The Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast: Recent Episodes
Chris O'Hearn
The Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast hosted by Chris O'Hearn is a quick 10-20 minute podcast that will help you get your day started off on the right foot. Words are powerful, so what we state in our life is what we make true for our life. An affirmation is a statement of truth. It is seeing the real potential within ourselves and helping our mind to make our beliefs a reality. This podcast will help you start talking and thinking differently about what is possible, which in turn will make your words become physical to happen in your life.
Words are like magic. You can either create amazing things with what you say, or you can create a destructive force with your words and thoughts. I am looking forward to empowering you to change your life, to find the confidence and courage to become who you have always wanted to be, and begin knowing you are worthy to have amazing things in your life. I am looking forward to connecting with you and seeing you shine.
Sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Chris O'Hearn
Ever find yourself replaying a tense moment, wondering why you reacted the way you did? In this episode, we gently explore those split-second choices that define us—sometimes when we least expect it. Through an honest grocery store encounter, Chris invites you to slow down with him and notice the space between stimulus and response, where you get to decide who you become next.
If you're quietly searching for a way out of old patterns or feel stuck replaying the same stories, this heartfelt conversation may offer just the pause you're looking for. Leave behind the urge to control everything and discover, with calm confidence, how choosing to see things differently might just change everything—even if the world around you stays the same.
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-221-7239 Let's connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
The holidays pass, the noise quiets, and suddenly there's a space we don't always know how to sit with. In this episode, we explore what happens after meaningful moments end, when life moves on, but something inside us hasn't caught up yet. Instead of rushing forward with resolutions or trying to force change, this conversation invites a different approach: regulation over resolution.
This episode is for anyone who feels scattered, tired of restarting, or quietly aware that motivation isn't the real issue. We discuss why change doesn't begin with willpower or goals, but with learning to stay with yourself when things get uncomfortable. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things but still drifting, this episode offers a grounded pause, a return, and a reminder of who you already are beneath the noise.
📩 CALL TO ACTION — BETA TESTERS WANTED I'm currently building a Regulation App designed to help you pause, breathe, and return to yourself when life pulls you off center. I'm looking for a small group of beta testers who want simple, meaningful reminders to regulate instead of force change.
If you're interested in being a beta tester:
Email me: chris@strongwithin.com Or text me: 865-221-7239
Let me know a little about your situation, why this resonates, and how you'd like to use the app. Your feedback will directly shape what this becomes.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-221-7239
Let's connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license Location: Knoxville, Tennessee, USA but available worldwide
How to Change Your Past Without a Time Machine What if the power to rewrite your past didn't come from going back… but from how fully you show up right now?
In this episode, we step inside one of the most iconic scenes from Back to the Future—the fog, the hum of the unknown, the impossible promise of a machine that could undo the moments we long to change. But instead of escaping into fantasy, we turn that scene inward. Because the real time machine isn't made of metal and wires… it's made of presence, awareness, and the wisdom of your future self.
Together, we explore one of the greatest paradoxes of being human: Regret isn't about what you didn't do. It's about not realizing you still can.
This episode is part story, part meditation, part awakening. You'll learn how to see your life through a different lens—one where your future self whispers guidance into your present choices, and your past stops holding you hostage.
If you've ever wished you could go back and fix one moment… or if you've ever felt the ache of "if only" sitting heavy in your chest… this episode may change the way you relate to time, to yourself, and to every moment ahead of you.
Step into the fog. Meet the version of you who already knows the way forward. Discover the art of living in reverse.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-221-7239Let's connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Episode 728 — I Normalize the Becoming
What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you’re broken… but because you’re already becoming? You say you’re not “there” yet — but where exactly is “there”?
In this episode of The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast, Chris O’Hearn explores the hidden power of normalizing growth instead of chasing perfection. You’ll learn how to:
- Recognize the quiet signs of transformation you might be missing.
- Break free from the illusion that you must “arrive” before you’re allowed to rest in your worth.
- Anchor into daily practices that remind you: you are already in the process of becoming.
What would change if you stopped measuring yourself by who you used to be, and started noticing who you are becoming right now?
Whether you’re rebuilding confidence, shifting your mindset, or simply wanting more peace in your day… this conversation will help you see your life through a new lens.
Because the truth is — growth isn’t an event you wait for, it’s a state you can live in.
When you think about becoming who you’ve always been, how soon can you begin to relax into that truth?
🎧 Tune in now to step into your becoming and begin practicing your self-acceptance.
If this message resonates, share this episode with someone who needs a reminder that they’re already on their way.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-221-7239Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if the door you’ve been waiting to walk through… isn’t in the future? What if it’s right here — labeled simply: Now.
In this episode of the Strong Within Affirmation Podcast, we unpack a viral post about choosing between six magical doors — time travel, money, youth, and more. But instead of playing the game, I chose a seventh option: presence.
This isn’t about rejecting ambition or pretending life is perfect as-is. It’s about questioning why we chase fantasies that leave us empty… and how the greatest change might come not from what we wish for — but from what we wake up to.
If you’ve ever felt stuck between dreaming of more and wondering if this is enough… this episode is for you.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-221-7239Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Ever feel like you’re supposed to have it all figured out—but deep down, you’re still searching for solid ground? What if the answer isn’t becoming someone new, but rediscovering who you’ve always been?
In this powerful episode of the Strong Within Affirmation Podcast, host Chris invites you on a journey that turns the idea of “starting over” on its head. Forget the shame, the fear of being exposed, or the pressure to keep up appearances. Through engaging storytelling (including a fresh look at Charles Dickens’ Great Expectations) and honest, vulnerable reflections, Chris explores the magic that happens when we let go of who we think we should be—and come home to who we really are.
You’ll discover why “being common” isn’t a flaw, but a foundational strength, and how to unearth the truths waiting beneath the surface of everyday life. Along the way, Chris shares personal stories, timeless wisdom, and bite-sized coaching moments that’ll leave you asking: What if the most courageous act is simply becoming yourself?
Ready to shift your foundation and step into the next version of you—rooted, real, and unapologetically authentic? Press play and find out how to focus on becoming before arriving. The transformation starts from within.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Have you ever felt invisible — like no matter how much you give, no one really sees you?
In today’s episode, we explore the deeper truth behind that feeling: It was never about the world finally noticing you. It was always about you remembering yourself.
Through personal stories, deep reflections, and a powerful guided meditation, we'll walk together through the hidden agreements that keep us chasing validation — and into the freedom of becoming our own reflection.
If you’ve ever wondered whether your kindness, your effort, or your heart truly mattered... this conversation is here to remind you: You were never invisible. You were simply being polished.
So...tune in, take a breath, and come home to yourself again. If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs to remember their own light too.
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Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
🌊 Have you ever wondered why some things in life feel… unbearable? Why no matter how hard you try, peace stays just out of reach? 🤔 Maybe it’s not bad luck or failure—maybe it’s the universe whispering, “This isn’t where you belong.”
In this episode, we dive into the nature of suffering, the illusion of control, and why bitterness keeps you trapped in a past that no longer exists. 🌀 The secret? You don’t have to force happiness—you just have to stop clinging to what was never meant to be yours.
So the real question is… are you ready to let go? 🎙️✨
Join us as we explore practical steps to break free from the chains of bitterness, shifting our focus to purpose, love, and the life we desire to create. Because, as Chris reminds us, the universe does not punish or reward, it reflects – so let’s choose to reflect love.
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Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
The stories we tell ourselves shape the lives we live. Some push us forward. Others hold us back. But here’s the thing—those stories aren’t set in stone. You can change them.
Welcome to the Strong Within Affirmation Podcast with Chris O’Hearn—mindset coach, personal trainer, and someone who knows firsthand that growth isn’t about waiting for the right moment. It’s about choosing it. Featured on MTV, Chris brings no-nonsense coaching, real-life insight, and the kind of practical wisdom that makes change possible.
In this episode, he gets to the root of why we make excuses—how fear, conditioning, and old beliefs keep us stuck—and how to move past them with purpose. Through affirmations, sharp coaching, and reframing techniques that actually work, you’ll learn how to step out of hesitation and into action.
What you'll take away: 🔹 Why the stories you tell yourself matter—and how to rewrite them. 🔹 How fear and self-doubt keep you playing small. 🔹 Simple, practical ways to turn excuses into momentum. 🔹 How affirmations help rewire your thinking for lasting change.
If you're tired of waiting for things to change and ready to take control, this episode is for you. No more excuses. No perfect timing. Just you, showing up, and doing the work.
Listen now.
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Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, worksheets, or other bonuses I am including with the podcast)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
In this thought-provoking episode of the Strong Within Affirmation Podcast, Chris O’Hearn explores how we can break free from the patterns of the past and redefine who we are. Drawing from his own struggles with depression and suicidal thoughts, Chris unpacks the ways trauma and old coping mechanisms shape our identity—and how we can move beyond them. Through guided visualizations and practical exercises, he offers tools for self-forgiveness, detachment, and rediscovering your authentic self. Anchored by the affirmation, “The only thing that defines me is who I believe I am right now,” this episode provides thoughtful, actionable insights to help you take control of your story and your future. So join us on this episode and let's become Strong Within together.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
In this captivating episode of the Strong Within Affirmation Podcast, "When I Focus On The Outcome, The Issues Disappear," host Chris takes listeners on a profound exploration of what it means to transform life’s challenges by focusing on a higher vision. With powerful personal stories and actionable strategies, Chris reveals how the real magic happens when we shift our focus from obstacles to outcomes, allowing our deepest values to lead the way. This episode dives into the art of blending authenticity with emotional mastery, helping listeners bridge the gap between appreciation and true love while deepening self-awareness. If you're ready to transcend limitations and experience personal freedom like never before, tune in to discover how aiming for your dreams can dissolve life’s toughest issues and open the door to your most empowered self.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if the pain you are going through was actually a call to transform?
In this episode I ask us to reframe the question" 'of why is this happening to me,' into a better one: What if the Universe wants me to win?
Pain has been the biggest catalyst in my life. It told me that I could stay here, but if I did it would be more of the same. What if the pain you are going through was something more than just a position of being uncomfortable?
So why don't you join me, and let's delve into asking a deeper question of, "what if the Universe wasn't punishing me, but actually protecting me?"
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if feeling more balanced (happiness, healing, prosperity, or whatever emotion you are struggling with right now) began with one simple sentence?
In this episode, I talk about:
- How to get through any political discussion with your mentality, emotions, and soul intact
- How to have hope or joy for a family member who seems to be going the wrong direction in life
- How to have peace in your heart to let things go and allow people to be who they are.
So join me, and let’s together find the 3 ways to create more peace and prosperity in your mental, spiritual and emotional growth as we become Strong Within together
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Welcome back to the Strong Within Affirmation Podcast, I'm your host, Chris, and this is episode 718 for February 2024, titled "I Stopped Living In The Fantasy, So I Could Create A Future". This week, we're delving deep into the power of presence, the art of envisioning our desired reality, and how we can move from being trapped in a cycle of fear and procrastination to forging a future that aligns with our deepest aspirations.
Sometimes life can feel like a constant battle with distractions and fear—often leading us to retreat into the comfort of the future, or what I like to call the 'fantasy'. But what if I told you that the only path to authenticity and genuine success is through embracing the now and taking those day-to-day small wins? Together, we will explore how to create that vision for ourselves, learn from my personal journey and struggles, and hear an inspiring story of a client's extraordinary transformation.
As a personal trainer and mindset and success coach, I understand the courage it takes to break free from imposter syndrome and the stories that hold us back. Fear can often manifest as a decision-making blocker, something I've faced during my break from the podcast, which was rooted in perfectionism and fear. In today's episode, we will address these challenges head-on, discuss the importance of bravery in both big and small acts, and how we can reclaim our worthiness to achieve the extraordinary.
Get ready to shift your mindset, as we emphasize the mantra "I stopped living in the fantasy so I could begin creating a future". This isn't just about envisioning your success—it's about laying the foundations for habitual courage, building unwavering self-belief, and converting your deepest fears into fuel for your journey.
So are you ready to redefine courage and reshape your reality? Let's dive into this transformative session and come out stronger on the other side. Stay tuned, and don't forget that through affirmations, steadfast visioning, and persistence, you are always just one small win away from the future you've always dreamed of. Let's get into it.
If you are interested in coaching, email and text me your contact info along with your biggest struggle right now.
You can text me at: 865-219-3247You can email me at chris@strongwithin.com
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What does Strong Within look like to you?
Grab some Strong Within merch and let's not only make the world better, but let's look cool while doing it. Message me at chris@strongwithin.com or text me at 865-219-3247 and we'll figure out the size and color/style for you. This is the one brand where the message and the model is YOU. Let's BE Strong Within Together
In this month's podcast, I ask the question of when you were in a moment or experience where you felt you were born to be.
Sometimes the smallest hints in a moment can be a telling sign if we are on track or need a course correction on the direction of our lives.
So come join me and be reminded of those places that felt perfect, that were giving you a sign, a direction, that were your compass on the places you were meant to step into.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media:www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Grab some Strong Within merch and let's not only make the world better, but let's look good while doing it. Message me at chris@strongwithin.com or text me at 865-219-3247 and we'll figure out size and color/style for you. This is the one brand where the message and the model is YOU. Let's make Strong Within Look good together as we do good together.
Now...back to the Podcast. I have one question for you:
How did you live an extraordinary life the past 7 days?
It's a simple question, but to ask it...means you will have to dig deep to see where you fell short, what you might have missed out on, and how the simplest things can create the most beautiful life.
I recently realized one huge thing that had been keeping me stuck, and I bet you have forgotten it too. So join me on the podcast and be reminded on this one key that will transform your whole life.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Strong Within--the only brand where you are the face of the brand.
Wear your message and be the face of your own MEANINGFUL brand with me. Email me or text me to put in an order for your own Strong Within Shirt and let's BE the miracle together.
Now into the podcast
What do you think would make you happier?
- Winning the lottery
- or Losing an arm or leg in a car accident
That seems like an easy answer, but in this podcast I talk about the goals we are focusing on that might be making us look in the wrong direction.
Join me and let's learn together.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Want your own Strong Within Shirt? Well, there are two ways to get them right now.
1) Enter this month's contest: Email me ( chris@strongwithin.com ) on how Strong Within changed your life--the idea, the podcast, or what your favorite episode is why.
I will choose a few winners from those who email me, and I will select the best 3-5 ones and send you a Strong Within shirt.
2) Purchase One I am starting the Strong Within Apparel company, so get your Strong Within shirts by emailing me and we can talk color, size, and price. The reason I am always wearing a Strong Within shirt is not just because I started my coaching business with its name, but because I choose to embody it every day.
Sometimes I am extremely successful, and sometimes I am left wanting to be a little bit better. But wearing the shirt most days ( I wear a Strong WIthin shirt almost every day...unless I haven't done laundry yet, lol), it is the reminder to embody what and who I am wanting to be.
I wanted to share a few pictures of me and Rusty on the lawn during our time together. I don't like to say our last hours together because he is now with me all the time. And every time I feel sad about the loss of a great friend or family member I like to say this to myself, "I know he is happy and in a good place now, so no matter if Rusty is with me or not, I know he is doing great and that's all I have ever wanted for him."
In this podcast, I talk about the power of being unrealistic with your goals, your life, and learning the power of how miracles can happen at any moment.
We expect too little, and we get exactly what we focus on...so join me for today's podcast and learn how to be unrealistic in your life in a good way to change the course of your life.
Thanks for being here with me today, Chris
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Join the Strong Within Community at www.strongwithin.com/community
Are you longing for a community of like-minded individuals who are committed to transforming their lives and becoming the strongest version of themselves? Look no further than the Strong Within Community!
Our community is a place where you can connect with others who are on a similar journey towards growth and self-improvement. Whether you're looking to reframe your mindset, overcome limiting beliefs, or simply connect with others in a positive, uplifting space, our community has something for everyone.
As a member of our community, you can expect to receive exclusive access to our Strong Within Manifesting Course, as well as weekly inspiration and encouragement from our founder, who has years of experience helping others achieve their goals and live their best lives.
But that's not all - our community is also a place where you can come to ask questions, offer support, and find motivation when you need it most. Whether you're struggling with a difficult situation or simply need a boost of positivity, our community has your back.
Best of all, our community is completely free - so what are you waiting for? Join the Strong Within Community today and start your journey towards living your strongest, most fulfilling life. We can't wait to welcome you!
In this episode there were MANY take aways but I am focusing on 3 topics and the lessons you can get from this podcast:
- Understanding Trauma and Healing
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- Trauma and protection can lead to being tight and unable to fully release and heal
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- Similar to muscles that get injured and remain in an isometric state to protect themselves
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- Like myofascial release techniques like foam rolling and massage can help activate the golgi tendon organ to relax the muscle and release knots...we can do the same with our emotions and mental states
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- Reframing and Shifting Vibrational Frequency
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- Focusing on trauma can create a cycle of overprotection and hinder the healing process.- Reframing emotions can help in processing them more efficiently and moving on
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- Being the observer and not getting stuck in victimhood or trauma can prevent staying stuck in it for a long time
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- Changing the vibrational frequency can be important
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- Dissociating from Problems and Focusing on Solutions- People often get stuck in the box and can't see outside of it when they focus too hard on the problem.
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- Focusing too much on the problem trains the subconscious to only focus on the problem and not the solution.
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- We should train the subconscious to become observers of the problem instead of getting sucked into it.
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- By doing so, we disassociate ourselves from the problem and can find solutions more easily.
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Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn www.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Let's connect on social media. I am putting new stuff out all the time and I want to see what you are up to:
Instagram: @thechrisohearn
Facebook: @thechrisohearn
Hi
In this podcast I talk about the 5 reasons why being good isn't going to achieve the life you want, and how to go from being just good enough to creating the best life and situations for yourself...and the people around you.
These principles ring true for me because I was always trying to be the good guy, the giver, the selfless one. And while those all are good things to strive to be...it was actually killing me because while it was about feeling good, it was more about HAVING to be validated--to prove my worthiness.
And thus I wasn't abusing or finding myself addicted to drugs or alcohol...I was constantly seeking self-worth in people and things that could NEVER give me what I was seeking. Because we know it to be true that we can only give that to ourselves...so how do we end that vicious cycle then?
Wouldn't it be nice to BE who you want to be, to stop trying to please everyone, and be your authentic self-to take off your masks, and live in accordance with the values, wishes, and manners that will make your life full?
Then join me for this podcast and let me know what you think.
This has changed my life, and I think it will yours too.
P.S. I tried a new mic setting, so let me know if there are things that need to be augmented (too loud, not clear enough, or sounds better...let me know your opinions and send me an email about it or anything else you would like to talk about chris@strongwithin.com )
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247 Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Stuck in an unwanted emotion and want to get out of it? Want to get healing from it?
Well, it starts with ignoring that emotion.
Now, that may sound weird, but if we want to get rid of something we feel we need to eradicate it, we need to figure out how to delete it from our lives, and so we must focus on it.
And maybe that might work, but when I am working with any of my clients...we are trying to get to the structure behind the emotion.
The unresourceful state that is CAUSING that emotion to rear its ugly head when any of the present conditions happen.
So if you'd like to figure out how to not only think differently about your healing but get to the deeper root of change...then join me in this podcast.
I also have a few spots that have opened in my coaching program. I am specifically looking for successful entrepreneurs who are finding they are having a hard time connecting to their lives like they used to.
Are you finding that friends and other relationships feel constrained or you can't find quality people in your life who support and build you up. Maybe you feel you have reached the pinnacle of your success and it seems like it's all downhill or you feel lost and unsure where to go next. Or that you just have lost the excitement for your life like you used to once have, as you are just punching your time clock each day unfulfilled and feeling lost.
If this sounds like you, let's set a time to chat as I would love to serve you with a transformational call.
Let me be clear...I am not selling you coaching...I am creating the transformation first, and if it serves you in a manner that changes and transforms your life...then we can talk about moving forward.
I am looking to serve only right now first.
Email me at chris@strongwithin.com and ALSO text me at 865-219-3247 just in case the email goes to my spam folder. I don't want to miss you. Looking forward to connecting.
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Don't Miss Out...THIS IS THE LAST WEEK to create the Ulitmate Life with me
Where for the next 60 days you will be part of my group coaching course to help you not change who you are but to become the more powerful, confident, focused, and successful individual you ALREADY are.
This course is more about using the inherent characteristic traits within you that you can harness and help bring you back to the source of your confidence, power, freedom, and certainty to feel less anxiety, depression, and fear for your life and what is ahead for you.
You can find more info here www.strongwithin.com/2023
Now onto the podcast note....
Excessive Anxiety and Fear Come From This One Thing…
In this week’s Strong Within Affirmation Podcast #710 We talk about trusting the plan that is being laid out for you instead of clinging onto anxiety, fear, and things having to be a certain way.
So if you’d like relief from your negative thought loop check out the podcast.
Or you can email chris@strongwithin.com or text me 865-219-3247 and we can set up a video or telephone call to answer any questions you might have.
So if you are tired of feeling the same depressed feeling at the end of each year, I would love to invite you to change with me.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, High Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media:www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
If you're feeling depressed or melancholy looking at the calendar after Christmas (or whatever holiday you celebrate), it is due to one reason- regret that you are most likely in the same spot at the end of the year as you were when you started.
However, that doesn't have to be the case. If you ever wonder why successful people are...well, successful...it's because they operate on a different level.
They don't chase the goal...the BECOME the goal.
And thinking about this got me to creating a group coaching course called The Strong Within Ultimate Life, where I will guide you through 6 foundational principles to BE at the goal instead of chasing your goals and dreams. This course will help you begin operating from your inherent strengths to evolve the life that suits you...because it's from the tools that are within you.
Go to www.strongwithin.com/2023 to see more details and to sign up.
Or you can email chris@strongwithin.com or text me 865-219-3247 and we can set up a video or telephone call to answer any questions you might have.
So if you are tired of feeling the same depressed feeling at the end of each year, I would love to invite you to change with me.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Did you hope for more for 2022?
What about the years before?
What if self-development was the thing keeping you stuck? No I know that may sound crazy since my podcast is about self development...
Well, I have created a group coaching course that starts in January called the Strong Within Ultimate Life
You can find out more about it by going to www.strongwithin.com/2023
MAYBE IT'S TIME TO STOP BLAMING FATE AND START USING THE POWER OF A MOMENT Aren't you tired of being disappointed about the outcomes of your days, your weeks, and maybe even your life? In this course you will see that your fate has been linked to knowing what you already have, so you can do more with it. I mean think about it, when was the last time you felt amazing and everything was seemingly coming together as if you had played your cards right? We attribute it to luck, and sure there is a luck to life, but being at the right place at the right time isn't the only thing that brings us what we want...being aware of who we are, what a moment is, and the power we already can use will change your whole life.
Wouldn't it be nice to attract the things you want, by knowing who you are, instead of always having to fight tooth and nail for the things you deserve?
This is course is your crossroads, to change everything, and begin living a different life.
Come join me and let's begin creating a better year, a better life...not because you changed...
But because you became more of who you already are...I will help you harness 6 foundational principles to transform you back into the most powerful you
Go to www.strongwithin.com/2023
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Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach- Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
You wake up another day feeling dissatisfied with your place in life. You feel out of alignment with your purpose, or maybe you have forgotten or no longer know what it is.
And maybe it feels like this is a place of permanence and you can't change...but what if this was the breakthru you were looking for?
Every place of growth always came from a place of needing to shed, step into, and evolve and I am looking forward to serving you with my new course The Strong Within Ultimate Life that I will be launching in January on realigning your life. www.strongwithin.com/swgoal
We normally work towards goals by GETTING things.
Yet, in this course, it is about realigning yourself and your energy WITH the goal's energy so you aren't fighting to GET goals but to connect and understand that you already ARE at the goal.
It's a course on BEING rather than DOING.
So if you have been feeling stuck, plateaued or just want to evolve into who you are meant and want to be...then this course is for you.
It will be a 60-day journey of creating from a place of purpose and honing a new routine of thought, action, and speech about who you are and what you are doing with your days.
I will have assignments, video lessons, a planner to work through and live group coaching sessions each week.'
I would love for you to be a part of this, so if you are ready to step into your power and live a Strong Within Ultimate Life, then I want you in the program.
Sign up to get more details when I launch the sales page and anything else go to www.strongwithin.com/swgoal
It will be launching in January, and early buyers will get a special bonus. I'll launch the sales page later this month
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What would your Ulitmate Life look like? And What's kept you from living it?
However, what if your 2023 could be the beginning of your best year yet?
In January I will be launching a group coaching course called The Strong Within Ultimate Life.
Sign up here www.strongwithin.net/SWgoal to be the first to get details, as I am finalizing things
I will be reversing how you think about your life and how you go about TRYING to reach goals, and instead of DOING, I will be mentoring and helping you realign with your purpose and work with BEING the person who already is at the goal.
Instead of trying to FORCE our way to a goal, I will be reminding you about the law of vibration in becoming in alignment with your dreams, goals, and purpose. You see, what you seek is already seeking you...we just have to get out of our own way.
So if you are ready to have a great 2023, to have a Strong Within Ultimate Life, then go to www.strongwithin.net/SWgoal and sign up to get on the email list to be the first to get details when I will launch it in January.
I am looking forward to seeing you there.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if your purpose could be summed up into two questions?
Well, in this podcast I ask two questions that are changing mine, and I believe they can change anyone who purposefully pursues these questions.
Let's transform ourselves and the world together.
Also in the podcast, I talked about being the first to know about my upcoming course in January the Strong Within Ultimate Life. Go to this webpage to sign up for updates on when I will be launching and all the bonuses I will be giving over time...I will be giving a big discount for early action takers as well.
here's the site: www.strongwithin.com/swgoal
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Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
COME JOIN my new coaching and video course to help you master your mindset to overcome the emotions and crippling thoughts that have kept you trapped...If you would like to have a total transformation to seeing the person in the mirror that loves who it sees looking back, if you want to rid your crippling states of mindset that are keeping you trapped in your own personal hells...
then email mail me at chris@strongwithin.com and send me a text too as my email sometimes can be wonky at 865-219-3247 saying I'm interested in your new course...and I'll add you to my email list to keep you informed when I finalize everything and to keep you in the know, and you'll get some cool free things along the way
Now onto the podcast...Should We Take Life More Seriously???
I ask the question of what if our life was a play, what if all the world was a play and we are but the actors on this stage. Would a new focal point help us with our crippling fears, worries, and anxieties?
Would we relinquish our depression and suicidal thoughts seeing that what we had been focusing on wasn't as serious as we had made it to be?
Would we let go of those destructive thoughts that we tell ourselves that --no one ever stays and are we meant to be alone for the rest of our lives, or that if we don't make this amount of money (or more) then we will have failed our families, or that we even look in the mirror and hate who we have become and don't even recognize ourselves anymore...
well, this podcast is for you.
If you would like a shift in your emotional states, and a shift in your mindset to begin seeing hope instead of despair...then join me on this journey of unfolding some of the beliefs and habits that have kept us stuck in a negative loop pattern.
I am excited to see the artwork you are going to craft with your life.
Committed to seeing you happy and successful...and I am sending great energy your way
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
COME JOIN my new coaching and video course to help you master your mindset to overcome the emotions and crippling thoughts that have kept you trapped...If you would like to have a total transformation to seeing the person in the mirror that loves who it sees looking back, if you want to rid your crippling states of mindset that are keeping you trapped in your own personal hells...
then email mail me at chris@strongwithin.com and send me a text too as my email sometimes can be wonky at 865-219-3247 saying I'm interested in your new course...and I'll add you to my email list to keep you informed when I finalize everything and to keep you in the know, and you'll get some cool free things along the way
Now onto the podcast... Should we take life more seriously?
Maybe, but in this podcast I ask ourselves what if we saw our lives as a play and the actors and events were more to help us to the next stage of our lives.
It's so easy to ruminate, to get stuck and overly focus on what went wrong in our lives... how no one seems to stay in our lives and we'll always end up alone, that if we don't keep making this specific amount of money (or more) then our families won't be provided for, or how we look in the mirror and hate who we have become and don't even recognize ourselves anymore...
And thus we are riddled with crippling anxiety, fear, worry, PTSD, depression, and suicidal thoughts from where we have put our continual attention to.
BUT...what if we were to look at our lives from a different focal point, how would that change how we see ourselves and our problems?
So join me on this journey of self-discovery and unlearning of patterns that have kept you stuck as we begin to UNFOLD a new you...or more accurately--the REAL you.
Sending great energy your way
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
I did an inspirational remix of a previous podcast and added music to it. I hope you will like it, and I hope it can add the right inspiration to your day to become who you are meant to be. Sometimes asking better questions is all we need to do to make that change.
I will also include the video I created for the music remix below.
Youtube video: https://youtu.be/kp3QnjybQlk
Sound remix by Parker Dodson-his Instagram handle is: @boyacuff
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
One of our greatest addictions might not be what you think it is.
In this podcast, I talk about one thing that manipulates our life and keeps us from being in control of our thoughts and our actions...and ultimately begins destroying the things we love in our lives.
So let me help you let go of this one thing that will help you have a happier and more fulfilled life.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, extra special podcast only posted there, and connection to me)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Are you dealing with something painful, a trauma that you feel you can't get over or shake?
In this podcast I talk about a painful experience I am going through in hopes to show you how to shift from staying stuck in your pain, to finding healing to allow things to become what they can be.
If you would like help going from your pain to healing, then reach out to me via email, call, or text and we'll set up a consult to help you see how I can help you.
Thank you for joining me today, I am excited to be back with you all.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
3 Ways to Manifest Your Best in the coming year
- Join me in the Crypto Mastermind. Here is a link to a webinar to see if it's right for you, and get a bonus $500 off coupon only available from me: http://swaffiliat.swapprofit.hop.clickbank.net/?cbpage=webinar
- Join my group coaching program Manifest Your Best in 2022. Email me at chris@strongwithin.com or text me at 865-219-3247 and let's discuss details or any questions you might have to see if you are a great fit for the group. I'll have a page with more details on my site soon ( www.strongwithin.com )
- Support this podcast and get access to Join my Patreon Podcast Premium Package: www.strongwithin.com/support
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wouldn't you love to be back in full throttle crushing the goals you have been procrastinating on, feeling happier and more aligned than you have felt in a while and living the life you deserve?
All without having to go it alone, feeling like you are lost, or worrying about whether you can or not.
Then come join The Strong Within Re-Alignment 2022 Camp and let's get you back to creating the life you dream of and deserve.
Email me at chris@strongwithin.com and text me at 865-219-3247 and let's set up a dialogue to get you enrolled in my 2022 Group Coaching Program. Put in the text and the email subject line 2022 Coaching and tell me about yourself.
Your time is now, so let's create the best you possible, and make this moment yours again.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
If you want to create a new financial future for you and your family then check out a course on all the ins and outs of crypto investing. I started this summer and it's been a wild ride, come join me.
Crypto Course and Mastermind Webinar:
This webinar will give you awesome info and it will talk about how to take your knowledge further if you think the course is the right fit for you: http://swaffiliat.swapprofit.hop.clickbank.net/?cbpage=webinar
(special $500 discount that you won't get anywhere else)
This course has changed my life and my financial situation, and it could change yours too. If you are looking for a way to figure out how to traverse the Crypto market with ease (whether you are a beginner or expert...this course is for you).
It's hard to believe that tragedy can actually change us for the better, especially when we are going through it. It feels like there can be no relief from our pain, but in this week's episode, I talk about how tragedy helps us get to a new frame of reference that will help us live more purposefully.
And I talk about how to imprint new emotions to change quickly and get to feeling better while you work through the tragedy.
Here is one of my fave pics of Storm and the signs I saw on my walk the other day:
This week's sponsor: wouldn't it be nice to 100 times or 1,000 times your investment money. Well now is the perfect time to get into cryptocurrency. I have seen some crazy investment returns with small investments. The world is changing, and with inflation rising, I saw it was time to step into the future to begin protecting my future.
This course it will teach you how to get in more wisely, and you will hear about new investments before most people know about them. Have you ever wanted to get in on the ground floor of Apple, or Microsoft, or Tesla at the beginning...well here is your chance to get into projects at the beginning for more return on your money. Click the link below to learn how:
http://swaffiliat.swapprofit.hop.clickbank.net/?cbpage=replay
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thanks for joining me today guys. I hope you had a great summer (or winter for anyone on the other side of the equator who listens). Excited to be back. Here are the show notes and links:
1) Crypto Course and Mastermind Webinar:
This webinar will give you awesome info and it will talk about how to take your knowledge further if you think the course is the right fit for you: http://swaffiliat.swapprofit.hop.clickbank.net/?cbpage=webinar
(special $500 discount that you won't get anywhere else)
This course has changed my life and my financial situation, and it could change yours too. If you are looking for a way to figure out how to traverse the Crypto market with ease (whether you are a beginner or expert...this course is for you).
2) Cryptocurrency Token/Project I was talking about: TruBadger on the Binance Smart Chain Network.
Their website is www.trubadger.io
TruBadger Telegram channel: https://t.me/TruBadgerOfficial
3) To become a Patreon supporter and get more access to the member exclusive podcasts and everything else go to www.strongwithin.com/support
disclaimer: I am an affiliate for the Crypto course. There is no added cost to you, I just get a little moola for directing you to it, and you get my special discount. So it's a win win, and I only share things I recommend and believe in (and have done myself).
If you have any questions or want to talk about my experience with the course and mastermind, you can contact me directly via email and we'll set up a time to chat on the phone to answer any questions you may have chris@strongwithin.com
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let’s connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
I have a big announcement to make today guys, I am going to be taking a few months off from the podcast. It's been about 5 years I have been doing this consistently and it's time for a little break to re-evaluate things.
While I am excited to take a little time off, I will def miss having you guys be a part of my week.
But let's keep in touch. Let me know the cool things you have been doing this summer (or winter for those folks across the pond), and let me know what past episodes that you've been listening to that made a difference for you.
Thanks for being on this journey with me, and if you are getting something from the work I do...make sure to support me (information down below on how). Thanks for everything everyone.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247Let's connect on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What do they want, purpose, comfort things are going to be ok, a way to stop getting stuck
Stop saying you're stuck...it's killing you.
It's killing you from being the person you want and are meant to be. Have you ever reflected on your life and second-guessing your choices from those places you wish you would;dn't have been stuck in for so long.
Well, you can find your purpose, create a roadmap from the places that originally kept you stuck, and begin seeing the signs that the Universe is actually helping you instead of holding you back.
All without having to stay stuck in the problem too long and finding understanding more quickly THROUGH the detours rather than feeling uncertain and lost.
So join me in today's podcast for a great relaxing meditation to help you get back on track mentally, physically, and spiritually--all while finding ways to get help through your rougher places in life rather than feeling you are alone and have no help.
See you on the inside...Oh, and if you are getting something from the podcasts, share an episode with someone today or post a link in your social media and tag me. I would love to connect more with all of you.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What would you change if you had a time machine?
The Greeks had two words for time, chronos and kairos. And in this podcast, I talk about kairos being your own vehicle to gain more confidence in your life without having to go back in time.
How different would your life be if you could make those turning points in the moment instead of looking back years later regretting the paths you took?
Join me in this week's podcast and learn how to have the confidence in your choices to create the life you truly wish to be living.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
There's a pandemic going on, but it isn't what you think it is.
One of the greatest diseases or addictions we have is complaining and looking for the worst in a moment.
I do understand why we do it, it's easier to find what's wrong. We have the belief if we see what is wrong first then we can take action to change it.
Yet, we focus too much on the problems and find that we have a tendency to stay in those places that keep us stuck in our complaining.
In this week's podcast, I talk about the hero in the journey that will save us from this outbreak...who do you think that hero is?
Tune in and find out.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What does kindness and toughness have to do with procrastination?
In this podcast (part 2 of 2), I go over the last 4 pieces in how to stop DOING things in TRYING to be more efficient and how to begin BEING more of what you want to be.
So join me, and let's start reminding ourselves that being Strong Within isn't only doing the physical work...but it's the reminder of who we already are.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wanna know how to overcome your procrastination habits?
In this podcast (part 1 of 2), I go over how to manage your time more wisely and to start fulfilling the goals and dreams you have by side-stepping procrastination and getting to the root of the issue and the work that matters to you.
So join me, and let's start reminding ourselves that being Strong Within isn't only doing the physical work...but it's the reminder of who we already are.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What is authenticity? Is it in action, is it in thought, is it how you speak?
In today's podcast, I discuss how to practice being more deliberate in your tone and confidence level to speak your truth...which in turn will begin attracting and manifesting exactly what you desire.
I am looking for a few entrepreneurs to join my Undistracted Entrepreneur Beta Program. Get in touch with me by email chris@strongwithin.com or texting me at: 865-219-3247 and put in the subject line Business Beta Program, tell me a little bit about you and what you are dealing with, and then your contact information on the best way to reach you.
I am looking forward to connecting and having a conversation to see if we are a good fit for each other in the Undistracted Entrepreneur Beta Coaching Program.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Are your routines and your sense of discipline actually harming you more than helping you?
In this week's podcast, I talk about another way of reaching your goals more effectively. I also do a fun amusement park visualization with sounds and all to take you back to your childhood to help implant in your subconscious these lessons. So join me to begin reaching your goals on a new level.
Also, I have 4 spots open for my Undistracted Entrepreneur Beta Program. If you have been feeling drained and weighted down in your business and personal life, then I would love to help you create a momentous shift to get you back on a deeper longer lasting path of success in life and business. Get in touch with me by emailing ( chris@strongwithin.com ) or texting me (865-219-3247) and putting in the subject line Business Beta Program.
I am looking forward to having a conversation with you.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What is the greatest pathway to happiness?
In this episode, I talk about a personal experience of euphoria by becoming aware of what a moment can be. Kind of like lucid dreaming, but more like lucid living-being truly awake while your eyes are open.
If you'd like to find peace at any moment within your life then give this episode a listen.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Are you an entrepreneur or business owner who would like to be finishing up their 3rd project by 10am instead of only getting started on their 3rd cup of coffee by then?
I am looking for 5 entrepreneurs or business owners who would like to create ultimate life productivity, a Strong Within Life, by doing things a little different than the same old pathway that you’re feeling stuck on.
In this pandemic, I understand how hard it can be to be stuck in a time where you feel unmotivated to do anything…the confusion and distractions that are vying for our attention every day pile up and you find yourself watching more tv, sleeping more, or creating other ways to escape from doing the things you used to love…well if this is describing you right now, I am creating a beta program for high performers like you who are feeling stuck at the moment.
We think that a massive shift needs to happen, but I have been creating a program and pathway that focuses on your strengths and helps you to find your north star to guide you when you are feeling unmotivated, hopeless, and stressed out. So if you are a business owner or entrepreneur and would like to be a part of this beta program then email or text me (chris@strongwithin.com or phone: (865)-219-3247 ) and say in the subject line "business beta program" and let’s set up a time to chat and see if we are a good fit for each other.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
We can look at what we have to do in a moment, or we can ask who we want to be in a moment.
In this podcast, I tell a story of a seemingly simple moment where I could have continued the path I was traveling, but I asked what is it I really want from myself in this moment.
These small moments are the ones that can change our lives. They seem small or even insignificant, but the more we awaken and ask better questions...then the more we find ourselves being thrust into the dreams we hope for our lives.
Join me in the podcast to help remind you of who you want to be, rather than being stuck thinking about what you have to do.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Are you operating from the place of the inner critic or the inner helper?
In today's podcast, I talk about how we can have our auto-pilot help us change by making one small little shift in the way we approach a problem.
And if you are liking the podcast, make sure to rate and review it...it will only take a few minutes and might feel like a minor inconvenience, but it will be a major help to me in upping me in the rankings so other people can find the podcast.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What would adding an extra hour into your life each day do for you? Or better yet not just adding more time to your life, but making the time you have matter and more fruitful to you.
In this podcast, I talk about 3 ways to be more productive internally so you can be more productive externally by asking are you:
- Triggered or In Training
- Creating your Emotions
- Showing Up or Showing Off
So join me and learn how to make not only your life more productive but how to make your moments matter by taking internal control of yourself.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if the things you loved, the things that mattered to you, all of the sudden...disappeared?
The things that matter to us...we find ways to keep them in our lives by giving our love, our time, and even our money to keep them in our lives.
Have you ever loved a musical act, a certain television program, an artist or author...and they or their works have disappeared?
Well, that's how this podcast works too. It takes a great deal of effort, money, and coordinating to continually bring it to you...to keep it going.
I know not everyone can give monetarily to support the podcast, but if the podcast has made a difference in your life and still does...and you feel you can give--then please consider being a patron/supporter of the podcast.
The way I keep this podcast going is from listener's donations and support. And those who donate get certain benefits and perks that no one else does.
Thank you for your consideration in helping me keep this podcast going, and thank you to those who are currently giving. You are the lifeline for this podcast and I appreciate you more than you'll ever know.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What would it feel like to be able to get instantly confident before that speech you had to give in front of C level exec in your company, or to rid writers block almost immediately, or to start a goal without hesitation instead of avoiding it like you have for the past few months (or years)?
In this podcast, I am going to go over the 3 ways to create instant confidence before you start the work.
The technique I present is something I do before I write or record any podcast, before I step in front of a camera, or how I find ways to be more creative in all avenues of my life.
We think that we are unsuccessful in our goals because we aren't motivated, or we feel we don't have the education or tools, or maybe we have told ourselves that it's just not in our wheelhouse to make it happen.
But those are all lies that are keeping us comfortable from not moving forward because of our fears of failing.
And in today's episode, I am going to help you create instant confidence if you practice this simple technique before you sit down to do the work.
I am looking forward to hearing about your successes.
When you support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast you are helping to keep it going. Visit: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
follow me on social media:www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
If you find yourself continually stuck in the pattern of wishing for a better year than the last… there’s a reason for that, and it’s counterintuitive to what you think.
In this podcast, I am going to go over the 3 ways to make this year a successful year for you no matter what happens. So come join me as you set yourselves up for success this year and every one after that.
When you support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast you are helping to keep it going. Visit: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What is the one crucial thing you are missing from your daily routine?
Join me and find out how you can begin thinking, acting, and living your days more efficiently.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Are coincidences really coincidences or something more?
In this episode, I speak of a recent set of coincidences, and I examine how our perception of what happens to us during these times can either be helpful or harmful in our self-development.
So grab a seat, and listen in. I don't think it's a coincidence that you and I connected today ;-).
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Do you know why failure is easy?
It's not because it's in our DNA, or because we can't do something...it's because we have decided to know failure.
We have opened our door to the so called demons and blame them for our misfortune...when only one person is responsible--ourselves.
And not because we are irresponsible, stupid, or broken, but because we have decided to tell a story of why we can't instead of asking "who do I want to be in this moment."
To know success means to work to understand it, not just have it when it is convenient.
So join me on today's podcast and let's get to know our demons a little better, not because they are there to destroy us, but more because they are misunderstood, and we have labeled them incorrectly.
Let's stop buying into our hurt, and start living within our happiness.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
You are not struggling during this pandemic…you are struggling to see what this pandemic means to you.
It's Thanksgiving this week, and I never talk about appreciation or gratitude since it's so overdone around this time, but I thought this was a good time to change where we are putting our attention.
So while everyone is talking about what sucks in this moment, I am going to remind you why there is something amazing happening with you and to you.
So join me and let's figure out what this hard time in our lives means at this moment together.
P.S. in my last two podcast notes I have a link to a 7 Serenity Checklist daily habits...if you want to join me in having a better day by creating more serene habits, then download the PDF and join me.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Is your worth tied too much to other people's opinions?
During these harder times, it's so easy to blame other people for our struggles and stresses. It's easy to get angry, stressed, or upset and put the responsibility upon others as we say THEY made me feel this way.
In this week's podcast, I talk about why having a higher opinion of yourself and your worth will create more calm in all your relationships, and it will create more peace in all you experience as well.
Last week I gave out a free PDF as a thank you for listeners for the 7 habits of Serenity and challenged us to see how we can check off these 7 habits each day to have more serenity.
If you would like to join us on the challenge and get your checklist as well, CLICK HERE TO DOWNLOAD THE CHECKLIST
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Join me this month for the 7 Habits of Serenity Challenge. I have created a PDF checklist to use every day to create more peace, serenity, and most importantly--helping you get closer to the person you want to be.
It's free for you as a gift for being an MVP listener in my book. Here's the link to get the 7 Habits of Serenity Checklist: CLICK HERE TO GET THE CHECKLIST
Let's do this challenge every day by checking off and writing in a journal on how you did on all of them and what you learned throughout your day by focusing on them.
Looking forward to hearing how it helps you.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if the fear that has kept you from doing what you truly want wasn’t what you thought it was?
What if it was just a misunderstanding in your decision-making process?
In this podcast, I talk about behavior change through The Stages of Change, and how your awareness of these stages might be the one thing that has been keeping you back from achieving your goals and dreams.
I am looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this podcast. Send me an email at chris@strongwithin.com if you are enjoying the podcast, I would love to hear from you.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone: 865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearnMusic by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
With the election in the U.S. coming up, I figured it would be a great time to talk about kindness, about hearing and listening to others, and celebrating our experiences together instead of fighting each other on our ideas of right or wrong.
How well do we listen to others? I know many times I didn't listen to another word someone else was speaking just waiting my turn to say something, waiting my turn to say my zinger, waiting my turn to prove how smart I was.
I always liked this quote-"when you speak you are only repeating what you already know, but when you listen you are learning something new."
So be challenged with me and listen to this week's podcast on how to listen with more intent, with more understanding, with more compassion.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
When you become a Patreon supporter you will get extra bonuses on how to integrate the life goals I am discussing each week into your life. In this week's extra bonus for supporters, I talk about avoiding the "war" by having a gameplan. (link below on how to join)
You can either be controlled by your anger, or you can rise to a level of understanding.
In this podcast, I talk about ways of seeing things from another level to be more in control of yourself, so you can be more in control of the places you wish to be mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually.
We can spend most of our lives being directed by our emotions instead of being led to the places we want to frequent by being aware and more emotionally intelligent.
It's not that the wise person can't get angry...it's that they won't because they see beyond what is--to direct themselves to where they ultimately want to be.
I bring up a great analogy in helping you to do this. Come and join me.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
As entrepreneurs (hell, anyone really), it's easy to get lost in the mix of trying to find that one thing that will save us.
What are the werewolves 🐺 in your life?
It's not even Halloween yet, but I am prepping you for all those scary things that can go bump in your mind. 😨😨😨
In this podcast, I teach you one principle to end your silver bullet mentality so you can begin making progress instead of constantly feeling stuck in your business, in your life, and in the things that have held you back before.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Have you ever thought about your Monday routine, and realized that how you live that one day was setting up how you live your life?
Imagine waking up on Monday morning so refreshed and excited that you don't need to have a cup of coffee to help you make it to 10 a.m. What would you accomplish with that level of energy?
Communication is one of the largest determinates of how we function in the world. And in our minds, we create a map, which determines the type of world we live in. So if we create a faulty map based on negative filters or improper truths, then we create a pathway for our lives to continuously be steered down ways that keep us away from the goals or places we wish to be.
This part 3 of 3 for the Neuro Linguistic Communication Model and in this episode we will be talking about Deletions in our language.
So if you haven't listened to 668 and 669, go back and listen to them to get the full picture of Generalizations, Distortions, and then Deletions in this episode.
Your subconscious doesn't know the difference between fact or fiction and in this episode, I talk about something in our brains called the reticular activating system that guides us towards where our attention is focused.
So join me, and let me help you create ways to craft a better internal map that guides your life.
If you are getting something out of the podcast, share a favorite episode with someone who you think might benefit from it.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Let's connect. Take a picture of where you are listening to the podcast or what you are doing when listening to the podcast, or what makes you Strong Within and tag me in it (links below) and hashtag #IAmStrongWithin or #StrongWithinPodcast:
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If you follow me, make sure to say hello and that you listen to the podcast. I am looking forward to seeing all the pictures and things you do while being Strong Within.
I'll start it off with a hi and me not only listening to the podcast but recording it ;-)
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This week's podcast is a continuation of 668 and the NLP model of communication.
I talk about how we distort the information we receive and how to solve the issues when we create faulty distortions.
Not all distortions are bad either, and I talk about one healthy one I utilize that helps me in my life.
The map is not the territory, meaning what happens outside of our mind is not the way we process it. And so the programs we have created within ourselves need to be maintained and checked from time to time by asking is this conclusion helping or hindering me?
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What's the biggest reason you feel stuck? Whether it be romantic, business, personal, or such...there is one thing that is helping or hindering your growth...and that one thing is your internal programs.
Miscommunication, biases, fear, and internal programming is controlling your thinking.
Everything that we process has to go through some sort of internal program we have created over time. Some programs are good, and some are limiting beliefs and fears.
In this podcast, I talk about the Neuro Linguistic Model of Communication and the filters that develop our mindset. I specifically go over the process of how we generalize the information that comes in which can help or harm us.
I talk about a specific picture in the podcast and this is it:
This is a black and white photo.
Give your mind a minute to unscramble that reality bomb and then go back and relook at the photo more closely.
Do you see the colored gridlines? Your mind is filling in the blanks.
And this is what I talk about in how we generalize things from our internal programming that will dictate how we think.
So join me today as I talk about communication and how we create programs that either help us or harm us. Let's become aware of our programming and begin changing it together.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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In today's episode, I talk about approval and how it can harm us, or how it harmed me. My goalpost in life was through praise.
If I did enough, if I made sure everyone else was taken care of, or if I upset someone I would then do whatever it took to make them happy. Even if it was at my expense and I didn't do anything wrong.
Are you trying too hard to make everyone else happy, to make everyone else ok with who you are or what you do, are you giving all of yourself away and stepping away from who you are at your core so you won't upset anyone and tip the apple cart?
Then this podcast is for you.
It is a reminder of what really matters and how to go towards doing the work that's important to you, no matter what anyone else says or thinks about it...because if it's important to you...then it has to be done.
Then you have to do it...no matter what the price is.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there, and any other giveaways that I don't do anywhere else)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Creating the life we want, reaching the goals we desire, and becoming the people we want to be happens when we decide to confidently be ourselves.
Confidence seems to be the magic answer, that once we have confidence we can be more of what we feel we are not. But in this podcast, I explore that idea and bring to light that you may already have more confidence than you previously thought.
I talk about the 3 C's that help us tap into our inherent confidence. Join me in today's podcast to learn how to tap into your own power, how to be able to change in an instant and remember who you always have been.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What if you could reprogram yourself for certain success?
What would it feel like to have certainty and peace in your life? What do you most wish for, and what if you knew that it was already in your possession before you achieved it?
While affirmations are great to utilize, they alone aren't enough, and I would love to help you use all your tools and power to create the change you are capable of.
I have a few spots open for my success and mindset mastery 1 on 1 coaching.
If you are looking for radical change in your life then email me at chris@strongwithin.com and let's create a dialogue to see how I can help you remember and utilize your power.
Let me show you how to use all of you, instead of only using the small sliver of your potential.
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In today's podcast I am asked, "if I only had one sentence to help someone change, what would I say?"
And as I answer that question and get ideas from a client, I also talk about the reason why we have trouble changing from who we were to who we want to be.
I had a light bulb a-ha moment during this podcast, and I would love to help you have your own light bulb a-ha moment in creating more effective changes in your life. So join us, and let's talk about how to better define our moments rather than be defined by them.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Today's podcast is a replay that I did either in late 2017 or earlier 2018. It was with a conversation I had with a friend of mine who gave his son a job to do in earning his weekly allowance.
His son asked what does it entail, and my friend said to his son...it requires being useful.
And so I bring up the question of how are you being useful in your life, to others, and to the world.
So join me, and let's find ways to be more awake and useful in the manner that we truly wish to be.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
How do you deal with suffering, trauma, and loss?
Do you try to avoid the emotions at all costs, do you find yourself getting stuck in the emotions for long periods of times and not sure how to get out?
Well in this podcast, I talk about suffering, worth, heartbreak, and dealing with your internal trauma's and how you can think differently about it to heal. I also have some tools and resources to help you navigate through them more effectively.
Join me on today's episode to find better ways to handle your suffering.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
This week I did something different. I went for a walk and recorded my thoughts for today's podcast. I am including the video below.
Here's a link to see the video version of this talk and my walk:
Click on the picture or the link to be taken to the video https://youtu.be/C9eKGB8XssQ
One of the great things about the recording this week is hearing all the birds in it. And I hope you enjoy the wind too ;-)
In this episode, I discuss how being open to all possibilities creates better alignment with you and The Universe.
We reject or repel the great things that God/Universe is trying to give us by not utilizing 3 principles efficiently. And in this podcast, I discuss what those 3 things are and how to begin thinking and acting differently to allow the Universe to work with you instead of you working against it.
So join me by listening to the podcast and let's begin being more successful by thinking about how we go about these 3 things I discuss in the podcast.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Chris
Chris O'Hearn
Mindset and Success Coach
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What is a better life?
Is it being able to do more and have more?
A better life is about evolving. We try to add more into our lives to be able to get more done, to not waste our time, but we have gotten getting things done mixed up with BEING someone.
In this podcast, I question the act of being offended or hurt, and instead... stepping back to see the bigger picture towards mastering our emotions. So join me, and learn about the observer in all of us towards mastering not only our emotions but ourselves within a moment.
Let me help you start the process of asking how you can evolve to BE more.
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Why is achieving our goals so hard? Why are the obstacles in front of us easier to succumb to instead of easier to go through?
I have come to know it's by where we focus our eyes and our minds.
The wall that is in front of you may not have been constructed by anyone or anything else. That wall most likely has been built by you.
We take back ownership of our lives when we let go of the excuses of why we can't, or how the world seems to make our lives harder, and we see that a higher calling will come with more struggles.
Not because you are cursed, but because you are blessed in being able to handle them.
Think about a doctor, a dentist, or someone who is going to do some very specific work on you. Do you want someone who never was tested, or do you want someone who had to be challenged to become the best version of themselves?
When you change how you work on problems, it's not that the problem gets easier...you GET BETTER. And when you get better, you will find you attract what you want more easily to you as well.
It's not that the work changes, it's that you get more efficient, and in fact...you love to be challenged. You are EXCITED to be challenged.
So let me show you how to get over that wall, by understanding that maybe it never was really even there.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
The pathway to true happiness, confidence, success, and fulfillment isn't in getting things...it's in living in the moment.
We want the moment beyond this one to BRING us happiness. We feel there is the promise of something better in that future moment, or we want to go back and change our past so we don't have to feel upset about those mistakes we went through.
And guess what, doing that, it only creates more unrest.
Life is not about perfection. I know we know this, so then why do we seek for it all the time?
It's because we have been thinking that a different moment will BRING us what we want instead of understanding that in this exact moment we can find everything we ever have wanted or needed.
Take a listen to this podcast and let me help change your perception on your sadness, on your fears and insecurities, and on your regrets.
The way to true change is by being in the moment, so join me in this moment and let's change for the better together. Let's be Strong Within.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Why do we hate being backed into a corner?
Why do we hate starting over?
Why do we hate being tried and tested in our lives?
Is rooting for the underdog keeping you from reaching your goals, from being the person you want to be?
Let me open you mind on how to think differently about winning and living your life. Let me help you make a shift from being the underdog into being favored to win in your life.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Only one week left to join me for the summer in creating a new you.
This is your chance to ask yourself, am I truly committed to change? Am I truly committed to making my life better, or will I stand on the sidelines hoping things will get better?
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. Do something different this time and join me for a life-changing event.
What if this one course could the transition you need to get you over that hill you have been struggling with? What if this course could be the one thing that helps you transform your wishes into realities? What if this one course changed the way you deal with your goals and problems, and begin attracting your goals more easily to you instead of trying to force them to happen?
So stop talking about wishing for things to be different, and allow this to be the opportunity to become who you always say you want to be.
Take a chance on yourself with me...
Click on this link to sign up: www.strongwithin.com/store/summersprint
In today's podcast I talk about death and how we deal with the aftermath of it.
Do we hold onto the should of, would of, could ofs? Or will we hold onto the things that help us to move forward, the things we are to learn from the event, and taking it all so we transform not only our lives but the lives of everyone we come in contact with.
While death can feel like the end to some, it can be the beginning of something new for others. How will you process the event and transition to being the person you want to be all the time...instead of having regret for letting things pass before you could do something about it?
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
www.strongwithin.com/store/summersprint
What do you lay awake at night dreaming about?
The problem is we don't lay awake anymore because we have put up the white flag, thrown in the towel, and given up on certain goals because we are tired of saying I can't have that.
But what if you could manifest goals more readily? What if you could make up your mind on what you want and begin making it happen?
What would it feel like to stop wondering if you can and instead get down to work knowing you will make what you want yours?
Let me help you reach your goals by creating more certainty in your life. The price we must pay to be who we want to be doesn't start with DOING more, it is about BECOMING more. And I would love to remind you about the power already within you.
I would love to remind you of how Strong Within you are. So Join me on the Summer Sprint Goal Manifesting Course this summer by making a commitment to yourself right now.
Those who have, don't wait. They make a choice quickly, they get making mistakes, and course correct. So commit to your eternal growth and let's get you moving to your true purpose together as you join me in the Strong Within Summer Sprint 2020 www.strongwithin.com/store/summersprint
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
www.strongwithin.com/store/summersprint
Given up on your New Year's Resolutions? Given up on 2020 because of the Corona virus?
What if you could hit a reset button and change the way you achieve and attract what you want in your life?
Well, I would love to help you reset your year and your life by joining me on The Strong Within Summer Sprint Goal Manifesting Course.
The course will go from June 1st-August 31st, 2020. And every week during that time I will be helping you to align with yourself and goals differently.
We spend so much time trying to force goals, trying to make things happen. And sure, maybe they happen over time but we spend so much time forcing things instead of BEING the person who attracts goals easier to themselves.
I have created a planner and a system for this course that focuses on BEING rather than just doing. And in the first month, I will unveil the planner out little by little to help you work through things and master them rather than be overwhelmed by them.
The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results, so what do you have to lose by doing something different, besides your old unwanted habits?
Your goals are already within you, it's just learning how to align yourself with your purpose and your values. It's unlearning old patterns that are no longer useful and coming back to your power that was always within you.
What would it be worth to you to hit the reset button in your life and begin attracting and manifesting the goals you truly desire instead of just wishing for them to happen?
So join me this summer for less than $100 and let's get being Strong Within Goal Mainfesters.
Click the link to join this year's coolest summer destination
-->your dreams:
www.strongwithin.com/store/summersprint
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
New Years Resolution Goals a Bust?
Have you spent years starting and stopping goals that seem to elude you? Have you given up on dreams because they seemed too big?
What if that all could change in a summer? What would that be worth to you? What would it be worth to you to actually start goals that matter to you and finish them?
Starting in June you can work with me on becoming not only Strong Within towards your goals, but a master manifestor.
The reason you struggle with reaching your goals is not that you aren't good enough to achieve them, but more because you have been focusing too much on the action instead of BECOMING the person who is already aligned with the goals.
If you would like to shift your mindset so you can shift your reality, then this is the course for you.
I will be finalizing all the details this month, so if you want to be a person who not only attracts their goals to them more easily, but also can hold onto them...then email me at chris@strongwithin.com and let me know that you'd like to be notified of all the details coming out.
Also joining my newsletter will keep you abreast of all the things I am up to in the future. You can sign up on my site at www.strongwithin.com
I will be starting the Strong Within Summer Sprint Goal Course on June 1st.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Think about the reasons you quit something that you wanted to achieve…and ask yourself, “why did I quit?”
In this podcast, I discuss 8 reasons why we quit and how you can be more successful in your endeavors instead of giving up too soon.
Here's that cool invention that my good friend created.
A Sink As Mindful As a Zen Monk...So You Don't Have To Be
Teach your kids better habits, and help yourself be more mindful in your life. My friend is an inventor and all-around super genius. Kickstarter is a crowdfunding app, and you can help him offset the funds to manufacture this invention.
That's what I love about Kickstarter, it's a pretty cool feeling to know you were part of the ground floor in helping to make a good idea happen. It's a win-win. You help him reduce the costs of manufacturing, you get this cool sink add on, and you will be cleaner all while becoming as mindful as a zen monk.
A sink as mindful as a Zen Monk...so you don't have to be.
Click on the picture above or the link right here to go to the site and check it out: CLICK HERE TO GO THE SINKBLINK20
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
“I have a secret to tell you. There will always be chaos in life. The question is, will you be part of the chaos or will you step back and see it for what it is…an incident or an interaction. An incident just happens to you, but an interaction means you have some sort of control in how you communicate with it.”~Chris O’Hearn
Learn how to make the most of the moment in harder times. Will you be controlled by the moment, or will you walk through the chaos calmly?
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithinContact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
While you may be in lockdown because of Covid, it doesn't mean that you have to be locked out from your productivity and creativity.
I recently got an email asking how to be motivated during this time, and not feel so lazy.
In this podcast, I talk about the difference between motivation and inspiration and I get into 3 key points on how to be the more productive and fulfilled with the effort you are putting out, no matter what season it is in your life.
*******To get the special discount for the hypnosis recording go to www.strongwithin.com and sign up for my newsletter to get the code for a special discount. You must use the code by
Friday, April 17th by 11:59pm EST.**
If you are already signed up for my newsletter, and you didn't get the email..check your spam box. And also email me and I will send it to you directly (or give me a call or text and we will sort it out so you can get the discount if there are any issues).
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com
phone:865-219-3247
follow me on social media:
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Trauma affects all of us, but will you live with it for the rest of your life or will you learn how to channel it better so you can release it?
Listen to today's podcast to learn how to create new neuronal pathways so you stop living in the past and begin creating a new reality.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
follow me on social media: www.facebook.com/thechrisohearnwww.instagram.com/thechrisohearn
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
In this moment you can see it as an unfortunate and scary time or you can see it as an awakening. In fact, in any moment you can decide to be awoken to the person you want to be and always have been underneath it all.
I created a hypnosis recording to help you create peace, calm, relaxation, and to utilize your internal healing more in these uncertain times: https://www.strongwithin.net/store
This podcast is listener supported--to become a Patreon Subscriber: www.strongwithin.com/support
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
My links: https://linktr.ee/strongwithin Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
follow me on social media:
www.facebook.com/thechrisohearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Today's Affirmation: I Create My Internal Environment
In this podcast, I talk about true health and how we can become personally involved to create a safer and healthier life for ourselves.
And as we wait for things to go back to normal, we have the chance to do something different than most are doing in these uncertain times.
So join me to think differently about what is ahead, and how to begin healing yourself from the inside out.
Lissa Rankin Article-https://www.facebook.com/lissarankin/posts/when-i-first-read-the-spontaneous-remission-project-which-consists-of-over-3500-/636774866351938/
Is there scientific proof we can heal ourselves? | Lissa Rankin, MD | TEDxAmericanRiviera-
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LWQfe__fNbs
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
https://youtu.be/KaxEWNdvJ84 click on the link to come along with me on my hike in the Greater Smoky Mountains National Park on a trail called the Chimney Tops. See the beautiful trail and hear my thoughts as I go on a life hike to work a few things out.
In the video I give in an intro at the beginning of the trail, I take you on the trail and speak from time to time during it, and then I close it out with some thoughts at the end. So take what you want out of it, and I hope it brightens your day, or something resonates with you that helps you on your own personal life hike.
In this podcast I talk about how we live with our habits, do we just do them to get something or do we LIVE within our habits?
Take a listen and send me an email about something new you are going to do this week, this year, or however long. I would love to be a part of your journey with you.
Thanks for listening, I am sending great energy your way.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Just because the contest is over doesn't mean you can't still send me your fave podcasts and why you like them. So if you have more recommendations, please send them to chris@strongwithin.com
In today's affirmation podcast I talk about how we can change the status of our health by reducing the stress of what we are focusing on in the moment.
It can be easy to look at what's going wrong and why it's going wrong. I get it, how else do we problem solve if we never look at what we don't like?
However, it can be easy to constantly over focus and worry on ALL the things going wrong in our lives. And thus, we begin training our minds and our subconscious to be on high alert thinking that something is wrong all the time.
So let me help you reframe some of the harder points in your life by helping you see the distance you have already come, and how you are going to overcome your new obstacles just like you did your old ones.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
What are your strategies for dealing with frustration? Do you handle it well, or do you crumble under it and overreact because of it?
In this episode I talk about my issues with it and how I deal with it, and I challenge you to work on your game plan with me in this episode. We do some exercises that will help you think more creatively instead of staying stuck in emotions that are no longer serving you.
We have something called secondary gains, where an action or emotion is giving us a secondary benefit by staying in the emotion instead of letting it go.
So check out the podcast and let's work on eradicating illegitimate frustration, and create more productive actions and emotions that move us forward instead of keeping us stuck.
I will be announcing the winner of the contest in the next podcast, but I still would love to know the episodes that have helped you out or changed your life. So if you would send me an email at chris@strongwithin.com and tell me your favorite episodes and why, I would be truly grateful. Thank you.
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance, Personal Development Coach, & NLP practitioner-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
LAST WEEK TO ENTER
Win a $50 Amazon or Visa gift card by emailing me your top 5 favorite episodes of the Strong Within Podcast before March 1, 2020. I will choose two random winners
In the intro, I read Isabelle's story on how The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast has helped her deal with a few hard situations in her life, and maybe how it might help you in your life as well.
I would love to hear your stories on how the podcast has helped you. Who knows, I might just feature it in the podcast or my upcoming book. So send me an email sometime (along with your favorite episodes to be entered to win the contest. There's a pretty good chance you could win...I haven't gotten that many emails, and this is the last week to enter).
This episode is a replay as a homage to the contest of finding the best episodes. It's one of my favorites. I love the idea of being such a powerful energy that you change the environment around you.
How do you higher your vibrational frequency? What do you do in your life to be a more powerful entity wherever you stand. We think that we just enter rooms and it is what it is, but everyone has an energy that they emit. Are you coming in being affected by other's energy or are you the one doing the affecting?
We can choose to have a great life. We can choose to be a powerful energy in this world no matter what our profession is or what our place in life is. But we look at where we aren’t, why we hate where we are currently, and forget that we have a choice to be happy. We have a choice to be more powerful not in having things handed to us, but in knowing that the energy we bring into every situation will decide the fate of our lives.
So check out the podcast as you ask yourself...how will I choose to be the energy I want to be for every room I enter (or place I stand).
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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The Art of The Reframe can change your life.
There are two ways we can reframe any situation either by context or by meaning, hear my story recently and how I reframed the event to help illustrate how you can begin mastering the art of the reframe in your life.
The events in our lives aren't there to punish us, but I believe they are there to help us grow and learn how to become the humans that we want to be. So join me on this journey in learning how to see the events in a better light, so you can live a better life.
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Today's Affirmation: I Am What I Tell Myself I Am.
Where most people keep sliding back to old patterns and habits that no longer serve them anymore—is they only tell themselves the story they need to hear when it feels easiest to them. We all know how much easier it is to say that it was the economy, it was that person who made me feel this way, it was my job, it was my anxiety, it was my fear, it was my depression, or any other thing outside of yourself that you can put the blame on for you not being where you want to be right now.
But the truth is, all of those reasons are excuses.
Saying one sentence and reminding yourself that you are in the driver's wheel can change not only your day but the direction of your life. Listen to today's podcast to begin changing that direction, as this is one of the most powerful affirmations I have used in a while.
They are all powerful, but this one really resonated with me, and I am sure it will with you too.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Today's podcast is a repeat from 2018. I am working on creating a book of the best episodes of the Strong Within podcast and I need your help in choosing the best ones. So thank you for your help in this matter.
In today's podcast, I talk about how to reframe seeing an enemy into something more. The conflicts of our lives can be avoided or can be reframed when we see beyond what we don't like.
Conflict resolution isn't always about coming at things head-on but instead getting to the root of the problem and seeing beyond the problem. So listen to today's podcast and see how you can reframe seeing people as enemies who rub you the wrong way and see more in the person, and see more in yourself, to be able to change the energy of any exchange.
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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This week's affirmation:
I Am Flexible At All Times.
How flexible are you in your life?
Are you utilizing the Law of Requisite Variety?
In this podcast, I question how well we listen to our intuition so we can take action when needed. Are you hearing the strongest voice, or have you been conditioning yourself to hear the easiest voice first?
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Help Support The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast By Going To: www.strongwithin.com/support (You can also get the transcripts there)
Are you living at Cause or Effect?
What limiting beliefs or decisions are you living with, and how is it affecting your life?
How many years of your life have you wasted arguing with yourself? How many times have you said why you weren't good enough, or why you couldn't do something, or why you weren't worthy?
What if this year you stopped wasting time arguing with yourself on why you can't, and you began creating a better internal dialogue on why you can?
And what if you took action on those thoughts; how different would your life be?
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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What traps have you set for your new year?
Listen in and see how you can achieve your goals more readily, and of course how to not only be stronger within...but to be awesome within as well ;-)
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Are you an opportunist or a realist?
To have what you want, to be content with your place at the table, and to feel in control of your life means you will be willing to do what others will not—it means you will have to be different.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Do you know why you do what you do, do you know what your convictions are?
What is your work ethic, and how do you view the work ahead of you? It can make all the difference in your life.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Find Ways To Be Enthusiastic Everywhere I Am
What if you were able to love every place you inhabited, and truly mean it, how would that change your life?
What if you could find meaning in the so-called meaningless, and make your life the picture you always wished it would?
And what if you were to learn the most powerful words that will determine who and what you are and will become...what would that mean to you?
Well, listen to the podcast to find out.
I will be off next week, so have a wonderful Thanksgiving all my American friends, and everyone else...have an amazing week and weekend. I am looking forward to speaking with you in December.
I would love to hear how the podcast has helped you. Email me and let's chat.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Want To Know Your Story
How can we see eye to eye in what seems like divided times?
How can we seek first to understand and then be understood?
In this episode, I help you to not only question how to see what people's story is, but how to help others see yours as well. We argue and get nowhere with people, but what if we were able to discuss things from a different angle and make progress by wanting to know someone else's story?
Listen in and learn how to approach people who are on the opposite side of the negotiating table from you.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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In today's podcast I talk about why we don't reach our goals, and how falling in love with the process will transform your success.
Being a life coach I work with tons of people in helping them align themselves up with the right daily grind for them, let's find your answers in this podcast on how to make what you want a reality by doing whatever it takes.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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We are surrounded by energy, and we can be absorbed and manipulated by it, or we can transform and utilize it more effectively.
I talk about recycling energies that were weighing me down, and how you can do that yourself as well.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Prepare For Tomorrow By Living Today
In today's podcast, I question on how we should move on when something tragic happens. And why attachment can be a bad thing when we hold on too long to our past.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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In this podcast, I talk about how to have better soft skills, and how to create change by doing one thing. So join us today and hear from me and a little snippet from a pretty cool Mike Rowe interview.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Are you controlled by your emotions instead of living by your principles?
We live lives of chaos not because of the events outside of ourselves but because of not living by our principles. Check out today's podcast and ask yourself can I be making better choices with my thoughts, can I be utilizing higher healthier thoughts, and can I be following through with my principles by being the person I say I truly am?
Join me as we become Strong Within Together.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Play To Win
"Sooner or later, those who win are those who think they can."
~Paul Torneir
Over the years I’ve listened to and read a lot of self-help materials. And I used to listen to a podcast of someone I resonated with and respected, and I am sure if I listen to their podcast again I know I will be loving it, but I have put my time into other things at the moment.
And in one of their particular podcasts, I remember the host bringing up a point about winning and losing. This host said that of course he loves to win, but what really drives him is he hates to lose.
And I wrestled with that thought for quite some time. For me, it seems counterintuitive to focus on the negative driving you. I am not trying to compare the other host to me, well not really, but thinking about where they are and what they have accomplished—it made me really step back from my opinion and to begin asking well what if I am wrong?
What if I should be focusing on working hard not to lose rather than focusing my efforts on winning?
*Hear The Rest By Listening To The Podcast*
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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Today’s Personal Commitment:
How can you believe a little more in yourself today? I believe when we believe more in ourselves, not in an arrogant way, then we are able to believe more in others. Because it’s not about competition anymore of worrying about others taking from us. It’s about living our truths, and when we do that…we want others to live theirs as well. So today become aware of all the things you say or do that keep you from believing more in yourself. Find all the negative things that don’t align up with you believing that you can be more. See the things you think and do that hold you back.
You will fall many times when you do this…but that’s because you’re reaching for more. And that means you’re growing because you don’t get things perfect the first time, you learn from them and adjust. So learn from yourself and adjust…be more and speak your truth about the extraordinary amazing person you are and can be.
Your truth is not mine…I live my truth through my actions
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Podcast Notes:
Books referenced:
- Outliers: The Story of Success By Malcolm Gladwell
- Switch: How To Change When Change is Hard by Dan And Chip Heath
- 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
Part two of Why Multitasking Is Ruining Your Life. This episode delves into the solutions that will help you be more purposeful in your life and get more done in your day by offering solutions on how to go about task switch better and how to see more in the present moment.
Your happiness could depend on it, so check out the episode before this one (#624) for part 1 on multitasking and then listen to this one if you.
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Today's Topics:
- Are you a product of your environment or your habits?- Is ADHD real?- Multitasking and how it's making us dumber?- Can brain scans diagnose a mental disease?
Show Notes:
- https://www.inc.com/nate-klemp/want-to-improve-your-memory-a-decade-long-stanford-study-suggests-you-should-stop-doing-this-1-thing.html?utm_source=pocket-newtab
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/suffer-the-children/201803/is-adhd-real
- https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/experts/seth-j-gillihan-phd
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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The Reality I Act Upon Is Better Than Any Daydream Only Imagined
“You’re not stuck. You’re just committed to certain patterns of behavior because they helped you in the past. Now those behaviors have become more harmful than helpful. The reason why you can’t move forward is because you keep applying an old formula to a new level in your life. Change the formula to get a different result.”
~Emily Maroutian
The last 3 months I was hosting an online goal setting course that I called The Strong Within Summer Sprint, and this past weekend was the end of the challenge. And what I find is, that it’s hard to end things, it’s always hard to say goodbye, but even more so when you’re unsure how to end things.
Maybe that’s why I always had trouble ending relationships…at least that’s what I told myself…they didn’t break up with me, they just were allowing me to pursue new avenues.
But I digress, and what I meant before I got on to that silly comment is, do we celebrate the ending of the challenge because the hard work is over and we can rest now, or do we have some sort of sad reverent send off to respect the work and time that was put in, or do we exercise a little bit of both?
And so I recorded a celebration send-off video thanking everyone for allowing me to grow with them, and for allowing me to be a part of their transformation. For me, there’s nothing more beautiful than seeing someone realize more in themselves as they step back and reassess what they originally thought they could do—and begin upping their game.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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I Treat People As I Hope To Be Treated
“Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love.”
~Leo Buscaglia
There’s something called the Four Noble Truths in Buddhism:
- Suffering, pain, and misery exist in life
- Suffering arises from attachment to desires
- Suffering ceases when attachment to desire ceases
- Freedom from suffering is possible by practicing the Eightfold Path
Now, I’m not an expert in Buddhism or finding Nirvana, as Nirvana means freedom from all worries, and it is said that Nirvana is beyond understanding or inexplicable to those who have not realized it yet.
And in these Truths, it seems like expectation can be seen as an attachment, and attachments are seen as something that’s bad…unless that is of course you love suffering.
There’s a dichotomy between expectation and of living. For how can you do one without the other? How can you continue on without having an expectation or hope that there will be a tomorrow or a reason for you reaching towards tomorrow…and how can you work towards tomorrow if you weren’t to live and be excited for life?
Because to stay in stagnation, to wait for things to happen, or to wait without purpose is not to live but to exist. And existing isn’t a strategy towards living a real life. Even animals do more than exist.
*Hear The Rest By Listening To The Podcast*
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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What are you running from?
What are the excuses you are making right now that give you a reason to stop when things get too hard?
What are the reasons YOU have become the obstacle in the road? And yes you heard me right, I didn’t say there was an obstacle, I said YOU HAVE become the obstacle.
Every thought you think, every word you utter, and every action you follow through with is rewiring your brain to re-enact what you are telling yourself. I have said this a million times, and I will tell you a million more because I need to hear it every day. I need to be reminded of it every day, and I think you do too.
I have to remind myself that a belief isn’t a certainty—a belief is a habit. A belief is the thing I have told myself over and over again, it is the thing I have allowed others to tell me over and over again and not correct that thought in my mind and take it as gospel.
And while I know this truth…I still forget it because it’s so much easier to tell myself why something will be too hard, why what I want isn’t meant for me, or that it’s not worth the suffering of failures to pursue what I want. I have told the story that the world is hard enough as it is, so why do I have to go and add onto that misery.
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Am Curious Because Anger Closes Doors While Curiosity Opens Them
“I'm curious about other people. That's the essence of my acting. I'm interested in what it would be like to be you.”
~Meryl Streep
I haven’t been on social media all that much lately. I will pop in from time to time, but I have been overwhelmed with a feeling I had to post things every day. And the way that Facebook or Instagram's new logarithms work, if I post anything that could be seen as business-related such as promoting the new podcast…it seems like no one sees it.
I always laugh at how a post with a picture of food can get a hundred likes and then posting about a self-help podcast only gets 1 or 2 likes. And so instead of getting frustrated about that, I decided to step away for a bit, and not feel like I had to post something every day. Maybe it could be bad business to not utilize all my resources for promotion, but I think it is better to have my sanity at the moment and to feel calm instead of feeling frustrated.
The reason I bring up this seemingly pointless story really has nothing to do with marketing the podcast but more about coming on social media sporadically instead of being controlled by it. And so I came onto my Instagram account, and I saw I had a message, so I clicked on it, and it was from a story someone had posted and tagged me in it.
A Facebook or Instagram story is post that will appear only for 24 hours, and then it disappears. I wasn’t sure why I was tagged in the story because I hadn’t logged on within 24 hours of when it was posted, so in the message it just had this blank filler letting me know I was tagged with nothing else there.
I figured it had something to do with my podcast, unless it was another person I didn’t know wanting to trash talk me, but I figured it was something positive rather than negative. I’m not famous enough to have random people telling me how much they hate me yet.
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Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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My Words Are My Compass
“A rusty nail placed near a faithful compass, will sway it from the truth, and wreck the vessel.” ~Walter Scott
In the beginning of June I started an online group coaching course called the Strong Within Goals Summer Sprint. And in this course, I am working with people to help them think differently about themselves and how they go about achieving their goals. For most people, it was a brand new way of going about their goals because I’m having them work backward instead of chasing after goals how we normally do in our lives.
Usually we think we want something, and then we begin dreaming about what it would be like to have that thing. And that’s where a lot of us stop because we come up with stories of how it would be too hard to achieve, that we aren’t good enough, smart enough, rich enough, or whatever enough to pursue that goal. So either we never create a game plan and just dream away thinking about wouldn’t it be nice, or we go about trying to achieve that goal blindfolded and feeling our way in the dark in hopes of gaining some traction.
Every week, I send out a survey to get feedback on what people are struggling with, where they are being successful, and any other information that I can get from their survey to help keep them on track with their game plan, and also anything that needs to be augmented in their thinking patterns. You see, the reason I see most of my clients, or even myself struggle, is due to the story we tell ourselves. We look at the outside factors that are keeping us from our goals, keeping us from our peace of mind, or keeping us from finding the balance we so desire.
And maybe it might sound disrespectful to some when I say that the story they are telling is keeping them from the goal, not the outside obstacle. People may think that I am minimizing their struggle by saying they made up some story of why they can’t have something. But I am not telling someone they are weak or that they are making things up, I’m actually telling them that they have more power than they realize.
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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The wise person does not fight,
For they know they have no enemies,
As our greatest adversary is not another,
But the overcoming of our former self,
Not in a waged all-out war,
But uncovering our internal self slanders,
Exposing the false shadows we’ve concealed.
Darkness has no authority within the light,
Like the sun rising,
Fusing with land,
No longer two separate entities,
As there is no beginning nor end,
But of one complete unity.
The wise person does not fight,
For they are not warriors but explorers,
Devoted only to true understanding,
In finding themselves.
Chris O’Hearn 9-4-16
A pencil lays lifeless,
Upon a pad,
Waiting for a message,
That isn’t coming,
A sword without a sheath,
Laying barren,
Lost without purpose,
As there is no hand,
To carry upon its mission,
For the best-laid plans,
Of mice and men,
Often go awry.
Maybe because life,
Is really a balancing act,
A tipping of the scales,
One side empty,
The other with a ball of yarn,
Not of finding constant success,
But asking can you keep moving,
Can you handle the impossible task,
That may never be unraveled?
Chris O’Hearn 8-30-16
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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*EXCERPT FROM THE PODCAST*
Today's Affirmation--
The Thoughts I Consistently Focus On Are The Emotions I Live Within
We hope for the rewards too quickly, and when they don’t happen we get disappointed and quit. We tell stories that we aren’t good enough because we couldn’t do it fast enough, or that it must be impossible because those people on TV lost 20 pounds in a week, or those commercials that promise weight loss from only taking a pill. Even though in small fine print they usually will say at the end of each commercial that this needs to be taken with a sensible diet and a workout regimen.
And so when the change doesn’t happen as the commercials or TV shows promised, we feel like failures. We tell stories that it must be in our DNA why we are who we are, or that we aren’t smart enough, talented enough, committed enough, or good enough to not be able to change.
But what if you were to step back from whatever you struggling with right now, and decided to be open to the possibility that change can happen if you look at it from another viewpoint. So clear your mind for a moment on the impossibility of the change that you want and haven’t been able to overcome, and ask yourself what if the stories I have been telling weren’t true?
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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This friend was the first person who taught me the phrase, “this too shall pass.” And in a way, I was telling him that it wasn’t about waiting for something to pass, it was more in asking why are you there, what do you want to get out of this moment, and how do you become mindful of that so you can be fulfilled AND purposeful in that moment.
Yes, things happen in our lives and we get stressed, we complain about them, or wish for them not to be in our lives…but those events, or things, are not only what we need at the moment, but they are the things we specifically are asking for and then forget we asked for them in the first place.
We went about our lives wanting to be challenged and wanting to put our mark upon the world with our own specific and unique signature…but then when we are confronted and tested on that wish, we fall apart and complain about how life is so unfair, and if only we could just get a break—then life would be so much better.
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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Here's the link to the article I discussed:
https://www.vox.com/science-and-health/2016/11/3/13486940/self-control-psychology-myth
When you focus on what you don’t want to do, you ONLY take the discussion in your mind half-way. We still have to focus our brain on what we really want, and who we want to be. And that’s why focusing on what we don’t want isn’t powerful enough, it only takes the discussion in our mind part of the way. And that’s why the article talks about self-control or will power not being enough, we are coming for a stance of a weak foundation as our focus is upon a place of focusing on and fighting temptation instead of focusing on strength.
We become strong not from fighting but more from learning how to divert our focus away from the temptation and instead to focus on a place of stability in what we want to do and who we want to be.
And I know that sounds weird because we see the thing we don’t want to do as the mortal enemy. We take our anger out on that poor defenseless chocolate cake that is there to ruin our lives, as if it this non-physical thing was alive and made a choice to purposefully ruin our goals, and our lives. The more you don’t want to think about the cake, and the more you want to avoid it, then the more you feel tempted to think about it, and the more you focus on that image in your mind.
But the cake never was the enemy, even if it was called devil’s food cake, it only was an obstacle because we deemed it as such. We thought we couldn’t have it, we thought we would be failures by succumbing to the temptation of the opposite of our goals.
However, what if eating that cake wasn’t really the problem, and instead it was realizing that our mindset about what the cake meant to us…was the issue.
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Am Curious, & That Is Why I Am Slow To Anger and Quick To Focus On Understanding
“Learning lessons is a little like reaching maturity. You're not suddenly more happy, wealthy, or powerful, but you understand the world around you better, and you're at peace with yourself. Learning life's lessons is not about making your life perfect, but about seeing life as it was meant to be.” ~Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
In my life coaching business, I ask people what the most important thing did they got out of the session, and a common answer was that they felt heard. We spend so much time trying to get our story across that we forget people are like us...they want to be heard.
ANd when we take the time to listen more purposefully, we allow better emotions to surface because we take our time to process things rather than flying off the handle.
Change happens not in forcing things, but in stepping back to process things. We are so close to our emotions that we need a little separation from taking things personally and learning to stop reacting and learn how to respond better. Take a listen to the podcast to be awakened to another way of communicating better.
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Choose My Words Carefully Because What I Say…Is Who I Become:
I split my life coaching business with a personal training business, and I was attending a continuing education fitness class from a gentleman by the name of Lawrence Biscontini. I got a lot of great knowledge from him in how to run group exercises classes more efficiently and how to practice and prepare yourself before you ever step foot into a group exercise environment. But the greatest thing I took away from him, was a simple idea on how to end my group classes, or in fact how to end any meeting with another individual.
If you are like me, you might allow your worth to be determined by what someone else has said about you or what you’ve done in your life. And at the end of a class I used to ask people, “how was the class, was it good enough, did I play the music you liked, are you happy…blah blah blah, and all these groveling questions I would ask people. But what I was really asking is, “did you like me, was I good enough, and was I acceptable enough for you,” and subconsciously I’m sure I was really asking the question “am I worthy?”
And what Lawrence taught me was...
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Chris O'Hearn
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast June 2019 Week 2
Every Day I Do Something Better Than The Day Before
“In every day, there are 1,440 minutes. That means we have 1,440 daily opportunities to make a positive impact. “ Les Brown
I don’t like to call people out for behaving badly when they don’t know any different, but today I feel we must call ourselves out if we are to grow. So I am speaking to you, and I am speaking to me. I am speaking about being ordinary, normal, and thus making ourselves weak.
There are people who are comfortable with staying the same because they’ve told themselves that change is hard, it’s painful, and maybe that they can’t change. And this message will be lost to those folks, but it is not our job to change those who don’t want to change…it is only our life mission to change and BE A change in this world for those who are wanting and willing to change.
My good friend Wes Hall and I were talking on the phone, and he said something to the effects of this— “there are two types of people in the world. Those who want to be impacted, and those who want to be impactful.”
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Focus My Energy On What I Can Control
“In our personal and professional lives, we are constantly hit with one adversity after the other, most of which we have no control over. But the four things we have total control over is how we react, how we adapt, how we breathe, and how we take action.”
~Diamond Dallas Page
I was teaching a spin class the other night, and usually I’ll tell a goofy joke or be silly during class. Yes, I work to push the class participants hard, and to work on getting to know their body, I still like to be silly from time to time to lighten up the mood.
In a class I challenge them to learn what their body feels like in their comfort zones, and then what it feels like to give just a little more—what it feels like to add one to ten percent more to that comfort zone.
I have them close their eyes at times to feel the ride, to feel their body, to open their mind to what’s happening and not just going into autopilot. It’s my hope that they begin teaching the subconscious to communicate with them, it’s my hope that their autopilot doesn’t just go to sleep but learns to communicate with them when they are veering from their goals...
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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I Wake Up Each Morning Excited To Face The Day
“The word 'romance,' according to the dictionary, means excitement, adventure, and something extremely real. Romance should last a lifetime.”
~Billy Graham
I like that quote, which got me thinking what are we romancing in our lives?
I used to say I’m not a morning person. I would wake up feeling tired, that I needed more sleep, and that I wished I could go back to bed. And I think a lot of us feel this way. We live in a time where we’re more sleep deprived than ever, and sure we can blame all the reasons around us in why we are so tired and not able to wake up. For example, take technology, we could say that it’s tv or our phones that are messing with our sleep patterns and that the blue light from the screen is messing with our eyes and confusing our brains making them think it’s not night time.
And I won’t deny the studies that have looked into this, I’m sure there’s plenty of truth to the idea of how the screens affect us in negative ways. However, I think it can be easy to blame someone or something else for the problems and negative patterns in our lives. I believe there’s a bigger culprit to the negative patterns we find ourselves in…and that culprit is the habits we choose to partake in.
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Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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The Strong Within Affirmation Podcast May 2019 week 4
The Resistance I Incur Strengthens Me
I saw a quote a while back that I wrote on a piece of paper because it moved me, and I’m pretty sure I’ve used it in a previous podcast. I had written in my notes that it came from the sacred spiritual text of the Bhagavad Gita. I was looking to find the exact translation to make sure I had the quote right, but I could only find parts of it, but it really doesn’t matter the exact definition as these words can be found in all the sacred texts that have ever been written. And the quote I wrote down said:
“You should do your work with all your heart with no thoughts of reward and then you will achieve external happiness.”
I know in my life I lived it by making sure people knew what I was doing. I had to make sure they knew I was lending that hand or by making sure I had the right answer to give to them to help them out in their predicament. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting, or letting, people know that you are doing good things for them. Where the problem came in for me was that—I HAD to have them know. My worth was wrapped up in others acknowledging and accepting me. I had to be seen as the good guy, so maybe I could feel like the good guy.
I wasn’t inauthentic in wanting to help others, but my helping hand had an underlying subconscious message—and the messages was that I believed happiness had to be given to me. I believed that to be worthy I had to be seen by others....
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast May 2019 Week 3
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I Am Fulfilling My Purpose, As I Allow What I Want To Come To Me
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance.”~Brian Tracy
A few weeks ago I did the affirmation “I Am Fulfilling My Purpose.”
And after listening to it, I was kicking myself because I thought it could have been more powerful; but instead of getting upset I thought why don’t I just make a continuation of it. And so, the original affirmation of “I Am fulfilling My Purpose” is being extended to “As I Allow What I Need To Come To Me.”
When I talk about manifesting or the law of attraction, which states that likened things are attracted to likened things, a lot of people think I am saying that all you have to do is to wish, or to hope hard enough, and by doing that then things will find a way to you. But that’s not exactly what I’m claiming, I actually am talking about making the impossible possible...
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast May 2019 Week 2
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My Fears Are A Mirror Of My Potential
“Build me a son, O Lord, who will be strong enough to know when he is weak, and brave enough to face himself when he is afraid, one who will be proud and unbending in honest defeat, and humble and gentle in victory.”
~Douglas MacArthur
You are going to question your talent, you may even question your worth…who am I to think I can better than him or her or that person who is amazing at doing what I want to do? But it’s not about being better than them, it’s not even about being in the same league as them; it’s about being in your own league, with your own stories, with your own experiences. It’s about being genuine in every breath taken and given, in every word spoken, and in the actions you etch into this world no matter how much fear you feel when making your mark...
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Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCDw8Rwi7qhC-8BCktu3bRxg Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Strong Within Weekly Affirmation:
I Am Fulfilling My Purpose In Life
“Argue for your limitations, and sure enough they’re yours.”~Richard Bach
I know my place in the universe and I am fulfilling my purpose. I believe that I was put on this Earth for a specific reason. I know that reason, and I do my best each day to live my life at the highest level.
I am confident that I know my reason for existing. Each day gives me the opportunity to be ecstatically alive. I take time to appreciate each moment in my life, and I am grateful for the good fortune bestowed upon me.
I build my life around my purpose. Since I know my purpose, I find it easier to make decisions. My decisions and values align with my purpose perfectly. I choose my friends, hobbies, and employment from that purpose to boost my happiness and capacity for life.
Everything I do and each person I meet is part of my destiny.
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Chris O'Hearn
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Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Strong Within Affirmation:
I Am Everything I Need To Be
“Do just once what others say you can’t do, and you will never pay attention to their limitations again.” ~James Cook
This past weekend, Easter was being celebrated. And in the O’Hearn household, my mother went to go pick up Grandma from the assisted living facility where she has resided for the past year or so. As we sat down to have dinner together, my mother told us about the Easter Egg hunt and grandma’s place.
The caretakers of the residents had hidden eggs all around the main lobby to have an Easter egg hunt, and my mom said before anyone else could participate— one resident had gone around and picked up all the eggs so no one else had a chance to get into the fun. And while we laughed at this, and felt sad that this one person had taken all the fun out of it for the other residents, it got me thinking about how we ALL live our lives like this lady.
We live a life full of fear that what we want will be taken away from us. And so, what we do to balance out our franticness and fear based thinking is to make sure that we take the eggs and desires of other people’s dreams and lives first. And thus what we do is put our attention on taking from others so we won’t lose what is ours or we hope to be ours.
Which if you think about it is ludicrous because you put more of your focus on other people instead of yourself.
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Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Strong Within Weekly Affirmation Podcast Episode 604
Thank You
“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.”
~Meister Eckhart
I have spent a good portion of my life apologizing. And I think it’s good to be humbled and apologize when we feel we have been wrong or wronged someone…but I spent most of my life apologizing for the wrong things. I apologized for not being enough or for being too much. I apologized if I thought someone didn’t like me, I apologized if I was truthful in letting someone know something hard, I apologized for never being the person I thought others wanted me to be, but most of my apologies were silent in my mind as I kept punishing myself for never being whatever enough of what I thought I should be.
I lived this front of trying to please everyone else, trying to make everyone like and accept me, trying to be cordial and not stir up any issues even if they needed to be said…because it was better not to hurt someone than to tell them the truth that others may not necessarily say. And by doing it made me weak, because it was never about putting the true most authentic me in to the world…it was about covering up who I was. The mask that I put on to protect myself originally became the thing that was hurting me the most, as it created shame within myself thinking I wasn’t or could never be good enough for others…and for myself...
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Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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To Become More I Am Willing To Be More
“Boldness doesn't mean rude, obnoxious, loud, or disrespectful. Being bold is being firm, sure, confident, fearless, daring, strong, resilient, and not easily intimidated. It means you're willing to go where you've never been, willing to try what you've never tried, and willing to trust what you've never trusted. Boldness is quiet, not noisy.”~Mike Yaconelli
Everyone wants good things. They want to have that fit body they desire, they want to have that great relationship they believe they deserve, they want to have a better job or make more money, they want to have people who listen and respect them, or maybe they want to be spending more time doing the things they love.
And it’s great to want things, but the real question is—are you willing to be the person who it takes to have those things? And if you noticed what I did just there, I didn’t say you have to be willing to DO what it takes to have those things…I asked are you willing to BE the person who is worthy of those things.
I don’t get what I want, I get…because of what I am willing to do; I receive because of who I am willing to be... (hear the rest in the podcast)
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Strong Within Weekly Affirmation:
I Keep Going
“Art is longing. You never arrive, but you keep going in the hope that you will.”
~Anselm Kiefer
The thing I love about this affirmation is that you can add so many different types of empowering words you want after “I Keep”…I keep planning when things feel uncertain, I keep communicating when things feel chaotic, I keep being weird because my uniqueness is awesome, I keep loving when I hurt, I keep healing when I feel broken, I keep hurdling my obstacles because there is more going on than I am currently seeing at the moment.
And for me the thought of those 3 words, I Keep Going, is the sentiment of what life is. Life keeps going. When you get fired, the business keeps going; when you break up with someone, the other person keeps living; when one opportunity has passed, another one will come...
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Chris O'Hearn
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Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
“One cannot reflect in streaming water. Only those who know internal peace can give it to others.”
~Lao Tzu
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Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
I believe the Universe is always speaking to us. I believe that we all are connected and aligned with that source energy at every moment. And maybe you have felt it or experienced it before that what you needed to see or hear happened exactly when you needed to have it happen. And that’s exactly what happened to me, while I was focusing on the things that were going wrong. Even during my hardest times I still had this want to pivot from the darkness I was reaching towards. While I could feel my focus being directed towards the anger, the mistakes I had made and felt I might be stuck in… I still was working on trying to find another way to BE in that moment....
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Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
“When an inner situation is not made conscious, it appears outside as fate.”
~Carl Jung
I was speaking with a life coaching client of mine this week and we were talking about an anxious situation in his life, and we expanded that conversation to all the anxiety he feels in his life. And after letting my client speak for a bit on what was going on, I asked him, “where does the anxiety you feel come from?”
They thought about it for a moment, and I stayed quiet.
I’ve learned to keep my mouth shut for as long as it takes when someone is thinking of an important epiphany in their life...
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Chris O'Hearn
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Who we are and who we are to become lies not in what we have been given, but rather is determined by what we consistently think about...
and sooner or later I know you will step into your strength, you will remember who you are meant to be and who you already are...and you will not only think it, but you will know it in your every action from here on out.
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Is perfection holding you back, is your sense of obligation to having everything in order freezing you from taking chances in life, and are you stuck with the same negative mental patterns continual telling yourself why you can't instead of telling yourself why you can?
If so, have a listen to help you think differently about your life and your mistakes.
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Chris O'Hearn
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“Who you are speaks so loudly that I can’t hear what you are saying.”
~Ralph Waldo Emmerson
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Chris O'Hearn
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“There is no end to education. It is not that you read a book, pass an examination, and finish with education. The whole of life, from the moment you are born to the moment you die, is a process of learning.”
~Jiddu Krishnamurti
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Your thoughts will determine the direction of where you point your life towards. Thoughts are things, they are the beginning point to manifesting what is within ourselves into the outside world. So the thoughts we focus on not only helps to create the emotions we gravitate towards, but it also is how we create the world around us and what we attract to ourselves as well.
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My new whiteboard animation I Choose Happiness:
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What do you need to finetune first before helping others? Come join me for the answer and let's start our day off right...let's be Strong Within together.
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This week's affirmation is reminding you that perfection isn't the goal but constant improvement is. Change the way you speak, think, and act by joining me on the Strong WIthin Affirmation Podcast today.
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Holistic Performance and Personal Development Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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Why goals aren't always the greatest way towards success...
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Chris O'Hearn
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I Already Have The Solution Because I Am The Solution.
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Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
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Chris O'Hearn
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Kevin Video: http://www.yourwellnessstory.com/?p=1232&preview=true
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Chris O'Hearn
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- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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Synergistic Saturdays-#441 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Forgive You & I Forgive Myself
“To be angry is to revenge the faults of others on ourselves.”
~Alexander Pope
One great lesson I learned is to keep my mouth closed in anger, to keep my tongue still when hurt, and to keep my mind from traveling thorny dangerous trails. Now while I said I learned this lesson, it doesn’t mean that I always practice it. Hurt and anger can be explosive emotions. They can be emotions that are like a riptide wanting to sweep you deeper within their wake. It feels good to give up control to something; it feels freeing to not care about the destruction we can do…thinking about how others didn’t seem to care when they offended us. But being swept within anger or hurt creates the pathway of thinking revenge is ok.
And it’s so strange how so many things come together when we awaken. While I was thinking about this topic, I was listening to the song Disarm by the Smashing Pumpkins. I had just downloaded it, and I hadn’t heard it in years. And it moved me to look up the lyrics and research it a bit more.
The lyrics go like this:
“Disarm you with a smile
And cut you like you want me to
Cut that little child
Inside of me and such a part of you
Ooh, the years burn
Ooh, the years burn
I used to be a little boy
So old in my shoes
And what I choose is my choice
What's a boy supposed to do?
The killer in me is the killer in you
My love
I send this smile over to you”
The lead singer (and writer) Billy Corgan, said the song was about his rocky relationship with abusive parents. How he disarmed their violence with his smile. That he had to grow up too early as a little boy and live in adult shoes. He thought about killing his parents for the pain they caused him, but he chose a different response than returning the anger and violence they taught him—"the killer in me is the killer in you…” so instead he says in the song “my love I send this smile over to you.”
Josh Billings said, “there is no revenge so complete as forgiveness.” And what a powerful concept that is to understand. And the reason I said understand, is because it’s easy to know what it means, but to truly understand means to live it, to embody it, and to live in a higher frequency than one of reaction and payback for those who have hurt us.
I know for me, I want people to feel what I felt, but trying to send back that negative energy, or recreate that feeling in other people, only continues the cycle of violence, self-abuse, and hurt (mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually). Because the only one who is truly getting hurt is ourselves by living within the hurt and revenge; by trying to make others feel and experience what we went through…which will never happen.
Yes, we can tell people how we were hurt, but when we try to make them feel it out of spite or anger from being hurt…it only keeps us locked within our hurt. Most people will say that to heal we need to let go of the past offense, but it’s not that simple. And not because you can’t let go of the hurt, but it’s understanding we never let go of things. Instead of letting go, we are always deciding where to put our energy and focus. So if we focus on letting go, we are still focusing on the hurt. But if we turn and pivot towards a better emotion such as forgiveness, self-growth through difficult times, or maybe seeing that the pain inflicted upon us is more someone else's way of deflecting their internal hurt—then we are doing something more effective in the long run besides trying to let go of something that we’ll never fully let go of.
So I don’t say let go of your hurt, but know that your hurt doesn’t have to be a part of your healing, it can be the background of why you decided to love differently. And the people who have changed the world are the ones who turned the other cheek; they are the ones who spoke out even when they might’ve been in harms way for doing so. They put their power into something more than anger, violence, or revenge. They decided to live for a higher purpose.
If you think about what revenge is, it’s a lower instinct. No animals express it; they either express their dominance or their submission. It is a subbasement level emotion that keeps us below who we are meant to be.
Marcus Aurelius said, “the best revenge is to be unlike him who performed the injury.” And it’s not that we will become better than the offender, but we will be the example of what people can be. When we stop the cycle of violence or hurt by us acting differently, we change the world. We change the world by changing ourselves first…no matter how much we’ve been hurt. When we forgive others, it changes the equation…and when we forgive ourselves we cut ties with the cycle of hurt, never to pass on the demons that were given to us. We will no longer take ownership of those demons that were never ours to begin with.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
In the song Disarm that I referenced, the 2nd time the chorus happens—a word changes. The first lyric say “what I choose is my choice.” And in the later chorus he says, “what I choose is my voice.” This song was about a very hard subject, about an abusive family situation, and I found that this song was the act of saying that I will stop the cycle of hurt. I won’t pass on what you taught me because I want to express something more consciously about who I am as a person.
We can have the tendency to blame our past for who we are. And while it has brought us to where we are, it doesn’t have to be the determinant of being who we are. WE MAKE THAT CHOICE. And so the more we defer to the habits of the past as an excuse, then the more we allow what we don’t want to be…to control us. And when we continue the cycle of the negative habits we were taught, we allow the riptide of negative emotions to become who we are. We can say it’s not my fault, and I agree the past may not be your fault, but the present moment WILL BE if you decide to continue the cycle.
So get out your journal and write down the negative emotions, actions, and anything from your past that is keeping you from moving on to be the person you want to be.
But don’t just stop with writing that list. I want you to ask yourself how you can break the cycle.
To become different is possible, but it starts with the belief that you have a choice, and that you can change your present by deciding to think, speak, and act differently.
Those who are trapped in their past have decided it was out of their power. Being stuck is one thing, but choosing to stay stuck is another. Change at any moment is possible but it all begins with the belief that I CAN be different and I will choose to be different in every moment from here on out. The old broken me, is dead, and no longer a part of the new me. The ALIVE part of myself, the conscious choice of self-love, is where I now choose to live.
I Forgive You & I Forgive Myself
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Tag Me Tuesdays-#437 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Lay Down My Burdens
*“Under the burden
of solitude,
under the burden
of dissatisfaction
the weight,
the weight we carry
is love.”*
Allen Ginsberg- excerpt from his poem Song
What you are carrying is what you decided to pick up. Everything that is weighing us down is something we decided to carry. And that’s a hard thing to hear because it means that we can’t place the blame onto anyone or anything else. But it doesn’t mean we should place the blame on ourselves either. Because if we do that we are not moving forward but deciding to be weighed down by our burdens.
The definition of burden when used as a noun is—that which is carried; load; or that which is born with difficulty. When burden is a verb and used with an object the definition is to load oppressively or trouble. And the burdens we hold onto load us oppressively. They weigh us down; they keep us from being and becoming the people we wish to be.
Holding onto our burdens is a form of hoarding; it’s a form of gathering and stockpiling our pains. We feel it is our duty, our obligation, to go through those pains whether it be for ourselves or for others. And there’s nothing wrong with going through the fires of pain, but when we don’t let go of those pains, the burdens begin to become too heavy to bear anymore.
If you think about why people hoard physical stuff, sure it could be for a multitude of reasons, but I think it boils down to one big point—we think we might need it someday; that we would be the source to the answer, and so hold onto it just in case. But it becomes unhealthy because the motive is based out of fear. The fear thinking that we may use it at the wrong time, maybe we could accidently give it away when we might need it again, or the comfort of having it outweighs the heaviness of continually holding onto it.
Most problems we’ve held onto, or walls that we’ve built, were meant for good measures in the beginning. We held onto them as remembrances to protects us next time so we’d never forget, or we held onto it for another person so we could bear the weight and help them, or maybe it was a way of pushing ourselves to the limit to show how much we care for something. And maybe this is one of the greatest reasons we hold onto our burdens, while we hold it close it gives us an out to not face our fears. Because when we truly face our fears we are able to let go of them as we have come to know what they truly are…and by understanding our fears then we come to understand that they no longer have power over us.
One of the stories I know I’ve told in my life is that great things involve carrying heavy burdens. That the act of being rewarded means I have to be willing to endure pain to have it.
And I do believe in hard work towards something, but when we carry our burdens habitually…it becomes a way of non-living. And what I mean about non-living is we never enjoy the reward because we have allowed the original protective measure to stay with us even after we have reached the goal we wanted. Or maybe we never reach the goal because our burdens keep us from being able to make the journey with such a heavy load on our backs.
We all have our own unique experiences, but I believe our pains don’t differ all that much. We think we are the only ones suffering and no one could understand our pains and burdens, but it’s the opposite actually—we all have become experts at hiding behind our masks.
But I have a solution:
If you are tired of being weighed down, and being ladened by your burdens, you don’t have to carry them anymore. You can decide right now to lay them down. It’s that simple. You don’t have to bear the weight anymore, if you choose to be free.
And while I said it’s simple, it still will take work:
- It will take the work of committing of going through the pain.
- It will take the willingness to not avoid the pain anymore but to acknowledge and recognize it for what it is.
- It will be the process of accepting the faults and errors in your life from yourself and for others…and growing because of them.
We all will mess up, and a mistake is a learning lesson, it’s a chance to grow…but the more we hold onto the resentments and anger of the past…then the more we live within the past. And if we are living in the past, which is literally impossible except in our minds, we keep ourselves from living in the present to create a better future.
So instead of holding on for dear life to your pains and burdens we need to find a better way to deal with them before they get too heavy and crush our souls. We need to be able to pivot from pain into a better emotion. It’s not necessarily letting go as we will always keep what we have experienced within ourselves, but it’s making the choice to be healed rather than stay stuck in something that isn’t serving us anymore.
And I believe most if not all of healing stems from forgiveness—the willingness to forgive others and ourselves. When we can forgive, we can then begin putting down our burdens.
Everything we do usually started with a good reason, or we thought it would be a good reason. So while we picked up certain things that no longer serve us, I am giving you permission to lay it down if it is not longer helping you. You don’t have to be the answer for everyone and everything. So lay down your burdens and pick up something that you can build on. Pick up things that will help you create a beautiful, free, and hope-filled life. The world is yours when you lay down your burdens.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Mental check, what burdens are you holding onto that are no longer helping you move forward? The best way to find relief from our pains is not to just lay them down only to come back later to pick them up, but to understand why we picked them up in the first place so we can lay them down for good.
So look at the things you’ve been holding onto that are creating great resistance within and ask yourself:
- Why did I pick this up in the first place?
- What will holding onto this burden do to me?
- What do I really want?
- How can I let go of it for good if it’s hurting me?
Everything you are carrying you picked up. Let’s be purposeful at looking at why we picked up things so we can be purposeful in laying them down. That way we won’t ever have to come back to them again.
I Lay Down My Burdens
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#436 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Like The Clouds To The Mountain…Uninterrupted and Undisturbed
“Discontent, blaming, complaining, self-pity cannot serve as a foundation for a good future, no matter how much effort you make.”
~Eckhart Tolle
My good friend Catina was an amazing woman. She passed away last year after her 3rd bout with cancer. And while I’m sad that the world lost a great soul too early, I’m glad I had the chance to experience her amazing friendship while she was here.
A few years ago I met up with Catina for lunch at a cafeteria, and we were finding a place to sit down, and I can’t remember what I was complaining about, but I was upset that something wasn’t going my way. Whether it be money was tight, I was having trouble writing or coming up with ideas at the time, or how poor old me was in a bad place. We got to our seats, and Catina said quite loudly so almost everyone could hear in the cafeteria… “Pity Party…Seating pity party of one…your table is ready.”
I was so embarrassed as I looked around to see who was looking at me, as it seemed like everyone was now looking at us. We looked at each other, as she gave me one of those I’m sorry faces as her shoulders raised up and her eyes widened almost as if saying whoops. And we both laughed our butts off and sat down.
That’s what was so amazing about Catina, she was truthful, she was in your face, she was real, and she loved with her whole heart. You always knew she cared about you even after she dropped her truth bombs.
Sadness is a part of life. It’s ok to get disappointed that things didn’t go exactly as planned. In fact, disappointment can fuel us to become better, and it helps us to know that we have work to do in getting better at whatever we’ve tried. But there’s a sadness that can be quite self-destructive and that sadness has to do with self-pity.
What self-pity does for us is give us an excuse to not try. It gives us a reason to say I wasn’t made out for this, and thus we begin comparing ourselves to other people making ourselves feel even worse. We deliberately look at someone who is doing better than us; someone who we could supposedly never live up to because again it gives us another reason to feel comfortable in our failures. It gives us that reason inside to say “see it’s ok, you could’ve never done it anyway.”
When I was in younger and dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts, the reason my suffering persisted was because I thought I was the only one who could feel this way. Everyone else seemed to have it all together while I was struggling to keep my head above water…rather poorly. It made me feel special to know that I was suffering for a cause, that I was being a martyr. And so those negative emotions instead of pushing me to want better for myself, they comforted me and said it was ok to fail and stay down. They told me that they didn’t expect anything from me, and that’s an intoxicating feeling. It’s was a drug that made me feel like a million bucks from my negativity when actually it was slowly destroying the person I was inside.
There’s nothing wrong with experiencing heartbreak, sadness, or disappointment..but the more we find ourselves gravitating towards how things weren’t meant to be because we aren’t good enough, smart enough, or whatever enough…then the more we create the habit to lean on self-pity throughout our lives.
Self-pity starts out as a form of protection. It’s a way to not bruise our ego and our pride so that we can feel good about ourselves even during our failures, but where it gets dangerous is when we begin living in self-pity. Self-pity is a choice, and it’s a story we decide to tell ourselves why it’s ok to stay where we are.
And while it feels safer in self-pity, NO ONE wants to live there. Even clinically depressed people, who don’t know they have a choice, don’t want to be miserable. They just have resigned themselves to the life they are living saying nothing will ever change…and that’s one of the greatest recipes for staying stuck.
So how do we change, if we want to live a more joyful, exciting, and fulfilling life away from the traps of self-pity?
Well, I have a couple of ideas that can help you break the pattern of gravitating toward self-destructive self-pity:
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Become aware of the stories you tell when you are feeling sorry for yourself. As I said, self-pity is a choice. It’s a choice to live within a story you have concocted. Sure it may feel true to you at the time, but that’s because you aren't seeing the whole picture. You are looking at the problem from only the point of failure. Self-pity may feel natural, but that’s only because we have gravitated towards telling stories of why we can’t feel a certain way, instead of asking the question of how we can feel differently.
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Practice living in appreciation instead seeing reasons why you should be upset. When we can see all the amazing things in our lives, and the opportunities at our fingertips we can see a whole other world. Appreciation is one of the greatest emotions we can experience because it deepens the emotions we experience. It helps us not only to see things better, but to love the things we do see. It’s a different way of viewing your life and the things in your life. It breaks the pattern of viewing something negatively and to instead see it as an opportunity.
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Ridding yourself of complaining. What we focus on tends to expand, so the more we find reasons to complain then the more likely we are to complain. And the more you complain, then the more reasons you have to justify why your life sucks and how nothing will ever change for you. Have you ever been around someone who complains all the time, it doesn’t feel great; well, unless you are complaining with them. It’s an energy that sucks us in, and the more we do it, the easier it gets. Sure things in life will suck, but we don’t have to speak about ever minor inconvenience. When we do that we give more power to the negativity and we then tend to ruminate and focus on it even more. Which then we tend to make complaining our natural habit, and our natural habitat. We become our complaints instead of just voicing them.
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Face your feelings. Self-pity is a way of avoidance. It’s a workaround for dealing with things that sadden us. Sure we deal with disappointment during self-pity, but it’s a one-sided story that makes us focus on why things are wrong instead of being willing to face our fears of failure. It’s scary to fail, it’s scary to try and maybe not be good enough, it’s scary to have people judge us and laugh at us for not being good enough. And it’s scary to look at our fears because we’ve made other people the focal point of our fears. If we spent more time worrying about what we want and how we can do what we want, we would stop worrying about fear and understand that our failures are just a stepping stone towards reaching our goals. We know we have to work for difficult goals in our lives, but for some reason in our mind we think we should succeed the first time we try something. And so being unrealistic gives us an out to say, “see I tried it. It just wasn’t meant to be.” But when you face your feelings, and you focus less on what others will think whether you fail or succeed…you increase your chances of success because you are no longer focusing on why you can’t or why it’s not possible—you are focusing on the small steps that it will take to make it happen.
I get it; self-pity feels comfortable. In fact, it feels great at times when you get lost in it. Because you don’t have to deal with failure, you just keep yourself at the bottom of life. But when you avoid failure, you live within failure. So instead of telling a story of why life sucks, why no one will ever love you, or why you will always be stuck here….what if you were to tell a story of why your life is amazing?
What if you were to focus on becoming more aware of your stories, and finding more reasons to live in gratitude and appreciation, and ridding yourself of complaining, and also facing your feelings instead of running from them?
I have made the depths of self-pity my home for years because I felt it was more comfortable to not have to face failure. But I’ve also lived in the depths of happiness and sadness from the normalities of life. And you know what, I would choose life over self-pity any day because it gives me something better than the misery self-pity chains to me. Self-pity is always a choice; it’s a comfortable choice, it’s an easy choice…but I hope you make an even easier choice…to live your life void of self-pity.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Sadness is a natural part of life. I am not saying don’t feel, but I am asking you to process your emotions differently.They say that meditation is not avoiding life, but it’s finding a way to not be disturbed by the natural processes of life. It’s to not be stirred in unnatural ways. Is the cloud stopped by a mountain? No, it is uninterrupted and undisturbed as it conforms around the obstacle and continues to move on. And that is how our mind must be as well. It’s not that we can’t feel but more that we find ways to not be disturbed by the natural processes of life; to truly feel ALL of life—sadness and happiness, and ask how we want to continue to move forward from here…instead of being stuck here.
So what stories might you be telling right now that are keeping you stuck? What is keeping you comfortable in your sadness? Look at the places you are feeling sorry for yourself and begin working thru them by asking four questions I talked about early.
- What is the story I am telling, and is it helping me or hurting me in moving on? And if it’s hurting me what story would help me to move forward instead of stay stuck in the comfortability of my sadness?
- How can I be more in appreciation during this time to see the opportunities instead of the roadblocks?
- What am I complaining about that’s keeping me here, and how do I rid myself of the complaints that I am giving power to?
- How do I stop avoiding the feelings I don’t want to face because of fear? And how do I face and continually choose the feelings I want?
So let’s give up our table of one for the self-pity party, and let’s join the table of a beautiful life by being willing to get uncomfortable with our imposed sadness. Again it’s not that you can’t feel sadness, but rather let’s not make it our home.
I Am Like The Clouds To The Mountain…Uninterrupted and Undisturbed
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#435 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I See Past Minor Annoyances
“Successful people maintain a positive focus in life no matter what is going on around them. They stay focused on their past successes rather than their past failures, and on the next action steps they need to take to get them closer to the fulfillment of their goals rather than all the other distractions that life presents to them.”
~Jack Canfield
I was having a conversation with one of my personal training clients the other day. She was upset with how she wasn’t the same person she was four years ago. Four years ago, she had the body she wanted. She said that she never had an issue with losing weight ever before. We’ve talked about what she’s eating and about increasing her cardio and resistance training outside of our personal training, but I always bring it back to what I believe is the most important factor in any change we desire for our lives…the change in our stress levels and our mindset.
After she said this statement, I was about to say something to my client about changing her mindset, but she knew what I was going to say and said, “don’t give me any of that mindset crap.” She was half teasing but I knew she meant it too. She wanted the physical answer to help her change her situation. And I get it; we want the answer to be something that is in our control. Wouldn’t it be nice if you ate just these things, or you worked out this amount of time and it would be the exact equation for change? Yes, that would be nice, but being in the industry for over ten years now, I have a different approach.
I’ve seen people doing the exact same things in their fitness efforts—putting in the same amount of time at the gym, and even being on the same diets. Sure, there probably are fluctuations here and there between each person, and sometimes people lie about what they’re actually doing…but, in the end, these people doing the same thing will have completely different results. One person will lose weight, and the other will struggle. Which always begs the question what did the successful person do? The one who is struggling will look at themselves as a failure and will tell themselves stories like I have a slow metabolism, I must have the curse of big boned DNA, or I’m not good enough to change.
And what that does is give us a reason NOT to try anymore. We get our crystal ball out and doom ourselves by determining ourselves as unhelpable or unchangeable. But it also creates a story inside of ourselves saying that trying new things don’t work out for us. I will admit that some people lose weight better than others, whether it be their work effort, or whether they have more muscle than someone else so they naturally burn more calories than someone with less muscle mass. But I’ve come to a firm understanding that it’s more about their belief systems and how much stress they allow into their lives.
We all deal with stress differently, and for me, I actually lose weight when I’m stressed. And yes, go ahead and hate on me for being this way but there are a few reasons this happens. When I get stressed I don’t eat; I have a lot of anxious, nervous energy, so I need to work it off…and so I either walk a lot or I go to the gym to work it out. My stress levels affect me in negative ways that I actually can’t sleep, I can’t stop thinking, I can’t stop worrying, and I have trouble being still. Where for other people when they are stressed and depressed are trying to comfort themselves in other ways such as eating, being sluggish, or any other matter that is not good for their physical self.
But that’s only one part of the equation of change. The stress response I just talked about is the physical actions we take when stressed. So it’s good to know what you physically do when you’re stressed because it will be part of your change in curbing behaviors that aren’t helping you. But I think it goes even deeper than the physical. Stress has been linked with creating more cortisol in our bodies which has been linked to creating more fat in our bodies.
And I believe that when we are constantly stressed, we are taking on loads mentally, physically, and spiritually that is doing damage to our minds and bodies. It’s weighing us down literally and metaphorically. And the world we live in we’ve gotten accustomed to being stressed 24/7. Which is not a productive way to live.
In his book Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers: The Acclaimed Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases, and Coping, Robert Sapolsky talks about the stress responses and what happens to our bodies. When we are constantly stressed it prevents our bodies from doing the long-term building projects that promote wellness within our bodies. We get accustomed to being in emergency fight or flight mode all the time. He says that we don’t get into an exhaustion phase of depleting our hormones, but something else happens. And Dr. Sapolsky states that:
“It is very rare, that any of the crucial hormones are actually depleted during even the most sustained of stressors. The army does not run out of bullets. Instead, the body spends so much on the defense budget that it neglects education and health care and social services. It is not so much that the stress-response runs out, but rather, with sufficient activation, that the stress-response can become more damaging than the stressor itself, especially when the stress is purely psychological. This is a critical concept, because it underlies the emergence of much stress-related disease.”
Later in his book, he will use the example of a Zebra running from a lion. The life of a zebra’s stress is only about 5 minutes as when running from a predator it will either escape or be eaten. During that stressful activity, all the other processes in the body get shut off except the blood flow to the legs to escape. So it’s reproductive system shuts off, it’s digestive system shuts off, and even the salivation in its mouth will be affected. The same thing happens to us, he uses the example of us being nervous to give a speech infront of people and how our mouth will get dry. Our stress-response will shut off the areas it feels aren’t important at that moment.
For that Zebra, the stress response is a very minimal amount of time in its life. For us we spend days, weeks, or years worrying about our mortgages, our jobs, our relationships…and as he stated before it’s not that we run out of bullets (or hormones to be exact) to protect our bodies, but actually the stress response becomes more damaging than the stressor itself.
Now while that is all great info to know that our stress might actually be harming us more than it’s helping us…how do we do something about it? Well that’s a whole can of worms that might be different for everyone, but I think it all starts out with two simple tips and tricks:
- -Becoming more aware of your feelings, your thoughts, and what is going on your life.
- -What minor annoyances are you focusing on?
Now I know the minor annoyances might sound silly, but when I was talking with my client about her weight loss problem that was bugging her we discussed the things that are in her life that add up over time and turn into big issues. Those small annoyances might seem insignificant at the moment, but the more we hold onto the small things that bother us, then the more they build up. That’s why I’m so adamant on being deliberate on what we focus on.
I try to help people pivot from their bad feelings and emotions to more productive emotions and thoughts. It’s not that you can’t look at those bad things, but what I said is we must NOT FOCUS on them. And that’s the key, most people don’t realize that the negative emotion they are looking at actually becomes a focal point for them to target and ruminate over. We see the problem and grip too tight on the problem rather than looking more for the solution.
We get accustomed to looking at and finding the small things that bother us, and soon it gets to be a point where one small thing will ruin your day. Like someone cutting us off in traffic and wasn’t paying attention to us, or how there’s no coffee in the coffee pot at work, or how your coworkers are gabbing and getting on your nerves instead of doing their work, or maybe even how you just can’t seem to get a break when you need one.
I’m sure you have a million things that could ruin your day. It’s not that these things aren’t real, but it’s the power that we ALLOW them to have over us. It’s as if they determine how our day will turn out. The only reason you will have a great day is if you decide to have a great day, if you decide to see the great in the moment instead of finding fault with it.
There will be outside stressors for sure, but you will be the one who decides to let those outside factors influence you, or you can become more aware and find a better truth to be excited about instead of being annoyed by one more thing on your plate. I have come to believe, and science is backing some of these ideas as well, that the more stress we have in our lives, the more we process stress negatively. The more we do that then the more issues we will have with our wellness.
And for my personal training client the issue was with fat reduction. It’s my greatest belief that for her issue we need to get a better handle on her stress levels and how she processes things. Yes, we should move and eat right…but if we don’t get a handle on her stress, her awareness, and her mindset to help her change in the ways she wants to...if she doesn’t change the way she sees the problem, it won’t matter what she does because she’s teaching her body to protect itself in ways that are damaging to herself—physically, mentally, and spiritually. But this podcast is not about her, it’s about you. So what are the ways you are focusing incorrectly, that are keeping you from your goals?
Maybe the only reason you aren’t changing is because of how you’re dealing with your stress. Not all stress is bad; it becomes bad by how we experience and process it. So maybe, just maybe, if you thought and focused differently, if you began to rid the minor annoyances in your life and re-write how they affect you…I bet you would find your goals and your health coming more easily to you…instead of always having to fight for it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Go one whole day recording all the minor annoyances you find bother you in that day. Record each one with the time, the location, and what happened. Write down everything during your day that bothers you. If you can’t write it down at that moment because you may have prying eyes asking why you were annoyed with them, just make a tally on a sheet, your phone, or some way to remind you to write it down later.
What this will do is help you see how many annoyances get to you. And it may shed some light on how those annoyances can build up into big issues in your life.
Now I know there will always be things that happen that annoy us, or that we wish didn’t happen. Sometimes we can’t change that fact, but we can change how we decide to respond to it. As Dr. Sapolsky said, it’s not that the stressor is bad, but it’s how we look things consistently that can cause the stress response to become more dangerous than the stressor itself.
I believe the things that ail us are deeper than the physical fix. If we want to lose weight, if we want to have more peace and calm in our lives, if we want to be more creative, if we want to be healthier, along with a whole list of other benefits of reducing our processing of stress…then we have to experience things differently and decide to become a different person—not let the external event control our outcomes.
So this exercise will help you become more aware, and when that happens, you can start devising plans to change your outcomes. And most importantly you will become more successful in your changes.
I See Past Minor Annoyances
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#434 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Committed To Creating Excellence
I wanted to do something a little different today. I was thinking about what were the things I learned from doing this podcast, so I created a list of ten things that happened by me taking a leap of faith in this endeavor. It was the act of jumping knowing that I was going to fail in many areas, but I was willing to learn from those failures and be excited instead of afraid of looking foolish. I’ve learned a lot from this journey, and I hope to continue to keep learning.
So let me share the Top 10 things I learned by doing this podcast:
- Sometimes all you need to do is pull the trigger. The exhilaration of reaching people trumps the fear of not doing it right. Making mistakes made me better, and being willing to make mistakes made me see that my fears were more imaginary than real.
- It made me realize that I had more stories and ideas than I thought. We all think that we are boring and that nothing cool happens in our lives. I think that all the time, but by doing this podcast it made me look back at my life, to be aware of the great things are happening every day. It’s opened my eyes to appreciate things more. It’s helped me see that the smallest seemingly insignificant things in my life are really powerful and beautiful reminders about how amazing life really is. By challenging myself to do this podcast it has made me have to be more creative. It has made me have to be more awake in my life.
- I have to be all in to see the results I want. It’s easy to put your foot in the door halfway hoping it works out. But I’ve forgotten that making a difference is not just trying something, but committing to something. There’s more to this podcast than just a rant or small snippets of info. I created a short podcast so people could start their day off on the right foot in a digestible way to help them change for the better. I decided to do this podcast to put value in the world, and if I’m half-assing it…I’m doing a disservice to myself and others. By doing this podcast I’ve learned how to commit to a higher belief and more worthwhile outcome.
- I’m reminded constantly that sadness and pain aren’t bad; in fact it helped me to transform. I went through a rough time in my life before the creation of this, but I set my mind to a goal of what I wanted which was to finally stop stalling and create a podcast. My movement took my mind off the pain and helped me transform that suffering into growth and joy by creating something beautiful. The podcast helped me to connect deeper with myself and with others in a way I never thought possible.
- What we put out into the world is not about perfection; it’s about learning. I get stressed trying to make every podcast perfect, which is great that I want it to be the best, but I get so stressed focusing on perfection that it adds pressure and stifles my future creativity. By focusing on perfection, I try to force instead of allowing great things to happen. All I need to do is sit down and put in the time to allow great ideas to come to me.
- I was reminded about collaboration not isolation. By putting my mistakes out there, people collaborated with me to help make it something better than I could’ve on my own. The mistakes connected me, instead of isolating me. It brought people closer to me as they wanted to help me make something better. They gave me suggestions which I was grateful for, and so it no longer was just mine…but it became ours.
- It reminded me about the value I am to the world. We live in a world where we can feel invisible, we can feel forgotten, and we can feel insignificant. And by doing this podcast, people have emailed me and let me know how it’s helped them in ways I never imagined. I thought people would listen to it by themselves, but I’ve had husbands and wives listening to it on their morning routine of getting ready for the day. I’ve had families contact me and let me know their whole family listens to it together. And that still totally baffles me. It’s quite a humbling experience thinking that not only one person is getting something from my podcast, but many people in the same household are. It makes me think of that saying—being humble isn’t thinking less of yourself, it’s thinking less about yourself. And by doing this podcast it reminded me that I have a great purpose and message to share with the world, just like you do. And doing this every day has reminded me about the things I’d forgotten. It has reminded me I am enough, and I have something left to share with people…as you do to.
- It’s made me have to be more deliberate with my schedule and time. This takes a lot of my time out of my day to do this. It can be stressful, but it’s made me commit to finishing something. And there have been nights where I was up till 2 am so I could get it out on time. It’s made me be committed to what I said I was going to do, and it’s made me committed to serving you in the best way that I can. So, yes it’s teaching me about commitments, and it’s making me realize how much more efficient I need to be with my time management.
- It’s made me more consistent with living my word. It’s easy to tell people what they need to do, but by doing this podcast it’s reminded me not just to be a talking head. It’s reminded me to live what I speak. Sure I fail at times, and I’ll fail many more times. But by doing this podcast, it’s continually reminding me to ask more of myself. I sometimes find myself asking this…“Chris you asked your listeners to do this…are you willing to do it too, or are you faking things?” So all of you are my accountability partners whether you know it or not, so thank you.
- It makes me re-believe in myself every day. I know this may sound silly to some as I’ve done over 400 consecutive daily podcasts so far, but every day I still question whether can I write another word, or whether I can find another story to tell, or whether I can create something good again. And somehow, something good always happens if I just sit down and write. If I commit to the act of being patient in being consistent with sitting down and being willing to find something to talk about no matter what. I am always surprised after I finish creating a podcast, and it feels like it wasn’t even me anymore, as I connected to something deeper than just myself.
So there you have it. 10 lessons from stepping out of my fear and committing to doing this podcast. Before the creation of the podcast I spent so much time trying to make things perfect, trying not to do podcasting wrong, being in fear of looking foolish, along with a whole lot of other fears. And sot I wasted two years of my life being afraid instead of just jumping in. They say everything that we want is just right out of our comfort zone. So, what if you were to step out of your comfort zone a little more each day and do the things that scare you? How different would your life be?
I know this podcast has done great things for my life, and I know I’ll continue to see more great things by staying consistent with it. I had to jump, I had to pull the trigger, I had to do it afraid…and I was rewarded for being willing to fail. So I am reminding all of us, because I need to hear this all the time too:
When you jump in, willing to fail, you will be rewarded with things you could’ve never imagined. By giving up trying to be perfect, you will be giving up the fear of looking foolish. Because we all look foolish when we first start something, but with practice and effort to become better we become something we never even dreamed of…just because we decided to ask a little more from ourselves.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What’s something you have been procrastinating on? And what if you were to start? Maybe you might have your 10 best things happen to you because you stopped waiting and took action.
And while you think or look at what new endeavor you want to start that you’ve procrastinated on, look at something you committed to and write your own top 10 list of things you’ve learned. You might just be reminded about the awesome things that have happened by you taking a leap of faith on yourself.
I Am Committed To Creating Excellence
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#433 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Finish My Unfinished Business
“Your level of commitment is determined by what it will take to stop you.”
~Doug Sager
One of your greatest superpowers is the resolve to continue when you don’t think you can. Which gets me wanting to ask the question to you,”What does it take for you to give up on something? No seriously, on the goals you’ve set for yourself, how committed are you to seeing them through?” Robert Kiyosaki said “quitting is the easiest thing to do.” And I think he’s right, but quitting destroys us little by little every day. When we give up on who we are and what matters to us, it cripples us.
It destroys beliefs about what we thought we were capable of and who we thought we could be. Quitting ages the body, the mind, and it takes a toll on our soul. And by us quitting when things get hard, it conditions us to believe that it’s easier to give up instead of push through to what matters to us.
I believe we quit because we’ve forgotten our core values. If something mattered to us we would walk to the ends of the earth to obtain it, we would rack our brain to find a solution, and we would be willing to take our souls to the furthest depths of hell to come out on the other side. I believe that is what quitting is; it’s forgetting what matters to us.
Sure there are some things we need to let go of, and I believe those things are the goals that we never were really aligned with. You know the things like taking a job because it would make your parents happy, buying that car or house so you would be seen as successful to other people, or any other outcome you have set your sights on that really wasn’t about your wellbeing and fulfilling the truths of your heart.
But how do you know what you’re meant to be going after, and what you should lay down? For me, it has always been about hearing my intuition. That voice inside my head that calms me when I say what really needs to be said, or that feeling in my body as it relaxes when I come to the truth I know I needed to realize. Because when we feel bad, when we are anxious, when our life is riddled with consistent fear…then we are out of alignment with not only our purpose but our strength and resolve to follow through to what’s most important to us.
In my book I’ll be publishing soon, I talk about getting to know your values—because when you do this, your whole world could be falling down around you, but you would be calm because you know you are on the path you need to be on. You know that you’ve done all you can in keeping yourself aligned with your purposes and life mission. And maybe that’s the best way of remembering what you should lay down, and what you should double down on. It’s the knowledge of not only knowing what your core values are, but then continually asking yourself if you are inline with your core values.
Life is hard. It will hit you in places that hurt the most, and will seemingly laugh at you while doing it. But it’s not that life is trying to break you, life is asking how committed you are to what you say you want. And like the quote at the beginning, “Your level of commitment is determined by what it will take to stop you.”
The Universe is asking how committed you are to what you say you want. Because if something truly matters to you, then your commitment is decided upon what it would take to stop you. And again if you are aligned up with your core values, and you know what matters to you…then nothing will stop you…because the pain of giving up would be greater than the relief of quitting.
To have resolve is to have determination, firmness, or a fixedness of purpose. The Latin root word comes from solv or it’s variant soluth which both mean to loosen. So to have resolve, to be committed to your values, to follow through to your goals, means that you are not only being determined, but you are also loosening the answers along the way. You are making it easier the more you continue to have a firm purpose in your endeavors.
So find what matters to you, get to know your core values, decide your level of commitment…and then follow through. When you align yourself up to your core values, you will not only find that your commitments become more firm, but you become a different, stronger, individual.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What are your values?
Have you ever even questioned yourself that before?
I will be going further into this subject in my book…but start thinking about who you are at your deepest core. Most people think they know who they are or what matters to them, but I believe most people only assume they know. They haven’t taken the time to sit down and do the hard work of getting to know themselves on that deeper level.
It’s easy to know other people, to see what’s great about them or where they are struggling and why they continue to struggle. We can see that from a mile away when it’s someone else. But to know yourself is a lot harder because you are emotionally connected to your problems. Most times we know what we need to do, but committing to doing what we know we should can be a harder action as we get nervous asking what if. We look at it a decision as the end of the world and ask what if I’m making the wrong choice instead of looking at a problem objectively and making the best choice for ourselves in the moment like the same advice we would have suggested for someone else to do.
- So write down the things you’ve quit on that were important to you, and write down why you quit.
- Ask yourself what your commitment was towards and why you had trouble following through with your commitment.
The greatest distance from where you are now and to being at the goal you wish to be…is only 3 inches away. It’s the space In between your ears. Your mind will be the biggest helper or destroyer of your resolve towards your goals. So when you know your values and look to live within them, your success rates will increase exponentially.
I’ll leave you with a quote to help this principle settle more easily into your mind: “In the city, we work until quitting time. On the farm, we work until the job is finished.” John Bytheway
I Finish My Unfinished Business
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#432 January The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Inhabit My Habits
Excellence is an art won by training and habituation. We do not act rightly because we have virtue or excellence, but we rather have those because we have acted rightly. We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. Aristotle
The origin of the word habit comes from the Latin words of habere— to have, to hold, to possess…and also the word habitare— to live, dwell, or remain. And when I saw this, a lightbulb went off in my head as I thought about the word “inhabit” which means to live or dwell in. And I think that’s why we struggle with habits is we don’t inhabit them. We don’t live IN habit. And lasting change will happen by us making the choice NOT just to act once…but to LIVE in the action over and over again.
And when you think about living within an act, not just doing something, you actually create a shift in your mindset. You see that who you want to be is who you have to become in every moment. And that’s why we struggle with change, because we want it to be a one-time thing, we want it to be one and done. We want the ease of change without the process of change, and thus we disillusion ourselves saying it wasn’t meant to be, I can’t change, I’m always meant to be this way, it’s just my luck…or any other excuse we can use to get us out of doing the consistent work of acting and believing a certain way. And that’s how a habit will stick, we surpass doing things only in the physical and we reprogram the mind to know this is our new home.
I got thinking about the idea for this podcast by having a conversation with a friend after teaching a spin class and then driving home. I was at a stop light in a left turn lane. It was one of those lights where you can’t turn left as you have a red left arrow, so you have to wait for the light to turn green to make a turn. And while I sat there waiting I looked at all the traffic passing by my car. And for the first time I really took notice of the double yellow line on the road. The line that lets you know where your lane ends and the opposite traffic’s lane begins. And it really freaked me out how two small lines that maybe span the distance of a foot or two were what was keeping me and others from disaster.
Those two lines made such an impression on me that I kept thinking about it for the next few hours. I realized that the smallest things are what make the biggest impact in our lives. And that’s what habits are really, they’re small actions done consistently, or as we just learned their “lived within.” And like traffic, they are the patterns that you inhabit in thoughts and actions.
I realized that successful habits were really about one thing…keeping the small promises we make to ourselves; the promises of doing and thinking in ways that would keep ourselves from the destruction of being a person without those guidelines.
And maybe keeping habits feels so hard because we’ve been asking the wrong questions. Instead of asking what we want to be doing, maybe we should look at it from another angle and ask ourselves why we are failing in the areas we want to be successful.
We have the tendency to look at what we need to add into our lives; and as we include more and more things that we think we should add in, we get overwhelmed trying to do too much and soon it just feels like a discombobulated mess that will never work. And the reason it will never work is that we are trying to do everything we can think of under the sun that might work, instead of choosing one small action, and thought, to focus on and master first before adding more into the mix.
What if you were to think of the habits in your mind like those painted roadways that keep two-way traffic running smoothly? What if you stopped trying to make change such a huge endeavor that you’re worn out before you even get started? There’s something called decision fatigue where we only have a certain amount of choices during our day that we’ll have the most energy for. And once we go over that certain number of choices, we get fatigued, and it’s harder to have good judgment as we are not in our best thinking conditions.
What if you were to make the decisions that count before you surpassed your decision fatigue?
What if you were to stop trying to add more and more actions or thoughts to the habits you want to encompass and you simplified the process?
So again, what are you struggling with, and why are you struggling with the change you want? When we can see the problem of the actions and thoughts that are keeping us from change…then we can simplify that change. Because when you see what’s wrong, usually the easiest way to change what’s wrong is to do the exact opposite of what’s keeping you continually stumbling.
So if something is creating anxiety in your life look at what helps to create calm in your life. If you’re seeing what’s keeping you in the area of procrastination, then you look at what helps you to get moving and to continually stay moving.
The problems aren’t really a problem; they’re guideposts letting you know that there’s a snag in your efforts. They are the signs saying here is where you are struggling, so you just need to go the other way or make a turn here, or maybe even see the problem differently…and that’s when change begins to form. The change may be a physical action, or it may be a mental action on how you speak and think about a problem.
While habits are simple, they are the lifeline towards our change. And recalling the Latin root of habit will help to change how we see habits. We will see a habit is not an action, but it’s an understanding of inhabiting that small change. It is living within those thoughts and actions in each moment that promotes the change. It’s not TRYING something; it’s living within that habit as you will no longer be able to tell the difference between where you end and the habit begins. It’s understanding the habit is no longer a simple action, but it is you BEING that habit.
Think of your life like one of those camping tents. You are trying to survive the best way you can in this tent. The new life-changing habit is like a sleeping bag. Sure, maybe you can survive without the sleeping bag, but the bugs may bite the heck out of you. Sure, you might be able to survive the temperature shifts, but maybe you won’t be able to keep your body regulated to the right temperature to function at optimal levels. And maybe you can get comfortable sleeping on the dirt ground, but the sleeping bag will help make you more comfortable within that tent. The habit will be work, but it will keep you comfortable in a structure that keeps you directed towards your life goals.
I think about all the religious texts that talk about letting go of the old self, killing the old you, to make room for the new self. That’s what a habit is, it’s destroying the old you, the old ways, and it’s making room for the new way. It’s that small double line painted in your mind keeping you in line from having a head-on collision with your old ways.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Think about an outcome in your life that you want to have right now? What would it take to become that person? What habits would you have to live in to make that a reality for you? Write all your answers down on a sheet of paper under the headline the New Me Habits.
Now think about the habits that are keeping you from being that person you want to be. What would it take to pivot from those habits to implement the new habits you just wrote down? Write those down under the headline Pivoting Habits.
Look at both lists and write down the three next best things you need to do to begin working on pivoting from the old habits into creating the new person you will be inhabiting.
George Washington Carver said, “Ninety-nine percent of the failures come from people who have the habit of making excuses.”
I Inhabit My Habits
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#431 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Want Everyone To Win
“Champions are not the ones who always win races - champions are the ones who get out there and try. And try harder the next time. And even harder the next time. 'Champion' is a state of mind. They are devoted. They compete to best themselves as much if not more than they compete to best others. Champions are not just athletes.”
~Simon Sinek
I played ice hockey for a good portion of my younger life, and I’m glad I did it because it kept me directed. It’s what guided me to get good grades in high school so I could play somewhere in college. It kept me busy, so I wasn’t hanging out with my friends who were out doing drugs or causing trouble. It wasn’t that I hung out with bad kids, I hung out with kids who were different, and they seemed to gravitate towards things that were more risky…but hockey always kept me walking the line I wanted to walk—the line of reaching my goal of being a better player and being able to play somewhere in a college setting.
The reason I bring that story up now, is because I don’t play hockey anymore. Sure, they have men’s leagues that I’ve played in after I was done playing in college, but I don’t feel like I fit in there anymore. I don’t watch sports that much anymore as it doesn’t excite me like it used to. And not saying anything good or bad about sports…I just got to a point where I was tired of it being all about winning or losing based upon points.
After I was done playing competitively in college, I went to play in men’s leagues to keep in shape and to continue the fun I used to have when I played as a kid…but I struggled to have fun. All my teammates seem to only focus on winning. If we were down a point or two, it was, “come on guys we got to get a goal so we can win.” But it just got so tiring trying to win a game by beating people on the scoreboard alone. And sure I get the aspect of wanting to win to feel good about your efforts, to have a way to gauge what you did was good enough; but we’ve become a society less about doing our best, and more about beating other people. We’ve become so unaware that our focus is on making sure we defeat someone, so they won’t take what we have deemed as ours.
I grew up respecting a coach named John Wooden. He coached most of his career for the UCLA basketball team. In his 29-year college head coaching career, held a record of 664 wins -162 losses. Which means that every 10 games that his team played they only lost 2. And during his tenure he won 10 national championships.
The very first thing he taught his players when they came to play for him was how to tie their shoes. Which sounds silly, but he wanted them to protect themselves in the most basic way that might get overlooked because in the sport of basketball if you aren’t taking care of your feet, you’ll be more likely to get hurt and not be able to play.
He was said to keep notes on every single practice he was ever a part of. He had tons of notebooks from writing notes during EVERY practice. He had an immense focus on his player's success as he preached school was more important than the game.
The only reason I brought up CoachWooden’s win percentage and accolades was to show how successful he was in what people would call winning. But Coach Wooden didn’t focus on winning. All of his players would talk about how he never talked about winning once. He talked about being your best no matter who you were playing.
And growing up playing sports, I always was told to play your best and that it wasn’t about winning…but I didn’t know what that meant, and I think even the people who told me really hadn’t thought about what it meant. Sure I knew the idea behind it, but I didn’t fully understand it. I still struggle with understanding it. We as humans have been conditioned to win…and I think it’s great to do your best to go out and get what you deserve, but I think we’ve gotten ideas confused We have tried to be our best to beat people or win the game by the score instead of doing our best to win the game within ourselves. Because the only real opponent is not someone else, it’s ourselves.
And that’s where I’ve have been confused, and I think a lot of us get lost in the pursuit in the illusion of winning. We have made winning more about claiming something so someone doesn’t take it from us. We want that job instead of Joe having it because we believe we deserve it more than he does, we want that partner in our lives over another person because we think we deserve them in our lives, we want all those monetary goals because it will make us look more successful. And so it’s more about winning instead of being aligned with what’s right for ourselves.
I spent so many years judging my life on my wins rather than feeling good about giving my best. And so I built up my esteem based on how well I was defeating others in the games before me, rather than focusing on building myself up in giving my all…all of the time.
I don’t have all the answers to helping you be happier, but I know I’ve found peace in wanting everyone to win. I know the universe is ever abundant to give us all we want and need, but I think most of us can get into a scarcity mindset and allow that to control us. We don’t want things taken from us, so we will try to take everything we can just in case we might miss out on something. Which keeps us from being aligned with what’s most right for us; you can’t be where you need to be if you’re trying to gain things that aren’t meant for you. And so we win just for the sake of winning something, we try to take other things away from people so they can’t take them away from us first.
I know in my life I’ve struggle with making the right choices. I’ve asked this question hundreds if not thousands of times “what if I made the wrong choice and ruined the rest of my life by missing out on something?” Take for example romantic partners or romantic interests in my life. I get upset when people leave me; I ruminate and question did I make a mistake, or what could I have done better? As I play this endless game of thoughts in my mind of…what if?
Which fear then began controlling my life; the fear of questioning what if that was the one, what if I lost out. What if that new person they’re seeing is better than me and I could never compare. And so the jealousy and hurt would boil up. And so then I turn my attention to being mad at the person I was interested in for rejecting me and jealousy for the other person who took my love interest away.
But when I live thinking that way, it only hurts me and my future. I want people to be successful in the places in life that they deserve to be in…and so I have to step back and really take a look at what I want. Do I want someone who doesn’t want to be with me be in my life because I’m upset? No. I want their happiness, and I want them to be with the person they deserve to be with…just like I want to be with who I deserve to be with. I don’t want to think ill of anyone, I don’t want people to fail because I am hurt, I don’t want other people’s misery and hurt because I’m upset. And so I want everyone to win. I want people to be where they are meant to be…and I want that for myself as well.
It’s a daily reminder to focus on what’s more important. As I work to make a conscious decision to ask myself, “is winning more important, or is doing my best the most important?” And doing my best means thinking good thoughts about myself and others. It’s about taking actions that align with my goals; not trying to stop people from taking from me. It’s about loving the struggle and the growth with immense gratitude and appreciation along the way, and it’s the continual act of wishing, praying, and hoping for everyone to win…because when we all win…I win too.
So let us let go of the notion of having to win at all costs, and let us hold onto the idea of doing our best in mind, body, emotions, and spirit. Let us not try to win things out of fear of someone taking it from us, but let us hope for the best in people and for people, as we work towards being our best. And when you do this, I know you will find yourself not worried about things being taken from you because you are too busy being aligned up with things you are meant for.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What does winning mean to you? Is it about the final score, or is it about you leaving everything on the table?
I think to be more successful in life, to target and hone in on what truly matters, starts with redefining what success means to us. I think it’s about taking down the notches, or the scoreboard, and looking at our effort meter. It's about asking ourselves, “did I put it all on the line because I wanted something better from myself?”
Fear can be a great hindrance in us not giving our all, so I am going to challenge you not to let fear dictate your win or loss column, but to have it be a directive in showing you what’s important to you.
The things that matter are scary because there’s something important on the line. But today, let us redefine what winning means and look less to beat other people…and more in doing our best in all we do. And when you do that, you’ll find yourself attaining the things that are meant for you. You’ll find yourself relinquishing the fear of missing out on yours, as you allow the things that are meant for others to be attained by those people. You are not missing out by taking what isn’t meant for you, you will find clarity, focus, and success in putting your efforts in being your best to achieve what you truly wish for your life…instead of trying to take something that is meant for someone else.
So how will you keep your eyes focused on giving your best to win in your life, instead of living in fear and constantly trying to one up others? That’s no way to live. So let us choose to live differently and look at winning differently.
So let us live by these mantras—
- I Celebrate Everyone’s Wins
- I Am Excited By Everyone’s Happiness
- When we all win, I win too.
I know this may be repeating what I said but this was the original idea I wrote when I first started brainstorming this podcast and I felt I wanted to share the original idea. It felt right on my heart to add it in, even if I am repeating myself…because I know I most of all need to be reminded of this every day…and I hope ti will help you out too.
Don’t wish ill will on people when they wrong you, you want the best for them…because when you do that you want the best for yourself. When you invest in other people’s win…you invest in people. And when you invest in people you can never go wrong because you are taking the time to get to the heart of things. You are wanting greatness for everyone, and what you put out into the world is what will be returned to you. But you aren’t doing it only for yourself to win. You are doing it so everyone can win…and what that will do is bring happiness to you.
I Want Everyone To Win
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#430 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Overcome What I Set My Mind To
“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”
~Tony Robbins
Why don’t we change when we want to? Is becoming who we want to be that difficult? Is stopping the habits that are crippling us that hard?
It’s a nice idea to put the blame on our DNA, on our parents, on our partners, on our exes, on who or whatever will take to focus away from us and put it elsewhere…because we believe it feels better to avoid our problems than to come face to face with them.
But running from our addictions, our pains, and our fear and anxieties have only done one thing…running has kept bringing us back to all those things we were running from. What we run from pursues us; not because they are faster runners than us, but because when we run we don’t let go of them. We hold on tighter and close our eyes hoping not see those problems. When in fact the mere act of trying to avoid them actually brings us face to face with them.
And being face to face with a problem can be a great thing, if we decide to open our eyes and see how we can rise above them. The problem isn’t what is wearing us out, our inefficient ways with dealing the problems are wearing us out. It’s fun confronting problems that make us think and act differently, but when we don’t know how to deal with problems because we never seem to get over them…then we feel hopeless because nothing seems to work for us in overcoming the problems that plague us.
So we fight the problems, we run from them, or we work to anything we can to shake them from our lives…but it’s not that you have to shake them, it’s about understanding that you are NOT your problems.
We live in a world where we’re told that the answers are outside of us.
“Here take this pill it will be the answer to what ails you…oh by the way you have to take this for the rest of your life.”
“Here see this therapist they will cure what’s wrong with you. Or maybe read these books they will be your silver bullet.”
Now hear me clearly, I am not saying any of these things are bad; what I am saying is we have become over-reliant on other things to heal us…that we have trapped ourselves within our problems. We need something else to save us, and it sounds like a wonderful idea to just take something and our problems magically go away…but in reality the thing we took was only half the answer. We have to decide to heal ourselves no matter what…because NO pill will know the exact dosage to give you, no pill will know when to turn on and off in your body at the exact right times, no pill will have no side effects that maybe another pill might need to help out with.
The thing you take might have been the answer to help you to begin thinking change was possible, but we have come to believe that the outside fix was the fix; that the external measure we take was the thing that would heal us totally.
And sometimes the reason we believe that something else will be the end all be all answer for us, is because it’s nice to think that maybe we won’t have to struggle anymore from these problems that have been plaguing us for far too long. It’s nice to think there’s an answer for a problem that we thought we might not ever be able to fix.
But the external answer is only part of the story. YOU have to decide to want to heal, you have to decide to want to be different, you have to decide that it is possible to be different…to be healed.
I might be simplifying this a bit much…but you are not your problems…your problems are not you. When you understand this, then it’s no longer about running from them, fighting them, or hiding from them…it’s about knowing you were never a part of them.
The answers are simple, but they aren’t easy. Meaning that when you want to stop holding on so tight, you can release your grip little by little. I know some of the fears I held onto was because they were more comfortable than being confident.
I avoided speaking in front of audiences because I thought I could sit behind a computer and tell people what they need to do. I avoided helping people because I worried about being seen as not having all the answers and they would know I was a fraud…as I held more tightly onto the imposter syndrome instead of moving forward knowing I am not meant to heal everyone…just the ones who are ready to change and who align with me. I’ve kept my mouth closed during times when people needed me to defend them, whether they were there or not, because it was easier not to cause waves. I just told myself I wasn’t part of it, which was only lying to myself. What’s the saying “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing?”
I have known all my life how much easier it is to live in fear. But that’s the lie we’ve told ourselves, that doing nothing is better than stepping out to do what is right. We’ve told ourselves it’s better to not look like a fool by doing the right thing and maybe not doing it perfectly. We’ve told ourselves that being silent and not trying is better because no one will judge us harshly, as it’s safer to hide in the shadows than to step into the light of who we are called to be. But the only way we get better is to step out willing to make mistakes so we can get better.
So whatever pains, fears, anxieties, anger, frustrations, and hurt you’re dealing with…I believe the greatest way to change is to know you are not your problems…you are above them.
And how transformation happens is when the pain of staying the same is greater than the fear of changing. Change is a beautiful thing…and the more we live within the comforts of our fears…then the more we lie to ourselves by saying this a good way to live. Because no one really wants to avoid what could make them better; they really want to avoid what scares them. But when you do that you make fear your master, and you’ve resorted to living a life of lying to yourself. The lie that it feels better to be ordinary. That it feels better to stay the same. The lie that you wouldn’t be good enough to do what you want anyway.
And that is one of the saddest deaths we will ever go through…the death of our character because we have decided it’s more comfortable to live within fear.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
We need to become aware of how we are living in our fears. So, how have you allowed your fear to dictate who you are and what you think you can do?
I know this sounds like cliché BS, but the reason you aren’t doing what you want is because you have allowed your fears and your frustrations to control you. Sure there will be learning curves, and growing pains, in becoming who you want to be… but if something is important to you, then fear will not be a deterrent—it will be the ramp that is asking you to accelerate and jump through that ring of fire that’s burning behind it.
- So write down the fears that are stifling your growth.
- Write down how you can run towards your fears; to challenge them and not let them win anymore, no matter how small of a step you need to take continuously toward it.
- Write down who will hold you accountable towards this fear. And then contact them and ask them to hold you accountable in whatever way you decide is reasonable for you
- And finally, write down how you will continually believe in yourself on this journey. Because what will help you towards becoming who you truly want to be in your life, is the continual vision of knowing you are WORTH the effort to put into making this happen, and then visualizing yourself being successful in making it happen.
The only obstacle in the way is you, so how will you step out of your way today?
I Overcome What I Set My Mind To
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#429 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am, and Always Have Been… Enough
“Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”
~William James
When I was in sales there was an old adage that was said quite often to help us overcome our fears of rejection, and that saying was—“the more times you hear no, then the closer you are to a yes.” And I always liked reminders like that, telling us that the bad things going on aren’t as bad as you think they are. The so-called negative things are actually helping you get the practice to become better at the crafts you’re pursuing.
To be honest, I had trouble with sales, and I still can have trouble with sales because when I hear a “no” I take it personally. I ask what’s wrong with me, how come they didn’t like me. By thinking that way it brought me to answers that only told me half-way why I wasn’t good at sales. The reason I say half-way is because I needed to see that I didn’t get the sale not because of myself, but because I needed to be a different person.
Now if you are scratching your head to my last statement hold on, as I’ll explain. For a good portion of my life, I was worried about people rejecting me, I was afraid of not being enough, I was afraid that I wouldn’t fit in and be left behind. In fact I used to have dreams of being lost as a child and never finding my way back from the trails I got lost on. And I believe it was my subconscious speaking to me, showing how deathly afraid I was of being left behind, and that I wasn’t enough in more ways than one.
But the fault was not with me, or people not loving me and leaving me behind, the fault was my thinking. And to change to becoming a different person, was not really becoming a different person, but it would be more of a simple shift in my thinking. So take the sales example in the beginning: I shifted my thoughts from seeing a “no” not as a “no,” but an awakening that I really didn’t get to know the consumers “why.” I began to care more about the customer as a person, not just a number sign. That “no” was a chance for me to see that I was in misalignment with the people I was presenting to. My old way of thinking was focusing on sadness and the ego of me not being good enough whenever I heard a “no,” and that kept me in misery. I saw what I really wanted was not just a “yes” or another sale, but I wanted to be of service and of use to people. I wanted to get to know people better…not just so I could sell them something but more so that I could provide value for them.
And that simple shift I think needs to happen in our lives. We fear not being good enough. We want to be perfect so we get it right, so we aren’t laughed at, or aren’t part of the group since you may not be whatever enough you think you need to be…to be loved. And the problem isn’t with you, the problem is with your thinking. The thinking that you have to be different, that you have to be more. And yes I believe we should always be working to better ourselves, but not because there is something faulty with us, but rather there is something right with us that we want to grow into who were created to be.
When I was part of an MTV transformation show where I was a personal trainer and life coach, I got so much pushback from the gal I was working with and from her family. When I told them I was a life coach the family’s common answer would be, “there’s nothing wrong with my daughter.” And I said I agree. They thought I came from a place of trying to fix her because she wasn’t whole. But I said to the mother at the time, “the life coaching students I work with…there’s nothing wrong with them either, there’s something so right with them as they want to realize who they truly are.”
And so every day, I got pushback, I got resistance, I got fighting on what we were doing…instead of trusting the process of knowing I had only one agenda…to love this girl as she was and to help her love herself as well. You see my goal on this weight loss show wasn’t for her to lose the recommended weight to be at her correct Body Mass Index scale. You know that number that Doctors will tell you based upon your height and weight of whether you are too fat or not. I could care less about the weight…I wanted her to change the way she saw a goal, the way she saw herself, and to stop fighting the process and allow it to come to her.
And it was one of the hardest things I ever had to do, first of all because I knew millions of people might be watching and if I failed I’d look like a failure…and secondly I was dealing with people who want to change, but they don’t want to change. And I am not putting the blame on the girl or the family alone… I am also talking about myself. Because during the taping I had so much fear in me from looking like an imposter, not being good enough, and failing in trying to get my message across to this young woman. The message that she could do anything she desired once she stopped fighting the old negative patterns and began building upon the great character already within her.
We fight ourselves towards progress. We put in hard work towards a goal. We fight tooth and nail to get what we want, and sometimes we reach it, and other times we don’t.
Why is that?
Is it because we are good sometimes and other times we’re not good enough. I don’t think so; I think it’s because we are waging a battle within our mind upon every moment from old beliefs. The split mind of who we truly are (our greatest and most true self), and the fears of who we aren’t. The beliefs that we may not be worthy, that we may not be good enough, the beliefs that someone better deserves it more than us. And so we work towards a dream or a goal by looking at ourselves from a place of lack.
We subconsciously are telling ourselves that it’s going to be hard and maybe it might not be worth it because you may fail—so don’t put in your “all” because it’s easier to fail knowing you didn’t try, than to give it your all and fail and be proven what a piece of crap you are. And that last sentence is not me saying that, that’s the negative voice inside, the subconscious darkness we allow to lie to us and tell us we aren’t enough.
But that doesn’t have to continually happen. Like my dream of being left behind, that fear was within me, because where I started any endeavor, where I began any goal, always began from a place of not feeling like I was enough. And I believe it’s easy to go to that fear, the place of not feeling as good enough as you SHOULD be, because it’s an easy out for us. It’s a generic starting point that seems natural because we believe it feels easier to NOT fail than it is to go out and make mistakes in your endeavors.
But I believe that is a faulty way of starting. It’s like you running a race, that you are going to run your heart out to, but actually start out facing the wrong way. You are worthy to have whatever you desire in your life. You are able to do what you want in your life. You have so much power and potential in you already…we just have forgotten that, as we’ve been sold a faulty bill of good for too long by marketing, advertising, and societal messages telling us we need to be more, that we aren’t enough…yet. You are told to buy this product to feel beautiful, get this new gadget to feel more successful, or acquire these things to have people admire you.
But you don’t have to acquire anything new because you feel you’re lacking. The way we become more is to understand we ALREADY are more. It’s like Stephen Covey says in his 7 Habits of Highly Efffective People book…“start with the end in mind.”
And that principle is not some crazy saying just to visualize what you want. It’s actually the process of helping your mind to melt the future and the present together. It’s the lessons you are giving to your negative thoughts in your mind telling it that there’s no difference between where you want to be and where you are. Yes, you will have to work to make a goal happen; but not because you were lacking to begin with, but more because you were onto a higher mission. Realizing the potential of who you have always been.
There’s no difference between the person you are now and the successful future person you visualize and want to be. The only difference is that visualization knew one thing that the present moment mindset forgot. It was already at the goal, and it didn’t have to fight the whole way to get what it wanted. Yes, your successful future self had to work, but it only had to allow who they were…to become who they are. There was no resistance in the work, there was only belief and a knowing they were able, they were worthy, and that it was worth it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
It’s such a simple question, but it has plagued the world for the course of all humanity…and I want to ask you this question now. Do you believe you are enough?
I am going to let you sit with that question for a moment and to really feel it.
Do you BELIEVE you are enough?
Because the only thing that has been keeping you back from realizing your potential…is your belief of who you are right now. And I believe the best way to change, is not to see your future self as different from your present self. Sure the goal is already met by the future self, but the future self met the goal because they knew they were worthy and that they were able to do what they set there mind to.
So the challenge today is to write your present self a letter from your future self—telling you why you were able to do what you did, telling you what you had to believe about yourself, and what you need to remember in making it to that future outcome.
This exercise is not a goal in negativity of telling you why you aren’t good enough now, it’s an exercise on love and reminding you about the principles you’ve always known. The principles that you are enough and that you can do anything if you focus in the most efficient way possible—remembering that it’s not about fighting to the goal, but allowing yourself to the goal.
I Am, and Always Have Been… Enough
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#428 March The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Success Comes Easily To Me
“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
~Confucius
I was with my father and the family dogs were all around us acting happy, wagging their tails, tongues hanging out…just excited to be with us. And as we were walking up a set of stairs my dad said to the dogs “ABC. Always Be Cheerful.”
And I had never heard that before and it resonated with me. As we got to the top of the stairs one of the dogs, who is named storm was resting peacefully and woke up and looked pretty grumpy. And again, my dad said to the dogs “ABC…Always Be Cheerful….except for Storm she has a right not to be cheerful.” And I laughed at my pops and his ad-libbing skill at silliness.
But the simplicity of that mnemonic made me stop and really think about how uncomplicated life really can be. The best things in life are simple, but they’re not easy. They aren’t as easy to implement, not because we can’t implement the simple rules, but more that it’s an awareness to strip away all the other bloated BS we fill our lives with. Which got me to thinking how do I simplify my life…if I do it all? Sometimes we question if we have any order as we are running around like chickens with their heads cut off.
So what is your simplicity motto? What is something you live your life by that makes sense to you and you hope to implement into every day?
In my book I’ll be publishing I created what I call The Strong Within Confidence wheel. And what I mean by confidence is really the act to go after what truly matters to you, to do the things that make your life matter, instead of just living a mundane life. It’s about having the courage to be who you truly are.
And in my formula I have six parts to the cycle that have simplified my life and have helped keep me in line with my purposes and my goals. And those steps are Choosing Your Direction, Knowing Your Values and Strengths, Creating a Plan, Taking Action, Creating Unwavering Enthusiastic Commitment, and Repeat.
I won’t get into how to do all of those or what they all mean, right now, but if it interests you then sign up for my newsletter by going to my site and I’ll put you on the list to notify you when I publish it.
This system was something I developed during a difficult part of my life. It was a blueprint to keep me moving forward and to keep me focused on my life purposes no matter what was going on in my life. And by creating this plan and then implementing the steps of action made all the difference in my life. It helped to simplify what I needed to do, and it began helping me to implement it every day.
And so when I hear great ideas like my father saying ABC, always be cheerful. I am awakened to how simple life can be, and how beautiful it is when we focus on the straightforward things that matter. And by working to implement simple principles in my life, it’s made all the difference in my life by creating more joy, more peace and calm, reducing my fears and anxieties, and helping me to be a more loving person..first to myself, so then I can be more loving to others.
In the movie Top Gun, Tom Cruise’s character is named Maverick and his instructors, Jester and Viper, are discussing his merit as a fighter pilot:
Jester: [discussing Maverick] His health report says it all: he's a wild card. Flies by the seat of his pants, completely unpredictable.
Viper: He got you, didn't he?
Jester: [sarcastically] Yeah.
Viper: Maverick. I flew with his old man. Let me ask you something, if you had to go into battle, would you want him on you side?
Jester: I don't know, I just don't know.
In the movie, Maverick’s character flies that way on purpose. He has intention and great dedication to his flying; it’s all about engagement and full out on the enemy. So what looks like chaos to someone else is actually deliberate focus.
In the movie he gets too focused on the goal at times and misses the things around him…but he simplified his life by creating a way of enforcing his code…a code of going all out—all the time, no mercy, no retreat only re-engagement, and focusing only on one purpose…mission completion above all else.
Life can be confusion, disorder, disarray, and pandemonium. You can get swept in the whirlwind of chaos or you can choose to be your own set of deliberate chaos upon the enemies trying to stop you from your goals. Those enemies don’t necessarily have to be people out to get us, it could be procrastination, it could be the negative stories we tell why we can’t have or do something, or it could be an obstacle that you are letting trip you up.
When you focus on your life’s mission, things become more simple, they become more clear, and while living isn’t easy…knowing your mission will help you tremendously in making your life matter. And while my dad reminded me of a simple way of living by remembering to always be cheerful…there’s another code of conduct I work to remind myself of…and I hope you remind yourself of it daily as well…”Don’t pray for it to be easier…pray for yourself to be better.” Let’s be better through simplicity, let’s be willing to put in the work, and let’s be better by living our codes of life engagement.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
So what’s your plan in life? Do you have one…or are you flying by the seat of your pants?
I think we have many purposes in life. And sometimes that’s why we can get stuck in life, we think we have to choose one purpose above all else. Sure there will be more important purposes in your life, but let’s make this simple.
What is the one purpose you want to focus on every day?
What is your mission to complete above all else?
And if you were to sum up your answer in one sentence or maybe even one word…what would it be? Write down your sentence or one word and look at it every morning before you start your day, and look at it before you go to bed for the next month, and see how your days and life change by being crystal clear about the simple but profound purpose of your life.
I’d love to hear your life missions, so feel free to email me at chris@strongwithin.com and again if you want to join the newsletter to know when my book will come out as I talk about my life plan and implementing it…then listen to the next part and sign up for my newsletter.
Jim Rohn said this, “Success is nothing more than a few simple disciplines, practiced every day.”
Success Comes Easily To Me
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#427 March 3rd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Take The Time To Understand
“Not until we are lost do we begin to understand ourselves.”
~ Henry David Thoreau
I was working with a life coaching student of mine who was going through a rather tough time in their life. They were going through a messy divorce, and it was bringing them to the edge of their sanity. We discussed how to see the games other people play, and how to deal with it more effectively.
Their ex, knew how to push my student’s buttons. I think it was his way of dealing with things. Now I never had a conversation with my student’s ex, so I am taking the liberty of seeing into his mind… But I think it was his way of balancing things out. It was his way of displacing the chaos he felt within onto other people. And when people do that it’s only a temporary relief, as they have to keep on sharing that chaos with others because they never deal with it effectively.
And during our discussion I reminded my student about the importance of being calm and how to see what their ex-husband was doing was not necessarily a slight on them…but an act of someone who has no clue what they’re really doing. Now people will say of course the ex knew what he was doing…and I won’t disagree with you there. But the games people play, while they do it to help them feel better, they don’t really know why they do it, and they don’t know that while it’s bringing an end result they think they want…for the other person to feel their pain…they really aren’t getting what they want. They think their reward is the transfer of their pain onto the other person…but really what they crave, is calm to their chaos. And so the game they’re stuck in, is the endless loop of never being able to escape from the feelings they so desperately wish to not be in.
I told my student when you know the game, when you can see their motives, you don’t have to participate. You don’t have to be part of their chaos…and you won’t be part of their chaos unless you choose to be. Unless you react by letting your anger, your fear, or your exhaustion win.
My student was frazzled from all of the games being played, and as we talked about the motives behind the games I could see her calming down. She knew everything I was saying was something she needed to hear or do, as she agreed with me for all of it…but through the conversation she said this response a few times…”I know, I know, I know.”
After the 3rd time of hearing her say this, I stopped her right there and said I know you know this already, but you’re dismissing this information immediately.” And she said, “what do you mean, I agree with you.”
I said “I know you do, but you are like me and when I’m saying I know…I am actually saying I hear you, I don’t have to change anything because I know what you mean…I have the answer…I get it. When I am saying I know, it’s a way for me to take the info in but to brush over it quickly so I don’t have to process it.”
I know this may sound like semantics but there is knowing and then there is understanding.
I said to my student, “when we understand, we are being patient in wisdom…rather than saying I know and being quick with answers. Because when I said I know, it was really a way for me to scan the info quickly so I could move on rather than change.” It was a way for me to act like I was in control saying I know, but knowing and acting upon knowing are two different things.
And while it may seem like those two words are similar…I actually get different mental and physical responses when I say them. When I say I understand, I actually pause for a moment to ask…do I really understand? That word holds more weight to me than just knowing.
And over the course of our coaching session, anytime I heard her say I know, I know, I know…which was a lot…I stopped her and asked her—"you know, or you understand?”
And the interesting thing is she stopped for a moment, thought about what I said, thought about what she was saying…and became more calm and after her pause she would say “I understand.” Her whole demeanor changed when she stopped, processed it, and said I understand out loud.
When I work with my students, it’s not that I’m trying to impart knowledge on them they don’t have. Most of us know what we should be doing, but we need to process that knowledge differently…especially when we aren’t getting the feeling or rewards we want by using them. And in this fast-paced world, we want to get to the answer as quickly as possible. But getting to an answer and actually living within the calm of an answer is different.
I’ve spent years telling myself or others I knew the answer, but then I wasn’t acting upon it. I was going about my life without intention and consideration, as I was more concerned with getting to the end instead of doing the more patient work of living within an answer.
So are you brushing over the lessons you need to learn saying you know it already…or are you taking time to really process what happened, and ask yourself if you understand it? When we take the time to understand something fully, we change not only our future actions by being more aware, but we ease the anxiety and frustration we’re in by releasing the negative events that were bothering us. So let us NOT just know, let us understand…and find greater peace within the moment.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
When you know you should do something and didn’t do it, do you beat yourself up saying I should’ve known better?
When someone tells you something you need to be reminded of do you say I know, I know, I know?
Or do you take a moment to process things, to hear it more fully and say “I understand.”?
Sometimes the greatest way to change our predicaments is to change one word, or to ask better questions. So I am going to challenge you this year to change your vocabulary. The next time you want to say I know to yourself or to someone else—take a moment to process it and say “I hear you, and I understand.”
Because wouldn’t you rather understand something, instead of just simply knowing something? Of course we know things, but understanding means we have a greater depth of knowledge about something..and we actually are doing something about it. Knowledge is NOT power. Power is knowledge WITH application.
So, let us live within the answers, not just brush over them. It’s like the old saying, “if you have time to do something over, because you didn’t take the time to do it right the first time, then you have time to do it right the first time.” So let’s do it right the first time, and let’s work to have a deeper knowledge of what and who we want to be…and then follow through with that knowledge.
I Take The Time To Understand
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#426 March 2nd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Attract Great Things Into My Life
“Within all of us is a divine capacity to manifest and attract all that we need and desire.”
~Wayne Dyer
The thing I always try to remind my life coaching students, and myself, is that we don’t get what we want, we get what we focus on. While it’s a profound statement, it’s really hard to wrap your mind around. We live in a world of cause and effect. You do something and you get something. We live in a physical world of seeing, hearing, touching, tasting…and so we are conditioned to believe that what we get is due to the physical world alone.
But I think it’s a little more complex than that. Let me give you a few scenarios to illustrate something different to think about in living your life. Maybe you’ve done this or have heard of people doing this, where they were lonely and unlucky in finding a soul mate, and after a bunch of failures in the dating arena, the person decided to stop looking and just be happy living their life not seeking a partner. And when they stopped looking, they found the person that meshed with them. Or what about a time in your life where it seemed like the world was crumbling all around you, and no matter what you did it seemed like you couldn’t get a break. You kept attracting more negative people and things in your life. Or maybe you experienced quite the opposite where you were on fire, and nothing could go wrong. You got that promotion, it felt like magic was happening as things were just coming together perfectly, your kids were actually being good and listening to you for once in their lives, and you and your partner were in beautiful sync.
Now most of us would say something like the stars are aligning, my luck has changed lately, or it’s just a series of extraordinary coincidences happening in a row. With all the amazing things that I’ve seen in my life have led me to the conclusion that there are no coincidences. There’s more order to the Universe than I originally believed. And maybe it’s easier for us to believe more in luck than something we have control over…that way we don’t have to be responsible for the thoughts or energies we put out into the world.
Let me make this simple because I could say there are millions of parts to us…but really it comes down to two parts, at least within this world. The Universe works in symmetry. There’s mass, and then there’s space (or so-called nothingness) in between mass. Think about your body if you were to split it in half; it’s a perfect match on the other side—two eyes, two ears, two nostrils, two arms, two legs. If you look within nature at a leaf and fold it in half, both sides almost match perfectly, or how flowers have a circular symmetry when looking at all it’s petals. And I have come to believe in intelligent design, that there’s too much order for anything to be random chance.
And the point I’m getting to is that when you think about the deeper design of us as humans, there’s the physical and nonphysical. There’s the body and the soul, and within both of those entities (here’s more symmetry)—the power of magnetism or repulsion. Who we are is what we attract in our lives. We have a magnetism about us that pushes away or attracts things and people towards us.
But most of don’t think about life that way. It’s easier to believe that things happen, that something outside of us is in control of everything in our lives because then we have something to blame when things aren’t going our way. It’s easier to say my boss hates me and that’s why I’m working in the basement without my red stapler (Office Space Milton movie reference there if you didn’t catch it). Or you might say the people I’m attracted to don’t like me, and that’s why I never get dates. Which gets me thinking about a saying in the self-development world that claims you are most like your 5 closest friends.
And the reasons all those things happen are not because of coincidence or talent, but because of your magnetism. You are not only creating things, but you are also attracting a certain outcome, good or bad, to yourself.
The reason for EVERYTHING in my life is from what I focus on. I don’t get what I want, I get what I focus on. Have you ever seen a Star Trek Next Generation episode? They had the coolest machine on the ship; it was probably my favorite thing about the show. Whatever type of food or drink a person wanted they would just order the machine to make it, and their exact wish would appear out of thin air. Well, we have that exact machine within our lives, and it’s our mind.
What we say is what we manifest. We’ve known that truth deep within all of our lives, but over time we’ve forgotten that fact because we think more on a surface level. We’ve told ourselves the lie that if we really attarct things then it should happen instantaneously, right? Which maybe it could be that way, but your belief levels determine the speed of your manifestation becoming actuality.
So in reality, your deepest thoughts, the ones you think over and over again, become your subconscious. And when it becomes your subconscious, you aren’t really processing things anymore—you are getting in the habits of acting, thinking, speaking…and believing a certain way. And that focus becomes the magnetism and energy that attracts what you manifest in your life.
That’s why people give up in trying to focus differently. They say that it just wasn’t meant to be, but it’s not that the person can’t have what they want…they just have to learn to reprogram their old thinking patterns. And that happens by them focusing 100% on thinking differently. People only TRY to think or act differently…and thus change never happens because they were never fully in it. They were JUST trying it, afraid of failing or it not working, and thus never committing themselves to the change they sought.
Now I made this more complex than it has to be. Think of it like this. The more you think and act a certain way the easier it gets to always be that way. The more you do those certain things, then the more you program that in your subconscious—so you don’t have to actively think about it anymore, you just become it naturally. And if you’re still having trouble believing that, I think it’s because you might be looking at bad things happening to you. Magnetism doesn’t think in good or bad, right or wrong, it just gives what is focused upon. So if you can’t see magnetism working in your life, take a look at the bad things happening in your life and ask if there is magnetism happening that way in your life? Sometimes the way we see truth is to look on the opposite side of our truths, or another angle.
It’s easier to say why we don’t have what we want, it’s easier to say why our life is out of control, and it’s easier to put the blame somewhere else. But it’s never been about putting blame on ourselves or someone or something else, it’s about understanding that our focus has a power within it. The Universe is going to continue acting the way it does no matter what you do or think. So you can be part of the solution to creating your life the way you want, by intentionally thinking and acting a certain way. Or you can be intentional about being out of control as you focus on being helpless in the matters—you still will be getting what you focus on. And that’s the rub…you’re always winning by getting what you focus on. The Universe doesn’t discriminate it gives you what you are asking for.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
I saw a quote that I wanted to share in helping describe the power of your magnetism, or the law of attracting what you focus on. Gary Zukav said, “Caregivers attract caregivers and live in a community of love. They are energized by their caring, fulfilled, and they love life. Caretakers attract caretakers and live in the company of resentful victims who see themselves as misused and are fatigued from constant giving with no return.”
So how do you change your level of magnetism? I think it’s first by seeing what your subconscious believes. This month keep a notepad with you and write down those thoughts that come to you. Write down those thoughts that are on your mind constantly. See what your brain is focusing on throughout the day, and come back to review those thoughts later and see if you find any patterns.
Be a mind detective and see if you’re focusing more on the problems of why you can’t instead of focusing on how you will. See if you look towards why things are unfair or whether you see opportunity in the struggle.
Our subconscious will dictate most of our daily actions, but it doesn’t mean we can’t change our subconscious mind. What we’ve done, thought, or said in the past has formed our subconscious, and once you understand this…you can begin forming it differently by thinking, acting, and speaking differently. It just takes mindfulness and continual practice of being deliberate with our behaviors.
I Attract Great Things Into My Life
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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Thoughtful Thursdays-#425 March 1st The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Can Weather Through Any Storm
“The fishermen know that the sea is dangerous and the storm terrible, but they have never found these dangers sufficient reason for remaining ashore.”
~Vincent Van Gogh
You are the architect of your life. You design your life; you build your walls, you build a solid structure or a weak structure. And while you create a blueprint to begin designing your life, there has to be an understanding that you are more than the structure you’ve built. You are more than the foundation within…you are also the storm created outside those walls as well. Meaning that the storms you go through are created by you.
Now the storm is metaphorical as it’s not about real hurricanes, but it’s about the hurricanes you create, it’s about the drama you decide to reside within, it’s about the stories you tell yourself and others about why your life is the way it is. Horrible things happen to us, people can be hateful to us, and the world may seem like it’s against us…but that ultimately is still… a story we tell ourselves. And we can decide to live in a story of misery, sadness, doubt, hatred, self-pity of poor old me; or we can decide to live in a story where the lead character decides their fate. We can live in a story where the hero has conflict but always finds a way to win triumphantly. We can live in a story where we know that the ending has a twist that will marvel even ourselves when we decide to believe in something better.
Sure, people will claim I’m a happy dude and unrealistic about the world around me. I won’t deny that I’m happy, but I’m not blind. I’m not disillusioned of the pains, the hatred, and the conflicts in this world. It’s rather that I choose to see something more in all of it.
And I’m not always successful in doing that. There are mornings where I don’t want to get up as I’d rather cover my body under the covers and hide in the security of that warm bed. There are conversations that I know I need to have with people about something that’s bothering me, but I avoid it by take the easier way; thinking that if I don’t address it then it will go away. And every day I’m confronted by my own internal storms, as I hope I can face them again with strength and confidence.
On those days, or those unsuccessful attempts to best fear, I’ve found the reason I let fear win is because I was afraid of losing. I have told myself the story that running from my fears is easier. I have told myself that the best way to save myself is to run from fears rather than run through my fears.
But the reason I was scared was that I believed the storm was out of my control instead of knowing it was caused by my focus. I may not have always been the starter of the storm, but in those times I’ve forgotten that I decide how I will stand in the storm.
In my early 20’s I had a close friend and business partner take advantage of me and write me a lot of bad checks. I had a home business and he wanted to rent out an office and have a business location. I was hesitant but he said he would take care of the rent and all the furniture, etc. And so we found a place, rented it and started getting it office ready.
During this whole process, there was something tingling in my intuition telling me something was wrong when every time a check bounced and my friend said oh it must be in his other account. To make a long story short, he was printing checks on his home printer and passing them off as real. He eventually went to jail as he had done this to other people as well. And during this time I went more into debt because of this, as I was left with paying the bank back for the things that I thought were paid for.
The debt was so overwhelming, that I was in constant anxiety in how the hell I was ever going to pay it back, and I’d be in financial ruin. After a year of racking up even more debt trying to pay it little by little; I had reached my breaking point. And the only seemingly logical reason at the time was to hide because I didn’t ever see myself getting out of this hole. It seemed easier just to run than to make small payments for the rest of my life. I was angry and upset that it was my responsibility to take care of it when “I” was the victim. And for years I avoided it, until one day I was tired of running and decided it was time to be an adult and face whatever I needed to do to resolve it.
That day I had decided to stop running I called the lady at the bank who had been handling my case from the beginning. I told her the story and that I wanted to take care of it no matter what, so I asked what would I need to do to make this right? And she said “let me check into all of this and I’ll get back to you.”
The next day she called me and told me that my ex-friend who had written all the bad checks was out of prison and that they could garner his wages. I didn’t have to pay back anything.
Now the moral of the story isn’t that I got out of having to pay for something, it was that I was willing to face the hell storm that I feared so much no matter what the cost would be.
Even if I had to pay back all of the debt by myself, I would’ve been happier because I was no longer running from a bigger storm that I’d created. Yes, there was the initial storm of not listening to my intuition and trusting my friend when my intuition was telling me something was off.
But for years during my running, I was playing the victim. I was so angry at this person for taking advantage of me. I kept telling myself that it wasn’t my fault.
And it partly wasn’t my fault. my friend duped me, but I didn’t listen to that voice inside early on that was telling me something was wrong. I drowned it out with another voice saying, this is my friend he wouldn’t take advantage of me. I didn’t listen to myself when my intuition was screaming at me.
Immediately after the incident, I talked with my mentor mike about what happened. I was afraid that I couldn’t trust anyone again. And I said to Mike, “I don’t want to live my life not trusting people.”
And Mike said to me, it’s not about NOT trusting people it’s about seeing what is. It’s about looking at the situation and seeing the truth in it. And when we do that, it will help you to see the storms for what they are and not be saddened by them but to know there is something more in them. There is something more in you…and you can either be the addition to increasing and making the storm bigger, or you can be the standing force to go through it with confidence and poise knowing that the only storm that will kill you is the one you decide to make.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
So what storms are you creating? What storms are you making bigger by thinking you have no control over the storm? What storms are you losing ground from by saying things like “it’s not my fault, I am the victim here,” or “there’s nothing I can do about it.” For me, the storms I got lost in were due to self-pity. Thinking it was unfair I had to go through pain and the work of something hard; when, in fact, it wasn’t bad that I went through a storm…I made it worse by thinking the storm was meant to break me.
Every storm in your life is a resolve to ask yourself “will I be bigger than the storm, or will I consumed by the storm.”
You are above any storm, and when you realize that…you won’t have to run from the storm. And the more you stand firm in your storms, then the more you’ll see that every storm you face won’t be a tsunami of fear, but it will be a breath of hope…reminding you how strong you are…and how much you will become because of the storm.
The trick of life is not about avoiding your storms, but knowing you may be making them bigger by how you view your problems and how you associate blame to your problems. So what storms are you going through now that you could reassociate how you see it?
How would that change your life right now to see your storms differently?
I Can Weather Through Any Storm
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#424 February 28th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
This, Is My Moment
“I am building a fire, and every day I train, I add more fuel. At just the right moment, I light the match.” ~Mia Hamm
We search our whole lives questioning whether we did the right things, whether we acted at the right time, whether we went to school for the right profession, whether we picked the right mate, and whether we made the best choices in all manners of our lives. We look at life as equal balance, and symmetrical in every way. Which it can be, but when we place ourselves straddling the line between two opposing choices we can get confused on where we are standing.
We say things are either correct or incorrect, up or down, left or right, as we ultimate are focusing on whether we took action in the right moment or whether we blundered it. But there’s no right time, there’s only action and inaction. Sure, there are better times than others. But if we spend our lives waiting for the perfect moment without taking action, it won’t matter when that moment comes because first off you won’t even recognize it, and secondly you won’t be prepared for it.
We wait for our stage to come to us, saying I can’t wait till my time comes. But when we do that, what we’re really saying is I’m not willing to do the work to prepare myself for that stage. Frank Sinatra said, “People often remark that I'm pretty lucky. Luck is only important in so far as getting the chance to sell yourself at the right moment. After that, you've got to have talent and know how to use it.”
The best in the world know a secret that mere mortals have forgotten, that every moment is our perfect moment. And so we can spend a lifetime wishing for things to align themselves up with us…instead of working to align ourselves up with those things we want in our lives. We get effort and action confused. We spend a lot of brain power focusing on how to move something or how to be something and then never move to become it because we did all that work in our minds. We spent hours planning, and focusing, but then never took action upon all of that internal processing.
And so we live only in one of two world, the world within our minds or the physical world of our hands—never fully combining both of them together at the same time to the best of our ability. But when we can bring both of them together, that’s when the right moments begin occurring. And it will seem like coincidence or magic on how things are happening for you…when all it was, was you making your perfect moments instead of waiting for them. Because even a wrong action in the right moment is better than no action at all. And don’t get me wrong thinking I’m saying you have to be moving all the time. It’s really about bringing planning, focus, and action together to help you create better moments.
There was a TED talk given by Ruth Chang called How To Make Hard Choices. And she equated that the reason choices are hard is because we look at the answers as being one of only 3 outcomes better, worse, or equal. And so we look at two choices and have trouble deciding because how do you compare if you should marry Johnny instead of Joe, or how could you know if you’ll be happier being an artist or a social worker? And so she states we try to make our decisions based upon science, about quantifiable measures that will give a number value to each option that will make it easier for us to decide.
And so when two choices seem equally hard to make, instead of saying one is better, worse, or equal we can look at them as on par with each other. Ruth said that “when we choose between options that are on par, we can do something really remarkable. We can put ourselves behind an option. Here’s where I stand. Here’s who I am, I am for banking, I am for chocolate doughnuts, I am for… ”
And maybe it’s that simple; there’s no right answer. There’s only the values and reasons we put to choices that are on par with each other and we decide to stand for what means the most to us. We make a choice based upon our reasons that we most want to stand for in that moment…rather than being told who we have to be by society, by our mates, by our friends, or by our families. We make the choice to be the authors of our life story. We decide to be behind not what is better, worse, or equal to in our choice making palette…but rather we look at who we want to be, we look at the reasons we want to stand behind something, and then we make a choice knowing it will never be wrong. It will be the purposeful action of choosing what we value most, what reasons we want to stand for, in that moment.
The perfect moment is the moment we live in, and the right action will be the one we move towards; because even a wrong choice will bring enlightenment. Your time is now, not because you were lucky to fall into place at the perfect time but because you saw that in every moment…was your moment. The Universe will give you whatever you ask of it; it’s already giving it to you. Some just have forgotten that the Universe works like a boomerang. Every word we utter, every thought we focus on, and every action we take is a conversation with that Universe, and it is always returning what we put out into it.
So how intentional are you in your behaviors? How willing are you to change your mind about how you look at problems? What if you were to see two choices not as worse, better, or equal…and instead see them as on par with each other? And then what if you were to look at the reasons you would want to stand for that option…for you, and no one else? How different do you think you would live your life?
In each moment there’s the choice to either try to align things up with you—to force yourself into a box, or to affirm and stand for what you are and align yourself up with what you seek. I believe it’s much easier to align ourselves up than to try to force something to align itself up with us. The Universe will give us what we ask of it, but sometimes I think we get confused in asking for things that we aren’t aligned up with. So let’s turn the equation around and work from within…rather than working from outside of ourselves.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Go Watch Ruth Chang’s TED talk. I’ll have a link to it in my blog notes on my site. After you watch it think about two choices you might be struggling with, and ask yourself how you have been making it harder to choose?
I like how Ruth said to think of those difficult choices as on par with each other, and then find the reasons that you are more in line with—the reasons that you want to stand for.
For me I know I can have anxiety after making a tough decision. I endlessly question if I made the right choice, but when I get to thinking that way I’m not trusting the process. So, the next time you make a decision between two choices that are on par with each other… remind yourself that there was no wrong action. There were the reasons you decided to stand for…and that everything will always work itself out in the end. So, have faith in yourself and the action; and move forward knowing YOU are creating the perfect moments. You are living a purposeful life by deciding to live in anticipation and love of the moment instead of fear and regret during the moment.
This, Is My Moment
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#423 February 27th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Love
“When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred.”
~Thomas Jefferson
What you put into the world is what will be returned to you. We know this on a conscious level, but we don’t understand it on a subconscious level. It’s hard to really understand that the energy we emit is returned back to us in a magical way. That Universe is returning to us who we are in every moment. It’s a relationship that feels complex, that what is given is perfectly returned, and that seems so supernatural to us at times.
That’s why it’s so important to remember that principle, especially when we feel angered or wronged. Well, that’s only if we want to be freed from our anger instead of imprisoned by them.
On a physiological level when you are angry your brain will not properly access the frontal lobe. And the frontal lobe’s main process is to carry out higher mental processes such as thinking, planning, decision making, and judgment.
And by getting to know that mere fact has brought so much enlightenment in my life. Because when I was upset or angry I felt like something was shut off inside me. I felt negative thoughts racing endlessly in my head. I felt sluggish in my thinking. I didn’t feel like myself. And with anger it’s like trying to win a race you’re not even in.
When we are angry we want to let it out, we want to vent or maybe we want to ruminate over it endlessly wishing for the other person to feel our pains. But wishing for someone else to feel our pains only expands our hurt within. We want to heal by getting it off our chest and releasing that anger. So we want to vent to that person, to anyone who will listen to us, or have an endless loop conversation within our minds.
I was reading an article on health.com titled Things You Shouldn’t Do When You’re Angry by Linda Melone. She stated that “getting anger off your chest sounds like a good idea, but it may actually make matters worse. In fact, people who simply spent five minutes reading another person's online rants became angrier and less happy in a study published in the journal Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking. An earlier study also showed that venting anger by hitting pillows not only increased anger at that moment but made aggressive behavior more likely in the future.”
What the venting or the immediate aggressive action towards our anger does for us is make us feel relieved temporarily. But it doesn’t heal the process. I was reading a study a few years ago where rats who were being shocked would bite other rats to help them deal with the pain. And that’s what we do, we do ineffective methods to relieve our pain temporarily, while creating negative habits that keep us in anger longer.
So if you think about that for a moment, not only does venting make us angrier and more likely to express ourselves that way in the future, but it also affects the people around us in negative ways. I’m not saying we need to bottle our emotions in, but maybe venting has gotten more credit than it deserves. And if you think about a vent in your house, sure it pushes out or lets out air or gasses, but it doesn’t force out crappy air…unless it’s a bathroom of course. So our negative venting could literally be called crap.
I think there’s a fine line between venting to talk something out and then continual venting to stay within an emotion. I’ve been dealing with a personal issue that I feel sad about, and I’ve had the urge to vent and to express myself to be heard. Which can be a good thing, but I don’t want to put that out into the Universe—not because I don’t need to focus elsewhere than the sadness, but because if I vent I know I’ll want to vent to someone else…and then someone else.
For me, I’ve found I vent to stay within the emotion. It’s a way for me to justify how I am feeling and not change. It’s a way for me to stay in self-pity, and say poor old me, and then put someone or something else out there to blame.
I think it’s my way of stepping outside of hope. It’s my way of turning my back on faith and focusing on fear. I’ll look at the present moment with sadness and focus on doom as if it’s the end of the world…instead of remembering that everything will always work itself out in the end. If something is meant to be it will happen.
I internalize a lot of things and tend to ruminate too much on my problems. Which gets me caught in an endless thought loop that brings nothing but more frustration and sadness, not clarity. So sometimes I talk out loud to myself, so I can hear what I’m saying. And if it sounds crazy, I work to bring myself back to better feelings.
We have the tendency to take our problems too far and generalize things in our minds as we might say “no one loves me, everything always goes wrong in my life,” or “I am always going to be stuck here.” And when I’m having a conversation with myself and I say some of those negative generalizations, I will ask a poignant question… “Chris is that true? Is that REALLY true?” And if I’m willing to heal, I will say “no” and then talk myself back to more healthy thoughts and feelings.
I like to think of this saying during times of extreme frustration, “You won’t be punished for your anger, you will be punished BY your anger.” So while I have the choice to feel frustrated and uncertain within a moment, I am also reminded that what I put out into the world is not only what I create in the world, but it is what I create within myself.
And if I put more anger out into the world to vent, I am more likely to get into the habit of expressing myself more negatively in the future as well. So while I struggle with pain and frustration at the moment it’s only because I have forgotten one of my greatest truths…I am love.
And you…are love; we are love. We have been called by the Source of creation to spread more of what we were created from…love. So if you are feeling anger or frustration at the moment, breathe deeply, count to 10, count to 100, count to a million if need be and remember that you will become what you express. So if you want to bring more crap into your life and into the world then by all means focus on the negative venting you feel justified to do. But if you want to live in peace, harmony, and happiness then find ways to express who you are and always have been… love.**
Today’s Personal Commitment:
When anger consumes us, we make bad choices. But when we wish the best for people and for ourselves…we become love. When we want great things for everyone despite our pain, anger, or hurt…it frees us.
It’s not that you can’t get angry, or that anger is bad, or even that you can never vent. Anything can be good or bad…it’s how you use it. I think it’s really about becoming so aware in the moment; that when you feel your temperature rising, that pressure in the center of your chest getting ready to explode, or your blood boiling…that you take some deep breaths and count to 10 if need be before reacting. Because if we let our anger make the choices for us by flying off the handle or flying into rage and upsetness…then we are not only out of control, but we are also creating the pathway for our brain to continue these patterns. Which will keep us trapped within our negative emotions rather than being freed from them.
So what are some ways you can express more love in your life when you aren’t angry?
What are more ways you can focus and express love when you are angry?
And how do you think you can create better patterns to be in control of your negative emotions rather than be controlled by them?
Some examples I’ve used in my life to pivot from anger to love have been:
- -Going on a walk to have a conversation with myself
- -Counting to ten or a hundred to come back to being more rational and in control of my anger instead of the other way around
- -Going to the gym
- -If it’s an argument with a person…I work on doing one thing different to change where my mind is going. Which could be saying let’s go over here and talk and we physically move somewhere else to change the atmosphere, or it could be to stop trying to control the conversation and listen more, or maybe even saying something positive like “I respect you and I’m struggling here with anger let’s step away for 10 minutes and come back to discuss this when I am more calm and controlled.”
- -Reading positive quotes or poems that remind me about control, hope, and peacefulness
- -Saying affirmations.
So find your healing actions, and engrain them in your mind. That way the next time you are feeling pulled to the darker side of anger, you will have an arsenal to work with to help you win the battles you are fighting at the moment. Be love not hate, be love not anger, be love not upsetness, be love not frustration, be love not revenge, and be the warden of love not a prisoner to negativity. You are what you focus on, so where are you focusing on consistently?
I Am Love
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#422 February 26th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
My Disappointments Guide Me To Better Decisions
We must all suffer one of two things: the pain of discipline or the pain of regret or disappointment. Jim Rohn
I remember watching a comedy called Meet The Millers With Jennifer Anniston and Jason Sudeikis. It’s a silly premise where the main character creates a fake family to smuggle in a shipment from Mexico because he got involved with the wrong people and needs to correct his mistake. And the funniest part of the movie for me is when the fake daughter is hanging out with a tattooed boy who doesn’t seem too bright.
Jason who plays the fake father says to the young man sarcastically “hey those are some cool tatts man” and the young gentleman says “thank you bro” as he looks them over with pride and then the boy points to his arm quite beamingly and says “you see the cobra?”
And then Jason says “what’s that one?” as he points to the boy's neck. And the boy opens up his shirt, so you can see the tattoo better and he says, “that’s my ‘creedo.’ No REGRETS…” but he doesn’t realize it’s spelled wrong as it’s spelled R A G R E T S.” And Jason says back to the young man, “you have no regrets?” and the boy responds “nope.” Then Jason says “not even a single letter?” and the boy responds again “no way, not me.” And Jason finishes off the scene even more sarcastically saying to his fake daughter “I love him, he’s a real winner Casey.”
I’ll include the clip in my blog post on my site.
Every mistake, every disappointment, and every moment that we wished we could get back…they weren’t errors in our lives. They were chances for us to come to a higher awareness. I know it’s easier said than done to have no regrets, and I’m not saying we shouldn’t ever regret anything, but maybe we should look differently at regrets.
I love acronyms because they help me remember lessons better. I’ll give some famous acronym examples to help you get on my excitement for acronym bandwagon.You remember the frozen yogurt stores TCBY? Well, TCBY stands for The Country’s Best Yogurt. In fact, it used to stand for This Can’t Be Yogurt until they were sued by the company I Can’t Believe It’s Yogurt. Or another one you might not know is the word TASER, you know for the TASER gun, well that stands for Thomas A. Swift’s Electrical Rifle.
We could go on for days about acronyms we didn’t know about, but let's get into my acronym to remember how to reframe looking at regrets. The guilt we feel about something we wish we didn’t do will keep us from living our best lives in the present moment. So let’s reframe REGRET to help you heal from your past pains and begin living more within peace and joy for your life.
REGRET stands for
Realizing
Every
Goodbye
Resolves
Eventually
over Time.
Now I used the word “over” in front of time, so I hope you can forgive me for putting in the connecting word to help the phrase make more sense.
What I want to remind you and myself of when we say this acronym, is that all those bad things we’ve been holding onto…we’re saying goodbye to them. All those things that we’re upset about, all those pains that are hurting us in the moment and all the guilts we may feel will resolve themselves out over time.
And it’s not because we never think about our mistakes ever again, almost certainly to repeat them since we didn’t learn. But it’s that we’ve become more aware by saying the REGRET acronym when we are feeling regret. We say the acronym to awaken us to better ways of healing and learning from our mistakes.
The human will is a formidable force and when we keep moving forward knowing that every mistake is a lesson, and that every regret isn’t a goodbye to something bad, but a hello to something beautiful over time. Then we are eternally growing.
So think about it like this, you realize that your disappointments have guided you to better decisions…well hopefully. Some people choose never to learn, but we may have to go through disappointment after disappointment to finally engrain in our brain that this way isn’t working. And the more in tune we become with our intuition, then the more we will hear those little voices in our head, and those subtle cues in our body, warning us something isn’t right.
I was working with a life coaching student of mine, and at the end of our session I asked what we wanted to focus on for the next week, and she said…”I want to pay more attention to those little voices in my head that are telling me what I need to do at the moment.” She was burned out in her life and those voices would tell her what her mind and body needed. It was saying “take a nap, you haven’t eaten yet; you need to get something in your stomach,” or it might say “if you only spend a few minutes on organizing you won’t be so overwhelmed.”
She said that those small voices were the ones that when she listened to them, they always brought her to a place of balance. It was the good voice within telling her what she needed. And we do that a lot in our lives, we drown out that intuiton, and we listen to the more destructive voice inside. Or we drown out all the voices and just do whatever we feel NEEDS to be done by forcing things because we have so much left to do. So we try to cram it all in, and as fast as we can into one day.
Maybe if we listened a little more to our intuition guiding us…we might have less regrets. But if we can remember that a regret is Realizing Every Goodbye Resolves Eventually over Time, it will be a pathway to opens doors.
They say that for every door that closes in your life another will open. And it’s a nice sentiment to say, but when you are in the thick of things it can be easy to let anxiety grip you. And I could wave my magic wand and tell you I have the answer for everyone, but that would be a lie. I think it comes down to a multitude of things, but maybe it’s about finding something to place your attention on when going through hell.
Maybe it’s the smile of a loved one, or the remembrance of a good conversation with a great friend, or maybe it’s the calm knowing that your creator has something more in store for you. Maybe it’s a past triumph and you remember how great your body felt after that success.
So let us find a higher truth and know that the mistakes in your life weren’t meant to destroy, but to build you up and bring something better to you. I may not be able to look into a crystal ball to tell your fortune, but I think I can tell you your future right now. You have a great one ahead of you. There will bumps and bruises, but each one will be worth it as you get to know the amazing you.
So when going through your personal hells, remember to say the acronym REGRET out loud or in your mind, and focus on a past success or something you love. Because when it feels like that’s all you can hold onto…I think it will be enough.
And if you are going to regret anything, regret being regretful…ok that was stupid. Next.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Practice saying the acronym REGRET to yourself and see how it sounds. Maybe you might have a better acronym for going through a tough time in your life. SO see if you can create an acronym that will help you remember a better way.
And if you create a cool one I’d love to hear it and share it with the Strong Within One Percenters crew…that’s that I call you guys, my audience, if you didn’t know that.
My Disappointments Guide Me To Better Decisions
Meet The Millers “No RAGRETS”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rjkLKKgOMRY
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#421 February 25th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Kindness Is My First Language
“Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.”
~Lao Tzu
I’ve had the pleasure of meeting some amazingly authentic and kind people, and I’ve had the pleasure of meeting some major a-holes…and if I was being loving towards myself both would have the same effect on me. Meaning, I wouldn’t let unkind people get to me because I know there’s something more behind that wall they have up.
Sure I’d rather deal with kind people, but when we think of kindness we think about sharing it with others or others being kind to us. And we forget, that the greatest kindness is the one we direct towards ourselves.
I’ve always said that a world where people focused more on themselves would be a better world. And no, I’m not talking about self-centeredness, I’m talking about being kind to yourself and doing things that help you grow as an individual. For when you take time out for ourselves, when you purposefully work to be kinder to yourself, you become calmer, happier, and a more pleasant individual…because the hardest critic we will ever face will be the one in between our ears.
The Dalia Lama said his religion was kindness. What if that were our religion too? What if it were our main mission to love people no matter what…because we decided to love ourselves first. I’ve spent a good portion of my life spreading kindness and trying to love people to the best of my ability, even the a-holes. But sometimes I saw myself trying to love others so hard because I had so much trouble loving myself. It was my deflection tactic. If I focused more on others, then I wouldn’t pay attention to the negativity I used to harbor towards myself. I figured that if I could get enough people to love me, then I might feel better about myself. And it was a painful cycle that made me feel worse because the answers that I thought would make me feel better kept me feeling even more empty inside.
How kind are you to yourself?
Do you ever look in the mirror and say “Wow! You look good today. I hope you go out and do amazing things today!” Have you ever stopped to look at a project you’ve been working on and say great job and pat yourself on the back celebrating the small wins along the way? Have you ever taken yourself out to a movie, or a walk, or a place that you love just because you knew you needed someone to take you to a nice place you enjoy?
I think we spend so much time trying to make others feel good, to make others feel important and loved…that we forget to love ourselves. We forget to do the things we do for other people for ourselves. As we rationalize, that would be silly to take ourselves out because we believe that if we were worth it, someone would do it for us. Or maybe we’ve told ourselves the story that we’re too busy with everyone and everything else that there’s no time for us…and so we always come last in being taken care of, if at all.
Over the past few months I’ve been feeling this heaviness, this resistance, this resentment inside myself. And I could blame it on other people. I could blame it on those who took me for granted, I could blame it on those who took advantage of me because they only wanted my positivity or kindness in their life. And I could even blame the a-holes of the world who hate everyone. But the reason I’ve been feeling this heaviness, is because I’ve been giving from an empty cup. I’ve been giving in hopes of getting back what I was giving…and that’s a recipe for disaster because what we give is unique. So when we expect others to reciprocate our love exactly the same way back, that’s a surefire way to be disappointed. People need the room to love in their own way, and we need to respect that.
I want to ask you a question. Are you being kind to yourself first, so you aren’t having to look for that love outside of yourself? I know that’s easier said than done, but learning from personal experience, people won’t be there for you like you need them to be all the time. And one of the greatest ways to find comfort in any situation is to love yourself enough first before you go trying to spread every ounce of your love…to everyone else.
Now don’t get me wrong in thinking I’m saying love yourself and to hell with everyone else. I think with love it always comes down to the same answer: are you loving yourself and others in a matter that keeps you balanced?
Sure, there will be days where I’m giving more love and kindness out, and there will be days where I am working to give and receive more love towards myself. We construct ourselves to be more balanced individuals by becoming aware of those days, weeks, and months that we’re feeling more resistance or heaviness within…and then asking one simple question, ok maybe two:
- What’s going on?
- Am I trying to force things?
When I become aware of the resistance within myself, it brings up a red flag in my mind, which makes me pause and begin a self-analysis. I then begin going through a checklist in my mind by asking what’s happening for me to be this way.
When we become aware of those subtle signs in our minds and our bodies, we then begin changing not only a situation but the whole direction of our lives. Some people spend years living in their own personal hurricanes and rainstorms. And I know the world can be a hateful and mean place at times, but there’s always something beautiful going on that we can put our attention towards. I believe the best way to change a negative situation is to ask, “how can I love myself more through this?” And I believe you’ll find yourself not only feeling better by doing this, but you’ll find the people and the situations around you changing too. Whether that be by them leaving your life, or you changing them by changing your energy.
The times that I had the greatest energy, the most hope, and the confidence to tackle anything in my path…was when I was taking time to love myself; when I was taking time to be kind to myself. We cannot transfer what is not within us. So are you sharing kindness with others, by first sharing it with yourself?
Today’s Personal Commitment:
How kind are you to yourself?
Do you deliberately take time out to do nice things for yourself?
I think we get so caught living in a world of doing, as we trap ourselves within the daily hustle and bustle of life, that it can be easy to take for granted what self-love can do for us.
Maybe you’re good in this area, but in my experience, I’ve seen a lot of pain and hurt come from not loving ourselves. When people hurt us, it’s easy to lash out at others. And I believe taking out our frustrations on others happens more frequently when we weren’t comfortable in sharing consistent kindness within ourselves.
Because if someone wrongs you, sure it may sting, but someone who’s loving themselves to the best of their ability won’t take it as hard…because they’re getting the love they need already. They understand people are dealing with their own demons and the hurtful action had nothing to do with them—it was just a reaction of what the other person was dealing with.
So this week, I want you to write down three things you’ll do purposefully to love yourself a little more. Maybe it could be something as simple as reading a book you’ve been putting off because you’ve been too busy. Maybe it’s going to the movies alone, so you aren’t worried about someone else liking the movie or not, or whether you chose a movie they would’ve preferred. Maybe it could be going for a drive in your car when you need a break to blast the radio and sing at the top of your lungs where no one will judge you.
You decide, but I think it can be fun to take yourself out. It’s fun to be kind to others, but it’s even more fun to share kindness when we have shared kindness with ourselves first.
Oh and when you go on your self-date, shoot me an email to tell me what you did. I would love to share those ideas on another podcast to give people inspirations for their own self-dates. You are pretty dang sexy, you deserve to take yourself out on the town. So shoot me an email at chris@strongwithin.com as I’d love to hear about all the things you learned from doing something specifically…just for you.
Kindness Is My First Language
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#420 February 24th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Choose Efficiency Over Perfection
“Some people mistake grit for sheer persistence - charging up the same hill again and again. But that's not quite what I mean by the word 'grit.' You want to minimize friction and find the most effective, most efficient way forward. You might actually have more grit if you treat your energy as a precious commodity.”
~Reid Hoffman
I work to teach people to be more efficient than to be better. It’s not that good is bad, or that you shouldn’t work to achieve something better in your life. But it’s those terms that are subjective to whoever’s saying them. One person’s good is another person’s bad; and sometimes when we are consistently looking to become better, we burn ourselves out from never being satisfied. We are always trying to achieve just a little more and never stopping to celebrate our small wins. We can mistake being better as beating our head against a wall harder. And it can be a slippery slope to get caught in the idea that whatever we do will never be good enough…and that’s a tiring way to live.
So instead of only being good, or working to be better what if you were to look at being more efficient. When you’re working towards a goal, what if you were to ask yourself how can I be more efficient in reaching this goal? While that can seem like a subjective term, being more efficient helps us to be awakened to be more deliberate in what effectiveness looks like. Whereas good or better don’t really have measuring sticks, it’s just about trying to do something more and hopefully being successful. Efficiency makes us be more deliberate, as we are asked to be awakened in our lives.
Perfection is a plague, and it affects all of us some of the time, some people more than others. And the idea of perfection cripples us when we are trying to obtain it because it’s unobtainable. This point makes me think about a comic strip I used to read called Mother Goose and Grimm. The best part of this Sunday comic strip was the dog, Grimm. Grimm loved to chase cars, and in one drawing I remember he was all bandaged up head to toe chasing a car in a wheelchair…and the lady in the passenger seat of the car looks back and says “Boy that dog never quits.”
I always remember him chasing cars and smashing his nose in when realizes it’s parked. Which I found hilarious, and still do…as you can tell I’m easily amused. But we are like that dog, endlessly chasing one parked car after another. We run into that parked car trying to catch something unobtainable and when we see that the car isn’t perfect and it didn’t have what we were looking for we chase another parked car, and another. We endless pursue the goal hoping we can reach it, but no matter what’s in that car we’ll never be satisfied because the goal is always changing…and it will never be good enough.
And I believe one great way to fix our obsession with chasing the unobtainable (besides imagining ourselves chasing parked cars) is to forgive ourselves.
You aren’t going to know everything, you aren’t going to be Superman or Superwoman 100% of the time to everyone, and you aren’t God all knowing and all powerful. We all have limitations, and when we forgive ourselves for having limitations, we begin being more efficient in our lives. We become efficient in making ourselves and the world around us healthier.
And to be healthy within our mind and bodies is to know what’s important to us. I’m a people pleaser. I want to do anything for anyone because I love helping people, but also it was a self-esteem thing for me too. Because if you are saying yes to everyone, then they can’t be mad at you right? But you can’t be everything to everyone, and if you’re chasing perfection and always saying yes, you’ll be failing more times than you’re helping. Because everything you say yes to is something else you will have to say no to. And most times you will be saying no to yourself and be getting burned out and resentful from not being able to set clear boundaries for yourself.
It’s ok to say no, it’s ok to not be everything to everyone. Because really what we want to do in life is do whatever we do…well. But if we’re trying to do it all, we began doing it ALL… poorly.
You are going to fail, I am going to fail, so wouldn’t you rather fail at things you choose to pursue? Wouldn’t you rather get better by learning from those mistakes in pursuing what’s important to you? And don’t you want to have more energy for yourself and the people around you so you can actually achieve goals instead of always fizzling out from burn out?
You can do anything you want in this world, but most of us are trying to do it all at once. So when you forgive yourself and understand while you might be Superman or Superwoman… you can’t be that for everyone all of the time. So find what matters to you, find ways to fail and learn from your mistakes, find more ways to say no to the things you don’t want to do so you can say yes to the things you do want to do, and love yourself by knowing that you really never wanted to be perfect…you just wanted to be efficient at whatever you put your effort into. And when you focus more on efficiency than perfection, you can stop hurting yourself from chasing parked cars.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What are you endlessly pursuing that’s wearing you out? What are the things that are stealing your energy, what people are wearing you down, and what habits would you like to leave behind?
Change seems hard because we want to do it all at once. We go on a diet and we want to lose all that weight as fast as possible. Or we want to win the lottery rather than save and invest efficiently. It’s rare where I hear someone say “I want to do it slow and the right way. I want to be challenged.”
And maybe those statements might sound silly to some people, but when you have to work for something…when you have to toil and be deliberate about slow change…you create lasting change.
So write down all your energy stealers from habits, to people, and to pursuits…and ask yourself if you can either leave some of them behind or if there’s a way you could be more efficient in your pursuit? It really all comes down to choice—what matters to you most, and what you’re willing to let go of to get closer to your worthwhile goals. Doing something well but falling many times is better than doing something right and never reaching perfection. When you prioritize efficiency over perfection…you will always come out ahead.
In fact, I had a long and hard day today. I’m worn out, and I felt this was a crappy podcast and I need to re-do it or spend more time fixing it…but I was like “you know what…good enough is good enough.”
I am my hardest critic. I know I have some great podcasts, and I know some will fall short of that…so I am leaving behind perfection right now and working on being efficient to go and enjoy my Friday night. Thank you guys for reminding me…you guys are teaching me something every day. Thank you.
I Choose Efficiency Over Perfection
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#419 February 23rd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Keep My Eyes Straight Ahead
“The man who can drive himself further once the effort gets painful is the man who will win.”
~Roger Bannister
In the mid 1900s, there was a story that began circulating in the running community. The world record for running a mile at the time was 4:01.4 seconds—a record that stood for nine years. And so a mammoth story was born that it was impossible for any human to run a mile under 4 minutes. One reason records weren’t being broken was from World War II interrupting people training or focusing on sports.
A man named Roger Bannister began his running career in 1946 at age 17, and even on a light running schedule compared to other runners, in 1948 he was considered for joining the Olympic team, which he turned down because he felt he was not qualified to compete at that level yet. And after watching the 1948 Olympics, that set his resolve to make it to Helsinki, Finland in 1952.
In the 1952 Olympics, the race he competed in was the 1500m (the equivalent of .932 miles). Roger was disappointed as he finished fourth…thus not being able to place and win an Olympic medal, but he did set a British Record in the process of that race.
After his setback in 1952 Bannister began to question whether he should continue his running career or give up, and he decided he was going to be the first man to run a mile in under four minutes. So he began training harder, as his previous training regimen was quite light to other distance runners in his field.
On May 6th 1954, Roger reached his goal as running a mile in 3:59.4 seconds.
And only 46 days later a rival of his, John Landy, surpassed the record.
On August 7, 1954 a historic race was set to take place as Bannister and Landy were set to race each other in what was deemed the “Miracle Mile” race. The reason the race garnered that name was because the only two people to run a mile in under four minutes ever we set to race against each other.
Landy was in the lead for most of the race until the last bend when Roger passed Landy and never gave up his lead. And later on both runners admitted the reason Roger took the lead was because when Landy was looking over his left shoulder to see where his followers were Roger blew right past him on his right side and never looked back.
The story of Roger Bannister comes up in a lot of self-development books or speeches about how a belief can determine what we do with our lives. A paradigm shift happens, and what was once deemed impossible is now within reach with alarming breakthroughs from many other people.
After Roger beat that impossible record, the next year four other men had run a sub four minute mile and the year after that 4 more to make it a total of 8 doing what was deemed impossible.
And I want to bring up the Miracle Mile race one last time to display a point the reason Bannister won was due to not worrying about who was behind him. Which makes me wonder how many times we have sabotaged ourselves worrying about other people’s progress by taking our focus away from our own efforts.
So question, where is your nose? Is it in someone else’s business, or is it only in your business? You will not go far by measuring yourself to what others are doing. Yes, we can always benchmark; but a good portion of the time when we look back, it’s to see how hard we should be going. Instead of living your life dictated by how hard other people are going, work to go your own pace, work to go a little further for yourself each time. Don’t judge your merit or your effort by what another person is doing.
We go to our jobs, our schools, or even our family life comparing what others are doing and then falling into place with that standard. We cripple our progress by looking for a norm, looking for what’s acceptable, when we should go all out creating our own standards. And if we settle for average, we will be left wondering why we always feel so unfulfilled.
There was a story told to me about teachers who were told that the new class coming in were students who needed to be challenged because they were smart. And if you didn’t ask more of them, or expect more of them, they would get bored and slough off in school. What the teachers didn’t know is that all of these students were below average students. And so the teachers made sure to challenge and believe in these students more than anyone had believed in them before…and you know what? All of these kids got better grades, in fact they as a whole became part of the top percentile of students in there districts. These kids were no longer failing out and doing poorly in school. In fact, they enjoyed that someone cared enough about them to ask more of them.
So are you asking enough of yourself, or are you falling in line with what’s expected? One pathway will lead you to being comfortable and being hidden by the pack of everyone else…and the other way will help bring a fulfillment you’ve never known.
What if you decided to focus less on what others were doing, and you decided to focus on what you were capable of? How different would your life be?
Today’s Personal Commitment:So, the question is begging to be asked…what are you capable of?
And if you aren’t reaching your capabillities, why?
As with Roger Bannister, breaking the old myth of what was humanly possible, was because he set his mind to making it happen, and then kept his eyes forward in his pursuits. What are the myths you’ve been holding onto for the things you desire in your life?
And what are you willing to do to make your goals and dreams a reality?
I believe two crucial questions need to be asked to become the people we want to be:
- How organized are we in working towards our goals
- And what’s our pain threshold?
Greatness comes by being deliberate in working towards something, and it also is reached by stepping out of our comfort zones. It doesn’t have to be huge leaps at one time either. Vincent Van Gogh said, “Great things are done by a series of small things brought together.”
I sent out a newsletter to my Strong Within subscribers... As I have decided to call this community the Strong Within One Percenters…so are you willing to be one percent better than you were yesterday? Are you willing to lean forward just a little more in your efforts? I hope so…And if you would like to be part of The Strong Within One Percenters go to my site www.chrisohearn.com and sign up for my newsletter. It will inform you of all the things I will be up to in the future. If you’re on a computer you will see a pop up come up when you go to the URL box. And if you are on a cell phone just click on my daily affirmations page at my site and then click the orange box that says subscribe.
Thanks for being a part of my life guys. I am excited to see how all us One Percenters are going to change the world together.
I Keep My Eyes Straight Ahead
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#418 January 22nd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Constantly Nudging Progress
“Progress lies not in enhancing what is, but in advancing toward what will be.”
~Khalil Gibran
I came to an epiphany today, which reminded me that I’m more appreciative when I’m in pain. I’m more aware of the things I miss, of the things that are great in my life, and of my place in this life because of pain. I think it is easy to get caught in the misery of life looking at what isn’t going our way and to feel alone in it all. And I won’t sugar coat it; you are alone, but you aren’t alone all at the same time.
We go through our pains, and we go through our struggles, saying that great people were tested like no other and they were self-made in their successes. And so we build upon an island stranding ourselves on it, feeling like it would be bad to ask for help or to let someone know we are struggling. But hiding our pains keeps us trapped in our pains. I believe in looking to find the great in everything, but I also don’t believe in hiding your pain. We should talk about our pains, and then find ways to move from them.
In my life coaching practice, I’ll listen to people’s problems so they can get them out, but I will not be a sounding board for them to stay in their problems. We as humans have lost focus, as we get trapped in talking about problems and looking for answers, instead of looking for solutions. I know that sounds like semantics, but it’s a different energy to look for a solution than to be looking for answers to problems. It’s a process of bypassing the source that’s shorting out our growth. I think of it like a wire that’s frayed. Some people will only put electrical tape over frayed wire hoping that helps and maybe that’s all that needs to be done in some janky way, or some people will cut the damaged part and re-connect the wires and then put on the electrical tape.
Now some may say, why didn’t you just replace the whole wire, but if your life was a wire, you wouldn’t replace the wire, you would find a way to fix the wire properly. And for a good portion of my younger life, I had a fray in my wire as I kept telling a faulty story about myself. I believed I was a burden, and that God made a mistake in my creation. And when I kept telling that story it was hard to create a life I was in love with—because whatever I did to try to change it, wasn’t going to help. It’s not that there was something wrong with me, there was something wrong with the way I was thinking about myself, so I had to bypass that faulty wiring and create a new bond, so I could snip away the faulty thoughts in my mind.
And I think we make change hard because we are trying to jump from point A to point B in one fell swoop. We are trying to get to the finish line as fast as possible, instead of taking small consistent steps that bring on more lasting change. Think about it this way, if you had a goal such as losing weight do you think you would reach your goal by having one very strict diet day out of 7 days, or do you think you would be more successful making small consistent changes daily?
Progress is like a door hinge—for a door that is moving, the hinges never corrode. So when you are moving with consistent gradual steps, you are breaking the rust off from your life. You are shedding the burdens that have been holding you back because you have decided to be more open, rather than closed off to change. You have decided to be continual about your movement, and you have decided you were better in motion rather than to continually tell stories about why you are stuck, or how you can’t have nice things, or why you are unlucky in whatever area of your life.
Who we want to become is in the small moments. It’s in the times when you wake up and decide to have a love for the day instead of disdain for doing things you don’t want to do. It’s in the times when you stop to really look at your partner and be appreciative for the beauty they bring into your life, as you let them know how grateful you are for them. And it’s in the times before we go to bed and ask ourselves what was great about our day, and what would we like to improve from the lessons in our day.
Change isn’t a bang, it’s a small nudge. It’s the process of us leaning more into something and asking ourselves how we can make our forward lean a consistent part of our day—a consistent part of our life. It’s the habit of taking those small consistent steps so much that it would feel unnatural to not be leaning forward, to not be nudging and encouraging ourselves to see the light in the day instead of focusing on the darkness; it’s the process of leaving the stories behind that are hindering us and learning to lean more towards the ones that remind us how beautiful and fragile life is. Through pain comes wisdom and appreciation, but true growth comes from continually nudging ourselves towards progress.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
How could you lean a little more into the beautiful things in life today? Sometimes pain is the greatest alarm clock…but let us not get stuck there that we become numb to the fantastic things in our lives. So let’s make this an easy challenge today through awareness.
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-What are the pains that you’ve been holding onto lately, and how can you refocus it into seeing a better story?
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-And last question, what are the beautiful things in your life you’ve been taken for granted? What are the things you want to stop missing out on in your life?
And after you answer that last question…do something about making those things or people know they are an integral part of your life. So go live, and be in joy with them. Go and tell them how grateful you are that they are in your life…whether it be through kind actions or genuine words reassuring them how much they mean to you.
I Am Constantly Nudging Progress
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#417 February 21st The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Find Wisdom Thru Silence
“Silence is the sleep that nourishes wisdom.”
~Francis Bacon
A westerner came to a Zen master to learn the ways of enlightenment. As the teacher invited the visitor in to sit down, he placed a teacup in front of his guest and began pouring tea, and after the cup was full, the master kept pouring as it began overflowing.
The teacher just kept pouring as the liquid began flowing onto the floor; the visitor became impatient and said “Stop! No more can go into that cup; it’s full.”
The visitor felt proud at himself for seeing what a Zen master could not.
The teacher then spoke and said, “you, like this cup are full of your own beliefs and assumptions. How can I teach you unless you empty your cup?”
One of the interesting things I have found out about Zen is it teaches without having to be taught. We try to theorize and tell what certain stories mean, which can be a good thing, but the most powerful lessons are the ones we come to on our own. It’s like the joke that you don’t have to be told what it means, as you naturally laugh at how simple it is. And that’s what I believe Zen’s purpose is…to be so simple that sometimes the meaning gets lost in seeking for a deeper answer.
There’s a term in Zen tradition called wu wei. Wu means “without” and wei means “to do” or “to act.” So the literal meaning of wu wei is, “without action” or “without effort.” And sometimes it is said to be wu wei wu, which means action without action.
My greatest epiphanies, the greatest wisdom that I’ve been bestowed, came from my wisest teacher…silence. In the hardest times of my life I had to learn how to be one with silence, so I could empty my cup. Because during those times, my mind was filled with many emotions that literally clouded my judgment and clouded the peace I was so desperately seeking.
We spend so much time searching for answers outside of ourselves, running our mind rampant like a computer hard drive endless buzzing away trying to solve the problem. And thus we trap ourselves within the noise of our mind, never finding what we seek.
I walk every day to help clear my mind, and ever since July 18th 2015 I have walked 947 days to date…or two years seven months and one day. On my walk I listen to podcasts, audiobooks, and I sometimes call friends. But I really decided to do my daily walk outside, come rain, sleet, snow, or shine so I could stop spinning within my mind to calm myself. And so I made the purpose of my walks a time to be able to pray, meditate, and find peace within silence.
There was something so beautiful when I turned everything off and just found myself present in the walk. I breathed more deeply, I looked up at the sky and marveled at its seemingly endlessness, and I connected with my spirituality more. Maybe it might sound strange, but I was taken somewhere else, as I left the physical plane of just being me, and I was connected with everything around me. And during that time, during those hard times I was going through in my life, I was whisked from pain and struggle into peace and tranquility.
I found answers without seeking answers, I found calm without seeking calm, I found myself again without realizing I was so desperately seeking to know myself again. And knowing what I know now, I believe I had come to wie wu wei…I had found my answers in action without action.
There’s a soundtrack all around us that we are missing. We are caught in a time where it’s never been like this before. A time where you can watch almost any tv show that you want at any time and even pause it the middle if you desire, where you can listen to any song you like as many times as you like, where you can look up any question and find an answer within seconds, where you can relisten to radio shows at your own schedule, and where even books are read audibly to you when you want. And these are beautiful things, as it’s a time where anything we want to know is literally at our fingertips.
But I believe we’ve traded in wisdom for knowledge as we want to know all the facts…when the facts are only a partial source to our healing and full knowing. Thomas Carlyle said, “Silence is as deep as eternity, speech a shallow as time.” So are you listening to silence with the vigor that you would when listening to a master teacher speak? Are you emptying your cup so you can be open to deeper knowing? Are you finding peace within nothingness…knowing that there is something within that nothingness?
Those who have come before us may not have had Google to answer all their questions at hand…but they had something better as they were able to tune into the Universe’s computer and know a wisdom that is pure and timeless…and we can get to know that place, if only we learn to empty our cups and find a way to become one with silence again.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What do you think about silence?
That’s a weird question. I had never really thought much about silence except when I wanted people around me to shut the heck up. I wanted my peace and quiet. But I had to go through the hardest times in my life, to accidentally stumble into the power of silence. Two years ago a very hard situation in my life happened and so I decided to direct my attention away from misery and put it to good us. I wanted to start a podcast, and write a book and actually finish it and publish it this time, so I created a routine to help me take breaks from the writing and brainstorming. I believe it was an act of divine intervention when the answer just popped into my head. I decided I was going to walk a mile outside every day no matter what the weather was.
I did it to prove how tough I was and that I wouldn’t be deterred by anything, but I did it to help me get away from my mind of the misery I was going through at the time. And something magical happened as I stopped trying to do something, and I found myself becoming one with the universe around me. And nature spoke back to me as grasshoppers encircled me in droves on some days, or how the sunrise never looked the same, or how I stopped trying to define myself by where my skin ended and the air around me began.
Your way to peace and finding your answers will be different than mine. It might be in meditation, walking, hiking, doing a hobby that relaxes you, or some other avenue that helps you to find a quietness around you and within you. I don’t have your answer, but I can promise you this…when you are consistent in seeking silence and you find that place you can connect to silence…you will be taken to your heaven. It’s a place of answers, it is a place of immense beauty, and it is a place of calm reminding you about the purposes of your life.
So how can you create time to become one with silence, and how can you make it a habit to continually seek the wisdom within silence? And when you do this, you will never be the same.
However, it will be a continual search, as humans, we are quite forgetful. And when I ask myself why am I feeling resistance, why am I so stressed, a vision comes into my mind as I visualize myself walking outside. Because over the past 2 and half years of doing my daily walks I’ve had the time to think about a lot of things. I’ve had time to wrack my brain until it couldn’t think anymore and it submitted to silence…and that is where I found my peace. My silence is the Universe speaking to me. My silence is walking with God. Your silence may be different, and that’s perfectly ok.
So where do you find your silence? Sometimes we need a tragedy to help us stumble into silence, but it’s my hope that you find your way to it before then. Because a tragedy is no time to start preparing to do the work. A calm life is built by readying ourselves before the storms hit that will inevitably come our way in the future.
I Find Wisdom Thru Silence
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#416 February 20th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Centered By Being At Peace With My Past
“I don't have mom issues or dad issues. I think I have found peace about many things in my past. I have forgiven and asked to be forgiven.”
~Xavier Dolan
A great swordsman wanted to make amends for the killing he had done over his lifetime. He was considered the best swordsman alive, and so people came near and far to fight him and beat him so they could gain the title. The swordsman did whatever he could to not fight as he’d use sticks, brooms, umbrellas, trash can lids, cooking pans, and even his hands. He knew that if he used a sword, it wouldn’t be a good end for whoever he faced.
He no longer had resorted to defeating people by killing, and to draw a sword would only end in the sword needing to complete its mission of savoring blood. Peace came from the swordsman in knowing that he didn’t have to defeat anyone, it was about forgiving his past, and making amends in the present to be the person he wanted to be.
Are you at peace with your past? I know that sounds like a straightforward answer, but it’s a deeper question that I think takes time to dig into. I believe that any resistance I feel is from not being at peace with something. When something doesn’t feel right, it’s a chance for me to question why am I feeling this way. Why is my stomach in knots, why is my head hurting, why are my shoulders tight, why does my body feel so sluggish right now?
And yes there might physical reasons to those ailments; such as we might have worked out, or we pulled a muscle, or been in an awkward seated position for awhile…but our body, mind, and soul are giving us physical and emotional signals all the time. We’ve gotten in such a hurried manner by being so busy in our lives that we’ve been missing those crucial signals trying to awaken us. And over the years we get numb to the signals and think it’s just a normal part of life.
All those signals are letting us know something isn’t right at the moment; something is out of alignment. And when we don’t listen to those signs, we are destroying something within ourselves. We are destroying our happiness, we are destroying our peace, we are destroying future opportunities of abundance; all by not listening to the signs that are being sent to us whether physically, mentally, or emotionally.
I’ve talked about resentment a lot lately, and it’s because when I have it within my heart it’s gnawing at my soul; it is gnawing at my peace and happiness, as it’s like that sword wanting to taste more blood and destruction. And to take that feeling of resentment and break it down, it comes from the story we are telling ourselves about what happened. It’s a perception about how we are experiencing something, and when we feel hurt it’s easy to put the blame on other people to make them out to be the bad guy. And maybe they did mean to hurt us but when we hold onto resentment for whatever happened, it isn’t hurting the other person it’s only destroying us.
And those things we hold onto, those stories we tell, we think are things protecting us. We use them as mechanisms to deflect us having to do the harder work and trying to fold it into an easier answer. I know personally how it’s much easier to go into self-pity, it’s much easier to make someone else the bad guy, it’s much easier to find resentment for things not working out how we expected…than to tell a different story. A story that helps us create peace in our lives.
I’m not saying that we ignore people hurting us, but most people in our lives aren’t out there trying to purposefully hurt us. But if there are people out to purposefully hurt us, it’s from behaviors they learned long ago that they think will help them survive in their world. It doesn’t make it right, but when we stop putting the blame on people hurting us and decide to tell a story of being in control, then the peace in our life changes. You see, it wasn’t about them doing something to us, it was us deciding how we wanted to feel about it and move on in a way that was healthy for us. And I’ve done a lot of unhealthy things in my life like hold onto pain, resentment, hurt, revenge, or whatever negative emotion I could utilize because that was easier to do than to say I was in control of how I wanted to feel.
And as I said earlier, living with that pain and resentment, only keeps you in misery. And it keeps you actively destroying small pieces of yourself over and over again stealing the peace and calm you truly desire. And peace all comes down to two things:
- What story are you telling about the experience?
- And then choosing to live in the story that brings healing instead of living within
The choice is ALWAYS yours. And to live a life that matters, to live a life that feels good most times—is to choose to know you are always in control of how you want to feel…about anything.
Today’s Personal Commitment:The most crucial question you can ask is, “is holding onto this more important than…?”
Is holding onto this more important than being at peace in my life…is holding onto this more important than the happiness in my life, is holding onto this more important than being able to move forward to better things in the future? Because holding onto the pain and resentment will only bring one thing, more of the same, and it will kill the opportunities of having a better future by living in the past of your pain.
This is about making peace with your past, making peace with people, and making peace with yourself. Because what we hold onto is actually holding onto us. Because what we hold onto that doesn’t feel good is what is destroying us. We have become our own swordsman killing more and more parts of our happiness in every moment.
And to believe more in pain, chaos, and resentment is to not have faith in anything but misery. Natalie Cole sums it up nicely I think… “I had to make peace with my past because I can't change it.”
So let us do what we can by changing our present moment as we focus on healthier ways of living. Because if you think about past resentments you held onto years ago, most times you’ve forgotten about it, or it worked itself out. So by holding onto that negative experience, we are receding the process of healing to keep us trapped longer within our pains.
If you are feeling out of alignment, write down what resentments or pains you’re holding onto, why you are holding onto them…and ask yourself two questions:
- Is holding onto this more important than having peace, love, joy in my life?
- And if it isn’t how can I pivot from my pain into focusing on a better way of looking at it and dealing with it?
I Am Centered By Being At Peace With My Past
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#415 February 19th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
My Focus Dictates My Future
“Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.”
~Pope John XXIII
Who we become is not determined by who we are, because that is a faulty question in itself…and the reason I say that is because you were created to do impossible things. The mere fact that you are still breathing, that you still are moving, that you are still thinking—means that your possibilities are limitless.
We are beings with free will, with choice, and we have the ability to get better at anything we decide to put our time and attention to. I think it was Einstein who said something like ‘anyone can get great at anything, just for some it takes a little longer.’ And if something is important to you in obtaining, you will be willing to put in a longer amount of time if need be.
I am a proponent for speaking and thinking towards the ideas of who you want to be one hundred percent of the time. For when we keep our attention on where we don’t want to be it’s easy to get trapped in thinking that’s where we belong. Life is a game of cat and mouse or hide and seek. And it’s not that you are running from your fears but it’s that we have to choose not to live in them.
And people might say I’m anal when I talk about how we speak…but the more we speak something then the more our subconscious hears it and learns it, and the more you think about it the more you download it into your system. I know it seems illogical because we decide where we want to be, and most of those negative thoughts are just brief thoughts… right???
Maybe; but how many brief thoughts happen over and over again and build upon each other where it just becomes natural to think and see things in that negative way. And if you still don’t agree with me think about a business’ review or comment page. People are more likely to complain about bad service than to praise good service. We think that good service is a natural by product of the business and it’s what’s expected. But it took deliberate effort on the business’ part to make your experience happen a certain way.
Yes there are unmotivated employees and bad companies, but an effective business works to make sure that you as a customer is thought about in every step of the process. And this may be getting off point a little bit here, but I want to talk about kindness to the people within certain places.
Whenever I’m dealing with a call center and someone is kind, patient, and helpful to me I always ask if I can speak to their manager…and I’m sure the service person starts sweating thinking oh no another customer who you can’t make happy. And when I speak to their manager I let them know it’s not a bad call, but it’s to commend their employee on how great they were with me.
I’ve been in the service industry for most of my life and I know how people can forget the effort you put into making their experience a good one. And for me even if the work was subpar, I want that person to know that I noticed them and I wanted them to have a better day…even if it’s just thanking them for their time and wishing them a great day ahead.
But the point I’m trying to make is that it’s my hope that my kindness will change that person. It’s my hope that that person will think more highly of themselves and that people are watching and noticing them. It’s my hope that they take that knowledge and don’t stop at giving the bare minimum the job requires, but to go above and beyond because it’s now a part of them. Now I know I can’t change anyone, but I think I can be the spark, or the catalyst, to cause a chain reaction towards a better change.
Your life is the sum of your thoughts, the sum of your actions, the sum of what you speak…which is ultimately the sum of what you believe. Your beliefs will dictate who you think you were, who you think you are, what you think you can do, and who you think you can become. And a belief isn’t a finite substance…it’s the small things we do in every moment that will lead us to a certain outcome. So when we keep looking towards impossibility, and when we keep finding ways to see the negativity and prove it in our lives…we will find that we begin to make that our home.
So today let’s, you and I, make a commitment to seek a higher truth. Let us look to find the possibility in so-called impossibility, let’s look to find the beauty in the so-called ugliness, let’s look to find power from our so-called weakness, and let’s make sure to put our one hundred percent focus on not only seeing what we want to see in life, but then following through to create it. The world around you, is not dictated to you…it’s determined by you. Because when you think about it…the mere presence of you is a fact that a miracle is happening, and when you think that way…then every problem is one more opportunity to live better.
Today’s Personal Commitment:I get it, it’s hard to focus one hundred percent of the time on what you want. It’s easy to look at what’s going wrong, it’s easier to see the people who have wronged you as you live in resentment because of it, and it’s easier to notice why things don’t work out for your life like you’d hoped they would.
But when doubt the power we have in our lives by focusing on untruths in our words, actions, and thoughts…then we get trapped in misery. We get stuck within a dungeon that is not ours.
So I have a few questions for you:
How did you start your morning? Do you go through the routine of what you normally do, maybe even wishing you could go back to bed; or were you excited that you could make this day whatever you wished it to be?
Did you speak with kindness towards yourself?
Did you speak with kindness towards the day?
Did you speak with kindness towards others?
And did you speak with hope and possibilities for the day ahead?
I get it, you might be saying that I’m a dreamer focusing on the impossible…but that’s because you are looking microscopically. What if you started with one little thought on what was possible, and you continued that thought a hundred more times, and then a thousand, and then a million. Sure some will say that you’ll be let down by getting your hopes up, but I say you will begin changing because you decided to put your attention to the possibility of things rather than the impossibility of things. That’s the only way I’ve seen people make change; by focusing on where they would like to go instead of staying focused on where they don’t want to be.
And hear me clearly, I said FOCUS. We need to look at problems to see what we don’t like, so then we can pivot to looking at where we want to be. So looking at the problems can be good, but it’s a fine line between looking, and looking too long and focusing on them.
So what is one way you can focus differently today? How can you say this affirmation more times today, how can you see more possibility in the places you feel stuck in, and how can you continue to do whatever positive thing you chose today…even when you don’t feel like it? Which gets me thinking about the movie Rocky IV where Sylvester Stallone is tucking his kid into bed at night and his son asks if he’s ever scared…and he tells his son:
“Well the truth is, sometimes I do get a little scared. When I’m in that ring and I’m really getting hit on, and my arms hurt so much I can’t even lift them, and I’m thinking god I wish this guy would hit me on the chin so I wouldn’t feel nothing anymore. Then there’s another side that comes out that isn’t as scared. It’s another side that wants to take more; wants to go that one more-round. Because going that one more-round when you don’t think you can is what makes all the difference in your life.”
So I’m challenging you let that other side come out, not the side that wants life to punch you in the chin so you don’t feel pain anymore, as you go that one more-round…and to continually choose to go that extra round every time because it will make all the difference in your life.
My Focus Dictates My Future
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#414 February 18th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
New Opportunities Excite Me
I hope that in this year to come, you make mistakes. Because if you are making mistakes, then you are making new things, trying new things, learning, living, pushing yourself, changing yourself, changing your world. You're doing things you've never done before, and more importantly, you're doing something. Neil Gaiman
I was discussing with a friend of mine years ago. I said that I hated breaking up with people because then I have to go out and do it all over again. I was comfortable with how things were, it wasn’t scary, I knew the person, I knew what I liked in them, and they knew me. And when I was meeting someone new, you’re trying to figure out who they are, what they like or don’t like, and you’re trying to read between the lines to see if they’re being truthful in talking about the angel they are; or whether they actually are a homicidal maniac.
And my friend replied back, that he loved new relationships. He said it’s exciting getting to know someone. It’s exciting doing something new. It’s really cool expanding his knowledge in talking with someone new. And he listed off like ten reasons; he must have been thinking about that question for awhile. Which gets me thinking about successful people, in whatever area of their life they’re successful in, it’s not an accident they’ve thought about what they want, they’ve planned for the obstacles and wins along the way, and they’re deliberate with focusing their mindset upon success and nothing else.
So my friend and I were seeing the same event…differently. He saw it with hope and excitement; where I saw it with disdain and resistance. I can’t speak for my friend on the deeper reasons behind his explanations on why he loved new relationship; but for me, the reason I saw new relationships as pain was that it was scary for me. It was another person I would go out with, who had the chance of leaving me and rejecting me again. The rejection is what I feared the most—that I wouldn’t be good enough….again.
I’ve struggled with relationships because I’ve been telling a story for a good portion of my life. I’ve been telling the story that whoever comes in my life…leaves me. And seeing things that way not only creates sadness, fear, and resistance…but it attracted more fear in my life. When one area of our life is malfunctioning, it affects every area of our life. And when we ignore the problem and sweep it under the rug thinking it’s better to avoid it, that problem will rear it’s ugly fire-breathing dragon head somewhere else one way or another.
But I’m digressing away from new opportunities. The only way I could find peace from my fear of new relationships was to become a monk and live in a cave away from society…and that solved all my problems.
But seriously, I had to tell a new story. I had to realize that I wasn’t afraid of new relationships; I was afraid of connecting with the wrong people. And thinking that way kept me living within a lie, as I told myself internally that new relationships are painful. In fact, it went deeper than that as I told myself that ALL relationships are hard work and painful as everyone leaves anyways, so why bother.
And coming to realize this is the story I was telling, that awareness began changing my life. I’m not saying I was fully healed by snapping my fingers, but I am learning to love myself more before jumping into a relationship in hopes that someone will heal me…because the only way I’ll be healed is if I decide to heal myself first. My mentor Mike told me that to be one with another, you must be one with yourself first. We must strive to be whole with ourselves first, so we aren’t looking for other people or other things to fix us.
For me I would go into relationships broken, hoping that person would be the answer. When it’s not that the person was the answer, but they would help accentuate the great things within me, and I would help accentuate their great things within them. But the start of that process has to begin with healing from within first.
It’s like the movie Jerry MacGuire where he the main character tells the leading lady, you complete me, and all the ladies swoon after he says it. And it’s a nice sentiment thinking that someone will make us whole, but the only way we become whole with another person, or even that goal we desire that we think will make us complete, is we become whole with ourselves first.
When we understand we are whole already, then we will know that the external goal or person will never complete us; they will help accentuate our happiness, our gifts, our love, our weaknesses, our strengths, and our completeness on a whole other level. Yes, people can make us better, but they don’t make us whole, we decide to be that. Again, to be one with something or someone else, we must first be one with ourselves.
Today’s Personal Commitment:So I took this in the direction of relationships, but how do you look at new opportunities? Are you excited because you hate the old, are you excited because you see great things in new endeavors, or are you fearful and/or resentful because with new opportunities comes change?
It’s raining here in Tennessee, and it’s supposed to rain more throughout the week, as it rained a good deal last week too. And on social media I see people complaining that they are over it. Not realizing that it still is February, which means it’s still winter and it could be colder and more miserable. But instead, they want to complain about the current condition of what they think they don’t want instead of seeing the beautiful opportunity within it.
I believe the reason we miss so much happiness in our lives is because we don’t plan to be happy. We think it’s something that just happens when the conditions are right, and when they fall into place… THEN we’ll be happy. So we focus on what’s wrong in the situation, never realizing how we are stealing our own joy away from ourselves; we never realize that we’re missing a beautiful moment wishing for something more than what’s happening right now.
Sure, I get it…people love the sun. But when the summer comes they’ll be complaining it’s too hot and how they can’t wait for fall, or winter, or snow, or a different place altogether. So do you see the beauty in where you are and find the magnificence in new opportunity? Do you plan your happiness every day and make it a priority, or do you look at what you don’t like and find all the reasons this moment isn’t what you want?
What’s the story you’re telling in your life right now? Is it focused on fear of the future, regret from the mistakes in the past, sadness of what you don’t have, or maybe even the issues with the present moment at hand? Or do you find beauty in the moment, no matter what’s happening, as this is another chance to find new opportunities in this beautiful new day at hand?
The completeness you seek is not outside of yourself; it’s always been within. And it’s not that I am saying put on rose-colored sunglasses loving the things you hate…it’s that I am asking you to look at what you love and find more of it in the moment.
New Opportunities Excite Me
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#413 February 17th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Rest Purposefully
“It's so great to find that one special person you want to annoy for the rest of your life.” ~Rita Rudner
Guess what, you guys are my one special persons???, my peeps, my crew, my spiritual gangstas, my brothas from anotha motha, my sisters from another mista, my friends, my community. So I hope you don’t mind if I do like Rita says and annoy you for the rest of my life 😉 We got a long haul of great things ahead for us.
I know you have been putting your nose to the grindstone this year. You have been pushing yourself harder to your goals, and I can feel how tired you are. I feel it myself. And if you feel bad because you haven’t put in the work you wanted…don’t. Because that…is the past, and right now is the chance to take a different path. It is the choice to step away from feeling sorry for yourself and to purposefully decide to move towards the actions you want to take in becoming who you wish to be.
So whatever side of the fence you’re on, we need to purposefully rest. I believe that whether you’re hustling hard, or feel bad about not hustling hard enough…both can be on the same path of burn out. The reason I say that is because we are always judging ourselves on if we’re good enough, if we’re working hard enough, if we’re doing enough…and whether you’re putting in the work or not…your mind is still processing it as not good enough, and so you never relax.
I’ve spent so many years never relaxing, never centering myself, because I was always thinking about what I should be doing. And so when I would get back to work, I’d be tired because even when I tried to rest I couldn’t. I wouldn’t allow myself to do it. There was always something to feel guilty about not doing. There was always one more thing I could have done.
We live in a world that’s led by comparison. We see where our friends are in their lives and then judge ourselves on whether we’ve made it to there level…or even if we are better than them as a source of self-esteem. We look towards people we want to be like and constantly compare how we aren’t good enough, and if only we had the talents they did…then maybe we could make it look as easy as they do. And so we are always burning ourselves out ,never being happy with ourselves.
I believe we should always be reaching further than our grasp, but we also should learn to be kind to ourselves in our pursuit of betterment. There’s only one you, and there’s only so much you can do with your resources.
I’m not saying that you can’t do anything; I am saying we expect the impossible from ourselves as a way of sabotaging ourselves. We look at someone’s chapter fifteen and compare it to our chapter one. And so we find discontentment in who we are, and our place in life, which brings the self-fulfilling prophecy to life as we tell ourselves, “see I told you that you could never be as good as him, or her.”
So I’ve gone further into this thought then I wanted to. I just really wanted to give you permission to relax. Sometimes we just need someone to tell us it’s ok to take a break. So wherever you are in your pursuits…whether you’re burning the candle on both ends, or you haven’t even started—I’m giving you permission to take a break for yourself; to stop beating yourself up for a moment, and to relish in the quiet solitude of being you. You are a miracle, no matter what you’ve done in this life. The mere presence of you is a beautiful mark upon this earth. So let us be kind to ourselves a little more, let us allow ourselves to relax from time to time to center ourselves…as even batteries need time to recharge, and let us love our place in life as we reach just a little further every time…knowing we are worth the effort to ask for more of ourselves.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Instead of me giving you a challenge…let’s do a guided meditation together. So feel free to do this how you like, have your eyes open, closed, sit up straight, or stand up straight.
Think about a string that’s connected from your head to your butt and like a marionette puppet you place your hand above your head and pull that string as you physically lengthen out your spine.
{MEDITATION}
I Rest Purposefully
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- Stream Noise by Caroline Ford (c) copyright 2010 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0)
-Crystal Bowls 6 Bowls Repetitive by Gary Rosenberg (c) copyright 2015 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0)
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#412 February 16th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Believe In Myself
“When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't.”
~Thomas Edison
A salesman heard a story about a powerful magician being able to grant people their wishes. And as of late his miracle health products weren’t selling like they used to. So the salesman decided to find this magician to see if he could help him change his luck as of late.
The salesman traveled many days until he finally came to a medium sized home that the locals told him where a great magician lived. As he entered the building, the gentleman inside asked what he had come for. And so the salesman told him his dilemma of not being able to sell his products anymore. And the salesman asked if he could help him.
The magician said, “ I am Merlyn the Great. I can help anyone who has a desire to be helped.”
Merlyn asked to see one of the salesman’s products and asked him to sell him a bottle. And so the salesman did his normal routine. Merlyn took the bottle after the salesman finished his speel and put his eye close to examine the yellow/golden liquid inside more carefully. He made a few hmms and ahhs after looking at it and then downed the contents of the bottle in one gulp.
Merlyn began squinting his eyes and made a smacking noise with his tongue on the roof of his mouth. He put his hand on his chin and looked up as was silent for a few minutes after tasting the product…and finally he said “Ahhhh, I know what your product is missing. I have just the magic ingredient in the back that when mixed with your product will grant anyone their truest desire.” And so he asked the salesman to give him all his bottles so he could fill them with a drop of his magic elixir to make the salesman’s current product more powerful. Merlyn told the salesman to make himself comfortable while he took all the bottles into the back room to work his magic.
After about 10 minutes the magician came back with all the bottles filled as the golden/yellow elixir before was now a clear liquid.
Merlyn said to the salesman, say this incantation to anyone who takes this potion:
“A powerful potion this be here,
As it will make what ails you disappear,
Say out loud your truest desire,
But before you drink to acquire,
You must feel that truth within your heart,
Before the magic can start.”
And so the salesman left. And about a month later he came back and told the magician his potion had worked.
Curious, Merlyn asked the salesman what was his wish? And the man told Merlyn he had two wishes. The first was to be a great salesman like he used to be, and the second was that he could help people reach their truest desires like Merlyn had done for him with this new magic potion.
Merlyn smiled, and said “I am glad you found your wishes within that potion.”
The salesman asked what the secret was, but Merlyn only said, “a magician never reveals his secrets.”
The salesman asked for double the amount of potion this time. So the magician took all the bottles of the old product of yellowish/golden liquid, and went into the back room like before as he told the salesman to make himself comfortable so he could put a drop of magic potion in again. And after about 20 minutes Merlyn came back with an even more beautiful clear liquid that glistened like nothing else the salesman had seen before.
This exchange happened between the salesman and the magician for many years as the salesman became wealthy in all avenues of his life. He had all the money he could ever want, he was blessed with more happiness and joy he could ever have wished for, he had helped many people reach their goals with this magic potion, and he felt successful in whatever he put his efforts into.
The salesman felt himself nearing the end of his life, and so he made one final trip to thank the Magician and to ask one more time if he would reveal his secret.
Curious, Merlyn asked the man how the potion helped him? And the salesman replied that before he gave a bottle to anyone who had purchased it he repeated the incantation Merlyn had taught him years ago. And he recited it back to Merlyn…
“A powerful potion this be here,
As it will make what ails you disappear,
Say out loud your truest desire,
But before you drink to acquire,
You must feel that truth within your heart,
Before the magic can start.”
And the salesman asked one more time, “Merlyn I can’t go to my grave not knowing what was in that potion.” And so the magician told the salesman that every time he went in the back to mix a potion, he actually went out the back door. He dumped out all of the old contents in the bottle and filled it with normal drinking water from his well.”
And the salesman said, “so you had blessed your drinking water and that’s what made it magic?” And the magician chuckled and said, “no, the only thing magic that I gave you, was the belief that you could do whatever your heart desired. And by waiting to drink the water until you could feel that belief in your heart was the power. There was no magic in that bottle, the magic was always in you, and the magic was in helping people believe the magic was in them too. The bottle was only the vessel to help you begin thinking differently about your desires—less as dreams, and more as certainties.”
The greatest lies ever told, are the ones we tell ourselves every day. They are the stories we make up about why we can’t, why it would be too hard, why it’s not worth it, why we aren’t worth it, how we don’t have enough money, how we aren’t lovable enough, how we could never be strong enough…and I could list, as you could as well, all the reasons we can’t have what we want in our lives.
The small so-called seemingly truths start out subtly with how it would be nice to have or to be able to do something…while inside we believe we could never make it happen. It’s too far out of our reach. We say that it’s meant for other people and not for us. We say that those lucky people have a magic potion, and they have special talents and skills that we don’t have. And we finish those lies off by saying we weren’t meant to have that one thing we desire in our lives. And so that subtle lie we tell ourselves over and over again becomes a huge cloud looming over us…darkening our lives with shadows of stories telling us why, what we want would be impossible.
We look for magic, for the easy answer outside of ourselves—never realizing the magic has always been within us.
The greatest reason I’ve been held back from what I wanted in my life was not because I couldn’t do it, but because I believed I couldn’t do it. And business has been my arch nemesis as I told stories to myself of how I wasn’t good with money, how I’m not a good businessman, how some people have those skills of entrepreneurship and I don’t. And so I not only created resistance and that actual outcome in my life…but I attracted those outcomes into my life as well. I was a magician in my life, but I was a magician of negativity bringing darkness and powerlessness into my life…instead of seeing that I could create positive magic. And that magic wasn’t in a potion, or something outside of myself…it was always within me.
And it was what Merlyn had told the salesman to say before taking the potion …
“A powerful potion this be here,
As it will make what ails you disappear,
Say out loud your truest desire,
But before you drink to acquire,
You must feel that truth within your heart,
Before the magic can start.”
The bottle is us. The old bottle held a murky impure liquid of doubt, lies, and pain from not seeing our true potential, but by purging those things, and making your beliefs crystal clear and pure again…you will realize that you aren’t drinking magic from outside of yourself, but you are drinking the power already within yourself.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Ok I made that story up tonight, on the fly..so if it was pretty lame, I hope you’ll forgive me as I want to get better at coming up with good stories in these podcasts. I hope to get better at making analogies besides always telling my normal day to day activities…I mean who wouldn’t want to know the secrets of a magician, right???
So, what if you were to think of yourself as a magician. Ask yourself if you’re spreading black magic, darkness and negativity into your life and into the world? Or are you using white magic? Are you spreading positivity of belief in yourself out into the world, and are you helping others to believe in themselves with the magic you’re sharing?
We all are magicians in our lives. We are making our wishes come true when we understand that the bottle is us, and we just need to purge the old contents that are keeping us trapped, and to fill ourselves up with a better belief within our hearts.
Now I know some people might have issues with me talking about magic and magicians and say I am talking about the satanic things, I hope that’s not how you take it… and some will say this message is too touchy-feely, and that I’m claiming that all you have to do is believe. And that’s half true. Because we do have to believe to change our outcome, but our belief has to turn more into a knowing that what we set our mind to we will make happen. Magic is happening every day in our lives…it’s just whether you are going to decide to be a creator of powerful positive empowering energy…or whether you are going to do what you’ve always been doing—continually spreading negative dark energy into the world—as you continue to lie to yourself about how you can never be or have what you truly desire.
I Believe In Myself
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#411 January 15th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Listen When The Universe Speaks To Me
“The gigantic tension before the shooting of an arrow, and the total relaxation seconds later, is my way of connecting to the universe.”
~Paulo Coelho
I recently did a podcast on freeing ourselves from resentment, and the funny thing I was tested immediately on that affirmation. When you become more intentional about how you want to map your life, you’ll see that the Universe will be working with you. It’s not that the Universe wasn’t helping us before, but it’s that our eyes weren’t open, and it’s that we weren’t open or as receptive to hearing another way besides our own.
And so after my podcast, the Universe began immediately asking how serious I was about being free from resentment—by challenging me. The specific people who rub me the wrong way, those exact people I was thinking about when I did the podcast, found their way into my life in a manner that was more excessive than normal. And something different. I’m not saying they were changed, but I was changed; and my energy brought different responses on their part…and it brought a different response within myself.
I still felt my normal habit of wanting to gravitate towards being annoyed by them, yet I felt a calmness in me to stay the course of being free from resentment.
We are challenged every day, we are put to the test by the Universe asking how serious we are to our commitment. And there was a determination within me to be free from the weight I was carrying from my resentment. So the Universe wanted to help me by seeing how committed I was to that change.
That’s the beautiful thing about affirmations, I’ve found the more I practice them, the more I say them with purpose and intention, then the more I’m challenged by the Universe. And when that happens I could be upset, but when I am centered, when I am balanced…I see it for what it is…the Universe heard me…and the Universe is helping me. Most times it’s not exactly how I thought it would happen. And what I mean by that, is we see ourselves being helped in the most comfortable of ways. We see our prayers being answered immediately. We see ourselves winning the lottery of everything we ever wanted. We see things coming easier to us.
But it’s my hope we both decide to see it differently than our wishes coming easy to us. It’s my hope that we wish to be better and that the harder things don’t affect us like they used to. As we opt out of whining when we’re challenged, and instead we welcome and love the challenge before us. And like any beautiful gem, it doesn’t come out of the ground looking pristine, it gets formed through extreme pressures, and it becomes more beautiful thru extensive polishing.
I’ve seen it time and time again in other people’s lives, and I’ve felt it in my life many times as well; where I was serious about a goal, but I wasn’t serious about hearing the Universe’s answers to my request. I wanted my goal, when I wanted it, and exactly how I wanted it. I was willing to work hard, but I wasn’t willing to be tested in how the Universe was planning on challenging me. And so I floundered, and I put in hard work, but I never progressed fully.
It’s hard for us to hear the truth about a goal, that maybe we really didn’t want it bad enough, or we weren’t willing to put in the hard work for it. But it’s not that we didn’t want it bad enough, we wanted it…but we only wanted to achieve it our way. We didn’t want to hear the Universe and the plans it had in helping us. And I think that reason is because we want to be in control.
So we go about our lives asking everyone under the sun, who has what we want, how they got to where they did. We want to hear that silver bullet answer on how easy it was for them so we could have it be easy for us too. We want a nice tidy answer on how to get to our goal, but the only tidy answer I can give you—is to find more ways to listen to what the Universe is telling you.
I get it, it’s hard to hear something you’re unsure is even talking to you. And I know for me, I’ve spent more time wishing for my goals to be more one dimensional rather than multicomplex in listening to the signs and miracles around me. I would’ve rather put my head down, tied my eyes up in a blindfold, and put my nose to the grindstone working only in the physically realm…because it was easier for me to only work in what I felt I could touch, in what was tangible. But over the years of seeking better ways, there have been too many coincidences for me to keep my eyes closed in how the Universe has been continually communicating with me. And when you open yourself to hearing the Universe, you will be challenged differently.
A friend of mine sent me a text and asked me if “I believed in signs, and if the Universe puts stuff out there that says ‘here dummy, I’m trying to tell you something?’”
And I replied back “yes, I do believe in signs and that the Universe is always communicating with us.” And I then asked why she asked me that question out of the blue.
And she responded back by saying, “Well, a couple of times today that I've been out driving I've gone the way I usually do… because of habit and familiarity. Well, two of the roads were closed, and of course there were detour signs. So first I got mad, and I was like, this is the way I always go, and now I have to take a detour. And then it just sort of hit me. Maybe this is trying to tell me something. Maybe I need to stop traveling the same way in life just because it's habit and I'm familiar with it. Maybe I need to take a detour and try a different way.”
The detours in our lives aren’t always stop signs. The detours in our lives are the Universe communicating with us. And like my affirmation I spoke yesterday in saying how committed I was to being free from resentment…the Universe was saying…”ok, how committed are? Are you really ready to do this? Because if so, I’m going to start working on you right now. I’m not testing you, but I’m helping you. I’m polishing you into the finished product that you wish to be…but you’re going to have to trust me, and those detours that I’m putting up aren’t to deter you…but to change you.”
The more aligned you get with the Universe then the faster the Universe will respond to you. And I’m not saying that I have it all together and figured out, but in my resolve to be free from resentment…I was tested that same day, and then the next day…and I’m sure I will be tested again. I believe there are no coincidences….there’s only the Universe answering what we are putting out into it. So let us affirm what we want for our lives…and then let us have the resolve to stick to our commitment by listening to the Universe and being open to whatever it brings our way.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What detours are happening in your life right now? And what if you were to analyze them for a moment. Are they stop signs, are they yield signs telling you to wait a little longer before jumping in, are they u-turns letting you know you’re way off course, or are they turn signals telling you to take another path at the moment?
We spend so much time forcing our way through things that we miss the signals and the conversation the Universe is trying to have with us. Yes, sometimes we need to run full steam ahead breaking down any wall that gets in our way, and sometimes there are those subtle hints and signs telling us to do something different. The Universe is always communicating with you, the only question now is…are you willing to stop and work to be a better listener to what the Universe is working to tell you?
The Universe is always helping us to affirm more concretely by LIVING what we think and say we want. And so let us be reminded that what the Universe is bringing our way is not a curse, it’s not a problem, it’s an answer.
I Listen When The Universe Speaks To Me
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#410 February 14th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Free From Resentment
“The worst resentment that anybody can have is one you feel justified to keep.”
~Louis Gossett, Jr.
Happy Valentines day everyone…and if you hate this holiday because you feel you have no one to love you…just know you will be my valentine, as I’m going to love you.
And on that note of love…let’s talk about hate:
Is there someone who gets on your nerves, and they don’t even have to interact with you, just seeing them or the thought of them gets you all riled up?
Why is that?
Why do we allow people to steal our joy? And I just realized what I said, I said “why do we allow people.”
People don’t do anything to us, we decide how we allow them to rile us up. The control is never up to them…our control is given up to emotions that make us feel powerless.
Emotions like anger, sadness, resentment, jealousy, and other such reactions become our masters as we allow our joy and calm to be caged up. The feelings we want to feel are never taken away from us, but it’s rather we lock them away. We delude ourselves thinking someone or something made us feel or act a certain way. Which is probably because it’s easier to blame someone, than it is for us to take ownership in how we feel 100% of the time.
And today a lightbulb came over my head when I was driving home. There are certain people who drive me insane. Their energy and how they treat me rub me the wrong way. You know those type of people who won’t say anything to you unless you say it first. You know those type of people who act all nice to you only when they want something from you. You know those type of people who have a bad attitude about everything around them and make sure to let everyone know it as well. And yes, I am generalizing as they probably aren’t in a bad attitude all of the time…maybe only 99.99% of the time.
And if you’re like me, you’ve been here many times before where in your mind you make excuses for them. You justify their behaviors reasoning about how bad their life must be, how hard they’ve had it, or how they have a lot going on in their life that we don’t know about. And maybe you feel pity for them because it must be hard living in the pain that they’ve chosen to trap themselves in.
But I’m tired; I’m tired of making excuses for people being rude, mean, and ungrateful in their lives. I’m tired of people not seeing me as a person and treating me unkind or with disdain because of our energy conflicting. And today I decided to stop making excuses for people, and I decided to love them…silently. I stopped making stories up about them being great people and how they’re just having a hard time. And I decided to see them as they are, with no ill will in my heart towards them. I decided to let go of my resentment towards them because it was only hurting me.
And you know what? I felt a huge weight lifted off my shoulders, I felt my mind a little more free, and I felt more energy within me.
Now I’m not saying that we can’t reason in our mind why people are the way they are. We don’t know people’s pains, and we don’t know their coping mechanisms they utilize to push others away. So if it helps you to love someone to tell a story of how they’re hurting, then do it. For me, I’ve been doing it for years, and it works sometimes, and sometimes I just get tired of their consistent negativity and hatefulness…and it takes energy to keep telling myself the story of how great they are when I don’t feel that way in my life about them. And so I decided to stop making up stories, and to let go of my inner anger towards them.
I was wasting energy trying to force a story, and it was wearing me out. I’ve come to the realization that I won’t reach everyone, and it’s not my place to change everyone. It’s only my goal to reach those who want to be reached…and some people will take longer to reach. But it’s not my mission to change those who don’t want to be changed. I pray to have an open heart, to free myself from resentment, and to be here to help any way that I can.
So I’m not giving up on people; I’m giving up on keeping resentment in my life. I’m giving up on trying to make people something they’re not. I will love them, and I will hope for the best for them, but I ‘m too tired putting energy into people who only drain me.
So if you’re feeling drained too, let’s make a promise to each other…let’s pivot from resentment from whatever is draining us in our lives, and let’s choose to create peace in our lives. For me, the people I’m talking about have done nothing to me; well, besides be who they are around me.
I’ve allowed myself to be reactive, and powerless, as I’ve allowed my emotions to control me. So I am choosing to pivot from resentment, into love of life.
In the old story, I tried to make it all about them, to focus on them…to force my love towards them. It drained me to put all my attention to that thought or task, and so I’m widening my reach of love to everything.
I’m going to love myself a little more by releasing the anger and resentment, as I focus on peace and love. I’m going to love them more by accepting them as they are, and I’ll be here if they’re ever ready to see life a different way. And I’m going to love the world a little more by putting more of my energy into it…instead of being so blind trying to help only one person who doesn’t get along with me. I’ve tried to make my peace, and that’s all I can do. I’m releasing resentment, so I can hold onto love of all the beautiful things around me that I’ve been missing by keeping my area of focus so narrow.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What’s draining you in your life right now? For me I needed that time alone in my car to come to my aha moment. So maybe it will take a little time in figuring that out for yourself. So I am challenging you to take to the task of finding the energy sucking people and things in your life. This week take notice and keep asking yourself how I am feeling right now? And if you are feeling worn out and drained…ask yourself why.
Keep note of your energy “suckers” and come back to look at them at the end of your week.
The reason we don’t change our ways is because we are always trying to fix something, we are always trying to do a new way, we are always looking to add that silver bullet into the mix that will fix and change everything. But I think there’s something more powerful that’s missing before we go towards a true and lasting change.
And that thing is asking…what is the old story I was telling? Your mind is like a film reel. We keep coming back to the same ending because we are playing the same movie reel, the same footage, and yet we are expecting different results. But if we look at the old story we’ve been telling of why we are powerless, of why we allow our emotions to get the best of us…then we can begin doing something different. Knowledge is only half power; knowledge with action is power.
So what’s the old story that’s keeping you stuck? What’s the old story that keeps bringing you back to ideas, people, or things that drain you? Until you label the story and begin to see it for what it is, it won’t matter how many new things you try because you will continue to keep playing the same movie reel in your mind. So, become aware of your old story first, and then put in a new reel to change the ending.
I Am Free From Resentment
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#409 February 13th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Prepared For Anything That Comes My Way
“Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means.”
~Ronald Reagan
We live in an aggressive world. If you want something, you have to fight for it; you have to put on your armor and go to war. We use different language on how we pursue things, but when it all comes down to it…we are endlessly fighting life aggressively:
- As we wage war on drugs, cancer, addiction, obesity, or the current political candidate, etc.
- We talk about fighting the clock of old age or impending deadlines looming over us
- Maybe we might say my boss is out to get me, everyone is against me, or the devil is nipping at my heels everywhere I turn.
- Or maybe it’s our own excuses for why we can’t be who we want to be as we blame our conditioning from our parents, our teachers, or that evil piece of chocolate cake calling our name every night…
Now I’m sure you could come up with your own reasons why you’re at war daily. And this is not to say that some of those things can’t be real, but our demons will be of our own making. Yes, I know some people have been through hells I can’t even imagine, and I’m not minimizing their experiences. But what I am hoping, is to help people liberate themselves from their wars.
While painful, scary, and evil things can loom within the physical realm; some people will be broken by them, while others will become better because of them. And why is that? Is it superior physical strength, is it superior mental strength, or is it the luck of having a strong spirit within? I don’t think so. I believe it won’t hurt to have those things…but some of the strongest people I’ve come to know had a mental resiliency about them. They had an attitude of knowing that whatever happens to them they can come out the other side and be better because of focus.
My mentor Mike told me that how we experience things is up to us. So we can go through an emotion of pain for a moment, or we can go through it for the rest of our lives; the choice is ours. Yes, there’s physical pain, there’s mental pain, and maybe even spiritual pain. I’m not saying we can avoid pain altogether, but what I am saying is how long we decide to suffer…is up to us.
Suffering’s a choice; it’s a choice to continue to look for evidence of more pain in the present moment than to look for healing. And it’s easier to find suffering within pain, the real test is to find peace within your pain. The real test is to find ways to move forward when you feel stuck. The real test is to find life when it feels like it’s the end.
Quitting is easy, and we don’t see how much we let it affect our lives. We think quitting is only when we physically give up when we’ve exhausted all of our efforts. But a resilient mind doesn’t quit; it’s always looking for a way to view something better. It’s more than a will to survive, as survival is an instinctual reaction to find a way out…any way possible. But mental resiliency takes a different mindset than survival, as it’s about finding peace, love, and hope in any situation…rather than just getting through it. It takes a strength of never quitting, it takes a strength of being more creative in finding another way, and it takes the strength of belief in yourself when it would be easier to give in or give up on yourself. Because sometimes survival isn’t about making it through, but more in taking an easier road when we feel stuck.
The people we admire, the people who have what we want, or are doing what we want don’t come to their fortunes by chance. They’ve come to it with a resiliency to push past the pain, to become stronger mentally, physically, and spiritually…well hopefully. Some people win by cheating…but they don’t win in the long run. And you and I aren’t in this race of life for the short haul, we are in it until the end.
There’s a quote I like that says “go the extra mile; it’s never crowded there.” It’s easy to see the finish line and sprint for it, but the finish line isn’t our end goal. We let people influence us by telling us what’s important. It’s that shiny object we thought that would give us what we wanted. That new car, more money, that new house, that new relationship…but the getting of the thing is the start of the process. It’s about how you keep the things you seek. Because any fool can achieve something without really understanding the commitment involved in keeping it long term.
And I believe a fulfilling life isn’t in what we receive, but it’s in being prepared for whatever comes our way. And if being prepared for anything is one of our main goals in life, it won’t matter what we gain, or what’s taken away, or whatever devil comes our way—it will be the knowledge that the goal wasn’t the reward…it was the recognition to ourself to be tested and to come out the other side better because of it.
What if you shifted your focus away from fighting to have something, into allowing yourself to achieve it? What if you stopped trying to force yourself to the desired outcome, and you decided to be engaged by the obstacles in a healthier way? Because the only obstacle in your way is yourself—and the best way to win a war is not to be in one to begin with. The best way to create a fulfilling life is being prepared for what comes your way—by choosing not to suffer anymore but to free yourself. It’s the journey of focusing on finding ways to enjoy your life positively, and then helping others to do the same too.
Our happiness, our hope, and our victories are everyone else’s too. When you understand you aren’t fighting a war, you will engage things differently. And as my mentor Mike said, we can choose how we want to deal with our emotions. We can suffer for the rest of our lives by giving in and saying our mental fortitude isn’t resilient enough, we can go about our lives only trying to survive…reacitng to every situation holding on for dear life…or we can find better emotions and ways to live our lives in EVERY moment…not just when it suits us.
It takes a lot of energy to wage a war on everything that puts resistance against you. I think about martial arts, and how some forms practice the art of transferring their opponent's energy back at them instead of fighting against them. When we are aggressively fighting everything that pushes back, we not only attract more aggression into our lives but it becomes our standard operating procedure.
Think of yourself as a manager, and every obstacle that you butt heads with you is one of your employees. Do you think a successful manager would fight every employee? Probably not, unless this manager was Bruce Lee of course, but they find a way to work differently—to work with their employees instead of fighting them. Now, sure the manager could fire each employee thus not having a company anymore, but I think there’s a better way than fighting. You are the author of your life story; you are the screenwriter of your movie. Are you going to be an action star beating everyone up in the end never really making any progress and probably dying a bloody death at the end? Or are you going to be the wise sage who doesn't fight with everything but finds better ways to move about their life?
Today’s Personal Commitment:How we engage energy is how energy will continually come into our lives. Maybe this might be difficult to think about because fighting back is what we’ve been taught—to fight back against what we don’t want. And I think we need to take a stand for the hard lines in our lives, but I also think there are better ways to engage things that seemingly engage us.
In nature a flower doesn’t fight back against the storm by getting rigid, it learns to sway with it, so it doesn’t snap at its stem. You can fight the universe all you like, but I’ll guarantee you won’t win. It has more patience than you. So think about the things you are fighting against in your life, and ask yourself the question of what if you were to do something different what would that look like? How could you go about this better…how could you be better at war by not getting into wars?
I don’t have the answers for you, but I think there are different ways we can go about finding those answers. If we only know one action—engagement head on—you will be a General within an eternal war losing overtime because you never learned to adapt appropriately.
I’m challenging you to to be prepared for anything by transferring energy better rather than fighting head-on against it every time. So write down the battles you’ve been fighting so hard against…and losing, and ask if there’s a better way. Write down your answer and write down how you plan on taking action and then following through consistently.
I Am Prepared For Anything That Comes My Way
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-408# February 12th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Say Yes To Great Opportunities
“I imagine that yes is the only living thing.”
~E. E. Cummings
That’s a pretty powerful quote when you think about it, and usually the simplest things are the most profound. What I heard when I saw that quote is—there is ONLY life in yes. And if No is the opposite of yes, then “no” is lifeless.
But how can that be, because “no” is an answer in helping us describe what we don’t want? And I wouldn’t disagree with you, but I think there are better ways to focus—then on the word “no.” In my life coaching practice, I talk about focusing on what we want, not on what we don’t want. With the law of attraction some people claim that the Universe cannot hear words that focus on lack—so words like “no” or “don’t” are ignored by the Universe. However, those words can have power over us…because if we focus on lack we will get more of what we focus upon.
So when we say things like I don’t want to be fat, I don’t want to be poor, or I don’t want to be alone—the universe negates those words we send out—and in this case, it erases the word don’t. So the Universe, only hears you saying I want to be fat, I want to be poor, I want to be alone and will continue to send out that energy to you.
That’s why E.E. Cummings quote was so profound for me. It reminded me about the power of our word choice, and it got me thinking about babies. Have you ever heard a baby who only says “no.” It makes you really think about how you speak to your children. Kathryn Perrotti Leavitt from American Baby wrote an article about how to discipline your baby better during certain ages in their life rather than by using the word “no.”
“From birth to 15 months you distract the baby from the forbidden toy or activity with a more appropriate one. From ages 12 months and up you utilize modeling by helping the child to do something more appropriate with a forbidden object. So if the child is hitting the kitty, you would show the child how to pet the kitty nicely. And from toddler and up you put their booty in time out.”
I spent a lot of time in time out myself. It helped to calm me down, but it was probably more for my mom so she didn’t murder me. In Ms. Leavitt’s article, she said something interesting. She said “of course, many of us merely say no when we catch our kids getting into mischief. Your child knows by the tone of your voice that "no" means something different from "I love you," but she doesn't understand the real meaning of the word.”
So we aren’t expressing love as much when we take the easier road of saying “no” to our children. And that’s what the Universe is trying to teach us as well. There are better ways to get what you want instead of focusing on the lack in your life. And like a baby who is wreaking havoc in your world, it’s not because your child is trying to test your patience, but it’s what Ms. Leavitt says is that your baby is exploring cause and effect.
And if we are like babies, we are throwing our words and actions around in our lives hoping for them to work someday, never really understanding that the Universe is modeling a way of life for us. It’s showing us a better way to focus and live…if only we stop trying to force things from focusing on what’s lacking, and instead learn to see the infinite power and abundance in our lives. And Mr. Cummings quote reminded me that when we lean more towards those lacking words that are easier to speak, we aren’t being as effective in our lives because those words are essentially lifeless.
I know it seems like I’m being anal when I correct people on how they speak, but when we focus on the power of abundance we allow more abundance in. When we say “yes” we are bringing life to ourselves. It’s not that we can’t ever say “no,” or “don’t,” or “can’t”…but maybe we can say better things. Maybe we can pivot away from focusing on why we can’t—to how we can, maybe we can focus away from what we don’t want—to what we do want, and maybe instead of saying no we can find things that we want to say yes to.
So, let’s try a few pivots in our thoughts and speech patterns…instead of saying I don’t want to be poor maybe we could say I allow abundance to flow freely and effortlessly into my life. Instead of saying I can’t, or it’s too hard to lose the weight; maybe we could say I was created healthy and I have the knowledge and wherewithal to let the health that’s already within me…out. Now, I know those are wordy affirmations. I was just thinking off the cuff, but what I wanted to display there is by saying “yes,” by focusing on abundance…it takes creativity. It takes a different thought process to not just stop at saying I want something or don’t want something, but also to allow ourselves to stop blocking the energy of abundance into our lives.
Because what we want is already within us, we just haven’t figured out a way to relax enough, to stop fighting ourselves. We’ve forgotten that the more we focus on the beliefs of why we can’t have something, or don’t deserve something, are behaviors that are teaching us about powerlessness in our lives. They are behaviors that teach us to close down instead of open up and allow the great gifts already within us out.
We are doing the equation backwards, hoping to gain something by focusing on our lack of something. Which traps us having to work harder every time thinking that what we want is outside of ourselves. I’m not saying there won’t be work involved. What I am saying is that freedom comes from a shift in consciousness; a shift of understanding our power differently—which is to focus less on the physical work and begin working from the inside out.
Because saying yes to life is an easy task, but it’s not a simple one. It’s a pathway of understanding and seeing how the Universe works. It’s a pathway of shutting our eyes off and letting go of our preconceived notions of how we think the physical world works. We’ve been conditioned to work harder if we aren’t getting what we want, but it’s not just about working harder…it’s about seeing things differently. Working smarter means seeing something more; seeing beyond the physical; and understanding for everytime we say no, can’t, don’t or any other lacking word that takes our power away we are laying waste to life. But when we are more creative and see abundance by saying yes to the things we want, then we are creating life. And as E.E. Cummings said that he “imagined” yes as the only living thing…we will be purposeful in doing more than imagining…as we deliberately utilize words that have higher vibrational energies that bring life into the world.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Have a notepad by your side all day, or keep track on your phone in your notes app. Make a tally mark anytime that you say no, or focus on your lack in some way. The more we become aware of how much we focus on our lack then the more enlightened we’ll become. We’ll realize that we are more negative than we realized, and that will bring about change. I never thought I was a negative person, I was always saying how happy I was, or trying to brighten someone’s day…and then when I did a similar exercise…it really made me aware how I wasn’t as deliberate with focusing on happiness and abundance in my life like I thought I was. Which was showing me how I was creating lifelessness rather than life.
Once you become aware of all you are doing negatively, it’s not that you need to get rid of it, but it’s about knowing that change is only a subtle shift. So instead of getting upset at yourself, think about what a loving parent would do for you—they would model better behavior. So be your own best parent and model better thoughts, actions, and words that focus on your infinite abundance that the Universe has in store for you. What do you have to lose besides your old lifeless ineffective ways?
I Say Yes To Great Opportunities
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#407 February 11th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Wait Patiently Through Action
“The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.”
~Leo Tolstoy
The right moment doesn’t reveal itself to us as we wish it would. We want things to be perfect, but wants and wishes will blind us from seeing a moment as what it is…already perfect. For in every moment there is perfection within it. Because in every moment is the chance to fall in love, it might be the moment when your million dollar idea hits you, and it might be that time when you come to your A-Ha moment that helps you to make sense of all the pathways of mistakes—brought you to this exact moment for a reason.
We spend our entire lives searching for the perfect moment that we miss the perfect moment. We’ve put a filter over our eyes looking for the exact time when things will be right…never truly understanding that that moment is right now. In some sense, you’ve come to the crossroads of protection and procrastination. We procrastinate because change is hard and we want to think about things which is a protective measure to make sure we don’t go down the wrong path. I mean you only have one life, so don’t waste it…right?
But thinking that way is the surest way to waste your life. Stalling in hopes to see the planets and stars align, is a sure recipe for failure, when you aren’t even sure what you’re looking for. And the only way to succeed is to move forward with full knowledge that falling is how we get to know what works and what doesn’t. It’s the only way we get to experience life and find perfection in every moment.
Today’s affirmation—I Patiently Wait Through Action, and the quote—"The two most powerful warriors are patience and time” seem to be in conflict with what I’m saying. And maybe it could be perceived that way, if you think that taking action is not part of waiting. And the surest way to miss your life is to lay in wait hoping to see the perfect moment when it happens. Waiting for perfection isn’t the same as being active while looking for perfection. And when we wait without moving forward in one manner or another…we miss out on great friendships by being too scared to get out into the world; we miss sunrises by waiting to see the stars; and we forget that what we speak, think, and act is what we manifest into the world.
I was having trouble brainstorming what to say for this podcast. I was procrastinating a bit. I watched some TV, I went out to Smoothie King to get a delicious Pineapple Surf smoothie, and I came back fighting working on this.
But I forced myself to write…for about 5 minutes. I was overwhelmed with all that work I’d done, and I needed a break, so I opened up my email. I opened up a letter someone had written me, and I was reminded about what we speak and focus upon we create in the world. Even though I’ve seen the great power of what affirmations have done in my life, and doing a daily on affirmations podcast, it can be easy for me to forget about the idea of purposefully projecting what I want into the Universe. I get caught in the routine of living life…not creating life.
And in this email the sender wrote:
“I want to share something with you. One morning last week I wrote ‘I am magnificent’ as my affirmation for the day. Immediately, I felt that I also need to write "I am wealthy," which I did. Then I had breakfast and listened to your podcast (for the first time) . I chose # 376 without reading what it was about. And it was very interesting to hear what you were saying, so I listened until the end - when the affirmation said was "I am already wealthy." Coincidence? We don't think so, do we?”
So let us state what we want to manifest in our lives, and let’s get to work with faith and patience knowing we are on the path to achieving it. Most of the things I wanted, but didn’t get, were either because something better was meant for me, or I didn’t have enough faith to be patient while I moved forward. I get it; it’s easier to hope standing still than to move forward in good faith knowing it will all work out as it needs to be.
So are you standing still caught in a wishful hope…or are you moving forward with faith knowing you will manifest what you set your mind to?
Today’s Personal Commitment:Take out a sheet of paper. Brainstorm and write down all the things you are waiting for right now without taking action on it one way or another. I’m not saying we need to take action on all of them, but look over the list and circle the three most important ones.
Then write down what actions you are taking while patiently waiting for the next steps to reveal themselves. Yes, I know sometimes we need to step back to allow things to work their way towards us, but also we need to take actions towards it in one way or another. It’s not that the early bird gets the worm…it’s that the bird is consistently getting up early every day to get what it needs. So if you are doing the work to learn more, to become better, or whatever you need to do in bringing you closer to your goal while you wait—what would that look like?
Life doesn’t just happen; we partake in life. And even if we aren’t moving in life, we are still partaking in it. Leo called patience and time great warriors. We too, are great warriors; but not in battle against patience and time, but more in moving with them instead of waiting or fighting against them. Because if we fight those great warriors, we will always lose. So let us be powerful by moving with time and patience, in doing what’s necessary to bring us closer to the things we wish to manifest into the world. Because the way I see it is we are never waiting; we are always preparing ourselves to be in better alignment. And that’s what great warriors do; they don’t wait they are always training and preparing.
I Wait Patiently Through Action
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#406 February 10th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Purposeful In How I Want To Feel
"The purpose of art is washing the dust of daily life off our souls."
~Pablo Picasso
Let’s face it…we all are living the busiest lives we know. It doesn’t matter what anyone else is doing. We still think we have the busiest lives in the world, and if only people understood this maybe we could get some of that sympathy we deserve.
I’ll admit to how frustrated I was this week. It started bubbling up Tuesday night, and it was getting progressively worse as I got further in the week. And what I teach my life coaching students, I was being put to the test as well if I could live and not just speak this truth…that we don’t get what we want, we get what we focus on. I was being reminded that the world around me wasn’t creating how I felt, but that I was focusing on the things in my life that were going wrong…which was bringing my focus to it and then creating more of it.
Doing a daily podcast is a great thing to do, and I love doing it, but I’ve fallen behind in my flow, as usually I like to be at least a week ahead. But lately I’ve been right on time getting the podcast out right before my midnight deadline for the next day. And every night I spend time thinking, recording, editing, and then getting it populated into podcast land. I’m not complaining about it, but I could just feel the frustration building up within me from being caught up every night stuck in creating this podcast.
Which was spreading my frustrations out into every part of my life and affecting me negatively. And today, I felt myself getting angry at someone driving too fast in the parking being a jerk so I couldn’t cross first. I found myself frustrated as I was a little behind on things as I usually like to get to appointments early, but I was right on time to each appointment, and I felt stress from having to rush to them. And I found myself being more quiet around people, as I was feeling annoyed with everything.
I felt a heaviness within me and I knew I had to change something, or I would continue on this path that I didn’t want to be a part of anymore. And so I decided to remind myself of the advice I give to all my life coaching students as I said in my mind…”you don’t get what you want, you get what you focus on.” And I then asked myself how I wanted to feel?
I replied, “I want to feel calm.”
And so I set out to think more calm things, which then helped me to speak calm things, which helped me to act calmer.
Our atmosphere is not determined by what’s surrounding us; Our atmosphere is dictated by the emotions we put out into the world. So if you aren’t getting the outcome you want, you might want to look at the emotions you’re focusing on. Zig Ziglar said, Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude. Meaning your skill set, or outside influences, will not determine your place—your attitude will. Your decision to choose how you want to feel will make you or break you.
And so I’ve decided to not let frustration be my master, but instead to have calm be my response to everything today. I’m sure I’ll have to remind myself of that tomorrow and the day after. Because you see, it’s not that once you decide to be a certain way you won’t ever go back to that negative place; it’s that once you decide to choose the emotions you want, instead of being controlled by them, it will then get easier to continually transition into more positive purposeful emotions.
So let’s not beat a dead horse here, let’s become aware of the emotions that drain us as we pivot from them, and then purposefully focus on putting more emotions that energize us into the world. Because the life you live is determined by the attitude you decide to live within.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Attitude check!!!! How are you feeling right now, are you feeling energized and full of life, or are you feeling drained, frustrated, angry, or any other negative emotion? And once you figure out what emotion your feeling, ask why you’re feeling that way.
Get to the root of the emotion. Instead of saying I’m upset because my partner is being a jerk…maybe you might see that you’re upset because you’re allowing your partner’s mood to affect you. We look to attribute our good or bad feelings on those outside factors, and it’s not that they don’t affect us one way or another…but it’s that they aren’t the final determinant of how we feel. We decide how we want to experience a situation. And like my frustration filled week, I could have decided to stay stuck there. I could have focused more on how I have so much work, and how I’m so behind—which would slow down my progress and work effort even more…keeping me locked in that emotion. Or I could execute what I decided to do—which is find the emotion I wanted to live within, find ways to breathe through the stress, and then begin focusing more upon the calm I had in my life already and the calm I was going to create.
You are the pilot of your life. Are you going to crash and burn letting things control you, or are you going to focus on how you want to feel and take back control of the flight stick in your life? The choice is always yours—not someone or something else. Those external things are just easy excuses to blame so we don’t have to do the work. But I hope you do the most important work you’ll ever do, which is choosing how you want to feel and following through consistently on it every day.
I Am Purposeful In How I Want To Feel
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#405 February 9th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Follow My Intuition
The only real valuable thing is intuition. Albert Einstein
A few years ago I was working out with a good friend of mine. This friend was so energetic, they were such a happy soul, and they displayed so much kindness in who they were…everyday. It was a joy to be around this person, and I was glad to call them a good friend of mine.
When we would do our workouts together at the gym we’d talk about the happenings of our lives, and we always made time to talk about great new food places that had opened up. And one day, we had our everyday normal conversation, but I didn’t realize the importance of it until years later when she told me how it had changed her life.
This friend and I parted ways for a bit as some changes happened in her life, and recently we have begun working out together again once a week. And she brought up that life changing conversation for her and let me know how powerful it was. All I was really doing was complimenting her life as I said you have such a great life, a great husband, awesome kids, a nice house, and I said jokingly you get to eat at all those nice new food places too. As I said those words to her, she was doing some planks on the ground, and she didn’t say anything right away. But when she got up she said to me, “Things aren’t always as they seem.”
At the time it just seemed like a normal comment that things aren’t as perfect as we’d like them to be. But with her having a few years separation from saying that comment, she had more clarity about it now. At the time she said it, she didn’t know where it came from. It hadn’t really entered her conscious mind that something was wrong. And I think that was from her not being comfortable enough to say outloud what her intuition was telling her.
It was that voice inside her that she had buried deep within. It was the knowing something was wrong but never really wanting to investigate it or think about it…because that might mean pain. For it’s easier to hide the darkness then it is to let it out into the world. It’s easier to live in our so-called perfect world for everyone else to think things are great, as we fool even ourselves, all while pieces of us inside are being silenced so as to not break the perfect dream we are pretending to live in.
It’s been years since we’ve had that conversation, and she’s now divorced and remarried to the person who really knows her. Over the years of us talking I remember talking about relationship issues, and life choices…and how sometimes we have no clue why we married who we did or why we made certain choices at the time that really never meshed with who we were.
But one simple comment of saying how perfect her life was, was the moment she was able to voice something inside that had been scratching at her brain for a long time. It was something that she wanted to voice but either didn’t know how to, or didn’t know who to voice it to, or even if she could voice it…ever. We grow up being told what fairy tales are, that things will last forever, and that there’s a happily ever after in every story. And I’m not saying there aren’t happy endings in our stories. What I am saying, is there’s so much unhappiness in the world because we’re trying to live other people’s fairytales. And we live in a story that doesn’t serve us because we don’t want to hurt anyone else involved.
Our intuition is wise if we can just learn to shut off our consciousness for a little bit. We think too hard, and we try to force things with our wit, and it’s not that intelligence is a bad thing…but it’s that’s our knowledge has limited reach. It’s based within the physical realm; it’s about knowing things rather than truly understanding them on a whole different level.
In my book I’ll be publishing in the next few months, I talk about honing your intuition. There are different ways that we come to our knowing, but how we begin hearing that voice of truth— that voice of all-knowing within us, is by learning to silence our minds a little more often. It’s about leaving room for a calmness instead of trying to always be distracted with constant chatter whether in our mind, on the radio, or the TV. Silence scares us because we’ll have to face some truths we don’t necessarily ever want to face.
And like my friend and her previous marriage, she knew there were things that were crippling her, her partner, and her kids by trying to live in this fairytale that wasn’t hers. Being raised religiously, she had said that divorce wasn’t an option. But when the other person isn’t willing to grow with you, what do you do then? I’m not saying divorce is the answer either, but what I am leaning more towards is hearing our intuition before the problem occurs.
Maybe we wouldn’t get into relationships we weren’t meant to be in just because we were afraid of being alone, or they fit our checkboxes of how tall they need to be, or if they are a good dancer, or if they have a certain hair color or eye color, or such. Maybe we wouldn’t take jobs that are killing us because we thought it would be the most logical choice…all while we are dying more and more inside every day from it. Maybe we wouldn’t have to make compromises to our integrity as we tell ourselves it’s part of the game to get what we want—to get that shiny thing we thought that would make us happy …when all it was, was a distraction keeping us from being who were meant to be.
Now we need to make mistakes to learn, but maybe we could avoid some of the mistakes by taking a higher road of hearing our intuition. I believe our intuition will always let us know a better path, a better way, and a higher form of wisdom as we let go of trying to think out the most perfect scenario with our mind. There’s a wisdom within us that can guide us. There’s a better way being mapped out for us. There’s an answer for that unsolvable problem…if only we become silent long enough to practice honing in on our intuition. And with my friend, all it took was a simple statement, and the comfort of being willing to voice something deeper within herself to come to an awareness she had been avoiding. And in the end her intuition didn’t misguide her; in fact, I think she’s living her happily ever after right now.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What does your intuition sound like? How do you know when it’s speaking?
For everyone, it might be different. For me, I feel it in my solar plexus as my body guides me to let me know something feels off, and when I meditate and get silent long enough, I hear a booming voice that helps answer questions I’ve been seeking. I’m not perfect so a lot of times I forget to come back to that peace, as I get comfortable in my life, and I move more into reaction rather than proactively feeling my way through my intuition. But when I stop and work to center myself again, I find a calm over time, and I hear that booming voice letting me know things I need to hear.
Intellect is a great thing, but there’s a higher wisdom when we learn to not only hear our intuition but to connect with it and take action upon it. It’s one thing to hear our intuition, and it’s another thing to trust it and take action upon it. So I’m challenging you this week to find more time to silence the chatter in your mind and work to hear your intuition. It will be a lifelong journey, but it will be a worthwhile journey.
I Follow My Intuition
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#404 January 8th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
If I’m Going To Be Anything, I’m Going To Be Useful
“Be yourself, but always your better self.” ~Karl G. Maese
I wrote this poem back in September of 2016 and I wanted to share it for this podcast
I wanted to be a pilotCrashing through the heavens,But I realized that I shouldn’t have touchedThings that weren’t meant for me yet,That I shouldn’t have reached so highBecause sometimes a dreamer needs to be grounded.From the plans that haven’t been formed…Yet.
I know I jumped too soon,I wanted to see what was behind the curtain,Before paying my dues.
It’s not that we can’t dream bigger, laugh harder, and love fuller,But great things come with work,Not so much in the grind of it,But in the work of being willing to wait forever,For the things that matter the most in life.
And so,I get to work on life,Connecting to this world a little better,Shattering the glass ceiling above,Not because I’m impatient,But because I work patiently,As I want to see the stars glisten,And I want to feel the heavens within my soul,All while I continually keep askingDid I put myself to good use today?CJO 9-7-16
A friend of mine was telling me about his son. He was told me how naturally gifted he was, and how he got things so quickly. And over the years of us knowing each other, he would tell me about all the great things happening within their father and son relationship. I believe his son was 5 or 6 and my friend and his wife decided they wanted to give their child an allowance for doing things around the house. And so, his son was excited knowing he would have money and be in control of his life. He could buy the things he wanted and not have to beg mom and dad like he used to…he would be a free man.
My friend’s son asked what was entailed with his new job. And my friend began explaining it was putting things away he had taken out, it was about helping mom around the house, it was to learn new things on his own, and he said a few other things I don’t quite remember. But the thing that really stuck with me, is my friend said to his son…your new job is about being useful.
And I thought that was a beautiful way of describing his son’s new job in one descriptive word. And so I want to ask you that question: Are you being useful?
In your family life…are you being useful to everyone involved?
At your job whether you’re an owner, a manager, or you’re one of the one’s managed… are you being useful?
In your life are you being useful to yourself and to those around you?
I know how easy it is to get caught in living life, in doing what’s required, so that we no longer are being useful anymore. Sure, we’re showing up in body but we aren’t bringing something better to the situation. We are slowing our output down, we are becoming stagnant, and sometimes our energy and our attitudes of helplessness or hopelessness are overtaking our lives as we feel the burden and boredom of our repetitious life.
So I want to ask you a blunt question…are you being useful?
What was the first thing that popped up in your mind?
Now if you heard what I said, I didn’t ask, are you useful? That’s not a real question because you’re here, so you’re useful automatically. The real question is whether you are putting yourself to good use.
The old me, the one who was very hard on myself, the old depressed suicidal thinking me, the old me caught in self-pity, the old me who found ways to put all the blame on myself…was a person who had trouble answering that question because I had a darkened view of life by how I spoke about myself. And this is why I do this podcast because affirmations changed how I saw myself, affirmations changed how I acted in my life, and affirmations changed my hope in life. The reason I bring this up, is sometimes we can be too hard on ourselves and not see that we are bringing great worth into this world…so I want to ask you this question again…and I want you to let go of any preconceived notions of who you’ve been, good or bad…and just let your subconscious answer it freely.
Are you being useful in this life?
And if not why not?
And once you figure out why not…ask yourself how you can begin being useful?
It’s a daunting question to ask how do I be useful? I mean where do you even start because there are a million options, there’s a big world out there, and it can be hard to really pick a place to begin. But that’s because we’ve made it too hard. We’ve made that question too big. The things that have been the most useful in my life where those small things that kept me going. They were those friends who reminded me subtly how I was doing a good job and to keep going, or it was the internal drive to create habits of doing something every day towards a goal I set—to keep chipping away at it even when it felt like I wasn’t making much progress. And it was the times that I stepped out of my little bubble and asked what my job needed more of, what my family needed more of, and what the world needed more of…and how could I be part of the answer for that?
So how can you focus on being useful right now? So take a quick second and think about what you could do this moment to be a little more useful here, right now. Yes, some of you may be driving, so it may be harder…but maybe being useful while you’re driving is being more attentive on the road keeping everyone safe. Maybe if you’re running a meeting, you could see how you can help your team be more engaged by asking more questions instead of just talking the whole time. Maybe when you come home you can ask your partner how you can help out with preparing something instead of it always being all on them.
And to become useful, it’s not about doing those grand gestures that we think about...you know the ones that say we have to be the hero to be useful. It’s actually the small questions that will be the most valuable we keep asking ourselves of what am I doing right now…and how can I be more useful in this endeavor.
Lao Tzu said, “Great acts are made up of small deeds.” Being useful begins with becoming more aware of where we are, what we’re doing, and asking ourselves or others…how can I be of better service to you? Because we already are useful; but are we putting ourselves to good use? I think the lives we want to live are ones not of surviving, but of being of good use to the world. So how can you make an impact in your little corner of the world no matter how big or small—how can you do something right now to be of use to someone, somewhere…even if that person’s you?
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What’s your impact on the world? No matter how big or how small what is the impact your making? I’m serious here…give me an answer, give me any answer. But don’t take too much time to think about it, just say what bubbles up from your subconscious. And if you’re coming up blank…maybe you should start asking that question a little more deliberately in your life.
And as I said earlier being impactful doesn’t have to involve only big things either because the small daily acts of impact usually will be better than the occasional big goal we try to achieve…if we ever do reach that pie in the sky goal we’ve set for ourselves. And it’s not that I’m saying to have a small impact, it’s that I’m saying the small consistent impactful things will become big, huge, great, amazing things in this world.
So how can you be of good use today? How can you ask yourself that question every morning…and then finish your night off with the questions—was I successful in being useful today, and did I have an impact on this day?
From a small seed, a mighty gift will be born into this world. So plant your impact seeds daily, and continue to water them—as a mighty and beautiful life will be born because of this
If I’m Going To Be Anything, I’m Going To Be Useful
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#403 February 7th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Invite The Burglars In Because What I Have Cannot Be Stolen
“Our Intention Creates Our Reality.”
~Wayne Dyer
A burglar broke into a home. He heard a soft voice say, "Jesus is watching you." Thinking he was just hearing things, he continued stuffing items into his burglar bag. Again, he hears: "Jesus is watching you." He turned his flashlight around and saw a parrot in a cage. He asked the parrot if he was the one talking. The parrot said, "Yes." So he asked the parrot his name, and the parrot said, "Moses." The burglar asked, "What kind of people would name a parrot Moses?" The parrot replied, "The same kind of people who would name their pit bull, Jesus."
How did you start your day off? Well besides listening to me of course… Did you wake up as late as you possibly could? Maybe you even hit the snooze button a few times. Did you go through your normal routine rushing in the morning trying to get everything crammed in, so you can arrive at work or the place you need at the precise moment when you need to be there?
In the normalcy of life, it can be easy to get into the routine of monotony. We know what needs to happen each day, and so we don’t actively plan how we’d like our day to go. And I don’t mean planning out all the appointments and activities you’ll have to do throughout the day. I’m talking about being intentional in how you want your day to go. I’m talking about focusing on how you want to feel and visualizing exactly how you want your day to unfold.
There’s power in purpose; there’s energy in focus. But we take our lives for granted thinking things happen to us, rather than things are happening for us and things are created because of our focus. So if we aren’t intentional about our focus for the day we have a scattered life where events happen, and we react. But when we visualize what we wish we create, we create not only the possibilities for that happening but we create the resolve for us to continue the path no matter how hard it gets.
And for me, it’s easy to forget this. It’s easy to get out of alignment when I’m not taking care of myself as I should. The days where I’m staying up too late which messes with my sleep cycles for the next morning, the days where my eating patterns are off as I’m focused on stressful emotions, or the times where I am allowing other people’s actions to affect my emotions as I get stuck in a negative thought loop in my head.
And in our lives we allow others thing to control us. Something doesn’t go our way, so we tell a story about how sad it is for us, how unlucky we are, if only we could get a break, or the story asking why are people out to get me. And so people become burglars of our peace and happiness…not because they have the power to do that…but because we open our front door for them and let them in. But the problem is not that they entered our peaceful home like a bull in a china shop, the problem is we made them out to be the problem when they were never the ones in control of our emotions. They never were the ones holding our dishes in their hands, we put a power in them that they never had, and we believed it was because of them that we are frazzled when in fact we are the ones giving power to things and people that never had any control over us.
When we aren’t intentional about how we want to feel during the day, and make that our main goal, we will not have a target to point ourselves towards. We spend most of our time thinking about the physical things we want to have happen…which is a nice thing to do…but it’s putting the cart before the horse. You’re going about the goal all wrong, and when you get the thing you want, if you ever do, it feels empty because you weren’t focused on the reason you wanted that goal—the feeling it would give you. And it won’t matter how well you visualize your day if you don’t decide to be the master of your emotions first in that visualization.
The burglar of our peace and happiness isn’t in the hands of others—the burglar has always been us. And like the story about the pit bull named Jesus, we are getting our butts bitten and are upset wanting to blame others for our misfortune when it’s always been us leaving the door open. It’s always been us trying to sabotage our peace and happiness.
It’s easier to put the blame on others when life seems unfair. We’ve put expectations on people and things to be our saviors, our friends, or the people who we wanted to be on our side no matter what. And it’s not that we can’t have good people like that in our lives, but when you put your hope in something else instead of remaining resilient in yourself…then you can always take the easy way out. You will shine the magnifying glass of blame elsewhere instead of doing the hard work…and readjusting your emotions.
I’m going to tell you a secret that most people will never tell you: life, is disappointment after disappointment. But that’s not the secret. The secret is the disappointments, are actually life’s blessings. For if we got what we wanted right away we wouldn't respect it and be able to hold onto it, and the other aspect is we wouldn’t really know how committed we were to something because we didn’t have to work for it. So the disappointments are actually beautiful; and maybe the trick is not to live in disappointment, but to be fueled by it.
And that’s why being intentional about how you want to feel throughout the whole day is important. It’s the way to direct yourself and keep you focused no matter what happens during your day. And I don’t mean any disrespect here because I’ve been here many times in my life—but that’s what weak people do—they let their surroundings dictate their emotions and their outcome. You are the architect of your life, but only if you begin being intentional about how you plan on building your day. And only if you stop blaming others for stealing your peace and happiness…because in the end…they never had any control in that matter…the control was always yours.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Start your day off differently. Sure look through your to-do list, look through your planner at your appointments, think about all the things you want to get done…but make sure that you ALWAYS start your day off by visualizing how you want to feel. Start your day off visualizing how you would like your day to go. Make a mind map and you will find the more you do this then the more the world will be aligning and creating what’s in your mind.
We think the outside world is a construct of it’s own accord, but those who remember to use the power of intention and focus will make the construct of their mind a part of this outside world.
I Invite The Burglars In Because What I Have Cannot Be Stolen
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#402 February 6th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
There’s Enough Room For Both Of Us To Pursue Our Dreams
“I think that you have to bear in mind that music is about escape, and it's not unreasonable to think the music business would be based around escapism.”~Peter Hook
I’m all about fairy tales. I’m all about asking for more of your life and not settle for being ordinary. I’m all about being a dreamer awakened in a life where dreamers have all gone back to sleep. But there comes a price with every dream. And we as humans want the dream without the work. We want to reap what we have sown without doing any planting.
We look at people who have what we want and we tell stories on how it was luck, or magic, in how they got to where they are. And so we condition ourselves to wish for things rather than a willingness to do whatever it takes to realize a dream. Because to tell you the truth it’s much more fun to dream about what you would do with your lottery winnings, than to actually win it. It’s a way for us to escape from our lives, and I think that’s what we use dreams as…excuses.
Excuses to leave our lives, even for a few minutes, instead of doing something different to make a dream a physical reality. But you see, doing something different would mean doing something scary…and to dream with no work involved keeps us safe. It keeps us standing on safe ground where we’ve always been…even if our so-called protected space means being stuck…because the devil you know is always better than the devil you don’t.
And so we get lost in our music, we get lost in our TV programs, or we get lost in our relationships (romantic, platonic, new acquaintances, and even strangers) because it keeps us safe. It’s easier to get lost in things that aren’t ours, or things that we haven’t truly committed to…because putting in the hard work might not work out. And we as people have lied to our hearts saying it’s safer not to try than it is to go after what means something to us even if we might fail.
The Super Bowl happened just a few days ago, and I saw a lot of social media posts talking about how underwhelmed they were by Justin Timberlake’s performance. Which I have to admit I would be nervous being on one of the biggest stages in the world with 100 million people watching.
In past shows, I’ve seen some elaborate productions as people are dropped down from the roof of the super bowl or flying around on unicorns…I mean, how can you beat a flying unicorn anyway? And as spectators, it’s easier to criticize a dreamer than it is for us to get off our butts and pursue our dreams. It’s easier to criticize one person's performance as we were only focused on him instead of seeing EVERYTHING that was going on. If you really took time to see all that was involved it was a huge machine with many moving parts…I think it was pretty impressive.
In most concerts, being physically there is the best part of the experience, you’re part of the energy, the atmosphere, and you see things from your personal vantage point. So when it’s on TV like the Super Bowl, you’re getting everything—sometimes done well in how they zoom in and out and how they focus, and sometimes not so great.
And I’m almost sure people weren’t paying attention to all the lights and lazers, they weren’t seeing that huge band marching in unison, they didn’t see his personal band on stage backing him up, they might not have thought that his movements around the field and going on the backside of the stage was choreographed so that everyone in the stadium could get a view of the show more closely, they weren’t watching all those hundreds of dancers in different colors on the field, and I bet they never really questioned why he went into the stands during his performance.
If you look at all the past performers of the Super Bowl, I would question how many of them ever went up in the stands to take pictures with people and be a part of the crowd, rather than being only in the center of an elaborate production that you can’t break away from the designated script. Now I’m not a Super Bowl halftime show expert, so maybe there could have been plenty of acts going up in the stands, and I’m not even saying Justin’s performance was the greatest of all time. I’m thinking about how easy it is to get lost in the moment of criticizing other peoples works and dreams than it is to love what they gave us. It’s easier to critique a person, and their talents, and their dreams when we aren’t pursuing our own dreams.
It reminds me of Russell Crowe’s movie Gladiator where he kills the enemy gladiators quickly and quite blood lustfully in the ring, showing his impressive skillset in war, and the crowd gets quiet, as he throws a sword into a deadly silent crowd, yelling… ARE YOU NOT ENTERTAINED???”
Have an opinion, be excited about things, and be let down when things don’t go exactly as you wished they would…but maybe if we took time to become more engaged in our dreams, if we actively spent time pursuing the things that make us feel alive…rather than tearing other people’s works down… we might not be so disappointed. We might stop trying to escape and avoid our lives by tearing other people apart for following their dreams.
Maybe that might sound unrealistic to some, and maybe it might be, but it’s my hope that we all encourage each other, that we all find the great things, and see the WHOLE picture, of what’s in front of us instead of finding ways to tear it down, and that we cheer for others because we want them to succeed and we’re happy for their success instead of tearing them down as a safety mechanism for ourselves…giving us room to stay comfortable as only spectators in our lives.
It’s my hope that we ARE entertained…but more in the willingness to pursue our dreams and to find the beauty in others as they chase theirs too.
Today’s Personal Commitment:It’s not my goal to shame anyone and make them feel bad for attacking poor old defenseless Justin. My greater hope is that I help to awaken us all, myself included, to see how petty and hurtful we are at times in how we talk about things. For what we project out into the world doesn’t just end with it leaving our lips…it always will come back to us in one way or another.
Karma isn’t bad things happening to people who deserve to be punished…karma is the return of what you put out into the world. So I want to ask you, are you living a life of escapism? Are you getting lost in music to not deal with your life, or maybe getting lost in movies and TV so you can live a more exciting life through others, or do you have some other vice that’s crippling you from living how you truly wish to live?
There’s nothing wrong with those things, but it can be a thin line where the world we live in distracts us from living the life we truly want to be in. Because if we’re honest with ourselves, we live in a pretty comfortable world where it’s easier to be an armchair quarterback than to go out and pursue the dreams that matter to us.
So I want to challenge you to become awake to the things you are escaping to, and ask if it’s healthy. And if it isn’t, how can you scale back a bit and live in your own world, pursuing your own dreams, instead of numbing yourself from the problems of life. And I believe once we see problems as what they are, challenges and growing blocks to help us become better, we will stop trying to avoid them..and know they are a necessary part of life. Which will help us to find better ways to deal with them.
Edwin Louis Cole said, “Reasonable men adapt to the world around them; unreasonable men make the world adapt to them. The world is changed by unreasonable men.”
So, you and me…let’s be unreasonable in the kindness we expect to project into the world as we build people up all while building ourselves up.
There’s Enough Room For Both Of Us To Pursue Our Dreams
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#401 February 5th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Make Everyday Feel Like Payday
“Whenever you find yourself on the side of the majority, it is time to pause and reflect.” ~Mark Twain
A young man left the life he knew in order to study the ways of Zen. He decided that he needed a master to teach him the ways of mastery. He traveled many miles seeking for the answers. And upon his journey he came to wild river of great depth and width. One he was unsure of, in how to cross.
He was distraught after almost a year of non-stop travel and obstacles upon every turn of his journey; just when he thought he conquered one obstacle a bigger one appeared. The young man felt tired and weary knowing that there was no easy way to cross, and he’d probably have to go many more miles to find another way around this massive raging river. As he looked for a way to cross, he felt a heaviness inside him. And he asked himself if he had made any real progress, as he still hadn’t found a master to guide him.
Just as he was about to give up, and find another way down the river, he saw a Zen monk on the other side of the river. And so he yelled to the other side and said, “Oh venerable sage, can you tell me how to get to the other side?”
The Zen monk remained quiet, as he carefully looked up and down the river before finally yelling back, “My brother, you already are on the other side.”
We spend so much of our lives wishing to be on the other side of where we are, that we don’t realize we are already where we need to be. We spend so much time looking at what we don’t have that we miss what we do have. Which then keeps us blinded from seeing that what we wanted was already within our possession.
There’s this illusion that something better is on the other side. The grass is greener over the there, it’s 5 o’clock somewhere, or that peace and the answers are on the other side of our raging rivers. Yet, we search endlessly and waste our time and our lives chasing after something that we already have or could obtain easily.
I was listening to a very knowledgeable man on many religions, some time ago and he was talking about Zen, and that most think it takes years to master. He went on to say if you believe it takes many years of mastery then you make that your truth. But real Zen, is knowing that it can be mastered in a moment. That complete peace can be found right this instant if you stop looking for something else and know it’s already within.
We are like the young traveler trying to find our way to the other side because it holds the answers…or so we think. And maybe that’s where we get stuck within the illusion that what we seek…whether it be peace, wisdom, or happiness—that to have it—we must hold it within our grasp. And like a wisp of smoke, you try to hold onto something that evades your pursuit to capture it. Those great truths are not to be held so tightly we strangle them. We must open our hands and know that the thing we pursue is not something to horde and keep for ourselves, but to open our grasp and to let it be free—to share it with the world. Because what we try to keep only evades us, as you can’t force your hand closed on something you already have. You can’t grip tight enough to keep it in you…for all you will be doing is crushing your bones as you grip tighter. Think of it like a child, the harder you try to grip and hold on…then the more you push it away.
We spend our lives waiting for Friday. Every week we look forward to having that payday in our pockets so we can purchase the things we don’t have, so we can distract ourselves from the mishappenings that we’re annoyed and bothered by within our lives.
And I love a payday as much as anyone else. It feels great to know you’ve been rewarded for the work you’ve put into the world. But we keep thinking that a payday is only one day, and so we always come up short and feel an eternal sense of lack in our lives.
But what if you were to think on a more cosmic scale of the Universe's payday for you? What if you were to remember that another day of waking up is your lottery? What if you were to count every eye blink as another payout from the cash machine of life? What if you were to count the hugs and handshakes of those around you as the gold in your safety deposit box being opened up? And what if you were to think of kind words and compliments said to yourself, like butterflies landing on your arm—as you stop to marvel at how magnificent it feels, to be part of this miracle.
Like that young seeker in the story earlier, we spend years looking for something. We hope to find a master, a treasure chest, or the answers outside of ourselves. And I do believe we need to connect outside of ourselves for a richer life, but what if we stopped seeing the outside world as our treasure chest, and began seeing the riches already within us…how differently do you think you’d live your life?
Every day is a payday. But until you realize you are the one already holding the check, in every moment, you will continuously be pursuing things, trying to hold on for dear life, as you chase it away and even smother it from your life. So let’s count every blink as a payout, let’s count every moment as a gift of enormous measures, and let’s find the peace in each moment knowing it’s always been our choice to be a part of it…or to decide there was something lacking within it all. Because peace, love, happiness, and wealth are all of the same DNA. And they all, are within every moment, if we only step back and see that the Universe is giving us an enormous lottery of winnings in each moment we decide to be a part of.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What is a situation in your life that you’ve been wanting to happen, but it either feels too far away or feels like it never will happen. Write down all the reasons your goal or goals haven’t happened.
Once you write down why it hasn’t happened or why it won’t happen, write down why you may already be on the correct side of the river with that goal. What if you looked at the goal differently, and you were already at the goal, how would that be possible?
Now that may sound confusing, but a lot of goal setting isn’t about the time in getting there…it’s about the person you decide to become before you reach the goal. It’s not this linear line of if I do this then I’ll get that and then if I do that I’ll then get this…it’s about becoming the person who would most embody the characteristics to make that goal more likely to happen for them.
So today, I want you to begin seeing your goals and yourself differently. Not as seeing the goals on the other side of the river, but both you and your goals on the same side. When we change how we see ourselves and who we have to become before the goal…things become very different…and goals become not only more manageable…but also more likely.
I Make Everyday Feel Like Payday
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
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Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #400 February 4th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Quick To Love
I shall allow no man to belittle my soul by making me hate him. Booker T. Washington
I was listening to a video on anger where Dr. Ryan Fuller talked about what happens to us when we get angry. He said when we are angry the body’s response is survival, so it focuses on metabolizing energy, and thus our brain isn’t at its sharpest during these times.
He said some studies have proven that our cognitive abilities slow, as simple math exercises become harder to do when we are angry.
He continued to say that when people experience high levels of anger, especially if they have high trait anger (meaning they experience it frequently) they tend to make riskier decisions. They might do something that’s more hazardous than they normally would, because it has a higher payoff. And that’s why we make silly mistakes, we regret later, when we’re angry. When we are angry, our body is in survival mode trying to consume as much energy as it needs to move forward. And the frontal lobe is not utilized as much during our anger which is linked to higher cognitive functions such as planning and judgment. So during our anger, it could be said that we literally have bad judgment…which is physiologically true.
So anger in itself, while it may be warranted at times, it isn’t the best time for us to use our wisest judgment. Now, asking you never to get angry is unrealistic, but maybe it’s about how you can curb your anger or direct it into something else. Because a lot of times anger really isn’t about the other person it’s about us. It’s about what we are experiencing and then how we decide to process those feelings…and anger is an easy emotion or reaction to let out of the bottle rather than trying to take a moment to process a situation differently.
I was reading a book called Do One Thing Different by Bill O’Hanlon and he was talking about if there was something you wanted to change, you could change the whole outcome of the situation by doing one thing differently. In the book he had the example of a couple arguing all the time. And so they decided to be committed to doing one thing different during their arguments. So every time they argued, they said they agreed to stop immediately no matter what and go together to the bathroom and continue the argument there. If they still wanted to argue they could continue it in the bathroom, but when they got in that small space together and saw how ridiculous it was they laughed about it which changed the whole argument and they made up easier.
What changed in that example was not their anger was snubbed out, but more because of their willingness to do something different to change. And that willingness was to make a pact together first by changing the environment. The environmental change made them laugh, but the commitment for them both to do something to together—to stop arguing and go somewhere else actually connected them. It literally had them moving in the same direction together physically…and then mentally.
So how do we become better at dealing with our anger? I actually see it in a multiple step process.
- -1) We need to ask ourselves what anger is doing for us, is it helping us or hurting us? I know it seems like an obvious question but sometimes we need to ask obvious questions out loud to come to realizations how boneheaded we’ve been being.
- -2) To understand that when we are angry we aren’t able to do our best thinking at the time.
- -3) We need to understand to become more aware of what happens when we are angry so we can begin noticing when we get to those places without being aware of it, and so we can deal with the emotions more efficiently rather than being controlled by them
- -4) To decide what emotion we really want to be in. If it’s anger then sure, sometimes anger can help us say things we might not normally say, as I said it’s that high-risk high reward scenario. But maybe it’s not really about being angry, but more of being in a place that we feel we can voice ourselves freely in a constructive manner instead of a destructive one.
When we begin to become more aware of what anger feels like, what we do when we’re angry, and what we really want—we awaken ourselves to make better choices. Like in the book Do One Thing Different, it’s about having a bookmark, or awareness ping, within your mind that when you begin acting a certain way you become aware of it and do something different. Because I can guarantee that most of us don’t want to feel angry; we’d like to do something different. But when we say that, “anger is out of my control I can’t help it…” you are essentially telling your mind that it’s ok to be this way and there’s nothing to be done about it…which is a lie to yourself. You are essentially conditioning your mind to act powerless, and claim defeat, without understanding your true power over yourself.
That’s why affirmations are such a powerful tool when we use them efficiently. They are a focal points, they are a pause and a breather to look at what we really want instead of what we don’t want, and they are commands and directions given to the brain over and over again to begin reprogramming your mind. What do you think happens when you keep telling yourself I have no control over my anger, it just happens? You give your mind and body permission to act a certain way without consequence and you give yourself a way out of being responsible.
And maybe that’s what affirmations, really, are all about. A responsibility to be our best selves, and a responsibility to act a certain way to others and within the world.
So, what if you were to make it your responsibility to be slower to anger, slower to judge, and quicker to love and forgive…not just for others and for other things, but for ourselves as well. What if you made it your mission to stop blaming others and decide to take responsibility for how you process events? What if you made it your mission not to punish people or yourself by getting angry but to find a better, more constructive, way to move forward?
The problem isn’t that we get angry, the problem is what we do when we are angry. And that’s why those famous techniques of counting to 10 or taking 10 deep breaths when we’re angry, are so effective when we utilize them in the moment of our anger. They help us to stop the emotion from elevating any more than it already is, it helps us to step back for a moment and become aware of what we really want, and by breathing deeper, we give our body what it needs—oxygen. As Dr. Fuller said, when we’re angry the body is physiologically in survival mode trying to get energy any way that it can. So that oxygen literally gives our body and brain exactly what it needs to help it get out of fight or flight mode more readily.
Anger is fear; and if we let anger control us, we let fear run our lives. So let us be slow to anger and judgment, for it really doesn’t help our cognitive skills. But let us be quick to love and forgive—not just to help others, but because it heals us in the end as well.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Have you ever thought about what you do when you get angry? Are you aware of the signs that are happening as anger is bubbling to the surface? Again, I’m not saying we can’t get angry, but unchecked anger and being unaware of anger ARE the problems. So the next time you’re angry, see if you were aware of what got you to that point, see what you do when you are angry, and see if you can find a way to calm your anger before reacting.
I want to leave you with a quote from Epectitus, “When you are offended at any man's fault, turn to yourself and study your own failings. Then you will forget your anger.”
I Am Quick To Love
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#399 February 3rd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Committed To Finding The Best Way
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” ~Thomas A. Edison
Sometimes our lives are hard because we make them hard. I was thinking back to my college days where I used to eat a lot of hard boiled eggs. I wanted to get some good and easy protein in for my workouts so I’d hard boil a lot of eggs during the week for a quick and easy meal.
My grandmother had given me one of her hardboiled egg makers when I left for college and I loved that contraption. You could put 8 eggs in it, a little water to help steam it, and then plug the machine in and in about 15 minutes the eggs would come out nice and hot. I would then cool them off with some cold water so I could eat them right away.
And after years of use, the metal inside the egg maker was rusting. It probably wasn’t the safest machine as I think it was made in the 60s or 70s…at least by the way it looked. So I decided I had to give up on making eggs in that machine. Now mind you, these were the days before Google was so easily accessible, and so I decided to try my hand at hard boiling eggs by boiling water in a pot.
I’d get the water boiling and then I would drop an egg in, and once it hit the bottom it would crack every time. So then I tried a spoon, as I would work to gently try to get the egg to the bottom of the pot. Yet my spoons weren’t long enough for me to not burn my hand as I’d try every angle I could in a Cirque Du Soleil arm contortion act…and the egg would eventually slip off before I wanted it to as it’s hit the bottom and crack every time.
I was a bachelor and inexperienced in the kitchen, so I felt lost as I had no one to guide me. After multiple attempts I gave up on the idea, with a tear falling down my cheek knowing I would never have another hard-boiled egg again, unless I attended a Super Bowl Party or an Easter lunch.
I said to myself that it can’t be done, and I don’t know how people do it. And so I gave up on my good friend the hard-boiled egg.
I also think sometimes when we’re defeated by something it’s easier to let go of it because we’re too embarrassed to ask for help in fear of looking foolish. And that’s why Google is so popular, well besides the fact you can find almost any information you need on it, it’s because it’s much easier to ask a machine a question that won’t judge us for not knowing something.
But as luck would have it, a few months or years down the line I met another hard-boiled egg aficionado. And I felt brave enough to ask the question how they were smart enough to not let that dang pot best them in the battle of wits.
And they asked what I had been doing, so I told them I’d get a pot, and I’d fill the pot with water, and then I’d put it on the stove and put the burner on high to get the water boiling faster, and then I’d try to drop the egg in…and that no matter how gentle I was I could never do it right.
They chuckled a little bit, and told me that the best way they had done it was to put the eggs in the pot first, then add the water, and then put it on the stove to heat up. And a light bulb went over my head as we laughed about how easy their way was.
I’m glad it was a good friend, and the only reason they chuckled was because it was one of those laughs you do when your child does something cute but they have no clue to what they are doing. So I felt silly after, but only because I thought if I had just done a little more contemplation on how to get over this problem I could’ve figured it out.
I was reading a book called The Outliers: The Story of Success by Malcolm Gladwell. In his book he had a chapter talking about people trying to figure out math problems, and I can’t recall the exact amount of time, but I think he said in this study where they gave people a math problem, if they couldn’t figure it out in 30 seconds people gave up.
And I see we do that in our lives. We have trouble with something and either we give up, or we go to Google, or we go to our calculator, or we ask someone right away instead of really working on our problem-solving skill muscles. A friend of mine who is an excellent manager told me a story about how she worked with her employees. They would come to her and ask her a question, and she would say, “well what do you think?” And their first response is, “I don’t know, that’s why I came to you.” And my friend would say, “go back and find the answer.”
She said some of her employees hated her because they felt she wasn’t helping them. But little did they know she was trying to make them more self-sufficient. She didn’t want them to be stuck and always coming to her; she wanted them to be their own boss and find a way to figure it out. And later on, certain employees that were under her eventually moved up in the company and would thank her for what she did. They would lead their team the same way. Instead of feeding people answers, they believed that the person could find an answer.
So when you’re stuck on something, do you really take the time to think about how you could solve it, or do you try to get out of feeling uncomfortable right away by going somewhere else to be given an answer? Yes, I know there will be times we need help, but if we don’t work on problem-solving more within ourselves, then we will always be looking for some sort of crutch to help us, to support us, instead of us finding our own best way.
I know for me, I felt stupid by the hard-boiled egg conundrum as I couldn’t figure it out, so I was embarrassed to ask anyone until I was far enough away from the problem to talk with someone about it. I know it sounds silly, but there were many times I wouldn’t raise my hand in class to ask a question that everyone else might have been thinking, for fear that I might look stupid. No one else was raising their hand, so they must all be getting it…when in fact a lot of people had the same questions I had…but were afraid like me to ask.
So if you’re a manager, a parent, a teacher, a friend, or in some sort of role in leadership, how can you believe more in your people? How can you believe so much in them that you encourage them to be their own problem solvers?
I know we don’t motivate anyone, but we can help guide people, so how do you think you can help those people in your care to be excited to find their own ways?
I believe one way to do that is to remind them that they have a unique set of skills and knowledge that no one else has. And that they bring something amazing to the table if they just step back and take time to think of better ways instead of trying to do it only one way. Help those in our care to not take the easy road, but to be excited to bring their own uniqueness to the answers.
Now I know my hard boiled egg story is a silly story, but it’s a perfect story on how we give up too easily. I had something I loved doing, but since I hadn’t taken the time to ask myself, “well why isn’t it working…” I decided to just move on. I decided that it was too much work, and I couldn’t be bothered with it.
I don’t like to bad mouth schools or teachers or the educational system as it is a great resource for us in developing into smarter humans. But in my schooling experience, I didn’t have many teachers who encouraged me to bring out my uniqueness. They wanted the specific answer they were looking for, and if I gave it to them, then I did a good job. In college, I saw I wasn’t being graded on my individuality and creativity, I was being graded on giving the professor exactly what he or she wanted. And I am not saying all professors are like this, but it was my experience that when I tried to be more creative, I got worse grades.
Now I wasn’t looking for people to tell me I was amazing. But I guess I just wanted a little push or pat on the back that let me know it was good that I was thinking outside of the box and that while I didn’t get a good grade for being different…it was great that I extended myself a little more in a unique way. Maybe if someone had let me know that it was good I was thinking differently I might have tried a little harder. Because what I really saw was the red marks on how I was wrong and I felt stupid for putting myself out there.
And I learned how to survive in the system; I saw that to get better grades I just had to fall in line and give my teachers what they wanted. I became a robot going to school to get my diploma. I didn’t go to learn something or to be educated; I went for that piece of paper as I figured that was the prize, all the while not understanding that the grade, or the paper wasn't the answer…the education was the prize. And I told myself I would get that education in the job market.
I’m not looking to down anyone in leadership roles such as teachers, parents, or manager for how they operate their life. Like my friend who’s a manager, and asked her employees to find their own answers. I’m sure some employees left the company or thought she was a jerk and didn’t care about them. And that could’ve been how I viewed my teachers, not knowing their real motive in helping me. But this podcast is not about them; it’s about you. It’s about trusting yourself a little more. It’s about asking more of yourself. It’s about taking a little more time not just to do what always has been done, but maybe to ask—is there a better way I could do something?
Because in life I think there’s so much more than just being a good soldier. I think there’s something great when we decide to step out of line and share our uniqueness with the world. The world doesn’t need any more automatons. The world needs individual hearts, the world needs new thoughts on old problems, and the world needs more creativity in sharing our beautiful selves with it.
I know for me I was scared to step out and be thought a fool, or to look silly, or to be different. But inside I don’t want to be the same as everyone else. In my past, I fell in line because I didn’t want to be left out, and not loved for being something that people didn’t understand. And so I killed those notions of individuality, so I could feel the love of acceptance. But all acceptance ever did for me, was kill me a little more every day. I was killing my authentic self to fall in line with the expectation of what I thought others wanted of me.
So let us not be afraid of being loved, but let us remember that when we are willing to step out and be our amazing unique selves, we will find the people who we resonate with. When we step out a little more we will find the people who truly love us for who we are. Know that when we step out of the norm willing to look silly for not knowing an answer, that over time we will find a better answer.
Steve Jobs said this, “Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
Our lives are short when we look back at the end of it. Being 38, I can’t believe how fast time flies. And I think it’s a shame for us to look back and wish we followed our heart a little more, or that we wished we spent a little more time problem solving instead of giving up too early, or if maybe we believed a little more in ourselves we could’ve been at ease being our authentic selves.
One of the greatest tragedies in life are those of us who live a life of impersonation afraid of sharing who we truly are. It is a wasted life…because we’re living someone else’s life, as we’re throwing ours away at the same time.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What are some of the things you gave up too easily on in your life? My hard-boiled egg problem is a great example because if I was willing to give up that easy on a small problem, what makes me think I would work hard on a big problem? How we do anything is how we do everything.
When something is hard we say in our mind that it wasn’t a big deal, or it didn’t matter to us and that’s why we acted a certain way, but if we treat the small matters with a lack of respect it becomes a habit in how we treat all matters.
So look at things you’ve given up to easily on, and come back to them and ask yourself if there could be a better way. Like the hard-boiled egg issue, I had to do it backwards to get it right.
And after you do that, look at things you are struggling with now. See if you can come at the problem with a different eye to break the mold of traditional answers that are keeping you stuck in your predicament.
I think it’s great to be vigilant in solving our problems, and so we must remember that lesson with others. I believe we need to be a rock for people, but not in giving them the answers, but believing in them, and letting them know that they can find the answer. Let people know that you want them to grow instead of being reliant on someone or something else. Because one of the greatest feelings in the world is knowing that you were strong enough to figure something out and do it on your own when you needed to.
Help people become their own superheroes. Ernest Hemmingway said, “The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them.” So let us trust people with their own lives, and believe in them enough, to come to even better answers than we could’ve given them
I’m Committed To Finding The Best Way
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#398 February 2nd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Remain Focused On What I Really Want
"One way to boost our will power and focus is to manage our distractions instead of letting them manage us."
~Daniel Goleman
I’ll be honest with you, this week, writing has been hard. I’ve wanted to watch Animal Planet II on Netflix, watching those lemurs fly from tree to tree is a beautiful thing, or those baby lizards escape those racer snakes. It’s amazing how my heart’s in my chest, as I’m leaning forward in my chair about to scream out, look behind you…get out of there… jump little buddy. As of late, I’ve been working on my podcast brainstorming later in the day. Which has me finalizing tomorrows podcast later and later in the night. So I put more pressure on myself, and to top it all off yesterday my laptop crapped out on me.
I have a Microsoft Surface tablet that I take notes with for students and clients, so I thought I could make it work, but there were a few things I was uncertain about. I took a deep breath, and I said in my head, “Chris, don’t freak out, stay calm it will be ok. You’ll figure out a way to make it all work out…and if you can’t, hopefully your listeners won’t turn into a raging mob with their pitchforks and flaming torches like you see in monster movies like Dracula or Frankenstein… wanting to take off my head for missing a day.”
So I pulled out my tablet computer and got to work. I downloaded all the applications I needed, and updated the ones that hadn’t been updated and set to the task of getting my podcast finished and published any way that I possibly could. It took me probably an extra two hours to get it set up before getting to the normal work of things. And while I wrote yesterdays podcast, I kept focusing on what I didn’t like. I focused on how the screen was smaller than I liked, or how the keypad wasn’t the normal size I like and I felt all cramped, and I focused on how the mouse wasn’t as responsive as I like. And so understating it slightly, you could say I was a little frustrated last night.
That frustration last night got to me today, and when I got home from training my morning personal training clients, all I wanted to do was put on some Animal Planet, or Lethal Weapon 3, or any program on Netflix and binge watch the hell out of it instead of putting my hands on that smaller tablet keypad to type out my podcast. My thoughts about what was bothering me had wiped me out mentally and physically.
And with the frustrations of the physical problem of the laptop looming over me, I began to spiral into other thoughts that kept telling me it was ok to give up and give in. As I said in the back of mind, “it’s ok if you miss a day. You’re pushing yourself too hard; everyone needs a break. You weren’t meant to create this podcast longer than a year anyways; I figured you would have given up after three months at the most. It’s ok if you miss a day, your podcasts aren’t that good anyways. Is it really going to affect anyone if you stopped recording your podcasts?” And as I said all those discouraging things, I felt many more negative thoughts bubbling up to consciousness.
Dealing with depression and suicidal thoughts when I was younger those voices were incessant in my mind. They made their home within me and became the loudest voices because I allowed them to take root. I created most of them because at the time I figured the more negatively I could say something to myself then maybe I might be moved to change because of that motivation style. And so the more I said them, the less they became suggestions and the more they became my beliefs and my truths.
The reason I’m bringing all of this up is even though I don’t think about suicide anymore, and I don’t get feeling hopeless like I used—those negative voices are still there, and they’ll always be there.
I don’t believe we ever leave anything behind. Our minds are such powerful filing cabinets that it doesn’t forget what we tell it. But don’t be upset by this idea, because those negative thoughts don’t have to control us. It really is how we decide to focus. Those negative thoughts were the loudest when I was younger because I didn’t work to practice kinder thoughts to silence the untruth of the negative voices. I just let that incessant chatter do its thing thinking it wasn’t hurting anyone.
There was a study that said to negate a negative thought or saying it would take 3 positive thoughts to equalize it, and 5 to overcome it. We say that every thought has the same amount of power, which I believe, but negative thoughts have a longer staying power when we haven’t worked to strengthen our positive resolve. Those negative thoughts are like velcro—they stick easier because they take no effort to prove. We can say them and automatically believe it. When we say, “I’m no good, or I’m stupid, or it never works out for me, "do we ever ask the question…well, is that really true?
No! We just take our word for it.
So that’s why positivity seems to take more work, because to overcome a negative thought you have to work 5 times harder. But again don’t get discouraged, it just means that with more powerful positive thoughts you’ll have to do it a little more. Which means you’ll constantly be doing it, so it becomes a part of every moment of your life.
I like to think of it like this. The American Heart Association says you should do cardio most days of the week. So, the organization is trying to make the thought of movement easier for you. They’re hoping to help you to wrap your mind around it in a way that helps you see that healthy living isn’t all that hard. They don’t say ok you have to workout 3 hours a day, eat right, get 8 hours of sleep, and whatever other things we try to do on our fitness regimen on the very first week we begin it.
They want to help you break it down and see that being healthy isn’t all that hard, or that crazy, as you can easily make it a part of your daily living. And this is what I try to do with my personal training clients, I want to make it as easy for them to wrap their mind around the idea that their fitness goals shouldn’t take over everything in their life—it should be a component of every part of their life. It’s the thought not of going to the gym 3-5 times a week, but to make movement a part of their routine every day. It’s about helping them become more active not just at the gym but to have a whole lifestyle change where it feels weird not to be moving. It’s about helping people realize their life is a gym, not just a physical place where weights are located, and screams of agony are felt, all while personal trainers laugh their maniacal laughter for causing people that pain.
So coming back to my computer problem, those small negative thoughts drained me. I wanted to quit, I wanted to take a break, I got lost in my self-pity as I told myself that this sucks and it’s just my luck and why does this always happen to me—which makes me want to give in and quit. But I know what my purpose is, as I made this my mission when I first started this podcast. It was to provide value every day by putting out a podcast for you and for me. It is the knowing that I made the commitment to follow through no matter what.
And even though it would be nice to rest during this stressful time, it’s not what I want. And I won’t let those negative voices win, because they are no longer the loudest voices—my positive voices are. The ones that say, “get back up, you got this.” The ones that say, “it might be hard now, but it will be worth it in the end.” The ones that say “every great achiever had a difficult time, we only saw them in their moments of victory.” And the ones that say, “you deserve to win..so keep fighting and moving forward…you got this…I believe in you.”
So what’s the goal you’ve been shooting for, but you feel drained, and feel like it will never happen? I want to remind you that all the obstacles in your way aren’t there to stop you, but they’re there to strengthen you. They’re there to make you more resilient; they’re there to create a path for you; and they’re there to make an example out of you so that when someone else is going through the same things, you’ll be able to say, “I was there and I made it through because I decided to stick with it...and you will too” You will be the example of what was possible, and you will help people reach their goals because you decided to have faith in yourself.
You deserve to reach your goals, but you have to remain focused on those positive voices by thinking and saying them 5 times more than those lying negative voices. The reason a voice gets louder in our head is not by volume of sound…but by volume of repetition and focus upon it.
I believe in you. And maybe it might feel hard right now for whatever is standing in your way, but that’s because you’ve been focusing on what’s going wrong…rather than seeing that you will make it right with resolve and determination to make anything work. You’ve been focusing on where your weaknesses are instead of finding ways to see your strengths and exploit those more. How we change is not remaining focused on why it will never work, but by remaining focused on why we will always find a way to make it work.
Today’s Personal Commitment:I had to become so drained by a small problem like my laptop crashing to awaken me to all those little voices that were depleting me. So take a look at your day, look at the things that drain you during your day, and ask yourself why you think you’re feeling so drained.
Yes, we probably could take better care of ourselves by eating healthier, getting more rest, and working out, but maybe that energy drain is coming from that small incessant chatter we allow to take over. You know, those thoughts that focus on why we don’t want to be doing something, or how we would rather be doing something else
I want to be realistic here and say that, yes, there are things we have to do in life that we don’t feel like doing, but what if instead of hating why you had to do something you remembered why you enjoy doing it? We don’t like paying bills, but we pay them because they bring something good in our life; well, hopefully. That 5th fur coat layaway payment might be overdoing it.
So write down the things you find yourself wanting to avoid, and ask yourself how you can find ways to stop looking at it negatively. Ask yourself how you can see what you want and find the energy in tackling the task rather than allowing it to drain you
I Remain Focused On What I Really Want
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#398 February 1st The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I See The Greatness In People
“I am suggesting that as we go through life, we 'accentuate the positive.' I am asking that we look a little deeper for the good, that we still our voices of insult and sarcasm, that we more generously compliment and endorse virtue and effort.”
~Gordon B. Hinckley
A good friend of mine would always get mad at me when I would compliment her. Well maybe mad is overstating it. When I’d tell her how awesome she was, and all the great things she was doing she would brush it off and say that’s your job to be nice to people. And I don’t ever remember any chapters in my study manuals about kindness or complimenting as a requirement.
So I would stop her right there and say, it’s not my job to be nice to people. That has nothing to do with what I do…those jobs are about helping people. I compliment people because I like to notice the great things in people. I like to let those people know they’re seen whether they have a cool tie on that I like, or a nice outfit that’s pretty, or that they did something really great.
And so people can come to the wrong conclusion about what I do. They think that because I compliment a lot of people that I don’t put thought into how I’m complimenting them. They think it takes the “specialness” and the sincerity out of it.
And what a crazy way to think—that if you compliment too many people…then it must not be true. For me, I want to find a way to see the greatness in people. I want to find a way to let people know about their significance in life because we either don’t realize how amazing we are, or we have been beaten down too many times that we need someone to renergize and remind us again who we are at our core.
So question: what if you were to take a different approach to your life by being a greatness detective? What if you were to trurn your eyes from being in autopilol and eternal critic mode finding fault in things, you were instead to purposefully look for the amazing things in the people around you. What if you noticed the small changes you liked and let people you noticed when they got a haircut, or the nice dress they wore today, or that colorful tie that caught your eye, or those small habits that they utilize in their life that impress you? What if you were looking for ways to help people shine more by making them feel better about themselves?
What do you think that would do to the world if we all practiced that a little more?
For me, my complimenting is an active way to be awake. It is a way to look for the great things instead of always trying to focus on what can darken and cloudy my life. And I compliment so much because I want to be this way all the time, not just when I feel happy or good about things sometimes…but that I choose to find the good so I create more good.
Maybe we’ve become a society that’s so disconnected that we’re scared and embarrassed in talking to strangers, or letting acquaintances or even loved ones…that there’s something awesome about them. Which says to me it’s not about them anymore, it’s more about us not wanting to look foolish. It’s about us scared to put ourselves out there in being kind to people because maybe it might feel a little awkward. But why should it feel awkward to give a compliment?
I like to think that maybe it’s a little deeper than being disconnected. The definition of candor is “the quality of being open and honest in expression.” And maybe it’s why sincere compliments scare us, it’s a vulnerability. And I think since people think that I give a lot of compliments or I look for reasons to compliment people that I’m not being sincere, or that I’m using cookie cutter compliments. And I think to live our lives with a certain amount of candor we must learn to be creative.
So if we are to give compliments, we need to be creative in looking at seeing people in new ways, and we need to be open to saying what we truly like about someone without fear of looking or feeling silly for letting them know about the things we appreciate in them.
But knowing how to compliment is only half the battle if we don’t know why we are complimenting. Everyone may have their own reasons for complementing, but for me it’s about making people feel good, it’s about projecting a better energy into the world, it’s about noticing people, it’s about challenging myself to see more in this world, and it makes me feel good to make others feel good.
I believe a better question to ask ourselves “why are we doing something,” is to look at the opposite side and ask, “why wouldn’t we do it?” Making people feel good is a craft that’s been forgotten about. We’ve gotten so lost in our own worlds thinking about all that’s going wrong with us, that we forget that other people are struggling like we are. And when we only focus upon all the problems that are in our world…we tend to surround ourselves with a heavier cloud. We stop being creative in finding the good in the world as we get caught in what’s wrong with our personal world.
Maybe I’m a little different, but I hope you feel the same way as me. I want to live in a world where people sincerely compliment each other, where people aren’t afraid to say what’s great about another person, where people look for reasons to make another person feel good, where people look deeper to see more beauty in this world, and where we truly try to connect with people by lifting them up rather than breaking them down.
Candor, and sincerity in our compliments will do one thing—it will make this world a better place. It feels good to be complimented, so why wouldn’t we want other people to feel good? When people feel good around us, the energy is changed around us. So I hope you find more ways to compliment people creatively and sincerely, and I hope you continually compliment and love yourself like you deserve. Compliments all begin from within, and the more we love ourselves, then the more we see the great things about ourselves. And when we see more greatness within ourselves then the more we will see the great things in others and in this world
Today’s Personal Commitment:Go out of your way to compliment someone today. Don’t say a a scripted compliment either. Look for the things that stick out that you like within someone and let that person know something looks good on them, or what a good job they did on that presentation in the meeting the other day, or how you like their energy and you appreciate all the great things they bring to the office by being themselves
There’s nothing weird or awkward about complimenting someone, unless you decide it’s weird. So the next time you compliment someone, instead of thinking about it as an extension of you and you forcing something…think of it as a natural part of you. Think of yourself as a great skills and characteristic detective letting people know they are noticed and the great things about them are appreciated. What could it hurt? It might just change everything about how you operate your life…in a great way.
I See The Greatness In People
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together, Personal Development Life Coach- Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by: - Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. - I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license. Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#396 January 31st The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Allow What I Want To Come To Me
Meditation…who has time for that, and why should I even do it? I get anxious sitting around trying to think about nothing. I mean 5 minutes of breathing and trying to calm myself is way too long for me…I’m a busy person; I got better things to do with my time. I have more productive things to do with my time.
And that’s what we can, or maybe DO, say when we think of meditation.
We’ve heard the benefits of what meditation does for us, such as it helps reduce depression, it helps to increase your focus, it can help to manage ADHD, it helps calms your emotions, it helps to lower your blood pressure, it can help with your sleep, and many more benefits than we have time to say in this podcast.
And even hearing all the scientific studies on proving how great meditation can be for us, why do we still not want to do it? Why do we feel it’s too hard? Why do we feel we don’t want to even try it? Why do we think it’s a waste of time?
I do get how easy it can be to not want to meditate…even after I’ve seen first hand the benefits that meditation has brought into my life. There still are times where I’ll say to myself that it’s too hard or I don’t have time. But the fact of the matter is it’s not that I don’t have time, it’s that I’ve gotten too busy and haven’t scheduled time in for it, and I’ve forgotten what meditation means to me.
For me, meditation is the calming that helps start my day on the right foot. It’s my compass making me more aware of the emotions I want to be living within. It’s the act of purposefully lowering my stress and anxiety to be able to function more efficiently throughout my day. But it’s so easy for me to forget to take a moment to calm my mind, my body, and my emotions…as I want to get through my tasks as fast as possible.
Take for example when I was brainstorming this podcast. I sat down in front of my computer putting my fingers on the keys and began clacking away trying to force all the ideas out, so I wouldn’t forget anything. I didn’t want to waste any time, as I have to finish the podcast up as fast as possible as I still have to record and get everything else ready for this particular podcast. And I feel the pressure stacking up as I focus on when I’m done with this podcast that I have another one to think about, and then another one after that.
Doing 365 podcast in a year puts a lot of pressure on me thinking about how I can’t miss a day, and that if I slack off I’m going to ruin my streak, and if I ruin my streak I’ll let you guys down, and if I let you guys down then you’ll never trust me and I’ll lose my audience, and once I lose you then I’ll be a failure, and soon after that I’ll be living on the streets a sad and broken man. Ok, it does sound ridiculous saying that out loud…but we put so much pressure on ourselves, not realizing the toll it’s taking on us.
And really unknowingly, I’m hurting my health, my mental sanity, and my emotional peace not putting these thoughts in check. And the way I do that is by meditating. And so after trying to brainstorm this podcast, after I feel the uneasiness in my body, the pressure and stress within me, I take my hands away from the keypad realizing that I was stressing out from trying to perfect this podcast.
I stressed out about trying to force something. And not just produce something good, but that I have to make the best podcast ever. It’s the thought that it’s never good enough, and I have to keep growing and making it better, and if every single one isn’t better than the last one, then I’m a failure. And so I sit and think for a moment to become aware of the subtle seemingly unnoticeable pressure I’ve put on myself. I work to understand and feel it in my body, I work to feel it in my mind, and I work to see how those thoughts were crippling me.
After I take notice of that stress, I ask myself if this is how I want to be? And if I am being honest with myself, I answer that question in my mind saying “no,” and then I take action by stepping away. I close my eyes and take some deep breaths. I don’t even have to do it for a long period of time. I’ll take about 5 to 10 deep purposeful slow breaths in and out…which usually takes me about a minute to two minutes to do…and something miraculous happens. I feel better. Meditation is about me connecting to something bigger than just myself.
Now I’m not saying it’s a miracle that everything that was blocked is now unblocked, but that the start of a different feeling begins to rise within me. It’s the building of something better within myself. It’s like my brain was being a dam to the water of calm and ideas within myself, and once I took those deeper breaths and purposefully slowed down…my life sped up in a good way. Not in one of rushing, but one in allowing something better to come to me.
And I think that’s why we say we don’t have time for meditation, or that it doesn’t work:
- 1) First off we haven’t practiced it enough to let ourselves create that relaxation within ourselves. We tell ourselves that we would rather be doing something else. Which creates stress and conflict to begin with.
- 2) And secondly, we haven’t asked ourselves why we would want to find that calm and ease in our lives. We live in a world where it’s rush, rush, rush…hurry up and get it done…hurry up so you can slow down…but we never actually slow down.
And maybe if you were to look at meditation differently you might make it a normal part of your life. Meditation isn’t about sitting and not thinking about things, it’s about calming yourself to the things that are happening. It’s not the act of trying to calm yourself to get things, it’s about changing the way you pursue things. It’s about finding the peace within yourself to allow things to come to you easier.
If you were to think about your car, pretend for a moment that you couldn’t turn the car off. You lost the keys, and if you turn it off, it might not ever turn back on again. And so you leave it running 24/7. Let’s say you get fired from your current job, where you only drove to work and then drove back home. So you get a new job as a newspaper delivery person, and you’re constantly driving this car non-stop. And every week your boss says what a good job you're doing, so he adds more deliveries to your routes which increases the demand on your car each week.
What do you think would happen to a car that doesn’t ever turn off, and for the owner who doesn’t have time to maintain it? It’s an inefficient way of running a car, and over time it would crap out and break down. Well, that’s what we do to our brains and bodies when we don’t take the time to maintain and decompress ourselves from the stresses that are continually happening throughout the day. Your brain never shuts off, and if you are constantly running without taking time to maintain it, then you are overloading your system. You are effectively becoming more and more inefficient.
So, what if you were to see your life as a car, are you maintaining it like you want to? Do you think you could operate at a higher performance rating if you learned to take better care of yourself whether it be by working out, eating better, meditating, or doing hobbies and activities that you enjoy? We think that working out, or eating right, and even meditating is hard because it’s taking time away from the things we have to do, or the things we’d rather be doing. But all those positive, re-centering activities, could be things that actually give us more time.
Think of your life as a pie chart. And for each slice in that pie, think of it as a part of your life that’s important to you and that it’s something you’d put your time and effort into. So things like your family, your work life, your fun time, your personal development, and your spirituality could all be different slices within that whole pie. Think about what slices are missing in that pie that you would want in there, like volunteering, or money management, or whatever else you want to put in your life.
So before, we might’ve been thinking that meditation would be a slice that would take away room from the other things in our life. We think to ourselves that meditation takes time, and I only have so much time—I don’t have any extra time to spare at the moment as I’m already spread so thin. But what meditation actually does, is it expands those life slices in your pie instead of taking away from them. It makes them bigger, it makes them more efficient, and it makes them better. It makes you more creative, it will help you to have more energy, it will help you to be more focused, and it will help you to be more balanced, calmer, and in control of yourself in every situation.
We think that to meditate we have to be like those gurus who do it for 30 minutes or an hour. And maybe that might be good for some, but you don’t have to meditate long to get great benefits from it. As I said before, when I sit down to write any podcast brainstorming session, I take 1 minute to sit back in my chair and take anywhere from 5 to 10 deep breaths in and out before I start working. And it changes my whole demeanor. I go from being blocked into feeling less pressure, less stress, and feeling freer altogether. The words come out easier, as I feel more relaxed and focused.
So if you want to be more relaxed, if you’d like to be more balanced in your life, if you’d like to be less stressed, if you’d like to be more creative, if you’d like to be healthier, and if you’d like to have things come more easily to you…then create a time slot in your life to meditate every day…even if it’s only for 1-5 minutes.
But if you’d like to be blocked, if you’d like to be more stressed, if you’d like to stay in the same spot you’ve always been in, if you’d like to keep forcing things, and if you’d like to feel out of control and tense—then don’t meditate, and keep living on autopilot. Keep your internal car running 24/7 pushing it harder and harder thinking that it’ll never break down.
In Greek Mythology there’s a story about King Sisyphus who was thought to be one of the craftiest and clever of all men. There are many different legends about his deceit and trickery…and one such tale talked about how he had tricked his way out of death. Thanatos, also known as Death, came with chains to bring King Sisyphus to the underworld. And King Sisyphus said there must be a mistake, and he didn’t believe him, so he asked to prove the chains worked by Thanatos putting them on himself. Which at the time prevented people from dying as Death had been chained up. Eventually, King Sisyphus finally was brought to the underworld, and for his punishment, he was to roll a huge boulder up a mountain every day. And when he would get almost to the top of that mountain, the boulder would be too much weight and would roll back down to the bottom. Making King Sisyphus having to eternally keep starting over… again and again, and again.
The lesson is about pointless and hopeless labor. And the punishment is not in doing the work for eternity, but it’s about being conscious knowing you are doing something pointless. And that’s what meditation does for us, it awakens us so we don’t have to be in autopilot, so we won’t be in a pointless struggle.
Because when we don’t take time to re-center ourselves, to recharge, to take better care of our minds, bodies, and souls…then we are like King Sisyphus thinking we are being craftier than the nature of life. We are thinking we can outsmart the Universe, and outwork it…instead of seeing if we took time to center ourselves we wouldn’t have to work as hard, we wouldn’t have to play foolish games in trying to beat the unbeatable Universe, and the things we want would find their way easier to us.
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying this is a chance to be lazy; I’m saying this is a chance to be more productive and efficient in the tasks you set out to do. This is a chance to truly awaken yourself. And while I’ve talked about the benefits from what meditation will bring you, the reason we don’t do it is because we haven’t chosen the ONE reason why we would MOST benefit from it. Sure all those healthy things sound nice, but it can be overwhelming. And I believe the way we stick to something, is by finding the importance something will bring into our lives.
So, if there would be only ONE reason you could meditate and get the benefits of what you wanted from it…what would it be?
I know for me it’d be focus…because every time I meditate I feel laser focused and I get stuff done. When I’m focused, it works on every part of my life—it helps me to focus on my emotions more efficiently, it helps me to focus on my creativity, and it helps me to focus on my self-love…to be kinder to myself. Which always helps me be more productive and happier overall.
So instead of looking at why you don’t want to meditate, what if you were to look at all the benefits that meditation can give you, and you were to choose ONE that would make a huge difference in your life?
What if you chose that ONE benefit you wanted to expand upon, and you decided to do that by meditating every day for at least one minute? Do you think that you can spare one minute of your time to do something that might change your whole life?
That’s up to you, but I do hope you choose to take time to re-center yourself and allow what you want to find its way to you more easily…one way or another.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Whatever you do today find a time to slow down and take some deep breaths in and out for at least a minute. And notice what happens to your body and your mind as you take your attention away from what you have to be doing, and focus only breathing slowly in and out.
And then look online for an article that states all the benefits you can get from meditation. After looking over the list think about the ONE thing you would love to get from the benefits of meditation for your life. And I challenge you to commit to 30 days of taking at least one to five minutes of your day to breathe slowly in and out focusing your energy on allowing that benefit to come to your more naturally.
The reason a lot of us give up on things that could be good for us is we don’t do it enough, we don’t make it a regular habit, we think it’s not working fast enough, we allow other things to distract us, and we lose focus of what we want. So find that ONE benefit that you want to allow more naturally into your life, and look less on trying to force things, and more into allowing the re-centering of yourself through meditation to help that thing you want to find its way to you.
I Allow What I Want To Come To Me
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#395 January 30th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Kindness Is My Truth
“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.”
~Dalai Lama
I believe the lessons in life are patterns that keep popping up until we notice them and find a way to confront them. One of the truths that keeps happening in my life is to speak up when it would be easier to be quiet. When it would be easier not to cause conflict, and for both parties to go their separate ways unchanged. And while that path may be the easiest one, it’s not the path that I want to take. I don’t want to be unchanged. I want to be changed by confronting the patterns that the Universe keeps reminding me of. I want to be changed by living a certain truth.
And so that truth for me, means speaking when it’s uncomfortable. That truth means sticking up for things and people in certain manners when I feel it’s appropriate. And the reason I say appropriate, is because I don’t want to be a person who seems like he knows it all, or that I’m trying to force people to think and be a certain way. As I know sometimes correcting people, can be a thinly veiled scheme at controlling people. And so I work to check myself and my ego, to ask why am I doing something. I work to hopefully help others, and myself at times, to be aware of behaviors that are harmful to self and others.
My good friend Travis and I will talk about Podcasts. He listens to a bunch of them, so he’s in the know of what’s good out there. He told me about this satirical crime podcast called “Done Disappeared.” It’s a funny take on crime podcasts as the story is so ridiculous and the narrator John David Booter takes his seriousness over the top. The podcast takes place in Pennsylvania somewhere, and Travis commented, “I didn’t know there were so many southern accents in Pennsylvania.” And we laugh about how silly it’s been.
After I finished all nine episodes of this ridiculously funny podcast, I wanted to leave it a rating and review. When something makes a difference in my day, I want to let the creator know that I appreciate the work they put into their craft. And with podcasts the more reviews and ratings they get, the higher their ranking for people to find that podcast easier, so I want to help them out in that way.
As I went to give a review, I got distracted looking at the other reviews for the Done Disappeared podcast. And one person had given this podcast a scathing review saying it was the most idiotic, ignorant, and other expletive words about how horrible it was and that you shouldn’t waste your time. They talked about how they loved crime podcasts, and they were so upset that 10 minutes of their life had been wasted since they had to listen to the end of the episode to realize that it was all a hoax and it wasn’t a real crime investigation.
One thing you have to realize about this podcast is everything is fake, and a satirical play on crime podcasts. Even the ads are fake, and if you listen closely it’s pretty hilarious as he is always giving 100% of everything away for putting in his Podcast code Done Disappeared.
After I read the scathing review, I saw that there were other replies to this comment. And these replies told this person that the podcast was a satire, it was a joke, and that they should have a sense of humor and lighten up.
And usually, I know nothing good can come from getting into an argument on the internet with a message board setting. But for some reason I felt I had to say something. So either it was the stupidity in me listening to my ego and saying let’s start a fight, or it was my intuition saying I had to speak my truth and stick up for this podcaster.
And so I tried to tread carefully, as it wasn’t my mission to destroy this person and make them feel bad, but it was my hope that I could help them see that just because you didn’t like something doesn’t mean you have to tear it apart. And so I went on to say that the whole purpose of the podcast was meant to be idiotic, it’s true purpose was to make light of the seriousness of the crime podcasts in a fun way, and that’s what made the podcast brilliant—it did exactly what it was meaning to do. I continued to say, that if you listened closely to the podcast you could tell within the first 30 seconds that there was something off about the crazy stuff he was saying.
I’m laughing about it now as in his intro he would say, “My name, is John David Booter. I’m not a podcaster; I’m a filmmaker. I’ve never made a podcast…but I’ve also never made a film.” As this eerie music plays in the background…all while he pauses perfectly when he speaks.
And so I finished off my comment by saying that sometimes we will hate something because we didn’t understand the purpose of the podcast, and maybe the reason we hated it wasn’t because it was bad, but because we expected something else and felt duped when realizing it was something different. And I then I asked, why must we tear something down negatively to give a review of something?
I hit publish, with an anxious heart, questioning whether I should have written that comment at all. I knew I didn’t want to be harsh in my message, so I hope my kindness came across, but I also didn’t want to get into a no-win battle where it’s back and forth arguing… but I felt I needed to stick up for this podcaster and say what I did, and so I left it at that.
And maybe an hour or so later I got a message letting me know that the reviewer I commented on had commented back. And I was floored by what they said. I thought they were going to tear me a new one and that I should mind my own business…but instead, this person said, “Chris, it really did take me til the end of the episode to figure out it was a parody…it was just my opinion…sorry I’m so stupid.”
And I felt horrible, because I didn’t want this person to feel bad. I just wanted to open their eyes to how harsh they sounded in tearing apart this person’s work. And so I responded back saying, “don’t ever say that you’re stupid, you aren’t stupid. You just were expecting something different.” I said some more things, and the end of my reply, I said this, “I am a creator. I do my own podcast and so I know it can be hard when someone tears apart something you’ve put your hard work into. I know I’m not perfect myself, and I am not judging anyone for their opinion, I have as much work as anyone else in being kind to others as well.”
And the reviewer sent one more comment back to me that said that they were an artist and musician themselves, and they hadn’t thought about what they did—that they would have been upset if someone talked about their work in the exact manner that they had done in their review.
The point I’m hoping to make is that in our criticisms…are we kind when we do it? In our thoughts and words towards others are we speaking a higher truth, one of kindness and compassion in helping someone create something better, or are we just tearing it down?
And this is what was so amazing about that interaction, even though I felt uncomfortable in saying something, and I was questioning whether I should, my intuition was telling me that I should do something, that I should say something. And by doing it, I actually changed this person. And I think the reason I speak when my intuition is telling me so, is not to correct people all the time, but it’s also for me, to remind myself in how I want to be. And hopefully to put that out into the world, so when I’m out of alignment that people will have the courage to speak a truth and a kindness to me in helping me get back on track and be in alignment with my highest self.
Everyone can be a critic, anyone can tear something down, but it takes work to create something, it takes work to give constructive criticism and advice. I think about people who tear things down as my 8th grade counterparts giving their opinion in a book report on a book they didn’t like.
Here’s a reenactment:
Teacher: “Now little Johnny let’s hear your book report on War and Peace.”
Johnny: “This book was a waste of time.”
Teacher: “What didn’t you like about it?”
Johnny: “It was dumb, I hated it.”
Teacher: “Why did you hate it?”
Johnny: I don’t know I just didn’t like it.”
The point I am trying to make is that we feel we have the right to tear things apart, which I’m not saying we can’t, but anyone can talk about how bad something is. It doesn’t take high intellect to speak that way. And we don’t become better individuals by doing this. It dampens our intelligence. And sometimes it’s not about tearing something apart, but rather in understanding that it wasn’t our cup of tea. It might have been for a less advanced mind, or a more advanced mind, or someone who appreciates silly humor or dry humor…but you get my point.
And I know that wasn’t an accurate representation of your 8th-grade class, since you didn’t read War and Peace. I know you guys read it in 3rd grade since I have such super geniuses listening to my podcast. Maybe that should be my marketing tagline for the podcast. The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast—meant only for the super geniuses of the world.
What do you think, is that a winner?
But back to my point, everyone can be a critic, but it’s hard to create something and to continue creating through all the self-doubt as it is already. Maybe if we encouraged people more, they would get better at their craft instead of quitting. Maybe if we stopped ourselves from writing a harsh review and talked about the good things we liked and suggested ideas for the things that could be worked on, we might just change that person’s life—who knows how this person might grow because of that. I like to think we might be helping make this world a better place by being an encourager rather than a demolisher. And I believe that our kindness will change everything.
For some of you who’ve been following me for awhile, you know I’ve been writing a book. And I have someone looking over it right now to help me edit it as I had to cut ties with my old editor. But when I give my work to someone I ask them to be as honest as possible. I want them to let me know what they like and what they don’t like. I ask them to let me know what rubs you the wrong way, what resonates with you, what’s missing, or what’s too much. I want to know your honest opinion, in a loving manner of course, so I can make it better.
Now this whole podcast wasn’t to get you to only think about ratings and reviews of things…it’s about asking how we speak our truths. It’s about asking how kind we are to people’s souls. It’s about taking a moment to craft your message in a loving manner rather than react out of anger or urgency. Anger doesn’t take any thought, and they say the initial seconds of anger are reactions, but after that then it’s a choice to stay angry.
So will you speak a higher truth, will you work to bring more kindness in the world to change everything…or will you be like little Johnny adding more useless criticism that brings no value into the world? Let us be the change we want to see in the world by being not only kind to ourselves in how we think and speak, but let us do that to everyone else as well. Your kindness, your truth, can and will change the world.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Ok shameless plug here, but if you haven’t gone and rated and reviewed my podcast, and you find you’re getting something from it, then go and do it already…dang it. I hope you got my facetious snarkiness there, my great friend Suzanne has been adding to my humor arsenal. I still have a long way to go though.
So go to iTunes, or the podcast place you’re listening from and leave me a rating and review. And I hope you won’t tear me apart in your review…but I want to hear your thoughts and ideas. It gets hard thinking of new ideas every day, so I’d love to hear the way you’ve become Strong Within in your life. And if you feel like sharing your story, but not in public on a review, send an email to chris@strongwithin.com and tell me your Strong Within story. I’m looking forward to hearing from you. I need great stories to share, and I’d love to feature some of you guys in the podcast…with your permission of course. The more reviews and ratings I get then the more people I can reach, so thank you.
And so let me leave you with a great quote to help you with your moment of kindness zen:
“Beginning today, treat everyone you meet as if they were going to be dead by midnight. Extend to them all the care, kindness and understanding you can muster, and do it with no thought of any reward. Your life will never be the same again.”
~Og Mandino
Kindness Is My Truth
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#394 January 29th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
My Purpose Is Found In Possibilities
“The only limits to the possibilities in your life tomorrow are the buts you use today.”~Les Brown
And that’s “but” with one “T,” not two. We’ll save the rear end discussion for another day.
Now this might sound strange to some, and maybe even some will call me delusional for saying this…I’m not looking for the truth. I am looking to create my own truths. I am always looking for possibilities, I am always looking to overcome the impossible—because the only reason something is impossible is because I’ve made it so. What other people say about the impossible is their opinion; I live in another realm, not in other people’s truths, but in my own.
Now you see, it’s not that I’m crazy or living in my own world, well actually I am living in my own world; but it’s that I’m creating a different reality…another world…and my world isn’t determined by someone else’s fears, or lack of trying, or determination. I will always rise above what troubles or problems come my way…not because they aren’t problems…but because I see more in the problems…I see growth, I see possibility, and I find purpose through it all.
And my hope, is that you look more into the possibilities rather than look to find impossibilities. George Bernard Shaw said, “Progress is impossible without change, and those who cannot change their minds cannot change anything.” We like to say anything is possible, but when we don’t get what we want we’re jilted and decide that the world is unfair and the people who told us that anything was possible were liars…and that we are the biggest liars and fools for believing in such an idea.
But it’s not that ‘anything is possible’ was a lie, it’s that you might have been dreaming towards things you weren’t truly committed to, and you might have been believing in things that weren’t really your passions. Because anything is possible, but you physically and mentally put chains on your legs when you hope for things to work out when deep down you don’t really believe you can do it…or you are unsure if you really want it.
We dream of winning the lottery, signing that big contract to play professional sports in front of millions of people, or winning the hand of the person you’ve dreamed about from afar… but maybe those things weren’t really what you wanted. And so you told yourself a story, that your life would be better if you had those things, when your soul knew something different.
I played ice hockey for a good portion of my younger life, and I wished to play professionally. The reason being, is I thought it would bring me the respect and love I wanted so badly for my life. I thought I would be admired for doing something through sports. And while I enjoyed playing sports, that really wasn’t my passion. My passion was learning new personal development ideas and helping people. My goal to play professionally was a far-off dream that I thought would bring me peace from the resentment I felt inside.
I had this idea that people didn’t like me, as I unrealistically told a tale that to be a good person…EVERYONE has to like you. And so I hated myself because I thought I was a bad person because certain people didn’t like me. I had bought into the idea that fame might make me more likable …instead of seeing that I’m not meant to mesh with everyone.
But I’ve found peace with that lie. The lie that I told myself that being respected meant everyone had to like me. And I’ve learned to pivot my eyes away from being upset that I didn’t get my dream of playing ice hockey professionally…into seeing I am accomplishing my dream of helping people. I’ve learned to find the beauty in seeing that I’m able to read and discuss self-development topics with people all over the world and learn from them.
I had to learn by not getting what I wanted to understand that I really got what I wanted. And most likely if I hadn’t learned about pivoting my focus away from what I don’t want into seeing what I truly want…I would have been stuck in an eternal resentment. That upset feeling about working towards making your dreams a reality, but somehow they never seem to work out. And for you to free yourself from the underlying resentment you have towards not getting what you want, is to understand that goals aren’t just working towards something as hard as we can, it’s about understanding how to be in better alignment with your goals.
So what’s that goal that you’ve been dreaming of? What’s that one thing that you’ve been telling yourself, that once you have it, it would complete your life? Is it that relationship with a certain person, is it a certain job or amount of money that you’ve said you need, or is it a personal achievement goal you’ve been working towards for awhile?
I’m not saying to quit anything you’re doing, but what I’m asking you to do is to step back and ask why you are pursuing something. Sometimes we’re so close to the issue, that we don’t know the real reason we are pursuing something. For my dream of playing ice hockey professionally, it was about love. I thought that if I could make it to the big leagues then maybe I could be loved, maybe I could be respected…but that was because I didn’t love myself, I didn’t respect myself. I was seeking for that outside of myself, and I would never find it there.
So dream bigger, believe more in yourself and the possibilities that Universe can grant you anything you wish for…but also ask yourself if you’re in alignment with that wish. Because the biggest reason things become impossible...is not because they’re impossible, but because we’ve decided they’re impossible for us. And to change the way you begin reaching your goals, will have to begin by looking at changing your belief systems.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What would it mean to you if you won the lottery, how would it change your life? Think about the things you’d do differently?
Have you thought about it?
Ok, now I want you to change your frame of reference. What do you think about when you think of the process in how the lottery is played? For me, I see something that is given to you by luck; you didn’t have to do anything to achieve it. And that sounds so depressing to me because I don’t want my goals to be given to me because I was lucky. I want my goals to be earned through hard work and focus in setting myself to the task no matter what. I want my goals to be achieved because I decided to look deep within and ask how I could align myself better to my goals.
Sometimes our greatest winnings aren’t huge prizes, but the things that matter more to us when we step back to really ask what we want.
The things like a great family because we have taken the time to make that a priority in our lives. Maybe it’s the respect of our managers and colleagues because we aren’t afraid of telling the truth in a loving manner and being upfront with people. Or maybe it’s the self-love you’ve cultivated by learning who you are, what’s important to you, and the willingness to sacrifice whatever is necessary in making that a reality.
What’s impossible is mindset. And most times we look at what can’t be done to prove why we can’t be who we want to be. We have our eyes so far in the sky looking for that miracle, that we have missed the miracle in the possibility of right now. And like working out, impossible is a muscle that we need to work on building up, we need to work on extended our belief in possibility to understand that impossible isn’t what we thought it was.
And the quote earlier, George Bernard Shaw said that if we cannot change our minds, then we cannot change anything. So let us begin changing our mind and begin seeing more deeply into what truly is important to us, and I can bet those impossible things that were meant for you, will begin finding their way into your life more easily over time.
Queen Victoria said, “We are not interested in the possibilities of defeat. They do not exist.” So let us not be interested in defeat, or even winning, let us be interested in aligning ourselves up with our true causes. And then impossibility won’t even be a thought in your mind, it will just be about setting your sites on what you want, seeing the possibilities in all of it, and aligning yourself up as efficiently as possible to the things you’ve set your sights on.
My Purpose Is Found In Possibilities
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #393 January 28th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m The Architect Of My Life
“Whatever good things we build end up building us.”
~Jim Rohn
Everything in your life is by design. Where there’s chaos, there’s order. It may seem like randomness, but that’s because the patterns have not been spotted yet. And sometimes the patterns haven’t been spotted, because the investigation only happens on a surface level.
We are architects of our lives, but we’ve bought into the idea that we’re not in control of our lives. We’ve been taught that things happen, and then we go into reaction mode making the best of what happens. Things do happen, and life doesn’t always happen how we plan it to happen, but if you build your life on a solid foundation, you will find that you fit your happenings into a confined set of strong walls. And I don’t mean confined as in you’re trapped, but I mean that you’re taking control of the outcome to produce more desired effects.
Think about what an architect does. I know the first thing that comes to mind is they build buildings, and while that’s partly true…the very first thing they do is draw out the plan and maybe even construct a model. And in our lives, we think that we are architects when actually we’re builders without a plan. And you can form some sort of structure without a plan, but will you create a lasting form from what you’ve put your work into?
And when we are life builders instead of life architects, we build a structure that looks good only on the surface. We put walls over our pains, we bury our fears underneath it all, and we hide behind paint afraid that people might see the real us. And so we live a life of fear and untruth. We build our life structure on a weak foundation, and when something negative happens in our lives we complain, we get upset, and we fall apart because we haven’t truly built a solid personal blueprint.
A strong life isn’t in the building materials you use to assemble it; it’s in the way you form your foundation. We believe that a strong foundation is derived from the external things we pursue—that good job so we can feel secure with the money we make, someone to marry so we can feel loved, a God to believe in and worship so we can lay our heavy burdens upon Him.
And those ideas are all great things to have in your life, but they’re not the core of your foundation. They are parts of your structure. They are parts of you, and maybe even parts of the foundation. But if we make those things our whole foundation, when something goes wrong… we’ll fall apart. When a family member or partner dies our lives feel over because they were our world. When we lose a job we crumble because we think that our security has been stripped from us. And when things don’t go our way, it’s easy to blame God and be upset on how He lets bad things happen to good people. It’s easy to say we’re not in control of our lives or our happiness. But you don’t have to buy into that level of reasoning, you can tell another story, a better story, that you aren’t built by the things in your life, those things are only part of you…not the whole you.
And I’m not trying to be callous and say you can’t be upset when a death happens of a loved one, or that you can’t be afraid when you’re unsure what to do next when you lose a job you weren’t expecting to be released from, or that you can’t look at all the heartaches and pains in life that have happened to you. But if you build your structures, if you build your life upon only things outside of yourself…then you will always be on the edge of chaos. You will always be controlled by what is happening in your life rather than knowing you are in control of how you want to feel at all moments. Because while it feels like things in life are just happening, it’s actually a choice. Life is a choice to see it how we want to…as either a tragedy when something bad happens, or something more through it all.
And understanding that a strong foundation comes not from what you have built outside of yourself is a hard thing to truly understand. And really where the beginning phases of your personal foundation start come from knowing your values and living them. We as humans have the tendency to know right from wrong naturally. We know how we should act, we know we shouldn’t be upset when tragedy happens as it’s only temporary…but when it happens it’s another thing to truly know it in your bones. To act accordingly and not let the event destroy us.
In the book I am finishing up, I talk about getting to know your values. So instead of getting into a long-winded discussion on how to find your values, let me tell you a story of a personal training client of mine.
My client and I were talking yesterday, and our inside joke is how she’ll always be cussing me out in her head for making her do more reps when she thinks she’s done. So while she will huff and puff after I tell her to do 5 more, she always is glad I push her to that point. She’s always glad I show her that she was stronger than she originally thought she was.
In fact, she’s one of the hardest working clients I have. She enjoys the pain, she wants to feel sore, and she always thanks me for pushing her to her limits…but not during our workouts…that’s when she’s cussing me out in her head. I always wondered why she was so quiet during the workouts, and now I know.
Anyways, we were in between sets, and she told me about how she would complain all the time before and after her workouts. She didn't want to go to the gym as she asked me in a rhetorical way… “who loves working out? It isn’t fun. But they know what they want, and they commit to it.”
She enjoyed reaching the goals we’d set for her, but it was always an elusive pursuit because when we’d reach one goal, she would still be comparing her 20-year-old self to her current self. How she didn’t have to work as hard back then and how she always looked fantastic. Which caused this cognitive dissonance in her—this perpetual feeling of being unsettled.
And to finish off her story to me, she said that she began asking herself, “Why am I complaining? This is what I want. Why am I making this harder on myself? I want the growth; I want to be pushed, I want to be sore, I want to go out of my way and do the workout.” And so she’s found a peace in her life by not fighting herself.
And if you think about the things we want in our lives, we fight ourselves the whole time. We fight how it’s too hard, and we wished it was easier. And when we’re always fighting ourselves, we slow our progress down…or maybe even stop it altogether. Now I’m not saying we can’t be upset, but a lot of the things we’re upset about are the things we want. And by continually doing this to ourselves we are always in chaos, so when minor inconveniences happen it shakes up our lives. And if the minor things are bothering us so much, when big things happen we’re destroyed.
We incessantly complain about the things we have no control over instead of finding the beauty in the moment. We complain that the weather is too hot or too cold never being ok with how it is. We complain that it sucks going to our job and we wish we didn’t have to go. We complain about our relationships and usually it’s never to the people who can do anything about it. And we complain about our goals, the things we want to do, wishing everything was easier…and it could be if you allowed it to be. If you stopped fighting yourself the whole way.
And so we focus on the superficial walls of our life’s structure instead of looking at the smaller habits that help us live within our values. We get so caught up trying to decorate the walls with a paint to cover up our pains and inconveniences, that we don’t see the destruction we are doing to our internal foundation.
The reason I’m always talking about choosing to see events better instead of finding the faults within them…is not because I want you to ignore what’s going on..but it’s that I want you to begin becoming a different person. It’s my hope that you can turn a negative into a positive. It’s my hope that you can become something more. That you don’t just build, but that you plan a better structure. That you become a great architect designing your life in a manner that helps you understand that your happiness or sadness is determined by how you’ve developed your foundation. A foundation that’s focused on your personal values, not from the stamina of the external things or people within your life. Those external things are the bonuses within your life.
Today’s Personal Commitment:If you are the architect of your life, how have you been building your life? Have you been going with the flow just allowing external events to decide how you feel and what controls you, or are you constructing a personal blueprint that you govern your life by?
So think about what your personal blueprint would look like, and then ask yourself how you can live within it? The only way to succeed, at least from my personal experience, is to become aware during your mistakes. It’s to catch yourself in the act when you feel that something is off in regards to your standard operating procedures in life. And that’s the real test, not just staying true to the plan when things are good, but practicing the plan when things are bad. The true test of strength is not in how strong we are in our good times, but how committed we are to staying strong in those bad times.
So design your plan, and know that life will challenge you more than your worst enemy. Life will challenge you by making you prove how committed you are to living in your values. Life will keep asking every moment is this the best path that will keep you strong? Is this the path that you’ll be strengthened on? For when we get to know our values and become them…then even the hardest events, yes they might make us stumble for a moment…but they will never stop us…because we’ve built from within rather than only building superficial walls that look nice but never really kept us safe and strong.
Through intuition, our bodies and minds always have a way of notifying us if we’re out of alignment within the life plan we’ve constructed. So get better at hearing those subtle cues reminding you if you’re still building on a strong foundation, or if you’ve taken a detour and began building on quicksand.
I’m The Architect Of My Life
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#392 January 27th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Hold Onto What Makes Me Stronger
“Some of us think holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go.”~Hermann Hesse
One of my biggest problems is holding onto things I should let go of. Take for example this podcast; I tend to have a lot of ideas when I’m writing for it, and during my brainstorming process, I write in stream of consciousness.
I take an idea, and just let all the words fall out of my brain as I put pen to paper (or more accurately fingers to keyboard)—not trying to plan anything out. I work through flow and connecting with my subconscious. And after I feel like I’ve written for a sufficient amount of time, or exhausted my thought process for the moment, I’ll look over my writing to edit and flesh out thin ideas.
I don’t outline too much unless it’s something bigger. For my book, I needed an outline to keep me directed. By keeping to the outline it kept me on task, and when I felt I was stuck in one chapter or idea the outline gave me other places to look. It helped to keep me writing on something else that I felt more creative about at the moment. But on my podcasts, I don’t outline much as I don’t want to go into every detail known to man. I just want to get some good ideas out there, and to get not only myself thinking but you as well in being more efficient in life.
The problem I run in to with writing my podcasts is when I don’t want to let go of ideas. I’ll write something that I think is interesting and I’m like oh this is a great idea you can’t let go of this. I tell myself that you as the listeners NEED to hear it, it might be that one piece of information that could change your life. And so what happens, is I put some good information in the podcast that really doesn’t fit like it should.
Sure it always seems to work out alright, but it’s me trying to cram in too much information at one time. In fact, I did it the other day putting in some interesting facts, but I questioned if I should have used it for another podcast. I lied to myself saying it would have been too much work to delete it or to cut it out and put in my file for future topics.
And so I get lost in the conundrum of whether I should be more concise or whether I should add more ideas in just in case it resonates with someone. By holding so tightly on to things, it makes me afraid. It puts an anxiety on me that keeps me from relaxing. And when I’m not relaxed, I’m not able to put my best content out into the podcast. No one seems to know, or at least I hope I don’t bore you to death with my podcast and you just haven’t told me, but it’s me putting out something that isn’t my highest effort. And it’s not from me trying, I put hard work into it, but the hard work is misdirected as sometimes it’s more about trying to cram everything in, instead of putting the best most concise information in.
I think it’s easy to be afraid of letting things go, because you don’t want to make a mistake in not putting everything out there that you can. It’s the thought that what if I let go of this one thing and I made a mistake and can never get it back. And for me, I sometimes get thinking that more is better, and that I need to provide everything to my listeners.
And by thinking this way it takes me away from my mission. Well, one of my missions. And that purpose, is to be a place that people can get a quick but powerful podcast in changing the way they process their day and their life. And when I try to add in every piece of information, when I over cram a podcast with other ideas, what happens is I convey a message that I don’t trust my listeners. It’s a message saying that I think I have to hold their hands and spell everything out for them like confused school children.
But what I truly hope for, is that people will hear my ideas and they will finish them—that they will add more to them and make them more complete for their lives. Because while I believe I have good ideas and questions—I believe you have better ones. I believe that when you and I collaborate we make ideas better. So I like to think of myself as the sandpaper on the side of a matchbox, and you as the match…as we come together to ignite a change within.
So what are you holding on to, in a negative manner, because you’re too afraid to let it go?
Are you like me, trying to get every piece of information out to others because you’re afraid that what you say will never be enough?
Are you a hoarder of things—worried that you won’t have what you need when you need? And so you stockpile everything up afraid to let go of anything just in case you might need it later.
Are you afraid of losing people in your lives, so you create relationships that aren’t the best for you? Are you afraid of being alone, and so you make poor choices in the company you keep?
Whatever it is that you’re holding onto due to fear, they all basically come from the same source—the fear of not being enough. Now listen to me closely here…you will NEVER be enough…because you will ALWAYS be more than enough. And while we will never be perfect, that doesn’t mean you won’t bring something great to everything you partake in.
We want not to come up short, we want to be worthy for the task at hand, and we want to be every answer that’s needed for every problem, and that’s the ego speaking. So it’s not that you aren’t enough, it’s that you’re trying to find your worth in things, in being something, instead of knowing you already are something. And when you truly grasp this idea at your core…you will stop trying to prove your worth, and you’ll be automatically living your worth. Your strength won’t originate from fear; it will come from the comfort of being secure under your skin…knowing you are always more than enough.
Today’s Personal Commitment:I give you permission to take a break today, or this weekend. We feel we always have to be doing something, or that if we aren’t doing something we’re being lazy…and so we punish ourselves for resting. You deserve a rest, and not just a break where you feel guilty for not doing something. So take an hour out of your day to do something for yourself, even if it’s just purposefully relaxing. Now some people will say I waste too much time watching TV or Netflix, or napping. That’s fine if you already do that, but a lot of times we do it mindlessly. So when you choose a reward for yourself, choose purposefully, and tell your mind that you are giving yourself a much-deserved break from all the stress and things you’ve been holding on to.
By telling your brain this, you are letting it know that it can rest too, and that your brain doesn’t have to be thinking about all the things you should be doing instead. That’s why when I tend to rest, I never rested. I was always beating myself up for the things I should’ve been doing. And even though it was a break, it was still draining on me. So be purposefully in your rest. Love yourself enough to silence the chatter in your mind telling you that you have to be busy 24/7. Know you are enough, not by what you do, but by who you already are.
So give yourself a break, know you are worthy, and rest purposefully. And the more you do this purposeful rest, then the freer you’ll become. You’ll find yourself less stressed, more energized, more creative, and more purposeful. You’ll work to hold onto things that matter, not trying to hold onto things out of fear.
I Hold Onto What Makes Me Stronger
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#391 January 26th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m The Best Tool In My Toolbox
“If the only tool you have is a hammer, you tend to see every problem as a nail.”
~Abraham Maslow
Dwight D. Eisenhower was president of the United States of America, Grace Kelly and Marlon Brando won Oscars for the best actress and actor, Roger Bannister became the first person to run a mile under 4 minutes, and the 1st atomic power station Obninsk opened in Russia. The year was 1954, and like every year before, people had great expectations for having the best year yet.
In fact on January 1st, a much anticipated event was about to happen. My father was a wee young lad at that time, and since I wasn’t born yet…he didn’t know what amazing was…ok maybe I’m getting ahead of myself here…but my father was telling me a story about how as a young child—he, his parents, and his siblings were eagerly awaiting history to happen. They were in front of the TV waiting for the first coast to coast color broadcast ever. NBC was going to be showing all the glory of The Tournament of Roses parade in color.
Now this event may seem silly to some, but being able to see happenings in realistic color instead of black and white…was a big deal. Think of it like this, if you’ve ever seen videos of people who are color blind and they put on those new glasses that help them see color, their reactions are priceless. Maybe I might be overstating it a bit, but it was an event that was much anticipated for a long time.
And as my father told me how excited he and his family was…they had their TV on waiting for the switch to happen. The minutes passed like hours as they stared at the screen afraid to blink for they might miss the moment…that one moment that they knew they would tell their children and grandchildren about, saying, “I was there for this event and it changed my life.”
They kept their eyes glued to the screen as the switch was about to happen, and they waited, and waited, wondering why their TV hadn’t switched over when the parade had come on TV. Was it a glitch, did they have the date wrong when it was supposed to happen, or maybe something else had gone haywire. It wasn’t until later that they realized that to see things in color you actually had to have purchased a color television. You couldn’t see color with the old black and white TVs. And we all laughed at his telling of the story, as he said who knew that you actually needed a color TV to see color, and he ended the story saying “what a gyp.”
Now, I know this is a funny analogy of not having the right tools to see what you need to see or do what you need to…but I want you to think about times in your life that you’ve brought hammers to a job that required a screwdriver, how you brought a knife to a gun fight, or how you tried to explain something auditorily or visually to someone who is a kinesthetic learner.
In my book that I’m finishing up writing, the first lesson I talk about is choosing which direction to face. Now that can be tricky as it’s a subjective process of deciding what’s right or wrong. But in the beginning, facing the right direction isn’t as important as deciding to face a direction, any direction, to make a choice. Because it’s better to move and make mistakes than it is to not move and never learn from making a mistake. And it reminds me of the quote, “show me a person who has never made a mistake, and I’ll show you someone who has never lived.”
And I think we get trapped by trying to see things only at face value. If you look at some of the most successful businesses around today, you might ask yourself what’s similar in their success? I think most would argue that these businesses help people have the right tools for whatever it is they are trying to tackle. But I think it goes deeper than just the physical product or service that’s given to a consumer or even an employee within the company…it’s what’s behind the whole process.
Take for example Apple. There’s a story I heard about Steve Jobs talking with his employees when he returned to back to Apple for the second time years later after being fired. He said, “remember that we don’t just make tools for people to get their jobs done, we make tools for people to change the world.” He also said that “Some people think design means how it looks. But of course, if you dig deeper, it’s really how it works.”
Or if you were to look at Starbucks coffee, you’d think the product is what makes it so great. And sure people love their delicious beverages, I’m not much of a coffee drinker myself, so I’m taking people’s words for it. But what Starbucks did, was to create a 3rd environment for people. It was a place in between home and work that could be visited to get work done, to relax and enjoy a good beverage, to get together with friends and chat, or maybe to get together with colleagues to do some brainstorming. What Starbucks was hoping to create…was an experience.
And if you look at the Disney adventure parks. Sure they’re fun rides, they have great food, and fun educational stuff too. It’s a great time all around, but what Disney does that I think no other park does, or at least as famously, is they create an experience. You’re literally taken to another world that everyone is in sync with. You become part of something more than just a theme park. The Castle, the iconic creatures and individuals who never step out of character, the parade that happens daily—sometimes even two parades, and also Walt’s attention to details.
One story of Walt’s demand for a great experience even came down to trash cans. He was particular about how trash cans were arranged in the park. He studied people’s habits in other amusement parks. And found that after people finish their food, they usually wouldn’t travel more than 30 steps before littering their food if they couldn’t find a trash can before them. And in the Disney parks, there’s an abundance of trash cans arranged so people can always reach one. If that stat is true about people littering, that’s a pretty sad statement on our level of commitment as a society in not being lazy greasy bums. Don’t be a litterbug people, but I know all of you listening aren’t like that.
In each of those examples, they turned the equation around, and they found a way to create something more. They created experiences in helping their customers be fully engaged in what their goal was. I remember reading the book The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg, and how he talked about how Starbucks had great employee training courses on giving their employees the tools to handle rude or ungrateful customers. Starbucks went above and beyond to create the environment for the customers, but they also helped guide the employees into making that experience even more. It was an immersive experience at every angle to help the customers with their frustrations, and to help the employees be better equipped to not let a rude customer ruin their day.
Do you have the right tools for the job you’re performing? I’m not saying you can’t be creative to find better ways, but sometimes we aren’t doing things as efficiently as possible. I know sometimes I take the easier road, instead of taking the better road.
For example, I have a few filing cabinets in my home office, and I have all these folders stuffed in the cabinets with no real logical order, or more accurately not taking the time to sort them right. And when I need to find a folder, it takes me awhile to find it since there’s no logical order to them. I’ve forgotten what folders I created, so I have multiple folders with the same topic, which causes redundancy. And so I have important files that should be together, and then I’m pulling my hair out knowing I’d filed that one file but I can’t find it.
And the best place to start in creating a more fulfilling life, a more organized life, and a more rewarding work environment, begins by looking within. Yes, it’s nice to have the right tools for the job, the newest and latest technology, or whatever makes your job easier. But a great tool won’t create something amazing from a lazy or poor craftsman. Are you seeing yourself as the best tool in the toolbox?
I know there are times that we want to get something done as fast as possible, and so we create subpar efforts which produces crappy work. We settle in life thinking it’s ok to put copies of what everyone else is doing flooding the market, instead of seeing how we can make a difference, how we can change someone’s day, and how we can we put our masterpieces into the world.
So how do we end our commitment to being subpar and create a life dedicated to greatness? Maybe to end that dead end way of living starts by asking these questions…”What am I really wanting to do? What difference do I want to make in the world? And how can I start out small at first and continually grow?”
You see, there’s nothing wrong with copying someone or something…in the beginning. In fact it’s probably necessary to get better. Most of the ideas in this world aren’t all that original, so we should learn from others, but we must then ask how can I add my unique twist to this, how can I add more effort, how can I make what I’m doing matter?
And I think that’s why employees, students, and people in general are disengaged…they’ve been waiting for someone to give them the tools, they’ve been waiting for someone to tell them how to be great, and they’ve been stuck in the habit of doing…to just do…not to look beyond and ask how can I create something better?
We all start out copying someone or something in hopes to get better at it, in hopes of mastering a craft, but when does it stop from copying into creating something more? I can’t answer that for you, but I hope YOU take the time to really answer it for yourself.
The world has enough imitators, find the right tools externally and internally, and begin creating something more. Get to the root of what you want to create, and be original, be more than what’s asked for…and I bet you’ll find life will surprise you…in a good way.
- -Go above what your manager asks of you.
- -Give more than what your customers expect of you.
- -And continually ask more of yourself.
And you’ll be rewarded with a fulfillment most have never known, because those people decided to be average. And when we shoot for average we become insignificant, we give less than what’s required, and we complain wondering why it’s never our turn to get what we think we deserve.
Mediocrity is a crippling disease, and we bring it upon ourselves by not understanding that we are the greatest tool for the job. A bad workman blames his tools…but a great workman sharpens his tools and expects more from his tools. Demand more from yourself, in a loving manner, not because someone else expects it from you, but it’s what you want for yourself. And the more you challenge yourself, the more you’ll find yourself being sharpened without even trying. Be a great artisan, be a great tool, be the answer…the world is waiting for your signature to be placed upon it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Ani Difranco said, “Any Tool is a weapon if you hold it right.” Are you a weapon of destruction or are you a tool of great merit? Everything you do will create great things, destroy great things, or create nothing. Do you bring beauty to this world in all you do?
I can’t tell you what you should want for your life, but it’s my hope that you decide to rise above the attitude of mediocrity that has plagued this world. It’s my hope that you see yourself as the greatest tool in your arsenal.
So maybe the best question to ask yourself is, is mediocrity the place you want to make your home?
It’s not my goal to change people who don’t want to change. But I believe people choose mediocrity when they are comparing themselves to others. They believe they could never be as good as that person. And they’re right; you aren’t meant to be that person, you are meant to be your own unique person.
When we choose mediocrity, we are essentially saying I am afraid, and I would rather live in fear than to be free from my fear. We are holding back just in case things don’t work out, just in case they fail. But if you tried, if you put yourself out there, and gave 1% more than you normally would—then you will never fail because there’s more honor in the person who asks more of themselves, than the coward who decides to quit because it was easier.
So if you’re stuck in a place of comfort and mediocrity, ask yourself if you want to stay there. And if you don’t…begin asking how you got there, what you could do differently, and how you can continually keep sharpening yourself to be a better tool in all that you are applying yourself towards. A fulfilling life isn’t in what we received from our work, but in the opportunities we decided to give more of ourselves to. How will you give more of yourself and your life to this world consistently?
You aren’t meant to be like him, or her, or them…you are meant to be your own unique signature in this world. So instead of comparing yourself to why you could never be good as them, pivot your mind towards the task of creating your own greatness. And know, you are the best tool in your toolbox, and you are an exceptional tool in this world.
I’m The Best Tool In My Toolbox
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#390 January 25th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Have No Enemies Because I Decided To Love Them
“In the moment when I truly understand my enemy, understand him well enough to defeat him, then in that very moment I also love him.”
~Orson Scott Card
On December 24th and 25th of 1914 a temporary truce was called. It is famously known as the Christmas truce where Belgian, French, And British soldiers came out from their foxholes and trenches to fraternize with German soldiers during World War I.
There are different accounts about how such a temporary ceasefire happened…as one account says a sign was written by German soldiers that said “you no shoot, we no shoot” as they got out of their trenches to meet each other. Another account is said that one side would sing a Christmas carol, and then the opposing side would sing another Christmas carol in their native tongue, and finally both sides were singing Silent Night at the same time as the Germans sang it in Latin and the Allied forces sang it in English.
Based upon multiple eyewitnesses and journal accounts, it’s uncertain what one thing brought these supposed enemies together. Both sides stopped fighting and killing each other to mingle, shake hands, and exchange small gifts with each other. There are theories how this two-day truce happened, and some will attribute it to being—their proximity to each other. These two opposing trenches—some were said only to be 100 yards away from each other. They could hear the other troops, they could smell their food, and so they literally had gotten close enough to know their so-called enemy. This closeness had changed the orders from superior commanders for the men in the foxholes by seeing the humanity in the side of the enemy.
Now granted this truce only lasted two days, and things went back to normal. But for a brief moment, both sides connected knowing a similar truth—peace. Yes, while each side was at war to win, they saw that each side had a humanity about them that wanted to end the war, to be at peace with each other. And I wonder how long that peace would have lasted if we took out the objectives of the commanders who were far off somewhere else not in the trenches.
Now I’m not saying we shouldn’t stand up for ourselves or defend and fight for what’s right, but maybe if we got to know who the enemy was, we might not have certain disputes, we might see that we all want the same thing. We want peace within ourselves.
So how do we turn an enemy into a friend?
Maybe it’s not about seeing people as our foes, as our bully’s, or even as the enemy; but seeing them more as people who are hurting. They’re people hurting to fit in and be part of the crowd, so they don’t feel so alone. They’re people hurting for love, but they don’t know how to get it, so they hurt people around them. And they’re people confused on how to find peace in their lives. Maybe we can be the one instance of peace in their life by not reacting how they expect us to, as we be above their chatter.
I like to think I’m a nice person, but I know I’ve done things that have offended people, and probably not purposefully. Some hate that’s been thrown towards me might be warranted as I might not have been mindful in how I was around people, but probably most hate towards me was unwarranted. Now, this is not a brag upon myself, but this is to bring an awareness to yourself. When you are a powerful person, when you resonate at a higher, more powerful, positive energy…it’s threatening to weaker people.
I’ve spent so much of my life trying to change my behavior. I didn’t want to displease others, as I wanted to be acceptable to everyone. First of all, it was because I never felt I was good enough and I was looking for acceptance from everyone. And secondly, I thought me being this way would minimize conflict. But when you resonate at a higher more powerful energy you will create conflict. Not within yourself but in weaker people threatened by your gifts. They think you have something they want.
John Wycliffe said, “The higher the hill, the stronger the wind: so the loftier the life, the stronger the enemy's temptations.” So the more you climb, the more you ask of yourself—then the more you grow. And the more you challenge others to be better, then the more you threaten people, and the more you will tempt people to find fault in you…not in themselves.
The people who resonate at the highest frequencies change the equation. They realize they don’t have enemies; they’re focused solely upon their objectives. A lion does not concern itself with the opinions of sheep. And I’m not saying anyone is better; I’m only claiming some people are more aware than others.
I’ve met some amazing people through my podcast, and I still think it’s surreal and humbling when people tell me they listen to it and enjoy it. I received an email from a lady by the name of Elana who told me that she, her husband, and her kids all listen to it together in the morning. In fact, the reason I chose the affirmation about enemies today was based on a poem her daughter wrote.
Her daughter Fiona Joy is 11 and is famous in the internet world, and so children at her school can be mean and cruel in how they treat her. Fiona heard the podcast with the affirmation “I Find Magic Wherever I Go” and wrote this poem to help her see the magic in her world differently…and with her permission I wanted to share this beautiful poem with you as well:
Walking to the cafeteriaSauce on my skirt.Someone laughs.I feel hurt.
ButI forgive and let my good feelings show.Cause I find magic,Wherever I go.
Skipping to class,Dirt on my shoes.Someone snorts.I feel blue.
ButI forgive and let my good feelings show.
Cause I find magic,Wherever I go.
Running in PE,I forgot my gym clothes.Someone looks at me.Wrinkles their nose.
ButI forgive and let my good feelings show, Cause I find magic, Wherever I go.
At the end of the email Elana, Fiona Joy’s mom, wrote this, “just imagine what life will be like for children who are brought up to be strong within.”
So let’s not see people as our enemies, let’s see the greatness in ourselves, let’s see the hurt in others and not take offense for their reactions as we rise above it all—knowing it has nothing to do with us. So stand up for yourself when you need to, but also know there are more times than not that we have to hold our tongue and resonate kindness silently from our heart. I like the saying “never argue with an idiot, for they will always drag you down to their level and win every time.” I know the word idiot is harsh in that quote, so let’s see people more as ill-informed about living a better way. And let us be the example of living that better life so when they are ready, they won’t need our words…they will see our example.
Today’s Personal Commitment:How can you see the people who rub you the wrong way as less of an enemy but something different?
Saul Alinsky said this, “Always remember the first rule of power tactics; power is not only what you have but what the enemy thinks you have.”
You see the enemy thinks you have something more than they have…and they’re right. They want to steal your harmony. They want to steal your calm and peace. So I challenge you to see the bigger picture that a bully, or that those who persecute us, have nothing better to do than to be in our business. So let them be in our business, and let us be ONLY about our business, as we rise above the small-mindedness of those who are hurting and are lost.
So take a moment to think or write down the people who have treated you unfairly, and ask yourself these questions:
- 1) Who do I want to be?
- 2) Should their opinion of me change who I am?
- 3) How do I follow through in being who I want to be?
- 4) How do I want to see those who are hurting? How can I view them with kinder eyes?
- 5) How do I remember my purpose, so those people do not derail me?
- 6) How can I breathe through the problems rather than open my mouth and end my peace?
Good luck friends. I’m sending great energy on your journeys of ending the conflict and creating more peace in your life. Resonate your energy at a higher level. Not because you need to, but because it’s who you are. Silence the naysayers, not with your words but with your example of greatness.
I Have No Enemies Because I Decided To Love Them
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#389 January 24th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Treat Small Matters With Great Respect
“Small minds are concerned with the extraordinary, great minds with the ordinary.”
~Blaise Pascal
Working harder for something doesn’t always mean we are working smarter for something. It doesn’t always mean we’re working in the best way. Take a moment to think about a time where you put all your effort into something and you didn't get the return that you were expecting?
Ask yourself, why you didn’t get it…but take a deeper look rather than saying it wasn’t meant to be, or you weren’t talented enough, or that someone kept you from it. Ask what’s the deeper reason behind all those easy answers. Ask what you could’ve done differently to help you change the outcome.
For me, I think about sports. Playing ice hockey for a good portion of my younger life I dedicated myself to the pursuit of being better. I’m a shorter guy, so a lot of people didn’t give me the credit I deserved, so I earned it. I was faster, I was scrappier, and I trained harder and longer than most of my teammates. Now I am not saying I would’ve ever made it pro, I wanted to go pro, but the reason I didn’t go pro or play to a higher caliber than I did was from how I forced myself to become better. I worked hard, and I pushed myself past my limits, which were a great thing, but I didn’t believe I could make it to the level I dreamed about, and so I sabotaged myself the whole way.
I told myself how I was worthless, how I was nothing, how I would never be strong enough, or good enough. I did it because I thought that the boot camp mentality of breaking myself down would make me stronger…but it did the exact opposite. It broke me down, and I didn’t have a contingency plan to build me back up. And so I lived my life as a lot of us do, broken and confused, hoping that if we work hard enough, that if we force the pieces together…then things will happen.
Now I want you to hear me clearly, working hard isn’t the problem. It’s how we work; that’s what the problem is. We see the goal in the future, and we want that goal, so we set out to achieve it. We force hard work. We make it about the end goal instead of making it about the betterment of self along the way.
And so we disillusion ourselves by forcing the work, hoping to get to the end as fast as possible. We get upset at the mistakes we make and try to avoid the mistakes, or get past them as fastly as possible—never truly learning from the mistake. We look at the work as the obligation and the mistakes as the scars along our journey. But scars are meant to remind us about the things we went through, not just a lashing upon our bodies, minds, and souls. And so we trap ourselves in a mental loop, thinking that the work is separate from ourselves. That the work is something we do to get something, instead of the work is done to become something.
Think of it this way, I was speaking to someone about their week and I asked them how it was going. They went on to tell me that they were unsure what they wanted for their week. They wanted it to go faster so the weekend would hurry up and come, but also for it to slow down so they could get more done. And I know we are not our jobs, but there’s confusion in thinking that we are only working to make a paycheck. Yes, you may not be in your calling, but your calling won’t always be your job. And one of the greatest callings you will have, will be making the most of your moments that you’re in… no matter how crappy, how hard, or how unfortunate it may be.
We wait for the spotlight to shine so we can have our moment. All the while, never realizing we are the spotlight. That the monotony of the work isn’t the problem; it’s our attitude that needs to be worked on. Yes, you may be destined for greater things than just the small dealings of life. But when we treat the small, seemingly minor, and unimportant tasks of life as nothings, we will then treat the bigger things with improper respect as well.
Basically how we treat one thing will be how we treat another. How we do anything in this life is how we do everything.
I’ve spent most of my life waiting for the great things to come my way, thinking if I worked hard enough, or I waited long enough that they would find me. But the great things were already here, I just had my eyes focused on the wrong thing. I thought great things meant big things. I thought that the great things were the goals in the future…and so I lost perspective of my life.
People dream of winning the lottery. Every time the lottery gets up to a new high number tons of people go out to buy a ticket, and they talk about what they would buy if they won the big jackpot. People think winning the lottery will change their lives. And it will, but maybe not how you thought it would.
A friend of mine was telling me about an article they read about past lottery winners in how it actually ruined their lives. They spent all their money too fast and went bankrupt. Which seems so crazy to us, but when you are spending a million here or a million there on things it can go pretty fast. You don’t have a respect for money like you once did, if you ever did, because you didn’t have to earn it…you just bought a ticket worth a few dollars. And the other thing that happens with lotto winner is it ruins their relationships. The article talked about everyone they knew starts hounding them for money. And that’s why I stay poor and ugly, so I know people truly love me for who I really am.
But in all seriousness, we treat our lives like the lottery. And when we can’t learn to respect the smaller wins in life, and we’re always looking to win the big jackpot, we miss some beautiful things along the way. We then take life for granted as we don’t learn to respect life like it deserves. The small things become big things. The small things are what prepare us to be able to hold onto those bigger things we dream of.
So go and win your lottery, but know the lottery wasn’t in the luck of buying a ticket, it was in putting in the daily work, the daily grind, it was learning from the mistakes to become better, and it was in respecting the smaller tasks and things in our lives…to help us respect the bigger things that will come our way. Because if we can’t see the beauty in the small amazing things in our lives now…what makes you think you’ll be aware enough to see the bigger things when they do come into your life? You’ve probably already missed a few of them by keeping your eyes up in the clouds instead of keeping them focused in the now. And that would be a shame because your life is literally…flashing before your eyes. And not in a good way…unless you are purposefully trying to miss the best parts of life.
Today’s Personal Commitment:During your day write down all the things you did, big and small. At the end of the night take a look at your list and ask how you handled the smaller things? Did you treat them with the respect they deserved?
When I talk about noticing the beauty in life, being mindful of the moment and the small things that we take for granted, people may think that I am talking about being serious and so anal about everything that happens to us. But really what I am hoping that this helps you do is to awaken you to what you’ve been missing out on.
So after looking at your list, instead of getting upset or beating yourself up for not treating the small matters with great respect…what if you asked yourself what would happen if you treated those smaller things with more importance. What would happen immediately…and what would happen longer term in being more mindful of those smaller matters?
I Treat Small Matters With Great Respect
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#388 January 23rd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Problems Are Actually Questions Asking Me To Be Better
The highest levels of performance come to people who are centered, intuitive, creative, and reflective - people who know to see a problem as an opportunity.
~Deepak Chopra
It was a chilly day for San Francisco on October 25th 1964 when the Minnesota Vikings came in to play the San Francisco 49ers. In the fourth quarter of the game future NFL Hall of Famer, Jim Marshall nabbed up a fumble and ran towards the end zone with no one on his heels. He saw the field goal posts and knew he had to bolt and get there no matter what the cost. And after running 62 yards making it in the end zone and throwing the ball into the stands, he waited for his teammates to meet him in the end zone with a congratulatory celebration.
A San Francisco player made it to Jim first and thanked him for what he had done. And Jim Marshall was confused. He looked up in the stands and his quarterback yelled at him…”Jim, you ran the wrong way.” Jim had scored a safety for the other team on accident by running 62 yards the wrong way. Jim was so embarrassed, as he knew this was a mistake he would never live down. He’s even quoted as saying, “it’s probably one of the worst mistakes you can make in football.”
Jim was devastated, and he thought his coach would let him have it for making such a mistake, but coach Norm Van Brocklin said, “Beanpole, you did the most interesting thing in this game today." Jim wanted to hide from embarrassment. He figured that there’d be laughing and booing, but he said there was a weirdness in the stands. And instead of letting his embarrassment control him, he decided to numb himself to his hurt emotions and play his best. And he actually caused another fumble from the 49ers, as a teammate picked up the ball and scored the winning touchdown for the Vikings.
Now you’d think that the story ended there, that I would tell you when you make a mistake to pick yourself back up and use it as fuel to help you change the outcome…but there’s more to this story. Jim’s play has been named one of the top 10 worst plays in the history of football. He’s been nicknamed Wrong Way Jim. And while he’s a Hall of Famer now, that play changed his life into making him more than just a football player.
After the game he had a friend ask him to come out and speak at a nonprofit organization event. Jim tried to avoid it, but his friend persisted, and so Jim decided to face the music like he did when he continued to play after his mistake on the field. His anxiety was through the roof before the event, and when he walked into the room where he was to speak, he received a standing ovation. Jim said he received tons of calls and letter from people telling him that what he did was give them the courage to talk about and face their most embarrassing moments. His mistake actually helped people to free themselves from their self-imposed prison. He later co-founded an organization to help kids deal better with their mistakes and become responsible members of society.
Mistakes are unavoidable, how we deal with them doesn’t have to be. We want to hide from the things that embarrass us, but they are our greatest teachers. And one big reason we feel embarrassed from mistakes is from the fear of the ridicule we might get from others, and yes there’ll be people who won’t let us forget what we did, but that’s because those people are living in a world where they find pleasure in other people’s pains. And the reason they find pleasure in our pain is it gives them a distraction to not look at their own mistakes.
Mistakes, embarrassments, and problems that we deal with, are really questions that are posed to awaken ourselves and see if we are willing to face the music. They’re questions asked internally if we’re willing to get up and try again no matter how many times we’ve fallen, failed, or how embarrassed we might feel. These trials are asking us how creative we can be in making our misfortunes something more than just a mistake.
And how we approach our mistakes can be answered in two manners:
- 1) We say, “I can’t overcome this. It’s physically too hard, it’s mentally too hard, or something or someone is keeping me from being able to do what I want.”
- 2) Or we can adopt the mantra of… “I can make this good, no matter what it is.”
And what I’m saying isn’t some trivial positive fluff telling you to get over your problems, to let them go. It’s quite the contrary; I’m asking you to rise above your problems by seeing them differently, by becoming different, and being changed because of them…being changed for the better.
You can be like 70-85% of humanity who will take a problem and complain that there’s nothing you can do. That it’s not your fault, that it’s unfair, and it’s just your luck that nothing works out for you. Or you can become something more, you can begin seeing a problem as a question not as a definite end…as you ask how can I make this good, how can I be forged through the fire and come out stronger and better because of this?
Today’s Personal Commitment:What embarrassing mistake has kept you prisoner, and why is it keeping you prisoner? I’m not saying you have to shout it out to the rooftops for everyone to hear, but if it’s keeping you from growing, and moving on, maybe you need to look at better ways of dealing with the issue.
I know in my life the things I was embarrassed about kept me hiding. They kept me from moving forward or trying something again. My depression and thoughts of suicide made me think I was so different and no one would understand my pain…and so I hid in plain sight in all my pain…dying a little more each day. But until I could talk with a good friend who cared for me, he helped me to understand I wasn’t the only one thinking this way, and I wasn’t so alone…it freed me from my prison of fear. It freed me from thinking no one could understand me and that I was so different. It opened my eyes and awakened me to better possibilities.
We get so self-absorbed thinking that everyone is focusing on us pointing their fingers at us, and there are people like that, but those are the saddened people in this world. They need to focus on someone else's pain to make it through their own. Their pain has nothing to do with you. I know that idea is easy to say but much harder to wrap your mind around, but the more you work to understand it in your bones then the freer you will be.
So in the first question, I asked you what embarrassing mistakes have kept you prisoner. I want you to begin thinking about how you can free yourself from embarrasment’s grasp…because in the end, the one holding the key is you. And it’s not as bad as you think it is when you decide to face the music. The more you face the music, the more you’ll start living your life by asking the question of how can I make this good? The power is always yours to make a mistake a beautiful detour in your life, as it changed everything about you…for the better.
Problems Are Actually Questions Asking Me To Be Better
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#387 January 22nd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m The Best Friend I Know
“Your best friend and worst enemy are both in this room right now. It's not your neighbor right or left - and it's not God or the devil - it's you.”
~Edwin Louis Cole
I was invited to give a talk to a nonprofit group called Upward Bound. Upward Bound’s mission is to, and I quote this from their site… “provide fundamental support to participants in their preparation for college entrance.” Basically, they work to increase high school students college enrollment and graduation rate who come from low-income families in which neither parent holds a college degree.
So during the weekend, these high school students will dedicate themselves to more school. They have people come and teach on many different subjects, and they asked me to be a guest speaker a few times. On this particular talk, I decided to discuss belief systems. I wanted to talk about how the only thing holding us back in our lives is ourselves, as I knew first hand from being my greatest enemy for most of my life—doubting and criticising myself for not being good enough.
As I was doing research for my speaking topic, I came across a song from the 70’s sung by Helen Reddy. It was called Best Friend, and I thought the lyrics were so wonderfully arranged that I wanted to share it with the class. And I want to share them with you now, as we all need to be reminded of this continually:
“Would you take better care of yourself?
Would you be kinder to yourself?
Would you be more forgiving of your human imperfections?
If you realized your best friend was yourself?
Who is always with you everywhere?
Who is on your side when others are unfair?
And tell me, who will never let you down in any situation?
Who will always see you get your share?
And that’s why I’m a best friend to myself.
And I take me out whenever I feel low.
And I make my life as happy as a best friend would
I’m as nice to me as anyone I know!”
Helen actually sang it in a movie called Airport 1975 where she’s dressed as a nun and is singing it to a sick girl waiting for an organ transplant who’s played by Linda Blair. A funny side note, if you’ve ever seen the movie parody Airplane! With Leslie Nielsen…they have a similar scene like Helen’s where a stewardess asks to borrow a nuns guitar on the plane, and as she brings the guitar up to the front to play for the sick girl she bounces the guitar unknowingly off everyone’s head in the aisle seats as they all say “Ow.” The stewardess then sings a beautiful song and accidentally pulls the sick girl's life support tube out as she really gets into the song.
I’ll Include 3 videos in my blog for this specific podcast on my site that has Helen’s song with the lyrics, the scene from Airport 1975, and the scene from Airplane!.
Now I know it song has that 70 corny-ness to it. However, I really love the beauty behind the way things were produced back then, and the meaning in the lyrics are a beautiful reminder about the things we seem to forget so often—that our best friends aren’t other people; your best friend should be yourself.
If you know my story, I spent many years in a dark depression and I thought about suicide quite often from when I was 10 to 25. And the biggest reason I feel that I was in that darkness, was due to me being unkind to myself. I wasn’t my best friend. I was actually my worst enemy. And looking back at it now, it seems so obvious. How can you reach your best if you are constantly looking at why you are a horrible person?
Now mind you, there wasn’t anything wrong with me, except for how I criticized myself constantly in efforts to become better—which only made me feel worse and kept me feeling bad about myself.
Things weren’t able to change for me until I began doing something different, and the first thing was being kinder to myself. It was really about being a better friend to myself.
When people ask what I do as a life coach, I tell them that I help people work on and cultivate the greatest relationship you’ll ever be in—the one with yourself. You see, if you don’t have a good relationship with yourself, everything will falter. While you may be successful in other areas of your life, if you aren’t successful in loving yourself, it will be a hard road ahead in ever finding peace and comfort in what you pursue.
And that’s what happened to me. I thought that if I made enough money, or when I had the right job, or found the perfect mate to be with, or if I obtained the things I pursued…then I’d finally be happy. But those things were only the band-aid covering up the gaping wound. It was the distraction of doing the easier work, looking outside of myself for peace and fulfillment, instead of having to do the harder work in being more accepting and loving towards myself. The harder work of being my best friend.
And I kept struggling until I began cultivating a better relationship with myself. Everything is an effort of balance. When you are constantly out of balance in loving and respecting yourself, the other things that you pursue might keep you distracted for a moment…but, in the end, you’ll always keep coming back to wondering why nothing ever seems to fulfill you.
This statement has gotten me into trouble with many people that I have said it to…especially ex-girlfriends…but I’ve always said that the most important relationship is with yourself, the second is with God (whatever your God is that you believe in), and then it’s with family, or your loved one, or your children….etc.
You see, when you love yourself, you’re able to love others more fully. It really is all just semantics because if I’m loving myself fully, then I’m working to love others fully as well. It all balances itself out in the end. I see it as the conundrum of the chicken or the egg, which came first…and if we take care of ourselves first, if we love ourselves first, if we fill our cup up first…then we have more to give others. Instead of always being on fumes, worn out, struggling, and surviving to take care of everyone else when we are slowly dying inside each day from not taking care of ourselves—from not being our best friend.
Today’s Personal Commitment:So, who’s your best friend? And if it’s not you, why isn’t it…and how could it start being you? Take a look at the things you do to yourself that you would never do to a best friend.
Maybe this might be an easier exercise if you step out of your shoes for a moment. When you step out of your body, look back at yourself, and view yourself through the eyes of how you would want your best friend to be with you. What would you do differently? What are the first 3 things you would do another way now that you’ve slipped into your best friend suit—now that you’ve changed the way your eyes and your heart sees you?
Write those 3 things down, and then write down a plan how you can begin implementing that into your life. For the next month, at the end of the night:
- 1) Write in your journal how you did on those goals,
- 2) what needs improvement,
- 3) what went well,
- 4) and any other notes you need to remind yourself on in continuing this pursuit of yours.
When you love yourself like a best friend would, you make yourself automatically better. So let’s love ourselves a bit more than we’ve been previously doing….you’ve nothing to lose, except all those negative things that’ve been holding you back.
I’m The Best Friend I Know
Helen Reddy singing “Best Friend” lyrics video
https://youtu.be/uTZpLd8Ts8o
Airport 1975 Helen Reddy nun singing “Best Friend” scene
https://youtu.be/4PPL8Tgt4jM
Airplane! Stewardess song scene
https://youtu.be/5pXFo14Ea28
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #386 January 21st The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Expect Great Things
“A desert is a place without expectation.” ~Nadine Gordimer
There’s the famous piece of advice that says if you don’t expect anything, you’ll never get disappointed. And while that’s great advice, it’s dime store advice because I don’t know ANYONE on this earth who didn’t ever expect anything.
I get what they’re saying when they say it, but it’s plain wrong when people offer it up as advice as if they live it. When we tell people to have no expectations, we are then essentially saying we have no expectations. This advice that we give away so freely conveys to others that we’ve mastered it ourselves, which is a lie because as I said before there’s no one on this earth that doesn’t have some form of expectation. It’s like the practice of Zen, when they tell you to have no wants, but not having any wants is still the form of a want.
Now I know it may seem like I’m being anal or that I’m splitting hairs here, but sometimes the advice we give to others that sounds nice really…harms them and it harms us. Because what we’re doing is telling people to do something impossible.
I get what the advice is trying to say, to not be upset or be disappointed if you don’t get what you want…but I believe when we use words and ideas incorrectly we cause more harm than good. What I’ve come to find that’s better than having NO expectations, is to be open to all possibilities. It’s the idea that there’s great merit in finding the good in whatever happens. Because in most of our focus upon what we expected, or wanted to have happen, was a limited range of the amazing things that could happen.
My expectations only saw a small fraction of a picture, yet there was something so much better by being open to all possibilities…not just what I thought would make me happy. It opened my eyes to the whole picture. It opened my eyes to ALL the pictures that could be.
Let demonstrate what I mean. A friend had posted something on social media that said. “note to self, never expect anything from anyone.” And this is where people started commenting things like “zero expectations=zero disappointments, or never expect never disappointed.”
But I took another road, and here’s what I posted:
“I hope you expect great things from yourself. I'm sorry you're going thru this... but never expecting is unrealistic. I expect to see good in whatever I look at, I expect to find an answer if I just keep looking long and hard enough, and I expect to find good people on this Earth. I've met you... and you're one of them. And I expect to die someday but enjoy life while I'm here living. It's not that you can't expect anything from anyone... I think it's about finding the ones great enough to be around even when they do let us down... because someone will always let us down. I let myself down all the time by being too hard on myself or giving up on myself too early. Everyone's dealing with their own demons and it doesn't make it right or better when people let us down... it just helps us to get rid of unrealistic expectations--that everyone will be there for us when we need them. I'm sending great love, energy, and the reminder that you are your best advocate for saving yourself. 😀🙌💪 I believe in you.”
What I said in this post all boils down to one thing…having unrealistic expectations. That everyone will be there for us when we need them. And I’m not going to talk about her issue as I don’t know what she was referencing specifically, so I’ll talk about my issues. So grab a chair since we’ll be here for a couple years talking about my issues…just teasing.
When I’d say things like “you can’t trust anyone, everyone will let you down, no one is ever there for me when I need them…” what that did was create a world of disappointment for me. And maybe you’ve heard me saying this before as I like this quote… “when you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.” What I was doing when I spoke this way, was first feeling sorry for myself, telling myself how no one is there for me, and then I actually began creating this reality.
Being a helper, or someone who makes their living in trying to inspire and motivate others to think differently…sometimes I don’t share my pains with people. And so, the story I’ve told myself is that I’m there for everyone else, but no one’s there for me when I need them. And the reason people aren’t there for me is, first of all, I don’t tell people when I need help as sometimes I would think my issues weren’t that big of a deal and I didn’t want to bother anyone with my minor problems, but the other reason is I didn’t have the right support group around me.
I work to help people who have problems, and so I attract those type of people in my life, and there’s nothing wrong with those people…it’s just that they aren’t the right support I need…when I do need help. I needed to create the right support group of mentors and friends who can give me what I need. And being a coach, I know that I need to invest in coaches who help me to think differently when I myself get stuck. The problem I had was in believing in an idea that everyone can be there for me exactly how I needed them to be…which is an unrealistic expectation.
So sure, I partially agree—don’t have expectations. But let’s be more accurate about this, let’s not have unrealistic expectations. And if we were to take the example I used above, then let’s work to surround ourselves with people who can be there for us when we need them…but let’s understand that NO ONE will be the exact answer for us when we need them to be… the only one that can do that is ourselves…and God.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Take a piece of paper out and write down the answers to this question, “what unrealistic expectations have I been living my life off of that’s causing me pain?”
Maybe that’s a tough question to answer at the moment. So start looking at issues that you’ve had recently about being disappointed. Ask yourself why you were disappointed, and how you could look at it better next time? Ask yourself, “what would being open to all possibilities look like? How different would your life be, and what would it take to be able to begin living your life this way?”
Expectations aren’t a bad thing, unrealistic expectations are. I do think we need to reach further than we think we can in life, and to push our expectations. But what I’m really talking about, is ridding expectations that harm us rather than push us to see more in ourselves and in life. The reason I said the quote above “A desert is a place without expectation.” Is because when we have no expectations, like a desert, there’s nothing there for us…it’s a life that’s empty and barren. There’s nothing to look forward to. So let us expect good things, but be open to all possibilities. Because even in my worst situations, they brought me to something even better than I could have imagined.
I Expect Great Things
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#385 January 20th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Ok With Being Wrong…For Us To Be Right
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing, the next best thing is the wrong thing, and the worst thing you can do is nothing.”
~Theodore Roosevelt
I was in a relationship years ago where I questioned my sanity. Not because I was insane for going out with this person, but they made me question things I said. One of my ex’s strengths was truth, and we would get into some knockdown drag-em-out arguments…and usually about trivial things of who said what.
Take for example, we were sitting in the car arguing about something senseless that I can’t even recall what it is now. This is how silly it was, we were sitting in the parking lot of our favorite Mexican restaurant, as we went back and forth for 20 minutes. We were keeping those delicious tacos sad by keeping them waiting on us to come inside to eat them.
The whole reason the argument persisted, now get this, is because we were trying to tell back to each other what the other person said. If you ever want to go nowhere in an argument, try to prove to someone what they said when they thought they said something else. She said I said this, and I said she said that, and we kept arguing about who said what.
During my time dating this person I began to wonder if what was coming out of my mouth was different than what was happening in my head. To me I was wondering if I had some sort of speech dyslexia, and was mixing things up and saying the opposite of what I was thinking. I know sometimes I feel I have trouble relaying what I truly mean to people. And I’m sure we’ve all done that, where we were certain we said something, but mixed it up when it exited our mouths.
As I said, it was about 20 minutes, and I got tired of arguing as those tacos were calling my name, but really, I didn’t want to keep arguing anymore. I wanted us to get along and be happy in each other’s company because while tacos are always a great time…it wouldn’t be as much fun if we were still sour at each other.
I then immediately said, “I’m sorry. You might be right. I thought I said this, but maybe I said something else. Maybe there was a disconnect from my mind to mouth. But, yes you might be right, and if I did say it that way, I’m sorry.”
I felt like the main character in A Christmas Story…where for his homework he is to write an essay to his teacher about what he wants for Christmas. And he writes on why he deserves a Red Rider BB gun. And in his imagination, he sees the teacher giving him an A++++++++++++ for being the best essay that she has ever read. And that’s how my apology felt, I felt damn good knowing it was the best apology in the history of the world.
Now maybe I might’ve been wrong here and should’ve just let it go, but my objective wasn’t just about claiming responsibility for being wrong. It was for us to meet in the middle. So I said to her, I could be wrong about what you said, but I was pretty sure you said this, and it hurt my feelings.
Oh!!!! And that was the wrong thing to say, because we then argued more…and kept those delicious tacos waiting even longer.
I said to her, I don’t care who’s right or wrong, I just want us to meet in the middle and understand that maybe things didn’t happen how we’d observed them. That no one was at fault, but we might have misspoke…and she said, “NO!” quite firmly. She wouldn’t admit to something that she knew was right about.
And I persisted just a bit more, as I said, “yes I could have said what you thought I did…and asked her, so you won’t meet in the middle by saying we both could’ve been wrong about what happened? And she said, “NO! We don’t always have to meet in the middle. I know what I said, and to say anything different would be a lie.”
I decided to drop it. We weren’t getting anywhere, and that was really upsetting to me…
But not as upsetting as keeping those tacos from my belly, so we went in to go eat.
Now with this story, I’m not claiming to be the saint. Maybe I could’ve observed it all wrong since it is from my point of view and all. And I know that our memory isn’t always the most accurate, as it’s only coming from our side of things. But what happened in that argument was a switch flipped, and not the bad kind where people get more angry, but an awareness of asking myself, “what are you doing here?” And I knew immediately what I wanted to do, I wanted to meet in the middle, and end the argument. I didn’t want anyone to be wrong, I wanted us to step back and look at the bigger picture—did it really matter who was right or wrong…or was being right the most important agenda at that time?
And even though that plan didn’t work…it actually did work. I was able to step away from the argument seeing something in this person. I could see what was important to them, and I could see what I really wanted out of the situation. Even though I didn’t get exactly what I wanted, I got exactly what I wanted. I was able to find peace and clarity to be ok with saying sorry even if I didn’t have to. Making this person feel good was more important to me than being right. And if that wasn’t their agenda to want to help me feel good too, then that’s ok because I did what I thought was right.
And so it’s not that I won’t stand up for myself, or even argue to prove a point, but I’ve come a better awareness, I’ve found a switch that flips in my subconscious, that asks me, “is this really what you want to be spending your time on?” And when that happens, I immediately begin doing something different. I begin finding a way to exit the argument peacefully while trying to let the other person know I respect them and their point of view.
Again I’m not saying I’m perfect, or that I have it all figured out. What I’m trying to relay to you is that if you’re willing to become aware, if you’re willing to see a better picture than just being right, and if you’re willing to ask what’s more important more and more…then your subconscious will begin helping you do more of that.
When we can step back and ask, “is me being right worth the perceived reward, or is it more important to try and find peace and harmony within all my interactions, not just for the other person’s sake but for my sake?” I think with communication we miss a pertinent point. We think it’s about clearly getting our point across. But effective communication with other people is not about speaking clearly and being understood, it’s about finding a way to get what’s best for everyone…not just ourselves.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What’s the most important thing for you in an argument? Is it about being right, or is it about getting to the best solution for everyone? When we can let go of being right, we can find better answers and more peace in our lives.
Sometimes I think we want to be right because it validates our worth in the world. To prove how smart we are, or that we have the best answers, or that we were the most observant…and so we want to show people and say, “look at how worthy I am.” But you don’t have to prove your worth to anyone; you already are worthy…sometimes we just don’t act it.
So think about some arguments you got into in the past and ask yourself why the arguments happened, what happened during the arguments, and how it could have gone better or not happened at all. I’m not saying we shouldn’t ever argue, but I’m hoping to help us all spend our time on things that matter most.
Some of those important things WILL be arguments that matter, and some will be letting go of arguments. I hope with this podcast that it will help to bring an awareness of treating everyone with a higher respect—to get respect we must give it, and sometimes it’s not about proving how right we are to get that respect…but being willing for everyone to be “right” in form or another. As we cultivate a tranquility within us, wanting everyone to win.
And when you can do these things, it will become easier to not have silly arguments and to be more conscious in your arguments that are important…as you learn to connect and rouse you subconscious more in helping you to awaken during these times and do what’s best in the moment.
I’m Ok With Being Wrong…For Us To Be Right
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#375 January 19th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’ve Made Fear My Friend
“If you know the enemy and know yourself you need not fear the results of a hundred battles.”
~Sun Tzu
I wrote a poem a year ago about a conversation I had with fear. I was going on a journey, and setting my sails to new shores. As my ship was leaving, I was thanking fear for being there for me. And I’ll share a bit of my poem with you:
The funny thing is negative thoughts are quite polite, as they don’t want to bother you.
They just hang on knowing you need them,
Knowing that you feed your comfort from them,
Like an old friend never letting you down as you expect them to be there when things go wrong,
Like an overbearing parent who wants to keep you grounded as they say,
“Now hunnie don’t get your hopes up. I want you to be realistic.”
They care so much they don’t want you to dream so big and be hurt,
So resentment, worry, anger, fear, bitterness, disappointment, and the such hold our hands like good friends saying, “I am here.”
Maybe…
I may want to hold on,
Just in case my dreams don’t go as planned.
But I think it’s time.
“So Fear, thank you for being here. I know you meant no harm. Thank you for helping to keep me grounded until my wings were ready to fly. Thank you for showing me the other side so I could appreciate real goodness in the world. If I hadn’t seen both sides, I might not know any different.”
It’s time to empty me,
As I’m becoming a new vessel,
Leaving the past behind while I hold onto the dreams and hopes of the present and future.
Opening my sails, it’s funny how natural it feels,
Not sure what will be ahead except for the new friends I’ve invited…
“Hope, love, excitement, appreciation, and joy thank you for joining me.”
“Oh we’ve been here waiting till you were ready.”
And a small chuckle lights up my face,
From understanding that the opposites of life aren’t so different,
It’s just a choice of focus really.
So I ask, “where are we going to first guys?”
As they reply, “Let the wind take us and see what happens. Now that you have cultivated a relationship with us, everything’s possible.”
My ship leaving the harbor as Fear shrinks.
One hand to my temple as I give a saluting wave goodbye,
Fear…I’ll see you again old friend, but not because I’ll need you, and not because I’ve shrunk from the task ahead,
But because every new challenge has that insinuation of you saying, “are you sure you don’t need me?”
And I’ll reply, “Not this time, things are different now, my eyes are fixed upon the possibilities. Thank you again, my old friend, for your patience with me—not pushing me until I was ready to be who I am.”
Now you see, Fear is not our enemy; fear is our friend. When you know what fear’s mission is, you’ll understand that it’s not about stopping you…it’s about trying to keep you safe. Fear is the friend waiting in front of a tall wall. And depending on how you view that friend, that friend could be the person that stops you telling you that it’s too high and you could never climb it, or you can see fear as the friend who’s there to help boost you over the wall.
We can decide to be bitter about what fear has done to us, or we can be excited knowing that fear has no ulterior motive. In the end, fear didn’t coerce us into doing anything—we decided to see the fear as fierce or friendly. Fear is a compass telling us that what it’s pointing towards is something that’s important to us. If something wasn’t important we wouldn’t be afraid of going towards it, and we wouldn’t be afraid of failing. You see, we’ve gotten mixed up thinking that fear and excitement are two different things.
However, there’s very little physiological difference between fear and excitement…meaning the body does almost the exact same thing for both those emotions. The hypothalamus, which controls the body’s stress response, will tell the body to elevate your heart rate and breathing, to dilate your pupils, and increase the sweat upon your body. The physiological difference between fear and excitement is minute.
And there are simple ways to change your fear. One of the easiest ways to do that is to suggest a different response. When you’re feeling fear, just saying, “I am actually excited,” changes the way you feel. And that’s what we’re doing with affirmations, we’re suggesting to our brains and bodies to operate on a more efficient level—to see a better path. It’s not that we’re lying to ourselves, but that we’re choosing the best path.
And thinking this way always reminds me of the quote Robert Kennedy said, “There are those that look at things the way they are, and ask why? I dream of things that never were, and ask why not?”
So, what if the times that you were afraid to start working on that business that you’ve always dreamed of…instead of saying why you can’t, or focusing on the fear why it might not work, what if you were to find the excitement in why you should? What if that the next time you wanted to ask someone out, instead of saying they might say no, you ask yourself what if they say yes to a cup of coffee…who knows I might make a friend out of this if nothing else. What if the next time you felt fear you asked yourself why you were feeling it, and instead of avoiding decided to move towards it?
Maybe you can be like the person in my poem, setting your sights on new possibilities, ready to set sail to new adventures, and saying goodbye to fear. Not because you hate him, but because with old friends you have to part ways at times…fully knowing you will cross paths again. Fear isn’t your enemy…fear is your friend…reminding you what is important. So instead of seeing fear as fierce, what if you were to see it disguised as excitement?
Today’s Personal Commitment:After hearing today’s podcast, how can you view fear differently? Could you see it less as a deterrent and as more of a compass by letting you know what’s important to you? Now I know that every fear may not be an indicator for you to go towards, like some people would be afraid of speaking in front of an audience, and maybe it’s not their mission to ever do that. So instead of getting in autopilot and turning the other way when you feel fear…what if you were to pause and analyze it, what if you were to look fear in the eyes and see what it was all about?
Being mindful is a full-time commitment, but it’s worth it. So, maybe every night before you go to bed take out your journal and write down what happened in your day. Ask yourself if you walked towards your fears to better understanding them, or did you walk away from them that day? Each day is about balance. Some days we’ll be on fire, and other days we might be total wimps. But that’s ok; it’s not about judging yourself, it’s about becoming aware and asking what you’d like to different, if anything, next time…and then planning on how to follow through tomorrow, and the next day, and the day after that.
I’ve Made Fear My Friend
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#374 January 18th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Focus On The End To Know Where To Begin
“I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.”~Dalai Lama
Maybe I might be oversimplifying how our lives work, but where your focus goes is where your energy flows. Where your concentration resides is what will actualize. Where your emphasis is put is what will determine your output… Where your attention lies is whether you get the whole meal or only the french fries…. too many rhymes??? Never. My rap game is on point…and as the famous rap group of the 90’s Digital Underground said in their song The Humpty Dance… “top 10 rappers please allow me to bump thee.”
Ok, but in all seriousness, we overcomplicate life by putting our attention upon the things that should have no worth in deciding what we can achieve. We focus on how things aren’t going right, we focus on who is in our way, we focus on how we aren’t talented enough…and not that those things don’t matter…but they aren’t the final truths in who we become.
We decide our fate by sinking the ship before we’ve even pushed off from the shore. Many of my mentors have talked about a similar idea, that’s said differently. Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “Think from the end.” Stephen Covey say, “Begin with the end in mind.” And I’m sure there are a multitude of other ways it’s been said over the course of humanity. But this idea gets looked over because it seems too simple to really have any power in helping us, and we think that maybe it might be too hard to see what we want at the end of what we’re chasing after. We feel we have to have all the answers right away, or that we need to know every twist and turn along the process of our pursuits.
But that puts more pressure upon us, and instead of creating a clarity of why we are doing something…we then create a habit of jumping without really thinking. And sometimes we need to jump to get moving, as we can overthink and over complicate things, but if it becomes a way of existence …then we’ll always live our lives trying to find our way out of a dark tunnel with no flashlight.
Dr. Wayne Dyer talked about thinking from the end when he would write his novels. He would see the cover. He could visualize it finished and see it in his and other people’s hands. And by thinking from the end, he said that when he wrote, “all he had to do was put his pen to the page and the words came out.” He was divinely inspired as the creative process wasn’t just about him creating but him connecting to something more than just himself.
And I think that’s why we think creativity is so hard. We say we have to be inspired, we have to sit down for hours and hope it happens. We think that it’s all about getting talented enough to be able to put great work into the world. And yes we need to sit down, we need to put in the time to hone our crafts, but we’ve been coming at creativity from the wrong angle.
If you were to talk with some of the greatest artists, the greatest writers and poets, or the greatest speakers… a good amount of them will say, “yes I did the thing I set out to do…but I connected to something more. The greatness in my work just happened, as something more transpired than just ‘me’ doing the work.”
Which makes me think about when I’ve given various speeches on living a more fulfilling existence through my life coaching business. And while I practiced and prepared weeks before the date I was to give the presentation, I still would get nervous right before speaking wondering if I might forget something or maybe I might not connect with the audience. And so I feel this nervousness rise right before I get up to talk…freaking out that I’ve forgotten everything, and I don’t remember how to start.
And that has literally happened where I got so anxious I forgot the exact beginning I wanted to start with. I think it was a story, or a silly joke, or something to help me segue into the topic…and even though that happened, I still did fine. Because if I’ve done the preparation before the presentation, then it just flows. The funny thing is I usually like to film my talks to get better from viewing them, but also because I don’t remember what happened during the talk. I just get in flow, and the words just pour out from me as if it was half me and half something more than me.
Over the years, I’ve become better at hearing myself when I speak in front of big audiences. I want to be in flow, but I don’t want to be a zombie that has no clue what just happened from my talks. I’ve reminded myself that I need to pay better attention to the voices I’m hearing inside my head, pun intended, so I can connect better with the audience. You see, I get excited when I talk and I want to speak fast. So, I work to hear myself during a presentation to slow down my speech patterns consciously. I also work to pay attention to the crucial points that I really want to hit home with the audience. I work to create bookmarks in my mind that when I come to an important point, I will pause and repeat the idea back to them—for better information retention.
The whole purpose I’m getting to, is that if we put in the time…the creativity will happen. But not because it was all us, but because we connected to something more than ourselves. And if you can think from the end, or begin with the end in mind with a crystal clarity…you’ll find the pathway more easily laid out for you. You’ll find you connect to something more than yourself more readily and more deeply. Great creativity is not in the course of saying, “look what I did;” it’s the journey of saying, “look in how I connected…with the work, with myself, and with something greater than myself.”
Today’s Personal Commitment:What are you committing yourself to this year, the next 5 years, or the next 10 years? And have you thought about it from the end, to see with crystal clarity of how you’d like it to go? It’s not that this practice is an exercise in controlling things, but it’s about seeing that the more you practice the habit of visualizing things from the end, then the more you will see your power changing. You will see that what you think is what you create. It will be like you becoming a fortune teller…manifesting what you set in your mind. And the more you do it, then the faster things will come to you.
There are energies and powers within this world that we never tap into because it’s always about physical work, it’s the idea of pushing through or pulling up your bootstraps no matter what happens. And mental and physical toughness are warranted in making your life great…but to connect to your greatness truly is about something more. It’s about being able to visualize goals with crystal clarity and think from the end, so you not only can begin creating them…but you also know where to begin.
We get in the habit of planning our appointments for the day, knowing what we will wear for the day, knowing what we will be eating for the day but we never take the time to visualize that end goal with crystal clarity. What makes seeing things from the end so different than all those other smaller habits?
So whatever your major goals are this year, I want you to get in the habit of seeing it in your mind every morning and night for 365 days. Try to get as crystal clear a picture of what obtaining that goal would look like, smell like, taste and feel like. See it in your hands, walk around it to see it from every angle. How will it change you and the people around you by reaching that goal? Be as vivid as you can, for the brain doesn’t know the difference between a real picture or a vision in your mind. So the more clearly you can see it in your mind, then the more likely you’ll be able to create it in your reality.
So again I challenge you to visualize, to think from the end, and see your goal vividly every morning you get up and before you go to bed…and I challenge you to keep reminding yourself of your why. The more you know why you are doing something, then the more you will stay connected and motivated to the thing you pursue.
I Focus On The End To Know Where To Begin
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#373 January 17th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
My Dreams Pursue Me
“The world is like a reverse casino. In a casino, if you gamble long enough, you're certainly going to lose. But in the real world, where the only thing you're gambling is, say, your time or your embarrassment, then the more stuff you do, the more you give luck a chance to find you.”
~Scott Adams
I was on social media, and I saw a picture oh Dwayne Johnson, a.k.a. The Rock, working out and he was wearing a shirt that said chase your dreams. My perception of the Rock is a hard worker no matter what he does. And I recall watching a video of him talking about his life right out of college.
His dream was to play in the NFL, and he was in the city of Vancouver playing his first pro game for The Calgary Stampeders in the Candian Football League at the age of 22. And 2 days later…he was cut from the team. If he would’ve gotten that wish, he wouldn’t be the person he is today. He wouldn’t have realized the different dreams he’s come to now. He said that “playing in the NFL was the best thing that NEVER happened. You have to have faith that the one thing that you wanted to have happen was the best thing that never happened.”
But, It’s hard to know what direction to go in life. That what we want may not be the best thing for us. So how do you move forward, if your chosen direction isn’t right? And what do you do, if you’re unsure if you should give up on your dreams? I think it’s a complex question because we’re looking at our answers from only our point of view.
We want to know every twist and turn, we want to be fortune tellers who know what the future, we want to be absolutely sure that we didn’t waste our time. But when we think that way, we’re blocking ourselves. We’re holding ourselves back and only giving half our heart living inside uncertainty.
I spent years putting only half my heart, half my spirit, half my energy into things just in case I was wrong, and so I kept one foot in and one foot out of the door just in case. And while I thought I was being clever, and playing it smart, what I was really doing was playing it safe. And by playing it safe, I was actually living a dangerous life. I was making my time almost irrelevant.
I lived dangerously by feeling sorry for myself thinking I didn’t get what I want, I spent years complaining how it is too hard or how things never goes my way, and I spent years wasting energy on being only halfway committed to something. Because what I didn’t consider—is what did it matter if I got what I wanted or not, if I gave my whole heart to something? We spend so much time looking at poor old me, and how it’s so sad it didn’t work out. And by keeping our focus upon all the tragedies in our lives, it cripples us. It keeps us from achieving better things in our lives, and it keeps us from moving towards the new goals we’re meant to obtain.
When you give your whole heart, your whole spirit, your full beliefs into the work…it will produce something great. Even if it’s not what you expect, you change the way dreams happen by operating your life in this manner. It’s no longer about chasing an elusive dream. It’s about pursuing the better you. And when it’s less about a specific outcome…dreams will find a way to you. You will be reversing the equation, and you will be reaping the rewards that come with the betterment of creating the best you.
We live our lives in fear. We’re afraid to love again after having our heart broken, we’re afraid to work towards something in case we’re disappointed again, and we’re afraid to live because there’s so much uncertainty within it.
And while life is uncertain that isn’t something to be afraid of, it’s something to rejoice in, because even if you didn’t get exactly what you thought you should’ve…you’ll find you got something so much better by committing yourself to a pursuit. You will ALWAYS find a peace in the pursuit of becoming the best person you could be. So, if you put your attention to fear and failure…you’ll find and create more of it. But if you focus more towards industriousness no matter what the outcome, if you focus on love in the moment for what it is, and if you focus on living fully in whatever direction you face…you will always see beauty. You will always find magic. And you will always be rewarded. Maybe not exactly how you expected, but with something even better than you might have imagined.
On a side note, sometimes goals don’t happen on our timeline. We give up too easily, and when we don’t put our whole heart and soul into something we prolong the time being able to obtain it. But if you focus on the betterment of YOU during your pursuit, you’ll never be disappointed by what you create along the way.
Today’s Personal Commitment:I decided to talk about this subject today because I was feeling sorry for myself. I was feeling lonely as I was telling a negative story about past relationships. And I have to be very aware and catch this type of thinking, as it’s easy to just go into autopilot and feel sad for myself. I’ll think things like, no one will ever love me, that relationships are too hard, or that I’m meant to be alone. And those are all limiting beliefs. They are ways to keep me stuck in fear. They are reasons to keep doing things halfway and put the blame all on me, or someone else, never truly growing from the situation.
So I want to ask you:
-What’s that place, your kryptonite, that you go to and feel sorry for yourself?
**-What are you doing in your life that’s keeping your foot halfway in the door and halfway out?
-What are the things you’re afraid of; what are the stories you’re telling yourself that are keeping you from fully committing towards what you pursue?**
Alfred Lord Tennyson said, “it’s better to love and lost than never to have loved at all.” And when someone tells us that quote to help us in harder times, it’s not appreciated much. Our eyes narrow as we shoot daggers of pure hatred at the person only trying to help us. While we know they’re only trying to help, we get upset because we don’t want to hear it. We don’t want to look at the brighter side of things. We want to rationalize why we should stay in our pity, hurt, and anger.
The appreciation for that quote doesn’t come until we get far enough away from the heartbreak. And when we can do this, we get clarity that the end wasn’t the end of something infinitely; it was the beginning of something different.
Goals are hard endeavors because we make them life or death and say it will be forever. We’re asked as young children what do you want to be when you grow up? Which conditions our young minds to think that when we grow up we’ll only be able to make one choice, and be stuck there…so we must choose wisely. By thinking that way, it keeps us frozen because we don’t want to make a mistake and be stuck forever.
**-So, what is something whether big or small that you can commit yourself to fully this year?
-What is something you can do this whole year, even if you aren’t getting exactly what you want during your pursuit of it?
-And how can you put your whole heart, mind, body, and soul into the task not for the reward of what you expect…but in knowing you’ll become better by this no matter what the outcome?**
If you’re going to be changed, don’t be changed by bitterness, anger, or from the frustration of things not going your way. Be changed because you were open to putting in the resiliency of committing yourself fully to something no matter what the outcome would be. That’s one of the most freeing things you can do—to be open to all possibilities while focusing on being the best you wherever your attention is at the moment.
My Dreams Pursue Me
The Rock- Best thing that never happened.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7iye7YYJt6A
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#372 January 16th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Centered
I like to think I’m a pretty balanced guy, physically. I spent a good portion of my life training in the weight room and playing a multitude of sports. I played ice hockey in college and I learned a thing or two about having better balance. Now that I personal train people in the gym, I work to help them be more physically balanced in their life as well.
Think about someone who is losing their balance on an uneven surface. Usually what they do is stand up straight too fast, locking all their joints making themselves as rigid as possible, which puts them even more off balance as they throw their arms in the air frantically in hopes of finding their center. But if you are aware of your center of gravity, your hips, you learn how to move and adjust more efficiently without wide ranges of motions that destabilize you. I talk to my clients about being supple in their ankles, knees, and hips. It’s like shocks on a car, the more stiff and rigid they are the more the car bounces roughly, but the more ease and agile the shocks then the smoother and more balanced the ride is. And by being more supple in those joint areas, the person only has to make micro movements to rebalance themselves.
You see, we have this false idea that balance is a stable place; that once you find it, you are good. That’s why we try to stand up straight so quickly. We think that’s the most balanced spot for us, tall and upright. But balance is always needing to correct itself. Your muscles will never be able to be perfectly still, even if they look it, they are adjusting all the time. Learning to physically have better balance is a great thing to work on, but what happens when you aren’t balanced mentally, emotionally, and spiritually?
At the end of every spin class, I give the same speech. If you have to leave early, please wipe down your bike and sign out, but if you can stay to cool down, meditate, and stretch…it will help to bring more balance into your life. I continue by saying that, “we go about our lives from one problem to the next, one stress to the next, and one excitement to the next…never taking time to center ourselves. So let’s begin the process of coming back, to what strengthens us.”
I believe in the power of focus and meditation to help our healing. In fact, while I was brainstorming this podcast, I got a call from a friend who was feeling really overwhelmed with everything that’s going on in their life. She told me how she felt she was getting sick and was feeling run down. So, I talked about the effects that stress has on our body…and there’s even a statistic on WedMD that says 75-90% of all doctors visits are for stress-related ailments and complaints.
It was 11 pm so she couldn’t go to the doctors anyways, and she began crying saying how bad she felt. When she gets sick she gets emotional saying she wants her mom…and I know that feeling because for guys, when I have gotten sick I am always sure that I am dying. I literally think in my head how this might be my last night, and so I begin praying to God asking for forgiveness for all the bad things I have done in my life in hopes of penance. But somehow, I always seem to make it through even though I’m sure it’s my last day on earth.
Anyways, I said to my friend… are you in a comfortable spot? And she said, “yes, I am sitting at my desk.”
I did a guided visualization mediation with her focused on healing and relaxation. I do a muscle relaxation technique where they systematically go through their entire body relaxing it. I have them envision a healing light at the top of their head. I like to use the color blue as it feels calming to me, but you can use any color that feels healing to you. And so I did a guided meditation with her, by instructing her breaths and telling her to move that healing light down her body slowly and feel it help relax every muscle in her body.
We did a quick meditation since it was late. But I also wanted to prove how just taking a minute or two to focus on meditation and her breathing would be simple, yet powerful for her. So we did a 2-minute meditation. I asked her how she felt after we were done, and she said felt better and calmer. We talked a bit more, and she thanked me for always being there to rescue and help her…but I corrected her right away and said, “I don’t rescue you. I remind you about your own power within.”
Our conversation, whether she knew it or not, was about finding her calm and finding her balance again. It was about understanding the healing powers within her body…and how it knows exactly what to do when we stop overly stressing and we get out of our own way—when we relax and let our body and mind do what it does best…heal us.
When we re-center ourselves we come back to a truth that we have forgotten a long time ago—that life isn’t as complex as we make. So find your center by breathing deeply again, find your center by working to eliminate the negative stress in your life and know that most stress occurs from how we look at the situation, and find your center by calming your emotions knowing that they aren’t in control of you, you are in control of them.
When we can come back to our center, when we re-balance ourselves, we begin re-aligning ourselves to let our body, mind, and soul do what it does best…heal us…and make us stronger…we become better humans, better individuals, better people by remembering this strength.
Today’s Personal Commitment:See if you can relax your whole body on command. Get comfortable and close your eyes. Start at your forehead and move down your body progressively to relax each muscle in your body. If you’re having trouble doing the visualization then try something called progressive muscle relaxation technique. This is where you will flex the muscle you are trying to relax so you know what it feels like engaged…and then relax the muscle. Go down your whole body from top to bottom and see how much more you can relax and re-center yourself.
One tip is to remember deep breaths in and out. Try it a few times today; you don’t have to do it for a long time just take a few moments out to stop and focus on centering yourself. See how much this helps re-center and calm you during your day today.
I Am Centered
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#371 January 15th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
What I Share Is What I Get Back
“People say New Yorkers can't get along. Not true. I saw two New Yorkers, complete strangers, sharing a cab. One guy took the tires and the radio; the other guy took the engine.”
~David Letterman
A philanthropist can give their money to those less fortunate, a warrior can give their life to help the cause, an artist can give their talent to create beauty…and those who worry and fret, get back what they give into the world…more worry and fear.
We’re all married to something in this world. Whether you’re in a romantic relationship or not, we are connected to what we focus upon. So, you’re either married to your problems and sadness, or you’re married to your growth and happiness. We either adore worry and fear, or we participate in love and hope. There’s no in-between, you cannot focus on two things at the same time, so when you focus on fear, worries, and sadness you make a vow to commit towards living in sin. And not necessarily the sin of the Ten Commandments, but a deeper folly of chaining ourselves unnecessarily…the continually act of self-corruption.
And while I am going to get into some of the Christian Bible today, this is not to speak about religion, but to speak about love. The highest commandment of all.
“Jesus said, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.”
But how can you love God, how can you love your neighbor if you don’t love yourself? Because when we focus on fear, when we choose to make that our home, when we decide to stay in our anxieties and worries instead of assessing them and moving through them—then we aren’t loving ourselves. We are actively choosing to hate ourselves. And maybe that might sound like a strong statement, but think about a good friend who was in trouble—would you tell them to stay in their fear, would you let them destroy themselves down a path you know that you could help them turn away from? No, you wouldn’t. Yes I know we don’t control anyone, but the people we love we want the best for them, and we try our best to help them, to guide them, and to be there for them so they don’t live in fear and anger. And if we would do that for others, why don’t we do that for ourselves?
When I’m working with new life coaching students, I work to help them be aware of all the negative things they’ll say in a day. And in this first phase, they become very sad during this time. And I play dumb not knowing what’s going on, as I ask them why they are so upset. They tell me that they were so excited in seeing the places they were negative about at first, but as they did more of this mindful exercise, they realized they were getting more negative. They felt that by them focusing on their negativity that it was bringing out more negativity in them.
I listen to them so they can get out everything they need to say; and after they’re done speaking, I bring a higher awareness to them. I tell them that they weren’t getting more negative…they were becoming more aware. You see, we literally are clueless to how much we focus on negativity and problems in our lives. We don’t see how much worry we have in our life. And we don’t see all the negative things we say about a situation, about other people, and about ourselves. We’ve become married to our problems, and what we put out into the world is exactly what’s returned to us.
We all know that famous quote in the Bible that’s used at weddings… You know, “love is patient and love is kind…” but do you know what’s said before all those famous verses that we almost know by heart?
Let me share it with you:
“If I speak in human and angelic tongues- but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing.”
We are all married to something in our lives…
-Will you be married to worry, anger, fear, anxiety, hopelessness, and self-deprecation?
-Or will you be married to love of self, love of others, and love of the situation no matter what’s going on?
Because what we put out into the world is what is returned back to us. What we give is like a wheel. Life is a cyclical pattern. And so if we give more love to ourselves, we give it more fully into the world; and thus that love is returned to us. But if we practice more fear, self-hate, and worry…it’s returned to us like a wheel with its brakes on. It will not move, we will not move…we trap ourselves by thinking that living…consists in merely surviving.
So in essence, if we speak in human and angelic tongues, if we have the gift of prophecy and knowledge, if we have faith, and if we give away everything we own…but do not have love. Then we are nothing. The pattern starts within, when we love ourselves, we can love our neighbor, we can put a higher love into the world; and in return, we will be returned more love to continue the process of being not only mindful of what we’re doing, but aware of what we truly can be.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What are you sharing into the world? If you’re able to do this exercise right now, stop everything and let your intuition talk. Write down at the top of a piece of paper “What Am I Sharing Right Now.” And then begin listing all the things you’re putting out into the world in your current status right now.
Don’t write down what you hope to be putting out, don’t write down what you don’t want to be putting out, just be real and write down what you are putting out…with no filters. After you write your list down, look over it and ponder on it for awhile. Don’t ponder on judgment, just look at it to become aware of what you’re doing. You aren’t a good or bad person for what you’re doing, you just are you at the moment…unaware.
And now that you’ve thought about what you’re putting out into the world, write down:
- 1) What you want to be putting out into the world.
- 2) Ideas on how you can do that.
- 3) Making a plan to follow through.
- 4) Commiting yourself to that plan.
Be the wheel that moves, be the cyclical part that shares love internally and externally…instead of the wheel that focuses on fear, anger, and self-hate. Don’t be the wheel with the brakes on. Be the wheel that gives kindness, hope, faith, and love freely and purposefully.
So let us not be worried about seeing our fears and think that we’re getting worse for viewing them, let be different. Let us have to courage to view them to become more aware. Let us learn to love ourselves, so that we can love the world back. And let us reap the benefits naturally, by putting great things out so great things will return to us.
In marriage we make the vow until death do us part…what are you bonding yourself to? Make it to something good.
What I Share Is What I Get Back
Thanks for listening to The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #370 January 14th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
The Work Is My Reward
“Effort only fully releases its reward after a person refuses to quit.”
~Napoleon Hill
Now be honest, when you first saw this affirmation you were disappointed…you were like nu-uh… I don’t find the reward in the work…maybe you even cringed a little on seeing this. Work, effort, putting in the time to do something gets a bad rap. We look at the challenge ahead as punishment because we want to be at the end of a task right away, and we want the reward as quickly as possible.
But getting the reward too quickly makes us not respect it as much then, and it puts a false sense of expectation upon ourselves—that the end reward, is the only reason we’re doing something.
My original reason for starting a podcast was the reason that kept me stuck. I heard people were making money from them, and so I figured I could find a way to make money doing it too. And that’s not a bad reason for wanting to do something, we all have to make a living somehow…but money has never been a motivator for me. And so, I spent years wanting to do a podcast and make a bigger impact with my time…but I spent so much time telling myself I didn’t know how to do it, that I didn’t know if it would be worth my time since I might not make money from doing it…and so I kept waiting, talking myself out of why I couldn’t…until one day I just decided to leap. I said to myself, “if you never make any money off of this, even if no one listens…that’s ok because I want to make it my mission to put value out into the world. And so I lept, I took action and decided to commit to putting out a podcast daily no matter what happened.
I just had to get crystal clear on what my mission was, to bring value into the world, even if I got laughed at for not being good enough…and that’s what helped me to overcome my fears of making mistakes or not being good enough. In fact, I had to launch, to make mistakes, so I could get feedback and create a better experience for listeners. And I’m still tweaking it and learning…and doubting myself from time to time
At the time I knew it would be work, but I didn’t know how much. I originally was going to do it five days a week from Monday to Friday, but in my head I said… “wouldn’t it be cool if you had 365 days instead of 261?” And again I jumped and decided to commit to the work no matter what.
Every week, I still get nervous if I can tell something new, or I get fearful thinking that I’ve run out of stories to share about my life…but the truth of the matter is, even if I tell similar stories or give the same message from time to time…it’s going as it should be. Everything I’m speaking of…is needed. And not because I’m saying that I’m important in how I craft the message, but more that we need to continually hear the subjects I’m speaking on. The subjects of mindfulness, of where we put our attention, or knowing that we are the ones in control of our lives, or that blame keeps us powerless, and many other deeper messages. We need these messages told to us…over and over again.
It’s like prayer. When things are going great, it’s easy for me to not to pray much, if at all, as I can take things for granted. And so I can be harder on myself saying you know better, you know this already…but while we do know what we need to do…we still need to keep reminding ourselves of what we want in our lives because it’s so easy to forget sometimes.
So with rewards, I know I need to keep reminding myself that the happiness wasn’t in obtaining the thing, the joy wasn’t in getting to the end…but the reward was being awake during the work. It’s like going on a hike. I live by the Smokey Mountains here in eastern Tennessee, and when I go hiking I’ve noticed how my eyes are more on the ground. I do it because I don’t want to misstep on my climb. While it’s partly due to safety, it’s also due to finding the quickest way to the top and then back down.
I’ve forgotten that the whole reason for the climb was to enjoy the beauty along the way, not only at the top. I’ve said this quote many times, but it needs to be said again… “be careful of having your eyes so focused on the end goal that you miss the things along the way.” The best parts of the hike weren’t in only getting to the top to see that beautiful view…but it was looking the whole time I was climbing…because that was equally as beautiful as well.
We are a society focused on goals, achievements, and on obtaining things. We’ve gotten used to telling ourselves the lie that the reward was in getting to the end of something…and while that is ONE reward…it’s not the whole reward. The greatest times in my life were when I had to climb, when I struggled and was tested; when I wasn’t sure how I would make it, but I believed in something more, I believed more in myself and found a way to be more creative to keep me from staying stuck; and the greatest times in my life were when I learned to let my mind be still within the moment…and take it in.
There’s something beautiful about industriousness, in the work we push ourselves towards. There’s something beautiful in the sweat we pore from our bodies in moving forward no matter what the costs, there’s something amazing in the transformations that happen along the way of our journeys…and not because we focused solely on the reward…but we saw the reward in every part of the journey.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What reward are you focused on right now? What journey are you taking at this moment? And are you enjoying each footstep in your journey…or only mesmerized by the gold at the end of your journey?
Today, no matter how crappy you think the tasks are on your desk I’m going to ask you to transform how you see them. So think about what you have to do today and ask yourself:
- How you can talk about them differently
- How you can think about them differently
- And how you can go about them differently.
Sometimes the easiest way to happiness is not in changing your path, but in knowing you were the one deciding whether to love your path or to hate and fight every step along the way. You are the one in control, not the task, not your boss, and not anything outside of yourself. Find joy in knowing that you are free. That you are free to choose where to focus. So, will you be so hell-bent on reaching the end that you miss all the beauty along the way, or will you find a way to know the rewards are in the work.
And on a final note, I was part of a reality TV show on MTV called I Used To Be Fat. And no I didn’t name the show… I think they wanted to get a shock factor for marketing purposes, so forgive me for the harsh name of the show. But the reason I’m bringing this up is the gal I worked with, Holly, we climbed a trail called the Chimney Tops in the Smokey Mountains. I’ll place a minute clip from the episode on my site of us climbing that trail. And in the clip it’s so easy to miss all the beauty along the way trying to reach the top. One thing that they didn’t tell you in this scene is I gave Holly my backpack that I filled with rocks and sand to challenge her more. Yes, I am that mean.
The thing I wanted to help Holly do in our journey together was to not focus on the weight loss aspect, but to focus more on the internal change. Because I know that lasting change comes…only when we change from within. Holly did a great job for all the hard work I put her through, but she struggled a lot with whether she wanted to continue to keep working as hard as I pushed her. And you’ll hear in this clip how we can get so focused on the end goal that we miss the beauty along the way…even myself as I was pushing her to reach the top faster. But we only had so much time that the camera crew could be there, and it was a workout that I wanted to push her, so that’s my excuse for rushing…it’s not because I wasn’t enjoying the beauty along the way.
If you want to see the full episode, I know you can buy the it on Amazon.The episode is called Holly and it’s season 2, episode 7 of I Used To Be Fat, and I’m sure you can find it other places too.
The Work Is My Reward
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#369 January 13th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I See The Bigger Picture
“I think when you work on fossils, and you realize that a species is there, and it's abundant for quite a long period of time, and then at some point it's no longer there - and so, when you look at that bigger picture, yes, you realize that either you change and adapt, or, as a species, you go extinct.”~Louise Leakey
I was trying to think about what to say for this podcast, and I was having trouble thinking of where I’d like to take it. I sat in front of my computer for 20 minutes, at least, listening to music to help calm my mind. When all of the sudden I was startled as I heard a small guttural growl.
I jumped a little and looked to the left of my desk. I saw one of my dogs, Storm sitting upright, staring me down. It was one of those moments I’ve heard parents talk about who wake up in the middle of the night and their child is staring at them in the dark…and it creeps the hell out of them, as it looks like a scene from a horror movie. But I saw Storm’s kind eyes and knew she wanted something.
I was perplexed at what she was doing because I’d just let the dogs out, and then fed them dinner. But Storm kept staring at me. I thought, well, she might want my usual hugs I give to all the dogs. So I got down and gave her a hug, and petted her for a bit to see if she just wanted attention. She quieted down. So I got back to my desk and went back to work. I then heard that same guttural growl again in the family room. So I went out to investigate what was going on. I had an idea what Storm was doing, but I went out to investigate.
And when I got out there, my hunches were validated. Storm loves to whine and cry when she feels someone is laying in her bed. And Jolene had snaked Storm’s usual nighttime hangout place. I have more than enough beds for the dogs, but Storm for some reason won’t lay down, and she cries until one of the dogs moves from where she thinks she deserves to lay.
The reason I bring this story up, is because we are like my dog Storm in our lives at times. We’re so focused on not getting what we think we deserve that we’ll only see the problem instead of the whole picture. We’re so close to the problem that we aren’t able to see all the possibilities of greatness in our lives.
Storm gets so focused on—this is my spot, my bed, that I’ll be upset and whine until I get my way. And while whining isn’t a good long-term plan for getting what you want, it sometimes does help Storm. She usually gets her way if she whines long enough, not because a dog moves from her spot, but I move the dog for her, so she will finally be quiet.
In our lives, we have gotten so accustomed to airing what bothers us, that it feels normal to talk about problems. We’ve become like those old people in nursing homes who only talk about what medicines they are taking, what sickness they are dealing with, or what aches and pains are bothering them. And while that sounds comical…it has become our reality. We get on facebook and talk about how sick we are, we talk about the issues we’re having at our jobs or at school, and we talk about the sadnesses in our lives. And I think it’s good to share things with people, but we air EVERY problem to the world…that we get comfortable talking more about problems than finding better things to focus on.
I do believe in talking about what bothers us, but there’s a difference by talking something out to find an answer rather than just talking to complain. And I will keep reminding you of my favorite life coaching saying, so that it becomes a part of our subconscious… “we don’t get what we want, we get what we focus on.”
When you can begin focusing more on what’s going right in your life, you’ll find that you not only attract more good in your life, but you create more good in your life. And by being active in seeing the good, you become more creative, you become more open to different scenarios and possibilities…and you actually become happier.
Life is like a bicycle wheel. Think of the spokes in that wheel as the events in your life. Now, when one of those spokes breaks—it seems like the end of the world. It seems like things don’t, or can’t fit, together like they should. It feels final, it feels devastating, it feels uncomfortable… but what I just said was… “it feels.” I didn’t say it was the end of the world. Because when you step back from the problem, you see that your life wasn’t about that one spoke or even a few of those spokes—your life was the whole wheel. And within that wheel, all those spokes keep the whole tire supported and still able to move.
When you are able to step back and see that each event, each process, of life isn’t the end of something, but actually a piece of the whole process, it brings truth into your life. You see that it’s all connected, not determined on thing to make you happy.
I spent so much of my life focusing on the problem that I made the problem bigger than it was. I stressed myself out more than I should’ve, and thus I made the situation worse. So when you’re feeling like you’re dying from sickness, when you feel like it’s the end of the world after you’be been fired or laid off, when you feel you can’t go on after you go through a breakup or when you get a bad review or negative comment about who you are…
take it in.
Step back to get some room to breathe, take some deep breathes and find the calm within the moment, and take a look at the bigger picture. See the beautiful intertwining of life, in ALL the spokes of your life, not just the one spoke that feels broken.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What spokes feel broken at the moment in your life? And why do they feel like the end of the world to you…or at least a major problem for you? Write your answers down; and then step away from the paper for an hour, a day, or even a week. Come back to it when you’ve had time to step back and breathe from those problems…and then see how you can observe the bigger picture.
Write down:
- 1) The opportunity in the hard events.
- 2) Write down the lessons you can learn from these harder events.
- 3) Write down what you eventually want to get from making it through these events.
- 4) And then write down the steps you need to take to make that happen.
The problem isn’t the broken event in your life. The problem is the way you see the problem. So let’s begin seeing our problems less as problems…and more like stepping stones helping us get to the other side. We think that a wall is between us and the dreams we have in our lives, but the dream and where you are right now really aren’t all that different. They’re the same person; except the better version, the dream version of yourself, just decided that their problems weren’t their focal point. So they looked past them, and found a way to get past them…in an efficient, deliberate, positive manner.
I See The Bigger Picture
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#368 January 12th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Always Willing To Ask
The Eskimos had fifty-two names for snow because it was important to them: there ought to be as many for love.
~Margaret Atwood
I was listening to a speaker talk on why it’s so hard to remember people’s names, and she were saying the reason was because our mind didn’t know where to place it. She got all technical about what part of the brain is used and why it has trouble remembering. And like we forget names, it slipped my mind what part of the brain she was talking about. The reason that I think I forgot what she said, was not because it wasn’t interesting, but because I didn’t care.
It’s not that I didn’t care about her, or her topic, it’s that I didn’t put value on why I should remember the name of a section of the brain that she was talking about. I tune out when people start talking about all the parts of the brain…the frontal lobe, the temporal lobe, the parietal lobe, the hippocampus…in fact, my brain gets over-“lobed” out…” get it overload..to over-“lobed” out …ok it’s a bad joke when you have to explain it, right???
Anyways, I think there are multiple reasons why we forget names, but before I get into all the reasons, I think the best way to remember names is by understanding WHY we should remember names first.
I was listening on the radio to a podcast or some sort of interview, and the person was talking about remembering people’s names. He said that if he forgets a name, he’ll ask them again. The embarrassment wasn’t as big a deal because there was a bigger purpose than his embarrassment. He wanted to know the person, and by him continuing to ask that person however many times he needed to, was him saying to himself and the other person that I WANT to know you…even if I have to be embarrassed asking again.
And that was such a powerful idea, that it’s stuck with me. He’d turned the embarrassment side of the argument upside down and said this is not about me, but it’s about you. It’s that I care so much in knowing you, that I’ll keep asking your name if I have to.
If you think about it, one of the biggest reasons we don’t remember people’s names is from where our attention is. And our attention usually is in two places…nowhere—you know, those silly random thoughts that are always going on with what we have to do, what we forgot, what was the name of that song, etc…and the other place our attention is mostly on… is ourselves.
We’ve gotten into the habit of making conversations less about who we’re talking to and making more about ourselves. It’s about us being known rather than knowing someone else. We worry more about sharing what we know, who we know, or what we bring to the table…as a matter of showing our worth. We have become a society so self-absorbed that we’re missing out on some of the greater parts of life. By knowing people’s names, or trying to get to know people’s names more attentively, it helps us to connect more in this world.
But it’s so easy to be tuned out not just in remembering names, but in life in general, and as I stated in the beginning of the podcast I believe it’s from how we’re assessing the value of something. I remember taking a communication class in college, and we talked about scripted responses. You know those questions or statements that we’re able to answer without thinking about—like how we’re doing, what’s going on in the weather, or the things that are going wrong in life at the moment. They are processes that take minimal thought, and we’ve learned that in the beginning of conversations scripted answers and questions are part of our normal dialogue and customs.
So if we don’t need to have much thought in the beginning of a conversation, then we don’t put value into the beginning of a conversation…which means we are less likely to pay attention. So when someone tells us their name, our brains are literally turned off. We aren’t actively listening, as we’re most likely in scripted question and response mode. And we all have been there saying these words, “uh huh, you don’t say, oh that’s interesting”…all while we aren’t even paying attention.
But I want to challenge you to think differently about names and conversations. The real reason why you should know someone’s name is because it means you really care about someone. I was walking into the gym to start my day, and I saw a newer member of the gym and so I said, “Hey Scott, how are you doing?” He replied, “I’m great Chris, thanks for asking.” Now while that was a simple conversation…for me, it was about me recognizing him…not just as a face, but as someone important. Now granted, Scott and I have only chatted a few times in passing, and I saw him again about 20 minutes later in another part of the gym, and he said, “Chris, thank you for remembering my name. It doesn’t seem like much, but it really means a lot to me.”
And that’s what remembering names means to me. It’s me actively saying I see you, I want to know who you are, I care about you, you are important to me.
I don’t remember everyone’s names, and I do get embarrassed asking people their name 20 times, in fact I’ve done it a bunch of times and I apologize for it…but I also let them know that I want to get better at remembering their name. You see for me it’s not about being good at remembering everyone’s name. It’s that I want that person to know that I want to be better at remembering THEIR name. That they are important.
And really what it’s about is paying attention to the beginning of a conversation to hear their name.
I’m not too bad with names, but I’m not as good as I used to be at it. I think it’s due to being rushed in everything I’m doing as my mind is on all the random thoughts I’m focusing on. And in my younger years I placed even more value on remembering names. I used to work in a bar, and it was my mission to know everyone’s name in the bar on a particular night. I remember one night they were all new customers, and I could name off all 50 of the patron's first names. I wanted to know their name so they felt good, but I also had an ulterior motive… I wanted better tips too. So there was a secret agenda in that time in my life…but I still hold the importance of a name.
It feels good when people know who we are. It feels good when we are perceived as memorable. It feels good connecting with people on a deeper level than just scripted questions and responses. And it feels good having conversations and interactions that are more than just about ourselves.
I could give you all these tips on how to remember people’s name such as using their name 3 times in a conversation, use associations, make it a new years resolution…but in the end it’s really simple it’s about your why, it’s about the value you put on knowing someone’s name.
Maybe you don’t see knowing everyone’s name as important in the grand scheme of things, and that’s fine. But the next time you say I’m bad at remembering names…maybe you should ask yourself if it’s more that you don’t care to know someone’s name. Because in the end if you really cared, you’d do something different.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Wow, I left you with a pretty harsh last thought, saying that you may not care about knowing people…but I wanted to get your attention. Sure there’s only so much we can focus on, and trying to remember everyone’s name may not be a priority to us. So maybe it should be less about knowing everyone, and more into having more meaningful interactions.
Because if we’re so caught up in scripted conversations, where we don’t think or we don’t try to really connect with people, then are we truly getting the most out of life? Are we learning from people, are we hearing them so we can help them when they’re in need, and are we getting more out of a conversation than it always being about ourselves? It feels good when we feel heard, when we feel people are really listening to us. So why not give that gift to others?
When we listen intently and actively to others, it gives more room for ourselves to be heard back. But let’s not make this about what we can get. This month I want you to pay attention to your conversations. I want you to work in not getting into autopilot of scripted response and question mode. I want you to see if you can really connect with people—to hear their name, to put value on knowing their name, as you work to remember their name for a different reason. See what happens when you stop saying I’m bad at remembering names, and instead…begin figuring out why you want to know people’s names better.
Let’s work to let people know they’re known and that they matter. It may seem like a small thing, but it’s a huge thing when you know someone remembered your name because they wanted to know who you are.
I’m Always Willing To Ask
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#367 January 11th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Already Wealthy
“Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.” Epictetus
I’m going to go deep on this podcast, so bear with me…grab some popcorn or whatever snack you prefer and let’s change together.
One illusion we live our lives in, is that we don’t have what we want or what we need. And thus we put our energies into focusing on what we lack instead of putting energy towards creating the thing we want. And when we put our attention on what’s lacking, we train our subconscious to continue to keep coming back to that place as if it’s our home. Which then conditions our subconscious to create energies that focus on keeping ourselves confined within “want” instead of achievement.
The law of attraction states that likened things attract likened things. And there are people who say it’s all a bunch of malarkey, but it’s because they’ve named it something different. They’ve called it a miracle and act of God through prayer, they’ve called it the act of visualization and application, they’ve called it hard work and determination, or they’ve called it good energy focused efficiently…but in the end no matter what you call it, whether it be the law of attraction or something else, matters not…it matters about how you focus.
Ok, I’m going to get all brainiac on you here. Although I’m not a super genius, I’ll try to interpret these experiments as simply as I can for you. We’ve all heard of Einstein’s equation of E=MC2, or Energy=Mass times the speed of light squared, and basically this equation is saying that there’s no difference between mass and energy…they’re the same thing…which really blew my mind originally. Because how can energy have mass, how can it have form? And where I’m going with this, is that our thoughts are energy—which means they actually are physical things, they create things. But how can things that we supposedly cannot touch have form? Now before I get into experiment explaining this, think of it like this, while we cannot touch light physically, we still know it’s there…it’s still physically doing something.
There was an interesting experiment called the double slit experiment. So how it worked, was a board was set up set up in front of a screen. The board would either have one slit or two vertical slits cut out of it. They slits looked like a capital letter “I.”
Many different substances have been used in this experiment such as physical objects being shot at the board to light or lasers being shot at the board to understand how particles and waves act. The scientists wanted to understand what electrons were. Were they particles or were they waves? So they shot electrons at the board to see how they passed through the slit making an impression on the screen behind the board.
What they saw, was when the electrons went through the single slit they acted like a particle, they behaved as something that had mass. They formed an I shape on the screen behind the single slit board.
However, something interesting happened when the electrons went through the double slit. You would think the electrons would behave like they did in the first experiment and make two “I” shaped forms on the screen since the only thing that had changed was adding an another slit on the board. However what happened, was instead of two “I” shaped forms…it formed a band of multiple “I” shaped impressions of the slit on the screen.
What this experiment proved is that electrons can be two things; they can be physical, and they can be waveform. They aren’t confined to being one or the other. And this left people confused for a long time on how to define an electron, as either a particle (something physical) or like a wave (nonphysical). What’s even crazier about this experiment is that it changes by where the observer is standing…or how they are measuring. Meaning if they wanted to understand why the electron acted like a wave and they zoomed in to see what electrons did during the double slit experiment…then the electron acted like a particle instead of a wave.
So, what I really found this to mean…is even in physical scientific experiments…on the smallest level of looking at what all “matter” is made of—electrons…they’re changed by the way it’s observed. Which means the way you observe your life will determine how something will change. Your thoughts are actually energy, and energy is equal to mass, so where your thoughts focus upon…is what you will physically create in your life.
If you observe your life on a higher positive vibrational scale…you will change your truths. It’s much more than just thinking positive; it’s about how you observe things. I like to say this example, “the reason people’s lives don’t change is that they only try positive thinking…when in fact it’s about positive ‘BE-ing’. It’s not about trying something; it’s about knowing and becoming the thing you want before you become the thing you want. How you decide to view an event is the physical truth you will create for your life.”
I’ll include two videos so you can see the double slit experiment explained better at the bottom of this post on my website.
Now in this final experiment, I’ll talk about, it will bring home what I was just saying. There’s something called sympathetic resonance, which basically states that likened things will take on the same frequency from the thing that’s vibrating. So in the experiment, two tuning forks are beside each other, but not touching each other. One tuning fork is struck, and then the struck fork is stopped by someone putting their fingers on it to stop the vibrations and the tone. Now most of us would think that would stop the vibration and the noise we hear, and it does, but only on the struck fork. The fork that was next to it, is still vibrating and you can hear the same frequency pitch that the struck fork emitted in that second tuning fork that wasn’t touched.
So, what that means is the fork that wasn’t touched was affected by the other forks vibrational frequency. It took on the vibration and continued putting out the same noise. So now take this experiment and think about how your thoughts aren’t just thoughts. They are energy and they emit a frequency. So if thoughts are energy and energy is the same thing as mass, as something physical, then your thoughts are things. When your thoughts, your vibrational frequency, is put out into the world it basically is passed from one object…you…and then transferred to something within the world. Your focus will not only attract what you put your attention on, but it will also create it within this world as well.
The law of attraction isn’t just thinking positively…it’s aligning your thoughts to match frequencies of the things you desire. The universe is all about harmony. So what you put out the universe reciprocates in perfect harmony. The universe doesn’t differentiate what is good or bad as we do, it just reproduces what you give to it. And so, if you focus and put out negative frequencies…they are returned to you. But if you consistently focus on higher and better vibrational frequencies, then those…are returned to you.
Thoughts become things, and what vibrational frequency you emit into the universe is what will be created. But it’s more complicated than just creating things, it’s more about aligning yourself up with the frequencies that create the things you want. We have confused creating with alignment. The law of Conservation of Energy states that everything in this universe is neither created nor destroyed. When we truly understand this, then it’s not about creating our wants but it’s about aligning ourselves up with our wants. It’s about becoming the full embodiment of our wants before we obtain them. So I want you to really hear me on this…it’s not about creation…it’s about alignment.
You and the universe are in a collaborative, symphonic, performance together working to create a mutual harmony. Everything you do will be harmony, but will it be the tune you wish to be aligned with, or will it be the return of the things you focus on that you don’t want. Because as they say, the universe doesn’t judge…it just grants your wishes of what you’re focusing upon.
Now maybe this all might sound crazy to you, and I would’ve thought the same thing years ago, but I’ve seen too many miracles in my life to believe in them as only being happenchance or coincidences. And as they say, when the student is ready the teacher will appear, and many teachers appeared for me when I was open to seeing a deeper truth.
There are three examples that come to mind that have proven to me of these principles being true…and if I don’t convince you, that’s ok because I believe you should find your own truth and learn to live by it, but I’m hoping to help you see another possibility.
The first example of aligning myself was finding one of my greatest mentors, Mike. It was a time when I was looking for truth, not just what hand been spoon fed to me my whole life. I wanted to explore all possibilities. And it seemed rather lucky that at the time I was looking, that my actual next door neighbor, Mike, came into my life. And through a series of events, over a few years of being able to chat with him every day, I was gifted a chance to learn some of his higher wisdom no one had ever told me before. And while it seems like I was in the right place at the right time, it was the intention I put out into the universe…I wanted to hear a deeper truth and when I asked that Mike appeared…right next door in fact.
The next example is always a pleasant surprise when it happens, but it’s happened so many times that even though I’m surprised, I know better as it not being a coincidence. I’ve had many good friends come and go in my life, and there’ve been multiple times I would think about them after a few years of not communicating at all. The latest one was my buddy Dillan, we hadn’t talked in about 2 or 3 years, and as I was getting in my car to go to work he popped in my mind. I said, “I need to call Dillan, I wonder how he is doing.”
And the crazy thing is he called me. And it’s not that he called me a month later, he called me that exact day. Now mind you I wasn’t on Facebook looking for them, I wasn’t talking with friends or acquaintances who knew him who might have let him know I was talking about him. He lived in Washington at the time, and one small deliberate thought came into my mind, and I knew I wanted to talk with him.
Now I don’t know if Dillan was thinking about me and that’s why he came up in my mind to call him, or that he felt my thoughts about wanting to connect and that’s why he called me…but I’ve lost touch with friends over the years, and I would think about them, and they’d call me back that day or week. It’s happened too many times over the years to be an accident or to be called a coincidence. And as Einstein once said…”coincidences are God’s way of remaining anonymous.”
My final example of the power of aligning my thoughts was when I was laid off from work. I was looking for a job but not too hard at the time. And I was getting bored from eating Cheetohs, Ramen noodles all while playing video games all day. It’s amazing how hungry you get doing nothing. So yes, I was a lazy bum during this time. After getting to my boredom breaking point, I decided something had to change. I decided to send out resumes in full force by doing something different. I made sure that everything I sent out, the recruiter had to physically touch. I wasn’t going to email anything. I was going to physically go to the building and hand them my resume, or I was going to fax it in so they had to touch the piece of paper to get it, or I was going to mail it through the post office so they would have to open the envelope and physically touch my resume.
In my second week of doing this, I started getting a bunch of calls. I was embarrassed I didn’t know who was calling me for interviews. I knew I sent out my resume to a bunch of companies, but I didn’t recognize any of the companies names that were calling me back. They say when you’re interviewing you should do your homework on the company, so I didn’t want to look like wasn’t doing my due diligence and not look interested or knowing anything about the positions I was applying for, but I had no clue who the company was when they contacted me. And after the 6th or 7th call within a week, I said sheepishly, “I’m really sorry to ask this, but I don’t know who you are, how did you get my resume? I don’t remember sending it to you.” And the recruiter said, oh I found you on an online resume site.
Now while that wouldn’t seem weird, the funny thing is I had my resume on that site for two years and hadn’t heard a peep from anyone…even when I was in the job before I got laid off. Now people will say that I must have triggered something by going on the site to look for jobs, but I didn’t go to that site to look for job placement ads. The only thing that had changed was me putting out specific energy and it being returned to me. I got what I was looking for; it just didn’t happen exactly how I was expecting it.
So in conclusion, the law of attraction has changed my life by teaching me that—what you can hold in your mind, you can create in your life…your mental energy creates substance. Your thoughts physically create things from where your focus resides. And there are four steps to help align yourself how you wish in your life:
- Know your imagination is energy; your thoughts create vibrations.
- Those waves will be put into the Universe
- The Universe will return what you put out there. The Universe is always in harmony with your thoughts, so pay attention to what you’re aligning yourself with.
- Learning from reciprocation. If the Universe returns what we give it, and we aren’t happy with how things are happening, be aware and ask how you can change your vibration. It’s about purity of mind. Your mind is like water; if you’re focusing on your lack, your weaknesses, and on how things don’t work out for you…then you make your mind darker. You make the purity of it unpalatable. The Universe doesn’t judge where your focus is, it returns what you give it.
And the more you practice this way of operating upon purity, then the better you’ll get at creating what you truly want, and you’ll be getting those things faster. And people will see your efforts as luck or call you a magician…but you’ll know it’s not magic per say…it’s focus.
Now I know this was a bunch of information, and maybe your head might be spinning at the moment. But I wanted to talk about physical proof of the power of our thoughts and the universe, not because I need to prove it to myself, but rather I wanted to give you some basis on actual science and experiments that open up your mind to possibilities.
For me, I don’t care so much about facts as I’ve seen the law of attraction happen in my life too many times to count. I like to think about it like the topic of love, you don’t need an explanation how it works, you know it works…and thus you spend your energy on what’s important…loving…instead caught in endless in figuring out that mystery.
A lot of the science I referenced, I made sure to talk with my good buddy Charles about. He graduated with an aeronautical engineering degree, so he understands this stuff better than I do…but he told me how he uses the law of attraction in his life.
He said, “I am in a dual feedback loop…the universe has something happen to me… and I will transmute it by making it positive and send that out to the universe which it will then react back to what I put out to it. I’m constantly taking back what the universe is giving me, and then focusing on keeping it on a positive higher frequency. I’m changing the Universe’s return frequency, as I stay consistent. I’m constantly updating. I’m taking the negative lower energies and continually updating it to higher positive frequencies to change what’s returned to me; you can’t B.S. the universe…it knows. You have to will it; you have to become what you put out there.”
And like what Charles said…the reason you change what the universe is sending you is not because you outplayed the Universe in its game, but the Universe saw your consistency in your focus and said, “I will give you back what you emit, I will give you back who you are.” So in the end, the law of attraction brings you what you want, not because you out-willed something, but because you became what you wanted in every fiber of your being. When you understand that you are already wealthy, in every area of your life, you’ll find that your life changed not because you did something physically different, but you became different. Your vibrational energy aligned with abundance instead of lack…which in turn, gives you the capacity to live beyond your dreams.
Today’s Personal Commitment:This was a pretty long podcast, so I want to make this easier and only do a visualization to help you begin thinking and acting differently. Think of the Universe, or whatever you want to call it…God, Abba, Science, Energy… and visualize it as a person who you can talk with. This person knows you inside out, someone you can’t fool. And this person can grant you anything you focus on…this person will harmonize and return exactly what you put out there. Think of this person as sitting across the table from you, or next to the park bench you’re on, or going for a walk as you tell them what you want.
So the next time you want something or you want to become something different, instead of forcing things the old way of pushing back or trying to make things happen only physically…what if you were to change your energy to better harmonize with the Universe. What if you were constantly updating, not getting upset at what’s given to you because you know it’s not a punishment…it’s just the return of the energy you’ve been putting out into the world.
It’s my hope that if you see your exchange with the Universe on this deeper level, you will change how you interact with the Universe. You won’t throw your hands up in the air and say it’s just my luck… you will instead begin working on updating your energy to higher vibrational frequencies. You will work on purifying your mind to align better with the Universe. You will be like sympathetic resonance, you’ll be like that tuning fork, knowing whatever frequency you give out will be returned to you exactly as you’ve put it out there. So how pure is your mind, how high is your frequency…and do you focus more on abundance and the possibilities of what you want rather than the focusing on your lack—the things that you think are bad in your life or missing from your life?
But I do have to warn you, by choosing the path of purity and a higher vibrational frequency of your thoughts and your actions…you won’t be able to live in blame anymore. You won’t be able to say it’s not your fault, you won’t be able to live in the dark, ignorant, and unaware…you will know that everything you are a part of is your responsibility. And if you don’t like where you are, then you have to be diligent in constantly updating your mind and your ways. Your thoughts are more than just random nothingness…they are energy, and energy is not only power…but it’s “matter” too. Your thoughts are things; you are a creator, and I hope you focus on creating well. I hope you remember that you’re already wealthy, because when you do remember this…everything changes.
I’m Already Wealthy
Dr Quantum
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DfPeprQ7oGc
Light Experiment Double Slit
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Iuv6hY6zsd0
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#366 January 10th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Follow Through Because Of My Fears
"I can give you a six-word formula for success: 'Think things through - then follow through.'"
~Eddie Rickenbacker
I like to think I’m organized, that I do what I need to when…I need to, but I’ve created habits that feel more natural than they should. I ‘ve let fear creep under my skin, as it feels more like a standard operating procedure than a choice I’ve decided upon. And the reason that is is that I’ve been lying to myself to keep me from facing my fears. I’ve chosen more to live in the story of avoiding my fears, rather than telling the story of where my fears came from.
I think it’s because I bought into the ideas of who society tells us to be. To fall in, to fit in, to be a piece of the system. And those are good things, for every society to thrive and continue thriving…there needs to be a certain amount of buy-in to the ideas within that system. But sometimes it can be crippling to the creativity of the individuals within that system.
And in our system we’ve been told to not make too much noise, to not interrupt what’s been working for all these years, we’ve been told to fit in line and happiness will happen by falling in with the masses. And for me, the story I told to fit into the system was about getting people to like me, being acceptable to others, not standing out so I wouldn’t be judged harshly. So, I quieted my healing voice for others by being worried I would be stepping out of line, that I wouldn’t be good enough, that people who were more qualified than me should be doing it instead of me.
I have this fear about returning calls. I know it sounds silly, but when I get a new lead it’s the predicament of the 10,000-pound phone. That’s what we called it when I was in the sales force. It’s the difficulty of picking up that phone to do what’s necessary in contacting a potential prospect. But it’s not that the phone is hard to pick up, it’s that I have weighted myself down with my fears so that I can’t even put my hand near the phone.
I’ll overthink the situation and process all that would or could go wrong, rather than seeing the bigger picture. And so it’s easier not to call, than it is to be worried about messing up. It’s easier to focus on failure than it is to work on learning from our mistakes and continue moving forward. Because when we focus on the fear it gives us a reason to cop out, to make excuses of why we can’t, and we think that the comfort of not moving forward is better than the sadness of being stuck in the same spot.
Every time I’ve lead a bad coaching session was due to me focusing on myself. It was the pressure I put on myself to have the answer, to be prepared for every twist and turn that could come my way. And what I was doing by doing that, was focusing more on me than I was focusing on my student.
I work to guide my sessions through active listening and intuition, and when I remember this and purposefully work to put myself there…the sessions always work themselves out. In fact, when I thought I had a bad session, a student will say it was the best one yet. The reason I felt it was bad was that I was focusing on myself, and me being the hero, rather than being the questioner helping my student see they were the one shifting themselves not me making them change.
The reason I’ve helped people was not because of all the advice I’d given them, but by helping them to get to the root of what’s bothering them…and then letting them come to their a-ha moment. Sure, I’ll give advice, and I work to ask powerful questions…but the power of helping someone isn’t about handcuffing their hand to mine and telling them this is how it will be solved…it’s about giving them the space to talk it out. And that gives them the power, to see the problem for what it really is. That gives them the chance to look at their fears and see that they aren’t what they thought they were…they were just the amplification they put on the fear of everything that could go wrong.
And so coming back to my fear of calling back people, the root cause of it comes from being a failure. It’s the fear of not connecting with the person, not being able to help them, or not making a conversion from them wondering if they should do business with me or not. It’s the fear of not making enough money in my business and being a failure in my endeavors, and it’s the fear of not having all the answers and failing that person.
It’s me overthinking, instead of looking at what the real purpose is behind the call. And it’s really simple when you think about it. It’s just me calling them back, and having a real conversation with them by asking what’s going on. It’s about seeing if we have a connection to work together, to see if I’m the person that can be there for them, to help them see their potential. I’ve put too many unrealistic expectations on myself. And those expectations are—that I have to help everyone, that I have to connect with everyone, and that I have to be the answer for everyone.
And by thinking this way, it only magnifies my fears…because I’m putting an expectation on myself that is unrealistic for ANY human on this earth. The expectation that I have to be everything to everyone. And to tell you the truth, when I look at it honestly, that sounds exhausting. Because what I really want is to make a difference in the lives of the people I can connect with, the lives of the people who are open to trying something different, and to be a helper in allowing people to see their true potential…because I never was their answer…I was just the spark to help them fan the magnificent fire within themselves. It was about changing an overwhelming flame within, into a directed flame with purpose.
Your fears, it’s not that they aren’t valid, it’s that there’s something behind them that may not necessarily be true. Once you begin looking at what you want and why the fear is holding you back…you will then begin seeing the root of your fears…and you’ll begin seeing that your fears really aren’t what you made them out to be.
So every time you feel that fear, know that everything that was something valuable to us was behind the wall of fear. Know that it was the Universe asking how willing you are to pursue your goals. Know that the fear is not a wall to block you…but a wall to challenge you to climb over and be strengthened from. As the strength is meant for you to hold onto what you seek, not just obtain it for a brief moment.
Today’s Personal Commitment:So, what unrealistic expectations are you putting on yourself? And what are the fears you’ve created by holding yourself to that expectation?
The fears we hold onto didn’t come from “nowhere,” they were deliberately processed in our subconscious by the things we overwhelmed ourselves with. It reminds me of one of my favorite quotes by Abraham Lincoln, “My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.” And that’s what fear does to us; it tells us that it’s more comfortable to live in failure rather than to move through our mistakes.
Fear is the lie we tell ourselves that if we mess up, then it will be the end of the line for us. But the only reason there’ll be an end of the line, or a failure, is if we decide to give up. If we decide to live within the lies of the fears we hold, instead of climbing over the walls of fear to be strengthened because of the climb. Fear is not the end of the line; it’s like the weights in a gym—asking whether you’re going to pick it up and move it, or continue ignoring and walking away from it. Be strengthened because of your fears…not weakened by the lies of your fears.
So write down the expectations you have, and ask yourself, “is it realistic of me to think this way?” And if you find you’ve got some unrealistic expectations, ask yourself why you’re holding onto those thoughts. I think it will be a good starting point to realizing your fears and then beginning to address them differently. Let’s begin climbing those walls instead of being stopped by them.
I Follow Through Because Of My Fears
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#365 January 9th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
It All Will Happen How It Needs To
“You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”
~Steve Jobs
I know how much easier it is to look at what’s going wrong than to see what’s going right. I know it’s so much easier to be caught in the present moment of chaos or a problem, then it is to remember in how the past has always found a way of working itself out.
In the present moment we will stress over a problem, and decide that it will always be this way…that the future will be directed by the problem now. But the reason the future changes, is not because of the event that’s happening in the moment…it changes by the way we respond to that event. Whether we decide to let the problem control us and be our future, or whether we look at the power of who we are, that we’ve always risen above our problems, knowing they changed by choosing to see them differently.
When we see a problem only at face value, then we connect with the problem and associate the problem as a part of us. So in essence even though the problem is outside of us, if we only see the surface of the problem, then it latches onto us…and we become the problem. Which we will then define our lives as the problems within it instead of seeing ourselves as the miracle that will overcome any problem, outlast any problem, that will become more creative than the problem, and that we will ultimately be the solution to the problem.
You see, when we look at how things are instead of seeing how we want them to be, then we are doomed to live our lives in a repetitive cycle of negativity. We are doomed to stay in a place of no change, the place that keeps us stuck in the problem, because we feel the problem is the thing in control…instead of us viewing that problem from a different vantage point.
And maybe that’s because we only view our lives from the physical plane instead of seeing all levels of existence…the spiritual, the emotional, the mental, and the environmental. And when we see only one realm, we miss the entire equation. We see a problem as an obstacle, as an end to something good, when in fact it’s just another process of life. The universe always bends towards balance and justice. And I know in my life, no matter what’s happened…it has…and always will be worked out. It may not be exactly how I thought it would be…but if I decided to look beyond my pain and hurt…I saw an answer and I found meaning in it.
My good friend Charles told me a story about his brother passing at a young age, and I asked him how he ever found solace in it. He told me that even in the darkness there’s light. In fact you can find the light better in your darkest moments…and even though it was a hard time for him…he found his way towards seeing the light. He found a way to know that the light was brighter in his darkness…and while it was unfortunate what happened…he found a way to celebrate and continually celebrate his brother.
I don’t know your problems or your tragedies…but I can feel your pain. I can’t promise to be the person who will take your pain away, but I hope to be a person to remind you that even in your greatest pain there’s more happening. There’s always a light that’s shining, and while we may not understand it at the time, if we continually keep finding ways to face that light, to go towards that light, the goodness, then we will always find a way to know that the pain wasn’t meant to hurt us or to break us…but it was a part of life…and only we could be the ones to decide to find meaning through it all…instead of only finding pain through it all.
I hope you won’t be one of those people always caught in your problems never being able to see that the only reason there was a problem…was because you never chose to see anything different. And if you feel you’re there now…be willing to do something different, be willing to stop the pattern of only seeing the problems in life…and begin asking how you can see the opportunities in your life.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
I got to thinking about what vows are…and looking it up in Google it states that a vow is a solemn promise. I usually refrain from using the word promise because it’s one of those words that people throw around so much and then not follow through that it doesn’t have meaning like it used to. We’ll say I promise this or I promise that to people and we then don’t keep our promises.
And when looking up the word vow, the archaic use of it meant to dedicate to someone or something. I talk about the power of our word usage, and I think being dedicated to someone or something is a higher cause than just making a promise to make a promise. I know we’re good intentioned when we make promises, but that’s all it is…a good intention…rather than to solemnly swear or dedicate yourself to something. So I’m going to challenge you to make a vow to something this year in your betterment.
What would you like to dedicate yourself to this year? What would you like to be your utmost focus?
It’s not that you can’t do other things, but it’s about having more clarity and focus in your endeavors. What’s your main dedication this year?
Figure out your worthy cause, and since this podcast is about asking where and what we put our focus upon…what if you were to vow to find the positivity in every situation this year. To see the negative but immediately work to find the benefits in the negative.
What if you were to dedicate yourself to finding the opportunities in every situation?
How would that change your life? There’s only one way to find out…but your vow should be something you decide upon, not just my suggestion. So, for the next week think upon this and then write your vow down and sign it and date it. Frame it if you need to and put it somewhere where you can see it daily. Put a reminder on your phone for your vow to pop up every morning and remind you.
Whatever it is that you need to do to remind you of your vow…do it. I’d love to hear what you dedicate yourself to. So, let me know if there is anything I can do to help you on this path. I’m sending great energy your way on your journey.
It All Will Happen How It Needs To
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#364 January 8th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Vulnerability Connects Me To Everything
“Humankind has not woven the web of life. We are but one thread within it. Whatever we do to the web, we do to ourselves. All things are bound together. All things connect.”
~Chief Seattle
A friend of mine sent me a direct message on Instagram sharing a post that said “it’s strange how people that are thousands of miles away from you can make you feel better than the people who are besides you.” and after they shared that quote with me, they said it’s really strange, but I feel like you understand me very well.
I responded back, “well, we all are one. As humans, we fundamentally experience the same fears and emotions. They only seem dissimilar from all the different experiences we’ve all encountered as individuals…but we aren’t that different at all. We all are…connected souls…seemingly separated by our physical forms.”
And the way I’ve personally found that to be true, is from my own pains and secrets. I dealt secretly with my depression for many years of my younger life. I was embarrassed to let anyone know my sadness, my thoughts of suicide, and what I thought were my weaknesses. I’ve always loved helping people, and so the story I told in my head was that Superman couldn’t show his weaknesses. How can you help someone if you don’t act like you are strong? And so for many years of my life, I hid behind a mask of smiles and laughter so no one would know my pains.
I was embarrassed by my so-called weaknesses, but in the end, I was the one magnifying them. By me hiding my weaknesses, I was making it more powerful. However, I found rest from my fears as I was with a friend one night and we were drinking so that probably helped lower my protective walls a bit. I told him my thoughts of suicide and sadness over the years. He listened to my story, as he gave me his full attention. And after I said everything I needed to say, he sat for a moment quietly…and then said…”I’ve felt and had those same thoughts too, Chris.”
And that was when an epiphany came to me: that we all are feeling the same way, we just think we’re alone in our battles. We hide our weaknesses thinking we are the only ones who have them and that no one will understand us. But that’s the lie we tell ourselves, to stay in the places we’ve trapped ourselves in. I can’t speak for everyone on why they choose to stay stuck in their fears, but for me, it was the easier way. It was me choosing to reside in my self-pity. And if I stayed there, then I wouldn’t have to change my thoughts and actions. Changing meant I had to do something, and I thought it would be harder to change than stay the same…but, in the long run, it was killing me inside rather than helping me.
We think that vulnerability is weakness, but vulnerability is actually being honest with ourselves and with others. It doesn’t mean we have to air all of our fears; it just means that we can be real with people and let them know we struggle at times. Not because we want to stay in the struggle, but we want to be free from the struggle. And for me, keeping my struggles silent was what was keeping me imprisoned. It kept me from releasing my pains, fears, and struggles because I felt they would be a burden on others. I felt that people wouldn’t understand and they would judge me harshly, and I felt that I had to be strong for everyone else so I could help everyone else.
In my head, I got comfortable saying this phrase…that my problems aren’t a big deal. No one wants to know what’s going on with me, they have enough of their own issues, I don’t need to add to it. And so I started training my subconscious to believe that I was a burden, that my problems would be a burden to others, and it was better to be quiet about my problems because everyone else seemed to be handling their problems just fine. So I stuffed my problems away silently thinking everyone else had it together, and that others didn’t need me to add to their problems with my uncertainties.
But I don’t do that anymore. I’ve gotten in front of big stages to tell my tale of sadness, depression, and thoughts of suicide almost every day from before being a teenager until my early 20s.
When I learned the power of vulnerability, when I learned to share my truths and be real with people, it made me stronger. And I became stronger not by complaining constantly about my problems, but by beginning to air them out to the world, to be real with people, and to hear that they felt the same way I did. And by doing this it helped me know that we all are connected, that we all are struggling, and that we all…are one.
That’s when I began to change. I didn’t know how to change at the time, but I knew I had to do something different. And so I began changing how I spoke to myself. I worked to become aware of the negative things I told myself every day, which helped me to become more aware of what I thought about myself. And when I knew the thoughts about myself that weren’t helping me, I then began working on changing those.
I see us as eggs. To change the inside, it usually starts with becoming aware of what’s happening on the outside. Yes, I could try to change the egg from the inside, but it usually doesn’t work that way. We need to crack the harder shell first, our negative physical habits, to unearth the truest deepest core of ourselves. So I began working backwards. I began seeing what my physical habits and words were that were causing my unhappiness. I looked at what wasn’t helping me, I looked at what was making me feel worse or stuck in my sadness, and then I began changing it one word, one habit, one second, one minute, one hour, one day, one week, one month, and one year at a time. I had to start small to build up to bigger changes.
Vulnerability isn’t a weakness; it’s a way of us connecting with ourselves and with others. It’s a way of being real with ourselves and the world. But I believe there must be a balance between vulnerability and strength. When I aired my vulnerabilities, I worked not to stay stuck there.
For example, when I would break up with a girlfriend…I’d be so sad. All I wanted to do was talk about it; and so I told everyone who would listen to all the sad feelings that had happened, all the things I did to mess up, and share anything that I could to air the hurt I was feeling. And not that that’s a bad thing, but I think I felt the more I talked about the breakup then the more I could stay connected to that person. And so I talked and talked about hurt incessantly as a way to release the pain, but it was hurting me more because it was keeping me connected in a way that kept me sad.
So I think we should be real with people, but we shouldn’t be doing it to stay in the vulnerability; we should be doing it to connect with people, to air our stories and let them know we aren’t perfect but we are real…and that’s what shows our strength. When we do that, we move on, we actively work to leave the sadness and the hurt behind, which in turn helps us to begin living within our strengths and making that a part of our every day lives.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What are the things you’re hiding? I’m not saying you have to air your fears or weaknesses to the world, but maybe you can find a way to stop hiding from them or stop sweeping them under the carpet like they don’t exist.
Take a look at the vulnerabilities you’ve decided make you weak and ask yourself, how you can be vulnerable to face them instead of ignoring them or hiding them? This is not about dragging up the past to live in it, but it’s about confronting something that matters so you can move from it more efficiently. So, take a piece of paper out, and think about the vulnerabilities that you’ve been hiding—that weakening you because you’re ignoring them or running from them.
My mentor Mike instilled within me a saying that he lived his life by, “I don’t fight or flight, I face and forgive.” So how can you face your fears, your vulnerabilities, and forgive yourself in the midst of them? They aren’t your weaknesses, they actually are your strengths. You running from them is what weakens you.
Vulnerability Connects Me To Everything
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #363 January 7th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Prepared For What’s Ahead
“The fear of death follows from the fear of life. A man who lives fully is prepared to die at any time.”
~Mark Twain
Have you ever thought about the possibilities in a moment? And not the possibilities you want to happen, but the number of possibilities that are in each moment. It’s mind numbing to fathom what an infinite amount of possibilities could be. I was thinking about this myself and just for context, I looked up how much space a billion pennies would take up. And on a site, I found that if you stack each penny to the size of one of those long yellow school buses 9 of them would equate a billion pennies. It also said that “if you stack all those pennies one on top of another, that the stack would reach nearly one thousand miles high. For comparison, the space shuttle typically only orbits 225 miles above the earth’s surface.”
I’ll include the link to those stats as they have more information on that…but it doesn’t matter how many pennies you could stack…it still wouldn’t amount up to the number of possibilities in every moment. And the reason I bring this up is that no matter how much you prepare for things, you will never be fully prepared. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t use common sense, or not prepare, or that we should be petrified of everything that could happen. I believe it just means we should be preparing our whole life for things.
It was a cold Friday night in Tennessee. The temperature was somewhere around 20 degrees Fahrenheit…and as I was driving home and I wanted to stop at my favorite healthy restaurant…Little Caesar’s Pizza. I had to get me one of those $5 hot and ready deals; you know where you just pop in without having to wait and pick up the pizza and leave the store in a matter of minutes. Ok maybe it wasn’t the healthiest choice, it was the fastest choice.
It was cold, and I wanted something quick and easy..and I do love me some Little Caesar’s.
I stopped in and got in line, and there was a mother and daughter in front of me that had shorts, a t-shirt, and sandals on with no socks. Now I normally wouldn’t have a judging eye to people who have a death wish in this cold weather, but living in Colorado I learned how preparation can be the bridge to life or the pathway to death. I was in elementary school, and my father was driving the whole family which consisted of my mom, my bro, and myself. We were in our big suburban. And this thing was a beast, my dad still owns it, and it still runs even as it’s 34 years old at the moment.
It was a snowy cold night in Colorado, and the temperature was somewhere in the teens that night. That’s a Colorado heat wave during the winter. During our trip, the Suburban broke down and we had to walk to find help. I wasn’t prepared. I only had a sweatshirt on and no gloves or jacket to protect me from the cold. We walked over a mile to get to a gas station to use a payphone. I felt like my fingers were going to fall off from the pain of the cold as I was worried I might have frostbite.
Luckily we found a place to get warm and call us a tow truck to get the suburban to a repair shop, and then get us home as well. Before this incident, I would’ve never thought about dressing appropriately for the weather. Granted this incident happened before most people have cell phones…but if it would’ve never happened I would’ve thought things like; I have my car to keep me warm, I have a cell phone in case something happens, or I’m in a populated place where someone could help me. And yes that all can be fine and nothing bad ever happens to you, but you never know your circumstances.
Maybe your car could die and you can’t turn it back on to get heat from it, maybe it could be at a time during the day when no stores are open and you’re not close to a 24 hour gas station, maybe your phone could be low on its charge and die or maybe you can’t get a signal where you are. We could go over a million possibilities of what could happen that might be a bad situation for you. The only reason I think about this now is because I was unprepared in a bad situation that seemed normal for me.
We don’t think about those small things about being prepared for the situations we’re in. We don’t think about if our car breaks down in the cold and if we can’t reach anyone. We don’t think that maybe we should be dressed for the occasion until it’s too late. We don’t think about if our house would catch on fire if we have an emergency box at the door that has our must haves such as critical medicines we need to take, maybe an emergency credit card and some cash, contact numbers, and our keys and cell phone.
We don’t think about the tragedies that could happen, and so if something does happen we aren’t ready…and that could be the difference between life or death. It could be the difference between surviving with all your limbs intact or having to pay the consequences for not being aware of your surroundings and doing the right thing at the time.
Now this podcast isn’t to scare you and be afraid of every little disaster that can happen. A tragedy can happen at any time…but also a miracle can too. I just want you to be aware of your surroundings. I want you to not rely on everything going perfectly as it has before and you not being prepared for the situation. Now with a fire, a tornado, or some other event that can happen instantaneously…that’s one thing. But like my Little Ceaser’s story of the mother and daughter in front of me, those are things in our control. Those are things that we take for granted and make silly choices saying I’m safe because I have always been safe…my car will continue to run fine, my phone will be charged and ready to call for help, or that stores or people will be there to help me when misfortune happens.
We make assumptions that things will always be fine, and then when something bad happens, we aren’t prepared for it. And when we aren’t prepared for a bad situation, it’s a recipe for more bad choices. But if we take the time to be aware of the conditions around us, then we not only increase our chances of making better choices, but we might change our outcome from a matter of possible death to a matter of imminent survival.
I was reading a book called The Survivor's Club. And every chapter talked about how to survive a different disaster. It talked about how to think before the accident and what to do during the event. Such as one chapter talked about surviving a plane crash. In the book it said most people who die in a plane crash that survived the impact of the crash…actually perish from smoke inhalation. Those first 90 seconds are the most critical in getting off the plane.
The book said you should know where the closest emergency exit is to you. You should count the number of seat rows to the nearest emergency exit to you in case you can’t see anything if the smoke is limiting your vision. You can then feel your way to an exit if need be. And it also talked about remaining calm during the situation as people panic and make mistakes…but by being prepared and knowing and doing certain things when you board a plane…you’re helping yourself not to panic because you have prepared yourself.
Now while I took a darker route of surviving disastrous events for this podcast, it was to illustrate my point better. In every instance of your life, the more aware you can be of your surroundings, of where you’re going or wanting to go (whether that be physically or even mentally), then the more prepared you can be. Preparation doesn’t always ensure success, but it raises your level of prevention. And maybe that’s why I’m always teaching my life coaching students about pivoting their negative thoughts from the bad into finding the good in the situation. It’s not that I’m teaching them to ignore what’s going on…but I am preparing them…I’m getting their mind primed to find a better solution in every instance.
You won’t know every problem that can occur, but if you prime your mind to think differently, to become aware of your surroundings, to see things and take action on the better choice than just doing what’s easier at the moment…then you’ll find your life will be smoother. You’ll find that you’ve made it a habit to continually prepare…not for disaster but for success.
I think of the Boy Scouts motto, and in Robert Baden-Powell’s book Scouting For Boys he defines what being prepared means:
“The Scout Motto is: BE PREPARED which means you are always in a state of readiness in mind and body to do your DUTY.
- -Be Prepared in Mindby having disciplined yourself to be obedient to every order, and also by having thought out beforehand any accident or situation that might occur, so that you know the right thing to do at the right moment, and are willing to do it.
- -Be Prepared in Bodyby making yourself strong and active and able to do the right thing at the right moment, and do it.”
So, are you aligning yourself up properly? Are you preparing your mind and body to not only survive this life…but to become more aware by aligning yourself up with success instead of tragedy. Sometimes the easiest thing is not to take the easier road, but to do what common sense would require. So it’s my hope that it’s not true as people say nowadays, that common sense isn’t as common anymore.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Do you have a life motto?
What is it?
And if you don’t, what would be a good motto for your life?
My motto has to do with the life values I’ve set for myself. When I publish my book I’ll teach you how to find your values as well…but for now let’s keep it simple as I’ll share my motto with you:
I Live Within My Values In Every Moment.
This motto helps to remind me of what my values are and ask myself if I’m residing in them constantly. I work to be aware and present, but I do get very forgetful at times…so I have my values pinned in a place where I’ll see them constantly.
So figure out your motto, write it down, and then place it in a spot that you’ll see it consistently to remind you—to always be prepared in mind and body for your life.
I’m Prepared For What’s Ahead
Website for the billions of pennies:
https://holykaw.alltop.com/what-does-a-billion-pennies-look-like
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#362 January 6th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Encouraged Every Day
“I believe that any man's life will be filled with constant and unexpected encouragement, if he makes up his mind to do his level best each day, and as nearly as possible reaching the high water mark of pure and useful living.”
~Booker T. Washington
Words are powerful, and the particular word or words you use might change the whole equation in how you make a goal or dream yours, or if it’s always just out of your reach.
In a previous podcast, I said the affirmation, “I find magic wherever I go.” And the reasons I said the word “find,” is because I believe in every moment there’s beauty and all we need to do is open our eyes and see what’s already there.
I usually don’t like to use the word find because it means that you aren’t in control of the thing you are seeking. You are looking to claim something in hopes that you might locate it someday. But for that particular affirmation, I wanted people to know that everything is magic…even the so-called normal, ordinary instances that happen all the time in your life. I prefer to say the word “create” instead of find, but in the previous podcast it wasn’t about us creating a great moment…it was about knowing the great moment was already created for us.
The reason I bring up word choice, is to help prove the power in the words that we decide to utilize in our lives. So, if I were to say I find encouragement or I create encouragement, which one sounds more powerful to you.
Maybe the issue of power comes from where the observer stands. If we think we need someone to cheer us on, to tell us why we’re good at something, or to help motivate us…then we are looking for encouragement outside of ourselves to get the energy to move.
However, if the observer is looking from within saying that I am in control of how I move, that I don’t need people or things to motivate me, I do that—then the observer doesn’t need to find anything. They are creating their energy themselves.
I was working with a life coaching student, and we were looking at the things that brought up her depression and kept her stuck in emotions she didn’t want to be in. I was hoping to help her become so aware of those places that weren’t in alignment with how she wanted to feel so that she could do something before the depression happened. The associations she made to certain things in her mind were deciding her emotions. Take for example; she told me that when she was home alone in her den, she felt depressed because all the kids were moved out of the house as they had grown older. And being divorced without a love interest in her life, the den was such a big area that she said it made her feel alone with all that space around her.
In our activity, we decided to call all the places, actions, or thoughts that brought upon depressive episodes or sadness…her red flags. And by her becoming aware of her red flags, meant that she could do something before the emotion became too overwhelming for her. It meant that the red flag wasn’t the cause of the sadness or depression…it was the warning system to let her know that her thoughts were processing things a certain way that wasn’t helping her.
I dealt with depression for a good portion of my younger life, and while things made me sad, or I felt hopeless, or even when I thought about suicide…it was I, who ultimately made myself sad..not the thing, person, or event. I decided how to process an event. I was the one who decided a situation was hopeless; I was the one who decided I couldn’t do anything to change it; and it was I, who kept coming back to thoughts that weren’t productive for myself. I had to change the way I processed those events to change the emotions that I associated with those events.
And so with my life coaching student, after she labeled and wrote down all of her red flags, I asked her another question: “What can you do to help yourself NOT get into those red flag areas?”
She thought for a moment and then began giving some solutions. She talked about going for a walk, not sitting in the den in the afternoon, not taking midday naps when she didn’t need them, having lunch with friends, working out, and I am sure she said a few more.
And I said, “those are all great things, but what will you do if you can’t do the thing you’ve decided upon? What if you can’t get to the gym at the moment, what if you can’t go on that walk right then, what if none of your friends are around to have lunch with you?” Now, this was more of a rhetorical question to get her thinking about seeing a deeper answer. It was to help her see that the solution was not in something external, but SHE was the solution.
Sure, working out, getting out of the house, hanging with positive friends, or going for walks are all awesome things to do…but still, they are physical things that we are seeking outside of ourselves to control how we feel. I wanted her to see she was the answer. I wanted her to see that the physical action was an after effect, it wasn’t the ultimate solution…it was part of the equation.
And maybe I’m getting off point since this podcast is about encouragement, but I think I’m hitting the head of the nail dead on by saying that the greatest encourager we will ever have in our lives will be ourselves. The greatest encouragement will be what we tell ourselves and where we focus our thoughts continuously. So if you’re seeking someone or something to encourage you, then you will always be in an endless pursuit to find a reason why you are doing something. You will always be in a place that is out of your control.
So how do we find that encouragement within then? Well, everyone’s different, so I can’t give you the cookie cutter equation, but maybe I can begin pointing you in the right direction. One of the biggest ways to be encouraged is to know yourself. When you know yourself, you can begin to know your purposes and your likes in life. When you know these things, it’s much easier to be encouraged as you find more ways to work towards them. When we don’t know ourselves, it brings on a lot of uncertainty; and uncertainty brings with it anxiety, fear, hopelessness, and even caution. And not that caution is a bad thing, but when you are uncertain…you walk on eggshells not wanting to do the wrong thing. But when you know yourself, when you have a directed purpose, it’s not that you shouldn’t be cautious…but it’s that you know what you want, and you’re more willing to jump into the things that align with that purpose. You’re more willing to move towards things that help enhance your already amazing feelings and emotions into something even bigger and better.
Encouragement can come from external sources, but when you find ways to be encouraged from within—you ‘ll find not only greater joy in life, but you’ll also find more ease upon the path you travel. Not because your path changed, but because you changed…which then changed your path. The turbulent turns and bumps in your path become straightaways just by the way you decided to think about them and see them. And as Booker said in his quote, encouragement can be created by people doing their level best every day while reaching to be pure and useful in their lives. So how useful are you in this life, and are you aware and living in alignment with your purposes?
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What are your red flags? What are the things that are keeping you from being happy, that are keeping you from your purposes, and that are keeping you stuck? And once you write them down, write down what you’ll do to deal with those red flags?
Figure out what you need to do physically…whether it is to create a fitness habit, to have a list of friends to call or hang out with, or even places to go that bring you peace. And then look inside yourself, go deeper and ask how you can change the way you see those red flags. How can you be the change instead of needing something else to change you? How can you be encouraged within every day to be a better person, a happier person, and a person in line with their purpose? How can you be a person who doesn’t need external encouragement? Sure, external encouragement is always nice, but it’s my hope that you’ll have come so far in your growth that you’ll see you won’t need it to reach where you’re going.
I Am Encouraged Every Day
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#361 January 5th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Find Magic Wherever I Go
“I am a great admirer of mystery and magic. Look at this life - all mystery and magic.”
~Harry Houdini
I loved magic when I was a kid. I thought it was amazing how someone would have secret knowledge of the exact card that was picked from a deck without you having to tell them what you picked. It fascinated me so much that I kept a deck of cards with me wherever I went for a brief time in my younger life.
I remember being at the airport during a layover and a gentleman sat next to me, and I was like oh man this guy is in for a treat I’m going to wow him. And so without even saying hello, like an eager young innocent child…which I was, I flayed out a deck of cards with my hands and said “pick a card, any card…I bet I can guess your card.”
Now either he was amused by my candor or he didn’t know what to do so just complied so I would stop bugging him as soon as possible. I was so sure I would get it right and that I would amaze him and make his day by proving I was a magician of great worth. And so, he picked a card and I asked him to put it back in the deck. I pulled out the card he picked waiting to see his amazement, as I said is this your card? His face turned red and I was amazed because this was a new expression I had never seen before. Usually people are wowed with their eyebrows raised high and mouths opened as they can’t believe the feat of magic I just displayed in front of their eyes.
He was quiet for a few more seconds, which felt like an eternity for me, and I knew I had made this man a believer in magic. He had seen true magic!
Finally my newest magic participant spoke, and he said, I’m sorry, no, that wasn’t my card.” I thought there must be a mistake…and so I searched the deck frantically for his card again to save face. But with each card I pulled out, it got more embarrassing for me. But the funny thing about kids is, that I was so happy in doing magic and connecting with people, that I didn’t feel bad for too long.
I said, “ok let me try again.” And so I tried that trick a few more times on him and I think I eventually got it right…but for me even though I was slightly embarrassed at first…it wasn’t about getting it perfect…it was about getting it right no matter how many times I had to do it. I was going to figure out his card one way or another…even if he had to pick a card 10 times for me. Now I may have been bugging the gentleman while he was waiting to board his flight, but I think he saw the beauty in a child wanting to do something right, and him being a part in helping that child succeed. And also, I’m sure he got a good laugh out of it as he probably told his friends about this crazy kid he met at the airport who wouldn’t leave him alone.
The reasons my tricks didn’t always go perfectly, besides the fact that I needed more practice, was because I didn’t understand the theories behind the trick. And so I tried to just use my attention to detail, noticing the slight differences in the deck to guess or feel with my hand and hopefully pull out their card. So sometimes it was me guessing a little bit knowing it was somewhere in that section of a certain portion of the deck.
I wanted to learn how to become a better magician, so I checked out books at the library on magic, and my parents bought me a few books on the subject too. I learned some tricks through math and card placement, and I learned other methods on making your efforts in magic be more successful. But I think the more that I got to know the secrets behind the tricks, then the more disinterested I became in the practice of it.
Magic is a craft, and I might have seen how hard it would be to get really good at it. I saw that magicians put in hours of practice a day for sometimes years to master just one trick. So maybe I got bored in the tedious practice of it, hoping I could master it in a month. I had grand illusions of being the greatest neighborhood magician Kenton Court had ever seen. And like David Copperfield, I would wow them by putting a sheet over their dog, and make it disappear right before their eyes just like David made the Statue of Liberty disappear on television.
It sounds cliché, but when I knew what was behind the magic trick it no longer held its bewilderment to me. The fun in magic isn’t in trying to find out how the trick is done. The magic is found in being amazed by something not fully understanding how it’s done. As we’ve become adults, we want to pull the curtain back from the wizard to not be fooled anymore. We want to know the ins and out of religion, science, or why the world works the way it does…and those are all great things…but in our efforts in trying to explain a reason for everything, to see the process and order for everything…to know the whys that sometimes cannot be known why…then we begin to stop seeing magic in our ordinary lives.
We aren’t impressed with evaporation as a puddle of water is pulled back into the atmosphere to be redistributed as rain. We aren’t fascinated by how we can throw a ball into the air and it always return back to us. And we don’t even bat an eyelash at how every year plants die in the winter and come back every spring.
We’ve seen the day in day outs processes of the world and they’ve become ordinary to us. And it’s not just because we know how it happens, we’ve gotten used to amazing things being in our field of view in every moment…that we now see them only as ordinary. Because for things that happen all the time, they no longer become miracles, we begin to label them as regular moments.
I get into this argument all the time with people, as I’ll say “every single person is amazing and so talented.” And they’ll rebuke back, “well if everyone is amazing then no one is amazing. Not everyone can be amazing, sometimes people are just ordinary.”
But I disagree with that statement; everyone has something beautiful about them, everyone has something unique about them, and just because their uniqueness isn’t always meant for a worldly or grand scale…doesn’t mean that they aren’t amazing people.
And I think those naysayers are stuck focusing more on what people are doing with their lives, instead of seeing the magic of possibility we all have at our disposal. The possibility and chance in every moment to share our best selves with the world…whether on smaller scale or a bigger scale.
And maybe you are, or have been, one of those naysayers. I know I’ve been. But I would like to awaken you to a better perspective, I want you to put yourself in different shoes to be that person who finds the magic in the ordinary. To be the person who would see a puddle one moment, and an hour later see that the puddle is gone, and be wowed again by the magic of evaporation in the world. I want you to be that person who is wowed by the effects of gravity as you see a sunrise or sunset every day and know it’s from gravity keeping us circling the sun. I want you to be that person wowed at the changes of seasons…instead of complaining it’s too hot or too cold. I want you to be a person who see magic in the moments of your life again and finds the beauty in all of it.
There’s magic all around us, and all we have to do is open our eyes. All we have to do is understand that the ordinary really isn’t ordinary…we’ve just seen it so many times it feels normal. But normal, doesn’t mean that it’s not magic. So when we choose to see the magic in the moment, in the ordinary, in the normal, in what is in front of us at any moment…we make our lives magical too. We become part of the magic.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What magic have you forgotten, and no longer notice in your life?
Go about your day taking notice of things you might have just passed by previously and see the magic in them again. And at the end of your day, write down a list of all the magic you experienced that day. I can guarantee it will change not only the trajectory of your day…but also the direction of your life. See if you can do this exercise for a day, a week, or even a month and then write your thoughts on how it changed you.
I Find Magic Wherever I Go
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#360 January 4th The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
The Only Reason I Look Back Is To See How Far I’ve Come
Have you ever thought about where the idea for the rearview mirror came from? Most likely you know it’s there to see that s.o.b who’s tailgating you…as you silently cuss them out in your mind. I used to listen to Paul Harvey’s the Rest of The Story on the radio and I remember him talking about the rearview mirror.
If you don’t know who Paul Harvey is, he had this iconic voice that would tell …as the show is titled “The Rest Of The Story”… on things or people that are common knowledge…but we didn’t know the interesting facts and stories behind those things. But I’m digressing…back to the rearview mirror history.
In 1911 an Indy Car racer by the name of Ray Harroun put a rearview mirror in his race car. He wasn’t the first one to put a rearview mirror in a car, as Ray said he got the idea from seeing a horse carriage having one, but he gets credited for having the first one in a race car. In the earlier days of Indy racing there would be two people in the racecar instead of only one like they do nowadays. The second rider was called the riding mechanic or the ancillary rider. Their job was to monitor gauges, make repairs, and let the driver know of cars approaching from the rear of the vehicle.
Rearview mirrors have come a long way from those early days, as Ray said that with all the vibration going on from the race and the vehicle it was almost useless in being able to see anything clearly. And most typical rearview mirrors are actually wedges of glass and mirror, not just a flat mirror…but I’ll talk about how they work later.
The idea of a rearview mirror intrigues me as an analogy for our lives because we can have the tendency to be stuck looking in the past. And I think if we can create an internal rearview mirror for our lives, we can find better ways to glance at what’s behind us without having to get stuck living in what’s behind us.
Looking back at the past can be helpful or it can be harmful on how you process the past. If you look back to see all the things that went wrong, or how it was so much better in the past than it is now, and if you are constantly comparing the good or bad with the now—then you are always in a place of trying to prove to yourself why the now is a good place to be. And if you are in constant conflict by having to prove to yourself why the present moment is a good time in your life…then what you are saying to your subconscious is, “I don’t believe my now, my present moment, is good enough because I’m always trying to find ways to prove to myself how good this moment is in my life.”
And how can you really live a great life if you don’t believe the present moment is the best time in your life—the only time that you actually have control over?
However, if you look back not to prove to yourself why the present is good or bad and use your so called personal rearview mirror to measure how far you’ve come, or what you haven’t learned just yet…then you will find more comfort and ease in the moment. You will know that you are going in the right direction no matter what’s happened because the past isn’t a place you can live…it’s only a place you can learn from. But to learn, we must be diligent in glancing, not getting stuck there.
So I want you to think about the rearview mirror in your car right now…and I’m not talking about those fancy schmancy mirrors that use advanced electrochromic technology and have all those fancy buttons on them. Think about the mirror that only has a flip switch on the bottom of it. That flip switch is there to help you see better in nighttime or daytime viewing. And most of us never think about how a rearview mirror really works, besides magic of course, but what it does when you flip that bottom switch is it changes the angle of the mirror to deflect the light differently from your eyes. For daytime it’s angled to deflect the light towards your eyes, for the nighttime viewing it deflects the light away from your eyes.
Here’s a little tidbit: if you ever want to do your own experiment to see how this works on the mirror, at night make sure you have the mirror in nighttime viewing mode, turn on the flashlight on your cellphone and shine the light on the ceiling to see how it looks in the mirror. You’ll see how clearly you can see the light on the roof of your car. But make sure you are parked doing this… I don’t want you being daredevils hurting yourself in a moving car. And that’s what’s so interesting about rearview mirrors, to see better at certain times, it’s not really doing anything crazy…it’s just pivoting or angling to deflect the light differently.
So in knowing all of that, what if you visualized yourself as a rearview mirror? What if instead of focusing so hard on all the negative things that have brought you to this horrible place in your life, you were to flip your internal switch to deflect those negative thoughts and sayings away from yourself. What if you were to bounce more positive and productive energies to yourself…more often?
Now some people might say that I’m telling you to trick yourself into feeling good, and how they’re realists and would rather look at how things are…instead of being a dreamer. But I’d say it’s not about looking at how things are, it’s more of looking at how you want things to be. Because the only way things have changed was not in looking at something and saying there’s nothing that can be done, this is how it is, but it was in seeing something more and asking how can I change this? How can I view this differently? And how can I see more from this…to be able to create more from this?
Where we put our focus, and how we process things will determine where we direct our lives. So instead of looking so intensely at what’s wrong and why it’s wrong, what if you were to glance in your rearview mirror and figure out the lessons you’ve learned, to see how far you have come, to see how much further along you are than you previously thought you were. What if instead of getting stuck in the negatives of the past, you were to pivot and angle yourself differently? What if you were to only glance back to see how far you’ve come…to then look forward at where you want to be going?
Today’s Personal Commitment:The past is a measuring stick. Not to make you feel bad that you haven’t come far enough, but to measure where you are and where you’d like to be. They say self-esteem is determined by two points on a scale. The first point being where you think you are at the moment, and the second point being where you think you should be. And the further those two points are from each other, then the lower your self-esteem.
But I think if we are eternal learners and seekers, those points will always be far away. Not because we aren’t good enough to bring them closer together, but because we are always reaching for more and wanting to be more. So instead of comparing how far you points should be from each other, what if you were just to glance back and look at how far you’ve come? What if you were to see your past not as a series of mistakes but a series of lessons guiding you? What if you were to visualize yourself as a rearview mirror in your bad times, and when you feel all that negativity pile upon you…you just flip that internal switch…not to block the negative, but to pivot from it, to deflect it away from you…and to direct more positive towards you.
Your problems are big deals to you. I get it. We are emotionally connected to our problems and sometimes it seems like it’s the end of the world. I’m not asking you to ignore your problems, but what I am asking you to do is to step back a little bit. To get more clarity on the magnitude of them…to see that you are bigger than any problem you face, you are more resilient than any problem that comes your way, and to see that all it takes is a little shift to direct them elsewhere…instead of living within them, and being consumed by them. If you’re going to be consumed by something, be consumed with love, with happiness, with calm, with appreciation. In life, how we feel is always a choice that is determined by how we decide to focus on what has happened. It’s all a matter of perspective. One person can see the end of the world, where another can see a beautiful new beginning or great lesson to build off of. Which person will you be?
So this week when you are feeling stressed, visualize yourself as a rearview mirror flipping your internal switch to direct better feeling emotions and thoughts during your more stressful times. And at the end of the day write down how that helped you and what you learned by doing that.
The Only Reason I Look Back Is To See How Far I’ve Come
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#359 January 3rd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Live Up To My Commitments
“A people that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both.” Dwight D. Eisenhower
We live in a world where it seems easier to take the quicker, faster, less honorable road…rather than taking the harder path within the moment. And I don’t think that’s because we’re bad or lazy people, I think it’s because we have been sold a false bill of goods saying that comfort of self is more important than commitment towards self. Now maybe you might be scratching your head and asking me what in the heck are you talking about Chris?
In the world we live in, we’ve decided faster is better and so with technology we’ve traded in wisdom for knowledge. We don’t want to be wise from going through experiences, we want the fast facts immediately. There’s no permanence in this world…but we find more merit in the things that disappear rather than the lasting things. And here I go shouting my age from the rooftops as I talk about how I don’t get Snap Chat or some of these other apps kids are using nowadays. It reminds me of my father and how he would always say my Nintendo wrong…he’d be like, “Chris you playing that “Nine”-Tendo again?” And I still harass him about it to this day.
And I think that’s why we get lost as people within a society. We no longer know who we are. We don’t know our values because we haven’t sat down to really think about what they are and how we can apply them in our lives. I mean, how can you be committed to something that you have no clue what it is? You may be operating on a fundamental human level, as we all have an internal guidance system that tells us what is right and wrong, but as we get connected with comfort instead of commitment…we then are more willing to take the easier road first…the road that involves the “me” instead of the “we.” And that’s why we feel so alone in this world…we have been “plugged” in literally to an idea that’s keeping us from knowing other people…and knowing ourselves.
Let me ask you a question…when was the last commitment you purposefully said out loud and followed through with?
And if I was answering that question for myself, I probably would say I don’t know. Sure I made a commitment to do this podcast every day…but as I’m reflecting on what I’ve been doing this past year, I’ve actually gotten lost in the mix of just producing something and thus I’ve forgotten to really process internally the impact I want to be leaving.
My great friend Suzanne and I were talking on the phone and I was telling her how stressed I was… thinking I may not be able to do another year of podcasts, I didn’t think I could even do the first year, and now I am committing to another 365 days…and as I said my internal thoughts out loud to Suzanne, “are you mad? I must be because I’m flying by the seat of my pants right now.”
Suzanne listened to me quietly until I was fully finished whining about all my fears and she said calmly to me, “Chris I heard this great podcast the other day about knowing your why…and when you know your why…the how becomes evident.” And we both laughed, not because of the content she told me, but because she was quoting my podcast I published the previous day. She was reminding me of what I was helping her to realize through my podcasts.
You see, while I act all wise and tell people what they need to remember in living a better life, I need to take my own advice. I had put too much pressure on every podcast being perfect, and if I don’t do every one perfect then people won’t come back. I had put the pressure on myself of making everyone happy instead of focusing on why I’m doing this—which is to bring value into the world and reach the people who it resonates with. I was trying to control everything instead of just focusing on putting value out into the world for others and for myself…every day.
And by losing focus on that goal, my focus then becomes more on being a manufacturing line. It becomes the movement of putting things out there all shiny and polished to share knowledge without applying it in my life. And if I’m only telling you what you need to do, and not stopping to think and process it in my life every day…then I’m losing my edge of being at my best with all of you. I was in danger of becoming the machine and not the heart in the operation.
In my talk with Suzanne she reminded me of two things:
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-To remember my “why” of what I’m doing, so it can help guide me. And like the quote I said from Viktor Frankl in the podcast Suzanne quoted… when we know our ‘why’, we can bear any ‘how’. By knowing my why, it will make things more enjoyable and easier in the tougher and the good times of staying committed to that goal.
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-I need great people in my life to remind me of the things I already know but have forgotten. We all need those reminders, and that’s why coaching is so powerful for people. It’s not someone giving advice to the things you don’t know, it’s about listening, asking questions that get to a deeper meaning, and then nudging that person towards the answer they already know within…but just needed to talk it out further to figure out how to apply it. And that’s where wisdom and knowledge diverge, knowledge is knowing something but wisdom is being able to live within it.
And so while I was petrified and stuck that I wouldn’t be able to write another podcast and that I was all out of ideas, I was reminded of what my good friend Suzanne did for me…she reminded me of what I already knew, and she was reminding me that if I got back to my “why” of what I was doing…it would flow easier.
I believe I don’t always follow through with my commitments because I’ve forgotten the bigger picture. I’ve forgotten why I’m doing something. And when I don’t know my why, it’s hard to know “how” to do something more efficiently. Life really isn’t as complicated as we make it. And as I came back to say my “why” in my mind…this podcast prep stopped being a wall where I felt I couldn’t go any further, and it became a river that flowed more naturally. I could feel the stress releasing from my body and mind as the words came much easier.
There’s a quote I like that says, “commitment means staying loyal to what you said you were going to do long after the mood you said it in has left you.” But I think it goes deeper than just staying true to what you said you’d do, I believe when we etch our values to our hearts so we never forget our whys…will be one of the greatest ways to help us always be true to our commitments. It will be the tool that will help keep those emotions alive in following through with our commitment.
We’ve made commitments emotionless, cold, and hard truths…which can be an ok way if you just want to push through and feel nothing except satisfaction for doing what you said. But when we connect our values and our whys to the commitment, it becomes not only more likely you’ll succeed but it also increases the ease and enjoyment of the process.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What are the commitments you’ve made in the past that you’re trying to continue to keep?
What are the new commitments that you’ve made recently and are trying to implement?
And how well are you doing in keeping the older and newer commitments?
Do you enjoy keeping your commitments? I know we don’t have to enjoy everything we do. In fact, we will do things we may not necessarily like or that may seem tedious or trying when going towards something we want…and the reason that happens is from forgetting our whys. So write your commitments on a sheet of paper, write your why for that commitment, and then ask yourself if that’s a commitment you want to keep?
And if it is a keeper, then ask yourself how you can be reminded daily why you are committing to it. In the end, it will make the process easier and more enjoyable…which, in turn, will make you more successful.
I Live Up To My Commitments
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#358 January 2nd The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Getting Uncomfortable Makes Me Comfortable
"Personally, I like films that make me a little bit uncomfortable because I think you're uncomfortable when something is real." ~Alice Englert
It was New Year’s Eve, and it was about 9 or 10 p.m. I was thinking about all the podcasts I had to prepare for the week, as I’m behind a bit. During the weekends I like to brainstorm, script, edit, finalize and populate all I have to do for my podcasts; so that I’m a week ahead which helps me to feel more comfortable that I’ll be on time for all of them. To me, it feels kind of surreal that I was able to put out 365 consecutive podcasts in a year without missing a day. In fact on Sunday’s podcast, the last day of the year, there was this weird feeling that came over me…the feeling of pride in the sense of accomplishment in following through towards a goal.
I want to be real with you…yes this is a simple 5-10 minute podcast…and while it’s simple…it isn’t easy. It takes time to sit down and think about what would be good topics to talk about. I then will write out my thoughts on it…and sometimes that comes quickly, and sometimes I’m staring at a computer screen for hours feeling like I accomplished nothing. After I get all my thoughts down, I then will record the podcast. I make mistakes while recording, so I have to go back and edit what I said. I then convert the edited file into an MP3 file. After that, I create ID tags so that when the file plays on your radio, phone, computer—it will show you the title correctly and the artist. I then load the file onto a server to hold all my podcasts so they don’t slow down my site, and I’ll fill in all the blanks of the script and any other information or pictures that need to be associated with that upload. And then I will schedule that podcast file to come out on a specific day and time.
But I’m not done yet. I will then create the affirmation card in photoshop, and I’ll arrange the affirmation words around so they look nice in the picture. I’ll save multiple files of the picture for posting and editing purposes. I will then create a blog post for my site, and I’ll put everything in the post from the MP3 file, the picture, the script, and anything else that needs to be populated into the blog.
Then on the day a podcast is published for you to listen to, I will go to all my social media accounts and send the picture out with an excerpt from my script….every day.
The reason I told you all of this was not to make you feel sorry for me or to be wowed by all I do in getting the podcast ready for you to listen to. I wanted to show you the time I put into this. Sometimes it flows easier than others, and sometimes it doesn’t come as easily. Sometimes it takes only a few hours, and sometimes it feels like it takes a whole works week of hours.
And I put a lot of self-imposed stress on myself during this process, wondering if I can keep creating new ideas and publishing it day in and day out. And on New Year’s Eve, I was particularly feeling the strain of being behind because of taking more time for myself during the holidays.
So as it was 9 p.m. on New Years Eve night, I was sitting in front of my computer distracted knowing I needed to create new material for this coming week. But I was also distracted by wanting to watch the movie McFarland on television and zone out. Kevin Costner is my favorite actor. Anyways, so I tried to do both…unsuccessfully. Since it was New Year's Eve, fireworks were going off all night from 8 p.m. on as people were celebrating the coming of a new year. One of my dogs Rusty gets anxious when he hears fireworks, and he’ll lay in the bathroom as he feels it’s safer in there.
I felt this guilt inside me with him being alone in a dark bathroom, so I decided to take a break and just sit on the floor with him and comfort him. I could feel my mind wanting to scold me telling me that I had deadlines to meet. And I could feel myself saying I had more important things to do…which made me stop and really question what was important??? And even though it was only in my mind I found myself saying back to that thought… “that’s a really crappy thing to be saying.” I knew the podcast would be there anytime I wanted to come back to it…and right now this was a time to be with my good buddy Rusty comforting and letting him know it was ok.
The conversations that happen in our minds sometimes have us questioning, if we really are good people. But just because we think something, doesn’t mean that’s who we are. Our thoughts and emotions aren’t in control of us…we just have to become aware of what we’re saying and thinking and then begin asking what we really want. And in this moment, the thought of actually saying that my dog wasn’t as important as my podcast was a wake-up call of what a stupid way I was focusing my thoughts and actions.
Here’s the fine line where we get stuck at times—we confuse what we think…with who we are. What I said was… ‘that was a stupid way of focusing.’ I didn’t say I was stupid or I was being stupid… I was focusing on the thing that wasn’t who I wanted to be; I was focusing on the stress and chaos instead of the love and calm in my life I wanted to focus upon.
And so I took a deep breath, gave Rusty a big hug and patted him for about 30 minutes as we sat on the bathroom floor enjoying each other’s company. As the fireworks died down a bit, I said to Rusty… “I think you’re safe now buddy…” like he could understand me. I then came back to finish up Monday’s podcast, and go to bed.
I needed to be aware to see the uncomfortable things I was saying, so I could find the comfort in how I wanted to think, how I wanted to act, and ultimately where I would keep my consistent focus. What you want in life, if it’s important, will take effort. If you’re willing to get uncomfortable, if you’re willing to do what others won’t, then you’ll find the peace and comfort you’ve been seeking. Comfort doesn’t happen in the easy; it happens by asking more of ourselves, by getting uncomfortable, and being real in what is truly important to us.
So are you getting uncomfortable in your life by being real…by becoming aware of what you’re really saying…and then seeing if it’s in line with who you really want to be? The greatest things in our lives are simple, but they’re not easy. It takes a commitment to creating a continual space of being uncomfortable within our lives…in a healthy and balanced way.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What have you been avoiding that’s important to you because you’ve been telling yourself is that the stress and chaos are more important to you. There’ll come a time when you’ll wish you acted differently and it will be too late. Will it will be the time when your relationship ended because you didn’t schedule time in to let them know their importance to you, or the time when a loved one passed away and you never let them know how much you loved them, or will it be that point of no return in your life as you spent so many years chasing after things that were shiny instead of asking what really mattered to you?
Get out a sheet of paper, and ask yourself what things are important to you…that you haven’t been paying attention to like you’d like to. This is not an exercise to make you feel guilty, but to awaken you to what matters to you. By me having Rusty in the bathroom scared, it woke me up to say, “what are you doing? Go be with your buddy and comfort him.” The podcast will be there anytime you want to come back to it. And by doing what was really important to me, hanging with Rusty for a bit, it actually was the break I needed to be refreshed to come back with new ideas. Which reminds me that we are rewarded by doing the uncomfortable, by doing what truly matters to us…in one way or another.
Getting Uncomfortable Makes Me Comfortable
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#357 January 1st The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Stepping Out Of My Way Today
“The only limit to our realization of tomorrow will be our doubts of today.” ~Franklin D. Roosevelt
Whether I’m working with a life coaching student, teaching a spin class, or training someone in the gym…I'm working to constantly remind them that the only limitation is themselves. The only obstacle standing in their way is in their control, and all they need to do is learn how to get out of their own way.
I don’t tell people they can do the impossible, but what I do tell them is: when you change your mind about what you can do, then you’ll begin seeing the impossible differently.
For the impossible was only impossible until someone did; it was only impossible until someone decided to believe a little more in themselves, to believe a little more in humanity that it could be achieved, and decided to believe that there was something more within the pursuit of achieving that goal.
I think we don’t achieve the goals we want because we look at them as means of proving worth. That if I get this or I achieve that, then it will prove I’m great, that I’m worthy of being loved, that I’m worthy of being respected, and that maybe this one great thing will make up for all my previous mistakes. And so we work to force, we push ourselves to the limit out of anger for not being good enough, or out of hate for what’s not ours…instead of pursuing something out of love. And not just love for the goal at hand, but love for ourselves—the love in understanding that the goal will not make us worthy…we already are worthy…but now we’re just working to realize it in the physical form.
But there’s a disconnect in the physical and the spiritual…and if that word doesn’t sit right with you…think of it just as the nonphysical. This is not an argument on what religion or idea is the most right. All I’m saying is that there’s more to life than what we can see or touch. And we miss the mark in becoming the people we were intended to be by focusing more on the external. We go about our lives thinking the problems are outside of us, and that if only we could fix that thing outside of us…then our lives would be better.
But the problem isn’t outside of you, it’s inside of you…but hear me clearly when I say this, YOU are not the problem—your choice to see the problem as it is…is. Your choice to see yourself as stuck within the problem is the problem. And if your life were like that of an Indy Car race or NASCAR race or any other type of race you can think of, what if you were to see the problems in front of you not as stop signs but maybe as turns…or choices. The choice to take a pit stop and refuel and realign yourself…or the choice to see the track and make the turn when necessary.
Because in those races while the course is designed in a specific way…there still are three choices and decisions to make:
- The choice to off-road it—to go against yourself and the way of the goal.
- To stay on the track and turn when necessary to create an easier pathway towards your goal…to allow yourself to it and to allow it to come to you easier,
- The choice to take a break when needed to get yourself refreshed and realigned for the journey ahead.
We go about our lives doubting ourselves and our abilities…thinking that a goal just happens. That Lebron James was a superstar on day one; that Leonardo Da Vinci just picked up a brush, pencil, or clay and created a masterpiece without even working up to it. And so the story we tell ourselves about superstars or talented people, is that they are different from us. But we are so far from the truth when we say that. It’s a lie that we’ve gotten ourselves comfortable in, so we won’t have to get better at our gifts, that we won’t have to work hard because gifted people were born that way. That type of thinking we believe…is our out, our ace in the hole of letting us off the hook in doing the work, as we step in our way and say things like, “I could never, it wasn’t meant to be, or I’m not good enough or worthy enough to have that thing. And again, you couldn’t be any further from the truth when you say things like that.
You aren’t meant to be those people you look up to; you are meant to be the best YOU possible. You are meant to connect with your intuition and hear that true inner voice help guide you, to feel the wind of creation within your veins, and to live a life of allowing yourself to shine as you’re meant to.
The main reason we fail in our attempts is we give up too easily and too early…we doubt ourselves saying it wasn’t meant to be as we chase after goals or dreams that were never ours but more for the pursuit of being known…rather than going after the things mean something deeply to us.
To doubt is easy, to say why we can’t…takes no work. But to listen to your intuition, to connect with your race track and feel the turns…not see them as obstacles…is the first part in getting out of your way and allowing the goals you want to come to you.
So stop fighting the unwinnable battle of spinning your wheels to nowhere by taking one of the easiest and hardest actions you could ever do simultaneously…stepping out of your way. Stop forcing yourself to the goal and see your fear as what it is—fear of failing, and the fear of not being good enough to obtain or keep what you go after. For the only failure in your life, is in never attempting to fail.
Today’s Personal Commitment:People say it’s a new year and a new you. But I say while it’s a new year, be the old you. The authentic you, the talented and successful individual that you’ve forgotten you are as you focused more and more on the failures and the I can’ts in your life.
I’m not saying I want you to go seeking and relive your past. But what I am saying is I want you to live in the moment remembering what makes you great. So for the next month envision your life like a race track, and not to get to the goal as fast as possible, but to see a pathway you are destined for…to see that there are no obstacles only turns as you get of your own way.
So ask yourself what are the doubts that have held me back, and what are the doubts I’ve weighed myself down with? And after you do that, ask yourself what are the things you’ve given up on because of those doubts.
I’m not asking you to change the direction of your life; you might already be on your path. But maybe while you’re on your path, you made it harder from your self-imposed doubts. Sometimes the hardest part of life isn’t in doing the work towards a goal…but more in making a harder decision in getting out of our own way. So take a few deep breaths before making decisions this year, to give you more time to remember all that is sometimes needed is a slight adjustment of moving a little to the right or left.
I’m Stepping Out Of My Way Today
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#365 December 31 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Following Through Is My Favorite Tradition
Why do we wait for a new year to begin again? Why do we wait for a certain time to be perfect…to start? What’s keeping you from going after what you want right now? No, seriously…take a moment to really think about the excuses you’ve come up with on why you can’t start right now on your dreams.
I’ve seen statistics that say 80% of new years resolutions fail by February…and I can definitely attest to this since I work in a gym. It gets crazy busy in January, and with the passing of each month the crowd dwindles back to the same gang that’s always in the gym, except maybe a few new people who have decided there was no other option…except for full commitment towards their goal.
So if you really think about it, new years resolutions are really only a 1 month resolution, if that even. New beginnings are exciting, but what’s more exciting is following through with your plans. And that’s probably why most of us fail in new endeavors, we focus only on the start…we get excited seeing the end result…never really seeing what it would take to commit to the plan.
And I get it, change can be hard. Our new habits will feel painful or tough, especially when we focus on what we don’t like. When we do that we continually keep building up emotions that will incessantly tell us why this process sucks. Which keeps us in the dark about our lives and our goals thinking that what we go towards is too hard or that we weren’t capable of doing it…when in fact, all it was…was our thoughts and dialogue we used towards the goal.
So let’s say your goal is to write a book this year, or to lose a certain amount of weight by joining a gym and going on a diet, or getting more organized with your work area and your home. What would make you think you’d ever see a goal through if you constantly complained how much you hated it?
It seems like such an obvious statement, but still, we do it every time we work on the goal, and thus we create an idea in our subconscious that we really don’t want this goal. That it’s more trouble than it’s worth, and so like a snowball rolling down a large mountain…every utterance of your displeasure with the goal…you make it harder for yourself. Now people will call me unrealistic and Pollyanna saying that I’m asking them to be happy about what they’re doing all the time…and that’s exactly what I’m doing. There’s great pleasure in being challenged, there’s much excitement in being pushed to the limit asking ourselves whether we can do it or not, and there’s so much fulfillment in sticking with a goal because we’ve decided its importance was greater than not having it in our life.
One mistake that people make in trying to stick with goals is thinking it’s about willpower. That I will…will my mind and body to do this thing I’ve set before myself no matter what. And that’s one way to achieve things, but that’s why we hate the goal—we don’t look beyond it, we say that it’s more about sticking to something and forget it’s about seeing the opportunity in the difficulty…not being stuck in the difficulty.
I want to help pivot your thinking from willpower into being excited about the process, enjoying the work while you’re doing it, and getting lost in the moment rather than focusing on it’s not happening fast enough. Willpower is about forcing; but if you find the excitement in the goal, in being challenged, then it’s not a task or a chore…it’s a pleasurable part of life.
If you look at fitness social media moguls and what they post, they don’t talk about how much they hate what they are doing, they talk about how they get up at 445 in the morning because while it may not always be enjoyable to get out of bed at that time…the pursuit of their goals excites them…and that’s why they do get out of bed. Sure, in some sense it is willpower, but it’s really about processing your pursuits differently.
In my life coaching practice, It’s not that I teach people to be fake and dream only about happy things, but I teach them to pivot their dialogue with themselves and others, I teach them to think and act differently, and I ask them to see more of what they want rather than continually focusing on what they don’t want.
We get more of what we focus upon, so when we focus on pain…we find more of it, when we focus on doing something because of fast results…we get the fast result of quitting because that’s easier than sticking to something. This is the conundrum of life…your environment is NOT determined from outside of you…it’s determined within you. You mold your environment by what you allow in your life. So who are the people you surround yourself with, what are the thoughts you surround yourself with, what are the words you constantly use, and what are the actions you perform day in and day out? In all of those things, they determine the environment within you…which will then sculpt and mold the environment around you.
So this year, I challenge you to not wait for a new year to start a goal that’s important to you…if you want to begin them today at the beginning of the year, that’s cool…but don’t wait for things that are truly important to you. I want to challenge you to NOT be as excited about continual new beginnings…but to be more excited about new continuing’s you’ve decided that matter to you. Following through is one of the most exciting endeavors you will partake in.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
Instead of only writing down your new year's resolutions…write down what your follow through resolutions are. It’s nice to write down goals, but the reason we don’t achieve them has nothing to do with our ability to achieve them…it has to do with the habits we use in achieving them. Who do you have to become to make your goal a reality? What do you have to do consistently to make your goal a reality? So after you write down what you want to achieve this year, write down what you will have to do to act differently to help you follow through this time.
Willpower will only take you so far, but if you find a new way of looking at your goals, if you find ways to be more excited about the opportunity in the challenge, if you find better ways to speak, think, and act towards the goal…then you will see beyond the goal. You will understand it wasn’t about achieving that one goal…it was about changing who you were…it was about instilling the habits that made you the person who always had that goal in their reach.
Think about it this way. We talk about pursuing a goal…but we’re doing it backwards. If you listened to what I just said… I said we are pursuing a goal, we’re chasing a goal that’s elusive to the person we previously were. But if we wanted to make it easier on ourselves we would look at who we need to become to make this goal a natural part of who we are.
So instead of pursuing goals, what if you were to pursue a better you. I know that sounds like the same thing, but it’s not. It’s about becoming the habits regardless of the goal…and what you’ll then find is that the goal will be pursuing you.
Following Through Is My Favorite Tradition
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
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- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
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Synergistic Saturdays-#364 December 30 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Choose To Make Every Moment Great
“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.” ~Viktor Frankl
Every time the new year gets closer, the noise gets louder about what a crappy year people had. They talk about how they can’t wait for this year to be over so that they can have a great next year. And the interesting thing is, I usually see the same people complaining about the same thing each year.
And I agree, for once, it would be nice for them to have a good year so they could stop bitching about it not being good. But that’s the funny thing, their year is already great. They just can’t see the beautiful moment in front of them by continually wishing for their pain to be over, or wishing for their troubles to be gone. Which in turn locks them in their self-imposed prison—never understanding that they had the chance in every moment to make their year amazing.
It’s like we become so caught up in seeing what’s bad that we can’t see what’s good. Take for example, a friend was complaining about how they got sick a week before their vacation…and they said, “great…what perfect timing to get sick.” And in my head, I was little confused because I thought you’d rather be sick before your vacation…than on it. Now maybe they were thinking about how they couldn’t have any sick days before their trip, or maybe that they didn’t want their sickness to last more than a week and bring it with them…but I’m pretty sure that’s it. Some people want to see what’s wrong instead of seeing what’s right.
It makes me think of going to barns and seeing horses with those blinders over their eyes that don’t allow the horse to see behind or to the side of them, so they don’t get spooked. And we as people have our blinders on…except they aren’t helping us, we’re focusing on what’s wrong…we’re focusing on what annoys us or scares us…instead of seeing the great moments in front of us.
And the interesting thing about my friend who talked about being sick, you saw all their pictures on what a great time they were having on the trip…and never once thought about their sickness again. Which shows me why we live in a state of perpetual frozenness. We complain, but we never learn from our complaining. And thus we repeat the pattern over and over again.
A year isn’t bad, a day isn’t bad, a life isn’t bad…they are events, and we can choose how we want to experience them. And maybe I didn’t get the memo that everyone else seems to have gotten about life being fair and perfect…but it seems like people lose focus on what the message of our lives are…that we create the good times or we create the bad times. Yes, unfortunate things will happen, people die, people leave us, we get sick, we get hurt… and we can choose to make our home within misery….always wondering why our years suck, or we can get up and know we are the masters of our fates, that we are in control of making our years great, and that there’s beauty in every moment…even the harder times in our lives.
The quote above by Viktor Frankl is the perfect example of a better mindset. Viktor was imprisoned in a Nazi concentration camp in World War II for being Jewish. His mother and brother died in the Auschwitz concentration camp, and his wife died in the Bergen-Belsen concentration camp. What Frankl had observed during his imprisonment was that the people who survived, were the people who had hope—the ones who believed they would get out, that they would see their family again, or whatever hope they needed to focus on…to keep them going.
However, the people he saw who had no hope, the prisoners who couldn’t imagine a future, didn’t last long. And through all the atrocities Viktor saw in his time in the concentration camps, he was able find meaning in the midst of extreme suffering. He goes on to say in his book Man’s Search For Meaning, “Those who have a 'why' to live, can bear with almost any 'how'.” And if you haven’t read his book, I highly recommend it.
What I’m getting at, is we’ve become weak individuals by forgetting our whys. We’ve become crippled by waiting for a better moment to come to us, as we’ve forgotten that the best moments are in front of us right now.
We’ve forgotten that the only one who can change a bad moment is ourselves…not a new year, or a new day, or someone else. And while I’m saying the great times are already in the moment in front of you, it still takes work to notice them. Your life is like a bucket that’s being filled, and if you don’t fill it with something you want, you’ll find something else will take its place. We’ve forgotten our whys and thus the negatives have overrun our lives as if they were in control of our lives
Everything you speak, think, and do…will either weaken you…or strengthen you. So, are you going to be weak and complain about a year being bad…or are you going to be strong and see the beauty in every moment? Are you going to blame others for your position in life, or are you going to be strong and find continual hope in your life? Are you going to miss the moments in front of you letting your bucket be filled with negatives, or are you going to be the person who stops looking for their situation to change and instead begins changing yourself?
The only difference between something good or bad…in a day, a year, or an event…is our fortitude to accept the negative for what it is—a chance to rise above and find meaning even through our suffering. It’s the chance to see that the moment wasn’t determining my experience, I was.
The hardest times in my life, the times that ripped my heart from my chest, were the times that were asking me to open my eyes and find more hope and beauty in the moment. It may sound petty of me to tell people to stop their whining…but the weak are left whining for a better day, while the dead are still hoping for one more day…even a bad day…because in every moment there’s good or bad…it’s just whether we decide to change ourselves…or let the situation change us. And when we know our why…we can bear any ‘how.’
Today’s Personal Commitment:What are your whys? What’s your why for your job, your relationships, for your next 10 years, for the next year, and your why for the day right now? I see most of us operating on autopilot. We get up and do our daily routine not thinking about anything because we have done it for so long there is no need to analyze anything…it’s all the same mostly. But we become robots acting this way; we get stuck in the mode of operations instead of seeing the beauty in the moment or choice.
So for the next month, every day before you set out to start your day…write down the whys of your day and your life. Get yourself acquainted with your purposes again, so you can become more mindful of what you’re trying to accomplish in your life.
When we remember our whys, we divert our attention from the negatives…or probably more accurately…those negatives never become powerful enough to overtake our directed mindset.
I Choose To Make Every Moment Great
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#363 December 29 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Focus On The One
“If I look at the mass, I will never act. If I look at the one, I will.” ~Mother Teresa
Being in the coaching industry I see a lot of coaches making huge claims to better people’s lives. They will say things like, it’s my mission to reach a million people, it’s my mission to reach 50 million people, or it’s my mission to reach a billion people. And I am all for helping people, but I know when I’ve stated goals like this, it was no longer about helping people, it was more about stroking my ego.
Because in the end how will I ever know I helped a million people. If I help one person, that could ripple into them helping 50, who help another 100, and so on. I think we get so caught in trying to see the bigger picture that we miss… the picture. We miss that it isn’t about helping as many people as possible, it’s about helping who’s in front of us right now. And like Mother Teresa said, when we get too big for our britches…we don’t act. We don’t step into our helping pants to change the world…one person at a time.
And while this podcast may seem like it’s about helping others, it’s also about helping ourselves. I know I’ve spent so much time assisting other people, in efforts of avoiding the work I needed to do on myself. It’s not that the gesture wasn’t nice to help others, but I was doing a disservice to those I helped because I wasn’t at my best. And I couldn’t ever be at my best focusing on the masses, until I remembered that I was one within the masses that needed my best love and care first.
With the new year coming up we’ll most likely set new goals of what we’d like to achieve in this coming year. I want to challenge you to be a more purposeful, to be clearer in what you want, and to shrink your goals down from saving the world into saving one person at a time…yourself included. I want you to change the equation around from how you might’ve been doing things before and ask the better question of, “How can I make a bigger impact by focusing on one instead of the many?”
And while that may sound selfish or counterintuitive, it actually makes better sense to act on a smaller scale first. Greater impact happens when we put our full attention on what’s in front of us. Think of it this way, have you ever been talking with someone and they’re somewhere else thinking about what else they need to be doing or who else they could be hanging with. It’s kind of annoying, isn’t it? Well, when we focus too big, when we focus on too many instead of seeing the smaller more immediate impactful objectives in front of us…then we miss our potential from doing something great. We look at the impact we want to have in a year, but we don’t look at what we have to do every month to get there, and we don’t look at what we have to do every day with that month. We’ve told ourselves that magnificent things come in big packages, in helping more people, in doing more…but greatness comes from doing the small things great first…consistently. So how can you be more consistent in making a bigger impact by doing the smaller things better in your life?
Today’s Personal Commitment:Let’s break this down simply, what are your goals? And are some of them starting out too big? Write down the goals you have for the next year and see how you can break them down into more manageable parts. I know some of the goals I set were unrealistic because it was more about what people would think if I achieved it rather than doing something that was great on its own merit. Having it be something that would satisfy me knowing it, not trying to impress others.
When I’m hired to give talks on inspiration or changing your life…I work to remember that it’s not about reaching everyone. It’s about reaching at least one person…and so I work to reach one person at a time…hopefully, I reach more. But if I’m making my message too generalized to try and reach everyone, then my message becomes watered down and helps no one.
So I’m going to challenge you, to analyze your goals and ask if they’re truly for you. And after you do that see if you can break them down even further into the smaller pieces…see if you can focus on reaching the one first before trying to reach the many. Ask yourself how you can do the smalls things greatly. Because we cannot help others, we cannot give to the many, if we don’t reach the one first. And that one, may more often than not, be yourself.
I Focus On The One
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#362 December 28 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Decide To Be The Chaos Or The Calm
Christmas can bring out the best in people, and it can bring out the worst in people. It’s an environment that brings us in close proximity with loved ones, and even closer proximity to some we may not be able to stand…all while hovering around great expectations of what a holiday should be like.
Something I’ve been working to remind myself of—is that the chaos is not around me; I decide to be the chaos or the calm. And since the holidays are over, I thought it would be a perfect time to talk about how we go about our lives unaware of the problem and continuing to choose to be chaos.
One of the biggest problems with our happiness levels is by the expectations we put on things or events. It’s great to have good expectations for things…in fact, it’s the only way I’ve made it this far in my life by continually having hope that the best moments are happening in the present…not the past, or the future…but right here right now. It’s about taking our expectations further than just what we think something should be…it’s about being above the situation…meaning that we will not find joy or sadness because of the situation…we will choose to find the calm within ourselves to enjoy wherever we are at the time.
For me, this holiday, I found myself getting snippy or annoyed because I was listening more to the voice of what was bugging me at the moment…instead of creating the best voice I wanted to hear in the moment. So, let’s take a trip and time travel as I take you back to my high school days. I used to love reading the funny pages in the paper each morning, and I think this is where guys have been labeled as only having selective hearing. I would be at the kitchen table eating, and no one would be talking to me, but as soon as I picked up the paper to read…my mom would always begin asking me questions…and then she would get mad when I was zoned out not even realizing someone was talking to me. And every morning I would be like, “Ma, you never ask me questions when I’m not reading the paper.” Now I’m sure I was over exaggerating a bit as I probably had some quiet morning reading the funny pages…but I still chuckle about how it seemed to happen like clockwork.
So let’s come back to the present…or well, the near present as Christmas was a few days ago. I felt myself getting snippy with family, as I was focusing on what annoyed me. I was focusing on how people weren’t paying attention when certain accidents happened like knocking over the 2-liter bottle of soda because their mind was elsewhere. And thinking about it now, it was me really only focusing on myself and what I saw…not on how people were experiencing their day. That they were having such a good time serving and being in the presence of loved ones that they were moving faster than normal and they were more focused on having a grand old time.
So basically, I was letting the small events alter my mood…and what I just said was… “I was letting.” The event didn’t determine how I felt… I did. I decided to put more heed to the negative voice inside my head that people should pay more attention and stupid things wouldn’t happen…thus creating a negative chemistry in me. I was having an expectation of how I would have acted and was putting my expectations on them…judging someone for something silly…and thus I was creating my own negative mood.
Now I know this may seem like a silly little example, but I find when I’m going unchecked with paying attention to how I feel most moments, it’s easier for me to be annoyed with how things should be…instead of just living in the moment and letting people be and act how they want, and for me to just be present and enjoy their company.
I spent so much of my younger life thinking that I had to be a certain way to be liked, to not be noticed in a negative way…that I hold myself and others to an expectation that doesn’t serve me anymore…and part of that expectation is that we must be perfect and not make silly mistakes. And so the reason I really get annoyed is not because they messed up, but that I’ve chosen an internal dialogue that interferes with my calm. A lot of my anger came from the idea of perfectionism for myself which then I projected onto others. It was this unrealistic expectation I had that what mattered to me should be just as important to others…which caused a chaos within myself, as I was focusing on what others should be doing instead of paying more attention to myself.
I know you may not be like me, and you have different triggers…but the question I want to ask is, when do you get annoyed or angry, and why are you getting that way? There are times that are warranted for anger, but a lot of times anger is misunderstood. For example, it’s easier to express anger instead of hurt, it’s easier to get angry when things don’t go perfectly, or it’s easier to put the blame on an emotion instead of saying we made a choice and didn’t make the best decision at the time.
Anger is easy to talk about, but if we allow our emotions to go unchecked at times…we then live a life of blame. We say that the emotion was in control of us, when rather it was a matter of being mindful of what we were doing, and how we really wanted to feel. If an emotion is affecting you negatively, and if you don’t take the time to ask yourself why decided to process an event a certain way …then you will always be a person who is lying to yourself. You will be that person who says I couldn’t help the way I am, I just reacted…or you say they made me so mad so it’s their fault. You will be that person… who never takes accountable for their life…and you will never reach true happiness because you’ve told yourself someone or something else is in control of it.
I’m as much as fault as anyone here. I’m not perfect, and I find it’s a constant balancing act of being aware of how I feel, and if something feels off then having the courage to go further and find out why I am feeling a certain way that doesn’t feel right to me.
Change happens by going to the places that we don’t want to go…the places that scare us, or the places that will take some extra work…but doing the extra work internally to see what’s going on, will make all the difference in deciding whether you will be the chaos or calm in the moment. It will be the factor in deciding whether you’re a person who makes a difference by holding yourself accountable for your life…or being the person who puts the blame on others because it’s easier. You’ll be the person who becomes an avid liar…continually telling yourself that something else was in control of what made you happy or miserable in your life. You will be a person in continual chaos.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Take a look at your holidays, and ask yourself how you acted…or reacted. Were there times that you could’ve been more present and collected instead of annoyed or upset with something? Were there times that you could have been more present and found ways to just be in the moment…not trying to change or expect anything from anyone…except to be your best self in the moment? Not everyone is going to be as aware as you, and when we expect others to know what we know, we set ourselves up for failure. But when you focus on how you want to feel, and keep yourself in line with following through with those purposeful emotions…then you create a different energy that not only attracts better things to you, but also influences people differently. You change people by focusing on being in the emotions you want to be in.
But remember this, if you’re getting a lot of negative attitude, it might be because you’re too awesome and it rubs people the wrong way. So don’t judge people for being upset at your awesomeness, it’s only natural to envy the astounding person you are…so don’t fault them for being jealous of you.
I Decide To Be The Chaos Or The Calm
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#361 December 27 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Upgrading
The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried. ~ (not sure who said it as I have seen multiple attributions from Confucius to Stephen McCranie to Yoda of Star Wars)
Sometimes it would nice to be ordinary, to not worry about whether you’re getting better, or if you’re good enough already. Sometimes it’d be nice to not care about how you’re perceived, or how well of a job you did, and what the future will hold for us. Sometimes it’d be nice to be kinder to ourselves in the pursuits of becoming who we’re meant to be.
And if you’re listening to this podcast, I’m pretty sure you’re like me where you want more for your life, where you want to be better for yourself and for the people around you, where you want to be constantly challenged because you’ve found joy in growth…and remembering the great lesson you learned, that being comfortable isn’t always the best road.
I’ve lived a life being very critical of myself. I figured the more I could keep telling myself why I failed, then the more I would learn from it and become better. And while I kept working on self-improvement, I kept holding myself back because of the unkind way I was dealing with myself. While I’m sure I improved in some areas, I regressed in many other areas because of my unkind ways towards myself. In fact, I trained my subconscious to begin hating me. Our subconscious doesn’t know the difference between truth or fiction…it’s only a mirror reflecting what you show or tell it.
I’ve spent a good portion of my life reading, listening to, or seeking self-improvement techniques. And while I kept reading and trying to learn ways to become better, something felt very wrong…because I always felt crappy. I put on the mask of happiness for everyone else, but I could feel the spark of who I was dying silently within me. And while I didn’t know how to change at the time, I knew that what I was doing wasn’t producing the results I wanted…and so I did the only thing I knew how to…I began changing the dialogue I utilized towards myself.
And while I’m not perfect, I continually work not to just become better, but I work to become kinder to myself. Kindness doesn’t mean I give up easily, in fact it makes me more relentless as I encourage myself to find better ways around my obstacles. And through that kindness, it gives me more energy as I become my best advocate. It’s like that teacher, parent, friend, or coach who believed in you…you gained more resolve and energy because you knew they believed in you…and if they believed in you then it meant they thought you could do it. The power of someone believing in us is a wonderful gift.
So now anytime I make a mistake, I work to believe in myself like others did in me. When I make a mistake, it’s a perfect chance for me to change my focus from saying I’m a piece of crap for not being good enough or that I messed up royally in that project, event, or relationship…into saying something more positive and reminding myself that there is a great learning opportunity here.
So I’m going to challenge you to be better with me, not by berating yourself, but by being kinder to yourself. I’m going to challenge you to change your internal dialogue from, “I’m a mess up, I’m a failure, I’m so stupid or that was so stupid of me,” or whatever hateful thing you could say…and instead say, “I am upgrading.”
I want to remind you that you are learning from every fall, you are bettering yourself by going through your mistakes and seeing them as lessons not as ending points, and you are becoming your own best advocate believing in the greatness of yourself again.
You are not becoming obsolete as the world keeps moving forward…you’re upgrading yourself constantly…by challenging yourself and seeing your mistakes as necessary, and you are becoming kinder to yourself on your journeys.
You’ve come to this podcast to become better. I want you to really hear me when I say this…so pause your mind for a second and listen…you can’t become better if you aren’t loving yourself. You can’t become happier or more joyful if you’re continually finding ways to hate who you are and what your perceived failures are. And while you can live a life of getting by, you can’t live a life of fulfillment focusing on why you never have enough or are enough. You are enough! It’s not that you’re failing, it’s that you are constantly learning and upgrading to become the best version of yourself.
Today’s Personal Commitment:When you make a mistake, or call yourself a failure…change your dialogue to say… I’m upgrading. It’s not a pass to give up on things, but it’s a different way of handling the issues in front of you. So this week I’m going to challenge you to add this phrase to your vocabulary and see how you feel and what happens when you make it a bigger part of your narrative.
I’m Upgrading
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#360 December 26 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am The Mountain, Not Softened Nor Troubled
One of my favorite movies is called, Into The Wild. It was a movie directed by Sean Penn and was adapted from Jon Krauker’s book of the same name. The movie is based upon a true story about a young man named Christopher McCandless who graduates from Emory University and abandons his life as he knew it. He donates all $24,000 of his savings account and hitchhikes across the country to live in Alaska’s wilderness.
I won’t give away too much of the movie because you may not have seen it yet, so I’ll try to leave out as many spoilers as possible, but the reason I loved this movie is because of the ideals of the purposefully wandering person. In fact, after seeing the movie I went and bought the book and read it right after.
I believe, we as people, look with curiosity and intrigue to the wanders of life because we are trying to find ourselves, and I believe that we hope we can find meaning or answers in their stories. If you look through such stories in humanity, I believe the wandering tales are popular because of a common question most of us ask…what is the meaning of my life? And some of my favorite Wandering stories are:
St. Francis of Assisi who gave up his luxurious life, under his father’s silk merchant business, in order to serve the poor. He dedicated his life to following in the footsteps of Jesus by preaching His message. He, and the Franciscan Order of monks that he founded, gave up all ownership of property and lived in chastity. I think I liked St Francis as well because he reminded me of my grandfather. Animals loved my grandfather, as you’d see birds land by him as he would feed them, or squirrels eat out of his hand in his backyard. And I remember seeing pictures of St. Francis within my grandparent’s home, as he’s illuminated by a light around him and surrounded by all sorts of animals. St. Francis is the patron saint of animals, as he viewed them as his brothers and sisters because they were God’s creatures, just like people.
Another favorite traveling tale of mine is in the Lord of The Rings by J.R. Tolkien where he writes a poem with a famous line about wandering, referenced frequently…and the poem goes like this:
All that is gold does not glitter,Not all those who wander are lost;The old that is strong does not wither,Deep roots are not reached by the frost.From the ashes, a fire shall be woken,A light from the shadows shall spring;Renewed shall be blade that was broken,The crownless again shall be king.
And the last wandering tale that comes to mind is from a famous poem that Christopher McCandless wrote a note on the backside of, as he took a picture of himself with it in Alaska. The piece of paper he wrote on, was the backside of poem from Robinson Jeffers. In a documentary called “Return To the Wild,” they showed that the poem was on two pages within a book he was reading so the note he wrote, only had half of Jeffers poem on it…I am going to share the whole poem with you. The poem is called “Wise Men In Their Bad Hours” and it goes like this:
Wise men in their bad hours have envied
The little people making merry like grasshoppers
In spots of sunlight, hardly thinking
Backward but never forward, and if they somehow
Take hold upon the future they do it
Half asleep, with the tools of generation
Foolishly reduplicating
Folly in thirty-year periods; they eat and laugh too,
Groan against labors, wars and partings,
Dance, talk, dress and undress; wise men have pretended
The summer insects enviable;
One must indulge the wise in moments of mockery.
Strength and desire possess the future,
The breed of the grasshopper shrills, "What does the future
Matter, we shall be dead?" Ah, grasshoppers,
Death's a fierce meadowlark: but to die having made
Something more equal to the centuries
Than muscle and bone, is mostly to shed weakness.
The mountains are dead stone, the people
Admire or hate their stature, their insolent quietness,
The mountains are not softened nor troubled
And a few dead men's thoughts have the same temper.
The note that Christopher wrote on the back of this poem said, “I’ve had a happy life and thank the Lord. Goodbye and may God bless all.”
The reason I believe he wrote his note on that poem is because it was an analogy for his life. I’ve taken the poem to mean that the masses are like grasshoppers, not caring about anything more of themselves as they’ll be dead soon, and so they mass produce being unenlightened and aware of their bigger purpose. But the very few who are willing to seek and be more, the very few who are willing to be like mountains…to reach for higher achievement that most will not climb towards…those wise people will be like the mountains not softened nor troubled as they shed their weaknesses…as they do more than just survive like the masses. They’re willing to give up their comforts if need be to find the better parts of themselves.
And at times we are made prisoner by our comforts. We fear the road of moving forward by leaving the luxuries we’ve balanced our lives upon. And like crutches when we’re wounded they can be helpful, but if we overly rely on the crutch, then do we really live a life of progression and reaching our fullest potential?
I don’t think we have to do an all or nothing transition like Chris McCandless or St. Francis of Assisi leaving everything behind…but I think to become better, to have a fulfilling life…we must be willing to leave behind the crutches in our lives that imprison us. I think it’s good to ask questions like… “while this may make my life easier, does it make my life better? Does it help me to reach for more in the pursuits of being the person I truly want to be?”
And that’s why the wandering person entices me, it’s the admiration of having the courage to leave the dead weight behind (whether physical or internal) and not look back; it’s the strength to voyage out and be alone to find out who you are underneath all the layers that society or others have piled upon us over the years, and it’s the chance to go on adventures and find exciting new pieces of yourself along on journeys. So while we may wander, we don’t have to be lost, we don’t have to leave it all behind, but I believe we must get in the habit of asking ourselves, “while this ‘thing’ is good, does this make me better?” And if not, let us be like those purposeful wanders who move forward to disconnect from what no longer is serving us. Let us be like the mountains, neither softened nor troubled as we reach higher…not to just survive, but to truly live a life of meaning and purpose.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What crutches in your life are keeping you unbalanced from living the life you desire? How are you like the wanderer in your life…are you wandering running from things that you fear, or are you running towards things that drive you to reach for the best parts of yourself? So today, think about all the things that you have been unhealthfully leaning on that are no longer serving you, write them down, and then ask the question of “what can I do differently?”
Changing overnight off of crutches usually doesn’t happen, but by becoming aware of what’s keeping you weak is the starting point to becoming strong again. When we become aware, we can then start taking smaller steps that strengthen us, where we will no longer need the crutches that are keeping us crippled in our lives.
I Am The Mountain, Not Softened Nor Troubled
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#359 December 25 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Tis The Season To Remember…My Purpose
Happy holidays, no matter what you celebrate, if you celebrate. And if you don’t have anyone to celebrate with, I’m going to celebrate the life of you today, as this podcast is about the awesomeness of you. It’s about being thankful and in appreciation of something…and no matter the miles between us…I want you to know that I’m in appreciation of you.
I want this podcast to be all about you. I hope my podcasts are always about you, but I want to get you prepared to be the best gift you can be…for everyone you interact with during these holiday times. Now while it’s Christmas day, and maybe the holiday shopping mayhem may be over…I want to remind you to be kinder to others and to yourself during these times.
I want to remind you to not be like the small majority who are lost in the moment and forgetting what the holidays are about in their stresses and the hustle and bustle of this time. I want to remind you about patience in the parking lots and not to drive like a banshee to get the last space. I want to remind you to take a deep breath when you’re stuck in slower holiday traffic, as you hold your tongue and frustrations to find peace and calm within yourself. I want to remind you that while you may be buying gifts and thinking about others…how are you buying them? What I mean is, sometimes we are giving things…but we’re so focused on the monetary aspect of what we gave…that there’s no deeper meaning behind it, besides that of…I went out and bought this for you.
So give yourself the gift of peace by finding joy in whatever you partake in this day. If you’re with family, ground yourself in this moment…put your phone away a bit more, breathe a little deeper to keep yourself present and calm, express a little more kindness when you feel trapped or stressed around other people. You don’t have to partake in their chaos. If they want to be a certain way, that’s their prerogative. Your pathway today is peace and love…or maybe you might have different emotions you want to focus on. So what do you want to experience today? When we plan how we want to feel before the events of the day, we begin a visualization process. We set a book mark, or reminder, in our subconscious that can awaken us when we’re diverting from that plan. So prepare yourself by saying how you want to experience this day, and then find ways to follow through by being present in your intentions.
A Life Coaching Student of mine went to a funeral for a family member. He traveled ten hours by car to where it was being held. He gave me a call while he was there, and talked about how stressed he was. I asked him why he was stressed, and he said, “because everybody is acting like they always do expecting me to plan everything and keep things in an orderly fashion.” He’s the planner and the organized one of them all, so it was only natural that his family would go back to habits of expecting him to take control when he was there.
I asked him a very important question, “what was your purpose for going up there?”
He responded, “to support and be helpful.”
I said back to him, “well you got exactly what you asked for.”
He felt so much calmer reminding himself of the reason he went up there in the first place. He got exactly what he was asking for, but during the stress and chaos of everyone and everything else, he got swept in with it…by forgetting his purpose.
In your life you won’t get what you want, you’ll get what you are continually focusing on. So, let’s be purposeful with our intentions…and follow through with them. You can’t control anyone else, but you can remind yourself of what you really want out of the situation, and you can follow through with staying in line with those emotions that you decided you wanted to be a part of.
So let’s be a blessing during these times. Let’s not be a bother with our anger and frustration, but let us be kinder to others and ourselves. It’s not a good excuse I know, but most people are running around letting their unchecked emotions control them…don’t fault them for their unawareness…let us be the aware ones and be the change…not wait for others to be the change for us. The power is in your hands to be a blessing, not a curse. So before you do anything today, take a deep breath…take 5 or 10 or how many you need to find the calm…and then ask yourself how you want to feel today. What emotions do you want to partake in, and what emotions do you want to share…and then go about your day making a commitment to living within that.
Today’s Personal Commitment:How do you want to feel today? What are the 2-5 top emotions you want to experience and share in your day? Write them down on a sheet of paper and fold it up in your pocket or put it somewhere where your hand will touch it again during the day. It will be the reminder to keep asking yourself, am I in alignment with the emotions I wanted to feel today, and if not…then what do I need to do to make that happen? Good luck, happy holidays, and thank you for being a part of my day today. I know this sounds cliché, but you listening to me today and being with me in spirit is one of the greatest gifts I could ask for…but if you have a million dollars that you want to share with me…I’ll take that too 😉.
Tis The Season To Remember…My Purpose
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays-#358 December 24 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Rise From My Fires
A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man without trials.”
―Seneca
Every hardship, every fall, every scrape, bruise, cut, wound whether physical, emotional, mental or spiritual is not your breaking point…it’s your proving point. And the only way you’ll fail is if you lose perspective. If you step too close to the problem and forget the greatest of lessons…that you are not your problems…or that your problems are not you…they surround you but will never become you. For when you can take a breath to pause and step back, to see the bigger picture, you’ll see the storm as only a moment in your life…not an endless turbulent horizon.
And I like the thoughts of storms, because what they do is clear a pathway. Take a look at wildfires that are happening all over as we look at them as catastrophic, which they can be if they get out of control, but environmental scientists will reason that they are seminal in a healthy ecosystem. In an article called “Why are wildfires good for the environment” by Will Donovan, he interviews Dr. Timothy B. Mihuc professor of environmental science at State University of New York Pattville, and Dr. Mihuc says,
“Many forests cannot sustain themselves without natural wildfire, including pine barrens, lodgepole pine forests, Eucalyptus forests and many more. These forests require canopy fires to regenerate because the trees in the forest are adapted to only produce seeds following a major fire event. Hence, fires can be regenerative for the forest, and without them many of these forest types would decline on the landscape. It’s like ‘resetting the clock’ on the ecosystem allowing it to thrive all over again for another 200 years.”
What also was interesting is he said that when these new younger trees grow after a fire—they create patches in the forest which act as buffers and stop the spread of fires in their tracks. But as humans, we’ve used fire suppression in ending smaller natural fires which causes unnatural occurrences in nature that creates greater problems later on.
One of the reasons I named my life coaching business Strong Within was the idea of fire. There are two meanings within my logo…the first is the yin yang aspect of balance. The W is shaped as a flame with water below it to balance it out…but the idea for the flame came from the the mythical bird of the Phoenix who dies in the fire but is reborn and raised anew in the ashes. It was the idea of dying of the old self by going through the life trials of fire and being reborn better, and having a better perspective about the true strength that you’ve always possessed within.
We have learned to fear the fire, the destructive force of what the flame can do…but that’s because we have forgotten we are the flame. We are the changing force in this world, and when we suppress our true strengths, when we fall in line to not stand out, to not be our authentic self…we then die a slow death instead of live a long remarkable life.
So remember that every abrasive force pushing back on you, every fight coming towards you, and for every storm that you go through…it is not the act of becoming better at seeing the problem…but the process of seeing the friction as the beautification of yourself…and seeing the solution through all the fog. It is not your breaking point, but rather your proving point.
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What’s your life logo? What mythological creature will be the mascot and reminder of how you want to live your life? Is it the Phoenix born anew in the ashes through the fires of trial and tribulation; is it the Ouroboros that snake or dragon eating it’s own tail as it depicts infinity or the repetition of life in Samsara and Nirvana and how every ending is always a new beginning; or maybe it’s like griffin—the body of a lion and the head and wings of an eagle as those combination of animals represent courage, leadership, great sight to see problems better…etc.
I always loved looking up mythological creatures and their origins and meanings. It was like looking for the better parts of humanity’s ideas. I saw it as ways of looking for more strengths within myself. So maybe this might be a fun exercise to make up your own coat of arms, on how you want to live your life and be guided by higher principles. I thought that starting my life coaching business would be about helping people, and it is, but it was really about making myself better so I could help others become better. It was about me becoming the Phoenix and being reborn because of the fires that tested me. I still have a long way to go, we all do, so I’m praying for more friction in our life as we are still being polished.
I Rise From My Fires
Here's a link to the article of Why Wild Fires are Good"
https://blog.suny.edu/2013/08/ask-an-expert-why-are-wildfires-good/
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#357 December 23 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Put Everything On The Table
“Being perfect is not about that scoreboard out there. It’s not about winning. It’s about you and your relationship with yourself, your family and your friends. Being perfect is about being able to look your friends in the eye and know that you didn't let them down because you told them the truth. And that truth is you did everything you could. There wasn't one more thing you could’ve done. Can you live in that moment as best you can, with clear eyes, and love in your heart, with joy in your heart? If you can do that gentleman – you’re perfect!”
– Coach Gary Gaines, from Friday Night Lights
I was on an MTV show back in 2011 I believe. It was a show called I Used To Be Fat, and no I wasn’t the overweight person…every time I say I was on that show people jump back and say you used to be fat??? And I’ll say, “no, I was the coach and trainer on the show for a person I was helping.” The whole premise of the show was each episode had a different teenager who had just graduated high school and they had a summer to work with a trainer to change their life before heading to college.
It was a pretty stressful experience at the time…because you are trying to get someone to do something they don’t want to do, in a very short amount of time, all while knowing millions of people may be watching you fail miserably. I had two months with the young lady I was working with, and it was my hope to not just help her lose weight but to change her self-image so she would be doing a permanent change, not something that would last until she no longer was on her diet or not working out anymore.
Well, things were going great…for the first two weeks…until major meltdowns kept happening. I dealt with a lot of crying and upsetness about how this young woman didn’t want to be doing this anymore and how it was too hard. We put in long hours every day…but I kept reminding her that this was only two months of her life. I told her, “you can do whatever you want after this, but let’s commit fully to this moment.” And that’s the problem with reality TV shows, it’s about getting quick results for the ratings of the show. No one wants to watch a slow process of change, the viewing audience wants to be tricked into thinking it happens quickly and with minimal effort. But when you get in crunch time of trying to lose 50 pounds in two months, it’s usually unrealistic for most…and it’s a whole hell of a lot harder than you’d imagine. We spent hours in the gym every day.
In the show we didn’t reach the 50 pound mark in two months, but she was happy with her progress, and that’s all I could ask for as this transition wasn’t really about me, it was more about her. The funny thing is the weight she lost, is the weight she said she would be comfortable losing. She said she wanted to be at a weight she felt comfortable in in high school. And at the time I said, “that’s good you want to get there, by why are you stopping there?” And she said, “oh I am not stopping there I just want to get there first.” And I had heard that sort of statement many times in my training career…I’m not going to stop there… And what happened at the end of the show is she got to the exact weight she said she would be comfortable at.
And that’s what we do in our lives, we look to get back to where we were comfortable…not where we truly want to be…and I believe that’s because we’re afraid of failing, we’re afraid the work will be too hard, we’re afraid it won’t be worth it…and so we settle for mediocrity in our lives giving just enough…by only showing up. I see this day in and day out…how people don’t reach their goals because they only show up at the gym dreading it and doing the work as they fight it the whole time wishing it was easier. I see them showing up at their jobs wanting to make more money or get that promotion when they only do the bare minimum never giving more than what’s asked of them, as they fly below the radar. I see them doing it in their relationships, as they get bored with the status quo and show up thinking that only being there by body alone is enough.
To be better, to have what we want, to live the lives we want…takes a commitment to leave it all on the table. To give what we have at that moment, ready to make as many mistakes as possible and correct them. When I played ice hockey I went to a hockey clinic to better my skills and I was working with a Michigan player who was voted the best player in the state and was the most sought after recruit for college hockey. We were doing a puck handling drill where you had two obstacles and you would stick handle your puck around those obstacles in a figure 8 pattern forwards and backwards.
I was going at a speed that was comfortable to me, so I could hold onto the puck, and this mentor came over and challenged me to sprint through the drill—to make as many mistakes as possible and pick up my pace. He was challenging me to be ok with mistakes and to elevate my play to another level. I made a ton more mistakes but after the week of working on this drill I had drastically improved because I was willing to put it all on the table, I was willing to make as many mistakes as possible, and I was willing to get out of my comfort zone that was keeping me trapped where I was.
Are you putting everything on the table in your life? And if not, why not? What are you afraid of, or what’s the story you’ve been telling yourself that it’s ok to be subpar in what you do? I’m not judging anyone in this life, but you aren’t meant to reach for the minimum, you are meant to do amazing things… not because those things will always be for the world to see, but because you decided to put your every ounce of effort into the tasks you were performing today. Greatness isn’t in the amazing things that happen to us, greatness lies in the willingness to leave everything all on the table in the actions we are performing at the moment. That’s when great things happen, not by luck or things just happening…it comes from our standard operating procedures…and that is where a fulliling life is created…by leaving it all on the table.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What’s your comfort zone? What’s your standard operating procedure in the things you do? Would you know your comfort zone at work, in your relationships, in your personal life? Because if you can get to in your mind and ALSO feel it in your body when you’re coasting…that will be your own personal book mark. It will be the indicator for your subconscious letting you know that something doesn’t feel right to you. We’ve let our subconscious know that doing the bare minimum feels right, so it operates by what you’ve taught it, so let’s teach it a different way of alerting you to let you know when you aren’t performing up to the standards you want for your life.
It’s not about over doing things or feeling you have to prove something, but it’s about living the lives we were meant to… to be in continual growth. The best times in my life weren’t the comfortable times, they were the times when I was challenged, and the times I rose to the challenge. They were the times when I said I’m not going to settle…I’m going to leave it all on the table today, and see how many mistakes I can make and correct along the way. It’s not that we’re looking to be reckless, but we’re looking to persevere in our betterment. We’re looking to find the marrow of life and drink up all of its beauty. We’re looking to truly live by seeking to always be reaching further than we did yesterday. Not to be anal and never happy, but to create a life that’s in accordance with nature…always growing and seeking the best parts of ourselves.
I Put Everything On The Table
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#356 December 22 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Can Handle Any Problem One Day At A Time
In one of my favorite books, How To Stop Worrying And Start Living by Dale Carnegie there was a story about a minister that I liked. The story was called, “I Learned To Stop Worrying By Watching My Wife Wash Dishes.” He was a minister who had insomnia and stomach pains, and he feared he might have stomach cancer or at least ulcers. He went to a specialist who assured him that he was fine and that his pains were caused by emotional strains.
He took care of all the churches needs, preached, looked over the sick and dying in the church, and was the head of many volunteer organizations as well. His plate was overflowing and he added to all that by worrying even more. He felt he could never relax from the load he had put upon himself. So he took the doctor’s advice and took one day off a week and begin to lessen his load of responsibilities little by little.
As he was going through old sermons, he decided to crumple up his older notes and throw them in the wastebasket. And that’s when he came to an epiphany to do the same thing to his worries that he could do nothing about. He would crumple up his worries and rid himself of that strain.
He felt an immediate load lifted off himself because he purposefully decided to let go. He also began to notice the small subtle things around him that made people joyful in their daily routines. He saw how his wife would whistle every night while doing the dishes, even after 18 years of marriage and washing them every night. He asked how she could be so carefree about this, and understood that she didn’t try to wash yesterday’s dishes, or the dishes tomorrow, she only washed the day’s dishes in front of her. After he came to the epiphanies of crumpling up his worries and only handling the days load, he no longer had insomnia or stomach pains.
So, how is your life like that minister? How much stress are you putting on yourself purposefully? Are you trying to wash all your dishes at one time, or are you focusing on day at a time? The beautiful thing about Dale Carnegie’s book is in an earlier chapter he talks about living in day-tight compartments. The deliberate practice of only living from when you wake up till you go to sleep. We try to over control things and we stress ourselves out and sometimes, if not most times, that stress seeps out into our lives in one way or another. Whether it be a health issue, a mental issue, taking it out on our loved ones, or just the constant tension of feeling trapped.
How can you lighten your stress load on yourself? Sometimes it might be taking things off your plate that are overwhelming you, or sometimes it takes having a different mindset about your problems. For me, I know I get stressed when I’m overthinking things. I’m trying to find all the things that could go wrong or have gone wrong before…and that’s all I’m focusing on…instead of thinking about it, planning, and then moving forward with that plan. It’s easy to get caught in our mind overthinking things without action, and it’s easy to get caught in the physical aspects of trying to do too much. So take a look at both sides of your life, the mental and the physical, and ask yourself if you are trying to do too much…or if you are focusing in a manner that’s keeping you stuck.
Life really isn’t as complicated as we make it. We fear that a mistake will be the end of the world, so we try to get it all done in one fell swoop, instead of understanding it’s a process of doing what we can one day at a time. Making mistakes one at a time. learning from them and growing from them…instead of fearing them and trying to avoid them. So again…how can you live in day tight compartments more often, how can you wash only your dishes for the day…and how can you crumple up your worries you can’t do anything about and throw them away from your life?
Toda’s Personal Commitment:What are your dishes? What are the worries you haven’t crumpled up that are crippling you? Let’s make this commitment easy today, so… for the next week write down what you want to handle in the day. And then at the end of the night, write down your worries that are no longer serving you onto a small piece of notepaper, and then crumple it up and throw it in the wastebasket before you go to bed.
I Can Handle Any Problem One Day At A Time
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#355 December 21 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Both Of Us Can Be Right
I got in a discussion with a friend about control, and we both decided to agree to disagree. She said that we weren’t in control of anything in our lives, and I disagreed with her. I get her point when looking at the grander cosmic scale of things, that maybe we are merely animals essentially controlled by our emotions, with a slightly higher awareness of things…or maybe even that fate plays a part in our design. She brought up the point that if a meteor was to hit the earth that everyone would be afraid and scared and not in control as we would be victims of our emotions.
And while I understand her opinion, I still don’t agree. I brought up the point that people experience different emotions and not everyone would be scared, and she disagreed with me. Even heroes feel fear she said…which I agree with. But they have conditioned themselves to not let their emotions dictate their choices. If you look at firefighters, military personnel, or police officers for example…they are less likely to freeze up like the average person would because they’ve gone through drill after drill to prepare them for chaotic situations. My argument wasn’t that they don’t feel fear, but that not everyone feels or experiences the exact same emotion for a similar situation. People don’t process events the same way. So maybe if we were to take it from another angle away from heroes…what about someone who was wanting the world to end…so they could end their pain? They would process that event as a blessing and be happy about it.
I do believe there’s more to it than just deciding how to process an event with our mind. I think we understand something happens, like a person dying, and we’re not immediately sad about it. It might feel that way, but what happens is our mind will process the event and then we decide what emotions to associate with that event. It’s a collaborative effort, and I’ve come to find that while I don’t have control over the things outside of me, I have control over how I experience those things within myself. And as I said there’s more to this equation such as listening to our intuition, being more connected to the spiritual realm, and all the other depths of life.
However, the point I’m trying to get across is what happened previous to our discussion. I was re-reading my favorite book Siddhartha by Herman Hesse, and the last reading point, I’d come to when I closed the book, was a quote that helped to bring peace to me during my discussion with my friend. In the beginning of the argument it was about proving my point, but halfway through I felt this pulling inside me saying, “what are you doing?” I recalled the quote in the book, and I immediately held my tongue as I let my friend finish what she was saying. The funny thing is, almost at that moment my friend brought her point to an end as she said let’s just agree to disagree. So maybe she felt the same energy as me of not wanting to argue this point anymore, or maybe she didn’t want to hurt a friendship over a philosophical way of looking at life.
And the quote I was thinking of said this:
“A true seeker, one who truly wished to find, could accept no doctrine. But the man who has found what he sought, such a man could approve of every doctrine, each and every one, every path, every goal; nothing separated him any longer from all those thousands of others who lived in the eternal, who breathed the Divine.”
~ Hermann Hesse, Siddhartha
And so during the argument, this quote reminded me that I didn’t have to be right. I didn’t have to prove my point, or disprove hers…we both could be right. I’ve been in eternal searching looking to go deeper in things, and by doing so I could never accept any truths, as I was always in the eternal seeking mode. I would always be trying to prove my point to others, and why they should think a certain way. Because if I can get others to think this way, then maybe there’s something to my thoughts…and maybe I wasn’t wrong in pursuing them. But what does it matter, whether they believe my way or not…if they are living in accordance with their truth and are happy and fulfilled?
I know sometimes I want people to live their best life and to know they have the power to be who they want to be…that they’re in control of themselves in the situation. But is that really about helping them, or is it more about trying to prove I’m right? Is it more about me, than it is about them? I’ve come to know over my life that there are many truths to one path.
I think I’m a seeker because I enjoy bettering myself, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but sometimes I think I seek just for the sake of seeking. If you are continually looking, how can you ever stop to enjoy what you find?
And that’s a deep thought right there because when you’re in eternal searching, how will you know that you’ve really found what you sought? How will you know when you’ve come to the best answer you could’ve? When should you stop digging? I don’t have an answer for you, but it’s my hope that I can find love and peace in everyone’s path. That I don’t judge them for thinking differently…but that I wish them well in their journey.
Maybe for me, I want to help so many people because I see myself in them. And if I can help them, if I can seek for them, then maybe I can be the answer not only for them…but for myself. I’ve come to many truths that have brought me peace…but the reason I kept seeking, were those truths were too easy. I mean the meaning of life should be a hard task, you should be seeking your whole life…but, what if we already have the answer? I believe we do…and my truth doesn’t have to be your truth. In fact, we could have two totally different ideas and still be right. Both of us can be right. And like the quote in Siddhartha, when you’ve found what you’ve sought, everyone else can be right too. It’s not about proving to them why they’re wrong…it’s about living your truth. And for those who want to know your truth, you can share it with them by living your life and being the example first…and then answer their questions when they’re ready to ask you.
Today’s Personal Commitment: What are you seeking, and why are you seeking it? Will you ever know when you find it? I’ve spent a life time in paralysis of analysis…where I would find an answer but it would never be what I thought it should of been so I’d keep looking, or I found the answer I wanted but it felt too easy or off in some sort of way and I would then continually search because maybe my answer wasn’t good enough. And there’s nothing wrong with finding a better answer, but sometimes the answer doesn’t need to be searched for but aligned with as we stop seeking eternally and accept an answer for the moment.
What’s your paralysis of analysis, what are you continually seeking that’s keeping you from moving forward in a healthy manner? And when you find that answer, ask yourself why you are doing it? Sometimes we are doing eternally seeking for fear of leaving a belief behind that we have had for a long time, sometimes it’s for fear of having to do something different that feels uncomfortable, sometimes it’s for fear of failing, and sometimes it’s just because it’s all we’ve known and so why change when nothing’s supposedly broken.
And I’m not saying you and I are broken, but maybe we can pause from time to time from our seeking and ask is there a better way. Sometimes we can find joy in doing what we found and relish in it in the moment. Because if we are always seeking, does that mean we are never satisfied in the moment? So today, how can you find peace in not having to prove someone else wrong, but to find fulfillment in your truth?
Both Of Us Can Be Right
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#354 December 20 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Leave Self Sabotage Behind
Punisher Netflix season 1, episode 1 - 21:00… “3AM”
Curt: So what about you Frank, what is it going to take to make you happy?
Frank: Come on. Happy? Happy is a kick in the balls waiting to happen.
Curt: So you kick yourself in the balls first…that’s crazy Lieutenant.
Self-sabotage is really only our fears speaking out that we might fail, that something might not be what we thought it could be, or that maybe we aren’t worthy to have what we wish for. We dream big as children, and as we grow up day by day, year by year…one thing after another doesn’t work out as we had hoped…and so instead of seeing it as a lesson that we can’t do everything at once…we see it as a lesson that what we wish for either won’t happen or will let us down.
And maybe one reason that is, is because of Hollywood culture that’s thrust in our faces. The happily ever after stories we are continually told, is that everything will work itself out just because that’s how the world works. Yet, that’s only partly true…everything will work itself out, but we have to put effort into meeting the world where it is. And that’s hard because we choose one side or the other and never materialize either side fully. We say we are realists and don’t believe in fairy tales or dreams…we only believe in things we can touch. Or we stay in the fairy tale, being lost in the dreams of our minds because it’s softer than the hard cold world. But we don’t have to be in an only this or only that mentality. We can have portions of both and I think that’s more “real” than one story or the other.
In all the things I’ve achieved in my life, I didn’t reach them as fully as I could have because I found it easier to self-sabotage myself…than to believe more in my achieving it fully. It was easier to say I wasn’t good enough, I wasn’t deserving enough…or I wasn’t patient enough. I put in the time…but it was taking too long, and so I came back to the real world away from my dreams saying that it wasn’t worth it dreaming towards something that may never happen. And I think when we work towards goals we underestimate a lot of things that dissuade us from pursuing them further or ever again.
We underestimate the amount of time it could really take, we underestimate the obstacles that could be in our way, we overestimate the amount of joy it would bring us thinking it will be our answer to save ourselves, and we underestimate our power…as we get burned out from being let down over and over again in the pursuit of our goals.
And the reasons I believe we will continually be let down is because we think the goal will save us. We’re always looking to the future saying when this happens…then it will be different. This one thing will take me from the chaos I’m in, and be my ultimate answer…my happily ever after. So we lie to ourselves by saying, “once we get married we’ll stop fighting, once we have kids we will get it together, once I get this job I will make the money I need and handle my money better, once I have this education people will respect me more, once I lose this weight people will desire me more…” or any other desire we can think about…and how it could be our saving grace.
A personal training client of mine told me a story about one of his friends who was over 300 pounds. He wasn’t very happy with his life and about the way he looked. This overweight gentleman had been heavy his whole life, and had never had a girlfriend before. He made a commitment to lose the weight, so he could get a girlfriend. And he lost the weight, but he never went out with anyone…and ultimately he committed suicide. He had the idea that if he had lost the weight then he would be more desirable and it would all come together for him in getting a date.
Now I don’t know exactly what happened, there are a lot of blank spaces in that story…but my guess is that he never went out and tried to talk with someone, he never tried to ask anyone to coffee as friends, or he never saw the people who were interested in him as he was too afraid to move forward. You see the weight was an excuse for him to not talk with women. It was the excuse he had lived with for most of his life, that he could have someone if only he wasn’t so heavy…and when he lost that weight he couldn’t use that excuse anymore. And his belief system was on overload, as his truth was being put to the test as he had attributed love as being only physical. He believed that losing weight would bring all the pieces together and his expectations of women desiring him would happen because he lost the weight…and when that didn’t happen, it only more brought more disappointment. It shattered the dream that all he had to do was lose weight and it would all come together.
And like the gentleman above, we all do this in some sort of manner or another. We believe that a goal, a milestone, or one answer to a problem will be our saving grace. But the “thing” was never the saving grace, it was just one stepping stone in a long pathway of our lives. We look far off in the distance saying once I get there, then I will have made it…instead of understanding you’ve already made it…you just on a journey of experiencing life more fully and learning more along the way. That “one thing” wasn’t your answer…it was just another checkpoint on your map, it was just another footstep on your journey, and it was one dream among many others in your mind to work towards.
So I say dream…and keep dreaming. Tell your story of happily ever after…but find a way to fuse it with the reality of the now. Find a way to live in both places simultaneously to know that the goal isn’t the answer, and that the goal isn’t too far too in the distant to reach either…but just another step to work towards. Find ways to have your hands touch this world and not be turned cold by it…have your dreams transform the world as you continue to hope while being grounded in present the moment. They say a goal is just a wish with a deadline…but I think when we do it right it’s also a way to keep our eyes focused on the future while keeping our mind mindful of the steps we are taking in the moment. Your dreams are achievable…especially when you step out of your way. The only obstacle in your way is yourself…let’s step out of our way today.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Awaken yourself today what your tendencies and habits to self-sabotage yourself are. Look at some of the things you wanted and failed at, look at the things you had and you lost, and look at some of the things that seemed too far out of reach…and then ask, how you kept yourself from reaching or keeping those things in your life? I know for me when I get frustrated or overwhelmed I go back to old habits that keep me depressed and down.
When relationships didn’t work out or I was frustrated being alone, I would subconsciously find people who weren’t good for me…I think it was my way of saying I was meant to be alone and I would go to any depths to prove it to myself to have more chaos in my life. When I get down and depressed or think something will never happen, I get overwhelmed and literally throw my hands up in the air as a giving up sign. I find that I sleep more to calm the voices of failure in my mind. It’s kind of like a place of calm for a bit, but it never really solves the problem…it just sweeps it under the rug for a little bit. I would be better to meditate or journal…so I would be actively working thru the problem instead of fleeing it through my excessive napping at times.
Those are only a few examples of my self-sabotaging…what are yours, and how can you do something more proactive to change your direction? Maybe you might be like me, where other people believed more in myself than I did. I had coaches and teachers who saw my potential and wanted to bring it out… but I always came to a wall. Not because they weren’t good mentors, they were great in fact…but they could only take me so far until I could stop sabotaging myself and begin believing more in the power of myself. So how will you stop sabotaging yourself, and begin believing more in yourself today?
I Leave Self Sabotage Behind
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#353 December 19 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Know When To Stop
I took a break from a personal Facebook page for a few years, and while most would think that would be the end of my life as we know it…it actually was a peaceful time. No constant berating of political posts, no constant complaining of how bad their lives are when their fries weren’t put in their to-go order bag at the drive through, and no competition contests on who’s smarter…better…or whatever people feel they need to do to prove their worth to the world.
But this past year I created a new personal account, so I could begin living again (sarcasm implied there incase you missed it)…because I almost didn’t know what to do with myself without any social media…but in all seriousness I wanted to be able to participate in the great things on social media like seeing new family pictures, where people have moved to, and all the great things going on in their lives. And that definitely trumps all the negativity I see people swimming in, daily on their posts.
I usually refrain from talking about sports, politics, or math as those are touchy subjects for most. One of my friends posted a math riddle with cute snowflakes, candy canes, and wine glasses…and I was fooled into doing more math than I wanted to…with such cute symbols it had to be fun right???
I answered the math riddle to the best of my ability…but those cute snow flakes and candy canes had me mesmerized to keep looking. As with any riddle, there will be small changes that you may not notice to make the problem a brain teaser…and looking a little closer I saw one of the inconsistencies and changed my answer. To make a long story short I think I changed my answer like 4 or 5 times.
Now math wasn’t my strong point in school, in fact I thought I was stupid because I didn’t understand math very well. My father was an engineer and when he would try to tutor me, he would say “why don’t you get this?” And I know he wasn’t saying it meanly, math was easy for him, and he couldn’t understand why I wasn’t good at. And so I told myself I was stupid at math and made sure to not do my homework or think about math any more than I had to. And thus I got the grades that would prove to myself that I wasn’t any good at it. I created a self-fullfiling prophecy for math.
Anyways back to the math riddle. In this problem there’s addition and multiplication, but in this problem there were no brackets or parenthesis saying which order should be done first…and so the riddle tricks you in two ways…first you don’t think any parenthesis are needed and just do the math problem from left to right…or if you had remembered the order of operations that we learned in elementary school that exponents are done first, then multiplication, then division, then addition, and then subtraction…which teachers had created an acronym to help students remember the order of operations easier by shortening it to the word PEMDAS…which I never learned that acronym actually.
And the interesting thing about doing a little research, is some people will claim that PEMDAS isn’t always correct. And in a video I was watching on YouTube (which I will include on the post on my site), the narrator said that while the order of operations isn’t technically wrong, it’s morally wrong because it turns humans into robots. But I’m digressing because it’s not about whether I was right or wrong it was about a little Facebook fisticuff argument I got into…and whether I should have kept my mouth closed or engaged the way I did.
I had posted my last answer on my friend’s post, and someone had said something right before me which seemed condescending to everyone on the post, as he said “the answer is 15 for those of you struggling.” I had a different answer because I had forgotten about parenthesis since they weren’t in the riddle, and answered it as if it was left to right. I had found the small differences they tricked you with by changing addition to a multiplication sign, and changing the icons just a little bit to trick you if you didn’t notice the small inconsistencies.
So, I went about my business, and that same person made sure to then comment on my post saying the answer is 15. And my blood was boiling. I hate when people try to correct me instead of just saying their answer and being ok with their answer. It’s not that I don’t want people to educate me, but the way this guy’s post above mine sounded and then feeling to comment on my post…just felt like him boasting about how smart he was.
I came to a crossroads as I wanted to say something rude to him, and so I had a conversation in my mind debating whether to say something or not…my brain was screaming at me…”Chris leave it alone. There’s nothing good that will come from this. It will just create more issues than you really want to deal with.” And the devil on my shoulder said… “you know what ‘eff’ it, do it anyways. Say what you want to.” And so I wrote something that got my point across, but wasn’t snarky as I said, Joe maybe we are different, but I like to figure things out on my own, even if I’m wrong.” (The person's name was changed to protect the guilty).
And like any good social media fight…that person responded almost immediately as if waiting to goad anyone willing to say anything against him that wasn’t praising him for answering the math riddle the way that he did.
And so he responded… “you’re right, we are different. I learned how to do that math in the 1st grade.” And now I knew he was lying…who learned order of operations in 1st grade??? Except maybe Doogie Howser, of course. So the fight was on, and again the dilemma came up…should I let it be or should I engage?
Now I took it further than I needed to…but the whole time I tried to remember to be kind and calm. I think sometimes we enjoy getting into arguments to win, and maybe that is what I was trying to do, but I think my way of winning wasn’t trying to prove who was right, but just in moral decency and kindness to another human.
So my next response was…”Joe I can tell math is one of your strengths. It’s not one of mine. That’s awesome you are good at math. One of my strengths is loving people, not trying to prove how much smarter I am than them.” And so we went back and forth a little bit as he called me a special snowflake… I thanked him for showing me how real level of education. I remember in elementary school they said the best way to beat a bully is to not play his game, so “I said I’m sending good energy his way no matter how he felt about me.”
He replied back he couldn’t wait to laugh at me when the real world slapped me in the face. And to which I replied…keep watching then…waiting to laugh.
Anyways, the humor behind this story is when is it appropriate to stop…if to start at all. I have to remember that sometimes even when I’m trying to be kind… I still may be trying to correct them and get my way. And even if it’s with kind intentions, that still is a sort of manipulation in its own way. I am not saying it’s bad…but I am also not letting the person be themselves. I guess I hope that I can help people to see their anger and unkindness and change their ways. Who knows, maybe it might change them in small subtle ways…not immediately but down the road but maybe when they step away from autopilot of how they engage people.
So the question I want to ask all of us…is why are we pursuing a certain outcome? What if we were to pause for a moment instead of getting into autopilot fight or flight mode and ask ourselves, “what do I really want to accomplish here?” We can’t control others and their motives, but we can take a look at ours and instead of going to battle, ask “what’s more important?” There’s the saying, “you can be right, or you can be happy.” And what I take it to mean, is that sometimes we spend so much time fighting to prove how right we are, and how wrong others are…that in the end it’s not about a truth but it’s really just our ego speaking, “saying pay attention to me…look at how important I am.”
I’m not angry at the person who I had a disagreement with. I understand his dilemma. And while I may be reaching here and making assumptions, I think there are some hard things going on in his life, and it’s easier to carry that with us wherever we go—than to find the light in our darkness. Whether it be his work environment, his home life, or maybe the personal struggles he’s dealing with…its easy to take allow negativity to cling to us as we spread it without knowledge…because we have let that negativity consume us.
So, let’s be wiser today. Even if it’s keeping our mouths closed. Sometimes it may be living in accordance with an old saying… “It’s better to keep one’s mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.”
Today’s Personal Commitment:What’s the only the tool that gets sharpened with more use?
Your tongue
Are there times you should have held your tongue? Are there times when you put your foot in your mouth and wish you had taken time to think before speaking? I know when I was younger, my mouth moved faster than my brain. At least it seemed like it, and I would use the phrase it’s better to ask for forgiveness than permission as an excuse for me not thinking.
There are good merits on both sides of the story, sometimes we need to say things without thinking about them so it gets out and can be discussed, and sometimes we need to hold our tongues to allow less chaos to enter an interaction.
Today, before you speak…take a moment to take a deep breath…and then respond. See if you can do this EVERY time you are about to speak. That will take a lot of mindfulness, but I think it can a valuable lesson for you in processing things differently. Who knows you might find you’ll have to apologize less and you might come to some better conclusions. Only one way to find out. So see if you can do it one day out of the week, each week, for the next month and see what revelations you come to. Who knows maybe you won’t have to get into Facebook arguments to get your kicks out of life next time.
I Know When To Stop
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#352 December 18 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Take Full Responsibility For My Life
“I don’t want excuses. I know what you’re up against. We’re all of us up against something. So you better make up your mind, because until you have the balls to look me straight in the eye and tell me this is all you deserve, I am not letting you fail. Even if that means coming to your house every night until you finish the work. I see who you are. Do you understand me? I can see you. And you are not failing.”
– Erin Gruwell, from the movie Freedom Writers
This quote from the movie Freedom Writers is based upon a true story of a teacher who’s given the task of teaching at-risk students…or what some have termed as the untouchables. I really like this quote, and it’s a wonderful thing to have someone believe in us that much…but I want to pose the question of: how do we believe that much in ourselves first?
I was thinking about an acronym to use for the word excuse and I came up with this:
EXCUSE—
Enjoys
eXtinguishing
Chances
Under
Silly
Elaborations
Most of us have heard the saying, “If you want it bad enough, you’ll find a reason…if you don’t…you’ll find an excuse.” But yet it’s easy to forget that reasoning when we’re in the moment. It’s easier to place the blame or direction elsewhere instead of taking responsibility for what has happened. It doesn’t mean that we necessarily have to take all of the blame, it just might mean that maybe we need more time, we need to find a better way to work on something, or maybe that we look deeper and ask ourselves if we really gave a valiant effort in making whatever we set out to do…a reality.
I spent some time trying to find words to match the letters, so the acronym could be complete crap, but I think there’s a lot of truth in those words because when we use excuses we are essentially finding joy in using excuses. We love extinguishing our future chances by conditioning ourselves to be comfortable in excuses rather than taking the uncomfortable hit of responsibility when things go wrong. We find silly and unnecessary ways to elaborate why it’s ok to stay in our failures…rather than create results. And so excuses feel natural, the more we use them.
I read an article by a man named Jim Collins who wrote the books Good to Great and Built To Last. And in his books he talked about how major companies become so successful. And some of the points I remember him making, I wanted to bring up in this specific podcast on excuses:
- The egg principle. Jim talked about the world will see an egg, and it looks uninteresting. It looks like every other egg out there unremarkable and ordinary. Until the egg hatches and a little chick pops out and people are amazed. So while people see this miraculous thing happen, and it seems instantaneous looking at it from the outside…the chick had a different point of view. It had been struggling and working to break itself out of its mold. It wasn’t magic or instantaneous, as the baby chicken kept growing and pecking at its problem to create a better solution to its tight situation.
- If you looked at two companies who went through the same traumatic event…people would respect them differently by how the company responded to the tragedy. So take for example when the economy was in a huge recession, the first company would say that their issues were because of the recession, but don’t worry things will pick up eventually. Where the second company wouldn’t make any excuses. They would talk about where they went wrong and how they could have performed better even in a down economy, and while it’s unfortunate what happened…they are going to learn from these lessons to become better.
Now after hearing that, what company sits better with you? I could be going out on a limb making an assumption for you, but I would guess you’d have more respect for company two. They didn’t make excuses of external factors. They said we could have done better, we could have planned better, and while it’s unfortunate…we will rise up from learn from this to become better.
Excuses weaken you. They are small lies we tell ourselves to take us off the hook. And the more we allow them to seep in our lives, then the more natural they become to us. Now it doesn’t mean we have to take responsibility for everyone…but it does mean we may need to begin operating differently in how we go about our lives. I know I want to be valued on my word, I know I want to be respected when I make a mistake instead of deflecting it somewhere else, and I know I want to grow from my mistakes instead of removing myself from responsibility.
I talk a lot about making mistakes and being ok with them, so today let’s be willing to rid ourselves of the excuses by holding ourselves to a higher standard. Mistakes are inevitable, but how we decide to handle them will make all the difference in our lives.
So how do you want to live your life?
Do you want to be putting the control somewhere else placing the blame somewhere else, or do you want to be in control of your life taking responsibility for the mistakes and the wins…learning from them to become a better you?
In every moment you have a choice….you can hold yourself to a higher standard…or you can shirk responsibility and become weaker in the process because of it. I hope that we all choose a little more wisely in how we handle our mistakes from now on
Today’s Personal Commitment:When something goes wrong, where is your natural tendency to put blame? None of us are perfect, and even if we take a good amount of responsibility for our mistakes there may be a few spots that we’ve fallen short on. So get out a piece of paper, and write down some of the big mistakes you’ve made over your life time. Also look at some of the unfortunate situations you’ve gone through and write them down. And see how you handled those areas of your life. Why did they happen first of all, and what was the story you told after they happened?
Did you try to excuse yourself from the problem, did you try to place blame elsewhere, was there something better you could have done and learned from them? If we don’t look at how we think when mistakes happen, what our most automatic response is and did we follow through with that thought process…then we will be doomed to allow our emotions to continually control us…instead of allowing our mind to process how we want to feel, and then following through in a manner that is more in alignment with how we want to be.
I Take Full Responsibility For My Life
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #351 December 17 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Want Your Success In My Thoughts And Prayers
I was on social media and a friend of mine put up a post that caught my attention. It’s like that game mad libs where a sentence is written out with a few blank spaces in it. And in this post when you type out the words it suggests and come to the blank space, you are supposed to click on the predicted word that your phone thinks you’ll say next and fill that into the blank space in your response to the post.
So my friend’s post said this: “I want your ______ in my ________!” I thought that this combination of words and spaces would be a train wreck like those questions you hear on family feud and the host tells the contestant to get their mind out of the gutter.
And when filled in the blank spaces with my phone’s predicted words, I was pleasantly surprised at how nice mine came out that I decided to make it my affirmation today. My response came out saying “I want your success in my thoughts and prayers.” I’ll get more into the details of this thought, but before I do…I wanted to share the other responses as I thought they were pretty funny.
-“I want your mom in my class.”
-“I want your phone in my pocket.”
-“I want your money in my wallet.”
-“I want your family in my life.”
-“I want your money in my car.”
-“I want your child in my car.” And the person commented after that…great now I’m on a watch list.
-“I want your ass to get in my backyard.”
-And the last one was, “I want your love in my life.”
So all in all, what seemed like a train wreck waiting to happen was a very happy and fun experience I think.
But back to the affirmation now. I love to tell people “I’m sending great energy your way.” I love to let people know they’re in my thoughts and prayers because I think we need to know people are thinking about us…and I think there’s great power in where we purposefully put our thoughts.
I remember volunteering at a soup kitchen with some friends for homeless people. And what was neat about this volunteering experience, was people didn’t wait in line. They would grab a seat, and the volunteers would serve the participants their food and drink at their table. It was the chance for them to be treated as if they were in a restaurant setting. And it was so neat because you got to really give of yourself and serve someone literally and metaphorically. And while I served people their food or drink, I loved asking them how they were or if there was anything I could do for them. I met some very nice people, and it was so much fun giving of myself, and truly serving people who have a more difficult life than me.
I was bringing food to a lady sitting against the wall by herself, and I’m not meaning any disrespect when I talk about her, but there was something going on with her mentally. I know a portion of homeless people have mental disorders. And when I brought this lady her food I asked her how she was doing. She said she wasn’t doing well and was feeling sick… So I responded back. “I’m sorry I’ll keep you in my thoughts and prayers and be sending healing energy your way.”
She looked up at me confused and said, “what?”
So I repeated my statement… “I’ll be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers and be sending healing energy your way.”
And she said, “that’s of the devil.”
I thought for a moment, and I held my tongue as I wasn’t going to get in an argument or discussion with someone I was serving…and I said have a great day ma’am and walked away.
As I left that situation keeping my mouth closed, I was thinking how sometimes what we say is misconstrued by other people’s beliefs or words they use. While I use different words than others sometimes, I still believe we are saying very similar things when you look deeper at our meanings. I believe our words and thoughts are energies…and thus when we pray…It’s an energy we send out to people.
There’s the saying that the person who gets the most from prayers is the one saying it. And while I believe that the person praying gets something from it, I still believe energies are sent and shared with others if they are open and willing to receiving them. Now that may sound like a crazy statement saying that people wouldn’t want good energy to come into their lives… but I think we block a lot of the good things coming into our lives by not being open to having things done another way. We have our mind set on how things work or how they should work, and thus we close ourselves off by continuing to live in our smaller limiting beliefs. And like that lady I was serving, her image of God is a smaller one than mine. She believes that we don’t have the capacity or energy to share God’s power with each other. And I’m not saying she’s wrong, or I’m right…our words probably mean the exact same thing…I just think she’s cutting off other people and possibilities from her life by limiting her vocabulary and mindset.
When we become purposeful with our thoughts, words, energies we project into the world, we then share a great part of ourselves with the world. But let’s say I’m wrong about prayers reaching others, when we say them with intent… they’ll reach us. They make us mindful, aware, and help us heal ourselves…so if our prayers only helped ourselves…what if we all prayed more…would we all help ourselves a little more? The world would become a better place not because prayer changed it, but our thoughts changed who we were…and that changed the world.
But I’ve come to know the real truth, that the energy I send out…people receive it, if they are open to it. I’ve come to know that the energy I send out…helps people. And I’ve come to know when I tell people that I’m sending energy their way…they are grateful and smile knowing I had them in my thoughts and prayers. So I want you to know that I’m sending great energy your way, as it’s my hope that your success is not only in my thoughts and prayers…but that my energy is transcended to you. And that you make yourself open to receiving that energy, to create the successes you desire.
So let us pray to each other, let us pray for each other, and let us be changed by the energy we decide to share with the world. As I’ve come to find that every time I purposefully prayed or said to someone I’m sending you great energy…if I took a moment to really put attention and intention to it…it changed me…and I hope it changed them too. Let us send great energy to each other with our words, and thoughts…and let us send great energies with our actions as we live in love…in everything we do.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Whether you pray or just want to think about someone…let’s not get into the semantics of the word. It’s really about sending energy to someone. So take an extra moment to visualize the person you want to send good energy to, take an extra moment to really be intentionally about what you’re thinking and saying for them, and take an extra moment to project your energy to them. Now maybe it sounds crazy, and maybe there’s nothing to my method in giving out more energy, but for me I believe it makes us more aware and more intentional within our lives. And when we do that we are sharing a better energy with the world. So let’s be different today in how we share our energies with the world…let’s be more considerate and intentional about how we do it. Let’s go deeper.
I Want Your Success In My Thoughts And Prayers
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#350 December 16 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Face My Fears In Order To Know The Beauty Behind Them
Disclaimer: I am not a doctor, psychiatrist, or claiming to have the answers that will heal you. I’m only bringing up possibilities of thinking differently in hopes that you heal yourself.
I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, called Snap Judgement. They usually have someone telling their story…and all of them are well produced and interesting. I was listening to an episode called “Secret Identity.” And in this episode a girl was adopted and named Sarah by a loving family. Sarah later in her life decided she wanted to find her biological parents. She was living in the state of West Virginia and a private investigator had found where her father lived. So she sent a letter to him and was contacted by her uncle first. Her biological family lived in Africa. One interesting part of the story was her father was a chief of a tribe in Sierra Leone which meant that she was a princess. And when she finally made the trek to Africa, they welcomed her with elaborate dancing as tribe members sang, “we are preparing for Sarah.” After the ceremony, her uncle got up and said a few words that Sarah had come home and she can be chief someday if she chose to.
Now this whole story sounds like a fairy tale. That you were given up for adoption…but you were adopted by a loving family. And your biological father was a head chief of a huge village…which meant you were royalty and a princess to over 50,000 people. However, the best part about the story is not that she was a princess because of her birth father, but it was how her and her father communicated when they first spoke on the phone.
When Sarah’s father called her he said, “Please forgive me, I didn’t know how to find you after you had been put up for adoption. Your name had changed, everything had changed.”
And Sarah said, “no, no, no, no…wait a second, please forgive me because I’ve been making you wrong my entire life just to protect myself. And I’m not going to do that anymore.”
If you want to know the rest of the story go check out the podcast Snap Judgement and the title of the story is “Secret Identity.” I wanted to relay that by Sarah being willing to look past her fears she was able to find something beautiful on the other side. Now not every problem will work out as perfectly as this one did…but if you are willing to look beyond your fears, even if it doesn’t work out like you planned…something great is happening.
We as people essentially make two choices in life. I know I’m simplifying it a bit, but we either go towards what we want or we avoid the things that bring us pain. And when you make it a habit to go towards the things that scare you, the things that are tough…then you are creating a new paradigm in your life. You’re not allowing the things that are hard to stop you. Because if you really think about it, all the things that really scare us, are because they are important. If it wasn’t a big deal to us, we wouldn’t care and it wouldn’t create anxiety for us.
And anxiety really is just a choice. I know people will say I have a condition or a disorder that anxiety makes me paralyzed… and while I will agree that that person will become paralyzed…it’s still their choice to become paralyzed. It’s their choice to allow anxiety to take over. And it’s their choice to keep steering away from the things they fear to stay in the places that feel comfortable for them. And this is not a judgement because I’ve been in those places before as well. We have conditioned ourselves how to feel or think about things that make us uncomfortable. If you look at two people who had the same traumatic event happen to them as children, one person could associate pain and suffering from that and have fear that it could happen again. Where the other person could have had issues dealing with it but decided to see it as something unfortunate that happened to them, and now they know the signs to look for and won’t allow the feelings to keep continually paralyzing them…they learn to associate a different emotion.
I want you to hear me clearly on this…I am NOT putting a judgement on any person in this situation. Your life is your life, but I do want to bring up the possibility that what you’ve told yourself for far too long may not necessarily be true. So for someone who claims they have anxiety and they can’t do anything about it…they make that their truth. And someone who says I know I don’t like being here, but I will decide to not let my anxiety control me…will make that their truth.
We live in a society where we want the quick fix, we want the drug or the procedure to solve the problem for us…and while it may bring relief…it usually is only temporary as you need to keep taking the pills or whatever else you are using to try and heal you. And so you condition yourself, that you need the pill instead of seeing the pill as temporary. You condition yourself to see something else as the answer instead of seeing yourself as being the permanent solution to change yourself. Now I could be wrong, and I’m ok with that because it’s not about me proving a truth to you…it’s about opening ourselves up to see others possibilities.
Now I’m getting a little off point here going into anxiety and the pharmaceutical industry. I think everything can have a benefit, but we as a society have become far too dependent on things thinking they will be our answer, when all along we needed to decide to be our own answer. We might have needed the help at first, but we never saw the end result of us being the change.
So maybe this is what needs to be asked for you and for myself…what are the crutches we’ve been holding onto that have kept us from moving forward? What are the stories that we’ve told why we can’t be something, do something, or have something?
I’ve spent years creating an inner voice that told me about my powerlessness…instead of creating a voice talking about my power. And I won’t get in depth about my bouts with depression and suicidal thoughts when I was younger, but things didn’t change until I became committed to my healing. Things didn’t change until I told myself there was no other way than being focused 100% on finding a way. And I told myself I would go the distance to find my solution and die trying if that was necessary, because I was already dying inside. So, what did I have to lose?
And the reason I was truly willing to change from a new way, was because the pain of staying the same was far greater than the pain of moving forward into my fears. And my life isn’t perfect, but who I am… has changed drastically as I’ve healed myself in a way I could’ve never imagined because I was willing to face my fears, to analyze the stories that were keeping me trapped and change them…and to be 100% committed to my healing…because in the end I knew what happiness felt like and I knew I had been there before.
I was willing to do anything the right way to create that again…and I believe when you want something bad enough, when you are willing to do the hard work—then the way, will always happen. I am a firm believer in the saying, “when the student is ready, then the teacher will appear.” So whatever you’re struggling with, I want to ask if you are truly willing to be 100% committed to making it yours? Because nothing will ever change if nothing ever changes…and you must be that change…and I believe you must be willing to die of the old self and be willing to do whatever it takes to make it a reality. But that’s hard, and it would mean you would have to change, and changing is scary…but maybe a better question to ask yourself is…is the change scarier than staying where I am?
Today’s Personal Commitment:Sometimes milestones or goals in our life aren’t reached by what we’ve allowed ourselves to get comfortable in. So what has kept you comfortable from moving forward? What excuse have you used to keep you in the same place? What story have you been telling that’s kept you fearful and immobile?
I think people give up because they have the illusion that change should happen quickly. We see someone doing what we want to, and if it doesn’t happen fast enough for us…well it wasn’t meant to be then. Take for example I heard about how people were being successful in monetizing podcasts. I spent two years telling myself that if I didn’t make money from it then I shouldn’t do something. So last year I decided to put a podcast out regardless if I ever made a cent from it. I thought it would be nice if I made money from it, but my intention wasn’t in making money…it was about putting value out into the world.
I had spent the previous two years hem hawing around trying to make things perfect…that I never took action. I have like 15 recorded interviews I haven’t put out to the world. So last year I decided to stop letting my fear and the obstacles stop me as I changed my focus to bringing value into the world…not perfecting things or focusing solely on money. I started with something small and asked how I could be consistent with it. And so I decided to do a 5-10 minute daily podcast, to get me moving from where I previously was…being stuck.
So what is something that you can focus on for the next year to help you get moving and putting more of your value into the world? Not to make something from it…but because it’s a part of who you are. Maybe it might pay off in the end, but if we focus only on what something can get for us, sometimes we don’t do the things that could be really fulfilling for ourselves.
I Face My Fears In Order To Know The Beauty Behind Them
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#349 December 15 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m Meant To Change Someone’s Life Today
I was invited by my good friend Angi to attend her work Christmas party. Her company has been known to put on great parties, and so last weekend I went and ate some good food, and they even had a cool surprise guest do a concert for us.
The company had hired Chris Blue, the newest winner of the television show The Voice on NBC. Chris Blue is a fellow Knoxvillian like I am, so it was neat having a local celeb on stage for us. On one set, he combined the songs Change The World made famous by Eric Clapton, and Man in The Mirror that Michael Jackson originally sung. And after those songs Chris talked about how he believed that love could change the world…and so he had us do an exercise with him while he was up on stage.
He had us look to our neighbor and say with him, “I believe I was supposed to sit next to you for a reason, and you may not know me but I wanted you to know that I love you…and there’s nothing you can do about that.”
And when you do icebreakers like that, it can feel awkward to do something that makes us experience vulnerability. And I feel that we aren’t able to help people if we aren’t real with them, if we aren’t vulnerable with them. But to change someone’s life, we must first be willing to change ours. We must be willing to be vulnerable and go to the places that we avoid in our minds, the places that need to be addressed, not because we need more conflict but more because the things we avoid don’t disappear…they grow. When we confront those dark places, we don’t have to fear them because we will see that by encountering them face to face…they never had the power we thought they did. We’ll see that the only reason they had power over us…is because we gave them that power. And if we gave them that power, then that means we are the powerful ones…not our darkness.
I spent so much of my life trying to help people, so I could avoid my stuff. It probably could even be called one of my addictions because it was a way for me to avoid my struggles. It was a way for me to disengage from my life. And as I became more aware of myself over time, I saw that while I still was helping people, I wasn’t helping them to the capacity that I wanted to. There’s this silent lie I tell myself that if I can give someone good enough advice then maybe I can save them. And I think I wanted to save people because I was hoping it would be enough to save myself. And so in everyone else I see me…but I had to work on myself first so I could understand that the greatest help I could give people was being a better example. Helping people with words of encouragement or just being with them in their times of need are great, but being the best version of yourself first when helping them will be a more impactful presence in their life.
And when you become better, when you stop avoiding your darkness you’ve been hiding within…you can then begin healing it. There’s an age-old question I believe everyone asks multiple times in their life…what is the purpose of life…or maybe put more accurately…what is the purpose of my life? And everyone will have a different answer, and maybe even different answers in different times of your life… but the purpose of life, at least for me, is to experience life. It is to live in a moment and be comfortable within it. It is the challenge to love myself underneath my skin no matter my faults because they were lessons that brought me to this point. It’s the chance to experience the Divine not out in the cosmos but to know it is within me at every moment waiting for me to plug in and connect. It is the choice to experience the pains and joys of others…to be a part of their lives as much as mine. And so my purpose of life is to continually keep finding ways to connect and experience the moment…and I believe that is the pathway to heaven. It is the pathway to finding or becoming what we seek.
And within every riddle will be a simple solution, or question, we overlooked. And I think this quote brings it home for me every time I remember to say it… “I am not a human being having a spiritual experience; I am a spiritual being having a human experience.”
So today let’s have a human experience and be the answer for ourselves. Let us stop looking for our crutches in life, let us stop leaning so heavily on something else to save us, and let us begin remembering our power we’ve always had. Let us remember that to experience life we must be willing to show our deepest essence, to share our vulnerableness unafraid of what other people will think. As we stop covering up who we are and share our souls nakedly, unapologetically, to the world.
Let us come back to what we’ve always known but have forgotten…that our words of advice won’t be someone else’s answer, if we are not committed to healing ourselves first. For when we become better, we become the example, we become the miracle for people to see…that they can be a miracle too. So today, let’s change our lives by being vulnerable and loving ourselves unapologetically through our mistakes and all, and let’ change someone else’s life by being our best selves. For when we do that, we can truly love others then. And when we love others….there’s nothing they can do about that…and I think that’s a pretty amazing feeling to have.
Today’s Personal Commitment:How can you be a difference today? I like to challenge my personal training clients after their session is done. I say that our workout session isn’t over, “I want you to go out this week and see how you can be 1% better in every aspect of your life.”
So how can you be 1% better, so you can not only be the difference in your life…but the difference in the lives that you interact with daily? So each morning this week wake up and take three purposeful deep breaths and say to yourself, “I will be 1% better in all I do, so I can change my corner of the world today 1% at a time every day.”
I’m Meant To Change Someone’s Life Today
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#348 December 14 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Every Day Is Good
I like the saying, “every day may not be good, but there’s good in every day.” And the reason I believe we as human never reach our full potential, is because we don’t find the good in a day. We’re not silent enough to hear the beauty in the wind. We don’t lift our eyes up enough to see the beauty in a blue or cloudy sky. We don’t relish in a moment to taste life as we still hold bitterness of the past in our mouths. And we can’t touch a moment because we’re too busy looking at what we don’t have, instead of realizing what we do have. We look too far in the future, we want big things to happen to us in every moment, we want our miracles to be amazing…and if it’s anything short, then we’re not satisfied.
We have the tendency to live more in a dream out of reach rather than a moment. And it’s not that a dream is out of reach for being too far, but it’s that we purposefully make sure we‘re never able to get close enough to reach it. It’s subconscious programming that we’ve allowed to seep in from the lies we’ve believed from other’s lips…and then from lies we’ve told ourselves. As we say that a dream we want might be too hard to achieve, that it won’t be worth it, that our plans will eventually fall apart anyway, or that we aren’t deserving to have what more worthy people have achieved.
And when we say those things they become true…not because they are true…but our words are powerful and create realities. We learn that it’s safer to live in lies than to live in the hopes of who we can be. For any dream is possible when it’s reached for in each moment, but it’s easier to let the dream be as brief as the air slipping from our lips when speaking them. And so each dream is just another oasis and illusion off in the distance, rather than small actions taken within a day.
Every day is good because there’s always hope in a day when we move forward. There are always chances in a day when we stay awake to the realities in a moment. There is always truth in a day when we look to earn the small wins rather than trying to bag the occasional jackpot that may never come.
One of my life missions is to share awareness and joy by being in service to others. I want people to know they’re seen. And so I make sure to get to know my waiter or waitress’ name, I make sure to ask how the cashier is doing as I’m going through the line, and I work to chat with people and remember their names at the gym. Those small things may not seem like a lot, but there’s a bigger picture that I see. And that bigger picture, is me purposefully living within my dream by being present in my day. It’s about knowing that I cannot change the world if I don’t practice the small actions that I’ve chosen to make my compass within my day.
And maybe that’s why people are looking to the future as their escape. That dream in the future is what they think is the answer to take them away from their current hell. However, hell is not a place but a mindset of being trapped where we don’t want to be. And maybe this might sound petty of me, but I’ve met a lot of whiny people in my life…and I’m not blaming anyone as I might even be the biggest one of them from time to time.
Living in America, we have a pretty lush life. In Forbes Magazine, an article titled Astonishing Numbers: America's Poor Still Live Better Than Most Of The Rest Of Humanity, the author Tim Worstall examines a few studies done on the poor across the world and in one graph he says, “In fact, America’s bottom ventile is still richer than most of the world: That is, the typical person in the bottom 5 percent of the American income distribution is still richer than 68 percent of the world’s inhabitants.” Now I’m not making light of anyone’s issues…so I will only use my issues in this example…most if not all of my problems…are really non-issues. It’s me complaining about things that are hiccups rather than dead-ends.
The reason I’m doing this podcast is not because I have all the answers, but it’s more that I hope to keep reminding myself of the answers that need to be said every day. It’s the continual act of saying I still have much to learn, and that I’m willing to be humbled and challenged to remind myself of the beauty I‘ve been missing. And so I challenge you, to make an oath with me every day…to find the good in each day, to live in the moment so we can find the blessings in the moment, to pivot from our frustrations and complaints…not because they’re a burden…but because they keep us from something better. Again, it’s not that we can’t see the things we don’t like, but where you keep your focus upon is what you magnify.
Like in driver’s education…my teacher talked about how students would see a broke down car on the side of the road, and where their eyes were…they tended to drift that way as he would have to grab the wheel and course correct them. The devil is in the details…and the most subtle things can block us from our true path…but only if we forget that there’s good in every day. Complaining won’t answer our problems…they will only bring us down into them.
When I ask people how their day is, a common response I get is, “I can’t complain…” And so I will say in return… “it’s not that we can’t complain…it’s that we won’t complain.” For in my heart I know the truth…that there’s something better in looking at the good in my day, rather than continually wallowing in the small problems of the day. Or even taking a neutral stance and saying you can’t complain…which means that you really aren’t seeing the good then either. And if you think about it, what is a problem… really??? It’s a matter of perspective…because one person can see a problem, where another can see it as a means to solving a problem. They see it as a jumping point in making them better. So which person will you be? Will you be the one waiting for the far off unreachable dream to save you, or will you be the one living within your dream by finding the good within each day?
Today’s Personal Commitment:As I said earlier, one of my life missions is to share awareness and joy by being in service to others, and so that’s my daily compass. By remembering this every day it gives me direction. It helps me to look for and create the good in a day. And I think if you find at least one purpose to direct your attention to in the day, you will create a compass that’ll help you be awake. You’ll create an awareness and a lasting fulfillment knowing you are walking your path. For good days aren’t found, they’re already here. And in each morning we have the chance to accept the circumstances of misfortune, or we have the chance to create a blessed, awoke, and directed life. So what will be your compass to direct you to see the good in every day?
Every Day Is Good
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#347 December 13 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I’m More Concerned With Flow Rather Than Formula
I was talking with my good friend and fellow podcaster Suzanne, and we got to discussing how we try to reinvent the wheel too many times and make it harder on ourselves. I was asking about her interview podcast…and if you’re a crafter, or you want to be more amazing, or even if you just love awesome voices…then you need to check out the sosuzypodcast… and that’s spelled S-U-Z-Y. She has an awesome voice, she’s uplifting, funny, creative, and her intro music is awesome. I’m always dancing in my seat when her podcast starts.
Anyways, in our conversation about her interview process she said, “I change up my questions, and I wish I just used the same ones over again. Sometimes I make the question process harder than it needs to be. Then I end up throwing in those new questions, so I should just relax.” And I totally understand her dilemma, you want to create a formula that’s easy to follow, but you also want to be flexible to really hit on the strengths of your guests.
Now I know everyone listening doesn’t have a podcast, and maybe will never want to create one…I appreciate you for listening whoever you are in podcast land out there. So I wanted to bring this back to helping anyone find a better process for whatever they are doing in their life. I think when we do something new, we want it to be great, we want it to be different, we want to be unique and not copy people…but I was listening to another podcaster awhile ago, I can’t recall his name…but he said we all are copying someone or something when we first start. That’s fine, do that, and get more comfortable with yourself so then you can begin adding in your own unique flair.
So maybe it’s good to find a formula in the beginning to copy for a little bit until you find your flow. The person who made the word flow famous is… Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi…I probably butchered his name since it looks like it should be said as (say name how you think it sounds) I’ve heard it said multiple ways…so just type in his first name in Google since it would take a year to spell out his last name to find out more on him, it’s spelled M-I-H-A-L-Y…but he says that flow is the process of living in that state of being that’s in the middle of the emotions of stimulation and control. It’s that place in between being excited and feeling comfortable.
Like anything new we do, there might be anxiety in getting it right, as we don’t feel a sense of control just yet. Or in contrast…when we’ve been doing something for awhile, it can be easy to get bored with that situation or thing. And that’s why flow feels so great, because it’s about balancing our emotions between excitement and control. Or maybe put more easily, being in the zone. Maybe you’ve been in the zone before where things seem so natural and it’s amazingly exciting at the same time.
I know anything is possible but being in the zone, the state of flow, 100% of the time probably isn’t possible, so how can we get into flow more often than not? And I don’t have your exact answer, but I want to tackle this a little bit to get you thinking how YOU can find your state of flow. I had a life coaching student where every Friday him and his business partner would go about doing something spontaneous. They worked in a town called Gatlinburg…which if you don’t know anything about that town, it’s a tourist hotspot. It’s right next to the town of Pigeon Forge which is just as exciting as Pigeon Forge is the home of Dollywood…which if you didn’t know, is Dolly Parton’s theme amusement park. So just picture this in your mind about Gatlinburg…Amusement parks, arcades, putt putt, all the shopping you could ever handle…right next to the Smokey Mountains National Park where you can find tons of beautiful hiking trails… And no…Gatlinburg isn’t sponsoring my show, but they should after that fantastic review, right?
But anyways, my life coaching student and his business partner would go ride go-karts, or ride a roller coaster, or play laser tag, or just do something uniquely different to start their Friday off, to get into the state of flow. He told me that it was amazing how well his Fridays went, and then the next week would be so refreshing to get back to the routine and be anticipating another fun Friday. He said that his flow routine helped him to make better and more creative choices, he talked about how he got so much done, and how it re-energized him in his life and his work.
So it got me to thinking maybe being in flow is finding any way you can create a love and excitement while feeling natural and present in the moment. Maybe it’s about finding any way to spice up your stuffy life and help creativity be nudged a bit from the cobwebs in your brain…to bring back a newness to the routine of your day. As Mihaly said…about finding that space in between stimulation and control.
And if you’re still asking why you need to be in flow when your life is going fine…well maybe a better question to ask yourself is…could I benefit from finding an excitement and ease in my day, could I use a boost in my attitude and work and life processes…and could I find a better way to experience life than I’ve been previously living? I guess it’s about creating that place where you’re not just living day to day…but you’re loving it. I can’t guarantee working on flow will change your day, but I do like to think if you created more ways to live fully…whether weekly, monthly, or daily…you might find yourself more like water…in flow… towards the best possible destination.
Today’s Personal Commitment:A gentleman by the name of Owen Schaffer wrote something called Crafting Fun User Experiences: A Method to Facilitate Flow and in it he talked about 7 ways to get into flow
- Knowing what to do
- Knowing how to do it
- Knowing how well you are doing
- Knowing where to go (if navigation is involved)
- High perceived challenges
- High perceived skills
- Freedom from distractions
Which I get what he is saying…but we make flow so complex. It’s like this elaborate plan that you are never going to get to because there are a million steps. So, I’m going to propose you do something that excites you like my life coaching student did on his Fridays. So here are some ideas for you to ruminate on, but feel free to make your own.
- Go on a date where you just drive with your partner. Chose a number from 5-40 and have the passenger flip a coin on which way to turn when you come to a stoplight or stop sign. There are three ways to go since forward is an option, so maybe when you can’t go straight you use the coin…or maybe you just decide and yell out which way to go instead of flipping a coin.
- Look up 5 restaurants that had good reviews and choose the first one that comes to your mind.
- Go to a record store and buy the first CD that really catches your attention to listen to …that’s if you still have a CD player.
- When you go to a restaurant ask your waiter or waitress what their favorite dish on the menu is and order that.
- Think about something you always wanted to do as a child and never go the chance to do it, and go out and do it.
- Get lost on purpose. Go for a drive and take turns and destinations you might not have traveled to because usually you were driving to a specific place.
- Take a different route to work
- Instead of speaking first, listen to what people have to say.
- Make dinner together with your family or loved one.
- Before you decide to do anything major, take 3 deep conscious breaths.
There are millions of things you could do to get you in a different zone. I know the definition of flow is being in between stimulation and control, and maybe doing something new may not feel like control…so those are only suggestions…but you won’t know how great it will feel to try new things and find more excitement in your life if you don’t begin taking more chances on your life.
I’m More Concerned With Flow Rather Than Formula
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#346 December 12 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Still Get To Keep Choosing
In our stress filled lives it can feel like we are continually spiraling out of control…except for those rare moments when we’re drunk…then we feel more in control than ever. Or maybe we just are delirious during those times, and the ability of forgetting can be a powerful thing. But in all seriousness, I hear more and more people talking about trying to survive their day to day lives in one piece. Maybe even working for the weekend and most times living pay check to paycheck.
It almost feels natural to be living by the skin of our teeth…and maybe there’s some truth to that, as our cavepeople ancestors literally were finding ways to survive day to day. But I would hope that we’ve evolved just a little bit from those times.
I talk about being mindful and living in the present moment a lot because it’s easier to wish for the past or hope for the future. It’s easier to live in a place within our minds that keeps us numb to all the stressful things happening in the moment. But it doesn’t have to be that way. We decide what to stress about, and we decide what to be at peace with.
In my life most of my stresses came from being too quick to judgement. I was more willing to see how things were tense than what was going well through the problem. Because in life there are always two sides to every situation. For agony there is healing, for sadness there is joy, for indifference there is love, for hatred and chaos there is peace…and when we can see that life is two parts at the same time, then we can choose to see the other side of life.
Life isn’t about being one way or the other, it’s really about finding balance in the situation…and I believe that happens by being aware of one of our greatest powers…the power of choice. The power to put our focus and attention on to the thing we most want to see. I might be called crazy for thinking this way, as I believe we shape and mold our lives not from the external environment that happens around us…but more by how we think, what we say repeatedly, and how we act.
Now maybe this might be over simplifying the process, but I believe all great things really are simple underneath it all. So if you’re stressed, if you’re sad, if you’re hurt, if you’re sick, or if you’re in pain… change happens by deciding to change our mind. It’s about changing our mind to see another reality, to tell another story, to live a better life. And maybe I might be overstepping my bounds because your life is your life, but it’s my hope that I don’t ask you to stay the same only surviving life…but I ask you to become better. To become the person you’re meant to be. And that can only happen by understanding you have a choice…and you get to keep choosing how you want this moment to be for you.
And maybe you have a simple life, and don’t want much but your comfy chair, your tv programs, a nice job to earn just enough, a loving family, and a little peace and quiet from the troubles of the world…well those things are not easy. They take work, and they take a willingness to be better every day. To be in a job that you desire means you have to be aware at your job and purposefully look for ways to find enjoyment in what you do, to have a loving family means you have to actively participate every day in creating that atmosphere, and to have that peace and quiet in your life means you have to choose to focus on peace and balance rather than just ignore the world around you. Any old fool can be purposefully ignorant… but people who thrive in life, people who aren’t consumed by the outside stresses, and people who live lives that they’re in love with…show up every day. They choose to keep choosing a better picture, a better story, and a better pathway. It’s not that their lives are easy, but it’s that they know they will come across some difficult choices, and they decide to show up anyways…every day.
So the question I want to ask you is:
Are you willing to take the harder road, the one full of stresses, the one of pain, sadness, and agony…in order to purposeful look and begin creating balance on the other side? I think people who are happy deep within are creative…not because they’re artists or writers, or have what we would call a creative calling…but because they choose to keep finding ways around the problem to find the solution and outlook they want to see. The continually keep choosing a better story to tell and then live it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What choices are you avoiding in your life in order to place the blame elsewhere? I know it’s easier to blame someone or something for our places in life…but essentially the blame we assign are lies. We are the ones responsible for the direction of our lives. Even if someone lied to us, we have the choice to live forever in self-pity that we were taken advantage of…or we have the choice to pick ourselves up and learn from the situation and move into a better circumstance.
Even if it doesn’t feel good right now from all the misfortunes that have happened…as time passes…if you chose to see a different path, a path of moving forward and taking responsibility for your life…I know you will be grateful for the pain you went through. You know what they say…that we can’t know light if we don’t know darkness, we can’t know happiness if we don’t know sadness, we can’t know love if we never knew hate, and we can’t move on if we continually keep blaming. So let’s be better today, not because we’re leaving blame behind or maybe even going down a scary road alone…but because it’s all we know…it’s who we are at our core…and there’s nothing else that would fulfill us more than to live our lives within our values…holding ourselves accountable to show people how great life can be when you decide to live in the moment and choose the side in life that you want to see.
I Still Get To Keep Choosing
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#345 December 11 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Miracles Happen Every Day
Looking up the definition of miracle in Google and the first dictionary definition is:
a surprising and welcome event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency.
But I wonder if a miracle is more than an answer from the Divine?
How would you define a miracle? Yes we could only define it as a miracle from above…but is it a lucky happen chance, or is it the realization of the power within the moment?
Do you have to be holy to experience them, do you have to believe in them??? I don’t think so… because we are part of a miracle every day. If you think about how your heart beats, how the intricate structure of veins and arteries carry blood, oxygen, nutrients, and then carries the used stuff away…it looks pretty dang complex…when, in fact, it feels really simple to you. You don’t even notice all the work your body is doing all the time. It really is a miracle how our bodies function so seamlessly.
We go throughout our days, forgetting more miracles than we can remember. We don’t have to believe in miracles to experience them, but I do believe we have to become aware of them to truly appreciate them. And when we become aware of them, we allow ourselves to celebrate in them. We allow ourselves to appreciate life, our lives specifically…and thus we allow others to share their miracles with us as we return the favor. For every problem in my life, when I stepped back to see the bigger picture, I saw two things occur…that there were more miracles in my life than problems…and that my miracles were much bigger than any problem.
So why do we give so much power to problems…why do we allow problems to create anxiety, worry and stress in our lives? Maybe it’s because we think it’s easier to allow something to control us than to put effort into directing the course of our life. We’ve been told that we’re not in control of the direction of our lives, that we get on a roller coaster, hold on, and hope to get to a nice destination without really knowing where it will go. And while we may not know the exact destination our roller coaster will go, we still have a choice to enjoy the ride, we still have a choice to get off at any time and go another direction, we still have a choice to go kicking and screaming afraid of where it will take us, or we still have the choice to talk with the conductor of the ride.
Whether you believe in miracles…matters not,. And not because they don’t happen or they have more power if you believe in them or not, but because they will always be happening whether you believe in them or not. There’s something more than beyond this physical existence, and words will never be efficient enough in defining the power in miracles…so for now all you need to know is that YOU are a miracle…and YOU are someone’s answer today. You might be a thousand people’s answers…and so whether you believe in miracles or not, matters not…because someone believes in them because you came into their life. And maybe you may not call it a miracle, but someone is saying a prayer right now for the blessing you brought into their life. And when thinking about it that way, you might have been thinking in your mind and thanking someone silently for them coming into your life.
As I said, if you really think about how the human body functions, as it does, is quite a miracle. Maybe we’ve gotten used to miracles, and now we need a supernova to awaken us…but if you can find the beauty in the simple…in the right now…I know you will not only see the beautiful miracles in the moment…but you will find yourself attracting more miracles into your life. So let us start becoming more aware of miracles rather than forgetting more and more of them every day.
Today’s Personal Commitment:How many miracles are missing in a day?
Take a look at your past week and write down all the small things that happened that brought your week together nicely. You could just look at the things that happen already in your life smoothly…those are miracles in themselves. Take a look at your past year and write down some pretty cool things that happened to you.
To see miracles we must become aware of the powerful simplicity of them. And once you can see them, you can appreciate them when their happening…instead of being blind to most them. Why live a life in the dark when you can find and enjoy all the beautiful miracles happening to you daily?
And lastly, write down how YOU are a miracle to the people in your life. The more you see the impact you give, then the more impact you can give.
Miracles Happen Every Day
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays - #344 December 10 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
What I Surround Myself With Is What I Get Used To
I live by a set of train tracks. If you walk deeper in my neighborhood, you’ll get closer to the train tracks. My house is close enough that when I hear the train whistle blowing while I’m recording my podcasts, I turn it off for about 5 minutes. I’m not so close to the tracks that it’s overwhelming, but on somedays those conductors will lay on the horns as they pass road intersections.
I was walking the other day and a gentleman was outside hanging Christmas reefs on his brick mailbox. I said hello, and I stopped and asked him a question. I said, “how do you deal with being so close to the train tracks, is it hard, or have you just gotten used to it?” And he replied that the first few years were harder, but now he doesn’t even hear it anymore.
And living closing to train tracks is like our lives, what we surround ourselves with is what we get used to. There are two sayings that I think about and they are you will be most like your 5 closest friends, and the second is you become what you think about consistently. And those lessons, are like those trains—what you continually surround yourself with will become natural to you.
I interact with a lot of people during week. I deal with a lot of people in different walks of life and different ways that they look at life. I was recently chatting with a nurse, and I like to start a conversation of positively. And so I decided to ask her what were the 3 best things about being a nurse? The reason I’ll ask a question about someone’s profession is not just small talk, but for me it’s a purposeful way to help people remember why they do what they do, and to get out of the funk of sometimes looking only at the negative things they have to do in their jobs.
And so the nurse answered me back right away, by saying…”I can’t answer that right now. I’m having a bad day.”
I said, “oh, I’m sorry…I’ll keep you in my prayers that your day gets better…”
Which she then responded, “I don’t believe in God.”
I could tell this was a woman who was having a very hard time, and used her hard exterior shell of negativity to protect her. So I just replied, “well you don’t have to believe in God to receive good energy, so whatever you do believe…whether it be in the Universe, a higher power, or even in science…I’ll be sending great energy your way for your day.”
I usually don’t get that type of response when I meet people. Most people will mindlessly say I’m fine when they aren’t, or they will find something good to look at…but I could tell this lady was hurting, and it was my hope that I could share some kindness with her to change her day. And it wasn’t my place at the moment to tell her this, but she surrounded herself with negativity, and so it became natural to her…and then it became all that she could see.
I don’t know her story, and I’m sure there are some hard things going on with her…but until she can learn to see her world differently, until she learns that what she surrounds herself with…then she will always be surrounded by her focus. And I’m not judging her, I feel a love and hope for her that she can find peace, beauty, and kindness in her life. I could tell that her answers weren’t just a negative outlook, but someone who was really hurting. Being a coach, and being open with people I’ve found that I get a lot of people airing their issues with me…and later they’ll tell me that weren’t sure why they shared their issues so freely with me…almost as if they were apologizing to me. I reassure them that it needed to be said, and I thank them for trusting me by letting me know those things.
And in the end it’s my hope that by listening, by being open for them, that they could get out what they needed to say. And it’s my hope that I might help them change their perspective a little bit, to begin surrounding themselves with things they truly want to be surrounded with. A great life isn’t fallen upon by accident…a great life is purposefully chosen every moment as we decide to surround ourselves with emotions, actions, and words that align us with where we want to be going. You don’t have to share all your problems with me, but I’m here if you do need someone to talk to. And what I really want to know is, are you aligning and surrounding yourself with things that are helping you to get you where you want to get going?
Today’s Personal Commitment:What do you surround yourself with?
- What are the thoughts you surround yourself with during the day?
- What vocabulary do you use regularly?
- Who are the friends and acquaintances you keep in your company most times?
And after you look at all of those things, and work to become more aware of it, ask yourself… if they’re in alignment with becoming the person you most want to be. One of my favorite Chinese proverbs says, “if you want to know the future, take a look at what you are doing right now.” So what are you surrounding yourself with right now…and what will help align you with being who you most want to be?
What I Surround Myself With Is What I Get Used To
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Synergistic Saturdays-#343 December 9 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Success Is Only Natural To Me
"I never dreamed about success. I worked for it.” Estee Lauder
Why do we credit failure as being easier than success? We all know at least one or two stories of great failures…maybe we’ve even attributed our life to those stories. And I believe that we think failure is easier than success because we’ve looked upon failure and success as two different paths…when instead, they’re the same road. And not only are they the same road, but they are going in the exact same direction…and maybe even happening at the same time.
Inspiration doesn’t just appear...at least not consistently. Inspiration is created more often when you sit down and do the work. Take for example:
Great salespeople don’t just show up and are great at making people buy things from them. They’ve put in the time to think about the objections that could happen, they’ve put in the time in to believing in their product, and they’ve put in the time in being concerned with the customer by helping them make the best decision.
Take a look at education. Education comes not from knowing everything but being willing to be taught.
And my last example is on strength. Strength comes from being vulnerable by learning from where our weaknesses lie. To push maximum loads with our body or even our mind we have to see where our failure points are and be willing to reach them consistently to grow from them.
So when we tell the story that failure is going the other way than success, we miss the whole lessons of what failures really are to us. Failures are the pathway to success. For every successful story or person we see, they’ve been riddled with lesson upon lesson of failure and learning to get back up. And we as observers want successful people’s successes to be accidental, not just because we are envious of their gifts, but we think it might help us. If they reached the top by accident, then maybe our pursuit could be just as easy. Maybe we could sidestep all the effort and years of growths and failures to find ourselves upon a less painful road.
We use buzz words like growth hacking, biohacking, or any other word to answer how we can get to places faster without doing the necessary work. As we are marketed and bombarded with the message that what you want is achievable in 4 easy payments, or by taking this pill every day, or if it takes longer than 30 days then you are doing something wrong. And so we are made to feel stupid, because the perception of success is sold to us as if it’s only in 3 easy steps.
And there is truth that success is doable in 4 easy steps, but we are marketed that those steps happen instantaneously or quickly. So, I’m going to share the 4 secret steps to success with you…so get ready to take notes:
- Put in the time
- Make plenty of mistakes
- Learn from those mistakes
- And repeat the process over and over again
Ok, I’m sorry I tricked you in thinking I would give you the exact formula. But I want you to remember that success is natural if you believe it is natural to you. And when you understand that success is not avoiding mistakes or finding yourself at the goal as fast as possible…I can guarantee you will start seeing yourself as more successful right now. Successful people stay successful because they are willing to do the work, they are willing to make mistakes and get back up learning from those mistakes, and because they are willing to change their perception of success. They are willing to see themselves as naturally successful every day.
Today’s Personal Commitment:Success is relative, and sometimes we only will define ourselves as successful once we hit our major goals. However, what if you were to look at all the things you already have in your life and define yourself as already being successful? Now this is not an exercise to say I’m done in life, by only appreciating what I already have, but it’s a perception change to show you how successful you already are…so you can continue building upon your success. So look back at your life and ask who you had to be… to get the things you have now, and then ask yourself who will I have to be now to elevate to the successes I desire?
Success Is Only Natural To Me
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Fantastic Fridays-#342 December 8 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Mistakes Are Some Of My Best Friends
Experience is the name everyone gives to their mistakes” -Oscar Wilde
It’s not that I love living in mistakes, but it’s that I appreciate myself more when making them. I find that the more I accept and find the joy through them, then the faster I move on from them. The funny thing about wisdom is it can’t really be relayed to you through words…yes, people can give you knowledge and we become wiser from it, but we really only gain wisdom by going through the problem.
Like the which came first…the chicken or the egg philosophical debate…the same can be argued about experience and work. I remember after graduating college how hard it was to find a job because they wouldn’t hire you if you didn’t have the experience, but how were you supposed to get the experience if no one would hire you?
We think that the pathway to success is this straight line. But it’s a befuddled mess of ups and downs, U-turns and little forward movement, back to more U-turns, and more ups and downs. I look at some of the people I admire for their creativity and success, and I see that a good portion haven’t had the normal line of progression that you’d think to make it where they currently are. And I don’t think it’s because they’re so unique, I think it’s more that they did what they wanted to. They studied things that interested them, and they were willing to take jobs or do things that didn’t seem in alignment with where they had their eyes set upon. And by doing things that may not have seemed in alignment with their path, they gained the experience in different industries or subjects that brought a unique perspective towards their work.
We try to manipulate and control life so there’s less mystery and heart ache in our lives. We think that the unknown is a scary place, and that we must do whatever we can to predict our future as accurately as possible. But when we try to control too much of our lives, we miss out on the beautiful happenings along our pathway in life. We’re so focused on what it should be, rather than what it could be. And I’ve found that God always had a bigger plan for me, than I ever realized for myself. And usually understanding the mystery didn’t come before the action, it came after it. Understanding came from being willing to have my path diverted if need be, and to find meaning in that.
In his book Courage: The Joy of Living Dangerously, Osho said, “Don't try to understand life. Live it! Don't try to understand love. Move into love. Then you will know - and all that knowing will come out of your experiencing. The more you know, the more you know that much remains to be known.”
I’ve come to many great places in my life because I decided to call my mistakes friends. I decided to see them as good things rather than bad. I decided to find the peace, happiness, and joy in them while going through them. And I decided to truly experience my mistakes, not rush through them as fast as possible. The more we resist our mistakes, and the more we fight them and try to eliminate them…then the less we learn. Abraham Lincoln said two great quotes that I think help bring processing mistakes into better context:
- “You can tell the greatness of someone by what makes them angry.” An old Chinese proverb says it’s not that wise men can’t get angry, it’s that they won’t. And I think that’s because they see the meaning behind what mistakes can be.
- The second quote and one of my favorites by Lincoln…“My great concern is not whether you have failed, but whether you are content with your failure.”
So, are you going through your mistakes seeing them as ways to understand life better? Are you breathing through your mistakes, not finding anger because of them, but finding wisdom by going through them? And are you ok with making mistakes but never content in staying in them? When we live reactively it can be easy to get upset at the strife mistakes seem to bring in our lives, but if we can step back and see the bigger picture…maybe there might be a better way in enjoying the pitfalls along the way…not just the good times.
Today’s Personal Commitment:How different do you think your life would be if you called mistakes your friends? What if you welcomed mistakes with open arms, like you would welcome your good friends? I’m not saying that I want you to be constantly messing up and erring in life and never gaining progress…but we are so close to our lives we can’t see the growth that is happening as the change is usually small incremental daily changes. We don’t notice the changes until months or even years later. Think of the person working out daily and not seeing any change until one day they look in the mirror and all the sudden it seems like they lost 50 pounds overnight.
It’s not that the change happened overnight, but it’s that the changes were so small they were hard to notice until one day you see the monumental change that has been taking place inch by inch, day by day. So, this month I’m going to ask you to curb your anger and upsetness with making mistakes and to embrace them and work to understand what you are learning from them. So, at the end of the night look back on your day and see how you handled the mistakes as they came. Were you frustrated because of them, or were you invigorated as it was a chance for you to puzzle solve because of them?
Mistakes Are Some Of My Best Friends
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Thoughtful Thursdays-#341 December 7 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Am Free From Concern
I was listening to actor and comedian Jim Carrey in his documentary Jim & Andy on Netflix. He said that when he was doing his stand-up comedy, originally he would just sweat it out and do weird things seeing what would happen. Then at night, he’d lay in bed asking what did the audience want? He knew what he wanted, he wanted to be a successful actor and comedian…and then the lightbulb hit him…”they want to be free from concern….They needed to be free from concern, so I’m gonna appear to be the guy that’s free from concern.”
So what’s keeping you from being free from concern? What are the things that are holding you back from giving your best self to the world? For me, I admire those comedians and actors on how they can go out in public and act a certain way. I see how they can get in front of a film crew, or an audience on stage, and laugh crazily, cry out loud, or utilize any other sort of emotions that might be seen as boisterous in public. And when I’m not lost in the scene with that actor, I question myself on how they do it…as I know, I’d be embarrassed putting those emotions out on display for others to see.
But maybe there’s something more to it than that. Maybe it’s not that I’m afraid of showing my emotions to people in public, but it’s more that I’m afraid of being someone or something else in front of people. That I would be unauthentic to who I am… and acting would be me faking things.
They say one of the secrets of life is to not be concerned with what others think about us. I had a friend who would constantly say… “your opinion of me is none of my business.” And he wasn’t saying it in a hateful or sarcastic way, but it was a reminder to himself that he wasn’t in control what others thought about him, and that he wanted to put his thoughts and energies into something more productive. He wanted to be free from the concern of others, so he could be concerned with what he was in control of and what he wanted to be doing with his life.
Now my concerns may not be yours. But there are worries we all have, that hold us back from being the people we want to be. So what are your concerns?
I think I want to augment Jim’s initial statement of being free from concern, and instead say living a life of direction. What I mean by that, is we usually are pushed or pulled in one of two directions. It’s the pain or pleasure principle—where we are avoiding what we’re afraid of, or we are going towards what we want.
People tell us to let go of the things that bother us, and I don’t believe we ever let go of anything. I believe we have the choice to put our energy and focus on where we choose to. So we can focus on the negative things in our lives as we try to let go of them, which then, we are putting more energy and focus into the thing we are trying not to. Or we can pivot, and put our energy and focus into the things that help us heal by placing our attention in another direction. It’s not avoiding; it’s making a choice to focus on things that build you up rather than break you down. So where would you like to put your focus? How can you free yourself from the concerns holding you back and begin to live a life of purposeful direction?
Today’s Personal Commitment:
What concerns in your life are keep you from being the person you want to be? I’m not saying you have to change overnight from being fearful into being super confident. But once you can bring to light the things you’re afraid of people finding out about you, you might just find that they aren’t as scary as you thought…or maybe you won’t care about hiding anymore once you air that fear out loud.
Life is not being confident as if fear will never touch you. Life is about doing what’s important to you despite the fear. The fear is just an indicator that something is worth it. If it wasn’t worth it, it might not matter to you as much. So have an honest conversation with yourself, maybe write those concerns down, and talk about why you are letting these things control your life.
What would it be like if you could be free from these concerns? What would it be like if you began choosing to live a life of purposeful direction—not away from your fears but towards them? For fears always look scary from far away. They look huge, powerful, and overwhelming but you will see the closer you walk towards them than the smaller and less menacing they look. And the more steps you take towards them, then the more confidence you will build up…to overpower them.
I Am Free From Concern
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Chris O'Hearn
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Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Wisdom Wednesdays-#340 December 6 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
It’s All Coming Together Nicely
I have the tendency to overexaggerate. When something’s going wrong, I find it easy to focus on all the many ways it could continue going wrong or how it could get worse. My buddy Ben used to call me worry wart. He would tell me to stop thinking so hard about things.
I love to think about everything that could happen. For some reason, I think it helps to calm me. It helps me to think about what could go wrong so I’m prepared for it, or to know how to change directions if need be. And I’m not saying this is a bad thing, but what I’ve found is it’s easier to plan and keep planning than to take action and get moving.
And I’m not sure if this is the right emotion, but… I think we feel fear from starting something and not getting it right. We look at all the time we wasted, and maybe even the fear of looking foolish for not knowing better. And we get annoyed with having to start over, if we try something and it doesn’t work out. But we have misunderstood what it means to start over. Starting will only ever happen if we give up. I had a personal training client who belonged to Weight Watchers, and she was disappointed with her progress. So I asked her what was going on and where she was having issues, and she said I’m fine during the week but during the weekends I go out to eat and eat so bad that I stop logging in my points and start over on Monday.
And so I suggested to her, to stop starting over. To log the points in regardless even if it’s not perfect. It was my hope that even if she didn’t do exactly what she wanted to do, that over time she would become more aware of it, find better choices that would make her feel better, and learn not to deprive herself but to be smarter and healthier with her food intake.
I know for me, when things aren’t going great it’s easier to say everything is going wrong. It’s easy for me to throw my hands up in the air and give up. I get overwhelmed, and when I get overwhelmed, I get stuck. I over exaggerate the situation, and build up anxiety instead of seeing the real truth that it’s not all falling apart…but really I’m only sliding. I’m sliding from the habits that help me stay on the best path for me. Sliding is a more subtle word, and it helps to change the anxiety within myself knowing that I have more of a handle on things than I thought…or maybe I should correct that last statement. It’s not that I have more of a handle on things, it’s that I have more of a handle on me and my thoughts and emotions.
By making that anxious thought more subtle, it’s becomes more manageable, and it brings an awareness that I can change directions if I decide to do something about it. And I believe we all have some sort of thing that hinders us…we have those addiction that keeps us from being the people we want to be. And there are the big three that most people will say are addictions such as sex, drugs, and alcohol; but it could be the addictions to overeating, perfectionism, technology, porn, getting into unhealthy relationships, shopping, and I’m sure we could come up with a million more… but really, all an addiction is—is a distraction. I’m sure the origin of the negative action was meant to help us escape from our lives, from our pains, and from our thoughts…even for just a moment at first.
That’s why I believe a lot of us have the tendency to be addicted to focusing on negative thoughts. It’s more exciting and easier to stay in chaos and to be in flight or fight mode than to focus on peace an tranquility. It’s easier to focus on what’s going wrong. It’s easier to focus on how it could get even worse than to do the work of focusing on solutions and appreciating the beautiful things already within your life.
I believe change happens more deeply when we stop beating ourselves up for our mistakes and begin loving ourselves through them…and because of them. So, what if you were to not immediately look at how the world could be ending for your mistakes, but how you might be sliding from the place you want to be? What if you were to look at the habits you are sliding away from, and look towards the habits you want to step towards?
We make change more complicated than it has to be. Every day is a new beginning, and every thought we focus on will either slide us off our path…or be the footsteps that keep us upon it. I’m sure there was a time in your life when it felt like your world was ending…and it didn’t. So let us stop starting over, let us stop focusing on every little mistake by beating ourselves up over it, and instead begin loving ourselves through life. Let us be more subtle in defining our problems as we get away from the end of the world mentality and see the choices we make as either us sliding slowly off our path or either choices that are bringing us back to it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:What problems are you over exaggerating, and how can you reframe them to being more subtle? What problems are you continually starting over, and how can you stick with them to get to the solution instead of continually spinning your wheels? Write your answers down, and then begin putting those solutions into action this week. Change is always a subtle shift. It’s usually never an immediate 180-degree turn. So be patient and persistent in loving yourself through the problems and the change. Remember, it’s not the end of the world…it’s only a small problem that you’ll fix.
It’s All Coming Together Nicely
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Tag Me Tuesdays-#339 December 5 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Change My Misfortunes By Rising Above Them
Marcus Aurelius said, “Reject your sense of injury, and the injury disappears.”
Our society has become too litigious. We want to find someone to blame for what’s wrong with our lives. If there’s an issue, we want to blame our mothers and fathers for how they raised us; we want to blame our bosses or our work environment for our sense of feeling trapped and unhappy; and we want to find someone, anyone, who’s at fault for our misfortunes in life.
Now I’m not saying that our parents may not have harmed us when growing up. I’ve had the fortune of having very loving parents, where others have had hells I cannot even imagine…but what I’m trying to relay to the masses, is that there comes a time when we must grow up. There comes a time when we have the chance to stop blaming others and to take ownership of our lives to direct them towards how we’d like them to be.
It’s easy to put the blame elsewhere. The reason being is we don’t have to do the hard work then. We don’t have to change. It’s easier to play the victim, to live in self-pity and misery, than to put in the effort to move forward no matter how hard it may be. And it will be hard, because you’ll be working to overturn habits that’ve been with you a long time. But it’s doable, and worth every moment of it.
People will wrong you, and I want to believe that most won’t do it on purpose of hurting you. They’re hurting inside themselves, and they can’t help but hurt others because they don’t even know what they’re doing. It’s become more and more evident to me just perusing today’s social media posts. Everyone has a voice, and sometimes the loudest voices are the ones complaining all the time. And while it gets annoying hearing about the small problems that people have, while they’re missing the amazing parts already in their life, I’m reminded that they’re unaware.
The ones playing the games usually are unaware of the game they play. They are unaware there is another way to live, and so they live in their misery spreading it unconsciously to everyone they come in contact with. If you met ten people today, I bet you would only meet 1 bad egg in the bunch. And that’s what we do, we focus on the one who’s wronged us…forgetting about the other 90% who are good people and brought something worthwhile into our lives, no matter how big or small. We forget the 90% of great things already happening in our lives to focus on that one small thing that’s annoying us. And it’s not that you can’t look at negative things, but people overly focus on them, and sometimes they even fabricate the hurt, and then it’s all they see. They create a filter lens for their eyes and mind to be continually finding negatives and then magnifying them. It gives them the excuse to never be the one at fault. But living that way keeps us from owning our lives.
So the questions I want to ask all of us, myself included—I definitely need to be reminded of this:
Do you want to darken the world by exploiting everything that has gone wrong, or do you want to see the negative and move on from it immediately? Do you want to find the beauty behind the negative and create another pathway in your life?
Think of it like this: flying wasn’t invented by focusing on staying on the ground, boats weren’t invented by focusing on the law of sinking, and problems weren’t solved focusing on how things could go even more wrong—they changed by focusing on a solution.
The continual focus upon our injuries keep us blinded, and as Marcus said, “when you reject your sense of injury, the injury disappears.” So let us stop blaming the world for our problems, and let us see the solutions and the visualization of the people we want to become…and let us be willing to work towards that.
There’s a quote I like that gets misattributed to Socrates. Dan Millman wrote a book called The Peaceful Warrior, and in the book the main character meets a mentor and nicknames him Socrates. And that’s where the confusion comes into who really said this famous quote. So I’ll put the credit where it’s due as Dan Millman wrote that:
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”
So let us let go of the blame, the hurt, the pains that are holding us back, and the minor annoyances that are not serving us. Let us put our energy and focus on building the new. Let us put our focus on building the things that make us better. We can blame everything and everyone why we are the way we are, why the world is the way it is…or we can focus differently and change not only the way we see the world, but adjust how we move forward in the world…by changing ourselves first to change it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:I challenge you to go one day without complaining. I know our mind will find a problem to complain about, but it’s not those random thoughts that pop into your mind…it’s more about if you are focusing on complaining about something. I read a book awhile back by Emett Fox, and he had the challenge of going seven days without complaining. If you focused on a complaint, you would have to start over again on day one. I did this for about three months until I finally gave up. The most days I went without focusing on a complaint was four days. It’s a hard task. So see if you can go seven days without focusing on complaining. I know it will change your life.
I Change My Misfortunes By Rising Above Them
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Mindful Mondays-#338 December 4 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
I Bring Joy To Whatever I Do
In the movie The Bucket List, Jack Nicholson and Morgan Freeman are chatting while sitting atop of one of Egypt’s pyramids looking at the beautiful scenery, when Morgan says to Jack:
“You know, the ancient Egyptians had a beautiful belief about death. When their souls got to the entrance to heaven, the guards asked two questions. Their answers determined whether they were able to enter or not. ‘Have you found joy in your life?’ ‘Has your life brought joy to others?’”
I wondered what brought me joy, and so I examined all the important events in my life, and I began to question if the joy I had…was real joy. Was I more focused on what I got, rather than what I gave? Did I focus on the time that was being taken away from me rather than the time I got to spend by being with others?
And it got me to thinking as I asked: was I more focused in life on what’s been taken rather than gained? Have I been more focused on myself rather what I brought to others? Because joy, can be an elusive thing, and maybe that’s because we don’t know what brings us lasting joy. Sure, we can find it in the moment of the newness of things. We find joy in the opening of Christmas presents, or the buying of a new car or home, on the day of our wedding, or the birth of our child, or getting that new job. And those can all be great things, but the excitement fades when the newness fades with it.
So I came to find we’ve been looking at joy all wrong. We believe that joy’s brought to us in the new things we receive, instead of understanding what we already have is joyful. So we wait for that new thing to come, in hopes that it will make us feel better. We are bored with what we already have, and we get impatient thinking that our lives aren’t what they should be because of the idea that newness brings joy. And so joy is attributed to the getting, instead of unlocking the beauty in what already is.
We’d rather be pursuing the anticipation of something new, rather than working to find and create the joy in what’s already part of our lives. We believe the new relationship, the new job, or the new circumstance will change our fortunes and our happiness once we get it. But I want to ask you this question… “if you couldn’t find joy in what you already had, how will you find it in the new thing?”
It will always be an endless cycle of having to get rather than continually receiving. And that may sound like it’s the same thing, but receiving joy from what’s already here is a different concept than an endless searching for a new high.
If you are continually searching for joy in the newness of things, you will bring a heaviness with you… wherever you go. You will be like the hiker climbing the mountain with a sackful of rocks that doesn’t even know are in his pack. And if you were to imagine life as the hiker’s journey, most people want to get to the top. They want to get that feeling, that newness of what they seek, all while never understanding that it was upon every step in their journey to the top. The final destination, the top, was just a point on a map, not a fulfillment towards joy. And until you learn this, you will always be disappointed from an expectation on something you didn’t understand.
Yes, we are human, and we‘ll fluctuate emotions constantly. But I want to ask you, if there’s a better way to focus on joy more often than you already are? Is there a way to leave behind the expectation of how things should be, and living in the moment enjoying things as they’re happening? I can’t tell you how to be joyful, but I can ask questions to help you find your joy. And so maybe the best reminder I can give you…is to ask this question in the moment:
“Is the way I’m feeling right now serving me? Would I want to spend my time focusing this way…or is there a better way?”
And if there’s a better way, decide to pivot from the unresourceful emotion or actions into more resourceful and joyful things in your life. When you see joy is already in your life, then you’ll find yourself becoming more joyful naturally. And when you are more joyful you can share more joy with others. Maybe heaven isn’t as far off as we think it is.
Today’s Personal Commitment:When you’re feeling drained, upset, worried or anxious, or anything that feels like a negative emotion to you…first ask yourself, “what’s going on? Why are you feeling this way?” When we can get to the root of the problem, we usually can solve it. And if you are still finding yourself stuck, ask yourself this question: “Is this way of thinking or focusing…serving me? Is this really important to me…to stay in this emotion?”
I Bring Joy To Whatever I Do
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide
Smiling Sundays -#337 December 3 The Strong Within Daily Affirmation Podcast
Every Day Is A New Beginning
Sometimes it may seem like all I do on my podcast is complain about complaining. When you’re bombarded by the unnecessary suffering of people, it can get tiring upon someone's soul. And the reason I say unnecessary, is because a lot of complaining is about things that people have control over. And maybe that’s really a trick statement because people may think I’m talking about controlling or changing the situation when I’m really talking about determining what your response is to an event.
But how can you change someone’s mind when they don’t even know they have an option? I mean sure, they know they’re in control, at least they think they do. But are we truly in control when we allow a situation to determine how we feel?
I think it’s so easy to complain because we are so short-sighted. We see a problem and see it as the end of the world…rather than just a process of life. If you were to look at the wholeness of your life and to recall all the problems…was there not a time you got over the problem? And if you didn’t get over the problem, was that not a personal choice you made…not an absolute? It may have seemed unconscious…but it still was a choice.
And this is where we would rather place the blame on a scapegoat. This is where we would like to defer our decisions of moving on and becoming better…into focusing on playing the victim of the situation. We tell a silent lie in our mind and it spreads like weeds…and that thought is, “I am weak and not in control of how I decide to feel, and that I’m not in control of the choices I make—the event does that.” We become robots thinking the external manifests who we are. But if you were to really think about it, the internal decides how we sculpt our external.
And believe me, I know personally how it’s easier to say well those people have something I don’t, those people are stronger than me, those people are more successful than me, or some people have all the luck while I’m left holding an empty bag. But it’s never been about luck, it’s been about seeing control of ourselves in a variable and uncertain world. And maybe that’s where most of the complaining comes from…it comes from us thinking that until we can be certain…100% certain about an outcome…we will then be anxious about it.
It’s the lie that we need to know the outcome, that we need to be in control of it…because if it doesn’t come out as we planned…then our lives will be in certain sets of chaos and lack of control. And so we come back to the understanding that we are being too short-sighted. We are too close to the problem to see the end of it…We look too close to our lives forgetting that every problem we’ve ever faced had some sort of conclusion. We had the choice to see it as a defeat or something to overcome…and whatever we decided still came out the same…we made it past that problem somehow. Even if you held onto the problem and didn’t solve it…you still did solve something—you decided to move forward with the problem clinging to you. And sometimes it seems easier to blame the problem on why we can’t be or do what we want, instead of making a commitment to be who we want…regardless of any problems.
So it’s my hope that you look beyond your complaining and misfortune, to see the beautiful horizon in the moment and the great chances that are ahead for you. As I will remind you that any problem you’ve ever faced seemed like a monster on the surface, but when you dug deeper to face and unravel it…you found a beautiful treasure in the struggle of overcoming it.
Today’s Personal Commitment:If today was a new beginning, how would it start for you? We never really start over as we hold onto the emotions that plague us, the problems that we’re focusing on, and the continual wearing down and compounding of troubling days we’ve experienced.
Start your morning off by resetting yourself. Reset the focus on the problems, reset the meter on keeping score of all the complications in your life, and reset the chances you are taking on living this day as a beautiful gift given to you. And one reason we never start over, is we don’t go to sleep efficiently. We go to sleep worrying about all we have to do, or all that’s been building upon us. So this week, go to bed differently. One way, is you could write down the things you are worried about and see if you come to a solution on how you can solve them. If some problems are too big and you are over worrying about them, then cut up a piece of paper in as many sections as you need and write a problem on one of the sectioned sheets…crumple it up and throw it in the wastepaper basket. And continue this exercise with how many problems you need to rid yourself of. This is actually a very powerful exercise as you are connecting the physical to the mental and emotional. You are physical saying to your mind and emotions I am throwing you away…and I won’t allow you to clutter my life.
So start your night off differently by refocusing how you look at problems, so you sleep better and then wake up less stressed. And then work on starting your morning, as if it’s a new beginning to enjoy the beautiful gifts that you’ve been given to you by having one more day.
Every Day Is A New Beginning
Thanks for listening. I'm sending great energy your way as we become Strong Within together,
Personal Development Life Coach-
Chris O'Hearn
Contact info- email: chris@strongwithin.com phone:865-219-3247
Music by:
- Zest by basematic (c) copyright 2011 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
- I Have Often Told You Stories (guitar instrumental) by Ivan Chew (c) copyright 2013 Licensed under a Creative Commons Attribution (3.0) license.
Location: Knoxville, Tennessee USA but available worldwide