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Jessica Wilde
Wilde About Woo is a podcast for spiritual seekers and those who want to deepen their connection with the Divine.
Each week, we explore what it means to live a life of meaning and purpose by talking spirituality, wellbeing, relationships, neuroscience and more! Whether you're just beginning your journey or have been on an inner quest for years - this podcast has something for everyone.
As we continue our tour de force through the classical elements, we’re diving (!) into the WATER element…
I’m a water sign (Scorpio), so this one resonates a lot for me.
I’ve been called all the type al ‘too water-y’ things….
“Too serious…”
“Too deep…”
“Too intimate…”
“Too trusting…”
“Too emotional…”
Basically, all the “toos”!!! 🤣
I’m sure that resonates with you too!
In today’s podcast episode, I’m sharing all the GOSS on how to rebalance your water side…
How to increase the water element, if you’re lacking… (maybe you’re the type who stubbornly refuses to go deeper than discussing the WEATHER…)
And how to balance it, if it feels out of control…. (maybe you forgive and forgive and forgive, when it’s time to abandon a toxic friendship… 🙋🏻♀️)
Water is an incredibly powerful element - as long as you allow it to flow through you in the right way…
One of the most destructive forces in the world is also one we cannot live without.
The fire element represents passion, drive, and ambition.
It's a symbol of life force, energy, power, and creativity.
We depend on warmth, cooked food, light - all fire-based!
BUT…
At the same time, it’s destructive and can be deadly…
It’s easy to only associate fire with its negative aspects.
This is especially easy now that we (mostly) don’t see the flames that heat us, or cook our food.
Even the ‘fiery language’ we use is negative…
“Flaming” for bullying…
“Getting burned” when we are scammed…
The fire element is a powerful force in the natural world.
In today’s podcast, we explore all aspects of the fire element: what it means symbolically, how you use it in your everyday life, and some tips for increasing the fire element in your spiritual life!
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The air element is the most common of all natural elements. It surrounds us, we breathe it to survive.
We use it to regulate temperature by either heating or cooling the air around us.
Life giving and life preserving.
It is omnipresent, and yet for a long time I didn’t realise how much Air infuses (pun intended 🤣) our deepest soul and inner knowing.
Air is not just the life-giver, it is the SOUL-giver.
Ancient wisdom tells us the Air is the element of TRANSFORMATION…
And who doesn’t want to transform at least something in their life, right?!
In today’s podcast episode, I’m sharing some AWESOME AIRINESS!
💫 An overview of what the air element is, and what woo / ancient wisdom tells us about….
😳 What it looks like to have TOO MUCH air (Geminis, Librans, Aquarians - I’m talking to YOU!)….
🧘🏼♀️ How to increase air in your life - and we finish up with a beautiful meditation / visualisation exercise…
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In the western world, we live in a culture that is deeply rooted with our five natural elements. The earth element is one of these and it has been present for all of human history.
We stand on the ground which provides us with stability and support.
We create structures out of concrete, brick or wood to protect ourselves from the weather outside while also providing us shelter and comfort inside.
In essence, this episode will explore how the earth element shows up in our lives, and ways we can increase it.
If you're an earth sign, you might think you've heard all this before - BUT you need to listen, as maybe you've become TOO earth-bound in your behaviour. Find out the symptoms of that in today's episode!
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Earth, Air, Fire, and Water.
The four elements have been a part of human understanding for centuries.
And we use every single one of them every day of our lives.
Just this morning, I’ve stood on earth, breathed in air, benefitted from the warmth of fire, and hydrated with water.
The Ancient Greeks believed all things came from one of the four elements, and that they were eternal and unchanging. The Sumerians, the Maya, the Babylonians, and many other cultures and religions believed the same.
You are made up of these elements, and they surround you.
But what happens if they’re out of balance?
When they get out of balance in the world at large, we see Mass Extinction Events, sudden and dramatic events that caused the death of many different species at one point in time. Looking through the history of these, they are all related to one of the elements getting out of sync with the others.
Destructive fires.
Deluges and floods (mentioned some 500 times in historical texts!).
Earthquakes.
Asteroid collisions.
It's not a secret that ancient civilizations worshipped the elements and gods that represented them. After all, if these elements were what could kill you, why would you not?!
People also realised that we are made up of these four elements, and the more we incorporate all four into our own lives, the better we will feel.
We’ve now got out of touch with the elements, and that’s why my podcast today is all about their history. I’ll be sharing the plan for this series of episodes, where we’ll deep dive into each element in a dedicated episode.
If you ever feel out of balance, you don’t want to miss out on listening!
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Spirituality is not religion. It's the practice of being in touch with oneself and finding a connection to one's soul, or self. When you are in tune with yourself, it can be easier to feel connected to those around you. With this podcast guide to spirituality, you'll find ways to explore what it means for you personally and learn how to integrate your spiritual needs into your everyday life.
Your spiritual journey is an exploration into the deepest parts of your being. It's a journey that can be difficult, but one that will pay off with new insights and understanding.
There are many different paths to take on this journey depending on where you're starting from, which makes it even more important to explore what will work best for you before getting started.
In this episode I'll share my tips for how to get started exploring your spiritual side so you can find what works best for you!
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Wilde About Wellbeing is now Wilde About Woo!
I'm excited to introduce you to my new name, and share with you the reasons I've made this change.
In this podcast I cover: What woo-woo means, why it's important for me to make a name change, and what you can expect from me in the future. [Spoiler alert - Not much different!]
In this episode, I'm also talking about animal Medicine, particularly spiders and hyenas!
I focus on two animals in particular, the Spider and the Hyena. Spiders represent patience and persistence to me - they're always there waiting for you to get caught in their web, but is that for your own good? They also teach us how to spin our own webs and create situations that will benefit us. Hyenas have similar qualities as well - they too are focussed on creativity, but in a fun-seeking, laugh-a-minute way!
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The first step to transformation is SELF AWARENESS…
I was CONVINCED that I knew myself.
I would’ve told you that I was 100% certain I was FULLY aware of every story I had.
That was such RUBBISH.
I had managed to deceive myself into believing I knew myself.
It wasn’t until I developed my skills at self awareness that I was able to TRANSFORM.
In this episode, I’m sharing the top FIVE things I did to begin my transformational process.
They’re all easy things you can start to slip into everyday life.
Before you know it, you’ll be well on your way to transforming yourself and your life!!
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Would you like a MAGIC WAND?
It’s called TRANSFORMATION…
What if, just like a magic spell, you could cast dreams with your wand…
And have them come true?
What would be YOUR transformational spell?
In today’s podcast, I’m talking about exactly what transformation is.
I share with you how we get to the point where we NEED to transform our lives…
And why transformation is more necessary than ever in our current world.
Full disclosure… I DO dig into telling you about how I can coach YOU, BUT that’s a small part of the episode.
This episode isn’t about what I can do for you, but about what YOU can do for YOURSELF!
There’s plenty of meat there to get going with on your own - I’m excited you get to hear this info!!
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Do you worry that being grateful for what you have NOW is complacency? I used to…
I mean, it makes some logical sense, right?
I say ‘thank you’ for, say, 1lb of weight release.
My subconscious / the Universe thinks, “Oh right, you’re happy with a 1lb?”
I never lose more than 1lb.
But that’s simply NOT TRUE.
My experience is more like this…
“Wow, subconscious, universe, body, thank you for the 1lb of weight release. You RAAAAAWK!!”
“Yay, so glad you’re pleased! Now we know how much you like weigh release, we’ll give you more!”
“Gee, 2lb released this week!? Thanks so much! I’m like a weight release MAGNET!”
In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking about how we can be grateful WITHOUT blocking ‘more, more, more’!!
You’re wishing and hoping in the WRONG DIRECTION.
“I hope I pass the exam!”
“I wish I could visit Aruba!”
“I hope I become a millionaire!”
“I wish… I hope… I wish!”
Hoping for something entails DOUBT.
If I HOPE for a certain outcome, I’m acknowledging that an alternative is possible.
“I hope I pass the exam” is NOT the same as “I will pass the exam!”
The hoping implies there’s a possibility of not passing.
The energy we put out when we hope for something is DOUBTFUL.
You’re not telling the Universe what you want to happen, love, if you’re giving the option of not passing that exam!
I now commit to the “I will pass this exam” comment…
But I know this might be hard for you, love - it was a leap for me to get to the point of disallowing doubt!
So in today’s podcast episode, I talk about the FIRST STEP to moving away from hope to reality!
That is being grateful for what you currently have.
That was the first secret, for me, to stopping the doubt that pervaded my thoughts.
If I could become grateful, I was telling the universe what I wanted more of.
I was indirectly informing the universe of what I knew (based on previous experience) could happen.
Gratitude over hope. You will not regret it.
What are you putting off - and why?
I HATED phone calls…
I’m still not someone who is on the phone regularly.
I would procrastinate about every call I had to make.
Or I would delegate it to someone else.
Having to handle accounting queries at work did MAKE me confront the fear of phones.
I was being called multiple times a day.
It was only by analysing the stories in my life that I saw where this fear of the phone came from.
My dad was an incredibly hard working vet.
In the early years of my life, he was on call most nights.
I came to associate the phone ringing with him and my mum having to leave for a veterinary emergency.
Dinners interrupted.
Film nights cut short.
Board games folded away early.
I associated the phone with an end to ‘playtime’.
BOOM!
There was the reason I didn’t like the phone.
There was the reason I put off phone calls.
Only by acknowledging this story was I able to see how unhelpful it was to me.
In today’s podcast, I share how to get over the stories from your past - AND four other tips for confronting your to do list!
Let’s stop putting things off for good!
My reptilian brain isn’t my best friend. It’s not yours either.
Unless you’re being chased by a leopard, in which case it’s gonna save your life.
The most primal part of the brain is designed for 4 vital functions… feeding, fleeing, fighting, and… reproduction!
It has always been vital to our survival (it’s also fundamental for things like breathing and heart rate), BUT…⠀
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The reptilian brain is not as useful in everyday situations as it was thousands of years ago. ⠀
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Just imagine: you’re a scantily clad early human. ⠀
You’re part of a tribe, made up of multiple ‘families’.⠀
In terms of protection, you have rudimentary weapons - and, most importantly, the protection of your fellow tribe members.⠀
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The primal brain would ensure that you emerged unscathed from hunting for food. ⠀
It would ensure that you remained part of your tribe (since separation from them could spell death). ⠀
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It was essentially a DEATH warrant, if the primal brain didn’t kick in when it needed to. ⠀
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But now, what’s your wild boar hunt threat equivalent, love?⠀
Sitting at a boardroom table, arguing with your boss?!
Putting off opening that email from your mother?!
Working out how to tell your BFF you want a cosy night in front of Netflix, rather than an evening out?!
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NONE of those are life or death threats, right?⠀
It doesn’t matter if your boss agrees with you…⠀
That email from your mother is not going to kill you…⠀
It’s pretty unlikely your girlfriend is going to disown you for turning her down…⠀
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That’s the problem with the reptilian part of the brain - we don’t know how to manage it.⠀
Once we work on managing the situations that trigger it, we can live our lives with more HAPPINESS and less FIGHT OR FLIGHT. ⠀
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In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking about CONFRONTATION….⠀
Not necessarily with people, but maybe…⠀
More about the reasons we avoid things on our to do lists…⠀
The reasons why we procrastinate, instead of action…⠀
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And, of course, the reasons why confronting your fears is the best way to live your life. ⠀
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ARE YOU MAKING YOUR JOURNEY CHOPPIER THAN IT NEEDS TO BE?
I was ADDICTED to the struggle of swimming against my intuition.
I lived on ‘shoulds’ - always based on what I believed that others wanted for/from me.
Then I’d MOAN…
“Oh, poor me, life is so HARD.”
“Why do others have it easier than me?”
“The world hates me.”
Are any of those feelings familiar, love?
They began to feel comfortable for me…
They were what I used as an excuse to keep FIGHTING against listening to my INNER VOICE.
Don’t get me wrong, even now, life can feel choppy!
And it’s then that I have to ask myself two super important questions…
- Am I making this journey choppy?
- Do I NEED this choppiness for my growth?
You see, the Universe sends us obstacles and difficulties to overcome so that we GROW.
Life is not about avoiding choppiness entirely.
Life is about recognising WHO / WHAT is causing that choppiness…
If it’s your ego, then all you’re achieving is yet more pain / annoyance.
If it’s the universe, then you’re experiencing profound growth.
In today’s podcast episode, I discuss this, and four other things to think about when trying to fall into FLOW.
Alignment with your goals means you travel faster - can you afford to miss these five tips to get what you want quicker?!
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HOW IS YOUR FLOW? YOUR ALIGNMENT?
And I’m not talking yoga here….
When I feel in flow, I am floating along the river of the universe, trusting I am where I am supposed to be.
When I stray out of this alignment, I feel like I’m FIGHTING against everything. Life feels difficult.
I know that when I am out of alignment, I’m letting my EGO row the boat…
That’s ALWAYS a bad idea, since my ego wants to push against the tide.
It looks at what OTHERS think is right for me…
It holds me back from being in the flow of doing what I want to do.
When I choose to be in flow, life feels EASY.
I feel like I am seeing progress.
If our growth is summed up by experiences, imagine how far you travel when in flow…
Versus swimming AGAINST the current.
The only experience in a state of resistance is one of not getting anywhere.
You cannot grow, unless you allow yourself to float, to be in alignment, to FLOW.
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Ayni, ubuntu and karma are not just about helping others - they’re about your SELF-LOVE too…
Mind-blowing, right? Hear me out…
When I go for a run, or a cycle, or do one of my MMA workouts, there are two words I use.
“Thank you.”
And I say them to my body…
🦶🏻 to the feet that carry my weight…
🍑 to the bum that hates a hard cycle seat, but bears it anyway…
👊🏻 to the hands that clench when I’m punching…
And when I’m grateful for those body parts’ work, what happens?
They continue to work hard for me.
They continue to help me achieve my physical goals.
My body gives back in karma its own thanks for my gratitude.
It may sound crazy that we subject OURSELVES to the law of reciprocity, but we do.
Doing things for others will result in goodness boomeranging back to us…
And that boomerang works within us too - the more I love myself, the more my body will love me back…
I share more on this as one of the ways to practise the concept of ayni in today’s episode, as well as 4 other tips for cultivating more of it in your life.
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Ayni… Ubuntu… Karma… They’re all more or less the same thing, with the same route: The Law of Reciprocity.
Whatever joy / help / love I give to others, I will receive gifts that I need (not always what I WANT, ha!) in return.
Everything is connected by ENERGY - I am connected to you, and we are all connected to the world’s community, the Earth herself, and all the dimensions beyond this one…
It is a privilege that we get to support each other, and ourselves through the law of reciprocity.
Individual acts of giving literally change the world’s energy, in a butterfly effect.
Karma is a beautiful thing - and should be a way of life for all of us.
I talk more about this in the podcast episode today because it’s really important in my own life.
Every action that I perform in this world can be one that embraces the concept of ayni.
I choose to live a lifestyle of generosity to result in a life of reciprocal abundance.
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I KEPT MYSELF FEELING STUCK BY USING REALLLLLY UNHELPFUL LANGUAGE!
I know we’ve all heard the stuff about ‘self talk’ - and, if you’re anything like me, love, you probably shrug your shoulders..
Like that could help you, right?
Wrong.
You see, I was always using language that kept me POWERLESS.
“I don’t have enough [time / money / knowledge / strength / understanding / etc / etc / etc]”
“I’m not the right person for this.”
“I’ll never succeed at reaching my [goal weight / ideal salary / vision board ambitions / etc / etc / etc]”
Even when I write podcast notes and Instagram posts, I can go to one of those “not enough” type thoughts.
“Maybe they don’t want to hear from me.”
“There’ll be other people out there to voice this more eloquently than ME.”
But now I know that language is what HOLDS ME BACK.
I am, literally, telling the Universe that my focus is on failure / no success / not being able to get anywhere
I’m NOT a victim of my circumstances, and nor are you.
Once we realise this, we can stop feeling ‘STUCK’.
This language tip is just one of those I share in today’s podcast!!
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YOU HAVE NEVER BEEN STUCK.
We’ve all said it, right, love?
“I’m STUCK!”
“I can’t do ANYTHING about XYZ!”
“It’s so unfair!”
That used to be me ALL. THE. TIME.
The reason you FEEL stuck is simple: it’s down to your PERSPECTIVE.
You get to CHOOSE how to approach any situation.
You get to CHOOSE whether to see yourself as INCAPABLE.
You get to CHOOSE the steps to take to MOVE away from your current situation.
You are IN CONTROL.
In today’s podcast, I share my thoughts on this idea of ‘STUCKNESS’.
I get how it feels - because I’ve been there, and share lots of examples from my own life.
I started ALLOWING myself to feel FREEDOM to be who I want to.
I stopped LETTING MYSELF get caught up in feelings that I couldn’t move forward.
I started TAKING choices that made me GROW.
I was never stuck, or nor were / are you.
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DID YOU KNOW THAT WATER DOES MORE THAN HYDRATE YOUR CELLS?
In today’s podcast, I’m sharing five ways that water can increase your power and abundance in the world.
For example, did you know closing your loo seat can help maintain the flow of positive energy AND prevent abundance being, quite literally, flushed away?! 🚽
There’s way more to water-driven feng shui (one of my five tips) than just shutting the toilet lid, and I dive in (ha!) on this podcast….
I also talk about baths and using them as ‘treatment’ for body and soul….
How can you use water in your meditation practice? Tune into this episode to find out!
So many ideas that will help you to step into your power by, well, getting WET!
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WATER IS POWERFUL.
A few days ago, I pulled the Animal Medicine Oracle Card of FROG.
It represents, amongst other things, a need to cleanse, with the obvious connection to washing / bathing in water.
In this podcast episode, I share all sorts of ways in which we use water in everyday life and in our spirituality.
Do you find water hypnotic, love?
I do. Staring at a waterfall, or listening to the rain.
It’s also a playful substance - when did you last jump in the puddles of a rainy day?!?
I felt called to share my musings on water with you…
Perhaps it’s a call for you, like the frog, to cleanse…
Or hop between puddles…
Or allow the grounding water of the shower to generate creative ideas…
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I’VE STRUGGLED A LOT WITH BEING AN EMPATH WITH BOUNDARIES!
I’ve even been told by others that my boundaries mean I’m NOT an empath.
What rubbish!!
Just because you are an empath, love, it doesn’t mean that you have to condone everything others do.
You get to have BOUNDARIES!
You get to say, “I love you, but that’s not an acceptable behaviour.”
I’ve done this with a few people recently.
It feels GOOD.
If someone doesn’t wish to turn up as their best self, that’s on THEM…
But I don’t have to put up with it.
I get to be an empath AND value myself.
In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how we get to be both empathetic and people who condemn things like The Capitol insurrection…
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HOW TO UNDERSTAND THE CAPITOL RIOTERS’ ACTIONS, WHILST CONDEMNING THEM.
I’ve found it hard to reconcile my feelings about the insurrection at The Capitol.
I see each and every one of those rioters as gaslit, misled by a desperate man out of his depth.
When any of us are lied to, we become VICTIMS of those lies.
If we act heinously on those lies, do we remain victims?
This was the question I kept asking myself.
I believe that the rioters were victims of Trump’s hate speech and lies… HOWEVER…
The violent acts they committed - the theft, the bloodshed, the murder, those cannot be condoned.
We each have FREE WILL.
Whilst we can be manipulated to believe lies, we still get to CHOOSE our reactions.
Those rioters may have believed VP Pence could overturn Biden becoming president (he couldn’t)…
They may have believed in the ‘election fraud’ (of which there’s no evidence)…
Those things would understandably piss them off.
But they chose to take their anger and turn it into violence.
I have to remind myself that being an empath is about understanding, not condoning.
I understand why those rioters felt the need to commit violent acts.
But I DO NOT condone it.
I get to understand people, but also have boundaries around acceptable behaviour.
This is what I’m discussing on today’s podcast - maybe it’s controversial, but it’s important!
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HATE IS NEVER WARRANTED - NO MATTER WHO IT’S FOR.⠀
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Today’s pod and blog offer you five ways you can begin to create HARMONY in your relationships, and the WORLD at large, love.⠀
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The primary thing you need to know is that hate only begets hate.⠀
Every time you say you hate someone, the energy you create is just that of more hatred. ⠀
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We can dislike people’s opinions and their actions. ⠀
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BUT… we can STILL empathise with them. ⠀
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Empathy isn’t about condoning, it’s about UNDERSTANDING.⠀
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So I understand where the Capitol rioters desires for violence came from. ⠀
I do not condone them.⠀
I condemn their actions, but I don’t write them off as humans.⠀
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It is UNACCEPTABLE behaviour, but that doesn’t mean the person is so totally irredeemable that we should hate them. ⠀
After all, that only plays into their hands - their “us and them” viewpoint.⠀
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Hate is not the way forward. From ANY of us. ⠀⠀
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FREE SPEECH IS WAY MORE EXPENSIVE THAN WE MIGHT THINK.⠀
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In today’s podcast, I’m talking about the PAIN of freedom of speech.⠀
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With Donald Trump’s very public banning from Twitter, many questions are coming up.⠀
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Where does freedom of speech stop, and hate speech start?⠀
Are we even ALLOWED to hate anymore?⠀
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What’s my DUTY as a poster?⠀
What’s my DUTY as a reader?⠀
Where does the user’s role stop, and the social media companies’ role start?⠀
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So. Many. Questions.⠀
So. Many. Grey. Areas.⠀
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I also, perhaps controversially look at HYPOCRITICAL behaviour…
Those who say, “I hate Trump because of his attitude towards [insert any minority ever here]” are as bad as Trump himself. ⠀
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Hatred of ANYONE is never going to foster harmony… or is it?!⠀
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Are you struggling to get started in the new year?
I am, and that's why I'm putting out an episode all about goals for 2021.
I KNOW that when I have a goal in mind, it's easier to motivate myself to DO stuff... rather than sit and eat leftover mince pies and chocolate (doing that too!).
When you know the steps you can take (always break goals down!), there's ALWAYS something you can do towards your ambitions and dreams.
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So I've spent several days painting my spare room...
Who'd have thought it could teach me life lessons?! Have a listen to find out exactly what I learned along the way...
No coveralls or masking tape required!!
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2020's been hard as NAILS. I know that, you know that, we all know that.
Spending time apart from our loved ones has been painful.
But is Christmas really the time to let our guard down? Today, I share my thoughts and a reminder that we all will get through this.
2021 can only get better, one must hope, right?!
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December is an important time. Many religions have December festivals of some kind, but I think even if you're not religious or your religion isn't one that is celebrating in December, it’s a month when we all tend to come together.
2020 has obviously thrown a curveball in terms of celebrations this year, but that doesn’t detract from this time of year. The trees are still up, the menorahs still lit, only this year’s reminder feels like one of reflection, rather than fun.
None of this means that the holidays feel any less stressful, though – we still care about showing up in the right way for relatives. This year, arguably, it’s more stressful than ever, having to make decisions about who we see and how we protect them. And that’s on top of the usual Christmas stresses.
I’m resharing last year's holiday episode because the content is still relevant, even in the midst of a global pandemic. Just because we’ve all realised how we usually take spending time with others for granted, it doesn’t mean that the holidays will be a walk in the park.
Holidays stress is a real thing, every year. Many people simply don't like Christmas - and that's perfectly okay. No one should judge you for that.
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ONE POTATO, TWO POTATO, THREE POTATO, FOUR. I SAT COUNTING THE CALORIES IN MY HEAD.
I didn’t notice the pretty table centres, the scent of pine needles on the air, or the crackling of the log fire.
All I noticed was what was on my plate.
That’s how previous Christmas meals have often looked for me.
I was judging myself from the second I sat down to eat, intensely focussed on each roast potato, every carrot, every bite of turkey.
In today’s blog and podcast, I’m sharing FIVE super important things I’ve learned in my self love journey.
I realised that I needed to stop the judgment, to let my body dictate what she wants to eat, and to love her regardless of her weight.
My weight does not define me.
My [outer] body does not define me.
I define myself by who I am, not what I am!
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I SHAMED WOMEN IN THE BODY POSITIVITY MOVEMENT. This is my most confessional / vulnerable / emotional blog and pod yet!
I wasn’t one of those people who trolled their threads, love.
My opinions were in my own head.
But I was still a BODY SHAMER.
I didn’t understand what body positivity was.
I believed that women involved in the movement were condoning the extremes of obesity and anorexia.
I thought it was promotion of the most unhealthy type.
Then I realised that these women weren’t judging their WEIGHT.
To them, they were appreciative of their bodies, accepting themselves whatever the number of the scale.
They were showing that a body was about a LOT more than just weight.
In my own weight release journey, I’ve come to realise that without body positivity, I simply don’t release weight.
If someone was bullying me, then asked for a favour, I’d tell them to eff off.
I was doing that by asking my body to release weight, while berating her for being too big / ugly etc.
Hit up the link in my bio to understand more about the journey I’ve been on with accepting my body.
Gratitude for this body I’m in has made a world of difference to me.
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I CAN BE THE WORST KIND OF ADVICE GIVER.
What bugs you about advice givers most of all, love?
I bet your first answer will be: the givers of UNSOLICITED advice.
No matter how well-meaning that advice is.
GUILTY. As. Charged.
I realised the other day that I often give unsolicited advice.
It’s resulted in me getting it thrown back in my face A LOT.
And it SUCKS when people hate your advice, right?!
Now I’ve noticed, I’ve adopted two new advice-giving methods:
Blog or pod it instead of offering advice directly - who KNOWS how many more people I’ll help doing that?! Drop. The. Mic. [or pen, I guess, for a blog… or keyboard key…]
I OFFER advice [I know, mind-blowing, right?!] - “wanna hear the advice I’ve got on this, let me know!!”
In today’s BLOG AND POD, I share 5 top tips for advice-giving… It’s not easy, eh, love?!
I’m sharing my experience and… oh… yeah…. ADVICE!!!
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If you get upset when someone rejects your help / advice, you need to listen!
You are CHOOSING to get upset, love.
You are CHOOSING to feel frustrated.
You are CHOOSING to give meaning to someone else’s opinion.
Nothing means anything except the meaning you give to it.
And I do all of those things too, but now I see that there are ways to avoid the PAIN.
I was letting myself feel discomfort when my advice didn’t HIT HOME…
Then I realised two important things:
We are all on a different journey - some of us take longer than others to be ready to accept advice…
I have ZERO CONTROL over how others receive the GIFT of my advice..
I KNOW my stuff. I have faith in myself to help others.
I am AWESOME at coaching others, if they’re ready and willing to accept the help.
The GIFT of my help - bc that’s exactly what it is.
I have a gift from the universe - to be able to assimilate all my experience and knowledge with my strong intuition and empathy.
That gift is one I pass on to others.
It’s not my job to judge how the gift is received.
My purpose is simply to put the information out into the world.
I share it, not knowing who will receive it, or how.
SHARING is my job, controlling the response of others is not.
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It's time to start trusting ourselves more.... and here are 10 ways to start doing this!!
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“What will it take for you to trust yourself?”
I’m in a transformation programme (TCP by @iamjimfortin ) right now, and one of the coaches asked me that question.
I get stuck in not trusting myself and the universe. When I don’t trust, I not only feel bad, I also feel STUCK.
I can SEE that, and yet I still struggle with self-trust.
Today, I’m admitting that this podcast is as much (more?!) for me as you, love.
And it is FASCINATING some of the benefits that having self-trust can give us (altruistic volunteering, anyone?!)
I’m sharing this because I hope that you’ll learn as much as I did.
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WHAT I’VE LEARNED THIS YEAR… 🎉⠀
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In today’s podcast [link in bio], I’m sharing 50 things that I’ve learned since my last birthday…⠀
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And what a YEAR it’s been to have learnings in, right?!⠀
2020 has been like no other… and the lessons have come thick and fast for all of us, right, love?⠀
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What’s the greatest thing you’ve learnt from 2020 - so far (because, let’s face it, knowing this year, it’s not done with us yet!!)?
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It was my birthday a couple of days ago. 🎂⠀
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In today’s podcast, I’m resharing an episode from last year, where I gave you some ideas for handling birthdays when you’re not a fan of them! ⠀
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I couldn’t have envisaged how much the world would’ve changed in the 12 months since I recorded that episode. 😳⠀
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Back then, I’d not even HEARD of a ‘lockdown birthday’, let alone lived through one!⠀
We are in a changing world right now. 😮⠀
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And yet, a birthday is a birthday is a birthday. ⠀
If you don’t like them, love, then take a listen to this episode - it’s my most popular that I’ve ever recorded!! 🎉⠀
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Why don’t you have a bucket list? It’s not as if you’re not dying…
We’re all dying.
You, me, and everyone we’re surrounded by.
Death is the ultimate fact of life.
In today’s pod, I’m outlining how to go about drawing up a living bucket list.
They’re SUPER speedy to read / listen to, and will give you lots of ideas for the FIVE key areas I think need to be considered for your bucket list!
Given that we’re all dying, why don’t we compile our bucket list NOW?
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If You Die Tomorrow, Will You Have Regrets?
So it’s a macabre question, I know, but will you?
I’m pretty sure your answer will be “yes”. Mine was too, love.
You see, we get so busy with LIVING that we let ourselves FORGET that we’re dying.
And what happens then? We stop prioritising things - we let our lives fill with busy-ness that doesn’t serve us.
Think about terminally ill people who compile a bucket list.
The only reason they NEED a bucket list is because they didn’t remember they were dying, until someone told them.
If they had remembered they were dying every day of their lives, they’d have had no regrets.
There would be no bucket list because they’d have fulfilled all those dreams and wishes.
I know it’s SCARY to look death in the face.
But it is the greatest TEACHER we could ever ask for.
The guillotine is falling as soon as we’re CONCEIVED, before we’re even born.
And yet we refuse to talk about death, like we’re somehow going to outrun it by doing so.
When my mother-in-law was terminal, no one would talk with her about her death, her funeral.
Except me.
I was seen as macabre for this, but it was important to her - and me.
I’ve seen many people close to me die around 70. Yes, that’s ‘too young’.
But it’s made me realise that we never know when will be our last day.
So now what am I doing?
I’m trying to make every day count.
I am dying, and so are you.
It’s time to realise that death is what makes life worth living to the max.
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I WAS CLUELESS ABOUT WHAT MY HABITS EVEN WERE…. HOW COULD I CHANGE THE ‘BAD’ ONES, IF I DIDN’T EVEN SEE THEM?!
In today’s podcast, I’m sharing 5 steps to change your habits.
The first step, to me, was the MOST IMPORTANT.
I had to go through an exercise that highlighted what habits I had.
It sounds stupid to say I didn’t know my habits.
Of course, I knew some of them, but until I undertook the activity I describe in step one of this process, I didn’t know exactly what they were.
It’s not stupid to not know all your habits, love.
Unless we’re really diligent, it’s REALLY easy to miss them…
That’s why I had to put together the guidance in today’s pod and blog about exactly how to go about CHANGING YOUR HABITS!
Can’t wait to hear how you get on with this, love!!
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NO ONE EVER PICKED UP A DRINK THINKING “I’M GOING TO GET ADDICTED TO THIS.”
We don’t always make our decisions about our habits consciously.
The ones that end up not serving us are, indeed, the most unlikely to been stepped into knowingly.
Maybe you took a drink to steel your nerves for a first date, love?
Or found that you were ‘lucky’ when you won a bet?
Perhaps you were feeling lonely in your relationship, and porn filled the intimacy gap?
The problem is that EVERY HABIT is on a SEESAW.
It starts out serving you - you’re less shy; you feel lucky; you don’t feel so lonely, etc.
Gradually you move towards the seesaw’s pivot point, and that’s where the trouble starts.
After the pivot, comes the ‘downhill’.
The habit has become UNSERVING.
The drinks mean you’re at work with a hangover.
The bets mean you’re scared to look at your bank account.
The porn means you feel constant shame.
YOU DIDN’T KNOW THAT WOULD HAPPEN.
People say BS like “Oh alcohol is always a slippery slope - (s)he must’ve known that.”
Why MUST you have known that, love?
Especially for yourself…
You see, our habits can be MANIPULATIVE - they make us believe that we’ll be in the vast majority of the world…
That vast majority that don’t let drinking, gambling, porn become unserving to them.
NEVER BEAT YOURSELF UP FOR THE 1ST OR 101ST TIME YOU PICKED UP.
YOU CANNOT CHANGE THE PAST.
But you CAN change the future.
In today’s pod, I’m talking all sorts of habits - not just addiction.
I believe in you, love.
Have you ever started tracking something, then stopped? Why?
I’m pretty sure your answer will be something to do with it not offering you enough information. You might say you got bored, or you forgot, but would you have felt that way, if the data you were getting from it was useful?
I started – and stopped – tracking many things, many times until I found a five-step process. I have not stopped tracking anything, except when I’ve hit a goal, since I came up with this method.
I hope that the principles I’m sharing in today’s pod and blog will give you everything you need to reach your goals!
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I WAS CONVINCED I WAS A WEIGHT LOSS SCIENTIFIC ANOMALY. I wasn’t.
And you’re probably not either, love: you’re just UNIQUE.
How often do people tell you to do this to release weight, or do that, or do the other?
How often have you see things touting GUARANTEES?!
Yup, a lot, right?!
And nothing’s working for you either, love?
Well. Here’s what worked for me. TRACKING.
It sounds boring, doesn’t it?
Calories in.
Calories out.
Weight.
Full disclosure: I also track my macros and hours in keto (through intermittent fasting).
You learn what to track - calories in vs calories out didn’t work for me, so then I started tracking macros (carbs, protein, fat).
That was the breakthrough for me.
Every habit is a SCIENCE.
Figure out what makes it better, and do more of that.
Figure out what makes it worse, and do less of that. ⛔️
This latest podcast is all about how tracking has worked for me - and some of the pitfalls to avoid!
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HELLO, I’M KELLER AND I’M AN ALTER EGO… ⠀
I’ve worked for a long time at manifesting material things into my life - cars, houses, investment value increases, and so on…⠀
BUT I’ve never really worked on manifesting an IDENTITY that fits with how I want my life to look.
That’s where my ALTER EGO comes in… Keller… She’s pretty badass and 100 times more awesome than my old identity!⠀
When I’m stuck, I remind myself of my future identity, and ask one important question:⠀
“What would Keller do?”
The answers aren’t always cut and dried, but they are useful…
Talking of answers, wanna know how I came up with her name, love?⠀
Well, overthinker that I am [most people just pick any name], I decided to ask my subconscious.⠀
I asked before bed, and then had a dream in which the name Keller came to me.⠀
I laughed as the only thing I knew Keller to mean was “cellar” in German - I giggled that even my subconscious had noticed I like a glass of wine!⠀
I don’t know why, but a few days later, I felt drawn to hit up name meanings on Google.
And, lo and behold, there was the name.⠀
In Gaelic, Keller means ‘LITTLE CHAMPION’….⠀
The universe speaks to us in mysterious ways - and she has a sense of humour, clearly!!⠀
I’m even more delighted with my alter ego now I know she has such an empowering name!⠀
In today’s pod and blog, I’m sharing Keller’s whole biography, as an example for you to find your own!⠀
And the 11 POWERFUL questions I asked myself to dream up my alter ego.
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YOU NEED AN ALTER EGO - here's why!
Do you remember as a kid you aspired to be the popstar of the moment? The way we'd copy exactly what they did.
Alter egos in adult life are kinda similar.
You see, if you don't have what you want already, love, you're not going to get it unless you start thinking about your identity.
For example, if you see yourself as "overweight person" (this is a biggie, pun intended, for me), you can't be normal weight.
Your identity matters. It's how you see yourself, and what you believe - in your subconscious - that you're capable of.
How many people do you know who flip between overweight and slim? I know plenty - myself included. Why do you think they can't keep up the weight loss?
It's all about their identity. They have the "fat person" belief.
The people who release weight and keep it off? They've changed their internal identity. They now believe in themselves as "slim person".
Changing your identity is HARD. That's why I'm sharing a little technique to help you on your way: the alter ego.
It's amazing how you can look at the traits that are aligned with what you want and turn the volume up on them. Then you'll instantly start attracting everything you want in life...
Sustained weight...
Consistent bank account...
Growing abundance...
Stable relationships...
AND MORE!
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EVEN JOYOUS EVENTS CAN TEACH US SOMETHING!
How often do you experience something AMAZING, scream about it on social media and then….⠀
FORGET about it?
Yup, me too!
Have you heard the quote that “Success always leaves footprints” (Booker T Washington), love?⠀
If you’re anything like me, you let the footprints of negative events stay imprinted on your fragile heart FOREVER.
You let them pain you whenever you think about them, and assume they’ll always be there, right?
But the footprints from successful experiences?
Maybe like me, they pass as quickly as those made in sand once the tide comes in…
I’ve heard LOTS about how we should always look for the positive in negative situations…⠀
And I’ve always tried to do that: find the learning points, so that it doesn’t happen again.⠀
Yet, I’ve heard very few people talking about learning from the experiences that we ADORE! ⠀
It’s the same, though, right? ⠀
Just instead of looking for the learning to teach us to avoid these things in future, we want to know how to get MORE of them.
In today’s BLOG and PODCAST, I’m sharing a FIVE STEP PROCESS that works for both enjoyable and painful experiences! ⠀
I want you to get All. The. Learning, love… good and bad…
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I’ve spent more than a DECADE feeling upset about my university degree.
I felt like a FAILURE because I didn’t think the grade was good enough.
That grade - to my mind - was too AVERAGE. Actually. BELOW average.
What I did…
-- Took every degree and diploma going to try and make up for it - DIDN’T WORK
-- Became an accountant to prove I was academic AF - DIDN’T WORK
-- Continually reminded myself of it, so that I never did worse than I hoped again - DIDN’T WORK
-- Told myself I was useless and stupid - DIDN’T WORK
It took me nearly THIRTEEN YEARS to realise that those things hadn’t worked - and that I could try to THINK DIFFERENTLY! Mind. Blown. 🤯
I came at it from a different angle: I asked a simple question.
WHAT DID GETTING A 2.2 (like a US GPA 4.0 or so) TEACH ME?
Thus far, it had taught me nothing except berating myself wasn’t helpful.
But I thought harder… And I realised that everything we go through is a learning point.
Not doing as well as I hoped on that degree taught me…
++ Things don’t always go as we want
++ We do not die from things not going as we’d like
++ People still love us, regardless of our degree (I got married to someone I met after I got my 2.2 - imagine that!)
++ A 2.2 degree doesn’t ruin your job chances (no matter how ‘too academic’ the job you eventually get is…!)
I can tell you - it’s FREEING to realise that we get to investigate what we can learn from all the events we go through.
In this podcast, you'll hear all about how you can turn the bad feelings into good ones!
DON’T “MAKE THE BEST OF WHAT YOU HAVE” - that’s doing yourself a disservice!
Here’s why…
Who already has what you want?
Do you think they sat around waiting for it to happen, love?
Or do you think they turned the volume up on their personality traits that would most help them get the things they desired?
I’m pretty confident the characteristics came first.
If you can emulate the characteristics of someone who already has what you want, you are WINNING.
It is this modelling that will help you to call in everything you’ve ever wanted.
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I TRIPLED MY PODCAST DOWNLOADS IN 2 MONTHS… Here’s how you can win your dreams too!
My manifestation game is strong.
The universe is always on my side.
So I was kinda surprised at the long-standing nature of one of my manifestation desires.
The desire is to hit 1m podcast downloads - and, no, I’m not there yet… but the months after committing to this didn’t show much growth AT ALL.
I kept asking myself what I’d done wrong - as I KNOW when manifestation isn’t working, it’s because there’s a boo-boo in the process somewhere.
It IS an exact science - it’s as much a universal law as gravity is.
That was when I realised that I didn’t FEEL like a one-million plus podcaster.
I didn’t feel worthy of that honour.
I wasn’t BEING the one-million podcaster BEFORE I got there.
I looked at the personality traits of those who already had what I wanted.
I started to emulate their behaviours, and that’s when my podcast downloads tripled in two months.
The universe finally recognised that I was worthy of being set on the 1m download journey.
In today’s podcast, I’m talking about how we have to STOP ASPIRING and START BEING
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I KNOW WHY YOU CAN’T MANIFEST ANYTHING. Yes, I darned well do!!
There are VERY few things in life that I 100% trust myself helping others with, but fixing manifestation?
Hell, YES!
I’m sharing my five QUICK START manifestation tips - these are GOLD DUST.
Do you feel like you can’t get anything you want in life, love?
Or maybe you think you’re doing EVERYTHING to manifest and IT’S. NOT. WORKING?
Or perhaps you love the IDEA of manifestation, but have no clue to start? [Heck, that was me!]
Frankly I am EXCITED - as I KNOW these tips are going to get you things you want from life.
I don’t say that often, do I, love?
I often CAVEAT to the HILT - “This MIGHT help”… “MAYBE this will work for you”…. “PERHAPS you might wanna try this”…
Well, I’m not caveating these tips - RUN, don’t walk… unless you’re carrying scissors...!
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GETTING EVERYTHING YOU WANT IS POSSIBLE - BUT THERE ARE TRAPS TO AVOID!
And I’m here to be your guide to avoid those downfalls!⠀
In today’s podcast episode, I’m excited to share answers to a question I get asked a lot:⠀
“Does manifestation really exist? I’ve tried it a couple times, but it doesn’t work for me.”⠀
Have you ever asked that, love? I have!
I didn’t realise that manifestation was my responsibility, as well as the universe’s. ⠀
I thought that things would “just happen.”
Imagine this…⠀
If as a kid, you’d had that same attitude to learning to walk, you’d still be crawling.
Kids do not give up - they appreciate things are a learning curve. ⠀
They seem to get that while practice may not make perfect, it does make things a hell of a lot easier.⠀
If you’re failing to manifest anything right now, and feel like you’re doing ALL. The. Things, you need to listen to today’s pod.
I PROMISE you that there is no reason why it doesn’t work for you that can’t be solved.⠀
I’m proof that it works.
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MY BRAIN IS NOT AS RELIABLE AS I’D LIKE TO THINK
I pretty much trusted my brain for YEARS.
I believed everything it told me.
That was a terrible idea.
I had a Stockholm Syndrome type relationship with my brain.
It had caught me so hard that I no longer believed it was anything other than my friend.
It was not my friend.
You know why?
Because I was not my friend.
I was not my friend.
And I was saying things in passing, wondering maybe whether saying the labels aloud made them fit…
“I’m stupid…”
“I’m ugly…”
“I’m too fat…”
I was just trying them for size the first few times, but my brain was LISTENING.
And that’s how those awful labels ended up in my subconscious.
Lying in wait to trip me up frequently.
As @igntd.me ’s #OnceAnAddict campaign is proving: these labels can alter our lives.
Someone who labels themselves an “addict” is WAY more than that, even if they don’t see it.
But what label do they carry with them? The stigma of the ‘addict’ label…
These negative and judgmental labels are not good for us.
My latest episode has a FIVE STEP PROCESS to shake up your brain!
Start using your brain for good - learn to drop the labels and replace them with healthier ones.
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I LABELLED MYSELF AS "FAT AND UGLY".
Do you know what happens when you put a label like that on yourself?
You believe it.
Your brain doesn’t analyse the stuff you’re telling it - it just accepts it.
Then what happens when you’re next making a decision?
Your brain jumps to a conclusion for you, based on all those labels you hold within your identity.
Me: “Hmmm, do I want another cake?”
Subconscious: “I’m fat”
Decision: “Might as well, I’m fat already”
Me: “Should I go live on Instagram?”
Subconscious: “I’m ugly”
Decision: “No way, I’m not cute enough for that!”
Me: “Should I start coaching others?”
Subconscious: “I’m not good enough”
Decision: “Nope - you’re not good enough.”
We let ourselves live our lives by these subconscious beliefs and labels that sit in the depths of our being.
Things from years ago are dictating everything you do.
But we can drop the labels - that’s what’s so exciting!!
This was inspired by Dr Adi Jaffe / IGNTD's #OnceAnAddict campaign - check it out at igntd.com/oaa
It’s time to drop the stigma and labels around addiction.
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IT’S NOT EASY TO TRUST THE UNIVERSE. (Or God, Source, Quantum Field, or who/whatever you see as the Creator).
We live in such a noisy, chaotic world that it feels like we have to be constantly in control.
I used to feel that if I left anything up to the Universe, it may not happen as I wanted it to.
So I CLUNG to what I thought I could control, dismissing the Universe’s role as unhelpful.
And then I got outcomes I didn’t want.
And - get this! - I blamed the Universe, despite having dismissed it thinking I knew better!
Now, I know better… well… I know the Universe knows better…
And I’m sharing 5 things the Universe would want me to share with you…
These are five things I wish I’d known!
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I previously shared the first six laws of the universe. Having blogged and written that, I realised how little known and understood these laws are. It made me even keener to share the latter six with full definitions.
Before I share them, remember that you have a choice about which of these laws to believe in, and live your life by. It may be that they all resonate with you, but it may also be that only one or two feel applicable in your life. Either way, take what you need, leave what you don’t.
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If the universe could talk...! In today's episode, I'm sharing the 5 things that I think it would tell us, based on what we've learned from the universal laws.
They’re certainly five things I’ve adopted into my own life, and I’ve become more successful by doing so.
It’s easy to write them off as ‘woo woo’ or spiritual nonsense, but the truth is that it really doesn’t matter. If you believe in them, they will make your life better, no matter where you think they stem from.
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There are twelve universal laws, which we are able to use in all areas of our lives. They may seem unscientific, a little ‘woo woo’, but many are based within science. I’m sharing the first six of them, and asking you to have an open mind.
It doesn’t matter if you come to the point of disbelieving the universal laws, believing some but not others. What matters is that you are willing to consider whether they might be applicable in your life.
You can be both skeptical and open-minded.
In science, we accept that there are things we do not understand. It’s the same with the universal laws: we get to choose to regard them as unproven, rather than as false. We make that choice.
Here are the first six of laws, as I understand them, and with some ways in which I see them crop up in my own life.
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I've blogged and podded about what manifestation is to me, but today I'm addressing the skeptics in the room! I used to be a skeptic about this, so I know the myths and objections that we put out there.
Here are the top 5 myths about manifestation.
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I THOUGHT MANIFESTATION WAS NONSENSE. Until it worked for me…⠀
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Are you a skeptic?⠀
Ask anyone, and they’ll tell you I’m the greatest skeptic of all where anything spiritual / faith-based / woo-woo is concerned. ⠀
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Imagine how frustrating it was for a skeptic like me to find out manifestation actually WORKS?!
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In today’s podcast, I share some of the ways manifestation has been successful for me - and how it could be successful for you too. ⠀
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I know that you probably feel put off - you think that the person who’s normally pretty straightforward, scientific, therapeutic has lost her mind talking about all this woo-woo stuff…⠀
Trust me, I thought that about me too!
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But it works. I won’t tell you about anything that doesn’t work for me. I believe manifestation will work for you too.⠀
To the extent that I’m excited to be on this journey with you - I want to hear what YOU manifest, what you imagine is possible. ⠀
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I wouldn’t share this stuff unless I believed in it. ⠀
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So… what are you manifesting right now?⠀
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In the last podcast, I shared the changes I’d made to reverse my hypothyroidism and pre-diabetes.
It was a thorough episode, but I realise that for some, it may feel daunting to take on everything at once.
That’s why I’m sharing the first five things you could do TODAY that would start you on the path to better health.
I can't guarantee that they’ll improve your thyroid levels.
I can't guarantee they'll reverse any type two diabetes or prediabetes.
But I can guarantee that your health will be improved by doing at least some of these five steps.
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Hypothyroidism, insulin resistance, and pre-diabetes caused my physical health to deteriorate. The symptoms associated with being hypothyroid were especially trying on my mental health. Fatigue, weight gain, feeling cold all the time, and hair loss all increased my depression.
I was at such a low point emotionally that the steps I took not only saved my thyroid, but also my life.
When a blood test proved my thyroid hormones and glucose levels were out of whack, I felt frustrated. All I did was complain, and ask, “Why me?” My mental health deteriorated further than usual.
It was at that point I decided that I needed to fight back.
This podcast episode is the story of the five month fight back that ended with normalised thyroid hormones, and no sign of diabetes.
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In the last podcast episode, we talked about what values mean to us, and how we (and others) are able to shape our own personal values.
We talked about the importance of being conscious of what personal core values we are developing, so in this episode, I'm sharing an easy process to find out what your values are right now.
By questioning how you show up in significant moments in your life, both good and bad, you'll be able to determine what your are.
In my experience, I found that "care for others," "reliability" and a "sense of community" came from the fulfilling activity of making scrubs for healthcare workers. I was then able to see these cropping up elsewhere in my life (e.g. making this podcast), and realised that these are values that are deeply embedded within me.
Having a list of the values my moral code seems to consist of was incredibly helpful. It allowed me to think about which values I want to exploit more, and which might be ones I'd like to remove (because - spoiler alert - some of us display ethics that we have subconsciously absorbed and don't truly serve us).
"Loyalty" was a value this process led me to really question. I realised that a conflict with a relative was so painful to me because I'm incredibly loyal. If I only looked at the way that value showed up in that event, I'd probably have wanted to leave it behind because it was incredibly painful.
The process, though, of examining these values more closely led me to be able to analyse other places that my loyalty shows up: for example, I'm a friend, who will check in on people regularly, and continuously stand beside them in whatever they face. That's not painful, that's fulfilling - a reason to keep and use my loyalty even more!
I also came to realise something else important about my personal core values: they also dictate what I'm passion about, and help me to define what activities are in alignment with who I am.
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"IT'S NOT WORTH IT" <--- WHO SAYS?!
Value is defined by the Google Dictionary as “the regard that something is held to deserve; the importance, worth, or usefulness of something.”
Thus, when we say "it's not worth $50", we're making a judgement call. We're actually saying that thing "doesn't hold $50 of value for me".
I love my $200 body composition bathroom scales, but if you offered me (and I could easily afford) a $200k+ DEXA scanner, would I want it?
The call I'd make is whether it was 1000x (i.e. $200k / $200) more useful / worthwhile to me. For me, the answer would be "no", but for a pro-athlete? Maybe a different response.
Value isn't assigned by the price on the label, but by the buyer - and, because it's an opinion the buyer holds, it means the seller can change their mind.
Essentially, business marketing is about persuading someone that something is useful to them.
But what about the OTHER definition of "value"? The personal one?
Google Dictionary defines this as "principles or standards of behaviour; one's judgement of what is important in life."
I have inbuilt values that dictate how I live my life on a day to day basis.
But how do these compare to monetary values?
Well! Just like a good marketing campaign can shape what you believe the worth is of a product or service, your personal values and ethics can also be shaped by external 'forces'.
Our values come from past stories that we have told ourselves or have heard or seen from those around us. It means that we begin to ABSORB even the most personal of ethical morals from what is going on around us.
We may not previously have thought much about having the personal value of "protecting others", for example, and yet now we are wearing masks to help avoid others suffering. This new value many of us are developing has come from news stories, WHO advice, government campaigns and so on.
We have been shaped into people who protect others (through the use of masks) by the information that we are absorbing. We would not necessarily have automatically come to do this, and make this association between a strong ethical demand to protect others, and the wearing of a face covering.
Whilst this is a GOOD (in my opinion) shifting of personal values, we need to be conscious of what we are subconsciously absorbing. Just as when we spend money, we use a cost-benefit analysis ("is this worth $50 to me?"), we need to be thinking of our personal values similarly.
"Is protecting others worthwhile to me? Is this a value I want to adopt?" [I hope your answer is "yes" to this one, by the way!].
There is value in EVERYTHING to someone - you just need to work out if that someone is you.
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WANT TO AVOID THE EMPATHY TRAP PAIN? Here's how!
Being an empath and / or highly sensitive person can be painful, and finding our way through this can be difficult.
I have been called stand-off-ish / nosy / trying to live in people's heads etc etc. Simply for being my authentic self.
In today's podcast, I'm sharing five things that happen for me regularly and that I've developed some awesome tips / hacks to overcome!
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ONE MASSIVE PART OF MY PERSONALITY I RUN FROM - my empathy.
It sounds kinda silly to be frightened of something that is supposed to [and, indeed DOES] bring about deep, passionate, purposeful connections with people, animals and situations.
But it can get incredibly painful - absorbing EVERYONE'S emotions, not always being capable of working out which feelings actually belong to me...
I also attempt to problem solve, whether I'm asked to or not - that's led to a few 'heated discussions' over the years...
These things convinced me that I didn't WANT to be an empath, that I needed to run as fast and far as possible from this godforsaken 'skill'.
My coach and I have touched on this a number of times over the last few years, but it's only in the last month or so that I've honestly made a commitment to accept this as a part of me.
It feels bizarre to embrace something that doesn't have scientific explanation. I'm ever the skeptic about woo-woo...
In today's podcast, I'm sharing the pros and cons of being someone who just can't connect on a shallow level!
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We can find out what our preferential growing conditions are: just like plants, it's possible to determine the best combination of factors for growth.
In today's episode, I share my top five things I believe we can learn from PLANTS, in order to improve our lives and prospects for personal development.
It's only a short episode, but it's life changing - Be More Plant.
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Did you know that you're just a glorified carrot?
Like vegetables, we need conditions to be just right for us to grow.
Water, feeding, sunlight, temperature, greenhouse vs outside, soil, size of container - plants are fussy little creatures, really!
But - newsflash! - where our personal development is concerned, we need to be just as FINICKY!
Sometimes, we get so out of control that we do things we don't even know will help us grow - stressed veggie plants do that too, they put out a heap of male flowers, and no fruit.
They are producing pointlessly, simply panicking - and we do the same sometimes.
But, the truth is, gardeners have learned to treat plants in the optimum way to maximise ripe fruit or flowers. And we can do the same with our progress... we just have to pay attention to what works for us!
Plants just keep growing towards the light, like we grow towards our goals, when the environment is working for us.
And we have one MASSIVE benefit over plants - they have a limited growing window, but we have every day of our whole lives.
In today's podcast, I discuss how we owe it to ourselves to create the right personal growth conditions for ourselves and stick to them consistently. Just like that herb plant growing on your windowsill.
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The barrier to change / a great job / decent healthcare / acceptance is never YOU.
The barrier is societal patriarchy... white supremacy... systemic racism... culturally engrained homophobia... and so on...
In today's episode, I share the five steps I use to go from seeing MYSELF as the problem to viewing the TRUE obstacle.
We cannot bring change, unless we're ready to see how society's perception of certain groups is the genuine barrier, rather than things we cannot change (e.g. skin colour / sexuality etc).
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"I'm female, therefore I can't get a boardroom job" = being female is the problem. NO!
The barrier is societal patriarchy.
"I'm Black, therefore I can't get optimal healthcare" = being Black is the problem. NO!
The obstacle is systemic racism.
"I'm gay, therefore I am not accepted into this religion" = being gay is the problem. NO!
The issue is culturally engrained homophobia.
YOU are never the problem, and by labelling the problem as yours because of something you can't change, you're ignoring what you CAN change: society's perception of your skin colour / sexuality / gender / religion etc etc.
In today's episode, I discuss why this is such a huge problem, and how by saying something is specifically our fault, we are shunning responsibility and actually doing a disservice to all those who are like us!
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In today's episode, I'm sharing my APING five step method for moving into a place of neutrality about situations in your past... and using those situations to propel you forward with responsible action!
If you haven't listened to the previous episode, all about how we move through anger / self blame to a place of responsibility for our [re]actions, please do so. It will make this episode make waaaay more sense!
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I've let myself DWELL on all sorts of things in the past, either [usually, in my case] believing I was totally to blame for something, or seething with resentment that I had been wronged.
The reality is that most events sat appropriately in neither of those camps. But that doesn't matter - in today's episode, I'm sharing how it DOESN'T MATTER who is to blame for an event!
What matters is taking responsibility for YOUR [re]actions... If you're anything like me, I can replay events for YEARS afterwards - and what good does that serve?
I go deeper down the spiral of feeling impotent / self-blaming / angry. The only person I'm punishing? Myself. Anyone else involved will likely have long forgotten what happened.
I've been reading an excellent book on this - Kain Ramsay's 'Responsibility Rebellion' - and it's made me think A LOT about how we all shun responsibility sometimes...
Today's podcast will enlighten you as to why it SUCKS to always be stuck in a position of refusing to take responsibility, and I show you how just by changing up our language, we can go from self blame to responsibility!
Look out for the next episode, where I'll be sharing my APING five step method for moving into a place of neutrality about situations in your past... and using those situations to propel you forward with responsible action!
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In the last episode, I shared with you my thoughts on intuition and gut feeling - and why we should be listening to them more!
But I didn't share HOW to tune into that part of yourself, that strange edge between the conscious and subconscious...
So... Today, I'm sharing my top 5 tips to connect with your gut. It doesn't mean you have to follow the advice you come away with (though I strongly encourage you to take it seriously), but at least you will know it.
Power is in hearing both sides: the logic AND the heart-driven desire.
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Do you ever doubt your gut feeling? I do All. The. Time. It's like I believe that logic / science / brainpower are always right, and my heart is always wrong.
We trust the more traditional senses, despite knowing we don't all see exactly the same colour for "red", or not all feeling the same level of pain from a papercut (ouch!).
Our ancestors used intuition to save themselves from danger - indeed, most animals still do.
In today's episode, I discuss why not every outcome is statistically predictable (even SCIENCE gets it wrong sometimes!) - and sometimes we just need to trust our heart.
I also talk about the TOP THREE reasons why I think we don't trust ourselves. These are FIRE, and just knowing them can improve our ability to see situations where we could rely more on our intuition.
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How often have you been sent a 'news' story by someone on Facebook, only to KNOW it's factually inaccurate?
Trump was right all along: fake news DOES exist. It's just not normally the news stories HE thinks are fake...
There are all sorts of reasons why fake news gets written in the first place: genuine misunderstanding; propaganda; entertainment; ad revenue from the website the story is placed on, etc. etc.
But what REALLY works for this fake news? You, me and gazillions of people sharing this stuff.
In today's episode, I share my top five tips to avoid sharing fake news - this is SO important, especially as the US is in election mode, the world is in coronavirus lockdown, and the UK is enduring the realities of Brexit.
Be responsible in what you share: five simple steps to take before you share what you're reading. It'll make you a better and more trustworthy friend and human - because, let's face it, fake news sharing reflects badly on those of us who share it!
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"With hindsight, that was a bad decision." We've all said that, yeah?
And we've probably been asked by parents, "If X jumped off a bridge, would you do it too?" Annoying, right?
But perhaps we are NOT to blame for our desire to copy others, to ignore the logic and plough on regardless.
PRESTIGE BIAS is exactly this: the people we look up to dictate our actions...
It explains why Republicans are less likely to wear a mask - because up until a few days ago, President Trump refused to do so...
Remember when Oprah bought a 10% stake in WW? We all decided THAT was obviously the best way to lose weight - because Oprah said so...
If I see someone I respect doing something, I am more likely to do it too.
I discuss the perils of prestige bias in today's episode, and explain how we can overcome always trusting others' opinions and decisions as being right for us, too.
How do we decide who is the RIGHT person to dictate our own prestige bias?!
How do we stop prestige bias making us devalue ourselves and lose self-esteem?
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This is a bit of a selfish podcast release. You see, I'm celebrating!!
Today marks the release of my 100th episode - a landmark I never expected to reach!
The truth is that the Wilde About Wellbeing podcast isn't Joe Rogan's, y'know, Spotify aren't going to be offering me a [rumoured] $100m+ rights deal. And that's what I thought I wanted at the beginning of all of this!
What my podcast is, though, has become something just as important to me. I love hearing when you find something that resonates - or when you have ideas of what I should be talking about.
I feel closer to my audience than Joe Rogan can feel right now. So, yes, 100 episodes in, I don't care how many are listening to me - because it only takes one person to hear it and benefit. That's all it takes to make me realise this is worthwhile and important.
In today's episode, I share the top 5 things reaching the big 1-0-0 has taught me!!
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History is written by the [so-called] victors. It always has been.
That's why I live in a country FILLED with statues of those who oppressed Black people for centuries.
I have no argument in favour of statues dedicated to those who were slavers, BUT are White people whitewashing more history?
You see, the footage of the bringing down of statues worldwide has enthralled me. In many cases (including the one a few miles down the road from me, in Bristol UK), White people are front and centre in pulling them down.
I see that as a problem - those of us who are White should NOT be engaging in this White saviourism. If we are the ones downing statues, are we not just whitewashing history?
We need to find ways to give the contextualisation of these people, without forgetting them entirely by erasing them.
I also discuss how things like The Rhodes Trust is now so unconnected with Cecil Rhodes that I simply CANNOT understand why the name / his statue is being defended so vigorously.
How can we educate kids about the HORRENDOUS treatment of Black and other People of Colour, then and now? Kids need lessons taught by Black educators - this isn’t just about fusty, dusty history lessons, it’s about culture change NOW.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Vice.com article on how to support the movement from the UK
Elle.com article on how to support Black Lives Matter from both US and UK
Free Book from The Runnymede Trust: 'Ethnicity, Race and Inequality in the UK'
Black Lives Matter
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I wasn’t going to post this podcast today, but I realised something important: White people who are saying I DON’T HAVE TIME to educate myself on race issues, like it’s an excuse for saying the wrong thing / continuing to promote their products…
We need to make the time, and - frankly - if you’re White and not ALREADY making time to educate yourself on the history of Black oppression, you’re not trying hard enough.
This podcast feels more vital than ever in helping people FIND TIME. I get that many of us are working from home, and the pressure is immense to work 24/7, since we’re now CONSTANTLY in our workplace.
If we don’t have spare time to educate ourselves, we will never learn. And it’s time White people started learning harder about Black history, racism, and why it’s TIME FOR CHANGE.
And part of finding time for the important stuff [the anti-racist movement should be top of your agenda right now, if you’re White] is being able to distinguish weekend from weekdays.
In this podcast, I talk about the ways to distinguish it - everything from only watching certain TV on the weekends, to allowing things other than work to dictate your weekend’s schedule.
Once you’ve worked out how you’re going to separate your weekends from your weekdays, it’s time to also plan how to add some anti-racist / activist content into that.
When you find the weekend, you find time for the important things.
What will you be doing this weekend to educate yourself?
I will be…
🎬 Watching ‘Malcolm X’ (the Spike Lee bio-pic) and ‘When They See Us’ [If you’ve not seen 13th - recommended to me by @dradijaffe a long while ago - prioritise that!]
📖 Reading @laylafsaad ’s ‘Me and White Supremacy’
✍🏻 Signing ALL the important petitions - [you should prioritise @changedotorg petitions for George Floyd, Ahmaud Aubery, Breonna Taylor and Belly Mujinga (not forgetting UK deaths) - links to all these in my bio]
🗣 Having difficult conversations with those around me about race
❤️ Forgiving myself for saying and doing anything wrong - I am learning right now, and I will make mistakes.
Before George Floyd's death at the hands of Minnesota police, how ANTI-RACIST were you?
I wasn't racist, but I was a hypocrite. I would SAY I wasn't racist, and yet my IG feed and stories didn't really reflect that. I'd rarely comment on black issues, as I didn't feel it was my place.
The truth is: anti-racism is EVERYBODY'S place. Whether we are White, Black, Indigenous, Asian and so on, it is our place to speak out against racism.
It is our place to act against racism.
In today's podcast, I controversially discuss why some Black educators on social media may help the anti-racism cause by being more open to questions from those of other colours. Hint: it's about a thing called "Prestige Bias"...
I also touch on the hypocrisy of some of the things I'm seeing on my social media feeds, especially from brands and influencers...
And - perhaps also controversially - I talk about why I think it's about WAY more than being anti-police. The 'fuck the police' chants are conflating the fact that Black people are oppressed in MANY areas of life, not just law and order.
I close off on a question. There's been a lot on social media about not taking a Black issue and making it all about White people. I ask how we find the balance between recentering the issue around the fact that White people are RESPONSIBLE, without denigrating the suffering of BPOC communities.
It's a tough one.
Link to the podcast is in my bio - thanks for listening ❤️
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Vice.com article on how to support the movement from the UK
Elle.com article on how to support Black Lives Matter from both US and UK
Free Book from The Runnymede Trust: 'Ethnicity, Race and Inequality in the UK'
Black Lives Matter
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Has your drinking increased during quarantine? Mine has... put it this way, if alcohol were a cure all [spoiler alert: it's not!], I'm never going to get any bug, virus, bacteria right now!
My relationship with alcohol has varied a lot over the years. I was entirely sober for eight years, in AA, but the reality was that I needed to tackle the underlying reasons for drinking. Otherwise, my so-called 'addiction' would transfer elsewhere (hellooooo, cookie jar at midnight!).
In today's Wilde About Wellbeing episode, I share my FIVE steps to reduce or end your drinking RIGHT NOW.
We talk about how I've found wine tastings have made me WAY more conscious and mindful in my drinking, so that I drink less and enjoy more (shoutout here to virtual versions from Great Western Wine / Enotria and Coe, as well as John Lewis' Experiences for gin cocktail making!).
I also let you in on the 'secret' non-alcoholic brands that'll make you think you're drinking The. Real. Thing. Honestly!!
The terms alcoholic / alcoholism get thrown around a lot, when they're often not valid. And even if they are valid, who the hell wants to be living under ANY label?!
I talk about the IGNTD programme from Dr Adi Jaffe that has helped me with all areas of my life, along with an awesome offer they have right now for free online group chats. This is great, if you feel you need a little more help getting things back in control.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
IGNTD Recovery [NB: personal recommendation, I get NOTHING for recommending this to you]
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast interview with Dr Adi Jaffe
Wilde About Wellbeing blog with Dr Adi Jaffe
Article in The Guardian on increases in alcohol sales
Online wine tastings - I love Great Western Wine / Enotria and Coe's offerings
Online gin tasting - John Lewis Experiences [they also offer workshops on things like fashion, cooking, and more - so provide great distractions from habitual glugging!]
Skillshare - more great fun to distract from the habit of drinking
Why drinking isn't 'all' or 'nothing' - an article from Dr Adi Jaffe
IGNTD Podcast episode on the 1% principle
Non / Low Alcoholic Alternatives I Love:
Seedlip [gin alternatives]
Ceders [gin alternatives]
Strykk [they do rum, gin, vodka alternatives]
Aecorn [spirit alternatives]
Three Spirit Drinks [spirit alternatives]
Torres [wine alternatives]
Copenhagen Tea [sparkling wine alternatives - both no and low alcohol varieties]
BrewDog Punk AF [beer alternative]
Ambar [gluten free and alcohol free beer alternative]
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Today, we're talking boundaries, commitments and expectations. These are more important than ever right now, while we isolate with loved ones - or, on the contrary, are isolated away from them.
My husband and I have been working hard on boundaries around our relationship, our work, our time, and our other activities. These are only some of the areas where boundaries make life easier!
It's so easy to confuse how we define "expectations" vs "boundaries" vs "commitments", and I share the way I define all three of these.
I also share my tips for how I work out where my boundaries need to be set - we all have to find the compromise between ideal situations and realism!
Accountability is important, too: if we have someone who can help us stick to our boundaries, we can go far!
Don't forget that while you want others to respect your boundaries, it's so important to respect theirs too!
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Do you have enough focus on your goals? Too much - to the detriment of everything else in your life? (Guilty!)
Today's podcast episode is all about finding clarity, and working out whether you have enough of it, how to get more of it, or - and this might be a surprise... how to take your foot OFF the gas occasionally!
I think there are just FIVE questions to ask yourself, which will get your MORE clarity, less woolly thoughts, AND avoid stalling while you wait for validation from others.
Spoiler alert: take action, NEVER wait for validation from others - you are more than enough.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Marisa Peer's interview on Lewis Howes' School of Greatness podcast
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I'm as big as a house.
I'm so stupid, I'm as thick as two short planks.
I have thunder thighs.
NONE of these make sense. They're blatantly untrue (how can ANYONE be the size of a building?!), nonsensical (what even ARE thunder thighs?!), or simply untrue (I'm not stupid - there's plenty of evidence to the contrary!).
In today's short episode, we discuss the importance of how we speak to ourselves, and I talk about how the simple reminder we are good enough can help us in our language. I also outline why affirmations can be fighting a losing battle against our more negative words.
I was inspired to record this after hearing a fabulous interview with the amazing therapist, Marisa Peer, on Lewis Howes' podcast.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Marisa Peer's interview on Lewis Howes' School of Greatness podcast
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We're frequently hearing about how the government has put us in lockdown, in various countries around the world. While this may be PHYSICALLY true, it's not mentally true.
In your mind, you are the one in charge. No one else. Not the government, not your parents, not your spouse, not your depression, not your anxiety, not your fear, but YOU.
It's difficult in life in general to remember how much control we have over our own lives, but during the pandemic, that has become even harder.
Yes, we're following the rules of physical distancing, but that doesn't take away our power in so many other areas of life!
In today's shortie episode, I discuss 5 ways to remind yourself that quarantine is NOT forever, and that you are very much in charge of your reactions to it.
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Good news (pun very much intended!), you do NOT need to be a media junkie!
I know that right now we are going through a pretty newsworthy event... BUT when those statistics and stories are doing more harm than good to your mood / mental wellbeing, it's best to step away.
You know there are going to be deaths reported, and are they not the same level of tragic, whether the number is 430 or 502 or whatever?
It's not easy to reject news, and I share some of the ways I'm giving it up, putting boundaries in place, and regaining my control over its consumption. My anxiety and depression have definitely lessened now that I am more constructive around my news viewing.
I also touch on how producing in other ways can distract us from our need to consume 24/7 news articles and TV.
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In this shortie, we're talking SELF CARE in self isolation.
And I hear your "but"... kids... spouses... pets... increasing work demands!
I share FIVE steps to find time to care for your mental health, whilst also caring for others. My strategy guarantees you'll find just a little downtime - ALL for YOU!
Although this is designed for quarantine, it's applicable any time - so give it a listen, and remember that we need to regularly put ourselves first. If we don't do that, we simply cannot care for the other people / animals / work that are calling for our time.
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In today's short episode, I'm sharing ways in which YOU can make a difference to your community right now.
Maybe you have time, but no money... Money, but no time... Skills... Or just a kind heart... ALL of these can be used to benefit others, and in this episode I offer just a few ideas!
Remember: it's not about how much money or time you give, it's about helping in ANY small way that you can. Every single one of us can find five minutes to do SOMETHING that goes further than simply clapping for our health- and social-care workers.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
My Medium blog on my work to make scrubs
Captain Tom's JustGiving Page
UK-based Scrub Hub for those wanting to sew scrubs
The Makery's FREE (and super easy) scrubs pattern
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I struggled to share this episode with you... You see, I'm not being as gentle to myself as I could be...
I'm guessing you're not either.
In the best of times, we can find it hard to be kind to ourselves, but right now? Wow, whole different ball game.
In today's shortie, I'm offering the 5 questions we ALL need to ask ourselves that will help us be a little more understanding and accepting of ourselves.
We all need this episode. Especially me.
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If I asked you to visualise progress, what would you see?
For me, it's a staircase, but I recently heard someone describe their progress as 'completing the circle'....
In today's episode, I share why I think a staircase is the PERFECT way to visualise progress...
And a reminder of childhood for you... remember how difficult it was to climb UP a slide at the park?
That's why I'm throwing my weight behind a steps to success model!
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Are you a fan of meditation or mindfulness practices? Sometimes I am, sometimes I'm not.
Right now, I'm struggling to settle into 'proper' meditation, and so I came up with this gentle 'mind wandering' practice.
I hope you enjoy this as much as I do - there are NO RULES here, just letting your mind go wherever it wants to.
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Which COVID-19 personality type are you?
Today's episode is almost a bit of a quiz for you - define your personality type, and how you're reacting to Coronavirus... and then find out how you can show up as a better human being for yourself, and those around you!
I'm excited to share this theory, not least of all because I believe we can ALL experience personal development, self improvement and personal growth from this time.
Figuring out these three personality types helped me see who I DON'T want to show up as - and I hope it helps you do the same!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Worldometers statistics tracking for coronavirus / COVID-19
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I'm always inclined to focus on my ANXIETY right now - COVID-19 spreading across the world is a frightening time for all of us. It can feel almost apocalyptic.
Especially if you're a 24/7 news consumer and researcher like I am!
But today's episode is about a different PERSPECTIVE. I'm NOT saying we shouldn't be realistic about this virus - it is not a hoax, it's not something that only affects older people, and it's not a time to be a rebel and mess with the rules the government has in place for us (stay the HELL at home!).
And yet, I want you to focus, just for this short episode on the ALTERNATIVE, the more positive perspective that coronavirus is offering, worldwide.
I look at the value of FAMILY TIME during quarantine...
How we're able to exercise on our own schedule, with amazing instructors from all of the world...
And other benefits, in my top five silver linings to the Corona crisis we're enduring right now.
I am always here for YOU, feel free to get in touch, whenever you like. The anxiety is heavy for all of us right now - we can share that burden together.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Worldometers statistics tracking for coronavirus / COVID-19
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Today, there's one takeaway from the episode I want you to have
HOWEVER you react to the Coronavirus threat is LEGITIMATE.
Your reaction to what's going on in the world is your own. Make no apology for it.
In today's episode, I share my fears and discombobulation over the storm that we are weathering right now.
I also explain how we might be able to better address panic buying. Because telling someone to just stop is NEVER. Going. To. Work.
This isn't a happy-clappy kinda episode, but I want you to know that if you are in fear right now, that's perfectly okay. My anxiety is spiking BIG time: something I thought I'd got under control, but these are very different times.
I've got your back. I am here for you.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Worldometers statistics tracking for coronavirus / COVID-19
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In today's podcast, I want to introduce you to an AMAZING entrepreneur, who is changing how it FEELS to be a woman!
Charlotte Chiang is the founder of Missfits, a bra 'matchmaking service'... Seriously, ladies, just like the right life partner, the right bra can change your world!
Of course we talk lingerie, the current situation of having most CEOs of companies in that world being male, and so on. But we also touch on feminism (and why it's NOT anti-feminist to wear a bra)... the lies about bra burning... and why we should all be looking to Poland!
Today's episode is very much one "for the ladies", but guys can learn so much here too. Breasts have become such a taboo topic, and they really shouldn't be - we ALL (whatever gender you take) need to be more open about them.
By being open, we can start to (finally!) acknowledge they come in different shapes and sizes, and they don't all match what we see on porn movies. Hell no!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Missfits.co website - Charlotte's company, and where you can find the quiz to matchmake with the best bra for you!
Missfits.co Instagram - This Instagram is so inspiring to follow: there is no such thing as normal, and you'll learn that there!
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In today's podcast, I want you to know ONE important thing:
It is PERFECTLY okay to be worried about the coronavirus / COVID-19. You are not overreacting. You are not being 'over the top'.
You may be concerned, and not even be experiencing anxiety. To be honest, this is a serious situation and so it would be kind of strange, if we weren't concerned about the potential outcomes.
BUT... there are many ways to manage these feelings, in order to not get caught up permanently in a downward spiral, which only leads to panic and illogical thinking.
In today's podcast, I'm sharing the preparations I've already taken (I'm a 'prep and forget' kinda gal!).... how I'm currently protecting myself... and 5 top tips on how to deal with coronavirus / COVID-19 related anxiety / worry, and not let it get out of control.
The risks ARE low. Logically, I’m not much more at risk of COVID-19 than I was before I knew it existed. But that doesn't mean we shouldn't take it seriously.
Today's podcast is a NO JUDGMENT zone (I don't care if you've stockpiled loo rolls, disinfectant, pasta, or gin...), it's a place to get some great ideas on how to manage the fear that this virus is generating.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Research into car accident risk
Andrew Saul's research
No Germs hand sanitiser (alcohol free, UK brand)
Worldometers statistics tracking for coronavirus / COVID-19
Les Mills on Demand
BeachBody on Demand
Yoga with Adriene (free YouTube yoga)
Research into how loneliness and stress may decrease immunity (University of Ohio research, 2013).
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I struggle to show up online on the days when I'm not feeling 100%. I want to be authentic and real with my audience, but I also don't want to seem the eternal pessimist!
One of Brené Brown's quote is that we should share our scars, rather than the gaping wounds.
But it's hard, right, because sometimes we don't have time to heal the wounds before we next show up around friends, whether online or in real life.
For those days we don't have the time to heal first, in this episode I share the top five things I do to balance out my negative emotions on the bad days.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Dean Graziosi on Instagram
Brené Brown on Instagram
WAW podcast - "The Plague of Pessimism! The ten ways we can quiet our minds and self talk in the morning and at bedtime"
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Are you caring for your mental health in the best POSSIBLE way? Probably not, right?!
In today's episode, I share EIGHT things that I'm (aka WE'RE!) doing that are stopping us from moving forward and holding back our growth.
I got SUPER passionate in this episode... and I MAY go off on a few mini rants that express the frustration I feel at how EASY it would be to pull back from these mistakes... and yet how HARD it is to actually do the work!
I'm also pointing out one REALLY important fact: you do not need to be perfect. You can be mediocre. You are still More. Than. Good. Enough.
If you've ever been frustrated that your mental health or mindset is holding you back, then this is the episode for you!!
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In today's episode, we're talking critics... cynics... doubters... haters... trolls... the people who simply don't believe in you or your purpose.
I share my experience and reaction to something my mum said about my previous career, and why YOU don't need to react in the same way!
My ten tips will help you work out when to listen to the critiquing voices in your life, and how to cope with ignoring them completely and continuing on your path.
This topic is SO close to my heart - I hope you can learn from my mistake!
Quote of the Episode
“Silence your critics.
Ignore your haters.
Delete your cynics.”
Robin Sharma (The 5am Club)
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What can you give to others? Time, money, energy, knowledge?
We can all offer something different, and we can offer it to just about anyone anywhere in the world.
I spent years thinking that the only way I was able to give anything to anyone was by signing a cheque. And, of course, monetary contribution to charity matters. It's how charities are able to do their work.
But it never felt enough.
Now that I've discovered other ways I can contribute to others - through my knowledge, time, and sometimes just my love - I wanted to share some top tips with you on how I come to find the ways I can best contribute to others.
In today's episode, as well as those tips, I also share my experiences of how contributing to others makes ME happy - it feels almost SELFISH to help others ha!
Quote of the Episode
“How can I change my orientation? How do I redirect my energy, so that it’s not so much about my performance, as it is about my contribution to others?”
Kelly McGonigal on Impact Theory podcast
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Kelly McGonigal's episode on Tom Bilyeu's Impact Theory podcast
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Shannon Algeo is a yoga and meditation teacher, as well as life coach and motivational speaker. He's been named one of the top '35 Under 35 in Wellness to Watch' by Wanderlust, and hosts the incredible Soulfeed Podcast.
You know how the term "motivational speaker" gets thrown around these days, without any real meaning? When I met Shannon and attended his yoga nidra workshop at IGNTD Glow last October, I knew that he was the REAL DEAL.
I am so excited to be able to share Shannon's wisdom with you- I had an absolute blast recording this episode. Originally, we were going to be speaking about manifestation, and we did that, but we had this amazing wide-reaching conversation.
We talked about Shannon's own journey, and how he has been working through the feelings of self doubt. Another important topic was about what is happening in the world at the moment, and how we need to come together as a community for the greater good of the world - and our future.
Also, listen up for one of the best analogies I've ever heard for what the experience of going deep into our soul, and learning more about ourselves, feels like.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Shannon Algeo's website
Shannon on Instagram: @shannon.algeo
Soulfeed on Facebook
The Soulfeed podcast
Shannon's beautiful interview with Rha Goddess (including how we come to a place of feeling comfortable with earning money through service to others)
Soulumination Meditation Membership
Soulumination Career Manifestation Course
Eckhart Tolle's book: 'A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life's Purpose'
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When did you last doubt a goal, and changed it simply because you'd convinced yourself it was impossible?
This is where our limiting beliefs are coming into play, and getting in the way of us making plans for our future. They're insidious little things: we don't always know they even exist!
I share in this episode my process of setting goals, whilst acknowledging limiting beliefs that are present in our lives - and even using the process to find out what our limiting beliefs are!
You CAN set challenging goals, without letting your beliefs about what you CAN'T do get in the way - check out this episode to hear how!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
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I've been thinking about all I've achieved in 2019, with the podcast, with my relationships, with my physical fitness, with my mental health. There are a lot of 'wins'.
I share how I'm feeling about going into 2020, and all those fears around not achieving enough over the last decade. Here's a secret: a LOT of us are feeling insufficiently successful when we look across the decade.
But I share why I've NOT made a list of achievements for the DECADE, and why I've concentrated on the last 12 months - and the future year!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Five Minute Gratitude Journal from Intelligent Change
Own Your Awesome cards by Your Joyologist
Moondeck cards by Aarona Lea
Inner Compass cards
Smyth et al, on how journalling might help reduced symptoms of anxiety and increase mental wellbeing
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Finances?
Food?
Family?
All of the above - and more 'non F' words?
Yup, me too! This time of year can be HARD, and that's why today's podcast is all about how to thrive during this time. I've shared my tips on everything from money management, to gift giving, to social anxiety, and MORE!
Hope this helps you to have a more enjoyable holiday this year!
Instagram: @mrsjessicawilde or @wildeaboutwellbeing
"You are NOT the victim". Those words have brought an incredible amount of CLARITY this week: not because I was being a victim (that was just someone's opinion), but because it made me realise I'm nothing LIKE a victim anymore.
Remember: sharing our pain does not make us a victim; telling someone how we feel does not make us a victim; having a different recollection / opinion of something does not make us a victim; an in the moment reaction does not make us a victim; being labelled by someone else as such does not make us a victim.
The only thing that makes us victims? Being defined by our victim status, letting it define us, refusing to move forward from toxic energy. It's all about mindset.
I've also been reading Shaman Durek's 'Spirit Hacking' at the moment, particularly the chapter on the victim mindset - so I feel like the universe is telling me this is an episode I need to produce!
In today's episodes, I had a good think about some of the situations where I did behave as a victim and how I have changed up the way I now behave. I share my top ten tips on today's episode!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Shaman Durek - 'Spirit Hacking'
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I've been journal-phobic for most of my life. Writing seemed like something that wasn't for me - almost a bit too self indulgent.
But I've been practising journalling, since finding SO MUCH scientific research that supports it for managing mood, lowering blood pressure, and even helping prevent criminal re-offending.
In today's episodes, I give my top six tips for getting started, and all the reasons why it's SO good for you!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Five Minute Gratitude Journal from Intelligent Change
Own Your Awesome cards by Your Joyologist
Moondeck cards by Aarona Lea
Inner Compass cards
Smyth et al, on how journalling might help reduced symptoms of anxiety and increase mental wellbeing
Redwine et al, on journalling amongst those with heart failure
Proctor et al, on effect of journalling on criminal recidivism rates
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"Why are you bothering getting up? The day will go badly anyway," says my brain. Every. Single. Morning.
This episode is all about exploring the effects of this negative self talk, first thing in the morning and just before bed. You are not alone, if, like me, the self talk is worst at these times!
In this episode, I give the top ten things I'm doing to try and conquer this PLAGUE of pessimism that overcomes me before I get up, and before I sleep!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Germain et al (Pittsburgh), on depression’s effects on circadian rhythm
J Horne, on how slow-wave sleep affects the body
Dietrich et al, on morning cortisol levels in those with mood disorders
Bauduin et al, on how salivary alpha-amylase may be a marker for major depressive disorder
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Are you like me - a birthday dreader? That feeling which surfaces a few days before your birthday, over-reflecting and overanalysing everything you've done (or not) in the past year?
We're not alone. Suicide rates increase within 3 days of people's birthdays. It's time we start accepting how we feel and finding ways to deal with it healthily.
This episode has my top 8 tips for managing the birthday dread!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Witt et al (USA) on 21st birthday alcohol consumption
Callaghan et al (Canada) on increased consequences of drinking around birthdays
Peetz et al (Cologne) on how ‘temporal landmarks’ like birthdays affect our behaviour
Williams et al (Manchester) on suicide risk around birthdays
Matsubayashi et al (Japan), on connection between ‘milestone’ birthdays and suicide risk
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When Jim Rohn said that we are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, I think he was wrong.
We are the average of the five people who we ALLOW into our heads - if you're surrounded by toxic people that are not easy to avoid, it's not an excuse. We can decide on our boundaries to keep those people out.
I discuss the different types of people I need in my life, and how important it feels to be in a community, and connected to others. I discuss an important shared experience during a yoga nidra session (hosted by Shannon Algeo) at IGNTD Glow 2019, and how that helped me to realise the importance of who we interact with.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
IGNTD Glow event, Los Angeles
Shannon Algeo
Dr Adi Jaffe
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I had an amazing time in LA recently, at Dr Adi and Sophie Jaffe's IGNTD Glow event. I heard so many amazing stories - from both onstage experts, and fellow audience members.
In today's episode, I share the biggest takeaway: how we can use our pain in our purpose, helping others. This was a running theme throughout the whole event for me: the way that trauma can motivate us to do more with our lives.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
IGNTD Glow event, Los Angeles
The Naked Eye Studio (event venue, run by lovely Jen)
Britt Piper
Dr Adi Jaffe
Sophie Jaffe
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I am a SUCKER for those feelings of overwhelm - they're almost addictive, right?!
In today's episode, I share my recent emotional difficulties with overwhelming feelings, as well as my top ten tips for overcoming them!
Quote of the Episode
"Life has many ways of testing a person's will: either by having nothing happen at all, or by having everything happen all at once."
Paulo Coelho
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
IGNTD Glow event, Los Angeles, 18-20 October 2019
'Mindset' by Carol Dweck
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If you've been following for a while, you probably know I've always had issues with weight loss - PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome) and imbalanced cortisol are the main factors for me.
I decided to get some tests by a UK company that offer blood tests (I paid for these, this is not a promotion!), just to help me discover exactly what all my levels were doing.
It was really interesting to see the results, and to try and play detective with my own health.
I also discuss that I was somewhat disappointed not to find something 'fixable' by a pill - cortisol reduction relies on me... and I go into why I find this responsibility heavier than a medical prescription!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
IGNTD Glow Event - 18-20 October, Los Angeles
Medichecks blood testing services, UK
The Elixir Clinic, London and the Middle East
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The best thing about holidays? Having time to read all those books you lined up on your 'must read' shelf!
Today, I'm reviewing Scott H Young's incredible 'Ultralearning'.
I offer my top takeaway from the book (so hard to narrow it down to only ONE!), which is all about the power of EXPERIMENTATION, and getting outside of that darned comfort zone!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Scott H Young - 'Ultralearning'
Scott's website
Tommy Baker's interview with Scott H Young
Scott's Instagram
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Are you off on holiday soon?
In today's episode, I'm sharing my experiences from last weekend of packing, travelling, driving abroad, handling delays, and more... NONE of which have to be a NIGHTMARE! (Yes, honestly!!)
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Amazing packing cubes (Amazon)
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Today's episode is all about PERSPECTIVE - mine can be waaaaay too negative at times... I'm not an optimist, and live a lot of my life in pessimism.
I am sharing how overwhelmed I'm feeling right now, and how I'm working on solving it - it's all about seeing that silver lining!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
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So, I'm a research NERD.
I do the research into the latest studies released about mental health, so that you don't have to.
Today, I'm talking CHOCOLATE - yes, really! I give you permission to eat more... And also RED WINE - less about encouraging you to drink it, but still...
There's reassurance for if you feel like you're having EMOTIONAL side-effects from anti-depressant medication...
Also, if you're a night owl, there's some interesting research that says you could become a LARK in just three weeks...
I also offer a RANT on the back of a Cambridge/Chicago/Minnesota study into problematic smartphone usage about why we need BETTER addiction resources!!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Bristol Uni - bullying and depression
University of Vienna - antidepressants and their effects on empathy
Birmingham University, et al - changing ‘night owl’ behaviours
Matthew Walker's 'Why We Sleep'
Baylor College - link between depression and eating
UCL - chocolate and depression
Xuzhou University - reservatrol in red wine and depression
Alternative sources of reservatrol (LiveStrong)
Cambridge University, et al - smartphone use and mental health
IGNTD Heroes program
Dr Adi Jaffe
IGNTD Glow event in Los Angeles, California
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I refused to believe that I needed a calendar or any kind of schedule - I was convinced that blank space meant freedom to do whatever items on my 'to do' list were relevant.
I was wrong.
White space got me NOWHERE.
But now I have a calendar, that's all changed... I've even got some tips for building a schedule from scratch!
Productivity and time management are worth investigating - I wish I'd realised that before!
I also share why telling someone we'll pencil them in is a HUGE insult!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Tommy Baker
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Today, I get seriously raw and vulnerable... there are a few near-tears moments... I talk about how a close family member's behaviour towards me 9 months ago has somewhat halted the socialisation aspect of my wellness journey.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
WAW podcast on grief in its many forms
IGNTD Heroes Program
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
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Welcome to our first interview episode!
Today, on the podcast, we are joined by Dr Adi Jaffe, a podcast host ('IGNTD'), author ('The Abstinence Myth'), an addiction and recovery expert... and my coach ('The IGNTD Heroes Recovery Program).
We discuss how Dr Jaffe's own drug use led him to down an incredibly dark path of being arrested, having a difficult relationship with his family, and finding community in some places that - to the average outsider - would be seen as pretty unsavoury!
Discussing community, we talk about both those darker communities (from when he was dealing drugs), and the more recent community that he has founded - the IGNTD community. We talk about what led him to his purpose of supporting those struggling with addiction, and why community is so important in terms of the journey to wellbeing.
Dr Jaffe then gets us super excited about the fact that he and his wife, Sophie, are hosting IGNTD GLOW, which is a Los Angeles based wellbeing event in October. We get to hear just a few of the exciting guests that will be joining Team IGNTD. Hit up the link below for tickets!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Dr Adi Jaffe's Instagram
Sophie Jaffe's Instagram
IGNTD Podcast (Tuesdays are relationship episodes, and Friday is Dr Jaffe's Recovery Secrets episode)
IGNTD Glow event in Los Angeles, California, October 2019
IGNTD Heroes program
Dr Adi Jaffe's book - 'The Abstinence Myth'
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More on community today!
Today's episode is a precursor to my interview with IGNTD founder and addiction recovery expert, Dr Adi Jaffe... Coming soon!!
I discuss my experiences in AA for eight years, and how it made me feel worse... and how after a year in the IGNTD Heroes programme, I'm a million times better!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
IGNTD Glow event in Los Angeles, California
IGNTD Heroes program
Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
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Welcome to the part two of the trilogy of episodes on community...
Today, I get raw and vulnerable about my own participation in communities online, and how I finally feel part of something bigger than myself. I also discuss how posting with expectations of responses is something I'm working hard to overcome.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Dr Adi Jaffe
Dr Jaffe's IGNTD Heroes Program
Tommy Baker
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
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This is the first in a trio of episodes on the topic of COMMUNITY, and the importance of finding our 'tribe'!
Today's episode explains some of the research behind how socializing in a community is beneficial for us, and why we should be aiming for it!
Did you know, for example, that people who are engaging with others regularly live longer - for an average 2.5 years?! Mind. Blown.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Bruce Alexander, on the ‘rat park’ that led to lower levels of drug consumption in rats
JE Marver, et al, on how quality friendships reduce the risk of suicide
KK Wiesel et al, on why high symptom individuals do not need to be excluded from online stress management
EM Geramita, et al, on improvements in mental health related to active participation in an internet support group
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This is the final episode of a trio on the topic of ABUNDANCE and SCARCITY mindsets...
Today, we talk all about how to nurture an abundance mindset, and why it matters for our future mental wellbeing.
I'll also share some surprising benefits we can take from a scarcity mindset that may help us be even more abundant!
Quote of the Episode
"Abundance is not something we acquire. It is something we tune into."
Dr Wayne Dyer
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
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Welcome to the part two of the trilogy of episodes on abundance vs scarcity mindsets...
Today, I get raw and vulnerable by being open about my own current state of mind, and what areas I see with an abundant mindset and where I want to improve my mindset from one of scarcity!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Dr Adi Jaffe
Dr Jaffe's IGNTD Heroes Program
Tommy Baker
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
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This is the first in a trio of episodes on the topic of ABUNDANCE and SCARCITY MINDSETS!
Today's episode is all about defining what the abundance and scarcity mindsets look like, and the research behind them.
If we think abundantly, and live in abundance, we will attract more of what we desire to us. If we think in scarcity, we will attract yet more scarcity. It's time to change it up!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
R Mehta et al, on how creative thinking thrives with a scarcity mindset
Daniel Simons on how focussing on one thing detracts our focus from anything else
Carol Dweck's book on ‘growth mindset’ - Mindset: The New Psychology of Success.
A Mani et al, on how poverty can decrease people’s IQ
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This is the final episode of a trio on the topic of PURPOSE!
Have you found your purpose in life?
Today's episode offers some ideas of how to DISCOVER your purpose!
0-6: Introduction, summary of previous episodes.
6-9: Going back in time to find our purpose, including my most memorable memories from my childhood.
9-11: Are there things in your life you're doing RIGHT NOW that might contribute to your purpose in life?
11-13: What or who are you most grateful for? The greatest gift in my life that I'm so incredibly grateful to have.
13-15: Do your social media posts subconsciously suggest what your purpose might be?
15-17: Never feel guilty for wanting to avoid certain purposes / people who drain you, etc.
17-20: What feels AWESOME to you? Could it be your purpose?!
20-22: We need to read more - fiction, non-fiction, find characters we identify with, see how people can behave.
22-24: If I could do anything, what would it be?
24-28: The macabre approach to thinking about what your purpose might be...
28-31: Look at everything you enjoy: do they share a common theme?
31-33: You can't explore your purpose by sitting on your sofa!
33-39: Vision boards, visualisations, journals, meditation: all your best friends!
39-42: Quote of the episode
42-47: How to start exploring the potential purpose ideas you've come up with without judgement, time constraint or fear!
47-51: Five practical tips for working out your exact purpose.
51-52: Conclusions
Quote of the Episode
"The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away."
Pablo Picasso
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
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Welcome to the second episode of the series on PURPOSE in life... And the FIFTIETH episode of the show!
In today's super-quick episode, you'll hear why I'm struggling with my purpose a bit right now, and how I've realised that I'm being WAY too perfectionist about it.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on the reasons why we need a Purpose
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on why we need to stop obsessing about numbers
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This is the first in a trio of episodes on the topic of PURPOSE!
Have you found your purpose in life?
This episode gives a whopping TWELVE reasons how having a purpose in life can improve your wellness journey.
Today's episode is all about the science of purpose in life, and the research behind it.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
CD Ryff et al, on how purpose in life may effect cholesterol and obesity levels
PA Buchman et al, on the reduced risks of cognitive impairment in those with a purpose in life
Abramoski et al, on how adolescents' type of purpose in life has a bearing on their risk to use substances in later life
Hafez, D. Et al, on lower risk of Type II Diabetes in those with a purpose in life
JH Hong, et al, on Asian-American, Black and Hispanic young adult populations’ lowered risk of suicidal ideation with a purpose in life
Kim et al, on sleep disturbance in adults with and without purpose in life
SM Schaefer et al, on how purpose in life may increase resilience to negative stimuli
RA Martin et al, on purpose in life as a possible factor for those in recovery from cocaine use
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This is the third in a trio of episodes on the hot topic of SELF CARE!
Today's episode is all about how you might look to increase your own self-care, based on 5 specific areas offered by a study from the University of Arizona.
0-1: Introduction
2-5: Recapping the five facets of the 'biopsychosocial-spiritual model'.
5-12: Psychoemotional social aspect of self-care.
12-18: Energetic and grounding benefits of self-care.
18-25: Why physical movement / exercise is one of the areas of self-care in the model we're discussing.
25-33: How spirituality is important - and why 'spiritual' doesn't equal 'religious'.
33-35: The intellectual requirements of self care.
35-38: Quote of the episode
38-50: Tips to improve self care in each of the five pillars of self care that we've discussed.
50-51: How all of the five facets of self care can overlap
51-52: Conclusions.
Quote of the Episode
"In dealing with those who are undergoing great suffering,
if you feel “burnout” setting in,
if you feel demoralized and exhausted,
it is best, for the sake of everyone,
to withdraw and restore yourself.
The point is to have a long-term perspective."
HH The Dalai Lama
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
A Klawonn et al, on the Biopsychosocial-Spiritual Model’s benefits
MeetUp app
BeachBody on Demand - online exercise
Les Mills on Demand - online exercise
Daily Burn - online exercise
Shaman Durek
IGNTD Recovery and Wellness training
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If you tuned into the Wednesday Wellness episode, you'll already know that this is our SELF CARE SERIES...
In today's super-quick episode, I share my experiences with self-care, and how I've adopted it into my life. You'll be pretty shocked at some of my previous self neglect!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on the Science of Self Care
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
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This is the first in a trio of episodes on the hot topic of SELF CARE!
Do you really know what self care even means? I didn't until a few months ago...
And while doing this research, I've discovered so many more areas that I didn't have a clue came under the heading of 'self care'!
Today's episode is all about the science of self-care and the research behind it.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
MS Kim et al, on self-care use to reduce dementia risk in the elderly
A Klawonn et al, on the Biopsychosocial-Spiritual Model’s benefits
JL Browne et al, on how young adults with Type II Diabetes do not always prioritise medical self-care
M Narasimjan et al, on how self-care can be used in medicine
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There are SO MANY ways that laughter can help us... it can help us to relax, enjoy ourselves, feel less pain, reduce our anxiety, and more!
I love the way in which comedy brings diverse communities together: there are certain things that everyone finds amusing.
In this episode, I talk about my shame around laughter, how I handle having a husband who laughs out loud less than I do, and why my life was changed by a comedy club in Los Angeles!
0-1: Introduction
1-3: The strangest places you find humour (eg the Houses of Parliament!)
3-5: How I realised that comedy was a mood changer for me, and that it's perfectly okay to laugh out loud in public!
5-7: It might be easy to fake a smile, but it's virtually impossible (unless you're a top Hollywood actor!) to fake convincing laughter.
7-10: How comedy is like exercise for the body.
10-12: The effect of comedy shows on the elderly.
12-23: Comedy helps with pain tolerance, emotional resilience, stress reduction and relaxation.
23-33: How comedy brings diverse groups together, letting people look at serious topics in a lighter way.
33-35: Quote of the episode.
35-40: Finding our own ways of experiencing laughter.
40-49: Learning that it's okay to laugh out loud when you're in a group. Where my sense of shame around laughter comes from.
49-50: Conclusions.
Quote
"A serious and good philosophical work could be written entirely of jokes"
Ludwig Wittgenstein
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
T. Morishima et al, on laughter therapy for cancer patients
Y Yoshikawa et al, on laughter therapy for the elderly
J Zhao et al, on laughter therapy for depression and anxiety
A. Pérez-Aranda et al, on how laughter can overcome pain
A Tanaka et al, on how laughter-yoga benefits stress levels
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I'm all for gender pay gap reporting that has become mandatory for a number of companies in the UK, HOWEVER...
It's WAY more complex than just "same job, same pay". There are, in my opinion, significantly more important areas we need to look at in relation to equality...
The MEDIA. I talk about UK prime ministers, the last US presidential campaign, and how we're all being whitewashed in the equality debate.
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Do you feel bloated after meals? Has your weight loss hit a plateau?
Me too!
In this episode, I'm sharing the top ten things that I'm doing to get 'back in the game' and kickstart my metabolism
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
SailRabbit BMR calculator
Polar A370 fitness tracker
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on the importance of hydration
'Reset Your Gut' (UK) / 'Thin From Within' (US) book by Robyn Youkilis
'Go With Your Gut' book by Robyn Youkilis
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on probiotics
Amare Global Mentabiotics probiotic powder
Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I love a summer holiday... BUT... that's only if I put in place certain strategies before I go, and whilst I'm there.
In this episode, I share my top ideas for making summer holidays more manageable, no matter whether you're having a staycation, or travelling across the world!
0-2: Introductions
2-5: NEVER assume you know what type of holiday everyone in your party wants! How my husband and I FINALLY got clear on what type of holiday works best for BOTH of us.
5-13: What are you going to do once you get there? How to manage your expectations! How to balance planned vs spontaneous activities.
13-15: Handling airports! My top tip for managing that boredom in the departures lounge? Buy yourself a treat BEFORE you get to the airport!
15-18: Fear of flying? Do something about it before you fly... OR... don't push yourself to conquer that right now!
18-20: Eating and drinking on the aeroplane - advice for ordering in advance, or taking your own.
20-22: Entertainment on the plane... take plenty of your own stuff... Do you really want to invest in inflight internet?
23-25: Managing stressors when you're away. How to control the timing of work and other 'must dos' whilst you're on holiday.
25-27: Quote of the episode.
27-30: Managing body image issues - how to cope with a bikini on the beach.
30-35: How to cope with the excess of food, while you're on vacation. Think about self-catering, eating lightly at lunch, and other advice for making it as healthy as possible.
35-39: The early morning cocktail is not the best way to start your day! Managing alcohol while on holiday to make sure you enjoy the holiday hangover-free.
39-43: Getting time away from each other, and avoiding getting fed up with the closeness of family time while you're on holiday!
43-45: The benefits of holidays for reducing stress, increasing relaxation, and so on.
45-47: Photos and memory journals are vital for us to keep remembering the post-holiday feelings.
47-50: Conclusions.
Quote of the Episode:
"Vacation flips your world upside down, if you're in a new place without your normal rituals. That's the POINT. You are forced outside of your comfort zone and norms, so that you can find your way. That's where intuition is found... when you get lost."
Sophie Jaffe
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Philosophie Superfoods
Workbook on Self-Talk - FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
So you're thinking about taking a social media detox?
You'll find tonnes of articles and blogs out there full of the reasons why it's a good idea... BUT... what about the other side of the coin?
In this episode, I share my ten reasons for avoiding a hiatus from social media - things I think you should think about before you take the plunge!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Workbook on Self-Talk- FREE!
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t deserve this.”
“I am unlovable.”
Recognize any of those messages?
As someone who repeated those things to myself regularly, I’ve been there. I know the importance of finding where that self talk stems from in order to nip it in the bud.
In this podcast, we look at how we can untangle the spaghetti junction of negative self-talk that exists in our heads. I’ll share the process I use to trace these thoughts right back to the core beliefs we hold about ourselves, and give my top tips on how to then begin to change the message you’re telling yourself.
I've been working hard on my negative self-talk, and share my approach and experiences with you here. I've even produced a free workbook download to accompany it!
It is not easy to get out of the habit of negative self-talk, but learning some tools and techniques can really help.
0-2: Introductions
2-4 : Defining self-talk, both positive and negative. How I use both types.
4-6: How our self-talk forms from negative / false core beliefs.
6-14:Why negative self-talk is dangerous!
14-23: The different types of negative thinking / self-talk that are most common in my life.
23-39: The negative thoughts that come into my head every single morning, and where I think they stem from.
39-43: Quote of the episode.
43-44: Some more info on the free workbook that's available to download.
44-55: My new approach to self-talk, and the process I'm using to overcome it. Looking at how to convert negative self-talk into positive self-talk.
55-57: Conclusions.
Quote of the Episode:
"If you want to change your life, begin by changing your words. Start speaking the words of your dreams, of who you want to become, not the words of fear or failure."
Robert Kiyosaki
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Workbook on Self-Talk to accompany this episode - FREE!
Wilde About Wellbeing Imposter Syndrome Podcast
Brené Brown
Brené Brown interview on GOOP Podcast
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I've previously published an episode on intermittent fasting, but today I want to look at the importance of breakfast in our lives.
I found tonnes of research suggesting that we really should be thinking of this meal as an important part of our day! Find out more in this podcast about the decreased risks of cardiovascular disease, increased sleep and mood benefits, and even increased positive body image: all from one simple meal!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Wilde About Wellbeing episode on Intermittent Fasting
D Jakubowicz, et al., on high calorie breakfast vs high calorie dinner for better glucose tolerance
A Ballon, et al,on increased risk of type ii diabetes in those who skip breakfast
S. I. Barr et al, on Canadian adults’ breakfast habits vs their BMI
Y. Kubota et al, on Japanese adults’ breakfast habits and reduced risk of stroke
S. Rong, et al, on long-term study of US adults, finding that breakfast skipping entails increased risk of mortality from cardiovascular disease
US Army on how breakfast frequency can improve sleep, mood and eating habits
S Zhu et al, on how breakfast may reduce chronic inflammation / risk of CVD in Chinese adults
H J Lee et al, on risk of atherosclerotic cardiovascular disease and breakfast consumption in Korea
V Winter Ramseyer, et al, on how eating breakfast together may improve adolescents’ sense of body image
T Miki et al, on the correlation between breakfast frequency and risk of depression
T A O’Sullivan et al, on how breakfast quality may affect mental health in adolescents
Wilde About Wellbeing episode on Probiotics / Prebiotics
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
In today's podcast, we talk about the power of play, no matter what your age!
This is based on a fabulous survey conducted by Lego, and I wanted to inform you about the importance of playing, whatever your age!
0-2: Introduction
2-3: Information on Lego's survey.
3-7: How we might try to define 'play'.
7-40: What we can learn from kids' play skills, and how we can apply it to our adult lives.
40-41: Are we too old to play as adults? Noooo!
41-48: The questions we ask - like can we play, if we don't have kids?!
48-51: Conclusions.
Honorable Mentions
Lego's survey
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on Music
Wilde About Wellbeing podcast on Creativity
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I was SO excited researching for this episode - I simply hadn't realised the POWER of music, physiologically, psychologically, and at all stages of life (even if you're just a neonate - yes, really!!).
The episode looks at my own experiences with music, as well as scientific research that backs up why we should all stop dwelling in silence. And put those records on!
Honorable Mentions (if you can't access these links, try using the Apple Podcasts or Overcast apps)
Dr Adi Jaffe - my coach, and the person who reminded me of how powerful music can be!
T English et al. on exercise performance in heated conditions, when accompanied by music
Sky News - How a McDonald's used classical music to reduce anti-social behaviour.
R. A. Capparez-Gonsalez, et al, on how music may calm premature infants
P Pérez-Ros et al, on effectives of music on cognitive impairment in the elderly
S. M Ritter et al, on how music may forge creativity
N. Talwar et al, on effects of music therapy on in-patients with schizophrenia
J. M. Groarke et al, on how music mitigates negative mood in older and younger adults
A Raglio et al, on how daily music listening may reduce work-related stress
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
In today's podcast, we discuss how you need to INVEST IN YOURSELF TO IMPROVE YOURSELF.
I want you to realise that investment isn't only about money - it's also about time, self-love, energy that you give to yourself!
Meanwhile, I share with you the questions I ask myself before any investment, and why I need to be more objective with myself sometimes!
We also address the protests you're BOUND to have, when thinking about this area of your life - I know, I've been there!!
Just remember: whatever the investment, you are worth it.
0-3: Introduction
3-7: Defining 'buying' versus 'investing', where money is concerned.
7-11: How rituals can be enhanced by certain investments - the (albeit bizarre!) baked beans example.
11-12: What shapes our money mindset, and how we are effected in later life by early experiences and attitudes towards saving / spending.
12-13: Is money abundance about energy?
13-14: Investment can mean things other than money!!
14-17: Why we need to learn objectivity, if we are going to have a healthy mindset around money.
17-21: Defining 'abundance' and 'scarcity' in terms of our money mindset, and how we might rethink our language.
21-30: The current obsession: SAVING! But what are the true benefits of that money you save?
31-33: The Protests to Why You're Not Investing!! And how we can tackle every one of them! How we can analyse ourselves into the realisation that sometimes investment is a necessity!
33-45: The questions I ask myself before any investment.
45-50: Two examples from my own life, where thinking long-term has worked for me in terms of investment!
50-51: Conclusions.
Honorable Mentions
IGNTD Heroes recovery program
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
In today's episode, I talk about the scientific benefits for both mind (memory, cognitive function, sleep - and more!) and body (immunity, who knew?!).
I also give you my top ten tips for getting back into art / craft / creation after a hiatus!
Honorable Mentions
The Makery - crafting workshops in Bath and London, as well as hen parties!
Country Living Lansdown Grove Hotel, Bath, UK
H. Noice et al, on how theatre performance improved psychological and cognitive wellbeing
R. Roberts et al, on how mild cognitive impairment might be prevented in later life.
E. Moore, et al, on how musical training improves brain connectivity
D. Gussak, on the use of art therapy for prisoners’ depression
Y. Tang et al, on how art therapy might help women with breast cancer
H. Stuckey et al, on how public health services may improve patient experience with creativity
K. J. Petrie et al, on the improvement of immunity levels in HIV patients engaged in journalling
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Have you ever felt like you didn't belong? That you were a fraud? A fake?
That you were, uh, well, Einstein... or Maya Angelou...?
You were suffering from Imposter Syndrome - it's common amongst all populations, no matter how apparently successful, famous or wealthy!
Believing I'm not good enough has overwhelmed every aspect of my life, including university, work, and even my very existence.
Here, I share my top 10 pieces of advice for overcoming Imposter Syndrome and fears of failure, to become calmer with yourself and more successful.
Quote of the Episode:
"The exaggerated esteem in which my lifework is held makes me very ill at ease. I feel compelled to think of myself as an involuntary swindler."
Albert Einstein
Honorable Mentions
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Are you baking a cake?
If not, then you do not need a constant, obsessive focus on NUMBERS!
In today's podcast, I discuss ways in which we might turn away from always looking at and comparing numbers, and finding methods based on quality rather than quantity.
0-3: Introduction
3-12: Some areas where numbers seem to have become prevalent in modern life.
12-20: How personal achievement is more important than comparing our exercise / weight-lifting numbers to other people's.
20-25: Sobriety and why "days clean" is not the best measurement protocol.
25-30: Social media follower numbers - do they really matter?
30-34: Inbox zero, DM numbers, and the pressure we put on ourselves about the quantity of engagement we have with others.
34-37: The focus on earnings vs outgoings, and whether they really mean more than happy users of a service
37-43: What energy are we creating when we share OUR numbers? And what energy are we absorbing when we measure ourselves against those of others?
43-46: How we are driven by social media, conventional media, clickbait, workout programs, family, friends, to become obsessed with numbers.
47-49: Quote of the episode.
49-56: Ways we can change, and view things as QUALITATIVE, rather than quantitative. Numbers don't matter as much as emotions.
56-58: The ONLY place where numbers matter!
58-59: Conclusions.
Quote of the Episode:
"A good decision is based on knowledge and not on numbers."
Plato
Honorable Mentions
Polar A370 watch
IGNTD Heroes recovery program
Jenna Kutcher
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
When Dr Adi Jaffe asked me that question, I was floored.
Indeed, how on Earth DO we stop me caring what others think?
Still not sure I know, but I hash it out here with some ideas and advice that you might also find helpful!
Honorable Mentions:
YouTube video version of this podcast
WAW podcast on habits / rituals, with the link to the FREE workbook!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing and @mrsjessicawilde
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I was sober in AA for eight years, and although it wasn't right for me, recovery then - and now - have taught me a lot about how to simplify my journey!
Here I share ten short tips about how I'm learning (notice the present tense!! Ha!) to better manage my wellbeing journey... I think these have really simplified my recovery.
Honorable Mentions:
The IGNTD program that I follow, as a more viable (for me!) alternative to AA is run by Dr Adi Jaffe
My WAW Wednesday Wellness on Probiotics - where I discuss the gut-brain axis.
My WAW episode on habits and rituals - find the FREE workbook link in the shownotes for that episode!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
We all have habits, whether we're aware of them or not.
We all have rituals, too, but what if we could make conscious decisions to form rituals that help us meet our goals.
Maybe you want to develop a ritual to sleep better? To improve your self care? To spend more time with your partner? To help others?
My FREE WORKBOOK will guide you on the path you need to start building your new rituals!
0-3: Introduction to today's topic
3-17: Defining 'ritual' and 'habit'.
17-30: Talking about my own experiences, with habits and rituals.
30-34: Quote of the episode.
34-36: How rituals can descend back into simple habits.
36-40: Rituals that don't serve us.
40-58: Building new rituals.
Quote of the Episode:
"Standards are great, but they only stand up with rituals that support them"
Tony Robbins
Honorable Mentions
Workbook on Building Rituals - FREE!
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
This Friday's 'Fast One' episode is my take on self-care, self-love, self-honouring activities!
I offer my own experiences, and the self-care activities I've enjoyed the most, as well as some other ideas you might like to try.
Honorable Mentions:
WAW Podcast on Meditation
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing and @mrsjessicawilde
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Ever meditated or tried mindfulness? I REALLY struggle with quieting my mind enough to concentrate on doing it!
Here are my top 10 reasons - all researched! - of how we can all benefit from meditating, both physically and psychologically... including its effect on depression and anxiety!
And I share my top 5 tips on getting started with a regular meditation practise!!
Honorable Mentions:
Lee et al’s research suggesting meditation benefits diabetes type 2 patients, and reduces LDL cholesterol in hypertension
Park and Han’s research into meditation for blood pressure
Wachholtz et al’s research into the effects of meditation on migraine
Saeed et al’s research into yoga and mindfulness-based meditation’s effect on depression and anxiety
Blum et al’s research into levels of anxiety before and after mindful meditation, in adolescents
Carpena et al’s research into the use of a six-week mindfulness course for depression and anxiety
Jones et al’s research into how mindful meditation affects people’s coping abilities
Chan et al’s research into mindfulness meditation for older adults
Rusch et al’s research into how meditation may improve sleep
John Kabat-Zinn's meditation / mindfulness guides
Headspace app
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
My word of the year for 2019 is "kaizen", the Sino-Japanese word that means "improvement".
The process of continuous improvement has made incredible changes in my life, allowing me to start focussing on "how can I make this action / behaviour / decision better next time?".
I share my experience with the concept, and also give you some ideas of how to apply it in your own life
0-7: Defining 'kaizen'. How it originated at Toyota, and the process that they undertook at the car factories.
7-16: How we can apply the standardisation concept of kaizen in real life.
16-23: Kaizen doesn't entail any notion of completion.
23-31: My suitcase packing analogy, and how it's okay to try different methods to try and find improvements in our lives. Dr Adi Jaffe's 1% Principle - taking baby steps to progress in recovery / abstinence programmes.
31-36: The ease of measurability in kaizen, and ways in which you can apply the ability to measure time / distance etc to make kaizen more applicable in everyday life.
36-40: Looking at innovation, and how one of my dogs has totally benefitted from kaizen in doggy dental care!
40-44: Quote of the episode.
44-55: My personal experiences with using kaizen, how I've learnt to prioritise, and bought into the 80/20 Pareto Effect alongside kaizen. The one question I now regularly ask myself.
55-57: Conclusions.
Quote of the Episode:
"You can't do kaizen just once or twice and expect immediate results. You have to be in it for the long haul."
Masaaki Imai
Honorable Mentions
Dr Jaffe's IGNTD Recovery Program
Dr Adi Jaffe - IGNTD Recovery Secrets Podcast - The One Percent Principle
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I've seen a lot recently about making "big leaps" / "giant jumps out of your comfort zone" etc.
I'm here to tell you that it's perfectly OKAY to be more comfortable with baby steps: they are just as important for growth!
I discuss my experiences with addiction, and how going from X drinks to abstinence did not work for me, but the incremental step method has!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
My coach, Dr Adi Jaffe, who runs the IGNTD Heroes Program
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing and @mrsjessicawilde
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
How many TV ads have you seen advertising the benefits of probiotics? Prebiotics? Phytobiotics? Psychobiotics? Microbiome improvement? Microbiota increase?
All pretty confusing, huh?
In today's Wednesday Wellness edition, I seek to clear up all of your questions about these gut bacteria, and explain my own experiences with taking them. I also address some top research into their usefulness!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Didari et al’s research on probiotic use in Irritable Bowel Syndrome
Q Guo et al’s research into probiotics for paediatric antibiotic-induced diarrhoea
Sun et al’s research into reflux esophagitis treatment
Drop et al’s research into microbiota and weight change
Tomova et al’s research into gut microflora on a vegan / vegetarian diet
Proven Probiotic Capsules
Amare Fundamentals Mentabiotics Powder
Bimuno Prebiotic Powder
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Today's podcast is a bit different to the usual Tuesday deep dive. Today, I'm updating you on my life, and what is and is not working for me at the moment... in terms of recovery, wellbeing, career, exercise, leisure time, relationships and more!
Hopefully, you'll find a tonne of tips and tricks in this episode to transfer to your own life. This is my journey, so I'm learning all the time!
0-3: Introductions, and how this episode differs from usual Tuesdays. My belief about how listening to the challenges of others can help us manage our own.
3-5: Setting up my new business, and my experience of being an employee in a 'previous life'.
5-14: The question of whether money can make you happy.
14-20: Finding my tribe, and how a tribe is different to a friendship group. How Instagram works for me.
20-21: How someone who is close to me being ill / undergoing medical testing affects me.
21-25: Our holiday cancellation, why it happened, and my reaction. What this experience tells us about better communication in relationships.
25-27: My lifestyle, and lack of routine, when my husband isn't around.
27-30: An update on my therapy / coaching experiences. The 21 Day Habit Reset Challenge, and why it was helpful for me.
30-33: How my progress is going on the IGNTD lifestyle recovery / addiction online coaching program. My reasons behind leaving the program's Facebook group, despite it being helpful.
33-37: My fears around not fitting in / being good enough / finding my self worth.
37-42: Mental Health Awareness Month, and my rawest ever Instagram post! My visual of what anxiety looks like.
42-43: How exercise is going - the psychological is often more difficult than the physical aspects of going to a class.
43-49: How Instagram's influencers MADE me workout!
49-52: My experiences with weight loss and counting my macros.
52-54: The strange situation with my body rejecting alcohol! And ways of using distractions to take our minds off using habits that don't serve us.
54-59: Conclusions, please rate and review us!
Honourable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
My coach, Dr Adi Jaffe, who runs the 21 Day Habit Reset Challenge and the IGNTD Heroes Program
Chris Harder's For The Love of Money podcast (and Money Principles video series - where I heard about how to value myself monetarily).
Today's vulnerable Instagram post: my most open EVER!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing and @mrsjessicawilde
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I LOVE to share on social media: my ups, my downs, my inbetweens. Today's episode is looking at why I choose to share everything, and how this compares to many other users of Instagram.
I also discuss the discomfort, vulnerability and rawness I feel whenever I share my story openly on Instagram and elsewhere.
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Today's vulnerable Instagram post: my most open EVER!
My coach, Dr Adi Jaffe, who runs the 21 Day Habit Reset Challenge and the IGNTD Heroes Program
Chris Harder's For The Love of Money podcast (and Money Principles video series - where I heard about how to value myself monetarily).
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing and @mrsjessicawilde
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I am NOT great with sleep routines, or sleep hygiene, or sticking to the things I know help me sleep better.
The research I did for today's Wednesday Wellness episode was as much for me as for YOU!
Hopefully this will remind you why we should all be focussed on making it as close as we can to eight hours a night.
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
David Calhoun and Susan Harding’s research on sleep and hypertension
CA Thomson et al's research on sleep and weight loss
A Naska et al’s research into napping and coronary heart disease
Reiden Ursun’s research into serotonin production during waking and sleeping phases
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I have had a list of careers as long as my ARM - I flit from job to job like a butterfly. I haven't found my PASSION, and yet everyone from virtually every podcast I listen to, every book I read, and even my own family, tells me that I need to find it. Like it would somehow complete me.
In this episode, I discuss why curiosity and being open to possibility may be far better routes to go down, than trying (and failing) to discover what our 'passion' is.
0-1: Introduction
1-3: My own journey through work: the career butterfly
3-6: The hatred I feel for self-help guides' advice about passion
6-12: Elizabeth Gilbert's take on how "society fetishises passion"
12-16: Defining passion, and why curiosity might be a better route
16-20: A personal anecdote about how being curious paid off for me on a family holiday
20-26: Natural curiosity, and the questions we ask about things
26-30: How possibility gives us more opportunities and open-mindedness
30-41: How having goals works so well with being a possibilitarian: the paths to them are endless!
41-45 : Quote of the episode
45-55: My top five methods for developing curiosity and becoming a possibilitarian
55-59: Conclusions
Quote of the Episode:
"Become a possibilitarian. No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see possibilities - always see them, for they're always there."
Norman Vincent Peale
Honorable Mentions
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Elizabeth Gilbert
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Today's Friday Fast One focusses on the concept of the swipe file in marketing - a file used to collate inspiring advertisements / text for future use...
I believe this is an AWESOME ideas for our mindsets - something we can look at when we're down, to help lift our mood.
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Russell Brunson
ClickFunnels [affiliate link]
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
I'm not sure about you, but I feel intimated by exercise - GYMTIMIDATED!
It's taken me a hot minute to start exercising regularly, but now I'm starting to see how beneficial it is.
In today's Wednesday Wellness episode, I discuss my own experiences of getting back into exercise, along with all of its benefits. For example, did you know that exercise can increase your gut microflora?!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
BeachBody on Demand
Les Mills on Demand
Research on exercise for gut microbiota
Exercise and depression prevention research
Research into exercise for depression and anxiety vs pharmaceuticals
Exercise for kids and increase in Executive Control
FlyKick, London
BoxUnion, Los Angeles
Spin Village, Bath
Spin Classes in London
Soul Cycle, across the US, Canada, and now London!
CycleBar, across the US, and London
Peloton, across the US, and on demand
Glo Yoga, on demand online
Dr Adi Jaffe - IGNTD Recovery Secrets Podcast - The One Percent Principle
My Pinterest board on exercise and fitness
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Have you said thank you to anyone today?
Gratitude has been PROVEN to improve depression and our moods in general!
In this episode, I share my top ways to cultivate gratitude, including at times when you just can't feel it! I also offer some great reasons for being grateful in the first place!
0-3: Introductions, and how to get my FREE booklet!
3-6: The selfishness of gratitude, and my own practice of expressing thanks.
6-26: Eight ways in which I try to cultivate gratitude in my own life, including the importance of showing gratitude to our own bodies and minds.
26-42: Advice for the times when you're too down to focus on what you're grateful for. My eight top tips for finding what we're thankful for, despite feeling depressed or low.
42-46: Quote of the episode
46-54: Reasons to be grateful, including plenty of scientific research that backs up the fact that being more thankful can change our mood and mindset.
54-57: A little bit of homework for you! Screenshot the episode and share with me on Instagram three things you're grateful for!
Quote of the Episode:
"The moment you begin to worry about the things you want and the things you don’t have in life is the moment you will lose your gratitude... The greatest source of happiness is the ability to be grateful at all times."
Zig Ziglar
Honorable Mentions
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Intelligent Change Co's Five Minute Journal (Intelligent Change Co, who ship to USA and UK)
Intelligent Change Co's Five Minute Journal (via Amazon UK)
Dr Adi Jaffe - My own coach, and proponent of gratitude practices
Seth Mattison - Motivational speaker
My Nature Pinterest board focussed on finding wellness through being outside
My Gratitude Pinterest board featuring all sorts of ideas on how to give thanks
Seligman's study about happiness, depression and effects of positive psychology
Jans-Beken's study into subjective wellbeing, when performing a gratitude practice
Jiang's study into subjective wellbeing, and how belief in a just world improves it
Adam Smith’s declaration of gratitude being needed for a stable society
Dunaev's research into how gratitude improves our body image
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Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Mentors are awesome - they can help us out of tight spots in life, business, and countless other areas of our existence!
Here are my top three tips on how to get the mentor you deserve, the best advisor for you, and someone whose advice you will put into action!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Did you know we're 60% water? And that a drop of just 1% means that we are dehydrated?!
Shocking, right?
In today's Wednesday Wellness episode, I discuss the importance of drinking enough water, and my own experiences. Spoiler: being hydrated has changed my life!!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Alex Charfen's free Natural Thirst Challenge
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
What do CEOs have in common with those of us on our wellness journey? Quite a lot it would seem!
I discuss how we go about using the tips and tricks of the world's greatest leaders to structure our own lives and journeys towards becoming calmer, more optimistic human beings.
There are plenty of my personal experiences in here, too, which I hope will inspire you to start taking baby steps on your own journey!
0-3: Welcome, and information about the free guide I'm offering to listeners!
3-10: Prioritising what to do, and how not to take on too much at once.
10-16: Seeking expert help - we are not islands, and it's okay to reach out to therapists, and other helpers.
16-20: Delegate domestic jobs to partners, friends, family, cleaners, whoever you need! Don't try to do everything yourself.
20-25: Communicating with others how we feel is vital: a company doesn't work without communication, and nor do our domestic relationships.
25-28: If we don't commit to maintaining our vision of where we want to go, we will struggle. It takes time to head in the right direction, and that's why it's so vital to retain commitment for however long it takes.
28-31: Quote of the episode.
31-37: Risk management means being prepared, but not being panicked by undesirable situations. How I plan in advance of events that I think may have unwanted elements, and how I accept things that are beyond my control.
37-42: Teamwork and collaboration are vital to business - the best CEOs make every member of the company relate to them because they give 'face time' to their employees. In life, we need to avoid isolation to stay healthy.
42-46: Changes sometimes require us to make last minute changes to our vision. The danger of being blinkered to what's going on around us is that we refuse to make decisions / change direction.
46-52: Office politics determine company ethics, and overall behaviour of the employees. In our domestic environment, I discuss how negative self-talk and certain relationships can be dangerous to our overall wellbeing.
52-56: Performance measurement - and its importance to wellbeing, goals and taking a realistic view of where we are at on our wellness journey.
56-58: Conclusions.
Quote of the Episode:
“The pessimist complains about the wind.
The optimist expects it to change.
The leader adjusts the sails.”
John Maxwell
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
My coach's Instagram: @dradijaffe
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
There are a HUNDRED things in my life that I could change up... And it would be GREAT if I could look at them all at once.
BUT...
I would burn out.
And so I concentrate on a limited number at a time - these are my current top 5, and I'm sharing them with you. I hope you enjoy them - and I hope it inspires you to pick up just one of these to incorporate into your own journey!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
Do you know just how many benefits massage has? Lowers blood pressure... raises immunity... increases mental wellbeing... helps stabilise digestive disorders... etc. etc. etc!!
Today's episode concentrates on how massage can be used in managing our mental health and wellness. I also give you some tips on finding the perfect massage therapist for you, and share the benefits that I've experienced since I've been having my weekly session.
The ultimate self care!
Honorable Mentions:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life!
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
In today's episode, we are looking at how we remember certain experiences, and WHY we forget certain parts of an experience and yet lay huge emphasis on others.
Once we've looked at the neurological / psychological biases we all have - you are not alone!! - I share my top tips and methods for changing the way we think about our past experiences, and how we might go into new experiences in a more positive frame of mind.
0-4 - Introduction to today's episode, and information on my new FREEBIE!
4-8 - A major experience that illustrates how we can view experiences, based on the main events within them.
8-14 - A discussion of Daniel Kahneman's 'peak-end rule' discovery, and how it relates to my experiences.
14-18 - Everyday examples of how the peak-end rule comes up in real life.
18-21 - Repeated events: why I hate the dentist! How previous experiences sway how we go into repeat experiences. The theory of 'confirmation bias'
21-25 - Why am I more likely to remember negative events of confirmation bias?
25-38 - Why do we remember the past positively, and forget negative events? The theories of 'rosy retrospection' and 'fading affect bias', and how they apply to a recent major event for me.
38-41 - Quote of the episode.
41-52 - How do we CHANGE? And why do we WANT to?
52-53 - Conclusions
Quote of the Episode:
"The way we experience the world around us is a direct reflection of the world within us."
Gabrielle Bernstein
Honourable Mentions from This Episode:
FREE guide to my TOP TEN motivational tips for a better life
Tony Robbins, Motivational Speaker
Dean Graziosi, Motivational Speaker / Real Estate Investor
Daniel Kahneman, Behavioural Economist / Psychologist
Shaman Durek, Inspirational Speaker / Shaman
Previous Wilde About Wellbeing episode on the event that led to me 'losing' a family member.
Previous Wilde About Wellbeing episode on shifting perspective, and the benefits of a 'disposition of optimism'.
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Wilde About Wellbeing website
What's SO wrong with the number 7?
Find out my top tips for fighting hesitation, and developing better decision making skills. Discover new ways to think things through, and to conquer decisions that are driven by fear.
Honourable Mentions:
Amazing free guide, full of top tips for living a better, calmer life - bit.ly/wildeaboutwellbeing
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
What do Edison, JK Rowling, Oprah, Dick Cheney and Dr Seuss have in common?
Find out about their failing moments, and how looking at their lives might help to change our own perspective and attitude towards failure and success!
Honourable Mentions:
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Go to the website to sign up for the email list!
Intermittent fasting has recently become popular, and is a way of eating that dictates WHEN we should eat, rather than the food. It has been found to help with weight loss, diabetes, and other ailments. Here's an audio guide to the science and research behind IF, along with my own experiences in trying out this diet.
Honourable Mentions:
University of Alabama study (May 2018) on fasting in pre diabetic men.
Wilde About Wellbeing Pinterest board, dedicated to blogs about Intermittent Fasting
Sign up for our email list, and FREE personal development e-guide!
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For one of our Friday fast ones, the subject of today's episode is that of... contagiousness!
We discuss how emotion, behaviour and feelings can all be transmitted from person to person...
Honorable Mentions:
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Website: www.wildeaboutwellbeing.com
My Blog: https://medium.com/@wildeaboutwellbeing/
NPR TED Radio Hour podcast on 'How Things Spread'
In today's episode, we focus on perspective, and how we might go about changing it in order to improve our lives. Along with some stories from me, there's also tips on how I go about shifting my perspective.
Schedule:
0-2: Hello
2-12: My recent experiences of changing my perspective
12-17: Why I'm inclined to jump to a negative perspective
17-23:The benefits of having a more positive perspective
23-26: Situations where a positive mindset feels impossible
26-33: Some of the methods I use to shift my mindset
33-34: Quote of the episode
34-39: More examples of perspective shifts
39-40: My favourite takeaways from the episode
40-42: Goodbyes and thank yous
Quote:
"When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves"
Viktor Frankl
Honorable Mentions:
Website: www.wildeaboutwellbeing.com
Instagram: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Dr Adi Jaffe's IGNTD podcast about my plane cancellation
Today’s episode covers the emotional journey I’ve been on whilst I’ve been in Los Angeles, and looks at how we might feel at the end of a holiday - the rough bounce back into ‘reality’!
Quote of the Episode:
“I like adventures, and I’m going to find some.”
Louisa May Alcott
Honourable Mentions:
Shape House Urban Sweat Lodge
Hit up our website to join the email list and be the FIRST to find out the information on the WAW Mornings for Mavericks FREE course!!
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Pinterest: @wildeaboutwellbeing
Thank you for joining me on the first of our ‘Friday Fast Ones’ - short episodes, with a single topic focus and my own thoughts on it, alongside stories from my own life.
Today I’m talking about empathy’s benefits, pitfalls, and how I regularly make cab drivers cry - and yet still keep my 5 star Uber rating…!
Quote of the Episode:
“The sad thing that many of us empaths don’t realise is that often our desire to heal others is a disguised cry for help for our own healing”
Mateo Sol
Honourable Mentions from this Episode:
Hit up our website to join the email list and be the FIRST to find out the information on the WAW Mornings for Mavericks FREE course!!
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Thank you for joining me on this episode about perfectionism, and those awful “I’m not good enough” thoughts. I’m sharing, amongst other things, some tips on how to deal with perfection paralysis, why perfection isn’t the same as striving for a better life, and how a spelling test affected my view of being good enough.
I want you to remember that we ALL suffer from these types of thoughts, and that we owe it to ourselves to attempt to work through them.
1-3: Introduction to today’s topic. Where I’m recording from this week, and why.
3-14: Where perfectionism stems from. How a spelling test changed my childhood!
14-20: Identifying the three main types of perfectionist thoughts that I relate to.
20-30: Managing and eliminating perfectionism: some of the tips and tricks I’ve learnt, and TRY (!) to put into practice.
30-31: Quote of the episode
31-35 : What about the times when we truly don’t behave in ways that are becoming of us? When our actions do not reflect the people we want to be?
35-40: The difference between perfectionist / ‘not good enough’ thoughts, and positive pushy thoughts, the thoughts that spur you forward to be better.
40-42: Take aways from this episode, and closing comments.
Quote of the Episode:
“Above all things, never think that you’re not good enough yourself. [One] should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning.”
Isaac Asimov
Honourable Mentions from this Episode:
Dr Adi and Sophie Jaffe of Team IGNTD
Dr Daniel Amen
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Thank you for joining me on this episode about grief, both through death, and through the breakup of friendships and relationships. I wanted to share with you my experiences of loss, along with some of my tips and ideas for how to manage your grief, during times of bereavement or loss.
I want you to remember that WHATEVER / WHOEVER you’re grieving, it’s OKAY. There is no loss too small that it isn’t legitimate to grieve it.
1-5: Introduction to today’s topic of grief
5-20: My own experiences with different types of loss and grief, including a recent experience with being rejected by a member of my family.
20-25: Different things we can grieve for. Why it’s not about the who/what, the loss is but about the feeling that we experience.
25-32: Anticipatory grief, for example in terminal illness, as I’ve experienced it.
32-35 : My tips on managing terminal illness with a loved one.
35- 37: Finding acceptance around grief, whether through death or other types of loss.
37-40: Losing friends or partners in relationship and friendship breakups.
40-41: Quote of the episode.
41-44: The potential benefits of saying goodbye to certain people who leave our lives. The positive power of breaking up with someone.
44-47: The four key tenets of moving on from someone.
47-54: How we can move on from losses, deaths, and dealing with first celebrations without someone we love and have lost. My tips on things that have helped me move forward.
54-60: Steps for emotional and physical self care: how we can help ourselves move forwards through self growth and nurturing ourselves.
60-65: Elizabeth Kubler-Ross’s ‘Five Stages of Grief’, and how the model has been misinterpreted as to whose emotional stages it was based on.
65-68: The things I’d like us to take away from this episode.
68-70: Seeking professional help - please see the links below.
70-73: Closing comments, information on my upcoming free course, and ways to get in touch.
Honourable Mentions from this Episode:
A whole board on our Pinterest dedicated to grief, including quotes, blogs and ideas for getting through.
Hit up our website to join the email list and be the FIRST to find out the information on the WAW Mornings for Mavericks FREE course!!
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Grief and Bereavement Counselling Help:
UK -
Cruse Bereavement Care
The Good Grief Trust
USA -
Aftering - a range of different help resources available across the US.
In this episode, I give a short introduction to lil' ol' me! I know it's hard to engage with someone you don't know, and so I wanted to help you get to know me! My depression and dysthymia can be painful at times, and I talk a little about that, as well as what I see the future as holding for Wilde About Wellbeing.
There's a lot to tell about my past, but I also cover how I can help you to help yourself... kinda self-help by proxy, if you like! I am not perfect, and I want you to see that perfectionism is not a viable aim - we'll be covering that more in future episodes.
You also get to hear how squeeeeeee-level excited I am about my upcoming FREE course about morning routines, and what I've tried out on your behalf. I am your loyal and loving guinea pig!
This episode's quote was from Matsuo Basho:
"Everyday is a journey, and the journey itself is home"
Honourable mentions for this episode:
www.wildeaboutwellbeing.com to sign up for my email list, and be the FIRST to know when my FREE course on 'Mornings for Mavericks' is released!
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Matsuo Basho - PoemHunter has a selection of more of his poetry
This exciting new podcast brought to you by Jessica Wilde is going to help you realise that you are NOT ALONE, that EVERYONE struggles, and that there is plenty of HELP available for you to have your BEST life!
This short trailer is an introduction to what the Wilde About Wellbeing podcast will offer you in the upcoming episodes, and what you can expect from us!
Hit up my website and join the email list to be the FIRST to know when I release my quite frankly awesome FREE course on Mornings for Mavericks! www.wildeaboutwellbeing.com