Fountain of Worth Podcast: Recent Episodes
Norma Zaugg
Each women is born with inherent worth. Value that is far beyond what she can see.
It can not be earned and there is nothing she can do to increase it, it already exists waiting to be uncovered and embraced. It is a Fountain of Worth.
Join me as my guests uncover their stories, share their tips, and show you how to embrace the transformative power of Your WORTH!
This episode will inspire you to fight your inner critic and discover your inherent worth. Becky is the owner and editor of Latter-Day Woman Magazine, but she didn't start that way. Her inner critic used to tell her that she was dumb. In this episode Becky will take you through her journey of transformation. Listen and learn about what she did to change that hurtful inner dialogue.
Episode Transcription:
Hey, everyone, I am so excited to be back with you for season three. This season is going to be dedicated to helping women discover and embrace their inherent worth. Thank you so much for joining me on this journey. And without further ado, here's episode one.
The most rewarding journey you will ever take is discovering and embracing what lies within you, a fountain of worth.
I'm your host, Norma Zaugg.
I sat in the middle of the smart and popular girls feeling like an alien in more ways than one. I stayed quiet as much as possible to avoid getting caught, not knowing anything. But sooner or later, you always get caught. My teacher wrote an equation on the board. It was full of random letters, numbers and symbols that I knew weren't random at all. He turned to call someone up to solve it.
I avoided his eyes and sunk down in my seat. It didn't work this time. He called my name. I stood up and slowly made my way to the front of the room as I walked. I stared down that equation, begging it to reveal its answer to me, but it didn't. It looked like a foreign language. My face felt warm and my heart was pounding. How long could I stall? I picked up the dry erase marker and let it dance around my fingers.
The room was dead silent. Was everyone staring at me? I didn't dare turn around to check, but I could feel the popular girl sneering at me. Surely the teacher would have compassion on me. I turned to meet, his eyes magnified behind his thick old man glasses and just shrugged. He nodded in subtle surprise and said, "Oh, I thought you were a Hart."
Ouch. Becky, was there a message sent to you like that inner critic?
What was it saying when this was going on?
It said that I was stupid, dumb and an airhead and most of all, a disappointment.
Ouch. Those messages can be so upsetting. Can you tell me a little bit more about your family growing up?
So I am the youngest of seven children in a very smart, talented and influential family. At least that's how I perceive my parents and siblings. We never missed family scripture, study, prayer or family home evening. We won spelling bees, reflection contests and even Sterling Scholar. And we really enjoyed singing beautiful harmonies at home and performed around our community, just like the Von Trapp Family Singers. Pretty much. What couldn't the Hart family do?
Wow.
I can imagine how amazing you must have been. Do you think that belonging to your family led to any feelings of inadequacy or not being able to measure up?
It definitely wasn't anything that they did to make me feel that way. But like I said, it was kind of my inner critic. And so while all my siblings were getting straight A's and and succeeding in every subject and every part of their life, I would usually be found stuffing my homework into the hidden crevices of my room. My mother was out of sight, out of mind.
And then I would create I would create stories with my dolls, with my stuffed animals, and sometimes just with a pencil and paper lost in my infinite imagination. I was comparing myself to my siblings and not measuring up.
Yeah, it's so hard. Comparing ourselves to, yea siblings makes it really hard. Sometimes I have comparisons with my own, so I totally get that. What do you think was the defining moment when you were like, I want these feelings to shift?
Like I don't want to feel this way?
Well, I definitely struggled with those thoughts for a long time. But years later, after I was married and had three kids, I had a miscarriage. And during my mourning and my sorrow, the only thing that I could do was to write about it. Writing has always been my therapy, even though I didn't necessarily think I was a good writer. I just enjoyed it. And it helped me through things. I don't know what it was that made me do this, but I decided to submit an article that I wrote about my miscarriage to the Ensign and they published it.
And that's kind of what started my creative flame to start burning a little bit brighter.
Wow, that's amazing. That's really cool that you were able to get that validation from, you know, writing something and just maybe even.
Did you feel like you were holding your breath when you submitted it?
Like when I submitted it, I never in a million years thought that I would ever hear anything from them. I never I never thought it would even maybe, you know, the email would even get opened. And this is a whole other story. But what's interesting is that is that I didn't hear anything for three years. Three years later, I got an email saying that they wanted to publish the article.
Wow, that's really fascinating, almost as if the right timing, you know, like they were waiting the right time. So after you get this article published, like what? What did you do next?
I decided to start my own blog. I, I had loved blogging, but it was mostly just a family type of blog. And so I decided to start one where I would just have my own writing. And I wrote something every week and it was on different topics that I just kind of enjoyed writing about. I didn't think anybody would care to read it, but it didn't matter because it made me feel good to write. And the more that I wrote, the better it got.
There's definitely been a transformation that has happened for you from feeling dumb and feeling like you weren't as smart maybe as other family members to where you are today. Can you share a tip or a tool that helped you?
Something that I've come to realize over the last few years to be smart doesn't mean that you're book smart. So let me rephrase that. I believed that if you weren't book smart, that you weren't smart at all. But that's not the case. There's so many different kinds of smart and creativity is definitely one of them. I decided to start writing an article once a week and now I have not only been published in the Ensign, but I've been published on the Today Show and a lot of other media outlets, and I am now the founding editor of Latter-Day Woman magazine.
Amazing. Do you still struggle? Yeah, I do for sure. I don't think that that this is something that you can just magically get over feelings of doubt and disappointment in whatever areas you might be feeling that what we need to learn is how to use tools to. You know, despite those feelings and get over them every day,
yeah, so if you were to summarize your experience in six words, what would those words be?
Stupid disappointment, determined writing, magazine owner.
That was Becky Squire. She is the owner and founding editor of Latter Day Women magazine.
Becky is an amazing example of how we do not have to let the inner critic rule our lives. If you want to know more about Becky, you can visit her website at Beckysquire.com or go over and check out the magazine Latterdaywomen.com. And as always, thank you so much for joining me today. If you could take a few moments to leave a review for this podcast. It really helps other women find this podcast. I can't tell you how important it is.
And I would be really grateful if you could do so.
Thank you so much.
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In this episode we discuss how these deficits occur and what we can do about them. We can't go back to our mothers ans ask them to fix the deficits they created when we were infants, but we can heal the deficits that are within us that will pass to our children.
This episode provided 4 actionable steps that you can begin taking today to make a difference and change generational patterns.
Have you ever felt alone in a group of people? What about when you are with your family, together yet completely isolated? One of the biggest misconceptions is that is if you are spending time together as a family you are attached.
In this episode we dive into the importance of mother and child bonding.
What does a home look like where there is a strong attachment?
What does a home look like when there are bonding deficits?
What can we do if our relationships are struggling?
Listen and learn more.
Did you know that harmful family patterns are nor always extreme? It is not always a story of a father that abuses his children, or a mother who is beaten. Sometimes family patterns are much more subtle, but still harmful.
Patterns like: lack of empathy, poor communication, perfectionism, fear, and criticism can really cause a lot of pain and heartache for members in a family.
This episode dives into 5 different common family structures and looks at the dysfunction of each. It is my hope that this episode is not shameful and that you don't leave discourages=d, but empowered on small changes you can make that will have a big impact.
Sending Love,
Norma
Resources used for this episode:
Psych2go- Family Dysfunction
John M. Gottman: 4 Horseman of the Apocalypse
Did you grow up in a home with a parent who struggled with depression? If so this episode may help bring understanding and hope. Depression is traumatic to children and is a form of generational trauma that passes to future generations through what is called Traumatic Response.
Children who do have a caregiver that is depressed are 4x more likely to face depression themselves, and a variety of other struggles.
Did you know that Denial can be a generational pattern that is taught. Dive into this episode where we learn about the theory of denial. How it shows up in families and what we can do to stop it.
Are you tired of feeling out of control when something unexpected happens? Do you want to be able to manage large emotions despite the pull of hard things? If so, I think you will enjoy this episode where I teach you an new tool called the P-I-N-G Model.
When outside circumstances try to throw us for a loop, we can take action and do something about it.
Are you struggling with this Pandemic? Thoughts of: homeschooling is not for me, I'm tired, I need a break, just get me out of this house, I see the danger but I am tempted to go out anyways, lonely, disconnected, sad.
You are not alone. This is a trying time for all of us. In this episode I give you 4 tips on how to make Covid-19 less traumatic for you and for your children.
As always, I would love to hear your feedback.
Stay safe!
Wow! I made it. There were amazing moments, and moments of struggle, but yesterday marked the 1 year anniversary and birthday of this podcast.
In this episode:
1) A brief history of how this podcast came about. (3:16)
2) How the podcast has changed over the past year (3:46)
3) The fears I had to face to keep going.
4) The success that I saw.
5) Listen and find out how to get the 3 free birthday gifts (13:38)
Link to free gifts
I'm so excited for what the future will bring.
Link to Genecia's Episode on Healing After Abortion
Are you feeling a little disconnected? Have you noticed that you have a decreased ability to handle stress? Have you noticed that you aren't as productive as usual? All of these can be linked to the lack of connection we are facing with the new rules about social distancing.
In this episode:
1) Learn about the impacts of social distancing. Learn about an interesting study done on babies and connection (2:50)
2) Learn about the harm of disconnection. (5:50)
3) Learn about the 3 dimension of connection (8:52)
4) Learn about our three needs that are met by connection and ideas on how to meet those needs during this time (11:16)
5) Ah-ha Challenge (16:02)
Gottman Study: Still Face Experiment
Social Relationships and Health
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Do you use sarcasm with your friends, family or co-workers? In this episode we discuss the harm of sarcasm and how we can break this habit to improve our relationships.
This episode includes:
Why we use sarcasm (5:49)
The harm of sarcasm (9:47)
How to begin breaking the patterns of sarcasm (12:45)
Ah-ha Challenge: 15:50
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Have you felt your emotions shift because of the Coronavirus Pandemic? I sure have, especially this past week as churches have been closed, public events have been shut down and universities have moved to online only. How do we stay calm as parents during times like these and parent from a place of faith instead of fear.
In this episode learn about:
Some characteristics of fear based parenting (1:56)
What would fear based parenting look like (4:32)
What children pick up (5:47)
Steps parents can take to keep calm and love towards faith (7:24)
Faith based parenting (14:04)
Ah-ha Challenge (16:42)
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Did you grow up in a home that used fear based parenting? Does it still impact you today as an adult? In this episode learn:
- Three indicators that will help you determine if this was used in your home. (4:30)
- What unspoken messages does fear based parenting send to children. (7:55)
- The dangers of fear based parenting. (9:10)
- Actionable steps we can take to change the patterns that are left behind. (12:00)
Ah-ha Challenge (14:26)
Have you ever wondered if your wounds are generational? This episode gives you tips on finding clues from the past that will help you to uncover your map to healing.
Remember anytime we heal, generations both past, present and future benefit. It is worth taking a look.
Do you share too much with your children? Do you NEED them to ease your burdens?
If you answered yes you may be enmeshed with your children.
Enmeshment is an unhealthy family pattern that is often passed down from generation to generation unconsciously. It is where the emotions and even identity of two people get tangled.
The best part about all of this is that small changes make a big difference.
In this episode:
1) What is enmeshment? (3:46)
2) Questions to ask yourself to see if you might be Enmeshed. (5:34)
2) Why we become enmeshed. (7:34)
3) Why it can be harmful even though it feels safe. (11:22)
4) What we can do about it and create a healthier family. (13:46)
AH-HA Challenge: So 1 thing this week that makes you happy. (15:53)
Sending Buckets of Love!
Thanks for helping me make this community great.
Do you ever worry about some of your teenagers friendships? Do they seem to have a friend that is always in crisis? Do they have a friend that they feel they can't live without? Do their friendships seem 1 sided? If so they may be involved in an enmeshed relationship.
On this episode we discuss:
1) The 2 parts of an enmeshed relationship.
2) Signs to watch for as parents.
3) Ideas for healing if you find your teen in this kind of friendship.
Jump in at any time to learn more....
4:06 (Description of the 2 roles of enmeshment)
6:50 (What signs should parents be watching for)
10:08 (Why we should be concerned)
11:58 (Ideas for Healing)
Ah-ha Challenge: Analyze your own relationships. Are any of them enmeshed?
My favorite Book on Boundaries
Boundaries with Teens
Do you struggle with separating your thoughts and your feelings from those of another family member? Enmeshment is something that many families struggle with and it is a behavior that can harm our families. Learn more, join me on the journey of awareness, healing, hope and awakening.
In this episode we...
1) Discuss how enmeshment may have surfaced in your family.
2) We discuss why it is harmful.
3) We untangle what we can do about it.
Free Worksheet: Same/Different Enmeshment Activity
Ah-ha Challenge: Recognize what relationships in your life might suffer from enmeshment. Don't worry this episode is filled with tips on how to recognize it.
Amazon: Boundaries Book: How to Say Yes, When to Say No
Article on Enmeshment
Can you tell the difference between your emotions and the emotions of others?
Do you feel like you need to rescue others from their emotions?
Join me on the journey of awareness, hope, healing, and awakening in this episode on the family pattern of enmeshment. Enmeshment is always unintentional. It is a pattern passed down from generation to generation.
Truth: Many families think that enmeshment is the way they should be because they have never experienced something different, but these patterns can harm your family.
Listen and...
...find out if enmeshment was a part of your family growing up.
...learn what enmeshment looks like.
...participate in the Ah-ha Challenge for personal growth.
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Are you tired of blaming your parents for pain that you carry?
Are you afraid that you might pass your suffering forward to your children?
Do you want to find a deep internal peace? If so you have found the right place.
Generational Healing is some of the most powerful work that you will ever do because it not only clears pain and heartache from our own lives, but it reaches generations in both the past and the future.
When we do 'the work' we unlock suffering for our entire family line. Pretty cool huh!
In this episode we discuss three reasons to do the work.
1) It will free you from pain that is not yours.
2) It will shift your perception of your parents and others that came before you.
3) You will change the trajectory for your kids because you won't continue passing pain forward.
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Were you the one chosen in your family line to break generational patterns? Join me on the journey of Awareness, Healing and Awakening
Are you unintentionally passing generational trauma to your children? In this episode we untangle what generational trauma is and the importance of becoming informed about it. I share with you why I am so passionate about this work. I have seen the lives of my family members change as I have healed my own pain and shame that was passed to me from my parents.
I help individuals recognize and break unhealthy family patterns. This work is life changing.
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Show Notes:
Article about Holocaust Trauma
Trans generational Trauma- Holocaust Survivors
Do you remember what it was like to be a teenager. Do you remember the competitive atmosphere, and how mean other kids can actually be?
In this episode we dive into the struggles teens face with "Playing Big"
I teach about conversations parents can have with their teen about this topic, and a tool -BIG Model- that you can teach your teen to help them remember to play big.
B: Bounce Back
I: Identify Gifts
G: Go For It
Help teens Identify their gift by asking these questions:
- What are your gifts?
- What do you feel called to do?
- Where can you see yourself playing big?
- Where can you serve the world?
AHA Challenge: Teach a mini lesson to a family member of friend about what it means to "play big"
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Do you have a childhood memory where a mom, dad, or grandma told you that you were not good enough to try out? There are many reasons why parents do this, but one of the main reasons comes from their desire to protect their kids from pain. When we discourage our children from going for something that they really want we may be unintentionally teaching them to play small.
In this episode:
1)We discuss the three ways parents unintentionally teach their children to play small.
2) How this can be harmful.
3) A simple and easy to remember model for doing things differently.
Let's all play big and live more fulfilling lives.
Theories:
Jonah Complex by Abraham Maslow: Fear of one's own greatness. Where one evades their won growth, sets low levels of aspirations, and has a fear of doing what they are capable of doing.
The term "Playing Small" was popularized by Marianne Williamson
AHA Clallenge
Practice the B-I-G Model
Teach it to your children.
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Do you play small? There comes a point in our lives where we are tired of living in a place of "small" where we want to follow our dreams and step into who we want to become. To really step into our divinity.
In this episode we:
1) Talk about the reasons people play small.
2) Break down 6 Key things that we can do to play big.
3) AHA Challenge this week: Where do you play small? What does it feel like to play small? What does it feel like to play big?
Quote:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.” -Marianne Williamson
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This podcast is The First Episode in a 4 part series on "Playing Small."
"Playing Small" is something that we all struggle with, but the struggle can be intensified if our parents also played small and taught us how.
In this episode we:
- Discuss "The Jonah Complex" developed by psychologist Abraham Maslow.
- We look into our early childhood to see if our parents taught us how to play small.
- We break down reasons why parents do this.
AHA Challenge:
Analyze your family of origin and see if "The Jonah Complex" is something that was introduced to you when you were little.
Our children are bombarded with comparison messages all of the time, friends, social media, and magazines all try to convince our children that they need to be different to be enough.
If we have picked up habits of comparison from our family of origin we might be comparing ourselves too. I can't emphasize enough to parents that you have huge amounts of influence on your children. We can do it differently and teach our children how to do it different too. We need to step in and accept our gifts she they can step in and accept theirs.
In this episode we discuss how comparison is impacting our teenagers, and what we can do to help them navigate this world.
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In this episode we discuss the ways that comparison harms our children. The focus for this episode is children 7-12 years of age.
This episode covers:
1) The 5 reasons children compare.
2) It shows parents how to model healthy change in their homes.
3) There is a new A..HA.. Challenge.
I would love to hear your comments and feedback
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Have you ever noticed that comparison steals joy? It impacts our self-esteem, steals our confidence, decreases our motivation, and changes our attitude. If you have a practice of comparison it might be holding you back.
In this episode:
1) Gain an awareness of where you might be comparing in your life
2) Learn how to spot comparison triggers
3) Participate in the AHA Challenge
Trigger Worksheet
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Do you struggle with comparison? At the age of about 8 I never wanted to lose anything. In fact I would rather give up and quit, then try something and lose.
Comparison was already deeply ingrained into me, and 2nd was not enough. It wasn't until I was an adult that I became aware of the damage this belief was having on me.
Comparison is something I learned in my family of origin. Is that where you learned it too? Join me on the journey of awakening, awareness, and generational healing in this episode.
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Season 2 Episode 3
Do you ever get tired of conflict in the home? Do you want to help your children understand which attitudes harm their relationships and give them a desire to make changes? If so you will love this episode that uses a variety of Disney characters to break down these ideas into smaller more understandable pieces. This is not just for the little kids in your home, it will help older children and adults too.
I originally designed this as a presentation for 11 and 12 year olds, but was asked to come and present it to adults. This lesson is for young and old. Join me in gaining a deeper understanding of the 4 attitudes of conflict resolution. Enjoy!
After listening if you would like to be engaged in a conversation with others that are healing these generational patterns join us on Instagram @sparkpodcast or on Facebook @sparkpodcasts
Sending Love! Norma
Welcome to Season 2 Episode 2
Think of all the pain that could be avoided if we as humans didn't betray ourselves. Think of the pain our kids might be able to avoid if at a young age we started teaching them what self betrayal does and how harmful it is.
In this episode I teach how parents can begin teaching their children this concept.
Welcome to Season 2
Each and every day we send our children into a world that is filled with shame. From their school teachers to their sports teams our children will be exposed to shame. They will have moments when they feel like they are flawed and unworthy. We can help our children navigate this painful experience by teaching them shame resilience. In this episode I teach you my BREATHE method of shame resilience.
If you would like a print copy of this method with additional details you can go to my website and download the free guide.
What traits do you want your husband to have? Did you know that you can help your boys develop those traits so that they will be amazing husbands and fathers? In this episode I talk about small changes that I made so that I could teach my boys how to become men that really show up for women and children. My intention and efforts mattered. So do yours and the best part...you can make small changes today that will make a huge impact.
Have you ever felt the spirit of God talk to you? It is one of the most miraculous things, to know that a heavenly being cares about you. Recently I had an experience where they Spirit of God Worked Through Me, and used me as a link between two people to share a message. How does the spirit use you to further God's work?
Have you ever wondered how Satan does it? How he slowly leads people from a place of light and hope into a place a darkness and they can't see what has happened? In this episode I talk about how he slowly leads us away, and how to find light again if we find ourselves living in darkness.
Have you ever felt deep down that something was wrong for you, but moved forward anyways because it met your agenda for what you wanted? In this episode I talk about the times when my eyes were unable to see past what I thought was best for me to see what God had planned for me. The Holy Ghost can help us avoid things that are wrong for us if we listen.
Is it hard for you to say no? Is it okay to give from a place of empty and ease the burden of others while we increase the burden on ourselves. In this episode I talk about reasons why it is hard to say no, and why it is so important for our growth and our well being to be able to do so.
Do you struggle with managing your stress? What about with the ability to control your impulses, self motivation, or achieving your goals? If you feel like you could use help in any of those areas you'll enjoy this episode. This is a proven way that I have found makes a HUGE difference in my ability to self manage.
Do you feel guilty when you take care of yourself? Most women do, in fact less that 20% of women report that they do regular self care. In this episode we are going to discuss why women struggle and learn 5 steps to start a self care practice today.You can do this. You do matter and self care will make a difference.
Do you feel empty? Lost? Unfulfilled? It is not uncommon for women to get lost on the roles we play as mother and wife, and forget who we are as an individual. In this episode you will learn about things you can start doing today to find yourself.
It doesn't take much today to change your future in years to come. The healing that you do today matters, not only to you, but to all those that you love. Change always begins as one small step. In this episode I share how 7 years later I am now seeing the fruit of my labor of choosing one day at a time to work towards healing.
It is so worth it. Start healing today.
Have you ever been in an uncomfortable situation where you felt like you had to justify yourself? I have! In this episode we dive into why we justify our behavior, and three different traps we can get stuck in.
Plus the best part, you don't have to stay stuck. You have the power to change everything.
In this episode Shelley Swapp shares what is is like to be a young mom that had two children born with severe food allergies and another with Muscular Dystrophy all within 5 years. This is her journey of finding hope and healing when doctors didn't always have the answers to help her babies. Shelley is a woman who woke and made mountains move, and now she helps other families do the same. I love this episode!
Have you ever been curious about people who end up homeless? I have been. In this episode Pharaoh Kelley talks about how he was working full time and still ended up homeless. This story opened my eyes to a world that I didn't know much about. Pharaoh is open and honest and this interview changed the way I think about homelessness. It was amazing.
Do you ever have times of prosperity and happiness when you forget to place God first? I do! In this episode I discuss the pride cycle and how it impacts my life. Do you ever fall into the pride cycle? How do you get out?
You have the light of Christ inside. It is always there, but life can be hard and sometimes layer after layer of suffering and loss and pain can start to cover up our light. You may begin to forget that you have it and wonder if you are worthy or even okay at all. It is your job to magnify the glory of God, he placed that light inside of you so that you could bring light to others. Find your light so you can share it with others. The world needs you.
What is it like living with someone that suffers from Chronic Anxiety and Depression? Dan Hayward, husband to Ally Hayward from episode #1 talks about how Ally's anxiety and depression impacts him and their children. If you know someone who has a family member who suffers with anxiety and depression and wants information on how another man copes with this struggle please share this episode.
Have you ever heard the phrase 'Sorrow that they eye can't see'? After having 10 miscarriages Emma talks about how this phrase took on new meaning for her. She shares her story of finding light, hope, and the knowledge that God never leaves us.
Do you find yourself ever making judgements on other people? I sure do! In this episode I share three things that we can do to start shifting our brains and behaviors around judgement.
Her Fear of rejection and recrimination did not stop her when God called her to share her story of abortion publicly for the first time. With extreme faith she accepted what might happen and walked into the spotlight that night. Instead of finding a wall she found the loving embrace of friends, family and strangers. By shedding light on her story, she gave others permission to do the same. In this Episode Cindy Case a National Leader from Surrendering the Secret opens her heart to us about her abortion. Life changing!
Women have a sacred God given gift to nurture and mother those around us. It is a gift that only we can give. In this episode I share three ways we can do this to help the men, other women and children in our lives.
When she was a tiny little girl Kay had dreams of growing up to become a mother. She found an amazing man to marry, but her dreams of becoming a mother were delayed by infertility. In this very touching episode Kay West shares her story of finding light and hope in adoption. She shares how much heavenly father loves his daughters and how much he loves you.
Do you believe in Angels? Did you know that you can be one for someone here on earth? In this episode I talk about the 4 steps you can begin taking today to be a servant of God here on earth.
The darkest days of my divorce were filled with intense bitterness. I thank God every day for surrounding me with amazing men and women who comforted me and taught me that I had a choice. I could either stay in intense bitterness or choose to see the blessings that were all around me. If you are struggling ask for Angels I know God will send them.
We want our boys to grow up to be good men that help and heal women and children. How do we do that? This is a tool that you can teach them and model for them that will help their brain develop in a way to encourage healing instead of harming.
At 19 years old David encouraged his girlfriend to get an abortion. Little did he know that the side effects of this choice would impact him for years to come. On that day his girlfriend changed, her trauma left him with no words to console her. In this touching episode David talks about how not being able to show up as a man for his girlfriend or his baby girl left him with deep wounds. He found healing through God and he encourages other men to find it too.
Do you struggle with practicing gratitude? I do! It is hard for me because sometimes it feels like one more thing to get done in an already overwhelming day.
Well, I found a way to simplify gratitude that only takes a couple of minutes. Try it when you are sitting in the carpool line or waiting for the water to boil. I would love to hear what you discover.
In this episode Heather Herbert shares Aria with us, her stillborn baby girl that was born in 2011. Heather shares about the anger that she felt towards God during this time and how she found hope and light despite heartache that no mother should ever have to face. If you have ever known someone who had to face this loss please listen.
Do you sometimes feel stuck in a cycle of interacting with others that just doesn't work? Do you want your communication to improve?
The Karpman Drama Triangle is a model of communication. It shows the destructive ways people interact during conflict. If you can learn this tool and how to stay out of the drama triangle your communication becomes more clear and your relationships will improve. This is a tool that I use daily.
I will be offering a free class on Drama Triangle in June 2019.
The Safety Script is a tool that can be used in your personal relationships to validate others and create safety. If used correctly it can aid in changing current unsafe situations into safe ones. It can be used with friends, spouses, children etc.
Try it out and see how it can defuse a heated conversation. It is amazing what can happen when people felt heard and understood.
Ashley and Chris Chatwin had been married for 7 years when she opened his computer and found out about his infidelity. In this episode they share hoe together they have found hope and healing. Chris talks about how he was able to live a duplicit life so that Ashley didn't know. Ashley shares some of the triggers she still has to fight. Worth listening!
In this episode I talk about some do's and don'ts around how parents can help their children navigate a world filled with pornography and objectification and avoid addiction. Don't miss this episode, you can do specific things to change your environment and decrease your child's chances.
In this touching episode Chris Chatwin takes us into his life as a 5 year old boy who was introduced to pornography. When his wife (Ashley from Episode #8) finds out, he feels worthless and wants to give up, but together they fight to save their marriage and family. This one won't leave you disappointed. Courage and Faith make this couple a powerhouse for good.
Boundaries and bottom lines can be life changing, but what are they? And maybe more importantly, you may be wondering if they even apply to you. In this episode they are explained and you will get an idea if your boundaries and bottom lines could be tweaked to serve you better.
Ashley and Chris had been married for 7 years when her world was flipped upside down with the instant one click of a button she found out that Chris had a Pornography Addiction and had affairs. This is a life changing story of how Chris and Ashley found hope and healing together. It gave me chills as I recorded this podcast. I highly recommend this episode for anyone who struggles with this.
Do you trust yourself? If not, you are not alone and the best part is that you can change it. Here are 5 tools you can use to learn to trust yourself. The key really is to practice these techniques enough to see a change.
Do you ever let the moods of others determine your mood? I know it is heard right, if we happen to be around someone who never smiles and seems down all the time. I try so hard not to let them impact me, but sometimes I do. What about you? How can we catch ourselves in those moments and choose happy?
We all have a spark inside of us. It is the light of Christ, and It wants to shine. The hard part is that shining doesn't come easy. Sometimes we have layers and layers of life that keeps us from wondering if we even have light anymore. Dig deep my friends....you have light, I promise and it is time for it to shine.
She was headed to college when she found out she was pregnant. She would have done anything to protect her family from finding out about her mistake. In this episode of SPARK Genecia Davis shows us how she found forgiveness after an abortion.
Instagram: @geneciaunveiled
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Norma Zaugg
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Julie Bristow was 17 years old when she first started to notice that she wasn't herself. In this episode of Spark she takes us into how she had her own biases about Mental Illness until she had to face one herself. Julie is now an advocate for mental health and wants to stop the bias around this illness so people get the help they need.
Instagram: Julie.in.real.life
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Norma Zaugg
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So many men and women silently suffer with anxiety and depression. In this episode of the Spark Podcast, Ally Hayward of Silently Surviving Souls takes us into her world as a wife, mother, and writer who suffers with depression. We get to see her darkness and she shows us how she copes with the day to day struggles and finds hope and healing.
Spark Podcast, the light within
Norma Zaugg
Website:normazaugg.com