The Apparently Parent Podcast: Recent Episodes
Eran Katz
Parenting - it's both wonderful and nerve-wracking. But you can break that cycle!If you are a parent who wants to find balance and get to the end of the day with a smile on your face, if you want to understand your children and yourself better, and if you want to lead your family into calm waters while having fun doing so, this is the podcast for you.Hi, I'm Eran Katz. I'm a Clinical Psychologist and Parenting Counsellor, Attachment Researcher, and family man. In this show, I combine the art of parenting with the science of psychology.Every Thursday I share with you my unique perspective on attachment-based, mindful and positive parenting, with actionable tips and techniques. I also answer your own personal parenting questions and interview innovative parenting experts that'll help you be the best parent you can.
2020 was, perhaps, a pivotal year for work-life balance. So many people had to work from home while taking care of their children 24/7, and even now, as things are re-opening, many businesses are still letting their employees work from home.
In this episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast, I'm talking to Shari Medini, who co-authored the bookย Parenting While Working From Home,a beautiful, simple guide that will help you find the balance between work, parenting, and yourself (never forget yourself).
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If you're a parent, you probably experience conflicts between you and your children throughout your day. When to get up, how to dress for school, what to eat, when to do homework, and don't get me started on screen time!
Many parents ask me to help them get rid of all the fights and conflicts they have with their children. But I want to offer a different perspective: conflicts are not the bad guy.
In this episode you're gonna learn why conflicts can help you raise a more confident child who is more caring and ready for the world, and how you can approach those moments from a better place.
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When asked, many parents say they want their children to be confident. But what does confidence even mean? And how can you nurture this trait in them?
This is part 1 of this special episode where I share 9 principles for raising confident children. Don't forget to subscribe and get the next part as soon as it comes out.
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Again with the mindfulness?? Well, yes. But hear me out. This is not another podcast that will tell you to sit down on the cushion and watch your breath for 30 minutes. Why? Because you don't have time for that, am I right? You're a busy mom, or hustling dad, or whatever you wanna call it. You have kids tugging at your pants, knocking on your bathroom door, and waking you up at hours you never wanted to meet up close.
But all of that doesn't mean you can't enjoy the beautiful gifts that mindfulness practice can bring you. In this episode, I'm sharing with you some ways in which you can practice being more mindful and aware while still doing your daily routine with and without your children. As simple as that.
Would you become an enlightened Buddha out of those practices? Probably not. But that's not the point anyway. But you very well might become a more attuned parent, more sensitive and open with yourself and your children. And doesn't that mean the world?
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Apparently, we have to start another school year with COVID still present in our lives. When this episode was first published, things looked different. Today we have vaccinations for 12 years old and above, but many children still have to go to school in the shadow of a global pandemic.
If you're still worried about sending your children to school (and who can blame you), or you're looking for ways to help your children cope with the anxiety of being back to school these days, this episode is for you.
I have gathered the voices of my fellow parenting experts, and each shared a wonderful tip to think about when it comes to this situation. So grab a cup of coffee, kick back, and help yourself help your child.
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All The Experts Mentioned in The Episode
Tina Payne Bryson
- Tina Payne Bryson's Website
- Tina's new book: Bottom Line Baby
Katherine Endy
- The Family Life Coach
Christopher Hanlon
- A Dad's Presence
Lynn Jimenez
- Connect. Grow. Flow.
Lisa Honold
- Center For Online Safety
Mary Wilde
- Dr. Mary Wilde's Website
Sarah Rosensweet
- Peaceful Parenting
Amy Webb
- The Thoughtful Parent
Sandi Schwartz
- Happy Science Mom
Bree Lee
- Positive Parenting Group
Rachel Duffy
- Sagacity Lab
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How do you motivate your children? What are the ways by which you can communicate your message to your children, no matter their age, and make them interested in what you have to say?
This is not about getting them to listen in a disciplinary kind of way. This is about making a true connection with them, sharing your world with them, and finding ways to convey your message in a motivating way, helping them become who they wish to be.
These are the topics I discuss in today's episode with my guest, Dr. Jim Van Allan. Jim is a speaker, trainer, and podcaster with clients across the nation. He runs the successful podcast 'Communicate to Motivate' which discusses developing strong communication skills in all areas of life. Jim is the Vice President of Schools for the Jon Gordon Companies and runs the Positive Schools program. He and his team provide training for all K-12 schools on leadership, communication, and culture. Jim is also a professor of communication studies with Keiser University teaching public speaking, interpersonal communication, and business and professional communication in a fully online setting.
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Be honest: how many times during the day do you find yourself yelling, shouting, or just raising your voice at your kids? And when it happens, what do you feel like during, or afterward?
In this episode, I'm tackling an aspect of parenting that everybody knows, but most rarely talks about - should we never raise our voices at our kids?
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This is part 2 of my deep-dive into attachment parenting, a popular parenting method developed by William and Marth Sears. Last week we learned what attachment parenting is and discovered the Seven Baby Bs.
In this week I'll show you why I think attachment parenting is not really related to what psychologist say when they talk about attachment. You'll learn what creating a secure attachment relationship with your children really means, how you can foster attachment security without succumbing to the rigidity of the Seven Baby Bs.ย
If you want to create a positive, strong bond with your child, this is an episode you don't want to miss!
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It's time to talk about attachment parenting. And more specifically, is it any good? Attachment parenting is a method developed by William and Marth Sears, and is a very popular parenting method these days. Attachment parenting followers focus on a close relationship with the baby and developing sensitive communication with it.
Sounds good, no? But the problem is that attachment parenting has its flaws, and it's time to talk about them. This is why I created this podcast episode, which turned out so long I had to split it in two. So this is part 1, where you'll learn what attachment parenting is, what are the Seven Baby Bs (fundamental principles) of the method, and how it came to be. In the next episode, I'll talk about why I think attachment parenting is not really what you need if you want to create a secure attachment with your children.
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"Please put your shoes on already!" - is that situation familiar? Do you find yourself asking your children to do things over and over again? Do you resort to threats or bribes? Are you already exhausted from the ongoing struggle?
Yes, the struggle is real. But in fact, it shouldn't be THAT hard. If only you would know some basic ways to ask your children to do something and actually want to cooperate... Well, this is what I teach you in this episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast.
No, this is no magic formula! And you can't make your children 100% compliant (and who would want that anyway?). What you will learn is to differentiate between an instruction and a request, when to use each type and how.
Using what you learn in this episode will help you get the cooperation of your children in a much calmer way, and even empower them every now and then.
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Do you know how they say "when life gives you lemons, make a lemonade?" ๐
Well, I love lemonade. I love lemons even more. But some lemons I would rather live without.
Two months ago, my country entered another round of escalation with the rulers of Gaza strip. For almost two weeks, they fired rockets into Israel, which meant that we could hear a war siren at any hour of the day and run into shelter. One rocket even hit a street not far away from my home, killing one man. Not my kind of a lemon, you see?
But in the process of those two weeks, I could notice some things about myself as a parent, and that's what I want to share with you in this episode.
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In this special episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast, I'm sharing with you some of my thoughts as I arrive at the 40th year of my life. And, not by coincidence, it's also the 1st year anniversary of the podcast.
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2020 is a year that will be talked about and remembered for a long time. And I think that one of the main things that we are going to see in the coming years are changes to educational systems and long-held beliefs.
When covid hit and lockdowns started to be part of our lives, every parent had to become a kind of a homeschooler. While some of us are happy to bring the kids back to school, some are willing to continue in the homeschooling adventure to some capacity.
But doing homeschooling right requires knowledge, support, and understanding. This is why in today's episode I'm talking with Gabi Haberer. Once a school principal and now a homeschooling mom and a proponent of homeschooling, Gabi devotes her career to help parents transition to homeschool via her online community.
Join me in this discussion with Gabi about homeschooling, music education, and more.
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What do you do if your child is having trouble learning? What do you do if they have all the good intentions but something is stuck or holding them back? In this episode, I'm talking with Nicole Santamaria, OTR/L, about helping children cope with learning difficulties. We're talking about what keeps children from learning, and what can you, as a parent, can do to help. This is especially important as schools are literally changing around us as we are coming to a year after covid-19 started, so there's a lot for you to learn.
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Learning that your child is gifted may seem like good news for many parents. However, giftedness has its problems and struggles as well, and if you don't really understand what are the inner workings of the gifted brain, you're in trouble.
Luckily, in today's episode, I'm talking with Dr. Jodi Svendsen, who is an expert on the topic of gifted children. You'll learn what makes the brains of gifted children unique (hint: it's not their super-intelligence), and what parents can do to help their children balance the needs and wants of family, schools, and friends.
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Welcome to the 50th episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast! Yay! I'm so happy you're here, celebrating this with me. When I started working on this podcast, I didn't think we're going to go through a global pandemic, lockdowns, and all that stuff, but we did, and I think that working on this podcast, putting out a weekly episode even with all that was happening, was one of the things that really helped me manage those tougher times.
To celebrate this achievement, I put up a special episode, in which I invite you to travel back in time.
You see, in the podcast, I sometimes talk with interesting guests who have something to say about children, parenting, and the in-between. And I have started to ask each guest one specific question at the end of the conversation. And this question goes a little bit like this:
If you could go back in time, and meet your younger self, right before you became a parent, what would you like to tell that younger self?
I really like this question, because as a therapist, I think this mental time travel can be really powerful. Whether we are moving backward or forward in time, as long as we keep the perspective, we can actually learn a lot and help ourselves in the process.
By going back in time and "talking" with your younger self, you can find a new place of compassion, understanding, and wisdom within yourself. You might also see how much you have progressed and grown through the years.
In this episode, I invite you to listen to the answers that my wonderful guests have provided to this question. I hope you'd take the time and listen because I'm sure you might find yourself in one or more of the answers.
And after you listen, I invite you to think about this question yourself and answer it on your own. Maybe take a piece of paper, or open a fresh page in your journal and write it down. There are no wrong answers here. And, if you want, share it on your social media, who knows, you might inspire someone else (if you do share it, please tag me on Instagram @apparentlyparent or the Apparently Parent Facebook page).
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As America is stepping into a new presidency, at the end of a tumultuous couple of weeks, I wanted to re-publish an older episode. This was originally published in the wake of the Black Lives Matter movement after the murder of George Floyd. Back then I wanted to talk about how we, as parents, have a responsibility to address those issues with our children, and proposed some ways to do so.
I think it's a good moment in history to address these issues again. Whether you live in the US or not, it's good to be able to talk with your children about what is going on in the political and social spheres of our lives. By creating an open dialogue, you can help your children become more aware and conscious. And I am one who believes that this is important if we want to create a better world.
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How do you know if you parent the "right" way?
Is there a right way? What do you do in order to keep up with what is important to you?
It all depends on your ability to identify your parenting values and pursue them. In this episode, I'll show you what parenting values are, and how you can start to identify what they are.
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Have you ever set a new year's resolution and failed to achieve it? Well, there's a reason for that, and it has to do with how connected you are to your values.
In this episode, I will show you what values really mean, and why it is so important to be connected to your real values.ย You'll see how it will help you be a better parent and weather emotional storms, and basically build a richer and more meaningful life.
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Congratulations! We have officially got to the end of 2020. Who would have thought that this year would turn this way, huh?
But it had, and now it's over, and we can start a fresh new year, full of hopes and dreams!
But before we make a run into 2021, I believe we should stop for a couple of moments and say goodbye to 2020 by actually looking at the things that it brought us. No, not necessarily the lockdowns, anxiety, and uncertainty. I'm talking about the good stuff.
What good stuff? In this episode, I share my own. The things I have learned about myself and my family, and what I want to take with me to the next year.
And I want to hear from you as well. What have you learned from 2020? Let me know after you listen to this episode by going to my Instagram account and sharing with me.
Have a wonderful 2021!
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What does it mean to be a dad in the 21 century? What are the differences between being a dad or a mom, if there are any differences at all?
These are just some of the questions that I discuss in today's episode with my guest Stephen Dypiangco. Steve is the co-founder of Dadventures (hellodadventures.com), an early stage startup helping parents find fun things to do with their kids, and he shares his story and the story of how his company is helping parents and children create wonderful experiences, covid or not.
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While the world holds its breath, waiting for the covid-19 vaccinations, it's time to talk about a different kind of immunity - psychological immunity. In this episode, I share with you what does psychological immunity is and why it's so important for your children's lives. You will also learn how to help your children develop psychological immunity.
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Montessori. Until a couple of years ago, whenever I heard that word I thought it was some Italian dish that I HAD to try.
But then I had children and started to learn about different educational methods and systems, but I never really learned what Montessori really is.
But today, my friends, you and I are going deep into the Montessori world, with the help of Charlotte Peck, my guest in this episode. Charlotte is a Montessori educator and consultant helping parents navigate Montessori learning at home, and she's helping us understand what Montessori is (and isn't), what does it look like, and how you can implement some of its child-focused principles in your daily lives.
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This episode was originally aired in March 2020, when the covid just started to show its face around the world. Now, as it is Thanksgiving of 2020, which means we are about to close off this year, I thought it's a good time to go back to this talk. Why? Because as crazy, unprecedented, and unpredictable this year had been, we would be wise to see the good alongside the bad.
In the episode, I explain why gratitude is such an important trait to cultivate for both our mental and physical well-being and how you can start bringing more gratitude into your lives starting today.
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ANGER. It's time we talk about anger, which is one of the universal, fundamental emotions we have. Anger is perhaps the most scrutinized emotions we have, and parents all over the world teach their children to avoid anger. But, is that wise? Should you teach your children to avoid anger? And what do you do with your own anger?
In this episode we'll talk about why anger is such an important emotion, but more importantly, I'll teach you a couple of ways to have more control over your anger. Because while we may not want to disavow and delete the anger from our system (and we really can't do that), we do want to use anger in a positive way (it's possible!) and avoid hurting our loved ones.
You'll Learn
- The importance of anger
- How to use your body to control your anger
- What laughter has to do with it
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Emotions! You can't live with'em, but ya can't get rid of'em. Am I right?!
Nah, I'm just kidding, of course. Emotions are one of the most important things in our lives. Emotions make us who we are. And they have a big role in our development and everyday lives.
But emotions can also be hard on us. The so-called "negative" emotions such as sadness, anger, or fear can wreak havoc in our days and nights, making our lives miserable. And if you're parents, who have to take care not only of your emotions but those of your kids as well.
Well, what if there was a tool that could really help you make sense of your emotions and cope with them when they get a little bit too much?
In this episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast, I want to tell you about such a tool. It's called The Change Triangle and it was developed by Hilary Jacobs Hendel, LCSW, who is a guest in this episode. In the episode, Hilary and I talk about the change triangle and how it can play a role in your lives as parents (and also as just human beings with emotions, kids or no kids).
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It's an important topic that most people don't want to think about. Bullying.
Most parents don't want to think of their children as potential bullying victims. But it can happen to everyone. And bullying can take many different forms: physical abuse, verbal abuse, or shunning which is isolating a child from everybody else.
Being bullied or shunned like that can take a huge toll on the mental and physical well being of a child. It usually makes a child feel lonely and children may develop what is known as learned helplessness. Children may manifest their stress through physical symptoms such as headaches or tummy aches, and more.
In this episode, you will learn what does it feel like to be bullied and shunned, so that you can connect better to the experience of your child, should they ever be in that place.
You will also learn the three red flags that could help you realize that something may be wrong, and if that is the case, how to start helping your child.
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Welcome to this special US Elections Episode. At the time this post is published, we are a couple of days before the 2020 elections, and I thought this is a wonderful time to talk about the connection between family and government.
When we think about the way parents lead their families, we can see some equivalences with several types of government. So what kind of family do you have? Is it a democracy? Or maybe it's a dictatorship?
You'll Learn
- How parenting styles shape the relationship with your children?
- What does it mean to have a democracy vs. a dictatorship in your family?
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Can you learn better parenting skills from an app?
Matt Larson thinks so, and he created such an app.
Matt is one of the founders ofย The Human Improvement Project, a non-profit organization that created two apps that help learn the foundations of the child-parent relationship.
In this episode, I'm talking to Matt about his mission to help parents improve their skills and how a tech-wiz turned out to be the founder of a parenting knowledge app.
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You are not mistaken. I called this episode "Let Your Children Fail", because that's actually one of the best gifts you can give your children. How so? Well, I don't mean that you should let your children really "fail" all the time, and don't help them. I do mean that you can teach them to appreciate their mistakes and learn from them.
Because if you teach your children that they can either succeed or learn something new (as opposed to failing), you will give them a gift for life.
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There's a question that I see coming up a lot in parenting groups and forums, which I wanted to address in this episode. It's all about feeling like a bad parent because you get mad and yell. The question can look like this:
I want to know the best way to parent. I want to be the best that I can be. But right now Iโm feeling like Iโm failing. Thatโs because I shout too much. I have a short fuse and is always leads to feeling huge waves of guilt.
Sounds familiar?
In this episode, we're talking about what can you do with those feelings of mom-guilt or dad-guilt. And especially, we will explore the power of compassion and self-compassion. You will learn how a couple of simple exercises can enhance your self-worth, reduce negative thinking, and eventually make you feel better about your parenting and be able to better show up with your child.
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Bethany Saltman is an author, zen-practitioner, writing coach, and a mother. In this episode, I had the pleasure of talking to her about her new book: Strange Situation - A Motherโs Journey into the Science of Attachment.
In this wonderful tale of becoming a parent, Bethany tells her own story, as well as that of Mary Ainsworth, who is responsible for the vast research of the Attachment Theory as we know it. Together, we discuss her own story of becoming a mom and moving from feeling ashamed and guilty into a more present and accepting place, the difference between "attachment parenting" and the real attachment theory, and more.
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When your children have to face changes, there's one simple thing you can do to help them. And that is to prepare them for that change using the power of stories.
In this episode, I will walk you through a simple process that will help you write - yes yes, write - a simple story that will help your child prepare for that change. And believe me, you don't need to be Shakespear.
After you listen to the episode, go to the show notes on www.apparentlyparent.com/33 to download a free guide and template for creating such stories.
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As many countries are still in lockdown or entering a second lockdown, many parents find that staying home with their kids is not an easy job, to say the least. And that's especially true if you're trying to set boundaries all they long. So, naturally, some parents tend to get more and more chill with those boundaries, sometimes to the point of giving them up.
But, is that even a problem? Maybe fewer boundaries are the sane way to go? What's so wrong about being your child's best friend and eliminating the hierarchy?
That's the topic of this episode, as we explore the negative effects of what is known as **permissive parenting.
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Are you struggling with how your kids use screens? Do you find yourself fighting with them over how many hours of screen they are allowed to use each day? Or what they do online? Well, tune in to today's episode where I'm having a conversation with Lisa Honold.
Lisa is a certified Positive Discipline parent educator and an expert on cyber safety. Her work has been featured in The Wall Street Journal and the โEmpowered Parenting Summit 2020โ. As the Director for the Center for Online Safety, she helps families stop fighting over screen time so they can get back to having fun together.
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What are the most important Do's and Don'ts that you HAVE to remember when you want to help your anxious child? I'm glad that you asked - because I have a special episode for you today.
This is a recording of a LIVE session that I did in my free Facebook group, in which I talked about The Parenting MAP and how to use it to help your anxious children. We go into the most important do's and don'ts of handling anxiety, so don't miss it!
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Worried about how the next school year is going to look like? Afraid to send your kids back to school? Or feeling stressed about another year of remote learning?
Worry not, my friends. I've reached out to a dozen parenting experts and asked them to share their advice with you - and I'm sharing all of that wonderful advice in this episode.
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Do you think that you know better than your kids? Think again.
Sometimes, you do know better, but in so many things in life, you are influenced by some inner streams of consciousness that may confuse you or just make you stuck. In this episode, we'll discuss the concept of Pandora's Punching Bag, and how you can release yourself from your inner demons and move towards being the parent you want to be.
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Did you ever feel that your child can be such a brat at home and a goody-too-shoes at school, or with grandparents or other children?
Isn't it annoying?
But other than annoying, it also means something good! It means the connection your child has with you is solid. In this episode, I'll explain exactly how that works.
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How to resolve the tension between controlling our children and helping them grow freely?
In this episode of the podcast, I'm answering a question submitted by a mother of a 2 years old girl, saying "I like the idea of being a 'gardener' in the sense of providing a healthy environment for her to grow and develop. However, there is also the instinct to try to get her to act appropriately"
You'll learn how to find what is the right balanceย FOR YOU, by connecting to your parenting values.
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What simple parenting technique can help you resolve sibling fights; teach your children to solve problems; nurture their empathy muscles; and build their confidence?
It's called Sportscasting and it involves a simple trick: narrate what your children are doing, with no judgement. It's a bit more complex than that, though, so tune in to this episode to learn exactly what to do and why it helps.
You'll Learn
- What does sportscasting your children's behavior mean
- How to use sportscasting in the best of ways
- Why sportscasting works
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How comfortable are you with the concept of money and finances? How comfortable do you want your kids to be? If you're anything like me, you'd like your kids to understand money better, and be more comfortable around it than you. And this EXACTLY what my guest today will do for you.
Chris Farrell is one of the founders of FUNancial Freedom, a program aimed at 7-17 years old with the goal of helping them be more financially smart. In our conversation, Chris talks about what's wrong with the financial education our children receive, and how this program could help you and them make money a positive part of their lives.
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Dealing with anxiety isn't a walk in the park. Helping your child deal with his or her anxiety can be even harder. But it's one of your jobs as a parent. In this episode, I'll walk you through 5 things that parents tend to tell their anxious children that should really, really refrain from using.
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In this episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast, I'm sharing with you my answer to a question of one mom on my free Facebook Group. She asks about her daughter who finds it hard to join social games with her friends unless she was invited by the group. By listening to this episode you'll learn how you can help your own children cope with similar situations using a simple, fun game called "And Then What?"
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How many times have you caught yourself in the middle of yelling at your kid, suddenly thinking "who am I?? why am I acting like that?"Be honest: I'm sure it happened more than once. It happens to everybody. But why? Why does it happen? You have all the right intentions, you want to be a positive parent. But every now and then something pushes a button inside of you and you become something else.
It's like your mind was hijacked.
In this episode I share with you why it happens and how can you use the knowledge of The Parenting MAP in order to get your mind back.
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You raise a cute little child, all sweetness and round. And a couple of years later you find yourself sharing a home with an edgy, mouthy teenager who rolls his or her eyes at you more than you can count. And if that's not enough, you find yourself in a constant struggle with this little dude. You both enter endless cycles of rants, screams, and banging doors.
Why is that? And does it have to be like that? (spoiler: it doesn't)
In this episode, I break down the Drama of the Teenage Brain, helping you understand what is going on in your teenage kid's mind, and why they act so weird.
You'll learn the difference between the thinking and the emotional brain, and how to break those cycles of negativity before they escalate.
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When it comes to telling bad news to your child, there are two types of parents: there are those who just say what they have to say and go on with their lives, and there's you.
If you're here, you probably wonder what to do when you have to break bad news to your child. And you wonder that because you care about your child's emotions and want this experience to be significant and as non-traumatic as possible.
Well, I got you covered. In this episode, you'll learn how to use The Parenting MAP to guide your way in that conversation.
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This is a special episode of the podcast. It's released earlier in the week because I think this topic is too important to wait on. I recorded this one week after George Floyd was murdered by a police officer in Minneapolis, and the past week was full of protests around the US.
In the episode, I share my thoughts about why we have to initiate a conversation about racism with our children, and how should we do it. We can't just shy away from this topic, thinking "it's not happening to me", because racism and inequality are too poisonous, all around the world.
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Ever asked your child to do something and got crickets? Do they just ignore you or promise to do as asked, but then go on with their lives as nothing happened? Well, I got a little trick that may help you. Moving from an active to a passive voice is one way to get more cooperation from your kids, and for a good reason. In this episode you'll learn exactly why it helps and how to use it.
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If you're a parent, then you know those feelings of endless nights and long days, when your child didn't sleep well. And now during COVID-19, your sleeping habits may have changed.
In this episode, I'm talking with Eva Klein from My Sleeping Baby. Eva is a certified child sleep consultant and in this episode she shares the three most important building blocks of successful sleep habits, and how can we help our children go back to normal routines during these times.
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As always, I answer one question that was sent to me by one of you guys. In today's session, I'll answer the following question:
My 4yo is super stubborn (I can only blame myself, she got it from me), so she keeps insisting on things and keeps getting disappointed. I want to help her cope better with both her passion and her disappointment.
Such a great question! I'm sure you can relate to that. So listen to the episode and let me know in comments what you think.
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If your children have been in quarantine due to COVID-19, going back to school could be hard for them. Fears of infection, re-acclimating to a new routine, saying goodbye to being at home. All of these could present problems for your children. In this episode, you'll learn who to help your children with this transition.
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Death is one of the two things parents hate to talk about with kids (guess what's the other one...)
But Death is part of life, and just as you can't avoid it, you shouldn't avoid talking about it. In this episode, I discuss why it's so hard for us parents to talk about death with our children, and why we should get over our obstacles and talk with them about death.
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From the beginning of mankind, we were connected to nature. It fed us, it sheltered us, and it made us feel good. It was also a source of danger and fears as well, but we all enjoy going out to nature and research after research have shown the mental and physical benefits of going out even for 20 minutes.
However, now during the COVID-19 lockdowns, it's hard โ and sometimes impossible โ to go out and relax in the sun or the woods. But we can still enjoy nature in many ways. This is the topic of this episode in which I talk with writer Sandi Schwartz.
Sandi is the writer behind the blog Happy Science Mom. She also published hundreds of articles in outlets such as Motherly, Scary Mommy, and more, and recently her blog was listed in Feedspotโs list of Top 100 Mom Blogs Every Mommy Must Read in 2020. She deals a lot with nature and its effects on us and currently working on a book about that issue!
In our talk, Sandi shares her knowledge about the effects of going out to nature and offers ways for you to incorporate more nature into your life even when you can't really leave the house. She's doing so with her own Ecohappiness Challenge where she shares 30 daily ways for bringing nature in, so be sure to check that out.
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What do you usually tell your child when he falls down? A lot of people will say something like "It's OK, nothing happened". And if there ever was a phrase that makes me queasy - it's that.
Why is it so wrong to tell your child (or anyone, actually) that "nothing happened" or "it's ok"? Because something DID happen. And if we fail to acknowledge that, we fail in one of parenting's most basic jobs - validating our child's emotions and teaching our child to understand his or her emotions.
In this episode, I explain exactly why it's so problematic and offer a simple formula that will help you remember how to respond better.
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In this episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast Eran talks about why now, during the outbreak of COVID-19, we should find the time and be grateful - more than ever.
Being grateful is not just a hippie, lovey-dovey thing. It's about actively working against the natural neurological bias of the mind and move into a more positive way.
You'll learn why gratitude is the right thing to do right now and how easy it is to incorporate a gratitude practice, starting today.
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For my English speaking audience: This is a special episode I recorded in Hebrew for my fellow countrypeople. There's also an English version that you can listen to by following this link: Ep. 08 - Gratitude in COVID-19
ืฉืืื ืืืืืื ืื ืฉืื ืืืฉืจืื. ืื ืฉืืืืื?
ืืื ืขืื ืคืจืง ืืืืื ืฉืื ื ืืงืืื ืืขืืจืืช ืืจืื ืืืฆื ืืืจืฅ ืืืขืืื ืืืื. ืืคืขื ืื ื ืจืืฆื ืืืืจ ืืชืื ืขื ืืฉืื ืฉืืื ืื ืืืื ืืืืื ืืจืืข - ืืื ืืืจืช ืืชืืื.
ืืืืงื ืขืืฉืื, ืืฉืืื ืืฉืืืฉ, ืืืืฅ ืืืขืชืื ืืืืื, ืืฉืื ืฉื ืืื ืืกืืืืื ืืืืืจ ืชืืื. ืืื? ืื ืืื ืื ืื ื ืืืืืื ืืขืืืจ ืืืื ืฉืื ื ืืืืืช ืืืงืื ืืืืื ืืืชืจ ืืคืืืช ืฉืืืื, ืืื ืฉืืื ื ืืื ืืขืฉืืช.
ืืคืจืง ืื ื ืืกืืืจ ืืืืืง ืืช ืืืฉืืขืืช ืฉื ืืืืืื ืืื ืืืฆืืข ืืื ืืจืืื ืคืฉืืืืช ืืืชืืื ืืชืจืื ืืืจืช ืชืืื, ืืืจ ืขืืฉืื.
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We are currently living through uncertain and scary days. No matter where you are in the world, I'm sure you find yourself worrying and stressed from time to time. And it's the most natural thing to happen, right now. However, you don't have to suffer from it all the time, and you do deserve to feel better. How? No worries, I got you covered. In this episode you'll learn two techniques that are known to help with lowering stress:
- Dropping Anchor
- Body Scan
You'll also learn how to connect to your values to help you navigate better in these times.
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This is a special bonus episode I recorded in Hebrew about handling stress during the Coronavirus outbreak.
ืฉืืื ืืืืืื ืื ืืืฉืจืืืื ืฉืื! ืื ืื ื ืืชืืืืืื ืขืืฉืื ืขื ืชืงืืคื ืืืืืืช ืืื ืคืฉืืื. ืืืืคื ืืืขื ืืชื ืืืื ืืจืืืฉืื ืืืฅ ืืืจืื ืืจืืืช ืฉืื ืืืจืชื. ืืคืจืง ืืื ืืฆืืข ืืื ืืื ืืงื ืคืฉืืื ืืืชืืืืืืช ืขื ืกืขืจืืช ืจืืฉืืช ืฉืืืื ืืืืฆื ืชืืืื ืืืชืืืื ื ืืื ืืืชืจ ืืืืื ืืืื.
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In the first Q&A session of The Apparently Parent Podcast, I'm answering a moving question that was sent by a mother of a one-year-old girl. She and her husband had their daughter after undergoing IVF treatments. Now, this mother finds herself dealing with overwhelming worries that are hard to shake off. And if that's not enough, she feels that her husband is not on board with her and she's left alone.
In the episode, I answer her question and offer a couple of ways to cope with worrisome thoughts such as cognitive defusion techniques and how to break the brain's negative bias.
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There are many ways to describe parenting these days. We have helicopter parents, lawnmower parents, tiger moms, and what-not.
But in the field of psychology, there are four known types of parenting styles: Authoritarian parents, Authoritative parents, Permissive parents, and Neglectful parents.
What are they? What do they mean? And which one is best for your children? Find out in this episode.
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The news about the new Coronavirus is spreading almost virally (sorry for the pun), and as parents, you may wonder if and how should you talk with your children about this new situation.
In this quick bonus episode, I offer some tips and strategies to help you deal with these conversations. Hopefully, you'll only have to deal with this virus by talking about it and no more.
Stay safe everybody, and don't forget to wash your hand ๐
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In this day and age, we are constantly being bombarded with messages about being awesome, perfect, and doing everything we can to be our best. In health, in food, in work, and also in our family lives.
But this race of being a perfect parent is
- impossible
- hurting ourselves and our children
It's time you stop trying to be a perfect parent and adopt the better stance of being aย Good Enough Parent.
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Mindfulness! You're probably sick of hearing about it. Who has the time to sit for so long doing nothing? Not us parents, am I right?
But what if mindfulness can help you navigate your daily family-storms with more ease? Wouldn't you want that to be your reality?
- notice your child's emotional turmoils before they erupt
- take care of your own emotions so you'll be better equipped to help your child
- get out of those storms quickly
In this episode we'll talk about what mindful parenting is all about, how you can practice it, and what doesย The Princess Bride has to do with it.
Visit the show notes on my website to get a FREE mindful parenting exercises guide PLUS a recorded guided meditation.
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Welcome to the first episode of The Apparently Parent Podcast, where we talk about the art of parenting and the science of psychology.
In this episode, you'll meet your host, which is me - Eran Katz, Clinical Psychologist, Parenting Counsellor, and a lover of coffee.
You will also learn my way of thinking of parenting and what every parent has in common with Captain Sparrow (or Captain Stubing, if that's more your thing). And most importantly, what is The Parenting MAP and why it holds the keys that will take your family into calm water.
To learn more about the podcast and what was discussed in this episode, visit the show notes on my website.
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Have you ever felt that being a parent is like sailing the high seas, not knowing what is going to surprise you next or how to navigate through emotional storms? I know that feeling, and I want to help you find your way in this magnificent parenting journey.
My name is Eran Katz, Clinical Psychologist, Parenting Counsellor, and proud father. And this is The Apparently Parent Podcast. In this podcast, we combine the art of parenting with the science of psychology, to help you understand your children - and yourself - better, so you can get to the end of the day with a smile on your face.
In this introductory episode, I share the story of the first major tantrum I had to deal with and what you can expect from this podcast.
Learn more about me and the podcast on www.apparentlyparent.com/podcast (where you can also submit questions about your parenting for our Q&A sessions).
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