Middle School Mayhem - Surviving Your Kids' Awkward Years : Recent Episodes
Bill Renner
Middle school can be challenging and exciting for parents and students. Our podcast provides practical tips and insights to help you navigate this critical phase of your child's education and development.
Each week, we'll cover a different topic related to middle school, from academic success to social and emotional development. Our guests will include experts in education, child development, parenting, and real-life stories from parents and students who have been through it all.
We aim to provide you with actionable tips and advice that you can use to support your child's growth and development during these crucial years. But we also want to keep you engaged and entertained, so we'll share funny stories and anecdotes to keep you on your toes.
So, whether you're a parent looking for advice on supporting your child's learning or a student seeking guidance on how to succeed in middle school, this podcast is for you. We hope you'll join us for each episode as we explore the ups and downs of navigating middle school together.
In today's episode, we will tackle a topic that can be stressful and overwhelming for many parents: parent-teacher conferences.
As a middle school parent, you may wonder how to make the most of these conferences and communicate with your child's teachers effectively.
Parent-teacher conferences provide an essential opportunity to connect with your child's teachers, gain insight into their academic progress and behavior, and discuss any concerns or questions you may have. But they can also be nerve-wracking, especially if you need guidance on what to expect or how to prepare.
Fortunately, there are practical tips and strategies that you can use to navigate parent-teacher conferences with confidence and ease. From preparing in advance and being an active listener to following up and expressing gratitude, we'll explore seven tips to help you make the most of your next parent-teacher conference.
Parent Handout
In this episode, we will discuss a topic that can be stressful for many students and parents: supporting your middle schooler through testing and standardized assessments.
We will offer some practical tips and strategies for parents to support their middle schoolers through the testing season and help them feel confident and prepared on test day.
So, whether your child is gearing up for a big test or you're just looking to build good study habits for the future, stay tuned for some helpful tips and advice!
Geniuses of the world, you can skip this one.
This is part 2 of a two-part series where I’ll discuss bullying and conflict. If you missed the previous episode, you may want to go back and listen and then try this one to build a connection.
Here are three key takeaways for listeners who tune in to the episode on addressing bullying and conflict in middle school:
We can better support our children and take appropriate action by increasing our awareness and understanding of the different forms of bullying, its impact, and the signs to look out for.
You’ll learn some tips and tricks for open communication and support:
Learn your super talent of empowerment and action and how we have the power to make a positive impact.
Remember, addressing bullying and conflict is an ongoing process that requires continuous effort and collaboration. By implementing these takeaways, we can make a meaningful difference in the lives of middle school students and create a supportive community that stands against bullying and fosters positive relationships.
Parent Handout
Throughout this episode, we'll delve into the various forms of bullying in middle schools, from verbal and physical aggression to social exclusion and cyberbullying. By understanding the different dynamics at play, we can better support our children and foster a culture of kindness and respect.
I'll also discuss the signs to look out for if you suspect your child may be experiencing bullying or conflict. And then what to do about it, including recognizing indicators, is a crucial step in providing the support they need. I'll share practical advice on initiating open and non-judgmental conversations with your child, creating a safe space for them to share their experiences.
Today, we're diving deep into the mysterious realm of middle school friendships, social dynamics, and the ever-evolving landscape of technology's influence on social interactions. We'll explore practical tips, insights, and strategies that can help us better understand our children's social lives and provide the support they need to navigate this intricate web of relationships.
Whether your child is a social butterfly, a wallflower, or somewhere in between, this episode is for you. I'll share ten invaluable tips to empower you to connect with your middle schooler, build a stronger parent-child relationship, and become a trusted guide through their social journey.
Parent Handout
As a parent, balancing allowing your child to explore the online world and ensuring they use technology safely and responsibly can be challenging. In this context, parents must be equipped with practical, engaging, and simple tips to help them navigate middle school social media and technology use.
Today, we will explore these mysteries together that can help parents guide their children through these critical years while promoting healthy and responsible technology use. So, let’s go!
Parent Handout and Recent Social Media Scam
Middle school is a transitional stage in a person's life, and it can be a challenging time for many students. During this stage, individuals are faced with a variety of new experiences, including physical and emotional changes, as well as social and academic pressures. It's important to remember that these behaviors are a normal part of middle school development and that students often grow and mature beyond them as they move into high school.
What you’ll get from today’s episode is
- Coming to grips with your experience was yours and not theirs
- Dealing with the flood of emotions
- Working with social awkwardness
- Understanding academic challenges
- Identifying risk-taking behaviors
Parent Handout
“I know I’m supposed to be preparing my teenagers for life and all, but it’s hard when they know everything…”
Ahh, yes, talking to preteens can be a bit challenging, as they are at a stage in their lives where they are developing their own identities and trying to figure out where they fit in the world. Of course, nothing is fair, and some resort back to me stage that you thought was long gone with the terrible twos and thorny threes. However, with some patience, understanding, and key tips, you can have productive and meaningful conversations with preteens and enjoy it! Your support is just a click away!
Parent Handout
In today’s episode, I’ll share ten tips to help your student succeed in middle school. You’ll hear suggestions on a sure way to avoid the parent-child struggle, you’ll discover the code to earning a high GPA, and how I continue to lose my marbles.
I've never run into someone who yearns for their middle school days.
Why is that? What do you remember from middle school? Was it the big things in life or huge issues when they weren’t anything in the big picture? At the moment, it was life and so important, and of course, middle school is important to your student. Take a quick listen, and you'll find out why.
Parent Handout
In today’s episode, I’ll share ten useful tips to help your student transition into middle school. You’ll hear tips about how not to be that helicopter parent, how to foster a growth mindset, understand the power of setting clear expectations, and the supports you might not know you have available.
Listen to this week's NEW episode about the power of a hard reset and receive a sneak peek into what's planned for next year at The Amazing Spencer Elementary. Here's a hint, it's more than just parking!
The Power of Acceptance is choosing to accept the moment is as it is. It is mindfulness in action. There’s a misconception equating acceptance with passivity or settling. We can take the moment and still prefer a different way. Acceptance is acknowledging “what is” without getting wrapped up in what “should be.”
Positive intent is a conscious choice to teach instead of punishing. Teaching allows children to learn from their mistakes. First, we use the Power of Love to attribute positive motives to the child’s behavior. This keeps us in an integrated Executive State. Then we can teach and help children shift to an Executive State, so they can learn. Positive intent allows a child to make a mistake and recover. It helps everyone involved focus on finding solutions instead of placing blame and making judgments.
The Power of Free Will states, “the only person you can make change is yourself.” When we believe outside forces control our behavior and that we can control others’ behavior, we are set up for trouble in relationships. These beliefs also shape how we handle discipline and set us up for losing composure.
Power comes from choice, not force. Free will is about taking responsibility for our choices and behavior. Listen today to discover why offering choices will set your child up for long-long success in all of their relationships.
In today's episode, I'll use the thoughts of a current NFL coach and my perspective as a building principal to provide some behind-the-scenes comparisons of why halftime is more important than just for entertainment. And as a bonus, you can use this new knowledge to show off with a general comment you toss out at your Super Bowl party to amaze your friends!
When you think of someone that is assertive, what comes to mind? Being assertive shows that you respect yourself because you're willing to stand up for your interests and express your thoughts and feelings. It also demonstrates that you're aware of others' rights and ready to work on resolving conflicts.
Today's episode shows that it's alright to be assertive simply because of the assertive voice children use to teach others how to treat them, which isn't always a bad thing.
Disappointments are a part of life. Whether it's the person who steals your parking spot or the person who doesn't pull forward in the drop-off lane, it's essential to remain calm, level-headed, and keep our composure as best as we can. Might you be relieved to hear that anger is a healthy emotion?
So, how do you stay calm when people and kids make what we think are foolish positions? Today's episode will help you understand the brain and the three states your body goes through. Knowing this will aid you in staying calm and make it appear you have ice in your veins, no matter what your child does.
Calming Techniques
It's the dreaded sentence, "I don't want to go to school!"
Some other kids dread going to school. For these kids, going to school may become so stressful that they throw temper tantrums over going to school or complain of symptoms such as headaches, stomach aches, or chest pain. Around this time of year, we experience these types of behaviors, but the important thing is to determine why your child may be reacting this way? Listen to this week's episode for a few tricks to get to the heart of the issue and make your mornings smooth sailing.
We’re all motivated; we need to find out what keeps us pressing on through the difficult times? Is it out of desperation? Is it out of a need to provide for our family? Is it simply because it’s what we want to do at that time? Maybe they are doctor’s recommendations, or you feel the need to prove it to yourself or others. Whatever the case, it’s important to understand the precious power of encouragement that each of us holds. How do you inspire your kids to motivate themselves? Whether it’s doing the dishes, completing assignments, or raising that grade point? Take a listen and discover the power of pointed questions.
Kids can be less than enthused about going back to school after the excitement of the holidays and being home with family. The duration of the struggle will depend on what you do next. To help, click play and find the gems that will set your entire family up for success for that first week back after a break in your routine.
The holidays are a time for family gatherings, following and creating family traditions, and connecting. What happens when your family doesn’t look like what you see on Hallmark cards? What happens when you have a divided holiday? Today’s podcast will share tips, ideas, and resources for blended, separated, and divorced families.
References:
http://familyfoodandtravel.com/2014/11/holidays-after-separation.html
http://mispp.edu/holidays-divorce-dos-donts/
http://www.trueaimeducation.com/
http://www.lemonlimeadventures.com
Have you ever seen the pictures of kids trying to get away from Santa for their dear life? The screams, the extended arms, eyes larger and instantly filled with tears. Oh, you’ve seen them; in fact, you might have experienced these instant intense emotions for yourself. So, what are we supposed to do if your child is scared? Take a listen for some easy tips to ensure your child has a pleasant holiday season without a shrill for all to hear.
How you answer this loaded question can empower — or completely crush — your child’s spirit. So, here are a few tips to keep in your pocket for that random Tuesday night when your little one unexpectedly throws this life-altering question at you.
Listen to this episode to find out what I'm talking about!
This week, parents, educators, and Michiganders suffered a tragedy due to a school shooting. With a range of emotions cycling through all of our minds, stories of heroism, kindness, empathy, and hope shine through.
Is it true, what you focus on, is what you will find? Take a listen, and you'll find out.
Many students and their families are afraid to go to school. Some who do go to school struggle to focus on academics when their minds are on danger and wondering if they will have another situation. So, we must ask ourselves an unusual question: How can we ease the anxiety and trauma of these events and help children return to learning?
Thanksgiving is a memorable holiday: a whole day focused on spending time with loved ones and being thankful. So, as you pull up to the table to enjoy your delicious Thanksgiving feast, consider asking deeper questions that get to the core, and you'll get a chance to really hear how your family is doing.
Get your parent toolbelt ready! Today’s edition is about asking the right questions to get meaningful answers and ways to help break the cycle of frustration. I'll share some ideas from Elena Aguilar to help you replace; How was school today type questions, with deeper questions that will help you draw out important information from your kids.
QUESTIONS Worth Asking
With slight wording modifications, these questions can work with children of all ages:
- Tell me about a moment today when you felt excited about what you were learning.
- Tell me about a moment in class when you felt confused.
- Think about what you learned and did in school today. What’s something you’d like to know more about? What’s a question you have that came from your learning today?
- Were there any moments today when you felt worried? When you felt scared?
- Were there any times today when you felt disrespected by anyone? Tell me about those moments.
- Were there times today when you felt that one of your classmates demonstrated care for you?
- Were there any moments today when you felt proud of yourself?
- Tell me about a conversation you had with a classmate or friend that you enjoyed.
- What was challenging about your day?
- What do you appreciate about your day?
- What did you learn about yourself today?
- Is there anything that you’d like to talk about that I might be able to help you figure out?
- Is there anything you’re worried about?
- What are you looking forward to tomorrow?
- Is there a question you wish I’d ask you about your day?
- Tell me three things that were awesome about today. Then follow it with telling me three things you wished went differently.
Here are a few more things to keep in mind when asking those questions:
- Ask for more. Say, “I’d love to hear more about that...” Or, “tell me more?”
- Ask about feelings. After a child describes an experience, ask, “How did you feel at that moment?
- Validate feelings. Whatever your kid feels is normal and okay. Let them know that. Feelings are okay. Tell them this. Anger is a healthy emotion; what we do when we’re angry leads to additional challenges.
- Thank them for sharing with you. Always appreciate their honesty and willingness to share the highlights and bright spots, as well as the difficult moments. This will fuel their confidence in telling you more.
Feelings of anxiety are perfectly normal and to be expected during times of transition. While many people think of separation anxiety as a problem confined to toddlers and preschoolers, I can assure you; It’s at every level. Listen today for tips on setting your household up for success and learning strategies to deflate nervousness.
So how do you ease your child’s jitters about saying goodbye? Today, take a listen to discover expert advice for reducing anxiety and making those difficult goodbyes and transitions easier for your child and YOU!
Here are a few good transition books that may help:The Kissing Handby Audrey PennFirst Day Jitters by Julie DannebergThe Night Before Kindergarten and The Night Before First Grade by Natasha Wing Miss Bindergarten Gets Ready for Kindergartenby Joseph Slate
Success comes in many forms. Depending on your experiences, you may have a different understanding or expectation of success. Today I’ll discuss a few easy things you can do to ensure your child has a successful year, no matter which grade she attends!
Today’s back to school edition of A Dash of Salt is all about easing into school or the back to school routines. What are the simple things you can do to help your child and your sanity when those mornings get a bit hectic? You'll have to listen to find out!
Many people at Spencer are here to help your child grow not only academically but socially and emotionally. They are also here to help you and your child navigate school and help develop a rhythm and build routines. But do you know who they are?
Today’s podcast is all about who is at Spencer that you can trust will help your child each day at Spencer.
How do you balance? How do you keep all of the plates spinning? I used to think the more I worked and focused on balance, the better I would be. It turns out, I actually became more frustrated and beat myself up for missing opportunities and just being tired from the day. There has to be a better way? There is, and by listening, you'll find out what I discovered that might help you!
Stop Stressing Out About Spending 'Quality Time' With Your Kids. What you think "quality time" means and what science says it means are two very different things. Take a listen to this week's podcast and take a deep breath. You'll thank me later!
These days many parents are so stressed about having quality time with their kids that we schedule countless activities. We are stressed out trying to meet the demands, "but we're doing it!" we say with a 🥴.
What if I told you there was an easier way? What if I told you being a good parent is simpler than you think? What if you could have a peaceful weekend, knowing you've got this parenting thing nailed? Listen and find out!
It's the final stretch before the end of the year. You've recently received your child's report card, so how do you make sense of it all?
Here's a hint, what you focus on is what you get. What will you choose to monitor? Take a listen, and I'll share some easy tips that you can use today to begin making checkpoints to monitor your child's progress.
Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/Distance-Learning-Playbook-Grades-K-12/dp/1071828924 https://www.amazon.com/Distance-Learning-Playbook-Parents-Development/dp/1071838326/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=distance+learning+playbook+for+parents&qid=1614532440&s=books&sr=1-1
Feedback is used to advance learning by bridging what a student currently does to that which he is not doing yet. The types of feedback that work especially well are feedback about the task and the process. Simply saying, “You're awesome” or “Good job” doesn't give the learner much guidance about what to do next. So, what should you do? Listen to this episode and find some tips and tricks to make your feedback more meaningful.
Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/Distance-Learning-Playbook-Grades-K-12/dp/1071828924 https://www.amazon.com/Distance-Learning-Playbook-Parents-Development/dp/1071838326/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=distance+learning+playbook+for+parents&qid=1614532440&s=books&sr=1-1
Do assessments or test results really tell you everything about your child? Nope, and I'd love to tell you why as we explore the Distance Learning Playbook together and uncover that your child is much more than a number defined by a test.
Resources:
https://www.amazon.com/Distance-Learning-Playbook-Grades-K-12/dp/1071828924
https://www.amazon.com/Distance-Learning-Playbook-Parents-Development/dp/1071838326/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=distance+learning+playbook+for+parents&qid=1614532440&s=books&sr=1-1
Individuals who believe their talents can be developed (through hard work, good strategies, and input from others) have a growth mindset. They tend to achieve more than those with a more fixed mindset (those who believe their talents are innate gifts). This is because they worry less about looking smart and they put more energy into learning.
How in the world can you embrace a growth mindset and help your child thrive? Take a listen, and I'll lead you through words you can use, share examples of famous people that pushed through challenges, and share books that you could read with your child.
https://imaginationsoup.net/30-biographies-model-growth-mindset/
Can you really change your intelligence through studying and hard work? If so, how do we develop this growth mindset in our kids? It sounds quite funny, but it's really about making mistakes. Take a few moments and learn how a few tips can help your child problem-solve with ease.
A strong parent-child connection makes parenting...easier! Take a listen for a few more easy ways to enhance your relationships with your children.
Flying dinosaurs, adults on swings, and broken steering wheels are all elements of creating relationships. Take a listen to find out how these simple things can help you build and strengthen relationships.
Who likes transitions? I mean, when you think about it, who really likes to be told to stop and move on to something else? If transitions are difficult for your child, take a listen to today's episode, where I'll share some tips to help make those rough transitions, smooth.
What if I told you there is something in your home that is a silent part of your family? It's heard private conversations, caught your tears, and maybe even used as a timeline?
Take a listen to this podcast to determine why traditions are so important, especially during a pandemic.
It's time for my annual visit to the doctor, which I really don't enjoy, and if you listen, you'll find out why it's so important to focus on the task at hand.
Whether it’s a stubbed toe, stepping on a Lego with bare feet or unable to lose weight, life is full of potential disappointments and lingering frustration. So how do we manage this? Take a listen and find out what we do at Spencer.
Conscious Discipline Deep Breathing Techniques
Where there is light, there can't be darkness; they simply can't coexist. You’ll never know what you're missing until you turn on the light and gain a different perspective. Turn on the light and get connected.
It seems as if all of us have been in our own storm of emotions these past few months, but do you know what it's like to be in an actual hurricane with water, waves, and emotions? Take a listen to find out how unexpected events can lead to positive changes.