Heal From the Ground Up: Recent Episodes
Michael Hsu
Michael coaches empaths and highly sensitive people who experience anxiety, anger, and depression to learn the revolutionary Emotional Strength F.I.S.T. process that heals the root of all your negative emotions, feelings and problems from the ground up through intergenerational trauma healing by finding out "Whose movie are you in?" so that you can stop being an emotional sponge but a source of light that you shine onto the world and have the tools to make your life's purpose and message into your reality and the reality of our world
Listening to this podcast will teach you how to heal the root of all your problems, fears, and frustrations around your relationship, marriage, family, child, work, career, and money. After healing the root of all your emotional pain and barriers, I then help you to define and develop your dream and life's purpose to make it into a reality.
If you would like to receive a free coaching session on the Heal From the Ground Up podcast and YouTube channel contact michael@healfromthegroundup.com
Do you feel guilt and an immense responsibility for others? Do you put yourself last because you fear taking care of yourself will take away from your ability to take care of others? All of this can be due to having narcissistic parents who treat you as an extension of themselves. Listen to this coaching session with Dustin and learn how your resistance to self-care is rooted in your childhood trauma.
Tia feels lost as an entrepreneur, since recently leaving a steady job. She fears if she will fail or not, but the real issue is Tia not feeling in control. Tia gets angry with her daughter because she bought her enough clothes to wear a different outfit for three weeks in a row. Her daughter will wear one outfit Monday and wear the same exact outfit Wednesday, which makes Tia lose it. Where does Tia's feeling of powerlessness come from? Well when Tia was 1 year old, her mother's sister was murdered by her husband who also was a serial killer. Tia's pain of powerlessness was actually the trauma of the entire family who were completely blindsided by their loved one being killed by her very own husband. This summary will help understand how much of the session points to this underlying intergenerational trauma but Tia didn't know the connection which is why she felt so lost in both sadness and anger.
Suppressing our emotions and feelings is dangerous because our unresolved feelings are emotional wounds and if we suppress them by avoiding them, they only grow and eventually consume us without even us being conscious of it.
Parents who suppress their emotions and feelings pass down their unresolved feelings to their children in a dangerous way because the child grows up completely oblivious to it all since the parent consciously suppresses their feelings but the child subconsciously feels every bit of it as if they are feeling it themselves.
Listen to Michael coach Stacey Gross of the Two Moms Day Drinking Podcast (a podcast about every parent's unique journey within parenting) and get to the root of her social and performance anxiety.
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With the economy crashing due to Covid-19, Xavier has the constant fear that he will be let go since he is only a new hiree. What's happening now in the world is bringing up our worst fears so we can uncover and heal our unresolved deep-seated feelings. As always, "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." In this coaching session, we go to the core of the core and see what Xavier's fear of losing his job and thereby losing his ability to make money is all about, and where it all comes from.
Xavier is the host of the Pretty Normal Podcast, which is a podcast talking about the thought provoking moments that happen in our everyday lives, allowing us to re-imagine what society considers normal.
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You may have all kinds of emotions, feelings, and thoughts racing through you because of all that is happening right now. All of this may be eliciting one of the darkest times of your life. Through all of this, despite how bad it may be, I want you to first center yourself with the mantra that "Problems bring up feelings in us that existed before the problem ever happened." This is not to illegitimize the severity of what is going on right now, but if what is going on right now is bring up feelings of anxiety, anger or depression in you, that means what is happening is bringing up feelings in you that existed before the problem ever happened.
You may have lost your job due to the Coronavirus. Your worst fear may be that you become homeless or that you contract the virus and die or kill others by transferring to them. You see, the thinking mind, tells us you need to prevent the worst fear from happening because if it were to happen it would bring up a core negative feeling. But the truth is, the core negative feeling is not only not caused by your worst fears coming true but it actually existed before the problem ever existed. For example, you may have lost your job due to Coronavirus and feel worthless because of it. But feeling worthless is what you feel all the time. Although, it is obviously not true about who you really are, but you must identify your feelings and cut the head off the snake. The head of the snake is your "thinking mind" that a certain negative problem (i.e. losing a job due to the coronavirus) is causing your feelings of worthlessness.
As we discussed before this feeling of worthlessness is often rooted in some intergenerational trauma. That is why we create and fixate on certain fears because we are unknowingly holding onto pain that does not belong to us. In my Emotional Strength F.I.S.T. Masterclass, I have a sample coaching session where Jagrit, a 22 year old college student, is so terrified of driving that he has only driven twice and that was in parking lots. His fear of death is actually rooted in the intergenerational trauma of his great-grandparents who lived in a world of death, violence and murder and he was just reliving their experiences as his own in his fear of driving.
Listen to today's episode to "FIND YOUR PEACE DURING A PANDEMIC."
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The masterclass not only details a step-by-step process on how to heal your anxiety, anger and depression from the ground up through intergenerational healing, but also includes four video call sessions with clients going through the process and using it to heal their negative emotions, feelings and problems from the ground up through intergenerational healing so you can learn how to apply to yourself.
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Where does Natalie's feelings of her family abandoning truly come from? In part two of this coaching session with Natalie, we go deep in the intergenerational healing process and unveil the source of it all. If you have not yet listened to coaching session part one, please go to listen to the previous episode first before listening to this episode.
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You can find Natalie's Podcast, Your Spinout is Gorgeous where she shares stories of courageous people using their rock bottoms as an opportunity for transformation.
Here I coach Natalie Que through her fear that she will be disowned by her family if she speaks her true story that entails her family on her podcast "Your Spin Out is Gorgeous."
This episode marks a big change in my podcast where I will be coming back to featuring coaching sessions, but this time around I will be coaching mainly podcasters and YouTubers and less so anonymous callers. You are going to see people really putting themselves out there in a boldly vulnerable yet transformative way as I apply the emotional strength F.I.S.T. process onto them to heal their anxiety, anger, and depression from the ground up!
You can find more information about my masterclass, membership support community, and private sessions and contact michael@healfromthegroundup.com or go to www.healfromthegroundup.com
You can listen to Natalie's podcast Your Spin Out is Gorgeous which is about transforming your rock bottom's to opportunities that will catapult you into your life's message and purpose. You can connect with Natalie at www.natalieque.com
The reason why anxiety, anger, and depression keep coming up in our lives and in our society is because we are not uncovering and exploring the underlying root cause which lies in intergenerational healing. Understanding intergenerational healing forever change how we as a human race understand and ultimately heal anxiety, anger, and depression.
To give you an understanding of what intergenerational healing is, I used my personal story in today’s podcast episode. Ten days before my 5-month baby boy was born and until he was 2 months old I had terrible insomnia. I would only sleep for 3 to 4 hours a night and then wake up because either I had to change a diaper or go to the restroom and immediately I feared that I would not be able to go back asleep, and that was almost always the case. My worst fear was that if this keeps happening then I will die.
I would like to mention that my son was born in the Czech Republic because my wife has access to free health care there due to her citizenship. When our son was 2 months old we headed back to the US. My parents picked us up at the airport and we all had dinner together that same night. I and my wife shared stories on how we raised our newborn son and my parents shared stories on how they raised me as a newborn. It was then that I found out for the first time that my mother never took care of me at night because she was scared if she was woken up by me she would not be able to go back asleep. She also fears death by fixating on health and safety.
This is a sneak peek to what intergenerational trauma and healing entail. Hold tight to your seats because you are not going to want to miss today’s episode!
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Here l share my immense fear of failure with raw vulnerability. I was contemplating not publishing this episode because I did not want to appear as a hypocrite, failure, and fraud, but my wife convinced me that others easily connect when I share my raw vulnerability. It is only through the process of struggle, pain, and healing is transformation possible.
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Do you find yourself feeling stuck in your negative emotions and problems no matter how much you think and analyze it all? Although thinking is important, thoughts must be balanced with the act of feeling, for "feeling is healing."
"Feeling" is the first step of Michael's breakthrough emotional strength F.I.S.T. process which will help you get to the root of all your negative emotions, feelings and problems. "Feeling" is not the end all be all, but without this foundation, no other higher levels of healing and awareness are possible.
For more information about how to learn Michael's emotional strength F.I.S.T. process to heal your anxiety, anger, and depression from the ground up, you can sign up for our online masterclass and private sessions by visiting our site at www.healfromthegroundup.com
Are you tired of being angry? I believe our anger has a lot to do with what was lost in our childhood. We don't know that because we're so busy being angry at others and ourselves. What we're really angry about is losing our childhood because our parents needed us as children for their emotional support. Throughout our entire lives we try to take on the pain of our parents so we can lessen their burden. But the whole time we don't even know this pain is not ours so we are so frustrated why it never goes away.
Listen to this powerful episode where I share what happens when empathic children witness struggle and pain in the family.
I believe relationships can often be enmeshed in the sense you have two people so focused on each other but not looking at themselves. One partner can subconsciously blame the other partner for their past wounds. While the other partner feels responsible and wants to be their savior. Either way, you have two people so focused on each other which causes their individual happiness to be dependent on what's outside of themselves.
Interestingly this phenomenon of enmeshment also carries over to how we relate to the world and to life itself. We look to the world to give us happiness and worthiness by thinking the completion of our goals and desires will give us happiness.
We have completely forgotten who we are since we only know ourselves in relation to what is outside of ourselves. We forget who we are as individuals.
How do we uncover our true selves when we have identified ourselves through the world? Listen to this weeks' podcast to find out.
Why are we chasing after something we already are? Why are we chasing after strength when we already strong? Why are we chasing after worthiness if we already worthy? The only reason why we chase after something is because we believe we don't have it. We believe we are a failure so we must chase after success. We believe we are worthless so we chase after worthiness. Listen to this week's podcast to stop chasing after your greatness but living through your greatness.
I've seen it a lot with my clients where couples get into heated arguments because they feel emotionally responsible for each other. Interestingly this helped see it in my own relationship where I would make my fiancee responsible for my own emotional well-being. When you make others responsible for your well-being you nit pick at everything they do, because everything they do carries the heavy weight of your emotional wellbeing. I noticed that whenever my relationship was not doing well, I was felt terrible. I couldn't enjoy my life because I would allow my relationship troubles to consume me. And it consumed me because I made my relationship , among one of the many things outside of myself, responsible for my happiness. True peace of mind was achieved when I made myself the primary source of my happiness, peace of mind, wisdom, you name it!
Listen to this week's podcast to help gain clarity on being your source of happiness and letting go of expecting others to give the thing you need to be giving to yourself.
We often feel we are a prisoner to our own minds. We are constantly wrestling with our thoughts and hate ourselves for our negative emotions. We either try to think our way out of the emotion, numb ourselves with busyness or project our self-hate onto others. The whole time we are doing everything we can to avoid our emotions at all costs. But the truth is there is infinite wisdom that lies deep within our emotions once we allow ourselves to be present with them. It is through meditating on these uncomfortable emotions that we find the peace and answers we have been looking for all along. Enjoy this week’s podcast and learn how to not only find peace with your monkey mind but see the invaluable wisdom it has to offer.
How to Meditate: A Practical Guide to Making Friends with Your Mind, by Pema Chodron
I've been a messy and disorderly person all my life. I wanted to be organized but never truly understood the paramount importance of having my personal space orderly and including only possessions that spark joy within me. This has helped me create a clear mind and clarify on what is important to me since I am surrounded only by things that spark joy for me. Respecting your personal space serves as one of the pillars to respecting yourself. This took me 34 years to learn this, but glad I learned it now! Enjoy this week's podcast where I share this personal transformation.
We think control as something that is self driven because it gets things the way we want it to be. But control is really about forgetting who we are and what is important to us because control is focusing everything that is outside of you. We need to control our environment and other people to have them give to us what we really need to be giving ourselves. We feel like we need to control to feel safe but control is the very thing that keeps us feeling unsafe and in pain. Listen to this week's podcast to understand how you may be controlling in your life and understand what it's really about so you can let it go.
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Who are you without your fears? Asking this question allows you to understand your true authentic self. We have identified with our fears for so long because it feels familiar to us, but none of our fears make up the fabric of who we truly are.
Our fears is what make us look at our unattained goals everyday and think how far we are away from achieving them. This makes us feel we are not enough, but the truth is, the gift and beauty of who you are is the vehicle to all your goals and dreams.
Listen to this podcast and learn who you are without your fears and uncover your most authentic and beautiful self.
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The pain and fears we carry are so hard to let go because they feel like they are a part of our soul. The amazing thing is that our pain doesn't even belong to us. As empaths or codependents we took on the pain of those we loved in order to lessen their load. Especially when we took on this pain as children, this pain and this responsibility for the pain of others becomes our sole identity into our adult lives. In this podcast you will see how realizing that your pain doesn't belong to you, helps create separation from "your pain" and then see it for what it is. Remember, in order to let something go you have to realize that it is not belong to you.
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Codependency is a word we often view as something that is negative and needs to be eliminated. My understanding of codependency is that it is a result of a gift of ours that we overuse. That is the gift of being an Empath. As empaths we feel, identify and can even feel responsible for the emotional well-being of others. This is a gift we use to intuitively know what others need in order to break free from their old wounds. However, this gift becomes a doubled edged sword when we don't turn it off and drain ourselves dry because of it. When we are always using are empathic gifts with others we place no priority in serving and taking care of ourselves. Taking care of ourselves is the foundation to which we can help others. Enjoy this week's episode on how to accept our gift of empathy and yet manage it so it doesn't drain us dry.
We falsely believe that accomplishing our life goals and dreams is what bring us our self-worth. The truth is who we are just as we are is a gift to the world. Ironically when we realize that, is when our greatest dreams and goals come true. Therefore your gift to the world is not your "success.: It is you just as you are.
Boundaries serve to protect you in all areas of life, especially in relationships and work.
In a relationship, boundaries are so important to protect not only yourself but your partner. Because once boundaries are crossed both parties are disrespecting themselves. Any disagreement can only get worse if boundaries are crossed.
In this society we praise being selfless which fosters the idea that we should not have boundaries. Boundaries are your vault to protect what is most essential to you and who you are. Without them, everything that is important to you is given up as a free for all. And eventually you will feel empty.
We need to take care of ourselves. We need to be the caretaker for ourselves and not be the caretaker for others. Your only responsibility is yourself. You are not responsible for others. You can have the desire to help others, but you're not responsible for other people's problems. That is what I feel is the root of the pain of selflessness. Selflessness means that all that is important to you no longer exists.
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Every waking moment is an opportunity to share the gift of who you are and not to validate your self worth with what you do. Lacking boundaries is not knowing where you end and the other person begins. Without boundaries you cease to exist and thus sacrifice yourself to purely become a vessel to help others. Reclaiming your boundaries allows you to give from the gift of who you are. Without boundaries we are forced to be a servant desperately seeking for value outside of ourself and to bring it within our empty self. Listen to this monologue in where I learn this powerful lesson of boundaries in order to reclaim my self.
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We all feel overwhelmed by all the things that we need to get done and especially all the problems we need to resolve in order to get to where we want to in life. But the real issue is how we focus on these problems that take ourselves out of reality. Thus the very thing we think will get us closer to our life goals and visions is actually taking us farther away from it all. Listen to this podcast where I get coached by Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast. It takes me a few days to marinate what was talked about in the session, but I experience a mini epiphany a few days later after the session where I see for my own eyes what it is like to live without all these "problems."
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This summary is hard to write because it has to do with my parents. I do not want to defame them in any way. But the truth is I am not emotional responsible for their feelings. I had to console my mother through panic attacks as a child which planted the seed into my adulthood that I was emotionally responsible for the world. In doing so, I completely lost my sense of worth that lied within me. And because I had no self worth from within, I had to create it with what I accomplished. In doing so I always felt behind and overwhelmed because I was so far away from the destination of "being enough." In this monologue I share with you on how to connect with the power and beauty of who you intrinsically are.
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This is a powerful coaching session where I uncover the root of all my problems and struggles. I realize all the healing that I do for the others is the same healing I need to give to myself. In this session you will see how the struggles of my adulthood are all actually rooted in my childhood. Thank you Mike Sutton of the Be Build Have Podcast for coaching me and really changing my life.
Living in fear is a pattern that was taught to us very early on in our lives. The reason why we live out our childhood in our adulthood is because that is what was programmed into us.
In part two of this couples coaching session with my fiancee Daria and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast, you will see me trying to control Daria and my work environment through fear. Unfortunately, what I try to control, only ends up controlling me by living in constant fear.
You will want to also listen to next week's session as it will become extremely clear as to where most of our relationship issues come from and how it is related to our childhood.
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In relationships you are always going to have fights. It's normal and necessary. But one thing to be conscious of is to avoid the downward spiral of relationship triggers. What this means is when one partner gets triggered, he or she takes it out on their partner. And that partner triggers the other partner back. It just goes back and forth and builds layer upon layer on the real issue at hand. It is important to look at where this trigger is coming from. But it's hard to see that when both partners are just in a downward spiral of triggering each other. Enjoy part one of this couples session with me and my fiancee Daria where we learn on how to put the fire out of our relationship triggers.
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We believe the achieving of all our goals and dreams will bring us a feeling of happiness. But the truth is everything that you so desperately seek resides within you. And how you experience that is not setting a condition to your happiness but giving yourself the permission to feel the happiness that you are in the present moment. Do not set a condition on your happiness with "goals" because your worth is unconditional.
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This is the first time I did an interview for my show. You will get to learn about how all the healing I offer others stems from the healing I give to myself. We all want to help others but we forget that to become selfless we need to first be "selfish." Or in other words put yourself as a top priority instead of the last.
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Putting ourselves down is something as natural to us as breathing. So natural that we are not even aware that we are doing it. Our focus is purely on our "problems" that we have created which we treat as reasons for why we are not good enough. The truth is not only are our fears false, but the truth is we are more powerful than we can ever imagine. For us to realize this we must boldly claim back our power. We are all kings and queens that have forgotten our power. Now its time for us to claim back our right to the throne.
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The voice of inner critic is strong but acts like a ghost. It controls your every move but you don’t know that you are being controlled and by what.
When you touch a hot stove, you don’t have the time to think about the pain, you just automatically remove your hand without thinking. We live our lives the same way, when something triggers a negative emotion we automatically do whatever we can to eliminate the thing that is triggering the negative emotion without thinking about what our negative emotion is really about and what it is saying to us.
This inner critic is constantly feeding you negative messages and beliefs. But we don’t hear what it’s saying is because all we feel are the negative emotions we are desperately trying to run away from.
But these negative emotions are always feeding your subconscious nasty messages about you. And if you do not confront your emotions you will not understand what the messages are, and thus have no way of changing these messages.
If your inner critic is a vicious snake you want to let that vicious snake out of its cage to embody the voice of critic so you know exactly the venom it has been feeding you all this time.
Listen to me coach a client about embodying this inner critic so she could be finally be free of it.
In this part 3 finale you will discover the absolute root cause of my anger towards my fiancée. In Part 1 you saw how my anger towards my fiancee was really an expression of feminine tendencies of being overly sensitive and emotional. In Part 2 you began to see how my anger towards her was really about my anger towards myself. Finally in part 3 is where I bare all and discover for the first time how vicious my anger towards myself really is And it's not about my anger towards her because its only her behavior that is triggering to deep seated wounds of my hatred towards myself.
This is Part 2 of a couples coaching session I had with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of The Overhwhelmed Brain Podcast.
The biggest things I'm taking away from these couples sessions is that the issues that come up in my relationship has a lot less to do with the other person and mostly what's going within each one of us. I'm realizing my anger towards my fiancée is really about the anger towards myself. I have to forewarn you though the arguments get pretty headed in this second half of the session.
This session made a tremendous impact on me and I started attracting clients in the same predicament I was in because I became a magnet for those needing to learn the same lesson. I took all the powerful things I've learned from this session and made it into a monologue for the next episode. So you will want to stay tuned for that!
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This is a couples coaching session with my fiancée and Paul Colaianni of the Overwhelmed Brain Podcast. The previous couples session we did (episode 28) you saw the anger my fiancee had towards me which was really her suppressed anger towards her mother. The tables have turned and you will now see my suppressed anger come up in the relationship and get directed at my fiancee. Although I was not conscious of the root of my anger, it was secretly controlling my life and being projected at fiancée as if she was the cause of my anger. This is a great example of how relationships are truly the fertile ground to heal your past wounds. This couples coaching session was split into two parts so you will want to listen to part two as well.
Things we do not like about ourselves we project onto others in such a subconscious way that we don't even realize what are real fears are. I do this all the time with my fiancee and everything that I do not like about myself, I pour my frustration onto her. It's almost I'm subconsciously saying she is the root cause of my insecurities. This is something that happens so often in our relationships with others. And we feel we are the victim. But the problem is that for as long as we fixate on the other person's behavior, we will not see the main problem which is the root cause of my over reaction to another person's behavior. All that person is doing is triggering something that already exists within us. Thus the problem is not the other person's behavior, but to find out what is the other person's behavior triggering within you. In this podcast coaching session, Josh holds this frustration and hatred toward his ex-fiancee in how she is trying to damage the relationship between him and his son. Although he has every right to be angry, in this session it will become very evident that the main problem is not her behavior but what her behavior is triggering within him that Josh is yet to realize.
I have spent my whole life using logic to understand life my life which has kept my negative feelings and most importantly pain at a safe distance from me. But it is my pain that holds the missing key to my healing. In this episode, I share all that I've learned from feeling the emotions I would typically suppress with logic.
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In thinking of the title for this episode I could have titled it after the epiphany that surfaced which is "The Gift of Who You Are". However, this epiphany was only brought out from me breaking through analysis paralysis. The best way I believe to do this is from feeling all of our feelings as opposed to resisting them through analysis paralysis. Thoughts and analysis are distractions to keep the pain of our fears at bay. What this means is that pain will always be there until we acknowledge and feel our feelings fully. What you will see in this episode is me finding the solution by feeling my feelings as opposed to purely thinking my through.
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The impact that my mother has had on my life is something that has been hidden from me for most of my life. Although I'm still processing it, I'm beginning to realize the pain I've been hiding and denying within my self. Having said this, my mother is still the best mother I can ever ask for. But we all have been heavily impacted by our parents and the seed is planted in our childhood. The work I do for others on the podcast and in my private practice is all mirroring things that I'm learning to realize in myself. It's amazing how beautifully I can guide and help others heal their childhood wounds but I can't really connect to my own. But its through such clarity in my guidance towards others that I am able to pick up the missing pieces and see what I'm not seeing in myself.
Enjoy this podcast where I share the pain I feel within myself and how my upbringing has contributed to it.
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We may be deeply in love with our romantic partners but the relationship still serves as a vehicle to heal our inner most wounds. Within the relationship triggers are naturally manifested for us to bring our wounds to the surface so we can begin to see them and heal them. What this means is that despite all the nuisances, problems and arguments that may come up in a relationship, they are actually opportunities to heal our deepest wounds that we may be completely unaware of.
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Because of the pain associated with negative emotions we automatically numb or distract ourselves of these emotions. The problem with this is that deep within our emotions is a message we need to understand and resolve. But we can't find any resolve if we are so busy distracting ourselves from our emotions. This renders us helpless because these emotions will never leave us and end up controlling our lives until we understand what message they have for us. Listen to this coaching session to begin to connect with your emotions so you can be in control of them instead of them having control of you.
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This podcast speaks to a hidden epidemic within families across the world. Parents are a child's foundation and source of love. But so many parents, for whatever reason are not able to be the parent they need to be for their child and leave the child to feel like they must be the source of foundation for the ones who brought them into this world. This role reversal is an incredible burden and pain that the child carries with them throughout their adult lives. Listen to this podcast where Michael coaches Joyanne Sloan, host of the Express Success Podcast.
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We all strive hard to fulfill our life's purpose and vision. This session in coaching Dr. Karen Osburn, host of Mom at 41 podcast, was amazing for me because what she needed coaching on ended up being something that I wasn't clear myself. Karen was able to reflect back to me what I'm not able to see within myself on my own. Doing so, the answer we have both been looking for unveils itself within the session and heals us both in the process.
We all have a life purpose and a vision. It is something we work tirelessly to fulfill. This is something very evident where I get to coach a fellow podcaster, Dr. Karen Osburn who also aspires to make a global impact. What is fascinating about this session is that you also get to see the struggles and the healing process that the "teacher" goes through that is an intimate part of the healing they offer to the world.
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No matter how you feel, you must be honest with others and most importantly to yourself. We have these endless obligations and responsibilities but in the end we must respect ourselves. I feel drained and frozen on producing my next episode set to publish the next morning but I don't want to disappoint my listeners. In this episode I reach out to my dear friend Jade Le who is an inspirational speaker and life coach.
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The new direction for my podcast comes from my heart's vision. The new direction entails me coaching callers on the podcast and me being coached by other coaches. I want pull back the curtains for the "teacher" and show where all of the teachings truly come from. How the journey of the teacher and client coincide with each other and evolve with one another. None of what I do on this podcast is possible without my own personal healing.
Do you hate the feeling that anxiety gives you? I know that you would do almost anything to get rid of that awful and painful feeling. This is what we all do in our response to anxiety. We try to lessen them and coax ourselves through our anxiety. Listen to this powerful coaching session where Paul Colaianni from The Overwhelmed Brain Podcast transforms my entire relationship to my fears and anxiety.
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What does it mean to be addicted to please? It's about constantly looking to others to determine your self-worth. Through this addiction to please others you forget who you are.
This need to please others is something that has withheld me from showing you all of myself on the podcast. In this podcast I announce a major decision to step even taller into my power and self-worth.
Listen to this monologue where I share and explore my addiction to please.
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The feeling of anxiety is a big part of what makes us human. However the feeling of anxiety can be very overwhelming and even painful that we try to fight it and avoid it at all costs. This only makes it grow. What we need to do differently is learn to face our anxiety and understand what it is about.
When I come to face to face with my anxiety, I see it is often a major sign that I have forgotten about myself. It is when I have made others my main priority and have forgotten to place myself as a top priority and also have forgotten who am I at the core. Since anxiety is often about the fear of loss, what we fear is that we will lose our value and self-worth. But the truth is you cannot lose your core. Your core is indestructible and will always be with you. Your core is the most beautiful part of yourself.
Listen to this coaching session around the client's feeling of anxiety and think about what is the source of your anxiety as you learn to face and understand it.
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Learning to put myself first has been my most important and challenging life lesson. I personally feel like it will be a lifelong lesson for me. I'm not saying that I am relearning the same lesson because the lesson of putting myself first, just as with any lesson acts like a tree with hundreds of roots.
I know that putting yourself first is something we label as selfish. But the truth is the person we abuse the most is ourselves. The person that we disrespect, neglect, criticize is by far ourselves. We do this because we feel we are not good enough as we are. So we replace the lack we perceive within ourselves by trying to attain accolades in the outside world so we can mask the ugliness we are afraid to find from within.
But the truth is when we remove all the accolades, achievements, goals, dreams and visions, all that is left is our naked self. And that is when we see our real beauty. A beauty that surpasses the beauty we are so desperately trying to attain.
You will definitely want to listen to this powerful podcast about me sharing how I've come to heal myself to make this realization. You hear me explore and connect to the beauty within so you can learn how to connect to the beauty within you. You will also see me coach myself as I go into the deep hidden corners of my subconscious by exploring my feelings around this topic.
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Want to learn how to live through joy? My playful and silly self is the best part of me but I often forget that in the "seriousness" of life. In this podcast where I get coached by Sharon Freedman you will see me learning to embrace my playful self that has been hiding for so long on the podcast.
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For the longest time I have attempted to give to myself the inner child healing I so often give to others. However each time in doing so I wasn't able to connect to my inner child in the way I have helped others connect with theirs.
In the recent episodes you have seen me go through various challenges and stages of healing. In this monologue I share how I feel I have put the pieces together for my own healing. It now makes sense now what my obsessive anxiety is towards the work I do for helping others and the sleep problems I got coached on in episode 17.
Now in knowing where the source of my pain is, I am now able to nurture that specific wound for my inner child. This an example to us all of how our childhood pain is so deeply embedded in our subconscious that we have no awareness of it.
Lets listen on how I pick up the missing pieces of my own childhood healing.
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What if you lost everything you ever cherished? What if you were never able to attain any of your goals or dreams? The loss I am talking about is the loss of everything you cherish and want to attain outside of yourself. If you were to lose all that, than all you would have left is you. As you listen to this podcast I want you to think if you were to lose everything who is your true self that would reveal itself?
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Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind? Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can? We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.
While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team. Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward these seemingly uncontrollable voices, so we can see what they are really saying in order to regain control of our lives.
To learn more about The Inside Team, watch her Tedx talk, Safe Inside Yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXSORojaxBc
Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind? Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can? We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.
While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team. Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward these seemingly uncontrollable voices, so we can see what they are really saying in order to regain control of our lives.
To learn more about The Inside Team, watch her Tedx talk, Safe Inside Yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXSORojaxBc
Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind? Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can? We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.
While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team. Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward these seemingly uncontrollable voices, so we can see what they are really saying in order to regain control of our lives.
To learn more about The Inside Team, watch her Tedx talk, Safe Inside Yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXSORojaxBc
Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind? Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can? We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.
While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team. Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward these seemingly uncontrollable voices, so we can see what they are really saying in order to regain control of our lives.
To learn more about The Inside Team, watch her Tedx talk, Safe Inside Yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXSORojaxBc
Do you feel overwhelmed by the chatter within your mind? Do you want to be rid of it so much you just push it away as hard as you can? We all have this seemingly mindless chatter that takes control of the driver seat of our emotional lives.
While coaching Michael Hsu, Cynthia Loy Darst displays her most passionate work, The Inside Team. Through this session she shows us all how to turn toward these seemingly uncontrollable voices, so we can see what they are really saying in order to regain control of our lives.
To learn more about The Inside Team, watch her Tedx talk, Safe Inside Yourself.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXSORojaxBc
We've all had an upbringing that has grealty shaped who we are and what life expereinces we have. The problem is that we only feel the pain of our past wounds without having any idea where it comes from. I personally suffer from anxiety of trying to feel safe and using things like work productivity and accomplishments to feel this temporary and superficial feeilng of safety. In the next episdoe, I will be the client and you will see what is the underlying cause to my need to feel safe and the anxiety caused by it.
As you listen, what I ask of you is to dig deep and think about the underlyng roots to your negative emotions and feelings. Our emotions are only the tip of the icerberg and to be free of them we must see roots of the problem within the body of the iceberg underneath the water.
What you will often see as the root of the problem is how we stab ourselves with our past wounds and hurt. How we recreate the pain of our past.
What I offer here on Heal From the Ground Up truly comes from an intimate journey of mine. It's a journey and story that I have been witholding from you all because to be honest I wasn't honoring my own story and the true value I had to offer. I have created a platform for so many coaches but I forgot to use my platform to tell my own story. And this podcast is about telling you that story so you can see how Heal From the Ground Up is intimately tied to my life's lessons.
The interesting thing is that today's podcast is my first monologue. And it was completely unscripted. This is something that up until recently, I thought I was completely incapable of. But based off the life changing conversation with my friend Paul Colaianni from the Overwhelmed Brain podcast in episode 14, I learned I was previously mistakenly trying to attain value, worth and greatness through my visions in life. What I know now is that I no longer need to do that because that greatness is arleady within myself and can never be taken away. This gives me the freedom to relax, play and live life in the moment.
If you have been following my podcast, I believe in this monologue you will witness my blossoming transformation. The direction of my podcast and my life is going to go to another level that I could not have imagined before. I now can enjoy the ride and I invite you to join me. You are not going to regret it.
Warmly,
Michael
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Who are you at your core? Who are you without your goals, dreams and to-do list? Because who you are at the core does not change based on how well you complete your goals and dreams. It is your intrinsic worth that is untouchable. It is the indestructible beauty that you were born with. This is the biggest lesson Ilearned in this conversation with my friend Paul Colaianni from the Overwhelmed Brain podcast. This conversation was coincidentally recorded and what originally was a conversation about podcasting became a coaching session about my self-limiting beliefs that have me tense up when I hit the record button. I had this fear of making mistakes because I felt my sense of worthiness was attached to the success of my goals, dreams and visions. What my friend Paul was able to uncover was my intrinsic worth which is the greatest value I have to offer to others and to myself. Listen to this podcast as this conversation was life changing for me and I know it will be life changing for you as well.
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The caller Mave states that she lacks confidence and finds herself very vulnerable to taking on others' opinions of her. She can spend a whole day ruminating about another's opinion of her. As a child, she learned to not trust herself. We went through a process of discovering the experiences that resulted in not trusting herself, and how to start to love herself – instead of giving authority to others to define her worth and make her feel safe. I helped her to establish a personal connection with a spiritual source of love and truth to help her in her healing. I take Mave through the Six Step Inner Bonding process and by the end of the session, she feels much more confident.
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Michael Hsu, the caller I will be coaching, was working with the dynamic of needing to attain perfection before launching a new project. The focus was primarily on the outcome and “getting it right.” This is a classic struggle and although we believe that “getting it right” makes a better product, it often has the detrimental effect. The authenticity and flow of the project suffers or worse yet, the project never even sees the light of day. Michaels sense of himself as a man had become attached to the outcomes of his endeavors. This is a common trap that the majority of men fall into.
Typically our attention on outcome rather than process is tied to our sense of worthiness. We believe that our worthiness is tied to the success or failure of how we perform in executing an idea or project.
Michael and I discovered that bringing a sense of carefree playfulness to his work would not only create a better and more creative and flexible outcome, but would also increase the joy that Michael could experience while in process.
In a period of basking in being in love, Michael, the caller notices discomfort that won't let him relax: Is it okay to be happy? Is it safe not to work hard all the time? Does he need to reach for a problem when there isn't one handy? Together, we look at the religion of productivity and the possibility of navigating instead by joy. I walk Michael through a two-part process of minding the pain body and tending the mind—applicable to anything anyone goes through. I also offer a formula for change: set an intention for the new way, then catch yourself in the old way.
Being abandoned is an illusory pain. It is illusory because the pain is so severe that in order to protect our sense of worthiness we take it out our consciousness and embed deep into our subconscious. We still feel the pain of abandonment but we do not know what this feeling is and may project it onto other people who are not responsible for it.
The caller here, Gina, feels like she cannot trust her partner because in her childhood she witnessed her single father’s problem of dating multiple women at the same time. Though her father has never abandoned her, it is the pain of the abandonment that she feels and projects onto him.
We all are guilty of abandoning ourselves in some way. I have personally abandoned myself when I become so fixated on outcomes of work that I lose the sense of joy and purpose of the work I love and most importantly I forget to take care of myself. Please listen to this powerful podcast and find out what is the true source of Gina’s abandonment, while beginning to explore your own source of abandonment as well.
For most of my life I have struggled with being too selfless. Interestingly, the people that have irritated me the most in my life have been selfish. Although it is very important that we give to others, the most important person we need to give to is ourselves. Having said that, giving to ourselves becomes much more complicated when we have been emotionally abandoned or neglected by our family. How can we give to ourselves when the most important people that brought us into this world did not give us what we deserved.
The caller here, Katherine wants to establish a feeling of community and family outside of her own. She doesn't feel truly appreciated by them so she wants to establish this feeling elsewhere. Although she has experienced a lot of turmoil with her family growing up, she believes the past is in the past now. This has led to tremendous feelings of invalidation and keeps her from truly moving on because our feelings make up who we are and they must be validated in order to validate ourselves. Listen to this powerful podcast coached by me and Kay so you can also dig deep and see what it takes to truly put yourself first despite one's family wounds.
If you missed the previous episode (episode 7: The Danger of Not Trusting Yourself), please listen to episode 7 first. As episode 8 is a continuation of episode 7. In episode 7 we focused on Deborah’s relationship with her husband where she felt constantly marginalized, and made to feel less than. What kept her from leaving the relationship or really standing up for herself was the fear of instability that she would feel if she left his financial security. And this was doubly tormenting for her since she saw as teen her single mother struggle day in and day out to support a family all on her own since her father struggled with infidelity and being there for the family during that time. What ultimately gave her a sense of peace was giving her inner child that stability she desperately craved in her adult life.
Me and Kay coached Deborah and her mother Cookie in Cookie’s home. Cookie was separated from her husband for a long time but in recent years, Cookie chose to go back living with her husband, Deborah’s father. And you will soon see, what suddenly came up in the session was Deborah’s desire to say certain things to her father that she had never talked him about.
Since the recording took place in Cookie’s home, Deborah’s father was in his room the whole time we were recording. So we took this wonderful opportunity for them to have this long awaited conversation. This is an extremely rare conversation that all families across the world need to have. Family trouble is something we normally brush under the rug because it’s too painful to deal with. And I’m telling you this moment between a father and his daughter was priceless to witness. Without sharing any further details, start listening to this episode!
When we don't trust ourselves we may get stuck in a pattern of unhealthy behavior that mask our lack of trust in ourselves. The caller Deborah tolerates a lot of verbal abuse from her husband in large part because of the fear that she cannot stand on her own two feet. This lack of trust in herself stems from her tumultuous childhood. Her father struggled with infidelity and her single mother struggled immensely to make ends meet from raising a family all on her own. Ultimately we will see a powerful display of how she allows her inner child to feel trusted by her.
We have a unique opportunity here as Michael Hsu and Kay Yamaguchi have the luxury of going to the caller’s home and coaching Deborah and her mother Cookie together. There is a lot we can learn from Deborah and her mother Cookie as they participate together in honest and courageous discussions. The very discussions that we all try to avoid within our families.
The degree of lack of love within ourselves is to the same degree that we'll experience a lack of love in our relationships. We can feel lost and confused as to why life is keeping something we deeply desire and feel we deserve.
Often people end up feeling like there's something wrong with them because they're still single. Only the vulnerability of personal responsibility can help us see clearly how we are (unconsciously) contributing to our inner experience of lack. This naturally results in closing the gap between us and what we already have access to that we didn't see before.
For the most part we all think we do love ourselves but when we look really closely our actions may say otherwise. It doesn’t help that society praises sacrifice, care and devotion to others but very little praise is given to loving and caring for yourself which is often misperceived as selfish. Our lives have become so fast-paced and busy that our core needs become lost in all of our responsibility towards others.
This podcast Michael Hsu and Kay Yamaguchi have the luxury of coaching a group of co-workers to see what it means to truly love and care for themselves. What I love about group healing is that there is a synergistic effect of people being vulnerable and supporting each other. For one, you know that we are not alone. Our fear of being alone, shames us so we can’t heal ourselves because we are afraid of telling others about our struggles. Secondly, by hearing others speak you learn from one another. As you listen to this podcast you will learn with this group of co-workers on what it means to love yourself.
How is it that the mere mention of something like global warming can cause rifts between family members? It's hard enough to be graceful colliding with the beliefs of perfect strangers. How do we navigate that discord with loved ones without disconnecting? For those aspiring to unconditional love, forgiveness, tolerance, we often disconnect from ourselves in our reactiveness and end up feeling as infuriated with ourselves as we are with them. Here, we look at welcoming ourselves to the human race: who hasn’t felt the friction of conflicting belief systems? When we begin with being gentle with ourselves in our reactiveness, we can then gently dismantle the reactions.
Patti, the caller, brings to the session her anger with family members who have beliefs that don't match hers, compounded by her anger toward herself for being unaccepting and unloving. She longs to bring her best self forward (the one who can meet anyone on the planet from a space of generosity and goodwill) and connect with them from a place of love. Jaya helps her to explore her thinking using the inquiry system called The Work of Byron Katie.
When we take on big challenges and enter into unknown territory our fears of failure and our sense of danger are at their peak. That’s understandable, but not always the most helpful. In this coaching session we learn how to be with the fear, stop fighting it, transform it, stop identifying with it, let it go and then allow the authentic truth of our power and beauty return to us and move through us. We learn how to stand in our fearful circumstances in our authentic joy and power and peace.
Do you feel hopeless and feel like you will be single forever? Before we project what’s wrong onto the dating world, we have got to see what we are and are not doing to prevent ourselves from attracting our life partner. What are the blocks that are keeping you from meeting your life partner? Let’s take a look at today’s caller, Jodi, and see what we can learn from this coaching session on how to find true love and what may be blocking us.
What happens when we mask our childhood wounds? We think everything is in the past, but the truth is if it is left unresolved it will continue to control your life. Here you will see the caller Vince explore his current feelings and his past experiences and see the missing link between the two. However, knowing the connection is not enough. You must do the work in order to heal. It’s important to come face to face with the pain you’ve been hiding for so long.