Karan Scott Coaching Podcasts: Recent Episodes
Karan Scott
Hi, I'm Karan, a Cognitive Behaviour Therapist, NLP Performance Coach Small and Young Person's E-mentor for The Princes Trust. I'm a results orientated force multiplier, and these are my podcasts - let me know what you think, I'd love to hear from you.
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We must flip the script and accept that life is simply a series of initial completions. What I mean by that is, we complete a goal and feel pleased, often tempted to rest on those laurels thinking our work here is done, but then become despondent when there's still more to do. We haven't looked upon the completion of this goal as an initial completion, and therein lies the upset. Let me ask you this, if you were to achieve it all, or have it all figured out today, what would be the point of tomorrow? Let's explore more...
As a recovering overthinker, I still occasionally have to catch myself on when I lapse and start trying to figure out every conceivable outcome of a challenge. What I then have to do instead is mindfully remember to trust myself, because I know I can deal with anything. And how do I know this? Because I always have; and so have you, haven't you? Let me explain what happened this morning...
Because it doesn't matter how masterfully tutored you've been in the theory, how sound your critical thinking and strategy may be, or how good you are at the game in general, the pigeon is always going to knock over the chess pieces, crap on the board and strut around like it won anyway.
Procrastinating by the pool, you will have a dozen voices in your head saying "Don't do it, the water is cold!", and a dozen voices saying "Do it, the water's lovely!" - so which of the voices do you listen to? Listen to the "Do it!" voices, because...
Jim Rohn once said: "You cannot take the mild approach to weeds in your mental garden. You have got to hate the weeds enough to kill them. Weeds are not something you handle; weeds are something you devastate" - which helped me to solve an old problem with new thinking, like new light through old windows; let me explain.
Today, let us discuss the lower end of the anxiety scale, the type of anxiety which does not (yet) require medical intervention or pharmaceutical support, such as exam anxiety, an imminent court appearance, a job interview, or grave concern about how to make ends meet during a cost of living crisis. How can we relieve this level of anxiety quickly and independently?
Can you control yourself in all circumstances, be it resisting cake or an invitation to an argument? Do you move forwards mindfully and steadily towards your goals, or do you thrash about making a lot of mess and noise, having to deal with the consequences later? Do you think things through enough, do you "game out" scenarios you're faced with through to the end, or are you a what-the-hell merchant? How is that working out for you? Do you know what you want and how to get it? Are you the master of your emotions, or are you the victim of your weak impulse control? If you believe you have achieved self-mastery that's great, keep learning and keep practicing. If you don't believe you've achieved self-mastery, here are a couple of first steps you can take.
Is what you're doing, what you're trying to achieve, how you're choosing to live your life worth the effort you're putting into it? Would your energies and resources be better spent pivoting towards new directions, because if not now, when? Because procrastination is the disease of the poor, but let me explain...
... by taking the time to prepare yourself a delicious and nutritious beverage, you're tacitly telling yourself you're worth the pause, you're worth the effort, and all whilst slowing down during the process, living in the Now and not mindlessly hurrying into the unknowable Next. We can't know what comes next, so why the hurry to get there? Wouldn't it be better to make more of the Now?
If you're a ten gallon person who loves deeply and gives everything you've got to a relationship, but you have chosen a one gallon person to give your heart to, then... well, you need to listen to this.
What can you say to yourself when you feel that you are failing... whether in the moment, in a relationship, at work, during a project, or with life in general? How can you pull your mindset out from the pits of potential despair, or from the perceived precipice of defeat? The answer is simple.
Taking our cues from nature, find out the life lessons you could learn from the salmon's expertise in finding the clearest path to navigate, in my new Power Podcast; needing less than 5 minutes of your time.
Have you ever felt in limbo, where you've had to endure an uncertain period of tension, apprehension, indecision, or a time you had to wait anxiously for some kind of resolution to present itself? Would like to learn how to leverage such situations in the future, because I've recorded this for you, if you do.
... and you don't even have to work at summoning your new thoughts because all you ever had to do was let go of the old ones. Listen to this podcast and let me explain more thoroughly.
Is the majority of your finite life equity being spent on people, places and things that add value to your life? If not, a change must come soon because... well, have a listen to this.
Do you know what makes you happy, or do you just think you know? Why is it relevant or important? Why do any of us have to be happy? Well, because otherwise life will feel like in interminable uphill slog. So if we have clearly defined what makes us happy, we know what to aim for. At the end of the day, if we don't know where we're going, no wind is favourable, so let's chart our course.
This is a call to arms podcast for anyone who has had their hearts and mind smashed and splattered by someone who told them they would love them forever.
Don't self-medicate. Don't self-harm. Don't use the break up as an excuse to behave badly.
This podcast is an introduction to my new book - based on real life events - called Too Relieved To Grieve | The Alternative Heartbreak Handbook, and is your first step on the road to recovery. Let's do this!
... and you don't even have to work at summoning new thoughts, because all you ever have to do is let go of the old ones. Listen to this and let me explain...
Life as an entrepreneur - particularly a startup entrepreneur - can be frustrating and demoralising. You vision and goals can be hard to attain, which is why not everyone succeeds or even gives it a go - but you have.
When your sales and marketing aren't setting the world alight don't quit. Instead, whittle away and refine, whilst always remembering The Passing Parade of Interest principle, which I've laid out for you here.
We parents must learn to trust in our own parenting skills and legacy, whilst intuiting exactly the right moment to let go of our young adults. Why? So they may learn to live lives of competent independence. If we don't trust, we will be forever confined to the sidelines to watch whilst someone does it for us.
This podcast highlights my own evolution as a protective Mama Bear of a fifteen year-old daughter - and it's not easy!
You know the way we say: "Karma's a bitch, but only if you are"? Well, Karma also plays nicely if you do. This is where my 'I'm going to give you a break' comes into play, and it works like a charm. I tell you more about here in my new podcast Play It Forward. Let me know what you think.
Today I have organised your exclusive use of a time machine. Yes, you heard me, a time machine. And if you're willing, I'm inviting you to take part in this 7 minute experience of self-discovery. Buckle up!
Standing in an amusement park watching people playing Cactus Lasso with so little self-belief and confidence, led me to contemplating Life's larger lessons. If you played Cactus Lasso, where would YOU aim; top, middle or bottom - and more importantly, why?
Every so often I'm asked a question the answer for which I think you may find helpful. Hope's question of me recently was "What was one of the most important things you learned from a manager or mentor?" - and here is my answer...
Don't underestimate the power behind the cumulative effects of focused and sustained perseverance. Results don't just land into the laps of the unsuspecting. Results are the compound effect of a thousand little determinations made every single day. Your greatness is sifted through the grind.
It's time to shake yourself awake, check your ego at the door and have the guts to risk the life you're currently living for the life you're capable of. It's time for you to stop wallowing in mediocrity my friend - wake up!
How much do you want to improve in a certain area of your life or skill set; 50%, 100% how about a 1000%? Are you now sweating blood at the thought of all the hard work involved in achieving a 1000% improvement? I don't blame you, I would too, but there's a more effective way. Have a listen...
Life is fast 'n' furious, with everything on demand and at our finger tips in an instant. This breeds impatience and lowering levels of tolerance which, if left unchecked, can negatively impact our interpersonal relationships. Here is why It Pays To Engage With Charm.
Whatever you want to accomplish, the existence of self-mastery will be the single largest determining factor of your eventual success. How is it so powerful? Because self-mastery is the challenge of transforming yourself from your own worst enemy into your greatest ally.
We know that children learn by mimicking us and absorbing lessons, even when we're not consciously trying to teach them anything; and therein lies the problem. This is how our own negative self-talk can unintentionally torpedo their self-esteem.
Does a determination to never quit mean you're doomed to flogging a dead horse forever? No, of course not. Now is the time to pivot!
Perfectionism is a fool's errand, because you're essentially chasing a myth. Perfectionism is an illusion. A more productive use of your considerable abilities and conscientiousness would be to aim for exceptional, because it'll still separate you from the average.
For those who have ever found themselves in an argument thinking: "OMG, one more brain cell and I'd have to water you!"