others that allowed it to improve until the best end result was created. As an artist it is the criticism of better artists and professionals in the industry that will push you to grow and see what you’ve done from a new perspective. Find out how to take criticism and the types of people to take it from to empower your days.

Learn how the little things make big things happen. Whatever it is you set out to do. Create a plan that will allow you to be consistent. Give yourself enough time frame to achieve it and work on it a little each day when you struggle with discipline and work on it more when you feel excited. You’d be surprised the impact of doing a little each day towards your goal. Before you know it, you would have hit the target you aimed for and many times you’d have surpassed your aim. Check out the episode to understand how to set realistic time perspectives for your life to avoid frustration, jealousy and envy.

Computer games are so addictive and successful because of the feeling of being able to regenerate and start again over and over until you get it right. You forget that everyday is a start over for each one of us in real life. Whether its problems, past mistakes or future successes, our mistakes and problems make us grow just as they make you up skill in the computer games. The continuous tries and start over allows you to become better at handling the enemies and tasks you are set out to accomplish. Why not apply this to solving the mysteries and happiness of your real life? Find out what it takes to have an amazing day everyday in this episode.

Living your life with the expectations of others will always disappoint. Instead live for your own expectations. It is far easier to change yourself than change someone else. Social media for many has exposed us to our current negative states by creating a private door to comparing ourselves to the rest of the world. Find out what it takes to prevent resentment building up in his episode.

Intention is the key to removing false meanings and perception within your relationships. Clarify them, stop assuming and associating your current and future interactions based on past experiences. Your past experiences of past people should not form the foundation for your new connections and relationships. As they will be biased, unjustified and based on inaccurate information. Learn what you must do on this episode.

People complain about not having enough time to do this and that. They make excuses as to why they can't achieve their goals and dreams due to lack of time, knowledge, skills and resources. What if you had the time and it's always been there. Can you learn to recognize the available time or are you be caught up in the habits of the masses and mindset of the poor so much that you don't realize it?

Check out where that available time is and what you are willing to do to use it wisely on this episode.

People struggle to know what they will be doing in 5-10 years’ time and many have no idea what they want. If you look at the people you surround yourself with and the daily routines and habits you have, it isn’t difficult to figure out that what you are today will not change in 5 years unless you decide to grow at every turn, be creative in your approach and have a long-term goal with a plan. Find out the 2 key secrets that can change that outcome for you in this episode.

The danger of labeling yourself as a trending title. Entrepreneur, Writer, Concept Artist. Once you label yourself you confine yourself to what you think that is. You limit your goals and passion to remain trendy and in line with your title you chose. Working 5 years in fashion showed how quick society and trends change. Do you keep losing yourself to be recreated to what society wants or do you let society know who you really are?

Entrepreneurs were not cool back when Bill Gates, Jeff Bezos and Jack Ma were classed as nerds and geeks. Now it’s cool to be one, however many that give themselves the title don’t understand the condition and the work needed of being one. Check out the episode to understand how self-labeling can create more problems for your happiness than solutions.

Our value is only equal to the value we bring to others. Our reflection of who we are and what we do is only realised when compared to others. Our physical existence here on Earth is in relation to how we are with others and how we are perceived by others. Check out the episode to understand the difference between intrinsic value for yourself that is universal and perceived value that is not. If you want to approach you goals and purpose with real value then this episode is a must for you.

The law of attraction and success formula put together by Napoleon Hill, is NOT ABOUT BECOMING RICH financially primarily. It is about creating wealth of life, happiness and removal of fears whilst through it acquiring all the riches you desire too in the process. It requires you creating a product based on your passion to benefit mankind and working on yourself. Find out what the current world is not teaching from the original principles and how to avoid another endless cycle of chasing the material world. Learn the bug picture of the philosophy of success in this episode.

Being friend-zoned is one of the worst feeling for someone who wants intimacy with a person they feel affection and attraction to and that person doesn’t want them in that way. Friend zoning occurs when there is no feeling of sexual tension, or if a person cannot see themselves being intimate with you. Sexual attraction is what starts intimate attraction. When a person looks at someone and thinks I’m interested in having sex with this person you're out of the friend zone.

A lot of people with high value personality characteristics fall into this trap early on because their nice, modest character prevents them from showing sexual energy at the onset, they become the reliable friend, the best pal or create a brotherly or sisterly relationship. If you want to avoid being friend-zoned you need to listen to this episode as I give you the breakdown of how to avoid getting into the zone and how to get out of one if you really want.

Have you ever tried to relax completely? Most of us never even try to drop our complete body weight and relax the entire body even when we are asleep. How many times during the day do you actually sit down and just let everything fall down? Try it now, feel your body and see if it’s tense, when your sitting down, when you're eating, when you're watching a movie or doing your work in front of a computer. When the mind is continuously focused on absorbing outside information and processing it, the ability to get it to focus on relaxing the body becomes blocked.

In this episode I take you through an exercise on how to feel the difference between being tense and completely relaxing. Check it out!

Infidelity part B. The 2nd is someone who no longer gets their human needs met, this is not always sexual needs. A person in a long-term relationship doesn’t one day just get up deciding to cheat on their partner. This happens through a long period of neglect, miscommunication and heedlessness of the other partner. We all naturally want to be loved, needed, valued and respected. When that diminishes at home and you get it from a colleague, a friend or someone you meet new, that craving of needs attracts you to that person, over time you fall for them and then the final act of expressing that attraction is being intimate. It is the exact way they fell in love with you.

If you want to learn how to get to the root causes of infidelity in long-term relationships and how to understand what takes place and the reason it takes place in this type of relationship then this episode is for you.

One of the biggest reasons for divorces is infidelity. Here’s the thing, cheating occurs because of two reasons. In this video I will mention the 1st type. What I like to call, the nurture driven infidelity. This type is when the cheater never has the intention to stay faithful and has loose moral standards from the onset. This behaviour is witnessed early on in any relationship.

This type is falls into those who have recently broken up from a relationship and have not got over it, are not ready to commit, don't know your standards or have communicated that you're exclusive. Other times it's about creating false expectations. Find out how and why it occurs and what you can do to avoid it, overcome it to get on with your life.

When we die, everything we can do on this planet and the book of our own deeds close. However, we can leave behind three things that will continue to benefit us and increase those deeds in our name. These three things will remain and continue indefinitely that will help to inspire others to come. The best examples are of great leaders, inventors, scientists, spiritual masters and messengers that have changed civilizations even after their passing.

Find out what these 3 are and the time perspective we must all be aware of to keep is focused at all times for these 3 things.

Whatever goal, examination or dream you want to achieve, more often than not you will lack the knowledge, skills or resources as you are currently to make that happen. You must therefore develop yourself to gain these qualities so that you can accomplish each step towards that goal. Have you heard of anyone taking an exam without developing their knowledge for it? Have you heard of anyone just getting into a car and take a driving test without taking lessons to learn driving? Find out in this episode, if you really need to have self-development for success.

People don’t have time for health yet when illnesses develop, they find all the time in the world to call off sick at work, look for sympathy and special treatment. They have no time to think about their life but when death comes knocking suddenly nothing else matters and their life is all they think about. They have no time for relationships until they become lonely and need love.

We overlook the most simple and fundamental needs for our happiness every day, wait until the problem arises and then suddenly become dedicated like a person possessed. We strangely find all the time now. How does the value of your life, health and love change between then and now? It doesn’t, we just put higher value on less meaningful things when we become ungrateful of what is important and valuable for us so nature and the laws of the universe decides to take control and bring it to our attention. Put your life, health and love at the front and then let everything else fit around it.

We all love going on holidays and get excited about all the things we will do, taste and see. This is because at the start of it, you don’t focus on the problems and difficulties you left behind, you live in the present and look forward with positive thoughts and imagine yourself in each story you build up inside your mind. What happens near the end of the holiday? We start realizing its about to end and we need to go back to those difficulties and boring tasks we left behind.

What if you could change that feeling and be excited more about going back? This is done through having a long-term plan to go back to. Something that you have already created momentum for and excited to keep it going. Yes you’ll enjoy your holidays because you needed that break but you’ll become just as excited to go back. Even if it means a job you don’t want to be in the rest of your life, as long as the job, the people around you are a stepping stone to that end goal, you’ll find excitement.

If you’re someone who meets a lot of people but your relationships don’t last or it gets boring very quickly. The problem is value. You may be someone who gains a lot of initial attention but once you go deeper into the relationship and find out more about each other, you realize there’s nothing beyond the attention. You need to build attraction. This can ONLY be done by developing value beyond your outer appearance. There are many attractive people with not so attractive partners and they are extremely happy. Then there are some where the partner ends up cheating or wanting to end it because they are not connecting on a deeper level. If you find yourself in this type of dilemma it means you need to develop beyond your looks.

You need to stop feeling like you deserve something because your appearance is a valuable reward for someone to be with you. When you think like this you stop yourself from developing real value. You stop looking to grow smarter, you stop taking risks, trying new things and you gain no passion.

Find out why money is not real, it is just an idea. It's what you will find if any of you read Robert Kiyosaki’s book, Rich Dad, Poor Dad. I spent some time thinking and looking into this and discovered how true it was. You see money is only a currency exchange for value. Whether it’s skills, ideas and commodities. If the world decided that tea was the new currency, so it will be. Just like when the world decided to give cryptocurrency value. You see money is only attracted to ideas. We buy ideas that solve problems, we by ideas that make things better. The bigger problems our ideas can solve the higher the value that idea has.

If you’re someone who has no ideas then don’t expect to attract money. Instead of chasing money, chase knowledge and use it to create ideas. Millions of pounds are exchanged in an instance between accounts and all that people are buying are ideas and concepts for new ways to improve life. So, focus on developing your mind for ideas and value will bring you currency whatever it might be.

So many people are obsessed with wanting branding and big labels all over them. They are proud to wear big labels and look to only buy products that has a big name attached to it. Ask yourself why you look for such names and branding? Is it quality, it is to be accepted or respected through seeming financially well off? Are you doing it to feel you belong in a category or financial class? More often than not, it is to impress others. What kind of life can you live trying to impress others or to live by how you want others to see you? Isn’t it more important to see how you see yourself?

When younger I used to admire and desire big sports labels which I couldn’t afford, so being the creative arty person I was, I learned to embroider so I could stitch the Nike and other logos onto my plain tops. One day I questioned myself, what value is this giving me? Wasting my time stitching a brand that creates no value. Instead I’m only promoting the brand by wearing it and I get nothing back in advertising, unlike celebrities. That was the last time I looked for branding and another chain of control was broken. Break away the controls of societies expectations and wanting to please others to free yourself of unhappiness.

Our body is nature, therefore it is only logical that nature heals nature. Cures and healing found in nature take time because it fights to remove the disease entirely by adapting the body, making it stronger as it fights the pathogens, as it recognizes the threats. It requires, patience and giving the body all the nutrients, tools and strength to heal. It requires giving it mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health. When the healing is done, it is complete.

A part of you is not missing as is, after a medical operation or an emergency procedure. Something is not left damaged or half repaired. Surround yourself with nature much as possible and let the body calibrate with it. I spend time regularly walking barefoot on grass, lying on it and staying close to the earth, it's called grounding. It helps to balance the energy within you and your surroundings.

The strongest person is not the one who can lift hundreds of kilograms at the gym but the one who can control their anger. Anger may seem like power when exercised outwardly with volatile energy but in reality it is weakness because it removes intellect and submits you to your base animal traits.

The animal nature are the weaker characteristics within us and we must always look to overcome and control them by gaining the angelic nature if we should reach higher peaks of knowledge, love and success in anything. Anybody can go to the gym and lift some weights but very few can tolerate blame, ridicule, oppression and pain. It is very easy to be nice to those who are nice to you but it takes a really strong person to be nice to those that are bad towards you. Find out in this episode the root cause of anger and how to deal with it instantly as I have over the years

The wisest person is the one who learns from other people’s mistakes and benefits from it. Some may say the wisest is the person who learns from their own mistakes. If this was true then they would not make the mistake in the first place as wisdom by definition is to make wise choices from past mistakes.

Our lives are far too short to make all the mistakes we need to make all the right decisions, therefore taking from the mistakes of others allows us to accelerate that learning and gain the wisdom that have grown from the experiences of others. In the same way we take on good experiences and teachings from other people’s experiences, we should benefit from their mistakes also to empower our lives and avoid the pitfalls we may come across similarly. Only a fool or an ignorant person would put their hands into a flame knowing that it will burn.

Thinking outside the box for work but what about your own life? If employers who are successful, can see the importance of thinking outside the box and bringing fresh new ways of thinking and problem solving for their company as an advantageous skill and character, shouldn’t we value this way of thinking and bringing ideas to our own lives even more?

People worry about jobs, problems and difficulties in life yet, they fail to develop the single most important tool to overcome them all, creativity. Creativity cannot be copied by machines, it cannot be found within creatures of lower intellect, it is unique in human beings, this is how civilizations developed and continue to do so. So, think outside the box for all that you do and you’ll be well on your way to finding answers for things you didn’t know you could.

The spiritual business. Create a business of good deeds through leaving behind mechanisms that create passive deeds for your soul and your loved ones in this world. For those that believe in the afterlife and believe in the reward of paradise and hell, are you not forgetting the largest business that ever existed. The business of helping people and leaving behind a legacy of actions, people and knowledge that will continue to benefit you in the next world.

If you do one good deed and that deed changes the life of someone, imagine the prayers, the good energy and the chain reaction of events you start with that. Now can you imagine, teaching goodness, passing on goodness and leaving behind goodness through pious, well mannered offspring. They will continue to build on the goodness and you’ll be the beneficiary of it all whilst they create their own spiritual banks with their own deeds. There are two others forms of creating passive deeds. Find out what they are in this episode.

You didn’t hate the person you married or got in a long-term relationship with. Nobody marries or gets into a relationship with someone they hate. Re-trace your steps and figure out where it went wrong. What changed? who changed and what was being neglected to fall off track? You’ll soon be able to recover what was lost with intellectual honesty and with a focus to look for solutions instead of blame. You need to be willing to do whatever it takes to make the adjustments.

If after communicating the problems and needs, no action is being taken to transform or fix the problem, what do you do? Find out on this episode.

It seems people find it far more difficult to pick up a book and grow mentally than to pick up heavy weights at the gym. Is it a wonder that beneficial knowledge is slowly leaving us replaced with ignorance. People seem to always have money for entertainment, useless pursuits or eating out, yet have no money to buy books, pay for valuable courses to gain new skills for life. Is it a wonder that their financial stability is compromised? People have no time to learn the most important skills and knowledge for life’s happiness and those of their children but have plenty of time to go on holidays, partying weekends away and mindless fun in front of the big screen.

If you’re wondering why you may in a bad state, mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually, maybe you need to consider, where all your precious time is going and what you’re spending your life on? Just little changes in what you do, can create huge changes in what happens to you and your future.

Those who think they know all the answers, leave no room to learn and grow and become ignorant of knowledge. There are two types of people who prevent themselves from growth and learning. Those who are too shy, or afraid to look stupid to ask and those who are too arrogant and think they know everything. Remember always that above each knower there is someone who is more learned. If you can always remember this it will give you the courage to ask and learn, as you will no longer feel incompetent or incapable. Also if you think you know everything it will humble you to others with far greater knowledge.

Do not mistake information, experience and wisdom as the same type of knowledge. If you have experienced everything in life and tried everything possible and grasped all the facts and truths of the universe, you still wouldn’t know everything. Stop creating reasons for preventing your growth and humble yourself to knowledge, then that knowledge will raise you higher than you can ever imagine.

The worst type of people to admire and idolize are those that provide no real value except self-satisfaction through eye candy. If the people you worship and fill your newsfeed with do not push you or advice you the methods and actions to get to where they are then they are not really providing you value. They are filling their own needs of being important, glorified and admired. Its not easy to unfriend celebrities and people you’ve known about all your life or your social gatherings speak about. You don’t want to feel left out, but here’s the thing, maybe the friends you hang out with don’t want what you want out of life.

If you want success then you must surround your influences, newsfeed with valuable content that teaches the ways to get there and not just the end results. None of us want to see continuous photos of a bank statement of a billionaire, we want to know how they got it. Do the same for all your important things in your life. Find out what you should be looking for in the people you follow to know if they provide you with value in your life.

There's always something to be learned from the complainers. Don't do what they do and you'll find yourself gaining a lot more than what they are. Every negative person with a negative attitude, mindset and lack of goals should help you to put your own life in focus. Use the lives of others you are afraid of, to give you the motivation through fear of becoming life them to succeed.

Use the poor mindset attributes of people you meet and interact with, to question your own mindset and lack of determination. Use the excuses of others to prevent yourself using the same excuses. Discipline yourself as though you are telling off someone you care about when they are doing something wrong or harmful to themselves. Use others as a reminder for what you don’t want to become when what they are is unsuccessful and miserable.

Train your mind more than your body. At the least train it as much as you would go to the gym on a regular basis. And you don’t have to leave your home or pay a monthly fee. The brain is the most complex organ in our body and too many of us neglect it because the rewards of intellectual growth are not so easy to see. The compliments are not so easily found as you would with gaining a great physique or muscular body.

However, the results are far greater and long lasting. They form as knowledge and wisdom to change your life and the life of others by sharing that knowledge. When you develop your mind the growth of the rest of yourself begins to happen. Find out how I began my journey of intellectual growth and why it's so important.

What you don’t know about nice guys/girls. Most women/men see them as boring or predictable. The only reason they are like this around you is because they genuinely don’t want to cause you grief or upset so they are shy on approach, hesitant and seem to lack confidence in introduction. They actually care about your feelings. Most nice guys/girls focus on building life security through a stable income, desires of a stable family and many become focused for success. The only thing that stops every nice guy/girl reaching to their highest potential is an equally nice woman or man to support and be there with them.

Nice guys/girls possess a high level of emotional control and exercise it to avoid confrontation. Nice guys/girls are nice because they are sympathetic and many times empaths, because of the difficulties they themselves go through. Nice guys/girls may seem boring and too nice but many a times they possess a high sexual energy which is released in privacy because they value their moral standards. It’s not easy to be nice to those that are bad to you, its only something a nice guy/girl can do. So, women who are attracted to men who seem exciting, know that true excitement is to be with someone who is ready to commit to you, your happiness and your security, not someone who will play you for a while and keep you hanging. Once you get to know a nice guy/girl intimately, you’ll realize there is more to them than what you believe you think you know. Find out why your ideas of a nice people being boring are wrong in this episode.

Many of us look at homeless people and beggars with disgust, anger, annoyance or pity. Have you ever thought that they can’t help their situation because of money? Poverty is a lack of means to support your basic needs. Anyone that has to worry about food, clothes and shelter each day has no time to think about anything else.

Any one of us can become poor and suffer in the same way if our need to survive each day is the first thing on our mind. The Town with No Poverty: The Health Effects of a Canadian Guaranteed Annual Income Field Experiment 1974 to 1979. Evelyn L Forget, found an increase in mental health, longer duration in education, lower crimes and much higher overall economy boost. Find out why it's important to think think twice before judging a poor person as you would be no different in their place.

The need for a mastermind group or support for your financial goal or any type of goal is a necessary principle to succeed quickly. Every successful person had someone with them as a partner, the Prophets and Messengers had their disciples and companions. The scientific geniuses had their spouses or on occasions mistresses and the businessmen and entrepreneurs had their business partners and investors.

By aligning yourself with a mastermind alliance of partners and supporters for your dream, you pool resources, networks, knowledge, ideas and skills that you alone would not be able to learn or gather in your lifetime alone. A partnership speeds up the process of your success by means of combined help. You should look for partners when you need help and have created enough momentum to show you are serious in succeeding. Trying to find supporters and partners early on is difficult with just an idea that most would be skeptical about. The momentum of your actions will be proof enough to attract partners and helpers to your cause. Find out all the reasons why you must form alliances to increase the speed of success.

I know many of us hear the term self-development and start to have a generic idea of its meaning. It paints an idea of hard work towards being better than what you are now. Most don't realize the importance of self-development towards a better life and how each goal requires a specific type of self-development for each individual.

Its simple, every moment you are changing from micro to macro level, whether you like it or not. If that change is benefiting you or not is totally up to you. Many of us are going backwards in our growth whilst a few moving forwards.

If you have a goal in mind, then for you to reach that goal requires you taking a journey, which will push you, pull you and change you. But if you do not grow stronger, smarter and more efficient through that journey you will not be able to achieve that goal. When you start any goal your current state is not sufficient to reach the end of the goal because the journey demands updating yourself and therefore self-development is inevitable. What's stopping your growth? Find out in this episode!

We often dream of or long to be beautiful like some people we see in the world. We fantasize how easy life would be to get what you want because of your beauty. Do you really think all beautiful people get the world handed to them because of how attractive they are? The only reason people become envious and long for such beauty is they think it's an easy ticket to happiness.

It is natural to want to avoid pain and difficulties in life but hoping to win the lottery and wishing you were beautiful is not going to magically remove you problems. Yes it may provide more opportunities with ease but essentially the choices YOU make will still reflect what happens to your life. People never look at the flip side of success, of beauty of being rich and of being famous. If we did, then maybe we would not be so eager to want it instantly, but become somebody stronger, better, smarter and content over time who is capable of handling such responsibilities.

Money without financial intelligence is worthless and beauty without care of emotional and mental intelligence is a curse to those that have it. Find out the problems and adversities even beautiful people face and reduce your envy and jealousy with contentment.

Having mentors, whether through books, videos, courses or in person is vital to starting off your journey of seeking knowledge. Why? Because it is through their works, teachings and mastery that our path becomes clearer. It is through them we gain guidance and a quick boost to achieving our own goals that resonates with their achievements.

It is knowing the difference between the knowledge of real mentors and guides that allows us to recognize the fakes, scammers and con artists. If we want to reach our goals with certainty then the best way is to hold tightly the ropes of those that have succeeded in the past. Success leaves clues and leaves patterns to follow. All we must do is follow those who have reached where we want to and test their claims before submitting to their way. Find out why people get scammed by false mentors and why we must all have guides for our own success.

There are so many people who have dreams and goals but waste so much time being distracted in gaining partial knowledge for that goal. In this episode I explain the importance of targeted knowledge and how it effects your level of success in achieving that goal.

Many people overlook this simple common sense that when I've asked them why they are doing a certain course or reading a certain book, their answer is 'I thought I'd try a new way' or 'I want to try something else and see what I can do with it'. These vague reasons don't bring about the confidence you need to mastery of your knowledge in relation to your goals. Find out how instead.

Finding the right person isn't about luck. It's not even about destiny. It's about you making your choices based on what type of person you want and need. If you wait for someone to land on your lap or fall into your life and you don't ask that person the most important questions, more often than not eventually they will fail to keep you happy or you them. Without knowing if you are both compatible with each other in the most important parts of life, how long do you think it will last.

That is where I discovered the 4 point value pyramid that is a simple personality and characteristic profile to make sure you always land the best type of person when the going gets tough. This is exactly what I looked for during my years of searching and it has done me very well. Find out about the value pyramid and use it the rest of your life.

Momentum is where the magic happens in any goal that you start on. Anyone can exert a huge amount of energy for a short amount of time that may or may not produce burst reward of that action but nothing beats consistency of action and achievement. This consistency becomes far easier and you gain greater motivation to continue when momentum kicks in. Find out how I created momentum doing my illustrations and concept art to get them published in high profile art-books and digital art magazines, which can be applied to any goal you may have.

Meditation is a deep spiritual practice, has many forms and techniques depending on which Spiritual Master you choose to follow. What it does have in common is it's power of self-awareness and the only method I believe that allows for the root causes of problems in our own lives to be discovered. Find out how meditation allows us better focus and awareness to be able to discover cause and effects better, bringing about solutions from within us that is always there. Solutions we cover and block from showing itself through the pains we feel caused by the problems that occur.

In an era where modern medicine is at the forefront of pharmaceuticals, people are dying left and right from their own lifestyle choices and diets than anything else. Our depressions and sadness is causing us to turn to short-term addictions, ignoring the problems and causes. Find out the long-term effects of such choices and issues that have resulted in the top 10 fatal killers in this era. Is there a way to cure them? What are the prevention for them?

The adult film industry is not going to die off anytime soon but the effects its having on young adults as well as the adult males in religious communities cannot be ignored. It's causing desensitizing for some, problems of arousal for others and for some education of improving their sex life. What are really the consequences? Find out in this episode.

What is the difference? Doesn't both of them mean having plenty of money in the account? The differences are huge when it comes to life's happiness, the freedom to do what you want and removing financial burdens. Being rich means you can run out of your savings sooner or later and may need to get back to employment later on in life once it does. It is generally associated with financial riches. Wealth is accumulative and keeps growing, meaning you do not need to physically be there for your efforts to reap rewards later. Learn what you need to do to build wealth for your life, whatever type of wealth that is. The pattern for success is the same, no matter the goal.

Whatever we do in life, time always carries on. We gain experience and learn continuously as the body takes in information and influences. There is a huge difference between beneficial knowledge and detrimental knowledge. There is also useless knowledge. With such a short lifespan, there is only so much one person can experience on their own, so much problems and solutions they can come up with by themselves. It is essential for our growth and the continued rise in problems to be able to learn just as fast and gain the tools to prevent your unhappiness. Find out the secret to learning years of knowledge in days, weeks and months instead of years.

Finding a life partner seems so difficult for many people. They much prefer to wait for a person to fall into their lap. They wish someone they like would talk with them and wait as long as they can for the easy pickings and the perfect opportunity to talk to someone. All because of fears of shame and embarrassment. What do you need to do to realize, you either choose who you want to be with or you're going to be left with a selection of choices forced by situations and accidents that most probably isn't what you want but have to accept. Fear can be a great motivator but it can never be a means to remain happy.

We all have our daily routines and yet we let the same problems and situations we face upset us, get us down or feel emotionally attached to. What if you could prevent such problems or situations having the negative effect they currently have on you? Find out the methods I use daily to prevent anger, emotional outbursts and hurt occur at work, at home and out in public.

Disagreements and petty arguments happen in all types of relationships. How you deal with them is what will either strengthen your bond as a couple or slowly start breaking down that relationship. Taking accountability requires self-reflection and internal honesty. It requires you having emotional intelligence and biting down your ego. It's not about blame, it's about solutions and prevention. At the end of the day, we just one someone we know with certainty has our backs when it counts. It's called trust and it's called respect. Learn the mental process and perception you need to gain to avoid such failures in your relationship.

Short-term pleasures and gratification are an addiction that once form into habits are difficult to free yourself from. In the long-term they break down self-control, feed the ego and desires and weaken your character. You begin to weaken in your resolve and very quickly lose sight of your potential and chances to achieve long-term success. Find out how short-term pleasures must be controlled and taken notice of before it's too late to give yourself the habits that the successful and wealthy are using everyday.

Statistics show that on average, a person attempts 1.5 times in pursuit of their goals before giving up. If J K Rowling gave up on her 10th or 11th attempt to get Harry Potter published we would never enjoy the wizarding world she had imagined. If Colonel Sanders stopped after the hundreds of attempts to sell his fried chicken recipe we would not see a KFC. Find out what it takes to achieve your goals and make them achievable no matter how many you have or how large they may be.

In this episode I discuss the 6 types of influences that affect each individual from childhood into adulthood. How these influences are not chose as a child but determine the limits and potentials to the beliefs of what you are capable for the rest of your life. If these influences are not corrected and relearned the danger is you may never come out of your false ideas, limited beliefs and prevent yourself from reaching your true potential. Learn these 6 influences and what needs to be done to regain you power back.

Many of us behave differently with different groups of people and types of people. These different personalities and characters we bring out come from a feeling of fear and want. What if you no longer worried about being embarrassed or you didn't need anything from anyone? What if you didn't expect your happiness and desires to be attached to someone else? Would you still behave the way you normally would? Would you compromise and dilute your standards so you could win a favor or avoid pain? In this episode I provide the methods I used to find my core, true personality which I never compromise with anyone I'm with. The personality that allows me to be confident and build my true personal brand.

In this episode I discuss the 3 key motivators people live with. The beliefs they form from these key motivators either limits or expands their potential to take action willingly, happily and with passion. If you can understand which key motivator is the focus of your actions, you'll be able to align it to your goal to create passion and long-term motivation because you will be able to combine what you want to do with permission to be able to do it. Find out how I used my key motivator with my goal to motivate me in my current long-term dream.

Beliefs form through experiences, perceptions and the meanings we take, that then attach to our emotions. They become concrete by entering into the heart through those emotional attachments. When we are emotionally moved by something, logic and intellect is not necessarily needed to make a choice or judgment. This is why it's important to form correct beliefs from the onset so that correct responses and the best responses can be made when such emotional tendencies take control. Learn how we are influences and how the sub-conscious mind forms beliefs through these influences so that you can gain control of your beliefs to empower you in your life.

Is there such a thing as good debt? of course there is as long as you understand what it is. Like many things, if you don't know something or not familiar with it, you're going to fear it. Those fears can only be removed through learning, understanding and clarification. Just by understanding the simple concepts surrounding good debts it will give you an overwhelming advantage in managing your finances. As with anything, discipline and self-control need to be gained to put it into practice.

In this episode I go through the process of simplifying your lifestyle. Removing the things that cause continued pressure and responsibilities. Its a simple formula that many find it difficult to apply even though logically and beneficially it is the right thing to do. Make money from the things you no longer use or give it away to others that can make use of it and get the blessings and prayers of those in need. The more you have to take responsibility for the more there is on your mind to cause you stress and problems.

In this episode I discuss the most toxic of all emotions and the one that cannot be reasoned with. It is the emotion a person must master in the path of spirituality and it is one that damages a person internally as well as externally. That emotion is anger. I discuss the methods I used and use continuously to prevent anger from taking control and how to keep it in check. Learn the ways to prevent the problems that stem from it.

In this episode I provide the reasons why many women fail to create opportunities to meet the men of their dreams. Why they reduce their chances due to being too harsh in judging men too early on, in interactions. There is no human being, man or woman that can speak confidently or be perfect in their approach when they are under pressure of rejection, being embarrassed or made a fool of. This is why creating easier chances for men is needed and removing walls that block you from being approached is a must to meeting the one for you. Find out how to put yourself ahead of the dating game against so many women out there looking for Mr. Right.

In this episode I provide the key methods and rules I used to gain confidence in approaching women. This episode is to give men the psychological techniques, mindsets and the approach methods to avoid procrastination and building approach anxiety. Whether it's for casual dating or looking for the ideal person you want to marry, this episode provides something for everyone, including women who want to know how men think and want to have expectations that are realistic. Understanding men from the way men are as opposed to how women think they should be, which leads to a lot of hurt and disappointment when those expectations are not met. I discuss the 50/50 formula and the 3 seconds rule in detail and how to combine them. The next episode will be tips for women on being approached.

This episode follows on from outer confidence and is the source of all internal power. Inner confidence. Both inner and outer confidence need to be combined in a person to complete full confidence that is unshakeable, unbreakable and one that emits natural strength by just presence. Find out how and what it takes to build inner confidence and why it's so important for your life goals and achievements. You can also check out my IGTV video episode on this podcast at: themdansarali

In this episode I explain the 4 methods I've used and applied in my life to gain unshakeable outer confidence in who I am, how I am and how I behave around the people I interact with. I lacked confidence up until the age of 24yrs. Then in the span of a few years my confidence developed through a process of changing who I thought I was, how I looked and how I came across through 4 factors that originally caused me to lose confidence from an early age like so many youths today. Don't miss out this episode if you want to gain practical methods of gaining confidence that can be applied straight away.

In this episode I discuss the secrets of the law of attraction and how to focus on the correct inner language and thoughts to attract the most positive impact in your life. I explain how to focus on the right type of words, images and thoughts that bring positive results and why many struggle to get out of problems because they are focusing on the incorrect type of thoughts even though they aren't aware. It's such a simple formula that all the major public figures like Mother Teresa, Bruce Lee and many of the successful people knew about it and used it well to transform their lives.

Your salary is based on your value to the company and the job that you do. If you only do what you're asked to then you have no right to ask for more money since you're only doing what you're being paid for. However, if you consistently do more than you're asked then you put yourself in a position to demand more. This principle has been confirmed by Napoleon Hill in his book, Think & Grow Rich as part of his philosophy for success. It has been tested within different jobs in my life and has produced great results in one form or another. Find out more to help increase your demands and influence in your company.

No matter which company you work for there are 3 groups of people you need to be friends with at work. These 3 types will help propel you to a fast career progression as they are present in every company. Combine the friendship of these colleagues and mix it with a great personal branding and you'll be able to progress into management faster than you thought possible. Find out how I used these methods effectively to go from a customer assistant to management within 6 months even with a change in head management several times over.

The people we spend most of our time with are those who mold and shape our way of thinking and our personality. Our beliefs are directly linked to the people we trust, love and the way our companions believe and think. Therefore it is vital that we begin to spend time with those that will influence us in a positive manner, in a way that unleashes our potential, not limit it. Find out how to quickly enjoy the benefits of unlimited beliefs and a positive mindset to be able to achieve your long-term goals in life.

People seem to always chase money as though it's real. Money is just the current form of currency that is used to exchange commodity and value. Value is gained through acquiring knowledge, especially knowledge that will bring value to others. This value has to be in the form of problem solving and finding solutions. Become a person who is innovative, who is a problem solver and you'll find yourself attracting money. Where value goes money must follow. People pay for solutions and ideas that will make their life easier and better. Gain knowledge in multiple subjects or specialize in one so that you are sought out for your knowledge and ability to solver people's problems.

People are so unaware of the negative energy they attract each day, just going to work and back or for general tasks like food shopping. Avoid bad energy coming to you by protecting the things valuable to you. Don't put it on display to attract unwanted attention from people you don't care for. What is the purpose of you displaying your beauty to strangers? What is the purpose of displaying your riches and items for the public to be jealous over, to lust over and to curse you over? Find happiness in sharing your success and beauty with those that will appreciate it and be happy for you. Have inner confidence and gain inner peace by not needing to get approval of others for who you are and what you achieve.

Many of us give too much value and meaning to special dates in our relationships that have become a part of the generic annual celebrations created by the Capitalistic marketplace. The corporations have monopolized on people's needs of reassurance and relationship status by forcing people to recognize special dates like Valentines, anniversaries and other seasonal celebrations as a way to show commitment, love and desire for someone. A great, passionate relationship doesn't require specific dates to show each other how much they appreciate one another. Avoid such pitfalls that make your relationships be compared to others, to avoid keeping up pretenses and habitual acts that actually give no real value and expression of how someone really feels. Break away from chains of expectations and conformity of what society expects and create unique memories each day, not on just special occasions. Don't judge your man or woman by a few dates in a year.

Understand how to become confident through understanding what arrogance is. Many people don't know the differences and assume at times a confident person is coming across arrogant. The differences are huge and the inner power you gain is totally different between the two. Learn to recognize arrogance in all its facets so you can avoid it's pitfalls.

Short-term motivation is achieved by setting yourself small achievable tasks. Once you accomplish them you get pleasure from achievement and this feeds you to doing it again. Kind of like winning in a game. Achieving long-term motivation requires aligning your core beliefs with your goal through a point of view that makes you feel it's acceptable to do it and does not go against your core beliefs. Once you can manage that you will gain passion, love and energy to fully engage in succeeding in your goal. Learn how in this episode as I break down how its done. This episode is an expansion of my Daily 1 min motivation post on Instagram. Go check it out and follow me for new posts every day.

Learning does not have to be difficult if you break away from the standardized learning taught in the schooling system. As individuals learning should be created as a customized format for each person as we all learn in different ways. There are 7 methods to learning, understanding and retaining information. On top of this the way you apply your learning determines how much you retain from it. In this episode I discuss the 7 learning methods and the Cone of Learning by Edgar Dale, which I used to understand how I learn. If you can know how you best learn then you can learn anything you desire, whether its for an exam at school or preparation for a job interview.

Many people live boring, predictable lives that don't have much variety. They fear uncertainty and taking risks or even trying something new even if it is risk free and safe. How are you able to discover all the great things life has to offer if you aren't able to give it a try, take a chance and make mistakes. Our willingness to make mistakes is what pushes us to growth. It allows us to develop and realize wisdom and knowledge. The more things you do the more opportunity you create for yourself to tap into higher potential, discover your gifts and natural talents. You won't know if you're the next genius or revolutionary if you won't break away from your comfort zone.

Every week begins with a difficult start for many. They hate Mondays, hate the job they are about to go to and are miserable at the thought of having to do tasks that will be difficult, boring or repetitive. Here's the thing, our lives and habits are not so different day in, day out. Therefore knowing what we will do, what we can expect to encounter and the tasks we must accomplish, IF we decide at the start of each day with powerful statements like 'I will not let anything or anyone ruin my day', 'It will be awesome, I'm going to find solutions to every problem I come across' or even 'No matter what type of customer comes forward, I'll do my best to stay happy, helpful and show genuine care'. These will have such empowering meaning for our happiness is something that has to be tried to understand. Once you've made a firm decision on something, nobody can alter that mindset.

You may not realize that many of us bring in the negative energy we collect from outside interactions, people we pass and work with without being aware that these bad energies can mix up the good ones in our personal life and home life. In order to safeguard yourself you should aim to get out of the outer garments as soon as you get home and have a shower to cleanse your body too. Keep the goodness and happiness of your homes that way without it being disrupted by the badness of the outside.

One of the best things to relieve stress, feeling overwhelmed and build up of pressure is to write down your problems and thoughts to reflect on at a later time. It allows you to remove it from the mind and put it somewhere concrete so that you can free up brain power and space to make new memories. It also allows you to remove the fear of forgetting a great idea.

In this episode I discuss the importance of being mindful of everything around you. Especially the food that we eat that fuels our body. It is important to know that by being heedless of what you are taking in daily you lose and overlook the spiritual essence of food and very quickly let it become a means of disease and illnesses rather than cure and healing for your body.