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( conditions for mothers of estranged daughters) You’ve cut Mom off…and now she wants a second chance. Should you let her back in or stick to your guns and stay no contact? You don’t want to be heartless or unforgiving, but at the same time, you don’t want to fall for her guilt trips, get […]
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If you’ve landed here… you know I’ve created an entire website devoted to calling out difficult mothers and helping their daughters. Yikes! I’ve taken the hardest job on the planet (motherhood) and shone the spotlight on the cracks. How dare I be so hard on mothers?? Aren’t we as women on the same team or […]
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The heartbreak and gift of letting your daughter go Dear Teenaged Daughter, (written 10 years ago) You have that far away look in your eyes now. Home isn’t the center of your universe. I knew it would be this way. I just didn’t know how much it would hurt. That open […]
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You know the feeling. You are just itching to give advice, but you can sense it isn’t the best thing to do. ( how to listen to your daughter instead of giving advice and why you should) You’ve noticed: -Your advice always seems to fall on deaf ears. -You can talk yourself blue… but your […]
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Postpartum Depression- When you become a mother. For, you, the daughter of the Narcissistic or Difficult mother, new motherhood can be terrifying. Just when everyone expects you to be blissing out, you can feel like a failure and nobody wants to talk about why. You look at your beautiful baby only to have tears stream […]
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Are you raising a daughter even though you have had a difficult childhood? When you haven’t had good enough mothering yourself, doing the right thing by your own children is an even harder task than usual. I think you are heroic- watch above understand why: If you would rather read- transcript I want to […]
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” I don’t want to mess up my daughter the way my mom messed me up.” Yep, EVERY mother on my psychotherapy couch ( especially the “good” daughter) who has a difficult mother and is now raising a daughter has the worry she will make the same mistakes her mother made and leave her […]
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( Parentified Daughters ) When Mom clings to her daughter and looks to her for closeness … she sets a dysfunctional destructive cycle in motion. This destructive dynamic happens all too easily. Dad says something clueless or, in mom’s view, thoughtless, and a knowing glance towards her daughter is followed by an EYEROLL. Before you […]
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Dear Mom, You call me and I don’t pick up. Do you wonder why I am avoiding your calls? Is it that I don’t love you? Or, am I a thoughtless, ungrateful, heartless child? ( I seriously doubt it- I’m the “good” daughter after all) Or, is there something else going on? Here is my truth as I see […]
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Messages mothers give to their daughters about their bodies reverberate throughout their daughters’ lives and have major consequences for their safety now and later. By that, I mean mothers signal to their daughters what is expected of them through everyday interactions. Mothers are the initial guardians of their daughter’s bodies first in utero and then later […]
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When #MeToo & Mom comes home. What happens when a mother does not protect her daughter from sexual abuse? What about when she doesn’t believe her daughter when she tells her she has been sexually abused? Her daughter feels a deep level of betrayal she may not even fully get over. This is a horrible […]
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Do you want to give your daughter the self-esteem you never got from your own mother? Counseling women in psychotherapy for over 30 years, I hear this one wish mothers have above all others… ” I just want my daughter to feel good about herself.” What if I told you there are 3 ways you can profoundly enhance your daughter’s […]
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Growing up, did you feel lost and alone… dreaming of a mother who never showed up? You needed love and acceptance as a daughter- instead what you got was criticism & conditional acceptance. This left you anxious and insecure. You learned to be “good” for mom instead of real for yourself. Still, no matter how […]
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