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Do you ever feel like a fraud? Like any minute, people will see through the facade and see you for what you are...a fake. Just pretending while everyone else clearly has it all figured out. This is imposter syndrome. And it shows up in more ways than you can imagine. So let's talk about it and share some real world examples so you put it rest for good.
People make manifesting so much harder than it needs to be. Complicated. Conflicted. Frustrating. The truth of the matter is that it's a simple, natural process. Something anyone can do with ease. If only we'd get out if our way! In this episode we break down the most common ways that people tend to muck up the process and make it infinitely harder than it needs to be.
Manifesting is a word that gets thrown around a lot these days. And for some people it can all seem pretty woo. People are right to be skeptical. Most times, it's talked about in vague terms, or made out to be some supernatural occurrence. That's why we broke it down into no-nonsense terms in this episode of Illumination Podcast.
Nothing destroys productivity and self esteem quite like procrastination. I don't care who you are, when you break agreements with yourself, it puts a chink in your confidence. Enough of those chinks and things start to get really shaky really fast. It doesn't feel good. So why do we do this? And more importantly, what can we do about it?! That's what you'll learn in this episode of Illumination Podcast™, "What to do about Procrastination." Kisma and Nick help you to understand why this happens and give you some of their best strategies for breaking this frustrating habit.
We've all got one of these... Maybe it's a cousin, or family member. Maybe it's a co-worker. Maybe a friend that gets on your nerves. Some people might tell you to just cut them out of your life. We're not those people (extreme cases aside, of course). Because these people a walking opportunities for your own personal development and insight. They can help us see parts of ourselves that we'd rather ignore. They give us a chance to develop new communication skills. Recognize our own triggers and vulnerabilities. But only if you have the right attitude toward them, and toward yourself. If you're like me, and you have trouble peopling from time to time. We'll show you what to do, and what NOT to do in these challenging situations. And who knows. That annoying cousin may just have a part of themselves they've never revealed that's more wonderful than you would have imagined. Let us know what you discover. Nick
It's been a minute! And we're so happy to be back in the podcast studio. This episode is based on a question that we get all the time, because it's not always easy to keep up with the pace of our modern world. Even if your life is full of awesome people and things, the sheer volume is sometimes overwhelming. Beyond that, when you start to stretch beyond your comfort zone- mentally, emotionally, spiritually- things can start to spin out. Sometimes this happens without even realizing! Nick shares an incredibly useful shift in perspective that will help you get your feet on the ground, and something simple you can do right now to set things right side up. Kisma goes to her roots in philosophy to cut through all the noise of the mind chatter so you can take your next step and follow through on your dreams. We can't wait to catch you up on all the fun things we've been up to. Listen in because we've got more episodes on the way, so stay tuned for weekly releases.
Regardless of where we are on the globe, humans come across the same type of challenges that can affect our mindset if we let it. The key is to take a difficult moment or experience and see the gift in it, pull out the good from it, and create something magical with it. This is what our special guest, Andrew Michael Simon did with his infamous Andy’s Licorice Talks— a bizarre and wonderful way he created a movement of clarinet players from all over the globe. Join Nick and Kisma for Episode 241 of Illumination Academy and their Special Celebrity Guest for a success mindset. Here's where you can connect with Andy:
I always love it when Kisma goes Cosmic. Today was one of those days. And you might be wondering how this is going to help you exist around other humans (part 3 of our latest series). But being about to see others from the Cosmic level changes everything. It puts everything in its right place and takes off a huge amount of pressure to be anything other than exactly who you are. Existing with other humans is part of the human experience. If you follow the simple instructions at the end of this episode, not only will you have more ease and confidence, you'll also open the door for profound healing and compassion. Atma Namaste!
Being around other people isn't always easy. We might be feeling insecure, or comparing ourselves to others. Or maybe feeling misunderstood, like no one will "get" you. Some of us are just very uncomfortable in unfamiliar situations. We feel you. And I know that the episode we have to share today will hit home. You'll learn three simple words that will give you everything you need to step in as your Authentic Self with more confidence and make wonderful connections. P.S. Thanks to Brené Brown for putting these three words together in such an amazing way, and inspiring this conversation.
+++++++++++++++ People are weird. Sometimes I just look a them and think, “Wow. I just…Wow…” And I’ll bet they think the same thing about me. And you for that matter, dear listener. Because we all live in our own little world, but we also have to deal with all the people we encounter- who are living in their own little worlds too. And sure, you can judge and criticize and ridicule all you want, but what if there were a better way? In this episode of Illumination Podcast, Kisma and I want to share how you can make a simple and instant shift that would turn the whole circus on its head and make dealing with other people a thousand times easier.
Honestly, we could talk about The Four Agreements all day. If you've never read the book, we highly recommend bumping it to the top of your list. And after that, make sure you check out the follow-up...The FIFTH agreement. Who knew there was a fifth one? Who knew we even needed one?! Spoiler alert: It's brilliant. And we definitely did need this one. In fact, it's especially relevant in the information age because it will help you separate truth from lies. It will also help you connect with others with compassion and understanding rather than frustration. This is one you don't want to miss. Listen in to the Fifth Agreement... Be Skeptical, But Learn To Listen! P.S. If you don't have a copy (I've gone through probably a dozen over the years) here's a link.
It seems simple enough. You probably learned it in kindergarten. But somewhere along the way, things started to slip.. Just a little at first. Maybe to save some time, or just because you got distracted. And every time you slip, it erodes a little more of your self-confidence. The self-judgmental chatter starts to ratchet up. The power of this one simple agreement is truly profound. And while it is simple to say, "Always do your best," actually doing it is another story. To stick to it, you'll need to understand ONE thing first... Join us as we talk about this pinnacle agreement from Don Miguel Ruiz's iconic book. Listen now. P.S. If you don't have a copy (I've gone through probably a dozen over the years) here's a link.
My dad had this very "Dad" saying I grew up hearing. He'd say, "Never assume. It makes and ass out of u and me." Us kids always giggled at that one, but turns out, Dad was spot on. When you take a deeper look at the assumptions we make and why we make them, it's staggering. Especially when you consider that those assumptions are one of the primary causes of "ALL the sadness and drama you've experienced in your life." I mean...just...wow. Fortunately, for us, Don Miguel Ruiz takes a deep look at assumptions in his 3rd agreement, and in this episode of Illumination Podcast we open the conversation up about how this applied in our daily lives. And honestly, it's a little mind blowing, and we can't wait to share it with you. P.S. If you don't have a copy (I've gone through probably a dozen over the years) here's a link.
When was the last time your life turned upside down because someone said something bad to you? We've all been there. But with this one simple agreement, you never need to experience that again. Ok, it might take a little practice, but it really is as simple as this lesson from The Four Agreements. In part 2 of our series covering this self help masterpiece, we talk in depth about the 2nd agreement, Don't Take Things Personally. Peace! Nick & Kisma P.S. If you don't have a copy (I've gone through probably a dozen over the years) here's a link.
The Four Agreements is on the short list of our favorite personal development books. Every time we revisit this gem, we find new insight and clarity. And the best part? It’s so incredibly simple. If you’ve read this book before, join us for a fresh conversation. If you’ve never read this book before, considering this an invitation to dive in a real treasure trove of wisdom. Peace! Nick & Kisma P.S. If you don't have a copy (I've gone through probably a dozen over the years) here's a link.
Love songs are beautiful. And terribly dysfunctional… Look, we love a great love song (or RomCom for that matter) as much as anyone. But the truth is that the beliefs and ideas deeply embedded in our culture around love and relationships create massive stress in relationships. When it comes to having happy and healthy relationships, it’s not always so simple… One person goes through a tough time, and pulls the other into it. (We’re in this together, right?) Toxicity creeps in. Slowly our energy is drained. Managing your energy in relationships is critical to stay out of these destructive patterns, but it can seem counterintuitive because of the beliefs we’ve picked up along the way about love and relationships. There’s one technique we teach that changes the game (you can learn it here) and there is one question that we ALWAYS get… This episode sets the record straight with fresh insight and powerful tools to allow more love and create more freedom in all of your relationships. Peace! Nick & Kisma P.S. You can find Nick’s energy training at
There is a number. This number carries profound weight because... It influences every area of your life. Especially how much abundance you have- or rather, how much Abundance you EXPERIENCE, which is what really matters. Only you know what your number really is. And if you can be honest enough with yourself to get to the truth of this number, you can make amazing changes in your life in a very short amount of time. In this episode of Illumination Podcast, Kisma and Nick take a deep look at this mysterious number and how Self Love impacts the abundance you have in life. What's your number? This concludes our 3-part series on Self Love. If you missed the previous episodes go here... We'll definitely circle back around to this topic, but in the meantime, you can look forward to a fresh conversation next week. Peace, Nick & Kisma Co-Hosts, Illumination Podcast
Loving yourself- I mean REALLY loving yourself- can seem impossible. There are so many "What ifs" and "Yeah buts." If you're like most people, sometimes the conversation in your head is positive and supportive. Other times...well... There's a reason the saying "Your own worst enemy" has stuck around for so long. With a topic as big and all-encompassing as Self Love, it's helpful to break it down into pieces. That way you know where to look when things start to slide off the rails or your self-talk takes a dark turn... Listen in as Nick breaks down the Five Foundations of Self Love step-by step. Which ones need to most work for you? Stay tuned because next week we'll be taking a deeper dive into Self Love and Abundance. You know that Kisma can't wait for that one! If you missed the previous episode, "" go to get caught up.
It's a simple thing really. Your relationship with yourself impacts literally every aspect of your life. ➡️ Your sense of peace and well being ➡️ Your mental clarity and confidence ➡️ Your relationships (ALL of them) ➡️ Your prosperity and career ➡️ Even your physical health! But it's also true that you can't read the label when you're inside the bottle... That's why conversations about Self Love are so important. Tune into this episode of Illumination Podcast as we explore just how deep your relationship with yourself goes, and what you can do to put it on a positive track. Stay tuned for next week's episode to learn the Five Foundations of Self Love.
In part 2 of this series on Anger, we explore the hidden underbelly of anger... ...the vulnerable places anger protect ...the call for change and transformation ...the use and misuse of anger Under it all is one big fat lie that Anger tells us. And once you see it, you can make wonderful changes in your life WITHOUT all the conflict. In fact, you can recover an extraordinary amount of time and energy just by doing a few very simple things. In this episode you'll learn an incredibly powerful exercise to stop the cycles of anger and get into a flow of positive energy. Listen in now to learn how... Resources The make your own peace treaty, check out Nick's training here. This series was inspired by Nick's Mystic's Message series. You can read them here... The Anger Games, part 3 () The Anger Games, part 4 () Listen in on our website at http://www.illuminationpodcast.com/ink228
What's making you angry these days? Family? Political stuff? Frustrated about money or your career? Kids? Anger is a powerful energy. Yes, it can be an agent for change, but at what cost to your mind, energy and relationships? In this 2-part series we'll break down 4 common games anger plays in our lives and how to shift it instantly. When you're awake to the games that anger plays with your mind and emotions, you can step out of it and decide for something different. Making positive changes in your life without the wanton destruction of Anger is a new kind of freedom and ease we wish for you. Listen in on our website at http://www.illuminationpodcast.com/ink227
Today we're going to talk about our cats. Our little spirit animals. Here's why- maybe you're not a cat lover, but let's just face it guys. It's been a weird freaking time. And I think it's a time where we've turned towards our animals and our animals have turned towards us. My heart breaks when I hear stories about people that adopted dogs during COVID and now they're giving them back because they're going to work, I don't want that. I want everyone to keep your dog and your cat, but our story is kind of funny. Past Pets… For those of you that remember, we used to have a Lenny, the Boston terrier, who you might hear in some of the older episodes would be snoring in the background. And then we had Sabrina who was one of two cats before Lenny passed. Before that there was Miles. Miles was the man. He was just the coolest. He was a king whenever Nick would be studying the morning, miles would lie down on his chest and just stare at him legs sort of like, claiming you and taking on the wisdom as much as he could through osmosis, I guess. No. More. Pets... No more animals for a while. I like, ah, so a couple months go by and it's the end of February. And all of a sudden I'm like maybe a cat, maybe a cat. You know, I started hearing those voices and I start looking and I started kind of manifesting. I opened up and started looking for adoption, you know, rescue centers, obviously Hello Kitty… Kisma (): So I open up and there is , which is a great place and Rancho Santa Fe. And there's this picture of one cat. And there were a lot of dogs, one cat named Pecan, little black and white tuxedo. I'm like, that's my girl. She's my cat. I'm like, you don't understand. That's my cat! Then Nick starts looking, all of a sudden, there's a cat named Merlin who comes out of nowhere. Kisma had her process to go through… Nick (10:30) So let's I want to back up here for just a quick second, just to be clear. I was letting you go through your process. Like, I could hear you going through your process. In my mind, there was zero doubt that we were going home with both cats. Kisma I think he was trying to pull one over on me guys. Nick I know you just, I know you just weren't there yet. And I was okay with that and you're going, well, maybe we'll just get Merlin cause he'll be gone. And then the other one I'm like huh. Yeah, yeah. Let's start there. But in my mind there was absolutely no doubt ever that we're going home with two cats. Lesson from our cats... So I guess the whole purpose of this episode. So I'll let you know what's up with our cats. And patience, and it's sort of like Pecan is demonstrating this "when I'm ready. I'll let you pat me until now. I'm not." And I think that’s something we can all look aa like, when we're ready, we're going to do what we're going to do. But it's our ready. Right. It's not somebody else's ready. Nick (): Yeah. You can't really force it. You know, to me, it's always it's that. It's like the patience to just let her be and come to it in her own time. And that, that steadfastness of just loving all over her, you know, wherever she is, how I feel like that's a really, it's easier to do it for pets than it is for people, but it's also something that we really, really, really need to do for people. I think now's the time, you know, some people they just aren't ready to take their step. They're not ready to, put down their woobie that's making them feel safe and comfortable. I talk about in the self-love course all the time. It's a great quote by Mr. Rogers. And he talks about the people who loved us into being. When I read that, I was like, that's it, you know, it's just, it's about loving one another into being and the patience that it takes to do that. And I think about that with people. And I think about it with projects and things that are important to us and like, like all those sorts of things, like they take time, nature takes time. And when we give, give it the time and the space to really like, love it into being and, everything comes along so much faster and she's making strides Let’s see some furry photos… Post in the comments. If you’re on our website@illuminationpodcast.com. And I think you can even put attachments on there, attach a photo to your fuzzy little dinky little pet site. I just want to see them all.
In this episode we discuss what to do when you finally have some space. 00:02:35 - Empty Space Well, this is something I definitely noticed with myself is, you get that empty space and there's usually like a sigh of relief. Yeah, man. You know, maybe something got canceled or, you know, a meeting got canceled or something shifted and it's like, oh, now I don't have to do that thing. And whew, man, it's like sigh of relief for a second. But immediately the mind is like, well, what am I going to fill it with? NICK I don't even know that the mind go. I feel like it's sort of this subconscious, you start just filling or maybe yeah, because there's a nervousness, like there's space. When am I going to do? And then at least if I'm not grounded or anchored, I'll just start all of a sudden floating around the house and walking outside and picking a plum and coming back in and just like things that don't need to happen right then and there. And before, you know, an hour's gone. KISMA 00:004:00 - What is taking space? So describe what is taking space. KISMA Well, I mean, to, to me in the truest sense of it taking spaces, like I'm not going to, I'm just not going to do anything. NICK I'm just going to be with myself. KISMA I'm just going to like sit and be a maniac, you know, and be with myself. NICK Just like be with my feelings, my thoughts, my body, my energy, that can be incredibly uncomfortable for people. KISMA It's really, it's really a weird experience, I think, you know, and how I put it in the message, you know, is like pure perception. NICK 00:05:35 - Not that easy It's it's, it's, it's actually not that easy. NICK No, we're so used to being distracted. Yes. And then, then there's a feeling like, well, I should be doing something, so I'm taking space, but I'll read this book or I'll devour this book or something that man just being with ourselves. And it's interesting because we're the ones, you know, between our ears, we are with ourselves 24/7, we are with ourselves more than any other human yet to just be and have that space can feel so uncomfortable. KISMA 00:07:25 - Practices, Tips & Tools So what about some practices, some tips, some tools for people to just be, where do they start? KISMA It's a little hard to instruct because it's, you know, it's the opposite of doing anything. NICK Right. KISMA That you have to actually like make a decision to just do nothing. NICK What would one possibly feel, or what can they expect when they enter this decision of I'm just going to sit and be for five minutes a day. KISMA Well, that's a really interesting question because, um, I think it could be like, really, really, I know in myself, like I have really different experiences of that. You know, sometimes it's like really relaxing and just like, you know, kind of NICK getting cosmic. KISMA Yeah. And then other times it's, there's, you have some really deep insights from that space. You know, other times you just kinda just feels like a sigh of relief, you know? So I, I can't really say, you know, but all I can say is like, you gotta try it, just try it for yourself. NICK 00:09:27 - When one takes space Well, I think when one takes space and you're able to just be, that's when the intuition starts to come in, like there's just there's quietude and it might take, it might take some practice or it might just happen automatically for people's like, yeah, I'm just going to make that decision. I'm just going to be bit without the noise, without leaning in and having to do something, you're going to feel the connection that is there anyways, with your intuitive channel, with your spiritual channel, it's just, there is that space and depth for you to start to hear a start to know or start to receive. KISMA 00:12:35 - Anytime So before we sign off choice decision to take the space, is there a certain time of day that you recommend? KISMA No. Anytime, anytime. Cause it doesn't have to be a lot, like five minutes will, it can seem like an eternity. NICK So perhaps it would be like the taking space challenge five minutes a day. KISMA Yeah. Anytime, anywhere like you can just sit on a park bench and just be, you can be that weirdo. Who's just sitting there looking at the tree. NICK I think back in the day. That's what people did, like we're on our phones and we're eating and we're doing all sorts of crazy things. KISMA Yeah. You see people it's like I say, I always crack up at that meme when I, whenever it floats through my feet, you know, it's like I was in a coffee shop and I saw this guy sitting there just drinking a cup of coffee, like a maniac, like, like people don't do that, you know, just go somewhere and just drink a cup of coffee, you know? NICK 00:15:43 - Do Nothing So five minutes a day. Doesn't matter what time everyone just sit and be with yourself. KISMA Yeah. Yeah. One, try it in the middle of the day. NICK Yeah. I bet there'll be a renewed energy for the rest of the day. KISMA Try, you know, you can try it in the morning. Like that might be a little easier to start and don't meditate. NICK Don't meditate, you know, just, you're not meditating. Don't go to God, let God come to you. KISMA Oh, dang Kimsa. My mic drop right there. Yeah. I like that. Um, you're not meditating. You're not reading or studying. You're not contemplating. Is it like none of it's really. I mean, what I like just do nothing. NICK
In this episode we discuss How To Be Extraordinary. 00:02:00 - Perception Perception is everything. Yeah. KISMA Those can be the days that you look back on two and you're like, dang, you know, I really handled that. NICK I handled it. It was cool. Which leads us to the topic of extraordinary. I think it is someone who faces each and every day and makes it the best day. I think being extraordinary doesn't mean that you're, you know, it is extraordinary to climb Mount Everest. It is extraordinary to make a billion dollars or a hundred million or 10 million or whatever. Like there's so many things that we think are extraordinary. But in actuality, when we were talking about this episode, I think the realization came for us that when a person is their authentic, clean and clear self, that is extraordinary. KISMA 00:04:00 Out Shine And I honestly think, I honestly think that there's, there's beliefs built around that that say, well, it's not okay for you to out shine. You're not worthy of doing that. Who are you to, to really, you know, to shine that? Well, you're not, you know, you're nothing special, you know, like extra anything from whatever got programmed in there. I think those things kind of cover that up, but deep down, I really do think that people have a natural, a natural draw or a natural desire to really express themselves in an extraordinary way, extra express their nature, you know, their nature. NICK To be true to their selves. KISMA 00:07:00 - Following Your Own Path So just to kind of make sure we're anchoring this in, because I think it, our version of extraordinary is yeah, you can move a mountain. Yeah. You can make millions of dollars. You can run a marathon every single day. It's when you really tap into your true self-expression and creativity, that extraordinary it's like that it's going to light up inside you, that you feel extraordinary because you're stepping out of every perceived box and limitation and you're taking your life and deciding for yourself, like we talked about in the last episode, there's an element of trust and you're living it. And when you look at that, someone who does that up against all the odds of what the world is telling us to do, or trying to get us to, you know, comply to, or be a, like following your own path outside of any box outside of anybody else's opinions, beliefs. That's extraordinary. KISMA 00:11:30 - Just Drop It Because then whatever you do, whoever you're being is way more authentic. You're just like the fierce guy to me, that's always the freedom point, right. Because I see when people don't make, you know, their big leaps or decisions or whatever, because they're, they're hedging their bets around what people are going to think or what if they fail or this or that. So just drop it. And that will allow you to not only feel, but really be extraordinarily authentic. KISMA I agree. NICK I sleep so much better at night. KISMA Maybe not at first. NICK Maybe not at first, but once it's dropped, man. Yeah, for sure. KISMA Because there's a, there's a process to that. People ask me, well, how do you do that? How do you do you know, like, how do you do it is the wrong question to begin with. NICK 00:16:00 - Be Impeccable With Your Word What's one more that you would add in? KISMA Well, as long as we're on the four agreements there, um, be impeccable with your word is always a really good one, but be impeccable with your word with yourself. NICK I love that. I love that. That means that when you promise yourself, you're going to geek out, you're going to have fun. When you say I'm not going to care what anybody thinks or, you know, when you choose to do something like you're impeccable with your word, you, you do it for you. You stick with your word. KISMA Yeah. NICK That's amazing. KISMA
In this episode we discuss Redefining Normal. 2:48 Venturing Out So today we're talking about redefining normal and this really was inspired by a conversation we were having. I was mentioning how, going out into the world now that things are opening up. I mean, they've been opening up for awhile, but I think we've started venturing out more than usual. KISMA I'd say that's fair. Nick I even took a trip. I flew across the country, and it was fine, but it's just, it's a little bit sensitive. And so my go-to is like, well, I can just be inside the house and be a hermit and work from there and teach from there and coach from here, you know, like everything. KISMA 3:48 What happens to those three bodies? Many people can resonate with that idea of like, well, let's just stay home and feel all cuddly and cozy and safe and never go out again. KISMA I think I even more so have that tendency of like being the home body. Nick Yeah you’re more hermity than I am, but I've grown into being quite the hermit over COVID. KISMA Yeah. I think there's that part of your nature too. That's just like, yeah, we're good. We got everything that we need right here. Nick And we do, I'm so grateful. But then what does that mean for, you know, if we just look at three pieces, your mindset, your physical body and the energy body. If we're not actually out in the world, mindset and you know, emotional body, but if we're not out in the world interacting and being with other humans, what happens to those three bodies? You look at the mental, emotional and the physical and the energy bodies. KISMA 6:40 The inertia sets in So long as you're getting some fresh air and things like that, do all your exercise, you can maintain your body. Like you can do all that stuff. You can maintain a really great immune system in that way and really great health. But you have to make concerted efforts to do it. Well, you know, what we saw over the past year is that certain people did that and certain people didn't. We're not making any of it right or wrong, but you know, people went through their own thing around it and some people got super fired up. We decluttered the whole house. I learned how to cook a lot better, you know, like all sorts of things and, and other people drank a lot and just really kind of closed up in their holes. In TV, again, for all different reasons and we're not making any of it wrong, but that has obviously the physical effect and that inertia sets in. Nick 11:52 Self-trust Not knowing who to trust and that erodes a self-trust. And so now it's like entering back into the world and the trust isn't really there. And I think ultimately, you know, cause I want to give our listeners some tips on how to reboot the whole system so you can have your normal and it's healthy for you. I think self-trust is a really good place to start because if you're not trusting yourself, you won't really know what your true normal is, what a healthy normal is. KISMA That’s right. Nick So maybe it's spending five to fifteen minutes every day, just kind of anchoring into your core values, your beliefs, whether it's affirmations, whether it's Nick's meditations or my meditations, but to really get centered, you know, for us, it's like, or at least for me, I'd be like connect to Source, connect to God, connect to Universe, remember who you are as this spiritual being, and really bring in that so that you can trust yourself as a human being again, then you can start to trust the world outside or at least trust that you can navigate it. KISMA 16:39 Dysfunction can be very normal I think those are things that are really important. Cause a lot of things are very normal, dysfunction in family is extremely normal. But is that the kind of normal that we want? Nick Exactly. KISMA And you see it from family to family, like, remember when you were a kid and you know, you do dinner at your house, the way that you do it. And then you go over to your friend's house and it's like radically different. That's like one normal versus another. Nick 18:07 New Normal So when I think about a new normal, I think about it kind of in terms of, well what's really that conducive environment for myself, that's going to help me thrive, help me be more of me and help me do the things that I'm here to do. Nick That's right. Get to what you want, what you want to do while you're here and create the normal reverse engineer. I like it. KISMA
In this episode we are talking about The Most Important Thing that No One Wants to Talk About. 1:16 This is Important for Your Journey We're talking about something important that nobody wants to talk about, but if you're on any sort of spiritual journey, personal growth journey, success journey, you got to get this under control. KISMA If you just want to be a little bit happier, this is actually really important for that too. Nick 2:18 The Role it Plays What we're talking about today is shame and the role that it plays in our lives and also how to really start acknowledging it and dealing with it in our lives in a healthy way. Nick Even if we're running little seeds of shame, or vibrations of shame, it pulls us down. KISMA It ties in really closely with guilt and the guilt mechanism to control behavior. So it's a mixed message to start with and the shame is something that's put on to suppress you. Nick 6:47 It’s a Big Deal It's a big deal. I think one of the first steps in just kind of understanding this is recognizing that basically everybody has some level of this and the degree to which you have will determine just how suppressed certain parts of you are and how suppressed your personality is. Nick 8:33 What is Shame? Shame is the thing that we use that covers up and suppresses our personality. It's the mask that we put on to hide those parts and to show to the world what we have decided for ourselves is good and worthy of showing to the world. It covers up our humanness and when you cover up your humanness, you never have a chance to get to the essence of your being because you just can't face it. Nick So self love is a long way off and true love from another human is impossible. KISMA Well, yeah, because they're not really loving you. They're loving what little pieces of yourself you've decided to show them. Nick 12:26 Losing What is Not True How does this relate them to this spiritual journey of exiting out of this shame? KISMA The real essence of a spiritual practice, in my mind, is not about getting anything, but it's about losing everything. Nick It's about losing what is not true. KISMA Yeah. That's what it's really about. Nick 16:24 True Self If you have shame around just the way you are as a human being then you're going to make it wrong and then you're going to cover it up and then you're going to try to be different. And that's the worst thing that you can do because it takes you further away from the essence and the truth of who you are. You're never going to get to the essence and core of your spiritual being by trying to be somebody else. Nick I think as we go through this process of really finding who we are and wanting to be ourself, when we turn our shoulder against our true self or when we're on this path and all of a sudden it's like, “Oh, I'm not comfortable with that. I'm not going to look at that in me.”, it's because there's a wall of shame or layer of shame. So we miss out on this true self. KISMA 18:36 Peace Treaty So where does everyone start removing the shame? KISMA I think there's an inherent conflict when you're trying to cover up part of yourself. And when you have shame around that, there's going to be a conflict because there's a part of you that is like trying to do the right thing and there's a part of you that's trying to not do the wrong thing, and those two things are going to fight with one another. So when you're in that place, there is an exercise called where you go through a process of basically writing a peace treaty with yourself. What the peace treaty does is help you to really look at yourself and recognize where you're in conflict with yourself. And basically you just stop that. You lay down the arms and you're like, “We're going to stop fighting”. And what you find is that you start to not make so much of yourself wrong and that opens the door for you to start to have some respect for exactly who you are and where you're at right now. It's a serious endeavor in the sense that it's not just a throw away thing that you do once. Like if you're making peace, you have to be actively engaged in that process. So it's starting to have the awareness of where the negative thoughts, the shaming thoughts, the self-defeating thoughts start to come in, where the conflict starts inside of you and then making a new decision for yourself in it. And when you have a peace treaty written with yourself, there's a really powerful, energetic thing that happens along with that. Nick 22:51 Make The Decision I think that's a great place to start. I'll give my tip. When shame starts coming in, I actually talk to it. I just say, “Yeah, we're not doing that today. We're not going to do that”. There's something really magical when you just voice. I think it's that conscious mind telling the subconscious not today. There's like a shift in that. You're making and stating a stand for yourself. And I feel like to exit shame, that's what we're doing repeatedly. We just have to make the decision each and every day. KISMA
This episode is about How to Win at the Game of Life. 1:08 This Game that We Call Life It's been a little bit since we podcasted. Nick And now we're back with How to Win at the Game of Life. KISMA Personally speaking, I think it's really healthy to think about life as a game because otherwise you just take it too seriously. Nick 2:31 Play the Game Differently It's not that there aren't serious things in life. What we do with our time here on earth is important, but at the same time if we make it too important, it gets really heavy, really fast.And when you treat life like a game, you have a little bit more flexibility and you can have more fun with it. Like if you make a mistake or do something wrong, it's like, “All right, well, I guess I'll just do something different”. You can just play the game differently. You can change the rules of the game, which is fun. We can't change the universal laws, but we can change how we act within those things. Nick 7:02 Not Losing VS. Winning So there's a difference between not losing and winning and when you put this in the game of life, I think a lot of people get into the mode of just not losing or flying under the radar so that nobody really notices and they don't stand out too much or something like that. And energetically, it's really constricting. It's like a diminishing energy that just gets smaller and smaller and smaller as you go along. It doesn't keep you in an innovative space. It doesn't let you be in a creative space and it doesn't let you access the resources that you're going to need to really propel yourself. Nick If you're just trying not to lose, I don't know that it's heavy, but it's not exciting. KISMA 10:05 What is Winning? On the flip side of that though, what is winning? You know, it's not winning by somebody else's definition. This is really important on how to win at the game of life because this is your life. KISMA Think about the goals and objectives that you've designed for yourself. Not everybody else's that you've decided that seem right for you, but the things that are really true in your own heart. Nick What do you suggest are some of the qualities that people can think about and utilize to bring about a winning attitude to life? KISMA That's not something I can really answer for everybody. You have to sit down with yourself, probably with a journal, and think about what's really important to you and what winning looks like to you. Nick 12:59 The Relationship with Yourself What are some ways of being that can really help to open up a person to see that they do deserve to win and win on their terms? KISMA The first thing that pops to mind for me is your happiness inside of yourself. In my mind, your relationship with yourself is probably one of, if not the most important thing that you can develop in your life. It's number one because that's where you find happiness, and that's where you create happiness. So I think winning is really having a beautiful relationship with yourself. Nick 18:04 Seeing The Potential I want to add one more piece to this idea of winning the game of life. I think also seeing people in their highest and best is another way to win at the game of life. KISMA I'm really glad you brought that up. It wasn't on our original list, but man, it's gotta be on there. Nick There's a couple reasons for this. How you're seeing someone else is how you feel about yourself. If you look at somebody and you immediately go into judgment or criticism somewhere, that's in you about yourself, otherwise it wouldn't be at top of mind. So it's a great thing to look at. And the flip side is the more that you can see the potential in other people and opportunities, the more you see the potential in yourself. KISMA 24:04 Win at The Game of Life So there you have a few things that you can use to win at the game of life. You can also check out Nick’s which takes you through five foundations of self-love. Thank you for listening to Illumination Podcast with Nick and KISMA. KISMA
This week's episode has a special guest: Gay Hendricks. Gay Hendricks has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind transformation for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. from Stanford in 1974, Gay served as Professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap, Conscious Loving and Conscious Loving Ever After, (the last two co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks). He is also a mystery novelist, with a series of five books featuring the Tibetan-Buddhist private detective, Tenzing Norbu, as well as a new mystery series featuring a Victorian-era London detective, Sir Errol Hyde. His latest book, Conscious Luck, reveals eight ways to change your fortunes through the power of intention. Gay has appeared on more than 500 radio and television shows, including Oprah, CNN, CNBC, 48 HOURS and others. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Special Guest: Gay Hendricks 1:44 Welcome Dr. Gay Hendricks to Illumination Podcast I'm so excited to have Gay Hendricks as a guest today. We've studied and talked about his work. We covered his work in a four-part series at the beginning of last year, and we are just so incredibly excited to have him join us in this episode. Nick Welcome Dr. Gay Hendricks to Illumination Podcast. We're so happy you're here. KISMA Thank you very much. It's a pleasure and an honor to meet both of you. Dr. Gay Hendricks 2:16 Initial Awakening We've been watching some of your interviews and there was one where you had shared something about your initial awakening, and I was wondering if you would share that event with our listeners because it was so compelling and gave me so much hope. KISMA Absolutely. I wouldn't be here without that event having happened. When I was 24, I had managed to create a pretty painful life, because I not only weighed 320 pounds, but I wore big thick glasses. I was in a relationship that was really toxic and I couldn't figure out how to get out of it. I was also in a job that wasn't going real well, and I didn't feel like I was using any of my potential. So one day everything came to a head. I went out for a walk to try to get my head cleared after I'd had an argument with Linda, the woman I referred to. And by golly, I got it cleared big time. What happened was I stepped on a place where the snow had covered the ice and my feet shot out from under me. And I went down on my back and I didn't knock myself out, but I call it an out of Hendrix experience because I had this experience that knocked me out of my senses for about two or three minutes. It knocked me out of my usual way of looking at the world. I laid there and I had this amazing thing happen for about two minutes where I got a look at who I really was. It was like I could see all the way down through the different levels of myself. Dr. Gay Hendricks 5:36 Pure Consciousness In that moment I suddenly became aware of this whole different set of levels of myself. But then the really magical thing that happened was that I realized that down underneath everything was this part of myself that I call pure consciousness. I'd never touched into it before, but it's the part that we all have of ourselves. And it gave me a new place to come home to. So I had this one moment before I got back up where I said “I'm going to do whatever it takes to feel that pure consciousness all the time”, because it was the first time I felt like I'd really come home in myself. Dr. Gay Hendricks That's an amazing story. Do you think everyone has this opportunity for that? The sense of feeling and seeing and being aware of that pure consciousness within us? KISMA I actually do. The way I put it to my students now is the Universe is totally willing to tickle us with a feather to teach us, but if we're not paying attention, it'll then hit us over the head with a sledgehammer. Dr. Gay Hendricks 15:19 Essence I wanted to circle back about this idea that I’ve heard you talk about a little bit. It's the essence, like the purest pure consciousness, and I'm curious to hear your perspective on that. Nick What I call essence is that pure part of ourselves that expresses who we really are. If you took that away, you wouldn't be you. I think that it's a gift that everybody has that kind of pure consciousness. The value of it that I've come to really appreciate is that it does give me a place to come home to that's underneath all the phenomena of my life. It's underneath the thoughts, it's underneath all my feelings. All of those things are very important, but for example, you have sad feelings or angry feelings or scared feelings, but underneath that is that vast ocean of pure consciousness. And I think that in life, our kind of our spiritual job is to find that aspect of ourselves and open up to it and let ourselves be grounded and centered in it. Dr. Gay Hendricks I love the word essence for it. The essence of that very unique, purest expression of yourself. And I love the way that you talk about it's like that place to come home to because it's not a feeling. It's a state of being that we drop into and it just changes everything. Nick 36:21 The Big Leap and The Genius Zone So in your book , you mention the genius zone and I understand that you have a new book coming out where you're going to expand on this. Can you tell us a little bit more about this book? Nick Basically it takes what's in and gives you a way of diving right down into your genius zone. So it's kind of like instead of flying the plane to your genius zone, it gives you a very nice parachute, a way to just go straight down and capture it. There are some processes in the book that give you a real quick way of getting into that space and how to stay there once you're there. Dr. Gay Hendricks Would you consider The Big Leap a prerequisite for it, or can people just dive right into The Genius Zone? Nick It would be great if they read The Big Leap first because it's kind of a sequel. Dr. Gay Hendricks 47:55 Five Wishes Well we don't have guests a lot and when we do they're so special such as yourself. A question that I always like to ask is is there anything that's in your heart that you want to do before you leave the planet that you've not told anybody? KIMSA I can't really think of anything. I figured out early on what I wanted. In my book , I talk about the five things that I wanted to create in my life and I've created them more beyond my wildest dreams. So I have to say if the Universe needs me in the collective anytime soon I'm ready and willing to go. I'm having a great time while I'm here, but I've accomplished all my major goals and I'm just enjoying living more and more of them every day. Dr. Gay Hendricks I love that. That's the best. Nick Well thank you so much for being here Dr. Gay Hendricks. KISMA
In this episode we are talking about How to Give Feedback to Close Friends and Partners Without Seeming Critical. 3:45 Giving and Receiving Feedback I think it is a real skill to be able to give feedback in a really clear way. Nick And of course, on the other end, you really have to have the skin to take it and use what's valuable and if you disagree with it, you let it go. KISMA 4:52 It’s a Human Thing So I could make this episode really short and just say don't give feedback. Like, why do you think it's up to you to give feedback? Let’s start here because it is kind of this weird phenomenon that we humans go around life feeling that we need to tell people our thoughts without being asked. So everyone just take a breath there. It's a human thing where we go around feeling like we have to tell people our thoughts and opinions about them without being asked. KISMA I didn't expect that to be your first one, but I think you're right. Nick 7:50 Opt Out or Opt In Well I think the starting point is to not make somebody wrong and check yourself. Who are you to give the feedback? We have to go there because otherwise it starts to get really messy. It gets messy karmically, it gets messy ego wise. And there's a lack of respect for the other person. And then if you think there's something that they are doing, saying, or being, and you really feel like you can help, you've got to ask permission to share. You simply have to respect the human enough to ask permission. KISMA I think giving people an opt out or an opt in is really helpful. It goes back to the art of allowing which is so important. Nick 10:18 Start With One Thing Once they’ve given you permission to share, you probably have a list of 10 things that you could tell them, but start with just one thing. KISMA That is brilliant advice. It's so easy to over teach overshare, give them a whole litany of things or a whole five step plan, but think about how you would receive that. It’s kind of overwhelming. Nick And all of a sudden it all goes out the window. KISMA 13:00 Cut Cords and Let Go After sharing, cut cords and let go. That's the biggest piece. KISMA 17:30 Do They Even Want Your Feedback? I want to share one more thing before we close out this episode on giving feedback. There are moments when I am listening to certain friends or family members I will stop and say, “Hey, before you get going, do you want me to just listen? Am I just a sounding board because you need to vent? Or do you want my opinion?” Finally, if they said they just want to vent and they vent and I sense something is really off, I can then say, “Hey, I'm sensing something. I'm hearing something. If you're interested, I could share. And it doesn't have to be today, but I have a couple of ideas. So just let me know when you want me to text those over to you or have another quick call.” KISMA That's so cool. A lot of folks are living life in problem solving mode. So it's really easy to drop in with that when sometimes people just need to be heard. If they just want to vent, it takes off so much pressure because you don't have to solve anything. And if they want to hear your feedback then you get to drop in in a different way and really listen with different ears. Nick So there you are everyone. Thank you for listening to Illumination Podcast with Nick and KISMA.
This episode is about three skills to be successful without burning out. These skills can be used in a lot of different ways and these principles apply in a lot of different areas. 1:16 These Skills are Valuable This is really Nick’s system and it is three skills to be successful without burning out. KISMA These principles apply to anybody who is busy in their life, an active person, and anyone who has a lot of different irons in the fire. These are skills that are definitely going to be really valuable for you. And if you want to be able to do things without the constant ups and downs and getting burned out and just wanting to quit, then these are three skills that you really do have to master in order to do that on a sustained level and stay in your creative flow. Nick 3:10 Changing Gears Without Energy Bleed First things first is you do have a lot of things going on and likely certain pieces of it are happening in the same day. So you have to master the art of changing gears from one thing to the next and to do that without energy bleed. Nick Energy bleed is what happens when people multitask or they're trying to focus and do different things all at once. KISMA Multitasking is one of the worst things you can do for your brain by the way, and for your work for that matter, like that is not how we were designed. If you don't change gears really cleanly to go from one thing over to the next thing, your brain is going to be lingering in the technical stuff of the previous project. So learning how to change gears really cleanly is so important. And when you do that you give yourself an opportunity to actually be fully present with the next thing. Nick 6:58 Cut Cords and Stay Grounded It is also important to make a clear transition from one thing to the next thing. Energetically, one of the most powerful tools for that is cord cutting because it helps you to detach from the energy of that. Nick Cut the cords in between. What else can they do to quickly and swiftly and seamlessly change gears? KISMA You have to stay grounded. You'll be the most clear and powerful force in the room, or in a project if you stay grounded and clear and don't get swept into all the chaos and the weird. You can access my training for cord cutting and staying grounded Nick 9:43 Decide Without Fear Step number two is to make fast decisions and to do that without fear Nick Decide quickly and without fear. KISMA The reason that that's important is because if you have a bunch of things going and you're caught in the in-between of indecision, like not really sure about this, not really sure about that, then you're going to wind up with open loops and all of your projects will grind to a halt. So, it's really necessary to make fast decisions and not to bring all the fear into it. Nick 16:05 The Art of Allowing Step three is a big one, but it's super key. It's mastering the art of allowing. Nick I feel like that pertains to so many things. KISMA It does. And the reason that it's important in this context is because we put ourselves at the center of everything as the doer the things and then it really quickly becomes “I alone am the doer”. So there's this kind of grabbing of control. And when we do that we basically constrict the energy that we have. So the art of allowing is you do the thing and then you let it go so that it can kind of grow. And then you have to wait for your next step. Nick There has to be space to receive. KISMA 22:03 The Three Skills Just to wrap up, here are the three skills to be successful without burning out. Number one, learn to change gears quickly and seamlessly without energy bleed. Step number two, decide quickly, and clearly without fear. Step number three, master the art of allowing. KISMA
This episode is about How to Win Over the IRS. 00:02 Energy of Attitude and of Personality Today's episode is about an interesting topic, how to win over the IRS This is really about something that Nick went through and his story, and we thought it might be really helpful because it was such a cool use of energy of attitude and of personality. KISMA That's a good way to put it. And I kind of put together a little formula for how I was going to approach this. Nick 4:12 Strategy So we had to refile some stuff from 2018 and I got a notification in the mail. It was a multi thousand dollar bill, like just pure penalties. And finally you were like here's what you're going to do. Nick I asked if I could share a strategy with you. I said first thing in the morning you're going to call and be on hold for a couple of hours. They're not going to pick up right away, so you can get all your stuff done until the person picks up. KISMA 9:10 Right Intentions So I got on the phone one morning and I was on hold for a solid hour. And what I had decided before I got on the phone was that I was totally going to get the exact right person on the phone. Nick Your intention was right there. KISMA Yeah. I was very clear in that I was going to get the exact right person. And I had decided I was going to be the bright spot in that person's day and the happiest person they’ve talked to in a month. Nick 13:04 Taking Full Ownership When a lady answered, I made a point to just go nice and slow to communicate what I was trying to communicate to her and I explained the situation. One of the things that I did was I didn't try to make up some weird story or anything like that. I just took full ownership for it. Nick I need to pause here because I don't know how many clients and students I'll talk to that are afraid of making a mistake. And here's when taking ownership of a mistake is not only a learning experience, but like the outcome can be in your favor. KISMA Yeah. It was really fascinating to listen to her respond to that. I could tell that that's not something that she hears a lot. But I feel this is the reason I did it was because I felt like that blame energy really starts to turn things upside down. Like nobody likes to hear that, as soon as you're doing that, you're in the role of victimization. And that wasn't what I wanted to bring to that conversation. Nick 23:23 Clean Up Your own Stuff I feel like it's about cleaning up your own stuff. Like do whatever you have to, you know, tithe, do forgiveness, clean up your own stuff. Take action. Don't put it off too long because the longer you put it off, the bigger it gets. And have a little strategy like the little call strategy, start dialing early and do other things and then be ready to take the call. And then the most important thing, when you're on the call, you're calm, you're kind, you're talking slow, you get the person's name, you thank them for taking the call. It completely changes the dynamic between the two of you. KISMA So there you go. We would love to hear from you if you have any stories. If you want us to talk about anything in particular please email us at hello@illuminationpodcast.com or there's a little place to put comments on the page and anything else you want to share. KISMA
In this episode we are talking about Why Bad Things happen in 3s. 3:14 Does This Really Happen? We are diving into why bad things happen in threes. “As far as I know, bad things happen in threes.” We hear this all the time and I think it's interesting to look at. Does this really happen? Do we create it or is it the force of nature? KISMA Personally, I do believe bad things happen in threes, but I also believe that we create that circumstance. Nick So in other words, they don't have to happen in threes. KISMA They don't have to. Nick 4:06 It Starts with Perception It's important to really understand why bad things can happen in threes. Like why is this even a thing that happens for some people? Nick It starts with perception. The moment that we perceive something as bad, our thoughts flow towards it in a stronger method creating what we call thought flow. You then start to almost train yourself to see the next bad thing. KISMA 10:12 Your Attitude is Key So what do we do? What can somebody do when something happens that they don't want to experience? KISMA Your attitude towards the circumstance is the real master key to it. The best attitude that's going to keep you on an upward trajectory and keep you more in a flow is actually a mindset of, “Oh, well I guess this is exactly what I needed.” Nick Even if you don't know why you needed it. KISMA 16:46 Self Inquiry When you say “This must be what needed to happen”, maybe you have to lift your head out of the water a little bit higher, maybe you have to look out in front, or also take a look at yourself and ask, “Why am I causing this? Why did I attract it?”. You’re not making it wrong, but just be willing to have a further self inquiry. KISMA 21:15 A Miracle Right in Front of You So here's to you having amazing events. Know that you're a divine operating system and there might be a miracle right in front of you. KISMA
In this episode we are talking about What You Want to Know About the Energy of TV. We are going to give you some really helpful tips and guidelines about what you consume and what it's really all about. 1:16 The Energy of TV Today we are talking about television and what you want to know about it’s energy. Nick Just a heads up, we're not here to tell you to stop watching TV because I know the title is like what you want to know about the energy of TV, but we’re going to talk through what TV can do to you. KISMA I think well done TV is a brilliant thing, so we're definitely not going to tell you to not watch TV ever. But we are going to give you some really helpful tips and guidelines about what you consume and what it's really all about. Nick 16:07 Everything Has an Energy So back to the whole title, the energy that is in the show you’re watching, the energy that the characters are putting out in the writing and the theme, it's coming right out of the TV onto you. KISMA The stories are so engaging that they wrap you into it in such a powerful way. Well your little brain just buys right in, and on a certain level you're very aware that you’re just watching a show, but energetically that doesn't change it. Everything has an energy. Nick 17:16 What You Consume It's really important when you think about what you consume. Nick What you consume, what you speak, what you think. KISMA Very much so. And when we're talking about TV, it wraps you in a different way and that's in your energy. It's in your brain and it's in your energy field. So like anything, we're not going to say don't do it, but you do need to be aware of it and make sure that you're not bingeing on the wrong things. Cause you probably know how you feel when you're bingeing on that. You know, you feel uneasy after that and you take that energy with you into your sleep and into your dreams. Like it can be really disruptive. 19:39 Tips and Guidelines I recommend cutting cords and do your best to not have the TV on in the bedroom. We just don't have a TV in our bedroom. I recommend not. And I definitely recommend not turning it on first thing in the morning. Don't watch the news. It's like it's all infiltrating. Not just your energy, but your room energy. KISMA That's a really good point. It's not just you. It comes into the environment. Nick Any other tips or guidelines for the energy of TV? KISMA Yeah. Keeping good company. When you think about keeping good company, that's not just the people. It's actually the good company of your environment, the things in your environment and certainly the media that you consume. Just try to moderate as best as you can. Secondly, like Kisma says, use the cord cutting technique that we've taught many times.Cut your cords to release that energy. Nick 24:12 Let Yourself Enjoy It The last piece of advice is know what you're getting into and if you're going for it, just go for it. Really let yourself enjoy it. Nick
This episode is about How to Shift Your State Instantly. 1:21 What it Means to Shift Your State I had the idea of the topic of shifting your state because I love shifting my state and I love helping people shift theirs. I think when we understand who we are as a human being, and when we understand that we're the only ones thinking in our mind, like it's our thinker, and when we can think differently, we can create a completely different experience than what we're having. That's what it means to shift your state. KISMA 4:58 The Bigger Future Challenge And if you're not in The Bigger Future Challenge, pop on in. Go to my website or to join us. It's seven days plus three day bonus days. It’s just awesome. KISMA It's so much fun. And speaking of shifting states, it is a big state shifter. Nick 5:19 The Shift The reason this topic is important to me, I had done a year end virtual training called It was a really fascinating experience because I realized how many people are seeking that. They're having a certain amount of success or a certain amount of happiness, but they know the inner game is the most important. So shifting the state is about like an ascension model. You don't just shift at once. Every time you shift, you keep going up the spiral to a place that is more objective, more certain, more devoted, more confident, more abundant. All of it. So it's not like you're going in and out of a bad state and a good state. It's that you shift and you continue to rise. KISMA 8:11 The First Step is Awareness I want to create a very simple formula that our listeners can do again and again that helps you to shift your state instantly. And as you shift it, you continue to ascend. The first step is awareness. We have to be aware of what we're experiencing or how we're feeling that we don't want to feel or experience. If we're not aware of it, we won't have that conscious choice to shift it. KISMA The awareness thing is kind of the big deal. I just want to highlight that for the listeners. There's an art to awareness. Lots of times we're very aware of the wrong things. And it's really important to be able to step back and not even try to change it, but just to pay attention to what's going on in your head. Nick 13:13 Cord Cutting = Releasing There's an energetic piece called cord cutting that is helpful to insert. KISMA Cord cutting is basically just about releasing. Energy connections happen. They typically happen around charged things which are often like the loudest things. They can be things that we are worried about. It can be people that are agitating to us. It can be people who are agitated with us. It can be conversations and stories that we're building around a certain situation or something like that. All of those are basically energetic connections and you can actually disconnect that through cord cutting. Nick 17:27 The Attitude of Gratitude The final piece after you do that, is to take a breath and find something to be grateful for. This seals the deal of shifting your state. KISMA The attitude of gratitude is a huge shifter for energy. Nick 21:28 Recap Just to recap, step one is awareness. Just be aware. Ask yourself the question, “Do I want to experience this?” If the answer is yes, circle back around, maybe take a walk. If the answer is no, then cut the cords, cut the cords, cut the cords. And finally, just breathe and think about something that you are so grateful for. It works every time. KISMA
This episode is about How to Have a Bigger Future. We talk about our Bigger Future Challenge, which you can join us for 3:00 A Clean Slate It's 2021 and this is our first recording this year. I wanted to share with our listeners our different perspectives of how we close out a year and enter a new year. KISMA I think this year it's a little bit different. I like to think that every day is a clean slate. I like to think that every minute is a clean slate. But for me entering a new year, the way I was approaching it in December was very much like how do I go to bed in order to wake up and have a good day? And that's really through releasing anything during the day that didn't serve, cutting chords and falling asleep in gratitude, and setting in my subconscious what I wanted to manifest the next day. That's how I was sort of being more stealth about closing out the year and having so much gratitude for what worked, learning from any mistakes and just being released, released, released. Just complete healing and as much closing loops as I could so that I could slide into 2021. KISMA 5:58 A Time of Reflection and Assessing I was busy at the end of the year, but it was a reflective time for me. I assess the year and that forgiveness and closing loops. Those are always huge practices for me during that time. It's to create a sense of organization, it's to look at what I can close up. What can I make sure that I don't drag with me into the new year? And one of the loops I closed that was really exciting and opened at the same time was the sound healing. You can find the information about the next one at . Nick 11:14 Bigger Future So let's talk about this bigger future. KISMA Back in September we did a challenge called The Bigger Future Challenge. Right off the bat I knew we gotta do this again. And we thought, well, what better time than right after the new year. Nick For those of you that are listening now, I want you to just think about the bigger future. When I say those words, when we say those words, what does that mean to you? This is not the future that somebody else's designing for you. This is not the future that you think is the only future you can have. The bigger future is something around joy. It's something around connection, your relationships. It's definitely around money and abundance and it's your future. KISMA Bigger isn't necessarily bigger. But what it is is definitely more of the things that we want in our lives. It could certainly be something to do with your career, your work, your income, something like that. But it's also about relationships. And it's also about the energy and vibrancy that we share. It's like the presence, the bigger presence about how we show up in our lives and how we impact other people. Nick So we're going to be creating our bigger future as well, and we invite you to Also just to all of you out there that have been listening, we really do have you in our hearts and wishing you a very happy and healthy new year. KISMA
This episode is part three of The Getting Unstuck Series and today we are discussing the energy stuck. 1:13 Energy Stuff This is The Getting Unstuck Series. We have talked about the in-between stuck and the mental stuck. This week is the energy stuck. Now of course, Nick is an expert on energy healing, energy work, energy clearing, energy coaching, so he is going to tell us what it feels like to be in energy stuck. KISMA Energy stuck shows up in more subtle ways, but also really obvious ways. People just don't think it's energy stuck. It'll show up as feeling tired. Like no matter how much you sleep, you feel tired. You get kind of stuck in that mode or not sleeping. So you're tired, but you lay down to sleep and then your mind is going. That’s energy stuff. But the biggest way that it really shows up is illness in the body. Nick 4:28 Breaking up the Energy I think when we talk about energetic stuckness that like the idea is to immediately go to some kind of energetic thing, but there is a little bit more of a process to that. So if you've got things showing up physically like fatigue, maybe it's headache patterns, weight gain, things like that, and you're like, why is this holding? You actually need to have physical movement in your life. Nick It breaks up the energy. KISMA That's right. When it's stuck in the body, you really need to just move the body. Just move yourself around because it will shake that up and get you moving. Nick 9:57 Connected with the Physical Body The other thing I see that happens when someone's energetically stuck is they stop breathing. I mean, not literally, but the breath becomes very shallow. It's just not present. KISMA It gets back to the physiology of it. That's a link that a lot of people miss with energy. They think that the energy is all out there or all in the chakras, but actually it needs to be connected with the physical body. And that's exactly what the breath does. So we use that 6-3 pattern that is taught in And that breathing technique is incredibly beneficial because it gets the subtle energy channels moving as well. So you move your body to get the body systems moving. You start to shake off and break up the energy in and around the body a little bit. And then the breathing helps to get those subtle energy channels moving. Nick 14:41 Change the Energy Sometimes we have to change our surroundings to change the energy that we're in. Like you got to take yourself out of where you are, change the energy and go somewhere. And it kind of ignites your intuition and brings in more. KISMA I'm glad you mentioned that because environmental stuff matters. Nick 17:42 Steps to See a Shift I mean these are the energetic things that most people don't just really don't think about, but are really important. The energy is actually what's controlling everything else. So use these tips to keep your environment clean, to keep your body moving and to keep your breath moving. If you just do these things, you will definitely see a shift and then you can get more resources and take some other steps. Nick
This is episode two in The Getting Unstuck Series and in this episode we're talking about the mental stuckness; what to do about it, and how to get out of it. 4:36 When We’re Mentally Stuck It's funny that we're talking about mental stuckness. Because I know tech, but I'm not a techie tech per type of person. When it comes to all those little things and all the little boxes to check and the ways that the audio gets routed through a mic, to a board, into the computer and back out to somewhere else, there's all these little things and it is a process for me. And I got stuck in my head on this more than a couple of times. Nick Let's talk about that. So mentally stuck, what does that feel like? How do we know when we're mentally stuck? KISMA This is a great example. Because I had this idea of this thing that I wanted to do and I just couldn't figure out how to do it right, how to accomplish it. So when I would sit down to do it, I'd get lost down the rabbit holes. Nick A little into that need to be right. It's this way. Not the other way. KISMA I'm sure the need to be right was present and that is a telltale sign. Nick 6:29 The Need to be Right One of the ways you know you've got the mental stuckness is if you're digging your heels in and you have to be right. And when we have the need to be right, we're going to miss some things we're going to miss solutions. We're going to miss freedom. We're going to miss momentum because we've got to be right. And we only see it this way and it's really stuck. KISMA 7:37 Mental Movie What will happen in the mental stuckness is we humans will create an assumption, which then turns into this mental story. And a lot of times we assume something that we're not even sure is true, or we're in a situation and we can only see one aspect. Our perception of the situation spins and spins in a certain way. And it goes on more and more. That mental story is gaining life. It's gaining energy. And then we’ve got a mental movie that is playing in our head again and again. So we can't see any other way. The perception is stuck and if our perception will only allow us to see one way, we'll get stuck in that. KISMA 13:53 Getting Unstuck Let's move into the part where we give you some solutions to get unstuck mentally, because when you get unstuck mentally and you begin to think and send out thoughts with a different frequency, a different emotion, you're going to bring back something different. So number one, the part of the way out is just saying, “Okay, I think there's something going on here. I'm spinning. I'm stuck. I see the pattern of my thoughts. I notice the pattern of my words coming after the thoughts.” You've got to acknowledge it and be willing to change it. KISMA 20:10 We Don’t Have to be Stuck One of the big things that I'm taking away from this is that you can't think your way out of mental stuckness. You'll just spin the wheels. The solutions that you're giving are actually really, really simple and less is more. And ultimately the energy is all a matter of your decisions. So being in the in-between is really where the journey starts. Nick You know, we don't have to be stuck. We really don't. We can just flourish and thrive. And when we have each other to do so, it's so much easier. KISMA
This episode is the first episode in our series called The Getting Unstuck Series. In this episode we're going to be talking about the in-between stuck. 2:28 Stuck Stuck: unable to move or set in a particular position, place or way of thinking. It's a frustrating feeling, a frustrating energy, and a frustrating mindset. KISMA It’s a frustrating circumstance all the way around. Nick It does not go well with creating success or prosperity. KISMA 6:28 The In-Between Being specific about where you're stuck is the number one step for getting unstuck. If you have an idea of what you want to have happen and an idea around where you're getting hung up, then you can have a much better conversation with yourself about getting unstuck. Which is what we want to talk about now and just kicking it off really with the dreaded in-between. Nick The in-between means you’re not in the past and you're also not creating or manifesting what you really want. KISMA It’s an in-between dimension and essentially what the in-between is, is indecision. Nick 14:47 Signs You are Stuck in the Middle I want to talk about a couple of signs that will show that you are stuck in the middle. Number one is going to be energy fatigue and then with that will come a neglect of how you manage your life. You'll start doing things to exit your life and not pay attention because it's so uncomfortable being stuck in between. KISMA Also look for the areas where your decision-making in general gets kind of lazy. You want to look for where habitual patterns of not supporting yourself are starting to show up. Nick 17:31 Start with Changing One Thing So Nick, how do you coach people out of this? KISMA Well, it's actually more simple than you think. The first thing that I like to do with people is just get them out of their heads, like stop thinking so much about all this so that we can make a clearer path forward. And what is really effective is actually just choosing one area, even if it's a small thing that you really want to see movement around and just focus on that. Let that be the one thing that you're really diligent with. Nick So basically we're talking about changing something, starting with one thing and really dedicating yourself. Once you get through a 48 hour period, things start to shift and you've got to focus on those things that do shift to give you the confidence to keep going. KISMA
In this episode we are continuing with our series How to Shape Your Reality. This is part four and we talk about how to align the head and the heart. 1:11 Rewriting The Script Last week we talked about rewriting your script. Nick If you've not listened to last week’s episode yet go back when you're done with this one and listen to it. KISMA 3:02 Head and Heart Conflict Let's talk about that head and heart. What does it mean to not be in alignment with the head and the heart? KISMA Well, that's a good question. That is a very, very common experience that people experience all the time in so many different ways. A lot of times it's like, “Well, you know, my head wants this, but my heart wants this.” So the head and the heart have a conflict.Nick 4:00 Emotional Clarity And having emotional clarity is actually a really important part of getting them aligned. Emotional clarity is key when you deal with the heart. Nick Wow. That's a powerful use of two words, emotional clarity. Emotional clarity is that discerning whether or not an emotion serves you and if it is in alignment with what you want. KISMA 8:14 The Mind So, talk about the head piece, the mind as most people think about it. KISMA Objectivity is a part of the mind, the intellect. There's the intellect, the observer that gets to look at ourselves from a different perspective.And the mind makes decisions. So the head's role is really to be the observer and to watch self, to hold you true to yourself. Nick 12:08 The Unity of Head and Heart The unity of the head and the heart is basically getting those two on board to have the same conversation about what we're here to do and what you want your life to be. And the beauty of the head and heart really being aligned is you get to take a truly intentional action. Nick 19:09 For Our Listeners I would suggest for our listeners, start journaling on this. You could write what it would feel like if your head and heart were aligned and just describe it in the most beautiful ways of who you want to be and what you want to create. And if you’ve missed the first three episodes of this series, go back and listen. Also, if you're interested in the type of coaching that either Nick or myself, Kisma does, we happen to be really good at finding that authentic version of you. Just send us an email at hello@illuminationpodcast.com and we'll set up a time to chat with you. KISMA
In this episode we are continuing our series on How to Shape Your Reality, Part 3 by talking about how to rewrite your life script. 2:14 Smaller Things When you look at rewriting your life script, that's a big topic or big idea to begin with. You don’t have to rewrite your whole life and change everything. Sometimes it's just certain areas or smaller things that you may be getting caught in the mundane or stuck in a certain way, a certain attitude, or something like that that you can rewrite. Nick I think you're onto something. Sometimes it's those small attitudes, those thoughts, or those beliefs that are stories running and creating a very strong mental thought flow. And before you know it, that's creating an attitude and a habit in a way of being that just keeps people in a karmic loop. KISMA 5:06 Rewriting The Scripts When you look at rewriting the scripts, it doesn't have to be just what. It can be how you go about something. Like, what's your attitude? What's your internal disposition towards things? It's a really powerful thing when you think about it. Nick I would like to look at rewriting the script that runs the attitude. I'm such a firm believer that when we rewrite the attitudes script, it means the actions that follow will have a new essence. It means the words coming out of our mouth are going to have a new essence. Everything following is going to be different because the attitude script is different. KISMA 15:04 Find The Solution Rewriting the script brings us back into finding the solution. If something has happened in your life, if you're feeling a certain way, if you're experiencing something you don't want to experience, the opposite of that exists. But you're going to have to do a little change of what the thought flow is, and the attitude and the perception in order to get from point A to B. KISMA Right and it's essentially deciding who and how you want to be. Nick 17:23 The Absolute Key Some tips that you can start to implement right now is let go of what people think. Let go of caring about what people think. Let go of that. Life is too short. And if you want to embody your own authentic being, and script and life and purpose, it can't be tethered to what other people are thinking. You might need mentorship, coaching, or spiritual teaching, but the alignment of head and heart is really important. KISMA Yeah, it's absolutely key. And you can't have that if you don't have an idea about who you are on the inside without all of the labels and all of the things that we've adopted. Nick 18:33 A Script That Supports You What I suggest for our listeners, if there's something in your life that you're experiencing and you don't want to experience it, write it down. Next to it, write down the exact opposite of that feeling. And in between is sort of this beautiful space where you can begin to look at what are the mental stories that you’re feeding into and regurgitating that feed into the negative aspect or the fatigue, the anxiety, etc. because that's the script that we want to purge. Then we want to rewrite a script that supports the way that you want to be, how you want to feel, who you want to be, and what you want to create in life. And make it as authentic as possible. KISMA
In this episode we are continuing with part two of How To Shape Your Reality. 1:40 Recap I do want to give a little recap from last week. Basically we're breaking this down into four principles. Knowing, Heart, Action and Receptivity. The knowing and the heart work together. Knowing in your mind's eye what it is you want to create or who it is you want to be, and what it is you want to manifest. Now, we also talked about how that heart place is even deeper knowing. A knowing plus acceptance. And I bet you've all felt it right when there was something where you're like,”Yeah, I really want this”. And it just dropped in. And you knew that was the right thing for you. KISMA Yeah. That's such a powerful place. It's a real revelation. Nick 3:00 In Your Power Center It should truly just be full on, dropped in. But what happens is the conditioned mind gets in, the lower self takes over, the subconscious takes a hold, and before you know it, it's like a karmic loop. We're just spinning right there over and over and over again. So this is about waking up. Waking up in a way that you are fully present to what you're doing and why you're doing it. And with this new level of consciousness or expanded awareness, everything will be okay because you're in your power center. You're there, you're fully present. It's when we fall asleep, when we go into the regrets of the past or the apprehension of the future that we lose our power and the world starts to shape us. KISMA 7:09 Somewhere You’re Resisting And in today's episode, we want to talk about action and receiving. I'm going to reverse engineer and just touch on receiving per The Universal Laws. If there's something that you desire and you don't have it, somewhere you're resisting. This is why being awake to the present moment is so important. We really do have to look at where those subtle pings, voices, doubts, and worries are. Because in the last episode we talked about doubt that creates a resistance. It's not like you're putting your hand up in front of you, but energetically, you're putting an energy of undeserving or unworthy or can’t or doubt or whatever in front of you, which is resisting. KISMA One of the things that's really relevant here, I want to point out is that there will be solutions and steps right in front of you that you can't see because of the need to be right. That's also a form of resistance. It's just a real sneaky one. Nick 8:49 Magnificent Action So the action piece, I like to use the term magnificent action, it's action that is designed to flow and to move you towards your greater desires and manifestations KISMA There's two layers of the action. One is just doing the things. You have to do the things. There are things to do, do the things. But the more subtle aspect that we're really talking about here is the attitude while you're in the action. That's the difference between forcing your way through and the magnificent action. Nick 16:32 Receptivity is a Big Deal Why don't you talk about receptivity? KISMA Receptivity is a big deal.If you want more ease in your life, if you want things to flow better, if you want better health, if you want more energy, if you want to recover more quickly, if you want to be able to stay in your lane more easily, all these things are receptivity.In the context of shaping your reality, receptivity is about allowing yourself to have that right. It's truly being receptive to having what it is. Nick 20:55 Do This For You What I'd like for everyone to do this week, as you're working on shaping your reality, is take note of where you received. Do this for you. This is a really important time on the planet for you to anchor into your own personal universe, your own cosmos, your own dreams and desires. KISMA
In this episode we talk about How to Shape Your Reality. 2:48 Manifesting What we want to talk about today, and we might be talking about it more and more, is how to shape your reality, basically manifesting. And I think I know where I want to kick this off. If you're not shaping your reality, the outside reality is gonna shape you. KISMA I feel like this goes beyond manifesting as well. When I think about shaping your reality, that involves the flow of your life and the direction that it goes, your experience of the things. And I'm excited to let the conversation unfold. Nick 4:20 Four Principles of Shaping Your Reality So we want to look at these four principles of shaping your reality. And we might dial in a few of them in this episode, but they are knowing, heart, action, and receptivity. KISMA Knowing Heart Action Receptivity Nick 4:41 Knowing Your Desired Reality If we start with knowing, the way that I teach this is we have to know what it is we want, and this can get confusing for people because they don’t know their big vision. You don't have to have the big, big vision, but if you're going to shape your reality, start to decide, what is that desired reality? What is it that you want your life to be? If it's something specific in relationships, something in your career or business or your health, you have to know it, and really begin to see that in your vision. KISMA 10:27 Acceptance of What Is And when I think about heart, that to me, it's a little hard to describe actually, but it's not necessarily an emotional thing. It's when I'm really dropped into myself and choosing what's right for me. There's an inner sort of quietude around it or just an ease of like, “Oh, that's the thing. Oh, that's it. That's right for me. I know that's right for me. I can move in that direction”. It's an inner peace that just says yes and it's so clear. Nick Yeah. I think it's an acceptance of what it is. It's very much that inner knowing will come when we are in more belief of what it is we want. Belief in ourselves and belief in the Universe, in Spirit and Source that will provide it when we stay on that path. KISMA 13:43 Charged With Emotion The other thing that needs to happen for this piece of knowing and heart is, I think when you come upon something you want and it's charged with emotion, is being aware that it goes both ways. If someone charges their desire with fear, they're going into the upside down affirmation, the negative affirmation, and that thought's going to be charged. When they charge it with gratitude, belief, and acceptance, it is also powerful. It begins to mold out into this Universal Intelligence Space. KISMA 14:37 Present In The Knowing But the things we need to avoid are regret of the past and apprehension of the future. Being right here, present in the knowing, dropped into heart and putting the emotion of gratitude for it, it's already existing. If we think about it, it's already existing. So it's staying in belief and dropped in. KISMA That allows the action to unfold which is the third step. Nick Yes, there's going to be action. Yes, there's going to be receptivity. And we'll talk about that in the next episode, but right here and now, everything begins with a thought. What we're dialing in here is how much in the knowing of what it is you want to attract, that you can see it, that you can feel it, that you can accept it and then be in this present moment and the next present moment so that you're in this space, you're in this Universal Substance ready to allow this thing to take shape. KISMA 20:38 Just Be Present Just be present if nothing else. This very exercise will elevate your vibe. It'll raise your frequency. And then in the next episode, we'll talk more about the action and the receptivity to really bring these dreams into a reality for you. KISMA
This episode is about Cosmic Peace. 1:33 Elevating Ourselves Last week our episode was about how to anchor the peace within, it was practical application about choosing to turn the noise down, choosing to not get into arguments, and more. Today we're going to raise it up into more of the cosmic nature. So when we think about what happens to our human in the world, you know, we've got the physical, we've got our body, we've got our brain firing in so many ways. We've got our emotions, our heart going off. We've got actions that we take, or we don't take. And somewhere we start to get really embedded in the physical world, in the day to day, and what is often referred to in the spiritual teachings as the mundane. And once we're stuck in the mundane, it's actually difficult to find peace because the cosmic peace is when we're able to be in the world, do what we're here to do, but elevate ourselves out of what is often referred to as the pairs of opposites. KISMA Cosmic peace is something very different by nature. Nick 3:40 You Have To See What Isn’t Working To have cosmic peace, to have peace in anything, we need a certain amount of strength, meaning a strength of intellect. We need to be resolved in our will to choose this. So when you're able to look at your weaknesses, and do so lovingly that's when the strength follows, the strength will not come if the weaknesses are not observed and made aware of first. You have to see what isn't working guys. You have to notice in yourself what isn't serving you and be willing to say “I'm sliding that over so that I can slide something in”. KISMA The awareness of what's not working is the first step to cosmic peace. Nick 6:05 Wake Up Tp The Games You Are Playing To be aware and to be willing to examine is a great exercise. Because until you can see and observe yourself in what things are doing to your energetic field, to your mindset, to your body, you won't be inspired to change it. KISMA So basically, wake up to the games that you're playing. Nick Wake up to the games you're playing into the habitual responses and reactions. Because so often when we do react a certain way, when we have the sense of negativity or the trigger or the tip or whatever you want to call it, it has become habitual. It's just like something gets triggered. And that's what you do. It's what you know that you do. It's where your subconscious mind tries to take you. You've got to see it. You've got to know that it is part of yourself in this 3D world in order to elevate yourself into the spiritual world, because it's a spiritual mindset. Spirituality is an attitude. And to have that attitude, we've got to slide out the things that are affecting us. KISMA 8:39 True Peace To me, a true spiritual essence, and ability to have cosmic peace is to be able to govern yourself as you are at any moment in any time. So if you need something to be able to find peace, it isn't a true peace that you have access to, in my humble opinion. The cosmic peace is being able to understand who you really are, which is this Self, it's to understand that the Universal substance is running through you and it's around you. The God spark is in you. All of that exists. You don't need a drug or a fast breathing process or whatever to bring it out. It exists. It's the awareness. And it's the capacity that allows you a greater feeling of connection because you're not disconnected. The cosmic peace is finding and realizing that first, at least having that sense of “Whoa, maybe it is there. Maybe it is all inside. And I just need to move the external stuff, not rely on the external stuff, rise above these pairs of opposites of the world and go within and find it there.” KISMA Something that you do that I think maybe a lot of people don't, or don't understand that you do is you have built the energetic capacity to have that and to hold that. And this is a really important part of the path. Your energy matters. You know, if you think about yourself as a container and you want to have this cosmic peace, well, certainly that's not going to happen when you're being pushed and pulled by the world. Nick 12:42 Everything You Need Resides Within You I still come back to seeking the path and having the awareness that there is an existence within you. Everyone, just pause and understand that everything you need resides within you to have success or failure. KISMA 20:28 Essence Of Calm And Certainty Start by being willing to observe yourself, avoid judging yourself when you observe, but just notice where you go into tipping points, where you get triggered, where those weaknesses start brewing. And then embody and receive this essence of calm and certainty that is coming from a way higher spiritual being than you could ever imagine. Just start there, with the awareness and trying to move that heavy stuff out of the way and embodying the higher. And you'll be surprised how, as you repeat it, it becomes easier and easier, better and better. KISMA
This episode is about How to Anchor the Peace Within. 01:01 Your Peace There's a lot going on right now. Nick There is a lot going on, and that's why we wanted to talk about anchoring the peace within. We felt it was really important to find ways to bring your peace and anchor it because there is so much noise in the world, there is a lot of negativity, fear, and heaviness being thrown at us from many different directions. KISMA 05:55 Present To The Universe What I've seen is that when there are events such as this pandemic, elections, where the country is seemingly very divided, the media plays on that, and there's so much negativity and manipulation from the media that if one isn't careful, it's going to go right into your energetic field, right into your subconscious. We have to be present to The Universe in order to say, “Wait a minute, I'm not taking that on.” You have to consciously say, “I'm not taking on that negativity.” KISMA It's a really foreign thought for people to consider that you could live outside of that in a way, but you actually can. Nick 09:50 Turn Down The Noise So what we're talking about here is the decision to go back to the basics and take care of yourself. KISMA I think what you're really talking about is that's how you turn down the noise. Nick Yeah. You turn down the noise by just saying, “I don't want the noise. I'm going to choose to not take on any more noise. In fact, I'm going to look at all the noise that I'm allowing in right now and I'm going to decide where I'm going to turn that dial way down.” And the dial might be on the TV. It might be on the radio. It might be on social media, your computer. The dial might be somebody you work with, or your friends who maybe have the same ideology as you, but they're just really negative about it right now. Protecting yourself, your mind, your heart, and your soul is the most important thing for you to anchor that peace within. KISMA Take a deep breath and just consider for yourself for a moment, where that noise is creeping in for you. Nick 12:55 Steps To Turn Down The Noise Let's go through a couple of steps that you can do every single day to turn those dials down. Number one is going to be the choice that you come first and this is going to be tricky for a lot of you, but decide that you come first and decide that you're going to turn the noise down. And secondly, decide that you're not going to have any guilt around it because that guilt thing will just replace the noise. KISMA You get to decide that for yourself. That's why we're talking about anchoring the piece and turning down the noise. It has to be turned down so that you can get your feet on the ground. Nick 15:20 Deciding to Stay Steady Nick, give us an energetic key how to keep that steady once the choice is made to turn the dial down. KISMA It's deciding to stay in something positive and proactive for yourself. Stay in your life. If you stay in your life and do the things that you can do then you're going to be way better off. Nick Remember to take care of self, to make a choice to turn that dial down and to focus on your most precious life. KISMA
In this week’s episode we are concluding our series on Moving from Chaos to Calm. 2:55 Recap This is part three of our series about going from chaos to calm. So just to recap, in part one we talked about the fact that you have the ability to create calm. And then in part two we talked about what's really going on inside you. KISMA 5:03 What Is Going On In The Inside This episode is an interesting one and that is for you to ponder that in some way, if there's chaos in your life, you've created it. You attracted it. This is not a good, bad, right, or wrong thing. If you have chaos in your life, or it comes and it goes, this does not mean you're a bad person, but I want to share something from a beautiful teaching. It's by Earl Nightingale, who's one of the founders of personal growth. And he's the author of a book called The Strangest Secret and he put it very simply, “What is going on in the inside shows on the outside”. KISMA 6:30 Watch Your World Change I'd like to encourage everybody to look at this more on a personal scale to start. When you look at it in a personal context, you'll really understand how to start to solve it in yourself. And then you'll get to watch your world change in really amazing ways. Nick And it takes a great amount of courage and vulnerability and trust to work with the Universal Laws and Spirit, Source, God and to be like, “Okay, I'm going to examine what is the benefit, what’s the little reward that I might get when I create chaos in my life?” KISMA When you ask something like that, or like, “What am I actually getting from this?” Then you have a much more clear path to your motivation behind creating it, and you can decide differently. Nick 12:19 You Get To Decide Differently Going back to the very first episode, it's a choice. It's a choice to have chaos in your life. And it's being used for a reason and everybody's got their own different nuances to the reasons. But knowing yours is extremely valuable because then you get to decide differently. Nick 16:37 Get Real So in order to move from that chaos to calm, you have to really observe and get real with what you're putting into your life, how you're responding, how you're reacting, and also ask yourself, “What are the little rewards I get from creating chaos?” KISMA This is where you'll have the opportunity to unwind it in a deeper way in your life. Nick And if you would like to go even deeper into creating more calm and certainty, this episode is brought to you by my audio training, KISMA 18:22 The Master Of Your Life Also just remember who you are. You are this amazing human being with an amazing, powerful Universe, God, Source all around you and within you, that is ready to respond to what you put in, how you think, how you speak, how you act. And you can be the master of your life. KISMA
In this week’s episode we're continuing the series, Moving from Chaos to Calm. And today we’re focusing on what's going on inside you. 2:17 The World Is A Mirror If you want to create calm, we have to look at what's going on inside of you. You've probably heard the teaching of the world is a mirror of what's going on inside. You work on your internal and the external does recreate. When we're willing to examine, to be present, and ask “Okay, what the heck is happening inside of me that I can alter, that I can change, that I can amplify or not amplify to change. What's going on around me?”, you're in control. KISMA 4:09 Choosing For Yourself We're going to talk about what are often referred to as the three R’s; how you receive something, how you react and then how you respond. There's so much information around you all the time. There's a lot coming at us. It's all not bad. It's just stuff. So when we look at how we are receiving things- how do we receive things from the news? How do we receive something from our partner or a client or our children? In what ways is it coming in? KISMA It's coming in through all of your senses. It's what you see. It's what you hear. It's the energy that you experience, and all of these different things. So there is a decision of what and who we surround ourselves with. What is the quality of the people? Are they bright, shiny, sparkling people who are really motivated to go do amazing things in the world? Or are they people who are very committed to being stuck in problems? What do you choose to surround yourself with? Nick 7:00 Internal Reaction It’s important that to the best of your ability, you're choosing the highest for yourself. It makes a world of difference. Nick It really does because there's an internal reaction that happens after you receive the information. And that internal reaction is going to be part of what you take on and how thick, heavy, joyful, or wonderful it is. KISMA 9:10 Continues To Create Calm The whole point of noticing what the reaction going on internally is when you receive and how to guide those emotions that might be lower vibe to a higher emotional state is so that when you reach the third R, which is respond, you're responding in a way that continues to create calm, or at least isn't triggered and doesn't blow things up. The key is that when information comes in, and the reaction internally is like, “Oh, this doesn't feel good.”, you take a moment. You notice it. Then you use your intellect, so that your response is on par with what you want to have happen down the road. KISMA 13:09 There Is A Point To Let Go I want to talk about a really important aspect of each one of these. There is a point to let go, and this is key. In the receiving part, there's a let go about what you can influence in your environment at that given moment. Let go of trying to make it any different and let go of the manipulation or whatever it is that you're trying to do to control or change the situation. Letting go allows you to react and respond more cleanly and clearly, and more in line with what you actually want to experience in your life. Nick 17:15 So this series is brought to you by my audio series that is now available called . Until next week, much love and namaste. KISMA
This week’s episode is Part 1 of a series called Moving from Chaos to Calm. Today’s episode is really about understanding, embodying, and trusting that you have what it takes to create calm. 1:13 Podcasting From Home It's a big day. We're podcasting from home. KISMA It's exciting. We have some new equipment and it's really nice to be able to sit down in this kind of comfort and record. Nick I mean it was fun to be able to record from Common Grounds. You know, that's where my office was for the last three or four years, and we've recorded so many podcasts from there. And then the quarantine hit, the place just became quiet, and well, we'll talk a little bit about how the whole house manifestation came. I tried to fight it a little bit but then we moved to a place that is big enough to have both of our businesses and our life. And here we are recording in your office. KISMA 6:40 The Calm In The Manifestation Since we're talking about calm and not having chaos, the way that I utilized rather than getting agitated, is why I really believe this place showed up. I just kept saying, “Okay, Universe, God, Spirit, Source, as good or better. If this isn't our place, as good or better. And thank you.” And I just leaned out of it. No worry, no anxiety. As good or better, let's go. So that's the calm in the manifestation. It's a trust, it's an expectancy, it's an ‘as good or better’. And of course, following through and doing the work. KISMA 7:42 Expect It To Be So And Stay Calm I think that's one of the things that I see most, and certainly a trap that I've gotten into and have to be mindful of for myself, is when you want to manifest something bigger in your life, there's a lot involved, and we can start to really go overboard on that. A lot of people get into a forcing kind of willful state of the chaos when they want to manifest something. Nick There’s this great teaching of take what is yours in life. Don’t take from other people, everyone, but take what is yours and expect it to be so. It's really interesting, like you said, drop in life and stay calm. Stay out of the chaos and allow what it is we want to show up. KISMA Yeah, the allowance is kind of a big deal. Nick 9:57 You Have What It Takes To Create Calm When I look at this, it's a big thing to move in. It's such a great example and a great teaching to see that it's actually possible to have calm inside of yourself no matter what the external circumstances. Nick Absolutely. It is about understanding, embodying, and trusting that you have what it takes to create calm. You have it in the equipment of being a human being. It's that first step of the confidence that you can actually create it. KISMA 13:09 Brings You Into Calm And this is not to say that the world stops being chaotic. It's that your perception and your ability to handle it brings you into calm. KISMA 17:37 Calm Is A Choice I would say for me, the most important thing for people to remember is that calm is a choice. It's not a magical thing that just suddenly happens. It's a choice that you get to make, whenever you decide to make it. Calm is for you if you decide it's for you. And that's really all there is to it. Nick By the way, this episode is brought to you by a training that I have, which is called . It's an audio training and it's available on our website. Until next time we're sending you so much love, peace and calm. KISMA
This week’s episode is called Know Your Supply.02:54 Remember Your Supply I grabbed the title, Know Your Supply, because I'm always working with my students and clients about how everything comes from the same supply, the same Source. We have access to all that is. I follow Deepak Chopra on Instagram. I've never done his trainings or courses, but I think he's so cute. He just speaks wisdom at the right time. And it was the beginning of the Corona virus, and I was checking his profile because I wondered what he was saying about it. And his post was so simple. It said “remember your supply”. Like, yes, we have to remember. We have to know our supply. KISMA 03:46 We Have To Know A lot of people think if they could find the right man or the right woman they would be happy. Or if they lose 10 pounds, they'll be happy. Now all of these things bring joy to our lives, but they don't create internal happiness. Whenever I teach sales, I talk about this. Money comes from the same place as everything else. It comes from Universe, Source, God, Spirit, whatever your word is, it comes from there. It comes through people, but it does not come from people. Everything comes from the same supply. We have to know our supply and we better be speaking to the supply and be grateful. KISMA This is an important kind of remembrance and a re-centering. Nick05:58 Allowing It Into Your Life If you recognize that nothing actually comes from those people, it comes through those people, you never have to feel like you're taking something from someone. So whatever that thing is, service, love, money, it just comes through those people and you’re allowing it into your life. This was one of the big revelations for myself that took so much pressure off of the way that I interact with the world. I stopped asking things of people and started to ask for things from that higher source. You just have to be clear and intentional about what you want, what you're creating, and then allow those things to come into your life. Nick 06:53 Demand What Is Yours Demand what is yours and allow it. Demand is not a bad word. It's just like “Alright, Universe. I demand what is mine. And I'm going to receive it.” So it’s the spiritual demand. And it creates a partnership with Source to bring in what it is you desire. KISMA 08:58 Stay Receptive So I only ask Source, Universe, God, and then I stay receptive. We have to stay very present and also flexible in our own way so that we can allow and receive. KISMA Receiving or actually having is probably one of the most powerful things that I think anybody can ever work on. Nick 17:42 Give Gratitude So know your supply, everyone. Remember your supply. Talk to your supply and give gratitude to your supply. KISMA
In this week’s episode we talk about Abundance Disruptors- Things People Do to Mess Up Their Love, Money and Happiness 1:34 Boil Things Down Sometimes we need a little pep talk. KISMA Yeah, you need a little pep talk every once in a while. We're so busy and our heads get cluttered up with so many things. So when you can boil things down to very simple steps that can reset you, it's so powerful. Nick So if you haven’t listened to Episode 198 yet, listen to it. It's all about deciding what kind of day you're going to have. In today’s episode we're going to look at where you might disrupt that. KISMA 2:17 Understanding and Getting Back In Flow This is a bit of a companion episode and I call it abundance disruptors. Sometimes I refer to these with my clients and students as manifestation disruptors. Because here's the deal, the manifestation one on one is you are always manifesting. If you follow me or Nick or you've done any sort of law of attraction work before, you know that we can get very purposeful and set our vision, our goals, our ideals and do all these things. Then, very quickly and easily, humans disrupt those. We want to understand where we disrupt it, and then what to do to get back in flow. KISMA 3:14 Doubt Is The Big Disrupter It's really about finding your frequency where you're as receptive and as clear as possible. So it's sort of like that sweet spot of your frequency of your vibe. What can happen with the disruptors is we get excited as humans about all kinds of things, and then very quickly, what will come into the mind is, “Oh my gosh, but how am I going to do that? Is it going to work? What if it doesn't work? How am I going to feel? What are people going to think of me if I actually do get this great thing or I build my business to a certain level?”, there are all these little voices of doubt that come in and disrupt your abundance. KISMA It starts with doubt. Nick Doubt is the big disrupter. And here's what's important, that doubt, those voices that you hear, I like to think of them as these voices on either side of you where you can just tell them “No, stop, not right now. Go away. I'm not listening to you”. You have the ability to come into an abundant lens, a clean and clear lens, and re-decide and choose what you're going to believe. KISMA 5:12 Our Perception and Expectations Become Disruptors Yeah and I feel like a big place where people get off is the meaning that they place on things. Nick What do you mean by that? KISMA We go into our day, and we have an idea about what we think it's supposed to be in order to be productive, or we have a goal and we have an idea about the things that are supposed to happen that indicates success. And, inevitably, something is different. So we take that very narrow scope of what we thought was success or what we wanted or the way it was supposed to be and then we make everything outside of that wrong, bad, or a failure. So it's our perception of whatever those things are that actually becomes one of the disruptors, which like you said, leads right back into the doubt and thinking you must have done something wrong. Nick 6:12 Field of Abundance Another big disrupter for your abundance is resentment and jealousy. “Well, it worked for them, but it never works for me”, and then there's anger. All of these things tear into your field of abundance as if they were these knives and they rip into your wealth container. KISMA 8:50 Deciding to Reset So there's a couple of things that I wanted to share. During the day, when you find that you're allowing these disruptors to come in and put down your vibe, diminish your dreams, etc. What can you do that lifts yourself up? What's the reset? There is a way again, deciding to reset. Get back in alignment with your vision and your choice and stay there. KISMA It's right there, we just have to make the choice to do it. Nick 15:06 The Solution What we want to do is build awareness and build the presence, and stay in your own lane. If we're staying in our own lane, and we're holding our thoughts and our feelings and our actions towards our vision, we're going to get a lot done. KISMA This is a much more elegant way and much more ease filled way of dealing with those kinds of things. And, this is the illuminated thought for the day, the solution never lies in the emotion. The solution always lies in the decision. Nick We love sharing our thoughts, our teachings and our experiences with you. If you'd like to hear and learn more about the universal laws, please join my Challenge: that begins July 23rd. KISMA
This week's episode is about Three Decisions You Can Make Any Day Your Best Day.02:44 It All Comes Down To Your Decisions Today we're talking about three decisions to make any day your best day.Nick Any day, your best day. And the reason we're talking about decisions is if you've been listening to us or following either of us, you know that we talk a lot about energy, the power of thoughts, the power of energy and the ultimate power of choice. And you know I say, we're always manifesting. And when people understand that they're like, “Oh, I better think about what I'm putting out there”.KISMAThe thing that a lot of people miss is it really does all come down to your decisions.Nick03:56 You Get To Choose And if you don't change your decisions, you'll always wind up creating the same energy. Like it's not just about mindset. It is truly about decisions on a moment to moment basis, the choice that we make and the thing that most people don't think is actually a choice is your emotions. You actually get to choose your emotions.Nick06:23 Three Simple Decisions So I think this idea that you had about this podcast, these three decisions, is brilliant because it gives us a chance to really examine what are three simple decisions that can be made that will shift everything?Nick The reason I thought we could focus on decisions is because as we know, where your thoughts go, your energy goes. And what you're focusing on will increase as per the universe. This is a law. KISMA 07:52 Decide: You Are Worth It So the first decision that I thought was very important is to decide: YOU ARE WORTH IT.It's a big one because whenever there is a lack of worthiness in a human being, they will choose to align their feelings with a lack of worthiness. They'll manifest things in their life that add on to the lack of worthiness, but so much changes when you understand that you're worthy just because you're a divine human being. When someone decides to accept that, it's like a new breath of life.KISMA It changes everything. Nick11:03 The Attitude You Want Decision number two is to decide: the attitude you want TODAY. What is the authentic attitude that you want to hold throughout the day that's going to energize you, that's going to allow you to be in flow, that is going to give you focus and sustainability? KISMA16:30 Pause And Reset Decision number three is so important. Make the decision at the beginning of the day that you'll PAUSE AND RESET when necessary. We've got to do this as human beings, especially because it's a noisy world. It's a busy world. There's a lot going on. There's a lot coming at us. If we don't pause and reset it can be like that spiral down. And when we pause and reset, you get to choose your attitude again. KISMA It's never too late to do that. Nick19:16 Everything Is Your Decision To Make So the illuminated thought for the day is that everything comes down to your decisions. So even energy, the emotion, everything is your decision to make.Nick
In this week’s episode we are talking about Why We Self Sabotage and What You Can Do to Stop It.1:24 A Thing We Humans DoWhy are we talking about self sabotage? Nick I think it's an interesting thing that happens. I hear it a lot with new clients or new students coming in. And you know, it's also tied into that series we did on . The upper limiters and things. When we humans aspire, desire, want something to be greater, better in our lives, or we want to be better and greater in our lives and then boom, before you know it we've just created a bunch of distraction and sabotage it and I hear that language a lot. KISMA The language of self sabotageNick It's an interesting term and an interesting thing that we humans do.KISMA 2:18 We Stop, We Will Self-Sabotage Why do people get stuck into these patterns of self sabotage?Nick What I see that happens a lot is there's an internal conflict, or there's a false means of protecting. So for instance, the protection piece can be really interesting. Let's just talk about money because self sabotage comes up a lot around money, around building a business or advancing in a job. And we know that there are going to be these tethers to parents and grandparents in the way we grew up. Specifically, wrapped around our money stories, and also just the thought of, “Well, if I make a lot of money, then what are people going to think?” So as they go to build a business or make more money or have a new money goal, there's that tethered to “Well If I go above this limit, or if I make too much money, will I still have the love of my family? What will people think of me? Will I be the person?” and this is all, floating around in the subconscious. And so what happens is we want to protect the love that we know, the perceived love that we know. And we stop, we'll self sabotage.KISMA 4:28 Chaos in the Field I think that it’s important to highlight that it doesn't happen on a conscious level so often.Nick This self sabotage can show up in ways that we might not even realize: getting distracted, getting sick, creating disease in our body, catching a cold, having an accident, dropping something, breaking a toe, all of these things will show up because there's chaos in the field. Self sabotage will show up as a conflict internally and then represent a conflict externally.KISMA7:05 Sabotage Showing up in Relationships You know it can show up in relationships, or if one is seeking a relationship and somebody comes into your life, you're like, “Oh, this is new, this could be amazing”. But it might look different than the relationship that you witnessed in a family or perhaps, it's saying there is a bigger part of your own connection and vulnerability that must be expressed and that can feel scary, that can have a little internal conflict. So you might pick a fight. You might dismiss the person. Something comes up where it creates a sabotage of the relationship. KISMA It sabotages intimacy. Nick11:07 Aware and Present Our advantage really does lie in our ability to be aware and to be present. KISMA What do people look for to be aware of?Nick If you find yourself not getting the result that you want, or if you set a goal or an intention, and you're getting sidetracked and distracted and disrupted, you've got to ask yourself a question because when our brain gets asked a question, it will usually pause. And those questions can be like, “Alright, why would I do that? Why am I stopping? Why am I allowing that distraction?” Or it's just a simple question, “Why would I do that?” And you'll hear something, you'll know something about why you're doing it. We've got to ask why without making it wrong. KISMA You said something really important. Not making it wrong. None of this is about being perfect. It's really just about paying closer attention, being more aware and catching yourself before you really get off track. Nick20:03 Taking Action So just to kind of summarize what's happening with self sabotage is somewhere inside, there's a conflict of either values or a place where we humans might have a fear of losing love or connection or what people are gonna think and all of these things. Your go to is the awareness of where you slow down, where you stop and ask yourself these questions. “Why am I stopping? What am I worried about? What am I afraid of?, or what's in front of me that maybe I don't really want to do or receive?” and then dialing it back to the very thing that you do want, energizing it with that sole purpose, belief and energy and then take action because action as well will help you get through and beyond those moments of self sabotage.KISMA 22:43 It’s Okay to be Human So the illuminated thought for the day is it's okay for you to be human. Nick I'm going to add on to that. You're human and you're remarkable so go do what you want to do. KISMA
This week's episode is all about How to Listen to Your Energy.1:12 Listen To The EnergyWe talk about energy a lot, but today's conversation is a little bit special. Nick, what do you mean in particular when you say listen to the energy?KISMA It really means to sense or perceive it in your own way, and to be more attuned to it.Nick1:43 Energy Always Comes FirstSo talk a little bit about why it's important to listen to your energy, to know it, to understand it.KISMA Energy is what always comes first. We have ideas and all these different things. But behind and preceding any one of those things is energy comes first. And when you are more attuned to that, more keenly aware of it, you can go straight to the heart of the matter and not get all twisted up in your mind or in your emotions or confused or overwhelmed with ideas, or stuck for ideas. You can get beyond all of those things way more quickly when you just deal with the energy.Nick5:39 Pay Attention To ItEverything's already energy. It's not a new thing. So you've already been dealing with this and working with it and working within it your whole life. So when it comes to really tuning into it, it's kind of tuning into your nuance of it or your conversation of it and making sure that you're paying attention to it. The biggest thing is we just don't pay attention. And all it takes is a few minutes of going unconscious, and then you're down the rabbit hole with something. But when you pay attention to it, you can be more attuned to it. Nick6:23 The Energy Never LiesThe other benefit of this that I think is super, super important is that the energy never lies.Nick That's a really good one. KISMA The energy will always tell the truth. And so the more attune that you can become to that in yourself and what you've already been working with, then you can make a shift much more easily.Nick 10:07 Energy Is A Personal ExperienceAlso energy is a very personal experience for each person. So I imagine if you feel the energy of anger, you're going to feel the energy of joy. You're going to feel the energy of love, of abundance. For each person it'll have its own texture.KISMAAnd that's a great way to go about it. It doesn't take very long to grab a little note pad, sit down, take a few deep breaths to just quiet yourself, center yourself, and then go through some of the emotions that you experience on a regular basis. What does frustration feel like? What does it feel like when you're really stubborn and stuck in an idea? What does it feel like when you're criticizing someone? What does it feel like when you're super joyful? What does it feel like when you're totally at peace and completely content? What you're really doing is kind of taking a mental snapshot of that feeling tone. Nick I like that because I'm all about manifesting and creating prosperity and our feeling and energy is such a big part of that because it's what we're putting out into the universal substance. So being able to remember and even call in the different energies when you want, that's pretty Ninja. KISMA Yeah. It really goes right to the heart of it. Because it ultimately is a decision about what you want to be experiencing in your life.Nick14:39 Mastering All PiecesWhen you control your energy, you control your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions, your actions. It's really the beginning of being in control and mastering all pieces.KISMA Yeah. I agree. Or truly a greater sense of mastery in your life and being unshakable. Nick20:50 Take Care Of Your Energy So what's our illuminated thought for today?KISMA The illuminated thought for today is that the energy always comes first.Nick The energy always comes first. So if you take care of your energy, everyone, you get to handle everything else with much more ease and flow.KismaYou'll solve 95% of the problems before they even appear, so listen to your energy.Nick
Today’s episode is all about Making Peace and where making peace matters most. 01:14 How Do We Begin to Make Peace? We are recording this in 2020. It's been a wild ride so far this year, which is why I really think this topic is important. You know, we’re talking about making peace and making peace where it matters first.Nick I know that’s something you and I have been talking about a lot, so many tragedies and so many beautiful awarenesses during this time, but what matters most? Where do we start? How do we begin to make peace? KISMA01:41 An Inner Quietude The outside is a reflection of the inside. And the peace that we create in ourselves is what we get to take out to do our work. So the reason I think this is so important is because it's not about peace, just so that you can be happy and bliss out. It's about an inner quietude. And from that place is where you have real power to live your life and create what you want with your life. Nick 03:37 Emotions and Knowing Making peace where it matters most really comes from the two things that I always hear about. Which is, “Well, my head is saying this and my heart is saying this”, and there is a battle going on inside between those two. And when we talk about heart here, we're not talking about emotion, we're talking about knowing. Nick Describe the difference between the emotions and the knowing and the heart center. KISMA Emotions in the fields are beautiful human things. There's so many. 2020 has been an amazing study in human emotion and response to stress. And there's nothing wrong with that at all. But when we talk about the heart, like the heart of it, it's actually that deep sense of knowing inside of you. You could call it a calling or a whisper. It's kind of like a conscience, but not exactly, the intuition, sort of because intuition guides you in that direction. But the heart is the heart. It's that place where you drop into that inner sense of knowing. “I'm exactly where I need to be, doing exactly what I need to be doing. I'm ready to take my next step”. Nick06:13 The Mind When you say the mind, are you talking about the subconscious mind? KISMA It would include the conscious and the subconscious mind. The subconscious is like the puppeteer, it's pulling the strings. And then the conscious mind makes decisions based on that to justify and to reinforce what the subconscious mind is telling it. Nick Until the conscious mind becomes clear enough to tell the subconscious what to do. KISMA09:49 Tired of Living in Chaos? So the mind creates some chaos. It takes us out of the knowing of the heart and we keep searching and searching and it's all right there in front of us and we're not seeing it. KISMA Yes and at a certain point you just have to decide, you know, “I'm tired of living like this, and I think I'd like to try something different.”And it's not like you make that decision and poof it's done. It's a skill, it's a new way of thinking. You have to spend a little bit of time to get in the groove of it and start to experience it. Nick18:12 Stop Fighting With Yourself Just stop fighting with yourself, first and foremost. Sign a peace treaty with yourself.Nick Sign a peace treaty. I want everyone to write their peace treaty and sign it. KISMA22:00 Let Your Mind Off The HookWhat's the illuminated thought around this?KISMA Well, sign a peace treaty with yourself and give your mind a new job. Let your mind off the hook for all the 8 billion things it's been trying to do. Nick Check out for more on how to live an enlightened life.
In today’s episode we are talking about anger, specifically How to Deal With Anger. 1:07 Important to Discuss This is a really interesting topic and oddly one of my favorite topics to talk about. Nick I'm just gonna launch right into why I think it's an important thing to discuss. There's a lot of anger right now. We're recording this, hopefully towards the end of a pandemic, yet we are seeing the results of the stress and the struggle and misinformation and just all sorts of things. There's a lot of anger and anger is a powerful emotion. I think that anger can really fuel a cause and fuel the action. However, when anger is misused and it's held on to, it becomes detrimental to one's health and it is the opposite of healing energy that will really get us to the other side of this and any challenge quickly. KISMA2:25 It’s a Natural Human Emotion Yeah, I totally agree. It is a natural human emotion. Nick It is a natural human emotion and we're not here to make anger wrong. And I'm certainly not here to say, if someone has hurt you or abused you or whatever, to not be angry. No. Be angry. It's an emotion. KISMA It's really important to be clear that we're not saying don't have the emotion or stuff it, but what we're saying is let’s talk about it because it's important. Nick And manage it and direct. KISMA And if you are angry, it's really about learning how to resolve it, and do what you need to do with it. Put it to good use. Nick 4:13 Anger is an Indicator So anger is an indicator that you want something and that desire is being obstructed. You want something and you're not having it. So right off the bat, that will first become frustration. You'll get frustrated about things. Now, the more that the frustration builds, you'll either start lashing out, like anger is that energy that really lashes out. And then when it lashes out over a longer period in a more ferocious way, it becomes rage. But it starts with frustration and usually what happens is the frustrations get ignored and then it gets stuffed and then it blows. So I think a lot of times anger starts just by not listening to ourselves and what we really want. Nick 7:49 Suggestions to Move into a Solution So to help our listeners, if someone is feeling anger from an energetic perspective, what are suggestions in order to move from anger into a solution? KISMA Everybody has their own way. But one of the best things that you can do is just move your body. Any kind of movement, go for a run, do some yoga. Nick One thing that I recommend is, you know, psychologists have done great studies. And I never used to journal. But now I'll take pen to paper and just start writing. It’s a great way to just start to release and undo. You don't even have to read it. It's just from head to your pen to your paper and write. KISMA 12:02 The Ultimate Healing State So then another piece that's extremely helpful is forgiveness. I mean the ultimate healing state is to forgive. If you need help with that has a pod of meditations and there is one there on letting go and then there's a healing one. KISMA 21:53 Life is Short The final piece for me is that we know life is short, let's not waste it on blowing up ourselves or other people. Instead let's use and direct the emotions with wisdom and intellect because they're way more powerful that way. KISMA So, that's my illuminated thought for the day is that every little bit of your life is precious. Don’t waste it. Nick
Today we're talking about How to Stay in Your Own Lane and why it's important.03:34 Staying in Your Own Lane is Important We've had a few fun episodes recently and we want to change the tone here because there's a couple of serious topics that we want to talk about over the next two episodes. Starting with how to stay in your own lane. Nick And why it's important. KISMA 04:05 Most Powerful Skills So what does it mean to stay in your lane? KISMA To me, this is one of the most powerful skills you can develop in your life. Nick And we're not talking about driving the car, but we’re talking about driving ourselves. KISMA We want to talk about it because it really is that important. If you want peace in your life, it's that important. Nick 04:47 This is Vital If you want to be effective at what you do and impact the lives of others, staying in your own lane is a huge piece. Even more so, if you want real spiritual development or real depth to your practice. And in so many other ways, this is incredibly vital. I cannot overstate the importance of this topic Nick 05:43 Your Container How do you know what your lane is? What does this mean? I think it's really helpful to think about it in containers. Everything has an energetic container and there's big containers, really, really big containers like the government. And then there's your individual container, your human. And let's say if you have a family, your partner, your kids, they all have their own individual container. And you can almost think about that not like a bowl, but more like a vortex. So when you talk about staying in your own lane, it's really staying stable and grounded in your own space, in your own container. Nick And all of your energetic fields. Psychical, mental, emotional. You're in it. KISMA 09:38 Taking Ownership When you were talking, what I kept hearing was that when we stay in our own lane, we take ownership of it. When we stay in our container, we take ownership of it. When we take ownership of it, we are then working with the spiritual laws as we know and co-creating. We can't create anything if we're not taking ownership of who we are and what we want. KISMA 15:22 Your Life, Your Truth So the question that some of our listeners are probably asking is “how do we stay in our own lane and also get the information that we're required to have in order to be safe, to be healthy, to be wise, to be up to date?” I personally watch certain videos and then there's others I won't watch because I know they're not substantiated. So I'm very careful what I watch and doubly, triply, careful what I would share with a client because I think that things can get highly exacerbated right now. So I think we do have to use our intellect, to answer my own question. A very strong intellect of asking questions. I personally will do research, read and then look at all of it to figure out what's my truth, what's working for me. KISMA Yeah. It's an individual choice. Like how you should go about informing yourself or live your life for that matter. Which is essentially what we're talking about because we're talking about how you spend your energy.That's your life. Nick 24:11 Narrow and Powerful So I have an illuminated thought. Your lane is probably way more narrow than you thought, yet way more powerful. Go with the narrow and the powerful everyone. It's your time. KISMA
Today's episode is called The Chaos Buster. We're going to bust through and resolve chaos in our lives. 1:01 It is 2020 We're recording this and I don't know what month or day it is. KISMA We know it's 2020 and it's weird. Nick It's 2020. The year that was supposed to be so great, and we're still opting for great. Just the chaos got thrown out, and it is super weird. KISMA 1:14 What You Can Do I do want to give a shout out. It's very important to give a shout out to all of our frontline people. Our medical workers, our healers, our police officers, our firefighters. Anybody out there doing what you're doing. Thank you. And I pray and meditate for this planet every single day. I think it's important to send that loving energy their way whenever we can. KISMA Super deep appreciation, really profound. Nick It is profound. And I know we're trying to keep things focused and light and prosperous here. And I also want sensitivity. I know my students are out there praying and meditating for the planet, but if you're ever wondering if there's something you can do, the prayer meditation works. KISMA 2:38 Chaos In Your Life Well speaking of prosperity, I don't know of too many bigger prosperity killers than chaos. Nick It is a big one. It goes against divine order. KISMA Chaos is in the inside and it's just like all of a sudden that's when in prosperity and money it's like your money just disappears, and you’re wondering what happened to all of it. That's when you know you've got some chaos in your life. Nick 3:06 We Often Create Chaos Believe it or not everyone, we often choose to create chaos because we're in fear, and if we're in fear we'll go into doubt and into confusion. And confusion is a quick zip-up to chaos. And some people will create chaos in order to create order again. And when the chaos is happening, it's like it throws spaghetti all over the walls, it throws your energy all over the walls, it throws your energy everywhere and you get lost in it. And whatever vision, whatever focus is deterred, is diminished because everything is in a swirl. KISMA That's right. So I'm just going to dive right in with tip number one. Be open to the idea that you have created chaos. Nick Well, here's the really cool thing about it. If you created it, guess what else you can do. You can solve it. KISMA 12:03 We Can Exist In Order What tips do you have for when you're in chaos that appears to be not directly created by yourself? KISMA So we're living within a context of chaos, of a chaotic situation. That doesn't necessarily mean that we have to live in chaos. We're living in the context of that. But you don't have to live in a chaotic way in your life, and that's where a lot of people get turned upside down because they're like, “well this is just going on all around me.” So they get swept into that collective and it's like, no, no, that can be happening there and you can be existing within order in that. It's understanding that we can exist in order and have that in our lives no matter what's going on around us. Nick 17:53 Creating Order Internally is really where it starts. What's happening inside is happening outside. Nick Absolutely. I think it starts inside. I do, but also as we create order externally, it creates some order internally because we're in the act of creating order. KISMA 28:10 Seek The Order So my illuminated thought for today is where there is chaos, there is order. So seek the order. KISMA
Today's episode is called Things We Would Have Never Done Without The Lockdown, and just to put some perspective, we're not really locked down. 1:05 Freedom, Purpose, and Happiness Let me just say I know we already called it Lockdown in one of our other episodes. I think it was the most recent one, .I think people are doing an amazing job finding their sense of freedom and purpose and happiness. And that's a little bit what I wanted to talk about today, what showed up in my world to give me a little sense of greater lightness than I wouldn't have had and to hope that everyone can find it. KISMA The innovative spirit, the human spirit.Nick The human spirit is astounding.KISMA 1:44 New Ways I think we have to start there. The human spirit is astounding. You know, Zoe's in New York City. I don't actually know if she's doing this, but I have other clients and friends in New York City and they're doing the 7:00 PM clap for all the frontline workers. People have personally said to me, I look forward to 7:00 PM and we open our windows and clap for all the medical workers and frontline workers. Like, that's so New York. It's amazing.KISMAThe birthday parades, those are so cool. The porch concerts. I see that with a lot of my friends from the orchestra. They're playing on their porches and they're finding new ways to do things.Nick New ways, above and beyond. That's what the human spirit does. KISMA2:45 There is a ConnectionOne of the things that happened for me that brought a lot of lightness is, I had the class that I graduated with in 1979. We had a reunion this past summer, which was a hoot. So then I get this invite from Lenny, who listens to the podcast. He sends an invite for a happy hour and I'm like, oh, this could be cool. When do I do happy hours? By the time it's happy hour there, it's like 3:00 PM here on Friday. And I'm usually still working. But I was like, no, this seems kind of fun. So we show up on zoom and I'm on zoom all the time. But it’s kind of stunning watching everyone be the same but how many years later and seeing where the guys connect in a certain way and the girls connect in a certain way and then we all connected. We might have different political views or different health views or whatever, but at the end of the day, there is a connection and there's, I think a deep respect and a deep love and a deep caring and also kind of like, oh, this is so cool. It is so fascinating to watch how the conversation goes.KISMA13:15 Consistency What else would you have never done without the lockdown?Nick Oh, that's a good question. I'm pretty much in my schedule. Because of you we're eating in a lot, eating good food and obviously we're all eating in right now, but I don't know what I'd be eating. We're great eaters. We're healthy eaters, but every day, consistently, thanks to you, I've been feeding myself well.KISMA Yeah, I would've never learned to be as consistent with cooking. Before it'd be like, “Oh, we don't have anything. Let's just go out”, and we could still just order out. But the shopping thing, it really taught me how to plan a little bit better around cooking. I was already on that before all this happened, but I didn't know that I would have taken it so seriously. Nick 16:44 This is a Really Unique Human Experience One of the cool things I got to do was my sister texted me about a week ago and they decided to do a project. She teaches at Cranbrook. She's a history teacher, and one of the things that they're doing is documenting. They're like, “this is a really unique human experience. We're going to document it through stories”. So they're teaching all the kids to do podcast episodes. She knew that I had a podcast and wanted me to talk to the kids about interviewing people because they're supposed to interview somebody who would be having a different experience. And I thought it was really cool, I would have never got a chance to do that without this.Nick20:48 Laughter is the Best MedicineI think for me it's just going back to being able to get a little bit silly, connect with people that are from my past, but now in my present and they're amazing. Each and every one of them are so much fun and having these little text threads that make me laugh in the middle of the day. There's just something about that care that goes through a group of people that's pretty special.So my illuminated thought is, laughter really is the best medicine. So if you're not laughing out there, find someone to just take you back to the silliest of times, where you're almost embarrassed and laugh because it's a really, really good thing.KISMA
In this week’s episode, Our Life in Lockdown, Nick and I talk about our life during quarantine. 1:08 Quarantined I want to start this episode by saying we are not making light of the situation of COVID-19. But, maybe we're going to make a little bit of light about being quarantined. KISMA Yeah, it's freaking weird. I mean let's just call it what it is. This is a really weird time. Nick I'll just share, my life hasn't changed that much because I work from home or the office anyways. So it's been a full on schedule for me at work and even more so because I've really wanted to make sure all of my clients and students are doing okay and they're just amazing. They're just showing up so beautifully. KISMA 2:47 Things aren’t the same But I think it was this week that I started to notice the things that aren't the same. Like, “Hey, I want to take a drive and get a cup of coffee at Phil's.” Oh, that's not going to happen. And it's not like we're feeling sorry for ourselves. It's just noticing all the times where I want the pattern interrupt and it isn't there to take. KISMA I went for a drive last week. Oh, it was the best. I don't even know if I'm supposed to do that. Nick It was needed for mental health. KISMA I think it really was. Nick 06:29 Being More Present The cool things are being more present to really simple things that are so easy to brush off like our balconies, just opening the door and walking out, and noticing the moon or the morning or the fresh air, and that makes a difference for me. Of course you've been cooking so I'm super lucky. Nick is cooking like a mad man. Mostly vegan. But, where are some of the recipes coming from? KISMA A lot of them are coming from They're really good. They have two books. I highly recommend them. Their recipes themselves are hilarious to read, and the recipes are really good, so highly recommended.They're all very simple too, very easy. Nick 10:11 Intense Energy And you know, when you walk in the store, everybody's really focused, they're doing their thing, they're trying to keep their distance. I've noticed that people are trying to honor that. And there’s a kind of intense energy. Nick Yeah, it's intense. We like to do our weekly run together and everyone is being so great. Well, well-behaved. Everyone really is, but you can feel the sort of anxiety of, “I gotta get in and get out. Is there going to be enough?” The worry, the fear, it's so strong. You've heard us all talk about cutting cords, and it's really important to cut cords. When you leave the store, cut cords. On your day of shopping, have a salt bath later. No one's trying to put stuff on you. It's just happening. KISMA Yeah, it's just humans being humans. Nick 12:05 The Way We Approach It I've said this before and I'll continue to say it, the way that we approach it through prayer, through meditation, through our own light, I just refuse to believe that we won't make a difference. So it's really important to do whatever work you do. Say a prayer for the planet. Say a prayer for our leaders. Say a prayer. Meditate on so much love and light and power going to yourself, your family, your loved ones, medical professionals. Just take time every day to really send that kind of energy because even when one of us does it, it makes a difference, so we can imagine what happens when everyone does it. KISMA That's been a big part for me is making sure I'm very diligent with my time for meditations. There's an energetic process behind it that supports it to make it effective and productive. Nick 17:01 This Too Shall Pass Well I have an illuminated thought for today. This one we have probably said before, but this too shall pass. It really will. And one of the things I keep checking in with me is don't miss it. As rough as this is for some people, there's a golden nugget. There's something to take hold of and make your own. Maybe some space you've been craving, whatever it is, like grab it, you deserve it. KISMA 17:39 Part of a Historical Time Yeah, I don't want to say that I'm enjoying this necessarily. It's very strange, but also, there's a part of me that recognizes it's a very unique point in our history and this is something that not everybody will experience in a lifetime, and I don't want to miss it. I don't want to just get in and do all the same stuff I always do. I want to be a part of it. Like I want to be really present. Nick So we'll leave everyone with this. What can you do to really remind yourself you are part of a historical time? KISMA
This week’s episode is about The Signs of Depression and What You Need to Know. We look at this from an energetic perspective along with mindset. 01:50 Depression is Not a New Thing Depression's a really big deal and it's not a new thing. The ancient Greeks called it black bile. There's a one in six chance that you'll deal with this at some point in a significant way in your lifetime. It's that prevalent and I think a lot of the time, it doesn't look or feel or sound like what we think it's supposed to so we're like, no, that couldn't be me. Nick 08:40 How do You Approach it? So when you work with somebody in healing for anxiety or depression, how do you approach it? KISMA 08:52 Small Steps Anxiety has a lot to do with harnessing the energy and directing it in a really positive way because there is a more productive way. With depression, particularly when somebody's having a tough time finding the energy and the motivation to do anything, it's really about small steps. So the exercises that I teach in energy mastery are really important. When you have those tools to really clean up in a very thorough way, everything that's going on in the system and systematically, then you have a way to release it. It'll move and then you have a little bit more to take the next step. Nick 10:19 The Energy Perspective So from the energy perspective of say, the chakra system that you work on, where would you start or does it depend on each person? KISMA It kind of depends on each person. Basically the biggest one for everybody is solar plexus. Not only because it is a clearing house for lower emotion and it gets congested super easily just by living life, but also because all of your major organs are right there. And if you think about a chakra kind of as an organ that lives outside the body, well that chakra is responsible for all those organs. So when the chakra, when that particular place, gets really bummed up, then it can really have an impact physically very, very quickly. Nick 11:19 Spark of Light What do you recommend for someone who is tiptoeing in the state of depression? To take a different action or have a different thought around it? KISMA If somebody is kind of skirting on that, it's definitely keeping in motion, keeping your body active. And then to me, creative action is one of the things that really adds some kind of spark to it. Go do what lights you up. Nick I think when the human becomes creative, there's at least a little spark of joy that lights up. And as we know from the spiritual perspective, if we can focus on a spark of light, it really does become a glow. It takes on a bigger glow. KISMA 15:21 Moving the Body I want to know more from your perspective about moving the body. What does that do and why is that important for someone who has depression or is in a depressed state? What does moving the body do to the energy in the field? KISMA Not only do you have the chakra system, you have all of these meridians in your body. You are very intricate and there’s an energy system that's fueling your body and moving it. And when your body doesn't really move, then those things tend to get stuck. So physical activity helps. It gets everything moving as well. So the stuck things can start to flush out and it brings your energy up. Depending on the kind of workout that you do or the kind of exercise, it can increase endorphins too, which will give you a nice little lift. Nick 24:04 There is a Solution Just to come full circle for anyone struggling now in the quarantine or for anyone who's listening down the road. There is an opening. There's always an opening. There is a way out because just like any problem, there's always a solution. We have to have a willingness to see it or receive it. KISMA 31:54 A Higher Truth There's always a higher truth. There's always a higher truth and do reach out if you need some support. If you feel like you're struggling, you need some extra help, go to . There'll be an option to take the Ultimate Life Tool. There'll also be an option to set up a session with Nick and to dive in and do some healing right away. It's well worth it to invest in yourself for some extra care should you need it. KISMA I'd love to hear from you. Nick
Today's episode is all about How to Solve Anxiety During Stressful Times. We share some tips and tools for you to use so you can move from an anxious state of mind into a calm and peaceful state of mind. 03:43 Holding The Light We are recording this during a stressful time on the planet. During the COVID-19 pandemic. It's very fascinating, it can feel stressful. It can feel uncertain. But, what I am noticing, certainly with my clients and students, and the world and myself is that there will be waves of stress. I think that the people in my world are doing such great work and being very focused on holding the light, so to speak, staying focused, being grateful for whatever they can be grateful for. Everyone is trying to see the good in this and how they're going to land on the other side, which is incredible. And that's why we do the deep work here. However, it doesn't mean that there aren't waves of anxiety. We just don't know. We don't know how long it's going to be. We don't know. So where do we start with this? KISMA 05:01 Understanding Anxiety I think first and foremost is understanding what anxiety is. It has a lot to do with futurizing. So, it's projecting into the future, and right now with the uncertainty being so high, when we look ahead, it's like, well how long is this gonna last? Am I going to be okay? Not just on a physical level, because I think a lot of people are feeling a little bit more grounded in that. But okay, well how long am I going to be out of work? Or how long is this kind of down cycle going to be happening? When am I going to be able to get back into my life and reconnect with people? What anxiety does is it burns when you're futurizing like that. So you get really up in your head and your head starts to really create these stories and it's burning a ton of energy. And that actually depletes your energy. So you feel kind of like everything's all congested up in your head and then it depletes your energy and then you're in that weakened state. Nick 07:14 Anchoring into the Present Moment I think we do have to understand anxiety in order to solve it. And I like how you put it. It's futurizing. I've certainly talked about how the mental stories that we create, the assumptions that we create, when we go into the future and start seeing the worst case effects us. So it seems like it's really anchoring into the present moment and having some sort of faith and trust that what's in front of us is going to be okay and that obviously we'll do everything we can to make it okay. KISMA 07:55 The Things that Manifest That's absolutely true. One of the sayings that I hear around a lot is, expect the best but plan for the worst. There's a real significant problem with that because you pay lip service to expecting the best and say, “okay, yeah, we're going to hold some positive thoughts here”, but then so many of your actions are driven around preparing for the worst. And those are the things that manifest more. When you take action in the world, that's more powerful than just thinking something. It starts being congruent with your thoughts and that sets up an inherent incongruency where one part of you is like, it's going to be okay, but then the other part of you is panic buying toilet paper and canned goods. And that in itself will create more inner conflict. That inner conflict will get you more un-grounded and the less grounded you are, the more that the mind just kind of takes control and is like, well, I'm going to make this safe by thinking my way through it. That's anxiety. Nick 09:07 The Whole Recipe Yeah. And it really agitates the mind. It brings fear, confusion,and doubt. The whole recipe. KISMA 11:28 This is Not Permanent One of the things that I will say to people just to help anchor and lessen that anxiety is, this is not permanent. Is our world going to be different from now on? Yes. However, this is not permanent. We're going to get through it. And the way that we view what's happening, the way we navigate it will determine how we land on the other side. That's an easy thing to say. Like, take a breath. It's not permanent. Yet, if someone is suffering from acute anxiety, what else can they do energetically to help get into the calm, you know, come in for a landing? KISMA Well energetically, the first thing is to go get my free video set because it'll teach you a breathing technique that is incredibly powerful. It's very, very simple. Anybody can do it. It'll teach you how to cut cords, which is basically getting you out of that energy. and learn them. Nick 26:55 Grace and Space So this was great. Nick, what is your illuminated thought for this show? KISMA My illuminated thought is I think it's truly beautiful that we see people giving each other more space, you know, physically. It would be cool to have some hugs in there too, but the gentleness is something that I'm seeing more of. Like, giving people a little space to be a human being. And I think that is a beautiful thing. Grace and space. Nick All right, well thank you everyone for being here. We are sending you so much love, really good energy, and please reach out if there's anything that you need from us or questions. KISMA
In today’s episode, we are talking about Leonard, our Boston terrier and the five lessons that we learned from The Bestest Boston Terrier Ever. If you're looking for a little bright space on the internet, go find 00:48 Our Boston Terrier I wonder how this episode is going to go because we're talking about Leonard, our Boston terrier. KISMA Sadly, Leonard has left us. He's crossed the rainbow bridge as they say. He was a really good dog. He was so amazing. Nick 6:29 Everyone Loves a Boston Terrier That brings me to lesson number one, everybody loves a Boston terrier. Nick Everyone loves a Boston terrier. They're just so freaking cute. KISMA Everywhere I walked with that dog, people would stop and they were like, “Oh my gosh, it's a Boston”. Or they were like, “Is he a Frenchie or is he a Boston?”. You know, and they were always just so taken with him. Nick 8:00 Making Friends So, the second lesson is that you can make friends easily. These are all things that I've learned really just by observing my dog. Nick Yes, this is true because he's fun and he would sort of trot around and anybody that came up to him, loved him, and he would just be friends. KISMA 10:52 When You Know Someone, You Know What's another lesson? KISMA Number three. This is a big one. When you know someone, you know. When you know their habits, their patterns, like you know what this little being does and when you expect it to be different, you're just setting yourself up for a whole world of stress. Nick Just like people. KISMA 14:32 Manifest through Persistence and Charm Lesson number four is a big one for me. This is something that I learned by watching this dog. His amazing, truly extraordinary ability to manifest through persistence and through charm. Nick So true. The guy had charm. KISMA Add charm and persistence and you have a winning combination. If he wanted something, he would not quit. Nick 17:14 Unconditional Love The last lesson I want to talk about is more universal to dogs, is just how they teach us and show us and demonstrate that unconditional love. Nick Yeah, that's so true. We can mess up so many times and they still love us. We can turn our backs on them, yell at them, whatever, and they still love us. It really is a beautiful thing. KISMA I could understand what goes on in the dog's head that allows them to do that because it's a powerful thing. It's so powerful. Leonard, He will be missed.Nick He will definitely be missed. KISMA
Difficult times can bring out the best (and the worst) in people. We're sharing our personal insights and best advice to stay in your best and remain connected to what matters most in your world. Kisma talks about how to navigate all the lack mentality showing up through panic-buying and hoarding, while Nick shares his thoughts on healing mentally, emotional, physically and spiritually so that worry, anxiety and fear don't get the best of you. Please, whatever you're going through, if you need help, reach out. We're here to help without any kind of judgement for whatever you're experiencing. Be Well, Nick and Kisma
This week's episode has a special guest: Laura Belgray. Laura, the founder of Talking Shrimp and co-creator of The Copy Cure, is a copywriting expert who helps entrepreneurs find the perfect words to express and sell what they do in a way that gets them paid to be themselves. Through her work with hundreds of clients (including online biggies like Marie Forleo and Amy Porterfield) she’s seen firsthand that putting “you” into your copy and all through your business is pure magic for getting people to love you up, share your ideas, and happily click your Buy button. In addition to online type businesses, Laura’s list of clients and credits include NBC, Bravo, HBO, TBS, Fandango, and many, many more. So if you watch TV -- and don’t skip the commercials -- you've probably seen her words on air. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Special Guest: Laura Belgray 3:59 Welcome Laura Belgray I'm just going to bring her on. Laura Belgray, welcome to Illumination Podcast with Nick and Kisma. I am so excited you're here. KISMA I am thrilled to be here. Thank you for having me. Laura 4:43 Getting to Know Laura For those of you that know Laura, you know she is just an amazing wordsmith writer, communicator. We're gonna get to all of that in a bit, but let's start with, Laura lives in New York City. Just tell us, are you originally from New York? Is that home base? KISMA I am. It is home base. It is in my bloodstream, my cellular being. I am a New Yorker from birth. Born here at Beth Israel hospital. We lived on Charlton street for the first six months of my life and then Upper West Side where I grew up. I was on the show Open to Sesame Street where they show kids running around in the park in New York City. I have never left except for four years of college, but that was close enough to drive home and do my laundry. Laura 7:16 Laura is the Coolest Just for our listeners to know, when I started working with Laura. I was like, what is this talking shrimp thing? What is talking shrimp? And I just became so entranced with the way you wrote in your copy, you helped me. It was probably a couple of years ago. This was so major for me. We got on zoom, I hired you for a power hour. I think we did a couple of them, Nick and I would watch her on Google docs. I put this copy in there and she would just get in there and there'd be this magic editor changing the words, doing this thing. I would hear the New York sirens in the background. I felt like I was watching Mozart compose. It was that incredible, the swoosh of magic copy. And then, I think I saw you in person for the first time in New York City. In person, here's what happened for me, I watch a lot of big influencers and from being in the music business, I'm not easily taken in awestruck. There's a lot of people that posture a lot of things and there's a lot of amazing people. Laura walks in the room and you just know for an instant she's the coolest person in the room. KISMA Thank you. It's so sweet, and funny because in no way do I consider myself the coolest person in the room. Laura 13:52 What goes on in your mind? So, what goes on in your mind when you're setting the stage, whether it's a live event or your online courses, where you want people to be entertained because you are such an entertainer? KISMA Hmm. I don't know. I just trust that it's going to be entertaining. And I think that I try to make it organized and coherent and easy to absorb. But like the more, winging it, the more off the cuff I can bring into it, the more fun it's going to be. So that's really what I love doing the most is. I love things that are off the cuff. Laura 19:42 Creative Process - How does this Work? I've been thinking a lot about creativity and creative processes recently. For me, something happened and I've been in an incredibly creative phase, so it's caused me to think about it a lot, like how does this work? How it plays a role in my life and really for me, just on a personal level, how good it feels to just be able to be in that creative flow. But one of the things that I've noticed is that the more that you rely on it, somebody like yourself, that creative process is absolutely integral to your life and your income. And I know that sometimes that can put extra pressure on it as well. So I'm curious if you'd be willing to talk just a little bit about whatever you call a creative process or maybe beyond that, what are the things that you do that support that in you and keep you in the flow and doing such great work all the time? Nick First of all, I love that state of being in flow or feeling creative. Just being in the zone is everything. It is what I live for and sometimes it comes and sometimes it goes. But I would say, even when I'm struggling with coming up with something to say, to write in an email, because that's the thing that there is pressure to do every couple of days. I gotta send something to my list. I've made this commitment. If I have nothing, and usually I have a bank of old ideas that I can go to in Evernote, but if I have nothing I'll sit down and open up. If I have nothing, the chances are I haven't written anything that day. I haven't done my writing in 750words.com. That's sort of the app or the website that I use for journaling. So I'll open it up. It's 750words.com and just free write until it's 750 words and then I can close it up. And it's a great exercise. Not only does it get you into a writing groove and generate ideas as you're writing, but also, I think it changes your brain. I think it gets neurons firing or something like that. Just the act of writing. So it changes your brain chemistry and gets you into a more creative state. But usually I come up with some kind of idea, “Oh yeah, I can write about that today”. That's number one. If nothing's coming to me or I'm tired, I'm just like in a funk, usually I'll take a walk or take a shower. Laura 51:41 Where you can find Laura Tell us a bit about where people can find you. KISMA You can always find me at . Laura 54:40 On Laura’s Bucket List Before we wrap up, I have a question that I often ask guests because we don't have guests a lot and it's been so much fun to have you here, Laura. Is there anything that is on your bucket list like secretly you really want to do in this lifetime that you haven't told anybody that you would just like to share? KISMA Something that's scary for me to put out there, because I like to pretend I'm practicing non-attachment to outcomes, is that I want my book to be a bestseller. I want it to be on the list. I want it to be one of those books that's right in your face when you're at the airport. And it's like, Oh, that's one of their number one picks. “I'm going to take that with me on the plane.” I want it to be in everybody's hands. I want it to make people miss their subway stop when they're on the subway and make them laugh out loud on the plane to make people think they're crazy. And then I want to go on stage and talk about that and I want to be on panels. As my job from now on. I want people to just have me on Q and A panels where I don't have to prepare anything. Laura Well, so be it. We'll be waving our magic wands over here and anything we can do to support you, of course. Thank you again so much for being here. It's such a treat to have someone like you on Illumination podcast and everyone, follow talking shrimp, go to her website, go to Instagram. It is such a joy to be watching and reading Laura Belgray. KISMA
Today's episode is all about The Secret to Positive Thinking. We discuss the importance of letting go of attachment, as well as cutting your cords to manage your energy. 0:51 It's the perfect day to record the episode about the secret to positive thinking. KISMA Yeah, yeah. It is the actual perfect day for it. Nick 4:29 It’s the Attachment It's a really interesting moment where one can start getting super upset (and I know these are, alone, first world problems.) Nothing to really complain about. But it's the attachment. It's the attachment to it's going to be this way. And then when it's not that way, it's very easy for the mind to dip into a whole lot of anxiety, agitation and negativity. So the real secret to positive thinking is to not be attached to things having to be a certain way because the moment that it's got to be that way and it isn't, we feel out of sync if we don't have that intellect to check us. KISMA 8:03 It Always Comes Down to Being Attached Yeah. I mean that's all there is to. What is that? ATTACHMENT Nick It's attachment. Everyone, it always comes down to being attached. So the other thing that can happen is, you know, when we're creating something, when we have goals, when we have relationship goals, whatever it is, and it doesn't work the way we want, it's because we're attached to a certain outcome. KISMA 9:44 Expectations are Not the Problem It's not the expectations that are the problem. It's the attachment that is the real problem. Attached to things being a certain way and then being a certain way. That's where a lot of people get stuck in themselves is because they hold this ridiculously high standard for themselves, which is fine. Go for it. Like be the Christ walking the earth, be the Buddha. But at the same time is when you're attached to that expectation, now you have a problem with perfectionism. You're going to have a problem with authenticity because you're not going to feel safe on just revealing who you really are and just being yourself in the world and you're always going to be trying to be something different because it's not gonna feel right to do that all because of the attachment to that expectation. It's not the expectation at all. Expect the best of yourself and expect the best of those people around you because somebody has got to hold the bar. Nick 11:10 A Beautiful Thing For sure. That piece of expecting the best and calling or speaking, seeing the best in people is a beautiful thing. Yet if they don't show up that way and you are attached, it leads to a spiral down very quickly. KISMA 11:30 Expect the Best And that leads to another part of this - expect the best, prepare for the worst. Interesting though, because only the mental is on the expectation of the best, your actual actions and everything else, and all the strategizing is preparing for the worst. So the bulk of your effort and energy goes to preparing for the worst. Well, what do you think is going to happen? What do you think? You're going to land somewhere in the middle of that. Nick I don't know. I'm a believer if you prepare for the best, it means you're in such great shape. You can handle when something goes wrong. KISMA 13:27 The Secret to Positive Thinking So the secret to positive thinking is to let go of attachment to be unattached. Now how do we do that one? KISMA 14:12 The Beginning of being Less Attached We dip into the negative. If we're acutely aware of that moment, we have an opportunity to pause and I feel like the pause is the next step to being unattached because in that pause I'm like, wait a minute, I have a couple choices. I can respond like I always have based on past experiences, based on agitation, based on attachment, or I can take a breath and decide to respond differently and that's a split second of a choice. I can respond the old way or from my feelings from my beliefs or what someone's put on me or I can respond differently in a higher way. That's to me, the beginning of being less attached. KISMA It's giving yourself the opportunity to make a choice. Nick 19:09 Pause and Cut Cords So let's create two steps. One is the pause.The pause is really powerful. What can people do for their energy? KISMA . Cut cords. Nick 21:07 Be Less Attached Yeah. Cut your cords everyone, take a big fat pause. Because at the end of the day, if you really want to maintain, whether it's positive thinking, objectivity, let's just call it, you want to be able to think about what you want, not what you don't want. Take the pause and be less attached. Life will feel so much more free without that attachment. So the illuminated thought is very basic. The secret to positive thinking is to be less attached. That's it. Work on it, everyone. It's worth it. It's a lifetime of work, but it is so worth it. KISMA If you really want to understand attachment, check out these books: , and .
Today's episode is part two in our series, Open Your Mind to Receive. This series is based on the book, by Dr.Catherine Ponder, and in this episode we’re talking about the gift of release. if you would like to receive The Mystic Messages. 01:43 Acceptance Includes Release Last week the episode was about three ways to give. So if you haven't listened to that, go back and listen. But today we're going to talk about the gift of release. And Dr.Ponder says that once you've opened your mind to receive in a general way, then relax and experience greater good, and you will want to get definite and open your mind to receive some specific good for yourself. So you've kind of let go. You've given, you’re prepared and now you want to receive some specific good. She said “there are many people who want or desire, a specific good in their lives, but they do nothing in a practical way to accept those wants and desires. And acceptance includes release.” So release is an interesting word. And she says “you have many gifts you may have not used because you were unaware you had them. One of the greatest gifts is that of release.” KISMA 04:37 Why Not Release it? She says, “Your own gift of release is available on the mental, emotional, and physical planes of life as you use it. Often you will find that instead of impoverishing you, the active release will enrich your life far beyond anything you could have conceived.” And that makes perfect sense to me because when we're holding onto something, we're taking space and if we're holding onto something, chances are it isn't the highest vibe thing we're holding onto. If that thing is taking up space where something else could be coming in and flowing in with more ease, why not release it? KISMA Clutter is such a massive pressure. Nick 05:34 The Act of Release Boy, I know my alchemy has a big problem with it and I'm looking at my desk right now. I just want to pause and start cleaning, but I'm not going to do that to you guys. Okay. So back to Catherine Ponder. She says, “The act of release is one of the most effective ways to open your mind to receive. The act of release frees you from tightness, tension, or grasping. The act of release helps you to become open, receptive channel through which the intelligence of the universe.” I'm gonna say that again. Through which the intelligence of the universe can flow to you to cleanse your life of worn out relationships and conditions and make way for your new, expanded good. Out with the old baby cakes and with the new. So, she's not just talking about forgiveness here or something like that. She's really talking about just releasing, releasing the things and the stuff and the clutter and the thoughts, and the things that you’re holding onto. Nick 06:57 Such a Priceless Gift The reason release is such a priceless gift is twofold. First, it eliminates negativity from your life. Second, it expands your good. Elimination of something from your life is always an indication that something better is on the way. Elimination not only takes something from you, but it also gives something to you. And this is really key because I know when I worked with people, I'm like, you need to get rid of that. You need to give it away or do this or tithe or whatever. There's a feeling of, something's going away, something's being taken, but you're also receiving, you might not know how, but you're acquiring something. KISMA Yeah, or you're just receiving a little bit of space. Nick A space. Yeah, so we don't need to be afraid of letting go. KISMA 08:17 Calls into Action Whether you are consciously aware of it or not, the act of release also calls into action your super conscious or Christ mind, which is filled with universal intelligence. It always knows what to release. There is no danger in speaking the word of release when you ask Christ mind, the superconscious mind within you to do the releasing in your life and I think that's really important. I'm not sure I agree about the subconscious. I think the subconscious actually really holds on to stuff, but when we talk about the super conscious mind, your God Mind, your Christ energy mind, whatever word you use, invoke that for the power of release. Allow that to free you from all resentment, all attachment from the attachment to people, places or things of the past or the present. And then you can ask to really manifest the right, the right situations, the right people and prosperity. So it's like, it's invoking the Divine to say, just release, release who's not supposed to be around. KISMA 10:09 Just Let Go I love the idea that you don't have to even know what you're releasing. Sometimes you can actually just let go and kind of trust that that higher part of you is letting go, not the lower part of you, the higher part of you. That is really important and it will let go of the right things. Then you walk more freely. It's a neat experience when all of a sudden you just don't have some of the chatter that you had and you know it's amazing how quickly we adapt to it. Like, wow, when I think back to how my head used to be and then how my head is now, half of the things that are gone, it's like I didn't even know that they were there. Nick 11:19 If You Can’t Forgive, Just Release I think it's imperative for relationships to because if someone is holding on to something in the past, it's so challenging to rebuild and the word release can be so powerful. Even she states somewhere in here, when she's talking about forgiveness, forgiveness means to give up. And she said it would be like giving up resentment or anger. Sshe said, if you can't forgive someone, just release them. To me, that was very powerful. You know, I hear it is that she says, if there are people or situations in your life you have tried to forgive but were not able to because of antagonisms or negative feelings that got stirred up in the process, then stop trying to forgive them. Just release them as you lose them and let them go through release. You are forgiving them by giving them up and you're also really stepping out of ego because you're not trying to prove you're right. You're not trying to prove a point. You're not trying to win a fight. It's just like I released them. Do your thing. You know, it's back to keeping your side of the tracks clean. KISMA 17:02 To be Free My mind is going off on all these different dimensions and all the ways that this plays into our lives to be free. Like it's really just about being free. Nick 18:19 Release and Receive Well, my illuminated thought is when you release you will receive greater good. KISMA
In today’s episode, Open Your Mind to Receive, Part 1, we discuss opening our minds to receive. I personally am very excited for this because it's based on one of my mentors book, Dr. Catherine Ponder, and the book is entitled that, . We talk about three types of giving that will allow you to be more receptive, so stay tuned on how to create more receptivity. Also, here is the we mention in this episode. 1:41 A Receiving Issue Here we are. We're going to talk today on opening our minds to receive. And for our listeners out there, the reason I wanted to bring this topic in is that so many people come to me and say, “Well, I know the law of attraction or this or that. I'm just not getting what I want.” And what I have found is it's oftentimes a receiving issue. In fact, I would venture to say it's usually always a receiving issue because if there's something that we desire and we don't have it, we are resisting it because it's there. And we talked a lot about this in our series working with the law, right? The universal laws, law of polarity. If you want something, you see it, you envision it, you don't have it. It exists and it's existing at the same time. And we have to find our way to step into it and to receive it. KISMA 2:52 First of all, Why? In this episode, what I want to talk about is, first of all, why. She even puts this in her book. She goes, “Why should you deliberately open your mind to receive?” And she says, “Because most of us have endured a pinched, narrow existence for no good reason.” That's just like a mic drop. Your life has been pinched and narrow for no good reason people. Don't take that personally, but it's like where have we settled? Where have we tolerated a certain existence because we're not receiving what is divinely ours? KISMA 4:16 Nothing Divine I'm going to read that sentence again because most of us have endured a pinched, narrow existence for no good reason. She goes on to say, “We have blocked our good from getting through to us in the process. There's nothing divine about a pinch to existence. There's nothing divine about a narrow, limited way of life. It proves nothing but the foolishness and ignorance of human beings who actually live in a universe of lavish abundance.” I mean, drop the mic, Catherine. KISMA 4:48 We Don’t Know the Truth This is chapter one, like those are harsh words, foolishness and ignorance. But let's look at them. Ignorance isn't a bad word. When we're ignorant of something, we don't know the truth. We don't know the truth. And so we end up in an illusion when we're foolish about something, we also don't know the truth. It's like whatever we're doing because we don't know the access that we have. KISMA 5:16 Ignorance is just an Area of Darkness It's childish, it's like an immaturity, and I don't think she's wrong about that. I think if you take it personally, if you put the charge on those words, like I'm not foolish and ignorant, you know, but if you look really look at what the words mean, what it means is, they're aware of a childish immaturity. Which I think is true about anybody. As we mature into our fullness of being in our fullness of expression, and ignorance is just an area of darkness. Nick 5:42 The Act of Receiving Well, and she's just saying, which is true, we actually live in a universe of lavish abundance. So the word receive means to accept. And psychologists have told us over time that we can have anything we mentally accept, but we must mentally accept it first. Until we bring this into our being, we've got to accept it. And Dr. Ponder says, “A great part of the act of receiving is thus to mentally accept the good we want rather than mentally fighting it.” KISMA 9:43 Giving is the first step in receiving What we want to focus on in this episode is a way to receive and a way to receive is to give. Dr.Ponder talks about three types of giving that will allow you to be more receptive and it's give to receive right and receive and give. She says, “Giving is the first step in receiving. When you want to receive, give. However, there are three kinds of giving. All three are equally necessary to your long term growth and success.” KISMA 10:14 First, Give to God First, give to God. Put God first financially. Why? As is explained in Buddhism and elsewhere, this is the first quality to be developed in your character on the road to enlightenment. Many conscientious people study self-help method, yet do not receive the benefits from them should they? Because they ignore this first step. Very schemes have been suggested for getting rich quick. Most of them fail because they are based on getting, this is so interesting. The get rich quick schemes. Most of them fail because they are based on getting, not giving. They have no spiritual basis. So right there. when there's something showing up like get rich, get this, it doesn't have the spiritual basis and money comes through spirituality and God. The reason many people fail to receive their good in life is because they do not practice giving or returning impersonally to the universe on a systematic basis, a portion of all that the universe shares with them. KISMA The idea is to give to something that feeds you spiritually. Nick 14:41 Give to Yourself Let me talk about this second kind of giving. Give to yourself. So you give to God, second is give to yourself. Open your mind to receive by giving to yourself because all progress begins with self-improvement. And I love this because you know, you and I invest in ourselves all the time, but she says it is sometimes easy to under give to yourself, but that unbalances the action of the law and keeps your good from coming through. You must first put your attention on the improvement and development of yourself, including your own strength and wisdom before you can possibly help others. You cannot give to others unless you first have something to give. You must first have substance along with a measure of strength and wisdom before you can share these qualities with others. Some misguided people think it is selfish to emphasize self improvement first, but only after self-improvement are you capable of helping others. So that goes back to your question, whatever you're trying to give to get that is not a stance of self improvement. KISMA 15:46 The Beauty in the Spirit of Giving That's right. It's selfish. I mean that's the beauty in the spirit of giving is giving freely, expecting nothing in return. But I think at the same time there is, there's wisdom in you plant seeds so that you can reap a harvest. There's an intention behind it. Nick 18:51 Then it's Someone Else Exactly. The third kind of giving after giving to God and to yourself, give something to someone else. Isn't that interesting everyone? It's like it is Universe, God, spirit, it's yourself and then it's someone else. After you give something to someone else, bless whatever you have given, bless the person or persons to whom you gave it. Then release both the gift and the recipient. Any of us, man, woman, or child can transform our lives by transforming what we give, what we give to God, what we give to ourselves, and what we give to others. So it's back to that thing, Nick, that you said, well, if I'm going to give something, I'm going to get it, uh-huh. Give, bless the thing that you give. Bless the people you give it to and release. KISMA 21:48 A Winning Formula When you look at it really from a broader perspective, it's genius because now, let's just assume that you've got people that are doing this out there really following this simple prescription, one, two, three. What do you have? Well you have people who are giving to feed their spirituality, their connection to God, their spiritual growth. So you've got spiritually minded folks who are strong and stable and grounded within themselves, who are humble enough to keep doing the work on themselves, and then to share that with other people. That's a winning formula, that's the way to transform the whole world. Nick
In this week’s episode, Real Men Know Healing, we have a special guest. Well sort of. We're bringing in the Mystic Next Door to discuss the topic of what healing really is. 1:46 K.N.O.W. Healing This is something I know Nick, you've been working with men in your business as a healer coach and you know the topic is real men know healing, like K.N.O.W. They know healing. And this is an interesting topic so I want to start it because it's really me asking you questions to share with our listeners. What is healing really? KISMA 2:09 Real Men Well before we address that, I want to talk about the real men part because it's sort of a play. I want everybody to know who's listening to this, I'm not the real man kinda guy. I'm just not. There’s always the idea that real men do this and real men do that. And that’s actually where a lot of really limiting kind of ideas about what it is to be a man come from. Real men don't cry. Men don't show their emotions. Men do this. Men don't do that. And it's limiting. The real men thing, real men know healing. Healing plays an integral role in everybody's life. Men tend to relate to that a little bit differently than women do. And it's not something that I've seen that's talked about a ton. So when we say real men know healing, it's a little bit of a play on words to kind of come into the conversation. Nick 3:19 Path of Mastery Any man who calls himself a real man, and this is something I really do believe, is on his path of mastery. Nick That's great. I love that. Just as a real woman is on her path to mastery. KISMA Absolutely. And healing is absolutely an integral part of that path of mastery in so many ways. Nick 3:51 Why Healing So back to your question, why healing or what is this all about? I think there's a lot of different reasons for healing. The obvious reasons are definitely, I'm in pain, I own physical pain or emotional pain or mental, certainly physical pain, or you're having illness or something like that. Your body needs to heal, your mind and your emotions. Nick I want to just insert here. I think it is important that healing, emotional pain and mental pain is so important because it's the pain that we tend to stuff down or suppress or override or kind of, I have to get through my day even though I'm really hurting about something and then that hurt gets pushed down and there's just ways to work through that and heal that. KISMA 4:33 Unseen Scars That's right. It's that set thing. It's like so many things that just aren't seen in our world with the naked eye. It's just really easy to ignore. But those unseen scars are actually incredibly powerful in the ways that they inform and guide our lives.Somebody with trauma relates to the world in a very, very different way. Then as a result of that, they make different choices, which may or may not help them on their journey. It can be very limiting. It can also really push a person to do different things, but healing it regardless and being free from that, is the path of mastery, freedom. So those are some of the obvious ways. The not so obvious ways are those hidden limiting beliefs, and those hidden patterns that maybe we grew up with. Nick 5:49 Indicators for Healing Those are all more subtle indicators that some sort of healing is necessary. If you're having a repeating pattern, like we just finished a series on the big leap, which is dealing so much with self sabotage. Well when you're seeing patterns like that in your life, that's an indicator that something in you needs to be healed, really healed and resolved. Resolved is the best word to really think about that. Nick 6:15 Resolution and Completion The true healing is a resolution. It's a completion of that limiting belief. It's a completion of that self criticism or hatred or doubt or all of that that is not in line with being a divine human being. So I think at this stage, and we can talk about that healing, it's like let's get back to our alignment with being a divine perfect being. And I know you talk about that a lot. Where we are, we start perfect, and somewhere along the way we've convinced ourselves that we're not perfect. KISMA 6:44 Healing allows us to be Human Yeah. Either the world has told us that and we bought into it, or we've decided that for ourselves in some way. It's this constant striving to be perfect, to do better, be better, to improve ourselves or something. And there's very little space to just let ourselves be human. Healing is something that allows for that. Nick It really does. It cleanses away and removes the webs that are not true, that congestion, that isn't true. The lenses that aren't true, but over time, we humans do a great job of accessing them and they get stickier. And before we know it, we're seeing through a filter that distorts our reality, and how we see ourselves. It's an interesting filter. We'll see out through it and we'll see ourselves through that filter. KISMA 7:35 Men will dig in Typically men are not encouraged to talk about those sorts of things. It's too woo. It's kind of like you wouldn't talk. Guys will razz each other about it and things like that. You know, it's a different kind of a thing. The guys, they'll give each other a hard time. They might tease each other about things like this. But when the chips are down and you've got a brother by your side, that person will be there for you. Men will dig in in a way that is really, really powerful. Nick 9:11 Deal with your Emotions I think we have this idea that we're supposed to be able to not be emotional about it, you know, don't get emotional about it, which I think there's value to that teaching, but at the same time you're having emotions, man. You have to deal with your emotions. Nick 12:14 Dealing with human stuff When we're working with people and really dealing with those things, I think there's something to be said for just having a really strong space being held for you that is absolutely unshakable. People have told me some wild, wild things about their lives and what they've been through. And that's my commitment is nothing that anybody says is going to shake me. We're dealing with you as a human being and all the human stuff that you bring with it and we're going to solve it. Nick 12:44 Going Through the work What are some of the beautiful after effects of going through work with you? What have you noticed with people in terms of either their relationships or their health or their money? KISMA Health-wise, I have worked with some pretty unique cases across the board. You know, people just feel so much better. Other people have been dealing with a lot of mental and emotional things, but that manifest in the form of severe fatigue and headaches and just really all those kinds of things. And on the other side of that, you know, if you think about what it's like to live in that, on the other side of that is a very, very different experience from life. So, you take the pain out of your life and what's possible for you now. Nick 17:07 It’s Different for Everyone It looks different for each man. The defining characteristic is somebody who's willing to take a look at themselves and change something within themselves when there is a problem. Somebody who's willing to say, yeah, I'll work on that, you know, not just to make you happy necessarily. Although that's nice. It's nice to have harmony in a relationship but really to do it just because it's showing up for a reason and there's something there to be healed, to be looked at, to be examined and changed. Nick I think it's fair to say for each and every human, it's so important for us to not put our stuff on someone else and be like, if you're doing the work, it's going to look like this because this is how it looked on me. We're all unique and we're all going to be going through something in our own way, and to be able to respect that and welcome it, I think is really divine. KISMA 25:53 Healing is a part of The Path of Mastery The illuminated thought for the day is if you're on your path of mastery, then healing is absolutely 100% a part of that path. Nick
In this week’s episode, The Big Leap, Part 4 - Einstein Time, we are wrapping up our series on with part four called Living in Einstein time. If you did not listen to episodes one, two and three around this, part one, two, and three, go back and listen. 0:56 Dealing with Time We could go on and on with this book. There's so much good stuff in it, but I felt like this was one piece that was really important to pull out just because all of us are dealing with time in some way. Nick 1:26 Bend Time We talk a lot about the feeling of ‘not enoughness’ and the lack of energy, which can show up through money, it also shows up through time. “I don't have enough time, I'm out of time”, even in my own head, that's what I'd be like, “how am I going to get this done? When am I going to do this?” And you got to take a breath and be like, wait, I'm going to bend time. KISMA 2:34 Relationship with Time He highlights right out of the box, for your life to work harmoniously, you need to develop a harmonious relationship with time. Most people have a difficult time balancing all of their priorities. Balancing. That's such a common word and there is no greater priority than transforming your relationship with time. If you get a handle on how time actually operates, your work flows gracefully and at high performance. If you don't, it doesn't. 4:37 The Source of Time He's talking about the relationship with time and then the time problem that we have to solve and the statement that he makes that we will come back to again and again, you are where time comes from. Nick I am where time comes from. KISMA Yes, you are the source of time. Nick 5:06 Creating Time Therefore we can create as much time as we choose. This is a new belief system for I bet almost everybody listening. KISMA 8:58 With Einstein time Einstein time gives you a way to expand the amount of time you have for creative expression and intimate connections. With Einstein time, you not only save time, but should learn how to become the source of time so that you can make as much of it as you want. Nick 10:59 Is Time The Enemy? We think of time as the master and us as its slave. Oh, how many times have we heard that? At the extreme, time becomes our persecutor and we think of ourselves as its victim. Since time feels like an ever present entity hovering in the background of our lives, we come to feel that we're victims of an entity that's always there all of the time. Such a view is dangerous to our health, disastrous for our business and ruinous to our relationships with family and friends. That's why I urge you to adopt Einstein time. Nick The other thing is we so often equate running out of time with death. It's like the ultimate, I'm going to be out of time. I'm going to be out of time. But it's like that whole thing. It does become the enemy. KISMA 17:00 Persona Related to Time He brings in another element when he talks about personas and it's your persona related to time. So what is the persona that we adopt for time? There's people who are the time cops, so they're just, you know, have to always be on time. Very rigid about it. And then there's time slackers. You know, not really honoring of others. And those two can really clash for different people. But that's important because it points your way towards your relationship with time. Nick And what's your identity, what's your story with time that you keep living that you might want to change? KISMA 31:25 This Freaky Thing that We Have Called Time Time is something that even science, modern science can't fully explain, like what is this freaky thing that we have called time? And how does it work in our world? You know, we kind of have our ideas about it, but there's definitely some things that are more to the story. So I say all of that, just to say it really is a personal kind of relationship and not with something outside but with a part of you on the inside, since you're the source of time. Nick I love this so much. Well the illuminated thought for this episode is definitely I am the source of time. Try that one on for size everyone. So this completes the series of The Big Leap. KISMA
In this week’s episode, The Big Leap, Part 3 we are continuing the journey with by Gay Hendricks and we are talking about the methods of self sabotage. 01:31 The Ultimate Life Tool I've been thinking a little bit about that zone of genius (as we have been discussing in this current series) and just how instructive can be for that. I was thinking about it for myself actually, and I was like, wow, you know, it really shows you so much of how you're built and what your natural styles are. And what I've noticed about that is everybody will have access to several different styles. But what's unique about it is you won't ever be in two styles at once. Nick 02:58 Upper Limiting So we're going to roll through these and just talk about them. It’s not an exhaustive list, but this is going to give some really good indicators of where to look when they start showing up. First one, worry. Worrying is usually a sign that we're upper limiting. It is usually not a sign that we're thinking about something useful. The crucial sign that we're worrying unnecessarily is when we're worrying about something that we have no control over. Nick 03:53 Worry is an Active State There are times you are gonna have a little worry about life. But also the thing I want everyone to get is that worry is such an active state. KISMA 06:14 There is Something You Can Do Well that is something to be said. Is there something that you can do when you're worried about people or worried about what's going to happen to them? Nick You can pray, you can meditate, you can do and then you have to get out of your worry. KISMA 08:33 Criticism and Blame The next one we've talked about a lot on this show, criticism and blame. Nick Get off the blame train. KISMA 10:50 A Receiving Problem The next one he talks about here is deflecting. This is an interesting one. Most of us crimp the flow of positive energy by avoiding it all together. The mechanism we use is what I call deflection. It's so common. We almost take it for granted in human life. Nick It’s a receiving problem. KISMA 14:23 A Cry for More Sometimes I think the deflecting is a cry for more compliments. It's like “Oh no, it wasn't that good” because we actually want to be fed more. KISMA You know that's an interesting thing that you pointed out, like you want more, but the whole reason you want more is because you're not letting it in. Nick 14:47 Genius Takes a backseat Oh, the next one. You're going to love this one. Squabbling. Arguments are one of the most common ways of bringing yourself down. When you've hit your upper limit, when things are going well, you can crimp the flow of positive energy quickly by starting a conflict, then the conflict develops a life of its own.The net effect, you drop back down into your zone of competence or zone of excellence. Genius takes a backseat. Nick 15:28 All of these are Distractions I feel like all of these are distractions because right in front of you is a big leap. And that big leap can be scary. It can be the first unknown. It can be the place where people start judging you or talking or raving about you. But somewhere it's like, ah, I'm not sure, so I'm going to get distracted and start doing these weird things. KISMA 25:26 Receiving We have so many tools Nick mentioned such as and KISMA Which leads me to my illuminated thought, which I said it earlier, release to receive, but we have to be aware in order to release. And then there's room for receptivity. And in this point, this is receiving your zone of genius. KISMA 27:09 Tune in Next Week Next week we will be bringing a number four in the series, which is going to be a mind bender. KISMA Yeah, it's one that we felt was really important because it's a conversation that people are always having around time and it's a very interesting take on how to work with time. Nick
This week’s episode The Big Leap, Part 2 we're talking about the hidden barriers to your zone of genius. In his book, - Gay Hendricks lays out four categories these barriers fall under and we are going to deep dive into them today! 01:57 Go Listen to Last Week’s Episode on SabotageJust to recap a little bit, last week we started our series on The Big Leap. if you missed it, we talked more about self sabotage. If you haven't heard it, finish listening to this one and go back. It’s very relevant. The sequence of this book is important. KISMA 02:22 The Zone of Incompetence The context of the book is that the idea of our life is to really discover and to share the gifts that we have. Those unique gifts as a human being. And in The Big Leap - Gay puts them into zones. People operating in certain zones and he gives four zones in the book. The first is the zone of incompetence. So this is basically just things that you're not good at. 03:43 The Zone of Competence The second is your zone of competence. So these are things that you can do and you're probably average at it. Nick 03:54 The Zone of Excellence As entrepreneurs, we often wear many hats within the business, it's very easy to spend a lot of time in the zone of competence simply because nobody else is doing the stuff. So for me, one of the things that I'd put in my zone of competence is working on websites. I’m okay at it. Not too bad. I'm certainly no web designer, but I can make something passable, well make more than passable but look all right. My zone of competence. So it's definitely not my genius and I don't know that I would even stretch into the next zone, which is my zone of excellence. Nick 05:59 The Zone of Excellence The temptation is so strong to remain in the zone of excellence. It's where your own addiction to comfort wants you to stay. Nick 06:23 Zone of Excellence -> AKA Your Comfort Zone It's definitely a risk to step outside the zone of excellence because the stakes are higher so to speak. It's like you found something and you've developed something that you're really good at and now it's like if you start to step out of that, you might get it wrong or it might not go right. You can already hear a conversation of the sabotage coming in. It's very interesting. Nick 07:05 Your Zone of Genius You know, I think we can all tap into that moment where we get our big toe in the zone of genius and it doesn't feel good, it's scary. Like the principle of life force is running through. You're like, this is why I am here. This is amazing and everything else is so quiet. The noise doesn't even get to you when you're in your zone of genius. KISMA 07:30 The Call to Your Zone of Genius Liberating and expressing your natural genius is your ultimate path to success in life satisfaction. Your zone of genius is the set of activities that you are uniquely suited to do. They draw upon your special gifts and strengths. Your zone of genius beckons you with increasingly strong calls as you go through life. The call to genius is the name I've given these inner promptings. Nick 08:51 Decide to Receive We can explore all we want. It's just like abundance. If we have a receiving issue it (abundance) does not show up like we want it. And same with our zone of genius, if we're not willing to receive. KISMA 09:20 What You Believe You Achieve He (Gay, in The Big Leap) talks about these four barriers. These four hidden barriers all have something in common, although they seem true and real, they are based on beliefs about ourselves that are neither true nor real. In fact, the fact that we unconsciously take them as true and real is the barrier holding us back. That's what makes this a sticky conversation and again, this is the piece that I kind of want to reiterate for everybody. Nick 10:35 Be Present to Answer These Questions So there are four statements that Nick is going to read. I want everyone, as you're listening to tap into your body and notice where you feel a charge. Some of you will feel it in your bodies, others will like breakout into a sweat. You're just going to know the ones that really resonate with you most. So be very present for these statements. KISMA Questions to Answer: I cannot expand to my full potential because __________________In relationships I cannot enjoy abundant love and relationship harmony because_______________ I cannot expand to my full wealth potential because_________________ Nick 12:08 Tune Into Yourself We're going to invite you to stay really connected and tuned in with yourself for this. Even if you need to go back and listen to it a couple times or you know, just bookmark it so that you come back and listen when you're in a quiet place because you need some of that quietude and you probably feel some reactions in your body just as you say those statements to yourself and see what comes after. Nick
This week’s episode we are covering a book that is really special to us called: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks .) It's all about self sabotage and overcoming our upper limiters. 01:57 - Big Leaping! 2020, the year of perfect inner vision. We are big leaping everyone. KISMA 01:16 - Covering The Big Leap You know that if we're covering a book, either it really meant something to us in our lives or it's something that we think would be super relevant to all of you or both. And this one happens to be both. Nick 02:23 - EEK! Self Sabotage Gay has such a way of really distilling this conversation around self sabotage and adding so much clarity to it. You know, cause I think it can be kind of a tricky conversation for people because it's the last thing that anybody thinks about. It is definitely more of a subconscious conversation. Nobody's thinking, hey, things are going really awesome. I think I'm going to totally screw it up right now. Nick 03:04 - The Subconscious Whisper It does become this subconscious whisper like things are going great and I better screw it up. KISMA 04:19 The Problem In the book Gay explains the problem.. He states it very clearly, “I have a limited tolerance for feeling good when I hit my upper limit. I manufacture thoughts that make me feel bad. The problem is bigger than just my internal feelings. Though I seem to have a limited tolerance for my life going well in general, when I hit my upper limit, I do something that stops my positive forward trajectory. I get into a conflict with my ex wife, get into a money bind or do something else. That brings me back down within the bounds of my limited tolerance.” Nick 06:10 - Fear of Losing It goes back to some of those Vedanta teachings of when we desire something, there's agitation until we get it and we get it and then we immediately have a fear of losing it. It's like such a form of attachment. KISMA 05:30 - Expecting of breakdown I can't tell you how many clients and people I've talked with that things are going well and they have this feeling of impending doom. Nick 07:11 - Sometimes Things are Not GoodThe energy coming in and going out with life isn't all going to keep being “good.” There's the events of life. And then I think what he really gets into here, which I know you'll share is like how we see something and then we really focus on it not working and it expands. KISMA 08:12 - Breakdown in the AwarenessWe don’t think like, Oh, this is going great. I must be totally sabotage. Or, if things are really starting to spin out, I must be totally sabotaging myself. Nick 8:50 - Ask Yourself This!In the book, Gay, asks really great questions. Such as: “How can I extend the periods of contentment in my life?” Nick 09:14 - Now Ask this Question! If I can eliminate the behaviors that stop the flow of positive energy, can I learn how to feel great all the time? Nick 10:00 - The BIG question! Then he asked the big question, “can our species live in expanding waves of peace and prosperity, free from the pattern of messing things up when they are going well?” Nick 10:25 - Ask Great Questions (go ahead we dare you!) I love that because it's taking ownership. I just taught a class for my Ashram people and we were asking questions around Soul statements that we created and anytime we ask our brain a question, there's like an immediate pause. Which is why I feel like Gay Hendricks work is so powerful in The Big Leap because like you said, he's asking these really great questions. KISMA 10:50 - Seriously, Ask Yourself this Question Am I willing to increase the amount of time every day that I feel good inside? Nick 11:05 - Performance Pressure You're in control of that actually. And I like how he phrases it, really uniquely feel good inside, right inside.. And that's the thing that comes up time and again where people feel so pressured with time and with doing things and trying to fit it all in, so that they can do things right or accomplish the things that will make them feel good. Nick 17:11 - We Were Not Born This Way :) Why do you think we seem to be preprogrammed to self sabotage, I don't think we come in as pure divine babies self-sabotaging. I think there's, there's things that happen. Agreements, hurts, pains, need to be right, needs to be safe. So then we kind of flip back, you know, when things are going well. KISMA 24:28 - Going Deeper into The Big Leap Well, the next episode we are going to talk more in much more depth about those hidden barriers. So it's important, fears and false beliefs around uh, or that underpinned this site, this pattern of self sabotage. Nick
This week’s episode is The Year in Review - How to Set Yourself Up For an Amazing 2020 and Beyond. Everyone's talking about the year 2020 being perfect vision. I like to look at it as perfect inner vision, perfect mind's eye vision, perfect intuitive vision and that is what we will be discussing in today’s episode. 01:31 - The Spirit of Presence It's so cosmic, but really getting into that place internally where we are clear and oftentimes the clarity comes from the review with what worked, what didn't work, what happened, what didn’t and all in a spirit of presence. Simply moving forward. KISMA 02:13 - Sometimes Things Don’t Work OutYou said something interesting I want to highlight because this is one of my year end practices and it's really important to me. I've seen it really help a lot of people as well when it didn’t work… You know, as we start to reflect on the year, inevitably there will be things that didn't work the way that we wanted inevitably and what we want to do in order to stop this energy is add period. Nick 03:58 - Start With ForgivenessWhen we're caught in disappointment or blame or judgment, that kind of stuff, low vibe stuff, then all it does is just gloom up the work. And so then we wind up carrying a big old Santa bag of unwanted things into the new year. One of the most important practices I really follow, around this time of year, is forgiveness. Maybe you had a really rough year, not for any other reason than you just sabotage the heck out of yourself. And so there can be a lot of things associated with that. Even guilt around it or whatever. Nick 04:24 - What Do You Need to Forgive? What do you need to forgive yourself for? Because that's the thing that holds on, that's the thing that will hang on to the next decade. What do you need to forgive in yourself? And so when I look back at my year, it really was about growth in my business, attracting so many amazing clients and students and it would not have worked if I held on to places where I thought I made a mistake or I over-invested or I worked with the wrong coach or what like I wouldn't have been clear. I wouldn't have been the container to receive the amazing people in my life.KISMA 05:56 - Nick’s ReflectionI think if there's something I would have changed about this past year, for myself in particular, is just that there's certain periods when I just kind of lost myself in the flow of things and took my eye off the ball on a certain place in certain places. Nick 09:04 - KISMA’s Reflection I know, for me, looking back, if there was something I wanted to change, it would be more time with Zoe. I always want more time with her. I'm not saying she wants more time with me. Also, I'm always looking to be more present in every moment because I know I can go super fast. So as I carve out time moving forward, one of the things that I really want is more space to really be studying and to be manifesting. We've got to get connected to source, but take the space to expand the consciousness to realize it. KISMA 15:57 - LET IT GO! We could go on and on with the favorites, but at this point of this episode and for each and every one of you, what can you glance back and go: that was all right or it didn't go quite as I wanted and let it go. What can you glance back and be like, I really rocked that and I'm so grateful and then request more of it. So for the year in review we get to, without a lot of judgment, good, bad, right or wrong, just to look back and be like, this was amazing, this didn't quite work. This was good. How I'm grateful for this. And then to just be so much more present as we enter 2020 is we do learn so much by that art of introspection and you know, doing it daily is amazing. What I want everyone to do is take some time and write out what your vision is for 2020 just go for it. Put yourself in it like it's a play, see it. Don't think small. Just write exactly what you want and then write it out. Put it somewhere safe so that you can go back a year from now and read and see all the magical ways that you manifest it. KISMA
Today we are wrapping up our extended series on Working with the Law - book by Raymond Hollowell and his 11 truth principles. This is part 11, wrapping it up with the Law of Obedience. 03:11 - OBEDIENCE, no thank you! This obedience word, it has a charge to it. KISMA 3:12 - I don’t like being told what to do… how about you? I don't like being told what to do. Anybody who knows me, knows I do not like being told what to do. However, in this context we want to break down what obedience is. Why? So you can make peace with that word obedience and, and if you're going to obey something, this is the thing to obey. Nick 04:03 - The book of Jeremiah In the book of Jeremiah, it says, obey my voice and I will be your God and you shall be my people. Nick 05:00 - Daily Practice of the Laws are NEEDED I think a big theme in this whole series is that these are not just some esoteric thoughts that it's nice to understand and hear about it. These are laws that operate in and through your daily life. These invisible laws operate in all of those little hidden places. You're either with it or you're against it whether you know it or not. So he works with it or against it according to his obedience. Nick 07:00 - God Created the Law Perhaps in no way has religion gone so far astray as in its conception or understanding of God, whether it be the God of the Christians or the heathen instead of recognizing that the Supreme intelligence is law operating according to, and as surely as the laws of nature men have created in their ideas, a God who is partial subject to appeal from Saint and sinner alike. A God who can be persuaded and bargain with a God who gives life and takes it away. A God who heals sickness and causes it. A God who impoverishes and enriches. A God who rewards and punishes. And having accepted this wrong idea, it has made prayer largely a matter of doubts, lacking in that strong assurance that a thing will be so, because it is according to divine law. Nick 7:41 - Prayer is NOT a bargaining platform That bargaining prayer, I promise I'll be a good person if you get me the money to pay my rent or you do this God and then I'll do that. Like, why are we bargaining? Who even taught us to pray that way? It's really interesting. KISMA 07:59 - They Misunderstand the Laws This bargaining kind of attitude, where it gets a little twisted up is actually back in some of the other laws. For example the law of karma. if you want more of this then you give more. If you want more love in your life, give more love in your life. You know? So I think that's a place where some people get a little twisted it up. They’re misunderstanding the laws. Nick 08:25 - This for that… is not a prayer! I think they're just bargaining with God, I don't think they understand the law at all. I think they are just like, come on God. I promise if you just give me this, because it's again, rather than just praying to, to give thanks and to live the life you desire, state it, this is what I desire and thank you. Let the prayers be about having the strength to stay on the path. Let the prayers be the strength to obey the universal laws. Let the prayers be about support. But once you put it out there, it's there. God, Source, Universe, Spirit has heard and is responding. Now it's up to us. KISMA 13:57 - Just like in NatureWhen we see nature, and this is just such a perfect example, and we understand the power of nature and that we are nature. So why would we not enjoy the same powers and abundance that nature does? KISMA 14:27 - You are apart of Nature We always have the choice to be in harmony with it or to be in disharmony. You can't, not, be part of nature though. Nick 19:07 - The laws are not complicated. They're laid out beautifully in this book (Working with the Laws) and there are plenty of them in here. Certainly there are more. But there's plenty in this book to really give you a lot to think about work on. KISMA 20:01 - Why am I being disobedient? If we are to obey the Spirit within us rather than the conditions about us than the law requires us to first think things into existence from within before we shall see them on the without. So when we experience that inner, maybe just frustration or whatever those things are that are going on inside of the scene or conflicts and things like that, it gives us that opportunity to align and really refocus, say, “okay, what's going on inside of me that I can shift to align?” Nick 20:20 - Disobedience to the law is refusal to do what we know is right. We all know the right, but we do not always do it because it seems to interfere or delay our immediate attainment of the object that we see.
In today’s episode we are continuing the discussion of Working with the Laws - Chapter 10 by Raymond Holliwell. He opens the chapter for The Law of Sacrifice, by saying every man should have an ideal or a hero. If there is one who has none and desires none, do not trust him too far. A man who has no ideals, does not wish to be any greater than he is and will in time prove a detriment to others. 7:20 - What are you sacrificing? Yes, I have to give time. I have to sacrifice time to attain it. Yes, I have to sacrifice energy to work towards it. There is a gift that you're giving something to receive, always, always. You can't miss. So the question becomes, what are you sacrificing? KISMA 8:24 - If you want it, work for it! If you want to cultivate something of excellence, you're going to need discipline. If you want to direct your energy, your mind energy, your heart energy, your entire energy towards something that is greater than you it requires discipline. It is not a dirty word. KISMA 8:59 Decision requires sacrifice The word decision... It means to cut off. You make a decision about something. You choose one path that means that you didn't choose the other. You remove that as part of the journey, because you're taking the right fork instead of the left one. Nothing right or wrong about it, but there's a decision that gets made and the decision itself is you're sacrificing left for right. Nick 09:44 Discipline is the key! Holliwell says, we are not an undisciplined generation in any realm except one, and that is in our morals. If we are not able to discipline the direction of our mind, we've got energy going everywhere and he (Raymond) goes on to say, no one can gain wisdom and understanding of life except that he seeks it in God's appointed way according to the law. KISMA 11:32 - The undisciplined mind… When you're undisciplined in your thoughts, you think positive for a moment, you're expansive for a moment and then you're right back where you started. It’s this constant back and forth and back and forth, which is truly exhausting both for your physical body and for your mind. Nick 12:30 Sacrifice is not what preachers have made it out to be. It’s not optional. Everything in life has its own price and is ever up for sale. We have to purchase it at the price it demands day after day. We go up to life's counter and say, I will give you this if you will give me that. This bar doing has another more familiar, perhaps we call it sacrifice. Sacrifice then is not what our preachers have made it out to be. It is an inescapable necessity. It is a definite law that we must obey. KISMA 16:53 We sacrifice everyday in one way or another. What's more important? Chocolate cake or my health. What's more important? Smoking or my health. You do decide. KISMA 19:06 - The myths of sacrifice When this law of sacrifice is carried over into the moral realm, it is commonly presented one sided. We are taught that if we want to live a good life, we have to give up so many pleasures. How familiar that sounds to some of us. The result is that we rebel and when we think of sacrifice we think of the ones who have had to give up so much pleasure for goodness. KISMA 21:08 What are we actually giving up? Swamiji shares a beautiful idea where the King meets the Sage and he's like, I can't believe you're such a great man for giving up all of the world. And the Sage is like, I'm not great at all. You've given up the self, your true realization in order to have that, I've just given up these things. Nick 22:36 - A defining truth! Freedom is being able to control your life and then making it what you want it to be. KISMA
This week’s episode is Working with the Law - The Law of Increase. This is part 9 in our series of Working with the Law. Be sure to go back and listen to the others in this series to benefit from the full teaching of Working with the Law. These podcasts are based off of the book: Working with the Law by Raymond Holliwell. You can purchase the book here: 06:11 God responds to Praise We're coming from a spiritual background, God being the law, being the universe, spirit, source, whatever your word is, and what's important here. What this means to me is that God, universe, spirit doesn't need our praise. It's it. That Supreme essence is just fine. It does not mean anything. Yet it responds to us and we ourselves need to praise. We need that praise towards the universe, towards the laws so that it becomes, you know, we're close to it. It never goes away, but it becomes our perception of it, our feelings, our knowing. I feel like it's our knowing that becomes more real and more thick. KISMA 07:22 - Harmonizing the Laws I really think about it like a harmonization. It's like you're harmonizing with these laws. But he (Raymond) puts it into action and he says where his faith is wisdom and understanding. Right. So that's like the understanding part of the laws are the laws, the spiritual laws are the spiritual laws. They are what they are. You're not going to influence those. It's the best that you can do is take them. So faith and wisdom. Faith is wisdom and understanding. Whereas praise is the application of that understanding. So he brings it into this rocket fuel. That's exactly how he describes it as as fuel. KISMA 08:11 - Using The Law of Praise When people show up, having conversations about working with me or doing The Prosperity Code or, joining the Ashram, they're focusing a lot on things that aren't working. In essence, as I see them using the Law of Praise in a way that will bring unfortunate results to them. It's like what are you putting your attention on? And if you're putting attention on what you don't have, guess what? What you don't have is going to grow. KISMA 09:10 - What are you Praising? A really important part of the whole thing is like what are you praising? We might not think we're praising the qualities in a person that we don't like. We might not think of that as praise, but when you're putting your attention on that, when that's what you're talking about, that is exactly what you're praising in this context. A woman was crying bitterly and praying tearfully to God for her release. The master hearing her silenced her and asked, is your God a God of tears of grief and anguish and pain? I know God is a giver of joy and peace and happiness and love. You want peace and joy. Yet you pray to your Father with tears. If you want black, do you ask for white? If you ask for fish, do you expect a serpent? That's how we just throw a serpent in there. If you ask for bread, do you expect a stone? And he continues on like this, right? And it requires that clarity of thought of objectivity to understand what we're actually praising? Nick 10:56 - It’s a VirusWhat are you praising, right? You're praising destruction or drama. Misfortune. I mean it's like a virus. It really truly is like a virus. Nick 12:22 - Right the Ship with PraiseI'll see this happen with a lot of people run their own business. If they're having a slow month or something has turned, it's all of a sudden obsession on that without pausing to go, wait a minute, look what I have done. Look what else I have done. Praising is a really fast way to right the ship of any slow month of anything that goes wrong. He's like, praise what you have received. Get back into that energy, that disposition and things will clean up super fast. KISMA 13:23 - Praise Expands the Mind Upward There are the energetic consequences. He says praise expands and opens the mind upward. And if you think of mind as energy, which is really what it is, it expands the mind upward. While it's opposite condemnation contracts and restricts. Nick 14:28 How can what you make ‘wrong’ find it’s way to you? It's so powerful because when you think of it, when you criticize people with money or when you make money wrong, then you're really affecting everything that you do with money. But furthermore, why would more money come your way if you're making money wrong or say you want a relationship and you're jealous of somebody else's, where ever you make something wrong that you actually want. Why would it find its way to you? KISMA (In the book, Raymond) says, praise with the heart is far more vital and effectual than praise with the head or praise with the lips. Now, when I think about this in action, that is praise is an active state. It's not just an idea. He's saying here when he's saying heart, it's an embodied state. It's in your whole being, right? You're living it rather than just thinking it and certainly rather than just talking it. So the words, I think whatever words you choose around that, the words are important because they allow you to connect with that state. But ultimately it is a state. It's not a thought. It's a state of being. When you're in that state of praise, that's when your full heart is engaged and you know the heart is incredibly resourceful as far as an energetic source. The heart is incredibly resourceful and lots of times when there is lack and limitation around the fear or worry starts to come in, certainly in condemnation and criticism, those are all things that shrink that that particular energy, it contracts that energy. Nick 24:18 The Law of Increase That is the law of increase. This chapter is called the law of increase. The whole reason we're talking about the praise is because the praise is what expands you into that ever increasing state. You know, you honor that part. Our degree of faith in the law and God is measured before we receive mass. Nick 25:54 The Expectations is Full Faith The degree is measured before we receive and not after. It's that full faith. You don't wait until you get the new house or whatever it is you want or something to then say, okay, it works. You're in. I'm working with the law. That's the beauty of the expectation in the whole manifesting of your attention. What you want, the interest, the interest is going, you're focused, you're doing and the expectation is it's going to work out. The challenge with that is sometimes it comes in in different ways than what they think. So it's having the receivable energy and having that full faith even before it arrives. KISMA 28:43 - Be grateful for your cake! The law increase is you can have the cake and eat it too at the entire cake. Just be grateful for it. KISMA
This week’s episode is Why You Don't Have What You Want, Part 2. We wanted to look at how one might stay in the past and this will create a form of resistance. Staying in the past means that we are in attachment to things that have happened. It also may mean that we are using a past mindset, a past energy. Which can keep us from what we want. Hosts: Nick and KISMA 02:33 The Reset Button There's a difference between truly having a retreat and having some space. When we're talking about hitting the reset button it is breaking up the energy, getting it out so that we can actually see some of the things that we've been doing. What you might be resisting in your life is super key because when you are able to get out of resistance, like so many people talk about wanting to have more ease in their life, well that is the opposite of resistance, right? There's something that has to change in what we are doing, it's really something inside of us that needs to change. Nick 04:22 Living in the Past Today in this part two, we wanted to look at how one might stay in the past and this will create a form of resistance. Staying in the past means that we are in attachment to things that have happened. It also may mean that we are using a past mindset, a past energy. Definitely an old perspective to create something new. And so you can see where that's problematic. Einstein said: you can't solve a problem with the same mindset that created it. When we are stuck in the past it's like shutting the door to being able to step into this new receptive state to receive something new. KISMA 5:21 The Feedback Loop What you're describing is a feedback loop. So how it works in a really simple way is people drag their old stories with them into the present. And the present is where you create your future. The feedback loop is taking and creating from your past and creating your future, which will ensure that you create pretty much the same thing or some kind of variation. Then it feeds back on itself again and again and again. And truthfully, this is how decades go by where people are. Like, why? I just thought I would be somewhere else. I thought I would be further along. Nick 07:51 Shift the Mindset to the Goal The point of going into the past is either to learn, to reflect, and to shift, or there will be those, those people in places and events that we think about with love and joy. If we're bringing in a past event, let's say you're a runner and you're on your fifth marathon and you've never finished under a certain time, and you continue to be like, ‘I've never finished in that time frame and why would I now?’ Instead of here's my new goal, I'm going to do it to the best of my ability. There's got to be a shift out of what has happened into new possibilities. 10:42 Your Past Doesn’t Define You Now, there's something about this that I think is important to talk about, and it's a sneaky one when you talk about the past oftentimes it’s disguised as self knowledge or self-awareness. Let me give you an example. Somebody will say; ‘that's just the way I am or I have this, or I've had, experience in these traumas, and so they play that out again and again in their life.’ So they're effectively defining themselves by their past. Nick Stories, stories, real stories, real occurrences, not things. We want to diminish that when we tether ourselves to the past, we're tethering ourselves to the stories, the experiences of the past. KISMA 13:27 - Futurizing Can Also Be Resistance Speaking of the future, that's the flip side of the coin, right? So you've got the living in the past or dragging that past into your present. But then it’s going to the other side and getting in the present and futurizing and that is also a huge resistance. Nick 13:55 Create What You Want As Swamiji always teaches we are the architect of our future, but it's created from this moment. And so when we take past notions, beliefs, energies, thoughts, and create the future with that, it's going to have a veil or an essence of what's happened in the past. When we start from right here now and get super clear on what it is or where we're going, you know, and where we are now, the future becomes much more clear to create. KISMA 18:32 The Joy of the ProcessThis is not about perfection at all. It is about the joy of the process. But when you have that anchor, that really simple thing for your brain to grab onto and say, ‘wait a second’, then you can really stay in the energy of that manifestation or that goal or that ideal or whatever it is that you want. Nick
This week’s episode Why You Don't Have What You Want, Part 1 is about understanding if you don't have what you want, you're resisting it in some way, shape or form. When we understand why we don't have something, our dreams, our desires, et cetera, we get to shift it. So let’s dive into the shift! Hosts: Nick and KISMA 03:28 Resistance Stops You So we want to understand why we don’t have what we want. Maybe somebody wants a new job, maybe those of you that are building businesses, you want to hit a certain financial place. Maybe some of you want a new relationship or a relationship where you are not resisting what you want. When you clear out the resistance, because we have this beautiful universe and substance that we pour into. When you clear out the resistance, that very thing or the opportunities show up for you to acquire that dream. Of course we have to take action. This is not about sitting on this sofa and just thinking our way through life. We're physical beings, but the opportunities are there for us to create what we want every single day! KISMA 05:00 - Ask the Question We are going to break this down for everybody in three different episodes. Today: where am I resisting? What am I resisting? So in your experience, what do you see in general when a person's in resistance? How do they describe that, how do you describe that? Like what does it feel like? NICK 06:07 Physical Evidence of Resistance There can be fatigue and exhaustion in the physical body and there can be a heaviness in the emotional body. It's just like the phrase nothing's working or I don't get it. Why can't I have what I want? There's a lot of doubt in the human instead of excitement and energy and moving forward. The fact is, we can be on one of our most challenging, time consuming, even taking months or years project to create and if we're not in resistance, we're in the flow. We're excited, we're building and if something doesn't work out, we pivot and we ask questions and we come back. BUT if we're felling heavy and exhausted and fatigued, we're not allowing it in, I always use when I go there, it for me, feels like I'm pushing a brick house up a hill, it's so excruciating. KISMA 08:48: Ah - the Ease of Flowing When I reflect back to things that came to me easily and almost in a miraculous way, I had a sense of detachment or being unattached to the result. There was always this, kind of gratitude, praise and ease and expectancy as well that things would work out. KISMA 10:57: Who has to be wrong for you to be right? One resistance we really want to talk about today is making others wrong or a variation of making situations wrong. Nick 11:20 If there's something that you want, if there's a dream, if there's a goal, if there's an ideal that you want to realize and somewhere in your life you are making somebody who has realized that wrong, you're definitely creating resistance. KISMA 13:25 - Revealed in Culture I'd like to take that in a much broader perspective. Like when we look at our country and the division that we see. The division that we see around politics and ideologies and all these sorts of things, it really speaks directly to this. And it's something that we can all flip on a news channel or read an article at any moment and see this in motion and see the results of it. In a broad way, the red side is making the blue side all wrong and the blue side is making the red side all wrong. Nick 18:55 - Going Neutral Here's the thing, we do get very set on the right and the wrong. And in our society theres always a right, or a wrong. Cause as soon as someone says a wrong, there's a right, we do not have to agree, but we can be neutral. We can get to a neutral place where it's like, okay it didn't work out or I don't have to like it. I don't have to not like it, but I can be neutral. If there's a challenge you get to build resiliency, like really taking ownership, always of the journey, taking ownership of, okay, why, why did I resist that? What in me needs to make something else wrong? Get to that piece and let it go. Very simple. You'll never get more as long as you make others wrong for having what you want. You'll never get more. You'll never be more as long as you're making others wrong for having or being a certain way. KISMA 22:54 You’re Perfectly Placed It reminds me of one of the things that Swami constantly says in Vedanta teachings: “you're always perfectly placed.” You're always perfectly placed. You know, it's so hard to think that because you're like, I'm not perfectly placed. I don't have what I want. Right. Whatever that perfectly placed to see it, to see the next step. That's something that we're going to unfold a future podcast... Nick
This week's episode has a special guest: Cathy Heller. Cathy Heller hosts the podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job, which has 8 million downloads and features conversations with creative entrepreneurs like actress Jenna Fischer, blogger Seth Godin, and more. She’s a phenomenal coach and she’s sparking a movement for every soul to add their gift to the world. Hosts: Nick and KISMA Special Guest: Cathy Heller 01:59 - Let’s Get to Know Cathy You're very real.You're incredibly authentic and there's a rawness about you. I feel like it comes from your background as a musician and Nick and I both have backgrounds as musicians. So I would love to kick off this podcast with a little bit about that. And then of course you've got a book to talk about and other things, your podcasts, but would you share the story behind your being a musician and what it means to your life right now? KISMA 02:51 - Our Wounds Guide Us You I am raw maybe that connects to being an artist. I think that at the end of the day, most likely if somebody is making art, whether they're writing songs or a visual painter, there's probably some pain or something really deeply they want so much for other people to hear. My parents had a pretty awful marriage and eventually got divorced and then it got even worse in a way. My mom was really suicidal for a while and my dad was not really in the picture. So those are really rough, unpleasant times. The one thing that was always my escape was music and it would let me feel things and it would let me hope for somewhere else that would be very far away where I would get heard. And one day maybe I would sing and write my own songs. I barely graduated from high school, literally like my teacher lied and said that I got a grade that I didn't so that I could leave school and graduate with my class. That was really kind of him then I wound up going to college. Eventually, came out to LA with this “I have to do something that makes me.” Cathy 12:53 The Fight For Support As an Artist I just want to kind of rewind a bit because I know I've heard it. I know Nick has heard it. This thing where other humans come up to artists and musicians and say, you will never make a living. Yep. And sometimes it comes from family who are trying to protect, right. But basically say “get a real job.” KISMA 14:23 - You Can’t Be Stopped When those people look you in the eyes and they say, stop, don't do this to yourself. They want to protect the child in them, right? And the child in you who wanted so badly to shine their magic or to connect deeply with someone else. But it didn't because your dad walked out or you lost your mom or you loved this boy in seventh grade that didn't love you back. Or you showed your art teacher something you were so proud of it and he said, that'll never work. I remember that moment. And the pain is real. It's real. Your eight year old self would be pretty proud that you've even gotten through this, this way. Like it's pretty amazing how we, we survive. We survived by turning off the wanting the dreaming. In fact, I had Todd Herman on my podcast and he was saying that, Martin Luther King had prepared his iconic speech so many times and rehearsed it. And the only line that he didn't write was the only line that we know, which is “I have a dream”, it makes me cry like in this moment telling it. But basically when he got up to deliver that speech, he looked at the crowd and he looked at his paper with his perfectly written speech and he took a deep breath and he said, I have a dream and it is the most vulnerable thing, which is why it's so powerful. Cathy 24:36 Confirming Your Belief My feeling is that everyone who listening has a great idea. Like truly they have something amazing but they're lacking momentum, they're not taking enough action. We can get into the why but it's really, their belief is just not there. So if you're not going to believe it, you're not going to do enough about it. They're not taking enough action. We're also not understanding what it means to work smarter, not harder. And the momentum is going to come when you're really grounding yourself in making something for someone else and then making that same thing for three more people and then getting their feedback. It's easier to make dinner for someone and make it a success if you find out ahead of time, if the person is gluten free or vegan, then like setting yourself up. Cathy 27:33 It takes courage! The bottom line is that is what it comes down to, right? People don't want to do something unless they know exactly how it's going to play out. When I go to the Hollywood bowl and I see someone who's performing, I don't think, God, this person is talented because I do think that, but the first thing I think is, gosh, this person had so much courage. It's like you're willing to take those steps. 28:54 - Risk is Not Natural Our brains were created to protect us and all they do all day long is scan for things to worry about. They're looking for danger. It's looking for danger, looking for danger. And so the way that we work is really ridiculous. We just assume, we're going to wake up and be ready to like rip it open. Every person who's listening has had a moment where they felt really bold and they took that step and you can remember and it was amazing and it felt so good and things happen, but we don't just naturally think and feel that way. Cathy 36:54 - The Book Tell us about the book. KISMA 36:57 - Don’t Keep Your Day Job I wrote a book called Don't Keep Your Day Job. I wrote a book that helps people to identify what is possible and then gives you some steps to take action. One of the things that I do that I think is unique that's in the book is helping people understand that there are different archetypes. I don't think a lot of people know the different degrees or the different things that are possible. As people, we will reach for the highest branch that we can see. And so in the book I started to talk about the four different things you can do. I've talked to over 200 successful entrepreneurs and I've seen that there really are only four paths, and it's helpful to see yourself as one of these. Cathy
This week’s episode is all about unpacking the 3 Ways to Overcome Obstacles. This episode is very effective and relevant for coaches, healers and business owners who have people come in because their prospect faces what we would call an obstacle. We are going to discuss how to move past a problem to get the result. Hosts: Nick and KISMA 04:30 Something Came UpScenario: someone wants to purchase a training or course from you but then comes back and says: “something came up”. When a client focuses on the thing that they perceive as a problem, this creates the obstacle, it begins to grow in the negative when someone is only focusing on this obstacle rather than focusing on if there is an obstacle, then there's actually a solution. KISMA 05:44 Perception not Truth Became the Obstacle It's not hard to find reasons to back down. I just had this really interesting thing happen with me. A lady had reached out on my website about some pretty significant depression she described in a form she filled out. She scheduled a time to talk with me, which is one of my favorite things to do. To talk to people and just to see what's really going. Are we actually a fit to work together. Can I help you in some way? And what would that look like? You know, to really bring them through a process. At the end of the day, they always walk away with some form of clarity that's really powerful for them. This specific call ended up being dropped due to cell service. An everyday thing that happens, right!?! But then the prospect thought I had hung up on her… That was the last I heard from her and it made me sad. Because she reached out for really good reason. She found the right place. I'm really good at helping people with those sorts of things. And we were only just one step away from finding a bridge over that... Nick 08:31 - Misreading Signs Another obstacle scenario: someone misreading signs. Nick 9:22 - Resistance is a SIGN of it’s TIME to Move Forward It's a sign. It's not the right time. What's meant to be is what's in alignment with your soul, with your purpose, with your life. And oftentimes you take that step, like the woman who went to check in with Nick to have a call. When you take the steps, something's going to come up because it's a representation of the fear of actually growing, exploring, creating something better, making a breakthrough. KISMA 10:57 Budget - Obstacle The Budget Scenario: Well what if it were in your budget? What if it were, and that might seem like an absurd question, but it invites you into a creative space. Hmm, I wonder where that money might be. Nick 11:30 Overcome with Inquiring So inquire. Is it really an obstacle or is ego not okay. That part of you where taking this step is growth, expansion, doing something new will feel really uncomfortable. KISMA 18:25 Find Your Yes In every moment. There is always something here for you that will take you to your next step. And it's weird because we miss it most of the time, I just think we are busy, we're in our work, we're in our different things and it's like we're not really always open and receptive to whatever the yes is in front of us. Nick 23:50 - Know the TRUTH of Obstacles Obstacles do not block the path. They are the path and they are the path to strength, to resiliency, to wisdom, to enlightenment, to being an amazing human. KISMA
This week's episode has a special guest: Melanie Klein. A sought after empowerment coach, thought leader and influencer in the areas of body confidence, authentic empowerment and visibility. Melanie is also a successful and highly acclaimed writer, speaker and professor of sociology and women's studies. So without further ado, I am so excited for this episode with Melanie Klein. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Special Guest: Melanie Klein 04:40 The First Connection I kind of want to give our listeners a little about story. Melanie, we met almost two years ago at an event. Melanie has this essence about her. She's very beautiful. There was something about her as a woman that was so captivating, a softness and a strength. Then I found out that you were very much involved in the yoga world… which made since to why there was a connection! Your yoga history, when did that start for you? Were you young or did it come about? Like in college? When did you find yoga? KISMA 05:02 - Perceptions So I'm totally going to answer that question after I say it's funny to hear you reflect what you saw when you saw me the first time. Later in the episode we are going to talk about how we see ourselves versus how others see us. Because what you described is how I saw you..in fact, as much as people may see me as what you described or potentially grounded or empowered, I'm still a human and I have my vulnerable parts and there are people who intimidate me and I remember seeing you and feeling a little intimidated. Melanie 07:22 - Yoga Beginnings The yoga question that you posed, I'd say is one half of the biggest part of my empowerment equation. In my early twenties and coming from a pretty granola family, things like yoga or spirituality were not foreign to me at all. Especially as an artist and poet, the connection that we tap into to Source when we are creative. All of those things were part of growing up, not to mention, having a very nature-based experience as a young girl living in Germany… Melanie 09:10 “I had no clue what to expect” I ended up in Kundalini class at this community college extension through this community college extension program in this old stinky fitness center on the side of the railroad tracks with these outdated, big fitness mats. We sat down and my teacher had the white turban outfit and I was like, oh, this is going to be interesting. I had no clue what to expect. Over the next few weeks my sister and I (who I was going to this class with) just kept going, and inviting others to go… this was 1996. There were 15 to 20 people in the class, which was a lot and really weird for Kundalini yoga. Melanie 13:48 I know you've heard us talk about this, but there will be a calling, you know, whether it's intuition, whether it's a guide from the universe or God or source. I mean, my first yoga class kind of happened the same way I was living in Hong Kong. And one of my good friends said, “Hey, there's this really new yoga studio open in long Kwai Fong, let's go”. I was so not committed, but I went to this class, it was all Indian teachers and here I am,with these beautiful Asian flexible women. I'll never forget, I think it was master, he said sit Lotus Style. I crossed my legs and my knees are pointing to the ceiling. He looked at me in front of the whole class and say’s “what's the matter with your hips?” It was like, I don't know, you tell me. So it was like really frightening that. But the next day I remember feeling the same way. I felt different. And so I think that's when we do like we know we've just entered a practice where something has shifted and it's so important to stay with that. KISMA 15:11 - Full Circle Connection Not only do I love your story because I can relate to it for so many reasons, but also it's kind of a foreshadowing of I'm sure what we'll dig into here about the work I do around making yoga accessible for everybody and making everyone feel it's for them because like you said, stepping into something that you knew was going to essentially be a game changer for you without even knowing why or how. Melanie 32:21 - Women's Empowerment and Men My question for you is about this, I think in a lot of ways in women's empowerment there's something there for guys too, that can tip over into feminization of the man. And I'm wondering if you can talk a little bit about those dynamics and it's like, how does everybody win in that conversation in your mind? Nick There's a lot to be said and what you just shared, Nick. A few things I want to say about that is we have to also understand, especially in the last three or four years, we have had an another massive backlash that we're currently in. So if we're looking at the second wave of feminism or what most people know is the women's liberation movement, which also coincided with the civil rights movement and the black liberation movement. And also known as the peace movement... (listen in to get the rest of Melanie's answer to this question!) 49:52 - Get to Know Melanie Give our listeners just a place where they can go and find you. I mean, what I love about Melanie, what she does for herself, she does for other women and, and this essence of empowerment has so many facets to it. So what's the best way or where do you want to direct our listeners? KISMA Melanie C. Klein, M.A., is a sought-after empowerment coach, thought leader and influencer in the areas of body confidence, authentic empowerment, and visibility. Attributing yoga and feminism as her two primary influences, Melanie has been in the business of empowering women since 1994. With over 20 years experience and notable credits including advising the Santa Monica College Feminist Majority Leadership Alliance, working closely with Global Girl Media and running the LA chapter of Women, Action and the Media; she has dedicated her passion, knowledge and coaching skillset to the empowerment of innumerable women through increasing confidence, self-esteem, worth and value. As an empowerment coach she is committed to raising consciousness, communal collaboration and facilitating the healing of distorted body images to promote positive body relationships; thus empowering female thought leaders, entrepreneurs, renegades, executive leaders, or anyone ready to step into their greatness, to make their voices heard and take new action in the world. She is also a successful and highly acclaimed writer, speaker, and professor of Sociology and Women’s Studies. Her areas of interest and specialty include media literacy education, body image, and the intersectional analysis of systems of power and privilege. She is the co-editor of Yoga and Body Image: 25 Personal Stories About Beauty, Bravery + Loving Your Body (Llewellyn, 2014) with Anna Guest-Jelley, a contributor in 21st Century Yoga: Culture, Politics and Practice (Horton & Harvey, 2012), is featured in Conversations with Modern Yogis (Shroff, 2014), a featured writer in Llewellyn’s Complete Book of Mindful Living (Llewellyn, 2016), co-editor of Yoga, the Body and Embodied Social Change: An Intersectional Feminist Analysis with Dr. Beth Berila and Dr. Chelsea Jackson Roberts (Rowman and Littlefield, 2016), Yoga Rising: 30 Empowering Stories from Yoga Renegades for Every Body (Llewellyn, 2018) and the co-editor of the new forthcoming anthology, Embodied Resilience through Yoga (Llwelleyn, 2020). She co-founded the Yoga and Body Image Coalition in 2014 and is the co-founder of The Joy Revolution. She has been practicing yoga and meditation since 1996 and currently lives in Santa Monica, CA. Social media: Insta: @melmelklein
This week’s episode is all about How to Have Confidence Part 2. During this episode we are going to deep dive into how when we break agreements with ourselves we are eroding our confidence layer by layer. Learn the key questions to ask yourself to ensure you are saying yes to what you can commit too and how to restore your confidence when promises are broken. Hosts: Nick and Kisma 03:35 - BEFORE WE DIVE IN - AddictionAlcohol abuse and addiction run rampant in our world. Often times it is happening behind closed doors and although we know something is not what it should be we tend to dismiss it. But in the end we know there is really something going on… if this sounds like you, reach out, Nick would love to have a conversation. - Nick 04:22 - Let’s Get Started“Today we're talking about what we're doing to ourselves and how we are eroding our own confidence. We are getting out of integrity with self, we're telling little lies to self, things that you might not even be aware of. But it definitely, over time, erodes your confidence.” This lack of integrity is the kingpin to our confidence and our productivity! - Nick 05:17 - Broken PromisesHow many times have you set an alarm to get up at a specific time, then hit snooze when it goes off? You had a full list of things you desired to do, but based on when you actually got up items had to fall off the todo list. So now you have started your day with a broken promise to yourself. - Nick 06:44 - The EscalationSo you make an agreement with yourself to get up a specific time and you don’t. One promise broken. But likely that specific time had a specific task assigned to it such as to walk or move, now you have broken two promises to yourself before you have even meditated, connected with someone or set your intention for the day. - KISMA 09:11 - More examplesJust like that snooze button, breaking your word to yourself can show up in food, drinking alcohol, eating sugar. Oh, it's five o'clock I really want sugar. I think I'm going to have that piece of candy. Or I'm not going to drink. Oh, but it's like 8:00 PM a glass of wine would be amazing. “However, somewhere before that moment was a decision about being a better version of self, whether it's for health or productivity or sleep. It was like, I am not going to do this, and then we give in and we do it. So we break promises to ourselves. It's those little ones that matter, little ones that add up.” - KISMA 11:54 - Different Iteration of SelfWhat does success look like to you? If you expect yourself to be up at 5:30 every morning because that is what you ‘think’ success looks like, but you are simply not a morning person, what do you do? In our Ultimate Life Tool - we work through what looks like success based on who you are (grab a copy by emailing ).. It’s a great tool. “That successful person, they're up at 5:00 AM they're at the gym, then they’re off into their life and people think, well, in order to be successful, I have to do that.” what if that isn’t YOUR success formula? You could be saying YES to something that isn’t a fit for you… - KISMA 13:24 - Know Yourself / Your TruthsWhen you really get to know self, you have to ask why do you break the agreements with yourself, as innocuous as you think they might be? What is it that is making you stop and not do exactly what you say you're going to do? This is the important piece! Why do I not think I'm not worthy enough to hold the agreement? Or am I just in this habitual pattern of not holding agreements? Who do you want to be in the world to yourself? Do you want to be telling truths? These are vital questions to unravel the answers to when it comes to build a solid foundation around your confidence. - KISMA 17:50 More Impactful than You ThinkA lot of people do really well in jobs because they've got somebody holding their feet to the fire. They have somebody to be accountable to. Unfortunately, often when these people leave that very accountable job to become an entrepreneur they just fall off into the abyss because there's nobody holding their feet to the fire. They never built that muscle for themselves. It's very disempowering because then as you erode that confidence, especially if you're wanting to have more independence, more empowerment in your own life, you chip away at and it's gonna send you right back into that old pattern. You're going to want somebody else to tell you what to do. - Nick 21:31 - The solutionsFor all the ways we break promises to ourselves, whether it's food, whether it's alcohol, whether it's exercise, whether it's conversations, whether it's business building, my GoTo is complete awareness. It's like lean back for two weeks, slow down, go deep and have that awareness throughout your day. So you’re awareness is key always. We've got to see where we're out of integrity, where we're breaking agreements, and then it's easier to catch... - KISMA
This week’s episode is all about How to Have Confidence. In part 1 of this 2-part series, there are three main areas that will really trip people up when standing in their own personal confidence; Specific things that can put a chink in our armor without even realizing what is happening. You’ll also discover some simple hacks to regain your confidence and ground yourself in your truth. Hosts: Nick and Kisma (6:15) - Opening the Yoga StudioI have a great example story. When I opened my yoga studio, I didn't really know what I was doing. I was fresh out of being a musician and the economy was going down and people told me all the time, you're crazy… -KISMA (07:07) - Derailing StoriesThere are moments where we have to decide, “I'm not taking on other people's fears and stories.” That's on us yet it happens after we're aware that people around us are saying things, doing things and repeating these stories and beliefs of theirs. You know, we have to have a pulse on it so that we can actually say, Nope, not taking it on. - KISMA (08:25) - Projected FearsOther people, they'll draw into their own lack of confidence, their own insecurities, and start to project that on us. - KISMA (08:56) - DoubtsDoubts will show up a lot of times in family. It will also show up just all around you and friends. Well-meaning friends and coworkers, that's their stuff. So they built the story around it. But in there somewhere all of their doubts are wound up in it. - Nick (09:27) You DecideThis is not about blaming anybody else. It's just about awareness because ultimately it's on us. It really is. And people have a right to have their doubts. Like if they're going to doubt, okay, they're going to doubt. The thing is do we want to take that on? And those stories and those doubts will become ours… - KISMA (13:10) The Result of Self-DoubtSo energetically what's happening in your head is a whole layer of fog that's going to cloud your judgment, and that will disconnect you from what's true for you and being really dropped in and it'll make you feel ungrounded. - Nick (15:57) ComparisonThe third thing is comparison, and this is the biggest one; This is really one that traps people. I think with comparison people look at it a lot of times as a positive thing because they think, this is what's gonna make me better, yet the opposite is true. - Nick (21:38) UngroundedWhen we get ungrounded, it's easier to take on doubts. It's easier to take on stories and it's way easier to compare. Your defenses are down. (21:52) Get Grounded Hack When we talk about getting grounded is basically getting back in your body and getting your brain and your body actually talking again. So one of the best things that you can do is this… Put the tip of the tongue at the roof of the mouth and take some deep breaths through the nose, in and out, through the nose. The pattern would be in for six, hold for three, out for six, hold for three. Repeat for 3-7 rounds.
This week’s episode is Part 3 of Seven Secrets to Prosperity. Just to reiterate, we talked about what prosperity is in Part 1. It’s wealth, energy, love, and spirituality, but it’s also flow in your life. The seven secrets we share in this series are really about what it means to get unstuck and find that flow again. That’s what we’re talking about in this episode: being open to receiving. If you’re not receiving something that you desire, you have to look at what limiting beliefs make you resist that prosperity. Hosts: Nick and Kisma 3:40 Hold Onto Your Power “Internally we have answers to every question, solutions to every problem. We have the cause to every effect. But when we’re busy blaming the world, the government, people, our bosses, or whatever, we might as well take all the power we have and throw it at them. We might as well take all of the energy we have and throw it at them, and all of the money we have and throw it at them.” – KISMA 8:58 The Depleted State “When you’re in a depleted state, you’re not bringing the best of yourself into that relationship.” – NICK 14:31 Where Money Comes From “People get confused and they think that money comes from people, and it’s coming from the government, and it’s coming from whatever. It’s coming from the universe through people.” – KISMA 15:23 Demand It “The problem is not the amount, the supply. The problem is we don’t demand enough of it. We don’t demand enough of the universe. We don’t demand enough of ourselves. So, we limit what we receive.” - KISMA 18:04 Go to Source “We only have so many days on this planet. So, if we’re going to create, why don’t we go straight to Source to create? Because why would we do it any other way? We’re just going to keep spinning around and coming back until we figure it out. So, why not go straight to the top?” - KISMA
This week’s episode is a continuation of everything we discussed last week. In Part 2 of Seven Secrets to Prosperity, we discuss what it looks like to have a healthy relationship with debt. Debt can really stress people out, but it shouldn’t. Instead, debt can be a way to see all the opulence around you. Building a new relationship with debt, including understanding that debt is just another way to pay for opportunities, is key to a prosperous life. Hosts: Nick and Kisma 6:36 Debt is Just Another Way to Pay “When you make your debt wrong, you’re making everything that the debt has allowed you to do wrong. The fact is, debt is a different way to pay for things. It’s another way to do things, to pay for things. It’s a choice. So, whatever your credit cards, or your mortgage, or your car loan have allowed you to do or have, be grateful for that. Then, have a very neutral objective relationship and set out that schedule to pay it down.” - KISMA 11:31 Minimize Debt “If you get guilty or have shame on your debt, you’re not having clear and transparent conversations with the best way to minimize it and work with it and feel good about it.” - KISMA 16:51 We Have It All “Since the day we were born, we’ve been given oxygen, the right blood temperature, the right blood temperature. Everything to thrive, and the universe has never sent us a bill. We have it all.” - KISMA
This week’s episode kicks off Part 1 of our next series, Seven Secrets to Prosperity. We talk a lot about prosperity on this podcast, but it’s time to really dive in. Prosperity is important to talk about in general, but it’s something that often gets missed. The truth is, prosperity is essential to healing and transformation. In Part 1, we define what prosperity is, how to prevent congesting our money, and what spiritual lessons may be tied to our past money mistakes. Hosts: Nick and Kisma 3:38 What is Prosperity? It’s really easy if you’re an entrepreneur or even if you’re in corporate or you’re a stay-at-home parent or retired, that we can get into a lack mindset. That lack mindset is just permeating the planet right now, and that’s not the way we were designed to be as humans. Organically, we’re here to expand in full lifeforce, and that includes prosperity.” – KISMA 9:35 Money is Not to Blame “The truth is if there’s something that, at a soul-level, is really important and you know it’s the next right place, that step in—that stretch—really opens so much for you to receive more because money is energy. It flows out, it flows in. One must be clear and clean to have that flow, but as soon as we blame money and make it an excuse, we’re actually making it wrong. When we’re making money an excuse to not elevate in our life, in our business, in our investments, we’re blaming money, and money is not to blame.” - KISMA 11:49 People with Money “When you make people with money wrong, it’s catastrophic to your prosperity.” – KISMA 23:15 Spiritual Lesson “Every experience has a spiritual lesson if we’re willing to look at it. When you get that spiritual lessons, you can’t put a price tag on it. You really can’t.” - KISMA
In this week’s episode, we’re discussing the importance of Creating Space; we also have an interesting announcement to share with you! With regards to Creating Space, we talk through how to handle this at, both, the micro and macro level. Simply put, sometimes we just need a moment. Taking a moment doesn’t mean we’re stopping; it means that we’re taking time to reassess the current situation, take in new information and make room for more opportunities, more space, and a better structure. This can be a very exciting time, as it allows us to lean further into our Creative Mind and away from the fear and worry that dwells in the Competitive Mind. Space allows for expansion and in those moments of silence, the Bhaga Gavita states that in between the Ohms we find our true selves. The truth lies in the stillness and the silence, and sometimes have to create the room in order to bring that absolute into our lives without fear We want to ensure that we remain clean and clear in all areas of our lives: relationships, career, finances, health, wellness, exercise, prosperity, friendships, etc. Creating Space is a key tool in maintaining that clarity and once we have it internally, we’ll begin doing things externally to keep that frequency alive. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: - Working With the Law Series, Part 1 - Thoughts Are Things - David Allen - Email if interested in the new Karma Money Cleanse - Email 5:12 Pausing Not Stopping “There are things that could be happening in your life, in your business, that you say, 'I’m gonna pause, I’m gonna take a breath,' but it doesn’t mean that you’re stopping.” - KISMA 12:48 Taking Space “When you’re taking space, you know that you’re nourishing, you’re feeding. There’s a reason you’re creating space, and so that essence or that entity of wherever you’re taking space, it’s always moving. It continues to be fed.” - KISMA 17:18 The Answer “The answer will always come to a quiet mind.” - NICK 25:18 Internal work “It really does come down to the internal work. When your internal mind and emotions and energy are really cleaned up, the external can be whatever it is and you can manage it so much more easily. It will find a natural order that’s in correspondence with what’s going on with the inside.” - NICK
Coming off of the tail end of episodes and Being Prosperous series, this week’s topic of discussion is about How to NOT take on Negative Energy. What better way to maintain a prosperous vibe than keeping negative energy at bay? So, how can we do it? How can we not take on the negative energy of others? It’s important to note that energy is energy, however, labels are often apart of the conversation. At the root of it all, it comes down to truly being in our energy and making sure that it’s as clear and bright as possible. A key component of doing that is awareness; we want to remain aware of what’s going on and that can be tricky in this noisy world. When we’re unaware and unfocused, we can become easily moved and start attaching to the things that aren’t clear and bright. In this episode, we dive deeper into the importance of awareness and offer additional tips, tricks, and tools for How to NOT take on Negative Energy. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: 4:30 Awareness Nick: The first piece is really about being aware of what’s going on. Kisma: This conscious awareness. Nick: It’s having a sense of self-awareness, and that is definitely easier said than done. People are busy, we’re rushing from thing to thing to thing, juggling a million different things and not a lot of people necessarily see the value of taking time out of their day to sit down for a second and be like, ‘Hey! What’s going on here?’ 9:45 Taking Stuff from Others “The other piece too that I want to look at — back to that kind of awareness thing — is it’s easy to take on other people’s lower-vibe thoughts or energy: panic, lack of energy, anger. These things can be just like a wildfire, and so if we’re not in our lane and really aware of what our mission is — what we’re doing here today or tomorrow, whatever it is — we can take on their stuff.” - KISMA 18:51 Set the Intention “At the very least, when we set the intention that we will make choices for our highest and best, we really do make better choices.” - KISMA 28:48 We’re Always Working with Energy “Everything is energy and you've already been working with energy your whole life. That’s the thing that most people miss. They’re like, ‘Oh, I don’t know about this thing.’ You’ve already been doing it. You can’t not, but your way of relating to it is really unique and so you want to give yourself the time — just a moment, shouldn't take a long time. Just take a moment or two to notice.” - NICK 30:28 The Conscious and Unconscious Choices “Back up for a second to what we talked about before of those conscious and unconscious choices that we make. There’s a reason that that’s happening, and unwinding what’s going on on a deeper energetic level as well as those conscious and subconscious beliefs and programs that are running there, that’s where you really start to shift it. Cord-cutting will get you out of trouble anytime, anywhere. If you’re feeling stuck or something’s not right or you just don’t feel like yourself, start by cutting your cords. To take it a step further and to really, really get that momentum going in starting to make a bigger shift in your life, you absolutely have to address what’s going on in the mind.” - NICK
This week brings the second half of the Being Prosperous series: The Frequency of Prosperity. It’s important to note that the frequency of prosperity cannot be achieved without a prosperous mind; the topic of last week’s episode - , The State of Mind of Prosperity. To sum up the connection, we attract what we are and that begins with what's in our thoughts. In this week’s episode, we discuss how the frequency of prosperity tunes into our vibe and our thoughts. As we mentioned in , if there’s chaos surrounding us, there’s chaos somewhere within us. To that same effect, if we’re experiencing harmony, that’s the result of a harmonious mindset and energy within us. Simply put, if you want to manifest faster - raise your frequency of prosperity. Raise that vibe because your Vibe is Your Tribe. We, of course, know this is often easier said than done and in this episode, we share insights, best practices, and guidance on how we can turn up the dial on The Frequency of Prosperity. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: Time Stamps: 4:07 It All Begins with a Thought “We attract what we are. It really does start with what’s happening in our thoughts. If you think of a thought flow, it has an energy. It becomes thicker and thicker and thicker, and as we’re thinking, it’s shifting the entire vibe of our being. Anytime we’re in a funk, we just need to observe our thoughts." - KISMA 7:43 What You Put Out Elevated, Comes back Elevated “When you can elevate what you’re putting out in frequency, you’re going to elevate what you get back.” - KISMA 11:34 We Have the Answers “It’s also true that the answers are locked inside of you. That is 100% true — always is — but what’s also true is that you’re the last one who’s going to see it.” - NICK 15:11 Something’s Always Working “Something’s always working when you’re facing forward. I think that’s an important thing to remind ourselves. If you’re building a business and you’re launching a course or something, and it falls flat the first time, tweak it, change it, do something, get up and do it again. We didn’t ride our bike the first time perfectly. We fell.” - KISMA 26:07 You Can Do This “Tap into your heart, look at your thoughts, be super-receptive to all that the Universe, God, Source, Spirit have to give you because when you think about something, it’s really ready to show up. I know one of the big pieces is to drop the worry, drop the fear. You can totally do this.” - KISMA
We’re back this week and very excited to be discussing prosperity. We kick off the conversation with a new series: Being Prosperous. In this episode, Part 1, we cover the State of Mind of Prosperity. This conversation ties back to teachings that we’ve discussed in previous episodes, surrounding The Law Attraction. Quite simply, we attract what we are - so we think, we become. As with anything, challenges will arise - particularly when it comes to sustaining this mindset. We discuss tools, tips, tricks and practices that we can do realign ourselves, share insight into the Laws of Attraction and offers suggestions for how to identify if we’re existing in a space of limitation and chaos. We look forward to having you join us on this journey through prosperity. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: Prosperity Code: Email Ultimate Life Tool: Email Time Stamps: 3:52 The State of Mind of Prosperity “The state of mind of prosperity, a prosperous mindset, it starts with focusing on what you have. On a very basic level, it starts with — and I’m using 'start' really intentionally — it starts with focusing on what you have and having gratitude.” - KISMA 11:27 Prosperous Thinking “Prosperous thinking would be ‘Wow, I hope everyone has great clients. There’s enough for everyone. I hope everyone has an amazing marriage or partnership or children because, wow, there’s enough love to go around.’ We don’t want to take from people to make ourselves feel better.” - KISMA 12:53 The Universe “The opportunities aren’t hiding. The Universe does not hide beauty. The Universe does not hide opulence. We cover our eyes and our mind with a veneer of doubt, so once that gets removed, we’re able to see all the opulence out there.”- KISMA 14:24 It’s Right Here “It’s right there for you. If you have a desire for it, it’s right there for you.”- NICK 23:33 Action “Take action, really take action and don't resist. If we don’t have what we want, somewhere we’re resisting. We might be resisting taking action, we might be resisting receiving, we might be resisting dropping the drama and the judgment of others — a whole bunch of things we’re resisting. When we think of something, when it’s in our mind, when we’ve got that mindset of prosperity, when we can imagine something, it’s ready to find us. It’s right there. Are we really ready to accept it and are we ready to lean into it? Leaning in, being the action. You know, we are creatures of action. We’ve been given a body, we’re on this planet and consistent action yields consistent results.” - KISMA 25:09 An Objective Mind Nick: It really comes back to that objectivity of the Vedanta teachings: Whatever is going on around you, let your mind be peaceful inside. Kisma: Exactly. When you’ve got the peaceful, objective mindset, you can handle anything. You can reframe it. You can change your perception. You can get through it. You can stay in action. That’s the prosperity mindset. Nick: You can find what’s trying to show up for you.
This week’s episode is the final part of our Accessing Your Gifts, Talents and Magic series. Two weeks ago, we started the conversation with Part 1 on how to identify our magic. In last week’s episode we discussed how to activate our magic and today, we’re bringing it full circle, with how to own it. We’ve all felt that sparkle - the happiness, joy, and awe that occurs when we’re in full creative expression. Challenges often arise with understanding how to move beyond these one-off occurrences sparks of magic. How do we regularly experience that feeling? How can we create a life where we’re regularly engaged in creative expression and our magic is readily accessible? This series is one that’s very special to us because if we all sparkled just a little bit brighter, we’re talking just a 1% increase to our vibe, we could shift the planet. When it comes to our magic, the possibilities are endless Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: Time Stamps: 2:10 Serving the Planet “Whenever we’re at the highest and best of ourselves, whenever we have more joy, happiness, energy, whenever we are coming from the creative mind as opposed to the competitive mind, we’re being way more of service to the entire planet” - KISMA 8:27 Tantrums KISMA: “Being able to utilize the creativity, the self-expression, the magic, breaks a lot of this energy. Think about it this way, everyone - if you have a child in your life, whether it’s your own child or someone else’s, and that child is just so wanting to color you’re very likely not going to go to the child and say ‘no, you can’t.’ We all know what a child who can’t color feels like, they get said or upset. I’m not saying we have to openly throw tantrums or a be a child - there is a need for this creativity, and this expression, and this happiness.” NICK: “There’s a part of you that will be throwing a tantrum” 11:58 Our Similarities “For me, I haven’t necessarily noticed a huge difference between people who are in start-up phase or in some struggles, and people who are really, really successful. In everywhere in between people have things going on below the surface that take them out of that and are some pretty deep inner conflicts.” - NICK 15:22 Sustaining a Shift “When you can step out of yourself and into something a little bit different, you start to create a shift. Now, the purpose of this episode is really about sustaining that. It's not so difficult to create a shift, you can do it and in that moment, it will be an uplifting experience. It’ll be something that reminds you of a deeper level of who you are and that’s wonderful. How many times do people have that and then they wake up the next day and it’s back to the same way? So, a one-off isn’t going to do it” - NICK 22:27 Feed Your Soul “If you’re finding yourself not sure and stuck, one of the best places to start is turn off your phone and go take a walk in nature. Separate from social media, separate from electronics, and go outside and reconnect with Mother Nature. If you know what it is you want to do, schedule it now - bring it in. Is it weekly? Is it a monthly occurrence where you get to feed your soul? ” - KISMA
This week’s episode brings Part 2 of our series, Accessing Your Gifts, Talents, and Magic. We started last week with the discussion on how to identify our gits; today, we’re shining light on how to activate the magic in our DNA. When we reference our gifts and magic, we’re talking about our creative expression and joy, the things that speak to our soul and that many of us are crying out to do. For a lot of us, somewhere along the way, we began suppressing that expression and in Part 2 we offer some tips on how to tap in, dig deep and rediscover that source of happiness, authentic joy, and childlike wonder. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: 1:38 Human Potential “When I look at a human being, I just know that there is potential beyond potential within every single human being, that we can’t even imagine. I don’t think magic is a stretch by any means. I think magic is maybe scratching the surface a bit, of what’s really in there for each of us. It’s a magic process to watch it unfold. It’s so exciting in so many different ways.” - NICK 8:45 What’s the Dream? “What is the dream? If you had 24 hours or 48 hours to just go off and play, what would you do? Would you be sitting in the Harry Potter library reading? Would you be on a sailboat? Would you be painting? Would you be dancing or drumming?” - KISMA 13:35 Burn Out “Sometimes we step into different roles or ways of being. Yet if we’re staying in the very serious or the one that we’re using to bring in money, our business or jobs or whatever, we’re going to hit burn out. There isn’t the breath of the magic, of the fun, of the dreaming and fulfilling the dreams” - KISMA 17:31 Mysticism “We don’t need another person who’s on autopilot, going through life mechanically. We talked about mysticism, The Mystic Next Door and what that’s all about. Mysticism is about coming alive, it’s about coming back to that trues nature of yourself. It’s about unlocking, within you, those gifts, that magic, that something special that is truly who you are at the core.” - NICK 22:54 Pivot the Message “If this is resonating - ‘I’m not creative. I’m not a good dancer, I’m not a good skater.’ Pivot it, turn it around to ‘i am so receptive to having fun with this. I’m super receptive to creativity, I’m super receptive to dancing.’ Don't make it have to be a certain way; this is all about coming back to the magic and the gifts and the joy.” -KISMA
It’s no secret that we love a good series; this week brings Part 1 of How to Access Your Gifts, Talents, and Magic. This topic was Nick’s idea as he’s a big fan of magic and creating space for us to explore the gifts that we all possess. Part 1 focuses on our ability to identify our gifts. There are many of us who are on the journey of exploration yet we don’t know what it is that we’re looking for or how to go about the process of identifying our gifts. If you don’t know what you’re looking for or how to look for it, it’s almost impossible to develop it. Circling back to that magic that Nick loves so much, our superpowers can’t be honed until their discovered. Tune in for a few tips and tricks how to, both, identify the gifts, talents, and magic that lies within us and advice how to bring them to the surface - creating space for us to live a fully self-expressed and authentic life. Hosts: Nick and Kisma Resources: Send us an email if you’re interested: 3:01 Our Gifts, Talents and Magic “In a very real way, in our world - our gifts and our talents, our magic are things that make us so incredibly unique and so valuable in the world” - NICK 7:05 Childlike Magic “I remember doing little, magical things when I was a child. Whether it was through a thought process or play or whatever. Then, at some point, an adult would be like ‘don’t do that or we don’t talk to make believe playmates or don’t wave your hands like what’ - where somebody makes it wrong in us. Then, as we’re growing into teens and adults, we just start to think or behave according to what other people have told us or put on us. That’s anti-magic, that’s anti gifts.” - KISMA 18:05 Creativity, Magic, Gifts, and Skills “The creative, and the magic, and the gifts and the skills - when we can identify 1 or 2 everyone, it actually does create the white space, even though we might be in color. There is space that’s being created in our mind, in our souls, in our presence so that whatever we do on either side of it is more dynamic.” - KISMA 21:45 Geek Out “The things that you geek out on, somewhere in there is your magic. The things that you do really uniquely just geek out on them more and more and it’ll bring more into your life. What it does is, this is what I’ve seen anyway, is it just opens up space for so much more to come through.” - NICK
We welcome a very special guest in this week’s episode…..one that may come as a bit of a surprise. You may have an idea of who it is, as we’ve mentioned our guest - The Mystic Next Door, in some of our previous episodes. He steps into the guest seat and talks to us about his journey into creating The Mystic persona, fully stepping into it and why he felt he had to hide being the incredible healer that he is. Our wish is that this episode will spark more of that mysticism, more of that higher self, more joy, more blessings and more transcendence in your lives - because, as you’ll learn from The Mystic, it really is so much easier to live and so much more fun to exist from that space. Host: Kisma Guest: The Mystic Next Door Resources: Resources: 5:40 Discipline and Personal Responsibility “Discipline is actually an incredibly important part of this whole thing, Discipline and personal responsibility - the main, really powerful pillars of any spiritual practice. Stay on the path, and take responsibility for that path that you’re on.” - The Mystic Next Door 11:02 Miracles The Mystic Next Door: “There’s miracles everywhere, and if you want more miracles in your life, look for more miracles in your life. Miracles are not outside the laws of nature, they’re within the laws of nature. We just don’t understand them - so we call it a miracle, which is basically the entire human experience.” Kisma: “So many people have been brought up to believe that a miracle happens, maybe once in a lifetime so there’s a misperception of breathing, and eyesight, and love, and chakras and stratas. We’re just ignoring miracles everywhere.” 19:21 A Peaceful Mind “Having a peaceful mind in a chaotic world is really the ultimate” - KISMA 25:09 Your Best Self “Is your very best self going to respond in anger and division or is your best self going to be in observation? Looking for the higher path - looking to bring everybody to the higher path, a true sense of leadership”- The Mystic Next Door 35:08 A Great Exercise “That’s a great exercise: imagine what yourself is like when you’re at your very best.” - KISMA
This week’s episode is a personal one. It touches on conversations that we’ve had during our earlier episodes about radical authenticity, ruthless honesty, and courageous vulnerability. Speaking of vulnerability, we deep dive into a very vulnerable moment for Nick. He has a confession that he shares with us, along with the lessons that he garnered from it. We talk about this often that, in every situation in our lives (even in the challenges), there’s a spiritual lesson if we’re willing to see it. This episode is about Nick’s journey into the lessons and how he was able to humble himself to see what was there…...believe it or not, this was all brought on by cheese! 2:05 Seeing the Gifts “In every challenge, in every situation, there’s a spiritual lesson if we are willing to see it. We’ve really got to be present with what we're going through, have gone through and be receptive to the fact that even when something is — many people will say 'hard,' I like to use the word 'challenging' — there’s a gift. Those gifts can lead to many gifts, many insights.” - KISMA 15:22 Using the Tools “If you have the best medication in the world, the most amazing super pill that’s going to fix everything in your life, it does you absolutely no good if it sits in the bottle” - NICK 19:20 The Lesson “The lesson is everyone in this world, whatever your thing is, if you pray, if you meditate, if you run, if you work out, if you journal, if you do energy work like we do, if you’ve worked with us or not, if you have a thing, a ritual, a protocol, and little by little you start to ignore that — it can also apply if you start to ignore being kind or you start to ignore making money or being compassionate — there's a whole ripple effect in your being from becoming complacent to one important thing.” - KISMA 23:14 Pride “Here’s the thing about pride: If you were to measure somebody’s spiritual core — which you can totally do, you can measure it any time — and when somebody gets into the pride, it doesn't just go back to its least common denominator. It actually diminishes from that. It’s a massive, massive diminishment and it really cuts off that connection to those higher aspects of yourself — all of the things that keep you in your happy, joyful place doing what you’re here to do.” - NICK 33:03 A Receptive State “Just saying, 'Be more humble,' that’s not it either. That’s not the answer. What I would say is it comes from a really receptive state, even if you only do that for a few minutes a day. It’s something to reflect on and from the receptive state to just say, 'Show me.'” - NICK
This week’s episode welcomes a very special guest, a magical being whose presence in the studio created such an awesome vibe throughout the entire building: Nicola Moras. Nicola is an online visibility expert, sought-after speaker and author of , a guide for business owners on how to generate financial results from social media and digital marketing. Nicola helps clients around the world achieve visibility, impact, and profits, enabling them to become ‘professionally famous’ online. She joins us, all the way from Australia, for a discussion on , along with additional tools, tips, and tricks for how we can cut through a lot of the online noise and counter the fluff that exists in many of today's digital marketing strategies. Many of these “must-dos,” either never really worked or have stopped working. Not only does Nicola guide us to the good stuff, but she also talks to us about how we can do this work from a place of alignment, authenticity, and vulnerability. We’re all different and each one of us has something unique to offer. When it comes to being visible and truly connecting with our audience, Nicola says our messages won’t be seen, heard or relevant unless we truly own our individuality; what exists deep within our core, an energy that manifested around the 11:02 mark as a “Roaaarrrmm.” Unless we’re able to truly tap into that, and really feel it, Nicola says we run the risk of bringing more of the same to this digital space. Intrigued? We hope so. We had such a great time during this episode! Resources: - Website - Book - Free Tool Time Stamps: 6:55 Alignment “For me, when it comes to making the decision to be visible it has to start from a place of alignment. Your visibility efforts aren’t going to look the same as what mine do, or what yours do, or what’s Kisma’s do. It’s really about making that commitment that you’re going to show up as you” - NICOLA 13:27 Power of Vulnerability “I think there is a lot of power in being vulnerable online and in sharing you, but there’s got to be a line. There are some things that, it could be a really powerful story, but if it’s coming from the wrong intention around trying to be authentic and ‘vulnerability is the new black.’ Not to take away from some of the stuff that people have been through, but if it’s not being done with volition, or if you’re just trying to air a grievance, or trying to incite a response then that becomes manipulation versus vulnerability or authenticity” - NICOLA 19:27 Mission “Some people think that the mission that they're doing now, for their business, needs to be the mission for their whole entire life. It doesn’t have to be. It can be the mission for the season, it can be the mission for this duration.” - NICOLA 21:28 Permission to be All In “It’s basically like giving yourself permission to be all in, right where you’re at. Rather than, ‘oh, well I know this isn’t the real thing so I can’t like be all in on that. I might have to backtrack later, I might make a mistake or all these other things.’ It’s really just giving yourself permission to be all in.” - NICK 30:58 Permission to be Fully Expressed “Another thing I really dig about your work is that you give people permission to step into all these different parts of themselves and to really be much more fully expressed in everything.” - NICK
This week’s episode is a juicy one - it’s the last (at least for now) of the India Series. We jump right in at the top of the episode with the discussion on Mental Conviction. This topic came up while Kisma was at the Vedanta Academy and she wanted to share some of the amazing lessons that came from the discussion. Kisma raised the question, ‘what is the difference between fanaticism and conviction?” To sum up Swamiji’s response (or at least attempt to), the differences between the two come down to being led by our emotions versus being led by our intellect. We deep dive into how this can show up in our daily lives, Nick talks a bit about where it shows up in his life, and we share more of Swamiji’s teachings. When we’re in a fanatical space, and being led by emotion, we tend to be a bit scattered. We’re up, we’re down and here or there at any given moment. Mental conviction, however, requires steadfastness, with an idea in mind that we can use to help keep us centered. Today’s conversation is about us, and no one else. Remember, everyone is on their own journey and, not only are we not here to judge, we can only truly assess this with ourselves. This is why it’s important to check in with ourselves and stay attuned to what’s going on with us. Any of us can fall into a space of being fanatical about something, which moves us away from the Self. Tune in to learn more about how we can stay in action, intellectually sound and focused on what we’re here to do - being lead intellectually towards the Self. Resources: - Nick - Email Instagram: Time Stamps: 1:26 Having Mental Conviction “I think it’s something that everybody can develop but I think certain people have a little bit more of a predisposition to have this. It’s almost like they’re obstinance works in their favor in certain ways.” - NICK 6:31 Kisma Reads Swamiji’s Answer Tune in at 6:31 to hear Kisma read from her notes about his response during the group session 10:00 Result of Being Fanatical “If it’s selfish in nature and they’re fanatical about it, they’ll move away from the very thing they seek which is the Self and consciousness.” - KISMA 17:04 Distractions “Think about all the different things that come your way and all the different ideas, all the different things that you’ve been told and just all the other stuff to do. If you’re not convicted to do what you’re here to do, even just on a daily basis like executing a to-do list, you’ll get distracted. There’s a mental conviction to be like ‘I’m completing this list.’ That’s something that I see a lot of people really struggle with and it really hurts them in their life. They don’t follow through, they don’t bring some things to completion and it creates more and more chaos into their world. It takes conviction to get there.” - NICK 20:55 Finding and Solving “That Thing.” “Man, when you really know how to find that thing and solve that thing, they get to access that wisdom and that knowledge that’s already there within them and really put it to amazing use. I just think that’s cool.” - NICK
Welcome to part 3 of the India Series: So You Think You Can Meditate. Meditation has become immensely popular within the past decade. There are countless apps, programs, videos, books on how you can incorporate meditation into your life. We really love the fact that it’s also being introduced, in Western Culture, to younger audiences - even being integrated into some school curriculums... It’s beneficial, no question about it; everyone from athletes, to CEOs and even presidents, are mediating. While we certainly honor that, this week’s episode is about distinguishing the difference between the daily practices (stillness, quieting our breath and slowing our thoughts) and meditation from the highest teachings from the land. We clarify one of the biggest myths about meditation - that it’s a practice. Meditation is not a practice, it's an arrival. The practice is the work we do to release our desires and quiet our minds to arrive at meditation. Meditation, in its truest sense, is when we’re able to quiet our minds to a point of focusing on a mantra and silence; that requires developing a high degree of skill and intellect to hold our minds steady. Tune in to hear more about the practices that support us on that journey to mediation, the question that Kisma posed on meditation while at the Vedanta Academy and some examples about what this looks like our daily lives. Resources: (Daffodils) - William Wordsworth Time Stamps: 3:27 Defining Meditation “It is not a practice everyone, it’s an arrival. In the truest sense of meditation where we are quieting the mind, to a point where we’re focused on a mantra - usually Om, and then we’re focused on the silence, and then we’re focused on the mantra. It takes a very special mind to be able to hold, what is referred to as the intellect, steady to focus on these two. We’ll be doing and another thought floats in and then all of a sudden there’s a whole strain of thoughts, related to that other thought.“ - KISMA 9:01 Space for Thought Our world, as we know it now, is the opposite of that. There’s so much noise, there are so many thoughts just infiltrating our headspace, our mental real estate, our emotional real estate. If we could take this very lofty teaching and bring down to the practical, it would be to slow down. To really just slow down and allow some space in between every thought” - KISMA 13:45 Slowing down “For me, even if I can’t see my true self, my true nature, I know that there’s guidance in that space if I just slow down and take it” - NICK 20:09 Clarity of Mind “That’s what will happen to your mind and your energy if it’s not cleaned up. Our world, it’s not like it’s toxic but there’s stuff. You’re a human being in the world and it will gather in your energy and then your mind will adapt it over time. That’s just what happens. If you are only ever trying to find a moment of clarity and pushing things aside so that you can have that, you’re not actually solving the problem and you’re not really solving the obstacle that's keeping you from that sustainable and maintainable clarity that you really want” - NICK
This week brings Part 2 of the India Series: It’s Not What You Think. With wanting to share more of Kisma’s experience at the Vedanta Academy, we dive into a bit of a heavy topic: that the world in an illusion. We read a few passages from Swami Parthasarathy’s, , to share some of Vedanta’s philosophy. Not to worry, we bring it full circle with examples of how this shows up in our everyday lives, along with tips and practices that can be used to challenge many of the illusions that show up in our critiques of ourselves and others. Remember, it’s never about being wrong. We’re all human and on a journey expand, grow and become better versions of ourselves. One of the best ways to do that is to understand that our perceptions heavily influence our reality and to remain open to there being the possibility of another way, another answer...overall, just being open to the possibility of “something else.”
We’re very excited about our reunion this week! Kisma’s back from India and we’re looking forward to bringing you some of the amazing highlights from her trip. In true Illumination Podcast fashion, we’re kicking off a series about some of the teachings at the Vedanta Academy. In part 1 of the series, we’re discussing a day in the ashram life - an ashram is a spiritual community. It’s a place where people go to live, stay and study. There’s a bit of a difference with the structure at the Vedanta Academy - evident right in the name. It was consciously created as an academy by founder, Swami Parthasarathy, to have an essence of philosophy. Vedanta isn’t a religion; while topics of religion and spirituality are discussed at the academy, the overall focus is on the ancient philosophy and the knowledge.
We’re very excited this week to welcome our special guest, Marc Cordon, to Illumination Podcast. As we mentioned last week Kisma is away on her trip - she sends her love and light from India and will be checking in soon; be on the lookout for a special solo episode or two. Marc a positive psychology coach, the author of Beyond Resilient: The Coach's Guide to Ecstatic Growth and co-founder of Joy Revolution. He’s received coaching accolades from the Institute for Professional and Excellence in Coaching including an Energy Leadership Index - Master Practitioner, Certified Professional Coach, and specialties in transitions, leadership, performance, and wellbeing. With over 20 years of experience, Marc has assisted countless people in self-development through speaking engagements, retreats, mini-courses, and 1-on-1 advising and mentoring. He joins us today (an unofficial “Guys Night” episode) for a discussion on positive psychology, Beyond Resilient, and how joy and happiness can be among our biggest motivators.
We’re back this week with a special send-off for Kisma…..she’ll be back, not to worry. Kisma is heading to India. As many of you know, we speak often about the Vedanta Academy and Swami Parthasarathy - it’s been over a year since Kisma last made the trip and the calling came in. India is such a magical place and it speaks to the essence of the show: Ancient Wisdom. This podcast exists for us to bring that Ancient Wisdom to your modern days and we want to present these teachings in a way that truly resonates to you, no matter where you are in life. Tune in today to hear a bit more about Kisma’s upcoming trip and about how we can use intellect, objectivity, and neutrality to guide our lives. The question is, do we want to guide our lives upwards or downwards? Tune in today!
We couldn’t resist, we’re back this week with an addendum episode for the Spiritual Detox Series: Part 4 - Five Things You Can Do to Stay Clean and Clear. This addition was inspired by the late, great Wayne Dyer. We were watching a video of his where he was discussing the corrosion of the spiritual core, it painted a very vivid picture of that impact on the spirit and inspired us to think through a simple set of preventative measures. What most resonated with us about Wayne’s work was his ability to speak in such a universal way, his humility and his authenticity. As enlightened as he was, he still experienced challenges along his journey. It’s an important reminder that this work is ongoing, no matter who you are or how long you’ve been doing it. We spent some time reading through his works and pulled from our own teachings to come up with “Five Things that You Can Do to Stay Clean and Clear.” We hope that you enjoy!
This week we’re joined by a very special guest, Jenny Carr, to discuss Healing from the Inside Out. Jenny is a Mompreneur, international best selling author, speaker and a leading expert on inflammation. Jenny is also a testament to this work - having overcome a near-death experience by becoming a fearless advocate for her health and getting into action to remove the inflammation from her body, all while maintaining a positive outlook - filled with gratitude, love, spiritual surrender and acceptance. We’re thrilled to bring you our conversation with this wellness powerhouse and excited for you to learn more about her journey of self-love and healing. Jenny also shares some key pieces of advice with us on how we can promote a more anti-inflammatory lifestyle - this is an episode that you don’t want to miss!
This week, we bring you part 2 of our Spiritual Detox series, Emotional Freedom. Last week, with part 1, we talked about what happens when you have certain things in your life that don’t support who you are, what you’re doing and offered tips on how to navigate that. In this episode, we’re discussing what’s going on in your head, your heart, and what needs to be solved and resolved in order for you to be on (what Kisma likes to call) the “Divine Success Track,” where you’re facing forward, towards your highest path and purpose. Often times, our head and heart can feel as if they’re at odds and we provide some tools to help reconcile and align the two. With this series, we’re approaching detox from a position removing the things that are no longer serving us and resolving areas of challenge. Remember, it’s never about making something wrong - as Kisma said “take out the good, bad, right or wrong. Just face forward and desire to be your highest and best self. Look at, what in your mind, what in your heart, doesn’t serve that.”
Happy New Year, Everyone! We hope that your 2019 is off to a great start. We’re starting the year with a 3 part series: Spiritual Detox. Today’s episode (Part 1) was inspired by an interview we had last year with Peg Fitzpatrick () about creating community over competition. Often times we find ourselves in a cycle of comparison and can feel like someone else’s gain automatically equates our loss. This is the antithesis to the Law of Supply, which states that there is more than enough for everyone. In today’s episode, we discuss the importance of honoring and protecting our mental and emotional real estate. The goals and resolutions kicked off at the start of the year create a high energy of action, however, if we don’t do the necessary work to clean up and clear out those things that no longer serve us, it will be very challenging for our goals to flourish. It’s time to get clear on what we really want in our lives, who we want to be and to remove all of the noise, congestion, people, events and spaces that no longer support our growth.
As we bring 2018 to a close, we wanted to re-release one of our favorite episodes: How to Be Ultra Spiritual with JP Sears. JP Sears is one of the funniest, most innovative, enlightening and inspiring spiritual leaders. As an emotional healing coach, most famous for creating a connection through his humorous approach, JP connects with a vast audience through his courses, , and has spread his message via a new medium with the release of his book . JP is someone who speaks to such truth in such a meaningful way and through his work, he empowers people to live more meaningful lives. What better episode to end this year with?
This episode was recorded around mid-December, as we were all starting to think about the things that we want to see shift in the New Year. New Year’s Resolutions are a big part of that conversation. What would you like to happen in 2019? It invites and inspires reflection on where things may have gone awry this year, where didn’t we step up to the plate? It’s also important to acknowledge and appreciate the areas where we DID step up. When approached in the right way New Year’s Resolutions can be very valuable, on the other side of the coin, it’s reported that by the second week of February, 80% of resolution setters are in a disappointment mode. In today’s episode, we discuss how to go about setting yourself up for success so that you are empowered by your choices to shift and not at the effect any pressure placed on those decisions.
In this episode, we discuss how to make the present moment perfect. As we get closer and closer to the holidays, we want this to serve as a reminder to identify and be in the perfection, don’t take on any of the chaos. There’s perfection all around us, at every moment and we’re often conditioned by our beliefs to automatically focus on what’s wrong with a situation or to wish for things to be other than they are. Not only does this prevent us from seeing the beauty and perfection of a situation, we often miss the opportunities available. Tune in for tips on how to create and maintain an awareness of perfection.
This week’s episode is about finding your purpose - this is a question Nick and Kisma receive often. This time of the year, in particular, starts to raise this question, more and more, as people are beginning to reflect on the current year and plan for 2019. We’ve all asked that question in some form or another: “why am I here?” , “what does it all mean?”, “what am I supposed to doing?” , “is this it?” We all have a purpose and discovering it is a large part of our journey - it’s important that we remain true to whatever it is and work to continually say “yes” to it.
In this week’s episode, Kisma (aka “The Master of Gift Giving”) shares her insights on intentional gift giving, along with a list of her favorite gift ideas. Last week, Nick and Kisma talked about the impact and causes of Festive Stress - gift giving was among the top contributors. Along with being an additional expense, many people get very stressed about picking out the “right” gift. Nick and Kisma encourage us to reignite the joy in gift giving, and receiving, that we experienced as children - their gift suggestions are just the spark that we need!
This episode was recorded right before the Thanksgiving Holiday, and Nick and Kisma kick off the discussion about getting into the holiday spirit (Kisma already has her Christmas music set in the car). As great as the holidays can be, they’re also a time of increased stress and elevated anxiety for a lot of people. Tune in for a mindful discussion on some of the approaches and practices that you can implement to safely (and peacefully) navigate any festive stress.