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@julieclarsen & @laurapasquini
Welcome to Coaching Through It! Where coaches, Julie Larsen & Laura Pasquini, bring their questions, ideas, and insights about their coaching podcast to your ear. Listen, share, & subscribe!
DEFINITION: Partners with the client to transform learning and insight into action. Promotes client autonomy in the coaching process.
- Works with the client to integrate new awareness, insight or learning into their worldview and behaviors
- Partners with the client to design goals, actions and accountability measures that integrate and expand new learning
- Acknowledges and supports client autonomy in the design of goals, actions and methods of accountability
- Supports the client in identifying potential results or learning from identified action steps
- Invites the client to consider how to move forward, including resources, support and potential barriers
- Partners with the client to summarize learning and insight within or between sessions
- Celebrates the client's progress and successes
- Partners with the client to close the session
WATCH: Janet M.Harvey, MCC & Mentor Coach discusses ICF Competency 8. Facilitates Client Growth
READ: 8 ICF Core Competencies (Updated) + PDF
- Need to make this an everyday behavior – beyond coaching
- Clients can be a partners & should be partners in this practice
- Insight can be the compass for the agreed upon outcome
- “Be useful, not helpful”
- Be a catilizer and not a solutionist
- Move outside the single situation
Questions for Coaches:
- What ways do you check your own coaching assumptions?
- What outcomes have your clients had from coaching?
- What are the metrics that matter? How do you get clients to define their own?
- How do you define success with coaching?
- What ways do you engage your clients to define their own growth?
- What do you hope your client walks away from coaching with? (cope without you)
- What skills or strategies do you think of for autonomy?
- How are you getting comfortable testing assumptions?
- How do you celebrate and close out coaching with your clients?
- ASK A CLIENT:
- What changes are you going to make?
- What did you learn from today’s session?
- What are your next steps?
RESOURCE:
- Partners podcast
- Mentor Coaching
- Find a Coach - ICF Credential Coach Finder Directory
- Hiring Tips when looking for a coach
- Want to be a coach? ICF's Resource: https://becomea.coach/
What ways do you facilitate growth with your coaching clients? Share how you help others learn and grow beyond "the checklist" for development:
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DEFINITION: Facilitates client insight and learning by using tools and techniques such as powerful questioning, silence, metaphor or analogy.
- Considers client experience when deciding what might be most useful
- Challenges the client as a way to evoke awareness or insight
- Asks questions about the client, such as their way of thinking, values, needs, wants and beliefs
- Asks questions that help the client explore beyond current thinking
- Invites the client to share more about their experience in the moment
- Notices what is working to enhance client progress
- Adjusts the coaching approach in response to the client's needs
- Helps the client identify factors that influence current and future patterns of behavior, thinking or emotion
- Invites the client to generate ideas about how they can move forward and what they are willing or able to do
- Supports the client in reframing perspectives
- Shares observations, insights and feelings, without attachment, that have the potential to create new learning for the client
WATCH: ICF Core Competency 7: Evokes Awareness with Giuseppe Totino, MCC
READ: 8 ICF Core Competencies (Updated) + PDF
- Asking the question: this would be to go deeper for the client to process
- Shares Observations & Noticing: without any attachment
- Silence: hold the space to allow their thoughts, feelings, and emotions to get to completion
Questions
- What sort of questions do you ask without any attachment?
- What ways do you encourage the client to make their own choices?
- What stories are you telling yourself?
- What’s one way you could move this forward?
- What words or patterns are you noticing about your clients?
- How do you "sit back" as a coach to notice?
- What ways do you present thoughts without attachment?
- What way do you let go of your own ego, as a coach?
- What does “good” coaching look like for you?
- What possibilities do you offer your clients
- ASK A CLIENT:
- What if… ?
- What are you taking away from this session?
- What actions do you want to take from this?
- What’s one way to move this forward?
RESOURCE: ICF Converge Conference
TOOLS: Limiting Beliefs (Coaching Exercises)
How are you evoking a response, dear coach? Tell us about it:
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DEFINITION: Focuses on what the client is and is not saying to fully understand what is being communicated in the context of the client systems and to support client self-expression.
- Considers the client’s context, identity, environment, experiences, values and beliefs to enhance understanding of what the client is communicating
- Reflects or summarizes what the client communicated to ensure clarity and understanding
- Recognizes and inquires when there is more to what the client is communicating
- Notices, acknowledges and explores the client's emotions, energy shifts, non-verbal cues or other behaviors
- Integrates the client's words, tone of voice and body language to determine the full meaning of what is being communicated
- Notices trends in the client's behaviors and emotions across sessions to discern themes and patterns
WATCH: Sackeena Gordon-Jones, MCC
READ: ICF Core Competency 6: Listens Actively
- Hear clients and having clients feel heard
- If we don’t hear them it’s impossible to help them gain clarity
- Not hear for our sake as a coach, but to help the client hear themselves
- Difference between old competency “active listening” and new
- New focuses on the verb
- Speaks to the “being and the doing” of the coach
- Part of what we give is listening – with all senses
- Listening "to the whole person" -- what the client is saying, not saying, etc.
- What is the coach noticing and observing, and how are they reflecting it back to the client?
- When the words of a client may not align with their tone, body language, expressions, etc.
- Crafting questions based on the observations of your listening e.g. “I’m noticing…"
Questions:
- How do you help your client hear themselves?
- What ways do you make your clients feel heard?
- How do you exist or “be” a coach?
- What does active listening mean to you now?
- How do your clients respond to what you share?
- Can you think of a time when you were not actively listening?
- What ways do you listen to the whole client? E.g. body, non-verbals, context
- How do you listen from the client’s perspective? (empathetic listening)
- What do you notice or observe with clients? (to disrupt a client’s thinking)
- What ways do you take pause to listen better?
Book: The Listening Path by Julie Cameron
Review: Emotional Intelligence
What ways are you listening actively? Say more... without a checklist at:
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DEFINITION: Is fully conscious and present with the client, employing a style that is open, flexible, grounded and confident.
- Remains focused, observant, empathetic and responsive to the client
- Demonstrates curiosity during the coaching process
- Manages one’s emotions to stay present with the client
- Demonstrates confidence in working with strong client emotions during the coaching process
- Is comfortable working in a space of not knowing
- Creates or allows space for silence, pause or reflection
WATCH: Pamela Richarde, MCC
READ: ICF Core Competency 5: Maintains Presence
- Season 1 Episode #4: All the Feels in Coaching + Storytelling
- Makes coaching unique, key to the profession
- More action-oriented -- all new core comps start with verbs: “Invites another human being to emerge”
- Ability to notice what is going on with the client – when they have an “aha” or a realization
- Big thing: allowing it to be okay to not know as a coach
- Be curious
- Not giving suggestions, holding space for for the client to discover a way forward
- Poor presence: too fast to reaching a solution
- Give enough space between and get comfortable with silence
- Avoiding the co-gestions -- not telling what to do in the form of a question
Questions:
- What ways do you bring care into your coaching?
- How do you invite your clients to emerge?
- What ways do you show confidence in your questions?
- How do you step into the “not knowing” space?
- What ways do you flex your curiosity muscle? (avoid the checklist or framework)
- What does silence look like in your coaching sessions?
Books
- Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters by Priya Parker
- Own the Room: Discover Your Signature Voice to Master Your Leadership Presence by Amy Jen Su & Muriel Wilkins
- HBR Article: The Leader You Want to Be by Amy Jen Su
How are you thinking about your coaching presence? Tell us about it!
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- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
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DEFINITION: Partners with the client to create a safe, supportive environment that allows the
client to share freely. Maintains a relationship of mutual respect and trust.
- Seeks to understand the client within their context which may include their identity, environment, experiences, values and beliefs
- Demonstrates respect for the client’s identity, perceptions, style and language and adapts one's coaching to the client
- Acknowledges and respects the client's unique talents, insights and work in the coaching process
- Shows support, empathy and concern for the client
- Acknowledges and supports the client’s expression of feelings, perceptions, concerns, beliefs and suggestions
- Demonstrates openness and transparency as a way to display vulnerability and build trust with the client
WATCH: Osama Al-Mosa, MCC
READ: ICF Core Competency 4: Cultivates Trust and Safety
- The focus is more on safety -- psychological safety
- The relationship doesn’t have a negative impact on self-image, no judgment, risk free. Psychological safety.
- Trust: the coach is going to do things in my best interest.
- Ultimate atmosphere for the client, allows going inward.
- Coach becomes a partner - What is a partner?
- Coach “doesn’t have a stake in the game” – is this true?
- Demonstrated well, you can understand the client in their own context
Questions:
- What ways do you earn trust with your clients?
- How do you build [psychological] safety?
- What tips do you have for doing this quickly?
- Have you ever had to re-establish safety and trust? If so, how?
- How is this a core piece of coaching?
- The tension between curiosity vs. questioning to make a point
- What ways do you stay curious? (unbiased)
- How do you avoid consulting and advising with clients?
- How do you move clients away from “ticking the box”?
- What ways do you earn trust with your clients?
Resources:
- Psychological Safety - Amy Edmondson
- Rachel Botsman - Trust & Rethink Moments Podcast
- Do your own work! Learn & get perspective on your own identity and others
Do you have a 90s 1-hit-wonder playlist we should listen to? Share that and how you are earning trust with your coaching clients.
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DEFINITION: Partners with the client and relevant stakeholders to create clear agreements about the coaching relationship, process, plans and goals. Establishes agreements for the overall coaching engagement as well as those for each coaching session.
- Explains what coaching is and is not and describes the process to the client and relevant stakeholders
- Reaches agreement about what is and is not appropriate in the relationship, what is and is not being offered, and the responsibilities of the client and relevant stakeholders
- Reaches agreement about the guidelines and specific parameters of the coaching relationship such as logistics, fees, scheduling, duration, termination, confidentiality and inclusion of others
- Partners with the client and relevant stakeholders to establish an overall coaching plan and goals
- Partners with the client to determine client-coach compatibility
- Partners with the client to identify or reconfirm what they want to accomplish in the session
- Partners with the client to define what the client believes they need to address or resolve to achieve what they want to accomplish in the session
- Partners with the client to define or reconfirm measures of success for what the client wants to accomplish in the coaching engagement or individual session
- Partners with the client to manage the time and focus of the session
- Continues coaching in the direction of the client’s desired outcome unless the client indicates otherwise
- Partners with the client to end the coaching relationship in a way that honors the experience
WATCH: Julius Ordonez, MCC (Founder of ICF Philippines Chapter)
READ: ICF Core Competency 3: Establishes and Maintains Agreements
- Divided between setting up the coaching relationship, and during the coaching session.
- Differences:
- New competency mentions the stakeholders with respect to sponsored coaching relationship
- About setting up the engagement
- Mentions compatibility – are you the best person for the job?
- What are the measures of success? Agreed upon at the start of the relationship
- Really about ability to facilitate a process – can you keep the process going so that client and stakeholder get the results they are looking for
- ASK your clients: What brings you into coaching? What do you know about coaching? What do you want to know about my coaching practice & background?
- Ability to break down coaching in everyday terms – not technical or a checklist
- Coaching contract and definition of coaching in their own ways -- this should before you sign an agreement with the client (no jargon, explain fully)
Questions
- What ways do you set up your coaching relationship?
- How do you explain coaching to clients? (before, during, and after)
- What are your best practices for contracting with clients?
- What experiences have you had with sponsored coaching?
- What is critical to “educate” the coachee on?
- How do you provide awareness of the coaching practice or process? (e.g. introduce a tool, offer observations, etc.)
- What ways do you probe further to the PCC and MCC level?
- What have you learned about alignment with clients?
- What do you want to be referred to (as a coach)?
How are you setting up your clients for success? What ways do you maintain the coaching agreement? Let us know!
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DEFINITION: Develops and maintains a mindset that is open, curious, flexible and client-centered.
- Acknowledges that clients are responsible for their own choices
- Engages in ongoing learning and development as a coach
- Develops an ongoing reflective practice to enhance one's coaching
- Remains aware of and open to the influence of context and culture on self and others
- Uses awareness of self and one's intuition to benefit clients
- Develops and maintains the ability to regulate one's emotions
- Mentally and emotionally prepares for sessions
- Seeks help from outside sources when necessary
- About maintaining a professional practice, recognizing the culture of self and others, and understanding that we (coach and client) are members of systems.
WATCH: Colin Brett, PCC with ICF Core Competency 2: Embodies a Coaching Mindset [VIDEO]
READ: Link to the Updated Core Competencies
- Managing emotions, using intuition for benefit of client
- To evaluate, I will look at the “phrasing of intuition”: is there room for the client to say I’m wrong?, am I being sure it doesn’t sound like fact when I deliver it?
- Be physically and mentally prepared for a session
- Asking for clarity when something a client says “stands out”. Example: a coach is nodding, but has a confused look on their face. Don’t just brush over something.
Questions:
- How are you building a reflective practice grounded in continued learning?
- What is your “wind up/down” process?
- How are you listening for permission (by the client)?
- What ways do you check your emotional “level” with clients? (balance)
- How does your context/culture influence your coaching practice? (on the exam)
- How do you seek help/support for difficult clients? (coaching mindset)
- How do you let your intuition go?
- How do you physically and mentally prepare as a coach?
- How do you set the tone at the beginning of your coaching session?
- What is your closing ritual for coaching?
Recommended reads:
- 2 pages with MBS podcast
- How to Begin: Start Doing Something That Matters by Michael Bungay Stainer
- Just Work: Get Sh*t Done, Fast & Fair by Kim Scott
- ICF Learning Portal
What are you doing to think more about you coaching mindset, dear coaches? What's 25 seconds before you start a coaching session look like? Share with us!
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DEFINITION: Understands and consistently applies coaching ethics and standards of coaching.
- Demonstrates personal integrity and honesty in interactions with clients, sponsors and relevant stakeholders
- Is sensitive to clients' identity, environment, experiences, values and beliefs
- Uses language appropriate and respectful to clients, sponsors and relevant stakeholders
- Abides by the ICF Code of Ethics and upholds the Core Values
- Maintains confidentiality with client information per stakeholder agreements and pertinent laws
- Maintains the distinctions between coaching, consulting, psychotherapy and other support professions
- Refers clients to other support professionals, as appropriate
WATCH: Dr. Frances Penafort, MCC for ICF Core Competency 1: Demonstrates Ethical Practice [VIDEO]
READ: Link to the ICF Core Competencies (Updated)
Three ways to demonstrate an ethical practice:
- Focus on self: how much of yourself do you want to bring into the coach/client relationship? What is your level of honesty, professionalism, and integrity? How are you showing up as a coach? How are you honoring others' identities as a coach?
- Focus on the relationship: how are you showing empathy, care, and nurturing the coach/client relationship? How can you be sure you are honoring the identities of the client? How are you nurturing the relationship?
- Follow the system: believe in the structure, policies, and competencies of ICF. Coach the person; not the problem. T to the P (Trust the Process)
Resources:
- ICF Code of Ethics
- Ethics CCE Course (3 CCE units) 42:19 min
- 3 Approaches to Being an Ethical Coach by Tatiana Krawczyńska-Zaucha, PhD, PCC
- ICF Code of Ethics Videos Series
- Ethics Resources - hotline, liability insurance, FAQs, interpretive statements & CoP
Questions to reflect on as a coach:
- How might your identities impact your coach/client relationship?
- What will you do if your identities/experiences are blocking you from being your best coach self?
- How do you create a space for a client to share their identities?
- What curious questions have you used when building the client relationship?
- How do you seek help as a coach?
- How are you better understanding/growing within the ICF system?
- How are you setting up your coaching practice in an ethical way? (e.g. parent/sponsor for coaching)
- How are you keeping things confidential?
Plus encourage your clients to ask you questions during the exploration session:
- What curious questions do you have for me?
- What can I share about my experience?
- What would you like to know about my coaching practice?
What ways are you thinking about ethics as a coach? Tell us about it!
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For Season 3 of Coaching Through It, Julie & Laura dive into the eight (8) core competencies that guide their coaching practice as outlined by the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Use this as a study guide if you're a coach working towards your credentials or learn more about the practice if you're "coach curious" -- these episodes will get into coaching applied from this framework.
Interested in studying along? Here are the ICF Core Competencies resources we'll be using for this season:
- 8 ICF Core Competencies (Updated) + PDF
- Longer Version; 8 ICF Comps
- YouTube Playlist
What questions do you have about the ICF Core Competencies?
If you're coaching, how are you putting these into practice?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
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Amy Corron (she/her) is an innovative and creative higher education professional who is passionate about effective facilitation, curriculum design, intergroup dialogue pedagogy, and coaching. She is currently an Associate Director/Lecturer for the Archer Center for Student Leadership at Rensselaer Polytechnic Institute, and an International Coaching Federation trained coach specializing in values-based coaching for academics and higher education professionals. She believes in the transformative power of coaching, and utilizes a coaching mindset in all areas of her work to help those around her find greater alignment and joy in their work and lives. Learn more about Amy’s coaching at:
- Website: https://www.amycorron.com/
- LinkedIn: /in/amy-corron/
- Twitter: @amersy
- IG: @amersy
“In coaching, you’re the one holding the space and helping your client work through whatever they’re bringing to you. It’s not about what you’re bringing to them.” ~Amy Corron, on letting go of “the plan” as a coach.
- Coaching Questions:
- What do you need to let go of?
- What do you need permission for?
- What do you need to grab onto next?
- Coaching Tools
- Finding Your Mantra
- Future Self
- Naming Your Inner Critic
- The Wheel of Life
- Reflective Writing
- Visualization
- One-Way vs. Two-Way Door Decisions
- Working Backwards
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
- Follow the pod on Twitter: @CoachingThruIt & Instagram: @CoachingThruIt
- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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On this episode of @CoachingThruIt, coaches Laura and Julie talk about empowering their clients to design and develop individual systems of accountability. We talk about coaching questions to hold clients accountable and practices that enable clients to check-in with themselves for their own action steps beyond a coaching session.
Question for coaching accountability:
- By the end of our time today, what would you like to have us achieve?
- What would you want to discover in this session that would be useful for you?
- How could we quantify this or make this measurable?
- What can I help you with between now and the next time we talk?
- What are you going to do next?
- What changes are you making from what you’ve learned today?
- What would have allowed you to take action?
- What can help you move forward?
- What was holding you back?
- What prevented you from taking the next step?
- What did you learn from not doing?
- What are the small steps to get there?
Lessons Learned:
- Accountability is unique to each client -- let them decide next steps
- Give your clients the questions you asked where they said “I don’t know.”
- Offer the recordings for clients to listen back
- Your success as a coach does not depend on your client’s accountability or follow-through
- Bottom line: Encourage your clients to show up to do the work with you, the coach. That is what it is all about!
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
- Follow the pod on Twitter: @CoachingThruIt & Instagram: @CoachingThruIt
- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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Jennifer Askey, Ph.D. works with academic leaders and leaders-to-be in a down-to-earth and engaging approach that utilizes emotional intelligence, positive psychology, and mindfulness to help her clients navigate the internal and external obstacles of their professional worlds. She focuses on career planning and transition, as well as team effectiveness. Jennifer utilizes assessments, such as DISC, EQi-2.0, Belbin Team Roles, and 360s to help her clients and their organizations gain new insights and develop forward-looking plans for change. She is a Certified Professional Co-Active Coach with CTI, and a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) through ICF. Jennifer is pursuing certification with Positive Intelligence and the International Mindfulness Teachers Association.
"“If we have a precious hour together...what are you doing that we can advance? Or what’s in your way that we can get around or over in this time? How can I help you move from point A to point B?” ~ Jennifer Askey
- Learn more about Jennifer Askey + in/jenniferaskeycoach + Newsletter
- Continuing Coach Education (CCE) to Renew Your Credential
- Mentor Coaching
- Group and Team Coaching (programs)
- Positive Intelligence (PQ) Program with Shirzad Chamine
- Assessment: Find your PQ Score
- ACC Portfolio Path via ICF
- World Business & Executive Coach Summit (WBECS) - master classes & coach CCEs
- NeuroLeadership Institute
- Your Brain at Work podcast
- The Great Resignation
- Coaching Questions:
- What stories are you telling yourself about that?
- How can we best use our time?
- How can I help you with that next step?
- The Life Coach School
- Coaches Rising Podcast
- The Philosopher’s Diet by Richard Watson
- Books by Michael Bungay Stanier
- The Coaching Habit
- Do More Great Work
- The Gifts of Imperfection By Brené Brown
- How’s Work with Esther Perel
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
- Follow the pod on Twitter: @CoachingThruIt & Instagram: @CoachingThruIt
- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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As career and executive coaches, we’re always learning. For this episode of @CoachingThruIt Laura and Julie share what’s in their coaching library -- books, podcasts, and conferences… oh my! Here are a few things we’re tuning into to support our clients and craft of coaching:
- Dare to Lead Ep. Brené with Amy Cuddy on Pandemic Flux Syndrome
- “Why This Stage of the Pandemic Makes Us So Anxious” from the Washington Post by Amy Cuddy and Jill Ellyn Riley
- Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Nagoski & Amelia Nagoski
- Hello Monday with Jessi Hempel; Ep. Jonathan Fields on finding your purpose
- Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive
- Take the free assessment: Find Your Sparketype
- WorkLife podcast with Adam Grant
- Taken for Granted Ep. Merve Emre on Emotional Intelligence as Corporate Control
- Science Diction - 3 Part Series The Rise of the Myers-Briggs
- Chapter 1: Katharine
- Chapter 2: Isabel
- Chapter 3: What Is It Good For?
- How’s Work with Esther Perell
- The Long Game by Dorie Clarke
- People We Meet on Vacation by Emily Henry
- Your First 100 Days in a New Executive Job by Robert Hargrove
- Beautiful World Where Are You by Sally Rooney
- No One Succeeds Alone by Robert Reffkin
- Systemic Coaching: Delivering Value Beyond the Individual by Peter Hawkings & Eve Turner
- Women of Discriminating Taste: White Sororities and the Making of American Ladyhood by Margaret Freeman
- Machiavelli For Women: Defend Your Worth, Grow Your Ambition, and Win the Workplace by Stacey Vanek Smith
- The Leader You Want to Be by Amy Jen Su
- Coaching Real Leaders with Muriel Wilkins
- ICF Converge 2021 Conference - October 26-28, 2021
What’s in your own library to learn? How are you exploring and developing lately?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
- Follow the pod on Twitter: @CoachingThruIt & Instagram: @CoachingThruIt
- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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We’re joined by Coach Laurie Maynell for this episode of @CoachingThruIt. Laurie has been an educational developer in higher education for 15 years, providing consultation on teaching, course design, and assessment to individual instructors and academic units. She took her first coach training course to enhance her consultation practice at her day job and loved it so much that she decided to continue coach training and pursue coaching credentials through the International Coach Federation. Laurie is slowly growing her coaching business and working toward the Associate Certified Coach (ACC) credential from the International Coaching Federation (ICF). Connect and find Laurie at LinkedIn *+(in/lauriemaynell/), on Twitter (@m_lauriem) and by email.
"Coaching is just this gift you give yourself. To just allow yourself the time to process something that is important to you, with assistance.” ~Laurie Maynell
- “Paid Coaching” ICF Credentialing -- barter, swapping services, purchase of coffee, etc.
- Listening back to coach recordings to learn & also used to assess for ICF
- Coach Observations in Coaching Training Programs
- Powerful Questions: Listen to S1E9: Asking Powerful Questions
- Coaching Tool: “Future Self” -- imagine yourself in the future… via Tara Mohr
- Coaching Questions:
- What would your future self like to look back and see?
- What would you like your future self to tell you?
- Backwards Design: Where do you want to end up
- The Slow Hustle Mastermind with Dr. Katie Linder
- The Coaching Habit Michael Bungay Stainer
- Charles Duhigg - The Power of Habit
- Systemic Coaching: Delivering Value Beyond the Individual by Peter Hawkings & Eve Turner
- Isabeau Iqbal -- listen to S2E6: Finding Your Coaching Voice with @IsabeauIqbal
- Katie Linder
- ICF Credential Updates for 2022
- ICF Core Competencies
- Laura is an ACC-ICF Certified coach now - W00t!
Questions for Coaches:
- How do you want to advertise your coaching practice?
- What is the barrier to getting started in your business?
- What does it mean to build a meaningful coaching practice for you?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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On this episode of @CoachingThruIt Julie & Laura talk about peer and group coaching models. Both have taken their coaching skills to work in the learning & development space to help leaders, groups, and teams grow. Listen to how they are thinking about peer and group coaching at the office and maybe for a future group coaching program they might design:
- Caucus & Affinity Groups (tools)
- What is Psychological Safety at Work?
- Liberating Structures - Triad Consulting
- ICF Coaching - 2020 Executive Report
- Modeling Coaching: Using “What” and “How” Questions
- What is Group Coaching?
- Coach: How does it feel to hold space for multiple people?
- Client: How does it feel to share space related to the coach & clients around you?
- What protocols and/or expectations have you set up for your group coaching programs?
- Positive Intelligence (PQ) Pod
- How do you norm-set and/or create a shared interest for group coaching?
- Systemic Coaching
- Community of Practice
What group coaching resources do y’all know of? Are there any recommendations for books or resources around group coaching?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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On this episode of @CoachingThruIt we are joined by queer leadership coach, Liz Cruz (she/they). Liz works with folks who want to grow their emotional intelligence skills and hone their authentic leadership style, fully integrating identities, values, and experiences. Liz’s coaching approach is informed by her deeply-held belief that each of us is inherently brilliant, and that we’re already holding the solutions we’re looking for. Her process begins with exploring the client’s emotional intelligence strengths, and how to best bring them to bear in the challenges at hand. Liz helps their clients to learn about themselves, to investigate their feelings and beliefs, and to build a practice of taking small but powerful actions to create radical change in their leadership. Connect to Liz on LinkedIn & learn more about their coaching & consulting at: https://www.lizcruzconsulting.com/
We talk about going from a side project to a full-time business, charging what you’re worth in coaching, piloting coaching programs & being in community with these groups, and signaling to the clients to include equity and access within a coaching practice.
- How to Grow Dahlias
- “Name Your Price” coaching
- Queer Leadership Group Coaching
- Slack Channel: conversations space for group coaching; to encourage participants to lead and post between coaching sessions
- Emotional Intelligence
- EQ-i 2.0 Emotional Intelligence assessment
- Community and/or membership models post-group coaching
- Burnout
- Advice from Liz:
- Charge more money! And then double it.
- Be more brave & bold.
- Liz’s Coaching Questions:
- What are you feeling right now?
- Where else are you feeling this?
- Where else is this showing up in your life?
- What is it that you’re not willing to say out loud right now?
- The Feelings Wheel
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Laura & Julie talk about getting certified as a coach through the International Coaching Federation (ICF). We talk about the value for joining a professional coaching community and earning a credential that is grounded in ethics and principles that value the coaching practice.
- Associate Certified Coach (ACC)
- Congrats to Higher Ed Coach Training -- it’s ACTP Accredited!
- ICF Converge 2021 - October 26-28
- Become an ICF Member
- Other Coach Programs Laura’s check out:
- New Ventures West
- Co-Active Training Institute
- iPEC Program
- Find Coach Training
- Directory to Find a Coach and verify an ICF certified coach
- ICF’s Hiring Tips [When meeting/interviewing a potential coach]
- ICF Communities of Practice
- ICF Continuing Professional Development
- ICF Washington State
What we’re reading and learning these days around coaching:
- Mutual Mentoring
- Communities of Practice
- Cultivating Communities of Practice by Wenger, McDermott, & Snyder
- How to Have a Good Day by Caroline Webb
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt podcast Laura and Julie welcome guest Molly Mandelberg, to talk about marketing, building your business, finding your niche clientele, and more! Molly is the Founder of Wild Hearts Rise Up, Creator of “Magnetic Influencer Collective” and also hosts two podcasts: Tactical Magic” (p.s. Laura is on Ep. 127 Transition) and Reveal the Game of Life.
After spending years mastering content creation and online marketing, Molly finds her bliss in bridging the worlds of heart-centered healing and transformation, with the practical business strategies of leveraging a message into a global movement. She is a certified NLP Coach, an Access Consciousness Bars Facilitator, a Transformational Leadership Coach and a full time nomad. Connect and find Molly at:
- Website: https://www.wildheartsriseup.com/
- Twitter: @WildOneRising
- Molly’s YouTube Channel
We learned so much about how we are marketing our coaching business and how to align our values with our messages and content copy -- here are a few things we talked about:
- Hypnosis
- Wild Hearts Rise Up Oracle Deck & Guidebook
- What level of Thought Leader are you? (quiz)
- Question: What’s your biggest challenge when it comes to your life/business/services?
- Free Stuff: Attracting Clients, Money Machine Blueprint, Website Building, etc.
- Tell your clients WHY this free stuff is valuable and important
- Molly’s Offerings: Find out how you can work with her to support & grow your business
- How clear are you with your niche? How do you work with your clients now? What do you want next?
- Toastmasters
- Tips for Ending a Client:
- It’s your client’s responsibility to find what they need
- Build a referral network to support your coaching clients!
- Share what you could offer with more coaching sessions or programs
- Advice: Don’t give up, trust yourself, and ruthlessly invest in yourself when something feels right for your own coaching practice.
If you’re thinking about your own coach business marketing & communication:
- What is your coaching niche?
- How do you create a business you actually want to own?
- How are you targeting your coach marketing?
- What is the language of your people?
- How are you resonating with your clients?
- How do you know when to end the client relationship or have them move on?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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- Email us at: coachingthroughit@gmail.com
- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Julie & Laura talk about executive coaching: what it is, what they are learning about it, and how it is going with their executive clients. We hope that this episode unpacks more around coaching leaders and how we’re taking what we know into supporting the specific needs and making space for these clients who are interested in developing how they work and support others.
- What is Executive Coaching?
- Understanding Leadership & Executive Presence
- Own the Room Amy Jen Su & Muriel Maignan Wilkins
- Coaching Real Leaders HBR Podcast hosted by Muriel Wilkins
- How Women Rise by Sally Helgesen & Marshall Goldsmith
- 360 Degree Feedback
- Self-Assessments + Career & Professional Development Assessment
- The Art of Executive Coaching by Nadine Greiner
- Professional Certified Coach(PCC) ICF Rubric
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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- Connect to the hosts: @laurapasquini & @julieclarsen
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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Julie & Laura were thrilled to have a coaching conversation with Isabeau Iqbal. She is a career and life coach who helps ambitious perfectionists move forward in their higher education career, without throwing their quality of life out the window. Isabeau takes a positive approach to perfectionism in her coaching -- this, she believes, is a much more kind (and realistic) strategy than wishing one’s perfectionism away! We talk about the hurdles for starting a coaching practice and how to remove business barriers like scheduling, sales, and matching these to our values. This was a helpful conversation to understand that coaching as a business is an evolution and process -- so it’s okay if we’re still figuring it out and finding our voice in our practice. Connect and learn more about Isabeau’s coaching:
- Isabeauiqbal.com
- https://ca.linkedin.com/in/isabeauiqbal
- @isabeauiqbal
Here are a few things we talked about during the episode:
- Coach to Coach Podcast: S2E1: Introducing Isabeau Iqbal
- Organizational Coaching Certificate at UBC
- Clifton Strengths Finder
- Associate Certified Coach (ACC) International Coaching Federation (ICF)
- What is Coaching Supervision?
- Coaching Supervision Resources from ICF
- Mentor Coaching
- Coach Coffee Talk - 1st Saturday each month
- ICF Vancouver Chapter
- Coach Training EDU Program
- What is Business Coaching?
- A Beginner’s Guide to SEO
- Acquity Online Appointment Scheduling
- Coaching Questions:
- What’s important about that to you?
- How is that serving you?
- Where’s the question at?
- Who does Isabeau coach?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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In this episode Laura and Julie CAREfront each other to recognize when coaches need support and being coached themselves. We share a bit about how and what coaches seek out a thinking partner and coach to move us forward in our own lives. Julie and Laura get real to unpack self-care and ways we seek out support for our coaching practice.
- 3 Signs of Burnout:
- 1) Exhaustion
- 2) Cynicism or Depersonalization
- 3) Impact or Meaning Is Lost
- Coaching vs. Therapy
- Understanding When and How to Refer Clients to Therapy
- Mindsets
- Understanding Motivational Interviewing
- Change Talk (example)
- Coaching Questions from the GROW Model
- Somatic Coaching
- What is Mentor Coaching?
Questions for Coaches:
- How much time do you dedicate to coaching each week?
- What does your calendar look like for a coach?
- What ways do you build care into your coaching practice?
Book: Motivational Interviewing: Helping People Change, 3rd Edition by MIller & Rollnick
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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We have another Coaching Through It + Coach to Coach podcast crossover episode! In this episode @Katie__Linder (coach & coach trainer) and @laurapasquini talk about coaching skills and strengths. This is a cross-posted episode from Season 6, Episode 4 of the Coach to Coach podcast. [Direct link + transcript: https://www.drkatielinder.com/cc46/] Plus we chat a bit about the value of joining a new community of practice, the International Coaching Federation (ICF), specifically what membership offers coaches who join the club!
- What have you learned from coach training & the certification process?
- What is ICF membership all about?
- ICF Converge 2021 Conference - October 26-28, 2021
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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For this episode, Julie & Laura chat about who their coaching client is. Not the names or actual people, but the types of folks who find us for coaching based on the following topics, word of mouth referral, etc. We reflect on going deep and earning trust with clients, and who we want to coach as we build our practice.
- ICF Coaching Log [Download Excel File]
- What are you learning about your coaching arena?
- How are you figuring out your niche as a coach?
- What does your coaching testimonials say about your practice?
- How are you showing up as a coach?
- What ways do you earn trust to go deep as a coach?
- WHo do you WANT to coach?
- Let’s Talk About Hard Things by Anna Sale
- What awkward question have I not asked myself today?
Future episode: Marketing of Coaching Services
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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On this episode of Coaching Through It, we’re sharing a conversation with @Katie__Linder (our coach trainer) and @julieclarsen. This is a cross-posted episode from Season 6, Episode 4 of the Coach to Coach podcast. [Direct link + transcript: https://www.drkatielinder.com/cc44/] We also answer the following questions in our intro:
- How did you get into coaching?
- What motivated us to do coach training & certification?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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In this episode Laura & Julie continue to debunk what coaching practice is and is not. There is no shortage of self-help resources and folks who are consulting, speaking, and offering help. That being said, the land of coaching is unregulated and they might not be an actual coach. Listen to the questions we get asked about coaching, questions we ask potential clients and each other, and a short list of frequently asked questions (FAQs) to put in your back pocket if you are exploring coaching as well.
- What happens during a coaching session? by Chelsea Hetherington
- 5 signs that coaching is right for you by Chelsea Hetherington
- Laura’s Coaching FAQs
- How to Change by Katy Milkman
- Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
- ICF Credentialed Coach Finder
- Coach Clients: What questions do you ask a coach?
- Is Coaching for Me? Questions to Ask Yourself via ICF Australasia
- Hint: If they are coaching you, and not the problem -- that's probably the coach you want to hire.
If you are a coach:
- What questions do you ask a potential client?
- How are you educating clients about your coaching practice?
- What questions do you ask or get asked during an exploration session?
Future episode reflection:
- How did you get into coaching?
- What motivated us to do coach training & certification?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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And we’re back! For Season 2 of Coaching Through It -- we have so much to share! During our break we’ve been in a couple of other coach training courses and are learning a whole lot about ourselves in our coaching practice. This episode will introduce you to the topics and ideas ahead for season 2 of the pod.
Courses from Higher Ed Coach Training:
- Values-focused Coaching Tools & Confronting Obstacles
- Habit Building, Creating Change, & Group Coaching Fundamentals
Failure to Launch (Movie)
Topics we want to chat about for this season of Coaching Through It:
- Marketing & publicizing our coach practice
- Niche or Ideal Clients - Who should I be coaching?
- Coaching for Stakeholders (sponsored coaching)
- Executive Coaching - leadership development
- Group Coaching Programs
Coaching questions asked and answered:
- What’s your favorite or “go to” coaching question(s)?
- What are/were your barriers to start your coaching practice?
- What advice would you give your past self, as a coach?
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Are you a coach who wants to chat with us during Season 2 of the pod? Just let us know!
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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Julie and Laura talk about the “business” of coaching -- specifically the nuts and bolts of how we are setting up our coaching practice diving deep into confidence, values, when we can do it, and what it means to actually launch our coaching practice as a business.
Intake forms for exploring coaching and booking coaching appointments:
- Contact info: phone, email, mailing address
- What do you want to explore with coaching?
- What are your goals, interests, and topics for coaching?
- What motivated you to explore coaching?
- Have you been coached before in the past?
- Share with me anything you would like to talk about during our coaching session
FYI: Requirements for earning an ACC coaching credential coaching is 70 paid hours and 30 hour pro bono for 100 hours. For PCC Level coaching credential there are 500 hours required.
Tools for Our Coaching Business includes:
- Online appointment scheduling: Acuity & Calendly
- Payment tools for charging for coaching services: Venmo & PayPal
- Meeting with clients online (recorded): Zoom, Phone, Audio Hijack + Skype or Zencaster
- Taking/sharing notes, progress, and recordings: Email, Dropbox & Notion
Other things mentioned in this episode:
- How I Built This Podcast Ep. Calendly: Tope Awotona
- Q&A #35: How and Why to Form an LLC
- Cynthia Pong Comprehensive Coaching
- Group Coaching
- Team Coaching
- Present Company with Krista Smith
- Laura’s Blogged Reflections on Coach Training/Coaching: Coaching Through It
Are you interested in signing up to coach with these fine hosts of the pod?
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On this episode of @CoachingThruIt Laura and Julie do a walk-through of what powerful questions are and how they are used in coaching practice and as a skill in life.
“They help the coach and the client to seek understanding and find clarity around any issue, challenge, or topics that a client brings to the session.” Via Dr. Katie Linder https://www.higheredcoaches.com/
Elements of powerful questions:
- They are short.
- They often start with “what” and “how” stems.
- They are open-ended.
- They are non-judgmental.
- They come from a place of curiosity.
- They are focused on the client.
- They are goal-oriented.
- They are followed by silence.
Phrasing powerful questions around:
- Past / Present / Future
- Learn / Be / Do
Popcorn Sharing
Coach to Coach Podcast, S4. Ep. 4 Powerful Questions
How to Design Powerful Questions
Coaching Questions: A Coach’s Guide to Powerful Asking Skills by Tony Stoltzfus
17 Motivational Interviewing Questions and Skills
Recommendations:
The Power - Snap!
The Queen’s Gambit (Netflix)
I’ll Be Gone in the Dark (HBO)
The Home Edit by Clea Shearer & Joanna Templin
Eat a Peach by David Chang
Home Cooking with Samin Nosrat & Hrishikesh Hirway
Joy at Work by Marie Kondō & Scott Sonenshein
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In this episode of @CoachingThruIt, Julie and Laura talk about having coaching clients make distinctions, define terms, and get to the heart of the matter in a session. We chat a bit about “fillers” vs. blunt questions, and how we are thinking about defining terms and comparison when in our own coaching practice.
Tools we compare in this episode -- specifically to know the “how” and “what” certain words mean to them:
Making Distinctions - differentiating between two things; comparing two concepts or ideas.
e.g., leadership vs. being a leader; community vs. relationship
Defining Terms - how the client describes a concept, term, etc.; e.g., “What do you mean by that?” or “Tell me more about that…”
- Removing the “barnacles” or fillers: the extra words, context, or “scratchy bit,” that might get in a way of your question; e.g. “Help me understand...” {insert question}
- Do these context pieces or summarization direct/lead our clients?
- Does empathy look different in a coaching relationship?
- How much can our coaching clients take in with these questions?
- Bottom line: Shut up, and just ask the direct question
- Mirroring behavior: “Emotions are real!”
- Setting the tone with coaching clients to bring them up/down/even
- Bottom lining: when a client is giving too much context, etc. to redirect the client
- Checking in with clients: Just to say “Hi, How are you?”
- Peeling back the onion in the “murky middle” of a coaching session
- Put on your “opportunity overalls” -- let’s get to work!
- Self-reflection tool for making distinction
- Do we not spend enough time thinking about words?
Book:
Finding Your Why by Simon Sinek
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In this @CoachingThruIt episode, Julie and Laura chat about pivoting from advising, helping, and mentoring to not be a problem-solver. We unpack the phrase we are told in our coach training: “Coach the Client, Not the Problem.” We join our coaching clients on their journey -- so we talk about our triggers that might “helper” tendency, to listen to how we are thinking about coaching clients to empower them to reach their own answers and identify their own solutions.
- The “How can I help?” question allows coaching clients to talk out needs & support
- Avoid giving the hack or solution to the client
- How much more powerful is the solution or direction if the client says it themself?
- Allowing clients to talk out loud ideas, issues, and actualizations
- Every coaching session “success” metric might look different or show up later
- Allow for reflections & takeaways from the client at the end of each session
- Change Talk: “What if …?” and “What would this look like?”
- Motivational Interviewing (episode to come)
- Removing Barnacles: get rid of the context and just ask the short and direct question.
- “Just so I understand…” or “Out of curiosity…”
- Powerful questions for family, friends or peers: “What would you do to solve this right now?” or “What do you want the outcome to be?” or “I have some ideas… but what do you think we should do first?”
- Empowering others to solve their own problems
Coaching Presence:
- Holding space: coaches are “team you” to sit with clients during the decision-making process and tough conversations around your goals/interests/ideas
- “Sit on Your Hands” to allow for patience
- Coach responses: “Hmmmm” or “Mmmmm” + head tilt or nod
Books & Learnings:
- The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier
- Start Finishing by Charlie Gilkey
- Tell Me More by Kelly Corrigan
- NPR Life Kit https://www.npr.org/lifekit
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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During coaching sessions with peers in their coach training cohort, Julie & Laura “practice coaching” -- which is to say they coach each other on real issues to implement the structure, concepts, and techniques we are learning from our coach training course. Here are some of their observations of this coach practice and what this means when we are “observed” with our coaching instructor, Katie.
We mention a few coaching tools and things we discuss during this episode:
- Powerful Questions
- Exercise/Tool from Julie: “Give Me Three Words” + Let’s make a sentence for each of the words; narrowing to identify values/issues/goals/interests
- Defining Terms
- Clearing
- Trust the Client (always)
- Bottom-lining
- Repeating & Affirming Statements
- Avoiding Interpretation as a Coach
- Making Space: for the coaching practice; OK Corral/Bumpers/Perimeter for Coaching
- Holding Space: for the client to clear, rant, reflect, etc.
- ICF Professional Coach Credentialing
- Laura’s Doodles to Reflect/Process
- Journaling (Reflective Writing) e.g. 1-minute journal prompts
- To-Do Lists & Prioritization
Books & Podcasts:
- Tiny Beautiful Things by Cheryl Strayed
- The Ghost Ship That Didn’t Carry Us
- Sugar Calling podcast
- I’m Still Here by Austin Channing Brown
- The Book of Longings by Sue Monk Kidd
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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Self-Determination Theory and Motivation
- Mastery & Competence
- Relatedness & Competence
- Autonomy
Coaching tools are exercises or activities to prompt ideas, identify interests, and even prompt an open discussion during a coaching session.
Why use a tool in coaching?
- Open up a client to a conversation
- Encourage a client to think deeper, beyond the surface chat
- Help a client to visualize an idea or concept
- Demonstrate new perspectives
- Or maybe just use a powerful question
Coaching Tools mentioned in this podcast:
- Core Motivations (Enneagram)
- Powerful Questions
- Wheel of Life
- Visualization
- Values Sort
What feels stable to you right now?
Books & Podcasts:
- Big Friendship by Aminatou Sow & Ann Friedman
- Call Your Girlfriend (same authors as above)
- Listen to: Coaching Tools episode from Katie Linder, Coach-to-Coach
Want to learn more about coaching? Have a question or topic we should discuss? Let us know!
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We recorded this episode at the beginning of December to reflect on our 6 months of coaching. In this bonus episode we share season two is coming in 2021 and birthday wishes for your hosts with the most. Be sure to send your love to Julie & Laura -- digital hugs & love are welcome. :)
p.s. Shout out to the local tea store: Steepologie -- we're loving our advent calendars of tea!
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On the podcast, Laura & Julie chat about the fishbowl coaching exercise and what it feels like to coach without an agenda!
- Let the client lead; trust the client
- Raw feelings/emotions: to dig in or not?
- Time in practice coaching sessions
All The Feels
What happens if you recognize your coaching client needs to talk more about emotions rising or feelings coming up related to issues from the past -- we would refer out to therapy:
- Referring a Client to Therapy (ICF) [PDF]
- Coaching vs. Therapy - Referring Coaching Clients with Mental Illness
Visual representation of self as a coach via video conferencing:
- How should we emote as a coach?
- How do you keep your facial expressions neutral?
- Top model style: Tongue to the roof of your mouth and shoulders back
Storytelling
“Not needing to hear story” [in coaching]
How does the story fit into or does not fit into coaching?
Story opens up the ideas, examples, and emotions related to the “How” and “what” questions.
Comparison of emotions or ideas from the past to now.
Podcasts:
Working It Out with Mike Birbiglia
What story is on a loop in your head from childhood?
Hooked on Phonics
What’s influencing your thoughts, mood, or mental space?
Is this information seeking for yourself OR helping a client make connections?
We don’t need the tea spilled in coaching.
What were we doing 3-5 years ago that got us to where we are today?
Great question for learning what time & perspective
Other coaching styles -- some include storytelling, metaphors, etc.
E.g. Coach: Katy Peplin https://www.thrive-phd.com/
Season 1 in Coach to Coach Podcast
Fishbowl Coaching: similar to fishbowl discussions you have 1 person observing and the other two practice being the coach and coaching client. Things we learned:
- Nimble coaching: improv, just listen & ask powerful questions without an agenda
- Sticking to an agenda: how does this impact getting deep with this structure?
- Powerful questions: phrase questions how we would approach and ask these open-ended questions
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Are you interested in learning more about coaching certification?
ICF Associate Certified Coach (ACC) Path
ICF Professional Certified Coach (PCC) Path
Emotional Intelligence
Empathy: “I will take the train to vulnerable city any time.” ~ Julie “The open express.” ~Laura
- Allyship
- Openness
- Affinity/Identity needs
What’s your story? (opening line or introduction)
Clearing -- ways to get the things out of their head & remove the distractions before moving into the coaching session
Asking the “HOW” and “WHAT” questions, and avoiding the “WHY” - we don’t need the information, context, history, etc.
We need to work on our best listening: facial expressions, verbal responses, non-verbals, and emotions -- maybe?
- Leading as a coach through visual expressions or reactions (verbal) (Laura)
- Be okay with the silence while thinking as a coach; breaking role (Julie)
- BONUS ASK: What question should I be asking you now?
To work on for Agenda Setting/Structure in coaching:
- Identify a topic or issue your coaching client wants to talk about
- Why is this issue/topic significant?
- What do you want to come from this coaching session
- Agenda structure -- planning & returning to the agenda, or not?
- Checking in on the agenda with the client to redirect or other things that come up
- Timestamp to check in and review agenda
- Organized conversations
- Guidelines & bumpers do not need to restrictive
Books:
No Hard Feelings by Liz Fosslien & Mollie West Duffy + IG: https://www.instagram.com/lizandmollie/
Forward by Abby Wamback
Untamed by Glennon Doyle
How We Fight For Our Lives by Saeed Jones
Pretty Bosses
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Coaching Opening Questions:
- How are you coming into our conversation today?
- What’s going on in your world?
- How are you landing into the call?
- What’s on your mind?
- What’s your story?
Removing the “advising” from our coaching with the following things:
- Open-ended questions
- Questions without judgement
- Non-leading questions
- Ask one question -- and let your client talk
- Tell me more…
- Can you give me an example of… ?
- What do you mean by… ?
- The wandering conversation
- Asking more intentional and interesting questions
LeaderShape
End of a Session Coaching Questions:
- Do you think that we accomplished what we set out to do?
- What are you leaving here with?
- How are you feeling as you walk out the door?
- What are you leaving this session that is most useful for you today?
- What’s one thing have you learned from today?
- What are you going to think about from today’s coaching session?
- What’s resonating with you now?
James Lipton: 10 Questions from Inside the Actor Studio
Book:
The Coaching Habit by Michael Bungay Stanier
Podcasts:
Coach to Coach Katie Linder
Dolly Parton’s America
West Cork
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Introduction to this podcast and how we are “coaching through it” on this and future episodes.
International Coaches Federation (ICF)
Coach Training with Katie Linder: https://www.higheredcoaches.com/
What is your past experience with coaching?
NACADA - The Global Community for Academic Advising
Design Matters with Debbie Millman: Austin Kleon (interview)
How do you define coaching?
ICF Definition of Coaching
Coach to Coach Podcast
Season 1, Episode1 - Introduction (Group Coaching)
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In Coaching Through It, your podcast hosts and newly minted coaches, Julie Larsen and Laura Pasquini, bring their perspectives and insights to their coaching practice. In each episode we’ll introduce you to what coaching is -- specifically coach training, powerful questions, coaching tools or techniques, working with clients, and applying how coaching fits into both our work and personal lives. Join us for the conversation as we’re … Coaching Through It.
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