The Father Daughter Dance: Recent Episodes
Tim Taylor
The Father Daughter Dance hosted by Tim Taylor is devoted to creating conversations to help Dads keep up with the velocity of how things are changing for our Daughters.
We will share our experiences raising daughters with some laughs and maybe some tears as we have honest conversations about this unique and crucial relationships.
Guests will mostly be Fathers from all backgrounds and ages. We will also have Daughters on to provide perspective on subjects (losing their father, what worked for them, etc.).
This is not a coaching podcast. Tim is not an expert in the field, he knows how to create great conversations.
He is a curious, funny and devoted father to his now 20-year-old daughter with an unquenchable passion to help each other with this extraordinary relationship. #Girldads unite!
Won’t you join us? Step into The Father Daughter Dance. Let’s do this!
Tim opens the show reflecting on season 3 and the power of putting ourselves out there as role models/Dads.
He’s then joined by the incomparable Chris Yeh to discuss the impact Season 3 has had on him and beyond.
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The Father Daughter Dance was recently rated in the top 5% of 3.5 Million podcasts by a “Neilsen type” rating service!
Tim opens the show talking about the power of getting help.
He’s then joined by Maddie and Kate Arch. They touch on relating within the family and in relationships in their lives. They describe how they feel heard when talking about their feelings and how they talk about their own feelings.
It’s a fascinating look into two young women who are both entering fields to help others in the world.
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The Father Daughter Dance was recently rated in the top 5% of 3.5 Million podcasts by a “Neilsen type” rating service!
Tim opens the show talking about raising Zoe as an only child.
He’s then joined by Jeff Arch to talk about his daughters Katie and Madeleine. He opens up about what it takes to be a parent of 2 very different daughters who he loves with all his heart. We discuss the challenges of listening, like really listening to what’s going on with our daughters.
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The Father Daughter Dance was recently rated in the top 5% of 3.5 Million podcasts by a “Neilsen type” rating service!
Tim opens the show talking about how learning more about how poor and undernourished kids can feel overwhelming and the younger generation makes him feel hope.
John Spencer joins the pod to talk about bearing witness and supporting Katia through a big move from the US to the UK at a poignant time for her at 10 years old and how including the whole family in the conversation helped.
He also touches on his groundbreaking research on the impact of poverty and undernourishment impacts the development of babies.
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The Father Daughter Dance was recently rated in the top 5% of 3.5 Million podcasts by a “Neilsen type” rating service!
Tim opens the show talking about how learning about how our long term friends grew up helps us understand each other even more
He’s then joined by Heather Hoffman, a close friend of 35 years who talks about how she grew up and grew as a woman with her relationship with her father Gary. She talks about starting a second career and the rewards of witnessing a devoted husband help raise their daughter Maggie who is in her 20’s.
You can find out more about the products Heather believes in on her Insta @hoffhouse5
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The Father Daughter Dance was recently rated in the top 5% of 3.5 Million podcasts by a “Neilsen type” rating service!
Tim opens the show talking about the role of step parents in the lives of our daughters.
He’s then joined by Doug DeAngelis, a dear college friend who shares about raising his daughter Olivia.
He touches on the roll of strong women in his life. He also shares about his role bringing her up in two separate households.
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The Father Daughter Dance was recently rated in the top 5% of 3.5 Million podcasts by a “Neilsen type” rating service!
Tim opens the pod touching on how he teaches Zoe not to take life too seriously.
Then the magnificent Chris Yeh joins the pod to interview Tim on Zoe graduating from college. They touch on the entire weekend and what it meant to be a Dad at a Daughter’s moment of celebration.
Tim opens the pod discussing how Dads who are beginners talking about and listening to feelings can start to.
Natalie Carrera and Lisa Goodspeed join the pod to talk about their perspectives as sober daughters and their journeys to this point with fathers. They each touch on challenges they faced and still face in the relationship.
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Tim opens the podcast talking about the importance of crying as a Dad and holding space for our daughters to do the same.
This week John Wallace the founder of Surviving the Odds Project at www.stoproject.org joins the pod to talk about raising his daughters Le’Shaundra 27 and Trinity 13.
John built a redeemed relationship with both of them after struggling in his life with time in the penal system and facing addiction.
We cover an incredible story of how he stayed connected to his family while incarcerated.
He also tells a beautiful story of a poignant and difficult conversation he had with his daughter Trinity recently and shed a few tears on the pod telling it.
Tim opens the pod commenting on the power of the words “I love you” and the challenge when actions don’t meet those words.
Michelle Travis, author of Dads for Daughters (about helping Dads become allies for Girls and Women) shares about her upbringing with a devoted, loving father who loved more in actions than words.
She touches on how she recognized she needed to grow as a parent to her daughters in expressing her feelings and love. She also shares a warm story of seeing her father saying I love you to her daughters.
Her ability to be articulate, compelling and at times quite vulnerable and open is indeed the spice of the podcasting life.
Find her book here: https://www.amazon.com/Dads-Daughters-Fathers-Better-Brighter/dp/1642501328
Find short videos on raising my daughter on TikTok: https://rebrand.ly/TT-on-TikTok
Find me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thetimtaylor6
Phil Beltran, Annie Certo’s father (last week’s guest), joins the pod.
We discussed his choices about how he knew he had to show up for his son and daughter along with his wife as they grew up given his upbringing.
He opened up with us about the challenges of knowing when how and step in to have conversations about how he saw things going on in his life for his daughter.
Phil glowingly spoke about the joy of being a grandparent.
Buy tickets to my One Person Play: The Father Daughter Dance
May 6 in San Rafael, CA:
https://tickets.marincenter.org/eventperformances.asp?evt=387
May 12 & 13 in Chicago, IL:
https://athenaeumcenter.org/events/2023/the-father-daughter-dance/
Also find me on tiktok to view some of my short videos on raising our daughters:
https://rebrand.ly/TT-on-TikTok
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Annie Certo works for Brightline (https://www.hellobrightline.com/) which helps kids, teens and their parents find coaching help where and when they need it.
Tim opens the pod talking about the confusing idea of parental love.
Annie shares how her Dad supported her as she continued to excel as a soccer star as well as how her father got help to break generational wounds and patterns.
Annie shares her perspective on daughters getting help when the Dad is or isn’t engaged or a part of the process.
We end the pod talking about how we can support our kids when talking about the school shootings or anything around those tragic events.
Buy tickets to my One Person Play, The Father Daughter Dance, coming to Chicago:
https://athenaeumcenter.org/events/2023/the-father-daughter-dance/
Also find me on tiktok to view some of my short videos on raising our daughters:
https://rebrand.ly/TT-on-TikTok
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Tim opens up the pod commenting on bridging beliefs about our younger generation and how we as Dads can empower them.
James Causey, editorial writer, columnist & blogger for the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel joins the pod to talk about his wonderful daughter Taylor. He tells a incredible story about how his Mom and Dad met.
He touches on how his upbringing informed him as a parent of his daughter. He tells a very funny story about the value of money.
He also shares his touching thoughts on the incredible Daddy Daughter Dance in Milwaukee’s explosive growth and how his daughter has aged out (the max age is 17) from his wonderful column below.
https://rebrand.ly/Daddy-Daughter-Dance-column
Connect with Tim:
TikTok: @timtaylor113
Instagram: @izontheprize
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thetimtaylor6
Tim begins the pod by commenting on the downside of the pressuring idea of self love as a limiting pre condition to love others.
Grayson Kaufman joins the pod. Grayson is a hilarious, intuitive, bright person with a HUGE vision for what life could be in the future for their (Grayson’s preferred pronoun) future.
Grayson shared about their experience of transitioning, without surgery to this point. They share about their approach when someone doesn’t address them properly.
They took my breath away when they mentioned how it’s actually dangerous at times to do that.
Grayson is really special on the pod doing her best to educated me. They aren’t the spokesperson for it in any way and they were a fabulous source of learning on the pod.
Even when I made a mistake they were considerate and rolled with it because I think they felt my authentic desire to improve fluency.
More than anything else Grayson wants people to see them for who they are not completely about what they are.
Check out my new Father Daughter Blog: https://ttblogs.typepad.com/the_father_daughter_dance/
Tim opens the pod commenting on his experience and beliefs about the magnificence of the younger generation of the US. He also touches on what we are asked of as parents to grow with that.
Doug Kafuman joins the pod to share about his kid Grayson (now 18). Grayson is a big dreaming, brilliant, honest person who is a delight to learn about. Grayson will join the pod in the ensuing episode.
Grayson is non-binary and recently changed their label to gender queer to be less specific. They (which is their preferred pronoun) has been a source of love and growth for Doug.
He shares about what and when he needed to open his world more and learn about Grayson. He talked about learning what they wanted and needed not only in language but in support as well.
It’s a fabulous part 1 of 2 podcasts about Grayson and Doug’s relationship.
Check out my new Father Daughter Blog: https://ttblogs.typepad.com/the_father_daughter_dance/
Tim opens up the pod commenting on his experience and perspective of raising his daughter in separate households.
Jaime Rodriguez, Jr. joins the pod to talk about his daughter Isolde (we use Gabby in the pod). We touch on his recent move to Los Angeles to care for his ailing mom. Gabby lives in the Bay Area and we talk about the challenges and commitment to that dynamic ensuring Gabby always knows she’s loved in action and words.
He also shared about how he listens to his daughter and the differences between he and his wife. And how he ensures Gabby feels and understands her agency and power in life.
Gabby also happens to be an awesome activity partner!
Check out my new Father Daughter Blog: https://ttblogs.typepad.com/the_father_daughter_dance/
Welcome back to The Father Daughter Dance! Starting this week, you'll hear brand new episodes from Tim and his guests.
Resources
Tim's Email: agapett@gmail.com
The New Father Daughter Blog: https://ttblogs.typepad.com/the_father_daughter_dance/
This week Tim gets the experience of being the interviewee as his best bud Chris Yeh interviews him about the play. This episode wraps up season 2!
Tim talks about what it means for him to feel loved as his play The Father Daughter Dance premiers Nov 11 & 12 in San Francisco.
The Father Daughter Dance Play Mini Pod #3
Tim is going to publish four mini pods about his upcoming play The Father Daughter Dance premiering in San Francisco on Nov 11 & 12.
The play is about raising his now 21-year-old daughter through the challenge of overcoming addiction, healing from childhood wounds and mental illness for him and in his family.
# 3 of 6: "I am passionate"
He finishes with a bit of humor which he will do for each installment this week.
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one-person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11 & 12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
The Father Daughter Dance Play Mini Pod #2
Tim is going to publish four mini pods about his upcoming play The Father Daughter Dance premiering in San Francisco on Nov 11 & 12.
The play is about raising his now 21-year-old daughter through the challenge of overcoming addiction, healing from childhood wounds and mental illness for him and in his family.
# 2 of 6: "I am creative"
He finishes with a bit of humor which he will do for each installment this week.
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one-person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11 & 12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
The Father Daughter Dance Play Mini Pod #1 Tim is going to publish four mini pods about his upcoming play The Father Daughter Dance premiering in San Francisco on Nov 11 & 12. The play is about raising his now 21-year-old daughter through the challenge of overcoming addiction, healing from childhood wounds and mental illness for him and in his family. #1 of 6: "I am enough"
Tim shares his story about how a lifelong challenge of the childhood wound of him believing "I am not enough" from his early years.
He then touches on the seemingly incongruent reality of having that wound and taking on such an ambitious creative project with his one-person play.
He finishes with a bit of humor which he will do for each installment this week. Please buy tickets to see Tim's one-person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11 & 12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim begins the podcast commenting on the unexpected value of watching relationship reality shows with his daughter.
Cagri Sarigoz joins the pod all the way from Turkey and shares how the country and the culture of Islam shows up in his life.
He shares about how his upbringing influenced how he raises his 5-year-old daughter Duru. We touch on how to balance ambition (yes, his soon to be 6-year-old is ambitious!) with wanting her to have a childhood.
He shares a fascinating analysis of how his approach and experience at work informs raising his daughter. He humorously includes how his daughter “represents” him in family discussions, you don’t want to miss that.
Finally, in the last 5 minutes of the pod he gives his perspective about what attention means for his daughters.
I’m sure you’ll love it!
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11&12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim opens up the podcast commenting on his mission in raising Zoe, showing her how not what to think.
Brian Anderson joins the pod to talk about his own experience raising his daughters Clare and Natalie and his desire to help all Dads with Daughters.
We talk about his new book just released called Fathering Together: Living a Connected Dad life available digitally for $0.99 on Kindles and ebooks https://amzn.to/3q7gbxT.
Brian touches on how he learned to be expressive with his love from his parents. He talks about how leading and religious Interfaith effort has helped him in being a Dad.
We talk about how he navigates the inevitable conflict between his two very different daughters. And he tells a deep and momentous moment where his young daughter became his teacher by speaking her truth.
You can find out more about Brian and his coaching for dads and an excellent overall resource at https://fatheringtogether.org/.
And interestingly he’s business partners with a season 1 guest Christopher Lewis who he started the largest Dads of Daughters Facebook on the site.
Here’s the pod with Christopher: https://rebrand.ly/Christopher-Lewis
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11&12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim opens the show by talking about what he’s learned from doing the podcast and what it’s meant to him personally beyond the show.
Tim then gives an audio performance of the first few beats of his upcoming play (Nov 11 & 12 in SF) entitled The Father Daughter Dance. The excerpts describe the very early years of his daughter and his emerging battle with addiction.
He then reflects a bit about what those early parts mean and how things are evolving.
You can buy tickets for the show here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim opens up the podcast commenting on how he approaches talking about careers and jobs with his daughter as she is in college.
Brian Clune, a fellow stand up comic, joins the podcast and talks about his two daughters Lauren and Catie who are in their 30’s. We touch on how he was brought up with both of his parents working in the 1950’s and what they taught him about career and life including his own fascinating career path.
We also discuss how different his daughters are and how he navigates those differences. He discusses his approach to conflict mediation which naturally occurs between sisters.
He also tells us about what he thinks his daughters value most about him and why he started stand up comedy in his late 60’s.
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11&12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim opens up the podcast commenting on being patient with our daughters when we know we’ve made mistakes in the past that may come back to be discussed in the future.
Danusia Malina-Derben joins the pod. Her latest book SPUNK: A Manifesto on Modernizing Fatherhood https://www.triumphpress.co/books/p/iaw6r26bkdx6qjjkz6vr9u0c6zryql and her podcasts School for Mothers and School for Fathers are leading edge guidance and research on the thoughts and feelings of being a parent.
She’s the mother of 10 at various ages and we discuss the path forward to take on the challenges of being the best Dad possible. She discusses how a reframing of the roles and responsibilities is something that’s widely desired by many men but only slowly to be enacted.
We discuss how women can help and even hurt the effort to get there.
We also touch on her relationship with her father and how it evolved particularly towards the end of his life.
School for Mothers: https://www.schoolformothers.com/podcast/
School for Fathers Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/school-for-fathers-podcast/id1484664927
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11&12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim opens up the podcast commenting on the challenge and reward of teaching his daughter Zoe about the difference between HOW we think and WHAT we think.
Angela Patton CEO of Girls for a Change (https://girlsforachange.org/) prepares Black girls for the world and the world for Black girls. She is married and the mom of a son and daughter.
She opens by discussing how she and her husband work together to raise their children and the original inspiration for her part of the organization. She touches on how her father helped shape her as a leader.
And on the pod she talks earnestly about her growth curve as a leader and poignant experiences where she woke up and REALLY listened to what was going on.
Finally, she talks about her organization’s Father Daughter Dance devoted to dads who are incarcerated and their daughters which was an idea hatched by the girls who were part of the group.
Here is Angela’s Ted Talk on the subject viewed one million times: https://www.ted.com/talks/angela_patton_a_father_daughter_dance_in_prison?language=en
Please buy tickets to see Tim's one-person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11&12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim opens up the podcast commenting on the challenge and reward of teaching his daughter Zoe about the difference between HOW we think and WHAT we think.
Jenee and Gene Arthur (fellow Kansas City Chiefs fans!) join the podcast to share with the listeners how they have worked on and believe in the power of bridging different perspectives in the interest of finding common ground. Jenee is a 50+ year old daughter to Gene who is a 70+ year old father.
In the pod, they tell the inspiring story of when Jenee came out as a lesbian to Gene who is a deeply religious man of faith who believes in God and Jesus. It’s a fascinating tale from each of their perspectives.
We also discuss the power of prayer and love in each of their lives.
Their podcast The Daughter Father Dance can be found here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/daughter-father-dance/id1585559539
Also, buy tickets to see Tim's one-person play The Father Daughter Dance in San Francisco on Nov 11&12 here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/the-father-daughter-dance-tickets-344442194877
Tim talks at the top of the podcast about making mistakes with his daughter Zoe. He talks about how that can be either nourish or stunt growth without the proper heart and mindset.
This week’s pod features 4 incredible Dads of Daughters: Justin Vandehey, Elad Cohen, Drew Kodleja, and Javier Giron. They are part of a group Tim has played basketball with over the last almost 10 years.
They each have a Daughter from age 2 months to 7.5 years. They share about the challenges they’ve encountered raising a Daughter and how it helps them grow.
We talk about what our perspectives are on what we’re willing to talk about with our Daughters and what might be more appropriate for their Daugthers’ moms (all 4 are married).
We discussed how family, cultural, and religious differences play a role in helping out our Daughters.
We even spend some time talking about what NBA player or basketball position best describes us as Dads of Daughters.
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Tim starts the podcast talking about the challenging feedback loop between Dads and Daughters as they work through difficult issues together. He touches on how the “learning partner” being his daughter makes it an even more challenging and crucial growth path.
Paul Brodhead then joins the podcast to talk about his daughter Savila. He shares about his harrowing life and death experience of an illness that he went through and the resulting challenges.
Paul also touches on how he recently secured 50/50 custody of his daughter after a long, difficult path. He increasingly is growing in how to love his daughter and himself.
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Aman Verjee is a father of two daughters, aged 11 & 8. Aman also leads a successful business life, as an early employee of PayPal working alongside Elon Musk and Peter Thiel. Listen in as Aman discusses how he has been able to attain a stellar track record of professional success whilst leading a successful & rewarding life as a parent.
Aman discusses how he navigates being separated from his daughter’s mother and how they share the parenting. From deciding rules together, to knowing which pivotal conversations each parent should have with each daughter. Make sure you stay tuned to the end of the episode to hear how he expresses love with his daughters and how being a parent has allowed him to become a better professional.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Aman in this episode:
- How he balances his successful professional life whilst being a father of two
- The joys of being present in parenting
- Allowing your children to have agency whilst still setting boundaries
- How his daughters have led him to become a better professional
- Learning how to have pivotal conversations with daughters
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – Who is Aman Verjee?
- 2:00 – Exploring how to be present in your parenting
- 5:20 – Welcoming Aman Verjee to the podcast
- 6:20 – Aman’s story: Children, Profession and Relationship
- 9:20 – What influences does Aman’s parenting take from his upbringing?
- 12:15 – Why Aman sought independence and how he found his profession
- 15:10 – Balancing being successful in business and parenting
- 18:55 – Setting rules and boundaries whilst giving freedom to children
- 24:00 – What were Aman’s fears in becoming a parent?
- 28:25 – Dealing with uncomfortable conversations with children
- 36:00 – How parenting styles differ per child and ensuring all children get the same amount of attention
- 39:30 – Opening the door to expressing how you truly feel and saying I Love You
- 44:50 – Aman’s approach to religion with his daughters
- 51:10 – How has being a parent changed Aman
- 55:15 – What does Aman believe his daughters appreciate about him most
- 57:45 – Knowing what your good at and bad at as a parent
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Mike Flood is the father of four daughters and three sons. Not only has he raised seven children, but he also grew up in a family of seven children. In this episode, you’ll hear how Mike has been able to learn from his childhood to ensure he connects on a deep level with all his children whilst allowing them the freedom to navigate life in the way they want.
Mike also discusses how his experiences in having difficult conversations with his patients in his medical profession has allowed him to talk with his children at a meaningful level. Tim and Mike also converse about how they use the power of music to expand their relationships with their children.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Mike in this episode:
- How to be resourceful and connected with multiple children
- Bringing a sense of ongoing certainty to how much you love your children
- The ability to believe in your child’s ability to navigate difficult parts of life
- How to navigate the challenges of tension between children
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – My one-person play in San Francisco
- 1:00 – Who is Mike Flood?
- 3:00 – How media plays a role in connecting with your children
- 8:30 – Welcoming Mike Flood to the podcast
- 9:30 – Mike’s Story: Childhood and children
- 12:30 – The lessons Mike learned from growing up with 6 siblings (including being a twin)
- 17:00 – The role faith plays in raising children
- 19:45 – Mike’s life in medicine & how working with patients influences his parenting
- 28:20 – How Mike’s parenting has evolved over his 7 children
- 31:10 – How to navigate the challenges of tension between children
- 37:30 – Sharing your pure emotions with your children
- 40:00 – Balancing giving freedom to children whilst protecting them
- 41:30 – Being embarrassed in front of your children and showing emotion
- 49:30 – Making connections with your children via music
- 55:00 – How communication is different between sons and daughters
- 57:20 – Letting your children see tough times & saying “I love you”
- 1:03:30 – Being better for your daughters
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Welcome back to The Father Daughter Dance! Starting next week, you'll hear brand new episodes from Tim and his guests.
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
It’s time to tie the knot on the first season of the Father Daughter Dance podcast, and who better to do that with than the undisputed three-time guest, Chris Yeh. Chris and Tim will reflect on the podcast so far and will explore the key lessons learned from the conversations with guests such as Zoe Taylor, Alexandra Stockwell and Christopher Lewis.
Tune in to hear Tim discuss how he jumped out of his comfort zone to start the podcast and how he has no regrets in doing so. You’ll hear the impact that the podcast has made so far on Tim, his guests and his audience, and how Tim expects the podcast to grow and mature in season 2.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll hear in this episode:
- Reflections on the podcast so far and the main lessons learned
- How the Father Daughter relationship can be a difficult subject matter
- Stepping out of your comfort zone and being nervous to do interviews
- Why most family stories are stories of redemption
- How the Father Daughter Dance will grow and ideas for the future
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 1:40 – Thanking those who helped start the podcast and kept it going
- 3:50 – Helping fathers connect with their daughters
- 5:40 – Plans for Season 2, Overcoming Awkwardness, Talking to Zoe
- 8:30 – Welcoming Chris Yeh back to the show
- 13:30 – The impact the Father Daughter Dance has had (unexpected results)
- 17:45 – The rewarding nature of the podcast
- 21:10 – Interlocutor: An interview vs a conversation
- 23:45 – Being nervous about interviewing Zoe (Tim’s daughter)
- 26:10 – Turning a conversation into a deep conversation
- 29:50 – Approaching difficult conversations, seeking guidance & being open
- 32:30 – Redemptive stories from the podcast
- 36:15 – “An improv background and a larger than normal knowledge base.”
- 37:40 – Episodes with fathers of transracial daughters
- 39:10 – “It’s not uncommon for families to attempt to mend relationships as time progresses.”
- 41:30 – Chris Yeh’s 23andMe results and Yo-Yo Ma
- 45:45 – Cherishing conversations from the podcast & the Viennese waltz
- 50:18 – Having no regrets from Season 1, plans for Season 2
- 56:55 – The potential of writing a book
- 1:00:12 – Wrapping up the season and Chris’s final thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Chris Yeh’s Website: https://chrisyeh.com/
- Chris Yeh’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrisyeh
- Chris Yeh’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisyeh/
- Chris Yeh’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HBSchris
- Listen to Chris’s first episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chris-yeh-balancing-connection-independence-teenage/id1556215258?i=1000512193997
- Listen to Chris’s guest appearance on the best father-daughter movies episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mt-rushmore-of-movie-dads-with-daughters-with-chris-yeh/id1556215258?i=1000525535131
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
It’s time for the episode that you’ve all been asking for. Today, Tim sits down with his own daughter Zoe, to discuss and share their Father-Daughter relationship. Zoe is 20 years old and currently attends the University of California, Davis. You’ll hear stories of how Zoe found out what interests her the most, what parts of life have been the most challenging, and an embarrassing story (or two) about her Dad, Tim.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll hear from Tim and Zoe in this episode:
- The good and bad memories from past Father-Daughter Dances
- How to find your way to what interests you the most
- The life transitions that were the most difficult
- Dealing with anxiety and why the actual event usually isn’t as bad
- The joy of connecting via humour and laughter
- Stories of finding a mutual love of tv shows, films and music
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – The future of the podcast
- 1:30 – Lessons from talking to Zoe
- 8:10 – Welcoming Zoe to the podcast
- 10:00 – Having an interest in teaching
- 11:20 – Remembering past Father-Daughter Dances
- 15:20 – Transitioning into high school
- 17:30 – Transitioning from high school to college
- 18:30 – Laughter in a relationship
- 24:00 – Being an embarrassed daughter
- 26:00 – Helpful lessons from Dad
- 27:20 – The lessons taken from playing team sports
- 34:10 – Connecting via watching films and shows together
- 40:00 – How music influences children
- 43:50 – Difficulties growing up in two households
- 44:45 – Lessons from spending time with Grandma
- 48:30 – What Zoe wishes Dads could do more
- 50:45 – Writing letters to each other
- 54:40 – Looking to the future vs the past
- 57:00 – The connection a Dad has with his daughter
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Chris Lewis joins us today to discuss his life as a father of two daughters, a 17 and a 13-year-old. Chris is the co-founder of Fathering Together, which runs the largest Facebook group for Dads and Daughters with nearly 130,000 members. As someone who has worked with thousands of Fathers, and has raised two daughters of his own, Chris has some invaluable lessons to share with us.
Tune in to hear Chris discuss how he grew Fathering Together, how he takes on the challenges of raising two daughters who are at different stages of their youth, the communication styles that work best with children and many more topics to help you get an upper hand on your parenting.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Chris in this episode:
- The challenges of raising two daughters who are at different stages in their youth
- The history of Fathering Together and how it grew to 130,000 members
- Creating a space for men to share feelings they typically wouldn’t discuss face to face
- Should parents communicate to children like they’re adults?
- Why you should teach children to advocate for themselves
- How your parenting style differs for introverted vs extroverted children
- Why you should plan for the future milestones of your children’s growth
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:25 – Who is Dr Christopher Lewis
- 1:25 – Pronouncing/spelling names correctly
- 5:20 – Encouraging daughters to ask for what they want
- 6:40 – Progress made from making The Father Daughter Dance
- 9:30 – Chris’s Background: Family, Podcast, Facebook Group
- 11:20 – The growth of Fathering Together
- 18:30 – Chris’s upbringing: Only child, parents’ careers, parenting style
- 21:45 – How children learn through multi-generational lessons
- 24:50 – Being there for your children
- 28:30 – Letting children advocate for themselves
- 34:20 – The differences in raising introverted vs extroverted children
- 42:00 – Knowing how to approach conversations
- 44:10 – Keeping a beginner’s mind
- 46:45 – Creating a safe space to be vulnerable
- 50:30 – Planning what to work on in your parenting
- 53:45 – What’s next for Chris?
- 58:50 – Dancing skills
- 1:01:30 – Where you can connect with Chris
Episode Resources:
- Fathering Together Website: https://www.fatheringtogether.org/
- Dads With Daughters Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/dadsdaughters/
- Dads With Daughters on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadwdaughter/
- Dads With Daughters Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/3xa38wUX1TmDJqTcRoZjG5
- Dad of Divas: http://www.dadofdivas.com/
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Dr Brian King is a father of a 4-year-old daughter, which he had at the age of 45. In this episode, you’ll hear how having a daughter later on in life makes an impact on how you treat yourself and how your perspective immediately changes on how you view life.
Brian and Tim met through their work in stand-up comedy, and to this day, Brian is still an active stand-up comedian, as well as an author of multiple books, including ‘The Laughing Cure’ and ‘The Art of Taking it Easy.’ Brian shares with us his stories of living on the road with his partner and daughter and how his life was suddenly uprooted by the pandemic.
Tune in to hear Brian talk us through how he has transformed his health after having his daughter, how he lived on the road and managed raising a daughter in changing environments, and also, Brian’s perspective on why today is the best moment in history to be the father of a daughter.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Dr Brian King in this episode:
- How to manage stress and show up fully in life
- Lessons learned from raising a 4-year-old daughter
- How to process emotions and guide daughters to do what they want
- What it looks like to raise a daughter at the age of 45
- How having a daughter made Brian healthier
- Living life on the road for speaking events and stand-up comedy
- How to raise a child without having a “home” to go to
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – Who is Dr Brian King?
- 2:05 – Guiding daughters along THEIR path
- 8:00 – Welcoming Dr Brian King to the podcast
- 10:00 – Brian’s story: Family, Comedy, Books
- 14:00 – Bringing a daughter into the world at 45
- 19:20 – Brian’s career as an author
- 22:15 – How to win ‘The Art of Taking it Easy’
- 23:10 – Life on the road and the impact of COVID-19
- 27:50 – How Brian’s daughter reacted to living on the road
- 30:40 – How the pandemic impacted Brian’s point of view
- 34:40 – Having “what it takes” to raise a child
- 36:15 – Dealing with health issues
- 42:00 – Your daughters happiness means everything
- 45:10 – Creating an environment to allow your child to pick their direction
- 51:00 – How to deal with children’s disappointment
- 54:00 – How to process emotions
- 59:00 – Showing your children what you do
- 1:06:45 – The unique feelings of raising a daughter
- 1:08:45 – Why it’s NOW the best time to raise a daughter
Episode Resources:
- Dr Brian King’s YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/drbrianking
- Dr Brian King’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drbrianking/
- Dr Brian King’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/drbrianking
- On the Road with Dr Brian King: https://anchor.fm/drbrianking
- Get Dr Brian King’s books here: https://www.amazon.com/shop/drbrianking
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Kiera Gray gives us an insight into what is going on inside the mind of a teenager on today’s episode of the Father Daughter Dance. Kiera is a 16-year-old woman who is home-schooled in the state of California, she has spent the last four years studying the psychology behind positive reinforcement and non-verbal communication. Kiera’s studies have helped her gain a perspective on the relationship between children and their parents. Her knowledge has allowed her to create a course to help parents get Inside the Teen Mind.
Tune in to hear Kiera discuss how parents can gain a new perspective on their children by asking the right questions, discovering their love languages and how social media has a massive impact on children maturing today.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Kiera in this episode:
- How parents can learn what is going on inside their children’s minds
- The ways you can curate well phrased questions and the power behind questions
- How a father-daughter relationship can be improved by knowing love languages
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The conversations that daughters want to have with their fathers
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How teenagers view the role of social media in their lives
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The psychology behind positive reinforcement and non-verbal communication
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:35 – Who is Kiera Gray?
- 1:10 – The power of a well phrased question
- 7:40 – Introducing Kiera to the podcast
- 9:40 – The ‘Inside the Teen Mind’ course
- 12:00 – Relationship between Kiera and her Dad
- 16:20 – Love Languages
- 19:40 – How fathers should refer to their daughters friends
- 20:50 – The conversations daughters have with their fathers (or want to)
- 22:30 – Dealing with Instagram
- 25:00 – Talking to parents about social media
- 27:25 – What questions do teenagers want from their parents?
- 32:45 – How do teenagers feel about their parents attempts at conversation?
- 35:40 – Should parents join their children on social media?
- 37:30 – Putting in the effort to improve parent-children relationships
- 38:30 – Discussing academics vs feelings & thoughts
- 40:35 – Feeling seen and heard
- 44:30 – Where you can find Kiera’s course
- 45:20 – How our young women discussing dating
- 47:50 – Where are teenagers finding aspirational relationships
- 50:30 – What change would daughters like to make to their Dads?
- 54:50 – The reptile vs ape brain
Episode Resources:
- Inside the Teen Mind Course: http://www.insidetheteenmind.com/
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Jim Eschweiler joins the podcast today to reflect on his years of being a parent to a daughter who is now transitioning into adulthood. Jim has had a successful professional career which has led to him becoming an accomplished CEO, he shares how the lessons he learned in the workspace have transitioned to his parenting.
Listen in to hear how Jim has learned to engage with his children during difficult times, how his parenting has been influenced by the women he works with and how patient listening can lead to a successful relationship with your daughter.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Jim in this episode:
- How to engage with your children during difficult professional times
- The cellular level of love that fathers feel for their daughters
- How the conversations you have with your daughter progress over time
- The transition from your children thinking your superhuman to realising your just a normal person
- How working with women in high level professional positions influenced Jim’s relationship with his daughter
- The lessons learned in the workplace that can be used as a father
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:20 – Who is Jim Eschweiler?
- 2:00 – The love fathers feel for their daughters
- 7:45 – Welcoming Jim to the show
- 9:45 – Jim’s background
- 12:00 – Learning communication in a Midwest family
- 13:52 – Siblings, parents and stepparents
- 15:00 – How Jim’s parents dealt with divorce
- 20:40 – Growing up with a strong female influence
- 22:25 – Progression of raising a daughter
- 32:00 – How working with women influences your family relationships
- 37:00 – Learning to listen
- 40:25 – Balancing difficult professional times with fatherhood
- 51:00 – Planning how to discuss difficult topics
- 52:45 – Off limits topics & generational changes
- 58:00 – When fights happen with your children
- 59:40 – Developing rituals
- 1:04:15 – Daughters Graduation
- 1:06:00 – Lessons on raising daughters and time flying
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Christian Dashiell joins today to discuss his life of being a father of two adopted and two biological children. Christian and his wife adopted two daughters from Vietnam and Ethiopia. In this episode, Christian will share the process of adoption, how his parenting differs between his adopted and biological children and how racism impacts his family and his teachings.
Christian is an editorial fellow at Fatherly, which is devoted to empowering men to raise great kids and to lead fulfilling adult lives.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Christian in this episode:
- The joys and challenges raising two adopted daughters from Vietnam and Ethiopia
- How men can be empowered to raise great kids and lead fulfilling adult lives
- Why Christian and his wife decided to adopt and the process it involved
- How you can embrace your adopted child’s original culture whilst making them feel safe within the USA
- The impact that racism has on Christian and his two adopted daughters
- The differences between raising biological children to adopted children
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:25 – Who is Christian Dashiell?
- 2:30 – Musical influences on your father-daughter relationship
- 9:30 – Welcoming Christian to the podcast
- 11:05 – Christian’s upbringing, family & career
- 14:45 – Lessons from childhood
- 20:40 – Making the decision to adopt
- 24:00 – Christian’s wife and her upbringing
- 25:20 – Adopting daughters instead of sons
- 27:45 – Deciding to adopt for a second time
- 30:10 – Respecting original cultures and embracing US culture
- 32:10 – Dealing with diversity, racism and sexism
- 39:20 – How Christian discusses issues with his children
- 41:30 – The differences in how Christian’s daughters express themselves
- 44:30 - The differences between raising biological children to adopted children
- 49:50 – How music & entertainment influences Christian’s family
- 55:20 – The biggest challenges facing Christian as a father
- 1:00:00 – Lessons from the last 18 months
Episode Resources:
- Christian’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dashthesmoker/
- Christian’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Ch.Dar.Das
- Fatherly: https://www.fatherly.com/
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Dennis Holahan joins the podcast today to discuss how he views his parenting and relationship with his children at the age of 78. Dennis has seen it all, from serving in the Vietnam war to starring in the film Scarface, he’s able to share how his life has impacted the lives of his children and grandchildren.
Tune in to hear how Dennis balanced his law and Hollywood careers with the reality of being divorced and being separated from his children. You’ll hear how he managed to work on himself to get out of the dark place of alcoholism and the regret he has from missing a portion of his children’s life. This episode dives into dealing with regret, the balance between protecting, whilst preparing your children and how you should treat your children during a divorce.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll hear from Dennis in this episode:
- The key takeaways from raising a now 51-year-old daughter
- Why we make promises and how to keep those promises with our daughters
- Having children during the Vietnam war and being separated from them after divorce
- The lessons that parents pass on about divorce and how children interact with those lessons
- The impact that being a recognisable actor has on children
- How to work on yourself to get out of a dark place
- The balance between protection and preparation
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – Who is Dennis Holahan?
- 2:15 – The promises we make to our daughters
- 9:30 – Welcoming Dennis to the show
- 10:30 – Dennis’ background
- 14:30 – The lessons parents and children learn from divorce
- 21:00 – The impact of being an actor and a lawyer
- 24:00 – Starring in Scarface
- 26:40 – How the limelight impacted Dennis’ children
- 28:40 – The aftermath after drinking and using drugs
- 31:45 – The balance between protection and preparation
- 34:20 – Discussing taboo topics
- 36:20 – Feeling and dealing with regret
- 38:30 – How children discuss their feelings
- 41:10 – Seeking therapy and working on yourself
- 46:00 – The conversations Dennis wants with his children
- 50:20 – The definition of a lucky man
- 52:26 – Grandkids watching Scarface
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Roll out the red carpet! The best father and daughter relationship films are being decided on this podcast! Chris Yeh is joining us again, but this time, it’s to create the Mount Rushmore of father & daughter films. Tune in to get a list of the best films you can watch to see how Hollywood portrays the relationships that we have with our daughters, and how Tim and Chris’s film choices are radically different in genre, but still share the same message.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll hear from Tim and Chris in this episode:
- The Mount Rushmore of father & daughter relationship films
- Can films present a realistic father & daughter relationship?
- Why aren’t fathers and daughters given a lot of attention in Hollywood?
- How films bury hidden messages and how to break down the meaning behind a story
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – The Father/Daughter relationship in movies
- 4:00 – The impact you have when raising your daughter
- 7:50 – Welcoming Chris back to the podcast
- 10:20 – How Hollywood portrays father/daughter relationships
- 16:54 – Fathers expressing emotions
- 18:20 – Setting the ground rules
- 24:58 – Chris’s Fourth Placed Film: Monsters Inc.
- 30:30 – Tim’s Fourth Placed Film: On Golden Pond
- 36:26 – Chris’s Third Placed Film: Hotel Transylvania
- 41:40 – Tim’s Third Placed Film: The Descendants
- 45:00 – Chris Yeh being a mental samurai
- 48:00 – Chris’s Second Placed Film: Taken
- 56:20 – Tim’s Second Placed Film: Father of the Bride
- 1:01:05 – Films hard to leave off
- 1:04:00 – Chris’s First Place: Mulan
- 1:10:00 – Tim’s First Place: I Am Sam
- 1:13:00 – Comparing Mount Rushmore’s
- 1:14:08 – Final Thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Chris Yeh’s Website: https://chrisyeh.com/
- Chris Yeh’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/chrisyeh
- Chris Yeh’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/chrisyeh/
- Chris Yeh’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/HBSchris
- Listen to Chris’s first episode: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/chris-yeh-balancing-connection-independence-teenage/id1556215258?i=1000512193997
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Ben Peavy joins us to discuss how his upbringing in a mixed-race military family has influenced his parenting and professional career. Ben has seen success in his professional career, and he discusses how his lessons in leadership have influenced his parenting, and vice versa.
Having two sons and two daughters, born in that order, Ben has been able to iterate on his parenting styles. Listen in as Ben discusses how his parenting has changed throughout each child, especially the differences between raising sons and daughters. Stay tuned to hear Ben’s work on ‘Living in My Skin’ and how he sees racism affecting his children.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Ben in this episode:
- Growing up with mixed-race parents and dealing with their divorce
- How parents can respect their children whilst going through a divorce
- The iterative lessons from having multiple children
- How to set expectations with your children
- Achieving the perfect balance of discipline and affection
- How having children improves your business leadership
- What is ‘Living in My Skin?’: Living as a black man in San Antonio, Texas
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:52 – Who is Ben Peavy?
- 3:20 – The use of pronouns
- 9:05 – Welcoming Ben to the show
- 10:50 – Ben’s Family
- 13:05 – Growing Up: Siblings, Military Family, Parents Divorcing
- 21:45 – Having daughters five years apart
- 23:30 – How expectations differ between children
- 28:00 – Improving listening skills
- 30:20 – How children handle pressure and expectations
- 37:30 – How children cope with physical differences
- 39:20 – Saying “I Love You’
- 43:00 – Learning how to discipline correctly
- 45:50 – Having sons first to “protect your daughters”
- 51:00 – Dealing with social issues
- 53:20 – Has having daughters improved your business leadership?
- 56:20 – Living in My Skin
- 1:01:40 – Discussing racism
- 1:06:30 – Closing thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Ben Peavy’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ben-peavy-86074b1/
- Living in My Skin: https://livinginmyskinsa.com/
- Mindset: The New Psychology of Success: https://www.amazon.com/Mindset-Psychology-Success-Carol-Dweck/dp/B0013MWVYC
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Julie Metzger joins us today to discuss how to create a family environment that thrives on open communication and why you shouldn’t hide difficult conversations in the dark. Julie is the co-founder of Great Conversations, a company that focusses on delivering classes and presentations (both in-person and virtual) on topics such as puberty, sexuality, parenting and adolescence.
Tune in to hear Julie discuss why you need to work on your own problems before helping others, because “there’s no chance to heal a relationship with a child, until the parent has worked on their own stuff.” You’ll hear how open conversations with her parents influenced her teachings, and why we shouldn’t be scared about having difficult conversations around the dinner table, even those that address the below the belt body parts.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Julie in this episode:
- Why certain topics, such as sex, are put in the dark whilst being the most important topics to discuss with your children.
- How Julie is helping families to communicate with each other on challenging things
- Discussing reproductive organs over dinner: The influence that Julie’s parents had on her profession today, her Dad being a urologist and her Mum being a nurse.
- What mathematically makes a great marriage and why children just want to be heard and seen.
- Why there’s no chance to heal a relationship with a child until the dad has worked on his own stuff.
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – Who is Julie?
- 1:45 – Discussing sex with children
- 10:30 – Welcoming Julie to the podcast
- 12:20 – Julie’s background and what Great Conversations is
- 15:40 – How Julies relationship with her parents influenced her work
- 18:40 – How Julie’s dad saw growth in his life
- 21:40 – Pre-Talk Rituals: Delivering what the audience needs
- 25:35 – Approaching difficult conversations as a performance
- 27:00 – What makes a great marriage and being heard and seen
- 34:20 – Requiring people to pay attention to their own lives
- 36:12 – How to learn emotions
- 37:30 – Our job is to be the best person that we can be
- 40:52 – “The secret to a great marriage is these 5 things”
- 43:08 – Why you should say “Tell me more”
- 47:05 – Managing your internal protector
- 54:00 – Great Conversations: Changing the mentality of dads at scale
- 58:20 – Final thoughts: “I’ve been here before, let me call my dad.”
Episode Resources:
- Great Conversations Website: https://www.greatconversations.com/
- Julie Metzger’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/julie-metzger-545b897/
- The Gottman Institute: https://www.gottman.com/
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
In the first episode with Tom Sexton, he realised that he needed to have difficult conversations with his daughters to make sure they knew what he was feeling, and for him to hear what they needed to say. In this second episode, Tom discusses how those conversations with his daughters went and how his entire family reacted to the initial podcast.
Tom shares how he hopes to improve his speaking and listening skills and why it’s so important to put meaning behind the words he says, and if the meaning doesn’t come across, making sure it comes across by having deeper conversations.
You’ll hear how you can grow and recover from major arguments and why you need to be in a constant growth mindset, no matter how old you are or how far into a relationship you are. You’ll also hear why the sprinkler IS a dance move and how Tom HAS perfected it.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Tom in this episode:
- The response and conversations that Tom had with his family after listening to the first episode
- How to improve your speaking and listening skills when communicating with your children
- Why children may feel like they’ve been “replaced” when you re-marry
- How to recover from major arguments and making peace with your past
- Why you need to have a growth mindset, no matter how old you are or how far into a relationship you are
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – Why Tom is joining us again
- 2:10 – Recognizing what you need to learn
- 8:00 – Welcoming Tom back to the podcast: Dancing and fishing stories
- 11:52 – Difficult Conversations: Admitting feelings of failure
- 17:30 – Communicating feelings, affection and that you are proud
- 24:00 – Conversations with Chelsea: Feelings of being replaced
- 27:00 – When your feelings aren’t reciprocated with your children
- 30:55 – Tom’s family’s response to the first episode
- 33:30 – Always being in a growth mindset
- 36:00 – Speaking vs. Listening
- 39:10 – The differences between opening up to daughters and son’s
- 42:00 – Hot dogs, baked beans and bacon
- 45:20 – Podcast plans and closing thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Father Daughter Dance, Ep 8 - Tom Sexton: Making Memories Now, Forever Doesn’t Exist: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/tom-sexton-making-memories-now-forever-doesnt-exist/id1556215258?i=1000516898446
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Arzo Yusuf is here to discuss how children are impacted by the foster system in the USA and how it often leads to sex trafficking. Arzo grew up in a family that struggled with alcoholism, mental health and infidelity, even having to join her father on the dates he went on with his girlfriends. Arzo took the negative experiences of her childhood and formed Sexy Boss Babe, which aims to raise money and help charities that work with foster youth and sex trafficking survivors.
Listen in as Arzo and Tim discuss the crisis of the US childhood foster system and why their needs to be change to stop children going into a life of sex trafficking. You’ll hear how you can help Arzo on her road to reducing sex trafficking and also how you can make positive decisions within your own family to have a greater effect on the wider community.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Arzo in this episode:
- How Arzo and charities are working to foster youth and sex trafficking survivors
- The influence that a father’s infidelity and mental health have on growing children
- The state of the foster children and sex trafficking issues in the USA
- Why difficult conversations are necessary to heal relationships
- How Arzo was able to forgive her father and involve him in her life
- What you can do to improve the foster children system and reduce sex trafficking
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 1:05 – Who is Arzo Yusuf?
- 2:45 – How traumatic experiences become motivation
- 10:18 – Welcoming Arzo to the show
- 11:10 – How Sexy Boss Babe helps sex trafficking survivors
- 12:45 – Arzo’s upbringing: Alcoholism and infidelity
- 16:00 – Experiencing infidelity firsthand
- 17:40 – Healing the relationship with Arzo’s father
- 19:40 – Working alone in a video rental store as a child
- 23:40 – How Arzo’s father is involved in her life today
- 26:45 – The foster children and sex trafficking situation in the USA
- 30:25 – What has the biggest effect on the growing foster child crisis and why it leads to sex trafficking
- 36:35 – The most challenged group of people in the USA
- 37:50 – The difference between an adopted child and a foster child
- 39:15 – The demographics and statistics of foster children
- 42:25 – Why you should have optimism around the foster children situation
- 45:00 – The business of sex trafficking
- 48:05 – Real world stories of preparing children to avoid sex trafficking
- 57:40 – The father daughter relationship
- 1:00:00 – Closing thoughts and how to connect with Arzo
Episode Resources:
- Arzo’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/arzo-yusuf-49454054/
- Arzo’s Website: https://arzoyusuf.com/
- Arzo’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thearzoyusuf/?hl=en
- Sexy Boss Babe Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-boss-babe/id1363101836
- Sexy Boss Babe Website: https://sexybossbabe.com/
- The Body Keeps the Score: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18693771-the-body-keeps-the-score
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Marc Joubert joins us to discuss how he has managed to curate a positive upbringing for his daughters after losing his first daughter due to malpractice at the age of one month.
Marc shares the story of how he and his wife struggled with the loss of their infant daughter and their multiple miscarriages, to raising two daughters of different races. You’ll hear how the hardest parts of life can elevate the best parts and the life lessons that can be implemented in raising your children when you only have a month to spend with them.
Listen in to hear how Marc approaches raising daughters of different races and the trials and tribulations that brings with it. You’ll learn how the opportunity to adopt a black daughter came about and why their traumatic experiences were vital in being able to bring their new daughter into their family. This conversation is a great example of why it’s so important to talk to each other in difficult times, as it allows us to process all of our emotions.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Marc in this episode:
- How to process and talk to each other in difficult times
- Marc’s loss of his one-month-old daughter
- The life lessons from spending only one month with your child
- Why the hardest parts of life can elevate the best parts
- The lifestyle of raising a black and a white daughter
- Living through multiple miscarriages and adopting a daughter
- The balance between protecting and preparing your children
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 1:10 – Who is Marc Joubert?
- 3:25 – How to process and talk to each other in difficult times
- 11:40 – Welcoming Marc to the show
- 13:40 – Why it’s important for fathers to discuss their daughters
- 15:00 – Marc’s background and family
- 16:45 – Losing a daughter
- 24:00 – The month in the hospital
- 28:00 – Processing loss
- 32:15 – Attempting to return to normality and wanting children
- 34:50 – Regaining health and trying for a child
- 36:20 – Welcoming a new daughter to the world
- 41:20 – The relief of a newborn and the excitement of raising a child
- 43:30 – Father Daughter Dances
- 46:00 – Adopting a black daughter
- 51:20 – Stitches and sh*tting your pants
- 55:00 – Meeting the mother of your potential adopted daughter
- 58:00 – Addressing Olivia’s death with Marc’s daughters
- 58:45 – Raising a daughter of a different race
- 1:02:00 – The balance between protecting and preparing
- 1:06:00 – Anxiety in children
- 1:08:20 – Loving an adopted child as much as your biological child
- 1:11:00 – Being emotional (in a positive way)
- 1:14:40 – Why opening up to friends is a method of therapy
- 1:21:20 – Closing thoughts
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Amanda Crisci is here to discuss how dads should open up and communicate with their daughters, especially when it comes to tough subjects such as dating and divorce. Amanda is Tim’s Goddaughter and is currently studying to become a teacher at the University of Michigan.
Listen in as Amanda and Tim discuss how her upbringing in an affluent high school in Palo Alto compares to life as an underprivileged child when it comes to the effects of social media and the culture it creates.
You’ll learn how today’s youth is using social media and what impacts it’s having on their life and mental health, along with how it’s transformed the conversation and stigma surrounding “getting help.” The majority of the conversation revolves around how Dads can communicate with their daughters; listen in to hear how daughters can encourage their Dads to open up and why social media plays a huge role in the father-daughter relationship.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll hear from Tim and Amanda in this episode:
- The path to becoming a teacher and teaching underprivileged children.
- The social media relationship between a child and their parent.
- How affluent schools and social media creates negative cultures.
- What the modern conversation and stigma is surrounding “getting help.”
- The ability (or inability) to transform yourself in different environments.
- How to explore dating and relationships and discussing it with parents.
- Advice on how Dad’s should communicate with their daughters.
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:30 – Who is Amanda Crisci?
- 2:15 – Social Media: A measure of emotional health
- 10:00 – The Godfather: Welcoming Amanda to the show
- 11:30 – University Life and becoming a teacher
- 12:50 – How Tim and Amanda are related
- 13:40 – Navigating a father-daughter relationship in modern times
- 16:30 – Parents and children sharing social media platforms
- 20:40 – The pressures of affluent schools
- 24:00 – Being judged on social media
- 26:05 – The stigma of “getting help”
- 28:40 – How social media and COVID-19 is impacting youth
- 30:00 – College, Confidence and Dating
- 32:00 – Discussing dating & relationships with parents and children
- 39:00 – Exploring openness and dealing with breakups
- 43:00 – How Dads should communicate to daughters during breakups
- 46:50 – Tim and Amanda’s family relationship
- 50:20 – Teaching underprivileged children
- 55:35 – Why we should invite children to open up their emotions
- 1:00:05 – Using “I” language
- 1:01:25 – Closing thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Amanda’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/amanda.crisci.5
- Amanda’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/amandacrisci/
- The Social Dilemma: https://www.netflix.com/title/81254224
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Alexandra Stockwell is on a mission to transform stagnating relationships into passion and excitement. The lessons Alexandra learned from dealing with her parents’ divorce and a childhood of closed communication has shown her how couples and parents need to interact to live a life of nourishment.
You’ll learn the keys to open up communication with your partner and your children; as well as how to open yourself up to love. Alexandra shares the biggest gift that you can give to your children, and it starts with the relationship with your spouse.
Alexandra’s coaching has allowed families to create environments of love and passion. You can learn more about how Alexandra can help you and your family at alexandrastockwell.com where you’ll find more about her book ‘Uncompromising Intimacy’ and her coaching.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Alexandra in this episode:
- How the relationships with our parents shapes our own parenting
- Intimacy, communication, purpose and authenticity advice
- How the father-daughter relationship changes after divorce
- Why communication needs to be key in father-daughter relationships
- How to open yourself up to receive love
- The key to communication and transparency with your children
- How to create an environment of open conversation
- The biggest gift you can give to your children: great relationships
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:54 – Who is Alexandra Stockwell?
- 2:20 – How Tim’s parents influenced his parenting
- 9:10 – Welcoming Alexandra to the show
- 11:20 – Family life and couples coaching
- 14:10 – Alexandra’s parents
- 17:00 – Early childhood
- 21:00 – Dealing with divorce
- 24:00 – Coping mechanisms
- 28:30 – Social sensitivity training
- 30:45 – Creating a relationship with divorced parents
- 32:10 – Father-Daughter relationships after divorce
- 37:10 – Keeping up communication during tough times
- 40:26 – Seeking external help
- 42:30 – How to open yourself up to receive love
- 46:00 – Navigating pain and healing
- 49:30 – How childhood impacts Alexandra’s coaching
- 50:50 – Creating an environment of open conversation
- 55:45 – Dealing with resentment
- 57:15 – How to have great relationships and defining love
- 59:55 – Closing thoughts and how to connect with Alexandra
Episode Resources:
- Alexandra’s Website: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/
- Alexandra’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/
- Alexandra’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7
- Uncompromising Intimacy by Alexandra Stockwell: https://www.amazon.com/Uncompromising-Intimacy-Unfulfilling-Satisfying-Partnership/dp/B087MY7BNS/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=uncompromising+intimacy&qid=1618091527&sr=8-1
- The Marriage Podcast: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/podcast
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Carl Alleyne aims to emotionally bond with his kids without ruining the relationship with them, listen in to hear how you can open the door to your emotions and engage with your children on a higher level.
You’ll learn how to fully express your emotions with your children, whilst allowing them the opportunity to share their own emotions. You’ll also hear how Carl has developed a household environment that encourages his daughter to ask him how “he feels.”
Carl has taken the lessons he’s learned from raising his children and has implemented them into Dads Parenting Boldly, a podcast and tool to learn dynamic parenting and to level up in “Dad Parenting.”
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Carl in this episode:
- How to set rules whilst giving freedom to your children
- Why you should say “I love you.”
- How to manage travel whilst raising a family
- Why you should showcase your hard work to your children
- How to fully express your emotions to your children
- The recipe to not getting burnt out: Having fun
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:52 – Who is Carl Alleyne?
- 2:22 – Dancing
- 6:40 – Choreography
- 8:00 – Carl’s Story: Performing Artist, Touring, Marriage
- 11:15 – Raising five children
- 12:20 – Carl’s siblings and upbringing
- 14:00 – Expressing love and gratitude
- 16:30 – Having to travel for work with young children
- 22:00 – Working with Ministry’s
- 24:30 – How choreography impacts Carl’s parenting
- 28:00 – Children checking in on their parents
- 31:50 – Passing down traits and being alone
- 35:30 – Overanalysing situations
- 38:24 – Encouragement & being an introvert
- 42:45 – Showing children that they’re loved
- 47:30 – Protecting your children
- 50:00 – Learning parenting from your upbringing
- 52:30 – Where you can find Carl
- 53:00 – Final thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Dads Parenting Boldly Website: https://dadsparentingboldly.com/
- Carl’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carlalleynelive/
- Carl’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/CarlAlleyneLive
- Dads Parenting Boldly Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dads-parenting-boldly-podcast/id1548610535
- Dads Parenting Boldly FB Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/805571176899556/
- The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman: https://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-that-Lasts/dp/080241270X
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Tom Sexton shares how to make memories with your children now, because forever doesn’t exist. Listen in as Tom discusses how he has navigated life, from children, to divorce and now to grandchildren. Through this navigation, Tom has learned a lesson or two on how to show and communicate affection with his loved ones.
In this episode, Tom and Tim will show you how to deal with unhealed wounds and why there is no such thing as “too late” when addressing past issues. You’ll learn how to make the most of your time and how you can overcome failure as a parent.
Tom has learned to enjoy the little things, even the ones that involve watching Barbie movies. Tune in to hear how you can make memories that last.
“Just love her. Love her as much as you can and show her how much you love her. This will pass.”
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Tom in this episode:
- Living life with an illness and making the most of the time you have
- How to have difficult conversations with your daughters
- The process of transitioning from Father to Grandfather
- How to show and communicate affection
- Why and how you should deal with unhealed wounds
- The process of overcoming failure as a parent
- Not being the most important man in your daughter’s life anymore
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:50 – Who is Tom Sexton?
- 2:20 – Watching TV with your daughter
- 8:10 – Welcoming Tom: Family, Brothers and Basketball
- 10:10 – Tom’s Family
- 12:20 – Showing affection
- 15:40 – Divorce: How it impacts children
- 17:35 – The impacts of marrying too early
- 19:30 – Maturing conversations and not holding grudges
- 23:20 – Dealing with unhealed wounds
- 25:45 – Making the most whilst dealing with illness
- 28:35 – Don’t leave things unaddressed
- 32:10 – Listening vs. Expressing
- 34:00 – Dealing with failure
- 38:30 – Approaching difficult conversations about the past
- 41:45 – Protecting vs. overprotecting children
- 46:00 – The Barbie Movie
- 49:00 – Gratitude and Lessons Learned
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Lori Jean Glass shares how to become a #HealthyAdult from the lessons she has learned from tragically losing her father and growing up without a father figure. Listen in as Lori discusses how she explored her family history to help deal with her grief and how you can learn to attach in a healthy way.
You’ll learn how to heal and tackle the challenges that present themselves when a loss occurs and how fighting the darkness is always an option. You’ll also hear how you must take every opportunity whilst you can, because, in the face of loss, you don’t get do-overs.
Lori took her life lessons and created PIVOT, which helps people think better, feel better, and live better. Tune in to hear how you can be, feel and live better.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Lori in this episode:
- How to heal and tackle the challenges from the early loss of a father
- Fighting the darkness is always an option. It’s never too late.
- Being a #HealthyAdult and what PIVOT is
- How to explore the history of your family to deal with grief
- You don’t get do-overs, so don’t give up whilst you have opportunity
- How you can attach in a healthy way
- Being at peace with loss, it’s not always about being “healed”
- Processing the emotional loss of an absent father
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:46 – Who is Lori Jean Glass?
- 2:22 – Fighting the darkness and knowing it’s never too late
- 7:06 – Welcoming Lori onto the show
- 9:44 – West Virginia and founding PIVOT
- 10:45 – Growing up without a father
- 13:20 – The moment Lori lost her father
- 18:00 – Connecting to family via stories rather than experience
- 19:50 – Dealing with the loss of Lori’s mother
- 20:20 – Exploring Lori’s Fathers Life and the healing process
- 22:54 – Never giving up. You don’t get do-overs.
- 25:35 – The emotions of reflection
- 28:30 – Attaching in a healthy way
- 34:24 – Work on your sh*t. Be part of the solution.
- 35:40 – Define “Healed”
- 37:13 – Processing the emotional loss of an absent father
- 39:25 – Seeing your father in other people
- 41:15 – Lori and Tim’s friendship & Tim’s Father-Daughter relationship
- 44:20 – Dealing with triggered emotions
- 47:10 – Lori’s wish: Recognising deep wounds early
- 51:12 – The highest level of consciousness has the biggest responsibility
- 53:30 – Is there hope in the current state of father-daughter relationships?
- 55:00 – Where to find Lori and PIVOT
Episode Resources:
- Lori Jean Glass Website: https://lorijean.com/
- PIVOT Website: https://www.lovetopivot.com/
-
HealthyAdult Book: https://www.amazon.com/HealthyAdult-Fantasy-Confusion-Isolation-Connection/dp/1544503547/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=
- West by West: My Charmed, Tormented Life: https://www.amazon.com/West-My-Charmed-Tormented-Life/dp/0316053503
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Tony D’Amico, a white man who grew up in America’s Midwest, shares his experience of adopting his daughter from Ethiopia and living as an interracial family. Listen in as Tony discusses how his childhood of constant moving impacted how he approaches parenting.
You’ll learn how Tony uses daily tasks to create special moments with his daughter, how he embraces his own fears whilst letting his daughter make her own decisions, as well as how he has dealt with the outside world when nurturing his interracial family.
Tony took his life experiences, both positive and negative, and created a method of interacting with, nurturing and loving his daughter. Tune in to hear how you can do the same.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Tony in this episode:
- Raising a black daughter as a white man
- Celebrating and nurturing the creative side of children
- Dealing with growing up in various towns & cities
- Improving upon how your parents raised you
- Acting as a team to raise a daughter in a competitive work environment
- The art of combing your daughter’s hair
- Embracing your fears and letting your daughter make her own decisions
- Allowing your daughter to have difficult experiences
- Dealing with social media and setting expectations
Timestamps:
- 0:00 – Introduction
- 0:36 – Who is Tony D’Amico?
- 2:12 – Hair Combing & Ponytails: Using everyday tasks to connect with your daughter
- 8:20 – Starting the Conversation with Tony
- 9:35 – Tony’s Background: The Midwest, the 80’s & constantly moving
- 14:20 – How Tony’s parents showed affection
- 17:30 – The experience of adopting his daughter from Ethiopia
- 19:15 – Choosing to adopt a girl
- 21:10 – What Tony has learned from raising a daughter
- 23:50 – Slowing it down and enjoying the hard parts
- 24:40 – The art of combing your daughter’s hair
- 27:20 – Don’t put your fears onto your daughter
- 30:10 – How Tony hopes people perceive his teachings
- 32:00 – Listening to his daughter compared to his students
- 34:20 – Allowing your daughter to have difficult experiences
- 37:00 – Social Media: Setting Expectations
- 39:52 – How Daughters change parents
- 42:00 – Being an Interracial Family
- 45:00 – A Final Perspective
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
“I don’t think there’s a stronger bond than that between a Father and a Daughter.”
Seth Sundberg joins us to discuss how he found patience in the redemptive process to nurture a relationship with his daughter. Listen in as Seth discusses how his life as a Lakers player ended up with him being in a Federal Prison.
You’ll learn how he reflected on his upbringing to positively impact his relationship with his daughter, no matter how little he could see her. Seth will share his thoughts on how the criminal justice system can be reformed and how Defy Ventures helped him grow in career and his Father-Daughter relationship.
Seth learned how to create a meaningful apology, and you’ll learn how to do the same. It helped him create that immense bond fathers can have with their daughters.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Seth in this episode:
- Seth’s experience as an NBA player and his time at the Lakers.
- How a tax scam found Seth in a Federal Prison.
- How to have patience in the redemptive process.
- How the criminal justice system can be reformed, creating careers for those coming out of prison.
- Living with stepsiblings and managing the personalities of growing up with single parents.
- Reflecting on the negative aspects of your upbringing to positively impact your child’s upbringing.
- How Defy Ventures helped Seth grow after prison.
Timestamps:
- 0:00 - Introduction
- 0:55 – Who is Seth Sundberg?
- 1:32 – Learning From Dark Times
- 7:04 – Beginning the Conversation
- 8:12 – Seth’s Background: Introduction to his daughter, Ava.
- Former Professional Basketball Player for the Lakers
- Went into the Real Estate Industry in Retirement
- 9:02 – How his time in the real estate industry led him to a federal prison
- 9:45 – What Seth Does Now: Reforming the Criminal Justice System
- 11:28 – Seth’s Upbringing: How he learned to communicate
- 14:00 – Learning from the behavior that your parents taught you and passing the right lessons onto your children
- 15:50 – The timing of reflecting on the negative aspects of Seth’s upbringing to positively impact his daughter’s upbringing
- 17:16 – The Lessons Seth Learned in Prison
- 18:40 – Seth’s Father-Daughter Relationship During Prison
- 22:20 – Balancing Personal Guilt with the Desire to “Talk it Out.”
- 24:23 - How to Give a Meaningful Apology
- 27:16 - Suggestions for Fathers Trying to Heal a Father-Daughter Relationship
- 30:20 – Closing Thoughts
Episode Resources:
- Defy Ventures: https://www.defyventures.org/
Podcast Links:
- Website: https://thefatherdaughterdance.libsyn.com/website
- Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/the-father-daughter-dance/id1556215258
- Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/7jb7DO3009t2GOjsTRCwOz
- Email: thefatherdaughterdancepod@gmail.com
Some conversations with your pre-teen daughter can be difficult and downright awkward. But what if you face them head-on – and even add a little humor while you’re at it? Listen in as Jim Angelus shares a proud-dad moment, how he connects with his daughters around the dinner table, and what he does to lighten up challenging conversations.
In this episode, Jim reflects on how he’s parenting differently than his own mom and dad. You’ll learn how a game called “High, Low, Buffalo” has opened the door to deeper insights and conversations with his daughters in an organic way that they enjoy. He’ll also share why he communicates differently with his daughters, how they’ve grown, and what he thinks about their upcoming pre-teen years – and you’ll hear a hilarious story about how he handled an awkward question from his daughter.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Jim in this episode:
- What it was like growing up in a blended family and what he learned about parenting.
- How he keeps an open door for communication with his daughters.
- High, Low, Buffalo: A dinner-table game that’s sure to help you connect with the family.
- Why he communicates differently with each of his girls.
- How he recognizes emotional growth and trust in his girls.
- A proud-dad moment and what he learned.
- The thoughts and concerns of a pre-teen daughter’s dad.
- How to notice and put on the breaks when you’re projecting.
- How he handles unexpected and difficult conversations with levity and humor.
Show Notes
- 01:00 – Introducing Jim Angelus, a father of two daughters.
- 01:40 – A lesson from my daughter on stepping back and enjoying the journey.
- 05:30 – What Jim and Tim have in common: Their first dose of the vaccines!
- 07:40 –Jim’s musical career, family, and two daughters, Vivian and Sloane.
- 11:50 – His blended family upbringing, dynamics, and communication growing up.
- 14:50 – Mental therapy walks and reflecting on his father making him run.
- 17:00 – Having an open door for communication with his daughters.
- 18:15 – On sex education back in the day and for our daughters.
- 20:30 – Navigating communication with your daughters: High, low, buffalo.
- 21:00 – The difference between how he communicates with his two daughters.
- 24:30 – Recognizing your daughter’s emotional growth and trust in you.
- 25:20 – A proud moment: Jim’s daughter recognized her wrongdoing and resolved it.
- 27:00 – How Jim shows up for his daughters in comparison to how he was raised.
- 29:35 – His thoughts and concerns about having a pre-teen entering junior high.
- 34:00 – Fears around his daughters and a funny story.
- 37:15 – The point of the story and working on projecting feelings with our daughters.
- 38:50 – The things we do in hopes that our daughters grow up to be good people.
- 39:15 – Uncomfortable and unexpected conversations.
Exercise
How can you add levity and humor to challenging or unexpected conversations with your daughter?
Sometimes, she just doesn’t want to talk. Tim Taylor listens in as Spencer DeWoody shares how he communicates, resolves conflict, and stays emotionally available for his daughter so she knows he’s there when she needs him.
In this episode, Spencer talks about the three things he focused on as a new parent: emotional expression, communication, and taking responsibility. You’ll learn the lessons Spencer learned from his own parents and what he decided to do differently. He’ll also share how he resolves conflict in his home, why he doesn’t treat his daughter any differently than his sons, and what he’s learned through social work about teenage girls.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Spencer in this episode:
- The three things he focused on as a new parent.
- What it was like to be a stay-at-home dad.
- What conflict looks like in his household and how he deals with it.
- Why he intentionally doesn’t speak any differently to his daughter or sons.
- Sass – and other traits of his own that he sees in his daughter.
- What to do when she just doesn’t want to talk – and what to do when she does.
- What he’s learned about validation and self-worth by working with teenage girls.
- How he shows love and the lessons he learned from his own parents.
Show Notes
- 00:40 – Introducing Spencer DeWoody.
- 01:40 – The big question marks around periods.
- 02:40 – A story about buying my daughter sanitary products.
- 12:20 – Spencer’s childhood, family, work, and experience being a full-time dad.
- 15:35 – Communication in his household growing up.
- 18:10 – What he thought when he found out he was having a girl.
- 19:30 – What he focused on early-on as a parent: Emotional expression, communication, and taking responsibility.
- 20:20 – On being a stay-at-home dad.
- 22:30 – Apologizing, communication, and conflict resolution with your daughter.
- 23:20 – An example of conflict in Spencer’s household and how he handles it.
- 25:30 – On expressing feelings with his sons as well as daughter.
- 26:00 – On “sass” and traits of his own that he sees in his daughter.
- 28:00 – Navigating when your daughter doesn’t want to talk to you.
- 30:15 – What he does to stay available: Mindfulness practices, presence, appreciation.
- 33:00 – On being more available for his kids than his parents were for him.
- 34:20 – What he’s learned by working with teen girls about validation and self-worth.
- 36:20 – How his parents showed their love and what he does for his daughter.
- 38:50 – What he likes to dance to with his daughter and a fond memory.
- 41:20 – Tell her how you feel!
Exercise
Express yourself and tell her how you feel!
As fathers, we may see qualities budding in our young daughters that we have a duty to preserve and cherish. Tim Taylor listens in as Martin Oji discusses his own emotional intelligence and learn how he supports his daughter in expressing her own beautiful emotional sensitivity.
In this episode, Martin talks about what he both loves and fears about his five-year-old daughter. You’ll learn how fatherhood forces us to face the parts of ourselves that need to grow, and why having a rock-solid and supportive community is so important. He’ll also share what he and his daughter do to connect regularly and what he does individually to show up as a better man, husband, and father.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Martin in this episode:
- How he nurtures his daughter’s emotional intelligence (EQ).
- His fears about being a father of a daughter.
- The role of community in parenthood.
- The advice he gives that he sometimes struggles to follow.
- How he improves himself as a man, husband, and father.
- A resource for lessons about having better relationships.
- What Martin does to strengthen his connection with his daughter.
- What fatherhood does (whether you like it or not)!
Show Notes
- 00:40 – Introducing Martin Oji.
- 01:40 – Doing the best that we can; a story where Tim’s daughter does this.
- 04:30 – A lesson on risk taking, making mistakes, and giving your best.
- 06:15 – A new lane for connection, honesty and understanding with our daughters.
- 09:15 – Martin’s family, ministry work, and his daughter’s emotional intelligence.
- 11:45 – His background, big family, and communication evolution growing up.
- 14:35 – On his daughter’s emotional intelligence and his ability to nurture it.
- 15:15 – What he loves and fears about his daughter: Her sensitivity.
- 16:15 – The conversations he has with his community about navigating ourselves.
- 18:15 – The story of Erica’s adoption.
- 22:40 – The fears he had about being a dad of a daughter.
- 24:25 – The unique things he notices about her and the lesson that everyone is nice.
- 27:25 – Feeling hurt for our daughter’s pains.
- 28:20 – The advice he gives that he follows the least in regard to parenthood:
- 29:15 – He struggles with being vulnerable about his own fears and hurt.
- 32:30 – How he improves himself: prayer, bible study, conversations, writing, etc.
- 33:30 – The bible teaches about relationships; he has been impacted massively by it.
- 35:45 – What Martin and Erica do together: They pray, act, and have father-daughter time once a week.
- 39:25 – How he has taught her how to pray.
- 42:30 – The transformation work required to be a good father; being a father sheds a light on where you can grow.
- 45:00 – That point where you can no longer help your daughter with her math homework…
- 47:00 – Check out the Bay Area Christian Church.
Exercise
Do you need to take your own advice? Find an opportunity to do it today!
Having a teenage daughter can be confusing when you’re trying to maintain a relationship and respect her budding independence. Tim Taylor listens in as Chris Yeh shares how his relationship with his daughter has evolved over time.
In this episode, Chris talks about how he communicates with his daughter and “plays the long game” to keep the relationship strong. You’ll learn the value of showing emotion in front of your daughter, why nagging never works, and how to keep harmony in the household by swimming with the tide. He’ll also share why he’s so inspired by Kobe Bryant, and the lesson he learned about fatherhood upon his passing.
Here’s a glance at what you’ll learn from Chris in this episode:
- How his upbringing shaped his future.
- How his relationship with his daughter changed over time.
- The ways he handles communicating with his daughter.
- Why he chooses to play the long game with his kids.
- The value of showing emotion in front of your daughter.
- How to maintain a relationship with your independent daughter.
- What you can (and can’t) do as a father (no matter how hard you try!).
Show Notes
- 00:30 – Introducing Chris Yeh.
- 01:30 – The emotional re-watching of movies.
- 07:00 – Chris’ background, family, and upbringing.
- 10:50 – Communication in Chris’ family: His mother was extroverted; his father was caring and sensitive and would answer questions about the world.
- 12:30 – His schooling and how his parents pushed him and helped him thrive.
- 18:00 – When he found out he was having a daughter.
- 21:00 – How his relationship with his daughter changed over time.
- 22:15 – The transition point in middle school.
- 24:20 – The song he’d sing to her when she was a baby.
- 28:50 – The dance between father and daughter when it comes to communication.
- 29:21 – His mother’s concerns with the pandemic.
- 32:00 – To nag or not to nag and how to play the long game with your kids.
- 33:10 – There’s an important balance between having a relationship with your daughter and respecting her independence.
- 36:35 – The “Mamba Mentality” and his relationship with his daughter.
- 37:35 – Kobe Bryant’s inspiration and daughters.
- 42:00 – Fathers crying, strength, and the importance of showing emotion.
- 44:30 – Send an email to agapett@gmail.com with the secret code!
- 45:45 – A practical tip: Don’t include your face in nude photos!
- 48:30 – A lesson: As a father, you can’t protect your daughter from everything but you can prepare and them as best you can for the inevitable challenges of life.
- 50:00 – Face your fears with a full heart and lots of love.
Exercise
How can you better prepare your daughter for the inevitable challenges of life?
The Father Daughter Dance hosted by Tim Taylor is devoted to creating conversations to help Dads keep up with the velocity of how things are changing for our Daughters.
The Father Daughter Dance hosted by Tim Taylor is devoted to creating conversations to help Dads keep up with the velocity of how things are changing for our Daughters.
We will share our experiences raising daughters with some laughs and maybe some tears as we have honest conversations about this unique and crucial relationships.
Guests will mostly be Fathers from all backgrounds and ages. We will also have Daughters on to provide perspective on subjects (losing their father, what worked for them, etc.).
This is not a coaching podcast. Tim is not an expert in the field, he knows how to create great conversations.
He is a curious, funny and devoted father to his now 20-year-old daughter with an unquenchable passion to help each other with this extraordinary relationship. #Girldads unite!
Won’t you join us? Step into The Father Daughter Dance. Let’s do this!