ChessMyLife: Recent Episodes
Sam
Embark in a journey with me for personal growth and self-development. I will share my learnings about this never-ending work in this podcast. Life is a big game of chess, and i like to look at it from a strategic perspective. If you do too, come and listen!
CML Season 3 Episode 6 - Resting and recharging
In this episode I will share with you a few examples of consequences stemming from a lack of rest and having low energy, before explaining ho wi try to avoid being restless.
Intro
Why does time fly by? - 1’10”
Be 100% present - 2’50”
What if you cannot be energised in the present - 3’20”
A physiological need - 5’30”
Find you sleep pattern - 6’05”
Schedule time off - 6’55”
Shout out to Kyle Rapp - 7’20”
Listen to yourself - 8’10”
Learn how to disconnect - 8’52”
Conclusion - 9’42”
Outro - 10’20”
CML Season 3 Episode 5 - Why alone time is important?
In this episode I will share with you my view on the benefits of spending time alone, with oneself. It has not always been my favorite activity but I learned to appreciate it :)
Intro
Something I did not like - 1’00”
Why it was uncomfortable - 1’50”
My discoveries - 3’05”
The source of all problems - 4’05”
Why is it important to be alone then? - 5’05”
Do you know yourself? 5’25”
Control your thoughts - 6’40”
Help you set a vision - 8’25”
Love yourself - 9’35”
Conclusion - 10’10”
Outro - 10’37”
CML Season 3 Episode 4: About Patience…
In this episode I will share with you my take on patience. Depending when you are in life, your beliefs or your upbringing it can be seen either as a virtue or as a flaw. Let’s go!
Intro
Have you ever been asked to be patient? 50”
The “P” word anecdote - 1’30”
Patience evolved for me - 1’50”
Is there A definition for Patience - 2’51”
Pain & pleasure again -3’’45”
David Goggins’ quote - 4’50”
Understand the process - 6’20”
Why do we have to be patient again? 8’16”
Patience is a tool - 9’10”
Conclusion - 9’30”
Outro - 10’50
CML Season 3 Episode 3: Lower your stress levels
In this episode I talk about the “stress” we all face and hear about every day. As we want to avoid it, we need to understand what it is, its root cause and origins. Let’s dive in!
Intro
Stress is anxiety ? - 1’20”
Common triggers for stress - 3’30”
Lack of preparation - 4’05”
Not in control of your time - 5’10”
Change - 7’50”
Conclusion - 9’25”
Outro - 9’56”
CML Season 3 Episode 2: No “fit for all” solutions
In this episode I will talk about the tough reality that there is no solution that will fit everyone. What does that mean? That even the best advice and techniques shared by the best growth and personal development professional will not necessarily work for you as-is. What does it mean? That you should not listen? Not at all! It means that you need to find your way through guiding principles.
Intro
So many recipes… - 50”
Mindset principle - 2’15”
Asking the right questions - 5’45”
Be curious - 10’36”
Learn, Try, Fail quickly! even if it is not easy - 12’20”
Conclusion - 16’00”
Outro - 16’35”
CML Season 3 Episode 1 - Life is a Program
In this episode I will explain why I believe your life should be considered as a Program, from a Project Management perspective and what that means. I will then share with you my views on how a project can be managed and therefore how your life can be managed :) Let’s go!
Intro
Where are we at? - 0’41”
What is next then? - 2’02”
Listen to yourself - 2’55”
What is Program Management - 3’55”
Define your projects - 5’30”
Define the benefits YOU want - 6’00”
Define your timeline and measure of success - 6’35”
Build a project plan - 7’10”
Start with one Project before a full Program - 7’45”
Project Management Tips - 9’00”
Conclusion - 12’30”
Outro - 13’05”
Season 2 Episode 13: Mindfulness
In this episode I will talk about Mindfulness. It is something we hear a lot about and I wanted to share with you some insights about it so you can try it out! It is a process and you may not succeed the first time but I encourage you to persevere.
Intro
Time flies - 50”
Be anchored - 1’30”
Mindfulness - 2’15”
The Non-Judgment concept - 3’00”
The benefits - 6’00"
How can we make a habit of it? - 7’30”
Outro - 8’38”
Season 2 Episode 12: Mentorship
In this episode I will talk about Mentorship. What is it exactly and how does it work? Interesting thing I will touch on as well is that it is a win-win relationship at the end of the day, not only a one person benefit process.
Intro
Let’s start with a quote - 52”
Mentoring only? - 1’30”
The purpose of mentorship - 2’00”
Sport analogy, how does this work? - 3’00”
Being a mentor - 4’40”
Being a mentee - 6’30”
How to find mentors?? - 7’30”
Outro - 10’00”
Season 2 Episode 11: Vulnerability
In this episode I will talk about vulnerability. I will tell what I thought it was and what I think it represents today. I will show you how this is a quality and how it is essential to growth.
Intro
Is vulnerability equal to weakness? - 1’10”
A new outlook on vulnerability - 1’40”
A misleading definition - 2’10”
Opening up and being honest with you - 3’05”
A testimony of courage - 4’40”
Time to open up outward, be real - 4’55”
Start being accountable - 6’40”
Conclusion - 9‘20“
Outro - 11’00”
Season 2 Episode 10: Action Beats Anxiety
In this episode I will talk about anxiety: what is anxiety and to which extent we should be worried about it? We will then look into solutions to beat this anxiety…and as the title eludes to it, there will be some action!
Intro
What is Anxiety - 1’25”
A response mechanism… - 2’20”
To show a lack of control - 3’55”
How can we beat it then? - 3’35”
The first action to take - 4’10”
Next action does not need to be big - 5’20”
Make it a habit - 6’40”
Quick recap - 7’30”
Outro - 8’20”
In this episode I will talk about Time. How do we look at it? How does it impact our day to day? And most importantly for me: "when" should we live? Get on this episode to understand where I am going with this….or when actually :)
Intro
Weird sayings to start with - 42”
You knew it but time flies - 1’22”
How to visualize time? -2’00”
Importance of being conscious about time - 3’00”
Where do/did I stand? - 5’00”
Today is Yesterday- 6’20”
Long term and short terms impacts - 7’30”
Tomorrow is Never - 8’27”
Time does not care about anything - 9’00”
Take aways - 9’40”
Outro - 18’00
In this episode I am walking you through my views around playing the life game considering the rules in place. I feel like this is like a Monopoly game but you tell me what you think after you listened ;)
Intro
The rules of the game - 1’22”
Think Monopoly - 2’40”
How do we play with them rules? - 1’48”
Taking Responsibility - 4’50”
Eyes and ears opened - 7’10”
Conclusion - 12’08”
Outro - 12’31”
In this episode I will talk about the sabbatical I took this year. It was a very positive experience and I wanted to share with you how I came about making this decision, what I gained from it and what is my way forward. Ultimately, it is an experience that I believe is worth sharing as it may help you making a decision to take a leap…or not. Let’s see what you think.
Intro
The podcast is back after a Sabbatical - 42”
What is a sabbatical? - 1’20”
Why did I take a sabbatical?- 2’22”
Did I deserve a sabbatical? - 4’40”
What did I do during this sabbatical? - 5’55”
What did I learn during this sabbatical? - 8’52”
Conclusion: is a sabbatical worth it? - 17’12”
Outro - 18’00”
In this episode I will talk about the doubts you may have when you are on your way to achieve something, being a specific goal or achieving your vision. It can be difficult to feel good about you journey because you do not know if you are on the right track. Look around! there are signs you are doing well. Learn how to read those signs so you keep the momentum!
Intro
We all wonder if we are - 1’06”
Sign #1: You have a goal - 2’15”
Sign #2: Things get tough - 3’05”
Sign #3: Remember the A-Team - 4’10”
Sign #4: Do you care? - 5’10”
Sign #5: Are you tired? - 6’35”
The importance of reading the signs - 8’10”
Outro - 9’40”
In this episode i will talk about how we can sometimes be confused about the habits we have and think they are actually good for us… yeah, I’m just fine, i am doing my stuffs… We need to pay attention and make sure we are not just afraid of doing what it takes to be great instead of being just fine!
Intro
50” - Habits vs. what is truly good for us
2’30 - Pierre de Coubertin
3’45” - What are your standards?
4’30” - It comes down to fear
5’25” - Fear of the unknown
6’50” - Fear of the effort
9’40” - Fear of what others think
11’30” - Forget about short-cuts
12’56” - Outro
One of the things that helps us understand how we focus our attention and specifically to what we focus our attention to is understanding the hierarchy of needs. It suggests that people are motivated to fulfil basic needs before moving on to another, more advanced need. I am going to share with you my take on this theory on in this episode. Let’s dive in!
Intro
Time flies - 0’46”
The Maslow pyramid - 1’17”
Another Cobra Kai reference… - 3’35”
Security - 4’17”
Importance - 5’00”
Connection - 5’32”
Diversity - 6’07”
What do we do with this? - 6’32”
Survival vs. happiness - 7’05”
Higher needs - 8’50”
The take away - 10’00”
Outro - 10’44”
In a chess game, we have an endgame: it is the stage of the game when few pieces are left on the board. The King, which has to be protected in the middle game owing to the threat of checkmate, becomes a strong piece in the Endgame. The last move is called “checkmate” ;) Let’s talk about your life endgame in this short episode today!
Intro
Stuffs to do…. - 55”
What is the endgame? - 1’40”
Begin with the end in mind - 2’29”
Having a compass - 3’55”
Your passion - 4’25”
How do you want to spend your time? - 5’25”
Contribution - 6’15”
Outro - 7’28”
Today we will focus on health and I will share with you the 3 keys I learned along the way in order to ensure I can perform. Now you will maybe say that you knew them already, and then it’s great, it will be a refresher, but don't forget there is a big difference between knowing something and actually doing it :) In a chess game, we all know how to move the pieces and that we need to kill the King right? However, we do not always win the game... we have to learn, practice and eventually get the results! Let’s dive in!
Intro
Why health is key? - 1’40”
The right Fuel - 2’20”
Physical activities - 3’20”
The right mindset - 4’10”
Truth about those 3 “things” - 5’02”
First real key - 5’10”
Second real key - 7’12”
Third real key - 8’05”
Knowledge and Practice - 8’56”
Outro - 9’19”
2021! Happy New Year to you all! What a better way to start the new year than with a chat around the importance of goal planning? One of the most challenging things i have faced is to actually understand what a true goal is. Then obviously how do we make it happen is a big question too! Let me walk you through my approach and explain why this process is super important. Let’s do this!
Intro
What i think about new year’s resolutions - 1’05”
What a true goal is? - 2’50”
A look back on the previous year - 5’45”
What do you want for this year? - 8’20”
Who do you want to be? 9’38”
Identify your goals (finally!!!) - 11’00”
Working backwards from… - 13’35”
It takes more than 15 minutes, I can help - 16’00”
Outro - 16’52”
In this episode I will talk about the concept of time well spent and why it is important to be mindful about how you spend your time. I will share a few tips as well.
Intro
1’34“ - Time Saving Account concept
2’12“ - No regrets
2’40“ - Excuses
3’45“ - Time well spent
4’07“ - Time Management
4’55“ - Spend time to think
5’36“ - Spend time to plan
6’15“ - Spend free time
6’48“ - Spend time with your loved ones
7’11“ - Maximize your time
7’45“ - Learn how to say no and delegate
8’50“ - Clock is ticking
9’16“ - Outro
In this episode I will talk about an interesting formula to be applied to events in your life that are not the nicest ones, so you do not feel miserable or suffer too long when they happen.
Intro
1’15“ - You have 2 options
1’45“ - Why complaining gets you miserable?
2’45“ - Love is around you
3’15“ - You are acting irresponsibly
4’23“ - Pain and suffering
5’10“ - Pain is mandatory BUT suffering is optional
6’05“ - You decide you do not want to suffer
7’00“ - Life is not unfair
8’15“ - The E+C=R formula
8’55“ - A 4 steps process to apply the formula: acknowledge pain, express gratitude, look for the gift and enjoy your new state of mind
12’44'“ - Simple formula but not always easy to apply
13’15“ - Contribution is the icing on the cake
13’34“ - Outro
Episode 16
Looking up to your hero is good and positive! Do you know why? Let’s talk about the fact you may be surprised about how many heroes you have inside of you.
Intro
1’30” - Why do we have Heroes? All about emotions…
2’36” - They show us the way
3’26” - Different heroes for different situations
3’55” - Are we the Avengers now???
5’45” - I guess we are… in a sense :)
6’15” - We have different masks to wear
7’30” - You got to do your best and one of your heroes can help you
8’20” - Select the one you need for the situation you are in
9’00” - BE YOURSELF!!!
9’36” - Do not forget that anyone can be your hero
10’26” - YOU ARE THE HERO OF YOUR LIFE !!
Outro - 10’54”
Episode 15
In this episode I will talk about the 3 brains we have in our head and how they influence our behaviour. Also, I will talk about the 4th brain we all need to acknowledge and pay attention to.
Intro
1’00” - Why do we need to understand those 3 brains?….did I say 3??
1’18” - The “ancestors”’ brain - survival!!!
3’35” - The emotional tracker
7’15” - The rational brain
9’10” - Quick recap: which one to use? And why?
10’10” - Listen to your heart!!!
12’15” - Example please!
14’09” - Shut up Limbic brain!
Outro
In this episode I will give you 3 tips to make sure that you always are in the right emotional state and have the energy to push through the actions you have to take. Because as Master Yoda said: Do or Do not, there is no try!
Intro
52” - Do or Do not mentality
1’20” - How to be locked in your commitment to do?
2’09” - High emotional state
3’33” - Your physiology
6’00” - Your internal monologue
9’22” - Where is your focus?
11’18” - All for one and one for all!
12’40” - Outro
This episode is here to let you know that you don’t have to do it all alone and I am specifically explaining to you why, according to me, a coach is one way to move better and faster forward towards your goals and dreams.
Intro
1’02” - You are not alone
1’35” - Deal with your ego
2’45” - We know it all….in theory
3’35” - The big “why” to hire a coach
4’00” - Coaching for everything but…
5’57” - ...Life
8’20” - My personal view on the benefits of having a coach: I got a new best friend
9’29” - Honesty, vulnerability, trust
10’30” - No more BS-ing
12’43” - Accountability and new standards
13’45” - Commitment
14’32” - New perspective
15’25” - Change of mindset
16’48” - Outro
An episode dedicated to the importance of your values. Let’s see where they come from and how we can use them to our pursuit of happiness.
Intro
2’22” - Moral Values
2’50” - Aesthetic Values
3’25” - Family values
4’05” - So where do they come from?
4’50” - Why again is it important to know them?
6’05” - Examples
7’55” - What do we do if we focus on the wrong ones?
8’55” - If you were free to do whatever…
9’20” - why would I do it?
10’20” - Few values you may come up with
11’20” - Your new values against what you do daily
12’20” - Why did we do that again??? Oh right!
12’45” - Outro
CML - Episode 11
In this new episode I will talk about the limiting beliefs and try to understand what they are, where they are coming from and how to eliminate them. Wanna be your own life DJ? Listen to this.
Intro
1’28” - What is a limiting belief?
2’54” - The inner DJ in yourself
4’33” - External Sources
6’30” - Internal Sources
8’12” - How to reset those beliefs?
12’22” - Outro
In this short episode I am talking about change and how change actually happens.
You can flip it the way you want, but at the end of the day, change always starts with yourself…
Intro
48” - Who needs to change?
1’45” - What did I do wrong?
2’10” - Pause and reflect
2’48” - The mirror effect
4’52” - Congruency ( it is not a swear word!)
7’00” - Vulnerability
8’52” - A few last words
9’20” - Outro
In this Episode I will talk about Routines and who I believe the are important in our growth. Routine often rhymes with boring (especially in French), but it really comes down to the purpose of them and how they can help us achieve at a high level consistently.
Time Stamps:
Intro
42” - Reminder on Discipline
1’57” - Routines for me
2’45” - Example in sport
3’30’” - ZZ and his routine :)
5’30” - The routine’s purpose
8’”00 - What about growth and routine?
9’30” - The 3 steps to create a routine
9’50” - Step #1: identify where you need routines
12’50” - Step #2: identify the physical and emotional state you need to be in
20’06” - Step #3: Execute and repeat, no matter what!
22’20 - Devil is in the details
23’05” - Outro
In this episode i will explain why we cannot rely on motivation only if we want to achieve our goals. We need to practice persistence and understand how we can have it as an ally.
Intro
1’10” - Good days and bad days…
3’00” - The 4 keys to acquire persistence
4’12” - Key #1: A definite purpose
8’35” - Key #2: A detailed plan
12’55” - Key #3: A positive mindset
14’30” - Key #4: A mastermind group
18’04” - Conclusion: don't rely on motivation only
20’08” - Outro
In this episode i will try to talk about the various causes for inaction in order to understand how to avoid these enemies, and reach your goals. You cannot skip your turn in a chess game, can you? Well, same in life, you have to do your part, play your game and avoid the inaction trap.
Intro
1'30" - The Godfather piece of advice
1'52" - Enemy #1: Deliberate Inaction
4'00" - Do not be fooled! Patience is different :)
6'07" - Enemy #2: Procrastination
- The "anxiety" type
- The "boring" type
- The "I have too much time" type
- The "perfectionist" type
17'54" - Enemy # 3: Fears
- Fear of failure
- Fear of pain
- Fear of success
- Fear of the unknown
30'20" - Repetition will help you take action
Outro
In this episode i will do my best to convince you that habits can actually be beneficial and create positive results through discipline :) Challenge accepted!!!
Intro
42" - Discipline is freedom
1'08" - A bit of a paradox
2'42" - What is freedom?
3'22" - Freedom has a cost
4'28" - What is discipline?
6'06" - How to create discipline?
7'30" - The cycle of habits
9'10" - Habits cannot be deleted, but replaced
11'10" - Habits towards a purpose
12'30" - Find your identity
13'30" - i'm getting to the point
14'20" - Conclusion
16'41"- Icing on the cake :)
16'55" - Outro
In this episode I will walk you through the process of how I divided my life into different areas. If you apply this, you will be clearer on where your focus is most needed and also how to optimise those areas of life: this is how you will get to your goals! Come and listen to understand how to craft this strategy!
Time Stamps:
Intro
50" - Reminder on ownership
1'10" - Areas of life: what is it?
2'30" - How many do we have??
4'30" - How does this work? - Examples
8'03" - How do we set this up Chess-style?
9'15" - My personal baseline proposal - basics
12'50" - Time to make your baseline
14'00" - Purpose and Desired outcome
16'16" - Reality Check
18'30" - Set the new standards
20'49" - Outro
In this new episode i will share with you my views on one of the fundamental skill required to your self-development.
Think of it as a call to stop blaming others, fate or the stars for your lack of results.
It is probably going to be a change of mindset but that is absolutely mandatory for your growth: ownership! We are 100% responsible for our goals, actions and outcomes!
0' - 0'42" Intro
2'38" - My initial understanding of ownership
3'43" - A literal definition of ownership
7'08" - An enemy of "ownership"
9'53" - Ownership is simple, but it is not easy
13'"05 - Setting the bar high
15'"30 - Build a plan
17'10" - Shut down the animal brain
18'25" - Consistency in actions
20'20" - Conclusion: No Easy Way Out
21'07" - Outro
In this episode, I will talk about the importance of your ultimate vision. Why is it important to have one and how to create it.
Everything starts from an idea, a thought: if you want to achieve something you must have a clear vision of that something.
Intro - DID I EVER HAVE A VISION?
3’10 - HOW DID I FORGET ABOUT IT?
4’30 - WHY IS IT IMPORTANT TO HAVE A VISION?
6’25 - THE POWER OF THE BRAIN
8’55 - A QUICK VISUALISATION EXERCISE
17’24 - HOW DOES YOUR PERFECT DAY LOOK LIKE?
19’10 - WHAT IS YOUR 15-20 YEARS VISION
22’10 - Conclusion
In this episode, I will talk about what i call the 4S requirements that allow oneself to kick off, sustain and enjoy the journey to growth.
I believe those can apply to either self development, relationships but also your career at work. I am even tempted to say to anything you are trying to improve in life.
I would define the 4S as the Formula for growth. When i think about any kind of areas where anyone has demonstrated success, they somehow used the 4S.
3 min - SEEK KNOWLEDGE
10 min - STAY HUMBLE / SELF CRITICAL
16 min - STAND FOR YOURSELF ONLY
23 min - STEP FORWARD
29 min - Conclusion
This is the first episode on the Chess My Life Podcast hosted by Sam.
This episode is dedicated to.....ME! :)
Through this introduction i would like for you guys to know me better!
Who is Sam?
Where is he coming from?
Where does he want to go?
I hope you will enjoy it!
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Sam