Out of the Fire: Recent Episodes
Trisha Fraley
Join me and guests on this podcast as we talk about how to walk through the "fires" of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before.
What if I told you that the hard times you're going through are actually for your benefit? You can thrive in the midst of adversity, but you have to first make the choice to do so. Let's learn from the people who have walked through the flames before, so that you can develop the grit to handle anything that comes your way.
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In this kickoff episode for 2025, Trisha shares her excitement for the new year and the importance of setting intentions. She emphasizes the significance of having a word for the year, which for her is 'steadfast.' Trisha discusses the necessity of breaking down goals into smaller, actionable steps to ensure success. She encourages listeners to embrace courage in the face of fear and to step into the unfamiliar, drawing on stories of resilience. The episode concludes with a call to commit to personal growth and to push beyond comfort zones, reminding everyone that they have the power to achieve their goals.
Takeaways
This is a new season for the podcast. Setting intentions is crucial for personal growth. Choosing a word for the year can guide your actions. Breaking down goals into small steps is essential. Courage is built in the face of fear. Embrace the unfamiliar to grow and learn. Resilience is formed through challenges. Identify and combat familiar habits that hold you back. You have everything you need to achieve your goals. This year is an opportunity for new beginnings.
Chapters
00:00 Welcome to 2025: A New Beginning 02:21 Setting Intentions: The Power of a Word 05:09 Breaking Down Goals: The Small Steps Matter 09:26 Courage in the Face of Fear 12:42 Embracing the Unfamiliar: Stories of Resilience 16:19 Commitment to Growth: Pushing Beyond Comfort Zones
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Join me as we talk with Tanya McCready about taking a leap of faith into unfamiliar territories. Through her expertise and relatable stories, you will find so many life lessons in this podcast.
Tanya is an International TEDx Speaker, Best Selling Author, and Dogsledding Entrepreneur. She and her husband are also the Co-founders at Winterdance Dogsled Tours - Yukon Quest & Iditarod race team.
Quotes:
"Sometimes you can be so close to the finish, but it feels like you're so far away. When things are tough and you're looking at the whole thing, you just want to quit. But you can always do just one more thing." -Tanya
"You can always go for one more day, one more minute, one more mile. Then in a week you look back and you've climbed a mountain range. But you didn't do it intentionally; you did it by taking just one more step. -Tanya
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Have you ever had the thought: "It wasn't supposed to be this way?" In this episode, we'll dive into the gap from the latest podcast release & the unexpected lessons you can find in the midst of the fire. Trisha talks about how she handles tough seasons, and how the lessons learned in the midst of the unexpected are often the most beautiful. Book coming soon!
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Vulnerability is not a weakness, it generates trust. You’ve got to push yourself and step up to take any challenges to be able to share your story and your philosophies.
Here to tell us about the importance of being vulnerable and honest with others, David Wood, is the author of “Laser Focus Coach”. David built the world’s largest coaching business, becoming #1 on Google for “life coaching.” Discovering that Shiny-Object-Syndrome is an epidemic among high performers. He coaches rock-star business owners to double revenue, achieve more in less time, and be a more extraordinary entrepreneur, partner, parent and leader.
He explains to people that it is important to do what is best for oneself.
Let’s listen to David Wood to find your own voice!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 04:55] Opening Segment
- David tells us a story of being left-brain and how she shuts down his emotion due to a tragedy
- How David led him to becoming interested in personal development
- How he became certified as a coach and started working with businesses on branding and marketing systems
- Davide believes that there is more to personal development than just business coaching, and that it can help people change their lives for the better
[04:56 – 11:04] The Mouse in the Room
- David discusses his book, “Mouse in the Room: Because the Elephant isn’t Alone”
- Nosebleed honesty is a way of being vulnerable that allows for trust to be built
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- This approach is used when talking to clients, friends, and family members
- It allows for real connections to be formed
- The key is building trust is being honest and taking the time to understand the other person
- How it is difficult to build trust, but it is worth it in the long run
- An important part of trust is knowing that the other person will be honest with you
[11:05 – 17:56] Vulnerability is the New Strength
- David discusses how he trusts his wife even when it is uncomfortable to do so and how this is a key factor in their relationship
- He shares that his friend, Jack Canfield led to his writing his last book
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- David discusses about the Transformational Leadership Council
- People know what they expect from you and this creates trust
- He tells us that vulnerability is the new strength
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- It can be attractive to be with someone who is being honest and vulnerable
- Leaders need to be more vulnerable in order to build trust with their followers
[17:57 – 26:25] The Humility Dignity Spectrum
- People often feel like they need to share everything with their friends, but this can be a source of frustration
- David discusses the teaching tool which is, “The Humility Dignity Spectrum”, which helps people understand where they are on this spectrum.
- When someone is in the shadow of humility or dignity, it can lead to them collapsing as a person
- The 3D process that will change your life
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- Discover what’s happening
- Decide what you want
- Disarm, which includes getting consent with daring positive consent
- David discusses how taking risks can lead to success and how confidence is built through risk-taking
[26:27 – 30:05] Scary Transparency is the Doorway to True Confidence
- The first vulnerable conversation is always the hard one
- David tells us to begin to be comfortable locating yourself and then sharing it with others
- Transparency is the doorway to true confidence
- Doing all of the easy stuff is the medicine that will give you confidence
- The potential upside of naming a mouse
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- Having the courage to have those scary conversations that people would never consider
[30:06 – 28:55] Closing Segment
- David invites us to read the book because it will give you a roadmap to confidence
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- If you’re afraid to start big and eat the frog, start small
- Have the easy and work your way up
- Coaching is available to those who are interested
- Connect with David Wood
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“A micro example of naming something we wouldn't normally name so that we can come into true connection. I believe it generates trust.” – David Wood
“If it wasn't for the art of mouse naming. I wouldn’t be hanging out with these people and Oprah Winfrey’s executive producer and an Oscar winning producer and whatever. I'll be hanging out with them as peers. I only get to do that because of the risks of mouse naming.” – David Wood
“Scary transparency is the doorway to true confidence.” - David Wood
Connect with David Wood!
Read his book: Mouse in the Room! Reach out him on his website!
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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Resiliency is the ability or capacity to recover from difficulties, in other words, toughness. It differs from person to person, what does it mean to you?
Here to tell us the true meaning of resiliency, Dr. Justin Moseley, a.k.a., “The Mindset Doctor, is a former chiropractor turned international speaker and transformation coach. Justin shares to us an inspiring example of the power of resilience and the importance of never giving up on your dreams. After surviving a near-death accident in 2018, Dr. Moseley shifted from changing lives in a clinic, to changing lives from stage; becoming a highly sought-after international speaker.
He urges people to step out of their comfort zones and into your true calling!
Let’s listen to Dr. Justin Moseley and find our true calling!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 03:50] Opening Segment
- Here’s why we get the privilege of hearing from an actual TEDx speaker
- What gave the shift for Dr. Moseley to step out of his comfort zone and go after his true calling
- Figuring out your life in the post-pandemic world
[03:51 – 10:04] Living With a Purpose By Not Settling Down
- Dr. Moseley tells us his near-death experience
- Through his experience where he started contemplating
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- Living with a purpose
- Helping more people to make a bigger impact
- Not doing the world any favors by settling and playing small
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- His TEDx talks encourages people to get out of their comfort zones
- Find out what the meaning of why you’re getting through trials
[10:05 – 15:30] The Power of Clarity To Understand Your Purpose
- Dr. Moseley tells us about “Strategic Thinking Time”
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- Stepping away from problems and challenges
- Stop repeating the same mistakes
- The power of nap
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- Getting refreshed and come back with creative ideas
- Our questions determine our destiny
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- Asking better questions to get better answers
- Clarity is power
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- Allow yourself to understand the purpose of the lesson
[15:31 – 23:56] Rewiring the Subconscious mind To Reach Your Potential
- Sharing his framework in his TEDx
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- Stepping out of your comfort zone
- Pushing through your fear because it is what is keeping you from your worthiness
- How he rewire the subconscious mind so that they become the person they need to become
- The belief you have in yourself
[23:57 – 26:42] Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone and Find Your True Calling
- You are here for a purpose
- Surround yourself with better that actually support your dream
- The challenges that you will face when people are trying to tear you down
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- Realize that people are not stepping into their true call
- Some people are trying to tear you down when you’re on your way up
[26:43– 28:55] Closing Segment
- Connect with Dr. Moseley
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“If you find yourself repeating kind of the same mistakes and going to the same things over and over it's because you haven't learned the lesson that you were supposed to learn yet.” – Dr. Justin Moseley
“I really do think that our questions determine our destiny. So if you ask better questions, you'll get better answers.” – Dr. Justin Moseley
“If you believed in yourself as much as they believe in you and you can really start to borrow that belief and you know what? They think that I can do this.” - Justin Moseley
Connect with Dr. Justin Moseley!
Check out his website. Reach out him on his Instagram, YouTube
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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Jenny Reyes is the strategic brand and marketing consultant at Your Brand Story. Her background and experience in both corporate and entrepreneurial marketing allowed her to help small businesses and entrepreneurs, and offer various brand and marketing solutions that cater to their needs. Jenny has a Kellogg Executive Education in Digital Marketing Strategies and is a certified Knowledge Broker and business coach. She is also an advanced-level certified DISC human behaviorist. In this episode Jenny talks about how our stories can come together to form who we are, and how we can use this knowledge to navigate through difficult times. Jenny also has some great resources available on her website, including journals to help you through tough times. If you're feeling lost or need some inspiration, be sure to check them out!
Key Highlights:
[00:01 – 13:29] Jenny Reyes Shares How Life Goes Full Circle
- Your Brand Story is a business that helps entrepreneurs develop a brand around a solid identity.
- Jenny also took an advanced course in human behavior to help her understand how people absorb information and communicate it.
- How to present yourself as brand
- Branding starts with the individual and understanding their own strengths and weaknesses.
[13:30 – 31:51] How to Build a Brand That Resonates
- Creating a unified identity for a company, through brand building.
- Knowing how to create a strong brand identity based on your personality and building a brand story that inspires
- How confidence comes from understanding your brand
- A business always starts with fully understanding the “Why”.
- Finding your purpose and how to pursue it.
[31:28 - 40:09] Closing Segment
- Taken a step back and reflect on what you want
- Using Brand Story to integrate your business with your brand
- Jenny’s Branding tips for living a Good Life
Want to connect with Jenny? Join their Facebook group, or visit her website at www.yourbrandstory.co
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us onFacebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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Tweetable Quotes:
“It has everything to do with your life. This is your business, your values, your personality, all of it.”
- Jenny Reyes
“I know you have a career path and you have some dreams and we're going to work towards that, but you don't do it just because this is what you're told will get you that success”
-Jenny Reyes
“It’s an association you can build with people, the values, the vision, everything around it. It’s not just the colors, it’s not just the logo, it’s not just the words, it’s all of it put together.”
-Jenny Reyes
Today we are joined by two great individuals, Stephanie Urbina Jones and Jeremy Pajer,
A Singer, teacher, writer, sister, friend, mother, wife, and lover of life; Stephanie Urbina Jones brings her passion and experience in living a life of creative freedom to people all over the world. She is a # 1 Billboard Country Music Songwriter traveling with her Honky Tonk Mariachis, sharing joy and her history-making “Country Music with Chili Peppers” all over the world. She is also Co-founder of Freedom, Folk, and Soul a transformational community of the healing arts, and the lead author of the best-selling book The Shaman Heart.
With Stephanie, is her husband, Jeremy Pajer. Jeremy is the co-founder of Freedom, Folk, and Soul, truly a master of transformation and a leader in the field of personal freedom. He has spent the last 19 years dedicating his life to spiritual growth and the healing arts. He has a practical, down-to-earth, fun, and loving approach to transformation and to helping people embrace their humanity. A true shaman and healer, Jeremy is committed to your growth, transformation, and freedom. He brings openness and love to life and is truly a man of heart, service, and generosity.
This talk embarks on their journey in finding purpose in life, turning pain into a passion not only for themselves but also for helping others transform their lives.
Key Highlights:
[00:01 – 12:46] Stephanie and Jeremy Share Their Journey of Pain to Purpose
- Stephanie talks about meeting Laura De Franco
- She shares about their journey with 26 authors to the avenue of the dead facing their pains and becoming reborn
- Jeremy describes how the authors join them on a transformational journey.
o How the book did well, because of the collective energy and love that came through from the authors in their four-month journey together.
[12:47 – 31:27] Shamanism: A Simplified Explanation
- Shamanism is a process of coming back into tune with one's humanness and the elements
- Connecting with the divine nature of life.
- They also share their perspective on the importance of spirituality in faith and how it can connect people from all walks of life
- Shamanism is a spiritual practice and that being a sacred witness is having a shaman's heart
- How to Overcome Roadblocks on Your Journey to Purpose
o Jeremy discusses how we must all face our fears in order to move forward and achieve our goals.
o the importance of self-acceptance and commitment to a new way of living in order to achieve success.
o Jeremy encourages others to live their lives with passion and purpose.
- You have to be in that moment in order to experience true transformation.
o Mental health awareness is important, but it's only the beginning of the journey
o You also have to commit to a process and follow up with participants.
- Freedom, Folk, and Soul Day
o Once a month, people can join when they think they feel called.
o They can experience sacred journeys.
o Walkthrough fire.
[31:28 - 40:09] Closing Segment
- Suffering? What is it going to cost you?
- The importance of starting your journey to healing and growth now than waiting.
Websites where you can learn more about Stephanie and Jeremy:
- www.StephanieUrbinaJones.com
- www.shamanheart.org/
- www.freedomfolkandsoul.org/
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us onFacebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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Tweetable Quotes:
“I call it God; some people call it the great divine mystery. There is something that is connected in all of life between all of us and when we heal. And sometimes these painful experiences that we have in our lives. Are the activators, the catalyst to bring us to our knees, to break our hearts open so that we can feel connected to the divine nature of life. Calling God, call it the great mystery. And it's in the wind. It's in the stars. It's in you. It's in me”
– Stephanie Urbina Jones
“We get freedom. We get free quicker. We get relief quicker. So it's not like it takes a year to get the relief, but to sustain it, to maintain it, to go deeper.” – Jeremy Pajer
How often do pay attention to your inner voice when you’re going through a challenging situation? In today's episode, I have an insightful conversation with Shiran Cohen, an International Best Selling Author multiple times over, speaker, body language trainer, and author's strategy coach. She helps guide high-performing female entrepreneurs in their life and business by reconnecting more deeply to their own stories so they can make a powerful impact with their message. Shiran talks about the importance of trusting your soul in times of difficulty, and how to connect with others on a deeper level. She also discusses the different ways we can connect with our soul, and how listening to our own inner voice can better help us navigate difficult times. By trusting your soul, you can connect with others in ways you cannot imagine, and find the treasure that you were looking for.
Tune in and discover why is not only about arriving at your destination, but it's also about managing your thoughts and emotions along the way!
Key Highlights
[00:01 – 10:07] Opening Segment
Shiran shares her background and story
Shiran discloses the importance of body language
We need to understand ourselves to be able to understand and communicate with others effectively
[10:08 – 21:23] To Change Something, You Need to Break it Apart and Rebuild it
You have to tear down what is not working in order to build something new
We cannot change anything from the outside
Shiran shares a parable
[21:24 - 31:17] People Are Managing Their Hurt by Focusing on What Brings Them Pain
Why try to get wealthy or have a big house because doesn't equate to success
Shiran’s outlook on a life that is centered around finding beauty in the journey, rather than material things
Hurtful things can keep people stuck in a cycle of pain for a long time
[31:18 - 40:46] How a Different Perspective Can Help us Understand Things Better
When we are thinking from the ego, we are managing everything from our ego instead of from our soul
It's okay to be hurt and it's not the other person's fault
The answers Shiran had after her conversation with God
[40:47 - 44:01] Closing Statement
How to deal with anger and resentment
You can reach Shiran at https://msha.ke/shirancohenunspoken/, or you can send her an email at shiran.public@gmail.com
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Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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Tweetable Quotes:
“The body language doesn't start from the body. it actually starts from the subconscious, and the subconscious start from the mind.” - Shiran Cohen
“If one wants to be right in their ego, they should stay angry, but if one wants to be healed and free, they should forgive themselves and move on.” - Shiran Cohen
“Nobody can hurt me. I'm the one that can hurt myself the most." - Shiran Cohen
David Waldy is the Fierce Empathy coach. He is a speaker, life & business strategist, & co-founder focused on empowering leaders to rediscover, redefine, and realign. His work is centered around personal and professional development, helping leaders get out of their own way, create aligned abundance at work and at home, & never stop becoming better versions of themselves.
He has worked with thousands of entrepreneurs and shared stages with influencers like Tony Robbins & Russell Brunson. He is a father, husband, outdoorsman, coffee snob, avid non-fiction reader, and personal growth junkie.
Let’s listen to David and learn the concept of fierce empathy!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 03:21] Opening Segment
- Why you should listen to David Waldy in this episode
- He talks about “aligned abundance”
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- What does this mean?
[03:22 – 13:50] Fierce Empathy
- The process behind forming one’s identity
- David talks about the concept of “fierce empathy”
- The truth about seeking accountability according to David
[13:51 – 23:03] Self-Care is Not a Form of Selfishness
- Self-care is not selfish as explained by David
- The benefits of breathing to self-improvement
- Only control what you can control
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- Here’s how
[23:04 – 33:55] The Five-Second Rule
- We talk about the Five-Second Rule and how to apply it in life
- Communicating with other people should not be limited to texts
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- David explains
- How to overcome the negativity bias
[33:56 – 43:22] Why “I Am” Statements Are Powerful
- Words of affirmation as a love language
- Hear from David his book recommendations
- The power of “I am” statements
[43:23 – 47:38] Closing Segment
- David’s parting message for the listeners
- Connect with David
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“...when you go through this process of rediscovering who you really are and redefining what's possible, it allows you to realign your life.” - David Waldy
“[Fierce empathy is] doing everything that we can, everything within our power to truly see, hear and understand from another person's perspective while simultaneously having the courage to speak the hard truth in love despite any discomfort that may follow.” - David Waldy
“You have to have that courage to be vulnerable with yourself [and] with others…you have to let your guard down…and if we don't start doing that, then we're going to stay [on] our defensive.” - David Waldy
Email hello@davidwaldy.com to reach out to David or connect with him on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Tiktok, and YouTube.
- FREE: Fierce Empathy Coaching Framework
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me?
Visit https://trishafraley.com/
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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We always hear people say “leave” a legacy behind but rarely do we hear them tell us “live” a legacy while you’re still breathing. What is actually the difference?
Here to tell us how to live your legacy is Sandra Haseley, a high-performance strategist and mentor, two-time international best-selling author, and keynote speaker. She's helped thousands of women across the world in over a dozen industries learn how to create the life of their dreams through a business they feel passionate about.
Legacy may sound like a big word, but it’s really simple. Sandra explains that living a legacy is not this daunting and intimidating task that requires grand gestures.
Let’s listen to Sandra and learn how to live a legacy!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 05:31] Opening Segment
- Here’s why I’m ecstatic to have Sandra Haseley on our podcast
- The reason Sandra is not making New Year’s Resolutions
[05:32 – 15:55] Living a Legacy
- Sandra tells us what does it mean to “live” a legacy
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- Why it’s as important as leaving a legacy
- She shares her motivations for starting a career as a high-performance mentor
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- The turning point in her life
- You don’t necessarily need to live the legacy that has been passed down to you
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- Sandra explains
[15:56 – 25:48] Creating a Legacy
- Here’s a simple explanation of legacy according to Sandra
- Why people are not pursuing their dreams and not making a legacy
- What people should realize about creating a legacy
[25:49 – 35:27] Being Intentional in Living a Legacy
- The importance of being intentional about living a legacy
- Living a legacy is not about creating something perfect
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- Sandra explains
- Why we should accept that we will always feel pain
[35:28 – 43:34] Daring to Believe
- What does it mean to “dare to believe”
- Sandra talks about her FREE 3-Day Masterclass and why you should join
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- Link below
- Don’t miss this parting message from Sandra
[43:35 – 45:30] Closing Segment
- Connect with Sandra
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“The mindset that happens in the legacy that you’re living in, that has been handed down to you, it’s not always good, it’s not always healthy, and it’s not always even true.” - Sandra Haseley
“...my only responsibility is to live this life as well as I can and the way that I was meant to and I amplify that wherever I can.” - Sandra Haseley
“Think about the…most inspirational person that you look [up] to in your life…whoever that is, who’s their mom?” - Sandra Haseley
Email heyboss@sandrahaseley.com to reach out to Sandra or connect with her on Facebook and Instagram. Check out her personal website to know more about her work.
Join the FREE 3-Day Masterclass, Aligned Legacy, and learn from Sandra. Register here
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
I want to know more about you! Email me at fraleyonfire@gmail.com.
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Many people almost often shy away from the hard situations and difficult conversations because it’s easier to ignore them than to face them head-on. Well, here’s my spoiler for you: You will need to face them one way or another. You will need to confront them because them coming into your life is not a matter of “if,” but “when.”
In the first episode of our “Let’s Talk About It” segment, we will be talking about relationships. Why do some relationships last and some don’t? Drawing from my own experiences, I will be sharing a few thoughts that you can reflect on for you to build new relationships and take the existing ones to the next level.
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 02:55] Opening Segment
- Welcome to our first “Let’s Talk About It” segment!
- What’s inside the Out of the Fire Journal Series?
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- Link below!
[02:56 – 12:54] The Power of Relationships
- The difference between “battery chargers” and “battery drainers”
- Why conflicts and uncomfortable conversations are sometimes needed in relationships
- The characteristics of people that you should keep in your life
- The reason we should understand ourselves first before going into relationships
[12:55 – 18:20] Why Pay Attention to the People Around You
- How the other people around you can make you better
- What you should do to the people who “show up”
- One of the greatest lessons I learned from my previous job
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- The importance of paying attention to people
[18:21 – 20:14] Closing Segment
- Connect with me
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- Links below
- Final words of encouragement
Tweetable Quotes:
“There's a difference between when the relationship is uncomfortable and draining all the time versus when it’s in a growing period and you’re trying to get to the next level.” - Trisha Fraley
“Maybe there’s a conflict in a friendship or maybe there’s an uncomfortable conversation. Sometimes, those are needed to establish boundaries to make your friendship more powerful.” - Trisha Fraley
“Understanding yourself is so, so important so you know what you bring to a relationship, you know what value you add and also understanding what value the other person adds.” - Trisha Fraley
Resources Mentioned:
- Out of the Fire Journal Series by Trisha Fraley
- Book: Don't Drop the Mic
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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Let’s about grief. Grief is one of the things we often shy away from because it is such a messy and complicated situation, but it is definitely something we should face head-on. There’s really no other way. The reality is that it is possible for us to never stop grieving, and that’s okay.
What we can do is grow around grief by following our own process, a process that may be short for some and so long for others, a process that we can only discover if we start facing our grief today.
Let’s listen to this episode and talk about grief!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 01:51] Opening Segment
- Welcome back to our podcast!
- I introduce our topic for today
[01:52 – 06:49] Why We Should Talk About Grief
- Why we are starting the new year by talking about grief
- Here’s a resource from me to help you go through the seasons of grief
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- Link below
- My messy journey to grief started when this event happened
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- How I’ve handled it
[06:50 – 11:47] Finding the Grace in this Process
- It is normal to be unable to do anything when the unexpected happens
- Are you grieving right now?
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- Here’s my message for you
- One of the greatest things I did for myself that you can do to yourself too
[11:48 – 16:44] You Are Not Alone
- I may not have the science, but I have the experience
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- The word I want to use to describe grief
- What comes out of our difficult situations in life
- This is your daily reminder that you are not alone in grieving
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- Here’s a quote I want you to hear now
[16:45 – 17:56] Closing Segment
- Connect with me
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- Links below
- Final words of encouragement
Tweetable Quotes:
“I don’t wanna shy away from the hard conversations, from the things that we’re actually feeling, because that is what we need to talk about in order to heal.” - Trisha Fraley
“You are not going to stop grieving for something that you’ve lost, that you’ve really, really wanted, but you can grow around it.” - Trisha Fraley
“The very best things in life come from the hardest situations, grief included.” - Trisha Fraley
Resources Mentioned:
- Journal: This Sucks: A Companion Journal to Help You Through all the Seasons of Grief
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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Have you paused lately?
This mini comeback episode is very dear to me. I will talk about today the lessons that I learned from pressing the pause button in my life and the reasons you probably should be pressing it too. I want you to realize that taking a break does not mean you’ve stopped being productive. You can actually be more productive and even more alive if you’re taking some time off and reflect on what really matters to you.
Taking a break does not mean quitting your responsibilities. It can be as simple as taking a 10-minute walk in the park or reading a book. I will talk about the things that you can do after you press the pause button and some practical tips on how you can tell your true priorities in your life.
Let’s listen to this episode to learn the power of the pause!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 02:08] Opening Segment
- Welcome back to our podcast!
- I introduce our topic for today
[02:09 – 07:02] The Value of Hitting the Pause Button
- Here’s why I press the “pause button”
- Pausing does not mean you have hit a setback
- Not everybody needs a pause button, but I do
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- Listen to my priorities
- When you should hit the pause button
- Being busy always should not be a badge of honor
[07:03 – 12:51] How to Pay Attention to What Really Matters
- My terrible habit that you’ve probably been doing right now
- How to define your priorities the right way
- What you should realize about taking a rest
- Do you need a pause button?
[12:52 – 14:46] Closing Segment
- How to avoid burnout
- Connect with me
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- Links below
- Final words of encouragement
Tweetable Quotes:
“I took some time to reset, to set boundaries, to breathe in, and take a minute to see where I was going.” - Trisha Fraley
“There’s no shame in your pause game.” - Trisha Fraley
“This moment of taking pause, for me, helped me to understand and prioritize the things that I could say no to and things that I would say yes to.” - Trisha Fraley
Resources Mentioned:
- Book: The Best Yes
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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(Trigger warning: suicide, rape)
Ryan Stream is a multi-talented motivational speaker, musician, and two-time war veteran. His story and music are remarkable and will leave the audience laughing, crying, and wanting more. He slept in a homeless shelter, different foster homes, and watched his family be ripped apart in the foster care system.
He shares his story through his speaking engagements and music videos, aiming to bring inspiration and emotion to everyone. Ryan’s topics include the power of positive thinking, addiction and substance abuse, mental health, challenging change, communication, and most importantly always believing in yourself.
Let’s listen to Ryan and learn how to stand up in life!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 05:05] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Ryan Stream
- One of the most powerful things that can connect people together
- Making good or bad choices
[05:06 – 20:13] “I Had Nobody”
- The role of childhood in one’s growth
- Ryan shares his experience being homeless
- He gives an interesting take about success you’d not want to miss!
- The last time Ryan and his brother saw their dad
- The police visits that changed his life
- Believe in miracles
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- Ryan explains
[20:14 – 30:06] Changing the World One Person at a Time
- Living with a stranger’s family
- Why we should not tell negative things about people
- We remember moments, not dates
- How piano became his therapy
- Ryan talks about his drug addiction before
[30:07 – 45:26] How to Win in Life
- The story of the boy who gave a candy to his little sister
- The second best gift Ryan received
- How to win in life like Ryan
- The 2 secrets to close a business deal
- Don’t be tricked by the media with this advice from Ryan
- What learning is all about
- Learn what is Ryan’s favorite thing to say
[45:27 – 01:00:29] Be Intentional In Taking Interest
- Ryan compares life with acting
- How to leverage the Law of Attraction in your life
- This about this question for a minute
- What parents need to realize about their kids
- Sometimes, advice is unnecessary
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- What’s really needed
- The 100 dollars that made a big difference
[01:00:30 – 01:02:41] Closing Segment
- Just be yourself
- Connect with Ryan
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“We make good choices and bad choices based off the people we surround ourselves with.” - Ryan Stream
“You have to believe in yourself and if you don’t believe in yourself, you better make believe.” - Ryan Stream
“You have to struggle. You have to have the moments where you fail so you understand what it takes to win. That is called learning.” - Ryan Stream
Resources Mentioned:
- Entrepreneur
- Inc.com
- Yahoo Finance
- Book: The Alter Ego Effect
Email ryan2_stream@yahoo.com to reach out to Ryan or connect with him on Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube.
- Watch out for his upcoming book on standing up on your feet!
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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Bill Reiman is a top producing real estate broker and one of the top custom home builders in his area. Like many, Bill has had many ups and downs in life including a college football career ended by injury, a bad car accident, and a divorce. He made his fair share of bad choices but grew in many ways from his mistakes. Raised by a marine veteran, Bill is no stranger to hard work and doing what it takes to walk through fire. His life is a perfect example of how success can come to those who never give up.
Let’s listen to Bill’s story and learn the ups, downs, and everything in between of growing a business!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 04:24] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Bill Reiman
- His love-hate relationship with the construction industry
- Building a successful family-operated business
[04:25 – 14:11] What Bill Learned from Selling Cars
- Bill talks about his exciting side hustle
- Growing up like a marine
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- Did he like it?
- Why he enjoys being a “workaholic” now
- Bill shares his experience moving on from D-1 football in college
- How he decided on his next move after college
- The “worst training” that changed everything for Bill
[14:12 – 24:16] Growing a Business His Way
- Bill talks about the notepads that made him the top salesperson
- The satisfaction of being recognized by his peers
- Giving himself a shot to learn how to sell outside the family business
- He shares his experience going against the flow
- Here’s a hard decision that Bill needed to make
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- How he made that decision
- The power of choice according to Bill
- Don’t fix a person who doesn’t want to be fixed
[24:17 – 34:57] The Willingness To Go Through the Process
- When to leave a relationship with a person?
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- Listen to Bill’s advice
- Bill talks about the process of changing his mindset and attitude
- Bill leaves a couple of life advice you can apply right now
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- What you need to do to get ahead
- Long-term impact over short-term gains
[34:58 – 37:32] Closing Segment
- How to engage and connect with Bill
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“We all have an opportunity. We all have a shot. Somewhere, somehow, it’s all [about] how you play it. It’s all [about] where we go, what we do with that hand.” - Bill Reiman
“You gotta get comfortable being uncomfortable.” - Bill Reiman
“You gotta make mistakes to get ahead. You have to go through the process and everything to get ahead too.” - Bill Reiman
Resources Mentioned:
- Mazda
- Marriott
Email bill@rkreiman.com to reach out to Bill or connect with him on LinkedIn, Facebook, Instagram, and YouTube. Check out R.K. Reiman Construction and Reiman Properties to find your dream home now!
Listen to his podcast The Real Build to know exactly what to look for in a property.
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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If you could go back and have a conversation with your 20 year old self, what would you say? They say hindsight is 20/20, and while I may not be able to go back in time, maybe my message and story can help the 20 year old Trishas listening to this podcast, or even the ones in your life. I see you all as family, and I hope to bring some much needed encouragement to you in whatever age, stage, or season you find yourself in during this episode. It’s never too late, even if you’re not 20, chances are life has taught you many lessons that have built your character, and now it’s time to pay those lessons forward.
So let’s dive in and have some fun. This is an important message to my 20 year old self.
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 03:40] Opening Segment
- Welcome back to the show!
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- A reminder that I see you all as family
- Reach out to me - I want to hear from you
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- fraleyonfire@gmail.com
- A question of what you would say to your 20 year old self
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- Looking back on some of my experiences
- The start of my ‘Out of the Fire’
- An encouragement to look at your own message
[03:41 – 18:14] An Important Message to My 20 Year Old Self
- Start giving yourself grace
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- There will always be curveballs, just prepare yourself
- We don’t need to beat ourselves up
- Remember to rest
- Life is the best education
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- Everything you go through builds character
- If you are willing to learn, you will grow
- Remember your story will help someone else one day
- Remember to laugh
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- Stress vs. laughter
- Don’t take things so seriously
- Find the moments to laugh at even after crying
- Your inner circle WILL change - Find your 5
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- It’s normal to gain and lose friends
- Every season prepares you for the next
- Look around and pay attention to the people around you
- Let people help you!
- Always be growing
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- Spiritually, mentally, physically
- Growth is where we find our power
- Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable
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- This is what strong relationships are built on
- Accepting the ugliness of ourselves is how we heal
- We are all really the same
[18:15 – 22:53] Closing Segment
- Stop shaming yourself
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- “You are good enough!”
- Use the words you use for yourself wisely
- Re-check your 5
- Let’s apply our wisdom to our younger selves now
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- Write down what you would say to your younger self
- You have the power to change your circumstance
- Share, review, and reach out!
- Final words of encouragement
Tweetable Quotes:
“Give yourself grace… No matter what you’re planning there is always going to be a curveball.” - Trisha Fraley
“No matter what you do, it’s not a mistake if you’re learning from it… If you’re willing to learn, it will build character.” - Trisha Fraley
“Always be growing… Find a way to always grow spiritually, mentally, physically - if you’re not growing you’re dying… Growth is where we find our power.” - Trisha Fraley
Resources Mentioned:
- The Go-Giver
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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What do selling drugs and selling solar panels have in common? Tune into today’s episode with Andrew Sayles to find out he went from being in jail to running multiple 6 figure businesses with the help of millionaire entrepreneurs who gave him the keys to growth and everything else tied to success. His story, while unconventional, is sure to inspire and motivate you just as the many others who have been impacted by his content on Clubhouse and his podcast, Sayles Tales.
Jump right into this episode and let’s learn more from Andrew about how he went from jail to making sales by focussing on one singular thing: ‘It’s all about the endgame!’
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 04:24] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Andrew Sayles
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- Inspiring story
- Met via clubhouse (@andrewsayles)
- Andrew gives some background on himself
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- Living in St.Louis, Missouri
- Solar company
- Life growing up - selling drugs
- Getting a job while going through probation
[04:25 – 09:44] From Jail to Sales
- Andrew shares his story
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- The mindset shift
- Sentenced to 5 months in jail
- Getting out and hitting the ground running
- Sent back to jail for another 6 months
- A need to pivot
- Starting and selling 6-figure businesses
- Partnering with his mentor to start the Solar Company
[09:45 – 22:30] It’s All About the Endgame
- Andrew talks about the driving force that helped him move forward
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- ‘Whatever it takes’ mentality
- The endgame
- The importance of ‘Proximity’
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- Who you surround yourself with plays the biggest role
- Looking to be the dumbest person in the room
- The guts to reach out and reach up
- Flexibility along the way
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- Making pivots when needed
- Staying focussed
- Andrew’s hardest lessons learned
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- The first night in jail - ‘Do the right thing’
- Getting over the rough days
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- The importance of the way you structure your lifestyle
- A winning morning routine
[22:31 – 27:36] Closing Segment
- Andrew’s advice to listeners
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- Do whatever it takes and never give up
- Failing forward
- Analyze and move forward
- How to engage and connect with Andrew
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
“My motto is - ‘Whatever it takes.’” - Andrew Sayles
“For anything I do it’s all about the endgame, and I fall in love with the process because the endgame is what matters. So if I go through this process and I do the process right, I’m gonna play that endgame.” - Andrew Sayles
“Each business has been a fail forward… all these fails lead to wins IF you never give up.” - Andrew Sayles
Resources Mentioned:
- Sayles Tales
-
hustlersanonymous
Reach out and connect with Andrew on LinkedIn, Instagram, and Facebook. Check him out on Clubhouse (@andrewsayles).
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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Sometimes just going up to someone and saying, “are you okay?” can go such a long way. You’ll learn in this interview that many people going through mental health struggles are going it alone and that doesn’t have to be the reality anymore. Ryan Smith is a mental health worker who struggled with Postnatal Depression. As a man, it was a rough journey to get to the other side. Today, he advocates for those with mental health issues by putting neuro-linguistic tools in their hand through his podcast the Positive Self Storyteller.
Let’s dive into Ryan’s story and learn how he’s making an impact on mental health because of the trials he’s gone through, and what happens when you find the strength to reach out for help.
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 05:26] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Ryan Smith
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positiveselfstoryteller
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- Reminder to join the Mastermind community
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- Links below
- Some background on Ryan
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- From Wales
- Podcaster and Mental Health advocator
- Studying to be a life coach - neuro linguistic programming
- Ryan’s story and mission
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- Suffered from postnatal depression
- Many don’t know, but the suicide rates are extremely high
- Just ask, ‘How are you?’
- Seek out help and open up to someone
[05:27 – 10:41] The Importance of Stepping Out and Opening Up
- Ryan describes his journey through his struggle
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- The results of having been groomed as a young kid
- The trauma resurfaced at a later age
- The support and strength to deal with it
- Going through counseling
- The effects from getting abused
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- Confusion between admiration and attraction
- Struggling with homosexuality while engaged
- Going through PPD
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- Taken to a place of unrecognition
- The effects on his relationship with his wife
- Getting to a place of admitting you need help
[10:42 – 18:59] The Path to Healing; I am Not My Trauma
- The point of getting help
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- Ryan shares his breaking point with suicidal thoughts
- Headspace and mindfulness
- I am not my trauma
- I share my experience and thoughts
- The process of seeking help
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- Knowing something is wrong
- Going to the doctor
- Getting informed and getting to the root
- Getting the message out to help others
- The stereotype of men during post-birth
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- Having to man up and step in
- Strength comes from owning up to your fears
[19:00 – 27:35 Closing Segment
- Ryan’s advice to people going through the fire
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- Know in your heart that this is not your fault
- People will listen if you are brave enough to talk
- You can start living the life you deserve
- It’s selfish not to look after yourself
- Ryan shares his thoughts about community
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- You’re not alone in what you’re going through
- Finding groups to join rather than self-medicating
- Outward expression on an internal struggle
- How to reach out and connect with Ryan
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- Listen in to the podcast Positive Self Storyteller
- Links below
- The power of allowing yourself to think your thoughts
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
"Too many men suffer with depression, postnatal, and then they end up taking their lives. The suicide rate is ridiculously high, and I’m trying to change that culture.” - Ryan Smith
“Just on the other side of fear is courage, you just have to take that step over the line.” - Ryan Smith
“If I can do good in the bad, then I can do great in the good.” - Ryan Smith
Resources Mentioned:
- OOTF Mastermind
- Positive Self Storyteller Podcast - with Ryan Smith
- Headspace Guide to Meditation
Reach out and connect with Ryan on Instagram, Facebook, and email positiveselfstoryteller@gmail.com. Visit his upcoming website https://www.positiveselfstoryteller.com to learn more.
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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From a rough childhood to a near-death experience, Tony Rodrigues had every reason to quit. But instead of accepting the lies, he was told, he became a business owner and decided to grow through the negative experiences. As a Certified High-Performance Life and Business Strategist Trainer, Tony has helped thousands of people experience transformations in all aspects of their lives; emotional, personal, business, relationships, and health. His whole philosophy is that you can grow through what you go through.
There is a ton of value here. So let’s jump right into the episode and learn from Tony how we can Get Up n’ Grow!
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 04:49] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Tony Rodrigues
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-
GetUpNGrow
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- Tony gives us a bit of background
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- Married with kids
- Born in Portugal and moved to the U.S. at 6
- Rough transition and childhood
- Suicidal at 16
- Near-death experience
[04:50 – 10:32] Don’t Die Without Having Lived
- Tony talks about what he learned from his near-death experience
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- I would’ve died without having lived
- Doing things that scare you
- Life is to be lived not feared
- Going into business
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- Venturing into real estate
- Bet against by his father
- Finding success
- Meeting a mentor
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- Learning from Tony Robbins
- Learning what not to do
- Traveling the world
[10:33 – 22:42] You Are the CEO of Your Life
- Combating the negative voices from creeping back in
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- What are you feeding your mind?
- Who are you surrounding yourself with?
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- We become the average of the people we are with
- Challenging you to think bigger
- You are the CEO of your life
- Speaking life and love into yourself
- The importance of the words you speak to yourself
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- What you allow in your temple
- The words you use are the house you live in
- “I am...”
- Being kind to yourself
- The importance of failing
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- Fail fast
- Essential part of Success
- The analogy of a baby
- Fall forward
[22:43 – 31:24] Get Up N Grow
- Grow not just go
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- Learn from mistakes
- Example from Tony’s life
- Helping others through things
- Strengthening through the things that break you
- Tony gives helpful resources and advice to grow
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- Links below
- The journey inwards
- The importance of making peace with yourself
- Loving yourself
[31:25 – 46:15] Closing Segment
- Tony’s advice to people going through the hard things
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- The words we use - Action steps to do at home
- Eliminating the negativity -
- Stop trying and start doing
- Reduce the size of your ‘But’
- Knowing the people to cut from your life
- How to reach out to Tony
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- Links below
- The importance of sharing your story
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- Opening a window into a dark place
- Healing for yourself and others
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
"I would have died without having lived… I decided that if I was going to die tomorrow, then I’m going to live today” - Tony Rodrigues
“If you look around your circle and the people in your circle aren’t inspiring you, aren’t challenging you… then you don’t have a circle, you have a cage.” - Tony Rodrigues
“Everything that’s tried to break me has strengthened me… and everything that’s tried to drown me has taught me how to swim.” - Tony Rodrigues
Resources Mentioned:
- Awakening the Giant Within
- The Alchemist
Reach out and connect with Tony on Instagram, YouTube, Clubhouse(tonyrodrigues), or email tonyrodriguesnj@gmail.com. Visit his website, https://getupngrow.com/, to learn even more.
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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Every year, thousands of men and women fall victim to the crime of human trafficking. Today, I’m humbled to be speaking with Scott Lumley who has a powerful story that sheds light on this issue and the resilience that came out of it. Scott has been the founder and CEO of 150 companies and has 39 years of business experience and uses that expertise to coach other entrepreneurs. Scott is an example of someone who’s taken inconceivable experiences and turned them around to find strength for himself and for others.
Trust me, you need to jump in and listen to Scott’s incredible journey and learn how he took his pain and tragedy and turn it into triumph.
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 04:09] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Scott Lumley
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- Walking through the fire of human trafficking
- Successful businessman
- Scott shares a bit of background
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- Currently working in Morocco
- Became an entrepreneur out of necessity early on
[04:10 – 10:45] Trying to Get Free from the Chains
- Scott begins to tell his story
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- Family dynamics - prostitution, prison, abuse, and suicide
- Ran away to OK
- Met a preacher who kidnapped, chained, and raped him in a barn for years
- Biting off the chain over time
- Life on the run
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- Working manual labor
- Controlling the mind
- Scott talks about the proceeds from his books
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- Links below
[11:46 – 20:55] From Trafficking to Triumph
- Scott talks about the mental process he went through
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- Thinking you’re going to die every day
- Having to survive each day
- Comfort through watching a spider
- Living in the present
- Becoming unchained
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- One day it broke
- Coming back into contact with his kidnapper
- Turning the negative into positive
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- Aggression into action
- Compound learning
- Experience
- Giving back
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- Working to saving someone else from this experience
[21:56 – 26:29 Closing Segment
- Scott’s advice to people going through the hard things
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- Just wait - one more minute
- Know when it’s time to get out
- How to reach out and support Scott
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- Links below
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
"People talk about mind control and mindset; There’s nothing harder in the world to control more than your mind.” - Scott Lumley
“I think there’s so many things people don’t pay attention to because they’re so busy, ‘living their lives’... It’s really important, I think, to live in the present.” - Scott Lumley
“One more minute - just wait one more minute, don’t give up, just wait one more minute… then another, and another.” - Scott Lumley
Resources Mentioned:
- Unchained - Pre Order now
You can connect with Scott on LinkedIn and Twitter. Visit https://scottlumley.com/ to learn more and get involved in change.
Join me and my guests as we illustrate how to walk through the fires of life and come out the other side more resilient, passionate, and stronger than ever before. Connect with us on Facebook, LinkedIn, and Instagram. Become part of the community and join our Group. Want to learn more about me? Visit https://trishafraley.com/trishafraley.
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From getting a pedicure to losing a foot to cancer, Jenn Andrews’ life took a quick turn that threw her into a whirlwind of emotions, decisions, and transitions. She has an incredible story of overcoming this trial and she’s here today to tell us how she moved forward. Now, Jenn is the co-founder of Move for Jenn Foundation, a nonprofit corporation that raises funds to issue grants for sarcoma research and amputees who need prostheses that aren’t covered under insurance.
So let’s dive right into her story and learn how Jenn was able to get moving again and help others do the same even after facing an Amputation.
Things you will learn in this episode:
[00:01 – 07:18] Opening Segment
- I welcome and introduce my guest, Jenn Andrews
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- Helping amputees get moving again
- Jenn gives us some background on herself
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- From Charlotte, NC
- Co-founded a local non-profit
- Health, insurance, and fitness
- How the foundation started
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- 51C3 Non-Profit
- Help fund activewear prosthetics not covered under insurance
- Jenn’s story
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- Finding a lump during a pedicure
- MRI done and sent to an oncologist
- Found to have a rare form of Sarcoma
- Cancer returned after 3 years
- The only option was amputation
[07:19 – 14:02] Recovery; Finding Worldwide Support Through Social Media
- Jenn shares the feelings she had during this period
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- Hyper Focused
- The difficulty of acceptance
- Wrestling with the decision
- The recovery process
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- Different for everyone
- Found support through hashtags
- Fast physical recovery
- Setting the goal for healing
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- Working towards achieving the goal
- Only focussing on one thing at a time
[14:03 – 21:16] Getting Moving Again
- Jenn continues her story about getting back on the move
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- Learning the options to each activity
- Learning that active prosthetic isn’t covered under insurance
- Unable to live to you full potential
- The mission to launch a non-profit
- Jenn talks about the foundation and what they offer
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- What they focus on
- Fully funded 14 people to date
- Wins and goals for the future
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- The more money raised is more people helped
- Testimonials
- The benefit of knowing where you’re money is going
[21:17 – 27:14] Closing Segment
- How Jenn’s life came full circle
- Jenn’s advice to people going through the hard things
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- Just breathe
- Controlling your response to the uncontrollable
- Pick yourself up and keep moving forward
- How to reach out and support Jenn
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- Links below
- Hoping to go live again Dec 4th, 2021
- Final Words
Tweetable Quotes:
"When you’re going through something traumatic… you can get so lost and consumed by what’s happening to you, that you can’t look at the milestones along the way that are really victories.” - Jenn Andrews
“We’re restoring something to somebody that cancer stole. We are giving people back their mobility.” - Jenn Andrews
“Sometimes we can’t control what happens to us, but you can definitely control your response.” - Jenn Andrews
You can connect with Jenn on Instagram and Facebook. Show some love and visit https://moveforjenn.org/ to learn more and give your support.
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