Believe Again by Maelynn Lim: Recent Episodes
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- Are you a stay-at-home mom for too many years?
- Tired of your mundane daily routine & endless 24/7 household chores?
- Feel that life is like that stagnant water waiting for that Andes mosquito to lay eggs?
- Completely forgotten about who you are and losing your self-worth?
- Oh... what about sex? Cannot get turned-on anymore?
Now it's time to open your hidden box of colour pencils and make it colourful, glorious and vibrant again. Yes! You can! Overcome your fears, find your purpose and ignite that passion in you! It's time to believe you are possible.
Welcome to BeLieve Again. Hi I'm Maelynn, The Detox Chef.
In this episode, I will be sharing with you - How to chase after rainbows if life is filled with gloomy clouds...
Once upon a time there was a stay-at-home mom...call Maelynn. She has 2 awesome kids and a wonderful husband. Life was good for her as she doesn't have to wake up at 7am, dress up and rush to work taking the perpetually crowded MRT train and squeezing with tje early morning commuters!! She just need to stay at home to make sure the house is spick and span.... finish the household chores and then relax lor... think her life is easy... think again. Dream on man!!!!
Reality bites! Maelynn wakes up at 5.30am.
6am - After brushing her teeth, irons her teenager's uniform and office shirt.
6.15am - She has to take out the meat and veggies to prepare pack lumch for her son who working in the business district area so he can cut down his expenses
6.20am - Prepares breakfast for her daughter
6.35am - Chauffeur her to the nearest mrt station
7am - Co tinue with the pack meal preparation
7.30am - Makes breakfast for her son
8am - Wakes up hubby and make breakfast for him
8.30am - Tidy the bedroom and the kids room
9am - Put clothes into washing machine
10am - My own breakfast
10.30am - Dry the clothes
11am - Prepare lunch
12noon - Lunch
2pm - 5pm Hooray! finally Google & Facebook time! Time to do something worthy for myself!
5pm - Prepare Dinner! Cook again!
7pm - Wash up
8pm - Keep the clothes
9pm - Bath. Read. Rest & Relax
11pm - Sleep.
Deep down inside me, I wasn't really happy cos there are some unfulfilled goals. I wanted to get out of this mundane life and I felt that I am capable of more challenging and meaningful stuff. I also wanted to contribute and achieve financial freedom... I have a lot of invaluable experience and wanted to build a business online.. but I was scared and clueless how to kick start any business online. One day, I was googling for some hope and answers and I saw a group of successful Soul Rich woman entrepreneurs with Genecia. They have my favourite "F" word & I love their motto "Alone I am Strong, Together we are Unstoppable!" Fate brought me to Soul Rich Woman.
Welcome to BeLieve Again. Hi I'm Maelynn, The Detox Chef.
In this episode, I will be sharing with you - How to work as a team to Build a Stronger Family
I always feel that a marriage is like a game where my husband and me Must work as a team to overcome all obstackes to get to the finishing point! Both of us need to put in effort to get to the finishing mark. Think of Xmen, Batman & Robin and you are on your way to a successful relationship. Yes! we will have differences but it's constructive differences. Pleaseeeeee don't think of The Hunger Games because that one will have only one winner - it's the survival if the fittest! Don't fight to win! Hahaha!
My parents brought me up to be a warrior and not a worrier! I had chosen to marry this man, so whatever happens, I will look on the bright side and just solve all argument and differences that somehow or rather will just hit us!
Aperfect example will be that time when he was diagnosed with type 2 Diabetes. His world came crashing down and he simply gave up and prefer to succumb to self pity and reproach! But I see if differently. I asked him to gv me 3 months to fis his health back... of cos dianetes cannot be cured but if he can bring down his blood glucose level to normal range again, that would be super awesome! Impossible he shrieked... but I had a strong determination... and I became his pillar of strength.
Diet Exercise. Change wasn't easy. The arguments started floating into our relationship again! Why? Why must it be my hubby! I simply refused to surrender to what fate has trash on me and decided we must take action together. Baby steps is the solution... slow but with progress, his blood glusoce level drop to 5.0mmol range. We chose to work together and succeeded!
I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more advice on how to ignite the passion in you to be more confident in managing yourself, your business and also your marriage! Yes! we can have it all!
Welcome to BeLieve Again. Hi I'm Maelynn, The Detox Chef.
In this episode, I will be sharing with you - All about Money & A Happy Family
I consider myself to be the perfect wife to the perfect example of an all rounded chauvistic male.... but money matters can be very scary & bring out the beast in one too! You see ... my hubby is a good man who doesn't drink, gamble or womanize. He's a good man... the only problem is this... he has been brought up in a traditional way where this formula has been imprinted in his head... I work hard to bring back the money, as a wife, I must stay-at-home and show him a spick & span home, dinner on the table 7 days a week, be attentive to his parents, manage and chauffer the kids and of course... sex. OMG! What the heck? What have I gotten myself into? Oh... not forgetting since he brings in the doe, he will have a 100% say on all money issues!
Let me share an unhappy incident with all of you. This incident almost let to a suicide & later a divorce... almost! Yes! Money can be the root of all evil if you see it as the cause and not yourself as the cause. There was a periid od time when my hubby was so engrossed in his work that he sort of forgotten I am a wife and not his bangladesh worker. He tooked a cheque and rudely ordered me to deposit it as soon as possible. To hell with yr check man... not even a ease and thank you! That's it! I tore the chk in two out of anger... I regreyted my actions afyer that cos it almost cost this famy yo shatter into pieces. To him, I am vending my anger on his hard-earned money... He was heart-broken, suicidal and wanted a divorce... so sad right.... I wanted to make him feel the pain and I achieved it but I wasn't happy! It almost wreck my marriage. That was a perfect example of fighting to be right and to hell w happiness! Big mistake!
That serves as a very powerful lesson for both of us telling us not to neglect and take each other for granted.
That incident made our relationship stronger.
My hubby trust me to the extend of lettg me manage the finances for the family. I can choose to spend whatever money that I need to mamage the monthly household expenses. I only spend on neccessities abd I do not splurge on branded stuff like those rich tais tais going for manicure and pedicure. So lucky hor... my hubby. Car, credit card and mobile phones... it's all provided. Shiok right? Yes I love to have that awesome Kate Spake bag... so Chio but I just feel that it's wrong of me to splurge my hubby's hard-earned money... they call 血汗钱.
I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more advice on how to ignite the passion in you to be more confident in managing yourself, your business and also your marriage! Yes! we can have it all!
Welcome to BeLieve Again. Hi I'm Maelynn, The Detox Chef.
In this episode, I will be sharing with you - How to bring out that long forgotten self that has already 'fa mei' over the years!
Take a deep breath... look into the mirror for 1 minute. Say: I am beautiful... You dare or not?
When was the last time you seriously dress-up and don a really 'Chio' make-up to go for a dinner date or partying with your girlfriends. Ok, ok, I hear you... I am a stay-at-home mom for Christ's sake!!! CHIO for what? 100% of my time is spent doing the housework leh so no need lor!!! Nobody will bother to look at this lao aunty lor! Yalor... your hubby see this lao aunty everyday and even need to sleep with her! Hahahaha... Excuse me hor... stay-at-home mom no need to eat arh? I challenge you to dress-up till you get those wolf-whistles... even if it's from your son! Do it! 1st recipe for success... LOVE YOURSELF.
Will you open a bottle of Fu Hua bird nest bottled dessert and drink it for fun? That is what loving ourself is about. Go do it and say Yes! I love myself!
Buy that favorite lingerie fr Victoria Secrets...
My wardrobe is inundated with loads of clothes... it's pack like those sardines inside a can. When I remove an outfit, it gets stuck in between the other clothes! I didn't tidy my wardrobe cos I love my clothes and I feel that they give me the inspiration and motivation that 1 day I will be wearing them again... That's how I kept myself slim. My late mom also left me 4 pieces of beautiful
cheongsum which I had problem filling in when my weight balloon up to 62kg when I was a coach potato chasing after korean dramas... but that
As a stay-at-home mom of 10 years, I realised that women sacrificed their youth, time, energy and money too on their family. My sacrifice started immediately when I tendered my resignation to become a stay-at-home mom. I sacrificed my 20 years creative position to take up this role of a homemaker. I can visualise very well but never have I thought this time round my visualization skills failed big time!!! Believe that if you have never given up on yourself, you can be beautiful again.
I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more advice on how to ignite the passion in you to be more confident in managing yourself, your business and also your marriage! Yes! we can have it all!
Welcome to BeLieve Again. Hi I'm Maelynn, The Detox Chef. In this episode, I will be sharing with you - Who am I & The Magic of Being Happy instead of Being Right!
I have been a 'stay-at-home' mom managing a family of 7 for 10 years. Before this, I was working in the creative industry for 20 years and I was very passionate about my job and of course I love my pay even more! But I had to reluctantly sacrifice my job due to family issues like aging parent-in-law, rebellious domestic helper, my very prone to falling sick premature daughter and here's the worst reason... my husband is earning more than me so I must quit and stay-at-home to be the quai-quai wife & obedient daughter-in-law! Welcome to the real world... I hate it but I had to quit my job to fill in the blanks of being the perfect wife, mother & daughter-in-law... and ya, did I mention the perfect domestic helper as well!
Who you gonna call when there's no more toilet paper? Who you gonna call when there's no more Colgate? Who you gonna call when they cannot find their favourite Renoma briefs or Nike running shoes? Who do they call when hunger pang strikes? Me. Me. Me... Do you know when I go for my Zumba workouts, the whole village gets very worried, worried about me coming back late and also their meals too because the cook went out!!! Sometimes I wish I have a Grab clone service? I know all of you will want it too!
Luckily, there is still hope cos my mom-in-law helps me with the laundry which I hated most cos llaundry is a very tedious a labour intensive job! My sis-in-law help me with the washing of the dishes!
Most of my girlfriends had warned me about staying together with in-laws but I just cannot bring myself to force my hubby to become an unfilial son....it is afterall a good value... so I told myself... this woman is the mother of my husband, I must challenge myself to manage her... & guess what's my recipe for success? i prep myself to treat her like one of my clients whom I just need to work with... and because of this mindset, I always treated her with respect but of course, I never agree with most of her traditional beliefs.... She feels that my daughter should do the housework and not my son! She also feels that a girl should not be so highly educated cos ultimately she will get married and be a homemaker! She just need to find a rich husbamd! OMG! That mindset really Sucks! But I know I just need to work on my own kids and implant in them my beliefs and make sure they don't turn out to be her fruits of beliefs.
How do I survive you may ask... the answer is simple...I just don't change the leopard into a zebra since she's already an octogenarian. It is easier to be happy than to be right! Are you also managing your in-laws? Are you getting along fine with them? Do you choose to be happy instead of trying to be right! Don't expect everyone to follow your path and that will make you one happy woman. Like for me, I focus on the help that my mother-in-law is contributing at home doing the laundry which really makes heave endless sighs of relief. Can you imagine I would have to do all these if she doesn't render any assistance and thinks that as a mother-in-law, I shouldn't lift a finger in the houehold chores.
I look forward to seeing you in my next episode where I will be sharing with you more advice on how to ignite the passion in you to be more confident in managing yourself, your business and also your marriage! Yes! we can have it all!