Why We Eat: Recent Episodes
Roni Davis
The podcast where we'll teach you how the key to changing what and how you eat lies in changing why you eat. Join us as E-CET Founder Roni Davis helps you redefine health, happiness, healthy living & the way you think about weight through habit, belief, and behavior modification at the brain level, so it can actually stick.
-- Start getting a handle on weight and food struggles by getting some insight into what may be driving them. Watch the free Why We Eat video series at: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com/why-we-eat-series
Is weight loss really the answer to health, happiness, success and self-love? In this episode, we explore weight-centric and weight-neutral approaches to health and well-being.
I share my approach to weight neutrality, the advantages it offers, including the benefits for mental, emotional, and physical health.
I also explore why a weight-neutral approach is far superior to the outdated and unsuccessful paradigm of a weight-centric approach and illustrate real-world outcomes through a series of short stories, showcasing the contrasting results of each approach.
In this episode, we delve into the transformative journey of Renee, a remarkable lady who embraced the principles of the E-CET to embark on a profound path of self-discovery and well-being. Join us as we unravel Renee's inspiring story, from her initial struggles to her current state of peace and empowerment.
Renee takes us on a personal journey, sharing where she was when she first join E-CET. With honesty and vulnerability, she recounts her relationship with food, her body, and the challenges she faced.
As Renee opens up about her motivations and aspirations, we explore the profound impact of E-CET and the transformative power of self-awareness, self-compassion, and breaking free from societal norms. Renee's story will resonate with listeners who have yearned for a deeper connection with their bodies and a more harmonious relationship with food.
She shares her renewed sense of body acceptance, improved relationship with food, and the newfound freedom she experienced by embracing a more compassionate and embodied approach to taking care of herself and her body.
Tune in to gain valuable insights and inspiration from Renee's story, and discover how the principles of E-CET can revolutionize your own relationship with food, body, and self.
It’s common to feel ashamed, physically uncomfortable and even fearful after a binge, or even after over-eating something you know makes you feel like garbage. But it's important to remember that it doesn’t define you and how we respond in the hours and days after these things happen, can play a large role in whether we keep ourselves stuck in binge eating patterns, or start learning to end them for good.
In this episode, I’m sharing actionable strategies to help you do the latter. I'll explore some dos and don'ts and provide practical steps to help you navigate the aftermath of a binge so you can release feelings of shame and guilt, feel better faster and have some hope of actually breaking the binge cycle.
Whether you're struggling with binge eating, or just looking for ways to improve your relationship with food and your body, this episode is for you. So tune in, and let's learn how to bounce back from a binge and move forward with confidence and self-love!
For more, or to access the resources I discuss in the episode, visit www.ecet.online
From understanding and managing summer fears and insecurities to how to survive clothes shopping - in this episode style coach, Amanda Hanson and I talk about navigating shopping, negative thoughts, and summer clothes dread when you struggle with body image or changing body sizes.
Find Amanda:Learn more about her upcoming workshop: https://www.simplystylish.ca/seasonal-update
On the web: https://www.simplystylish.ca
On Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/simplystylish.ca
In this episode, I share what hunger is (and isn’t), three types of hunger, how they influence your eating habits, and why understanding and honouring them is key for not only healthy eating but also for nurturing a healthy, peaceful relationship with food and your body.
In this episode, a conversation I had with E-CET client, Natalie. In it, we discuss her lifelong weight 'noticing', what about E-CET stands out the most for her, why she joined, what she was hoping to gain from the process, how the process is different than anything else she's tried in the past, some of the things that have changed for her since starting, what she loves most about it, how she's learning more trust and connection, and what advice she'd give to someone who is currently where she was when she started.
In this episode, I'm talking about procrastination. What it is (and isn't), sharing some of the most common reasons clients struggle with it, why you probably struggle with, in fact. I'm also talking about how you're probably making it way worse every day, and I'm sharing some things that can help so you stop falling into a shame spiral and start feeling better and more motivated.
The truly healthiest way to eat is to eat whatever you want, whenever you want, even as much as you want.
I’d even argue that despite what diets, “healthy eating plans” and really the whole health and wellness industry as a whole need you to believe, it’s the only way to actually eat healthy. In this (and the last) episode, I’m talking about the science of nutrition (the last episode), explaining why I say eating what you want is the healthiest way to eat and exactly what I mean (and don't mean) by it (this episode).
Before you decide I'm nuts, give these two a listen.
The truly healthiest way to eat is to eat whatever you want, whenever you want, even as much as you want.
I’d even argue that despite what diets, “healthy eating plans” and really the whole health and wellness industry as a whole need you to believe, it’s the only way to actually eat healthy and in this (and the next) episode, I’m talking about the science of nutrition, explaining why I say eating what you want is the healthiest way to eat and exactly what I mean by it.
Before you decide I'm nuts, give it a listen.
In this episode, why I unsubbed from Mel Robbins mailing list, why I’m even talking about it in the first place plus the ‘healthy habits hack' she shared and why it’s not only the stupidest, most unhelpful advice a person could ever possibly give (or get) but worse, it’s downright harming people… perhaps even you, if you’ve gotten this same advice.
In this episode, I’m sharing 7 things you need to know before you set more weight loss resolutions. These are some of the dirty little secrets the health, fitness and weight loss industries don’t want you to know, from an industry drop out.
Marci Brockmann is a highly educated, multi-passionate woman and the founder of Marci Brockmann International. Using the knowledge from her own healing journey, she became an author, a podcaster, an artist, and had been a high school English teacher for 27 years.
As an emotional abuse survivor, journal writing is what saved her and she has been writing expressively in journals for 35 years and this became the basis of her two books: Permission to Land: Searching for Love, Home & Belonging and Permission to Land: Personal Transformation Through Writing. Marci is a painter with her own online art gallery and she hosts a YouTube channel and a blog, both called What’s up, Marci?
In November 2020, she began her highly lauded podcast Permission to Heal which is available on all major podcast listening platforms. She has been a contributing writer for Elephant Journal, FairyGodBoss, Thrive Global, and Medium and she has been featured on ‘IdeaMensch and in Authority Magazine.
All of this is a direct outgrowth of Marci Brockmann’s concept of giving ourselves permission to be our authentic selves, to be relentlessly self-compassionate, to focus on our dreams and to heal ourselves and build the rich, abundant life we deserve. She lives in New York with her husband, their grown kids, frisky cats, and many fish.
Marci helps people find inspiration to heal from trauma so they can build meaningful lives.
As she says, “You only need your own permission to begin.”
Get in touch with Marci through these links:
Website - www.MarciBrockmann.com
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Podcast – Permission to Heal - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/permission-to-heal/id1542485131
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What’s up, Marci YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL2HWaqrJ5xHOz02zmm7O_w
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TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@marcibrockmann
In this episode, I'm addressing an email I got about a piece I recently wrote for Tiny Buddha called, "How to Protect our Kids from a Lifetime of Weight, Food and Body Image Issues" because it was indicative of misconceptions and common criticism of my work and work like mine.
And it represented the point I'm always trying to make about what's wrong with the way we've been taught to approach healthy eating and living.
You can read the entire Tiny Buddha article here if you're interested: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/how-to-protect-our-kids-from-a-lifetime-of-food-weight-and-body-image-issues/
Learn more about E-CET at: www.ecet.online
Get started with the free Why We Eat video series: www.ecet.online/why-we-eat
In this episode, I'm talking about the perfect healthy lifestyle and why, after spending 8 years of helping countless people with their health and wellness goals through that paradigm, I now believe it to be a toxic, outdated, and fundamentally flawed.
I also share my radically new approach to health and well-being and give an example of how to start practicing it for yourself right now.
For more information, including free resources visit: www.ecet.online
In this episode, welcome back to season four. Why the name change? What is being more all about? What is wholehearted being? And what does it have to do with healthy eating and living? All that and more in this episode.
For more info, including free resources visit: www.ecet.online
In this episode, I'm joined again by my client, Hollie and we're talking about some of the rules she used to have around food, how they impacted her mental and physical health, how scary it was to let go of them, and how much has improved for her since she has.
In this episode, I'm talking with Anne Berube about her new book, The Burnout Antidote: A Spiritual Guide To Empowerment For Empaths, Over-Givers, and Highly Sensitive People
Human beings are hard-wired for service. But if we are designed to care for each other, then why are we so unwell? Anne’s message is for anyone who over-gives and depletes themselves in the process of serving their families, clients, patients, or communities.
In The Burnout Antidote, Anne helps you access your innate capacity to heal and shows you that your burnout can become a gateway to embodied wisdom and vitality. Discover how to communicate with your inner child and reclaim the lost and fragmented parts of yourself.
Learn to overcome obstacles and gain access to limitless spiritual energy.
About Anne Berube
Anne Bérubé, Ph.D., is a spiritual teacher with an uncommon ability to share her story and insights in a way that awakens the inner wisdom in others. She helps people free themselves from the societal and parental conditioning that is holding them back from realizing the highest calling of their soul. Her work has also allowed her to share the stage with renowned self-help luminaries, including bestselling authors Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Elizabeth Gilbert, Sir Ken Robinson, Julie Daniluk, Anita Moorjani, Gabrielle Bernstein, and more.
To learn more about Anne and her work, visit: https://www.anneberube.com
Buy The Burnout Antidote: https://amzn.to/3Fb44qj
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In this episode, I'm joined by my client, Sandy and we're chatting about Kim Kardashian losing 16lbs in 3 weeks to fit into a dress that was never meant for her. Did you hear about that? Were you jealous? Or angry (like Sandy and I were)?
In this episode, I share a short meditative practice for helping move from body shame to acceptance and gratitude taken directly from my new Foundations for Peace program that's been proving to be widely popular among Foundations for Peace members.
To learn more about Foundations for Peace visit: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com/foundations-for-peace
In this episode, I chat with another of my clients, Natalie. When she started with me, she was bingeing and restricting. She lived with fear and rules around every food in her house, fear and obsession over weight gain, body hate and judgment all so severe that she was on depression and anxiety meds and told her doctor she didn't want to keep living if she had to live like that.
You won't believe where she's at now. Tune in to find out.
After watching the slap heard around the world at the Oscars last week with Will Smith and Chris Rock, my first thought was, "holy disproportionate reaction". And after just talking about this concept in my coach training program, Hollie, one of my coaches in training joins me for the episode while we chat about it. What are they? Why do they happen? How do they impact why we eat? Tune in to find out.
I often talk a lot about releasing food rules and giving ourselves permission to eat what we want but what happens when it feels terrifying and every time you try it for a little while, it feels like it doesn't work and you still feel obsessed with food or end up overeating or bingeing?
That's what I'm talking about in this episode. I have a group of testers going through a new program I'm releasing soon and she sent me an email about the permission element this morning with common questions and concerns so I wanted to address them for anyone else who may feel the way she did.
Imagine this scenario... you’re minding your own business, standing there in your bedroom getting dressed.
As you’re pulling up your favorite pair of pants, you notice they feel tighter than they felt the last time you wore them.
What happens?
The voice in your head that insists on obsessively narrating every waking second of your life, says… “uh oh, these weren’t this tight before.”
Then what happens?
In this episode, I'm sharing how that scenario typically plays out for most - how it used to play out for me.
I'm also sharing a different way to approach it. A more helpful, effective and productive way.
And how it turns out when you make those changes.
Join me this week for a conversation I recently had with my client Hollie. She shares her story, her history with weight loss, dieting and healthy eating and she talks about what life is like now.
"Everyone" says intermittent fasting is sooo healthy... but, what are they not telling you about it? That's what I'm talking about in this episode.
Tune in this week for the recording from the workshop I recently hosted with leadership coach and my friend Dana Lloyd and learn to get out of your own way.
I share:
➔ how to redefine your own version of what it means to eat and live healthy and why it’s important that you do
➔ why healthy eating habits are so hard to stick to & why weight loss never sticks
➔ 3 of the biggest causes of binge eating or feeling out of control around food
➔ why “healthy living” doesn’t actually require a "lifestyle change", but what it does require
➔ how to gain freedom from dieting/constant broken promises to “eat healthier”, “be good with food” or lose weight and start rebuilding self and body trust
Dana shares:
➔ the scale she uses to find her Joy & connect to her Authentic Self
➔ how knowing your Values can provide you fulfillment and she shows you an example of how to discover yours
➔ how you can use your values to provide Direction in your life
➔ how to identify your Inner Critic, the role it plays and how to change your narrative
Last week was #BellLetsTalk day and for the occasion, I wanted to talk about what nobody ever seems to want to talk about. The truth behind even seemingly "successful" diets because my story is NOT unique & we HAVE to stop acting like promoting diets and weight loss is healthy (mentally or otherwise).
So, in this episode, I'm again sharing my diet "success" because my story is not unique, varying degrees of it have become the norm and rarely, in discussions about mental health does anyone ever talk about the very real negative mental (and physical) health consequences of dieting and "healthy eating".
Body connection and trust are key elements for building not only a healthier relationship with food but healthier eating habits in general but they're practices that can be difficult to grasp and can often bring up a lot of resistance.
In this episode, I share a client example, talk about some of the reasons why there can be so much resistance and I walk you through a super simple little beginning practice.
In this special episode, my friend Dana Lloyd, a leadership coach and author of Soul Prescriptions and host of the Soul Sister Conversation podcast, has joined me to discuss getting out of your own way. What do we mean by that? Why is important? How and why do we get in our own way? Tune in to learn more.
To join our upcoming workshop and learn more about how to get out of your way visit: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com/workshop
Because it's the New Year and predictably the weight loss, diet and fitness ads are in FULL on stalking mode again, making all kinds of promises and perhaps making you feel like you're supposed to be starting another weight loss attempt, in this episode, I'm talking about the magic weight loss pill (metaphorically speaking) and share some of its side effects.
Some quick start tips for getting through December while enjoying all your favorites but without the guilt, food hangovers or promises to "get back on track" in January.
To grab a copy of the free downloadable quick start guide that goes with this episode visit: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com/healthy-holidays-guide
In this episode, I'm talking about health.
What is it? What does it look like? Why is the phrase "picture of health" a toxic lie? Tune in to find out.
A survey of American women done in 2008 found that something like 75% had disordered eating habits.
And based on experience, I’m sure the results in most of the rest of the industrialized world where capitalism reigns supreme would be pretty much on par with those.
One major way in which disordered eating habits manifest themselves in our lives is through distrust.
Distrust in ourselves, and distrust in our own ability to decide what, when and how much we should be eating.
In this episode, I'm talking about why trusting ourselves with food can feel so hard when it's actually our natural state.
As with the relationships I had with my body and food, my relationship with exercise was pretty messed up most of my life and this destructive relationship with exercise is something I've seen in almost every woman I've worked with since I became a trainer in 2010.
In this episode, I'm sharing how my relationship with it has changed in the last number of ways (in the most wonderful ways) and I'm sharing 4 tips you can use to work on improving yours and why it's so important.
Tune in if you're sick of the "on track" and "off track" cycle with exercise and always feel like you're trying to convince yourself to "be more active".
In this week’s episode, I wanted to talk about some messages I recently got from one of our newest members in the Cognitive Eating Academy because they were a beautiful real-time example of some of what keeps us from wanting to eat things that help us feel our best… an example of the things that drive self-sabotaging or self-destructive eating patterns… even bingeing.
Her message started with, "I feel like I'm on the verge of a binge"
Tune in to learn what we discovered about what was driving it and how we got her through it (without bingeing) and ultimately feeling better.
Recently, I had a conversation with a friend who's been having some distressing digestive issues and just got a list of things she can and can't eat from her naturopath.
I died a little inside when she started talking about her "can and can't eat" list and in this episode I'm talking about why and I'm sharing a significantly healthier way to approach healthy eating.
Last night on a call with my CE group, one of the gals started her update with the comments about how messed up her stomach had been feeling in the days prior.
She’d been experiencing abdominal pain, constipation, bloating, cramps... you name it.
Most people would have started telling her what to change in her eating habits to improve her symptoms but that's not what I did. In this episode, I'm sharing why I didn't take that approach, what I did instead, why it worked and why this may the key you need to start feeling better in your own body.
Selling fear has become the backbone of the diet, weight loss, fitness, and even health and wellness industries because nothing is easier to sell than when you're feeding upon someone's fear.
And holy hell, do those industries ever feed upon our fears. But what's the result of that? How does it impact the choices we make for ourselves and our bodies? And is there a better way? A healthier way?
That's what I'm talking about in this episode.
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This episode was taken from a conversation I had with Amanda Hanson forThe Real Diet Storyproject. In this episode, we talk about why body love and acceptance is so hard, why it's a constant practice and we shared a number of tips and strategies to help you get started.
Amanda starts the conversation with a story about a conversation she had with a client over her pant size and how it triggered her, even though she felt like she was starting to get in a good place with her body.
In this episode, I review what I went over in the workshop I hosted in case you missed it.
That is:
- the three things that most often drive feeling out of control around food or struggling to "stay on track"
- the things you're probably doing every day that are making them worse
- and I share some tips on how to start shifting them
If you want access to the worksheet I spoke of in this episode, shoot me an email at roni@ronidavis.com and ask for the workshop worksheet. I'll send you a copy and even review it for you when you're done if you want to send it back to me.
It's important to keep in mind that these are complex issues that can run deep. They take time and a whole lot of understanding to shift. If you want help making the process easier, The Cognitive Eating Academy has tools, practices, and supports in place to guide you, step by step on exactly how to change all of them.
I loved being a personal trainer... until I didn't. In this episode, I'm sharing why I quit.
Learn more about Cognitive Eating at: www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com
Grab a copy of the ebook at: www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com/ebook
In this episode, taken from a recent live I did for The Real Diet Story with Amanda Hanson of SimplyStylish.ca, Amanda talked about why your body isn't the problem, the clothes are. If you've ever had a moment of body hate, in the mirror while getting dressed or trying on clothes, this one is for you.
If you feel terrible in your body every day and want to lose weight to feel better is dieting or weight loss the answer? What else can you do? That’s what we’re talking about today! Tune in for another conversation with Amanda Hanson of SimplyStylish.ca for The Real Diet Story.
This is another episode taken from a recent live I did for The Real Diet Story with Amanda Hanson. In this episode, we talked about how to navigate diet and body talk with family and friends when we're trying to break away from those destructive mindsets but they're still firmly planted in diet culture.
This episode is another conversation taken from an Instagram live Roni did with Amanda Hanson for The Real Diet Story's IG live. In this episode, they're talking about navigating body changes and clothes not fitting as we come out of the pandemic and head into summer.
Another episode taken from an IG live with Amanda Hanson of www.simplystylish.ca that was done for The Real Diet Story. Amanda doesn't really have any history with dieting and I was technically a diet "success" who made a living by firmly planted in the middle of the fitness industry's diet culture. So how did we each get so anti-diet? That's what we talk about in this episode.
A conversation with Amanda Hanson from The Real Diet Story's first Instagram live. Amanda Hanson is a style coach at SimplyStylish.ca and my friend and co-founder of The Real Diet Story. This episode of It's All In Your Head features the first IG live we did over on The Real Diet Story and in it, we're talking about being anti-diet / anti-diet culture.
For more from The Real Diet Story visit: www.therealdietstory.com
For more from Amanda visit: www.simplystylish.ca
For more of Roni's work visit: www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com
Heart screams run. Body says, nope. Which do I listen to?
Back in 2007 when I started my “fitness journey” (god I hate that phrase now) within a couple months of walking, I started running. And predictably, got obsessive about it.
So obsessive in fact that within about 3 months I went from being completely inactive for years to running 10ks up to 5 or more days a week.
Do you know what happens when you go from inactive to obsessively exercising in a short period of time? I do!
Tune in as I share the surprising blessings that came from years of injuries and pain. And how changing the way I looked at those things, changed everything, including helped to change how I ate.
In this episode, I'm talking a little bit about a new project I'm working on with a friend and talking about why sharing stories and releasing the shame of weight & food struggles is sooo important.
I recently saw an article about a study that was done on how many people report weight gain since the pandemic hit and if you're one of them tune in for this episode. I'm talking about why worrying about it is the worst thing you can do, taking you through a short exercise to help you understand why and also a short exercise to help ease the worry.
In this episode, I share a comment a client made about how deep her body hate went and how long she'd been carrying it. I also talk about two of the simplest (simple, but not easy) practices that clients in my Cognitive Eating Academy work really hard on learning to integrate, why they're so incredibly important and how we get so disconnected from them in the first place.
If you hate your body and keep desperately trying to fix it, this one is for you.
If you need help learning to live these practices and find peace with your body and food, join us in the Cognitive Eating Academy.
Have you ever noticed that every single conversation about healthy eating in our world revolves around demonizing certain foods and scare tactics?
This is what we’ve come to believe promotes healthy eating - teach people to fear certain foods and convince them they need to spend their entire lives trying to ban them forever.
How exactly is all this information and fear-mongering helping us and how is my world different now that I fear no food? That’s what I’m talking about in this episode, complete with another real-life client example in the beginning and a beautiful visual of the world I'm working to create at the end.
Need help learning how to reimagine food in this way? Visit: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com
In this episode, a real-life example of procrastination in action from my morning this morning. I also talk a little about what it is, what it isn't, why understanding why you procrastinate is key and some things to do about it if you feel like you procrastinate all the time.
Have you ever felt like every time you get motivated to do something, something happens that throws a wrench in your plans and you end up just giving up? That's what I'm talking about in this episode. I share some of the most common reasons that can happen, some questions to consider if this keeps happening to you and some tips for what to do about it.
Tune in to the other episode on motivation that I reference in this one: https://open.spotify.com/episode/0516bDOEnVR7nzQ0pbe7Uf?si=j1K_7MLfQ9WwTlSDikE30g
If you keep telling yourself, “I hate exercise” and at the same time you’re also noticing that your pants are getting tighter or that it’s getting harder to walk up a long flight of stairs and you’re telling yourself, “ugh, I really need to get motivated to start exercising again” this episode is for you.
I'm sharing how I went from hating exercise, the cold and early mornings to voluntarily being outside at the crack of dawn every morning, every single morning (in even the worst winter weather) for the last 3 or 4 years ...and truly loving it.
It's Eating Disorders Awareness week so in this episode, I'm sharing some of my story. I'm talking dieting, disordered eating, eating disorders and more, including what I learned and how recovery started for me.
If you can relate or want to share your story, please reach out. You're not alone.
Grab my free ebook: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com/ebook
My life revolved around before and after weight loss photos for many years; my own and others. My entire livelihood was completely dependent upon them, as a matter of fact.
I went from that to refusing to share or celebrate them ever again.
Why do I so fully reject what is supposedly the pinnacle of healthy living inspiration in our culture? There are a number of reasons why and in this episode, I share some of them.
In this episode, Dana Lloyd shares powerful, practical tips for living life with joy, meaning and fulfillment. She shares how she found those things in her own life and practical tips to help you do the same. She's also talking spirituality, acceptance, self-love and more. Stay tuned till the end as Dana and Roni both share their reactions to a mirror exercise they tried. Give it a try and reach out to them. They'd love to hear what kind of response you had to the exercise!
--- More About Dana ---
Dana Lloyd is a Leadership Coach, Author & Keynote Speaker. She guides people to personal empowerment so that they can live life with joy, meaning and fulfillment. She is also author of Soul Prescription 101 Ways to Find Joy, Meaning & Fulfillment and is currently working her second book - Soul Prescription for Women: Encouraging the Woman Within.
Dana also hosts a weekly podcast, Soul Sister Conversations, where she explores topics of self-discovery, leadership and spirituality.
To find more from Dana visit:
Website: http://www.DanaLloydLeadership.com
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/danalloyd_leadership/
Instagram for Podcast: https://www.instagram.com/soulsisterconversations/?hl=en
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/danalloyd/
Twitter: https://twitter.com/CoachDana_Lloyd
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DanaLloydLeadership/
Facebook for Podcast: https://www.facebook.com/SoulSisterConversations/
Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/soul-sister-conversations/id1450113062
Book: https://www.amazon.ca/Soul-Prescription-Ways-Meaning-Fulfillment-ebook/dp/B078C91GB2/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=soul+prescription+101+ways&qid=15
In this episode, I share a message I recently got from a client - about her belly - because I'm almost positive you'll be able to relate. I also talk about how toxic and unhealthy all the messages we're bombarded with about what it takes to be healthy, really are.
And I share a super short and easy little exercise you can try right now to get out of your head and start reconnecting with your body and what it wants and needs.
Earlier this week I was working through some restrictive mindsets one of my clients still had without even realizing it. In this episode, I share some of what we uncovered in case you can relate and if you can, stay tuned to the end because I also explain with great specificity exactly how it’s probably contributing to or outright causing you to binge, overeat or feel out of control around food. I also share a short exercise you can try to start noticing the impact some of your own rules may have on you.
[NOTE: This episode is an updated version of a previously released episode]
Fight is an overstatement, but I was ...upset. In this episode, I’m talking about why I got so upset with my mom over the WHOLE30 diet and more generally, how and why diets like WHOLE30, really healthy eating messages in general, are destroying the health of our population.
Bold claims, I know. Tune in while I explain why I say that and what prompted me to be so triggered by my mom last week.
(Warning: strong language in places)
Learn more about CE at: https://www.cognitiveeatingacademy.com
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In this episode, I share a little story about my friend Mary (who spent decades dieting) in case you can relate and have been struggling to "find willpower" or "discipline" or "motivation" to stick to those weight loss, or healthy living goals or resolutions. You're SO not alone.
And if you want January 2022 to look any different than right now or every other January in your food world, tune in to find out how about Mary's life now, and what she did differently to stop hating her body and trying to rely on willpower or resist the "temptation" of "bad" foods.
Why did I have nothing prepared to talk to you about this week? Real talk about exhaustion and what I'm doing about it.
In this episode, I'm talking about the science of diets and healthy eating. What does the science say about the best way to eat? And why does my skin crawl every time I hear someone talk about the science behind whatever diet they're pushing? Tune in to find out.
In this episode, I'm chatting with women's health coach and entrepreneur Raquel Sedano about her struggles with weight & food and her experience in the Cognitive Eating Academy. Tune in to hear how things have changed for her!
More about Raquel, from Raquel:
I am Raquel and I spent the last decade studying health, sport science, functional nutrition and body training in order to help myself and other women to have a healthier and joyful life.
I have always loved sports and movement but when I started University I stopped moving just for pleasure since my relationship with body and food changed. I started to control what I ate and my workouts (running, going to the gym, etc...) became just a way to burn calories. And I just wondered: how come we have to suffer so much for something that is so natural and necessary for humans? Why do people lose so easily the motivation to workout? I have always been a curious person, so I decided to thoroughly study the physiology of movement and how our brain works. If we want to stick to something our brain needs to find pleasure and an instant reward when doing an activity. This is when I realized that I wanted to move in ways that my body liked, having fun and pleasure as in my childhood.
A couple of years ago, when I moved to the USA I signed up for a class of IntenSati, a revolutionary practice that combines movement with positive affirmations. During and after the class, I felt incredibly empowered. Moving my body with expansive movements, feeling the rhythm of the music, and chanting positive affirmations was just amazing. I was training my body and rewarding my brain.
I immediately felt the need to share this practice with my clients and friends, so I became an IntenSati Certified Coach. From then on I've been enjoying and teaching other women to move in a fun, empowered and pleasant way so that they can finally love exercise and movement.
Find Raquel and more about her work on the web at: www.raquelsedano.com or on Instagram at: @escuela_de_salud_femenina
In this episode I'm talking about that sometimes all-consuming fear of what other people think of us and desperation to feel loved and accepted. Tune in to check out. I share a memory that gutted me when I went back to it, some of the ways I learned to stop worrying so much about what others think ...and why you should too.
I spent a good deal of my life feeling like a compulsive eater and food/sugar addict. In this episode, I'm sharing some of what I learned about what actually drives it all and what I learned about breaking those cycles. Tune in to find out what hungry ghosts have to do with it all, why everything you've probably been trying to do to stop has been making it worse.
What's on your "I should" list, every day?
"I should start eating better..."
"I should be exercising more..."
"I should..."
How many times a day do you hear "I should..." statements run through your head? In this episode, I'm talking about why they're so destructive and probably making your life less happy and healthy.
Your weight loss obsession is making you gain weight, and less healthy. In this episode, I’m going to share why you have to stop focusing on weight if you actually care about your health and starting to feel better, in your body and about yourself.
And I'm going to provide a real-life example of it in action from one of my Cognitive Eating Academy student's workbook this week.
In this episode, I'm being joined by Amanda Hanson of SimplyStylish.ca. Amanda is a style coach who helps women unapologetically express who they are in their clothes. She says her mission is to challenge societal beliefs about body image so that it is a safer and shame free world for future generations.
If you've been following me for any length of time, you know that's a mission I'm excited about as well so I had to introduce you to her and her work. Tune in to learn more about what she does, how she does it and why we both believe your body is NOT, nor has it ever been, the problem.
You can find more of Amanda's work on her website at www.simplystylish.ca or her Instagram @simplystylish.ca or her podcast at Women Disrupted.
How much of your day do you spend thinking about all the things you think you should be doing about your weight or health but just can't seem to "make yourself" do?
How much of your day do you spend judging and berating yourself for not being "motivated enough" to do them?
If you're anything like I was for many years, the answer to both those questions is most of the day.
In this episode, I'm diving into 3 of the biggest reasons why we get stuck in that rut and more importantly, what to do about it!
In this episode I share a little of my experience with emotional eating, I'm talking about what emotional eating is, what it isn't and some of the first things I did to ultimately stop relying on food for everything.
There's a myth floating around about habits taking 21 days to form. We hear this mistaken notion repeated everywhere, especially in the weight loss and fitness world but it's simply not true. In this episode I share where the myth came from in the first place, how and why habits are actually formed, and what it really takes to change old ones or create new ones.
In a past episode I spoke about the obsession our culture has with celebrating weight loss and in it, I posed the question, why does that validation matter so much?
In this episode, I'm diving into that more… the desperation with which we often chase weight loss - the desperation that’s more times than not fueled by the need for validation… as well, where does it come from, why is it so damaging, and what I’ve been trying to do instead, as a recovering validation chaser myself.
Are you obsessed with the number on your scale? This episode is for you.
(The powerful poem featured at the end is by Nancy Regan of The Soul Booth Podcast.)
A healthy lifestyle should make your life better. It should add so much to your life that you cannot imagine living any other way. It should make you feel happy, energetic, powerful and amazing—not beaten, exhausted, obsessive over food and workouts, and like you want to quit every second of the day.
That's what I'm talking about in this episode - choosing from love and joy rather than suffering and fear.
Setting weight loss goals is a huge reason why people spend so much time struggling with weight. In this episode I'm talking about why and what to focus on instead if you've been consumed with weight loss for years. I'm also diving into goal-setting in general and two of the biggest requirements for goal setting that most people miss.
My entire life used to revolve around weight loss so you can be sure I haven't changed my position on it and don't make this statement lightly or without ample cause.
Tune in for more.
I’ve been training and coaching people for about a decade and in that time, one thing has become abundantly clear. If you ask the average person why they haven’t achieved their goals or dreams, whatever excuse they give you will almost certainly boil down to fear of failure.
Why is failure such a scary word?
Personally, I have zero shame around failing. In fact, I'm happy to do it, repeatedly, and I have - because it's better than quitting.
That's what I'm talking about in this episode, fear of failure. How do you even define failure? Tune in now for more and find out why I'd rather fail than quit.
Last week Adele shared a picture of herself that created an enormous amount of debate. The internet went nuts and I felt compelled to weigh in (no pun intended) - not on her body (because it's not my place to make commentary on anyone else's body). Rather, I wanted to weigh in with some things to consider.
Should we be celebrating weight loss? What does being anti-diet mean to me? Does it mean I don't think anyone should want to lose weight or they should be ashamed if they do?
Tune to this week's episode to find out what I mean (and don't mean) when I say I'm anti-diet, what I mean by weight neutral and why it's a far healthier approach.
Wondering how to better nourish yourself when you're stressed and struggle to stop eating things that make you feel like crap? This week is from the presentation I gave for the second week in the three-part FEMPower series of events I co-hosted with the Strait Area Chamber of Commerce.
I'm talking about what happens when we feel like we can't stop eating, especially things that make us feel like crap. I'm also sharing why it happens, some helpful strategies and a short body connection exercise that will leave you feeling grounded and calm.
This week's episode is from the presentation I gave for the #FEMPower Staying Connected first week's event. I share some basic assumptions about mindfulness, a little about my work and why it's based on more than just mindfulness.
I also share 5 powerful shifts that change everything, and 4 super simple strategies to help you find peace and calm using mindfulness, breath and even a little CBT.
Eating from a place of love, kindness and nurturing - what does that even mean? What if eating the cookie (or whatever) is the kindest choice you can make sometimes? How do you even tell? Tune in to find out.
How much time do you spend fighting what is? I spent most of my life doing that. I fought against my weight, food, my body, myself, my life, basically, everything and I held on to those battles like my life depended on it. Why? Because I was miserable and thought the only way to be happy was to keep fighting the things that were keeping me from it.
To this day, I still often use the phrase “I fought to get here” - but the reality of what actually got me here was surrender and in fact, I fully believe it was the constant fight - the resistance itself - that actually created most of my biggest struggles.
In this episode I'm talking about why surrendering to resistance is so powerfully transformative, why it's not the same thing as giving up and I'll take you through a short exercise/meditation to help you find the freedom in surrendering to whatever may be causing you excess suffering today.
One of the biggest causes of self-induced suffering is measuring yourself against who you think you’re supposed to be or the way you think things should be - and judging and criticizing yourself when you inevitably come up short.
And yet, it’s what most of us not only spend most of our lives doing - but are also doing now - during one of the most stressful, chaotic times in our lifetime.
Or overall just feeling rather useless? Like you should be better or be doing more than you’ve been doing?
Do you often do that, even before this pandemic turned your life upside down?
That’s what I’m talking about in this episode - how with awareness, I decided that everything I did or didn’t do was okay and how that decision paved the way for massive change.
In this episode, I'm talking about fear. You'll better understand it and gain a few strategies for evaluating and feeling your way through it so you can find some calm amid the chaos of our new reality.
I've been talking about emotional eating & frequent snacking a lot lately because every time I turn around someone is joking about how much they're eating and how much weight they're going to gain so I know it's something that's weighing on a lot of minds.
In this episode you'll find out exactly why it happens, what problems it's trying to solve, why it's so common and why worrying about weight gain is the worst thing you can do.
I also share 3 different ways you can try managing food and which one is the best, in my opinion.
Emotions are on overload for everyone and managing them is something many of us struggle with - but it's a skill we can learn.
In this episode, I talk a little about emotional intelligence and some things you can start doing right now to help feel less controlled by the emotional overwhelm we're all experiencing - which is particularly helpful if you're someone who typically soothes with food.
While there's nothing wrong with using food if you don't have other coping strategies built yet, building emotional intelligence can help you learn to stop needing to rely on it for everything.
BONUS: Free meditation for creating calm and confidence. Go here > http://www.ronidavis.com/anxiety-meditation
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The key to getting a handle on your weight and food struggles is understanding what's driving them. Don't miss my free ebook: Why'd I Eat That? - it will help you do just that. Grab it here: http://www.ronidavis.com/whydieatthat**
I was a diet "success". I was someone who hated herself skinny - who lost a bunch of weight and transformed her entire body ONLY because she wanted it to be a certain weight and look a certain way. And I spent 8 years helping other women lose weight, talking about lifestyle changes and sharing their weight loss before and afters.
And now I spend my life talking about why those things don't work.
All you'll ever hear me say about dieting now is that diets don't work, and that body hate and obsessing over being skinny are the worst ways to try to change your health and your body.
How can she be so hypocritical? You may be wondering. It's a fair question if you are and that's what I'm diving into in this episode.
Want more science? As one of the leading researchers who has been scientifically studying eating and dieting for decades, Traci Mann sums up the science better than I ever could in this powerful lecture: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1uELVWHeFWk
Have you ever wondered:
Why can't I get this area of my life figured out & stop eating the crap I shouldn't be?
"I've worked through so much, everything else in my life is so great now, but ugh.. food (or weight/body image/etc), that's the one area I can't seem to get under control."
Do you struggle to figure out why everything else in your life is so great but you just can't get past the fight with food or your weight? You're not alone.
In this episode, I explain why you're not alone, why it's so common and the best thing you can do to start changing it.
In this episode I'm talking all about binge eating. How do you know if you're bingeing versus just overeating? What is binge eating? What causes it? How do you stop bingeing? And I'm sharing some of the biggest misconceptions about binge eating.
If you struggle with bingeing, freedom is possible and I created Cognitive Eating to help. If you just need someone to talk to about it, shoot me a message. I know how isolating it can feel and I'm here to listen.
The answer to your health, happiness and food and weight struggles is eating whatever you want - that is, whatever your body wants. And you have no idea what kind of expressions I get from people when I say that.
In this episode I'm talking about what I mean when I say that, why I say that and giving you some actionable things you can start practicing right now to learn how to start trusting yourself with food again.
Other helpful links:
- Free Why'd I Eat That ebook to dive further into the science behind why it's so important to eat what you want
- Tiny Buddha piece on how food restrictions create binge and overeating habits
- Sugar/food isn't a real thing - here's why and how the science that says it is, got misconstrued
- The damaging effects of food shame
- More on Cognitive Eating and how to join the Academy
In this episode, I'm talking about how and why cognitive eating was born and why I'm cocky enough to believe it's the solution to our population's dieting, weight & food struggles.
Other helpful links:
- Free ebook
- The Mental Health Impact of Weight Stigma
- What You Need To Know If You Obsess Over Weight Loss
- How Diets Lead To Bingeing
- More About Cognitive Eating
- Join The Cognitive Eating Academy
In this episode I talk about why I went from being just another voice promoting the "you have to change your lifestyle" message to believing it's not only not helpful advice, it's downright untrue and possibly even doing more harm than good.
Dieting is disordered eating. It's a fine (often overlapping) line away from an eating disorder and research shows it's often a huge contributing factor to developing full-blown eating disorders - which, I might add have the highest mortality rates of all mental illnesses.
Our diet-obsessed culture is screwing up our relationships with food and ourselves on such a massive scale that it’s made disordered eating, not only socially acceptable but expected and normal.
Disordered eating is so normal that many people either minimize or don’t even realize the impact it has on their mental and physical health. We’re taught that health and happiness with ourselves and our bodies requires being super controlled with what goes in our mouth, even when it comes at a huge emotional and physical cost.
Harmful consequences can include a greater risk of obesity and eating disorders, bone loss, gastrointestinal disturbances, electrolyte and fluid imbalances, low heart rate and blood pressure, increased anxiety and depression, and social isolation.
In this episode, I talk about the mental health impact of dieting, including my own experience with dieting and the binge eating, bulimia, depression, and anxiety it created.
This one will surprise you! Or if you've been following me for a while, maybe it won't. Either way, listen to what I believe is the single worst thing you can do for your health or weight loss goals and more importantly, WHY I say that.
Somewhere in you, you know I'm right on this one - even if you're not quite ready to admit it yet.
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Download a free copy of my ebook, "Why'd I Eat That?" to start beginning to uncover your why's - why are you eating self-destructively, why do you struggle to stay on track, why do you keep struggling with weight? (Hint: It's not your fault!) Grab a copy here to start learning why and what to do about it.
In this episode, I’m sharing some of the biggest reasons people struggle with consistency and what to do about them.
Have you downloaded your free copy of "Why'd I Eat That?"
In it you'll find a complete outline and everything you need to know when you've tried everything to lose weight or eat healthier but you just can't seem to ever stick to anything (and a detailed explanation about the science behind why it's not your fault).
You'll Learn:
- How to make sense of what's the best way to eat/lose weight with all the conflicting info out there (I don't sell diets so this is completely unbiased info!)
- The biggest mistake you're making when trying to lose weight or eat healthier and what to do instead
- Why you keep struggling and "falling off track" and why it's not your fault!
- How habits are actually formed and why it's important to understand that process
- The seven biggest consistency killers in your weight loss or healthy eating endeavors
- ...and more!
Grab it here!
I spent a lot of years struggling with my own weight. Some of those years were spent starting and failing at weight loss attempts but others were spent not even trying. Of living in that place of wanting to lose weight, or feeling like I was supposed to want to lose weight but not really wanting to do any of the things I thought I had to do to get there.
Can you relate? What should you do if you have that nagging little thought in the back of your head all the time that you want to lose weight but not badly enough to do anything about it? Click play to find out. :)
Ever wondered why you keep eating stuff that you know makes you feel like crap? Grab your free copy of Why'd I Eat That? to get massive clarity and new direction.Download it here to learn:
- How to make sense of what's the best way to eat/lose weight with all the conflicting info out there
- The biggest mistake you're making when trying to lose weight or eat healthier and what to do instead
- Why you keep struggling and "falling off track"
- How habits are actually formed and why it's important to understand that process
- The seven biggest consistency killers in your weight loss or healthy eating endeavors
- ...and more!
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One of the biggest things people struggle with whenever they start trying to change something is nagging thoughts constantly reminding them that they're probably just going to end up quitting this like they quit everything else... and then ultimately those thoughts becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy when they end up quitting. This is especially true of people who struggle with roller-coaster dieting but it really pretty universal no matter what we're starting or trying to change.
But does it really mean we're failures, doomed to keep repeating the cycle and never actually stick to anything? And what can be done to break the cycle?
This is what I'm talking about in episode 4 of It's All In Your Head. Click play to listen and pop over to www.ronidavis.com/whydieatthat to download a copy of my free ebook - Why'd I Eat That? to uncover even more reasons we struggle more specifically with sticking to healthy eating/weight loss efforts.
In this third edition of my special three-part New Year’s series designed to kick off the new podcast and more importantly help you kick off 2020 so 2021 doesn’t land with you making the same weight loss resolutions you’re making this year, I'm talking about one of the biggest things that causes us to eat when we're not physically hungry. Love.
I got an email from a client who’s been practicing her new skills of understanding WHY she’s eating when she’s eating and said this, I feel sad and depressed. I’m aware that I’m being unconscious and punishing myself with food. I see that it’s the feeling of unconditional love that I actually want.
**That’s how this process works when you work it. It creates a DEEP, soul-level understanding of our deepest hungers so we can start nourishing those rather than numbing them with food.
Click play to listen to more about what love has to do with why we eat and why dieting just makes things worse.**
Is being obsessed with reaching goals really helping us? Is that really what we should be focusing on?
Traditional wisdom (along with science) says that people who set firm goals are more likely to achieve them than those who don't. Which I suppose is pretty obvious, if you don't even have a goal, there's nothing to even achieve, right?
But, is living and dying by goal setting our whole lives really making us live happier, more fulfilled and more successful lives overall?
I think, not really.
Is there a better way? I think, yes.
Listen to find out what it is and to learn one powerful little goal-setting trick to start building confidence right away and help you ditch that "on-track-off-track" cycle of serial dieting.
To help get clarity on your barriers to healthy eating or weight loss goals, go grab a free copy of my wildly popular ebook, "Why'd I Eat That?"
Since it's the New Year and everywhere you look there's a different diet being shoved in your face making all kinds of miraculous promises I want to offer a few things...
According to the National Institute of Health, 98% of people who lose weight on a diet regain all the weight they lose and a large majority gain even more than they lost.
And up to 90% of people who start a new fitness program, quit within 3 months.
Close to 90% of people who set New Year's resolutions give up before ever achieving them.
If you're one of them and you actually want a different result this time, you have to do something different. And no, trying a new diet isn't doing something different - it's just doing a different version of the same basic thing that's already failed you a million times.
Don't miss the PREMIER EPISODE of Why We Eat. In this episode, the first of a three-part New Year's series, I outline the 8 things you must know before setting more weight loss resolutions.
**Wait'll you hear that #5, you won't hear that tip anywhere else!
To learn more, head over to CognitiveEatingAcademy.com and grab a free copy of "Why'd I Eat That?" to start uncovering your barriers to weight loss or healthy eating attempts.**