LET’S TALK ATTACHMENTS: Recent Episodes
Jessica Da Silva, LMFT
Welcome to “Let’s Talk Attachments”, a podcast all about ATTACHMENT THEORY! My name is Jessica Da Silva and I’m a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Attachment Coach helping you transform the way you experience love by teaching you the ins and outs of your attachment style in a practical and relatable way. Website: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Email: hello@jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I share my personal experience of recovering from my recent breakup of almost 7 years (from a secure approach).
Is the grass greener on the other side? Tune in to learn more :)
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1-1 Attachment Coaching With Me: https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn helpful tips on how to communicate with someone who has a fearful avoidant attachment style.——— 1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are for the dismissive avoidant attachment style, how to address them, and helpful tips for effective communication.———1-1 Attachment Coaching: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Communication is important because it meets fundamental emotional needs that are at the root of our challenges. In this episode, you will learn what these emotional needs are, how to address them with those you love, and helpful tips on how to communicate effectively to create emotional intimacy.———Attachment Coaching (for individual’s and couples) - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this week's podcast episode, I share four practical ways to connect to your “secure self” so that you can make decisions from a place of authenticity versus insecurity.——Attachment Coaching - Let’s work together - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Many of you know I was in a relationship for over six years. Though it was a beautiful relationship and healthy in many ways, some major core differences and incompatibilities made it challenging. In this episode, I share the struggle with navigating fear versus truth in our decisions and the importance of trusting yourself.———1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Today on the podcast, we have Shanenn Bryant, a relationship confidence expert, and the host of the Top Self podcast. Shanenn has inspired thousands to break up with bogus beliefs, crack the control code, and overhaul their insecure habits. We talk about:-How jealousy can manifest in your relationships.-How to change your relationship to jealousy.-Viewing jealousy as a symptom and solution to your underlying attachment wounds.-Steps to navigate jealousy in a healthy, secure way.———Find Shanenn:Website- www.topself.comInstagram- @topselfcoach———Find Jessica:Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram- @thejessicadasilva
Today on the podcast, we have Rowan Garlow, a trauma recovery practitioner who utilizes Voice Dialogue, Somatic Experiencing, Inner Child, and Soul Retrieval for healing and integrating unresolved trauma.We talk about:-What is trauma recovery work?-What attachment trauma looks like specifically.-How trauma manifests in our behaviors.-Why your “over-reactions” are gateways to your healing.-How to heal attachment trauma.———Find Rowan:Website- www.rowangarlow.comInstagram- @rowangarlow———Find Jessica:Website- www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram- @thejessicadasilva
In this episode, I talk about why each attachment style tolerates difficult or painful relationships, why we aren’t stuck to these ways of experiencing love, and tips on how to move beyond our limitations.——Find me here:1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram - @thejessicadasilva
Dr. Anita Kuhnley is an author, esteemed scholar, expert counselor, and speaker who just released a book called “The Four Relationship Styles: How Attachment Theory Can Help in Your Search for Lasting Love.” We talk about: -The breakdown of each relationship style (aka attachment style).-Strengths and challenges of each attachment style.-How knowing the relationship styles help us in dating and relationships.-If incompatible attachment style dynamics can work out for the long haul.-Tips to make incompatible attachment styles within relationships work. (Ex, anxious and avoidant)-How to shift from insecure to secure attachment from a realistic standpoint.Find Anita:www.dranitakunhley.comInstagram: @the.empathetic.counselor———Find Jessica:www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram: @thejessicadasilva
Imani Tutt, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Intuitive Coach talks about relationship compromise, why it’s normal, and healthy versus unhealthy compromising.——-Find Imani here:https://imaniintouch.comInstagram: @imani.intouch——-Find Jessica here:www.jessicadasilvacoaching.comInstagram: @thejessicadasilva
In this week’s podcast episode, Dr. Holly Batchelder, a Seattle-based licensed clinical psychologist, shares her expertise on relationship anxiety and OCD, their major differences, how they manifest in our lives, and how to treat it to experience a fulfilling life.You can find Dr. Holly here:instagram: holly.phdwebiste: www.hollyphd.compodcast: twinmindsunwind———You can learn more about attachment coaching and e-courses here:www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this week's podcast episode, I talk about the difference between needs and expectations. Understanding this distinction can alleviate anxiety and create more fulfilling relationships.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
In this week's podcast episode, I address the fear many of us hold about why we attract toxic people and the real (transformative) questions we need to be asking ourselves instead.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self E-Course - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
PODCASTIn this week's podcast episode, I share how having alcoholic parents (one or both) can influence the development of anxious, dismissive avoidant or fearful avoidant attachment style, as well as steps you can take to shift these patterns and learned identity.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
In this week's podcast episode, I share my personal experience with navigating the distance in my relationship, as we tend to spend long periods apart due to the nature of his work. I also talk about the challenges of anxious-avoidant dynamics and how we make it work.—————1:1 Attachment Coaching - https://www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2My Secure Self - https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
Relationship ambivalence (aka, confusion or indecision) is very common for those of us who have an anxious, dismissive avoidant, or fearful avoidant attachment style. In this episode, I help you understand your ambivalence and give you steps to take on how to navigate these complexities with more clarity.
Today on the podcast we have a special guest. Alicia is a former attachment coaching client of mine sharing her experience with having an anxious attachment style, learning to let go of control, prioritizing herself and her needs, healing from heartache and abandonment trauma, and understanding how her attachment style impacts so many significant areas of her life.———————$300 OFF Coupon Code: FLASHSALE https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course———————1:1 Attachment Coaching: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Dismantle misconceptions about developing a secure attachment style and learn how to measure your progress accurately.———Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Learn about how each attachment style moves through the 5 relationship stages. This episode focuses highly on the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant).———Coach with me: jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Today on the podcast, we have Kelsey Wonderlin. Kelsey is a licensed therapist and a dating and relationship coach. She helps women who struggle with anxiety attract & HOLD ONTO a healthy relationship. She is also passionate about debunking the myths many of us have been taught about what a healthy relationship looks like.In this episode, we dive deep into relationship anxiety, the realities of dating, and how to better differentiate what is our insecurity versus what is our truth.Kelsey Wonderlin: https://coaching.kelseywonderlin.com/—— Jessica Da Silva: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com
Today we have a special guest, Alexa. She is a mother, a humanitarian, a leader, a former client of mine, and just a beautiful soul who was willing to come onto the podcast and share her story of navigating love with an anxious attachment style, how understanding attachment theory brought so much clarity to her marriage, the challenges that come with anxious-avoidant relationship dynamics, her grieving process with the recent separation of her marriage and the lessons she has learned through all of it.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I share what research says about whether we can actually change our attachment style.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I share some hard truths about how insecure attachments (anxious, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant variations) experience relationships in hopes of cultivating more self-acceptance and realistic expectations for themselves and others.
——— Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I share my experience with relationship anxiety in hopes of normalizing the ebbs and flows that naturally occur in relationships, especially those with insecure attachments.———Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I share why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other from an attachment lens, and how they can work towards creating a secure bond.
These tips apply for all attachment style dynamics. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
In this episode, I share how understanding attachment styles can help your relationships in a multitude of ways. This includes relationships with partner, friends, family, and colleagues. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
In this episode, I share some major differences between coaching and therapy, in order to help you identify which approach is best for you. I also share why I transitioned from working as a Mental Health Therapist to an Attachment Coach. ——— Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/
What you'll learn…
- The challenges of co-parenting and how to navigate it in a secure way
- The importance of setting boundaries to reclaim your power
- How to identify red flags in a relationship
- Overcoming toxic relationships
- Dating as a single mom
——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
What you'll learn…
- Defining relationship self-sabotage.
- How each attachment style (including secure attachments) may sabotage dating and relationships.
- Why they behave in these unhealthy ways.
- How to stop pushing those you love away.
——— 1:1 Attachment Coaching - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
What you’ll learn in this episode:-Why we have difficulty communicating our needs.-The consequences of not communicating our needs directly.-How each attachment style communicates their needs.-Healthier ways of communicating your needs to create relationship satisfaction.———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
What you’ll learn in this episode:-How each attachment style parents their children.-How to form secure bonds with your children.-Why you shouldn’t feel bad about your parenting style.-Why it’s important to break these generational patterns.———— 1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
In this episode, former client, Bouket, shares her experience navigating her fearful avoidant attachment style. We touch on relationship anxiety, intuition vs. fear, finding secure love, managing triggers, balancing the masculine/feminine, and so much more.————1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
In this episode, I share how common it is for our relationship needs to change, how that impacts our life, how to identify what those needs are, and how to navigate those insecurities in a healthy way.1:1 Attachment Coaching: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me-2/My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course
Why did I move away from my fiancé after getting engaged? In this episode, I share my personal experience with saving my relationship through saving myself. Also, how to know the difference between self-sacrifice versus self-neglect.______My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course—— 10% discount code: MEETMYNEEDS
Free 5-Day Series Attachment Style Guide: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.lpages.co/attachement-guide/ My Secure Self E-Course: https://jessicadasilva.mykajabi.com/my-secure-self-e-course Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Today's guest is Chris Rackliffe. Chris is an author and Anxious Attachment Coach who shares his personal story, wisdom, and tips to guiding anxious attachers into more joy and fulfillment.
Book: It’s Good To See Me Again Tiktok: @crackliffe Instagram: @crackliffe
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Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
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Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about how the insecure attachment styles (anxious, dismissive avoidant and fearful avoidant) cope with relationship anxiety.
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Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about how (and why) anxious and fearful avoidant attachments identify as “caretaker”, “savior” and/or “fixer” in their relationships and how to shift these roles in order to promote more balanced relationships.
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In this episode, Relationship Anxiety Coach and founder of Anxious Love Coach, Natalie Kennedy, shares her personal experience with relationship anxiety, her process for managing this anxiety, the multidimensionality of attachment styles, as well as how she uses feminine and masculine polarity to create balanced relationships. ______________ Natalie Kennedy: Instagram @anxiouslovecoach Website: www.anxiouslovecoach.com
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In this episode, writer and content creator behind @anxiousheartsguide, Rikki Cloos, shares the healing power of owning your anxious attachment style. She also gives tons of helpful insights and tips on how to become more securely attached yourself.
______________ Rikki Cloos: Instagram @anxiousheartsguide Book: The Anxious Hearts Guide
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In this episode, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist + Mindfulness Expert Gabrielle Gonzalez shares her challenges with having an Anxious Attachment Style and how self-soothing has helped her cultivate more security within herself and her relationships. Gabrielle shares the benefits of emotional regulation on the brain overt time, as well as some quick tips and strategies for all attachment styles to use when they're feeling anxious. ————————— Gabrielle Contact: ggonzalez@mindfulrevampinc.com Website: https://www.mindfulrevampinc.com Instagram: @gabriellerosegonzalez ______________ My Secure Self Academy: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/ ______________ Find Jessica: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
My goal with this podcast is to give you guys an inside look into my relationship with my mother. If you’ve been listening for a while, you know my mom has played a huge role in my prior fearful avoidant attachment style. Even though we have our rough patches till this day, we’ve both learned to become more secure in our own ways, thus helping us maintain our relationship.
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Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, Ed Coambs, a Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Financial Therapist & Planner, talks about how each attachment style experiences financial anxiety within a relationship and insights on how to approach it in healthier, secure ways.
————————— Find Ed Here:
Website: www.healthyloveandmoney.com
Book: The Healthy Love & Money Way: How The Four Attachment Styles Impact Your Financial Well-Being.
Course: The Couples Guide to Financial Intimacy
Instagram: @healthyloveandmoney https://www.instagram.com/healthyloveandmoney/
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Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, guest speaker Ren Russ talks about her challenges in dating and relationships with having an avoidant attachment style. Ren speaks to the complexities and the multidimensional nature of our attachment style(s). If you’re ready to understand the fears that drive the avoidant’s behaviors and how to become more secure, definitely tune into this conversation.
————————— Ren Russ Contact: neonphoenixinc@gmail.com Instagram: @blondelobotomy
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In this episode, I talk about some key essential elements for deciphering whether your needs are or are not being met in your relationship and what to do. This episode will give you clarity moving forward.
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Todays podcast episode is a little different as I am sharing an interview in which I was a guest on Jemma Joels The Dating Diaries Podcast.
I loved our conversation so much that I asked her if I could share the episode on my personal podcast as we touch on a lot of commonly asked questions: —How to create a healthy and happy relationship considering our attachment styles?—How to tell someone’s attachment style in the early stages of dating? —The difference between self sacrifice and self neglect within a relationship?
And lots of good tips and tools on how these experiences…
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Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, Intimacy and Dating Coach Priyanka Yadvendu shares her story of healing her Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and finally experiencing her first secure relationship.
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————————— Priyanka’s instagram @wildyintimate
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In this episode, former coaching client Meghan Kelley shares her journey of overcoming her fearful avoidant attachment style and her favorite tools to becoming more secure.
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In this episode, I talk about how each attachment style experiences relationships with other attachment styles and tips to mitigate certain challenges that arise with these specific dynamics.
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In this episode, I talk about how each attachment style deals with break-ups…From their general thoughts and feelings to their behavioral responses. This will help you understand what they may be experiencing through an attachment lens.
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Learn about how attachment trauma gets passed down from generation to generation and how to begin breaking these painful cycles!
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What does setting boundaries in a relationship look like?—-In this episode, I share my experience of lacking boundaries in the past and the impact it had on my attachment style + what setting boundaries has looked like in my current relationship.
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In this episode, I shed light on why abandonment is the root of our attachment insecurities, what abandonment looks like, how we respond to it in regards to our attachment style and my go-to process of reframing these fears into secure ways of operating.
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In this episode, I interview Morgan Bolender and Scott Ferreter from the band The Feelings Parade about their relationship/band dynamic and how their attachment styles have manifested in their love lives. Their transparency sheds light on the uniqueness of each relationship. ————————— The Feelings Parade @thefeelingsparade https://link.thefeelingsparade.com/Loose_Boards —————————
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In this episode, I talk about the difference between self-sacrifice and self-neglect and when to let go of a relationship.
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————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about how attachment styles experience insecurities that arise in work + career. I also share tips on how to reframe these insecure thought patterns into secure belief systems.
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————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, social worker and former coaching client, Priyanka Sahajpal, shares her journey, her challenges, her victories with healing her attachment style and embodying her secure self.
This episode has tons of wisdom, relatable examples and tools to help you on your journey as well.
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Priyanka Sahajpal (Instagram): @priyankaelohel
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In this episode, we talk about the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and their conflicted + self-sabotaging ways of experiencing love. I also share my favorite therapeutic strategies to begin cultivating a secure attachment style.
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In this episode, Natalie Holbrook and I talk about attachment styles and how astrology can help us understand these relationship patterns in more intricate ways.
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In this episode I share why buying an Audi helped me embody my Secure Self. Cultivating a secure attachment style shifts our relationship to everything in life!
In this episode, I share my experience of growing up with a Fearful Avoidant / Anxious Attachment Style, how our attachment styles get passed down from generation to generation, and why we can change. ————————— My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style - www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/enroll
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In this episode, I talk about how Anxious Attachment Styles experience relationship anxiety, where it comes from and what it looks like when their attachment system is activated. This episode will shed light on your attachment traumas and patterns. ————————— ENROLL NOW- My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style —www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com/enroll
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In this episode, my boyfriend and I answer your relationship and attachment questions. We’ve been together for 4 years. I have a previous Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style and he is a Secure Attachment with avoidant tendencies. Get the inside scoop on how this dynamic can work. ————————— Free Live Webinar Training : 4 Steps To Kick Start Your Journey From An Anxious To A Secure Attachment—RSVP via this link—- https://linktr.ee/thejessicadasilva
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In this episode, I talk about what relationship anxiety looks like for each of the attachment styles, how we respond to it and healthier ways to manage these anxieties. ————————— Join the waitlist for My Secure Self Academy: For The Anxious Attachment Style: https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61dfaf816758a3ddd643eff8
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In this episode, I share how each attachment style experiences co-dependency and how to begin breaking those relational patterns.
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I’m this episode, I share how we can go from an Anxious to an Avoidant Attachment Style and steps to bring yourself back into balance.
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In this episode, we talk about certain major misconceptions of the anxious attachment style and the underlying roots to these “troublesome” behaviors. I also share tools on how to become more secure. ————————— Become a Founding Member by using link below (copy paste this link into your web browser): https://view.flodesk.com/pages/61d22832b0306b55f06cb270
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In this episode, I humanize the avoidant attachment’s most troublesome behaviors by discussing the root causes. I also give you practical steps to shift from avoidant to secure attachment. ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: (book a free Clarity Call with me) at www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this weeks episode, I do a deep dive into the Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style (aka Disorganized or Anxious-Avoidant Attachment) and share my personal story of how I developed a Fearful Avoidant Attachment and my journey to security.
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In this episode, I talk about the 4 types of boundaries and how each attachment style experiences those boundaries. I also share steps on how to begin cultivating healthier boundaries in order to navigate the uncertainties of life with more freedom and grace. ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about common relationship deal breakers for each attachment style and how to determine if your relationship is worth fighting for and when it’s possibly time to call it quits. ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about how the 4 attachment styles experience friendships differently. This understanding will help you have more compassion for your experiences, for other people and hopefully guide you into more secure attachment.
————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about why you should or shouldn’t be in a relationship if you have an insecure attachment style. There is so much healing to be had if you go into a relationship with the right intentions, and on the contrary, a lot of damage that can be done if our hearts aren’t in the right place… ————————— Find me at: Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I share research studies of why each attachment style (anxious preoccupied, fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant & secure) may cheat from a psychological and attachment perspective.
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In this episode, you will learn why anxious attachments use sex as a go-to coping mechanism for relationship anxiety, where it comes from, if it’s “bad” or “fixable” and how to begin challenging these ways of experiencing love so that you can cultivate more inner security.
Anxious to Secure Attachment Meditation: https://youtu.be/fmE8bKiQfiA
Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com ——— Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching
In this episode, you will learn why you can have more than one attachment orientation and the different influences that factor into your multidimensional attachment style. I also share my personal story of transitioning from anxious to fearful avoidant to secure attachment in hopes that you gain a better understanding of how attachments work in our lives.
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In this episode, I share 5 ways in how you can best support your avoidant partner. We go deep into understanding their attachment traumas, the result of these traumas, and how other attachment types (especially anxious styles) can live more harmoniously with their avoidant partner.
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Do you feel as though you constantly need validation, reassurance or connection with your partner? If so, this episode is for you! Learn where you learned these ways of relating, how it plays out in your relationships and steps to becoming more secure!
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In this episode, I briefly share the psychology behind why anxious and avoidant attachments are attracted to each other. This is the most common attachment dynamic, however also the most complicated one due to subconscious factors. Hopefully this episode will give you some clarity! ——— Free Attachment Style Quiz: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com Instagram: @thejessicadasilva Tiktok: @jessicadasilvacoaching Coach with me: www.jessicadasilvacoaching.com
In this episode, I talk about what Attachment Theory is, how it was developed within us and what the 4 different attachment styles look like.
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In this episode I share my personal experience of my last 3 months traveling the U.S. with my boyfriend and the impact it had on my mental and physical health. We often overlook our feelings, not being aware of the intelligence they hold, and I hope that this personal experience will help you shift your relationship and perspective to your emotions so that you can start using them as your personal guides! Cultivating emotional intelligence is KEY to having a secure attachment.
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Hello! Long time no chat! As my coaching work has evolved, so have my platforms. I wanted to focus this channel on helping you better understand the Attachment Theory framework as it pertains to your life and your relationships. This will be a space for transparent, vulnerable and relatable sharings in hopes you can easily digest and implement these learnings into your own life. Enjoy.
One of the biggest reasons why many of us don’t leave our partners is because we’ve put them on a pedestal, meaning, we’ve exalted them in such a way that we don’t feel as worthy or valued without their presence in our lives.
In this episode, I talk about how this “pedestaling” has played a significant role in my love life and how to begin adding more value to your own life so that you can feel innately worthy with it without them.
In this episode, I answer the question that so many wonder: “Can I heal within a relationship or should I be alone?”
Whether you’re thinking about taking a break for a solo healing journey or committing again to a relationship, this conversation will surely shed light on your decision as I share my own personal journey of becoming whole (and committing again) after a series of toxic relationships.
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On this weeks podcast I speak with Habit Forming Health Coach Mezena Bagnall about her experience of transforming self-sabotaging behaviors, both in relationships and in life, into healthier ways of relating to herself and other’s. Her personal story is so inspiring and of course, I asked her to share some of her personal strategies so that you too can benefit from these amazing tools.
Mezena Instagram: @Mezena Mezena email: mezena@live.ca
I’m this episode, Relationship Coach, Inna Mel shares her own personal story of breaking unhealthy relationship dynamics, her journey of self-discovery & healing, as well as tools she learned along the way, which she now gets to teach to her 1:1 coaching clients.
Inna’s Website: www.innamel.com Instagram: @iaminnamel
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In this weeks episode, Human Design expert Kelly Roland explains what Human Design is, the different types involved, and how knowing our type can better help us understand ourselves and our relationships.
I’m super excited about sharing this conversation with you guys 💡Over the last few months, I’ve been diving deep into human design myself and have been resonating so much with this multifaceted system of understanding human behavior and our energy DNA. It’s also given me really great insight into my partners personality and our relationship dynamic as a whole.
I hope you enjoy it as much as I did! ——— Kelly Roland info: Instagram- @whenthestarsaligned_ You can see all of her offerings through her Instagram page.
In this episode, holistic mentor Celina Stobbe from @alignedwithcelina vulnerably shares her story about her 8 year recovery process from anorexia. We talk about the many factors that fed into her dieting obsession, the repercussions it had on her relationships and how she’s using her story to help other women today. ——- Celina’s info: www.alignedwithcelina.com Instagram: @alignedwithcelina
In this episode, actress and founder/host of TV show @findyourjoy.tv shares her experience of overcoming a long history of toxic dating patterns, guidance as to how she journeyed back to herself, as well as her beautiful perspectives on dating today!
Find Megan here: Instagram: @meganleejoy Find Your Joy TV Show: findyourjoy.tv
In this episode, Shealyn shares her struggles with anxiety and depression, what that looked like for her, and how she was able to finally accept and embrace her experience.
With this new found knowledge (and strength), she now shares self-development and mindset tips, advice and ideas on her blog livingembrace.ca.
More Info: "Empowered Living" 8 Week 1:1 Coaching Program with Jessica Da Silva - https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/
In this week's episode, Amanda and I dive deep into:
·Narcisstic abuse ·What it was like for her to grow up in a chaotic & negligent household ·The effects of having a mother who lacks empathy & the extent to which a person will go in order to get that validation & love from a parent ·How we re-create painful past experiences in our current lives ·The benefits of not saving or enabling our parents bad behaviors ·Being "perfect" or "productive" to gain a parents love ·Creating healthy boundaries with toxic parents ·Letting go of the guilt and shame ·How she found her new identity once she broke free from who people needed her to be
I can't tell you how amazing this podcast was. So healing to have someone bring these issues to light.
Amanda's Info: www.breakupwithyourmother.com Instagram: @breakupwithyourmother Facebook: Breakup with your mother
Jessica's 8-week "Empowered Living" Coaching Program: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/
In this episode, Lisa shares her long journey with Anxiety and Panic Disorder (since age 6), emphasizing that knowledge was really the key factor in her healing process. In our talk, we explore the nature to her anxiety and different methods she uses to thrive amongst it. Now, Lisa shares her story openly on different platforms, allowing others to find peace and empowerment within their own stuggles with anxiety...Such a powerful talk! You don't wanna miss.
Lisa Poe info: www.adventuresandanxiety.com Instagram: @adventuresandanxiety
To learn more about "Empowered Living” 8 week private coaching program, visit: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/
In Episode #6, I am personally sharing with you my experience of committing to a new relationship after a long cycle of toxic relationships. I also share with you tools and techniques that I used on myself and that I use with coaching clients to overcome unresolved emotions keeping us stuck in unhealthy patterns and to maintain peace & harmony in our current relationships. They're amazing and so effective!
If you're interested in coaching with me one-on-one to overcome your own patterns of toxic relationships and finally experience healthy love, visit: https://jessicadasilvacoaching.com/coach-with-me/
In this episode, meditation teacher and founder of @innerrebel.co shares her experience of the shame around unexpected pregnancy, the judgments she overcame from the traditional ideals that so many of us hold about what starting a family "should look like", and finding empowerment & fulfillment from fully embracing motherhood.
Truly a rebel at heart, Lauren sought out to create her own meaning and a life she wanted, despite opposing views. And now, she is sharing her story publicly for the first time on my podcast (which is so awesome 👏🏽) and has been on a mission to help people think more deeply about their life so they can find their own personal freedom.
Lauren Lee Info: Instagram: innerrebel.co App: Insight Timer (meditations)
Resources Lauren suggests for parents:
The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children https://g.co/kgs/iPfjJu
Positive Parenting: An Essential Guide https://g.co/kgs/96qS6f https://www.handinhandparenting.org https://insig.ht/9zKtdzMT8Z
In Episode #5, Mental Health Therapist (and former colleague) Alia Elasmar shares her struggles with work/life balance, the implications of working in a toxic environment, the physical & emotional ramifications it had on her life and what she did/learned through the process in order to experience more fulfillment in her career and in her personal life.
In Episode #4, Writer and Mindset Coach, Melina Charis, shares her journey with overcoming perfectionism and how she managed her crippling anxiety. Melina goes in depth with her struggle with the inner critic, imposter syndrome, creating healthy boundaries with social media, finding her passion through trying new things, as well as using creativity and mindfulness as a catalyst to her growth and well-being.
Melina’s info: www.melinacharis.com Instagram: @melinacharis
In Episode #3, Mental Health Therapist (and fellow colleague) Gabrielle Rose Gonzalez discusses her grieving process from recently broken friendships and how she turned her pain into peace and power through creative expressions.
Gabrielle Instagram: @sugarforthepsyche
For more info on my digital Masterclass "From Pain To Peace, Power & Purpose" visit https://mailchi.mp/ab98d2338130/masterclass
In this week's episode, Life + Mindset Coach Julie Nelson shares her life long journey of battling anxiety & depression, as well as how she overcame the stigma of her experience with postpartum depression, sharing the tools she gained to create peace within these challenges, power in her breakdowns, and purpose as she now serves to empower other mom's to create more fulfillment and joy in their daily lives.
Julie's website: www.julienelsoncoaching.com Julie's Instagram: @julienelsoncoaching
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In this episode I chat with Jim about his spiritual and healing journey which has changed his life forever. What some may call a mental disorder, Jim & many others believe to be a spiritual awakening.