The Afterglow Podcast: Recent Episodes
Julie Watson, Liz Doyle Harmer
The Afterglow Podcast gives women the permission and tools to live life according to their own rules. The Afterglow Podcast is a platform to educate and empower women through conversations with courageous Canadian women, breaking down limiting beliefs and outdated rules. The Afterglow is your second act. It’s what came after you did what you were told, and instead decided to do what was in your heart. It’s how you have reinvented yourself. It’s your vision for the next 40-50 years.It’s when you took your power back. We call that The Afterglow.
TW: Discussion about Eating Disorders and Recovery
Angela Yazbek is a Hatha Vinyasa yoga teacher in the beaches neighborhood of Toronto (hint hint, she teaches at Afterglow Studio). The is a Written and previous field producer/director in Broadcast media.
She is a Mama, a lover of wellness, a seeker of spiritual, and a storyteller. Her other great passion is writing, and we get to hear her announcement today-we are the first ones to get the scoop!
She has 5 strong boys at home (4 kids and hubby) who love and support her. Yoga helps hold them altogether.
On this episode we talk about the magic of storytelling and Angelas passion for hearing peoples stories " Everyone has a story to tell, we are all exceptional"
Angela shares how moving from journalism to mothering felt. How yoga changed her life. And how she learned to slow down.
She began her recovering from a lifelong Eating Disorder at 50 years old, and what she learned from the voice in her head.
In this episode we talk with our dear friend Michelle Melles about the making of her documentary "Drunk on Too Much Life" that came from her own daughters mental health struggles. She speaks about the fear, the ignorance, and the quest for answers.
We discuss the dysfunction of our health care system, the archaic ways we treat mental health, and new insight into what Michelle and her family learned along the way.
Drunk on Too Much Life can be viewed online and on TVO. Visit www.drunkontoomuchlife.com
Are you entering your peri-menopausal years? Are you in Menopause?
This podcast is for you.
We cover a wide range of symptoms you might be suffering from and not even know it.
We cover stigma, old school thoughts, research and what we learned from our mothers about menopause. Mostly nothing.
We cover nutrition, new exercise guidelines for menopause, exercise, hormone replacement therapy and how we feel about it.
We struggle with our own menopause brains, we laugh about our own experiences, and we celebrate that we are finally talking about menopause more openly.
Join us for this podcast and if you want to learn more- Sign up for MENOPAUSE 101 at Afterglow Studio on February 26 from 2-4pm with Sam.
(limited space available)
Follow Sam @samcoretrainer for daily updates, insights and her thoughts on everything menopause/
In this episode we talk to Marilyn (Bola) Awoyami about how she juggles life with kids and being a therapist. Bola Awoyomi is a Registered Social Worker and psychotherapist. She is a former stay-at-home mom who currently provides virtual and in-person psychotherapy to individuals struggling with mental health issues. She lives in the beaches with her husband and two kids.
Bola is a member at our studio Afterglow in the beaches, and she comes in with her bright and grounded energy. We talk about how the pandemic impacted all of us. What we can do to feel better, and how to reach out to a therapist.
We talk perfectionism and recovering perfectionism, ditching the lists and checking in with yourself instead.
It's amazing to hear and witness someone living their Afterglow and Bola tells us how she is doing it.
Tune in. Like, share, rate us and leave a comment.
Happy 2023!
In this episode we talk about all the things that are relevant in our lives right now.
Menopause, Burnout, Mental and Physical Health, Self Compassion, Relationships, Parenting.
We provide books that have made an impact on us, social media accounts to follow and upcoming workshops at Afterglow Studio that relate.
Julie and Liz ask each other some tough questions that they haven't prepared for.
Tune in to hear our words for 2023 and so much more.
We wish you openers to receive what ever it is YOU are ready for in 2023.
Jane Brean is a former financial executive and current social justice activist. She is living with brain cancer, and has raised close to half a million dollars to support cancer research through her arts focused campaign Gratitude 10. She lives in the beaches with her husband and two daughters.
She is a close friend of ours and has inspired us for the last 6 years with her ability to reframe her diagnosis. She is open and kind and has the most generous spirit.
Show notes:
Jane shares when she was diagnosed with an incurable brain tumor.
How she has shifted her mindset to welcome and accept the tumor within her body
Where the word Gratitude comes from
Why she has such a positive outlook
How her parents impacted her in finding balance
Acknowledges the struggle of having cancer
How depression has impacted her
The hardest thing living with an incurable disease
How she monitors her mental health
Hint: Afterglow studio is a big one!
How her life has changes since her diagnosis
Slowing down from her fast paced life
What is Jane's Afterglow?
Living her life with purpose.
You can find out more about Gratitude10 here:
Stay tuned for Gratutude10 2023.
Welcome Back! After a bit of a hiatus, Julie and Liz are back to discussing their definition of The Afterglow. Listen in as they share their own Afterglow, and how they have overcome some pretty ingrained beliefs that have held them back. They are excited for this upcoming season bringing you more amazing women who have overcome obstacles, and are working on finding their afterglow. We discover and share tools to move through life, find resilience and work on better mental health habits. This is going to be an exciting season as Julie and Liz pull from their own inner networks and share some of their friends, neighbors, and family members who inspire them.
Tune in to hear about what we learned in Season 2:
Major themes of:
Resilience
Disruption of the Status Quo
Another level of speaking up and using your voice
Vulnerability and Inner Work
Creativity + Fun
And Women's deep desires to GIVE BACK.
Don't forget to like, rate and leave a review!!!
In honor of International Indigenous Peoples Day we have pulled this very important episode from Season 1.
What can you do? : (from @oncanada project)
Learn About Whose Land You Live On. visit native-land.ca for interactive map
Do Your Research Learn about the Indigenous Peoples whose land you live on.
Read the Truth And Reconciliation Report
Connected With Elected Officials
Volunteer
Listen
Donate: We support the First nations Child and Family Caring Society. www.fncaringsociety.ca
check out www.oncanadaproject.ca/settlerstakeaction
Show notes:
3:20 Ginella grew up in Toronto, her mother immigrated from Panama.
4:00 Her other converted from Catholic to Islam when Ginella was 3 years old
5:00 Her mother's fearless attitude was a powerful role model for her.
7:45 what was the draw about Islam that her mother connected with?
9:15 What does spirituality mean for Ginella?
10:00 What wearing the Hijab means to Ginella
14:00 Ginella's mother encouraged her to do anything
16:00 The development of Canada Tonight
17:00 The limitation of impartiality being a WOC journalist
20:30 New perspectives and diversity
23:00 Ginella is Black, Spanish, Indigenous
25:00 Her pancreatic surgery and how that affected her body
30:00 Ginella's experience moving from producer behind the camera to in front of the camera
33:00 Persistence is imperative
34:00 Does Ginella have a practice for self care?
37:00 What would Ginella say to her 15 year old self? Don't be so worried about being liked!
Find Ginella:
IG: @ginellamassatv
Twitter: @Ginella_M
Listen. Learn. Act.
Here are steps you can take (source: Settlers Take Action)
Step 1: Find out whose traditional territory you live on. Visit native-land.ca
Step 2: Click on the links of the territories from native-land.ca and learn more about the original caretakers of the land you now inhabit, their history and the current issues that affect their communities.
Step 3: Read about the Truth and Reconciliation Commission of Canada and its 94 Calls to Action.
Find a TL;DR version of the report via the CBC.
Step 4: Email your MP. Tell them you care about the Indigenous people of Canada and want to see action taken to reconcile with them, as described in the Truth and Reconciliation Report. Ask for an update on what they are personally doing to take action. Hold them accountable.
Visit https://oncanadaproject.ca/settlerstakeaction to learn more
Show Notes:
2:45 What were the early messages Jillian received around food?
6:00 How dieting is more covert now, clean eating, plant based, healthy, are all dieting terms.
8:00 When Jillian was 19 she succumbed to the diet culture
11:00 How Jillian was ignored when she needed treatment for aa possible eating disorder
13:00 50% of nutritionists are at risk of an eating disorder
13:40 What is Orthorexia
17:00 How clean eating can turn into obsessing. What is the DIET INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX?
23:00 What are co-opted diet industry words?
28:00 What are we ignoring in our bodies?
30:00 Jillians program for educators who need educating
35:00 Jillians path to healing was longer than she thought
42:00 Intuitive eating and Competent eating models
48:00 How do we reverse unhealthy seeds we as parents planted
54:00 What could you do with more time on your hands, and less thinking about food and your body
59:00 What would Jillian say to her 15 year old self
Follow Jillian:
@foodfreedombodylove
www.foodfreedombodylove.com
Show notes:
3:15 Ashley's childhood as a curious child
6:30 Ashley's environment was nurturing for her to move forward in her choices. " The world is your oyster"
10:00 Ashley put her love of writing aside, and worked in marketing and publishing before wiring her book
13:00 How reading and working took precedence to writing
16:00 The story of THE PUSH, fear and motherhood had nothing to do with her own mother
18:00 Needing plot and structure to the book
20:00 We can all relate to leaving for a few days as mothers
23:00 How her wandering mind helped her create the characters
24:00 Intergenerational trauma
28:00 The research Audrey did to find the characters and themes
32:00 Did Audrey wrestle with doubt?
35:00 Publishers were clamoring to get a hold of THE PUSH
36:00 How her husband gave her feedback on the first edit
41:00 How Audrey encapsulates motherhood in the book
45:00 What was the ending...really?
50:00 Is THE PUSH going to be a movie?
Find Audrey Audrain:
www.ashleyaudrain.com
IG: @ashleyaudrain
Show notes:
3:50 What was it like as a new immigrant to Canada from Jamaica at age 5
7:00 What was it like feeling different or othered?
10:00 The powerful "A girl like me documentary. "
12:00 Who were MLA Audrey Gordons role models?
16:00 Her exposure through education to a world that gave her confidence she didn't have before.
17:00 Who were her female/black role models?
20:00 The role of Minister of Mental Health Wellness and Recovery-the first ministry dedicated to Mental Health
25:00 The focus on mental health is imperative and a change is needed
28:00 funding new programs, de-funding what is not working
32:00 What would you say to your 15 year old self- "I'm unique and special and worthy"
39:00 MLA Gordons athletic career as a BlueBombers Cheerleader
45:00 Leadership
48:00 Advice to other women- listen to other women, ask for help, and reach out.
52:00 What is your Afterglow?
Find MLA Audrey Gordon:
Twitter:
@min_agordon
Speaker, author, and mental health advocate Lynn Keane shares her personal story overcoming the death of her son by suicide and shares tips on how to support the mental wellbeing of our children and family.
Show Notes:
3:30 How the book came to be
4:55 What is the Wedding Industrial Complex
7:00 What is the messaging around weddings, and when do we start teaching girls
8:00 How young girls are marketed to, and the pervasive messages in media
10:00 Not dismissing the traditional wedding, but understanding the customs and why they exist
11:30 Why does the father give the bride away?
13:00 The garter belt tradition...why it exists.
16:00 Make decisions for yourselves and nobody else
19:00 How the media puts pressure on women to create the perfect wedding, and how diversity is missing
22:00 The picture perfect pressure influenced by social media
25:00 The Engagement period and building trust within the couple'
28:00 Focus on the wedding day vs. The marriage itself
34:00 Look into each others eyes
35:00 An Eco-conscious wedding
38:00 Diamonds, the story of why we idolize the diamond engagement ring
42:00 Looking most like yourself on your wedding, not a thinned up manufactured version of yourself
45:00 Gay couples and needing more representation
48:00 You don't have to get caught up in anything goes for the sake of the wedding.
53:00 Where did the moxie to write the book come from
57:00 Where does their courage and feminist attitude come from?
1:00 What to get rid of when planning a wedding.
Book: The New Wedding Book
Instagram:
@thenewweddingbook
@mbilodeau
@karen_cleveland
www.karencleveland.ca
Show Notes:
3:30 Oprah's effect on people, her favorite things list
7:00 How Covid and BLM affected her business
9:00 Taylor's 2008 gymnastics accident
11:00 The pressure of a coach
13:30 When the pressure is too much
15:45 How Taylor transitioned from elite gymnast to opening up to other options
17:00 Who was Taylor the teenager
20:00 Taylor follows her dreams
23:15 Taylor the original Pivoter
25:00 How she created her own tea brand
28:00 Being a black woman in the time of BLM
31:30 All the TEA
34:00 Taylor's writing saved her
40:00 Taylor does it all, and on her own.
45:00 Where does Taylor's resilience comes from and who inspires her?
47:00 Life lessons
49:00 What Taylor would share with young girls and women. There is life after tragedy.
Find Taylor:
@cupofteshop
@taylorln
www.cupofte.ca
Show notes:
5:00 Get Your Shit Together the book is for everyone.
6:00 Why write the books?
7:30 How they met
10:00 Their first book handbook for Cool Moms and why What to Expect when you re expecting is outdated
11:30 How to not lose your shit as a mom, most advice is bullshit
13:00 Rebel Papa group- why men need support too
15:00 Moms need more than a day a the salon or a facelift for our vaginas
16:30 Redefine money
18:00 Women can be insecure around money even when they are intelligent
20:00 A book for people who don't know where to start
23:00 Ask yourself how money makes you feel
25:00 Money is NOT real
27:00 The mindset blocks of money
30:00 Things are not evolving quickly enough for women and money
32:00 The Gender Gap is real
36:00 Take care of yourself
40:00 Communication is key
43:00 Can you have it all?
48:00 What is the future for The Rebel Mama the business?
53:00 What is your Afterglow?
Show Notes:
3:20 Zahra story of Resilience from Uganda and Yemen
5:20 Zahra went to the International School in Yemen as well as an Arabic School
7:00 Zahra questioned what being a girl meant
9:30 Yemen was the worst country in the world to grow up for girls
11:55 What were the actual limitations for girls in Yemen
16:00 Zahra acted out in class, she was "trouble"
19:15 How Zahra tried to fit in, and completely changed who she was
21:00 Zahra experienced extreme depression
25:00 Zahra moved to Canada with her 3 children and had no work experience
29:00 How her skills working at a shop in the mall helped her move forward in her career
34:00 How Zahra was able to push through the limitations put on women
40:00 The tragedy of being an immigrant
43:00 Think like an immigrant
49:00 Zahra has a comfort zone she is not happy being in, she does not hold herself back
52:00 Push yourself a little, baby steps
54:00 There's always a silver lining
55:00 What is Zahra's Afterglow
Find Zahra online at:
IG: @zahrasays
www.myskillit.com
Buy Zahra's Book:
What It Takes: To Live and Lead With Purpose, Laughter and Strength
Show Notes:
3:00 Suzie tells us about her upbringing in Montreal
5:00 Suzie puts herself through Engineering at McGill
6:00 Suzie is an eclectic thinker in terms of Science and Math
8:00 Suzie talks about going into business, being the first woman hired at PG&E
9:45 How Suzie came in and turned things around for Weight Watchers
10:00 What gave Suzie the courage to enter a male dominated environment
12:00 Her first 50 years gave her resilience, and how her dad was her main role model.
14:15 Suzie wants to be a role model for women
16:20 Suzie's self taught barriers
18:00 Suzie used her experience to create a product and become an entrpreneur
20:00 How Suzie had the desire to create something first, and then tried to find the product
22:00 Suzie does it all
25:00 Suzie had an aha moment and created a product to serve herself
28:00 How Love Good Fats came to be
30:00 Suzie read a book and transformed her thinking to FATS being a good thing
35:00 What kept her going through all the obstacles
39:00 Suzie considers herself a changemaker
41:00 Suzie talks about barriers as a gay woman.
45:00 What still needs to change to equalize and have a just society
49:00 Suzie has a hugely successful business in her 50's, what would Suzie say to women in their 50's
Find Suzie:
IG @lovegoodfats @suzie.lovegoodfats
www.lovegoodfats.ca
Show Notes:
3:45 Dr. Rhonda McEwen and Dr. Jill Biden and the history of Doctor
5:45 Rhonda talks about culture of growing up in Trinidad and going to an all girls school
8:00 How and why Rhonda stayed in the Sciences
10:30 How an all female and all black environment growing up influenced her
14:12 Rhonda's Mother as a role model
16:00 Growing up in a rich fertile environment and then moving to London England
20:11 Rhonda's inner knowing as she changed careers
24:00 Rhonda is a curious human man likes to ask questions
26:00 The results of Rhonda's PHD
30:00 What has changed in the use of cell-phones since 2007
34:00 Rhonda's research in Technology with Autism and ADHD
37:45 Rhonda's new role as Special Adviser on Anti-Racism and Equality at UTM
51:00 Should we be scared of Robots??
Find out more about Dr. Rhonda McEwen's role and research here:
http://individual.utoronto.ca/rmcewen/index.htm
Show Notes:
3:30 Milestone day at Cheekbone beauty
5:25 Creating a product that gives back
6:20 All Indigenous children have been impacted by inequality in education funding
10:00 Jenn Talks about how the impact of residential schools is ongoing
13:15 Jenn has become the product of residential schools through generational trauma
18:00 Being of mixed race has questioned where Jenn fits in
20:20 Jenn tells us about an actual dream she had one night about creating Cheekbone
24:00 Jenn goes back and describes her struggle with addiction and getting sober
31:00 Jenn provides insight into building something regardless of your education
36:00 Jenn goes on Dragon's Den
44:00 Cheekbone is on a journey to become more sustainable
46:00 How the time during Covid affected her business
49:00 How can we support Indigenous businesses
51:00 What Jenn would say to her 15 year old self
52:00 What is Jenn's Afterglow?
Find Jenn Harper :
www.cheekbonebeauty.com
IG + Twitter: @cheekbonebeauty
54:35 Stay tuned for What's your Afterglow
Show Notes:
3:23 Overview of "Flip The Script with EAAA"(TM) Program originally designed for women in university
7:25 We are socialized as girls to prioritize others needs before ourselves
10:00 Rates of sexual violence went down 46% in those who took the Flip The Script Program
11:15: The idea for Flip the Script came from Charlene Sen
16:16: The pleasure gap
20:00 How Kelloggs affected our sexual desires
25:00 What are the changes being made to adapt this program for younger girls ages 14-17 years old?
29:00: The roll-out of the program for younger girls
32:00 Sexual Violence is on a continuum
38:25 Programs for Men and Boys to take on responsibility and gain knowledge. Coaching Boys into men.
43:00 Being a good bystander.
51:00 Being a disrupter is a shared responsibility
52:35 Is it possible top have a world without sexual violence
More information on Flip The Script:
www.sarecentre.org (Sexual Assault Resistance Education)
www.charlenesen.ca
Show Notes:
4:08 Jennifer tells us how Covid affected her
6:30 How George Floyd changed Jennifers self-expression
10:00 Jennifers insecurities moving to Canada from Jamaica
18:00 Jennifer's purpose for creating her documentary on black beauty
24:00 Jennifer's works are purposeful and intense topics, find out why
30:00 Was there time where Jennifer's race or sex was limiting?
35:00 What's it like working with her husband?
38:00 Sudz, Jennifer's husband says "this is a peer marriage"
43:00 How it feels to Jennifer to be recognized by awards in her work
47:00 Jennifer's view on the arts- Art is everything
50:00 What is Black History month to Jennifer?
56:00 What would you say to your 15 year old self?
Find Jennifer Holness at:
www.hungreyeyes.ca
IG: @hungryeyesmediainc @jenniferjholness
Show Notes:
2:40 Websters definition of RESILIENCE
3:00 Komal shares here own definition of resilience
5:40 Komal explains why her grandmother and mother are both her role models
10:00 Komal fells a sense of responsibility to being a South Asian Canadian
12:30 The importance of looking back as well as forward, being a part of a bigger purpose
15:15 How Komal keeps from BURNOUT
23:30 What programs Komal is running right now
34:45 Audacity: Komal tells her Michelle Obama story
41:15 Interview tips from Komal
44:45 Where did the name for her podcast come from
47:23 What lessons did Komal learn in 2020
50:00 What's one thing she wants all women to know
Find Komal Minhas at I.G: @komalminhas
www.komalminhas.com
Podcast: Lessons Learned with Komal
Julie interviews Liz to find out if she managed to survive 2020. Good needs. She did.
We talk diversity, complexity, money, sex and more.
In this episode, Liz interviews Julie as they look back on lessons learned in 2020.
We talk vulnerability, self-worth, somatic healing, and astrology.
Julie + Liz return for a second season with more focus, more clarity and more inspiration.
They are excited about the line-up of upcoming guests and reach out to you to help achieve the goal of getting other guests to join in the fun.
Stick around as Season 2 evolves, and we hear from more Canadian Womxn providing inspiration and tools to live life according to your own rules.
SHOW NOTES:
2:15: The big compelling question The Afterglow Podcast seeks to answer
3:22 What is The Afterglow, anyway?
4:45 How do we get conditioned away from who we truly are and how can we come back.
7:00 It's never too late. What does living in your own agency mean?
10:00 What can we learn from our guests. Who is coming up and what to expect!
13:50 How can you overcome the obstacles on the way to your Afterglow
14:30 Our proud Canadian perspective.
16:00 Our Season 2 themes!
16:30 Our Season 2 guest wish list!
In this episode Julie + Liz discuss the last 24 episodes, the lessons learned, and what impacted them the most from interviewing incredible Canadian women. They celebrate their own accomplishment of starting The Afterglow and being badass women getting shit done!
3:40 Elaine shares her early upbringing as an Indigenous woman in Canada
6:50 Intergenerational trauma - Elaine's family's experiences with residential schools in Canada
7:50 Elaine's struggle with alcoholism, addition and self-harming
8:58 Elaine reflects on the wisdom and safety of her grandmother
14:40 How did Elaine find her way back to healing through Indigenous wisdom
20:40 The inspiration behind Calling My Spirit Back
23:45 What Elaine's culture believes about alcohol - worth a listen!!
24:00 Elaine's profound experience of finding love
32:00 Why anxiety can often be unprocessed emotions
35:42 Elaine shares her experience working to end and heal the ongoing trauma of Missing + Murdered Indigenous Women in Canada
LEARN MORE ABOUT ELAINE AND HER AMAZING BOOK HERE
https://www.instagram.com/elaine_alec_writer_speaker/
1:30 How small-town upbringing shaped Jeni B
7:00 Losing parents. Jeni B beautifully describes how our parents are so closely woven into our personal stories.
9:50 What Jeni B learned from her hardworking mom
13:30 Jeni B and mindful awareness
15:40 The inspiration for Jeni's gorgeous podcast This is It Actually
16:30 Jeni's experience with divorce
19:00 The power of forgiveness
22:00 Modelling healthy relationships to kids post divorce
25:00 The hidden wisdom of Gilmour Girls!
28:30 Stepping outside of the "wife" role
31:30 What motivates Jeni B to push through the boundaries
34:30 The 40s are where it's at baby!
38:30 What would Jeni B say to her 15-year-old self
42:15 Body acceptance + gratitude
44:40 What is Jeni's afterglow
47:00 Jeni B's practices to cultivate mindful awareness. Yoga!
Learn more about Jeni here!
https://www.instagram.com/thisisitactually/
https://www.instagram.com/jenibesworth/
2:00 What was it like for Paulette to immigrate to Canada at age 11
4:20 Did Paulette feel different/othered growing up in Canada
6:10 How Paulette overcame being streamed into a lower level at school - an experience not atypical for black children in Canada
10:20 What about the kids that get lost and Paulette's experience raising her son in the same anti-black system
15:10 What drives Paulette to stand up for herself and who she truly is
19:15 What motivates Paulette to work towards the empowerment of girls, women and minorities
22:30 The four pillars of the Canadian Women's Foundation (CWF)
23:00 How the CWF supports girls
27: 45 How can we support girls in our local neighbourhoods
31:00 How can we support women towards leadership roles
35:50 It's never too late for women to transition into greater leadership. Paulette shares stories of her inspiring friends and network
40:28 What is Paulette's Afterglow? It's a good one!
42:50 Paulette has won numerous awards. What do they mean to her
46:00 What would Paulette say to her 15-year-old self
47:05 What is resilience for Paulette and why people of colour need even more resilience.
LEARN MORE ABOUT PAULETTE HERE
https://canadianwomen.org/staff/paulette-senior/
https://twitter.com/paulettesenior1?lang=en
2:00 Leisse's child hood was perfect on the outside and incredibly painful on the inside
4:30 Leisse tells her origin story of waking up
7:25 Steps Leisse took to recover from people pleasing
11:25 Leisse shares her story likening it to the book Gotta Go about a butterfly
14:25 Leisse has zero tolerance for BS
19:00 Leisse shares how she overcame the trauma, and how she works with clients
23:14 Divorce was the worst experience of her life
26:25 The C word. Leisse talks about what getting breast cancer meant for her
29:40 Leisse reads the poem To Call Myself Beloved
34:50 What does Leisse mean by WE are the media
37:20 Leisse talks financial literacy
41:50 What's the story Leisse tells herself around wealth and success
46:00 Leisse has doubt and fear that still lingers, there's always work to do
50:00 How Covid has been a gift
55:50 What would Leisse say to her 15 year old self
SHOW NOTES
2:40 How did Kim become a sexpert!
4:15 What does sex positive mean?
5:55 Female masturbation - why is it taboo and how can it empower women?
8:45 What is the link between sexual empowerment and life empowerment
10:37 A really big takeaway. Kim’s major philosophy
11:24 Julie shares her changing views around sex
12:35 What does pleasure offer us
15:20 What are the brakes and the accelerators when it comes to sex
19:30 How do we baby step our way into sexual empowerment
24:30 The g-spot orgasm
30:17 Can things we practice in the bedroom become things that change ourselves? our world?
32:50 How can we teach sex positivity to the next gen
36:50 Quick blow job tips
44:00 Who inspires Kim
45:28 What would Kim say to her 15 year old self
49:10 A quick awesome recap
52:00 The highs + lows of relationships
LEARN MORE ABOUT KIM
https://www.redtentsisters.com/
1:55 Does trusting herself come easy to Dr. Mary Choi
2:45 How Mary’s mom has shaped her into confidence and leadership
4:10 What does courage mean to Mary
6:10 How to feel the fear and do it anyway
7:30 How does perimenopause affect women
9:20 Why the 40s are a beautiful time for women
10:30 Is there an overlap between perimenopause and the mental, emotional shifts many people experience in midlife
12:05 The energetics of PMS – what can we learn about ourselves during this period.
14:45 What’s the link between anxiety and hormones?
17:00 What hormonal shifts happen in perimenopause
20:00 Why we have irregular periods during perimenopause? Mary shares a really fun and memorable visual
24:24 How can we support ourselves during perimenopause
26:30 Weight gain during perimenopause
29:30 Top tips for managing perimonopause
35:33 What inspires Mary
37:15 What is Mary’s afterglow
LEARN MORE ABOUT MARY
https://somaandsoul.ca/mary-choi/
SHOW NOTES
3:30 What was it like for the Francisco sisters growing up in a white, privileged neighbourhood
8:10 How were the Francisco sisters shaped by their heritage/ancestry.
11:50 Celebrating the pride in black history
12:50 Has female gender conditioning affected the Francisco sisters?
16:20 How has intersectionality between race and gender affected the Francisco sisters?
18:30 Quinn speaks about historical differences between white women and black women
19:49 What are we willing to do to make an equitable society for all? And what's needed.
22:45 Recognizing the privilege within a minority group and why all of us we need more awareness
25:15 How wealthy countries are oppressive on a global scale
25:58 Covert vs overt racism, and overcoming micro-aggressions
28:55 The role of white allies
30:55 The insidious nature of micro-aggression
32:45 Parenting + race - great tips on speaking to your kids
40:30 The need to elevating and give voice to positive black stories, heroes, leaders
42:00 The importance of being allowed to fail. The impossible standard of perfection black people are held to
45:45 Tokenism and the changes need to hire equitably
48:48 The importance of living consciously and cooperating together to make changes
50:00 What is the afterglow for each of the Francisco sisters?
Learn about the Francisco Sisters!
Afiya
http://www.thestylehouse.ca/
https://www.instagram.com/afiya.francisco/?hl=en
Alia
https://www.instagram.com/molobaby.ca/
http://molobaby.ca/
Janelle
https://www.linkedin.com/in/janelle-francisco-4a8b6873/?originalSubdomain=ca
www.hanleymortgagegroup.com
https://www.instagram.com/mrsfranciscoborden/
Quinn
https://www.linkedin.com/in/quinn-samardzic-94a32727/
https://www.instagram.com/quinn_stagramm_/
2:30 We go way back with Pattie. What were her childhood dreams?
4:30 Pattie reflects on not going to university
6:30 What does it mean to be on the authenticity track?
7:50 Has gender conditioning affected Pattie and Pattie's favourite quote
9:45 Pattie shares some money tips
11:45 Julie shares her money mindset challenges and triumphs
3:00 Pattie shares what’s important in your relationship with your financial advisor
15:00 Pattie shares the elements of a financial plan
17:15 Some key financial takeaways!!
18:00 Why we shouldn’t compare our finances to others
19:15 We all need emergency funds and why investing is important
20:00 Why is money so challenging!?
22:30 Some tips for planning during the pandemic
24:00 One silver lining to covid-19
25:40 What motivated Pattie to master finances
28:00 Tips to develop a healthy mindset around money
31:00 The link between physical and financial health
32:00 Tips for teaching kids about money
34:15 Tips for managing money with your spouse/partner
37:03 How does Pattie trust herself?
39:30 Pattie's four guiding principles for life
40:20 What's Pattie's afterglow?
41:30 Teeny tiny and powerful ways to save
46:10 Pattie's wise advice about money and freedom
LEARN MORE ABOUT PATTI HERE
https://www.instagram.com/pattie_lovettreid/?hl=en
https://twitter.com/PattieCTV
https://www.ctvnews.ca/more/ctv-national-news-team/patricia-lovett-reid-1.816681
0:55 How Natasha found the courage to walk away from a 6-figure corporate job
3:00 How Natasha dealt with the discomfort of career transition
6:20 How did Natasha learn to listen to herself
8:00 What drew Natasha to psychology
10:05 What Natasha has learned from providing relationship counseling
11:30 What is important about relationships
13:50 Do you really need to have a relationship? Does that solve everything? Natasha weighs in
15:00 Do women receive different messages when it comes to relationships?
16:45 Is it possible to have equality in male/female relationships?
23:00 Why both men and women are from planet earth! How we can value diversity between us in relationships
29:00 What are the keys to success in a romantic relationship
30:20 Natasha shares s deeply profound mindset shift to support healthy romantic relationships
31:30 Do we have unrealistic expectations for our romantic relationships
35:00 How we know when it’s time to end a relationship?
37:15 What are things we should stop doing in our relationships?
40:08 Julie + Liz share one mistake they have been making in relationships
44:00 Who inspires Natasha
48:30 What is Natasha’s afterglow?
52:00 Natasha's wise words on how to live
LEARN MORE ABOUT NATASHA HERE
https://www.natashasharma.com/
https://www.instagram.com/dr_natashasharma/
Dive deep into nervous system regulation with Nicole Lohse. We cover how to get past your blocks and into bliss!
SHOW NOTES
1:52 What is Feldenkrais
3:02 What gets stuck in the body
3:43 What is somatic experiencing
4:02 What is trauma.
4:42 What does it mean to live in survival
5:37 How yoga helps
6:52 What do we lose in survival
7:52 What takes us away from ourselves
9:52 How women can move past social conditioning
10:37 What is the autonomous nervous system and why is it important
11:40 How trauma affects our nervous system
13:22 What is nervous system regulation and dysregulation
15:22 What is the shutdown response. Are we in shutdown when we’re using our phones?
18:22 How awareness and curiosity can help us learn about our nervous system responses
20:12 Julie shares what she’s learning about her nervous system responses
21:52 How does trauma show up in our bodies
24:22 How does bottling up emotions relate to our nervous systems
25:22 One thing you may not have known about the cry response
26:22 Nicole’s longing for our world
28:22 What brought Nicole to this work
31:52 Do we all have some form of trauma?
32:22 The difference between happiness and regulation
37:22 How to digest stress
39:52 What inspires Nicole
40:22 How Nicole knows her inner truth and what supported her
41:52 Differentiating between our truth and our trauma. Both live in the body
43:22 How to recognize your deeper knowing
44:52 What is Nicole’s Afterglow
46:05 One thing Nicole wants our listeners to know
LEARN MORE ABOUT THE NERVOUS SYSTEM WITH NICOLE’S FREE WEBINAR
https://nicolelohse.mykajabi.com/free-survival-guide
LEARN MORE ABOUT NICOLE
https://www.nicolelohse.com/
2:15 Kate’s inspiring tweet on resiliency and overcoming resistance. Words you need to hear if you’re thinking of giving up.
4:30 Kate shares her courageous transition from school teacher in Ottawa to actor in Toronto.
5:40 When you have everything but something’s still missing
6:15 What Kate lost when she sacrificed her longing for the need to belong
8:30 Kate’s earliest supporters
9:30 How Kate found her authentic self
10:40 Kate shares how she knew it was time to shift
11:00 How Kate found the courage to listen to her inner wisdom
14:20 Kate is beautifully honest! Listening to your inner wisdom is not always easy
16:00 Kate shares how she used to hide the things she thought were once ugly
19:00 The strength of compassion and Kate’s wise words to her younger self
20:00 Kate shares how beauty can be both a help and a hindrance in acting
23:30 The freedom that comes in life after 40
25:00 Kate reveals one of her mentors
26:00 Acting and aging and what inspires Kate to be an actor
29:00 As women we often apologize for wanting more or for putting ourselves first. Kate’s inspiring words on how we work together to support women’s dreams
34:00 Why it’s ok to not always fit in
35:45 Where Kate finds inspiration
37:00 Kate’s charity work and love for animals
42:00 Kate reveals her afterglow. It’s a good one!! We want this for you Kate!
45:00 Kate’s final and super wise words of encouragement!
LEARN MORE ABOUT KATE BELOW
https://twitter.com/KateDrummond
https://www.katedrummond.com/
1:00 Julie’s real life use of connected parenting
3:55 The superpower of connected parenting
5:00 Daring to be there through the connected parenting approach
6:30 The real strength in letting go of control
7:20 The honest truth about parenting + what’s hard about parenting today
11:30 Let’s get real about parenting
12:45 What is the CALM technique
17:00 Jennifer’s compassionate advice for moms
18:30 The two options available in life and parenting
20:00 Why we need more empathy and what you need to know about your frontal lobe
22:30 All about your midbrain
23:00 You are not a parent. Learn why
24:00 Learn how you help your kids regulate
26:00 How connected parenting changes the world
27:00 Kids today? You’re intuition is right. They are different
28:30 Raising gladiator kids
30:00 Raising gladiator girls
32:00 Balance between male and the female
34:00 Hope for a changing world
36:00 The big-hearted story behind Jennifer’s approach
39:45 A quick compassion-based tip to defuse any difficult situation
42:45 Consciousness, energy and heart-brain coherence
45:45 The power of repair. It’s never too late
47:36 Tips on how to use the CALM technique
48:30 Do the reverse rant!
LEARN MORE ABOUT JENNIFER KOLARI
https://connectedparenting.com/
https://twitter.com/jenniferkolari?lang=en
2:00 Jeff is committed to overcoming toxic masculine conditioning. He demonstrates his practice right from the start
3:50 When the conditioning starts for men
5:20 Why men need to flex their emotional muscles
8:40 Why true strength comes from being vulnerable. What is the new measure of a man?
10:40 What gets in the way of men having honest vulnerable conversations
12:00 What is the ladder to manhood. How are men conditioned and what are the differences between men of different races
14:00 The false idea of manhood and why it’s no longer working
16:00 What is the emotional toolbox
17:30 The devaluing of women in today’s world
19:00 How can we support men in developing their emotional toolbox
23:10 The power of compassion in dissolving shame and gratitude for women
24:30 Is Jeff a feminist?
26:00 Jeff shares what motivates him. How racism affected his father
29:45 Jeff shares who inspires him
33:15 How do we raise our boys to be emotionally aware
37:30 How we can get past micro-aggressions and our own expectations around how a man should be?
40:00 Baby steps to changing this world
41:00 What is Jeff’s afterglow?
LEARN MORE ABOUT JEFF PERERA
https://higherunlearning.com/
https://www.instagram.com/jeffperera/
https://twitter.com/jeffperera
00:15 Enjoy a sample track from Measha’s new jazz album!
2:00 Something is always on fire, let it be you who sets it ablaze.
3:30 The importance of burning up what no longer works. Live life as an act of service.
5:00 Measha does yoga! What she gets out of the practice
7:00 Transformation is possible for anyone
9:00 Why Measha tackled weight loss and now focusses on her health
11:00: How Measha found the courage and strength to push forward after health scares. Measha shares her powerful and empowering views on God.
15:30 Measha shares why we don’t have to be perfect. Flawed people are good people.
17:00 How Measha found the courage to speak her voice.
20:30 How Measha embraces her sensuality and why we all should.
24:00 Measha speaks about her purpose
27:30 Raising powerful and resilient children, Measha–style!
29:30 Measha shares her afterglow and inspires others to do the same
32:00 Measha’s wise and funny words to her 15 year-old-self
34:00 Measha’s inspiring words to all women.
35:30 Enjoy a sample track from Measha’s new jazz album!
LEARN MORE ABOUT MEASHA HERE:
https://www.measha.com/en/
https://www.instagram.com/meashabg/?hl=en
SHOW NOTES
2:10 What is war child? How war child creates real change through long-term empowerment and equality programs
5:10 With so much going on in our own backyard, why should we care about war abroad? Why altruism shouldn’t stop at our borders
6:20 How Samantha’s early underdog experience helped shift her world view into caring for others
10:20 The old international aid models had to go. Why Samantha founded War Child to disrupt old what wasn’t working
12:20 How Samantha has worked to overcome doubt. How she found courage in wanting to create a better world
16:20 Why it’s important for all of us women to be more vocal and take more risks
18:20 Achieving and loving academics and feeling comfortable in your own skin
23:05 Finding resiliency during adversity. How distance-based learning is changing education for young girls in Eastern Congo
26:20 Lifting up female leadership to change the world
28:20 Why we should “big-tent” our feminism and care about gender equality everywhere.
31:20 How can we help. Simple ways to give make a difference. Give, volunteer. Think locally and internationally.
33:20 What is Samantha’s afterglow? A world without war is possible
35:20 How does Samantha care for herself doing the work she does
38:20 What Sam does for fun. Some surprising facts you might not expect from a war doctor.
41:20 What would Samantha say to her 15-year old self? Kind, encouraging words for a less courageous Sam
44:20 Who inspires Sam?
45:50 Tap into your voice. Understand what matters to you. Speak up and share those experiences. Celebrate women who are working towards change.
LEARN MORE ABOUT SAMANTHA NUTT + WAR CHILD
www.warchild.ca
www.instagram.com/drsamnutt/
SHOW NOTES
1:55 Yay for yoga. Mary gets her good ideas through savasana.
4:10 Mary is inspired by her hard-working parents, small business owners, immigrants who have inspired her tenacity and work ethic.
5:15: Mary learned her business savvy and the confidence to be powerful from her mom
8:30 Despite, conflicting messaging around how women should be, Mary believes a woman can do it all-sort of
10:00 Mary dishes on hormones. Hormones are chemical messengers that make things happen.
13:30 Changes in estrogen lead to weight changes in puberty which can potentially be related to the decline in confidence that happens in some girls.
14:50 The beauty of the XX chromosome. Women carry life. Without women humanity stops.
17:00 Our menstrual cycle is a superpower!! How can we deal with the ups and downs? Learn about the three phases of your period so you can deal with the ups and downs.
21:00 Knowledge is power. For example too much estrogen can lead to weight gain and anger. Too little can lead to depression and lack of motivation
24:00 Track your cycle.
26:00 Your gut health is important. It affects your estrogen.
30:00 What is success for a woman?
38:00 Let’s normalize menstruation. We need to share that message with both girls and boys.
TO LEARN MORE ABOUT MARY, VISIT
https://somaandsoul.ca/mary-choi/
https://www.instagram.com/somaandsoulwellness/
https://www.facebook.com/somaandsoulwellness/
2:54: Important things to think about before starting a business - no jargon
4:40 The brilliance behind the SHEEO model
7:43 Big goals, growth + impact
8:53 Criteria for funding. Let’s create a better world
9:50 Everything’s broken. What a great time to be alive.
11:40 The importance of purpose
13:15 Only 4% of bank loans/vc funding goes to women owned businesses.
14:30 Everything needs to be redesigned.
15:45 Vicki’s personal story about finding courage
19:00 Are we in a she-cession? How does covid-19 change entrepreneurship for women
20:40 Strong tips for starting a business
23:00 How to discover your own strengths
26:00 The audacious ask and giving + receiving
28:00 If anything was possible, what would you create
30:30 Vicki talks about her partner and self care routine
32:00 Aging and Vicki shares her age
34:00 Vicki shares what inspires her
36:00 Vicki shares her afterglow.
39:00 Advice for her 15 year old self
Learn more about Vicki at
https://sheeo.world/
https://www.instagram.com/sheeo_world/
1:30: Tiffany leads us in a love-powered grounding practice
3:45: The power of breathing and letting go of perfection
4:30: Imposter syndrome, dream chasing and being happy
6:00: Tiffany opens up about creativity + childhood challenges
9:30: How Tiffany found resilience in face of adversity
13:26 Living with purpose
16:00 Using energy, spirituality + meditation
18:00 Staying connected to inner truth
20:00 Tiffany’s well-being practices
22:00 Overcoming social conditioning and being true to who you are
25:00 Self expression + creativity
30:00 Love jamming’ and spreading love
35:00 Rebranding from Gillter Pie to Tiffany Pratt
41:00 What inspires Tiffany Pratt
44:00 What would you say to your 15 year old self?
48:00 Tiffany’s advice for other creatives out there
LEARN MORE about Tiffany’s design, podcast and awesome love-powered presence
https://tiffanypratt.com/
Insta: @thetiffanypratt
Twitter: @thetiffanypratt
1:20 We love Erica Ehm!
4:00 Erica shares how she reinvents herself
5:10 Why Erica listens to her heart
8:22 A valuable lesson Erica learned at age 8
10:00 The power of asking
12:50 How to deal with rejection
15:00 Be resilient like a boxer
17:00 The secret to a good marriage
18:30 The power of community
19:55 One thing Erica will never promote on her web site
20:30 What is feminism
22:00 What pisses you off. And one thing in need of an overhaul in society
24:24 The superpower of self-esteem
26:16 Disruption, rule-breaking and innovation
29:29 The curse and blessing of being a crush
33:00 Tips on how to reinvent yourself
35:00 How to reinvent yourself through micro-innnovation
37:10 How old are you Erica?
39:00 What’s your afterglow?
Learn more about Erica at
https://www.yummymummyclub.ca/
https://www.ericaehm.com/
We continue to turn the mic on each other and Liz interviews Julie
WE LEARN ABOUT:
How old is Julie? Why Julie thinks we should be proud about our age (0:50)
We see Julie as confident and brave but things aren't always as they appear. Julie reflects upon her childhood (2:30)
How do you deal with the inner critical voices in your head. Hearing voices is normal! At least for us. Julie shares how she overcomes the inner voices that don't reflect who she truly is (4:30)
How do you trust yourself? Julie talks about the importance of listening to your gut and developing awareness (6:40)
Shameless plug for yoga. Why extroverts still need quiet moments (7:45)
Tell us about some of the challenges you encountered when you started afterglow. Julie shares her purpose and how she stayed resilient. (8:40)
What inspires you now? Julie shares her love for her daughter and the importance of role modeling (11:20)
What would you tell your 15-year-old self. Julie shares the importance of compassion, resiliency and self love (13:45)
What's your Afterglow? Julie shares her inspiring vision for the next 50 years! (15:27)
What else do you want women to know. Julie shares what's possible for all of us! (17:15)
We turn the mic on each other, and in this first interview, Julie interviews Liz.
WE LEARN ABOUT:
How have you overcome or are you overcoming the challenges that work towards your courageous life? Liz shares her struggle with anxiety (2:05)
Why were you keeping yourself small? Liz reflects on her upbringing(4:04)
When did you notice that you stopped being courageous. Liz reflects on our collective cultural conditioning and how that shows up in our bodies (5:30)
How has the church impacted you. Liz's views on the impact of early religious upbringing (7:10)
How did you learn to step into courage. How Liz practices confidence and courage (8:00)
Are you learning to trust yourself more. The impact of practice (9:15)
What would you tell your 15 year old self. Liz reflects on what her 15 year old self needed to know and how yoga helped. (10:10)
Who or what inspires you to be your most courageous self. Liz shares her love for her kids (13:00)
What would you like all women to know. Liz shares her views on the importance of practice (14:30)
Julie asks the most powerful question - What is your afterglow? Liz shares her vision of the future. It may not be what you think! (16:00)
Anything else you want listeners to know? Learn how to practice trusting yourself (19:20)
It's time.
Julie and Liz introduce themselves and The Afterglow to the world.
Why did we create it? What does it mean?
This podcast gives you the permission and tools to create your courageous second act.
It’s for you who has spent your past, living life according to the historic societal expectations of women. And it’s for you who is committed to a future, beyond limits, of passion, self-expression and fulfilment.
With a good dose of fun and laughter, Julie and Liz will explore everything from nutrition to career to parenting to relationship with some inspiring + experienced guests.
Your best life is still ahead of you.
We call that the Afterglow.