Tfokomala Nami: Recent Episodes
Ligwalagwala FM
Topic: Empowering Persons with Disabilities to be Able to Fight Poverty and Unemployment
Topic: important steps to consider when writing a CV to increase the chances of being shortlisted
Topic: Enabling Inclusive Accessible Workplace Environment to Accommodate Persons with Disabilities.
Topic: The mandate and functions of the municipality Disability forums to fast track services for persons with disabilities.
Topic: Rights of patients especially those who sometimes get mistreated or their right being violated by nurses/doctor
Topic: He shared with us how Ligwalagwala FM helped him curb his drug abuse by getting him into a rehab centre.
Topic: The Role Played by the Organisation in Facilitating the Admission of Children with Disabilities at Different Schools
Aphiwe is 17 years old and lives in Gauteng who entered The Taste Master Junior competition.
Topic: Strides made to improve the wellbeing of persons with disabilities in the last 31yrs.
A lady from Soweto who is a recovering drug addict and had started using drugs when her mom fell ill. She was also sexually assaulted by nine guys while in the streets.
Topic: Topic: The importance of following superstitions/ cultural beliefs in men and the challenges that comes with not properly following them.
Focus: Celebrating his life, zooming into life challenges he faced and overcame and also touch at what heritage month means to him.
Topic: How to mitigate and lower the long-term effects on the brain especially with HIV associated brain disorders.
Topic: The importance of reporting GBV irrespective of how close you are to a person or what might be benefiting from them.
A young girl who received a kidney from a deceased donor at just five years old, now 23 and raising awareness
Armed with a National Diploma, BTech in Mining Engineering, and advanced certificates including Mine Overseer and Mine Manager Competencies, she’s now shaping the future underground.
Topic: Pregnancy and child birth – Prenatal care, managing and delivery (Including C-sections).
Topic: Strides Made to Improve the Wellbeing of Children with Disabilities Can it be conducted.
Topic: Celebrating her life and also looking at the challenges she faced in life and overcame.
Topic: The impact of HIV and long-term medication with ARV treatment, has on one’s mental health.
Topic: The importance of Makotis to make their own money and not entirely rely on their husbands for
everything.
Topic: The impact of influenza season as most people are suffering from colds and flu, which may complicate into a pneumonia especially to those living with HIV.
Guest: Mr Mandla Khoza - Nkangala disability forum
Topic: retention of employees with disabilities in the workplace
Topic: Ways and means for the elderly population (those above 50yrs) living with HIV and taking ARV Medication.
Topic: She shared the journey of the winner of South Africa’s biggest cooking show Color Your Plate with Koo.
7.“Father, into your hands I commit my spirit!” (Luke 23:46) Jesus willingly gave his life.
- “It is finished!” (John 19:30). The work His Father had sent Him to do, which was to teach the Gospel, perform miracles, and achieve reconciliation for His people, was fulfilled. The debt of sin was paid.
- “I am thirsty” (John 19:28). Here, Jesus was answering the Messianic prophecy from Psalm 69:21: “They put gall in my food and gave me vinegar for my thirst.”
- “Dear Woman, here is your son!” and “Here is your mother!” When Jesus recognized His mother standing near the cross with the Apostle John, He entrusted His mother’s well-being to John’s responsibility. (John 19:26-27).
- Matthew 27:46 tells us that about the ninth hour, Jesus cried out, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?”
Topic: The role of prophylaxis which also doubles as a form of vaccination in HIV positive population.
He shares with us how he changed his life around after challenges of drug/substance abuse.
Innocent ‘bobo’ Masuku - Battled with personal challenges, including drugs and alcohol abuse. Masuku played the most loved character of Bobo on Yizo Yizo
Topic: Common skin and eye problems on HIV positive people that are on treatment or changing medication.
Topic: Mandates, roles and responsibilities of the office on the status of disabled persons.
Topic: fasting and prayer, especially those living with chronic medical conditions like HIV and other associated long term illnesses
Style icon and KZN-born content creator Seth Shezi Seth Shezi won epic Celebrity MasterChef South Africa in a clean sweep.
Topic: What made you not to pay lobola or marry someone you spent so many years staying with?
Topic: Mental preparedness for both parents and Matriculants as we are nearing the release of Matric results.
Young Musician- He shared with us on being a celebrity child and how he balances his life.
Topic: Mental state in terms of the euphoria around this time, making people spend
and waste only to duffer in January.
Topic: Appropriate support to children with Disabilities informed by individual support
TOPIC: Empowering of disabled women through combating gender-Based violence and femicide directed to them.
Topic: How do you handle jealousy as a man and what are some of the things that jealousy has made you do that you regret?
Nonceba moves to Johannesburg in search of a better life, only to fall for a man whose lies lead to a horrific betrayal—she is thrown from a 6th-floor flat, losing her left hand. Despite this, she finds love again, but it turns into another nightmare, as her new partner subjects her to brutal verbal, emotional, and physical abuse, leaving her with 9 stab wounds. Nonceba’s story is one of unimaginable pain, resilience, and survival against all odds.
Topic: Enhancing participation of Disabled people into all spheres of life through self-advocacy
Undesirable effects on the body and mind of taking ARV treatment for a very long time. C
Topic: World Stroke Day. Mr Moripe Shares with us the challenges he faced after getting stroke
Topic: How female menopause and hormones in general impact on the mental health that mostly affect females as early as when they start their period.
Topic: Possibilities of going back to the first regimen (taking only one pill) after having failed on the first regimen
Gugu Nyirenda, shares with us her journey of mental illness that led to substance abuse.
Guest: Patric Mahlakoane, National Chairperson (Disabled People of South Africa).
Topic: Transport barriers for persons with disabilities
Topic: How living with HIV and taking ARV treatment affects the bones and joints leading to premature arthrosis and bone disease.
Guest: Dr Mdluli
–Gynecologist
Topic: Latest effects and the
different methods of family
planning (contraception).
Interview: Mr. Moses Mkhabela – Clinical psychologist
Topic: Mental health issues that can me it difficult for any employee to cope in the
workplace.
Asitsetsi Siyalungisa with Make Pule. Topic - Women in business and the women who are married to businessmen.
Interview Guest: Thulakahle Khumalo (APD)
Topic: What to know about casual day and its anticipated response to the disabled community.
Guest: Dr. Zahoor
Topic: Abnormal virginal discharge. How to differentiate between the two.
Asitsetsi siyalungisa with Make Pule: Topic - The importance of women living a truthful life all the time.
Asitsetsi Siyalungisa with Make Pule. Topic - The role of women in leadership in lifting up other women.
Dr’s Slot Guest: Dr Mdluli – Gynecologist
Topic: Common ailments affecting youth, middle aged and older women associated
with the uterus, tubes and ovaries.
Dr’s Slot
Guest: Dr Nkabinde – Neurosurgeon.
Topic: How the brain works, especially in terms of brain injuries, cancer and all feel good or bad hormones controlled by the brain.
Topic: Barriers, which hinder the full participation of women and girls with disabilities.
Guest: Ms Gale Nkosi South African Blind Women in Action (SABWIA)
Ms Potso Mtjali Disability Coordinator: Rand West Local Municipality
Topic: Challenges Experienced by Silindokuhle Disabled Centre Blind and Technology
Guest: Gugu Maposa Financial advisor – Standard Bank.
Topic: The lack of absence communication...honesty and transparency in marriages and families lead to duplications of financial commitments, insurance policies etc.
Dr’s Slot
Guest: Dr Zahoor
Topic: A role a man can play in a relationship towards limiting and assisting their wives or partners when faced with Sexually Transmitted infections (STI’s).
Guest: Ms Sarah Makua -Social Worker: Epilepsy SA Delmas Office
Topic: Sport and Epilepsy
Pastor: Bhishop ZA Twala from Christ Jesus Church Kabokweni Verse: 1st Samuel Chap 17 Verse 34-36
Negative impact of drug abuse. Guest: Vuyani Mthembu From Emalahleni (recovering drug addict)
Verse of the day: Pastor Ngobe from Gods Kingdoms Ministries – Mbombela Verse: Jeremiah Chap 17:7
Mr. Prince Ngema -Chairperson: South African Blind Youth Organisation (SABYO) Topic: Treatment and empowerment of youth with vision impairments AWARENESS DAY
Verse of the day: Pastor Ngobe from Gods Kingdoms Ministries – Mbombela Verse: Jeremiah Chap 17:7
Verse of the day: Pastor Ngobe from Gods Kingdoms Ministries – Mbombela Numeri Chap 23:19
Make Pule: Marriage Counselor
Topic: How to chose the right partner for your life as a young person.
World Blood Donor Day Interview. Siboniso Mbhatha - Head of Donor Relations, Mpumalanga
Interview with Dentist Justice Choenyana.
Topic: Factors to consider when doing braces. Benefits, Age group... etc.
Ms Dieketseng Motloung Chairperson: Albinism Task Force(ATF)
2024 Marks a decade since the launch of international albinism Awareness Day. To mark this occasion, this year’s theme is: ten years of International Albinism Awareness Day (IAAD), a decade of collective progress.
We will look at new cancers associated with HIV and at what level should people living with HIV begin to worry about cancers associated with HIV despite them being on life saving ARV treatment?
Topic: Flu season and what measures to take to prevent it
Guest: Dr Sindile Ntuli – Microbiologist
He looked at unhealthy habits that an HIV positive person may be using for leisure but needs to cut down or stop in order to promote positive livings and life on ARV treatment.
Mr. Thabo Madupela Mpumalanga Mental Health Society Social Worker
topic: Disability and elections
Dr’s Slot
Topic: We will look at womans health. But with more emphasis on the Hyperemesis
Gravidarum (Excessive vomiting in pregnancy, during the first 3months). What
causes this and how can expectant mothers try to control or even prevent this?
Guest: Dr Mdluli,
Gynecologist
Topic: Anti-Tobacco Campaign Month – The negative impact of smoking on teeth, and how can one whiten their teeth?
Mr. Moses Mkhabela, clinical psychologist.
Topic: Guest: The importance of debriefing (getting psychological counselling after a traumatic event). Many people remain strong for their families during times of need and grief but what can they do to ensure that they remain strong and resilient mentally?
Topic: National Women’s Health Week kicks off every year on Mother’s Day, making it a time for women across the country to focus on their health.
Guest: Makhosazane “Sister Khosi’ Ndlovu (Midwife) from Mbombela Women's Clinic Contact: 072 433 5044 National Women’s Checkup Day Get checked and stay healthy if you’re a woman, on National Women's Checkup Day.
Guest: Miss Nikiwe Mbhatha Topic: she will be sharing information about relationships/m marriages and none disabled people
Guest: Nomsa Mtshali, Patient Community and Rare Assist Manager at Rare Diseases South Africa
Make Pule Marriage Counselor -
Topic: Men be responsible and have a plan before you have kids.
Mr. Pringle Mhlabane, Manager responsible for the Rehabilitation and Disability Services (Department of Health Mpumalanga)
Disability Slot
GUEST: Ms Thapelo Marobane From the Mpumalanga Mental health society
Topic: Breast cancer awareness month and impact on mental health
Ms Dikeledi Magadzi is the Deputy Minister of Transport of the Republic of South Africa the position she was appointed to on 30 May 2019. She is a Member of the National Assembly and a Member of the ANC NEC member since 2007
Winnie Mashaba is a multi-award-winning South African gospel musician, TV presenter, and businesswoman. She was born and raised in the small village of Kgoši Phasha, Steelpoort, South Africa. Early life Winnie Mashaba went to school at Mashupje High School but dropped out soon after passing Grade 11 in 1998 to pursue her passion for gospel music. Her first break came right after she auditioned for Solly Moholo. Soon after the audition, she released her debut album, Exodus 20 (2000). Winnie Mashaba has been nominated for numerous awards, including a Kora for Best African Spiritual Female in 2005. Other awards include the South African Music Awards (SAMA), South African Gospel Awards and Metro FM Music Awards. In 2010 she was named Best Female Artist at the Crown Gospel Awards. She landed a TV presenting role on Dumisa in 2017.
Discography 2000: Exodus 20 2008: Kea Letshaba Lefase 2008: Ke Rata Wena 2009: Motswelle Se Bapale Ka Kekere 2009: Lefu Le Tshabeng Ellish Park Stadium 2009: Motswelle Se Bapale Ka Kereke Ena 2009: Joang Kapa Joang 2009: Thola ngwanesu 2010: Go Tseba Jehova 2011: Modimo O Nale Nna 2012: Bophelo Ke Leeto 2014: Very Best Of (Live) 2015: Lehlotlo Laka 2015: O Tla Ya Kae? 2016: 1st Hymns Project Live Recorded 2017: Dilo Tša Lefase
Ms Margaret Salila, from South African Human Rights Commission. she spoke about How to report human rights violation cases
Mrs Mogakana from Mpumalanga Association for Persons with Disabilities. She spoke about Breaking barriers for persons with disabilities
MsMamsyMashele from Disabled Children Action Group who is a Caretaker, spoke about the Rights of children with disabilities in the community life
Mr Hendry Langa, a former student from the University of Venda. He shared information about tertiary education
Mr DP Nkambule from the Office on the Status of Disabled Persons.
He be shared information about the provincial disability indaba to be held on the 4 December 2018.
Make pule- she was talking about ladies who do not visit or always find an excuse not to visit their inlaws.
In every cell in the human body there is a nucleus, where genetic material is stored in genes. Genes carry the codes responsible for all of our inherited traits and are grouped along rod-like structures called chromosomes. Typically, the nucleus of each cell contains 23 pairs of chromosomes, half of which are inherited from each parent. Down syndrome occurs when an individual has a full or partial extra copy of chromosome 21. This additional genetic material alters the course of development and causes the characteristics associated with Down syndrome. A few of the common physical traits of Down syndrome are low muscle tone, small stature, an upward slant to the eyes, and a single deep crease across the center of the palm – although each person with Down syndrome is a unique individual and may possess these characteristics to different degrees, or not at all.
Anger, man's natural and healthy reaction to stress, is increasingly being acted on with physical violence, even though we are wealthier, take more holidays and generally lead more comfortable lives. Many theorists put this down to the fast pace of life. If anger isn't managed successfully it can have a detrimental effect on our personal relationships, our self esteem and our opportunities in life.
Tips to help control anger
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Take time out Don't react immediately to a situation, count to 10 or step away from the situation or individual that is upsetting you, this helps to dilute the anger. time out could mean taking a brisk walk or simply leaving the room.
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Role reversal This simply means you put yourself in the other persons place. Think about what you would do and how you would feel in their situation. This strategy helps you gain a different perspective other than your own in this situation that has caused you feelings of anger or frustration.
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The 3 step way of dealing with a situation. A way of dealing with an individual who has made you angry or upset is a 3 step approach.
The Event When you have calmed down, sufficiently, briefly convey to the individual the incident that is causing the problem, you may need to write this down.
Your Feelings Tell the individual how you feel about the situation using 'I' messages, you need to use 'I' messages to show that you take responsibility for your feelings, they belong to you. If you use 'You' messages it will appear that you are blaming them and the individual may become angry.
Your Needs Explain what you need from them in order to help you both resolve the situation. This opens it up for discussion and hopefully resolution, all done in a calm way, if possible.
- A usefully management skill is changing the conversation in your head. Your inner conversation, if negative and aggressive has a major impact on your anger. If you learn to control and change the thoughts that pop in you head
Marriage Arguments: Fighting About Little Things Can Mean a Lot
Arguments about small things are a signal that it's time to find the big issues and firmly, but lovingly put an end to them.
When I was working on my degree in clinical psychology, I lived in a small apartment with paper thin walls in Vista, California.
The neighbors who lived on the west side of my apartment were a young couple in their twenties. To say that their relationship had problems is like saying if you fall into Niagara Falls you will get a little wet. Their marriage arguments were hard to drown out with my TV.
When they were mad at each other, there was constant shouting and when they were very mad with each other, there was complete silence.
Being their neighbor rather than their counselor, I found myself hoping they would be very mad at each other so that I could have some peace and quiet in my own apartment.
The interesting thing was that when they were shouting at each other, they were always blaming each other for things that did not seem to be very important.
In the time it takes to drive to the store and buy a whole cart load of groceries, the husband could repeatedly blame his wife for forgetting to buy the milk and always forgetting things, while the wife could spend the entire time blaming her husband for always expecting her to be a mind reader.
Why would a couple spend so much time blaming each other for small things?
It certainly wasn't helping their relationship and it wasn't really fixing their problems. I got the answer one day when I noticed that a woman would sometimes visit their apartment while the wife was working. The husband's routine with this "guest" seemed quite different from that with his wife and from the sound of things, they had quite a good time.
Sometimes fighting about things creates an emotional distance that people actually want.
It is very hard for the average human being to cheat on someone he has a good relationship with. But if the rela www.relationship-coach.org
Understanding what love is and how it grows in a marriage
Many of us have grown up dreaming of the wonderful feelings of romantic love and wait expectantly to fall in love. Movies and love songs have a way of stirring up that longing in us. People in love seem so joyful and alive and we yearn for that in our lives too.
Those of us who are in relationships or marriages for a couple of years now, do have partners or spouses in our lives that we love and care for deeply. So where are those magical heady feelings of love?
That’s the first shocker – contrary to all the stories we’ve seen – love is not just a feeling.
What is love?
Many of us mistake love to be only a feeling. Let’s take a moment to think about our own experience of feelings. We’ve all experienced feelings of attraction – these feelings go up and down – here one moment, gone the next! Which can be confusing and painful. If we confuse love with a feeling, we may find ourselves asking questions such as: “How could I love someone I didn’t really know so well?” “I love and care about my partner so much, how come I don’t feel that kind of excitement around him / her anymore?” “Is this love?” “Have we fallen out of love?”
The questions are many and the answers can be scary so at times we attempt to shut out these thoughts. But even if we do that, there could remain a sense of lingering sadness – of something missing. What is missing perhaps is an accurate understanding of what love is.
Clearly, feelings are transient and so love would have to be more than a feeling. Love has been described by psychologists and writers as a decision, a choice or actions. According to social psychology, love is a combination of emotions, cognitions and behaviours.
To understand what love is better, let’s look at real life as opposed to the fairy tale.
Understanding the difference between passionate and companionate love
We often get together with our partners when we ‘feel love’ or ‘fall in love’. The experience of ‘fa talkitover.in
Sexual Dysfunction and Marriage: My Journey For some of us, there is no amount of self-love or body-positive work that will inspire passion and sexual tension in our partners. For many of us, our partners simply don’t find touching our bodies desirable and aren’t capable of manufacturing that sensation. It’s not about us, though it unquestionably has a huge impact on us.
Dressing provocatively, engaging in self-affirmations, living loud and proud, knowing we are sexual and desirable beings – sometimes those things don’t change the fact that our partners simply can’t generate sexual interest, desire, or physical companionship. Knowing that can be incredibly hard on self-esteem and on a whole host of relationships – including relationships with our partner and with the people who give advice but who don’t fully understand the realities of living with and loving a person with intimacy issues.
Good relationships, no matter how well partnered people are, have challenges. For some, it’s about fidelity; for others, it’s about money or children. For some of us, it’s about two people who genuinely want to have intimacy, but one partner simply can’t. For both people, that fact can create heartbreak and a sense of failure, which can lead to isolation, anger, and crisis.
For me, it’s been a decade of learning – learning how to cope, how to find compassion within myself, how to build a new framework for self-acceptance and change the paradigm of what a successful marriage looks like. I married someone who was a good match for my appetites but, because of medical emergencies and life-saving medicines, my husband lost that part of himself. I’m not talking about dysfunction alone; I’m speaking of the loss of intimacy and desire. I’m not sharing a struggle that can be overcome. I’m trying to put it out there that some aspects of life and love aren’t fixable – and that, for me, leaving or divorce is nowhere near the answer. In my situation, my marriage is good and strong, and the thebodyisnotanapology.com
Loneliness In Marriage Many of my clients discuss a feeling of loneliness within their marriages. Often their spouses look at them with confusion or contempt, asking how it’s possible to feel alone when they are in fact, in the same house or even room with them a great deal of the time. I’ve written this article for those who have difficulty telling their spouses, their therapists, or even articulating for themselves why they feel lonely even though they are married. This other article, Mr. and Mrs. Just Not Feeling It, Or The Divorced in Spirit may also be helpful in explaining how you feel as well. When you feel lonely within your marriage, you don’t feel like you’re part of anything bigger than yourself. You feel alone, and there is no “we,” only you and your spouse, completely separate entities. You may seem to be a happy couple to others (or you may not), and you may be able to keep a united front for the kids (or you may not). Either way, when it is just you and your spouse talking to one another, you don’t feel close or connected, and you don’t feel secure and safe. You realize that you and your spouse are worlds apart on some basic values, which frightens you and makes you wonder why you married them at all. Your spouse seems to say the wrong thing at the wrong time all the time, and you wonder if this was always the case and you were too young or stupid or infatuated to notice.
You feel like your spouse doesn’t pay attention to you. Compliments are few and far between, and not about things that you yourself are proud of. You feel that your spouse wouldn’t be able to answer basic questions about what’s important to you or what you feel or think on a daily basis. You personally have very little idea what they think about all day either. You have tried to ask and the conversations seem to go nowhere, with your spouse seeming confused and annoyed, wondering what you want. loneliness-within-marriage
Forgiveness in Marriage
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Forgiveness is a choice, not a feeling. We may not feel like forgiving. We may want to harbor the anger and hurt and make him pay for what he has done. But, once you decide you want to grant forgiveness, you can begin to work through those feelings.
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Share your hurt. After your husband has apologized and asked for forgiveness, you need to talk about the matter before you move on. It might be uncomfortable, but you need to share how you feel. Don’t point a finger; just share how you feel so he’ll understand the depth of your hurt. Make sure you feel heard before you move on.
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Plan for change. The goal here is not to punish with requirements, but to set up guidelines that you both agree to. That way, there will be fewer gray areas that can lead to disappointment.
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Stop the video. Do not replay your husband’s infraction over and over again in your mind. When your mind starts to wander and you begin to dwell on the incident and the hurt it caused you, tell yourself to stop. It’s one thing to need to talk to someone like a pastor or a counselor about your pain so you can move past it, but it’s another when you keep inflicting the pain on yourself by dwelling on the hurt. Deciding to truly forgive your husband is re-committing to your relationship. Don’t sabotage that recommitment by focusing on the negative.
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Give yourself time. forgiveness-in-marriage
- Your partner assumes you no longer care Yes, life gets busy. But rightly or wrongly, your partner may come to feel that your everyday inattention means that he or she no longer matters to you. Whether you've just given birth to your second child, or your demanding job has you traveling more often than you would like, your marriage is vulnerable when your attention is elsewhere. You see, when you were "in love", you had this inner sense that you'd always be enough for your beloved, just as you are. As the initial love hormones diminish, small mindful gestures of attention and affection make a huge difference, provided they matter to your spouse. Make it clear to each other that, "No matter what, when you need my attention, I'll clear out time for you." In doing so, you make your partner less tempted to cheat. Granted, maybe you won't have time the split second one of you gets home, but take your partner's request seriously.
Whether it's a long distance call or after the kids go to bed, put on your best listening ears and be there for your partner (and don't problem solve until asked ... just listen!).
- Opportunity leads to promiscuity
According to one recent study, "More than one-third (36 percent) of men and 13 percent of women said that they gave in to temptation on a business trip."
You're alone with no one to talk to, plus you're enjoying a few drinks, and in that situation, inhibitions plummet. Highly committed couples know this and make it a point to touch base around the world by phone, even if it's the middle of the night or you must interrupt your business dinner.
Want to know a set up for an erotic extramarital encounter? Complete a challenging project or deal with a good looking team member of the opposite sex in another part of the world.
If you want to safeguard your marriage, make fidelity a much talked about big deal. Explain what it would mean to you if your partner betrayed you. Let that be on your partner's mind because you have
Top 10 Reasons for Divorce:
- Infidelity
Extra-marital affairs are responsible for the breakdown of most marriages that end in divorce. The reasons why people cheat aren’t as cut and dry as our anger may lead us to believe. Anger and resentment are common underlying reasons for cheating, along with differences in sexual appetite and lack of emotional intimacy. Infidelity often begins as a seemingly innocent friendship, says cheating expert Ruth Houston. “It starts as an emotional affair which later becomes a physical affair”.
- Money
Money makes people funny, or so the saying goes, and it’s true. Everything from different spending habits and financial goals to one spouse making considerably more money than the other, causing a power struggle can strain a marriage to the breaking point. “Money really touches everything. It impacts people’s lives,” said Emmet Burns, brand marketing director for SunTrust. Clearly, money and stress do seem to go hand in hand for many couples.
- Lack of communication
Communication is crucial in marriage and not being able to communicate effectively quickly leads to resentment and frustration for both, impacting all aspects of a marriage. On the other hand, good communication is the foundation of a strong marriage. Yelling at your spouse, not talking enough throughout the day, making nasty comments to express yourself are all unhealthy methods of communication that need to be ditched in a marriage. Practicing mindful communication, to change age-old marriage mistakes, can be hard but it’s well worth the effort to improve and save your relationship.
- Constant arguing
From bickering about chores to arguing about the kids; incessant arguing kills many relationships. Couples who seem to keep having the same argument over again often do so because they feel they’re not being heard or appreciated. Many find it hard to see the other person’s point of view, which leads to a lot of arguments without ever coming to a resolution. www.marriage.com
Marriage Closure Therapy is slowly gaining attention and recognition. ... As a mediator, Infeld was limited in her ability to help a couple work on their marriage or, their divorce, and reach closure in their relationship. Enter Marriage Closure Therapy, a therapeutic intervention that ... www.mediate.com
Relationship Control Issues: Most Common Controlling Behaviors.
Co-dependent Controllers
In addition to the overtly controlling behaviors, there is a whole host of other behaviors that are harder to spot. These are carried out by the co-dependent controller.
This is the type of person who needs other people to behave or feel a certain way in order to feel okay.
If you are a co-dependent controller, you may be the people-pleasing and care-taking type. Here are the ways control is achieved:
Martyrdom. This is when you do so much for your partner that you create a sense of indebtedness in them. They will never be as good or giving as you.
Re-activity. You react to your partner’s every thought and feeling. If they say something you disagree with, you either believe it or become defensive. You have a stake in what they think, so you try hard to convince them of your point of view.
Care-taking. You put other people ahead of yourself. You need to help, and you feel rejected if your partner doesn’t want your help. Care-taking is another way of controlling the situation.
Guilt-tripping. You feel hurt and make your partner feel guilty. You do this not just sometimes but rather guilt becomes part of the fabric of your relationship. Your partner does things for you to avoid feeling guilty.
Tests and diagnosis A complete diagnostic work-up for albinism includes a: •Physical exam •Description of changes in pigmentation •Thorough exam of the eyes •Comparison of your child's pigmentation to that of other family members A medical doctor specializing in vision and eye disorders (ophthalmologist) should conduct your child's eye exam. The exam will include an assessment of potential nystagmus, strabismus and photophobia. The doctor will also use a device to visually inspect the retina and determine if there are signs of abnormal development. www.mayoclinic.org
Signs and symptoms Information regarding history of previous urticaria and duration of rash and itching is useful for categorizing urticaria as acute, recurrent, or chronic. For chronic or recurrent urticaria, important considerations include previous causative factors and the effectiveness of various treatments, as follows [2] : • Precipitants, such as heat, cold, pressure, exercise, sunlight, emotional stress, or chronic medical conditions • Other medical conditions that can cause pruritus (usually without rash), such as diabetes mellitus, chronic renal insufficiency, primary biliary cirrhosis, or other nonurticarial dermatologic disorders • Family and personal medical history of angioedema - Characteristics of angioedema [1] include vasodilation and exudation of plasma into the deeper tissues more so than with simple urticaria; angioedema can occur with and without the wheals of simple urticaria and presents clinically as subcutaneous swelling that is generally nonpitting and nonpruritic; it can affect the mouth as well as the mucosal surfaces of the respiratory and GI tracts, manifesting as hoarseness and GI upset; it can be a feature of anaphylaxis if the throat is involved, leading to airway compromise
Trust and support in Marriage Our trust in another individual can be grounded in our evaluation of his/her ability, integrity, and benevolence. That is, the more we observe these characteristics in another person, our level of trust in that person is likely to grow. Ability refers to an assessment of the other's knowledge, skill, or competency. This dimension recognizes that trust requires some sense that the other is able to perform in a manner that meets our expectations.